Seems like my 17 almost 18 doesnt want to do much with her ole dad anymore,  i use to be her best friend it seemed.  I still like doing things with her even shopping,  but the older she gets even though still living at home she just seems a hug and kiss and out the door she gos.   I miss her being lil and spending alot of time with me, is it wrong i love her this much and still think of as being my lil girl?  And i dont mean anything nasty by it so this just a question for the girls. Please
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It is temporary, and has to do with her age.  The closeness will come back when she settles down into her job and life.
226617
i think if she found out you were 25 and didn't trust talking to you then that's good for her maybe she only wants to talk to people her age, but being up at 4 in the morning well its the weekend, maybe its her fathers name she is under, i don't know if you feel like there is something suspicious about it i would do what you were thinking about to assure you that you have helped her.... sorry i couldn't answer better....
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I don't know how old you are, but obviously pretty young. \nI'll tell you that you should respect what her parents say. This gets you in good with them. They maybe worried that you are trying to give her stuff to feel obligated to do sexual things with her. In which case, that's too serious for your age and mom and dad know that. Okay, so your intentions were good, and not trying to buy sex, but trying to show her how much she means to you. Girls don't know this. They are too young to understand any of that. She confided in you about her deep feelings, feel honored, most girls don't feel that comfortable around any guy. If you want to tell her that you miss the times you had with her, that is okay, that lets her know that you really care about her still, but you understand that you both aren't ready for something that serious. She will then always remember that you are a wonderful boy, and her parents will always remember you were respectful. Wait until she and you are old enough to date seriously, who knows what the future holds. Remember to get good grades and go to college so you can get a good job; no girl (or woman) likes a stupid, broke man. Keep being you.
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this sound similar to what I went through. THe only difference is that my dad didn't step in. I pretty much grew up making mistates and learning from them on my own. I don,t recommend this at all. Get involved with her. Don't punish cause at this age they think that parents don't know any thing. Try to spend quality time with her and gradually talk about whats going on in her life. Remind her that you love her and want the best for her. Let her know that for any reason, you are there for her. Somewhere in your conversations ask her about her boyfriend. Even if you have to pretend, make her think that you see where she is coming from. 16 year olds need to know that their dad will be there for all of their life, even the mistakes. My dad just pretty much let me live and learn. I think I turned out o.k. but I still wish I would of had the guidance from my dad. My mom died when I was 10 and it was really hard for him, but he did not seek help. I really hope that things get worked out. Don't give up and try your best to be involved with your CHILD. She is still your child. The mom needs a good talking to. She is alot of the reason that your daughter is doing what she is doing. Explain your concerns and she is you can meet in the middle some where or at least come to some understanding on why this is not appropriate. She has alot of influence on her. Good luck.  Contact me and let me know how it goes.
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Maybe it's NOT her. Maybe it is you. Your girlfriend sounds like a sweet young lady. And your probably talking about yourself in this question switching all around on her. What you need to do is pay your girlfriend a visit and let her know how much you LOVE her. But, if you ARE talking about your girlfriend(which I doubt :-)), the reason she is probably being a little controlling cause she misses you and wants you to pay her more attention. She probably feel like she is losing you and just a little afraid that she probably is. Who knows. But take my advice and pay her a little visit.
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39 single dad here of 3, son 17, daughter 11 and son 8. I probably will be worried more about her as she gets older but yes, it will just come natural and you will wonder what you would do without them. Life is so much better with them and gives it purpose.
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Before we say that it is statutory rape, we would first have to know if you are intimate (sexually) with your girlfriend. If you are, then it could be statutory rape depending on the state or country you live in. If not, then that is not an issue. I can see her parent's concern. She is legally considered an adult and you are still considered a child. I am sure they are having a hard time understanding why their adult daughter is dating a child. Since your girlfriend is 18, maybe the best solution to the problem would be for her to move out and find a place of her own. If she insists on living off her parents, then she will have to follow their rules.  You should be involved with girls your own age and enjoying being young. I really can't see what an 18 year old girl sees in a 15 year old boy. She needs to be dating people her own age or a little older and beginning her life as an adult, instead of dating a 15 year old child and planning what dress to wear to your proms. I don't mean to minimize your feelings, but at the age of 15 I doubt seriously if this is true love. It sounds to me as if your girlfriend is immature and is not able to deal with men her own age. I know you don't want to hear this, but it is probably for the best that her parents are putting a stop to this relationship. Move on! Find a nice girl around your own age and enjoy your youth. Take care and good luck! =-)
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WHAM! Maturity hit you like a brick wall didn't it? Your went from the innocent daddy's girl to a woman who is beginning understand (and desire) the pleasures of sexual activity. Now your mother is more on your level because mature grown men don't know anything about teenage girls. There isn't much else to it. If you have more trouble, feel free to e-mail me fret_guy89@yahoo.com if you would like some answers from a guys perspective. My girlfriend is a little older than you and is having the same problems, so I can empathize.
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I've been on both sides of this. I lost my mom when I was only 4 years old. My dad remarried almost right away. I was too young at the time to say anything. But later he divorced her and started dating again when I was like 12 years old. None of my siblings were happy about it. We wanted our dad to ourselves.  Well, they got married. We haven't always liked her or got along. But, my dad is happy and that's all that mattera. I've been on the other side too. I dated a man who had two teenage kids. Him and his wife had divorced recently. The kids did not want their dad to date. They made life very difficult and caused me a lot of heart ache. I really liked them and just wanted to get to know them. In the end I simply couldn't do it anymore and I left. He's dating again but I think he's talked to his kids since then and they are a lot more accepting. Moral of the story: If they make your dad happy try to be happy for him. I'm sorry for your loss.
