I'm 30 and she's 30 in April.  We've never been married, have no kids and have dated for about 2 months.  We live very close to one another and sleep at each others' house most nights.  We get along well and enjoy spending time together.  I don't think there should be a rush to tell her, but we've slept together and I'd kinda like to tell her. Is waiting another month too long, and anything to worry about?
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ok, for starters, let me tell you that I think it is awesome to be 30 and unmarried.  I believe that people are so friggin in a hurry to get married at such a young age that they (me included) dont know what the H3ll they are doing!  You have gained maturtiy with age, and seem to have a great relationship started here.  Sounds like FUN!!  I particularly want to ask...What are you waiting for to tell her?  Don't let society be your influence.  It influences WAY too much.  If your feelings for her are those of love, then, by all means, tell her.  If they aren't, or you aren't sure yet, dont say it yet, but DO express to her how much you enjoy her company, and that you have strong feelings for her.  Something to boost her confidence in you, and make her feel a little more secure in the relationship.  I LOVE reading these little stories of new love, I ENJOYED that feeling SO much, and guess it is a way to live it again  ;)  Have fun, and take care of you and yours!!  Good luck friend!
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No, you're not too young.  You are also engaged which is not a commitment that is taken lightly, so if you have both eneterd into the engagement with the view that you will be with each other for life...then you have really just sped up the inevitable - congratulations!
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Almost always pretty early into it (I'm in my thirties).  I would consider it unusual not to have sex if we slept together, but still ok - actually quite nice.  The girls I remember the best (and in the best way) always waited.  It is really awesome to be with a good girl and to just be able to hold her without going farther.  Just be sure to keep the kissing to a minimum so things don't get out of hand.  Sitting under a blanket together can be romantic, but romantic isn't defined by just one thing - it is a combination of things that make a situation romantic.
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If you dont tell her, would you be happy with yourself or would you regret it rest of your life thinking what if it could have worked out between you? \n\nIf you tell her, it could go either way, you could screw up the relationship you have or  you too could get closer. Depending on how she has treated you so far, only you can make that decision.
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I'm in the beginning of a relationship with a celebrity that I'm sure you all know. She said she has taken a chance on dating someone not famous so I have to be absolutely quite about it until we see where it goes. I'm starting to calm about it but I'm still super excited to just tell someone. I can't mention it to my friends, family, nobody-you are the first to know! We both like each other very much. It's been 5 months. I spend about 3 days a week with her-I wish it was more, but I don't think I can take the anonymity forever. If we get serious and go longer than a year I think it will be time to let the cat out of the bag by then. I'm always excited about this happening. It will be so crazy for my friends and family to find out on TV. You will know to. Keep an eye out because you will remember that I answered this question!
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im 22 & my hubby is 32...i was 19 when we met & he was definitely insecure about his age but we just joke about it now. be proud of your age & experience & let her know you're willing to play "teacher" to her "school girl"!! hahaha!! & if she's got an age issue you dont want some immature little snot like that anyway, she'd just hold you back from a more fulfilling relationship elsewhere...  good luck to you!
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I don't know how much this will help you but my girlfriend and I met and started dating almost instantly...thinking back it all happened so quick but it was so natural that we never had any problems.  She lived about 30 minutes away from me and I was in college and worked so it was hard but honestly, I would come home from work and could expect to walk in the door and see her every day (she had a key).  Two months after we met we moved in together and have been living together ever since.  We talk and spend time together every day.  I can honestly say that we have not spent more than 10 days apart from each other since we met 8 months ago and it has been amazing!
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no one should put a time limit or expect anything in any certain amount of time. it will happen when you are both comfortable with one another. dont try to rush it, four weeks is not a long time. if you want to charish that moment then wait. building momentum and imagination is so sexy. i think it means more to wait and build on something more than sex. wait cause you already know it will be worth it.
