I live in a small town (our school is tiny...only like 52 kids in our entire grade and like 600 ppl in k-12 at our school) so obviously there arent that many guys. Any guys who are hot/cute are jerks and you'd get majorly picked on if you went out with a not-so-hot guy. Well even though our school is small we have some GORGEOUS girls. I mean im one of the prettiest girls in our grade, or so all the girls think, but im chubby so the guys dont like me. I know that guys are immature at this age,or any other age, but that doesn't make me stop wanting a bf. The average weight of girls in my grade is like 125 and under and they're really pretty. They are my friends and they're awesome, but sometimes i get jealous that the guys like them so much, but not me. How can I get a hot bf over these gorgeous girls? HELP!!!
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I know how you feel. But why do you want a bf just for the sake of having one. There will always be shallow guys around that are interested in looks only. Why build a relationship just on looks? It never works out.\n\nWhy don't you live life to the max! Take up interests that you like. Join clubs that do things that you like. Have fun. Chances are, you will make lots of interesting friends whom you will share common interests with and you'll have a great time with them. And who knows, one of those friends may just be a boy whom you will like. Now that's the best way to develop a relationship: start off as being good friends with lots of common interests.
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To get a guy's attention you just have to be yourself...If the guy can't see how great a person you are then he is just a loser. Also it's his loss if he can't see it. Plus the guy should be so lucky to know a girl like you. I think the more mature guys look for other qualities other then looks, but I'm thinking that teenage guys are normally for the looks. Good Luck!
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Who cares what other people say! It's your relationship. It must be chicks who are criticizing you because there are a lot of gay guys who we think are HOT. But off limits if you know what I mean! You should be proud of yourself that you are landing all these hunks! And you should sport him proudly.
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It sounds like you need to worry more about school. Guys come and go forever but school is only once. The fact that at least one of them have blown you off says you need to crush on guys that are more your speed,  also you sound like you are way too young to even be worried about immature little boys. If they haven't already seen how great you are then they never will, I'd leave them alone before they start rumorsanyway. And yes guys do start more rumors than you think. Let a guy find you for a change. you can take this advice from somebody who's been there, of course I graduated in '00, but most things never do.\nGood luck hon! And remember guys are never worth worrying about.\n\n-Brandy
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You mean "caucasian." Anyway, you are 12 and you're too young to date. Guys your age are only after one thing, so don't even bother. Wait until you are older to date, i'd say 18. You can flirt, maybe go on dates, movies, kiss a little but don't go falling head over heels for every good looking guy. Take it easy. Focus on school work hehe :) How do you choose a guy? how about you choose zero, zilch, nada, nothing! trust me, you don't need a boyfriend now. When I was your age I never wanted a boyfriend because I knew they only wanted sex and wanted to have fun then break my heart so I chose not to get involved with any at all and now I am 21 and have a great b/f. Even grown men take a long time to mature lol, how can a young one like 13 grow up?? They want fun and you will only be just that. I'm not trying to get in your case but wait ok, and be patient!! Don't date, don't do anything you will regret; your reputation is on the line and once it's screwed up it cannot be fixed. You are probably an 8th or 9th grader. No boys needed. Chill with your female friends. Ciao.
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I kinda know how you feel.  I have a guy friend who feels the same as you and he talks to me about it sometimes.  Yeah it is kinda true.  I'll be honest with you and I don't mean to be rude or offend you but I've noticed that a lot of physically attractive men turn out to be @$$holes but on the other hand, the sweetest guys usually aren't the best looking.  So, like most women (and men) will go for someone who looks hot but in the end, they get hurt.  They want a shoulder to cry on and knowing how caring you are, they'll go to you.  I used to go after the good looking ones but I kinda gave up on that after I realized they all turned out to be @$$holes or perverts.  I mean, I still won't date a guy who is ugly lol but they still have to look at least decent.  I have found that these kinda guys actually respect women more and are very sweet.  So, with that being said, sorry to be blunt but you may need to change your looks and the way you dress.  I know it sucks but its true that people tend to be attracted to someone by looks and believe it or not but it does affect they're decision if they'd date you or not.  Also, I'm sure you'll find a good girl.  Hey, there's 3 women to every man on this planet...that's plenty enough for everyone.  Maybe you should stop looking.  I think they tend to come around when you least expect it and aren't looking.
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mmm...how ugly, am i going to be put off my food..hahahah, no serious, I dont think it only matters about looks or popularity..maybe in high school, but after that none of that matters..mmm my answer, not sure.. all my friends are popular and i find that popular people are generally self obsessed and egotistical..their my friends, i should know....( but they are nice) If your talking high school days then arent all the hot people popular anyway?? So if he is hot and unpopular then either he is an absolute annoying idiot (stay away) or just shy (kinda cute)\nUm i have to make an answer....cant answer. Hot unpopular..there i chose, unpopular are usually more in love with u and less in love with themselves..a superficial answer for a superficial question
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Just be your sweet self and you will find a guy who will like you for you. Don't ever try to be what he wants you to be... be who you are. If he cannot like you for you, then you don't need him. That's great that you have lost the weight, now you just need to find your self esteem. Join clubs, go out with your friends, volunteer - just get out there and meet new people and don't worry about finding The One. It always happens when you don't look.
