My wife's brother has always been a little slow. Seven years ago he hung out with the wrong crowd and was never very smart to begin with and long story short, ended up raping two young girls, one being underaged and put one of them in a coma. He served six years in prison for it. \n\nAs if that wasn't bad enough, now that he's out he continues to get himself in trouble. He contacted some woman with two kids from a previous marriage and she has him believing that her third kid is his, when they we're never even together. In fact, they just met a week ago. It's taking a hue toll not only on me, but my wife and her family, who are just trying to keep their nose clean and do the right things in life. I don't even want to deal with this idiotic kid, so would anyone with half a brain and some sincerety please give us some ideas as to how to deal with this kid? If he just served his time and gew up that would be one thing, but it doesn't look like any meaningful change is coming anytime soon.
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Good luck, maybe you could talk to Social Services about being scared about the childrens safety. For the sack on your family don't let them know it was you that reported it.\n\nDoes your wife want to stay in contact with her brother?  If she doesn't just tell him not to contact you. I hate to say it, but out of site out of mind. You can't be charged with anything that you didn't know anything about.\n\nI know someone that has the same kind of problem. He attemped to rape a girl in High School. After 7 years he got out of prison, but he still had the mind of an 18 year old. I think the prison needs to do more then just let there brains roit in prison. His sister just doesn't have much to do with him now. He is in another state too. Distance helps.
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You and your brother HAVE to call the police and report everything that this person has been and still is doing to you and your brother. \nNo matter how much you say you hate this terrible person you must never talk about killing him or you will become as bad as he is and you are not a bad person but a victim of abuse.\nMy heart goes out to you and your brother for having this creep as a father. No one should ever have to live the way you kids are living and I beg you to call the police now and not wait another minute either. The police will place the two of you in a safe place away from the abuse and it will be up to you and your brother to testify against this creep to make sure he's put away and won't harm you or anyone again. \nTake care and don't wait another minute to call the police either.
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What were they thinking? You have a brother. How cool is that? What to do from here? I would ask your sisters why they didn't tell you. Don't be too quick to be pissed yet. There may be a reason. I can't think of any but give them a chance. Have they been good sisters in the past or have they always left you out? Take your time and get your ducks in a row. It would be great to find out he is a real nice guy that anyone would love to have as a brother. You don't have to hurry or rush to judgment. I sure hope things work out. Good Luck.
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Four years ago I was in the same circumstance as you are now, The truth eventually came out that I did not mess around with my stepson's. I was facing ten years in prison on two counts of sexual abuse against a child. Today I live my life still scarred of all that has happened to me and my family in the last years. You have to have FAITH in God that all this will come to pass soon. Sit down and pray for what is going on in your life at this time. The truth will eventually come out!
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Please convince her to get out while she still can. \n\nI thought I was reading the story of my sister. She went thru something very similar 1 1/2 years ago. He went to her church, seemed like a stand up guy, they actually dated a short while also before they were married. Again, same scenario, She found out he was a registered sex offender and learned he molested his own daughter. Bad situation. He was also obsessive compulsive and had to have everything just so or else. It took one night, when she was being beat up(for the first time) just for talking with our other sister and while on the phone and that sister switched to her other line and called the police. Then she wised up and got a divorce.\n\nPlease talk to your friend, this is not a good situation for her to be in.\n\nKeep this in mind too. Part of the problem with the world today is people turning their backs because they don't want to get involved out of selfish reasons. Sure, everyone gets worried about things happening to them, but people need to stand up for what is right, and stop letting bad people control everything in our lives.  Stay true to your friend, she needs you.\n\nGood luck and God bless....................
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First of all, I wanted to say that I'm sorry about your situation. Sounds like ur in a hard place because you love your husband and even though he did wrong, your family should let you be happy and if being with him makes you happy, they should accept it. I think, however, you may never get them to fully understand or accept the situation until he is out of jail. It probably won't matter to them how sweet or lovable he is behind bars. They will have to see for themselves if he continues to be the great guy you say he is once he is released.  If they don't accept him after that, I don't know what else you can do about it but pray they will and continue to have a healthy and blessed marriage. Best of Luck!
