my boyfriends parents think its immoral to move in with each other before marriage.. He's 22
137742
Morality is a personal choice issue.  You have to decide what it is you believe in and how strongly you believe in it.  It is your life and it is time for you to start laying the foundation for your future and how you want others to see you.
648852
From my experience, coming home late or breaking curfew was a major way of testing my parents trust. Considering your ages, I am surpised that your parents are so restrictive. Ask yourself, what is this 'bad' that they think you're doing? Did your parents come from deeply religious families? Were your parents also restricted by their parents? What about her parents? It may not be fair, or make a whole lot of sense these days, but that could explain some of their methods. Do you or your girlfriend have troubled pasts, maybe trouble with the law? Did you ever have a truancy problem with school? Don't think that I am blaming their behavior on you, I just want you to think of all  possibile reasons. It almost sounds like you two live a bit far away from eachother, and that might explain why you're only allowed to see eachother twice a week, and talk on the phone for only half an hour a day. Have I nailed it yet? No? Okay, parents may not seem to make any sense some of the time, but they are your parents. Like it or not they have say into your relationships. The more you show respect for them and their wishes, usually the more trust they'll have for you. So if you're considering sneaking around after dark or anything like that, don't try it. Chances are you'll get caught, and just imagine how often you'd get to see her then? Probably not at all. I know this is a hard time for you both, you're almost legal adults, but until you turn the magic age of 18, you just have to bite down and endure this. You will get through this, just be patient with her and your parents. I am going to assume that talking with your parents wont make much of a difference, but there is nothing wrong with trying. Ask them what it is that they fear so much, and do your best to put that fear to rest. Assure them that you intend to follow their wishes, and do so when you're out with her. If they see that you're true to your word, the less likely they are to shorten the leash. I get the feeling that their fear is your sexual activity. It is my personal opinion that you two are at the ages when your sexuality is your business, however a parent will feel like your business is always their business. You can be 50 years old, and they'll still consider you their baby. Being that your sexuality is your business, I hope you wont mind if I give you a piece of advice: protect you and your girlfriend and use a condom every time. Anyway, you will get through this, I promise. Good luck.
147789
Probably because he truly cares for you!  Just because you're meeting his parents doesn't mean you two are getting married.  \n\nThat being said, if you are uncomfortable with the idea, you should tell him, and if he cares about you at all he should respect your feelings.
179952
Don't worry about your parents...They will come around no matter what decisions you make.  I lived with my wife before we got married and we are doing great 4 years later and have a beautiful little 1 yr old girl...It helped living together before we got married, because when you live together, you see the real side of married life and what your partner is going to be like to live with.  Sometimes people change after you start living with them, but you will definitely know if he is the right one after this.  Good luck!
199211
well if you're in love with him and he says that he loves you and regrets what happened, then I don't see anything wrong with it. Just remember, if he lives with his parents, don't write anything that you don't want them to see.
474662
Wise? No. Love is never wise. Love is madness.\n\nIf he can tolerate and respect your religion, and you can tollerate his, it's all good. The one thing you DONT want to do is convert to his. I know that would give your relationship more understanding, but that would KILL your parents. \n\nIf he asks you to convert to be w/ him, dump him. YOU certainly aren't asking something so drastic of him, why should he care?\n\nAs for parents, if they're very conservative, it won't be pretty, but if it's a very serious relationship, then don't worry about it. Parents usually come around for things like weddings! I would, however, make it clear to my parents that I had no intention of deserting my own customs and beliefs. And that the man I was dating understood that as well and was not making moves to convert me!
237065
You are funny.. dun worry it too much about it.. Your parents only worry for you is whether your bf can support you for the rest of your life comfortably, loves their daughter for the rest of his life and makes her happy, respect elderly, no hot tempered. Your parents will definately accept your boyfriend provided that if your boyfriend has the criteria that they want for a son-in-law. Height to them is nothing and moreover is on 3 cms diference...come on, girl
70951
Lots of factors - like how old you are, what is the status of your relationship, what is the stage of your relationship right now, how serious both of you are with each other, etc.  If you're still young, it may not be advisable to move in with him there.  Are you already engaged and marriage is in your plans?  Can you both work out a win-win plan?  I think a move that will affect both of you must be decided by both of you, and not just him.  He should have asked your thoughts on the matter, considering that he expect you to be there.  Weigh all these considerations and decide the best.
102435
I think everyone struggles with this at one point or another with their parents.  I know I have.  The main thing is you need to make the decision for yourself.  Who is it that you are going to be growing old with....certainly not your parents.  It's difficult to cut those ties between being an adult and still being viewed as their child.\n\nThe "adult" thing to do, is tell your parents it is ultimately your final decision.  Tell your parents, respectfully, that you will find out through trial and error which man you will ultimately spend the rest of your life with, but in the end it is your decision, not theirs.  This does not mean you love them any less, but their support and love are needed in different ways at this point in your life.  On the other hand if they do view their opinion about something do not ignore it.  Place it in the back of your mind and think about it.  Sometimes a third party can see things that an individual may not see due to the emotions involved in a relationship.\n\nGood Luck!  I know I have let some good ones go because my father "didn't approve", through time and the wise words of my aunt, I have learned what I mentioned above.  In some ways having that "adult" conversation with my parents, they show me a higher level of respect then they did before.\n\nDon't spend your time "proving" anything to them, you will only make yourself tired.  Parents and loved ones will choose to see what they want.  Only you and your boyfriend know the whole dinamics of your relationship.  Just don't be "blinded" by any red flags.
