Hello, I am a high school senior and like a 9th grader girl at my school. It has only been like 3 weeks since we got to know each other, but I think we are becoming close friends. We chat and send text messages everyday, and she kinda seems to be interested in me. A few days ago, she told me she thinks I'm handsome, smart (got into an Ivy!), athletic, and nice. Anyway, she just told me she got dumped by her boyfriend today. To be honest, I have been silently waiting for this moment to come because I feel I am more qualified and can give her lots of attention and care. However, I tried to console her to show her that I will always try to be there for her and how much I care about her. There will be tons of girls in college, but right now she's the one I really like. Even if our relationship lasts for only a few months or a few days, I really wanna be her boyfriend. What should I do to be her boyfriend? I would like to ask her out, but her parents rarely let her hang out w/ other ppl.
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I think it would be better off if you stayed friends. She has just been dumped by her boyfriend. You are getting ready to go away to college. Congrats! Anyway, this girl needs time to heal with the current breakup situation. She is too young to be concerning herself with breaking up with the boyfriend, the pain of being dumped, getting a cool new boyfriend who is only going to be around for a couple of more months. Be her friend. Try not to initiate anything more. This girl has enough to deal with already. Take care.
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Adriana has given you excellent advice.  I agree.  Try talking to her in person.  You might bring her a rose on that meeting and tell her that you would be honored if she would be your date for the prom.  That should wow her.  Then talk to her about the fact that you believed she had a boyfriend.  Good luck!  (maybe you could let us all know if she accepted!)
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I would wait and find out if she really does care for you, before doing anything.\nif she loves and cares about you she will wait for you to decide about these feelings that you are having. since you did say she had a boyfriend, please make sure that she is not just using you to make him jealous. WAIT on this and sort your feelings out.  and if they aree your true true friends, they'll accept this choice you have made. if not then they weren't truely ur friends...Goodluck
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I don't think she'll wait on you....college is one big party, and it's a time in your life for self discovery and adventure, and you two are so young anyway, you should both just go your seperate ways for now, and if it's mean to be, it will be, just stay in touch and stay "friends" and it will all work out in the end if it's suppose to. Who know's you may find someone else you're more interested in after two years!
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I answered your last question, but now that I know more of how you are with things it helps me to understand it a little more.\n\nI agree that you should pray about it, and give it to God.\n\n  I would talk with her about it and let her know that you have to work on yourself more before you can give yourself to someone else.  Tell her that you do like her, but let her know that right now is not the right time for the two of you to be together and that you would like to stay the amazing friends that you are because she lights up your life when she is in it.\n\nGood luck and God bless.
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Seems like she isn't interested right now, just try to be more casual and try to build on a friendship, because she might be one of those girls who can't really date someone until they've been friends, I know I like to know a guy a little before even considering dating them. Just talk to her more, and don't seem so desperate to get a date with her, most girls don't find that attractive, she might start to think you're a stalker or a weirdo, just act yourself and wait, if it's meant to be it will happen eventually.
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ok well me as being a girl if the same thing happened to me i would be a bit freaked out to.. you should probably try to write her a note and tell her that you understood she has a boyfriend and ask her on a date... if shes single then go for it... if that was me i would totally talk to you again
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Wow. A question that actuially fits my situation. Ok, im going to tell you what happened then im going to tell you what you should do. I really liked this girl. I've known her for four years and liked her for two of them. She liked me, then she didn't, she liked me then  she didn't, etc. She basicially led me on some times. I tried to ask her out and she said somthing like "I like you too, just not like you like me, bla bla bla no". It sucked. I was crushed. I tried to forget about her twice and it just ended up me looking like an ass and getting farther away from my goal. I would do anything for this girl, if she was sad id do whatever i could to cheer her up. if she was mad id listen and talk to her about it. if she was feeling down i told her exactly how i felt about her. Then she went out with this guy. Of course I was pissed off. I got in so many verbal fights with him because, by that time, the whole school knew I liked her by the way word gets around. I really don't know why nothing happened, everything was there, she thought I was hot I thought she was beautiful, We got along really well, liked the same music, everything fit. I'd give anything for a second chance at that first time I asked her out. Nothing will happen. I now know that. as much as i dont want to accept that, its true. and i need to.\n\nBut anyways, my story doesn't help you, but it gives you a realization of what can happen.\n\nYou have two options.\n1. Tell him you don't like him like that and expect him to be sad.\n2. If theres any attraction on your part, you can go out with him, if it works out great if it doesn't, oh well. because i bet hed do anything for that one chance.\n\nthe choice is up to you though. of course im going to lean towards the second option but the right choice is probably the first one. good luck.
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She may be guilty that she had hung out with you so much even before she had been dumped.  The girl may also think that her boyfriend dumped her because she had been so close with you.  I don't think you should push anything or talk to her right away about it.  Give her time and if she ever needs to talk, imply that you will always be there for her.  That's most important and casually smile or say hello to her when you see her around.  You shouldn't do anything drastic or you will confuse and scare her away.  Good luck on this, I know relationships are hard!
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Woah she's lucky to have had a boyfriend like you. Dedicated and things like that. Well she's one of those girls who listen to their elderlies without questioning authority. She's probably very sad about having to dump you. Get the picture? She's trying to forget about you, but it's a very painful process. I've done this once. Of course she has feelings for you. She's just saying it.
