i dont know why but all i ever think about is guys. i cant help it. i know im 13 and should not ever think about that stuf...and i dont want to. how do i stop thinking of guys ?   i have had 5 guys that like me...what do i do ? i try to dress in tshits and loos pants. and they still tell me how "fuking HOT" i am i have never had a boyfriend and dont want one. but all i do is think of them can you help me stop this fealing ???!?!?!
138971
Hahaha. Man...why would you wanna stop that feeling? Its what makes you human...its what makes you alive man! Go out and live...When youre 80 years old you wont be able to anymore! Enjoy yourself while you can so to speak. Go out and live. Dont let silly things hold you back. Just have fun and most of all, be careful. Thats all there is to it. Good luck\n\n\npeace
114859
Just because your in 8th grade doesn't mean you have to have a boyfriend!\n    Listen if you dont have a boyfriend it probably because your not ready, or if you like someone it's probably beacuse your not ready or don't feel comfortable telling them. You know just because your friends have boyfriends, or are always talking about them doesn't mean you have to get one. Maybe a guy likes you but is too scared to tell you...boys at this age are stupid and aren't ready to commit to a relationship. Believe me having a boyfriend isn't all that.....there is heartbreak no matter what. Just look at your friends when they are dumped...you really want that?\n    When your ready to have a boyfriend you should feel comfortable with that person ,and around them. If a guy only likes you for your looks than he's most likely a pervert. If a guy doesnt like you for your looks, or something like that then...well....first. he doesnt like you. second. he needs to stop being shallow.third.. he needs to get to know a girl b4 he goes out with you.Most guys date the pretty girls or skinny girls or w/e and then dump them because they are stuck-up and rude. lol. plus if you think its ur weight, its not. if a guy liks u it sould be your personality and whats in your heart. boyfriends arent everything these days.....ull thank me someday wen u find the right guy ull be happy u didnt go though out all the breakups and waited for the right guy!!!!\n     \n           *i wish you luck, and now i hope you understand looks arent everything!!!!!!!!!!
307016
Sounds to me like you suffer from low self esteem.  You don't think you're good enough for other people to like you, so you are worried that they won't.  You are so obsessed with what they think of you, that you aren't even paying attention to them.  So, they probably won't like you...no one likes to be ignored when they are talking, which will only make your problem worse.\n\nIf you want to get comfortable with someone, you have to get to know them.  The best way to do this is to get them talking about themselves.   Listen to what they say.  Respond to them.\n\nNerves can be bad, but there is no magic pill that will fix what your problem is.  Only practice can help.  Don't worry about what the other person thinks about you. The worse that can happen is they won't be interested and you move on.  Try not to pressure yourself and try to relax and be yourself.  Girls aren't looking for un-nervous guys, we're looking for guys that pay attention to us.
520991
You may not want to hear this, but seriously you are not ready for a relationship. Sure, your hormones may be telling you otherwise. But you still have a lot of growing up to do. Guys will come and go throughout your life. You have plenty of time for a relationship later on. But now, being you are so young, just concentrate on being "friends" only with all the guys you meet. Dating is a big step, and you are not ready yet. Good luck to you!
209951
Yes i've always been exactly the same.  I've really no interest in guys my own age, and i've always been like this even since when i was at school.  Don't really know why though but it's not a problem at all.  Plus as the saying goes, there's many a good tune can be played on an old fiddle.....  I'm 29 and seeing a guy of 51 who is the sexiest guy i've ever met in my life and is well fit (and looks about 35).  Good Luck!
178318
Okay, don't cry.  That is why they are boys.  I am sure you are a beautiful girl.  I had the same issue when I was your age in school. The boys would always go for the really thick girls that looked like they flunked 3 grades.  I used to wonder "what is wrong with me".  I found out that it wasn't me at all.  Some of these girls were fast, meaning they were easy.  They put out and what boy isn't going to be interested in some fast girl that can't say no.  I know it is hard and it was for me too.  Try not to pay it any mind.  I have seen these same girls and boys now since they are adults and my have they changed, and not in a good way.  Don't get down on yourself.  You WILL have a boyfriend but don't get hung up on this.  Just relax and don't think about it so much. I am sure if you are as pretty as you say you are that some boy probably already secretly admires you.  Hang in there, it won't be long before someone sweeps you off your feet.
