My boyfriend met and has been talking to this girl he met playing yahoo pool. Him and i have this deal where we both know each others passwords to various internet accounts. I got on his messenger to do something for him one nite and SHE started talking to me, i told her that i wasnet him and she started saying something like "dont get all mad, weve already talked about you" and stuff like that. Now i find myself checking his messenger constantly, he says theres nothing going on but he seems to delete his msg archive when he signs off. Now my question is, why do I feel this way? Why am i so jelious of a girl i have never met? Why am i afraid they are talking about me? SERIOUS ANSWERS ONLY!!! thank you to all of you who answer this question seriously!
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I understand how you are feeling. Not that it has happened to me but I can imagine how it would make you feel. I am married and if my wife were conversing with another man over the internet, I would be concerned. But if she went to all the trouble to wipe out the conversation logs. I would be doubly concerned. Yea, he may give you some reason as a matter of security, but he should have no problem in letting you see those logs before he deletes them. \n\nSome time ago, I was talking to another woman over the internet but as a rule, I would never say nothing negative about my wife. Of course you should not anyway. But we all get mad. And if we start talking to another woman or man about how we are unhappy about our spouses, we are opening the door for an internet affair. Another thing is I would try to get my wife to read the logs because I would let her know I talked to an online woman and I wanted her to be secure. \n\nTalk to your husband about it. Tell him you need to feel more secure about this. People are leaving spouses all the time and flying across the country for people they never seen. And tell him it would protect him too because you love him so much
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Girlfriend: there're 2 scenario's! Number 1 is he's playing you. Now I know you don't wanna hear this, but keep an open mind! He's either met someone his own age (or younger) that might not 'intimidate' him as much, or he's just being stupid. Second scenario: he really digs you, but he's too shy/afraid/clueless as to how to tell you this. (Let's both hope for your sake this is the true reason for his being distant...) Either way, keep your chin up, and your head open. Don't go losing your heart to this guy just yet... Good luck!
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He is totally in the wrong here, and it's not too nosy to find out someone has a girlfriend of Myspace, if it's on myspace it's pretty public.  Be mad at him, tell him to go back to his girlfriend and leave you alone!
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I actually know what you mean.  At one of my gf's parties i was having fun just talking to this guy and my gf saw that and gave me this look like what the hell are you doing.  She is my first gf too and I haven't really been with anyone else, so I can understand what you must be feeling or fearing might happen.  My gf made it real clear that she was a little disturbed by what she was seeing and after that I realized how much it bothered her and now I am more aware of what I can and can't do.  With us it is kind of a little game though. She has done the same thing to me.  She will look at other girls and make comments just to see my reaction.  It is kinda funny that she is worried about me however, because she happens to be bi while I find myself more straight up gay.  I should really be more afraid of her time alone with a guy she finds attractive.  Perhaps what your gf is going through is similar.  Maybe she knows it bothers you or maybe she is just not sure how much it bothers you. I would definetely talk to her.  Communication is always the best way to treat little problems like these.  Be honest yet compassionate and not too firm with her.  It just seems that the trust between the two of you needs to be strengthened.  Number one thing.  Be brutally honest!  It tends to work out more than not.
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i am not sure but. ask him and learn the reason.\ni am in opposite situation with yours. we engaged about 5 months and she afraids. cause we met over internet...
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Some guys get into this mode that they "forget" their friends for a while when they meet a girl they really like. He may grow out of it. However I think you should talk to him and tell him you still want to be friends, and if possible talk to her alone and see if she really "hates" you, or is possibly jealous of your history with her boyfriend. If she isn't, have her suggest to your friend that they and you and your boyfriend go out together some time.
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Bummer!  That is a shitty one!  \n\nOK so, it does actually happen.  Kinda like a slip of the tongue.  I did the same thing to my b/f once.  It really was NOT intentional!  Just kinda happened.  It feels terrible to be on the receiving end I know, but as long as you have made your feelings known to him, and he doesn't do it again - no harm, no foul.  However, if he does it again  -  find a new boyfriend because this means he has NOT got over his X, and it was NOT a slip of the tongue.  Give him the benefit of the doubt THIS time!\n\nMaybe you should also think about mentioning to your b/f that you are uncomfortable with the fact that he still sees his X (if he does) and that this is the reason you may have over-reacted (I am not saying you did - it's just a bit of reverse psychology that will make him feel better about himself)  to his blunder.  As long as you are open and honest about how you feel, he can't turn around at a later date and say he wasn't aware of your feelings.
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if we have someone in our lives already...why do we do that?  find other guys on-line even if its only to talk...does our relationship lack communication...emotional support?
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I dont think you should do anything about it. This guy could end up bieng one of those sick perverts preying on high school kids. I say that you stop talking to him. Delete your profile with that chat site or whatever it is and make another one under a different name. You dont want to end up like those girls on the news bieng raped because they thought they found thier soulmate and it turned out to be some 30 year old virgin who's addicted to his Star Wars Collection.
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My boyfriend is still friends with the one long-term girlfriend he had before we got together. He still talks to the girls he had flings with throughout his early 20s. I'd be lying if I said it doesn't bother me occasionally. The important thing is that it's only occasionally. I trust him and I know he would never betray that trust.\n\nIf he still has feelings for them I'd be wary of getting too attached to this guy. He isn't bad, it just seems like he isn't sure of what he wants. Maybe those feelings will fade, maybe they won't. The important thing to remember is that he is entitled to those feelings and you can't force him to not have them.
