My boyfriend of 5 years has told him that he thinks 16 years old is the perfect age for "women" and that theyre still 'pure' and most attractive " at that age.\nHe says girls who 16 or so in this country are conditioned by society not to like any guys over 30, so his only chance to be with a "pure, untouched girl" would be outside the U.S.\nHe also said that men used to get to marry very young women in olden times and that he thinks it "sucks" that now its not cool.\nHes late 30s. Im late 20s.\nIm so disgusted by this revelation that I want to move away and never speak to him again.\nHe  has so much else going for him ( looks, great job, humor, etc)\nBut I dont think that can make up for him daydreaming about young chicks.\nHe even joked that if he gets married he'll lust after the babysitter or his future daughter's teenage friends.\nAm I smart to leave him and move away asap ?\n\nThanks all
132176
You leave your boy friend right now and never return...\n\nHe got you and still talks about 16 year old and his own daughters girl friends..this guy is out of his mind and disgusting. \n\nIf you continue with him you will not only put your own future on stake but also, yours if any born daughters teenage life..Think seriously you are young you deserve much better than this leave him now before its too late.
428261
I don't think we should allow society to dictate age restrictions in relationships. There is a 21 year age gap between my boyfriend and I (I'm 27). I have never been happier in my life. Just like with any relationship, it needs to have the essentials like trust, understanding, communication, interests, goals, etc. If those elements are in place, then nothing else matters. Love is the greatest feeling in the world, and age shouldn't stop anyone from experiencing it.
252916
I'm 56 and women your age want to date us guys cause the women your age say younger men are too immature! But it is your choice of what you want out of life? Myself, a women has no age limit for me as long as we are compatible.\nGo for it girl, all you need is self esteem!
666321
The first part of your question, You being 18 and he being 24 is fine your both adults and personal I see nothing wrong with that at all. \nThe fact that he has a past well that is normal most do. Him looking younger does not mean much either. It is great he has a kid but is he resposible and doing what he can to help support his child? If he isn't he should be because not only is it the right thing to do it will also show he is being a responsible adult. \nAcceptence into a family is the rough part here because I do not know you background to offer the best advice. Some people will never accept him because of their beliefs. We live in such a time where many make mistakes, so you would think we can learn to forgive and not judge them for their past but that is not always the case. \nKeep in mind your an adult and can make your own choices. Although I would not tell you that you should disrespect your parents. \nIf I were in your shoes this is what I would do. I would tell my parents that I needed some time with them alone and work it out where everyone can get together. I would say I have this guy I met and I have been getting to know. Everything I have learned about him is great. (this part you give a few examples). He has stolen my heart but he has past. (explain about his child). Now I know that you look down on this type of thing and I know that he is not perfect but I am willing to love him for the man he is not the man he use to be. I want you meet him and accept him as I have. \nThis may or may not work because i do not know your parents but the key thing here is talk calmly and respectfully and listen to what they tell you even if it isnt what you want to hear. \nI wish you luck and I hope this all turns out for you.
527185
O sweets! The "one" is so complicated. I think when all girls have a crush at that age, they think/wish/hope he is the "one". But seriously... He probably isnt. Who he is now, wont even be close to who he becomes later. I dont know anyone who is the same person at 25 that they were at 15. 10 years makes a huge difference, and the cold hard truth is that relationships started when so young, USUALLY dont last. Over 85% of marriages between the ages of 18-25 end in divorce. Thats the majority of people getting married. You can never really know someone till you've lived with them for a few years. There is an old saying, Love is blind, and marriage is a real eye opener. I wouldnt worry too much about finding the "one" right now. I believe destiny and fate have everything worked out already for you and when its right, things will fall into place for you and him to finally come together. Good luck
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I don't think there is realy an age that is appropriate, because all people have different maturity levels at different times in their lives. I lost mine at the age of 16 and I'm 22. My boyfriend got my drunk and basically took advantage of me. Don't get me wrong, I could have said no, but I didn't. Today I wish I would have waited. Thinking about when my son gets older and if he ever asked mom, when did yo first have sex. Most parents would never hear that so I probably won't, but what if they were to ask? Although, I would never take it back because it got me where I am today, I've been happily married for two years with a gorgeous ten month old son. People make mistakes, but hopefully they learn from them. Society isn't the problem I don't think. i think the parents and schools need to start at a young age teaching values, because they are lacking somewhere.
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My husband was that way in his early twenties when we were dating. It's a guy thing. I think they do it to not look like the girl is in control of them. They mature eventually. I would talk to your boyfriend alone and ask him. Do you think you act different when your around your friends? Why do you think your friend teases me?  Say it in a calm and casual way. Just to see what he says. You could even kid around with the guy who teases you about your age and say, by the way your acting you wouldn't know the difference in our age.\n  In the end it seems all boys and young men go through that phase. I learned to give it right back to them. I would like to think they think of you as a friend and they are kidding around. I remember a time when i didn't like joking around or "busting chops" but as i got older and learned how to give it right back. I learned not to be so sensitive, not that you are, and it actually made the guys I hung out with more comfortable around me. There were times when I would give it right back and they would say something that made me a little sensitive and I couldn't think of anything to say and it was at thoughts times when I learned to laugh at myself and say to them "o.k. you got me". I hope i could help. I know exactly what your going through, I was there. I does get better.
455449
I'm in my 30's and to be honest I wouldn't consider dating a man under 30, and not many of my friends would either.... I don't think I would have much in common with someone 10 years my junior.
