I have 2 friends, who I have known for a few years, they are twins and both of them were supposed to be my daughters godmother, but on New Years Eve, I told them I was going to Atlantic city with my b/f then they started telling me how Im wrong and that I should be with mydaughter. I told them that I spent Christmas with her, so New Years is gonna be my time. (I take good care of my baby). They tried to make me feel like Im just out running the street. Then I told one of them that my aunt died, she didnt even say sorry to hear that, she asked to borrow 10 dollars, ever since then I stopped going to their house, I walk right past like they dont exist. Then I notice that they are jealous because they are both fat and sloppy and ugly..ALL OF THE FAMILY IS and they always try to criticize me. If i get dressed up, they give me a compliment but then in the same breath they ALWAYS find somethin wrong with my outfit. They always ask to borrow but never pay back. I just want to know am I wrong?
131497
Double the trouble. F'm. \npunch one in the face and see if the other on feels it
226780
Individualism, may be your problem. You are just being yourself and they want you to just be part of the crowd and don't like it when you make up your own mind. \nI would say that if they can't respect your decisions then you don't really need them as friends. You will find out later in life that true friends are RARE and should be treasured. But those friends will always respect you and your choices. Even if they don't like them and defend you even when they don't agree. Because it's you and you are their friend.  \n\nYou may just be outgrowing them and they sense it.
421961
I dont think youre wrong at all. Any real friends would not tolerate someone talking about you in that way. Because they didnt stand up for you, they might as well have agreed with the jerk. What a slap in the face! Im so sorry. But it looks to me like it may be time to move on and make some new friends. Thats probably not what you want to hear but you are too good for them!
136470
U help ur friend but don't tell the other one that is mad at u and so everyone is happy. When u help pay for ur friend that is not pissed off at u pretend that she got the money to pay from her parents or something so ur other PO'd friend will not get madder. Good luck! Email me if u need more help.
109362
You owe her nothing!. She wasn't being a good friend in the first place if she could not agree to your payment plan, and also bad mouthing you to your other friends. Tell her to sell the dress to get her money back. Don't give her one cent for it!. They say..'you always can tell who your true friends are'.
639647
That doesn't make any sense...why would a friend stop being a friend because of adoption? Are they treating you badly or are you feeling self-conscious? If you just found out and told them about it and they are acting differently then it may be because they are reacting to the changes in you...not your circumstances. If they are being creeps then they are not friends anyway...you sound pretty young...please don't feel like I am talking down to your age...but when we are younger and still searching for ourselves it can be hard to read our own emotions and actions, let alone someone Else's...good luck...and who ever gave you that line about abortion should be shot...or at least they should apologize, what in the world would they know about the beliefs and feelings of your birth mother? I don't care who said it, your adoptive parents or friends or other family...it was a cold thing to say and it sounds more like a political or religious belief than a statement of fact coming from their inside knowledge...good luck and find some good people to replace the jerks in your life!
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If your so called friends are treating you so poorly then I don't think they are really your friends to begin with.  Find new people to hang out with that really care about you for who you are and won't judge or make fun of you.
447583
looks like friend 2 is trying to steal friend one from you...ask friend 1 if you can talk to her privately and see what's really wrong...this happened to my too i decided to stop being friends with those losers and get some cool kid friends my other friends wanted me back but i was like hellz no..well the point of my story is ive had my "new" friends for 5 years now so...yeah! good times
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Sounds like your friend is in need of a mother-figure.  Maybe not.  Regardless, if I were in your shoes, I'd be happy for them both.  Don't interfere and don't be rude to your friend.  Being supportive is selfless and caring.  You'll find a better friendship with someone else.  Showing resentment is jealousy or envy.  Not cool.  And reall not mature.  Good luck.
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First of all.....my sympathies for the loss of your babies.\n\nI have been in this situation...friend-wise....and can only tell you of this experience. This person told everyone I was her "best friend" but would only call me or come to see me if she had nothing else to do. She didn't have time to talk when I called her if something that sounded more fun came up. Basically, she used me until I became fed up with it. I finally told her I couldn't be her "fair weather" friend anymore, it wasn't worth the effort since I had nothing glamorous to offer her.\n\nThe short of it is...no matter how you handle it, this type of person won't get it. They're never at fault, never wrong and consider themselves to be the best thing walking upright! Avoid her and always be busy when she decides to call or come around. You're worth more than what she has to offer!!
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You seem like a very nice person. At some point, you have to quit letting them treat you like dirt. It could be because somehow you value or long for their friendship. Make them see things from your point of view for once. Some people are just mean, and they do not consider the feelings of others.But, some of these excuses (although they seem lame to you) could be for real. If the same person is doing this over and over ( 3 is my magic number), drop them like a hot potato. Not everyone is like that.
