We are both happy, very much in love, have one daughter, both our families are happy with the union, her father is a mullah and conducted the first wedding ceremony (so we were married in his 'faith'), Does any body think that we are doing anything wrong?  If yes why?
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Congratulations!I don't think so your doing anything wrong nor you should worry as religion is a personal thing that each individual should respect regardless of what one follows as long as you guys don't let the aspect of religion come into your love and marriage nothing can go wrong!Have a wonderful life and all the best!I strongly agree with your point that its not important what religion you follow but the most important thing is Your Actions or Karma as most of the religion believe that they follow the right path but i feel its wrong coz all religion takes you to one path i.e to God so its more important to be mindful of our own actions than spend rest of the life figuring out which religion is the best as it doesn't matter whether one is Christian,muslim or jew or hindu or buddhist as all faith takes us to one supreme power i.e GOD.People spend all their life thinking that their path or faith is right but in reality all  religions are different ways of reaching the truth so don't worry, people need to have a more open mind and it so sad that people just don't think!
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Hey tleigh...well after what i just read, it seems to me that the 2 of you are happy with the way things are now.  If this is the case then why ruin a good thing.  I believe the only time 2 people should get married is if they are both really committed to the whole marriage thing.  But, if you still have to stop and ask yourself if this is a good thing then most likely its not gonna be. But, like I said earlier,  you 2 seem to be doing just fine the way things are.  You know how the old phrase goes..."Don't fix it , if it ain't broke"  As of right now, it doesnt seem as if anything is broke in this relationship....Good luck with everything, tleigh...
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It's silly and romantisized by girls since they're small children. \n\nIf you want to be married, under god, pray together and make the ceremony yourselves saying you commit yourselves to god and will be together for always. Thats much more personal than a memorized chant from the religious organization. Do this and it'll at least ease your wife's concerns that it'll be two kids already and not married(what kind of message is that, she says).\n\nDon't worry too much. Take your time and organize well, it'll make the marriage ceremony unstressful, and possibly as your wife fantasizes it. If you rush, you'll be stressed and burdened for the coming time of the ceremony.
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I'm sorry about your misfortune, and happy to hear that you are able to release yourself from this situation through divorce.  \n\nThis problem isn't limited to Pakistani men - many men of many cultures are terribly immature when it comes to marriage, and shout religion as a way to attempt to control their wives.  I was married to an American Christian man who was exactly the same way.  \n\nWishing all the best for you and your children, and I hope after you have had time to heal, that you are able to open your heart to marriage again, only this time with a man who will be a true Muslim and love and protect you as a man should.
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Who knows why our country's doing anything it's doing. I agree with you completely. I'm sorry that you and your partner, as well as all other homosexuals, cannot show your love by marrying one another. Love is love. I don't think it matters if you're a man loving a man, a woman loving a woman, or a man loving a woman. If your heart is true you should be able to get married. Bottom line. I hope that you and your partner will one day have the same rights as the rest of us. And that this prejudice will end; to any degree it can.
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She is not, I am Muslim and I can say that. maybe she really loves you but your relationship seems impossible. in our book male Muslim can marry Christian,Muslim and Jew woman, but female Muslim can't marry but Muslim man. so she is probably if she told her family they would prevent her from seeing you at all. so she keeps finding excuses to be with you as long as possible. talk to her outright and tell her what I just wrote and she can't deny! good luck.
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Listen carefully, it looks from your question that you are a devoted Moslem otherwise you will not ask such a question, and the correct answer for your question is that: Islam forbids a Moslem girl to marry to a non-Moslem man because it is likely that he might influence her and convert her to his religion, and you know what does that mean, but if she feels that he is sincere and he might convert to Islam, she might marry him after he converts to Islam and by that way she will please Allah in two things : first that she obeyed Him and didn't abandon her religion, second: she saved another soul from the hell fire.\nIf you need more assistance in any further questions about Islam please don't hesitate to contact me, sister.\nMy sincerest prayers for you.
