I have been played by a man, really good, he totally lied about working last night, I drove past his work, he wasn't home, I know he was with another woman, my thing is, he lied and he also claims he has feelings.  I didn't confron thim on this yet, cuz I am not sure which way to go.  What do I do?
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Well, I know you are feeling bad because the man lied to you and cheated you. But don't feel bad for such a low-life. He doesn't even deserve that and you don't deserve to be sad for this actions. So, just get over it. If you confront him, just tell him that you know that he has cheated on you, has lied to you and tell him that you never want to see him again. Don't feel bad for his actions. Move on.
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You should come correct, Kara.  If I were you I wouldn't have intentionally deceived him in the first place because now he's always going to be like, "If she lied to me about that, what ELSE is she lying to me about?"  \n\nBut, have no fear...  If he's really that great of a guy, he will understand and accept you for who you are and what you do.  You just have to do everything you can to earn back whatever trust and confidence he had in you prior to this perpetuation of misinformation.  You also have to let him know that no matter what you do, you're going to save the good stuff for him.  =)  \n\nGood luck.
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All is not well in your home tonight....there is lying and deception going on.....and not by you. He is lying to you, and using you. Tell him to tell the truth, or get out! After he tells you the truth, then you tell him to get out, cause you ain't gonna like what he tells you. Good Luck!
342650
Leave this guy now.  He wouldn't be wandering off for a week at a time and giving you a lame story.  Regardless of how bad his luck has been, he'd consider your feelings if he cared about you.  This guy is a jerk!
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I wouldn't be his back up. That is what it sounds like. He keeps her incase you 2 dont work. I duno whats wrong with him. He sounds like a catch. Not. I feel bad for you. What an ass.
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We always want what we can't have ....\n\nHe was eager and there for you and you said 'no.'  He wanted more and you said 'no.' He has suddenly stopped wanting you and guess what? You miss his attention and companionship.  So what happens next?\n\nA) Do you say that you are sorry and try and make up or ...\nB) Move on and leave the poor guy alone ...\n\nIts your choice, what do you really want? The silly arguments were more to do with his fustration at not being able to move the relationship forward.  Just good friends isn't going to work I'm afraid. You aren't serious just let him be or as I said 'say you are sorry and start being honest about how you feel - if you do! Only you know.
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you are sprung.  you wrote, " but i know he's not right for me. he lies alot. but i cant help it."  so he's hot?  so he's 'the ladies man? sure.  what the f ever.  i've seen this 1000 times.  i've been there 100 times.  and you have to get the f over this man.  he's a bad boy for life and you'll be another trophey on his shelf.  just another story to tell at the bar before he picks up his next one.  if you are smart enough to connect to the internet, you are smart enough to get over this man.   if you do him/it once, you'll no longer be his object to be desired.  you'll be his object conquered..  stay a mystery.  it's so much more fun to smile at him and make him wonder, than to blush and make him proud.
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Hey 'nanner'.\nIt's your best friend, you know, 'shayla'. Haha we're on the phone.\n\nWhat I think you should do....\nTalk to him and see what he says about the situation, and then try to decipher if hes lieing or not. Find out from someone you trust that's friends with him, and ask him what he's said. If you can't find anyone, maybe..... just maybe, you might have to move on. But for now, try to trust him to the best of your ability. We will get through this.
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I had two workplace romances a long time ago.  Neither of them caused a problem when we broke up.  How long have you worked with him?  Do you sense even a hint of a vindictive streak?  If so, keep away.  If not, tread carefully and take it slowly.
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if he lies to you about everything, it s obviously no trust there. I know it s cut and dry to say this but if there s no trust, the relationship wont work anyway. It s up to you to give him another chance or not. I think you should talk to him straight forward. If you want to give him a chance, go ahead. After all that, if he s still a liar, break up w/ him. Keep in mind, at least you tried your best, if it didnt work out, too bad, you move on.
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Depends on where you hear it from. i have been on both ends, once my man lied to me because he didn't want to hurt me and didn't want to me  to leave. Then once where i was all rumors.  Who is telling you?????  Is it someone who wants him/you? OR is it someone who just wants attention???
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if the person is already lying im sorry to tell you he will never tell the whole truth.Plus even if he does tell you the whole truth how do you know he isnt lying then.I hope you can figure a way out to find out if he is telling the truth
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well u shouldnt worry about something that happened 2 mon. ago just leave it alone. Just because he lied once doenst mean he'll do it again.and if he does leave him
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My advice to you, is to just fess up. You'll only dig yourself a deeper hole if you let this keep going. You wont be dead meat. Sure it will be hard to tell everyone that you lied, but it still needs to be done. In all reality you brought this on yourself, so you have to help yourself, and fix it.
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I wouldn't believe him, men will tell you "anything" just for you to fall again for their lies. But...at the end is your decision if you want to continue the relationship and try again.
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Tell him that you cannot be in a relationship with someone whose whole heart is not available and who doesn't respect you enough to be honest and straightfoward with you. \n\nHe lied to you from the start and why would you want to subject yourself to that sort of dispectful deception? That's just asking for trouble. I know it'll be difficult to call it off, but believe me... there are tons of guys out there that will respect you enough to a) not lie to you and b) BE SINGLE :)
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You were suspicious to begin with, hence you "checked" his email.  Now your suspicions are confirmed.  I would call a marsvenus coach to find out a) what to do and b) how can you regain your trust in this or any man.  You cannot have a healthy relationship where there is no trust.  Time for you to address all your past relationships and childhood wounds to determine why you were suspicious in the first place--was it his behaviour or your problem that drove you to check the email?