I met with a guy 4 months ago. And we is calling to each other and writting e-mails. Now he is going to study in our country and coming in May. I realy like him, how am i getting close to him. My troubles are: 1. I heard that he has a girlfriend in his country.\n 2. I have a baby, who has 3 years old. But I never told to him about it. Also he would not asking such things.\n\nPlease advise, what i need to do.
126747
The first thing is settle for friendship when he does get here. People can be pretty decieving when you meet them in real life. Secondly, you heard he had a gf but it may not be true. Just casually try to find out if he does or not. Having a new father figure in a kid's life can be hard, but he's still at a young age. Just make him get to know the person first, it's always easier that way. Like if you guys go to the park or out for a dinner together. Plus, it's also a nice way to find out how he treats your kid. just take it a day at a time. good luck:)
625782
go to him tell him"hi my name is ******** and wat`s your`s*********!!!!!!!! wanna be friend??????" when he had make friend with you be close to him near him and then after 1months propose goodluck.
85848
I would let him know how I feel.Just because he is moving doesn't mean there can't be a relationship. If your to shy to talk to him drop him a line and let him know that way. Who knows maybe he feels the same way about you.
385276
Hi! I would be very very careful about how you meet this person. I am not trying to be negative. My husband and I were matched and engaged from a matrimonial based website. We are very happily married now. \n\nBut you still don't know this person very well so it is important to be careful and protect yourself. Meet him at a safe location (like the mall, busy restaurant, public place) in the DAYTIME. Don't meet in a parking lot or anyplace where he could possibly follow your car. This way if things go badly, then you can excuse yourself to the ladies room and leave by yourself. \n\nDon't take a ride with him alone. Having a friend come along with you would not be a bad idea. But if you decide to go alone to meet him then let someone know where you are going and what time you will be back. Have some change for a phone call/cell phone in your car so that you can call someone if anything happens. \n\nHe may seem like a nice person but you really never know. My courtship to my husband lasted several months and before we were engaged, I corresponded with his friends and family to be sure that he was a sincere person. If he is really interested in starting a serious relationship with you, then he will be patient and will also be willing to answer your questions about him and his background. If he is defensive and acts irritated by this then he is not the right kind of person for you. Go by your judgement but don't rush anything and certainly don't go to his house unless its to meet his mother.
676037
Hey Riya, you are just 17 and beautiful life is waiting ahead for you....this is time to concentrate on studies and your carrier.. i would advice if that guy is ignoring him, just leave him and concentrate on studies and make carrier...when you grow as a confident, qualified and beautiful girl, all guys will start following you and that would be your time to ignore them and get the best...so just forget this guy...this is not love...its crush or infatuation...3 months is a pretty short time to fall in love...here people know each other for years together and still take time to decide whether they are in love...so just chill and concentrate on your studies....hope this helps!!!
537683
Oh dear... My husband and I meet on yahoo chat... We both fell in love with each other, but were very busy with work and school... we were two stats away from each other... we didn't want to beak each-others hearts, so we decided to be friends... two years went by, and he ended up driving to meet me. It was suppose to only be for a week, but he ended up staying and moving in with me... \n\nYou are not being selfish. Long distant relationships are hard. A large part of being in love is the physical connection with each-other. It is only natural that you want to meet him, to hold his hand and to kiss him. His schooling is important to him, and it shows how much you care for him by understanding that.\n\nI say be friends... continue on with your life... if it is meant to be that you two are suppose to be more than friends one of you will end up with the opportunity to get on the plane so you two can meet.
235710
Sorry about the joke earlier Jenn, I assumed you were another of these kids who so prevail on Y!A.\n\nI don't know. I think you are either going to have to find out more about him, and get to know him better overall, or you are going to have to move on. Why doesn't he have a phone? It really doesn't cost much to have a phone. If he cant even afford a phone, I would have to say run like the devil is chasing you. No man who is that poor is responsible enough to be worth a second thought.\n\nYou have kids, so your dating takes on a new level of responsibility. I hope this turns out ok for you.
273624
In REALITY, you don't even know this guy.Best to forget about him.He may be married or committed to someone else.Move ON!
