Even if one is a stay at home mom??
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I think it is more about putting equal investment into the relationship and the household. There is no such thing as a clean division of labor for this. The fact is that is takes a lot of work on the part of everyone to maintain a household, let alone one with so many children. \n\nFirst and foremost, you should both be very aware of how eachother are feeling when it comes to being overwhelmed. Obviously having another child is something the two of you agreed to pursue, so you are both obligated to put in the work to make it a success. What you probably need more than housework is emotional support. \n\nI suggest making a major effort in opening up the communication lines with your husband. You will need to rely on each other to maintain sanity, so make that your goal as opposed to getting him to agree to some amount of housework. You could also frame it in terms of demonstrating for your children how everyone contributes to making the house work.\n\nBest of luck!
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You can never say, unless you know the mothers involved.\n\nSay the Working Mom is lazy.  Goes to work, yes.  Comes home, does not cook or clean for her child.  The child gets what it wants just so the mother can have peace and quiet.  It stays up late and falls to sleep whenever.  She constantly forgets to wake him up for the bus and has to take him to school, come home, rush to get ready for work and looks a slob all day.  Their values are self first in everything, get what you want, others don't matter.\n\nSay the Working Mom is industrious and clean.  Cooks dinner every nite and makes sure Timmy does his homework, takes his bath and goes to bed on time and behaves.  She gets him up in time for school, gets herself ready for work and is never late, looking great.  Values would be, think of others, be responsible (be on time, think of others, dress nice for them, don't rush, start early), your actions count, put your best foot forward, etc.\n\n\nSo, just because 2 working moms (are working) doesn't mean negative things can't be attached to one.  The same thing is true with the Stay-at-home Mom, she can either do a good job as a wife and mother or NOT!
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I know you do not sit on your ass all day but yes my husband says the same shit you know what i did i quite doing the house work for one day and he came home and know he knows that i do not sit on my ass all day that i acutally do work OH YEAH and did i mentioned that he stayed home with the kids one day while i had to go to school. SO back to the question NO if you want to stay at home and take care of her by all means do it. SHE will learn so much from you while at home. MY son can do so much and he learned alot with me and he knows more then some kids because i tought him while staying at home. YOU need to make your boyfriend do all the things that you do make a day were he does not have to work and make him DO EVERYTHING THAT YOU DO and you do not do a damn thing to help him. MAKE HIM SEE WHAT YOU REALLY DO.\ngood luck i know how you feel.
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Never consider them "step"!  If you raised them...you are one of their parents! Life has given them an "extra" mom!  Motherhood is difficult enough for one mom...how lucky to have two mothers that love a child enough to work towards the common goal of raising one terrific kid! These children are lucky to have you for a mom ... not a stepmom...but a mom... someone that cares for them so much to have taken on the "package"!  I always tell people that my kids and I are a "package deal"...  you can find some wonderful quotes about all kids at your local scrapbook store....I should know....I think I have bought out my local store!
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Is your mother home???????
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Well let me ask you, do you still live at home??? If so it IS their rules still. Sure you may be 18 now but like I would tell my children, "As long as you live in my house, it's MY rules". now as far as being able to do what you want and you not thinking that they let you do a lot let me say this to you, Try bringing this up at dinner, explain to them that you feel like they aren't giving you enough "distance" to do some of the things you would like to do. And ask them if they will slowly give you a chance to prove to them that you are responsible and you CAN make your own decisions on things. And explain to them that if you do anything to lose their trust then you will go back to how the situation is right now... Hope this has helped out some... let me know what happens ok... take care!!!
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I am not, I have a 4 year old son and another on the way.  I work both for financial reasons, as well as for personal preference.  I love my job.  AND I love my children.  I don't think that having him in school during the day is having someone else raise him.  I am with him every night after 5 and every morning.  We cook supper together, we play games, we learn, we cuddle, we have a great relationship.  On top of that, even though he is now an only child, he knows how to share his toys, interact with other kids, and because of his excellent school, is HIGHLY more developed than most children his age.\n\nI do not, however, see a single thing wrong with being a stay at home mom.  My sister in law is, and I can attest that she works much harder at home all day than I do managing my office!  I hand it to all of you ladies who choose to do this.\n\nI think that the thing that we have to remember is that is it a personal choice.  Going to work does not make me a bad mother, staying at home does not make her lazy.  It is what we have both chosen for our families and both of our families and our children most importantly, are very happy with our choices.  \n\nOur sisters and mothers did not work so hard in the women's movements of the 70s and 80s for us to stand here today and say that our way is the only way.  They worked so hard to give us a CHIOCE!
