I met this guy, I'v only met him twice and he's had to go away because of work.  We write to each other and we are always taking the p**s out of each other.  He say's he loves me and I say I love him but then we go back to taking the p**s out of each other and it's great fun.  I can't beleive I'm waiting for this guy after only meeting him twice.  Anyway what I would really like to know is, based on the above stuff, how would you feel if a woman and you were getting on like that?  I need to get into a mans head.  It's the only way I can figure things out. Thanks.x
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Most guys like women with quick minds.  Since you're "taking the p**s out of eachother" so much, I would assume you both have a clever, good sense of humor.  If you're talking, joking, and such that much, he must like you.  If he didn't, he wouldn't have met you the second time.  If I wasn't interested, I would not have met the girl again...once would be enough in that case.  However, he met you again which is a good sign, and he hasn't blocked your e-mails which must mean he likes writing you also.
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SNAP!!!!!!\n\ndid the same thing with a guy i met on her too. stayed up all hours just chatting about stuff and listing old songs! \n\nok, here's what i think. when you meet someone you just 'click' with, it is easy to get carried away with yourself and be consumed with it all. thats not to say that there is not anything serious there. all i am saying is reality is often different to fantasy.\n\nme and the guy i'm still chatting too met a couple of weeks ago. he is a great guy but i think we both felt that reality was a little different. we still chat and i am due to see him again shortly.\n\nwhat we decided was to take things slowly, get to know eachother better as friends as see what develops from that. it's the most sensible option i think.
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I didn't even finish reading your note, but from experience I would recommend ditching him... you deserve someone who can make up his mind and can love you 100%!! I had a fellow like that and I think he kept me around as security, so he wasn't alone and felt loved... don't be his love of last resort! Be strong and move on...
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This guy is not being fair with you, but then again a lot of guys aren't! You have to pin him down (not literally mind!!) and get him to tell you one way or the other, is it going to be you or her. I know this sounds harsh but whilst you are pining for him, you may just miss out on your true Mr Right! He is already in a relationship and gets to flirt and chat with you as well, ever heard of having your cake and eating it? My guess is that this situation will carry on and on because he likes it like this! He is flattered by your attention. You've gotta be tough with him and with yourself. If he says he can't (or won't) leave his woman for you, then it means he doesn't really want to. \n\nYou need to push him to make a decision because whilst this situation persists he isn't being fair to anyone, not you, not her and not to himself! \n\nGood luck sweetie!
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Part of life and dating is finding out exactly what you are looking for in a man.  All of us get hurt at one time or another, some of us more often than others.  The heartache comes from having a strong connection with the individual, and then one day everything is gone, and IF we are lucky we may maintain a friendship with that individual (but how often does that happen?).  I know, I'm dealing with this now.  Yes it hurts.  Those men that have greatly impacted my life and are no longer in it....I never really forget them, they are just not always in the forefront of my mind, but I still think of them, some more than others.  It's ok to never completely let go of them in your mind.  I have had to write in a notebook to him, at least I don't feel so overwhelmed with my thoughts this way.  Be strong, it's hard, but we all go through this.\n\nLike they say:  It's better to have loved and lost, then to have never loved before.....\n\nand: Things come and go from our lives, it's how we loved them and how much we loved them the time they were here that counts.\n\nIf you care for this person and have showed it to him....he won't forget you, he will use you as a comparison for his next relationships, and that can be a good thing.
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Let me tell you my story. 15 years ago I met my husband in our work place. I started our conversation with, Can I ask you a question that a few of us girls have been talking about in the break room because you would like a man's point of view on it. Of course he said yes, so I asked him how he felt about dating between people in the work place and how he felt about women making the first move as for asking a man out. I told him I wanted his honest opinion. \nHe gave it to me...so I asked him out. Now we have lived a very happy life. Good luck with this man and I hope he is everything you wanted.
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NEVER GO BACK ALWAYS GO FORWARD, IT ONLY WORKS OUT FOR A SHORT TIME, AND YOU ARE BACK TO SQUARE ONE......even if it doesn't work out with this man , there will be lots more............just enjoy yourself, life is toooooo short to let anyone bog you down.
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yeah see baby girl i am a true woman just as you are and we can be impulsive. You gotta understand that men are wired diffrent than you and they feel things different then you so he may have took things a total diffrent way and has decided in his mind to leave you alone. You know men are not won't tell you how they really feel. Just leave it alone- when he is ready he will talk to you about it if it wants to.
