i love my b/f very much and i do know he feels the same about me. i have been hurt in the past by previous b/f's. this relationship is entirely different to previous ones. my b/f has a lot of female friends, some are married the others he just helps with their problems (he's always helped others. we both have same morals and that is we committed to each other. he hasn't given me any doubt not to trust him, it's just the other females i don't trust.
122946
I have a similar problem in reverse. I always find that guys (some of which are my friends) have a tendency to be clingy. This rattles my cage very much, however the best thing you can do, is bring it up casually (but not passive-aggressively) in a conversation, listen to that person's response, then fill in the blanks yourself. Don't dwell on it. If it's been a long relationship (5+ months) and there have been very few or no instances of cheating, I would trust the person to not do that to you. I hope this has been of help but I am not very good at giving advice.
506852
Wow, this is a tough issue.I just want to thank you first of all for this oppritunity. I want to congradulate you for going 2 1/2 to three years. Your relationship has lasted more then most marriages. \nNow you said that you lost trust, and I am not clear why you lost trust and then start checking the phone bills, but there must have been a underlining factor that triggered your lost trust. It could be the way of communication or time comittments with one another have changed. Items along those lines with past experence lead to this dis trust.\nI don't know your boy friend, but something tell me thatthere is a reason why he calls this female friend. evidentally she is giving somethins he needs that he is not getting from you. You mentioned that he communicates with the other woman about collage classes and the foot ball team. Does he talk about these things to you? If he does then he is hiding somthing, if not, then this is somthing that the other woman is providing.\nIt sounds like the other woman is interested in your BF. If it was only a friendship, she would be concerned about how he is relating to you.\nAltimatums is not good. Everyone looses in those cases. What you should do is communicate with your bf that you have no problem with the other woman, but OYou would feel more secure if you were included with these talks about foot ball and school. Invite the other woman over and go have coffee with them in your company showing that you and your bf are a comitted couple. If your bf is willing to comply with that then work from there and keep him. He should always make you his number one priority. You are his BEST friend. Everyone else is second. You have 3 years invested in this relationship, which is a huge investment, because you can not buy back time. \nAlso, always brag about your bf to everyone you two know Guys love that Mention good deed and attributes. Just don't over do it.\nIf and/or when things work oiut. You are going to have to forget the past and move on. Never mention the past  aginst anyone you love and they should practice the same to you, and everything will be Great, in a AWESOME kind of way. take care, Bye
386313
If your boyfriend says shes just a friend, that's probably all it is. In school, my best friends were boys. I didn't mess around with them, we just enjoyed talking. Girls were somewhat boring, worrying about clothes and make up and cheerleading, etc. I loved music and art. I even took drafting, we had coed drafting, it was great. alot of cool guys were in that class. I miss my boy "friends" all the time. Even now, my best and closest friend is  a guy, we just have more to share than any girl. And we will never get intimate, ever. We are both married, but we don't get together with our spouses, they would be bored because our conversations wouldn't include anything relating to them. As long as sneaky stuff doesn't start happening, everything should be cool between her and your boyfriend.
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i am sorry i am not like this rest of the people but i do think trust and honesty are the two main ingredients in a relationship maybe hes hiding something do not quote me but usually those who accuse are guilty themselves but good luck you should not have to prove your innocent he should have complete trust if he loves and wants a great relationship best of luck hope i help in at least a tiny bit
192251
If you're in a trusting relationship, it all depends on expectations.  Obviously, he should respect you enough not to cheat, but if you let him know that you are uncomfortable with his actions, he should care enough about you to at least tone it down.  It's natural to admire people of the opposite (or same, if you swing that way) gender, but it's not okay to be overly gawking if you are in a commited relationship.  I always try to join in on the action by agreeing with him.  Is it enough to know at the end of the day that he's going home with you?
27737
I have a girlfriend, and I've felt like "jumping" (lol) someone before because they're being a pain and flirting with my gf or whatever... Anyways, from personal experience I would say he DOES trust you... But that guy's intruding into your relationship so he has to "protect" that... It's kinda hard to explain but I think he does trust you, it's just natural to get jealous and want to do something about it... (not that I recommend he jumps this guy lol)
31601
I know how you feel.  I am in a long distance relationship myself and my boyfriend's best friend is a woman.  If you really love your boyfriend then you have to trust him.  Trust is the most important thing you can have in a relationship.  You built up a trust with him while you were together now you have to build up a long distance trust.  It is very hard to do but you can get through it.  If he assures you he won't cheat and if he hasn't shown any signs of cheating then don't worry.  It will get easier with time.
77220
I have a sexy boyfriend of 4 years.  It's like ALL chics go for him.  The reason why he went for and kept with me I think is b/c I'm not the jealous type (guys like to have a 'pawn' to play against their mates when it comes to bargaining the relationship if anything goes wrong, and jealousy can get dangerous and irritable, causing a rift).  He LIKES that I'm easy-going and not jealous, so that gives me extra confidence points he can appreciate.  If I were to act out of jealousy, it may just wear my mystery out instead of confirm my love for him.  If we get into stupid fights, I act as if I don't care if he thinks he can just go out with somebody else (he threatens to at worst, but then he chooses not to on his own)!  My point is, ACT INDEPENDENT, so that he has something to respect you for.  DON'T be at his beck-and-call so that he thinks "oh, I can just have her anytime I want; that chic is always available to me".
