He always says, let us go and have sex, but each time I get him excited in bed, he only last one minute of rigidness and then, boom, his penis gets soft and I end up chupsing and just going to bed.  It has been 2 months now, I lost interest, but still with him.  Please help
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i thinnk he should go see a doctor.. find out whats the cause of his impotence.. the dr. will tell you what to do, maybe its more mental than physical... oooor... yiou could always try viagra
292261
You need a lot of foreplay, then when it's time for actual sex, it won't take you long to get off.  You could also get on top when he gets tired, then he can just lay back and enjoy.
640715
Because he's horny. You need to sit and explain that sex is not the goal for you and that he needs to respect the fact that you do not want to go all the way with him. Set up those boundaries at a time when you are not in the heat of the moment so that you do not feel any pressure to go further than you'd like at any time.\n\nAnd, if he doesn't respect that, get him out of the picture. You deserve someone who will respect your body and your choices.
457303
Try this test.\n\nThe next time he asks for sex, decline, saying that you are just not in the mood.\n\nIf he presses on, it's jsut the sex he's inetersted in. If he accepts your request, it is something deeper
317580
It seems like you want sex more when you can't get it.  It sounds like he is using that as an excuse.  I have never heard of a man getting bored with sex.  Talk to him and if you can live without the sex stay with him, if not kick him to the curb.
298817
I am in charge in the bedroom. Things go better for the both of us that way. When I take control, I satisfy her needs first, then worry about mine later.\nIf you laugh, tell him that he tickled you. Don't tell him that you were thinking about something funny, because we want you to be thinking about us.
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Is he depressed, stressed or something else?  Will he see a doctor.\n\nA healthy man will usually have a healthy sex life.  I think you should be honest and tell him this is destroying your love for him and you would like him to address the issue.  \n\nIf he doesn't know how, then suggest that he start with the source of being tired.\n\nOne other thing that popped into my head.  Does he just say that to avoid a long conversation.  Perhaps he doesn't feel "safe" talking about what he really feels and thinks because he is judged or criticized.
317417
Hey it happens...men are pretty sexual beings and they are lucky to have the ability to have such immediate responses...sometimes. Try to get him to slow down...spend some more time focusing on you and your body..and giving you pleasure first...then take a minute before letting him do his thing. As a man he is really in tune with the sensation of about to reach climax...get him to realize this and he,,or you can stop it grasping him right behind his testicles and apply some pressure to that area until the sensation subsides. It will take some practice. You need to apply the pressure to the underside of the penis, pushing up and in where the testicles are up against his body. This is an ac-cue pressure point that relieves sexual tension. After trying this a few times in a session your partner should find that he can last longer, and won't loose his erection. Another trick that works, but not as practical is to have him masturbate about 20 min or so before sex then he should have better staying power. Good luck and have fun!!!
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Ugh, guys. My advise: forget about him. He doesn't respect you. He was interested in you until he got sex, and now that he's had that, he's not interested. Guys like a challenge, and now that he's "conquered" you, in a sense, he wants something new.\n\nGet out there and find yourself a good one! One that holds back for at least a few dates before trying anything to rushed.
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I HAVE TO SAY IF THIS HAS OCCURRED MORE THAN ONCE IT MAY BE A RED FLAG FOR FUTURE NIGHTS OF SEXUAL FRUSTRATION FOR YOU. THERE ARE WAYS MEN HAVE FOR LASTING LONGER. IF THIS IS SOMEONE THAT YOU CARE FOR AND ARE GOING TO HAVE A FUTURE WITH. YOU NEED TO ADDRESS THE ISSUE NOW. IF HE GETS THAT TURNED ON BY YOU THEN PERHAPS HE SHOULD GET OFF AT HOME BEFORE YOUR DATE SO HE WILL HAVE MORE STAMINA WITH YOU. OR YOU SHOULD HAVE HIM CONTINUE PLEASING YOU AFTER HE "GOES" UNTIL HE GETS READY TO TAKE ANOTHER GO AT IT. JUST WORK THROUGH IT TOGETHER.  BUT IF THIS IS JUST A FOR FUN RELATIONSHIP SOUNDS LIKE YOU MIGHT BE TOO MUCH FUN FOR HIM AND I WOULD TRY TO END IT BEFORE THE FRUSTRATION BEGINS\n\nGOOD LUCK WITH THAT  .. . ..
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can't blame you for getting frustrated...what you need is a break. meaning...go somewhere else with your husband, take a trip to a new place or a place where you've been to before and had a great time...\nsometimes it takes much more than "holding it" to ignite things... a change of environment once in a while is good for both of you.\ni think your husband feels stressed out, or something is really troubling him and doesnt want to tell you what...but that's another story...\n\nand about your question if its normal for him to not want to have sex, my answer would be yes. My husband is like that..sometimes...esp when he's tired, i realized my energy level is higher than his so i try my best to meet halfway...husbands are lazy when they are tired and sleepy even if as you put it...you are a hottie.\n\nGood luck to you and your hubby...
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well, hate to break it to you but it sounds like you are in a relationship known as "FRIENDS WITH BENEFITS"\n\n well, first of all stop having sex with a guy who doesn't want to have a commit ed relationship!!! you two should take things slow to have a sense of appreciation...\n\nhow can you appreciate something when you tend to rush over them  and not see the details..\n\ni know I'm going nowhere but I'm just exaggerating the point that in love it should be special and sincere...\n\n\nits time for the two of you to cool off a bit and see what you really mean to him...
467081
It could be one of many things, one he is not into you , two he dose have a medical problem, or three this one happens to a lot of guys even though they don't admit to it, he is more then likely thinking about the ups and downs about sex which is taking the emotional feeling away, which makes him go down way to fast. just don't take it to heart, he is more frustrated about this then you!
49214
My dear... just stop sleeping with him! under all circumstances!!! he will be nice in the beginning and soon will lose interest if he just wants to get some. do not settle for a such a man
546453
Tougher than you would think isn't it? You have to take your turn. Try to get enjoyment out what it makes him feel like. Just mount up and watch his face. I promise, you are making him feel better than anything in the world. Remember that and just smile because at that point he has no control over himself and it's all because of you. Work it girl. He will follow you around like a puppy. When it's over just lay there and smile but don't let him know why. When you figure out what you do to him and the control you have when your on top, you won't be able to wait till you can do it again. Don't forget about yourself, he has to take his turn too. Then he gets to watch you too. Cool huh? You wont need luck with this one. It is one of the secrets of life.
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Just chill on the sex. It will happen. If he wants to respect you and not sleep with you, then just wait and when it happens, it will be great. Guys do grow up and get to an age that they don't want to talk about it all the time. But it does concern me that he is getting oral sex from you but not giving maybe? that means to me that he is playing a game.
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I have to agree with max, not only that, I bet things weren't reallygoing "too fast" for him,  he probably had a girl the whole time and she has just dumped him so he is crawling back to you for some attention and what max said.....sex.\n\nDon't let him off easy, make him work for it and prove to you that he is sincere