ok i know she loves me and i know i love her we feel the same way about each other i live in a different state but i want to move back but i dont know if i should and she has a man but she is going to break up with him its just so hard to ask if is right to move in with her and i really dont know what to do plz help
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If you have to ask, than you are not comfortable with the decision.
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That's a very hard question and I read it all the way through. I'd appreciate it if you also went and read one that I just posted, which is also long. If you really in fact love her, than I would hold onto that and go back with her. If you're Christian, pray about it. Well, scratch that. Pray about it if you're a Christian but talk to her first. Get to know her and try to express your feelings towards her little at a time. Don't make a large sudden move. I hope things work out, but just take it slow. This is comin from a girl that was in this exact position and is know with the guy that I posted a question about. I love him to death and we're getting along wonderfully. Best of luck. Email me if ya want to w/ nething else: naertgirls@juno.com.
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i dont think you should have moved in with him. im guessing the only reason you moved in with him was because you thought that if you moved in with him it just might work but really its making you feel bad because you still like him and he has obviously moved on. what i think you should do is do the same thing he is doing act as if what he is doing is not even bothering it might be hard but its what you have to do, sit with him and talk about other guys, let him see you goin on dates and just goin out having a good time. maybe he'll realize that he had something good. and just maybe he'll get back with you.
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Hi Kat,\n\nSounds like you already answered your own question hun.  If you both care about each other, there is nothing wrong with dating still and living in your own places.  If you really want your independence back then you need to take it.  Living with him because he wants you to stay isnt the answer.  Stand strong, and be kind. THere is always common ground.  NEVER compromise or you'll be blaming each other in the long run.  Best of luck . Take care
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Sometimes people just grow apart for no apparent reason.  Distance is hard on any kind of relationship.  Now that you've moved back and you found out that she has broken up with her boyfriend, you two might be able to have that same closeness again.  Just call, email or message her and let her know that you are there for her any time she needs to talk or have a shoulder to cry on.  If she doesn't respond then it's time for you to move on.  There's no sense in wasting your time on someone how doesn't have time for you.
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IF YOU ARE MADLY IN LOVE WITH HER THEN YOU SHOULD ASK YOURSELF WHY ARE CANT YOU BE WITH HER? YOU HAVE NOT TOLD US WHY YOU CANT BE WITH HER, IT WILL HELP TO GET MORE POSITIVE ANSWERS, AND ADVICE ON HOW TO HANDLE THE SITUATION. GOOD LUCK!!
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It's not proper to be in such situation and its not easy for her too, she was in love at first then you came, you got closer and now you are both in love but at the same time she is with her boyfriend, may she likes something in you and another in her boyfriend, but soon one of you will win, so to be honest with yourself and to avoid doubting that she might do it with another person if she left her boyfreind for you, give her enough time to decide but you have to be away from her she must choose only one person in order not to be hurt or to hurt her boyfriend if he discovered that she is cheating on him
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Man you need help!!get it now before you hurt her. what happened to love? You must have loved her to marry her.I'm not for divorce but in your case I think she should run for the border.
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Wow, sounds insecure!  Definitely move on.  Aren't you glad she was the one moving out?!?!?!  It made the whole breaking up process a heck of alot easier on your part!
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Wow. That is one third the way around the planet. I think.If you are serious one of these days you two will have to get together. If that is a possibility then moving might be your best bet. Of course you could always ask her to move in with you.
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Okay it all depends, do you love her, are yall gonna get married, if she supports u more than ur parents then go for it. Besides, ur gona have to leave the house at some point in ur life to have ur own life and be a man. And yea u took a risk, cuz u never know wat the future holds and u guys could breakup, but point is u left the house as ur own man with a life, and ur parents should cut the cord and accept ur decisions. Its time to make ur own decisions and they should do no more than say okay. Its understandable why they said what they said. My fiance and i been living together for awhile, we have a son and every decision we make is for the best for him, and we are HAPPY. So if our family dont approve, then they are losing out, we never told them to divorce or leave anyone they were with or else. But u should try to contact them a couple of more times, try to talk to them if theyll listen, but it sounds like they just wont let go, but both parties should consider each other and why they feel the way they do. IF you and ur girl are happy then great. this has nothing to do with ur girlfriend, its between u and them, and this can make ur relationship with ur gf and parents stronger if yall make a final decision of the end result. i.e. mom and dad are gonna do this, my gf and i are gonna do that, the end. Just remember they all love you.
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If you moved from Michigan to be with her because you love her, her going away to college shouldn't matter if your love is really. because no matter how far away you are from each other your love will always be their. you should be  proud of her and encouraging her for wanting to make a better life for the both of you. let her know that you are behind her 100% no matter what her decision is and that you will always love her and be there for her that is how strong your love is for her. if it's meant to be it will be no matter how far away you are, this is a test of your love.
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The sooner you tell her how you feel, the better. If you drag this out, it will be more painful for the two of you. Just sit down with her and discuss the situation like adults and explain to her why you feel that you can't be with her anymore. Don't feel like your reasons aren't good enough. And don't let her convince you to stay with her if you don't want to. She might get emotional, but stand by your feelings and be strong about it.
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This is a classic abusive relationship.  You have got to get away from this person before things get worse.  I know you love her, but you cannot allow someone to treat you that way.  Look at it this way, if the situation was reversed, and you treated her that way, would you expect her to stay with you?
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Yes! it sounds to me like you two are definatly in love. and if she didn't give you a good enough reason, like "i met someone else or i want to explore my options" then i think she still loves you, it is just too painful for her to be apart for so long. so i think you need to talk to her. dont just go over there and pop the question right away. but talk to her, make her fall in love with you again and then tell her you need her and that you two need to spend the rest of you lives together...then... "will you marry me?"
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Just be careful...you're still very young!  Living with someone and dating them are two different things.  Its very diffcult, even when you have a good relationship.  Why don't you just stay there for the summer and see how things go...and if that works out then move in with him.  I wouldn't just throw my bag over my shoulder and go down there without a plan (i.e. a job lined up, a school that's accepted you).  Your mom is right in being concerned b/c it seems to me like you don't have a real plan other than moving in with your boyfriend.  If you want your mom to accept this plan you need to show her that you actually have a PLAN.  Just moving in is not a plan.  Apply to some schools down there, and apply for some jobs, and maybe she'll be more apt to support your move.
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I think you are gonna have to talk to your family first...if you really wanna move in with him, you want to make sure that you are able to settle into a new town, but most importantly, you want to make sure that your family will be there for you, even if you live miles away....no matter where you live, your family will always be there for you when you get married and have children, and if they know ur bf well, then there really shouldn't be any problems.