We dated at a young age, and I've always loved her.  We ended up going seperate ways, but whenever I'm home and we see eachother, I can't seem to find the time or the words.
132253
Maybe it is not that kind of love.  Find a way to spend more time with her and make sure before you just lay it on her and completely blow her mind.
647157
ask her to chill, not a date, chill, and go from there. that what i did, and a week later were making out in her room, and that was three years ago. we just broke up last week. i'm tellin ya "chillin" is the way to go.
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you should try to go on with your life and maybe later on she will develope feelings for her and if you still love her, then you can try it out.  you are too young to get caught up about one person, you need to date and see what else is out there before you are sure you really love her.
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Man, I just got out of a relationship with a girl I didn't think I felt much for, and you know that saying 'you don't know what you've got till it's gone'? Well, I realized how much I truly loved her. Maybe it will hit your ex just like it hit me. Maybe with some time she'll miss you, especially if it was as good of a relationship as you say. And especially if you were her first. You don't forget something special like that. Even if she downplays it, it should be something that will be with her always. Just give it time I say.
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I value friends that I can spend long long long times apart from and yet when we get back together it is as if we parted only yesterday.  Once I went to a high school reunion and in many ways it was as if my crazy friends and I were 18 again.  It was fun to see them again and relive a little of my misspent youth with the advantage of seeing it from an older and hopefully wiser perspective.  I do not expect nor want to spend years parted from my lover.  If we were forced to be apart that long, I would not want our relationship to be frozen in time as was my relationships with my high school chums I had not seen in a decade.  If my lover and I were parted for that long it would be too painful and unnatural to immediately try to relive the "glory days" of our long past relationship.  Rather I would prefer that we would come together again with an understanding that we had both grown and changed and a gentle time of rediscovery to truly get to know the new person she had become and to share who I had become. \n \nWhom would I want as a dinner guest?\nA great cook, preferably of Italian cuisine.  It wouldn't hurt if she were very dazzling conversationalist.  I wouldn't mind if she were easy on the eyes.  It wouldn't bother me if she had an appetite like a bird so there would be more for me!\n\nWhom would I want as my lover?\nMy wife.  We have been together for many years.  She is the mother of our children.  She is the keeper of my soul.  I have no desire nor need to touch another.  However, I am a red blooded straight male, so of course I do find other women attractive, but to actually consider taking them as a lover is out of the question.  I realize for me, my wife being my lover is not merely a physical act.  It is part of the very fabric my life is woven from.  To risk all that is my daily reality for the short lived physical pleasure of a new conquest would go against every shred of wisdom I have gained from my years of life.\n\nWhom would I want as my close friend?\nSomeone who has a close relationship with God.  I am not perfect, so if we are to remain friends for a lifetime, they will need to be forgiving and loving.  The other advantage to having friends who have a real relationship with God is that the friends don't tend to make unhealthy demands of the relationship because they are being fulfilled through a spiritual relationship that no human relationship can fill.
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You sound like a very nice person.  Hang in there.  You'll probably get her back in time.  AND LONG DISTANCE RELATIONSHIPS DON'T WORK VERY WELL.  I'm going to ask that question next about any lone distance relationships working for anyone?
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Yes, tell her how you feel,simply,without a word about not being able to live without her.Ask her how she feels about you. But if she does not feel the same way,remember that she is your first love(is she?),you are apparently a young man,and you have a whole life ahead of you. You may find that there will be someone later on who means just as much or more to you. Life is too wonderful to spend it longing for a lost love. You will never forget her,but you will find you CAN have a good and happy life even if she is not in it. If it is meant to be,you will be together,but if not,let yourself cry,grieve for a lost love,but remind yourself that life really does go on,and something new and wonderful is waiting for you.
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She is moving waaaaay too fast!!  (My own opinion, of course!)\n\nYou are going in the right direction.  Distance can be a wonderful asset to building a relationship.  If forces the two to go beyond that initial "lust" and "infatuation" stuff and build a truly lasting friendship as well as deep relationship.  But, if one of the members is pushing for drastic change, well, I would be a little leery and wonder why?\nIf this is something you both want and think is going to last a lifetime, why go storming into it before you really get a chance to build that solid foundation?\nBut talk to her, keep building the way you are.  I believe in slow and lasting rather than wham bam, and gone!\nGood luck!
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Well you need to really decide if you want to be with her-possibly forever. I didn't sound like you wanted to move where she is, Why can't she come to you? If either one of you REALLY love one another,one of you would be willing to make the small sacrifice of moving. Now she is wanting some time away from the relationship,she got tired of waiting. If you now are realizing that you were taking her for granted-then show her. Actions speak louder than words. I hope this all works out for you and if not,then maybe it just wasn't meant to be.=}
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I think this.  Love is a beautiful thing and we are fortunate to find true love.  Unconditional love that lasts through all the trials of life.  It doesn't matter the years between the two as long as you two function well together and truely love each other.  Good luck, congratulations, and peace to you both.
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nobody can answer that question but yourself.....but in my opinion since ive been there before i believe that you both have a very strong attachment and a very strong connection with each other....which is different from love.\n\nkempie.....what the hell is up with the train analogy?? are you like twelve
89357
I am going through the same deal, except I am no where close to the love part yet. It is difficult to lay yourself out on a line when your not certain they feel the same. I am beginning to understand you just have to take that plunge if you care enough that it worries you and your ready to express it. I need to take my own advice.
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I think you made the right decision. If you two love each other then things should work out. Its cool that you show the understanding that you do. That may be what she really needs from you
624055
hi there, this must be a huge dilemma you're facing. i have experienced this before, i'm 19 and probably you would think that i'm too young to comment or give you advice on this but this would be my sincere reply to your question. firstly, is this a mutual feeling? does she love you to the extent as you love her? you mentioned that she loves you as a friend, have you confronted her and made your feelings towards her known? it would be best if you know how she really feels then you can decide on what to do next. if she loves you, and you love her too, and both of you are happy with each other's company- why let go when you can grow and allow a beautiful relationship to blossom? but if she doesn't love you in a romantic way, it is definitely advisable that you let go before it's too late. allow yourself to meet new people and give your chance and someone out there a chance too. it will take more than a short period of time to get over her and resume to the "just friends" status but it will do you good. if she's unsure, give her time to think about it. i hope what i said made sense, there's too much to speak on this. i hope that all will go well and you're able to come up with a solution. do not let this issue put you down, alrite? there are many other beautiful individuals out there waiting to be discovered. and i'm sure that she is also a special person.
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I am in love, with a man that i broke up with 5 years ago, he started seeing someone else 4 months after however we were still sort of seeing each other casualling for 3 years.\n\nEverytime we speak, the spark is still there, he is the person i compare everyone to, he will always be my number one and he knows it. He says the same thing about me.\n\nOnly time will tell.
514393
We met in middle school i was in 7th she was in 8th you relation ship is lasting this long because we are commitied to each other we aren't in an opean relationship. The fist time we started seeing each orher she asked me out on a date then after awhile she askd me to be her gf. And i haven't moved into her house yet because we are buy one right now. So yeah that is about it.
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I am a man, and fell is love for the first time when I was just 12. It hurt when she left the country and I couldn't get over it until I was 2 years older.\n\nAfter, I had what you could call a first real girlfriend only when I was only 17.\n\nWe are now totally different people, The only things that we had in common until I married, was we both liked girls. \n\nNow I like my wife more than anyone else. \n\nI've met my this childhood love abroad, and when she comes visiting her home in my country and I don't think things would have ever worked out for us at all. She's just a year older than me! And she likes well, girls now also and is turned off by men, but we are friends.