I am a 40 yrs old woman, and 2 yrs ago I got the cervical cancer. Thanks God I am now a cancer free person.\nBut I would like to know more about people that got the same as me and what was there experience pricipaly with there feelings and emotions and partner relations.
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First off Congrats on being cancer free. While I have never had cerival cancer at 19 I was diagonesed with ovarian cancer.  I am now an 8 year survior.  This year however two of my cousins have been diagnoesed with cervical cancer.  They are all under the age 30.  If you want just drop me a message I would love to talk.
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What a pleasure to hear from you.HAPPY BIRTHDAY x 67. Does that qualify. Truth we are in to this with lung cancer in my husband of 38 yrs. Untreatable, they gave him 3-6 mos. That was well over a yr. ago. he's no worse off now then when they found it. One stubborned dude. Each date that passes is a plus for us. 2nd Xmas coming up. 2nd birthday in Feb. & he lived to see a new grandson that had not been on radar back then. We take one day at a time. He had told me he did not want to spend what time he had left bitching & complaining. He wanted to live them just as we always had. So that is what our family does. Good luck, Hope you celebrate a few more.
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I am a doctor and while having wild trouble with my wife, I decided to never be with here again.  I have 2 kids. A few months later, 4 to be exact, I started living with one of my patients, who is 40, and had a wild drive for me since 2 years ago. While being my patient nothing happened, but we started talking after I left my wife, never to return I thought. I lived with this woman for over a year, and that was the happiest time of my life. Nevertheless, my kids were having very serious trouble, and even though I did not wish to see my wife again, I decided to return to my kids and get them out of trouble. I will never stop loving my patient, she was the sweetest girl I've never known, but I cannot live happily with her while my kids are going down hill. I may be damned, but I need my kids to be OK for me to be happy, and they demand my presence. I could never feel happy while being with the woman I love while my kids are going through trouble. You being a virgin is not an issue to me, it should not be an issue to you, it should not be an issue for anybody loving you. What worries me is to find you left aside because this guy is married. I am not saying it is right or wrong, I am saying I doubt he will feel absolutely and sincerely happy with you while thinking about his kids. Been there, done that, don't go there, yo don't want to go there. You'll be happy for a while, and then you will know hell. Excuse my honesty, but I do not wish any human being to go through my experience. Hence I have the need to speak about it. And only anonimously. Take my word: you don't want this.\nPD: I am aged 46.
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I am an 8 year survior of Ovarian cancer.  They call it the silent killer, because most of the time there are no symptoms.  I was 19 when I was diagnosed.  They removed one overy and falpian tube. I went through chemo.  And two years later I gave birth to my oldest daughter.  If you want more info drop me a line.  Also visit the Gilda Radner foundation.  They are wonderful.
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I'm still doing tests,examinations,visit doctors and sites about my condition (precancerous cells in cervix and possible cancer of the endometrium). There are lots of supporting groups and organisations if you just search. Hospitals also have specialised personnel in psychology. I think that the best is having friends and family by your side, because all others treat you out of pity.
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Personal testimony.  \n\nEmotionally?  Regret, Shame, Guilt, Relationship strain, relief.  Still to this day, if I think back, I still ask for forgiveness, even though in my heart, I knew I'm forgiven.  But, its still there.  Now and then.  I wished I would have had 5 or 6 kids.  So, I guess, this is what I have to live with too.  I never did have the ones I should have had.  I would have liked too, ....now.   \n\nPhyically?  Period-like cramping, bleeding (not much), tired.  Its the same procedure (almost of course) as having a D & C.  Which is a dissection and cleaning (cauterizing) of the cervix.
