i want to ask him to marry me yet when we ave talked about it he says he wants to ask me when the time is right, i don't know what to do, do i ask him or wait till he asks me?\nif i did ask him he doesn't wear rings so what would i get him any ideas?
131918
Have you set him down and explained to him that at this in your life you are happier than you have ever been and the reason behind that is him being in your life, so now that your life is where you want it to be nothing could make you happier that to have a commitment with him(her)and how would he feel about being your partner for life. If you have to put it in a letter , do a special dinner with good food soft music and make it a night to remember. Your partner will have to answer it might be what you want to hear or it might be what you need to hear. GOD Bless and Good Luck
31822
First of all the price of the jewelry really doesn't matter.  Some guys throw around expensive jewelry just because they can without it really meaning a thing.  Accept what he said for face value.  He likes you and he wanted to show you that by getting you something nice but he isn't ready to take this relationship to the next stage.  A commitment ring is a big step and shouldn't be given or accepted without a great deal of thought and serious consideration to what a commitment is.  Right now he is being honest with you and tell you he isn't ready for that step but that he likes you and that there could be that commitment in the futre.
182168
Jesus!  Dump this guy TONIGHT!\n\nA 37 year old giving a 32 year old (and once before married) a freaking PROMISE RING?\n\nWhat's next-- he's going to give you his pledge pin?\n\nGet a guy with balls.
170036
Honestly and softly.  If you love him, let him know that.  Either way, be honest and just tell him the truth... you are not ready.  \n\nDo NOT take his ring and promise him anything that you can't or don't want.
595167
God will let you know when the time is right or the person.  God does things on His time for us.  Not on our time.  Maybe God knows that you may get hurt so he wants you to wait a bit.  Maybe there is someone else God had in mind that will come along.  Maybe God wants you to be more financially secure before heading into a marriage.  Maybe God wants you do to other things before getting married.  There may be various of reasons but if God is not ready for you to get married, then by all means wait.  He has His reasons.  Be patient!
160566
Honestly...I wouldn't do it. Proposing to guy is like having him walk down the aisle while you wait at the alter. I know many people throw out traditions in today's "modern" world but I still wouldn't do it. If you've changed your mind about getting married, talk to him about it first or drop a hint that you wouldn't mind have something sparkly to wear on your ring finger. Proposing to my wife was and still is one of the greatest moments of my life and I would hate to have that moment taken away.\n\nAlso...his buddies will NEVER let him live it down ;o)
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It means he wants to have sex with you and he knows that if he tells you all that, you will concede to his wishes.  He doesn't have to buy you a ring because he's getting it for free.  He's no dummy.  My advice: stop having sex with him--if no proposal (with a ring and date) in 6 months, dump him and move on.
231748
Okay first this is a decision totally based upon when he feels ready. Pressuring him will make the sitiation intensely more difficult But the good news is he actually sounds as if he is planning something...I was very confused just like you before my fiance proposed he always made it clear to me that it would eventually happen just not as soon as I wanted but sure enough he proposed..So let him do this at his own pace..Your realtionship sounds solid so just give him the time he needs this is a HUGE step for both of you....I have a feeling congradualtions will be something you will hear soon!
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Instead of him telling you that if that's what YOU want then go ahead and do it, which doesn't sound very convincing on his part to me, he needs to actually say directly that yes that is what I want to do too, not if that's what makes YOU happy because he isn't including himself in that equation and that kind of leaves him room to get himself out of it if he up and decides to take off before hand. So no I wouldn't make plans just yet not til you hear him say He is ready and wanting to and he buys you an engagement ring. Then if that happens you can probably be more sure of it being a true thing.
