My gf sent me an e-mail telling me that she started cutting and she cant stand living anymore. I love her so much, but how do I help her?
122092
Thorazine and a straight jacket should do the trick... Seriously, GET HELP QUICK!
202367
Well, if she won't leave her crazy girlfriend then its because she needs some help herself. OR okay, she can be scared that her g/f will try and kill herself (again). Bottom line, that girl is controling your friends life and its a very bad situation. Tell your friend to seek professional advice on how to get out of that relationship. She is being emotionally abused and needs to get out ASAP. Tell your girlfriend to call a hotline, get advice on how to leave and then just be there for her during the transition and so forth. IF your friend refuses to try harder and at least another month goes by then yes, move on. It may be very hard but at this rate its not fair to you. Good luck!
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She more than likely is suffering from some form of depression.  Have you tried talking to her (calmly, Open-minded)?  The best you can do for her is listen to her without judging her, let her know that you are concerned and care about her.  Just be there when she needs you.
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Hello there!\nIt must have been hard to have found that out about your girlfriend after being together for 5 months. I must take medication regularly, and I had the same problem with letting people know I took it. You should feel honored that she shared that information with you. It is so hard to even tell anyone that you have a problem, let alone someone so close to you. She is basically taking an anti-depressant, which regulate the level of serotonin in her brain. A mental illness is a disease, like diabetes or hypertension. In order to control our mental illness, we take medication. Just as someone with diabetes must have insulin. When we don't take our meds, it can cause a recurrence of our symptoms--which often includes suicidal thoughts. If you really care about her, you could try and learn about her illness. Be there to support her. People are often inclined to selfish thoughts, thinking how bad they will feel and withdrawing from the very person that needs us. Everyone has some thing or another that we must "deal" with in a relationship. I have had many relationships when the person I was with could not handle the fact I had a problem. I dont' let it run my life and am very loving and responsible. I am sure people will tell you "horror stories" about their illnesses, and these do occur. You did become her boyfriend for a reason right? Focus on her positive qualities and support her. If you feel like you could not handle it, then the best thing to do is to leave the relationship. Good luck to you!
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the only was is to get her to listen to you and it seems that she is not ready for it. you might forgive her but may be she did not forgive herself. \nyou have to do anything you can to find her address and phone # she might not even check her emails....
420352
It's sounds like she has a pretty rough life.  Maybe it's a good thing her dad picked her up.  I know you miss her but she knows where to find you.  Maybe when things calm down little she will get in touch with you.  Keep trying her e-mail address you might get lucky.  I'm so sorry you are going through this pain, I wish I could just say the right thing to make it better but I can't.  Just remember the bonds of friendship are not easily broken she'll think of you and get in touch with you.  Just pray that she is in a better situation now.  I know if you are her friend you ultimately want the best for her.\n\nDon't forget to pray for her tonight I'll pray for you, best wishes Hun.  : (\n\nDon't cut yourself it won't take away the pain.
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ok she is feeling like things are out of her control and she is hurt emotionally and yalls relationship is one thing she does have control over so she is trying to stop from getting emotionally hurt by you not that you would but its just a scence of security. tell her you know whats going on and understand but would really love to be there for her. give her some space, but dont give up or stray to far if you really do love her.
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I used to be a cutter.  I would do it becuase I would have so much emotional pain, cutting myself would hurt physically so it would take my mind of my emotional problems, instead I could focus on the physical pain.  \n\nI stopped becuase I went to a psychiatrist and got medication for depression.  That helped A LOT!!!\n\nAs far as what to say to your friend... my friends never knew what to say to me (my best friend talks about it with me a lot now that I don't do it anymore).  I actually scared them a lot.  Maybe just let your friend know that it scares you when they hurt themselves.  Then try to get them to go get help for it.  You can talk about the underlying issues, but if they are at the point of cutting then unfortunately they most likely need professional help.  That is a sign of a psychological disorder.\n\nAt work I have seen several kids that do this.  They give reasons for doing it anywhere from my reason to wanting to see what it would do, to wanting to kill themselves and just "hoping i would cut deep enough".  \n\nSo like i said, talk to your friend.  Try to find the underlying issue, and get them help.  Be there for them.  Good luck.
