THIS GUY HAS WANTED TO DATE ME FOR THE PAST TWO YEARS BUT I HAD AND STILL HAVE A BOYFRIEND. AT FIRST I WAS NOT INTERESTED IN HIM, BUT AS TIME WENT BY HE WAS MORE UNDERSTANDING AND SO SWEET TO ME THAT I WAS GOING TO LEAVE MY THEN BOYFRIEND FOR HIM.  WELL SOME OTHER GIRL WANTED TO TALK TO HIM. THIS GIRL HAD TOO MANY PROBLEMS AT HOME AND ASKED HIM TO TAKE HER AWAY OUT OF STATE.  WELL HE DID BUT THE DAY BEFORE HE LEFT HE TOLD ME THAT HE LOVED ME AND WANTED TO BE WITH ME BUT THAT I WOULD NEVER LEAVE MY BOYFRIEND.  I THOUGHT ABOUT IT ALL NIGHT AND WAS DECIDED TO LEAVE MY BOYFRIEND BUT IT WAS TOO LATE HE HAD LEFT WITH HER TO TAKE HER TO AN OUT OF STATE FRIENDS HOUSE. AND AFTER A ONE "NIGHT" SHE ENDED UP PREGNANT.  HIS BROTHER TOLD ME HE WAS SO SORRY AND THAT HE WAS VERY UPSET ABOUT IT AND VERY UNHAPPY! NOW HE AND THAT GIRL ARE BACK IN TOWN AND SHE HAS ALREADY HAD HER BABY.  HIS BROTHER HAS TOLD ME THAT HE WANTS TO SEE ME, SPEAK TO ME, AND THAT HE STILL WANTS TO DATE ME.  WHAT TO DO?
130806
Step back, look at this situation, is this really how you want the rest of your life to be? I would say walk away, no run. Don't look back just run. And on another note if you are willing to dump the current boyfriend for another guy then why waste your time with him, obviously he is not who you want, might as well get rid of him too, time to clean house back up and punt. Just a little tip from your uncle Will.
25662
It sounds like if he's truly understood that you're gonna break it off with him and yet he still hasn't changed his attitude, then he's probably wanting you to break it off. Maybe it's one of the whole, "I don't want to do it so I'll MAKE her do it" type things. Give him this last chance, try to go out and do something that both of you enjoy without the distraction of friends and family. Let him know that it really does bug you when he acts this way. If he still seems like he wants to hang on and will change, you decide, you go for it or maybe you've had enough. But if he's STILL acting that way by the end of the "date" call it quits. Move on to a guy who'll treat ya better! Good luck girl!
584102
Tell him you want to meet the brother and his girlfriend first, maybe at a dinner. Or better make some plans that would have you and your boyfriend around them  most of the day on a Saturday.  That way you can get to know them better and hopefully tell if you would feel comfortable with them out of town.  But just going  away with people you don't know, sounds like trouble.
371616
I think he likes you, if he didn't he wouldn't have taken you out.  It is too early to meet with the family,  don't you think? some people take meeting the family as something serious. He probably just doesn't feel like he can become your official bf, one needs time for that.\nGo on being nice, I am sure that he likes you.
487382
Wow--that's a long time to date someone!!  I'll bet you are really hurting.  He's probably curious about what's on the 'other side of the fence' at this point.  There's nothing you can do about it if he wants to be with another girl.  You don't have to like it--but you do have to accept it and take responsibility for your own life.  He doesn't want to talk with you though and you have to respect his wishes about that.  It's going to be difficult to get past such a significant relationship.  I suggest (although this may sound weird & I'm not suggesting you want anything bad to happen to him) that you pretend he's dead and grief accordingly.  You don't have the option of talking with him to work things out.  If he misses your absence, he'll get in touch at some future date.  The fact is he has changed his mind, which is his perogative, and you need to get on with the rest of your life.  Good Luck
40202
Well, his message sounds so overtly loving that it really may just be a sister-like friendship.  If you've already talked to him about it to show your care, which is a good thing, how about getting to know the friend better?  After all, if she's like a sister, and you two have been dating that long, it would make sense that he'd want you and the friend to become friends, too.  He probably wants the friend to like you as much as he does and secretly get her approval.  If he gets very uncomfortable with the idea of you and the girl getting close or hanging out, maybe there's something more to worry about.  In the meantime, it might be fun to get to know her.  And honestly, if the three of you are hanging out and then your guy goes home with YOU, you'll feel that little win inside.  Also, he might talk about you to her just as much as he does about her to you, so there's a happy possibility.
