Both masturbating and promiscuity (that is sleeping with either a man or woman without being formally married) is sinful and both could not be condolled by God hence abstainess from both masturbation and promiscuity is the only way to please God concerning this aspect of sin. As a true believer in the word of God, unmarried man or woman must not indulge in sex until they are married and pronounced husband and wife in the church of God by the Bishop, Apostle, Pastor or any clegy in charge in such a church; or joined in the registery as man and wife or even in the traditional way as it may be in your locality. Nigeria as a case study, marriage could be contracted in the mosque, at the family home of the woman (intended to be married out) whereby all the family members of the woman (both parternal and maternal) and the family of the intended husband will be present to solemnize the two people and they shall become one and live together thereafter as husband and wife.
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If you have to choose the lesser evil, than go for masturbation. God's purpose for sex is for procreation between a husband and a wife. Obviously, to have premarital sex sins against the procreation part, and the the being unwed part. Plus, you're involving someone else with your sin. If you're masturbating, you are alone...and you're actually not preventing procreation because there is no woman. \n\nGod understands that people have freewill and are generally 'weak'. God wants people to live according to his wishes, but he also understands that it is difficult.
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aha! the preacher's in town. sir, with due respect it is no one's prerogative to classify sin or non-sin like this. how about sex without consent with your 'legal' partner of the opposite sex (if you strictly follow the 'natural order')? is that all right to do so? and to mention the countries you are talking about, i think people there are as much randy as anywhere else in the world. maybe a little more repressed too. but all that is changing with the societies opening up to the idea of discussion on sex and sexual health of a society. the last thing we want is a pseudo pundit trying to make matters worse for those who feel there is no release.
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Good question. There's a lot of discussion on this. On the one hand, it is arguably preferable to indulge yourself rather than finding a stranger to indulge with.\n\nOn the other, Thomas Aquinas said it best when he compared the "hungers" in Summa Theologica. Too much alcohol, you pass out. Too much food, you vomit. Too much laziness, you starve. Anger, you're slain. But a hunger for sex cannot be satiated. The problem with autoeroticism is that there's no conceivable end. You and your spouse have physical, emotional and other limits to sexual expression, but there's no such barrier with yourself - its too easy to lead to excess.\n\nScripturally, there's an invocation to holiness in the epistles, the letters placed after the Gospel. Sexual sins are doubly bad because they are sins against the body, which is a temple of the Holy Spirit. Christians are exhorted to be without blemish, and even married couples are admonished to abstain from time to time in order to balance their spiritual and sexual needs.\n\nThen there's the internal dialogue. What do you think of during autoeroticism? Its easy to be drawn into fantasy and lose touch, to objectify others and ignore their humanity when your sexual life takes place entirely within you (instead of being shared). That said, much of the controversy comes from the use of autoerotic manipulation to release tension, for instance when a married couple is apart for lengths of time or is not able to enjoy intercourse because of preganancy, impotence or infirmity.
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Heb 13:4  Marriage must be honored among all and the marriage bed kept undefiled, for God will judge sexually immoral people and adulterers.\n\nAs with most of the Bible, we are given commandments and guides for living in the Word.  The Marriage Bed means the sexual relationship between the husband and the wife.  Here's what I've come to learn as 'keeping the marriage bed undefiled':\n\n-Exclusive sexual relationship between a husband and wife, as it is a celebration of God's gift of marital intimacy.\n-No other parties involved: imagined, portrayed, or physically present.\n-Husband and wife are in agreement as to what is done.  Meaning, neither of them feel a sense of regret or abuse.  \n\nBasically, the Holy Spirit is the one who gives interpretation to most of the Bible.  If you want to know what God says is ok, search the Word of God, ask the Holy Spirit in prayer, and listen to what He's saying to your heart.  Let the Spirit lead you.  :)
