My friend and I work on a certain project together. This week we divided the work among us, so she did a part and I did another, when she finishes her work, she comes and tell me what she did and shows to me and boosts abt it like she did a miracle or something. The problem is that I do a gr8 work too but I don't boost abt it or show off with it. In fact today I was abt to show it to her, she kept saying I'll see later or something like that...why is she acting that way..always making me feel like I'm lazy or not as smart as she is?
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people who boast about there accomplishments allot or put other people down to make themselves look better are very insecure in there own lives.you should just say to them "oh yea that's great but I am quite pleased with my own work, but keep telling yourself (they have no self esteem) and give them a lift or they might fall apart. Be judged on who you are not what you could be.
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Obviously she's not a friend if she treats you this way. try hanging out with someone else who is NOT ashamed of being seen with you. And if she keeps giving you attitude, stop talking to her. I'm sure you're not the only person she does this to. A TRUE friend does not treat a friend like dirt. And if she's saying lies about you then she's jealous about something. I can already tell that you are a TRUE friend, because you are willing to save this friendship with this nasty person by finding out what you can do. We need more people like you. So in answering your question, when you walk by her just smile. BIG!!
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Honestly it sounds like She is jealous of You.  And it sounds like She doesn't think before She speaks.  Ask Yourself, does She do this with Everyone, or just You?  There is a saying that many a truth as been said in jest.  Meaning the Person saying it actually means it but says that They are only joking.  That is called sarcasm.  The meaning of sarcasm in the dictionary is to tear flesh like dogs, to speak bitterly.  So those who speak sarcastically are actually rude and bitter People.\n\nMy suggestion is that next time She says something, just say "So what I understood You to just say is", and repeat it back to Her.  That way You can be clear on what She meant to say or imply, and see how She responds.  If She continues to say I was just kidding, tell Her that Her kidding, doesn't feel like kidding to You.  And in Friendship if it matters to You, it should matter to Her.  Just as You feel about Your Friends, if something affects Them, it matters to You.\n\nBest of Luck with This, Good Friends should be a Safe Haven.   \n.
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Well, hopefully she will come around.  It sounds like she is just really jealous and maybe frustrated with herself and her own life.  You might be reminding her of the things she feels bad about not doing in her own life, or maybe not being able to do.\n\nGood news can sometimes remind someone else of their own shortcomings and how they are 'failing' to get what they want.  Give her time, if she is a true friend, she will put it behind her, and although maybe envious will come back around.
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Lot's of experiences like that one... well, one thing that would really help your friend is to constantly praise his/her work. commend everything that was done right. if there are things that must be corrected, do it in a constructive way, and a suggestion will do. In this way, you are building up confidence without making your friend dependent on your opinions or praises. Remember, it's just a balance of praises and constructive criticisms. In the end, your friend will learn how to judge things about her all by herself. Best of all, SMILE! Your smile could actually mean everything.
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ok im sorry, but who cares about her inmature attitude anyway -honestly. shes prbly kinda freaked out that u invited her since sometimes people in grades higher than u are mean and yur nice. if u want her to think your kool then act kool and dont cling on to a little kid
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You are being the better person by not bragging.  I know your age is hard.  My daughter is probably close to your age (she's 12 and I apologize if I didn't get even close to your age) but she is very mature for 12 and there are kids that annoy her to the point that she doesn't even want to be friends but I think she needs to learn how to be tolerable.\n\nNo one person is perfect ever so knowing this we must tolerate the differences in one another.  You know that you are a smart girl but at the same time you don't have to broadcast it because you're afraid people won't like you if you're not...that already makes you the better person.\n\nFeel good about yourself that you don't have to broadcast your strengths because you believe in your abilities and don't rely on that alone.\n\nI don't know if I helped any but you asked a really great question and I wish I would have had a forum like this to go to when I was your age.\n\nBest of luck to you.\n\n~~Theresa
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She feels something for you but she isn't exactly sure what she's feeling. You should talk to her about it to let her know she is safe around you. I also think that she doesn't want to lose your friendship. Sometimes being with someone who is your friend makes things a little awkward, and she doesn't exactly want to do that yet. Keep on being friends for now and see where that takes you.
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Don't worry too much about hurting her, she should get over it if you advise her that her bragging is making her look like a snob.  Friends shouldn't let other friends be snobs.
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Don't waste your time being mad. Just find other friends, and some day she will realize the errors of her ways and change. If she doesn't, then you are not a friend, so it won't matter.
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Its not about money, its what you have inside...It is not a cliche.  Your friend needs to brag because there is something missing in her life and thats the only way she feels important.  Maybe you are better looking than she is and she needs to be as "good" as you are and thats why she brags about the money thing.  Feel for her, dont get angry with her,  the only thing she sees herself as money and what it can buy.  Just keep on being friends with her and in time she will learn that money does not define who we are.  Just be yourself, maybe make a joke of it when she brags and say something like....."you are beautiful, you dont need to buy all that stuff"  Build her insides up...make her feel good about herself and show her that money isnt everything.  You are a good friend and it seems you are quite "together" because although it makes you angry, you dont hate her because of it.  Sounds to me like she needs a friend like you.  Just keep on being her friend and she will eventually learn from you.  She will learn that she doesnt need to brag about money for you to like her, and she will eventually not feel the need to brag.
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well someone that anxious to prove herself is definately insecure - I think that is what you have to focus on - what is it that she thinks she is lacking in that she needs to make up for it in other areas - you are her friend so I think you may already know the answer - if you know what the problem is, I think it will be easy to solve the problem - just be a bit subtle about it
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Communicate with her!\nIf she is supposed to be your friend then you need to tell her how you feel, it's the grown up thing to do, don't just be sneaky and ditch her. You should maybe also stop to think about how *she* feels,  why is she acting this way? Ask her, maybe she is feeling left out, have you ever felt left out, it's not a nice feeling and It can make people act out and say things they don't mean. \nJust take her aside on day and talk to her and ask her why she is behaving like she is. She will probably apriciate your honesty.
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What behavioral interventions and work prompts are her teachers doing with her at school? Ask if you can sit in and observe so you can do the same thing for academic work at home.\n\nShe will calm down greatly when she has similar expectations and prompts across environments. Your behavior responses are probably different from her teachers, and this confuses her because homework is schoolwork is something that should happen just-that-way-that-it-always-happens.....
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you sound like a jerk, she probably thinking about alot of thing when a creep like you are making something with her, like when is the hell will this be over, i wonder what i should where to work tomorrow, i hope the grocery store is real crowned when i get there, what time is my hair and nail appointment, i should have azz hole take my car in for a check up, is it time for the kids next check up, and last of all i think i just take a little nap because this s... is really boring.
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Well... it sounds like there isn't anything you can do!!! If she wants to "dumb" for him, it's all up to her to relize it's time to get smart!!! She really isn't asking for your help in this because if she really wanted help, she would take your advise. Just be that ear for her. And if you feel like you don't want to be friends anymore, still be there, but keep her at a distance.
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Yeh just give her some time... if she likes you (which im sure she does) she will spend more time talking with you when her projects are done...also, if you have a friend named ryan...let him know hes the f u c k i n g man...cause one time i had a friend named ryan and he knew a wilber which sounds like the pig in charlotte's web...charlotte's web...charlotte, a great city, except very confusing road systems..systems...like a stereo system, like in a home or a car...car...i need to get some new lights for my car!! PEACE