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No its not wrong! I was with my husband 10 yrs and had 2 lovely kids,we got married then within 18 mth of the marrage he slept with 2 others and moved out! He said he felt diffrent since we married and to tell you the truth so did I! we are working through stuff but we both agree that we wished we had left things the way we were! If you's are happy why take a chance and spoil things? Good luck to the both of you!!
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well i know a few people whom had prearranged marriages,they didnt work out,and all were happier following what there heart told them rather than what had been arranged.\nwhat its like this way in other countries but in the us it really doesnt work,you cant rule either with the iron fist,nor remove rights,or live as muslims do in many countries,so to simply staTe the fact.\n  DONT DO IT.
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Drop it now. It will not end happily. Some of these people are naive beyond belief. If you and he actually believe in your religions rather than just adopting a label, then your love will not survive! The conflicts are too deep and too pervasive.
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Well, you must validate her path as a spiritual practice (not act like she is playing at religion, but honor her different beliefs) and you must accept her as she is if you want this relationship to have a chance to work.  She has no right to dictate what you should do religiously or spiritually.\n\nIf you relationship does work, down the line you will have to work out a wedding ceremony and way of life that allows you both spiritual freedom and doesn't pressure any kids involved.  If you spiritual practises are incompatible, then so are you.\n\nMy husband is catholic and I am more of a new age person, you might say.  We have been able to come to common ground in our beliefs - and work around the labels a bit to find that we do share a lot (as many different religions do, we are finding too).  It is possible to do this and to do it beautifully.  In a world where unity is becoming more and more necessary, it is great for kids to grow up with it in their own homes and families.\n\nPeace!
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Depending on where you are is the answer.  I am married to a Pakistani man and I had a small wedding the American way but I also got married at a mosque.  Pakistanis have very beautiful weddings there dresses are usually very colorful and very very nice.  I have seen from video other family members weddings the way they do it and I am very jealous because if I could I would do it that way, I would.  My husband is very nice and now we have 2 anniversaries 1 week apart because the first one was my way by a preacher and his way by an Iman.  I love the way the way they get married and how the people dress for it but that is my opinion.  Talk to the man you are gonna marry and see what he says.  If you want a beautiful wedding dress then he should understand but depending on how your wedding is gonna be is what you should wear because if you wed the Pakistani way I don't think the white wedding dress will be appropriate.
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Yes, it is possible to have a successful interreligious marriage, if both partners are willing to accept those differences.  There will need to be a discussion about how the kids (should you have any) would be raised.  You may choose to bring them up in one tradition while teaching them about the other, or perhaps find some way to encorporate both into their lives.  I'm from such a marriage (Jewish father, Roman Catholic Christian mother) and while I was raised as a Christian, we also celebrated Jewish holidays like Hanukkah.\n\nAs for whether one partner should be made aware of the other's religion, absolutely!  Especially since the relationship is serious enough to be considering marriage, it's crucial to communicate about these kinds of details with your partner if the relationship is to be successful.  Withholding that information is not respectful of the other partner, as they should be aware of the faith of their partner when they marry him/her (particularly if marriage is viewed as a holy union).
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your marriage is what you make it. both of you bring honesty, trust, respect,love,communication, and commitment and you will be fine. good luck
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I understand your dilemma; however I thinks cultural differences are good for a marriage.  I am African American and my husband is of Yemen descent.  He was raised in Tanzania.  I think he has chosen to follow his heart and look at people for people.  We sit and create our own world and not let family, culture or society dictate the love we have for one another.  I love him with all my heart and despite the approval of my mother and sister, because of his Arab background.  He stands by me and I will for him. If you stop looking at her as a Hungarian and start looking at her as the women Allah gave you; then everything will work itself out.
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hey i think that is so sweet it is like you guys are reminding each other why you wanted to marry.i say noone has the right to call you weird if you are happy. keep up the good work you guys give others hope for happy marriages.
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I think it is good to see people commit to a marriage, it really doesn't matter what race or color. When it comes down to it, we all came from the same place-right? If you are really in live with your mate, then marriage is honorable. After all, you won't be spending the rest of your life with dear old mom and dad, so you've got to follow your heart on this issue.