there is a guy i worked with and he and i started talking and i went to his house and we made out a couple times and shit... well i let my friend talk to him and things were said and he got pissed off and dated her i seen them together and everything...he has even told them that me and him done it and we haven't they ended up breaking up 6 days into it and she was hurt... well he broke up with her he says he wants to try to work things out with us but we were not an item.... now he calls me and wants me to come over all the time... i feel like he is real obsessed with me and he won't just leave me alone he wants us to be together help i have told him i just want to be friends and nothing else and he acts like he can't accept that.... he even has got to the point he gets mad i won't answer the other line when he is beeping in while i am on the phone with my best friend in jail help?????? what do i do??????????
133687
This guy is one messed up creep.  He lied about you too.  That is unforgivable.  Even if you had done it, him telling people is unforgivable.  You need to tell him in no uncertain terms to leave you alone or you will get a restraining order and follow through.  Start documenting the harrassment, you will need it to get the restraining order.  If you have to, you can add call block to your phone and block his number and everytime he calls from a new number hang up and immediately block that too and don't forget to document it for the courts.  This guy is sick.
534621
The clingers are the hardest. You don't have to break it to him gently. Just to be safe, have a good friend with you in sort of a public place and just tell him that you want to break the relationship with him. Let him know that he a great person but he is just not your type. Say you are sorry if he is hurt. Then get up with your friend and politely say good bye and leave. If you have any more problems with him get a restraining order on him and make sure you are always with a trusted friend for a while. Be safe ,think safe, you just never know. Someone who  desperately clings like that -well you just never know what might happen. Next time feel a guy out a little more before a relationship goes too far and you won't get into this situation again. o.k.
436916
okay...so your friend and his girlfriend broke up.  You think it is because he likes you.  He is under the impression that they broke up a week ago, and she just told him that it's over.  Is that pretty much it.  So basically she ignored him for a week, and just got up the courage to end it.  \n\nWell...if he is your friend, then let him talk to you about it.  That's what friends are for.  You may be the reason, but may not.  Maybe she was jealous that you and him were friends.  Right now, it's not about you, it's about him.  If he wants to talk about it with you, then you, as his friend, should be there to talk to him about it.  \n\nGood luck!
413936
I wouldn't freak out about it. Trust what he told you. That he wasn't interested in anyone but YOU. That is how trouble and hurt feelings get started, people talking smack. However, your so called *friend* never should have went to his house, knowing this is your *love* interest. I would casually mention to him that you were told she was there and then ask if everything is OK? If he acts normal to you, and smiles and says yes, perhaps even gives a small run down of why she was there, then your cool. If he offers nothing and is not acting his usual self towards you, then you know something is up. If that is the case, drop your friend, she will do it to you again with someone else. If he is normal with you and nothing has changed and all goes well. I would call my friend, let her know how *uncool* it is she did that, and then I would keep her at a distance and not be *as close* as you once were. I hope this helped some. Blessed be
531987
Dont call him again. He is making up excuses and is clearly not worth a minute of your time. I know it hurts and he is going to be on your mind but if you call him you are just going to look weak and hes going to know he can come back to you if things dont work out with someone else or hes lonely. Try to move on and im sure you will get a phone call from him!
220329
you shouldn't dump anyone just because your so called best friends are telling you to. In the end, they may be the ones trying to use you. You have to ask yourself if he is treating you the way you want to be treated, and if the relationship is open and mutual. I don't know the dyanmics involved with that so I can't help you. If you feel that he is someone that could be doing that, then I think you should talk to him before dumping him. Make a decision based on your feelings and experiences, not on what your friends are saying.
522434
Wow how old are you?\n\nThis guys a sleaze for taking advantage of you, he spent all the time with you? He just doesn't have to charm anyone else when your already there, thats all.\nThe oldest trick in the book , he wants a long term relationship?\n\nHoney, he's using you, ok, and you fell for it, im sorry.
394216
He sounds like a very controlling guy the next time he does this don't contact him in any way he wants control and you are giving it to him every time there are so many better guys out there you don't need a guy who constantly makes you feel bad about yourself. Get rid of him he does not deserve you.
530858
This guy would be mad to even consider getting back together with this girl. She doesn't deserve a second chance. To be honest I don't even know why you want a " friend " like her - you sound like a nice person !!!!!!!!!!!!!! Talk to the guy and give him your opinion - does he really want to go through that kind of sh*t again ?
