My girlfriend & I have recently split up (March) after 2 years together. We originally were on a break but 5 weeks later she has dumped me for good.I bought her a pair of platinum & diamond for her birthday in April, with a message stating that I loved her & this was a token of my love for her as well as a birthday present.I do not want or expect the earrings back as they were a gift, but I do not know many women who would keep them if they did not want the sender/buyer in their lives.Most women I have spoken to have said if they didn't want to be with someone, they would send them back. She hasn't done so, so I suppose I live in hope that she still loves me and may want me back in future.
132011
You did not have to give her the gift in the first place.  But you are too good a guy.  You genuinely love her.  However, dont wait for her to come back unless she is unattached right now.  I dont think that a gift (no matter how expensive) should be the criterion for a person to love and respect somebody (especially when this somebody loves her dearly and she chooses to dump him).  In fact, if she is genuine but does not love you anymore, she should return the gift politely.
466254
I honestly don't need too much.  I have always wanted to have a girlfriend of my own who is beautiful, smart, funny, affectionate, sexy, faithful and crazy about me - and I have her! It took a lot of years but I have her and it's made me happier than any gift bought for me. I don't even want her to buy me something. Last year I gave her a diamond and December 17th we're tying the knot.  If I could have one thing, it'd be to have my cat but he died from a stroke.
278454
Your jealous, fess up! You know that's what it is about. My mother has all of her jewelry (quite a substantial amount) going to my daughter, my daughter will receive them after she turns 18 or my mother passes which ever occurs last. My daughter then has the option to give family members pieces of that or not to. She put this in her will simply so that stupid argument's don't occur like the one your about to have. The ring is gone to someone else, get over it. Ask you mother to will a special piece to you or your daughter.
522634
Depends on what she is into.  Check out what she likes.  Does she collect anything?  Does she have a hobby?  Maybe you really like her but at 4 months I think buying jewelery is too personal too early.  It could say more than you are ready to say right now.\nBut buying movies, cds, or adding a trinket to her collection of something she likes is a cool no added statement route to take.  Maybe she has an alarm clock that is not working or a phone that keeps hanging up on her- you could buy her a new one and keep it light hearted.  :)
19628
Oh, Honey, how awful! I hope the original ring turns up but until then, here's what I would do...replace the ring and tell him AFTER he gets home...no reason to have him upset while he's deployed, but when he gets back you two can do something special, maybe recreate the proposal, with the new ring... I hope that your "real" ring turns up...it probably will, the day the jeweler is done resizing the new one....most of all,I hope his homecoming is swift and safe
558449
Hope this works out for you. its probably a bit raw at the moment. could this possibly not be the first time this has happened, as im sure she is trying to tell you something and get a reactionary response. she wants you to want her and fight for her not just give up. im thinking that she wants you to commit after 8 years. she doesnt want to ask you to make it a more secure relationship possibly not long distance. she wants you to come up with that idea and put it to her. so she can feel loved and needed. thats what im thinking and im a chick and sometimes we can be a bit weird like that. so give it a go when things calm down have a honest talk with her and ask her what she really wants or doesnt want from you and decide what you are ready to give. if you arent ready to give everything - why have a relationship anyway. take care and give it some time.
207054
Hello again Fantasy Foo, I've been were your at, and it's not a good feeling. One good thing about life is....Time heals everything. I was once told: If you love something let it go, if it comes back it's yours...if it don't it never was. If you have the fellas number or you know how to get in contact with him...let him know how you feel, but don't hate on his girl...thats tacky.
103312
damn this sucks pretty bad . well as you said you never made her any  promises so yes you should move along .since this is going to be painful for her regardless just be really honest with her and tell her why your leaving ...exactly why ...women have a tendency to try and pick things apart too much ...if shes in some sort of denial shes gonna have a hard time understanding why your leaving her  , as long as your really clear she wont have to judge herself too  hard and wonder what she did wrong . and by all means dont let hurting her stand in the way of you being happy ...but no i dont think you necessarily think you shouldve left earlier sometimes we like to hang on too long thinking that magically things are going to falll in place but it rarely happens that way damn im blabbing hahah sorry
80562
Women can have X's as best friends without loving them or being attracted to them. I still keep in contact with all of mine. I care about them still but we broke up for a reason..you know? It means that she is a nice person as oppossed to a psycho who had a restraining order placed against her. You should feel lucky that you are with her and that he is her ex. Just make sure she knows you care for her and feel lucky to be with her..thats all you should worry about.
299005
YOU sound nice. She sounds kinda mean (sorry) but it seems to me like she's using you.. and that you keep buying her presents and she justs takes them without doing anything for you... i can't see what YOU'RE getting from this relationship, but i don't really understand whY you want her back...
206782
My guess would be it wasn't something you did it was something or some one he wanted to do and couldn't as long as he had a commitment to you. The gift was a nice gesture and if it made you feel better, then it was twice the gift you thought it was. Mend and move on girl. There's one out there for you.
403092
i know how you feel man, my girlfriend is the same way. you just gotta guess what they would want and hope your right. just get her something that would fit her personality. and another tip most woman like a whole bunch of little stuff. because they know you had to actually spend time looking for allllll that stuff, and then they now that there worth your time. well hope this helps!
33435
By law the rings were gifts and are hers to do with as she pleases.  She should be having no contact with this man for any reason.  Have her block his emails and if that doesn't work she should get a new email address.
31822
First of all the price of the jewelry really doesn't matter.  Some guys throw around expensive jewelry just because they can without it really meaning a thing.  Accept what he said for face value.  He likes you and he wanted to show you that by getting you something nice but he isn't ready to take this relationship to the next stage.  A commitment ring is a big step and shouldn't be given or accepted without a great deal of thought and serious consideration to what a commitment is.  Right now he is being honest with you and tell you he isn't ready for that step but that he likes you and that there could be that commitment in the futre.
285048
She's not going to make you any happier, even if you shower her with diamonds. She's a cheater and she'll always be that way. Find someone who's worthy of you.
604758
Are you kidding me? My lady would have my nuts for earrings if I tried to pull something like that. No other women comes before her. Ex-lovers...Nope, don't even bring the name up. Not if i want to sit and listen to her bitch at me for the entire night. If she even thought I was emailing and having open communication with an ex. It would be my a**.  You are his women and he should have at least a speck of decency and stop it all together. If he does not your relationship will break down for sure.
245828
if she loved you she wouldnt be leaving you so often for someone else. i think she probably is after your money if she keeps coming back. i dont feel she will commit to you the way you would like her too and i dont think she is in love with you as well. i know you have invested a lot of time and your heart into this relationship but i would move on. tell her its over and see what her reaction is.