1) He told his family I was his clearner!\n2) He made me drive a pickup down a range when I was learning to drive,on my own.\n3) He stopped me from going to my family reunion in the country he works in.\n4) I caught him in bed with my best friend.\n5) And I put up with that for 3 Years, I was so faithful.\n\nI suddendly left the country and now I am in the US married for 2 years and very happy.\n\nYet I think back and say, I wished I squashed you for those so many hurtful things. It's just not enough...I can't go on and forget about it.
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you know what i've put up with much worse for 5 years with my ex-boyfriend, he cheated, he humiliated, he manipulated, he made my life absolutely miserable, he almost infected me with Hep C he got from one of him lovers, i almost got raped and died because of him. And now just like you I'm in the States, married to the wonderful man with our sweet little girl. We've been married for 4 years, my family is my world and my everything. With every breath i take i thank God for what i have. And all my anger, my pain and thirst for revenge is gone now. I got cured. And i don't care any more. Once past was hunting me, eating me alive from inside, my memories and broken heart didn't let me become happy. I was the only one who suffered. Now when i let it go i'm finally HAPPY. I wish you the same
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=years ago I married a bonifide PSYCHOPATH.  Of course I didn't know it at the time he was so charming and absolutely perfect in every way.  Then the problems surfaced.  He unwillingly went to a psychiatrist who told me it would take at least 10 years of therapy to "re-wire" his brain and asked me if I would be willing to hang in there.  I said yes, anything for my husband.  Long story short..he quit seeing the psychiatrist cause he thought the doctor was trying to extort money from him, his problems got worse and we got divorced.  True story.
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I fell in love with a man who was told to leave me alone and for me to leave him alone. I went to all the local stores that he did and put up smiley face post-its. They were on his favorite movie,his brand of cigarettes,his vehicle,etc... It wasn't long until my friend seen how much I was hurting and went and asked him "what's up?" Now that we have our stories straight, we have p*ssed alot of people of by getting back together,getting married, and most of all...we are happy!
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My husband cheated on me shortly after we got together...but I did say he's my husband, right?  He swears up and down to never do it again, it's hard to forget, but I have forgiven him and am still, after 2 1/2 years trying to forget.  It's not easy, but I love him too, and don't want to let go.  He respects me for forgiving him, and since I gave him a second chance, he will be faithful to me.
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I was like your husband and one day I woke up and realised what I'd been doing to my wife (and me, and our marriage). \n\nI didn't mean to be cruel, it was a whole mix of things, stress at work, money worries, our fighting all the time, her nagging and screaming at me etc etc. I used to blame her, but she was driven to the things she did because I did absolutely nothing (except work all the hours that God sent). For me, the road back came into view the day I said to her what I'm saying to you now - i.e. "Its me, I realise it, but I am suffering too". In other words - I asked her for help and she gave it in spades.\n\nSo, somehow, get him to recognise what he's doing - but don't blame him, don't accuse, don't push him into a corner. All these things just make it worse. Try helping him (even though it rankles you) - he might just suddenly open up - and you'll be on that road back.\n\nGood luck. (We got married in 1982 and we had a troubled time from about 1990 till only a year ago - its a long road, but we're doing great now).
