I'm having a crush on this girl, which is a good thing I think...but now I just feel jealous when she's talking to other guys and I became more aware and paranoid of her actions. Is there any ways that I can get over this feeling? Thanks!
134336
yes, grow up.  I would guess you are around 14-17.  This is not uncommon to get this feeling.  I've been there, you will be there again.  The girl you meet that makes you feel good to be you and doesn't give you reason to worry, is the girl you want.  Don't settle for less.  There are a lot of unstable girls out there.  But remember, your young, girls at this age are just growing up too.  Don't be too hard on them.
502291
Well, i've been in kind of the same situation. I say try and talk to him about it. If he's always hitting on you and such there has to be something behind it maybe he's with the girl to get you jealous and to want him more. Us girls do sometimes tend to like the guys we can't have so maybe he's playing that role. But first just talk to him about how you feel if he feels the same way then great, if not what do you really have to lose?
136663
I am in the same boat right now! So, I know how you feel.  I just am there when she needs to talk.  I do not offer ANY negative input about MY feelings about the guy, just listen to how she feels and try to give her answers that are somewhat neutral.  Good luck!
319308
You can not be responsible for that which you can not control, which proceeds all others.  Do not try to feel bad for feeling a certain way.  Your feelings are only honest, and honesty can never be looked down at.  Looking down on honesty is being dishonest.  To be ashamed of a true feeling is what would be 'wrong'.  Also, this friend of yours does not own this person or you.  If you wish to clear your conscience, talk to your friend and tell her the truth.  Tell her that you appreciate all of the same things about this guy.  \n\nNow I said having a crush is nothing to be ashamed of, but acting on that is a different matter.  You should do what you feel is right.  Your true feelings are always correct.  Now honesty should always be expressed, but caution should also be used.  Lack of caution is not true honesty.  It is just plain inconsiderate.  Take a time-out and try to gain some perspective.  Take a long walk, read a book, or do anything you can to get your mind off the subject.  Only when you clear your mind can you think clearly.  No one can tell you what the correct thing to do is but yourself.  You should think about what every decision would mean, and what different things you can do to make your decision best for all parties.  If you believe your friend will do something seriously bad if you talk to this guy, keep that in mind.  Make your decision according to anything.  I will say this.  Do not concede to fear and allow someone to intimidate you into doing their will.  If you like this guy, and he likes you, it is only right that you two should explore what you have together, but do not leave your friend in the loop.  Definitely do not let her intimidate you either.  \n\nSummed up, you should do some soul searching and the answer will be clear to you yourself.  I, nor any of us on yahoo, can tell you what is right for you.  Only can do that.  All I can do is give you suggestions on how to come to the decision yourself.  Like I said, take some time off of both people, at least two days.  Read a book.  Put it out of your mind, and I will give you a good method on when you know when you're ready to make your decision.  It seems that this weighs heavy on your mind.  Keep yourself busy with books, or household projects, or art, or anything you wish, and the second you realize that you are so wrapped up in what you are doing that you've COMPLETELY forgotten your ordeal, if only for an hour or two, then you are clear.  This is what clear is.  Be clear, and make clear decisions.  Good luck sweetheart.
431767
Your probably just feel insecure because of your previous relationship going wrong. The thing is everyone (or almost everyone) has an ex and has a relationship that has gone for whatever reason. Just stick with it, you learn from things that have gone wrong in the past and you get to improve things. This girl clearly likes you and you feel alot for her. If you are feeling insecure and are having doubts then speak to your girlfriend. She is the best person to talk to about it and she will definately be able to put your mind at rest! Good luck and don't let it get you down, your lucky to have someone in your life. xxx
154925
i apologize for those girls who do this - because i've done this at least one time in my life.\n\ni can't speak for everyone but when i did it, it's usually just to make my boyfriend a) jealous, b) sit up and take notice that i know that he's not the only catch in town, or c) get THEM back for flirting with other girls, too.\n\ni suppose i never thought about how the guys i flirted with would feel...sorry...
64584
B/c you all get to nervous about things like u think she will like me or what does she think about me you worry about to much just suck up your balls and go and talk to the gurls that you wanna talk to.... just relax and don't care what is going on in their heads...
