One of my friends just told me that he is in love with me and that he can't think about dating anyone else. I have a bf that I love very much and wouldn't leave him. Even if I was single I wouldn't be interested in my friend. How can I get him to stop liking me or to move on since I'm not interested without hurting him or our friendship?
127423
Try every disgusting thing in the book in front of him, try any type of turn off.  Soon or later he will just get sick of it.  Otherwise try a restraining order, that usually works JK.  Other tactics try to find him a girl that is very much like him, and try to set him up.  That sometimes works.
408320
Be her as her friend, although it may hurt you and will make your feelings more deeper she needs someone who can lean on when they're having problems, until the time comes that she will realize that you are the one who can give her comfort and love that she could never have with her bf right now.But be patient, if you really love her, us girls do not give up easily with our relationships especially if we really love that person although we always get hurt.Show to her that your love could be more wonderful than what his bf is giving her right now,like always be there for her and helping her in every problems in her life.You said that she likes you then it is a good sign that you could win her heart.But if you want to subdue your feelings then you should stay away from her.But are you sure you want that?If you cant do that then just be her friend or a bestfriend for you to help her.Then wait for the time when she will make a decision of letting go of the person who just make her cry everyday.Dont worry love will bring both of you together if both of you are really meant for each other.Hope I helped you thats all.
186454
well i just got out of that situation you see their is a sligth chance that he might like you to but if he dose not you are going to hurt but just continue to be his friend if he dose not like you. But dont tell him you like him unless you knoe he likes you first. But if it is about to drive you crazy and you have not told him just tell him you may have a bf or a friend but dont sit and cry move one i know that the i liked did not like me but we are still friends and i have a boyfriend and 3 ohter people that like me but i have to admit if i had the man i wanted i would not have  all these other choices. but i would have never cheated on the man i wanted.
102178
the guy i am dating now i have been best friends with for 6 years. when we first met we started to flirt nothing serious, then he told me that he wanted to persue this other girl very seriously. so we became really good friends. after four years we were finally both single, he was getting ready to move across the country and he told me how he felt. we've been dating for 2 years now. it is with out a doubt the best relationship i have ever been in. i'm glad we waited, because if not we might not be together right now. if he loves you and you love him. you will end up together. i hope this helps your situation.
301209
Well if the guy is your friend (real friend) ...either if he loves you that way or not ( bf/gf) ....he will still respect you and talk to you ... he might ned time or feel unconftable for the frist 2 weeks but he will get over it if hes not interested...\n\nThe best thing tell him alone ...so no one else can laugh or say stupid stuff ( your friends can be your friends but sometimes they lack brain cells in situations likes theses)\nTell the guy you like him and if he doesnt feel the same way as you its fine, that you dont want the fact that your feelings might hurt the friendship you all have ...that you will survive if hes not interested...that you will not try to make him unconftable...or stalk him ...but if the feeling and similar...it would make you happy...
247975
sorry 2 hear tht... yeah i saw ur other questions about ths guy b4. actually i also experienced ths kinda situation b4. at first, i was really good friend with ths grl & passed 2 funfull yrs until i found out tht i love her. and i had hint tht she loved me too. but other things came up i couldn't give her a chance 2 express herself. but whn i expressed myself, she rejected saying tht she never felt like ths towards me, which's a lie. also all on a sudden she hooked up with some1 else to take myself off her mind & replace me with him. the most shocking part is, being heartbroken i still tried to be her friend but slowly she made a distance between us & destroyed our beautiful friendship.\n\nmy point is, affection towards a friend happens all the time. but there r some issues involved regarding friendship, other ppl around u etc. as a friend, u were suppose 2 knw tht he already has a gf. but u didn't, which is not usual. so mayb he doesn't hav any gf & story of having a gf is the most reasonable way to dump u with hurting u less. and don't bother if he doesn't like u or not. if he didn't like u, u wouldn't be yur friend. but it can be true tht he's not feeling attracted 2 u as he told u. tht doesn't mean tht u r not attractive or he doesn't like u. there can be a lot of different reasons involved regarding friendship or something else.\n\nfrom my opinion, look into yur heart. if u think tht u really want him & u knw tht he has actually feelings for u thn stick 2gether & mayb someday things'll work out. but the downside is u donno if thts gonna happen. so there's a chance to get heartbroken again frm the same person for the same reason. on the other hand, continue being friend & move on, find another guy who understands u & doesn't hurt u like ths. but whtever happens, yur friendship wth ths guy will not gonna be same frm now on.\n\nhope ths works. feeling sorry 4 u!
