My wife took off one morning only to tell me our relation ship of 11 years, (married seven) was living hell for her.  Within six years we have acumilated two appartment buildings (ten apartments) She has had three new cars and was helped through school.  Why didn't I see It before this?
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Guess you aren't very smart or observant, huh?
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most ppl end in divorce for one reason or another and think that after 13 yrs it isnt possible..\n\nme and hubby been together since 98 and will be married 3 yrs in august..both in our 40's..my 1st marriage and his 2nd..his 1st wife died about 22 yrs ago...\n\ni think alot of ppl are jealous of your relationship..i say the hell with them...you married the right one and also after 13 yrs know that marriage is not a game..it can take alot of work but it is possible\n\ni find myself loving my hubby more and more and its the small things that add up that make the difference and it is not about money either..we both work and have seperate bank accounts so this knocks out fighting over money..my son is grown and gone and his son and daughter are grown and gone...i pay certain things around here and he pays certain things..the rest is split up and some things are if you see it is needed you buy it..no problems there...with the common denominators not present that doesnt leave us much to argue about...lol...kids and money....when we do argue it is usually about that time of the month for me and also i am in perimenopause so when my hormones go haywire  he knows it..9 times out of 10 he will go to his garage and stay until he knows i have calmed down.\nwe talk everything out  even if it take a few days but i would not trade him in for anything\n\neven if we are fighting we still tell each other i love you before going to bed, leaving for work or wherever or just say it upon entering the room..he still holds doors open for me, lets me order 1st in restaurant and so on...he is a gentleman out in public and at home..even holds the door open at home if we are going into the house at same time..we met through newspaper personal ads and i feel very lucky to have him in my life..before getting married i told him straight up marriage is a one time deal for me..his only escape would be death...lol...i asked him if he wanted to have a pre-nup and he said no..that just told me that he trusted andloves me and he will be here till we part this life\n\nso if ppl find it hard to believe you and your hubby are still in love and happy just assume they are jealous of what you have and what they dont have..i know it can happen\nand wish you well for another 50-60 yrs or however long you 2 live to be
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there is a generation gap between the 2 of you.  she was 23 and you were 52 when you got married.  her interests, goals, values etc are probably different than yours.
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IF YOU HAVE TO ASK FOR OPINIONS YOU MUST HAVE RESERVATIONS.  I WAS IN A 2 MO. RELATIONSHIP AND WE MOVED IN TOGETHER, IT WAS THE BEST DECISION I EVER MADE, BUT WE WERE READY.  WE ARE BOTH DIVORCED WITH NO CHILDREN.  I HAD MOVED FROM NY AND HE LIVED ON MY BLOCK, WE BEFRIENDED EACH OTHER AND CLICKED, FRIENDS FIRST SEEMS TO WORK.  YES, I KNEW IT WAS SO FAST, BUT I CONSIDERED HOW I CARE ABOUT HIM AND FIGURED THAT WHEN AN OPPORTUNITY ARISES GO FOR IT, THAT IS WHAT LIFE IS ALL ABOUT.  IF IT DOES NOT WORK, I KNOW THAT I MADE AN ATTEMPT.  I FIGURED LIFE IS SHORT, IF I DONT DO IT, I WOULD ALWAYS WONDER WHAT IF.  GOOD LUCK!
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I heard of a couple who wrote letters to each other. Never met. But when they did (after 6 months of writing), they met and a few days later, got married. They have been together for over 20 years. So cute.\n\nI've also heard of another couple. One was a nursing student and the other went into the Air Force. They were apart for a couple years... but they waited for each other and visited every now and then. After all of that, they got married. They were together for over 60 years. Aww.\n\nAnd another one. He was friends with a girl for a long time. They met through mutual friends. He always loved her... since before they even met. He saw a picture of her and instantly fell. She only loved him as a friend. Eventually, she realized her feelings for him. They have been together for 9 months now. This is my boyfriend and I.\n\n\nInspiring, isn't it? : }
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Complicated that.  Living in surburbia as a married couple taught me a lot.  I have seen a lot of marriages withstand incredible strain... I have seen other marriages crumble when one gets a hangnail.  For the most part, communications break down at simple adolescent issues and then they escalate.  These damaged relations are diseased... and like many diseases in the human body, or a broken part on a car, they will not fix themselves... someone has to get out the manual and repair kit and fix the darn thing.\n\nit this is your marriage, you will not be able to fix it without guidance... that would be like trying to do brain surgery on yourself... What you have described is a symptom of a deeper problem... are you in  that house?  or is this just something that was told to you by one or the other of the couple?  \n\nI would offer that "he has a story" and that "she has a story."  The truth is somewhere out there, but the complete and unbiased story is with neither.  I would offer, that it is not what she not doing, but rather what she is doing to drive him to the XXX... as for him, he withholds to protect his manhood and his desire to be seen as a man....   \n\nAnd does she need only him?  he may have other feelings.. about that.  \n\nin short, this will not autocorrect, they need professional help.
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I have been married for 5 years \njust found out in February she had been\ncheating on me for a year\nnever seen it or thought she would do it.\nwe have 2 little girls and she took them\nand walked to be with him.
