my wife became verry ill i was forced to stay home to care for her and my 2 crildren being unable to work we are being forced to move and have no meens to do so i dont know where to turn
126501
Go to Social Services, Salvation Army,and Churches to see if they can help you out. I take it you need rent assistance to find a new place or stay in the place you are in. These resources may help you. Good Luck.
37315
Call your local police department and ask them to help you get to a shelter for battered women. There, in most cases, you can stay until you find a job and a place to live. A lot of them provide job training and assist in job placement. I wish I could do more for you but at least this is a start. God speead. Oh, and the shelter is in a secret place where your husband cannot find you.
649127
first of all contact ssi and explain the what is happening and see what they can do also ask the legal dept at the hosptial social services see what they can do to help. I hope things get better and you are in my prayers.
236788
your local hospital can provide you with the support groups in your area and there are also extension groups from there that you can get closer contacts with for one-on-one support.  sometimes your need a confidant.  this is a devastating experience and you need somebody to talk to. \ngood luck and you are in my prayers.
661022
She hasn't grown up yet, and you have.   If you can handle her, then stick to your plan, save your money and get out of there.  \n\nShe isn't going to change.  She will always want her husband to put her and her family first.  You are getting in the way of that just by being around.   \n\nDon't stop helping and paying for your part of things, this will help you to be able to walk away later not feeling like you owe her anything.   \n\nIf you can, plan to be out of the house or sleeping as much as possible when she is going to be home.  \n\nI hope that this helps.  I understand how hard it can be.  Best of luck.
316519
Give her some time....she's TIRED! She has been doing a lot, and needs a vacation. After she has had a few days rest, she will see that you are a good husband, and father. Then she will come back home. In the meantime, you need to do more for her when she does come back, so plan what you're going to do to help her. Help her pull her heavy load! I have a saying, and although it's 'country", it applies perfectly here: "Two mules pull this wagon!" Help her pull more!! Good Luck!!
296833
I agree with ringshank.  There is NO REASON you should have to be living in that condition.  I would call the Health Department or find out who you can call to report the conditions.  Chances are you're not the only one sick.
630198
You poor thing. Have you called a lawyer? Remember most lawyers will answer your first question over the phone free. I do not think that you would have to leave. Because of not being able to make house payments, you may have to find another place to live.\nContact the H.U.D. agency. Since you are homeless, they will have to put you at the top of their list.  Get a list of government housings from H.u.D.  Put a full tank of gas in the car, take the children to grandma's and go put your application in at every government subsidized apartment complex that looks safe. \nThe Salvation Arny and agencies who help the homeless may help to pay your rent. You may have to do the degrading thing and apply for state assistance. They may put you in for emergency help. \nLook up social services  and social service agencies in the yellow pages. Call as many of these agencies as you can even those who you do not think can help you, just call. \nYou are not alone. If you can find support groups in your weekly shoppers guide or newspaper, call and go to those. you may even consider the program for relatives of alcoholics - ala non?, \nYou need so much in so many ways. You must seek God and put you and your children's lives in His hands.
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doesn't your wife get some coverage under disabilty?  CHeck with your local gov. assistance.  What about her old job.  THey should have information on disability like social security.\n\nalso, you should try to consolidate your bills, and if you haven't *but im sure you have* list all of your expenses and see what can be eliminated and where you can spend less...electric *use less, by turning off unused things*, heating *lowering thermostat*, I know its a pain, but maybe even consider a credit counselor, if you cannot consolidate your debt without help.  Good luck.
561883
what about going to your church and if they cant help maybe they can lead you in the right direction to get help. I understand the hard times as I have had my share but some how it always worked out.  Good Luck
610308
You should contact a free legal aide lawyer in your county. They  are free and if I knew where you lived (county/city) I could provide you with some links. That would be the first step. Also, sometimes the hardest things to do are the right things to do.\n\nGood luck
568060
Go into a hospital tell them your situation, they will direct you from there.
646401
Do you remember your wedding vows in sickness and in health? You know if my spouse wasnt taking care of me and showing the love and support I needed I might just pack my things and say ADIOS! I mean given you need help if your mother is there to help you then take what you can get. If she isnt being a wife or partner at all then what is the marriage about? Sounds like a house full of misery to me. Thats the last thing you need you need some love and support regardless of the mistakes youve made. If she cant trust you or get over the things that happened maybe you guys should get some help with your marriage. Otherwise if she cant get over it, I think she isnt going to change how she feels and maybe the marriage is over. I think if I was sick with cancer Id want positive things in my life and if someone is dragging me down Id either talk to them about it and work it out or like I said if that doesnt work and youve exhausted other options, stay with your mom. You need positive reinforcement right now to help you get through. Good luck.
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My heart goes out to you and your family. I've been married to the same wonderful man for thirty-one years. Twice prior to my knowing him he tried to kill himself. Since we have been together he has made 4 more attempts on his life. I don't know where you are from but most places have mental health assocations. They can help you to understand medications, patiants rights. For my husband I am his health care rep. when he can't speak-up for himself I have the legal right to do this . I got him to give me power of attorney so I can deal with his disabilty money and all the red tape that goes along with it. Your Mom's illness if she does have Bi-polar suicide is attempts can be a part of her illness. It is a long hard road and you need to seek help yourself so you can stay healthy enough to be an assistance in getting her the help she needs. There are support groups for families going thru what we both are. When my husband gets what I call imbalanced with his medicine it takes me giving him his meds. because he gets confused about days and times to take them. As we both turn 50 this year it seems like second nature to us to deal with his illness. His last attempt to take his life was last November. He was missing for 2days before he was found in a coma in our truck at a reststop we use to stop at a lot. It was very sad, I still am seeing a counslor myself to deal with learning who I am outside of his illness. Be careful not to become so involed you stop living like I have at times
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Alot of unanswered questions. If she did not work you may have to give her someting. If you can not afford a lawyer call legal aid. Find out what she is expecting from you. Each state is different so no matter what anyone says you need to find out the law in your state and what she wants.\nGood Luck.
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If i were you I would call the hospital and talk to someone in patient accounts. i had a friend who was told they had a brain anurism (sp?) and they shipped him to another hospital etc etc and racked up alot of bills and the wife called and ended up they didnt have to pay it. Chances are you will have to pay for the first one though, it was part of your treatment.
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I know this sounds bad but you need to go to your local department of scoial services. You need medical assistance NOW. It may be a lot of paperwork but providing you with the appropriate medical care and support to get you well to hold a good job is what you need right now.