I've been with my boyfriend for about a little over two months but I've known him for... 9 years and we've gone out twice before. But this time its different! He makes me feel happy, like everything that might be going wrong is actually okay. He makes me feel like I can actually be my real self around him. I feel like I can talk to him about anything, trust him with anything and not have to hide anything from him.\nIs this what love feels like?
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Best friends is the best things in a relations maybe you are in love for without friendship relationships never last.*
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this is such a hard question. i am getting married next month and i can't even begin to describe the feeling i have for him. he makes me happy in all the funniest ways. i couldn't imagine my life without him. especilly it being happy. lord. he is the reason for my happiness. who would i be without him? some say thta you are two people, just one heart. i think different. marriage combines the two of you..eternal...forever! 2 become 1\nsometimes i think that i want to die first so i won't have to deal with the pain. but then that would be selfish and i don't ever wan him to suffer that ype of pain.then on the otherhand i want us to die together neither of us would feel pain afterwards and we would still be together...buried next to each other. you know. \nsome would say that that is still being selfish but no body ever wants to feel that pain..knowing that the person you vowed to give the rest of your if to, is no longer going to be there, but ix feet under you...who could live happily after that?
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Love has a misterious feeling. Actually Love cannot b described, its something we felt in our heart, its a kind of feeling where you are concerned about the other person, You feel happy seeing his/her happy and you make effort for it too. Its a kinda feeling where a person can devote all his her life for someone that someone is not just a girlfriend boy friend its about anyone u can call it ur parents, siblings relatives in short whosoever you feel comfortable and good and the feelings you recipocate calls LOVE
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If you really love someone you should feel happy that the person you love is happy, even if it's not with you! Sometimes if you really love someone you have to let them go, so they can be happy....Not always we can be with the person we love, but trust me the best proof of love someone can give is wishing the happiness of the person they love no matter who they're with! I hope I made sense! That's what love supposed to be!\n\nSome people say that love is fighting for the person you love....and doing anything to be with them....that is NOT true, because if the person you love is happy with someone else, why would you even try to separate them if you know that the person is happy? That isn't called love, that's called "being selfish"....
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you're in love! everything you are feeling is natural. try not to stress out about it or you will drive him away!
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I've been with my SO for almost 3 years. What don't I love about him should be the question. He's in the navy so his job is EXTREMLY stressful. I love how when he gets home the first thing he wants to do is give me a huge hug and kiss. I love how when his lips touch mine I feel like there's no other place I could EVER want to be. I love how when he holds me....we fit together. I love how he whispers in my ear goodnight and kisses me so gently. I love how when we haven't seen each other for a while he'll hold me forever and not let me go. I love how when we're on long car trips he'll look over at me and just sigh. I love how when we're sitting at home watching TV he can't stand to be more than a half a centimeter away from me. I love how he can make me laugh no matter how sad, how mad, or how frustrated I may be. I love how the sound of his voice makes my heart skip a beat. I love how everytime he walks in the door from work my stomach fills with butterflies and my heart beats fastser. I love how when he hugs me it feels like nothing can hurt me. I love how when we're out in public he ALWAYS has either his arm around me or my hand in his to let all the guys out there know that I'm his. I love how when we get to a party...he'll spend 30 min introducing me to everyone as "the woman who puts up with everything and still sticks around". I love how when he's sick...all he wants to do is lay his head in my lap and sleep. We've been through SOOOO much....good friends of mine dying in Iraq, some rather serious things in both my life and his and yet we're closer now than we were when we started dating. Everyday I talk to him and see him our love grows more and more.
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Oh my goodness! I was JUST like you with the Touchy Feely. I wasn't that at all when I started to date my boyfriend because I've never been used to that emotional display. I was so used to hangin' out w/the boyz that it just rubbed off on me. I'm used to it now because it's just his way of showing me how he feels. But don't let him get too "Fresh"
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Dear Downhelps:\n\nIt seems like you are feeling this way mainly because of a boyfriend who may be acting as if he is losing interest in you.  Is this correct?\n\nIn our human personalities we express many different things.  We are able to succeed sometimes, be smiley sometimes, win friends sometimes and so forth.  But we also can meet up with opposition, limitations and those who pull their friendship away from us.  The human personality goes thru many changes.  It is always shifting, changing, and altering.  It is never stable and on an even level.\n\nOur souls or spirit behind our human personality is the seat of higher thoughts, self-love and love of others.  It is unchangeable, never alters or shifts in it's position or outlook.  It is capable of withstanding the lack of love from outside of itself.  This means that inside of YOU is something CERTAIN about itself.  It loves, it thinks highly of itself (because it is God's Created Child) and it knows every brother in the universe has the same Self or soul within them, too !  If the human personality changes and thinks it no longer loves or it no longer likes another, the soul within that person still loves or likes the other.  Soul knows nothing but love and liking.  For it is like God in how it thinks.\n\nWhen the soul through the human turns itself over to love and suddenly finds itself lacking the loved one's interest, in it's wisdom it does not cling.  As the seat of wisdom and love, itself, it knows when to let go and release the other.  BUT, it knows that it can produce more love for itself simply because it desires it, and is open to having it and can produce more of it again.  The spirit within has self-esteem, because it is connected to God Who puts high value on it.  \n\nValue your ability to produce love over and over again in your lifetime.  Have the strength of wisdom to release those who need to be released and to know - their changing feelings are part of their personality.  We do not have to be hurt or harmed by those who go back and forth in their feelings.  Or those who we have cared about more than they cared for us.  Sometimes, our human minds like to punish us and tell us we weren't enough to hold onto love or friendship.  But it is telling us a lie.  And, we don't have to listen to it.\n\nYOU are an Eternal Being.  God made no losers.  He made us like Himself:  strong in love, willing to let go, when necessary, to honor the Free Will of his Children.  He is in a constant state of knowing that He produces love ceaselessly by Creating it.\n\nWe create it also!  We produce it over and over in our lifetimes too! There is someone else coming for you when you smile again and make more friends.  You brought this friend toward yourself, didn't you?  Well, why not bring another to yourself?  You have power.  You have ability to attract and bring to yourself what you desire and think about. Do not give up your power just because someone wants to move on. . ..  Cause another friendship, be part of another love.  We do learn lessons from our loves.  They are valuable if they do not knock you down!  Take the good out of those lessons and USE IT.  Take the rest of what is in those lessons and throw it away!\n\nYOU did not suddenly become unworthy, unlovable or unlikeable because someone else's personality did not show you consistent feelings.  You are still YOU.  You gave your boyfriend power over you.  Now take it back!  In time, you will stop missing him.  I promise you that.\n\nBest regards, Lana
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BEING IN LOVE IS TOTALLY AWEOME. ITS LIKE LIVING THE PERFECT LIFE. I LIKE THE FACT THAT I'M NOT THE ONLY ONE IN THE RELATIONSHIP IN LOVE. IT MAKES TWICE AS BETTER WHEN THE FEELINGS ARE MUTUAL.
