when asked to write in front of others my hands just dont move or starts to shake. when writing alone without anyone around me i feel better.\ntried homoeo and consulted a pshychiatrist. Both feel i dont have any problem but the problem still persists for over 4 years. can anybody help.I have also tried meditation irregularly.
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There are many people who face different kinds of neurosis. There are also many people who have phobias. If you have had this problem for over 4 years, some books you may want read. Books that can teach people how to deal with such things. You may want to see a therapist or hypnosis. I don't know if there is a medication that will make this go away. One way to work on it, is by using exposure therapy. Start practicing doing this, when it isn't necessary, and if you have someone you feel you can trust to tell this too, have them with you as encouragement when you have to sign the documents, and continue on, taking steps to reach the goal of overcoming the neurosis. It sounds like it might be a phobia, and there are so many resources out there to help you learn how to overcome this. I wish you all the best
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Many  people experience what  your going through, but not many people talk about it.\n Back in  olden times they  called your experience a "night Hag" That paralyzing feeling caused  by "Her sitting on your body and  holding you down"  \nIt's a  thing of child hood past... not many people talk about that theory anymore, although it is in  some books!\n\nNow, as far as going to a Dr.  It may be a good Idea to talk to him..he might want to do  some tests, but most likely he will tell you it's normal and to not worry about it..it happens to everyone..I've had it happen many times!! It is not a fun experience..usually it will go away right away.. the longest  one i have had is like  a few minutes actually!!! THAT WAS AWFUL!!! \n\nwhen it happens to me it's helpful to relax and stay calm.. i  usually imagine my self "fighting it off" and that  usually works.   try moving your upper body  before anything else that has always seemed to help me out too.  if anything talk to your Dr. if you feel necessary..then try looking it up and doing a little research  who knows what  you might find!!
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HI friend !\nDont feel like that .\nU can overcome this simple problem. Do one thing that go and stand infront of the mirror and practice before talking with others.\nDo this u can overcome this problem\n\nok\n\nbye
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My writing is totally different in different circumstances.  If I am making notes to myself it is difficult for anyone else to read.  When I wrote on a chalkboard or whiteboard for students it was near perfect.  When I look at things I wrote years ago I almost don't recognize it as my writing.  \n\nSome people just can't seem to master good handwriting skills.  My husband's writing is very difficult to read, and is more like printing than handwriting.
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Honestly hon, I don't think you writing all the time is a bad thing - from the age of 7 until I had my first child at 19, that's basically all I did, but it wasn't because I was misserable. I wrote in my spare time - after school, sometimes before school. If what you have is an addiction, I wonder what professional writters have LOL - If you're that concerned about it, I would try to set a limit as to how much you allow yourself to write each day. Don't stop doing something you love!!!
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well, just start right now by taking a few deep breaths.   Your brain tells your body how to feel.  Your brain is comprised of thoughts.  The thoughts that we have towards everything determines how the body should react.  If you're always in a state of anxiety, your body is constantly going to be in a contracted state and an uptight state hence the tightness.  That's your body getting into defense mode.  Change your thinking by saying to yourself "I can handle what life brings me, I'm going to be just fine.  I am smart, wise and resilient and I can change my thinking into a more proactive state rather than a negative, reactive state."   What is the source of your stress?  You seem young so it may just be loneliness.  Loneliness should not create stress.  It's not as difficult to overcome as you think it is.  Change your thoughts about that.  Know that people are ALOT more willing to accept you just as you are despite the fact that you think they're not.  They are.  All people from all walks of life deal with dissapointments, trials and tribulations.  A lot of people feel lonely, you'd be amazed at how many.  