Sometimes I hate my Best friend. She betrayed me and our other best friend. I want to be friends with her but I can't trust her. We pretend nothing happened but I don't think I can anymore. It is killing me that I can't scream at her and tell her to stop lieing and stop asking me to pretend she didn't betray me. Should I still be friends with her? I don't know 'cause we have been friends forever (Since kindergarden).
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All friendships have their "ups and Downs".\nIf you expect someone to be perfect and never make mistakes, you will end up very lonely.  We all stuff up and do the wrong thing from time to time.  It's our true friends who will stick with us through it though.\n\nIf you are thinking of ending the friendship, ask yourself "Have I ever done something similar?"\nIf you really can't forgive her then move on, but if you can forgive her, put it all behind you and start from here on.\nDon't keep bringing up what she did wrong, but do be more cautious until she proves herself trustworthy again.
3478
Yes, a woman with whom I was a really good friend (I will call her Jane) just turned on me and almost refuses to talk to me now. We don't live near each other anymore, so it's not as big a deal now as it once was. But I have no idea what I did or said to turn her against me. I am one who has really good relationships with people and long-term friendships. So this really took me by surprise.\n\nJane and I used to spend hours together every week and a lot of time on the phone. We were both members of the same professional association. I saw her there and she was really rude to me like I had offended her in a big way. \n\nI am still mystified by this situation and it took place nearly eight years ago. I was told, by a mutual friend who asked me about the break up that Jane had done this in other relationships. That made me feel a little less confused, but I am still saddened by the loss of what I considered a great friendship.
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Unless your friend is going through a really bad time at the moment it sounds like she is not a very good friend.\n\nThe crux of the matter is \na) do you treat anyone you consider a friend like this?  If you don't why tolorate it from someone else.\n\nb)  IF you stopped calling you wouldn't have a friendship.\n\nSpend the time you spend on her making some proper friends who will make an effort, call you back and show that they value you in their lives.
124738
Obviously she's not a friend if she treats you this way. try hanging out with someone else who is NOT ashamed of being seen with you. And if she keeps giving you attitude, stop talking to her. I'm sure you're not the only person she does this to. A TRUE friend does not treat a friend like dirt. And if she's saying lies about you then she's jealous about something. I can already tell that you are a TRUE friend, because you are willing to save this friendship with this nasty person by finding out what you can do. We need more people like you. So in answering your question, when you walk by her just smile. BIG!!
493490
I know exactly how you feel, my so called "best friend" is treating my like crap, and my other "best friend" keeps feeding her lies about me hating her, and now their both......I'm sorry, your the one posting the question, sorry. You know what, forget those dumb asses bitches. They don't know what the hell their losing, their losing a good friend, a loyal friend, a great sister, and a best friend. This world sucks, and if they think you suck, then are they really even your freaking friends!?!??!?!?!?!?!
100662
Are you one? A liar. All friends have problems but friendship is based on trust and forgiveness if she doesnt trust you and is into name calling/ talking behind your back then who needs a friend like that. Tell her she not being a good friend and discuss whatever it is that made her call you that. If that doesnt work, ignore her and find a new best friend.
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Just ask her if it was an accident, or what the deal was. You can read her face when she answers you. Remember accidents do happen. If you don't believe her just simply avoid her and move on you don't have to be rude or if you cherish her friend ship forgive her and don't believe everything she says that way you don't get hurt again. Just accept the fact she lies. It all depends  how valuable your friendship is. I had a friend like that once, she called 5 times a day, I mean I really didn't have time for all that, it got on my nerves so bad I unplugged my phone for 3 months. I finally got it out of my system and now we aren't that close, I avoid her most of the time cause I don't want to get her started again.
