i'm in love with my best friend, were both guys, and i don't know if he's gay. i really like hanging out with him, and i just don't know what to do, can some one help me??
124069
Be 100% honest. Why waste time if it could mean a good relationship. And if you are worried about him not being your friend...well, if he does decide to be mad...he wasnt a true friend. Just go for it.
16336
ask him how he really feels about you, but be careful, because one way or another, after you cross that line, your friendship will feel different. in other words, you have to make the choice between a good friend that you already have and a potential partener. this is a gamble you have to be willing to make and possibly lose, but the payoff is worth it because the best loves are your best friends, ask anyone who is really in love
559075
Instinct will tell you.  Gays and bisexuals reciprocate gays.  If you're one, you will welcome such attention.  If not, hopefully you can keep the friendship after this one.  If you're one of those people who are confused about their sexual orientation, you are likely to push him away.  But be kind.  Confusion can turn into fear because most of us are afraid of the unknown.  And fear can turn into disgust.  Whatever you decide, remember, he is your friend.
436176
Snagg him up before someone else does!! after i got married (to my best friend) two years later i met another guy that is now my best friend and if my husband and i ever parted, i would choose my new best friend as my new life long mate. It helps that you guys are already best friends, that's a good stable foundation. Good luck, and make sure to tell him how you feel. Even if you don't say, show it.
450232
Feel the situation out.  Do you know how he feels about gay people?  In the right time and place you will be able to tell him you are and how you have felt.  If he is not gay then you can't change him, don't try it won't work and do'nt push it.  Many straight people have gay friends.
361692
First off, never listen to anyone who tells you being Bi/ Gay is wrong.. its NOT If it was wrong why did "god" create them..huh?\n\nanyways, i think the best thing to do is maybe get to know him a little better invite him and his girlfriend to hang out somewhere and become better friends, that way you can learn to read him better and possibly more... just be sure not to pull any moves on him because 1) if he isn't Bi iot would freak the shit outta him and he would no longer be your friend and most likely spread shit about you and 2) even if he is bi, he still has a girlfriend\n\noh, and if you do hang out with the both of them... be sure he doesn't get any ideas about you goin after the girl
557113
It's very common that best friend turns to be lovers. You should find out that your best friend is love you or just want to be friend. You know. Love is a two way channel, it invloves two persons. If only one-way, it is not love\n\nGood luck\n\nJoyce
334631
Okay, you like him, and you don't just like him........you LOVE him, and deep down inside, you feel REALLY upset that he likes your best friend, even though they go together, you still want him, but I guess only patience is your only option, I'm going through the same thing- except I don't know if my crush likes my best friend, I don't think he does either. But yeah, only time will tell. Hope this helps.
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That's a difficult situation to judge. I don't think he would be spending that much time with you asking you here and there if he wasn't interested in something more than friendship. However I could be wrong, maybe he's gay!\nI would wait and see what happens. If he's really interested then things will progress in their own time. Maybe he is unsure of how you feel about him too. Try talking to him?
53419
They're right, you're not gay. You're just feeling a Special Bond, with your friend that you've never felt for someone. He's your BEST FRIEND and your FAMILY now, and you're depressed, insecure, and your feeling vulnerable, therefore it causes you to want to cling to him. You don't want to loose him, like you did your parents. All these things are making you confused because you've never been through so much at one time in your life. Thank god you had such a wonderful friend. That kind of friend, you'll love for the rest of your life.\n  You'll be in my prayers. Good Luck.*\n\nAddition:  MIKE92111, below, gave you a GREAT ANSWER.\n   Loving something or someone, is not the same as being  'in-love' with someone.
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you cant really help what you feel, loving some one is not an emotion or a feeling its a decision made by the heart that if made right it will be the strongest thing ever, and im sure your bro will understand if you tell him your in love with his best friend.....yes i am a dude and no i am not gay for people wondering that, even guys can write deep crap like that
634232
You probably want to stay clear of that one as you may lose a friend.. You can tell them  you are gay.. That's accepted today.. BUT if you tell him you are gay and you are in love with him,  you risk losing him as a friend.  Start out with baby steps and then if he is cool and opens up to you too and tells you he is gay, maybe you want to begin with trust, going out with him, working out with him etcc... He will get the message and you will see from his demeanor whether you have a chance or are even his type.. To recap, you can come out to him.. If he comes out to you, then you need to be passive and let him figure out that maybe you are the guy for him.. BUT don't comeout and tell him you love him.. Disaster waiting to happen..
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Is it about friendship or relationship?  Knowing that you are gay is big enough already, don't add that you are in love with him to the mix.  It will be too much to handle.  Coming out is hard.  You do risk losing him as a friend also.  Not everyone's upbringing has prepared them for this.  If he is a true friend with a reasonable upbringing, he will still be your friend.
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if your not "out" then it might not be as much of flirting as you might think/hope for. If he thinks your one of his buds, and is straight it might just be him being pals. don't read too much into it, I know you want to, and I know he seems like the perfect one for you, but stop and think about it. If he is not bi, then you could really ruin your friendship. Maybe feel him out a little, bring up something in the news or current events like gay marriage and see how he reacts to it. \n What ever you choose to do, go slow, and be smart.\n and as much as it sucks remember their is a big difference between love and lust.
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It is so nice that you care so much about  both your friend and you.\n\nYou see whatever happened has happened. It can't be changed. So either you find ways to move on or you just slack back.\n\nYou said you are best friends. A lot of things happen between best friends you know so this should not be a hard one to tackle. It happened because you were both passionate about each other. It now appears you are both bi. No big deal.\n\nFirst you said you liked him and now you are saying you don't know if you like him. NO problem about that, you will soon know if you like him or not.\n\nHowever, since you said you have not seen him in a month and this whole thing is getting into you, well i think is about time you talk with him. It does not matter if you are different persons or not, you still have to find out where you stand. You need to talk with him and find out if you are both embarassed about the things that happened and if you still want to be best of friends. If you both still want to keep on having sexual feelings for each other, well that is when to find out, by talking to each other. Please tell him your mind, what you think, what should stop, what should go on and stuffs like that. It will work out.\n\nYou and i both know you don't want to lose a friend like him. Then i think it's about time you spoke to him.\n\nPlease don't feel shy. OK. Open up and tell him every single thing in your heart.\n\nYou will definitely find your answer. Keep it cool and GOOD LUCK.\n\nHave fun too.
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PLEASE! For the sake of embarrassment, DON'T ASK HIM!! If he's still in the closet, he'll only get angry, and you'll lose any chance of ever finding out. Instead of asking him, just put yourself out there if you are comfortable with your bisexuality. Do you have any close friends at work who may be friends with him also? They may be able to find out in some mysterious way. My best friend is a gay male, and he just recently came out over the summer of 2005. He's going through the same thing right now. It's tough, but hang in there. You just need to build your confidence, and the rest will come! Best of luck!
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Well it seems 2 me that both of them really like you, the second one more than the first. In fact from what you have said about both of them i wud say that this second guy may just be in love with you but may be scared that you dont feel the same way. Talk to them both and see where you stand. Be careful though because if im right... then youre goin to have a choice to make