I am caught in between two friends.They use to be bestfriends but their friendship went sour.Now they are sort of bickering between each other through me.And they are telling me how the other is so wrong about this and that.I want out of the foolishness but I still want to be friends with both of them.what should I do to remove myself from being the middleman without either of them being affended?
136986
Be honest with your friends, tell how they make you feel and they should get their act together without making you the middle person.
447583
looks like friend 2 is trying to steal friend one from you...ask friend 1 if you can talk to her privately and see what's really wrong...this happened to my too i decided to stop being friends with those losers and get some cool kid friends my other friends wanted me back but i was like hellz no..well the point of my story is ive had my "new" friends for 5 years now so...yeah! good times
505977
Brush you're self off and get back up... You don't need so called best friends who all of a sudden stop being you're friend there not worth you're time or you're friendship..so move on and find another friend who is worthy of a true friend like yourself...Keep smiling!!!!\n\n    Hey don't Listen to Zink she came in here and gave everyone thumbs down on helping you out about you're best friend now what kind of friend would she be? Not one i would want BACK STABBERS stay away from them!!!
670994
If you are good friends, why would you jepordize that. If you think it won't change things between you then your kidding yourself. If you cross that line, you can't ever go back. You must decide if things go bad after it happens, are you willing to do that and lose a friend just to find out what it would be like?
144112
I would say just talk to her.  If you come on too strong, then you may never talk to her again.  Be pleasant and offer friendship...oh and be yourself.  There is nothing worse than finding out later that you are not who you claimed....to avoid tripping over your words...just be open about yourself from the beginning and if anything else, you will gain another friend.\nGood Luck!!\n:)
298287
first of all, make up your mind as to whether or not this so called best friend is being mean to you or not.  are they or are they not being mean to you?  and decide if this best friend is singular or plural.  who are "they"?  you aren't schizo are you?\n\nsecond of all stop calling them your best friend.  best friends aren't mean to each other.\n\nthird of all, get some new friends.
67940
Well you can't control other people's feelings and to try to do something to break the relationship up is not being a friend to either of them. The only thing you can do is go on with your life and meet other people.
284695
tuff.... well unless you can go on about a 2 wk vacation to relax not sure what you can do besides slowly distance yourself from both friends... slowly but surely take urself out of the circle... she must think your special if she wants to hang out with you all the time... if you hurt this friend you might just loose your best friend.. so either choose to accept them both, or distance urself from both... sounds like your only options to me... or you could i guess change jobs !!!!! God bless
634767
This used to happen to me all the time when i was younger.  I used to call myself the messanger because i would feel obligated to run around playing he said she said.  Dont allow it to happen.  Just tell them that its not your place to be stuck in the middle and it makes you feel very uncomfortable when it comes to choosing one or the other because its not fair and if they make you feel that way or push you to choose the "best friend" of the two then they really arent freinds and are not taking your feelings into concideration.  Just tell them its none of your business, its not your fight and you would rather keep to yourself.  you dont have to pick either or, hang with one friend one day and the other the next.  if one starts talking bad about the other let them know straight up that you dont want to get caught up in the situation and whatever they say about the other isnt going to make you like the other any less.  if the refuse to stop just leave!\n\nabout the boy part, guys do not fight over silly things like i had it first or i saw him first.  Guys are cool and actually listen to what you have to say, especially if its about friends or what you like or want to do when you get older.  guys think girls are interesting and thats the cool part about it because even if you feel a little awkward at first they always have a way to make you feel like its  ok its only natural to conect with people of the opposite sex even when a relationship isnt involved.
20235
It sounds like you are being stabbed by 2 people at once.  The best thing you can do is be nice and polite when they come around but dont give out any information and find other people to hang w/.  Dont get confrontational either.  You will just be lowering yourself to their standards.  If they ask you why you dont want to be w/ them anymore, simply say that you needed to talk to the others.  After saying that so many times, they will get the picture and back off you.  I promise that.
101328
This new friend seems like she's a lot more in tune with you than your old friend.  It's OK.  In my lifetime, I have gone through many best friends... only because as you grow up, your needs change and so does the company you keep.  If this new girl seems like someone you want  to spend more time with, do it!  Don't get rid of your old friend, and for goodness sakes, don't have a huge fight with her or anything, just try to ease out of the time you spend with her...  Make new friend, but keep the old... as is said.  You can have a great friendship with both, it just may be different as time goes by.  This new girl, probably won't be you best friend forever either... but for now, if she's what you need in a friend, then be her friend and don't feel bad.  Good Luck!
313389
Girls are weird when it comes to friendships.  Usually when they say **** about each other is because the first one that started saying **** about the other, was in some way jealous of the other.  Then when the other one started saying **** about the first one, it was because she was hurt by being talked badly about.  I don't know if that is what is going on in that situation or not, but most likely.  I don't know that there is really anything that you can do, other than not get in the middle or take sides.  If one of them say **** about the other to you, just tell her that they are both your friends and you do not want to get in the middle or be put in a situation to where you feel like they are wanting you to choose between the two of them.  I hope that everything works out well for you.  Best of luck!
614950
I went through the same thing with my best friend. She did a complete 180, started doing drugs having sex etc. and it turned into a huge fight. I confronted her about it and told her how pissed it made me. We didn't talk for the next six months. Then slowly we began to hang out again. We are now talking and hanging out but it will never be the friendship we once had. You need to confront your friend then ignore him completely until your ready to reestablish a friendship on YOUR terms. Like I said it won't ever be what it was but you can at least save something.
43376
I'm with these people, you dont have to be picking between friends. If they dont like the other people you like thats something they have to deal with Not you. Unless they work something out amongs themselves they need to grow up and stop the kiddy games.
48662
Sweetie, I'd delete them right back.  You were friends for seven years and they zapped you just  like that?  Your friend didn't consider you a friend.  You have to face it and find a better friend.  Your friend left you for a reason and because they were really cold, you should just  let them go.  They are saying they don't want you around.  Nothing you can do about that.  Can't force a friendship on someone who doesn't want  it.   I can be your yahoo friend if you want.
356003
Bow out gracefully, stop paying for anything and leave them to each other.  Then go find some new friends.
468027
Keep both. Tell them taht you want both and that they have to accept that fact that you won't be exclusively one's best friend. If they won't accept you under these conditions, are they friends at all?