I am looking in perticular for answers relating to that of a person who is being stubborn, and/or maybe very reserved and not showing his/her emotion. What action do I take
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I know a person exactly as you describe and he/she drives me nuts....\nYou can't force people to turn to you no matter what you do...Leave them be and when they need you..they will come...maybe??
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Long hot showers, meditation, exercise, screaming into my pillow, just about anything. I have a lot of trouble with patience too. If there are certain people that drive you crazy the first thing is to remember your being upset doesn't do anything to them. Sometimes you just have to let go of things. (Easier said than done!!)\n\nI also find it helpful to talk with someone. Let someone else know how you are feeling. Talk about what is stressing you out. Chances are someone else has gone through a similar event. While they may not be able to help you now, knowing that they survived will help relieve some of your stress.
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As corny and very used as it may sound, communication is basic, my husband and I have been married only for 3 years but the first year was like that, fighting over everything, but, we got tired of it, sat down and talked about what triggers our outbursts and started out with little things and moved up to  bigger ones,  I don't know for how long you have been with him or how serious it is, but you need to compromise and be commited to the relationship, besides  if you do one unexpected act of kindness towards each other, the other will be willing to reciprocate and it will make him feel you care and it will make things smoother. That worked for us and now things are a lot better.
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If you are not ready, or everything is going too fast, sit down with them and explain how you feel. If this is too hard to do, then you are not with the right person. If the person loves you he/she will understand and wait or slow down. If an argument starts, then you are not with the right person.
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He may need a different type of medication and intensive therapy. Be supportive even when you want to throw in the towel. He needs you even when he's screaming at you.
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If you are not comfortable with the actions of this person, then follow your heart and do what it tells you.  I think that it is sad that people feel they have to put up with bad behavior or otherwise risk being alienated from others.  The world does have nice people in it you just have to look for them and you are unlikely to attract them if you are hanging around someone who is negative and argumentative.
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One of the best things I did to improve my assertiveness was to learn to look people in the eyes when we spoke.  It improves confidence and communication levels.  As far as asserting your feelings, be patient, listen alot and respond APPROPRIATELY.\nYou live and learn.
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Ok, as someone that's been with my favorite person for over 25 years...\n\n--I have toned down my temper--I pick my battles very carefully!\n--I am MUCH less selfish...I think more of how he will feel about something I am deciding on and I choose activities, etc. that we will both enjoy.\n--I TRY to work a little harder on house work stuff! I'm not great at it, but I'm still trying!
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Look diligently for hidden signals.  Answer back in whatever "language" the signals are coming (eyes, sighs, shrugs, a way of standing...). Then move into "your" language, as far as the person will go, briefly.  End on a positive note.  Try again later.
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support and him and tell him taht you want to be with him and don't want to give up...tell him you'll be here every step of the way..encourage him to seek a therapist who can help him...maybe give him a few days but tell him you're not going to leave for good...
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This is an example of an emotionally abusive relationship.  I believe that there are some conditions that make a relationship absolutely flawed and abuse is an example of this.\nWill the person seek counseling in order to change this behavior?  If the person doesn't see the need to do so, I'd suggest getting out of the relationship altogether.  Living in a situation like this will warp you.\nGood luck to you.  I will pray for you.
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I dun wish to be in your position...but if I were you, I would speak to the first abt my feelings and tell her that while I really appreciate all she has done for me, it would be great if she can be a little tactful...tell her she hurts your feelings sometimes, and remember to tell her how much her advices and thinking have help you a lot! \n\nAs for the second...seek her advice when you think you need it. She might be waitin for you to ask...but too shy to tell you her opinion without you asking...=)
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I would suggest counseling. Maybe this person does not know how they make you feel, or even if they do, they don't know how to stop. If they grew up in a household that was always yelling, then they don't know any other way to be. If you can't get the person into counseling, then you either find a way to deal with it or find a way to get out.
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Gently tell her what you told us.  You should not be forced to do what you're not ready for.  It's not like you're ruling it out - you're just not ready.
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Is he really passive or is he really easily overwhelmed? He may not really like chaos, but not really have the balls to do what needs to be done. Since he's comfortable with you, you're the "target" for his anger over things being out of his comfort zone. Just a thought.\n\nMethinks that he's the type that you will not miss if he really does walk away. Really... If he's passive or passive-aggressive, then he needs to work out some issues without you there to do the heavy lifting. You don't want to be his crutch. Let him know that your life will go on individually if he cannot make himself fight for it with you. After all, One person rowing the boat with the other person just sitting on their side not rowing just makes the boat go in circles.
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I can totally relate to what you are saying. I live with the same type of thing every day, unfortunately the person in question is my boss. Sometimes I think if I let loose one day the consequenses might just be worth it. Horrible, I know, but this kind of person can cause the most severe and aggressive frustration! My advice is to avoid him as much as possible, which is what I do with her, but should you happen to proceed with a physical confrontation I admit I would find it comforting to know that at least someone had some consequence for their constant crap behavior and maybe will think twice about it in the future.
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Controlling your feelings takes practice. You start with making a decision to do it. Then, every time you feel a certain way, you remember that you want to stop feeling that way. Then, you replace that feeling with something positive. For instance...you want to stop feeling shy. You find someone who's not shy and see how they are. If they are someone you want to be like, you do like they do. Hopefully, it's a person who is mature for their age and a positive influence for you to follow. Then, you start making the changes that are needed to overcome your shyness. Join a club at school, like chorus. Join an after school club, like 4H. Get involved with volunteer work, where there are lots of people. Fairly soon, you won't feel shy around others because you'll be too busy enjoying their company. You will have conquered your shyness. Now, if your problem is anger, that's something a little more difficult. You'll have to try to understand why you're angry and how it happens. Anger usually happens when you feel out of control of a situation that another person caused. You have to first realize that you can't control another person. You can try, either hitting them or some other extreme thing. But that puts you in their control because they just caused you to do something you didn't need to do. You could have walked away, ignoring them. Anger is a choice, just like any other emotion. You can choose to not________ (fill in the blank with whatever emotion you have). It's a want, not a need. Feelings come and go. The person you "fell" in love with a month ago, you can't stand now. They did something that made you mad. Actually, YOU chose to be mad...no one can make you anything you don't want to be. If someone calls you a dork, that doesn't make you one. It's someone else's feelings, not yours. If you then start feeling like they're right and you are a dork, you just accepted their feelings as yours. You see what I'm saying? By choosing to change, you don't have to feel any way that is less than great. After all, God didn't make junk. You are a wonder of God's creation. <*)))><