My husband still doesn't like to talk about my work and won't tell me why. Any ideas?
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It takes dedication to put your life on the line for some one else. Can you put a value on that? Some folks think we are over paid. They think we sit around all day drinking coffee and eating do-nuts and other things. I have retired from law enforcement and have another job now, making twice the money I was. But I enjoyed what I did before because I felt I was helping my community and the children coming up.My kids had a hard time in school because there Dad was a cop. My wife deserved better because I was gone a lot. No police work is not worth what you are paid, but the satisfaction of doing some thing to help some body else is. Maybe we should ask the Question "What does a police officer do for our community and kids?"
586348
most likely he was raised  thinking it is normal to  talk about these things... ...... they say for better or worse... welcome to worse....lol... well you can tactfully tell him, that you are uncomfortable discussing these details, and if that don't work,  when you get your menses , give him a play by play.. that will  hopefully  wake him up...
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They are saying you don`t matter enough to me to be kind and understanding!There is a possibility your husband is mad about something you don`t even know happened and needs to discuss it with you in a reasonable kind fashion.Also at certain ages some men louse sexual drive,he may be embarrassed and is hiding it with avoidance and anger.I would lean towards keeping a close eye on his activities and try to find out what he is so interested in other than his hot wife.There are some real weird people out there and it is amassing how well they can hide there deviant behavior.An acquaintance of mine, husband,liked little girls and left her alone one to many times and she found out.Here is a good rule for married people,if you can`t show your spouse what you are doing on your computer you most likely should`nt be doing it.Get some help ask a counselor in the mental health dept.of a clinic or hospital. Do it,DO IT NOW!
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I think you are already worried or you wouldn't have asked the question on here. I do not think this is appropriate at all. Your husband should tell them, I'm married now and I don't think it is a good idea to "keep in touch". NO WAY are you being childish, your being smart.
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If you're happily married for 10 years without sitting down to discuss finances, you should be ANSWERING the questions. \n\nIf you can manage to keep your finances straight without having a big discussions and occasional resentment, than you should share your secrets with the rest of us hapless strugglers.
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Your relationship is heading towards doom if this can't be resolved...If you think your opinion is not acceptable to him, just do say anything for the sake of peace.  Speak only if it brings favor on the situation.  I think your husband should also be counseled coz he seemed narrow-minded, if you can't afford to tell him as he will get mad, ask the help from people close to him without jeopardizing your name. Goodluck!
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I have to agree with groovy.  Maybe his constant asking needed to be addressed.  Just apologize for the way you addressed it and talk it through.  Have a small gift from the heart that will answer that question from now on so that it never has to be said and your relationship can continue to move on.
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I think you and hubby need to have an open, honest heart to heart. When he complains about your "cool" behavior tell him, it's easier for you to be more attentive and affectionate when he is treating you with the same loving care. It is possible that he has some under lying problems that he needs to talk about, there may be some changes that he is looking for in the relationship....Just go to him and listen with an open mind. Find out what both of you are missing from the relationship, and make good effort to be sure to do those things...spend some one on one time with each other, doing things you both enjoy, maybe even discover a new hobby together....enjoy loving each other again. We all hit rough patches in our marriages, we just have to work through them.\nGood Luck....you can email me if you need someone to talk to .\n\n\n**** wanted to add after seeing all the cheating answers that yes, they might be a possibility, but I think there would be other signs if that were going on....and This type of behavior doesn't always equal cheating!! Like I said he might just want a little change in the relatioship, or have other problems he needs to work out or talk about.  **** DON'T JUMP TO ANY CONCLUSIONS that could make matters worse, but keep your eyes open. ****
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They definitely like it, it lets them know that they're doing their job well. Men like to have their ego stroked so go ahead and make some noise. If he hasn't said anything about it, it probably doesn't bother him.
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IN my experience, in talking to other men, even though they love their wives and families, being at the job is less of a hassle.\nPlus if he loves what he does, then that is also a motive.\n\nDon't take it too personally, but it might not be a bad idea to discuss it openly with him, and ask if there is something you can do to make your home more 'inviting' to him.  \n\nALso, you will get the TYPICAL cynical, "he's cheating" crap from several of these negative people on here.  That is possible in any relationship, not just someone working "overtime".\n\nJust a suggestion.  I hope it works out for you..
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He is basically an insensitive jerk. You and your hubby are one unit, if one gets hurt so does the other. He publicly displayed an argument the two of them had online, you are right to not trust him because if he gets in an argument with you he'll probably be putting stuff online about you as well.  Venting his  frustrations with your husband's  is acceptable but he chose such a public forum that you obviously had access to, which makes that unacceptable. Since he and your hubby are determined to be friends again, the best you can do is to simply remain polite to him but don't confide in him ever. Good luck.
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Some men just don't know how to that. It isn't something that they need for themselves so it is hard to remember to do it for others. Ask him to write some of the things he thinks for you on paper. Then you take the list. It isn't as nice as him actually saying it but it does help. My husband is terrible at compliments. He tries but it never comes out right. I've found this to work better.
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I think that you should talk to him and ask him what is bothering him?. How long has he been accusing you of this?. Did something happen lately that made him start acting like that?. How long have you been married?. The first year it the toughest so hang in there and just try to be open and honest with him. communication is very important, i have been married for almost 19 years and i can tell you communication is very important
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i dont think it is a big deal ur husband is right he wont remember but boy thats gonna be fun when people come over lol but he will stop doing stuff after he gets bored everytime he does this make him stop by gettin him sidetracked then he will forget bout it sooner or later\nhave a great day
298105
NO dont tell your husband!!! It will only create an argument and make him even more irate and jealous!!! If you want to keep your marriage then i would recommend putting a halt to the steamy make out sessions with this co-worker. But if you are legally seperated and headed for divorce then what you do in your own time is your business.
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Your boss wants you and will do anything to make you leave your husband.. obviously hes a sick man. I would suggest keeping your private life private and only discussing professional matters at work. If it continues, complain higher up, or file a hostile work environment complaint with the HR department.
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I'm going to say YES!!! I think his boss feels like she & work should be his first priority. She is jealous of you.If it continues or escalates to sexual harrasment your husband should report her or put in a transfer request.Be Blessed!! Monica