we r frnds (really good friends). i think she loves my best mate(im not sure tho). so its kinda hard for me to tell her how i feel abt her! but im scared..if she says no..im gonna lose her forever. i cant imagine my life  without her! i know she is the one for me. we know each other for 3 months. do u think its time i said her da thing ..if yes...how do i do it? giv me som unique ideas!
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Um, you really can't just kiss her cuse it will shocke her and might desturbe her very much so.\ninstead tell her this: WE have been friends for 3 months and yuo are like on of my best friends and are friends ship means a lot to me and I have to tell you something but I want you to promise me we will always be friends no matter what happens and then tell her exactly how you feel ask her out and you ttly won't lose her if you are friends that never ends love does but not friend ship not at all.\nSo even if she says no you can still be friends and when/if you break up make sure to say you still want to be friends she will be happy and so will you.\nI am a girl so take my advise not a guys cuse he will just mess you up big time and I know what girls wanna hear.\nGood luck hone. xoxoxo
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Ya, if her feelings for you are ever going to change from friendship to relationship, it's probably not gonna happen when she knows that your waiting for her. I've had friends in the past that have professed their love for me after we had been friends for awhile, pretty much, once your in the friend place it's really hard to come out of. I'm not saying it's impossible but her knowing how you feel probably isn't helping, she knows you'll be there untill she's ready. My advice...move on, still be her friend but date someone else. If there ever is a chance of her feelings toward you changing, it'll happen when she thinks she's lost you. Everyone loves a challenge ;) Good Luck!
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Dating "best friends" is risky at best, and more often than not it doesn't work out. Girls (you don't say how old you are, by the way) tend to see close male buddies more like brothers at times, so making the transition from friend to sweetheart is often a stretch for them.\n\nThe one thing I can suggest is to be open and honest.  Try telling her at some point, but don't wait until she's dating someone else.
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You might have feelings for her that she doesn't have for you.  Telling her that you love her would even make it worse.  If you value your friendship, you have to give her some space, give her time to realize that your friendship is important.  It's probably a good idea NOT to mention that you love her, especially if she only wants to be friends.\nIf it's hard for you to be friends, then unfortunately you are going to have to move on.  Many good friendships have been ruined when one person falls in love with the other, but the other doesn't fall in love back.\nGood Luck, remember, this isn't the end of the world, maybe the end of the friendship...but you'll love someone else again.
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Hey babe, your situation bites to say the least.. I've been there once or twice before and I've been on the opposite side as well. The way I handled the "rejection" was to take a step back and look at how my feelings were affecting our friendship. Once I did that I realised that we were not suited as lovers and that a close friendship was all that the both of us were capable of. \n\nIt takes a lot of time and patience to get to that stage though, so stay strong, when you're spending time together, enjoy it for what it is, stop looking at her actions as if there is a hidden meaning.. trust me - the only hidden meaning is your imagination! \n\nFrom the other side of the great love/lust struggle, when my best friend fell for me she declared her love and I let her down quite gently. For the first few days everything was great but by the end of the week we were constantly fighting and I felt that I couldn't breathe because she was smothering me with her attention. \nWe took a break for about a month and when we started really hanging out together again, she had cooled off and realised that she would rather have me in her life as a friend rather than chasing me out of her life by her desire.\n\nWhat you need to do is sit down and think about what this girl means to you and whether you can stand being around her until your feelings die down a little. \nIf the answer is yes, then maybe you need to limit the time you spend around eachother for a while and then you can go back to how things were before.\nIf the answer is no, then you need to take a look at your own life and try and come to the realisation that it may never happen and if your friend doesn't want to take you up on your offer, then you need to focus on yourself and spoil yourself until a truly deserving candidate comes into the scene :)\n\nGood luck, don't shed too many tears over her, try and broaden your circle of friends and soon enough you will rarely be thinking of her!
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If you're sure of your sexuality, why don't you start by going to her for advise? That will get the "telling her" bit out of the way. \n\nAs to you really liking her, it really does depend on whether or not she loves her girlfriend. If she does, then it wouldn't be right for you to try to come between them. Would it be worth losing her friendship if you did get together and it didn't work out? If she's not totally in love with her girlfriend, then try telling her how you feel about her, but do also tell her that if she rejects your advances, you will accept that & want to remain friends (assuming that you would be able to do that emotionally).
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if she is your BEST FRIEND, tell her how you feel. tell you don't want to put her in an awkward situation, but that you need to let her know, for your own sanity at the very least. being your best friend, she may be able to accept you even if you like her, but she may also turn away from you. remember that whatever you do, you risk your friendship with her. if she does decide that she likes you back, then great! on one last note, DO NOT TELL HER IF SHE IS IN A RELATIONSHIP.
