So i told my ex for 2 years I want to be freinds but she sends me emials and messages 4-5 times a week and I mtired of it.  How can I nicely show her that I want her to stop!\nTalk every know and then is fine, but shes overdoing it.
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tell her your break up kinda ment you needed your space not to be mean but you dont talk to your other friends that much and it should be the same with her
470457
It sounds like she just needs some time after her past relationship.  I owuld suggest that you remain her friend through this time and be as close to her as possible.  Maybe if she sees how good of a friend that you are, things will slowly change.  Don't push her to be your girl though.  It will only push her farther away.  Good Luck.
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dont forgive her talk to her. tell her whats bothering you and ask her to stop. if she doesnt stop then tell her you guys are through. i had the same prob many many times, lost a few friends but not many. and i dont regret anything so hey take my advice, or leave it, its up to you, all your decions are up to you, none else. good luck.
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Make it mutual, if you and u have been friends for a long time she'll probably want to be friends back, just go back up to her and say you know if you want to be friends again it's okay with me if you don't wan to be friends whatever that's cool. If she truely is your friend she'll want to be friends again.
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I think you should start by keeping your distance a bit.  I think you should make other friends and spend time with them.  Just try to get out of it little by little.  Less calls, less get togethers, maybe even take a class dancing or in something else that she will not join you in.  \n\nThat way the distance will become more and more, until the day you guys don't' get to hang out very much.  \n\nIf she confronts you in a very angry or whatever tone, just be calm, nice & friendly.  Tell her that you guys have drifted apart and maybe you don't have much in common anymore.  But you still like her and consider her a friend.  This may still bite you in the butt, if she decides to spread gossip there's not much you can do but just ride it out, hang out with new friends, whatever.\n\nWhatever damage she could do, you're so much better off without her being around you, you will be happy and it will be worth it, just be strong.  You deserve good, positive, supporting friends in your life.\n\nTake care.  If you need a good defense to fight rumors, or whatever she throws your way, you can always contact me, or post another question, just be ready.
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No way man. An ex is an ex for a reason. I'll give you a link to go to and read why you shouldn't even be talking to her. If you want any chance of getting her back go no contact. Start dating other woman and let her find out. She'll come crawling back and saying everything you want to hear. Don't buy it. She just wants what she can't have and when she gets it BOOM you mean shyt to her again. There's a 1 in 100000 chance that says she wants you back for the right reasons. Move on. The damage is done. She's damaged goods and you'll never have as healthy relationship as you think. She may say she wants to see you happy in the long run and personally you'll be happier without her. She won't allow you to move on until she's stable in her own life. Don't let her mess with you. And don't even be her friend. Until you are totally over her. Nothing you say or do is going to get her back. I PROMISE. Good luck and find you a new woman. AT CHURCH
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you seam a Little dispirit for her attention but if she isn't respecting you or is only friendly some of the time you should just get over her make some new Friends you know???? even if you are only trying to help her she doesn't seem to want to hear it so interfere less way less OK?!
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I'd be nice but firm.  Tell her you enjoy her friendship and would like to continue it, but that the relationship is over and that you would like to meet other girls.  Maybe she doesn't realize she's doing this.  If she still has feelings for you, it's gonna hurt no matter how you say it, but eventually, if she's mature enough, she'll get over it and you can restart the friendship.  Good luck!
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aigghtt man u need to relax i was in ur shoes before and i was asking the very same question a few months ago\n\nif she doesnt want to talk that s fine\njust either email or text\njust saying  "hi"  act like u have move on\n(u r probably saying no i dont want to do that) well let me ask u everything that u have done till this day has it work,  NO, all ur caring has it gotten u closer  NO, because right now she doesnt want it,  she is fill with negative feeling and in order to rid of these feelings u need to stop pressuring her into a relationship\njust simply be cool  act like u r enjoying ur space\nand that everything is good around u \n\nbelieve me it will work and continue being ur self but dont pressure her soon she will allow those walls to drop\nbut do not once again pressure her or try to convince her to be with u
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just tell her that you feel like you both have grown apart and no longer have the same interests and that you don't want to be friends anymore or hang out. people usually will leave you alone if you say you don't want to be friends anymore. if you don't feel comfortable telling her in person, then email her or call her up on the phone. telling her is better than trying to avoid her. some people need bigger hints.
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mmmmmm...\n\nWell i thought about this one, when my ex and i broke up, we only dated for a couple of months but we were like best friends. We ended in a stupid way, we just stopped talking well he was ingnoring me and i to him and so forth.\n\nBut if he ever rang me back after so long like in your case, yeah i would catch up with him. I would make sure i looked my best and meet him somewhere, to show how much i have grown and how much i look better. If i were you honey i'd meet him and dress real hot. Don't talk about what went wrong, if he was ignoring you well its his loss. And rub it in his face and show him how much he's missed.\n\nThats what i did once, i met with another of my ex's who said similar things along that line, and he saw me, and after our interlude, he rang me back and asked me out again after 3yrs. what do you think i did??? I just said, sorry i just wana be friends, even though i thought we had something going on, but i realised, he ignored me and played around. I was over it and so i met him just for a coffee, and he was wishin he had never let go of me!!\n\nSO basically, if i were you, i would be friends, sometimes if you and your ex were good friends, its good to keep it that way, cos you both know alot about eachother from the past. But dont forget the reason you broke up, remember why it ended and dont fall for the i still love you crap, cos if they did, honey they would of never left the picture. And even if they left for a bit, it doesent take 1 1/2yrs to realise and come back. \n\nI would talk about all the good things that i have done( rub it in their faces) all the ppl i've met, and so forth. You know the best revenge on ex's is success. You dont have to hate eachtoher, you can be good friends, but it will kill him for ever letting you go and not contacting you all this time.\n\nmake sure you look super hot!!!! But leave it as friends. By the way my ex and i are still good friends. I know in his eyes he wants me, but thats the beauty of break ups, you have control of the situation, and you can think things through and move on, whilst still being good friends or not
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im so sorry for u..i see how confussing this must be for you..<i could barely understand this it was so conf..> but i think u need to start from the begginning..why did she think u were ditching her...and tell her "i have a new bff and so do u, u should have thought about ur decsion before u got a new bff" so untill then..lets just stay bf..ok.."\n\nhope this helps..i hope things work out for u..\n\n: )
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Protect yourself. If you make yourself too available for her she will most likely use you and not consider how you feel. The only way to not get too invested is to stop emailing her.
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ask her why is she always talking at her ex cause you don't want to hear her talking about them and if she misses them that much then she can go back to them cause she is totally disrespecting you in always how would  she like it if you talk about your ex girl friends but tell her if she doesn't stop you are gone and will be looking for some one different good luck
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Janinie, \n\nMy opinion is that you should just say every since you started hanging out with those chicks you turned int a jerk. So i just want to be friends and not best friends cause i don't want to get dumped on the side of the road again. So we can still hang out if you want but that is your choice. Thank you. That is what I would say. And you can Email me back if you want.\n\nKennetha\n\n\nP.S. My email adress is kennethacutie@yahoo.com
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explain to him how disturbign and hurtful ti si to you.  its quite disrespectful.  teh only person you shoudl ever give up friendships woth ex's for is your spose.  I am only engaged and i wont speak to any of my ex;s out fo respect for my man.  Expalin to him how disrespectful it is and that you want him to stop...he wouldnt approve of you doing the same would he?
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Call her and tell her you just want to be friends and hope what you said earlier will not stop her from being friends..............