I am 38. I am not married, I do not have kids, I do not have a girlfriend, I am not gay. And I'm not ugly\n\nOne of my sisters found out that almost all of my friends are young women between the age of 23 to 28. We are just friends. She threw a fit. She said I was having a mid life crisis. I am not sleeping with any of them, I’m not trying to sleep with any of them. We just hang out. I’m not in a rush to bet a sports car, nor have I grown a goatee or a pencil mustache. I have not joined a gym, and I do not have a fake tan. And a few of my friends are women who are over 50. \n\nSo what gives?
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A midlife crisis is when you realize that you're going to die and you run back to youth for comfort only to find out that you should have taken better care of your body and mind in your youth ... and also that you don't understand anyone anymore which makes you try harder to fit into a social group that you don't belong to anymore.
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32 is not old, you're just in a slump girl, we all get to feeling a little bad sometimes and take it out on ourselves via age or looks or weight etc..  32 is in no way old and you are doing just great!  keep your chin up and eyes bright, things will get better for you and you will once again realise how young you are!  Stop looking for that special guy and you'll be surprised just how fast he shows up.  Did enjoy the "spinster" part though, <thump you on head>  quit being so tough on you will ya please?  LOL  Life doesn't even start until 50 or so they tell me, am surely hoping they are right too.
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HHAHAHAHAAHAHAHAH.. you are the most desperate , unlogical women in the planet that you are trying to link an event at th age of 6 to the fact that you are old and single.. i got to ask this back, are you still a virgin? have you had a bf? have you ever been kissed? \n\nyou failed to expose those facts to shape us in some kind of thinking.. then again, of course you have no kids!! you haven't been married!!! do you even know how to have kids?? this is the funniest question i ever answered! "Was i normal?" you were never normal at the first place
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You are not a loser, you need a hug though. I am 24 myself and trust me you are not the only 24 yr. old who is going thru things. I am currently living back at home and I didn't want to but it's a roof over my head and I'm still alive. If you are really against the situation then you should be doing everything you can to get out of that situation, or else it's pointless to complain. As for the friend you lost, you never lose a real friend, there may be some seperation needed to sort out feelings and to clear your head but if it's a real friend they will come around, if not, what else can you do put pick up the pieces and keep on moving, life goes on you know. You seem to have just hit a rough patch in your life where everything is just going wrong, but it will get better. I don't know if you are religious but God has a way of working things out.  Maybe you should try having a different outlook on life and yourself. A young lady or woman doesn't typically go for the guy who is always down on himself and who THINKS he's a LOSER. If you think that why should anybody else think any different? You have to get some confidence in yourself, have a life self-pride. Be proud of who you are and what you have, alot of people have far less or nothing. When life gives you lemons make lemonade. By that I mean make the best of and try to see the silverlining in every situation, whether it's good or bad. Don't sit around being envious of what others are doing or what they have, because I'm sure it took time and effort on their part to get whatever they have, but go out and get your own, your way. You can only be yourself, definitely not your sisters, they found their way, so you have to find yours. You still young, remember everyone does things differently and in their own time, so stop being your own worst critic. All the best.
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I think it is a mindset.  A mature woman knows who she is and is comfortable with herself.  She does not have to do anything to prove herself, or try to be someone she is not.  In fact, she doesn't have to try at all.  Growing up as a woman comes naturally.  \n\nJust relax, and enjoy wherever you are in life.  Young people want to be older and older people want to be younger.  The best thing you can do is not focus on your age at all.  Instead focus on living your life the best way you can.
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I myself am not inclined to date a guy more then a year or two younger then me. The stereotype says that young men are immature and while it does have it's truth I think it's more about life experience and I couldn't handle a guy that not on my level. I am not saying relationships with large age gaps don't work, just that I would pass on that scene. On the flip side women are sometimes attracted to older men, again that whole stereotype that older men are more mature. For one that's not always true and in most cases older guys looking for younger women are just using them for sex and half of those guys are still married. I guess what I am trying to say is they have to much baggage. They have been screwed over by too many other women generally and so again not that those relationships don't work out but I have no intention on venturing there either.
