The next thing I know all his "plans" were with his "lady friend" he called me everyday all the time sometimes three and four times a day. He treated me pretty good even giving me money or bringing me medicine when I was sick.  But, as I stateed before all of a sudden his "friend" became the spotlight and everything was about her.  Was I used, do you think this person liked me at all?  I need help getting passed it now because I've gained respect for myself that he would never give me(of course now he won't talk to me) Any advice would be helpful.  Only serious answers please(meaning adults or those who actually think)
127326
Honestly it sounds like he was playing the field. I'm not saying he didn't like you, but maybe he was seeing other people at the same time. Guys like to do this, especially older men with younger women, they think it makes them feel younger. I'm glad you have a sense of self respect, never let it go!! :)
25109
Hey little buddy! Sounds like you stepped into a big bucket of stuff there. Just goes to show it dosen't pay to try and be nice. This guy must be some kind of freak. The sad part is I'm sure he has done this same thing before. With a nut like this all it takes is a simple HI from a pretty girl and they automaticaly hear "Take me now, I want you for ever and I'll bear your demon seed" What's even sadder than that is he may end up hurting somebody. I'm glad you realized that and ran. The guy needs a  12 step program to stop the voices that are not there. Oh---The only time you should have to put your life on hold is if you have children. They would come first no matter what. Otherwise no man or no one can tell what you will or can't do. And for gods sake, don't be givin' out your danm phone number or address. Be safe and happy
488839
Well, you didn't mention how you reacted to his offer of buying you a drink.  He may feel you over reacted...it is not for me to say whether you did or not.  But being a guy myself, I am more inclined to believe that he really did want to buy you a drink and that you did not misunderstand him.  Perhaps he was embarrassed when you turned him down and now wants to make it look like it was your fault.  Now he sees he has no chance with you, he has turned into a jerk to make you go away.  Sounds like a loser anyways....good thing you found out before you invested much time and emotion into him.  I apologize on behalf of my gender...we are not all jerks, but many are.
626591
Sorry to hear that you wound up hooking up with a real creep,not all guys are like that . Myself I like to shower the special lady in my life with attention , affection and praise. I  don't believe that any woman deserves to be treated badly by a man. Take your time and really get to know the next guy who sparks your interest you never know he could be the one and if he is he'll know that you're worth waiting for.
136492
Sounds kinda fishy, i'd think he already did something with this chick and even more so if you said he said she was a slut and all this crap and now all of a sudden he is friends with her and hasn't told you when they went out ??  They go to lunch once in a while and he claimed she used to wear slutty outfits ?  Sounds like they have the flirting down and maybe something more.  Do some investigating, you can never be too sure, these women know how to get what they want and they.  If I were you I would talk to my husband about your insecurities and tell her he would not like it if it was the other way around and to pls quit the friendship with her, because believe me if it hasn't happened yet it is well on its way.
395230
There's no point in having him around if he's not going to be a "friend" to you. Right now he's been using you, and I think it's a really good thing to distance yourself. You should make yourself unavailable to him, and he will get a taste of his own medicine. Sometimes people dont realize the power of their actions until it's done to them. But at the same time you have to ask yourself if having a friend like that is worth fighting for. Why even call him a friend?
648043
Okay Bella, I've noticed that you have posted several different questions about this guy.  It's going to be difficult, but you need to move on!  This guy obviously doesn't realize what a great woman you are, and probably doesn't love himself to want that in his life.  And you need to realize that you deserve more.  I know your heart is very attached to him right now and it's hard to imagine him not being in your life.  One day you will ask yourself, "Was I stressing over that loser?  What was wrong with me?"\n\nThe right one for you will come along eventually, but this guy is not it.  He'll voice those same promises, but when he does, there will be no question in your heart that he's sincere.
310065
It sounds to me like your like your male friend isn't telling you the whole story.  Courts don't just issue restraining orders for the fun of it.  I suspect he was doing a lot more than just asking this girl out.
392093
I don't know why he dropped the friendship, but you are acting kind of needy--almost stalking like.  take a hint, for whatever reason, he does not want to associate with you.....let it go.
634616
hey....dude......this guy did something like that to me once. he would stare and compliment me and stuff.he started being nice to my friends because he liked me. for a while he was all i tlked about and i thought i was in love. no love isnt something like that you need to get to know this person before u think of love.
49692
Yes sounds very desperate. Don't give him that. Never chase a man, as women we have so much power that we don't realize what we have sometimes. Try talking to the guy. Act like you didn't know what was said, then if he mentions it say oh yeah she was just kidding around with you. If he really likes you nobody can stop him from getting to you, keep that in mind.
358066
I think he told you didn't he, from what I surmise from your text is there is lots of signals in your mind that say he is in to you, which may not be the case. don't use your friend to do the work that really scares you, you bring a 3rd party in to negotiate a relationship, you are asking for trouble, it's OK to use one to break the ice so to speak, like hey my friend likes you kinda thing. but for him to tell his feelings to your friend, not a good idea.
132480
You called me? Yep, that's my name. Help Me Please. Since your "friends" asked him against your wishes, I would not ask them to not mention his name. They probably won't listen to you this time either. Why didn't they just ask him who he liked instead of putting you on the spot? Keep yourself busy and hope he stops popping into your head. Sounds like you like him a lot. He might like you a little too but just wasn't willing to admit it. If he didn't he would just ignore you, not stare at you.
642038
I didn't even finish reading your note, but from experience I would recommend ditching him... you deserve someone who can make up his mind and can love you 100%!! I had a fellow like that and I think he kept me around as security, so he wasn't alone and felt loved... don't be his love of last resort! Be strong and move on...
242470
well I don't think that's fair on his behalf, how would you feel if you where in his shoes.. you will have to make up your own mind on this one, do you loose a good friend to look good in front of others, and how do you know it will help? you might ditch this guy and make no new friends, so don't burn your bridges..If I where you I'd go out but not with him all the time and see how thing go from there, and have you told this Ricky guy you like him? because that's all ways a good start. :)
651960
Did I ever....had a friend that I wanted as more than a friend.  My friend moved out of state,  and we kept in touch my telephone for about two years.  Through a couple more moves on his part and some on mine,  we lost touch, for three yrs.  I connected with a  friend of his and found out he'd be in town,  so we made plans to see one another,  only to have a blizzard cancel plans,  he flew out of town the next morning.  When he got home,  he told me on the phone that he'd been in love with me for the last five years or more.  Time goes by,  we lose connection again,  but for FIVE years this time.  We've now been reconnected by phone and internet for about four or five years.  He begs me to move accross the country with him (even with my five kids, lol, he must have it bad, huh??lol).  I told him he should've said something while he lived here,  but he thinks I should've been the one to say it.  Just one of those things that makes ya wonder????What if????  The bad thing about missing the chance,  is that I know we would've been perfect for eachother.  The good thing is that I am in a happy marriage with five wonderful children.  Regretfully,  there's just no way to ever know,  leaving me with more "wonder" than I really care to have sometimes.
449470
Let him go, obviously, he wanted your friend and he realized that you were still the girl for him.  What makes you think, that he wont do this again.  He finds another girl that he is attracted to and says   f-you...i want her now.\n\nGirl, go find a good  man becuz he doesnt even deserve you.