i have been talking to this girl and she had a boyfriend but we were just talking to build up our relationship and see where it goes. well we used to be together but i messed up and never called her. so now we were talking again. so i could prove to her that i messed up and i changed my ways. well this past weekend she e-mailed me and told me he asked her to marry her. so now they are engaged. it is hard for me to see her since  i am stationed in japan and she lives in texas. what do i do?
134990
get DRUNKKKKKKKKKK.and then move on. look for japanese girls with big boobies.
644145
would you believ the same thing has just happend to me. bout 4 months ago i ran into this guy i went to school with and we started chatting and i got his number. later in the week i got a msg from him and we were talking about school and how we were friends and how i used to really like him. he then replied that he liked me and wish he had relised what he had missed out on in school and he should have hooked up with me.\nwe continued to msg each other and after a week he said that he still had feelings for me. the only problem with the whole situation is i met another guy and now im engaged, i got so confused on what to do but he still says now that he really likes me and i should leave the other guy. of course im not.\nAnyway the point to all this is yes there is a chance for you both as long as neither of you are in a relationship. a way to find out is by saying that you used to like him and find out where you stand with him. invite him out for dinner or a movie or something and try and spend time with him. you will soon know if he likes you or not.\nGood luck and hope this helps
264185
I think this girl if full of shit.  leave her alone.  She's not coming she is probably waiting for that other guy to come back to her.  Why would you want to marry someone that isn't returning your calls.  Just leave her.
418912
Well I dont quite know what to think either?\n\nJudging by the question, you seem to have troubles with the boyfriend? I am probably wrong here because you question is a little hard to understand. However, I shall answer it like this anyway.\n\n\nFirstly, you should NEVER jumped to conclusions that he's cheating \nbecause you dont get to talk to him, etc.\n\nHowever, I would get a little suspisious of something in your position. I think you need to re-consider his intentions? What exactly does he want in your relasionship?\n\nAt the end of the day, your question isnt really detailed enough to come up with some useful answers (if any lol). I mean, how long have the two of you been dating?\n\nIf you havent been dating long enough.... then dont take this guy seriously. I wouldnt take a girl seriously if she acts the way your guy does. Oh well.... what do I know?\n\nGoing by your question, he doesnt take you seriously and the best way to solve this issue is by talking to him. I hope it all goes well for you, but be prepared to leave him if he contiues the same ways. I would certainly prepare myself for this, etc.\n\nGood luck!!
302881
oooooo k...........talk to your bf see whats going on. thats weird though, has she told you why she disided to talk to this girl all suddenly? lets just hope shes not a hypocrit(however you spell that word)good luck! TALK to her!
558449
Hope this works out for you. its probably a bit raw at the moment. could this possibly not be the first time this has happened, as im sure she is trying to tell you something and get a reactionary response. she wants you to want her and fight for her not just give up. im thinking that she wants you to commit after 8 years. she doesnt want to ask you to make it a more secure relationship possibly not long distance. she wants you to come up with that idea and put it to her. so she can feel loved and needed. thats what im thinking and im a chick and sometimes we can be a bit weird like that. so give it a go when things calm down have a honest talk with her and ask her what she really wants or doesnt want from you and decide what you are ready to give. if you arent ready to give everything - why have a relationship anyway. take care and give it some time.
47196
Ok, so you live elsewhere other then california. Your girl's IN cali, but you like to flirt with other girls from the same state she's in but you're not? Doesn't sound like you have a problem with long distance relationships. Sounds like you just don't want to be in one with your current girl. Let her know so she can decide for herself whether she wants to be with you. You owe her that much. 'Sides...statistically...she's probably doing the same thing. Good luck!
193252
What you can do is be happy that she is happy in another relationship, and move on. It may hurt, but that is the only choice you have. She is not going to come back to you right now because she is with someone, and unless your personality has changed signifigantly in that time, she will not be interested in you anymore. It sucks. Most people have a long list of people that they had to break up with before finding the one and they all hurt.
174702
Accept her decision if you sincerely care for her. If thet time is right things will happen for the two of you. I also think that you should really think this realtionship through! You say you have been together for three years yet you have only seen her for a total of six weeks thats not healthy in a realationship. Did you ever think that she might have someone in her country? Just think it over and if she is still the one ask her to marry you. Good Luck!
511849
I think you deserve a hell of a lot better than this chick.  She's clearly using you, and you're letting her.  I understand that you guys had fun together and all that, but it's really not a good idea to be with someone who already has a significant other.  Eventually he will find out and it may not turn out good for one or both of you.  I would just go to Germany, relax a bit, go out clubbing or whatever to have fun... but just enjoy your leave.  Don't waste your time with girls who are only gonna drop you.
216339
You should jus tell her how you feel, are you actually in a relationship with this girl? The way that you have to look at it is if you tell her that you do love her and she feels the same, maybe you'll get in2 a relationship! if this girl doesnt move back and decides to stay where she is - doesnt mean that you cant still be together. Me and my boyfriend were living real close in the same city, now hes living in a completely different part of the country - we're working out tho, and you could visit her aswell as her visiting you right?
272085
OK, in the perfect world, if you want to have a healthy marriage, you should not contact this other woman and just go on living your every day life. And that is just fine and dandy, if only your mind didn't keep drifting away towards this other girl. Maybe it keeps drifting because it's a new and exciting part of your life you don't have anymore, since being married can get to be "boring" or just not as adventurous as it was in the beggining. That is totally understandable. \nWhat you didn't mention, is that if this girl is still contacting you? Has she given up on you? If she has, then it means that she just wanted to say hi and see how you were doing, she's not interested in you in any other way. \nI think you will always wonder "what could have been", until you have some closure in this part of your life. If you do decide to contact her again, you should meet face to face and tell her what she meant to you and how it felt to let her go. But remember that you are a different person now, as is she, in totally different circumstances.\nI don't think an honest luncheon to clear the air, and to put your mind and feelings at ease would be that bad.\nAs long as you know where to draw the line, and as long as you understand that you are a married man with different obligations now.\nGood luck man. Tough call.
329816
My advice would be to wait a little longer (just a couple of months) before asking to have her hand in marriage.... but that's just me. You may come on a little strong if you ask her now and that may put distance between the 2 of you if she isn't ready for it. Something that you could do is find a way to bring up the topic in conversation and see if you can get her opinion on the subject (just to get an idea if she is on the same page with her emotions before actually popping the question) or see if one of her sisters can ask (or girlfriends) what her opinion may be on the marriage subject. But regardless of what your decision may be I wish you joy and happiness in the future..... and I really hope that the 2 of you do get married.
366073
you've only invested a month and a half of your life to this girl and you are on yahoo looking for advice?? Get rid of her now before it becomes and even bigger issue later. having doubts this early on is NOT a good thing.
46475
Sounds like this Japanese man plays the field, conning innocent women like you.  If he loved his previous girlfriend and allowed his parents to interfere in his marriage choice, then HE IS NOT A MAN.  Drop this guy!  He's a loser, also there won't be any conflict between your coworker. You both can drink a beer a say what a momma's boy he is.
199786
First of all Thank you for serving our country! If you want to save this relationship you will have to work on the trust issue. But I would be concerned about her cheating again. Follow your heart.
481639
This girl sounds a little confused if she's engaged to someone she doesn't like...why would she have said yes to the proposal? This decision should be completely up to her. She has to decide if she wants to break the engagement or not. As for your family, I know you love and respect them, but this is your life and only you can pick the person you choose to spend the rest of your life with.