at first it was being ruled as a suicide, but we buried him in a catholic cemetary.. Our family hasn't received and autopsy report. Eventually my family put it on me alone to go and find out since i was the only one asking questions.  I know it wasn't a suicide becasueI was right next door in a different room under the same roof  the morning he died but no onw knew i was there till after.. I can't even find a police report.. My brothers name is "Pedro Keola Casuga" he died on February 2002 at the age of 23. we are from Hawaii
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The reports you need would have been filed in the state and county that he died in. Any death,to my knowledge that is not by natural causes is a coroner's case.Your first call should be to the coroner's office in the county of which he died.Most coroner's will sit down and talk with you if you have proof of who you are and make an appointment,generally the ones I've spoke with are very nice.The coroner could give you a copy of the death certificate because he or she would have had to do the autopsy and sign the death certificate.They would be able to answer almost any questions you would have or point you to any other office you might need to go to depending on what questions you have.If you have knowledge that this was not a death by natural causes then you would need to tell the coroner and the police.After doing an internet search,I realized that because you are in Hawaii,laws may be different,so I am listing some sites I found that may help you get started.Also you could do your own search.Just type in your search bar on your computer: how to get autopsy report in hawaii then click the search button.You might come up with something different than I did.Also you might want to speak with a lawyer before you speak to anyone else about your legal issue.You did not say which state your brother became deceased in,you just said you were from Hawaii.Just do an internet search,just like I told you above,just at the end of it put which state.So sorry to hear of your loved one's passing.Was glad to help you.
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I'm so sorry to hear this. Well i know how you feel i have gone through 4 loved ones deaths. It will be hard to go through, what i love to do was surround my self with friends and family, and remember the person who just passed on. ITs good to cry, makes you feel better. Sometimes writing can help. but i blive that friends and family around is the best thing, they can cheer you!!! I am praying for you and god bless you all. im so sorry!
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I feel for you deeply, My brother has been like this for 29 years of his life,he has tried to take his own life twice been sectioned once and still the same,he justs exsists really he goes nowhere and has only contact with family! Sorry I cant help you and I hope you find your true self again good luck!
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My Nephew did the ultimate deed, at the young age of 23. He deprived us of the man he would have become. He lived hundred's of miles from us and did not reach out to us about his problems. We put him to rest on April's Fool Day. Suicide is a very selfish act, you leave all the people that love you asking WHY!!!
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Please know that you are in my morning prayers.  I know your pain over your losses seem unbearable, but remember that He is holding you up, and even when you don't feel Him, that is when He is closest!  It took someone else's pain to remind of that this morning and I hope and pray as you grieve your loss that you can keep that thought in your mind.  It was explained to me that we have at least forty thousand thoughts a day, and that if you can keep those thoughts positive, your body and emotion will respond.  What a man thinks in his heart, so is he, right?\n\nMay God help you thru this time, may you keep your eyes toward heaven, may God use your grandchild to bless you for years to come, and may He help you raise her in grace and gratefulness for the opportunity to serve your daughter's memory.  Father, please enable a good report from the Drs to encourage this sister in the Lord thru her trials.  May she see many blessings thru her call for prayer, strentgthen her faith and trust in You as she walks the same path we all must take for your names sake. Amen.
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I am so sorry for the loss of your sister and great grandson. How deeply heartbreaking. I lost my 18 yr. old daughter, Jill, in a car accident on August 2, 2002 and her birthday is coming up on March 14th. I have a memorial site for Jill and it has lots and lots of poems on several of her pages. Some of them are copyright that were written just for me and my daughter and others are not.  You are welcome to visit Jill's memorial site and especially look on her birthday and anniversary pages and you are welcome to highlight and copy them.  As long as they were not written exclusively for me and my daughter, you are welcome to use any of the poems you would like.  If you have any questions, or need further direction on finding poems, please feel free to e-mail me at peggyrose011058@aol.com.  God bless you and my prayers are with you, Peggy (myangeljill)
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im so sorry about your brother. i wish i could answer your questions but i cant :-(. all i can say is just pray night and day i hope you all pull through this and im sure you will.
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My best friend was my sister kay, we were only 18 monthes in age apart. At the age of 21, kay got shot through her heart by her boyfriend. It was over cocaine. She started using in october and by january she was dead. I had made a pact with her when we were young teenagers that if there was anyway to communicate with the dead whoever died first would try. We agreed to sing the song free bird by lynard skinner to the person dead also. Well that memory came back the night she got killed, so the first viewing morning I went to the funeral home early, and was with our best friend that had been in on the pact made. We went up to her casket and we song free bird very low and when we were done, we were both crying of course. We watched and saw nothing. So we left and went outside, the funeral director came out a few minutes later and said that they would have to close the viewing room for awhile. I asked why and he said that there had been a problem, I said what kind of problem, he said this has never happened before and said that her left eye lid had opened up. I said what do you meann, he said they seal them closed with wax. And hers had opened and not only opened but a vien had surfaced, and was quite noticable right under the skin of her eye lid. I know it was her letting me know that she had kept her end of the pact. And that she could and did communicate after she was dead. But its been 25 years ago, and I am still coping with an incrediable empty hole in my heart for my sweet, sweet \nsister. I will see her again though, she's waiting at home for me in heaven..
