my friend told my best guy friend that i loved him... & he blocked me off AIM & never really talked to me or see me again.. One time he can to visit evveryone with his parents & i didn't know ho to react & hide in my room..i dont know how to react to him. He came to my house to fix my computer twice & we were fine. we talked a little & it was pretty much silent throughtout.In dec he took me to our school concert cuz i needed a ride..we talked a little & it was silent throughtout the ride.. in the orchestra room, it seems like he was staring at me every minute there. My sister gave him a drink & he thought that she was giving him garabage & i put it in my hoodie..we laughed & talked more, but my best female friend & sister was there also.. when i was trying to go sit in the back he said that someone was going to sit in the front & it was me\n\nHow should i react to him?\nA best friend\nor someone who still has a crush on him? \n\n& i still kinda love him\ni am scare that he loves my best friend
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Tough one....have you tried to talk to him about it and see what he thinks?
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Be honest.  Once the secret is out, then you'll be freed from your "If Only"s.  If he/she is truly your best friend, I am sure he/she can handle the truth. If and when things does not work the way you want it though, accept it and move on.  Remember that some things are just not meant to happen the way other things may be.\n\nLet me tell you my story...\n\nMy best friend did just that, he told me how he truly felt.  I did not share the same feelings before.  He proved himself loveable still, and, well, after a year, I finally did.  We are now head over heels in love with each other.  It sure is great having my best friend to love.  I am very happy with him.  Nothing can compare with the loving I get from him everyday:)
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It sounds like you have a crush on each other and neither one of you knows how to handle it. Be careful. The best way to forget him is to go on with your life. Find a new love interest but it will still take time. But best friends do sometimes make the best lovers and long lasting relationships. He might be picking on you because your friends and he doesn't know how to let you know he just might want more. If it doesn't work out you risk loosing the friendship.
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r u 11? if so i have advice for u. (im 11) we have a dance at the end of the school year and i had a best friend named michael. everyone had dates already and i decided 2 ask him. after discussing it w/my friend, i went up 2 him at recess and said, "can i talk 2 u for a minute?" we walked and i beat around the bush for awhile (good tactic) and then i said, "im just gonna come right out and say it. will u come 2 the dance w/me?" he replied (after thinking about it), "ok. but this conversation never happened." u can imagine how happy i was!? but basicly, ask 2 talk, beat around the bush, and then say a sentance that describes what u want (e.g., will you go out w/me? can i be ur girlfriend?). hope it works! and about the other girl, just leave her alone. if she gives u trouble, take it 2 the teacher. just dont mention your boyfriend!
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Well then, it depends on your point of view about how precious the friendship between both of you. If you have your ups and downs and you're sure that he can be trusted and befriended for the rest of your days, then go ahead tell him. Whatever happened with your relationship, a best friend will never go away. If bad things happened, then you can always returned to the first stage. And make sure that you tell him that...\n\nDespite that, I would strongly advice you to at least give him hints first that you liked him. Don't go forward first, and let the man do the job (honestly a man will feel greater if he moved on first). At least gave him hints, one or two that you can and have liked him more than a friend.  \n\nSlipped in some sneaky talks about relationship when you're talking to each other. The word, "What if we're..." can be a good trick to use. I'm sure if you managed to pull this one of, he'll realized your feeling towards him and move ahead to do what his heart says. \n\nA best friend is someone worth having, worth caring and worth fighting. Who knows, he can actually be your 'best friend' for the rest of your life. Good luck!
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Quite honestly, you'll never kno until you try. Sometimes, best friends are great as boyfriends. He already knows you -- your likes and dislikes, your tastes, your past relationships, etc. -- and he didn't just become a best friend overnight (15 years of friendship is a *long* time). Then again, sometimes best friends aren't good boyfriends. He already knows you, but maybe he knows you too much -- how you will react in certain situations, how your pet peeves sometimes drive him crazy, etc. Truly, you have to follow your heart and your instincts on this one. I wish there were a "crystal ball" that I could point you to that would give you a definite answer... but I'm afraid the only way to find out is to actually be in a relationship with your best friend. God bless!\n\nHope that helped!
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I would think that this means he really likes you. Don't be so quick to assume that he still likes your best friend. You know guys... they can never make up their minds. If the guy didn't like you, trust me, he would be acting like you don't exist. Have you tried to talk to him about this? Or are you shy? If you're shy, why don't you try to write him a secret admirer letter or something creative like that. Hope this helps.
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hey mama I am in the exact same position and my guy friend has mentioned he hates when girls make the first move so I am petrified to tell him, I feel like I have to wait for him to come to me. But he is probably thinking the same as you. Whenever drink, stuff happens and I usually spend every day with him and we do everything together. Work out together, party together, occasionally sleep together the whole 9. Whenever we need anything, we're the first ones each other calls. If you figure this out- lemme know!\nLauramr015@yahoo.com
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possible the best friend liked you and didnt tell and now hes not wanting anything to do with you and maybe even he dont like the b/f because he knows who he is and what he is like behind closed doors... lots of different possiblities but dont close the door with your best friend... loves come and go but best friends (if they are) are VERY hard to come by!!!
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Ok, the one thing - for me - was that he found what my interests and did whatever he could to find interest in them as well.  You have to have a connection - just like with your guy friends.  I know it sounds weird, but the person you wind up with should be your "best friend".  You should love everything about them, and see that they feel the same about you.  \n\nNow, my guy did what he could to make me happy - and I did the same in return - give and take!  Also, honesty and great communication helps as well!
