I never ever had an orgasm - alone or with a man.\nSometimes I get little excited by myself, but that's all.\nMy boyfriend is absolutely amazing - full of sexual energy and caring at the same time, but it just doesn't turn me on.\nIs it normal? When did you have your first one?
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My girlfriend had the same problem,,,she finally had an orgasm after buying herself a vib***** and she was 25!  Poor thing!  She was sexually abused as a child and taught that sex was "dirty" and "bad"....If this sounds like you, buy a vib***** and consider going to counseling if you think you need it....And remember that trying to have an orgasm will make it harder to have one....relax, open your mind, and you will get there!  Good luck
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Could be a number of things. Your man may not know how to please you, but that shouldn't be such a problem. more of an issue is probably that you don;t know how to please yourself, so you can;t tell him what to do. Many women NEVER have orgasms from actual intercourse, only through oral sex or masturbation. Many women just don't feel comfortable taking their time - especially if their partners are quick to come and roll over. You may just not be relaxed enough with men yet, unable to really let go and feeeel sex instead of thinking about what to do or how you look doing it. I suggest that you start masturbating and figuring out how to achieve orgasm on your own. If you do have a partner right now and want to come during se with him, buy a vibrator and use it together. It can give him a lot of pleasure too :-) On the whole, don;t worry, you'll figure it out. Experiment and have fun with it, the rest will follow.
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Actually there's a large percentage of women who don't have an orgasm during intercourse alone.  A lot of us need clitoral stimulation as well in order to have an orgasm.  Don't be shy about it...do what works!!
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all men have different sex drives.I am now a married man, but when i was single it was sometimes up to 3 times.of course when you are a very young man and you first discover the orgasm,then you want it over and over again .when this first happened to me, i can remember i just kept on going untill i was so sore i had to stop.
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Frankly, I don't see what the issue is.  My question to him would be:  "Do you NEVER masterbate?"  to which I doubt he could say that he never does.  It's the same thing.  he should be glad that he has someone who enjoys the aspects of being a sexual woman.  He shouldn't feel threatened by it.  Maybe you could introduce other toys (ones that get used on him) and make your sex life with him more adventuresome.  It's meant to be fun.  Why is he so insecure about it?  It's definitely not as if you were screwing another man.  Good luck, and enjoy your sexuality.
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This is very true.. especially since I have never experienced an orgasm..  I find that even though I have never climaxed in my life( by the way I have been sexually active since the age of 18 and I am 22) I still enjoy sex. I enjoy the emotional connection I feel with the person rather than physical. Don't get me wrong I enjoy the physical aspect. But what truly makes me feel satisfied is the feeling of oneness with the person I am sharing my body with.
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My best advice would be that you should try having an orgasm on your own first. When you are with a man, you might become so concerned about the orgasm-matter, that you will not be able to relax and give in to the pleasurable feelings.\nIn order to enjoy masturbating, and getting an orgasm, it is first and foremost important that you think it is OK to masturbate! There is noting wrong or sinful about getting to know one's body - and thereby becoming a better sex-partner.\nMake sure, you have all the time, you'll need without disturbances. Pay attention to the setting; perhaps you'll enjoy a long bath first, put on your favourite lotion, your favourite underwear or maybe light a few candles.\nSpend some time finding a good place to be at - the bed would be an obvious choice. Try touching yourself in different ways, what feels good, what doesn't? Take it slow and enjoy your time with yourself, getting to know yourself. Perhaps you won't achieve an orgasm the first time, you try; but you'll definitely learn something about how you like to be touched.\nRemember, the main goal is to become comfortable with your own body and your own sexuality, this will heighten your chances of achieving an orgasm. On the same note, I'd hold back on porn, dildos etc. until you are certain what you like, until then they might only serve as distracters.\nBest of luck!