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I know how you feel.  I got diagnosed last summer.  I was terrified of telling my boyfriend.  I thought he was going to leave me, I was sure of it.  He was just the opposite.  He was so understanding.  The day I told him he took the day off to be with me to comfort me.  We did go through some rough times dealing with it later.  Most of hpv heals itself within one to two years.  You will always have the virus, it will just be "hidden".  The best advice I can give you is not to smoke, smoking increases the risk of it not going away.  I felt dirty for the longest time, but this is SO common.  Most people have it, they just don't know it beause the virus hasn't shown itself in any way.  I have not had any problems with mine (no warts etc).  It is very important to get a pap every 6 mos to make sure it is not escalating into something more serious.  I hope this helps.  I know it is tough telling your fiance.  Hopefully it will bring you closer together.
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sorry to hear your news but my mom had it long ago & had a hysterecomy to take care of the cancer. she never had to go throgh chemo. ata ll & has been cancer free since the surgery was done back in the mid 1970's. talk to your gyno. about that please & soon.
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I'm a gemini woman and have been with a cancer man for 8 years. We have our moments, but generally get along because we each know when to back off. If you find someone you are compatable with, it shouldn't matter what your signs are, what you feel in your heart and your gut is what really matters.
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I have had a hysterectomy too and I am in my mid thirty's.  I was a wreck for a while had to go on some anti anxiety medication.  I yelled at my kids, cried because I yelled.  I felt really vulnerable and anxious.  Those hormones control us more than people think.  Hang in there.  I had my surgery a little over a year ago and I am doing so much better now.
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Dealing with a life threatening cancer is certainly a life changing event for the family (along with the obvious for the one who is afflicted). Watching my father die this year (even though for much of it i was away at school) has been the most difficult thing ive had to deal with in my life. Seeing someone that you love and respect so much slowly go from an active person, to a sedentary person, to a dying person is a difficult transformation to witness. There is always some form of bad news as the cancer slowly defeats some of the different methods that are used at times to treat the illness. You tend to experience every emotion in small bits. First theres a lot of fear and denial, because although there are so many different forms of cancer, and so many people get the disease, its never going to happen to us, we thought. Then theres anger and despair, and just an incredible sense of loss as you realize some of the things that will hopefully happen someday in my life that he cant be there for.\n\nYet you begin to realize that you are not alone, and that life really is a precious thing. I became so much more thankful for the 19 years i got with my dad (sadly a lot of this was after he passed, as it was too tough for me to be around him while he was in his final weeks). Although you have to deal with the slow dying process, you get to spend so much more time with them, than if death had come quickly from an acute illness. You begin to value the things which you take for granted from before. The difficulties never go away during the process, but every little bit that Dad fought, along with the good moments made life worthwhile. \n\nonce i made peace with the idea that he would die, there was a pretty horrible sense of waiting, because you know eventually it will come (if its terminal). But you realize that you have time, and that is a beautiful thing. Ironically, ive learned to love who my dad was more since he has gone than while i was an ungrateful teen (or maybe i just didnt realize how i loved the man).\n\nFortunatly all cancer is not fatal, and there is a lot of hope for a cure. Im now a better person for the difficult process, and ive learned to have empathy for my fellow man and woman. I love my dad, and the fact that he is gone doesnt take away from the wonderful 19 years i got with him.
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I'm 49 and actually only had one partner for intercourse  (my ex-husband).  I had a boyfriend after my ex and I split up buy he was ill and unable.  He died last year.
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Um, i strongly disagree with the person above me. But, the thing is, i too have not heard of a specific study done to analyze the mental health of women in relation to the number of sexual partners she has had. However, what i do know from speakers in various organizations, tell me that there is a real link to guilt and depression with the number of sex partners she has had in her life. Guilt when her husband knows that she has given away the gift reserved for husbands. ALthough her husband might not feel it's a big deal, and has told her that, she still feels insecure. Depression may not be a direct cause of the number of sex partners, but it sure is related. \n\nBecause when women have more sex partners, she increases her risk of becoming pregnant and contracting an STD with each partner she has. So, in the likelihood that she has become pregnant, she would most probably go for an abortion. And after the first abortion, she would be more likely to have more than one abortion. Increased abortions and HPV lead to cervical cancer and no children. And that leads to depression. It's a sad state of affairs, but that is why more women are finding it hard to conceive and gets depressed because of it.
