Is there a soulition to this can I save what once was a good relationshi(OR IS THERE NO SAVEING IT)
138676
doesn't care about you but wants to be with you.  Tell this guy to beat it.  He's keeping you in his back pocket while he's waiting for someone else to come along.
71826
you could try going through friends re-united...it may be worth a try
200622
I think it is possible to start over. That's the beauty of love, it can stand the test of time and many hardships. Not to say that it wouldn't take a tremendous amount of effort on both sides whether it was asking or granting forgiveness. If two people are meant to be together then even the worst experiences and longest separations cannot keep them apart, or I would like to think that.
196114
As i had this before,\nI think you should start over it again. \nThats how my dad an me did it.\nTry it!\ni hope it goes out well for you.
268808
sounds like a great guy. if you feel like you definatly want more then that give it a shot. i have been in your situation to the  point my parents even call him their surragate son and i'll tell you what he confessed how much he loved me after it was too late. now after marrying others and kids we will never be able to go back to that first innocent love we once had for each other.
587245
Been through that my friend. There is no simple answer coz it's done. Tell her very politely that your relationship cannot live in the past and since you cannot change it, if she is so concerned she must have her freedom. Not simple, but that is how it should be. You cannot erase your past, only GOD can. I agree it has no relevance to your present circumstances. If it happened before you met her, she should love you for what you are. I hope she is an angel!!!
65480
Becarful with that, its a tricky situation.  You dont want to mess up a good thing, but you dont want to miss out on something that could be better.  Try and find out if what she feels toward you.
629255
I have been where you are.  it took about 4 years after the divorce,  when i realized that we could have a casual conversation without getting deep, and you could tell that, tho it wasnt forgotten, it didnt seem to be as raw a subject anymore.  I told my ex that i was sorry, and i was wrong.  That he had been a good husband, and tho we didnt survive in our marriage for other reasons, that the infidelity on my part was wrong, and it should never had been a reason for anything-it was not ok to do it.  I did nothing but hurt innocent people, and myself.  I actually know that he accepted my apology as genuine.
232700
'...before you have moved onto a new relationship?' You'd better decide who you are going to have the relationship with...the new guy or the old one. It might create problems.
432306
i am a huge fan of this theory.  just like the old saying "if you love something let it go.  if it never comes back it wasn't meant to be but if it does come back, love it forever".  go with your first instinct.  it's usually the correct course in action.
556668
You don't.............leave the past in the past.\n\nStart fresh!
412632
you can indeed be saved...but...with your attitude I have great doubt that you will be.... if you are ever honestly interesed in some of the basics you would need to start in that direction you may email me.... given the tone of your "question" I wonder at the reason you would post the link you do.
639375
I do the same thing.  Nothing is wrong with getting rid of the possesions that remind you of an ex-lover.  And if his feelings were hurt, TOO BAD!
337807
this happens to a lot of people. what happpens is that subconciously, you think that you don't deserve a relationship this good.  You said its your best ever right? well if you keep tripping over whether you're gonna do something stupid or not, you're gonna end up doing something really stupid.  so concentrate on how lucky you are, and also concentrate on how you can make this already wonderful relationship even better, that way, when you do screw up, there will be so much more positive things you've contributed to this relationship and it'll survive those rocky times.
585311
not usually a bar for a lastting relationship ..but in my case it lasted over 10 years and countting ....but maybe join some social clubs...perhaps volunteer for something .cafes work at times but sometimes the perso is already with someone at a cafe . lol
526189
Assuming that the relationship was good up to this point I would think that it is worth saving. Trust is easliy lost in this type of situation. Your job is to regain the trust. This can only be done by actions and consistency. Think of how she became interested in you at the beginning. Go back a few steps and do the things you did then and see where it goes. Don't push the issue. If it is going to survive, it will happen naturally.
163429
First off, did you all of a sudden realize the current relationship was unhappy only when your new savior arrived? Or was it already crumbling? If the former is the case, then the fact is you're looking for something new and need a copout. But if the relationship you had was already on its way out, then let that fall completely out and see how the new thing goes. I warn that this may just become a quick fling. Infatuation in rebound over a long-term relationship occurs extremely frequently. But if that's what must be, then let it be. Just understand that you're probably not on the way to a new romance with the sitter's brother, but rather a stepping stone on the way to recovery with the soon-to-be-ex. I hope that if you take this course of action, you do not end up regretting it and realizing you had it so good with the ex and now it's too late because an impulse got you to think you found something that just wasn't there with an old flame.