Last week was a stressful week. Because there was the WASL so the schedual was weird and I didn't get to hang out with my BF. He has two schools to attend I'm a 14 yr old girl who hasn't had this kind of relationship before. I haven't felt this much love from a relationship before. He showed me how much love can be put in someone's heart. Thats why I love him so much. But last week after Wednesday he started acting diffrently. He ignored me and didn't tell me that he wanted to be alone. After school I got home and started to cry. He called me while I was crying and he asked me what was wrong. I told him then thats when he explained it to me.\nI thought we were going to break up, He was stressed out be cause of the WASL. What should I do to help him out?....\nPlease someone help me I love him so much.\nI remembered what he said in a car ride to his friends house he said that he'd be heart broken if I left and I told him that I'd die inside and be depressed if he left me. \nI love him.
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You need to go hang out with your girlfriends for a while, do something you like without him. Or you will seem needy. Besides you are 14 and there are so many opportunities out there for you yet. Don't go crash-in on any guy at your age, enjoy the time with him but go out and hang with your girls. They will always be there.
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I had a broken heart. Just recently when I found out that my boyfriend was cheating on me, when I told him about it we started fussing, and when he was fussing he said some bad things about me, that I probably would never know if we did not fuss. But he has really moved on. And it really tears me up because I still think about him and I also don't want him to have a baby by her. That would tear me up even more. But I understand100% were you are coming from. If you would like to talk more about this just email me at star200252@yahoo.com I would be happy to talk to you more.
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i had the sweetest day of my life...\n\nmy boyf and i didnt plan anything for V-day because we both had work and we had conflicting schedules...(i go home 6am he goes to work 7am, i leave for work 8pm he arrives from work 6pm) so I wasn't really expecting anything...\n\nBut when it's time for me to go home from work (6am feb.14), some of my officemates were already teasing that a guy is waiting for someone outside and i said "no he's not my boyf" because I wasn't really expecting him but when I went outside there he was waiting for me with a big smile and as I was walking towards him...guess what?!! I didn't see this one coming...he handed me a bouquet of pink roses (a really nice one) and my officemates were like, "oh my gawd! he's so sweet"...\n\nI was very surprised and very touched. I felt very special that moment. Then we just had breakfast at his house then off we went to our different destinations...\n\nI love my man!! :)
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You need to ask him becuz i dealt with this same issue with my bf.  At first, i just got on here and asked the same question.  then, I said, you know what i am going to ask my man.  I asked him that same night and he told me that he was depressed and had too much stuff on his mind in regards to his life.  Read my blogs and see how that is going....he may be worried about something that is going on at the job or something, but guys wont tell you unless you ask
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How did you respond when he told you he loved you? Maybe he didn't get response he was hoping for...And chill out. It's only been a day!
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Angel, sorry to hear this. Your world's pretty shaken up right now.\n\nI've had one experience with this -- my second gf (I was in high school) went to Hawaii for two weeks, and when she came back, she dumped me. The experiences with some other guys out there (nothing sexual) made her see all the problems with our relationship and what she hadn't yet experienced, since I was her first bf. So she realized she wasn't ready to commit yet.\n\nI'm sorry to agree with you; but if I had to guess, his lack of communication and his anger says to me that he has fallen for someone else while out there; whether serious or not, it's made him rethink his commitment to marriage to you; and these are his ways of distancing himself from you, in order to make it easier for him to break things off. \n\nThe clincher is that he now has told you he plans to move out on his return. That's huge -- and he decided it so quickly and from so far away. Things do not look good.\n\nThere's not much you can do to "change" his heart, all you can do is talk to him, try to understand what he experienced out there and why he's acting this way now, find out whether there are/were things you could have changed that might have helped him make a stronger commitment to you, and show him you love him regardless of whether he stays with you.\n\nGentle (and not forced) talking is the only way you'll get to the heart of things. Make it safe for him to explain himself, for your peace of mind. You need to know it was him and not you that caused this.\n\nAnyway, for what it's worth, I'm sorry. That's rough.
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thats a terrible situation to be in.  i agree, i would sit him down and tell him how you feel.  you may be surprised and find out that there is something going on that has nothing to do with you.  he may be stressed at work, worrying about family, who knows.  but if it comes down the the fact that he doesnt care, then you should get out of the relationship.  someone once told me that the one that loves the most get hurt the most, and you dont want to be in a relationship like that.  good luck!
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wow!!! what a drama!!! baby girl, when he open up to his true emotion, he expects for you say the same and pour out your feeling also. but in this case, you didn't act the way he expected you to. so, this had scarred him. here is the deal, he wants you talk to him in the comforting to his shattered heart. this will take time to rekindle the flame. let him have some space, but be there for him.
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When my boyfriend returned home, for the first few weeks he acted fine, a little different and jumpy, and he spent alot of money, he would just go and buy whatever he wanted, and after a few weeks, it all hit him.  he started getting depressed and wouldnt hardly leave the house. He tried pushing everyone that cared about him away.  Now after a year he still has his moments but for the most part he's doing fine.  He still has nightmares and things like that but the most you can do is be there for him, just let him know that you are there for him to talk to, but dont push him to talk, he will on his own time.  War changes people, my boyfriend will never be the same person he was when he left, but i thank god every day that he is home safe.  Your boyfriend may or may not have the same symptoms mine did, but if you need to talk about it you can im me.  Thank your boyfriend for me, all of the Soldiers are my heroes.
