We were together for 6 years and he asked me to marry him.  I said yes, but backed out and ended up marrying another guy...the wrong guy.  Now, all I want is my soul mate back.
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If u think, ur husband is not the rite guy for u...u shld handle tat first. If tat works out smoothly...then look for ways to get back to ur long lost love!!!
6450
Hun, I'm so sorry. I think you have to let go. I know you don't want to hear this. But he has to make his own mistakes. Stay strong......keep your dignity. If he comes back.....you will feel that you did the right thing and he will need to prove himself again. Just be strong and don't stop being you.
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yeah- There was a guy in University that I turned down - always regretted it.  I think he got married and moved on, but I always wonder where he is.
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I was in love with this incredible girl, Morgan, and I have never loved anyone in my life this way. THe great thing was, she returned the same amount of love. I wanted to marry her (I still do), but we broke up a few months ago. She said the same thing. She felt pressured. I realized she had never been single in her life after she was 15, and she is now 22. That's a long time. I tried SOOOO hard to do things to please her and make her want to take me back. The thing I finally realized was that I was making it worse. I was making her feel more pressured than ever. I quit trying, and after some time, we started becoming close friends again. I wish we could be together again, but she needs to be free. Freedom is a very tough thing to find. What i didn't realize is that i was the one who wasn't free. I needed to find happiness in myself. Who knows what will happen? Maybe we'll get back together, maybe we won't. I will love her to the grave, but the only chance I'll ever have, is letting HER figure it out. I have, for the first time in my life, come to a point where I don't desire to have a girlfriend. That's an incredible accomplishment for me, since just 6 months ago, I was in a hurry to get married and have a family. That was part of my problem. I wanted to spend so much time with her, cause she made me feel like no one else could. But love, as I found out, is something you do, not feel. It is patient, kind and generous. I can still love her even though we are not together, and I don't have to think about her every minute of the day. I can focus on my band, my job, and more importantly, making myself a better person. I hope that helps!
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the person who i loved with all my heart cheated on me after 2 years of relationship. it crushed me but i couldn't imagine my life without him and i tried to make things work. there were many promises from him, explanations, excuses, anything you can just think about. so i tried. all i got was another 3 years of misery, tears and broken heart. he did cheat again... and again... and again... so i just wasted years from my life and it ended in a break up anyway. it took me long time even after that to get over him but now i'm married and am the happiest woman on earth. i beg you girl, DON'T BELIEVE A CHEATER!!!!
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Who is it that you really want to be with!?  I was in the same situation, but i stayed with the guy that i was longer with because i knew how he was and i didn't really know the new guy and how his personality really was since i wasn't with him for long
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You chose him because you loved him and saw something in him you didn't see in any other man. \nHe has a job. Nearly all men have jobs. He has a really important job that is respected and I would hope you would respect him. You should feel sad and alone. You're married and you didn't want to be left alone. I can see where that wasn't part of the original deal. But you did marry for "better or worse" and if this is the worse, you're doing ok.\nIt is worth it. I believe with every part of my being that he misses you more than you ever realize. He is sad and alone and misses what he could have with you if he were here. \nI would find a support group or at least a counselor to talk to. Sometimes ministers are a good resource. Don't give up. Hang in there.......
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This is a really hard situation.  You need to talk to the other guy and tell him how you feel.  Lay it all out on the line, so that you will know once and for all if there is a possibility of something between you.  You need to resolve this before you agree to marry your current boyfriend. Talk to the other guy first and go from there.  If you want to talk to me, send me a message on yahoo messenger and I could help you better than on here. I wish you the best of luck with whatever happens.
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The man who I gave my virginity to.  He loved me unconditionally and was my soul mate.  We were together for five years.  He was 16 years older than I was when I was 18.  When I grew up a little I wanted kids, but he his were already grown and he didn't want any more children, so I left.  What a fool I was.  I ended up marrying a total jerk shortly thereafter to whom I was married for 18 years and had three kids.  Oh, I always wished I had stayed with the first man.
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wow...well i think that u were feeling like u could have either one of the guys, it was ur choice, but now that one is trying to move on u feel like u have to have his attentions back cuz ur losing some of ur control...i don't know, but i think u should really pray about it and try to b honest w/ urself...if u really luv ur bf then don't leave him for someone u like! but really i don't kno everyhthing about this so...i hope it turns out well!
475308
i used to dream about this guy all the time.you know what?im married to  him now
646409
Well , i thought that i had met the one the first time . Of course , i was the only one of us that felt that way .I have been fool enough to let him break my heart over and over again since then. I think , that there might have been a time when he really cared about me. Maybe he still does care , but now i realize that we just are'nt meant to be together in that way. It's really sad though , because even now--> he's the only man that i would want to have been the 1!
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Well, you got angry because he didn't email you back after you dumped him? I think you're confused about your feelings for this guy. But if he wants you back, sure, I'd say give it another shot. But seeing as you've already dumped him, maybe you have to do something special so he'd want you back. The question is, why do you want him back? Why do you want to give him another chance? And why did you dump him again? Don't try to get him back when you're not sure about you feelings for him. You've already hurt him once. Think about it. You really don't want to hurt him again.
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I think he just wouldn't feel right and he isn't completely sure of...both of you... because obviously it didn't work out the first time.My advice is give him some more time.Make him believe,and I mean really believe,you guys can work out!I would feel bad if you guys didn't get back together because you didn't prove to him anything.
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I dated a man for five months but after I found out he was married decided to kick him to the curb. My sole purpose for dating is to seek out a potential husband so why would I continue on? I certainly wasn't going to sit around and wait for him to leave his wife for me, I mean come on he cheated on her so it is a high possibility that he'll cheat on me too.
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I almost left my spouse and I am so thankful I didn't.  I deserved to lose everything/everybody in my life because of my stupidity but I believe God intervened for me.  I am not going to badmouth this person because I am just as much to blame for this mess as he but he definitely was not the person I thought he was.  It has been over for 2 years and I am still paying for this really bad decision.  I will say it before everyone else will, "what goes around comes around."  I deserve that one.
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i reached out and rested my hands on somthing while waiting for someone and this man i didnt know  grabed my hand inspected it and said "what no ring? why arnt you married yet?" like it is somesort of crime to be single. i told him as much but he just shook his head. the person he was there for called to him and went an had a meeting with them. if he isnt married i know why:>