my sister(shes 11) was all crying to my parents about how I never spend time wiht her and so this weekend my parents are making me take her out somehwere..this always happens!!! where should I take her to get her off my back and what should I do about the way she always just pouts and gets her way!! ugh it pisses me off!!!
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Take her to get ice cream and then to window shop. What she is actually wanting to do is spend time with you because you are 'cool', and she is 11. Your awesome in her eyes. She just wants to be a part of your life. Think of it this way, a couple of hours will fly by, and she can go back to being a kid..
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Karo is absolutely right. First step: Tell your parents, then your responsibility is done. Then you go on doing the right thing so your parents can handle your sister and not worry about you.\n\nOh, wait--I just read your details--do your parents already know?  Then they are going to have to get outside help. Unfortunately, it is fairly expensive. Tell them to start with the doctor, she will need medical evaluation, a psychiatric workup, and then probably placement in a rehab. My husband and I just put his 16 year old son in a place in Utah. First we tried two different military schools, but his bad behavior just escalated.\n\nFirst step:  enlist help of her pediatrician or doctor. Also, talk to counselor at school.\n\nAnd again, you need to be a help to your parents here, but the biggest help you can be is to just be your normal, good kid self-- do your homework, keep your body, room and clothes neat and clean, don't sass your parents, and stay away from bad people and drugs.
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I understand what you're going through. And I hope that you will find something, someday that will make it all dissappear.\n\nAs harsh as I may sound, I don't think your sisters reaction is normal. She is being overly zealous. May be she should have herself checked out also. \n\nAlso, do you fight a lot. Is this just mere sibiling rivalry. Have you tried winning her affection?. If this is not the case, i suggest talking to your parents about your sister, and she might want to visit a behaviour consultant.
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you can't force her to connect back to you... she's at this age where she's having identity crisis and probably wants you to leave her alone. it is true that teenagers are a little self-centered as if the whole world revolves around them -- im not saying this to degrade anybody, i WAS in this phase too! when you gain more experience as you grow older, that's the time when you learn to be selfless and humble. you start to think about other people. there is no specific age for this... these things you learn through hardships no matter what. i've dealt with a lot of things, so i learned quicker, and i kinda grew up a little too fast. my life passed me by though -- i didn't get to enjoy hanging out with friends or having boyfriends, but i have learned to be selfless. what matters to me now are the people i love... they matter more to me than myself. \nanyhow... there will come a time when your sister will mature as well, and you'll probably be matured at that time too... and i bet you will be as closest as you can possibly be. i have friend who fought with her brother constantly when they were younger, but they became so close when they got older when she finally moved out.. she would always tell me how much she misses her brother. so give it time... this time will come. (as long as you don't change and forget all about her)
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I have a little sister too and she walks in on me all the time. But the way I've dealt with it is to tell her that we both have things that we need. She needs to be alone sometimes and so do I. So together, we made foam door hangers for each others rooms, I made hers and she made mine. We bought the stuff at a craft store and whenever I wanted to be alone, she'd leave me alone because my door hanger said Please Go Away. And I'd leave her alone when it said Please Go Away. That way, she still feels like she's a part of it. The other thing you need to tell her is that you each get an hour of alone time a day (or however long you think you need). Then, tell her that you'll hang out with her other times. Then, set a limit. If she bugs you 10 times while you are in your alone time, or 3 times when your door hanger is on Please Go Away, she loses an hour of play time with her sister. Trust me, she might be a little upset about it at first but after those hours start going faster and faster, she'll get the picture and start to leave you alone a little more. Don't shut her out completely though.
