I have a partner with 2 children and the guy is married with 1 child and we get along really well lately we have began to have phone talks and kissed. we said it was our connection which wasnt to interfear with or other lives. now i found out his marrage is in trouble what should i do?
125365
its simple think it over and do what you think is right and the best don't do something ull regret later on in life basiclly do the right thing
325522
Under no circumstances should you get involved with someone who is married with kids.  If you want to go out and have a good time, that's fine, but leave it at that.
383018
=you did not say if children were involved.  I assume NOT.  How can you possibly say that you are satisfied with your wife?  Shame on you.  Either work it out with your lovely wife or get a divorce and set her free.  If this is for real you both need to move on.  God bless both of you.
97740
Hey girl...this sucks.  Been there done that.  Questions, questions, questions...  You should always know that when you date a guy that has baggage like that to be prepared to sacrafice.  I am impressed with the fact that he was still into a relationship with his x and kids because that shows his willingness to still let the kids have some normalcy.  I can understand how hard this was for you, and maybe it just wasn't meant to be.  Now, if he was just keeping in touch so he could be close to his x, then you are much better off pulling out of that fight, than staying and losing, which would've happened eventually.  Maybe you should give him a call if he is as great as you say he is, and thoroughly explain to him what's been bothering you.  Tell him exactly how you feel about him, and THEN, go on to how you were feeling when you broke it off. If you guys try to repair the relationship, ask if maybe you two could do some things with the kids alone...no x involved.  Start building a relationship with them.  The kids are going to be there always, and the x too at times.  But, you two should be building a relationship outside of the x with the kids. That is respectful to you, and your relationship with the father. I believe in honesty.  It has bit me in the rear a few times, but at least I could sleep at night.  Best Wishes.
394944
Good job with going to counseling and sticking it out, I think alot of times marriages end so quickly because people get hurt then they decide "I'm done".  What can I say mistakes happen and unfortunately infidelity happens, forgive your husband and forgive him and forgive him (the bible says to) then talk with him and let him know how you are feeling, being married myself my husband once told me that I could talk with him not at him to get him to understand me, so try this.  I know you have been through alot but I also know you must love him to have been with him currently and to have accepted the baby as your step daughter.  No one is perfect, so work at your marriage and if this counseling isn't working try reading your bible a little more, and communicating with eachother. (know one knows you two better then you two)
80837
First of all does he love your kids?  Think about your kids first and not you.  I mean that is a bit harsh but don't you want a great father for your kids and for you?  And then, think if he can help you in the long run?  Is he going to be there when you need someone the most, is he willing to take the challenge to be with you or not? And about the 4 kids thing talk to him about it.  Tell him that you do not want to have more or if one day you both get married then you both can have one.  But a relationship is based on many factors too just not love.  There has to be a strong communication between you both and understanding.  If you feel that this guy can be that special someone then risk it.  You can never expect too much from someone else.  Think about yourself and your kids first.  Good luck.
339658
When Children are involved and the marriage wasn't that terrible then there will always be some kind of feelings. But there is a reason why they aren't together and you have to remember that. \nMost couples get along better when they are no longer a couple, I know my ex-husband and I do.
303629
Yes call him he may have been wondering the same thing!\ndont wait for the reunion and be surprised to find you still have feelings for him!\ncall him! now!\ngo on get off of here and get on the phone! dont be afraid whats the worse that can happen?\nHe will be married with 6 kids!\ncheckit out you never know!
191024
Don't marry him.  Intamacy problems should only begin once you are married, not before.  This does not bode well for your relationship.  Plus, don't ever take a guy back who has cheated on you twice, let alone twice with the same person.  Move on before it gets messy.
296581
The obivous answer is the one you are refusing to do.."Ignore the Calls!"  I am not sure why you guys can't be together..(You were very careful to omit this from your little story)  You say he is not married..Then I am guessing he is with someone else..Tell him to give you a call when they are through out of respect for his current relationship.  You would want someone to do the same for you if you were with him..Wouldn't you?
164169
I hope that you are very careful with what you are doing with this guy.  Remember that you are married and you may lack a certain thing in your marriage which will be better work out with your husband.  I understand that it is kind of nice to have someone interested in your despite you are married but why are you dragging him on?  Will you be happy to divorce your husband because this guy sweet talk to you?  Are you sure that you will have a better future with this man than your current husband.  I suggest that you spend more time with your husband and rediscover him then talking to this guy, unless you have no hope in your marriage!  Good Luck!
484455
I think there is more to the issue than what has been shared and suggest that maybe going to a marriage counselor might help in discovering all the real underlying issues affecting both of your behaviors.  A lot of men say you can 'ask them anything' when you have concerns but often become defensive or unable to express themselves.  Perhaps a third person who is objective might be able to help find out what is really going on in the relationship.
498376
Whoa Nelly! I'm confused. So he's related to you?\nWell I heard thats a bad thing but hey if you guys love each other not like family or friend love then.... yeah . Whatever you want. But if you guys have children there could be problems there huh? And it's illigal right? Uh, be careful.
398647
This is really sad! I realize that you are a Christian so your first priority is to try to make your marriage work but, God doesn't expect you to stay in a relationship that could be devastating not only to you but to your child. First, if he's admitted he has a problem get him to counseling immediately!! You should probably get some type of counseling for yourself too. You've been through alot and I'm sure your self esteem has been compromised in all of this. After you have tried counseling & he continues to act this way, you have to save yourself & your child. You shouldn't allow this man to ruin 2 more lives.Think about your child & their future.
281363
Hi: My husband and I have children from previous marriages and it is complicated.  The blended family needs a disclaimer: results may vary.  In my experience both partners need to give the other alot of grace.  Relationships can be difficult with our own children, let alone a new girlfriend/wife.  Some parent child relationships are difficult, some are easy.  Psychologists call this goodness of fit. We all have different personalities and we can't always relate to one another.  As for my husband and I, after alot of stuggle I think we relized we are not able to rescue our kids from the missing parent that left them.  Our kids are the ones that respond to the step parent, if they choose not to be responsive and enter into a relationship we cannot force them.  The wicked step mother applys, even when you are an angel from heaven.  Some kids never respond to the step parent.  Dr. James Dobson said in one of his books (paraphrased): The child takes on the job of protecting the family of orgin, they will ask when is Daddy coming home, they will say "you are'nt my mom."  It really depends on how old your kids are.  I think in our case, our kids were too old to start a new family.  My husband and I should of waited to get married until the nest was less populated.  In short if you married a woman with no kids, dont expect her to be perfect, and angel sent to make everything roses and sunshine for your kids.  If she is human she will have stuggles and make mistakes, but love is the greatest of all.\nGod Bless.....
347832
My second husband didn't show any signs of not liking my kids until after we got married.  I thought in the beginning that once he got to know them that things would get better. They did get to know each other, but the relationship between he and my daughter got continually worse.  I stayed "because he was my husband". If I had it to do over, I would leave the very first sign of trouble.  He had no children of his own and could not relate, when I would try talking to him.\nI realize that all men are not the same way. But, my advice would be to anyone with children(man or woman)" if it is possible"try to find out before you marry. Let the person know that you come as a package deal, that they won't come between you and your kids, and if there is a major problem, you won't live in a hellish environment, and neither will your kids.
374679
the marriage is over. the 2 of u have lost all respect for each other. just move on. if u stay u could end up doing more harm. think abut the children. they have to see this behavior going on in the home. so just move on.