And what would you like to have happen instead. If it is something a woman really wants or needs in the relationship, and you won't talk about it or give it to her, is it nagging if she asks for it more than once?
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if you have to ask you are probably doing it. it has to do with the subtle control or the appearance of an attempt to control or at least influence us in an indirect way, and it is this indirectness that is so annoying.\n\nfor example, if i forget or neglect to clean up after my GF fixes dinner, and she kids me about it "saying you lazy sack get off the computer", the message is cool and i'll say "oh yeah i'll do them as soon as i can". (i usually mean before midnight!) but she could ask again in an hour. if she says "are you gunna do the dishes?..."  then my response is "did i fkking stutter before?". however, if she tickles me and says "you addict, get yer butt up and do them dishes boy" then i will likely laugh and go do the dishes, thinking nothing bad about her whatsoever. the latter happens 98% of the time, and the other 2% i write off cos it is usually due to her being in a bad mood; besides, she usually is spot on despite her poor delivery.\n\nnagging is completely unnecessary and i believe it is a manifestation of a someone having nothing more important to do in her life but control the person near her. if nagging is some kind of "issue" that you have to work on and you find yourself constantly checking to see how you are doing with the "issue" then you seriously need to find something of substance or value to focus on. go write a book or volunteer or something!
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Accepting a "no strings attached" relationship, depends on the personal standards of the woman. If you were not honest with youself, then this fellow will think you are OK with a booty-call-only status in his life.\n\nIn "no strings attached" relationships, signals can get confused because a man's attention to the woman can be mistaken that he wants more of a commitment when he is actually just carrying out the agreement of the relationship.\n\nIf he wants more of a commitment, he should make that known just the way he made it known he wanted "no strings attached."
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Hope this works out for you. its probably a bit raw at the moment. could this possibly not be the first time this has happened, as im sure she is trying to tell you something and get a reactionary response. she wants you to want her and fight for her not just give up. im thinking that she wants you to commit after 8 years. she doesnt want to ask you to make it a more secure relationship possibly not long distance. she wants you to come up with that idea and put it to her. so she can feel loved and needed. thats what im thinking and im a chick and sometimes we can be a bit weird like that. so give it a go when things calm down have a honest talk with her and ask her what she really wants or doesnt want from you and decide what you are ready to give. if you arent ready to give everything - why have a relationship anyway. take care and give it some time.
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What most women are really saying is they want a man that is sensitive to her needs.  A woman LOVES  man that can read her especially when she is not an open book.  If she isn't giving back, then keep her waiting.  She doesn't deserve your attention if she isnt willing to meet you half way.
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What's wrong with coming out and asking for it?\n\nAnd no, that's not entirely a rhetorical question.  I ask because for years, I used to think that if my wife REALLY loved me, she'd just KNOW when I wanted sex.  (Which, let's face it, is pretty easy to figure out -- if I'm breathing, I want sex. :-)  A lot of this is because when we were first married, we were at each other all the time.  (In our past relationships, we had both been the one who wanted it "too much," so it was such a joy to find each other and explore our own upper limits instead of hearing from our partners, "Jeez, we did it yesterday, how many times a week do you WANT it?")  When the frequency dropped after we had children (it's more difficult to throw your partner to the livingroom floor and have wild, loud sex at 3 PM on a Saturday afternoon if your kids have friends over playing Nintendo), this bothered me for a while.  I thought it meant she didn't love me as much, I thought it was Something I Did, I thought it was -- you get the picture.  \n\nThings have really improved in the past couple of years, since I learned the simple act of saying "You know, I'd really like some kind of sexual activity tonight.  What are you up for?"\n\nSo the answer is, go ahead and ask her!  \n\nAs another Wicked Sex Tip: In my experience, one's chances of getting lucky increase exponentially after a really good backrub.  Find out where she's always sore, learn what relaxes her, and be generous.  Besides, if nothing else, you're running your hands over the naked body of the woman you love, and that's on my top three list of favorite activities in and of itself.
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I dont think I would like it. Not even going to try. I like to please my lady, Thats had anough. Let alone tring to please 2 of them. Its just not my thing.
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a women craves attention and its bad to say since i am one but if your not getting the attention u r needing at that time and some guy is giving it than she will give back. but if the man is giving everything emotionally than i dont know why she would cheat or leave unless she just fell out of love.. imagine for a guy not getting sex he will leave right? ya or go somewhere else .. same for wemon just a different need...
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You're the woman.\n\nYou make the rules as to how much is too much and how much is too little.  Isn't that really what you want to hear?\n\nIf he didn't want to hang out as much, you'd be asking how you could MAKE him hang around more.\n\nWomen like you are interested in mindless drones who capitulate to your every whim.\n\nSounds like you got one.  Set your limit and enjoy.
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you sound perfect.  I want it like that too, but gf says no a lot.
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I think this is very risky business, it can make someone feel so jealous and insecure. If he just keeps asking to have anthoer person in the bedroom it would make me feel that he's not happy with me sexually. I think if this is something that your going to choose both of you better agree its a one time thing, and also it better be with someone that you will never see agian.
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ask her what she wants. i always ask because i would rather get something that i know the person wants or needs rather than getting something that i think they may like or need.
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Well to be honest....Hell yeah I give her one..thats the object for the man..to ensure that your lady gets off..no matter if it takes all night..and if that dosent work ..ask her what would do it for her!
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Property? Hmmm.... I become "hers," she becomes "mine," in the sense of exclusive intimacy and closeness, and the understanding that "we" are now a "we," but property? Never thought of it that way. Usually, I'm busy doing whatever I can to most ensure her happiness, and she's trying to do the same for me. (when all is right with the world, anyway) The only time a guy turns into "property" is when he becomes so whipped he loses individuality, and turns his back on his own beliefs and values to capitulate to a woman. If a woman really loves him though, she'll rarely put him in a position where he has to make that choice.
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Women do it!  (Myself included!)\n\nI had three friends over last night and we were talking about it...3 out of 4 of us (75%) do it regularly and the other one wants to now.  lol  So that should tell you something...
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From personal experience . . . I always dred when a woman wants to "talk" about a relationship.  The state of the relationship talk is frequently a poor subject to bring up with a male partner.  If you don't want to be in a serious relationship, there is no reason to talk about the current state of affairs.  Enjoy what you have now, and live in the moment.  Chances are, after a while, things will develop into a more meaningfull relationship.
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NUMBER2...Let him know her experiences with sex and the fact that she felt used so she wants to wait next time and make it special when she does. If he doesn't understand...cut him loose cuz there is always a guy who is willing.
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Some women do not know what they really want.  Much of human relationships comes from the unconscious mind.  Many women have no idea of what is driving them to do what they do because it is coming from their own unconscious.\nOnce stuff starts to surface, then it is a whole ‘nudder ball game.  Now the conscious mind can directly see what is happening.