309976
Considering your typing style and use of slang, I'm going to guess you arn't actually a 64 year old (wow, that was hard).\n\nHowever, if a 64 year old man was interested in an 18 year old girl, I would tell him this:  Dream on, she isn't going to be attracted to you, unless your wallet is very very fat!
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Nothing is wrong with it as long as it is consentual and a relationship based on respect and affection.  When I was 18 I dated a 44 year old guy, we stayed together for 3 years and we're still great friends.  \n\nHowever I've also known older men that prey on younger women and men because they are less experianced, and use them for sex, like that they can easily control them, or fetishize them to a startling extreme.  That is not cool to me because it lacks the fundamental respect for their partner.\n\nIt doesn't matter if your bf is 18 or 85, you should both be treating each other as equals with respect and no exploitation.  That advice goes to couples who are the same age too.
10795
I think that the answer to this question would be depending on how long you and him have been dating.  If you have been dating for years and he's getting pretty serious than he is just saying that he loves you, but he does not want to be without commitment until you are that old.  But, if you have only been dating for a little while than he was probably just being a smart mouth.  I personally think that expecting someone to wait until your fifty would be asking too much of that person, but that is just my teenage intuition talking.
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On the contrary, there are plenty of men who prefer an INexperienced woman. It's 50-50 really, just a matter of preference. 25 is a suitable age for a woman to lose her virginity, if that is your inclination. Personally I see it differently, but I will not judge you by my standards. You want to wait for awhile so it is something more special than it would be if you did it when you were younger. That takes a lot of discipline, especially with peer pressure. Stick with it, but it will be hard. A lot of men say mean things when they find out that they cannot get any from a girl. Real mean things, even when they were sweet as sugar before. Men can be such surpreme assholes to women sometimes, so be ready for it, and stick to your guns. There are few things as satisfying as sticking to something so extremely long term that you proclaimed you would stick to, and other people look up to that, even though they say degrading things about it just because they are jealous they don't have the resolve you do and may want you to fail to validate their own perspectives. Good luck.
399491
Kinda have to laugh at that one. I don't even think of late 20's as a age difference. I'm 36, recently dated a 28 yr old. We would occasionally laugh and he'd call me a cradle robber, and i'd call him a silly boy, but it's all in play. As long as you are emotionally responsible, then the conversation should flow naturally. (I'm into 80's music and star wars~~ yes geeky, I know, but typical of the ladies my age....).... Try starting with stuff like that.
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I feel like I'm already a mature man at age 26.  I've never treated dating as "playing the field".  I once heard that view of dating described like buying a car - "I want this color, not too old, not too many miles".  I think it should be much more than that.  I thought the point of dating was to find that special someone you want to spend the rest of your life with.  (I'll admit to being a romantic.)  I don't understand why some men cheat.  It's disrespecting the woman, plus shooting yourself in the foot.  If you have a good relationship, why ruin it?  The same goes for womanizing.  Why move from one woman to another before you even get to know the first one?  I think things would be a lot better if all of us treated each other with the respect we deserve instead of treating each other as goods that we are trying to buy with cards and chocolates and dinners.
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According to her stiffing you on the date, and her reaction to asking about it, I say it's a no-win situation.  It could definitely happen with someone half your age, but I don't see it happening any time soon.  Girls at 18 are still just girls, regardless of how grown they think they are.  Younger guys are more apt to deal with this sort of behavior, because it's a younger people-type problem.  \nI won't shame you for going after a young woman, as you seem to at least have your head on straight, which I have come to find is STILL somewhat rare in men, even up to age 60 (I could be wrong, but you made it sound good)!  But I think you'd be better off to deal with someone closer to your age, even mid-twenties.  Why?  I'm 24, and I'm gaining a preference for men in their mid-thirties, though I do find people who impress me at younger ages, and older men who still disgust me with their antics.  \nI think it's probably best that you let her deal with her peer pressure and peer group mingling, and move on to greener pastures, lest you drive yourself crazy and find out I was right several months later  ;-)\n\nGood luck to you  :-)
585485
i can only answer for myself..hope that is good enough...\n\nNot to be funny but we all know that women mature faster than men right? well when a girl is lets say 23 and her man is 24, he has the mentality (in most cases) of about a 17-18 yoa male...so older men tend to be on the same mentality level...\nnow why girls your age won't go out with you..i don't know...can't help you there\n\noh yeah i am 23 and my guy is 36  ;)
60472
well im 34 and my hubby is 40 been with him since i was 18 going on 19 and he was 25 going on 26.i dunno how long ya waited to get married but for me we lived together for years building our trust and relationship before we married . actually i was 26 when we married and he was then 32 . the point is some say age doesnt matter  well in some cases it does. men that are with us younger girls seem to like to keep small tabs on us where we been and with who and how long ya been there all because the age difference makes them feel insecure . perhaps hes noticed  men ur age  looking at you or saying helo or just a friendly smile. thats enough to make any guy jealous.. heres what i did.. id assure him hes the best thing evr happend to me and he should feel proud that other men look , smile, say helo to me when im with him because  that should tell him he has something special right by his side and  that something special is you and he has  you to love, to hold, and to cherish the rest of his life because you married him not for the piece of paper but for the man you met  and fell in love with and their could only be one man like that for you and hes the one. now i dont mean  ya have to be exact in that way but i would just reassure him the luv between yas is still there no matter how much probes. and if all fails  just ask him right out what changed in 2 years time? doesn't hurt to ask sometimes that all  it takes..