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Masturbation is a sin because a person consents in their own heart to take sexual gratification from impure thoughts. It is sinful to indulge in the sexual pleasure that is derived from the satisfaction of using one's imagination to FIXATE upon obscene images, or obscene actions, or forbidden sex. Lustfully fixating upon genitals, or sexual acts, is idolatry. This is called: the worship of obscenities. This is the sin of those addicted to pornography. That's often a "guy" thing. Alternatively, taking delight in the lust of another, or consummating a fantasy of forbidden sexual romance, is the sin of adultery in the heart. That's often a "girl" thing. The act of masturbation is an outward act that confirms that one's heart and mind has consented to an inward act of impurity. Only by consenting to an imagined act of impurity can one attain orgasm. To attain sexual release, a person's will consents to LOVE something that is sexually impure. \n\nA sin consists in loving something that God hates, or in hating something that God loves. Because God is pure love, in one sense there is no hatred in God. But there are actions that God regards with a COMPLETE ABSENCE of love. There are many things that men can do that God does not love. In so far as God does not love a human action, according to our way of thinking it can be said that God hates it. These actions are sins. They are often as hateful to men as they are to God! What are some things that God does not love? What are some things that, according to our human way of speaking, we might say that God hates?? \n\nAbove all, God hates falsehood. God hates any form of lie, rejoicing in cruel lies, or in telling harmful lies about others. He hates any kind of injustice perpetrated upon his children! God hates cruelty, or the defrauding of a worker of his just wages. God hates it when one person entices another person to do something harmful to himself or others: like to worship evil, or to steal, or to lie, or to take drugs. God also hates impure sexual lust because lust is a false pretense of love. It is a gross and disordered counterfeit of what should really be a sentiment of holy love. Lust consists in fixating on the body of another human being as a sexual object - solely for sexual gratification. When a person lusts, he is making no lasting commitment to the other human being. He is regarding the other human being's body as a sexual object to be used for his own gratification - but nothing more! Outside of marriage, a person who lusts is acting as if he would take another person sexually to be his spouse: but he has absolutely no intention of actually doing so. That is why LUST IS A LIE. \n\nWhen the subject of masturbation arises, it always refers to stimulating one's self for the gratification of sexual lust, or in stimulating one's self sexually while fantasizing about the lust of another person. In impure sexual fantasy, a person uses his own imagination as a pornographic tool to give his body the ability to attain sexual gratification. In reality entertaining lustful fantasy is embracing a falsehood of the heart and mind, in an act of abuse of his own body in order to attain selfish sexual gratification. This is sexual idolatry! God hates falsehood - especially worshipping a false god! This is why God hates impurity in all it's forms. \n\nGod hates the worship of ugliness, or obscenity, or bestiality. A person who might sexually gratify himself while looking at bestiality is acting as if bestiality is a good thing - when it is a hateful thing! In the same way: lustfully fixating upon lurid sexual pornography is a behavior that pretends that some obscene sexual image, or a lurid posture, or an obscene action is a good thing, when they are nothing but obscene and hateful images! These images are used as objects of false worship. These obscene images, be they real, photographic, or imaginary, are the objects of the "wo
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Is sex outside of marriage a sin?\n\nFundamentalists would have us believe it. But the Bible is unclear. In Exodus, chapter 20, we read the Ten Commandments, and are told that we should not commit adultery. Adultery however is not defined as simply having sex outside of marriage. It's defined as having sex with a married person. Nothing is said to prohibit sexual relations between two unmarried people. In fact, if we look in the book of Leviticus, we are given a list of every situation in which we should not have sex. We're not to have sex with married people, or with family members, or with animals. We are not, however, prohibited from having sex with an unmarried person who is not in our family. \n\nA few people have interpreted Deuteronomy 22:13-21 to be against pre-marital sex, but when we actually read what's there we see it's about lying and bringing disgrace to one's father, not about sex. In these verses a man is given a bride by another man, and then goes to court to claim the woman was not a virgin. The verses then say that the bride's father must prove she was a virgin. If he can prove it, the new husband is fined for bringing shame upon the bride's family by claiming he was given a faulty bride. If she cannot prove she's a virgin, then she is put to death for being a harlot while still in her father's house. Notice that there is nothing said about the man not being a virgin, and there are no equal punishments brought against men. Why? Because this is not about having sex. It's about a woman who is still considered property, meaning she lives in her father's house and is being given to another man (in exchange for money), taking it upon herself to sleep around and thus destroying her value as a bride worth selling. In this case, the woman having sex brings shame to her family by making the father out to be a liar when he accepts money from a man who wants to bed down with a virgin. In short, while having sex outside of marriage is not forbidden by the Bible, the women not being honest about it brought dishonor to her father, which is a sin according to the Ten Commandments. \n\nAnother verse, often quoted by itself to condemn sex outside of marriage, is