I was talkin to this girl for a year and she decided right before new years to break it up cuz she felt it was gettin boring and she didnt know whut she wanted. The time we were talkin, she would say how much she loved me, and she wanted kids with me, etc. We kept mild contact like a couple phone calls a week, but 3 weeks later, I find out she talkin to another guy. I write a letter to her, but it doesn't seem to affect her cuz she tells me "why am i trying so hard", and "things are different now". I still love her a lot, and I know she still cares some what because her friend likes me more than the new guy and tells me that she thinks of me sometimes. It's been 3 mos. and the situation hasn't changed, but I dont know if I'm doin something wrong. We haven't talked for like 3 weeks. How can I bring the attraction back? the guy shes talkin to is a loser (but i dont show it bothers me)!! doesn't work or go to school!! PLEASE...any advice on how to get her back would help a lot!!
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You want her back bro. This is man to man sh*t here. Blow her off. Seriously, just trust my advice and blow her off. Pretend you are on and better off and she will see that and realize you are intriguing to her again and she will start talking to you again. But play semi hard to get with her. Take it like you don't give a damn about nothing and if you 2 ever get together again it doesn't make a differance to you. But try to be exciting around her. Do something you normally wouldn't do. Take a chance and make sure she sees it or knows about it. You can handle it. Woman are complex creatures but once you know how to get through to them, you are golden for life. Well until they catch on to your knowledge of their ways.
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hi there!i was thinking to tell u something with ur topic:well its obvious something hapend between u and her something that probably didnt liked her to much odherwise why she did meet with u 3weeks and after no  answer no nothing?u must ask ur self what was wrong during this 3weeks time couse, if she didnt like u from the begining why she did  go on and meet with u 3weeks and not just 1time???think well and see if was something from ur side...and if not if u cant see u did something wrong then are many posibilitye:eidher she find out in this time that u arent what she is looking for and she is doing this to u now couse she is feeling shy to tell u in face  or maibe she find someone else who its more comatible with her or difrent reason as parents for examples....maibe someone like her friends say something bad about u and in her opinion her friends are to much importand. \nwell i think i made u more confuze but u must think what u can do to feel ok with all this and dont be afraid do whatever u feel to and need to after all its ur life and u are a man so act like one!!
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Find yourself another girl for that month and your current girlfriend she just wants some time to have sex with this guy that's if she haven't already.  Don't let her play with your emotions if she needs time let her go for good.  If she really loved you she wouldn't be asking for time because another guy.  Come on shes obviously a whore.  Don't buy her any gifts and for that whole month don't call her shes gonna realize she lost a great guy that B.I.C.T.H!!!!!!!!!!
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ben for the love of god!! do not act interested in her, trust me. ex-girls do this thing where they wait for your attention and then as soon as they get it they freaking bounce. the best thing(and the hardest)for you to do, is jsut be her friend like you two never even dated. totally hit on other chicks in front of her and when she's all like "whats with that" be like "nothing i thought you didnt care" thats right turn that shit around on her ass. fuck yeah!!
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That's a very hard question and I read it all the way through. I'd appreciate it if you also went and read one that I just posted, which is also long. If you really in fact love her, than I would hold onto that and go back with her. If you're Christian, pray about it. Well, scratch that. Pray about it if you're a Christian but talk to her first. Get to know her and try to express your feelings towards her little at a time. Don't make a large sudden move. I hope things work out, but just take it slow. This is comin from a girl that was in this exact position and is know with the guy that I posted a question about. I love him to death and we're getting along wonderfully. Best of luck. Email me if ya want to w/ nething else: naertgirls@juno.com.
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Aww, this reminds me of My friend Lauren and I. We got together, she loved me, I love her, but outside pressures made it very hard for me to cope with Us. I understand where  your girl is coming from and I also understand where you are coming from. You can't make someone stay if they don't want to. And you shouldn't try if you see that they aren't happy. Especially if it starts to make you unhappy. I would suggest letting her do what she wants. Let her know that you care for her and want her to be happy and that you are there for her but draw the line somewhere. Let her know that she does hurt your feelings by doing these things and let her know that she can't be so flippant and careless. Lauren and I are good friends now and sometimes I look at her and feel a pang, but I know that we would have both been miserable if we stayed together with all the problems we were having. Sometimes its better to let something go to keep a friendship than to draw out a love affair and have it end in hatred...Oh yeah, I think that she should take some time to figure herself out without any outside influences from you or other guys or girls. The hardest thing to do is to truly know and love yourself. You are always your own worst critic....Good Luck!
