i dont want to marry, and im getting 1 type of force for marriage.i dont want to spoil my life.i want to do some job for my shining career.but in our caste the girls are not allowed to do job after getting married.plz solve my problem.
119435
You don't have to marry. Leave wherever you are for school in another city or country that doesn't have that marriage rule. Through school get an internship so you can get work experience. If necessary, apply for citizenship and get a work visa so you can get a real job. When asked why you're not married say "I'm concentrating on my career right now" or "I haven't found Mr. Right". Good luck.
357853
dont get married then...you will just end up in divorce court...and you may bring a little kid into all that
14135
I don't see what the fact that you work from home would have on whether someone wanted to date you.  At least you are working and supporting yourself.  I think it would be fine.  Maybe they are worried that because you are there all the time, you would be up their a$$, who knows.  Perhaps the fact that you are so adamant about wanting to get married is a bit much for a new prospect to deal with.  You shouldn't ever rush into marriage.  To me, that sounds more like what the ladies problem would be.
22973
it works with ruthless discrimnation\n\nyou are not supposed to marry, associate with, have business dealings with, or even acknowledge others outside your caste.
563799
from your complaints you would love Islam. For starters you do not have to work when you get married because the husband has to support you. He has to give you everything you want by remembering you will be the one who will one day give you children. If you do choose to make money he can not touch it. What is his is yours and what is yours is yours. \n\nThere is peace between the races because we are all from God. \n\nYou should read Quran and Woman; rereading the Sacred Text from a Woman's Perspective by Amina Wadud\n\nand  a translation of the Quran\n\nI only obey God because we are all equal before God\n\nBesides we do not have original sin Eve and Adam were both wrong\n\nWe have the same prophets and God as Christianity and Judaism
372715
a marriage is over when both people have no desire to fix it. marriage is hard work. you have to want things to change and work at them in order for them to get better. however, just from reading your question, you have already reached the point on no return.
381694
Sounds like at least one of you is afraid of being left. Or maybe you don't want to hurt each other by making a commitment and then leaving, so you just refrain from making a commitment... and you practice leaving.  Girl, you should only practice what you want to be good at !\n\nIn many parts of the world marriages are arranged. In other words, the sex is the first part of the relationship, and over time the couple can learn to know & love each other. \n\nI left my family & moved from New England to Minnesota, where my husband's family all live. It was a couple years of culture shock, but we're still together after almost 23 years of marriage.\n\nDo you trust him? Are you willing to trust ANYone?  If he changes, will you stay with him? (like, loss of health, financial worries causing depression, etc)... in my experience, Air Force fellows are top quality. Yes, the military changes a person -- military people  have been forcibly changed, so they can do their jobs & survive; that's not a bad thing, it's just a factor to consider.\nMotherhood changes a person, too.  Not all changes are permanent, but they're not all predictable either. That's where the trust comes in. Trust isn't a feeling; it's a decision.\n\nHe might have a need to be "at home" (in his case, it's Ohio); home is, by definition, where we feel safe.  Can you make your home somewhere other than Washington? I did. I used to live in rural Tacoma. I know how beautiful it is there. But family circumstances required I move, and I learned to appreciate New England. It took me 2 years, but I did it.\n\nMy recommendation? Meet his family.  (Wonderful guys usually come from nice families, so I bet they're nice). And marry him.
198319
Yes you will marry because your are desperate enough to ask about it to total strangers. Yes you will because getting married is the most important thought in your mind right now. If you live in a place where marriage is arranged by family, that might very well happen to you. Try to avoid it by being as atonomous as possible.\n\nInitials? well lets see. TRP. \nYou're almost 25 now. Well look at that my birthsay in July 20! Don't rush. Finding someone stable is not easy. Men are usually slower to commit.
560633
I think that as long as you think you want to marry her eventually she should be patient.  Marriage is something that shouldn't be forced and she needs to understand that.  People get all excited about the wedding but after that it's just you two.  If she forces it she will be pushing you away in the end.  Eventually you will panic and run.  She won't want that.
360344
Absolutely!! What girl doesn't dream of getting married and starting a family!! I think for the most part, most girls want that at one point or another! Sometimes, it happens early for some than it does earlier!! And going to a wedding and seeing the new couple together can make anyone excited for that type of committment! But it sounds like you have your head on your shoulders and know you don't want it yet, but yes, you are normal!! We all want the fairytale!! :-)
219553
Marriage is definately hard, especially when you think you have found yourself then discover a few years down the road you really don't know who you are or what you like.  Do not give in to the pressure, if I knew then what I know now, I would not have started a family until my thirties.  Your preferences change so much between the time that you graduate from high school, then college, then being responsible enough to purchase your first home.  You and your friends need to know that while the feeling of love is great, it does not pay the bills and marriage does not automatically make you or your spouse responsible.
179665
If you're not ready for it then don't marry her. Once you two are married the focus point is the child. Wait till you feel you are ready for a child in your life because if you don't and make any mistakes then you could disrrupt not only the girls life but also the childs.
589677
dont listen of all of them are u going to run to this man tell him marry me as my parents are forcing me to get married?haha hes going to be a man dont do that.during this time dont be in touch with this guy tell ur parents i wont get married now go off get a new job move to a new place then date man u love if not find a nice guy get married settle down marriage should be based on love and marriage shouldnt be for any other reason then two people themselves wanting to spend their life together not parents.
149974
It depends on what you want out of life. You will settle in life when you are ready. You will get married when you find the right person to live your life with. your life will be whatever you make it.
587690
Oh...boo hoo to you. Get over being envious and looking at what everyone else is doing or has done and do something for yourself for a change. you want in the army. Go. Have a blast. You want to get married. Find someone that will put up with your crap and marry you. Otherwise, just sit in front of your computer and cry like a child instead of taking action like an adult!
255529
i agree with you, i doubt seeing myself get married because when you do you are making a promise to be together forever through good times and bad & alot of people cant keep those promises thats why im probably never gonna get married there's no real point to it thats just my opinion
277720
I think that you are way too young to make a life decision like marriage. Despite what is shown on television and what celebrities do, marriage is supposed to be a life commitment. Do you feel that you can commit your life to someone at such a young age? Do you want to go to college, Does she want to go to college? How would this effect your relationship? Have you sat down and REALLY discussed the ramifications of getting married. Where would you live afterwords (with your parents?), how could you afford living together, etc.  It might suit both of you to speak to a third party, like a pastor or even a counselor before taking the plunge. You sound like a nice person, but remember the old saying (and Elvis song), Only fools Rush In