Well I never find a good man that wants to love me and be nice to me. I know that I have finally started to love myself and now I want to find a man who wants to do the same. I am a 22 year old girl who is in collage and I work full time. What should I do??
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I think that honesty and trust can overcome any other attraction. If you have that than your relationship can last forever. If you have honesty and trust every other feeling will come with it.
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i know the feeling. i'm in a relationship that is not going very good right now and it is killing me. i've had guys lie straight to my face, dealing with them cheating on me and one of them broke my jaw! but as they say time to move on. keep trying u'll b amazed at the strength that comes from within. not everyone is a bad person and if keep saying no to everyone that comes along and ur scared of being hurt then u may miss out on mrs. right. i'm only 19 yrs old and i have been in may reationships and i know that ur only 21 there is still time out there but also i understand the need to be loved and to love someone. there is someone out there b glad with what u got!! most people go their whole lives and have never loved someone. and u r starting to love someone but who knows? maybe she feels the same. i wish u good luck
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Maybe it's true that you haven't met the right guy yet.. but i always look for where i went wrong..is it the guys or me? if they were bad, u wouldn't have stayed that long with them.. so it's not entirely them.. U have to understand that there are steps to finding the right man for you...that's by knowing who u really are and what your looking for in a relationship.....most of us don't know it, but we want someone who's just like us in many aspects.\nNow lets go to the happy part.....huns i don't believe that anyone can make you happy if you're not happy yourself.. i always say that men are a source of happiness, but the main source should be me....if i didn't make my self happy, no one else will be able to make me happy.
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Most women don't know what they want even at an older age. I think most of us go through a period of yes, we do want the type of guy listed above, cute, smart, funny, respectful, but when we get that there just not bad enough. Don't have enough edge, they seem sissy to us. As women mature and grow older then we realize that those bad boys are just well, bad boys and we actually want a commitment from a guy not some loser w/o a job or ambition for anything.   While it's hard on guys, you just have to be patient there's  girl out there that's wanting a nice guy and can't find them and get's stuck w/ losers...hell, i always did. I think sometimes it maybe not so much a sense of false hope just maybe afraid of oh, my gosh what are my friends going to think b/c he's just so nice and this might make them think he's too sissy. I wish you luck in you search. God bless.
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When we are young we are looking for the adventure.  Just you wait, the older we get, the more we learn to apprecaite the inside qualitites and not so much the outside ones.\n\nAt 24, you have a lot of dating ahead of you.\n\nHang in there.\n\nI have a very good male friend that is the nice guy too, so I understand where you are coming from.
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what u need to do is stop searching so desperetly. if u set ur mind on finding somebody then no matter who u end up with, u wont have a good relationship because the only reason u are with that someone is so that u wont be alone. u gotto have more fun with urself and be happy to be with urself and then the perfect someone will come along... thats what happened to me.
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its all about the attitude.\ngurl, the best thing to do is if you think things are not working for you because you cant find a nice guy then maybe it means you need to change somethings about yourself.\nI dont mean to offend you but you might want to think of what you think is the reason why guys you preffer dont come knocking at your door.\nHow about a makeover?\nhope this helps..
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Well it seems to me that you are an insecure person and you suround yourself with people who are equally insecure as yourself.  Because to you it's easy that way.  It's easy to live unchallenged and it's easier for you to just take what is offered.  When you don't like a situation that you are in you have to figure out how your gonna change it.  The first step is too stop taking advantage of other ppl especially if they let you because they are just as lost as you are and you will surely never find your way.  The next step is to work on being comfortable with yourself.  You have to be by yourself to do that. I would suggest that you stop dating or having any type of romantic relationship because nobody will ever be able to appreciate you if you don't even appreciate yourself. And then , after all that is worked out, you find a good secure, honest, independent woman, that isn't gonna let you fall back into your usual routine.  After that i can't say it will all be wonderful, but at least you know its something that you want instead of something that's just there. Godd luck!
