My parents think so.. but i disagree. Whats your opinion?
127400
No, it's fine. You've been together a very long time. Why not make things more convenient?
126049
Belief is a very strong thing, I'm not sure that if you really thought about it you would be surprised that your decision upsets your parents. Although the freedom to choose is yours alone, I don't think you will easily get your dad to accept your faith. Just make sure you follow it because you believe it, not to make dad mad.
609992
I don't think that means he doesn't believe you, but you're definitely right that he is avoiding controversy.  Unfortunately, with a teenager in the house, there will be plenty of controversy, and you will have your share of arguments.  It's normal for a teenager to start to question his/her parents' authority and way of doing things, but this is also the stage when you and your husband need to show a "united front" whenever issues are raised with your teenager.  You won't be sending him the right message if the two of you don't agree on the message you're sending him, and if only one of you is sending the message and the other one is avoiding it, then you two are not sending the same message.  I think you should sit down with your husband, start by saying you are very concerned about this... and tell him why you would like him to get more involved for the sake of your son.
616954
okay its easy, parents are parents, and no matter what, no matter how it is, parents are always right.. you see, i met this guy.. and he's...not all there, kinda crazy, kinda.. just you know, not there.. and we ended up dating, i thought he was just perfect, blue and black hair... just. you know a babe? im into.. kinda crazy guys,  he was telling me within a month of our relationship that he didnt want to live, and he cut himself and all this..and i ended up getting really down, he told me not to tell anyone, but i told my mother because i thought it was the best,  and she was like nuh oh no way.. and like totally freaked out on me for being with him if he was like that.. i dont even think he believes in god..well he ended up finding it out from someone, and was really upset, i asked him why.. and he said i knew why.. and i told him i did what i thought was best, and that i cared for him.. he ended up calling me all these...few choice words, telling me..few choice things.. and we ended up breaking up...now im with this really nice guy... and everything is working out, just perfectly..and guess what? my mother loves him..but what im saying... is maybe you can talk your parents into it.... maybe like invite him over for dinner and you guys can eat as a family. and it would give your parents an idea to get to know him more, and see what a great guy he really is. or in my case, maybe theres someone better for you..  best of luck.
543436
Oh I struggle with this constantly but for different reasons. My parents are addicts. There comes a time in life when you must concentarte on you. If those around you, particularily family have reached toxic levels where they are poisoning your own life, it's best to back off and distant yourself. I would not write them off entirely, I've thought about doing it myself, but it all comes back to they are family and we cannot choose our family and like them or not, through them we are here. I don't know how old you are, but if you are younger I would suggest possibly just distancing yourself and speaking up with the issues you disagree with and make certain they know that it hurts your feelings and do not entertain their ignorant remarks and actions by giving any other reaction other than telling them that at this point and time you do not agree with their opinions. If you are young, there could be possibly something else going on that they are actually concerned about that you aren't seeing just yet. However if it's purely based on race, I'd keep my feet planted in your beliefs and hopefully with time after you stay away from them for awhile they'll realize their love for you is stronger than their hate for another.  I wouldn't give your father any special treatment either, because he is encouraging everyone around him by not speaking up if he truly is aware of their issues and agrees with you. Sounds to me like your father may be ignorant as well, and only agrees with you in private for fear of losing his little girl. All you can do is stand strong in your beliefs, distance yourself from how involved with them you are, but I wouldn't write them out entirely. Now if they begin to do anything harmful that causes extreme physical or emotional grief then I would cut them off entirely. Hopefully with time though and your distance from each other they'll see that they were wrong and have second thoughts on their ideas and opinions, especially if the man you love becomes a true gem and treats you the way they always hoped a man you'd find would. Good luck though, racism is ugly and deeply rooted in those who are and often continues on in people out of their own fears. Just be thankful that somehow by the grace of God their ignorance didn't rub off on you as you were growing up, as if often sadly the case with those raised by parents with beliefs such as that. Enjoy the love you have found and ignore what they say. Find comfort with the one you love and through his family until and if yours ever comes around to their senses! God Bless you dear. Oh and pray for them because it sounds like they need it!!
624108
Though you did not explain this in your question, I suspect your parents insist on group dating and I understand why. Please try to understand this from their perspective. They walk a very thin tightrope between trying to protect you from the vagaries of this time of moral turpitude in which we live today, while at the same time learning to trust you to make wise decisions, while having the fun that life offers.\nI question your boyfriend's frustration. I think his feelings illustrate clearly why your parents insist on group dating only. You must examine your own feelings. I assume you are a wonderful young lady, with tremendous potential, and your parents are simply trying to help you and others focus on your potential and not  your libido.\nYou are fortunate! If he really cares about you, he will understand that the situation works best for all involved, including him.
