whenever i try to go inside it hurts a lot. what should i do?  i already rub the outside, it feels okay for like 3 seconds.  is that an orgasm or a fake one? idk im so embarassed to tlk to my mom,  i need help!
131427
Well, if you can buy a "bullet" I would recommend it! They are at adult shops. It vibrates at different speeds. Just slightly rub it on your clit and you'll orgasm in a few minutes! An orgasm can be tricky to tell, but usually you start breathing heavy, maybe shake a lil and your body temp. rises a lil. It just feels like an "explosion" Trust me, you'll know it when you have one!
149832
You need to see a dr. It's not embarrassing. You're not the first person to ever have the problem. It may require surgery, but afterward, you'll be much happier.
48922
go to the doctor NOW!!!! i had a friend in HS that had that pain for a few days, then one day he moved wrong and made it much worse. my boyfriend took him to the ER and he ended up loosing one. his had gotten twisted inside.
584454
You have to be on the same caring vibe your boyfriend is at. Most guys don't care if you hurt, unless they are in love with you. I recommend you try a vibrator first and get comfortable with what you want to feel. Then tell him that's the way you want it.
220118
Hey,i went through  the same thing,tell your mom,you shouldn't be embarrassed,i am only 12 and just started a couple of months ago,go to beingagirl.com!The site should help  some but please tell her,every girl gos through it,my best friend thought she started but really had an infection that was bleeding,she was to embarrassed  to tell,just like you,and ended up nearly dying of lose of blood!i told her mom after a week and they rushed her  the ginolegest {a Doctor that takes care of your privet parts}and she was giving some meds and then was OK,my point is you should tell your parents because  they will understand,your mom got it at the same age as you probably!Today i passed out because off  mine,it really hurt,i too was rushed to my ginno.to have a quick check up!when you tell your parents {you have to tell them eventually because  every girl does it and then they will expect somethings up if you dont tell them!}they may take you to the  ginooligest which is just a doctor who will simply look at  your Virgina,stick a Little tool,like a tampon,into the whole  you have your period and then you will leave,you may have to do a little blood work but nothing major!In fact you may not have to go in till you become sexily active!Good luck!
231452
You need to masturbate.  No joke. It will get you in touch with what feels good to you.  Once you get that down, I suggest that you start riding him so that you can have more control over what gets you feeling something.
205377
Why are you scared? What is it in particular that scares you about it? Is it that you feel like you won't be in control? Are you afraid that you might embarrass yourself when you have an orgasm in some way?\n\nYou need to work out why you are scared, and work on the underlying cause. All I can suggest is that you try to relax. A glass of wine, a nice bubble bath......try masturbating while you're in the tub and feeling relaxed. Maybe even ignore that fact that you're crying and scared and continue anyway???\n\nHonestly, there is NOTHING to be afraid of. It's such a good feeling, and I feel bad for you that you're missing out on it!! If you're scared of embarrassing yourself, then try doing it on your own, where no-one will see your reaction. If this continues, you may want to consider seeing a sex therapist as someone else has suggested.
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im guessing its an ingrown pubic hair, put a good lotion or vaseline on it every day and see if you can see any hair in it. do you shave? if so dont for a week or so untill all your hair grows out and if you have any still growing under the skin scratch at them untill they come up and wait a few more days then scratch at the purple spot, if nothing comes up go to your doctor or school nurse and they can help with out telling your parents if your young and dont want them to know. you could have a blood blister also. have you gottan it pinched in anything lately? you can ask for a female doctor if you go to the hospital. male doctors see that kinna thing every day so they think nothing of it just try to find the cause, good luck! if its an ingrown hair you can use tweezers to get it out and then keep your pubic area moisturized with vaseline(works best) or lotion.
