He doesn't like his job and does not know how to deal with.  I feel powerless because the only thing I can do is listen to him. He lives in another country and haven't seen him in 4 years. I feel sad because I really care for him.
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Jobs are not easy to find. But happiness can be even more elusive than a job. If he is truely unhappy tell him to put himself out there. Send out resumes, network with the people he knows and search the paper or internet for a new one. Make sure that he knows to keep the one he has until he finds a new one.
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I feel you very much on that one.but i think your the one who is on the fault you have got them so use to you picking up after them now they dont care you should have made a routine from the begining.sit and seriously tell them its not right and they need to help you out.i am sure they love you and they will understand,
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Try to get him some help, hes been traumatized by that event and doesn't know how to express that. Good luck to you guys!!
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I am sure he is feeling depressed. There's a world of difference between temporary depression and clinical depression and I think that just by being there for him and talking it through you are doing a grand job.\n\nIf he is finding that the situation is taking a toll in other areas of his life, such as work, then one might consider medication but, personally, I would be against it. Much more good can come from the counselling approach and helping him to find positive aspects in it. \n\nIt's sometimes helpful to remember  that there are things that we can do nothing about, so it's not worth spending the energy worrying about them because they will sort themselves in their own good time. There are things we can do something about but which depend on things yet to happen, so they can go on the back burner. Finally, there are things which we can do something about now and should do. Once done, it's not worth worrying about whether they were done right or not - they are done to the best of our ability.\n\nMost depressions involve worrying over things which we can actually do nothing about, so it's worth making a list of the points to see what is actually worth spending time on.
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I agree with you, I also know how you feel. I used to be a cutter because of my depression but i have found better ways of dealing with the pain and sorrow. Write poetry or listen to music, try to go hang out with your friends and have a good time with them. Just keep moving on and remember that its his loss and your a strong woman/girl/lady ( i don't know how only you are so yeah.) I hope this helped.
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If he wants to find you he will. It must be very difficult to deal with this right now! I can only imagine how awful you must feel. I recently lost contact with someone myself, and I just stay focused on work and family and try to let time pass. Each day gets better. Talking really helps too, so maybe counseling would help (I have not done this yet, but want to.)
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tel him how you feel, adn that you are truely adn deeply sorry, thats all you can do.
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I would not know what to do,,my heart would break probably He is all I have in this world that makes me feel as if I am something..
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I feel absolutely nothing, none of any of what he's doing affects me at all. Who cares? Do you care? I got better things to worry about. Everything is temporary, when you're dead and gone, will any of that really matter? Think about it, then let it go.
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ooh world is full with broken heat....wanna tel u.....i lost my ideal person......i m so upset.......i just wanna kill myself.......cant stop crying...missing him so much....\n\nplz tel ur boy friend...before u lose him..coz i cant tel my feeling to u.....and love goes more deep........when its time to say good bye.....plz tel him right now......u love him
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What a drag.....Sounds like maybe you should take you resume somewhere else.  Some people have to downgrade everyone else just to make themselves feel better, superior, or whatever reason.  It's obvious he's got issues.  You're only going to be able to put up with him for so long before you'll probably snap.  Start looking for other employment because I doubt very much if he'll ever change.  Unless you feel like stepping up and being the one to change him.  Confront him with the problem.....maybe he needs to hear how he treats people....\nI sure hope whatever you do things work out of you...\nGooday! ! !
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You shouldn't feel that bad, it's not like you killed him. Everyone is going to make someone they care about cry at one point, it probably happens in our lives more than we notice. You could just treat him. I'm not sure how old you are but some ideas are you could take him out and buy him something really special or you could do something like buy him a card that says I care about you (or something like that) and buy him his favorite candy... Like I said it happens all the time it's a natural part of life, and he probably realizes that. That's why he is telling you to let it go. Good luck.
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Yeah that is hard. I'm very sorry that you haven't gotten over him yet and moved on with your life.\nAt least you realize that he doesn't want you anymore. I know it even hurts to read it and I'm sorry I'm not trying to be mean. You need to recognize how short life is and that you deserve to be happy. You deserve to be with a person that will feel the same way you feel about them. Do you know what you are worth? Well then, move on with your life you are not promised tomorrow right? the sooner you realize this you will have peace in your mind body and soul. Cause i know how it is to crave for a man that you can't have I've been there. \nGood Luck  to you Hun.
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hi angel,\ni think i know just how you feel. it happens sometimes to me sometimes, like everything went grey. just take a deep breath. u are at work right? do u have any nice music u like that cheers u up? play it softly at ur desk- maybe on ur PC or walkman. cheer up. Your mom does love you, your boyfriend too... u just fell out with her and ur boyfriend is busy working so he can get u a nice gift for ur birthday--- lol--- at least he has a job he can be busy at, not like he is busy dating another girl...\ncheer up ok? take a snack for lunch, you'll soon be home. \nAnd oh, try to call your mom b4 work runs out, you'll find it isnt as bad as it seems. then talk to ur boss too... there is so much power in those three words, "i am sorry" just apologise to everyone u hurt, especially ur mom. \nthen call ur boyfriend too and tell him u understand completely how busy he is and u love him and for him to call u when he is free. u'll be amazed how soon he'd call u himself. he needs ur understanding too, maybe today is more hectic for him than u. knock knock...\nI hope u r listening to me and will do these?\nenjoy your day ok? and remember it will pass and u will still be there...cheer up! love ya
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It does sound very sad to me who ever might be in this situation. some people don't realise what they have until it's gone. \n\nMy advice would be to talk about it to him/her the worst they can say is no!
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i'd be scared of life too if i'd lost my parents at an early age. it's going to take time. some people just aren't social. you can't make him do anything he doesn't want to.
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i do have this experience...it is not a good one... the only thing i  know to tell you is that you should try to talk to him about how you really feel. it worked for me...