I'm a boy @ an age of 17. I've been signle for about 4 years.\nI'm a goodlooking, fit guy whos very social.\nKnow the thing is i dont seek a girl, i do not have the desire for a girl.\nBut i also have my needs and then i feel sorrow for me that i dont have a girl, or when i see some cupples, i would like that too.\nI like girls (sow dont say that i'm gay !!!)\nNow what can/should i do ???\nDont know of this is a problem, but sometimes i feel lonely and start wondering??\n\nPlease help =)\n\nGreetz & thx in advance
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Try to find a girl with whom you can share this trouble.
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trust me when i tell you, you really don't need a guy!\ndon't feel pressured cause all the people around you have boyfriends, what good will you get if you have a boyfriend that is mean to you and treating you in a terrible way or one that knows that you want a boyfriend just to have one and gets advantage of you, trust you want none of that so wait take your time till you find someone that really cares about you and you care about him, then and only then its worth to have a boyfriend and not cause everyone else have one !!
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19 is a hard age to not have a mate, it seems most people are hooked up so that can make him feel left out.  It's important that he finds joy in LIFE, not in somebody.  If you rely on another person to make you happy, you won't be happy much at all.  What are his interests?  Many people don't cultivate their interests, they just watch TV and wait for life and love to happen to them.  He needs to get out there and develop interests in life, and not worry about a girlfriend so much.  I'm sure he has talents etc., so he needs to explore that and maybe the loneliness will fade.  Good luck!
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*this is a long one*\n\nIt's understandable that you feel bad because you're not getting the kind of treatment your "attractive" friends are getting, but there's a lot going on here.\n\nGuys, from a very young age, are told what is attractive and what isn't. It has to do with the era, culture, ethnicity, and a million other things. It also has to do with the fact that it's a bar. Although people meet each other and form legitimate relationships all the time in bars, most often when alcohol and women are involved it's about sex. The men in there may care about your beautiful personality, intelligence, creativity, talents, etc. but that isn't the first thing they're looking at.\n\nPeople always say that men exploit women. To a degree this is true, but if it's one thing I've learned it's that women are terrific at exploiting the things that men like to get what they want. You girls aren't stupid, even those who pretend to be. Men for the most part aren't difficult to figure out when it comes to attracting us visually. \n\nWith that out of the way, don't get yourself down because you aren't the standard that pop culture deems hot. Every single woman is beautiful, no matter what age size or color. What matters most is how beautiful you acknowledge yourself to be, no matter what anyone else thinks. Because in the end, you can't control what they think or how they feel, and although there are ways to make yourself more attractive to them, it's only a shallow experience and you shouldn't have to change things about yourself to please others.\n\nI'm not one of those people who's going to tell you that there's someone out there guaranteed to be perfect for you, who just happens to love everything about you and treats you the way you deserve to be treated. If you find that person you're very lucky, because most of us out there just have to settle or lie to ourselves. \n\nWhat I am going to tell you though, is that there are men out there who acknowledge and appreciate physical features, but value the beautiful personality underneath. You're probably not going to run into one of these men at a bar. Where do you find them? There isn't one set place where we all congregate, that's the problem that goes both ways, for finding men and women alike.\n\nThink about this though: Next time you're at the bar, check out the wallflowers. Chances are there's a guy out there who doesn't get approached by the beautiful women, who may be insecure himself but like you has a lot to offer beyond physical appearances that conform to a standard. Talk to him, ask him to buy you a drink, if you feel like it offer to buy him a drink, see how that goes. Be yourself. This could easily end up being the most fun for you, because you'd be surprised how eager the person in the corner is to connect with someone else if they were just given the chances. If not, at least you interacted and didn't have to sit aside feeling hurt that people aren't approaching you.\n\n\n\nBut after all this, and I'm not saying it is this way, don't have a double standard or be hypocritical. Don't judge the guys on physical appearance alone. You know you're worth a lot more than your looks alone, and so are they. So is everyone.
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maybe you shouldn't try to figure out how to GET a beautiful girl and learn how to be a girls friend and seeing where that goes.  And... if you need someone to make yourself feel good, you are never going to be able to be happy.  You can't use others to fill yourself up when you are empty inside.  Only you can fill yourself.
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DO YOU LIKE BOYS, OR DO YOU LIKE GIRLS? YOU ARE NOT GAY IF YOU HAVE NOT HAD A SEXUAL ENCOUNTER WITH A MALE YET. IF YOU HAVE HAD A SEXUAL ENCOUNTER WITH A MALE YOU STILL MAY NOT BE GAY. TAKE IT EASY ON YOURSELF AND WAIT, YOU WILL KNOW THE ANSWER TO THE QUESTION AS SOON AS YOU GROW UP AND GET TRULY SEXUALLY ACTIVE. IF YOU HAVE BEEN CURIOUS FOR 2-1/2\nYEARS, YOU WERE TOO YOUNG TO EVEN BE WORRIED AT THAT AGE. TRY THINGS OUT WHEN YOU GET OLD ENOUGH AND MAKE YOUR OWN JUDGEMENTS. GAY PEOPLE ARE STILL PEOPLE AND HAVE GOOD AND HAPPY LIVES, SO EITHER WAY YOU CAN FIND HAPPINESS. STOP THE WORRYING.  GOOD LUCK, YOU ARE ONLY 13.
