my wedding is in august,we had our first meeting in february,my brides maids have been doing EVERYTHING to help,she hasn't even found a dress yet.everyone says she's jealous,she wants to ruin my day,she doesnt even talk to me anymore to let me know anything and we work together.what should i do?
124994
YES Boot her A$$. This is your once in a lifetime day , why let her ruin it ? Your brides maids are helpful, let one of them be your maid of honor.
276774
Sounds like she is jealous of your natural beauty and your shining personality while she has to dress up like a sl*t to get anyone's attention.\n\nIgnore her... she'll get tired of it if you don't pay her anyt attention.
238486
It depends on the type of person she is, I mean she might just feel guilty. I would be curious as to why he feels the need to come but I would just try to get to know him if you really concerned that he has other intentions. Other wise don't make the bride to be angry it is dangerous! She is under a lot of stress as it is. Congrats
212809
I THINK HE LOVES YOU BUT MAYBE Y'ALL SHOULD JUST POSTPONE THE WEDDING UNTIL MAYBE YOU'LL CAN GET BOTH FAMILY'S TO GET ALONG. MY OPINION THE SHOULD NOT PUT THEIR NOSE IN WHERE IT DON'T BELONG. I COULD UNDERSTAND IF ON OF YOU WAS BEING ABUSIVE TO OTHER. IF YA LL REALLY LOVE EACH OTHER THEN YA LL NEED TO SIT FAMILIES DOWN AND TELL THE THAT Y'ALL ARE GETTING MARRIED ON////// DATE. AND THERE IS NOTHING THEY CAN DO ABOUT IT CAUSE Y'ALL LOVE EACH OTHER AND WANT TO SPEND THE REST OF YALLS LIFE TOGETHER. MAKE SURE YOU REALLY EXPRESS HOW MUCH IT WOULD MEAN TO Y'ALL FOR BOTH SIDES OF THE FAMILY TO BE THERE FOR YAWLS BIG DAY...I DO PRAY FOR Y'ALL, Y'ALL SHOULD PRAY TOGETHER ON THIS SITUATION God DOES ANSWER PRAYERS, IF YOU REALLY OPEN YOUR HEART TO HIM. I HOPE THIS HELPS. GOOD LUCK AND god bless you !!!!!
229778
Your fine. Many get married much younger...and have babies. She is afraid of losing you. Afraid that you will suddenly disappear. It is called empty nest syndrone. Its common really. I imagine I'll get it too when my babies are ready to leave home. \nJust be calm and patient with her. Try not to add fuel to the fire by screaming back at her. One of you has to be the logical thinking one and right now she is running on emotions. Talk to her as much as you can about it and ask her to help plan not only your wedding but the other life arangemets as well. Moving...etc.\nBe calm and try to be happy.\nAnd tell her you love her offten..she really needs to hear it from you right now.
200220
First of all, keep in mind that this is YOUR wedding.  But also be able to compromise too.  Another thing on your wedding day don't stress out, enjoy yourself.  Someone told me while i was planning my own wedding that i shouldn't worry about something going wrong because in the end, not one person would notice except me, cause i planned the wedding.  And you know what i took her advice and my wedding day was perfect, except for a little rain. I enjoyed every minute of that day. So my advice is sure it only happens once in your life but don't make yourself miserable just to please everyone else. IT'S YOUR WEDDING, SO ENJOY IT. CONGRATS!!!!!
634328
How about supporting her? She may realize that she is in over her head. But to keep working at it without the pay may mean that she really believes in what she is doing. You can help her by not being negative and putting her down for her ambitions. She may be helping someone who really needs it. You don't have to agree with her but leave her the right to do it. Money is obviously not she is aiming for. Sit down with her and calmly discuss with her your concerns. Make some concessions and make her feel that she is still worthy of your love. When you argue, hold each others hands. You did it when you first cared for each other. Bring that back to the marriage. Women need to respected for their contributions. She has enough people against her in the world. You need to be her safe place.
