Someone loves loves me. I wanna know is he sincere or not?? He says he can wait for me for any time doesn't matter how long. He wants to marry me. He's asking my permission to ask to my parents for me.I don't know what to do. Help me!! Please.
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A relationship is like a business partnership; it has common goals, assets and liabilities. Like in a business, if members don’t work together, the business will become ineffective and possibly not exist for too long. The ability to work together means recognizing each person’s strengths and helping them come out at the same time recognizing each member’s weaknesses and learning to turn weaknesses into assets. Two heads are better than one and if couples follow this rule, they will see that the deep depressing valleys that lie ahead may be nothing more than pot holes once they approach them.
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First of all, he LIKES you. You used like, not love. Second, have you actually meet this guy face to face? 'cause if you didn't and he wants to marry you, it's kind of creepy, you know ... Are you sure he's gonna take you to "places"? What kind of places? Girl, grow up. If you're really into it, meet this guy first (in real life), get to know him first. Don't take a hasty decision. A sparrow in your hand worth much more than a crow sitting on a fence.
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I know how waiting can be.It is so annoying being in limbo. What is he trying to figure out? Why is he considering it and does not have a clear cut answer? Maybe you should ask him why he is debating coming back and then maybe that would help you decide if you want to wait or not. I know you love him but it is not fair of him to string you along and for you to have to put your life on hold while he is deciding. He should not have told you he is considering it until he was 100% certain he was coming back. I hope everything works out for you.
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Your right to be concerned.  It sounds like this guy is all talk and no action.  If he really loved you and wanted to be with you then he would.  Right now it sounds like this is just a game for him with you being his back up.
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Probably because he truly cares for you!  Just because you're meeting his parents doesn't mean you two are getting married.  \n\nThat being said, if you are uncomfortable with the idea, you should tell him, and if he cares about you at all he should respect your feelings.
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He probably doesn't know the true meaning of LOVE.  But I bet he's got the infatuation thing down to a science.\n\nOK, let's face it, children (and I mean young persons under the age of 20) experience a rush of hormones.  These powerful chemicals drive us to do strange things and say things we don't have any understanding of.\n\nOK, so he said he loves you.  Take it with a grain of salt.  It may grow into a real love.  And if you are young like I think you are then take it slow, but fight for it if it is what you want.  The young loves are the most intense.  And if it does grow you may find yourself happy for a very long time.\n\nHowever, also keep in mind that he could be thinking with the little head. (hormones again)\n\nObsession?  Since you use that word, it makes me feel that this is NOT the right thing for you.  Remember, there are plenty of fish in the sea.  If this one gets away, there will be another.\n\nUse your head and not your heart.  I know they say to follow your heart, but that's not always good advice.  The heart can want things that are not good for it.  Just read some of the questions people are asking here.  You'll see that there is a lot of people suffering heartache because they made a mistake.  A mistake made by following their heart.
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i dont understand, why wouldnt he say he loved you? after 3 years you'd think you'd be married by now. whats up w/ that? if you have true love you would know, you wont have any doubts, if youve got doubts then you dont have it.
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6 years is a pretty long enough time to know whether or not you want to marry someone. I have observed from numerous relationships that guys keep some women dangling; and then they will meet one particular female that they just know right away that she won't be allowed to get away. I think you two need to have a real heart to heart talk, but in person. Long distance relationships are extremely difficult, especially being faithful; emotionally and physically. Be honest, tell each other how you feel.  I wonder if you guys seriously voiced your goals in the begining of your relationship. I'm guessing that you didn't expect to be waiting this long. Don't be afraid of speaking candidly, this is obviously making you uncomfortable as well. Life is way too short. Maybe there is some fear on his part that he hasn't expressed to you, something he thinks he would like to achieve before he settles down. It's good to have plans, but sticking to the exact order of those plans can cause you to miss out on some really great life altering blessings.  Ask him if something happened to you and caused you to not be available to him , if he would regret not taking that step to marriage. Sometimes we don't realize what we have until we no longer have it. Listen to his verbal and non-verbal responses. If you still don't feel confident and satisfied with the decision made you may end up waiting even longer. Are you willing to put your life on hold for someone who may just not be mature enough for that type of commitment any time soon?
