OK…this is awkward.  I am happily married to a great, attractive girl.  I am a professional, mid 30s.  At an out of town technical conference, I hooked up with a chick at the hotel bar.  My entire fault, we were drinking heavy and cutting up…one thing and another…and the next thing we in her room doing the ugly.  Super guilt here.  I do not want (nor will I) see this other girl again.  I really am happy married!  So…WHY was I an idiot???  Secondly and here is what is really bothering me…   WHY could I “go and go” with this chick in the rack and not “go and go” with the wife???  I don’t understand myself.  This chick and I banged like rabbits for hours and I hated it…I think…
134498
First of all the drinking might be the first problem...you obviously have a total lack of judgement when you drink...second, it was the thrill of the indescretion as well as the the first (and last)time with her, that always makes things more erotic & exciting...
341297
Naw...in fact you seem to have an superb grip on this. not vindictive, vengeful or spiteful but by God there isn't anything better than sitting back and gloating. Heh, heh...guess they found out that there was just a tiny little bit more than fu*cking like rabbits huh? \nI think you'll always feel this way and screw it...don't feel bad. You went through enough because of those two. You madam...have a special place in my heart for your mature and sensible handling of this whole situation. \nI tip my hat to you and now consider you one of the star attractions that shine amongst the sea of mopes, idiots, illiterates and trash that roam this domain. Were I not married myself I'd propose.
297827
Ok - I hate to play it off as a "guy" thing but it seems to be as such. We just don't realize when we're doing it. It's not a sexual thing - we just tend to have a hold of "ping and pong" without realizing it.My wife points out all the time that I am doing it - she says I hold them more than she does. I hereby apologize for the entire male population for our actions - ( but actually we'll still do it unknowingly ) - - - just from an honest guy standpoint
142032
I think you are HO. I read your other posts...um did you leave your husband yet??? Is the divorce final??? Because you are asking how to screw all of these random guys and are you still married????? Considering you asked if you should leave your husband only 2 weeks ago it would seem you are sTILL married. THat makes you a cheating HO.Maybe you should worry more about your 5 year old kid instead of screwing random guys and worrying about booty calls all the time. Straighten up your life. Hopefully your husband will find out what a dirty skank you are and leave you before you give him and STD. Keep your legs closed.
661999
The issue isn't if your husband is cool with it.  Are you?  I would guess not, or you wouldn't mask your emotions under a cloud of alcohol.  Or is the husband thing your excuse for being drunk?  I don't know, only you can.  Having great drunken sex is a plus in any relationship, but I don't think I would stay with someone just for the O factor, but hey, I don't have it that way! Personally, I stayed in a bad marriage way too long.  I would either find a way to make you happy in the current relationship or find a way to live without your husband.
665177
I'm confused.. When you say you were speaking to other men.. is that all then? I don't see anything wrong w/that. You say tho 'he stayed w/me' and I don't know why he wouldn't (if it was just conversation.) You say he had a secret relationship.. was it sexual? You two both sound kind of jealous/possessive.. I mean I am basing this on the assumption there was nothing sexual involved in any of this. (If there was, that's a different story..) Let me see here.. He treats you like crap.. I take it that's the real issue on hand here.. I think men are kind of like babies (I'm married to one.. lucky me..) or they want their cake/ to eat it too.. they want us to cook and clean (and spread 'em) but on the other hand they want their 'freedom' to screw around on us at the same time. (We can't do anything along the same line tho..) that sux, right? He stayed because he's been with you and while the other gal's 'something new/exciting & different' you're the one he's 'used to living with' I am thinking. (Hell, this is depressing me!!) Hey, I DO think you've got value/self worth, dont' get me wrong! I'm just kinda bitter about men is all.. It sounds like my marriage of l4 years (boring.. I'm bored..) My ole man's an asshole (cuts me down) and then developed (or so he claims) e.d. so he tries to do the oral thing (doing me 'one big goddamned favor') on me for sex (but it's wearing thin or gettin' old I mean.. fast..) I want to dump him too.. (I think you want to dump THIS guy..) do it!! that's my 'valuable' advice for ya
606309
luckily its only been 2 months....   but this sure is a glimpse into any future with this guy....I noticed  a couple in a restaurant   that were married.... the whole time they were there the guy was  talking on the cell phone.. with a break of only a few minutes in between calls .... I never even saw him speak to his wife!...  I felt so bad for her.... you might want to think about   if you really want to continue on .. personally  I would   get out NOW! lol..... good luck!
