He was watching porn. I feel so ashamed of him.
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Porn?  Oh, god.  Say you're kidding!  That makes him the worst kind of perv ever!  When I read your question, I was thinking pedophilia or bestiality or hookers or something like that, but never in my worst nightmares would I have imagined that a grown man might be watching porn.  I think you should report him the the sex offender office of the FBI.  The number is (202) 324-3000.  That is the headquarters in DC.  They will probably refer you to the local field office so they can arrest your dad.  Hope your stepdad turns out to be a nice Christian like the President.
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he is not going to give it up, so call the authorities and stop the emotional blackmail. otherwise you may end up on a porn site.\n\nalso if he treats you like this why keep going back?  remember he's in the video also.  if he has hidden his identity and only you can clearly be seen, look for some  marks on his body, such as tattoos, birthmarks etc.  this will help your case if you have to press charges.  what he is doing is illegal.\n\nsex between consenting adults in whatever form is just that, sex. don't let your modesty keep you dealing with this slime on scum.  he has probably shown it to somebody anyway.  maybe he is threatening to show it to friends. parents and your community, so what?  he can be charged with a couple of things and everyone will know what he's about.  \n\nyour only mistake was in having sex with him.  don't become a slave to his whims.  let no one dictate your life.  get the dirtbag out of your life.  in the future if this (the tape), turns up deal with it. you are young and what is now your present, by then will be your past. \n\nif you are a teenager, i understand your parents may be angry that you are active sexually.  but their anger is better than being controlled by him.  run this by an authority figure or go to a child abuse or crisis hotline for direction.\n\nBESIDES, HE PROBABLY HAS COPIES.  BUT DO NOT LET HIM HOLD THIS OVER YOUR HEAD!  A MOMENT OF EMBARASSMENT BEATS ONE MINUTE MORE OF DEALING WITH HIM.  RECLAIM YOUSELF NOW!\n\ni put that in caps to impress upon you that you"made a mistake", but by no means are you a "mistake".  keep your head up and do what you gotta do.
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This porno I'm watching right now.....cuz pornos suck!  (no pun intended.)
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Well, are you offended that he was jerking off or using your underwear?\n\nUse his clean underwear to scrub the toilets, maybe that will cure him of his little fetish.\n\nIt is kinda strange though...men sometimes have a weird concept of "normal" :)
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he probably just had rough sex.
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puke all over his face while riding on top..........it was embarassing then but its real funny now coz he cheated on me hahahahaha
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The lads a geek, I feel embaressed somtimes watching him swing his arms and big up his blood????????
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You are not being judgmental. What happened is you lost respect for Tim, and justifiably so. You should not feel bad about distancing yourself from him.
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cheating was wrong. and you were right to make him earn your trust back. But i would not get to bent out of shape about porn. It IS just looking with no personal contact. Besides 90% of men in America look at porn, the Internet is just a new way to get it instead of buying magazines in a store. But if you are really uncomfortable as you sound i would seek couples counseling to see what is going on. It will help more than you know.
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He definitley shows BIG signs of a porn addiction and he has probably had this addiction for longer then you will ever know. And honey, the monster of this will always at some point rear its ugly head. Its the hardest addiction to overcome and when they get bored with one thing such as the phone calls they will move on to something more thrilling and dangerous like prostitutes or even turn into online preditors of teenage girls (anyone that will help them get off). I was married to one myself and he sought counseling 4 different times and swore each time that he was cured. I believed him every time. Thank God I got the courage to finally leave, because he wound up with herpes from a prositute. Now you decide what you should do. Do you want to take that risk. Honey you deserve far better then a creep like that. Go get couseling for yourself and find the courage leave and go on with your life.
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I think he's self-focused. I wouldn't be so worried that it was porn, would you feel less abandoned if all the sites were sports?  But, the fact that you needed him, and he would rather stay away than do what needed to be done for your child shows a very self-centered, unsympathetic action. \n\nDo you have other examples?  Do you know if this is the usual response, or if this is unexpected?\n\nMy advice is to talk to him, not with accusation, but just tell him you needed him and you feel hung out to dry.  You are hurt, angry.\nStay always in your own reactions, not putting him on the defensive or assigning motive to him, ask his motive because you are hurt.\n\nGood luck
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because he is just saying words with no meaning , i feel sorry for you
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i feel so bad 4 u, i dont mean to sound fuc** up but i have stopped dating guys just because they have a small one. i dont mean to be so shallow but i just love big dic**. good luck and watch alot of porn.
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I am both saddened and disgustened.\n\nYou should check out the question where he asks if it is okay that he hit his girlfriend twice in the mouth and then kicked her when she fell to the floor.  And all in front of her kids.\n\nClassy!
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Tell him you want him to delete all the porn becuse he doesnt need it anymore since he has you. And he might also need some therapy.
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Sit this silly little idiot down and tell him YOUR house rules!!!!!!!!!\n\nNO PORN DVD's\n\nNO ADULT TV.\n\nFor God's sake - he is supposed to be an parent.  How would he feel if another man came into his house and showed his children pornography.  If he doesn't get this then kick him straight out the door.\n\nMen like to make women feel that unless they put up with his little porn collection then we are prudes......BULLSHIT!\n\nI have been married to the same man for 20 years.  We have three daughters who live with us.  If he ever thought that my children should be subjected to images that are not only inappropriate but offensive then it would be the end of him.\n\nNO COMPROMISES.......if he need porn that bad he can make HIS choice and go and get it - but not in your family home.\n\nAlso, it's a little strange, if you ask me, that he like to leave them around small children - are you sure he's ok?
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I totally know that knot you are describing. I think lots of men do look at porn but I wouldn't say all. It doesn't mean you aren't good enough or anything and it should only really be a problem when he turns you down for sex and turns to porn instead. Talk to him calmly and ask him why, but try not to act like a mother scolding a wayward child. Hope that helps. Take care of you.