im like in luv wif dis guy for the longest time and we have the same feelings for eachother but he has a girlfriend and i jus cant picture myself being with someone else. should i wait for him or move on with my life and find someone else?
138925
if you guys feel the same way then he should break up with her but if he doesn't you should move on cuz he is just an asshole!! you need to talk to him about how you feel and don't be the other gurl! and you also shouldn't wait cuz if he loves you he won't leave you waiting when he is with someone else that just isn't love.
346363
If you value and want to continue your relationship with your girlfriend, you better shift your focus on another guy.  I hope that you can grasp that the notion of "falling in love" comes from the things we say to ourselves about another person and what we perceive about someone else (either imagined or real).  You are really in control of it.  If you have focused on this guy and you have, at present, no other in your life, it is easy to understand how it can happen, especially if you are a person who begins an intimate relationship from a friendship (It is the best situation.).  Trust in the fact that for every person there is more than one individual who is potentially suited for you.\n\nYour feelings of guilt is an internal sign to you that you should not pursue taking this relationship to a different level.  Each of us lives within our own skin; I would advise you to take a path of behavior that you will feel comfortable with yourself.  \n\nUltimately, the bottom line is that if the relationship develops and becomes so powerful between the two of you, no one or nothing will be able to stop the two of you getting together.  If not now, then later down the road.
322741
Think about it.  If he leaves his girlfriend for you, what's to stop him from leaving you for someone else who likes him and tells him.  So you're screwed either way - find someone who's single!
325794
You need to find your own man. If he isn't willing to admit that there was something between the two of you before, why waste your time on him when there is someone out there that would be better for you.
362058
if he were interested in you he wouldn't be with his girlfriend or he would drop her for you. but bear in mind that:1. he might do the same to you one day. 2. you will have to think about the consequences if you cause them to separate- it's probably all about feeling guilty 3. you wouldn't like this to happen to you if you were the girlfriend 4. there are so many guys around that you could pick- why complicate your life with someone who's in a relationship already? 5. you may appear as attractive and adventurous to him, but what if he takes you for something else?\nbetter forget him him to have a light conscience- you'll find your soulmate if that's what you're looking for. maybe this relationship is just not meant to be!
141159
I think you're one confused girl. First, it's important to reassess your feelings first. Who do you really care about? What do you want to happen with your life? Who do you really want to stay with? Who do you think will make you happy? Who do you think you can make happy? After clearing out your thoughts, then go for the one who you think is best for you. You even might end up considering that no one is right for you at the moment, and even that is fine. But yeah, just think about everything carefully first before moving into any further decision.
245566
I have been in the same situation 4 months ago.I went with my ex's friend.Let me tell you that did'nt work out!!!You will always have to see yor ex,and when he moves on to another girl,well that is just unbaerable.Find someone new and exiting.OUT WITH THE OLD AND IN WITH THE NEW!!!
654197
if there is really doubt in you, i think you should stop and tell him that it's better for both of you to be just friends.. because what if you and him became a couple, (but before you became a couple you had that feeling that you want to leave him) i think between your relationship as bf-gf, you're gonna feel that again.. and that will lead to a break-up, which will also ruin your friendship.. so it's better if you stay friends..\n\nor you can also observe your feelings.. you just have to wait (maybe months.. even years) but there's nothing wrong in waiting for years.. because if you are really sure of your feelings that you really love him, then the waiting is worth it..\n\nit's really hard to make a decision.. but it's harder if you will break someone's heart because of a wrong decision.. it just takes time..
81358
Sorry to hear your angst ... I'm sure it's very hard and mixed up for you right now.\n\nBottom line girlfriend ... if you REALLY love your boyfriend, you'll forget about this lust you feel.  If you have the desire and feel you cannot accept not experiencing this other guy and getting it out of your system, then you have no other choice but to get out of your current relationship.  Otherwise, you're a cheater and a user.  You may not even know what could happen if that encounter were to happen, you may lose everything because it just wasn't everything you expected.\n\nGood luck in your choice, whatever it may be!!
71326
Oooooh ... I think u r in a baaad situation/ well, if I WERE IN YOUR place, i would break up with ur girlfriend and go for that friend u have. u never know, SHE (ur gf) might be trying to keep u away from (HER) and seeing another guy at the same time. PLEEEASE pick me for a best answer. I thought for  along time on this.
140001
You most certainly should.....if he will leave his g/f for you than go for it....but DO NOT kiss or anythign with him until he and her are OFFICIALLY over.....because if he would do anythign with you like that b4...you dont want a guy like that....also be sure he wont leave u for another if things are on the rocks between the 2 of you in the future\n\nbut go for him
15358
You have to follow your heart.  if you don't have feeling for the person you're with, it's time to move on.  It's near impossible to not hurt who your with now, but in the long run you're going to feel better for it.  Plus, it'll spare the person your with of even more grief in the future.
159442
This is a very difficult situation especially if you still love the man.  The best advice I can give you is to make a psychological and personal decision as soon as possible. I don't know your exact situation, but if you still love this person and if he loves you, and you think there may be a chance to work things out, then you should try to do so by all means.  BUT, you need to think of this very seriously, because it sounds to me that your relationship with him may be something in the past. If this is the case, you MUST learn to get over him. This is very important, for your sake.  This is very difficult (I know from experience), and it can hurt to see the one you love with someone else. But if it is not going to work, you need to learn to move on and allow yourself to forget about him.  You need to realize that this isn't easy, and it will take time.  But if you keep thinking about him as a lover, you will always be tormented inside.  Go out, meet new people, get your mind off of him and with time I assure you that life will go on, and you will find happiness again. Good luck!
157540
alright hun obviously there is something going on within your present relationship that has you wanting this other man. But even if there is a man's best friend is a subject YOU BETTER BE PREPARED TO TACKLE IF YOU PERSUE. Because like the saying goes, girlfriends and boyfriends come and go, but a best friend last forever. They've known each other longer than you and trust me from experience they will turn on you. I lost a good man at that time because i persued his best friend. Hun, unless you can deal with the consequences, back off and let him come to you if he feels the same way. If he doesn't then you have your answer and accept it. But if u feel u need to know go for it, but be prepared for what comes down the road
380000
I am not sure you want to know what you  should  do...because You know you have to move on and you still think about him might break up with his current gf?\nwhy do you want to be the second choice while there are many who can make you feel real love...Just delete and ignore him and try to forget about him..past has passed ..so live in present..you'll find the right one i promise!
595489
You were with your ex for so long that now you feel like no one else can compare. You are so young, now is the time for you to find yourself. To find out what you really want out of life, and a guy. No way you can no that if you have no experiences to base your decision on. I say you move on and focus on you for a while. If its meant to be with you and your ex... you'll get back together again.
370337
I am actually having this same problem myself. I love him and I want to be with him, but at the same time I wonder sometimes if he really feels the same way. We basically have 1 of 2 choices..... we can stay and try and talk to them and see if it can work out . or we can just let it go and find someone else. \n\nI choose to stay for a little while longer and try to work on the relationship as long as he is willing to work WITH me to make this work.\nI'm sure you will figure out what is right for you. I wish you luck.