we've broken up for about a month and he's still in love with me although i have completely moved on. the weird thing is that our relashionship was actually kind of bad/boring. he's embarrassing me through his actions and the stuff he says to get attention. can i do anything to help him or do i jsut wait for it to end?
125509
Quit worrying about him and move on. He will move on when you quit giving him any attention good or bad. If you continue to be concerned about his feelings, he probably still has a whisper of hope that you may take him back. So move on don't look back. Good luck
526711
Tell him that you are very sorry that you hurt him. I don't know what happened to make your relationship go bad...but I know that if I was dating a guy and we broke up for whatever reason I wouldn't want to hurt him. That would make me hesitate to break up with him. Maybe you could point out whatever difference that broke you up is now resolved. Tell him also that you could start out very slow as friends and then get to the dating stage evenutally. If you really love this guy you will be willing to take as long as it takes to win him back. Good luck.
638037
just remember why he became your ex,.......\ntotally depends on how you guys broke up
409056
I know exactly what you're going through.  There's no advice that anyone can give you to get you through this, which makes it so much harder.  And I think you're doing the right thing by acting happy and like you're fine.  You don't want to wear your heart on your sleeve.  That's only for your closest of friends to know - and that's what they're there for.  You need to continue your life without him as hard as that is.  \n\nIf you know there's 0 chance of getting him back, just realize that that's the reality.  You're probably beating yourself up trying to figure out how to win him back, but reality hits hard and you just need to accept it.  You have to be happy for him if he's happy and just know that you did what you could and you can't do anymore.  \n\nSomeone once told me that guys always realize what they've done wrong when they're older and wiser, but they'll never admit to it.  Just continue with your life the way you are and cry when you need to.  If you live day to day with a sad face, it' s not going to help your situation any more.  It's not going to bring him back, not going to make you happier, not going to change anything.  \n\nTime is the only healer.  I think about my ex all the time.  He won't return any of my calls or talk to me.  So I just leave him messages telling him I'm thinking of him and if he needs anything I'll be there.  But I still don't hear from him.  So slowly, I'm letting go.  I know it's already been 4 months.  But I've known people that it's taken them a year or more to get over someone.  \n\nMaybe it just wasn't in the stars for the both of you to be together.  Take what you've learned in the relationship and only remember the good things.  I'm sure he's a wonderful guy, but that doesn't mean you'll find someone more wonderful who will make that committment to you and stick with it.  Don't rush into another relationship because you know you're still not over him.  Be honest with yourself.  That's fine if you think about him all the time - you really love him.  \n\nBut if you really love someone, let it go.  If it comes back to you it's meant to be.  And in this case, since he's moved on, it just wasn't meant to be.  I'm sorry.  I definitely know break-ups are not easy, but don't forget to continue respecting yourself.  You're not alone...
59724
he is in a comfort zone. What about you, what do you want? Think about why you broke up..Is he worth it, or can you do better than the way he treats you. Is this what you want for your future or are you just settling in your comfort zone. If he is the man you want, than just ask him, and if it is not the answer you are looking for.....move on
107905
you sound almost like a mirror image of me but i'm at the 3 month stage and i don't know if he's with somone else, the other difference is he said to me that he wants to work things out i haven't seen mine in 20 days and yes im counting. the best advice hang in there, me personally i would tell him how much of a many swearwords he is for hurting me and how could he get with somone else so soon. but as i said hang in there im now ruling my own life but it is hard moving ahead without the one you love. Be Good!
130420
This is my advice to you. I was in the same position that you were in. I dated for a guy for 3 years and he broke up with me b/c he was afraid of commitment or whatever. But my advice to you is this 1) show him that you are the stronger one by not being needy,calling him all the time or really bring up the relationship 2) TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF by taking care of yourself it prove to him that you are okay and will help him realize what he is missing 3)surround yourself with family and friends a good support system is the key to the whole situation.
