C'mon, I was born to screw, despite my prim and proper upbringing. I won't cheat on him, because I'm not a slut but he can only satisfy me 4-5 times a day. After a full day being a top level accountant for a Fortune 500 company, those numbers have me all worked up; any help out there?
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Liar! And quit using my picture for your avatar please.
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My boss is truly psychotic.  He's one of the uglier people I've met in my life, but he throws his money around when he goes out so he has a new gold-digging girlfriend every week.  He really doesn't have as much money as he says he does after he's paid off his three ex-wives, so I guess the joke is on the gold-diggers.  The funniest thing is when he struts around the office bragging about all his girlfriends ~ he really thinks he's hot!
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you are sprung.  you wrote, " but i know he's not right for me. he lies alot. but i cant help it."  so he's hot?  so he's 'the ladies man? sure.  what the f ever.  i've seen this 1000 times.  i've been there 100 times.  and you have to get the f over this man.  he's a bad boy for life and you'll be another trophey on his shelf.  just another story to tell at the bar before he picks up his next one.  if you are smart enough to connect to the internet, you are smart enough to get over this man.   if you do him/it once, you'll no longer be his object to be desired.  you'll be his object conquered..  stay a mystery.  it's so much more fun to smile at him and make him wonder, than to blush and make him proud.
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i've dated a guy like that.  he was very shy, but very sweet.  I helped him break his shell, and then ripped his heart apart when we broke up.  I still feel guilty to this day and wish I would of kept him. he was a sweetheart, i was young and flighty.  i learned my lesson, and he had enough experience to move on and find a very nice wife and just started a family. i'm very happy for him.  can't say this will happen but if i had to do it again i would. we both benefitted in the long term.  as for the masturbating, all guys do it, and all to different degrees whether they have had sex or not. it's not so much sexual as a tension release for them or something to clear their minds.  like a journal but they only get as far as sharpening the pencil.
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Oh my goodness I had this same problem, This is what I did. I HAVE TO MAKE SURE I CLEAR MY MIND AND BE FOCUSED WHAT I'M DOING.HAVE TO BE TURNED ON! YOU HAVE TO BE WITH SOMEONE WHO KNOWS HOW TO PLEASE YOU!!!  I was w/ my ex for 5 yrs. I though I had plenty of organisms until I met my fiance SO that goes back to ya man has to know what he's doing!
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I just noticed your other post and you left out a fact in this post that all he wants to do all day is "play video games and sit and watch T.V." It is interesting to me that you left this fact out of this post and only focused on the employment issue. I think you realize what a ridiculous situtation you have worked your way into and are now floundering about trying to get your legs back under you. He undoubtably loves you totally because he now has no job, has video games, no responsibility, a woman that will work to support him, a roof over his head, food to eat, and someone to have sex with on a daily basis. What boy wouldn't love that. I refer to him as a boy although I don't know his age but based on what seems to be important to him.\n\nTHINK about it! Do you come home to a dirty or clean home? What is he teaching your daughters by example? More importantly, what impression of men is he sending to your daughters? Are you planning on marrying him? Are you able to accept the responsibility as breadwinner in the family? What will he do if you get pregnant again and cannot work, can you rely on him? Sometimes the feelings in our heart outweigh what we already know in our minds. Think it through carefully. \n\nDecide what you want to do based on your responsibility as a mother to your daughters and the unspoken promises you made to them when you brought them into this world. Their experiences in life will shape their future choices. Don't you want better for them?\n\nMy true thought, dump him. Live on your own with your daughters. There are several government programs to help the three of you. This will undoubtably be a huge change in their lives and they will need counseling which the government can provide. There are rent subsidies, food stamps, help with utilities, and so much more. You can even go to college for free. Get a better life for you and your daughters. Forget your heart for a while and think with your brain, you'll hopefully make much better choices in the future.
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Honestly, I can tell you I go looking for it and I never can find it because I do want a relationship and commitment.  I personally Choose not to just sleep with the next hottie walking down the street, I want dinner and possibly breakfast... A phone call and a second encounter. I am not saying that it has to be set in stone, but if the man would put forth a little more effort in the follow up game, I would be a little more eager to explore more men.  The feeling you get when a 1 nighter is over is awful, Even if he would just call for coffee and say hey, I ad a really great time with you, but I am not where you are.... or some bullshit line I would rather get that than being ignored completely.  As far as cheating is concerned... HELL NO... I am a strong believer in do unto others as you would have them do unto you.... last time i checked i didn't want my man sleeping with anyone else... If I want variety, which I often do I have toys... and my man enjoys changing it up a bit for me!!!
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Sounds like you're on the right track but the only thing you can do is to keep it up. Just keep being wonderful and eventually he will have to see that you are different than the rest. I am in a similar position, though I've only been with mine a matter of months and he is still not willing to let down his guard as much as I'd hope. But I know that it will take time and patience for me and it will for you too. Most importantly, don't betray him in any way. Just show him you are infinitely consistent, honest, and trustworthy.