141588
There's nothing about being selfish in this situation you're being reasonable. You can let this new guy know where you stand and let him know that you need sometime to sort through things in your life before getting back into another relationship. At the end of the if he wants to start another relationship with someone else you guys can still be friends and move on from there. On the other hand, if he wants to wait for you then you know he's in deed a really good guy. With my friendship/relationship I've been with my boyfriend for a 1.5 years and we were in the same state but then I went out of state to complete a Masters' degree and to be fair I gave him the option of being with someone else if someone else came along before I came back to MI to be with him. I did that because either one of us has never had a long distance relationship, so I didn't want to make him feel that he is "tied to me" while i'm out of state at Graduate school. The "separation" didn't happen we ended up still being together and when I came back to MI to visit him the love was there as if I was always there with him. So good things happen if its suppose to happen that way. Good luck and I wish you all the best.
617444
Dear ___,How are you?I have tried introducing your friend to many of my single friends who have liked him alot though hes not regularly in touch with them neither has given me any feedback.Though i volunteered for this i would kindly like to excuse myself this time around due to a personal family friend(some reason).I wish your friend good luck and thanks for passing this message to your friend.Love,Your name.
498376
Whoa Nelly! I'm confused. So he's related to you?\nWell I heard thats a bad thing but hey if you guys love each other not like family or friend love then.... yeah . Whatever you want. But if you guys have children there could be problems there huh? And it's illigal right? Uh, be careful.
186491
just talking? not seeing each other? if you really like him, then you should ask him if he likes you in the same way... but if he really misses you, isn't he suppose to be right there beside you? and it's been a couple of months too, shouldn't he have opened up to you like a long time ago? but, it's still up to you... if you really like him and still want to continue the relationship between you guys, then ok.. but if you really have a strong feeling that he's just playin you and fooling you around, i suggest you end the things between you right now!.. cos he might be planning some stuff that are really unexpected.. especially if you haven't seen him at all! ;)
256980
wow this is tough. is he single? if he is than you should tell him how you feel. but b4 just try to talk to him on the phone and hang out whenever you can. Jus dont drop the bomb on him like that. Jus say exactly how you feel because if don't tell him soon than somebody else will have him. And jus be brave and have confidence. and for the long distance part it can work out if both people put in the effort to make it work.
670853
I think you should carry on you life and try and get yourself really busy so you do not have time to keep looking at your texts.  Before you know it he will either text or somehow get in contact with you if he really wants to know you.  Perhaps he doesn't like a girl chasing him, I know it maybe that you 'think' you aren't but you have to behave life a bloke to understand a bloke and vice versa.  Life is too short to just wait around, you never know he might have good reasons which he feels he cannot tell you, always turn the situation around, it may help.  Also if and when you see him talk about something that interests him and not you, they like to hear about themselves and what they like.  It is hard, but worth it in the end.  Good Luck!
406472
Well the first time, he called you and wanted to get to know you better, that's a big plus. If a guy takes the time to talk to you and get to know you is because something good is going through his mind. At the end you mentioned he has a GF though? Well, for now you should keep talking to him but avoid flirting, you don't want to get in a fight with his GF right? So just keep on talking to him, texting him, etc. and show him what a nice person you are! Hope everything goes well! =]
563185
The way I see it, is he isn't really interested. That is was different just emailing each other, but when she goes for a visit, his number is changed, and no contact until she is well out of the area. And now she is moving there, and he is very busy..... One: I would find out if he is married, or has a live in girlfriend. Two: ask him straight out what the deal is. Also you say she wants to cont the "childhood" romance.... she is all grown up now. And she really doesn't know him as a person, it sounds like he has changed. But I think she should ask him if he wants to have some sort of releationship with her. Or if he was just carring on a email romance?? Tell your friend good luck, and I hope she doesn't get her heart broken.
13324
Spend more time to really know about him before you make that kind of decision, time do mean a good testing for both side to see this relationship is real or not...plus you maybe still too young or have lot of other time to see more people or more things in a more mature view later time.\n\nMost important is how your parents think? try to seek their advice, try to understand what they say to you is reasonable or not. As it is surely TOO risky for you that so young and have to follow this man to another country...as what may happen if things not work out well? that will be a big price to pay not mention may effect your study and future as well.\n\nHope you find your answer very soon then :)