Divorce through Mediation. If you have used Mediation for  divorce - tell me if you think it was a wise choice in the long run, and if children were involved.
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My husband used mediation in his divorce and I'd say it did help. Yes a child was involved.  His ex refused to give him time with his daughter and the mediator helped his ex realize he needed time and she was be unreasonable. So yes it helps.
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The best way to help your ex get on with his life is by getting on with your life. Show him that there's life after divorce, and happiness. Be courteous, but not over-friendly. Discuss what needs discussion, like the kids, or whatever, then have places to go, and things to do...don't spend time in useless dialogue. Also, as far as property goes, settle that as soon as possible. If you and he have no possible reconciliation, no need to spend a lot of time together. Move on!
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"Desperation is a stinky cologne"... I was desperate about 3 years ago.  It was the ugliest thing you ever saw.  Divorce is always ugly... but let me tell you that if a woman has made up her mind about a divorce... its made up.  To make it worse, she decided a long time before she actually told you so it's set in her mind and it won't be undone.  My ex told me we wouldn't be getting divorced if had done this or hadn't done that and the more I worked on those things... the angrier she became.  Why, because she made up her mind a long time ago and and she doesn't want you screwing up her justifications.  Let her go do what ever she is going to do and you just work on getting back to God... because that could be all that saves you from doing "something very stupid"... I can hear it in your voice.  I could go on, but I really just want to answer the question you posed "what to do when my wife loves another and kicks me out but i still love her?"... You have to pray for God to show you what he wants you to get out of this and to pray for her and the well being of your children.  Don't worry about her love right now... just God's and you will be in a much better place a year or so from now.
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1.  Do not believe in divorce.  Make it not an option, not even as a last resort.\n\n2.  You must put each other and each others feeling before all else.\n\n3.  You must BOTH be completely willing to communicate and completely willing to talk about problems that either of you feel you have.
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At times a good conversation about hopes and dreams is in order. What do both parties want out of the relationship. Are both parties happy? A younger child can bring added pressures and it affected me also for awhile. I found myself doing many of the same things for a few months. I was in a total culture shock and didn't know how to handle the situation. I am now still there for my wife and its lasted 5 good years and counting. I am now myself again and love the family life. I guess at times it takes som getting used to and others it doesnt work out for people. The situation needs to be addresses because it is unhealthy for both parties. You have needs and so does he. You all need to work things out or split apart and find happiness.
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Mediation is generally useful where the parties can negotiate on reasonable equal terms, and can discuss matters to reach a common solution.\n\nIn many juvenile justice situations, the parties can never be on anything close to equal footing. Same with domestic violence cases. So, any negotiated settlement is likely to come out inherently unbalanced.
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now days, there are more divorced people or not.  SO dont worry about SOME of the opinions you've gotten. If it wasnt you're fault, dont worry about it!  Things happen, like to me, and I sure as hell wasnt staying when that dumb a** was cheating with everything that walked.  So somewhere else, to some other preacher!
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Mediation is one option you can consider.\n\nMany small claims (municipal) courts sponsor free mediation programs, and other resources may be available in your community.\n\nMediation allows you to work with the other party towards a solution, with help from someone who is trained in dispute resolution.\n\nAlso, check your local province laws regarding privileges relating to settlement negotiations and/or mediation. A solicitor (lawyer) will be able to answer these questions, if you can't find the laws yourself.
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Its the effect a broken marriage has on kids. Thats why divorce is so bad.   Get some books on it an read. Promise yourself to do better as an adult.  You don't have to walk in your parents footsteps. You are a very unique person and have a lot to offer. So read things that lift your spirit and help you become the great adult you can be.
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I'd get up and leave the room. With that said.  My son says my hubby and I fight alot, and to us we are not fighting.  We are discussing different things and giving our points of view to each other.  Usually we don't raise our voices and maybe it would be considered bickering by some.  But really it is harmless.  So I wouldn't worry about the divorce issue.  If they say they wouldn't get divorced than believe them.  No sense worrying about it until it really happens.  \n\nOn the other end of it.  It is not fair for either of them to ask you to side with them.  But maybe they are trying to get you in on a discussion.  Make it a family thing?\n\nGood luck.
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I've been divorced twice. I wish I had done a "do it yourself divorce" the second time, it would have saved me a lot of cash. Anyhow, as long as the two of you are in agreement and ther are no kids from the marriage, it should be pretty simple.  never had to provide any info regarding my first marraige to my lawyer during the second divorce. Good Luck!!
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Yes and no based on why those events took place. Marriage appears to be the way of life in the society so most of us are getting married. That is the divine way to continue the  life cycle. Divorce is a result of modern civilization. If purpose of life is to have peaceful life and then for some divorce may be a solution.
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Alot of things,but each person's case is not the same. Go out to a club and ask people who've done it!!! Some people who are divorcing are okay with it,while some are not!
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I used to practically beg my ex-husband for it... then, after I asked for a divorce, he told me that he was watching movies every night after I went to bed.  (I had no clue & felt so dumb!)  He said that it was because when he was with me it didn't last long (it didn't, maybe 15-20 seconds).  When he, um, took matters into his own hands, he could prolong matters and it felt better.  Then he asked for my help.  It opened the door of communication, I helped with "exercises", but we still divorced.  I was emotionally over him and just drained.  I felt like he lied to me for too many years and he was being selfish.  Don't wait.  Get help now, before it's too late....  What a waste!  We both enjoyed sex - it could have been so much better.
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bad idea. you need to provide far more info. is custody something you agreed to? have you determined how the situation will be handled if one of you changes your mind? how about if the circumstances change? \nthose are your children (or somebody's children). i know it is costly but if anything in the world is worth spending that money, its your kids.
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Divorce has become an easy way out of situations. I think people just don't want to take the time to work out what is wrong with their marriages. It'd just be much easier to start over. Kind of sad, huh? Of course, there are divorces that occur for very good reasons (abuse, constant adultery, ect...)\nI'm married (first time), and plan to be with my hubby until the day I die. That was the commitment and vow I made. Any problems we may have will be worked out come "Hell or high water." Divorce is not in my marriage vocabulary.
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I honestly you and you're ex should sit down and talk about it.  I mean, obviously you have a past and if you are both reasonable people you should be able to come to some sort of cconclusion.  You're kids are smart, they will understand at  a later age, but now you have to treat them like kids and let the adults figure out what is best.