well... i've been going out with my now boyfriend for a little over three months but yesterday at work i saw my ex who i went out with for over two years (there is no feelings between us) but just after seeing him was making me wounder what would have happened if i wouldn't have broken up with him. because yesterday he said he still loved me and wanted to get back together but i don't care for him but when my b/f picked me up i accidently called him my ex's name and it was just because of what had happened not too long before but how should i make it up to him... serious answers only please i need some help never did this one before
133226
Really there is only a few things you can do. Which Im sure you already told him the situation that you just bumped into him. Second that you have no feelings for the ex and that you only care for him. Men are stubborn and can stay that way for some time. Just tell him your sorry that It was just a shock to see your ex and that is it. Other than that it is up to the stubborn part of the man that has to get through the rest. \nGood luck
510111
I think you should take him back. Just to see if he actually has changed, because from the sound of it, it seems to me that he has changed. Also because you have nothing to loose if you do start to date him again. I also think it would just be a good decision to make because it seems like that would make you happy, with you missing him and all.\n\nOne more thing... you shouldn't lie to your man... especially about things that involve your ex. It's wrong, and it also seems somewhat suspicious, ya know???\n\nGood Luck ;)
244857
Its simple, just BREAK UP WITH YOUR BOYFRIEND before you really hurt him.  As you can probably tell, something like this happened to me.  My ex cheated on me then broke up with me(on the same day that one of my friends died) and I felt like shit for a really long time.  So if you care about your boyfriend you'll let him go and just dont tell him about the other guy.
667232
Wow!\nBig problem on this one.\n-------------------------------------------\nWell,it seems like your ex boyfriend is truly sorry.Seems like he still cares about you.I think he is waiting for you to ask him back out,because he is afraid you are losing your love for him.\nThis decision is entirely up to you.You need to face facts.\nHe is in love with you.He is very sorry.He cares about you.\nYou two need each other.If you're going to let some dumb a** chick get in the way of you two,you're dumb.\nGet him back.\n(If that's what you feel you need to do.)\n\n\n-Nick
71691
Well you would have to ask yourself why you broke up with him in the first place. Did you only break up with him because he moved away, and then he came back and you got back together? Or was it something that you didn’t like and couldn’t resolve? Is he the type of guy that you want to be with and is he worth the trouble. If he is, then good. Here’s what you do to resolve this issue. You tell him that you want him to do something about this other guy harassing you. Men are really easy to figure out. We're problem solvers. You just telling him about this other guy may not move him into action until you tell him it's a problem. With guys you have to be specific with what you want from us. We see a problem, we try to fix it. If we don't see a problem, we probably won't act on the situation unless we're told to do so. If you tell your boyfriend that this is a problem and you want him to do something about it, I guarantee you he will. Especially if he really cares for you.
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Remember when you least expect something, then usually something happens. Many people will tell you that the person  they fell in love with, had know intentions of falling in love with them. \n\nI would ask yourself why you and the ex-boyfriend ended the relationship. If you cannot think of any significant reasons for the break-up, then you may want to reconsider the second chance. If you ended with a nasty fight, then NO WAY!  That relationship is done and staying with him will only result in more turmoil. That is a fact! So do not settle for anything less then your fantasy man. If you do not set your standards high then you wont get what you want. That's a fact also.\n\nAs for the long term friendship, consider your feelings for him and ask yourself if you ever think about him the same way as other guys you have dated. If you have, even for a moment or in a hot dream that you had about him one night, then maybe you to should have a sit down talk with him about the consequences of trying to have a relationship deeper then a friendship. If it is what it is, then the conversation should roll off your tongue with ease. You should be able to talk freely about everything including the hot dream about him. Think about where you are in your life and think about weather a boyfriend has a place that fits into your life at this moment in time. If you are not sure or if you have something that you are dedicated to accomplishing, then I would say hold off on building a deeper relationship with your long term friend because thing will get complicated for you. The reasons are simple, if you deepen your friendship and it does not work out, the break-up will be very emotional and cause you to lose focus on other aspects of your life. This relationship will be much more difficult to end because you will not only break-up with your boyfriend but you will lose a friend also. Make sure you are prepared for what lies ahead before jumping into this one.\n\nAfter all this, Its sounding like maybe you should consider a date with the guy from work. What do you have to lose? Even if the date really sucks, then at the very least, you will have more experience to make wiser decisions going forward. Don't forget about the free diner you get with the date. Another reason is because sometimes a date with someone else can have a way of answering other questions that you may have about other guys. Don't underestimate the power of surprise, after all it is a surprise!\n\nLast important advise that I have for you is very important!  If you are sexually active in any way, now is not the time! You are in a place in your life where you cant make a decision about who to date. If you decide to give one of them a chance and then it does not work out the way that you planed, well you may lose the right guy if you did something that you end up regretting. Guys are very unforgiving sometimes even if they say that they forgive you. Trust me on that one!\n\nThere is no way to avoid some type of sadness as a result of your decision. Someone will be hurt! Do the right thing and do not make things worse for the one that will be hurt. You will remain a star in there eye and you will also leave a door open in the future if things do not work out with the guy you decide to date.\n\nBest of luck to you! You will need it. You must be really something special to have such decisions. Always ask yourself, "what is the right thing to do" and you will do the right thing! Have faith in yourself.
