My partner took his own life a few months ago and i am curious
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No, if you are a Christian( that means you have recognized that you are a sinner; believe that Jesus Christ was God and came down to earth to die on the cross for you, rose again on the third day, thus conquering death and offering eternal life; have asked forgiveness and have allowed Jesus to come into your life.) Then no, suicide will not cause you to go to Hell. Yes suicide is sinning, but the moment you recieve Christ all your sins are erased even the ones you haven't even commited yet. That means God forgave you even before you commited suicide. Of course that doesn't meant that if your a Christian you can sin all you want...there are still consequences, but you'll never go to Hell. The Bible says that no one can be plucked from the Fathers hand.
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In july of 99 I lost my mom to breast cancer and then 5 months after she passed aways my friend committied suicide. I thought losing my mom was hard but it wasn't because I know why she passed but I didn't know and still dont' know why my friend killed himself. Everyday I try to deal with losing him but it's so hard because you never really have the answer to why he did it. It's seem to get harder and harder everyday but I just to remeber he is in peace now. I keep him close to my heart and I never stop thinking about him because I miss him everyday but I remeber all the great times him and I shared. 2 months after his passed I got my first tatto. I got a angel tatto on my right shoulder and i decide to put his name underneath it because I wanted people to know how special he was and also when I feel like I am losing my mind or forgetting him i just look over my shoulder and I his name. You will never get over your friend's suicide but most you will never forget what he did because you are living with the question of why unanswer. If you need to talk to someone email me and I will be here to listen to you.
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this is to serious to wait around for answers from us. is this a friend or you that your talking about. whoever it may be, they need to know how devastating it is for the people left behind. This is something u can't take back. your family and friends will never be the same. life is too short as it is to end it so soon. you need to stop thinking about the things that are going on right now and try to think ahead. whatever it is thats troubling you will be better in time, one way or another. pray to God to give you the strength to live through this, He will show you a way. Suicide is the worst way to die, because it is something that can be prevented so easily, and you have to wonder where you will be heading in the afterlife after making a decision like that. If this is a friend definately call 911, even if u dont think he is serious, u cant be too careful. i know all this from having lost my friend years ago. something that didn't have to happen if someone would have just seen the warning sighns or just took him serious. Please dont let yourself or your friend make the biggest mistakes of your lives. good luck, i will be praying for you.
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My deepest sympathy to you.  My Grandfather committed suicide just before Christmas a few years back.  I rarely discuss it with my family as they do not wish to see it for what it was.  I cannot imagine the horror you feel as it was your own father.\n\nBut, to the question at hand.  God judges the hearts of man.  He alone decides.  Things to consider, did your Dad have a right relationship prior to death?  Was he mentally ill.  Severe depressed?  It is so hard to know what was going through a persons mind before they committed the final tragedy.\n\nPlease look to a church with grief counseling.  Do not add guilt to your already overloaded plate.  Remember God is loving and will make the right decision.  Keep your faith and trust your God and he will be faithful to you and see you through this horrible time.\n\nI will pray for you and your family.
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I am sorry to hear about your loss. This situation is probably the hardest to handle of all situations. You do need help. It may sound crazy but you are not crazy, this loss is making you crazy, but only temporarily. You may never stop hurting but in time the hurt can be managed so you can have a happy productive life ahead. \n\nYou must get help. Talk to someone that has training to help people in grief as you are. A Pastor, a therapist, a family member or all the above. Cry and resist any temptation to end your own life. Give it time. You may not feel close to normal for a long time, but it comes back.\n\nReally, get to a professional and you will get the help you seek.
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Well, first of all he is the one who put you out.  Why should he care how you got there?  Sounds like you are on your own now.  I am so sorry you are going through someting like this.  Stay safe and keep in touch, okay?
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That is Deep! I appreciate people taking the time to express their loss,their memories.I'm sorry for yours!At least you seem to have accepted the tragedy and found some peace.Life is so strange,it is 4 21am I have been up since 1 25 on this computer reading and trying to answer some things I know alittle about from life's experience.My boys are asleep,so is my dog.My wife died in my arms a month ago today,I could not help her with CPR nor could the rescue team,41 too young, but everyday I see her in my sons,it will take along time to recover, as they say!God Bless You too!
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i used to take that for granted, until my husband got sick...he had hodgkins lymphoma (cancer). for the last couple months, he was very ill, and i soaked up every minute i could with him. he has been gone 3 months now, and i still miss the sould of his voice. i have learned to never take your loved ones for granted, you never know how long they will be there.
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When I was 15, my mom (god bless her) was brutally murdered. I was angry, suicidal, super emotional. So is suicide normal. . . All I can say is that the best advice I was given is this; the pain of the death of a loved one never goes away. It changes, you learn how to live with it. I never thought the post traumatic stress would end but it did. Please find someone you can trust and let it out. You can even e-mail me through Q&A. My heart really goes out to you. You are not alone!
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Answering these questions is difficult because there is always more to it, such as how old are you, how many true loves have you had, things like that.  I was 18 and had the most wonderful boyfriend.  We did love eachother, however, as time went along, I realized that his love for me was a lot more than mine for him.  It was one of the hardest things I've ever had to do, but I knew in my heart that if love isn't pretty much equal, it's not fair to the other partner - so I "let him go".  I think of him alot, and I know he's doing well, so I'm happy for him.  As for what your boyfriend said about losing you and killing himself - that is scary.  However, coming from another relationship with a very controling man, they love to say things like that to keep us in our place.  You cannot be responsible for his actions, keep telling yourself that.  Ultimately we're all responsible for what we do and say - no matter how we try to place the blame on someone else for our actions.  Best of luck!  :)
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My ex-wife's went away after a few months. If it doesn't, ask the doctor. They should know.
