i havent dated in a long time, and i was curious what the easiest and safest way to meet guys would be. im not in school, and dont get out a whole lot because of income limitations, but love meeting new ppl, and making friends male, or female, but am also looking for a relationship with the right guy, and not a "bad boy" any advice?
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It's so easy for girls.\n\nYou go out with friends, smile at a guy you like-and chances are, he'll come up to you and chat to you.\n\nEither you'll like him and wish to take it further or you move on.
115410
singleparentmeet is a great site to meet men, I am a divorced mother and that is where I met the man that I am currently dating. all the people on there are parents and they understand the stress of being thrown back into the dating world and this time having children to think about before getting involved with anyone. they truly understand that children come first. Good Luck!!!
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i'm sorry to say, i am also not in your age group. but what your doing is great, as for those relationships, you truly are better off, i dont know what kinda girls your dating, but girls down where i live would KILL to meet guys like you. so just keep your head up high, and dont be asamed for who you are. once again i'm sorry i'm not in your age group
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In regards to the last answer. There are guys here that are looking for the same. In some ways this is the only way they can get the courage to talk to others. I can reconmend eharmony.com is a good way to go. Surely you can find an interest there. Not all people are bad. But you can tell by the ones who's talking more than they should. ;-)
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Don't date online. I have too many friends that have been roped into becoming emotionally invested in somebody they're "dating" online who turns out to be nothing like the person they presented themselves to be. Just stay away from it.\n\nAnd don't worry about inexperience. Most guys your age arn't all that experienced, either.\n\nJust make sure you know that none of the first 5 guys you date are going to be the guy you marry. The thing people learn in those young romances is that falling in love with the idea of being in love only leads you to heartbreak.\n\nI started dating by picking a guy I worked with who was a lot of fun to be around, who had a great sense of humor, went to my best friends' church, and had a reputation for getting around. I picked him because I was ready for a lover, but not for a relationship. That's exactly what we had, and nothing more, and I've never regretted it.\n\nDon't get a boyfriend. Get "guys you're seeing" and then get "lovers" and someday get a "significant other" and someday you'll have a husband. But the experiences you'll be having now are to get to know yourself, to get to know what kind of men are out there, to get to know how relationships work, what you have to put into them, and what you can expect to get out of them.\n\nObviously, your parents had problems. In my opinion, many married couples have problems because they didn't date enough first. Sometimes, they get curious as to what it would be like to be with someone else. Sometimes, they don't realize how much work needs to go into a relationship to keep it going. Sometimes they think they should be getting more out of the marriage. Sometimes they realize that they are with someone who doesn't treat them the was they deserve to be treated. \nThe reason people date when they're young is so that they know the answers before they make a commitment.\n\nSo remember: \njust because you feel strongly for someone doesn't mean you're in love with him; \njust because you don't think you'll spend the rest of your life with someone isn't a reason not to go out with him and have a good time; \nbe yourself: misrepresenting yourself won't ever help you to be happy; \nand you're only young and carefree once in your life, take some chances and enjoy it. \n\nOnce this time is gone, you'll never get it back. Be brave, be forward, be confident in yourself, be a woman.
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You can meet decent guys online, and remember you can always chat before you even meet them, or just chat and never meet. If he starts discussing sex or anything else that makes you uncomfy either tell him or change the subject or ignore him till he goes away. Be open and honest, I'm not here just to talk about sex, if you're really interested in ME, then ask me abt me, not what I'm wearing, the ones who are interested will stay and the others will go. Don't give out your home address or numbers, always tell a friend if you've been chatting a while, always tell a friend when you start dating, make sure you have his real name (both), numbers and home address to give to friend, just in case!! I've done quite a bit, mostly for fun, but was always careful. Good luck!
510758
Ok, well I would start to know men now! That way you have time to get to know them more! Now for the dating part I really don't have any personal experience but just go out for coffee, to dinner, or a movie! Or have fun and go to a carnival, go bowling, or just go to your place and hang and watch movies!\n\nYou'll find him!
