I have a dilemma.  I have the opportunity to date this very attractive girl.  The only problem is that she values honesty, which is great by me, but she is also a huge Harry Potter fan.  Now, I think that Harry Potter is the most overrated tripe, but if I tell her this, I don't think she will go out with me.  I think even if I tell her "It's not my cup of tea," I still wll not have a date.  What should I do?
126534
tell her the truth, but arry is the dogs bollocks!!!!!!!!!!!!
137895
Maybe its your girldfirend that just wants your money.  But I would hate to think my best friend would stab me in the back and date a guy i cared about.  Does this tell you anything about the girl you are thinking of asking out? If that is the way she treats her best friend is she really gonna be that good to you?  Either way if you current girlfriend is that bad to you - you need to let her go and tell her why.  If things happen between you and the other girl after that -  then all is fair.  Good luck to you
285582
You've never met either of these girls and already you're in love?? You can't know a person just by phone or letters or however you're communicating.  Have you seen these girls in a picture? You have to get to know their personalities before you can start having real feelings for someone.  Not just by the way they look in a photo.  If you want to go meet them and then decide, then do that.  Do you plan on living there or something? Why would you want to date someone you can't see all the time??
141289
I don't usually answer a question with a question BUT, why don't you go out with her to see how things work out? Some times when you start a relationship you have to let it run it's course if she's not the ONE it'll come out in time. She's rich and willing! That's two points in her favor in my book.
596208
whoa...how old are you? there is so much wasted energy here. can't you talk to your girlfriend? why don't you take control and ask her how she feels, what is going on, and why you can't get a single date with her without her cousin tailing you guys.  if you want to be an honourable man, choose between your gf and her cousin and don't mess around...
437392
`Is the guy single?  Is he dating your friend?  If he is, would you want your best friend to stab you in the back?  If he is single then perhaps it may he may be fair game?  In any case, I would choose friendship over love.  Plenty of people out there in this world to date.
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For the moment forget about your own friend.  You said you " only think of the guy as a friend and but he's okay "...based on that alone why would you choose to go out on a date with him.  You don't have an interest in any potential relationship developing with him so based on that alone...don't accept his invitation for a date.  Now, in addition to that, your friend really likes him, so to add that factor in...certainly don't accept the date.
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Sounds like either she genuinely isn't attracted to you and just doesn't want to hurt your feeling\nor\nShe is keeping you on standby in the hope someone elses comes along (hence the jealousy when she thinks you may be 'slipping away' with someone else)\nor\nYour the kind of guy that gals see themself marrying but want to play the field a bit more.\n\nOne of those is the most likely and if you think you spot one then\n1 Accept she isn't attracted to you and if it's nothing you can 'work on' (gross obesity, bad breath...) then direct your affections elsewhere\nor\nDecide how important your self respect is v's your passion for this girl.  Maybe force the issue to the front by actually dating someone else (although they should be aware of the situation too so they don't get caught in the middle!)\nor\nIf she's just keeping you hanging on standby then I'd gradually cut her out - thats not a friend.\n\nEither way - there are pleanty more ladies out there and if you stop looking at just one you might surprise yourself. You may have built this imaginary romance up to unrealistic proportions?
314733
Ask in such a way that you will be happy with either answer. Find out what interests she has. You might say, "Would you rather go see The Da Vinci Code or would you rather go bowling?" (She might say both :-)
370452
b4 asking her out, talk to you're friend.  if he's ok with you dating her, then go for it. but if not then you should just stay as friends, you wouldn't want to loose a friend over a girl.  a girl you probably wont stay with forever.  will it be worth loosing a friendship?  it's obvious she likes you but she's probably still has feeling for the other guy so it's not a good time to move in anyway
312466
I think if you like the girl, why not take her.  Eventually, if things work out, she will be meeting your friends anyway. If she likes you i don't think meeting your friends would scare her off. You only live once go for it!!!
