I am in love with a girl and I am in 7th grade. She's moving at the end of the school year. I really love her. She is beautiful and she has a great personality. I need people's help on this relationship! All my friends here are trying, but its not working well, so I need other people's advice. So... if any of you could help me, please answer this question. Thanks so much.....................\nDrew
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Drew, you are in 7th grade . . . what do you know about love.  I know I didn't know s*** about love.   \n\nYou should be more focus on yourself . . . instead of getting into relationships anyways.\n\nIf you want my advice to keep her . . . ignore her . . . do not spend a lot of attention on her.  Be unreliable.  Women want things they can not have.
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Aww, this reminds me of My friend Lauren and I. We got together, she loved me, I love her, but outside pressures made it very hard for me to cope with Us. I understand where  your girl is coming from and I also understand where you are coming from. You can't make someone stay if they don't want to. And you shouldn't try if you see that they aren't happy. Especially if it starts to make you unhappy. I would suggest letting her do what she wants. Let her know that you care for her and want her to be happy and that you are there for her but draw the line somewhere. Let her know that she does hurt your feelings by doing these things and let her know that she can't be so flippant and careless. Lauren and I are good friends now and sometimes I look at her and feel a pang, but I know that we would have both been miserable if we stayed together with all the problems we were having. Sometimes its better to let something go to keep a friendship than to draw out a love affair and have it end in hatred...Oh yeah, I think that she should take some time to figure herself out without any outside influences from you or other guys or girls. The hardest thing to do is to truly know and love yourself. You are always your own worst critic....Good Luck!
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my best answer would be to go with your heart if you really love this girl and she really loves you then you two will be able to toughen it out and wait till you guys can be together. just forget bout the other guys. if she loves you more you will know she does. try and forget about them. tell her how u feel don't hold it in. if you and her are really that close than she will understand and will tell you what shes thinkin. i hope everything works out for you!!!!!!!!!!\nGod Bless
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I would respect her for the person that she is and be a good friend to her and not take her where shes not ready to go yet. I wouldnt want to taint whats left of her childish wonder and innocents, or whats left of it. I would do everything possible to let her know you think shes a amazing person but yet keep healthy boundries, what would her parents do if you crossed that line? Probably bannish you from ever seeing her again. At this point i would stay close to her, but not close enough to touch, she has alot of growing up to do before shes ready for the kind of relationship your ready for. Just let her know that you care and she can come to you with all of her problems. But make sure you dont create any problems for her by showing her how you feel completely. I know its a complex situation, but you can handle your feelings being trapped inside for a few years that what she can handle knowing how you feel and not being able to act on them, at least with out any serious consequences. I hope it all works out for you in the long run, but make sure you stay far away from romance for another 5 years or so :) for both of your interests, but by all means be a good positive influacne for her journey threw adolecance, it can be a rocky road :)
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Nick, I'm not going to say "ditch" this "perfect" girl but I'm going to give you something to think about.\nWhat happens if you spend all your time on this girl when you never know that there's another more deserving girl looking from behind the scenes.  And, what happens if you waste all this time on her when suddenly you two go out and you find out that she's not so "perfect" at all?  Follow the advice of others, go into the dating game for once.  Probably this "busy" "senorita" will feel jealous and at the end will feel bad that she has been spending too much time on the books and all that most of the "great guys" will be taken?  \nMaybe, just maybe, you could wait.  You two are both young there's still time after high school to pursue love.  Right now, this girl is probably worried about her future and that's why you should wait for her.  You too should be busy with the "important" stuff because hey!  I'm sure all of us people who graduated from high school are probably thinking why didn't we do our homework instead of partying and stuff?
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one of the girls I went to high school with had a very similar relationship--they are still married today, more than 15 years later. Love comes wherever you find it--I wish you luck
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hi there, this must be a huge dilemma you're facing. i have experienced this before, i'm 19 and probably you would think that i'm too young to comment or give you advice on this but this would be my sincere reply to your question. firstly, is this a mutual feeling? does she love you to the extent as you love her? you mentioned that she loves you as a friend, have you confronted her and made your feelings towards her known? it would be best if you know how she really feels then you can decide on what to do next. if she loves you, and you love her too, and both of you are happy with each other's company- why let go when you can grow and allow a beautiful relationship to blossom? but if she doesn't love you in a romantic way, it is definitely advisable that you let go before it's too late. allow yourself to meet new people and give your chance and someone out there a chance too. it will take more than a short period of time to get over her and resume to the "just friends" status but it will do you good. if she's unsure, give her time to think about it. i hope what i said made sense, there's too much to speak on this. i hope that all will go well and you're able to come up with a solution. do not let this issue put you down, alrite? there are many other beautiful individuals out there waiting to be discovered. and i'm sure that she is also a special person.