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uh oh i have been in this exact situation before and it didnt turn out to good because i didnt take action. i just let it go, and he eneded up dumping me. you have to ask him whats going on between us or something will happen, because my last bf only wanted me, and not me(like my personality) he just wanted to make out and it was badddddd ACT FAST. NO JOKE!!!!1\nor mabey you should listen to everyone else, i mean, if he barley talks to you, does that mean he bareley says i love you or he wont TALK to you? mabey he doesnt want to say i love u around his friends or something. mabey he's past the stage of the everyday i love you, youre beautiful thing.
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If you broke up w/ him there must have been a reason. What was that reason ? Do you want to go through it all over again ? I think I can relate to what you're saying tho. I went to the city partly to get away fr him for the wk'd after we broke up. Well, we were still talking on the phone sometimes but when he phoned it'd be more like "geeeeeeez... :( " but I'd still answer the phone. While in the city I didn't have a very good time. It felt like my fam was abandoning me or something. Like they were tryna get rid of me or didn't wanna see me, etc. :( I was very hurt. The main reason why I was thinking of moving to the city was to be near my fam too... After that I felt that my ex was the only one who really cared bout me. When I got back home I jut HAD to see him so I went to see him. I told him bout what happened in the city & how I felt that he was the only one who cared bout me. For a whole wk I wanted to be w/ him. I wanted to be w/ him every chance I had. We were @ this pt, just "friends". We went to see Default & I guess he was gonna go home after the concert. I didn't want him to leave. I didn't wanna go home either. He was gonna drink but I didn't really care if he did, as long as I could be w/ him. Well, his mom & sis were gone to the city, so he let me spend the night, which I did. I felt that I wanted to get back w/ him. B/w the day I got back home fr the city to the time we got back together officially was Apr 7th-13th I believe. There was even a time AFTER that that I thought that we'd be together forever. But in the past 2 or 3 wks I haven't been feeling that way. I wanna break up w/ him. When & how is the Q. This'll be our 4th break up. :( \nYou may also experience this as well. Have you broken up in the past ? If you have I think that this will only continue to happen. Don't let it. Be strong. Easier said that done I know, but when you feel like talking to him, call a friend. Maybe even get together w/ a friend or friends. It's better than giving in to urges. Hope this helps !!!
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It sounds to me that you could be smothering him.  Give him some rope.  Meanwhile, you need some hobbies and girl friends to spend your time with.  That way, you can come back home and be lovey because both would have had other things to add to the relationship and conversations.  Do some things you may be interested in doing.  He should not be your only interest.  Please do not smother him.  Your happiness does not warrant itself based on his being around you all the time.  Thank GOD for the work week so that I can see other people without explaining where I've been all the time.  By you just being one tracked, you are digging yourself deeper in a depressive state of mind by making him your ONLY happiness.\n\nI hope that you can open your eyes to understand this.  I sincerely hope that I was the lightbulb to your saga.  Happiness begins with your self and definitely no one else should be able to control your emotions that they can't feel.
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You just learnt a valuable lesson didn't you?\n\nUltimatums always lead to heart break.\n\nI hope you can patch things up, start by apologising for being immature.  Explain that you wanted to be close to him and that's why you insisted on knowing his thoughts.\n\nGood luck with this.
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I am sorry that you're feeling so bad right now, but you will get over it. Give it time - it is easier for men to throw us to the dogs and for us to hurt because of that. Find something to do: go out with friends, family, go out by yourself to a movie, to the park... try to meet other people. He is not the only guy in this planet. If he wants the break from the relationship, take it as his loss not yours. I wonder how old you are because the exact same thing happened to me when I was 13. Now I am way older and have more experience and believe me when a guy has told me that he needs a break or wants his own space - I give it to him and guess what? He always comes back. Hope you take my advice. Wipe your tears, get all dressed up, smile and love yourself.
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Honey I'm not sure what to tell ya.  Don't give up on him.  Do you have anyway to contact him?  You should tell him how you feel.  I don't know why he hasn't talked to you in a month.  That concerns me a little.  Like I said, don't think bad, think good.  Hope things work out for you.
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No, he doesn't respect you and all he cares about is himself.  A guy who really loves you would be more concerned with you getting better and dealing with what ever issues make you feel like you are on the verge of suicide.  You should consider breaking this relationship off so that you can focus on what is best for you and your life without having to deal with his selfish guilt trips.
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I am very sorry.\nMy first love and I had a long distanced relationship, and it was so hard.  We used to live in the same town, but I moved out to a big city 6 hours away by train to attend a college, and since then we only could see each other once a month.  He had a job offer in that city once, because he wanted to be with me, but the deal was pretty bad, so he didn't take it at the end.  Eventually, I moved out of the country, and we never saw each other ever since.  \nI knew it was coming to end one day, but I just didn't want to believe it.  He was older then me, so he must have known better, but didn't say anything.  We used to call, and write to each other.  But when I started getting less and less responses, I still didn't believe that it was ending.  I was so sad, and so lonesome, and made so many mistakes in my life because of that.  I should have let go of it much earlier.\nI tell you, I know it hurts so much now, but you have to let him go.  You called him so many times that his mailbox is full, that tells you that he has already made up his mind and it's not going to change.  Even if he changes his mind now, that'll not sort out your distance problem, will it?  You will only feel worse as long as you try to work out something that's no longer in your hands.  Believe me, I know that.  \nYou won’t be able to feel fine about it today or tomorrow, but try to think about something else instead of how to get him back.  Try to give yourself a break from it little by little, and then you should start to feel better.