hi i met this girl on internate and we started talking.she is 16 and i m 19.we like each other ,we also meet often as we live in same city.now the problem is that,before i met her she used to date a guy.but they were just like good friends and they used to kiss each other sometimes.but i really have the feelings for her so i just told her about my all feelings and about all my thoughts for her.Then she also told me that she feels same for me.but after one week she started meetin that guy again.she told me she cant break with him so easily.and she also keeps teling me that she loves me too.but i dont trust her because she is also going out with that guy.That means she doesnt want to brake with either of us.when i asked her to stop talkin with me if u cant forget him so she told me she don't want to brake with me .whenever i dont talk to her for somedays she really misses me.(she says that). so i m really confused now that does she reallly love me or just she is playing with both of us!!
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She wants both of you probably because you both have different qualities.\n\nIf she did really love you then just you would be enough.\n\nStop letting her play you.\n\nSay she got pregnant how would you know who was the father?\n\nI know its hard but you have to leave her alone if she wont leave the other guy alone, block her from instant messaging you, block her e-mails & if necessary change your phone number, do you really want to waste time with someone whos always thinking of someone else? \n \nIt seems to me like she is playing with both of u. I think that u need to move on and find someone else and show her that u don't have time for games. If she loves u she wouldn't do u like this so find u someone that feels the same way u do and wants to be with u and only u.
144631
As a girl, if she is keeping him around there is some kind of attraction involved.  Your proof? There was a relationship with him in the past, so he is obviously dating material in her mind.  If she is only an online girlfriend, find someone who will want to stay true to you.
288046
She might be playing with your mind and your heart. Sometimes, girls think it's fun to make guys confused about her feelings for him. But, then again, she might like you, but is afraid to take the next step. Obviously, she flirts with you and pays attention to every little thing you do, but maybe she's not sure if she wants to be anything more. As a girl, I'm scared of taking the next step. Sure, flirting is fun, but committing to a relationship is scary. It just depends on what kind of girl she is. She could just be playing you, or she could be afraid of a relationship.
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Yes! it sounds to me like you two are definatly in love. and if she didn't give you a good enough reason, like "i met someone else or i want to explore my options" then i think she still loves you, it is just too painful for her to be apart for so long. so i think you need to talk to her. dont just go over there and pop the question right away. but talk to her, make her fall in love with you again and then tell her you need her and that you two need to spend the rest of you lives together...then... "will you marry me?"
633730
Dude, I am sorry. It sounds like she is just like me. I have put my boyfriend through serious heartache because dumb me doesn't know what I want. You really need to move on and when she's ready, she'll quit playing her games and come back to you or find out that you're not the one. She's young and she's still trying to find out who she is, like me, and she's keeping you on the back burner to make sure you're worth holding on to. If you just back off and get on with your life, things will fall into place. But still love her and pray for her, but go out and have fun!!!
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She's not being honest with you.  If she really thought you two had something SO special that would lead to you "being together for a long time" why would she want to waste another minute with anyone else?  \n\nThink about it:  If you met the woman of your dreams who blew your mind away, would you really ask them to just "hold on a second" while you continued to mess around with others?  HELL NO.  You'd want the rest of your lives together to begin right now.\n\nI know this sucks to hear because you guys obviously have something special.  But something inside is telling her there's someone better out there and she wants to continue searching to see if she can find it.  If she doesn't, she'll come back to you.  Now you have to ask yourself, do you really want to be her fall back plan?  Because the minute she does meet that #1 out there, you'll be left broken hearted.\n\nSorry to break this news.  Cut loose.  No contact.  Get her out of your system.  When you meet someone else who you can fall in love with, you might be able to try being friends again...
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I'd be nice but firm.  Tell her you enjoy her friendship and would like to continue it, but that the relationship is over and that you would like to meet other girls.  Maybe she doesn't realize she's doing this.  If she still has feelings for you, it's gonna hurt no matter how you say it, but eventually, if she's mature enough, she'll get over it and you can restart the friendship.  Good luck!
56151
It sounds like you missed your chance.  If she is with someone else, just leave her alone.  If you still like her and she's no longer dating another guy, then talk to her.
20664
It sounds like you are very young and she sounds very immature. Let her go. She obviously doesn't care about your feelings or have any feelings for you herself. If she did she wouldn't keep doing this to you. She does this because you let her get away with it. She knows she can hook up with other guys when ever she wants because you'll take her right back when she's done with them. If you're having sex I hope you're using protection because she's likely to give you something nasty. Don't talk to her anymore as friends or anything else. Let her figure out for herself what she's missing out on by treating someone who cares for her like crap.
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I answered your last question, but now that I know more of how you are with things it helps me to understand it a little more.\n\nI agree that you should pray about it, and give it to God.\n\n  I would talk with her about it and let her know that you have to work on yourself more before you can give yourself to someone else.  Tell her that you do like her, but let her know that right now is not the right time for the two of you to be together and that you would like to stay the amazing friends that you are because she lights up your life when she is in it.\n\nGood luck and God bless.
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No, that's not paranoid at all.  Sounds like an awkward and complicated relationship.  However, because you said that she wants to hang out with you, and says it outright means that she probably likes you, even though she has a boyfriend.  She knows you, trusts you, and those feelings she once had for you have probably not gone away.  I'd hang out with her because she says she wants to, and keep your feelings to yourself until she realizes her true feelings.  When she does, she will most likely break up with him.  Or, I could be full of B.S. Who knows which one is true?  Only time will tell! :)
536336
yea thats deep, but she obviously loves this guy, and u have to think about whats best for her, and apparently she thinks this is best, just try and get over her. If it was meant to be between ya'll then it will happen regardless. but i wouldn't tell her because that would make her feel uncomfortbale and maybe get u in a fight with the b/f. there are plenty of other girls that will be just like her. trust me!
641594
I'm sorry, but I really think you should move on with your life.  Even if she does love you, she is just playing mind games with you.  I'm sure the past year she has been with other guys.  She just wants to know you are there if she can't find anyone else.  Just move on, show her that if she wants  you then she needs to do something about it and you won't wait around.  Please take my advice or you will have a lonely life.  And if you find another girl and start dating her and this other chick comes back.  DO NOT TAKE HER BACK!!!!  That would just tell her that you would drop anything for her.  Loving someone that much is bad for you.  Please take my advice!
160250
Wow, this sounds familiar.  I have a guy friend like that who's a five hour plane ride away from me.  She's probably thinking the same thing you are.  She trusts you and likes you and wants more from the relationship, but she's afraid of ruining what she already has with you.  Which as she's told you, is very special to her.  If you really think it's a good idea and you guys can work it out to be together, talk to her about it.  She probably wants to be with you too but doesn't want to pressure you.  If not, always be a good friend to her and maybe there will come a time and place where everything will just click.  Good luck!  I hope it works out!
649557
you already know the right decision.  move on!!!  do you really want to give her another chance to hurt you?  sounds like this is a heartless girl anyways so why would you want to date her? don't be blinded by love cuz nobody deserves to be treated like she treated you.
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She might have gone out with the guy once or twice or maybe they are just not really serious at this point.  There might be room for you if you are persistant.  Ask her what exactly she means.  Ask her if she is into this guy or if they are just hanging out until something else comes along or what.  Then you will know where to go from there.
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dude, seriously, I had the same situation a couple years back. I'd get out of it ASAP. Sorry if you love her but if she's not willing to make a decision, that shows some serious commitment  issues that are going to stay with you too. If you can, just be her friend and move on. She's probably going to be really shocked if you do this, but STAY OUT OF dating relationships with girls like this. It only ends up biting you later!