510991
I have the same problem. It seems like he likes me then he goes and talks (flirty, but not as much with her than with me). I get so jealous I try to calm myself though.good luck
2678
hi\n i'm a guy...n u r a gal havin' crush on a guy...he nevr feels bad if u express out ur crush on him...because u r expressing out ur feelings towards someone...you should never hide the feeling you have towars someone.well if it was a guy expressin' out his crush it would have been different...but almost same....because guys usually express out their crush...and if even gals start doin' that it will be gratest thing.Because there will be better understanding betweem guys and gals..
610087
Poor thing. Have you been burned recently? I feel your pain. Ok. Mind games. Men have egos, huge egos. When a woman he thinks is his (and 'only' his) is seen with another man, even a friend or anything similar, ego says "Hey, if other egos sees my lady with someone else, I am less of a man. This is unallowable. I should make her jealous to make her focus on me." \nThis is a broad generalization of course, but it seems that this is the case a lot of the times, and guys hate to admit that they are not in control of the situation. Everyone judges us by the kind of mate we can find. If you have a chunky girlfriend, you are a chubby chaser and cant hack a fine chick. If you have a fine chick, guys envy you but also try to ruin what you got. Its a bit of a juggling act, and mind games are just one way to juggle so many balls in the air at once. On behalf of the thinking man, sorry for the mind games, its a defense mechanism.
147829
Well I am kinda jealous of my friend becuz she's prettier and the guys like her more. i'm different and ppl don't really like that and it hurts my feelings cuz she can get guys' phone numbers and i can't because i'm afriad that i'll get rejected.
513523
cause you were shy first, then you got jealous, not your embarassed. Its normal. You like the guy but were shy and just didn't have enough courage to talk to him.  Listen don't feel akward, lift your head up high and tell how you feel and ask him what he thinks about you.  You broke the ice already now you can continue.
242863
hey take a chill pill.... its absolutely normal to fantasize bout another girl.... dont feel bad about it. be aware of your sexuality and preferences. live the way u wanna live.... n dream wat u want.... u live only once... so live life to the fullest.
274188
To be honest, every guy looks at other girls. I just married and that hasn’t stopped my guy from looking at other girls. It starts a lot of arguments when I say anything. You should never let a guy make you feel ugly or unattractive in anyway. My advice would be to move on. Not everyone is a super model but there is someone out there who will find you beautiful in every way, and never want to hurt you by looking at other girls. It sounds like your situation has lead to low self esteem, and it is really hard to do things for yourself when this happens. But believe it or not you could be happier.
562402
i suggest,go out and enjoy your life,dont agonize over a guy,the minute you stop worrying and focus on something else more produtive,BAM,you"ll notice that guys will be checking you out,most guys i know,really like a confident woman....so go,go have fun,enjoy your life!
512369
It's natural to feel jealous, but as I read the description of your situation-I see you only became jealous when you saw the pic of her kissing someone else. I wouldn't jump to any conclusion that you still feel strongly for her because if that was the case it wouldn't just now be happening. \n\nThe fact that your young-and you are not as experienced; let me just tell you that all through out your life you are always going to feel some sort of feeling whenever you see and ex getting close to someone else. My advice take some time and really think-are you just feeling like this because of the picture or have you always wanted to be back with her.
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You're aware your feelings for your "crush" are deep, maybe excessive (the long letter). You want a copy of the letter, you know this is a learning experience and you need to think about your feelings for him. Overhearing the conversation: you know it isn't a real relationship but something you've thought and fantasised about in your head until it feels as if this person *belongs* to you, but really you know he maybe doesn't even know you care.\nDressing the girl in mundane clothes and drab colours means that *you* don't think she's that special, or that you wish it were you, since those are colours you say you would wear. You wish your crush would act as proud of you as he does of this other girl.\nThinking of past times--you've been hurt in the past by other people, relationships (real or other fantasised one-sided loves).\nNot being able to cry in dreams is normal...if you cried you'd wake up.\nYou need to accept that the feelings you have for this fellow are all on your side, to avoid getting hurt. Find out if he is seeing someone, but prepare to take responsibility for your own emotions.