I think man has utterly destroyed himself. Why would  society support such behaviours , I mean no more respect for marriage, what kind of example are you setting for your children? why?
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People   get bored and look for easy answers.
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I have wondered this myself. I think all the morals in society have gone down the drain. I would never do that to anyone, if I decided I wanted someone else, other than my husband/bf, I would leave them rather than cheat. But if I make the marriage commitment, then that is for life. The moral situation explains the divorce rate also. I guess some people are brought up better than others.
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aha! the preacher's in town. sir, with due respect it is no one's prerogative to classify sin or non-sin like this. how about sex without consent with your 'legal' partner of the opposite sex (if you strictly follow the 'natural order')? is that all right to do so? and to mention the countries you are talking about, i think people there are as much randy as anywhere else in the world. maybe a little more repressed too. but all that is changing with the societies opening up to the idea of discussion on sex and sexual health of a society. the last thing we want is a pseudo pundit trying to make matters worse for those who feel there is no release.
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This is really sad! I realize that you are a Christian so your first priority is to try to make your marriage work but, God doesn't expect you to stay in a relationship that could be devastating not only to you but to your child. First, if he's admitted he has a problem get him to counseling immediately!! You should probably get some type of counseling for yourself too. You've been through alot and I'm sure your self esteem has been compromised in all of this. After you have tried counseling & he continues to act this way, you have to save yourself & your child. You shouldn't allow this man to ruin 2 more lives.Think about your child & their future.
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Because I've been in your situation, I'm going to be as honest as possible. Sometimes it's not what you want to hear, and comes off as harsh, but sometimes that's exactly what you NEED to hear.\n\nYou love your children, that's obvious. So I'm going to point something out to you. If you stay and don't leave IMMEDIATELY, you are abusing your kids. By allowing them to grow up in a violent atmosphere, this is what you are teaching them.\n\n1. That it's okay for boys to hit girls, as long as they feel they deserve it. Your sons will likely abuse their partners, and your daughters will be drawn to people who will abuse them. You're setting the example they will follow in their lives.\n\n2. That they don't have to show respect for their partners.\n\n3. That their mother didn't protect them when they most needed it.\n\nPlease understand I am saying this for your benefit, I wish someone had said it to me when I was in that situation. If you love your children, you have no choice but to grab your kids and run. \n\nCheck your phonebook ... look for emergency crisis shelters, womens abuse shelters, a womans crisis hotline. They will help you get out, find a safe place and get help.
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Wow.  Its hard to believe a man could actually do that do a child, and his daughter, to make it even worse.  It's very sad.  It's hard to even understand what would make someone do such a thing.  You are in need of real help, not the help you will get from the people on this site.  You dad has completely messed you up, and its not something you can just snap out of: you need help.  Don't get too discouraged about men, most are fine, just like most women are fine.  You should definitely be more careful about who you open up to, and definitely who you have sex with.  You truly need someone who is caring and mature to help guide you, and give you direction.  Find someone on your mother's side if possible, and get help.  There is no shame in seeking help, and freindship...after all you deserve it.
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I had a classmate who was told on the telephone that her parents were divorcing. I have never seen anybody who looked as pained as she did. Their teen years are times when people have to deal with the very issues that divorce raises. They have self esteem issues.\n\nIf their parents' marriage was a mistake, are they themselves-a product of that marriage a mistake?. If their parents stop loving each other, will they stop loving their child? The parents didn't love the child enough to stay together for his/her sake. These teen years are the times when a child is supposed to question the values they have grown up with, decide whether they have been taught correctly and formulate their own code of behavior. What are they to do when the parents themselves are not faithful to ethics what they have taught the child?\n\nThese are years when the child is supposed to separate from the parents emotionally and become his/her own person. In rebelling against the parental authority, have they themselves caused a problem in the home that brought about the divorce? Is it the child's fault? Do they dare continue the process of separating from the parent? Or can they dare to continue to depend on either parent at all and would it be safer to cut all ties emotionally and not feel anything. Which parent are they to be loyal to? Which parent are they to remain emotionally attached to? Who is at fault? Why did this happen? Can they do anything to get the parents back together again? If the child indulges in self destructive behavior, will someone pay attention to him/her or are the parents interested only in themselves or in new lovers or new families?