454239
Unless you catch them touching each other  you should believe him. TRUST is number one in a realtionship. Without it you don't have a normal happy relationship. AND if you ask him about it you will push him into her arms. Start liking yourself and you won't feel this way.
598649
Yes, I have been cheated on.  But if you ever met my man you would have never guessed that he would ever have done that.  We are still together, he realized what he did was wrong and promised that he would never do that again or I was gone with no second thought. It really hurt me that he would do somthing like that to me, I didn't even find out until a year after it happened. There were some signs though, he became very jealous when I was with any guy or had them in my cell phone and he didn't know them.  There also pictures of the two of them together, he said at first she was just a friend.  Even when I talked to his friends they were shocked.  There is no way to prevent cheating if a guy is going to do it he will.  He told me the reason why he cheated on me was because he said that he wanted to be with me so bad and thought it was me, he was gone for a week. Right before he left I spent a week with him at his lake house and he was telling me that he wanted to spend the rest of his life with me.  Well it has been 3 years now since he cheated on me and I love him with all my heart, and he feels the same way. He knows now that even if I hear a rumour that he was with another girl it's over and he is scared of loosing me.  That was why I stayed with him when I told him that it was over and I never wanted to see him again, it took him 10 minutes for him to leave and he left with tears. then 3 hours later his roomate called me nervous becasue he hadn't seen him and it was 2 am in the middle of the week. I ended up calling him and had been sitting out my window crying  thinking what is he going to do because he really felt that his life was over becasue of a dumb mistake, thats when I knew that he  would be faithful.  I knew that he really loved me.  I hope this helped!
68597
Love differs in every person, but for my experience i grown to love this person, we starts as friends, in just a short time i feel comfortable being close with him, i trust everything about my self, i fell secured everytime he's with me, i told him even the shamefull experience i had. I am never bother with my weaknesses for i know that with him everything will be alright. There is always security in this relationship. i fell contented.
417117
I know exactly what you are going through! I was always worried either of them were going to pull the question "Me or Him" or "Me or Her". Luckily I talked to my bff and she and I agreed on walking to school together and my bf and I walk home together, while she and our other friends walk home in an opposite shorter way home. If you end up doing something similar make sure it's even for both your bf and bff... my bf had basketball practice after school on Wednesdays so that also gave me and my bff more time together, while from 4:30-7:00 pm on Sunday nights I would go to church with my bf... so it was even and no relationship was broken... and my bff and bf didn't have to spend any time together!!
201514
I am sure she values your friendship.  I had one guy hang around for about 10 years as a friend, he heard about all my boyfriend stories, etc. Then one day, it happened, we got together and it was great until he used some bad judgement several times and it ended after an on again, off again 6 months. Since then, 5 years have passed, he still hopes we'll get back together, but it is harder to get along with him since that 6 months. He's angry and expects more. I liked it better when we were just friends, but his hope kept him around.  \n\nHis problem is that he had always set his expectations for a female partner too high.  He only wanted a hottie and was very judgementmental about a regular girl. If only he found a regular girl with a good heart, he would have been married by now and had the 2.2 kids.  She might be too hot for you, but having a hot friend isnt so bad.
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If you're jealous, there's probably a good reason for it.  This guy has already broken your trust once and hasn't built it back yet.  I'd talk to him and tell him that the things he's donig are making you uncomfortable and until you feel you can trust him fully he needs to back off the other girls for awhile.  If he's not willing to help you trust him, he's not worth your trust.  And usually your gut instinct is right.  9 out of 10 times, once a cheater, always a cheater!
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Trust is not a set in concrete thing. Just because someone is having trouble trusting you can come from many factors, including being hurt very badly in the past. Although it would not be your fault, you must still understand that trust doesn't come as easy for this person as maybe it might to another. What your decision must be is to decide how much you want to prove to him you can be trusted and how long you will do that patiently. If some of his friends are lying on you, it is his friends that are so the problem, and after explaining all to him and he can't see that, maybe he is not mature enough to handle a relationship. Men are more like little boys when they have to use their peeps to analyze their love life.
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I actually know what you mean.  At one of my gf's parties i was having fun just talking to this guy and my gf saw that and gave me this look like what the hell are you doing.  She is my first gf too and I haven't really been with anyone else, so I can understand what you must be feeling or fearing might happen.  My gf made it real clear that she was a little disturbed by what she was seeing and after that I realized how much it bothered her and now I am more aware of what I can and can't do.  With us it is kind of a little game though. She has done the same thing to me.  She will look at other girls and make comments just to see my reaction.  It is kinda funny that she is worried about me however, because she happens to be bi while I find myself more straight up gay.  I should really be more afraid of her time alone with a guy she finds attractive.  Perhaps what your gf is going through is similar.  Maybe she knows it bothers you or maybe she is just not sure how much it bothers you. I would definetely talk to her.  Communication is always the best way to treat little problems like these.  Be honest yet compassionate and not too firm with her.  It just seems that the trust between the two of you needs to be strengthened.  Number one thing.  Be brutally honest!  It tends to work out more than not.
587295
9 times out of 10 they will be right.  For your sake I hope they are not.  If they arent there for you then they really arent friends.  You dont need them.  Unless you are dogging on them because of him.  They deserve your love and attention too.  They are just looking out for you.  They can typically see things you cant when you are in the relationship.