I am 36, she is 18, we have dated a few times (she initiated the dating), and I really like her, and I think she really likes me, but she has a close friend who keeps telling her that I am too old for her. How do I compete with this? We had plans for the other night, she cancelled, claiming something to do with her mother, then I find out she was hanging out with some co-workers and got one of them in trouble for goofing off while he was supposed to be working. I asked her about that today, and I kinda got an attitude foloowed by a cold shoulder. Any suggestions??
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According to her stiffing you on the date, and her reaction to asking about it, I say it's a no-win situation.  It could definitely happen with someone half your age, but I don't see it happening any time soon.  Girls at 18 are still just girls, regardless of how grown they think they are.  Younger guys are more apt to deal with this sort of behavior, because it's a younger people-type problem.  \nI won't shame you for going after a young woman, as you seem to at least have your head on straight, which I have come to find is STILL somewhat rare in men, even up to age 60 (I could be wrong, but you made it sound good)!  But I think you'd be better off to deal with someone closer to your age, even mid-twenties.  Why?  I'm 24, and I'm gaining a preference for men in their mid-thirties, though I do find people who impress me at younger ages, and older men who still disgust me with their antics.  \nI think it's probably best that you let her deal with her peer pressure and peer group mingling, and move on to greener pastures, lest you drive yourself crazy and find out I was right several months later  ;-)\n\nGood luck to you  :-)
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Oh yes you have as good a chance as anyone.Your getting to the more mature age and woman like that.Don't give up she will come along when you least expect her to.Stay positive OK? Good Luck!!!
114786
Give it time, you are still really young and beleive it or not, you could fall in love a few more times before you even hit 20.  Just let her know that you like her a lot and that she is special to you and there's no one else you'd rather be seeing.
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try to charm her. if ure eyeing an oldr girl, u have to act mature for ur age. i think girls date younger guys if they were more mature than their age. spend time with her, b friends with her, talk to her friends, they can help u, figure out wut she likes dislikes n u can use that too. b funny n shell def look at u....
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Dude.......and your problem is???? Go for it !!! She is young, hot, and 24..........now, that's a NO-BRAINER! What time are you picking her up?? She sees you as strength, and stability. Have a great date! Let us know how it tured out!! Good Luck!!
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If she's so into it, the only way she'd learn the lesson is sadly by getting hurt. Try talking to her, but she'll probably keep doing it anyway.. I've met so many older men online and most of them were either married and wouldn't say, or just idiots. I had a very painful experience with an older man who I was only friends with at first.. In my case, I wasn't even planning to get romantic but when we did, it ended up bad. \nWarn her as much as you can, but getting hurt might be her way to learn. If and when something like that happens, be there for her, and no "see? i told you". Don't let her go meet anyone alone, always ask to join her for safety. goodluck and all the best.
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See sweety, the difference between you and the Dr. is way too much to have a kind of relation. I agree that the age doesent matter in such cases but what matters here is ur personal life.It is not going to be easy to be with a person who is twice your age and also manage to be social with your friends and your associates. You also havent mentioned about his life and his family. You just know him for a few months and you should not judge the person based on your association with him of a few months. You should give some time for this kind of advances and control yourself of giving off to his flirts. If it is limited to flirts thats ok but for other advances u need to think it over and give some time..........\nAll the best to you
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TELL HER YOU HAVE GOALS IN LIFE THAT PREVENT YOU FROM FOCUSING ON A RELATIONSHIP FOR THE MOMENT, BUT MAYBE YOU COULD HOOK-UP WHEN YOU BOTH KNOW WHO YOU ARE AND WHERE YOU WANT TO GO IN LIFE....  13 IS NOT THE AGE TO BE DATING ANYHOW. SAVE THAT FOR WHEN YOUR AROUND 20 OR SO.. GOOD LUCK KIDDO
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You know they always say that age is just a number, but in this case it seems that age is the FACTOR. She is young,scared, and unsure about what to expect from life...she just started living it as a young adult.\nYOU on the other hand have had time to "experiment" and live it up some...So my advice to you:\n1st-Talk to her about what you are feeling; because it is you and her in the relationship.\n2nd-If nothing changes and she isn't ready; which I am SURE you will respect her values...then it is time to move on. \nBecause there is nothing worse than being with someone who doesn't make you COMPLETELY happy.
