I have a sisster I have not talked to in over two years, because I confronted her on her lying and drinking, and since then she has nothing to do with me or anyone in our family. I saw her at the store yesterday and she looked away, and it made me so sad, she used to be my best friend and it is hard for me to believe there is no good in her anymore, but everyone just tells me to forget about her. I have tried writing her, I have gone to her place and she will not even open the door for me. So my question is should I just forget that I have a sisster and go on or should I keep trying?
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yes I do. we used to get along great. then she got engaged and she thinks that i want her man. it is so stupid! i have absolutelly no intrest in him. but she thinks that we are going to get to comparing tattoos and that I will seduce him to me in the process. it just pisses me off. if she is so insecure about him then I do not see why she is marrying him in the first place. now she just badmouths me to the whole family. I am to the point where I just ignore her. no matter what I tell her she calls me a lier, so there is nothing that I can do. maybe eventually she will get her head out of her but... but I doubt it.
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I think you miss your mom and one way of dealing with that is to talk to her.  Your sister cares about you, and believes that it can be dangerous trying to talk to or communicate with someone who is dead.  I agree that can be dangerous, but laying in bed and telling your mom you miss her and you love her is a way to mourn.  The danger would come if you go overboard in trying to communicate with your mom, but sharing your feelings is normal and safe.
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wow thats really...deep. is this a true story? i dont think i could handle reading that, it may make me too depressed but if its true im glad you overcame it all...if you need a new character though, add a love interest for yourself, a girl who helps you through everything and stands by your side and in the end realize the reason why she did it is becuase she grew up in the same foster home as you and was seperated when you were sent back to your dad and you just didnt remeber her becuase she looks better and aged more maturly or whatever. good luck :)
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Are u crazy? Forget it? What if your boss gave em to u to see if you'd really go? Do you care about your job? If it was me I would definitely go to dinner. Your sister is still gonna be there when you come home rite? Where has your sister been in 2 freakin years? Do you know how hard it is a find a good job. If you like your job, and want to stay at it, forget your sister. She had 2 years to come visit you!!!
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SHE IS YOUR SISTER YOUR MOTHER AND FATHERS CHILD YOUR OWN FLESH AND BLOOD SHES PART OF YOUR D.N.A. SHE IS FAMILY. WHY WOULD YOU ABANDON HER WHEN SHE NEEDS ALL THE HELP SHE CAN GET. DON'T LEAVE HER, PUT YOURSELF IN HER SHOES, AND THINK ABOUT IT. THANK YOU
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Looking at pictures of my daughter.You see she refuses to see me or talk to me.I do not know the reasons for this.I divorced her dad when she was 18.Since then she will not have anything to do with me.My ex and my own sisters turned her against me.She has two children now and I have never seen them not even in a picture.I miss her and love her so very much and it is making me cry now.I will continue to pray to God for an answer.Yes I have tried to contact her by phone and by letters and e-mail.She just refuses to tell me why.Just why is all I want to know.I can't watch anything that shows a love between a mother and her daughter without crying and it's been 6 years now.
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Forget about her!!! I've had the same situation with this guy, until I finally said to myself, Hey! What am I doing here? He doesn't deserve me and I'm not going to wait forever! I shoudn't be running after him he should be running after me! And if he's gonna want me back, it's too late for that! And guess what? He wantd me back. And I didn't. That's what you should do. Have some dignity MAN!
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Sometimes we go through these things before we find out why we left to begain with and than we want them back. So one more chance dont hurt if you still care. Go buy her a present and you two enjoy a special brithday together and if someone knocks on the door dont answer it. This will be both of your time alone.\n\nI came back and seen what else you typed she didnot show up then but if she is wanting to make up, try one more time you have nothing to lose. This time maybe different i sure hope so you seem to care alot and thats hard to get from someone is the love you have for her. From me to you i hope you find away for you both.
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Missing someone and not being able to see or talk with them is so horrible, because you feel so helpless and you feel as if there will be no end to your pain.  Can you email or write to him?  It may not be the ideal situation (because you want to be with him), but it will help--and although I know you won't believe this, you will eventually feel better and maybe even meet someone new.  He will never be like the one you left behind, but it will be ok--I know, because I've been there.  Take care...
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you can get info online. go to department of corrections. if she is prison her name will come up. I check for people from my past all the time. I am close to my sister who has been clean for almost four years now, but I used to worry about her all the time. Sorry for the pain you are going through. I said a little prayer for you.
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what your friend did to you was horrible. I think it's really up to you what you want to do from here- do you want to confront them and have it all out, or would you rather just get away from the situation before it consumes you? Either way, your friend doesn't deserve to be your friend anymore so i would forget about her and move on, clearly she's a pretty low person for wanting your ex.
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Shae, I am really sorry for your situation. I also read your profile and there is no reason that I can see for your sisters  attitude, and yes we do try to treat others how we would want to be treated. However we are not perfect, we make mistakes like everybody else.  I really feel that you need to let your sister know how you feel and how this is effecting you, and that you would like to have her in your life.  Sometimes writing a letter  is beneficial because it enables you to really reflect on your feelings  and express yourself more thoroughly.  Perhaps once everything is out on the table, then any differences can be resolved.
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She was gone and you found a new group to socialize with. I am sure everyone at school was like "wuz up with her skippin' school"? right? So maybe you judged her as well but now things are too weird between ya'll because of your new friends. Ya'll need to talk you can work this out if you truely miss her. Call her up and just start chatting. Before you now it things will work themselves out and ya'll will be hangin' out again.
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it sounds like she really needs help to get her life straightenend out, if you ignore her she will feel like you don't care and that you think she is worthless.  You need to help her get her life back on track before something worse happens to her.  Help her get counseling, get into rehab, even go to church.  If you avoid her and something really bad happens, like she ends up getting killed, then you will never forgive yourself for standing by and letting it happen when you could've done something.  Maybe what she really needs is a friend like you to help her.
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Personally, I just lost my dad last month.  I'm still dealing.  It takes a while but the one thing you have to keep in mind is that she was here for a reason.  Whether or not there is an afterlife is irrelevent.  Each person that crosses your path, each person you interact with is there for a reason.  Whether its to teach you something or point you in the direction youre meant to go, there is a purpose.  You may miss her, but if you spend the rest of your life grieving you are not living.  You are lost in the past and moving forward because you have no alternative.  I can assure you, that is not what she would want.  I look at it this way, when you truly care for someone, you give them a piece of yourself.  You have given them your love, your support, your caring, whatever...its a part of you.  No matter where you go, they will always have that.  It is not something tangible that can be taken away or lost.  Your sister will be with you forever.  Nothing can change that..not even death.  'Sides, in my opinion death is just a speed bump in this thing called life, not an end.
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Hard question to answer.  I hope you get a lot of reponse that may help you to deal with this situation.  I know that it may be hard, but with crystal meth, maybe its best you don't talk to them for awhile.  People who are addicted to crystal meth will go to any extreme to support their habbit.  If you want to remain friends with them, just please be careful.  Keep in contact yet keep your distance.  In MY case, I had to drop the person and move on with my life - I wouldn't have been able to handle it any other way.  I do look back and wish I could have done different, but I know that I wasn't as strong back then as I am now.
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Hate to break it to you but you are an "after thought" to her....She came over cause she was "bored."  You are too special to be a replacement for whatever she has lost.  She lost you before, heck she walked away. You need to do the same.  I know from life that girls like that DON'T want guys that are always there.  They just use them.  Sorry for the tough answer but I am answering as if I was talking to my son, which I have done and he is now 23.