Im scheduled to go to prison soon and want to know how I can protect myself from getting raped or killed while iin prison
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the only way to not get bugged is to not be in there in the first place. you did a crime and now you gotta pay for what you did. doesnt matter how bad the crime you gotta learn the hard way. i have no sympathy for anyone goin to jail, no matter what the crime. if you didnt deserve to be there then you wouldnt be on your way. tough luck buddie
488216
Many rapists (and worse) start out that way, you need to be pro-active in getting this guy caught.  I like the above suggestion of surveillance camera.  Anything to trap him, get him identified and behind bars will help society at large.  Do your duty.
610628
That is exactly what this is. (post traumatic stress disorder)First off, if you know your attacker then turn the bastard in. He has no right to do that and not pay for it. Second, seek a peer group. There are others who have had similar experiences. Good luck with all of this
108058
I am a social worker who has worked in this particular area. I have worked in a domestic violence shelter. The first thing is to "catch" the perpetrator in the act and then call the police but the person who is being harrassed needs to call and be there when to p.o. gets there and they will then direct you to go down the magistrate if you want to and take the restraining order out
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Everyone wants to jump in on this question, don't they? over 20 responses within 25 minutes, and who knows how many more by the time I finish typing this!!! \n\nMy answer:\nHell yea you should be afraid if someone is pressuring you to do something you are unsure of. It'll probably most likely hurt in more ways than one. \n\nSounds like you are a potential rape victim, either that or a cop trying to catch perverts.
270434
i would reccomend the following site:\n\nhttp://www.courtinfo.ca.gov/selfhelp/protection/
629065
First and foremost, rape is rape. There is no psychological benefit to it being a woman instead of a man. I'm not sure how old you are, but I would recommend you find a decent counseler and talk it out. There is no statute of limitations on the rape hotline, and they can recommend help for you. Some places have Rape/Spouse abuse crisis centers where people who have been through these types of ordeals can help you with the steps you need to take. The second thing I want you to know is that you did nothing wrong. There is nothing you could have done that would justify the robbing of a part of your humanity, and rape does just that. I'm not sure how the law handles something like this after a year, so I can't tell you whether you can still prosecute, you'll have to talk to your state attorney general's office.\n\nGood Luck
362840
Deb, if your husband has been in prison for any length of time, you know that absolutely nothing is going to be done about it.    If Staff didn't do anything about it at the time, nothing will happen.   Be glad that he is in lock-down where he can't be hurt.   There's a reason he got stabbed, and he may not want that reason advertised, or he would have filed Admin Remedies by now. \n\nPrison life is one big "cover-up" and attorneys fees start at $1000.00 for a deposit to look at your paperwork.   And you will find a serious shortage of witnesses willing to testify about what or why it happened.   The pro bono people are much too busy trying to get innocent people released after years of incarceration, instead of working for free on a yard stabbing, which probably happens twice a day.\n\nIf you're new to this, this is simply life in prison for them.   I knew a young man who was gang-raped and died from the injuries because the FCI only had one doctor for 2000 men.   I knew a diabetic inmate who died in his wheelchair outside the med unit, even tho other inmates had tried to get attention for him.   If you have a heart attack in prison, you are dead. \n\nI understand that you're angry, but you will burn yourself out trying to find any sympathy from 99% of the outside population, including the media.   Turn to God or whatever you believe in, because you're not going to get a lot of help elsewhere.\n\nGood luck to you and your husband.
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Well, I guess this is something you should have thought of before you decided to become a criminal.  As for getting approved after four months, it's pretty simple.  Don't cause any problems while you are in prison.  Take a prison job or get job training if it is offered.  Whether or not you get paroled is up to you and the actions you decide to do while in there. And comprehend that you are in there because of something you did, do not try to make yourself out to be some victim jailed for no reason.
518661
Leave all is info with a friend, including any pictures of him.  Meet in an open safe place.  Bring someone with you.  Take your own car and don't let him know where it is parked.  In my community we had someone who was just arrested for meeting ladies on line and raping them.  He was quite handsome too.  So beware and have fun.
102346
This is a tough question. First, you need to have a grasp of the mental process that a person goes through while in prison. It will totally change a persons values, moral code etc... survival instincts take over and pretty much rule the persons mental state. (there are tons of articles on this in the Journals of Psychiatric Medicine and the Bethesda Journal of Medicine) It is almost impossible for a person who has never been incarcerated to fully comprehend what an inmate has to physically survive on a day to day basis. The mentality of inmates is very complex when it comes to homosexual relationships while in prison. They will emphatically deny that they are gay, but have no qaulms about having sex with another man. In my personal opinion I think it is done for control issues more so than relief of sexual frustration or desire. In the case of your boyfriend, that he admitted to you his sexual encounter is a huge step. If this is something that you can't get accept, then you need to to have some indepth talks with him. Find out the circumstance, his reason etc... I can't say that I understand the mental process that allows a person to totally step outside of their sexual "comfort" zone, but if you love this man it is worth at least trying to empathize. Good Luck.
