I have thought of becoming a foster mom. I was wondering If anyone out there had parents that were foster parents, and what is was like? See I have a daughter she is  2 now, but when She get older I want to know what it will be like for her, I want to make sure she will be okay with it, and not hate me for having other kids that "not" her biological brother or sister. what was it like for you to grow up with other people in the house? Are if you were a foster kid what was it like for you? Thank You!
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just teaching her to give love where love is  most needed !!!those babies dont have anyone and its not their fault at all, like my older sister into drugs slept with a black man to get them and got pregnant she said she gave the baby up cause he was black i hate her today for what she did it was not his fault and thank god there was a family that wanted him when his own mother didn't, i tryed to find him myself, quit thinking about it and do it   and GOD BLESS YOU
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this is a personal thing for me to discuss, but hey, you asked the question.\n\na few years ago, i gave birth to a baby girl that i knew i couldnt afford to take care of. my ex b/f wouldnt get a job, wouldnt help me at all through my whole pregnancy. when i was about 6 months pregnant, i found a wonderful family to adopt her. the mother had always wanted to have a little girl they have 3 boys (GREAT kids) and after thath she was unable to conceive. so i began talking to her on a daily basis, they flew me to the state they lived in to give birth to their daughter. the whole time i was in the hospital, the mother (name withheld) spend most of my stay in the hospital with me. \nto this day, i wonder what my little girl is doing, and things like that..i havent talked to the family since i got home from basic training and ait,but i know, that my little girl is receiving all of the attention, and love that she deserves..both of which are things i could have (and still in my heart) gave her, however there is no way i could have afforded to give her the awesome life she deserves.
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I have 3 siblings, two are brothers and one is a sister, I am a girl, too. So in my family my mother had 4 children. When I am older I only want one child, because two or more seems just way too much for me. I want to adopt my child from Peru, too. She will be a girl, and I will name her Fate, or Faith. If I get married probably Faith, but if not Fate. Yeah, I kinda have my whole life planned already, but who knows what will really happen.\n\nJust because I am such an open person, I will tell you all of my plans. =) Okay, first off I will go to college and learn all about therapy and things like that, I want to either be a massage therapist or physical therapist. Anyways, once I get a job I will move somewhere by the mountains, and have a cabin to myself there. I dont plan to get married, because I just dont do well with the opposite sex. Anyways, so when I feel I have my life in a good place I will adopt my child from Peru, and name her little Fate Morgan. Or Faith Morgan... anyways. I will take defense classes and learn how to defend myself, and I will buy a rifle, for protection only! Yeah, my life sounds cool, huh? =)\n\nIf you want to talk to me about this email me at goodbye.heartache@yahoo.com, love to hear from you!
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I know exactly what you're talking about.  My mother and I got custody of my nephew after my sister screwed up.  He was taken from her, we had a choice: foster home or with us.  I think its completely ridiculous to not put your child with family, that's her support system.  You can talk with the social worker.  Most social service departments (Department of Children and Families, Child Protective Services, Department of Children Society, etc.)  their goal is reunification with the natural birth mother.  We wanted to help my sister get him back until she started abusing drugs and alcohol again and married an abusive and violent piece of crap.  Now we are struggling to keep him far from that, and they are pushing for him to go back, even after her 3 DUI's and domestic violence charges in the last 3 years.  Every state is different, but hopefully someone at CPS can help you and you can start on the road to recovery and 'prove' yourself and follow the case plan.  Unless they terminate your parental rights, you always have the right to petition the court for replacement.  I wish you the best of luck!!!
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i've gone through a lot of emotional issues from the time i was little. My father as an abusive ex-drunk and my mom has always been somewhat verbally abusive. How do i feel about it?I hate the fact that i was never really allowed to have a care free childhood and hate having memories of my dad beating me up or having to leave my house at night because my mom and dad had fought.
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When I read this for a minute I was trying to think if one of my friends was asking the question. Lol. This is my mom! I have two kids, and she has only watched them a handful of times, and that is when I ask, like I have a doctors appt. ect. This was EXTREMELY hurtful when I had kids, because she too spends more time with her nieces, which are older. Anyway, I finally talked with her about it and she just explained that younger kids aren't her strong point. When they get older they are easier to care for and won't make one so flustered about getting into things. I've just learned to deal with it. I would advise you're friend to talk to her mom about it, I wrote a long three page letter, that wasn't rude, it was humble and got alot of things out in the open, that was probably one of the hardest things I've had to do. But in the long run, things have been SO much smoother between us now. And she understands that it would be helpful for me to get out sometimes with my husband. Anyway, hope this helps. Remember she can't be defensive and rude about it, her mom is not obligated to watch them. But I've been there and done that. Good Luck!
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I completely agree.\n\nFirst of all, do parents sit down and actually talk with their children?  When their child has a different opinion from their own, do they discuss it?  \n\nWhen I was kid and had an issue with someone (or something) my parents would ask me why I felt the way I did, what were the motivating factors behind my feelings?  They then would challenge me to put myself in the other persons shoes, to come up with possible reasons why the other person would act the way they do.  I learned very young that it takes all kinds of opinions, and that every one of those opinions is absolutely, 100% correct, at least for that person.\n\nPeople just don't listen anymore.  They aren't willing to take a step back and entertain the idea that they may actually be wrong...or at the very least, that there are other ways to view things.\n\nI, for one, am a talker....I talk to my kids.  They know they are free to feel the way they do but they must learn to give others that same courtesy, respectfully.
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Which parent has custody?  These visitation rights sound horrible.  Also $250 for child support for 2 kids is a drop in the bucket.  What's up with that?  I hope this isn't something the court set up and if it is they need to go back to court and get it straightened out.  Are they just selfish?  Surely they (the parents) see what they're doing to these kids?
