I dated this guy for over 3 years and I caught him the bed we shared with another girl. It has been almost a year since and its so hard moving on, considering he is still best friends with my brother. he is everywhere I go, and will be soon living with my brother. I need to move on, but its almost like he wont let it go. What do I do?
126909
To move on you need to find someone new, then it will be too hard for him too see you with someone else and he'll hopefully stay out your way!
246090
If you say you've move on move on, and stop moving back.  Don't let this guy reck a good thing for you.  Unless you are glutton for punishment.
43540
Your question leave's me to believe your on a rocky road, very unstable. You have all the fact's, your the only one who can make the move's, stay or go, that is the question. From the way you phrased it, I would only think, maybe, you should move on. But, you only know how much love for this guy is in your heart. I truly wish you the best in your decission... Dr Checko... Nickname)
368443
not really, it's basically up to him. best things to do is move on. there are tons of guys out there. no need to wait for this one.
597076
I'm in the same boat honey. I'm trying to get over this guy who only wants to be my friend now.  And yes I want that, but every time I hang out with him I want to hug and kiss him like I used to, which wasn't too long ago. What my friends tell me, and what I'm now telling you, you need to break away from him for awhile. Try not to call him, as hard as that is, and just give your heart and head a break from him. And maybe in a couple weeks or months, or however long it takes you, you'll be able to hang out with him with no feelings other than friendship aimed at him. Also another good way of getting over him, is trying to date other people, even though they won't be him and you'll be comparing them all to him, it'll be a stepping stone, and eventually you'll meet that guy and not even think about your ex. Hope this makes sense and helps. Good luck.
643094
Wow, I am in a situation similar to yours as well.  My next-door neighbor and I grew up together, and I found out that he had a crush on me since we first met each other, which was about 7 years ago.  I was in a long-term relationship with my ex, but me and the neighbor remained friends throughout the whole time.  We didn't start getting closer until the summer of last year, when we started hanging out more and more, and I finally saw a different side to him, a kind, considerate, more gentler side.  We became fast friends and I started developing feelings for him.  We eventually talked about it and we aren't together now (mainly because he's in the military and is about to go to Iraq---he didn't want a relationship while he was over there), we have been talking and thinking about the future, because the feelings are definitely mutual there.  To make this long story short, you should tell your neighbor how you feel about him.  Who knows, he could have the same exact feelings.  Take things slow and gradual, and something could eventually escalate from that.  I'm very happy right now, even just as best friends, and even though it's hard for us to really hide our feelings for each other, I definitely know those feelings are still there.  Wish you nothing but the best!!!
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You can't help the way you feel, it is being human.  I had a similar situation when I was 17.  I had been best friends with him for 2 years and gradually we got closer and closer.  For me it didn't work out but I am glad I gave it a go otherwise I would all ways wonder what if.  I think life is far too short to have regrets.
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I know exactly what you're going through.  There's no advice that anyone can give you to get you through this, which makes it so much harder.  And I think you're doing the right thing by acting happy and like you're fine.  You don't want to wear your heart on your sleeve.  That's only for your closest of friends to know - and that's what they're there for.  You need to continue your life without him as hard as that is.  \n\nIf you know there's 0 chance of getting him back, just realize that that's the reality.  You're probably beating yourself up trying to figure out how to win him back, but reality hits hard and you just need to accept it.  You have to be happy for him if he's happy and just know that you did what you could and you can't do anymore.  \n\nSomeone once told me that guys always realize what they've done wrong when they're older and wiser, but they'll never admit to it.  Just continue with your life the way you are and cry when you need to.  If you live day to day with a sad face, it' s not going to help your situation any more.  It's not going to bring him back, not going to make you happier, not going to change anything.  \n\nTime is the only healer.  I think about my ex all the time.  He won't return any of my calls or talk to me.  So I just leave him messages telling him I'm thinking of him and if he needs anything I'll be there.  But I still don't hear from him.  So slowly, I'm letting go.  I know it's already been 4 months.  But I've known people that it's taken them a year or more to get over someone.  \n\nMaybe it just wasn't in the stars for the both of you to be together.  Take what you've learned in the relationship and only remember the good things.  I'm sure he's a wonderful guy, but that doesn't mean you'll find someone more wonderful who will make that committment to you and stick with it.  Don't rush into another relationship because you know you're still not over him.  Be honest with yourself.  That's fine if you think about him all the time - you really love him.  \n\nBut if you really love someone, let it go.  If it comes back to you it's meant to be.  And in this case, since he's moved on, it just wasn't meant to be.  I'm sorry.  I definitely know break-ups are not easy, but don't forget to continue respecting yourself.  You're not alone...