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I am a stay at home mom and I work for a great home based company.  You're your own boss, your own hours.  You can visit my website and see if this is something you would want to do.  Also, while you're there, sign up for the free drawing, even if it's not something you want to do.\n\nhttp://www.amyscandles.scent-team.com
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you are a blessing to your family so you should be envied and praised. people who would criticise you are really jealous for not being able to have the 'luxury' of being a stay home mom and wife. you deserve a lot more than even a 6 figures pay. what you do to your kid will positively influence him as he grows up.\n\n20 years ago, most wives would stay home while the husbands bring in the doe but competitiveness, high cost of living, etc are forcing the women to work as well, causing the family and family relationship to suffer.\n\nyou belong to a privileged group of non-working wife/mom who has a husband who can afford to support the entire family. be thankful and do not let any criticism demoralise you.\n\nAnd Happy Mother's Day to you and all stay home moms out there.
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I have a 24/7 job....I am a stay at home mom.\n\nMy husband works for the post office and his typical hours are 7:30 am - 5:00 pm
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Not at all. I'm a housewife. It is really hard looking after 2 young kids. So take pride in your daily duties and as long as you are on top of everything you are doing great. Many housewives become lazy cause they think they can get to things later or tomorrow. Be proud this is your new job and do it well. \n\nI like to work two days a week, I study and I also go to the gym every day. The house is generally tidy and all meals are cooked. Most of my friends envy my lifestyle but it is really full on moreso than there's cause I have no downtime. I wake up around 6am and don't stop till around 9.30pm.\n\nAt the end of the day why should we seek others approval when most people don't like the way  or who they are. Just think if you are happy that should make you satisfied and proud to be a housewife or whatever we are.
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well -- how about i tell you what i do and maybe you'll get some ideas.... i'm a nurse that had a baby and wanted to stay home with him instead of putting him in daycare. my husband didn't want the loss of my paycheck and gave me a lot of grief about going back to work but ALSO expected me to do all the "real" parenting, house cleaning, cooking, etc. i told him if i went back to work that he would have to split everything 50/50 and he agreed. i told him the very first day he didn't do one of "his" new split duties i would quit my job on the spot.... as in if it's his turn to change a diaper and he didn't do it -- i wouldn't go back to work the next day because i'm not going to be walked on like that...if i'm a homemaker, then i'm a homemaker...if i'm a nurse, then that's what i'm going to be and he can hire a housekeeper, cook and nanny. he agreed to split the job duties.....well, a couple of days before i was going to start a new job, i started him out on the split duties....needless to say....i'm now a very happy stay-at-home mom. i keep the house, cook dinner and take care of my son. as far as your concern about him wanting you to answer your phone right away...that's controlling behavior. remind him you're an adult and tell him where he can stick it next time he gets mad. then quit your job.   :)
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I think June is certainly the most commonly used icon to represent that type of parenting. \n\nI absolutely know that you can work and be a good mother.  Staying at home doesn't guarantee anything.
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I spend most of my time at home.  I work out of my home (I operate a daycare in my home).  I love it.  I love my home, I love my job, and I love having my family at home with me.  I am not a "home-body" though.  We travel, I volunteer, and I have outside interests.  I have a good life and I am happy.
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Yes, hon! I got 4 kids well plus my husband- I feel that way almost daily! It is a 24 hour a day job for sure 365 days a year! If we were paid-- How much would that total-- a cook, a maid, a nurse, a doctor, a teacher, a preacher- private driver- on and on and on!!!! We would get a million dollars salary! Mom --- the best job we can get!! God will smile at us and say well done girls-- we raised good people! I am going to move to Texas--- we really could pass for sisters!! LOL bye, Amy
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Respect mother's that know they are not in a financial/emotional position to care for their child.  Now, leaving them on a doorstep per se is probably ill advised, go the extra mile and ring the damn door bell.
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Stay at home fathers are great!! Whomever is best fit to stay home should stay home. If the women makes more money then why not let her be the breadwinner and let the man care for the house? \nIf we have come to true equality then this should be ok.