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I think you should do what your heart says. If it is telling you that you love this guy, not a little middle school or high school crush, but actually love the guy, its a tough decision. I was in the same position about 4 months ago, but luckily it worked out for me, my friend did get over my now boyfriend. But I had to sit down and have a talk with her. I actually asked her permission to date him. I didnt want to lose a friend over a guy. It can work, and if she says its ok, then she would have no reason to be angry, but if she says no, she doesnt want you to, then just think of how akward it would be to go out with him? she would always be angry, and it would hurt her alot. What if she made a move for him without talking to u? wouldn't that hurt you? Talk to her, and really consider what you say, how you say it, and listen to what she has to say. do it when things are not rocky, or else it will go horribly wrong. It sounds to me like you two need to talk it out, and if necesary, not have either of you date him. it is weird for a while...trust me. and if she says its ok, then it may be akward for a while, but eventually she will be ok with it unless she really does like that guy. And also be sure this guy is really worth it. Trust me, if its a crush, it could ruin both friendships. just have one on one time with him and talk things out with him too. remember, comunication is key. without it, it can all splash in your face. and listening to how ur friend feels is always important, so dont blow it off, or she will be very upset. more than if u hadn't asked her in the first place. just talk to each of them one on one, get a perspective from both of them, and be sure this guy is worth it and make sure he isnt best as a best friend...make sure u want to take it to the next level. who knows, maybe u guys can be as cute of a couple as everyone claims me and my bf is...and one more thing, GOOD LUCK!!! :)
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I thought I was in love when I was in the 8th grade.I don't remember her name or what she even looked like.You will be in love several more times before you graduate college.Don't push it,just enjoy the feeling while it lasts.
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Whatever you do, DO NOT, I repeat, DO NOT risk anything to get into any trouble. Instead, try to make arrangements to meet outside school. You two love each other, and want to be together. I really don't see anything wrong with that, and I don't know why anyone would. I hope my answer helps you.
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Alright, first mistake, you haven't talked to her SINCE 1ST GRADE! Wow, you're a champ. Second mistake, you haven't asked her out. Take her on a freakin date. What's wrong with you? You like her, take her out, find out if she likes you. Even a little bit is fine, that opens the door. You'll grow on her if you're not a complete assbag. I recommend Chuckie Cheese's. It's a place where she can watch little kids, and it's okay for you to be pretty stupid, or normal, whichever fits you best. So go throw her in a shallow ball pit and make 'er land on top of a 4 year old little girl, and you'd probably have the best date of both your young lives. That's a story to be told to your f'in grandkids. Wow, I wish that happened to me. Well, you could always just club her over the head with a stick and drag back to your house and keep her hostage, like in caveman days. But some crap about society and laws and stuff. I dunno. It worked for me. Once. This cell IS pretty small though. Alright, take care. Love some cheese. Out
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Here's the best advice anyone can give you or Haley - Neither of you really love anyone (except maybe your families).  At middle school age you don't have the capacity to do anything but infatuate over each other.  She doesn't "pick out" a boy - this isn't the JC Penneys catalog.  She (and you) need to wait until you know what's up.  Unfortunately, if you look at some of the posts on Y!A, some people never know.
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i'm so happy for u! i fell in love w/ my bf at age 14 and we've been together for a year/7 months. take it slow, don't rush love. give it at least 6 months before ur sure. talk to her about ur feelings if u want but don't let anyone tell u ur to young!
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I was in love with this incredible girl, Morgan, and I have never loved anyone in my life this way. THe great thing was, she returned the same amount of love. I wanted to marry her (I still do), but we broke up a few months ago. She said the same thing. She felt pressured. I realized she had never been single in her life after she was 15, and she is now 22. That's a long time. I tried SOOOO hard to do things to please her and make her want to take me back. The thing I finally realized was that I was making it worse. I was making her feel more pressured than ever. I quit trying, and after some time, we started becoming close friends again. I wish we could be together again, but she needs to be free. Freedom is a very tough thing to find. What i didn't realize is that i was the one who wasn't free. I needed to find happiness in myself. Who knows what will happen? Maybe we'll get back together, maybe we won't. I will love her to the grave, but the only chance I'll ever have, is letting HER figure it out. I have, for the first time in my life, come to a point where I don't desire to have a girlfriend. That's an incredible accomplishment for me, since just 6 months ago, I was in a hurry to get married and have a family. That was part of my problem. I wanted to spend so much time with her, cause she made me feel like no one else could. But love, as I found out, is something you do, not feel. It is patient, kind and generous. I can still love her even though we are not together, and I don't have to think about her every minute of the day. I can focus on my band, my job, and more importantly, making myself a better person. I hope that helps!
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YOUR IN LOVE AND YOU'VE GOT EACH OTHER. HE JUST GOT A JOBL, THINGS ARE GOING TO BE VERY BLESSED IN YEAR TWO. SAVE THE MONEY, STAY IN AND PRAISE GODS HOLY NAME!!!\n\n\nGOD BLESS
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I'm sorry things don't seem to be working out for you. but, in general, alot of younger people feel that way. I do very often myself. but, you have to remember that God always works out everything for good. and about the girl...she seems great now but you have no idea what she would be like as a girlfriend with you..and you don't need to know..there's a girl out there for you and if she's it..she isn't yet. she's your best friend's girl and you need to be a good friend. try going out to see movies with some other friends and immerse yourself in a book or something. the only way you're going to get through this is if you want to. if deep down inside you don't want to, you won't..
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Dude, if she is such a great girl then this is really quite easy.  You sure as heck don't walk away.  School is going to take up a lot of your time and it is taking up a lot of her time also.  So in reality you two aren't really missing out on a lot of time together.  The key is to plan the times you can be together and make the most of them.  If you can see each other 4 times a year for 2 or more weeks each time then that is over two full months together a year dedicated to spending time together.  A lot of couples who live together barely spend that much time together.  Hold on to what you got and hopefully by the time you each graduate she will be ready for marriage and you two can then be together.