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ask her out\nif you think about it enough to post it on here ask her\nif its meant to be it will work\nmy bf asked me out right before hs graduation, now he's at college 7 hours away and we have the greatest realationship ever\ni never thought i could do long distance stuff but its working great\nif you don't ask her and don't take the risk, could you live with the guilt? the anger? and the wondering what if we did dates? \nwhats a little risk when u got nothing to loose and so much to gain\nask her
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Ok... I've got two answers for you... so here goes...\n\nThe simple answer:  Probably.\n\nThe more complicated, and more important answer....\n\nYou are insecure. You know this... I know you know this, because you are an obviously intelligent person, but you simply haven't gotten to that point where you are really comfortable "going for it." I know this, because I was the same way for most of my life.\n\nGuess what? So is she. So is everyone. Everyone is insecure about things... over time those insecurities change to different things, but everyone has them. Yeah, most likely she likes you... but here's the best part, even if she doesn't, it doesn't really matter. Let's say you go talk to her, and ask her out... there's only really three things that can happen:\n\n1) She says yes, all is well and good with the world, you go off and have a wonderful time, and who knows...\n\n2) She says no. It doesn't matter what the reason is, just be nice and courteous, and let her know that you were interested, and to have a good life or whatever. Remember this: being nice now truly will be good for you later. After all, she might be taken, but that doesn't mean her hot friend is.\n\n3) She doesn't give you a clear answer. This can go a lot of ways, but usually if a girl doesn't make it fairly apparent that the answer is no, that means that the answer would be yes, except there is just something else going on that is keeping her from saying it. That can be anything from purely an insecurity issue, to having just gotten out of a relationship, and not feeling ready to date, etc... but the important thing is this: She didn't say no.\n\nIf #3 happens, let her know you are interested, tell her something nice, and let it go. In a week or two, take another shot and see what happens. If you end up doing this a couple times and she simply isn't going to say yes, then assume there is something you can'd do anything about, and move on.\n\nAnyway, good luck... and ask her out.
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Once upon a time a girl that I hung out with told me she had a friend who saw me a lot and thought she might like me, and wanted to know what I liked in a girl to see if she might want to ask me out. I told her that I liked a girl who would talk to me, so that we could both get to know each other a little first before thinking about whether or not we should go out. \n\nSo my advice is to just talk to him and see how he responds to being around you. Since he's in most of your classes then you have plenty of opportunity and excuse to talk to him about things.\n\nEdit: Concerning your additional details.\n\nIf I had to make an educated guess from what you wrote I would say that he does like you and would like to spend some time with you outside of school. You paint him as being smart enough on his own, so he isn't trying to be near you so that he can use you to get good grades. And he is trying to point out things you have in common, like the answers, to show that you two are compatable.
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You are one great guy. Wish I knew some more like you. Let her have some time to get over her ex and then when the time is right to hint to her again you'll know. The only warning I would give is, don't give too much of yourself that you may be hurt- eg giving her money when she may never want you two to be anything more than "good friends" don't let her use you because if she things you still like her but are a soft touch and if she's feeling hurt right now, it might be 2nd nature for her to crave attention even when she may not want the same sort of attention that you have in mind to give her (ie.g/bfriend type) All the best and know that the right one is out there for you even if its not her. You sound like a great support to her when she needed someone most, but don't neglect your own needs  :)
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As long as you're  begging (and that's what it is - begging!) her to take you back, she knows she can do whatever she wants, and she'll still have you to go back to......  IF nothing else works out for her.  From what you've written, it sounds as though you're a very worthwhile guy - someone that lots of young women would just LOVE to have a relationship with - well, the smart ones, anyway.  Keep in mind, your ex is in high school, and very young.  (t's probably hard on her to not have a date on Friday night when all her friends do.)  Also, she might have a few "wild oats to sow" before she's ready to settle down with one guy....  But, know what?  You're young, too.  Why not take this "break-up" time as an opportunity to meet some other girls - maybe,someone in one of  your classes. (At least, you'll have something in common to talk about.) Get involved in some of the extra-cirricular activities around your campus.  You know, something that you're really interested in.  You' ll probably  find plenty of women who are interested in the same things. (Right now, you're building  your whole world around ONE person, which isn't wise in the long run.)  You might just find out that  you CAN live without your ex - or, if nothing else, you will learn a lot about how to handle yourself around women. (Begging them to come back to you is not the way, sweetie. It just makes you seem desperate.)  I know this is very, very difficult advise to take.  You might be homesick, and wishing things could be the way they used to be.  For many, the first year of college is hard to adapt to, but adapting is one of the most important lessons you can learn in life.  There's a big world out there - lot's of things to see, places to go, and people to meet.  It's sad if you choose to cling to the past  at such a young age.  And, you never know, your ex might just notice how mature and interesting you're becoming, and decide that those high school "boys" aren't  so "all-that" after all. That's when she might start begging you to take her back - that is, IF you'll still have her!  Think about it - and, best of luck to you.\n\nPEACE
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Don't ask her out immediately, the key is to move slow. She has already given you hints that she may be interested. But remember she just broke up with her boyfriend, the chances of rejection are 50/50.
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wow hun you have sooooo many years ahead of you to worry about that. I know you like her and you just wanna be with her.. but chances are it wouldnt work out anyway.. not because you arent a great guy.. but because relationships that young really never work out. you will find someone much better further along in your years. for right now concentrate on school and your friends. there will be plenty of time for dating later :)