i caught my boyfrend cheatin on me on tuesday..i still cant get over it..i cry every single day and night i cry myself ta sleep I CANT STAND IT..!i love him soo much..why would he do it?.gosh i want him back last time we broke up i think the only reason he went back out with me is cuz his cuzin told him to..but he missed me last time and now he wont even talk ta me?.omgosh i feel like cryin..!
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It takes time.  I'm still not over my ex and that was 7 years ago.  I know that doesn't sound promising, but that isn't what life is about.  You learn to deal.  As time goes by it gets easier.  If you really love someone they will always hold a special place in your heart, even 50 years down the road.  Don't try to get over it.  Cry, listen to sad music, wear pj pants, and eat ice cream.  Everyone needs to wallow.  Eventually you will want to start living again and be happy and you will. Don't try to be friends though.  When things are that serious and one still has feelings and you try to "just be friends", the one with the feeling, you, will always get hurt in the end.  You'll realize it's not enough and you'll never heal that way.  Just remember not to shut love out because of one jerk.  Life is too long to live it alone and lonely.
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Hey, you know, I am kind of in the same boat as you are, except for I have pretty much gone through having to hear my ex-husband cry to me every single time that I spoke with him to let me know how much is missed me.  I have two young boys with him, and believe me, it has been really hard, but thanks to my dear boyfriend who I now love a lot I have made it through.  I have been thinking about living with my boyfriend too, as my divorce will be in June, but it seems like I can't wait that long.  I don't know, but I just know that women seem to want things done much quicker and we don't like to wait to get what we want.  I would say to do what your heart tells you to do.
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I am happy for you that you realize he didn't love you, you are on the road to recovery!  WTG!  Why do you miss him so much?  You spent 3 years with him, that is a good chunk of time wouldn't you agree?  Even though someone hurt us more than imaginable, we still suffer a loss after a break up.  The only way to heal is to forgive him for all they ways he's hurt you.  You forgive him for yourself and your mental health, it really has nothing to do with him.  Then give yourself a lot of time.  You aren't going to get over three years in a month.  When you feel you are ready to move on you will but; give yourself a little time so what he did to you doesn't effect your next relationship.  Good luck and remember:  "NO MAN OR WOMAN IS WORTH YOUR TEARS AND THE ONE WHO IS WON'T MAKE YOU CRY."  I don't know who said it but; it's wonderful isn't it?
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The reason you can't get over him is because u can't let go.\n\nY do u want him back sweetie? I know it hurts that he's with someone else and if u don't let go and move on ur only hurting yourself.. He's not thinking  or worrying about you, so why waste time that could be spent getting yourself together  or dating other guys? U get the strength by \n\n1. Keeping busy\n\n2. get rid of anything that reminds u of him\n\n3. Stop worrying about what his doing or who he's with\n\n4.Get out there a date\n\n5.Know that he's not the ONLY guy and if he was worth it he never would have done this to you\n\nI hope you realize that in life people do breakup and it will hurt, but what don't kill ya makes you stronger.\n\nGo out meet other guys and enjoy it until you met the next guy who will not leave you for another\n\nHe's not worth your tears, next time u cry about a guy cry because your so happy with him
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Take a break.....if it happened once it could happen again.  They say once a cheater always a cheater.  What were the circumstances surrounding the "moment" alcohol, stress, anger etc....and will this set it off in the future??  It could just be a never ending spiral.  And at some point if it does happen again, you may feel you need to do the same thing just to get back at him.  He needs to prove himself worthy of you.  And it will always sit in the back of your mind.  First thing you should do is talk about it again and show him how you are feeling, if your reaction was nothing, he may not think it's a big deal!  Good luck....  And remember there is someone out there that is perfect for you, so if you ahve to let this one go, it might be b/c someone better is waiting!! :)
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I am also going through a break up right now. My BF of 4.5 years broke up with me 3 weeks ago. I was happy with him and he was happy with me, but he didn't know what he wanted out of life, blah, blah, blah. He still loves me and I still love him, so I have hope that we will get back together, but I'm not holding my breath.\n\nI too went through the depressed stage. I found that writing in a journal about how I felt helped alot. It let me get my feelings out without being overly emotional in front of other people. \n\nI am now in the angry stage, where I'm just so mad at him for doing this to me. \n\nI've heard that grief has many stages. My advice to you is to not make contact with him. If he calls don't answer and maybe wait a couple of hours to call him back. Make him think that you don't care.\n\nI wish you the best of luck.\n\n(((((HUGS)))))
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He aint worth your while sweetie. Play it cool, but dont give him a chance to do that to you again. Theres no need to feel bitter about it, so move on with your life. Dont let it runi your chances of meeting another person. If you're heartbroken keep yourself busy with other acivities. Good Luck!
