I have been separated for 11 months
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Not a lady, but I can hope to solve this unfortunate problem for you. There is always a legal aid office in what ever town you live in, you may have to dig for it and call lots of different people to find it but it does exist. The easiest way to find it, would be to call a woman's shelter, or your local YWCA if you have a chapter of that organization near you. If not, try your local college. Some of the recently graduated law students are hungry for whatever work that they can get and generally excel at their first cases. (mainly because they want the word of mouth advertising that can come from it). I wish you luck in this most unfortunate place in your life and hope for a speedy and clean proceeding.
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Well, you should start talking to someone else too. Maybe that will help you get over him and what he is doing. The fact that you seperated because you "needed time to grow" should have told you that he was going to date other people. What did you think was going to happen? You were going to seperate and then just wait around for eachother? If that`s what you thought, you shouldn`t have seperated at all. You need to get out there and find a new man. Just let this guy go and do whatever he wants to do. If it was "meant to be" you will end up back together. In the meantime, you should go out and have your own fun and not sit around worrying and wondering what he is doing. Do your own thing and let HIM wonder about YOU.
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yeah sounds right i divorced my husband after 7 years......
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Find someonelse to get him out of your system. \nMen try to be polite and say sweet things to ease you but then women read this compassionate talk as false hope. Honey, it's all BS because is OVER and is been over since August last year.\n\nIf he wanted to be back he would already been back.\nFind some new friends, go to a divorce support group to be able to vent your pain and share experiences with people that have been thru the same. If you keep on holding on you will continue suffering. Realize once and for all that he is not coming back, come one. you are DIVORCED and you don;t have to keep on holding on the candles waiting for him to make his heroic return. Noone is going to give you a medal for being a marthyr...so go out and have fun, you are a newly single gal. He is out ther having fun, so why are you crying at home?\n\nLet go and move on\n\nGood luck.
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I believe there is an exemption from the statute of limitations in cases of this sort.  You absolutely have the right to do this and it may bring you some measure of healing and closure.\n\nGood luck.
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Hi introvertedb, Pls this is not a class room to correct English Language, answer the question or let go. so, if you have divorced, you better go back to your spouse or remain unmarried 1cor 7:11. sorry, no second chance for you as a christian.
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Have you gone out with many girls since your separation?  If not, then you are probably moving too fast, thinking too far in advance.  Slow it down.  Stay with the girl you like, but BE SURE TO GIVE HER TIME TO HERSELF.  That means a day or 2 apart at a time (phone is OK).  Otherwise you will feel "clingy" to her and all women hate needy/clingy guys, which could cause her to dump you.  \n\nYou have to control your emotions yourself.  That sounds funny, but it's true.  You have to think about how you feel, how your life is, factor in the good and bad possibilities of what could happen based on your actions, then choose what you feel are the best actions.  Control your emotions or you will lose her.\n\nI've been separated from my ex for 16 months, officially divorced for 6.  I've felt what you're feeling.  I've been back in the dating scene.  Take it slow.
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The instructions say this:  "If your parents have divorced or separated, answer only the questions about the parent that you lived with most during the last 12 months. If you did not live with one parent more than the other, answer only the questions about the parent who provided most of your financial support during the last 12 months."
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5 yeara of that? yickes and ouch for the kids, this cant be good for any of you and ther family..its so sad.\n\nAnyways, go to lawyers.com, they can help you find one in your state.\n\ngood luck and make sure you have the best interrest in the kids ( i wouldnt drag my kids through that, him and i compromised and the kids are happy )
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well it is hard to admit that we are divorced, it's like saying I failed in  a relationship. But until you get over that feeling that it just wasn't meant to be, you won't feel good about yourself. You have to realize that it wasn't your fault and eveerything happens in life for a reason if we don't always know the reason
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Stop whining...Is life good for you?  If yes, then let it go, it's only been 1 1/2 years.  I could see if you were past 3 or 5 years.  Give the man time.  You have obviously never been through divorce before.  He's gone through it twice!  Do you know what that does to a person?  Give it a rest for a little while and if it's meant to be it will be.
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contact immigration asp, are you an abused spouse??/ divorced?? under 2 yrs in country< can you upgrade your question with more details
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Sounds to me like Mark is dragging is feet, afterall, you has his cake and is eating it too.  You divorced for one reason or another.  What makes you think that it will work this time.  The past will hinder any happiness that you two may have together.  You should think real hard on this issue and decide if you can go thru with it or not.  If you can't, leave before it's too late.
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WHEN I SIGNED MY DIVORCE PAPERS!!!!!!!
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There are plenty of people around who will take your money.  Asking on here is no better than just searching the web.  I've put the link in for the first hit I found.  I have no idea if they are any good.\n\nI think you would do better to seriously address the reason why you split up.  The wording in your question implies that he left you.  Why do you think that was?  \n\nHe may have felt that something was lacking in the relationship.  If so, do you know what it was and how it would be different next time?  Does he blame you for the miscarriage?  It may be him that needs to change.  Are you still friends?  If so, perhaps you can change his outlook slowly over time.\n\nDon't look for an instant cure.  Expand your horizons.  You may meet someone else more suitable.  Or it may be that he is right for you and will return at the appropriate time.
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8 Months in May!\nCongrats by the way on your aniv... 11 years is a long time in this day.
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Even though I'm a guy, I have been where you are before.  My ex always dangled that possibility that we might get together thing out there.  Unfortunately being the person who got left you feel like if there is a posiblity then you should keep your life on hold just in case.  Two years is too long to have to keep your life on hold for someone who has left you and cheated on you.  It is past time for you to get your life back and to seek out happiness once again.  Step one though should be filing for divorce.  I recomend this before you date anyone because in some states it can make a difference in the settlement still.  If you so much as date someone even though he is the one who cheated first and left they will still see you as equally cheating even though you waited two years.  Beyond that concern though you have every right and duty to yourself to move on and be happy.  Get divorced and find a guy who really loves you and deserves your love.