We have been together over a year a we decided we were ready to sleep together. He is 21 and i'm 19. Well when we have sex he comes in like 2 min. and then i get alittle disapointed and then like 10 min later he wants to go again and then i'm not aroused any more and so it doesn't work.\n\nWe have actually tried this several times and it keeps happening this way.? any suggestions on what we can do
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Well if hes like this at 21 its not a big bright future is it? I have a suggestion on what you can do.If you want to get some of that built up sexual frustration off of you you need to find someone who can help you release & relax(always wear protection).If you want to remain frustrated & faithful buy a toy.If not dont cheat just tell him it wont work
488691
You really screwed up. Guys are really sensitive about sex, so when you criticize their performance they feel like you're attacking their manhood. Sure, he may have overreacted but it was only because you made him feel like a lesser man! Buy him a present, show up at his house/apt/whatev and apologize. Tell him that you were tired/ill and in a bad mood. Take complete responsibility for the argument (even if you don't think you should) and tell him that he means the world to you and you don't want to lose him just because you were in a bad mood. Tell him that you'll never do it again and that he is amazing in bed. In fact, tell him he is a sex god and you are not worthy of his amazing oral. Make him feel like a man again. So go! Ask him to take you back!! GOOD LUCK!!
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Clearly, you're too immature to have sex. You and this guy are at different places in your life right now. Dump him and get some education and maturity before you go for another hookup. The guy you are with right now doesn't have any interest in you except for sex - and you're better than that.\n\nGet rid of him.
60141
Does each of you take a turn sleeping? anyway i don't think it's possible to have good sex for 8-10 hours straight
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It's time for some counseling!  If he won't go, you go!  You need someone to bounce things off and to get good solid objective input from.  \n\nHe may be in a personal slump himself.  If he has very little sex drive and is tired a lot, he might have low testosterone, it is not an uncommon condition.  Suggest he have a complete physical, just to make sure everything is okay, tell him you are concerned about him and want to make sure everything is all right physically.\n\nIt may be he is worried about a lot of things, and doesn't know how to communicate, or doesn't feel he should.  Guys often think they should be strong and keep things to themselves.\n\nWhat I am saying is, it might not be about you at all, though it is definitely affecting you.  And it could be that he doesn't like you bringing up the subject, so he pulls more into himself, and goes to the TV and computer to avoid interaction.\n\nI feel for you, I know this is a very difficult situation.  Don't just let it go on!  Get some outside help, at least to vent, and possibly to help the two of you communicate better.\n\nBest of luck to you!!
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Well, you should talk with him openly about how you would want your relationship to function on the sexual department.\nYour main problem is probably lack of communication.
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Maybe it's tiring him out by wanting it that much. Different people have different sex drive levels. Stop doing it so much? Or try asking him why.\n\nAnd yes, it is normal. :)
670956
Is he a young man?\n\nSounds like it... I suggest working with him to increase his "ride" time.   The grab method... or some "detain" cream... or perhaps wearing a condom sometimes helps.\n\nYou must have some "sugar walls" there babe!!!  hehehe\n\nbut seriously... if this is a problem for you... as it seems it should be... work with him.   You both will enjoy it more!
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Sounds like you've done everything I would have suggested. I guess just keep talking and try to figure some things to make things interesting. Maybe try creating a different type of relationship for awhile. Try not having sex for a year or so and engage in activities that may remind both of you of sex but are in no way related. Go talk to a sex therapist. Sorry, that's the best I got
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Don't worry honey. I know it's not a nice prob2 have but it's not serious. Sometimes it could be stress or distractions.\nDon't let him drink or at least limit it b4 sex as that makes it hard 2 keep it up. encourage him,never let him feel pressured but seek for ways to enjoy yourselves in foreplay and sex. It may take time and patience but this is temporary. as for his age, it doesn't affect it. Some suggest having sex in different surroundings.\nWhen my boyfriend had that problem  i asked a friend of mine(male) to advise me but he said it was stress and so my boyfriend and i switched to early morning sex b4 he would be thinking about problems at work or other things. after a month, he was fine.\nGuys most of all need to know that you think they are the best and sexy. When their confidence is up, they are more likely to stay up. \nso just keep at it, build his faith, don't pressure and have fun. Also try new things.\na practical tip is after or b4 the bj, put his hand on top of urs and let him guide u in how he likes a hand job. This is a real turn on and he will know how to do that.
