Alright i have a good friend who is a guy and i like him but if i tell him i like him then it would ruin our friendship and if we went out and like i dumped him it would still ruin our friendship(i learned that the hard way!) HELP!
119301
there really isn't anything anybody could say that would be right , some life choices do not have obvious answers . you are going to have to do what you feel like doing but at the same time you are going to have to realize that you have to deal with the consequences either way , no matter what you choose .
262805
try talking to ur friend first if u can. Well do u like the guy too??Cause that will deff. make a difference. lol. but if u do like him and he likes u maybe u guys could be. and if ur friend gets mad, then tell her that u already told her that he dont like her and she didnt want to accept that. Then it would be her fault,that she didnt get him and you did. But if u dont like him then dont go for him juss tell him that u dont think that it would work out cause u dont want to hurt ur friendship with ur b.f. or something along them lines. Hope i help  good luck!
239676
i had the same problem. If he already knows then that is good. If u have any guy friends that may hang out with the guy u like, then, ask ur friend to bring up the subj. on who each of u likes. then, tell ur friend to say: so dude do u like(ur name here)? then tell him to tell u after. if u dont have a guy friend then just........ tell him u wanna c him after class or somtin then say calmly,: u know i like u and i just wannaed 2 know if u like me and if u do. do u wanna... wanna go out with me sometime. \n\nand that is all u really can do. u just have to face ur fears. u go grl
28217
Tell him that you like him but you're getting mixed signals and you need for him to tell you how he feels.  I know it's scary, but even if he says he just wants to be friends he'll stick with you if he really IS your friend!  Either way, it's best to get things out in the open.  You'll be glad that you know and don't have to just wonder all of the time.
346605
in other words..you like him. yall are best friends. your scared if you tell him he wont be friends anymore...\n\nThe only way you'll ever know what he'll say is too tell him...or have a friend tell if you don't feel confident enough. But guys admire you more if you tell them to their face. The best thing that will happen is you will hook up. The worst is you will lose a friend. Your call...
112942
your point would be?  look you like him, don't play foolish games or he will just leave you b. its your friends lose. if he is a good guy, then go get him and don't worry about what your friend has to say.  they broke up for a reason. not your fault.  if the 2 of you are happy then you 2 should be together.
203129
If he can't handle that you are gay, then you don't need him as a friend.  I'm straight and have plenty of gay friends.  One even asked me out, not realizing that I wasn't (honestly that made me feel kinda bad, but we reconciled)  If you KNOW he isn't gay but want to ask him out, don't if you want to keep him as a friend.  You should tell him you are gay and if he can't handle that, fark it.  But trying to impose your lifestyle on someone else is no better than a woman trying to make you straight.  (Or certain governments saying you can't be who you are or have chosen to be)
533614
You seem to have an agenda already even b4 you give yourself a chance with this guy. 'What if'\nquestions are something to consider...such as...what if you really like him after going out with him; what if after going out with you and he doesn't like you? Are you afraid of rejection? There is no harm in going out even for a meal with him and then telling him that you would rather stay friends and nothing more than that. At least he will understand. Making assumptions will not help as you both don't even know each other. Sounds like he just has a 'crush' on you in which case, it is easy to justify that. Nothing will work if you totally ignore him...that even hurts more I guess! But do at least give him the benifit of the doubt! Good luck!
616899
Tell him right away...trust me that is the best thing to do....if you continue to hang on it will be very difficult...a Friend you like is not your friend anymore so the best thing to do is just go up to him and tell him...worst case you get rejected but trust me if your friendship is strong enough it will be ok and i don't have to tell you the best case..SO GO FOR IT.
643004
What's wrong with liking him if you do?  I think that once you really get to know someone, you can't help  but love them to some extent.  My best friend in the world is a guy, and I love him.  It's hard sometimes, but you can't ignore the feelings, and nothing's going to make them go away.  It might help if you tell him how you feel.  If he likes you, then maybe you can hook up, or if he doesn't then maybe that'll give you some closure on the subject.
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hi,\n\n    in the whole world,whole human being do this.u r not aolne.if ur clear in u r mind,and wanna him as ur friend.be open and tell him.or just mess ur frndhip also.\n\n    see,what u want as a girl thats important.if u r rejecting him,its not an offence.if u like him than ask him for sometime to think,think harder.and do wat ur mind says.not u r HEART.\n\n    u r spening u r time on this issue and making him also confuse.go ahead do domething.maybe someone is waiting for u both ahead.\n\nbest of luck.
33907
Just tell him that your really good friends with him and you dont want to harm the friendship. Or even better you could tell him that you dont love him you only see him as a friend and nothing more.
66945
Take it easy, and see who the guy likes, maybe he likes neither of you. Maybe there is one of you he likes. You both have the right to like the guy, so dont loose your friendship over it. Just play things out, and see what happens in the end...
523906
Well, I would tell him that ur dateing his friend. And if he takes it bad and gets all mean he didnt really like u htat much/ But if hes ok with it and still likes you he really means it. If you can I would try it out with him sometime because you never know some people ture out to be sole mates! Its happaned to me before I didnt really like a guy but he liked me and i dated his friend and when we broke up i tried it with him and it turned out to be great! I didnt know his other side yet and i wanted to see it. Were still dating today. 4 years! You can try if you would like to get to know him better or tell him u jsut want to be friends. My answer prolly wont help but... Good Luck!
28894
you get your priotities in order. is this guy or your friend more important?\n\nyou think about how your friend would feel if you went out with the guy and you also think the other way around. you think about what would bug you most. \n\nultimately, if hiding things is not your thing, then you talk to your friend. you'll end up having a pact and both of you will have that urge to go after the guy and for as long as there is that pact, the urge will be there. that urge will be the downfall of both your personal lives. \n\nto sum up, tell your friend that you like the guy and whatever your friend's comments, go for the guy, but before you do that, make sure the guy is worth it.
194633
well u should tell him and tell ur friend that u like him and if ur friend if realy a friend she will understand if not then ur just goin to have to tell him on ur on.. and let him make the right choice if not then just leave him alone and if he likes u then he'll come around...
483236
Whatever you do dont break the unspoken rule which is dont date your friends exboyfriends. Let it go if its a really good friend if not then wait til they break up. What I mean is dont worry so much about it, if it happens then it does if not then oh well. Date whom ever you'd like for now and if it were to work out that you were single at the same time only then pursue it if it wasnt a good friend.