276392
I dont trust my fiance and with good reason as I just found out he was "hanging out" with the hooker/stripper/coke head that he "didn't cheat on me with" 3 years ago. I hate men, I dont get it. I'm proud to say I'm a good looking girl next door, way better than that skank, I'm great in bed, I do whatever he wants, in every aspect of life, have a great job and now he's talking to that c-u-n-t behind my back again! ANSWER TO YOUR QUESTION: no bitterness only gets worse, do something horrible to him like glue his penis to his stomach and hit the road. Men suck!
171282
Look in the mirror. You are looking at a married woman. Why did you get married in the first place if you weren't prepared for a commitment.  "I do" doesn't mean " until something better comes along". Forget this guy unless you are able to remain "just friends". I feel sorry for your husband!
142799
Girl let me tell you...you do what you want to do. I mean yeah people are going to say what if you were married and all that other crap but the truth is you ain't married you are single, but make sure you don't come second. You don't need to go out of your way to hide or nothing shit...if he gets caught that's his problem, but word of advice make sure the girl ain't crazy because if I were her I would bust out your tires, cut your face, and shoot off your knee caps, but this is a risk you have to take. Seriously are you just going to be easy string free pussy? Or are they going to break up? It has to be one or the other! SO I guess I said do it and don't huh?
420991
I'm in the same boat as you and think you should keep away from fornication. Waiting until your wedding night really shows your new wife that you have waited your entire life to be with her. Sex has nothing to do with love; it is lust and really shouldn't be a factor outside of marriage because both participants know fine well after they have sex they have nothing moer they can give to one another. Outside of wedlock shows they are struggling to keep their relationship going. I know I may sound ignorant but thats the way I see things, it's the way I raised myself. Thinking of showing my devotion to my future (hopefully) wife rather than pleasing my own lust.
229165
Well if it was just part one of your question and things were great now and life felt good for you then I would have said let it go...however now that you are seeing him IM somebody and asking her to go to a game,etc and you didn't even know about it nor were you asked? I feel that whatever is going on, within your marriage, isn't heading for anything good. I think there are issues either from the past or in the present that need to be talked about.If you guys can take the time, to talk about them and how it makes you feel, etc, do it NOW! If you can't, and you need an objective third party, go and get counseling and keep working at it. However, do something now before it's too late!!! I will say a prayer for you both!!! Good luck!
178692
Sounds like a loser to me. Get out why you can. If he cheats on her, why won't he cheat on you? How can you respect yourself when you sleep with a married man? \nAnd then you actually can not figure out why you can't find a great guy and have real love? Have some respect for yourself and your relationships. Go find yourself a single and available guy. How can you look at yourself in the mirror after coming between a man and his wife? If he wanted you so bad before then why did he marry someone else?
88125
western men are so wierd (you are definitely one)....how can a man accept the fact that his wife cheats on him ? accept, feels sad and even tries to get her back...this is way beyond me !!!!! God.....
513886
I would keep doing it.  You obviously have no respect for your wife, so why let her get in the way of your sleezy relationship?
161828
I can understand your frustration... I really can. But infidelity is a very large burden to bear. You say that you love your wife? Have you honestly sat down with her and openly talked about what you need sexually? Most men won't...they ask for sex, but they don't really talk about it. Even though it may be hard, have the talk with her. She may have issues that you don't even know about, and she is using her "medical" problems to avoid intimacy... I have done the same in the past (most women have at one time or the other). She could also have a legitimate reason, and you will have to make the decision if being celibate is what your willing to practice if you stay with her. Tough decisions definitely await you. Peace.
225987
Love is treating me real bad. Three different women want to have sex with me this weekend, but ... \n1) one of them is married, and 2 live with boyfriends.\n2) I have a girlfriend who lives in another state. I haven't  cheated yet, why start now?\n3) I am skeptical of a woman who solicits sex from me. I just am. All the fun is in the chase. That is where intelligence comes in. How can I be subtle with a woman who is oblivious to the subtle things in life?\n\nThis may come as a surprise but I have had enough sex. I am ready to shut the game down, but every girl I meet thinks I am still a player.\n\nI'm serious I have got to have a girl with a brain; no compromise. I don't care beautiful a girl is. What I want to know is; can she spell beautiful?\n\nSo ...