A friend was just telling me about all the abusive comments that her ex-boss used to make about her in front of clients to remind them of who was boss.  I used to have a boss that would rarely return calls or "follow up" on client requests.  He would just tell me to look after them, then blame me if anything went wrong.  He would usually do so during meetings with the clients by looking at me and saying something like "Is that really so hard to take care of?" after the client had complained about something not getting done.  Anybody have similar problems with their bosses?
136522
I had bosses from hell. Our union was in before the hourly employees; does that tell you anything? They would hurt employees to get them to quit. The good workers were the ones that they did this to. One would tell you to do things one way, another would come up and tell you another and another would do the same. They would not let some of us have fans when it was one hundred degree's; I will not go on.
157205
I can totally relate to what you are saying. I live with the same type of thing every day, unfortunately the person in question is my boss. Sometimes I think if I let loose one day the consequenses might just be worth it. Horrible, I know, but this kind of person can cause the most severe and aggressive frustration! My advice is to avoid him as much as possible, which is what I do with her, but should you happen to proceed with a physical confrontation I admit I would find it comforting to know that at least someone had some consequence for their constant crap behavior and maybe will think twice about it in the future.
412555
I try to...especially when I sense that someone is bored, or unhappy.  I went to this meeting, and the CFO was there, who was my boss.  I saw him starting to fall asleep during this lecture.  And truthfully some execs are the worst ones at presenting because they are all nervous and tense.  So I leaned over to the CFO and said "Geez, Do you think maybe a wicked game of 'pull my finger' would loosen this guys up a bit?"  He tried so hard not to laugh after that. : )
67121
I would address it up front. Be honest with your interviewer that your old boss was not too happy when you left and you would prefer if they did not contact him for that reason. Maybe you can ask someone else where you worked to speak to the interviewer. Someone of authority who knows your situation.
328524
Because I am going back to school, I actually trained my boss.  He was new to our department, and I took him under my wing.  The managers position opened up and I did not take it, but encouraged him to.\n\nSo my boss still calls me boss, and we talk as equals in solving issues and problems.\n\nIn today's competitive environment, that is how it should be.
96753
It all depends on how much you value your job and how well you want to keep your working relationship with your boss harmonious. Bosses are not always correct; and there are bosses that are inept and ineffective.\n\nThe issue here, however, goes beyond to your relationship with the boss; we are talking of your loyalty to the organization. Ask yourself - how would your boss, and your boss' boss think of you when they find out that you went behind their backs? Do you think you will be rewarded with promotion? What do you think are your prospects for advancement?\n\nHowever, this can present an opportunity for you if and when you decide to freelance. Many people start their own businesses this way: by getting those they have previously worked with as their first clients. However, you need to ask yourself some questions: \n\n- do you have the resources to actually go freelance?\n- do you think you have what it takes to freelance and start your own business?\n- aside from this one client, do you think you can get other clients?\n\nGood luck
187940
been there with my job...most of the time it is the employees keeping the managers and supervisors in their job and this is because if it wasn't for us...they wouldn't have their job they would be doing what we are doing. they cant say that they are keeping their jobs because of themselves...it's us small pawns that help them keep their jobs. but what can we do besides try harder and knock them off the ladder or just switch jobs(but if you do that..you're back on square 1)...so let's just play chess shall we?
243483
Been there. I found that I had to document everything my boss asked me to do in an email, so that when the project went wrong, I could explain my situation. I'd write the email to my boss detailing what she wanted me to do (I'd say something like, "Just to be sure I understand you correctly...") and tactfully explain why I didn't think it was the best course of action. \n\nBasically, it was a CYA thing. But, people like that eventually get found out. If you like other aspects of your job, you might just try to hold out until she is discovered to be incompetent. But that takes time. And patience.
187622
Oh yes, I have had one in almost every job I've had. They are called "a pain in the neck!" and are found in every place of work. I try not to let them wind me up and ignore them as much as I can. Another good tactic is to say, " Yes your right - what a brilliant way of doing it!" and just continue to do what ever you need to do to get the job done properly. Basically, these people are insecure and need to feel that they are better than anyone else.
