I recently went out if a friend that I have known most of my life.  I think of him as a brother, but he wants to go out with me.  I told him that I needed time to think.  Was I over reacting?
124613
Absolutely not! Just tell him you needed some time because it came as a shock and ask yourself if you want to date him ; if not ... try to explain him kindly that you don't really think about him as being your boyfriend and that this wouldn't be fair to him in the end
179991
well,, friendship is a friendship, keep it that way\n\nI feel that you do not want your friendship to change, so going out with him "may" change this.  Could you say, we can go out, but as FRIENDS, I do not want anything more/less.  I'd hate to not have you as my friend anymore...
389101
Email him and say... Hey just thinking about you. I have not heard from you lately and just wanted to know  if you wanted to go out again some time, and then give him an easy way out. Then at least you will know.
670975
I think you should give it more time. I can understand what you are talking about when you say you wonder if you should go for something. But me  I try to just wait awhile before I jump into something, but just give it more time. Then if you want to follow your heart, just think it though carefully with whatever decision you make.
202466
option 3. he wasn't much of a friend before, and now that you have relationship baggage and nothing strong platonically to bind you from before, there is no friendship to revive here. too much complication and effort on your part. let him go and make different friends, see different guys, be free!!
24887
I had to do something like that recently. just sit down and talk about the situation on hand. my truthfully honest Because i know you would want the same thing if they were telling you. Don't forget you did once think they were your friend and maybe they still do think they are. So give that to them.
358066
I think he told you didn't he, from what I surmise from your text is there is lots of signals in your mind that say he is in to you, which may not be the case. don't use your friend to do the work that really scares you, you bring a 3rd party in to negotiate a relationship, you are asking for trouble, it's OK to use one to break the ice so to speak, like hey my friend likes you kinda thing. but for him to tell his feelings to your friend, not a good idea.
338992
Sounds like the 'I don't want to go out with you,but I don't want you going out or showing any interest what-so-ever in any one else' syndrom.Don't let him stop you from having a good time when your out and don't let him stop you from talking or even fancing another guy.He didn't want to be with you,thats his loss and somebody else's gain.If you allow it he will come between any relationship you form,even if its just friendships.Let him carry on acting like a spoilt and sulky child,just don't let him spoil things for you and yes,I think you would be better of just having him as a friend but,in all honesty,would you want him as a friend if he acts like this.
567389
Isn't it surprising how easily one gets into a 'situation' without really meaning to? It´s time to move on, you'll survive. Stop seeing the 'ex-best friend' and maybe you two will get together again in the future, much wiser for the experience.
133505
it would make it easier on you now that he moved out and away to say to him you really feel you need your space. just let him know you've never experienced life by yourself. you were 19 when you got into this and now that your 21 (my 21 b-day is in 7 days i so syked!), you're old/young enough to experience everything you've wanted. if you feel you want to go out and have fun as a single more power to you to follow your heart and do what'll make you happy! GL
364169
I guess he did realise that it would not be right to do something that both of you would regret later. I think he likes you more then he lets on and would like to get to know you better before taking things to another level. There is no problem to see and meet each other as both of you know that nothing happened and it has not affected your friendship.
293356
You probably should have asked your friend what her plans were before you hung out with you other friends, maybe she just assumed since you had already asked her to hang out that the plan was still on.She's probably feeling like you ditched her, send her an email explaining that you thought since she didn't let you know if she could hang out with you that she couldn't so you made other plans, and just tell her you're sorry.She'll get over it.
522180
That was hurtful that he did not respond to you when you needed his comfort!  He sounds egocentric and such people drain energy from others.  Decide whether the energy drain is worth it to maintain your "friendship."  How important is it to you to be "needed"?
343384
It seems ok to me....sometimes, if you have plans, then trying to maneuver around them can be very difficult, as you are finding out.  Don't woryy about it; and don't think that you were"put on the back burner," either.  The trip was occupying his attention, and he tried to get some time for YOU.  That's a good thing.  The fact that it didn't actually work is immaterial.
206993
Been there with my best friend. She did that to me a few times, but I finally had enough and told her if she didn't find her own men, I was not going to be around her anymore. Its a trust thing: You trusted her with the knowledge that you liked this guy, and she went ahead and screwed around with him....Not Cool!!\n\nHowever, if the guy didn't know you like him, then its not his fault. If he did, he holds half the blame.\n\nI'd do the same thing again with my best friend, I'd let her have it! My best friend decided that she'd rather be my friend than have anyone I liked!!...GL;)
254226
I would say you were probably too close to the situation to realize this person was not interested in hanging out with you. Unfortunately, this happens in relationships of all kinds. I have actually figured out that if I had listened to a couple of close friends and sometimes even my own mother, I would have saved myself a lot of heartache. One of my friends actually told me, when I was in a relationship, that this guy and I brought out the worst in each other. Looking back, I know she was exactly right. It was hard to see it at the time because I was blinded by love. Hope this helps.
419131
He just might be afraid of a relationship right now. Just give him the space that he wants, since you seem like a good friend. My guess is that this has happened to him more than once, but you shouldn't let him make those mistakes since your his friend. Just be there for him when the times are tough. When the time is right, he may think that it was worth the wait, but no more drinking!!! Good Luck!!!