I've had sex many times but i've never once had an orgasm. I can achieve one manually but not with someone. Why?
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(if you are female) you may be one of many women who can only reach orgasm through direct clitoral stimulation, if this is the case have you guy get behind you and penitrate from the back while you or he manually stimulates you. trust me he will be happy to oblige.
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Get experimental and try new things.  Rent a few tapes and see what they do and see if you want to try it.\nHave the guy or girl go down on you and concentrate on your clit.  pull the skin back and start by rubbing it slow and then tell him how and where it feels good.  Remember, if you are trying for the orgasm or the cool climax, there are no boundaries or limits.  Try sex sometimes with no holes or holds barred.  Be open and exploratory.  Can't do it when  you are dead so might as well try it when you are living.
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No. Not every person feels the same during orgasm. I don't know how you feel during orgasm... but I feel different at different times. It is always pleasent... but sometimes it is Great... and sometimes it is Greater... Thankfully I have hit the Greatest many times.  The person you are having an orgasm with plays an important part in just how Great you feel!!!
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I am 33 years old and I have only had one vaginal orgasm. This is very common and you are not alone. It takes a lot to get there. A lot of passion and romance. Then again a lot of women never get to experience that..My hubby and I use toys and we can still orgasm together. This is a great thing....I hope this helps, Good Luck..
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Yes, this is very normal!  I can't say it's controllable or not, but I know some guys orgasm with no reaction at all!  I don't see how, but I guess it depends on the person.
427797
You are in the vast majority of women, dear, and there's nothing strange about you.  It's not a "problem".  Also, it's not even a problem if you don't have an orgasm with each sexual encounter.  Women are different from men!
311934
Did you get a euphoric feeling after you were done? Did your body shake or quiver? You may have experienced an orgasm or maybe just climaxed- but didn't have a mind blowing orgasm. I masterbate and it doesn't always feel the same way everytime.
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You'll be one of those sad sad women who never orgasm.  \n\nIn order to come during sex you have to figure out how to make yourself come.  That means you need to spend some quality time with your right hand (or left if you're a leftie) and your brain.  Think about what YOU like, what turns YOU on, and how it makes YOU feel.  It has been my experiance that women who do not orgasm do so because they have no idea what they even like.  They see sex as something you do for someone or with someone, not something you do for yourself.\n\nBuy books on the subject, from fantasies to anatomy to technique.  Get a hand mirror and check yourself out down there.  Look at internet porn.  Read some erotica or Harlequin romance novels.  Spend a lot of quality time with your hand between your legs.  Think about buying a vibrator.  Learn the shower head trick.  Take mental notes on what works and what does not.  \n\nYou have to take a certain ammount of responsibility for your own sexual pleasure.  You're the only one who can make it happen.
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My best advice would be that you should try having an orgasm on your own first. When you are with a man, you might become so concerned about the orgasm-matter, that you will not be able to relax and give in to the pleasurable feelings.\nIn order to enjoy masturbating, and getting an orgasm, it is first and foremost important that you think it is OK to masturbate! There is noting wrong or sinful about getting to know one's body - and thereby becoming a better sex-partner.\nMake sure, you have all the time, you'll need without disturbances. Pay attention to the setting; perhaps you'll enjoy a long bath first, put on your favourite lotion, your favourite underwear or maybe light a few candles.\nSpend some time finding a good place to be at - the bed would be an obvious choice. Try touching yourself in different ways, what feels good, what doesn't? Take it slow and enjoy your time with yourself, getting to know yourself. Perhaps you won't achieve an orgasm the first time, you try; but you'll definitely learn something about how you like to be touched.\nRemember, the main goal is to become comfortable with your own body and your own sexuality, this will heighten your chances of achieving an orgasm. On the same note, I'd hold back on porn, dildos etc. until you are certain what you like, until then they might only serve as distracters.\nBest of luck!
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Males can have as many orgasms as womans, that's no doubt. Ejaculation is usually associated with orgasm, but one can have orgasm without ejaculation. Actually, the quantity of sperm ejaculated is just a matter of physiological structure of each person. Some might produce a larger amount and might not ejaculate it all in one session (orgasm). Hence, in just a few successive orgasms you might lose all the quantity, then your body will have to produce another one, before a next ejaculation. Meanwhile, the orgasms might still happen, providing thet the male in charge has enough energy to keep moving.
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everyone is different.Some women never orgasm at all.Some women only orgasm through external stimulation some only through penetration.You just got lucky. Wish it was that easy for me
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I can have sex many times, if I don't have an orgasm. I can do it about 7 times a day. My husband caught on & will give me an orgasm before I wear him out. \n\nIf you are having orgasms, then your sex must be fantastic. Your body is most likely just used to having sex all the time, so it becomes almost a necesity.
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Sounds like it has been stretched out from over use. Slow down. Try less partners. Use pelvic exercises to strengthen the muscles. Most of the time the female orgasm is reached from the exterior stimulation anyway. Focus more on this and less on the actual intercourse.  F1sTing is always an option! Let me know if I can help!
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Not all women have orgasms easily, I only get one about 3/6 times.  Ususally the best way to have one is by oral, before penetration.
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Orgasms with sex didn't happen for me until I got a little older, more comfortable with my own body, in tune with my own sexuality, and finding what worked for me and going after it, and practice of course.\n\nRead this, good advice:\n\nhttp://www.talksexwithsue.com/femaleorgasm.html\n\nAlso, just my opinion, but stop faking it.  You don't do you or your partner any favors by faking it.
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It may hurt the first time but after that it shouldn't.  It is possible that you have a strong hymen that needs to be releasd by a surgical procedure.  Or you might be anticipating pain and not able to relax and lubricate well.  Try a longer foreplay and a lubricant like KY or something similar.  Take it slow so there is no tensing.  Good luck.
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Most women do not have the capability to have an orgasm through intercourse alone. You should try to play with your clitoris or let him do it during sex. Many women fake an orgasm to make their boyfriend happy and its perfectly normal but you will reach a time when you don't want to fake it anymore and want to really have one. Try a position where your boyfriend can reach around with his hand and rub ur clitoris while having intercourse. Try doggie style.