A question to throw out there. I am wondering many people feel that if the are 'themselves' that they will lose their job, people will over ctitisize them and make their life miserable, or that in general people will not 'get' them? Just kinda doing a pole here. For first vote I will say, yeah, alot of days, that is me! This is not meant to depressing or bring you down, I actually find it humorous that I am so hard on myself, and when I laugh, I tend to let it go. But who else feels this way alot of the time?
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We all have various personalities that we present to the public based on what we are doing, who we are impressing... yet, this is still "who we are."  That core personality that we carry within us, that tells us what is right or wrong... is never going to change.  However, it's expression grows and changes on a daily basis as we all continue to grow and mature.  For some of us, being more mature actually means we are having more fun!  For certain my ability to communicate is much more pronounced than it was when I was 21.  Or 49, or yesterday for that matter.     \n     For me personally, my attitude when I was a young employee was a "eager to please" person.  At the end of my career I was a "sour old germudgen."   Honestly, I use parts of my personality for various reasons.  The truth is, for the most part, inside of myself I see myself as a kindly teacher, a mischief maker, and a sweet old Irish peace-maker who has a bottle of whiskey hidden somewhere in the room with a pocket of tobacco always ready for a fine smoke... should someone need a moment to talk or just want to sit in the sun with me for a bit.  \n     Being "who" we are is a myth.  Our personalities grow throughout our lives, we learn daily and adjust daily to life around us.  Don't misunderstand, there are days when I have to dig deep within myself and find my own core.  What that core has become is a result of years of living, making decisions, enjoying life and just reacting day to day to life around me.  Like a lump of coal that gets transmutted into a diamond due to years and years of pressure on it, our personalities are the same.  Hell, imagine listening to Howard Stern or Pat Robertson every day and then try to image that it doesn't change your personality. \n     We all understand we present to the world a unique personna because we need a paycheck, regardless of what we personally feel.  It would be best if that personna was congruient with who we are as people, but that is not always possible.  We present the personna that keeps our paycheck coming in.  This is a lesson of life we all learn.  It's how we keep our jobs. \n     I find that after I retired, my joyful positive side became it's best.  I really now enjoy telling people to screw off, get frucked, or back away more often than I did before.  I'm less kindly now that I am retired.  But, I wish I had been where I am today those many years ago, for certainly I'm glad to be me and wouldn't have it any other way.\n     Wanna go play?  I'll go get my cane.  If that's too stimulating for you I'll grab the whiskey and my bone pipe, we'll sit in the sun and have a smoke, listen to the neighbors yelling at their kids, the Mexican-cowboy-Polks music from next door, the dogs barking, kids laughing, the sirens in the distance, the TV's blaring and deeply breath in the calming smog of the local environment.  \n     Ah life, aint' it grand!  My friend, I am laughing with you!
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Most all people have some sort of mental illness. The key is are you being affected emotionally or physically by this person. If the answer to this is yes then take it from an middle aged person suffering daily from a boss and mother that are mentally ill. This has had a HUGE affect on my life and my children. So MY advice is to look for another job in an organized manner and make the move if you have any of the above issues.There are bosses that donot get off on power struggles.I have one now. BEST TO YOU.
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Worried!?about wat give urself a pat on the back many ppl as we speak now are complaining bout how tough and stressful their jobs are.
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I work in retail and honestly, at one point I was afraid I was going to get hurt by the crush of people.  People were really rude and ignorant to me and each other.  It just gets worse every year...honestly, what do people expect when there are thousands of people in a store?  Excellent, prompt customer service?  It was all I could do to help who I can.  Some people were great and really nice and patient.  Thanks to all of those people--but to all the jerks--Merry Christmas to you, too.\n\nSorry about the rant, but thanks, I now feel better.
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It broke my heart to read your question.  I feel for you!  People can be really cruel sometimes. It's called ignorance!  Hopefully someday, our society will change.  In the meantime, keep your chin up.  It's not easy to be suffering.  The fact that you are going out, and dealing with it is a great victory.  Celebrate yourself!  You deserve it.  Hugs!!!!!
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Oh yes, I have had one in almost every job I've had. They are called "a pain in the neck!" and are found in every place of work. I try not to let them wind me up and ignore them as much as I can. Another good tactic is to say, " Yes your right - what a brilliant way of doing it!" and just continue to do what ever you need to do to get the job done properly. Basically, these people are insecure and need to feel that they are better than anyone else.
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People who are in service jobs (ie: cashiers, waitresses, clerks and such) who do their jobs with a bad attitude. I'm not talking about the occasional bad day. I'm talking about attitude.
