I am going out with a man who cannot walk by himself, he needs help to move arround. He cannot move his legs from his knees down, we plan to begin our sexual relationship and I want to know, will having sex with him cause his condition to worsen or to get better. I am afraid that having sex with him may cause him never to walk again. But he tells me that he is ready for an active sex life and that there is nothing wrong with him sexually. so I want to know if having sex with him will make his condition worse.
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I can assure you that this was one of the first things he discussed with his doctor. Have you told him about your worries? Talk to his (or your) doctor about it if he's sensitive but I'm sure you have absolutely nothing to worry about. The only way it could would be if he still had a serious spinal injury, and then he'd still be in the hospital. This video should help allay your worries... and no, it's not a dirty movie boys, it's a documentary article.
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Wouldn't it be better of he gets treatment for the STD he has, then have intercourse when he is all better.  Why would you put yourself at risk?  No activity is worth it.
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There are a lot of reasons why a man can have that particular problem, but it more than likely isn't YOU, okay? My husband has that problem, and he takes viagra sometimes, but he's 52 years old, this is our second marriage. He said he was okay up until about 8 years ago, so it has nothing to do with me. One time I was with a guy who had this problem, and later I found out he had once been a heavy drug user, and it finally caught up with him. I'm not saying this is the case with "him" but there are different reasons it can happen, just don't blame yourself, okay?
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I have cried before during sex,I wasn't taking the pill didn't need to had tubes tied years ago.I was extremely depressed,not on meds. and in a horrible relationship with a man I can't even begin to describe.I was afraid to get out away from him and ask for help.I finally did though,I told him I was going for a walk but I didn't tell him I wasn't coming back.I needed help for the depression,other wise I could of told him to take a walk.Not exactly like your case but thought I'd share it with you.The last thing I wanted from that man was sex.
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You both may have love for each other, but if he still has major issues,the relationship won't last.  You'll have the same problems you had last time.  If all he is telling you is that "no one freaks him better", then he doesn't want to work on the relationship, he just wants the booty. That's cool if you are interested in just casual sex,  but don't think that he wants you back.
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Do you face any problem? Viagra and such 'medicines' are used as remedies against problems faced by men. They are not meant to increase abilities of normal men. It temporarily cures impotent (erectile dysfunction). It does not improve sexual abilities of those who donot have problems. \n\nSo if you do not need any medicines like that, you should be happy. These medicines have side effects. \n\nAnd if you have any sexual problems than elaborate so that some remedies / medicines can be suggested.
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Considering what you went through, I think your response is probably to be expected. Most people, however, find that sex in a loving relationship is one of the most fulfilling experiences. Have you ever had counselling? Have you ever tried masturbation? If you can find some sort of pleasure in stimulation, whether doing it yourself or with your husband involved, that would be a first step to healing. My heart breaks for you, I know it is very difficult to get past what happened, but it's something you can overcome. It just takes a lot of time, moving slowly (only with whatever you are comfortable with), and always in a situation where you feel safe and in control. My prayers are with you.
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I too have NO sex life due to a sick hubby right now and wish i was in your shoes on some days.  I guess - how much do you love hubby?  Enough to sacrifice your physical needs?  Could he ever recover and be the man you need?  If no to both, then leave hubby and get you some, girl!!!
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Personally, I would make sure he is fit to have sex first, and by that, I mean his heart and lungs.  Sometimes sex can cause a heart attack or breathing problems.\n\nIf he is all good to go in that regard, I would say you would have no problem if you were to take the top until he loses some weight.
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I'm 43 and i found that i lasted longer because i'm more in tune with my body. It helps to be with the right partner someone you have feelings for. I can't just have proper sex with people i don't really know anymore. What i found that effected my performance where: alcohol, smoking, guilt, worries, nervousness and depresion. I had to clear the reckage of my past and get in touch with myself. The calmer and peaseful my life is, the better my sex life is. I hope this helps you and good luck.
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He's just trying to convince you to have sex with him.  The truth is there are a lot of people out there who date and don't have sex.  Next he'll probably tell you,"well I guess your still a baby since you don't want to have sex. I'll go find someone else" LET HIM!! It's just another ploy to try and get you to have sex with him.  People who love each other don't try to force their partner into doing something they don't want to. Besides this guy is already a loser, do you want to be the next girl he got pregnant and doesn't have a realtionship with?
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Yes, we can separate the two things.  Sex and love don't necessarily have to have anything to do with each other, for a man.  But in this case, that only means that the women he's having sex with don't mean anything to him emotionally.  They're just a way of scratching an itch he happens to have, and he's ready to toss them aside without a second thought after they've served their purpose.  But even so, that's no excuse for cheating on the woman he loves, and he knows that as well as you do.  If he loved you very much, he'd keep his pants zipped when he was away from you.  Lack of sex never killed anybody, and if he was so horny he was about to die, he could always jerk off.  Tell him so.
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Check with your doctor on this matter. I think that as long as you don't exhibit outer symptoms, it is safe to have sex. This is only an opinion from a layman's viewpoint.
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No. Sex doesn't change your body like that. It might change your attitude and posture, but that's less of a physical change and more of a mental change.
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There is no sin in sleeping in the same bed without having sex.  I think the danger comes because you've put yourself in the direct line of temptation.  You have placed yourself in a situation that if the urge and emotions came you really don't have a place to flee in the heat of passion.
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I think that is totally commendable!!! Keep it up - respect. And if ANY guy tells you that he won't date you unless you have sex with him - he doesnt deserve or respect you - you are worth waiting for and a guy who loves you will respect that! all the best - you will be tempted at times because you're human but I think it is totally possible.
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Well My friend had it and they put a medal rod in his back! But he had a realy bad case! Naw it prolly want mess up yalls sex life! So thats a plus! But theres not much you can do for him! but if he has to had like a surgery or anything! Just be there for him! Well I hope eveything goes good for you two! Good luck