Iknow this person from the work,some times we chat messeges that he tell me in it he like me.sometime more  but i fell he is afraid from the engagment or from me idont know exactly he is careless in every thing and lately even about me.he doesnot call alaways as before may he stop loving me?
130442
maybe he is just testing if you love him because some times ignoring is the way to find out...you ignore him for a while
246226
you r absolutely right and smart to stick to your schedules. thats how you flush out the big phonies!! trsut me there you did not lose anything precious here. if he ever call again dont even bother having anymore conversation with this pervert. learn from these expereince and fell out guys like that in the future!! good going girl!!
644954
girl u are lucky to have some one like him probably he is busy cause of his work i will say just trust him and see how things go
351259
I'm pretty sure he's trying to be friendly with you and wants you to indirectly "forgive" him for dumping you to a greater extent. Although I don't know what kind of person he is, I get the feeling he is still interested in you,
93556
I have bad news for you: YOU are playing *him*.  He's been nothing but honest with you, and you're not being honest even with yourself.  You know how he feels, yet still keep in contact with him... because you like the attention.  He makes you feel good about yourself.  But you're only stringing him along.
206015
Ok sweetie, obviously he is protecting himself from being hurt again by being in a relationship with you but not.  This may be a fine distinction and completely without merit.  And it is, I would say just give him some time if you like him, but I would expect that he should treat you with the dignity and respect that you deserve.  I would not settle for anything less if I were you. And if he can't trust me there is sombody out there who will love you for who you are, and will treat you the way you deserve.  Good luck sweetie and I hope this helps.
57935
he's probably stil feeling his ex, and hasn't let go...let him deal with all that, act like it never happened and everything is all good, then let him come to you, and think twice about dating someone u work with, it gets complicated when it's over
669703
Maybe he likes you. I would caution you, though. My experience is that it isn't good to go out with someone that you work with. How are you going to feel after a nasty split with this guy when you have to see his face every day?
268867
being at work doesn't mean he's really working on your relationship with you.\n\nIf he doesn't take time for you now, he won't later.  Drop him and let him come to you if that's what he really wants.  It sounds like he's looking for an excuse to leave the relationship.\n\nWhy waste your life while he tries to decide if he wants to spend time with you or not?
642038
I didn't even finish reading your note, but from experience I would recommend ditching him... you deserve someone who can make up his mind and can love you 100%!! I had a fellow like that and I think he kept me around as security, so he wasn't alone and felt loved... don't be his love of last resort! Be strong and move on...
97947
If he continued to call you after the break up, then it sounds like he wasn't ready to give up either. Or, maybe he enjoyed being in a friendship w/ you, and when you told him your feelings, it freaked him out. Either way, I'd try to get in contact w/ him to see what's going on. It seems odd to me that he would leave you hanging like that, so maybe something happened to him...try calling. If you get in touch w/ him, and he simply doesn't want to talk to anymore, then yes, it gets better. True love never fades, but it does alter and changes over time. Just give it some time. Good luck to you!
424075
You adore him and he knows that, he is taking advantage of your feelings, and you are falling in his game.To have a mature conversation with him could clear everything and if he still say he wants you as a friend...hun, move on!! he is not your friend!!!
191675
Well like you already say... You have been together for months but it feels like it has been years? Could that mean that perhaps everything went pretty quick and you guys have moved fast? Maybe he suddenly realizes that and is wondering about it? Maybe things are becoming more serious and he is scared to take on the responsibility that it brings along? \nIn fact there is not enough information to know what is wrong with him. or if there is anything wrong at all, maybe it is a period he is going trough, for all I know it could even be he cannot love himself yet or love his own life at the moment, which scares him to get involved with someone else her life as well.. \n\nAdvice him to read "art of loving - Erich Fromm" read it yourself as well, it is pretty interesting, I learned a lot from it about how to love and so on..
259244
He probably confides in you because you are the only person he feels comfortable enough to do so with. He trusts you. I understand though, that he is bringing you down, causing you excess worry. Like you mentioned, he needs to speak with someone professional. There's nothing wrong with doing so. It sounds like he may have depression which will affect ones self-esteem. If you really do care for your friend help direct him to get some help. Let him know that he worries you and that mentally, you can't take the emotional blackmail anymore. Let him know though, that you do care about him and want to see him get some help to make himself feel better. You'd be the greatest friend ever to see him through this if at all possible and help him to get a "fresh" start again. Be upfront, honest and considerate with him...hopefully he will take your advice and get himself to feeling much better soon. Good luck to you!!
120187
probably he is used to these stuff that you ask him to do for you. make him miss you ;) by keeping away from him for the meantime..
378523
your confused b/c he's making you confused, i don't believe he's confused one bit he's just stringing you along, and you are right he is too scared, too scared to completely let go of you all he's doing is talking nonsence to you....what i think is happening here is he wants to keep you waiting for him while he 's out exploring his options, he's afraid you might find you someone else...and he won't have anybody, he doesnt want to get back with you or else he would have, i mean whats stopping him?? all he's saying is i'll just keep playing mind games with her until i find me somebody i really like....don't fall victim, i would surprise him and would tell him to just go on with his life....that you are not meant for each other...get rid of the stress and you will feel so much better.
6451
Back off a bit and see what he does.  If he doesnt seem to notice or actually seems relieved, forget it. But if he starts trying to talk to you more or continues flirting its worth a shot.  If you start focusing on other things it might just give him the push he needs to let you know how he feels. If not, it's probably better this way anyhow because getting involved with a colleague can be a mess.