I'm engaged but would love to have a 3some with another girl but would not want my fiance to be looking or touching the girl at all, so I'm really stuck!\nI'd want him to join in with me but not her at all!!!!
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DO NOT if yo like to have a happy long lasting marriage DO NOT DO IT... \nyou are going to marry and you have to know what that means... it is not all about sex and fun....\nThe true marriage is this, that husband and wife should be united both physically and spiritually, that they may ever improve the spiritual life of each other, and may enjoy everlasting unity throughout all the worlds of God."\n\nThe love between husband and wife should not be purely physical, nay rather it must be spiritual and heavenly. These two souls should be considered as one soul. How difficult it would be to divide a single soul!"\n\n\nThe Lord, peerless is He, hath made woman and man to abide with each other in the closest companionship, and to be even as a single soul. They are two helpmates, two intimate friends, who should be concerned about the welfare of each other. If they live thus, they will pass through this world with perfect contentment, bliss, and peace of heart, and become the object of divine grace and favour in the Kingdom of heaven."
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Well this is a pretty straightforward question. The idea that your boyfriend wants to have a threesome is not uncommon. Unfortunately it could result in breakup if you tell him. But adversely telling your boyfriend that you do not want to have a threesome is the best, and pretty much the only thing you can do. Acqueising to this kind of demand could cause you a lot of grief in the long run. Also, remember if he's not willing to drop that idea for you then its probably not meant to be.
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Don't ever think about it. It's no nice. You wouldn't want some girl to do it to your boyfriend, would you?
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All of them would be nice. I guess it dependes on your mood and how needy you are. I'm very romantic, but if he does something that gets totally under my skin, i can get a horny attack:). \nI would love to try a 3some in all combinations (2 men, 2 women, 1 guy+1 woman) but most of my fantsies have come true cuz i have a great boyfriend and that is sex with blindfolds and/or handcuffs and on the back seats of the car...it's great doing it outdoors too as long as you don't get caught. It's just the constant not-knowing if someone is or not coming by - that's a big turn on. Among other really sexy things here's what i reccomend:eating ice cream, melted chocolate or cream of your partner's body and an oil-massage or just trying different poses form kamasutra or watching pornography together.
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umm well ok.\n\nfirst off if she wants a 3-some, you'd better talk to her about it. if you feel uncomfy in the idea thata  friend or even your sister are in the same bed together then she should understand, and if you dont like the idea then id simply tell her how weird it makes you feel and such.\n\nif she really wants to, then i would try to find someone you'd feel comfy with. like your sister would probably make you feel pretty creeped out and such. so mabie a good friend of hers or yours? \n\nand its alright if you all do 'that' together. just be comfy with it, who its with, and use protection so you dont get teh second gal prednat or your girfriend. ^__- and make sure there 'of legal age' or they can press charges if they get pregnant.\n\nother than that i see no real problem with it. most men would probably be running with joy over the idea that there gal wants a 3-some ^___________-
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Couples who are in love never want to share their partner in a threesome situation, no matter how insistent they are that 'it will be ok'.  It won't be ok.  Not now, not ever again.  If you are looking for a way to create disharmony, stress, upset, jealousy and insecurity, there is no faster way.  You will permenantly damage your relationship, your self-esteem and possibly your mental health.  \n\nIt won't be what you expect.  If we are talking one man and two girls, be prepared for the girls to start getting it on and completely ignoring you for more than an hour.  Be prepared for premature ejaculation, be prepared to be unable to get a hard on in front of two women.  Be prepared for your girlfriend to lose patience and storm out if you start paying too much attention to your guest.  Be preapared for the guest to start stalking you.  Be prepared for the fact that she may look awful naked.  Be preapred for the unthinkable that you won't be able to satisfy two women.\n\nAfter the event be prepared for your girlfriend to hate you and that you may start to hate her.  Be prepared to fall out of love.  Be prepared for your girlfriend to decide that she is a lesbian/bisexual/wants an open relationship.\n\nWhilst it is a great fantasy and a favourite of many men it is not a very good thing to do.  In a loving realtionship it should be kept as a fantasy.  There is too much to lose.  Why risk it when there are other much more exciting things you can experiment with together which will bond you more strongly together?
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why dont you and your wife do threesomes? that way you are both involved. it might strengthen your marriage. \nif you dont want to strengthen it and want to be with others alone...why do you even want to be married???
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No way should you do this.  You two are a family with a child.  There is no reason to bring a 3rd person into your sex life.
