I can beat him up but I cant i just freeze\nI have many advantages and can mess around with his life, but i just cant! When i face him i just cant do it.\nI also know that my bullie's true identy is a wusss and i want to beat him up but i just cant... should i just leave it alone?\nI JUST CANT SAY It, I JUST FREEZE UP AND THINK OF THE DISADVANTAGES AND AFTERMATH.
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i get what ur sayin i go thru the same thing and well u say this dudes really a wuss so just scare the shit out of him by just threatining him or if u can think of anything just show him that u can and will beat the crap out of him if nessecary just scare him a lil bit dont actually hurt him im sure he has a good heart like u
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well there are a lot of ways to handle this.\nIf you want to be the better person and try to ignore her she will probably continue to pick on you. \nyou can try to get teachers involved in watching her and trying to set her up to get the teachers to catch her in the act to get her in trouble. \nyou can look up insulting jokes on the internet or books so you can imbarrass her in front of her friends.\nyou can start working out learn self defense and/ or martial arts in case she wants to initiate a fight.\nYou can get friends and/or relatives to help you if she wants to start something. \nPay for a bodyguard or someone to scare her off.\nBut try to deal with it first without fighting and tell her to leave you alone and get family, friends and teachers involved and the problem could be solved this way. If not look at the other options. \n\nRemember, Keep you head up, you are beautiful and the better person and people like her are jealous any person with your great qualities.
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Believe me, the only effective to stop them is fighting back, if you can beat the crap out of them, it's best, if you can't, it's better to get beaten up by bullies than just sitting there doing nothing, resort to cop/parents/friends can only provide temporary relief, if you want to end it, you get to stand up for yourself, there is no other way around.
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I think it happens because you decide to let it happen. Change your mindset and make yourself one of these people who isn't a target. It is easier than you think. You just need to decide that enough is enough.\n\nI was bullied up until about 1993. Its ludicrous, as I am quite a well proportioned individual. I would say that once a loser always a loser is untrue. But you need to develop techniques to handle bullies and bullying, like I did.\n\nHere are some tips:\n1. Don't take them on in their own territory (i.e., dont get involved in name calling, etc as they love all that monkey business). Deal with them like you'd deal with a logical problem - find the shortest path to handling them and do it.\n2. Some martial arts or other self defense training helps build physical confidence. You're not expected to ever use it, but its nice to know.\n3. If you are getting bullied don't kid yourself that you aren't. It can be dealt with, even without help or support. \n4. Drop people in your life who are not supportive or who treat you badly. This erodes your confidence.\n\nThe most positive thing to remember is that you recognise that the way you are treated is bad and wrong. It took me a long time to come to terms with that and once I did the rest was easy. After all, how dare people treat you like sh**? Who the Hell are they? You ought to think that way the next time someone looks down their nose at you, mistreats you or makes you feel bad in some other way.\n\nGood luck!\n\nR
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Look, the little boy is spanking age, and he has apparently gotten little discipline with his Mom, so do this: talk to your boy friend and explain that the next time the little monster hits or kicks you, that you will hit or kick back, and then do it. The time for discipline is at the point of the offense. The kid will remember your hitting him and quit his perilous ways at least with you. If your boy friend does not want you doing this, he should spank the kid the instant it happens. If you are going to continue being around this child, your boy friend should understand that you will have to play guardian at times, and you should be given the weapon of self defense and an ok to discipline the little guy. Insist on it - otherwise, you will be miserable in his company. It is work to discipline little ones, but they will love you and respect you for it in the end. Good luck on taming the dragon.
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If you are a more reserved or timid person, my advice for being more aggressive would be this. If it is very important for you to be more aggressive, then throw caution to the wind. Try to refrain from moving backward, and try to move foreward using the techniques that you learned in school. If you are pushed or kicked backward, this is fine, but begin moving fareward again with kicks and punches right away. You might be nervous, but this is ok. Allow yourself to be nervous, but also allow yourself to attack. Give yourself this chance, and allow yourself to see that you CAN do it. Something that I do in order to lose my nerves or fear of heavy contact is to move in close to my apponent. I allow myself to get hit and rocked a few times. I do this to reassure myself that I CAN take it, and that I CAN come back with effective and powerful attack. Good luck to you.