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Is there something on the other side of death?  Well that is a question will only one way of finding out...I personally believe yes there is and God and my passed loved ones are waiting to greet me when my time comes.  If you are thinking about killing yourself there are plenty of people to talk to.  Please call these people 1-800-273-TALK  or 1-800-273-8255, this is a crisis hotline  that can not only help answer your questions but help you, and talk to you if that is all you want to do.  My brother killed himself and it is not something you want to put your loved ones through, not to mention yourself??
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Have you tried the newspapers that would have had his obituary published within a week of this death?  They usually have a photo.  The local library where you are could help you with some research assistance.  You should also contact the coroners office.  You're lucky because 23 years is not a long time & you should have better luck than most people finding something.  There should be some public record photos that may take a court order to get, like his Drivers Liscense photo.
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I am so sorry to hear about your loss.  Whatever you do - do something.  No matter how insignifcant whatever you do may seem to you at the moment - it will mean more than you can imagine to the family.  They understand the distance in miles associated with this loss.  God bless you and yours at this time!
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was it an open casket service - perhaps you were too young and it is only now starting to come to the surface?\nOr you are just missing him
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In july of 99 I lost my mom to breast cancer and then 5 months after she passed aways my friend committied suicide. I thought losing my mom was hard but it wasn't because I know why she passed but I didn't know and still dont' know why my friend killed himself. Everyday I try to deal with losing him but it's so hard because you never really have the answer to why he did it. It's seem to get harder and harder everyday but I just to remeber he is in peace now. I keep him close to my heart and I never stop thinking about him because I miss him everyday but I remeber all the great times him and I shared. 2 months after his passed I got my first tatto. I got a angel tatto on my right shoulder and i decide to put his name underneath it because I wanted people to know how special he was and also when I feel like I am losing my mind or forgetting him i just look over my shoulder and I his name. You will never get over your friend's suicide but most you will never forget what he did because you are living with the question of why unanswer. If you need to talk to someone email me and I will be here to listen to you.
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Do you or your mother know the date of his death -- or where he may have died?  What about any date of an obit notice?  Does your mother have his Social Security Number (if you received Survivor's Benefits from his death -- she SHOULD have this information).\n\nStart by asking the questions -- and have each of you put your heads together and write down what you know.  Then ... from that point, IF you have the SSN -- you could use the Social Security Death Indices to find information on his date of death -- and from there -- you can track down his death notice through most of the familiar Geneology Sites.
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Really sweet of U bubbly... Gosh.. I wish I had friends like U!! May his family possess all the strength they caould muster...I dont trust in God, but I hope ur friends do recover from this ordeal of theirs.. And Hope is a strong feeling.. Hope, I will.. \nKeep me posted about their condition, if u dont mind please @ y4yogi_dilboy@yahoo.co.uk   \nGood Luck dear...
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My deepest sympathy to you.  My Grandfather committed suicide just before Christmas a few years back.  I rarely discuss it with my family as they do not wish to see it for what it was.  I cannot imagine the horror you feel as it was your own father.\n\nBut, to the question at hand.  God judges the hearts of man.  He alone decides.  Things to consider, did your Dad have a right relationship prior to death?  Was he mentally ill.  Severe depressed?  It is so hard to know what was going through a persons mind before they committed the final tragedy.\n\nPlease look to a church with grief counseling.  Do not add guilt to your already overloaded plate.  Remember God is loving and will make the right decision.  Keep your faith and trust your God and he will be faithful to you and see you through this horrible time.\n\nI will pray for you and your family.
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I'm very sorry about your grandfather's death.  Unless you have some other reason to think so, I wouldn't agonize over whether it's a clue or not.  You may never find a reason.\n\nI've heard of people cutting verses out that they didn't like or didn't understand.  Especially in older generations.  I don't know why your grandfather did.\n\nI can understand you wanting to know answers.  How open is your family to talking about him?  Is there someone who knew him really well that you could ask without fear of hurting them?\n\nIf his death is really recent, you may want to give people some time before bringing them your concerns.\n\nSuicide is usually about feeling hopeless.  It's so sad when people reach that point and don't feel like they can reach out and get help.\n\nPlease don't agonize over this.  Take your grief to God and let Him heal your heart.  He is our hope.  Don't lose sight of Him.\n\nAnd keep your good memories of your grandfather.  His life is more than his final act.