608035
I am in a similiar situation.\n\nMy someday soon-to-be sister inlaw is very irritating to me.  She is Very judgemental, opinionated and I wouldnt be surprised if she hates the idea of us someday getting married.  So, needless to say, I really understand your situation.  Now what to do... I will give you the best advice I can, even though I havent yet solved my own situation.   \nFirst of All ~ Always remain focused on your man and on your relationship with him.  He is the one you are with.\nAt family Events ~ Try finding someone else that you can hang out with and/or relate to.  Or, spend extra time in the Kitchen helping with food preps or other busy work.  Be Helpful.  If she is mean to you then she will look like a real loser.  You will look great cooking, helping etc.\nHope these tips help.  Best wishes to you.  Be yourself I am sure that is good enough.  OH & don't worry too much, most of what we worry about never actually Happens!!!
32858
Chances are, She has self esteem issues. She is jealous of you. She is not happy in her own life. Don't let it bother you. Stay true to yourself, you can't fix her probs.
619029
The Bride is the BOSS at the wedding.\n\nIt's her day... what she says goes... \n\nIf she doesn't want Bridesmaids... done.  Next question?\n\nOh yeah... there IS ONE?\n\nHave them give a toast at the reception... or help with the carving of the cake or something... or just let them enjoy the ceremony as a GUEST.
447767
First - you are making the right decision - your bridesmaids will be your support system so they need tobe people you are close to and comfortable with.\n\nNow - actually telling her is the tricky part. I like the first suggestion made - telling her by not telling her, lol. First, fidn something else she can do/be in charge of - then tell her you would be honored if she would.......  This way, while you are telling ehr she isn't a bridesmaid, you are doing it without making her feel excluded. As the first girl said - just leave bridesmaid totally out of the conversation.\n\nP.S. HUGE props to you for thinking about her feelings. Most brides are so caught up in the "all about me" attitude that they just make decisions and think about how they may be effecting others once it is to late. It is great that you have taken the time to care about how she will feel:) Just don't let her happiness become the reason your wedding day is compromised either. Sometimes, the right thing is a very fine line between two wrong things, lol.
640822
I would avoid her and keep out of site, but still be in the wedding.  After that, dump her as a friend.  She is obviously VERY immature and if you aren't enjoying it, or her company, why keep her as a friend?
582279
Wow, you're screwed.  It's her best friend, right?  That's doghouse for a long, long, long time, pal.   You gotta miss the game.  Rarely would I ever suggest dumping a game over a wedding, but you got no choice in this one...unless you want to be in pain for a long time.
140825
Sounds like she want you to take her slack.  She needs to work the overtime.  You did right!!!  She sounds jealous of you.  Just ignore her and keep up the good work!
130277
Wow! I am kind of in the same situation and the only advice I can give is to take care of yourself first. I can see how there may be disappointment but if you can't go then you can't go. Best friends, even just good friends, should be able to understand something like that. Maybe she just needs a few days to get over it and then she will be ok. If you have explained the situation to her, and apologized, then that is really all you can do. You can't jeopardize a dream job and your livelihood for one day at a wedding. You can be there in heart, but don't risk it with a new job. People can go downhill fast if they lose even a week of work. The best thing to do is take care of yourself first. You won't be much good at a wedding if you are worried about your own personal issues, and employment is what enables people to be able to survive in most issues. Good Luck!
652641
I have just helped plan a few weddings and most of them just had a maid of honor or a maid of honor plus two bridesmaids. It most had to do with cost for the wedding. Even when you have the bridesmaids paying for their own dress you just have lots of little cost to add in to having more. Also its just easier having fewer people to get together to find dresses everyone looks good in.  Best Wishes.
675052
this is YOUR wedding not theirs. tell them how you feel, calmly with out being forceful about it. let them know your feelings are being hurt because they are controling what is supose to be YOUR day.