I am in love with this girl, but she has had something really bad happen to her in the past, two things actually, and she is going to talk to a councelor about it. why wont she talk to me about it? is there anything that I can do to let her know that she can? I've already told her that she can talk to me about anything, and that nothing she could say about her past would make me stop loving her, but for some reason she just wont open up to me about it. I can understand it being hard to talk about, cause I know what it was, but how come she can talk to a complete stranger about it, but not the one that she sais she loves soo much?? Please, any insight would be apreciated.
130265
It's probably easier for her to open up to a complete stranger b/c she does not feel like she is risking a relationship there.  It doesn't matter to her if the counselor doesn't love her.....I don't think it has anything to do with you, I think its her issues, and she needs to work through them.  Just support her going to a counselor, and let her know you are always there.  You sound like a good boyfriend.....I'm sure she sees that...and will open up to you when she is ready.
17477
It depends. As long as it was before you and they haven't slept with anyone since you then why not leave the past in the past? Maybe they were just too embarrassed to tell you. On the other hand, I could see where that could bring up a lot of turst issues because they did not tell you before hand. Ask him/her why didn't say this before, and REALLY listen to what they have to say. It may just be because they didnt want to lose you or to think badly of him/her.
645457
if the two of u have been together long then it is still hard for her to face her true feelings.but she definitely needs u more than ever it's just hard for the words to come out . u should start slow and as friends u can relate to her because there is history but I'm sure she would be happy that u r there as a friend not pressuring her about anything just there to lend a shoulder. \n\nWell i hope this advice was helpful!
452935
Sounds like your girlfriend isn't really in a "fun" mood right now, friend. Honestly, just be there for her. There is nothing you can say or do to help her get over such serious traumas, so always be ready to lend an ear or a hand. I promise this is help you guys get closer, and by the time she's ready to move on with her life, you'll have a better relationship than you would have without any og this.
543479
if she wants you to know,she will tell you.you know we all have skeltons in out closets.maybe she likes to forget about the bad times.well if she brings it up and ask you what you think,then you should tell her,but be nice about it.just dont go digging into her past and telling everyone you meet,thats between you and her,and not anyones elses business.
290719
You need to stop letting her use you the way she is.  Next time she calls to talk about stuff tell her sorry but you can't do this with her anymore.  That you love her and that it hurts too much to continue sharing this type of stuff with her and being a part of her life when she can't love you and make you a part of her life.  You can only get over her by shutting her out of your life.  It will be much easier to look at other girls and actually see them once she becomes a memory.  It will take time but trust me, it will happen.
623791
I think you should talk to her about your feelings and if she is free and willing to try things again, then there you go there is a good opertunity to ask her out. But she may just be content as friends I would not tell her you are in love with her though. It could make things worse.
544717
If you didn't trust her you wouldn't be asking her ex and why does this bother you so much?  Sounds like you have doubts about her past.  Either accept her story or move on to someone you can trust.
96358
Sorry to hear about your pain, but there is absolutely nothing that you can do about now except for learn your lesson and move on.  Now, perhaps when you find a special girl that you fall in love with again, you won't wait to let her know!!\n\nPlease, do NOT tell her now - it would do no good and only stress her out.  That's not fair to either of you.
121810
Leave it alone! He does not need to relive this with his girlfriend. I'm sure you've made it clear that if he WANTS to talk, you're ready to listen and that's ALL you should do. You're not his therapist and you are not qualified to be his therapist. You're his girlfriend and need to respect his boundaries and quit prying into pieces of his past he does not want to dwell on.
621553
explain this to her.  say I love u but I am allowing u to cloud my every thought and I've come to the realization that this isn't healthy for me.\n\nif u can handle it ask her to still be friends
168250
hmmm, a guy just did that to me recently.  She has gone through a lot of thoughts in her head by now.  If you want any chance at all, you need to own up to the fact that you hurt her by not talking to her, and apologize and say you'd like another chance.\n\nWhy did you stop talking to her?
298118
All you can do is give her a hug and tell her that you are there for here.I have been in that situation where I have something wrong with me and my ex used to ask me what was wrong, I never told him, he would just get up and go into the other room. Dont do that. I know from experience even if she doesnt want to talk, she might still like you to be with her and hold her so she knows that she is not alone
551030
Hi you right it's not worth fighting over. Maybe she just feels like she can't talk to you about certain things that are happening in her life right now. I wouldn't worry to much about it. People sometimes find that it is easier to confide in strangers. That way no one will be able to judge her.
117308
What to do? Move on, not worth your time if she wont talk about it. Life is too short to worry about someone else.
365463
He probably wants to share your feelings and share your pain from your past experiences and comfort you. If he really truely loves you, he just wants to know where you are coming from and where you have been. To truly know a person inside and out, you have to know their past, their faults, their mistakes, and love them no matter what. He is probably just sad that you have never opened up with him before about that. Whenever it feels right to you, you should sit down and have a heart to heart conversation with him and get to know each other's past so you can love each other no matter what has happened.
229030
been there but it ended really fast(and never truly started), more of a mutual thing...anyways, talk to her about it, maybe give her some space for a little bit, not too long but  alwasys be close by when she does finally get over it, but it could be an excuse for something else. be careful witchever way you chose to go with this