Girls, how would u feel if your bf kept asing you everyday whether you're interested in another men and whether u have other men in your mind, EVERYDAY? would u keep answering him to his doubts or would u feel like why is this guy doubting me and can't trust me? Please tell me your reasons. thanks
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I would just tell him yeah I have other men just to shut him up do it and see it will work and if he tells you anything just tell him that is what you wanted to hear
391386
why are you so obsessed with his looks?\n\nsounds kinda selfish\n\ngo 'head, give me a poor rating i really don't care. I just pray you grow up one day and see that there is more to a person than their appearance. Especially someone you would call your "boyfriend"
77220
I have a sexy boyfriend of 4 years.  It's like ALL chics go for him.  The reason why he went for and kept with me I think is b/c I'm not the jealous type (guys like to have a 'pawn' to play against their mates when it comes to bargaining the relationship if anything goes wrong, and jealousy can get dangerous and irritable, causing a rift).  He LIKES that I'm easy-going and not jealous, so that gives me extra confidence points he can appreciate.  If I were to act out of jealousy, it may just wear my mystery out instead of confirm my love for him.  If we get into stupid fights, I act as if I don't care if he thinks he can just go out with somebody else (he threatens to at worst, but then he chooses not to on his own)!  My point is, ACT INDEPENDENT, so that he has something to respect you for.  DON'T be at his beck-and-call so that he thinks "oh, I can just have her anytime I want; that chic is always available to me".
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Sounds like he's on the verge of cheating to me.  If all you did was ask him a question, and he got pissed, he's feeling the pressure.  This doesn't sound normal to me, I think you should ditch him.  If he really cared about you, he wouldn't get angry and insult you when you ask him questions.  AND he wouldn't be meeting other guys behind your back.  I think you should confront him and if he doesn't beg for forgiveness, it's not worth it.  Don't worry, you'll find the one that is.
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You yourself could answer this question...You feel that you are living a lie....and you are feeling guilty for living a lie and not being yourself....someone other than your boyfriend is trying to convince you that you are living a lie while your boyfrind is trying to convince you to stay with him..Is he in the light? seems to me the tunnel is the darkness or wrongness you are feeling the voice in coming from within the darkness and your boyfriend is in the light...someone is trying ot convince you that your life is wrong but you feel that this voice is somehow coming from the darkness...although your boyfriend may seem needy he is in the light and you can see him and the voice you cannot see therefore less trustworthy..your are torn between two lovers the one you are with is clingy yet you feel this is what is right the one in the darkness you cannot see is less worthy of trust  but he is telling you that you are living a lie...have you cheated with another man? is the darkness guilt? is the other man teling you to leave your current boyfriend? Is the current boyfriend needy? is the other one less trust worthy or are you having a hard time giving your trust to the other man? have you lied to either or both of them? you have to make a decision based not only on what is best for you but what is right and wrong...and guilt is playing a big part of your dream....
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You said yourself, he is YOUR boyfriend, he has, I understand, said that he is serious and that he loves you.\nWhy are you insecured?\nThere two points I want to mention here:\nTrust is the strongest feeling and if you are going to build a future together you must trust him and his feelings for you.\nAnd second, a woman just knows if her man loves her.\nCome on, believe in yourself more, you say you are a bit on the heavy side, well....this guy knew this and still he fell for you...didnt he? \nEnjoy this lovely time...your love...his love for you..dont go around seeing possible ghosts....\nHow would you feel if he asks you..do you really love me? are you really serious about us?\nBe happy mi girl...just be happy!
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I have to defend the men on this one even though I am a women.  Men look at other woman.   We will never change that.  Why should we even bother trying or waste our energy ranting about it.  \n\nGuys have to put up with our constant "does my bum look big", "Do you love me really".  Changing their hair, their looks, making them girlie, rearranging their flat/house. Moaning at forgotten, 2 1/2 month anniversaries etc.  Crying to win arguments etc etc.  I could go on.   \n\nYes it is annoying that men look at other women.  At the end of the day the guy has chosen you. You are the best of the bunch according to this guy so although he may look and fantasise about other women, you are the one he has chosen to spend his hard earned money on!
