It seems to me that now adays,women only want to things.Money and looks.So what does it take for a nice guy to find a women who acctually wants a serious relationship?
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Care. It means a lot when a guy cares for me like calling me when I'm sick, asking me if want a ride when I go somewhere, help carrying something heavy. Women like an attention. Today I went to a grocery store and was looking at apples, then this guy at the store came up to me and said new apples has arrived to the store this morning so he can get me some if I want more fresh apples. \nI'd be pretty much happy with a guy who cares for me even though he doesn't have much money or good looks. The attitude that he would always be there for me is a very important factor. \nHonesty and loyality are also important. Don't be stubborn. Don't be short-tempered. Be a good listener.
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Yep, you sound like you'd be a really nice guy to get to know. I'm probably too old for you, or live too far away, & I think I've given up on relationships anyhow. But you sound as if you have an awful lot to offer the right woman. I hope you find her & I wish you every happiness & every success!!!
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Hi AJ,\n\nThe most important things in any long term relationship are honesty, kindness, a good sense of humor and a willingness to be there during the good times as well as the bad.  That said, the first thing that attracts me to a guy is his smile and the way he carries himself, with confidence but not too cocky or over the top.  A guy who is clean, dressed appropriately and who has a pleasant demeanor and makes the first move conversationally will get my attention and that of most ladies out there.\n\nBTW: Any woman who would value a man for his wallet alone is in the same league as a man who values a woman solely for her looks, both types are players and ultimately bad news.\n\nGood luck and best wishes from bookyone :)
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Depends on how old a female you are talking about. When they are immature, they are all materialistic and shallow. Looks and money is what attracts them. When they grow up and realize money does not buy happiness then they look for a guy with a good personality that makes them laugh, but they can't be a total bum or anything. When the sex wains and the looks fade....you have to have someone that you can talk to and that you have something in common with.  You have to be going in the same direction.  When you stop looking for someone...they have a tendancy to find you. I don't know why that is. Or when you think you found someone, then someone else starts flirting with you. Happens all the time. Take your time, you have your whole life ahead of you.
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Well, there is a thrill in the hunt. Some guys see a beautiful woman, and don't think they have any chance at all in her being interested in them. And then if she does show an interest, there is an accomplishment for them. But, I will tell you, No matter how beautiful a gal is, most guys will run if they think she is High Maintenance.
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Because although guys pretend to be deep, they're not.  They almost always chose the easy pretty girl over the complex average girls.  When I was in high school, I was a punk rocker, as was this guy I was totally in love with.  On paper we were perfect together, both smart, offbeat, and complex individuals.  He didn't want to go out with me, no matter how hard I tried.  A few year later I ran into him and his girlfriend -- a slutty looking dumb blond.  I realized that he was still immature and looking for an easy relationship, which I am most certainly not.  But there are guys out there who don't care what style you have, they just want to be with you, no matter if they're like you or not.
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Gals need real love, it includes romentic night outs, lovemaking games, lilbit respect. Money, shopping etc wot u guys r thinking these are not that much important. \nBeing a gal I need lots & lots of love fm my man. I want to be his best friend for that I need him to be honest with me. She need to talk and to listen, sometime she need a solder to cry and some time a hand to hold. She ask for lil care and give you lots in return. Guys she is not only for sex, if u find out how to give her all that things she want you must be start living in Haven. Try it...all d best
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Dear I am a smart man of perfect personality and keenly need a sincere and fully discreet relationship with a woman of mature mind and body. Even I can predict that this relationship may also turn into marriage but after witnessing each other potential on bed and day to day life. Remember I am a serious person without any jokes. Also pl. keep in mind that I am not an expert on line chating. I will appreciate if you like to reply. I m of good body , fair complexion , educated with a personality which hopefully no woman may like to refuse but unfortunately I don't flirt so thats why no relationship. I even prefer if you may have one or two kids. Thats OK. Take Care.
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I consider myself a nice, respectful guy with a good body, and it's difficult to find girls who are the same way.  A lot of girls think that its superficial for a guy to be interested in girls who take good care of themselves, but it's not.  If someone has an active lifestyle and eats reasonably, their body will show it.