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from what you say you only danced with him a few times and he got your name and number and you did not give it to him. and now he comes to your house you did not say wether or not you gave him your address or if he found that to. and now he wants to marry you. Well let me tell you he is a physco. i bet you realised that already. i went to pay my electric bill i called on the phone and started talking to the man that was on the other end. we ended up starting to talk outside of his company. he lived in another state. one day he got on a plane came to my home and said he wanted to get married. i did not no what to say because i thought stalker. within two days a call came in and it was from his daughter that did not no where he went to and did not no who i was. the story finally ends when i found out he has been wanted for 10 years and in 3 different states and i worked closely with them to capture him. now he is in prison. what i am saying to you is you do not no him. why all of a sudden do you think he would become that attatched to you. you need not to worry about his feelings because you need to worry about yourself. you do not no what he really has in store for you. and i would make it clear that he is not to cantact you again and that is it. you do not need to explain anything to him. this is not your problem it is his. if he does call you again then take the steps that you told him you would. be firm and good luck
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The Helpful Wife\n\n\nA male driver is pulled over by a cop and the following conversation takes place:\nMan: What's the problem officer?\nCop: You were going at least 75 in a 55 zone.\nMan: No sir, I was going 65.\nWife: Oh Harry. You were going 80.\n(Man gives his wife a dirty look.)\nCop: I'm also going to give you a ticket for your broken tail light.\nMan: Broken tail light? I didn't know about a broken tail light!\nWife: Oh Harry, you've known about that tail light for weeks.\n(Man gives his wife a dirty look.)\nCop: I'm also going to give you a citation for not wearing your seat belt.\nMan: Oh, I just took it off when you were walking up to the car.\nWife: Oh  Harry, you never wear your seat belt.\nMan: Shut your mouth, woman!\nCop: Ma'am, does your husband always talk to you this way?\nWife: No, only when he's drunk.\n\n\nHere's another\n\n\nDeputy Gomer\n\nThe local sheriff was looking for a deputy, so Gomer - who was not exactly the sharpest nail in the bucket went in to try out for the job.\n"Okay," the sheriff drawled, "Gomer, what is 1 and 1?"\n"11" he replied.\nThe sheriff thought to himself, "That's not what I meant, but he's right."\n"What two days of the week start with the letter 'T'?"\n"Today and tomorrow."\nHe was again surprised that Gomer supplied a correct answer that he had never thought of himself.\n"Now Gomer, listen carefully: Who killed Abraham Lincoln?"\nGomer looked a little surprised himself, then thought really hard for a minute and finally admitted, "I don't know."\n"Well, why don't you go home and work on that one for a while?"\nSo, Gomer wandered over to the pool hall where his pals were waiting to hear the results of the interview. Gomer was exultant.\n"It went great! First day on the job and I'm already working on a murder case!"
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I cannot agree or disagree with him.  I was not present during all of those 4 to 5 months that the couple was dating.  He says he never promised her to get into a serious relationship, but did he ever tell her that?  Did he just lead her on for the sex?  Did she ever ask him what his intentions were?  Did she just assume that because they were having sex that the relationship was serious (or would lead to more commitments)?\nAnd what business is this of yours (unless the woman was your sister)?\n... and don't you just hate it when somone answers a question with a bunch of questions?
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--------------------------------------------------------------------------------\n\nMy wife and I have the secrets to making a marriage last...\n\nTwo times a week, we go to a nice restaurant, a little wine, good food and companionship. She goes Tuesdays. I go Fridays.\n\nWe also sleep in separate beds. Hers is in Florida, mine is in NY.\n\nI take my wife everywhere, but she keeps finding her way back.\n\nI asked my wife, "Where do you want to go for our anniversary?"\n"Somewhere I haven't been in a long time!"\nSo I suggested, "How about the kitchen?"\n\nWe always hold hands. If I let go, she shops.\n\nShe has an electric blender, electric toaster, and electric bread maker. Then she said "There are too many gadgets, and no place to sit down!", so I bought her an electric chair.\n\nMy wife told me the car wasn't running well, there was water in the carburetor. When I asked where the car was, she told me "In the lake."\n\nMy wife is on a new diet. Coconuts and bananas. She hasn't lost weight, but BOY, can she climb a tree now!\n\nShe got a mudpack and looked great for two days. Then the mud fell off...\n\nShe ran after the garbage truck, yelling, "Am I too late for the garbage?" The driver said, "No, jump in!"
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Here are a few disscussion starters:\n\n1. Where is this going?\n2. Why do you love me?\n3. Why are we still in separate states?\n4. Do you really know me and if so what do you know?\n5. How long could you go without talking to me?\n6. Do I get on your nerves?\n7. Where do you see us in 1 year?\n\nTalking out of routine can get tired real quick. Tell dude you're not a phone person and that should not be confused with how you feel. Hopefully, he'll understand.