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Number one, when your preschool "boyfriend" touched you there, you should have told an adult. That is wrong..plus when you are that young, you don't know what that means. An adult should have straighted both of you out if you were touching each other like that at such a young age..preschool..come on, parents should know about that to educate you.\n\nAnway, masterbation, which is what you are doing, is ok. It is perfectly normal. You won't go to hell, you wont contract some disease, or somethin from doing that. Just MAKE SURE you wash your hands, before you touch yourself down there....especially when you put your fingers inside.  Just make sure, if you touch your butt (you may not see the bacteria that could be on your fingers) make sure you wash your hands extremely well before you touch your vaginal area. If you dont wash your hands everytime you touch or insert fingers, you are at risk for a urinary tract infection or a baterial infection. These are cureable but painful.\n\nI feel its better to explore yourself and pleasure yourself, than to be messing around with boys and having sex at such a young age.
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When you have sex baby, it doesn't supposed hurt okay.  You should go to the store and buy some lube.  Put some on him and around your opening so it won't hurt.  Talk to him, tell him it's uncomfortable, and he will understand about the lube.  Your hymen may be shedding a little, don't have sex for a couple of days until this shedding stops because if you skin gets broken down there, you might get an infection, and believe me, you don't want that to happen.
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it's normal, next time when you do it, use a lot of lube, lay on your belly, put a pillow under your belly to elevate your butt and keep your legs closed kinda tight, make him work to get it in, i find that once it gets in, it is easier, then i open up more for him,  i also use a bullet on my clit to keep my mind off the initial pain, if you do it this way then eventually you will learn to like it....i did  LOL
305859
Dude, you probably cut or scraped the tube inside your penis. You need to see a doctor. This is not only painful but could lead to a very serious infection. I would not wait long either, as some of those infections can become serious in a shot time. Sorry to tell you, but it's really your only choice. I wouldn't be too embarrassed, doctors are use to seeing this type of injury.
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Stop worrying about coming and just think about how good it feels.  I am a woman, but I think it is probably about the same.  I have to think about how good it feels even when I don't feel very sensitive.  Think whatever it is you think right before you come and I think it will help.  However, I don't know if you have tried other postions or what, but my hubby loves me to be on my stomach with my legs together and his stradled over mine.  Whenever he's getting too tired to shoot he just flips me on my belly and puts it in and then puts his legs outside mine and is usually off in a minute or two.  I think it works cause I squeeze my muscles together around him, which is only easy to do in this postition.  Best wishes
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If you really feel you are ready then here is my experience. It can hurt the first time. Your boyfriend needs to know that he will have to go really really slow and wait while you stretch. Some women feel pleasure the first time, some do not. I didn't, but that was just because of the guy I was with. It will be tight to enter. The timing varies depending on the guy. Whether or not you have an orgasm depends on you. Do you masturbate? Have you ever had an orgasm that way? If yes and you can relax this first time you may really enjoy it. My best friend hurt the first time but 15min later she made love again and really enjoyed it and has no regrets to this day 13yrs later.
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I agree with the others in that it only hurt because it was your first time. It'll get better as your body gets used to having something "in there". Using a personal lubricant like KY warming lotion or Astroglide will help. Sometimes when you are nervous about having sex (like you are the first time) causes you to tighten up the muscles "down there" and it can decrease your natural lubrication production. Both the lubricants I mentioned can be used with condoms.
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Point it up would be best. I feel most comfortable pointing up. Point it down would just hurt when you get erection. May be not much but hurt a little but it's like breaking your penis off. If pointing up with your hair caught in the skin, point it down, it's up to you. But to point it up and not get caught in the skin, would be best if you trim your hair. Not shave it but trim it. Alternatively, just try to position it properly while wearing your underwear. Do you get erection just anywhere and it hurts? I would suggest going to public toilet to "adjust" it and re-position your penis and the hair... and wait till erection goes off. You're situation is weird and ... funny. ROFL.
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i've had sex before and yes it does feel good but i warn you, wait! it's not a good idea right now while you're not married, you'll be giving yourself away to someone you don't know is your going to be husband. I'm not very proud of what i do but sometimes you get stuck in a rut that you can't get out of. if you like it too much you'll get stuck and then you'll have a greater chance of getting STD's. Even though i don't know you i beg of you as a friend, don't do it yet! you will regret it so much after you do. You will be sore, and yes you will bleed because you're a virign and you're not used to having something up your vagina. Let me ask a question.. are you ready to be a parent? think on that. but wait! don't do it!