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Hi/There.\nWell! My Friend !\nYou are simply in Love With this Girl !\nYou should find some time , as difficult as this may Be to talk to her !\n( Where there is a will. There is a WAY !)\nIf You tell her Your Feelings ! I am sure She will be very Flattered !\nIf Not ! ( what have You lost !)\nMaybe a little self Respect ? NO BIG DEAL !\nAll ways a NEXT TIME !\nGood Luck Bro !\nRegards Nick.
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how long have you been friends??? frankly, it really should be okay because you've moved on, right? unless, your friend is your bestfriend and she knows how you still feel about him, then maybe that's another question...so, maybe you need to ask your friend what is going on...you know, talk to her or something...but if she's not that close, leave it! like i said, you've moved on right? go find someone else better...someone who deserves you... ^_^
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you are in a very good situition right now. What u can do is to be her best friend. Let her know that she can tell u anything and u will always be there to listen. Then one day she may have a fight with her bf and break up with him so u can tell her that you have been waiting for so long to tell her that you really like her.
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if the two of u have been together long then it is still hard for her to face her true feelings.but she definitely needs u more than ever it's just hard for the words to come out . u should start slow and as friends u can relate to her because there is history but I'm sure she would be happy that u r there as a friend not pressuring her about anything just there to lend a shoulder. \n\nWell i hope this advice was helpful!
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answer to ur original question-no it's not bad n it doesn't make u abad person..UR HUMAN!!\nif i was u ....i wuld tel her,but also at the same time make sure that she understands that ur not trying to pressure her to fall in love with u too just cos she's ur bestfriend.u really shouldn't b expecting her to feel the same way if she doesn't...U SHUD JUST TELL HER FOR THE SIMPLE REASON THAT U CULD B CONTENT AFTERWARDS AS SHE WULD KNOW HOW U REALLY FEEL FOR HER...good luck!!
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wow that's a tough one, i personally think she should b off limits, that's a real low thing 2 do your friend, especially your best friend, i think i would flip if that were 2 happen 2 me, i would never talk 2 either of u, but i guess if u both feel 4 eachother than u have 2 follw your heart, love is very powerful, think very hard b4 u make your decision, is she worth losing your best friend, there's a reason y u guys r best friends, that's because he can trust u, that's y he see's u as a brother, follow your heart man, it will lead u in the right direction.
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I think the best thing for you to do is just be honest with her.  Let her know how you feel in a nice quiet moment, you'll know the time.  Share your feelings.  At the very worst, the two of you will stay friends.  At least you won't have to worry about not knowing.
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you really have to ask her what's the deal with what happened.but since i assume that she's your bestfriend,then i say that don't let a guy come between friendship.no matter how much you love him.and IF she wants him for herself and she lets this guy come between the two of you, then later down the road you won't be the one feeling guilty about a guy possibly ruining a beautiful friendship.
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You're NOT an idiot at all: your actions have shown both courage and devotion...two components of both true love and friendship. How she eventually responds will depend on your shared "chemistry" and where her life experience falls on the learning curve of love.\n\nI can tell you, however, I've been in her place and understand her perspective. A close friend revealed his feelings for me some months ago, and at first it was hard for me to see him as more than a friend (also, I feared losing his friendship!), but he responded similarly to your actions...proving over time he'd not pressure me, and truly cared for me in whatever capacity we could share our lives. Now, he's MUCH more than a friend AND we've found the strength of our friendship helped us overcome typical romantic spats, etc. The time spent in friendship made the love lasting. \n\nPlease do not feel foolish. You've been honest and patient. (Foolish would be never having the guts to tell her how you feel, or rejecting her when she didn't return your desires immediately.) Continue being yourself, and dedicate yourself to the friendship...give her TIME...possibly she'll see your strength and affection, understand the man you can be in her life, and return your feelings. \n\nEither way, here's a quote I like: \n"You are what you love, not what loves you."
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Well, maybe you should tell her how you feel about her! She may only think you want to be friends, so I would tell her soon. Ask her how she may feel about the idea of the two of you dating.  She may be happy that you have spoken up!  When you start dating a good friend sometimes it changes the friendship. You can only hope that the feelings for one another become more intense and more loving. If you happen to drift apart, then the original friendship may be forever changed.  I thought I would toss that in for your to consider. I mean if things do not work out well for you, you can only hope that you can still be friendly, and not resent any new fellows that may come along in her future if the two of you fail at your attempt at a relationship...do you see what I mean?\n\nGood luck, I hope she feels the same for you too, you sound so nice!