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Only just seen your question.\nAvoid dark places - stay in the glow of the street lights if you can, and even if there are not many people - wait in the station doorway until people are walking the way you want to go.\nTry to leave work with a friend or colleague - safety in numbers.\n\nDo not carry an offensive weapon - that will bring you more trouble than it will get you out of.\n\nTry taking self defence classes in your spare time. It will give you more confidence, but be careful not to tackle any attacker until you are sure - really sure - that you can fend them off.\n\nDo not be afraid to make as much noise as you possibly can if approached suspiciously and if you think you are being followed - wait until you get to a well lit area, preferably with people around - then turn and confront eh person following you. Ask them loudly what they think they are up to - shout it if you can. They will be scared off, I can almost guarantee it.\n\nAnd if you seriously think you are in regular danger, then go to the local police and tell them. Give them reasons. They will, believe it or not, actually raise their awareness if they can. This alone will make you feel more safe.\n\nGood luck and do not let the b'stards win.
218096
kick in the door, use a bat. haha \n\nOK really, call the sheriff, its the only way you will really be able to it and cover your ass.  If they cant do it they will be able to tell you how.
139451
I'll tell you as best as I can:\nUpon entrance to jail (called booking, if it hasn't already been done, you will be fingerprinted, photographed and processed into the system.  They may do it immediately, or you might have to wait in a large room with seats or benches and sometimes a TV to watch.\nYou will then be asked about your medical/psychological history, usually prefunctory, basic stuff to assess that you are not suicidal, pregnant, addicted to drugs etc.  Also if you have a condition, you need to tell them so that you can get your meds.  If you have money, you can put it into your inmate account so you can get things at the commissary. They usually put a plastic bracelet on you as well.\nYou will then be escorted to a tiled room with a shower and asked to disrobe.  You will also have to take off all your jwewlery, includng earrings or body peircings.  You will be told to take your contacts out, if you wear them (be sure to bring your glasses, contacts are not allowed in jail) You will be searched.  Sometimes, they will just take a glance at you, make sure you are not hiding a gun, or drugs.  Sometimes it is a little more invasive: they might look into your nose, peel back your eyelids, or do a finger wave of where the sun never shines.  They might ask you to squat and cough.  You will then be made to shower, usually with delousing shampoo.  They will usually spray you down after.\nYou will dry off, then change into the jail attire.  It is usualy a blue or onange one-piece jumpsuit, sometimes it is two pieces (top and bottom).  Some jails actually use striped suits, and some use hospital type gowns.  Most likely, though a one piece jumpsuit.  You'll usually get flip flops or non laced sneakers.  Usually sentences inmates wear a different color from unsentenced.\nYou will then be given bedding (usually a pillow and case, thin mattress two blankets and two sheets), toilet paper and soap and led to the houising area.  This can be a dorm, or a single cell.  It will most likely be a cell you share with one or two inmates.\nTypically, it has a bunk bed,some shelves to store your stuff, a steel sink and toilet, usually in one unit.  Your cell might have a barred front with windows outside the cell, or a solid door with a small window and then the cell has its own window.  Natural light is not a requirement, though, so you migt have a cell/cellblock with no windows at all.\nThe cellblock (sometimes called a pod)has anywhere from 8-30 cells and usually has tables and chairs to eat at or play games etc, maybe some excercise equipment, and a TV.  There are usually a couple of showers you can use every couple of days.\nYour time in jail will be boring at best, miserable at worst.  You will grow tired of watching TV.  There will be little variety in your diet.  You will usually consume about 2300 calories per day (no seconds).  A lot of white bread, processed meat (think 70s style TV dinner).  You will get Kool Aid, but no juice (they don't want inmates making wine out of it)\nThe best advice is to not take sides, keep to yourself, but be amiable.  In other words, no harm in playing a game of cards with someone, but think twice before giving out personal info.  Avoid the race card.  Be respect ful of the guards, but not chummy. Don't do anything to appear aggressive, or anything to look like easy pray.\nYour day will involve a lot of boring TV (usually no cable), card/checkers games.  If you read, you will go through a lot of books (there is usually a limit to how many books you can have in your cell)\nGenerally speaking, your visits will be done through a window (like at the movies)where you will speak through a phone (sometimes monitored).  By appointment you can have a contact visit, however you cannot touch except for an initial embrace, and the table has a 2 foot plexiglass screen bisecting it, so it is kind of pointless.  Also, contact visits involve a strip search.\nIf you are nonviolent, you are not likely
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never let people walk all over you, dont ever be a victim. i work in a state prison and i hear from these guys all the time , they have no regret for what they did or who they hurt all they care about is their rights, not their victims rights. it doesnt pay to be nice , the nice person always gets screwed.
421834
Get company....where ever you go.....never be alone......get protective weapons if possible for self defense.......
655837
set yourself up so that for the period your in prizon your making more money than when you were free with clever use of investments. recreate the kind of conditions at home that your likely to experience in prison, so the shock factor of going in is minimised, and get commitments from as many people as you can that they will visit you while your in, and get lots of phone numbers memorised so you can call them from the yard, and start using a vibrator so your able to sleep on your first night inside after some fun with your celly. The idea of all this is to prepare for the painful experience of being there, the whole purpose of which is to crack you mentally and instill a deep fear of going back in once you get out. This advice is not gonna make it any easier, but atleast you'll get used to the life inside at record speed.