for me courting a girl is just for fun. but she proved me wrong. how can i court her seriously?
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I thought that word left town in 1950's. Even though I was not even born then. (Courting).\n\nJust ask her to a movie.
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Dear Wolverine,\n\nThere is nothing more attractive then someone who likes themselves; who appreciates and respects who they are and how they are and intend to evolve.\n\nYour best chance at getting someone to like you is to be yourself, no pretense.  If this girl can't like you for who you are, she is the wrong girl for you.\n\nPretending to be anyone other than yourself, for example, pretending to like something you really don't because you heard this girl likes it, or pretending to act, think of feel a certain way to align with how this particular girl thinks or feels may gain you a temporary connection.  But it won't gain you a good or lasting friendship.\n\nBottom line.  Be who you are!  No one in all the world can be you, like you can.  Someone once said that there are 70 people in the world who are perfect for us.  \n\nThe key to happiness is to find them and not waste precious time trying to please others by being someone were not just to be liked by them.\n\nSo, go for it.  Just be yourself with this girl and see if she turns out to be one of your priceless 70 people.  If she doesn't, don't let it get you down.  Just keep being yourself and eventually you'll run into one of your perfect matches.\n\nI've included a great source that supports this line of thinking as well as one that challenges the 'Just Be Yourself' point of view so you can read and then decide for yourself.\n\nI've also included a link to some pointers for telling someone that you like them.  For all you know she may already like you just as you are but one of you has to approach the subject and let the other know.  \n\nThe big question to ask yourself is; if you are pretending to be something you're not, how long will you enjoy doing that?  How long before she sees right through the pretense?  Is pretending worth a short journey with someone who will eventually find out if you're faking it.\n\nWishing you the joy of discovering a genuine match for yourself!\n\nkaocc
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= ) I'm back.  To make a girl feel special, you have to get to know her, and pretty much ask her.  Every one is different.  But, tell her she's beautiful, not hot, look her in the eyes when you talk to her, and are telling her something of importance.  And I am a firm believer in making them laugh.  It breaks the weirdness, be yourself.  As far as meeting girls, ya got me there, I'm a homebody. Pretty boring.
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Tell her exactly what you said in your question. She'll probably be flattered that you only want her!
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Make fun of yourself and how you get into trouble.\n\nIf you can make her laugh, then act like a friend for a very long time without being pushy.\n\nIf you don't have this kind of patience, get a new girlfriend.
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Step out on faith, and just ask the girl out and come at her with all your cards out there on the table, and say  I like you I want to show you how you should be treated and what I can offer you and if you come at her real sincere like that she'll respond or she's just an idiot and you dont need her in the first place!!! keep your head up there good women out there...
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try courting her. ask her out to the movie a long walk to the fair what ever you think she she would like to do. show interest in what she likes and don't always make it about you. she will see you are a great guy and want to date you. but if you say nothing do nothing you get nothing..
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Stop being so silly.  If you're attracting a girl that things its "cool" or "sexy" that you're a "bad boy" then you're probably just attracting the wrong type of girl. Long term, wouldn't you rather have someone that really cares about you and enjoys you for just being you?  Wouldn't you rather be with someone who you don't have to entertain to keep them around?  Trust me, you'll be much happier with a gal who wants to laugh at your silly jokes and smiles at you when you're being really genuine.  Be yourself, and don't risk a criminal record just to get a girl to like you.  She probably won't stick around in the long run anyway, and look at what you might have lost if you had spent all that time trying to impress some girl.  \n\nOn the other hand, if she's a quality girl and you really do like her, then take your chances by confessing to her that you've got a crush, and you keep trying to impress her with your trouble-making, but that your real hope is that she's crushing on you too.  You might just find that she's attracted to you and NOT the trouble your causing.  Maybe she's trying to show you, "hey, I like you. Even if you're causing trouble."  Talk to her, ask her, and don't be scared.  Girls like guys that are honest, and if you are able to communicate your interest in her, she'll most likely be really impressed!  Good luck and keep us updated!  Oh, and stay out of trouble. Jail is NO FUN!
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Of course, you need to play hard to get right back at her.  Girls always want what they can't have.  Ask her out less often, and be with her less often, but still let her know that you are still interested in her.  Maybe it is just going to take her a while to get her head around the idea of dating out, or just going out with you.
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Just calm down... Be yourself ... If you really, really liked her and you do not want to lose her then you have to do everything to win her.  Ressearch everything about her, her likes and dislikes but first you have to do your first move by getting acquianted to her...then plan your next move... it is  like playing chess, you have to win the challenge
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She is playing with you.She sounds like a real nasty if you ask me.You sound sweet there are plenty of nice girls around.Dont take her calls if she tries to call or if you see her ignore her she will soon get the message that your not playing her silly little games.:)
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Change it around, and YOU play hard to get.  If she really does like you, that will drive her wild then.  Just change the game around on her and see...
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Oh, the games girls play to get a little attention.  She wants you to chase her and fall desperately in love with her.  But she wants to just string you along.  It gives her power in her otherwise powerless life.  Sounds like she's got her own issues to deal with.  Forget the girl and find yourself a stronger, more mature woman.
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Ask her again.  if you like her tell her that cause maybe the girl wont go out wit you cause she might think it is a joke or something
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Well my first advise is to quit playing games. No girl wants a guy that wont be honest from the beginning. Now you have to work to earn her trust back. When maybe in the first place maybe she would have said yes if you werent playing these dumb games with her
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Play hard to get, or maybe be seen with someone else........you never know she may take notice then because she has realised that you are not chasing her (which no doubt she has noticed). \n\nShe might be playing hard to get as well.  It can't hurt to try this and you never know you might end up with someone who likes you and vice versa.
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Well, I think you are wrong.  I tend to have the same problems.  You are too serious even in your approach.  Girls just wanta have fun.  If you approach a girl with such a straight forward attitude you'll scare her off.  Big Yes on the self-confidence though.  You need to come across like you're fun to hang out with and you're looking for others that are fun to hang out with.  Friendship first buddy.  Ask general open-ended questions then listen.  School, work, hobbies, pets, etc  LISTEN to what she is saying and don't let your mind wander.  I know what happens.  She's talking and your thinking, oh crap what do I say, she's pretty, does she like me, how do I look, how can I be funny, what do I say, oh crap... If you're not listening then you can not 'join' the conversation.  The more you talk the more you both will loosen up.