ever since my girlfriend and i have been dating we have talked about getting married like two years after we finish school.but then the other night she told me that she has always wanted to wait until she is 25 or 26 and she is 19 now.  i am 22.  i dont want to wait that long. but i really love this girl more than life and words can describe. i can wait but i feel like someone has messed with her head. what should i do about this? i am confused. she also said that she wants to be a travelling nurse when she graduates.  she is bringing all of this up for the first time in our relationship of six months.  please help.
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Talk to her and have her open up and tell you whats been going on. Tell her your feels. Be open, no secrets, that is the key to relationships.
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i see that you want to have a more stable relationship and i don't blame u for that. \ni also wanted to marry when i was 17 and my bf 25. but we needed our parents' consent and they didn't agree. i have to tell you that now (when i'm 22) i realize that i'd have done a great mistake by marrying the guy then. i've met a lot of guys ever since and even though 'he' seemed to me the charming prince at that time, i realized that there were other guys much better than him.\nnow i don't even think about marriage, i want to enjoy life, cause all my life i'll be married. \nit's hard to be married i'm telling u. and you'll soon get bored of it and it's not like something you can give up like that. it concerns the rest of your life.
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Your ages don't tell me that you are too young. Your maturity is more important, and that only you can decide.\n\nMy wife and I married at 20 and 23, and have had no problems in the last 19 years.\n\nBut before you say yes, you must answer for yourself - is the age really your concern, or is it a convenient excuse for hesitation? An inability to make a decision is often a sign of deeper problems. Not accusing here, you answer it for yourself.
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I am 19 also and have been married for 2 years. Be sure you are ready for marriage. If your love is true, you will be fine. Follow your heart. Don't try to grow up too fast though... you don't want to live with regrets.
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love is a commitment not a feeling. take it easy. you have soo much time and if you think logically you know you can't take any kindof action right now when you are so young and live with your parents/ what you can do is start preparing for the future. if you love this girl and you think there may be a chance for you to get married in the future then get mature and start figuring out your career options, what you wanna do with your life and the kindof job you want and work towards that goal. good luck.
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Yes! it sounds to me like you two are definatly in love. and if she didn't give you a good enough reason, like "i met someone else or i want to explore my options" then i think she still loves you, it is just too painful for her to be apart for so long. so i think you need to talk to her. dont just go over there and pop the question right away. but talk to her, make her fall in love with you again and then tell her you need her and that you two need to spend the rest of you lives together...then... "will you marry me?"
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You are definitely too young to get married.  You definitely don't know who you are let alone know what you want in a marriage. What's the rush?  You should wait a few more years.
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hey, just wanted to make sure you got this next message, so I'm putting it here, rather than adding a comment to your latest Q, and risk you missing it\n\nI dig that you're secure in your decision.  I'm even more happy that you're 17, and that you waited this long.  \nThere are things, though, that you still need to consider.  I speak from experience here....\nPlease do whatever you can to protect yourself from ruining your life at this point.  If you're not using any sort of birth control, then I strongly advise that you do it right away.  If you get yourself a daily pill, it will take a month to take full effect, so use protection or slow it down until then.\nDon't get so wrapped up in your relationship with this guy that you lose yourself.  When I was your age I was SO in love, and I ended up with a beautiful little girl, an "incomplete" education, and years of heartache, healing, and swearing I would never get married again.  All my friends had kids - IN HIGH SCHOOL - some got married, some got around.\nPLEASE, whatever you do, or whatever comes of this relationship, ALWAYS remember that you need to live for YOU, and DO for YOU.  Finish high school.  Go to college.  Get a job, and make it a career.  Do whatever you have to do not to lose yourself along the way.\nI wish you the best of luck  :-)
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My boyfriend and I are both divorced, and we're both a little marriage shy, so I totally understand your problem.  I want to know why 2 years is such a long time before you get married?  Most marriages are dissolved after a couple years because the people didn't know each other, I hear constantly "Well, we got married and I found out......"  That is not how marriage should be.  If you are going to spend the rest of your life with a person, you should know them in and out beforehand.  I'm a firm beleiver in living together before marriage.  Try that for a year or so, if you guys are still madly in love then you can START talking about marriage.
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I think that you should get married if you really love him and you want to be with him for the rest of your life and the military life is hard but if your strong enough you can get through it. I'm 20 too and I'm married to someone in the military and it did not matter that I was only 19 when I got married. I know who I wanted to be with it and there was no point in me waiting until I was older.
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Its normal..not all women think like this but it is normal to have these feelings. Just wait until you are ready..it doesn't mean you need to be married but 22 years old is young and you don't want to regret it. Having a child is a huge commitment and you need to realize that before you have children. You have a long life to look forward to so just relax.
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if you love her trust her and are committed to her and she feels the exact same way...then i don't think you need to worry!\ni have never even met my girlfriend - we're online yet! and yea we love each other to death and we trust each other totally, and with all our hearts!! and yea we'll be getting married too...and thats not gonna happen for another 4 years, at least, but yea i'm not worried about anything because we have TRUST in each other and thats all it takes for a LD to work out! TRUST & LOVE!\nso i don't think you need to worry pal...chill out! and all the best for your future!!
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Man, 23 is too young to get married.  If she loves you, she'd stay in relationship with you.  If you want to prove yourself to her dad, then be patient and wait until your 30 to get married.
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you got me confused,but I think I know what you mean. U wanna do it, but you have regrets (conscience). I personally think your too young, so wait on it. U mentioned you both respect each other and that makes the relationship reasonable. Why don't you both wait. Sex will always be there and in high school you can't turn the clock backwards to make things right.
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I would have a serious conversation with him. It would be a shame to wait another 5 years just to hear again what you're hearing now. Why doesn't he want to marry you? I would think that the prospect of marrying the person you love would make you work harder towards your goals if you know that you will be married after. Talk to him. Let him know how you feel. If marriage and children are important to you then he needs to know. He may just be nervous about commitment, but if he really loves you he will need to face that fear. Im sorry but if he doesnt feel the same way then you need to move on. I know that will be painful but its better than wasting the next 5+ years of your life hoping he will change. If he agrees to marry you, make sure its really what he wants. You will be miserableif he married you because he felt he had no choice. Best of luck.
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if we will be basing it according to your age, it will be fine , however, you have the same blood as hers coz your in the  same family. besides, she's getting married in a few weeks so.. maybe she should wait til that time comes. and, if she wants you as her partner, tell her just to imagine u.
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Accept her decision if you sincerely care for her. If thet time is right things will happen for the two of you. I also think that you should really think this realtionship through! You say you have been together for three years yet you have only seen her for a total of six weeks thats not healthy in a realationship. Did you ever think that she might have someone in her country? Just think it over and if she is still the one ask her to marry you. Good Luck!