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I can not figure out why I can't meet a good lady like the way you seem to be. Look....have you given any thought to the way you may be choosing perspective mates? That you are not being as prudent as you should be? To find two bad apples one after the other?\n\nI've asked myself those questions to, and I'm sure many other folks have too.\nthe fact is, you're IN IT right now, so you don't have too many options......sort of. If you left him......he may not be as bad as the other one. If you did it, do so without anger, pettiness or nastiness on your part. That often is the springboard to get the crap rolling.....vindictiveness.\n\nYou didn't go into a lot of detail outlining what transpired in this drunken accident, so I'm not sure how to take that. If he got drunk.....not a god thing, but what happened? Did he wreck the car, did he put his family in jeopardy in the car? Did he hurt himself? Did he hurt other people?\n\nMaybe all that doesn't matter, maybe just the fact that he did it is enough, but then.....is it really an unforgivable mistake? Is this something you can't forgive?\n\nI know I'm asking you more questions than I am giving you answers, but I'm hoping that perhaps you'll read this....consider it, and perhaps add some detail so someone else can offer you some pertinent insight.\n\nI wish you well and goodness and hope everything works out...whatever you end up doing.
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Unfortunately, yes, he's probably looking at a short stretch.  A friend of mine is in court today - I don't know the charge because I don't ask - but he reckons he's looking at six months and thinks he'll serve 8-10 weeks with good behaviour.\n\nNot nice is it?\n\nUpdate:  my friend 'got away with it' (his words not mine) so maybe yours will be lucky too ...
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Me older 1/2 brother hasn't talked to family since 1967...older brother is a drunken woman hating crazy man still living in the 50's and 60's when we scarred his psyche for life.. according to him....younger brother quit talking to me last September (05) older sister still trying to run EVERYONE'S lives...dad beat us regularly growing up...(well me at least) had him pull my hair so often, that alone will start me to punching....Grandmother hated me...believed ex that I was a wife beater...ex told co-workers and all listeners I stole the kids and kept address a secret..and the wife beating lie as well...on divorce ex moved in with my  (ex)friend and co-worker...  may not be most but pretty shitty family life all in all
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I am afraid that the legal system does not do well with excuses eve seamingly legitimate ones. An obligation is an obligation in the eyes of the law. All too often released inmates will put on a front to those who would be the most simpathetic and come to their defense when the long arm of the law reaches for them. If he truely cared for his family as you say then he would have made the time to do what he was supposed to do for their sake. I have no doubt that there are those who do reform their lives after prison/jail but htey are few and far between. Don't be taken in by a false front, there will be less disapointment when the truth is finally revealed. If your first reachtion to this is "Oh, he wouldn't do that," then it is already too late. \n\nDon't get me wrong, I'm not saying that he isn't a good person, but the patern is there in your own question. Sometime good people lose their way and can't seem to find it again. The best of luck.
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The problem is that many people think that there's nothing that can solve this problem than the blood of the offenders. Shoot them, hang them, lock them up, ostracize them, castrate them, and so on: these are very popular for politicians to get votes, for TV stations to enhance ratings, and for "holier than thou" individuals to get attention or to sound tough. \n\nWhile familial abuse is disgusting and destructive to the victim and the family, it indeed works out best if the family is treated and healed rather than be further victimized by Mr. Vengeance. In fact I know of a familial offender in whose case some members of the community are doing all they can to separate the offender from his family, while the family (including the victim) is doing everything they can to heal. That is to say, these good people - the self-appointed helpers are working against the will and desires of the very victim and her family that they think they owe some help (as long as the help is in their own way - as they want it to be). In other words, whereas this Christian family is relying on God for healing (with good results to show) and to put the past behind them, these people who are outsiders feel that the offending uncle should never be a part of his family anymore. Some were said to be angry that the judge didn't give him jail time when he had been been working hard to correct his past evil deeds through Christian principles and therapy. The thing is that many people sincerely believe that they know what's best for other people.\n\nFamilial offenders while they are vile, are not the kinds that go around looking for kids to rape and kill. Moreover, research shows that the recidivism rate among them is very minimal. Yet, while some victims of abuse by family members will never forgive, most desire healing and moving on with what's remaining of their shattered lives. The abusers themselves should not be in denial. Their need to protect themselves legally or to avoid bearing the shame should never override the need for the family to deal with the problem and heal. They should understand and acknowledge their wrongdoing and the tremendous damage that they have caused to many lives and be willing to change. In fact, their attitude is a central factor to the healing of the family. \n\nAmerica should take a deep breath and find out if the current attitudes towards these crimes are helping or hurting families and the society. Sex crimes are very bad, but two wrongs can't make a right.