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You should just ignor him don't drop what your doing and isolate yourself.  Ignor him.  If you can't concentrate just leave without saying a word.  If you listen it will bother you and make you want to yell back.  If you yell back he will be even more upset and that may lead to and awful fight.  Just tune him out.  I know my dad was a mean old man and blamed everything on me even though I was his little princess.  I tune him out and go about my business.
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Tough one.  These scenarios usually become an issue over time, so a quick fix is usually not the best.  Aggressive individuals usually prey on others that allow "bullying" tactics.  As the aggressor sees the weakness, they get comfortable treating the person like that over time and expect a certain response.\n\nIf you want to curtail the behaviour, start standing up in a non-offensive manner and tell him why you can't stay late or work weekends or whatever.  Make excuses, even lie if you have to. Just make it difficult for him to expect the unreasonable.
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You need to do WHATEVER the prisoner and his sister tell you to do, because they really OUGHT to be running your life.\n\nYou obviously lack the ability to control yourself, so let others control you.\n\nOr-- you could grow a backbone and put and end to it.
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Just talk to him and tell him to start standing up for himself. All it takes is a little courage and strength. Tell the bullies to back off and give him some room to breath. believe it or not if he never stands up for himself he will continue to keep getting bullied. people tend to pick on those who they know wont do anything or say anything back to them, but when they defend themselves the bullying will eventually stop.
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Sounds to me like a maturity issue.  He probably attacked you at first because he was intimidated that you would reject him.  By first rejecting you, he feels powerful and in control, taking his focus off his own fears.\n\nTread lightly and try being friends with him and see what his true intentions are.\n\nGood luck
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No, beating is not the solution. Ignoring him is the solution. He likes to say these words for the reaction they get, so by ignoring him you don't give him any reason to keep saying them.
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if you are any good at fight like a degree above black then you should start teaching your friends the word will get around trust me and local matches in martial arts if you are not taking now is a good time to start\nnow if it is you that wants to kick his buttt then you need to space youself from him
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Keep him guessing...  =)\n\nJust kidding.  If evil ones who hurt others are treated with generosity, some may react well, but others who are bullies will take that as a license to abuse.  So, use wisdom.  My personal rule is give someone three chances.  AFTER THAT go after them, so they remember never ever to repeat.
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Talk to parents.  I know it's hard but try to ignore her by not being around her.  Sounds like she is very unhappy and becoming a bully.  Try to talk to her about how you feel too, but definitely let parents know of her abuse.
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i am exactly like you are.  I'm always.. stuck and getting picked on.  But i just ignore them.  I stick with my friend.  dont' worry about them.  there obviously immature and just ignore them and they will stop.  I know that its hard and that sometimes  you want to go up and smack them.  but it will make things worse if you do it to by talking about htem behind there back.  just remember how much that it hurt you.  and now you don't want to hurt htem.  they will EVENTUALLY grow up.  and if they don't.. well then thats there problem.  just be how you want to be.  its okay to cry. i've cried at school a million times.  all because of DRAMA.. it sucks but you'll make it through.  good luck.. best of wishes<33
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what an idiot.... he is hanging on to unresolved issues.. probably that you moved on and lived great without him.. He's a bully, and he no longer, and hasnt for ages had any hold on you, but being a bully, still feels the need to hurt you, IGNORE HIM at your sons graduation, he dosnt exist, its a shame you have to be at the same venue, at the same time, maybe just a nod in acknowledgement, nothing more, dont, for gods sake get into a convo with him, he will try and bring you down, cause he's still an arsehole, and that will make him the WINNER, cause his bullying has worked again... so IGNORE HIM....please