he is in year 7. its very important for him.
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The only way you can motivate his behavior toward change is by consequences or for him to find an intrinstic reason why studying is beneficial to him. Extenal rewards such as "cash" only work in the short term. In order for him to change his behavior for good he has to find intrinsic rewards - internal motivation. For example, I did terrible in school all the way up till college when I figured out what I wanted to do with my life - be a therapist working with kids. Until I figured that out I wasnt motivated in school either.\n\nAt his age I guess he needs to get the message that sometimes we have to do things because it is our responsibility to do them. As a child his job is to go to school. Explain to him if he doesnt do his "job," consequences will occur. Figure out what he enjoys and use it against him and BE CONSISTENT WITH IT!!! I cant stress that enough. Also catch him when he's doing good and go above and beyond to show him hard work pays off.\n\nAgain, the only way you can motivate him to do it on his own is to help him find an internal drive, a personal motivation. If you cant do that, punishment and rewards are the only way.\n\nCounselorDan (Child Therapist)
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Your son will succeed in life with or without the TAG program, not because of his great intellect but because of his great heart. Let him follow his heart. The world is full of opportunities for him to cultivate his mind, but let him do it on his own terms. You have a son who loves his sister and is patient and kind. He appreciates his friends and doesn't aspire right now to move away from them and set himself apart. Even if he stays in regular classes now, by the time he gets to middle and high school, he will automatically start moving away from some of his classmates, as he discovers that he easily grasps abstract concepts that other kids struggle with. The patience he has learned from helping his sister will help him in dealing with the differences he discovers between the way his mind works and the way most other minds work. At this point, if he is not bored in school and he is happy with his life, why pull him out? Let him develop his own enrichment program based on his own passions and interests. He will do just fine. He sounds like he has wisdom, which is far more important than mere intelligence. He has already told you what is the right thing for him.
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It is OK. But religion has nothing to do with this. Tell your 12 year that his time will come. he must concentrate on his studies.
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First year is pretty intense, so he needs to be ready to study a lot.  All the reading of difficult cases will take some getting used to as well.  In the first year basically all of your classes are decided for you -- Contracts, Constitutional Law, Criminal Law, Property, etc.  Be prepared also to be in an environment where students are more competitive than they were as undergraduates.  My advice:  work hard, make outlines, and keep a balance -- don't let school become your entire life.
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If you are intentionally trying to teach him information (like ABC's, sight words, and numbers)... make it a game... and keep your teaching "sessions" short and simple.  Don't worry if he isn't interested... he will learn when he goes to school... teachers have amazing ways to get them to learn without them even knowing it.
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It sounds like he desperately needs a trained Gifted Education teacher to provide him with adequate supports.\n\nThis sort of problem is common in the Gifted, and most regular education teachers don't have the training to handle it effectively. Are you living in a state where Gifted education is under the special education umbrella? If so, get him in for an IEP immediately. If not, look up your state DOE gifted education policies, and get him help.\n\nhttp://www.hoagiesgifted.org/underachiever.htm\n\nhttp://www.metagifted.org/topics/gifted/underachievement/\n\nhttp://www.brainy-child.com/expert/gifted-underachiever.shtml\n\nhttp://www.kidsource.com/kidsource/content/underachieving_gifted.html\n\nhttp://www.medem.com/MedLB/article_detaillb.cfm?article_ID=ZZZEW4HOBAC&sub_cat=18
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No way!!\nAge is no factor here. But the dgree should be I think atmost 4 years old.
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You know, age 13 and 7th grade was my absolute worst year, ever.  Congrats on surviving it!  Just breathe, it'll all sort itself out soon enough, you don't need to worry about it or be confused.
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yes yes yes!  hold him back sooner than l8r if nessisary!!! in 1st grae he'll get closer to his friends, and 1st grade is when i found my best friends.  everyone will remember him as 'hey isnt that kid the one who was held back' dont wait!\n\nps im 14 yrs old in 7th grde, we still have that kid in 6th tht everyone remembers as the kid held back in 1st grade.  and kindergarden isnt as big of a deal cuz u havnt made good friends yet
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yeah, i can help.  i can help you be a better parent by giving you some advice:  don't do your son's homework for him.  you are sending him to school to learn, aren't you?  how is he going to ever learn how to do anything if you spend days doing his work for him?  \n\nsure, he might end up with an A in first grade, but who cares about what you got in first grade?  you could make an argument that grades are important to his future if they are high school grades, but it's far more important that he actually *learn* things at this age.\n\nsheesh.
