I sometimes wonder what it would be like to have a third person in bed with my wife and myself....but, I am an extremely jealous person and I don't know if I could handle it
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You don`t do it..If you are a jealous person then you don`t need to do it..If you did then you will have nothing but trouble with your marriage because after you did it you won`t beable to trust your only love one because you made a stupid choice..Then you lost your only love..
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My fiance's best friend.  When we all go out together I feel butterflies in my stomach just because of him.  I can't have a relationship with him because I'm with someone and so is he, but we have talked and the feelings are mutual.  I think it's more of a sexual thing.
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You're married, but you're not dead. In other words, being married doesn't eliminate the ability to be attracted to other people. I think it's natural to feel confused, especially if marriage isn't what you expected. The new wears off rather quickly, doesn't it? It's up to you and your hubby to ''keep it real'' because passion tends to fade. If you don't maintain your passion for one another, you will grow bored (a.k.a. the ''comfort rut'') with eachother and will probably be tempted to step outside of your marital boundaries. There's nothing on the ''other side'' that you really want (remember what you hated about single life?)Chances are, you've forgotten about the pitfalls of being single. Marriage is a lot of work (but can also be great) and people have some crazy misconceptions about this kind of committment. For example, before getting married, I honestly believed that married people have sex all the time. I quickly discovered that I was wrong - and that a number of things can affect a couple's sex life. Work and stress are good mood killers, especially for men. \nShould you pursue this other man, what will happen when the new wears off? Will you pursue somebody else in hopes that it will be different? Being with another man will only confuse you, and though you may not realize it, you will also find yourself torn between these two men (unsure about how you really feel).  If you've lost the fire in your current relationship, it's probably because you and your husband haven't made an effort to keep that fire going. \n\nIf the other man is claiming, but isn't acting like he's into you, it's probably because of your marital status. With that in mind, he's  probably very reluctant to get involved with a married woman.
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YES!  it is rare very very rare but a man, and you know who you are... I was with had a HUGE one.  It hurt! We had to stop.  At times I feel sorry for him never being able to enjoy sex at least with a decent woman like myself.  Of course it didn't help my situation that he was drop dead gorgeous as well.  Sigh
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I fit your description.  However, I now have a serious problem and am in therapy.  I have never cheated on my wife nor do I want to, but the urge to go do someone else is so intense it is disrupting my life.  \nI had a fairly attractive woman very openly hit on me at a restaurant today (a rare occurence) and holy smokes it took all my strength to not play along.\nIf you are feeling this same way you are not alone.  Therapy will likely help you.  If you don't address it, it will eat you up inside.
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You answered your own question. You're married. That's it. What do you care if this person's attraction to you is physical or something else. It doesn't matter. You. Are. Married. if you're having problems with your husband, talk to him or see a counselor together. Bringing in a third person is a big mistake and will only make things work. Besides, you've only known this other person for five months. how long have you known your husband?
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i regret that i haven't been able to make love with michelle.  i want to lay next to her.  i wonder if she has a similar regret ..
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Yes and I agree that you should use considerable judgment if you find yourself in this situation...on either side of the formula!\n\nFAQs/Polyamorory (see link below) says this about the question of jealousy:\n     "Some people seem to have no jealousy; it's as if they didn't get that piece installed at the factory.  Others, including some long-term polyamorists, feel jealousy, which they regard as a signal that something needs investigation and care, much as they would regard depression or pain.  Jealousy is neither a proof of love (and this is where polyamory differs from possessive or insecure monogamy) nor a moral failing (and this is where polyamory differs from emotionally manipulating one's partner(s) into relationships for which they are not ready)."\n\nPolyamory (noun) is defined as being in love with more than one person at the same time.  Polyamorous (adjective) means loving more than one person, usually refering to being in that state currently, but not necessarily.  If you're asking the question, you're probably already feeling this way.  Polygamy is actually marrying more than one person, as in the original Mormon belief in taking more than one spouse so as to increase their number.  \n\nAnother example...rare, by the way...in movies was the Clint Eastwood musical (yes, he made musicals too!) called "Paint Your Wagon!"  In an unusual state of the goldrush crazy of mid-1800's California, two very different men, friends, decided to share a wife (there were very few women anyway).  Problem was that JEALOUSY reared its ugly head.  If you can find it, rent it...it may give you a better idea of the inherent difficulties of this kind of relationship!\n\nThere are also moral implications; however, most morals arise out of the necessity to protect the integrity of society at large, rather than the passing whims of individuals.  If you choose this direction, be careful, you will find that many states actually have laws on the books that 'discourage' the active practice of polygamy...whether or not you go through with a marriage.\n\nBlessings, Rev Debi Brady
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You are playing with fire! The only way a threesome works is if no one has feelings for anyone else involved. Jealousy always ruins it and most couples break-up.
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I feel exactly the same, I have thought about it but have never said it outloud. I don't know if I met someone if I would actually do something of if it is just a fantasy. Email me if you want to chat :)
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It was ok; I have done a few. Mostly with people I met online, couples. And I was mostly single; meeting other couples. Keeps the emotions out that way. It is a pretty shallow experience, really. Sex one on one or even alone is better, alot of distractions with more than two people and pressure to perform. I think allowing other people into your bedroom is avoiding the real underlying issue within the couple.I had a boyfriend once that was always pressuring me to do that it got to be a real turnoff and we are not together anymore. If you are a sex a holic and can handle it emotionally go for it. It just wasn't my thing.
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actually you predicament isn't bad. what could be? when a married person is in the same situation! as a single you've plenty of liberty (except getting into bed) to socialize.
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I've never heard of anything like this before......before we started that aspect of our relationship my (now) husband got blue balls and felt really sick and chills and such.....maybe you hold out so long that that happens to you.  I am so sorry to hear that!
309996
Well one of the last fights I had with my spouse just before I filed for divorce was about sex.  I felt she should have it with me and she felt she should have it with everyone else but me.
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It's totally understandable.. honestly, i think it's kinda cute that she feels jealous about it.. =) just be even moooore sweet with your gf, and don't stop telling her that your just acting, that that has absolutely nothing to do with feelings or attraction towards the other girl, that its just your job to make it look real.. that she is the ONLY one! =)
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Have a threesome huney, two guys are better then one.   LOL
127310
I say good on you for standing your ground!!! i wouldnt want another person touching my partner. I mean fair enough if you both wanted to have a threesome but you dont. So does that mean that you would have a threesome with a woman??