He is 26 I am 29 and his parents sadly dislike the fact I am American. They have not met me yet and are basing their views simply on where I am from. They have threatened to disown him if he should choose to marry me. I hope it is just initial shock since this isnt exactly what they wanted for their son, however we are very much in love and know that this is what we both want..if there is such a thing as soulmates, we are that to each other. Will they soften with time once they realize we are truly in love and will they come to accept me or choose to lose their son if he decides to stay with me or cause him hurt and pain if he abides by their wishes?
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do his parents live in lebanon? do you two plan to stay here if you get married? it's unlikely that his parents will change their minds. and i bet if you two marry he'll want to go back there, or at least have long visits there. it smells fishy to me. his parents are probably deep-rooted in their opinions; meeting you will be unlikely a mind-changing experience. be careful. it also depends on how long you've been dating. please tell me it's been over 2 yrs at least.
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Probably because he truly cares for you!  Just because you're meeting his parents doesn't mean you two are getting married.  \n\nThat being said, if you are uncomfortable with the idea, you should tell him, and if he cares about you at all he should respect your feelings.
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you are only 19,just because he does'nt want you moving in does not mean that he is not in love.you have only been togeather for 8 months it's far to early,just carry on doing what you are doing and not tell your parents,and why do your parents not like him?.it can be done i was only with my partner for 8 months and 12 year on were still togeather,but im only one of the lucky few as not very often you hear relationships would survive that.
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does she love him? maybe her motive is not to make him an american. either way it's her decision and if you truely love her you'd back off and respect it. I'm sure you wouldn't want her disowning you because you married someone she didn't approve. \n\nYou might just be hung up over the fact that she and your father are not together anymore and her marrying someone else illegal or legal is a permant way of dashing your hope of them ever getting back together.\n\nyour mother is a woman. let her make her own descions.
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Just bring him over sometime and let them meet him and talk with him.  That way they have the experience of at least having met him first.\n\nBe prepared to talk about it later with them, and address any questions patiently and honestly.  Hopefully, his personality will win them over enough that age won't be a big issue.\n\nI understand it as a parent ... but have also been there ... my daughter dated a 30 yr old when she was 18, and her current boyfriend, live-in, with whome she has a baby, is 37 (she is 23 now).  I can't say much, her father was 14 years my senior, and my current husband is 13 years older than I am.\n\nGive your family a chance.  Maybe it won't be as big a deal as you anticipate.  Also, if they do bring up potential issues, don't just dismiss them out of hand, but consider them first.  Its always good to think things through, even if the conclusion is the same.
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Your parents are correct in some of their thoughts, being a parent I understand what they are saying to you.  Now being a young parent, I remember what it was like when I was your age and your thoughts and feelings as well.  So I will give you advice based on what my past, similar to yours, has taught me and what I have learned.  You feel that you are truly in love with him and I believe that feeling is valid.  However, the love you feel and the person you choose to be with when you are 15 is much different than the person you will choose or feel to be with when you are 21 and yet again 27.  So understand as much as you love him, he is not sounding as though he would be the best person for you.  He has relationship issues, and not sure but obviously has done something that is not in the best interest or he wouldn't be under house arrest.  There is a huge age difference between 15 and 18.  3 years is not a big difference when you are older, but it is when you are younger.  You at 15 should be happy, living life to the fullest, not worrying so much about things of this nature.  Relationships all have their ups and downs and people who really are committed yes work through them, but relationships also shouldn't be a fight to be together, meaning they shouldn't always be work.  Now maybe you feel yours isn't but if it isn't now, it seems to be going in that direction.  Try, just try, taking your parents advice and back off for a bit.  Yes it will hurt and take some time, so don't think you should be happy immediately, but after some time, for everyone it is different, weeks, months, you may find you are happier with someone closer to your own age and without all of the relationship difficulties you are experiencing now.  Parents don't try to do or say things to hurt their child, they try to give you advice based on their wisdom, which comes from their experiences.  I wish you the best of luck as I don't think you will take this advice as to the extent of your love for this boy, however you may look back upon it and think, hmmm....  Gook luck to you whatever you decide to do.
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What? The parents are not ready juz bcoz of their horoscope didn't match? wooow...what a reason.\n\nwell...if they both are in love and ready to take any responsibility and risk by getting marry, then do it.\n\nit is true, they'll end up with 2 question only, get marry or be gone.\n\nthey are mature enough to do it by them selves, sooner or later, parents will understand and starting to accept it step by step.\n\njust pursue what you both think is the best.\n\none of the reason why they don;t get  marry it's bcoz it is not the time yet.\n\nencourage your self to dare to take the decision, don't thibk too much by thinking only.
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that happend to me..mine is an arabic construction worker so they accused him of wanting to marry me for his papers (which he had before he knew me) and he would beat me, make me cover my body, all this crazy stuff.... u guys have true love like me and him we stuck it out and got married and are so happy now my parents still dont approve..they like him cuz he treats me like a princess but they cant get past his ethnic background and what they believe all foreign ppl are like..it sucks but if u guys truly love each other i know u can make it..it sounds like u have what it takes..just stick to ur guns and dont let them change ur opinion of him.