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I know what you mean that happens....i think your not really over him yet even though you think to your self that you are....i use to think like you, but i know inside that i still like him alot and i can't stand it when some other girls is all over him...don't know why you are feeling that way but that how i felt...\n\nif i where you i'll tell him my feelings and maybe you and him can continue your relationship that you left off....if you want to talk more personal then IM or email me ok
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hes probably feeling the same way as you, confused.  thats why he was trying to beat around the bush, figure out if you were interested in someone else.  but when it comes to figuring out things like this, guys dont sometimes pick up on things so you probably have to be straigtforward with him.  before i starting dating my now hubby, i think we always sorta had a crush on eachother, but were friends for about 5 years.  anyway he had asked me questions like this, and even tips on how to get a girl to like her.  and i just wanted to scream at him that i already did, bc i knew he was meaning me, he was just trying to get it out of me, cause guys actually do seem to be shy on the subject.  i wouldnt think of your situation as good or bad.  you should try going out again, if your still interested. but this time let him know
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I just got over a relationship where my best friend (who was also his x girlfriend) and him kept staying friends. I didnt really let him know how much it bothered me, but now that i look back, it totally bothered me... and now that were not together, im so glad its over because that issue was so annoying, not worth dealing with. Tell him to loose her and if he can't, drop him!
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i had that same situation, my boyfriend told me "i wasnt flirting i was just being nice", from my eyes what i saw it didnt look like just being nice i got so mad that day, he  is still with me and says i love you,  my point is if he is with you still and didnt dump you for other girls that means he truly loves you.
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I actually know what you mean.  At one of my gf's parties i was having fun just talking to this guy and my gf saw that and gave me this look like what the hell are you doing.  She is my first gf too and I haven't really been with anyone else, so I can understand what you must be feeling or fearing might happen.  My gf made it real clear that she was a little disturbed by what she was seeing and after that I realized how much it bothered her and now I am more aware of what I can and can't do.  With us it is kind of a little game though. She has done the same thing to me.  She will look at other girls and make comments just to see my reaction.  It is kinda funny that she is worried about me however, because she happens to be bi while I find myself more straight up gay.  I should really be more afraid of her time alone with a guy she finds attractive.  Perhaps what your gf is going through is similar.  Maybe she knows it bothers you or maybe she is just not sure how much it bothers you. I would definetely talk to her.  Communication is always the best way to treat little problems like these.  Be honest yet compassionate and not too firm with her.  It just seems that the trust between the two of you needs to be strengthened.  Number one thing.  Be brutally honest!  It tends to work out more than not.
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As a girl, if she is keeping him around there is some kind of attraction involved.  Your proof? There was a relationship with him in the past, so he is obviously dating material in her mind.  If she is only an online girlfriend, find someone who will want to stay true to you.
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Do you really think you should be on here saying this? Maybe you should be going to talk to your hubby about it and you never know he may feel the same way. How would you feel if he saw this and found out that way before you even talked to him? Think about it.
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They simply say this statement because they want to keep you holding on to their balls but really they are afraid of commitment and don't want to let you know because they know they will lose you. I think if they flirt and talk to other women though, you should not distrust them. I think flirting is nature and I don't care what anyone says, everyone does it from time to time. So go out there and do it in front of him and see what he has to say about it.
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He might be feeling insecure because you're going to your guys for a good time instead of him.  Make sure you spend enough time with your boyfriend to make him feel more special than just one of your friends.  But I honestly don't think there's anything wrong with hanging out with the other guys once in a while as long as you aren't doing anything you shouldn't be doing. They are your friends, and you have a right to spend time with them.  Maybe next time you hang out with the guys, you should ask your boyfriend to come along.
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Yes, I have been cheated on.  But if you ever met my man you would have never guessed that he would ever have done that.  We are still together, he realized what he did was wrong and promised that he would never do that again or I was gone with no second thought. It really hurt me that he would do somthing like that to me, I didn't even find out until a year after it happened. There were some signs though, he became very jealous when I was with any guy or had them in my cell phone and he didn't know them.  There also pictures of the two of them together, he said at first she was just a friend.  Even when I talked to his friends they were shocked.  There is no way to prevent cheating if a guy is going to do it he will.  He told me the reason why he cheated on me was because he said that he wanted to be with me so bad and thought it was me, he was gone for a week. Right before he left I spent a week with him at his lake house and he was telling me that he wanted to spend the rest of his life with me.  Well it has been 3 years now since he cheated on me and I love him with all my heart, and he feels the same way. He knows now that even if I hear a rumour that he was with another girl it's over and he is scared of loosing me.  That was why I stayed with him when I told him that it was over and I never wanted to see him again, it took him 10 minutes for him to leave and he left with tears. then 3 hours later his roomate called me nervous becasue he hadn't seen him and it was 2 am in the middle of the week. I ended up calling him and had been sitting out my window crying  thinking what is he going to do because he really felt that his life was over becasue of a dumb mistake, thats when I knew that he  would be faithful.  I knew that he really loved me.  I hope this helped!