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end the relationship now while she is in a place that will help her learn to cope with it. you can not let her use her illness and  your relationship as a crutch. im a nurse and a lot of mental illness personalitys tend to manipulate. she will make you stay with her. you are young and need to get on with your life.
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darling, its ash. i think i know wat this is about, dont sweat it. its not that bad, the bleeding isnt so bad. u cant do that to urself again. its not ur fault hun, and i kno thats the hardest to hear, but it isnt. so dont blame urself, its not ur doing. she has to bleed to feel better and trying to stop her right now will only make her do it more. she only ever does it once so let her go. she will b ok, she always is. wen i see her, i'll talk to her. she is not ur responsibilty, dont try and fix her, just worry about urself, \n\nits not ur fault, its not ur fault, its not ur fault. \n\nid say it a million times, so dont feel bad, dont cut again. u cant break the promise u made to urself and me. dont. its not ur fault.\n\nshe'll b ok, we all will in time.\n\n\n\nbargain not with the darkness in time it will take us all.
468124
Maybe you should say If i love you i would help you get out of this   there is better life than this.  Just try to help all you can.  You need to tell an adult to solve this.  Do it quick because you wouldnt want something bad to happen to her and you never got help her.
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Honey, You no in your heart what she is doing to you. I no it hurts and the whole thing sucks but we all been through it.It's right there in our face and we refuse  to see it.If you keep after her she will tell you point blank that she doesn't love you any more and she has been seeing her ex for awhile now.Don 't let her do that to you,beat her to the punch.Tell her you don't care what she does because you have been seeing someone for over 6 months now and you love her.I no you won't take my advise. You don't no me but I am giving you good advise so please take it. I hope everything works out for you.If the pain gets to hard for you, don't think about tomorrow take it a minute at a time or a hour what ever it takes. Don't let this girl get the best of you.
199440
Well you seem to be going through alot! I am sorry! I will be praying for you and your friend! I wish I had all the answers -but I don't! Off course you want to help her- she is your friend- but it sounds like she needs help you can't give her! You need to decide do you want live with her! Can you deal with all the drama? Really search yourself- because she is going to need support and a lot of help! I wish you the best! You sound like a really good friend- when she will let you be her friend! A word -- never cheat! No matter what a person says to you! Just not a good plan! You take care- if you like to talk- http://360.yahoo.com/cloeenloe
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damn this sucks pretty bad . well as you said you never made her any  promises so yes you should move along .since this is going to be painful for her regardless just be really honest with her and tell her why your leaving ...exactly why ...women have a tendency to try and pick things apart too much ...if shes in some sort of denial shes gonna have a hard time understanding why your leaving her  , as long as your really clear she wont have to judge herself too  hard and wonder what she did wrong . and by all means dont let hurting her stand in the way of you being happy ...but no i dont think you necessarily think you shouldve left earlier sometimes we like to hang on too long thinking that magically things are going to falll in place but it rarely happens that way damn im blabbing hahah sorry
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She's NOT thinking--that's the problem.  People who cut themselves have serious psychological issues and need professional help.\n\nGo right now and tell her parents.  Tell them that she's doing it and that she told you she does it on purpose.  Then tell YOUR parents.  \n\nI know she's your friend and you want to help her but this problem is bigger than you are and bigger than your friendship.  Best Wishes and Good Luck.
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Being a cutter is a hard thing. I have been there,and I just recently found out that my girlfriend was a cutter. I use to cut all the time,for any reason I could find. Once a cutter,always a cutter. I still fight urges to this very day,and knowing that my girl was a cutter..really makes me worry even more now. If you are serious about this girl,then you need to make sure to watch what you say about her cutting. Little things can set her off. Just always be there when she has her moments,and when she does cut,don't sit there and lecture her..sit there and love her,and show her how much you care. Having someone be there for me is what made me want to stop,knowing that someone was always there when I needed to talk.
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Make sure your friend knows you care about her, and your response was out of fear for her.  Talk to her, and be there for her.  Encourage her to talk to a counselor, to get some help.  Cutting is usually a sign of some deeper issue.