i am a male crossdresser, 27 and bisexual. i need help on how to step out of the closet and share it with other people and ofcourse my partner?
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There is no gentle way of dealing with this.  After 15 years of marriage to find out that you don't really know who your partner is is quite a shock.  Why get mattied in the first  place if you were not going to be honest with her.  15 years of her life for nothing.
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Honey 2 words Victoria's Secret. Trust me after you come out of this store want anything be shy about you and your boyfriend will love it. So have fun and shake what your mama gave ya. That's your man of 4 1/2 years he's not ashamed of you so let him see what you working with. You will both enjoy it.
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ive been xdressing for 25 years and never told my family ,unless you want to take it further ,say to change sex ,why tell them ,you can still go out and have fun as fem .good luck x
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That sounds like a problem with the other people, not you or your friend. \n\nI'm sure he isn't the only gay guy there. Perhaps the only one brave enough to come out, knowing that uninformed people will look at him weird. Share his bravery; be yourself, hang out with who you want. If people want to hold that against you, that should teach you something valuable about those people. And the next time someone else wants to be themself and come out, or be friends with your friend because he's a good guy, they'll be that much more likely to do it.
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I was thinking about something like this just the other day, how liberated women are to be able to wear what they like suits, trousers, ties no one bats an eyelid - yet if a man wears a skirt or make up everyone throws a hoohaa and the guy is labelled a pervert or worse. This is simply not right, I hope that society will overcome this shameful stigma rapidly and appreciate that we should be able to wear what we like when we like.\n\nI wish you the best of luck with what you do, but don't keep this as a thing which you are embarrassed or ashamed about - the more people who are proud of who they are, I firmly believe, the faster society will accept it. And if you are planning to surprise your partner with your stilettos I advise you warn them because you don't want any of the above narrow-minded reactions :)
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You are still exactly who you were.  You were bi before and they didn't know it, and now they do.  Nothing about you changed.  I would let them go and focus on people who will love and support you for who you are, and appreciate your value as a human being on this planet.
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I think the whole bisexual man idea is really new to most people.  Society is more accepting of us bisexual girls.  I find you completely interesting, myself.  Keep posting and maybe you'll inspire some other guys to come out.
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Okay, I'm assuming you're a boy, not a tomboy. If you're a girl, then this is totally off:\n\nMany will think that, because we are in a conservative, narrow minded hateful society. It sucks. Mosy will think it is weird. I don't, it's cute, it's hot, it's my favorite!\n\nWell, so my answer: of course I would! Many women and girls(i think you means boys?) are hateful and rude. (and you will probably be rude, narrowminded and hateful) People will not understand, unless they have an open heart and mind....\n\n If you're fascinated with it, yes! I would. I dated a guy, and after it didn't work out, he was devastated that I wouldn't be with him anymore(I was kinda his last try with girls), he decided to always just "be a girl" and I helped him do that, and he looks amazing. He's a great guy.\n\nI love it when guys are open to jst dressing up. It's really fun! I know I'd definately help you if you were up to it/located near me. I love pretty boys, dress up boys, and drag queens... I think I love everything that's alternative, and not very commonly accepted. :-(    but I'm not ashamed! I love neat guys like that.\n\nIf you're just kidding... oh well.. it was a fun thought..
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its my lifestyle. it started as a hobby....now i dress because of 2 reasons....one is that i am a pre op TS, the other is simply that i love the look of feminine clothes. i love the way they feel on me. \nas far as being gay.....i am very straight (at least until my surgery next august), then i will be as TS/lesbian
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what heterosexual identifying people don't realize is, if you ae asking this question, you are not straight...\n\nbut that's really no big deal.\n\nif you love your husband and your relationship is working, you can enjoy learning this new thing about yourself without messing up a good thing.\n\nif you guys have a good friendship, you could probably let him in on your little secret.  you might be surprised at how fun scoping together can be.\n\nstill, remember that loving relationships are so much more than sexual.  if you love yourself and you don't fear what's inside of you, you won't feel the urge to betray the one you love!
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Personally, cross dressing is not what sexually turns me on. I've played with male friends who were into it and had a blast with them (shopping, dressing up, going out, etc). \n\nI would do the same with my boyfriend, IF he were otherwise pleasing me sexually and making the same effort to cater to my "fetishes".
