Me and my ex girlfriend are young, high school age. We just broke up but she swears she loves me and i love her, we want to go out and test the waters to maek sure we are right for each other. The testing the water thing was her idea, and it doesnt seem so bad. I brought up the idea of friends with benefits, cuz we did have good sex. Shes said she'd think about it. I'm the only person shes ever had sex with. How do i convince her to be friends with benefits, but we can still see other people and test the waters. Whats the advantages and disadvantages of FWB? Please only answer only if you have had a FWB before.
134452
I hate the friends with benefits shit!!
4680
You can always say I think we should test our waters for a little bit. Or I'm just not feeling it right now..I'm having a lot of stressful things going on and I need some alone time. Why would you want to be in something that you don't like anyways. And if you love something you always go back. You can just be friends with benefits.
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Why not?\n\nIf you have spent a lot of time getting to know a person and it doesn't work out romantically, it's great if you can still have a close friend.\n\nCalling 5 or 6 times a day, and wanting him to come over for protections sounds a little obsessive and unbalanced tho, and it sounds like she might want this man back.\n\nTalk to your man about how you feel and see if you two can work something out.
99969
What a jerk... i say lose him! Friends with benifits are over rated, and usually the guys that do the friends with benefits are jerks anyways, and they will never respect you. He was using you. Sorry hun.
160862
It seems to me that the both of you are more than friends with benefits.  If you guys are not together as a couple, than neither one of you should be jealous of the other, unless there are more feelings involved.  \n\nSit down and have a serious talk with him.  See exactly where things stand with you.  If he doesn't want more than, just being friends.  I would suggest to take the benefits away or let him go...  Life is too short to waist every minute on someone who is not willing to talk about the future....
566157
if it is a friend with benefits then it really is not neccesary to go into any detail.  he would just as well be truthful if it is a mutual agreement that it is ok.  you sound like you have more feelings than what you thought you had?
519181
you're friends with benefits, and that's okay. the emotional stuff will come later or maybe not come at all.  have fun as long as you're careful. if you enjoy each other's company then that's a plus. the only disadvantage is if either one of you wants to get serious, and if one of you finds someone else.
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i've had sex with several of my EX girlfriends much later after we had broken up.  i think once you've had sex with someone its easy to feel comfortable enough to go back and sex again. even if it's just a one nightstand with an ex. most of the time the ex is the one asking for it not me.
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Friends and Lovers aka Friends with benefits : this is when we hang out like friends but occasinally have sex or play around. This doesn't jeapordise the friendship but actually is a pro. If they have bf or gf, it doesn't matter. They are friends first. You can always ask Ludacris!\n\nGood Friends: These are your buds. They are the ones pulling you out of the shit. Probalby ppl you've known for years.\n\nBeing in love: This is stupid. Nothing but a bunch of feelings corroding your train of thought. Making you do stupid things because you feel nice around the person..that feeling makes you feel your are in love.\n\nJust kickin' it: That is what you do with either real new friends or real old friends. Just laying back and not really discussing anything. \n\nLove: Don't know!\n\nTrue Love: When you can love someone when you don't feel like it. Loving the unloveable!
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Look, just because you and him didn't work out as a couple, doesn't mean that you can't just be friends. Me and my ex of 13 years just went out to the movies together today to see "Silent Hill", I paid, he drove. We hadn't hung out for 3 years! I gotta tell you though, we had a blast just hanging out and being friends. I bought lunch after at "Jack-n-the-Box", and he came over to my house to eat it. It was the first time he had ever come to see where I lived since we separated. We have a daughter together, and for her sake, we discussed it, and came to the conclusion that, even though we parted on bad terms, we could set that aside and be friends. She was very happy to know we were being nice to each other. I would never have an intimate relationship with him again, but as a friend, he is a very good guy and a wonderful daddy. Do what your heart tells you. You know in your gut whether or not it would be a good idea to hang out with him again. Just remember that ex'es are ex'es for a reason...it didn't work out. Friendships are always nice to have though if at all possible. Good luck sweetie.
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Have you discussed that if you and him start to date that he should no longer have the friends with benefits?  Might want to set that standard before you date too long.  Could he change?  I'm sure he could.  But sex is important, you need to be upfront with that subject all the time.
