This is the Situation\n- Guy meets girl on net\n- Guy and girl talk for 2 weeks\n- Guys goes overseas but girl gives guy number\n- Guy and girl keep talkin online for 2.5 months\n- Guy confesses to girl that he really likes her and wants to take it further ( but guys is still overseas )\n- Girl gets a bit hesitant and not ready to commit but continues to chat with Guy \n- Girl then gets an offer to study overseas but guy tell her to stay and she stays.\n- Guy comes back to home country\n- Girl doesnt wanna talk to him on phone but wants to continue to chat with him on net\n- Girl sends messages like " i missed u " and " been waiting all night to hear that " and so on.\n- Girl still hesitant to meet and talk on the phone.\n\nWell im the guy, weve seen each others pics but whats the deal with this girl and any advice !!!!
119967
She is lying to you. Find someone else.
329707
you need to make sure she nows its fully over and he needs to do it cause it wouldnt be good coming from you.  cause the other night i rang a guy i was seeing and a chick answered and told me he didnt want to talk to me and she was his new girlfriend i rang a few times to try and talk to him to find out whats going on and  she wouldnt let me talk to him. i rang him the next day and he had no idea what was going on. \n\nshe may not understand that its over
210199
No. Not worth your time. There's so many guys you can meet, face-to-face, right now, that aren't so socially averse that they can only communicate via SMS. Move on.
661056
It's cool if you still wanna chat and make each other laugh...just be friends and leave it at that. He doesn't know what he wants and he's not ready to make any kind of commitment at this time. Don't try to force it if it's not there. Either wait a while till he's ready or move on.
31708
Change your phone number!  It sounds like another person likes one of you and is trying to break you guys up!  Change the # and be careful who you give it to!
530514
i had EXACTLY  same situation,,,love at first site, college ddays gone, never spoken to him.....once i sent him a sms abt frdship with my name n i got reply....now v r frds n chat half d day....\ndon t know whether it ll work 4 u.... don t risk t...hope u get d right advice....all d best...i understand how it is like.....
11051
I don't know if this will help at all but I know there are two stories I'd like to share first one is I was in canada not to long ago and this girl spoke to me in french ... not to well may I say but she pointed to her camera so I was like ok she wants me to take her picture so I did so and at the end she said thank you in french but and I responded with your welcome wich got her off gaurd and she was like hey you speak enlish and I'm like americans tend to speak that and then we talked for like an hour then we agree to meet up later and well I don't need to discuss later needless to say she's back in australia. Another story. I had just move to hollywood  ..... like 6 months ago lol and I saw this girl and I was like wow she's absolutely gorgeous I mean she wasn't in todays standard but I thought she was she had really short hair ... shorter than mine like 1/4 of an inch and this really cute smile and I saw her with this camera and I thought of going up to her and saying something but I was to nervous so a minute later she walked up to me which was a suprise but she came up and asked me if she could take my picture and I was like yeah sure where do you want me we talked for a little while and then I asked her out to eat if she wasn't busy so we went to dennys ... jsut to find out she's vegan haha. but we talked for like 3 hours and sadly I found out she was moving to oregon in a couple of days and then after that back home to chicago but although we only spent one night talking I think she has ment more to me than any girl I've ever dated and we didn't even date haha but if she had asked me to move to oregon with he I would of. any way hope it helps Mike
58788
There is no set amount of time to wait.  The guy should ask when he feels that he is ready to make that commitment, and the girl shouldn't accept until she feels ready to make that commitment.  Everyone moves at their own pace so go with your heart and let it be your guide.
306300
In the same boat with ya miss lady. My guy is overseas though. It's difficult because they figure once they 'got you' they don't have to keep trying, but interest can be lost at any point and he has to do his part to keep you happy as well. An email, phone call, text message, hey...even a post card is just a simple and quick way to say 'hey, I may be busy, but your are on my mind and I want you to know that." It doesn't take much for someone to make you feel like a million bucks. But lack of communication leads to loss of interest which makes you distant from him mentally as well as physically. He needs to step his A-Game up. You should worry a little, but I've noticed with men, you have to constantly TELL them what you want, unlike women we think back to the last point of our conversation before things went downhill. Men move on and don't worry, just send him a signal that he should worry and that you are losing interest on his part. Be subtle and smooth with it, he'll get the picture, nothing major to make him overly jealous but a red flag to get his heart beating a little so he'll know you might be out of his grasp if he continues....Good luck miss lady!
