I am in love with 2 men, who are quite different from one another but both of them give me something the other cant..is this selfish, what should I do? I dont want to hurt anyone but I dont want to let either of them go!
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Of course you can be in love with two.  No person has the 100% fit you want.  That's also why there are so many movie stars. Each person gives off different vibes.
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Yes, I'm sure that you can indeed love 2 people at the same time.  I'm glad that you are being faithful to your partner, if you break that bond, you can never go back.  Sometimes the grass only seems greener in another pasture.  If this other person is your sole mate, they will understand your committment to your partner, as they would expect the same from you if the two of you had already connected.  Don't pine away for something that is not in existance, or you may lose what you have already.  God Bless, Martha S.
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You have to follow your heart.  Maybe slow down rather than break up.  You might not feel the same if you were to see another woman hanging on him.  He could be smothering you which is scaring you away.  But if you truly know that you won't ever love him, then let him go.  He deserves to be loved just like you do.
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Get over it and move on.  If your contemplating what your life would have been if you had gotten serious, how much do you love the one your with now?\n\nMove on and focus on the relationship you're in now.  Keeping that friendship alive with that friend will only complicate matters in any relationship you choose to open up.\n\nLeave the other guy alone hes probably still getting over how far he fell in love with you.  He may or may not come around again but leave that up to him.\n\nIf you knew it was a good thing and he would do anything for you, was it vanity, attractiveness or simply incompatability that prohibited you from seeing exactly what he was all about?
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Back away from the married man and no one gets hurt!LOL Seriously though, don't put yourself in a position to where you become involved with a married man. He will NEVER,NEVER,NEVER be able to be there for you when you need him, on holidays, for vacations... he'll never be there in the night when you just want someone to talk to or snuggle with...he'll never be totally with you because he already HAS someone he is obligated to spend his time and money on. You can get past those feelings for him that you are developing if you stay away from him as much as possible. As for the other guy, if you have developed feelings for someone else while you were with him, then maybe your feelings for him are not what they should be. Try staying away from both men for awhile and give yourself some time alone to sort out your feelings. Right now you can't be good for either one of these men OR yourself. Good luck to you!!
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You have to decide which person means more to you the one your with or the one your not with. Your the ony one who can decide is it worth rising hurting the guy you love for womeone who your not sure that he even feels the same way.
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A person can be deeply in love with more than one other person.  If this were not so, first children would have it all and later-born siblings would be up that famous but stinky creek without a boat or paddle.\n\nI phrased it that way to try and help relieve some of your anxiety.  Yes, one can be deeply in love with two guys.  It will be a real challenge, but you will probably have to choose one over the other.  The worst thing you could do would be to allow either of them to think that he is your number one.  They should know of the importance of the other in your life and that you're still trying to choose.  They should each also know that your choice may not, in the end, be either of them!  You may find another with whom you are much more "in tune", and decide that he's the one you want to spend all your time with.  \n\nWhat to do?  Be honest with both gentlemen, and take your time.  Don't rush into a one-to-one relationship before you're really prepared for that.  Marry in haste, repent at liesure is still, after a thousand years, a very meaningful phrase.  Wait until one of 'em proves he's worthy of a special woman like you!
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Well it seems 2 me that both of them really like you, the second one more than the first. In fact from what you have said about both of them i wud say that this second guy may just be in love with you but may be scared that you dont feel the same way. Talk to them both and see where you stand. Be careful though because if im right... then youre goin to have a choice to make
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Threesome... just kidding Who do you love more? Is he worth losing your friend over and vice versa? Have you ever heard the phrase you can't make all the people happy all the time? 1.think of how you would want to be treated and 2.figure out how you're happiest.
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you just need to follow your heart which guy do you have more feelings for and which one treats you the way you want to be treated? ? no one on here can make that choice for you. you just need to decide the one your happiest with and go with it
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You have to give yourself permission to trust another person.  There could be something in your past that makes you a little nervous about getting hurt.  It's the chance we take when we fall in love, but it's a gamble and we aren't promised anything, I mean when in life are we promised anything so why should love be different.\n\nChoose your mate wisely, make sure he's committed and respectful, make your intentions clear and as does he.  Don't jump in too quick and don't be too judgmental.\n\nWith joy sometimes comes sorrow but don't deprive yourself of the wonderful feeling of being in love.  What's the expression 'It's better to have love and lost than not love at all".
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Well, if there isn't anything between them yet, there is no problem. Think about it and reverse the situation, if you were talking with someone in the manner you suggest, how would you feel if another attempted what you are contemplating?
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dont be so push and selfish, the man does not want to commit yet, \nbut then again you feel that you are going nowhere you love him but then you are not happy with that kind of situation, so i suggest move on to the other guy,test the waters see if you can be happy with him,you and the first guy you seem to be going nowhere find someone who makes you happy,and someone who is complete when he is with you,no need to get stuck with the first guy set him free, and let him set you free
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Be very careful my friend, you could be setting yourself up to be hurt. You may have feelings for this other person, but you need to remember that you "do" have two children to think about. It is belief of many that the truth will set you free, but in this case, it may end in the suffering of the most innocent of all, the kids. Please, consider holding off with this second relationship long enough to realize what you want. I know you want your children in your life, dont jeopardize that for anything. Have a nice day!
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That's a tough one! Sit down iwth each one and let them know where your heart is! If you are ready for love and want to be with this guy then tell your girlfriend and she should understand. You both should always remain friends no matter what happens between you and her brother. It can be tricky but sometimes love is tricky. If you really love this guy then you will figure it out! Just follow your heart and you will not go wrong! Good luck!
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Sadly, currently i am the other man in that kind of triangle.(except she is not marride but living with the guy) I am in love with this woman.  But she will never leave this guy.  I was being used the whole time.  You are not in love with both of these men. You just crave attention anyway you can get it and dont wont to feel guilty.  I bet if you look hard enough one of these men really do luv you and is the best for you.  But you are not a strong enough person to do the work it takes to be in a real relationship.  No matter what these men are going to get hurt. AND YES IT IS YOUR FAULT!!  you are the bad guy in this!
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stick with the one you like more and let the other go. dont hold onto someone when he could be finding someone who will care for him more