why do i find myself always thinkin about this other guy when i have a b/f already???  HELP!!!!!!!!!!
120057
Well at least you have some morals in asking yourself this question.Just talk to your b/f and see for yourself how he thinks things are going.If it is not happening,then finish the relationship,get yourself over him totally and then see what can happpen with this one you keep thinking of.
184184
Get over it and move on.  If your contemplating what your life would have been if you had gotten serious, how much do you love the one your with now?\n\nMove on and focus on the relationship you're in now.  Keeping that friendship alive with that friend will only complicate matters in any relationship you choose to open up.\n\nLeave the other guy alone hes probably still getting over how far he fell in love with you.  He may or may not come around again but leave that up to him.\n\nIf you knew it was a good thing and he would do anything for you, was it vanity, attractiveness or simply incompatability that prohibited you from seeing exactly what he was all about?
670522
you just need to follow your heart which guy do you have more feelings for and which one treats you the way you want to be treated? ? no one on here can make that choice for you. you just need to decide the one your happiest with and go with it
292207
i think it would be better if u confess to the other guy that u are in a relationship. it is quite possible to fall for other people while u are in a relationship. its natural so dont worry ok? just take your time to know this guy.. it might just be a crush since u say that u love ur boyfriend. may be after sometime u will realize this new guy is just not ur kind. tell him the truth about u being into a relaionship. dont lie. it could harm ur relationship with ur boyfriend in future. and about telling your boyfriend..i think u should just tell him u have made a new friend nothing else.. tht is it.... dont worry. hope it was of some help.
324543
There a guy just like that in my life, I used to confine in him cause he was a good riend and he told me once that he like me and I should be with him even if it was a secret relationship, I told him I can't do that cause no matter how my bf hurt me I still love him and I am not going to leave him. I made my decision based on the vibes I was getting from the other guy. You need to ask your boyfriend's brother about his whereabouts on particular days. Use you woman's intuition, most of the time it is right and on clue. You need answers and you need them answered. But tell that guy exactly what is on your mind. Don't completely trust him. Take everything at face value and question other things completely.
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i think that you have to think about the long run... \nfor the first guy:\nyou seem to be really into him, and you can see yall getting married.. thats no joke, it actually has potential\nfor the second guy:\nHe is married, and if you decide to get serious with him, what makes you think that he wont do the same to you as he did to his wife?\nFor the third guy:\njust because you are attracted to him doesn't mean he worth hurting the first guy whom you seem to be in to the most.\n\nI think mainly you have to think about which ones are LUST and which one is LOVE!
259892
hi,first of all u knew from the start that what you did was wrong.i think you love him and i think u see something that u did'nt see in other man but u need to accept the truth that he will not be your's forever.he already belong to someone else and i think what should u do is to hang-out with your friends and meet people and try to forget him and someday the right guy will come along and you will be surprise.have faith and respect to yourself.u deserve to be happy! and there are millions of guy in this world so don't waste your beauty and time to him.goodluck
454777
It sounds like you answered your own question with the "I love my boyfriend very much and don't want me mess things up with him."  Think about whether you really like this other guy or are only lusting after him.  Also if it is just for convenience will it last?  Think about what you would be giving up with your current boyfriend and if you will gain anything other than less distance with the other guy.  Do what your heart tells you is best.  Hope you make the right choice.
3952
If you're thinking about other guys when you have a boyfriend, then you're obviously not that "into" him. When you're with a guy you really like, you'll know it.\nSo my advice would be to first figure out what you want in a boyfriend. If you only want to be with someone who you are absolutely crazy about, then keep looking and get to know this other guy. If you're just looking for someone to hang out with and whatever else, then maybe your boyfriend isn't so bad if you like being with him.\nGood luck.
66384
wow...well i think that u were feeling like u could have either one of the guys, it was ur choice, but now that one is trying to move on u feel like u have to have his attentions back cuz ur losing some of ur control...i don't know, but i think u should really pray about it and try to b honest w/ urself...if u really luv ur bf then don't leave him for someone u like! but really i don't kno everyhthing about this so...i hope it turns out well!
309211
It's possible, but you're making yourself sound like a cheater. If you love someone else while you're already in a relationship then that's bad. It's better to be in love with two people when you're not with one of them already. If you love someone else while in a relatonship then it means that you want the other person who isn't your boyfriend/girlfriend. \n\nTry asking yourself what you can get from this person 'on the side' that you're not getting from your significant other. If the reasons outweigh the reson to stay with the person you're currently with, then maybe it's time to end the relationship, hm?
408304
The grass is always greener...  IMO, stick with your current boyfriend and forget about the first one. Or, stay single. Perhaps you aren't ready for a commitment with either yet if you are having difficulties deciding between them.  Goodluck with whatever you decide to do. :-)
456422
You need to explain to your b/f that you've been hurt before and it's going to take some time.  Be patient with yourself and with him and allow yourself to enjoy being with a good guy for once.  There's the old saying "Once bitten, twice shy," so it's OK to feel badly.  Talk to your b/f and if he's the great guy you described, he will understand.
242863
hey take a chill pill.... its absolutely normal to fantasize bout another girl.... dont feel bad about it. be aware of your sexuality and preferences. live the way u wanna live.... n dream wat u want.... u live only once... so live life to the fullest.
626076
Stick to your new b/f, as going back with your ex wont work as there must have been something which made yous fall out. stay with the new guy as you never know he could be your soul mate, if you leave your new b/f and go back to old one he could leave you again so do you want that. stay where you are and be happy there's no point looking back just look forward and be happy. good luck
651853
Hey girl- My boyfriend and I have been dating for a year and 9 months. We go to the same college so we are together 9 months out of the year. during the summer, though, I am in another state and he stays there. I really think that the only reason we as girls would think that we have feelings for someone else is that we get the attention from this guy- the attention we usually get from our boyfriend when we are together. Don't let your mind and emotions take over. Stay true to your man- your love, if you believe that it is strong enough, will stand through even the hardest times... God bless!!
212195
That's kind of a question you need to answer yourself. But I can give you some advice. What you need to do is sit down and think. Get three separate pieces of paper and write down all of the good things/moments about each guy and see which one has the most. Don't end it at that though. Think it through and see which guy you would be better off with. Who cares what your friends think? The decision is up to you. Whichever guy you pick, tell the other guys you're sorry and you think __________ is the best for you. They will eventually move on and get a separate life. I hope my advice works out for you and good luck. -Cody