I found out my boyfriend posts profiles on dating sites. One he asked a girl to go out for starbucks. He said he loved 2 girls. (yes I guessed his pass it wasn't hard being 123456:P\nI confronted him and he told me he was just playing around. I think he is looking for someone else but he says i'm crazy and he loves me and wants to get married some day. I think he is a potential cheater. I have no proof he went out with anyone but he did post to a few girls wanting to go out with them telling one girl he loved her smile and laugh she lives in Canada so I dount they met. Another he was thinking about her all night. What do you think I should do about this? I do love him and want to be with him but now I will always wonder if he is cheating. I have never ever cheated on him or wanted to. He tells me he loves me. He said he would be lost if I broke up with him over this. Give me your advice, please.\n(it's been 9 months we have been together)
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As I understand the situation, he can't get on these sites without YOUR laptop? Take your laptop to work with you. \nHow much time has he ever spent on the internet? If it is not much, then I guess it is natural to try dating sites. Poeple who are not on it think that's all it's used for...that and porn. You say he just got a job as a truck driver...In my opinion that means he doesn't have time to go online and flirt with girls anymore. That IS what he was doing. He was flirting with girls. Maybe he needed a confdence booster or something. As a man, I would think that a long-haul truck driver might be led to cheat (for real, cuz flirting online is far from cheating) because he spends so much time away from home. This does not mean he loves you any less, just that he got tired of his hand. \nThe internet thing, I would suggest you let it slide. It is more harmless than flirting with someone at the office. Odds are he will never meet any of those ladies, but as a truck driver, I might worry about the ladies he does meet. I'm not trying to freak you out, and I'm not suggesting you leave him, just pay attention. He calls you every day, that is commendable, especially scince he doesn't have his own cell phone. Now, you gotta pay attention to waht he says on the phone, like where he is, or what the weather is like, These kind of things you can look up to find out if he's lying. If he says he's in Denver, and that it's snowing, all you gotta do is look up the current weather conditions in Denver to see if he's lying. I hope this gives you some peace of mind and I wish you the best.
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If he truely was interested he would have asked or just given you a quick kiss on the cheek at least..and for him to say hes seeing other online girls and if it was ok with you would suggest hes looking for a just a good time or which date would give him a good time..another words it sounds like hes only interested in the fun aspect.I met my boyfriend on a dating sight and we have been together for 10 months now.but with him and i on our first date we were inseperable so if he ended with just a hand shake i think you can be safe to say that its not likely to happen as fare as anythng serious..go date girl ,have fun and if sparks fly then you have a keeper.
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Is it a "was" or happening now? Im confused. Anyway, cheaters usually cannot look straight in the eyes of their partners if being confronted about it. Be aware of his actions like stepping a few meters away from you when talking on the phone, whispering and having a good (and naughty) laugh. Suspect him that he's cheating if you do not see your picture in his wallet anymore.\nBut are you really sure or your just paranoid? If he really does, then start asking yourself why he's into it. Examine yourself if you may be in fault. To make him stop, assure him of your love and express (and emphasize in action) why he should be sticking with you more than anyone else. :D
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I think that he told you about him cheating on you, so if you forgive him, he thinks it would be ok to do it again. I think you need to get rid of him and move on. You are way better than to have a guy cheating on you. You need to get a good boyfriend. He probably just called you because he broke up with the other girl. You need to just leave now while you can. You don't want to get back into this relationship, just so he can cheat on you again. Ever heard once an cheater, always a cheater, well that is mostly always true, honey.  If you have the feeling that something will go terrible wrong, you are probably right. Your first instinct is usually the right one. If he likes to date your friends, and has done this before, he will keep doing that. Just walk away from it all.\nGood Luck to you, girl. I know you will find a better guy that does not cheat. That is what you deserve,
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This is tough.  Part of it is that you sound insecure.  You say he won't cheat but you don't seem to believe it.  Trust is hard sometimes.\n\nAll of us guys look at other girls (sorry it's true, we just don't act on it).  I wouldn't look at another girl when I'm with my girlfriend because I wouldn't want her to feel bad.  \n\nHe may like the attention of other girls because it makes him feel attractive. But he's not making you feel secure, making you feel like the only one so there is a problem.\n\nMost people do get jealous.  Try to have more trust him and believe that in yourself more that he wants to be with you.\nAs long as nothing is going on he should be allow to have girl's who are friends same as you are allowed to have guys who are friends.  Now if one tried to kiss him...than snap all means ;-)
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What makes you think he is cheating?  If you can't trust him, how can you have a good relationship?  A relationship that lasts has a lot of trust and honesty between the two people.  You have to ask yourself why do you think that he would be cheating?  Though, past experiences could cause you to think that way.  You should always give them the benefit of the doubt.  Plus, an hour away isn't too far. =)
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Do you still love him?  If you do then I would say try again.  BUT, you need to have a serious conversation with him before you put yourself out there again.  Explain to him that you never cheated and you were offended when he just blindly believed a rumor instead of even asking your side.  This is your life and your decision, do you think he is worth your time?  Is he going to just believe anything anyone says about you?  He needs to realize that the 2 of you are the only ones in your relationship...  Hope everything works out good for you.
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it is completely your call but i would go with your gut about him cheating, it sounds like he has plenty of opportunity and you wont find out... sometimes it takes more than love for a relationship to survive. you need to choose who's happiness is more important ultimately his or YOURS!!! i hope it all works out for you.
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don't really know, never cheated on anyone, don't understand the need to cheat.  i figure if you feel like cheating then you shouldn't be in a relationship in the first place.  but maybe him being in a relationship with you is just a way of him boosting his own confidence up a little for personal braggin rights such as "yea, i got a girlfriend".  either way just dump him and move on
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Yes, it is cheating.  Why does he need to look for other girls when he has you?  What would he do if a girl did respond?  You should get a friend who he doesn't know to respond to him and see what happens.
