At work we got 2 new managers started and some new employees as the other manager left. But since they started they have been asking me sum wierd questions like have u got a b/f? they've asked me like 10 times now, I said I don't have 1. They ask r u looking for b/f? R u single? Do u like drink? R u textin ur b/f? When r u planning to get married? Do like anyone here? Last week this Indian guy who's English wasn't good came up to me and said "u r a very beautiful woman. I look at u why making pizza hope u don't mind" then I struggled to understand him and the manager translated for him he said "he is saying he likes u he wants to be ur b/f" I was really embarrassed. Today one of the managers said this guy asked him to ask me out. This guy had asked me out b4 ages ago and I always said no to him. Coz im not interested. Im the only female driver there. But I think that managers shouldn't be acting like this. Im fed up with it and it makes me a bit uncomfortable. Should I make a complaint
138129
I think that you should go straight to the store manager, and tell him what has been going on. Tell him that you feel uncomfortable with all their questions. While you may like your coworkers, you are under no obligation to tell them anything of your personal life. If the store manager does not do anything to resolve this problem, go to the district manager. Keep going over everyone's head who refuses to acknowledge this complaint of (possible) sexual harrassment. Most chain restarants (Pizza Hut, McDonalds) have a 1-800 number to call to report sexual harrasment.
164828
Are you two in a serious relationship? If your not truly commited to eachother then go ahead and date around if he thinks ur serious then ask first, dont walk all over ur boss' feelings or u'll get fired\ngood luck
486836
I think its because they think they already have you. They dont feel that they have to work to get you excited.  But if it bothers you that much i think you should talk to your man and let him know that you dont just wanna jump in to F**k-ing.  Let him know you exactly what you would like him to do.
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+ I really don't know as I don't seem to have that problem. My girl friend was still having guys call to ask her out when we first started (and she still is) and I suggested that the three of us get together and that never happened. Someone was intimidated, but not me. Seems like the guy would always say no, or that is what I was told. I sure hope that is the truth as I would hate to find out otherwise later.  My thought was that if they thought enough of her to ask her out they probably had the same values as I do so they had to be OK guys and maybe they would be valuable people to know. \nI am getting ready to go on a work trip to South America and I told her that it was OK to have dinner with some of them if she wanted, and I guess that was a wrong answer too. So I am busting back to get everything done and every time I turn around I get asked to do more things. I can't understand it. If I were to do the same thing, would I be considered inconsiderate, thoughtless or greedy for attention? I suppose I will never really understand. I really hope that when I return she will have spent at least one full 48 hour period without having consumed any alcohol as I worry a lot about it and sometimes I stay away because of it. Well I hope my thoughts help you sort out yours. \nGood Luck from a guy who is not intimidated and who cares enough to just walk away if the other person would be happier that way. (Been there done that)
104154
Im telling you I hate it when this happens!  SOME guys are just soooooo persistent!  I use to bartend and I had one guy who came in every single day just to see if I had kicked my hubby out yet!  He would call the bar and he's send me presents, and tip very very well.  Im really bad at hurting peoples feelings.  I HATE being mean!  cannot help it!  Finally I just had to tell him- ok- here we go- tell him u r lesbian!  lol  Ok maybe not!  lol  I would just tell him- sorry- Im not interested.  Then just kinda avoid him at all costs!!!!  I really do feel for u!  Good luck friend!
538304
Well, as an MUNER, I've seen this happen. It's lucky that you were admin because if that note had been confiscated, there would be consequences. Anyways, you are right in asking him straight off would scare him. You don't really know this guy, do you? It seems like 2 or 3 weeks at most  and you already say he's NOT the player type. Maybe he is. If he really liked you, he would have called. This guy is not a perfect gentleman as he hasn't fulfilled his promise to call. I think he's keeping you as a safety as he flirts with you online but not in a more meaningful way. He maybe interested in another girl. There are other guys out there. Good luck.
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If your new wait a while to see if she acts that way towards u again... if she does put her in her place especially if she just your co-worker and not your supervisor!!!! don't cry to management yet they may see this as a sign of weakness and let you go!!!
