How do i get my boyfriend of 5 years to realize he should be more romantic sometimes?
120675
Romantic is genetic <- i believe this. if he's not, just accept him the way u accepted him 5 years ago. but if he was romantic, then communication is the key but not ask him to be romantic. Instead, ask him what changed.
129668
Well, you should not show too much affection towards them if your not quite sure how they feel. They might just be sayin it to say it. Talk to him about it. Ask him how come he doesn't show his love that much. But say it in a curious way. Do not make him feel that you are disrespecting him. It may cause many problems between your relationship.
293539
There's no such thing as a 5 month anniversary.  You should get him a clue, and tell him to grow up and act like he's had a girlfriend before.
177538
That's a good question,  I just went threw trying to teach my girlfriend some of those things.  Just being there, being active, showing interest in things he does, trying to take part in things he likes.  It can be tricky because doing them sometimes oversteps your bounds and you seem clingy.  As for things, honestly your better off showing up nude then buying flowers.  They are a nice gesture and all but most guys honestly have a one track mind it's sad to say.  Don't let that become the basis of a relationship though, but if your guy can show his sensitive side flowers, small stuffed animals, a "promise" ring, a poem, a song, a burned cd with all the songs that make you think of him.  Just something that truly shows that you care and you think about him. Hope that helps
336249
You are what you are and if he truly loves you, he will definitely respect your feelings. Dont do anything that you feel uncomfortable with now... make things clear now- its better than repenting later. Understanding, mutual respect and honesty are the very basics of any relationship. If he cant compromise and make adjustments now, it doesnt bode well for the future too, does it? So speak out whats in your mind- let him know how you feel. Explain to him that you come from a conservative background and that you dont feel comfortable with the relationship getting physical so soon. DONT DO ANYTHING THAT U FEEL IS NOT RIGHT!
2688
sometimes, it just takes time for these things.  in the meantime, make sure that you aren't being clingy.  You can show your love and still give him some personal time, okay?
355427
It is only natural.  Ive been with my partner for 5 and a half years and pregnant with my first child.  We love each other dearly and we both often say we are each other's "soulmate".  But regretfully your partner cant be the romantic you want or need him to be all the time.\n\nIts beautiful to be in love with someone u care so deeply about, but at the same time people also need their own space to grown and learn.  Im also in the same type of situation as your partner, but im the one that sometimes goes a little cool.  \n\nIts not that i dont love my partner, i love him to the ends of the earth.  But i need my own personal space and be alone or with family and friends.  A relationship isnt measured by what u can do just with your partner, but also being able to be an individual and still have your own room.  If i become despondent, he knows i want time out.  I dont want time out from the relationship, i want time to be with "me".\n\nDont fret, i think everything will be fine.  But at the end of the day, just be alert if you lose communication with him or he doesnt appear attentive to you at all.
256867
just let him know how you feel. that you love him and your not trying to be mean or rude but things are starting to get alittle boring. give some suggestions of things that he could do to make things better. tell him things you want so he'll have an idea. and then say i love you but please think about what i'm telling you.
576641
Well, can only answer for myself, But I would enjoy something or even just a thoughtful gesture from your heart over something thats store baught anyday.  Use your imagination.  Special dinner of his favorite food that YOU have prepared for him, a special evening to just yourselves, make it romantic, make him feel that he is the one and only man that has ever existed in your life.  Remember it is all about him that day.  Start from the time you wake up in the morning till the time you two finally fall asleep that night.  And I'm sure he will be doing something special for you, so be patient and work together so that both of you feel that the plans you have put together have went smoothly and fully.  Good luck and congratulations.
204631
One of the easiest ways is to start slow and gradually introduce intimacy back into the relationship.\nFor instance, you may introduce a rule to yourself:\n"make sure I hug my partner at least three times a day"\njust simple acts like this, which are quick to perform, can have a profound effect with regard adding romance into a relationship.\nOr ,get up early one day and go and watch the sunrise together.\nThis is the sort of thing that many women love, and whilst you may find it a little boring is a classic way of adding romance to your relationship.\nOn a warm night before what will be another warm day, there is something incredibly romantic about sharing watching a sunrise together, as the night and darkness gives way to the light of day.\nThe cool air, the change in light levels and the relative quiet of that early morning gives you an almost humbling sensation or an awe of the true beauty and power of nature, and sharing this together is what makes it so romantic.\nAdvice: Don’t involve your friends in your relationships.
