Yeah..I do chores every weekend, I get good grades, and I dont get into big trouble. Yet....my parents still wont let me go to places with friends. I've never slept over a friends house in my life and Im sick of being home with my parents! I just dont know what to do to gain their trust...and whenever I ask my mom if I could hang out with friends, she comes up with an excuse. What should I do?
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They must trust you pretty well if they are letting you roam around on the internet unsupervised.
531951
First of all, nobody needs "friends" that insult or ridicule.  You are better off without them.   Find friends that are your friends.  Get away from the fake people.  You will be happier even if it means being alone.  Find good, honest, well meaning friends.  You can do this.  Also, your parents are probably afraid that you will have sex or do drugs.  You should be too.  Please, please, please, make the right decisions.  Sometimes the things we do today can affect us forever!!!! This is a fact.  Do good. Be honest. Work hard to make good grades and be your best.  Study.  Make plans and have goals.  Have a teacher that you can talk to.  Teachers care. Teachers care.  So find one you can ask questions or even your school counselor.  Please be your best. Your school is so important.  Best wishes.
258237
i'm 18 and my parents are STILL the ones controlling my life. i used to think the way you do. but now i'm slowly realizing that parents know best. they're only acting the way they do coz they love us and they want to protect us.  when i was 17, my parents found out that i had a boyfriend and they asked me to break up with him. although i didn't want to, i broke up with the guy and followed my parents' advice. i was sooo depressed. then one day, i heard news that my friend got pregnant. and then a month after that another friend of mine got pregnant and what's worse, she was left by her boyfriend. so i thought, it could have happened to me. (although i know that it could NEVER happen to me coz i think im responsible enough. hehe..) but you know how much we teeenagers fall in love. we're a crazy bunch..\n\nyour mom is not controlling you. she's just 'dominating' you in a way coz she wants the best for you. i suggest you show her that you're doing good in school, that you're obeying them, and that you're doing your resposibilities well to prove to them that you're a grown up now. the next time you two disagree, better discuss things between the two of you. and remember, be polite as possible whenever you're presenting some suggestions. she's your mom after all.\n\ntrust me, everything's gonna be fine. i'm just a teenager like you..who thinks i can do it on my own..but still goes back to "mommy!!!" when something's wrong. hehe.. :)
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Well, I would try talking to your parents. If that doesn't work, then just kinda create an "escape" for yourself. Participate in lots of extracurricular activities in school--you'll meet lots of friends that way and you'll be so busy that you won't even have to worry about that other stuff! :)
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Do not loose yourself to tensions my sister. If already nothing has gone wrong, try to get a job first. Be positive. When you have a job you will have some authority. Then it would be easier for you to convinvence your parents. Parents too love you more than anything. Therefore you will succeed no doubt. Good luck.
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Got Parents ??? Use them, thats why they're there. Otherwise talk to a trusted adult. Don't rely on your friends for misinformation.
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Homeschoolers do have a social life.  Just because you aren't in school with them doesn't mean you can't see your friends outside of school.\n\nThere are also sports and clubs you can be involved with.\n\nIf you can't keep up in school, ask your school counselor for an appointment and discuss the problems you are having.  Could you possibly have a learning disability?  Need help being organized and having time for homework and study? \n\nWhatever the problem is, homeschooling may or may not help. Have you discussed the problems with your parents?  Are they considering homeschooling you?  It's a big task for a parent to take on.  I know, because I did it all the way through high school. It was worth it and I would do it all over again.  But you didn't mention your parents or how they feel about it.\n\nDo not worry about socialization.  Just because you are homeschooled does not mean you never get out of the house.  That is up to you!\n\nAgain, seek a conference with your school counselor and see if you issues can be resolved.  Discuss all options with your parents as well.  I hope you all can come to an agreement and a plan to do what is best for you.\n\nBest Wishes,\n\nSue
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If she has good grades, why is she always sneaking out of the house? Is there a certain problem she is facing right now? She could be missing you or doing things that she isn't supposed to. Tell ur mom when she calls again to look for a counsel group for kids that are facing the same problem like her. I hope this helps, good luck
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there not being mean but it is not there fault your missing out. Invite them over to your house... if you mom would allow it. \n\nas a friend you cant expect them to only talk about things when your around.... so it is only natural that you will miss some stuff... you cant be in every convo even if your mom did let you go... your learning a valuable lesson in sharing, gotta learn how to share friends too.\n\nIf there really your friends they will be there no matter what, even if you dont know the inside jokes...
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I know exactly what you are talking about. My parents did that with me all the time at that age. I'm 21 now, and they know I am free to do what I need to do, but every once in a while they act like they don't want me to go. I can tell you exactly what it is: Your parents are having a hard time accepting the fact that you are no longer a child, but an adult. It is normal for them to seem a little overprotective because of that, they just want the best for you, no matter what your age is, and they still want to be acknowledged as important in your adult life. Even with a full time job, and with my friends and boyfriend, I still try to find time with them, kind of my way of saying that I understand how they are feeling, and because they are my family, no matter what. Before you leave to go somewhere, give them a hug and tell them, "I'll get home safely. I love you. See you later!" Just let them know you appreciate them, and I promise, as you grow older the more they will continue to learn to let go. Good Luck
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All u can do is tell them that ur not doing anything at all. The only person u really have to be accoutable to is urself(and God,if ur religious). I know it's hard to ignore all the gossip and rumors, but that is where fresh air comes into play. It's always good to clear ur head. IF it's possible, let ur parents know where u go when ur not at home(if it won't get u in trouble). When u are out of the house, and on ur own(especially if u get hitched), that kind of gossip will stop(I assume).\n\nMy own relatives think I'm a skank(In my culture, dating isn't allowed), and my parents believe a lot of what they hear. The only advice I get from people is to go on with my life and deal with it. People who gossip are bored, and they want exitement and drama in their own lives, so ur the scapegoat. Others are miserable in their own lives and want company. I know it's hard, but try to be happy no matter what, and one day, God will see ur pain and deliver u from it. Good Luck!
