my parents are so!!!!!!sosososo agravating and tell me i need to live life and when i try to they will ground me im sick of it please help!!!
127703
yes, just divorce your parents and get legally emancipated.  your parents are stupid, they can't tell you what to do.  Go out on your own and succeed!!
103885
Tell your parents right away and take them and yourself down to the police station to report them!!\n\nDO NOT let them intimidate you ... that is unacceptable!!
585620
First of all, what are you doing relying on your parents if you have teenage daughters??  By all means I was not a perfect child but, bu time I was your childrens age, I didn't rely on my parents for squat except for a roof over my head and food.  Stop exausting your efforts on relying on other people and asking for help over the internet and rely in yourself.  If you want a job, there are plenty of them out there...  I lived in Santa Barbara so don't tell me there isn't.  See what "truth"?  What does this mean?  Call me your "angel" and I've heard your "cry", only it sounds more like excuses and moaning.  Stop blaming others for your problems and make some changed in your lives.  Where are your daughters?  Living in the street too?  Don't you think there is something wrong when you bear children and aren't able to take care of them properly.  Hell, I may not know anything about this, I'm only 24 years old...  I know shit happens and I feel for your perdiciment but, you need to make soemthing for yourselves, it's out there, you just have to find it and want it bad enough.  Good luck and God Bless.
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Oh I struggle with this constantly but for different reasons. My parents are addicts. There comes a time in life when you must concentarte on you. If those around you, particularily family have reached toxic levels where they are poisoning your own life, it's best to back off and distant yourself. I would not write them off entirely, I've thought about doing it myself, but it all comes back to they are family and we cannot choose our family and like them or not, through them we are here. I don't know how old you are, but if you are younger I would suggest possibly just distancing yourself and speaking up with the issues you disagree with and make certain they know that it hurts your feelings and do not entertain their ignorant remarks and actions by giving any other reaction other than telling them that at this point and time you do not agree with their opinions. If you are young, there could be possibly something else going on that they are actually concerned about that you aren't seeing just yet. However if it's purely based on race, I'd keep my feet planted in your beliefs and hopefully with time after you stay away from them for awhile they'll realize their love for you is stronger than their hate for another.  I wouldn't give your father any special treatment either, because he is encouraging everyone around him by not speaking up if he truly is aware of their issues and agrees with you. Sounds to me like your father may be ignorant as well, and only agrees with you in private for fear of losing his little girl. All you can do is stand strong in your beliefs, distance yourself from how involved with them you are, but I wouldn't write them out entirely. Now if they begin to do anything harmful that causes extreme physical or emotional grief then I would cut them off entirely. Hopefully with time though and your distance from each other they'll see that they were wrong and have second thoughts on their ideas and opinions, especially if the man you love becomes a true gem and treats you the way they always hoped a man you'd find would. Good luck though, racism is ugly and deeply rooted in those who are and often continues on in people out of their own fears. Just be thankful that somehow by the grace of God their ignorance didn't rub off on you as you were growing up, as if often sadly the case with those raised by parents with beliefs such as that. Enjoy the love you have found and ignore what they say. Find comfort with the one you love and through his family until and if yours ever comes around to their senses! God Bless you dear. Oh and pray for them because it sounds like they need it!!
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listen to your parents....they actually know what they are doing. its for your own good. you'll thank him one day. trust me. i was your age only a few years ago...and sometimes i wish that i had obeyed my parents more...i would be a lot better off i think.
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Go to a counsler a teacher a friend someone you can trust. Get out of there! Remember Jesus said we should love one another? Well abuse is not loving you. Find some family you can life with that are not like your parents! Please! and killing yourself..... suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem remember that!
416997
No, your not letting your parents down, you've worked their for a while, and im sure they have planned or at least "thought about" you moving on and doing other things. If you want though, you can always ask them what they think.
122358
First of all I am a mother and I still have been overbearing to my 19 year. old but little by little I have let her be on her own, she is a hard worker, and when I was 18 I just moved out without telling my parents, but my mother looked into my purse and found the agreement letter for my apt. So I believe the best thing to do is tell your parents you are moving out on April 15, for example. Believe me they will be Hurt and mad, but if you believe in God. God will take care of your mom and dad. And move out. Later my mom wasn't mad at me any longer. So they will get over it. Just pray when u tell ur parents. But set up a move out date first..They will be upset for a little while so expect that..good luck.. a 50 yrs. old Mother that understands what your going threw..
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Well Kelly, you should explain yourself to your mom, specially the fact that you were raising your voice only to get her attention. Being a parent of two girls, I must ask yourself if that was just the icing on the cake of a recent attitude problem.\n\nHmmm, grounded with all your amenities? Doesn't sound too bad to me.  Ask my daughter what grounding means here. But, I seriously think you should talk to your mom. We are not all that mean, just tough sometimes.  Good luck.