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This is an experience that I dealt with with my "ex-husband". When I caught it, I challenged him on it. He came up with so many explanations that I finally gave him an ultimatum. I told him that he needed to chose between the internet and me. He was also looking at adult porn. He said he would quit, but one day, I checked history, and found that he lied to me. Not only that, but while I was online, I didn't realize that his instant messenger hadn't been closed, and an IM window popped up from a girl who said "hey sexy"! When I looked at the messenger, I realized it was his, and not mine. I told her who I was and she said "What are you doing on his computer?" I told her that it was my computer, and that he was sleeping in my bed. I asked her if she wanted me to wake him up. Well, she was fuming at that point, and started saying things like "Oh, we're just friends, and also that they had never met, she was only playing around". Well, needless to say, I showed him the door real quick. I live in Ohio, she lives in Indiana. When he left, guess where he went immediately??? LOL! Indiana, of course, and he married her 6 months later. Funny thing is, they are divorced now, and since then, he has been engaged to 3 other women, 2 of which dumped him for the same reasons, and he is planning on his 3rd wedding with his new fiance this year. I've always been told that "leopards never change their spots". That's some good advise that I got from my mother. She is very right!!! \n\nMy advise is....don't get caught up in the whirlwind of the lies. They only get bigger and better as time goes on. If he's doing it now and says he'll stop, he'll do it behind your back! Cut your losses and find someone who truely cares about you and your feelings!!!
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been there done that...and all i can say is that no matter what others say this is really something you have to get over yourself\n\ni went out with the same guy three different times over two and a half years. he cheated on me every single time and still i kept going back. finally after the third time something clicked. i was ready to marry this guy, i had the ring and everything. after the third time, i would hang out with him because i figured i could be just friends but that didnt work.\n\ni still think about him, i still love him, but i am happily married to the greatest guy in the world. the only thing that helped was time, and my own determination.\n\ngood luck
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I was a passenger in my car going down the interstate. My husband was driving bad and I complained a few times. Finally I asked "why is it that just because you are the man, you always drive us? Why don't you just pull over and let me drive." \n\nHe agreed and pulled off at an exit and we changed at the gas station. I had only been driving a few minutes when I got this voice in my head that said "pull over and let Charley drive." I excused it as my own weird thinking and kept going. I then heard it again "Pull over and let Charley DRIVE" . \n\nBy then, I knew God (or his angels) were telling me this. I became upset about it because I thought I was being taught a lesson of submission which I didn't want to learn. I argued with God in my head. A third time, I heard "PULL OVER AND LET CHARLEY DRIVE." \n\nAt that point, I asked my husband "where should I pull over because I don't know why, but God is telling me to let you drive?"\n\nCharley said to just pull to the top of the ramp and we would switch out there. We did so and he pulled back onto the ramp. but no sooner than we got up to speed, we had to stop in the middle of the interstate. There had been a major collision. We sat for about 3 hours and watched news hellicopters, life line, and all kinds of emergency vehicles ahead of us by like a mile. When we finally got through we saw a 3 car collision had happened and they were mangled. There had been deaths. \n\nI knew right away it hadn't been about submitting to my husband at all, but about God or his angels letting me know of the danger ahead. I ws sure glad that I had been prayed up and reading the bible or I may have missed his voice.