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I have been in this situation, and it is very hard to deal with, esp if you were into the guy before he got together with your friend!\n\nAll I can say is keep your feelings buried for now - it wouldnt be any good to let either of them in on houw you feel, because that would just ruin your friendships. Who knows, given time you may move on, meet the guy of your dreams and suddenly all feelings for your friend's guy will be out the window (it happened for me!). Otherwise, it may not work out between the two of them, in which case ONCE THE DUST HAS SETTLED (its important to wait until it is well and truly over for both of them, or someone will end up hurt) you will be free to see how he feels about you. \n\nIf you do end up dating him though, make sure your friend is okay with the idea, as I have also been in the position where my ex ended up dating two of my friends - weirdly enough, I was fine about it when he dated my best friend soon after we broke up, in fact I set them up, but by the time he dated the other friend a good while later, it drove me mad seeing them together, and it made me realise I wasn't over him at all (but thats a whole other story!).\n\nThe last thing I will say though - while I repeat it woud be a bad idea to tell either of them about your feelings right now, one thing that really helped me through everything (both being the one with feelings for my friend's guy and seeing my ex date my friends) was having another friend whom I trusted completely and who knew everyone concerned but wasn't part of the group so much. I was able to tell him everything that was going on in my head and getting my feelings out really helped me to get over them - keeping your feelings to yourself with no outlet will not help you move on, it will only intensify them. So tell someone whom you trust not to blab, even if its only your diary!!!\n\nGood luck, and if you need a chat, get in touch any time!\n\nJoji x
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Don't. There's a reason you broke up. It's hard letting go, but give it time, keep yourself busy, and eventually, you will move on and forget.
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It really hard to Move on girl but You have to ...Well everyone was saying move on and you might think we don't know what you r feeling and just saying move on..the thing is i know how u feeling right now...you feel sad ..you want to cry and you want to tell him how much u need him/ love him and u want to show him u would do anything to get him and u want to beg him to get bak but he doesn't feel the same and u feel like u want to die is't? I been there a few month ago. he broke my heart and i feel all the thing that i'm telling you now but in the end what did i get ...he doesn't feel same as me...i'm just making my self down/worst...so i'm just relise instand of wanting him back i should try to have fun with my mate more and i should do anything that make me happy and yep i'm happy now and I'm glad i'm sigle again. I don't need them to make me happy and yep i'm not dating anyone at the moment and i don't feel like it ..i'm enjoy my single life. the thing is u just need to make ur self happy ..if u happy u don't need him but i'm very sure it going to take time ..u can't just do it overnight and ou really really need to be strong ...Anyway if u really want him back that badly try to be friend with him again first and show him u care."Love is when friendship on fire" ..."if u love a dove, let him go...if he come back he is ur ..if he not he never was"..just remember this ..it always help me but good luck
237699
many things in life are hard. you simply need to let him go and move on with your life
6331
After 7 years if he wants to move on you better let him go.  Everyone goes through a lot of hurt, and the next guy you're with will have gone through a lot of hurt with someone else.  That's how you learn throughout your life.  Don't bang your head against the wall for someone who has said they need to move on.
40921
You have to rediscover yourself. After three years, you have become so entwined in each others lives, it's like losing part of yourself.  Spend time with YOU before moving on.
516955
me and my brother are 2 years apart and let me tell you it sucks when all of your friends end up dating your brother! it doesn't matter how many times the friends would say to me i promise it wont come between our friendship it always did,your friend needs to think about her friendship before she does any thing,at least talk to her friend first and see how she feels about her dating her brother if she really doesn't have a problem with it then go ahead but I'm telling you i have lost more friends because of my brother than any thing else..he would cheat on them and then break up with them and then they wouldn't want to be around me anymore because of him!
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you never know how good you have something until you give it up.  and then you regret it the rest of your life.  if you truly like this Tim guy, stick with him, if he actually has a future.  as for your other ex-bf's/guy friends, u might want to start talking to them less.  u can date someone and then break up and not see or hear from them for 10 years, but when u do see them the memories come back and it plays with your head.  the only way i can move past ex-gf's is to remove them from my life.  that might be what it takes for you too.
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OK here is a love triangle for you this is great. My brother dated his girl for about two years, while i had my own boyfriend. we dated for about a year and a half. So after double dating and treating my brothers girlfriend like a sister she dumps my brother. Not too long after that my boyfriend broke up with me. About a week later i saw my brothers ex and my ex holding hands at school. Now my ex wants me back lol I'm getting back with him. I know it sounds nasty and he broke my heart, but you gotta listen to your heart do what your heart and soul tell you to do. you know you got it girl...