My husband and I have been wanting to try having a threesome, should it be with another man or another woman?  Have any guys been in a threesome with another guy and done something with him?  I think that's a HUGE turn-on!
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Thats cool that you two are talking about it.\n\nFirst, before you get into picking the lucky person you will ask to share your bed you two must be positive you are ok with this.  You also may need to talk about limits.  For instance, my wife does not care what another woman does to me but I am not allowed to let my mouth go near the special area on the girl with us.\n\nThe choice between another man or woman is up to you two.  Is your husband ok with another guy?  If yes, thats great.  The next question he would have to answer is does he want to do anything with the other guy.  If it is another woman same questions go to you.  Only you two can answer these types of questions.\n\nI have been in both types of bedroom play.  With two guys is myself and my best bud and his girlfriend.  A bit of alchol helped get this going but he and I did not touch.  We tried to always keep his girlfriend in between us.  (OK, slightly homophobic but I can admit it and deal with it.) I have also been with some very adventerous women and sometimes they would play with each other and other times act like my buddy and I and attempt to keep an invisible wall between themselves.\n\nWhatever you two decide, enjoy and good luck.
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Ok, I have to say that a lot of the answers that you have received so far are close, but none of them quite hit the mark or cover all the bases, so I am going to see what I can do here. \n First of all, I am fairly qualified here as my fiancé and I have done a threesome with both another woman and another guy, and our relationship has survived it unscathed. \n To answer the main question of why. . . There is no single answer that would apply to all men that have those desires. Yes, porn for a lot of us has glorified the threesome. Another common reason is that watching two women be intimate is quite erotic. Lets face it, they call you the "fairer sex" for a reason!!\n Could your BF feel pressure to please you? If so, a second person could be viewed as a helper.\n The most common reason, however, is simply the desire to have variety in ones sex life.\n Now, let's address how you should go forward. First of all, your BF shared a fantasy with you, and if you ever want him to ever do so again, you cannot react negatively to it. That does not mean that you have to do it, but you also want to avoid him feeling rejection from it.\n To help you decide if having a threesome with another woman is something you want to do, consider this:\n Are you physically attracted to women? I.E. Are you bi/bi-curious? If so, you could decide that you are will have a threesome with him with the stipulation that he and the other woman do not have sex. Set very specific boundaries, I.E. Is touching ok? Is kissing ok? Is manual stimulation ok? Etc. . . If you cannot trust him to abide by these boundaries during the heat of the moment, you do NOT want to do this!\n If you decide that you do not want to do this, explain it to him, but offer to incorporate it into your fantasy life. Say something to him like "The idea turns me on, but I would not be ok with the reality of it", and then bring it up in a sexy way during foreplay or lovemaking. Reiterate after you are done having sex that this is something that can only be a fantasy, never a reality. This is often the perfect compromise in these situations.\n In my experience, a man bringing this fantasy to his significant other is generally sign of developing trust, and not of impending doom. The act itself, however, has been the end of many strong relationships, so tread carefully!!
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Oh you too hah sista girl.   I agree with Malfean,....deep within (and if you are honest with yourself), you would like to know what it would be like to experience a sexual encounter with this individual you're fantasizing about. Been there and came damb close; however, I've realized that.... this was all I pictured him for (sex and a little intimatcy....hugging - kissing)....there was nothing else....no visions of hangging with friends together, walking in the park, dinner and the movies, sitting up together on the sofa having good dilogue about whatever, bringing the paycheck home to you (hello..).... it was just sex, good sex, more sex and sex....I tried picturing doing other things with him and the imaganation didn't go that far....why???.....well, your soul mate (and that's your husband) have and will probably always supply you with those little things that truely matters. The things mentioned above (hangging together..etc.) will go farther than a good quick fix in the sack. I know it's just fantacy...but sometimes you have to see it for what it truely is...you'll realize it means nothing...so let it go.\n \nNow sometimes our spouses becomes less attractive to us over the years depending on how much they have let themselves go in appearance or how lazy and boring they may have become,...so we fantasize about someone who is just the opposite of your spouse; however, I've learned that if I'm to be in this thing 'til death do us part', I benefit more by talking to him (my spouse) about what we can do to make daily interaction with each other more exciting.... therefore, bring that excitement to the bedroom later on.....\n\nGirrrrllll...look at me giving advise about something I need to work on myself....but non the less, I know it's what I need to do to keep thoughts of other men out of my head when I'm with my husband. (Oooh, I did say other MEN hah....ummm...I mean that man...)..SMILE!!!!.... It's working though.\n\nSo good so far. It may get tough at times, but keep your interaction with each other positive and exciting...laugh a lot...it helps.
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Hello.  I am bi-curious.  I have never been with a woman but I have wanted to try it out for awhile now.  I am not with anyone at the moment, really, and I could always use a friend to chat with.  Hope to chat with you real soon ;)
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Ummmmm - that should be pretty easy.  EVERY guy wants a threesome.  he is probably wondering how to approach you about bringing another girl into the bedroom....
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I know my husband isn't the cheating type, but at the same time why would you want to put a person in the position to have to make that choice? The temptation is to big if he has already said that he is attracted to her. So no I wouldn't have it!!
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I don't know for sure, but it's probably exciting because it's "taboo."  I, for one, *love* seeing two guys make out (although I seem to be the only one...).  I don't know why I think it's so hot, but I absolutely love seeing guys together.  Who really knows?  Different people have different and often random fetishes.
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I'd like to watch 2 guys go at it.  I've seen 4 women together, it was a real turn on.
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I hate to say it but yeah its normal for a guy to want a 3some.  Just be honest with him, tell him why you don't want to have one, let him know what bothers you about the idea of having a 3 some, but don't get upset if he gets upset at you for not wanting to experiment with him.  Good luck
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Forget it. Surprise him by NOT doing a threesome. He doesn't care one way or the other. So why would you even consider it??
