My wife and I have been married for 6 years now. She's a wonderful woman and always has something sweet to say. You would probably recognize her name because she is always answering and asking questions. (lonestarluver4ever) Anyway, we hardly ever fight. Maybe once every 6 months. But when we do fight it is not nice. We say a lot of hurtful stuff, but then we go to bed and never apologize but the next morning is like nothing ever happened. We had always said we'd never go to bed mad at each other but we have. Is this a normal marriage?
121359
My friend, it is very normal.  You love her and she loves you.  The only reason that it doesn't get resolved before you go to bed is because neither one of you can step down off that high horse in time.  And venting every once in a while is not a bad thing.  As long as the love that you both feel for each other is still there.  If you don't have that then you don't ahve anything.
260470
unfortunately this is the worst part of marriage,love lasts ,whether you want it to or not,if you are my child and I break your teeth in and break your bones or molest you you still love me ,if I am your spouse and I do your bestfriend and the rent money goes up my nose ,you still love me and if you hate me ,this is the darkside of love my dear, not the opposite,\nif you no longer love me you wil be apathetic,could careless and care as much about me as you do every stranger in public,this not caring ,is the opposite of love\n\ntoo many people worry about the wrong things in a relationship,we don't have to worry about or work on having love for each other,that is a given ,it is maintaining mutual respect for each other that needs to be worked hard for and avoiding feelings of contempt,by accepting each other as the flawed fu%ked up people we are and not the unrealistic ideal we want each other to be
483761
THAT DEPENDS ON IF THE BOTH OF U WANT TO MAKE IT WORK IT CAN'T JUST BE ONE PERSON. I HAVE BEEN MARRIED TO MY HUSBAND FOR 4 YEARS AND I'M STILL ATTRACTED TO HIM AND HIM TO ME. YES WE DO HAVE HARD TIMES BUT WE ALWAYS KEEP THE LINES OF COMMUNICATION OPEN TALK TO HER
243066
It seems when things get tense we always imagine the worst will happen to our marriage.  It doesn't have to just because someone else did it.  We can always get past a tough point.  Maybe you just need more time together.
4900
Marriage should be a lifetime committment, however, if one of you is unhappy and the other won't listen or try to help make changes so you both can be happy, it's time to call it a day. An unhappy marriage can't survive if both aren't willing to give 210% to love, honor and cherish each other. You have my deepest empathy and best wishes.
412643
wow!  I have been married to my husband for 9 years this January.  We have overcome some horrible conditions.  I do not want to go into detail here online.  However, I love my husband despite the things we have been thru.  Infidelity was not one of the issues, but we were involuntarily separated for 3yrs 8 mos.  We have been thru things with our ex's...just about anything that could go wrong has...Now, we are best friends and know each other inside and out.  Trauma brought us closer...it is often not that way in marriages.  We're blessed that way..I had to spend Thanksgiving alone again this year...but we will get thru this.  So, the answer is yes.  Despite everything and everyone, if you want to overcome, you will.
370697
I have been married for near 7 years but have been with my man for 12 years, we got together at 21 years old.\n\nWe have had our ups and downs but our love for one another has grown stronger than ever. \n\nThe main part of marriage and any relationship really, is communication. Don't bottle things up, sit down and talk it out, that way the 'problem' is out there and both can work together on how to solve it.\n\nIn all the years we have been together, we have never in an argument said anything we would regret later on. We have never called each other a name or anything like that.\n\nWords can hurt and people can remember what has been said through arguments, and bring that up in another argument. \n\nMarriage takes alot of work and it can work if both parties are commited to the marriage and each other.
73035
It's impossible to determine whether the fighting will stop without knowing the root causes of your arguments. From your description, it sounds as though you have been fighting about issues large and small, that perhaps might point to a deeper conflict. Perhaps part of the problem has to do with your expectations. Marriage and children are both overwhelming issues, and it might be premature to anticipate them so early on (and before you have entered into marriage). With all of this pressure related to the future of your partnership together, you might be stifling your present romantic life.\n\nHave a great future!