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Amen Sista...\n\nI have left more jobs in the past rather than come across as "Bitchy" for all of the above reasons... until I realized...  People generally know "what" they do when they do it to you,  and there is usually a "why" not too far off behind it.  You sound like I used to be and certain kinds of people like to feed and feast off that kind of energy, taking you from a strong, secure intelligent women, reduced in one failed swoop to being the office bit*ch...\n\nThat is not fair, but the way to counter it, is to always know a thing when you see it.  If someone is trying to goad out your worst character traits... it's them being smart by being stupid.  Try being smarter by seeing it and countering it by giving them no response what so ever.  \n\nThe workplace is basically a well organized kindergarten class...\n\nWatch and observe children and you'll see things from a more innocent and obvious frame of reference.  It is essentially the same thing.  People are turds!  That's why I don't work... It gets the best of all of us eventually.  \n\nThe only solution... is to yank out your own buttons, giving them nothing what so ever to push!  \n\nGood luck sweetie!  I feel for you and relate completely!\n\nI have a little pokket type book for you to run out and buy that will help you immensly!  \n\nIt is called "The Art of Worldly Wisdom."  It is by a Gregorian Monk by the name of Balthsar Gracian.  You can get it at Borders...  Read it,  and in it's pages learn the how's and the why's and maybe even learn a thing or two about yourself and your own condition in the process...  It is the best gift you will ever buy yourself!  and will function as a distraction away from the idiots!  \n\nHappy Holidays!
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I did. My boss came in one day and asked why I always looked like I was in a bad mood(he said it with an attitude) so I said: You'd be in a bad mood too if you worked for an As*hole like you. He looked at me, shocked and then said , you know I should fire you for that...I replied: Fire me then.....We stood there glaring at each other for a moment then he said....go back to work.. and that was the end of it. I guess you have to know how far you can push the envelope with your boss.
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Doesn't sound like a good plan to me. I like my thoughts to stay to myself. I often think to myself (especially around my boss) I would really like to tell you off or something in that sense. But I pretend to be a good girl and don't say anything to offend others.
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Coming from a hard worker, I share your disgust with lazy co workers.  Considering how many unemployed and homeless ppl there are I have a serious dislike for ppl who show up at work and are there just to earn a paycheck  if theyre so unhappy with their jobs then move on and give soemone who will appreciate their job a chance.
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Anyone working Customer Service has had (and will continue to have) these days. I usually let loose on the last day of one of these jobs when every customer with a stupid question gets an HONEST response, whether they like it or not! Why? Because no one can do anything! What are they gonna do? Fire me? I've already quit! Lol!
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Some people thrive in this environment.  Not me:\nI worked in a call centre for 2 days.  I made my quota in the middle of the second day and told the supervisor that I was done and was quitting.\nI really did not like bothering people and was not about to put up with the abuse from people I contacted.
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I think sometimes good people are good because bad stuff happens to them. I am one of those people. At times, I think I may be the unluckiest person in the world, however, I've learned some awesome lessons in every one of them. It doesn't get me down, I keep a positive attitude. Don't get me wrong though, it does suck.
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I had a really bad day today... you and everybody that answered this question (sincerely) made me feel a lot better about people in general, its nice to know the whole world isn't awful. I haven't done anything like that in awhile, but I think I will start... thanks, we need more people like you in the world
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Alot of people discriminate against those suffering from mental illnesses of all kinds ,not just bosses.\n You may just be seeing that they navigate towards more open "normal" people because you don't feel open yourself... I know that no one wants to be around someone who is depressed, it affects many people in many different ways. It's unfortunate, but a fact of life. I myself have suffered depression, and been labeled a "b i t c h " or other unkind things just because I could not paint a smile on 24/7\n What can you do to impress them. Well stop trying to impress them and impress yourself. Make yourself feel, and it is not always easy, and it will show. Don't keep kicking yourself that is not going to work, go get some counseling, get some medication if that is warranted, get the help you need and want and live a full and HAPPY life. It is possible, maybe not every minute but it can happen, but it will take a lot of hard work. I am wishing you the very best.... take care, smile, think good thoughts about yourself and things will fall into place
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I am the boss.  I did get a tie one year from some of the women that had worked for me, I have not seen anything since then.  Most of my employees whine and cry and complain about the workplace.  Even when I had bought them doughnuts they complained about what kind I got.  I made them ham and bean soup and they complained about the type of soup.  Some people can be so ungratful.