I'm a guy and my best frnd happens to be a girl. we were best of frnds for a yr and thn she proposed to me. i ws happy, but i didnt like the idea. fine, it took me a week to decide and i expressed my lov to her on feb14. within a week, she started going out with another guy! i ws her frnd i was supposed to lissen to wht she had to say, but i didnt and i unleashed all my fury on her (nothing physical, but mental harrassment). she knew i ws doing whtevr i ws doing, but there was no evidence to prove me guilty. it was so bad, tht even her dad cudnt protect her and thy had to call in the cops. aftr tht i became quite. thn i realize tht i'm missing a frnd and if i had thought abt the matter, i'd hav lost my girl-friend, but i wudnt have lost my frnd. i said sorry many times and her frnds tried to patch things up, but no matter wht, whn we get together again, its not the same.. we start fighting! none of us can 4get the past. she cant stand me, and i cant stand her, but i miss her lots...
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If it got to the point they had to call hte cops I would say you blew it.  If you aren't really willing to accept that answer and you are willing to do ANYTHING to be friends with her again then patience is the key.  You have to prove to her that you are sorry and will never act that way again.  Let me tell you earning back someones trust is never an easy thing.  Be patient...wait for her... do what you can to show her you are sorry subtly and if a fight starts refuse to engage in it...
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Okay I am a bisexual male so it may be a little different for me but here is my advice anyways. (Also I have been in a similiar situation and I have a little insight.)\nThe FIRST thing you need to do is decide how important this girl is to you and are you willing to tolerate her going back and forth on you. IF YOU ARE NOT--then take my advice and break all ties with her. It may hurt at first but if you keep dealing with her you are just reopening a wound over and over and it will never heal. Trust me in this...been there and I wish someone would have told me that. Could have saved myself a whole lot of pain and a broken heart if they would have.
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I would be glad that you guys are still friends and just keep her close. Let her feel not just know that you are there no matter what....when guys do her wrong...or when she's scared...or sick or just needs someone to listen to her. That's more then anything you could give her at this time. She'll soon see if the love is true that you've been buy her side ever since...in due time. Both of you will grow and she'll see that so whatever rocky issues you guys had, you now can get over how-ever you all choose.
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I'm sorry to hear that but shouldn't you try to talk things over? I mean, the friendship meant a lot to you. Well, give her some time to think things over then maybe, when you two are both ready, you could talk? Don't waste a very good friendship over some stupid things or arguments. You're friends, you're expected to argue about things. But friends always find ways to compromise and forgive each other, no matter what the argument was all about, especially if it was a  stupid argument. I hope it turns out for the best. Just think about the good things you shared and stuff. Maybe you could use that to win her friendship back or something. :) Goodluck!
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WOw. I've been through the same exact thing this is what i did i just straight up told her that i was feeling left out and when i was hanging out with her and her new friend it was akward cuz she wouldn't act the same. You have to tell her cuz it will drive u carzy and will cause drama. If she is a real true friend she'll understand and make things better. If not find a new best friend that wont skrew u over for another person instead of treatin u the same
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I went through the same thing with my best friend. She did a complete 180, started doing drugs having sex etc. and it turned into a huge fight. I confronted her about it and told her how pissed it made me. We didn't talk for the next six months. Then slowly we began to hang out again. We are now talking and hanging out but it will never be the friendship we once had. You need to confront your friend then ignore him completely until your ready to reestablish a friendship on YOUR terms. Like I said it won't ever be what it was but you can at least save something.
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I've never been so proud of one of my friends as I was the day one of my girl-friends decided not to fight a girl who was after her. The girl came up and picked a fight, to which my friend did not want, and thus decided not to get involved. The girl punched her in the face three times, spliting open her eye brow, but my friend just took it and didn't lift a finger. The girl gave up, walked away, and my friend went to the police station. My friend had a restraining order put on the girl and she was on probation for quite some time. The girl never bothered her again.\nI suggest you walk away. There's nothing good about violence, so it's better to just not get involved.
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Hey, hun. I went through that. It was like we never broke up.  After talking we decided to pretend it never happened. Now she and I regret it. But talk to her. You both probably want to get back, a fight shouldn't be the reason you break up.
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Hi man. I had a story like this some months ago. I couldn't do nothing, because I didn't want to ruin their love for each other. I just waited, and after three  months they broke up. And she understood that I loved her, and really liked it. I think you should just wait.Maybe you should make activities with other friends, that can help you not to think about your friend.\n    I really think that you'll win her heart.
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of course u have to keep talking to her...she is ur best friend !!!! she has the right to be mad,she was refused by a guy...be patient.plz to handle  it u have to be with her n good and bad...she is talking like this now bcs she is mad...be patient she will come to apologize !!! friendship means we have to support each other in ur bad and good times
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dont forgive her talk to her. tell her whats bothering you and ask her to stop. if she doesnt stop then tell her you guys are through. i had the same prob many many times, lost a few friends but not many. and i dont regret anything so hey take my advice, or leave it, its up to you, all your decions are up to you, none else. good luck.