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I don't know that I quite understand all of your question.  What are you saying about your boyfriend masturbating?  Are you worried that because he masturbates, he's not horny enough to have more sex with you?  Believe me, masturbation doesn't change your sex drive; it merely takes care of it.  If he has enough desire to masturbate, he's got enough to have sex with you.\n\nAs for oral . . . no, not all men like to do it.  Some dislike the smell/taste, some find it difficult to do (I've heard things like complaints of tongue cramping, believe it or not), some feel it's beneath them (that a 'real man' can satisfy his woman through penetration alone), some merely don't care about her orgasm and won't do the work for it, some are nervous or feel inexperienced and don't want to do it because they're scared of failing (they don't know how to locate the clitoris; and some women are slightly hard to get off).  Or it's just not really their thing.  A lot of guys love to do it, but a lot don't, too.\n\nI can't say if your boyfriend's gay; you'll have to decide that.  But, if it's worth anything, there are straight males out there who masturbate often, don't like to perform oral sex on women, and don't have sex as often enough as their wives/girlfriends would like.\n\nHope that helps.
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well it could be because you are nervous, some women may have the sooner than others some only require physical touch others require mental stimulation.\nif you are with your partner experiment or don't be afraid to tell him or her (if that's your case) what to do what feels good  or where to go. there are many reasons, if you cant with your partner try exploring with your self first then make suggestions  based on the things you tried while alone.\n\nthe main thing is be comfortable and relaxed.\nI dont want to go to deep into it here, if you like to hear more e-mail me \nmy e-mail addres is \n\ndj-roland808@hotmail.com\n\nif you have messenger aol msn or yahooo also let me know can add you and speak live
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This could not be further from the truth. In fact its quite the opposite, when a girl gets comfortable enough with herself that she can masturbate to orgasm she often finds it easier to orgasm during the real thing. Also understand that there is more than one type of orgasm that women can have, a clitoral, and a g-spot. \n\nAs for your sex drive question, different people have different levels of sexual anticipation its normal and you should consider yourself lucky.
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Reaching an orgasm varies in women. Personally, it all depends on if your partner is experienced or not in getting you there, OR if you know your own body well enough in assisting him or you doing it yourself. Most women I know, DO NOT have orgasms often. I would think that its harder for women.
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I DONT KNOW WHY YOUR HAVING THIS SENSITIVITY U MIGHT NEED TO GO TO YOUR O.B. GYN AS FOR THE ORGASM... NOT ALL WOMEN EXPERIENCE AN ORGASM...HAVE U EVER REALLY HAD ONE? ALOT OF WOMEN THINK TOO MUCH ABOUT IT. YOU NEED TO REALLY RELAX AND KNOW HOW TO ALLOW YOURSELF TO HAVE ONE ITS NOT JUST UP TO YOUR PARTNER/BOYFRIEND HE'S THERE TO HELP,THAT'S FOR SURE BUT IT IS ALSO UP TO U
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19 and I've only been with one man.  I think I feel less shy about sex now that I'm no longer a virgin.  I got pregnant a few months after I lost my virginity so my life has changed in that way.
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Yes, this is very normal!  I can't say it's controllable or not, but I know some guys orgasm with no reaction at all!  I don't see how, but I guess it depends on the person.
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Are you stimulated to arousal when he penetrates you during intercourse? If not, then you will most probably NOT have a successfull orgasm. You may need more stimulation prior to him entering. Have you talked about this with him? If he isn't aware there is a problem then he can't very well try to help you. Have you thought about asking for oral sex? Or the two of you could talk and find out what you need to both achieve orgasm, it DOES NOT have to happen at the same moment as your partner, I think that is a huge misconception that most couples believe. Try out differnt positions and talk to him during sex, tell him what feels good and show him where you need to be touched. Don't feel embarrassed or silly about this, most men would really appreciate the fact that they know exactly what to do to make their partner orgasm, and you are just teaching him how. Good luck.