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Yes i've always been exactly the same.  I've really no interest in guys my own age, and i've always been like this even since when i was at school.  Don't really know why though but it's not a problem at all.  Plus as the saying goes, there's many a good tune can be played on an old fiddle.....  I'm 29 and seeing a guy of 51 who is the sexiest guy i've ever met in my life and is well fit (and looks about 35).  Good Luck!
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First, & I don't want this to sound mean in the least, this is not the type of forum to find a mate. If you want to find someone via the Internet, you'll have much better luck with a dating service.\n\nSecond, again, not being mean, if you are looking for a quick fling, then your question (or lack thereof) will probably get you just that but you will also run the risk of a lot of borrowed problems as well. After all, how do you know that the person on the other end of the keyboard is who or what they say they are? True, in time you can find out but how are you going to handle it if you find that the person you've been talking to is one of the "old" people you mention?\n\nMy best suggestion for you is to get out there & get involved in some hobbies, whatever they might be. This will put you in an arena with like-minded people with whom you will already have something in common.\n\nStill, it sounds to me from your details that what you are really interested in is nothing more than a cute, young thing; sorry, but this is the way your details have come off to me. If this is the case, just hit the bars & you'll find someone to warm your bed. If you are looking for something more, however, you are severely limiting yourself by talking so much about younger ladies & calling those of or about your age "old". It would make me wonder why your marriage of 25 years ended...maybe you found her too old for you suddenly? If this happened to be the case, how do you think women will react to learning this?\n\nI'm not trying to be hurtful in any way; I'm trying to honestly explain to you how your above approach might look to women. Me? I'm very taken & you wouldn't be interested anyway since I'm 40 :)\n\nGood luck, whichever route you end up taking...
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sounds like your in a pickle...i am 26,man that looks old, but anyways, listen.i got the same thing from my girl, about a few weeks ago. not the fact of moving cause of school or anything(we have been 2 gether for 6-7 years and have a 4yr old son). she just came to me with the fact that she thought we need time,i never saw it coming and all that, yeah..it sucks.when your in love and when they come to you with this crap, your kinda like...what?when?how?why?me? i got like you. thisterrible sinking feeling inside.thats when you really know that you care,but what hurts the most is when they are like?oh?i hurt you?\nBUDDY, i hope your young.you have no children? so go on with your life.its gonna be ahrd, i mean you put in the effort, 5 years of your life and now this. it will take some time getting over this, but hey. im sure you have a mom, or family or friends you can lean on at this time. it will just take time, besides...there are soooooo many beautiful women out there. i was at the point to where iwas like i didnt care about those other women, but get this...they do care. they are out there looking just like you will have to.some will come to you,and some you will have to suck it up and go for.everyone gets rejected here nd there*trust me it sucks) but movw to the next. if you dont want to get hurt all over again, then dont get too involved. whats the best part about this? you will meet so many intresting people and get to do new things. yeah she might be in austin having a blast with out you. you will just have to accept this, get over it and have blast yourelf. if your here and shes there, it will make it easier,but when she comes back...or is ever alone at school and the memories come back to her, she will reliaze that she had something special. not every man is gonna treat her like you did..some may be better, most will be worse(most guys in collage are NOT looking for relationships ya know?) and she will, or try to reach you again to see how you are. hopefully youve moved on, got a black book packed with girlfriends, that are friends, some even more, thats when its sweet..when she comes back trying to be a apart of your life again...you might take her back...you might reliaze, you have moved on and shes just another face in the crowd, she didnt care about your feelings then...you could blow her off, you could give it a shot all over agian. i know its not easy.in fact me and my girl are still together after i found out how she felt. we are not married..so its no promise that it will work, all i know is that i have son with this woman, and i love him-if it works with her,great if not...i ahve him, and thats all i will ever need, me,him,god-you will understand once you have a kid, it is amazing\nwell good luck pal,keep your head up..if it help..go beat the shit out of a door, or punching bag, a little stress relief, or go have a drink this weekend at aclub or bar, and enjoy the view, the eye candy..the ladies!who knows, someone might be looking for a someone like you.
