ok im in a jam.  im stuck between 2 women.  my ex-girlfriend who is just getting out of another relationship since ours and the girl im dating now.  my ex and i had a special thing and she was there for me (even though we weren't toghether) for the hardest time in my life.  The new girl is lighthearted and sexy and fun but a little less mature!  ladies and fellas i'd like to hear what you think
129906
Here is the way to find your answer: GO on a trip by yourself, like go camping, or for a overnight drive out to the country. Think on things alone. Just think. Your answer will come to you, and when you get back things will fall into place.
432636
Girl, that's a rough situation. Its all good to help for a little while, but her ex seems to getting a little bit to dependent on your girlfriend. The bottom line is that her ex needs to grow up and be a women, it doesn't take that long to get get your stuff together. Tell your girlfriend to give her a couple of pointers and move on. Keep your head up!
642363
From what you said it seem to me what went on with buddies of mine when we were young and stupid. I have had buddies that could not stand their girls. And when the sex got boring it was time to bail. If they heard rumor from the girl's posse that she was thinking of dumping him, or that she had dumped him and he was not told yet. they would do a 360 turn and be the most charming you ever seen. To get her liking them again or take them back. Then they DUMPED HER. So, the official story is that SHE did not dump me, I dumped her. I think that is what he did. She came back, he had the power. And he used it. He was never really into her so much as to be the one to turn on and off the tap. She lost. She better just move on.
93110
Sounds to me like you need to make a decision between 'fun' and 'relationship'. You probably already KNOW the answer you are looking for-- look deep within yourself, young grasshopper! (LMAO!) You really do, though. It's just a choice you don't WANT to make is all. Sometimes they can suck the most.
285309
I would say leave them both alone, as they used you to get what they both wanted. Why take the chance of taking eighther back, and getting hurt again. Friends don't do friends like that. Bf's should respect their Gf enough to not step out with their friend, and not step out at all, espeacially when she has gone this far to please him in the relationship. I feel so badly for you. You tried to keep your love life active, by spicing things up by giving into what he wanted. If I were in your sshoes, I seriously think I would be done with them both. I can not understand why they would do this to you, and espeacially him. you are one of those girls who did what most would not, allowed her man the pleasure of two women. You are not retarded for expierimenting to try and spice your relationship up and please your man, so ignore what aretard said to you. She is 2 answers below me.
22952
If you are even considering another girl while you are with your current girlfriend - you shouldn't be with your current girlfriend.  Definitely, you need to get out of the relationship you are currently in.  It's for you to decide to take that risk if the other girl likes you or not though because I wouldn't tell her that you broke up for her or anything like that - I personally, wouldn't think that was cool.
197306
Been there done that--both options.  Choose what you have.  What you had before didn't last for a reason.  It may feel thrilling but that sure as hell doesn't last.  You call him an ex-mess for a reason and the guy you are with deserves more respect than that.
618369
anyone of them, bc its true love not what age they are. ive dated all three. when i was young i liked them older. ive always enjoyed women in their mid 30s. therye over whatever crisis ppl go thru. Turning the big 3-OH, dont mind about their careers or are happy with them. know what and who theyre looking for
140161
He's blowing you off, but there may be a lot of truth to what he says. Unfortunately, I've used that line and lived to regret it. She was a great girl, but I didn't want to get exclusive. Sometime afterward, I wished I hadn't broke up with her because the other girls I met were not near as nice as she was. Hope that gives you some kind of consolation. You do deserve someone better, and you will find him.
114028
punctuate! if you've moved on and have another boyfriend, what's the problem? they are ex's for a reason!
586489
doesnt sound good, unless her and her ex have been good friends before and are just trying to be friends again. (actually thats not too right either) and they shouldnt be talking about sex. thats wrong. and her ex had clearly shown intention to get back together... the right thing for her to do is back off. then again, she's a gal. gals love to be loved. (by lots of other men - it just makes them feel special, wanted, hot, etc) BUT ANYWAY... if they're making it a habit, u need to tell her you're uncomfortable. otherwise, end it. cuz if she doesnt care about your feelings, she's probably not THAT into u anyway.
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I married and worship a girl who was a virgin when we met.\n\nIf she hadn't been, I would have treated her as just another girl and never married her.  \n\nWhat I mean is that she was far more special than other girls I had dated.  Why?  Because I knew that when she gave herself to me, it was something very valuable and a big step for her.\n\nAs I said, I still worship her.\n\nOh, and she has a personality and innocence that far exceed those of other women I know.  I view her as a rare angel.\n\nI think her willingness to stay a virgin indicated how amazing of a person she truly is.\n\nGirls who don't keep their virginity?  Well, they get divorced every day.  Why not dump a girl who has had another penis in her?  She's not THAT special
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Well ... you can always weigh the two girls.\nBy that, I mean, what do each of them give to you?\nDoes the "new girl" give you the emotional support and trust and all that jazz as much as your ex did/does?\nOr is this new girl just a crush and you're only physically attracted.\nIf you REALLY think that this new girl has something to give to you, then you NEED to sit down and talk with your ex and explain the situation and how you're feeling.  You have to tell her that you're unsure about the current relationship between the two of you but that you still really care for her.  You just want to see what this other girl has to offer.  You may find the new girl is just nothing but a pretty face and end up missing your ex.\nIn that case ... I think you need to know what to do. ;)
187761
I would go out. I had a serious boyfriend for 3 years from ages 16-19. I was really happy but I felt the same way. I took the leap to go out and I'm glad I did. Now, my ex and I are best friends. Even though we didn't get back together, dating other guys let me realize how much happier I am that my ex and I are just friends now. I didn't realize how much happier I could be until I had some more experience. Plus, I have overcome the fear of wondering how it is to date others. And you never know, you might date around and realize what a great guy you had. He seems like he would be willing to get back together after some time. This would let you know just how happy you are with him, and you will never wonder again.
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I just answered another one of your questions, I hope this does not sound like I contradicting my other answer.\n\nI had a blind date a while back.  The woman was alot different from my ex wife or any of the women that I have been attracted too.  But sitting there all night talking with her, I realized that I could have fun with her and that I wanted to see her more.  Just from talking to her I became mentally attracted to her.  I was not sure about the rest.  We have been dating for 6 months now and it keep getting better.  \n\nI was married for 15 years to a tall, skinny blonde.  That is the type of girl physically that I thought I would date again.  Body and looks had nothing to do with me going out with the girl I've been seeing.
153023
buddy the last thing you want is for your woman to want you only for your money. look if she goes with the other chap well consider yourself saved. its hard but welcome to the real world. life goes on! cheers. there will be other women believe me.
404069
I personally think you have made a smart move and are taking responsibility for what is yours. I would NOT stay with or talk with the ex girlfriend. (why mess up what you are trying to recreate). I can understand why you were made at your wife, but she is your wife and more importantly the daughter is yours.