I am not single anymore since 4 months but I am often afraid of having a baby.\nWhat is your idea if you  have some experiences then please help.\nHaving a baby is enjoyable? not a big problem?
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a baby is an expensive, smelly, pooing, pisssing, crying most time consuming thing ever...and well worth every bit
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Would it ever occur to you that some people DONT WANT TO have kids? Not everyone is out there wanting to just be a baby machine. Some people want to have a career or travel and have other priorities that do not include having children.\n\nAnd just because you decide to not have children does not mean you should stay single. Doesn't everyone deserve to be happy?\n\nNot everyone should have children - should someone who is addcited to crack (but is married) have kids? Uhhh probably not.\n\nDon't be so closed minded.
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What has age or the fact that there is a baby got to do with anything?I have dated a single Mom before and she was the nicest girl I have ever gone out with,a lot nicer than a lot of single girls I know.
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there is no way anybody here can answer that for you, the fact that you feel the need to ask is not a good sign though.  make sure you can take care of yourself and your baby on your own in case it doesn't though, its the best way to protect yourself against the possibility that it won't and you are now responsible for another life.  why are you having a child with someone you have so many doubts about?
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Hallie D,\n\nMost likely nothing! Generally you are not considered to have a problem with fertility unless you have been trying for a year because normal couples can take that long to get pregnant.  Note that in any one cycle, the most fertile couple have a 1 in 3 chance of pregnancy so you need to go on for a while sometimes. I know a couple who had nothing wrong with them but had their first child after 4 years of trying. 2 months is definitely too short and 6 months is not the end of the world if you are normal.\nThings that can affect fertilty include diseases such as polycystic ovary syndrome - (you tend to be a very hairy female if you have this) problems with egg production/release (Ovulation), low or abnormal sperm production by the male partner, hormonal problems, problems with the uterus such as fibroids or abnormal structure. There are many more causes but your doctors should be able to help.\n\nIt also helps to know which days you are most likely to conceivee. This depends on the length of your cycle etc but I have found a website to save you the calculation. It may be worthwhile recalculating every month than just taking all the dates they give you though. It will also help if your partner abstains from sex a few days before the fertile periods indicated to boost his sperm count.\nhttp://www.ivillage.co.uk/pregnancyandbaby/tools/ovucal\n\nSome other thinks that can impair fertility are drugs so if you are on regular medication for anything, see your doctor and check. Alcohol, drugs and ssmoking lower sperm counts and fertility so if they are your habits, well, you know hwat to do.\n\nFinally, you haven't tried for long enough to establish there is a problem, so don't worry. Too much anxiety and stress can also affect your fertility. Some women stop having their periods under stress!\n\nAll the best and good luck. I hope to hear one day that your cute little baby has finally arrived in his/her own time.
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Gosh, how do you get such a depressing reasoning out of the religions?  We're being tested here on earth, and it gets tough, but life isn't just all about pain and suffering, hopefully.  Maybe yours is though??  There are still so many wonderful things in life to celebrate, and having a baby is one of them.  I have a little 11 months old, and he is the light of my life, and I will never regret bringing him into this world.  Life in this world is not the perfect state, but we are all going toward that perfect state - the afterlife - but what we do in this life will reflect our next one.  If you are so sad, and have such a bad outlook on your life, I hope you get some relief in family and friends.  Children are the most wonderful thing in this world, and don't let anyone tell you otherwise.
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this is a personal thing for me to discuss, but hey, you asked the question.\n\na few years ago, i gave birth to a baby girl that i knew i couldnt afford to take care of. my ex b/f wouldnt get a job, wouldnt help me at all through my whole pregnancy. when i was about 6 months pregnant, i found a wonderful family to adopt her. the mother had always wanted to have a little girl they have 3 boys (GREAT kids) and after thath she was unable to conceive. so i began talking to her on a daily basis, they flew me to the state they lived in to give birth to their daughter. the whole time i was in the hospital, the mother (name withheld) spend most of my stay in the hospital with me. \nto this day, i wonder what my little girl is doing, and things like that..i havent talked to the family since i got home from basic training and ait,but i know, that my little girl is receiving all of the attention, and love that she deserves..both of which are things i could have (and still in my heart) gave her, however there is no way i could have afforded to give her the awesome life she deserves.
