im 17 he is 21 i had a miss carrage at 5 wks .he said he does not care but he cryed over it.he has said so much to hurt m but i cant let him go i love him 2 much.every time he says he willl change and things will work out with us.but lately he is starting to change agen .i dont want to loose him he has his good points aswell.i dont know what to do any time i text him and he dosent text me back im there wondering what did i do this time.he boke up with me so many times for pratically no reason out of the blue.i even broke up my sim cards to make him happy .i dont even text other fallas but he texts other girls and dont like when i give out about it.
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I would have to say that this guy isnt worth investing any more time into.  He breaks up with you because he knows you'll be there when he comes back.  \nYou need to break it off with him and work on your self esteem because Im sure you are a great girl and can do alot better.
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Aww... That is soo sad. If only you could just snap your fingers and make it all better... Honestly, I don't think that he has much interest in you anymore. He may think that spending quality time and communicating with you is no longer necessary. Most guys don't understand how to keep a woman happy. You should really try and talk to him about how you feel. But there is no guarantee that he will change. But don't think about breaking up with him until you have a talk with him first. After the two of you have a talk, and he doesn't change... move on. You deserve better, and you know it. However, keep the child in mind, whatever you do.
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Okay,Okay.There is a lot of information here so I will try to be brief.First off, it sounds as though the relationship is lacking in maturity.First off, when people break  up.They dont "break up all the time" and then get back togather 5 hours later.If it happened once or twice ok.But you said it happens all the time.That needs further examination.What are you guys fighting about? Is it the same argument over and over?Or do you guys like the drama of it? Because after all I will be the first to tell you make up sex is the best lol.\nSecond of all......He lied to you about who was on the phone and then ran from you like some little boy who was about to be swatted by his mother.Another lack of maturity.\nThird of all......  What was he doing behind your back boworring money from a girl you didnt know?You would have never found out about this girl, had you not been there to intercept the call.Im not saying he is cheating on you, but why would he omitt something like that.especially if it was something as innocent than borrowing a few dollars?Remeber omission is still a lie.\nYou may not want to hear this .Because even young love is still the kind of love that will tear your heart out when the relationship ends.But I would advice you to really look into the relationship.Is he mature enough?and allthough you are young this could still happen... ask yourself , what if i get pregnat? Is he going to run from me when things get tough like he did when i intercepted that call!Cause trust me! If he is going to run from a confrontation, it looks like he would run for the hills and not look back if something as serious as a pregnacy comes up.He does not sound mature enough to be in a committed relationship.Remember girls are more mature than boys at your age.And that leaves for you to have a lot to loose if he decides he want to move on.Is he worth investing into emotionally hun?Believe me... I had my heart broken by one I thought was mature enough.I even married him.And when things got tough... He packed his bags and left.Now im here to pick up all the pieces of the wreckage.If one person could learn from mistake... It would make my heartbreak worth it! Good Luck in whatever you choose to do! If you need to talk to someone.Feel free to email me at stargazerlilly79@yahoo.com.
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he seems like he cares! just let him know that you want to go slow due to your past relationships! I'm sure he'll be understanding enough! best of luck!
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Sweetie, you're only 16.. way too young to be thinking about being so serious about a relationship. From what you said I can feel a strong sense of immaturity espeecially from you. I respect your feelings and all but I do have to tell you that you can't simply change the world because you love him. Life is more complicated than you think my dear. Accept the fact that it is not you who can make that change easier. It is only HIM who can make it easier or harder because that's his life.\n\nWhy not reverse the situation? Why not try to understand the transition that he is going through and allow him to grow-up by himself. If you are really meant for each other, you will have all the chances. When you're both old enough and more mature to handle things, you can still end up being together.\n\nFor now, I say let things be and allow both you and him to grow-up.
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Don't be afraid. When he comes home, sit across from him and listen to what he says. Don't beg, cry, or get too emotional. Be serious and listen to what he says. If he doesn't want to be with you any longer, than as hurtful and painful as it is; you should understand and respect his wishes. I know how hurtful and painful this is because I been there. If you just keep begging him and crying to him to stay with you; he might stay with you but he'll treat you like crap. Because he'll feel like you're desperate to stay with him. I have a friend going through that right now and she's so desperate of being with him that he's cheating and calling other girls in front of her! You don't believe me but its the truth, sweetie. Don't lose hope and don't be weary. There are other guys out there that will lay out their red carpet for you. I'm not saying to just get over it, I know its painful but you have to understand what I'm saying. Listen to what I've said and you'll be all right. One big hurt is better than being hurt ALL THE TIME. After he leaves you, you'll be hurt but it will end. If he decides to stay with you and says that he is bothered because of something that happened then try to work it out otherwise, you'll be better off with someone else who will appreciate you for YOU. Good luck and love ya!
