Oneof my very best friends really fancies this boy. I didn't pay any attention to him because she liked him. A while back I talked to him so that she could get talking to him and he was really nice, which was good and he took a photo of me which was a bit strange at the time. Since then I smile at him whenever I see him but lately I've started to fancy him as well. And although, I don't have much confidence and I never think anyone likes me at all, I am convinced that he likes me a lot too. And the more I see of him the more I realise he doesn't fancy my friend at all. So is it evil for me to purposefully flirt with this boy when my friend fancies him? I care for her so much so don't want to hurt her but then if he isn't interested in her then nothing will happen between them anyway. And I never ever fancy anyone who likes me back. I'm just being selfish amn't I? But I really want him!!
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Well first of all...I have been teh victim of the same thing. So your not a bad friend for doing so. You just agree and see what your friend see's in him. But i wouldnt take the relationship anywhere other than friendship. Imean do you relaly want to loose a good friendship and hurt someones feelings over a relationship that may or may not work. Yea risky. If it were meant to be...he'll always be there.
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Honestly, if she were a true friend, she wouldn't be all up on a guy you like.  You are right to not let a stupid boy come between you and true friend, but this friend doesn't sound true.
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Its not really wrong, but it could be considered stalking if it consumes you.  I know that girls always do this type of thing when they like a boy.... so I see no harm in doing it for a friend,\nbut make sure that you dont become obsessed about it.
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I don't feel as if she is a friend to you.  But "you" know if she is or not because you are around her.  It is very ironic that everyone who you've seemed to have liked she likes to and has been physical with them in some way. I feel as if no "so called" friends should fall out over a guy.  Stick to having a "true friend" someone who doesn't like who you like knowing that you like them.  You aren't losing to your friend sweetheart because as long as you know that she is liking who you like try not to be around her because a true friend wouldn't keep on doing this to you.  This has happened to me but the situation was different.  Eventhough I don't know you I'd like to become your friend or get to know you because we have something in common even if I only give you my opinions or advice.  I wish you the best and if you don't continue to be friends with her don't let it be over the guys let it be because of how she is treating you.
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If he isn't into his girl, then that sure says a lot about him. I wouldn't worry about hurting your friend's feelings, just tell her. She will be hurt more once she finds out the truth about what a jerk he is. You said you are interested in him? Why? He knows you're taken and you're happy with the one you are with. I would stay where you are and forget about this other guy if I were you.
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I don’t know why your friend keeps thinking that you like the guy she likes, but you need not be upset.\n\nIt is better to leave her alone for a short while to avoid further misunderstanding. The truth will be out and from what you are saying it won’t take long.\n\nAnd here is one more suggestion. About this someone else that you mentioned you like. If you got yourself closer to him, your friend should notice it and then believe in you.\n\nGood luck!
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I'm not sure I understand your question?  Don't do anything.  If your friend likes this guy, and he likes her (or him) back, then be happy for them.  You never know, he might be really nice once you get to know him better.
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I think you have some feelings for him your self. I mean it's obvious that you like him, cause if you didn't you wouldn't be asking. You'd deny it now, but sooner or later, you'll stop living in denial and accept that you like him as well. \n\nWell the odds to this is most likely a yes. But he could only want you as a friend. I mean no one will really know the truth. Only he will know. But for now, if I were you just keep this friend ship between him and yourself close. Cause if you do like him as well, you'll know that he will always be there for you. So don't ruin this relationship. You might not know what you really have, when you have it, and when you don't have it, you'll want it back. Trust me, I've been in this same situation. You might not approve, but it'll happen.
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I'm kind of in the same situation...only I am in love with my best friend so that could be the cause, huh?  Anyway, if your love for him is only as a friend, you're probably thinking of him as a brother, and close siblings are generally protective of each other.  It's okay to be protective, just don't let it get in the way of your friendship.
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you really have to ask her what's the deal with what happened.but since i assume that she's your bestfriend,then i say that don't let a guy come between friendship.no matter how much you love him.and IF she wants him for herself and she lets this guy come between the two of you, then later down the road you won't be the one feeling guilty about a guy possibly ruining a beautiful friendship.
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Same exact thing happened to me! i have this neibor and every night we would sneek out to see eachother and i'd be like, ok were just hanging out, nothing big. and then id see those eyes and BANG i kissed him AGAIN. my boyfriend got pissed. hes like, if you love ME then you wont be sneeking out to see him! so this is what i did: i didnt want to hurt my neibors feelings, but i really really wanted to keep my boyfriend, so i just looked at the situation for a long time and tried to get my prioritys straight. thats all you have to do. look at the situation, see how you feel about him, and how your friends feel about him, and how your mom feels about him, and see which feelings are more important to you. if you care more about your friends feelings, then just stop. use your friends like a motivator to not do it. if your feelings are more important, go for it ; )
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Sweetie, just be his friend. If you get a chance to get him alone, talk to him and just let him know that you like him as a friend but you usually don't talk to him around his friends because you know that they will make fun of you. You can't make someone like you so if you offer him friendship and he rejects it, then he's just a shallow jerk and who the hell needs him anyway? Hold your head up high and be proud. Don't let them make you feel less than you are. I can tell that you have a good heart and you're a very sweet girl, so if they don't like you, you know we do! I think you're very special and sometimes people in this world just don't know what to do with a good, genuine heart like yours. If they don't, then they deserve your friendship in the first place. It may not be much, but you do have us and we'll be your friend. The people on YA are good, caring people who don't give a damn what you look like. And don't say that you're unattractive. Email me and I'll give you a few tips to improve your appearance if you're really that concerned about it. Just realize that true beauty comes from within and from what I can tell, you are a true beauty. I've seen your answers and questions and your a sweet soul with a beautiful heart, so the one's that don't think so can just piss off! God bless.
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Your friend knows very well that he likes you. You need to ask yourself if you really like him? There is no point in going out with him just for the sake of it. You don't sound very interested in him. If you do like him then go for it. Tell your friend that if he was interested in her he would have ask her out not you.
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Ask your friend if she would mind if you dated him.  If she says it's okay with her, then you're in the clear.\n\nI had the same thing happen when I was in high school.  My best friend liked a boy.  Then I went away for the summer.  When I came back, she didn't like him, but I did.  She was TOTALLY cool with me dating him.  \n\nIf she didn't want me to date him, I wouldn't have.  She is more important to me than any guy could be.\n\nThat was so long ago!  That boy and I dated for a long time, but eventually broke up.  She and I are still best friends and we're now 30!!!
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That sucks! Believe it or not though, another guy will come around, probably someone you hadn't even noticed because you've been too infatuated with this guy. Are you sure he likes her though? It would suck for her too though if she really likes him and you and he started dating. I think you're supposed to be happy for her or she's supposed to be happy with him, but it hurts.
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what is his personality like? is he a player? your friends seem to think so. there's the possibility he will do that, even though you've been friends for five years. \n\nbut, he can only take advantage of you if you allow him to! just refuse to go that far with him. you have the power to control that. find the strength and be strong. get to know each other all over again intellectually from a "relationship" point of view.\n\ni have found that friends' opinions are usually right. they have a more objective view about the situation than the two people involved. plus, your friends are only trying to look out for you because they love you, and don't want to see you get hurt. however, in the end it is your decision.
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Don't worry about what your friends think about him. They are not dating him. It is your world girl. If he is your type then if they are truly your friends they will respect that