i am 14 and a freshman in a catholic highschool, i want a girlfriend but i am kinda not very popular the most popular kid hates me and he has influence and i think he has told everyone not to like me, i think i could kick his a** but i dont want to get expelled (i will from this school) he makes fun of me and im pissed at him i really want to kick his a** but i cant so i need some advice how to "win" this little "game" without violance but back to the girlfriend part okay there is no one girl in perticular but i can choose who i wanna go for so i need help with the popular kid who dont like me, he is a freshman and i also need help getting started in the magical world of dating
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ok, this is not the end of the world. here's where you play the little game called "He who cares the least" .  Just ignore him and act like you dont care, it'll tick him off so bad, the look of frustration on his face is better than whipping his behind.  The girls will come, ur only 14 u have a LONG time to go.
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Maybe wait for her after school, just not to be seen by other people - that will be just.. more nice... And do not be so straight. Talk to her, be nice, look inteligent;) And remember about niuances.... We, girls, are not like you - you need to be told everything clearly and easily, cause you have problems with getting;)
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If you still really like her, let her know how you feel.\nTell her that you think it was wrong of you to not want everyone to know, & that if everyone knows, well, then, so be it.\n\nBut don't try to be with her just for the sake of being with her. Because I can tell that you're worried that you've only had one girlfriend. \nBut that's okay that you haven't had many. Sometimes single is the best thing.\n& you're only 13,  there's plenty more time for you to find yourself a nice girlfriend.\nJust because you only kissed a girl once isn't anything bad, either. So don't worry about it.\nYou're still young.
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Hi sweetie.  Good for you for recognizing this stuff about yourself at such a young age.  The most important advice you can keep is - remember to be kind to yourself.\n\nYou're not a whore, and your not a geek.  Instead of chucking guys and focusing totally on school, why not just cut back and be really selective about which guys to date?  Say no to the jerks, say yes to one you normally wouldn't, and say "good job" to yourself for every good thing you do.\n\nBut remember to forgive yourself for your mistakes. Everybody makes them. Many worse than yours. \n\nI'm not a religious freak - I just strongly believe in self-redemption.  The alternative is too destructive.\n\nSmile - your best friend is you!
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Here's the BEST advice you'll ever get. The most POPULAR people, both male and female, are NOT always the BEST ones PERIOD, or the best for YOU. Sometimes they ARE, but don't count on it. Don't wish for things too hard, you might GET them.\n\nOther than that, just be yourself, try to stay well-groomed, literate, well informed,  be nice, smile and let things happen as they WILL. If HE's interested and has ANY brains at all,  he will let you know. If he's SMART, he will soon recognize that you ARE being yourself instead of just being 'popular', that you are literate, and that you take care of yourself, stay informed, and seem to be  nice and pleasant.\nGet it?
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i would say 'see ya later' and go on with my life. i know it must be hard since you have liked him since the 5th grade but if he doesn't want a girlfriend at this moment, don't wait for something that may never come.\n\njust go on with your life and don't be afraid to meet other guys. you never know, you might meet someone who wants to be with you?
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Try and spend more time getting to know yourself. What makes you happy. Be comfortable with yourself, school is one big popularity contest, don't buy into it. Spend more time making yourself happy than worrying about guys. It's not who you love, but who loves you.
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8th grade, huh?  That makes you about 12 or 13.  Hmm, I can give you an answer from the standpoint of someone about 10 yrs older...but I don't think that's what you really want.  To be brief and to the point, find a guy you like and want to be with because of who he is and not because you want ppl to envy you and your boyfriend.  If you do like I say, ppl will envy you because you're with someone you want to be with because of who he is and what you'll have together.  If that doesn't make someone envy you then I'm as far removed from the human race as humans are to ants.  Btw, don't flaunt someone like you're talking about...you'll quickly find that you don't have that person for very long if he's really a nice guy.
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read this http://www.stwing.upenn.edu/~jenf/writing/rant04.html girls will eventuall grow out of that, im in your exact position, you may not have a girlfriend but in the long run, you will be a winner on it. I hate how it is but thats how the world is, have you tried to ask someone out? even to just a group outing (don't call it a date), or if your in hs, have you asked a girl to a dance? the girls always like nice guys, but they usually take us for granted, as there and someone to talk to. all i can say is try what i said above read the stuff on that site and be confident. best of luck\ncontact me if you have anymore questions, maybe i can be a bit more helpful since im where you are
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show me the book that defines the "normal" boyfriend/girlfriend stuff, then i'll tell you what you're doing wrong....\n\nno such thing girl. follow your morals, listen to your parents, make your own judgement. the last thing you need to worry about is PEER pressure.
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Sticky situation. But u have to decide whether u would want her to be your Girlfriend or just a 'Friend'. u have something to lose both ways. If she accepts you will gain a Girlfriend but will lose a friend (confusing as it seems, its true; somehow girlfriends are not like ur friends, believe me I know!)and if u don't u will feel having lost out on a important and beautiful relationship. Or even otherwise it could all go down.\nIf u do want to tell her, take her out on a walk/stroll around the neighbourhood/park/whatever and tell her about ur feelings in straight terms, use something romantic if u have to. Do whatever, but don't come on too strong, otherwise she'll do a rethink. And do it before the other guy does!\n\nOne more thing, if she does really love you, its not because  you are popular, she would still love you if you were the dork of the class!
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try to develop a friendship first and a relationship later!! sorry to say but when guys ((and girls) go to high school ((or any other school)) they don't usally like dating someone younger!
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Take some time to yourself.\n\nYou need a breathe of fresh air. A popular girl like you needs to have a chance to think before she decides.\n\nGive it a couple of days alone and see where your feelings go. I would go with the person who actually respects your desicion to be alone for a while... he's the one worth keeping. But the choice is really up to you.
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She sounds like a real jerk\n\nAre you SURE you even want to bother with her?\n\nHere's a suggestion - find another girl to talk to. Either one of two things will probably happen - maybe that second girl will actually like you, or the first girl will get jealous that you're not paying attention to her, and she'll start being nice to you.\n\nIf your lucky, BOTH girls will be into you - and you can have your pick!!!
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Just be yourself like I am.One day this guy asked me out and i said no after that all the guys started paying attention to me and now i'm in high school they are still think i'm atractive even the people i'm not friends with.good luck and remember be yourself.
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I am indeed sorry to tell you but in seeing the level of maturity you are at you can expect it to be awhile before boys catch up.\n\nSome never do. But the ones worth your time will not truly be mature enough to handle you until well after high school.\n\nNow let me say this. You are only in the 8th grade. You have a long time ahead of you before this really should even be something you worry about. I know you have now discovered boys. And some have discovered girls at your age but there is so much to know about relationships that it will take time.\n\nNever ever jump into any relationship because your lonely. I know....easy to say hard to do.....but it is very true.\nThere is a saying that best describes what I am saying.\n\n"How bad do you want it....the worse you want it the worse you will get it."\n\nTruer words were never spoken.\nYou sound like a intelligent girl. You know what is right and what is wrong. \n\nOnce you are in high school you may find guys are almost reasonable. But you have to watch out. The jerks are a bit harder to spot until it's too late. \n\nJust hang in there. There will be dates in your future and you will be glad you are as smart as you are.
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No worries.  I'm a junior and never have really had a boyfriend for a long period of time.  I see it as it being a big mess.  You don't need to have to worry about someone else at this age.  That's what we have the rest of our life for.  Go out, flirt a little, have a few good hook ups, and moslty, just enjoy you being single and having an awesome time in high school.