I know it doesn't matter if my girlfriend is 9 years older.  i'm 25 she's 34.  We wonder though, what society thinks.  We're in love, but we know our relationship is not normal.  What do people think?  I'm 25 but I look about 18.  She's 34 and pretty much looks her age.  We're also the best of friends though.  What do people think when they see that?  Is it strange?  Or if you see a happy couple, who cares what they look like as individuals.  We're very happy and we hold hands and hug and give each other pecks in public.
133615
I don't think its bad at all as long as there's honest love in between. :)
632427
Age is just a number! If you guys like each other then go for it! mY ex was one year younger than me and that was no problem!
585615
I was 14 and my love was 18, I know it is not 16 and 23 however my point is - if this is you and your parents are not aware of this relationship someone can get into trouble.  My love is now my husband, almost 25 years later and still the love of my life.  Age differences are only important to those that want to and can create an issue about them (hence parents).  Love does not know numbers...
598603
As long as two adults find a common ground, they work. My BF is 20 years older (I'm 27) and I can't imagine my life without him. We are on the same level in so many ways - maturity, goals, opinion, etc. Like any relationship, it comes down to a balance of give & take, acceptance, and respecting each other. I believe people come into our lives for a reason, and we learn and grow from them. Being in love is the greatest feeling in the world and age shouldn't stop anyone from experienceing it.
205581
just like its ok for a man to have a relationship with a 10 years younger woman and everybody accept it and society is fine with it, well, the same should stand for a man who likes a 10 years older woman..since you are over 18, we are cool..
344108
It is fine. I am 24 and my husband is 35. we are very diffrent in age and it is great for us. Also not to say that it should be done or that it is legal and it has to do with the how mature the girl is. I feel it is fine to have relations with someone under the age of 18. many girls have sex befor the age of 18 but it should strongly weigh on her matuity. I think waiting untill the two people know that they are going to be married in the future is best or even waiting untill they are makes it even better. I know sounds a little harsh, but imagine this the people have just been married and how much more the two will want it and feel the romace of it all if they wait. Everyone has their own feelings about that though. If the two of them date for a couple years it is perfectly legal for the two of them to get married in most states befor the age of 18 and in some states can even do it now, but may still need a parents consent to do so. tell your friend and I am sure he will have even more fun making out how much he loves her to her and if marriage is something he really wants with her in the future making those plans with her too.
304658
I believe that both parties need to be of age or at least close to it. As long as they are happy, I don't see where we have the right to tell them they are wrong. My BF has a cousin in her 30s and her husband is 83! They are happy. She is his life...literally, she is what keeps him young!\n\nNo age is not an issue it is a number!
387448
I am 25 and my fiancée is 21, personally I think that anyone who says they wouldn't go out with anyone younger than them is being a little narrow minded, surely the person matters more than how old they are?  \n\nAs for dating (if I was single) as long as I connected with that person and found them attractive (and as long as it was legal!) I wouldn't have an age limit at all!
41783
im 22 & my hubby is 32...i was 19 when we met & he was definitely insecure about his age but we just joke about it now. be proud of your age & experience & let her know you're willing to play "teacher" to her "school girl"!! hahaha!! & if she's got an age issue you dont want some immature little snot like that anyway, she'd just hold you back from a more fulfilling relationship elsewhere...  good luck to you!
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The question is... DO YOU LIKE HIM?\n\nIs he interesting?\n\nWell groomed?\n\nClean?\n\nDoes he pay attention to you?\n\nCan you see spending the rest of your life with him? (This is for some one 20 years or older, not a teenager).\n\nNow, seeing that other people see you as a couple, they must think that you two have a lot in common.  But, even still, I have seen a lot of people who "went for it" and got divorced after awhile because it didnt work out.\n\nWhy dont you date him for 6months and find out how it will be, then if it doesnt work out, find some one new...\n\nJust my opinion...\n\nJesse
657400
Sure! Why not? As long as you get along and enjoy each others company, there should be no reason to let age get in the way. However, the only thing that I might be concerned with would be for the difference in maturity levels. There is a big difference in the majority level of a 27 yr old female as opposed to a 19 yr old male. As most men are concerned, they take a lot longer to mature emotionally and mentally than woman. However, for all I know, you could be a very mature male. Every situation is different, and as long as you are attracted to each other and are having fun, there is no reason why it can't work!
17191
I don't think that age is any kind of barrier when it comes to relationships, provided that you keep within the fair boundaries of the law.\n\nI am a 9teen year old male, and the mother of my child is in her early 30's. We had a healthy relationship. Of course, we had the occasional hiccup, and the unaccepting family member, but we got there. \n\nAt the end of the day, love is love. Nothing else is relevant, and most importantly, with true love, conditions don't apply.
340680
Personally, I've never had a problem with the winter-summer romance question. If you like each other, and you're happy with the relationship, who cares what other people think?\n\nIn fact, how dare they try to rain on your parade if you are happy?\n\nThere are all sorts of considerations that come with dating someone significantly older than yourself, but the two of you will learn what those are and deal with them on your own. If the only problem right now is that people outside the relationship are making noise, then just enjoy yourselves. Finding happiness with someone else is already hard enough without having to take advice from people sitting in the cheap seats.\n\nGood luck!
491177
Personally I believe when you really love someone, I don't think age is a problem. It is more of whether both of you can communicate with each other and both have you must be able to accept each other.
526880
In my opinion anywhere above twenty years is too much of an age difference. I have no doubt in my mind at all that you and your girl will live a happy life together forever. As long as you are both treating each other with respect and courtesy then you should be just fine. Loving her is part of it but you also have to show her that you love her. Maybe you should renew your vows if you're married (hope you know what that means), or plan a surprise trip to a country she has always wanted to visit. I know that might sound like a hassle and quite a chunk of dough out of your pocket but from your description it sounds like it might be the only thing that will work... good luck in resolving this conflict, i will keep you and your girlfriend in my thoughts and prayers
203458
Age isn't a barrier to love.  I would guess that a lot of the 'eeew' comments are  made by those who are in your age group.  I'm older than your boyfriend, and I can tell you that however old he is physically, he probably doesn't feel that old mentally.  I still feel about 34 but I'm in my fifties! (And I don't look that old, either!)\n\nHowever, you must be practical.  When you are 42 he will be 63.  When you are 63 he will be 84, and he may well be very elderly at that stage while you still have the energy to go dancing.  If the thought of caring for him at that stage doesn't put you off, then keep going, and disregard the funny looks and comments!
149355
hey! Take it from me, I'm a lil younger than you but older than your gf. Anyway, I know it seems akward but have you thought: Would you rather give up your luv because you care of what people think? Hey, look at most parents, they have about your age difference!