589677
dont listen of all of them are u going to run to this man tell him marry me as my parents are forcing me to get married?haha hes going to be a man dont do that.during this time dont be in touch with this guy tell ur parents i wont get married now go off get a new job move to a new place then date man u love if not find a nice guy get married settle down marriage should be based on love and marriage shouldnt be for any other reason then two people themselves wanting to spend their life together not parents.
351644
you can not put a worth or price tag on love!!! If you love this man it would not matter if you lived together in a cardboard box as long as you two are together! Your family is only looking out for your best interest so don't get upset with them over it.A parent only wants the best for their child and they already have Been through the struggles of life and most likely don't want you to have to do the same! It does make it easier when someone is are already established in love but your heart just cant see if they have money or not nor does it care! I can however from experience say that its as easy to marry for love as it is for money money does not make the world go around but I'm telling ya it sure does help!Unfortunately we live is a society where unless you make a certain figure you just cant hardly make ends meet!You say things are looking up It doesn't matter if he lives with his parents and he doesn't have a car does he have potential or is he just one of these guys that plans on mooching off of mom and dad forever I mean is he in school ,is he at a job where he has the potential of moving up in the company or is he one who sits at home all day eating potato chips and playing video games!!You have to look with your eyes as well as your heart!If this is what you know you want in life then by all means go for it but realize what you are getting into and if he can not support the two of you just plzz think b4 you bring someone (a child) into it as well! What we choose for ourselves is our business but once you bring in a child the choice and decisions you make in life are not for just you so you have to make them all for them!!!I do hope that Love will conquer all and that you get to go with your heart in the end ,just plz do yourself a favor and make a a list of things that are good and bad about him and be honest if you don't write it honestly your only hurting yourself but write down everything his goals his chances of reaching them where you see him in a few years and think to yourself in 10 years is this what I want for myself? You don't have to break up with him because hes not financially stable but plz do yourself this favor and not marry him until he can take care of you and your future family!! the best of luck to you!!
388620
Your parents have legal control until you go to court and become legally immancipated.  A court may not allow it, because you are not self-supporting and are not legally married to your boyfriend.  \n\nEither he steps up to be a man and marries you, you get a job and support that baby.... or you go home to your parents.\n\nYou need to consider all of the ramifications if your boyfriend dumps you, Honey.  It happens all the time!\n\nBest Wishes,\nSue
523040
At 22 you are entitled to do what you want, make your feelings known to your parents, tell them you love them and appreciate their concerns, but it is your life, and as an adult you need the time and space to make your own decisions.  Talk frankly to them about any misconceptions they have of your fiance, but don't do it with hostility.  You say you have prayed about your decision, that suggests a faith in God, in which case, approach this with a meek and humble attitude.  Respect your parents, involve them in your decision as much as possible, but ensure they know that it is your decision, and that they must abide by it.\n\nMy daughter is getting married in a few weeks, her fiance would not be my choice, but she is the one marrying him, and I love her enough to respect that choice, your parents will do the same if they love you.
129655
do his parents live in lebanon? do you two plan to stay here if you get married? it's unlikely that his parents will change their minds. and i bet if you two marry he'll want to go back there, or at least have long visits there. it smells fishy to me. his parents are probably deep-rooted in their opinions; meeting you will be unlikely a mind-changing experience. be careful. it also depends on how long you've been dating. please tell me it's been over 2 yrs at least.
484297
This sounds sooooooo familiar.  My parents did not like my boyfriend for a very long time, but the longer we were together, the more they realized how much we cared for each other.  Now we are engaged and my parents are ecstatic.  Just think to yourself....................who's in love with him, me or my parents? when your in love, you shouldn't care what other people think, but since its your parents, i know its hard.  Just follow your heart!!\n\nGood luck and God bless!
338639
Wow your parents are being very selfish.  It sounds like you've made up your mind about your boyfriend and leaving him his not an option.  My advice is to move out asap.  You're 25, they can't stop you.  You're parents shouldn't hold that over your head...they are saying all that stuff to CONTROL you.  Trust me, sounds like something my mother would have said to me when I lived at home.  We get along a lot better now that I'm not living with her.  I don't think you're parents hate you but they are not being fair.  \n\nThis might sound out there but did you get your college degree yet?  That might help you get a better job and be able to afford living on your own.\n\nAnyways, I hope you feel better and I'm sorry you have to put up with that.  Again, move out asap.
109580
well, if you both are over 18, doesn't matter what his dad says.  He can stay and get an apartment with you if he wants.