My sister lived with Rodger Farmer for 3years.he worked on the union pacfic for years.they married in 1985,they was only married for one month,then he passed awaywith cancer.the railroad told her she was not intitled to no benifits, because they wasn't married long enough.the railroad did not even contribut to his funneral.can anyone help? we live in the state of ILL.He belonged to united transportation 0330
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IF I WERE YOU I WOULD LOOK INTO WHAT BENIFITS THE UNION HAD FOR HIM NOT JUST THE RAILROAD BUT I WOULD LOOK AT THE BENEFITS PACKAGE THAT THE UNION HAD WHILE HE WAS PAYING FOR HIS DUES MAYBE SOME LIFE INSURANCE YOU DONT KNOW ABOUT SORRY TO HEAR ABOUT YOUR LOSS.
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i am in the same boat. my exboyfriend still talks about his first wife about things she has done to him over 25-30 years ago. She emptied the house with all the furniture, and he came home after work to an emptied house. He has told me this story over and over again at least 1,000 to 2,000 in the past 6 years. Maybe it all about having an inflated ego.  He is so great he cannot imagine someone doing this to him.  I spent $3,000 to $5,000 on roses in  his front yard, and when he told me to leave his house, I pulled everyone up just to see how long he was going to talk about it or will he ever get over it. He still has it gotten over the roses being pulled up, and it is over 16 mos ago. Some people never let go.
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I cannot agree or disagree with him.  I was not present during all of those 4 to 5 months that the couple was dating.  He says he never promised her to get into a serious relationship, but did he ever tell her that?  Did he just lead her on for the sex?  Did she ever ask him what his intentions were?  Did she just assume that because they were having sex that the relationship was serious (or would lead to more commitments)?\nAnd what business is this of yours (unless the woman was your sister)?\n... and don't you just hate it when somone answers a question with a bunch of questions?
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Good morning, dearheart. Good for you. here's my take on gay marriage. I've been married to the same wonderful lady for the last 26 years. She drives OTR semi for a living and I'm a housewife. We both wear wedding rings and feel as married as the next heterosexual couple but I can get none of her health benefits. How my union is hurting society I can't fathom as our relationship has been monogamous for all of it's 26 years and that same union has lasted longer than many heterosexual marriages. There are couples on the LGBTQ site here that have been together for over 40 years (which is a great thing in its own right) How can their love be hurting anyone? Good luck and Blessings on you.
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Yes, and I'm going through it right now.  I'm pretty sure it's my uncle who died two years ago January 16th.  He started having a lot of pain right around this time and in the beginning of December, was put in the hospital.  He had a lot of pain.  So much pain.  HIs pancreas was failing and so was his liver.  His lungs also kept filling up with fluid.  Right after he died, my stove kept turning itself off.  The electrical part of it.  My satellite receiver in a completely different room started doing this too.  Since two days ago, it keeps doing it.  Multiple times per day.  Not every once in a while like it was doing.  Also, my 9 month old son keeps looking at the celing and smiling and laughing.  He was doing that when there was a large balloon hanging from the ceiling.  It was for my daughter's third birthday party, barely full and two days old.  she turned three on Monday.  Well, as he is looking up there, smiling and laughing like something is there, that balloon all of a sudden pops on its own.  Nothing was visibly touching it.  It just popped.  The balloon next to it was blowing like wind was on it.  There are also these orbs of light that come and go.  They usually come from the hallway and go towards the windows.  When the balloon popped, some orbs were going.  Oh, yeah, and two elderly women had died in this house.  I didn't know this until two years after living here, when I was already experiencing what seemed like an angry spirit.  The things I was told by my neighbor matched exactly what was going on in this house.  At times, you hear this loud thud.
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Jen gave you a great answer and probably one you wanted to hear.I'm glad that her story had a happy ending.Still I would use caution in making my decision. Statistics prove that  men that can get the milk under the fence don't buy the cow. Other words if you live with him and take care of him why would he want to risk marriage?
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You are confusing the morally weak to those that get married happily and stay married happily.  My grandfather is 90.  It is clear to me that he did not cheat on his wife because now, despite her being dead for 5 years now and having much younger women hit on him, he will not give up the idea that he will be with her in heaven.\n\nNow, I'm an agnostic, but I think he at least has that right.  They got married relatively young... met in high school and then saw each other again after graduating and he decided he had to propose before he went off to WW2.  He technically never really went because he ended up in the coast guard and they lived in Florida while he hunted for german subs... Anyhow, they stayed together until she died more than 50 years later and there is something I can tell... maybe because things didn't go so well for my other set of grandparents (even though they stayed together)... anyhow I can tell my grandpa George is/was/will be faithful to my grandma and there isn't anything that I respect in him more than that because it's so impressive.\n\nThe thing you're talking about is that most people aren't like that and that's sad.  I wish more people were like my grandpa George, but I guess it's rare.  I hope you're like him and have a long happy life with your future wife too!  Can't say I was so lucky... met a lot of losers.  Ick.
