actually my best friend jigisha stopped talking to me due to some reason which only she knows.but today i m chatting with her by an unknown id address and we have become good friends again.she does not know that i am her old friend chatting  with her.what should i do?if i would tell her the truth she will again stop talking to me.and i dont wana loose her again.
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That's not nice and you know it. I think your double screwed now. Maybe you should just be patient and see if she contacts you back and forget about the sneaky stuff.
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Yes, a woman with whom I was a really good friend (I will call her Jane) just turned on me and almost refuses to talk to me now. We don't live near each other anymore, so it's not as big a deal now as it once was. But I have no idea what I did or said to turn her against me. I am one who has really good relationships with people and long-term friendships. So this really took me by surprise.\n\nJane and I used to spend hours together every week and a lot of time on the phone. We were both members of the same professional association. I saw her there and she was really rude to me like I had offended her in a big way. \n\nI am still mystified by this situation and it took place nearly eight years ago. I was told, by a mutual friend who asked me about the break up that Jane had done this in other relationships. That made me feel a little less confused, but I am still saddened by the loss of what I considered a great friendship.
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I just got over a relationship where my best friend (who was also his x girlfriend) and him kept staying friends. I didnt really let him know how much it bothered me, but now that i look back, it totally bothered me... and now that were not together, im so glad its over because that issue was so annoying, not worth dealing with. Tell him to loose her and if he can't, drop him!
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I met a friend and I consider her as my bestfriend, during my hi-school days..She was my classmate only for 1 year, then we parted ways as my family moved to our province and her family too, our place seems like A-Z, on the first few months we had communications then it fades away..after 22 years, I was happily married w/ 2 kids and working abroad and 1 day I was terrribly surprised when I received an email from her..and she said that she never gave up on looking for me though I did..We were very happy then..her family still remembers me and my family as well..I'd like to see her very soon when I got my vacation, we've got so  many things to talk about..I love her, she is my very best friend.
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I'm with jbpammy004,  what is your question....I hope you find the answer....However i think i understand what you are saying.  Sounds kind of sad....Hope you have had a chance to see your friend again....Good luck....Don't be sad.
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her name is Josheline [jo-cel-yn] and i tell her everything. this is a very serious question because if you don't tell your best friend everything it's like breaking a commitment and who wants to do that?
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Well, have you tried talking to her? you must tell her how much she means to you... and how she's hurting you now. you care for your best friend , but that doesn't mean she can control you around and being a pain in the neck. So tell her that you want to still be best friends with her (because you care and love her) but SHE has to change.\n\nOr, could there be a problem that she hasn't told you yet? Maybe she's acting differently becoz she's under peer pressure (or other problems) and subconsciously doesn't realize what she's doing to you.. and also not recognizing it as a problem. Talk to her and figure it out together.\n\nAnother thing, i think that you can't expect somebody to be the same forever. I have a best friend of 8 years, and now she's changed and become more hostile. I dun like much of her new self, but i accepted it. If she offends me then i'll tell her straight. There'll be a quarrel or so.. but we'll always make up the next day. And though we're not as close as before, we are still best friends and can come up to each other with problems.\n\nGood luck with your best friend! Sometimes, we have to let go to gain something.. It could be a little space between you both, or something else. I think it's best not to break the friendship.
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I had the same problem. my friend of 6 years kept getting really jealous over my friend of just 2 months. Every time she came close my friend would jump in and pull me away. Not only that she was very close knit. I mean when ever she introduced me to someone she would say "MY BEST FRIEND". It got a little annoying when she wanted me to do the same. It got really bad when she started to make fun of my other friend. That's when I told her, hey listen, you have been my best friend so all these years. And if you think that she is going to steal me away from you, then you must not trust me enough, do you really think i am going to drop you after so many years together? I told her that if i wanted to stop being her friend I would have stopped, but I'm still here. I think you should just tell it to her straight, and if she doesn't believe you, that's her fault.
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Well, what I do when my friends do this to me, I let them know it. My ULTIMATE best friend in the world has done this to me, many times. Basically, all I do is tell her that I'm kind of upset how we seem like we are drifting apart, then I comfort her by saying that if something is bugging her she can tell me. You have to be the one  to do something, she won't realize that she is hurting you. I wish you the best of luck.
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girl, if she thinks u ditch her, then spend some more time with each other. Also, she has gotten so protective over this friendship! That means she loves you as a best friend! But if it is really bothering you, then sit and talk to her about it. If she doesn't listen or care, then she is not a good friend.
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You were young and immature when this happened. Sounds like she is still young and immature. How about getting a new friend?
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I went back and looked at the questions and answers.  You were very careful not to reveal anything about her, except for the problem.  I think that she is taking her stress out on you.  She doesn't realize what a good friend you are being to her.  She does need help, and much more help than you can give her.  Can she go to her parents?  I want to say thank you to you, you are showing what a true friend is.
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you didn't say how old you are but i'm guessing you are pretty young. friendships sometimes have ups and downs, if she has found a new best friend then maybe you should too. there really isn't much else you can do, except maybe talk to her and ask her about it.
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If your friend is really a friend and you want to salvage your friendship, I think you should sit down with her and discuss how you really feel.  You should let her know that it really upset  you when she did what she did, and that you don't relish the chance of that happening again, that it's not acceptable behavior from someone who says she's a friend.
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greetings...\n\nif you tell her your feelings she might feel ashamed to talk to you again thus destroying your friendship.  heres what your going to do, treat the way you want to treat her and the way she want to be treated, sooner or later she will get the idea.  always prioritize her happiness.......
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just be careful what you say to him from now on...it doesn't mean you have to terminate the friendship...now you know that you can't trust him with certain data...\nwhen my best friend told stuff about me, i just decided that the only info i'd tell that person would be stuff i don't care if the whole world knows...i'd never tell my secrets to that person again, but we can still have fun and joke around...\npeople aren't perfect and you'll never find a friend who hasn't blabbed something about you to someone else, whether their loved one or parents or another friend or whatever...so if other than not being able to keep his trap shut, he's a pretty good friend, then just don't tell him sacred stuff...but you'll be disappointed if you try to look for friends who'll never leak your secrets...you'll never have any...just learn who you can trust with what...
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Sweetie, I'd delete them right back.  You were friends for seven years and they zapped you just  like that?  Your friend didn't consider you a friend.  You have to face it and find a better friend.  Your friend left you for a reason and because they were really cold, you should just  let them go.  They are saying they don't want you around.  Nothing you can do about that.  Can't force a friendship on someone who doesn't want  it.   I can be your yahoo friend if you want.