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I'm going through the same thing. So you're not alone. It's awful....But you're extremely fortunate. My guy friend never came back!!!! He's been gone for a while now...(a month maybe?) and slowly, very slowly, I'm coming back to reality. So I guess all you need is some time. \nI believe that your heart is made up of people. So when someone leaves, the people are ripped out of your heart, leaving a huge gap. A painful gap. And the only way to heal it is to replace it with new people. So try to find someone new to fill in that empty space in your heart. I haven't, that's for sure. It's hard to find someone as special as those guys. \nWhenever memories of those guys come back, just shut it out. Replace those memories with bad ones. Try to forget them.\nOk, I know that's an awful thing to do, but at least it'll help you concentrate for another hour. \nI hope this helps, sister. Good luck. I wish you the best.\n\nP.S. Thanks for your Q. I finally found someone I can relate to.\n\nOooohh! Here's something to cheer you up:\nIn a world of cheerios, be a fruit loop.\nHaha, sorry, I'm really random. But this quote has helped me. It might do the same for you!
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Oh wow!  Went through what you're going through last month.  It's called DISCIPLINE!  I learned to focus my energy on other things.  Pray, eat, close your eyes when you see him, ANYTHING!  Girl, do NOT let him see you sweat!  Time heals all wounds...and no one said it would be an easy recovery.  Tell yourself that you want to leave him alone...plus did you say he has a girlfriend?  \n\nThat right there would be motivation enough for me, jizel...it just ISN'T WORTH IT!  The right man will cross your path in due time...just have a lot of patience...I do, and I'm not even thinking about another man...honestly...it took me about 3 weeks to get over the fool I was with.  And now I feel better than he could ever make me feel.  Now he realizes how much he misses me because I stopped answering his calls and even stopped calling him.  I stopped giving him a reason to make me feel anything other than disgust for his no good, lazy, no money having a*ss!\n\nTHIS TOO SHALL PASS.  Be strong, jizel, I know it's hard, but God won't let you go through something He doesn't think you can handle.\n\nKeep your head up and your smile too...\nMo~
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Girl, the same thing happened to me but my guy was much farther away. It hurt so bad not being able to see him that I dumped him. I felt alot better afterward. You should do the same. He's obviously causing you alot of pain. Do what you think is rigyht, but keep my advice in mind. Good luck!
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B4 my husband and I got married he was still talking/writting (really sweet emails) to his ex who cheated on him....I found out accidentally...anyway....I wanted to leave...he started begging and crying....so I stayed...like an idiot and even married him....bad mistake...he still talks to a different ex, whom he sends money to...(my hard earned money)....I am about to divorce him...and he did that crying crap again...I told him to F... off! oh and he is in the military...wonder what they do during deployments???...well some of them anyway.\n\nso yes it hurts...because I trusted him not to cheat on me....and we have 2 lil babies....anyway...they are better off without him....since he doesn't have time for them...I can conquer the world...I am smart and educated and can look after the well being of my babies....and he can go ahead and catch a STD..who cares...lol!!!  All the best!
