my friends and family all think they know me really well. they tell other people, how she's just this, or she doesn't like that. it's really hard. plus my friend can be really insensitive. especailly about weight. she's really small boned tall and skinny. i'm the opposite. help! i really like her most of the time, but no one knows how i'm feeling!
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tell them is the best way just say hey my tastes are changing and some things i dont like that much anymore
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She has a good friend. You're kind of in an awckward position to help an overweight friend. If you try to help her to get thinner, she might end up resenting you because she'll think you don't like her.\nRemember that being fat is not a body problem, it's an emotional problem. What you can help her the most is in raising her self-esteem while she remains fat. Tell her "it's Ok to be fat". Well, not in those words. Say "don't worry about what people say, people are very judgmental, and they don't understand that women have issues". Tell her "I don't think you hate your body because you're overweight, I think you have had emotions you haven't resolved yet". That sounds like psychobabble but it's pretty close to reality. You can probably find a better way to say it.\nIf you're just wishing she was thinner, and she's bringing you down emotionally, you need to think of yourself first, also. You might get to a point where you can't take it, and that is OK, you can take a break too.
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It sounds like they want a response from you or maybe they want to make you feel bad about your weight. \nYou should try to talk to them about this and let them know how you feel. If they don't try to change, I'd work on finding some new friends. Friends should never upset you and hurt your feelings on purpose!
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To tell you the truth I have a bunch of friends, but I never tell them any of my secrets and I don't enjoy my self around them that much because I don't believe they are really true friends. I can just see it in their eyes that they are just taking me for granted. I also dont like them because they are so mean to others. I mean just because a person is different doesn't mean your better than them. I had one true friend of the opposite gender, but now they are gone. So a little tip from me: don't trust all your friends. Look deep inside them and see who they really are. And show them your true self to see if they like you or not. Once you've found a true friend then spend good times with them.
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not everyone is, you probably just feel that way. I was skinny all my life till about 2 years ago, and it doesn't bother me. If it bothers other people i don't care, they are not involved in my life and know nothing about me. You shouldn't worry about what other people say.
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You are who you are. Accept it. All you can do is ask your friend to do the same. You do NOT change urself for others unless you FEEL that something is wrong with you. As long as you are happy being who you are, it is good enough. So your friend teases you, tell her to accept you as you are. If she STILL teases you, make light of it and join the fun. Its not bad if you laugh at yourself. But make sure your friends know the limits, that is all. And I think you can trust this, because this comes from a guy who gets teased EVERYDAY for one thing or the other and NEVER have I tried to change myself unless I felt some part of me was bad.
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even if they don't admit it everyone cares about what other people think. I personally are just like you i am very worried about what every one thinks of me and i try to even sometimes to pretend to be something i am not just to feel like i fit in . i hope you grow confidence and become happy with you and what people think of you GOOD LUCK! P.S if it helps you sound like a great person to me.
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Dear Rebecca,\n           Take heart and know that you are not alone in your struggle with depression. I have the same problem too and understand how you feel. Please know that you are okay and sound like a very likable young girl. If your "friend" can't accept you with your problems as you are, then I'd say she isn't much of a friend and perhaps you should try for other friends who will appreciate you for all that you are. I am sorry that you have to be hurt this way and my thoughts go with you but also realize that there are people who really will like you as you, Rebecca! Take care of yourself and stay sweet!
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Well, I can sympathize... because I have been "walked over" by many friends.  I'm smart, academically speaking, and have made many friends who feel it is my duty to tutor and provide them the answers and help on all their papers.  Or friends who only call when they need something.  This is why I only have 1 real friend, and my husband.  It took a while to realize that people are shadey, and you can't always trust them.  Hard lesson learned.  Now I evaluate every relationship, asking "Am I getting out of this relationship what I am putting in?" and if I am putting in too much energy... and not recieving any of that energy back, then you really have to evaluate if it's worth it..
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If she's not acting exactly warm and fuzzy towards you when she's with her friends, then that almost definitely means she feels pressure from them. Maybe they don't like -your- friends/reputation, myabe they feel you aren't good enough for her or maybe they're just plain jealous.\n\nThe fact that she's touchy-feely when alone with you means she probly does dig you... but the fact that she doesn't 'own' you in front of her friends is troubling.\n\nYou need to ask her point-blank how she feels about you, if she's serious. If she says she is, but then goes on with this mixed-messages crap, I say lose her and lose her quick.\n\nHowever... there is a difference between a couple of close girl friends venting to eachother in a serious round of private girl talk, and the queen witch grilling you in front of a live audience. It sounds like it's safe to say she's crossed that line, though.
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I think your friend has self esteem issues. She's probably just looking for attention, so try talking to her and trying to get to the root of the problem of why she feels like she's helpless or 'pathetic'. If you take an interest in her it's better than one sharp line to make her feel better once. You can't always keep milking that catch phrase if you will, to make her feel better every time, after a while it will go stale and you'll need something else.
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nah, shes probably a snob and thinks shes better than you. some people are like that. i've had people take an instant dislike to me for no reason.  how does everyone else treat you? if they like you loads and genuinely take interest in you then she may be jealous.
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Honey, be yourself. I am also over weight and I consider myself a Diva among Divas and I carry myself that way. I let my personality speak for my self. People who are turned off because of your weight have low self esteem. Your weight has not direct bearing on who you are as a person and what kind of friend you will be. You are still the same inside big or skinny.
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i wuld be real honest with her but also remember to be kind.it's alot harder to do then say i know.i am in a similar situation & it's never easy when it comes to ur friends.it culd be that ur friend is having a hard time & need sometime right now.she knows ur there & that's good.that's what friendship is.\ntake care,\nang w.
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I think you should go talk to a your guidance counsaler about  this....tell them exactly what you just said in this question....tell them how you feel and try confronting your friend and find out what she thinks.....but make sure you tell whomever really quickly it might be serious....just say i have this friend who seems like shes not eating well has had excesive weight loss and etc....dotn be scared your doing the right thing.
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Figure out what insecurity is within you that makes you worry so much about somebody else. And if it's just a distaste for this person, be honest about it and she'll go away. A little hurt feelings is a lot more efficient than suffering through something because you're uncomfortable. And she'll get over it.
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Yes, that can be an annoying problem.  It sounds like your friend may have some insecurity problems and feels people will only like them if they like the same things.  Your friend should learn to like what they like for themselves.