our "relationship" ended a long time ago. But i know we still have this powerfull love for eachtoher that will never go away. we try and amke eachother jealous all the time. He trys to be all buddy buddy w/ my friends so he can no whats going on. I'm " buddy buddy " w/ his friends n i wanna no whats going on. But i KNOW we can never be. Too much drama with other people. Girls would wanna fight me the whole nine yards. Crazy juvinile s.hit. But i REEEEAAALLLLY want to get over him. and everytime i meet a nice charming guy i always compare him to my X. How do i let go of it all? My love for him. The memories we shared together. And eachother. How do i let go?
132628
What you're really asking is, 'how can you forget?'  You can never forget. It's part of life.  What you can do is face it, look forward, not back.  What you need to realize is it's ok to remember, because you just will... But, put it where it belongs and move on...
373347
you never know how good you have something until you give it up.  and then you regret it the rest of your life.  if you truly like this Tim guy, stick with him, if he actually has a future.  as for your other ex-bf's/guy friends, u might want to start talking to them less.  u can date someone and then break up and not see or hear from them for 10 years, but when u do see them the memories come back and it plays with your head.  the only way i can move past ex-gf's is to remove them from my life.  that might be what it takes for you too.
399742
He told you how he felt. You cant change or control him and thats what your trying to do. He was honest with you cuz you asked him to be. Theres nothing more to it, you are now broken up and have been so theres no more relationship. He doesnt have to answer to you for anything. He has every right to have a date if he wants just as you do. You are trying to control something beyond the break up and all that will do is prolong any hurt for YOU, not him. Move on and forget the friends thing for now. Maybe down the road but now you need to let go of it all.
535414
its normal to feel dat..i once like dat..bt i get over\nit..cz no use of thinking bout it..it wont change anything..4me..the moment he let me go..i decided to let him get out of my heart too..its hurt..takes years to 4get cz he's my 1st bf..dat time i was15,nw went im 19 he came back to me asking 4 patch..bt its to late..i get over him already..bt we still be gd fren till nw..  BT..if u  choose NOT to 4gt bout him its ok..cz im still in love wif my ex..he is my 2nd ex,althought its been 2yrs..i still love him n thinks bout him alot..althought we cant be 2gether our frenship is still gd...\nalthought we doesnt talk or meet often..i know deep in his heart he still love me..evn if he didnt say..n i still love him like the way U DID..\nits ok to love although he cant see..as long as it doesnt affect ur daily living..n take care of ur health
352744
You might never forget, i still think about someone from 15 years ago. Unless they were total a__holes why forget? Keep the good parts and look for someone that has those parts in them as you move forward. Relationships and friendships come and go, but you need to be able to talk it out with someone to at least start the healing. The mind and heart suck sometimes!
669999
A thing like that happened to me once. you need to move on from this relationship. you and him can still be friends but just that. find someone who will treat you right and not lead you on. you seem like a nice girl so find someone who will appreciate you.
319374
wow...I'm in the EXACT same position. I could've asked this question because I'm going through the same thing. I've been absolutely infatuated with this guy and don't know what I will do once he leaves. It's so difficult but the best way to get through it is to find another guy. It sounds much easier than it really is because no one compares to "him."
545985
You wrote that all you want is to be friends, but later state that you want to get back together with him.  It is best for both of you to leave him alone.  It is tough to move on, but just remember that there are plenty of fish in the sea.  You're gonna be fine.
142305
you need to seriously cut down on spending time with him and phone calls, etc. he's just not into you that way. the only way to get over him is to distance yourself.\n\nCall up some other friends and become very busy and important!! \n\nYou might be surprised how much you won't be thinking about him after a week or two. \n\nGetting away from the situation always puts things in perspective. you will come to find that he is not amazing enuff for you to agonize over!
311292
It really hard to Move on girl but You have to ...Well everyone was saying move on and you might think we don't know what you r feeling and just saying move on..the thing is i know how u feeling right now...you feel sad ..you want to cry and you want to tell him how much u need him/ love him and u want to show him u would do anything to get him and u want to beg him to get bak but he doesn't feel the same and u feel like u want to die is't? I been there a few month ago. he broke my heart and i feel all the thing that i'm telling you now but in the end what did i get ...he doesn't feel same as me...i'm just making my self down/worst...so i'm just relise instand of wanting him back i should try to have fun with my mate more and i should do anything that make me happy and yep i'm happy now and I'm glad i'm sigle again. I don't need them to make me happy and yep i'm not dating anyone at the moment and i don't feel like it ..i'm enjoy my single life. the thing is u just need to make ur self happy ..if u happy u don't need him but i'm very sure it going to take time ..u can't just do it overnight and ou really really need to be strong ...Anyway if u really want him back that badly try to be friend with him again first and show him u care."Love is when friendship on fire" ..."if u love a dove, let him go...if he come back he is ur ..if he not he never was"..just remember this ..it always help me but good luck
203965
Look, just because you and him didn't work out as a couple, doesn't mean that you can't just be friends. Me and my ex of 13 years just went out to the movies together today to see "Silent Hill", I paid, he drove. We hadn't hung out for 3 years! I gotta tell you though, we had a blast just hanging out and being friends. I bought lunch after at "Jack-n-the-Box", and he came over to my house to eat it. It was the first time he had ever come to see where I lived since we separated. We have a daughter together, and for her sake, we discussed it, and came to the conclusion that, even though we parted on bad terms, we could set that aside and be friends. She was very happy to know we were being nice to each other. I would never have an intimate relationship with him again, but as a friend, he is a very good guy and a wonderful daddy. Do what your heart tells you. You know in your gut whether or not it would be a good idea to hang out with him again. Just remember that ex'es are ex'es for a reason...it didn't work out. Friendships are always nice to have though if at all possible. Good luck sweetie.
