ok my exbf who i dated for 7 yrs off and on because he moves alot... the last time he left he hurt me really bad... he left with out saying bye... and he lives two hrs away from me right now but he called me the other day and told me that he is suppose to be moving back closer to my side of the town and he was hoping that me and him could go back out and i dont kno if i want to give another chance because i mean i love him but he hurt me really bad last time we broke up... what should i do plz help me...?
127262
i think u should talk to him about it and tell him how u feel, if it seems like he doesn't care then don't go for it but he apologizes and is caring and looks like hes changed then i wouldn't be able to resist. this is a tough situation to be in and with all the advice you can from here its still your heart you should be listening to.
42228
Back when I was an bad boy before I decided to settle down, I would say I wasn't ready to commit. What this really ment was I was after someone else and when that didn't work out I'd exploit my ex by keeping in contact as a back up plan. You can give him a chance but at the first sign of uncertinty I'd toss him cause it will just be a cycle of heartache if you don't
283397
Well, before you make a move, look back at the main reason why do you broke up at the 1st place.  Is that problem settle? Or did you overcome it?  If your answer is YES.  Then go a head.  Take a shot.  Who knows, like you said he still like and waiting for you.  But better be prepared for the NO answer from him, as you the one who end your relationship last time, right?  Anyway, GOOD LUCK!!!!
473860
Question is ---Why would you want him back?  Find someone that will not be ashamed of you and would be proud to have you around and meet his family and friends.  Good luck
47635
there is more going on there than you think if it stays this way for while you need to let it go. because if he really wanted you and loves you he wouldnt be treating you like that. i would try to give your best shot and if nothing works i would leave and try to start your life over. if by chance your leaving scares him silly and he changes his ways then i would search your heart and see if you really want him back.
493338
I think it is too soon for you both to be in contact with eachother as you say it's too painful right now.  The best thing to do for the moment, until you get your own head sorted is cut all ties.  I know it might be hard but you need to straighten your own head and heart out first and be strong enough before you can be friends with him.  You are not in the right frame of mind now, it is too soon since you broke up, and staying in contact might only cause more pain.  I broke up with my ex in June and we haven't been in touch since.  I know at the start it was very hard as I went from hearing from him everyday to nothing but, now I'm a lot stronger.  I'm happier now that it's over as we weren't right for eachother but if I stayed in contact with him I know I'd probably be still hurting and in the same situation right now.  Time is a great healer and WILL make you stronger.  Just give yourself some "you" time.  Hope it works out for you!
633492
Is it the distance or your real feeling for him that makes you want to forget him?  It's quite amazing to note that you broke up because he moved to a distant place.  I would say that the kind of relationship you had with him was not too deep to be easily endedl  And that makes it easier for me to advise you to tell him the real score.  Telling him the truth about your feelings for him without usiing distance as the reason for your not taking him back will do him good.  It will hurt him the more if you'll use distance as the factor behind your refusal to rekindle your relationship. But if I am wrong, if you love him still, let not distance deprive you of your happiness to love him and be loved by him in return.  Sometimes, it's even more exciting to be away from your loved one because being together for so long a time breeds too much familiarity which in turn may lead to boredom with each other.  Search your heart and soul first before you decide to tell him your real feeling which you alone have to answer for yourself.  If you don't love him anymore, tell him that it's better for both of you to be special friends.  If you do, take him back and be happy in each other's arms again.  Then let the future, not the distance between you, decide your love's destiny.  Smile!
657306
first he is an ex. second he's got a gf...you must be pretty desperate to even think about getting back  with him.....the world is overly populated...move on and find someone better!!
453040
Well, you got angry because he didn't email you back after you dumped him? I think you're confused about your feelings for this guy. But if he wants you back, sure, I'd say give it another shot. But seeing as you've already dumped him, maybe you have to do something special so he'd want you back. The question is, why do you want him back? Why do you want to give him another chance? And why did you dump him again? Don't try to get him back when you're not sure about you feelings for him. You've already hurt him once. Think about it. You really don't want to hurt him again.
22487
He might have some issues.  I would move on from here.  He was great for the time you spent together, but that seems to be it.  If you are interested in him, go out a few times before shacking up again.  Not a good move, if you are interested in a relationship.
364839
Its better to take time. Shes right it hasnt quite hit him and it will eventually and its a harsh reality. Take this time to do what you feel you need to do to make yourself happy. Once you do that your ready for the dating scene again. Your in a much better position trust me. He will regret things eventually once he sees that the grass isnt truly greener on the other side. And you will be ok this is hard but you will move on with your life and be a better person than him.
404735
There is no harder way then to tell him your feelings...but at the same time, there is no better way then that to show him that you really do care and that he means a lot to you. It sounds like you really miss him and want him to be yours again but I only have one warning. If it didnt work b4 because of the distance then are you goin to try something different if he has to go back? Just dont give up and tell him how youu really feel. You might be scared but it could really work out in the end! I hope it works out for you and you two get back together! Good luck!
162331
Did he give you a reason for the break-up?  I'm thinking that he doesn't want to rush into another relationship right now because he is still nursing a broken heart and doesn't want it broken again.  Give him so time.  The good news is that he still keeps in touch with you. Let him know that you're still interested and let him call the shots unless it looks like he's calling all the wrong plays.  In that case, put your foot down and tell him that you want him back but you agree to take it slow.  Let him know that you love him and don't want to hurt him.
311292
It really hard to Move on girl but You have to ...Well everyone was saying move on and you might think we don't know what you r feeling and just saying move on..the thing is i know how u feeling right now...you feel sad ..you want to cry and you want to tell him how much u need him/ love him and u want to show him u would do anything to get him and u want to beg him to get bak but he doesn't feel the same and u feel like u want to die is't? I been there a few month ago. he broke my heart and i feel all the thing that i'm telling you now but in the end what did i get ...he doesn't feel same as me...i'm just making my self down/worst...so i'm just relise instand of wanting him back i should try to have fun with my mate more and i should do anything that make me happy and yep i'm happy now and I'm glad i'm sigle again. I don't need them to make me happy and yep i'm not dating anyone at the moment and i don't feel like it ..i'm enjoy my single life. the thing is u just need to make ur self happy ..if u happy u don't need him but i'm very sure it going to take time ..u can't just do it overnight and ou really really need to be strong ...Anyway if u really want him back that badly try to be friend with him again first and show him u care."Love is when friendship on fire" ..."if u love a dove, let him go...if he come back he is ur ..if he not he never was"..just remember this ..it always help me but good luck
554467
In time things will get better, but before then try and let go.  And if he comes back to you let him know that he has given up a real good thing.  Its going to hurt for now, but try and make this into a good experience and know that there is someone else out there for you.
436619
Nomad is very right!  But if your separation was just heat of the moment, I reckon the second time will be sweeter.  I believe in 2nd chances and if yous can work it out and start again, things will be stronger.  I would love to be in your ex bf's shoes, as for now, my situation with my spouse is near over and final.  But through this, you'll be a better person/lover, if not for your x bf, your next bf.  Good luck and best wishes!
220546
tell him the truth...and you have every reason to be concerned...you have been down the path of hurt, and do not want to go there again....as for your reasoning, i understand perfectly. i can not, and wil not, relocate out of my city because all my loved ones are here and i like it here......it's hard when you like someone from a different place....so  go with your heart...but be headed by YOUR HEAD!!!....and what will make you truly happy. good luck