I met a guy online almost 4 years ago. We have been talking since on the phone and messenger. He is currently stationed overseas. We still talk almost everyday though. I know he wants to meet. But how do I know if its just for sex? My friends tell it most likely is for sex but I've known him for so long I'm afraid to ask. lol, I dont want to ruin what we have!!
126132
Girl, if you have known him for 4 years like you say, you SHOULD meet. Whether for sex or not, you should have physical attraction as well as spiritual and intellectual.
296852
Well you want be losing them per say.  You can still stay in touch by phone and visit them.  It all depends on how well you know the person you are moving to be with.  If it someone that you have known a long time and feel confident that you will be happy there.  Its a big step so think things thoroughly through.  There is an old saying no risk no reward but if you know this person really well and you are sure that once you get there things between you will be good then I say go for it.  I wouldn't advise moving to be with someone you have spent little time with in person. If it is an Internet romance or even a long distance relationship schedule some vacation time in which you can go spend a relatively long time in their presence.  People have an odd way of looking perfect from a distance.  Take you time, think things through, and good luck!!
23833
Since i've never been unfaithful, i can't speak from experience. But, saying that, my ex-wife was unfaithful to me, alot. I big give away is lack of intimacy. If he doesn't want to touch you, there's something wrong. Strange phone calls that are secretive and at odd times. Does he have a good female "friend" or "mates" he often hangs out with, without you? Can you contact him at ALL times while he's away? Alot of mistrusting females i know check their man's mobile phone for odd calls and texts. Credit card statements for purchases is also a common one. I'm assuming you've talked to him about your concerns and he's denied all. You're still suspicious and don't quite trust him. A private detective could help if you're that concerned. I hope i've helped a little. :)
164224
You can meet decent guys online, and remember you can always chat before you even meet them, or just chat and never meet. If he starts discussing sex or anything else that makes you uncomfy either tell him or change the subject or ignore him till he goes away. Be open and honest, I'm not here just to talk about sex, if you're really interested in ME, then ask me abt me, not what I'm wearing, the ones who are interested will stay and the others will go. Don't give out your home address or numbers, always tell a friend if you've been chatting a while, always tell a friend when you start dating, make sure you have his real name (both), numbers and home address to give to friend, just in case!! I've done quite a bit, mostly for fun, but was always careful. Good luck!
419973
If you are talking to males online and not in the mood for sex I would move on if you was my girl. You know the real reason you are not in the mood for sex, so be honest with yourself.
35690
I met the guy I'm dating on the internet. He lived 12 hours away and wanted to come and meet me after about 5 months. I was in college and my professors and friends told me to have him come to the school to meet me. That way there were plenty of other people there and they could give me their opinions of what they thought of him. Never meet anyone alone where there are no other people or anyone you know. It's been over three years since that day and we are still together.
353151
Id think, it just depends on who the guy is and what hes got on his mind. My experience is, being a guy, he may want you to just get to know him for real, and he do the same with you. However, sound like to me, really, he just wants to be friends and thats it. Most guys will do this when he wants to get to you, in a sexual way, then hes gone, its a conquest thing with some guys. I guess it all depends on him, and what hes really after. Id just ask him and find out what hes got on his mind. Good luck.
384868
Talking daily over what sort of period of time? I usually won't consider meeting someone unless I've known them for more than six months. Another important question is: how old are you, and how old are they?\n\nEdit: Hmm, same age, and both male. From this information, it looks like you (physically) are not more vulnerable than they are, which lessens my concern of internet predation.\n\nStill, 3 months is a bit early. I'd certainly wait. You are old enough to make your own decisions, but if you do decide to meet this person, I would recommend having a close friend hang out with you for the first get-together or two, to be safe. \n\nI also recommend that he only come up for a short time--no more than a couple days, because if it turns out that you don't get along as well in person, you aren't stuck with them for too long. And, of course, if it turns out you do get along well, you can just arrange another meeting.
670704
If a guy tells you he  doesn't do that, well  he is lying.  There has been so many times that I have told guys no cyber sex.  They say no problem and don't say nothing else.  It's like finding a needle in a haystack.  If you look hard enough you'll find one.  Good luck to ya.
161091
Whats the difference between meeting from a dating agency and online dating agency. If you are happy don't be bothered by what people say. I have been married almost two years and we met online 6 years ago!
344503
the fact that he said that when you guys start dating, he wants a sexual relationship shows you that he wants just sex.  Obviously, when he got on the internet, he was looking for someone to have sex with.  If you two guys do have a relationship, just have sex and nothing else and then when you leave in the morning after that night of sex, see if he says...why are you leaving?  If he says that, he may want more, but if not, he just wants sex.\n\nIf he puts up a fight for you to stay at his house, then he does want a real relationship and a lot of sex.  If he doesnt, then he just wants sex...eventually when something happens,you will know what he is thinking really.
593071
It's easy to feel this way about someone that you are communicating to on the internet.  Probably many things in common, sense of humor, etc.  Be careful tho.  On the internet there is no commitment, no responsibility.  It's a whole new ball game when you're together.  Take things very very very slow, don't let your emotions take over, it's too dangerous.  Be cautious and if you meet do it in a public place not just once but every time for quite some time.
656710
almost 3 years ago i met a wonderful man.  He and i met online by accident and started chatting.  after almost a year of that, we finally met and it was so wonderful!  We were in love for the next year and half.  we are still good friends and visit each other as often as possible (long distance relationship) I love him with all my heart and he loves me too, just the distance plays a huge sad role in our lives.  No real chance of us being together as a couple on an everyday basis.  he cant leave his hometown in canada due to his job and other things and i cant leave mine because i have small children and my job here. so other than that detail, we would still be together as a couple.
308316
if you feel confortable, get each others phone numbers. \nYou can talk to him and see what he is really about. \nI personally met my boyfriend of so far 2 years online, we talked online for 2 months, and things have been going perfectly by now. \nIf you decide to meet him, make sure you know enought of him and feel comfortable. Bring a friend along for safety
506561
When its come to dating someone you met online always let someone know where you are going.  I really don't know what kind of suggestions you are looking for but good luck.
9968
I was married to a german national. we had a long distance relationship before we got married. but (and this is the key thing), because you cant interact in person with someone in a long distance relationship, you lose the inflections of the conversation and the body language and all the other small things that complete a persons definition. because i couldnt see that with this person, she got her citizenship and then blew town. Divorced me and left me with an empty bag. Im better off now, and am better off without her, but the point is that without the personal interaction and receptives of being in person, the relationship is doomed. be it 6000 miles like mine, or 6 miles. if you dont see the person regularly, you will never really know them. The same applies tenfold for internet relationships. The internet is now in its early teens and I have never once seen an online relationship that ever worked. Nuff said.
105038
Well, online stuff is so hard to deal with.  I met my current bf online.  He is wonderful, but, he isn't the first one I met and you have to pull up the weeds before you find the flowers.  You need to stop sending him im's, let him make the next move.