597861
Hello sweetheart, you must be so confused, it certainly sounds like your fella is. Speaking from experience I would not even speak to him again let alone go out on a date. I think  on this one sweetheart you have to follow your heart, you are the only person who truly knows ho you feel about him. I really hope that you can make the decision that is the right one for you and your little girl. I bet you have the same response from family and friends as I did, everyone told me to dump him "you can do better than him". I made the decision to walk away and have some on our own time with my boy. I have never seen my ex since. He tried allsorts to get back home I stood strong and resisted the temptation. I have remarried and I adore my husband. You will be happy again  take care beauty and don't re rushed.
630150
Yeah, he's a brother, if you want him to back off basically you'd have to stop dating her... otherwise he's just doing what brothers are supposed to do; protect his sister from other guys ;-)  doesn't matter if you're a good or bad influence, it's his brotherly duty to make it difficult for you...
203714
I would let him go. He seems as though even if he were to ask you to be his girl, he wouldn't be faithful. Guys like that have wandering eyes and face trouble in commitment. I would move on.
613882
hey, \nOnce a man has made up his mind it's over. Also, it sounds like he is getting what he wants and more from this other girlfriend of his. Besides he left you before you went to the hospital! Doesn't that say something! You deserve someone so much better. She may not even love him. but when something happens like; she doesn't give him everything he wants. He will leave and come crawling back. There really isn't anything you can do. I have had this same experience. Not as bad, but I know how you are feeling. AS soon as you come to accept it, it gets better.
376056
I'd say calm down!  First, someone is going to get hurt.  That is not the end of the world so try and put that out of your mind.  Second, I think your decision comes down to whether or not you want to settle down.  That is the decision you have to make.  Guy #1 wants to settle down, Guy #2 sounds like he doesn't.  If you're ready to settle down, the choice is pretty clear.  Dating two different people is always messy, and you're going to have to be prepared for some fallout because of it.  However, if you make your decision firmly and honestly, you'll minimize the damage.  Good luck.
911
Personally, I would say no.  He sounds like he does not know what he wants, or worse, like he was waiting to see what would happen with her before he moved on to you.  And you should never accept being someone's second choice.
553577
Yeah, leave him immediately...and go where? What are you leaving him for, so this girl can have him because you THINK he cheated and you want him to suffer by taking his child away from him??? You'd better get your head together, my dear. You haven't thought this through...
560661
I'm kind of confused.  Her boyfriend has been away right?  She still loves him.  But since he's been gone, she found another guy right?  But the second guy has a another girlfriend???  Ummm....that's real simple.  Dump the second guy since he's obviously got two gals on the string...and go back to the first guy if she still loves HIM.  There's nothing to tell HIM.  Even if she can't make up her mind between the two of them, obviously guy #2 hasn't made up his mind which gal he wants so.....if she isn't his OBVIOUS choice she needn't waste any more of her time.  Why hurt the first guy when it isn't even necessary????
656424
In my opinion, this sounds strange to me. Maybe her boyfriend said something to her about you after you and your fiancee' left that night. Since you just met this couple awhile back, he may be using you as an excuse to break up with her. Or he may have found you very attractive and keeps telling her that. That would make any woman upset. Whatever the case, she is mad for something her boyfriend said, not what you had said. For the dirty looks, and she tells you to go find a hobby. The man had something to do with this. If it happened to me, I would go on with my life. I don't need friends like that to ruin things for me.
370484
Let me get this straight...you have been seeing a guy for 2 weeks...but he wants to go out with someone else, who he knows it won't work with, so that when it's over he can go out with you.....He starts seeing the other girl, then, the next day can't keep his hands off of you...... What should you do?....Get some self respect and tell him to sling his hook.....you would  be setting the tone for your whole relationship with him if you accept this situation......walk now ...it will save you a lot of heartache in the end
36303
yes ytou messed up, but it's not your fault, it's guy #1, if he could not tell you he really wanted you or wanted you like a GF, then he is a coward and a meek man, someone you really do not want when it counts, not it sounds like he is showing the hurt poor pity me side to see if he can leverage that into something, you are better off looking for guy #3 and forgetting the other 2 losers