My wife has recently became bi-curious and wants to try a threeway with me and another woman. Upon further investigation she also admitted to wanting another man too. From the first time I found this out, I have been upfront and honest and told her i can not allow another man to be with her. She claims that this is acceptable. what should i  do?
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I say good on you for standing your ground!!! i wouldnt want another person touching my partner. I mean fair enough if you both wanted to have a threesome but you dont. So does that mean that you would have a threesome with a woman??
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Doesshe have to be bi? I'm bi-sexual, but I'm taken... Anyway she sounds like she meant a lot. Just keep looking for em', she out there.\nsexkitten01
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HELL NO, Do you want another guy touching your lady? I wouldn't. What the hell is up with people these days over the 3 sums? I like it with me and my partner and NOONE else. But that is up to you. You have to live with the fact that your g/f wants to be with another man. What if she like it or him? Will you be willing to have another? I dont
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Its okay to be attracted to other men, It is normal. I am sure your husband also is attracted to other women. Don't fret about it. Just remember of course it is your decision if you wanted to go out with another man but you will be left with some difficult consequences. One of the main consequences is guilt and you don't want that. Also I'm sure you would not want to ruin your marriage.
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Ask her if she would feel more comfortable having a 3rd GUY there, instead of your fantasy of having another woman.  She just might say yes!
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The truth is there are a lot of women who are at the very least curious.  There are a large percentage of women who would like to try a threesome with another woman. Does not mean they are gay. Just means they are curious and or want to have some fun and try new things. \nFrom what i understand of the info you gave. She was a woman who was a little more than curious.  If she was that adamant about denying it she was either in some serious denial or ashamed of the fact.  People do some strange things when they are ashamed or feel they are different and don't want to admit it.  Denial could also be it but from what i read, unlikely.
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It really depends on the terms of the man's relationship with his wife.  I know a couple who are happily married but they have sex with other people (separately, not like a three-some).  Each knows that the other has multiple partners but that is the terms of their relationship and they're ok with that.  So, if this was previously discussed by the couple and the wife is ok with it, then no, it is not cheating.  However, if this is not agreeable within the terms of their relationship, then it would be cheating.  \n\nThe best thing for the couple to do would be to sit down and discuss this.  They may need a moderator, such as a couples counselor, or they may not.  But it needs to be resolved otherwise the guy will be miserable and the longer it goes on the more hurt the wife will be.  People need to be free to express themselves sexually and being bi-sexual is something that he sould have brought to her attention before they were married.  Now they've got to work it out.  \n\nIf this is a real situation that you know of, give my best to the couple and wish them luck for me.\n\nFR
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Firstly, why did you get married and you're bi? i mean you're not sure of sex you like more, i find that's its wrong more wrong than being homosexual just because its unfair to your wife and to "your best friend" choose one or none. Does your wife know you're bi-sexual? You need to be honest with yourself-as to what u like,if you don't know or can't choose then you need to be honest with your wife now before its too late... I've seen thing like this destroy families and i affects the children. Make your decision before it's too late.
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My wife is bisexual, and very attracted to women. I can really understand that, since I'm attracted to women also. I've never understood the fascination with guys. I look at a woman's body, and it's like a sculpture or a painting. I look at a guys body, and it's like a tractor or a backhoe. Really, I can see why it used to be called a woman's chore. To me, snuggling a guy seems like it has to be something like snuggling a piece of equipment or a rock. But snuggling a girl is like having an extra pillow or two.\n\nOK, that in mind, and knowing that my wife likes girls also, what rational reason can I give for denying her the right to date another girl?\n\nAlso, I'm not exactly sure where to draw the line between a friendship date and a romantic date between women. My wife would only rarely make out with or make love to her girlfriend. About seven out of ten dates were just normal girl stuff: going to the mall, hanging out, talking, shopping, watching a movie, etc. Am I supposed to forbid her to hang out with other women because she finds them attractive? Really, where's the fair in that? No kissing? Does that mean no kissing on the cheek? No kissing on the lips? No tongue? She kisses everyone on the cheek! Half her friends she kisses on the lips. (In some cultures, everyone kisses everyone else on the lips.) Am I really supposed to micro-manage my wife's friendships and carefully consider which ones I consider "too friendly"?\n\nAnd there's also the fact that I want my wife to be happy. I want her to be safe, and I want to be the one to make her as happy as I can, but I want her to be happy. If she needs a man, here I am! I can be all the man she will ever need. If I can't, she's lied to me on several occasions when I asked her. I'm not so good at being all the woman she might need or want. Try as I might. Like I said, I can really understand her desire to be with a woman, its her desire to be with me that baffles me. So I understand it, and it's real, if I deny it, I'm the cause of her misery. I don't want to cause her misery, I want to apease her misery. Do you want to make your spouse happy, or miserable?\n\nWhy does my wife still let me go to Martial Arts classes now that we're married? Because try as she might, she's just not a martial artist, she doesn't have anything to teach me... I can't get what I need from her that way. Along the same lines, when she craves a woman's touch, I can't do anything for her. Should I also stop eating anything she hasn't prepared for me? Should I not sample the food of other people at a potluck, saying, "No, my wife has food for me at home." Should I give up pickles, since my wife doesn't pickle things herself? Trust me, I've got no problem turning down other people's pies... no one does pie like my wife. Or cake. Or pasta. Or potatoes. If my wife didn't want me to ever eat potatoes fixed by another woman, I'd be just fine with that... my wife can more than fulfill my potatoe need. But she doesn't pickle, and I happen to really love pickles. So I get pickles from the supermarket, or my grandmother (who happens to make excelent pickles.) Is my wife jealous? No, she realizes that she will never compete with my grandmother in the pickling department, and focuses on where her strengths are. I've done the same sexually: I'll never be a woman, but I can be the best man she's ever imagined.\n\nNow, if you ever saw the Japaneese comic book Ranma 1/2, if that were real, I'd hop on a plane to China and go take a dip, then my wife and I might talk about renegotiating.