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She's having a hard time accepting that her daughter is growing up. Obviously if you will be at a public restaurant, it's not like all of you guys are going to throw her on top of a table, strip her clothes off and pull a chain on her. Her mom is just trippin. At 14, me and my friends hung out at the roller rink together without adult supper vision, but, duh, the people who WORK there were adults. And I was ALWAYS the only girl hangin out with all of the guys. I just got along better with guys than girls at that age. She's making more out of it than is really there. Funny thing is, I grew up to like women. So, for all she knows, her daughter might be gay when she grows up! Boys think about sex a lot, but it's not ALL they think about. She needs to realize this and get a grip. Good luck.
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OK it is NOT NORMAL for a old guy that age to feel attracted to a girl 14 or even 18.  This is a serious issue. A girl who is 14 can not understand this...trust me i was 14 too. I dated a guy who was 20 when I was 14. I thought I "loved him" Now that i am older (25) I realize how sick htis is and how he had issues. Guys who like girls your age are guys that like to manipulate and try to confuse and control them. For her to be in a room with him alone is so messed up . She needs to stop talking to him cuz this will lead to more dangerous issues. She may look 27 or whatever but she is not and that is no reason for a guy that age to " want" her. You NEED to tell your friends mom right a way if oyu love her cuz if something would EVER happen to her then it owuld be on your hands. I know she might be mad at oyu for a little but trust me she will thank you later...plus it also will interefere with her future relationships. if you love your firedn help her NOw before she might be on America's most missing...
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Honestly, I am touched by your story. It is the power of love!\nI am fourteen now and I am also experiencing love now. I really love and care for her and believe that I would do everything for her. However, she told me that she didn't have that special feeling towards me. Maybe she has not realised how much I care for her. What I hope now is for her to wake up someday and receive me in her heart.\n\nSo, yes, follow your heart, if you really love her and she also feels the same, then you deserve that.
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hey! Take it from me, I'm a lil younger than you but older than your gf. Anyway, I know it seems akward but have you thought: Would you rather give up your luv because you care of what people think? Hey, look at most parents, they have about your age difference!
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Now is the time in your life when going to the mall with your friends is just naturally the thing to do.  She is sheltering you like a 10 year old and I wouldn't put up with it.  You can't get these years back after they're gone.  Before you know it, you'll be 18 and on your own with responsibility of having to work everyday to pay bills, unless you go to college.  I'm sure your mom means well, but when I was 14, I had the most fun of my entire life doing things with my friends.  I wish I could have those days back.  Go out and make some good memories that you can remember when you get old.  Sitting in the house and being a good girl gets boring....Go for it!...)(
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Well I do not know your mother, but from the sound of it. It appears she is proud of you and your daughter and wants her friends to see how well you are doing. \nYour 42 which means your mother is most likely in her 60tys + which means life for her has less pleasures left. She is your mother and when she is gone, little things like this will seem like miss chances of memories to share. \nYou know she has no control over your choices but if it makes her feel like she is then what harm is there really. \nTrust me one day you will be glad you let this happen.
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Your poor daughter is going through huge changes and poor you are the safe person to take out the frustration on. I think its appropriate for you to sit her down and have a calm talk. Just state your case; you appreciate she is growing up, she wants to be treated more like an adult and you agree that its reasonable; and you want to be treated with respect the same as she does. You can tell her that you can both talk things over and reach a compromise, but you won't tolerate rudeness. \nSay that you also have a responsibility to take into account her safety, so rules are their for her benefit not just to spoil her fun. Also offer her a deal; if she ever finds herself in a situation where she feels uncomfortable she is allowed to say "I'll have to check with my Mum" or "My Mum won't let me do that" so you get the blame for being uncool not her.\nOur kids need to break away from us at some point or they'd still be dependant on us as adults, but at the same time they don't have the skills to handle it tactfully or with maturity!\nI think you've had some good advice here and its been good to hear from people who are the same age as your daughter. I'd agree that you can now stop providing for her as if she were younger, she might feel a bit smothered. Ouch! Its ok for you to set her chores to do, and if she does them with good grace she earns her allowance.\nYou aren't doing anything wrong so don't feel guilty. You don't have to put up with being treated like something on the bottom of someone's shoe! \nI'd really strongly recommend that you take up a new interest or hobby, and sign up for some part time classes at college. It would help your daughter to recognise you as someone other than Mum, and it will help your self esteem.
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hi there, this must be a huge dilemma you're facing. i have experienced this before, i'm 19 and probably you would think that i'm too young to comment or give you advice on this but this would be my sincere reply to your question. firstly, is this a mutual feeling? does she love you to the extent as you love her? you mentioned that she loves you as a friend, have you confronted her and made your feelings towards her known? it would be best if you know how she really feels then you can decide on what to do next. if she loves you, and you love her too, and both of you are happy with each other's company- why let go when you can grow and allow a beautiful relationship to blossom? but if she doesn't love you in a romantic way, it is definitely advisable that you let go before it's too late. allow yourself to meet new people and give your chance and someone out there a chance too. it will take more than a short period of time to get over her and resume to the "just friends" status but it will do you good. if she's unsure, give her time to think about it. i hope what i said made sense, there's too much to speak on this. i hope that all will go well and you're able to come up with a solution. do not let this issue put you down, alrite? there are many other beautiful individuals out there waiting to be discovered. and i'm sure that she is also a special person.