me and my boyfriend broke up 20 times and we keep going back out with each other we want to be together but i don't think it's right should we be together or not
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I guess the answer is WHY are you breaking up.  Are you just wanting the attention that a fight provides?  If that's the case you need to do some serious sorting out.\n\nIf you just can't get along and are getting back together because you don't like being alone then do yourselves a favour and end it so that you can both move on.
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if its ment to be you will be together.\n\nYou should stop hanging out with and meeting him. He will miss you and if he loves you and if you are the one, he will realise it.\n\nRemeber- if you love something- let set them free. If it comes back it will always be yours. if it doesnt it was never yours to begin with.
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hey girl my ex boyfriend for 1year and a month he also went out with one of my friends when they were going out he relized that he should be with me just give the guy time and maybe you to will get back together just give him space and let him relize that you are the one for him
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I would give it a little bit of time and then ask yourself. Are you ready to give this another try or are you starting to feel better and are able to move on?\n\nSomeone once told me people break up for a reason and that they should always stick to their original idea. Of course this is not always the case but just do what you feel is right deep down. \n\nHope everything works out!
267160
It's only been two weeks.  I know it's cliched, but give it time, devote yourself to other things and spend more time with your friends and family.  Eventually, you'll see that you made the right decision and remember why you broke up with him in the first place.  If, in three or four months, you still feel the same way, you need to re-examine the entire situation.  Hopefully, by them you'll have someone that either is or potentially is a better fit for you.
147125
I know this is probably not the answer you are looking for, and I don't know your age... but you are probably still young.  Just take a break.  Normally if you keep getting together and breaking up over and over... well it's most likely not going to last anyways.  If you are young, remember you are going to have TONS of relationships.. and first thing is first... if you 2 have trust issues IT WILL NOT LAST.  You need to be with someone who you trust and who can trust you, the first sign of trust issues is when you need to back out.  You should have fun and not stay committed to just 1 person for a long time (if you are young)  Go have fun.. and you will know when that one guy comes along that he is for keeps!  I went through rough relationship after rough relationship.. and then one day I met my husband!  And I have been happy eversince.  But also remember, learn from these relationships you are currently in and going to encounter... they will help you in the future when it comes to finding your TRUE LOVE!
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Hey everybody gots there limit and he reach yours. there's nothing wrong with that. you bf is a pig, not was, IS. I don't think it's a question of right or wrong it's about your standers and u have that right as a human being. we all have to draw the line in the sand sometime. on the other hand if u really love him and he loves u and your thinking of getting back. he going to have to change all of that or your just going to break up with him again. sometimes telling a person once, they just  don't get it but maybe he will try the second time and if that don't work  then you know  he not going to change anything.
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If you decide to go with him, make sure you don't develop feelings because you could wind up hurt in the long run.  If he is constantly getting back together with his girlfriend, it may happen after you date him.  Be very wary of this.
256709
look ..i'm in the same setuation as you r ...my ex said he not ready ..so we broke up. And i'm not the kind of girl who give up on everything and trying to get what i want but i just relise what is the point of tryting to get someone who doesn't want me. so i think i should be happy with single life and i don't need them to make me happy. But i love him so i give him what he want ..he want to be friends and i friends with him and he don't want me to hate him and angry ..so i don't and i just trying to be cooling off and i don't show him how much i need him and i told him i'm happy and give him his need but at the same time i'm making my self happy and enjoy my life without him...who know, i believe their is someone out there is waiting for you and me ...and i know i will be inlove again and so do u...but if he want to come back let him be and if he don't just set him free as he wish ...\n\nRemember if u trying to make ur self happy and if you happy life is good ...this is just a part of life ..let them go ...
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It doesn't sound like you want him so it would be WRONG to go back to him.\n\nAlso it didn't work out the first time, so it probably wont work this time.
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i'm in the same situation.....i guess the ball is in your court now...play it cool to see what he wants. Then you decide if you wanna be with him or not...he might do it again and break up with you.
113014
There is nothing wrong with you, you are just growing up.  From the ages of 17 to 25 people grow and experience a lot of stuff.  It is a time for them to really begin to figure out who they are and where their lives will eventually lead.  Unfortunately sometimes that means we grow apart and away from relationships we previously thought would be with us forever.  I think you will probably need to let your boyfriend down and be single for awhile so you can continue to grow and figure out who you are and what you want in life.
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Be honest with him and you will thank yourself later on. Maybe some time apart is just what you need, and later you will either decide that you are good for each other, or the time apart will show you that you just weren't meant for each other. Whatever you do, you will always do best if you remain honest with everyone involved.
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Think about the times when you are not with this guy, do you feel like your relationship is helping you or hurting you?  It sounds like you could be in an non-exclusive relationship, which is OK as long as it's not causing either of you more harm than good. \n\nI would suggest that you examine your own feelings as best you can and decide if you want to ask this guy for a committed, exclusive relationship - Is he really what you want? Once you tell him that's what you want and clearly define it, then you can see what he says.  If you feel you can trust him offer to wipe the slate clean and pursue an honest monogamous relationship with him.  Then if he strays it's time to move on.  \n\nJust be sure that continuing a relationship with this guy is what you want. If this whole situation is driving you crazy and upsetting you, take that in to consideration.\n\nA breakup is painful, but it will get better.  Staying in a bad relationship can just keep the distress alive.\n\nWe learn many lessons in life, most of them are not easy.  Everyone here can give you their opinion, but none of us are you.  Ask yourself "Am I a happier and better person over all by staying in this relationship?"  And Listen to your answer from within and follow it.
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why would you want to break up with if you want to get back with him later. is this really fair on the guy??
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I think you should both go to couples counseling to determine the problem. It sounds to me like you shouldnt be together, but counseling would determine that.
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What you have to do is remember that you're x's for a reason, don't dwell on all the happy, romantic stuff that went on with you and him, think of why you broke up and how you felt and what the problems were.  There's always a good reason why we break up with someone.