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Well, as a bisexual, I can tell you that it all depends on her and her idea of commitment. I love chicks, but I would never leave a man for a woman if he was someone I truly loved. But something I'd like to know is why did she just tell you this? I believe it's the type of thing you shoud tell someone from the very beginning, especially if it's someone you're serious with. I would just talk to her openly about it and ask her if she's willing to give herself and her heart only to you.
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est relationships are partnerships of two.  Heck, it's hard at times to make a relationship between two people work.  Adding another person (in whatever aspect) will complicate things.  It's your call I guess, but actions have consequences. I say no if you really value what you and your man has.  You might be ok with it and he might be ok with it, but what about that other woman.  Usually when people try threesomes, somebody usually ends out in the cold….  And things get unpleasant.
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I asked the same question about my wife and got these answers.   \n\nhttp://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=Agn7HJTOP6UQyQAP1KFvciTsy6IX?qid=1006031910035\n\n\nWe have a son together and I'm looking to spice things up too but don't know how to approch it from a women's view.  \n\nFrom a guy's view I can say that as long as your not trying to do him or have a 3 way with another guy they are sorta open to it more than women seem to be...although the predomonant male fantasy is a 3-some with 2 women.  But in the end men can be a little scared about doing anything to out there....just start with something small and work your way up.
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Ask her if she wants to try swinging or polyamory. I don’t know your views on non-monogamy, but if she responds positively to your suggestion, the two of you should seriously look into the possibilities. Obviously her cheating was unfortunate because it involves deception, but you need to distinguish between whatever pain you feel from the deception, and whatever feelings you might have about non-monogamy. You can’t change the past, but you can set sail for a more promising future if you establish a new commitment together. This new commitment is not the traditional “forsaking all others” that you find in conventional marriage ceremonies, but a commitment of partnership through the adventures yet to come. At some point you should probably tell her that you know about her previous cheating, but you should do this at a time when you are feeling like you love her – NOT at a time when you are feeling bitter or resentful.\n\nOn the other hand, if you bring up the possibility of non-monogamy and she says “no way” or gets angry at you for even thinking about it, then you might want to GENTLY tell her that you know about her cheating, and that you forgive her and still love her. Once she sees this reaction, her insecurities about non-monogamy might eventually fade away and then she might be willing to think about it more positively. But don’t expect everything to be resolved all at once. You might have to work on this aspect of your relationship for many months before you both reach a point where you can trust each other enough to let go of the past and start anew.\n\nAnd finally, I should point out that I am simply offering one suggestion that most people might not consider. The actual wisdom of this suggestion depends on a lot of factor that I don’t know because I don’t know either you or you wife. If you want to talk in more detail about your specific situation, feel free to contact me. I might modify my suggestions based on your actual feelings and the actual situation.\n\nBy the way, my wife and I have been non-monogamous for the past several years, and we grow more in love with each other every day. We are living proof that love in marriage can be amplified by love beyond marriage – in contrast to the standard belief that extra-marital love is always destructive. If you are a great enough soul to love your wife despite her past mistakes, then you could discover that your most amazing and deeply-loving years are yet to come.
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Dear Omar,\nAm sorry to hear about your wife. It must really be tuff to hold out like you have. In my opinion, I dont think she would damn you for taking on a female friend. I realize it gets lonely especially for a guy. I empathize with you.  You know, I understand you want to stay faithful and probably have thought, what if it was me. Well, my friend, you ARE being faithful, as far as I know. Only God is the judge of what you do. And God knows your heart, whether you are being malicious or not. I don't believe he wants you to be with out companionship. Now sex is another story. You will be taking on alot of guilt because you are not free of your wife in your mind or heart.And suppose you get so involved you fall in love with this person. Then what? Do you chuck your wife and go with her? It is such a fine line as to what to do in this case. I mean what do the docs say about your wife? Is she brain dead? Is she losing body mass by laying? Is she deteriating, What? I say, just be careful not to add additional problems to your life that you may not be able to handle. Choose someone that clearly understands the situation and keep it plotonic(yeah right, huh?). Its nice to know you have someone to talk to and go to dinner and have conversation with, right? To go for walks and the movies. I know what you are talking about. So really you have to make that call and when you do make sure you have a clear conscience.
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You can ask her a general question, like what does she think of the idea, without suggesting you want to do it.  You can also ask her first if she's ever thought about sex with a chick.  Her answers will tell you whether or not you should ask her.   \n\nI will say though, if you really love her, don't do it.  Introducing a third party into a relationship is asking for trouble.  Most open relationships don't last.  \n\nNow what are you going to do if she likes the idea but wants to do it with two guys instead of two girls?  You open the can of worms, you may get an answer you're not expecting!   And fair's fair...if you get your wish, she's entitled to hers!
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I think you should talk to a marriage counselor or psychiatrist before you talk to the third party.\n\nWhat is missing from your life or your wife's life or your marriage that a third party would fill?  Are you bored with each other and won't admit it?  Does your wife want to explore unsettled gender identity issues?  If so, there are ways to do that without dragging a third party into a potentially hurtful situation and potentially destabilizing your marriage.  \n\nI'm not trying to defend conventional morality for the sake of defending my own moral standards, I'm just suggesting you might be papering over or distracting yourselves from issues that should be addressed directly.  I also question the ethics of using someone for an experiment like this.  I know you're not coercing the woman, but are you sure you're not messing with her head?
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I have no problem with bisexuality per se. I do have a problem with sharing my man. I don't want to share him with anyone, male or female.