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Love isnt really the question here.  Often a man can feel self concious because he doesnt know what to say or how to comfort the woman. Once you get to the point where youre both comfortable with it: able to talk about it without feeling awkward, things will probably get back to normal.  If you want to see things from his point of view, think of how you would feel if he had a testicle removed.  Unfortunatly, some superfical men can take a "damaged goods" attitude.
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Guys can scare very easy. So don't do anything. After either a make out session or sex.  It should be the guy who should respond back first.  Probably, sounds mean but, it is true.   If he doesn't make the first move again. Obviously it was just a short fling. Something you will have to deal and learn with.  But, if he wants more. He should be the one letting you know.   But, just be very cool and don't worry.  Relationships in the work place is hard.
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what you should do is go back to school and learn how to right a complete sentence. "I feel like me and this guy are made for each other." that does not sound right. it should be " i feel like this guy and I are made for each other."\nby the way i never said i loved two guys. it's  just a question to post up.\n your the little s.l.u.t. trying to take another women's man.
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Love is treating me real bad. Three different women want to have sex with me this weekend, but ... \n1) one of them is married, and 2 live with boyfriends.\n2) I have a girlfriend who lives in another state. I haven't  cheated yet, why start now?\n3) I am skeptical of a woman who solicits sex from me. I just am. All the fun is in the chase. That is where intelligence comes in. How can I be subtle with a woman who is oblivious to the subtle things in life?\n\nThis may come as a surprise but I have had enough sex. I am ready to shut the game down, but every girl I meet thinks I am still a player.\n\nI'm serious I have got to have a girl with a brain; no compromise. I don't care beautiful a girl is. What I want to know is; can she spell beautiful?\n\nSo ...
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I wonder how many people have been in your position and let it go, always wondering if it was the right thing to do? I say GO FOR IT!! What the hell do you have to lose? If it doesn't work or he's spoken for, then let it go - but at least you tried. If you find him and he feels the same way you do... wellll....
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Love is like that, we tend to go to things that we are familiar with.  I'm not saying it's the ideal thing to do, but I don't think it's as bad as it seems to you right now.  You shared an intimate personal moment with someone that you had many with in the past.  I say not to make a big deal of it and take it for what it was.  If it was something that brings you guys together again, then congrats.  If it was a quickie from someone that you trust, then I still say congrats, we all are not so lucky.  Don't worry about just relish in the positives of it.
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If you can handle getting hurt some more, keep responding to him. I'd personally suggest that he's a typical man though, with only HIS best interests at heart. If I felt 100% about a girl, there'd be no one else I could be with, or anyone else that could occupy my thoughts other than her(100% means 100%!). Sorry, I wish I could give you the answer you are really wanting, but he seems to be trying to keep a backdoor open for himself alone. \n'Sweet talk' may be all it is.\nYou're a kind, trusting girl, that can be dangerous in the world as it is now. If it doesn't 'feel' right in any way to you, it isn't. Trust that gut of yours, it's the only thing that won't let you down.
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Hello again Fantasy Foo, I've been were your at, and it's not a good feeling. One good thing about life is....Time heals everything. I was once told: If you love something let it go, if it comes back it's yours...if it don't it never was. If you have the fellas number or you know how to get in contact with him...let him know how you feel, but don't hate on his girl...thats tacky.
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I hope you can stand an answer from a woman. When I read this, my heart went out to you. Believe me, I understand. It's good you recognize the first relationship where the guy didn't want kids had to end. That was a very healthy decision and you shouldn't look back on that with regret.\n\nAs for this last guy, I think he's just too immature to deal with his feelings. A guy I dated before I met my boyfriend did the same thing to me. Of course, I wasn't ready to declare my love for him at that point or anything either and then months later, the jerk tried emailing me. Ugh. Anyway, the reason I say this guy is immature about his feelings is because 3 months is a really short amount of time to determine if you love someone. In fact, I'm always wary of when people say it too soon. It makes me think they are just in love with the idea of being in love. My boyfriend and I didn't say those 3 little words until we were together almost a year, but I can tell you, we're both very sure of how much we love one another. I'm sorry you're in this situation and I think this has much more to do with the guy you were involved with than you. I don't think you can determine if it's love in just 3 months time and I don't think you'd want to waste your time seeing someone each day that you didn't think you could invest in a future with. I hope that helps, even if I made you feel a little less alone out there in the world. I've been there before and it's not fun, but if this guy is too much of a tool to see what a bright, self-assured woman he has, then you are much better off without him. Good luck to you.