417872
me and my guy was online and i read him you question..this is da answer he gave me ....\n\n"We almost are in the same situation as you..I'm gonna go to another country for 4 years for my higher studies and she will only see me few times a year.. the thing is this is not as difficult as it seems.. dear sis you are not the first one to go through this.. there are loads of people who came through this or if not you have us... even we were pretty much worried in the first place as what to do... but let me give an advice to you... don't let go... just hold on...we are going to have a harder time than you even... cos it's a way longer period and we are both in seperate other countries which is not our mothercountry... so sister the distance doesn't matter...the only thing you have to do is to have a long distance dedication..... the key thing is to keep in touch as much as ppossible... not seeing your guy is tough... i know... but with time you may be able to adapt to that... just keep him in your heart..i'm just saying.. "so close no matter how far, couldn't be much more from the heart, forever trusting who we are , and nothing else matters.." goodluck sister... this will be posted by my girl who's in a country so far away while i'm writing this...\n\nhy im his gal hear ..darling  im teling u pls go ahead i dont regreat..taking the chance caz my guy is da best no matter how far he is his jus near my heart..and his all mine ..dont b scard i ws scrad my self....belive me ...i didnt know wht to do but jus go aead ..its better dan nt knwing wht u 2 wil end up with.
562263
Meet the online guy first before deciding. I don't really believe in online relationships. People decieve. You really have to meet this guy and let him take you out before deciding. \n\nAlso note that long distance relationships are difficult. You have problems with time zones and communication. You will never really be with him much. No one will be there to hug you and kiss you. It's really tough. \n\nPersonally, I would go for the one in real life. He has nothing to hide. Unless that online guy is planning to move to your area (or vice versa) a guy you meet online just won't suffice your desires.
494019
Tell him flat out, I like you but I am not going to have sex with you. Or hypothetically ask him what's the longest he's ever talked to a girl b4 sex, then drop the bomb on him. All the best. Don't give it up, you said you stopped talking once b4 because he was going to fast, so don't let him rush you this time. For some reason guys feel that they earn the privilege of having sex with a girl because they put in "time on the phone" Don't be a sucker for a quick witted man with a smooth tongue. All the best.
282447
i am in this situation. i have not seen this guy in 3 years. we talk online and message on the phone but i saw him two weeks ago and i had no idea what to say.  what i did was ask how hid day went and get talking on stupid things and the ice is broken. Just relax and it will come to you especially if you really like this person. Life is about screw ups. If all comes to fail say something really stupid and the both of you willl laugh about it later.
569187
ok, i am in a LDR and its working great!! so, background-we were best friends for two years before we started dating...we would talk for hours every night and had been there for each other through everything! so four months ago, we decided to start dating....now he is in college an hour away so its been kinda tough, just because we miss seeing each other more often....but we both trust each other in everything and b/c our relationship is based on trust and communication, getting to kno each other via phone, etc, it has really been working out.......we call each other for everything and have gotten so much closer....plus it makes the times we get to see each other more special!! =D so it depends on the trust factor really, otherwise there is no relationship.....well, hope this helps!!
273614
Are you Canadian?  If yes then expect this throughout your entire love life until you leave the country.  If not then tell him to move to Canada, he will find people like him there.  This guy need a kick up the ass.  But do it right, you obviously care about him, he obviously needs a bit of a Manhood boost so give him what he needs.  Take him Bunjee jumping or something like that, ask him a few hours later when he is still fearless and filled with endorphins and then give him the night of his life in the sack.  If a girl did that for me I would have no problem fessing up about my feelings, but then I'm not canadian.
35690
I met the guy I'm dating on the internet. He lived 12 hours away and wanted to come and meet me after about 5 months. I was in college and my professors and friends told me to have him come to the school to meet me. That way there were plenty of other people there and they could give me their opinions of what they thought of him. Never meet anyone alone where there are no other people or anyone you know. It's been over three years since that day and we are still together.
276198
The girl could have just been a friend.. Im a girl and have more guy friends then girl friends.  But who knows.   Have you talked to him since then?  Has he mentioned anything? Or have you brought it up?  Try atleast talking to him to find out what's going on.  After you find out wat's up, then decide!  o and if he keeps bringing her up in convos id be well aware... that's not realyl a good sign.