when you have been with someone..and u break up..how come it is harder for u to get over that person...when u see them on a daily basis...becuz ur friends r thier friends to..and u cant stop havin those feelings be ignited everytime he walks in the door..its just hard to deal with things like that..
135008
Find something or someone to occupy your time.
67940
Well you can't control other people's feelings and to try to do something to break the relationship up is not being a friend to either of them. The only thing you can do is go on with your life and meet other people.
429166
Actually, getting over someone you really love its really difficult in any way. I personally experienced it and untill now I still find myself thinking of him all the time and I dont know why it happens. We ended everything 3 yrs ago.\n. Im optimistic still, tough after that all my other "relationships" ended crap. \nYou just have to accept it and move on and believe that there will be a brighter future. Look at it as a beautiful memory because first loves are never forgotten. They will always be special and will always be a part of you.
64528
Ok!!! I think I get it. You broke up with your ex ok, you started to see this other guy but something is not right. Ok! Its not totally your fault but kinda is in away. but if you look at it this way.  He fell for you right after you broke up with your ex. When your still need to recover and think about what had happen between you and your ex. Figure things out!! RIGHT!  You really didn't need to be with him or any one. You really needed was a friend to talk to BUT (this is were its his fault)  he took that oppunity to get with you and now his all booty hurt becuase you pulled away.  He knew he was on the rebound.  If he cared enough for you he would of just left it as friends until you are ready for a relationship. So he can get the full true feeling of been in love with you.  Honestly his hurting himself because you did what was right about not let him go on knowning that there is a change for you two. But you should of been honest with him for the start.  You need to sit and talk to him and if he don't gave you that then its his lost cause.  Really if he really care for you, he would be htere as a true friend and wait a while to the time was right.  Then maybe there can be a change and things will feel right and nothing missing.  Your mind and heart is with someone else not with him.  If he can't expect that then its not your lost.  You just need to look at it if its one less person to know.  Your not a bad person for breaking it off with him. You told him what was up.  sometimes its better that way.. He'll end up talking to you matter what.  Jsut give him the space and time to cool off and then really see him for him not what was.  Maybe he was just doing it for something else who knows. Best of luck to you.
597076
I'm in the same boat honey. I'm trying to get over this guy who only wants to be my friend now.  And yes I want that, but every time I hang out with him I want to hug and kiss him like I used to, which wasn't too long ago. What my friends tell me, and what I'm now telling you, you need to break away from him for awhile. Try not to call him, as hard as that is, and just give your heart and head a break from him. And maybe in a couple weeks or months, or however long it takes you, you'll be able to hang out with him with no feelings other than friendship aimed at him. Also another good way of getting over him, is trying to date other people, even though they won't be him and you'll be comparing them all to him, it'll be a stepping stone, and eventually you'll meet that guy and not even think about your ex. Hope this makes sense and helps. Good luck.
569703
don't do it....i did just that thing and ended up very sad and very screwed over. after we broke up i still had to see him everyday, so that made it even harder cause i still cared very much for him. think hard before starting a work related relationship with anyone
338683
I think you have every right in the world to hurt by this.  If they were mutual friends it makes it that much more difficult.  However, it looks like your correct when you say he is over the grieving part of the breakup and he has began to move on.  But you don't seem to be accepting the end of the relationship as well as he.  The end of a marriage or relationship is a lot like a death and people need proper amount of to time grieve for it.  Sadness, betrayal, anger, resentment, denial and acceptance will all come in due course if you allow then to take place naturally and don't continue to dwell in denial by believing that you will reunite.  If necessary you may need to see a counselor or your family doctor to discuss how the end of your relationship continues to affect your mood and to also inform that you have been feeling depressed lately.  Best of luck to you in starting a new life as a single.  I know as well as anyone how difficult this transition can be but realizing that your not the first nor will you be the last person this has happened to may help the situation also.
572709
Wow, your situation sounds like mine!! My ex was older than me and he got over me way too soon. I wasn't ready to see him with his new girlfriend and i got upset. After being in a situation like yours, i think you should move on. It will be hard and the feeling of love with still be there, but i would forget him and just move on. You never know what is out there unless you go for it and forget about your past!! It sounds hard and you may not want to do it.. but seriously get over him and give yourself some time to heal before finding someone else. Don't just jump into a new relationship either. Really deal with the situation and make sure you're feelings are gone before getting with someone else!! Good luck :)
486820
Well, firstly, you need to write down why exactly he's an EX.  I'm sure there's a reason for it.  Then you need to figure out if those reasons are still there.  You broke up with him for a reason, don't get back together with him if those reasons haven't been removed.\n\nSecondly, we always have a soft spot for some of our exes.  They're comfortable.  You know them well, and sometimes, you need the attention that they can give you.  Doesn't mean that you'll make a good couple, just that you'll make good friends.\n\nIf you're interested, spend some time being his friend and see if anything develops.
253778
Using someone to get over another is not a good idea. You can't expect someone else to make you happy, that is something you have to be responsible for.
483509
if you really can't get over him, then i guess you'll have to learn the hard way and hear it cold from him. call him and hear his rejection and that should make you get over him. if it doesn't work the first time, keep dfoing that until you are over him and have moved on.
388798
Just b/c your the one who broke things off doesn't make it any less painful for you.  You are still going to go through the "missing him" part...  Just make sure you don't go back and forth on your decision and get back together with him.  Stick to your guns.  You made your decision, now stick with it.
586942
It takes time to get over someone that you have loved and trusted so deeply. I know that's probably not what you want to hear but it is true. The last thing that you need to do right now is to jump into another relationship. Take your time and let love happen to you again in its own time. In the mean time try to occupy your time with other things and don't dwell on missing him so much. I know its easier said than done but trust me in time it will get better.
527140
You have to realize that there is someone else out there for you.  You go through good and bad break ups for a reason, and as long as you learn from them, I feel that it is the experience that's perfecting you for that perfect mate.  Know that you're not alone.  Some people come in your life who are supposed to play a significant role, and those who choose to pass right through and do you wrong were never meant to be special enough to make an important and positive mark in your life.  Don't beat yourself up, just learn from it.
85779
This is a common problem that people should really just get over.  Shouldn't you be happy for your friend or even your ex.  Seems real immature to hold a grudge like that.  I say, if you really like the friend, blow off your ex or tell him to suck it up and deal.
290524
U have got to give urself time to get over him....u will soon..time is a great healer.
276266
it because you still love when you broke up there was no pain of lose him because he was always by your side as a friend ,now your heart is realize how much you like him and don't want to lose him