its been a couple of days that me and my bf got into it little bit, he told me someone told i was cheating, i didnt say sry for anything cause i actually didnt i have been faithfull to him and i dont knoe what to do we got into afight last night  i almost wanted to cry and now im thinking i should brake up cause i never wanted to cry for anyone before and its werid but i do love this guy and i dont know what to do
130414
If you leave now it proves your guilt and your shame will be known too many. Prove your innocence
423659
Sounds like the bf has some real issues.  He really did you wrong.  If he is serious about getting back together with you, he needs to prove himself.   I'd take anything REALLY slow.  Keep your eyes open, see if you can trust him again.
184360
I can't really say that your boyfriend does not love you.  How long have you been with your BF?  I think he got scared when he found out that you were a virgin.  Is this a rebound? He is separated but have you guys talked about his relationship with his ex.  If he is busy and don't have time for you, you really need to sit down and talk to him especially now that you have given up your virginity.  I'm sorry to say, just in case, you would end up a loser. Talk to him about your feelings. Be wise enough with your decision in life.  Good luck and Godspeed
524627
i think you need to sit down with him and have a heart to heart talk. ASk him if he is happy with you or tired of you. don't want to scare you but from experience, sounds like he is cheating on you.   Good luck and God bless
374809
Okay I don't so much think you cheated. I more so think someone took advantage of you. That kinda thing leads to rape. You need to be careful about the type of situation you let yourself be put into. \n\nI think best thing to do is be upfront. Recently my guy best friend tried kissing me. (twice in one weekend). I told my bf about it. He was uspet about it, but atleast I was upfront and told him about it.
670147
Perhaps he thought when you said your the "bad guy" meant that you have done some naughty things as well which made him upset. Your revelation might have brought confusion in his mind. Doubts might have stepped in.\nSo, you must reassure him that its not because of it (like you cheated or what). Just make him know that its about an attitude issue. Ask for space and time to rebuild yourself and tell him that your doing it for him, and your relationship. If he doesnt agree of asking for time, then why not make him a part of your rebuilding process. Ask fof his help and guidance. In this way, he will feel appreciated and that you trully want him to be a part of your life. :-D
219155
Neither of you love each other since you both cheated, whether it was for plasure or revenge it doesnt matter. This is a mentally dangerous situation as that he has become a habit. Habits are hard to break especially the ones that last for years. You have been doing this for so long that you cant remember what life was like before him. You deserve better. Unfortunately you cant listen to your heart on this one. Leave. Does it feel good knowing he might have been inside another woman hours earlier without protection then inside you? Do you always want to have that feeling? Search your soul and find your courage to whats right for your emotional and mental future.
360289
Aww honey its okay!! Feeling like this is perfectly normal but cheating twice?? I would say take him back if this was his first offense but honestly I dont even know the guy and know that he will cheat again..I'm sure you still care about him and have feelings for him but if he cared for you the way you care for him then he wouldn't have done the things that he did!! You can do better and he will be feeling ALOT worse than you when you move on and know that life can go on without him...I've learned the hard way and always forgave but now I have a baby and what started off with a little cheating to ALOT he didn't stop and would try to lie after a night of romance and come home to his daughter and me..Leave before it becomes something more..A promise just cant be believed anymore..Good luck hun and hang in there..Time heals everything :)
345505
If I had been in your situation, that would have bothered me terribly.  You just have to remember that your boyfriend wasn't with you (maybe he didn't even know you) when that happened.  He wasn't thinking about saving himself for you...maybe he thought SHE was the one.  But he's with you now, which is far more important.  Maybe you just want to be extra careful before you two sleep together...make sure he's the one, so you don't repeat his mistake.  But honestly, these days, finding THE one the first time is difficult and unlikely.  So maybe you should base your decision on whether you truly love him.  If you do, you'll have no regrets.  Love is something special and rare...even if/when it's gone, you'll remember how great it was and your decision won't seem like the wrong one.  Most importantly, cut yourself some slack, too...no one's perfect, not even your boyfriend.  Best of luck!
183797
He wasn't ready for what ever reason to commit to you. Don't beat yourself up over this, there are people that will come and go in our lives, some for the good and some for the bad... it just makes us stronger people. Obviously you invested more in this relationship than he did, and it's going to hurt for a while trying to get over it. Grieve for a while, if you want to cry and feel sorry for yourself, do it.... it's all part of the process of loss. Just always remember your self worth, and that we are not the lessor of our selves, we are the sum of ALL of our parts, and that is something phenomenal. There may be more men like him in your future... and then again you may meet your soulmate tomorrow.... just don't let life get you down...it's too short to waste the energy on negative people. God bless you, good luck, Peace.
178279
He is doin that because he is scared of gettin hurt again maybe you should just take it slow give him some time. Tell him how you feel and let him know that you are sorry and you would stay friends with him until you can gain his trust and tell him you wont give up on him because you really love him. I know because i cheated on my boyfriend a long time ago and i told him how i felt and we are now together and we been happy together for a year now.
