my sister is 17 and going in between 2 guys she cant seem to choose who she wants one is her age very immature, but he likes her ALOT...the other one is 21 they brokeup so he could get his shit together...he still comes around (as does the other one) well hes talking about them getting married. she and the 21 year old have sex and everything even tho their not together. he comes over when he wants some other wise he dont bother to show. as for the kid her age hes a virgin but hes wanting to have sex with my sis and she likes him alot too can you give her advice on what to do? which one's better for her? i cant seem to talk to her about it maybe your advice will help.
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she should let them both go, a go make a life for herself with friends and people who like her for her self,\n\nafter she is good with being who she is, then she should start dating, and she will know by then how it feels to have self. only then could she make a desision
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umm well ok.\n\nfirst off if she wants a 3-some, you'd better talk to her about it. if you feel uncomfy in the idea thata  friend or even your sister are in the same bed together then she should understand, and if you dont like the idea then id simply tell her how weird it makes you feel and such.\n\nif she really wants to, then i would try to find someone you'd feel comfy with. like your sister would probably make you feel pretty creeped out and such. so mabie a good friend of hers or yours? \n\nand its alright if you all do 'that' together. just be comfy with it, who its with, and use protection so you dont get teh second gal prednat or your girfriend. ^__- and make sure there 'of legal age' or they can press charges if they get pregnant.\n\nother than that i see no real problem with it. most men would probably be running with joy over the idea that there gal wants a 3-some ^___________-
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Hi there!\nWhen I was 16-17, I came out to my family. They immediately told me it was a phase, that I was trying to get attention, etc. . . At that point in my life, nothing was really " curling my toes" so to speak, so I figured hey, I'll take the course of least resistance.  If I am not going to be happy anyway, at least my family would be ok with the decisions that I made. .. . \nFast Forward 11 years. By this point, I've gotten married and divorced, dated a lot, and the whole time had fun little "flings" because who was it hurting? \n\nWell, all of a sudden, I met someone who DID do all those things for me. .. . that alleviated the panic I felt when I thought about my future. Did I know all the answers? Of course not, but I did know who I would be with. All of a sudden, I realized what making love was all about, what true intimacy was.\n\nAnd I don't want to be away from my partner- which doesn't make me *****-whipped, just that everything is more complete with her. \n\nA question for you: Do you need time alone with your sister? Or are you cool with hanging out with her girlfriend, too? \n\nWhen you're in a relationship, it gets harder to be spontaneous, but your sister probably doesn't even realize that you feel like you're being shut out.  Make plans with her ahead of time. You can ask if you can have a sisters night, or whatever. \n\nDoes your sister know that you are completely accepting? That its ok for her and her lover to be themselves around you? My partner and I love to be around other folks, but not unless we can be comfortable expressing ourselves around each other. ( Try going back to calling someone by their first name when you only ever call them " honey" or "babe". \n\nWhen siblings enter different life phases, it can be tough, but this is a chance to let your friendship with her grow, too. \nBest of luck to you, and I'm sure your sister feels very lucky to have you.
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younger or older it doesn't matter it alll depends on the person. You can't let your two bad experiences ruin your whole perspection of younger men. Some are actual okay. I say you talk to that ice piece of eye candy and see how that goes. Remember Stella had to take a chance to get her groove back.
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Sorry but I have to answer your question with a question. 'WHY IS THIS GROWN MAN HANGING AROUND CHILDREN?'\n\nLook the age difference unfair  to both parties. When she's 18, he'll expect her to at like she's 24. And by the way Mister, when will you start maturing?\n\nLET THIS CHILD BE A CHILD.  She should be worring about her driver's licesne and promo dress and where she's going to attend college at.\n\nI WOULD CALL THE POLICE, JUST TO PROTECT THE CHILD. This has happened before, and when everyone said nothing will happen, well let's say that they were all wrong. AND RELIGION DOESN'T MEAN ANYTHING IN THIS CASE. ASK MOST CATHOLIC PRIEST.
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Wow! Myself, I don't know how should I react with that situation, but surelly what should I DO. But anyway, let me tell you what my SISTER DID.\n\nBut first, I think that when you have sex with someone, you must be ready for its consequences. If you are not ready for receiving and dealing with whatever news come after the sex act about a disease, and a non planned child, DON'T HAVE SEX, PERIOD!\n\nMy sister got pregnant, she planned this child with her husband. Well, at her 5th or 6th month of pregnancy, doctors discovered that my nephew had SEVERAL strange/big problems, which between them was deformation, problems in his vital organs (stomach, liver, lungs, pancreas), and other brain/mental syndromes. Two doctors told my sister to ABORT, they offered her to make it for free also. But she doesn't agreed.\n\nWell, we believe in God and we placed all in His hands. People around the world also helped us to pray, and today, my nephew is 4 years old, he is AWESOMELY SMART, and he has no problem at all. But yes, God let on His body a mark of was He did with him, and is that all his internal organs are twisted horizontally (all what should be in the right side are in the left, and vice verse).\n\nSo, a person that decides to abort or not to take care about his child, doesn't deserve to even have a chance to live (THE SAME DECISION THAT HE/SHE WANTS TO TAKE: KILL [ABORT]). It is not easy, but if you get focused, and commit in love, your life will be great and honorable!