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I was once in your shoes.  I met a guy at college, I was 19.  He transferred schools and lived in Florida, so it was about 800 miles away from me.  We had a long distance relationship and my parents were not happy about it.  I was upset at them for trying to "control" my life, but now I'm 24 and married...and not to the long distance boy either!  Looking back, they knew what they were talking about, what they were doing and I was rebellious and immature.\n\nLong distance relationships are different.  You don't see each other on a regular basis, so you don't interact as you would in a typical relationship.  It's so easy to treat someone with respect and treat them like royalty when they are not always at your side.  You won't know if you'll tire of them or get annoyed by their presence because you don't see each other as much.  Each meeting is romanticised and not reality because it's few and far between.\n\nAlso, not everyone gets jealous and causes arguements.  Jealousy is a trait reflective of lack of trust and insecurity.\n\nAnd as far as your parents go, yes, you are 18 and legally an adult.  Why go so far as to go against their wishes and upset them?  Sure you don't need them legally because you can get a job and support yourself, but think about this... Your parents are your parents, and will always be no matter what you say or do.  But this guy may or may not be in your life 10 years down the road.\n\nI say take it slow.  If this guy really cares about you and perhaps wants to marry you, when he can he should get a job near you to see you more often and see if you two work well together.\n\nTake is slow.  You are young and have so much life ahead of you.  (I am young too, and I married young, but I'm glad I dodged that long distance bullet!)
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He sounds like an upstanding guy. Why would your parents be mad? Is it just the age difference? I say tell your parents everything. The may like him they may not. But you are now 18 so you can make your own decisions on who you date.
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If  man loves YOU, he will accept YOUR child(ren) as well. Y'all ARE a package deal, right. Some men are family men and would rather be a part of a family unit. Sometimes the step father can be a better role model, influence, teacher, etc. than the biological father. Maybe you and him could have a child together to "complete" the family unit.\n\nMy  ex-husband adopted my oldest son at 3 years old, he was a much better father than his biological father could even dream of being. When my ex died almost 4 years ago from lung cancer, we were at the funeral home, I got word that my son's biological father was on his way up to pay his last respects, I was freaking out thinking it would cause issues within the family. So, I asked my son how he felt about his donor coming up, I reassured my son that he had the last word (my son was almost 17) and if he was uncomfy to let me know and I would ask him (his donor) to leave. My son said to me "Billy can come here if he wants, he's not my dad, my dad is inside in the casket". \n\nMy boyfriend and I have only been together about 5 month's now. He's wonderful with my son's. Often, I pay attention to the way he interacts with my kid's and it amazes me that he's better with my youngest son than his own father was prior to his death (suicide).\n\nSo my point is, sometimes it's the greatest thing to have another parent to love our children.\n\nGood luck!!\n\nPS\nIf you plan to build a life with this man, you MUST teach your child(ren) that the step parent IS to be respected and don't allow your kid(s) to tell your man "your not my dad" when they are in trouble.
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My parents were the same way when I dated outside my race and I didn't understand it, I was happy and they were ruining everything.  I think if you are happy with him then be with him regardless of what your parents say (I did).  They will try everything to prevent you from seeing him but in this situation they are kinda being selfish and racist at the same time.  There's nothing wrong with interracial dating (now-a-days).  Good luck with your parents accepting your happiness.
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have you told your boyfriend how you feel? maybe yu should and see what he says, or see if he will ask his parents and sister what they think of you. there has got to be  a reason, unles they are just really protective over their son?But i would go, dont let his family stop you from being with him.it is his family, they will always be a part of his life. good luck whatever you decide to do :)
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WELL I BELEIVE YOUR SON WILL GROW UP LOVING YOU AND HIS FATHER, BECAUSE THAT IS THE FAMILY HE KNOWS AND IS BLESSED WITH. ALL CHILDREN GROWN OR NOT LOOSE THERE PARENTS...AND MISS THEM OR WANT MORE TIME. BUT HE HAS HIS OLDER BROTHERS AND SISTER, AND HIS MOM, AND FAMILY TO HELP HIM. HE WILL GROW UP LOVED. AND YES ITS SO TOTALLY WEIRD TO BE INTO OLDER MEN. EWWW
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This could be the first reaction of the parents. Falling in love is no crime. What parents have on top of their mind is their child's well being. You should explain to them everything, listen to their point of view patiently, arrange meetings of your parents with your would be and let the parents see for themselves whether it is a match or mismatch. \n\nIf you are confident about your choice, you may go ahead with full responsibilty on yourself, after all it is your life and some day you need to learn and start taking your own decisions youself. But this would never be misuse of faith of parents, or any dis-respect or no love for them.\n\nGoing a little furhter, as the life is unpredictable, time will definitely give answers but don't ever get disappointed from life as it can only be termed as an error of judgement if anything goes wrong, take it as an opportunity to learn from the school of life.\n\nStill, without loosing patience try talking to your parents and make them understand, at the same time respect their experience and knowledge; and analyse and adopt their rightful advice for your good. \n\nTake care.
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First of all, your age matters. I didn't see your age, but assuming that you are of age, 19 +, you just have to set the record straight.\nI married my sweetheart when I was 20, and we have had our problems, but we have never once regretted what we did. We love each other, and now our parents accept it.\nOf course, when we first got together, our parents were the same. We ended up having a huge fallout, and we both told our parents that with or without their blessings, we were going to have our own successes and failures, and we would like their support, but that is all. If we fail, be there, if we succeed, please congratulate us. Most of all be happy, if you can't we don't need you running our lives, as when we were younger. Thank them for their love and concern, but they must allow you, as they did, fail or succeed on your own.\nAll is well now, we all get along well, it just takes time for the relationship, on all levels, to mature. Of course, proving that you are capable to take care of yourself also requires you standing on your own, and not going running to Mommy and Daddy for a handout. It's a two edged sword, but it's worth it. Growing up sucks, but we all have to do it, physically. Some of us mentally grow up, others never do, you just have to figure out which one you are going to do, you can't have it both ways!\nGood luck!
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show them that he is a good person and how well he treats you, thats really all you can do, maybe if they see those sides to him they will lessen up on the issue alittle bit and not judge him by the color of his skin, but by his character and as an individual, if not then remember that you will always love your parents and will want them to accept whatever life choices you make, but they wont always like what you choose and it is afterall your life and you and you alone have to account for your own happiness....*good luck*