I am in love with a married person and i am also married.He has two children and ihave also two.His understanding with his wife is very good but he also love me very much.On the other hand my spouse is just like a crueltype with me.Now iwant to build up a family with my love but he do not agree with me.What should i do now?
119498
You can't.  He is married.  Leave him and his family alone.  You need to work on your own marriage. If your spouse is abusive, then you need to leave him, but going with a married man is not a solution.  Besides, if your married guy is cheating on his wife, what makes you think he will not cheat on you too if you got together with him?
64193
This is something you should speak to your husband about. My wife had a similar problem. She married me at 18 and I was her first. She expressed her desire to be with another man for the experience, and assured me that in no way was she interested in leaving me for another. Since I love her with all my heart, I wanted to do anything possible for her. Through our discussions we have decided that we will pursue that in the future if the situation arises. I am working through some issues over it, but as I said, I love her and will do anything for her. If she needs to fulfill this, then I will allow it to happen. We may bring another guy into the mix with us or it might happen with her and him alone, we haven't decided that yet, but we will discuss everything and both of us must be comfortable with the situation in order to proceed. Communication is the key. I'm quite sure that your husband has some fantasies of his own that he hasn't shared with you yet. This could possibly be an opportunity for you both to discover new things in your relationship. Have a conversation with your husband. If your husband loves you as much as I love my wife then he will at least ponder the thought. Good luck.
485965
Thats a difficult question to answer. When I was married, I loved my children and I loved my wife. Differently but both passionately. They both meant the world to me. I made decisions for my kids that was best for them...and I did so with love. Everything in my life was done to teach them to be good people and give them the strength to succeed.Now the love I had for my wife was deep to the soul. I couldn't wait to get home each day to be with her... she was my best friend and totally had my heart...and had she not passed away, we'd still be together. But I still see her in my childrens eyes.
170203
It's possible to really love someone who is completely incompatable with you.  It sounds like you both need and want different things.  If you were married, I'd advise you to seek counseling together.  But you're not.  And it doesn't sound like you should get married.  \n\nIf you can be good friends and support each other, that's great.  But don't postpone the inevitable.  No matter how much you love each other, you have kids and he doesn't want kids.  Choose your kids and just be pals.
501937
If you feel the person your married to is the One, your attraction to other people will not steer you away from your love and faithfulness to your spouse. You will always be attracted to other people, your human. But you will feel it's not worth it to be with someone else because you already have what you found at home...that is, if the one your married to IS the One. If you have any doubt in your marriage, then you made a mistake when you got married to that person, and it will be easier for you to make the decision to be with this other person because you feel they have something incredibly important that your spouse doesn't.\n\nSometimes you may simply be confused about your marriage because of your sudden and shocking new found attraction to someone else. In that case, re-evaluate the importance of your spouse and figure out and re-learn if your spouse really does make you feel great, and is important to the max in your life.
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I really feel for you, thats a tough situation.\nAre you sure that you are really in love with him, as you only said that you believe you are in love with him. Be careful not to confuse other feelings for love.\nDid you know he was your uncle before you got involved?\nI know you fall in love with who you fall in love with but there is a brief window in which you can apply the breaks.\nWhat about the other woman he is with? Has he spoken to her yet?\nIf I were you, I would try to steer clear and if he manages to end the relationship with the other lady and keep his relationship with the kids maybe you could think about him again.\n\nI don't know about the law and deformities. I would say no to both questions, but just think of the people involved in this tangled web and how your decisions will effect them\n\nIts tough I know.\n\nGood luck.
81432
That is right! If you say you love someone, you gotta trust him. But before you fall in love with this person you gotta get to know him. If you are willing to accept him for  who he is, then it is LOVE!!!\n\nI have done that and I am now happily married to this man!
167372
Sounds like you got yourself in a little trouble. Well your husband must not be doing something right or you would not be in love with another man in the first place. First off tell this man how you feel and let him know if there is gonna be something serious between the two of you it cant go on this way for ever because its just not fair to any of you and if he feels the same way about you then maybe its time you let your significant others go. Second is this man going to be worth losing your husband over. And third when you look into the future can you picture yourself not with your husband and also him with another women? Life is to short if your truly in love with this man go with your heart, and dont wait untill its to late.
170779
I don't think it is possible to love two people (romantically). If you lust someone else, you probably don't love your wife at all.
432554
I think its a different love as someone else said. The love for your kids is totally different than the love you have for you spouse...or at least it should be.
241756
My husband and I love each other completely.  We accept and respect each other.  We know that neither of us is perfect and we are very OK with that.  If you truly love someone, then you will find a way to make no matter how hard life gets.
523208
yes, I was married to a black man for 20 years.  I loved him very much but we caught hell from both sides white and black.  People were always trying to under-mind our relationship.  His family had problems with it, especially the females in his family.  My family at first was not happy, but when they saw him for who he was, we had a great relationship.  So, you can't force people to except your love of another person of any other color or country.  You both have to work on  your love of one another because there is always going to be hateful, mean people out there who are not going to be thrilled with your love and will say things and try to do things to end it.  People are just hateful.  But, I don't regret it.  My husband died and he was a good person and we endure a lot, but we loved each other and people saw that and pretty much had no issues with it.
74279
If you are married to this person and you have objections to what he/she is requesting of you, perhaps you should have had this conversation before marriage!  Marriage is between the husband and the wife - if you want to invite others into the relationship, then you are exposing your marriage to chaos and the inevitability of divorce.\n\nIf you are merely lovers, then you need to assess what your relationship is about.  Are you two committed to each other?  Or are you willing to share your lover with others?  That is a personal decision.
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Everyone remembers the One. You got married to someone eals so im sure that you love him too. the heart is a crule thing it has no limmit on the amount of love it has. the heart always makes more. So yes it is verry easy to love two people. You have to decide if your marrige is worth keeping. If it is then dont worry about the strong feeling for the other man. It will be hard but it will get better.
263866
Now I got your problem- Sweetie... You have to move on your life.. for all you know he might have been married all the time you had chatted with him.. And you dont love him... this is not love... love is when you actually let go of the person whom you say you love and when that person comes back to you... you can say its love. Right now its nothing more of an attraction. Get out and meet new people.. try n get over him... if he doesnt want have a relationship with you stop pusuing him...!!!
116437
Wow, that's tough.\n\nFirst off, are you having problems with your husband? Because the grass always looks greener if there are issues. If you do have issues with your husband I would suggest counciling, if problems are resolved then see how you feel about the other guy then. Concentrate on your marriage first, if you really love your husband then I would try to fix what you have and see where it goes from there.
246264
If you both want to reconcile then do it - it doesn't matter if anyone approves.  What matters here is you, your husband, and your marriage.  Your family will learn in time to forgive him.  You need to also tell them that you have forgiven him and you expect them to forgive also AND treat him with respect.