I have found my soul mate in life after years of traveling alone in the dark. I love him more then I could ever express and I would never want to lose him. When that day comes, I want to do things differently then society thinks it should be done. I want to get down on bended knee and proclaim my love for him and ask him to be my husband. Is that wrong? When we come to that point in our relationship, should I just let it be left up to him?
119351
It is so right for many reasons. I say go ahead especially if you guys are in love. Men are not accustomed to being treated special, they have all the pressure of having to be sweet and romantic because society has labelled that their role, so when u do a simple thing like open their door, or pull out their chair, or give them a nice massage they feel so pampered.\nGo for it , May God bless you both
636928
I think that you should over think this! You shouldn't get married to someone that you are not in love with. Liking someone and loving someone is completely different. Once you marry them that should be it. You shouldn't go into marriage counting on the divorce card as a back door. You really have to stick together through good and bad, sickness and health, richer or poorer and it should be forever 'til death do you part. People that go into marriage half-hearted are the ones raising the divorce rate. If you feel this way, you should talk to him about it. If you know that he's going to propose and you go and date someone else...that's a sure way of knowing you are not ready to settle down with him. You should be truthful to him and yourself. At the same time, you should marry someone that you can be yourself with. Best wishes.
347180
If you're going to be married, you better learn to compromise now.  In the end, is it really that big of deal?  If it means that much to him to have a ceremony, it would be nice to accommodate him and make him happy.
50543
it is not up to anyone here to make that descision for you, however you need to ask yourself "Is this person going to get me where I want to be in life? or are they going to hinder me?" "Is this person going to be there for me when I need them? or are they going to leave me in the lurch?" "can I spend the rest of my life with this person?"\n\nif you can answer these all with yes then go for it but I think you already know the choice you need to make. and I think it is the right one.
218329
Simply ask yourself a question. Why do you need him? What is so special about him? Do you love him or you only want him to love you? RIGHT THING to do in life is to marry and live with a person who loves you. And in this case he does not love you at all. Thus you NEED a person who will love you and your life will be full of bliss. Look for a person out of so many available in this world and simply leave the person who does not love you.
193440
No it's noy wrong and don't let  any one tell you that it is because you have the right to your own way of life and how you decide to live it and also who you date and when you date them and how old they are when you fall in love with them trust me on this one I know for a fact because I am also in love with a younger person who happens to know it but doesn't know that I know that he loves me back. \n\n            p.s.\n\n           Take this info to head and share it with some one else that you know with the same problem as you and me(to me it's not really a probllem so you shouldn't say that it is).
212078
you definitely should. isn't it time that the both of you made another step toward the ultimate commitment to each other? you have been together this long and have already talked about getting married. i think you should do it. god bless both of you.
535945
You should treat everyone with respect. \n\nYou may not be ready for marriage yet, but he may be.  Have you considered whether he might be the right husband for you?\n\nIf you decide he is, don't let him get away.
650582
If you're even questioning whether or not you should accept or decline, then you are NOT ready for marriage. You need to tell this man that you appreciate it, and you care about him too, but you don't feel marriage or, engagement, is appropriate just yet. Make sure you tell him it doesn't mean you don't want to marry him, eventually, but that right now, at this time in your life, you aren't sure if it's what is best.
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Sweetheart..you don't need anyone to tell you to do. I would strongly go with my heart. If you truely love him, you wouldn't be happy with anyone else. \nWe can tell you what we would do...but deep down...what would you do? Could you handle loving someone that is having problems walking? I would hang in there and not jump so fast to all the what ifs.
117349
I wonder how many people have been in your position and let it go, always wondering if it was the right thing to do? I say GO FOR IT!! What the hell do you have to lose? If it doesn't work or he's spoken for, then let it go - but at least you tried. If you find him and he feels the same way you do... wellll....
236650
For me I want companionship and a best friend.  I can't imagine a marriage where the relationship isn't like that.  I want to be the first one he goes to dilemmas, advice, opinions.  I want him to want to share most aspects of his life with me.  And yet balanced with the fact that all marriages need some space (me time, my time with just my girlfriends, and vice versa).  It's hard to explain, but I don't want to be the person he just goes home to everyday, and raises his kids.  I want to be his equal, and not to be forgotten when he leaves home.  Does that make any sense?
17437
"two people, if they agree to see the world the same and share a life, make a reality. absolutley. its not a question of perception, it goes beyond god or the devil. if the sky twisted itself apart and chaos and discordia were imminent, i would seek u out and watch the world burn. and be content. thats what i was explaining to someone today."\n\nmy best friend was explaining his opinion on true love to me and this is how he explained it to his girlfriend.\n\nDoes it make sense that I should be denied someone who I feel is right for me just because she happens to be 'different'? no. if i spent my life with people exactly like me, i never would have learned anything. you NEED to spend time with people different than you, and its VERY likely you will fall in love with one of them.
35610
Yes, I think it's very wrong. If you really love someone and they love you, they want to please you in every way possible. If they are doing something that doesn't satisfy you, you need to have enough love and respect to tell them. I promise, they'll appreciate it in the end (and so will you). ;-)
516641
Your post does not discuss why you want to marry your "collegue" or how you feel about him.  Without knowing if this is what you truly want all I can say is follow your heart which means if you love him and want to marry him and it will not cause you to lose your family then marry him but if you are marrying your "collegue" because you observed a "quite good" nature then you should wait and listen to those you trust which sounds as if it may be your family.
265539
Sometimes it takes longer to commit after being burned. If your happy with him now without being married then go with it. Don't force the issue though it will probably make him tuck tail and run.
216320
Am sorry for that, but all u need u to do is dat, u must not proud of yaself and u must be the person that can endure and u must also be tolerant, so that u will get the right man for yourself and u must also be vigilant so that u will not fall in love wit eat and run guys. Because Marriage is not temporary thing is permanent and it's a bad thing 2 move out of one marriage and move into another one as if u are changing cloth, It's very nefarious, so think and study the man u will fall in love wit before agree with him that u will marry him, I wish u best of luck.