I love my fiance so much and I know he has never cheated on me I am with him all the time plus I work with him. When I'm not with him I let him use my cell and I got my bill and it showed alot of calls in and out from his ex he swears he has not talked to her, he thinks his friends used my phone. I wanna know if I should keep trusting him.
133721
Why would he ever let his friends use your cell phone?  I think he is lying.  Call his ex and find out what is going on from her.
236449
No. He's basically hiding things from you. You feel like he should be able to tell you anything. But because he's keeping things from you, its like he doing something behind your back, like cheating. You may be feeling a little insecure but its only because he's making you feel that way.
73746
This is his problem not yours.  My ex also threw a fit when he saw a missed call from a guy on my phone.  (What was he doing at my phone in the first place?)  \nWhy should you have to worry about his insecurities.  He either trusts you or he doesn't, and from the sounds of things.........he doesn't.  You've probably done nothing wrong, but some guys can't seem to accept that a girl will be faithful to them.  \nI also find that if a guy is insecure or convinced that you might cheat, it is only because he is (1) thinking about cheating, or (2) has cheated.
240440
well, lots of different things going on here,\n\nit is a possibility that he left his charger and had no juice in his phone, your number is stored in his phone.\n\nthat seems plausible since there are plenty of people at my work running around constantly asking if anyone has such and such charger for their phone.  i also know that i do not remember any phone numbers for anyone except a few individuals, like my best friend, but thats about it, but i also have those numbers stored in my PDA so i can always look up a number.\n\nfunny thing about cell phones, if you dial it and it goes straight through to voicemail then the phone is off, if it keeps ringing then goes through to voicemail then the phone is on, if it rings and after every ring there is a short and strange beep (you have to listen carefully) then the phone is on and currently in use.  but it is also strange that he FORGOT your number since you are his GF.\n\ndepending on what the voice message from the other girl was about and how the phone was ringing when you tried to call him there might be a situation brewing on the horizon, i do not think you are to blame or bad for snooping since your suspiscions have been raised by a good reason, do some investigating and confront him, he should have a valid explanation for this
327891
i think it could be a possiblity. just keep a close eye on him. you never know. theres no reason why he should be so insecure about what you're up to if he's not doing the same thing. and him not wanting to show you his cell phone after he ransacked yours, and then coming back in the room a minute later with a phone call deleted is a little supsicious to me.
153714
Why would you even need to ask? If you caught him and you know he lied about it, then it should be obvious what you should do, unless you want to stay with a lying cheat that you will not be able to trust. Honesty and trust are the basis of any good relationship and he destroyed them both. Don't you think you deserve a lot better than him? I sure do!\n\nS.S.
412032
Ouch this is quite mind-boggling.  Ok, on one hand give her credit for being honest that she had feelings for a male friend but then this would lead to you feeling your on shaky grounds and of course distrust would stem up. Now the problem with trust is that we all know, without trust there is no relationship.  You say it took months to rebuild your trust in her.  And then once again she drops a bomb on you by saying 'off-handedly' she got a text from 'brad'. I'm wondering if your girlfriend is considerate about your feelings? It sounds a tad selfish to me.  If I had feelings for someone else I wouldn't go telling my partner I would actually just sit there and tell myself to get over it, that what it really is, is just lust and temptation. Because the more I think about the 'other' guy the more trouble I would cause for myself and my partner.  It's like a test.  To see how strong you are to resist temptation.  Well this kind of test was for your girlfriend and she didn't have to go blahblahblah on you about having feelings for 'brad' without dealing with it first.  The minute it came out of her mouth it caused a reaction to you and how you felt.  Now she was texting him over a 'girlfriend'?! and she called him to see what he was 'up to?!'.  My bad but why should she be so concerned about his girlfriend? If there was feelings still there for 'Brad' she would be comparing herself to this 'girlfriend' and also she seeking attention to 'brad' to boost her esteem and attention?  Maybe you have given her too much love? Maybe she is taking you for granted because she knows you will always love her? If you cannot fully trust her, it is really up to you what you want to do.  It is your choice how you would want to feel.  Nothing will change unless you make the effort of changing it. And remember you must of felt something because it caused you to check her cell phone history, what does that tell you?  Good luck, I hope you find the answer to your problem.
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Either someone (a friend of his) is just being messy because they knew that it was you on the phone, or he is lying. It's time to do a little investigating. Don't mention it to him or talk too much about it. Find out on your own in what ever way you can. The truth will come out. If you talk to him too much about it he will go to more lengths to hide things from you. Let him think that everything is OK and he will be careless and make a mistake that will expose his self. IF he is cheating.
