I would like to Know the best way for me to know when am in real love because it has been difficult for me.Many are times that i mislead myself about this.Just imagine the embaracement i have gone through several times.
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when you look into her eyes and you see a part of you inside of her. when you do something so compassionate for her and never ask for recognition & she shows her appreciation with her eyes, or a kiss. when she will fight her way to hell and back in your honor. when you feel like no one else will do but her.when the feeling in your body says no one else will do. when you find yourself waiting for her call, anticipating, waiting,and when she calls u feel this state of aura around you & u know she's the one. when you feel the world is out to get you, and all she says is "i'm here no matter what". when she's "got ur back". when you won't let miles come between u 2.when you know no matter what happens u 2 won't forget each other. that's when u know your really in love with her.
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I am going through the same deal, except I am no where close to the love part yet. It is difficult to lay yourself out on a line when your not certain they feel the same. I am beginning to understand you just have to take that plunge if you care enough that it worries you and your ready to express it. I need to take my own advice.
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If anybody tells you how long it takes to fall in love, they are lying.  Nobody knows how long it takes and it depends on the couple.  How long is a piece of string?\n\nYou fall in love with the way you feel about yourself when you are with this person, being able to be yourself.  Having similar interests and family values helps too.\n\nYou will think that you are in love many times in your life, but in 20 years from now, you will only remember everything about one or two of those people.
570428
I have the same problem its happened about 4 times to me. But i think that its meant to happen. i know its hard right now...and i know everyone says it will get better and i truly think it will. But you just have to remember there are a lot of good people with good hearts out there. And one of them is absolutly meant just for you. I hope that you find that someone soon.
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The sure thing is that true love exists! \nbut the reason that makes us doubt about it and ask such a question is that not everyone is lucky enough to find it and some of us are not smart enough to keep it.\nJust never give up, and dont waste your time looking for it.\nYou can never find true love, he will always find you and you'll never know where and when!
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WOW!!  I can so relate and can feel and understand the confusion and not knowing how to walk away from what you truly love, and believed was everything you had been looking for...  I wish I could tell you what the "right" thing to do is, but I would be a hypicite.  I know from the outside looking in that the self respecting and having love for yourself firstmost, would be to cut your losses and see him for the person he really is and not the person you're in love w/ that you THOUGHT he was.  To even consider waiting around for a man to deciede if he rather have you or an x is INSANE!!!  I know this in my mind, yet I have allowed myself to give up all my self respect and dignity for 6 months waiting for my so called "fiance" to decied between me & his x wife of 20 years.  In the past 6 months he has went back and forth 5xs! I also describe my guy exactly how you did yours, but I was wrong that isnt who he is.  I allowed to waiy and let him struggle w/ his indiscion tuntil I had no self respect left for myself & became willing to settle for him any way I could.  That's not what love and foorever is supposed to feel like.  Don't allow yourself to dig yourself into that hole because its a hard 1 to climb out of.  If he is'nt 1000% sure that u r the only one he will ever want, he is'nt worthy of you!  Don't sell yourself short.The loneliest place in the world is laying next to somone who doesnt love you any more, & 1 sided love is hell you deserve heavenly bliss- settle for nothing less.  My man walked out w/o a word and back 2 her 2 days ago, we finally spoke on the phone today and as much as I love who i thought he was I finally decieded i cant stand who he is.  Doesnt stop the hurt or build back my self esteeme i got alot of work to do to get over it...But this time I really believe he does want her mor than me , but why the hell would i ever let a man make that kind of descion i should have given him no more choice in at the 1rst slightest sign of comparing or weighing me against somone else.  Live and learn.  I*t is the hardest most painful 1 i have had to go thru, and hearring your ? i had 2 respond and share my understanding and expierence in hopes you won't allow yours to go on as long or as deep as I did.  Good luck, and ultimatly only u know what's right for u and only u have 2 live w/ the decision.  If i could leave u w/ 1 bit of wisdom it would be the man has to live up to your dreams, dont never settle for less than u have always wanted and deserve.  mr right is out there for us but we gotta get our mr wrongs out of the way!!!
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Hey I just wanted to say thank you for your response to my question, I think it really helped and it wasn't mean. I also think that you are right, he called me this morning and told me that he was knocked out and didnt get up until 12:30 or so. I guess it is still taking me some time to really relax and trust him but I think your response was the best. As far as your situation, my boyfriend is actually 28 and im 18 so yeah, think about that one lol. Thats 10 years older then me, but he loves me and I love him and its been the best relationship I've ever been in. I think true love prevails over age and just as long as you guys can respect each other and love eachother and probably give her some time to also grow, you guys will be just find. Age is really just a number I just feel like sometimes our decisions or the stage that we are at life can sometimes conflict. Just make sure you two continue to communicate and understand eachothers needs and wants to go about things the right way. G-luck.
