I know weird right. But I feel that doing this I will find out who I really am. I feel like I have no sense of who I am anymore. Me and my man haven't been going out that long. A month at the longest. We see other people. I just feel like he will get to know the person and not just my body this way. There is nothing wrong with the sex. The sex is the best I have ever had. He is very giving in bed. Always making sure I cum before he does. I just think he needs to get to know who I am. And the other guys are mostly jerks. Out for some Booty and thats it. I'm not looking for that anymore. I have been there. The whole one night stands are not that great.
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Well just tell him, explain it the way you did here. Since you two are already intimate, no guarantee that he will wait around the three months. In the future wait longer before you become intimate with someone, instead of changing your mind after wards, and cutting them off. That is going to send some pretty mixed signals. Hope it works out for you, if he does stick around he's a keeper ;)
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No not at all, I went through this same thing a couple of years ago a male frined and I both came outta long, serious relationships about the same time and were feeling quite down and bruised by the whole thing and ended up being together alot of the time talking about it and of course one thing led to another and we eventually slept together and it just became a habit (I know that sounds awful!!) but neither of us could face another relationship at that time and we aren't into one night stands so we'd just hook up have the best laugh and then enjoy great sex before saying goodbye in the morning with no pressure it was ideal, it went on for about two yeras until we both just met people we wanted to be with and then it fizzled out but we're still the best of friends now (purely platonic!!) so it worked out fine.  The only thing I'd watch out for is that you both understand the situation if one person has feelings that the other dosen't have then it will cause problems and you shouldn't do it but if you both know it's just sex cos you have needs then go for it.  Good Luck!!
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I know i am not a guy, but can i would like to share an experience.\n\nMy boyfriend now, was my first, and i was worried about the same things. He could tell, as soon as he stuck a finger in me.  He actually loved the fact i was, and was patient with me. He loves the thought that i'm experiencing everything the first time with him, and he can show me how to please him.  Its has been 8 months now, and we have an awesome sex life.  email me if you have more questions about this....i have been there.\n\nallyalexmch@yahoo.com
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I'm in the same boat as you!  Actually my husband and I just had a detailed conversation about this last night. He says that it makes him feel dirty and he doesn't think it is normal.  He is also gentle and caring and loving and not that I don't appreciate all those great qualities about him,sometimes I'd like for him to do something totally unexpected and out of his norm.  After the talking though,he seems set in his ways and isn't willing to even try. I suppose I could offer you the same advice and TALK to him and see what his point of view is. You could also try getting some mild toys and start out slow and see where that gets you?  Sorry,can't be of more help,but I think everyone has their own mindset and that's a hard one to change ,especially if they are adamant about their viewpoint.  Good luck though!  I'll put you on my watch list and maybe learn something too!!  ZOYA.\n\nEDIT: To Dklyde:  That is a very good question!!\nHowever we now have 3 children and that takes precedence over my sexual needs when it comes to the thought of leaving.
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Wow, if you feel that way sex is going to be difficult for you. I think we have to not be too uptight about exchanging our vital bodily fluids. :)
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yup...totally normal...your not a freak...you were just taught to feel that way cause your a woman...and women are suppose to be pure and not sexual...  ask most men if they find a women attractive they often start wondering what they look like naked...then they wonder what its like to go further...this is normal.
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This is a reality "WAKE UP CALL" : You do not need a man to validate whom you are, because if you do, then you really do not know whom you are at all. This is a trying and difficult situation, to feel lonely, but this too shall pass. First thing is to be selective about the guy you are interested in, don't just go for the hard body with the great face and bad boy attitude{ these guys are good in the sack and little else}, try to find a guy you have a bit in common with, this will make you happier in the long run. The kindest thing you can for yourself is to not be so desperate, it is like blood in the water, you do not want to cause a feeding frenzy among the sharks and you my dear are the bait.
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You shouldn't associate shame with sexual experiences.  Feel good about them.  I'm sure you did at the time.  We were meant to enjoy our sexuality.  As naughty as you may have gotten, you didn't go all the way and are obviously not promiscuous.  Stop beating yourself up over this and celebrate the new milestone you've acheived in your life.  You KNOW you are enjoying the thought of it, and this does NOT make you a bad girl.
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I went with my husband several times to strip clubs in an effort to try and fix some of our intimacy problems.  I even bought him a lap dance one time.  However, afterwards, it doesn't make me feel good or cool or sexy, even thought it might make him feel that way about  me.  How you feel about you is more important.  After a strip club, part of me really hates him for not wanting to just explore with me.  I keep trying to tell myself that I should just go with the flow.  That men look at women like women look at shoes...but it never seems to make me feel any better.  Before you go, remember that you can never erase that memory once it's there.  On the other hand, at least you know who your husband really is and what he really wants.  Yes, you'll be the coolest wife in the world (like me), but then soon his affection towards you over it becomes empty.  My girlfriend is so jealous that my husband is so affectionate with me...but his affection doesn't make me feel cared about by him anymore.
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I feel the same about my wife.  I still love her but I look at other women & find them sexy & want to be unfaithfull but I have never done it.  It's a difficult one but all we are doing is denying ourselves a beutifull sex life.  I think all that you could do is have casual sex with no strings & try not to let your partner find out.
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Dude you've got it made. I just hope if you guys do go seroius, that you don't run out of sick and twisted things to do to eachother later on in life. You have got to keep that sense of sexual excitement or else, you know, the magic is gone. Go on now, get naked and get nasty. I think it's friggin awesome.
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Are you comfortable with your body.  If you can't feel pleasure by your self, then there won't be any benefit if someone else is there.  This is easy for guys.  All normal guys pleasure their self.  Of course it's way better when a girl that is into them goes to town, but in the end, the guy already knew he could do it.  Apply this thought process in your own way, and you might start having more fun.  Just remember that it is just that.  Having pleasure is fun.
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There's nothing wrong with you.He says he's attracted to you and you do have sex,just not that often.If it bothers you I'd ask him whats going on.Tell him his behavior makes no sense to you, it makes you feel insecure and you need to know why he does this.I'm sure the two of you can work it out..good luck!
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You're christian morals went out the door w/f*ck the sex.Not everyone is the way you've explained in great detail.Putting your card on the table is a good thing if you don't do it as soon as you meet someone.There is nothing wrong with thatMen are not weaker that way.I prefer my man to be that way.And Im with you on the sex.Too dangerous.You must be lookin in the wrong place.
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I think this is pretty much a done deal.  You can't go back and change it.  Consider it a lesson learned.  Never mix work and sex.\nNow, put on a happy face, go back into work, and don't let it happen again.
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Frankly I think that you'll be much happier with this decision.  It's a very tricky process to give to man so late in his life, so it's going to take patience on your part during the healing process.  I'm sure it will feel a little different to you, but probably in a good way.  I don't know anyone who's actually gone through this, but there is a very detailed episode on sex and the city about it - you should watch it!
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alot of people are offended about it because they think it is something that belongs in the bedroom and in the dark... i personnally don't mind talking about it , infact we had a nice group conversation last night about sex. although i don't mind talking about it, i wouldn't go out and tell every stranger i met things i would or wouldn't do either-- i have to be friends with the person i am talking to.