458418
Take a deep breath, it will all be fine, if he's not interested big deal. He's not going to walk around telling everyone you asked him out and he turned you down. You know what my personal moto is- Glory to the brave. When ever I want to ask out a girl or approach a girl and I start to fear rejection I say to myself Glory to the Brave and do it. I've got rejected before, but in a few days you'll never remember and I've also gone out with some beautiful girls, and that wouldn't have happened if I didn't have the balls to make a move
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The girls that have boysfriends too early are looking for validation. They equate beauty with boyfriend. You seem to believe that God loves you and you don't need a boy to tell you you're special. My daughter is in the same boat as you, except the girls are telling her & her 3 friends that she is "lezbo" because they don't pick out boyfriends. (She knows the truth and she knows that they are insecure.) Alot of boys like her because she doesn't act all weird and try to be their girlfriend. For Valentines day, she receive 2 beanie bears and lots of big candy boxes instead of the usual little treats. One boy even dressed up like her for Halloween! They like her because she's confident in who she is, because she is loved by the King of the Universe!\n\nI've personally taken this before the Lord and have done TONS of research on this so I have an opinion and some suggestions for reading.\n\n #1 suggestion....listen and heed the advice from your youth pastor and you'll have no regrets. \n#2. I suggest not dating until you are ready to get married. Stick to "group dates" and activities. This is where you see how someone really is. For ex-- our church has a scramble golf tournament every year. I ended up on a team with someone I thought I was interested in. Because he didn't know I was interested, he was "himself". He cussed and had a bad temper.  If I had gone on a one on one date, he would have been well behaved and putting on a front.\nI'm over 40 and single. Because I'm still raising teenagers and they require alot of my time, I only go on coffee dates once in a while. I prayed that God would "hit me over the head" when He thought I was ready. I won't kiss someone unless I know them very well, and there is marriage potential. I love to kiss, but will save that for my husband. When you "save yourself", even in the kissing department, it makes kissing so intimate and special when you are ready to give that away.\nFor sure, don't have sex before your married. It's the only sin that you do to the inside of your body. It will mess with your soul. I know.  Of course you're forgiven, but you give away something that you can never get back and it's not worth it. Check out some of the sources.
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Ok... I've got two answers for you... so here goes...\n\nThe simple answer:  Probably.\n\nThe more complicated, and more important answer....\n\nYou are insecure. You know this... I know you know this, because you are an obviously intelligent person, but you simply haven't gotten to that point where you are really comfortable "going for it." I know this, because I was the same way for most of my life.\n\nGuess what? So is she. So is everyone. Everyone is insecure about things... over time those insecurities change to different things, but everyone has them. Yeah, most likely she likes you... but here's the best part, even if she doesn't, it doesn't really matter. Let's say you go talk to her, and ask her out... there's only really three things that can happen:\n\n1) She says yes, all is well and good with the world, you go off and have a wonderful time, and who knows...\n\n2) She says no. It doesn't matter what the reason is, just be nice and courteous, and let her know that you were interested, and to have a good life or whatever. Remember this: being nice now truly will be good for you later. After all, she might be taken, but that doesn't mean her hot friend is.\n\n3) She doesn't give you a clear answer. This can go a lot of ways, but usually if a girl doesn't make it fairly apparent that the answer is no, that means that the answer would be yes, except there is just something else going on that is keeping her from saying it. That can be anything from purely an insecurity issue, to having just gotten out of a relationship, and not feeling ready to date, etc... but the important thing is this: She didn't say no.\n\nIf #3 happens, let her know you are interested, tell her something nice, and let it go. In a week or two, take another shot and see what happens. If you end up doing this a couple times and she simply isn't going to say yes, then assume there is something you can'd do anything about, and move on.\n\nAnyway, good luck... and ask her out.
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was in that situation before.\n(assuming that this is on the same day?)\n\n\nI chose the one I like.\nwhy? because this is a change of a lifetime!\n\nfor the one I asked out?\nwell, he as to wait.\n\nbut if this is for a long period of time.....\n\ngo with the one you like most.\nwell of course you have to try to go out with both of them.\nbut even if you want to date both of them tell them, because if someone actually has real feellings for you he should be prepared to feel hurt.\n\nmy advice: enjoy it girl. but dont hurt other peoples feeling. that brings you nothing but problems(whether guilt or rumors). trust me, I saw some really ugly things in this Area.\n\nASiH
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wOW!  Are you British?  It is of no consequence, or course, but the more I read the more you sounded like someone from the U.K. \nAnyway, in some ways it is sweet that you have admired this lady for so long.  The romantic female side of me thinks it has great potential to be a wonderful love story.  That's the problem.  Love stories are just that..stories.  In reality you sound like a stalker.  It is just not that serious for this girl.  She probably sees you as an old school chum she would not mind spending an evening with sometime.  \n\nIt seems to me that you need to move on with your life and get out more.  Consider it just a date.  I thought only women thought things through this deeply when it came to relationships.  Hearing a man confess to such flights of whimsy (the gift, the love note confession, et' all) is a little creepy to be honest.  Sensitive is nice, obsessive is just creepy.  You sound obsessive, or at least quite immature and inexperienced.  Almost a stereotype of, well, an engineering student.  \n\nDon't confess undying love.  Don't buy a gift.  Don't write the love note.  Don't sweat the haircut.  Just pick her up.  Take her to dinner, enjoy the moment, escort her home and tell her you'd like to see her again.  \n\nYou've waited 10 years, so you have time.  Get to know her.  Hopefully she lives up to the fantasy you've created all these years. \n\nGood luck.
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It will possibly ruin your friendship and if you are dating someone you should not even be considering it. If you do there will be conseqences. I suggest that you don't do it, it's not worth loosing a friendship over.