My boyfriend is suppose to leave in 3 months to go back home but he has no plans to take me along with him or anything! he says he loves me but how can he go and just forget about me? he is 28 so he is not a kid! we've been together 2 years now and I know he loves me and I love him very much! he said it will just be too hard! the question is should I break up with him NOW or just wait till he leaves? Please help me!
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Why break up with him at all, if you are both in love, try the long distance thing for a while to see if it will work, maybe visit one another once or month or more often if you choose.  But if you are dead set with breaking up with him, it would be the more honorable thing to do would be to do it face to face
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I know it's really hard to let go! When you beg a guy to stay, and try to work things out, it will never work out. He will just keep you on the side in case things don't work out else where. I'm speaking from experience. You need to tell yourself that you deserve someone who wants to be with you just as much as you want to be with them. Why would you want to be with this guy, he has already given up. He can't possibly care as much as you do, about this relationship. Move on, there is some one out there for you. It takes time and patience. Don't just settle, set high standards for yourself. Keep your head up. :)
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Seeing your love one leave is never easy, especially if  you never quite openly expressed feeling for one another.\n\nThere are times you only get one chance in life. If you miss it, it comes a big "what if I had" entry in your diary book.\n\nDo you want to ponder the possibility of telling him how you feel and what might have happened?  Or would you rather live life to its fullest with no regret.\n\nInstead of thinking he's leaving in 20 days, think of it that you have 20 days to enjoy his company. To some people, just one days together seems like a life time...\n\nI think you should tell him how you feel about him, and enjoy your time with him before he leave.  This way both of you would have closure of this beautiful although short-lived relationship.\n\nHave the courage to live fully, to experience and to love.  I hope you guys have a good time.\n\nBest Wishes~
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It will go on for as long as you allow it.  He obviously has intimacy issues and since it's unlikely that he'll change, it's up to you to decide if you want to put up with it.  Tell him that if he leaves again not to bother coming back.
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he prolly just dont know how to break up with u in a nice way ......he doesn't want to be with u but then he doesn't want to hurt u ... its really bothering him ......... you might just wanna save him the trouble and tell him that ur just gonna give him his own space and to let u know when and if he's ever ready to come back around then all he has to do is call u.
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From my own experience, breaking up with someone to "teach them a lesson" usually ends up with you getting hurt. Maybe he's missing you inm his own way, my boyfriend always says that just because he doesn't show his emotions on the outside doesn't mean that he's not hurting on the inside. Maybe he's trying to clean himself up on his own first, it sounds like he needed to gain so independence from you and be a better person without you before he can be friends/ be woth you again. I mean ask yourself, would you wan thim back in the state you left him in? Just give him some time and space and try and enjoy your own
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asked him why he hasnt left his gf yet if he truly loves you. He might be just using you or just making you a "in case" person.. If he cant give you a definite answer, you should just tell him that you cannot wait for him anymore and that you are moving on..
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Yes you are making a big deal. Can't you take a hint? He doesn't want to be with you, I don't mean to sound like a b*tch but it's true. He's telling you "oh I'm leaving" yet he doesn't leave.\n\nJust get over him, he's too much of a damn coward to give you the real reason. Forget him.
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I don't think I'd do anything quite yet.  You should probably wait and see what happens. I understand you're worried but if your relationship is strong, you 2 can work this out.  Some people can make long distance relationships work out, some can't.  He says he's taking you with him, do you even want to move? That's something you'll have to decide and that could give you the rest of the answers you need.\nBest of luck to you!
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It's only been two weeks.  I know it's cliched, but give it time, devote yourself to other things and spend more time with your friends and family.  Eventually, you'll see that you made the right decision and remember why you broke up with him in the first place.  If, in three or four months, you still feel the same way, you need to re-examine the entire situation.  Hopefully, by them you'll have someone that either is or potentially is a better fit for you.
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Leave his @ss...if it's weird and doesn't feel right, then that's not a relationship you need to be in. Just because you've been together for 2 years doesn't mean you have to stay together for old times sake. If he keeps leaving, this time you be the strong woman and walk away. Trust me, Honey, I know. I did it and I am much better for it. You may love him, but he obviously is not treating you the way you deserve to be treated and you need to cut your losses and get out.
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Dear you are too young to decide on these issues. But you want to move away from him you have a reason to move away. U have studies as priority and concentrate on that. If he really loves you then breaking away is always not so easy and you have to go through that ache. Make up your mind and there is lot of life ahead and tell him about your decision with the positive note.
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Why did he disappear? he disappeared when you got into trouble? meaning he doesn't accept his responsibility with you...yes you may love him..but he doesn't even know how to be there for you...in my opinion, go out and have fun, there are other guys more willing to accept their responsibility whn they are with a person. Let go, he's totally not worth it...
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Well it's only been 3 weeks and he has made it quite clear that he wants to go slow, and he's explained why.  If this is not good enough for you then forget the relationship.  Otherwise just relax and let things take their course.
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It depends on your relationship, and how long you've been together. If you tell him that you want to wait a little longer and he gets really mad, then you should just forget about him. But if he respects your answer then it seems like the right time because he respects your choice. Which means he respects you.
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I hope you can stand an answer from a woman. When I read this, my heart went out to you. Believe me, I understand. It's good you recognize the first relationship where the guy didn't want kids had to end. That was a very healthy decision and you shouldn't look back on that with regret.\n\nAs for this last guy, I think he's just too immature to deal with his feelings. A guy I dated before I met my boyfriend did the same thing to me. Of course, I wasn't ready to declare my love for him at that point or anything either and then months later, the jerk tried emailing me. Ugh. Anyway, the reason I say this guy is immature about his feelings is because 3 months is a really short amount of time to determine if you love someone. In fact, I'm always wary of when people say it too soon. It makes me think they are just in love with the idea of being in love. My boyfriend and I didn't say those 3 little words until we were together almost a year, but I can tell you, we're both very sure of how much we love one another. I'm sorry you're in this situation and I think this has much more to do with the guy you were involved with than you. I don't think you can determine if it's love in just 3 months time and I don't think you'd want to waste your time seeing someone each day that you didn't think you could invest in a future with. I hope that helps, even if I made you feel a little less alone out there in the world. I've been there before and it's not fun, but if this guy is too much of a tool to see what a bright, self-assured woman he has, then you are much better off without him. Good luck to you.
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I wish every answer I supply could be a positive one.\n\nIt sounds like things are falling apart in the relationship, and it may not survive the seperation.\n\nWhat you might have to do is to give each other freedom - as unwilling as you are, and wait and see what happens in three years.  You might or might not get back together - only time will tell.\n\nIt sounds like you have undue pressure on you right now and that won't help you to concentrate on your studies in September.  You need to clear your mind.\n\nHe should have established trust in you and in the relationship, but perhaps the problem is with him - maybe he doesn't really trust himself.\n\nLet him go and if it is meant to be, then in three years, you will go back with each other.\n\nAt least you had this time together to love each other - as it is said - better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all.\n\nGod bless and good luck to you both.\n\nThe best is yet to be.