I regret being a hard headed child when I was younger, and giving my mom a hard time.
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tRY TO MAKE IT UP TO HER MAKE IT SO YOU DONT HAVE THE BLAME AND OH THANKS FOR MY ANSWER YOU WAS A BIG HELP AND IM CHOOSING YOU AS MY BEST ANSWER SO EMAIL ME bres_bff1994@yahoo.com okay
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my mom constantly tells me im a mistake and how she shouldve got an abortion and she was married to my dad for nine years of hell because i ruined her life. but its not ur fault at all- u gota remember that no matter what, ur here for a reason
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I was 13 and I regret it. I think my life would have turned out much better if I had of waited and just concentrated on school. I probably would have went to a great college and had a better career right now.
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i was a spoiled little sister, cant do much, youcan beat her kick her and all that others are saying. it wont get you anywhere b/c she will screamm bloody murder and get away with it. if my sister barely touched me i'd scream and yell and my dad would come running to punish her. i feel bad now that i am older.just try and deal with it for now , hopefully she'll change when older . good luck.
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Hey babe! Don't feel so bad, I'm in the same boat. :[\nTry trying hard for yourself, not your Mom. If she is happy with what you're doing then yeah! If not, that's her problem not yours!\n\nHope this helps!\n\nLove, Mandy
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A mother and I grew up to be that.
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I'm ok, and I had an awful childhood.\nGranted, It's taken years to get myself balanced and to be able to accept my past. But from the day I went into care at 14, I decided I didn't want to be like the others around me... I had a rocky lot of teenage years. but who doesn't?\nI am now 24 and Mother to a beautiful 4 and a half year old girl.\nAnd even if I say so myself, I am a good Mum, my daughter is polite well mannered happy and loved. I think that one of the reasons I have done well with her is because, I swore that I would never do to her what my Mum did to me... I had to live with the consequences and it wasn't pleasant!\nSure, I'm not completeley un-affected by my past and even now I get stages where I don't understand why, or feel upset or betrayed. But I DO understand and know, that I will be the best Mother I can for my little one. And feel lucky that I was shown how bad things could be, so that I can break a cycle, and give my Daughter the future she deserves.
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My childhood is such a blurr, I only remember certain things..........It was a depressing one that I think I chose to forget.....I remember my father never being around, he left when I was 9 months old, I have 2 older brothers......I remember ugly custody battles........3 days a week me and my 2 brothers were at the pshychiatrists office..........I latched on to the first guy I met, and moved out of that house at 16 and purposely got pregnant, I ended up miscarrying.........I then packed up and moved to Florida looking for a new life only to get wrapped up in drugs.......I'm over all that now.........Thank God, I'm grown up now!!!!!!!!\nIf I could change anything about it, I wouldn't change a thing........I have learned so much about people it's unreal, I learned that sometimes water is alot thicker than blood!!!!
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Mom, My dad is a pain in the arse.
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When I was 17 I was on a date, we were parked and things were progessing nicely until she started to give me a b10wj0b. She managed snag the head on her braces and it ripped badly enough that I had to go to the ER and get 2 stitches, because I wasn't yet 18 they had to call my parents to get permission to treat me.
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You have been probably too lenient and do not always do what you say you will do to punish her when she is naughty.  That is my guess...At 11, children are beginning to test more and more boundaries with adults.  As her mother, if you are weak, she will learn that quickly and use it to HER advantage.  If you keep letting her be that way, she will continue to get worse.  Basically, she has no respect for you, more than likely.  You have to be make her REALIZE that YOU have the AUTHORITY...the upper hand.  She's a child, she does NOT know more than you, but if you keep letting her think so, she will keep walking all over you.  Before long, you will have NO control and MORE problems.  \nI suggest speaking to a therapist or counselor.  You can get counseling anywhere for free if you can not pay.  Ask you local  social services dept, a school representative, your doctor, someone at a church, the phone book has blue colored pages called "The Blue Pages" or "Government Pages" where you will find this kind of information.  Any one of these places, in your city or town or village, or county, can get you the help you need.\nGood luck...bad kids are not born, they are made.
