i've been with my husband for about 4 yrs and he doesn't seem to want to give me the attention i want such as hugs and kisses everyday. is this too much to ask?? he hasn't ever really even given me a real kiss just pecks. on top of that he doesn't spend much time with my son who is 5 hes more interested in playin video games and watchin movies then doin anything else what should i do??
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Talk to him about it. See why he isn't willing to show the affection that you want. Maybe he's really uncomfortable with it. Talking it out is definitely a good thing. Then you'll both have answers! Good luck!
451871
I don't know really what to tell you.. have you talked to him about this?? I am a father myself... and I know often times I may seem to be preoccupied or not generally paying attention... sometimes people may just be under a great deal of stress... maybe it's hard for him being so far from home for so long... I wouldn't assume that he doesn't want to spend time with you... I don't know him personally... but I know with my kid... I can't think of anything I'm more proud of... I can't imagine that your father is much different... I'm sure he loves you... maybe talking to him about this would be a good start...
251911
girl i have the same problem just talk to him in my case it dosen't work.  We have four kids and he still wants it all the time we have been together 8 years.  Don't  take it wrong i would like to do it every other day but not EVERYDAY  just try talking to him \n\nGOOD LUCK
87887
Well sounds like me.. I've put up with it for almost 10 years, and then one day it just hit me that I didnt need to deal with that anymore.. I like to be paid attention to, and show should you.. if you dont like it then leave.. he is just trying to suck up to you, dont go for it.. if he isnt kissing you, holding you, paying special attention to you.. then who is????
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I think that you should talk to him and ask him what is bothering him?. How long has he been accusing you of this?. Did something happen lately that made him start acting like that?. How long have you been married?. The first year it the toughest so hang in there and just try to be open and honest with him. communication is very important, i have been married for almost 19 years and i can tell you communication is very important
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He may not be slapping or punching you, but forcefully grabbing you is physical abuse. If he is verbally, emotionally and mentally, sexually you need to examine whether or not you want to stay married to him. It doesn't sound like he respects you or your wishes. If he did he wouldn't be forcing kisses and hugs on you when you need some space to sort out your feelings. Only you can know when you've had enough and are ready to leave. What you are describing is abuse. You may not want to see that, but I heard your story from hundreds of other women in the 11 years I worked for a domestic violence program. I'm sorry if it upsets you to hear it, but I hate to see any woman treated this way.
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Sounds to me that he is trying to tell you that he wants kids with you. If he is saying he cares for you and then if he admires your son alot and says he wants kids at kind of at the same moment I believe he is insisting it with you. Love can be weird sometimes you never know how it will start out or end up its just that chance you take. If yall where together in present tense and now yall are back together it sounds to me yall have a very good connection and maybe yall will actually be together til the end. Hope this helps. And remember this is only my opinion.
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I will tell you how I caught my husband. Basically I wasn't very clingy, I gave him plenty of space. Always keep yourself up, not meaning make up on everytime you see him. Just make sure you are always appealing, if you can't take care of yourself then you can't take care of him. Also if the guy happens to be into sports you need to show interest in that, don't act like a sports freak if your not but just show interest. That also goes for anything else he shows a huge interest in. Do genuine things for him to show him that you will be there. Last but not least when you finally include sex in your relationship put it on him, men like freaky woman. Just don't give in to fast use descretion cause you don't want him to think your a fling you want to be his main girl. Hope that helps.
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Hi, has he always been like this or is it just the spell you've been arguing.\nMarriage is hard work and needs constant nuturing from both sides to feel loved by the other side.\nSome people (men and women) have difficulty in expressing themselves, is this your husband?\nIf so, maybe you accepting this as him and noticing the other ways he does express love will help, but there is nothing like a hug and hearing how we are loved so do understand where you are coming from.\nA husband and wife will either knit together over the years or move in opposite directions (like my ex and I) but for it to work you must be moving in the same direction. \nTalking to him and continuing to express yourself, your love is all you can do really, and hope he hears you before you change, because you will in time.\nMaking time for those special moments will also help, there is always another little trick we can pull out the hat to surprise him, reveal another mystery about yourself-try it-remind him of why he got with you. ;)\nJust keep trying until he either wakes up or loses out with the woman he fell for and married, I wish you both luck xxx
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Its possible that both of you are trying to fill the roles of wife and husband. What I mean is not seeing each other as people,not dealing with things as they are but trying to do things as you think they should be dealt with. Maybe he thinks he should be in charge, telling you what to do what to spend. I think its time you 2 have a good long talk and find out how each of you really feels clear the air. Oh one other thing to think about your at that stage in a relationship where your past the first glow of love and seeing him as he really is, time to work at the relationship build it up or see if it can be worked out.
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Well, does your 5 year old lie often?  On things that serious, I don't know if taking the word of a child is a good idea, but try to think of your situation.  Does your man act weird at times?  Leave the house alone quite often?  Doesn't seem to want you sexually as much?  I mean, if you look at the signs he's giving you, you'll know deep in your heart, what the true answer is.
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Sex is very important in mine and my husbands relationship . I will be honest and say for two weeks we have not had sex or talked much about anything and we always had talked before . After my husband went to  work today I emailed him and asked him what was going on . He says he's been tired and under a lot of stress at work and has a lot of stress because his brother lost his kids . I have been so sad the past week just because I didn't feel loved or wanted . After he talked to me about what was going on I felt a lot better but sex helps people feel more loved and wanted . To me sex and talking is a big part of a relationship .\n\nAngel
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Well. there could be such much involved here. Like how has your marriage been going? I mean somewhere down the line something had to have happen.. It just doesn't stop. If you had a little more details I could help a little more. So I will do my best. First off, do you often spend time alone? That is important in a marriage where you two have time to go out on dates. Sometimes it takes you two to get out of your settings and do something different together. On the other hand how do you honestly feel about it. Are you making any efforts to be spontaneous with him? Is he just slowing drifting away. If that is the case maybe he could be hiding something that you don't know about. One thing for sure to do is pray to God to give you the answers you seek. There are just so many varibles that can play into all this...\n\nSorry that I could not be of more help..\n\nAmen and God bless...
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it's true it sounds like your wife doesn't want it as much as you do, but she is so spoiled and blessed to have such a good husband who is considerate to that. i admit i don't always want to when my husband does, but i rarely tell him no. even if i can't do it i'll be considerate to him being in the mood, and help him out orally.
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I feel for you, thats a tough spot to be in. However any man who doesn't want to get close to your kids isn't worth your time no matter how great he treats you. It might be a sign that he doesn't want to commit as much as you want.... any man who truely loves you would want to be part of your life in everyway, and your kids are a big part.
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When I was married with one child and a Home Daycare (18hr a day with 32 children throughout the day, 3 employees) I kept my roles in order. First I was His wife;a mother and a Business woman.I kept making love to him on my mind throughout the day.So, when he get home I was always HOT for him.Sometime women put the mother thing first, that's not so. Keep your sex life on your mind and your mind on your Husband everything else will get in line.You're going to fill real good ,try it.
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have you tried asking him why he doesn't show and or feel physical attraction towards you. Tell him you get the feeling that he's not attracted to you. That women are very physical and have to be shown affection (well, most anyways) that for you it's expression of feelings that you two have for eachother. That you don't necessary have to sex (he may not be ready for sex), but you would like a little more cuddling a little more kissing and a little more affection. If this doesn't work you might want to ask him if something has been bothering him or what's on his mind. It could also be possible he's seeing someone else...I SAID POSSIBLE. THEN AGAIN HE MIGHT JUST BE NERVOUS AND SHY. Just talk w/ him and you will be amazed at what you can discover.