me and my best friend will b moving in to an aparntment soon.. but becasue of lack of finances we have managed only one room apartment...so we have decided to share the same bed.. but we are jus friends.. she has a bf in another country and i am a single male.. we will not have sex.. so does it mean that we are sleeping around..will it eventually lead to sex or will our friendship remain intact.. if u have had similar exp do tell
128238
it depends on how far you let it go...
664173
If they're both okay with it, then there's no problem.\nMake sure that you're careful and use protection, because while you are honest about who you're sleeping with, doesn't mean that they are.
543590
I would have trouble being a friend with someone that doesn't care who she hurts...\n\nAs for either sex loving... there's no problem with it, if it makes you happy and fulfilled.
130184
No it is not wrong to feel that way.  Sometimes it is better to do the whole friends with benefits type of thing.  One of my ex's and I did the friends with benefits bit and when we moved on to other relationships we were able to keep the friendship.  It is nice having a guy to talk to about anything, that you know will understand b/c he is your best friend.  I think it is more important to have a best friend than a boyfriend.  It sounds like this guy is your best friend and sometimes when you move from friends to lovers you lose the friend.  So doing the friend thing would be safer but if your feelings are really strong then go for it and if it does not work out hopefully you can still be friends.
348080
If you want to date her, you should not have sex with her.  I know that is an unexpected comment.  For her to invite you to her apartment, she is sending you a sign saying that she is willing to sleep with you.  But impress her by respecting her (or not sleeping with her).  Make sure you let her know you enjoy spending time with her though.  That way, she will take you more seriously, thus, a chance for the next date will come up.
350025
I think he wants the best of both worlds, a really good friend and a shag when he feels like it. Think how you feel about him, do you love him as a partner or just a friend. Once you have made your mind up tell him how you feel. If you only love him as a friend tell him and stop sleeping with him as you will never meet someone and so would he not.
279021
It depends.....how did I feel if I slept around on someone I didn't care about??? Well, honestly, not too bad. I don't sleep around if I'm in a commited relationship though.
581734
Let me tell you what I think.....  I am also separated with a divorce around the corner.  Divorce never ends well, and no matter what the details are people are hurt.  Often your pride, self worth, finances, and ability to trust/believe in another person will suffer.  I highly recommend the whole "friends with benefits" concept.  I enjoy sex, and the intimacy associated with it.....(not a one night stand sort of girl).  My friend is amazing, not only does he look out for me, and help with some of the guy things.....  He makes me laugh, feel desirable, and has taken me to a whole new level of multi orgasms!  Personally I'm not ready for another serious relationship.....still repairing the damage from the last.  But, having a good friend who I know and trust is extremely valuable to me.....not to mention the hot sex benefit.  By foregoing the "relationship", you often give each other the freedom to desire, request, explore and experiment with things you may not ask a "partner".  No fear of rejection, ridicule......a total win/win situation.  Although I will caution you......if you marriage was especially bad, it would be easy for a lot of woman to rebound into their friend.  Thus a potential to get hurt....again.  Not all woman can have a sexual relationship without developing feeling that want more.  Friends with benefits is just that.....friendship....sex....NSA.   For me, right now.....perfect!  For you.....think it thru and decide whats best for you.....good luck.\nAnd yes, your "friend" respects you and enjoys the arrangement.  Other people??  Some will judge, others will cheer....be discreet if you need to.
324354
You obviously have more than a few issues…..Are you that desperate for attention?  You seem pretty young, so here is some advice for you:  No, you should not sleep with your best friend’s boyfriend.  She’s your BEST friend right?  I doubt the guy is your soul mate or anything; he’s just a guy who is paying you some attention.  That may make you feel good now, maybe even good enough to make you do it, but afterwards, you will (or should) feel dirty, and he will most likely treat you like you’re dirty too.  He will never respect you.  Do you really want to be involved with a guy who you have to share?  He won’t be your boyfriend. (You will be alone on Valentine’s Day, Christmas, your birthday, etc.)  You will only have him when your friend is too busy for him. Your friend may or may not find out, but you will know what you did, and that will always weigh on you.  The guy is obviously a cheater, and has probably been around the block a few times.  What if he gives you a disease, like Herpes?  You will have it for THE REST OF YOUR LIFE.   If you think that you like sex now, wait a few years.  It gets a whole lot better.  You don’t want something dumb that you do right now ruining it for you for the rest of your life.  Have some respect for yourself.  Save sex for someone that you love and trust, someone who is concerned with your best interests. I promise you that you will never regret in the long run.  However, if you choose to sleep with him you will regret it, at some point.  Be a good person, stay away from the guy, and tell your friend that she is with a loser, before she gets hurt or catches something from him that ruins her life.  Since you don’t seen to have a whole lot of confidence, you should just concentrate on you for a while.  Stay in school; find out what makes you happy (not what you think makes other people like you), and just try to be a good person.  If you do, you will eventually be truly confident, comfortable, and happy with the person that you are.  You won’t want a loser like this guy anywhere near you, and you will most likely be pursued by some really great guys, because confidence is the most attractive quality that a person can have.
326872
There is no sin in sleeping in the same bed without having sex.  I think the danger comes because you've put yourself in the direct line of temptation.  You have placed yourself in a situation that if the urge and emotions came you really don't have a place to flee in the heat of passion.
251699
The worst thing yo could do is sleep with a guy that you want to keep as a friend. Once you sleep with us its no turning back to friendship.
211663
Not necessarily sex but if both are working then also the stable environment that is being created is also part of what is keeping things together.  although having quality sex certainly helps keep some security in it all.\nOtherwise it's just two roomates who share bills and that's just not as much fun as far as i'm concerned.
611737
if it is love the time to wait doesnt matter. I was best friends with a guy for 2 years and we finally realized we loved each other and finally moved forward. He never pushes sex on me and I don't on him. We are just glad to be together and taking it slow. Love takes time and you should never rush into anything unless you both want it.
358759
Well - define 'hook up'... just sex???  Why bother.  If hooking up means more than a one night stand...  get to know her - tell her the guy she slept with has herpes... she may not even KNOW. you are not betraying a friend - you are protecting her and others...  I am sure there are other things you can think about doing...there are ways around a LOT of things.
666432
It's possible as long as neither one of you want a sexual relationship. Could build a stronger bond or could make things really difficult. I say you should go with how you really feel about it. A lot of people couldn't be friends after something like that, but if the both of you are mature about it, then I say go for it. Good luck.
493024
you cannot place your  sex life above your friendship. because your friendship is far valuable than sex will ever be./ in other words you can live without sex but you cannot live without friendship!!\n     imagine being a loner with no friends!! can you do that easy?\ni doubt that!!\n  think about it!!!!!!
38708
Friends with Benefits... hmmm... no exclusivity, no commitment, no getting jealous if the FWB has a serious prospect at a romantic relationship, no demands on time and emotions (you see each other when it's convenient for the both of you) and no one wrecks this arrangement becaue it will jeopardize the friendship.