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I've had the miss fortune of doing the same thing, except it was in a text message. \n\nI say dont go back unless there is a significant change in the relationship. I mean, he broke up with you..and caused you a ton of pain (I'm assuming)....who's to say he wont change his mind again and hurt you all over again. Its obvious that you still have feelings for him. I think that before you consider getting back together really think about if that is what you want, because it might not benefit you at all.
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Good grief girl, run from this loser!!!!  He doesn't care for you!!!  I'm sorry honey, but you have to get some self respect, not allow anyone to treat you like this and get on with life!  This creep doesn't care for you no matter what he says.  His actions do all the talking!!   If he cared for you he would act like it, not just talk about it.  Doesn't matter if he's still cheating.  He did cheat and will again.  But he doesn't care for you.   Get far away from him.  The hurt will heal and someone who really does care for you will come along and treat you the way you were meant to be treated.  Good luck, honey.
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Sorry dear...but it seems you've already lost him...it sounds as if he has moved on with out you and he's waiting for you to just hit the road...\nDon't fall into the category of "girls that stick to *ssholes"...I'm sure you deserve alot better...if that is true then move on and get yourself another hottie!
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Well, something has changed. I was in a crazy horrible relationship for way too long, let me help you out. First, have you tried talking to him about this?  Regardless....No one and I mean no one has the right to make you feel second class. No matter how long you have been together. It is sad and scarey when things start going down hill after years together but just because you have invested time is no reason to stay and find out if he is really going to hit you. Love doesn't behave this way. My guess is that he is doing something wrong and all that hiding is making him guilty and he is projecting that onto you. It is a pretty standard jackass tactic. You are better than that.....I wish you the best in making a decision that is safe and fulfilling for you. We only get one life.
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Everyone is saying the same thing and its true.  He is playing you like a deck of cards.  Dont worry about his feelings any more.  You have to take care of YOU!  The relationship is really, already over.  Now you just have to make it official.  Tell him good bye and good luck.  He isnt worth your time or tears.  No man is.
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If you are not into it, leave him.  It is obvious that he does not think that you are enough for him, and he is going to go out and be with other women, regardless of how you feel, or even the risk of disease he will be putting you in.  Just tell the loser to get his sorry ass away from you, and move on.  You deserve better.
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His mind is on something else. But dont worry yet cuz worryin gets u no where.  just keep being that honest and truthful girlfriend you are.  Pretty soon whatever is going on will come to the light.  NOTHING STAYS IN THE DARK BELIEVE ME. so just be patient and dont call him cuz that will annoy him after awhile and conversations will be allot shorter more often. so give him his little space and let him come to you. And if dosent come you know what u gotta do. but dont give in and call him again because honestly love is like a Game and if you call him YOU LOST HE WON and then he got the upper ground.  you'll be fine girl just keep urself occupied and less worried you'll be fine.
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my advice is to stop all contact with him, he must understand that you are not just something to occupy his mind when he is sad or missing you, he should either be with you or forget about you, you are the one here who keeps on being hurt, this constant remembering won't do you any good if you want to move on and get a life. next time he sends an sms call him and tell him to stop. and tell him that these contacts won't be good for either of you. try and find a nice guy who appreciates your feelings.
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Sounds like you are losing him.  Have a calm talk with him and express how you feel.  Ask him what is on his mind and where he sees your relationship going.  \n\nFrankly, most people have trouble with communication and that can destroy an otherwise good relationship.  Find a way to communicate and make sure you listen to him too.\n\nSue
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Girl, please move one. Run, run to the hills. the truth of the matter is you can never change a man. Sometimes I think deep down inside we know the answer, its just we dont want to hear it and its been clouded by our emotions. You love him, so let him go. If he really loves you he will come back a reformed man. Give yourself more time and space. It seems loving this man is bringing you more pain that joy,and love aint supposed to be that way!
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Some GOOD and BAD NEWs:\nHE DOESN'T WANT TO COMMIT. He knows what he wants, and you are a good girl, rite, and he knows that he'll end up hurting u because hez not ready to have a real relationship. Hez prolly too young, guys take a long time to finally commit. Don't try to think you can change him, bcuz u can't. BUT back off for a little while and then he'll see that he really has feelingsfor you. Then he'll change on his own. I HOPE YOU GO WITH WHA I SAID, CUZ I DID THE SAME, and it WORKED!