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=A few months after his parents were divorced, Little Johnny passed by his mom's bedroom and saw her rubbing her body and moaning, "I need a man, I need a man!" \nOver the next couple of months, he saw her doing this several times. \n\nOne day, he came home from school and heard her moaning. When he peeked into her bedroom, he saw a man on top of her. \n\nLittle Johnny ran into his room, took off his clothes, threw himself on his bed, started stroking himself, and moaning, "Ohh, I need a bike! I need a bike!" \n \n\n=A redneck felt sick and decided to go to the doctor. The doctor examined him. \n"I can't seem to find the problem, but I think it has something to do with alcohol." \n\n"Well," said the redneck, "then I'll come back when you're sober.' \n\nQ:How do you embarrass an archaeologist? \nA:Give him a used tampon and ask him what period it came from.\n\n \n = A man was drinking in a bar when he noticed this beautiful young lady sitting next to him. ''Hello there,'' says the man, ''and what is your name?'' \n''Hello,'' giggles the woman, ''I'm Stacey. What's yours?'' \n\n''I'm Jim.'' \n\n''Jim, do you want to come over to my house tonight? I mean, right now??'' \n\n''Sure!'' replies Jim, ''Let's go!'' \n\nSo Stacey takes Jim to her house and takes him to her room. Jim sits down on the bed and notices a picture of a man on Stacey's desk. ''Stacey, I noticed the picture of a man on your desk,'' Jim says. \n\n''Yes? And what about it?'' asks Stacey. \n\n''Is it your brother?'' \n\n''No, it isn't, Jim!'' Stacey giggles. Jim's eyes widen, suspecting that it might be Stacey's husband. \n\nWhen he finally asks, ''Is it your husband?'' \n\nStacey giggles even more, ''No, silly!'' Jim was relieved. \n\n''Then, it must be your boyfriend!'' \n\nStacey giggles even more while nibbling on Jim's ear. She says, ''No, silly!!'' \n\n''Then, who is it?'' Jim asks. \n\nStacey replies, ''That's me BEFORE my operation!!'' \n \n\n \n= One Sunday morning, a priest wakes up and decides to go golfing. He calls his boss and says that he feels very sick, and won't be able to go to work. \nWay up in heaven, Saint Peter sees all this and asks God, ''Are you really going to let him get away with this?'' \n\n''No, I guess not,'' says God. \n\nThe priest drives about five to six hours away, so he doesn't bump into anyone he knows. The golf course is empty when he gets there. So he takes his first swing, drives the ball 495 yards away and gets a hole in one. \n\nSaint Peter watches in disbelief and asks, '' Why did you let him do that?'' \n\nTo this God says, ''Who's he going to tell?'' \n \nQ:What's the first thing to come out of a man's penis when he has sex? \nA:The wrinkles! \n\n\n=Once a lady wanted to leave the U.S.A. but couldn't get a visa. One day, she met a man who told her not to dispair. \n"l'll let you sneak aboard my captain's ship and take you to France, but you have to screw me every time I bring you food, okay?" \n\nShe accepted, and for about three months the guy brought her food and water and then she screwed him. This went on for about 3 months, at which point she was discovered by the captain. The captain asked what she was doing and she said a man was taking her to France if she screwed him every time he brought her food. \n\nThe captain replied, "He sure is screwing you - this is the New York Ferry."\n\n\n=Yo' mama so nasty, I asked what was for dinner and she spread her legs and said "Crabs!"\n\nQ: What do a Texas tor
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Hi there again. Was thinking about writing direct but didn't want to bother you again.\nI had a break up last June after a 7+ yera relationship/engagement and it took a little (underexagerating) time to get through.\nThe fact that he didn't seem to be bothered by it at all made me even more upset. I couldn't figure out how he could just walk out and that be it. No contact, no explanation of why, no nothing. People need some kind of closure to move along the healing process and I didn't have that.\nWhen I finally started thinking a little more clearly (took about a couple months), I started to realize the reason he was able to walk away as cut and dry as he did. It was because he had already been done long before he'd walked out.\nI started being able to put myself on the outside, looking in instead of the inside, looking in (hope you understand that). Then I started allowing myself to realize all the things that weren't so great and hadn't been so great for a while.\nI went from a deep sadness and loss to realizing I was worth more than how I was treated by him, either directly or indirectly.\nToday I am glad he left and didn't ever try to contact me AND I'm also glad he left.\nMy belief (and I've seen it proved many times over) is the karma people like that earn will pay them back tenfold for what they uncaringly do to people.\nOnly you will be able to put this to rest within yourself and only in the time that is right for you.\nI wish you all the best in the world. And try to remember you are worth more than the sum of one cheating man.\nAlso, sorry this is so long.
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1) i did\n2) buy her expensive roses for a suprise\n3) I even told her I'd forgive her if she cheated on me/shot me!(only once though) cant get much more love from someone for that!\n4) the roses and been there for her\n5)she went crazy for me and she couldnt wait to get ahold of me
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yeah- There was a guy in University that I turned down - always regretted it.  I think he got married and moved on, but I always wonder where he is.