Yes I have asked this before but none of them really helped AND THIS GROUP OF FRIENDS IS REALLY CLOSE TO MY HEART I CAN'T LET THEM GO PLEASE HELP.
131966
is this group is a good one? I mean, are they good friend of u (truly friends)? If that so, why don't u ask them why they don't want u close to those person. if they have strong reason for that (ex. those person are junkies, etc), then just follow it. \n\nbut if they don't have good reason, ask urself, do u really want to be a part of a group who don't want to socialize with person outside the group just because ur group don't like that person? \n\nbe true to urself, do u feel comfortable with it?
510643
Sounds to me you may need to get some newer friends and start doing things with them. Maybe when the other two see that you have moved on, they will start treating you a little better. Even if they dont notice right now, they will when you start having fun without them.
442616
I personally feel like if it happens once shame on them if it happens a second time shame on you for letting it happen. Trust is a hard thing to build once its lost you can take that friend with a grain of salt because even if you do give her a second chance this incident will always be in your mind
433512
Keep taking your meds.  What you have been through would make anyone be down.  If you have a therapist call them and talk.  You need someone that you can  talk to that is not going to betray you.  Say good bye to your friend and your boyfriend.  You do not need that extra drama in your life.  Dealing with a friendship like that is hard on any one. Stay strong and start thinking about the new baby that is going to come into your life..There is nothing like a grand baby to make the world a better place.  God bless you.
168665
I think it's more of a deep hurt in your heart,more than anything else. You thought of your friend & made sure they had a gift, you were not only acknoleging there birthday, but also your friendship that you feel in your heart for them. So for them to do nothing for you on your birthday,was very insensitive, it made you feel that your friendship that you hold dear, doens't mean so much to them. Because your a kind person, it would be hard for you just to come out & tell them how they made you feel, or you would have done it already. I know for me, when this happened, I got a friendship card, & wrote inside the card how the ignoring of your birthday by them made me feel, & somewhere in the note I would ask if they really felt like your friendship was important to them, that puts the ball in there court, you don't have to talk about it, your questions are in the card & then it's on them to give you an answer. Then go from there on the way you will conduct your feelings with them from now on. I hope this helps. But there are alot of insensitive people out there with dear friends & they don't even realize it. Your the true friend in my book, they are just a person who doesn't take friendship as serious
34328
let them go on without helping them...tell them you know what to do and walk away from it, it's not really your problem unless it effects the dynamic of the group, so if he/she falls, they are to blame not you, and they have to take full responsiblity for it, and if they try to blame it on you solely then make sure you get the way that they treat you on tape...\nalso if they get upset about the fact that you knew and didnt tell then you need to tell him/her that if they need or want your help then they need to ask for it next time
652920
A friend of your's is about to have a major crisis in their life and YOU my dear fellow are the only one that can give them the help they need--it's going to require you to leave town and give up your own holiday---but these things happen--if sis doesn't understand--well I feel sorry for the people she calls friends if they ever need her !!!!
532532
You know I've been in this same situation. It's really hard to deal with if you guys are so close. I just let my friend be and went to hang out with other people. I would call her and invite her places but she always turned me down because she had already made plans with her new man. This went on for about three months. When she called one day I told her. I'm not mad at you anymore but I would like for you to know that what you did really hurt me. We had been friends for five years and this guy comes and now you act like I don't exist. She apologized and we started hanging out again. Some people just get caught up in situations and forget about the feelings of others. You just have to put yourself in her shoes. If you were in a new relationship you might do the same thing to her. It's something new and right at this time you're just caught up in it. As long as you talk to her and tell her how you feel about it she should make it a point to try and share her time between the two of you. If she just blows you off then she wasn't a good friend to begin with and you'd be better off finding someone who cares about you and what your feelings are. Good luck with it. I hope she comes around.
201990
I know this must be really hard for you. I understand what you are going through, and know that i can't help you fully through words, but i will try, for your friends' sake. Now cutting is a dangerous thing, if you rupture a blood vessel you're pretty much dead. You say that they are really good friends and they cut, and one is sucidal. Now, you also want to help them but you are afriad of ruining your personal life. Now let me ask you a question. Do you love your friends? If so you would do w/e it takes to keep them safe, even if it means sacraficing yourself? It's like...would you jump in front of a bullet for them? If so, tell someone you really trust. It doesn't necesarially have to be a parent, and after you tell them and want to help them, go to them and talk to them from your heart how much you care about them. And ask them please not to tell anyone about what you did. If they are good friends like you are then they won't. Please take my advice because i don't want to see anymore death...
500668
Just say no and apologize.  If they are friends they will understand, but you also must be a friend to them.  You may need to cut a few ties and keep just a few close ones and the others can be aquaintences.  Or you can have on big party a few times a year to make up for it.  I have too much family, seriously.  I can't possibly see them all as much as I''d love to.  But I can't dump them either.  My kids and husband come first.  It's very difficult but it's the only way it will work.  Have a great day.  Wow, I think this is the 3rd question I answered of yours.  Honestly I"m not stalking you.  You are just where-ever I am.  Wierd...
645854
If you've told them how you feel and they still insist on having people there that you don't really want, then there isn't much you can do.  You can try talking to them again and reminding them that this is your graduation party and you would appreciate it if they would respect your wishes - but that doesn't mean they will listen.\nIf you have to deal with the unwanted people then just do it - it will only be for the evening and it might not be so bad.  Maybe have a couple of your close friends sleep over that night that way you get some time to hang out with them alone.
192642
Its still really close...  Give it time, its a hard thing to deal with.  For now just take one day at a time as they come, and don't get overwhelmed.  Make sure you take care of yourself, and also be sure not to bottle up your emotions, 'cause that will only make things harder.  It probably sound cliche by now, but I'm sorry for your loss, and I hope things work out for you.
150636
I would say the best thing to do is to be straight forward and honest, though that's the harder choice. I would contact them or even wait till they come around wanting something and tell them how you feel. " Hey I thought we were pretty close but over time it seems like you come around only when you need something. I don't mind helping you to some extent but when we get together lets do things we can enjoy and is fun." Their response will tell you what kind of friends they are..... Do to them what they are doing to you and see how long they stick around or if they have this talk with you. A friend who wants a relationship with you will work to keep it together and healthy.
652320
You will not find an easy answer here. I can't even begin to understand all the hurt you must feel, but you can make it through this. You need close friends to lean on and a lot of time to heal. You need to be able to express whatever you feel openly -- maybe even go see a counseler. It sounds like you've been through a lot and my heart goes out to you. Be strong, but don't bottle up your feelings. You will be okay.
433765
honey, dont even worry about them if they cant support you on e this then tell them they arent real friends to you if they are they will stand behind u take it from someone who knows dont let other people ruin ur life im with a guy im not sure i really love b/c my parents forced me to leave a great great guy good luck and i say hold on to him sounds good
618640
I went back and looked at the questions and answers.  You were very careful not to reveal anything about her, except for the problem.  I think that she is taking her stress out on you.  She doesn't realize what a good friend you are being to her.  She does need help, and much more help than you can give her.  Can she go to her parents?  I want to say thank you to you, you are showing what a true friend is.
271214
gorl oh my gosh she really does need help u need to tell or call someone and i am serious i have had a situation like this and just try to talk and comfort her and tell her how much she is loved by u and her other family and freinds tell her that she still ha s2 acomplish things in her life and that she can get help and that you will be ther with her if she wants.\n\n                         - i wish u the best of luck with her and u