My son's dad is getting ready to go to court for this and I don't want my son around him because I've known he was going to get caught eventually.  It's his first offense though.
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In the state of Missouri, a C felony is punishable 1 to 7 yrs incarceration. I have 3 C felony's for possesion of a controled substance (meth) and a D felony on my record. With the third C felony, the courts did indict me and because I then had three C's, charged me with Prior & Persistant Which is a B felony and carries 5-15 yrs doc.\n I was lucky and had a decent lawyer, he got the Prosucuting Attn to agree not to give me anymore than three yrs. For that to be possible, 3 yrs, it had to be brought back down to a C. \n    D felony is, I think  1-4yrs not real sure on that one. \nI know for a fact that a C felony is 1-7 yrs 1 being the least the judge might give, 7 being the max he is allowed to give.\n My first offense I got caught with about 2 grams of meth, I received 5 yrs probation with 2 yrs SIS. SIS is suspended imposition of sentance. that means I go on probation for 5 yrs, if at anytime in that 5 yrs I commit the same or any other crimes, or receive a number of many possible violations of probation, I go to prison to serve the 2 yrs.\n  \n(the rest of the story, I ended up serving 120 day shock on the first charge because I got the second charge... was allowed back on probation after the 120 days, with 3 yrs back up for the second charge, violated probation, technicalities and served 6 months of the three yr sentance. got the third charge a few yrs later by being in th e wrong place at the wrong time... event though I had learned my lesson. and got another 3 yrs and served 6 months on that).... all done now....no more for me ty.lol) \n\n Depending on the amount he was caught with and extenuating circumstances, if not a lot, and no prior record, and a fairly decent lawyer, he'll most likely get probation.
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First of all there was a lot you could do and it would have been much simpler to do it, you should have taken your son to a safe place, and left that crazy,immature,self centered,imbecile of a girlfriend of yours to do whatever she chose to do.\n Now you have opened a serious can or worms, even with a good lawyer you are in for a nightmare.child services can get involved,and you probably have no witness or way to prove any of your story,and even if you did,your still going to have to deal with kicking and striking her ,and to compound it ,the child was in the house at the time.\n What you need is a good lawyer,voluntarily get yourself enrolled in parenting classes,and counseling,and try to get your parents or some responsible adult to petition for temporary custody on the grounds of best interest of the child.\n Once this is resolved,petition for custody of the child,or a declaration of guardianship for your son, and petition for your girlfriend to have supervised visitation with her son only.\n Good luck, get enrolled in parenting classes and counseling today,to demonstrate your responsibility and intention to the court ,they aren't going for the "what else could I do" defense, and get yourself a good family lawyer who specializes in child disposition cases.
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I don't know what I can say that will help you but I can reassure you that you are not the only one. My ex disappeared for the first 6 yrs of my son's life and then reappeared acting like he was the best dad in the world. He constantly contradicts what I say (ex.: my son has dental sealants and can not have sticky candy because it will rip them off but he insists my dentist is a head job who doesn't know what she is talking about, he also tells him he doesn't have to listen to the stupid things I say, that my son doesn't have to be responsible for anything -he's 10, and so on). He also created a tape using one of his friend's to play for my son. The contents consisted of this impersonator telling my ex that I did not love my son, I did not want my son, my ex could keep my son, etc. My ex also has no problem with my son seeing pornographic materials lying about his household. My son told of this and more to a Children and Youth Services agent who told me even though what my ex was doing was inappropriate it was abuse. Now for the grand finale, I stopped my ex from seeing my son for 3 months because he informed me he moved back in with his child molesting mother whom my son was to have no contact with and while the investigation was taking place and I was trying to modify the custody arrangement. During this time he filed contempt charges against me, initially sending to the wrong address (one that didn't even exist) so I missed the first hearing. I later received a visit from a constable telling me if I didn't go to the next one I would be sentenced to jail. I had proof that he sent it to the wrong address before we had the hearing. At the hearing my ex couldn't decide where he was living or for what amount of time, stated I had denied him my son longer that occured, and brought forth info that his mother was recently forgiven for molesting her sons (my ex and his brother). The judge decided that he knew my ex had lied about the extended time but I was also in the wrong because I should have known (even though I lacked the resources to find out and frankly my ex should have informed me since he knew, I forgot we are still supposed to wipe their asses even after we are no longer together) that his mother was forgiven for her most heinous act and that he was no longer living with her. Never mind the fact that we had contact since I stopped letting him take him  and my ex could have mentioned it, never mind the fact that my ex couldn't even figure out where he was living, and never mind the fact that not once did I tell my ex he could not see him, that he could not take him, I WAS STILL IN THE WRONG. I was in the wrong for trying to protect my son. My fiance summed it up nicely, the courts are currently favoring the men. The court does not take the child's welfare into consideration just what they want as they are deciding.