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'the answer to achieving orgasms with a partner is this:\n\nIt depends on the sensitivity of your partner towards your erogenous\n\nzones - if you share sexual intimacy with an experienced, inept or\n\ngreedy lover, you are always pretty much left out in the cold.\n\n\n\nOne of the most difficult things, it seems, for women to do during\n\nintimacy is to clue in their partners to what they want.  For some\n\nreason, men seem to have no problem asking for particulars during\n\nintimacy but women seem to be shyer about it.  The first thing I would\n\nsuggest you do is to be verbal with your lover and communicate to them\n\nwhat you enjoy.  The best way to open a conversation about this is to\n\ninquire the same of your lover.  Thay way, you open the door to be\n\nable to communicate what pleases you.  Tell your lover "Do this" or\n\n"Linger there" or "Slow down!" so that he will know what he is doing\n\nthat makes you feel warm and relaxed.  Don't be shy about saying what\n\nis pleasing to you during sexual intimacy (or what is not) - contrary\n\nto popular belief, men can't read minds. Lol\n\n\n\nUnfortunately, many men (especially younger men) seem to operate under\n\nthe assumption that penetration during sexual intercourse is the most\n\nfulfilling thing they can do for a woman when, actually, the act of\n\npenetration is usually the ultimate goal of the male's satisfaction.\n\n\n\nAlso, men may sometimes rush to fulfill their desire for penetration\n\nand not think to be sensuous with a woman.  There is an old saying\n\n"Men give foreplay to get sex and women give sex to get foreplay." \n\nThis is certainly not true across the board but, by far, many women\n\nseem to enjoy the sensuous intimacy that precedes sexual intercourse\n\nwhile men seem to be running for the penetration goal line.  Lol \n\nPlus, foreplay is what enables a woman to relax and be able to achieve\n\norgasm.\n\n\n\nI don't want you to think anything is "wrong" with you, either,\n\nbecause you don't experience orgasms everytime you have sexual\n\nintercourse.  There are other factors to consider regarding this such\n\nas fatigue, emotional stress, etc.  If you happen to be in an\n\nout-of-the-bedroom situation such as stress on the job or having had a\n\ntiff with a friend, these experiences can affect your ability to relax\n\nduring sexual intimacy - even the thought "I should have washed those\n\ndishes first…" removes your mind from the intimate situation. \n\nConsider these factors and others as being the reasons you sometimes\n\ndon't experience orgasms.  Relaxation is a big key to this.  Sometimes\n\na small glass of wine might do the trick, too, to relax you.\n\n\n\nAs far as tips on experiencing more or frequent orgasms, here are some\n\nlinks that may be of interest to you:\n\n\n\nImtimate Fitness - The Kegel Method\n\nhttp://kegelmaster.8k.com/sex.html\n\nhttp://kegelmaster.8k.com/orgasms.html\n\n\n\nTantra and Tantric Sex \n\nhttp://www.oztantra.com/whatistantra.html\n\nhttp://www.tantra.com/\n\n\n\nA book is available here for $14.95 titled "Pathways to Pleasure - A\n\nWoman's Guide to Orgasm"\n\nhttp://female-orgasms.com/pleasure_4_women.htm\n\n\n\nWomen's Sex Health - An online pay site with intimate secrects for\n\nwomen regarding orgasm - $9.95 for one month accesss\n\nhttp://www.womensexhealth.com/\n\nhttp://www.womensexhealth.com/orgasms_learn_more.htm\n\n\n\nGo Ask Alice - regarding women having more orgasms\n\nhttp://www.goaskalice.columbia.edu/0117.html\n\n\n\nMyths About Female Sexuality\n\nhttp://www.ualberta.ca/HEALTHINFO/Decisions/mythsf.htm
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I use to think i was sick and asked my Dr. if i was normal to have such a strong drive that it drove me crazy and i seemed  to want more all the time. He said, it is a natural and normal feeling and some people have stronger drive than others. I started experimenting to try and learn how to control it better so not to drive me so batty. Don't be so concerned this is natural and your blessed to have orgasm's and a good strong healthy drive and desire for love. It's called life. Some people wish they could do what your able to accomplish. Masturbating is healthy and normal. The fact that you can help yourself while he's away keeps you out of trouble and satisfied. Learn to teach yourself and him how to turn you on more. Foreplay is a very wonderful way to teach and learn from each other. It will turn you both on to do this to one another and share idea's and curiosity's and fulfill each others fantasies and make some up as you go. I have personal experience and can tell you honestly that this really works as long as you are both willing and able to open up and share with each other. Good luck hope i helped