We do love eachother, but that doesn't change the fact that he frequently pisses me off by things he says and does.. and mostly through no fault of his own, since we are just very different people..\n\nIt's not like I would break up with him beacuse of it, there are lots of great stuff too.. but I also don't wanna be pissed at him all the time!! and when I tell him we get into fights!!\n\nShould I just deal with it to avoid fights? What should I do?
138319
just talk to him about what makes you mad...my boyfriend does the same things, and when i tell him something i don't like, he stops, or if he does it by accident, he's really sweet about it and makes up for it...also, if he's pissing you off, make sure he knows it at that time, cuz if he doesn't, he'll keep doing whatever he is doing wrong...make sure he knows you really want it to work, and you'll do whatever you can
273091
I've been there too. thing is they dont want to work on the relationship. if u have some one that acts like he dont care or that will jes walk off after an arguement, do the same to him. treat him like he treats u. if he stays then he wants to try to make it work, but if he leaves then good. u deserve to be loved as much as u love others! dont settle for less.
95859
every couple has there differences but they should be no reason to break up with them... talk to him about it and tell him how you feel.  good luck!
134333
You've got to be able to discuss your differences and share your feelings, but that doesn't mean it has to be fighting.\n\nSometimes our communication styles just aren't compatible.
21243
Yes.  You are fighting now, so staying with him will not make the fighting go away.\n\nYou don't miss him.  You miss what you hoped the relationship would be.  You will find this feeling in a new relationship.  Move on!
421700
Sounds like you both are trying to work through this. Unfortunately sometimes arguments do occur, the only thing is when the dusts settles what then? I believe that by him not telling you right away that this or that was not exactly what he expected seems he is trying to be tolerant. Where he is trying maybe not to impose on you all the time what he think or how he thinks things should be. But if he bottles it up and then waits to explode letting you have it all at once, you are right he really should tell you then and there. Not bottle it up and make him resent or get so angry.  He has to realize you fess up to things you tell him "Oh I had no idea I was coming across that way" so he has to know you are not intentionally doing things to  irritate him. Keep talking, keep telling him to tell you.  Tell him "Hey let post this or that and have people who don't know you and don't know me, tell us what they think is going on. People who have nothing to gain"  People who do this just because we've all been there and think Hey maybe someone else can benefit from past mistakes.   Good Luck to you and him I really hope it works out for you two.
600258
Getting into fights over little unimportant things is usually a sign of bigger issues.  Just remember most relationships are made to end.  If it's "over" don't fight it.
25757
Communication is so totally the cornerstone to a relationship....I mean...a *good* relationship.\n\nI've been on both ends of this; fed up and worn out from not getting along and all the tension.....and on the other end....to just be with a cold-hearted woman. It hurts both ways, but for different reasons.\n\nThe communication that I was referring to could be.......maybe your 'ex' is just not in tune to you and what you feel, and when you feel it. That may or may not be his fault. Meaning.....he could either be emotionally barren (his fault), or you could give him unclear, conflicting messages (not his fault). But anyway, he may not really know you are at that level of sadness *until* you cry. Up to this point he may think you are being mean or cold to him, to which he responds to you in kind.....not understanding what's going on in your mind or heart. When guys get angry....I'm *kind of* like this too (to a degree)....we like to blow up, be left alone, and then later.....we're cool,\n\nHe may have interpreted your reaching for him as 'tenderness' when he wasn't in the mood for tenderness. He may have felt frustrated by the sentiment change....arguing one minute and then a display of love the next.\n\nI'm not discounting the fact that....he could just be a flaming jackass.\n\nWhen it was blatantly obvious he had hurt you tho, maybe the nice feelings he actually does have for you were touched and he wanted to offer compassion.\n\nI doubt his feelings are fake. Communication of feelings and thoughts are so important. To learn and understand how someone shows their love, and then accept that as it is given instead of trying to change them to give it the way we want it. People have to talk honestly, not laboriously, but to just talk....have fun, and pay attention and really learn who each other is as a person and how they communicate.\n\nSometimes it *is* best to go separate ways, and if that happens to you, I'm sorry for you both, but that means the person you (both) are meant to be with is still out there somewhere.   :)\n\nEither way I wish you both luck. Relationships are a tough gig.
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Well the more you love someone the more there is to argue about. You want to make sure the other person is safe and not doing something bad so you argue. What I think you should do is go out on more dates. And recendle that fire you guys seem to have lost. Do something that you have never done and never tough you would do. Good luck
181875
Sounds like your just using the arguing to express ur feelings and or maybe get noticed ...try sittin down and talkin about it when yall get in to a fight and im sure youll see there isnt a big enough reason to leave each other for ...good luck
67892
You may love him, but obviously he doesn't love you the same way or he wouldn't hurt you and make you cry.  It sounds to me like you are in an abusive relationship.  It may not be physical abuse but at the very least it is emotional abuse and that is just as bad.  Do you really want to spend the rest of your life with someone who treats you this way?  By staying with him you are simply telling him that what he is doing to you is ok.  Do yourself a favor and see this relationship for the fraud it is.  It takes two people to love each other to make a relationship and what your recieving isn't love.  You need to do the hard thing and let this relationship go and find someone who will truely love you and not abuse you.
135546
Probally cause you have a anger and control problem, before you loose him I would consider going to the people who can help you deal with this and get some counseling. Onedeay he may get tired of your crap and leave you, then you will be misserable.
668872
Hey Buddy,\nperhaps give him space. It can be VERY difficult to do. I actually just ended a 6 year relationship that yes like you we were both in love and boy did i love him...but we argued too much! it ends up becoming sole destroying....\n\nI am in a new relationship now and my motto is to try and NEVER have a fight....3months and going well!! (this is why i live in passive agressive canada lol) \n\nGood luck!! dont give up hope! i think i am like you and clinging too...but perhaps tell him you are thinking of leaving him for a little while. just a temporary break up. Stay monogomous but just dont see each other for 2 weeks...see how you go...
235796
We say alot of things when angry and it is usually the way we feel. I would not tell someone that he probably doesn't love you, but I will say make sure to watch his actions and go by that. He will never change and it will only be useless to think he will. You can only change yourself. Keep your head held high and never compromise what you believe in..
99864
i think you should talk to him. both of you need to find out what is the problem that has both of you too constantly arguing. Maybe you can both see about having like a couples therapy thing.  sometimes its best for someone from the outside to see whats going on. I think if both of you love each other so much you should do what you can to make it work if after all that your still arguing more than you not arguing well than maybe you two should go your seperate ways. it wont mean you two dont love each other just that you to aren't meant for each other. but i would do what i can before saying its over definitely. good luck and best wishes.
141491
Leave the ass a.s.a.p. You don't have to put up with crap like than, even if you do love him. He doesn't love you because if he did he wouldn't treat you like a dog.
182271
Dear Dear such a scene and how is it possible. You all fight because you all still are individuals who have  opinions. But you all are still friends because you all have good qualities to be Compatible, Adjustable and someone fun to get along with.\nFighting and still being friends assures the Fact that you both enjoy each other's Company a lot. So continue fighting because that is what helps both of you all to keeep the energy in the Relationship(Fight,talk, Patchup and Fight - a good clean cycle where you all pickup grudges and still come clean by forgiving each other for what has been done).\nSo try to keep up the True Spirit of Friendship that you now have.\nTry Dreaming and think how it would be if you did not have her in your life as your Best Friend(so much would be missing in your life and maybe hers too)