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I am out to my friends and family.  I did not come out until I was 23...a few years ago and it lifted such tremendous weight off my shoulders.  I cried to my Mom and told her that my "friend" was more than that and I was tired of hiding my feelings.  I actually feel free now.  No more trying to have a girlfriend to look "normal" in front of my parents.  No more calling my boyfriend a "friend".  No more hiding from people when I want to hug the person I love.  No more lies. Period.\n\nOne thing I did learn is that you cannot rush it to come out.  Your time will come. Just be yourself.  You may have to cover up things you really do not want to, but be cautious of who you confide in and expect some people to shun you and not want anything to do with you.  But don't sweat it. Your real friends will be accepting and it won't eve be an issue.  Being gay shouldn't be the topic of every discussion...it's just an extension of you are.  You happen to like someone of the same sex. People just need to accept that.\n\nYour life will change, but for the better.  You do not want to go through life hiding and faking.  That is more difficult than just coming out an dealing with people who dislike you for being gay.  It makes it easier for you to know who can be your friend when they know the real you.  And, coming out is a journey.  You do not just come out and blabber it away to everyone.  If someone asks...tell them the truth. But, if they don't..it's none of their business.  The time will come when you need to tell them if necessary.\n\nIt's up to "us" to educate people and let them know that we are just as normal as they are.  Who we sleep with has nothing to do with our pesonality and our capablilities of being successful in life.  \n\nSo, again, don't spend to much time thinking of when you should come out.  Your time will come.  If it's now...then do it.  But be ready for good and bad.\n\nUltimately, you will find happiness in yourself and the people that love you will see that.
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I agree! If your friends are making fun of you then they aren't true friends! I have had sexual identity issues myself in the past. It took me years to become comfortable with the fact that I like women as well as men and also become open about it. I try to surround myself with positive influences; people who will love me for me. People who will accept and support me no matter what! If they don't like my lifestyle they can f*** off. Why would I want to put myself in a situation that is harmful to my emotional health? Neither should you! Talk to your friends and tell them how their words make you feel! If they still make fun of you then you should find new friends ASAP. Try going to your local university and see if they have any trans-sexual support groups. Also try searching on-line for websites that support alternative lifestyles. I know what it's like and I know how important it is to surround yourself with good friends! You might also want to becareful who you choose to come out to. I don't necessarily blast out to the world about my sexual identity (although i just did ;=) ) but if I think someone is going to become my friend they should also know the truth. \n\nYou might want to try these sites to start:\n\nhttp://thelovelinks.com/8_Alternative_dating_sites.shtml\n\nhttp://www.mygaypartner.com/\n\nhttp://groups.yahoo.com/group/tgusarights/
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Dude, if you're going to be that explicit, don't be so vague in the title.  That was disgusting for me to read, and I didn't even finish the whole thing.  "Going crazy?" seems like something completely different.  \n\nLook, I'm not trying to trash you though.  Maybe you have vagina-envy.  If it feels natural, you should think about pursuing a sexual relationship with a man, and seeing.  Cross-dressing does not mean you are gay, but it definately doesn't mean that you're not.  You should find out yourself, because no one else can answer this for you and just accept yourself for whatever you are.  There's nothing wrong with being gay, and there's nothing wrong with being not gay.\n\nIf you find that simply fantasizing about being a woman(sorry hard for me to think about) and having men is all you like, and actually don't like being with a man, that's ok, too.  Keep on fantasizing if you like it.  You may find that you are a female trapped in a man's body.  There's no way to tell.  The reason for all the confusion is because you're telling yourself that you need to be a certain way, which is rubbish.  Thinking you need to be a certain way is purely influence and it's not natural.  We are what we are, and the only way to be wrong in what you are is living a lie.  Find the truth, and love it because the truth is beautiful, no matter what the truth is.  The truth will set you free.  This may be a cliche, but it's true.  \n\nKnow this;  Most things you believe to be a necessity, you find later to be unnecessary.  Mentally, be water and take the shape of whatever container you are.  You can do no wrong when you are honest.
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You cant hide your true self too long, it will come out eventually. The best time to do it is when everyone is around so you can share your feelings with them all there, and people wont be able to gossip and say things like omg he or she did this at this time. You will have everyone there so they can ask questions if needed (prolly not). Good Luck!
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Well first of all Mike, how sure are you that you are bisexual? And although I used to feel the same as you in that belief being gay is wrong, and not the way to lead life. Although I personally would not want to choose to be this way I don't have a problem being friends with a bi person. You sometimes can't help the urges in you..as to the question why you might feel this way..it can never be answered, and if it can you must look deep inside of you.. Being gay or bi sexual does not make you any less of a person and if you are you cannot change that. Instead of repressing your feelings try opening up with close people around you, start off slow with that process. If you really want to be str8 try counseling or therapy it may help.
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What don't you understand about bisexual. You can be attracted to other people, but what you do with those feelings is up to us.\n\nIf you have a relationship with someone and you are attracted to another, you now need to make some decisions.\n\nThe bottom line: You can't help what you feel, but you do have control on how you act. In the meantime, I suggest you and your friend talk this out, and you and your boyfriend need to know the results.\n\nGood luck with your triangle.