When I`m sad,she can see me,but she keep tells me she was sad to long time ago.Or anything else.I wanna be with her,how to proceed?I don`t know if she feel same.How do I know
136414
tell her how you feel and ask her what she wants
455462
I think it may be that she is (or was) lonely and her actions were due to that fact. She may have realised she needed attention, moreso than wanting you and was afraid or embarassed to admit that to you and so simply rebuffed your "moves" later. I think she cares about your feelings & enjoys your company but did not want to hurt you because she realises she doesnt beleive a relationship cld work between the 2 of you.\n\nI doubt she likes to make you suffer, though it may seem that way, shes just trying to spare your feelings and does not, most likely realise that she is hurting you in another way all the same.
469410
It's possible, she may change her mind.  You need to give her some time to miss you.  In a couple of weeks, maybe you could invite her to lunch, and have a talk.  Sounds like she still cares, but perhaps is confused.
53424
Tell her how you feel and hope she feels the same way..or wait for her to come to you
417430
we meet new people everyday.and someone affects us in someway.we cant fight it.we are humans.not God.I guess, being in love with your current girl is not everything it is in the relationship.maybe you have longed for more and you never realised it.probably,this girl you just met made you to feel much better, someway.perhaps this is how you wanted to feel or to be treated.7 years of a relationship is very long.and it started when you were a teen.hats off to you, but now you are saying that this girl makes you to feel special.means that you are being appreciated.maybe this is what you expected from your gf. you never had it.there's no growth in your relationship.you guys have stopped explaoring each orther.maybe she thinks she knows in and out of you.but you know there's more.more about you. be frank about your feelings to your gf.she deserves to know on how you are feeling about the relationship.maybe she has an answer too.
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Usually, she'll stop talking, and just look into your eyes. She might have a rather dreamy look on her face, so you almost kind of feel like mimicking her expression. She might lean forward a bit, which is a SURE sign that she wants you to come the rest of the way (or at least part of the way), or she might blush and look down...but having gotten her point across all the same. When the moment comes, I think you'll know. Because you might be feeling the same thing at the time, or you might just know it because you know her well enough to see it. \n\nGood luck!
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There might be some sort of communication problem that is going on. Politely ask her if anything is wrong or unusual about how she is feeling. Does she maybe think you have done something? Does she maybe think or feel you have left her behind or betrayed her? You can never know how someone feels unless you ask them. Questions are the key to results in any situation. If you do not ask you can not learn. Do not be rude when confronting her, but confront her none the less. She might have issues beyond the two of you and your relationship. She might have outside problems that she thinks no one can fix. Help her and also help her understand you are there for her. Don't sit back and let it go on. Talk to her and find out the truth. Don't let it sit still and dwindle till it is to late.
394324
She is messing with you head.  She knows and has known that you like her, she loves the attention and doesn't really give a darn about your feelings.  Sorry to say the harsh truth.
247459
Talk to her and let her know how you feel.  It sounds like she's starting to weigh you down.  It's obvious you care about her but, this might not be the right person for you.  You have to ask yourself if you are getting anything positive out of this relationship and if they are the things you want in life.  If you're not, then it's time to move on.
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Talk to her and have her open up and tell you whats been going on. Tell her your feels. Be open, no secrets, that is the key to relationships.
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may i ask, why she couldn't love you back? is there another guy in the picture? but from your story there seems no one..or she doesn't feel like the way you do? i think love can be developed, that is if she is willing to open her heart and that you'd be willing to wait...there'll ba a good chance..\n\nunconditional love is a sacrifice you have to bear and no one can stop you from that...it is something that we do voluntarily...if you cannot live away with her since it makes you even unhappier then it's all up to you...but until when can you put up with this...until she breaks your heart by choosing someone over you despite the things you have done for her? it can happen..\n\nif not now, you will eventually tire out later...yes, you might not love someone as much as you love her but, we, as humans are destined to be with someone to fill that space inside our heart...we long for someone that will make us whole, it's a primal instinct...\n\nas hard as it may seem why don't you give her and yourself a space...not see her for some time maybe she will then realize what you really meant to her...most of the time, we only value things or people when they're already gone...if she doesn't come looking for you then there is no hope to answer your love for her...anyway, you know it's not the end of the world...you will survive it...\n\nwhat is more painful is the wasted time and emotions spent...
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hi there, this must be a huge dilemma you're facing. i have experienced this before, i'm 19 and probably you would think that i'm too young to comment or give you advice on this but this would be my sincere reply to your question. firstly, is this a mutual feeling? does she love you to the extent as you love her? you mentioned that she loves you as a friend, have you confronted her and made your feelings towards her known? it would be best if you know how she really feels then you can decide on what to do next. if she loves you, and you love her too, and both of you are happy with each other's company- why let go when you can grow and allow a beautiful relationship to blossom? but if she doesn't love you in a romantic way, it is definitely advisable that you let go before it's too late. allow yourself to meet new people and give your chance and someone out there a chance too. it will take more than a short period of time to get over her and resume to the "just friends" status but it will do you good. if she's unsure, give her time to think about it. i hope what i said made sense, there's too much to speak on this. i hope that all will go well and you're able to come up with a solution. do not let this issue put you down, alrite? there are many other beautiful individuals out there waiting to be discovered. and i'm sure that she is also a special person.
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It's amazing that after all these years, you still feel something for her. And I think it's just proper that she knows how you feel. I suggest telling her that you've been in love with her for the longest time and just wait for her response. If the feeling's been there for a very long time, i believe it's worth telling. And it's worth risking rejection. Sure, you may get rejected but it's going to be worth it. Who knows? She may tell you she loves you too and it's all good, right?
451335
You'll know..her feelings will be more natural..she will be more laid back, able to tell you anything.  I say wait it out a little longer..if she does not reciprocate..move on!
550123
Quick Fix/ Do you love her? YES.   Have you been hurt in the past? YES.  Who cares my friend. You are franklly just scared.  Moments of intimacy cover it up sometimes and that is why you feel happy.  Let go of this fear. This girl you have in front of you is going to make you very happy.  Let go of your past, and live.  Otherwise, the next question you are going to be asking us is" How do I get her back?"
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i think you should stop calling her. I realize it will be difficult as sounds as though you really care for her but she is playing with your feelings. Sounds like she is out for her and not ready to be in a relationship. A friend of mine just went through something similar. Each time he got hurt more and more.  Guess I would tell her how you feel about what she is doing then if it continues its time to find someone new or accept the fact that is how she is.
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Man, I just got out of a relationship with a girl I didn't think I felt much for, and you know that saying 'you don't know what you've got till it's gone'? Well, I realized how much I truly loved her. Maybe it will hit your ex just like it hit me. Maybe with some time she'll miss you, especially if it was as good of a relationship as you say. And especially if you were her first. You don't forget something special like that. Even if she downplays it, it should be something that will be with her always. Just give it time I say.