and asked a guy I like to go fishing with me and a couple of my friends for one day at their lake house..  He was hesitant because he did not know them, but and our schedules are so full and different.  Finally, we agreed to a Friday, but what Friday we weren't sure because his ex keeps on changing the weekends he has his daughter,  So we left it at a definite/indefinite.  Did he turn me down? Blow me off?  He said to call him and check.
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I'm very impressed by your input on the situation! Why? Because I'm a divorced father as well, and yes - after a divorce you are somewhat at the mercy of the ex, and at least for me - it's much better to take things slow. I'm a lot more cautious now than I ever was before when it comes to dating!\n\nI don't think he blew you off at all! And for you to suggest fishing? Where can I find someone like you? Got any sisters? (Kidding)\n\nSeriously, be patient, maybe you could even do something as simple as enjoying lunch together somewhere? Take it slow - if he's anything like me, it just takes time.\n\nTry to suggest planning far enough in advance, and see if he can get his ex to be agreeable on the date you've chosen. Sometimes a planned schedule far enough out is the best way to make certain it will work.\n\nGood luck with your situation!
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Contemporary male wisdom is to "keep her wanting more". Hopefully, he is just trying to get you more interested in him by keeping his distance. Is it working?\n\nIf it is much longer than a week, I would probably try to contact him. If you get no response, you should probably move on.
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maybe it's just the way you worded it when you asked him, was he busy, or maybe he has other issues, during the week just ask him what he's up to on the weekend, if he has no plans then ask him if he wants to do something
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I personally think that he was being kind of a jerk.  yes it was just a movie, but he planned to be with you that night and to just ditch you is just plain rude.  tell him how you feel and ask him if he could maybe do something different next time.
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He said he wants more of a chase.. Do that. make him chase you.. You are actually doing too much! Back off a bit..when you didn't call for two days that worried/challenged him.... thats exactly what he wants! Don't smother him and when you do talk to him, tell him you want him and no other..you don't want him to really believe that you have given up. But you do need to give him a challege. Be confident in yourself and act like the kind of girl any man would die to be with. When he tries to make a date to be with you, tell him you need to check your schedule first...don't be so easy to get!!
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I think he might have left them there on purpose...why?Because he likes you and maybe feels insucure about himself,this is a way of knowing he'll see you again.Call him to say he left them at your place and ask if you can come over to bring them?
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I'm having that EXACT same problem right now with a guy I'm hanging out with.\n\nAre you friends with him?  does he call you?  Do you hang out together?  Or are you wanting to know whether or not he is interested in doing these things with you?  Because there is a big difference, at least to me.
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It's obvious that he flaked in this case.\n\nBut, don't be overly critical or judgemental of this action of his --- he probably needs time to resolve his internal issues.\nTry not to bite off his head too much, but do let him know (subtly, if possible) that such kind of conduct is not appreciated.\n\nAnd bear in mind, this DOESN'T mean that he has ditched you. So, keep at it!
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I expressed attraction for a guy who didn't bother to respond.  It hurts, but I am not sorry I did it.  We had been very flirty so I know he was attracted but for whatever reason my asking him freaked him out.  Maybe he'll come around but probably not.  I wish it could have worked out, but it didn't.  I'm not sorry I asked though, at least I know and I'm not wondering.
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I wouldn't worry about it, nor would I call again. You made the effort and hopefully in your message you explained how crazy the move was and told him who you were down to the very last detail. If he's interested he'll give you a call back. He could be very busy or debating on whether or not he should call you. I wouldn't call him back again for the simple fact that he might think you are stalking him so just give it some time, and if he never calls, then move on. Its not worth getting worried or upset about.
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Sounds like a set up darlin!Even im getting paranoid thinking about it....i would say...ask him if he was going out with his ex tonight...yes/no. If answer is no..and it happens again(a similar senario,with his ex) tell him to f off.\n\nIn a nut shell....TRUST your instinct..you will know my dear.
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Yep.  What is it with people that say "well, did you talk to him" or " no" or whatever.  i mean please, can't people see the big picture?  the guy was supportive cause he felt bad and guilty, not because he was genuinely concerned.  Someone who genuinely cares and is concerned makes sure that you lock your doors every night, that  you're okay every day.  I repeat, EVERY DAY.  Not selectively on weekends!
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He gave you a week to put out, since you didn't he didn't want to waste any more time with you.\n\nHe isn't worth your time.  Congratulations for keeping your senses and not giving in to him.  You now see his true colors.\n\nIt's hard to read a guy's intentions.  He probably isn't wanting in the girl department so, he wanted to move along to the next girl.  You will come across these every now and then.\n\nHopefully you'll get good at sniffing them out.
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well, when you called him did he answer the phone? if not, well I'd say to not call him again...atleast not yet....wait to see if he calls you. because something may have come up and he hasn't been able to call you back or anything. but if you see that a week or 2 has gone by and he hasn't called, call him and if he still doesn't answer you, then I say "kick him to the curb"... since you two were only getting to know each other and not dating or being boyfriend/girlfriend, then there's nothing binding you two. so I'd say go out and don't worry too much about him not calling you.. but like I said..give him a week or two and then call him.  hope i helped out in some way..\n\ngood luck!
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I would call him sometimes guys get caught in thier own lives.IF you don't get a response back,i would move on.Iam sure you will catch a better fish.Itis know good to be sitting aronud being miserable when you could be out having a good time with someone else.Thier is a reason he is not calling,i would talk to him If he doesn't give a good anwser .i would move on.
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I'm sorry to say that he did, in fact, use you.  You were the girl he used to get over his ex.  You were the one who came in handy for the sex and talk.  Now he is doing better and the divorce is closer.  He will be looking around for someone different.  No, he did not get scared because he liked you.  He is now mentally ready to go out and chase other women.  I hate to be rude, but he simply was using you as a diversion from his failed marriage.
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Nope. He had his chance and he missed it. Just drop it, you are better then that, and deserve to be with someone who values your time. Clearly he is not interested and your friend and you should just drop it and let it go.\n\nDon't forget there are plenty of fish in the sea. So forget this guy and go out there and get fishing for someone better!