I keep feeling all weird and confused about this guy. I can't stop feeling awkard I constantly worry about how I look, how I act even what I think and I don't know why. The last time I asked about this you guys said it was love but if it's love why all the constant paranoia? Because of these feelings I'm trying to avoid him but the more I do it the more I run into him looking all casual and carefree and me weird and stupid I don't want to keep feeling this way what do I do to stop feeling this way?
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well itz ok to feel like that, i do that all the time and weird myself out sometimes. Itz going to be over soon. Just be comfortable with yourself and don't try to impress the boy. Don't act different when you are around him. You probably aren't in love, because if you were you would feel comforatble with him. You should get to know him better so you can be more comfortable around him. I'm sure everyone goes through this, it'll pass. DON'T WORRY. Don't avoid him, maybe you should tell him how you feel about him. But don't say, you think you love him. Just say you like him, and you'll know the rest. but know when to stop talking about your feelings,ok.
556495
Don't be concerned about how he feels.  It sounds like your conscience is trying to tell you something.  Listen to it.  Don't be a home wrecker.
358718
When you hold your feelings inside, that makes you feel miserable. Two things you could do, one is confront him right away so you won't carry it around with you so long. Second, talk to a  good trusting friend about your situation. If he's left you 3 times, I would try to forget him and move on with my life. Remember one thing, love alone doesn't keep you happy. If your young, you may not see it that way, but when you get older, you will regret it. I know I've been there.
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hun i know its a weird feeling when u dont know if u want somebody or not when u dont know if u have feeings 4 somebody or not n ur just lose n confused n want help but dont know who 2 go to when u just wanna break down n cry cuz u dont know what else to do when all u can do is think abt that one person n its complicated when u dont know if u like him or not . but like u said dousnt matter if ur not attracted to him if u like his personality n feel like u can trust him n be safe in his arms thats all that counts n it dousnt matter abt ur age k look if u really like this guy  go 4 it look the wedding is coming up if u dont do anything abt it not make a move i swear to god ur gone regret 4 the rest of u life its gone drive u crazy ur gone be more sad n confused just think how awwful it will be if nothing happens on the wedding n u go on like this 4 the rest of ur life thinkin abt him n just wondfering if he was the right one or not evey day. omg that will be so bad thats y plan out think abt it what r u gone do at the wedding look dousnt matter what plp think ur not gone sit there all shy n stuff ur gone go up to him n talk n dance n tell him srry 4 not sayin bye u were in a hurry n that u had a great time last time n thank him 4 it it may sound crazy now look but trust me when  ur at wedding  ur gone be so drunk its not gone be hard to say all that to him lmaoooo but seriousl do it k see what happens. i just wish eveything turns out right well good luck n be strong k i luvv u hun take care remember eveything happens 4 a resane
421983
WOW! This is CRAZY! I am in the exact, I mean exact same situation! I have a guy friend (best friend at that) and he is a little bit attractive, and I know he is in love with me because he tells me so, but I do not have romantic feelings towards him. Sometimes I get the urge to let things go further (physically) but in the long run, I never let it get that far. I believe, if something is mentally stopping you from going further with him, then you should listen to your gut feeling. It might also make things complicated after you initially sleep together. He'll be calling you all the time, crying about his love for you and whatnot, and you will have to tell him (once again) that you don't have feelings for him. Trust me, this is what happened when I slipped up and accidentally kissed my guy friend....but either/or, GOOD LUCK!!!
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u know its funny...this has happened with me and my extremely close friend just recently...we always flirt and it feels like something more than just a regular friendship and i want that...but she is confused and doesnt want to lose me.  i still have feelings for her and we talk a lot and are very close.  i am still trying to be myself yet i am trying to develop a different and closer relationship.  i say you just keep trying to do what you want and just see how it turns out.  whos to say another guy wont come around if this doesnt work out. good luck
509152
Okay i was just in this situation. I love my friend and we have been friends for a while. I mean we have fooled around and stuff and I fell for him I mean really fell. However he didnt feel the same for me he just kind wanted to do stuff. It made me mad about the whole situation I mean if you do try and go for stuff like this make sure your friend is feeling the same way torwards you. Dont pressure anything make sure it is the right thing to do for the both of you analyze the situation and if you decide you should just be friends that is great.
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wow...I'm in the EXACT same position. I could've asked this question because I'm going through the same thing. I've been absolutely infatuated with this guy and don't know what I will do once he leaves. It's so difficult but the best way to get through it is to find another guy. It sounds much easier than it really is because no one compares to "him."
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lol  The platonic girl crush.  We've all had them.  Chances are, you're feeling uncomfortable and unconfident in yourself.  You see yourself as someone who hasn't yet grown into everything you want yourself to be.  This girl is who you want to be.  You look up to her and idolize her.  It's normal.  Don't get too obsessive.  It freaks some people out, but rest assured, this is normal.  Eventually, it'll pass and you'll be okay.  You just need to grow out of it.  Good luck!
