why would a man who has been married for about twenty years cheat?
135525
he probably has taken for granted what he has at home. maybe it was a younger woman who made him feel sexy and attractive.whatever the reason he was stupid.
46137
Wow, I'm so sorry about that.  I think you should consider your feelings for him carefully.  If it were me, I think I would call off the wedding if you were planning on getting married soon.  You definitely should confront him on this but before you do, I would try to find out if he's done something like this before and if he has indeed cheated.  You can try going through his email and his cellphone/pda/dayplanner, etc. to look for numbers that don't look familiar.  It's a shame that you have to go snooping through his personal things but if he's cheating, he could be gambling with his and your life because of STDs etc.  Best wishes to you.  Your mind and heart will help you do the right thing.
203279
why do you think he's cheating?
224967
if he cheated while unhappy and attempted to cheat while happy, this guy seems like a serial cheater. some guys are like that. no matter how happy they are in their relationship, they just need attention form other women. you deserve better than this guy.
152697
well fist off he may have realized what he did to his wife was wrong. that should have been enough to send him running from your cheating ass! you both are dirty rotten cheating ass*holes. your spouses are to good for you guys. go home and treat the man you married better.
667659
You hit the nail on the head with "mid-life crisis". He needs validation that his manhood and virility are still intact. This is however, a breach of his professional ethics. His marriage may not be unhappy ... just stale. It happens in the very best of marriages.
29031
Sounds like lust honey.  Stay 100 miles away from this guy.  It's NOT worth breaking up a 20 year marriage over.
251272
There is a strong chance that he is NOT cheating!!!!\nBUT he is surely not attracted to here sexually.... BUT he might like something in her that he values more than sex.... that could be a reason that he is still around!
655442
Most women I know who cheated were either bored with their married lives, or were in an unhappy marriage or relationship and could not or would not wait until they were out before starting something new.  I always say leave before beginning anything new.  Also, the grass is not always greener on the other side.
330546
I was only married for 4 years, but my best girl friend is having her 11th wedding anniversary next month and I know she has never and would never think about cheating.... I carry the same belief, cheating is the meanest thing you can do to a person you apparently "love".  I also have good news he has never cheated on her either, He is my brother, and I know him better than he thinks, i am not going to turn him into a saint.  I have seen him googling other girls but when push comes to shove he respects the fact that he was lucky enough to find "the one" he wouldn't jeopardize that (coming from the horses mouth).... good people are out there, We just are waiting to find more of us
442160
when men cheat they try and lay blame for the reason on the one who is hurt, the victim. they are just trying to get u to depressed and down and believing it was your falt so u won't lay blame where it really belongs. i would divorce him, and get some alimony out of it. he is not done with this woman yet, he doesn't want to divorce u because he might have to give u too much financially, or split the assetts fairly.
365449
"why do men cheat on there wives" correct question is "why do people cheat on their spouses" this is just the way some people can get the feeling of being younger without thinking of the ones at home and being hurt, the words "I'm sorry" may fix the glass on the floor in Pieces but not the feeling of having your partner cheating on you, you know what you need to do, get yourself out of the home and file, you need to see that there are men out there that will treat you as the queen that you are and finding one will be one of the simplest things to do, start off by treating your self as number one and under standing that this was done to you, not your doing at all. get rid of the dog and never look back. i see to many reasons why not to stay in this relationship. open your eyes and get on with your life...
31701
If you knew he was cheating before you got married, more than likely he's cheated or is wanting to cheat since you've been married. This was not a secret that was kept from you and you knew what you were getting into before you got married. Do this, ask yourself these questions: Have you found any evidence that shows he has cheated or is wanting to cheat? Have you confronted him about it and have you shared your feelings with him about this? Is this relationship with this person really that important to you? If any of the above answers give you that "sick to your stomach / queezee" feeling, then you might want to reconsider your marriage with this person. You shouldn't have to have these bad feelings everyday,especially if this person is supose to be your best friend and soulmate. If you are ok with it and can work things out and be happy,then YES, forgive and forget. Everyone should get a second chance.Good luck and take care.
341269
Just because your marriage of 25 years is "ok" doesn't mean you can't have a strong attraction to someone you describe. People change throughout their lives and it sounds to me like you're gay.To reiterate, that you have spent a pleasant 25 years with your wife says no more than this time has been tolerable. If you're saying (sounds like you are) that you've been feeling earth shattering passion and obsession about your married friend, it's fairly obvious.
159363
Maybe he is for real...not everyone is a liar and a cheat or has a hidden agenda.Just dont rush into anything.\n\nI met my a guy almost 7 years ago in an internet chatroom.\n\nWe are still best pals and.....happily married :)
573306
Well, men and women alike cheat. Not everyone mind you. We are all different and have our reasons for cheating or not cheating. Speaking on behalf of men, my personal opinion is that if a man cheats, he does think about it, even if its at a subconscious level. I have never cheated on anyone I have been with, but that's my choice. I prefer to end the relationship if I feel that I want to be with another woman. Cheating isn't worth the headaches or the risk of losing someone you might care about.\n\nI think if someone cheats, they have very low morals and isn't someone worth being with. This is why I believe that most people get involved in serious relationships too early in life. They should be out there having fun and enjoying their youth. There will be plenty of time to get involved in a serious relationship. Once we learn what love is really about, we can make better decisions on who will might want to spend the rest of our lives with.
434026
27 here, and your problems are all relative to your life and experience.  What seems like a big deal to some is nothing for somebody else.  If you have kids and a long relationship a cheating partner is very serious it changes not only your life but your children's lifes as well.