This question is for those over the age of 28. I am in a relationship with a girl who has let me climax in her mouth once. She said that she doesn't want me to do it anymore. She is also claiming that we now have sex with condoms. She is in a relationship and she lives with her man, but they are not married. Could the sexual behavior change in her be tied into the fact that she doesn't actually love me? And is it possible for a woman to befriend a man for over a year and a half, have sex with him and not love him? I say this because we were friends for that long before we insisted on having sex with one another. And I asked everyines advice on here before I begain a sexual relatioonship with here. I am really in-love with her, but is it possible that she does not feel the same way?
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She`s obviously not in love if she has another man. The change in your relationship is because she can`t get any diseases from you(hence the sudden condom use)because then her "REAL" man would know she was having an affair if he got what you gave her. She might of thought of you as special at one point, or maybe you gave her something her man wasn`t giving her, but It`s obvious now she made her choice and you`ve become the secret little side thing.
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i think it depends on age and what you want from a relationship.has this person got no interest in sex or is that just sex with you.by you asking this question you have doubts about being with this person, if nothings going  to change and you want it to, maybe you should think about splitting with this person and remaining good friends with them.\nas for me, coz im not the norm and if i really loved them,i would stay with them.
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If it's a women..its a Nymphomaniac.. if it's a guy it's called just another guy. If they're very sexual then they probably do fuck around a lot, or just do it a lot.. they probably are lying about the 5year thing but it's possible.
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In my opinion that's not love. Love never exalts itself and it is never self seeking. The emotions have a tendency to run wild when being satisfied, but i wouldn't confuse it with love. \nIf the sex stopped, would you still hang around?
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I think that you said you wanted him for sex and that is what happened. he probally kept his feelings out of it on purpose. Time does not matter, however; what does is how you spent your time, when you were together. It is possible for something that started out as LUST to turn into love, but it is very rare. If that is what you want then you should disscuss it with him, but Do not be suprised if he uses you for anything more than what he is already used to, and that is his sex toy. That is what you two were to each other, SEX TOYS. You should never mistake LUST for LOVE.\n\nIt may be better for you to find someone else if you want love, start over and this time have respect for your man, and make sure he has respect for you.\n\nIf you do find another sex toy don't fall in love with him, and don't move in with him either, or it may be hard for you not to fall for him.\n\nIf he knows how you feel don't chsase him, because more than likely he just wants to remain you Fxck buddy. Can you blame him when you were the one who approached him with "Can i use you for sex?" If he had any feelings or any respect for you, they died once THAT question left your lips.\n\nIf he does come to you, it will be because he wants more sex, not a relationship.
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My girl is the same way and I am 23. It's sorta weird for me not to be in control of when we have sex. I believe if she didn't want to have sex so much then I would. Its a weird situation but I think its true.
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Simply, she doesnt want to be committed.  She wants to be "friends with benefits".  Something she doesnt feel tied down to.  Why that is, is up to her, really.  Was her last relationship that bad, maybe?  Does she want to not be exclusive to one person?  An honest conversation would do wonders.
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Why do you sound so surprised that you are attracted to women in this age group? I dont think it tapers off, it may just become a little less intense. Remember when you were a "young man" and sex was like fireworks all the time, what does it feel like now that you're 44? It's the same for women
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Well if he wants to have sex with you, he might get kinda fed up eventually, dont you think? Why do you want to keep him but not have sex with him. Sex is part of love. Is he a potential lover or just your sugar daddy or something?
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YES!!!  It is perfectly possible for that to happen, I have 2 friends that dated for 8 years and did not have sex till they got married.
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I would have trouble being a friend with someone that doesn't care who she hurts...\n\nAs for either sex loving... there's no problem with it, if it makes you happy and fulfilled.
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Hello:\n\nI've never personally been invovled in a no-strings-attached relationship, but plenty of my friends have and I have been offered that sort of relationship.\n\nFirst off, I have always declined to enter that type of relationship. I know that I personally could not spend time with someone in an intimate setting and not become attached to them. I suppose it's possible for others, but it just isn't possible for me. I am not typically a jealous person, but I would be extremely bothered if someone that I was seeing was messing around with other girls. \n\nAbout friends who have been in that situation, nearly all ended up getting hurt. Once one of my friends who was in a relationship like that ended up dating the guy, but it was not really a NSA relationship. They both agreed they would date other people in an effort to not get to serious, however they both ended up not dating other people because they only had feelings for each other. And most of my friends have entered into relationships like this thinking that they can make the guy want to be exclusive with them, which never happens. \n\nEven if you had sex with this person, I would say that a NSA is a cop out for most guys. They get all the physical benefits of being in a relationship, without actually being in a relationship. Granted a girl also get's these benefits. I just have never been one to understand why someone would enter into a relationship like this.\n\nI hope this helps and good luck.
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It seems clear that you love your girlfriend but long for a larger life. Maybe it would be best to break up with her, but still remain good friends who occassionally turn to each other for sex. That way, after a time, she can actually give guidance and conversation about your choices of sleeping partner - then there are no secrets and less guilt.
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First off let me thank you Trillian for the statement you made about my answer to "blowing in the ear". It made me laugh as well. Just in case you ever want to chat away from here. My addy is bye my profile. If not, it's still cool and thanks.\n\nNow about your question. I have heard of sexual incompatibility. I've heard of some couples that have seen doctors, therapists, and even specialists. Some of the problems are size, over-sensativity, sexual interests, and too much or too little of a sex drive. Most of the couples that I've heard of, are so much in love with each other and have made a life long bond. Find a way to deal with these problems and still stay together. Unfortunately, there are those people that can't see the relationship past the bedroom and end up seperating. So far in this life, I've learned that almost anything is possible. That's why it's good to keep an open mind about thse sort of things. Especially when love is involved.
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just because your enjoying another erogenous zone does not a gay make.  we as humans have such an amazing desire for feel good endorphine rushes.  what ever that may be does not always dictate straight or gay.  enjoy your body and your lover's.  and as the old school song says, if you can't be with the one you love, love the one your with.  we have different degrees for murder but not for love.  well except luv or heart loves.  by the way i met a straight guy when i was 18 who was a construction manly man and he was curious what a woman feels when he busts guts so he put a broom stick not the whole thing mind you up his "l'onion".  explore kids but don;t damage or abuse.
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Love is about respect.  If he truly loves you, regardless his feelings on the matter, he will RESPECT yours!  The truth is, an individual who has the audacity to say "if you don't have sex with me, you don't love me" is suspect; I'd have to say that in saying so, they are showing that, in all likelihood, they don't love you!  Tell him: If YOU LOVED ME, you would respect my desire to wait until marriage-and if you don't have that level of respect for me, WE DON'T BELONG TOGETHER!.
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There are plenty of people your age and beyond who haven't had sexual intercourse. I didn't have intercourse until I was 23. It's nothing to feel bad about just because society might say it's 'different.'\n\nYes, it can be a very beautiful thing between 2 people who love one another, but only if you're ready for it. The worst thing would be to do something you're not ready for just because someone else says you should.\n\nBe true to your own needs, and you won't have to worry about it. I think the fact that I waited instead of giving in to peer pressure, enabled me to enjoy it, where if I hadn't waited, it might've turned out to be something traumatizing that I wouldn't have wanted to do again.\n\nAs far as a therapist, I wouldn't suggest it now unless it's something you can't stop thinking about. After you're not a virgin anymore, see what happens. If you've been doing it for a while and if you still feel really bad, then I'd think about talking with a therapist.\n\nSo my advice is not to worry about it. You've got plenty of time, and when you're ready for it, it'll happen the right way.\n\n________