I asked for divorce she says no\nI told her I was moving she dont care\nshe dances at a bikini bar\n \nwhat do I do
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why did you get married to her if you are getting a divorce four months later? that is just silly! i don't understand what the problem is or was. can you explain more? you should love your wife no matter what. and at least you have had sex more than i have and i have been married six months.we are still very happy and plan to keep it that way. you don't have to have sex to be happy. that is not all marriage is about.
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She is using her own chilrden to get back at you.  For some reason, people do that.\n  If the new guy is spending the night, call your lawyer.  I know in my state, she'd loose custody read quick for allowing another man to spend the night, even after the divorce is finalized.  If they're not married, then he shouldn't do any over night stays.
599159
guy: do u want to dance? \ngirl: no!\nguy: i think u misheard me. i said" you look fat in that dress"
617709
Sorry man... you married the wrong woman. It's either divorce or time for the wipe, and I don't mean physically.
264187
Well, I am sure it didn't come out of nowhere. There were probably a lot of signs you missed seeing. Well, you can either work to persuade her to not divorce, or you can divorce.
511954
Are you living in a no-fault state ... if so, the law would take no side on the divorce. I was in an emotionally abusive relationship and the cops have been called. I would cry because we were fighting ... he would yell. The cops (Minnesota) do not really care who leaves at that point - just that someone must leave the home and not return until the next morning. Does she yell at you? Can you remain calm and call the police? Will she have calmed down by the time the police get there or will she continue with her controlling behavior? \n\nUnfortunately, this relationship may not change because it sounds like she may be the one that does not want to change and likes it the way it is ... you must follow your heart and have the strength to make the right decision no matter what that be.\n\nGood luck!
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--------------------------------------------------------------------------------\n\nMy wife and I have the secrets to making a marriage last...\n\nTwo times a week, we go to a nice restaurant, a little wine, good food and companionship. She goes Tuesdays. I go Fridays.\n\nWe also sleep in separate beds. Hers is in Florida, mine is in NY.\n\nI take my wife everywhere, but she keeps finding her way back.\n\nI asked my wife, "Where do you want to go for our anniversary?"\n"Somewhere I haven't been in a long time!"\nSo I suggested, "How about the kitchen?"\n\nWe always hold hands. If I let go, she shops.\n\nShe has an electric blender, electric toaster, and electric bread maker. Then she said "There are too many gadgets, and no place to sit down!", so I bought her an electric chair.\n\nMy wife told me the car wasn't running well, there was water in the carburetor. When I asked where the car was, she told me "In the lake."\n\nMy wife is on a new diet. Coconuts and bananas. She hasn't lost weight, but BOY, can she climb a tree now!\n\nShe got a mudpack and looked great for two days. Then the mud fell off...\n\nShe ran after the garbage truck, yelling, "Am I too late for the garbage?" The driver said, "No, jump in!"
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Mikey dude!! That totally sucks!!  LOL better be ready for her to give you divorce papers on your next birthday.  Time for a priority check!
594283
Is she depending on your money? If not, you had no business telling her to get a job. If she was, then you should tell her you can't afford to support her anymore. Just stop giving her the cash. Do you mean you're living together and she wants to move out? Sounds like a good idea. You can still keep your relationship, and once things get smoother you can try again. Sounds like a good way to figure out if she loves you, or your money. Or do you mean she wants to move to another city? She could be bluffing so you beg her to stay. She just wants to feel wanted, instead of like a burden. Just have a business like conversation. Tell her if she get's a job, even a parttime one, you'll continue to help supporting her, but you will keep a tab, and she has to sign a letter of agreement that she will pay you back. That's fair. That way you can be there for her when she needs you, without being taken advantage of. Attitude very rarely changes. So if you can't live with her attitude, move on.
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DIVORCE, so just b/c she does wrong you will too, word of advice, 1. two wrongs don't make a right and 2. Your going to bring yourself down to her level and I garuntee she will beat you with experience. You wanna-be PIG.
319162
she is bored with you and most likely cheating too. tell her to talk this out with you or else you want a divorce. you can find someone who appreciates you more. honey she ain't workin she is just workin it. get rid of her.
232743
No 'nice' ways anymore.  Brutal (but sensitive) honesty time.\n1.  Admit your fault in the situation.  You shouldn't have started things up if you knew you were going to get back together with your wife.\n2.  Tell her your side.  Marriage is a commitment and you aren't the kind of person who wants to get divorced and trivialize that commitment so you're doing everything you can... etc, etc.\n3.  Compliment her by reminding her she can find someone much better.\n4.  Let her say how she feels and respond without getting defensive.\n5.  Under no circumstances are you to use her as a 'in case it doesn't work out' friend.  That isn't fair and it's not right.\nGood luck.
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her stay at home boring life?.....well maybe you should stop being a fucking jerk off before she gets smart and divorces your ass...then who will cook your yummy food and clean up after your piggish self.....what exactly is your question?
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run away fast and don't look back,if you don't want this now then marriage is an oppressive life sentence and you will grow resentful and eventually that will cost you half of evrything you own, mental and emotional anguish and give you full responsibility for both tax debts regardless of any court order because the irs won't recognize it and the respct and friendship you have with her if you divorce, if she gives you an ultimatum leave and yes it will hurt when she leaves but it will hurt more to be manipulated into doing something you are not ready to do and you will find another and better lover soon enough, you should squash this talk now and don't give her false hopes to delude herself into thinking she will get you to propose
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yeah these sound like she made up her mind of geting a divorce and she want to move on this happen in marriage you just got to get ready for a divorce and make new plan in your life there are other women out there i know it real hard on you right know but when she leave you it going to take you a few month to get over the feeling you just lost the one you love but it well get better over time. i wish you the best of luck.
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(A friend huh? )  Why is it that when ever someone on this site wants a "quickie divorce",or wants to break up with someone,the first thing they say is: "It's not me-it's for a friend?"\n\n(1) First of all,why waste your time trying to get answers to your friends problems? Is he/she not capable of taking care of this him/herself?\n( 2) Do you think people on this site are able to determine why this marriage should end,without details?\n(3) Stop Lying!-Your the one who wants the " Quicky divorce" (wink,wink!). You probably got married just as quick,and as a matter of fact,you probably do "everything" quick (wink,wink). (Anyway) stop trying to do everything so "Quickly". Pay the cost to end the marriage,or prove to the Lawyers,that YOUR WIFE is capable of footing the bill!. \n\n(PS) Just to let you know,there is no such thing as "breaking away clean",from a divorce. Everyone will pay,suffer,or whatever in the long run. Don't forget about Alimony,and paying any bills she has accumulated over the years. Good thing there's no kids involved. (Good luck)
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Ok you need to look at the fact that she went back on her word. Now it may be true that she spent the week with you but all she had to do was call you & inform you that she was going to the dance. Talk to her. Explain that you just want her to respect you that is all. Now dont be mad, calm down. If she does it again, start looking for a replacement...