I live very far away from someone I have known for quite some time, but the past few months I started to fall for the guy. How can you tell yourself to forget about the possibilty? I know the feelings aren't just an infatuation, I've been in love before, I know how it feels. But I think the distance is way too much here, my friends tell me to forget it. Now I need to find out how...
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Find someone else to date.  Or just immerse yourself into your group of friends.\n\nAnd who says long distance is impossible? I'm in a long distance relationship right now and it's working out great!
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Avoid the stupid comments some people are putting up 4 you to read. It will take time to get over someone you adored but you can't stay sitting around thinking about it go out somewhere  and have a great time.Move on you'll know when you find love again.Hope I could Help
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you can't make yourself forget someone. The best thing you can do is surround yourself with single girlfriends and just talk. If you want to think about him, do it, because the more you try not to think about something, the more you think about it. for example: try not to think about an elephant. \ni bet you just did.
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it's hard to explain...u gotta experience it yourself.....just think of your family, friends or anyone around u.......sure, usually, u don't have much emotions being with them......try to imagine when u're faraway from home, u'll become nostalgic n' thinking of them......u're worried what might happen to them because u're concern, that's  love......or maybe u're attracted to someone or your opposite sex.......u're thinking of him everyday n' would like to please him by buying presents, etc.....this a a sign of love when u share your things with them....
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I fell in love with a guy last year, but when I asked him out he said he can't, and that I was going to University... I wondered if that last comment was because he'd said that he had a girlfriend who moved away to Italy, and that his experience was affected by that. Anyway, I was heartbroken, and it's been a year, but I still think of him with love. \n\nI've done the whole trying to meet other guys, but none of them make me feel the way I felt about him. There may be plenty of fish in the sea, but most are a bunch of red herrings! \nI think he is a fool for not realising how much he means to me. \n\nI said this to someone else, that it's all very well people saying "move on and get on with your life" but if you love someone it isn't that easy. I think you should avoid her, as she is spoken for - give yourself a break. I had no choice, as I moved away. \nI now remember that guy with love - the way I see it, the love was floating around like a cloud, where I'd breathe it in all the time, whether I meant to or not. I now imagine that cloud of love to be sealed inside a large glass jar. Sometimes the essence still comes out, if something reminds me of him, but I have the lid, so I keep those feelings safe. I still wish we could be together, but I also hope that I might fall in love again.\nWhoring yourself is not going to help at all. Give yourself all the time you need to get over it - I speak from my experience, but yours may be different, but it's better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all. \nJesus still loves you!\n\nI recommend this a lot: See the film "Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind".
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You just learnt a valuable lesson didn't you?\n\nUltimatums always lead to heart break.\n\nI hope you can patch things up, start by apologising for being immature.  Explain that you wanted to be close to him and that's why you insisted on knowing his thoughts.\n\nGood luck with this.
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When you suspect yourself being in love, there's a high chance that you really are in love... Eg: You're asking us how to tell if you're in love, you're curious, so it's quite likely that you are in love\n\nNow ask yourself, do you miss that person whenever you're apart? Do you start looking around when the person isn't around but you expect him to be there?\n\nAnswered yes? No doubt you're in love!
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I am very sorry.\nMy first love and I had a long distanced relationship, and it was so hard.  We used to live in the same town, but I moved out to a big city 6 hours away by train to attend a college, and since then we only could see each other once a month.  He had a job offer in that city once, because he wanted to be with me, but the deal was pretty bad, so he didn't take it at the end.  Eventually, I moved out of the country, and we never saw each other ever since.  \nI knew it was coming to end one day, but I just didn't want to believe it.  He was older then me, so he must have known better, but didn't say anything.  We used to call, and write to each other.  But when I started getting less and less responses, I still didn't believe that it was ending.  I was so sad, and so lonesome, and made so many mistakes in my life because of that.  I should have let go of it much earlier.\nI tell you, I know it hurts so much now, but you have to let him go.  You called him so many times that his mailbox is full, that tells you that he has already made up his mind and it's not going to change.  Even if he changes his mind now, that'll not sort out your distance problem, will it?  You will only feel worse as long as you try to work out something that's no longer in your hands.  Believe me, I know that.  \nYou won’t be able to feel fine about it today or tomorrow, but try to think about something else instead of how to get him back.  Try to give yourself a break from it little by little, and then you should start to feel better.
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Enjoy it! It's so sweet. It seems you have fallen in love. I don't know if I would help you if I could. I guess try really hard to focus on what you're doing. breath.. focus.. and get addicted to the work/thing you need to do. You can keep thinking about her after you're done.