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I dont think theres anything "wrong" with you. You were in a relationship with someone who had a very strong impact on your life, and his life ended in a traumatic way for those who are living to deal with. The fact that you project in your dreams the wish that he was still alive is not necesarily anything out of the ordinary. Although some time has passed it doesnt mean that the person will ever necesarily drop out of your life altogether. Even once you have "moved on" he will still come up from time to time. Try and remember the best of what you two shared together, but also try and experience different oppertunites and allow new people to enter into your world.
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Your wife caught you and her mother together, and that is why she took her life.  Don't you think you've provide enough uproar in your children's lives?  Do you really need to keep going down this road and make sure that your children are never able to have a happy home life and relationship of their own?  Do you really feel the need to make sure that your children spend the rest of their lives in therapy?  \nYou will never be a family again, their mother took her life as a result of your actions, she was their mother, and can not be replaced by their grandmother.  And subjecting them to the sick twisted relationship that you've gotten yourself involved in is not helping them.\nPersonally I hope someone in the family that you are now banished from, plucks up the idea of taking you to court and prove you an unfit parent and get those children away from you.  Your not mentally sound if you really truly believe that your wife has forgiven you.
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My best friend was my sister kay, we were only 18 monthes in age apart. At the age of 21, kay got shot through her heart by her boyfriend. It was over cocaine. She started using in october and by january she was dead. I had made a pact with her when we were young teenagers that if there was anyway to communicate with the dead whoever died first would try. We agreed to sing the song free bird by lynard skinner to the person dead also. Well that memory came back the night she got killed, so the first viewing morning I went to the funeral home early, and was with our best friend that had been in on the pact made. We went up to her casket and we song free bird very low and when we were done, we were both crying of course. We watched and saw nothing. So we left and went outside, the funeral director came out a few minutes later and said that they would have to close the viewing room for awhile. I asked why and he said that there had been a problem, I said what kind of problem, he said this has never happened before and said that her left eye lid had opened up. I said what do you meann, he said they seal them closed with wax. And hers had opened and not only opened but a vien had surfaced, and was quite noticable right under the skin of her eye lid. I know it was her letting me know that she had kept her end of the pact. And that she could and did communicate after she was dead. But its been 25 years ago, and I am still coping with an incrediable empty hole in my heart for my sweet, sweet \nsister. I will see her again though, she's waiting at home for me in heaven..
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OMG honey, hell no, you are NOT to blame if he is cowardly enough to do that!!!\n\nI am 35, I became a widow 1 month to the day after my 35th. birthday. It was July 3rd., 2005 when my husband committed suicide by drug overdose. My husband and I were separated once again. He was an alcoholic and had bipolar. I could not handle the nonsense any longer, I could not allow him to exhibit the behaviors in front of my 3 son's at home anymore. The emotional roller coaster rides & rare physical confrontations were just more than I could deal with. I asked him to leave mid June, he did. I no longer wanted to be with him, I had detatched long ago.\n\nHis family has placed the blame on me for his death. I have never felt I was responsible for his death, he did it, not me. Hell, I was not even with him when he did it, so how could I be responsible, right?\n\nDon't take him back just to prevent him from doing something so stupid, I did just that prior to his death, he still did it anyway at a later date. He had been in ICU for a month 9 months prior to his death for an attempt. It was simply so stupid and selfish of him, kids were involved. I really don't have a soft spot in my heart for those who whom take themself away from the ones that love them when all they had do was straighten up even if it meant involving a professional. \n\nThis will sound really cold, but if he is stupid enough to do it, at least your kids will receive social security until they are 19 yrs. & 2 months if they stay in school & 18 if they don't stay in school. So the kids will still receive the support needed to raise them. I am sorry, I know it sounded cold and I did not mean it to but I really can't stand people that are so selfish. \n\nGood luck!!!!
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Hi, I answered your other question you posted about your boyfriend.  I was glad that I was able to help you out a little bit.  I was troubled to see you spoke of killing yourself if something should happen to him.  First, Try to get that thought out of your head!  Suicide is never the answer for anything.  You cant just give up like that.  Now is the time you need to be strong, for your boyfriend, and more importantly yourself.  If you need to chat with somebody, You can always email me jam961@yahoo.com  Things may appear rough for you right now.... But they can get better.  Instead of worrying about the "what if's" of life, you should focus on what is going on right now.  Enjoy being with your boyfriend now.  Build some memories to last a lifetime, and try to be happy.  If you really love this guy, you should be happy that he has been....and still is a very important part of your life.  Once he has a place in your heart, even if God forbid, he does take a turn for the worst, he will always be right there with you... In your memories, and deep down in your heart.  But don't even think about that now, just enjoy being there for each other.
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It is a natural as birth, I my father died two years ago. He had a maintainable decease Ulcerative colitis. But at 72 he was tired of living. He felt he had done what he was put here to do and there was no talking him out of it. They put him on painkillers and sent him home. He died six months later. It's tempting to say "lost", but this isn't the case in reality. Those who pass over are ever present in our lives. At times you will even hear them speak when you are having troubles. Right now your mother in law is in a safe place and at peace. There is no time, no pain, there is no fear or suffering. Better by far than the place where we live today. If you look ahead I know it sounds far fetched, but you will see her again soon. Time isn't what you think it is.. So waste non of it. 20 years from now this will make even more sense.