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It really hard to Move on girl but You have to ...Well everyone was saying move on and you might think we don't know what you r feeling and just saying move on..the thing is i know how u feeling right now...you feel sad ..you want to cry and you want to tell him how much u need him/ love him and u want to show him u would do anything to get him and u want to beg him to get bak but he doesn't feel the same and u feel like u want to die is't? I been there a few month ago. he broke my heart and i feel all the thing that i'm telling you now but in the end what did i get ...he doesn't feel same as me...i'm just making my self down/worst...so i'm just relise instand of wanting him back i should try to have fun with my mate more and i should do anything that make me happy and yep i'm happy now and I'm glad i'm sigle again. I don't need them to make me happy and yep i'm not dating anyone at the moment and i don't feel like it ..i'm enjoy my single life. the thing is u just need to make ur self happy ..if u happy u don't need him but i'm very sure it going to take time ..u can't just do it overnight and ou really really need to be strong ...Anyway if u really want him back that badly try to be friend with him again first and show him u care."Love is when friendship on fire" ..."if u love a dove, let him go...if he come back he is ur ..if he not he never was"..just remember this ..it always help me but good luck
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That is soo me, I have the same problem, I have been hurt soooo many times that I can't even count on my hands how many times I have been heart broken. But i seem to go on, and now I really like this boy, and I afraid to ask him because of what his friends will say, so I'm just keeping it in, and its tearing me up inside, and I can't take it anymore. So, I have came to a conclusion that I'm never going to be w/him, and I'm just trying to forget about him, but I will always have that feeling, and that hope that he will realize that he likes me. Well, I say go w/your heart. \n\n                                 Good Luck!!!!!
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wake up,he cheated on you so why have him back.chances are you will never fully trust him ever again.time to move on girl
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They are probably telling you that because they love you and they can see you are hurting.   Hell yeah, you have every right to be angry.  Cheating is the ultimate betrayal.  It nips at the core of your self esteem, it tells you that you are not good enough.  It doesnt matter whether it was a mistake or not because things do happen in the heat of the moment and mistakes still get made, but it doesnt change how the person who is being cheated on feels about themselves.  I guess the big question is....do you still love her?  That is the hardest part to get over and it is going to take a bit more time than 2 weeks to get her out of your head and your heart.  Depending on how much you loved her will determine how long you will grieve for.  And you do grieve when you lose someone you love.  Just know that not all girls/women are the same...so dont carry her betrayal into another relationship....treat it as brand new....you have to trust because your next girlfriend is not the old girlfriend and you dont want to start any relationship off badly because of the things that happened to you with someone else.  Distrust and jealousy is the quickest way to lose someone....so you need to come to terms with what has happened and when you are done grieving, move on and leave what she did where it belongs....in the past.\n\nI hope it wont take you long until you start to trust again.  Try to not blame yourself....it was not your fault she cheated...it was just the relationship was not meant to be...she was not the girl for you.\n\nI hope you feel better soon....You wont always feel angry.  With time you will just put it down to experience.
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Aw sweetie you sound so sad! I know it probably feels like the end of the world at the moment, but it does get easier I promise. It's never easy to get over someone that you really cared about, but you will be happy again, with someone who feels the same way. It seems that this guy cared enough about you to tell you that it wasn't working, rather than lying about his feelings. \nIt happens the other way round too, and you may find yourself going out with someone in the future who likes you more than you like them!\nIt happens because you are learning about yourself and growing as a person all the time. It takes a while to figure out who we are and what we want from a partner and from life. \nAppreciate that we learn something from each person who passes through our life, good or bad. See that he just wasn't right for you and that means you are available for someone who is!
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i have sort of had this experience.i fell in love with this guy.our relation was going on steadily when another woman came in his life and he ditched me.i did not ask for explaination and just walked out of his life.i was so heartbroken.i lost faith in everybody and am afraid to love once more.whenever i see that guy i get very angry but pretend as if nothing has happened and try to enjoy but actually inside i feel sick.i think u should move on.it is hard but tyr and slowly u will forget.