327548
Move on because your "current" is really not a good bf because he is not there for you.  Women always overanalyze these kinds of things when it is soooo simple.  When a guy wants to be with you, he's there and you never have to feel the way you are feeling.
32411
If he doesn't like you, nothing you can do will change his mind. \nWHY! would you waste your time when there are hundreds of other guys out there who would jump through fire to be with you? I know you think you love this guy, but what is really attracting you? the fact that he doesn't want you?
599421
One way of doing it without being direct is to start talking about someone you like. Let it be known that you are interested in someone else. If his your true friend his going to continue been your friend. If he just wants you as a gf then he will end up backing away. I have the same realantionship with one of my friend. He is in love with me and i was honest and told him it could never be between us and that i'm in love with someone else. Till this day we continue to be close friends and he has accepted the fact that there isn't a chance between us.\n\nBest of luck.
184184
Get over it and move on.  If your contemplating what your life would have been if you had gotten serious, how much do you love the one your with now?\n\nMove on and focus on the relationship you're in now.  Keeping that friendship alive with that friend will only complicate matters in any relationship you choose to open up.\n\nLeave the other guy alone hes probably still getting over how far he fell in love with you.  He may or may not come around again but leave that up to him.\n\nIf you knew it was a good thing and he would do anything for you, was it vanity, attractiveness or simply incompatability that prohibited you from seeing exactly what he was all about?
247430
He may still like you deep inside, so he's afraid that he may fall for you again? Why broke up with who, and what was the reason for it? Were you friends before you started dating? It's always a good thing to make a promise with your significant other that when/if you two brake up, that you will be friends like you were beforehand. Talk to him and ask him; see what he says. I know, its EXTREMELY hard to get guys to open up, that being part of the reason. But it never hurts to try.
82694
I would emotionally distance yourself from him.  You can remain friends, but I would start looking elsewhere.\n\nIt may be that if you hook up with someone else, he'll realize he might lose you, and that might give him the kick in the butt he needs.  Or he could get jealous and retaliate.  If he has no reaction, it may just mean he's not that into you.\n\nEither way, prepare to move on.  I'm not saying you should find someone to make him jealous; that's just self-defeating.
106911
You can think of him, but do you still love him badly? Because you shouldn't as you're already in another relationship. It's not right not being loyal to your present bf. If you really want to find him, and you succeed, just be friends. Thrust me, things will get uglier if you go overboard.
327766
Okay...not cool to make a move on someone with a boyfriend, so just ride out this situation until she's done with him.\n\nI am much older than you, and I was recently attracted (attraction was mutual) to someone who disappeared after I voiced my attraction.  I think it was sort of what your situation is, he's not going to act on it and the potential is dying on the vine.  I don't understand not going for it.  When you are young, you do hear that "many fish in the sea" thing, but it's really not true.  There are very few people who can ignite you on more than one cylander at once, and that is why I acted on my feelings.  I know it was mutual.  I don't know why he shrunk away, but I have to respect that the way you have to respect the fact this girl has a boyfriend now.\n\nShe will most likely break up with this person at some point because that is the nature of young relationships, so when you get that chance again, go for it.  And in the future, go for it, too.  I am sad that my thing didn't work out, but not as sad as i would have been if I had just never said anything.  \n\ngood luck!
270599
He will never stop loving you. There isn't anything you can say that will stop that. You just have to keep letting him know that nothing can or will ever happen between the two of you. You value his friendship too much to jeopardize that. Tell him that boyfriends come and boyfriends go. You don't want that to happen to him. Friends are forever.
213933
just don't mind about him. he's just a waste of time to think about. tell your friend she's better off without him, believe me, i had the same type of boyfriend, i was so miserable before we broke up... I just then realized that I was better off without him. I'm happily single... :)
228969
Well, fess up first of all. Admit that you were talking to his friend.  But let him know if it was strictly just talking out of friendship or whatever it is. Be honest, if you were talking to his friend and you think that you're attracted to the friend, then try to date the friend if he's available. Don't keep leading the other guy on and letting him think that you're into him when really you're into the friend because you want them both or something like that. I'm not saying this is the case, I'm just saying you need to explain yourself. If he doesn't respond then let it go, as much as it will irritate you to leave something at that, you'll have the peace of mind to know that you did what you had to do and that you've apologized and offered some sort of explanation. It is his fault for burning any bridges. And remember to look at signs, this may be a sign that you're not compatible with him, if you can honestly see yourself saying that you wouldnt do this if the situation was reversed, then you know you're on different levels. Good luck with this situation.