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Like I tell everybody, I think that you should call whenever you get the feeling.  I hate how people make dating into a game.  There is no certain amount of time that you should wait.  Just because you waited a week doesn't mean that's the reason it didn't work out.  If the moment is right between two people and if they are feeling the vibe of each other, then it doesn't matter.
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I'm not like miss conservative, but I don't see the harm in waiting a little bit longer to see where you two are in another month.. but it really is a personal decision.. and since you are asking here, I am guessing yuo aren't ready and he is?  Be careful, only do what YOU are willing to do without pressure from anyone.  That's very important for your self-respect.  ok?  Best of luck to you!
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My husband and I were married for just short of 4 years and together for a total of 12 when he passed away. Having been widowed for just over a year, I feel that I am at least qualified to offer my opinion on this subject. \n\nI have just started to think about dating here in the last month. It is difficult to say the least and you do have a tendency feel as though you are cheating on your spouse. \n\nThat being said, you have to think about what your husband would have wanted for you...would he really want you to spend the rest of your life pining away for him? And should the shoe have been other foot, what would you have wanted for him? These questions we must ask ourselves. \n\nAll things come in good time and grief and grieving are no exception it can take years to heal or it can take months, alot depends upon the type of death, be it unexpected or terminal illness. \n\nComing from the perspective of terminal illness, I can honestly say that a lot of my grieving was done prior to the actual event taking place. That, however does not mean that I don't miss my husband, I do, daily. But, we had these conversations for over 2 years and I knew what he wanted me to do. He felt I was too young and vibrant to spend the rest of my life alone and made me promise that when I felt ready, I would seek out another relationship. And to me, that spoke volumes regarding the depth of his love for me.
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I believe age has no difference when it comes to loving someone. If you're married and have no intention to part with your present wife, don't make any promises to that girl which you can't keep. If you're single and this romance might develop into something else, do go ahead and don't let this chance pass by you. I have a son with a man who's 20 years older than me. He was lying to me about being divorced and we spend 2 years living together as man and wife. When I had a baby, I found out he was married and had a wife in another country. We're no longer together, but I tell you age has nothing to do with this. I love every moment we spent together except for his lies that screwed up my whole life. Don't do this to the girl you liked, but definitely enjoy every moment of this feeling if it's rightfully yours regardless of the age difference. Good luck! Nika
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once you're legal, seven years doesn't make a difference.  i know EXACTLY how you feel, but i had to think about my situation too... what you have to think about is this: he was already married (that's HUGE!)... this means that he loved a woman... he slept next to her for "X" years, he knows what love is.  He has SO MUCH MORE experience in EVERYTHING than you do.  That's the only turn-off.\n\nThink about it.
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I don't mean to sound judgmental or anything but you shouldn't be even thinking about it.  She's WAY TOO YOUNG for you.\n\nBesides, just because she looks like your wife who already passed away (which I gathered the reason why you want to date the 18yo) does not mean that she is "your wife" and will never be.\n\nNo two person can ever be alike, so don't get any ideas.\n\nSorry if I sound harsh, but that's my opinion in this whole situation and I would rather be honest and upfront.
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I'm 51, she's 49.  She works Mon. - Sat. 09:30 - 17:30 hrs.  I work Mon. - Fri. 08:30 - 16:30 hrs.  We live 2.5 hrs apart and so only see each other on weekends.  On weekends where I travel to see her I usually arrive approximately 19:00 hr., and if she travels to see me she usually arrives about 21:00 hrs.  We leave for our respected hometown's on Mon. mornings (early, really early).  We have been seeing each other for nearly 3 years now and are getting married next May 20.  So I suppose I told you my story as an example of yes it can work out providing you love each other equally and have an open and honest communication with one and other.  Best of luck to both of you.
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NO, no, and No!  Six months is not long enough to know someone well enough to get married.  I've been dating my b/f for 3 years and we are still not married because we have only lived together for 6 months and we still have to get used to each others quirks.
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As soon as you are ready.  I started dating the same month that my Ex moved out.  I never regreted it and I found a wonderful man.  Go for it.