I coach 16 girls all under 18 on a rowing team, and the gossip has run rampant. Parents are calling me upset, and Im not sure what to do.
129665
Just do what you think is the best for your team.  If the parents are really concerned, they can get there teen off from the team.
297710
teenagers are the worst for making fun of people. maybe they are jealous of you. you should do things in your own time and not worry about what others say. it sounds like they want you to react if they keep saying it to you but don't stoop to their level. all good things will come to you soon enough. take care and good luck
525636
Tell him exactly what you just said.  Ask the Sophomore coach if maybe you can join in on one of the practices so he can see what you've got.  If everyone really thinks your that good...and they aren't just being nice, you deserve a chance with a non biased person.
213497
Start an I hate you guys club.  Don't worry too much about people like that, they are probably just jealous of you about something. Screw 'em.
24209
First of all, there are discrimination laws against things like this.  Your coach is a jerk and if I was in your shoes I would walk off the team and hand my jersey to her, and tell her that she can play now, then what could your coach do!?!
635731
instead of trying to blame the 16 year old, why don't you just talk to your daughter.  obviously, she went behind your back to have it done (otherwise she could have had it done professionally with your permission), and knew that you would disapprove, but she did it anyway.  sounds like you have bigger problems than just a friend who is a "contributor".  Where does your daughter's responsibility begin for her own actions?
341435
I was in the same boat.  My advice is to keep them happy, and tell them how much you're trying to get that job, or work hard at uni.  They wont stop, but at least they dont have too much of a reason to pester you.  After all, they are your parents and they probably just miss you - try not to cut them out of your life.  A sit down and chat session is reccommended: i had to sit my parents down and explain to them that im a big boy now, and to trust me to keep myself out of trouble and work hard.  They said they understand, but felt that they still needed to be parents to the baby of the family.  Keep your cool with them, they're only doing it cos they love you.
451907
First off, you are not fat. Stop thinking like that. Second, they are teenage boys they haven't matured past 4th grade yet.You were right to have told your friend and no it is not  right that her boyfriend says those things to you,and his friends.You are a very pretty young lady and I am wondering if you have talked to your mom about what is going on. Trust me, she would want to know. My daughter is 13 and we can talk about everything. There is nothing she can't tell me that will make me love her any less. I want her to be able to come to me with all her problems, boys and all.I really want you to say something to your mom if you haven't because what those boys are doing now just might get out of hand someday, and she needs to know where it started , also try sitting somewhere else on the bus.If your friend doesn't start talking to you then you need to let her go, that is not a friend because she should tell her boyfriend to stop. I hope I have helped some and that it starts getting better for you.
211190
Do YOU think you're fat? If you don't, then the coach is probably using the same tired old tactics that cheer and gymnastics coaches all over the world have been using for years. Ignore her and go on being happy. How can you be a good cheerleader without being happy?
119467
Tell him your grandmother died, but seriously just tell the coach you are not really interested in playing because if you were you would want to be at practice.\n\nIt takes a love of the game and and a sense of obligation to your team.\n\nIf your not feeling it then you shouldn't be on a team.
268779
just ignore them. u have a beautiful healthy child & she is yours. ppl will say a lot of stuff sometimes just out of curiousity & sometimes just to annoy u. it's no big deal really. enjoy being with yr daughter =)
238546
I think you should definitely handle this before it becomes negative. This guy obviously has potential to not be a good sport and interfere. To avoid conflict I would explain to him that yelling to the players is distracting, conflicting....etc. Just bull your way through calmly. If he does not understand that is is problem not yours as long as you are a good coach and handle him appropriately that is your only obligation. I wish you the best of luck in the situation. Plus my sons play softball and side line coaching is not allowed. The coaches are good guys they have a unwritten verbal rule "no side line coaching" I sometimes do not go by this. LOL but I just get a look and I know to sit down and shut up. But I still feel welcome and a team parent.
332983
Screw the kids at your school. I've had this happen before, it sucks, but the best thing to do is keep your head and laugh along with them, show them it doesn't bug you any. Sooner or later they'll realize they're immature and that it doesn't bug ya.
581683
Simply relate to them.  Don't act like a know-it-all adult because they'll shut you out quick.  If a teen says something R-rated, don't act like they did something wrong, or like you can't talk to them about a topic like that.  Apparently they know enough for it to come out of their mouth, so talk to them in a mature way about the topic.  Bring up MY SPACE.  All the kids are into that.  Tell them you want to see they're page, and then comment on it.
387143
well talk to the coach about it that there is ballhogs and that nobody really gets along and if ur the team caption just say that we all need to share the ball and stuff and if ur not team captain talk to the captain about it
439583
I'm not sure where you go to school, but there are laws for public schools to abide by in order to make girls and boys sports more comparable.\n\nTry talking to your coach about setting up scrimmages with nearby girl's basketball teams (like a neighboring school).  If that doesn't work, to get you more "quality" game time, try talking (formal letters work well) to the athletic director or principal.  Be sure to ask about the legal aspects of girl's sports so he/she knows you're attempting to take it to the next level.  Get your parents or other trusted adults involved without complaining or whining.  Make your case in an objective, adultlike  manner.
354849
I would apologize to the girls for thinking of them as objects (boobs, tushes, etc).  Tell them you know that you were insensitive & will try not to be in the future.  Also, why not ask them to let you know in the future if you do say something insensitive again as you want to learn how to improve. That way they'll really know that you mean it.