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Retired last year and things started to go bad. She was use to me being gone either to work or on deployment and she had her time and could do things she wanted when she wanted. Once I retired, I was around alot. This changed her life too. We were able to recover our marriage when I began doing volunteer work with the American Legion and the local Boy Scout Council. This got me out of her hair a few hours a day and she sometimes goes with me on campout or to Legion events. Thankfully things are going well again.
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I am in a cycling club and had the occasion to notice a member on his 3-wheeler lowrider.  See sources for the web page and notify the president of your request; refer to "Wednesday Pizza Rides" and she will be able to tell you the 3-wheeler member or know who can.\n\nI recall with a smile the ride when the 3-wheeler pulled up next to me. He was blithely peddling along "in" his cycle like a man at home in a "Lazy-Boy". My ego won't let me admit how many times he passed me as I chugged along on my 2-wheeler.  Even more, I recall the faces of passersby as they broke into smiles as they stopped to stare as he went by.\n\nGood ridin' to ya, my friend!
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My husband thought he hurt his back at work. Went to hospital was told he had pneumonia and a cracked rib it got worse went back again. He was diagnised March 20th passed June 6th.  He went thru radiation chemo gamma knife procedure and took the drug tarceva. I miss himm so bad I cannot stand it. We threw barbeques for friends and family had parties went where ever he wanted to go ate what he wanted to eatwe even got up at midnight and played pool til 4 am. The hardest part was watching him disappear before my very eyes. And of course losing him. We do have children and thats the only reason I am still here. But it hurts so bad my heart is broken in a million pieces.I am still mad scared and empty. Yes do stay strong and let her know you love her and that she is important to you. So very sorry. Good luck
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Sounds a little fishy to me, however, if it is a close relative or someone they really cared about they might realize that person would be gone forever, and needed that time to deal with the reality of it all.  When my sister died I didn't want to leave her side at the funeral home because I had lost my best friend, and I was so distraught I wanted to be near her as long as possible.
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I contacted a friend at Mother Earth News and was advised that you should call or write the editor of Prairie Farmer.  They do have archieves and may be able to get you a fresh copy.  Go to their website and get her address or phone number.  Hope it works out.
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One of my best friends went to a dead show and basically never came back. She joined the rainbow family after that and moved far away. Now she has four kids and is married to a guy named graybird or some shit.\nSo yea, she never came back.....
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How do you know Lib ISN'T looking for him?  And even assuming she isn't, she may not have expected to see him again -- e.g., they may have broken up before he left. \n\nAs to the sheriff's sale, it could have happened, without anyone connecting it to this particular body.  (Ditto with the inactive bank account -- tens of thousands go inactive every year, and not necessarily because the owner has died.)  And if he didn't own any real property, there wouldn't even be a sheriff's sale.\n\nJust because he was found in Colorado tells you nothing about where he was from, especially because he was camping out.\n\nYou seem to be saying that every "John Doe" body should eventually be identified.  I'm saying that the information to do so (girlfriend, sheriff's sale, bank) may be out there, but it will not necessarily be possible to connect it up with the body.
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well, my mother has had one neighbor like that before I was even born.  This neighbor has about an acre of land in front of my mom's house, and a half acre beside my mom's house.  He has had a pig farm in the front before (we are talking a single lane road here), he has had horses and donkeys in that same place as well.  The stench gets unbearable, and when it rains, there is often liquid feces running through my mother's yard.  I have called animal control about the situation, the animals remain.  There have been times that he has had other farm animals in the same space as well that have died and laid for days before he buried them.  I have called the solid waste management team of our county-they fine him, he moves the animals for about six months and then moves them right back again.\n\nWhy a person like this even desires to have animals is beyond me-it takes a responsible caregiver to maintain such animals properly.  All I can figure out is that he is trying to force my mom into selling her home and land to him.\n\nShe has specifically stated to all of us (my brothers and sisters) that upon her death, DO NOT sell the house and land to that man no matter what.\n\nI don't know why people are like they are...it makes no sense to me.
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My partner died of (breast) cancer at the age of 34 - ten years ago. I still have a deep love for her...her memory and the time we spent together. I started dating after about three years and eventually married after five years. I occasionally talk about her to my wife who knows that I loved her  agreat deal. It was a very powerful time in my life going through the whole process, both painfull and very special - magical at times and a deeply spiritual expereince. I would never want to forget it as a monumental time. However, life moves forwards in every way. It was funny that my partners mother was in Aushwitz and I went to see her about a month after the funeral. She asked me if I had found a new girlfreind yet! I told her that not enought time had passed. She told me to get on with life. She, if anyone, should know such things. It took me some time to integrate what had happened then I did move on. And now I have a great wife and i am in the next chapter of the story. Turn the page when you are ready and remember that the previous chapter will always be there...dont' wait longer than you need to and let it unfold naturally. Good luck.
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Walter was a wonderful human being and he was well loved by many and missed.  Yeah I believe he's with the Lord in Heaven.  During his career I don't believe anyone ever trained harder or had more determination than Walter,  He would fight for every yard and a true great.  A friemd of mine gave me a Wheaties box with Walter's picture on it that I love.  Rest in Peace Walter.