369340
It's time for you to go over your immediate bosses head to upper management.  Before you do, I would document and entire weeks worth of instances along with date, place and time the harassment takes place.  I really feel for you and I hope your situation improves soon - God bless!
545617
Maybe she addressed the situation differently than you did.  Speak with your boss again and do yourself a favor don't say anything like "well you fixed hers and I have been here longer"  Explain the problem give an example of the problem and offer a solution.  Good Luck
101625
Yep, I quit my last job.  I worked in a furniture store, and for the most part it was okay.  But customers yelled at me for things I had no control over -- do they really think a cashier has control over the color of wood finish a bed has?  And my boss was a pain, she would yell at me for not going up to a customer and asking if they needed help every 20 seconds.  Excuse me for not wanting to harass people.  And worst was one of the assistant managers who was incredibly condescending.  So I quit and went back to school to get my masters.  Soon I'll own their asses.
615979
A poplular term used when discussing dimwit bosses is "manage your boss."  If you see her beginning to point in a direction you know to be incorrect, try playing the part of Devil's Advocate and pointing out some of the pitfalls in her way of thinking.  Another tactic is to think out loud, walking through the consequences of her decision step by step.  As long as you do this in a way that initially sounds like you are agreeing with her, you'll be fine.\n\nThe saving grace in your case is that "numerous people in the company seek advice from [you] and not her."  This indicates that they also know that your boss is clueless.  However, do not EVER tell anyone else that you actually think your boss is clueless!  Always cover your butt when taking about your boss.  Perhaps she's not been there as long as you, or she has a lot on her plate, or she's just not involved in the issues as much as your are.  Whatever the case may be, let everyone else pump up your reputation.  If your boss begins getting in hot water from her superiors, stay out of it as much as possible and just make sure your supporting co-workers are close at hand to support you as a replacement should that happy opportunity present itself.\n\nOh, and when things just get too frustrating, buy a stress ball.
201439
It sounds like she was fired for insubordination. Regardless of whether your manager is mean, you are asking to get fired if you start cursing at them. The boyfriend had no business being on the property. They are trying to run a business, you know? She won't get re-hired for those reasons, not because her boyfriend, who shouldn't have been there in the first place, stepped in. And her chances of collecting unemployment are also poor should her employer dispute the application. If you mouth off at people you suffer the consequences.
273791
Toni, I think I used to work with her sister; I knew someone just like that. She sounds like a piece of work, and unfortunately there's someone like that at every job, at every church, in every group. But, you didn't take that job for her, and don't lose that job over her. It sounds like you have a lax group of managers that they don't respond to your complaints, but trust and believe they will step in and level their authority once you take matters into your own hands. Don't stoop to her level, but elevate her to yours. Be strong, be patient, and eventually a positive change will take place to remove her as a headache in your life. There will be a promotion, transfer, something, to get her off your back. Actually, you sound pretty funny, maybe one day we can talk and you can come join myself and a sharp female doctor in our business and you won't have to worry about coworkers or bosses. With your sense of humor and your medical background, I think you could do quite well. Good luck to you, and I don't want to see a posting from you asking if anybody knows a good lawyer to represent you for assault (lol) It will get better.
579820
Before you contact a lawyer you should consider doing the ground work.  Have you contacted someone in the Human Resources dept. (if your company has one) or have you made anyone at work aware of the situation?  If you haven't already, start keeping notes concerning when, where and everything about any instance that you consider boss abuse.  You weren't specific as to whether it was physical, verbal or just in general abuse but no matter which one, keep anything that can "prove" your case - pictures, notes, emails, audio recordings.....\n\nThis doesn't exactly answer the question you asked but I thought it might be of some use.
352263
How are you going to sue your boss for being a b-i-t-c-h? Is there some kind of law that says your boss has to be pleasant? I mean I worked for a b-i-t-c-h who tried to get me fired and made my life such a living hell that I still have nightmares. When I went to a lawyer and paid him $450 an hour he told me he couldn't do anything and suggested that I take a photo of my niece in with me for our next meeting so I could stay calm. It worked but it was kind of expensive advice. Nonetheless, I'd love to hear that you called her a b-i-t-c-h and flipped her off! Do it for the both of us!