23 y.o man with a 15 y.o. mind. lied about having a job for 2 years while mooching off family members, Mama wants him to come home.  He's had four chances to save his money and move out on his own. Stepfather says "That's it, it's HIS problem now" Dad has raised four other kids.  Whaddya think, y'all?  Should the retard move home? should Dad move out?
134167
Tell him to grow up and be a man... stop being such a Mamma's boy, that is simply pathetic.
402768
If dad was having the affair, I'd have to live with mom, but if she was making my life a living hell for something I didn't do, I couldn't stay with her either.  I'm over 18, so I'd just move out.
69968
If this dude is even remotely entertaining opinions from his mother, run the f away.\n\n...don't know how old y'all are (apparently old enough to have bred at one time or another), but if you're at that point, let momma have 'im.
636585
I would knock the hell outta my mans baby mama...she is always trying to hurt him with his son and fails to take proper care of the child---ohh and did I mention how she uses the money to pay cell phone bills?...watch out b*tch because we know what you been doing and soon he will be living with us!!!
303345
just tell him to grow up, send him on his way,i know this guy thats 38 and still lives at home and wont work and argues with his parents and always got excuses and you its just pitiful. you let it go on its your own fault,put your foot down or be miserable its up to you
509206
How could any man be unemployed for three years. My God. Three years? Why didn't he get a job at McDonald's to support his family? He could have found something. What a bum. No, you don't have to give the man a thing. Throw him out in the streets and let him live like the bum he is.
479769
You're really not that low as you might think! Your problems can be fixed with better mobility. I thought you were going to say something about losing a limb, or becoming paralyzed or something! Getting a divorce and never seeing your kids.  Getting 3rd degree burns all over and recovering.  I think the military is a perfectly acceptable option for getting your life together.  We recently took in a young man who due to a variety of mishaps, had lost his drivers license, and then was kicked out of his mom's place by her new boyfriend.  He was sleeping in the park when my daughter (his h.s. friend) found out. He is in boot camp for the Navy as I write this.  He gets a stipend while he's in there, room and board and food, and he also will receive a $20,000 cash bonus in addition to the $8,000 he will have for school each year.  When he returns next month, my husband and I are going to help him find a small apt, and help him to find a decent running but cheap car.  (He's a Reserve)  So you've really got to choose your options better, or it sounds like you'll be stuck at mom's!
412934
I am kinda in the same situation.  I am from Michigan and we are in California right now.  I am not happy here and I miss my family.  Our kids are here with us but I think it is going to come down to me leaving him.  I just want to do whats best for our children. They don't like it here either. I don't think he will ever go back there. I am just praying about it so maybe you should do the same.
68612
They couldn't possibly be just trying to prove a point, could they?  His parents are the ones responsible for bringing him into the world, so how can they justify making him responsible for preparing him to be self-sufficient?  There is no way they can collect on that bill; parents are legally responsible for their children's welfare until the age of 18.  They can legally kick him out of their house now that he's 18.  If I was your friend, I would move out as soon as possible, and try to make his parents understand their responsibilities.
229217
Well I have 4 kids and I'm a single mother. I can not work at the moment because I can not find proper child care for the two children that don't attend school.( I would love to be working) But here is the deal, Me and my kids are living in a small 2br, 1 ba home, you could donate about $2,500.00 to us so that we can pay the down payment on a new and bigger home. Charity I guess you could say, but I would consider it to be a blessing. Ty   latovat@yahoo.com
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I think that you are forgetting that moving out is a lot harder than just moving out.  There is work, bills, insurance (since you will be out on your own, your parents cant cover you any more) if you want to go to school add that on.  There is so much to moving out alone!  Never mind the rest.  I dont think people realize just how much, they are in too much of a hurry.  I moved out when I was 18,.  wasnt the easiest thing to do but I did it.  My brother is still at my fathers house and hes 22.  There shouldnt be any hurry.  its a hell of a lot harder out side the parents house.
83490
Oh can I relate to/with you on this one!!! I have four kids. He has one. I love this man dearly but making my four walk a narrow line and expect the best is great until it comes to his son who can do,say,etc. what ever in the heck he wants! I simply told him about it. After all, I can live without a man or find another one but my kids are all I truely have and can not be replaced. Equal...the whole house and everyone in it. No one is more special then the other when it comes to discipline! If you are in the wrong, it is our job as the parent to help set the child back down on the right path! Good luck and remember, eventually your kids will notice and hold it against you for not doing or saying anything! Good Luck!!!
