every time she comes home from work is all she talks about is this guy or that guy. She even went and stayed awake at a house with 4 guys and told me she kissed one of em like alot.She gets mad when I walk in her room and she is on the phone with this guy, but tells me she loves me. Just thought I would get some opinons from other people, thanks
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It looks to me that your wife is playing with you.The way she acts towards you doesn't show that she loves you..ore respects you for that matter!I'd talk to her,tell her what you think and feel..that you need to her to change her ways,because this isn't working out for you.If she refuses,ask yourself if this is how you want to go on....clearly this is making you very unhappy,you shouldn't accept this!
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she doesnt prioritize and she let work take over her life. i think she's trying to satisfy everyone all at the same time and its taking a toll on her much less making her have different personalities. \n\nof course any other person would feel frustrated for getting tossed around and hit in the head with confusion, but you have to understand that she's human. BUT it doesnt give her the right to keep you dangling on a thread.\n\nobviously she still wants you around so try talking to her in a different environment or atmostphere-some where it wont remind her of work or school, etc. for instace the beach, a coffee shop, the place you first took her to confess your feelings. and then talk to her like as if its almost an ultimatum, but not. \n\ntell her everything that you feel and how its affecting your relationship with her. talk about the way she act or the things that she does to hurt you or confuse you. tell her that youre going to let her deal with whatever she needs to deal with at her own pace. that youre going to respect her space so long she respects yours.\n\nhopefully this is an eye opener for her or is helpful for you to think up something to do. \n\nbest wishes. stay true.
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It seems to me that this girl have an attitude problems or she don't know how to express herself. I'm a female myself and I get mad quick but as I gotten older I can control it more. But this gurl want you to kiss her butt, that's why she get mad when she hangs up in you and don't call her back Good FOR HER, because she needs to learn how to COMMUNICATE that's the key if something is bothering her. I think that it is good that y'all are friends. If you really like this gurl than tell her that whatever is bothering her just to talk to you about the situation. relationships are going to work overnight it takes time and trust.
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you should let her know that you don't like being blown off for this boyfriend. you know that she really likes him, but that she should still be able to have time to spend with her friends. Also, tell her that you think this guy is not putting much into the relationship, and that you don't think that he is the right guy for her. then just let her react to what you said, whether it be good or bad. at least you got your opinion out there.
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She sound very jealous and also one sided. If she can't talk about it, then she is very selfish and not willing to make it work. She is not worth hanging on to. You really have no control over who phones you.
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I think you sound like one hell of a guy.  It's absolutely wonderful that you told her all those things, and she should appreciate it.  You have to remember though....almost every relationship has some problems eventually.   It sounds like you'd never want to hurt her in any way, but to say you'll never fight my be pushing it a little too far.  There is no guarantee that something, someday, might upset either one of you and the fighting will start, although  it seems like you are truly in love, and I'm sure the two of you would work it all out.
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My girlfriend is cold to me at work but alone she is totally opposite.  She says she's a private person (we\nare also practicing Christians) and does not like the \nattention she gets and says she does not like other people\nknowing her business.  She says that's just the way she\nis.
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then this girl doesn't care for the guy she is with, if she is flirting with alot of people. Also my opinion, she is wanting to see if any one will try to take her from her current boyfriend.
80116
I would be glad that you guys are still friends and just keep her close. Let her feel not just know that you are there no matter what....when guys do her wrong...or when she's scared...or sick or just needs someone to listen to her. That's more then anything you could give her at this time. She'll soon see if the love is true that you've been buy her side ever since...in due time. Both of you will grow and she'll see that so whatever rocky issues you guys had, you now can get over how-ever you all choose.
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You really do care for your girl...!!!\n\nShe probably hails from a very disturbed background. I think she is insecure not only about herself but also about her relationship. And I also think that she lacks self confidence.\nThere are a lot of things that you have not mentioned, that is how old is she and what is she doing...??\nFor her to get over the habit of not working well with people she needs to work on projects that have to be done in groups.\n\nConstantly encourage her to do things that involve her participation and that involve her interaction with lots of people.\nShe also needs your constant support and love. And if this does not work then you need to take her to a pshycologist.
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Get the counselling. It sounds like she's struggling with deeper issues or she wouldn't be sleeping in the same bed as you. I think she still loves you. Make sure you support her through this or you may run the risk of losing her. Listen alot and don't ever tell her that what she is thinking is stupid.