242087
You are the master of your own destiny.  You can settle down anywhere.  Why not settle down where YOU want, not where your parents think you should?  You're grown; you're not somebody else's livestock to be brought hither and yon or penned up close by by controlling people.  Loving parents are great, but that love can also suffocate what they love.  Explain to them that you have to be your own person.  Good luck.
100522
HELLO! I AM A MOTHER OF FOUR/ THREE BOYS ONE GIRL! I KNOW IT IS HARD TO DEAL WITH LIFE ISSUES SOMETIME! NORMAL- WE JUST HAVE TO DO THE BEST WE CAN! I HATE YOU ARE HAVING PROBLEMS. I HAVE HAD SAME HAPPEN WITH MY 14 YEAR OLD SON!PARENTS ARE NOT PERFECT AND WE DONT ALWAYS HAVE ALL THE ANSWERS! JUST KNOW WE DO TRY TO DO ALL WE CAN- THESE OTHER FOLKS ON HERE TELLING YOU TO CUSS YOUR PARENTS- SO WRONG! GOD SAYS TO HONOR YOUR PARENTS! DO YOU PRAY? ARE YOU SAVED/ARE YOUR PARENTS SAVED? I WILL PRAY FOR YOU TO DO BETTER IN SCHOOL! ARE YOU DOING YOUR BEST? tHEN THAT IS ALL A PARENT CAN ASK! IF NOT, WILL YOU TRY HARDER? I KNOW YOU CAN DO IT! RELAX TOO- WHEN YOUR PARENTS FUSS TRY TO THINK OF SOMETHING ELSE= WALK OUTSIDE IF YOU CAN-LEAVE THE ROOM! STAY CALM! THEN YOU CAN THINK BETTER! I FEEL YOUR PAIN! YOU WIL BE IN MY PRAYERS-EMAIL ME IF YOU WANT -MY HUSBAND IS A PREACHER-WE WILL HELP YOU ANY WAY WE CAN-GOOD LUCK!
266991
ack bird my parents used to be like that its crap having to miss out on stuf when your friends can do it. my advice is never be honest with them it gets you know were. clean the house if it gets you out. wear makeup if you want its your face just make sure it looks good not a big orange face lol. do what you can get away with but be careful. your only young once. but try an understand they only do it because they care you'l relaise that when ur older
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Remember your parents are the ones to respect. There are rules of the house and as long as you are living under the roof, you got to obey them. Just calm down and try to take things little by little. Mothers are always like that. She is doing things that you might not like and that means that she cares and loves you. Sometimes, they have a funny way of showing love. Just stay in school and love your parents until you finish high school. Then, you will be in college and have more freedom. One day, when you are older and wiser, you will look back and realize that you would not be there without your parents. You will realize that you have two very important people in your life who you want to thank, your mom and dad.
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i hate my real father as well. and im 34. he didnt raise me and i tried to have a relationship with him and i hate everything about him. not because he wasnt there, but because hes a huge arrogant jerk who thinks hes superior. unfortunately, we cant pick our parents. oh, sorry about your mom. i dont know your age, but you wont have to be with him forever. try not to let him bring you down because it sounds like hes miserable and trying to bring you down with him. just do your thing and so whatever to him. i know being around certain people can drain you and zap your energy and ambition-but you have a future ahead of you, as for him, im sure hes middle-aged and hates some of the choices hes made. try to keep your head up.
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show them that he is a good person and how well he treats you, thats really all you can do, maybe if they see those sides to him they will lessen up on the issue alittle bit and not judge him by the color of his skin, but by his character and as an individual, if not then remember that you will always love your parents and will want them to accept whatever life choices you make, but they wont always like what you choose and it is afterall your life and you and you alone have to account for your own happiness....*good luck*
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It may take time, but you'll have to prove yourself to them by showing them that you are doing the right thing.  Always be honest with them.  They have your best interest at heart and are trying to keep you safe and raise you to be a reliable human being.  Growing up is a tough job and so is being a parent.  No one is perfect. Everyone makes mistakes. You just have to keep trying.  Give it time and show your parents respect.  They will notice. Communicate with them and let them know you are truly sorry for whatever you did.  Be patient, this won't happen overnight.
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Is there any neutral person you can talk to? Perhaps a trusted relative? Otherwise, if your parents are willing, perhaps they will let you talk to a counselor. A good counselor will act as your advocate and listen to you without judging you. He or she will also help you to put things in perspective.\n\nIf those are not possibilities, keeping a journal may help. Also, staying active with outside interests and activities can help to keep you away from the turmoil at home and give you something else to think about and care about.\n\nGood luck! I know how difficult it can be when parents fight. Sadly, they don't always realize just how much it affects their children.\n\nDr. Barb Nefer, http://www.bnlifeskills.com