Everybody feels lonely at different times.  They may feel isolated at work, at home, in their relationships, with their children, their parents, etc..   You have to know and believe that loneliness is merely a state of mind, not an actuality.  So you are not unwanted, you have no proof of that, it's your state of mind and your thinking.  You can't concentrate because you're consumed with these thoughts that are unrealistic and irrational.  You may have felt that way as a child because your parents didn't realize what you needed as a child and since we can't speak for ourselves as children, we grow up with those same irrational thoughts.  You have to mature your thinking.  Do it every day, several times a day by talking to yourself and saying that this state of mind is not a fact or an actuality, it is simply your fears that you CAN overcome.  It takes work so work hard!! :)
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You are clearly very clairvoyant! I do have that ability as well but not as strongly as you do. It's funny that you've brought up this topic. On Saturday, I was speaking to two people on two separate occasions about the same topic! The first lady has abilities like what you described about yourself. She reads people and their energy for a living. She can also put your energy back into balance. She was telling me that I need to try to learn how to filter out the negative energy that I absorb from people. I know I'm very sensitive to people and the energy they have. (Good and bad). But lately I'm feeling drained. She picked that up from me and said I need to get back into balance. I need to learn how to not let others negative energy affect me the way it does sometimes because I'm so sensitive to it. There are some people that I meet or know and I try to have as little to do with them as possible because of the energy they possess and put out. They could have left the room, and I still feel odd to be in the same room they were just in. I've had many experiences regarding my senses to this kind of thing. It's cool to hear someone else who understands this sort of things. Many people don't have a clue about this or disregard it all together. It was nice to see your posting. You have a gift. Have a good day and God bless you!
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Hi there- being that I have OCD (obsessive/compulsive disorder), I can empathize with how you are bothered by the poor grammar and spelling of other users. Actually, it doesn't bother me at all- which is uncanny. Since I am obsessive-compulsive, it seems counter-intuitive that I would not be bothered by people's mistakes in writing. Of course, I make an occasional faux pas myself. I love the English language...poetry, books, etc. But I do understand that there are other people who may not have an affinity for the written word. I believe that in some instances, the individual may be in a rush, and as a result, they are negligent when it comes to constructing their sentences. Some people may be very young people, or may be people who have recently started using the English language, and don't yet have the same proficiency as some native speakers/writers. From that vantage point, I think that many people, even highly intelligent ones, may have some degree of difficulty assimilating. Ostensibly, English is a difficult language to learn for speakers of other languages. There may be mulitiple reasons for this- such as idiomatic expressions, sarcasm, internet/chat terminology, et cetera. \n\nAt all events, I do understand your concern. I have heard of people with OCD who are greatly perturbed by poor grammar, or using incorrect numbers, and so forth. It stands to reason that there are people who do not have OCD who will also have this sort of pet peeve. I used to correct people when they failed to speak properly- for example, if someone were to say "Where is the car at"? I would chastise them for using a preposition at the end of a sentence. I don't know what aspects about me have changed since that time, but I don't normally try to correct people anymore. Please be assured that there are still people out here that love proper writing, as I am one of them. :)
