a husband doesn't tell the truth, no time to communicate, making himself busy to avoid talking to his wife, not doing the usual things..like kissing before sleeping, holding hands, kissing when leaving or coming, sending nice messages, making scapegoats when asked, no more intimate moments, the last time was almost 6months ago and he was not arouse, it ended up as nothing..he couldn't do it till the end. Does this mean he doesn't love me at all?
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i hate to say it but these are all signs that something is wrong and you definitely need to get it out in the open and talk about it.
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Not making love for over 2 months is not normal behavior.  Feeling anger about it is justified but not healthy behavior.\n\nTalk to your husband.  Find out the cause of why you two haven't made love in 2 months.  Let him know you feel resentment about it.  Later on you can worry about how to spice things up.\n\nSuggest counseling or seeing your pastor/priest/spiritual leader.\n\nGood luck!
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Am sorry to say so,but it seems he's not very much in love with you (even if he says that he is) if he loves you,he would create time for you ...no words such as "busy"when it comes to a loved one...consider breaking up with him,and see how does he react...if he freaked and changed his way with you,give him another chance ,if not...then you find yourself someone as sweet as you are...you deserve much more than phone chatting.BTW if caring didn't come from deep inside of him,you wouldn't be able to MAKE him care.
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I don't understand how married people can live in the same house and sleep in the same bed and not be able to talk.  \n\nAsk him !!!  And don't always look for the problem to be with you even if he says that it is  you.  We are always looking to blame others for our wrongs or short comings.  So ask !  And he may not be truthful at first because he maybe hiding something.\n\nBest of luck.
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How can you love someone that you know is willing to be unfaithful to his wife?  Most likely he was only using you to fill a void that might not being answered by his wife or he just is a player that got married and you are just another play thing.  Either way bad choice.
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after 19 yrs of marriage i can say fron a man point of view that he has a lot on his mind and it may have also to do with something you've said or done to him. but he'll hold it in and not let you in in order not to be hurt anymore. it's like closeing off his heart so he wont be hurt any more. if it's not you then it's something someone else has done to him. but unless you get him to open up it will be a dead relationship. what my wife and i do when the other cant seem to talk to us , IS WRITE A LETTER! TELLING THE PERSON WHAT YOU FEEL ,AND MISS ABOUT THEM, AND WHY AND HOW IT MAKE YOU FEEL. HE CANT RUN FROM A LETTER OR ARGUE WITH IT GOOD LUCK!!! you dont just just let go you. figure what caused the reason to hurt and not repeat them. both spouses hurt each other. but when you look at the situation you look at it from your point of view. counseling allows you to hear his side if he talks. then you get a better understanding of som of the harm you might have done also!!!Good luck daddysr2003
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Not the same.  I love my wife and will do anythign for her however there are days and times during the day when we do not particularly "like" each other.  IT does nto mean we still do not have deep feelings of commitment and love- it means at this moment the relationship is not what it could be.  My wife once gave me a note after an argument  " I don't like You right now, Love me"
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He likes his bottle of booze or beer which ever .....and that's as far as he can see. It's time for you to leave because for him it's over. There are men out there just wanting and waiting to find love, lovers what have you. You don't need to stay in a loveless marriage go have fun and find your self a new love one that loves you and not the bottle. \n~Best wishes~
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I am also a "passive" person, but not quite to the extent your husband is.  Have you ever considered the fact that your husband grew up in chaos, and didn't have a male figure around for him to learn from?  Don't know his background, but his "symptoms" sound a lot like the way I grew up.  If it seems he "likes" chaos it could be because he doesn't know how to resolve chaos.  And as far as him "blaming you", have you ever considered that he is feeling pretty crappy cause you can handle things better than him? If you truly love him, be kind and patient and understanding.  Help him learn that you can "fix" chaos.  If you feel like he can walk away from the marriage without ever turning back, have you ever considered that that exact thing may have happened to him?  Try turning it around and not being so dominant yourself.  Turn to him and let him know you value his ideas, thoughts and decisions, and you NEED him in everyday life and decisions. If he makes a "wrong decision" but it isn't hurtful, life threatening, or irreversible, go with the flow and let him learn from mistakes, knowing you will stand behind him no matter what.
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Have you talked to him about reconciliation through some type of therapy through your church. I have been divorced, and would have preferred reconciliation, but never even talked about it to my ex-wife. She pursued the divorce at first, and I never fought at all, what a mistake. He might have lost that loving feeling, but that is part of life. It will return, given time. and it will be better than before.
