are you a sucker for detail, must things always be just so perfect, whats your take on making mistakes, and is doing something good about not being able to take negative judgments from others!!!!!!!!!!1
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I think it's a little deeper than that. perfectionism stems from being too self critical and having unrealistic expectations of being perfect or preforming without making a mistake and lack of self forgivenss and sometimes these same expectations are directed at other individuals \nI think it is healthy to accept that we are human and accept our mistakes and then evaluate and learn from them and move on rather than create alot of negative emotion like selfdestructive self guilt or hate or blaming others this emotional thinking serves no purpose and genrates poor outcomes also if you expect perfection you set yourself up for failure and frustration you eventually burn out because you are not a machine or immortal and it is not possible to always be perfect. doing something good is about your sense of integrity, pride in doing your best and trusting yourself so that others will know they can trust and rely on you because peolpe trust people who do what they say and say what they do and dont trust people who say who they are and what they are going to do and if you have this integrity and make a mistake people tend to not only forgive you but reevaluate their goal "if she can't do it, then no one can or this problem is too difficult for one person to resolve" and they may ask what can I do to help and sometimes we may have unrealistic people like bosses who could not do the job they expect you to do because they only have theory or book knowledge but no real world work experience and their negative judgements dont count cause they dont know what the hell they are talking about. people negatively jude you everyday because of who you are gender race and religion and this is something we need to get over before we step out the front door its life and whoever generates this emotional hate has the problem and you do not have to accept it feed into it or become part of the problem
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Is there something you are good at or have a special knowledge of?  I am thinking about the same thing as you (writing an ebook).  What do you do for a living, or what are your hobbies.  Hope that gets you thinking.
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you're well on your way to becoming one heck of a good person. on the one hand, you should care very much how other people perceive you. on the other hand, you have to draw the line somewhere and be your own person. there are lots of people out there that you shouldn't give a flip about what they think about you. choose your judges carefully. don't worry about the rest of them. the most important question is, what do YOU think about you?
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It depends on the person and what goes on, but in most cases I would guess that people worry too much about making something good turn bad that they pass up on the whole good thing entirely.\n\nSometimes you just have to take the risks and hope things turn out alright in the end.
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yes i do think that i come from a good family, because even though we have our bad days we accept who eacjother has become and is. i was raised in believing that even if i was the queen of the world or on top of the world, if i dont respect or treat others well, then i am not at all the best in the world. even if we live in a horrible world if i dont sell out my family members, or my friends, and i am the best i can be, then everything will work out. but you cant always get what you want but sometimes you can. helping others, and being kind and loving and not trying to hurt anyone intentionally, then i am the best. and i think that a good family is something that accepts everyone and pretty much everythng above. there is more stuff that i can write, but its more like a show or explain in person kind of thing.
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people who boast about there accomplishments allot or put other people down to make themselves look better are very insecure in there own lives.you should just say to them "oh yea that's great but I am quite pleased with my own work, but keep telling yourself (they have no self esteem) and give them a lift or they might fall apart. Be judged on who you are not what you could be.
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perfect ? no. nobody is. but i do  not think i  over react. \n\nsometimes when some baseless or misunderstood or twisted thing is repeated many times or i have to listen intentionally offensive argument again and again then i fire some back. it is stupid if i will keep letting it go. for other  people,  if not corrected , keep repeating it as truth. \n\nsometime on YA relegion section it seems like a war zone. really.
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You are a great prat who needs to learn about things before acting upon them.\n\nWanker.\n\nBlimey, are you a bit of an idiot or am I a Limey?
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have you seen something buddy?the first time you learned to write and spell, the wole thing was new and frightening. gradually you succeeded in mastering the technic of making yourslf understood by the art of speaking and writing.and now you sit before the computer and the whole world is open to you .so it is not the perfection but the the struggle to accheive the perfection which matters. that makes you try more and more to go towards the goal of perfection.so what does it matter if you are not perfect? you are becoming more and more perfect day by day.and you will go on striving in the belief that practice makes perfect.so who cares nobody is perfect.
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You, like me are a good person and people think that they can walk all over you and treat you like dirt and that you'll always take it.  People want someone to keep their secrets, but they don't want to keep anyone elses, which sucks!\n\nDon't dare listen to anyone who says that you should "toughen up" keep being a sensitive and good person, but when someone does something really rotten you have to push back or they'll always walk all over you.\n\nGood luck Sweetie!
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Very clever people can be off-putting, even frightening.  But I think geniuses don't have it so bad; they get to think about, sometimes even discover, things that the rest of us can't even imagine.  I know I envy them at least as much as I pity them.
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I think it is because everyone has their own defintion of perfect. To each individual, 'perfect' has its own limits and therefore if people or ourselves do not reach that limit, we start to critisize it. Its all part of the way the mind works towards things and the competition in order to get to the perfection. Anything below that perfect limit is regarded as an imperfection and seen as something bad. Its a thing that happens with out us noticing. Its just a natural reaction to how well we expect things to be done, and when they dont reach that standard, we critisize it.\n By critisizing, we push ourselves to do the best we can and improve the task given to us. If we never critisized, and saw everything as perfect, i think everyone would be SO lazy because they would see no point in improvement and advancing forward in life.
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Being a perfectionist?\n\nBeing a workaholic?\n\nIt's such a BS question anyway.  Do they expect someone to say "Oh, I beat my wife," or "I can't resist crack."
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All people are curios and love to find out dirt on other people well most people it's unfortunately human nature. It makes a lot of people feel better to because they can say look what she is doing I'm not that bad.
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Some people can't take any kind of constructive criticism.  You would think they would at least learn how to use spell check.  You're not awful, just honest.  You have to be prepared for any kind of answer on here, and at least yours was well meaning!
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I think that what they say is true, everyone is their own worst critic.  We all want to look good and be as attractive as we can be, and perceive ourselves in maybe a different way than from what we think.  I might think that I look damn good one day, get a pic taken, and then totally think that I look like shit.  Some people are just not photogenic either.  I would not take it too hard though because we all just want to look good,and people have different tastes.  What looks good to one person, might not look good to another.  Thats why there are attractions, if we all had the same damn tastes and thought that one thing was attractive, then there would not be a lot of fun would there?
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Maybe you cannot be the best. So what? Are you doing your best? You ard doing your best, do not attempt anything more than you can do. Like yourself for who you are. &#92;I am  dislicic. When I was in college, I earned a 3. and most others were 4. I studied and put so much into my studies and couldn't do better. However, I feel good because I did my best. No one, including yourself, cannot ask for more.