I seem to wait too long to make my moves on girls, and I become the dreaded "you remind me of my brother" comment, which puts the braeks on any sexual relationship, It seems many times girls want you to make the move and if you wait too long its over ! I need to feel comfortable 1st, it really sucks !
121706
As long as you make your time with her romantic, you don't need to be in any rush to be sexual with her and you can still avoid the "You remind me of my brother" comments. Just make sure when you guys are together it is obvious that you are not her brother, not just her best guy friend.. as long as you keep that at bay you can take as long as you need to be intimate with her.
518649
well if she said you like her brother..you might want to think of it as going out with like your sister!! not such a good idea..personaly i would start looking around possibly see if she gets jelous!
292087
Sometimes, men actually want women to make the first move.  take me for example: i have never really had a whole lot of relationships, but when i got together with my fiance, i made all of the moves, except the first kiss.  I was quite often uncomfortable making the first moves because i was unsure of how she would react.  On the night of our first kiss, i really liked how sweet and sincere the kiss ended up being.  And i know that i would not have made my move that night, because i was far too nervous.  She could see this, and decided to take initiative.  I personally liked it.  It also shows me that the woman knows what she wants, versus "needs" the guy to make decisions all the time.  By the way, it sounds like if he doesn't really look at you, he might be a little nervous around you, and is unsure of how you'd react if he asked you. Go for it!!  I think that most men don't mind if a woman takes initiative, unless that man is insecure about himself and needs to feel "macho" or something by being the decision maker.
670639
Noooo, please don't stop. I've asked my own b/f to do something romantic for me for the past 2 years and still nothing. There are girls out there, you just have to be patient. :(
461451
you seem like you are too into yourself.  try talking to guys, some guys wait for the girl to make the frist move.  i mean hell, if you live in ohio ill be happy to take you out on a date:) try to relax and be more friendly and more socialable...hope that helps
173781
Be very careful what you do!  I liked two brothers a while ago, and when they found out that I was interested in both of them, they both dropped me because they were offended!  A very sad loss, because they were both amazing guys.  I should've chosen the one that I had deeper feelings for (we had spent more time together, and had more chemistry).
405589
I feel your pain!!!  Keep busy and hang with close friends. Honestly the best way to get her out of your head is to find another. Plenty of us females out here that would love to be on there guys mind 24/7. Just keep looking.
114703
First face that fact that you might get burned again and when you have someone in mind (I'm guessing you all ready do), that you think is worth the risk of shedding some tears over if it doesn't work out, then you're ready to make your move.  Be where that person is when you can, not stalky, but if he's in some sport or club, go to the games or go to a club meeting, etc.  Give him an opportunity to notice you.  Ask for help with some topic if you share a class, that sort of thing.
110181
I can so relate to you.  I'm 22 now, you sound like me at 18 (and i was a pothead too)  anyway, if you've never tried it before it is just great to come on STRONG.  You guys are hanging out, get physically close, you will feel the heat, just kiss him.  HE WON'T RESIST, trust me.  I tried it for the first time with one of my close friends and now i always come on strong when I want a guy, guys respond to that, it makes them feel special because you obviously want them, not just any guy, and they can't help but be turned on.  Guys want nothing more than to be severly wanted by a girl, send the message and he will receive it!
523256
If your really that hot then, us guys think your too good for them and want make a move, What I like is when really hot girls gives me hints to know that she is interested in me, try hints like saying "your hot too" or "thanks sexy" when they complement you. If they don't make a move then there either gay or in a relationship already. Us guys don't always know what a girl wants. And a lot a of girls don't make it easy for us. Good luck.
153853
it is obvious that she liked you!  So when she found out that you were taken it made her nervous.  She must have thought that you guys had a attraction toward each other especially if you talked for 4 to 5 hours a night.  So when she found out that you didn't feel the same way toward her it made her embarrassed.  She will get over it i think.  Just give her some time.  When you do talk to her, just act as if nothing is wrong or different hopefully this will give her the message that she shouldn't be embarrassed because you thought nothing of it.  I would not ask her why she stoped talking to you though because this will only discourage her to not talk to you since it will make her more embarrassed.
489540
It's probably over-familiarity. You know they say familiarity breeds contempt - well, it's quite likely they just see you so often they don't notice you in that way. If you like a specific one, you have to make her notice you, maybe by asking her out, or if that seems too scary just talking to her. After all, you can always ask her out later when you know her better. \n\nOn the other hand, if you're just suffering from lack of female attention, then there's not much you can do about it other than accept it. It sounds like you have no shortage of girls outside your school flirting... so just bask in that glow, man! And keep up your confidence. Girls like confident guys who don't come across as arrogant - a difficult balance, but a true girl-magnet if you can pull it off! Trust me. I know. \n\nTigerwolf x \n(speaking as one who has been taken in by the same trick more than once!)
440485
i hate it when i have to text guys first...girls love it when guys make the first move....in anything! so yes. and...talk it slow. become good friends, which you say you are. DONT go through other frineds to find out. talk to her, to her face, and tell her how you feel. but also explain that you dont want it to mess up your friendship if she doesnt feel the same way...that you'd still want to be friends. but i think she probably will....good luck!
260552
My heart goes out to you. You're worth better. And I'm not just saying that. If she doesn't miss you, she's a fool.\n\n Girls do strange things sometimes, and sometimes even we dont' know why we do it. Maybe she needs some space. I wish I had a brother like you!
498378
WARNING. THIS THREAD IS FULL OF AWFUL ADVICE.\n\nMan to man, let me give you a very important piece of advice. Do NOT ask women about how to deal with women. Women do not want what they say they want. They may think they hate anticipation, but they secretly thrive on it. Anticipation and unpredictability are good. (Although, I think the line about "I wanna ask you out, but right now am not in the mood" is awful - please don't use that.)\n\nThey're probably going to give me thumbs down for this, but I'm telling you from experience, it's the truth. Again, the two points to take from this:\n\n1. Anticipation and unpredictability are good\n2. Don't trust what women SAY, trust how they RESPOND\n\nSorry ladies, I love you, but the guys who actually follow your advice end up being the guys who are too wussy to get a girl.\n\n[See, there go the thumbs down already! Don't believe em, bro! I'm looking out for you.]
420874
I have the same problem but my friend is quite forward and she is rubbing off on me. If you know the person may be interested in you then make the move. No one likes rejection but you just have to be confident in YOURSELF, thats the first thing to work on.
335242
sounds like u didn't make your move fast enough.  Ive noticed that when im looking for girls they never take me seriously, but the second i finally find a girlfriend or start seeing someone that all the girls i was JUST CHASING all become jealous (like you), to me it sounds like you're a bit of an attention whore, and you're just jealous of the attention she is getting that you aren't.  If you really cared about the guy, which is possible, wait patiently, even let him know that you wish you would have expressed your feelings earlier, and that you really regret not doing so.  Maybe him and his girlfriend will have a fight, and knowing he can come to you, he might dump her.  But if you follow through with this, don't get bored with him just cause you "got" him finally.  I NOTICE THIS LOTS TOO!  Remember what it was like for him to not pay attention to you and how bad it made you feel.  What ever u do, don't break up a relationship just because you are jealous of the attention you aren't recieving from a guy who wants a girl who will give him her attention back.