see i am dating this one guy and his best friend is an ex of mine but i think he still likes me. He acts like he used to around me when i was his girlfriend which was he would laugh and say funny jolks to me. and we stoped doing that stuff when weren't bf and gf but now that im dating his best friend he is acting like he used to when he was around me. What should i do?
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he is still into you. be careful though because he may try to make his move on you even though you are with his best friend. guys can be stupid when it comes to women. actually, guys are always stupid when it comes to women
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Just give it time. I had a situation like that happen to me. I dated a girl for 2 years and 3 days after we broke up, her best friend kinda threw herself at me. No one wants that right after a breakup. I would have dated her where she to give me some time, at least a few weeks before jumping into a relationship again. Just give him some space and be there for him, if there are feelings there it will happen. If his feelings are not the same you will have to settle for being friends. Hope this helps.
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"My ex-girlfriend dumped me cuz I was being a jerk" SO you wanna date her best friend, and continue the jerk saga LOL...\n\nCode of friendship is you never date your best friends ex, so if her best friend is wanting to date you, then she isnt your ex's best friend.\n\nAnswer to your question, is no do you really want to ruin their friendship?? is it just revenge? dating her bf will not turn into a good thing, steer clear of her whole social circle it will keep her and you apart and sane
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MY BEST FRIEND HAD BROKE UP WITH THIS GUY AND AS YOU,HE LIKED ME AND I LIKED HIM.WE STARTED DATING AND MY BEST FRIEND HATED ME FOR IT ONLY BECAUSE I DID NOT GO TO HER AND TALK TO HER ABOUT MY FEELINGS TOWARD THE GUY.I RECOMMEND TALKING TO HER AND LETTING HER KNOW HOW YOU FEEL.IF SHE DOESNT LIKE IT BECAUSE YOU LIKE HIM,THEN ITS YOUR DECISON RATHER YOU WANT TO DATE HIM OR NOT.I WISH YOU THE BEST OF LUCK..
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I've been there and what i did was just start talking to him that way you don't feel so weird to be around him. we both are dating other people and we just talk as normal people b-cuz we realized we cant be as close Friends as we were before but we still hang out with the same people and its better to be talkin to each other than not talkin at all.
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Bad place to go ESPECIALLY so soon after he broke up with her. One - she's your best friends ex. There is a reason he broke up with her and you probably don't want to subject yourself to the same just for a little sex.\n\nAlso think about if you did start dating her - do you really think your friend is going to want her hanging out with the both of you or with you guys as a couple? \n\nI understand he's not so broken up about it, but they are still an ex-couple -\n\nMy vote is don't do it.\n\nMiss Cris\nhttp://lendinganear.wordpress.com
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as friends yeah but he might get jealous.sounds like you are bf and gf but just arent saying it. dating and holding hands, sounds like it to me. he probobly likes you but is afraid of the pressure and akward questions.\ngood luck\ngod bless +
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Rule Number 1 of friendship is that you NEVER date an ex of theirs--especially if it's your best friend.  That's almost like incest or something.  Even if you asked her and she agreed with it; somewhere within herself it would hurt her tremendously.  She just wouldn't want you to know that.\n\nRule Number 2 is that you learned a lot about the guy by the way he treated your best friend.  If he was a jerk to her, he'll repeat actions with you.  I personally think he just wants to ruin your friendship and make your best friend suffer by watching the two of you together.\n\nJust don't do it.  There are TOO MANY people out there to narrow things down to a best friend's jerk of an exboyfriend.  That's immediately set up for failure in two aspects.
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My cousin is like a best friend to me, & my "ex-girlfriend", who I've known for yrs., is still a good friend of mine & since they have alot in common with each other, I've hooked them up & he's been taking her out-(but they consider each other as "friends")-maybe he's afraid I'll be "hurt" seeing him with her but it doesn't bug me at all. -So you decide on dating his best friend,maybe it won't hurt him, Does he know about this? if not, mention it to him.
