If you are normal and treating the other side with familier passionable way getting love with him, he suddenly stops the relation from going on and may be ended by not knowing you again,,,, is it right,,, is it fair or WHAT
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Men have a goal. Once they hit that goal, you are no longer attractive. When you really put up a fight, or stand up for yourself by respecting yourself, he will too. But if you give up the 'goodies' real quick, he's gone.
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I disagree with your analogy...your love should be never ending, those  who choose to limit what they can offer because they are afraid the heart ache may be unbearable are cheating themselves out of receiving an equal amount of love in return...I can understand what your saying if you give and give and give with nothing in return, but that's just wrong choices, and only you can be blamed for that....One must know themselves well enough to recognize and limit their choices to those who can full fill their expectations, thus live happily ever after, I've come very close...and look forward to soon meeting someone more suitable...which could be thee person to complete my life...I choose to be patient and choose wisely...blessings to you.
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LOL neparis2001.. that wasn't nice.. true.. but not nice.\n\nI would say that you have started to 'draw a line in the sand' of what you will and will not do for a person, and you are finding your balance.\n\nThat you are able to not run and find out why he hasn't actually met up with you shows that you are maturing with what you find acceptable in how you want to be treated.\n\nIf you have feelings for him, at least you're honest, but how do you feel now that he blew you off?  I think you're worthy of someone that can return your values in a relationship.. if he can't, look for a new place for your feelings so they don't end up hurt.\n\nKeep your chin up and always respect yourself first!!..so you don't have to worry about regaining respect.
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what's the question here.  You guy wants to be your friend and your lover.  Sounds like he truly cares for you, and he is having you meet his family.  He just might not be ready to fully commit himself to the relationship since he just got out of one.  Just be patient.
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If it turns him off, then you don't need him.  Someone who cares about you isn't going to let that get in the way of how they really feel about you.  If he came to you with the same problem, would you feel any different twords him?
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GET PERMISSION THE LAST THING YOU WANT IS THERE TO BE RESENTMENT AND TENSION WHEN YOU START A NEW RELATIONSHIP. ONLY OTHER PROBLEM IS IF HE'S LEAVING SOON YOU MAY NOT END UP WITH A REAL RELATIONSHIP BUT A KINDA SPACE FILLER TILL HE LEAVES
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The infatuation is over. It was just a fling for you or else you would still have feelings for him. Just end it before things get worse. He might love you. you don't want to end up hurting him permanently do you?
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No, you are most definitely being fair and unselfish.  However, I can understand how this relationship would turn sour if you led him on, which I don't think you intend to do... but can sometimes happen accidentally (I speak from experience!).  Make sure that you understand your feelings and that he expresses himself to you truly. Maybe you can agree to not have an orthodox "relationship." Afterall, we are in a new century, brinking on the 7th year, and the possibilities are endless! Maybe you can just 'date,' go to movies, dinner, coffee, have fun together... but just not with all the strings attached that the word 'relationship' attaches! Then, if you both enjoy each other's company you can decide later what to do... it'd be pointless to miss out on the wonderful opportunities and feelings that you'll encounter in a relationship, even if it does only last for a little while. But that's the thing about relationships, friends, love...they come and go and there's really nothing we can do about it except enjoy every minute of the present.  Avoiding the future is hard, and you'll have some decision-making to do come uni time, but just let that wait. Don't stress too much about the future! It's waiting for you, don't wait for it. If you end up falling head over heels, you'll both figure out a way to work it out (I speak from experience!). \n\nHope that helps!!
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YOUR ACTIONS WILL REVEAL THE WAY YOU FEEL ABOUT A PERSON. BECASUE IT IS HARD TO HIDE IT IF YOU HAVE A FEELINGS FOR THE OTHER PERSON AND IF YOU DO WHY DON'T YOU LET HIM KNOW SO THINGS WILL BE IN PROPER PERSPECTIVE AND EACH OF YOU WOULD KNOW WHAT TO EXPECT RATHER THAN JUST KEEPING IT YOUR SELF...APPRECIATE WHAT YOU HAVE AND LET HIM KNOW IT.. IT IS JUST FAIR THAT YOU LET HIM KNOW HOW YOU FEEL AND IF YOU ARE STARTING TO FEEL THAT YOU ARE FALLING IN LOVE WITH HIM , LET YOURSELF FALL IN LOVE IF YOU FEEL IT. BE OPEN WITH YOUR COMMUNICATIONS WITH HIM FROM THE BEGINING IT WILL BRING YOU A LONG LONG WAY..
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Depending on how it ended... If badly I proably would not go back to him. What went wrong would always be in the way, and if we argued, then it would be the first thing that was brought up. ... \n\nIf it ended on a good note (which is very rare, but does happen!!) I might give him another chance. Unless I was with someone else, and in love with someone else.. In which case, I again would let it go.... I might regret it later.. But sometimes the past hurts too much to bring it into your future.
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This is more of a case-by-case situation. With the understanding that both people are very passionate, the whole relationship could boil down to a competition of expression; one might try to outdue the other in showing how much they care. Depending on the people, this could come out very well, but at the same time, it could end in catastrophe. Another way it could end up going is that one of the two may feel too clouded in the other's show of passion, and feel like they need a break... thus possibly bringing the whole thing to an end. Not a common occurance, but it happens. The last thing i will mention is the more common of the 3, and by far, the best. The two people keep their display of passion limited to a certain amount. this assures that noone will feel drown out, and at the same time, neither of the two feels neglected by the other. I'm not talking about only saying "i love you" every 3rd wednesday or anything, those little things are ok to do whenever, but bigger things like dinner dates, trips to the movies, roses and yes, even sex, should be "rationed" to make sure you don't burn your candle down too fast and feel that there is nothing more really for you. \n\nIt is possible for any of these to happen, and with some variance, but once again, it all boils down to the types of people involved. Their other traits in their personality and their past will influence which path will occur.\n\n(i love your questions btw, give me more to answer, lol)
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Well, if there isn't anything between them yet, there is no problem. Think about it and reverse the situation, if you were talking with someone in the manner you suggest, how would you feel if another attempted what you are contemplating?
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Ask yourself if you can live with all the in differences sounds like it might be difficult to always have him being the one who is right and in control you have to do what makes you happy any relationship is a 50/50 deal :)
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He might just have some residual feelings for you, it happens more often than not that one of the two parites holds onto feelings.\n\nI am still friendly with my ex-fiance, who admitts freely that he is still in love with me. I just told him that there have to be boundries and after I said it a few times it finally stuck.
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I believe that it IS possible... Unfortunately I don't think that is the case in this situation... I think he is just plain weird... You don't just come off saying I love you to someone you hardly know, that's crazy.
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If you don't feel the same then no, if he does not really love you or you do not love him chances are things will not work out, and there's no reason for you too be hurt again f you was. It takes two remember to make a relationship work. Just follow your heart. Good luck
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If you both agree on that arrangement, yes it is ok.  When and if either one of you find someone else then just be friends only (no sex).  Good luck usually in cases like this one or the other catches feelings.