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Christine, first you must know what is the root cause of your anxiety/panic attacks.   I agree with you that drugs will only mask the root cause and will not resolve the root cause that is still inside of you.    \n\nThere is what is know as "anticipatory", reaction to anxiety.   When you feel an anxiety attack coming on you must do everything in your power to not allow the cause of the anxiety to take over your entire body.  If this happens then you will have a full blown panic attack.   \n\nWhen you feel anxious or a panic attack coming on, your very first action is to try and think of someting beautlful, or do Yoga breathing exercise.. (Just breath through your nose, taking in as much air as you can hold).  Don't allow the the stomach muscles to force the air out.  You want to control the air by letting it out as slow as possible through your mouth.   \n\nPractice this Yoga breathing exercise at home, so that you will get in the habit of doing it right.  (Usualy two or three max., taking in all the air you can through your nose & letting it out very slow through your mouth will make you feel very relaxed.  \n\nI do it myself.  An it works 100%.    \n\nA phobia of any kind, requires behavior modification, reality therapy or hypnosis.  (If say you have been through therapy an it is obvious it did not work for you).   \n\nYou must be conditioning your mind, with your social phobia, becasue you say that is getting better.  (This means that you must be exposing yourself little by little with being around people.\n\nNow you will have to try and find out why your panic attacks are increasing.  As soon as you feel a panic attack coming on look around yourself, or think of what it is that is own your mind at that monent..  (Perhaps what is around you or what is on your mind at that given moment may be the cause of the panic attack).  \n\nThen if you find the cause, you will need to find an alternative solution to resolve the problem.  This is what I do for my patients.   I find out the root cause an I never tell them what they must do.  I provide them with many alternative solutions and they must pick which one is best for them.  If they ask me about the choice, I can tell them what is the light at the end of the tunnel.\n\nWish you all the best, as panic attacks are no fun.  Plus I am proud of you that you will not let any psychiatrist put you on a controlled substance like Aprazolam, Tafil or Xanax. (All the same drug).  Names depends on what country you reside in.\n\nClinical Psychiatrist, France\n\nExcuse my english
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I have a very very mild form, it used to be worse.  I did feel like a burden to my husband when it was bad, now it's a lot better and it's to the point where I can force myself to leave the house when I don't really feel like it.  I am not in any kind of treatment anymore, but when I was, my therapist recommended starting very very slowly, thinking of the things that made me nervous at first, and then trying something that would make me only a tiny bit nervous, and working my way up from there.
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everyone has little "tics".  Tics such as these usually provide some kind of comfort.  Now, I have to say, that is an interesting one, but everyone has them.  I put my arms behind my head, which for me is usually a sure sign that I am tired or stressed out.  Honestly, to try and break that habit, you would have to develop a behavior plan.  if you want to know more about how to do that, please email me at this name on yahoo.
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I'm currently dealing with the same things.  It got so bad for me that I had to take time off from work.  What I find helps is to see my dr on a regular basis, and I go see a psycologist also, just to talk and help to get things out and deal with them.  I started keeping a journal again.  Just write, don't think about what you are writing, just write. Its amazing what actually comes out when you don't think about the words.  \nTry taking a nice warm bath, play some relaxing music, light a candle, and just relax.  Slow deep breaths, in through your nose, out through your mouth.  I mix in some lavendar oil with my bath, its very relaxing.  \nTry taking a walk, not a quick run/walk, just a stroll.  Try to enjoy the beauty thats around you, because no matter where you are theres something beautiful.  That helps me to think positive, since in depression  you dont want to be a positive person.  \nTake any medications the dr gives to you.  In time, the majority of them will help.  Only you're doctor can determine which is right for you.  I am on several right now, and I am noticing a difference in myself. \nSurround yourself by friends and family, granted that they aren't the one causing you anxiety.  Talk, and listen to what they have to say.  Enjoy a cup of decaff herbal tea.  Limit your caffiene intake, since it can make your anxiety worse.  \nTry taking up a hobby or craft to keep your hands busy.  I have been doing plastic canvas work, and its helping me keep busy, and when I feel stressed or anxious, I work on my project until the feeling passes.  I have also been trying to read.  it helps me relax also. \nI hope this helped, its whats been getting me through the last few weeks.  Good luck to you!
