My Husband and I Just got through one of the worst times of our life. I was in a terrible accident,and I could not walk. Well yesterday I went back to work and I'm back walking I just still have to take it easy,my legs still hurt really bad from time to time but I'm O.K.. Since the money is flowing back in the house and I finally filed my taxes,I have a chance to show his that I was grateful for him being a good husband,and I 'm throwing a surprise second wedding. I already got everything set up and the wedding is may 26,. Iwant to write something real speical for him. I'm not to good with word and i was wondering could you guys help me. I want to make him feel like he is on top of the world. Something that will damn near bring him to tears,because I LOVE this man with every fiber of my soul and I want him to know that!!!!!!!!!!  \n     \n   If you have something negative to say PLEASE do not answer the question !!!!!!
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I THINK YOU SHOULD PICK A SONG THAT MEANS SOMETHING TO THE BOTH OF YOU AND MAYBE START OUT WITH THOSE LYRICS AND THEN GET INTO YOUR OWN WORDS THAT WAY YOU COULD TELL HIM HOW MUCH HE MEANS TO YOU THROUGH THE SONG AND THAT WAY WHEN YOU HEAR THE SONG OR JUST THE WORDS TO THAT SONG HE WILL REMEMBER HOW MUCH HE IS LOVED AND THAT I BELIEVE THAT WOULD GET YOU STARTED. YOU MIGHT EVEN TRY THE SONG THAT WAS PLAYED FOR THE TWO OF YOUS FIRST DANCE AS A MARRIED COUPLE.
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My husband and I were married for just short of 4 years and together for a total of 12 when he passed away. Having been widowed for just over a year, I feel that I am at least qualified to offer my opinion on this subject. \n\nI have just started to think about dating here in the last month. It is difficult to say the least and you do have a tendency feel as though you are cheating on your spouse. \n\nThat being said, you have to think about what your husband would have wanted for you...would he really want you to spend the rest of your life pining away for him? And should the shoe have been other foot, what would you have wanted for him? These questions we must ask ourselves. \n\nAll things come in good time and grief and grieving are no exception it can take years to heal or it can take months, alot depends upon the type of death, be it unexpected or terminal illness. \n\nComing from the perspective of terminal illness, I can honestly say that a lot of my grieving was done prior to the actual event taking place. That, however does not mean that I don't miss my husband, I do, daily. But, we had these conversations for over 2 years and I knew what he wanted me to do. He felt I was too young and vibrant to spend the rest of my life alone and made me promise that when I felt ready, I would seek out another relationship. And to me, that spoke volumes regarding the depth of his love for me.
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Tuesday January 24, 2006 \n\nand I had a crazy weekend.  I told Kina about Brian.  I really regret even beginning anything with him it was just because of curiosity and not only was it a waste of time, (because I love Kina too much to end things) but it didnt satisfy any curiosity that I had.  I liked Brian because he was funny and he wanted me.  But then I broke it down and figured out why ?  Because he knows i am taken.  He is only 23, he has massive amounts of women that he knows well and chills with them.  He just liked the challange.  But I never did anything like that with him.  Althought I did want to, the fact remains, Kina does me o-so-well.  Maybe sometimes he will conk out or his buddy might get a lil tired, he does make a valid effort to make sure my hearing goes down when we are done (lol) and he is the only one who knows what to say and how to say it..\naaanyway so I am at work, thinking about food.  my salvation.  Grub.  Well i am probably going home today.  I havent been home since Friday the 20th damn right?  I miss my pup.  Xeeny Weeny.  I miss her so fuckin much.  You know what i dont really miss?  MYSPACE!  at work I miss it but i have psycho steve monitering my every myspace move.  That shit head.  And he swears up and down to Lauren that Kay told him she was with Ryan that night.  He denies it.  But i believe my sister over anybody.  and Kay knows that, so what is he hiding?  I dont know, so much shit.  I really want to have my own place.  I want to feel freedom.  But i dont want a lot of bills.  Kina said when i talk about moving in with him I make it seem so farefetched.  And its true, when I think about it, I feel like even thought I want it so bad, it is almost impossible to happen.  What Kina wont hear me say is that I dont have a lot of faith in him to do the right thing so I feel our chances of making it together are slim to none.  I hope that I am wrong.  But im not getting any younger.  What am I really trying to say?  I dont fucking know man.  i really dont.
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he probably has some really heavy stuff on his mind right now. if you talked of getting married and starting a family, then he may just be in a place where he has to think. i would say that all you can do is honestly tell him how you feel, not angrily or accusitorily, and give him room.
