The girl that i wanted doesn't want me. I'm very lonely but i can't move on because she's the only one; i don't WANT anyone else. \nIt's been over a year since she first rejected me and i've done everything that i can think of to win her heart. Truthfully I've pushed her a little too much and currently she won't even speak to me.\nI still love her as much as ever and i'm not even close to being ready to move on but i'm VERY lonely. Should i go against my heart and date other girls even though i'm not truly interested in them?
120622
You dont HAVE to date, but i think you should get out and meet some new people. You may find that there is a reason she doesnt return your love, that is most likely because there is someone else out there for you.
405589
I feel your pain!!!  Keep busy and hang with close friends. Honestly the best way to get her out of your head is to find another. Plenty of us females out here that would love to be on there guys mind 24/7. Just keep looking.
432763
Hate to break it to you but you are an "after thought" to her....She came over cause she was "bored."  You are too special to be a replacement for whatever she has lost.  She lost you before, heck she walked away. You need to do the same.  I know from life that girls like that DON'T want guys that are always there.  They just use them.  Sorry for the tough answer but I am answering as if I was talking to my son, which I have done and he is now 23.
615203
You should move on; and if she does not follow (leave the other man), then it wasn't meant to be.  You are currently missing opportunities to find someone who is into you!
669089
You need to move on, I don't think that the relationship you long for will ever be.  She obviously isn't interested in you.
481500
If you're serious, dont, no matter how much you loved this girl, she is definatly not worth your life,  There are plenty more girls out there, girls that you deserve and that deserve you.  Seriously, you'l find someone else, i thought i wouldnt but i did....\n\n\n\n\nIf your not serious, and this is a joke, well then you are just plain sick....
199012
I'd be nice but firm.  Tell her you enjoy her friendship and would like to continue it, but that the relationship is over and that you would like to meet other girls.  Maybe she doesn't realize she's doing this.  If she still has feelings for you, it's gonna hurt no matter how you say it, but eventually, if she's mature enough, she'll get over it and you can restart the friendship.  Good luck!
593466
Why don't you ask her out?\nDon't be afraid, it is the only way you an find out if she likes you too. And If she doesn't don't worry, nothing happens. Only you would now that what you have imagined was not real, and that you should move on and try again, later with another girl you like.
294900
Hey babe, your situation bites to say the least.. I've been there once or twice before and I've been on the opposite side as well. The way I handled the "rejection" was to take a step back and look at how my feelings were affecting our friendship. Once I did that I realised that we were not suited as lovers and that a close friendship was all that the both of us were capable of. \n\nIt takes a lot of time and patience to get to that stage though, so stay strong, when you're spending time together, enjoy it for what it is, stop looking at her actions as if there is a hidden meaning.. trust me - the only hidden meaning is your imagination! \n\nFrom the other side of the great love/lust struggle, when my best friend fell for me she declared her love and I let her down quite gently. For the first few days everything was great but by the end of the week we were constantly fighting and I felt that I couldn't breathe because she was smothering me with her attention. \nWe took a break for about a month and when we started really hanging out together again, she had cooled off and realised that she would rather have me in her life as a friend rather than chasing me out of her life by her desire.\n\nWhat you need to do is sit down and think about what this girl means to you and whether you can stand being around her until your feelings die down a little. \nIf the answer is yes, then maybe you need to limit the time you spend around eachother for a while and then you can go back to how things were before.\nIf the answer is no, then you need to take a look at your own life and try and come to the realisation that it may never happen and if your friend doesn't want to take you up on your offer, then you need to focus on yourself and spoil yourself until a truly deserving candidate comes into the scene :)\n\nGood luck, don't shed too many tears over her, try and broaden your circle of friends and soon enough you will rarely be thinking of her!
158530
she sounds like she likes you more than just friends... i think she had second thoughts after her first refusal of a relationship, if you still want to, you can make your offer again, i think now is a good time and she seems ready.. Good Luck
521272
You have it bad for her.  If she liked you, she would have went out with her when you asked her!  Seems like you need to get her out of your system!  It she wanted to go out with her and you asked her, she would no doubt let you know that she was willing to go out with you now!  It seems like you need to get real and forget her!
131924
Come on, darlin, open your eyes and find someone new.\nThis girl sas and does things that hurt you?  She cheated on you?  She wants you but doesn't want you now?\n\nPlease move on.  No ultimatums, no if's and;s or but's...move on.  She had her chance, she broke your heart and you can not allow this to happen again.\n\nIf you open your heart and your mind, you'll find a new love that might treat you like you need to be treated.  A new beginning with a new love.  Stop pining over this other gal and let loose of her.  She isn't worth it, believe me.\n  As I said, she had her chance, she blew it.  Once a cheater, always a cheater.  She is just too immature for you.  Move on...............
180477
if she likes someone else, why dont u look for someone else? thn maybe she's gonna ask the same question here!!\n\n:D
325674
A broken heart is a broken heart.  Take time to get past\n\nthis before even considering "liking" another girl.  You \n\ndid not give your age as this could have a bearing on \n\nthis situation.  Keep a place in your heart for her.  Most\n\npeople have a first love & they will always be that. \n\nInstead of another girl at this time concentrate on your\n\nschool work and/or job. Be involved in group get togethers, \n\nsports, clubs, church, etc.  You are responsible for your \n\nhappiness, not her.  Luckily, people survive a broken \n\nheart. Wish her the best in life and let her live her life\n\nas she chooses.  In all likeness, you're both too young for\n\nany type of committment.  \n\nI wish you the best and know that you are not alone in the\n\n"I can't get her to want me" department. I don't know you\n\nwell enough to offer any further advice.  Again, I wish you\n\nsmiles.
83877
Do not change except to change how you feel about this silly girl. She doesn't seem to respect you much at all from the sounds of it.Learn how to really like who you are!!! Rejection can make people doubt themselves and who they are.that can be natural at first,but you have to let it go.You must like yourself better than anyone,and enjoy being who you are before you can know what woman will be right for you. The one who accepts you as you really are is the one worth the wait and your time. hang in there,and be good to yourself. Do what you love to do,and enjoy being free while it lasts!!! Best wishes to ya'!
277486
You don't need a girl like this,move on find someone that is willing to return the love that you are giving.Don't spend time with someone who is putting you second.
425856
i think she's being honest with you and that she really doesn't want to tie you down...but on the other hand if you had already told her that you'd only want her then i think i will not let you go anymore...i just did what i had to do that is to let you know that i am open to possibilities that you might want to see someone else...but in your case, you are not wanting that...so,\n\ni think....maybe, just maybe...she just want to be out coz there is someone...but then why wait for you if there was someone else? maybe she just want to sort things out...let her have her space then...if she comes back and you find it in your heart that you still want her then go for it...\n\nif you don't want this option then talk to her and tell her that you still want to continue...if she said, no...then, you have to let go...nothing you can do here.