Its like I never want to be away from him. I cant stop thinking about him. I never want anything to happen to him. I never wanna see him sad. RUNNNNNNNNNINGGGGGGGGG through my head like................................................................................................ on and on and on\n\nIts kills me when im not with him
119165
no one can decide that but you
358170
Oh wow!  Went through what you're going through last month.  It's called DISCIPLINE!  I learned to focus my energy on other things.  Pray, eat, close your eyes when you see him, ANYTHING!  Girl, do NOT let him see you sweat!  Time heals all wounds...and no one said it would be an easy recovery.  Tell yourself that you want to leave him alone...plus did you say he has a girlfriend?  \n\nThat right there would be motivation enough for me, jizel...it just ISN'T WORTH IT!  The right man will cross your path in due time...just have a lot of patience...I do, and I'm not even thinking about another man...honestly...it took me about 3 weeks to get over the fool I was with.  And now I feel better than he could ever make me feel.  Now he realizes how much he misses me because I stopped answering his calls and even stopped calling him.  I stopped giving him a reason to make me feel anything other than disgust for his no good, lazy, no money having a*ss!\n\nTHIS TOO SHALL PASS.  Be strong, jizel, I know it's hard, but God won't let you go through something He doesn't think you can handle.\n\nKeep your head up and your smile too...\nMo~
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You must stay busy, busy, busy.  Do your best not to think about him and keep your mind occupied with other things.  Hang out with your friends and family.  It will take time but you will eventually be able to move on.  Good Luck.
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I think you need to move on, last month!  This guy is abusive to you!  It doesn't matter how much you love him or how much he says he loves you, he is abusing you and it will only get worse.  He is knocking you down, making you feel less worthy than you are and it will result in you thinking that no other guy will ever love you!  This guy is a jerk!  You are an adult human being, not a baby who needs to ask someone's permission to do anything.  Don't try to kill yourself over him, lose him!  He is not worth it.  Love is not supposed to cause you to want to kill yourself, it is supposed to be releasing, happy, joyful...something to look forward to every day of your life!  Not to dread what comes next.  Do not sacrifice your dreams, friends, family, hopes and everything else, sacrifice him!  He WILL NOT CHANGE!  Don't think that he will change for you or because he loves you or because you will help/make him change.  Only he can change and only if he wants to.  It will get worse and you may end up in the hospital or a morgue.  Would you want your children having him dampen all their hopes and dreams?  He has wasted enough of your life, let him ruin his own and you begin your life anew.  Good luck, PLEASE!
427467
Ummm....how old are you for one??? Another thing is are you doing things you wouldn't normally do like making sure you are somewhere you know he will be before he gets there and then making sure he sees you.  If you're blatantly being annoying and he is avoiding you then it's stalker/obsession and believe me I speak from experience I was that way about the same girl for 3 years but she was leading me on and playing with my mind even though she wasn't really interested in me.  If you can look ahead and see yourself possibly getting married or having children with or even living with this guy then it's probably love, even if it's misguided and he doesn't love you it's still love.  I've heard it more and more lately and I tend to agree with this "somtimes love just isn't enough" because love is the igniter but hard work, determination, and a level head is the key to making love work.  But that's just my opinion. Hope that answered your question.
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How can he be a nice guy? He hit you and didn't trust you. I would distance myself as far away from him as possible. With time you probably won't even think about him anymore. There are so many nice guys out there and you're not noticing them because you are thinking about this loser 24/7. Hope I helped you out and hang in there.
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I felt the same way about my bf, we would argue constantly about things that he would do, and I got fed up one day and I dumped him, then six hours later I took him back, because I realized, I was so sad and I realized that I would argue any day with him, then not have him in my life at all. I love him very much.
