I'm a nice guy. But I find that most girls aren't interested in nice guys. They only want guys that look good. How do I get around this and get girls to like me even though I don't have the greatest looks.\n\nThe other problem I have is that when I do find I girl that I like I am very nervous about asking her out. I'm afraid of being rejected or embaressed. \n\nI'm just out of ideas here, and I keep hitting brick walls. All of my friends are very successful with finding dates I just can't see to do it, and I get alittle jealous sometimes.\n\nHow do I overcome my fear. How do I approach girls, and what would I say that might get me a date without making me look stupid? How do I avoid coming on too strong but show a girl that I am interested in her? and most of all, it seams as though every girl that I like always has a boyfriend. It would be kind of embaresing if I asked them out and they are seeing someone. If I don't know if a girl has a boyfriend what is the best way to find out?
126625
A guy that I once worked with was not very attractive and no girls were interested in him, but he really cared about one of the other girls so ever week he would send her flowers and gift -- they started dating and now they are married and have a little boy.\nSo hang in there and show your best personality and how great you are and she will come along.
193795
I kind of have the same prob, but with asking this guy out. i don't know what to do, i need to know because i heard he liked me and that he is too scared to ask me out. and i was wondering if it's weird if a girl asks a guy out or not. well, good luck! sorry i was no help! :(
126111
I will tell you what has worked for me personally...this may sound old fashioned, but I find that for me it is the best strategy....I have never asked a man out on a date.  Guys like to be the hunters and the chasers and when they do things they like to think it was their idea.  I mean, definitely flirt with him, be friendly, smile a lot--plant the idea in his head and I'm sure in time he will ask you out.  good luck :)
235334
be more flirty, less open, less of a shoulder to cry on (but still a good guy) and be more mysterious, more touchy (but NOT disrespectful) and more spontanious. you sound like a great guy, and i'm sure even if you stay just how you are, that you will find a good girl. good things come to those who wait! good luck!
636029
If there is a girl that you like right now and you want her to like you back then just become god friends, flirt, and then ask her out, or at least let her know how you feel about her. Trust me, we are looking for more guys who will actually ask the girl out before we have to do it are selves. If you don't have someone in mind, just wait, i know it's not what you want to hear but it's true. she will come along sooner then you think.
54217
i know exactly where you are coming from.  remember, us guys like girlfriends.  for the longest time i was in the same situation as you (up until a few months ago).  i never did get the courage - she told my friend who told me.  if you really think you cant ask him with the fear of rejection you could ask a friend of him and you to ask him casualy if he would go out with you.  hope i helped - goodluck
418105
A few things come to mind reading your dilemma.  If you're actively trying to get guys' attention and it's not happening, then yes, you're obviously doing something wrong.  That's good news!  You can change your own errors easily enough.  If you were doing everything right and it still wasn't working...well, then you've got a problem because you can't change other people.\n\nAppearance and hygiene are critical.  You want a guy of quality?  You better fix yourself up to get him.  Learn to be impeccable in all you do.  That's the easy, shallow part (but books ARE judged by their cover.  Part of life, deal with it).\n\nIs there something wrong with your personality?  Like someone else asked, "are you rude?"  Also, how's your sense of humor?  Your ambition?  These are all things that can drive decent people away from you.  Be optimistic and outgoing as much as you can be.\n\nFinally, just get your butt out there and enjoy yourself.  As a discriminating man, I can tell you that the girls I've really enjoyed in my life were always the ones who were simply fun to be around.  Hell, find guys that you are attracted to and flat out ask them what they look for in a girl.  You'll learn more in a 5 minute conversation than you will asking online.  Good luck, girl.
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If you find out how to get past the "friend barrier", let me know.  I hear a lot of women say they want to be friends with a guy & then date him, but I also know several girls who say I'm a great friend & have no romantic interest in me whatsoever.  Usually, I try the honest approach & tell a girl I'm interested in more from here, but have only had limited success at best with that idea.  Still, at least if you're honest & tell her your feelings, you won't be wondering years from now what would have happened if you had the guts to tell her.  Best of luck, & I hope everything works out for the best.
30502
As I guy I no what most of the guys want in a girl.  First off just like girls a lot of guys are afraid to ask girls out or get them to notice you.  First off you need to establish if the guy likes you.  You can do this by simply walking up to him and complement him.  If he doesn't like you he will feel good and he problaly won't think much about you liking him.  If he does like you it will immediatly register with him that you like him.  He'll take it from there.
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Take a deep breath, it will all be fine, if he's not interested big deal. He's not going to walk around telling everyone you asked him out and he turned you down. You know what my personal moto is- Glory to the brave. When ever I want to ask out a girl or approach a girl and I start to fear rejection I say to myself Glory to the Brave and do it. I've got rejected before, but in a few days you'll never remember and I've also gone out with some beautiful girls, and that wouldn't have happened if I didn't have the balls to make a move
306291
From this moment on, you tell yourself that you are an attractive, interesting guy than any girl would be priviledged to have. You are the man! Convince yourself you can have any girl you want. Look in the mirror and find the things that make you look good. If you need to excercise a bit to help things along. You are the Man!  Once you achieve this basic confidence in yourself, put the past behind you, concentrate on the future, which you are in charge of. You have what it takes to handle any girl, any situation. Go up to a girl, ask her out, treat her right.  You are the Man!
