it's hard for anyone when they have to face their first experience. and that also happens to me. i'm rather pessimistic in doing many things. i always think about the negatives or disadvantages of a job and do not see the positives. therefore, i'm not too confident in taking n accepting a job. i need a longer time to decide. and, after i make the decision, sometimes i will change it in a last minute. i have always tried to be myself and trust my heart but it's too difficult. because of that pessimistic, it's hard for me to socialize with other people. i like to hide my feelings towards others. therefore, i think that some advice will be needed. i want to improve my personality. i want to be brave to move on. i do not want just to stay behind. but, i want to know how to eliminate or reduce that pessimistic inside of me. kindly advise.
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The power of positive thinking is sooo powerful. You can do anything that you put your mind to. Make a list of all the positive attributes that you have, for example funny, smart, caring etc. You must begin with realizing that you can go for that job. It sounds like that maybe your afraid of failing. It's okay to fail at things because you can learn your mistakes and pick yourself back up, and you will become stronger. If you just be yourself and look at the list of great qualities that you have you will see anyone would be happy to have you apart of their lives or as a team member at work. Good luck and keep your chin up. As Kanye West says, Keep your nose out the sky, keep your heart with God, and keep your face to the rising sun.
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You have many exciting things waiting to pounce on your life, it's just a matter of letting them in. Remember that one builds their own luck: try to be aware of where you are standing every moment, and try to give every situation you are in an outside look. You will realize the enormous amount of signs and hints that indicate what will happen and what needs to be done in order to get you where you want to be. \nYou may have a tendency to be easy going, and even  lazy at times: don't allow yourself to be. Look for the better, and use your acid point of view on life and things to not let yourself fall into bad situations, not just to critisice others (even if you just do this in you mind). \nDon't settle for anything too soon. In love, you still have a ways to go. Don't think that your first relationships are the best ones: this is not necessarily true. Each relationship will help you know yourself and what you need better, and help you get ready to identify the real thing when it comes your way: you need to go through some avatars in your love life before you can settle down and find someone to fulfill you. Face this with patience and philosophy. It will be a learning journey. Without it, you could fall into numbness. \nThis applies to your career: you still have a long way ahead of you before getting to the zenith of your development. All the different stages will have something good, and enrichning in them; but some time needs to go by before you can reach the top of your capacities. \nBe careful of the things that can stop your progress, as there are many tests and obstacles in the time to come that will want to prevent you from reaching the top of the hill. Be cool: although you are impatient for things to happen, everything has a moment, and you must make things meet you, and not run into you.\nLook for someone who knows what they want, and are determined and intelligent, but not dominant. Take advantage of what people have to offer, and keep your eyes and ears open to learn from those ahead of you: you will need to use this in the future.\nYou will be a good mother, shall you decide to have kids, although getting to the point where you assume all your responsibilities and all the demands of motherhood will take some time. With your children, remember how you used to be when you were a child, and don't let your impatience overwhelm you. \nYou are planted firmly on the ground... maybe too much for your own sake. Keeping your sight fixed on the ground will chain you down. Keep your head up, and don't forget to sometimes look up to things above you.
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Boy, I think we all get to that point at times. I hear ya and empathize. I've found when I feel one of those moods coming on, I tell myself.. This "mood" is entirely up to me, I can CHOOSE to be miserable and make others miserable OR I can CHOOSE to be upbeat and let things slide off my shoulders for another day.. What would ya rather do today?  Sometimes, it's grudgingly, but I opt for the upbeat choice. Another thing is to set a NEW goal in life, whether it be work or your personal life and get excited about it.\n\n\nP.S.  Being able to bring a smile to others is a gift that should be shared often by us all and the doom n gloom we sometimes feel does not in anyway fix our situations, so consider it a waste of time.