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If you KNOW that you don't need to be with these guys, then when you meet them you need to not let it go any farther.  I know it is hard when you are attracted to them, but in the long run it is better to not put yourself through the same thing over and over again.  I know it is hard being single for a long time, I'm in the same boat, but in the end it is better than getting your heart broken over and over again by guys that you know are going to do it.  Just hang out with your single friends, enjoy being 18 and having fun, and the right person will come along eventually (going out with nothing but couples will end up making you feel worse and like a huge third wheel, trust me on that one).  Good luck, let me know how things go, and email me if you have any more problems, greeneyeddevl@yahoo.com.
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wow\nwell im 16.... i know there are constantly urges\nbut for guys it a different story\ncause we dont have to worry - most of the time about the consequences.\ntrust me 14 is too young a age\nwait until at least 17 or 18 hour be an evan better age\ni konw its hard..... this girl i really like talks to me about that kind of stuff - but we say we're kidding.....its too young a age\ngo to any parent and as them "when was your first time"\nsome will rarley say 15 or 16 but most of them say early 20's late teens\n\ntrust me\nWAIT!!
293930
Don't be afraid!\npeople have different times to do those things than others. I thought i was the only one like that, i'm 14yo 15 this year and i have never even been close to having a kiss with a guy. But i am homeschooled, and never have much interaction with guys, and i am quite shy until i know the guy. So that would be my reason, so what is yours? Shy? Go to pieces soon as you see a guy? I went to your space, you obviously have low self-esteem, and if you have low self-esteem then you wont think your good enough for any guy, then you never will be, you have to love yourself before anyone else will. If you walk around with your head down, and very insecure (like me), then guys don't like that, they like you to be a bit flambouyant, and a titch full of yourself.\n\nSo my advice would be to:\ngo to an acting class or some kind of social group, and get you self asteem up, then i bet you guys will be crawling all over you.\n\nGood Luck!!
54035
Maybe you are not mature enough to be thinking about boys. Get your education first and then think about starting a relationship. They are not gonna support you, but a good job will, and without an education, you won't have a good job or a man. Been there done that.
290570
well, this is a good start. you asked a normal question, instead of those freaky ones...develop confidence in yourself and you won't need your friends around....just relax and enjoy yourself..\nremember that in social settings, no one is really thinking about anyone but THEMSELVES....so think about you and enjoy yourself.
20822
I used to be like that and all of my friends tried to help me but it was something that I had to learn on my own.  I went through a hard break-up and then I didn't even think about guys for around 6 months.  Now I have a new man and I'm happy but I realize that I could make it on my own and be happy w/out a man.  My situation may be different that your friend's though.
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sweetie, \n\n think long and hard about it, and look at it like this: Do you like chicks? Can you see yourself with one? Would it make you happy? ok now think bout this: Do you like Boys? Can you see yourself with one? Would it make you happy? \n\nnow honestly which idea do you like better? \n\nthere are lots of support groups out there for bisexual, homosexuals and hetrosexuals, that deticate they're time from trained volunteers and peeps that have been there that would be gald to talk to you and help you figure out and be there to support you no matter what decsion you've made, always remember you have to do what your heart tells you, and always be happy and do what will make you happy, then your not failing yourself and you must remember that others are not you and they can't make the desicion for you and they shouldn't influence you, this is something you have to do on your own for yourself. \n\nso be straight, be bi, be gay, just remember most importantly be happy and be you its better in the
192709
Golly...you boys certainly do have wild imaginations!  For the record, if all of us women were as homosexual as you think we are/want us to be, we would never have sex with guys, so you should probably get over it.
7005
OMg, You Are Getting Crazy !! Try to think of something else to get thoses voices out of your head. Maybe you should use different thing to get the different genders. Like for example ; Just get one out and then I DONT KNOW !! Now I am Crazy
335922
Maybe you should take your mind off boys and relationships for the moment.\n\nHave you given thoughts to your own career? Set your own priorities right.\n\nLet me share what someone told me when I parted with my first love (so many years ago)\n\n"If you love something, let it go.\nIf it comes back, then it is yours to keep.\nIf it did not come back, it was never yours in the first place"\n\nThink about it. Good luck. :)
346251
All you need to do is just do things girly. Shopping, get your nails, done, etc. You shouldn't think about him then. Or just do things to distract you from him. My friend who's a girl had this same problem, and I told her this same stuff, and so she didn't think about the guy she liked.