do you think he will break up with me? and if you do, how can i get rid of my nervousness of talking to him? i love him to death, so MUCH. everything about him, but i'm not too old, so how much could i know about love?
138320
Sounds like you really have a thing for him. Just relax and let everything come natural. Don't be blind to his negative ways. But if he is good to you just take it slow and everything will work out.
79674
I think it important to assess how you behave in a new relationship. Are you perhaps a bit too full-on? Are you maybe even trying a bit too hard? I have a friend who is in a similar situation to you. She is a great person with a great personality but she has never managed to have a relationship that lasts more than a couple of months. Guys break it off because like your situation they like her but just feel that she's not compatible with them for a relationship. She's got loads of friends, but no boyfriend. this is because she's so outgoing and full-on. She tries hard to impress and guys just feel like they can't relax and get into a proper relationship. Shes a great laugh and really fun to be around but could they talk to her about problems? Could they share a secret with her? Could they just snuggle up with her and not have to have an exciting conversation? No. Just relax in a relationship. Don't be afraid to be a bit vulnerable and girly. let the guy take the lead a bit. Let him try to impress you. good luck.
202456
LEAVE HIM -- you owe it to yourself to find a happier life.  Don't think that you are too old or that you have invested too much time in this relationship.  Don't let him talk down to you or intimidate you into not leaving.  He's the coward and he's trying to take his insecurity out on you.  The transition period won't be easy, but once you are away from him, you will look back and be glad that you ended it.  Better things are in store for you.  Good luck.
405742
Okay, you are old enough to know that everyone is a rebound. If he is actually serious about you, then take him at his word. Otherwise, you are just ruining your relationship by second guessing your beau. If you were doing this to me, I would definitely end it. Everyone is a rebound, its called experience. The question should be, do you feel the same about him? If not then don't waste his time. Life is too short to analyze things that should not be analyzed. Stop calculating his steps and place in order yours. If you are steadying him during this crisis he is having, wouldn't that mean that you love him? If you stick and if he's the type of guy you portray him to be, then you should know that this will only solidify you all's relationship. Enjoy what you have with this man, if you spend your waking moments diffusing what you have, you will end up with nothing.
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I used to have this same problem with guys I used to date but, I found the love of my life and I can't stop talking. I feel comfortable around him. I know that he will not judge or think less of me for what I have to say. Maybe she does not feel comfortable around you. Maybe she is afraid that you will judge her.
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I've had the same problem of being shy for the longest time. I have the problem being shy too only not with my boyfriend, but with a guy I like. So I talked to him about it and you know what he said? "Shyness never got anyone anywhere." \n\nMy advice to you is the same advice I took and that advice I gave myself believe it or not. Do more things with him, chances are that you may not know as much about him as you might think. \nTherefore you're nervous because you really like him and you want him to like you back. You might be shy because you're afraid he doesn't really like you or will find something about you he doesn't like, then dump you. This was my fear for the longest time.\n\nIf he's really your boyfriend, you shouldn't be worried or shy. With me I went out with this guy I liked and did things with him as a friend, talked to him on the phone; he liked that. I got to know him better and now I'm not nearly as shy around him as I use to be. \n\nWe're closer as a result and it opened up the lines of communication. I trust him more, we talk about all sorts of things, and I feel like I could talk to him about almost anything! \n\nIf it's really just a shyness thing then that's my advice. However it sounds like you've grown apart from him. In which case there is no faking how you really feel. You need to think about moving on. Don't waste your or his time going out with a guy you don't really like. \n\nBreak up with him and move on.\n\nGood luck.
