Let's say you have a best friend you used to work with a while ago. He's been close to my family too, husband, kids and all.  You always say to each other "wish we worked together again." He disappeared from my life for about a month (we just didn't talk) but lately - cool. Turns out I have a second interview at a place tomorrow.  He STARTED there today. We went through staffing agency (which is about the only way to get a job around here).  This is a big area with a LOT of businesses. What are the odds? No one knew anything about us being friends or anything either so it wasn't someone doing this on purpose.  I could be jumping the gun here though as I don't know if I'll get the job but hoping.  Can I count on all you to cross your fingers for me? Thanks.
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That IS weird! We had something really weird happen to us last night. While cleaning up this Avion trailer (that was brought here from somewhere else)with lots of junk in it that we were basically shoveling into a trash hauler, my husband found a photo. It was taken during the big flood, around 1990 I think. Our house is on a lake and every 20-30 years they flood the lake and our house is in the underwater zone! (Yeah, we knew this when we moved in! Now the lake is waaay out there, luckily!)Okay, so, the house in the picture is THIS HOUSE, halfway underwater! For sure. My grandson and I walked to the angle from where the photo was taken, and we I.D.d the tree in the backyard and the swing. HOW WEIRD IS THAT?
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Just keep trying. Sometimes is just a numbers game. You can do everything right and they still don't pick you. Also, they could have chosen the other person even before you interviewed. I ran into this alot last time I was looking for work. Hang in there. Good luck!
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Are these 'friends' who work with you?  If so, in my experience no matter how close you are and care about each other, you will always first and foremost be work colleagues.  So its natural for them to not want to share information with you, they see you as a threat.  But then its also natural for you to no longer consider them friends.  They're just workmates, I'm sure there are other people in your life who deserve to be called your real friends, so don't let it bother you too much.
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I would do something else until the job came along.Something temparly. Keep checking back with them. You don't want them to forget you. Not that you need to contact them alot. Maybe every few months. If they see your serious about it they will surly keep you in mind. Next time they need someone you'd be the first on the list.
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it isn't what you think that it was.  perhaps she was just being friendly and opened you up for the purpose of feeling her way around the office, people tend to do that either when they're new on the job and aren't sure what the office politics are there or when they're more seasoned and want to ensure that the newer person isn't any type of a threat or will give them any problems.  you can never really trust a relationship with someone who has been at that same job for years without first seeing how things work outside of the office first.  \n\nthe fact that she says that she is focused on her work either means that she doesn't see what the advantage to the friendship would be for her or she feels that the friendship would cause her issues on the job later on.  what type of job is this anyway?  because if it's an office job or a call center or something i would just keep it moving, yet keep that door open just in case you need that friendship in the future.  you can never tell ...
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when my dad got layed off my mom took it real hard.  there was two of us in college and a third just married.  She became so sad.  My dad was sad.  Then my mom worked a second job.  she enjoyed both jobs and still does the second one part time.\n\nok,  I thought that there would be trouble,  but it made them stronger and closer.  I think that in a way that it was a test to see what would happen..&#92;\n\nI think that in a time of stress it shows a couples inter-twinded life and that draws them closer so that ones problem because the others and they both work to getherer.\n\nIf he is seeing the worse side of you, he is lucky.  He is standing beside you and helping you.  Reach out for his support, next time he will be in need of support.  that is part of being a couple.\n\nWorse things that happen in a life on a stress scale, I looked them up two years ago when my dad had problems.  \n\n1or 2\n loss of job\ndeath of a spouse\n\n3 or 4\nloss of close family\nmoving\n\n5 or 6\na baby\nhospitalization\n\nI hope this helps, you are independant, but that does not mean that a sometime you need alittle support.  Ask him how he feels.  there is so much down sizing in companies that there is no such thing as a loyal life long employee.  You will get a new job, just smile with him and let him help you smile.
