My Boyfriend has a bit of a spending addiction, I have tried taking the credit card but he just goes online and buys things there. I look after all the bills etc because he cant handle the stress of it but he thinks its ok for me to stress about the debt he is running up for us. He spends a couple of hundred on eBay almost every week, money of which we dont have, so I was wondering if there was anyway of blocking his credit card on eBay or something???? Please Help
122016
yeah change the pass word or close account... or... buy more than three items and dont pay for them and you will get suspended until you pay.\n\nif you know his ebay details shut down his account
416373
Whenever I'm in that situation (for anyone, not just boyfriends) I make a list of everything he or she likes. Try to be as specific as possible. As you're making the list you might start to come up with some possible ideas. My boyfriend (who buys everything he wants and is consequently extremely difficult to shop for) just had a birthday and I did the same thing for him. The list was ridiculously long, but I ended up buying him season 1 of Stella, an incredibly stupid sitcom that lasted only 10 episodes. Anyway, he absolutely loved it. He said that it was one of the most thoughtful gifts anyone had ever bought him and that he wouldn't even have thought of buying himself that. So give it a try-- maybe you'll come up with the perfect gift! Good luck!
343670
Sorry I think the gold chain is too much and I bet his parents (and possibly yours) will think so too.  How are you getting the money to buy it if you are only 14?  I would suggest you take it down a notch and maybe get him 6 heartfelt but not so expensive things, wrap each present in a box and put a number on each box.  Tell him there is one present for each month you have been together.  Maybe in the last box you could get him a cd that has music by a band you both like.
296866
honestly!\n\nwhy are you bothering?\n\nYou'll end up the person who will be supporting his habit 'cause he needs to borrow $20 (and he promises to pay you back, and he never does!)\n\nHe'll sweet talk you, he's probably got a way with words... but you'll be wasting your time! What do you expect to get out of this relationship?\n\n...And to top this off, be weary he'll eventually be stealing from you too! (This will definitely happen if he's out of work, can't hold a job down!)
17425
eBay offers a list of buyer protection steps.  Did you pay using PayPal?  If so, they offer their own buyer protection.  Was their email correspondence?  Try emailing them there.  I would suggest taking a look at the list of actions you can take by following the provided link.  If all else fails, the last step is to contact your credit card company.  \n\nSecondly, be sure that you check user ratings and comments before purchasing anything from them.  I know I'm probably just stating what you already know, but you can often tell a lot about a user based on their ratings and reviews (and the longevity of their account, too!).\n\neBay has excellent customer support, so if all else fails, you should definitely contact them.  Even if a user is no longer registered, there is information on him or her in the system. Visit the "contact us" link from your 'My eBay' page for more information there.
359859
I always have this problem too. What I usually will do is get him a gift certificate-this year its $100 to Best Buy. I actually think that is what it was last year too LOL or maybe it was $50 last year anyway...but for him its the perfect gift. And that way I do not buy him something his family members have already gotten him or he already got himself. I will also have him pick out one thing that I will just hand him. And then will get him something smaller wrapped too.
439628
Unfortunately the problem is probably all with Ebay and it will do little or nothing to help you.  I joined Ebay in 1997 was both a seller and a buyer and the same credit card that I have been using there for years, was suddenly no good to recieve a $5.47 credit.  I finally told them to keep the money and closed the whole account.  Ebay has become one massive, bloated, unresponsive bureaucracy.  My suggestion, is keep the card, drop Ebay.
580673
first off, be honest with him. the more you keep trying to hide this from your husband, the more excuses and trails you'll have to cover. however you paid for the bills they will leave a paper trail somewhere and if this keeps up, eventually your husband will follow that trail and then you'll have to answer for the shady activity. Since you only used it to pay for essentials like food and gas, then it shouldn't be that big a concern. whatever the outstanding bills were then that might produce a problem. Trust me, just suck it up and let him know about the bills and such and just deal with it then. Better now than several months down the road and you slip up on how you spent x amount of dollars on something. Just suck it up and ride it out. the longer the paper trail you leave the hotter the flame will be when it catches up to you.