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Bi women are great. Definitely go for three-some. No such thing as a bi-man. Andrew Dice Clay said it best "Either you suck d--- or you do not suck d---"!
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I kinda agree with you there .. getting an escort is expensive and slightly less graceful ... I suggest finding somebody over the Internet using a personal ad on a website like adultfriendfinder.com etc. \nBut I was wondering have you and your hot boyfriend ever tried MMF sex ... I mean I have experienced threesomes with my spouse both FFM and MMF type ... my conclusion is that MMF threesome is somehow more fun for all specially my spouse, she enjoys it as much as I do .... as for the other M , he is my friend , very trust worthy, clean, attractive looking and great in bed...  since we all know each other very well ... no embarrassments, no money involved, secret is well kept and everybody gets fulfilled (literally).\nIn the FFM scenario I found my spouse being left slightly unsatisfied ... as if there was too much responsibility on my shoulder to satisfy the two.. none was bisexual ... so i guess I see it as slightly hyped ...\nBut if you find threesome with another chick irresistible then go ahead ... talk to a female friend of yours she might wanna join the two of you .. that is the safest, steadiest and cheapest method of fulfilling your threesome fantasy regularly ... have fun!!!
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I am very attracted to other women, they are sensual and passionate.  Being with another woman sexually is an incredible experience.  I have only been with one woman but the passion and the emotion that was involved in sex was incredible.  I have never been with a guy that I have felt that way with
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Well sounds like you need to decide for certain which is more important....your sexual fantasies or your relationship with your wife.It can't be healthy to  have 3 in a relationship where there should only be 2. And you should talk to your wife about this too. Maybe it's time to get rid of the 3rd party. Also it would make me feel strange and not so loved to know that my man wants me to be with another man. Either way sounds like it's time to re-evaluate your situation. and sets your priorities in order.
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i don't think guys really care.  they'll say they do, but i have my doubts.  when it comes to getting laid................  well in your case it's cause you're his wife.  another "couple" means he's having the "other guys" wife or what ever the case may be.  but the idea of watching a guy please his wife, well there's ego involved.  see, by having the other guys significant other there's an unspoken rule.  sort of like being even.  actually, guys could answer it better.  just sometimes (even on here) i've noticed they try to be delicate about it.  lol
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My wife and I have an exceptionally happy marriage. We've been together for 15 years, and still love every moment we spend together.\n\nMy wife is bi-sexual, and I am straight, and for years she had fantasies about inviting other women, and other men and other couples into our bed, as did I.\n\nAt some point it became a part of our pillow talk, we talked to each other about our fantasies, and engaged in sharing fantasies as part of our lovemaking.\n\nAfter a few years of that we decided to invite a friend into our bed.\n\nIt was a disaster! We hadn't done any research at all on how to be successful, and foolishly thought all we had to do was enjoy ourselves.\n\nA few more years went by and we continued to share fantasies, and again the subject came up - needless to say we were more cautious this time, we actually found some swingers discussion boards, and became participants - asking questions, and learning how successful swingers did it.\n\nWe joined a couple of swingers match making sites and started to understand what we were looking for and how it matched with what others were looking for.\n\nWe found a great magazine about swinging (I'll put a link in the sources section), and read it cover to cover.\n\nWe looked online and found a swingers club in our area and decided to visit the club.\n\nWe went to the club and get so excited that we couldn't wait and ended up having semi-public sex with each other (which was one of her fantasies - she is very exhibitionistic).\n\nThen we went home and again had fantastic sex.\n\nWe went again the next weekend, and found a couple that looked fairly unthreatening and asked if we could sit down - they were very helpful in explaining all of the etiquette of the swingers lifestyle, and what the expectations were, so we sat with them all night and basically had them do a brain dump of everything they had learned in 25 years of being swingers.\n\nOne of the things we kept hearing was that we needed to set rules - which explained the disaster we experienced in our first attempt - no rules! We didn't know what was expected, there were guilt feelings and jealousy, and recriminations.\n\nWe sat down and developed a set of rules designed so that we would both know whet was okay, what made each of us uncomfortable, what was strictly off-limits, etc.\n\nWe discovered that getting ready to go to the club was so exciting that we almost didn't even need to go, the anticipation, the time we spent naked while bathing, grooming and getting ready, the conversations we had with each other while getting ready, watching her get her sexiest outfits on, and try things on for me, excited both of us so much we almost always had to make love before we even went to the club!\n\nAs we got more comfortable and confident (because of all the open conversation) our sex lives again improved, we couldn;t keep our hands off of each other, riding in the car became really hot, getting ready for work in the morning became really hot, getting ready for bed, going out to dinner, all of our daily activities became huge turn-ons because we were so hot for each other.\n\nWe would spend time talking about things we wanted to try, and watching attractive women walk past would cause secret smiles to cross our faces because we would both be wondering if that sexy soccer mom was really a closet, back scratching, climb-the-headboard s lut!\n\nOne night at the club, after months of playing with just one another, we met a married woman who followed us back to a room and joined us.\n\nIt was incredible! We both felt completely confident in our marriage and in our rules, and fulfilled a couple of our fantasies right then!\n\nWe met her and her husband for dinner a couple of nights later and immediately hit it off - the hardest part of swinging is finding a group of people that all like and respect each other, and find each other attractive!\n\nWe started having foursomes - extremely erotic and enjoyable, and became
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I think what you did was hot!!! I'd love to try it sometime....as for being gay or bi, noooooo. It was FUN!!!\nKeep the fun going, and please don't listen to close to these close minded goofs that don't know what we know!!!