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i can understand what you mean as there was something similar that happened between me & my boyfriend but cuz of different reasons...but it was my boyfriend who was in your position & i was on the receiving end...its very tough when someone you love says that they can no longer be with you for whatever reasons...just because we love each other so much, we try to understand & do what the other wants even when thats not something we really want...our mind accepts the situations & tries to adjust but our heart just doesnt wants to let go...you imagine all the things that can go wrong & also how tough your life would be without that person...this feeling of insecurity & depression is terrible...you also began to question that whether that person really loves you, cuz if yes than how can that person take such a harsh & insensitive decision...all this is just a matter of your emotions & you imagine everything thats positive or negatve...when this happens you try to take yourself away from that person & try to act tough cuz you dont want that other person to know that after saying that you understand, you have so many questions going on in your mind...this happened with me & though i really love my boyfriend i was still hurt tremendously by his decision to break up even when i agreed & understood his reasons...i think your boyfriend also is really hurt by whatever happened...its good that you plan to go back to him...i would suggest that you talk to him & try to get out all the pain he is carrying in his heart cuz of what happened...you'll have to shower unconditional love to make him feel secure with you again...treat him nicely, spend time with him & appreciate his presence in your life...just let him know that you belong only to him & there's no one who can love & understand you the way he does...i am sure you'll be able to do that cuz you truely love him...Goodluck!!
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From the very core of my being....\n\nRUN LIKE THE DEVIL HIMSELF IS CHASING YOU DOWN. Cut ALL communication, don't fall prey to that "but it's the strongest pull I've ever experienced, it's different with us" bu11shit !\n\nBottom line is this, he has problems, not at home, but within himself, and is looking for something to distract him from his feelings of worthless-ness... \n\nBelieve me.... There is NO WHERE stable and good you will find with this guy...\n\nYou've been warned, to the best of my ability... \nGood luck !
627502
I know what you mean, I am in the same sitution. I try to find things to do to keep him off my mind watch tv, go for a walk etc. As I see it if your unable to be together you need to stop wasting your time and find someone that you can be with and sooner or later you will feel secure to talk to that person (Thats what I am trying)
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Just make the break and refuse his calls.  If necessary get a judge to give you a restraining order against him.  He sounds like he could harm you.  As far as him killing himself or whatever, that's his problem.  You have to protect you and can't worry about what he's going to do.  I'm sure you still care about him but you have to do what's best for you.  He probably has no intentions of harming himself but he knows that it bothers you and that's why he says those things.
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the mind is a terrible thing\n\nI have been lonely for a long time and have finally found a girl to love and marry so I am very happy but I have to deal with my children who are thinking I may be rushing it has only been two and one half years since wife died. And she wants her son to be there when we get married but he is in the service and cant come home for a long time. I guess i just have to learn patience.\n\nwell i have talked probably more than my quota\n\nGood luck and God Bless!!
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just don't mind about him. he's just a waste of time to think about. tell your friend she's better off without him, believe me, i had the same type of boyfriend, i was so miserable before we broke up... I just then realized that I was better off without him. I'm happily single... :)
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When you hold your feelings inside, that makes you feel miserable. Two things you could do, one is confront him right away so you won't carry it around with you so long. Second, talk to a  good trusting friend about your situation. If he's left you 3 times, I would try to forget him and move on with my life. Remember one thing, love alone doesn't keep you happy. If your young, you may not see it that way, but when you get older, you will regret it. I know I've been there.
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I know what you mean that happens....i think your not really over him yet even though you think to your self that you are....i use to think like you, but i know inside that i still like him alot and i can't stand it when some other girls is all over him...don't know why you are feeling that way but that how i felt...\n\nif i where you i'll tell him my feelings and maybe you and him can continue your relationship that you left off....if you want to talk more personal then IM or email me ok
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you need to seriously cut down on spending time with him and phone calls, etc. he's just not into you that way. the only way to get over him is to distance yourself.\n\nCall up some other friends and become very busy and important!! \n\nYou might be surprised how much you won't be thinking about him after a week or two. \n\nGetting away from the situation always puts things in perspective. you will come to find that he is not amazing enuff for you to agonize over!
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I am sorry to hear that. That is a very painful process.  Every minute it's always the person in your mind.  I know how you feel.  Well, I would suggest a few ideas, they might not be the best.  However, time will eventually heals and I hope soon. My suggestion would be: (1) go out and meet new friends.  If you can't find new friends, at least hang out with the old ones (2) take a break and go for vacation with some friends if possible (3) take on hobbies - gymn, dance classes, swimming, meditation, etc .... (4) volunteer working at nursing homes and hospitals because sometimes seeing the others who have worse situation than you will make you realize how fortunate you are compared to the rest (5) watch movies, DVD's, etc ..... (6) if you believe in GOD, then you should also start praying. The bottom line is, you must keep you mind occupied most of the time. Therefore there is no room for him to bug your mind.  You must take courage to accept it and move on with your life.  I hope you find these tips helpful.  Meanwhile, I wish you the best.