So, my best friend in the world broke up with her boyfriend whom I absolutely hated the entire time they were together. Of course she's broken up about all this, but I... am not. I don't know how to empathize or sympathize because I knew he was wrong for her in the first place and told her so! So, should I just let her go and listen and pretend to commiserate?
136663
I am in the same boat right now! So, I know how you feel.  I just am there when she needs to talk.  I do not offer ANY negative input about MY feelings about the guy, just listen to how she feels and try to give her answers that are somewhat neutral.  Good luck!
93216
Oh wow, tough situation. It would help a little with these type of questions if people told how old they are. If you all are adutls though, just let her know how you feel. Also your best friend doesn't sound like too good of a friend if you even think he might say yes. But then again, maybe he doesn't know how you really feel about her? You should tell him. Real friends wouldn't do things to hurt others. Also, maybe you acted all cool or whatever when you broke up so she thinks you won't care? Honesty and straight-forward communication is always the best policy in every relationship. If she doesn't love you back that's rough but at least you can try to move on. It's a fact of life that at some point we will probably like someone who doesn't like us back and vice versa. It's not pleasant but it's also a good reminder to treat others how you want to be treated...karma can come back and bite you in the butt!
321188
If she's really your friend I think you NEED to tell her what happend. Just tell exactly what he said about her that will make more sence to her.  She will be devestated but it's always best to know.  Just turn the situation around, would you like to know or would you like your friends to tell you. Plus is not the end of the world, she will lose her boyfriend that dosen't want to be with her anymore but that's why you are there for!
165240
If she has been your best friend for a long time, I would encourage you to not make a hasty decision. You can find friends (and even boyfriends) anywhere, but best friends take years to grow. You should do your best to save this friendship before calling it quits.\n\nMy advice is talk to her before you take the final step of "de-friending" her. Explain to her that you've valued her friendship, but that her current behavior isn't excusable. Confront her about her rudeness, and don't be afraid to name specific times and places where she acted like a bee-yotch. She apparently USED to act nice, because otherwise you never would have been friends with her. Remind her of those days. Finally, tell her (in very clear terms) that if she doesn't start acting right, you want nothing to do with her.\n\nThis puts all of the pressure on her, see? If she changes her evil ways, then you've kept your best friend and are better off than before. If she doesn't, at least it isn't your fault that the friendship ended. Anyway, I wish you the best of luck. Hopefully your friend will see the light, but if not... at least the blame will be on her head, not yours.
504989
what your friend did to you was horrible. I think it's really up to you what you want to do from here- do you want to confront them and have it all out, or would you rather just get away from the situation before it consumes you? Either way, your friend doesn't deserve to be your friend anymore so i would forget about her and move on, clearly she's a pretty low person for wanting your ex.
253531
A lot of people in this situation (just broken up with boyfriend/girlfriend), don't want to hear what they know they should do.  They want to hear go back to him, tell him you love him, he will come back to you, just wait for him, etc.  \n\nBe there for your friend, and if she continues to call you stupid, then tell her that not only has she lost her boyfriend, but she will be losing a good friend if she continues calling you stupid for your advice.
235218
I did this with one of my bf and finally my best friend said you know your my best friend and I love to hear about your life but enough is enough and I didn't even realize I was doing it and i was so glad that she let me know instead of just letting it go on. Just be honest with her and tell her how you feel most likely she doesn't even really even know how often she really talks about him.
432948
If you have her number call her.\n\nIf you can't, just go to school tomorrow and talk to the guy and tell him that you wanna be his friend and take back the part about deciding not to be his friend. Ask him to forgive you and if you can be his friend again.\ndon't cry 'bout it.\n\n\nAll the best,\nStacie fan
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I want to say that your friend is wrong for going about it the WRONG way. She should have been honest and maybe it wouldn't feel so bad when it's happened. You have every right to feel betrayed because she was not completely honest with you. Nevertheless we all are humans and as the person before me stated, people act on their instincts. She had a crush on him, or maybe she thought she did or whatever it may be, the realization is that they're having that special thing while you're hurt from it. What I would do is move on. I'd give her my well-wishing and if I could handle being friends with her, I'd maintain contact with her. Don't fall for the "third-wheel" plots, I hate those, make sure to avoid them because you may find yourself becoming extremely angry at your friend and her not knowing it. That's all I can see myself doing in this situation is just moving on. Good luck with this.