Exodus 22:16, where we read "If a man seduces a virgin who is not betrothed, and lies with her, he shall give the marriage present for her, and make her his wife." But when we look at the verse immediately following, we get a whole different picture. In verse 17 we read, "If her father utterly refuses to give her to him, he shall pay money equivalent to the marriage present for virgins." Just like the Deuteronomy reference we can clearly see this is not about sex, but rather is about destroying a commodity - a virgin daughter who can be sold for a price. In these Exodus verses it's spelled out even more clearly. There is no mention of immorality, nor is the man who seduces the woman penalized for having sex before marriage - only for having sex with a virgin, and even then his only penalty is to pay the father what the woman would have cost as a virgin. \n\nSome places in the bible, such as Mark 7:21, state that "fornication" is a sin. Fundamentalists like to interpret that as meaning "sex outside of marriage." It's not true. The Greek translation identifies "fornication" as being any "illicit (illegal) sexual activity." However, as we saw above, God did not mention sex between two unmarried people as being illicit. Interesting. And, in fact, we read in 2 Samuel chapter 5 where some of God's greatest leaders, such as King David (whom God called a man "after his own heart"), had hundreds of wives and hundreds of unmarried concubines (women kept in the house for the purpose of having sex). None of these were considered sins. It is only when David had sex with another man's wife (2 Samuel 11:1-5) that he committed the sin of adultery.
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If you are religious, it is wrong to have sex before you are married.  It is a sin, it's called fornication.
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People have sexual desire outside of love because it is part of our fallen human nature. Desiring a person of the opposite sex is natural and God created men to like women and vice versa. God also created an institution in which sexual pleasure can be experienced without it being a sin and that is where marriage comes in. It's in a marriage that love can truly be expressed in sex. So please don't confuse the two sex does not equal love. If you love someone and if they love you. Then they and you should be willing to wait and then make a lifelong commitment where sex can be enjoyed as God intended in marriage.\n\nYes you can find true love in Jesus. You can also find healing in Him and restoration and forgiveness. And when you have experienced that with Him He will free you to experience love in the human plain.
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Pray for a wife.............I applaud your loyalty an God does too. But according to the Bible porn is a sin. I would strongly recommend you start thinking about marriage and don't just rush into it. Good luck and God Bless.
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First masturbation is a sin because it affects purity and leads to worst sins like pornography and sex out of marriage.  I am a Catholic Christian too and I've been under going the same thing. I don't plan to lose my virginity, at least not in a senseless and lustful way. I've been trying for months and I have finally quit for good I haven't done it in over a week which is harder than it sounds. So believe me it's possible and I recommend it so much because I feel better about myself more than every time I masturbated. So the only real way to release that sexual energy is to take control with help from God.
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Know the definition of lust according to the Bible .... if you know that in your heart you would have sex with the woman you are looking at, if she walked up and asked you for sex, would you do it?  Then you've already committed lust in your heart.\n\nJesus said that if you've committed it in your heart then you've already sinned.  So if you look at a woman and see enough material to go have a good time alone by yourself, but would never cheat on your wife, then you are okay.  If you look at a woman and yes, you'd have intercourse with her, then sorry guy, but you've ALREADY done wrong.\n\nMost folks don't understand that to admire someone's looks is okay, and to feel sexually aroused at someone's looks is okay as well .... what is NOT okay is to know in your heart that if the moment of cheating came, you'd do it.
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Porn is a sin against God (Lusting after a woman is just the same as having sex with her hence the sin of adultery or fornication)  and it also provokes un realistic expectations in the people watching it.  Example if their wife is not like the porn queen then a man is not satisfied with her.  It is also a form of prostitucion, in that women are selling pictures of themselves.  It is degrading to the women in that it isn't important who or what they are, the person just wants to see them naked.  People who do this eventually get to the point that the whole focus of their lives is sex and they are never satisfied with what they have.  It also carries with it the danger of demonic spirits that will ruin your life.  And at the end of your life here on earth you can look forward to eternity without God.  If we were governed by the Bible in our sex lives then AIDS would just disappear on its own.  God means for us to be happy and his rules lead to health and happiness in our lives.
