I have this very good guy friend that goes to university with me , I've known him for one and a half years; I have always felt something for him but since he is so much like my brother I thought that it was brotherly love. But recently I started feeling stronger feelings for him that I believe is "Love". How can I know if he likes me as a friend, sister, or if he loves me?!\n\nI'm in agony people, so PLEASE help me I know nothing about these things...
134425
Just tell him. What's the worst that could happen? Really. Could he inflict physical pain on you? Cause you to flunk classes? Maim your family members? No.\nThe worst thing he could do is tell you that he doesn't feel the same. And the worst thing that could happen is that your friendship is awkward, but if it's a strong enough bond, then you should be able to get over that hump. Life is too short to play games and to try all these secretive ways to discover someone's feelings. Try being open. Try being honest. It's very liberating.
169840
i am all for the "find a better guy and make him jealous" thing, but it puts you in a pickle with him being your brothers friend, and if you do anything to upset this guy your brother might get ticked off at you.(because that is how men are) i suggest talking to your brother and finding out what the deal is whether or not this dude is in to you or if he is slow-playin. then i would tell him (brother) that this dude really upset you because of the way he treated you. and if your lucky your brother just might have one of those "rules for dating my sister" talks with the dude.
43125
Of course your man shouldn't be angry. It's your sister that he likes, not you. And being a good sibling, you should try getting them hooked up. I have tons of guy friends myself, and am not dating, but I like helping out my sister. She needs all the help she can get...
323690
oh sweetie...she does care for you...BUT just as a friend...\nshe has no other feelings for you\nshe feels as if you are more like a brother to her than a boyfriend...\nit is nothing you did....you are great...\nyou need to move on and find someone that wants those qualities in a long term relationship with you\n\ngood luck\n\nyou will find the one...\nmamma
415696
well its your heart...you can't stop liking someone...you guys aren't related..so its not wrong..but because he has the title "brother" it does seem wrong...sometimes later on in life you find a guy that you like and get together...so you don't really have those feelings for your foster bro anymore!
507082
Amers? that's awesome! that's what my favoritest sister calls me (being that my name is Amy).\n\nanyways, sorry. heh. this problem is frustrating, and, unfortunately, quite common. If you're like most of us, you're too shy to really tell him how you feel. Short of telling him, there's no 100% sure way of him getting the hint (unless of course you sent him a note, kissed him, etc. but I'm guessing those are already ruled out too..) I actually (shame on me) experimented with this one. It works with some guys, but others are totally oblivious. it did, however, seem to be that the nerdy ones are always easier.  Give him your full attention whenever your around him, look him in the eyes when you talk to him, and just kinda make it a point to make body contact. by this I mean like brush his arm when you walk past, just little things like that.
239315
it is hard to say exactly how the brother feels about you, but it sounds as though he likes you a little, but mostly just trying to be nice to you & hook you up with his brother. Would i be wrong in assuming that you have an attraction to the brother, & you want him to like you? I think that if that is the case, then it would be wrong. Even if you & his brother broke up it would still be wrong. It would cause too many problems in the family, so if that is the case, drop the crush on the brother, & stick with the boyfriend, Or leave them both alone.
489057
maybe you are making it too obvious you like him, until you are older then your friends brother is off limits leave the guy alone, he already seems nervous and will lost likely be voicing his opinion to his sister.  \nand at the end of the day she will choose her brother over you think about that before trying to get envolved in something which is so complacated trust me your mate wont want you with her brother, cos she will want yous to go out and meet guys together.
134327
Well, I think you should stay with the boyfriend. The brother-like guy will have to take a hike (not to be rude or anything). IF you say he is a guy friend, then he is his a guy friend. NOW if you have feelings for the guy friend, you need to do some serious thinking. But, if you just feel bad because he wants you and you don't him, you got to get used to letting people down.
315526
I don't feel as if she is a friend to you.  But "you" know if she is or not because you are around her.  It is very ironic that everyone who you've seemed to have liked she likes to and has been physical with them in some way. I feel as if no "so called" friends should fall out over a guy.  Stick to having a "true friend" someone who doesn't like who you like knowing that you like them.  You aren't losing to your friend sweetheart because as long as you know that she is liking who you like try not to be around her because a true friend wouldn't keep on doing this to you.  This has happened to me but the situation was different.  Eventhough I don't know you I'd like to become your friend or get to know you because we have something in common even if I only give you my opinions or advice.  I wish you the best and if you don't continue to be friends with her don't let it be over the guys let it be because of how she is treating you.
279751
You see, I wrote to a very close friend (girl) of mine and told her I like her. And this is what she wrote back to me. "You have done nothing wrong by telling me how you feel about me, but I would rather that staying as we are brother and sister relationship is all that I can say to you." So why not tell him and maybe you will know how he really feels about you. If he freaks out and doesn't respond to you, then he is not the right one for. Protect your heart and go slowly. I believe the right one will come along later.
349606
Well, you should be able to tell whether you have feelings for ted just by being his friend.. if you really like Justin that's a way to do it without hurting either one of them. BUT, life is too short to be with someone while wanting to be with someone else.. and no offense, but you sound young and if that's the case, you shouldn't be serious about just one guy.. play the field...most importantly.. find out who you are and what you want before you make any major decisions...do you even know if ted likes you? just have fun, enjoy life while you can, and don't hurt anyone unless its unavoidable- hope this helped
538526
You shouldn't wait another second to tell him about it. Know is the time and you should tell him exactly how you feel, cause you brother want care and will make sure he dosen't cheat on you are mess over you. S o your brother can look out for you.
211089
If you like him like a brother what does it matter?  maybe you just need to worry about school and spelling before worrying about this guy liking you.
432252
OMG!!!! i am in your shoes in the current moment!!! My guy friend of four years lives in Seattle, but is working out here in California. I so like him, but he only admires me as a friend, he loves to hang out with me, even get advise from me!!! what sucks is tht i recently told him tht i liked him & i feel weird & he's his normal self. i think tht a friend is unconditional, but we are trying to put conditions. i just think tht we have to hang in there & hope tht someone will admire us as, we admire them. sooner or later it will come!!!! Sometimes we as humans want to control, when, where & time. We just need to realize tht the time will come. We kinda have to open ourselves to the world & understand tht our love is One sided. Until then we are just hurting ourselves. they r nt the ones causing pain, we r!!!!! Be strong & hang in there. Somedays are harder than ours. But our time will come. Good Luck!!!!!
572199
Tell your friend how you really feel about him. Who knows? He might feel the same way. Any kind of relationship starts off as friends and it could develop into something more. It will also give you guys an opportunity to find out how you really feel about each other.
136570
First of all, you should find out who she is. maybe it's his sister? daughter? Just a Friend? Tell him you love him, and say it in a way, that he believes you. If he doesn't know u love him, maybe he doesn't love you or doesn't know if he does. You are a good friend, but she should get yahoo. You can get it free, if you have a different primary isp and search for yahoo on line. I did that in the past. Being that the question is from your friend, might you be the other girl? Yes, it can be hard, but you need to make the effort to tell him, unless you want to feel miserable or find another guy. Take it from your uncle (so to speak), to keep your feelings to yourself is not good, and to keep feelings bottled up, is mentally unhealthy. SO do it! It's your best option.