I feel betrayed by the man I feel was my soulmate. The hardest part is he was also my best friend. I feel betrayed by my best friend also. He says we can still be friends I don't think so.
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Your heart knows best. You need to dowhat ever helps the healing begin for you. I have looked up articles on the net that discussed if you should remain friends. Most said that it doesn't work out because the feelings don't go away. It said to stay busy. go shopping, go for walks, volunteer, get out there and life again.
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I wouldn't. There were a few times I had planned too, and my supposed great friend the internet buddy blew me off. That's why I stick to my husband. I'm honestly happy for once in my life and I feel complete. I need noone else.
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Did I ever....had a friend that I wanted as more than a friend.  My friend moved out of state,  and we kept in touch my telephone for about two years.  Through a couple more moves on his part and some on mine,  we lost touch, for three yrs.  I connected with a  friend of his and found out he'd be in town,  so we made plans to see one another,  only to have a blizzard cancel plans,  he flew out of town the next morning.  When he got home,  he told me on the phone that he'd been in love with me for the last five years or more.  Time goes by,  we lose connection again,  but for FIVE years this time.  We've now been reconnected by phone and internet for about four or five years.  He begs me to move accross the country with him (even with my five kids, lol, he must have it bad, huh??lol).  I told him he should've said something while he lived here,  but he thinks I should've been the one to say it.  Just one of those things that makes ya wonder????What if????  The bad thing about missing the chance,  is that I know we would've been perfect for eachother.  The good thing is that I am in a happy marriage with five wonderful children.  Regretfully,  there's just no way to ever know,  leaving me with more "wonder" than I really care to have sometimes.
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I am in the same boat as you.  Trying to figure it out.  What cannot be cured must be endured.  Keep strong.  Looking at your life without that other person there feels so empty and cold.
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If you knew he was cheating before you got married, more than likely he's cheated or is wanting to cheat since you've been married. This was not a secret that was kept from you and you knew what you were getting into before you got married. Do this, ask yourself these questions: Have you found any evidence that shows he has cheated or is wanting to cheat? Have you confronted him about it and have you shared your feelings with him about this? Is this relationship with this person really that important to you? If any of the above answers give you that "sick to your stomach / queezee" feeling, then you might want to reconsider your marriage with this person. You shouldn't have to have these bad feelings everyday,especially if this person is supose to be your best friend and soulmate. If you are ok with it and can work things out and be happy,then YES, forgive and forget. Everyone should get a second chance.Good luck and take care.
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i have sort of had this experience.i fell in love with this guy.our relation was going on steadily when another woman came in his life and he ditched me.i did not ask for explaination and just walked out of his life.i was so heartbroken.i lost faith in everybody and am afraid to love once more.whenever i see that guy i get very angry but pretend as if nothing has happened and try to enjoy but actually inside i feel sick.i think u should move on.it is hard but tyr and slowly u will forget.
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I feel bad for you.  I'm so sorry that you have lost someone in your life that sounds like a soul mate.  I hope you will always be friends with this person even if you are not "in love with each other or anything like that."  I would not accept loosing this person in my life if I was you.  Not with computers and pen and paper and phones.  I would talk to my Mom about it and I would contact him and tell him how you feel, that he is important to you and that you would like to remain friends even 3000 miles apart.  Good friends are worth the effort.
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When something similar happened to me, I tried to forgive but I could not forget. I ended up having to leave him for my own sanity. That level of betrayal is unforgivable.It sucks but you don't seem to be able to move on with her so maybe you so move without her.
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You can't help the way you feel, it is being human.  I had a similar situation when I was 17.  I had been best friends with him for 2 years and gradually we got closer and closer.  For me it didn't work out but I am glad I gave it a go otherwise I would all ways wonder what if.  I think life is far too short to have regrets.
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My bestfriend's about to get married, I'm super happy for her as i think that he's the perfect man for her,\nI'm a bit envious cos i have no one and i get lonely.\nI know i should just wait for the right one but sometimes it feels like he's never gonna come
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Okay i was just in this situation. I love my friend and we have been friends for a while. I mean we have fooled around and stuff and I fell for him I mean really fell. However he didnt feel the same for me he just kind wanted to do stuff. It made me mad about the whole situation I mean if you do try and go for stuff like this make sure your friend is feeling the same way torwards you. Dont pressure anything make sure it is the right thing to do for the both of you analyze the situation and if you decide you should just be friends that is great.
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i know exactly how you feel... well, at least i think i do.. i am in love with my best guy friend whom i have known for almost 11 years... we are reallyc lose and a week ago, he confessed that he believed that we were meant to be.. blahblah.. and then we kissed.. and it's been a week and i have a feeling that he's avoiding me.. he's always busy and within the last week, he called me ONCE... that's it. and it was for a brief conversatio. i don't know what is going on... its really hard to do anything.. because i know that we were friends first.. and i dont want to risk it..\n\nmy advice to you... confront him before you assume anything and talk with him... talk it through... conversation is the best option you have... dont do like what i did and talk it out. it will save YOUR HEART from a lot of pain....
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You know, men like you that go "unnoticed" are what I consider to be one in a million. Not because you feel completely ignored by women, but because you guys are generally the ones that every woman would die for, if she weren't so distracted by "bling-bling", Cartier wristwear, and big dikks. Excuse the bluntess...But honestly, I have a friend like you. He went through the same thing; no attention in and out of school, every gf he's had dumped him for no reason....then he fell in love with me. Awkward as it was, I thought I just wanted to be friends. I saw the nicest guy in him, but he was like you feel you are: nothing out of the ordinary. But that's what made him extraordinary. Once I saw that by being his friend, I fell in love. We are now together...End of story: don't give up. At least this way, you know that the person you end up with is for real and will last. Have faith, my diamond in the rough...
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Feelings are just that.. feelings.  They are neither right or wrong.  True love can't be made where it doesn't exist and can't hide where it does.  He is feeling that he somehow betrayed his friend.... He should discuss his feelings with him.
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I know how it feels, I am in a relationship now with the best guy i could ever be with we have been together almost 5 years, and I still find myself wondering about my first love. Me and my first love were together for only 2 and 1/2 years and he was my first everything. I know deep down i still have feelings for him and i always wonder about him. I know i shouldnt be doing that, but i cant help it, i guess he still has some place deep in my heart. As for you i think that you still have a special place in your heart for this guy. Dont let it bother you i think its all part of how special this guy was for you, just be thankful and happy that he is having a great life, and that he is married be happy for him. I am sure that he probably still thinks about you as much as you do him. Maybe you never know what holds in the future. SO dont lose hopes of this guy and dont lose hopes on finding another guy. god only knows whom your soulmate is. I wish the best for you. god bless you
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at this moment, i am thinking of my future soulmate. I really wish i was in his arms, to be cuddled and loved. So sad i'm still single and I have to go thru my life alone. I hope that good souls would pay tht i find my mr. right who loves me sooooooooo much, soon.. tc, thanks for your question. really made me speak out what i felt.
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hey pal..even i hav been betrayed by my frendz and i knw how it feels,ive got over it wid a lot of difficulty.but U GOT TO HAVE FRENDZ IN UR LIFE!they r the ones who will b wid u till the end of ur life n guide u n support u.but be careful in choosin frendz the next time as u dont want the same thing 2 happen wid u again.i hope n pray tht u will get a frend who will b understandin n will b wid u alwayz.hope this helped.