The guy and I are highschool sweethearts, and we still are crazy about each other. He is a slob, and while I can sort of deal with it, my request for him to meet me half way is met with a resounding, no way Jose. What should I do, I love the guy.
122884
Well you need to consider, is your love worth maybe having to clean up after him all the time.  Also, if he is not willing to change on small things, what happens when bigger issues come around.  You either have to decide to stick it out or cut your losses.
401330
I think you should just leave him be for a while. Tell him that he seems to be going through some things and he needs to work them out first. Let him know that you would like to date but don't seem obsessed. Tell him to call you when he makes it down to N.C. But in the meantime, don't wait around for him. Go out and have fun. I'm pretty sure him and that Katie chick are having fun in Florida.\n\n\nand F.Y.I.  Why would you want to be with someone who arlready has someone? I don't even know you and yet I know you can do better.
138688
babe you are on the right track - you only deserve the best trust me mr right is out there for you and he cant wait to meet you so just tell this guy its just not working out the way you want it to be and that you wanna see other people cos you want something serious - plus he treats you like shit you said so he really doesnt deserve an explanation if you wanna hurt him just say that you want some fun in the sack hehehe but trust me the man of your dreams is comming and he will treat you the way that you deserve to be treated goodluck
21688
Hold your horses and hang in there, girl... You're bound to find your soulmate out there one day. Maybe it just takes time, so that you'll appreciate him more when he arrives! :)
29234
It sounds like you too have a deep connection, he called you and you keep loving him and thinking about him plus you two talked "in silence" too its as if you have a body language connection as well.I think you two should try being together again, try another date and tell him how much you enjoy his company and his personality and how people make mistakes.that might bring him back too you.hope this helps.
445833
he s a JerK.. and you are a S|_UT! you are both sick!! did you read the stupid silly question you typed here??\n "im plotting to meet some one and have a real affair with them not some fling im talking maybe fall in love with the other person"\n "now i just have to get out and find that other person"\nYou are SCUM!\nok..excuse.. im going to puke and will be back in a minute\np.s: poor kid
158870
Don't stress about it.  Really, you're young and it's not the end of the world.  Take a look inside and see if you really do want to be friends with him or if there's reason enough to let him go.  (you may just be feeling guilty about not wanting to let go.) Picture meeting him as a stranger and getting to know him.  Is he a guy you'd want to hang with?  Yes or no, it's cool either way.  Take care.
283972
I think this is a good strategy...distance yourself from him for a while and when he asks you for advice just tell him "I don't know what to tell you." Start dressing a little more feminine if you usually are more of one of the guys around him. It sounds like you are in high school, and those relationships really don't last very long, so odds are he and his g/f will break up. When you hear that, give him a week or two to get over it, then start being around him more again, this time re-establishing your relationship as more than friends, like flirting obviously. See if he flirts back. Ask him if he wants to go to the movies one weekend...just the two of you. If he still doesn't seem to get the picture, say "Hey, could you ever see us dating?" in a casual way. If he blows the question off I'd assume he's not interested, but you didn't embarrass yourself to the point where you can't be friends anymore. If he is interested he might say "yeah" and then jackpot!
444724
who hasn't been there? i think u should be straight up with this guy if u really are good friends...and then make him be straight up with you. If he wants to be with u, he needs to show it undoubtably. And if he's wishy-washy, move on. You'll never end up happy if u let him string u along.
382923
Sweetie, he may be your passion but you are not his. It's great you're so devoted, but put your love and devotion into someone who can do the same for you. Don't you want someone by your side every morning? To spend holidays with? To buy you tampons in an emergency? To stand with you when a loved one passes?\n\nLoving someone before you meet them is not love. It is desperation.
80472
Start off with, "hi" and let it go from there.  You can't force chemistry, you either got it or don't got it. If you don't have it, then you have to think to yourself, "he's not good enough for me cause he can't even talk to me." If he can't talk to you and he doesn't have anything in common with you, then he must be boring.
620644
Don't waste anyone's time here. Be upfront out of respect for himself and for you. Just let him know that the feelings just aren't there and it isn't him it's just the way you feel. This way you both stand a chance of meeting the right person.
181502
this isn't the end of the world. \n\nrealize that talking to him isn't a big deal! you're a big girl! you can do it! take a deep breath, and talk to him. start out slowly with hi.\n\nyou'll never know what he wants until you talk to him!\n\ngood luck, and best wishes!
157635
I would leave him alone; he's obviously not interested. Or if he is, he should meet me halfway. It's humiliating to keep putting yourself out there if someone doesn't respond. We have some pride, you know.
85928
well i'm going through the same thing as you!!!! it's terribal he just wants to be friends but that just wont work for me! you have to tell him that you want to be just more than friends and keep flurting with him who can resist a cute smile and a funny personality.
302796
The best idea is to openly talk to each other. Propose him directly instead of this dilemma.
80740
I've been there and what i did was just start talking to him that way you don't feel so weird to be around him. we both are dating other people and we just talk as normal people b-cuz we realized we cant be as close Friends as we were before but we still hang out with the same people and its better to be talkin to each other than not talkin at all.