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Why are you letting this guy make you crazy?  Why is he the one making all of the decisions?  You're smart, if a girlfriend of yours just told you what you've told us, what would you say to her???  Maybe it's time to move on...
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You know the answer to that. Leave it alone, and see how his engagement goes. If he does get married, then it may have all been in your imagination. No offense. \n It could be that he is checking out other girls while he still can. Hard to say. It just doesn't sound like a good situation to step into.
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Please help ?  Poor, pitiful Pearl.....  clearly you AREN'T "committed to a guy" (but what the heck, you tell him about your obsession with this other idiot and he doesn't break up with you, one has to wonder what the hell is wrong with HIM?)  You suffer from the "I-Can-Save-Him" Syndrome....all he needs is the love of a good woman!!  What a bunch of crapola.  You already know that this guy has fooled around with other women - thereby cheating on his girlfriend (he confessed to this) - and you have said that "every word that comes out of his mouth" is a lie.  Oh, right - but he said he loves you.   Riiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiight.  And so that is enough for you to debase yourself with such an idiot.  You are right - you DO pity him.  But you mistake that for love and, honey, it's not love.  It's not even a reasonable replication of love.  IT'S PITY!!!!!!  Leave him and his protestations and his fake declarations of love alone and pull yourself out of this hellhole of stupidity.  Leave him to some stupid girlfriend who also holds onto him (ever wonder why she continues to keep him in HER life ?  What do you suppose he is telling HER about how he loves?  How much pity do you think she is feeling for him these days ?)  Leave him to his shallow "I-Am-A-Victim-Have-Pity-On-Me-And-Love-Me" routine.  Have a little pride, girl - if not for you, then for the rest of us!!!
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Okay, I know this is a bit much to read, but...I had a guy that cheated on me 5 times.  No, I didn't know about it until AFTER we broke up.  I didn't know what to do.  I ALMOST(really, REALLY considered) having sex with his sister's ex...which that was an on-again-off-again thing...but I didn't.  Then I thought about being friends with him again...that didn't work out 'cause he messed with my little brother and I thought about kicking some major butt but, again...didn't.  The reason why is really insane:  I still loved him at that point.  Don't ask me why because I don't know now.  Maybe I thought he'd come back crying(but he was the one that dumped me).  Karma hit him where it hurt quicker than I thought.\nApparently, one of the girls he cheated on me with got pregnant by him and wouldn't you know it...nine months later he was landed with the responsibility of fatherhood.  A few months after that, another girl got pregnant.  HA!  This was too good.  Anyways, after getting over the breakup(in a record time of a few weeks), I found this current guy that I've been with for 9 months and a few weeks.  KARMA ROCKS!  So, if you took Karma into your hands, that's great...even the threefold law works since he cheated once and you hit him 3 times as hard.  Buuuut....I think that if you went that far you might just be a little on the evil side(but who am I to judge, babe?).  Maybe you should post a pic of your cheater on the site I have listed...after all, there's too much girl power I can't resist.
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In my honest opinion....\n\nThe guy didn't technically cheat.  Try to look at it this way, he went out with the girl a few times, and then he realized how much you meant to him. Sometimes it takes being with the wrong person to realize that you are with the right person. In addition there was not touchy feely stuff so he probably wasn't attracted to her in the first place.  He probably just wanted to reassure himself that you were the right girl for him.  Guys get anxious and cold feet too, they just handle it differently than we do.  Talk to him.  Tell him how you feel about it and explain to him that your trust and love is a privilege, and he should be honored to earn it.
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I would say yes it is cheating if it's not something that's already been agreed upon. Ultimately, the real answer to the question would be his answer in conjunction with yours. I personally wouldn't do anything to jeopardize what you have going. My boyfriend and I started fooling around with each other a few months before we started dating. But, off the bat we decided and made it clear that messing around with other people was completely off limits. I was completely happy with that, because frankly I would think of myself as a whore to be sleeping with two guys at the same time. What made things really different though, is that him and I have been friends since we were 11. This didn't start happening til just after high school. But, we decided to become a couple and have been dating ever since.\nThe moral to all of this, really, is that you shouldn't do anything to f**k up what you already have going, because it may turn out to be the best thing that you'll ever find. At the very least, talk to him about it first. He seems to be pretty devoted to you, cherish because not many people can find others who are devoted.
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I understand your love for your fiance as you gave him a second chance in hopes of savaging your relationship with him.  There are a few things to consider here:\n\nThe 1st is that he has not been entirely up front with you about his side relationship which most likely means that he doesn't really want you to find out because either he feels guilty about it or he feels that you would be upset by it or both.  \n\nSecondly, for most men, if they have cheated on your once, they will most likely do it again because it gives them pleasure to be with different women.  Clearly, if I may be blunt, he isn't entirely satisfied with you and you can be the most perfect woman in the world, but to him, the excitement is no longer there and he'll need to find other women to please himself.  \n\nThirdly, either you're easily fooled or he's really good about hiding his "other" relationship from you enough for you to not probe him for the longest time. If this is going to be your relationship with him down the road, you're going to be always on your feet worrying about when is the next time your fiance is going to have another woman that you don't know about.  Its a very tiring game...\n\nI know you love your fiance and he should be grateful to have such a forgiving woman by his side, but how many times are you prepared to forgive him?  How about let's turn the table around and say if you cheated on him?  Would he be as forgiving as you?   \n\nGive your relationship with him a few thoughts.  Maybe it might just work out, but its not going to be easy.