will the child proection service help my friend whose being abused by helping his family work out the isssues? could they solve it within the family? or would they take him out of the family and into a foster home
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Well, to be fair, I have to say that it depends on the case worker you get. My best friend works for CPS, and is wonderful. Her first goal is to keep a family together and help as much as possible with problems. But even she says she has one co-worker who is overly eager to remove from the home. The other case workers go around behind this woman trying to fix things so that it's best for the family.\n\nBut, at CPS no matter what city, the primary design is to help families in distress. They should be very willing to help solve your friends problem in the home, Depending....on the severity of the abuse. There is some abuse that a child needs removed from immediately, as it is just not safe to be there. That is what the case worker investigates to determine.\n\nBy all means, if you have a friend being abused, have him or her (or you do it) call Children's Protective Services. They will evaluate the situation and do the best possible thing. It is most important that your friend have help, in order to be safe.\nI wish the best of luck to you and your friend. If you need more direction from here, you need to talk to an adult that you can trust. That can be a parent, parents friend, friends parent, school nurse or a teacher, a pastor, anyone that you are comfortable approaching for help. Take care, and God bless!
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You're absolutely right; social learning theory at it's finest.\n\nThe US has Child Protective Services that can, and will, remove children from a home such as the one you're referring to.\nBut that begs the question: is that the best thing for the child?\n\nMost social workers will tell you without a doubt; that's the best thing to break the chain of behavior.
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Child Protective Service.  If you do not have an agency by that name in your community please contact thre police and they will give you the right name and number.
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in Ohio the parent can give the child up as unruly. then they become a ward of the state. the child would go to a Foster home.the parent might have to pay for support. but that would be fair best of luck to parent and child.I do care,It is to bad they only have one set of parents.por child must feel so unwanted and unloved.Thats why I got in a lot of trouble.I didn't have anyone who really cared they were to busy.Much like you many parents. My dad worked all the time my stepmother didn't give a damn
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Some states' Child Protection Services provide for support groups, but  most people seem to prefer to use the internet to discuss problems.\n\nFor example you might try one of the following:\n\n.
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I'd pay for what the boy took. I would then try and take him home to clean him up then to the police so they can help him. No good deed goes unpunished and as much as I would love to help him find his family, God only knows what the situation is. I would most definately be involved in making sure the child is in a safe place. Even if it meant having him stay in my home. I have two little boys and it hurts me to think that there are so many children roaming the streets with no place to call home.
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Do NOT let that kid get into foster care. What ever you do it will be safer if he wasnt in foster care...Try to go to court and have the kid placed with you. The mother could sign custody papers over to you and he will be safe then... Try to talk to his mother about it there could be more... Like the step-father is also abusing the mother and thats why she wont leave him. Find out everything first.
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I have worked in a group home that was affiliated with an actual residential treatment facility. It would seem that this child is currently in crisis. If he is in a group home, he should have been receiving some sort of wrap-around services. I would get in touch with either the judge, his DCFS caseworker or his therapist and they can initiate a 3 day psychological crisis placement in a hospital to evaluate the child. ( I am not sure how old he is which could affect this advice) If this is done, and it appears that he needs extra support, it would probably be a good idea for him to lose unsupervised home visits for a while until he is stabilized. If he continues to escalate, then it is possible he needs a more restrictive environment (residential) for a while, again his therapist and case managers would have to be involved in the facilitation and the determination of this type of placement. In the meantime...take his clothes and shoes, put him in pajamas until he earns back the privileges that go with being trusted.\n\nThis is what we did with our kids when they went AWOL and we kept a supply of pajamas just for these instances. The kids had no slippers, shoes or clothes and this was a real deterrent to running away.\n\nI hope this helps, and I hope the young chap gets some help, it really sounds like something bad may have happened while he was at home and this is his reaction.\n\nGood Luck
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Having been charged and convicted are two different things. If I knew for sure that someone had been convicted I would delve in to the matter a lot more. At one time, I would have said mind your own business, but in view of all the horrible things that have happened to children, I would have to bring it to social services. Please do not proceed unless you really have something solid and well founded. This little girl has obviously been traumatized a lot being taken away from her parents. Depending on the charge, some people can change. Did you read about this person in the newspaper or did someone gossip about this situation? Which ever way you go, let your conscience be your guide.