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Call a local local attorney and ask.  Off the cuff I would say there are probably instances where what you describe is okay like if the child is attacking someone.
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Well, maybe if you son didn't commit crimes then you would not have to worry about him being in jail.  If he is a dumb a$$ and goes to jail then thats his own fault.
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I just dealt with a case like this where an individual was told not to call on go near another person, they filled an order of protection and he ws not present.  He didn't even know it existed.  It was his own mother and step dad.  They lured him to the apartment complex by telling his aunt that his property was on the stoop.  He picked it up.  The next day he was just walking down the street and was picked up by police based on a description and arrested for violation a restraining order, fined and arrested.  I got him released ROR argueing the same points as some of your answers listed above but the short of it is he is going to county lock up if he doesn't beat the charge.  lawyers fees are expensive.  he can now only afford a public defender and they are way over worked, under paid and not to bright, I would expect probation or 30 days incarceration at county lock up and if you are not careful you will receive the same.  After the hearing the constable or someone will make one attempt to serve you and that is it.  You need to obey the order or face arrest.  Unless you have unlimited money for attorneys fee you shouldn't fight it.  Or you might be using the public pretenders office.  Work this out through a third party and be apologetic and humble.  Get this order dropped or you will run into this person and do some time.  This case was in Upstate NY but the laws are very common throughout the US and some places might add stalking.  Big jail time!  watch your step, the law is on the filers side, file a counter order asap.
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call mall security, in most states foul language is a misdemeanor. and things like that can show your kids how not to be if explained well.
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That is not only unacceptable it is unlawful. If you had a child that age would you want ANYONE looking at them in that manner? Good for you for turning him in! If he is still free and still doing it to your knowledge CONTINUE to notify authorities. Do not let up. He has a problem.
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Your childrens safety comes first.  You should defintely tell him no way can he take them and its best he stays away until he resolves his legal troubles. If he really loves his kids, he will want to get straight.  If he doesn't really care about them, why would you let him anywhere near them.  Their lives are in your hands.  Be strong for them and do the right thing! You are all they have. \nTell him to write to them if he wants to stay in touch. Be sure to read the letters first.\nConsider this: if he takes them and gets arrested while he has them then what will happen?  Your ability to care for them will be questioned by the courts.  They can not lose you too. Be wise and do the right thing.  They are only little for a little while.
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from my experience, he is in contempt of court by not following the judges orders.  this is pretty devious but it was done to me and it worked wonders...have an order of protection put on him and request custody of your daughter.  order of protection are much more than a restraining order.  police action will be taken anytime you request.  of course all you have to do is tell your lawyer or just go to the special victims unit and that you feel your life is in danger or has been threatened.  he will be screwed.  it still haunts me.  police used to call my cell phone and ask we i was at the moment.  all because she said i drove by the house.  none of what she told the police was true, and it didn't matter.  that order of protection sucks.  anytime he violates it, automatic 10 days in jail.  its dirty but its one way to stick it to him.  good luck.  oh, and there was no investigation to see if she was even telling the truth.  they just issued it and enforced it.