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You really have to follow your heart on that one, my friend!  Before I met my husband, I opted to stay single for MANY years, because I just couldn't be bothered with the bs of the dating ritual and all the games that go along with that ride!!  Usually when you are not looking to fall in love is when it hits ya right between the eyes!!  Don't worry about what is right or wrong (or "normal"-whatever the heck THAT is!!) in the eyes of others...as long as YOU are comfortable with your choices, then right on!  As for choosing not to have children....I believe that it takes a more thoughtful person to decide that they do not want to raise children!  Soo many people have children for all the wrong reasons and raising a child is NOT to be taken lightly..it is a lifetime commitment full of many ups and downs.  That is a personal and very private decision that a person makes. I have alot of respect for those who know what they want (and not what they think others want for them)! Good Luck!!
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it's very common. we went through the same issues when our first son was born. we still got through it now with our 2nd baby. hang in there.
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i had my first kid when i was 18 i was not scarred at all some people just like the idea of haveing kids or they might be scared but is just not saying anything but is is normal to be scared with being pregnant
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Not normal to me and I've been with my husband for almost 20 years. To each their own though. I have a friend that only has sex when she wants to have a baby and thinks that this is the only time they need to have any intimate contact. Funny world sometimes.
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I am in that situation right now. I had a one night stand and got pregnant, which I was told I could never have children. The guy and I got together but we weren't in love. We made our bed so we are lieing in it. It isn't our son's fault that we didn't use protection. Besides I am happy I had my son. We feel that even though we are not happy, in order for our son to be whole with a happy life, that we are sacrificing our happiness. Divorce is really hard on the children and being raised by a single parent is sometimes difficult. All my son's friends are being raised by a single parent. Most of them come to our home to eat dinner and get dessert which they don't get at home. They hang out at our house cos their parents are out on the weekends trying to find another mate. One has gone down the wrong road, the other misses home cooked meals, the other one misses his dad doing father-son things even though there is visitation. If there isn't any abuse involved, I would say stay until they are out of high school.
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I am a few years out of a long marriage and have no desire to jump right back in...at first I was but the longer I am single the more comfortable being single I am becoming....and establishing finances, housing..activities doesn't allow me to consider settling down...its crazy enough doing the dating thing.
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I'm dealing with the same thing and can't get doctors to understand why I really don't want to take birth control.  One of my doctors told me that as long as I was having a period 3 or 4 times a year I shouldn't worry too much, but when I think about the future and wanting to have kids it scares me a lot.  My last cycle was around Thanksgiving, so I'm starting to get anxious about it again.  \n\nMy doctors also checked a number of different things (various hormone levels, thyroid, cysts, etc) and couldn't find anything wrong with me (my eventual diagnosis was amenhorrea which means that - shocker - I don't have a regular menstrual cycle!  I know, a dozen years of school for this?)  I did have a very regular period for a number of years, however, and this has only developed in the past 3 or 4 years.\n\nI'm 24 and caucasian, by the way (not that it makes any difference at all)
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"Why you still don't have a baby?"\n"Why don't you stop w-a-n-k-i-n-g?"\n"What does it concern you??"\n"EXACTLY!"
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there should be no reason for you not to have a child...a mans age has nothing to do with a healthy baby...
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Personally, yes. VERY much so better.\nBut I'm on the pill, so it's not like I'm ditching responsibilty. \nI wouldn't do it without any protection... it feels damn good, but it's not worth having babies for. Unless you're 30. Then go have some babies. We're so under populated on this planet as it is...\n\nEh, I mean, yes. It's better. As long as you're not being dumb about it, make the arrangements to have sex w/o one. You'll see how skin on skin is so much more pleasurable than a barrier inbetween you and your lover.