464356
Have you checked out Oprah's "Debt Diet"?  I do not have the link off hand (sorry).\nI usually advise clients to do some or all of the following (depending on how far in debt they are):\n1) cut up all but 2 credit cards and use those only for emergancies (also call the companies and cancel the cut up cards)\n2) create a livible budget that you can adhere to\n3) chart all purchases/expenses and see where you can create "free" cash\n4) withdraw only a certain amount of money each week.  That is all the cash that you have for the week - keep in mind any activities that you have occuring said week and spend your cash appropriately.\n5) get a personal accountability partner - someone that you share your weekly spending with (like a list) and will give you additional encouragement/punishment (for lack of a better word) when needed\n6) create a savings account that is only for your "wants" - you can not overdraw a savings account and you can only use what is there.\n\nFor the clients that are seriously out of hand, I usually recommend that they make their account "2 singatures for withdrawal" - that way you are not able to withdraw funds without the second account holder present.\nI hope I was able to help!
598811
Instead of doing shopping therapy, you spoil you boyfriend. CONGRATULATIONS! You are his ''GOD GIFT''! Do you know how many men would like to be on his place? If you enjoy it , go on girl! I'm with you!!!!
421098
OMG the exact same thing is happeneing to me! Plus, my boyfriend won't tell me what he wants, and I know hes getting me something nice. =/ I might get him a cool CD player or a portable DVD player... i dont know, the seem a bit expensve... whatever. If i think of something i will let you know.. =) lol
390137
If you own things that are worth like a lot of money...you should consider selling some of it on ebay.  That is what I call fast money.  lol.  Another option that you might consider is try tutoring young kids that need help in school.  I'm sure their parents would pay you big money.  That is what I'm doing...except I'm doing it for community service.  If your a "spendy shopper"...try consider buying stuff that you really need and only buy things that are on sale.  That is what I do.
578228
Usualy, Ebay gives you the option of entering your credit card number. Try that instead.
322223
Try looking on craigs list for people who need help moving or getting rid of stuff. Sell things on ebay. Call your credit card company and try to get them to lower your rates.
481919
You dont need a credit card but will have to post a bank account. This is for Ebay to take their funds and costs at a predesignated time. I would recommend a credit card but if you need to do a bank account then open a new account just for ebay. This way if your account is comprimised, you will not be completely out.
435328
before I got rid of him, I would have him take out a  credit card and have him charge dinners, movies, clothes and all kinds of stuff for him and YOU, and bring it up real fast right up over the top of his limit...then leave him..and leave him with all his credit card bills...that should teach him...but if you say this is what you did....he will try to get you to pay for what he may say is your share of it....so do not buy anything for yourself.....fool him into buying presents for you..gifts..stuff that when people break up..they do not get back...\nand if he has a credit card now..just start doing it with that one...make sure you do it fairly fast and make to go over the limit then leave him...\nand do a BETTER job NEXT time...\ngo take a class at the college and look for guys taking a course so he is working toward his Masters..and try to hook up with one of those PROFESSIONAL type guys...\n\nsmile\ngood luck
44842
I would be a little irritated, but not for too long. Obviously your b/f is kind of taking liberties with the expectations of a gift, and of course when you exchange gifts everyone expects some type of equitable balance, but I tell ya, this is just in the U.S!. In general, it's OK for a boyfriend to go all out with a gift just to show his love and appreciation. In latin America, that type of display is actually OK, like filling up a room with roses or bringing a whole band of mariachis to your house to serenade you. Maybe he has that concept of chivalry or something. Just let him be and enjoy it. Maybe go for the $10 stuffed bear instead of the $5.\nOh and P.S. Don't mention anything to him about the cost or how he wasted money. That's rude and hurtful. Trust me, in about 3 years he'll be getting you the $10 bear at Walgreens.