it was only onetime  and 3 years ago and not from the same cuntry.and all that time u didnt know u foundout from his cusin by mistake and then he confese.do u forgive and forget ?or forgive but let him no that u didnt forget ?or forgive but dont let him know it/or forgive and move on?
137683
Love is a two way street...love, hate. The thing is...forgiving/forgetting. \n\nIf you love him enough to forgive and forget. \n\nI have learned one thing in life, you have to be COMFORTABLE with the person you are with! Once the comfort is lost, the love is lost. \n\nThe old adage once a cheat, always a cheat, I don't believe, I believe people can change, but you have to be able to talk to each other and have that comfort to delve into each others feelings. \n\nIf it happened 3 years ago, alot of time has passed and if he has been faithful to you since, you may not have to worry about it happening again. If he was in the military, thats another story... What would you do in the same situation?\n\nHe needs to be just as open as you and you BOTH need to deal with why it happened.
632144
i think you should try to talk to him in a nice way... be sincere and know effective ways on how to talk to him. its just a matter of right conversation. i believe that everyone of us is capable of committing mistakes so never give up on making him see that you're truly sorry for what you had done to him. i think you can do it...
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You could start by reading the million other posts and responses on how to get over someone.  Most of them will tell you the same thing, the only thing that is going to make you feel better is time.  Forgiving is easy, just do it, forgetting however, is a different story.  You will never forget him or the good and bad times you shared, it's impossible without the assistance of a labotamy (sp*).  So forgive, take all the time necessary and do your best to keep your self respect and move on.
665908
Well we have to take the good with the bad. We have to forgive and and move on to the next we sometimes have to be the bigger person. So for give him this time and tell him enough is enough and you have feelings too. Good Luck
511761
I think you should tell her right away. She'll be more likely to forgive you, since you didn't try and keep it a secret from her. I personally hate secrets, I htink we should lay them out in the open. Tell her you're really sorry, too. You shouldn't have cheated in the first place.
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is there any reason to tell him other than to just get it off of your chest? if there is no way he is ever going to find out about it, then dont tell him. Even if it happened a long time ago, he could still feel betrayed. like i said. he has all the right to be pissed if you told him already. but if you guys are good friends you will be able to forget about it over a couple cases of beer.
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You have a right to be pissed.  Make it clear if he is planning on talking to this girl again he better tell you first and it better be for a good reason.  Unfortunately I know how close a group of old friends can be and if he isn't lying then what he did isn't that bad except he should have told you first.  Beyond that your only other option is leaving him but if everything else is good in your relationship that seems like a pretty silly step.
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I am so sry, for what happened to u. Trust me the guy is so stupid, and u should be glad this happened b4 u guys did nything intimate. I noe it's hard to forget, but u should go on with life. Many times u will find urself in a drepressing position. Many times. Get over it. There are many guiys in the world. U never mentioned that this one was the perfect one so i'm guessing he wasn't. and even though u were going out it seems like u considered him as a friend. U must have been close, it hurts , i noe. U 'll find ur perfect one someday and u'll forget about this guy. Someday u'll be able to look back at this memory and laugh about it. I would suggest looking forward to that day. Enjoy urself, have fun, study, date, life is too short to have many regrets.
260309
Pretty much it is a bad decision, if not cheating, but he showed you a desire to get past that by confessing. You should decide if you can forgive or if you get more pleasure out of holding this against him. If you like the upper hand, go ahead and beat him up for it for years to come. All he will regret is that he confessed this indiscreation to you. I'd let it go if I were you. Far worse things could happen to you than this.
521932
If he was truly your friend, he would have already forgiven you.\n\nsend him a note telling him how you feel, and ask him to respond. If he doesn't...well perhaps you should move on.
