im in a relationship now,im so happy coz i love my bf so much,but i feel sumthng,i thnk he's nluv w/ his xgf(hs gf b4 me)til now,he's always telng me he luvs me so much & he wnt 2 spnd d rest of his lyf w/ me & im his only luv,but last 2 days i see sum memories of him and hs gf at his celfone & it hurts me so much,i wnt 2 tok 2 him but wat shud i say?? i dnt wnt 2 loose hm...
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ASk him to marry u. coz if he doz he luvs ur and it wll b ok. maybe have a baby 2. then u wil b happy4ever.wot a try isnt it? Kiss him lots of times and tell him u luv him that keep him married to u.
177264
I definitely understand your problem girl...I know it hurts, but are you willing to undergo in a relationship where the guy isn't happy?! You gonna prefer to see him happy in others hand while seeing him totally sad. IT REALLY HURTS...but look at the bright side!You're hot...there are a lot of guys out there...I'm not sounding to offend you...wake up! God Bless...
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we meet new people everyday.and someone affects us in someway.we cant fight it.we are humans.not God.I guess, being in love with your current girl is not everything it is in the relationship.maybe you have longed for more and you never realised it.probably,this girl you just met made you to feel much better, someway.perhaps this is how you wanted to feel or to be treated.7 years of a relationship is very long.and it started when you were a teen.hats off to you, but now you are saying that this girl makes you to feel special.means that you are being appreciated.maybe this is what you expected from your gf. you never had it.there's no growth in your relationship.you guys have stopped explaoring each orther.maybe she thinks she knows in and out of you.but you know there's more.more about you. be frank about your feelings to your gf.she deserves to know on how you are feeling about the relationship.maybe she has an answer too.
90126
girl this has just happened to me and you shouldn't feel guilty. i felt guilty but i really should have. Why don't you try talking to them or telling your friend thats here if he really likes you he will wait until you're sure. and the long distance relationship i was in i cheated on him and i felt so guilty i told him about it and we broke up. Maybe you should ask him to take a brake and set up a date you will become bf/gf on that specific date. That will show you if you know what you have or not. Maybe this will help and maybe it won't but this is what i would do if i relieved this.
509119
Give it time, let him get to know you, my bf was the same way but after we spent time talking and just hangin out he realized that I was different and that I did not want to hurt him or mess with him, now we are in love and I know that I want to spend the rest of my life with him and he feels the same way. I hope everything works out.\n ~Kim~
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I like the last answer, by DKlyde - it shows how wrong your thinking is.  Instead of asking how to get him to trust you, ask why the heck you want this guy to trust you.  The answer is that you "love him so much."  That is not a good answer, and you need to learn that now, rather than later.  Love is both a feeling and an act of the will - you decide to act in a loving way even when you don't feel like it.  He is NOT SHOWING YOU HE LOVES YOU.\n\nHere is what you NEED TO DO TO FIX things.  Find a third person you and your bf both respect, preferably an older friend or parent or counsellor or therapist or minister.  Talk with your bf with this person just listening at first, tell him that you don't like feeling "in the wrong no matter what."  If he agrees to try to change and trust you more and respect your privacy, THEN GIVE HIM A CHANCE.\n\nIf bf thinks he is perfectly right and has done nothing wrong, then you have to accept that he is wrong for you.  It will hurt because you have fallen in love with him, but you will be FAR BETTER OFF in the LONG RUN by taking care of yourself, than if you stick around hoping things will get better - THEY WON'T!
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you sound almost like a mirror image of me but i'm at the 3 month stage and i don't know if he's with somone else, the other difference is he said to me that he wants to work things out i haven't seen mine in 20 days and yes im counting. the best advice hang in there, me personally i would tell him how much of a many swearwords he is for hurting me and how could he get with somone else so soon. but as i said hang in there im now ruling my own life but it is hard moving ahead without the one you love. Be Good!
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If he doesn't love u then this means u haven't been around him alot like bf and gf.So this is not love and u will survive it.Do things and keep yourself occupied.
