ok so a bunch of guys live in my neighborhood and so we are all very close and the one im closest with, adam introduced me to his 16 year old mixed friend anthony over the summer.we talked for like one day then i remet him this weekend and we hit it off. we flirted all day saturday then he came over on sunday and we were like all flirting and all over each other. then he made out with me . since it was my first kiss, i expected a little more out of it. but on sat. he had a gf, then on sunday, he didn't. so after we got done kissing, i asked him n he said that there was a girl he talked to but thats it. then i saw him again sun night and we just flirted.i didn't see or talk to him again till wednesday night, after i talked to one of my friends from his school since we go to different schools and r in diff. grades and turns out he had a gf the whole time and said all i was was the girl that kept his pimp hand strong. he has no clue i know this but what do i do?? i really care about him..
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I know it may feel like you reallly care about him, but let him go. if hes gonna have a girl the whole time then hes not worth your time! be strong and dont let him pull you down...play hard to get and completely blow him off...works everytime..he'll be calling you, WANTING YOU BACK!
623004
I'm having that EXACT same problem right now with a guy I'm hanging out with.\n\nAre you friends with him?  does he call you?  Do you hang out together?  Or are you wanting to know whether or not he is interested in doing these things with you?  Because there is a big difference, at least to me.
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Yes, I think your absolutely right about everything  you said that concerns you, your friend, and this guy. Just be glad that it wasn't you with this guy no matter how good he flirts or looks. I really feel for your friend because if she gives it up to him he's going to be gone like the wind soon afterwords. Hopefully things won't get that far for him and her, but if they do I hope that maybe she'll learn a lesson from it. You seem like a very smart girl to me. Don't ever let yourself be taken advantage of. Your worth something.
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Well gansta u should have never done it!! Dont litsen 2 ur Red Head friend on stuff like this!! She did not mean 4 it 2 go this far!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!  I think you should ask him if you guys should just be ""Friends"" and if he still goes to far tell him about your boyfriend tell him he asked u out and that you  and him have SO much in comon!! He will understand cuz he really cares 4 u!!\n****(Aarons Party)****  sry just had 2 put that!!
335193
I would be a little worried, but don't over-react. Ask him and this girl *separately* about how they know each other, and compare their stories. If they don't match up, then confront him about it, calmly, making sure that he knows you aren't upset, just a little concerned.
10516
I think he must be hanging out with my ex-boyfriend because he did the same thing. Only problem ... I let him get away with it for longer than I'm willing to admit. Girl, I'm sure you are so sweet, smart and better than him. Just move on. I know I should take my own advice at times.. lol. This guy is doing one of two things or two of two things. He's either 1. Terribly immature and doesn't want to appear "whipped" in front of his buddies - AKA "Bro's before Ho's theory...or 2. Cheating and trying to keep you at the same time. AKA- having his cake and eating it, too. Either way, pls dump him,go out this weekend and forget about his immature, childish, sick, evil ass. Boys like him deserve to wake up with nothing but themselves,cheap beer and their dumb buddies drooling on them.
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Try talking to him again. It just might be that he's never really kissed a girl before and he is to embarrassed to tell you. Could be he just dosen't want to let you down. Be kind and help the guy out. If you've been togeather for a year or more he must care alot about you. Men at times have a fragile ego.
538304
Well, as an MUNER, I've seen this happen. It's lucky that you were admin because if that note had been confiscated, there would be consequences. Anyways, you are right in asking him straight off would scare him. You don't really know this guy, do you? It seems like 2 or 3 weeks at most  and you already say he's NOT the player type. Maybe he is. If he really liked you, he would have called. This guy is not a perfect gentleman as he hasn't fulfilled his promise to call. I think he's keeping you as a safety as he flirts with you online but not in a more meaningful way. He maybe interested in another girl. There are other guys out there. Good luck.
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Yeah... it could be love and it might not be. But my advice to you (trust me), since you're still a teenager, just be his friend. Don't talk about love with him. Forget he has a girlfriend and just talk to him like you are talking to one of your girlfriends. No teenage guy is ready for a big commitment so even if you are currently his girlfriend, it won't last... but if you are just friends, you have a much better chance of still keeping in touch 10 years from now and him winning your trust than his current girlfriend. And this might get him to finally realize you have always been there for him. I hope you get my point ( and I hope you take my advice)
200942
Alright, he could have just gone through puberty you know? so, after all that he just get a little confused.. like all of us girls do.. so, give him some time and let him know that u still want to be his friend.. i think it would be best not to confront him being weird and everything, guys dun usually talk about their feelings..\n\nAnother answer would be simply he likes u.. yeah, really. someone once told me that when a guy starts ignoring and acts all different with a girl, that means he likes her and is trying to see if the girl would go after him. So,it's up to u girl, whether to respond or not..\n\nOr... another suggestion is that he may have some inner problem, his family, his friends and other stuff. Maybe he's going through some peer pressure, or he's trying to find out his identity in this world. Usually, ppl like this tends to be a bit withdrawn.. Same answer, give him some time and still let him know you just want to be friends.\n\nI hope this helps! Good luck!