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1. For a unique party favor my groom and I are giving out lottery tickets. Only $1 each.. I will have a note in the program stating the tickets were chosen because we are so lucky to have our family and friends with us on our wedding day.\nI will also add a line that all winnings will need to be split with the bride and groom!\n\n 2. Instead of having an ordinary guestbook, that you hardly will look at again, I am going to create a photo guest book.  My guestbook attendants will take polaroids of each guest... either individually or in a group, however they come, and put it on the pages of the guestbook/scrapbook.  The guests will then sign on the bottom of their picture.  My fiance and I will then have a photo album of all the guests at our wedding! :) GST\n\n3. We are getting married next year and instead of the traditional wedding we have decided to go with a "rock-n-roll" theme. We are going to have records displayed around the hall with our names on them and a picture of the two of us. Our colors are navy blue, black and silver so there will be plenty of those colors…from the silver glitter on the black tables cloths to the silver spray painted roses.\n\n 4. Since this is a second marriage and there are children that will be blended into a new family, we are decorating the tables at the reception with photo trees holding photos of my future husband and I and our children doing things together. We feel it shows that this marriage is not the union of just two people, but the formation of a new family.\n\n5. We had a shortage of single men and women invited to our wedding, most of our friends and family were already married.  So we needed to come up with something different to replace the traditional bouquet and garter throwing.  We invited everyone to the dance floor and the dj played several lovely, slow songs.  First the dj told all couples married two hours or less to sit down (everyone got a kick out of that).  Then a few moments later, any married a year or less, than five years, ten years and so on, until there was only one couple left.  They were neighbors and friends of my family and had been married for fifty years.  We asked them to stay on the dance floor while I took a seat and my husband made a big show of removing my garter.  We then faced the winning couple, congratulated them on their fifty years and asked them for their best marriage advice as we presented them with the bouquet and garter.  They were very touched and it gave us a great feeling too.
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Holy Cow. I feel like I am reading my life story.  My BIL is the same way. One day he is flirting and then next day he is ice cold.\n\nI understand that emotional relationship. He and I are very close but he is very hard to take seriously.\n\nhe came to stay with us for 3 months before his parents moved here. That was the first mistake. The minute his parent closed on the house he left and treated me and my husband like crap.  He is recently moved in with this girl and nothing like drama to get you thru your life.\n\nOnce the in laws moved down here he told them I was sleeping around with every man in town.  \n\nHe recently told in laws that my husband I have having problems. The only problems we are having is with them.  He is trying to take the spotlight off of him and his drama.\n\nPlease understand I know what you are going through and I am not sure how to tell you to get through but take it day by day and avoid him at all costs.\n\nGood Luck I really know what you are going through and if you need to email me please do at ladybugmac2000@yahoo.com
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I have had to go out of town for a few days leaving the kids with my husband.  He thought he could do it just fine.  When I came home he just hugged me and said "how in the hell do you do it??"  I just laughed at him.  he never took my job for granted again.  Now when he gets home he cooks and lets me sit and relax because he knows I am exhausted.\n\nSo to answer your question, I say go out of town for a few days and see what he says when you get home.  This is something that they cant understand till they are in your shoes.
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Sunflower- hon don't feel bad about that! You need him to come home- your kids need him to come home! I think it is a shame the Govt. doesn't pay for it! God wants them to help you! It is ok sweetie! If I had money I would send it to you too! I know how much you all miss him- he misses ya'll! I thank God for people helping you! I hope he comes home soon- tell him I said Thank-you for all he does for us! I appreciate HIM! Bye, have a lovely day! cloeen
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i had the sweetest day of my life...\n\nmy boyf and i didnt plan anything for V-day because we both had work and we had conflicting schedules...(i go home 6am he goes to work 7am, i leave for work 8pm he arrives from work 6pm) so I wasn't really expecting anything...\n\nBut when it's time for me to go home from work (6am feb.14), some of my officemates were already teasing that a guy is waiting for someone outside and i said "no he's not my boyf" because I wasn't really expecting him but when I went outside there he was waiting for me with a big smile and as I was walking towards him...guess what?!! I didn't see this one coming...he handed me a bouquet of pink roses (a really nice one) and my officemates were like, "oh my gawd! he's so sweet"...\n\nI was very surprised and very touched. I felt very special that moment. Then we just had breakfast at his house then off we went to our different destinations...\n\nI love my man!! :)