426763
Well I am guessing you mean after you get back together.\n\nIf you are only broken up for a little while and are not serious with anyone else during the brake then usually no. Unless they specify that they want to "start over" in that case yes.\n\nIf you break up for a long while and find someone else and get serious with them then decide that you want to get back together with the other person... that is usually concidered starting over. So in that case you would change it.\n\nOnly change it after talk to the other person first. You don't want to get confused.
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If you don't care for him anymore, you may want to ask him to stop texting/IMing you.  Your current boyfriend might not like it that the ex is still in the picture and might not take your word for it that the ex means nothing to you as appearances can be misleading.\n\nIf you've moved on, does it really matter what his feelings are?  Besides, he can't care for you that much if he's swayed so easily and talks against you at the drop of a hat then apologizes later to you in private.  If he loved you, he'd stick up for you in front of his friends.  He sounds wishy-wasy and not a man you want in your life anyway.\n\nBid him begone and be happy with your new beau.
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It is natural to have feeling for the EX, just remember, there is a reason he's called EX, and you are the only one that really knows the reason for that, so as you began to get these warm feelings inside for the EX also remember what usually would happen after that warm thought would come remember the reality of why you made him an EX and EX-ommunicate your thoughts for even going in that direction, okay, Sista Girl.  Remember, you want your PRESENT to work out, so please, leave the EX, as an EX. He had your PAST, DON'T let him have your FUTURE.  PEACE.*
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If you still have feelings for your ex, then you can't be 100% into your current bf.  You need to figure out if you want to go back with your ex and try to make the relationship work - or if you want to start fresh with your new bf.  \nKeep in mind that the problems you had with your ex are still going to be there.  Whatever the reason was why you broke up with him will still be there - you will basically be going back into your old relationship and be faced with a lot of the same problems and issue.  If you think you can work things out and it will work this time then you should give it a shot.  However, if you know you can't work things out, then you should give your current relationship a try and stay with your new bf.
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There really isn't anything you can do. Only time can really help. Trust me. I know from experience. I have been hurt many times in the past and I've just recently began to open up to my current boyfriend after 5 months. There really isn't anything you can say to them either because honestly we've heard it all before. We heard the same thing from the exes and so when you say them, they don't really mean anything at first. So just give it some time and eventually people do start to come around and open up more. It just takes time.
573232
You have to go into this with an open mind. I had a similar situation arise and am still trying to correct it. I was in a relationship that lasted almost 6 years. I was verbally, physically and emotionally abused by my ex. I met a wonderful man who helped me get out of my situation and get my mind off my ex. But I still doted because I had grown a strong attatchment to him (my ex) even though I didn't love him anymore. By the time I realized I was in love with this new man, things were too late...I'm still praying for him to come back my way.  What I'm trying to get at is that you need to give yourself time to get over your abusive ex, because you won't be happy in your new relationship. Loving somebody else is a big sign that you're getting closer to that. Remember your ex is your ex for a reason and HE did all that bad stuff to you. Not your new guy. You will also realize quicker in a new relationship if he has abusive tendencies so you can move on.  I suggest calling him and trying to set something up such as    coffee, keep it casual and let him know face to face how you feel. I know your scared but you have to do it or you'll never know what could have been!
37281
He doesn't like you, he wants you, there's a difference. He may have realized he lost a good thing, but that's the key; he lost it. You have a new guy now and he sounds like he's not to bad a guy. Your ex on the other-hand approached you and tried to get you to dump your guy! If he cared at all for what you felt he'd have left you alone.
523191
You mentioned that you were confused with your life. Perhaps you should try getting a better foothold with your own life before you do anything else. Getting back with her while you remain in a state of confusion isn't going to help the both of you. And if you really want to be with your ex girlfriend, I'd suggest you come clean about your feelings to her and your present girlfriend. A girl wouldn't want to patch if you're already seeing someone else. Don't give your ex the wrong impression that you are a 'two-timer'.
624856
What happened that he's an "ex" and not a current boyfriend?\nDid you break it off or did he?\nDid the relationship end on a good note or did it end in a bad way?\nDid either of you cheat on the other?\nThere's not enough information to give you a reasonable answer.
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He probably didn't want the akwardness of the situation....plus if he is your EX why would you stop to talk to him while you have your boyfriend with you, and he has his FIANCEE with him?  Its understandable if you guys still keep in touch but there is no need to cause drama with someone he is willing to Marry and possibly start a family with.  My advice would be to forget about him and move on, Im sure thats what your boyfriend and your Ex's Fiancee would like as well!  And if you see him again just smile and keep walking!
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whats with him and ex's?  Youre an ex he's back with, now you're concerned about another ex.  Alarms went off when I read this. You need to be sure you're who he wants before you get hurt.  Give him a chance to be certain what he wants before you invest your heart into this once failed relationship.