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Well im in the same situation but my man tells me im a sex maniac,,,,that might be true but i have needs to when i want it i should be able to get it.  He says because we live together he doesnt want to do it all the time because things will get old fast. Well i dont agree...if he tried to change things up....which i would love to try new things there wouldnt be an issue. Im tired of initiating sex all the time,,,im 5 yrs older than him,,so whats his problem?? He cant keep up with me,,it gets very frusturating,,,i know exactly how you feel. All i can say is back off him for awhile and see how he likes it,,he will start to think somethings wrong then wont he??? Dont pay it any mind for awhile....take care of yourself until he gets the hint. Me being a very sexual person it really aggravates me. And no hes not cheating because we are always together when we arent working. We love eachothers company,,,but he says our relationship isnt all about the sex....grrr i know that but dam give me what i want.
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Relax, it is just who he is.  Growing up we all experience life differently and develop different ideas regarding how to treat people.  Your current boyfriend sounds like he has grown up with the idea that men shouldn't be aggressive and force sex on women.  I can relate to him in that to a large degree I feel the same way.  We see and hear so much about men forcing women into having sex that some of us tend to go over board the opposite direction.  He feels like he is doing the right thing by waiting for you to initiate things rather than forcing it on you.  The best thing you can do is to talk to him and let him know it is ok for him to initiate things some times.  Realize though this will be hard for him to do so be patient and be glad you have a guy that respects you and doesn't feel like your required to have sex with him when ever he wants it.
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maybe u need 2 give ur sex life a shove. Try sumthing new like new positions. find sumwer els 2 do it instead of on d bed (do it in d car, u'll enjoy it). Ask ur guy if he wants u to try sumthing new d way he likes. Maybe a bit of change is all you need
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From what I understand from talking to my fiance, sometimes guys get so into it and so involved and excited that they can't "finish". I don't really understand it either, but believe me, we've been through it too. It's completely understandable since you waited until you were married to go for it(congrats on that by the way).I suggest just telling him to slow down and try to enjoy the moment more. Once he starts relaxing he'll come around..I promise :0)
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first off, are you comfortable enough to have this conversation with him?  if so, and this might sound funny but it works, tell him to, uh, fire his gun on his own earlier in the day or at the very least the night before.  it will make him less sensitive when he finally does get with you.  also, tell him to focus on your pleasure, not his.  again that sounds funny, but if all he is doing is thinking about not lasting long enough, it will be over before he knows it.  tell him to kiss you , touch you, whatever, but keep his focus on you.  it shouldnt be a race to the finish line, it should be an experience. he may not learn this in one try, but over time he should master his control and be able to please you for as long as he wants.
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Excuse me if I sound a little impolite but I think you have a control issue here! YOU thought it was time to share fantasies; YOU told him you should watch porn together; YOU have a higher sex drive; what can YOU do?\n\nFor goodness sake, give the guy a break.  Not everyone enjoys fantasies and porn and some people are a little uneasy with that level of intimacy.  Listen to him and his needs.  He doesn't want that right now.  Stop pushing or you will lose him.
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SEX DOES NOT EQUAL SELF WORTH. IF YOUR BOYFRIEND HAS STOPPED SLEEPING WITH YOU, THEN MAYBE HE HAS SOMEONE ELSE. IT ALSO SOUNDS LIKE YOU ARE DEPRESSED, SEEK SOME COUNSELING. YOUR RELATIONSHIP MY BE AT AN END, BUT YOU CAN STILL GO ON AND ACHEIVE GEAT THINGS IN LIFE WITH OUT HAVING SEX. WAIT UNTIL YOU ARE MARRIED.