i had been living with my fiance for three months, when my mom misunderstood soemthing i told her and said that he was emotionaly abusing me(which he wasn't) and controling my life, so she called me and told me to pack my things becasue iw as no longer living there. i want to know if she willing let me move if she can legal take me away from him.
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Trust your mother on this one - she's only got your best interests at heart.  If you love this guy then the fact that your back home with Mum won't get in the way of your relationship.\n\nFrom a legal point of view your Mum's in the right.
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First of all you don't mention your age but one must assume that you are over 18 at least. Is this child from him or from another man? Don't bother with a restraining order because they are only as good a the law enforcement in your town. There have been a number of women killed by boyfriends after they have a restraining order placed. Take No. 2's advise. Get the heck out of Dodge or where ever you live and do it quick. Don't let anyone know where you are that can tell HIM! It is for your safty as well as that of your daughter. The man is a psyciopath and you should make a report to the local police before you leave. It is a crime to threaten someone else with bodily injury. Not to mention that he has said that he will will have your daughter KILLED. At least the law enforcement will be on the look out. Once you have moved away use your mothers maiden name because you can do that legaly. Don't list your phone number either. Just initials and no address. If it were me I'd move to a different state. I would put as much distence between him and me as I could. It may be hard at first but you will be alive and well. If you stay it may take him months to do what he says he is going to do but trust me he will eventually do it and then it will be too late. Men that talk that way usually do so to intimidate, but then they need more power over you and they start to do things physicaly to the people they say they will hurt. Talk to the law or the DA in your town and they may be able to give you more advise. No matter weather you take my advise or theirs PLEASE take your own advise and get out of there. Hope this helps and may God watch over you and your daughter. Be Safe If you need to talk to someone email me at Whilemom47@yahoo.com
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If dad was having the affair, I'd have to live with mom, but if she was making my life a living hell for something I didn't do, I couldn't stay with her either.  I'm over 18, so I'd just move out.
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Seems like she is making some bad decisons Mom!  But you are allowing them and at the same time trying to restrict them!  You can't do both.  Hard mission as her Mother.\n\nAdvice:  She has made the transition from needy child to adult situations.  BUT, she is now back in YOUR home?  You can instill a curfew regardless of her age out of respect to the peace of mind in your own home.  Demand that she respect that!  Stick to it, or she should locate her own level of permission by moving out or the boyfriend needs to allow her to move in with HIM!  And he probally won't (let's hope) I don't agree with the 28 year old Father of 3 dating an 18 year old at all. \n\nYou absolutely can NOT balance what you want for your daughter and what she wants for herself.  Requiring a time frame for her to be home is different from when she was strickly under your wing.  \n\nThe rules change when she becomes a house quest, self sufficent and reliable to her word.    Sit her down, talk to her, explain your thoughts and concerns.  Give her the ground rules for returning home.  Give her a time frame for making her way back out of her parents home.  6 months should be sufficent.\n\nShe lies due to her feeling like an adult, but still answering to Mom.  Tell her she is an adult, but living with Mom, thus she does have certain obligations toward the family.\n\nI understand your anger Mom.  Give allowances, take no acceptions.
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You both sound very much in love. How about asking him to move and buying/renting his mom a place close by, that way you'll be in your comfort zone and able to deal with her from a distance; and enable him to move? I think you're going to have to accept the fact that he'll never want his mom out of his life...as annoying as it is; the package comes with it.
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your mom is offering to help you!! she wants the best for you and is willing to do what it takes for you get treatment and life on back on track..she seems like a responsible caring woman so i would say stick with your mother even if it means getting kicked out of your house! its only because she loves you and until you figure out the consequences of your actions..then i presume she will keep doing it
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i guess u shld to speak to ur mom abt y u want to move n assure her dat u will b finen wont break her trust... u hav become quite responsible to take care of urself......\nalso tell her dat u will come to meet her regularly itz not  dat u r going somewhere forever.....\ni guess u shld sit down wid ur mom n speak n expalin her in ur best ways u can......\nAnd also asks her whts the reason she forbidding u from moving out.....then u can explain her on da basis of wht she is worried abt....
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You seriously need to make some serious changes. You have to create boundaries. It sounds like the requests you have made are falling on deaf hears. It seems to me you are trying to make everyone happy except yourself. Tell them if you are going to live in my house these are the rules if they don't like them they can leave. When your mom came back you could of asked her why are you here? When she said why do i have to tell them to pay the electric bill, it was because she is the one who invited them to stay. The things you are going to have to do will be uncomfortable. Your family will not like the new assertive you. Your mom is dependent on you and you are her co dependent. When she threatened you by saying she was going to leave and you said fine go ahead she was testing you. She did leave but she came back and you let her stay. So now what you say and what she says and your actions don't match. It's like when a parent tells his child no but then lets them have what they want. You have to back up what you say with actions and stick to them. You have fallen into the role of parent. You are not the parent you are the child but now your mom is acting like the child and now you are her parent. I think she should help you more. Do you want your brothers there? You did nothing wrong what i think you possibly feel is guilt because it is your mother and you feel obligated but your not obligated. No one should be taken advantage of.
