i love him so much and he tells me he loves me too. but he broke up with me three days ago because he doesn't wanna hurt me. see he's eighteen and im sixteen he' a senior and graduating in two months. i don't understand why we can't be together i love him so much and we've talked it over and now we're just friends. last night we talked on the phone and everything that we felt for each other came out. we both cried and told each other exactly how we felt. i love him so much and i asked him why he was so scared. he says he's scared of being a grown up. i love him so much and i would be able to support his every descision. when he's with me i don't care how he acts. how can i make him understand that i can help make the change so much easier. i don't want to force him to go back out with me, but i just wish he'd understand that i would go to the end of the world for him. we are ment to be together and everyone tells us that even our parents we make each other so happy.
122156
Sweetie, you're only 16.. way too young to be thinking about being so serious about a relationship. From what you said I can feel a strong sense of immaturity espeecially from you. I respect your feelings and all but I do have to tell you that you can't simply change the world because you love him. Life is more complicated than you think my dear. Accept the fact that it is not you who can make that change easier. It is only HIM who can make it easier or harder because that's his life.\n\nWhy not reverse the situation? Why not try to understand the transition that he is going through and allow him to grow-up by himself. If you are really meant for each other, you will have all the chances. When you're both old enough and more mature to handle things, you can still end up being together.\n\nFor now, I say let things be and allow both you and him to grow-up.
81699
It sounds like he's committed to you so what's the hold up.  What do you want out of the relationship?  If you really love him tell him.  If you don't let him go. The relationship won't go anywhere if you hold it back.  Tell him how you feel or eventually you will lose him.
565385
i know the feeling girl... i guess i should just ask you to let it go. let time take its course... i had the same situation, we didn't get the closeness back, it didn't matter what i do anymore... he hardly ever speaks to me now... i'm not saying you'll end up like us... just to avoid getting hurt, move on and let time decide for you... if he's for you, then no matter how long it takes... love would find its way and fate would bring you back together...
50670
I know how you feel, I broke up with my boyfriend out of fear of him hurting me also. I don't go to school anymore but my life has went to hell because he cheated on me and I can't trust him anymore. But I miss him and I wish I hadn't ended it. But I know it's for the best. We just need time. Time heals all wounds they say. If you think you can't live without him and you know he'll take you back then go for it. I can't concentrate either and my house is messier than ever but I know with time the sun will shine again and I will be happy for my decision. And if I have faith, maybe God will send the right one my way.
204643
well it is one of two things. one he is not over you, but he is afraid of how he feels. if that is the case, he is not doing a good job of hiding his feelings.the other thing could be that he cares for you as a friend, and feels a need to protect you from any one that could hurt you. since the latter sounds a little odd for this situation, i would say the former applies to you.if you still want this boy, talk to him. that could be another reason he doesn't tell you he wants to be with you.
405722
Please move on for your own sake.  Find someone who will be with you through thick and thin.  Obviously, he still does not know what he wants.  And with a 13 year old, he should definitely man up and stop just coming around when he feels like it.  So DATE, you will feel better about yourself.  You deserve better than what he is giving you right now.  If he does change, and proves to you he has changed, and you want to be with him - then great, it was meant to be.  Until then, don't let him run your life.
336249
You are what you are and if he truly loves you, he will definitely respect your feelings. Dont do anything that you feel uncomfortable with now... make things clear now- its better than repenting later. Understanding, mutual respect and honesty are the very basics of any relationship. If he cant compromise and make adjustments now, it doesnt bode well for the future too, does it? So speak out whats in your mind- let him know how you feel. Explain to him that you come from a conservative background and that you dont feel comfortable with the relationship getting physical so soon. DONT DO ANYTHING THAT U FEEL IS NOT RIGHT!
363157
Not sure how old either of You are... but just do the best you can do, until either you find a way to be with him.. or until You both decide to just call it quits... and good luck, i know You must be hurting alot right now... *hugs*
76091
It doesn't hurt to be honest and sort of confident and tell him, "We should get back together."  Guys respect that.  But DON'T tell him you've been thinking about him a lot and crying over him -- most people get scared off if they find out someone is into them more than the feelings are reciprocated.  Finally, relax and don't worry so much! When I look back on romances I had as a teenager, I realize that none of them were going to last forever, but they are still fond memories.  My only regret is that I took it all too seriously and stressed myself out too much -- in retrospect I would have just relaxed and been more easy-going about everything.