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I don't mean to sound judgmental or anything but you shouldn't be even thinking about it.  She's WAY TOO YOUNG for you.\n\nBesides, just because she looks like your wife who already passed away (which I gathered the reason why you want to date the 18yo) does not mean that she is "your wife" and will never be.\n\nNo two person can ever be alike, so don't get any ideas.\n\nSorry if I sound harsh, but that's my opinion in this whole situation and I would rather be honest and upfront.
561989
MEAN???? Honey, when you're 32, and somebody says you look 25, that's NOT mean! Hug that girls neck!!! She just paid you the highest compliment she could pay you. Consider yourself blessed! She is a friend, not an enemy!!
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It is a good possibility that she is hinting at you. Maybe you should suggest that even though you agreed to remain friends you should try dating anyway.\n\nSometimes once an idea is in your head it plants the seed. Perhaps that seed is there for her and she just needs your help to germinate it.\n\nTake care,\nTroy
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dude, when I was 26 I dated a 36 and 37 year old within a 6 month timeframe, and it was the best time I ever had.  unlike 25 year old girls, they were so much more comfortable with themselves, their sexuality, and what they want.  they didn't play games at all and they were so much fun to hang out with!\n\nin terms of how to get them?  I didn't do anything special, I would say try not to be too eager.  you may want to approach them, but do it in an easy going style.  women in their mid to late thirties are entering their sexual prime like we were when we were 18 (im 34 now and married).\n\na women in her 30's is more interested in confidence, maturity, being layed back yet fun and having interests, and just being a nice guy . . . .. as opposed to a girl in her 20's who is more interested in looks, cockiness and whether the guy ismarriage material or not . . . good luck!
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I think that's perfect. And I'll bet she jumps at the chance to spend time with you.\n\nAs far as how to approach her, I'd approach her just the way you suggested. You're young, you don't need to come off like a 30 year man. You know what language she speaks... use your own instincts. She wants you, not someone you're not.\n\nGood luck!
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That's an awfully big age difference. Did you sit down and think VERY carefully and in detail about your motives before you took action? The reason I ask is that some time back, I managed to fall in love with a guy 20 years younger, and I remember doing some very serious thinking.\n\nIn your case, since you are the younger party, the line of questioning would be a little different, but I would strongly suggest that if you haven't done this already, that you sit down and ask yourself such things as 'Am I trying to prove I'm "really grown up"? Do I like to be taken care of or have someone to depend on? Or, to put it another way, do I want to avoid taking responsibility for my own life?' Etc.\n\nAnd then another thing: in your case, I suppose you would imagine your own mother's questions rather than his, but yes: think of all the tough questions your mom would ask you about this situation, write 'em down, write down the answers to every question you can think of, whether or not it is related to the question of your respective ages.\n\nI could see moving forward in this situation only on three conditions:\n\n1) you have detailed and satisfactory answers to all of the above questions,\n\n2) you have found that both you and he *already have* everything you could be possibly looking for in a relationship with that kind of age difference, so that the relationship is based on something other than 'I need you', and\n\n3) you have found that he has gone through the same process with a positive result.\n\nIf ANY ONE of these conditions is not satisfied, let me suggest that you need to have enough self-respect to avoid dead-end situations from which no good can come.\n\nFor more ideas about things you can ask yourself, somewhere in my Yahoo! Answers you will find a question 'How to get a really, really cute guy to notice you?' or something to that effect (it should be on the last page - it was one of the first questions I answered), in which the bottom line is that the person needs to do a lot of thinking before she takes any action at all. Probably you are a bit older than the person who asked that question, but I think you'll still find something relevant to your situation.\n\nIf you go through this questioning process, you'll either make your present relationship better, or have a good basis to start over again with someone else.\n\nMay God bless you with wisdom as you consider your way and decide on a course of action.
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8 yrs apart is not that great\n\nWhat I see here is a young school gal meeting a mature working adult, of course all your frens will be of no match to his mentality, he has already gone thru 8 years which you & frens did not.\n\nJust continue to be fren and get to know him better, take your time, you are only 18 !
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She's extremely attracted to you, either physically or emotionally or both, and is trying to get you to make a move.\n\nThis is nothing to be afraid of.  Sometimes this is the next logical step in a platonic friendship.  It happens all the time, and some of the best relationships in your life will be with women that you were friends with first, because there's already respect and trust for one another.  That is an extremely solid foundation for a good long term relationship.\n\nI don't know how you feel about this girl, but if you're as young as you sound, I think you should consider giving it a shot with her.  That's what being young is all about: trying things out and seeing how they go.