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Most women will say that they want a man who will treat her kind and be good to her, but when they get get one they often take the kindness as a weakness, and women want a strong man. I was with a woman who was once in a very abusive relationship, I always tried to be nice and gentlemanly but after a while it got to the point to where she was always trying to be dominant in EVERYTHING, I would try to be diplomatic and compromising but she wouldn't have it like that, it was her way or no way. She was very spoiled, she was the youngest of 5 girls and her father always let her get her way. But I've found that most women are basically the same way, if you give in to them too many times then they will become belligerent and abusive (not necessarily physically, but certainly psychologically and emotionally). Many will cheat, she got with my stepbrother while I was out out town working (more than once). I jumped on him when I found out then ran him off and told him to never come back. she was glowing when I came back inside. (like I had fought over her, it takes two to tango, she wasn't innocent) But I myself used to be of the same abusive, (yet non-violent) nature when I was married and I had a real good wife (I NEVER cheated though [didn't need to]). But I basically treated her like the couch in the living room, when I need it, it was there, other than that I could care less and when we'd argue I'd get off topic and just start saying things to make her feel bad. When my life left me I swore that I would never treat a woman that way again. (I still miss her after 15+ years) But all I seem to meet now are just plain wrong. All I can really say is be nice, but be tough. Try to be manly without being overbearing. But I don't know, I guess if it ever gets to the point that you're arguing and it looks like she's going to do whatever she wants anyway just to defy you, DON'T "punch her in the freakin face" punch a hole in the wall if you have to or break something (something cheap and trivial) DO NOT break something that she values. (I hope you don't have to resort to this) but when you appologize for it all (as you should) don't be too submissive. no whiney "Oh baby, I'm so sorry, I didn't mean that, please forgive me". Be firm, more like, "Look, I'm sorry, but you just really upset me", then explain what and how she upset you. Make sure you appoligize within minutes of your rage, it may be one of the few times that you have her absolute attention and you'll need it. Be sensible and practical, but if the reason for you getting mad and not wanting her to do whatever it was she wanted was just because "you said so" then you probably should've just let her be in the first place; they want a "take control" man not a controlling one. They also like a smart man, not a smart *ss man. and don't be too smart every so often act like you don't know something that you do and ask them what it means or how it works.\nI guess as far as how to treat them try this, If you have sisters, think of the way you father was towards them, both in his kindness and in the way he got on to them (when he was mad). Treat a woman like that.(UNLESS you had an abusive father, then never mind. sorry for you [blocking out the bad part sometimes helps if you can do that]). But still, most women are looking for a father figure anyway (at least subconsciously). Oh, and if you didn't have sisters, treat them at least three times as good but only about a quarter as bad as your dad was to you. I say this because that was about the ratio of generosity and fury between my sisters and I that was gotten my our father.\n but don't listen to me if I knew anything about how to treat a woman I'm sure I'd still be married. (or at least have one)
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DEFINTELY, women will always seek a man with money, power of fame, than a man who is good looking, they prefer it all, but may not get it all, after all they want a certain level of lifestyle. The hotter the women, the more she KNOWS she can get in terms of financial security, that is her cash trade value, if she is less attractive, she must either get a degree and earn more money, or marry whomever she can be with. Men marry what they can afford, if you are plumber, you are not going to be getting the Pam Anderson's of the world, but if you are rich or famous ( or both ) then any hot women will be wanting for you.\n\nWomen who say money does not matter are more than likely not a 9 ro 10, but a 4 to 5, they know their place on the ladder rung of life.
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depends on the guy and what type of relationship he is looking for a pretty little trophy to show off or someone he could possible settle down with someday.. personality, caring .. remember looks eventually fade
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everyone is different . sure opposite attract . but many of my friends lik the qualities they hav ,lik a serious guy would manage with a serious girl . if its me , then i would lik somone who thinks lik myself she shouldbe open-minded , not a miser , and not too talkative ,respects people's spaces.
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Maybe your not looking in the right places, are you open to trying maybe a personal dating service??? you might want to look into that, there are great women who are genuine and looking for more in a relationship. They wouldn't be paying for the service if they didn't want something out of it. try it you might find that someone special.
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A lot of woman say this all the time, yet they end up with wrong kind of men all the time.  I don't think it's a coincidence.  \n\nBasically here's the deal, and I'm basing this on what I have learned from my 25 years on earth.  The nice decent guy is not noticed.  Yeah, nice guys finish last a lot of times.  It sucks but it's the truth and the truth hurts. \n\nAlot of woman see the nice guy out of the corner of their eye, he's going about his business, working his 9 to 5, trying to be a productive member of society, but he tends to blend in so he doesn't get noticed, so again and again women like you fall for the a-holes.  It's a vicious cycle.  Good luck, though.
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speaking as a single male, i might ask the same thing about single or divorced women....i would like to take the time to get to know someone (bf/gf sort of thing), then see if it works into a relationship.....yeah, i think that it could be done....the decent guys are out there...they may not simply advertise the fact that they are decent guys...maybe they have been screwed over too many times....have patience....keep looking....they are out there....good luck to you
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yeah thats the way to go but what if the girl goes for your looks and money? then what? also you have it all wrong...nice guys never finish last...its all a myth