Is such a man homosectual?A female friend of mine has such a problem with her husband.
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I think that any man that wants to have "backdoor" sex with anyone is GAY, but is in denial.  He wants to do the homosexual type of things, but does not want anyone to know he is gay so he does them with the woman instead.
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I think it is possible to have friends of opposite sex, but what concernes me about your story is that he  is not open with you about this friendship. He should have no problem with you being present during his conversations with her. Another thing is after you get married, friends fade away a little and your spouse becomes a focus of your life, so it is unnatural to spend that much time even with your closest friend. If you have concerns about her, tell him about it, and if I was in this situation, I would insist that he only talks to her when I am around at least for a while so you could see for yourself that there is nothing more to the story. If she is just a friend as he claims she is, he won't have a problem with you being around while he is talking to her. But make sure you keep track of all the conversations you are aware of and see if those are the only ones that appear on the phone bill, but do it without him knowing that you are keeping track for two reasons: you won't come across as insecure and controlling and if he is doing something wrong it will be easier to catch him. I hope I'm making sense. Try not to accuse him of anything right away, just tell him that his relationship with that woman makes you unconfortable and you want to work out a situation that will work for both of you.
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Well then don't judge him that's not your place. Make sure that he knows that you love him and support him. But you need to remember that it is not your place to judge God will do that when the time comes. If you love him just accept him and look at him as a person. Its not your job or right to try and change him and if you do really care about him then you can look past the fact that he is homosexual, and just look at him as a friend. There should be no need to try and make sure that he knows you don't agree with his lifestyle. I have homosexual friends and I don't agree with it but I'm not crappy enough to tell them that. It would hurt them, and I don't think thats really my place. As much as we say that is not judging it really is.
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My husband is the same way but it is normal as long as you don't over react on the situation. For some mean it's a control issue and for others it's a love issue. My husband always told me it's because he loved me so much but he didn't mind me talking to other guys as long as that's as far as it went. the hanging out is ok but make sure she invites you to go along if she's asked that will tell you everything. Hope this helps
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I under stand what you are going through. I have been married now for 5 years. I just resently started admitting to my self that I do have feeling for woman. I did bring it up to my husband and his responce was the oppiset of your husband. He can't understand why this is happening now.\nI am also finding it hard to find some one that is bi to become friends with. A lot of people say go to clubs or some thing but what do you do when you don' know of any. \nIf you want to talk you can e-mail me at ladyjamie28@ yahoo.com.
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uh, why do either of you need your own friends of the opposite sex? Any friends me and Hubby have, are both our friends, (usually other cpls) but we never have over friends of the opposite sex that we are both not friends with. He is 'friends' with everyone @ his work, (male and female) but never hangs with them other than at lunch, or the 1-2 times a yr their is a work party, or Christmas party, both of which I go to with him. One chick tried to get some alone time with him, but he told her no. (this was a few yrs back) I know what she was trying to do and it made me mad as heck, but he thinks she meant nothing by it. Wrong! Guys are very naive sometimes. Sounds to me like she's trying to wedge herself in there. I wouldn't suggest you getting a 'friend' too, I would suggest counciling to figure out why either of you feels the need for seperate friends. I can totally relate though, cause men always assume if you talk about another guy, (like oh so and so did this) or whatever, even when it's nothing, just you mentioning another guy's name, even in telling a story, makes them think you want the guy. But yet they can't see that when a woman hangs on to their every word (like she appears to be) or tries to spend time with a married man, that she is up to no good. A good councelor may be able to help him see that. Make sure you go to one that believes in manogomy though, because I know there are some strange councelors out there that swing and all that though, (saw one on Montel) so be careful where you go. I would definitely put an end to it, though.now.
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He is heterosexual and I don't think that he had any other leanings.\nI don't know what you are trying to get at, do you?
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Yes, I have known and had many friends who were gay.  Two of my wife and my best friends in this town are gay.  I am disgusted by their lifestyle and hate what they do, but they are some of the nicest people I know and we laugh all the time with them.
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My boyfriend says the same thing.  What he doesn't understand is that I am attracted to both sexes.  He thinks it's because I'm with him now that I am only attracted to men.  Doesn't work like that buddy
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Oh so many homophobes to report, so little time to do it in...\n\nWell, personally, I think of myself as a person not "homo erectus" lol.   Same kind of thing.  I'm bi, I'm not half homosexual.
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Of course.  Yeah you guys aren't on the same level in that regard.  It's perfectly exceptable to find someone esle to talk to about things that your wife can't.  You should check out Luke 12:22.  Great read.  basically says, "don't worry"....it's a good sigh of relief sometimes.