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dear confused girl,\ndoes he like you? if he does then tell him that you still have feelings for him. talk to him, and why is your " BFF " telling him you don`t like him anymore? i think you should have a little talk with her too. good luck ! =]
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Ok. I had the same problem. There was one guy I was with and we broke up so I went without liking anybody for a while. Then one of my best guy friends broke up with his gf and I realized I liked him but then my ex started coming back. So I chose the one that is the sweetest and that I have the most fun with and that wasn't my ex. It just so happens i picked the other guy who's my ex's best friend and we've been together for almost 4 months and I have a great ime with him all the time. although they aren't friends anymore, I still really like my bf. so pick the one that's sweetest to you and that you have the most fun with. even if that means long distance. (i'd choose the ex because he seems like he would be a great bf and that he really cares about you as lot).
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you shouldn't dump anyone just because your so called best friends are telling you to. In the end, they may be the ones trying to use you. You have to ask yourself if he is treating you the way you want to be treated, and if the relationship is open and mutual. I don't know the dyanmics involved with that so I can't help you. If you feel that he is someone that could be doing that, then I think you should talk to him before dumping him. Make a decision based on your feelings and experiences, not on what your friends are saying.
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The first issue: is your mate still dating your friend?  If so, take time out to think about your feelings and respect your mate's current relationship, as well as, your frienship with your girlfriend.  If their relationship is over, or when it is over...tell him the truth - that you realize that your friendship has grown into relationship feelings.  Then see where he stands.  He may or may not share your feelings.  If he does, give it a try...go for it!!!  If not, enjoy the friendship you have.  Whatever you do, don't break up any of his relationships, before or after you discuss this...otherwise, you will lose your girlfriend, and most likely, lose your mate's friendship in the process.  Life is not like those chick-lit films!  Best advice:  Be honest, at the right time....  Good luck!
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I have been in this situation, and it is very hard to deal with, esp if you were into the guy before he got together with your friend!\n\nAll I can say is keep your feelings buried for now - it wouldnt be any good to let either of them in on houw you feel, because that would just ruin your friendships. Who knows, given time you may move on, meet the guy of your dreams and suddenly all feelings for your friend's guy will be out the window (it happened for me!). Otherwise, it may not work out between the two of them, in which case ONCE THE DUST HAS SETTLED (its important to wait until it is well and truly over for both of them, or someone will end up hurt) you will be free to see how he feels about you. \n\nIf you do end up dating him though, make sure your friend is okay with the idea, as I have also been in the position where my ex ended up dating two of my friends - weirdly enough, I was fine about it when he dated my best friend soon after we broke up, in fact I set them up, but by the time he dated the other friend a good while later, it drove me mad seeing them together, and it made me realise I wasn't over him at all (but thats a whole other story!).\n\nThe last thing I will say though - while I repeat it woud be a bad idea to tell either of them about your feelings right now, one thing that really helped me through everything (both being the one with feelings for my friend's guy and seeing my ex date my friends) was having another friend whom I trusted completely and who knew everyone concerned but wasn't part of the group so much. I was able to tell him everything that was going on in my head and getting my feelings out really helped me to get over them - keeping your feelings to yourself with no outlet will not help you move on, it will only intensify them. So tell someone whom you trust not to blab, even if its only your diary!!!\n\nGood luck, and if you need a chat, get in touch any time!\n\nJoji x
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i've often been in this situation! the best thing i have done is just kind of flirt around, if he feels threatened, stop, and either move on, or wait til they (prolly sometime) breakup, \n\nif he flirts alot back just tell him "listen i know you have a girlfriend, and i don't want to get between you 2, but i just waned you to know that i do like you"   then see what happens from there, if he's for it (to date you) don't do anything til he breaks up with his girl, you don't want to be that kind of 'girl' if he's not for it, MOVE ON!\n\n\n\n\n\n---if you need any more advice on this situation or any other one you have DON NOT hesitate to message me!!!----
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First of all, your friend has the freedom to date anybody he wants without anybody's permission.  Dont get involved in his relationship.  Unless he talks to you about it and asks your advise.  You dont want to loose a good friendship over something like this.  This is what my bestfriend tells all his boyfriends, "You may not like my friends and I'm not trading my friends for you, they were my friends before I knew you and they will be with me should something happen to our relationship."  For now just go with the flow.  And be happy for him, cause that's all that matters is that he's happy!  Keep being the good friend you are.  Think positive!  Should he freak out if he doesn't already know then worry about it then.  Good luck! :o)
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I would say the new one, because dating a best friend can really mess things up. At least if you date the new one and things dont work out, it's not such a big loss. But dont date them both!