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I'm one of those people who have a nack for interviews and landing jobs.\n\nThe best advice i can give you is, if you are felling confatable with the intervierwer you will do well.\n\nSo the first thing i try to do (depending on the type of interview) is strike up a social conversation first, this will allow you to feel less threatened and conduct a better interview.\n\nIf this is not possible (formal interview) then just try relax and be your self, make sure you do resurch about the job you are going after and tell them what they want to hear befor they ask it.\n\nJust remeber there only a person and its not the end of the world if you dont get the job.  Also if you dont get it, it provides you with the experience to have better luck next time:)
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Well this is totally different than what we discussed a few days ago......lol  The "Carry off" portion changes the whole perspective. When you say it this way....I realize you are talking about "masking" feelings with happiness......or promoting the feeling of unhappiness for the sake of your audience. \n\nYes, I'm a master at smiling and making the world think I'm happy. (even when things are crumbling around me) Rarely do people know the blows that life lands on me because I won't allow the efffects to show in my demeanor. It's not that it is work.....it's not that it is hard to do.....it's just how it is. I never want people to feel sorry for me or to feel that they must take on my burdens, so I tackle things on my own in my own time and don't show the negative side. \n\nThus why I said earlier that maintaining a "negative" disposition would be harder work for me. It would mean that I would actually have to bring my issue to the forefront of my mind and think about it. It's such a natural response for me to just "table" it until I'm alone. When someone that knows me well sits me down and says, "Ok, spill it....something is eating at you." Well it takes all the strength and effort in the world to make myself actually "unload." I seriously just have a very very hard time burdening anyone else with the things floating around in my head. So hands down.............it's easier to maintain a positive disposition than a negative one. \n\n*now all of you think I need therapy right? lol....you just might be right!! lol*
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I trust in my instincts and tend to go by my first impressions, to a certain extent.  I will always give someone the benefit of the doubt, or be a little leary, depending on what my first impression was, good or bad.  It is easier to trust your instincts and first impressions when dealing face to face.  It is not so easy on the internet.
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Then, try to find a job that makes you happier.\nAnd keep thinking you´ll do better in the future while you´re trying to find a new, better one.
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Well... look around... Do you like what you see? Are you happy for what lessons you have already learned? Are you pleased on what you are able to do for the better of tomorrow? That is all really. If you are happy. If you are pleased on what you have as a past, to put you in your position you are in now, and where it can lean you from your own ambition from knowing that this is your life. And if you are not happy with anything, well that is something that needs to be worked out within yourself, because you should be happy for everything in your life. Why should there be a reason for you to be un-happy? Are you missing anything? Do you have patience to take the time and effort to get to that point in obtaining that goal? Everything is in your hands. Just remember to take everything as it is and be happy for it. Don't expect anything. Things will flow much better if you do that. Hope this helps. Cheers!
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No, it's not early to thinking about your career. In fact, it's a lot better so you could prepare for your goals ahead and be successful in the near future. Take your time to ponder about the things you love, and learn to achieve them. Nothing's impossible if you just believe in yourself and your own capabilities. Good luck! =)
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My occupation is a temp. Yes , sometimes I do like what I do because I am exposed to different industries and sometimes I am not working (wished I was) like today. I am looking for something long term and permanent, but finding a job today is very COMPETETIVE. There is a waiting list of job opportunities for my line of work.  When I am on the waiting list, I just wished something would happen soon.
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Sometimes it is hard to make the choices that we want with out sacrificing a lot. And on your part, you have to let go in order to achieve those dreams. \n\nHappiness can only be achieved by doing what your heart dictates you. But I must tell you, there are consenquences. \n\nI will not be bias. So the only way I can help you is by letting you see the two sides of the coin. YOU decide. And your decision is one step in making changning your future. or even achieving total happiness and contentment.\n\nIF YOU STAYED AND FINISHED WHAT YOU'VE STARTED...\nthen you might find out sooner or later that this is one way or should I say ANOTHER way in finding happiness. Maybe you haven't yet realized that behind your job lies a dream you haven't yet realized. Or the happiness you haven't yet found because you were so busy soul searching or finding more faults with your decision. Why not learn to accept and be contented? Not everybody has the luxury to have a job. And staying will give you more security in the future. And the risk of being unsuccessful is minimal.\n\nBut\n\nIF YOU FOLLOWED YOUR HEART AND GO\nYou might find what you are truly good at. Maybe that is the answer to all your dilemma. Remember that the BIGGEST RISK IS BY NOT TAKING ONE. We cannot assure ourselves that once we followed what our heart dictates we can became happy because we'll never know unless we are already in that situation. But the joy of know we tried is immense. Atleast you tried. Many people are afraid to go out of their shell in fear of the world outside their cocoon but you cannot see the beauty of the world, even the pain, unless you go out and seek it. Even if it means letting go of you haven.\n\nDo what makes you happy. But Sometimes we also have to think of what we feel.