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I realy do think that Men and Woman can be close even Very close friends, with out there being sex.\n\nI have many Female friends, and the thought has nether entered my mind that there could (nor would want) there to be anythink more.\n\nIt is a VERY sad world we live in if Men and Woman were only close for sex! \n\nIt mattres not about being gay or even ugly, All poeple can be friends man and woman, woman and woman, man and man, what dose it matter.\n\nYour friend and many others out there are just very closed minded, and are just going along with what we are told and not what thay them self think.
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I am Bi amd married. I believe there should be no secrets in a marriage/relationship so I have told my hubby about it. We have a mutual girlfriend. One does not have to CHOOSE, you can be bi and be happy! I am!
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I actually said the same thing about my husband.  Around me he is totally different then when he is with his friends.  I finally just asked my husband what the deal was.  He looked at my puzzled, and replied that of course he acts differently around me.  I couldn't understand it.  He told me that the way he acts with me is how he wants me to see him.  The way he loves me.  The way he acts with his friends is just being one of the guys.   I told him that he cusses, drinks when he's with his friends but not around me.  He said he respected me to much to act that way with me.  Its a guy thing.  I've learned to live with it.
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ahm...nothing really...but there was this situation about a man who loves his wife that he did everything to keep his wife fit....but to no avail...she was as sloppy as ever..\n\nhe asked for an advice...i think it's really cool for a guy to be concern about his mate, that he'll take an extra step to help her or improve their relationship..
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I think you should talk to a marriage counselor or psychiatrist before you talk to the third party.\n\nWhat is missing from your life or your wife's life or your marriage that a third party would fill?  Are you bored with each other and won't admit it?  Does your wife want to explore unsettled gender identity issues?  If so, there are ways to do that without dragging a third party into a potentially hurtful situation and potentially destabilizing your marriage.  \n\nI'm not trying to defend conventional morality for the sake of defending my own moral standards, I'm just suggesting you might be papering over or distracting yourselves from issues that should be addressed directly.  I also question the ethics of using someone for an experiment like this.  I know you're not coercing the woman, but are you sure you're not messing with her head?
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HELLO marygreen38 WELL THE QUESTION U ASKED ABOUT YOUR FRND IS QUIET COMMON IN TODAYS MODERN ERA BUT BEING MODERN DOES NOT AT ALL MEAN THAT SHE WILL CARRY ON WITH SOME OTHER GUY BEINGN A MARRIED LADY..........\nU TOLD THAT SHE LOVES HER HUSBAND A LOT,,, THEN WHAT WAS THE NEED OF JOINING IMATCHUP. THIS IS TOTALLY WRONG ON HER PART.........\nTELL HER, THAT IF SHE AT ALL FEELS THAT HER HUSBAND IS NOT ROMANTIC ENOUGH THEN SHE SHOULD MAKE A FIRST MOVE TO BE ROMANTIC WITH HER HUSBAND..........\nIF SHE THINKS THAT SHE WILL NOT DO ANYTHING THEN IT IS NOT POSSIBLE AT ALL THAT HER HUSBAND SHOWS HIS ROMANTICNESS. MAY BE ITS POSSIBLE THAT TILL TODAY SHE DID NOT BECOME ROMANTIC AND HER HUSBAND FEELS AS IF SHE IS NOT ROMANTIC........\nITS NECESSARY IN A MARRIAGE TO SIT AND SHARE UR FEELINGS TOGETHER NOTHING IS GONNA HAPPEN ALL ALONE............\nWE ALL GET MARRIED TO GET SUPPORT OF A PARTNER WHO WILL STAND BY YOU ALL YOUR LIFE NOT JUST FOR ROMANCE..........\nASK HER, THAT IS SHE HAVING ALL THE RIGHT INFORMATION ABOUT THT GUY WITH WHOM SHE IS DATING? IS HE AS LOYAL TO HER AS SHE IS? IS HE NOT CARRYING ON ANY AFFAIR WITH SOME OTHER GIRL? I DONT THINK THAT SHE WILL BE ABLE TO ANSWER ALL THESE QUESTIONS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!\nASK HER TO BE LOYAL TO HER HUSBAND BECOZ HE IS THE ONLY ONE WHO WILL BE THERE TO HELP HER AT ANY PINT OF TIME AND NOT THAT GUY OF IMATCHUP..........\nTHAT'S ALL I WANT TO SAY..........