As we were leaving the pub on xmas day, the landlady wished us a merry christmas and told my partner not to come in again.  When asked why she said it had been once too often.  We were sat with our four children two who are 20 and two 10 and under with no hassle.  The pub had taken our money and we had caused no upset.  Why when my partner has drunk in that pub for several years should this happen?
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Unfortunately (for you) they can ban you for whatever reason they like.  The only way you could 'fight' the ban would be if you belived the motive behind the behaviour to be sexual, racial etc... even then its more hassel to you than its worth.  \nJust keep phoning you local police station and writing to your local council saying they are blatently serving alcohol to minors.  but that could be classed as 'nasty'
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LOLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLL   Shes great!!!!!  lol.   What a fantastic idea!!!   I wonder though whether it caused a row when she got home????????\nWhat could she have done to you?  Taken away your Cash Register and then y ou would have a nice holiday...no work till you got another one lol
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Even though your upset, don't make a big deal about it.  People are funny around the holidays.  For some strange reason, traditions are hard to break.  If 12 noon and 1pm is the tradition in this family, then let your family have their tradition.  It will cause too much of a "stir" for everyone to change things around.  Also, are there going to be elderly people there???  Old people don't like to drive at night (hard to see) so they usually need events to start early so they can get on the road before dark.  There are probably several reasons why they are sticking with the early dinner time so don't take it personally.  Show up when you can, give every one a big hug, eat some left overs and be thankful you have a family to share the holiday with and also be thankful that you have a job.   Happy Thanksgiving!!!
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I think this would all depend upon his age, either way explain the rules of the house to him, and that this sort of behaviour is unacceptable. He will argue about this but its not his house its yours. If he is under 18 you have more issues to deal with then just this, perhaps grounding could work in this case, and if any of these partners are over 18 consider pressing statutory rape charges against them.
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Yes, why not have a family Festive Lunch in a restaurant that caters for kids, i.e. with a soft play area or something?  Somewhere like Whacky Warehouse, where the kids can exhaust themselves and perhaps not wake you so early on Christmas Morning, and the adults can relax in the bar?  Sounds great to me. \n\nHave fun... and a very happy Birthday. :-)
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think its abit early... \n\nbut if your daughters young.. it makes them look forward to it more so may be nice... \n\nsaw a christmas tree in the pub last night.... \n\nplus its only 50 days away!!.. whooo
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It sounds that this is a one way friendship and you my friend are the street. I would suggest that you do not call her because taking care of kids is a big responsability and it sounds like she would take your hourse if anything were to happen to them. Besides, who in the heck leaves their kids behind to go to Christmas party??? \n\nDon't call her.
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yes,many times!\n\none of the problems associated with playing pub games,can get dangerous after too many beers!!\n\ngot hit over the head with a pool cue once,that,s a lot worse!
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I dont think anybody at that party thought that ur behaviour was bad. u were just confused abt picking up the child. and people probably must hv forgotten abt it now.if u r still upset u can probably make it up to some other kid  by being kind to him or her or playing with them etc
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No,no,no,That isn't the reason at all,the real reason is that there is an "R"in the month and at this time of the year,Christmas is not far off,it happens to me all the time.Wait until May,the problem will probably resolve itself without the need for medical intervention.Good luck and don't worry,the thoughts of millions of concerned people around the world,are with you.
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YOU ARE NOT WRONG FOR KICKING HER OUT HUNNIE, YOU TOLD HER STRICTLY THAT NO DRINKING WAS ALLOWED, AND SHE DISRESPECTED YOU AND YOUR WHOLE FAMILY. YOU ROCK BECAUSE YOU PUT YOU AND YOUR FAMILY FIRST. IT DOES NOT MATTER THAT YOU HAVE KNOWWN HER SCINSE 4TH GRADE...SHE WAS A BAD FRIEND...YOU OFFERED HER A HOME AND SHE DIDN'T TAKE THE MATTER WISELY! IT IS HER FAULT AND SHE SHOULD BE THE ONE COMING BACK TO YOU SAYING SORRY. I HOPE THIS WORKS OUT AND PLEASE KEEP ON BEING SUCH A GOOD MOTHER!
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I can understand exactly where your coming from. It must be horrendous  to have Christmas without your kids and some dads not even being able to buy or send a present or even a card. That's enough to drive you to suicide, and that's why some dads do it. Its the act of not seeing their kids which puts them in that situation, and your right this is ordinary guys who may not even have done anything wrong to make the marriage breakdown in the first place but they have to suffer.\nWhen my first husband and I split up we both made sure the kids came first and there never was any issues over where they stayed, if they wanted to spend Christmas with him then that was fine with me as he was a great dad but not a great husband. Kids are now grown up and still have a great relationship with him.\nAs a mum I would not like to be in the position some dads are put in.\n\nTry and remember this is temporary, your kids will grow up mum, can only have custody til they are 16.  They will knock on your door one day. and then you'll be able to give them your side of the story.if mum has them til 16 you might have them til 70 you will win in the end, take care
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He is probably going through a bad patch of some kind. Have you spoken to him about it (I don't mean confronted). Often just a little gentle reminder of the dangers of drink will be enough to calm him down again. If it doesn't you have to make a choice.\nBeing with a drunk is never a good thing and often leads to violence. Even if it happens once get out of there and don't look back.
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Get her out of there.  I'm sorry about the money, but you don't sound like you're having that much fun.  Alcohol destroys brain cells.  You want to see her sober again while it's still possible.  Like you said, she has a problem.  You don't.  How fortunate she is to have a compassionate son!  It's not your fault that she's drunk.  But, this is a situation you might be able to do something about.
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Myself 14 years.  Happy going.\nAjoke for your question.\nA couple is celebrating their 50th Wedding Anniversary.  All the 10 Children (all married and kids) are attending the celeberation.  Lot of rush and friends, drinks etc.  The oldman by the way is seeing all these 10 sons at a time now.  He finds one among them not resembling with all the other nine.  He was restless and still sipping a drink.  He thought of asking his wife and asked her, is (our) 10th child fathered by a diffrerent man, to which the wife replied Yes my dear.  The old man was very very upset and sipped more glass of drinks.  Some how he want to know who that person is maybe one of his friends he wants to know who, abnd once again went to his wife and asked, My dear darling wife can u tell me who is that man?  Again the wife replied "YOU MY DEAR".  \n\nMoral - Dont live for longer periods after marriage or else dont celeberate wedding anniversaries after 20 years.
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I would ask him if I was such a terrible mother then why did you invite me over for brunch?  None of us are perfect, so why has he waited so long to suddenly tell you this, if it was so bad?  Can he give examples of why he thinks this?  Does he have a wife that doesn't like you and has finally worn him down?  That is really wierd, I am sorry your son is treating you that way.  Parenting is a system of trial and error and all we can do is try our best and how would he feel if his kids said something like that to him?  There is no reason to cause conflict especially when you are a grandparent and he needs to show his kids how to respect their elders, this is not a situation where you can take a do as I say not as I do approach.  You can set the example and take the higher road!
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Hi. Look this is a no win situation for you. I know as I've been there.The best thing to do is ask your man to join you no matter what the situation is. Your kids have to get use to the idea that your have a life and you are entitled to be able to get on with it just as they do. They don't ask your permission as to who they date and don't expect you to be in a mood because of it. My partner and i nearly ended up apart when we tried to please everyone. You have to think of you and your boyfriend as he will be there for you when you need him and they wont as they have there own life to get on with AS you have. Good Luck and Merry Christmas and a happy new year