Me and my girl friend are having some problems , We have been together for over A year and three months . and shes having secound thoughts about us . She takes some medication for depression and i understand and acpect that. But for some reason she starting to regress. She thinks that it wont work out , Im trying to help her but im running out of ideas. Please help me.
122811
the main reason is depression, try to think whts the cause of her depression, is she in some kind of pressure. take her for outing wherever she likes the most, tell her that u love her very much. Speak n act naturally. Talk clearly abt her problems n try to sort them out. If this doesnt work, then consult her close friends, thy might help.
675414
if he won't answer then your a bit stuck and i can understand how worried you must feel. if your going to stay with someone who has depression you're going to need some support yourself. you need back up and strategies to cope. in the uk MIND is a charity that supports people and their carers. have a look online to see if they have a contact near you. even tho he's not well try to remember that 99% of what we worry about doesn't happen and he does know you are there for him. Be brave it will be ok.
394390
you can't stop her being depressed, but you can be there for her.  be patient.  its possible she will always be like this but without you she could be worse.  try and encourage her to have fun with you but if she doesn't want to go out suggest you go round to hers. she needs people like you in her life that care about her.  good luck :)
129718
Talk to her and have her open up and tell you whats been going on. Tell her your feels. Be open, no secrets, that is the key to relationships.
202367
Well, if she won't leave her crazy girlfriend then its because she needs some help herself. OR okay, she can be scared that her g/f will try and kill herself (again). Bottom line, that girl is controling your friends life and its a very bad situation. Tell your friend to seek professional advice on how to get out of that relationship. She is being emotionally abused and needs to get out ASAP. Tell your girlfriend to call a hotline, get advice on how to leave and then just be there for her during the transition and so forth. IF your friend refuses to try harder and at least another month goes by then yes, move on. It may be very hard but at this rate its not fair to you. Good luck!
16794
Depression is like a downward spiral where the person cannot stop thinking in a negative pattern, this feeds on itself and can become crippling to the point where the person can hardly function.\nTelling the person what they need to do will normally not help, in fact it sometimes makes the problem worse because they may feel that blame is being added (like it's their fault they are feeling this way).\nPersonally, I would do my best to be a good listener, remind them of their good qualities and encourage them by mentioning some positive things through the conversation.  They won't get better overnight, it will take some time and a number of talks.
657094
Sometimes friends just need some space. Nothing is meant by it. You could try calling her or writing saying lets make plans for this Saturday to ......& think of something fun for you 2 to do. Have a positive attitude about things. Sometimes if you're down & depressed all the time that could affect friends coming around. It just gets them depressed & that's not fun so work on being positive not just for her but for you. Make yourself think positive, happy thoughts. God bless.
280286
if you like her, ask her out . . . talk with her about your feelings . . . it will be a challenge to be in a relationship with a depressed person, but if they are seeking therapy, there may be many great rewards for you in the relationship also.
125685
I would continue to be her friend. Realize that she is not going to be able to put as much as you put into the relationship, due to her current mental state. You now know that that because of her condition that you won't be able to believe what she says. Keep the relationship fun and light. That way you won't get caught up in the emotional drama.
247171
wow-- u sould like a great guy, i wish i had a guy like you. I think she cant believe what she has. Maybe she is taking a break to find out what she has is true. Dont ignor her, just give her time. dont call her, dont do anything. wait for her to gather her thoughts. and she will come back, she will realize what she has. Did she say y she broke up with you? I know its hard, and we have all gone through it, just give her time... time heals. dont call her.
655583
yeah the bigger the better...as you matured you see your perspective change.For now your girlfriend thinks its quite a burden for he..well time will come she can adjust to it.just don't force yourself too deep maybe she's scared..just let her feel comfortable as much as you can
320037
She sounds very tired, scared and very frustrated. Right now what she probably needs is a FRIEND, someone to lean on. So I would advise for you to go and accidently bump into her. Show to her that you still care and want to help her, but don't look like you pity her or she will become worse. Try and get her to relax, unwind because all.\nI think it would help if you did research on depression.
591881
Its really fun....I'm going through the same thing myself...my girlfriend of 2 yrs called it off 3 days ago and I'm suck in the same predicament. I absolutely can relate to you because I'm afraid that I won't ever find someone that I care and love. Not to mention she was my first girlfriend. To make it worse she tells me that she doesn't really see a future with me even though she tells me she loves me. Anyways I just want to tell you that its ok and hopefully both of us will be ok in the future. I wish you luck and I feel your pain. Oh, and the Dr. Steve answer is not fair... I'm not a teenager and I'm going through this so to say that "its a meaningless relationship" is cruel.
138296
Sounds like she is going through a hard time, like she is depressed and cant talk about it. Many people shut people out for fear of rejection or humiliation. You need to talk to her, find out whats happening. Dont pressure her, let her know she can talk to you.
287419
Talk to her. Communication is key.\nAsk her what went wrong and what you can do to fix it.\nLet her know how you feel, but dont push it. dont force her into feeling something. because then it wont be real. remember, force is a crime.\nthings like this take time. be patient.\nGood luck
462587
give her time to calm down frist of all, a few days and then ask her if you two just you two can talk . discuse everything  and tell her how you feel. honistly that is all that you can do unless you put a spell on the poor girl:) goodluck girl
80116
I would be glad that you guys are still friends and just keep her close. Let her feel not just know that you are there no matter what....when guys do her wrong...or when she's scared...or sick or just needs someone to listen to her. That's more then anything you could give her at this time. She'll soon see if the love is true that you've been buy her side ever since...in due time. Both of you will grow and she'll see that so whatever rocky issues you guys had, you now can get over how-ever you all choose.