598649
Yes, I have been cheated on.  But if you ever met my man you would have never guessed that he would ever have done that.  We are still together, he realized what he did was wrong and promised that he would never do that again or I was gone with no second thought. It really hurt me that he would do somthing like that to me, I didn't even find out until a year after it happened. There were some signs though, he became very jealous when I was with any guy or had them in my cell phone and he didn't know them.  There also pictures of the two of them together, he said at first she was just a friend.  Even when I talked to his friends they were shocked.  There is no way to prevent cheating if a guy is going to do it he will.  He told me the reason why he cheated on me was because he said that he wanted to be with me so bad and thought it was me, he was gone for a week. Right before he left I spent a week with him at his lake house and he was telling me that he wanted to spend the rest of his life with me.  Well it has been 3 years now since he cheated on me and I love him with all my heart, and he feels the same way. He knows now that even if I hear a rumour that he was with another girl it's over and he is scared of loosing me.  That was why I stayed with him when I told him that it was over and I never wanted to see him again, it took him 10 minutes for him to leave and he left with tears. then 3 hours later his roomate called me nervous becasue he hadn't seen him and it was 2 am in the middle of the week. I ended up calling him and had been sitting out my window crying  thinking what is he going to do because he really felt that his life was over becasue of a dumb mistake, thats when I knew that he  would be faithful.  I knew that he really loved me.  I hope this helped!
366131
He is only feeling this way because of the fact he cheated on you it happens in most relationships where one partner has cheated. All you do is your best to reassure him. How ever with out trust in a relationship it is not going to work it may be worth pointing this out to him.\nI really do wish you the best of luck with this one and hope it all works out for you both.
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I think that if you have to ask, then no, it wasn't a good idea.  I'm glad that he asked, and I'm glad that you consented.  I'm also glad that you regret it.\nWhat's done is done.  More than likely you will continue the activity, but I want you to consider something....\nJust because the deed is done, doesn't mean you have to keep doing it.  If you really regret it, and feel that you truly were not ready yet, there is absolutely no shame in declining to engage further.  If you feel it appropriate, get together w/ your bf & tell him, "Look, it was really great, but now i regret it, and I just don't think I was ready.  So I'd really like to wait...before I do it again."\nAny good guy will respect that.  If the dude has a fit, drop him.  It's a good test of character.\nAs for you, you can run that game all you want, but I'm willing to bet you'll still be weak enough to give in if the situation comes about  ;-)  Just a fact of life, babe.\nSOooo... yes, it's too late to go back; no, it's not too late to wait; and yes, if you choose to wait, you should avoid situations where you can get caught up in the lust.\nDon't worry.  It happens to the best of us  :-)
93730
sweetheart, it hurts alot. i've been there. you are right in not being able to trust him. it's not always the case that there always a cheater, but it's almost foolproof. if he's done it before, why won't he do it again when he finds someone else that's more attractive to him? all you can do is wait out the pain. it hurts and it sucks, but try and move on. go out, have fun, meet new guys. you don't have to get married or anything, just go out and have fun. i hope this helps you sweetie, at least a little. if you'd like to talk to someone that's been there, you can email me. poetic_disturbulance@yahoo.com
360258
From the situation that you just mentioned, I assume that is a normal reaction and not really weird. What you mentioned may be an ''only thing'' for you, but your boyfreind may have got to know through other sources with a bit of twist to it. Did you mention this to your bf before he went, or after he wasnt around, or made any efforts to tell him exactly what happened ? Are these guy freinds, freinds of your bf too ? You mention that there were no parents, and you watched movies, lying on your bed, which I hope was no more than what you mentioned. If you are really true, and if nothing has happened, there is absolutely nothing wrong, and further explaining the whole thing to him and convincing him. His reaction is normal, perhaps you could clear with in the presence of your guy freinds too. Would you be able to do that ?\n\nHe may not communicate with you, but you have to, and let him know that this is it. And after a lot of convincing if he is not able to trust you, then he is never going to trust you all your life. Tell him that. Tell him, if he cannot trust you now, and have some faith in your sincerity to him, then I guess that would never happen. Also if you did patch up, this situation may be brought up in different other situations when he chooses too, mentally hurting you.\n\nThe solution is, to clear the situation, convince, and communicate, and do this at your best. If it doesnt work, quit. Be calm, quiet, and wait. If he really cares, and has some feelings for you, he may come and tell you himself on how he feels. So the only option, inspite of trying hard, is to only wait and see for yourself. \n\ngood luck.
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Hmmmm\nthis is a tough one just maybe you should ummm\nthat was dumb hanging out with gay people and sleeping in the same room as them you anticipated this.. you knew they were going to try...\nIm gonna pray for you hun really you need it cause im sorry to say that was dumb and you cheated on your Boyfriend... i'd dump yo sorry ass