I can not figure out why  I am so angry at my boyfriend, all the time.  I mean we get into it, and I just let it all pile up inside and now I am just So mad all the time. I really love him, and I know he loves me, but how do I get past all this stupid anger.  I blow up over everything stupid he does (which by his own admission is a lot of stuff). He doesn't cheat on me, he just does stupid sh*t.  I need help.  I know I am going to loose him.
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stop blaming yourself.alot of times women will make excuses for men.i dont know what he does thats stupid you didnt really say,but if your getting so angry at him when you sa y he does stupid stuff its probaly because hes trying to hurt you and it sounds to me its working.if its really you not him i would talk to him about it explain to him that when he  says or does whatever it is thats  hes doing its really hurting you and let him know you really love him and dont wanna lose him.tell him your feeling always see if theres something you two can work out so he doesnt do the things anymore and you wont lash out at him.talk to freinds,counsler,read a book on anger,look up anger on the internet,write  what you read so you can look at when you know your getting ready to lash out at him,maybe put it on your wall where you can see it at all times....\nyou gotta act quick cause men do get tired of women lashing out at them and badgering them.i know from my last relationship I had.It ended bad and we have 3 children together now theirs alot of water under the bridge and you dont want that trust me it hurts bad...just follow your heart sweeti \n         takecare......
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He's being a jerk.....because he made plans with you. That is extremely rude.\n\nHow long have you been dating. Maybe, he feels that you are guys are in that 'comfort zone' where he can do stuff like that.  You need to tell him why you're mad though.
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Hello:\n\nFirst off, I know exactly how you are feeling. My ex-boyfriend and I spent more time fighting than we did simply being happy with each other. It just got to be so frusterating. Ultimately I just decided that something wasn't working because we were arguing about the same few things. \n\nWe decided to sit down and have a serious talk about it. One of our main problems was that he was an incredibly jealous person, and I usually am not. He would get upset if he saw me talking to one of my guy friends. I have never ever been unfaithful to anyone and just could never do that to someone, and yet he always assumed that I was messing around behind his back. \n\nAnd then he would get frusterated that I was such a trusting person, and that I would never confront him for talking to another girl. So he started pushing the limits a little bit in order to make me jealous, and boy did it work. It just seemed that we were spending so much time hurting each other. And we agreed that the relationship wasn't working out. \n\nNow we are both in relationships, and we remain friends. And both of our relationships are much more successful than we ever were together. Some relationships just aren't meant to be. It was through that experience that I realized it isn't enough to simply love someone, there is more to making a relationship work. \n\nI would suggest having a serious talk with your girlfriend. Figure out which things you are fighting about most often, and I'm sure you will find a common thread. Then you need to decide if it's worth it to make an effort to fix the relationship, or if it's time to move on. \n\nI wish you the best of luck, and I hope this helps!
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If love is true, then I would suggest counseling and possibly anger management classes or something.  You certainly don't want that to happen again and lose control for either of your sakes!  Good luck!!
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Probally cause you have a anger and control problem, before you loose him I would consider going to the people who can help you deal with this and get some counseling. Onedeay he may get tired of your crap and leave you, then you will be misserable.
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First of all, Happy Birthday!!! I say talk to your boyfriend before wrecking your relationship. Mabe something bad happened to him and he didn't feel like talking about it. Or mabe he's being a giant jerk. But find out before moving on to the new guy. Good luck and no matter what have fun today!!!
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Yes you have a right to be angry.  No he will never change.  I used to have a bf of 3 yrs that did this, and no matter how many times I would tell him that bothered me he did not change.  Of course he would be good for a bit, but then he'd go right back to his same old ways.  I have had other bfs since then that do not do that.  He is more concerned about himself and what he wants to do which is not call you until he is good and ready.  Its a selfish nature that does not change in them.  I'm sorry to say this, but you have to do one of two things.  Either accept it and stop getting mad, knowing it will never change, or move on and find someone who respects you enough to keep his word.  Right now you are unsure because its a small thing, but this sort of behavior from him, is only a glimpse of what his behavior would be about the bigger things.  Good Luck to you as I know how you feel, torn.