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Wow, that was a really long question.\n\nAnyway, here's the bottom line. If she betrays your trust like that, she's not your friend. Real friends do not do hurtful things to one another, and stealing and gossiping about your private thoughts are hurtful. I would recommend confronting her, and telling her how you feel. Tell her that what she did was wrong and that it violated the trust you once shared. Don't yell, scream, get angry or violent, or upset in any way. From what I can tell, she did what she did to get revenge, and seeing you upset is what she will want. Other than that, you should probably find a new best friend, but maybe if you tell her how you feel, she'll realize that what she did hurt you, and if she really cares about you, she'll feel sorry and hopefully apologize. I've done stupid, unkind, impulsive things to my friends, and felt terrible afterwards. If she wants a second chance, give it to her, but keep in mind that in any case, trusting her completely is probably a bad move in the future. As for wanting to leave the state, I know how that feels, but if people tease you about the gossip this false friend spread, just laugh about it, ignore them... they're not real friends. Kids can be cruel, but the best thing to do is to avoid seeking revenge, go on with your life, and don't let it bring you down. I'm sure you're a sweet person who deserves better!
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i was so unbelievably upset. i thought: how could they do this to me? i thought that they were my best friends. i talked to them and asked them why they did it. they gave a very stupid reason but i forgave them since i can't hold a grudge. a couple years later they backstabbed me again, they didn't even realize what they did wrong. those @ssholes!
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I want to say that your friend is wrong for going about it the WRONG way. She should have been honest and maybe it wouldn't feel so bad when it's happened. You have every right to feel betrayed because she was not completely honest with you. Nevertheless we all are humans and as the person before me stated, people act on their instincts. She had a crush on him, or maybe she thought she did or whatever it may be, the realization is that they're having that special thing while you're hurt from it. What I would do is move on. I'd give her my well-wishing and if I could handle being friends with her, I'd maintain contact with her. Don't fall for the "third-wheel" plots, I hate those, make sure to avoid them because you may find yourself becoming extremely angry at your friend and her not knowing it. That's all I can see myself doing in this situation is just moving on. Good luck with this.
330763
I've had the same thing happen to me and it sucks. My two best friends ever had to leave but that didn't stop our friendship. I e-mail them almost everyday and I talk to them on the phone. I haven't seen them in a long time but that never stopped our friendship. My friends moved different countries. You're lucky at least your friend is in the same country and if you want to visit you should make a plan. Things will be different but something that NEVER changes is friendship. Trust me it'll be ok.
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If your friend is really a friend and you want to salvage your friendship, I think you should sit down with her and discuss how you really feel.  You should let her know that it really upset  you when she did what she did, and that you don't relish the chance of that happening again, that it's not acceptable behavior from someone who says she's a friend.
50529
A real friend doesn't stab someone in the back. Maybe your friend is confused since you were the only one told but friendship is also based (should be) on trust also. If you confront your friend and have a good honest talk with him and if he still refuses to listen, then forget about him and ignore him. You'll find some other friend who deserves your respect. It's difficult to find a good friend but there's always someone out there for another. Good luck :)
79066
Well Think about it? Will it reuin your friendship with her or will she just hate you? Well First of all My Friend Liked me and then i never liked him I went out with him and it reuin our friendship now i hate him he is trying to be cool now but he cant. Well You should know cause it what you do not what no one else do Okay
124329
Talk and see if you are capable of forgiving.Make sure she won't get you in trouble again...And most of all listen to what your heart wants.Do you really want to be friends again?You might forgive her, but you will never forget what she did to you.
346775
You're not alone !!!! Going thru the very same thing right now ! SHE is the one that ultimately decided that things were going to end......and yet, she wants to be "friends". I say FU(K THAT!!!! Don't let me trust you, love you, believe in you (and 'us') give me hopes of a future...and then take it away and expect me to still WANT to be 'friends'....knowing that someone else is having what was supposed to be mine/ours.....!!!!!!
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I went through the same thing with my best friend. She did a complete 180, started doing drugs having sex etc. and it turned into a huge fight. I confronted her about it and told her how pissed it made me. We didn't talk for the next six months. Then slowly we began to hang out again. We are now talking and hanging out but it will never be the friendship we once had. You need to confront your friend then ignore him completely until your ready to reestablish a friendship on YOUR terms. Like I said it won't ever be what it was but you can at least save something.