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Women, eh? She likes you. Enjoys your company. Is obviously jealous of your other girlfriends. Doesn't want to add the physical. No, I don't really understand either. \n\nDoes she have other boyfriends? Perhaps she's afraid of spoiling what you have.... Or perhaps she's immature; enjoys the power of knowing that you fancy her, keeping you dangling?\n\nIt's not fair to you for her to say 'No' to you-know-what, but go into a strop if you go out with someone else.\nThe 'other woman' thing was good, gave her something to think about - she was definately jealous, or hurt. \n\nMy advice is to back off. Maybe you're smothering her. Give her a bit of time & space; let her come to you. It might take a bit of time. But I believe that the best partnerships are based on friendship that develops into love. It sounds as though all the elements are there in your relationship, but she needs a bit of time. I hope so. All the best!\n\nI had a very good friend once. I didn't fancy him, didn't want to take it further. Then, one night, when it was time for him to go home, I realised that I didn't want him to go...  It was as much as a surprise to me as to him!\n\nP.S. Don't wait for her forever.
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Okay, she has the princess syndrome.  Women who are immature or insecure play this kind of game, where you are but one of many suitors who she can call whenever she's in the mood.  Doing this to you makes her feel in control, that she has the ultimate veto power.\n\nShe likes to flirt and it's possible that she has many other guys on the line, just in case she needs someone beside her whenever she feels lonely.  Keep in mind that it doesn't have to be you.  I'm sure she knows how you feel about her and she's just playing the "What's wrong with you" to manipulate you into feeling confused and guilty for acting like a stranger without provocation.\n\nYou were going in the right direction.  Keep your feelings to yourself and maybe explain briefly that you don't like to wait for her to make up her mind.  That single sentence will be a good reason enough because she acts like she doesn't know what she's doing, when in reality, she knows and enjoys acting like an innocent dove.  Keep away from her.  \n\nThe weird thing is, when you stick to your resolve, she will think about you more than she used to.  Human emotions are all wired in a strange way so that when you withdrawl your attention away from her, she will now be the one who makes the move to pursue you.  Chances are good that she will call you more often and come around.  \n\nNow it will be you who will control the relationship.  Be a man and either send her off on her merry way, or accept her and be the sweet boyfriend you always have been.
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Yes, yes and yes ... no need to explain ... she's at home all day ... what else should she be doing ... freaking watching soap operas and talk shows ... she should be giving something back to the household if she's not helping financially ... she gets mad that you take a nap cause she just sits there all day and waits for you to get home .. tell her to pick out a hobby or something .. buy some cook books - cooking isn't hard ... tell her you feel she's not attributing to the relationship in the way you expected and you feel like you're doing a lot of the hard work .. and for what .. so she can get fat on the sofa all day .. good luck dude .. lol .. can't stand lazy b*tches .. I work full-time, clean the house and cook dinner for my family ... it's not hard ... I do it out of love .. and I know how hard my man works - so cooking dinner is nothing .. he'll clean up so it works out perfect .. you need to come up with something for her to do and fast or you're going to be fighting a lot in the future ... !
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If you really care for your girl tell her.  But be gentle about it because you know how woman tend to think other wise when it comes to certain thinks.  I know cause I'm guilty of it too.  Let her know you care about her and you are not saying this to hurt her, you just fell that she should know so maybe she can talk to her roommate.
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she might be saying stuff like that b/c she doesnt want to admit that its really over and that she doesnt want to be heart broken,u have to tell her the truth,u might have to make the conversation firm to make her understand and if she gets mad at u then thats her problem b/c she shouldnt get mad at u if ur telling her the truth,good luck :-)
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She's doing this because she gets a bit of excitement by trying to deceive you. Like children do to their parents. This sounds like a battle of wills to me. You want her to behave one way, and she's responding by lying, digging her heels in. She's trying to tell you that she doesn't feel in control of her life, and this is a way she feels that she can do what she wants. When you hide the webcam or threaten to take her 'toy' away, she spits her dummy, because she wants a reason to have a go at you for trying to 'control' her, 'making' her bored by travelling alot. You're just applying practical solutions to your problem (very male!). She is probably lost in a dreamworld while she's chatting to these guys, a world where she is a different person. She can portray herself as anyone she wants to. She probably needs some confidence-boosting but it all boils down to a lack of communication. She doesn't feel she can talk to you about her needs, or perhaps she's tried and she doesn't feel you took her seriously. This situation will only get worse if you don't try to spend some quality time getting to know what her needs are.