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I did this with one of my bf and finally my best friend said you know your my best friend and I love to hear about your life but enough is enough and I didn't even realize I was doing it and i was so glad that she let me know instead of just letting it go on. Just be honest with her and tell her how you feel most likely she doesn't even really even know how often she really talks about him.
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Go for it!!!  This guy sounds like a keeper!!  Talk to your best friend about it, if you are worried what she may think...she may be absolutely delighted!  This guy knows how to cheer you up at the right time??  What a prize!  The worst thing that can happen is you still have two great friends.  Good luck!
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Here is a defining moment in your life.. \nPut yourself in your friends shoes.. as exciting as it may be to be you right now.. \nHOW would you feel if the sitch was reversed.. NOT too fun to get screwed over by your best friend and boyfriend.. \nDO you become a good person, and decide your BEST friend is more important to you then a guy.. \nOR do you become a beotch (sorry, but that is what you would be) and take your best friends man with no regard for her, or her feelings.. I'm saying.. That would be pretty fu**cked up on your part.. (actually what you're doing right now is pretty f**ked up in itself.. just plotting )to do it.. YOU should be more of a friend then that.. And just remember Karma is a beotch, and who's to say he wont leave you for one of your friends.. ?
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It is so nice that you care so much about  both your friend and you.\n\nYou see whatever happened has happened. It can't be changed. So either you find ways to move on or you just slack back.\n\nYou said you are best friends. A lot of things happen between best friends you know so this should not be a hard one to tackle. It happened because you were both passionate about each other. It now appears you are both bi. No big deal.\n\nFirst you said you liked him and now you are saying you don't know if you like him. NO problem about that, you will soon know if you like him or not.\n\nHowever, since you said you have not seen him in a month and this whole thing is getting into you, well i think is about time you talk with him. It does not matter if you are different persons or not, you still have to find out where you stand. You need to talk with him and find out if you are both embarassed about the things that happened and if you still want to be best of friends. If you both still want to keep on having sexual feelings for each other, well that is when to find out, by talking to each other. Please tell him your mind, what you think, what should stop, what should go on and stuffs like that. It will work out.\n\nYou and i both know you don't want to lose a friend like him. Then i think it's about time you spoke to him.\n\nPlease don't feel shy. OK. Open up and tell him every single thing in your heart.\n\nYou will definitely find your answer. Keep it cool and GOOD LUCK.\n\nHave fun too.
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this is my story I also fell in love with my best friend after years of friend ship! One day my cousin that at that moment was going out w/his brother told me to tell him that i needed his advice that i was in love with one of my best friends and didn't know how to tell him. he told me to tell him the next week after a long conversation on phone before he hang up i said the 3 words! He called back and ask what did you say i told him nothing have to go! the following week he came and nervously told me the same now we are engage and getting married next July. What I'm trying to tell you is to have fun that day tell him you need his advice on some thing at the end of the day face it! If he says no well you tried and you will leave him thinking he may give you a call later on! I don't think he will forget that day if you make it fun and exiting believe me a guy want someone that gets along and that is fun to be with someone to talk to and shares things in common and after a wonder full day he wont forget you. FOR SOME REASON YOU TWO ARE STILL FRIENDS!!!!
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Hey hun... well - I know just where you're coming from on this one as my best friend (guy) has just had this problem as he told his friend how he felt about her.\nFirstly, don't feel guilty about saying anything - it will have actually made things less awkward between the two of you. If you're close friends (as you say you are) then she shouls respect you for saying something to her face. Far too many guys don't say anything and the girl doesn't know where she stands at all.\nI don't think you "need" to rectify what you said - it's said now and that's final - you can't sincerely say anything that will take it back - and it will never be forgotten.\nYou say she feels something for you too, but still said you should stay friends - it sounds to me like she's scared of losing the friendship you have, which if it's as special and close as you say would be a shame. I don't understand though, why she said that she liked you and still turned you down - I mean, if she truly respected your feelings - would she have kept quiet and not kept you going through this torture, with the hope that something could still happen. I know that, obviously, you think the world of her - but are you sure she's worh it and she's not just playing with your affections and your emotions.\nI think you did right keeping quiet for a few days, you didn't say anything in the heat of the moment, and have let everything settle. If her reply to you didn't say anything about what you said, this could mean she'd rather move on - stay friends and not spoil your friendship in anyway. However, it could also be that she doesn't want to be the one to raise the topic, maybe she's embarrassed or maybe she thinks you're embarrassed and don't want her to raise the subject. It's up to you on that one - if you want to talk about it then bring it up in a quiet moment in private. However - if you do want to talk about it, make sure you don't sound like you're renewing your feelings to her, or are pleaing with her to take your relationship to a new level - as this is likely to spoil any chances of remaining friends.\nIf you are as close as you say, I don't think she will behave differently. But, even if she does, you MUST NOT behave differently around her - keep being as close as you ever were - this should put her at her ease a little more.\nI know it's difficult, as I said my friend's in the same sit, but you have to try and stop seeing "signs" that she likes you. Just try and see these that you and her are close friends and nothing more. Slowly try and get yourself to see someone else in this way - althought it's likely you will always like this friend as more than that.\nI hope this helps you, good look mate - I have a feeling you might need it with this one.
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Do you have a crush on this best guy friend that's kind of like your brother, even in the slightest? If not then I suggest you relax about it a little. You might want to let them know if they start going out that you love them both, and wish them the best but the second they start having issues you don't want to get involved. Maybe you should also go in to a little more depth with this with your best friend too so she understands. I understand your discomfort with this because when people break up they both seem like jerks and you probably won't want to hear it.