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Yes you definently can as long as you move in with somebody who is 18 or older.  I moved out when I was 16 and there is nothing that your parents could do legally
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First of all it is selfish grammer to say me and my, you say my boyfriend and I, don't talk about yourself first. Second if you don't know how to communicate with her, you do not come off as ready to leave the nest.  Why not have the boy get his own place and visit him there often but keep your home base.  Keep the best of two worlds, after all you have never lived with a man before, you have not lived on your own.  If I were you I would test this guy and see if he is man enough to stand on his own.  You should crave to have your own little place someday, a dorm room or even just a room for rent.  Your freedom time may be short and sweet but don't miss out on this interval between mom's place and your first and side step your independence.  You will look back one day and regret not taking time for yourself.  Enjoy being independent of him, enjoy being his guest, help him with his place but keep filling your own hope chest.  I am financially independent, I have so many houses I don't know what to do.  I could not marry without a prenup.  You have so much ahead, don't piss mom off at all.  Take it to heart.  She is your number one.  Ask her what you should do instead of being a little tyrant and telling her what your going to do.  Unless of course your of age that is, 18 and you don't have anything better to do with your life.  But now you can save money staying with mom.  Stay free.
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I don't know you or your mom but has she said this about any of your other boyfriends?  I didn't believe it and lived to regret not taking the advice of people who really did care for me.  Looking back now I see what I couldn't see then.  Controlling someone else is usually very subtle.  Be careful and always know that your mom will be there if needed.  No matter what he may tell you.  Good luck.
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OOps sorry let me edit this..\n\nMost important question is - are they LEGALLY your gaurdian?  It sounds like this might be your sister.. or maybe a young aunt.\n\nWhat state are you in?  How old are you?  It depends on how your caregiver will react.  I did the same thing when I was 17 and my parents freaked and were able to take me back.  I spent a few days in Juvi.. but other than that nothing terrible will happen.  If you are 17, I suggest talking to your parents about this and seeing if they would let you.  Does your friends family want you to move there?  Have them talk to your caregiver.  If you are any younger, either wait or have the family talk to your caregiver..  I totally understand where you are coming from, sometimes your home can just be toxic, especially if your parents are going through a divorce, or some issues of their own.. I've been moved out for 2 years now, and even when I come to visit, it just sucks my soul dry.. Some people and places are just so bad for you.  Talk to them .. really.  OR just go ahead and do it, but know this - they will be able to find you - and they will force you to come back - BUT after that happens, they will be open for dialog with you - you will be able to tell them how damaging their home is to you - and they will be able to take you seriously.. This is what happened to me- They never listened until after I ran away.. Then they let me finish my high school degree online and let me move out when I needed to.\n\nTo help you any further, I would need to know your age and your state.\n\nAnd like the other person mentioned, if you are working and making some of your own money, you might be able to get emancipated. \n\nChoices Other Than Emancipation\n\nEmancipation is only one of several alternatives available to you if you feel you cannot live with your caregiver.  You may want to consider other options such as:\n\nfamily counseling or mediation service between you and your parents; \nliving with another responsible adult (aunt, uncle, grandparent, or family friend); \nseeking assistance from public and private agencies; \nan informal agreement with your caregiver allowing you to live outside your home. \n\n\nMy final advice to you is this - family counseling - if nothing else works - this will.  The other person there can help you communicate effectively with your caregiver - and don't assume they will only be on your caregivers side either.  Present your case to them, and unless you have no reason for wanting to move out, they will support you and help you work out a solution with your family..\n\nGood luck, ok?  Feel free to personally email me if you need any personal or legal advice..  Bj_Osterhout@yahoo.com
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no if she leaves she is not automatically allowed back in it all depends on her immigration and residency status.\nThe citizens advice bureau will be able to tell you the laws on this and can tell you places to go for help, it is free to go to and a translator can be provided if needed
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since you are not the mother and unless he is living with you and your fiance, the courts won't let you speak. if you make a spech to the court. do it from the heart not the mind. if you belittle the mother and try to make yourself look good, the judge won't listen much. just as you may have heard victums statements in court, you write what you want respectfully and to the point and you can also send a exact letter to the judge and it will go into the record for him to read. everyone justs puts it in basic letter form and if to the judge, it would be the honorable and his name, the case number and docket number. you sign it sincerely and your name address and phone number.
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The law states that she must first serve you with a notice to quit and then go to court for legal eviction.  She can not tell you that you must move because of relatives coming.  If you have a signed lease then you have the law on your side.  She has to have a good reason to evict you.  If you are late on your rent or destroyed the property then she can keep your security deposit but just because she wants to let others live there she can not do that.  Contact your local housing authority for a copy of tenents rights.  She can not remove  your things or have utilities shut off to force you to move either.  Good Luck.
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No, your mom just loves you. You have lived under her roof for what, 30 years, so it is just common behavior for her. She will continue to do this even if you move out on your own, but as time passes it will not be as frequent.\nAs long as you live with her, she will see you as her "baby" still and the motherly need to be protective is always there regardless..
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Stop leading him on.  File for divorce now.  It's the only way he'll understand that you've left him and are not just "separating for a while."  Move farther away, if necessary, and definately get a new phone number.  Talk to your mother and let her know how you feel.  Offer to get her a new phone number as well, and ask that she not share your new number with him if he calls.  If he continues to harass your mother, she may have to tell him you've died.\n\nIf he becomes threatening of you or your mother in a physical or psychological way, take legal action promptly.\n\nWhen you file for divorce you should qualify for child support in most areas of the world.  This will obviously help you financially, but will keep you in contact with him, albiet indirectly.  If you feel that it is not possible to continue a civil relationship with him outside of marraige, then pass up the money and get him out of your - and your children's - life.