314326
You have been with this guy for five straight years and he still does not want a commitment?\n\nI know this will sound a bit harsh, but if he hasn't decided for one by now, then he will NEVER want one. If you feel comfortable continuing a casual relationship, then stay with him; but if you want something more, a serious and devoted mature relationship that might lead to marriage and whatnot, then drop him. There are many other men out there who have the sense to know when they are with a good woman.\n\nLike you said, you are only twenty-three - and you want to know whether or not your time is being wasted. It IS being wasted. These are the best years of your life for finding romantic partners. So make sure that you are not spending them moping about with the wrong guy who will never truly be commited to you.\n\nBest of luck.
224864
problem is him. Don't push it. Relationship is about trust. Letting him get to trust you little by little, in the little things then it will grow. Also just be yourself so he can trust the you he sees. Lastly, not everybody gets to say 'I love U' the same way. Maybe his may be different
272587
It's good that you want to make sweet gestures like that. \nI've been with my hubby for 19 years & still do soppy things. Last week I left a big chocolate heart on his pillow when I went to work for him to find when he came home from work tired. Send him text messages to say you miss him when you haven't seen him all day. Leave notes around the house. One of my favourite places to leave notes is in the glove box of his car cos he always leaves his radio in there & I know he's sure to find it. Tell him...I tell my hubby every day I love him & he does the same with me.
276641
unfortunately you cannot make someone be more romantic. people are who they are and you must either love them for who they are or go your own way. if you feel like you need someone to change in order to suit your needs you are only fooling yourself because true love only exists when everything suits eachothers wants and needs without making major changes in personalities...i will agree that a relationship of any kind takes effort and sacrifice but usually someone is either affectionately romantic or they aren't and if you try to change them it may make them feel very uncomfortable or insecure.
472804
Ok- you may not like what I am going to tell you but this \nrelationship isn't really what you want because if it was, you wouldn't have all these doubts.\n\nSweetie, you need to value yourself, your life, and your time.  You can't be this man's rescuer.  After 5 years you've got to recognize that if you plan to live a fulfilling life, stop doing what doesn't work.
329617
5 months is still young so its hard to say what his intentions are ....good thing is that usually if they are just after s?x then once they are put down a couple of times they will go off and try elsewhere unless they feel theres a good chance they can talk you into it fairly quickly.  I think he probally cares for you and just pouts cause its something he wants and your not giving it to him...us guys are funny like that sometimes especially if we feel we are truly in love with that person.  Don't do anything your not ready for and if he loves you he will wait and respect you.  Just tell him that you love him and know he wants you to go further but explain that your just not ready yet and when you are he will be the first to know but ask him to lighten up on the guilt trip cause its making you feel bad and pressured.
10042
Some people don't believe in marriage.  After being with him for 5 years you should know what his views are on this.  If he believes that marriage is something that is important, maybe he isn't ready to make that big step.  \n\nMarriage is a very huge step.  I think this is why there are so many divorces in our current times.  aprox. 50% of all marriages end in divorce.  This is not how it is ment to be.  When marriage vows are taken they usually and should include "until death do us part"  So perhaps you should be happy that he wasn't in any rush to tie that knot.  I am sure if you are both in love and it's ment to be you will get married and it will be even more special because you will know that you took your time and know it is RIGHT.  \n\ntalk to him about it.  See what he says.  Have a heart to heart.  If you can't do that with him now - perhaps you are not ready to be married yet.  So take some time to really dig into your heart and into his and see what you come up with.  \n\nIf you get married - Please do it for life... not like at least 1/2 the people out there do it... make that commitment forever.  Or don't do it at all.  \n\n:)  I hope you will get married.  It is the most wonderful thing a man and woman can do - Be commited to each other through thick and thin.  It is a true blessing.