i don´t know if i´m stupid or just to good, i mean in my last 2 relashionships i was about to get merried, but the 2 girls had deceived me! fu**** cheaters!!\nwhen i´m inlove i give all of me... i allways say this is my last love, but i can´t say no when i´m inlove.\ni wanna truly answers no stupid things.
120731
You seem so bitter towards your exs. Perhaps you are not as good of a person as you think. When my last relationship ended because she had been cheating on me for a few weeks and told me that she was breaking up with me, I held absolutely no grudge, I was just happy that she was happy.\n\nYou will find someone who is right for you, just be honest and true and you will find someone who loves you for you.
90126
girl this has just happened to me and you shouldn't feel guilty. i felt guilty but i really should have. Why don't you try talking to them or telling your friend thats here if he really likes you he will wait until you're sure. and the long distance relationship i was in i cheated on him and i felt so guilty i told him about it and we broke up. Maybe you should ask him to take a brake and set up a date you will become bf/gf on that specific date. That will show you if you know what you have or not. Maybe this will help and maybe it won't but this is what i would do if i relieved this.
86898
look, you made an honest mistake, i mean from the sound of things, it came from the right place. grow a bit of a spine and admit to her that what you did was wrong, but explain to her how what she did made you feel; that maybe she should have gone about it in a different way. don't beat yourself that much over it, you are only human and will make some mistakes, especially with those you love.
427923
No your not being stupid at all. That is so common. If, you feel you two are good friends, just try (it will be hard) to talk to him about how you feel, and too see how his feelings are towards the situation. Tell him, how you feel and just say if you don't feel the same way that is fine I don't want to ruin are friendship. The worse thing that could happen is that he doesn't have feelings for you that way and he just loves being friends with you and hugging you and making you laugh. That is still a great relationship to have. \nBest of luck to you!!!
590079
I hope you can stand an answer from a woman. When I read this, my heart went out to you. Believe me, I understand. It's good you recognize the first relationship where the guy didn't want kids had to end. That was a very healthy decision and you shouldn't look back on that with regret.\n\nAs for this last guy, I think he's just too immature to deal with his feelings. A guy I dated before I met my boyfriend did the same thing to me. Of course, I wasn't ready to declare my love for him at that point or anything either and then months later, the jerk tried emailing me. Ugh. Anyway, the reason I say this guy is immature about his feelings is because 3 months is a really short amount of time to determine if you love someone. In fact, I'm always wary of when people say it too soon. It makes me think they are just in love with the idea of being in love. My boyfriend and I didn't say those 3 little words until we were together almost a year, but I can tell you, we're both very sure of how much we love one another. I'm sorry you're in this situation and I think this has much more to do with the guy you were involved with than you. I don't think you can determine if it's love in just 3 months time and I don't think you'd want to waste your time seeing someone each day that you didn't think you could invest in a future with. I hope that helps, even if I made you feel a little less alone out there in the world. I've been there before and it's not fun, but if this guy is too much of a tool to see what a bright, self-assured woman he has, then you are much better off without him. Good luck to you.
134362
I am so sry, for what happened to u. Trust me the guy is so stupid, and u should be glad this happened b4 u guys did nything intimate. I noe it's hard to forget, but u should go on with life. Many times u will find urself in a drepressing position. Many times. Get over it. There are many guiys in the world. U never mentioned that this one was the perfect one so i'm guessing he wasn't. and even though u were going out it seems like u considered him as a friend. U must have been close, it hurts , i noe. U 'll find ur perfect one someday and u'll forget about this guy. Someday u'll be able to look back at this memory and laugh about it. I would suggest looking forward to that day. Enjoy urself, have fun, study, date, life is too short to have many regrets.
550123
Quick Fix/ Do you love her? YES.   Have you been hurt in the past? YES.  Who cares my friend. You are franklly just scared.  Moments of intimacy cover it up sometimes and that is why you feel happy.  Let go of this fear. This girl you have in front of you is going to make you very happy.  Let go of your past, and live.  Otherwise, the next question you are going to be asking us is" How do I get her back?"