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I am indeed sorry to tell you but in seeing the level of maturity you are at you can expect it to be awhile before boys catch up.\n\nSome never do. But the ones worth your time will not truly be mature enough to handle you until well after high school.\n\nNow let me say this. You are only in the 8th grade. You have a long time ahead of you before this really should even be something you worry about. I know you have now discovered boys. And some have discovered girls at your age but there is so much to know about relationships that it will take time.\n\nNever ever jump into any relationship because your lonely. I know....easy to say hard to do.....but it is very true.\nThere is a saying that best describes what I am saying.\n\n"How bad do you want it....the worse you want it the worse you will get it."\n\nTruer words were never spoken.\nYou sound like a intelligent girl. You know what is right and what is wrong. \n\nOnce you are in high school you may find guys are almost reasonable. But you have to watch out. The jerks are a bit harder to spot until it's too late. \n\nJust hang in there. There will be dates in your future and you will be glad you are as smart as you are.
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because if u r as hot as you say they must think you chill with older guys, so they think you r going shut them down so they think the will look like fools when you dump them lol try flirting with them, and asking them out or to han gout with them, if u like a certain guy try the thing from varsity blues lol let me no how it goes lol
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OK ..Ive had this happrn.  The hottie is going to get noticed first...they guys will go to her, BUT....  and this is what I saw happen, the average girl acts like she's cool with everything...and has a better personality......(she usually does) the guys will slowly start talking to her more.\nGuys (especially at a young age) havent realized how much sexier a personality can be than just a cute body.  If the hotttie has a great personality too.........go for another guy there..lol. good luck
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Don't worry yourself about it.  Your turn will come and the "pretty" girls will fade out.  As long as you have confidence in yourself, you should just be happy with that and not so focused on having a bf.
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Just be yourself like I am.One day this guy asked me out and i said no after that all the guys started paying attention to me and now i'm in high school they are still think i'm atractive even the people i'm not friends with.good luck and remember be yourself.
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Honestly? 16-17 year old boys? (i say boys deliberatly) they are looking for a pulse and a purse dear.  If you have either of those your in the running.  Now slightly older guys (or the guys your talking about in a just a few years) will start looking for sombody who is nice and sweet.  Now this isn't cause to be horrible to them now, but a guy will like you for who you are, don't try and be somthing that your not for them. Because they are too young to know what they want in the long term, and you probably are too.  Now that isn't a put down in anyway, its just the truth, don't be in too much of a hurry to get into an adult relationship there will be plenty of time for that.  Somewhere out there, there are a bunch of guys who will adore and worship you for who you are... Don't settle for less please... Good luck sweetie, and I hope this helps.
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This is tuff.  Believe it or not, guys like different things in girls.  Some guys like girls that are like sticks, some like girls with some meat on there bones.  Some guys like small boobs, some guys like big boobs.  The most important thing for you to ALWAYS remember it you need to like yourself.  If you don't like yourself it is hard for others to like you.  Any guy, and I do mean any, should like you for you.  Not because you have big boobs and are a stick.  They are not really worthy of you if they don't accept you for whom you are.  As far as that goes, you need to accept you for whom you are.  Don't worry, you are young.  In time you will find the right guy.  Don't place a large enfasist on trying to be with a guy now.  Hard to accept but you should worry about doing well in school.  This way when you are older, you will be smarter and make allot of money and then the guys will flock around because you are not poor.  Good luck.
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Hey, I'm a girl, yet I can totally relate. My self confidense is always going up and down, and guys I like gived me mixed messeges, and people have told me I should go into modeling! So it has nothing to do with how you look. I would just try to build up your self confidence by focusing on all your sweet and attractive qualities. Eating right and exercising will also help you look and feel better about yourself.\nIf you are still in mid, or high school, then just be patient. Those are such awkward years, i graduated two years ago, believe me, it gets better after high school. Girls are more mature. Don't try to go after conceited b****s. They don't deserve you. Just be yourself and try to just build up a friendship with a girl that you want to get to know better. \nShe may start to want something more once she realizes how cool you really are. Some of my biggest crushes in high school were on average guys who were kind of dorky, but who were just really sweet and funny, and natural around me.
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Well all guys are different but I think the majority of guys like girls that are smart but not geeky or take grades or whatever too seriously(thats scary). The media gives the impression that the dumb blondes get all the guys and they do get a lot of attention from guys usually because they're good looking, but that's just because she's easy to score on but not really girlfriend material. The chicks that most guys really go after don't try to take the spotlight and are laid back. These kind of girls know what looks good on them and don't dress slutty but aren't always ultraconservative either. Don't act like a little girl but don't be boring either. Its  all about balance and Don't be afraid of guys.  Also a big turnoff is body hair. Its really nasty when a otherwise hot chick has peach fuzz all over her face or a hairy back .  Also even if you don't have large breasts that's okay. Its not cool if youre flat but try to get a wonderbra or something, huge breasts are a turnoff, its all about shape. Speaking of shape, guys don't like really skinny chicks, we like curves and its not cool when a girl has really thin arms and stuff. Don't be fat but stay healthy, it will make you look hot. As for beliefs and interests whatever youre into is okay as long as you have self confidence in what youre doing and you realize that not everyones going to dig what youre into. Don't sell your soul just to get a guy that makes you look needy.