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You have said it in the first line of your question here, that this problem seems to be based on your past. You seemed to have been wounded by something that has already happened before. Its best you sit and think. Go back to that part of your past and mentally think as to what you could have done to make things better. I know doing so will be painful but it is something that you must do in order to ease the pain. Continuous suspicions, mistrust issues are not to be looped over such a long period of time, especially when you have beautiful people around you who I am positive are caring and concerned more than you know. There is absolutely nothing to be afraid of and most of all there's nothing more frightening than fear itself. Another question here from my side is why is it that you are afraid to love? I am asking this because we all know that what you give is definitely what you get back in return. If you provide love and affection, it is guaranteed that it will come back to you too. If you have any further questions or need someone to talk to, please don't hesitate to e-mail me. Remember, there are so many wonderful people around and you should give them a chance before you can think of anything else. Before that, please try and do what I've mentioned earlier about looking back and thinking for a moment. Until then, take care. :)
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You know, men like you that go "unnoticed" are what I consider to be one in a million. Not because you feel completely ignored by women, but because you guys are generally the ones that every woman would die for, if she weren't so distracted by "bling-bling", Cartier wristwear, and big dikks. Excuse the bluntess...But honestly, I have a friend like you. He went through the same thing; no attention in and out of school, every gf he's had dumped him for no reason....then he fell in love with me. Awkward as it was, I thought I just wanted to be friends. I saw the nicest guy in him, but he was like you feel you are: nothing out of the ordinary. But that's what made him extraordinary. Once I saw that by being his friend, I fell in love. We are now together...End of story: don't give up. At least this way, you know that the person you end up with is for real and will last. Have faith, my diamond in the rough...
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Break-ups and crushes, bare names that express what we go thru when this happens to us. You can get thru this! The trick is, allowing your heart to catch up with your mental feelings. Try this. Tonight, write him a letter. If you don't have an address, or a way to make contact, that is OK. Pour all your feelings into this letter. After this, tell yourself you are going to beat this. Mentally, keep reassuring yourself this. You have to have a plan. Now think about what you like to do. Make contact with your friends. Especially the one who makes you laugh. You need her humor to take some of the dark out of your life. Get up in the morning and put the plan in action. Shower, fix your hair, put on something that makes you feel good about you. And get with your friends and hang out. Go to the show, book stores, mall, the baseball field, what ever you want. When you set idol , your  mind will start thinking about him and the hurt will follow. So you have to take full control of your thought pattern. The second you start thinking of him, think about this really cute outfit that you know you will look really hot in. Think about anything, but him. Stay as busy as possible. Run in the evening or go to the gym and never look back. This will help time to fly by. You are going to have lots of fun. And the best of it all is your heart is going to heal and when he comes home, he is going to be so sorry he treated you like this. Guys have a tendency to think we woman will just wait around fo them, but we don't anymore. By the next time you see him, you will of probably had several encounters with some of those "other fish in the sea" that people talk about. Remember, your self worth of you, is more important thanwhat others think. The better you feel about you, it will become sooo obvious to everyone around you, how great a person you are. That feeling you hate so much, will die off as soon as you step up the beat. Go Girl!!!
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Hey there,\n\nWhen people like someone, more then just a friend, as a potential bf/gf, we tend to feel like you are right now, its perfectly normal, everyone has those feelings- men, woman, kids, teenagers, young adults, mid age people and older people. The good news is that many people get through it! So you can too! \n\nSince you are generally good at talking with other people, means that you must have some self confidence, yet when it comes to this woman, who you have romantic feelings for, you must judge yourself quite harshly. Do you find yourself thinking very negative? Telling yourself bad thoughts? Positive thinking is vital, tell yourself calming and good thoughts, whether you believe in them or not, they will help you get through it.\n\nAs for dealing with those unwanted feelings or nerves, its pretty hard to get rid of them 100%, but try positive thinking is the best thing you can do I think. Perhaps you just have to accept that asking this woman out, is going to make you feel a bit uncomfortable, but that's OK, because you WILL get through it and things will work out for you. Remember the ultimate goal. \n\nHope I have helped :) good luck and remember tell yourself good thoughts! I'm sure you will be fine.
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I'm sorry this makes you sad.  Take some time to be by yourself and get used to all the different feelings you are having.  You may not be gay, you might be bi, or maybe you are just curious about everything and not sure which way you'll end up.  Slow down and give it all time and relax around the guy you like.  Running away from him is going to leave him feeling like something is wrong with him when it's only that you are feeling shy around him instead.  Maybe you could let him know that.
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dear tani\ndo u like this guy?\nis his staring makin u consciece if it is then remember u r what u r.u must feel consciece only while doin something wrong be confident ahead in life u will come across ppl who make u uncomfortable so jus feel good abt yourself n b confident \nanswer the questions.it does not make a diff wether u r right or wrong but the fact that u are some1
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If your gut out of nowhere has all of a sudden been sending you vibes and they just stick with you! most likely your insticts are right! ask him, and observe his behavior when you do. If you do not feel hat he is telling you the truth and I know its hard to make a rash decision when you havent found the smoking gun! But trust your inner voice and do what you feel you have to!
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OMG!!!! i am in your shoes in the current moment!!! My guy friend of four years lives in Seattle, but is working out here in California. I so like him, but he only admires me as a friend, he loves to hang out with me, even get advise from me!!! what sucks is tht i recently told him tht i liked him & i feel weird & he's his normal self. i think tht a friend is unconditional, but we are trying to put conditions. i just think tht we have to hang in there & hope tht someone will admire us as, we admire them. sooner or later it will come!!!! Sometimes we as humans want to control, when, where & time. We just need to realize tht the time will come. We kinda have to open ourselves to the world & understand tht our love is One sided. Until then we are just hurting ourselves. they r nt the ones causing pain, we r!!!!! Be strong & hang in there. Somedays are harder than ours. But our time will come. Good Luck!!!!!