bad relationship, out of control kids, stressed to the max and no resources to leave.
123131
Prozac.  not kidding.
90862
It's not worth staying in a bad marriage because of kids. Most of the time it does more harm to them than good. When old enough just explain that sometimes 2 people can't live together...K
356111
I have 2 little ones, and I would think that it would be easier for me if someone took the kids away for a bit.  Talk to your daughter about her feelings, then make a decision.
144048
ask for joint custody. thats the only thing i can say or else go to counsleing to work on the marriage. do not i repeat do not stay together for the kids. it will only hurt the kids in the long run.
475864
It will get better. Same thing happened to me same week the youngest turned 18 See ya later!!! It happens nothing you can do about it. Keep yourself as distant from it all as you can if not you will never heal. If the children still want a relationship with you then be there for them.. Stay busy get lots of friends maybe a good time to find a good church.. Your free to do what you want take advantage of it make yourself have fun start your quest to find that one that is your best friend and wants to be with you for you not because you have a pay check.....Good luck
256559
basically find a local family therapist to help guide you in this very tough time... you need to discuss this matter at length with someone who is capable of guiding you thru this...
317094
I am sorry to say this, but if you feel the kids are being abused in any way....you should call child protective services.  They will come out and interview her and her kids and see whats going on.   Forget her lies, if you can see through them you have some power, and not to sound cliche, but with power comes responsibility.
358035
with all that you hear these days, it sounds like an emotional problem to me. those kids need help, as much as she loves her children i think it is also a form of abuse, she is just ignorant to it, and uneducated. someone speak up to her for the kids sake.
422683
Seek out a church and speak witht eh priest or preacher.\n\nAsk that the church help you and babies get to another town or county.\n\nIF these other law inforcements aren't helping you, you should contact Dateline NBC. 20/20 ABC  any big news show  and have the whole damned city and county  responsible for your not getting the help rightly due you and children.
553867
Do not by any means let them go w/ their father again is must be hard specially if the kids are asking to see him. I ve been thru the same thing he took my son away and at the time there was no court order so when i did call the police saying he didnt want to give me my one month old son back all they could do was stare at me and tell me there was nothing they could do since he was the father. He was very abusive and consumed drugs at the time but still nothing was done plz dont let them go for the saftey of your kids its hard i know but looking im pretty sure you will find whats just right and get the help you need
324998
Listen honey I have been in a bad relationship myself and know where you arecoming from you have to stand up for yourself and move on you say you can't leacve Why? they have got you to the point where you are wallowing in self pity just as they like you. What is happening here is domestic abuse and it has to end before you end first. For your childrens sake leave him if he don't like it tell him where to go ****himself or tell him if he loves you to stand up to his family for you though from the sound of it he is week as s**t no man should ever allow anyone including his family to run you down. I wish i could do more for you but sadly I can't if you need to chat though send me an email and I will keep chatting and offering no strings advice I am a voluntary member of the samaritans and will make timwe to chat if you need me.
550859
You are gonna have a hard time until the kids are all older, and his job doesn't help with things...\n\nJust accept that at the moment, stuff isn't going to work properly and deal with that... As for sex, well, you are in trouble there...
576303
Very true. Society is slowly breaking down in every way possible. It's really upsetting. The future is bleak. I'm young and I fear for myself- my family to be- my husband to be.
113102
Be patient with yourself, join a support group at your church or talk to a family counsellor (with or without your spouse). Be patient with your kids, spend as much quality time with them knowing that they are caught in the middle of an adult issues and are too young to understand the complexity of these issues.  Just go out and have as much fun with them as possible at the park, mall or the children's museum.  Do not neglect your health (ie: overeating-->obese or undereating).  If you're not into the gym go for light walks, and by all means use meditation tapes they really do help.  Give your spouse that space she needs  but keep the channel of communications open.  Be honest with each other and don't try to sweep your marriage issues under the rug or they will never be resolved.  Good Luck.
437827
<sigh> I really can understand where you are coming from.  I was in a marriage for 15 years before I moved out.  I made a painful decision to leave my boys with my ex-husband because he was in the Navy; steady income and secure residence, whereas I didn't know what would be my plight if I took them with me.  I worked two jobs, saved my money and finally managed to move into my own apartment nearby.  The boys thought it was fun to visit me on weekends "to get away from Dad."  Things actually worked out for awhile.\n\nThe thing is, you have to look at your situation and see what it is you are financially, mentally and emotionally capable of.  The arguing is not good, especially if the kids get involved.  This is what motivated me most to leave my ex.  He and I were arguing over the most ridiculous things and it was affecting the boys.  I talked with them and asked them how they felt about my leaving, getting secure with finances and bringing them with me once I'd gotten myself "steady" and they told me I should do what I needed to do to be happy.\n\nI had family but I didn't want anyone to know my marriage was ending, so I did everything on my own.  It took time and sacrificing.  I did have one friend who supported me in my decision and was someone I could talk to, which helped me get through the frustration of an ending marriage.\n\nWhile you go through this, if you could find a local service that could assist you, try to avoid confrontations with him, even if it means your not going "out."  These battles will affect your children and someone should take precautions to avoid that as it is just unnecessary.  \n\nIn hind sight, I wish I had waited until my boys had graduated high school because now, they bring it up and hold me accountable for the things that have gone wrong in their early adulthood life.  I'm not telling YOU to wait.  You have to research this within yourself and make the best decision for both YOU and the children.\n\nI wish you the best - this is a hard road to travel and no one person has the answer.  Be patient - you will find that answer within yourself soon enough.
167133
If there are kids involved it can be tricky, You can just make the choice to leave and then follow thru. if you need help you can find the number of a local domestice violence shelter, they should at keast be able to help you find resourses.
591986
I would contact your local domestic abuse organization/women's shelter to help you make a plan to leave. The safety of yourself and your kids is absolutely important. They can help you gather materials you will need before you leave (like records, identification, etc.)\n\nThey will also have advice on getting legal help as well. They can connect you to where you can protect yourself and your kids. They can help you prepare a restraining order and help you with the legal hoops. \n\nMental abuse is a bad influence on your children, it teaches them that it is okay to treat people like that and they can repeat that pattern when they become adults.