23477
If he got a job would everything be alright or would you complain he works too much.When you have children you should consider your lifes over for the next 18 yrs. Unless your being beaten,cheated on or he's creating an unsuitable envirement by being a crackhead or drunk though it out for six more years and then split and find your dream man.
192206
Wow, I had one of these guys too...there are so many around it is unfortunate.  In my humble opinion, real people with issues get screwed because of dead beat dad and lying mothers.  There are so many guys that ditch a girl when she gets pregnant that when the court sees a guy who wants to be involved, they don't really care why. It's financial too..they figure if the guys is sending money, the state won't have to.  And so many women lie to get back at the guy, that we have lost our credibility in the courtroom.  I really feel for your situation.  Here is what I did..I spent years and thousands upon thousands of dollars trying to do the right thing through the court, and constantly getting told that I was wrong, etc...it made me crazy.  So, I just threw the door open to the guy..said lets stop fighting, this is ridiculous, neither of us can afford this, etc.  Said, visit whenever you want...and guess what?  Since the ball was in his court, he barely comes around anymore.  I don't know if you wish your children to have a relationship with their father or not...not that I think you wish them to not have a father, but if he is abusive, etc...I don't know what your situation is there, but this worked for me.  Best of luck to you, and hang in there.
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Well the eviction notice was intended for his mother(person on the lease). Since her 16 year old son is living there, though she is evicted. doesn't mean that being kicked out of their place doesn't apply to him.  It doesn't matter how old you are you can get kicked out of anywhere. If you're a friend help him to find somewhere to live wether it be with other family or a helpful friend. Since he's under age I wouldn't be surprised if the police step in and send cps to pick him up and put him in foster care.
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I knew someone that went through this. The cops are useless, unless he physically hurts her or the kids -they won't do crap. Since he's been there more than 6mo he can claim residency even if he wasn't paying anything. But since he's paying the bills she'd Have to get the eviction order for the cops to do anything. Plus he could fight the order on the grounds he's paying the bills there. She's lucky it isn't a common wealth or they'd be married and she'd need a divorce. Honest! \nGuys like this are preditory parasites! They find a single mom & a nice person, then they terrorize and threaten this parent so that she won't fight back. Normally, they chase off any friends so the person is isolated. The system don't work for these people, they have lives and don't want to leave their home. Worse, for those with kids, they don't have anyplace to go with their children.\nAnd don't say shelters - more desperate parents fleeing abuse lose their kids in those shelters. They're told that the kids will be placed in safe homes, til the parent can get settled...trouble is try and get the child back afterwards. It's almost impossible! And they brainwash young children into saying they were hurt or abused by the parent. I got that bit of information from an ex-social worker who got disgusted with the lies and stuff she saw.\nMoney given as donations to organizations and persons to find and aquire young male and female children for waiting adoptive parents. \nVices that rule the world - Sex  Money  Knowledge\nthree powers that can control anyone anywhere - everyone has their price.\nThe mom I knew only escaped due to friends finding out what was going on and coming  to her and her children's rescue. Moving her and her family out of his reach and keeping tabs on him for 2yrs so he couldn't follow - including false leads as to where she was living.\nThey supplied the money, they supplied the moving truck and they stood guard when he came to try and stop her or take the kids...(none of them were his so it would have been kidnapping) but they kept him powerless so she could escape.\n\nThis mom doesn't seem to have that option. Sure, she could take what money she gets, take her kids and flee. But what about where to go? She's not able to drive so how can she afford to pay to get away and get a place to stay. She most likely doesn't want to tramatize the children or depending upon the age of the kids - she may be afraid of being able to keep an eye on all of them. Depends on her visual ability. Being handicapped (visually - in her case) she's limited on options even more. \nI'll bet she's tried saving up money but then he's found out about it and drained it all. That's what happened to my friend. He was always making sure that she was dependent on him, afraid of what he'd do...the threats to her kids...and they say that terrorists are non-americans....ask some of these women that have lived with the all american terrorist male butthead!\n\nI hope someone will come to her rescue like we did for the mom I know. She's got her life back and has never looked back. Thankfully, her children don't really remember much about that time either...not clearly. I hope some of her friends can figure it out and save her before it's too late.
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let your wife be the one to put her foot down about the money...sorry, but they won't listen to you bec you're not their dad.\n\nmom must remain firm...don't listen to the whining. Hopefully you 2 have decided  that they leave the nest when they graduate. You have the right to expect some privacy in your marriage, esp. since he's old enough to be on his own...and she almost is. Sister will hopefully go on to college...sounds like a smart girl with a future.\n\nsupport your wife and stand by her. help her remain firm. she's given them 18 long yrs...long enough.