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its not your sisters fault.... it is the law....   he knew he was breaking it......\n\nif he won't speak to her anymore...then he is probably just being cautious about getting caught in bed with her again......  because talking leads to other things a lot of the time.....\n\nhe may very well get locked up.....\n\n18 and 15...i don't see anything wrong with it...... but it is illegal.... 3 years age difference is nothing at that age... now if he was 14 and she was 11 there would be a problem.....
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I think sex is something very personal and means something different to everyone. I do think that the first time you have sex it should be with someone you care about and mean something because if nothing else, it is (for the girl) painful and for the guy kind of embarassing if it doesn't work properly and I would think that someone who loves you and cares for and respects you would make the experience a lot more pleasurable and a lot more meaningful. That being said, waiting till marriage is an unreasonable message to send your brother. If he wants to do that, it's his call, but I wouldn't put that on him. It's his decision, and he needs to be comfortable with that. They say the only expectations worth living up to are your own, so don't put expectations on him. But sex is fun, I'm sure you know, and it's something that is inbuilt in us, a desire for sexual pleasure and a desire for intimacy. But don't teach him that the two are inseparable, but they are linked. Sex is better with someone you care about, but not limited to marriage. That was a reasonable expectation hundreds of years ago, when there was no contraception but we have that now and we can protect against pregnancy and stds, so it's a good opportunity to get to know what you like and experience some fun.
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Your sister husband needs to step up to the plate and not leave this to her,  he playing it safe , the dad needs to grow up but if that does not happen maybe you could help, don't sit back and wait for it to get bad as it will, trust me already been there is there another male figure that he will look up too? dad would really set him straight but try another male or church youth minister
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no girl at 17 needs to be with a guy like that, i would sit your daughter down and have an adult conversation about if this is the type of life she wants, a guy who can't afford anything, shrinks responsibilities and screws around? come on tell her to have enough self respect to know that he is gutter trash and not worth her time!
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Of course your man shouldn't be angry. It's your sister that he likes, not you. And being a good sibling, you should try getting them hooked up. I have tons of guy friends myself, and am not dating, but I like helping out my sister. She needs all the help she can get...
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I was kinda in the same situation your half sister is in.I was seeing and moved in with a man everybody was warning me about.The more they said to me about him , the more I tried to make it work.It didn't take long for me to find out they were right and I left him one day while he was at work.I packed everything I could get int my car and left.If this man you are talking about is really a bad person, your half sister will see it. Just back off and let things happen.Nobody wants to hear "I told you so" That might be what's pushing her into the relationship.If things get out of hand with the kids and you KNOW he is hurting them in any way, maybe you should turn him in and let the law handle it.If he can't see his own 2 kids there is definitely something wrong there. Good luck!!
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I wouldn't do anything. He's not sleeping with his cousin, he's fantasizing about it. Everybody has fantasies, not everyone lives out those fantasies. He'll get over it eventually. If he has a good relationship with your sister, then leave it alone. What really matters is that he's treating her right. Who knows, she may be benefiting more than you think because of his imagination. I would just tell him in the future, to not share those kinds of thoughts with you, because it puts you in a weird place that you don't want to be in.
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you are entitled to have a relationship.  Your sister is 30 and is single and no kids, maybe she is regretting that she never had a relationship like the ones u have and doesnt want u to be happy just cuz shes not h appy.  Go on, have fun, find urself the one, hes out there somewhere. trust me
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If the guy was REALLY interested in your sister and ending his marriage, he would have done so already. \n\nMy advice to your sister is to find a SINGLE guy out there and forget about the married guy.  It will only make her happier in the end and she won't be sitting around waiting for something that won't ever come to fruition.\n\nBesides that, he cheated on his wife with her.  What is to say that he won't tire of your sister and cheat on her after they are married?  He is a loser and needs to be kicked to the curb.
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This is a tough one, but not unusual. Many girls your daughter's age are attracted to the "bad" boy. She probably has no interest in a decent guy right now. One thing you need to be careful of is not to be so adamant in your distrust/dislike for this young man that it drives your daughter closer to him. You can't get her to stop liking him. In fact, girls your daughter's age often desire to find someone who "needs" them.... and if she senses that her bad boy needs someone to rally to his defense, she'll do it. I would calmly and clearly explain your concerns to your daughter. She's old enough where she has to make her own decisions, and her own mistakes. You just need to be there in case she makes a bad move with this guy. Good luck.
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You're only 13, it is your sister that is pregnant.  Be supportive but you have your own life to take care of.  Tell her you love her and love your new niece or nephew.  Enjoy your teenage years and don't get pregnant yourself.