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If you dont want to dont do it. Having sex with someone just cause they want in the end wont be helping you or them. You will lead them on and you yourseld may feel used or even bad for leading them on. If shes really your friend she'll understand you not wanting to have sex. Lovers sometimes come and go but true friends stick around forever, so if this is a true friend keep them aroud and dont turn them into a lover that may go.
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NO, don't do it! it seems you may have honest feelings for him, so do not do the friends w/ benefits. you will just get more deeply involved. what if he starts seeing another girl? honey  he's not the only man in the world, there's thousands outthere. all you need to do is keep your mind occupied and give yourself, your body value, love and respect. you know you deserve so much better than just being someone's sex object.
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Brandi\n\n That's a really tough situation.  You didn't say why he's an ex, but it's obvious that you both still have feelings for each other. \n\n You've got three options:\n\n1- Just friends: This is probably the toughest, since there's something on both sides that is pulling you together.  If you're in another relationship then you cannot take this any farther than "just friends."  Talk to this guy and ask him to help ensure the relationship stays platonic (not romantic).  Then be very, very careful to maintain your distance, so the kiss thing doesn't happen again.\n\n2 - Get back together.  Again, I'm not sure what heppened the first time.  There have been thousands of relationships that have split and then gotten back together.  Without knowing more details about the first time around, I can't say if that might be successful here.  But it sounds like you should at least consider the possibility.\n\n3 - Or just don't see each other at all - neither as friends or as lovers.  If neither of the above can work for you, this is the only course left.  It's tough, but you have to make a decision and stick with it.  Be very, very careful not to put yourself in a situation where either of you might slip.\n\nOne final bit of advice: men and women see relationships differently (in general; there are always exceptions).  Odds are that for you this is a heart issue, for him it's another body part.  I don't mean to be callous - he could be a sensitive, romantic, sweet guy, but there's a possibility it's still about wanting a physical relationship.  Or maybe you just have the hots for his bod - although from your question it looks like it's much deeper than that.  But keep that in mind as you explore those three options above.\n\nSo look at what happened the first time around, weigh your other relationship, what you're capable of, and what you know about him. Evaluate each of the three options.  The important thing is that once you make a decision, stick with it - go out of your way to make sure you follow through 100%.  Good luck, and I hope it works out great for you!
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Here are some questions to help you think about this.  I know it's hard to see your friends objectively, especially when you're attracted to them.  Still, try and be honest and ask:\n\nIs she likely to tell someone else what you've said to her? (Does she tell you the secrets of her other friends?  If so, you can't really trust her with yours)\n\nIs she single?  (If she's not single, the answer is no, don't tell her.  She'll tell her boyfriend- and even if she doesn't tell him, there's no future in it)\n\nIs she serious about an anti-gay religion? \n\nHas she ever mentioned any curiosity about lesbianism?\n\nOkay- my honest opinion is that it's a bad idea.  It's a rare friend that will be able to handle that kind of confession without getting weird.  As with most friends, a sexual attraction isn't worth losing the friendship, especially if you can't really see yourself going into an all-out lesbian relationship. As it stands, you're going to confess you want to hook up with her- for what benefit?  Say she's interested in experimenting with you.  You hook up, and then what?  Are you still friends?  Will you be jealous when she still wants to have sex wiht other people?  Think about the long term consequences.  \n\nWhat if she isn't interested at all?  At best, she'll pity you, and mistake all your friendly overtures in the future as attempts at seduction or puppy love.   \n\nBest case scenarios: you tell her, you hook up, you both discover that this works for you and you start a long-term committed sexual relationship.  Or, you hook up, one night only, you both think it's fun but agree you both need a dick for full satisfaction, end of story.  \n\nChances are these fairy tale endings in which you're both on the same page won't happen, and you'll lose a good friend in the process.
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i think it depends on age and what you want from a relationship.has this person got no interest in sex or is that just sex with you.by you asking this question you have doubts about being with this person, if nothings going  to change and you want it to, maybe you should think about splitting with this person and remaining good friends with them.\nas for me, coz im not the norm and if i really loved them,i would stay with them.
284626
Friends with benefits means he gets to bang you without having to actually say he has a girlfriend, in case something better comes along.