me and my wife have been married now for about 6 months but we are not togather for the last 2 months , we live now live in diffrent states , but we some times talk and she is always crying about how much she love me , i moved there to be with her but things didnt go to well for me , but here im doing really good but she dont want to come back here should i gave up  and just file for divorce
124459
if u can not come to a mutual agreement it might be the best thing...years from now u dont want to hold any resentments of either of u do something u dont want to do ...or try couceling cuz if u love eachother and had a reason to get married...there might still be a reason to hang on and couceling might help.... try to work it out before u just give up..that way u have no regrets in the end (hopefully)
400985
try to talk to her one more time, go there personally, tell her what's in your heart, and tell her u need to be with her, and if you can't have your family back, than u need to move on with life, because your not happy being alone. and wait for her response. if she isn't interested than there's no choice but to file for divorce and move on and start over again. but confront her first with how u are feeling, before u file for divorce.
75174
Stop over thinking this.  It sounds like your wife has been very honest with you about how she feels.  The fact that you two are only separated but still living together and still spending time together hints that she is honestly there trying to figure out how she feels.  If she didn't have some feelings for you then she would have left by now and filed for a divorce.  You just need to be careful and not go over board focusing on pleasing her all the time.  She is probably looking for a lot more than just your attention.  She is probably looking at your life as a whole and where the future might lead.  Take time to make sure the rest of your life is as good as possible.  Love is more than just emotions, it encompasses all of life.  Be patient with her and don't push too hard or all your work may have the opposite effect and drive her away if she feels smothered all the time.  Remember, what you do for her now needs to be things that you can continue to do for the long haul for the rest of your life, and not just for the moment to fix things between you.
179879
You should stay out of their marital problems until their divorce is final. She probably wants to distance herself from you because she has conflicting feelings. If your love were more selfless and less selfish, you might see this.
388712
Now what exactly is she unhappy with?  My guess is she's not giving you the full story.  Did she suddenly decide that a married life and the responsibilities that go with it, is not what she wanted in the first place?  Was she upset with you because you were gone and she was feeling lonely?  Is there another man in the picture?  If you are even going to try to save your marriage, you need to do a heart to heart talk with her and find out what she wants out of the marriage.  If she wants out, then I guess she has made her choice.  Not much you can do about it then.
644040
try working on having a friendship first that way you could spend some quality time together and she won't feel pressured to make a decision because if you do keep pushing her with 'i want to get back together' she may end up making the decision you don't want.if you start spending time together as friend she may remember the reasons she fell in love with you in the first place.\nthink back to all the things you did together in the beginning. and even if you don't get back to gether she would still be an important part of your life.\n\nbut be careful not to get your hopes up too much, she may feel differently from you. not answering your question could be a sign of not being sure herself, not knowing how to tell you she did want a divorce or that she doesn't really want one either.\n\ni would tell her about all the things you have done and are trying to do to be the person she deserves.\n\ntalk to her suggest friendship and take it from there.\n\ngood luck
588184
Separation does not mean divorce.  You still have to get the legal paper work done.  Check with your state to see how this is done.
321481
I think you need to listen to your heart and make a decision. Don't stay married if you aren't TRUELY happy, it isn't worth it. Take some time to just think without any outside distractions. :)
96957
Not a very easy question.  Unfortunately, I don't know what his reasons are for now wanting to move.  Obviously having a job could be a big deal.  Moving is a huge thing and it isn't just as easy as saying that is where I want to be.  There is a lot to consider.  I think he should care enough to talk to you about it and let you know his feelings and reasons.  As for advice, well you have to decide if you want to move or if you want a divorce if he won't listen to you.
578704
I think you already know.  You are not happy in this marriage, your husband doesn't care about your feelings at all.   You don't see any way to get him to change and you don't want to live this way.  I don't like to recommend divorce but if all you say is true than I think that would be the best thing if you want a happy future for yourself.
653407
If your wife left you already, what are you waiting for? Don't miss out on what could be for what isn't. You don't have to tell your wife nothing about this lady you're interested in. You stated she left you. You can file divorce probably without grounds since you've been separated already. If you must tell your wife anything at this point in time, it could just simply be, we need to move on. Don't let life pass you by on this one.
122191
make sure you've done everything you could do to save your marriage.  Your kids need you and the hardest part of this divorce, if you go though with it, are going to be the effects it has on your kids.  It's understandable that things simply just didn't work out with you and your wife but just remember you two are not the only ones going through a divorce, you're children are going through it as well.  Make sure that you're there for them as much as possible and be the best dad that you can be for them through all of this.  Good luck with everything
606069
Be miserable, like I am. It wouldn't be so bad if the man I married loved and respected me. I guess that doesn't help you, but these things happen. Do what you need to do to make things right, if you can.
100529
Divorce sucks, but I wouldn't let the potential keep me from getting married.  Just make sure you really believe it's someone you want to spend your life with.  I know that's easier said than done, but be strong, and be honest with yourself and your partner, and you shouldn't have anything to worry about.  I wish you all the hapiness and luck in your relationships.
56417
Well first let me say thank you for the job you are doing, I certainly can't believe it is all you had hoped for.\nAs for your wife, she sounds immature and selfish from what you say. You are already away from her and have been for three years, you don't say how long you were together before marriage to her. MY heart says leave her, kinda like you can't lose something you never had, kinda thing. If that makes any sense. This basically goes against alot of how I feel about marriage, though I certainly believe there are always mitigating factors to take into account.\n If you divorce her, you know longer will be smacking yourself upside the head and can get on with life. Yes you love her and that makes it hard to let go. To tell you the truth it sure can't be any harder than the thankless job you are doing right now, of which I commend you and those with you. \n I am truly sorry that your wife is so immature and refuses to discuss issues with you, but that should tell you something. This is just what I think because I hate like heck to see anyone suffer at the hands of another. Please take care and stay safe.
45722
When did your feelings change?\n\nWhat happened outside of your marriage at that time?\n\nYou may simply be looking for an excuse to leave him.  Your likely some where around 30 and that is a tough time in a marriage or out.\n\nKeep in mind that marriages take a great deal of work and nearly all of them have challenging periods.  That’s when you knuckle down and find a way through the tough times.  Your feelings changed once and they can change again.  Just imagine yourself ten years down the road after you have left him, simply because you didn’t try to work through a tough patch.  \n\nIt sounds as if everything else is okay and since you’re the one disturbed, maybe it is you.  If it is you, you might consider that your feelings toward him are relative to your feelings toward someone else.  \n\nMy wife and I have been together 51 years and married 46 years.  It has taken lots of work through tough times, but somehow it has maintained.
324218
She is calling you because she still loves you and she is talking about the divorce papers because she wants to see if you still love her. In her heart she probably wants you to show her that you don't want to have a divorce, so she is using the divorce papers as a test to see if you will react to it and tell her you still love her and you want to work things out. She is telling you that she is out with her friends because she wants to see if there is any sign of jealousy in you to show her that you still love her. Even if you tell her that you still love her, she might act as if she still wants a divorce to test you even further. She is hurt and she really needs your love, but she is testing it to see how deep your love really runs because she doesn't want to get hurt again. If you don't give up and you pass all her little tests (which she is doing because deep inside she needs love, but doesn't know how else to ask you for it), then you might be ready to go for counselling and fix your relationship. An apology and really meaning it from your heart might help to soften her heart. She might kick against your apology at first, but give it time and it will sink in and disolve the hurt in her heart.