...from the personals ads.  I'm upset and think he's a piece of sh*t.  He says he wasn't writing to them.  Then why is it that he has the ads cut and pasted onto his computer?  \n\nI can't trust him.  He has a history of lying about stupid things.  This certainly doesn't help.  We're breaking up anyway.  \n\nAm I over reacting to this?
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Good for you if you were loyal. It is better to find out this things early in a relationship that late on. Now you can move on to a real partner.\n\nThe way you feel is the way you feel. There is nothing wrong or right in it.
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If those weren't red flags to you, I don't know what would have been.  How much more obvious can it be, than for the man to TELL you he's "not nice" and "immature"?  You should have listened.\n\nI'll give him points for honesty, though he sounds like a big jerk.
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Maybe he didn't expect his ex to attempt to hack into his account?? Just a thought! Whether he goes on porn sites is no longer any of your business, and I doubt he still loves you with no contact... I don't wish to be cruel, but it's time you tried to move on.
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I cannot agree or disagree with him.  I was not present during all of those 4 to 5 months that the couple was dating.  He says he never promised her to get into a serious relationship, but did he ever tell her that?  Did he just lead her on for the sex?  Did she ever ask him what his intentions were?  Did she just assume that because they were having sex that the relationship was serious (or would lead to more commitments)?\nAnd what business is this of yours (unless the woman was your sister)?\n... and don't you just hate it when somone answers a question with a bunch of questions?
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Well I'm sorry to say this but she shouldn't have trusted him this much. I know she was so crazy for him because he was her firest bf even though she had never met him in person. You are her real friend and I think it's true that she never had any bf before, but what about him? He could have just lied to her about whatever he said. Maybe she wasn't this guy's first gf. Maybe he was playing around with her online after all just for fun. Then she started to get serious, which probably made him upset, so he just changed his phone # and everything to get rid of her. \nI'm so sorry to say this but there's nothing you guys can do. He doesn't love her as she does. It's just gonna annoy him if you try hard to find his new phone # and contact him to tell how much she loves him and wants him back. \nSorry...but I believe she learned something from this experience.
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If you know his name, then you know he's on the sites, right? If you know why are you still with him. Obviously he doesn't respect you enough to pull his profiles from those sites. If he saw the relationship lasting he wouldn't have a need to further use these sites. For your happiness, ditch his cheating *ss!! Good luck!!
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he s a JerK.. and you are a S|_UT! you are both sick!! did you read the stupid silly question you typed here??\n "im plotting to meet some one and have a real affair with them not some fling im talking maybe fall in love with the other person"\n "now i just have to get out and find that other person"\nYou are SCUM!\nok..excuse.. im going to puke and will be back in a minute\np.s: poor kid
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I'm confused.. When you say you were speaking to other men.. is that all then? I don't see anything wrong w/that. You say tho 'he stayed w/me' and I don't know why he wouldn't (if it was just conversation.) You say he had a secret relationship.. was it sexual? You two both sound kind of jealous/possessive.. I mean I am basing this on the assumption there was nothing sexual involved in any of this. (If there was, that's a different story..) Let me see here.. He treats you like crap.. I take it that's the real issue on hand here.. I think men are kind of like babies (I'm married to one.. lucky me..) or they want their cake/ to eat it too.. they want us to cook and clean (and spread 'em) but on the other hand they want their 'freedom' to screw around on us at the same time. (We can't do anything along the same line tho..) that sux, right? He stayed because he's been with you and while the other gal's 'something new/exciting & different' you're the one he's 'used to living with' I am thinking. (Hell, this is depressing me!!) Hey, I DO think you've got value/self worth, dont' get me wrong! I'm just kinda bitter about men is all.. It sounds like my marriage of l4 years (boring.. I'm bored..) My ole man's an asshole (cuts me down) and then developed (or so he claims) e.d. so he tries to do the oral thing (doing me 'one big goddamned favor') on me for sex (but it's wearing thin or gettin' old I mean.. fast..) I want to dump him too.. (I think you want to dump THIS guy..) do it!! that's my 'valuable' advice for ya
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He could be lying, or maybe they watch it on the internet, cos he's over there shouting his mouth off about it, so maybe they can download it? But my guess..... He's lying....lol
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Honey,\nI was in the same spot as you once before. I didn't like it. I didn't brake up with him. He wasn't cheating on me either. My online boyfriend broke his leg and was in the hospital for a few weeks. When I found out I was so freakin sad. I felt bad because I sent him e-mails and told him to stop cheating on me and I totally jumped to conclusions. I have never ever done that after what happened those few weeks. I hope you find out that he is not cheating and that he e-mails you and I hope that you and him  have a good lasting realationship.\nGood luck- babe
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Honey, walk away.  He's just not being truthful and that is what you should be worried about.