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Wise? No. Love is never wise. Love is madness.\n\nIf he can tolerate and respect your religion, and you can tollerate his, it's all good. The one thing you DONT want to do is convert to his. I know that would give your relationship more understanding, but that would KILL your parents. \n\nIf he asks you to convert to be w/ him, dump him. YOU certainly aren't asking something so drastic of him, why should he care?\n\nAs for parents, if they're very conservative, it won't be pretty, but if it's a very serious relationship, then don't worry about it. Parents usually come around for things like weddings! I would, however, make it clear to my parents that I had no intention of deserting my own customs and beliefs. And that the man I was dating understood that as well and was not making moves to convert me!
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5 months is still young so its hard to say what his intentions are ....good thing is that usually if they are just after s?x then once they are put down a couple of times they will go off and try elsewhere unless they feel theres a good chance they can talk you into it fairly quickly.  I think he probally cares for you and just pouts cause its something he wants and your not giving it to him...us guys are funny like that sometimes especially if we feel we are truly in love with that person.  Don't do anything your not ready for and if he loves you he will wait and respect you.  Just tell him that you love him and know he wants you to go further but explain that your just not ready yet and when you are he will be the first to know but ask him to lighten up on the guilt trip cause its making you feel bad and pressured.
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Give him time. Do you know his work schedule and what it is like. He may have checked the email and just not had time to respond to it. Maybe he is gathering his thoughts of what he may want to say to you. Sometimes it is harder for men to express their feelings because they don't want to seem like a pushover, or move to fast. I would wait and give him another day or so. I know that it can be hard when you are filled with anticipation. In the end, follow your heart for you are the only one who knows what makes you truly happy.......Best of luck to you
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He is the only one who can say if he loves you or not, and right now he probably doesn't know.  He clearly still cares for you, but relationships are complex.  Caring for someone and loving them are not always the same thing.  He has told you that he can't be in a relationship right now, so for now that is the truth that you have to accept.  If you really care about him, it is okay to wait and see what happens with him, but no one can tell what that will be...
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sounds like he wants to marry you. not sure when...but for sure.
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wow. well all I can say. is the guy couldnt get it in hight school so know your on your own and no parents. He thinks he can get it now. but he told you he loved you right?\n\nwell if he really loved you and you wanted to wait. THen he would respcet your wishes. Seems to me he didnt really love you. dont worry about if he never calls again. His just another loser on the list. and you can do so much better then that.\n\nYour day will come. just relax and be yourself
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Well, 2 months is long enough to know if you love someone so it is possible that this guy is in love with you. And his race has nothing to do with anything. He is a fellow human being and that is all that matters. \n\nYour comment about not knowing how to love is interesting. Could it be that you will not allow yourself to love? I noticed you asked if it is 'okay' to love someone outside your race. Almost as though you are asking permission to fall in love - or to love full stop. YES IT IS OKAY!!! But why the heck do you care about the opinions of a bunch of people on this board? We don't know you. Only you know if you could ever love this guy and you don't need permission to love him either. \n\nIf you think he is potential partner material, give in to your feelings and go with the flow. See where things take you. Do not pay attention to anyone who looks down on your relationship in any way (unless, of course, this guy turns out to be abusive in some way). What you do and who you date is no one's business but yours. Just focus on being happy.\n\nEdit: \n\nSinfully_exquisite_stalking - my son is mixed race (yes, my ex was white) and he has no identity issues. If your friends seem mixed up it is because they were brought up by parents who didn't impart any sense of their culture. My son knows his white culture and his black culture. He knows he is mixed race but describes himself as a black man because that is how the world at large views him. But bottom line - while he accepts his heritage (because to deny it would be foolish) he doesn't see colour because like me and his father, he thinks it is irrelevant. If your friends are confused, do them a favour and suggest to them that they do what they can to learn about their heritage.
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If your really that in love you could try and wait for a little while. I would not spend a great deal of time waiting though. Is his relationship about to end? is there no end in sight? these are all things that need to be answered.>
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Why in the world would you agree to this?  If he is worth marrying he will wait and you should wait.\n\nResponding to youknowit below:  All the more reason to wait and have a nice wedding.