I work in a retail business and all the mgnt is female,Im harassed all the time by being called a womans boy.I weekly am forced to to work that they wont make the females of same level as me do,my work schedule is different,they give female mgrs time off to be with there boy freinds,If i say some thing in confidence it makes its way out to other assc. and creates a hostil work enviroment for me and when I told the mgnt she laughed so I had to transfer to get away from humiliation.NOw the the female has quit I transfered back to my original position and I still harassed
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Not that I really want to admit this, but you may have to change jobs.  If you choice to work in a female dominated job position, that's one of the prices you have to pay.  I'm so sorry that it happens, but it does all the time when you work with almost all females.  It happens to all Male Nurses, just BC its always been a female job.  Sorry!!!  I would say the same thing, file a suit, but its hard to prove a female sexual harassed you, they would turn it back on you and have the others back them up, not all females!!!  But, theres that word, is all I can say, and sorry
30211
What you are aware of is a product of women in the work place.  It is not fair and is not just and might not even be legal, but it does happen.  Not to promote any stereotype, but some women (and it is just a few, but no means most or even many) do sleep or blow their way to the top (or at least into a position to get their way).  Some only need to flirt.\nIt sounds like your boss is a bottom feeder.  If he is so easily manipulated then perhaps this is not the place for you to be.  His is not going to change and I doubt that your co-worker will either.  You must put up with it and just do your job or leave.  Those are your only choices right now.  If things become unbearable, before you leave (such as having to work seven day a week) look into the labor laws.  If the idiot in command is doing anything illegal, turn him in.  But first document what he did or is doing.\nThis job is only a tool for helping you get through school.  If it becomes more of a burden that it is worth, no matter how good it pays, then start looking around immediately.\nYou do not have to work at a place like that.  You do not have to work for an inconsiderate person (of any gender).  Your emotional well being is more important than accepting money from a person who does not appreciate you.  Even if you have to drop out of school for a semester to find a better job.\nThe best job is one that you can think “Wow, and these people are actually paying me to do this!”  The worse are those that make us say “Oh crap, I gotta go to work now.”  The choice is yours.  It is your life.  But take it from an old fart who was so happy that he learned when to say “Take this job and ….”
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First and don't take this in the wrong way, but you have a lot of pent up anger that you really need to speak to someone about.\n\nNow for my comment, in many countries outside of the U.S. women are treated like dirt, especially in many mid eastern countries.\n\nWhat is not fair in the US, is women can open wear male clothing (which they do) and no one bats an eye.  But a man in a skirt or dress?  Society dictates that is not 'normal' behavior and the man then needs to see someone.\n\nFYI, in your line five above, I went to a job interview once and they told me that they were looking for a woman to fill the job.  I wonder how they would have reacted if I showed up later on all dressed up.\n\nSociety still has a long ways to go towards acceptance of all who fit within the transgender umbrella. Discrimination is around us and strikes at all of us from different angles.  Only through education can this obstacle be eliminated.
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What she is saying is a mirror of her own behaviour projected onto you without any thought about the damage she is doing.  \n\nThis person needs to be treated with the same disregard that she shows you, if she does it again just remind your self that you do not have to defend or justify who you are to this girl.  This is typically girl bullying behaviour and as such you need to tackle it as you would with any other bully.  \nShe is defiantly jealous and scared that you might be better than her, so in a way its a compliment that she takes the time to nit pick your personality, almost bordering on an obsession perhaps that needs pointing out to her.  \nDon't let her take away your confidence you are the nicest person you know and you should not take her opinion on board after all she just passed judgement on a wonderful person who might one day be her boss....
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If you're not "Flaming", it's not only unfair, it's possibly illegal.\nYour boss has a right to demand that you behave in a professional manner but does not have the right to censor your personal life or ask you to lie.\nSpeak with a lawyer before you act on my belief that it's unlawful discrimination or sexual harrassment, because the law may be different in your jurisdiction.
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Just tell her the truth and if she begins to go off, just leave.  You don't have to worry about seeing her anymore if you quit so who cares what she thinks.  Or you can stand your ground and when she begins to go off just say, "Look!  This is exactly why I am quitting.  I deserve to be treated with respect and any manager that runs a respectable business would know that it is inappropriate to humiliate an employee in front of other coworkers.  As for you constantly accusing me of theft without any proof...some people would consider this harassment and grounds for your dismissal."  That should shut her up.  Good luck.  I've had one too many bosses the same way.
34582
U should find someone that V will listen to, say W, and have W talk to V. if things still dont change then U should Report V for harassment.
