There is a girl who i know that has invited me to live with her on a ranch in Scotland.\nHere is the problem. I love her, but she is in love with someone else. if she is realy in love with this other guy, then why does she want a jealous, love-sick me to come with her?
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maybe she sees you as a really great friend and someone that she likes to spend time with. i don't see the problem here. you love her, she wants to spend time with you, and dude, you will be in Scotland! She obviously enjoys you're company, which is a great start to winning her over. spending more time together will show her that you are the one she should be with or show you that maybe she's not what you thought. it's a no brainer man, go with her.
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Aww, this reminds me of My friend Lauren and I. We got together, she loved me, I love her, but outside pressures made it very hard for me to cope with Us. I understand where  your girl is coming from and I also understand where you are coming from. You can't make someone stay if they don't want to. And you shouldn't try if you see that they aren't happy. Especially if it starts to make you unhappy. I would suggest letting her do what she wants. Let her know that you care for her and want her to be happy and that you are there for her but draw the line somewhere. Let her know that she does hurt your feelings by doing these things and let her know that she can't be so flippant and careless. Lauren and I are good friends now and sometimes I look at her and feel a pang, but I know that we would have both been miserable if we stayed together with all the problems we were having. Sometimes its better to let something go to keep a friendship than to draw out a love affair and have it end in hatred...Oh yeah, I think that she should take some time to figure herself out without any outside influences from you or other guys or girls. The hardest thing to do is to truly know and love yourself. You are always your own worst critic....Good Luck!
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Dude I just went through this same exact thing.  Your only missing her cause she was there for you and now theres no one.  I took her back after she tried the new guy, and two weeks later, she dumps me for other guy she just broke up with.  I wasnt hurt cause I knew it could happen so I didnt let myself get too involved.  But my advice, just move on, find someone new to love, there more fun, and you dont have to worry about her going back for the other guy.  She already left you once, dont let her walk all over you.  Hope this helps.
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HELL NO, Do you want another guy touching your lady? I wouldn't. What the hell is up with people these days over the 3 sums? I like it with me and my partner and NOONE else. But that is up to you. You have to live with the fact that your g/f wants to be with another man. What if she like it or him? Will you be willing to have another? I dont
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Sadly, currently i am the other man in that kind of triangle.(except she is not marride but living with the guy) I am in love with this woman.  But she will never leave this guy.  I was being used the whole time.  You are not in love with both of these men. You just crave attention anyway you can get it and dont wont to feel guilty.  I bet if you look hard enough one of these men really do luv you and is the best for you.  But you are not a strong enough person to do the work it takes to be in a real relationship.  No matter what these men are going to get hurt. AND YES IT IS YOUR FAULT!!  you are the bad guy in this!
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From what you described, I think it was the only choice.  And why should you feel guilty?  She's the one sleeping with other guys.  Sounds like you fell for a ho.  She did you a favor. Get on with your life and never look back.
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LET GO.  She is never going to leave him.  Why leave if she can have you both?  There's obviously something in you that she is missing from the other man (and vice versa) which is why she keeps you both around.  Aside from this, if she does leave him, how can you ever trust that she won't cheat on you when she gets "bored" with you?  I think you deserve much more than this.  Get out now and find a quality woman with more respect for herself (and for you) than to sleep with 2 men and deceive them both.  If you thought more of yourself, you would certainly not put up with this for another day.  You should demand more than to be "the number 2 choice" to anyone.
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girl, if this guy is the one that has your heart...then you need to honest to the one you're living with. How would you feel if he was the one that wanted to go with some other girl? It's gonna hurt...when you tell him, but you need to honest with him & yourself. There's no easy way to break it to him, without it hurting.\nWhy do live with a guy that you're not in love with? That must be difficult. Best wishes.
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WOW! I think she loves you but knows so much about you and you about her that it's become too difficult to broach the subject of you two being a potential love match. I think you need to ask yourself do I love her in that way? If you do you've got to bite the bullet this weekend and ask her if she has feelings for you other than as a friend? Tell her you want a relationship with a girl and are confused as she seems like a friend most of the time but then when you discuss the subject of other women she doesnt seem able to ddeal with it. DO YOU LIKE HER????? i hope you do and that she feels the same and can finaly get the strength to let you know, some of the best relationships start with 2 people being friends first I think you 2 stand a fair chance of settling down together unless she is just a friend and a possessive one at that. If that is the cse you need to tell her you are interested in having agirlfriend and she needs to allow you to do this if she cant deal with that then you need to meet her a little bit less cos no girlfriend will put up with you having such a female possessive best mate! Good Luck!!
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it is not up to anyone here to make that descision for you, however you need to ask yourself "Is this person going to get me where I want to be in life? or are they going to hinder me?" "Is this person going to be there for me when I need them? or are they going to leave me in the lurch?" "can I spend the rest of my life with this person?"\n\nif you can answer these all with yes then go for it but I think you already know the choice you need to make. and I think it is the right one.
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yep, it will effect your future because of the simple fact she might enjoy the other guy or you might enjoy the other girl more, and that will cause confusion, i dont want no other guy but mine because he pleases me and I try my best to please him, i just can imaging someone else getting him, if the are I BETTER NOT FIND OUT ABOUT IT!!! lol
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yea thats deep, but she obviously loves this guy, and u have to think about whats best for her, and apparently she thinks this is best, just try and get over her. If it was meant to be between ya'll then it will happen regardless. but i wouldn't tell her because that would make her feel uncomfortbale and maybe get u in a fight with the b/f. there are plenty of other girls that will be just like her. trust me!
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There is nothing wrong with seeing two men . She has to find out which one is right for her and in time she will .I am jealous of her! Hope everything works out for her and thats all you can do .Wait and time will tell.
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I'd assume that there is two problems here.\none. There might be an issue where you are insecure in yourself and are wanting to feel useful to someone, therefor, feel more secure in yourself because you feel there is purpose in keeping them happy.\ntwo. If you are clingy to her, it'll only push her away. She has to make her own choices as much as you do. At this point the best thing I can suggest is to back away a little, and to let her make up her own mind. You should also let go somewhat of the feelings of attachment you have to her, as if will only hurt you more if things continue.\nAnd don't assume that the other man is the better man for winning her. Any jerk can win the heart of a woman, it just depends on which woman it is. He is not necesarily better then you, or worse then you. She just made a choice to go for another man, and that was her choice to make.
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First of all, why would you marry someone you weren't in love with?  It seems like you "settled" by marrying the other sister.  SHAME ON YOU!  From my perspective, you made your bed, now lie in it.
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i think she made up an excuse to break up with you. she had this guy on the backburner and was thinking of hooking up with him while she was with you. but with this excuse she can blame you in stead of saying, "i like this other guy instead so i'm breaking up with you." cool off, and start finding another chick. don't waste you timing thinking about your ex.
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here's the thing, it's not a two party problem, to be honest with you i would take the one that said yes and find another girl, ex girls might have problems with jealously, however if you only have one she might find it exciting. don't waste your time trying to get both unless you don't mind being rejected. good luck.