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if you nolonger have feelings for him then you've already done the best thing that should make him feel okay. not immediately but later he'll thank you for it.\nif you remained in the relationship, you'll get to realise that you are in it more out of pity than love and this wont be fair to both of you.\n\nso you've made the right decision, all thats left now is for you to give it time and everything will fall in place.\n\nGood luck.
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Honestly, I am touched by your story. It is the power of love!\nI am fourteen now and I am also experiencing love now. I really love and care for her and believe that I would do everything for her. However, she told me that she didn't have that special feeling towards me. Maybe she has not realised how much I care for her. What I hope now is for her to wake up someday and receive me in her heart.\n\nSo, yes, follow your heart, if you really love her and she also feels the same, then you deserve that.
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I love you. That took about 1.7 seconds. But he just won't say it, huh. He may say it tomorrow or he may never say it, that isn't exactly the strongest sign that he honestly loves you. There are many factors at work and it will be up to you to muddle your way through it all. Let me see if I can help you do that.\n\nYou will find as you age that Love will take on many faces. \n\nAt times, Love will make you feel like the happiest girl in the world. You will be so filled with It that Love will spill over and get on everyone around you. The whole mood of a room will change when you walk through the door.\n\nOther times, It will take your heart and stomp it into the ground. Just when you think it is done, it will turn and spit on you.\n\nLove will be the thing that defines different periods of your life. Love is better as a group activity but that doesn't mean you can't be alone in your feelings of Love also.\n\nWhat you have to look at here is your boyfriends comfortable zone. In some families the word love is used in everyday language. The children and the parents are quick to assure each other of Its existance. \n\nIn other families, It is said only at times when someone feels a strong need to assure another that they do indeed feel love for them.\n\nThen there are those families where speaking the Word is a bit uncomfortable and is almost or totally absent from their interactions. So...\n\nWhich of these fits your boyfriend's experience. Is the word so common to him that he might find it easy to say even if he feels only a little bit of it towards you? Is he someone that understands his feelings enough to say it only if he is sure of it? Or could he feel an overwhelming Love for you but still not vocalize it? \n\nHere is the defination of "what love is" as given in the Bible. It's not a definition of being in love. It gives a definition that defines what will be present if love is present. Even if the word Love is never said, this is how you will recocnize it.\n\n"Love is patient, love is kind. It is not jealous, (love) is not pompous, it is not inflated, it is not rude, it does not seek its own interests, it is not quick-tempered, it does not brood over injury,  \nit does not rejoice over wrongdoing but rejoices with the truth. \n\nIt bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. Love never fails... So faith, hope, love remain, these three; but the greatest of these is love."\n\nDon't try to force the Word from him. Don't think that hearing him say the Word is the definitive event that proves It's existance. Actions speak so much louder than words ever will. Instead, look for the signs of Love. Now you know what those signs are.
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You are extremely happy, like you have never been before. It is almost too good to be true! You let yourself be carried by that person, for a moment there you forget about the world and think that only you and your partner exist. It is amazing, but as good as it can get, it can get pretty bad too.
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i definately feel the same way about my boyfriend. he is the most amazing thing to ever happen to me and i feel completely blessed also.
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If you actually love the person and are in a committed relationship, then he will care enough about you to go as slow as you need to, and to stop if you want to.  if this is so, then it won't hurt too badly.  it feels a little tight the first time, but not unbearable.
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Remember the old saying that went something like this:  "Give me the strength to change the things that I can change, to accept the things that I can't change, and the wisdom to know the difference."  It certainly seems to fit here.  I think if your bf has any knowledge of this situation, he would certainly feel like second banana, no pun intended, that you are only keeping him because you cannot have the one that you wanted.  Or if he doesn't know the situation, then you unconsciously resent him for not being your true love, and that you are "stuck" with second choice.  You need to think this through, and if your first choice can never be a choice for you, then you must collect yourself and realize that your life must go on without this unrequited love as your partner.  It probably happens to everyone at one time or another in life.  So if your bf is indeed a good person and you do care for him, is it not worth it to him and to you to try to fall in love with him, or to see what happens without forcing it?  But most of all, your bf must never feel like he is second choice, or he will probably meet someone whom he feels will appreciate him more, and move on with that person.  Just tellin' it like it is.  Good luck...
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A man once had true feelings for me, we didn't just have sex. He held me, kissed me, cuddled and watched movies, and he made me feel wonderful. I loved him and it felt great. I came to believe that if this is so bad, why is it so wonderful. From then on, I felt no shame and believed truly that love conceurs all.