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Coming from experience, and in my case, I was engaged to someone about 14 years ago and about 2 years ago, I was in my homestate for my grandmother's funeral. I came through my ex's hometown and there was alot of unresolved issues at the time he broke off the engagement without a real reason. I decided to try to find out what his story was and to wanted to know why he did what he did. I mailed a long letter, asking the questions and searching for the answers I was looking for. He hurt me pretty badly by leaving without a real reason and he got the letter and wrote back. If you do decide to contact an old ex about unresolved issues on why your relationship ended, after you get your answers, move on. Accept the answers and accept that as closure. If your ex wants to be "friends" after the both of you aired it all out, my advice would be, don't be friends. Afterall an ex, is an ex for a reason. If you try to be "friends", old feelings will stir up, you could fall back in love with that person and you'll end up paying for it at the end. My ex wanted to be "friends" and I agreed to that but here it is 2 years later, I decided it was too late to try to be friends and realized he was never a friend in the first place. What my ex did was hurtful and I decided a while back that I didn't want anything to do with him period and I ended the friendship. I realized that he was never a friend in the first place. Get your closure, get the answers you're searching for, and move on. As for your wife, she is right, you know. Why open a bag of old wounds? You're with your wife now, stick to the present, don't look back at the past. There is really no good reasons to try to "resolve" anything. As for the ex's sexual abuse, she needs to deal with that.
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Hi hon!\nThis happened to a friend of mine also.  He was 19, had cancer.  Was on some serious medication, but was getting by.  Then we all stopped hearing from him.  Visited his house, but his mom said he had died.  But his shoes were in the hallway.\nSo we all grieved, and moved on.  \nYears later he showed up on one of my friends doorstep.  His mom had told all his friends that he had died.  What a bitch.\nMaybe he didn't want people to see him like that.  Maybe his mom thought his friends would stress him out.  I don't know.  All I do know is we aren't friends with him anymore, we wish him well, but what a terrible thing to do to your "friends".\nSo I shared a little something with you there didn't I?  Take it for what it is, an experience.  Perhaps you aren't getting the whole story either!\nHave a great week...
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First of all.....my sympathies for the loss of your babies.\n\nI have been in this situation...friend-wise....and can only tell you of this experience. This person told everyone I was her "best friend" but would only call me or come to see me if she had nothing else to do. She didn't have time to talk when I called her if something that sounded more fun came up. Basically, she used me until I became fed up with it. I finally told her I couldn't be her "fair weather" friend anymore, it wasn't worth the effort since I had nothing glamorous to offer her.\n\nThe short of it is...no matter how you handle it, this type of person won't get it. They're never at fault, never wrong and consider themselves to be the best thing walking upright! Avoid her and always be busy when she decides to call or come around. You're worth more than what she has to offer!!
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If he didn't leave you a number in which to contact him while away, sounds like he's up to no good....and the people he either works or socializes with have probably been covering him, so I think you will have to wait until he returns ....at which point, I'd set him down for some serious talking...good luck!
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Yes, a woman with whom I was a really good friend (I will call her Jane) just turned on me and almost refuses to talk to me now. We don't live near each other anymore, so it's not as big a deal now as it once was. But I have no idea what I did or said to turn her against me. I am one who has really good relationships with people and long-term friendships. So this really took me by surprise.\n\nJane and I used to spend hours together every week and a lot of time on the phone. We were both members of the same professional association. I saw her there and she was really rude to me like I had offended her in a big way. \n\nI am still mystified by this situation and it took place nearly eight years ago. I was told, by a mutual friend who asked me about the break up that Jane had done this in other relationships. That made me feel a little less confused, but I am still saddened by the loss of what I considered a great friendship.
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Well, I've been away from my 5 best friends for about 2 (almost 3) years &, so far, it's one of the hardest things I've ever had to do...\n\nI left my home country (Cape Verde) to come live in the US...& the day I left was the saddest day of my life...It felt (& still does) like I lost a huge chunk of my own self...\n\nMy best friends & I have known each other since we were about 3 years old (which means that we've known each other for about 14 years now) & always lived in the same street...we used to do EVERYTHING together...wherever you saw one of us you'd be sure to see the other 5...we had the most beautiful relationship (we went on field trips almost every weekend; we used to throw lots of parties; we used to go to each other's family's beach houses regularly, etc.) , but since I moved, things have changed a lot!!!!\n\nAlthough we keep in touch with each other, it's just not the same...I feel sad all the time because now I have no friends (nearby) and spend my days either @ work, @ school and/or @ home (which is totally not me)\n\nI used to be really active, but now I really don't do much (just so you have an idea, I've never been to the movies nor to the beach here in the US, & things that I once enjoyed are just not as fun as they used to be)...but whenever I feel sad I think of the good times my friends and I had together...& although sometimes it makes me feel even sadder that I'm not with them, most of the time it works...\n\nI'm planning on going on vacation next year, but we'll see...\n\nBut you know, my being away from my friends & living in a totally different place has helped me realize how good of a life I used to have as well as it has helped me appreciate all the ppl in my life...