263474
Hey, if the worst that happens is that you remain friends than so be it.  True friends are hard to come by.  Don't throw that away.  UNLESS-HE is still pining over you and wants more than just the friendship, than I would say, so long-you don't want to lead him on either.
409056
I know exactly what you're going through.  There's no advice that anyone can give you to get you through this, which makes it so much harder.  And I think you're doing the right thing by acting happy and like you're fine.  You don't want to wear your heart on your sleeve.  That's only for your closest of friends to know - and that's what they're there for.  You need to continue your life without him as hard as that is.  \n\nIf you know there's 0 chance of getting him back, just realize that that's the reality.  You're probably beating yourself up trying to figure out how to win him back, but reality hits hard and you just need to accept it.  You have to be happy for him if he's happy and just know that you did what you could and you can't do anymore.  \n\nSomeone once told me that guys always realize what they've done wrong when they're older and wiser, but they'll never admit to it.  Just continue with your life the way you are and cry when you need to.  If you live day to day with a sad face, it' s not going to help your situation any more.  It's not going to bring him back, not going to make you happier, not going to change anything.  \n\nTime is the only healer.  I think about my ex all the time.  He won't return any of my calls or talk to me.  So I just leave him messages telling him I'm thinking of him and if he needs anything I'll be there.  But I still don't hear from him.  So slowly, I'm letting go.  I know it's already been 4 months.  But I've known people that it's taken them a year or more to get over someone.  \n\nMaybe it just wasn't in the stars for the both of you to be together.  Take what you've learned in the relationship and only remember the good things.  I'm sure he's a wonderful guy, but that doesn't mean you'll find someone more wonderful who will make that committment to you and stick with it.  Don't rush into another relationship because you know you're still not over him.  Be honest with yourself.  That's fine if you think about him all the time - you really love him.  \n\nBut if you really love someone, let it go.  If it comes back to you it's meant to be.  And in this case, since he's moved on, it just wasn't meant to be.  I'm sorry.  I definitely know break-ups are not easy, but don't forget to continue respecting yourself.  You're not alone...
172663
hmm, tough one.\n\nI don't know the situation that you and him had that made you to break up.  But I'm guessing that he might have broke up with you.  Does not really matter much either way cause the end result is the same.... you two are not together.\n\nI think though that you did not have closure over the breakup and that you have feelings for him.\n\nWell, we see that he has moved on and that he has someone else now.  You feeling jealous seems to me that you still want to be with him.\n\nThink hard to yourself, why you two broke up?  Cause if you caught him cheating or the love wasn't really there after sometime....  Then getting back together MIGHT not work.  I'm guessing that you did not have a messy breakup since you guys are still friends.\n\nYou might be trying to hold on to memories of the good old times and think that maybe if you got back together you will have that again.  Trust me, it will never be exactly the same.  And actually its a proven fact that the human mind remembers things with an amplified emotion... that is you remember this great place when you grew up but visiting back later, you notice its not the same.  Cause your expectations are going to be set really really high.  And when it does not happen the way you remember you'll be really devistated.\n\nIf I were you....  I would tell him about your feelings if you trully want to get back together with him.  Cause this is a choice you both have to agree on, not just you.  But if you don't want, then I would say cut all ties from him.\n\nGood luck!
571524
First of all, you don't owe him a thing.  Secondly, do you really want to be friends with him?  Sounds to me like any friendship you might have would only make it harder for you to break things off, and your heart will just get trampled.  You know the score.  You know he's not going to settle down.  As hard as it might be, the best thing to do is ignore his calls for now until you're stronger, because most likely he will not take no for an answer, and will manipulate you and use guilt to continue to get his way.  Don't forget he has other girls to fall back on.  Best to let him go now with your pride, dignity, and heart still in tact.
177248
never.. move on... Going after a bestfriends boyfriend/ ex boyfriend is the worst thing i person could do. Forget him
532532
You know I've been in this same situation. It's really hard to deal with if you guys are so close. I just let my friend be and went to hang out with other people. I would call her and invite her places but she always turned me down because she had already made plans with her new man. This went on for about three months. When she called one day I told her. I'm not mad at you anymore but I would like for you to know that what you did really hurt me. We had been friends for five years and this guy comes and now you act like I don't exist. She apologized and we started hanging out again. Some people just get caught up in situations and forget about the feelings of others. You just have to put yourself in her shoes. If you were in a new relationship you might do the same thing to her. It's something new and right at this time you're just caught up in it. As long as you talk to her and tell her how you feel about it she should make it a point to try and share her time between the two of you. If she just blows you off then she wasn't a good friend to begin with and you'd be better off finding someone who cares about you and what your feelings are. Good luck with it. I hope she comes around.