I'm in love with a fireman - but I'm scared to death of his job. Is it wrong of me to be leery because I don't want to be afraid for him everyday? What should I do?
133876
if u guys realy love eachother than u should marry
328119
i think a good couple of mounth , usaly u would be able to tel , if u have doubt about some1 , dont do it.... but if passion gets in way of straight thinkin (which we all admit, it does)  then ul be able to tel form his reaction later.\nBotom Line; if some1 is truly into u , that cares , loves and respects u , he wouldnt 'jump' into it...but ur right times changed... yet it also diff for every1.\n:)
434476
The best thing to do is not rush anything.  That is what freaks guys out the most. You can paint paintings but do that kind of thing in moderation.  Don't smother or be clingy.  Resist the temptation to go all goo goo gaa gaa over him right off the bat.  It isn't wrong to feel that way about someone just keep some of it under wraps for right now. If it lasts there will be plenty of time for that later.  Just take a deep breath and relax. If you get some big bubbly surge of lovey dovey feelings just bite a pillow or write it in a journal.  Don't call him and go "I looooove you much I don't know what to do!"  Don't go to the extreme of pretending you don't like him either. It works for some guys but to others it is a turn off. Good luck.
54217
i know exactly where you are coming from.  remember, us guys like girlfriends.  for the longest time i was in the same situation as you (up until a few months ago).  i never did get the courage - she told my friend who told me.  if you really think you cant ask him with the fear of rejection you could ask a friend of him and you to ask him casualy if he would go out with you.  hope i helped - goodluck
441664
There is no absolute answer to this.  Some people need a transitional person between major relationship and some don't.  I know your scared of being hurt but the truth is in every relationship you will ever enter and truly find love there is always a risk of being hurt.  If you really think this is a great guy then why let him go just because of being scared.  To do so may mean missing out on something really special.
204292
You can't be sure until you ask him, there are not reasons to be afraid of, he is as human as you are , the last thing that he can says is "not" and you will not die because of this, or maybe , he could said YES.This way you do not waste your time wondering and resolve this quickly . What you think??
272653
He seems really worried. You also try to act worried :p Actually you already are guessing from your question.\n\nTalk to him about his worries. Share his feelings and keep telling him not to worry coz u will always be there for him. So theres nothing to worry abt ;)..\n\nIf the thing he is worrying about is related to his business/work. Then it's a matter beyond ur scope.. The best you can do is Support him.\n\nBut i have a feeling, Ur love will be the solution for his worries.
573497
I don't think you are wrong if you don't want to date him. That's your choice and your decision. However, it seems to me, from your question that you are uncertain about the situation. Maybe part of you wants to give him a chance even though "he doesn't fit into the mold of a man I would consider dating". Sometimes, it's a good idea to do something different, open doors rather than close doors, be open to new opportunities. Anyway, it's always your life to do whatever you think is best for you. Good Luck!
553032
Take it one day at a time. You are not going to get over this overnight. If you worry all the time about being able to trust this guy that you just met for the first time, you might just miss out on the best thing that ever happened to you. You shouldn`t go through life afraid of what "might" happen.
146111
Hey sweety, I'm sure that what you think you're going through is very drastic for you, but keep in mind that your lady is going through it right with you.  She may feel like the fire is out because your isolating yourself and not sharing all your feelings with her.  I have forgive my husband many a bad decision for a couple honest words and a true desire to be in love with me.  I think you know how to fix this if your heart wants it.  Best Wishes
86461
It's called commitment and it's very natural to have a sense of fear.  Some people are afraid that things will change dramatically when the marry and they do.  The key is to try and keep moments of being carefree and remember this is a union and so it is something to be worked at by both.  Make sure he knows of your fears of things changing and try and work together to keep things the way they were when you were just dating...Keep on dating even after marriage.
31070
If your HR manager realizes his strange behavior, you should feel comfortable enough to talk to him and find out what the problem is. Are you doing something wrong or is he just mad crushing on you!! Either way a second party has confirmed a noticable weird behavior by him so you do have some back up if thinigs don't go as planed.
519855
It sounds like you have a really great guy there but the relationship is too intense. Tell him that you are feeling uncomfortable because you aren't ready for such a serious relationship. He needs to back down a bit. Good luck. I hope you can make it work.
651896
I think you need to move on, last month!  This guy is abusive to you!  It doesn't matter how much you love him or how much he says he loves you, he is abusing you and it will only get worse.  He is knocking you down, making you feel less worthy than you are and it will result in you thinking that no other guy will ever love you!  This guy is a jerk!  You are an adult human being, not a baby who needs to ask someone's permission to do anything.  Don't try to kill yourself over him, lose him!  He is not worth it.  Love is not supposed to cause you to want to kill yourself, it is supposed to be releasing, happy, joyful...something to look forward to every day of your life!  Not to dread what comes next.  Do not sacrifice your dreams, friends, family, hopes and everything else, sacrifice him!  He WILL NOT CHANGE!  Don't think that he will change for you or because he loves you or because you will help/make him change.  Only he can change and only if he wants to.  It will get worse and you may end up in the hospital or a morgue.  Would you want your children having him dampen all their hopes and dreams?  He has wasted enough of your life, let him ruin his own and you begin your life anew.  Good luck, PLEASE!
66599
It would be best that you express to him how you feel about hiim- not only to see if he feels the same way but to get the feeling off your chest. However since this is in the workplace, you should be cautious about how you approach this romance. If you two start dating, don't make it too public among your coworkers. I would leave the relationship alone period if you have a good position at your job and you see yourself getting promoted in the near future- just to be safe.
137494
Interesting, you should have mixed feelings. Of course you are going to feel terrible but his comments to you should make you feel a bit better. Some people live in dark when they are infatuated with someone.
279353
I salute you, lady.. you're tough enough to face your fears and i can see you're still standing tall coz you know where you stand with your man.. just keep trusting him, he has not done anything for you to stop doing so.. memories are memories, so leave them as that and face your future with this man you love enough to be with.