i have lied to her and she has slept with another man. i still love her what should i do?
129611
I disagree with the others. If you are willing to take the time and be honest from here out, and honestly get past the cheating that happened almost a year ago, and she can get past the fact that you have lied to her over and over, there is hope. There is no doubt that you love her and she loves you. The fact remains that she only did it once and it was almost a year ago. Anything can be worked through if the love is strong enough, but it's not going to happen over night or even in a couple of weeks. It's going to take time, but it can be done.
75963
She shouldn't have lied to you, but don't leave her over it. It's her past. She can't help what she's already done. It can't be changed.
387500
It's hard right now that you are not with her you want her.. but say she's slept with someone else or other unresolved problems come up you might want to think hard before you do this... i got back with my bf and now i still have anger towards him.. if you really want her back call her up and let her know
244668
ask her why she lied to you, if there's nothing to hide then why can't she just tell you the truth. do not conclude that because she lied before she will do it again, some people learn....i hope she's one of them. i say give her a chance. it may or may not work, you do not want to go on an have your heart broken and ask "what if". at least give her the benefit of the doubt. if she still lies then dump her. the decision is up to you
509964
You should be honest with her sweetie - you seem much older than 18, and hopefully she will understand why you lied.\nIt is much better to come clean sooner rather than later, as if it does end because of it, you will be less hurt.\nAnd no need to self concious, you are a lovely bloke, and I'm sure lots of girls are beating down your door!\nWe've got to try and stay positive about these things, who knows - maybe it'll work this time round!  If not, there are always other women (me lol)  :)
249732
Personally No. It is something that she should have been up front with. Lying in a relationship is inexcusable especially about something that material. If you truly do love her and wish to stay with her than the decision is yours but before committing yourself to her ask yourself if can you really ever trust her again?
554205
your girlfriends supposed to be gay and she cheated on you with a guy?? she's probably cheated on you more than this guy that you know of. to me you just seem as back burner and i don't mean it in a harsh way, but you seem to only be with her if it suits her, when no other man is interested. Cut your losses and leave her. I know it is going to suck for a while but then someone great will come around, someone who actually respects you enough to not cheat. You are always going to care about her in some way or another, but only time will stop you from loving her that and space. you're definitely going to need to get away from her for awhile. hope i helped
468033
find a way to let go of her\n\nif shes doing that, you wouldnt really want to be with her anyway\n\nmove on and replace her with somebody who really loves you for you and wont cheat on you like that...and then lie to you about it\n\ngood luck with whatever you decide to do
663441
Is it her pussy is made of gold that you are so crazy about her?  When she has cheated you before, she will repeat it until she truly found her Mr Right.  Face it! Pluck your courage and tell her in person that "I am dumping you for goods".
271582
Unfortunately for you, there is something about your relationship or you that caused you to cheat.  You have risked at the highest level your relationship.  If you never tell her, you will be in constant fear she will find out from someone else, and that is 100 times worse than hearing it from you.  If you tell her she very well may leave you, and rightfully so.  Trust is the foundation of any relationship, and you destroyed that forever.  You say you will never do it again....but you did it in the 1st place so you really don't know if you will do it again or not, and she will never really trust you and she will always have that to live with,and it should be enough for her to leave you forever.  What you have done is unforgivable,take it from someone who was married and in her position.  It never is forgiven and it definitely is never forgotten.  You have to tell her as kindly as possible, and you should not try to justify your behavior, excuse it, or try to plead you way out of this.  She has every right to get angry, sad, and betrayed, and you not only should allow her to feel that way but also not try to manipulate your way back in.  Let her decide what she wants to do with no pressures from you.  If you pressure her she will leave you for sure, or should do so.  Learn from this however it turns out and in future relationships don't do something you will regret.
281948
You know what spooky it ain't you it's her she want another man or is already seeing one. i know i have been there with my ex-fiance when i started giving excuses for not sleeping with him i had my own thing on the side. so don't be a fool you better go get you some cause she already is.
601499
She feels bad about not being able to perform for you.  But if you actually did sleep with someone else, she'd never forgive you.  It's a tough one.  Go with her to her doctor.
16247
The damage is done - you've already ****** him, so now you need to have some respect for your friend and tell her the truth. You're too worried about what she'll say to YOU, and how YOU'll feel. . . when what you should really be concerned about is how she's going to take the fact that you've been lying behind her back for the past while. Just fess up already - you'll BOTH feel a lot better in the end about it.
405836
If you really love your girlfriend you would have never cheated on her in the first place. So ask yourself this... do you REALLY love her? You already broke her heart when she found out about you and your friend. You seem to be confused, what you need to do is hurry up and make up your mind. If your gonna leave her then hurry up and do it so you don't keep on continuing to hurt her(since you say you dont want to hurt her) Losing someone in a relationship hurts so she needs to do it only once, not over and over again. Let her start her healing process. And if you do want to stay with her, then are you ever going to cheat on her again? You need to ask yourself this. Yes she may have messed around before but you still chose to stay with her.....and two wrongs don't make a right. Have you really forgiven her for cheating on you? Ask yourself that as well. You start with yourself, be alone for awhile somewhere away from both women to think about you and what you want. If you second guessing a relationship your in then it's obvious that your not truely happy.  Good luck!
590267
You love her,and want to be with her. She was honest with you. It happened 3 yrs ago. She has since proven how strong her love is for you. She made a poor choice. She's not the only one who has ever done so. Stop thinking about it, concentrate on the rest of the months she's shown you the love she has for you. think about 35 mos vs 1 mo. Enjoy your love and lady!!!! God heals the heart, and the hurtful memories fade. Don't believe once a cheater always a cheater. It's easy for someone to say leave when they aren't the one who's going thru it. Listen to your heart and pray. Believe me,she's punishing herself enough for both of you and hurts just as much as you do.
623545
You should talk to her, write her a note, send her a message on her answering machine, anything! From her view point that looks BAD! tell her everything that happened, and maybe if that doesn't work a buddy that she knows you were with can help you out and he could tell her what happened if she doesn't believe you. I'm sure if she really loves you she is just hurt and confused about the situation and will realize that you were telling the truth. Just try and explain no matter what, its pretty much up to her weather to believe you or not. Thats all I can say about that. I hope she believes you.
326951
I feel sorry for you.My advice is, identify the reason why she did it,also ask your self I am faithful and am I the person who she feels comfortable and secure?After you answer these questions, you can decide.If there is any weakness on your side,(I am not talking about the sexual thing) you better forgive her from the bottom of your heart and leave peacefully.