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You are not still a Slut....you're an ex-slut.\nAnd your's is a lucky man...he's got himself a faithful woman who has enough experience to really appreciate a good man and knows a few tricks to keep things spicy.
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Actually the statements about cheaters is not necessarily true. \n\none question to consider is how much time do you spend with him? is your week so booked you see him only at night before bed or do you make a consious effor to share 15 hours per week alone together. \n\nlike it or not both side in a marriage have 5 basic "NEEDS" if the needs go unmet then one side feels {cheated.}\nwhile just about every one knows men want sex. ( yep it's high on the basic needs list) rarely do people understand the other 4 basic needs they have for emotional stability. \nif your not providing all 5 then a void is open for another person to step in and fill the responsibility that is rightfully yours. the same holds true for men and their wives. \n\nyou can also learn his unique (love language) this is how he interpets (your actions twords him) as love. if he has a quality time ( love language) buying him gifts is not going to convince him that you love him. only time together will do this, \n\nGod Bless
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Hey, Conan, here's a newsflash:  you're normal!  Right, some men aren't quite as driven as you and some are even more driven.  But they're normal, too.  As long as you don't hurt anyone, including yourself, ain't no sweat.  And as long as it does not bother your GF...Look, there is no absolute regarding what endorphins do or do not do for you.  There is a range of acceptable responses and yours do fall within that range.  By the way, if she gets you that hot 'n bothered, would ya mind posting her pic so's us other guys can see what we're missing?
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Although I kind of agree with Tom up there, I have to say that the last statement was a bit harsh. Anyway, I'll say that "No!” you didn’t cheat but you’re skating mighty close. The fact that you didn't go into it with the exact intentions of doing anything wrong, you did stay into it after it became rather steamy. You should ask yourself that if your "live-in boyfriend" were to be in a similar incident what would you say and if you do something that you feel that you can't share with him ask yourself why. I'm sure you'll get the answer you’re looking for. So from now on leave the massages to little Korean women in small boutiques.
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Sweetie, if you feel like you are being used... then it means you aren't happy. Therefore, talk to him about it. Say, why don't you pay this time.. or when he wants to do something say ok, well you pay because I had XXX bills this month so money is tight. Talk to him about making you leave after sex. If you don't bring it up, it will eat away at you.\n\nHere is a hint- if he gets angry/ defensive after you tell him any of this, then yes he is most likely a user and your instincts were probably right. If he says, sorry hun didn't mean to make you feel that way, or something to that extent, then he seems like a good guy.\n\nAnd girl, cmon now, real estate agent, successful woman, you've got it goin on- if it does turn out that he's using you move on! You're a catch and can do better!
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I had that problem with my ex-hubby I caught him constantly spanking the monkey online, calling 900 numbers It is an addiction just like drugs or alchol except they are addicted to the fantasy that the porn and other things gives to them. The problem lies with him not you. Blame him not you and if this is how he really is trust me you are better off by yourself.
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I don't know about you sweetie, but an addiction is an addiction, and he is addicted.  Marriage is Respect, Admiration Passion and Trust.  For sure the first two are not there, since this is grinding on you.  And Passion is a bit tuff, if he oogles 13 year old girls on the computer,,, eeewwwwww.   You may trust him not to betray you by cheating, but hey, I trust my dog too. You don't have a marriage, you just don't know it yet.  You have a rommate..... Porn addiction is about the toughest thing of all to cure. ..... next question is why did you marry this jerk???? and in my eyes, any guy addicted to porn is a jerk.  How do you not find this disgusting????  And why are you still there????  In your place, I'd dump him and get out of this marriage.....You'll only grow to resent this crap as the years go on.... If you have children, you want this guy to be their father?????Sorry, sweetie, you asked
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Um, well, first off, if this is a problem that you are experiencing, please allow me to congratulate you on what can only be seen as amazing stamina.\n\nIf you can keep this up when you get into a relationship, you are going to make some woman or man very happy.\n\nSecondly, you should get in touch with someone and perhaps have them assist you in your research.  It helps to have someone as a research partner in these questions, ahem, if you know what I mean.\n\nSexual innuendo aside...\n\nIt's not too much unless it's becoming an obsession.  If it is in some way interfering in your normal course of a day, then yes, it's too much.\n\nThis can be said of anything in life, whether it's masturbating, overeating, drinking, drugs, etc.\n\nIf you can do this, maintain a normal life (normal in the eyes of those around you and in your own eyes), and you aren't so freaking drained at the end of the day, then yes, keep it up.\n\nHope that this helps.\n\nLove as always,\n\nSebastian
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My girl is the same way and I am 23. It's sorta weird for me not to be in control of when we have sex. I believe if she didn't want to have sex so much then I would. Its a weird situation but I think its true.