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I am going through exactly what you are going through as well. My girlfriend just left me because she was not sure she loved me either. All I can tell you is that it is going to hurt really bad. There will be some days you cannot breathe because of the pain it causes. The only thing I can tell you is that you need to find two very important things: First, you have to find something creative to take out your frustrations upon. While focusing on your studies can help, it really does nothing. Write, draw, sing, dance, do something to get it out of you. Second, this is going to sound very out there, but you need to find a place where you are happy. For me, it is in the rain. I love being in the rain. There I have no problems and I just smile. It can be physical or in your mind, but you have to find that place. Go there every so often and just enjoy yourself. It will make you feel better. Meditation can help too.\n\nAs for your boyfriend: I think that if he is going to get pissed about something as dumb as myspace, you may need to really take a look at him and ask "What the fuck?"\nAlso, if he loves you, which I think he does or he would not bring this drama into it, he might comeback. I am not going to tell you to move on. It is not that easy. What I am going to tell you is to stay strong, and have faith that you are not only a good person, but good things will come to you in this life. You just gotta have faith.
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I am also going through a break up right now. My BF of 4.5 years broke up with me 3 weeks ago. I was happy with him and he was happy with me, but he didn't know what he wanted out of life, blah, blah, blah. He still loves me and I still love him, so I have hope that we will get back together, but I'm not holding my breath.\n\nI too went through the depressed stage. I found that writing in a journal about how I felt helped alot. It let me get my feelings out without being overly emotional in front of other people. \n\nI am now in the angry stage, where I'm just so mad at him for doing this to me. \n\nI've heard that grief has many stages. My advice to you is to not make contact with him. If he calls don't answer and maybe wait a couple of hours to call him back. Make him think that you don't care.\n\nI wish you the best of luck.\n\n(((((HUGS)))))
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I am going through the same thing, my boyfriend has not cheated on me, but he makes me misserable, when I look at him I want to throwup. I just take it one day at a time, also exercise is a good way to realease endorphins, and those help make you happy, I probably spend to much time exercising, but at least it is productive. I wish I could give you some better advice, I would say break up with him, but sometimes that is hard to do, if you need someone to talk to let me know, I am always here to help.
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Smart girl! Learn from your past. Take it SLOW. Your relationship is not successful because you go from point A-M skipping B,C,D,E,F,G,H,I,J,K,L etc. Learn to trust peope. If you have issues then be open with the other person. If he gets pissed then cut him off. Your the one that's hurt not him. So he'll never understand. Stand your ground!!!
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anger is an eay cover-up for being embarrassed.  we get conditioned into these behaviors.  if you get mad instead of apologizing you maintain control adn people are afraid of upsetting you.  move on girl, it sounds like he needs help, and you need a healthy realtionship.  this is not going to resolve itself.
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You need to stop being so angry.  Get some help!!!
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I went through this, but the guy cheated on me. I still have anger for him, which happened a little over 3 years ago, my current boyfriend though the same way your girlfriend is think about the anger. You need to tell your girlfriend that you have anger built up towards her because what she did was wrong and you can't forgive her for that. But one thing I do suggest is that when your around your girlfriend don't mention anything about your ex cheating on you, pretend you don't even know who she is now. It is hard but trust me it pays off in the long run. I know don't even think about my ex cheating on me, because I love my boyfriend now and I'm happy with him. Just talk to your girlfriend and tell her exactly how you feel about the whole situation.
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this reminds me of my relationship.. it's hectic. give him some time.. you already apologized to him. Tell him to call you whenever he feels like talking to you. GIve him some time you already said sorry so that's good that you've accepted your error.. but yea goodluck... try not to disrespect each other.. once you disrespect each other then it's really hard to work things out... and remember everyone has arguments... just be straight foward with him and tell him that you already apologized to him and to please not be in a bad mood... communication is the key! goodluck hopefully he's not moody anymore... and ask him why he's moody maybe something else was making him moody :P
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Try appoloigizing, and asking what you did that made him so mad at you. Were you having a bad day and something you said sounded cruel? Was HE having a bad day? Still, nothing works better than a heartfelt appoligy.
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Just listen to your heart. If he makes you happy constantly, that's a good thing, but does he make you mad for good reasons, or is it just terribly hard to get along with him? Talk to him about it. Try to figure out what's going on. Good luck!