i am 41 yrs old married woman with 2 kids (19 and 17 yrs old) but have met a 25 yr old welsh guy who is very serious about marrying me. I am thinking of ending my 20yrs of unhappy marriage. Im worried my young bf will regret if he realise im too old for him. I am originally a filipina but is now a japanese.
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if your sure that he feels like he does for you, then you should defiantly go for it. Specially if you are sure that you cant work things out with your husband. your kids are old enough to understand at their age. Just be sure that you know what you want, so you can make yourself happy
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My husband and I are few months apart age wise and he is the older, we met at university and I believe it was love at first sight, even if we didn't realize it immediately, We married within two years of graduating and that was 14 years ago, we are still in love, so from my experience, being in love and marrying someone my own age has been a successful venture.\n\nI do disagree with sweety in saying that age gap with the man being at least 3 to 4 years  older creates respect. What creates respect is mutual understanding, love, trust, taking care of the duties of marriage as dictated by God etc, it has nothing to do with the age of the husband.\nIf your man treats you like his queen like my  husband does with me, you can't but want to care for and respect him because that is what he deserves.
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I'm 36, husband is 39. We've been married 16 1/2 years. We have four kids, ages 13, 11, 10 and 8. \nI wouldn't worry too much about not being married yet. It just means you haven't found the right person yet. Wouldn't you rather wait for "The One" rather than get married, just to say you're married. Loads of people are waiting to get married these days. I think it's wise to wait because you are more mature and know what you like or don't like and what you are looking for in a life-partner. Don't rush it. It will happen in good time and probably when you least expect it.
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my husband is 8 yrs younger than me and we are happy...I hope we always are. Been married for 3 yrs now. He is my second husband. My first was right out of high school, had one kid and 11 yrs of marriage. If you ask me my first husband was immature, cruel and mean and he was 5 yrs older than me....I wouldnt trade my current husband for an older man or any man for that matter. Im 37 and he is 29 and i am so lucky to have that...i guess its different with everyone but just because they are younger doesnt mean they do drugs and alcohol;they can do that too if they are older...
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24, recently married.  I feel that you should be over 20, also have some direction in life before you drag someone else into it.  But if it is true love you will know with out any doubts.
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In my opinion anywhere above twenty years is too much of an age difference. I have no doubt in my mind at all that you and your girl will live a happy life together forever. As long as you are both treating each other with respect and courtesy then you should be just fine. Loving her is part of it but you also have to show her that you love her. Maybe you should renew your vows if you're married (hope you know what that means), or plan a surprise trip to a country she has always wanted to visit. I know that might sound like a hassle and quite a chunk of dough out of your pocket but from your description it sounds like it might be the only thing that will work... good luck in resolving this conflict, i will keep you and your girlfriend in my thoughts and prayers
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As long as two adults find a common ground, relationships work. My BF is 20 years older (I'm 27) and I can't imagine my life without him.  We are on the same level in so many ways - maturity, goals, opinion, etc. Like any relationship, it comes down to a balance of give & take, acceptance, and respecting each other. I love him for so many reasons - he is genuine; he's not out to find the next party or club, stay out all night with friends or worry about how fast he can get his car to go. I believe people come into our lives for a reason, and we learn and grow from them. Being in love is the greatest feeling in the world and age shouldn't stop anyone from experienceing it.
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I've got a 31-year-old friend dating a 56-year-old guy...and neither of them have been married. All that's important is that the two of you are happy. Don't worry about what other people think.
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Kids these days want to grow up too fast without taking into account the consequences of supporting a family at an age where they aren't legally allowed to have a job due to their age. Your personal preferences of marriage should be respected by your fellow peers. If they have a problem with it, then don't let what they say about you spoil your mood for anything. I'm 22 not married, and also don't plan to for a LONG TIME.... \n\nAnyhow, um, if you are from a community where post-25 marriage is looked down upon, then make a stand and tell them that it's just not the time for you.
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i would marry an older man, but im only 24, and the thought of marrying someone who is 50 is a little weird. that might be a little too old. although the EXPERIENCE is intriguing....
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Of course you can ask them that is not your problem.  Personally, I think that 20 is too young to get married. I'm not saying it hasn't worked for other people but you seem to be going in an exciting direction.  Are you ready to get married I mean really prepared because if you are planning on taking it seriously it is a big responsibility.  Just being legally old enough doesn't make doing something right. Like teenagers having babies before they are independently responsible.  If he is not ready then he is not. Your life is not going to end it will just hurt. I have to tell you though,life will go on you never know maybe you fall away and get back together.  If you are meant to be it will happen you have to trust that.  Anybody is going to find being away for 3 yeas hard that is common sense.  You don't have 2 situations like get an education or stay and marry your boyfriend.  Just go on with the long distance relationship.  I assume your bf has finished school.  If he feels the same way as you maybe he will move near your school to be near. Maybe he won't . Either way you will survive. You can't predict the future you can only do what is right for your life now and let the chips fall where they may.
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I live with my bf now, I'm 39 and he is the first serious relationship I've had in 15 years. In those 15 years, I've RAN from 3 marriage proposals. Not really sure why, not so much the commitment, it was that I knew I didn't want to be married to those men. At this point I don't really care if I get married or not. This bf is the best and I'm happy. \nListen to your gut. It may not be commitment that scares you.
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Well, I'm 35 and my boyfriend is 23....so go for it! You're both adults. If you both consent, to hell with what anyone else thinks. I met my boyfriend two years ago and my mother just hates it!! But, she has to endure because we're about to have a child together (any day now). I'm not ashamed to admit that I initially pursued him because he was hot! I don't regret any of it either. \n\nA word of advice though: the age difference will crop up, no matter how hard you try to ignore it. I'm not just talking about what other people will say. It will crop up between the two of you. There are just some things you can't change and the big one is that you have way more life experience than he does, no matter how mature he may be. How each of you handles these moments will determine whether or not a relationship will work....along with all the other relating factors. Age difference doesn't have to be an obstacle if handled with care. I've had to remind myself on many occasions that I used to be his age and I used to think or act as he does. I can't change him...he's going to things his way...after all that's how we all learn.\nThe very fact that he reminds me of myself at that age is one of the reasons I love being around him. It makes me feel understood and not so alone in the world. I never had that with any other man.
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Age is just a number, and this decision should be yours and yours to make.  Try discussing how you feel with your partner and hear what his response is, if the both of you are happy, then I say enjoy it.  Life is way to short and there are many people in this world who aren't happy with there spouses and significant partners, so I say go for it.  I was with someone who was 18 years my senior and didn't care, we were both very happy but religious differences got in the way and we decided to part ways, so if you are in love and being loved, I say work it out.  Your friends either accept it or you can find other friends who are more tolerant and less judgmental.  Good luck.
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If you're happy now, then be contented with what you have. You chose to marry him despite his age and you've lasted that long together.\n\nIt is dangerous to entertain such a question...
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I married the perfect guy, but I still feel something for the man I was suposed to marry. I've contact him after 11 yrs and he is still mad at me, besides we have an ocean between us, and I dont want to leave my hubby! wilmary69@yahoo.com
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I'm married to one!  :)  \n\nHe's 10 years older than me.  Many of my friends are married to men who are 10 or 20 years older.  I'd say that between 10 to 20 year age difference isn't as much when we are more mature.  So a woman 30 years old would seriously consider a 50 year old man.  Especially if he's financially secure (not wealthy but stable) and willing to have a family---ready made (e.g., she already has children) or kids together.