my friend want to commit suicide what should tell her why souldn't do it
122012
That's a huge responsibillty that you should not have to take on.  You need to call his/her parents or a counselor.  Please don't try to handle that situation on your own.  You might also want to talk with your parents about it.  If you need to talk you can email me.....just hit my contact information.
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If you don't like her doing it, tell her. She's your friend so she should be understanding to the fact that you don't want her doing this. If you consent, well that's up for the two of you to decide where you want to go from there.
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you were very rude to her... you better call and say you are sorry for what you told her\neven if she is not going to kill herself.. \nnever say bad words to others ... it will hurt so badly and sometimes never get better.
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Tell her not to tell you anything else of that nature. If she doesn't want any help, then keep you out of it...I'm sure that you already have enough stress, and friends like this will cause you to have a mental breakdown...
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She definately needs professional help, but there are things that you can do now.  You can be there to listen to her.  It may be tempting to demand her to stop immediately, but this approach will most likely alienate her.  She knows she needs to stop, so telling her what she already knows is useless.  often, just knowing they have someone who cares enough to listen eases a lot of their pain.\n\nYou might try to help her to understand why she feels she has to cut herself.  Does it make her feel better?  Does she feel like she deserves it?  What is she thinking when she cuts herself?  The cutter usually uses physical pain to alleviate emotional pain.  Also keep in mind that there may be other underlying problems or mental disorders (such as bipolar, obsessive compuslive, depression, or even eating disorders) that are causing her to do this.  In those cases, simply talking with her will not solve anything.  \n\nIf you are a young person, you need to make sure you get help.  Try as hard as you can to get her to confide in a trusted adult, preferably her parents unless circumstances wouldn't permit it.  Cutting can become life-threatening, even if the person is not sucidal, so it is important to get her to a professional immediately.\n\nThere are also books out there that may be able to help her.  Go to your local library or search online.  If your friend is religious, you might refer her to her local pastor or priest.  Recently, Jehovah's Witnesses had articles about this type of self-cutting in the January and Febuary Awake Magazine.  You can look up "Jehovah's Witnesses" in the phonebook and call for someone to drop off the magazines free of charge.  Getting something in her hand that she can read may be what she needs to motivate her to get help.\n\nWhatever you decide to do, please get help for her, but also make sure that you get help as well.\n\nP.S. If you are not in a romantic relationship with her, be supportive and positive, but becareful about saying too many "lovey" things to her.  Since she is in a very emotional state, she could very easily begin to thik of you as more than a friend.  The last thing you both need is to have her fall in love with you, then become more depressed when you do not return the feelings.  If you do have some feelings for her, please wait for her to get help before pursuing any type of relationship.  Carefully consider whether you are mature enough to understand all that is involved with loving someone in her condition.  Again, getting trusted adults involved will be a safegaurd to you and help to protect both of your feelings during this very sensitive time.
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Dear Hayley,\n\nCALL NOW:\nNational suicide crisis hotline\n1.800.SUICIDE (784-2433)\n\nTell them about your friend. They may be able to get a phone trace if he actually threatened to commit suicide ever. They can give you better advice than anyone untrained also. Good Luck, we'll be praying for you both.\n\nCalico.Kitty
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just break it down to her.. tell her that you want to tell her something that you dont want her to get mad at.. tell her that you dont want to hurt her but you dont want to destroy ur friendship either by being together.. tell her you care about her as a friend..but nothing more.. you got to keep it funky.. feel me.. just be gentle but serious with her
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ok first of all suicide is not fun. and if she doesnt like you back, im not trying to sound mean but, DEAL WITH IT!!!!!! people aren't always going to like you back. its the fact of life. and if she says she doesn't like you back than just tell her ok well that doesn't change anything, and im still going to like you. just don't say it stalkerish like. that would just freak her out.
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You need to take action right now. Either tell his parents or call 911 and shown them the text messages. He may get mad at you but if you really care for him you have to take the risk. He will eventually be very thankful that you were there for him when he needed you. He is crying out for help, all treats of suicide are crys for help. He has reached a point where what ever emotional pain he feels is too strong for him to deal with on his own. He needs and wants help or else he would have said nothing and acted on commiting suicide. But if you do nothing he may think you don't take him seriously and feel traped to attempt suicide sine he made the threat. Help you friend the only way you can by getting him help from his parents of the emergency system. You may be the only one that can. How will you feel if you don't and you find out he is dead tomorrow?\n\nLet me know how this works out. Good luck.\n\nSincerely,\nTerry
534157
Her doctor may need to review the medications she is on. Sometimes depression medications increase the desire for suicide in teenagers. Try to be there for her, and just be her friend and don't judge her.