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Wow, that's a long time.\n\nIMO by the time my wife and I had gotten married it WAS just a formality...it was as you say, "just a piece of paper." \n\nHowever, that did not come from apathy...not in the least. It was that my wife was so special to me, I had already decided by that point that this was the woman I was to spend the rest of my life with. The whole point of the ring and marriage is for validation...if he is waiting so long then it appears as though he is avoiding something. \n\nIt really sounds like he just proposed to make ya happy or, forgive the phrase, shut ya up. If he had really intended to engage to you, he would have bothered to plan for a ring. It took me 6 months, the opening of my first credit card (at 27), and a lot of freaking raman noodles...but I'd be damned if I wasn't going to provide the love of my life with some sort of validation. \n\nThe ring, ceremony, etc. is just symbolic...but if he isn't willing to put up, I can't help but wonder where else he will slack later. \n\nBasically this is something I would call a problem...but please don't take my speculation or anyone elses for what is really going on. It sounds as if you guys need to have a serious discussion and decide where you are going. It sounds like you have been through a lot together, and none of those trials and tribulations are going to be over soon. \n\nYou really need to know where you stand with this guy. Good luck and hope it all turns out.
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It has not been long since you both move in. Let the relationship breath, has he show any of his true colors yet ? If not, you may want to see how living together going to be. Just slow down and take one step at a time. \nHave you and him talk about marriage already ? If so, maybe he not ready to pop the question yet. Or maybe he waiting till the right time, he could want to surpise ya. \nHope everything turns out for the good.
83302
Ok first it sounds like you are too young to be proposing.  How old are you?  It sounds like you need to date before trying to get married... which is what a proposal is.  Just take it easy and talk to her.  If she wont talk to you then find someone else... but dont propose right away!  get to know them really good first.  Just date and have fun.  You will know when you have found the right person.
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I think its perfectly fine for a girl to ask a guy to marry her. In fact its exactly what I did and its good to know other ladies are considering it. \n\nI have been going out with my boyfriend for a long time and on our 5 year anniversary I asked him to marry me. It was probably the most nerve racked time of my life. I bought him a nice manly ring and set out our living room in candles and poured some wine. He was quite surprised and actually said he was supposed to do it. But he said yes - and like you I was so worried he wouldn't.\n\nThe biggest thing is to recall conversations you have had about marriage in the past and see if he had a positive outlook. What I found is they just need a little prodding and thats the best way. Now we have ordered my ring and he wants to have his chance to ask me too - even though we are technically already engaged. But I definitely don't mind a little extra romance in my life.\n\nI say take the chance I found it well worth the effort.
252524
just tell him that you want a ring!!!! duh
286307
Why would anyone ever propose to someone when they do not know if the other person loves them?\n\nThat is getting a bit ahead of the natural flow of things,and marriage is NOT dating so wait until you KNOW it is right.
572138
This is how I feel about "getting" a man to marry you... I would be insulted if I felt as though a guy was marrying me out of pressure or because he feels obligated. Best thing to do is talk about what you want and go for it with someone that wants the same things.\n\nYou are young, and you have plenty of time. If you are sure that this is a guy you can spend your life with and you believe that he really does want the same things you want - stick around for a while, stop the pressuring, and see where things go. \n\nIf things don't work out, then next time, make sure that you have someone that wants the same out of life as you do, and within the same genera time frame, before you get too involved.
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He knows, you know, you both know that is going to happen. You just have to be patient and wait. He knows that you are the one for him and if you have already discussed marriage and children, then it's a clear indication that it's going to happen soon.\n\nMen that don't commit won't even mention the "m" word and will back off at the minimum indication of getting too close or too serious. He is not scared about discussing marriage with you because you are the one for him. \n\nDon't set deadlines or ultimatums or conditions for it to happen, they are NOT necesary. Accorduing to what you wrote, he is planning on doing it so don't spoil his plans by becoming frustrated and impatient.\n\nMost couples get engaged by their second anniversary, besides, Christmas, New years and Valentine's day are around the corner too, you might be in for a surprise.\n\nMy advice to you is to wait until your second anniversary before becoming anxious. It's not necesary for you to feel this way, you have the perfect man, ther perfect relationship, so don;t ruin it by becoming irritated. \n\nHe will ask you and there is no question about it, wait a little bit more... proposals are way more romantic when they are a surprise and men really love plan something special and having the perfect ring ... let him give you what you deserve ...let him surprise you and enjoy the relationship. \n\nHe is THE ONE sweetie... be patient.\n\nCongratulations and good luck!