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Abusing a child for reporting sexual abuse.\n\nWhat kind of message does that send?\n\nHe should have to at least do supervised community service.  Something positive for the community and a learning experience for him.  \n\nFace it, the molester probably won't get much jail time.  It's infuriating, but true.\n\nHe definitely doesn't need to counsel anymore!\n\nIf he is sincere, but horribly misguided, maybe he could be rehabilitated in some way.  Sadly some people are in the ministry who just have no business being there and it's a cover for their maladjustment.\n\n\nThat poor girl!  Personally, I don't think her mother is without fault in this, either.  She probably gave him permission.
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When you suspect somebody is abusing a vulnerable child/adult and you know the suspected abuser you are NOT SNITCHING.  You are protecting the vulnerable person.  If your cousin is under age eighteen you can call Childrens protective services in your county and tell the caseworker what you suspect.\n\nIf you are sure your aunt is abusing your cousin, then you are doing your cousin a favor.\n\nLook at it this way, abuse tends to get worse as it drags on.  Ask any woman who escaped domestic violence.  Ask the family of someone who didn't escape and ended up dead.\n\nWhat if your cousin ends up dead, or in a coma at the hands of your aunt.....and YOU HAD THE POWER to do something and didn't?  How would you feel?  How do you feel when you see your cousin come to visit all burised?\n\nSometimes the bonds of family MUST BE BROKEN.  Your aunt is hurting a vulnerable developmentally disabled cousin. You have the power to see that abuse end.\n\nCall CPS or an agency that helps developmentaly disabled people.  That is the only honorable thing to do.  If you love him, you will.
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I suggest the school counciler or maybe someone in your church. The best thing that could happen would be if they did tell. What if this same person has moved on to another child now? And you can be the one to help that child. God Bless you and have mercy for what some jackass has put you through.
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they will not take all of your children if they believe that it is only happening to that one boy...or if your other children or close to or of age...also yes the judge can do that..he can make it longer then 21 days...i believe that your case is serious since ussually when DCFS is called they will only comne to talk to the boy an then to you..an then they would usually leave a send you a report stating whearther or not the abuse was indidcted ..meaning was true or unfounded ..not true..but since they took him out this case is very erious an it looks like you child may end up going into the system...foster care...if this is true then your son will become a ward of the states an your parental rights will be terminated an someone else will get guardianship over your boy...my advice to you would be to contact a legal reprsentative.
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Kids need to be protected.  No matter how much your friend is hurting, I hope they haven't told the child.  They need to be in a good place where they can support the child and his feelings of shock, grief and betrayal.\n\nI really hope your friend is in counseling.  He needs someone to work through his anger and betrayal with, without it affecting his entire family.\n\nI was 36 when I found out that my mother had led a double life for most of my childhood.  It was still a great shock to me, and it disrupted my life.   The worst of it, though, was that my parents wanted me to take sides and mediate their relationship.\n\nChildren have a tendency to feel guilty for what their parents feel, even when it has nothing to do with them.  Since the boy is biologically someone else's, this could be devastating to him if it's not handled well.\n\nI still think individual counseling as well as family therapy should be pursued.  This is really tough.  I'm hoping the best for them all.
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If there are kids involved it can be tricky, You can just make the choice to leave and then follow thru. if you need help you can find the number of a local domestice violence shelter, they should at keast be able to help you find resourses.
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By law the child goes to foster care. After the dust settles a relative can file for custody.
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Your friend needs to get the child into counseling. A counselor is a mandated reporter and MUST report these incidents as the child describes, to social services. \n\nAt that point, the mom can petition the court for a guardian ad litem - an attorney specifically to represent the child's best interests. The gauardian ad litem will confer with the counselor and make recommendations to the court regarding the child's best interests.\n\nCourts look favorably upon guardians, as they are impartial parties. Parents usually split the cost of the guardian per court order, though sometimes one will work pro bono (free).\n\nIf the child feels up to it, and the court will allow her to testify, you could also petition the court for a protection from abuse order. If the court will not allow the child to testify due to the possible trauma, do not try to get a PFA, as you will lose, and the ex will know what is going on.\n\nIf the ex was ever abusive, you could contact an abused women's shelter and ask if they have knowledge of low-cost or free legal assistance to help keep the child (and mom) safe.