She has stopped complaining and now I am frightened for her.  I don't know what to tell her anymore to offer hope.  She feels there is none.
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Well...it is good that the person has stopped complaining. I don't know what the situation is, but people should never thank that there is no hope because that is not true. The only time there is no hope is if we dwell on the problem and don't do anything to resolve the problem. \n\nThere is always hope. Your support is always helpful. Let her know that you care and are concerned for her. \n\nI would also suggest that she go get some counseling because often times, when people lose hope, they start to think about suicide. \n\nKeep in mind, you can tell her anything you can think of to tell her, but it is strictly up to her to break that spell that is binding her. \n\nBe positive. Don't offer pity because she will just thrive on that and it makes the problem worse. Be empathetic though. Let her know you understand the problem and you understand how she feels, but she just has to get up and get moving and stop feeling so sorry for herself and I would also recommend recommending counseling to her.
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Tell her you care. and keep saying that. \n\n\n Suicide is a cry for help, when you feel alone.\n Don't let her feel alone.
136758
I cant even begin to imagine how you are feeling.  I know you want to follow her but would SHE want that?  I can bank that it is no.  You need to seek therapy.  You are very depressed right now.  While thats normal, you need the help to ensure you dont do anything stupid.  The pain you are going through is probably the worst you have ever felt in your life.  Take it one day at a time.  If that doesnt help, take it one minute at a time.  Talk to people.  Let them know how you are feeling just like you did here.  Never let yourself be alone right now.  But do greive her death.  Thats healthy.  You will be fine and every day it does get a little easier.  I have lost 3 kids and 3 sisters and my dad so I can relate a little.  Know that you have a friend here and you are not alone.
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If you could just explain what are you going through and what are your feeling you can be cured but you have given no details her so how can you expect anyone to answer it correctly ! Please edit your question and post some details !\nTake care
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I just don't see a feelgood way out of this.  Be honest with her.  It already sounds like you are compassionate.  Honestly explain your feelings, how long you've been feeling this way, how you struggled with it, didn't want to hurt her, etc but that you couldn't reconcile how you feelings evolved to living in a way that is in full honesty for both of you.  She's going to undergo grief and pain so there is no avoidance of that.  It really is hard to tell someone you care about as a person, knowing you're going to cause them pain, that you've tried, but don't feel the way you would like to feel anymore.  Many people deal with faded feelings in ways that cause even more problems down the line, cheating, avoidance, etc. It never makes the problem better so you know that it will take great courage on your part to get in the drivers seat and take the relationship to it's inevitable destination.  She was a whole person before she met you so hopefully she has the inner strength and faith to trust she will continue to be a whole person without you.
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Just keep being her friend.  Keep trying to encourage her.  Do the best you can.  You might not be able to change her, but in the future she will look back and realize how kind and helpful you were.  Stay with her.  And good job!  It's wonderful that you are concerned about her!
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talk to her about it and see if she changes, then if she doesn't you have warned her , tell her you can't take it any longer and that you think you should hang around less
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This is unfortunate matter sweety...But please do not get upset with yourself...It's nothing to do with you...Be happy she's in a safe place now where she can get help...All you can do is be there when she needs you...Remember she's not herself now, so just think about the good times...She'll be back to herself soon enough...Be strong for your sister...You're dong a good job =)
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Tell her the truth.  NO!  WE never die, we just cross over to the other side.  We go home, right back from where we came from.\nAnd as far as her  body dying now?  Tell her no.  The doctors would not waste their time and money and YOUR money on surgeries if they thought she was a hopeless case.\n  Tell her to stop worrying.  Worrying will only slow down her recovery time and sometimes even worsens the problem.\n\nJokingly, tell her to get better or else.  Then laugh.\nIt works like a charm.
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Ouch. Kudos to you on doing what you said you would, but for her it might be too little, too late. She needs to know that you will do what you say even when she isnt threatening you. Is there anything else about you that you know bugs her? Make an effort to change that too. She feels like you dont care enough about her to change, but you are doing the best you can now.\nLevel with her, tell her that you didnt change before but that now that you know how life is without her that you want to be just the man she needs.
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Wow, this is so sweet. I think that you should tell her exactly that. Look her directly in the eyes and let her know how you really feel. Tell her that there is no use for her to push you away. Tell her that there is nothing for her to be afraid of, and that you accept her and embrace her for exactly what and who she is. Tell her she is the only one for you. If this doesn't work move on. You are too sweet not to be appreciated. Maybe if you give her some space she will realize what she gave up and come around.
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She sounds very tired, scared and very frustrated. Right now what she probably needs is a FRIEND, someone to lean on. So I would advise for you to go and accidently bump into her. Show to her that you still care and want to help her, but don't look like you pity her or she will become worse. Try and get her to relax, unwind because all.\nI think it would help if you did research on depression.
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Truthfully, you can tell her everything and she may not change a thing.  Let her know that you care for her and you want the absolute best for her.  Seeing her unhappy is breaking your heart.  Let her know how you feel without making judgements on her decision.  Ask her if there is absolutely anything that you can do for her to help her and her family out.  Things won't change unless she wants them to change.  All you can do is support her and be there for her.  She needs the strength to see if being a single mom is the best for her children and if she can do it alone.  Its easy for outsiders to express how they feel about the situation but its different when you live it everyday.  Help her be strong.  I hope all goes well.
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All I know is that she's not giving any to me.  It would be nice to get some of that.  I'm glad for the people she helps.  I hope it changes their lives for the better.
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Well this hard to answer. I've been through that with my family and friends. If she has an answer machine maybe you should tell her how you feel, since she doesn't talk to you. Tell her that you love her and that you don't want to argue, life is too short for that and tell her that you will be there for her. Even though she doesn't see what you do, you should just forget about it. Maybe soon she will see what you do and if her friends is there to see you do this they wont agree with her or maybe even listen to her. It sounds like she is very spoiled. Everyone doesn't have a lot to give people and she should see that you are helping her. Maybe even write a letter telling her how you feel about her. Hopefully your family can help you with this problem.
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I know she may not be able to respond but deep down I really think part of her understands. It may feel weird, but I think you should talk to her like she can understand. Just talk to her, tell her about your fun times together. Tell her your going to miss her. If you don't you will feel terrible later for it. You need to just put in your last words now before it's to late.
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Simply don't ask for her advice or help anymore. If she tries to pry into your personal life of wanting to dish out advice, tell her you have confided in someone who listens, from an objective point of view.