This guy and I seemed to really be into eachother one night, but the fact that he is friends with my brother and my ex (my brother and ex are best friends) causes him to not want to be involved. (or so it seems) He stated to me the "guy code". But if he really wanted to date me he would no matter what right? Or he is just not willing to take the chance to get to know me and risk he friendships with the guys, for the sake of us not working out?
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yah, his guy friends are more important to him, i'd just move on if I were you, ignore the lot of them.
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Given the circumstances, I'd say he was just wanted a quick peice.  If you've been friends that long then I'm sure hes pretty comfortable and confident around you so he saw you as a perfect candidate. He must've been a bit drunk or thought for some reason you would be cool with it(did you invite him to stay the night?) Guys can have a hard time reading signals unfortunatly. But chances are hes pretty embarassed about it now and regrets what hes done. I've seen the most honest guys cheat, just some guys cant control themselves in certain situations. I know I've felt the pressure before, sex is a big deal to alot of guys.
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Yeah, he's a brother, if you want him to back off basically you'd have to stop dating her... otherwise he's just doing what brothers are supposed to do; protect his sister from other guys ;-)  doesn't matter if you're a good or bad influence, it's his brotherly duty to make it difficult for you...
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Ok if i was you in this situation except it would be a guy,  I would ask him out, and try to get to know him a little better. Then maybe if he had fun we would go out again.  Who gives a crap if she's spending time with this other guy.  Maybe they are just friends!
206993
Been there with my best friend. She did that to me a few times, but I finally had enough and told her if she didn't find her own men, I was not going to be around her anymore. Its a trust thing: You trusted her with the knowledge that you liked this guy, and she went ahead and screwed around with him....Not Cool!!\n\nHowever, if the guy didn't know you like him, then its not his fault. If he did, he holds half the blame.\n\nI'd do the same thing again with my best friend, I'd let her have it! My best friend decided that she'd rather be my friend than have anyone I liked!!...GL;)
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Well,you answered your own question. Maybe he already has a date,seeing somebody,or just isn't interested in you. In,your question you said MY GUY,then are you fighting and this is why he doesn't want to go out with you. Because he couldn't be your guy,if you have never gone out before,oh well I'm confused now. Have a wonderful weekend all.
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For the moment forget about your own friend.  You said you " only think of the guy as a friend and but he's okay "...based on that alone why would you choose to go out on a date with him.  You don't have an interest in any potential relationship developing with him so based on that alone...don't accept his invitation for a date.  Now, in addition to that, your friend really likes him, so to add that factor in...certainly don't accept the date.
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My cousin is like a best friend to me, & my "ex-girlfriend", who I've known for yrs., is still a good friend of mine & since they have alot in common with each other, I've hooked them up & he's been taking her out-(but they consider each other as "friends")-maybe he's afraid I'll be "hurt" seeing him with her but it doesn't bug me at all. -So you decide on dating his best friend,maybe it won't hurt him, Does he know about this? if not, mention it to him.
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Honestly, it sounds like your friend was taking advantage of you. And that's probably hard to believe since you two are so close. Men like kissing and fooling around with women and they don't really care who the woman is or about her feelings. Maybe he is lonely and hadn't been with a girl in a long time and you were just there so he decided to fool around with you with out considering your feelings. I'm sorry but he doesn't seem like a good friend. I'd try to find other friends and spend more time with them. It doesn't mean you have to ignore him completely. But he obviously doesn't care about your feelings and you should hang out with  other people who will. \n\nAnother possibility is that he might have been confused and wanted to kiss you to see if he might have had any feelings for you as more than a friend. Then he realized you two can only be friends. \n\nHowever, I think that the first might be more correct. He was not being respectful or considerate. Even if he wanted to try going out with you, he shouldn't have fingered you. He could have asked you out on a date but not go so far. I think he was just being plain selfish and took advantage of you. \n\nI would advise you to forget him and find another guy. But if you still want to try to get closer to him and get into a boy friend-girl friend  relationship, I would advise you to give him some time, but always treat him well, but don't really hint or talk about romance. Just show him you care by your actions. If after a while, it still didn't work, ask him out and say that you would really appreciate it if he could at least give you a chance. Tell him you think that you two would get a long great and that you want a chance because it's worth getting to know a girl who loves him so much. But don't let anything too intimate happen between you two on the first dates. He should respect that. Good luck! I hope everything works out for you!
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Sure he likes ya.. (he is crazy about you!) It shows again and again in what you write above! YES you are perceptive about that 'guy code.' I think he's got to work some things out in his head .. this is hard to do BUT it will pay off.. Give it a couple more months. Don't push it! You know one important thing (and it's a biggie) that this guy has got 'good morals..' If he's being respectful of his friends (I think it's kool) think how great and respectful he will be of YOUR feellings?! Am I right? This guy sounds like a real keeper, hon. You are doing o.k. too by the way by playing it cool.. keep it 'casual.'  Play back his 'hey, what's up?' to him. (Real kool how he stayed w/ya and slept there, didn't touch ya.. that what ya wrote, right? he was awkward in the morning..) He sounds like he is not going to cheat on you. (He sounds like a real dear.) I say GO for it!!!!!!
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There is absolutely nothing wrong with giving him one chance.  On multiple occassions I have been asked out by guys I didn't want to go out with, but had a great time when I did. And even if he's not your "one and only", one date doesn't mean commitment, it's always nice to go and try to make a new friend.
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i look at this way. for me one way or another if i like a guy i will evenually give him my # wither we are just friends or both wanting to be more then friends. either way is just fine and great. its how to keep in touch, get to know one another, and stay in contact. remember to be just friends then move up on the scale if you both want to more. so like i said a girl giving a number to a guy goes both ways wither or not she wants to be friends, more then friends or not. just someone to hang out with and enjoy the time while we are still alive. \nhope i answered what i could. and hope you understood what i said.\nGOOD LUCK AND GOD BLESS SWEET THING. (SMILES)
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From what you described, I'm 99.9% positive that he has feelings for you. His problem is that he can't make a decision for himself. He's sending you quite a few signals. He's waiting for you to make the first move before breaking it off with his current girlfriend. He's insecure. He doesn't want to be alone. Question is, do you have feelings for him? Do you want to be with a guy that insecure? Remember, the relationship will change once everything is out in the open. Which is more important to you? The friendship or the relationship?
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Well I hope you don't let him fool you a third time.  My first love did this to me. Guys can be very tricky. He befriended me for a year before I decided to have sex with him. He was my best Friend.  After we had sex he dumped me.  Guys like the game especially as teenagers, so becareful.  I grieved the relationship for quite some time.  I got together with my girlfriends who let me cry. I concentrated on my work and having fun.  With time my heart healed and so will yours. Just be patient with yourself and don't keep in touch  with him. He is not a real friend.
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Is it the type of thing where, if one of you date the guy, all hell break's loose? Kuz, if it is, it's not worth it, back away, (sometimes you'll get the guy like that. lol)\nBut, if you guys are really close, don't worry about it, make sure jealousy or greed doesn't get in the way of your friendships.\nI know I sound like Yoda or something, but trust me, it has to be told.\nGood luck!
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I got the perfect answer for you. I've been that guy who is best friends with his ex, my girlfriend was so worried. I ended up dumping her, and a week later I asked my best friend (my ex-girlfriend) back out. Of course she said yes. I would have done it ten times out of ten. I'm giving you fair warning, I think that something might happen.
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If he's not doing the dating stuff with you, he does not consider you dating material, you are a booty call at best. I have a friend like that, she is convinced that I feel more but I htink she is just trying to make herself feel better about it even though I am honest with her. He's not being honest with you, watch your back.