My friend is very dark.Some tease her calling names.Recently she has developed inferior complex.She avoids facing people.She prefers to be alone. Onceconfided
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is your friend naturally dark? if so, i'm afraid we can't do anything about that. unless of course she wants to follow michael jackson's footsteps. =( and that would be very costly, since his treatment is lifetime. his treatment involves this medication that inhibits his melanocytes to produce its natural pigment. if he stops that treatment, he'll turn to his natural complexion again.\n\nanyway, back to your friend. just as your first answerer said, "less sun would do". keeping yourself away from the sun will return your melanocytes back to its original pigment.\n\nalso, being dark isn't that bad. a bit of glow in the skin would make her look beautiful. loads of people want to get tan or bronze. just tell her to eat healthy, and ignore those who tease her. soon, she'll be much more beautiful than those who are teasing her now. just stay with her and assure that everything will be all right.\n\nyou could try telling her to buy some body wash with citrus content, as citrus exfoliates skin and makes it grow lighter.
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People can be so mean, why can't they just worry about themselves. I think when people make fun of your friend it is because they are jealous of her confidence.
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Yeah.  Fortunately for me, I never lose sleep over folks like that...they usually tell on themselves over a bit of time.  People discover how mean they are and then drop them like a bad habit.  It's their problem, not yours, so don't worry about it.  Time has a way of righting all the wrongs.
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I think your friend has self esteem issues. She's probably just looking for attention, so try talking to her and trying to get to the root of the problem of why she feels like she's helpless or 'pathetic'. If you take an interest in her it's better than one sharp line to make her feel better once. You can't always keep milking that catch phrase if you will, to make her feel better every time, after a while it will go stale and you'll need something else.
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You should find a gentle way to talk to her. Let her know that her attitude affects everyone around her and that she needs to get help. Maybe she does not realize she has a problem, being angry all the time is not normal. Maybe someone to break the ice is all it would take, she might get angry, but if she is angry all the time anyway it won't really matter. At least she would have to face the fact that it is hard to be around someone who is always in that state. There could be deeper issues than just anger, that is why I say she should seek help. Maybe it is not anger, could be a form of depression. If you are her friend, and this concerns you, help her.
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Yeah I have. I've never told anyone this but, I have had guys I like not like me because they say i was to dark.
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I have a friend that acts like a prep and dresses like one too. But believe me, she doesn't pull it off very well. I just ignore her or glare sometimes. Not in a mean way though. Just telling her that she needs to chill and just be herself. I don't blame my friend, but the people she's hanging out with. One can sorta pull off the prep look and the other can, so that's why she's trying it. But if she continues, I'm just gonna say "Guess you wanna be someone your not and I'm not cool with that." then see how she reacts.
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Some people put others down to make themselves feel better. She's probably not happy with life and does not love herself much and this reflects in her relationship with others
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has she started taking drugs or drinking..this could explain alot.\n\nAre her new friends telling what she wants to hear...your pretty, popular...cool when you hang out with us. If you hang out with your other friends you are a loser...they may be telling her that, and in the interest of being accepted and being with the cool group she is not being true to herself.
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This friend of yours is not a good person. She is definitely simply leeching out favours from others. Just leave her, don't talk to her. She'll definitely come back for more assurance. I think she needs some counseling.
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she sounds like she has control issues. she has to categorise things to make sense of them. she needs order and "pigeon holes people" in order to relate to them properly. \nmany of us are guilty of not being capable of separating behaviors from the person. we all think in black and white terms. whats worse we all think that everyone thinks the way we do. \nher issues with correction are just another manifestation of her need to control. its subtle but correcting someone is a way for her to feel superior. \nshe probably has a lot going on within, and when people are a mess on the inside, they try to control the outside, because thats all they can see that they actually have control over. doesnt make their actions and judgements right, but it certainly can explain alot and maybe you can find ways to deal with her so that you dont take her issues personally.\ngood luck!
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i had a friend like that. its a form of jealousy. they want what they can't have so they try to take what you have. or maybe she had a self-esteem issue.
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Very strange, I was discussing a girl with a friend earlier tonight. She is extremely shy and it's difficult for me to understand what she's thinking half of the time. I used to be introverted and then had a major incident and came out extroverted. I asked a psychologist if it was possible to change in that fashion. She replied "Yes, people may change with time. However it usually happens because of some life changing event". Good luck.
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ur friend has accumulated lot of negativity which is driving him towards hell,to pull him out he needs the holy company,positive vibrations and aura,requires deep meditation,mind it 'karma'relates to our own deeds,if our doings r bad then we r subject of negativity and vice versa,negativity leads to depression/tension/stress/strain/imbalanced mind.Further one cannot change the nature of others,only change oneself,for further discussion,he can chat with me for his early recovery.
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I had a friend that was doing bad stuff, and i just told him to either stop or we wouldn't be friends, and i know you still wanna be her friend, but the thing is that in most cases she will tell you that she will, and you guys will stay friends. If you won't do that then maybe you should start to say subtle things to her about her behavior, just slip them into your conversations, that way she doesn't feel bad. That's my advice.
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You're friend is treating you this way because (im assuming she) she has her own insecurities about herself. i dont know you, but you are probably an attractive popular girl? someone genuin? This other friend wants you to feel about about yourself. The way to tackle this is to understadn she is hating something about herself and try to bring it out of her, subtly and perhaps bit by bit. then when you're feeling more confident you can talk to her about the way she speaks to you and the names she calls you.
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Unless your friend is going through a really bad time at the moment it sounds like she is not a very good friend.\n\nThe crux of the matter is \na) do you treat anyone you consider a friend like this?  If you don't why tolorate it from someone else.\n\nb)  IF you stopped calling you wouldn't have a friendship.\n\nSpend the time you spend on her making some proper friends who will make an effort, call you back and show that they value you in their lives.