404517
My sister went through something simular to what you are going through with a friend of hers, she has had people confront her and say she too is a lesbian because she hangs around with her of course I had to say that my sister was around her too much and I didn't like it at all, I told my sister about how I felt and what should be done but it will be her total and final decision on what she will do about it...Well finally after all of the things she finally let her go..But it wouldn't have happened if I wouldn't have said something to her in the first place.\n\nWhat you need to do is talk to her and try to make her see for herself what you feel and how you feel about this whole thing and also let her know that even though you are not that cool on her boyfriend let her know that you are happy for them anyway...When you do that it will turn around as a friend looking speaking on a friend basis and not the other way around she will see for herself and not listen to what other people say...Your friendship will last but only if you are honest with her and honest with yourself and about your true feelings for her. At this point my dear you have nothing to lose here.
91931
Take it slow... tell her that you really want her to listen to you and that you seriously want her to take the time to listen to what you have to say, if there have been many times when you've had a heart to heart and no results, tell her that it'd be best if you get everything out of the way so you can both make up your minds about whatever it is. Tell her you miss her, tell her being 'just a friend' isn't what you want but if it's all you're going to get then it's fine. If you don't think hat way then express how you really feel. Ask her why she wants to be your friend so badly all of a sudden. Maybe she really wants you back or she's trying to start all over again or she misses how you were as a friend. Let it all out, relieve her and yourself of your issues and you can go on from there.
243747
i think you should tell your friend cos if you'll are true friends she will know that you are doing this in her best interest i am saying this because my best friends boyfriend was doing the exact same thing to her and i told my friend that she needs to put her foot down and confront her boyfriend cos if he truly loved her he wouldn't treat her that way.  it's harsh but sometimes you have to be firm with the people you really care about.
606649
I vote, forgive AND forget. Why else would you bother calling her your BEST friend rather than just a friend? Take a chance, a risk. I think she's worth it. We all make mistakes.
324696
Maybe it is time to make a new friend. Friends don't treat real friends like that. She is probably so absorbedwith her new boy friend that the might not even realize that she is hurting you. You might want to tell her how you feel.Them if things don't change I would look around for a new friend. Sorry you have to go through this .good luck and God bless.
87326
GIRL I KNOW HOW YOU FEEL THATS THE POSITION I'M IN RIGHT NOW BUT DON'T WORRY JUST DON'T TALK 2 YO FRIEND BECAUSE SHE NO GOOD .THAT MEAN SHE LIKED  HIM THE WHOLE TIME BECAUSE SHE DIDN'T EVEN ASK U WAS IT COOL AND HE WRONG FOR ASKING YO FRIEND THAT MEANS HE MAD BECAUSE U BROKE UP WITH HIM JUST STAY COOL OR DO WHAT I'M DOING TALK 2 ONE OF HIS FRIENDS AND ACT LIKE YALL GO OUT 2 GET HIM BACK SO THAT HE WILL KNOW HOW IT FEELS.
199634
i have a feeling she suddenly is not seeing you in the "best friend" light anymore, but rather as something more, and doesnt know how to handle it and needs time/space to sort out her feelings. pressing her to talk about it when she is not ready would alienate her even more. she'll come around, just be patient. you hovering around does not help her think.
146527
Well, what I do when my friends do this to me, I let them know it. My ULTIMATE best friend in the world has done this to me, many times. Basically, all I do is tell her that I'm kind of upset how we seem like we are drifting apart, then I comfort her by saying that if something is bugging her she can tell me. You have to be the one  to do something, she won't realize that she is hurting you. I wish you the best of luck.