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Looking at pictures of my daughter.You see she refuses to see me or talk to me.I do not know the reasons for this.I divorced her dad when she was 18.Since then she will not have anything to do with me.My ex and my own sisters turned her against me.She has two children now and I have never seen them not even in a picture.I miss her and love her so very much and it is making me cry now.I will continue to pray to God for an answer.Yes I have tried to contact her by phone and by letters and e-mail.She just refuses to tell me why.Just why is all I want to know.I can't watch anything that shows a love between a mother and her daughter without crying and it's been 6 years now.
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Speaking from growing up in foster homes. Kids that are in foster care tend to come with a lot of emotional baggage.Many have been molested,raped,and just simply abused.We act our anger out on other people because the person that hurt us is not there to let our emotions out on that person for what they have done to us.It would be hard for a child of that nature to have to deal with another situation that they havent been really taught to handle.I'm not against your interest I just think that the childs emotional statis should be viewed first.Maybe adoption on newborn babies would be a better approach so they can grow up and understand and be taught the situatian in both point of views.
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My Father in law. He is actually my husband's foster father. He took my husband in when he was 16 and his mother died. His house is amazing, full of every movie, book and record you could think of. He is a university lecturer and high school maths teacher. He lives in a small city 500kms from us and would like to move to be closer to us but his entire town would fall apart if he left. He runs all of the music/drama/historical clubs in the town. He is the most interesting person I know, he is full of all sorts of trivia, basically if he doesn't know it, it's not worth knowing.
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Yes, I DID stay unhappily married , for the kids' sake. I did it for a long time, but I could not stand the thought of not being there for them.Their Mother was not the most stable person, so it was necessary for me to be there for them until they got older, and could take care of themselves. I don't regret doing it for my kids, but I sometimes hate my best days are behind me now. If I had it to do over however, I would do it again....for them!
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Well I have 4 kids and I'm a single mother. I can not work at the moment because I can not find proper child care for the two children that don't attend school.( I would love to be working) But here is the deal, Me and my kids are living in a small 2br, 1 ba home, you could donate about $2,500.00 to us so that we can pay the down payment on a new and bigger home. Charity I guess you could say, but I would consider it to be a blessing. Ty   latovat@yahoo.com
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Hey, can you please hit "Add Details" and answer your own question too?  :)\n\nI want to have a big family.  Or, if it's not big, I want to at least be big on family.
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I am not a only child but I am the youngest. I am 45 years old and never wanted children as you don't. I love kids alot, but just didn't ever want to have any. I have lost both of my parents, my Mom just recently. My parents had grandchildren from my other siblings, but my nieces and nephews treated my Mom like a piece of you know what. My Mom was glad I never had children thank goodness. Sometimes I would ask my Mom what I will do when I get old and have no one to come and see me or help me in any sort of way. My Mom had the best answer that could have been given. She said, just because someone has kids, doesn't mean any of them will help take care of you or come to see you. That is so true. I took care of my Mom for the last nearly 6 years of her life and my brother and sister-in-law only came by our house to see us about once every 3 months. Sometimes it was longer than that. My sister never came around unless she wanted something. Just tell your Mom that you and your husband both agreed before marriage that neither one of you wanted children. It is best to just tell her and get it over with. She may be hurt or angry, but it will pass. It is your life with your husband and your husband is your family. Do not under any circumstances have a child you don't want in the first place just to please your Mom or anyone else. It would make things alot worse on you and your husband. Plus it wouldn't be fair to the child either. I also knew at a very early age that I didn't want children. I love kids, but I want the ones I can keep for a while and send back home to their own parents. LOL  Just tell your Mom and get it over with. Get the burden off of your shoulders and you will feel better. Good luck.
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I am the youngest of four, although 2 have since passed away. I was in a unique position because my parents were away from each other for many years. My oldest sister was 16 when I was born, my brother nearly 10, and my other sister almost 6. As a result, I didn't get to play with them as such, but they did become surrogate parents especially as my parents got older and less energetic. I was pretty well raised by them. My parents provided financial and physical support, but my siblings were the ones I went to with my problems. I don't think I grew up spoiled, I had to compete with nieces and nephews from an early age. As the youngest, the tables are turned now and my elderly parents need me. I still have the stamina I might not have had if I were older.
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#1. What is your highest level of completed education?\nHigh school diploma & trade school.  Some college classes... just for personal enrichment.\nMy dh had some college.  We have owned 2 different successful businesses and financially do better than most of our college degree friends. \n\n#2. Why are you homeschooling your children?\nI feel that I have been HSing my dd since birth.  She is extemely bright and would be bored in the PS system.  I had her tested at age 4.5 and she was testing at month 8 of Kindergarten for reading & spelling and month 6 of 1st grade for math.  The tester said that the test was unfair to my dd because  the test is for 5 and above.  She explained that if I had her retested after 5 she would probably score even higher.  My point is that her educational need would not be met in PS.\n\n#3. What impact do you believe homeschooling has on your child's social development?\nI believe that her social development would be hindered if she were made to be with children her own age only.  She has fantastic social skills...people that have just met her often are amazed at how well she can talk with adults and play with children of all ages.\n\n#4. Should anyone be allowed to educate their own children? Why?\nIn a perfect world and perfect circumstances I would say yes.\nWhile it is lawful for anyone to educate their own children...I don't feel that everyone should be able to have children let alone educate them.  HSing takes a lot of effort and time if it is going to be done right and some children unfortunatly are better off being babysat by the state than being with their own parents.\n\n#5. Through what grade level do you plan on teaching your children? Why?\nAt this point in time until college...but if her education is suffering we will make adjustments when and if that time comes.