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If those posts are fairly recent on the fotolog, then the answer is simple: leave him! His friends may not even know what he's doing because he knows it is wrong and that it would get back to you. I would ask him about it, fotologs are public right? So, you wouldn't be digging in his private stuff. But he may lie to you. If you have to question your relationship, it probably is best to move on and find someone that will write love poems to you.
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You sure he hacked it?  Maybe he's with your ex-girlfriend now and she let him use it.  Maybe you are the one bothering your ex-girlfriend and she let him get onto her messenger to tell you to take a hike.  This is a very very one sided story and I have a feeling you are not exactly innocent.
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Good thing you aren't together any more... That story has the makings of a good episode of 20/20 or Prime Time Live!\n\nSome people crave sympathy. They'll go to any lengths to get it. \nThis man really needs help. \nI just hope he's not one of those con artists that marries women and takes everything they own and disappears.\n\nGlad you're rid of him.
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Oh get a grip woman!  He stated the guy is a true friend...not that he wants to bang him.  Would you had been bothered if he wasn't gay and had your fiance's picture on his page?  What diff does it really make?  Lets say he did want to bang your fiance...why would that matter?  IF your fiance is not gay NONE of it matters.  Get over it.
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As I understand the situation, he can't get on these sites without YOUR laptop? Take your laptop to work with you. \nHow much time has he ever spent on the internet? If it is not much, then I guess it is natural to try dating sites. Poeple who are not on it think that's all it's used for...that and porn. You say he just got a job as a truck driver...In my opinion that means he doesn't have time to go online and flirt with girls anymore. That IS what he was doing. He was flirting with girls. Maybe he needed a confdence booster or something. As a man, I would think that a long-haul truck driver might be led to cheat (for real, cuz flirting online is far from cheating) because he spends so much time away from home. This does not mean he loves you any less, just that he got tired of his hand. \nThe internet thing, I would suggest you let it slide. It is more harmless than flirting with someone at the office. Odds are he will never meet any of those ladies, but as a truck driver, I might worry about the ladies he does meet. I'm not trying to freak you out, and I'm not suggesting you leave him, just pay attention. He calls you every day, that is commendable, especially scince he doesn't have his own cell phone. Now, you gotta pay attention to waht he says on the phone, like where he is, or what the weather is like, These kind of things you can look up to find out if he's lying. If he says he's in Denver, and that it's snowing, all you gotta do is look up the current weather conditions in Denver to see if he's lying. I hope this gives you some peace of mind and I wish you the best.
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I spent 10 years with my first love who did NOTHING but accuse me of cheating. Even after two kids and finalizing my faithfullness with MARRIAGE (which I regreat every day of my existance) YOU dont have to do a DAMN thing to prove that you are what you are, faithfull and a proud mom. Look at how awesome you are with providing for your kids no matter what curve ball life throws your way. It took me to 6 years to stop my putting up with his claims and accusations that I finally dusted myself up one day and realized, (1)How the Hell am I going to keep on putting up with this and (2) why would I put my kids through this? They are such incredible sponges and you are their role in relationships, family and love. My last straw was relationship counseling, that brought out alot of hidden insecurities that I never knew he had as well as shed some light onto several of his accusations. He actually WAS cheating for awhile and guilt wouldnt let him life it down. After 2 months of "trying for the kids" I left. Me and the kids got our stuff together, I fought for full custody and I havent been happier in a long time. There is a sole mate out there for you and HE will FIND YOU, not that you have to force it to happen just because you had kids with the guy. That is the worst reasons. You are making it alone (emotionally, and financially) you can do it without the added pressure of his stupidity. I have all the faith and prayer in the world on your side and you can get through this. You wont be alone, You will be Happy and Stress Free With Your KIDS. They need you. How old is your youngest? How old is your oldest? Dont hesitate contacting me for questions or advice. My heart goes out to you. PrncssNiki@yahoo.com