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Ok, in my opinion the answers that you have gotten thus far are really cliché! This is coming from someone who has been there, done that, and my fiancé and I are still happily engaged.\n First, let me say that threesomes ARE risky. NEVER try to use a threesome to fix anything wrong in a relationship. If there you are already having issue, it will just amplify it!\n However, it does not sound like that is the case in your relationship. It sounds, from what little you wrote, that you have a healthy relationship and this other woman is putting these thoughts into your head. \n Here is what I would advise. First, find out if your wife is interested. Bring it up when you have not seen your friend in a day or two, and do NOT mention the friend. The reason is that if you do mention the other woman, and your wife does not want to do it, she will never trust you or her friend again, regardless of your intentions. \n Now, if she is interested, the next thing that you need to say to her is that it is an interesting idea, kind of a turn on, but you don't think you could actually go through with it. This may not be 100% the truth, but the fact is if you seem eager then she is going to react very negatively. Let her lead the way. If she is interested, once you have broached the subject, it will come up again. Try to avoid suggesting the friend, let your wife do so. Basically, you want this to all be her idea. The reason is that when it is done she is more likely then you to have issues with it, and if she feels that it was her idea then she probably won't. If she feels that you in any way pushed her into it, however, and there are any regrets, they will lead to resentment, gutanteed!\n Next, if you do decide to do this, set boundaries. Talk about what you are both comfortable with. If you cannot talk about this in detail without arguing, then don't do the deed!!\n In the heat of the moment, make sure you stick to the boundaries. You can always discuss them afterwards, and relax them in any future encounters.\n Finally, try to make the experience as enjoyable as possible for your wife. If you and the other woman both concentrate primarily on your wife's pleasure, she is much more likely to enjoy the experience, and you are much more likely to have a repeat.\n Good luck!!
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Check this out?\nGuys are not ready for a solid commitment as fast  as we are and to just keep it real they will do us the way we let them do us.\nIf you let him continue to put restrictions on you as far as seeing other guys all the while he is seeing other females then he will just keep doing it.\nYou Need to just let him go seriously unless You want to keep putting up with this guy stuff.\nI will say this and leave it:\nIf you want to keep having sex with him but see other people do just that and let him know it, example;\nWhen he comes over and you have done the do, just let him know "Hey you have to go home now because I have a prior engagement to go out with a friend"\nIf he actually have a problem with it, just tell him, You have made it clear that you want an one on one relationship with him but he do not, so it's time for you to move on to find someone who wants to be serious and one on one.\nIf he is serious about you but afraid of commitment then this will help him to make up his mind.
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I just broke up with my fiancé after years of being un-happy with each other.  The reason why I waited so long....she is beautiful.  I enjoyed the fact that every time we went out people always commented on how hot my fiancé was.  But that only lasted for so long, other then her looks I couldn’t stand her towards the end.  So from personal experience, next girl I date is going to be interesting and have a personality more like mine, if she is a looker then even better but will not be a deal breaker if she isn't.
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Honestly, I think some people simply don't explore that option because they're happy with their sexuality, even if the same sex may seem enticing. I look at other women and of course I am capable of acknowledging an attractive one. I've even contemplated a three-some between my boyfriend and one of my friends. It is an interesting topic, but I personally think that despite what others may tell themselves, I'm pretty sure most people have thought about exploring this option of flirtation between the same sex.
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Before you do anything else, boot your boyfriend to the curb because he doesn't value you if he can't be totally faithful to you and just you.  If you truly are interested in being with another girl then you need to make that decision totally on your own without feeling pushed into it by a shitty boyfriend.  There should be more to it than just curiosity!  Think before you make that leap because you open yourself to more disease possibilities with more partners.  Take care!
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you should tell him to leave you alone. you shouldn't let anyone tell you what you can or can't do. its your decision. you are free to be what you want. he shouldn't be messing with another girl if he wants to be with you, that's not respectable, and you shouldn't tolerate this behavior, he isn't worth anything.
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Have you ever been with a female before?  I don't think you're a lesbian because you have admitted that you want to marry your boyfriend and have children with him.  I think you're just curious about being with a woman.  If it's only for the sexual aspect of it, why not let your boyfriend watch?  That should please all parties involved.  :O)
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Hard situation to talk yourself out of.  I have been in this predicament three times.  Twice I got out of it alive and well.  Try to either convince him that fantasy is safe as long as it is him that you are with (Maybe even encourage him to do the same)  OR  Exclaim a different name next time you are intimate (Preferably not another ex)  The one time it did not work, I said her name the next time.  May have been the girls, may have been the tactics... Never will know.\n\nGood Luck
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i wouldnt get mad id perve to cause im bisexual and want a threesome so im looking for a chick. but its like this you can look but not touch i hate it when guys sit there and go look at the boobs on that one. id like to take her home and whatever else guys say