I was dating this wonderful guy he went back to his ex fiance - I had a procedure done at the doctor's office the other day he showed up there to be with me and has called everyday checking on me to see if I needed anything.....I want him back how do I get him back........He tells me they will never marry we have a bet on it!!!
138167
Seems to me that he still cares for his ex. He probably really does like you but hes confused. If i were you i'd just show him a good time when he is with you and what it could be like to be with you. But if you focus to much on him you'll get depressed and in order for him to fall in love with you, you need to love yourself first. I'd just let him be and as mush as it kills you give him all the advice you can give. Everything takes time and if youre patient and it is meant to be then it'll happen. If you focus to much on being with him then it'll just push him away and he won't want to be with you. If you truelly care about him just be his friend and give him time.
266207
That's the way love goes. But he is a man and a man is going to do man things. Although it was disrespectful as fuck. And u should have beat his ass. Not the girl. She probably didn't even know he had a baby mama or girl. Id say he learned his lesson. But wait for him to come back. Maybe he doesn't want to be with you anymore. And if u ask for him back maybe u'll get your feelings hurt. I wouldn't try. I would start lookin for a new man. u'll get over him. occupy your time to keep your mind off of him.
26414
Heh.\n\nHe prolly doesn't know how to act. Maybe he does want to be with you but feels uncomfortable. Sounds like there's prolly still some bad blood that has to do with the breakup from before.
370091
Honetly, how I would get him back is by dumping him, if he doesn't trust you now, he never will and he will keep accusing you of the same thing.\n\nif he thinks you would do this after whatever length of time you have been together he doesn't know you at all and isn't worth the hassle.\n\nif you do want to stick with him, tell him that the next time he accuses you of doing something like that you will make sure that he actually has some proof to go on...in the mean time wax his balls :)
47635
there is more going on there than you think if it stays this way for while you need to let it go. because if he really wanted you and loves you he wouldnt be treating you like that. i would try to give your best shot and if nothing works i would leave and try to start your life over. if by chance your leaving scares him silly and he changes his ways then i would search your heart and see if you really want him back.
512231
he has the leg up in this situation. her kids, and if she went back to him  that means she ended your relationship. may i reccommend match.com?\nSensitive guys like you are great, don't waste yourself on someone who treats you like dirt.
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Don't do it if he loved you he wouldn't have left u in the first place. You will get a divorce if u marry him he said that so he could have u back because the girl he was with probably left him and thats why his coming back to u. There is a guy out there for u don't setly with him. He will just cause u pain. Take my advice there is someone far better than him!\n\nP.S. Don't trust a guy that say trust me!
448212
regrets what he did and now your dateing he is jealous. In other words he is a complete frickin mental manipulating control freak wants to run your life . If he cant have you then nobody can. if he got physical with ya once it could be worse the next time keep calling the law press charges and stick with it. Get him for harrassment or whatever.\nI would have some close friends stay by just to be on the safe side of things. If it gets too bad call the police and let them know your scared he is going to hurt you.  You can also get restraining order on him.\nHopefully he will leave you alone.
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First of all I want to tell you that I am very sorry that you broke up with your fiance. It must be a very difficult time for you. I believe that relationship on the way to marriage should be running pretty smoothly. There should be no real problems whatsoever. For what ever reason it is that you broke up, you probably should stay broken up. I don't mean to sound harsh, but its true. Also, do you really want to get back together with someone who has posted personal ads on the internet right away? I know people will say that he is hurt and whatnot. But if your boyfriend is gay or bi, do you really want to be in the middle of all that heartache? I think that there is a strong possibility your ex boyfriend may want to do a little experimenting. I think you need to think about moving on, how hard that may be. But you deserve a happy relationship without secrets, lies and deceits. If your ex is really gay, do you want to subject yourself to STD's? I am not saying anything against gays (I have two uncles that are brothers who are gay), but I am talking of cheating... I would rather have my ex break up with me than live a life filled of lies with me. Its not fair to both of you.\n  I would not take him back but that is my opinion. If you were really sure about this guy you would not be writing on here. It sounds like you have your doubts as well. Trust your instincts and what your heart is telling you. That is the best advice that was ever given to me.\nGood luck.
