my wife and i are tring to have kids and we just don't know if we can i  would to have children soon
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I think it's the result of sin entering the world.  \n\nBecause of sin, we have sickness, disease and death.\n\nI wouldn't take your inability to have children as an act of God.   Or a judgment against you.\n\nSee a specialist and rule out any medical conditions.  Make sure you take good care of yourselves physically, mentally, emotionally and spiritually.\n\nPray about it.  Ask your friends and family to pray about it.  \n\nIf you still can't have babies of your own, pray about adopting.  It may be that there is a child out there who really needs you.\n\nI wish you all the best in becoming parents!
64956
However much it takes you to live within your means...if you're waiting to have enough money to have kids...you could be waiting a long time.  No matter what you plan for some unexpected money always seems to come out that pocket.
309356
In my experience, they aren't worth it.  My children mean more to me than anybody in the world and they come first.  My selfish self centered husband can wait like he makes only us do.
65470
"I want a baby, and I want it NOW!!" Ha! Ha!  My husband is the opposite, he wants a child now but I would like to wait , I am only 20.  We decided to compromise and wait a year or so,(I wanted to wait 5 years).  I don't know what to tell you to tell him!  Maybe you should ask him what his reasons for waiting are??
568218
Yes you can get pregnant, but personally I think you're just freaking out. Sounds like more of a mental than physical issue with you.
548449
Oh that is a tough situation and I dont think you can make one decision that will fit everyone. I think it would depend on how far into the pregnancy you are, which would still be a tough decision to make. I don't have kids or particularly want them, but if I were pregnant and I was in the situation I personally would want to be kept alive long enough for my child to survive. Most sane normal women would want that. That is a personal decision however and the goverment should keep its nose out.
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I am dating a woman who has kids also from a marriage. If she really loves you and is comfortable with who she is, she will explain and defend her life choices to her children no matter how difficult. I understand that could be very difficult for her, but she must make an important decision. If she isn't strong enough to live this life, she might consider living a different one.\n\nAs for yourself, you should decide how much you are willing to deal with this. If it continues this way, I am sure you will reach your limit soon. Your hurt will grow and grow and grow until one day you will say you cannot take it anymore! Take it from me, I have been there!!\n\nHave some serious discussions and trust your heart!
84144
I have been married for right at 10 years and have 2 kids. I want it all the time. My husband is another story though. He hardly ever wants it.
650314
Sounds like you need some "me" time! Do something by yourself or just with your children. You need to clear you mind and find out what you want and what is best for those children.
519149
okay let me ask you this was the man you had a chid with someone you could enjoy having children with? or do u just not want anymore children? If the first question i asked is the reason i have this to tell you. I was like that with my first marriage and didnt want anymore either until my birth control failed me  but the funny thing is i now have a daughter in my second marriage and its wonderful and i want more kids. If you just feel like you dont want anymore then dont do it and be upfront with future men and let them know if you want kids im not the girl for you. And go for another man because i am on my second marriage and everything is completely different from what it was with my first husband just learn from the mistakes of your first marriage so  you can find someone who wont make the mistakes that happened in your first marriage. best of wishes to you and good luck.
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First have a serious one on one talk with your daughter and ask her what she really wants, it's not all for parents to decide for our kid. Then after you got her thoughts, talk to your wife. This is your family's problem, it must be between you and your wife first before it goes to your parents. Remember you already have your own family life, your parents should understand that.. Then when you got your wife on discussion,tell her what your daughter really wants and after you got her reaction, talk with them; you, your wife and your daughter, and discuss everything and weigh all corners and make the decision.You are the head of your family, act like one.
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Talk to your parent's about it and weigh your options.. If you really feel you can not support a baby at this point in your life think about giving it up for adoption. There are many willing family's out there that can't have childern.
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mr. kareem, first thing ur wife wants is to get urself a source so u can look after ur child ur expecting..U SHUD KNOW WELL THAT U R THE ONE IN NEED OF A BABY, SO U SHUD BE MORE CONCERND..she'll obvisouly not cos she lack's trust in u...and if at all a baby is born how will u takecare or its well being and schooling when ur not consistent....just think a while, and on top of all these issues do u really think a ''second '' wife will wrok out..wat if she also shows the same attitude and later u suffer more pain.??? instead y dont u look for some good job, u seem to be well educated and perhaps young...stand on ur own feet mr.kareem and then command things, it'll work out, insha allah..good luck.
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The best thing to do is go to a fertility doctor and have them conduct tests. If you are unable to concieve, then they have other options for you if you are wanting children. You might want to bring your mate with so they can test also. Sometimes it's the guy, not always the girl. They would have solutions for that too. Good luck!
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you are nuts, right? I keep saying that to people that calim impossible things,\nHow the f.u.c.k. the sperm will remain for so long is ur wife a retard of sth?!?!?
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You can have a career and a family...Family does not always mean kids....Be with your man and take a couple years and work on your career. Then work on having children. You want to make sure that you do have the financial stability to have kids. So I say Good Luck in your career and family!!!!
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My husband and I married never expecting to have kids because of various problems I had in my early 20's.Yes, I prayed for my first baby...mostly for her and that she would be healthy. My doctor had told me that because of my weight (obese pregnancy) that I would be facing severe complications and possible loss of pregnancy but I didn't. Except for the usual stuff and even more wieght gain, I was healthy and so was she. Now my son on the other..he was a complete blissful and wonderful surprise. So with God all things are indeed quite possible. God bless you and your husband...with as many as you want. Love in Christ, ~J~ <><