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Tuesday January 24, 2006 \n\nand I had a crazy weekend.  I told Kina about Brian.  I really regret even beginning anything with him it was just because of curiosity and not only was it a waste of time, (because I love Kina too much to end things) but it didnt satisfy any curiosity that I had.  I liked Brian because he was funny and he wanted me.  But then I broke it down and figured out why ?  Because he knows i am taken.  He is only 23, he has massive amounts of women that he knows well and chills with them.  He just liked the challange.  But I never did anything like that with him.  Althought I did want to, the fact remains, Kina does me o-so-well.  Maybe sometimes he will conk out or his buddy might get a lil tired, he does make a valid effort to make sure my hearing goes down when we are done (lol) and he is the only one who knows what to say and how to say it..\naaanyway so I am at work, thinking about food.  my salvation.  Grub.  Well i am probably going home today.  I havent been home since Friday the 20th damn right?  I miss my pup.  Xeeny Weeny.  I miss her so fuckin much.  You know what i dont really miss?  MYSPACE!  at work I miss it but i have psycho steve monitering my every myspace move.  That shit head.  And he swears up and down to Lauren that Kay told him she was with Ryan that night.  He denies it.  But i believe my sister over anybody.  and Kay knows that, so what is he hiding?  I dont know, so much shit.  I really want to have my own place.  I want to feel freedom.  But i dont want a lot of bills.  Kina said when i talk about moving in with him I make it seem so farefetched.  And its true, when I think about it, I feel like even thought I want it so bad, it is almost impossible to happen.  What Kina wont hear me say is that I dont have a lot of faith in him to do the right thing so I feel our chances of making it together are slim to none.  I hope that I am wrong.  But im not getting any younger.  What am I really trying to say?  I dont fucking know man.  i really dont.
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I know how you feel! I had the same decision to make. I moved from NYC to OH (500 miles)about 2 years ago, so my son could be closer to his father (He is my ex husband).  Well his father decided to go back to NY and left his son and me here in OH.  I knew my ex for 20 years and we were good friends.  Now I am stuck out here with no family or longtime friends.  But I do have a wonderful career and I am surviving with the aid of one awsome friend.  He has been the one to help with the adjustment of a totally different life.  All I am saying is think before you move.  A month isn't long enough to decide if you should move 2000 miles away. Especially if you just got together.  It takes time and alot of trust to move far away from everything you know to start a life with someone.  You need to know if she is going to be your leaning post when you need it.  A month isn't long enough.  And if it doesn't work then you have to be prepared to be on your own in an unfamiliar place. I wish you luck and hope everything turns out great.  PS - I don't regret anything but just look at every aspect.
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Dear >person<\n\nThank you for attending the your recent interview fo rthe position of >job titile<. However, I regret to inform you that I will not be able to offer you this position at this time.\n\nThank you for your interest in our company, if you agree we can keep your details on our files if another opportunity comes up in the future.\n\n\n\n(i've had loads of these sent to me!!! no need to be too fishy or slushy, i guess the people will have had the same. no need to give reasons or anything. )
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If you have to work to make them happy then you shouldn't be calling them your best friend. I've had the same best friend for 13 years (Since we were about 8 or 9) and all I've done was be there for her when she needed me. If they want something more from the friendship then maybe they're asking too much. Just do what you can and what you can't do, if they're your best friend they'll understand.
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If you already started one job, and quit suddenly, what would those people think that hired you and you quit?  They wouldn't hire you at all in 4-10 years right?  So you need to find out which job is more important to have right now, because you are living in the now, not 4 years. If the other job is better, and is more promising for your future, you have already started, so it's too late to quit that one. You already made your mistake so you've got to live with it, unless you really think that other job is so important that you should not leave it.  All I'm saying is that you need to put your all into one job, not be divided between two jobs. If you don't quickly decide and follow through you might end up with no job. Why did you take another job unless it's better paying or better for you?