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The time is not the issue.  People's feelings grow and change - so the limiting factor here is not the time, but the fact that you simply don't feel comfortable typing those words in an email.\n\n2 thoughts come to my mind.  1) You want a relationship but you are not committed to investing in this person enough to express your love.  That's very reasonable.  Being in love with this person has complications.  Who will move and give up their home, lives and friends?  Maybe both of you - and for what?  A complete unknown.  2) Maybe you don't really love him if you cannot bring yourself to say in in over a year?  Sometimes we are in love with love and having a long distance partner makes the whole relationship thing, so much easier.  You don't have to mess with somebody in your actual life every single day, but you have a boyfriend, so you don't have to worry about it.  It's taken care of.  A shame that its long distance, but also really nice.\n\nI wouldn't rock the boat if I was you.  If he is saying I love you and you want to respond, but can't with the actual words, you can try something like "You mean so much to me", "I don't know what I would do without you in my life" or "I think the world of you".  Lesser forms are more like "I totally dig you", "You are my favorite person in the whole world", etc.\n\nPeace!
343997
if he's such a guy, i can tell you, he isn't quite serious about you. he maybe doesn't respect your feelings or you yourself. if he's reallly such a guy, if i were you, i would just divorce him or ditch him straightaway on the phone, MSN, or right infront of him. tell him the relationship between you and him is alr over. if he answers you, "break up then break up lar! like i care." such of this kinda ans, i tell you, your prediction before breaking up wid him is 100% correct.
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It sounds like you too have a deep connection, he called you and you keep loving him and thinking about him plus you two talked "in silence" too its as if you have a body language connection as well.I think you two should try being together again, try another date and tell him how much you enjoy his company and his personality and how people make mistakes.that might bring him back too you.hope this helps.
243932
Do you like him? As it seems you do and you guys hang out. do you want to be friends or more? Think, if you are more than friends and you break up. Will it affect your relationship? which do you value most? think about it.
98108
Why is he still single (unmarried) at 43? Why do you always have to start the discussion about moving in together? Why did he make that remark?\n\nI think you are right to wonder about his commitment to the relationship. But don't overreact - take it easy. I may be wrong!
168668
Aah classic commitment phobia. Your both so scared of being vunerable and saying you want to be with each other that you're pretending it's ok to see other people. What you need to ask yourself is this? Is this really the type of future relationship you want, with two people not able to say how they feel. Either become a couple or leave each other alone. Believe me i've been in a situation like this and no matter how cool and trendy you think you're both being a relationship goes no where, without some honesty.
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I didn't even finish reading your note, but from experience I would recommend ditching him... you deserve someone who can make up his mind and can love you 100%!! I had a fellow like that and I think he kept me around as security, so he wasn't alone and felt loved... don't be his love of last resort! Be strong and move on...
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Honey I'm not sure what to tell ya.  Don't give up on him.  Do you have anyway to contact him?  You should tell him how you feel.  I don't know why he hasn't talked to you in a month.  That concerns me a little.  Like I said, don't think bad, think good.  Hope things work out for you.
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yeah i think he's getting back at you from the last time. if you guys weren't even together long enough especially. \n\ni would just let him go and when he comes crawling back you'll have more fun laughing at him, cause you don't need to be pulled like that. the nerve of him to ask you to wait for him, is laughable. \n\njust go fine a better guy to date. someone more mature and wants to be in a relationship, everyone has their ups and downs, and he just doesn't know how to deal with them. it doesn't have to do with the age, just the person. \n\nyou'll probably feel a lot better when he's off your mind, and you let him go. might be hard at first, but this doesn't seem like it was a loving relationship to begin with. so don't waste it on him. or the thought you might have been in love with him.
400052
It's perfectly okay to be nervous. Sometimes we worry "Oh god, what will he say or think of me? What if he doesn't want to talk?!" Just breathe, relax, and tell yourself that if he didn't want to talk to you then you wouldn't be dating. He's interested in you, so go ahead and chat it up!
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If you just met him tonight, then I doubt that you love him.  What is the age difference and how old are you?  If you are under 25, then I do think age is important because we are not fully adults until about age 25, not 18 like most people think.  And if many of your friends are saying this guy is bad news, than I would take that into consideration and take things VERY slowly.