I love her,  maybe for the second time in my  43 years I am in love.  We have been together for three years and she dumped me 6 months ago for the good reason that I was partying too much and wouldnt allow her to feel secure.   We have a 16 month old child.......She immmediately got with someone else,   even after six monthes I dont want   to see anyone else.  I think she may want me back.....should I go ....we dont trust each other but we sure hav e fun together.   Should I walk away or keep trying.
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Keep trying for that child's sake. But make sure she wants you back. She has to TELL you she wants you back. Don't just tell yourself she does for no good reason except that is what YOU want.
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I think you are more infatuated with her than you love her. You got separated and she went to another man, why wouldn't she do it again if she has a problem with you again? Wake up man, this is simple commonsense. She just wants you, she does not need you, and you don't want to be in a relationship where you are just wanted and not needed. Thats not love. You will be used.\n\nWhat you need is a woman of your own and not one you share with another man. She is that other guy's wife and your seeing her is tantamount to adultery and that is treading on dangerous ground.\n\nDivorce? Well, she can get that to be with youbut are you going to marry her and take in that guy's children as your own? And do you see any reason why she won't divorce you as well when she has a problem with you? Don't be naive, you are believing that she loves you because thats what you want to believe. Sorry old boy but you will be a fool if you lick back what you spat out.
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Right now, you need her to regain her trust in you. You owe her that, and she deserves all the time she needs. Spend a lot of time with her, be there for her, laugh with her, just show her how special she is to you. Don't just say it, show it. But don't pressure her to get over the hurt. If you do love and care for her like you say, you will be patient. If she decides to move on with someone else, you can only be happy for her and be there if it doesn't work out. I truly think she will notice all these things and will come around when she's ready. Good luck, and no more deceptions.
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Hello sweetheart, you must be so confused, it certainly sounds like your fella is. Speaking from experience I would not even speak to him again let alone go out on a date. I think  on this one sweetheart you have to follow your heart, you are the only person who truly knows ho you feel about him. I really hope that you can make the decision that is the right one for you and your little girl. I bet you have the same response from family and friends as I did, everyone told me to dump him "you can do better than him". I made the decision to walk away and have some on our own time with my boy. I have never seen my ex since. He tried allsorts to get back home I stood strong and resisted the temptation. I have remarried and I adore my husband. You will be happy again  take care beauty and don't re rushed.
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If she doesn't love you, it sounds like you've already lost her.  I'm sorry, but I think you should end the relationship and find someone who loves you.
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Hi Che,  The way you ask the question with all the information, You both sounded like a happy couple. I don't think you did anything wrong,(if you didn't leave something out). She is very confused about her love for you,or she has found someone else to replace you.It's one or the other. I would find a nice girl who know's what her feeling are. That way you don't have to go through this again. Your right us girls don't all do this.I have a old man and i would never do this to him. Good Luck My Friend.\n\n  Clowmy
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I would ask her why she moved so far away if she wanted to "eventually work things out?"  If you and the baby momma are meant to be together, you'll find a way to get back together. Do you love her??? DO you feel like she IS the one?? If so, DONT LOSE HER!! Figure out a way for her to give you another chance. (ROSES AND CHOCOLATE ARE A PLUS!!) Hope I've helped. Good luck!
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You love her,and want to be with her. She was honest with you. It happened 3 yrs ago. She has since proven how strong her love is for you. She made a poor choice. She's not the only one who has ever done so. Stop thinking about it, concentrate on the rest of the months she's shown you the love she has for you. think about 35 mos vs 1 mo. Enjoy your love and lady!!!! God heals the heart, and the hurtful memories fade. Don't believe once a cheater always a cheater. It's easy for someone to say leave when they aren't the one who's going thru it. Listen to your heart and pray. Believe me,she's punishing herself enough for both of you and hurts just as much as you do.
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Well you need to really decide if you want to be with her-possibly forever. I didn't sound like you wanted to move where she is, Why can't she come to you? If either one of you REALLY love one another,one of you would be willing to make the small sacrifice of moving. Now she is wanting some time away from the relationship,she got tired of waiting. If you now are realizing that you were taking her for granted-then show her. Actions speak louder than words. I hope this all works out for you and if not,then maybe it just wasn't meant to be.=}
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First of all, you need to step back and take a look at this situation. If she left you for another man after only 4 months of marriage, she wasn't as committed as you thought she was. It would be an embarrassment to you if you were to buy her a gift to get her to come back, and would be totally ruthless of her to accept it. If she wasn't committed enough to make it work after only 4 months, she isn't going to be any more committed if she were to come back home. I'm sorry to sound cruel, but I was in a marriage that ended because of my ex's infidelity. I tried to work it out with him, but he only broke my heart more by messing around with other women when he came back. My suggestion is that you should cut your losses, and let the divorce go through, and find a woman who TRUELY loves you unconditionally! Good Luck!