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Your screen name suits you perfectly.  If you just want to get laid, go for it.  I have seen this situation plenty of time to know that she doesn't love you.  She likes having you there to cry on.  She needs some love and affection, and you happen to be there.  If it wasn't you it would just be someone else.  What do you think would happen if your friend found out you guys hooked up, and then he decided to get back with her?  What would she do?  She would probably dump you in a second and get back with your friend.  If you think this would happen, then realize that she is only  using you.  Therefore, if she is using you for comfort, it is fair to use her for sex, but don't get your heart all involved.  Just do it and have fun.  She isn't really a girl you want to date seriously if this is how she normally acts.  Keep her around until you find a good one.
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Take it slow... tell her that you really want her to listen to you and that you seriously want her to take the time to listen to what you have to say, if there have been many times when you've had a heart to heart and no results, tell her that it'd be best if you get everything out of the way so you can both make up your minds about whatever it is. Tell her you miss her, tell her being 'just a friend' isn't what you want but if it's all you're going to get then it's fine. If you don't think hat way then express how you really feel. Ask her why she wants to be your friend so badly all of a sudden. Maybe she really wants you back or she's trying to start all over again or she misses how you were as a friend. Let it all out, relieve her and yourself of your issues and you can go on from there.
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Sounds to me like shes moved on and you are just a past time for when she is bored. I think if I were you I would move on and forget her. I dont think I would be looking for suggestions to get her back, theres a saying that says something about set it free and if it comes back its love if it doesnt than it wasnt meant to be, something like that lol so if she didnt come back than shes not going to. You deserve someone who will love you no strings or plans attached, so your only cheating yourself and her if you try to get her back and she doesnt want to be back it wont work out again it will only be worse.
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I would just straight up tell her that if she likes you that the way you play it is that she doesn't get to lead you on and needs to be straight up with you and honest.  Tell her what you are looking for and if she cant' give it to you then you deserve better and then find someone that wants what you want and someone that won't lead you on or talk to other guys while your "talking".  She sounds like she just wants to date around and not get into a relationship.  So tell her what you want and go from there with her your way or find someone else.
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Hi man. I had a story like this some months ago. I couldn't do nothing, because I didn't want to ruin their love for each other. I just waited, and after three  months they broke up. And she understood that I loved her, and really liked it. I think you should just wait.Maybe you should make activities with other friends, that can help you not to think about your friend.\n    I really think that you'll win her heart.
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been there done that. I no excactly how you feel, I had the same thing happen to me with this dude. we kissed and every thing. its a weird situation. since she doesn't talk that much then ask her if you're offically going out. then latter tell her that you don't want her to call you so often. stick with her, once shes gone you'll feel realy bad like I did when I let him go. enjoy every phyisical action she does, it gets better and better. I used to not think about the dude that was with me and we went for a long time. you'll realy miss her if you leave her. I did.
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"How can I politely tell this girl that it isn't working out and that I am no longer interestd in her?"\nYou're doing a great job already... Tell her exactly what you've told us. She'll probably be hurt, but that's life. At least she'll understand why you guys aren't working out and she can work on it in her next relationship.
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She was honest enough to tell you how she really feels. You deserve to move on and find somebody who will want you. Do NOT become a stalker by continuing to chase her after she told you she is not interested. I know your feelings are hurt, but she already has a boyfriend and told you so, so in all fairness, you need to move on. There are more girls out there.
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Maybe she gave the guy a ride out of the goodness of her heart.  If you explained to her that it really bothers you and she ignores your request to stop it she is either being stubborn (he's not going to tell ME what to do) or she does not value your feelings on the matter.  When SHE said "let's take some time off" she could have been just trying to get back at you for making the suggestion in the first place.  At the very worst you've got yourself one of those girls who enjoys stirring things up to make the relationship a little more edgy and thrilling like it is in the very beginning when you're in the "does he/she like me or not stage????".  Have you ever seen the movie "Play Misty for Me?"  Extreme case.  They like to pull back to "show you what you might lose", then they panic and try to reel you back in very fast so you won't really try to get away.  Your idea af a break is a REAL GOOD one.  But set an actual time like a week or 10 days and agree NO CONTACT.  Tell her that you will not only NOT answer her calls and texts you will not even listen to or read them.  Assure her that you will not use this time to cruise for other girls.  That's not the idea.  The idea is to see how much you miss THIS one.  No cheating!  Good luck.
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IT sounds like this girl broke up with you and may be regreetting it, but due to peer pressure she cant talk to you. I know it may be hard but either say hello to her or just ignore her completly make sure she knows that you are still into her. \n\nGood luck
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What you can do is be happy that she is happy in another relationship, and move on. It may hurt, but that is the only choice you have. She is not going to come back to you right now because she is with someone, and unless your personality has changed signifigantly in that time, she will not be interested in you anymore. It sucks. Most people have a long list of people that they had to break up with before finding the one and they all hurt.