I have this best friend who has been cheated by his girlfiend for 2 years now who is a japanese. They we're into a distant relationship after the girl left for japan. A year later,the girl came back but my friend is already in Australia. Meaning, they haven't seen each other for that two years  but my friend is still holding on.\n\nThey tried hard to survive that 2 years until my friend learned that his girl cheated on him. How sad because he is helpless and defenseless.
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Well, if he's clear that she cheated on him, what better thing to do than wish her good luck and get on with his life? I am sure a person as loyal as ur friend deserves someone equally devoted..which makes our japanese gal "not eligible "...
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My husband cheated on me shortly after we got together...but I did say he's my husband, right?  He swears up and down to never do it again, it's hard to forget, but I have forgiven him and am still, after 2 1/2 years trying to forget.  It's not easy, but I love him too, and don't want to let go.  He respects me for forgiving him, and since I gave him a second chance, he will be faithful to me.
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ive been caught in this before. i got a whole childhood story on it and the more the girl went on, the worse i felt. but apparently this friend of yours must have been pretty traumatized (i cant spell lol) by what happened to her and still kinda haunts her. i can understand both of u, as u not knowing her past like that, and since u were friends u felt like u thought u could joke about anything. i guess some things are really still hurting deep inside. but she didnt NEED to blow up on u, cuz u didnt know. i get the feeling shes guna come to her senses eventually. try and see it from her side, being a constantly teased child and then getting it all over again, kinda like re-opening the wound.\n\nbest of luck with your bud.
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My best friend screwed me in the worst way ever. He tried to have me arrested on false charges.\n\nI just walked away from him, I know the worst thing I can do to him is not to tell him what he did, and why it is wrong, he will be an as-hle for the rest of his life and he will screw himself.\n\nI haven't seen him since then, I will not see him in the future. He was a friend until he demonstrated his kind.
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Been there with my best friend. She did that to me a few times, but I finally had enough and told her if she didn't find her own men, I was not going to be around her anymore. Its a trust thing: You trusted her with the knowledge that you liked this guy, and she went ahead and screwed around with him....Not Cool!!\n\nHowever, if the guy didn't know you like him, then its not his fault. If he did, he holds half the blame.\n\nI'd do the same thing again with my best friend, I'd let her have it! My best friend decided that she'd rather be my friend than have anyone I liked!!...GL;)
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You are so lucky to have each other at this time. I believe you are a gift to each other. I had friends in a similar position as you are in now. They both decided to take everything one day at a time and enjoy every thing including their love each and every day. They went through, thick and thin together in increasing love, for 3 years longer than doctors had predicted. The surviving friend, years later, has told me several times how they would have suffered a much greater loss if they had not been dedicated to each other in love for as long as possible.
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I vote, forgive AND forget. Why else would you bother calling her your BEST friend rather than just a friend? Take a chance, a risk. I think she's worth it. We all make mistakes.
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You guys live in a different state.  What do you expect to happen?  Do you expect him to be alone?  What has failed here is your understanding when people are far apart.  It's your responsibility to be realistic, not him.  It would help if he did his part, but that's not the issue here.\n\nIt's you and your false expectations about relationships-particularly when you live far from your mate, in a different State.\n\nSorry sweetheart.  \n\nI'm guessing he said that not to hurt your feelings and he has no intention of doing so, but he's a human being and so are you.\n\nCall him and tell him that this is not realistic and to maintain a friendship.
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When I was in High School my best friend was so pretty.  She had beautiful long hair and a cute figure.  Every guy looked at her butt because it was a perfect shape.  Not too big or little.  I think I was actually jealous of her butt. LOL!!!!!  I am so embarrassed I just said that.  :)   Anyway,  I just was kinda happy go lucky and didn't worry about it.\nYears later when we would go out dancing or clubbing guys paid more attention to me.  I was in College and she would call me  and beg me too come home for the weekend so we could go out.  When I got in town I would always have to call her and then she would say that her and her frind Mary were going out, but i could come too.  After this happening about 3 times (I lived 5 hours away from school so coming home was a major ordeal) I was confused and mad.   She would talk to her other girlfriend and ignore me.   While we were in the ladies room I told her that she was acting wierd and was ignoring me .  I asked her " are you jealous of me"?   She was like "why would I be jealouse of Kimberly *****?  (*=my last name)  I said I don't know why, but you are.  She denied it.  I left and went home.  We didn't speak again until a few years later I ran into her at  a club.  She was drunk and came up to me and asked if I could come into the bathroom with her.  I agreed.   While there she started to cry and said "remember that night when you asked if  I was Jealous of you?"   She said " Well I was and I lied and I am so sorry".\n\nMy point is this.  When I was jealous of her I didn't worry about it because  I was proud of who I was and loved her as my best friend.  Then when my body matured and I turned into a young woman I still thought she looked great, but I was no longer jealous.   But she couldn't handle me getting all the attention because she was insecure during that time.\nGod tells us to not be jelous or envious.  If you work on loving yourself for who you are and forget about who is giving whom the attention things will come and go your way because confidence is beautiful.\nMy best friend and I lost 2 years together that we can never get back.\nAnd just because no one says to you that your pretty does not mean that they are not saying it to others.  They are telling you that she is so pretty, but they are not saying it to her.