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The best thing you can do in this situation, is to take a step back, and wait. It appears you're pressing the issue too hard, and you have her a little threatened by your persistence. Leave it alone for a few days. It's obvious you're not going to care less, but it might give her a chance to see you're an all right guy that she would like to spend some time with. Good Luck!
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Well buddy, i was in a situation like that.....college was the best thing that ever happened to me on that, cause i moved away from her and never saw her again.  If she was just your friend and dated a bunch of dudes and knew you liked her...she is NO GOOD...as far as love is concerned.....so you shoul'dve booted that b*tch to the curb long time ago, or made it strickly friendly.  But stickin to the plan and hoping is bad...those are false hopes, you can't make anyone love you, and you can't be so friendly that they'll somehow say "hey, he's a sweet guy..let me give him a chance"  that's straight up B*LLSH*T my friend, they will never do that, they will always see you as a friend and nothing more.  Chase after women who will give you a genuine chance the FIRST time..not after they date someone else....because if they really liked you or wanted you..they would've given you a chance a LOOOOONG time ago.  Women a lot of times just don't know what the hell they want, and they don't find out until much later, but by then it's too late because they've either slutted the hell out of themselves, or just been through so much drama that they become high maintenance....you don't want to get involved with that....because if they can't appreciate you for you at that time what the HELL makes them think they can appreciate you now?  You ain't too good to be her friend, she wasn't a friend in the first place if she knew you wanted her and she blew it off and never confronted you about her feelings.  It's called, can't deal with lovesickness, and that's what she caused with every moment you were with her anyway....so don't feel bad, just move the hell on...find someone who will appreciate you....not someone who'll just lead you on for their own selfish support.
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When I was in High School my best friend was so pretty.  She had beautiful long hair and a cute figure.  Every guy looked at her butt because it was a perfect shape.  Not too big or little.  I think I was actually jealous of her butt. LOL!!!!!  I am so embarrassed I just said that.  :)   Anyway,  I just was kinda happy go lucky and didn't worry about it.\nYears later when we would go out dancing or clubbing guys paid more attention to me.  I was in College and she would call me  and beg me too come home for the weekend so we could go out.  When I got in town I would always have to call her and then she would say that her and her frind Mary were going out, but i could come too.  After this happening about 3 times (I lived 5 hours away from school so coming home was a major ordeal) I was confused and mad.   She would talk to her other girlfriend and ignore me.   While we were in the ladies room I told her that she was acting wierd and was ignoring me .  I asked her " are you jealous of me"?   She was like "why would I be jealouse of Kimberly *****?  (*=my last name)  I said I don't know why, but you are.  She denied it.  I left and went home.  We didn't speak again until a few years later I ran into her at  a club.  She was drunk and came up to me and asked if I could come into the bathroom with her.  I agreed.   While there she started to cry and said "remember that night when you asked if  I was Jealous of you?"   She said " Well I was and I lied and I am so sorry".\n\nMy point is this.  When I was jealous of her I didn't worry about it because  I was proud of who I was and loved her as my best friend.  Then when my body matured and I turned into a young woman I still thought she looked great, but I was no longer jealous.   But she couldn't handle me getting all the attention because she was insecure during that time.\nGod tells us to not be jelous or envious.  If you work on loving yourself for who you are and forget about who is giving whom the attention things will come and go your way because confidence is beautiful.\nMy best friend and I lost 2 years together that we can never get back.\nAnd just because no one says to you that your pretty does not mean that they are not saying it to others.  They are telling you that she is so pretty, but they are not saying it to her.
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All you can do is keep it real. Let her know that you love her to death, which is pretty obvious b/c you been sticking around anyway. Just let her know that true friends dont just sit around and argue and fight over everything and that you are getting sick and tired of it. Let her know that you want to be her friend but if yall are gonna keep fighting for no reason then there's no point of you two holding on to something that is no longer there! Everyone enjoys a good friend not someone that is going to bicker with them every chance they get. Good Luck!! I hope that you guys can work this out. Frienship should be priceless!!!
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I understand that you are merely trying to protect your bestfriend and make him realize that she's not the right girl for him .... i guess he would be protecting her because he's in love with his girlfriend.  Maybe she was being mean to you because she's jealous about your relationship with her man. Hey, that's human nature... she probably sees you as a threat.  Just let them be, maybe someday he will realize all these .... and mind you, these things don't usually last .... give them a few months :)
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Well if she is your best friend (I'm assuming that is what b.f stands for), and she did that to you, knowing how you felt about him, then she obviously doesn't regard friendship like you do! The joke is on you unfortunately! I would suggests you redefine the quality of what a true friend is and is not! Of course your slowness to be to the point with this guy didn't help. Your friend did what you were hesitant to do and succeeded. You partially have yourself to blame. If this guy is a flirt, it is probably just as well she got him. Flirtation tends to lead to jealously and mistrust. You will see it unfold in front of your eyes, then you can thank your lucky stars that she got stuck with him!