OK I have a boyfriend that I've been with for 4 years and he works at this school for construction work where theres alot of girls of course. I found girl numbers in his phone, Well the weekend of my birthday i found an invitation to a girls party at the beach the same night as my birthday in his work pants. That i never said anything about. oh But during this night he was with me.
120140
Well, all sorts of issues going on here.  For one, were you snooping around, looking for stuff, do you not trust him, has he cheated on you before?  Basically there is a trust issue here, but i'm not on the guys side, he should also be open if he's being invited to girl's parties, and he has alot of girls numbers that you don't know?  Not a good sign.  Figure out if you guys still trust each other, if not, after 4 years, get out, do your own thing, learn to trust.
347719
It is totally normal if the guy she talks to is only her friend.I also have a boyfriend and a guy friend.I love my boyfriend and I would never cheat on him.I talk to my guy friend everyday-it is just a friendship.
136492
Sounds kinda fishy, i'd think he already did something with this chick and even more so if you said he said she was a slut and all this crap and now all of a sudden he is friends with her and hasn't told you when they went out ??  They go to lunch once in a while and he claimed she used to wear slutty outfits ?  Sounds like they have the flirting down and maybe something more.  Do some investigating, you can never be too sure, these women know how to get what they want and they.  If I were you I would talk to my husband about your insecurities and tell her he would not like it if it was the other way around and to pls quit the friendship with her, because believe me if it hasn't happened yet it is well on its way.
327891
i think it could be a possiblity. just keep a close eye on him. you never know. theres no reason why he should be so insecure about what you're up to if he's not doing the same thing. and him not wanting to show you his cell phone after he ransacked yours, and then coming back in the room a minute later with a phone call deleted is a little supsicious to me.
367167
I had two workplace romances a long time ago.  Neither of them caused a problem when we broke up.  How long have you worked with him?  Do you sense even a hint of a vindictive streak?  If so, keep away.  If not, tread carefully and take it slowly.
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Before you accuse or jump to any conclusions you need to talk to your fiance.It could be nothing but it won't hurt to find out.You should also tell him that he shouldn't give his cell number to any females that you don't know.No other woman should be calling his ass anyway.You are his woman and you should be his only female friend,no man in a committed relationship should have female friends, You may or may not trust your man,but I wouldn't trust any of his female friends.If she's calling about work she should call him at home and I would be right there listening.It sounds fishy to me.I would be concerned and get to the bottom of it.I hope it's nothing-but if something is going on you have to decide whether he's worth staying with.You won't be happy being with someone you don't trust.I wish you the best of luck and I hope he doesn't throw it all away for a fling -it's just not worth it.
533648
To make a long story short, this is some guy that she must have met and given her number to.  So far he is expressing his admiration for her.  It doesnt sound like it has gone any further than that at this point.  You need to find out whats up with this.
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He has been with you for two years, so this must mean something. He says he loves you and I am sure he does. Is he a generous and  thoughtful guy as this is an indication why he gives money to that girl. She is probably in a difficult situation and has no one else to turn to. Is he replying to a text rather than sending them which is a bit different. Give him a chance. Dont throw away the time you have been together. Play it by ear for now.
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If your boyfriend says shes just a friend, that's probably all it is. In school, my best friends were boys. I didn't mess around with them, we just enjoyed talking. Girls were somewhat boring, worrying about clothes and make up and cheerleading, etc. I loved music and art. I even took drafting, we had coed drafting, it was great. alot of cool guys were in that class. I miss my boy "friends" all the time. Even now, my best and closest friend is  a guy, we just have more to share than any girl. And we will never get intimate, ever. We are both married, but we don't get together with our spouses, they would be bored because our conversations wouldn't include anything relating to them. As long as sneaky stuff doesn't start happening, everything should be cool between her and your boyfriend.