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Start doing things for yourself.  Follow a dream, get a new hobby, find an activity you always wanted to try.  The key is to do something that you can feel good about doing for yourself, regardless of whos in or out of your life.\n\nIt seems you're thinking too much the guy , a guy  or having no guy.   Your life's about making the most of an opportunity to find and do what makes you happy.  People will come and go and when the right guy comes along, he'll  see how you're enjoying life and want to be part of that... not see that you are waiting for him and give up his life to be the center of yours. Hope this helps put things in perspective.
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Pink bear please don't say that.... Well... actually... nevermind that... Your not bisexual you feel you have a liking on "attractive" girls because of some problems with your relationship with a few people and sometimes want to change your life... Gambate Kudasai(Please hang in there)
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You're only as old as how you feel...i'm 18 and I feel like im 21...\nYou're 28, you said...how old do you feel? If you don't feel old then don't act old!!!\n\nAs for apperance...Well, it's the same no matter what sexuality you are...Some people are shallow... some people look for the great personality... You shouldn't be so self conscious... I bet you're a good looking guy, and I think you shopuldn't let society, whichever,gay or straight, try to change the way you feel about yourself, regardless if it has to do with looks or anything like that...
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hey...\nThere's much more to life than guys...so if u really want to get out and help yourself, then stop thinking about them and think about yourself first!!\nYou can always look good and be good for yourself too, not only for others!!\nIf you'l be polite to yourself, you'l be better with others\nSo just enjoy life with "friends" and "family"\nand I am not saying that friends dont include boys...\nBut just think from a higher perspective and go on...\nAfterall who cares for those people, who cant care enough for you!!\n\nAll the Best....!!
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I would have to think about that one for a minute. OK, I have a suggestion for you. Why can't you just be you? If your mind is a male, then act male. If you want to do guy things, like work on a car, go ahead.\n\nYou would have to make that decision because no one knows how you deeply feel. Are you gay? Are you straight? Those are important questions. How old are you? Are you in therapy?\n\nYou must decide which way you want to go, where you feel the most comfortable inside yourself.
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Yes and thank you for your email. I've never wished I was gay although the girls would often acuse me of being gay. I've never desired or even thought I was gay. I've always Loved being out with lady friends but sometimes they expect sex and I'm just not interested in them that way. But some times I do find someone I'm in Love with not in a sexual way but I'd like to be by her side.I think about sex if that would keep her by my side.But by the time I'm ready for that, she's already found herself another man.
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A guy like you shouldn't be looking for a girl. Girls should be looking for someone like you!! (Too bad you are not into guys)
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First I feel for your struggle!!!  I have been there, So has many many other gay men.  personally I still notice women. of course I am in the hair industry so it kind of makes since. but still. the best thing to do Is what you are doing NOW. now you will get a t lot of crackpot answers that are only interested in themselves.  but there are some that are honestly trying to help.\n\nthis process will show you that you are not alone in the world!!!  and there is support out there for you. I came out when I was 18  and i am 32 now. it was tough then I can not imagine what is like now. \n\nfigure things out for your self before you tell your parents. My parents wanted me to go to see professional help.\nbecause I was so young (in their eyes).  \n\nplease do not get discourage!!!!  it will get better I promise!!!!  but as humans we are constantly tested throughout our lives.  There is always a solution to our temporary problems. But it does take a lot of courage to be going through what your are. so I applaud you and I'll give you a cyber hug!!!  \n\nlots of hope and inspiration!!!!\n\n-Patrick
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I think most people (not just gays, though we certainly do have less of a chance of actually finding someone) have this problem. It'll be okay though! Just keep up good spirits and you'll find someone sooner or later.\n\nAnd I'm always free to chat through YIM at SpookySickness or at bluesylvia@hotmail.com
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Hey guy.  Don't beat yourself up so much.  Maybe you are just looking in the wrong places.  There are people out there for everyone.  You will see that the Abercrombie types tend to be attracted to the Abercrombie types.  The bears are usually with other bears.  If people told you that you are cute, you probably are.  I know you have a lot to offer and the right guy will come along.  Just remember the attraction has to be reciprocal.  That's what makes the dating scene hard some times.  But it goes beyond the physical.  Find a group where you have common interests and mingle with that group.  Someone probably has a 'friend' who is gay that you might like.  Don't give up.  You need to be more upbeat and not sound so depressing.  Life is what you make of it.  I am single right now and am actually kind of enjoying the break.  Good luck.
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Its definitely psychological, so don't loose heart. Consult a psychologist and get professional help. Meanwhile try to abstain from girls for sometime.