318132
I've been in your shoes and I've been in the opposite side of your shoes. Clearly, like previously stated, this man does not know what he wants. Do you really think it's possible for a man to break up with you and change all those feelings of romance into friendship in just three days?!? He's just lonely and trying to fill the void (platoniclly, sexually, who knows), and he's probably unaware that your heart is at stake. If you want to be "friends" with someone after you've dated them, break up for real, cut contact, go about your life normally again, see other people, wait AT LEAST 3 months (maybe more), then see how you feel. A few years ago I had a gf and we went back and forth with the break-up/friend thing, and looking back it was such a waste of time. We ended up breaking up for good and we don't talk anymore. Now life is good. I have found another great girl and I don't need to be friends with my ex. After two years we've never done the break-up back and forth thing.\n\nGo after the one you love, don't waste your time and energy trying to decide if this confused guy is for you - he's obviously not. Your heart, future, family, etc. is too valuable.
232769
Ok then...... find another "friend" who will spend time on the phone with you. Move on..... he needs to communicate, or you don't need to waste any more time with him.
104741
he should be still mad at u after 7 months. i mean 'get over it aready!' it should be safe to call him without him hangin the phone up on u but jus to b on the safe side u should ask ur friend to call him first. same thing happened 2 me (only i dumped my ex 4 his best friend) and my ex and i r still talkin up to dis day
10516
I think he must be hanging out with my ex-boyfriend because he did the same thing. Only problem ... I let him get away with it for longer than I'm willing to admit. Girl, I'm sure you are so sweet, smart and better than him. Just move on. I know I should take my own advice at times.. lol. This guy is doing one of two things or two of two things. He's either 1. Terribly immature and doesn't want to appear "whipped" in front of his buddies - AKA "Bro's before Ho's theory...or 2. Cheating and trying to keep you at the same time. AKA- having his cake and eating it, too. Either way, pls dump him,go out this weekend and forget about his immature, childish, sick, evil ass. Boys like him deserve to wake up with nothing but themselves,cheap beer and their dumb buddies drooling on them.
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I would emotionally distance yourself from him.  You can remain friends, but I would start looking elsewhere.\n\nIt may be that if you hook up with someone else, he'll realize he might lose you, and that might give him the kick in the butt he needs.  Or he could get jealous and retaliate.  If he has no reaction, it may just mean he's not that into you.\n\nEither way, prepare to move on.  I'm not saying you should find someone to make him jealous; that's just self-defeating.
399495
Your friend feels hurt and betrayed by your actions when you dumped him for the loser boyfriend.  It sounds as if he cares more for you than the other guy ever did.  Keep this in mind when dealing with the friend you could trust.  He's not the same guy who treated you so badly and he probably will not react in the same way.  Give him a chance.  \n\nIf you want to rebuild the friendship, you need to give it time and take small steps. Trust is the fastest thing to lose and the slowest to regain. Back off for now.  Leave him alone for a week or so, then if you still want to speak with him, text or email him that you've had some time to think and you're wondering how he's doing.  (Absolutely DO NOT do this if you are not totally sincere.  You've hurt him once already and he doesn't deserve to be hurt again.) If he answers, then you have a dialog.  Ask if you can speak to him on the phone.  Tell him you know that you did was wrong and ask for his forgiveness.  Most importantly, let him know how much you miss him.  Tell him that you'd like to talk to him again later.  If he agrees, then ask if he'd meet you somewhere for a coke or something.  After a few times of talking to you and seeing you, he will start to see a change.  That is what he's looking for.  When you feel that the both of you are ready, then find a way to be alone with him.  Tell him how you feel.  Most importantly don't rush him or yourself.  Friendship is built on trust and trust takes time.  Best of luck.  Hope this helps.
399742
He told you how he felt. You cant change or control him and thats what your trying to do. He was honest with you cuz you asked him to be. Theres nothing more to it, you are now broken up and have been so theres no more relationship. He doesnt have to answer to you for anything. He has every right to have a date if he wants just as you do. You are trying to control something beyond the break up and all that will do is prolong any hurt for YOU, not him. Move on and forget the friends thing for now. Maybe down the road but now you need to let go of it all.
468197
he seems like an asshole.  avoid him and perhaps your friend should avoid him as well.  since he is an ex, he has no reason to have contact with you, let alone your friend.