326586
It is so obvious that he has no respect for you. Luckily you just started talking to him so it will be easy for you to stop talking to him. How can you "really like him" if he doesn't call you back, hang up on you on the phone and IM, blah, blah, blah. If he really liked you, he wouldn't be doing those things. He sounds mean. He's lying when he says he wants to be with you. You don't want to be with someone who is already like that when you just started talking. What more will he do if you let it go on longer?\n\nI don't mean to hurt your feelings. But it's easier for someone on the outside to really see what is going on.\n\nAny guy who really, I mean really likes a girl will do anything to make her happy. Men want to make women happy. If you're not happy, he's not the right one. I wouldn't be happy if anyone (whether it's my fiance, or boyfriend, or husband, or friend) hangs up on me. It is disrespectful.\n\nYou need to have higher standards.
608570
You went through his personal stuff thinking you would find something and YOU DID! First off, going through his stuff is wrong and you are in the wrong for doing so; however, since you know whats up why do you want someone in you life like that? He's not going to be able to trust you and vice versa...it doenst get better from here even if you two agree to be with other, cause even though we forgive we never forget.\nYou two are just friends, right?  So then you two are allowed to see other people, right?  Technically, he is doing nothing wrong.  If you want more with him then that shouldhave been stated.  The rules needed to out laid down and I'm thinking they weren't, or were maybe unclear.  All in all, why would you want to be with someone who wants to be with other people?  \nI know exactly what youre going through and honey, it wont get easier cause youll keep finding shit out.  Since you had access to his e-mail, youll try to get access to other things, like his phone, voicemail, any other personal stuff...its not cool to go through his shit cause ultimately you know youre gonna find something.  That voice inside, that feeling in your gut...it doesnt lie
351909
I would believe her but like if he ever called you. dont bring it up at first let him know you still love him then when the conversation is cool like yall talkin alot stuff. then just ask him question about cheating not towards him but just to see how he reacts. now if he still dont answer your call then he is embrassed to talk to you and know that you know he cheated on you.
349171
You sure he hacked it?  Maybe he's with your ex-girlfriend now and she let him use it.  Maybe you are the one bothering your ex-girlfriend and she let him get onto her messenger to tell you to take a hike.  This is a very very one sided story and I have a feeling you are not exactly innocent.
175976
alright, first im going to say your not going to like my response.  But it is the honest truth.  Ill tell you right now your relationship isnt going to last.  If he doesnt respect you and gives these other girls his number, then it would give you a heads up.  Obviously they text him because he doesnt want to be on the phone with them when your around or what not.  Listen, he might as well be talking to them, because he is.  A man who can text other women but you cant say hi in the hall way is someone who will end up controling you.  I am 23 years old, i have been there done that.  You need to understand that you are someone too.  If he is allowed to text and you cant say Hi should be a HUGE hint as to whats really up.  ALSO!! a man who gets pissed when you talk to other men... is talking to other women, I DONT CARE WHAT ANYONE SAYS!  If a man accuses you of cheating when you have given him no reason to believe you are means he is doing it himself.  So therefore, if he gets pissed when you say Hi to other boys, he is talkin to other girls.  There is MUCH better out there for you....\n\n\nSECOND!!!\n\nIf you consider yourself "jail bait" with him, that should also give you a hint that he isnt after women is own age because men want possessions... Honestly You will probably disregard this but in a month to two down the road, your going to be wanting to give me best answer.  You need to take a second to get away, go out by yourself, take a bath, get out for a few minutes and think about things.  \n\nGood Luck,\nBest wishes\nJ
443045
I was suspicious of my ex... and he was a cheater.. which is why he is my ex  :)   Go with your gut feelings.. and if you can't trust someone, you shouldn't be with them. It will never work if there isn't honesty in the relationship and you will drive yourself crazy worrying about what he is doing..good luck.
349064
NO!  I beg of you, use your head not your heart.  Wouldn't he have called you or a friend or a locksmith for that matter, if he were locked out of his place?  The fact that you knew where the girlfriend lives and works makes it seems as if this is not the first time and you and the ex has a (fighting) history.  Find someone more loyal, more discreet or maybe a little smarter... How on earth did he let her get the phone?!\nGood Luck!
165446
If you really DO trust him & you say that he doesn't initiate the conversations or the calls........\n\nPicture this scenario....... \n\nA troubled friend rings, or calls round, for support and advice and HE says "F*ck O*f - would you love him MORE? \n\nI don't think so; you need to realise that you have a lovely, thoughtful, approachable, considerate intelligent man and appreciate him  for what he IS - if you continue to resent him, for being the guy you LOVE him for being, then it won't last 'cos you'll kill it with -what you ADMIT is groundless - jealousy!
195798
Has he always been this way or has it just been recently?  Has anything happened between the two of you, as far as cheating, that would make him feel like he had to be so inquisitive?\n\nI just don't see how you can be together without trust; that is the number one thing in a relationship.  This situation will not get better if you just ignore it.  Do you really want to have to worry the rest of your life about what he is going to say when you come home an hour late or if some other male calls you, no matter who it is!  \n\nIf it were me, I would get it out in the open with him and really discuss how you are feeling.  Maybe even suggest you two going to a counselor.  You should be able to tell from his responses if he is willing to work on things and change to better your relationship.\n\nGood luck!