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If she really was a stalker, he would have told you about her by now.  You said this is a long-term relationship, so he would have confided that informatiojn in you.  He is lying, and I am a guy!!!  Sorry, dude, you are busted.  Move on, sister, he is not being faithful to you and why has he not made a committment to you?  At the very least, he is being emotionally unloyal to you even if he has done nothing with this online "girlfriend."  It has a long time.  Move on.  P.S.  I am married, so I am not saying this to get you or anything.  I know from experience that guys "cheat" on girlfriends with online hussies.
387154
Dump that loser...if your birthday is not important to him then he doesn't value you and/or your relationship.  So, unless he's planning to surprise you by making an appearance, party on girlfriend and find a new guy.  Good Luck and happy birthday.
572426
Why would you tell your bf it's not like you came on to your co-worker or he really hit on you inappropriately.. Just tell your co-workers youre' not interested and you have someone already.. What are you feeling guilty for and you haven't even did anything... And then to tell your bf and youre not guilty of anything will only open up a can of worms...Everytime you argue he'll have the right to accuse you of someone at the job... Shut your mouth and let the guys know youre taken and call it a day... You're making a big issue out of nothing
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I think it is important to figure out why it is bothering you so much.  Sometimes it is hard to think about someone's past when we are worried about whether or not we can trust the person, or when we are worried about their feelings now, or when we feel a little insecure.  Maybe it is some of those things or none of them, but whatever it is, don't let the past take away from your happiness with him now.  He isn't with those girls anymore, right?  He's with you.  So enjoy it!
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I've met a lot of people on a dating website.  Some guys are just on it to find some girl that they can have sex with.  Some guys are on there to find mr/mrs right.  I have met both types.  I met my current boyfriend off of a dating website, and I can see me being with him for the long haul.  We talked a fair amount online, then we started chatting on MSN, and then we talked ont he phone.  It sounds a little funny but our first date, wasn't that much of a normal date (movie/coffee), I needed a lift to our mall, cause my vehicle was busted and needed to get fixed and he offered me the ride.  We have almost been together ever since and talk every day.  You just have to be careful, and don't let the bad ones ruin it for you.
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Don't worry about what you did so much.  He flaked on you when he bailed on the road trip.  His phone had to be working, so He was blowing you off.  He hasn't been returning your calls until he finds out you slept with someone.  Being a guy and see this happen many times, I am almost certain that he has another girl on the side.  If a guy is into you, he can't wait for you to call.  he tries to figure out excuses to call you.  When his phone rings and he knows its you, he will immediately answer.  If he misses the call, he will call you back just as soon as possible.  It doesn't sound like your man does this, so you don't owe him anything.  If anything, he still owes you.  I wouldn't worry if he trusts you, you shouldn't be trusting him.  He isn't acting like a boyfriend, he is acting like he uses you for sex and when he ain't getting it elsewhere, he comes calling on you.  This all smells fishy to me.
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He is totally in the wrong here, and it's not too nosy to find out someone has a girlfriend of Myspace, if it's on myspace it's pretty public.  Be mad at him, tell him to go back to his girlfriend and leave you alone!
647376
This happened many years ago and it took me a loooonnnng time to get over it. I was 19 and it involved a guy who was my first love, first sexual encounter, and best friend ect. You name it we were it.  Well we had been dating for a little over a year and on my birthday two of my really good friends took me out to dinner and a movie.  I remember it was raining really hard outside when we were going to the movies so we were all under one umbrella running into the theatre.  When we got inside I went into the restroom to dry off and I noticed a girl in the restroom who looked familiar who was pregnant.  I didn't think to much of her but kinda kept staring at her.  Anyways, I went out of the restroom to meet my friends and they were staring at me with this really worried expression.  I ask them what was wrong and at first they didn't tell me but then my friend pointed across the lobby at this couple.  There was my boyfriend with this VERY pregnant girl (the one from the restroom) and they were holding hands and kissing. I was stunned.  I went up to him and just stared. I didn't make a scene and he had the NERVE to act like he didn't know me.  I walked away and cried through the whole movie.  Worst of all we were seeing "My best friends wedding" so it was a complete disaster.  We never spoke after that and that was it.