he has lots of plans and ideas and gets excited when talking about it but then he never does anything. I have offered to help or call someone to come over and help but he gets mad at me when I comment about him not doing anything.
121690
I have had the same problem with my husband.  Here's how I've handled it...\n\n1)  Don't nag.  He'll just resent you for it.\n2)  Suggest that the two of you go out and buy the tools and other items you need to start a project.  Nothing makes a man happier than buying new tools!\n3)  If he doesn't start the project after he's bought the necessary equipment, then YOU start it (even if you have no clue what you are doing).  Once he sees you about to "mess" something up, he'll HAVE TO HELP!\n\nGood luck!
337442
I love him very much. But there ARE a few things, now that you mention it. He can't focus on more than one thing at a time. If he's watching TV, he won't hear anything else that is happening around him. If he's driving, I worry that he'll answer his cell phone and get in a wreck, because he is unaware of anything else when he is on the phone at home. He gets coffee grounds EVERYWHERE. I asked him repeatedly to do a specific thing with his old coffee grounds (throw them on the bush right outside the door) and he still puts them on top of the garbage, and all over the garbage can, and sink, and stovetop, and the floor, and the countertops...He's unreliable about paying bills on time also. And when he misplaces something (all the time) he starts to crash around and throw papers, etc. and disrupts everything. He makes a lot of noise in the morning. He "sniffs" in the mornings- I want to get up and hand him a tissue and say BLOW, WILL YA!
599155
He needs to make a decision.\n\nSounds like a loser to me.
575854
You are in a relationship where you have allowed this to happen and therefore he has no reason to change anything because a pattern has been set.  You could try the old tricks, like just not doing some of the things he expects you to do and see if he'll notice, or you could try various other ways of getting revenge on him for his lack of attention, but I recommend the classic "ultimatum" if you are indeed at the end of your rope.  If you choose to go this route, then you will need to pick a reasonable goal and deadline and stick to it if he doesn't respond.  \n\nOr you could just carve out some time for yourself and tell him he is in charge and leave him to it.  \n\nThe problem is that you have enabled him to do this for a long long time, the solution is you changing your behaviors and hoping he'll follow suite.  Either way you will be a little happier than you currently are.
198836
Sometime we just don't have anything to say.  But when we do it's normally pretty good. I'm not a real big talker and this is what I do. Why don't you just work off of what he saying what ever the topic is, work form it.\nThat's what I do, it could be about cars, work, friends, hobbies, family, vacations, kids etc. and always try to stay positive. Even if your not interested in the discussion, if you show that your taking an interest you might even be surprised and actully find that you became intrigged.  Give it a shot, it can't hurt.
298362
show it to him on paper. maybe he just doesn't want to commit
203942
You can't make him. He doesn't work for you. Change your attitude and maybe he would gladly do it for you.
86423
I would first ask him if there is anything he needs to talk about. He may have some personal problems that are affecting him. He could have a medical problem or on medication that can cause him to have what the doctors call short term memory lose.  I know that sound like an excuse, but it could be what is going on. A lot of people just don't like to talk about things. \n\nYou could also assign him to a person you feel is a good person to learn from and have him be his apprentice. My dad did that a lot for the carpenters union he was with. It does not sound like he is a dummy, he if you have the time he may just need more guidence.Ask him if he understand the directions you have just given him, if he says yes and he makes a mistake there are steps you should take, they are below. You need to talk to him and explain the mistakes are costing a lot of money & time and that if you have the policy 3 stricks and your out. You must DOCUMENT everything he does wrong, when, where, how. Because if he would happen to take you to court and nothing is documented well we all know what could happen.\n\nHope this helps.\n\nET
333950
You need to find out why he won't do it. Trying talking to him about it calmly. Assuming that he is not just a lazy child. There may a distraction at school.\nOr maybe he is just depressed...almost anything can affect a childs school work.
656831
he wants you to do what you want to do but be teased first (maybe some dirty language-do you want it baby?) or something of that nature.  anything you wanna do will work unless he has his mind set on something and then he should tell you
4889
If someone is always idling and being lazy the\nproblems could be related to his friend circle and\nfamily. He should be helped to get involved in\nsolving puzzles, reading, physical activities like\nsports ( preferably team sports ). Reading about the\nhistory of subjects one wants to study also helps.\nInteresting toys, repairing gadgets, doing/building\nmodels also help in generating a keen interest.\nIn general the problem is of arousing interest and\npassion for something. Which can be solved by \necouraging him to live a active life rather than a \npassive one. ( e.g. Learning to play a musical\ninstrument rather than listening to music.\nParticipating in a drama / performance rather\nbeing just a part of the crowd. Learning to\nwrite programs than just playing the games on\ncomputer. Learning to perform magic, learing\nto draw cartoons instead of watching cartoons.\n\nHelp him in developing an interest in some hobby.\nAgain I would repeat, prefer a hobby involving\ndoing things rather than merely collecting things.\n\nEncourage him to get involved in team activities.\n\nOf course, this is a tough task requiring a lot of\nunderstanding and patience.\n\nWish you good luck!
415975
Just tell him how much it bothers you that he isn't keeping up on his promises, and he needs to start calling you when he says he will.  Let him know you are serious about it.  If he still keeps not doing what he says he will, then yeah you should dump him.
561038
no sounds like hes strict and wants you to try to put an effort of not making that many mistakes in differant things you do just sit down and talk to him about it
381971
sounds like he has got a hyper tension dude..... may be it's coz of the relationship too. better speak to him and let him know and get him prepared to meet a counsellor and then arrange it.
407081
Thats tough.tell him what you think and tell him that he can't leave his responsabilities behind and that he has to change or else you have no choise.
254873
He doesn't know how to deal with frustraition. Is he an only child? That would explain why he's used to getting his own way all the time.\n\nThe art of compramise. It would start with not sulking on the issue but drawing up a pro's and cons list. Untill you learn to do in your head, it helps to write things out so you can see them.\n\nAnger should never be an issue in your bed. Don't go to bed angery. Talk it out untill both sides are well seen.
582667
I think you should give him some time, he might be working and busy or might be in trouble. And if he doesn't reply you after a certain time then go and contact him in anyway possible, he might need your help. Don't you know anyone else who lives closer to him then you.