Okay I hate to admit but I am being somewhat of a tease with some guy I've been dating for almost 2 1/2 months, I don't feel ready but I kinda act like I am, I just want it to be official, you know bf/gf before jumpin into it...how do I let him know that is what I want without sounding to pushy.
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At least he's nice enough to wait for you... Maybe he knows that you don't know what you want too.\nYou are not pushy when you let people know what you want.  It's a good way to communicate.  Plus it will save both of you a lot of time & confusion.
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I was in your exact situation.  Seems like the timing is never right, there's always something. Just tell him how you feel, and that you are ready to get this ball rolling.  Don't give him an ultimatum b.c you are right that will just push him away.  But definitely stress on the fact that you aren't getting any younger.
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Talk to him let him know that you feel that your at a point in the relationship that you want to have more physical contact with him.... if he feels unfomfortable (which i doubt) wait until he's ready to rush things
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Why do you have to be labeled as his girlfriend? If he treats you like one and you have agreed to be exclusive, what more do you want? If you have doubts about where you stand as far as being his one and only, talk to him about the level of commitment in your relationship, but please don't ask him if you're his girlfriend...that sounds so junior high!
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Talk to your boyfriend and tell him that you've realized you are not ready to jump into a relationship. We all miss-judge and make mistakes, he should understand that you were confused. I think he would appreciate your sincerity.
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This is hard...how far are you willing to go.  I only ask, because there are numerous things that you can do. This depends on him and what kind of image he may have of you.  You always want to be yourself...don't try to be something you are not.  Disappointments are not good.  Try to have short conversations with him.  Statements that leave him hanging and wondering...What did she mean by that???  He's gonna come back to find out...if he is intersted.  I once left a post it note on a man's door with my #.  He called 20 mins later.  Subtle things work the best.....Okay, well it helps if you enjoy some of the same things.  Interraction is your best bet.  Some girls don't need to flirt...and honestly you prob don't need to.  If he is a fresh too, he might not get it.  But if he is a playboy...is that what you want?
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Just be firm but kind and get it over with. It appears he already knows or has a pretty good idea it's coming. The whole point of dating is to find the person you have the most simpatico with. Just don't use the line, "We can still be friends."
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I think it important to assess how you behave in a new relationship. Are you perhaps a bit too full-on? Are you maybe even trying a bit too hard? I have a friend who is in a similar situation to you. She is a great person with a great personality but she has never managed to have a relationship that lasts more than a couple of months. Guys break it off because like your situation they like her but just feel that she's not compatible with them for a relationship. She's got loads of friends, but no boyfriend. this is because she's so outgoing and full-on. She tries hard to impress and guys just feel like they can't relax and get into a proper relationship. Shes a great laugh and really fun to be around but could they talk to her about problems? Could they share a secret with her? Could they just snuggle up with her and not have to have an exciting conversation? No. Just relax in a relationship. Don't be afraid to be a bit vulnerable and girly. let the guy take the lead a bit. Let him try to impress you. good luck.
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Sounds like he isn't quite as ready as he thought.  Give him time and don't rush things.
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tell him very sexy yet very nice "Baby its that time of the month and I don't feel to good right now but I promise the wait will be worth it" Then give him a little smile. It always works for me.
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My boyfriend told me something just a little while ago. Before we were going out, he didn't know that I liked him, he said i was sending him mixed messeges! I definatly didn't think I was...I liked him so much! But I liked him so much that I would get nervous when I was around him, because I didn't want to give him the wrong Idea, that is what it sounds like is going on. It sounds like the girl likes you, shes just shy. Don't be shy too!! Go for it!
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best way is to have a new bf and let him tackle this situation. guys are bulls, they fight and they decide once for all. i m ready to pretend to be ur bf, just let me know......i will kick his....
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Do not just pop over with him and get their raw reaction. That might not go so well. I would break them in slow over a few weeks - start with telling them you have a boyfriend, explain how much you care about him...no details at first. Then pepper in a few hints about him that would give hints about him, then maybe put a picture up or have pictures of you and him together. Give them time to take it all in. Then bring him over so they can find out how good a guy he is.
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I'm not like miss conservative, but I don't see the harm in waiting a little bit longer to see where you two are in another month.. but it really is a personal decision.. and since you are asking here, I am guessing yuo aren't ready and he is?  Be careful, only do what YOU are willing to do without pressure from anyone.  That's very important for your self-respect.  ok?  Best of luck to you!
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We as humans don't want the easy answer or solution, unless it is food.  We want the unobtainable or the seemingly unobtainable.  The chase is fun for most and so that is why teasing is such an important part of dating.  Teasing without a happy ending sucks.  But teasing and you end up with the person makes it all worthwhile.  If a guy is teasing you, u need to differentiate what type of teasing he is doing.  Is it fun for you?  If so, then enjoy it.  If he is hurting your feelings.  Leave him alone.  He is prob just a player, but definitely not worth ur time.  Is he ever serious?  If so, ask him str8 up questions u r curious about.
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Tell him that you're not ready to say it and put that sort of label on your feelings. But that you feel for him. That you care about him. When my man first told me, I din't say it back. I told him That I feel for him. It made me really nervous. I told him never to say it unless he means it, because I would never say anything empty.
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Good Lord woman!  Before I finished reading this, I already knew you shouldn't get into this relationship in that capacity, just be friends and let it be, perhaps later in the future w/o pushing things, maybe things will change, maybe.  If he was interested, he would've let you know already.  Obviously, in his subtle way, he is not interested, get a clue!  You say he still dates other girls, well, that should be enough to tell you he's still not ready or willing to commit to a relationship.  By all means, don't force a relationship!  Relationships should be easy, mutual and wonderfully exciting.