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I know exactly what you mean. I'm 26 and have had to perform a major life overhaul myself.  I got to the point that i did'nt want to hang out with a bunch of people that drank and got high all day and really did'nt have anything to offer.  I cut them all off except for 2 friends.  I got new friends.  It's hard cause people are going to say that you're stuck up or you think you're better than everybody else but the truth is.....These people don't have anything to do with you.  They don't pay your rent, they don't buy your clothes, they don't put gas in your car and they don't have anything to offer you anymore.  \nIt's a good thing that you want to be more mature.  It shows you're ready for personal growth and advancement.  As far as your bestfriends ex.....Refuse to have that person in your sphere.  You always have control on who you want to be in your personal space.  If that person shows up...Bounce!  Don't allow that person in your home, in your car or at your table.  If they wanna know why...Tell 'em.  You annoy me, I don't like you and your values don't mesh with mine and I find you offensive.  You have the right not to be bothered by people.  Stand up.  You'll be fine.  Best of luck.
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No i'm in my thirties but don't tell anyone, shh...lol
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I a 40 i wouldnt worry about those wet behind the ears kids wwho are talkin ya down im in goodshape also and have a girl friend who is 20. they will be older someday then others will hear them asking same questions. wow wat goes around comes around.hang tight some young honey will want you sooner or later.TIP: Own a Bike chics love ridinglater dude
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I am a woman just over 50 and would really like to look like I did 30 years ago, but reality is reality, and I know men just don't tend to look at things that way.  But my hubby assures me that he loves me however I look, so maybe it is mostly single men who think that way, I don't know.  I just know that when he was younger, he and his best friend had alot to say about heavier women and that is where my insecurities come from.  Also, I do see single, older men wanting the younger, thin, sexier appearing women.  Maybe it is an ego thing.  Who kknows why guys think the way they do.  But you do have a good point.  Sometimes I think they just don't think.  They want.
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I am 40 and have a very full and happy life.  I don't spend my entire day/night on yahoo!answers, but I do visit in between projects at work.  I'm on here because I've noticed that there are a lot of people - both young and older - who have honest questions and are looking for answers from "experienced" men & women.  I guess that includes me...\n\nSometimes it's more comfortable to approach an outsider for advice than someone you know.  What better forum than the internet, where you can be as anonymous as you want?
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18-27 is not middle age! 35 - 45 is middle age based on current life exectancy figures for the west at least.\nas for over seas girl friends try one or all of the dating websites like match.com udate.com www.hotornot.com amongst others.\nthe only thing to watch for is that most of the girls advertised as overseas tend to be gold diggers or scammers after your ersonal details.\nthe best thing to do is go globe trotting and see if you can find the girl of your dreams that way.\nyou might like to use www.skype.com, www.msn.com, www.yahoo.com and download the messenger tools theses tools allow you to communicate in real time with people all over the world. the only thing to remember is that skype allows you to contact anyone who is in "skype me" mode.\nyahoo and msn require you to add contacts to your friends lists.\nbut you can chat online to anyone using chat.yahoo.com chat.msn.com (if you are in the USA only for msn at this time).\nif you make a friend just add them to your frinds list and talk in private.\ngood luck.
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Considering your typing style and use of slang, I'm going to guess you arn't actually a 64 year old (wow, that was hard).\n\nHowever, if a 64 year old man was interested in an 18 year old girl, I would tell him this:  Dream on, she isn't going to be attracted to you, unless your wallet is very very fat!
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been there. sucks. confidence all low and crap cause we're not 20 anymore! fortunately for you, these Young girls think older guys are hot! guys get more distinguished looking. women just get older. i'm sure you'll find some one new to rock your world. just be careful. it's not the same world you dated in 20 years ago! best of luck!