650112
heh I feel ya there. happened to me a few times. I just made sure that they saw me with another guy. Yes I know that might hurt his feelings, but at least you will be clear and you can pretend that you didnt know anything about anything at all. thats the only way that worked for me\ngood luck
166604
My answer might sound weired but i think that no matter what she tell u, would not make u feel good if u dont trust her, even if she is telling the truth. \n\nBut if u trust her then no matter whatever she says or do u will be happy. \n\nwhat they say "Love is all about trust". \n\nSo what u must do is to look inside ur self. if u trust her then every thing is good if not, then u'll keep finding reasons to dump her. \n\nStart trusting, even if u fail u would not regret it. \n\nWish u a wonderfull and peacefull life :).
433579
You have very low self esteem. If your boyfriend doesn't give you any means to react this way then YES it's all in your head. You have probably been hurt,lied,cheated or deceived in the past. Well that's the past. You have to look ahead to the present/futur now. Just because others have deceived you doesn't mean that your present boyfriend will. You have to take a chance in life and open your heart. It's better to have Loved and Lost to have never had Loved at all. Have a little faith and trust in him. But if he does deceive you then hunt him down and shoot him. hahaha !
597020
You can drop the charges...but make sure that you are being honest with yourself...was this the first time?  will it be the last?  Don't let yourself believe you are in a good relationship if you are not.
163301
all above have told you what you already know  and I agree with most.\n\nto that I add\n\n\n\nIt does not seem like you have any clue what love is.\n \nyou seem to be in lust.\n\nLove is respect honor when you are really in love all others are not seen like that any longer.\n\nSeems you still have not found true love.\n\nI pray you will know it and be loved too.
292126
I feel for you Molly, I have been in that situation twice myself. The one really positive thing in your situation is that you want to move forward.... I know I didn't even want to move on from my first unrequited love, I just kept on hoping that one day she would return my love, which was really stupid since she was straight.  So, I ended up wasting 5 years of my life!  And then, apparently not having learned anything, I fell in love with another girl who was bi, but who couldn't commit to actually having a relationship with another girl.  She only wanted a physical relationship without any emotional ties, so there went another 2 years of my life.  Finally I learned that the only way I was ever going to be happy was if I worked on my self-esteem and learned to trust my intuition.... I had known from the start that both of the girls I fell for were completely unattainable, so really I had nobody to blame but myself for what I perceived as rejection. And I really believe now that subconsciously I wasn't ready for a realtionship, and that's why I was seeking out unattainable people. I needed to love myself and have the confidence to put myself out there in the world, instead of fooling myself that I could find some kind of happiness or fulfilment in unrequited love. I have no idea if you will relate to my story at all or not, but I guess my advice would be to just get out there, meet new people, make friends, enjoy life, be honest and open with yourself and others, and of course love and respect yourself.  Although it may seem impossible to imagine now, you will get over the heartache, but you have to make a conscious effort to do so which you seem to want to do.  I wish you all the very best.  Stay strong! Keep smiling! Love will find you!
5912
You did the right thing... don't worry bout it ... u'll find someone else!! i'm sure another girl would appreciate u better!!
89357
I am going through the same deal, except I am no where close to the love part yet. It is difficult to lay yourself out on a line when your not certain they feel the same. I am beginning to understand you just have to take that plunge if you care enough that it worries you and your ready to express it. I need to take my own advice.
241802
oh, this is you. hello. \n\nThat would just put it out there that you are possibly permiscuous( i may have spelled that wrong ). A lot of ppl are like that now a days, especially those that are walking in the worldly ways. Those who have yet to learn the true meaning of love. :)
611991
The short answer:  You never went wrong.  He did.\n\nYou gave your heart and your body to someone you thought would love and cherish you forever.  He paid you back wtih mental abuse and betrayed your trust.\n\nWhat's the deal?  He's a idiot, but sometimes even an idiot realizes when he has screwed up.\n\nDon't worry about looking back any more.  Just look forward and keep your eyes on the prize.  You're building a new life for yourself and your little girl.  Don't lose sight of that and you'll get through it alright.  I'm not saying that it will be easy; I'm just saying that it's the best way to achieve your goals.  Good luck.