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hey i think dat is not a big problem. u can understand that he may be tired or busy. so just give him some time and hope and have faith in ur love!\n\nhope all gets wel soon!take care and be patient and dont loose ur love! cheers and god bless!
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i dont know either maybe he isnt ready to really say it to you.he might also have things to worry about,but i know for sure that he doesnt want to lose you,because he is not saying it.u are proably right he does love you,might be to nervous to say it.im sorry that he is not saying it to you.maybe you should talk to him.dont rush him on talking to you,though.good luck!
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I am sort of in your situation, but in reverse.  I have started falling out of love with my husband.  I don't want to, and am trying very hard to prevent it.  I will tell you right now, I know why I feel the way I do, and have tried to tell him, but he just sees it as my nagging him.  When someone does something that hurts you, I believe that you should let them know so that he/she has the opportunity to recognize when it happens again, then stop it, or apologize if it does.  Well, the way it started with me: The failed attempts at communication and the fact that he acts like he doesn't have to lift a finger to keep this going...keep the flame alive so to speak.  I can tell you right now that the main reason why I am here is because I made a commitment to this man, but if I had not, I would have left him already.   Have you "listened" to your wife?  Does she feel loved?  Don't think that just because you come home to her every night she should feel priveliged.  Actually "make" her feel loved by doing the little things.  Open her doors (even as independent as some women are, this is still a sign of wanting to take care of her), write her a note, buy a card or flowers.  Take her out on "dates" even the movies is great.  Just hang out with her and talk about nothing, but have have fun.  She should be your best friend, the person you can joke and carry-on with...act dumb and laugh at and with each other.  Just let her know every day that you love her...genuinely.  Do not ever leave her or hang up the phone with a "byeloveyou".  Tell her "I love you and I will see you soon".  A lot of times the way you say something and the tone of voice say a lot.  If you are geniune, and let her know in your actions that you want to be there with her and be the one to take care of her, then she will do the same for you.  I may know what she is going through.  My husband says he loves me but more than not, I feel taken for granted and like an annoyance.  I can feel myself not wanting him anymore, and I can honestly say that I love him, but I am no longer in love with him. If you love your wife, give it everything you can with all of your heart.  Don't let her leave you (either physically or emotionally) thinking "I should have".
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ok... i dont know you or your man, so i can only tell you what i do know. i have been with my man. i met him online and we became friends. after 1 month of chatting, he left to South America for a month. when he got back , we met up and started our relationship that same day. after 2 weeks, i knew that i loved him. but i held it in, and didnt say anything. 3weeks... i thought that he felt the same and we were doing as you are- telling each other how we felt about each other and all that jazz... anyway, after the fourth week had past, i was lying in his arms morning after valentines day, and i was thinking how wonderful everything was and how much i love him.. and i couldnt not tell him any more. so i told him. and he just smiled. he said thank you and that he just needed a little time to decide how he feels, but that the fact that i told him that i love him wont scare him away. anyway... 3days later, i get home and he is in my bed (he lives an hour and a half away, so that was a big deal) and he had a single red rose. he told me that he loved me and that he doesnt want to lose me. Its been 10 months now and i have no intention f leaving this man. he feels the same. We told each other a month into the relationship and everything was fine. My point, after that rather long winded saga, is that, if you are meant for each other, then telling him, should be the least of your worries and you should be secure in your relationship enough to have the confidence to tell him. dont wait for him to tell you first. chances are that he is confused and trying to sort his head out too. men arent complicated creatures. just silly ones. lol. if you love him, tell him. everything will be fine hun. trust in yourself and your relationship. \nDont wait on men. lol. You're a woman. Be a strong one.\ngoodluck to you hun\nxxx
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I sincerely hope you aren't confusing toughness for indifference.  I was married to someone who didn't express his feelings.  We did stay together for six years, but knowing how I felt and how similar it is to what you are going through, I hope you aren't in store for a world of hurt.\n\nPlease talk to him openly and let him know your concerns.  You should definitely do this sooner than later - when it would hurt even more if it isn't what you want to hear.  \n\nI wish you all the best and hope everything works out for you.  Just remember that sometimes when we look back it's the unanswered prayers that we are grateful for...
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hi.that's what a lot of married men say.if you love him,you should let him go.tell him you don't want to cause there marriage to brake up.you should say to him you don't want to see him anymore. stand back and see if he leaves his wife anyway.if he doesn't leave his wife,then you'll know he wasn't genuine about the things hes been saying.
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If he do this very often wat i can say is he does not love u anymore. he is trying to stay away from u. Or maybe he is really busy, so maybe u try to find out whether he is telling the truth or not. If he lies then the best thing is to leave him. Only An Advise!!!!