489078
No one likes to be shouted at in a working environment.  It says a lot about your boss.  She needs to take some classes on how to deal with employees, and shouting at them is not one of them.  When she acts this way again, nicely tell her you are trying your best and ask her why she is shouting at you.  If she gives you some demeaning answer, find another job.  You don't have to put up with that.
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This happens alot especially in smaller businesses where you have family members or people who have worked for the company for a long time. Plant a small tape recorder somewhere near the place where people have a tendency to gather and talk. Break room, smokers area, lunch room.You might be able to head off some of the roomers before they get to your Boss. Try to make them look foolish. You cannot play this for your Boss but it could come in handy if things got to a point of he said she said. These 2 people do not like you because the boss obviously likes your work and they feel threatened. Whether the threat is real or not. In private explain to your Boss the situation at hand and without pointing the finger at the 2 girls who have it in for you. Just tell him that you are not like that and he will have to form his own opinion about you. You like working here but you will seek another position elsewhere if he feels that theses accusations are true. Ask him if he has had this happen with other employees? Sometimes they don't see a pattern until you bring it up? Had the same problem with the New Head Chef where I work. She was out to get me fired because I was too meticulous in my work. She would tell people what she made and then blame me in front of the boss for telling people what she made(I am the Payrolll clerk/Bookkeeper) I stuck to my guns and stayed on top of her all the time. I finally saw a problem with things missing and people fighting with each other all the time. I went to my Boss and left him a note saying think about when your problems here all started? I left it at that. He started watching her more closely and found out she was stealing stuff from the freezer on a daily basis. He fired her and apologized to me and we have a very good trust relationship going now. It was not easy and I had to bite my tongue many many times. Be careful if you use the tape you may hear things you did not really want to hear. Stick to your guns and keep your cool. If they think they are starting to wear you down they will keep on doing it. If they think it isn't working they will give up.
536210
It's called a making pass. If he repeats that kind of stuff too often, or tries to leverage his boss status to make you accept it, then it becomes harassment.
295794
being a bully is one thing. Harassment is another. If he has crossed that line then you have a duty to report his inappropriate behavior to management.  If he's just giving you a hard time try your best to ignore the pinhead. Then.....Fire his butt as soon as you get the chance
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Tell your boss. She is being irresponsible.  You are being taken advantage of, you need to stand up for yourself.
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you should tell them you don't appreciate them disrespecting you and especially in front of people if you keep letting them do it there not going to stop. until you let them know how you feel .your just being too nice and that's OK but you have feelings too . tell them to treat you like they want to be treated ,they shouldn't threaten your job either that's not very professional .she could lose her job also  and start taking your lunch i would just do my job and go home you dont need friends like them .
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You are the entire HR department or you just work there?  If there are others, they must take your complaint seriously or risk legal action.\n\nMake sure you document clearly every single episode (you have been doing this, right?) including time and date and other witnesses.\n\nYou are correct that no one has to endure this in the workplace.  It sounds like sexual harassment as well.  Your company employs this contractor, so they are liable for his behavior as well as the individual.\n\nIf your company continues to do nothing, go get a good lawyer and make this stop immediately!  You deserve it!\n\nGood luck!
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Not at work.  If comments like this are made at work, you have a harrassment situation.  That causes a hostile environment for the women.\n\nThe way you handle this is to politely ask the person to stop making comments like this.  Make sure you write down the time, date, the words you said, and hopefully have a witness.  Do it at least twice.\n\nIf it continues, complain to your supervisor that you are in a hostile environment.  They are required by law to do something about it.
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Eesh.  You've got a difficult situation.\n\nI would not file a lawsuit unless you want this to drag on for years and other women have been harassed as well and complained to no avail.\n\nI would, however, file an official complaint against him so that it's on his track record with the company.  That way, should another woman be in this situation, the company can't say they didn't know about it.\n\nIf the company penalizes you for the complaint, then you have a case.  Otherwise you can't blame the company when they acted on your complaint for not doing something when they weren't aware.  In this case, they seem to have reacted to the issue.. but still something official needs to be filed.
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There is at least one of these in every company. If the girl is a co-worker (meaning she is at the same level as you and has no supervisory authority over you) tell her in a direct, yet professional manner how you feel and that you will not tolerate her bullying tactics. If the girl is in a higher position than you but is not your direct supervisor, first get absolute clarification from your direct supervisor as to whether this girl has any supervisory responsibilities over you and if she doesnt then tell her in a direct, yet professional manner how you feel and that you will not tolerate her bullying tactics. If the girl has any supervisory responsibility over you and your boss is unwilling to step in and support you and you feel that you cannot continue with these bullying tactics then you should start to look for another job.\n\nIn the meantime focus on doing your job to the best of your abilities and try to ignore her if at all possible.