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you need to tell someone...have you tried talking to her?? i would try talking to her and tell her what your concerned about...and tell her that you're going to have to tell an adult if she keeps it up...if and when you do tell she will be mad, but if she is your true friend she'll stay mad for a little bit and then realize that you only did it because you cared and you can go on being frineds...if not then she just stays mad....but either way...you were doing the right thing...it's better to tell and possibly save her life and not be friends than to keep your mouth shut and regret not telling someone when something irreversible happens...
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I used to be a cutter.  I would do it becuase I would have so much emotional pain, cutting myself would hurt physically so it would take my mind of my emotional problems, instead I could focus on the physical pain.  \n\nI stopped becuase I went to a psychiatrist and got medication for depression.  That helped A LOT!!!\n\nAs far as what to say to your friend... my friends never knew what to say to me (my best friend talks about it with me a lot now that I don't do it anymore).  I actually scared them a lot.  Maybe just let your friend know that it scares you when they hurt themselves.  Then try to get them to go get help for it.  You can talk about the underlying issues, but if they are at the point of cutting then unfortunately they most likely need professional help.  That is a sign of a psychological disorder.\n\nAt work I have seen several kids that do this.  They give reasons for doing it anywhere from my reason to wanting to see what it would do, to wanting to kill themselves and just "hoping i would cut deep enough".  \n\nSo like i said, talk to your friend.  Try to find the underlying issue, and get them help.  Be there for them.  Good luck.
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ppl cut because they are exchanging one kind of pain for another, but you seem to know this. YOU can not help her except by trying to talk her into getting the professional help she needs. you can only be her friend.To start off with I suggest you do all the research you can on this. do a google search, go to the library, go to a med. clinic, go to the school councler, etc... do NOT mention your friends name, YET, .. get all the info you can, then sit down with friend and show her all you know about it... then warn her that if she does not seek help, YOU will..... this is NOT a game.... give friend a certain amount of time to study and look into all this, about a week, anything more is asking for trouble..... then if she has NOT complied to the warning then you must go to her parents or anyother adult you TRUST... you must understand, that untreated cutting leads to  even more serious problems that can result in death !!!!! she will be mad at you for a time, thinking you betrayed her, but the betrayal is by her, to herself !!!!!! When you speak to her uplift her spirits by saying how much you love her, have faith in her to do the right thing and make sure you tell her how much you would miss her if something were to happen..... do NOT pour any guilt on her, or point the finger or blame her or anyone for this... be as positive as you can... BUT, I warn you, this will not be an easy task for you...... YOU must be willing to go all the way with her..... I mean do not just start this and then forget about it if she does not seek help herself...... you take the first step you have taken on a commitment !!!!!!!! so if you do not wish or have the ability to take this on, then PLEASE, take this to an adult you TRUST and let them handle it..... your friend will never have to know you took the loving step to save her life............. God bless
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She can't be a close friend if you want to disown her...i suggest you try and help her. I was depressed for a few years and the only thing that got me through was my friends. Think carefully
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She needs to get help right away. I'm not sure how old she is and if she still lives with her parents. If she does, you have to make the difficult decision of telling them. They may not realize how seriously she is depressed. If she is an adult, it is hard to force someone to get help. If someone is about to commit suicide, then 911 can be called. Otherwise, you can encourage them to talk to their doctor, talk to a distress centre/suicide prevention line, talk to a counsellor or go to the emergency room of a hospital. Try to keep the lines of communication as open as you can. She needs to know that people care about her. With that said, if she does hurt herself that is not your fault. You are doing what you can. She is lucky to have a caring friend like you. I hope things work out really well.
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You should first tell her parents. Then get her help by telling your parents or a doctor. This is a serious problem. And I know what you are going through. My friend almost died because she tried to kill her self.
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I had a friend that was doing bad stuff, and i just told him to either stop or we wouldn't be friends, and i know you still wanna be her friend, but the thing is that in most cases she will tell you that she will, and you guys will stay friends. If you won't do that then maybe you should start to say subtle things to her about her behavior, just slip them into your conversations, that way she doesn't feel bad. That's my advice.