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I know it sucks, but try to make youself stay until you find something else. It is easier to find a job when you already have one. Employers see that you have a job so they know you are responsible and just wanting to improve yourself by learning a new job and moving up.I hate my job too. If I let it, it really makes me miserable. While you are still at the bad job focus on doing things outside of work that make you happy.\n Good Luck.
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This is just a suggestion, but maybe you'd find more "happiness" if you looked for it outside of your job.  Many people look for their careers to bring them satisfaction in life.  Maybe taking up a hobby or doing something that you've always wanted to do will be helpful.  Take some type of class and stay with it until you are good at it.  This new skill or perfected skill will help you feel better.  Also, doing volunteer work is great.  You seem as if you have many talents.  Have you considered teaching someone else what you know?  By having interest outside of your job, you gain identity and know who you are regardless of the type of work that you do.\n     People who are multi-talented sometimes bore easily.  Perfecting what you already know or teaching someone else might really be good for you.\nIf you would like to travel, take more vacations!\nI hope this helps.
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First off, I congratulate you, being a recruiter is an awesome job. Yeah, it is normal to feel discouraged to be began with. Here are some tips that will help you out. \n\nThe first thing is, you need to have a clear knowledge of the position that you are recruiting for. You have to believe in that position and to be able to tell people why that would be such a good position for them. \n\nThe second thing is, you need to be outgoing(not hyper outgoing) But friendly. Keep a friendly tone to your voice and smile. Let the individuals know that you are a recruiter that cares and that you are there to assist them whenever they need it. You want to look like you are more of a friend then a recruiter Let them know that you are human as well. \n\nMost of all, always be confident in what it is you are doing. I know that this sounds crazy and maybe a little bit lame, but practice with people that you know. Maybe come up with a little spiel that you might want to offer about the position that you are recruiting people for. That littles spiel will eventually turn into something natural and something that is your own thing. \n\nOther things that might help is to think about the best things about that position and discuss those features. People love to hear about the benefits of having that job. \n\nI hope that this helps. You will be fine. Remember that feeling discouraged is a bit natural. Be patient, it will all come in time. Most of all smile and be yourself. \n\nBest of luck to you and once again congratulations. :)
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I've been on the other side of the table for over 15 years - trust me there is nothing to worry about.  We ask difficult questions knowing that you are not going to have all the answers.  Think about it, we have on average 30 to 45 minutes to evaluate a person and decide who is the best candidate.  It's difficult to weed out the people who will be good employer and who is just good at interviews.\n\nI have gave other people this advice and it seems to work.  Interview the interviewer at the same time they are interviewing you.  The problem most people have and the reason a lot of people are so nervous is that they are being evaluated, judged and compared against other candidates.  If you go into the interview with the thought of "Hey, I already know I have the skills they are looking for.  They read my resume and invited me in for the interview, so this is my job to lose".  Besides that, you are also evaluating them as a possible employer.  You have the right to reject THEM.  So they also need to impress you and sell you on accepting there job opening.\n\nTaken control of the situation and feeling like you have the last say in if you take the job or not might give you the feeling of confidence you need to overcome your nervousness.\n\nGood Luck
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Forget it dude.  When you work for someone else you will always have negative thoughts!  When you are an assistant manager you need negative thoughts to keep you from going to the next level with your manager, which usually would be to beat the crap out of them in a back room that is out of camera range.  I think you just need another job that is better suited to your personalty type.  Maybe a position with less pressure involved?  You aren't alone in having these types of feelings because many of us are working "out of our comfort zones" these days.  Maybe a hobby would ease your tension.  Start thinking outside the box!
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Well this is part of our life. In our life nothing is plain sailing and all these are part of our challenges and it depends on how you take it.  I used to feel the same way as you are but after giving some thought I feel that we should face the challenge. No matter what sort of working environment you are in, you face the same problem.\nYou really heve to take it positively and take things at a step when it comes. You can give it a try and I believe you can do it.\nAll the best to you