41999
I feel for you 100%. I know that it's hard not knowing what to say to him. I think that you should tell him that you love him to death and that you can feel it when he's not feeling right himself. Let him know that whatever he has on his mind from day to day, is nothing that bad for him to tell you about. Tell him that you don't want to annoy him by constantly asking him if he's ok, but you cant help it. You see I used to be with someone that would be in such down moods out of no where and I just didn't know what was wrong with him. It killed me b/c I wanted to make him feel better so bad but he just wouldn't speak out how he was feeling inside about things. After a while he finally told me what was wrong and expressed how he felt. He finally told me that the reason as to why he didn't tell me anything and it was b/c he didn't want to bring me down. At fisrt it used to get me mad b/c he kept saying that he didn't want to have me worrying about him. But anyway, just tell him that you love him and that anything that he may be going through, you both are going to go through together b/c you guys are a team. Just give him time to be able to open up. Don't nag him about it. He'll come around when he feels ready to. You guys are gonna be alright. And I most definitely congradulate you 2 guys for sticking together for so long. May you have many more years of happiness!!!!!!\nGOOD LUCK!!!!!
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hi..! well, i understand what do you feel right now.. i know it's hard to let go someone that you like, even though you cannot like them.. i think maybe you should try to 4get your bf's best friend.. i know that would be very hard.. i can understands you.. but that's all you need.. bcuz love need 'sacrifice', it means that you should let go that boy (your bf's best friend),, bcuz that is the beautiful of love.. you should enjoy it, even though it hurts you.. ok sista..
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if you nolonger have feelings for him then you've already done the best thing that should make him feel okay. not immediately but later he'll thank you for it.\nif you remained in the relationship, you'll get to realise that you are in it more out of pity than love and this wont be fair to both of you.\n\nso you've made the right decision, all thats left now is for you to give it time and everything will fall in place.\n\nGood luck.
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if there is really doubt in you, i think you should stop and tell him that it's better for both of you to be just friends.. because what if you and him became a couple, (but before you became a couple you had that feeling that you want to leave him) i think between your relationship as bf-gf, you're gonna feel that again.. and that will lead to a break-up, which will also ruin your friendship.. so it's better if you stay friends..\n\nor you can also observe your feelings.. you just have to wait (maybe months.. even years) but there's nothing wrong in waiting for years.. because if you are really sure of your feelings that you really love him, then the waiting is worth it..\n\nit's really hard to make a decision.. but it's harder if you will break someone's heart because of a wrong decision.. it just takes time..
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If you have to ask if you love him, then its pretty safe to say that you dont. You probably had a good thing going with him and thats why you get jealous, but it doesn't sound like you're in love. And if it doesn't work out and your munky really is chunky you can always holla at me :)
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You should be applauded for your deep sensitivity in caring about the X. AT least write her a letter stating how you feel and letting her know of your current situation - or an E-mail. Just remember it is natural to feel as you do, but it does not have to change things with your current lover/fiance. Remember time cures all . This will fade naturally . Trust yourself and your good intentions with your fiance.It is only one of a billion memories you will have in your life- not a big deal. Go on and live your life happily and lovingly so. Best to you.
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nope, apply common sense. Imagine that you were her bf & someone else was you. If he told her hat he loves her & she starts loving him and leaves you completely - you can imagine how immensely hurt and wounded you would feel.\n\nSo if you said this to her - you can understand how hurt and wounded her bf would feel. It is wrong, so get over it.
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Talk to him.Love is sharing.Dont shut him out,then he wil think its him.Yes its hurts but past exp hapens,but u learn and move on.U shouldnt let ur past bad exp to impact this one. With love there has to be some trust. Good luck.
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It sounds to me that you could be smothering him.  Give him some rope.  Meanwhile, you need some hobbies and girl friends to spend your time with.  That way, you can come back home and be lovey because both would have had other things to add to the relationship and conversations.  Do some things you may be interested in doing.  He should not be your only interest.  Please do not smother him.  Your happiness does not warrant itself based on his being around you all the time.  Thank GOD for the work week so that I can see other people without explaining where I've been all the time.  By you just being one tracked, you are digging yourself deeper in a depressive state of mind by making him your ONLY happiness.\n\nI hope that you can open your eyes to understand this.  I sincerely hope that I was the lightbulb to your saga.  Happiness begins with your self and definitely no one else should be able to control your emotions that they can't feel.