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If I understand you correctly, you are doing what alcoholic's call Insanity. Doing the same thing over and over, expecting different results. \nI think you sound as if you may have some form of depression, which makes it difficult to step out and change things, which of course makes you more depressed. It's a vicious cycle. One thing that I believe is important to remember, don't try changing everything at once. Trying to change everything at once will overwhelm you, and you will find yourself back with the one step forward, two steps back situation.\nPrioritize which goals are most important. Start with the first one. If you wish to change things, perhaps a therapist who deals with this type of behavior can help. In my opinion, too many Dr's. want to hand out medication, and at this point, I think you are capable of making your life work for you without medication, and that is definately a good thing. You sound as if you see this cycle yourself, and that you are an intelligent person, but someone who just needs encouragement and support.As far as writing goes, sometimes the fear of being unsuccessful can paralyze you, (creatively speaking) and this is a cliche, but the only way to fail is not to try. Start with a short time period and jot down some notes. Keep post it's or notebooks around, so if you get an idea, you can write it down before you get sidetracked, or use a mini recorder to keep your ideas on tape until you can actually sit down and write.\n To summarize, first prioritize what you want to change, take a look at the ways you did it that were unsuccessful, and then do some research on a way to succeed. Also, if you can find a therapist to help you with this, GREAT! Also, remember that you are an intelligent person, (you figured it out this far on your own) and don't overwhelm yourself trying to change everything at once. If possible, don't use medications for a situation like this. It seems quite often medications seem to be a band-aid, not a cure. Create a creative environment and look for things that will encourage you, and spend time with friends who will be supportive as well. I hope this helps, and I wish you all the best
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I myself was a major shy freak when it came up to standing in front of people....it advanced to my being unable to be around certain people..I started medicating myself with booze...Helped alot..but it's not the answer.  You may have a medical condition..a chemical imbalance.  Check with your doctor.  I use xxanax.  It helped me so much.  I am able to go out in the world again.  Alot of people have this problem but just think they are weird....So please see your doctor...tell him you need help.
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As we get older, our interests change, our needs change.  Let's face it,...it's easy to find ourselves in a bit of a rut from time to time, too.  Whatever you MIGHT be going through inside RIGHT NOW is, perhaps, causing you to merely "shift" attention to yourself, moving you into the direction that brings you,...to YOU.  Your friends are STILL your friends.  If keeping a daily journal, taking note of your feelings at any given moment through the course of the day, or even when you get home from work would help,...through writing, you may eventually "pull out" what nags you, and why.  Or, you "began to feel uncomfortable today" when,...well, you get the picture.  Sometimes, being by ourselves can afford us THE OPPORTUNITY to reflect, meditate, "discover" OURSELVES and who we are.  I suppose too, it could be our own way of becoming "refreshed", readying ourselves to be part of the world again.  Avoid "total" isolation, though, okay?  Perhaps when you visit with your friends, try setting your "mental timer" for 30 minutes.  When you "hear" it "ding", excuse yourself and go on about your way for the day, or the evening.  By making your visits possibly shorter, it may very well lessen the chance for that strange sort of dread and anxiety to make it's "appearance".  As time goes on, you can increase the minutes on your "timer".  Give yourself the time YOU need.  Go a little easier on yourself.  Get enough sleep and eat healthy.  Try a brisk walk around your neighborhood on a sunny day or at a park you haven't gotten around to going to yet.  Talk to someone you are close to or seek counseling if you really find what you're feeling persists.  You WILL be fine.  Take care.
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I can understand where you are coming from. I've had a similar experience. It seems that you are under a lot of stress. That maybe why your anxiety level is so high. Drinking doesn't solve anything it only delays the ultimate result. You still have the problem. It would be nice if you could find a therapist or someone close to talk things out with. Since you are on meds home remedies, such as milk and sugar may not be a good idea. Because they could have a negative affect on your meds.  I am sorry to hear that you lost your man. That can be painful. It could have lead to some of the problems you are having. I would suggest you find someone to talk this all through with. Call your doc and tell him or her the symptoms. Especially the dizzy part and the pain. If your doc does not understand find one that does. You don't have to accept bad behavior from your doctor, office visits are not free. Keep writing here we won't give up on you.
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I have to agree with most of the posts here...does sound like panic attacks or really bad anxiety flare ups.  Have you ever checked your blood pressure while this happens?  Also, do you palms begin to perspire?  Do you have any feelings like you are doomed and maybe going to die when this happens?  These are typical questions asked regarding panic attacks.  Also, does this happen after doing anything in particular, like exerting yourself in some way?  Or does it perhaps happen when you've ate something particularly sweet, and if so have you ever had your blood sugar level checked?  There are several reasons this could be happening to you, so I would recommend getting a medical check-up and go from there...good luck.