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For about one year, my first wife was a regular bobber.  I loved it!  Then one day she just announced that she wasn't going to do it again.  But, she had a great figure and we did all kinds of other things with toys, etc.  \n\nHowever, 3 years later, she wanted a car of her own.  She didn't work but, as it turned out, she needed something to see her new boyfriend.  Our marriage ended after four years.\n\nNow, I'm with my second wife.  Two months ago, she started crying and told me she couldn't do it anymore.  This week she told me her brother would sell us his car.....\n\nYou can take this respect thing and all that...for me, if the chick aint doing the rounds, my experience is she is not in the relationship for the long haul.\n\nBuddy, you better believe that if you weren't getting it up for her, she'd have you down at the docs getting a script filled...Time to level with her, time for her to get with the program.
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from a 25 year olds opinion,yes. its because there was an intimacy. like a lost best friend. its normal. i often wonder how she is and if life is good for her even though i havent seen her in 8 years.
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OMG!!!  I can't believe that someone else on earth has had to go through this!!  Last year I found out my husband was having an affair for 9 months with a neighbor of ours.  I was friends with this woman before she moved into our neighborhood, so when she moved in, we quickly became best of friends.  I was very angry, I kicked him out and never spoke to her again.  I had to talk to him because when I filed for divorce, he wanted to talk a settlement in custody of our daughter.  I refused.  I told him that as long as he wanted to be with her, then he wasn't taking my child around HER.  After about 3 months of not living with our family, he decided that he didn't want to be single or with HER for that matter.  I made him jump through a million hoops to come back home (such as switching cell numbers with me, getting a better job, going to counseling, going to AA, plus many more).  Also I made it a condition that if I EVER even THINK that he is talking to her again, then it is OVER FOR GOOD.
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Here's our story...tell me what you think.\n\nWe originally met in 9th Grade, he was the new boy in school.  We became fast friends and soon became more than that.  We were inseperable, many crazy adventures and all that fun young love stuff.  We broke up just before the school year ended because of our friends...you know the only people you listen to when you are 15 years old.\n\nWe stayed friends over the years, going for coffe every month or so to catch up.  I had the travel bug so after high school I moved around a bit, when I was gone he met someone else and married her.  On one of my stops home I found out he had married this girl (who I knew & knew she was not a good person), I told him my concerns & in my heart I knew that if he said me wanted he back I'd go.  He didn't so I was off on my journeys again.\n\nWell when I was 31 I moved back to my home town.  As luck would have it we met up one night, he was still married to the girl but he had been living in his basement for the last 6 years and had little or nothing to do with his wife.  He was miserable. \n\nWe spent that night catching up, when it was time to go home he grabbed my hand and said he let me go once & he was never going to do that again.  He moved out the next day and we are now married and have a beautiful 3 year old little boy.  \n\nSo no, I don't worry about him leaving me for someone else.  I think it all depends on the situation, and the rest of the story.  People look for love outside of their relationships because there is usually something wrong within their current relationship.  Others are just really shallow and want a "trophy wife"...those relationships never work out.
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I had a daughter from my marriage when I met my partner.  She was 3 years old when we met...at first he didn't really even know what to do with her, how to act around her.  But this last summer she moved out and left for college and he was just as sad when she left as I was....they are right it takes time, it takes a considerable ammount of time.\n\nAs for how you feel about her past - well we all have a past. Her's just comes with a name.
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Oh hell, we are so different now its almost funny. But we grew together, not apart. He's military, so he started cussing a bit more (stopped that in the house), we both gained about 20 pounds in the last 9 years. We both have things we didn't realize till married. Lots of things. But that always happens, the changing part. If we were still the same, it would be so sad. But I found out lots of good things about him. And we try to talk alot when we notice changes. Its all about communication!
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IMO... our lives are much more complex than our equivalents from 50 years ago and thus it's more likely for married people to grow in different directions over time (values, needs, etc.). Add to that how easy and acceptable it is to get a divorce, and how quick we are to dispose of things that we no longer want, and you get an increasing percentage.\nI wouldn't be surprised if in the not too distant future the average length of a marriage drops to ~5 years and the average number of marriages per person increases to 2+.\nA parallel to consider: how many different circles of friends do you have and how often have you joined new ones and left others behind over your life? (grade school, high school, college, jobs, etc.). We are a nomadic species. :)
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Being married to my dear husband gives me such a sense of fulfillment and belonging. We have been married almost 20 years and are more in love than ever. It means we can rely on each other no matter what. We have been through some seriously difficult times but have always been there for each other. I don't know what I would do without him. I tell him he is my knight in shining armor. We have our disagreements, but they are much fewer in number now. We complete each other. Our marriage is a blessing from God!
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I was married for 20 years...got to the whole "'til death do you part" portion of the deal.  He was my absolute best friend, husband, lover...soulmate.  I do believe that in long term relationships there is no gray area, you either grow together, or you grow apart.  I have become who I am because of the life we shared and by having to survive his death...I am stronger, more independent, and hopefully one hell of a mother because of it all.
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I met a lady on line and finally met her. She was about 10 years older than me and we both knew we didn't want to get serious, just have fun. We had a great secret and private relationship for about 4 years before she started to have physical problems.\n\nThose are 4 years, though that I will never forget. Unlike women my age, this lady really appreciated me and made me feel good. I went out of my way to appreciate her too. Sometimes I wish I could find somebody to take her place, but at least I can dream about her.\n\nTX Guy