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it would really help to know your age, or if you are still in school. As long as you live in your parent's house they make the rules. It's usually for the best.  Unless you are being abused in some way at home you must abide by house rules. The soccer thing is really extreme. Can your Mom do anything to help you? Or maybe the coach could call your Dad about you being on the team. Also do you have a counselor at school you can talk to, or a good teacher? They can be very helpful. Best wishes to you. I hope you have a great life!
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It sounds like moms got your life all planned out all nice and neat for you doesn't it? I really hate to say it, but I am. This is like so totally typical of concerned parents, myself as well. What I have learned thus far from parenting teenagers is:\n\n1.) Don't sweat the small stuff. Meaning, it's their room and if they want to live in a pig sty, WHO CARES!!! If they can't find their favorite flip-flops because there is 8 ft. of clothes and crap on the floor, they have no one to blame but themselves! And us as parents are free of accepting the blame.\n\n2.) Let your kids pick their own careers. My mom wanted me to be a nurse to. Oh my God, did she want me to be a nurse! Me? If I saw blood I barfed. Not a good quality to possess if you have to work in the ER. Things would go from bad to worse in a matter of minutes, if I had a career such as that. I wanted to own a curiosity shop at the end of town. Nothing glamorise, just something to call mine. KEY POINT PARENTS: You can lead the horse to water, but you can't make them drink.\n\n3.) Don't push money over love. That just makes my skin crawl. Being financially responsible to pay for your bills, and have enough left over to eat, drive, play a little. What's wrong with that? It looks to me, that the people I see swimming in cash are lacking in a very vital organ. A FUNCTIONING BRAIN. I would much rather live in a card board box behind a gas station, then sponge off my parents investments and carry a chiuawa under my arm.\n\n4.) Ease up on the curfews, folks. That is UNLESS your teen has proved that they cannot be trusted. Then by all means, tug on the reigns till they get the message that when you say 11pm, you mean 11:00pm standard time, not 11:00am the next day or central time or in Pakistan. Whatever the excuse may be, and by golly, they can come up with some doosies. As long as their homeworks done, they have been in good standings with the family and they haven't broke too many laws, whynot bump up their stay out time? If it's their safety your worried about, send a cell phone with them. You may have a couple calls on there that you wern't expecting, but oh well. At least you can find them at all times. \n\nWell, my dear, share this with your mom and keep an open mind. All in all, she is your mom and it sounds like she cares about you a whole lot. Your very lucky....(yea, yea, yea I know what your thinking!) But us parents do strange funky old fashioned stuff because we care about you little brats. We just want to raise you to the point where you can function in society without drooling down your fronts, and then you on your own.........
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you are so sweet!  most kids don't see things the way you seem to.  now, i don't have any of my own, but since i am someone's (now adult) child, i think i can give you a few suggestions.  first of all, while it may not be your responsibility to take care of your mother (or anyone else in your family), it is nice that you want to help out.  nothing wrong with that.  now, maybe you can start helping with laundry or other chores.  if you already do help at home, then maybe you can talk to some of your other relatives to see if  they are willing to talk with your mom and get her some help.  or at least give your mom a break by hanging out with you kids (or just you, if you're an only child) while she spends some time alone.  if you want to get her a gift, i'm sure she'll love anything from you.  maybe something for the bath, or some relaxing music?  good luck, and i hope you and your family realize what a good daughter you are:)
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first of all you are 13 why try to be a grown up so fast...and untill you work and buy your own cloths whats wrong with you changing your school cloths....you might have a lot of friends.. but none of your friends will have your back like your parents...when you need them they will be there ....your friends wont ...and as for the boys that like you when you wind up pregnant you will only have your family to stand by you.... you might not see it but your parents are only thinking of your best intrest....and you are making it hard on you and them....you wont to play grown up try listening  and doing what they say ....that would be handling things in a grown up manner..
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Maybe you could invite a friend over. Maybe you could talk to someone you trust about your fear of going over a mile away from your house. You could look into school activities or programs where you could meet other kids. I hope you will improve your life. You are the only one who can :)
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I feel ya. While on one hand, that's a good thing, it is hard when you have overprotective parents. Try talking to them. Don't whine, complain, or beg; just ask them what they need from you so that they can feel you are safe and you can have a chance to exercise your ability to make good choices on your own. They might surprise you with their willingness to listen to a mature discussion, and that alone may impress them with your maturity. Offer to call from wherever you are, or to carry a cell phone, and remember to make those calls. Parents need contact like fish need water. :)  Other than that, just be sure to make mature choices in your daily activities, choices that show your trustworthiness and responsibility (do your work at home and at school, keep up your personal appearance, enthusiastically seek ways to improve your education and future). \n\nRegards,\n~Tia~