I was in the emergency room with my son, who was very ill, and this person was talking about me to anyone who would listen.  My feelings were hurt.  Should I have said thomething?
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I imagine your mind was preoccupied with your child at the time and so any ideas of responding to this person  were probably secondary.  it was rude and insensitive of them to be talking disrespectfully in such circumstances anyway.\nA few years ago when my son had alopecia, I was waiting for him and his sister to finish their swimming lesson and watching them in the pool from the upstairs cafe. Three old ladies were also sitting not too far from me and one of them started saying nasty things, 'look at that bald boy there, do you suppose he has cancer?' 'I wouldn't let him go out looking like that' and I was getting more and more annoyed because he was six and he was having the worst possible time in school over his hair loss and I just thought old people should be a lot more empathic.\n  Anyway I collected the two of them and as they were getting dried off, I noticed two of the old women were also drying their grandchildren, and one of them noticed me and went bright red from her chest to the top of her head. And she said, 'well if I had known he was yours I'd not have said anything' and I said, 'you knew he was someone's child'\nI think if you are in a situation like that again, and you feel you want to say something, even to make yourself feel a bit better,maybe look at the person and say, 'I'm sorry, I didn't quite catch what you said,could you repeat it?'  My guess is they wouldn't dare repeat what they said because by then everyone would be looking at them.\nI hope your son is much better now :)
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Look this same exact thing happened to me and i swear i was about to go physco on this guys a**, but he wasn't sincere at all in his apoligy, so if you said you were sorry in a certain tone of voice she might have taken it in a way like you didn't really mean it, and maybe the 2nd time you said it nicer and she knew you were sincere, so it could just be the way you said it.
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I tell them I was not expecting you! I am really not up to company right now. ____day would be much better. Could you come in the morning or afternoon?(smiling):)\n\nSomething along those lines. I don't like to fabricate stories and I am not afraid to hurt feelings as it is extremely rude to stop by any ones home unannounced.\n\nGuarantee it won't happen again.
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Yes you need to tell your mother as soon as possible or someone you are comfortable talking to.  A best friends mother, counselor, you doctor.\n\nIt was not your fault and you did not deserve to have this happen to you.  It is important that you report this so this man cannot hurt others like yourself.\n\nYou can then start the healing process and have a better chance to have a happy healthy future.\n\nI pray you find the courage to go forward....
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No, it's all good.  You were right to face him with something to think about that may help him.  It sounds like constructive criticism that offended someone who needed to hear the truth.
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Well hopefully the hurt was unintentional.  If it is intentional then this person has a serious problem.  We are human and we should want happiness for everyone, but sometimes we cannot provide that for everyone.  So what we need to do is keep ourselves happy, let others be happy and live a fullfilling life staying out of others business unless they ask us for advice or help.
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I think you need new friends Genler . Sounds to me,  by all your questions, that your friends are sick individuals, do you live near a mental hospital or something? You need to get away from that place & your so called friends before you turn out to be a sick, inbreeding, mental,  pedophile, unless you already have. Your friend "A" has many issues probably dating back to childhood, this uncle "V" probably molested her as a child regardless she needs counseling & a straight jacket . Are you asking this to make sure other people feel the same way you do to prove to yourself you are sane? I think that is what it is. You need reassurance that you are not a mental water head like your friends.Here is alittle advice that I always practice to keep myself out of trouble or bad situations. When you hear a story or a situation, or a offer whatever your first instinct is go with it. You 1st instinct is always the best. You don't want to re think a situation, go with a different thought & then kick yourself in the A$$ later for not following your heart good luck
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He may have some feelings of insecurity going with a younger person, so that comment would have bummed him out big time. I don't think you were being insensitive or him being up tight, it sounded like it was said without any thought, but wrapped in the moment of chatting and laughing. Do you know what I mean? I sometimes say some dumb as stuff and then realise I said something that was offensive, but had no intention to.
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I didn't go to work one day cause I said my kid needed to go to the hospital.\n\nShe did and I took her there, my boss just doesn't know that when I refer to my daughter I'm actually talking about my cat.
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You should get this situation off your chest.. But if you want to get help for your situation, you should tell your family and friends. Do not be scared of their reaction. It doesn't matter how anyone reacts and that's who you are.
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If it's been a week you should probably go to the doctor. It's something you shouldn't let go. You actually should go to the emergency room; if it is infection it could be really bad by the time you can see the doc on Monday. Better safe than sorry because it could make you very sick.  You're paying the price right now by beating yourself up over it.  Take a big deep breath, forgive yourself and don't worry about what others could be thinking about you.  And I'm going out on the Jesus limb right now but He will forgive you, you can forgive yourself and you'll get on with your life and do good things.  I'm not saying you will forget about it and never think about it again but you can get out there and do some positive things with your life and it will be better.  Time and forgiveness is a good healer.  I'll pray for you tonight but you do need to get to the doctor to be sure you don't have an infection!!!!!!
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If you are feeling uncomfortable, it's always fine to get a third opinion. Possibly don't tell the third doctor your previous diagnosis until they have already checked you and told you what they found... that way they are looking at it 'fresh' and not just looking for what you told them someone else already found. If they, too, say this, then I would suggest following their advice. I think it's smart to get different opinions when considering some major medical stuff, though.
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I would probley never speak to them again knowing me i would attack them and send them to the hospital, but my advice to you is to not do that, i would say approach them and talk to them about it maybe they did do it maybe they did not do it. you should ask no matter what
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Happy Birthday!\n\nJust wanted to make sure I didn't get in the doghouse too :)\n\nIf you have to ask if you should be offended about something, then (ideally) you shouldn't be.  The fact is that you're hurt, and I think most people would be in your shoes.\n\nYes, you should say something to her.  This stuff festers if it's not addressed.  Be careful how you word it, though.  Tell her how you feel (she can't argue with your feeling) about the situation:\n\n"I felt sad when you didn't want to talk on my birthday, or even SAY happy birthday."\n\nHere's the deal, though.  When the discussion is over, let it go.  We don't get points for thoughtless stuff people do.
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Better to be safe than sorry \nkeep your appointment the doc is sending you for a reason. i hope you feel better
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this is where people tell you that god works in mysterious ways. I wouldn't say that because it would piss me off if i were in your place. I'm sorry about your son. I don't know what to tell you about god, but I hope your son gets better.
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I'd be more worried that you think cutting someone's throat is appropriate.  If that's how you feel, please get help.  And don't give your opinion to other people, it could mess them up, too.