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i cano often be found at church.  im only 22, but hey, age is just a number.  seriously though, we are a bit harder to find than an average guy.  usually (i know in my case) we are a bit shy.  we don't often hit on girls, we think it rude.  ergo, nice guys finish last.  some of us do respect women, personally i had no choice growing up, having 4 sisters, no brothers until i was 11, and a step dad that i really didnt get along with, it wasnt hard to learn.\n\n\n\nmaybe try lowes, or star nursery.  stay away from wal mart though.  unless you want a good deal on something.  \n\n\ni got you beat on how long its been since a date, too.  i know its not a contest and i probably get the loser award, but im working on 22 1/2 yrs.  also known as "never"
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I understand where you are coming from and I too am single and feel that I will be forever unless I do something pretty soon!. I am a very lovely and single, beautiful 33 year old and grown out of pubs and clubbing where there are streams of teenagers and mid twenties.  \n\nThere is no where in my town appropriate for people of my age socializing-wize and used to meet my partners whilst at University so now I am no longer a student, this makes things akward again!.  Everywhere I go, I see married couples and loved-up youngsters or singles like myself. Most are all now on the internet but I am so wary of that stuff when there are married men posing as single on these sites and men who post on every sight in search of more than one love-interest.\n\nIt is diffocult I must admit but the trick is to remain optomistic and be very specific about what you are looking for in a man and then go to places that you are most likely to meet these types of men. Bars and clubs are okay, but there are a lot out there looking for fun only and unless you are prepared for that and happy with it until you get to know a guy, then sitting around will do not much good either.\n\nI am more conscious as I have gotten older but also more decided about what I want in a man and that is friendship.  This is the best basis for all relationships to be lasting.  I am determined to be married but once I get myself off my but and start making things happen.
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Nice guys tend to be in nice places. You won't catch a brook trout in a storm sewer. Join a church or the Young Democrats or the Young Republicans or the Sierra Club. Volunteer for a work day at Friends of the River. Join a gym. Look for single dads at your kids' activities. Stay clear of bars.\n\nTake it very, very slow. Assuming you are past 35, from the list of problems, you will probably have to settle for someone 10 - 15 years older than you. It is an ugly fact of life that there are about 2 nice women for every nice guy out there, so the guys can pick and choose.\n\nMy wife works in a large medical building with a lot of nurses. We belong to a large church, and I work for a meduim sized-corporation. The lack of reasonable men is astounding. I know just 2 single men I would not hesitate to introduce to anyone. I know a dozen women I wish I could pair up with nice guys.
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no problems, took me a long time to find someone myself.  Just be happy with what you got, keep your eyes open, not only for someone but for that little click that just tells you it's right.  Be confident as well.  A nice guy will come around when the time is right.  Just don't make yourself paranoid while you wait.
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Finding a decent guy isn't that easy. I'm speaking from experience here. I'm 25 and in less than a year will finally be finished with my Ph.D., and have found that most guys are untrustworthy. But I do know that there are a very few decent ones out there. Maybe try looking in different places, like museums, church, the theater, etc. If you ever want to chat about this or anything else feel free to drop me a line
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i can totally relate. i am the only single girl in a group of 10 girlfriends-they're all in long-term relationships and getting married. i haven't had a boyfriend in 2 years, and in the past i've had my share of no-so-great men. but i'm happier alone than unhappy. we just have to realize that we are still young-we still have lots ahead of us and we will find that 4% of good men in this world to be good company with:)\n\nps i look at half of the relationships my girlfriends have and i'd rather cut off my foot than be in some of their positions, anyway. some are stuck with emotionally abusive/selfish men, selfish lovers, drinkers, or just herpes and scared to move onto another relationship because of fear of rejection (woo hoo! yeah, i'm sure your man isn't cheating, the disease just showed up!)... you name it.\n\ni'm sorry about your divorce and about how one man found it appropriate to break it off with you in a pretty cowardly way. i think time for you will wear things off a bit.. hang in there! you know you will end up with someone who is GOOD for you\n\ngod bless
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I think you are at a point in life, because of your situation, where you can truly weed out the men from the boys.  If you are looking to find a guy who could possibly be the one to spend the rest of your life with, then I think it's safe to say you don't want some guy who just wants to have sex with you, right?  Well it's obvious the pool got a lot smaller.  Well I just want to tell you that there are such guys who don't just want sex and honestly just want to be with with someone sweet (and I'm sure you are).  \nI can tell you this because I was in a relationship a couple of years ago with a really nice girl who also had her own little girl.  I was 21 at the time and she was completely gorgeous, but I truly did not want to have sex with her, at least not for a very long time....I truly just wanted to be with her.  I honestly felt that she was really sweet and her daughter was wonderful, and even though I was young (still am :), I was totally willing to be a part of her daughters life if it meant I could be with her...even possible getting married and taking a father role, if it led to that. \n\nAll I'm really trying to say is that "Yes", there are guys out there that will love you and your son with no strings attached.  Just be patient.....and more importantly, for your son, be picky ;)
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It could be because you just haven't found the right person yet. I know, I know, it sounds totally cliche, but I'm 22 and have a similar problem. The best advice anyone has given me is to just focus yourself and what you want in life and the right person will come along.
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Listen..you sound like a wonderful person. You seem very respectful unlike many guys out there. I love the way you think, we need more guys out there like you. Your doing everything right dont worry, your time will come that you meet that special someone. Good Luck!