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I am happy for you that you realize he didn't love you, you are on the road to recovery!  WTG!  Why do you miss him so much?  You spent 3 years with him, that is a good chunk of time wouldn't you agree?  Even though someone hurt us more than imaginable, we still suffer a loss after a break up.  The only way to heal is to forgive him for all they ways he's hurt you.  You forgive him for yourself and your mental health, it really has nothing to do with him.  Then give yourself a lot of time.  You aren't going to get over three years in a month.  When you feel you are ready to move on you will but; give yourself a little time so what he did to you doesn't effect your next relationship.  Good luck and remember:  "NO MAN OR WOMAN IS WORTH YOUR TEARS AND THE ONE WHO IS WON'T MAKE YOU CRY."  I don't know who said it but; it's wonderful isn't it?
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Appreciate that he is returning your calls and has let you know that they're HIS issues, not yours.\n\nYou've only been hanging out a month.  Depending on what he has going on, that's really not enough time to develop trust.  It happens over time, and this relationship is in it's beginning stages.  It may not be an exclusive relationship, though it sounds like it's heading that way.\n\nDon't put any more pressure on him.  He knows you're there, he knows you're concerned.  That's enough.  If you continue to call him, then you need to ask yourself "Am I really concerned about him, or am I feeling insecure because I'm not part of what's going on?"  He's having some challenges right now, and I think he's handling this appropriately.  If you're really concerned about him, then keep it about him.  Be available to him if / when he needs you.  \n\nWhat's going on with him has nothing to do with you.  Keep this situation in its proper perspective; otherwise, you will lose him before you've gotten things off the ground.
669999
A thing like that happened to me once. you need to move on from this relationship. you and him can still be friends but just that. find someone who will treat you right and not lead you on. you seem like a nice girl so find someone who will appreciate you.
247430
He may still like you deep inside, so he's afraid that he may fall for you again? Why broke up with who, and what was the reason for it? Were you friends before you started dating? It's always a good thing to make a promise with your significant other that when/if you two brake up, that you will be friends like you were beforehand. Talk to him and ask him; see what he says. I know, its EXTREMELY hard to get guys to open up, that being part of the reason. But it never hurts to try.
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Well, Ms. Badass.. You're not a badass after all.\n\nYou haven't told us the reason for the breakup other that "I was really hurt".. What does that mean?  Did he meet another girl that is better looking, more intellegent than you?? Of course not!! No one is better than you.. Remember, you're a badass!\n\nIf he really cares for you and if he hurt you in anyway.  Then it is up to him to apologize to you and try to win your heart back, if he has any type of decency in his bone.  If not, I say... Good riddance..  Pick yourself up and get someone better.  Don't get into the habit of yoyoing back to someone who has hurt you in some way (unless it is just a simple misunderstanding).  \n\nIt is natural to want him back since you miss that companionship and everything that comes with it. But you will have to understand within yourself if you really want him (he, who has hurt you) back or move on to greater things!
239292
You have to take care of yourself first. I've been through it. I thought I was strong enough to watch him date and be with other women and still be be he's friend. I stood by him and listened to he's phone calls at 1:00am when nobody would talk to him thinking that he would come back and love me. Of course that never happened. You need to get on with your life. Because I guarantee he knows you will be there for him.And you need to let him know he can't use you
642038
I didn't even finish reading your note, but from experience I would recommend ditching him... you deserve someone who can make up his mind and can love you 100%!! I had a fellow like that and I think he kept me around as security, so he wasn't alone and felt loved... don't be his love of last resort! Be strong and move on...
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I would give it a little bit of time and then ask yourself. Are you ready to give this another try or are you starting to feel better and are able to move on?\n\nSomeone once told me people break up for a reason and that they should always stick to their original idea. Of course this is not always the case but just do what you feel is right deep down. \n\nHope everything works out!
58544
How in love with your ex could you be after only being with him for a month? If he did you wrong after just being together for a month, then get rid of him altogether. You've been apart longer than what your relationship lasted, give it up and give the new guy a real chance or let him go to find a woman who knows what she wants.
558391
Why did you break up in the first place?  Talk to him and tell him how you feel.  He may just be feeling the same way about you.  Don't stay quiet.