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America has a high rate due to selfishness.  If the other person doesn't do it for you, hit the road, Jack.  Marriage takes commitment, work, and the sacrifice of your wills for the benefit of the other.  In essence, IMHO, if you are not willing to die for your wife, then you are not ready for marriage.  I love my wife so much I would be willing to die in her place.
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I believe thats partly the problem in todays society where it seems no-one has RESPECT for anyone or anyones feelings anymore.. marriage or relationships henestly mean nothing like they use to... easier to get out of it rather than work at it, majority of people are all conceited and only think of themselves, so in other words, nobody cares!!
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I am in that situation right now. I had a one night stand and got pregnant, which I was told I could never have children. The guy and I got together but we weren't in love. We made our bed so we are lieing in it. It isn't our son's fault that we didn't use protection. Besides I am happy I had my son. We feel that even though we are not happy, in order for our son to be whole with a happy life, that we are sacrificing our happiness. Divorce is really hard on the children and being raised by a single parent is sometimes difficult. All my son's friends are being raised by a single parent. Most of them come to our home to eat dinner and get dessert which they don't get at home. They hang out at our house cos their parents are out on the weekends trying to find another mate. One has gone down the wrong road, the other misses home cooked meals, the other one misses his dad doing father-son things even though there is visitation. If there isn't any abuse involved, I would say stay until they are out of high school.
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I saw this on tv before. I cant believe this is going on. \n\nI saw that there was a program to help women who left to get a better life, or were kicked out. It was a charity that helped them get jobs, housing and schooling. I thought it was a great idea, and it helped them with counseling to adapt to the real world.(and to forget the trauma) But the program didn't receive government funding I believe.\n Hopefully something will be done to help the men too, if this terrible situation gets more media exposure and the more people talk about it, hopefully the government will start helping these people like they should of in the first place. You cant hide a problem like this forever!\n\nI think I found the link to the woman's organization that helps the woman and teens escaping polygamist lifestyles.
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A person in that situation would be devastated, of course, and it is a matter of betrayal that would be so emotionally traumatic that I'm not sure most people have enough generosity of spirit to forgive that so easily.  Unfortunately, we live in a society that often forces men and women to adopt roles they don't want to in order to earn the approval of society.  I feel only sympathy for all the people involved in such a situation.....
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Its an epidemic,and I think its directly related to the lack of moral guidance in the homes.In most homes both parents are working so kids come home to an empty house,many teens come from broken homes where either or both parents are non-existent.There needs to be an emphasis on raising teens with self-esteem and training in morality,if Kids new they were loved and got enough of it in the home in the first place,they wouldnt feel this much need to find it elsewhere.You can see this desperation evident in cases where young boys go after older women seeking to fulfill the emptiness for a mothers love,and vice versa for young girls,looking for Daddy in an older man.Its seriously sad,and something needs to be done about it.
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Sure!  I probably wouldn't feel nearly as cautious about it if more of these relationships were 2 men/1 woman, though, instead of 2 women/1 man.  There's something frighteningly archaic and patriarchal in the latter case, but I do believe that consenting adults should be able to lead the lifestyle they choose.  Morality is subjective, and "marriage" is only "sacred" if you're a christian.  For the rest of us, it's a legality.  There are still plenty of us who are NOT christian, and who don't care to revert to the 19th century and live under the oppression of that incredibly limited perspective.
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You sound like the classic case of a woman from a bad childhood now reliving that experiences in an equally bad adult relationship. You have no center to your own identity. You do not see that you are a good person who deserves a better life. You settle for living with a violent and worthless man instead of being free and looking for relationships with decent, loving men. The choice is yours. But to make it, you must change how you see yourself. For the sake of your child (who will simply repeat this same pattern) please make a plan and a fresh start far away.
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Its the effect a broken marriage has on kids. Thats why divorce is so bad.   Get some books on it an read. Promise yourself to do better as an adult.  You don't have to walk in your parents footsteps. You are a very unique person and have a lot to offer. So read things that lift your spirit and help you become the great adult you can be.
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They've been brain-washed by an anti-sex society.\nI would hope you would do the one thing you can about this:  Make up your own damn mind about it and act accordingly.