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Because that is how the child grew up, that type of life(abusive and drunk) is the only life the child knows and therfore grows up to be the exact same way thinking that it is the only way to be.  Now in certain cases(like my own life) the child turns out to be the exact opposite because they realize that they dont want their children to go through the same thing they did.  This usually only happens when the child is also introduced to a life different than the abusive one.  For instance, in my case, my parents fought alot when I was young, they hit each other, kicked each other, screamed at each other and even shot each other(yes, with real guns).  It was horrible...my mom cheated on my dad, she would go out and come home drunk, and I think he even raped her.  Well, when I was 9 my dad commited suicide and shortly after my mom abandoned my 5 year old sister and I and got hooked on drugs.  For 3 years I was my sisters "mom".  Since our mom would be gone all the time, sometimes for weeks at a time, I had to take care of her.  I gave her a bath, helped her with homework, fed her and always made sure we had a ride to school.  I got really sick of it, I wanted to be a kid, hang out with my friends, go to the mall etc. so I told my Grandma everything and we moved in with her.  WHAT A RELIEF, I didnt have to be a chld mommy anymore cause grandma was there.  Well, shortly after we moved in with her I got super depressed, started doing stupid things and smoking pot and whatnot.  I could have easily gone down the wrong road but somewhere along the road I realized I didnt want to be like my parents, I wanted to have a good life and be happy, be more like my grandma and rest of my family rather than my mom.  I was one of the lucky ones that comes out good.  I am now 21 and have a good head on my shoulders, I have a wonderful boyfriend who I want to spend the rest of my life with, a good job and Im drug-free and happy.  My sister on the other hand, is 17 and STUPID. I hope she is able to bring herself out of it but she is going down the wrong road, and while I cant stop her I can guide her in the right direction and hope its enough.
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This makes me feel that your mother did abuse you - not physically or sexually but emotionally. This is a valid form of abuse, and like any other takes a lot of time and love to heal.\n\nI suggest that if you have now moved out of the family house, you write a letter to your mother, telling her how she made you feel, describing both positive and negative situations. See how she responds. If she responds negatively, denying or invalidating your feelings, then have very little to do with her. She is your mother, but there is no reason you have to see her if it makes you uncomfortable. If she responds positively to the letter, apologising, wanting to build a better relationship, try and build a new relationship with her.\n\nCounselling may help with this as this was child abuse. The most important thing is that you don't hold on to this hurt and get bitter, but let it go; your mother doesn't owe you anything. This is very difficult to do, but eventually you will be free from this pain.
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That certainly wasn't very "MOM" like of a comment.  Although I don't condone what your mom said, I am sure she misses and loves you.  Although my children are small and can't imagine saying those things, try and evaluate your mom.  Is she a single working mom working several jobs?, were you a hand full growing up?  Just remember we all do really rotten things that we are ashamed of and no ones perfect.  I am sure she misses you a whole bunch.  Try and be gentle with her and don't repeat history by punishing her like she did you.
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You may have made mistakes, sometimes critically important mistakes, that wounded your children in some way. Most parents, even under the best conditions, will make such a mistake at least once during their childrens' lives. \n\nHowever, your children are middle-aged now; they need to own whatever happened to them, accept that what is done is done, heal their wounds the best they can, and take responsibility for providing themselves and their children with a better life than perhaps you were able to provide for them when they were small.\n\nYou need to tell them that if they expect to have any happiness or success in their lives at all, they have to quit blaming you and start taking responsibility for their own lives now. There's nothing you can do to undo whatever hurt they experienced as children; but there is also nothing you can do to undo whatever hurt they're experiencing in their adult lives...because it's NOT your job. If they expect to have any happiness in their lives at all, they're going to have to work on themselves and do what they need to do for themselves to have a better life.\n\nUntil then, ignore their accusations. They are just guilting you to take the spotlight off their own failures as adults to cope.
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As a kid myself, I see it from your side. However, make sure you realize that they just want you to realize that "lowering the expectations you have for yourself is not the right path to take." (My parents...rrr...)
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My mother.  She had me at 18, married young, and sacrificed her whole life for me.  She didn't graduate HS, worked a dead end job most of my life so that I would have every oppurtunity available.  Didn't use her situation to get on welfare and milk the government.  When I was 16 she got her GED and went back to college.  Now she's a nurse and has a terrific life.  She earned every single bit of it!  My mom is a wonderful person and has taught me exactly what it means to sacrifice and achieve things.  Just because life was hard she didn't use that as an excuse to stop trying.