What does it mean when somebody you love, and who loves you too, avoids discussing issues that may come up between each other, as far as the relationship is concerned?
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There could be several issues.  Your relationship may not be a fully open one and there is a major problem with communication.  That can be helped by counseling or with some books available at the book store or library.  It will take both people to be willing to work on this problem.  It could be guilt over some offense your partner has committed.  It may be that your partner is afraid of the resulting conflict the topic may bring out or the pain that the topic may cause to you or themselves...good luck!
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...wish to share, am a returner favourer kinda person.\n\n1.26 11:51p est Stupendous Man, silly of me to confuse you with that little guy Calvin, guess I thought he looked a little like you.\nFor me it would depend what those differences were. If we're talking about weaknesses in character, then have to say I have seen that used as a weapon, friend on friend, sibling on sibling, and of course spouse on spouse. \nI had a realization once that I turned into a caution motto, "There is no one in this world who loves you so much as to not say a negative thing about you behind your back." (yes, very familiar with feeling betrayed, but let's leave that) And I guess a similar expression would be, "There isn't likely to be anyone in this world who loves you enough, never to hold your weaknesses against you." Whether that weakness is being too emotional or not emotional enough, or having to much to say or not being able to verbalize worth a poo, ya know the contrast between one personality and it's opposite.\n\nI guess what I am getting to, is that it's possible to love someone and know they have this difference about them, and SOMETHING ELSE gets in between you, and in the course of having it out one spouse retaliates with pointed references to this "difference". IT ISN'T because they were always really bothered by it and just never brought it up before, it's more that they were running out of arguments about the actual issue at hand, and needed some grounds to prove their "right"geousness in the fallout.\nFeeling misunderstood on both sides is where the real problem is. It's not necessarily a communication breakdown, it could be the gradually ending of sympathy, feeling unequal in a relationship, feeling undervalued. Then it's "who cares if you're sensitive about this difference, I want to right no matter the cost, I want to be heard whatever might fly from my lips"\nIt's sad and unnecessary, but it comes from people's focus on theirselves. If more people tried to see it from the opposing perspective this world would be a much more peacful place.
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talk. a heart to heart talk, verify and confirm whatever the reason was. and find solution to the problem. both of you have to decide.
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i dont know either maybe he isnt ready to really say it to you.he might also have things to worry about,but i know for sure that he doesnt want to lose you,because he is not saying it.u are proably right he does love you,might be to nervous to say it.im sorry that he is not saying it to you.maybe you should talk to him.dont rush him on talking to you,though.good luck!
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Part of a long term relationship is learning to deal with the fact that sometimes you just don't have anything to say and it isn't even necessary.  You have to learn to simply be together and enjoy that the other person is near and that words aren't needed.
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It doesn't matter what we think, it matters what you think and how it makes you feel.  If it makes you feel uncomfortable, then you don't need other people to legitamize it for you.  You tell her how it makes you feel, and if she blows it off then you got to ask yourself if this is the kind of person you want to be with--one that trivializes your feelings.  In a relationship you have every right to state your boundaries--with an understanding of how far you're willing to bend.  Relationships are compromise, and if either party isn't willing to understand and/or adapt to the other's needs then that's when relationships should end.
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it's ok to open up a conversation especially that you are feeling this way. if you don't get the right answers then it could be s start of misunderstanding that can lead to separation .at this point, maybe you're not sure yet about your relationship. communicate to each other in a nice way to resolve this problem.
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I doubt there is a true "Right" answer to your question, but I offer some thoughts.\n\n  First I applaud you both for being wise enough to have learned from your history, but I suggest it shouldn't be a burden you have to carry for the balance of your lives.\n\n   Fear of the "L" word isn't so much the issue I think, as fear of the definitions it encompasses in what it usually leads to.IE: Another marriage.\n\n   Certainly you can LOVE another and NOT marry them, or you can discuss "L" and pace yourselves in its effects and growth.\n\n   You already show enough intelligence to be able,,hopefully, to "NOT make the same mistakes, but that isn't promised. What is pretty clear is that those mistakes will offer RED FLAGS should either of you slip into those situations or behaviors with each other.\n\n   I suggest you might begin by saying,,,"How would you feel, if I said, "I Love YOU?"\n\n   I suspect HE won't faint away, or run screaming from you after hearing it. He might even go,,"Whew,,, Me Too YOU!"\n\n   Communication usually brings clarity. SAY IT. Then after you've both stated it, believe in it still, you can discuss what it means to each of you and not always wonder, what if, and actually make a plan for life,,, with or without instantly marrying after professing Love.\n\nRev. Steven
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If anyone ever tells you that they do not fight in a relationship...do not believe them.  As long as your communication is there and you work through the arguements - you will be fine.  Just do your best to not bring up the past, no name calling, no physical abuse, no destroying property.  It's OK to argue just do it constructively.  You both need to listen to what the other is saying.  You will be fine.  Good Luck!
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Love is an unconditional feeling that shouldn't go away with a fight. Sure, you may disagree, but love is deeper than a petty argument and I think it's impossible to "lose love" over something small.
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My friend, it is very normal.  You love her and she loves you.  The only reason that it doesn't get resolved before you go to bed is because neither one of you can step down off that high horse in time.  And venting every once in a while is not a bad thing.  As long as the love that you both feel for each other is still there.  If you don't have that then you don't ahve anything.
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I used to have this same problem with guys I used to date but, I found the love of my life and I can't stop talking. I feel comfortable around him. I know that he will not judge or think less of me for what I have to say. Maybe she does not feel comfortable around you. Maybe she is afraid that you will judge her.
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Maybe because when you love someone, you tend to notice every single thing they do - be it big or small. Everything they do is important to you, which is why a small mistake may cause a  fight.
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If despite sincere attempts at communication fails, there really is no relationship.  A relationship is when the love and caring are mutual for both parties.  I'm sorry.
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when do u draw the line? when they stop fighting for u....or act like they could care less about u\nhow do u draw the line? its different for everybody...some people can just stop communication cold turkey whereas other people have to make a conscious effort to not be around that person and not want to be around that person anymore\n\nOR\n\nu could forget all that and get with a chic from VA
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delicately, very delicately.\n\nif you love eachother than you should be open and honest if there's a problem\n\ngood luck
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When you love someone, you don't want space.