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Is it really love? Or is it more of a comfront blanket type situation? I mean, I know there are probably still sparks there but is it really worth it to travel across country to find out that maybe, just maybe your feelings aren't all that strong as you thought? All I can say- is do what's in your heart and what feels right... Because then you'll always ask the "What if's?" and if you really love himm- then you'll have no regrets one way or another!
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You can't help what your heart want's and does not want.  It's not always right, but most of the time you should get it a little credit.  Maybe you don't want to admit that you are growing out of this guy.  As for the long distance thing, that is sorta an out of sight out of mind thing.  But if you think you don't feel strongly about this boy maybe he is just not worth it.
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this is a question i had asked myself for 13 yrs. I had fallen in love when i was young and in high school. We had to move to another state so that my mother could find decent employment to take care of us. My mother told me that because i was young, i would soon forget. Me and this guy lost contact a year later after I had moved away. 4 years later, we made contact once again and began a phone relationship. We made plans to reunite. Things didnt go as planned and that trip was not made due to him becoming incarsarated for a crime that he did not commit. I began another relationship. I have had several relationships with other people since then. None of them had ever compared to the one we shared, until recently. Once again, I went about finding him. He had since married and had a child. We talked on the phone and we once again spoke of our feelings. It was known at that time that we both had always felt the same way. I was getting married 6 months after that phone call and I knew what I had to do. I had to go see him. I owed it to myself and to my future husband. My fiancee left me over this, but had i not made the trip, I would not have known what I know now. The love I have for him, will never go away. However, seeing him and his family together instilled a peace within me. I know that he is happy. I finally recieved the closure I needed to move on, knowing that we will always share a bond. Since then, I have met a man that I know will have my whole heart, the way that he should. Finalizing a former love relationship is the most important thing you can do for your self and the other person involved. It is what will allow you to move on and make future relationships work.
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I think it could be that you have this guy in your head now because he is ignoring you.  You know the saying, you want what you can't have?  Well, when he wanted you you weren't interested...and now you "think" you may be.  \nBut...if you're really thinking about this fling guy a lot then I doubt you're truly in love with your steady.  Deep down it's probably not meant to be.  You know, real love and all that comes with it...when you're in deep, no one else can touch that.  Anyway, do the pro's and con's thing about the guy you're with and if it's more con's than pro's give him up...and talk to this younger guy if you can, about how you feel if you really think your feelings are deeper than just wanting what you can't have.  I have to say also that he sounds a tad bit immature...ignoring you after you've had a fling.  But that's just my opinion....good luck.
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Since you only dated this guy for a very brief time you didn't really get to know him enough to fall in love; therefore, you created a fantastic image of this person. I'm sure your fertile imagination introduced someone incredibly irresistible and that is who you cannot forget. It's time for you to face reality and respect yourself enough to move on and expect the right person to enter your life. The past is over so please stop looking back over your shoulder because you'll never go forward until you let go of what no longer exists for you.
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If it's truely a first love, you will never get over it.....or at least to the point of forgetting anything ever was there.  Time will pass and eventually you'll lose the desire to or urge to be with him........but he may always be there at the back of your mind or pop up in thoughts every once in a while.  Love is something you can't just forget, it's a life experience.  But to answer your question in a more helpful way.........dating other people helps to ease what ever pain is left behind, and keeps your occupied and your focus on being happy.
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distance either makes the heart grow fonder...or makes the heart wander...it would be hard not having him around, but try love conquers all boundaries, including distance..this is your challenge to know if this is meant to be..hang in there and have faith in his love for you. Whatever happens happens for a reason. \n\nGood Luck
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Please do not listen to these other people. Although they mean well, I know personally that there can be real, true, lasting love (not LUST or INFATUATION! Boy am I sick of those dumb words! People just use them to sound grownup and wierd and fancy shmancy! {not to "dis" you other folks, but that's what it seems like to me :)} ) at first meeting- and yes, even at first sight. As to what it feels like... everyone is totally different. If you think you are in love, and you love someone very much, more than any one else, than you ARE in love- for the time being. You may, who knows, some day, find someone else who you will be able to love even more. Not because you didn't love the first one- you did, as much as you could at the time. But each new person you fall in love with you seem to be able to love more. Who can say whether we are all in love a dozen times in our life, or if we only "really" love one of those people, or if we never "truly" loved any of them? Love is different for every person, at every different time. Sometimes it makes you sad, sometime it makes you happy, sometime insecure, sometimes confident. No one knows. But if you think you're in love, then tell yourself you are and go with your emotions, whether you become mournfully melancholy or exuberantly happy. There is nothing sweeter than feeling something deeply and telling yourself you're in love, whether it's for an hour or a lifetime- or eternity.