what mannerisms are to be maintained in todays fast moving techno world by children ., how are parents suppose to teach children not to ask for unreasonable things in front of guests ,friends etc at home or at a party or at a mall.
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We had a few rules for our kids.  We didn't eat in the living room; we ate at the table.  No shoes on the furniture.  We treated them with respect.  The rules are whatever you want to teach your children.  Talk things over with them.  We were at the grocery store once with a mother and her 2 children.  The boy wanted something and fussed til he got it.  My kids knew that fussing would not get it.\nI think it shocked my son to see the other boy fussing.
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Well, Quiet,\n It seems to me that the majority of people here are 20's and below. Their lifestyle has always included instant, within-seconds types of responses. Everything happens at the speed of light, so they ask the question, give it a minute, check the answer then move on to IMing their friend or whatever electronic, flashy toy they're playing with.\n This is meant with no disrespect, its just that they do their thing, get the info they need, and move on. You can tell that they're in a rush, as half of the questions asked are in shortened form, or some kind of electro slang that's popular with the kids now. I mean, if you can't take 5 minutes to properly spell and grammatically check your question, do you really think that they'll be back to give you a rating?\nMy opinion on the issue.\nCheers !!
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Make them laugh.  That always gets a child's attention.  Be silly dance around, play music and make funny faces.  I've had three kids and making things they don't want to listen to fun or funny always worked.  They are 11, 10 and 7 now and it still works...although my oldest will turn her head now so I can't see her laugh. : )
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I have witnessed the same thing happen not in a restaurant, but in someone's dining room. Kids aren't taught any manners today because the parents are too busy with their own selfish pursuits. It makes me sick. Think about who will be running this country 30 years from now. Frightening.
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Kids with cell phones is riduculous! 4 years old is way too young. Kids are growing up too fast nowadays. THIS MADNESS NEEDS TO STOP!!!!!!
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That's a tough one. I don't know how you handle discipline in your house but something that has worked for me (I am the primary care taker for my boyfriend's two children who are both from different unions) is using a good marble/bad marble system. I know it sounds kinda corny at first, but, you make a customized fair list of the behaviors that are not acceptable (whining and petty tattling is on our list) and they get a bad marble (btw we have pickle jars labeled good and bad) anytime they exhibit these behaviors and if they get too many (say 5 or more depending on how minor or major they are) they get restricted from a privilege. However, it wouldn't be any fun if they didn't get rewarded when they are behaving so you can make a list or decided on a moment to moment basis if they are being good (sharing, doing things when told, remembering to put a plate in the sink etc.. whatever works for your household) and if they get so many good marbles I let them make a list of a few fun things we can do around the house for 30 minutes, and another short list of things we could do that would cost a little more that we would have to drive to or something like a small toy and I reward them weekly with something fun for being good and helping me out.  You may need to do it as a daily system. I used to use it daily but now that the boy is older and better behaved we only have to use it weekly now. Sometimes children just need a little guidance and to know what the rules are, and to know what is unacceptable and when they can see that their behavior is not good consistently and they are rewarded for being good they will want to change.. especially if you make a big deal out of them being good.  Good Luck... hope this helps or gives you some ideas anyway.
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Some people don't have any respect for other's piece of mind, period. A well-behaved child is such a rarity these days. Polite society is becoming extinct.
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Proper etiquette was ingrained in me as a child. My mothers side of the family has a strong "proper English" back round and it just was a way of life. Hospitality was the norm. Being polite at our own dinner table at home was always upheld. It was very nice to have my fathers side of the family to balance this out. They were often blunt and had a hearty appetite for laughter, even in public.\nI am grateful that I was raised with both. I can enjoy the company of a variety of people and not just those that are "socially acceptable"(heavy quotation marks there)\n\n"Please" and "Thank you" I think are just the cornerstones of good manners. Politeness is something that shows respect as well. Being courteous to strangers is a must for me. I would want the same in return.\n\n How important are they? On a scale of 1 - 10 I would say an 8. Very important. But certainly not the most important things in life.
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I am totally respectful.  If I am in a place where they expect people to be quiet, I'll be quiet.  Not just the at the library, at church too.  I just hate when people are rude and loud and don't care about interrupting others.  I also hate the parents who go to church and let their children behave like if they were in a party.  You need to teach your children respect too.
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I think alot of parents are teaching their kids at home because they want to control what is being taught  to their kids. I am one of those parents. They are teaching kids therorys instead of facts. I teach my kids facts about life.
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children will play with each when little...\nracism is taught to children by adults!!!
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No one says "excuse me", "thank you" or "I'm sorry" anymore. Especially children. It is almost as if parents feel that common courtesy is too old fashioned.
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You know, this kind of info really gets me going. I am old fashioned and it really pains me when people keep pushing things to be accepted by society onto our children. The system was working before, why change it? If it is not broke, don't fix it!\n\nThey push things like "No child left behind" and pushing to get harder curriculum's, but they have not one clue for some idiotic reason that it is at this level that we really need to pay attention to what our children are being taught. Do people not see that society has gotten worse? So obviously things are not working. They need to quit messing things up before it gets so bad that it becomes totally acceptable that our children are being led to believe that it is ok to be immoral because it is what society accepts. Then eventually marriage and the traditional "mom" and "dad" will be phased out.\n\nI have enough to deal with as a parent on issues like evolution and a teacher arguing with my child that it is true.\n\nGot my blood boiling now........I am on board on stopping this, tell me how to help!!!
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Questions should not be accumulated and memorized. They should come naturally within instruction or conversation with the kids.\n\nShe needs to decide what topic she's going to do with the kids, then ask questions about it that are about the things the kids can see, hear, touch, etc. or for them to draw conclusions (start with one step, then add if they are doing well). For instance, if she does want to talk about colors with the kids, she could do some fingerpainting or watercolors with them. Only give the kids the primary colors (red, yellow, blue). Have them try mixing the different colors. Ask "What color does red and yellow make?"\n\nOr lets say she wants to teach the difference between living and non-living things. She could put a rock and a caterpillar on the table, and ask the kids "What is the caterpillar doing?" "What is the rock doing?" "What can the caterpillar do that the rock can't do?"
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parenting parenting parenting,  nowadays kids are not scolded for doing wrong or taught how to interact with others.  Hate to say it but the internet is a big reason.  Kids chat online without actually meeting people alot of the time so there social skills suffer.  I saw some poor kid apply for a job and he didnt even look at our boss. Didnt dress for interview and didnt say much but mumble.  He later admitted to me that he was afraid to talk to people because he didnt get out much. Spent most free time with video games and the internet.
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CHILDREN! Please! Play nice.
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there's more than 4 models, i don't get your question quite clear but let me see if I can help, I believe communication is the main key in any relationship, you need to communicate your kids about your believes and thoughts, rules to follow and role your kids play in the house and society, discipline; your kids need to know who's the boss at home and they need to know to respect adults at your house and why not mention on the street as well, love; we all need to feel love and tough love is another way to love as well,persistence; they need to learn that they can achieve anything they want by being persistent and you need to be the best example for them...good luck and I hope you get something from this