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Yes, it's happened more than once in my life and I didn't want to hurt them, even though I didn't like them.  But eventually it's just not worth hanging around so I left.  In the end and looking back it was a stupid thing to do and I would tell anyone saying they didn't like their girlfriend to leave.  Makes me a hypocrite but that's the answer.
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Those of you that have said no to this, but have commented on why people cheat, and judge those that do, have really got no right to judge/comment unless they have been there and done that themselves or have been on the receiving end. As for me, yes I have cheated. Nearly 5 years into my marriage, we started having alot of problems. We weren't spending quality time together or communicating and there was no sex. When I tried talking to him on a deep and meaningful level, I got no input from him. I told him repeatedly that I was unhappy in our marriage and even to the point where I asked him if he would come to marriage counselling with me. He refused! I spent more and more time on the internet chatting to my friends until I got talking to a guy from Germany. Eventually, I was telling him about my marriage problems and how unhappy I was. From what started out as a friendship on the net and someone to talk to once or twice a week, ended up developing into something more and talking every day. It got to the stage where I hardly spent any time with my husband at all and he knew I was chatting on the internet. This guy from Germany told me he had developed feelings for me and was flying down to Melbourne to meet me. I kept it quiet from my husband and told him I was going away for a couple of weeks and that we needed the break. I picked this guy up from the airport and we drove interstate together and holidayed for two weeks. Yes, we had the most wonderful time together and when it was time for him to leave, he wanted to come back to Australia again and visit me. I felt so guiltly for cheating on my husband that when I returned home, I told my husband and also told him it was over between us and I moved out of the house. The guy from Germany and myself continued on with our relationship for about a year. The second time he came here, he spent a month with me in Melbourne where I was living at the time. Sadly though it didn't work out because long distance relationships are just too hard to maintain and there was no future for us because I found out in the end that he had no plans to marry and live in Australia. Some people think that people who cheat on their partners are scum, well most often than not, the people that are the cheaters, suffer as well. I'm not condoning cheating and I'm sorry for what I did but I not only lost my house (I left it to my husband)and security, but I nearly lost my family as well because they didn't agree with what I had done and my brother-in-law disowned me for awhile. If I could take back what I did, I would, but as the saying goes, what's done is done and my advice is to anyone that is thinking of cheating on their partners, don't! He'll end up finding out and if he doesn't, you'll have to live with the guilt for the rest of your life (if you have a conscious). For 2 to 3 years after I left my husband, I was an emotional mess. I cried constantly for the hurt that I brought upon my husband and also my family. If your marriage is in turmoil, communication is the key to a long and lasting marriage, so try and talk things through, seek a marriage counsellor if you have to and if all else fails, tell your partner you are leaving before you do something you will regret later! Life wasn't meant to be easy and you have to constantly put the time and effort in to make a relationship work! I learnt the hard way.....
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It does sound very sad to me who ever might be in this situation. some people don't realise what they have until it's gone. \n\nMy advice would be to talk about it to him/her the worst they can say is no!
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Yep. It's worse that he still sees her...how did you find out that he cheated? Did he admit it to you or did you find out yourself? It's awfully hard to trust someone even if it was someone before you that they cheated on. Often the cheater expects and awaits being cheated on and the cycle continues.
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I believe that many ppl ask the same questions only cuz there in denile, No one wants to know that there Girlfriend/boyfriend is cheating on them, and no one wants to know that anything bad is happening to them. As far as other ppl, they just dont pay attention but i do feel that sometimes after we write things we feel better and we reconize our own faults which sometimes makes us able to solve it... and YES i think they do it also for chat. BUT personally i think that if u are in a LOVE Bind and u think someone is cheating OR you are cheating then THIS place is the last place i'd wanna go UNTIL i read all the other ppl's questions and answers and that cuz ppl who think there being cheated on alot of them go on the *rebound* and fall in love with the first person that gives a good answer or the 1st person to respond lol... So in the long run (which is very sad) the cheated on becomes the cheater as well!
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Darling,\nYou've done your bit and you are a real friend for that. There's nothing else you can do but beeing there for him when he'll realize she's been cheating.\nI wish I had friends like you!
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it might be hard for the friend to let go and then seeing his ex getting on with her life when he hasnt moved on hurts him .\nanswer stop seeing him and date the girl
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When something similar happened to me, I tried to forgive but I could not forget. I ended up having to leave him for my own sanity. That level of betrayal is unforgivable.It sucks but you don't seem to be able to move on with her so maybe you so move without her.