136527
well as a girl i like it wen guys approach me and come up to me decently and humbly.. more than a guy who is very proud of himself.. for us girls first impression is important.. most of the girls likes nice guys so if you are a nice guy just ask her or approach her decently and just be yourself..\n\ngoodluck hope im a great help to you..\ni.m. me for some more good advices!!!
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the secret is to quit trying.\n\ninstead of looking for love, look for friendship.  you do this by talking to girls like they are human beings (just like your male friends).  most girls appreciate a guy that doesn't stalk them or talk to them like they're idiots and/or aliens.\n\nif you can't figure out what to say, here's some tips on how to get a conversation started with ANYBODY, ANYWHERE, and at ANYTIME:\n(1)  comment on something that just happened that you both witnessed.  ("did you freakin' see that?!")\n(2)  comment on something that you both were just involved in.  ("yawn!  were you as bored as i was?")\n\ntrust me- the physical stuff gets OLD if you don't genuinely like the person you're with.  so just talk to girls until you find one that has something interesting to say.  \n\nanother thing is wardrobe.  if you're going to class in a scruffy graphic tee (particularly the ones with stupid/crude jokes), hair sticking everywhichaway, have a 5 o'clock shadow at 8 a.m., haven't bathed in a few days, or you're wearing something that doesn't fit right, then you will get no booty.  No booty at all.\n\ninvest in a couple of solid color or striped polo tees,  get a haircut.  throw those banged up converses in the trash and get you some Timberlands (or a similar shoe).  if the jeans have big holes, are too loose or too tight, are too short or too long- then they need to go.  why?  because a cute butt does matter.  i don't care how many girls deny it, they have at some point in their life stared at some dude's behind.  medium to medium-dark stonewash jeans or light khakis work just fine.  if you have any piercings that are flattering, leave them in.  a good looking eyebrow or ear piercing can be an asset.       \n \ndon't worry about meeting someone.  you will.  and when you meet the right girl, you'll just know.
190060
Well, make sure you know the girl first.\n\nEvery girl loves getting compliments, even if they don't show it. Pick some thing small to begin with. Start off with an "You have the prettiest eyes. They remind me of the ocean." DONT EVER COMPLIMENT HER ON HER 'RACK'. I can almost guarantee there will not be a second date.\n\nNot every girl likes an handsome guy. Most people care more about personality. \n\nDon't do any of the cheesy stuff. Be original. Take a chance.
181217
Oh, you sound adorable!  Yes, I think this is a confidence issue.  Number one:  do not start dating again right away.  Rebounds do not help self-esteem.  It just makes you dependent on a girl's attention for self-love.  What I do is focus on the love that's already in my life, from friends and family members.  I just try to go out and have fun.  Pretty soon, I realize I'm having fun without a romantic interest.  And then, I become braver in approaching people, because their rejection isn't such a big deal.  I can do fine without them.  And don't look at other women as potential dates.  Look at them as potential friends.  Eventually, you'll find one you want to date and who will help you out of your shell.  But good luck and don't worry about it too much.  This girl isn't worth your time or worry.
279019
I'm a guy, I have a girlfriend, most guys (in general, at least those like me) have a tendency to REALLY like a girl if he's looking at her a lot.. I mean, I may find a girl attractive and my eyes may look in that direction as a reaction, but if its something more than that, a guy might try to hide the fact that he likes looking in her direction out of respect for the fact that she might not want to be stared at... so it can be hard to tell if the guy wants you as more than a friend without asking quite clearly and in private.. not in front of too many other people, something like "what do you think of me, do you want to go out with me?" etc.. some guys are too shy to ask the girl they want to be with out without knowing that they'd approve of them in the first place, a lot of guys end up staying single because of this, and I have only asked one girl out and I've had about 6 relationships ... each one a major impact on my life, I hope this helps.
97564
son, your just young and shy. i've been there and lived that. there will come a time in your life where you will look up and say to yourself that if you dont get the courage to ask for something, you're not going to get it. Life is all about getting who and what you want. If you're too scared to run the race, you have no chance of winning. i am now at the point where i'll ask just about any woman out because a) I'd love to go out with them\nand b)if you dont ask, you'll always wonder if life could have been different. \nThe trick is to live life with no regrets and, by asking someone out and her saying 'no'. well how bad is that really? a bit embarrasing at the time, but who cares. she should be flattered that you thought so much of her.\nCool, little bro, and good luck. theres a lot of women out there and quite a few are probably checking you out asking similar questions as you just did. If its like a chick that works at the shops or something, why dont you tell her you think shes' beautiful? as in ' i just wanted to say that i think you are beautiful' I bet she blushes. it ALWAYS works.dont ask her out. just let her know. that'll get her thinking about you and if she's interested. if she is she'll be very friendly to you the next day or so. that and women ALWAYS like being told they're beautiful. not pretty, little bro, beautiful.\nGo for it. I want to hear back from you in ten years saying that you've got 37 children from 28 different women. and you've been divorced 15 times.Lol.\nSmooth sailing brother.