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This is strange. People are allowed to make their own choices about who they want to talk to or not. If he can't see that, you might want to show him that. Then again, perhaps when he talks to other girls, he is playing the field - meaning dangling the carrot in front of the donkey.\n\nYou're only his girlfriend, not his slave. So you have the right amount of freedom to talk to other guys too. Perhaps he could be insecure that he won't 'allow' you to speak to other guys. He needs to gain more confident in himself and learn to trust you. When you two do that, there is no need for resentment and all will be happy. Hope that helps, cheers.
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i thin kyou should move on. if he hasnt took the time to actually realize you havnt called him in three days and didnt  call you to ask about it then hes not worried about you. i think you should leave him alone. dont worry about him. hes an ass! and then that message he left you on myspace...that sucked a big one!!!!!
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oooooo k...........talk to your bf see whats going on. thats weird though, has she told you why she disided to talk to this girl all suddenly? lets just hope shes not a hypocrit(however you spell that word)good luck! TALK to her!
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Well first off, if she is just a friend, more or likely you would already know something about her. He would have mentioned her or you would have met her or something of that sort. You could ask him about her, but then he would know you've been checking his messages. If you don't care about him possibly getting upset, then ask. If you do care, then I would continue to check them every know and agian and just see what she says. You know how you talk to your guy friends, and you know how you talk to your boyfriend. Does she sound like just a friend or something more? You might be able to tell just by the messages she leaves.
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I am right there with you! That guy seems to have some weird notion that talking like that will turn a girl on. I've never understood why guys put stuff like that in their profiles. I can understand them talking about things like that once they've developed a relationship with a person, but putting it out there before they even know a person isn't really sending out the best message. But, in the end it's up to you. You may want to give him a chance and what he has to offer....he may just be all talk. He's at the age where he knows what he wants, maybe he's tired of playing games and just wants to put his "wish list" out there. :)
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Giggles,giggles, giggles!!!!\nWhat's up?\nAre you still trying to figure out what to do about dude?\nLook let's just look at it this way, okay If he dissed you once because of a female (that was there before you, might I add)\nWhat's to stop him from trying to do it again?\nNow you know I do not lie to you right?\nLet me tell you the low-down on guys, If you let a guy get away with something once they will do it again, just because they can and they know you will put up with it.\nNow If you KNOW FOR A FACT that you & him will not get into some serious type relationship and it's cool that HE knows that you are not avaiable to him  and the same goes for you as well then I would say go for the "THE HOMIE" thing, just do not get confused on the terms of what "HOMIE" means.\nAre we talking about "Homie-Lover-Friend"\nIf so It will get very complaicated before the summer ends, and you know what I am talking about right?\nPlease Giggles just remember he do have a girlfriend, and like I told you before do not be surpised if there may be more than one girlfriend okay?\nAnd always think like this:     "How would I feel if MY boyfriend was seeing a chick on the side"\nLet me know how it turns out okay?
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This is a sticky one. \n\nFirst, let's look at him. The fact that he lied is very troubling, but I can see why he thought it was a good idea. While he was disrespecting your wishes, he was also trying to stick with his friend while sticking with you. No, it's not a smart move, and his point about your insecurity is invalid (lying is just not ok because relationships are about trust), but it sucks for a person to have to choose between a significant other and a friend. I think you guys can work through this however. \n\nWhy do you dislike this female friend of his? Do you suspect that he's cheating on you? Is she flirtatious or touchy-feely with him? Is she just an unlikeable person to you? Or are you merely jealous and insecure? \n\nLet's go with the last question for a bit. You've admitted that you are insecure. Plenty of girls are like that, sadly; I think it's mostly from social conditioning (but that's a whole other Answer!). You said that every time he talks to another girl, you ask him if he wants to be with them. It's exasperating for a guy to hear that. He's going to start feeling as if there's nothing he can do to convince you that he wants only you. It's also exhausting for you because you will needlessly worry about losing him. This will put a strain on the relationship, maybe even cause it to break. \n\nTo me, this is the more troubling problem. It's difficult, even impossible, to change others, so we have to change ourselves. Look into getting help for your insecurity; this will make you an overall healthier person, and spread into your relationship with this guy. A quick Google search for "overcoming insecurity" yields some nice articles: \n\nhttp://www.coping.org/growth/security.htm\nhttp://www.pathwaytohappiness.com/writings-insecurity.htm\n\nYou may want to seek professional counseling as well. You'll feel a lot better overall if you can let go of the worrying over losing people, and start placing some trust in others. It will be a great relief (trust me on that). \n\nNow, let's go back to the female friend. They're probably "just friends," but if they way they interact suggests more, then you have a right to be a bit suspicious. Example: if they are too familiar and flirty with each other. \n\nThis is getting a bit long, so I'll just sum it up. You both need to work on yourselves and with each other to make this work. You should focus on overcoming your insecurity and learning to trust others. You should also respect his friendships, even if he's friends with someone you cannot tolerate. Likewise, he should be supportive of your self-improvement efforts, and stop lying to you so you *can* learn to trust him! It's very hard to trust someone when you catch them in a lie. He should also respect that you dislike his friend, and do things like not forcing you to be around her, not talking about something funny that she said or did, etc. If he won't work with you, then I doubt the relationship is worthwhile. \n\nLast of all, it's very important to remain calm and even-tempered. If you start crying or becoming too angry, he may reach for anything -- even a lie -- to make you stop and calm down.