80252
If you use both in a wobble way, that will really confuse them. Many parents don't react in a same way to the same things, but just according to their actual turn of mind  and that's what makes children very confused. Prove that you love them and will always love them, ALTHOUGH you ask for some discipline in some situations. For example: "If you want to go to a football match tomorrow with me (LOVE), you have to finish your homework on time (DISCIPLINE)". Say it in an assertive way and be rigorous. make him/her learn about the consequences of his/her behavior. But, KEEP YOUR PROMISES, DON'T DISAPPOINT HIM/HER and make him/her believe you.
315613
It's for your own good. Think about your future one you will not have your parents to lean on. Time to grow up and put away childish things.
587217
that is wrong.  they need to realize that you are their daughter. no matter what you did do and what you did to him, you are the one they should love and choose over any one else. i would personally let my dad know how i feel and then leave him to think about it and if your parents really care about you they will get their head out of their ass and realize what they are doing.
223645
Your parents want the closness you want to, believe me.  You're so young, you have all the things in life to look forward to, with your parents at your side!  Marriage, children, a lot of fun at holidays.........be honest about your feelings.  I am not a mushy, touchy-feely mom, but my kids never said they missed that.  It's not like I don't love my kids, I don't realize what they really want deep inside!  I know that, although we parents are close to perfection, we are not able to read our child's minds.  The fight is over, right?  You don't mention how serious it is, but forget about it, you can't change what was said.  Please talk to them.  Good luck. And try and pray about it!
5951
It takes a lot of cojones, I'll give you that.  It takes your parents having some form of trust in you (and your argument for the boy to them will call on that) and you having warranted that trust, or be able to show them that you should be trusted.  Present your case to them (preferably after they've been medicated JK) after you have written the whole thing down.  It sounds dumb but it gives you a chance to organise your thoughts and put them in an order that is condusive to a winning argument.  However, all this may be for naught.  Your parents may be unwilling to see anything other than their five year old daughter getting plowed by some big, hairy, sweaty, nasty, trogolodite.  It's not their fault that you haven't grown up in their minds.    I must say that I don't envy your position.  But keep your head and you'll be surprised at what can happen.\n\nHappy Trails
245809
i am a teenager and i find myself lying to my parents all the time. And i rarely feel guilty about it. Dont worry about lying, we are teenagers which means we are out to have some fun.
241013
I don't think so. In my opionion, i dont think that you should, and if you do i think your parents will think they have some sense of control over you.. Listen honey, i hvae been there and done this.... and I am telling you your HAPPINESS should come before anyones... I mean in the long run, you have to make yourself and partner Happy not your parents
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i believe there comes a point where it doesn't make much sense for your parents to continue forcing you to participate in a religious system which you reject. It depends on your age, and whether you are able to make this decision based on more than just a feeling. \n\nAt the same time, your parents faith is part of your family tradition, and taking part in it is taking part in something your family shares. If you are uncomfortable with this, you really need to talk openly and respectfully to your parents, and explain your position. Let them no that you are not rejecting them and why you do not want to participate in the faith any longer. This will be hard for them to hear and they may or may not accept it. \n\nIf you still live under their roof, and they insist, then you are best to respect their wishes until that time when you are able to support yourself and live under the rules and standards of your own roof.
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DON'T YOU JUST HATE WHEN PARENTS USE THAT LINE LOL......\nmy mother and father were the same when i was living with them they would both say that to me and i was like shut up let me learn things for myself but they would still put in what they thought.... even if i didn't want to hear it. I'm 20 and now living out of home and they don't interfere don't get me wrong if you are still at home i'm not telling you to move out cause it's not easy belive me, but you really need to put your foot down. i belive at the age of 20 you are old enough to make your own decsions whatever they may be wheatehr they like it or not. parents always worry and try to take control i think it's just in them lol. you have to tell him that he would have once had to learn for himself and now it's your turn and it's time for him to let you grow into being a good man, tell him that you were raised to do the right thing and he sould trust you.\ntalk to him mate\ngood luck and i hope your dad realises that you are old enough to make your own choices \nmel
484297
This sounds sooooooo familiar.  My parents did not like my boyfriend for a very long time, but the longer we were together, the more they realized how much we cared for each other.  Now we are engaged and my parents are ecstatic.  Just think to yourself....................who's in love with him, me or my parents? when your in love, you shouldn't care what other people think, but since its your parents, i know its hard.  Just follow your heart!!\n\nGood luck and God bless!
202360
Allow me to say congrats on behave of learning to think for yourself at a younger age!\n\nNow just know that it is normal fo kids to start off believeing everything the parents say, then they get into the world and opinions may change and they may not.  You seem to "not care" but you are also informed, so once again congrats!