I'm not really confident in speaking in groups \ni'm not shy but i dont know what happens to my voice when i'm talking in a group\nwhen i listen to my voice later on it's not even close to me
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Well as you knw that you are facing a fear of public speaking and for that the best thing to do is 1st try getting comfortable talking in a grp with ppl whom you knw really well.. then slowly start with other ppl.. the best way is to crack a joke or sumthin so that you can lighten up the atmosphere and then once you will c every1 smiling, you will automatically have the courage to talk.. and relax.. no1 is gonna do anything.. so then plz do express yourself and let others knw wats in your mind!! all the best...
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You'll be just fine. Talking in front of kids is different than talking in front of adults. Once you do it a few times you will get used to it. Maybe you could try observing a class, or substituting to help you get over this.
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Sounds like deep seated feelings of inadequacy... this usually passes with time... we all go through a phase in our adolescence when we doubt ourselves, self confidence comes with age and experience for most people. I myself had an epiphany while reading a book by a man named Richard Feynman, entitled "So what do you care what other people think?" and I just 'got over it'. When you stop caring what others think about you it is a very liberating feeling, you should look forward to it. Best of luck.
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yeah, its a pretty normal thing to have stage fright. i've actually heard that most ppl prefer death over talking in front of an audience. lol. dont know if thats true\n\nanyway, these were the tips i have from personal experience\n1) PRACTICE!! a gazillion times. preferably in front of a mirror. if you know what you are talking abt really well, then even if you get nervous, the words will still keep flowing from your mouth.\n2) remember this - you are the one doing the talking, and putting forth your ideas/ suggestions etc. and no one else knows your thoughts on these ideas better than yourself. so you are the Subject Matter Expert (SME, as they say in the technical world) and this gives YOU have the power over THEM. this should give you some confidence\n3) try to find that one person in the audience who is listening to you, probably nodding along to what you are saying. keep looking back to that person - that will give you some reassurance while you make your speech\n4) if you find that the people seem distracted, then look at their necks instead of their face. if you are a good distance away from them, then this will give the illusion that you are looking right at them. \n\ngood luck and take it easy! remember, in the end its only a speech - not your entire life
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Maybe you are trying to hard, just relax.  Talking as natural as it should be, isn't always easy for some to do in the company of others, but I think if you were to not put too much effort into it, it would just come normal.  I am sure you have got opinions about things, just pick your time, don't just talk for talking sake, because then you may babble and talk a whole lot of nonsense.  Speak up when you know you have something soound to contribute and after\nawhile you will be saying more than even you realize.  Baby steps, you'll be o.k   Talking is overated anyway :)
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well, i too am very shy, but i began to be able to talk to guys more when i just relaxed and acted like myself, instead of acting how i thought they would like.
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Make it a point to be more interested, genuinely interested in the people around you!  Focus on who they are, what they are saying, with no background noice or thoughts from your head.  Stop worrying about what they think, because as long as they're talking about themselves, they wont be thinking about you!  And once they've invested things about themselves into you, they'll naturally feel closer to you, and like you!  Then, hopefully you will feel comfortable enough to share something relevant as well, otherwise, they we'll feel foolish for opening up to you and withdrawl!  This is how intimacy is formed.  Since you are shy, take the receptive role first, and then the giving role.  Try it!  Remember, Ask and open ended question, such as, "Where are you from?"  ..." oh, how is it there, I've never been?"  keep them talking about themselves until you feel comfortable enough to enterject something about yourself!  Remember to listen to what they are saying, not your self concious voice in your head!! Focus!  Good luck! ;)
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I think shy people tend to only talk when they are spoken to first.  They avoid eye contact, and probably look uncomfortable if they are in a situation where they don't know many people.  I'm extremely shy (around people I don't know), and I've been told that I come off "mean" and act like I'm "better than everyone else" when really, I just can't get the courage up to talk to anyone!
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me too, OMG we can definitely relate! i'm too polite and i feel like i'm interrupting other people's conversations if i just butt in. but now i'm starting to realize, but observing my friends that it's okay and that no one will hate you just because you interrupted a conversation. it's a way to make friends. and i'm also really shy. just join clubs in school, cuz that's what i do.
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I have a speech problem, and trust me... you need to ask them to repeat themselves.\n\nI talk way too fast sometimes, and I never realize it. Sometimes I say the first few words of a sentence so fast that people don't understand it. I always appreciate it when they tell me, because once I slow down they can understand me. \n\nIf you just don't say anything, they won't know that they're doing anything wrong. \nDon't be afraid to be blunt, it shows them that you care about what they have to say.
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hey i wa shy to but just ty to let your self go think as if no one is there i some times act dumb but if you cant just try little chat like ask questions go ith poeple you know and make new friends
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POSITIVE MENTAL ATTITUDE!\n\nTell yourself that yes, people are interested in you, they do want to hear what you have to say, and they want to hear it clearly and consisely. Practice at home. Rationalise the way you feel! Why are you scared, and what is the worst that could happen?\n\nIt is only by facing our fears that we eventually grow out of them.
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i have the same problem..but it's not just with girls, ...i'm just not much of a talker. But u work on it by forcong yourself to be more loose. I've improved alot.\n\nsounds corny but u can even rehearse things you wanna say in certain situations
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I had been shy but I am not shy now yet, I am quiet like you so being shy is different from being quiet. I think when you have not something to talk and do not talk you are not shy and you can call yourself absolutely normal. but it sometimes occurs to me(us) that I want to start conversation with a stranger (or even a familiar person) but I can not. I think these times I am afraid not to have a good impact on him/her and be rejected. this fear is because of low self esteem  which roots in painful experiences in the past(you may remember when expressed yourself, they laughed at you).\nNow, I hope these tips be helpful for you:\n1-in such situations where you want to start a conservation, remind yourself that the pain of rejection is far less than the pain of regret. \n2-try to be a starter. do not wait for others to make conservation. I think, being a starter requires social skills which you may have not enough of it. but, the only way to acquire skills is experience .you would fail in some of these experiences and it hurt you but remember; "NO PAIN, NO GAIN".\n3-Read some books about "First Impressions". they help you to rise your self esteem.\n4-do not label yourself as shy. when you repeatedly say "I am shy" accordingly you will act like a shy person.\n5-Look at talkative persons. they usually do not care about what they say and what the effect is.I think it is better not to be too much worried about our expressions.
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being a smooth talker takes having little to no shame.\nif you are slightly shy or easily embarrassed or not the quickest on your toes, you are going to take longer getting comfortable with it. good luck and go about it with a little bit of humor to break the ice.
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it'd be a difficult task for anyone if they had to refrain from speaking to people about things at any given moment but even the best known speakers in the world had a time when they were nervous.  Since there is no way to avoid this here is what I suggest:\n\nFIrst start reading your presentation out loud to yourself, to get familar with your content the biggest fear you are likely to have is not saying the word right or stumbling and looking foolish which you don't want.  Then practice in front of a mirror, then family, then close friends.  When the time to go up to speak, take several deep breaths and plan your walk to the podium, this seems like something someone should know but when you only have it in your mind to walk up to the podium and speak people don't watch were they are going and sometimes bump into something around the area and that can be a bit embarassing.  Just remember it's just a report, speak well, let your eyes wander around the room and be cool:)
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You are right, they do feel awkward.  This leads them to ask you a lot of stupid questions in an attempt to have a conversation, which makes you feel awkward because you are shy.  It feels like prying.  Try and think up something you can talk about that will engage others-- maybe a hobby or some interesting book you just read.  Be a little more proactive and it feel feel less like an inquisition.