371069
i'm sorry, but either we are b/f & g/f....or nothing. it's like having a best friend and then getting demoted to co-worker. WHATEVER! i'd rather be concerned about getting promoted to someone else's girlfriend status.
68418
Here's the problem - you are co-workers, so getting intimate with you may be an ethics violation.  He probably got a vibe that the other women were friendly without being too serious, so he was OK with this mock flirting.  However, if you displayed a serious, shy work-type demeanor, he probably didn't want to 'provoke' you by being too familiar.  you may not understand this, but every time a guy goes to be with a girl, there is a question in the back of his head that is saying, 'will I be sued?'  An honorable guy will not try to get too intimate with a co-worker, so if you want him to flirt with you, you will have to act like you will be his friend and not mind the intimacy that a co-worker should avoid.  In today's work environment, it's very easy for a guy to be victimized, so you will have to go all out to show him that you will be OK with a little display of affecdtion without taking him to court or getting him fired.
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I sympathise with you. I have worked in places where people don't pull their weight and took liberties. \n\nIt's difficult when you are the new guy and if you went to your boss, it would look like you are telling tales out of school.\n\nI would wait a while, maybe mention it to the guy himself and after a while if things have not improved, see your line manager. \n\nA good manager should not let something like this happen anyway. You may be better off going to Human Resources. Good luck.
559311
Nowadays, with all the sexual harassment issues at the workplace, people are extremely careful when getting involved like this. Maybe you should ask him to meet you in a place outside the work environment and openly discuss the issue. Some guys, like me are shy and will wait to get a very clear "hint" to make the move.
89748
this is a risky situation. If you really like him it might be better for you to leave your job and look for another so that there is no complications with the others if and when they find out. If he is interested in you, I believe you would know. If you are not sure then come out and ask him.
436725
I agree. If you are doing a good job then you need to speak up. The squeaky wheel gets the oil. Managers have a lot of things to do. If you work hard and are not being recognized you need to make yourself known to them. I have had multiple management positions and for all of them I just walked up and asked my manager what I needed to do to get a promotion. Many managers enjoy straight people who just go up to them and are bold and confident.
499270
It sounds like you are unhappy and need a different job.\n\nTHEY are the boss. You are labor.
572426
Why would you tell your bf it's not like you came on to your co-worker or he really hit on you inappropriately.. Just tell your co-workers youre' not interested and you have someone already.. What are you feeling guilty for and you haven't even did anything... And then to tell your bf and youre not guilty of anything will only open up a can of worms...Everytime you argue he'll have the right to accuse you of someone at the job... Shut your mouth and let the guys know youre taken and call it a day... You're making a big issue out of nothing
116429
Take it up with the management.  As soon as you see that a staff member at the bottom rung is just giving you what they are told to say, ask to speak to their manager.  To do otherwise, wastes everyone's time and energy.  No sense upsetting someone who has no authority to change anything, or upsetting yourself, and looking bad.
309312
Intriguing...you know I have to ask now what you do for a living! :)\n\nBut in truth, I can't imagine what profession would mean that you can't have friends...Let's contemplate...\n\nOkay, exotic dancer?  Who cares?  It's just a job.  As long as you're not dancing in my living room, why would I care?\n\nProstitute?  Meh!  I can't say that hanging out with hookers is a goal in my life, but it's not like you're gonna come after my man...And it's not like my man needs to look anywhere else!\n\nUmmm, Garbage collector?  Might be a little smelly, but I assume you shower regularly.\n\nBeer taste-tester?  Yeah, I see how that might mean you're not allowed to talk to my guy...you might get an employee discount that would make it hard for me to compete for his attention, but as long as you include me in the discount, I'm okay with it!\n\nPostal worker?  I get how some folks would be a little wary, but it shouldn't have any gender association.\n\nAuto mechanic?  Seems to me I'd like to have you on my side...especially considering how poorly women are treated at the average auto shop.\n\nLawyer?  Well, I guess that's self explanatory!\n\n;)\n\nOh, look, I guessed one right!  You just need to find more open minded friends...who cares about the stupid ones?\n\nAnd don't listen to Sword...he doesn't get that you're just there because men are pigs.