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I went through the same thing this past summer. The result: we're still friends, and I want him more than ever. I wish I had gone out with him when I had the chance. \nI was afraid of ruining our friendship because hes never had a girlfriend for very long. You should let him know. there shouldnt be a secret like that between you.
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his actions are not those of a friend. Friends don't lead each other on or use each other. They don't kiss or any more so let him go before he puts you down even more. You've learnt and now you're free again to meet the real guy that's out there for you. You don't need friends that lie. What a pig!
540676
Once upon a time a girl that I hung out with told me she had a friend who saw me a lot and thought she might like me, and wanted to know what I liked in a girl to see if she might want to ask me out. I told her that I liked a girl who would talk to me, so that we could both get to know each other a little first before thinking about whether or not we should go out. \n\nSo my advice is to just talk to him and see how he responds to being around you. Since he's in most of your classes then you have plenty of opportunity and excuse to talk to him about things.\n\nEdit: Concerning your additional details.\n\nIf I had to make an educated guess from what you wrote I would say that he does like you and would like to spend some time with you outside of school. You paint him as being smart enough on his own, so he isn't trying to be near you so that he can use you to get good grades. And he is trying to point out things you have in common, like the answers, to show that you two are compatable.
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looks like you've gotten some good advice already.  \nlooks like ya done made your move too.\n\ni'm sure you done right by getting rid of him, especially if he became rebelious or defensive or even if he acted like you were the nut.\n\ni'm gonna assume that ya (now x-) bf was at least within 10 years of your age.  now with that info, i ask you to think for a minute... has he been stand-offish, less attentive, communication getting (well,) different maybe even less, then it was best to jump out now.  after all ya not kids any more in high school playing with teenage emotions.\nbut.....\n\nif things haven't changed to the worest or haven't been getting boreing, then maybe this guy is telling the truth or maybe he does like the name andrew or maybe he does have a gay attraction, that maybe he, himself hasn't realalized.\n\n\nnaaah...  stick with the breack-up and find you a real man that doesn't want to play headgames, because that is exactly what he's doing to you.  i'm sorry if it hurts your heart/feelings, but it's better now than a few months or years down the road.
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so technically you're just friends with benefits until he figures out what he wants to officially do with you. he's definitely into you, and you're definitely into him, but the relationship ain't happenin (been there)!!! it's excellent that you have separate lives...so maybe eventually you two will make it official someday. i wouldn't rush him, he definitely has a crush on you. go with the flow since you both just came out of bad break-ups. maybe you both feel the comfort of having each other during this healing process and a new serious relationship is the last thing on his mind, you know how guys are...
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Depending on what state you live in, a romantic relationship with this man could result in jail time for him. If you truly care about him, then keep that in mind. No hanky panky -- and that could even include kissing in some states -- until you are legally old enough for it.\n\nAt your age, take it slow girl and get to know this guy. And keep in mind, there's lotsa fish in the sea, and you've got many many years ahead of you to find the right fish for you. This young man will understand if he truly cares for you, and he won't rush you into any kind of sexual relationship that you aren't ready for yet.\n\nAlso, really think about what you want in a long-term relationship and evaluate this guy against that. Don't look only at how he treats you, look at how he treats others, especially people who he might consider powerless such as waiters. That's a pretty good clue how he will someday treat you when the glamor and romance has worn off.\n\nAs for your friend, only you can tell whether the guy is worth the friendship, but if you want to remain friends with her, you have to be honest with your friend and tell no lies. Lies will make her feel like you aren't her friend and don't have her best interests at heart.
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You telling him about the kiss made him jealous, which he responded by allowing a girl to give him head.  Guys like to feel that they are the best.  By you showing attention to another man, he felt less important to you and responded the only way he knew how.  If he is the kind of guy that will try to hurt your feelings every time you hurt his then you should not date, and definitely shouldn't be friends.  I would start dating him casually and let the trust build from there.  The only sad thing is, is that if this does not work out then you are probably going to lose a friend.