I'm planning on getting married in about two years from now,and I'm looking for was to stay in our budget. But to also have it the way we want things to go.\n\n\nPlease help!
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patna community centre
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The best place to get married is in your heart, you could spend thousands on a wedding and you could spend very little, as long as the two of you love each other and have made the choice to get married, does it really matter where the ceremony takes place?, have a small wedding and spend the extra cash on a honeymoon that you both will never forget, in most case's the frustration in setting up a big wedding puts allot of stress on the couple and it damages the relationship from the start, just enjoy each other and don't worry about having the best wedding in the world, i have seen both, large and small, small weddings leave little room for something bad to happen, and large ones leave a small tear in the relationship, that may take years to mend, its your choice, i hope no-matter what your choice is, you have a great wedding and live happy forever in love.
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renewing vowels??  hehe!\n\nif you mean vows then i suggest getting your family to make everything, cuts down on costs. \n\nPick a theme.. like white, or roses or classic or something..\n\nthen think of what fits the theme and is cheap.. \n\nBrainstorm!!
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Usually when you get married you put the 2 incomes together.  But dont forget about your other expenses also, food, utilities, any credit cards, food, and all the little extras.  Being newly married is tough enough without financial problems...don't get in to deep to quick!  Good Luck!
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Try to consolidate all your debt so that you have only one payment to make per month and you can easily see that it is going down - this may give you some incentive to slow down your spending habits. And most definitely pay them off before you get married. You will have enough stress adjusting to married life and everything that comes with it without having money problems to add to it.
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Start w/ knowing your budget -- to the dollar.  Save money on location and food.  Do you have a friend w/ a pretty house or landscaping?  Get married there.  Invite only a few guests, splurge on pictures or honeymoon, simple cake w/ punch.  Skip the fluffy dress and go w/ a white or ivory tea length.  The important thing is you and him and celebrating w/ those that you love and love you.  Remember KISS -- Keep It Simple Sweetie!  Congrats and good luck.
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When you become engaged you have said "yes, i will marry you."  The engagement should last only so long as it takes to plan the wedding.  \n\nI don't understand engagements longer than a year really - but then I think one should live with a person before deciding to marry them (so you truly know what you are signing up for).  \n\nBest wishes my dear, for a long and happy life together!
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Determine a) who cares the most about influencing wedding/honeymoon choices and overall cost, b) who can afford to contribute what, and c) how traditional all parties are. That will lead you to the right answer for you. \n\nBecause sometimes the groom's parents want an extravagant wedding for their own reasons, they wind up contributing more. If you want to call all of the shots, including who's invited and how big it is, think about paying for most or at least some of it yourself. If, for example, a couple isn't religious, but one or both sets of parents are, then the couple may not be able to choose a key part of the wedding because they're not paying for it. Conversely, if the groom's family is filthy rich and the bride's is not, then it would be ridiculous to ask the bride's family to pay more for the wedding. If you want an extravagant honeymoon, then you should probably plan to pay for at least some of it and maybe all of it.  This isn't the dark ages anymore. Unless, of course, you or your parents want it to be.
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Instead of a credit card, why not save up and pay for it cash?  I had a friend who got SEVERAL cards for their overpriced wedding and ended up paying for the wedding 5 years into the marriage.  In fact, it got so sticky financially for the newlyweds that they almost got divorced!  EEK!  \n\nIf you plan out a budget now...depending on when you're date is set for, you should be able to plug away and pay for it and be wedding debt free!\n\nGood luck!