162999
Love is a two way street...love, hate.  The thing is...forgiving/forgetting. If you love him enough to forgive and forget.  I have learned one thing in life, you have to be COMFORTABLE with the person you are with! Once the comfort is lost, the love is lost. The old adage once a cheat, always a cheat, I don't believe, I believe people can change, but you have to be able to talk to each other and have that comfort to delve into each others feelings. There are lots of fish in the sea, and just because you are connected with one, doesn't mean you can't be connected to someone who wouldn't cheat on you, even though it sucks to start over again...talk, listen both ways. He needs to be just as open as you and you BOTH need to deal with why it happened.
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Make sure you are totally honest about everything that happened, above all, even if you were in the wrong.  Hopefully he will be understanding enough to get beyond the issue.  Make sure to keep all future communication between you him open and honest as well.
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He decision is based on emotion, and he is probably still hurting from what happended. He must of forgiven you as he is considering to move in with you, but because he has forgave you, it does not mean he has forgotten! You need to rebuild the trust, and i do not think you can force him. Talk to him and see where he is coming from, he probably needs reassurance and comfort. Remember actions speak louder than words and he might be thinking when in doubt, leave it out. Do not give up if he is worth fighting for...
664017
Too bad he didn't think about all of that when he made the choice to cheat.  Sometimes it's too late to go back and try to fix what was broken. Forgive and move on.
65271
I'm not married, but I totally understand where you are coming from. In my past relationships, the guy will have done me wrong and I agree to stay in the relationship. The problem is, you can't stop thinking about the things that went wrong and a new question or concern always pops up. I realized that if you are going to stay with the guy, then there is no point in continually bringing up the past. Eventually, he is going to realize that you are not going to stop worrying about it and either walk away from the relationship or he is going to deem your concerns unimportant.\nThe guys I dated knew that I would get upset and argue, but that I wasn't going anywhere. What you should do is take a good look at yourself and figure out if his wrongs are something you truly can forgive. You don't have to forget, but if you seriously make the decision to forgive, then you can't continue to bring it up. \nIf you realize that you can't let it go, then you have to move on...for yourself. Obviously, you really care about this man, but if you can't let it go, then neither one of you are ever truly going to be happy. It's not easy, but it's also not impossible.
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you need to decide whether youre going to live with what he did or not. if you cant forgive him then you cant move on. So you have to make a choice and decide what is best for you. If you love him and see your future with him then try to fix it, go to counseling but if his mistake erased your visions of a future with him, then you know what you need to do. But I must also say that you cant rush getting over things either and he should be willing to understand and agree with what you choose to do.
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babygurl..the past is the past..you have to live for now and the future..maybe you have to write a note...to get it off your chest..sit down and write it down on a peice of paper if you dont want to write it you cant type it..open ur your email..put to yourself..because you're going to keep it fr your eyes only..put put it as though you are writting it to him..get all of your feelings out on that screen/paper..trust me i do it sometimes and it makes me feel a whole lot better..has he apoligized to you about it? maybe thats the problem..he hasnt apolgized..but you know hwat?! i would tell you to talk to him about it..how you're feeling..but some people dont like old news or to be brought up the past when its already done and over with so i dont know what to tell you..yuo just have to let it go..how do you expect to live for/in the future if you keep living for/in the past..you may not always forget what a person has done but you can forgive what they have done..and if he's done it years ago..why are you still letting it bother you? forget about it?! its useless..why are you keeping it fresh in your mind? if you find you cannot do anything to solve these problems maybe you should talk to him about it or maybe a counsler can help you...or maybe you just need to find somebody else..is it about trust issues? what is it? if you are having your doubts and you are unhappy why are you in a relationship with him in the first place? maybe you need to let him go and find somebody else or just take a breath for a while? theres really no way to get away for it..its eaither you take him and love him thick and thin for his mistakes or whatevers hes done in the past or you have to set him free..i dont know what else to tell you..keep your head up! good luck! hope i helped..start to think about positive things..he does..or places yall been or good memories..stop thinking about things that bother you from years ago...learn grow from it and close that chapter..move on!