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no, i am sure that she doesnt hate you.\n\ni get the sense, however, that she is expecting soething from you with isnt fair for her to ask: she wants you to take a back seat to your siblings. i miagine that would be a very hard thing for anyone to do...\n\ni wish that i could give you some sort of magical advice that would fix your problem in one fell swoop, but we both know there is no such answer. the best that i can tell you is that you and your older sister both need to talk to your mother about they way that you feel.\n\nexplain it to her. allow her to ask questions, and maybe vent a little if she needs to. dont approach her with a accusatory manner, and dont give her the feeling she is being ganged up on. simply tell her the way that this treatment make the two of you feel, and i bet she will understand. however, just cuz she understands, does not mean that she will then fix the problem in one fell swoop.\n\nif the above doesnt work the only other advice i could give the two of you is to suck it up, and deal with it, and thank the Lord for what you do have, and for the good in your lives rather than the bad. sometimes people are so set in their ways that they cant even comprehend change, and i pray that mother isnt one of them.\n\nanyway, i wish you both the best of luck, and i hope that this helped you, even if only a little.\n                   \n                        :-)
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You parents need some Parenting Help!\nI'm sorry it happened to you and it doesn't help at all if the one who should be neutral and don't take sides, your parents, do the same to you. \nI couldn't think of any solution other than to write your parents how you feel when your sister do things like that to you and so are your parents reaction when it happened. As long as you open up your feelings to them, keep on hoping that they would not do the same thing in the future. If they still do, try to go to your school (if you're still in school) counselor or priest/pastor or any relatives closest to you and ask for help to intervene with the way your parents behave.
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She's gonna have to decide, as we all do, WHEN she's ready to grow up.\n\nif she choses you, she may have to wait until her siblings are older before she sees them again. Again, I don't how how long that is and if she's willing to wait. She loses but so do her parents.\n\nIf she choses her parents, you will have to wait until she grows up, moves out and gets on with her life. Her parents might think they've won, but as she's old enough to lead her life in a way that makes sense to HER, she may cut them out of her life for making her choose.\n\nShe can gain their respect by becoming independent (of you\nAND of their manipulation). I bet they'd be pretty surprised if she said "I'm not gonna be forced into chosing what I don't want. I will say with him and I want to remain a part of your lives. If you choose to keep me from my siblings, then that's your choice for making them and me suffer. But I won't cave to ultimatums."
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You have to take care of yourself and not worry about what others expect from you.\nAsk your parents to speak with your sister and explain your situation.\nIf your sister continues to call and upset you, dont take her calls.\nShe sounds like a very selfish person and not very considerate.\nPlease take care of yourself first, and dont allow anyone to upset you.
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This is a tough place for a young woman to be! You are going through an emotional time anyway as you enter puberty. Have you talked with your sisters and do they acknowledge the way she treats you? Maybe one of them will be kind enough to tell your mother how her actions are affecting you. My other suggestion would be to speak with a minister or your school guidance counselor, perhaps have a family session. Please know you are worthwhile despite all that is going on. love to you.
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Talk to parents.  I know it's hard but try to ignore her by not being around her.  Sounds like she is very unhappy and becoming a bully.  Try to talk to her about how you feel too, but definitely let parents know of her abuse.
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grow up-get a job-pay your own rent. Then you can keep your sister out of your room.
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This is unfortunate matter sweety...But please do not get upset with yourself...It's nothing to do with you...Be happy she's in a safe place now where she can get help...All you can do is be there when she needs you...Remember she's not herself now, so just think about the good times...She'll be back to herself soon enough...Be strong for your sister...You're dong a good job =)
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Regardless of who does more, be mature about this and don't tell everyone or tease her about it.  I'm sure she is already humiliated and you don't need to permanently damage your relationship with your sister over it.
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Make a day that you can take her with you. Set it up with your friends, and tell them that you know its a bother to do so, but you want to make her happy too. Then head to the park or something.. Hang for about an hour or so... Tell your sister that she can come hang with you all, but only for a hour, then its time for her to head home and find something else to do... This gives your sister a little time with you, (she looks up to you)... And time with your friends... I used to always want to hang with my older sister and she hated it, but I loved her, and wanted to be with her do things she did....
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Ok, if you can hear them BEFORE you got into the house then they're TOO LOUD. It sounds like they don't seem to care who hears them or your feelings. Just because your sister is "emotionally unstable" doesn't give her the right to act this way or to let this continue- especially, if she knows that your younger brother is in the house. She is disrespecting YOU. Honestly, you need to talk with her about that- especially, if she can be heard outside.
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Tell them the movies shes watching,and hthe rating of the movie and how it is not suitable for her to watch nevertheless put your self in the situation saying if my sister told this thing to you about me you'll would have totally taken action but how come its different with me?\n\nI totally hope you understood that lol,keep on at it and even show the ,movie to them if possible,show her that she cant get special treatment as she is doing something wrong.\n\nAnd when u scoold ur sis and she complaints somehow bring her major faults into it showing that she is a hipocrit(i know i spelt it wrong lol)..keep on at it and ull win sooner or later im sure they'll get tired of it and just to please u they'll take action lol