66713
Been there, done that. It's funny how our minds and emotions can ruin a good thing. One thing that I hightly recomend is getting your self esteem up. It's tough, but once you are sure and proud of who you are, you don't loose that. As for getting your ex back. It may or may not happen. Give him his space now, thats is what he wants. If for some reason he also has a change of heart, you 2 can work things out then. But for now, respect his decision. Take care babe, im rooting for ya :)
513509
sounds like he regrets breaking up with you, kinda like you don't know what you have 'till it's gone.  it's your choice if you decide to take him back.  if you really care for him and feel he is being honest then go for it.
598914
Well if this man in already in a relationship. and he has choosen his current love over you. i think that you can not win something back if you never had it in the first place. He was using you and not that it suits him he has left you. for get about him. which is probably easier said than done. but time heals all wounds and i'm sure you will find someone in the future that will treat you correctly.
526711
Tell him that you are very sorry that you hurt him. I don't know what happened to make your relationship go bad...but I know that if I was dating a guy and we broke up for whatever reason I wouldn't want to hurt him. That would make me hesitate to break up with him. Maybe you could point out whatever difference that broke you up is now resolved. Tell him also that you could start out very slow as friends and then get to the dating stage evenutally. If you really love this guy you will be willing to take as long as it takes to win him back. Good luck.
445696
Hi, and what an interesting question!  My ex-fiance is a player.  We dated for almost 6 years....now, after being broken up for nearly 5 years, he is, yet again, and engaged, yet again.  Here's what I noticed in his "player" personality.  A lot of it had to do with how he acted and treated me when we first started dating......he made sure he let me know I was the only woman in his heart (although dropped hints that his friends were #1)...he would pay attention, only when birthdays and holidays arrived, as to what truly made me happy, so that his present and attitude would rise him to the top....he would always bring me around his friends....other women would always flirt with him and although he would flirt back, he seemed to be more interested in me and that's all that mattered...but I think the best answer to this question is not details of the man, or boy, himself, but the woman who chooses to be with him.  My lack of self-confidence, insecurity and immaturity drew me closer to him because he paid attention to me and no matter what he did, how he responded to my concerns, or how he treated me, he still called me his girlfriend, still showed affection and still called me for everything he needed...so, it made me feel important when in reality, he was self-centered, greedy and cocky and never truly thought about me.  I hope you find your answers!  Thanks!
639436
my ex did that, i took him back several times. \n\nmy advice.. NEVER ever ever talk to him again, just forget about him and you will be better off.. SERIOUSLY.
625252
Yes i sure would and i would give him another chance.. I would date and hit on him big time lol.... This is not stupid at all. You also can go to http://www.marriagetoday.org that is a great site and also http://www.crown.org and they are a great help for finances and things like that.... Hope this helps you some and i hope and pray that someday you and your ex can reconcile your differences and rekindle your love and marry again! I love it!!! You go girl:) I am so happy for you and for him... Wish more people were like this. We all could learn from you!
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Gurly-Q, I will pray for you!! I too was lied to, betrayed, and deceived over and over for 6 years with my EX. Keyword is EX! You can only be hurt by this man and others like him. Once you decide to no longer be afraid that a better man won't come down the pike, you will be able to move on. I decided I would rather be alone for the rest of my days than listen to another lie and be expected to believe it and instill that trust back to him. I know being single sucks but it also rocks! You can go on several dates in a week if you want and YOU call the shots! My mom once told me, "With one of these (indicating female anatomy), you have the power and can get as many of those (men) you want." Take back your power, babygirl. The next time you go on a date, look for signs that he is a deceiver. Ask pointed questions and be upfront about things you are not looking for. I, too, have thought things would be easier if I dated women...but it's still a relationship. If you really love women, go for it, babe. But, if you absolutely love men, you can't let this make you bitter toward them and start batting for a team you don't feel 100% part of. Also, I think every girl out there that hasn't just settled for a guy has been through this...you are so not alone. My heart really does go out to you, sister in misery!