267160
It's only been two weeks.  I know it's cliched, but give it time, devote yourself to other things and spend more time with your friends and family.  Eventually, you'll see that you made the right decision and remember why you broke up with him in the first place.  If, in three or four months, you still feel the same way, you need to re-examine the entire situation.  Hopefully, by them you'll have someone that either is or potentially is a better fit for you.
616785
I realize that it may be really hard right now but I hope you realize how valuable you are yourself and that you will take care of you during this time. You may or may not\nget the full answer as to why he broke up with you.  I had\na boyfriend in high school that everyone swore or thought\nwe would surely get married and we ended breaking up and we had been dating over a two year period.  Give him his space and see what happens.  Be good to yourself in the meantime.  If you were good to him and know that in your heart  of hearts you gave your best thats all that anyone can ask.  He may have some things he needs to work out.
160697
You need to let him down lightly. Don't lead him on anymore than you already have. Just gently tell him that you love him, but only as a friend. Don't do it over the phone or through e-mail. It has to be done straight to him. After you break up, then continue, or at least try to continue, being his friend and being there for him. He probably will be hurt, and I understand that's something that will be hard to deal with. Just tell him you still love him, just not in that way.
526711
Tell him that you are very sorry that you hurt him. I don't know what happened to make your relationship go bad...but I know that if I was dating a guy and we broke up for whatever reason I wouldn't want to hurt him. That would make me hesitate to break up with him. Maybe you could point out whatever difference that broke you up is now resolved. Tell him also that you could start out very slow as friends and then get to the dating stage evenutally. If you really love this guy you will be willing to take as long as it takes to win him back. Good luck.
632620
Hi, sorry to hear about this situation. Personally, I think you are going to have problems with this relationship. I am not saying that this is not going to work out, but I am going to give you a few things to think about.\n  Right now, I think he is too young for you in a lot of ways. It would be different if he were 20 and you were 23. He would probably be at your level maturity wise, but right now, the fact is that he is not.\n  Your life is probably going to be very different in a year or so. You are probably going to go to college or at least start school for some kind of trade. This is where the problems arise.. You are at a new stage of life where you begin to get older and are on your way to a mature adult life. There will be things that you will be experiencing that is going to be different from your highschool life. In time, your boyfriend is probably going to feel left out. Its like two ships passing through the night. Your going to be on totally different levels.\n   I personally think maybe you should really wait this out. He is really still young, and I think he has some growing up to do before he involves himself in someone that is older. I think three years is a lot when you are 18. When you are 19 do you really want to be dating a 16yr old.\n  I know people are going to say age doesn't matter. In most cases it doesn't. But I think at this stage in your lives it might matter. I could be wrong, but I think you should consider dating guys your age or a little older.\n  If you do consider that you still want to date him, proceed with caution. Maybe you and him should discuss things with your parents to see how they feel about the situation. If they don't see problems with it, go for it but just keep certain things in the back of your mind. The whole legality thing is not going to matter unless his or your parents have a problem with it.\n Good Luck!
210550
I am not happy with anyone other than you. I have learned this over the past couple months, and in some ways, I dont want to leave him because it will hurt, but I do want to be with my family. All 3 of us. I realized that.. you loved me thru and thru, just like you said. I am willing to make it work... I just hope you still are. I know that in relationships, there are good times, and there are bad times. We need to be able to work thru the bad times together... We need better communication.. and all in all, We need eachother.
314731
It seems 2 me like he still wants u but he just don't know how 2 be with u right now. He may need a little time out.He's confused because he love u so much, he'll probably do just about anything for u.He's just scared that u may hurt him again & he may not know how 2 react if it ever happens again.U may have lost a little of his trust for u.He'll find out a way 2 fix this.Its just 2 much 4 him right now.Just give it some time. It'll all come out. Good luck!\n My situation is similar 2 urs.
612112
I know it's really hard to let go! When you beg a guy to stay, and try to work things out, it will never work out. He will just keep you on the side in case things don't work out else where. I'm speaking from experience. You need to tell yourself that you deserve someone who wants to be with you just as much as you want to be with them. Why would you want to be with this guy, he has already given up. He can't possibly care as much as you do, about this relationship. Move on, there is some one out there for you. It takes time and patience. Don't just settle, set high standards for yourself. Keep your head up. :)