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You are not a loser, you need a hug though. I am 24 myself and trust me you are not the only 24 yr. old who is going thru things. I am currently living back at home and I didn't want to but it's a roof over my head and I'm still alive. If you are really against the situation then you should be doing everything you can to get out of that situation, or else it's pointless to complain. As for the friend you lost, you never lose a real friend, there may be some seperation needed to sort out feelings and to clear your head but if it's a real friend they will come around, if not, what else can you do put pick up the pieces and keep on moving, life goes on you know. You seem to have just hit a rough patch in your life where everything is just going wrong, but it will get better. I don't know if you are religious but God has a way of working things out.  Maybe you should try having a different outlook on life and yourself. A young lady or woman doesn't typically go for the guy who is always down on himself and who THINKS he's a LOSER. If you think that why should anybody else think any different? You have to get some confidence in yourself, have a life self-pride. Be proud of who you are and what you have, alot of people have far less or nothing. When life gives you lemons make lemonade. By that I mean make the best of and try to see the silverlining in every situation, whether it's good or bad. Don't sit around being envious of what others are doing or what they have, because I'm sure it took time and effort on their part to get whatever they have, but go out and get your own, your way. You can only be yourself, definitely not your sisters, they found their way, so you have to find yours. You still young, remember everyone does things differently and in their own time, so stop being your own worst critic. All the best.
328173
I can't understand how adults behave this way. That means their minds still immature. Ignore their behavior, enjoy your life. Create your own world and live in peace. Sometimes people who are not of your relatives are more kind and gentle so create good relationships with others. Always help people, one day someone will be there for you.\n\nAt this time don't make their attitude put you down. Whenever you talk to any of them, just show them how happy you are for them that they are independent and have their own jobs, show them how proud you are that you have such sisters, ask them how they are feeling in their new job, and whether they need any help, just be kind to them, one day they will care. Never show that you are feeling bad that you don’t have job. Don't forget to pray for God to help you, he is always there to hear you, and keep on looking for a job and hopefully sooner or later you will get one.\n\nWishing you the best of luck!
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Obviously she's not a friend if she treats you this way. try hanging out with someone else who is NOT ashamed of being seen with you. And if she keeps giving you attitude, stop talking to her. I'm sure you're not the only person she does this to. A TRUE friend does not treat a friend like dirt. And if she's saying lies about you then she's jealous about something. I can already tell that you are a TRUE friend, because you are willing to save this friendship with this nasty person by finding out what you can do. We need more people like you. So in answering your question, when you walk by her just smile. BIG!!
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well if your friends are truly friends then they shouldn't be bothered or laugh at you. If they do they are losers and get rid of them. Your condition is not something that you asked for nor is it your fault and you should know that. Bottom line is you don't have to disclose your situation until you are comfortable and when you do you shouldn't feel bad about it because its life and everyone has something or other that they either wished they didn't or they are not proud of make the best out of your situation and be happy that you are still here!
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IM terribly sorry to hear this but it seems to me that you are trying to hard to be a friend and youve lost that line between friend and mother.. My own mother is the complete opposite, we have a great relationship but i cant be truthful with her about anything because shes doesnt agree with most of it and she would guilt me out..But in your circumstance, I would say that the only thing you can do is be her mother, like the old saying you can lead a horse to water but you cant make it drink.. you can tell her what you may think is the right way to go, but you cant make her do it. Its tough but at least if it doesnt end up well you can say you tried... I know its tough because ive been in your daughters shoes, and what she needs the most is your love and support, not neglect or guilt. \nMy mom is starting to accept the fact that im an adult and she may not support everything i do she doesnt realy try to guilt me out, and our relationship has grown\nso just be open, calm, and honest.\nI hope this helped
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Hi, from what I can gather from this you are a practicing Christian and have tried to do your Christian duty by your friend and now you are a little hurt and maybe confused at how she and her dad have turned on you, well it seems to me that they are in turmoil at this time and are hurting very much, and sick with worry, perhaps they are angry with God for their situation and that He does not appear to be doing anything to help them, and you in a sense represent God to them if you know what I mean, so you were the visible means with which they could vent their anger and frustration.\nplease do not take this too personally, none of this is your fault, the best thing to do is to give them time and space to come fully to terms with this awful event in their lives and just pray very hard for them.\nperhaps you could get together with some like-minded people and have some time of intercessery prayer on the families behalf, as they may be at such a low ebb that they cannot pray for themselves.\nI will pray for them and yourself, meanwhile try to be at peace, you will do much more this way.\nGod bless all concerned in this.