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I agree...I am looking forward to my Daughter being home in march 2007 after 5 yrs for a crime *by association* with her brother and she worries about that too. My Son wont be home til 2028 (and he didnt kill anyone) all drug related my daughter let him live with her for 6 months and he was dealing from her home without her knowledge since she had a full time job and he wasnt home nights anyway she lost her 2 babys and now she is worried about getting a job and fighting for her kids but she knows it wont be easy, she dont think she could even go finish her cosmetoloy since you cant have any felonies ...anyway..i got way off track here , you know what i mean.
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huni.. ive just finished a court case.. and yer rite its not nice. but somtimes it gives em a kick up the arse they need.. my ex went for full custody.. when i let him see my son when evr he wanted.. but wasnt satisfied with that.. so after the case he gets 1 nite evry 2 weeks... nothing to wot he had.. and also has to pay maintanance.. no the judge wont side with him hun.. \ni was devastated when he took me to court i thort i was gona loose my son.. hes 9 by the way.. and always lived with me.. and the thort of loosing him put me on prozac.. but i  got threw it and he got nothing.. and if i let him see him more then he is grateful  and so he shud be after all he put me threw..i don want my son to not see his dad but they do make it very very hard for you to get on with things ...let us no how you go on chick good luck x
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First of all, calm down and take a couple deep breaths. Now:\n\nHe hired a defense atty? Good for him. Don't worry about it, it's commonplace in the court system.\n\nDoes he have any witnesses to this allegation? Even so, if you said anything of the sort in reponse to seeing your Dad hurt, he doesn't have a leg to stand on. You were in a traumatized state. Remember that. So long as you didn't hit him or manage to injure him in any way, I don't see you getting in trouble for yelling at him. Have the police taken any action against you? If not, then there's your proof that you have no worries. His defense attorney may try to throw some garbage in on the case, but his best bet is to plea bargain and get out there.  Does this guy have a record? If so, he needs an attorney to keep him out of a term in the slammer. I don't think he's going to get away with it and I don't think you have anything to worry about. Just take care of your dad. Let me know if I can look something up for you.
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FIRST OFF-I AM NOT A LAWYER-DON'T EVEN PLAY ONE ON TV-SO THIS IS NOT LEGAL ADVICE-SIMPLY ONE PERSON'S INSIGHT--YOUR SON IS IN ONE MELOVA HESS--THIS GUILT BY ASSOCIATION THING IS BIG TIME STUFF THESE DAYS--THE SYSTEM SEES IT AS AN OPPORTUNITY TO 'CAST A WIDE NET'--DO NOT THROW YOUR SON'S PROSPECTS OF DECENT REPRESENTATION TO AN UNDERFUNDED, OVERWORKED, WISHING TO BE ANYWHERE ELSE THAN WHERE I AM PUBLIC DEFENDER'S CREW---HE WILL BE SUMMARILY SHOT THE MORNING AFTER THE TRIAL---------RETAINER---------THAT IS THE 'UP FRONT MONEY' PAID TO A LAWYER TO SECURE HIS SERVICES-- FOR LACK OF BETTER WORDS---AT AN EALIER TIME--AND IN SOME PLACES YET TODAY---IT IS CALLED 'EARNEST' MONEY--IT IS THE SEALER THAT (WHEN ACCEPTED) SAYS I AM WORKING FOR YOU AS NEEDED---THIS MONEY IS NOT--ONCE AGAIN  NOT  THE  PAYMENT OF THE BILL BY ANY MEANS--THE BILL WILL BE TALLIED OVER THE COURSE OF THE LEGAL SERVICES--AND SO BUCKLE UP SWEETNESS YOUR IN FOR A BUMPY RIDE------GOOD LUCK
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Your husband needs help.  He is a child predator, and his behavior will pass on to your son.  It is your duty as a parent to protect your child...at any sane cost.
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Google "fathersrights"  there is a lot of free advice and links to help dads. See if there is a local chapter in MO where he can get legal advice and suggestions on line.Thousands of dads are fighting to be active in their kids lives, from jail and a lot of ex's goal is to keep them in there by filing OPs and having them arrested under false charges. Tell him to hang on and never give up!