ok, heres the deal, i'm totally in love with this guy, i told him, staraight up, and he said, he only loves me as a friend, but i know he loves me differntly, how can i get him to really tell me how he feels? i'm going crazy here.
121119
if he says he only loves you as a friend, either:\n1. He really only loves you as a friend.\n2. He is trying to play some mind games with you by saying that.\n3. He is too shy.\nIn any case, forcing him to say something will never work out the way you would like it to. Let him do this his way and if he likes you, he'll have to get some guts and come after you. You making any more moves on him will be a bad idea. He knows how you feel, now just let him decide if he he feels the same.
537798
Have you stopped to think that maybe he is unsure how you feel about him?\n\nHe may be hesitant to say he loves you because he fears that you may reject him, he would rather remain your closest friend than risk losing you by doing something he fears.\n\nId suggest you sound him out, drop some hints like letting him know that he is like a dad to the children, and that with him around you feel like a complete family?\n\nIf he seems OK with that then maybe you need to broach the subject of love?\nBeing a man myself I can assure you that if we are onto a good thing then we are always paranoid we will stuff it up!\n\nSounds like you may be on to a good thing yourself, good luck!
108591
In a situation like this, you can't go by what your friend says. You have to go by his actions. Ask him how he feels about you. If he doesn't love you don't waste your time. If he says he does, tell him he needs to start acting like it. Actions speak louder than words! Life is too short to waste your time on being in love with someone that's not in love with you. Don't stick around thinking you can change thier mind. You will only get hurt in the long run. Trust me, I know because I've tried.
594118
always be honest... tell him how you feel.
671288
It's sounds like for now that's all you guys can be is friends. You can't make someone like you, I know that's tough to swallow but it's so true. There is no magical voodoo spell that you can do, it's either there or it's not. I'm sorry that he doesn't feel the same way that you do but if you want to remain friends you are going to have to let it drop and just value the friendship. You never know what might happen down the road but if you've told him how you feel mulitple times and he has replied with the only friends thing there's not much more you can do without throwing the friendship out the window.\n\nGood luck with everything, I hope it all works out for the best!
350025
I think he wants the best of both worlds, a really good friend and a shag when he feels like it. Think how you feel about him, do you love him as a partner or just a friend. Once you have made your mind up tell him how you feel. If you only love him as a friend tell him and stop sleeping with him as you will never meet someone and so would he not.
598780
this is my story I also fell in love with my best friend after years of friend ship! One day my cousin that at that moment was going out w/his brother told me to tell him that i needed his advice that i was in love with one of my best friends and didn't know how to tell him. he told me to tell him the next week after a long conversation on phone before he hang up i said the 3 words! He called back and ask what did you say i told him nothing have to go! the following week he came and nervously told me the same now we are engage and getting married next July. What I'm trying to tell you is to have fun that day tell him you need his advice on some thing at the end of the day face it! If he says no well you tried and you will leave him thinking he may give you a call later on! I don't think he will forget that day if you make it fun and exiting believe me a guy want someone that gets along and that is fun to be with someone to talk to and shares things in common and after a wonder full day he wont forget you. FOR SOME REASON YOU TWO ARE STILL FRIENDS!!!!
6075
well search your heart and find out if you love him or you want to get down with him.  its very goood to clear things out of you or you will hate your self if you don't express your self or you will blow up. but if you love him then this is a way to tell him:\n"i really like you and you have been such an inspiration to me.i don't know if you feel the same way and i hope what i am about to say dosen't ruin our friendship because i like being your friend. i don't know how to put this i find you very attractive and i think i begining to fall in love with you." what about that. sorry i could not help much
48006
Ok blue, i know how u feel, so talk to him about your feelings. A guy friend of mine liked me but i didnt cause i just like him as a friend, just like what ur going through. It sucks i know, but i went up to him and asked him if we can talk and so i told him i dont have the same feelings for you. Plus ask him if he is willing to put your guy's friendship on the line if u guys go out, you know what i mean? You guys are probably good friends, right? I know u dont want to loose that,so let him no that. Speak ur mind and he should respect that no matter what.
41999
I feel for you 100%. I know that it's hard not knowing what to say to him. I think that you should tell him that you love him to death and that you can feel it when he's not feeling right himself. Let him know that whatever he has on his mind from day to day, is nothing that bad for him to tell you about. Tell him that you don't want to annoy him by constantly asking him if he's ok, but you cant help it. You see I used to be with someone that would be in such down moods out of no where and I just didn't know what was wrong with him. It killed me b/c I wanted to make him feel better so bad but he just wouldn't speak out how he was feeling inside about things. After a while he finally told me what was wrong and expressed how he felt. He finally told me that the reason as to why he didn't tell me anything and it was b/c he didn't want to bring me down. At fisrt it used to get me mad b/c he kept saying that he didn't want to have me worrying about him. But anyway, just tell him that you love him and that anything that he may be going through, you both are going to go through together b/c you guys are a team. Just give him time to be able to open up. Don't nag him about it. He'll come around when he feels ready to. You guys are gonna be alright. And I most definitely congradulate you 2 guys for sticking together for so long. May you have many more years of happiness!!!!!!\nGOOD LUCK!!!!!
509152
Okay i was just in this situation. I love my friend and we have been friends for a while. I mean we have fooled around and stuff and I fell for him I mean really fell. However he didnt feel the same for me he just kind wanted to do stuff. It made me mad about the whole situation I mean if you do try and go for stuff like this make sure your friend is feeling the same way torwards you. Dont pressure anything make sure it is the right thing to do for the both of you analyze the situation and if you decide you should just be friends that is great.
183331
just tell him how you feel
341801
That is a tough situation and no matter how you do it, its rough.  It depends on how you two are getting along and trust your feelings.   He may be feeling the same way and having a hard time trying to think of a way as well.  To make it the best, be honest with him and explain why you feel that way.  It will show him as well that it may be better to just be friends.  Good Luck and take a deep breathe.
134748
tell him you love him and how you feel about him!!!:P
78142
tell him how you feel.  don't ask for any answers, and don't expect any, but do let him know, and that way the invitation for him to address his feelings for you will be open to him.  i have to question if you are sure you are in love with him?  being in love is like nothing else in the world.  it isn't just the feeling of euphoria at being in a new relationship, it's the understanding that you would literally lay your life on the line for that person, that they are your best friend, lover, confidant, and partner in life.  it's the only feeling that will ever grow no matter how long you are together.  be sure of this before you say anything to "K".  I wish you luck and happiness.
148407
I have been successful, but I've waited until I felt really right.  There is a differnce between LOVE and INFATUATION.  You might have said "I love you" to a guy, when really you were just still in the infatuation stage.  If you have been with your current boyfriend for almost 2 years, I think it is time for you to say it.  He might just be waiting for you to say it first.  Maybe he feels the same way as you do about saying I love you.  Either say it, or actually TALK to him about it.  Be like "I really feel like I love you, but I don't want to say it and make you uncomfortable.  How do you feel about it?"  Hope this works!
169727
Then tell him exactly that.  Tell him that you really love him as a friend, but you appreciate him as a friend so much that you wouldn't want things to become screwed up between you.