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I am a special education teacher, and also the mother of a child with special needs (learning disabilities, ADHD, OCD, and a bunch of other diagnoses).\n\nMom to mom.... don't freak about this.\n\nYou hit the nail on the head when you noted that HE is not phased by the idea of doing kindergarten again.\n\nThe BEST time for repeating grades is in Kindergarten and/or 1st grade.  This allows him to get a good foundation of those basic skills, rather than falling farther and farther behind while being presented work of greater and greater difficulty.\n\nEven at higher grades, if he did the repeating thing early on, most kids won't notice that he's that much older than them. However, bullies will be bullies, and they find something to pick on with everybody... just report them and the school should deal with it.\n\nWhen he is 30 years old, nobody will care if he graduated at 18, 19, or even 21! All they'll care about is whether he has a high school diploma or not. If he goes to college...the college won't care what age he got the high school diploma, either!\n\nYou said he is in a private school. Is he getting speech therapy for his apraxia? Is his teacher trained in special education methods? You do know that the public schools will still provide speech therapy and special educator resource services for children in private school (required by law).  \n\nIf this private school he's attending didn't get you and him linked to the services he needs, if their teachers do not have special education training... I would strongly recommend that you seek a different school for him. With his learning differences, he really needs teachers highly trained in instruction methods for kids with language disabilities and ADHD, as well as speech therapy. How's his handwriting? Have they discussed Occupational Therapy for him? \n\nTwo years retention is really the most he should ever have. In public school, especially in special education, retention is rare and usually only involves repeating kindergarten once and/or 1st grade once. Additional instruction needs are taken care of through pull-out special education with specialists trained in helping students with learning differences build their learning skills.\n\nThe earlier the correct intervention, the better off he will be in the long run. \n\nIf you want to keep him out of public schools for faith reasons, you may need to look at moving to a place where there is a Christian private special education school.  If you can't afford to move, you may have to trust that your and your church's instruction of faith will be enough to compensate for the concerns you have with public schools, and send him to the special education teachers and therapists that can give him the academic help he needs. \n\nLook at these sites:\n\nhttp://www.wcris.org/WebFiles/ResourceFiles/ESeries4.doc\n\nhttp://www.policyreview.org/jan99/fox.html\n\nhttp://dpi.wi.gov/sped/doc/prischpart.doc\n\nAn example of public school provision of special ed to private school students: http://www.sandi.net/comm/factsheets/special_ed_pppss.pdf (requires Adobe Acrobat)\n\nFinding a new private school? Try these:\n\nhttp://www.privateschoolreview.com/\n\nhttp://www.stlrcga.org/x439.xml (many states and large cities offer this sort of listing)\n\nhttp://www.napcse.org/\n\nhttp://www.schoolfinders.net/\n\nhttp://aerkis.com/\n\n\nTake care, pray on this, and trust that G-d will guide you.
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a 7th grader like u is too much young to be in love, forget about being in love with him and think of being just friends with him, i think that will be better for now.
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If the education takes three years, I have to join the others and say encourage him to finish it. Even if it is not for him, he will have the degree, and if all else fails, he can fall back on it and take temporary jobs that he is qualified for, until something else comes up.
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This is really great news! It means that your son is a bright boy with lots of potential. He is capable of doing his work and getting good grades. If he chooses to do his work, follow directions, do his homework....he should be successful in school.\n\nThe key is that he has to do what is required of him. I don't want to say that learning will come easy to him but he has the potential to do better than most students.\n\nKeep encouraging him and challenging him. He has a lot going for him which can help him in life.
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This person may be old in chronological years, but he is still very young at heart.
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It is important you know what is going on in the schools and how your child is learning and if they are smarter than the education they are getting.  Being involved has teachers treating your child better.  Keep informed on all that is going on and volunteer to help.  That way you have the inside track if something is not going correctly.
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It is most likely some kind of honor your son is being nominated for by one of his professors. I would imagine its probably for something in his major, and it is most likely a pretty nice accomplishment. Id congradulate him.