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No but goes back to the bible. It is written that only a husband should know his wife in that manner. Meaning that you should Waite for marriage to sleep with someone. If it is against the Lord, if you follow his teachings then it should something that you are against.
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Real simple: MARRY HER! What you're implying- SEX OUTSIDE MARRIAGE- is called "fornication" by God, which is SIN! You are VERY SELFISH! All you want to do is USE HER for your own gratification! The fact that you say you want to "convince her to go farther" PROVES this! You need to REPENT OF YOUR WICKEDNESS! See yourself as a LOST, GUILTY, HELL DESERVING SINNER! You are guilty of breaking God's law! "Thou shalt not commit adultery". Jesus said that if you "look on a woman to lust after her", you've "committed adultery with her already in your heart." (Matthew 5:27&28). Dude, you are A SLAVE TO YOUR PASSIONS! You are CONSUMED WITH LUST! Sex and all of the wonderful feelings that go with it are GOD GIVEN, and therefore "very good" as He pronounced after He had made Adam and Eve. But they were MARRIED! And that is why they were "naked and not ashamed". I would dare to say that your "girlfriend" is not your FIRST "fling", IS SHE? Are you still A VIRGIN? Even if you are OUTRIGHT, it's obvious you're not IN YOUR HEART! And I can guarantee that you are hooked on PORN, right? That stuff is DEADLY! You fill your mind and heart with ALL SORTS OF FILTH AND PERVERSION AND WICKEDNESS, and then you wonder WHY you have NO CONTROL over your passions! You're a slave to SATAN! The Bible rightly calls the devil "the god of this world". He ALWAYS takes what God has created as good and right and beautiful and perverts it into something very UGLY AND WICKED AND WRONG! That is what SIN is all about! The Bible speaks of "the pleasures of sin FOR A SEASON." You can "go all the way" or "part way", but EITHER WAY, it's still S-I-N!!! And it's basis is PRIDE! Notice how BOTH of those words have the letter "i" in the center! That's your problem: you are SELF CENTERED! You need to REPENT (turn from your sin and yourself) and TRUST IN THE LORD JESUS CHRIST TO SAVE YOU FROM YOUR SINS AND THE WRATH TO COME! One day you will die, and then you'll have to face the inevitable: ACCOUNTABILTY TO YOUR CREATOR FOR EVERY THOUGHT, WORD AND DEED! God loves you, and that's why Jesus Christ died on the cross for you! I beseech you sir: TURN FROM YOUR WICKED, SELF CENTERED WAYS TO CHRIST! And you need to do so TODAY! Tomorrow is too late! (You do NOT know when you'll die, now, DO YOU?) Quit being like so many OTHER guys today: A SELF CENTERED WHOREMONGER! Stop having this SICKENING mentality of just USING GIRLS for your own selfish pleasure! It really IS disgusting how so many guys will just SAY "I love you" to a girl SOLELY so they can "get what they want"! Love is A COMMITMENT! Everything else is LUST! And that is DESTRUCTIVE and ultimately leads to DEATH: Death in your body (STD'S); Death in relationships (resentment, mistrust, disrespect, divorce); Death in eternity (Hell fire for ever!). THINK ABOUT IT, AND TAKE HEED!
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MASTURBATION is an expression of lusting over someone. No scripture tells us that masturbation is a sin.\n\nKeep growing in the Lord Jesus and you will find later that this habit will stop.\n\nConnect with strong Christian men in your locality. \n\nALL THE BEST.
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Married and a minister for the Gospel.\nWhat Paul is talking about if one remains single all of thier attention can be focused on the Lord . A single person does not have to worry about a familys needs . Where as a married person has responsibilites to thier mate ,childern , most of a married persons time is spent taking care of thier family. This is not wrong as pointed out in scripture , Yet Paul wishes folks to be like him because he was so zelous for the Lord and in his unmarried state his whole focus could be upon doing Gods work all the time.
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having sex is not really a sin.it depends upon the person u have with.if suppose the person is suffering from std infections then it is really a risk.sex is a feeling that god has given to us.it is the one that allows the perpetuation of the species.\n                      marriage of what this world has learnt is that exchanging the ring,celeberations,and taking oaths.but marriage is the bond that is created between man and women both physically and mentally.so if u love the person and he is really a fine good person then go ahead.