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How old is your brother?  He's doing what he was trained to do by your dad.  The whole trick to all of this is you remembering it, and not doing it to your kids when you begin your life.  Your mother tells you that you was sexually abused but you don't know it?  You need to get out, far away and just start fresh somewhere's and forget all this, you are in a messed up situation.  As for my brother yelling at me, yell back, what's he going to do that you can't do right back?  He's not your dad and he's not your boss is he?  Wish you a ton of luck and happiness in the future.
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I was kinda in the same situation your half sister is in.I was seeing and moved in with a man everybody was warning me about.The more they said to me about him , the more I tried to make it work.It didn't take long for me to find out they were right and I left him one day while he was at work.I packed everything I could get int my car and left.If this man you are talking about is really a bad person, your half sister will see it. Just back off and let things happen.Nobody wants to hear "I told you so" That might be what's pushing her into the relationship.If things get out of hand with the kids and you KNOW he is hurting them in any way, maybe you should turn him in and let the law handle it.If he can't see his own 2 kids there is definitely something wrong there. Good luck!!
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This is wrong. No one should be hit or abused. I know what your brother has been through. Ask your brother what his opinions is about this. He needs to decide his future and feelings. This is a crime!!
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this prove that he recovering  and you have nothing to worry about\n\nSometime the state make the crime more serious then it look. Maybe it might be a best idea for YOU to go ACTUALLY MEET him, Like I have. They are working HARD to re entering the socity and this list is making it hell for them.\ndidn't someone say "don't judge until you walk in their shoes"\nYou might want to bring another neigbor\nask your neigbor\n1) how long ago was it (if it more then 5 years ago then it is very unlikely he would offend again)\n2) ask him what is he doing to protect himself from happening it again. There are method he can do such as not allowing any children in his house, bring a friend of his to store etc\n3) The last thing Sex offender want is to go back to jail.\n4) maybe he have a wife maybe you can to her if that helps\n5) you will find it easier to deal with if you go talk to him\nremember the goverment has that list out there for you to use not to haress them
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I know we don't know each other, but 2 years ago, my sister was stabbed to death by someone whom she thought loved her. She bore him 2 children. She tried so hard to get away, even going 1400 miles away to Virginia. But he kept telling her things she wanted to hear & she invited him back in her life again. Now I lost a sister because of this monster. She kept saying that he changed & would keep trying to work it out. DIDN'T HAPPEN. Just be there & keep an eye out if possible for her. HE WILL NEVER CHANGE. I'm telling you, if you have to follow her to keep an eye her, if you think she's in danger, then YOU have to make the move. 'Cause when someone is in love with someone who is brutalizing them, they can't see. I hope this may help in some way, shape or form.....
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I totally agree my younger brother is a Cancerians, June 30Th he can be sooooo evil sometimes, he is not real friendly, don't misunderstand, he does love his family but that is about it, he feels like it's his way or the highway, you can not disagree with him because if you do it is a really big fight, and he let's you know what's his is his, let me tell you this, I got married in April of this year, he couldn't wait to come to my wedding in his truck, wait!!! The man has four kids, now his truck only sits five people so he didn't bring my nieces and nephew(my nephew was suppose to be a junior groomsman in the wedding and he didn't inform me until three days before the wedding) Just so he could sit in the parking lot to stop every single guest to look at his new truck, and he didn't see anything wrong with that!!! Had enough nerves to get mad at me (THE BRIDE) because I didn't want to ride in his truck to MY WEDDING!!!! Thank Goodness he lives in Georgia and I live in ILL cause I would want to kill him all the time...