311138
Oh hell, we are so different now its almost funny. But we grew together, not apart. He's military, so he started cussing a bit more (stopped that in the house), we both gained about 20 pounds in the last 9 years. We both have things we didn't realize till married. Lots of things. But that always happens, the changing part. If we were still the same, it would be so sad. But I found out lots of good things about him. And we try to talk alot when we notice changes. Its all about communication!
197364
Whatever is good for you. There is no "normal" for this. Some people have a higher desire and may have relations twice a day. Others may have a lower desire and have relations once a month. On average, the typical married couple has relations about three or four times a month. Often, they are too tired during the week and typically use Saturday evening for this activity. But again, it depends on you and your wife. If you have the desire for more or less often, then that is entirely up to you.\n\nAnd congratulations on having such an excellent relationship. I have friends from India who say their marriages were arranged between the families, and they get along wonderfully because everyone is involved in the success of the marriage.
441767
yes very happy through both good and bad times, there is no one i would rather come home to or spend time with. we have been married for eight years and it just gets better everyday. the primary reason is that she understands/forgives my hobbies and interests and i understand hers. give and take and flexability on both sides make it much easier. the first year was just getting used to each others habits, and the more rigid (i will not/your fault/my way) additudes just scew it up. and forgive and forget. no grudges.
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OH MY GOD !!\nDeja Vu, You remind me of me and my ex girlfriend. \nWe were together for 3 plus years. We used to fight so regularly that in the beginning our friends used to be shocked by the anger and in the intensity. But we used to end up kissing and making up. But as we moved on, our fights became a forthnightly event, and our friends just ignored it like it was a 'normal thing'\nBut I used to do all the things, you mentioned in your Q. Go in front of her house, we used to give each other missed calls and sometimes prank calls, we used to have our friends call eachother and find out how the other person was doing, and so on a so forth.\nBut fights in a relationship are NEVER healthy and mind you, it will get old and you will sometimes cross that line of sensitivity, therefore inadvertantly hurting the other persons more than you thought you would.\nHe (like my gf) might be of the false impression that fights are 'normal and important' to keep the love in a relationship.\nTry and convince him that this is not normal, NEVER.\nYou should set some ground rules and learn not to overstep eachother.\nI understood we fought as often as we did, because we lacked trust and respect for the other.\nTake one day at a time. You will never go wrong.
402172
Are you and he fighting alot? That's the interesting thing about love and marriage; First The relationship is sweet and charismatic and may stay this way for a long time. Then as time goes by you'll both have other main intrests and concerns. This is not at all strange by the way. I got married at a very young age and didn't know the guy long enough first. This may have been what happened to you also. I went back and forth to my ex for about 3 years before I finally followed through with the divorce.
132026
Married couples fight. It happens. One thing you need to do is never go to bed angry at each other. I don't know why you had a fight and I don't want to know. You guys have to find a way to have a civil conversation without losing your tempers. I love my wife and I respect her as woman as well. I am nothing without her. I wish you luck
203382
Married for 15 years and we still tell each other where we are and what we do and No they shouldn't get mad but they always will but they will get over it and they still love ya . It's good that you let your spouse know what you are doing just in case something bad happens or what if your spouse wins a million dollars wouldn't you want to know right away? There's always a what if and it's better to know and to be prepared than to wonder what the hell happened.Just in case it's your last chance to say I love you.
641310
Well, as a wife and mother of 5 children and married for 23 yrs...I can honestly say love is unconditional and is sometimes a rollercoaster...if you are not already married, you still have a choice...but do know this friend..."what once was, can be again"...sometimes you have to return to your first love..the things you did...what you said...how you treated each other...now, if those "things" you refer to are harrassing, violence, and such...a sit down talk in a "neutral" spot is the answer there. Be honest if this must be done...be specific..& don't leave it "open ended"...like "we'll see"...I need space for now...needs to be clean cut...best of everything!
427705
If anyone ever tells you that they do not fight in a relationship...do not believe them.  As long as your communication is there and you work through the arguements - you will be fine.  Just do your best to not bring up the past, no name calling, no physical abuse, no destroying property.  It's OK to argue just do it constructively.  You both need to listen to what the other is saying.  You will be fine.  Good Luck!