im 17,im still very shy,who is cock sure it will end.when?how?
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Hi there!\n\nI was terribly shy all through elementary school, middle school and high school. I think the main causes for mine were partly it was my personality, but also we moved alot, my dad was in military and i suffered some serious abuse from a young age...\n\nThese are some things that helped me and I hope they help you. First, I forced myself to take a public speaking class in high school and to get a job dealing with the public. It was very scary at the time and hard, but it did help me to start overcoming the shyness. Don't stay away from social situations, place yourself in them so you get used to talking, socializing etc...\n\nDon't think you are weird or strange for being so shy. Many teenagers and grownups as well suffer from shyness to some extent. Mainly it is caused because we want to be liked, want to say the right thing and are afraid we won't. I know when i was a teenager i was very afraid of boys because i didn't know what to talk to them about, when i finally started talking to them i found out they weren't that much different from the girls i was talking too. As you get older, you tend to lose some of the shyness, because you are working, maturing, extending your experiences and with confidence developed out of those situations you lose that insecurity. \n\nI know that you must have hope. If you had seen how shy i was at your age (I couldn't even go to a store and make a purchase that is how bad it was). I never looked anyone in the eye, etc...And now I am 49 years old, never meet a stranger and a people person! \n\nMy friends say that people gravitate towards me and everyone likes me. You know why? Because i always remember how it felt to feel uncomfortable, shy and out of control/insecure - those feelings have made me an empathetic person and i try to put people at ease when we meet. I give them a big smile, am friendly, ask questions about them to show i am interested in them and this makes them feel good! So use your shyness as a tool. First, remember that we are all insecure and scared in certain situations - I mean how many people do you know that hate public speaking? We all want to be accepted and liked and then just get out there and take chances and try to turn your shyness around - don't worry only about you try to focus on the other person and make them feel at ease...see what happens!\nIdentify the reasons you think you are shy and wk on changing them as well...\nDon't give up you sound like a great person and it takes time.\n\nsincerely,\nalaska friend
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I'm sorry to hear your having such a rough time of it here, why don't you get involved in the community, a church or civic center or volunteer at the local hospital..the more you get out and about the more people you will meet. it is okay that your shy, time will solve that. just have confidence in yourself and know that you will be fine. Hang in there
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sure it is possible but i imagine it would be difficult for both of you.  If you really dont see it going anywhere it maybe best to just end it now.  If he is really that shy, then maybe he is not for you.  I consider myself a shy person as well, but if a woman were to flirt with me, id have to be all into it.  Best of luck to you
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just start talking and then you will become more relaxed.  i am shy too and once you start talking it will come to you and you will be fine.  it does not matter what you say to start it just start talking.
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awww...how adorable!i wish i had a guy that felt like you!i would really love that!especially right now...but anywho, back to your question....what you should try to do now is to be more yourself to her and i bet anything she will more open to you!but hey dont get me wrong shy shouldnt be an issue here...
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Your shy aroung guys....Totally normal! I did'nt start making guys notice me until college, then the men are a little more mature
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You get over your shyness by, if necessary, making yourself talk to someone. I know it's not easy. I'm shy too. But I MAKE myself talk to people and when conversation is started, then the next logical step is dating. Smile, and be friendly to men where you go....grocery store, gas station, post office, etc. There are a lot of good, decent guys out there, and one of them is waiting for a nice Lady like you. Good Luck!
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i'm here.....i'm a chick, 15, live in houston TX, straight, have lots of gay friends, i'm a virgin too, and hoping for a guy too...... charmed_kitty07@yahoo.com messenger: charmed_kitty07
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Well... as a guy myself, I personally don't think that there's any great secret to getting a girlfriend or boyfriend. If shyness is a really bad problem for you then... just sit with some guys and join in their conversation a bit (btw go with your friends though). Seriously the guys probably won't mind.
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You will grow out of this. Just wait it out, you are more shy around your lover because your to worried about doing something wrong, around your friends its the opposite.
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You need to start coming out of your shell. You think you are shy, but I guarantee you that most everyone else is too. Just be your happy outgoing self and the right guy will notice you. BUT, don't forget, he is probably to shy to approach you too. So you may have to be the one to break the ice. Good luck. GaryT
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hey... go for him... i never have because iam to shy but that doesn't mean you shouldn't... you answered one of my questions before about my friend. I tried to email you cause you wanted to see a pic of me but it wont let me... thanks for your advice!
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There's really nothing you can do to get over your shyness. You just have to go for what you want. And if that doesn't work out, you just find something new and go for that. Everyone is a little shy once in a while. But you can't let it control your life. I'm sure the girl is really shy too. Just go for it!! What do you have to lose?
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Hey, i went through the same thing when i was your age. i am now 16 and the whole talking thing is getting much easier! i can talk to some guys and i have made many new friends. you just have to ACT LIKE YOURSELF and if they think you are a dork and weird, then just remember that it is their loss. heck, you have nothing to lose, plus, you'll never know if you dont try! Goodluck!
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wow. you sound like me\nexcept im a 15 year old girl and ive NEVER had a boyfriend\ni am shy too and i dont really have a place to meet any guys.\nyou dont have to be strong to get a girl.\nlots of girls, and i am speaking from personal experience, think the skinny shy boys are the cutest ones. go for it, just find a girl you think is pretty and just try to be friends with her. if it helps, approach her with a friend with you, so its less pressure\nim sure theres got to be girls at your school who would love for you to ask them out. the worst they can say is no. then you just find someone else\n\nGOOD LUCK!\np.s. the guys that are saying be a jerk are totally wrong. theres no better way to turn a girl OFF than to do that
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Hi,U know I used 2 have the same problem... first of all... DO NOT FEEL LESS than other people,second: if someone comes by N U start blushing or gettin nervious, just imagine that person stading in an empty space with NOTHING but the opposite sex's underwear on,THIRD: let GO,hang loose,B confortabe,if U pretend everything's under control everything WIIL B under control,N lay back  relaxed,keep in mind YOU ARE WAAAAY better than the rest and if U DO say something stupid DON'T GIVE A FUCKIN' SHIT ABOU WUT THEY SAY OR MIGHT THINK ABOUT U,\n\nN fInally,whe U put all these on practice N B-come a more confident guy,find a girl who's a bit shy N THAT will B the perfect girl 2 start a conversation with,N hopefully date.... well this is wut I did N now I have a much better life,I realy hope it works 4 U .\n\nFeel free 2 E-mail me @ : debbie_free2nite@yahoo.com
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I am not sure where you are getting your information from but I have had many men in my life.  Not all good but I was married once.  Of course I ended it I did not like the guy anymore.  But besides the point.  Maybe it is your personality.  Are you a shy person, introverted, don't like being around a lot of people?  Build a little self confidence and you will be fine.  Plus you are in high school, don't worry so much about the boys.  Have fun with some friends and when you get to college you will have guys falling all over you.