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My wife is the bravest person I know.  She was diagnosed with Lupus at the age of 15.  The doctors told her that her life expectancy would be ten years.  Imagine being told that at fifteen.  Last year she turned 28 and finished dental school.  She is doing great.  We are planning on having our first child next year and have been given the help and support we need by loving and caring doctors.  Our life is wonderful, inspite of this terrible disease.  She has her good days and her bad ones.  Sometimes she can't walk up a flight of stairs or carry in the groceries but we look at eachother and laugh realizing that our kids will probably have to push us around in wheelchairs when we get older.  I love her more than anything and she feels the same about me.  I go to the doctors with her and share in her care.  There is hope out there and you have to find someone who will be willing to take the journey with you.  I'm not saying it's always easy, I have my down days too, but I wouldn't change a thing.  She has made me a stronger man and I have been able to have the life that I only dreamed of.  I wish you the best of luck.  Don't give up hope you'll find someone out there who's willing to share life with you.
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Hello Dear\nI know what you are takling about because I Have this kind of problem in my family.\nI know you really love your cousin, and everyone knows that the heart has his reasons that reason cannot understand.\nMy dad's mom and dad are cousins. They loved each other and got married.\nWithin this relations 11 children were born.\nTrust me, we all meet each other really often and things go well. But do you know about the risks???\nI got tumours thrice in my life\nSome cousins got tumours too\nTwo aunts got cancer, and one of them died.\nIf you wanna marry your cousin, take into considerations that it gonna make your descendant that gonna suffer more.\nWhen doctors asked me about my family, and when he found out that my gradma n grandpa were cousins, he said it's normal am having so much tumours. He even said that I have the risk to have cancer and am only 19.\nThink well dear. I know that love breaks every rule, but if you wanna have children later, you better be careful.\nTrust me, I do not wanna break your relationship, but please think well before doing anything.
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Well I guess it has already happened.  People I loved.  Either relationships ending or people I know who died very close to me.  For a while I felt destroyed but I am able to move on and live.. It is the test of life and our will to live and move on.  We are very connected to each other some times in not such a healthy way so disconnection is very difficult for us.. There is not education in schools about this type of survival and there should be I feel.  We don't get enough answers from family.  True survival when all seems impossible.  I am more of an open person and those who showed no weaknesses, fears, emotions are the ones closed off afraid to love and be loved.   IT takes a lot to be open you are the special person trying your hardest to learn..  But it is true there are time and places for showing your true self.  Not on the first date sister.  Once you love each other and you feel safe is good time.
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SO many people have HPV. Doctors predict that about 80% of the population will have the virus and most will never know it.  It is a big deal for some people and not for others.  It depends a lot on what type you have.  If you have the type that causes genital warts or cervical cancer it is a lot more serious. Most strains of the virus have no signs and that is why the majority if people never know they have it.  \nHPV has a different affect on everyone. No two people have the exact same reaction.  I know people that have told their partners. Everyone has a different reaction. A lot of people have a bad reaction becuse they are not educated about the virus and think its nasty and that you're a slut. Most likely this is not the case but thats what so many people think.  Some people once they understand the virus, don't mind that their partner has it and continue having a great  relationship.  Of course, they will always be aware that they may catch the virus. For most men though, it will never do anything to them and the need to realize that.  Women must be more careful and get paps at least every year or 6 months.\nPersonally i think it is important to tell your new partners.  Since it is hard to determine who the virus came from, I don't feel it is 100% necessary to tell them. Of course if you have only had one partner you should tell them because you know they gave it to you. It is a personal choice whether you tell everyone you have slept with or not.  Do what feels right to you :) Just remember how bad you would feel if you gave hpv to a future partner through casual sex and they passed it to another woman.   Go with your gut feeling on all you do and don't do anything you will regret! Hope this helps. I wish you the best!