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dont jump the gun...  she obviously wants you back.. so play hard to get.. thats what SHE wants...   if she wanted to JUMP in to it then she wouldda said  oh baby i miss you you were the best..\n  as it stands,, it sounds like she does miss you and refrets whatever may have happened.. so be with her...  you need to make sure that whatever happened last time wont happen again...\n    it may just be a game... she knows that you love her and likes the attention...  so she will want  while its easy and convienient and as soon as ANYBODY comes along she will drop you.. \n   not saying that thats the case... but i am repeatedly going through that stupid shit with my ex wife... and because i love her and im stupid i keep letting her back in...  yup... dont be stupid like me man....  if  you think shes sincere then do it...    if you have the slightest hint shes playin ya... kick her ass to the curb before she hurts you again
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I would say it all depends on the situation. Since you all have so much history and two beautiful daughters, I would think it'd be better to get back together, but that may just be me. Don't do what people on here say, just take the advice and build off of it. Maybe he got scared for some reason and pulled out of the relationship because he didn't know what to do. If you love him and you know he loves you, then I would give it a second chance. If it was meant to be, it will be. I know that's probably the worst advice line I could give you, but I've found out that it is pretty true. No matter what happens, I promise you both will be okay. Good luck and follow your heart.\n~Grace
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what she did...how quickly she seemed to "get over you" hurt you...when people hurt us, it's hard to forget that pain we went through...\nbut you know what i've found out? our brains are very powerful organs...if we choose to not let it hurt us, then pretty soon we'll convince ourselves that it doesn't...maybe think of it in a different way...obviously she was trying to move on as quickly as possible b/c it hurt her too much to be without you...have you thought of it this way?...maybe it was her defense mechanism so she wouldn't be hurting so bad, either...obviously she still loved you b/c she came back to you...\nlife gets to be routine and sometimes can feel like you're in a rut or bored...but you know what? a good relationship isn't worth throwing away over a little boredom...if you really love each other, then find new ways of doing things...do things you wouldn't normally do...go on a vacation together and experience something new together...like hiking or white water rafting...something in which you won't be alone the whole time...spice up your sex life...\nyou take care of your part...you plan things to surprise her...you know, do your part and she'll do hers...come up with a list of things you want to do and plan them out according to your finances and do them together...\nbut trust me, being in a rut with a good person is worth way more than jumping from relationship to relationship trying to find something new...
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The fact that she is continuing to see this other guy makes it clear to me that she is not interested in working on the marriage.  If she was truly sorry, she would have immediately ceased all contact with her lover.  Sorry to say, but I think you should move on.  I know it seems that people today take their vows too lightly and divorce is easy, but in your case, I don't think this woman is worth waiting or fighting for.  Whether or not you are to blame for her falling out of love with you, she betrayed your trust and continues to do so.  Find a woman who is worthy of your love and devotion and let your wife screw up someone elses life.
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She's not being honest with you.  If she really thought you two had something SO special that would lead to you "being together for a long time" why would she want to waste another minute with anyone else?  \n\nThink about it:  If you met the woman of your dreams who blew your mind away, would you really ask them to just "hold on a second" while you continued to mess around with others?  HELL NO.  You'd want the rest of your lives together to begin right now.\n\nI know this sucks to hear because you guys obviously have something special.  But something inside is telling her there's someone better out there and she wants to continue searching to see if she can find it.  If she doesn't, she'll come back to you.  Now you have to ask yourself, do you really want to be her fall back plan?  Because the minute she does meet that #1 out there, you'll be left broken hearted.\n\nSorry to break this news.  Cut loose.  No contact.  Get her out of your system.  When you meet someone else who you can fall in love with, you might be able to try being friends again...
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The relationship ended for a reason.  Has that reason changed?  In my opinion you want her back because you don't think she is obtainable.  If you got her back you would dump her shortly after you got her.  So why don't you do yourself and her a favor and leave her alone.  You will fall in love again and you will forget about your ex g/f I can guarantee it.
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im in the same situation.. because of my past.. im afraid to get too attatched just to get hurt AGAIN... but honestly.. .if you like this girl alot.. and you're willing to wait to see where it may go, go for it! BUT LIKE SHE SAID.. if what you truly want is to walk away.. do what you gotta do... everyone goes through hard times.. but in the end.. she is probably more concerned with you being happy than anything else!