i'm going to get married on november 11th of this year every time i think about being his wife and stuff i get a scared feeling...is that normal? i mean i do love him and want to marry him
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It is normal to have butterflies before the marriage.  You are embarking on a new adventure with lots of unknowns.  Just enjoy this time in your life, with all the plans, parties, and all of it.  If you love him and he loves you, all will be well in the end.
86461
It's called commitment and it's very natural to have a sense of fear.  Some people are afraid that things will change dramatically when the marry and they do.  The key is to try and keep moments of being carefree and remember this is a union and so it is something to be worked at by both.  Make sure he knows of your fears of things changing and try and work together to keep things the way they were when you were just dating...Keep on dating even after marriage.
432588
Had many of the same feelings when I first met my fiance.  Luckily they have subsided a bit and am now more able to lead a more "normal" life.  I still do think of her quite often and by no means does it mean that I think or respect he any less.  It's just that the initial honeymoon stage has worn off, took about 2 years and so am a little more grounded now.  Best of luck to you and yours.
360344
Absolutely!! What girl doesn't dream of getting married and starting a family!! I think for the most part, most girls want that at one point or another! Sometimes, it happens early for some than it does earlier!! And going to a wedding and seeing the new couple together can make anyone excited for that type of committment! But it sounds like you have your head on your shoulders and know you don't want it yet, but yes, you are normal!! We all want the fairytale!! :-)
222192
As long as your excited about being married you have nothing to worry about. Try focusing on your wedding as a party instead of a "wedding." Think of it as a great time that you get to spend with friends and family, dancing, eating and having fun. That way, the actual "wedding" won't seem as tedious to you.
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I THINK HE LOVES YOU BUT MAYBE Y'ALL SHOULD JUST POSTPONE THE WEDDING UNTIL MAYBE YOU'LL CAN GET BOTH FAMILY'S TO GET ALONG. MY OPINION THE SHOULD NOT PUT THEIR NOSE IN WHERE IT DON'T BELONG. I COULD UNDERSTAND IF ON OF YOU WAS BEING ABUSIVE TO OTHER. IF YA LL REALLY LOVE EACH OTHER THEN YA LL NEED TO SIT FAMILIES DOWN AND TELL THE THAT Y'ALL ARE GETTING MARRIED ON////// DATE. AND THERE IS NOTHING THEY CAN DO ABOUT IT CAUSE Y'ALL LOVE EACH OTHER AND WANT TO SPEND THE REST OF YALLS LIFE TOGETHER. MAKE SURE YOU REALLY EXPRESS HOW MUCH IT WOULD MEAN TO Y'ALL FOR BOTH SIDES OF THE FAMILY TO BE THERE FOR YAWLS BIG DAY...I DO PRAY FOR Y'ALL, Y'ALL SHOULD PRAY TOGETHER ON THIS SITUATION God DOES ANSWER PRAYERS, IF YOU REALLY OPEN YOUR HEART TO HIM. I HOPE THIS HELPS. GOOD LUCK AND god bless you !!!!!
615200
I think your feelings are totally normal. You should wait until you feel is right. If you still have some doubts or fears hanging around don't do anything. If you want to make your first time special, wait until it feels right.\n\nI also strongly recommend to you talking about those fears with your boyfriend. Talking about those will help both to understand where you are at.\n\nWhatever you do, please do it with the full awareness.You do not want to remember your first experience with sadness or doubts.
319326
Rather than just coming out and saying "that's not going to happen," my opinion would be to try and try and try again.  What better gift can a future spouse receive than you on your wedding night - with a commitment that you have chosen to become pure - again - for this night only.  It is perfectly OK to start making that commitment now.  Buy yourself a purity/commitment ring and wear it on your ring finger and really try each day to live out that commitment.  Believe me, it will change your life =)  My opinion:  Wait until marriage!!!  Best wishes =)
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I had a best friend from college.  He was the DJ in my first wedding.  I was a bridesmaid in his first wedding. He was at the hospital the day my twins were born. 15 years later, after we were both divorced, he finally kissed me.  I asked him what took so long and he said he was afraid because he didn't know how I felt abou him!  After 5 years of dating,we got married in Las Vegas and we willhave our 2nd anniversary 8/31/2006! I am so lucky to be married to my best friend. GO FOR IT!
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Love is an action as much as a feeling. Show your WHOLE family how you feel and you can't go wrong.\n  My daughter got married March 3rd. We are very close and it has been a challenge. She & her husband invited mom & Dad to help them get their new place how THEY want it inside & out! We are having a great time getting to know her new husband even better and feeling useful too. We also have them over for cook outs and to help us rearrange our home. \n  This isn't easy for any of us and learning to give eachother space can be just as important as keeping eachother close. I'm relearning much about my husband as we finally get alone time we haven't had for years!!! Just remember your loved and this is your chance to pass on to your husband all the love and caring your parents taught you. Love is always the answer!
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You wanna know something, my husband was fine till we picked the date. Then he was all like ok here I go this is for real. One the day of our wedding (we did it at the court house)He was all excited, he called everyone to remind them what today was the big day. I was the one who got cold feet and if it wasn't for my maid of honor I would have bolted.
340636
this is not all to uncommon and trust me you are not alone. when i first got together with my fiancee, she was pretty full on. kinda scared me a bit, but i thought she was amazin too. after a couple of months a had a word with her bout it. she just said she had never felt that way before and didnt want to lose that. i told thats ok, maybe we should just slow down and she did. 3 years later we are engaged to get married next year. your relationship is not doomed, but you are gonna have to talk to him bout it.
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This is not unusual. Marriage is a big step, and if you have any insecurities, it's not a surprise that they come out when you take such a big plunge.\n\nYou need to examine your feelings. Do some journaling: Why do you think you will hurt him? How, specifically, do you feel you will hurt him? Once you can clarify the specifics, you can make a plan to prevent it.\n\nDepending on how well you communicate with your spouse, you may even want to share some of your fears with him. If he is supportive, he can help you by giving you "reality checks."\n\nDr. Barb Nefer, http://www.bnlifeskills.com
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that's an absolute possibility. i've been in a meaningless crappy relationship that lasted 4 months and I have issues trusting guys with my heart. it's hard. i dream of marriage. but fear is gonna hold me back. also it's really easy to get lost in a dreamed up future....but when reality hits ya it can leave you a bit confussed and get you wondering "is this what i really want?"\n\n~hope I could help, and good luck!
643138
You can look at it two ways.  Before you were married is before you made a commitment to each other or if he did it once he will do it again.  Not to make you feel worse than you already do, I have been where you are and thought it was before and dosn't count  believe me a leopard doesn't change his stripes and the first time is the hardest.  If it happened once it will happen again.  Learned it the hard way  D
121812
I married the perfect guy, but I still feel something for the man I was suposed to marry. I've contact him after 11 yrs and he is still mad at me, besides we have an ocean between us, and I dont want to leave my hubby! wilmary69@yahoo.com
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I know what you are probably feeling- nothing is wrong, but it scares you to think that maybe something bad could happen to your relationship.  I think it's a normal thing, but what I try to do is not think about that possibility and focus on the present, focus on how wonderful things are, and not think about the 'what-ifs'.