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yes a nice one:\nRead on the true incident of a lady and just keep on laughing !!!! \n\nOne day I met a sweet gentleman and fell in love. When it became apparent that we would marry, I made the supreme sacrifice and gave up eating beans.   \n\nSome months later, on my birthday, my car broke down on the way home from work.  Since I lived in the countryside I called my husband and told him that I would be late because I had to walk home. On my way, I passed by a small diner and the odour of baked beans was more than I could stand. With miles to walk, I figured that I would walk off any ill effects by the time I reached home, so I stopped at the dinner and before I knew it, I had consumed three large orders of baked beans. \n\nAll the way home, I made sure that I released all the gas.  Upon my arrival, my husband seemed excited to see me and exclaimed delightedly: "Darling I have a surprise for dinner tonight."  He then blindfolded me and led me to my chair at the dinner table. I took a seat and just as he was about to remove my blindfold, the telephone rang.  He made me promise not to touch the blindfold until he returned and went to answer the call. The baked beans I had consumed were still affecting me and the pressure was becoming most unbearable, so while my husband was out of the room I seized the opportunity, shifted my weight to one leg and let one go. It was not only loud, but it smelled like a fertilizer truck running over a skunk in front of a pulpwood mill. \n\nI took my napkin from my lap and fanned the air around me vigorously.  Then, shifting to the other cheek, I ripped off three more. The stink was worse than oked=20cabbage. Keeping my ears carefully tuned to the conversation in the other room, I went on like this for another few minutes. \nThe pleasure was indescribable. When eventually the telephone farewells signalled the end of my freedom, I quickly fanned the air a few more times with my napkin, placed it on my lap and folded my hands back on it feeling very relieved and pleased with myself. My face must have been the picture of innocence when my husband returned, apologizing for taking so long. \n\nHe asked me if I had peeked through the blindfold, and I assured him I had not. At this point, he removed the blindfold, and twelve dinner guests seated around the table chorused: "Happy Birthday!"  I nearly died!
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Five months before the wedding we were fighting constantly about a lot of stupid things, like what the color of the walls would be on our bathroom or how to buy the perfect toilet (this is no joke...), one day while I was inside our soon to be home, I was getting angrier by the minute because one of the carpenters was insisting on needing more money which I didn't have; that same day we were having dinner with both our families for a formal proposal and so that my father in law asked for my hand in marriage for his son (this is traditional were I am from), so I called my fiancee and told him about the carpenter and he told me to handle it myself since he was at work. \nWe both started shouting on the phone, and things got really heated. I hung up and by the time we had to go to dinner I didn't know if he was going to show up or not.\nSurely enough, there he was, standing outside the restaurant with my father in law, and as soon as I saw him I knew we were going to be ok.\nAll of this just to tell you that it is ok to have mixed feelings about getting married, you are starting a new life and parting with the old one can be stressful, so don't worry about it, think about how much you love the person and whenever you get nervous breathe and try to concentrate on that.\nGood luck!
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Try to get him some help, hes been traumatized by that event and doesn't know how to express that. Good luck to you guys!!
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My mother in law feels sorry for my husband. He thinks that I don't do anything at all..and that I should have a job so he doesn't have to work so hard. \nThe truth is..she was Missing In Action for most of my husband's life..having to work all of the time at menial jobs. He has very few memories of her being there at all.\nSoo...I have learned to avoid her, and shrug off her unsubstantiated criticisms.
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I'm so sorry to hear about your husband.  You must be feeling terrified right now.  I'll pray for you, your husband, the doctors and your children.  I'll pray that you are surrounded by strength and that you will absolutely feel comforted and supported.  And I'll pray that whatever happens you will all be well.
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Hey bax, its kind of a mess here at the house right now. Ricky is acting up.  He's saying that I'm giving him the cold shoulder. It been 2 months and he barely noticed it.   Same as usual, he sleeps in a different room and ignores me most of the time. hell,what can I do, even if i insist there's nothing. Those are just a few updates. heheh. that's it.  so how are you?, hope to see you again. i got my license. i can drive well now so we can go out if we wanted to, that's good news right? take care always. luv yu!
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Ok... \nDear Matthew,\nYou are my hero. Even though I'm left for months and years at a time I couldn't be happier or more proud to be your wife. I love you so much. \nXOXO, \nNicole
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The scorn that 'The Pilot' has just poured out on you in unjustified.  Your husband made marriage vows, you have needs, if he were in your shoes he would probably have done something about the situation long ago.  I think you need to take a complete break from routine, say go to a hotel, order in dinner, and talk to each other.  Remind him of the times he chased you around, tell him how lonely you are, how hurt you feel, how you need more than the nothing you are being given.  With his health problems, I'd be bothering my wife as if every day were my last!\nYou deserve to be loved, more than the love for a piece of furniture, which is all he is showing you.  He loves having you around, wouldn't know what to do without you, etc.  It's very difficult to think of leaving someone you have so much history with, and who is in poor health, but DON'T let guilt keep you unfulfilled.\nTALK!