I met my GF at a graduation party about 10 months ago. Yesterday we had a conversation about how we met.  She thinks our circumstance involves fate, because halfway through the party I was going to leave to go to a concert with my buddies.  I left for about 10 minutes and decided to come back just so I could try and hook up with her, I was planning on just a drunken hook up, but one thing led to another and we've been dating for almost a year now.  She has no Idea I came back just to try and get *ss.  And she thinks it's fate that brought us together.  She's one of those girls that has watched every chick flick and believes that romance can begin like it does in those lame movies.  Should I tell her the truth, or just let her keep on believing fate brought us together?
131098
I'm a girl and I would be devastated if my BF told me that.  Sometimes things are just better left unsaid.  She would lose respect for you at the least.  If you don't want the chance of losing her and you DO love her, keep it to yourself. :-)  Believe me, I've kept the same thing to myself.  Girls are sometimes just after some nice hard...ya know..and then we get hit with the love bug!! haha
103886
Do what she says, If she says it'll help it probably will, we girls dont lie when we say and sugjest things to help a relationship that we really want to workout! Does she seem like she really wants you to be with her? If she does do it, if not then you'll have to figure out what is happening.
26720
I honor honesty above all. It's your decision want to be involved with her modern life or not. Whatever decision you take, be responsible. I am not that modern and don't believe in pure sex without love, but I don't judge. I respect people with different life style and realize their lives could be much more interesting than mine. You sounded eager to give a modern life a try. If you are prepared, why not? Wish you all the best!
378088
thats a tough situation \nbut you cant go back in time and changed what you said then\nbut im sure things will turn out for the best in the long run\nbtu for now i would suggest maybe backing of alittle bit\ncall ehr sometimes maybe causually ask her what shes doing that weekend and hint that yall should hang out\niif shes interested she will probably agree to that and continue makign  plans
159813
the truth is the fastest way out of a problem though it probably wont hurt the least.  the truth always comes out and if you start with that you will be in the best position.  make sure you have some examples to back it up or she might just talk you into staying with her longer.  women usually get what they want.  good luck.
207981
I think that you should believe her and give her a second chance. \n\nBut I would just kinda play it cool until you know weather or not she is lying. If she keeps on acting better over the next couple months then she probably is clean.\n\nBut dont put your self in the situation where you can get hurt. Dont get you hopes high just to have them stomped on. If she is clean great, but if she is not then just dont let it get to you. Just keep going on with your own life.
442435
As long as you're  begging (and that's what it is - begging!) her to take you back, she knows she can do whatever she wants, and she'll still have you to go back to......  IF nothing else works out for her.  From what you've written, it sounds as though you're a very worthwhile guy - someone that lots of young women would just LOVE to have a relationship with - well, the smart ones, anyway.  Keep in mind, your ex is in high school, and very young.  (t's probably hard on her to not have a date on Friday night when all her friends do.)  Also, she might have a few "wild oats to sow" before she's ready to settle down with one guy....  But, know what?  You're young, too.  Why not take this "break-up" time as an opportunity to meet some other girls - maybe,someone in one of  your classes. (At least, you'll have something in common to talk about.) Get involved in some of the extra-cirricular activities around your campus.  You know, something that you're really interested in.  You' ll probably  find plenty of women who are interested in the same things. (Right now, you're building  your whole world around ONE person, which isn't wise in the long run.)  You might just find out that  you CAN live without your ex - or, if nothing else, you will learn a lot about how to handle yourself around women. (Begging them to come back to you is not the way, sweetie. It just makes you seem desperate.)  I know this is very, very difficult advise to take.  You might be homesick, and wishing things could be the way they used to be.  For many, the first year of college is hard to adapt to, but adapting is one of the most important lessons you can learn in life.  There's a big world out there - lot's of things to see, places to go, and people to meet.  It's sad if you choose to cling to the past  at such a young age.  And, you never know, your ex might just notice how mature and interesting you're becoming, and decide that those high school "boys" aren't  so "all-that" after all. That's when she might start begging you to take her back - that is, IF you'll still have her!  Think about it - and, best of luck to you.\n\nPEACE
242288
Are you more concerned that SHE will think it's too fast and get scared or is it YOU that doesn't want her to think you're that into her just yet? If YOU are the one not ready to give her that impression, I wouldn't invite her to the concert. But, if you don't care then I don't think that a 3rd date is too soon to meet your friends. Besides, it's a concert with thousands of other people around, not a small dinner party where she might feel uncomfortable being the "new girl".
49151
Well, as the, old saying goes, " We learn from our mistakes." If you didn't want to go out with her in the first place, you shouldn't have. But now you have complete knowledge of what your better judgement saw, 'her immaturity.' She treated you like a 'FOOL', and has gone on with her life for 7 months and now justs wants to pop back in and play you like a 'idiot' until someone else comes along. Tell her, Hell no, and why you never want to date her again.!!
341698
Whether you go out with her is ultimately your choice, but if you choose to go out with her, wait until after the semester is over, which isn't too long at this point. My reason for say this is that it will make your teacher/student relationship really awkward. Think about this too: if you get good grades and it gets out that you're dating your teacher, everyone will say that you have a grades for sex kind of thing going on. On the other hand, if you two have a big conflict or something, you don't want her having power over your grades if she chose to get some sort of revenge.
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I agree with sunshine up here.\nTry to figure what she likes to do and if you find something that you like as well, go ahead.\nTell her you think she's a great companion and when you are with her you really have a good time.\nAnd since you both enjoy to (watch movies, ride a bike or whatever she might be on it)ask her if she would like to go out with you one of these days to do it.\n\nSimple like that.\n\nGood luck!\n\nI hope you succeed and have a great time together!
480119
The idea, in hindsight, appears logical and the answer seems clear.  Anyone would likely say "Just wait" if they could be assured that her love would be waiting for him after that time.  But the real issue here is this:  Would you have still felt the same?  What if you'd waited for her and, in so doing, denied yourself the chance to find love with someone who was ready?  We cannot know the future.  All we can do is live each day the best way we can and enjoy every bit of happiness that we are lucky enough to find.
120378
If you are really doing what you say you are, then you are on the right track.  Don't try and teach her how to be a girlfriend, let her learn it herself, besides chances are, your ideas of what a girlfriend should be are gonna be completely different from what her next boyfriend will think.
618974
Every girl you'll ever meet has a past. How can you get around that? If you didnt know this about your GF and BF before, how is that possible? And that leads to other questions you have to answer to - (for yourself, thanks)\n1. how does it really, (really) matter to you that they - if they did - had sex earlier in life?\n2. whom is the most important for you of the two? whom do you want to have a future relationship to?\n\nIf you care for her - you stay with her and keep the friendship with your friend.
390754
the only thing one can say at this point is that she was enjoying his company. she felt at ease and had a good time - remember, this is common behavior at a party. you both went seperate ways on the party, so what's the deal that she was talking to a stranger?\n\nyou confronted her once and she said it's forgotten - so should you.\nwhat do you expect her to do?\n\ndon't bring up that issue again. it will do you no good.
567725
If she said that she don't want to get involved with anyone for a while, then that's somewhat a good thing. She NEVER told you YES (NOR) did she tell you (NO)! That mean's there's still hope in the future. Maybe she is trying to she if your a patient guy, one who would be true to her, and willing to wait and prove it! Go out together (as friends) and get her to like and admire you more. Good Luck.
327287
I think she was trying to tell you something...You should have said something like,"well, you have a boyfriend, aren't you happy with him?" Ask her some time what she meant. Maybe she will dump her bf if she really likes you and maybe she thinks you will dump your gf to be with her. You'll never know unless you ask her.