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I know how it feels, I am in a relationship now with the best guy i could ever be with we have been together almost 5 years, and I still find myself wondering about my first love. Me and my first love were together for only 2 and 1/2 years and he was my first everything. I know deep down i still have feelings for him and i always wonder about him. I know i shouldnt be doing that, but i cant help it, i guess he still has some place deep in my heart. As for you i think that you still have a special place in your heart for this guy. Dont let it bother you i think its all part of how special this guy was for you, just be thankful and happy that he is having a great life, and that he is married be happy for him. I am sure that he probably still thinks about you as much as you do him. Maybe you never know what holds in the future. SO dont lose hopes of this guy and dont lose hopes on finding another guy. god only knows whom your soulmate is. I wish the best for you. god bless you
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Different peoples, Different point of view about love...\n\nfor me..When LOVE is pure.. its unconditional.. u always give and not expecting in return.. always give in some time u will think "i have nothing to give" but it always has feeling to give.. and forgive.. even how deep is the pain and hurt it will be okay.. the more u stand still no matter how trials come.. how u hold him/her when the storm is hitting u so bad.. the more u sacrifice that more u feel love in ur heart.. When there is too much burden and worries.. and ur eyes are full of tears.. and when he/she/hey came and hug u tight and tell "i love you, things will be okay" it seems like there is nothing to worry, feels like im in safe place.. im protected.. \n\nLove is the feeling that is hard to recognise at first and when u have it.. its difficult to let go..
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i don't know what to tell you...this is a touchy situation...i understand the situation you are in because i have experienced similiar things....it's hard when you love someone and they act like that...you know deep down in your heart that sometimes it's best to go on with your life without this person and never look back....but it's so much easier to say then do.. you have to just take one day at a time and look at things and ask yourself...Is this what I want to go through for the rest of my life?  Weigh your options...look at the advantages of your relationship with him compared to the disadvantages of it...this is something nobody can tell you what to do...you have to not only follow your heart on this one but you have to consider what your mind says too...
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You don't really know. It's tough honey, I asked a question similar to this. You just have to be careful with who you give you heart to. I have found that listening to my gut helps. When you listen to your heart your judgment is clouded,and your head is to logical to listen to in this sort of situation. When someone tells you that they love you and then dump you the next day he probably was trying to get something from you. But cheer up, you know that you are better than that, you'll find someone that deserves you.
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Yes, most people have had this at one time or another.  Don't choose either, its just a phase you're going thru - when true love hits you, you will have no doubt.  Enjoy both of them for now.
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You know that you are in love when all you can do is think about that person. When you look at the person and get a tingling sensation through your body. When the thought of being without them scares you. When you can see yourself with that person for the rest of your life. When you are apart from the person, you long to be with them. Love is a funny thing, but when it's real and it's the real thing you will know because the signs will be there and everything else will fall into place.
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You're in a very difficult situation.  I know it is hard to ignore the pressure of society and family as much as we like to pretend that love conquers all.  However, what is most important to you and your well being is that you follow your truth.  If you truly love this person, then follow your bliss with him/her and let the chips fall where they may.  It is never healthy to pretend you're something you're not, or to let your dreams and desires be crushed by ignorant people who don't understand.  Be true to yourself and that is the greatest happiness you can hope to achieve.
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There will always be a portion of me that is still attracted to my first love.  For some wierd reason, it's the purity of the feeling and it's new encounter.  It's like remembering your first kiss or a first lay.  You will remember it.  Why?!  When you first love someone, there's no bagging to bring you down.  It's all pure and new.  These days, before I can fall in love, I'm burdened by lots of factors.
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There are two kinds of love: "in love" and real love.  "In love" is actually physiological in nature, and it goes away somewhere between six months and two and a half years.  You have this time to turn "in love" into real love.  It sounds like you've lost the "in love" without building a strong enough relationship to create a true love. \n\nOTOH, it's not that unusual to have doubts when the relationship reaches a new phase, and planning a wedding is certainly a new phase.\n\nSince you have over a year to plan the wedding, I suggest that you continue with planning where you can without committing money.  This way you won't be putting "I've already spent a thousand dollars how can I cancel it now?!" pressure on yourself.  With some breathing room on that front, it's time to do some serious talking and working with your SO.\n\nIt's going to be very scary to do this.  It will upset your SO, and people don't usually get upset in constructive ways.  And that's going to make it even harder to determine if you have a chance at a good relationship in the future.  \n\nI have three things I've learned from personal experience that indicate whether you're in a good relationship.\n\n1.  A relationship should make your life richer, not poorer.  You shouldn't find yourself limited by your SO.\n2.  You should be each other's cheerleaders, and you should always expect to be treated the way he treats you (and vice versa).\n3.  The test of a good relationship is not how it goes in the good times.  A truly good relationship will become stronger when there are conflicts, while a poor relationship will get battered.  \n\nI must recommend therapy as well.  Our culture teaches very poor relationship skills and a therapist will help you overcome any bad training that you've received.  \n\nAnd remember - it may seem hard to break off an engagement, but it is 10x harder to end a marriage.
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Yes I have  the same experience ...understand everything happens for a reason..ever thing, nothing happens by mistake...if it was meant to be ...then you would still be communicating with them...but just know obviously they aren't the one so don't give up your soul mate is out there...and he will find you...keep hope alive