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you CAN def. do this! it will take a bit more time- so you need help. friends and family. \n*draw up a budget ASAP. $7000 total (probably $3000 will be for food and drink) reception location $500. flowers $1000. $250 dress - $900 dj/music etc.  \n*keep the guest list to a min. If you have a guest total of 75- you can get decent food at $30 per person and the rest for drinks.\nAlso keep the bridal party small. \n*host a cocktail and light buffet reception instead of a full meal. this can come off really swanky- like a high-class uptown loft party.\n*skip the party favors. go for candy treats your guests can eat. most of the time the little frames and bells etc. just get thrown away by guests anyway.\n*ASK questions. When you call a vendor- let them know you are on a budget. Oftentimes if they can't help you- they know someone who can.\n*Make your own centerpieces out of a candlescape. Florist centerpieces run about $50 per table. You can do them yourself for around $25. \n\n*Oh- one thing I wouldn't skimp on is the photog. Your photos will be the only things left after the wedding is over. the flowers will wilt. your dress will be stored. the cake will be gone etc. but the photos will last a lifetime.\n\ngood luck! and remember to have fun w/ it. planning your wedding should be half the fun! :D
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Darlin', going into hock to put on a wedding is a terrible way to start a marriage...plan the wedding you can afford, or wait until you're in a bit better shape financially. You can always plan as bang up, all out festive a party as you want to for your anniversaries, or do up the "wedding of your dreams" to renew your vows ten years down the road... Celebrating your love and having a festive, memorable wedding does not have to mean spending a fortune.\nPlease consider doing something a bit less costly so you don't spend the first years of your marriage trying to pay for the wedding.
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Have a small bridal party, one or two bridesmaids/groomsmen and ask them to pay for their own clothing for the day(or No bridesmaids/groomsmen).  \nHave the ceremony at the church where you are a member...if you have a church.  They often give lower prices and provide a lot of ammenities.  For example my chuch only cost $200 and they had a wedding/reception coordinator, did all the clean up after wards, served at the reception, provided plates/serving ware/utensils/cups and mixed the punch for the reception.  \nUse fake/silk flowers.\nHave a cake/punch reception instead of serving a meal. \nHave a sheet cake instead of a tiered cake, or have a small tiered cake for the wedding party/parents and a sheet cake to feed all the other people. \nLimit the guest list to Family/extended family. \nMake your invitations or buy them at Staples, Wal-Mart, etc.\nHave a basic ceremony, no unity candle(s).\nKnow what you want, don't let the sales people talk you into bigger/better/more expensive.  \n\nREMEMBER: The wedding day is about you and your soon to be husbands love for each other, not the decorations.
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It is going to be very expensive to have such a big wedding. You need to figure out the cost and make sure you get the money in plenty of time. You don't want to get stuck with huge expenses.
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Ok I think you can find the perfect favor on one of these sites I have attached. If you are not already using The Knot for ideas, then you need to. Its a lifesaver! Very, very helpful so far in planning my wedding. I hope one of these sites help, they have the cutest ideas!
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It all depends on the couple. Some people may feel they have moved too fast and think they should hold off on planning a wedding just yet. Sometimes a couple who is engaged a long time may be holding off because of their job, they  are moving around and don't have time to plan a wedding right away, or they are needing to finish college. There are lots of reasons. Money is also another reason--some people may not be able to get married due to financial reasons.
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I agree, it's probably not the most logical place to ask "is it a good time to get married"... only YOU can answer that.  well, you and your boyfriend.\n\nYou are on the right tracking thinking about finances and feelings.  Continue to discuss things with your boyfriend.  Where will you live?  Does he have a stable job?  Does he have or want children? Do you?  When?  Who will care for them?  How will you raise them?  Discuss reglion.  How will this come into play with children.  Have your families met?  Do you have the same goals and values?\n\nMarriage is awesome!  It's important to really think about it and plan for it.  So while I may have teased you a little for asking "should I think about marriage"- I think it's good you ARE thinking and planning.  Go with the flow and let things happen naturally.  If it's the right time to get married/engaged, you and your boyfriend will know it.  In the mean time, start talking about goals and longer term plans with him.
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i'm still relatively newlywed (almost 2 years) and so far nothing has been difficult. but I think we both still make the other's needs a priority so that may be the part we actually have to remember to do later... or the part that will not come as naturally once we get lazy, bored, or have kids.