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Its not easy, I did it after 11 years off the market, and I have to say...you just have to take a deep breath and go for it.  Dating sites are a fun way to mmet people, and get the hang of flirting.  I met a guy that I dated for about six months that way. Don't be too scared, it can be really exciting to get back out there. \nGood luck!!!
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It isn't easy getting back into the dating scene but the good news is that it is possible.  Bookstores are a great starting place because you know that you already have that passion for reading in common with people there.  Start paying attention to who you see there and just like back in high school take time to simply say hi every time you see them.  Look into other interests that you have and how you can connect with similar people by pursuing those interests.  The Internet is actually not a bad place to look either though you do have to be careful and fight through all the idiots.  I would say that the Internet is a lot like the old bar scene where there were a hundred losers per every good person there.  Have faith, I survived to find love again and so will you.
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I agree with the whole enjoy your life deal.. but I have to also say the best way to meet guys is RANDOMLY.. when a real man sees you living your life and enjoying yourself without having to have a man by your side you will draw the good men to you with your own self-confidence.. and it's not true that there are no good men out there.. don't fall for that crap.. the problem is that theres a lot less men than women.. so the percentage are even.. which means theres a lot more "scarlett women" who taint men too.. kinda makes me wonder..
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basically, all you have to do is talk to them as if they were one of your girlfriends, but a little lighter. just go up to a guy of your choice and introduce yourself and start talking and see how that goes. i really can't explain it any better than that. i have a lot of guy fiends; in fact most of them are guys! just be yourself around them, just not flirty too much. your just tryin to get a guy friend.
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Depends on what kind of guy you want. try the library or bookstore, pool hall (go with a girl friend), starbucks. Find out what kind of guy you want before you go looking. You can even try church too. Church is the least know one, but they have singles events in addition to normal gatherings.
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meeting a good quality guy usually doesn't happen as fast as meeting a guy who is one night stand material.  The good quality guys I have met have all been through my friends, or friends of friends.  There is really no one place you can go to meet a quality girl/guy. Get your friends to introduce you to their friends and friends of friends and you'll probably meet someone who you'll want to give a second thought to.\n\nGood luck!
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You're on the right track trying to find a friendship before anything. =) That's how me and my bf got started...lol ANYWAY just be like "hi, where do you hang out during lunch" or something lol i'm not that good at it either (i usually have guys do that kind of stuff) but just talk about something that can bounce back and forth between both of you. it'll help. and smile!
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I haven't had ANY luck with any online anything as far as dating goes. Not sure why. Meet somebody in person who lives near you I think. Maybe who shares a hobby or two with you. Women should try fishing. Men should do ballet. You would be in a 50 to 1 situation.
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Tell all your friends that you would like to find a good man to date. Every woman in the world knows at least a dozen good, single men that would "be perfect for you!" Of course, I'm exaggerating a bit, but the principle is "to let people know that you're available, should you get asked out." Tell your family(you know they want the best for you).Be observant when you go to the grocery store.....I'll bet you know at least one guy right now that really "trips your trigger"....find out if he's single. If so, then, start up a conversation,  about, preferably manly things, like, "my car sounds funny", or, "I have a cabinet door that sticks".......see where it goes from there! You MIGHT be surprised!! Good Luck...........there's a lot of decent, lonely men out there, just waiting on a nice lady like you.
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nope, not too much to ask. im a decent guy trying to meet people online too.  so dont worry, we're out there. \nas far as attracting a guy, make sure you are as attractive as possible, and i dont mean that to sound as shallow as it does. you have few enough opportunities, and you dont want one to pass you by because you didnt make a good first impression.  guys are physical, sad but true. after that though, make sure that you are interesting. i hate girls that are ignorant of the whole world. they are boring.  so read, keep up to date, know whats going on. have well thought out opinions.  \nwhen you feel jaded try to remember that people are often hard wired to act the way they do. its not an excuse for bad behavior.  but often people are just going through their lives sort of oblivious to the actions they are taking. there is romance out there.  there are men who have honor and kindness and decency.  its just that girls tend to go for bad boys, so we have to act like jackasses to attract any.  find the guys who have accomplished difficult tasks, who are working hard to improve themselves.  who think before they speak, and can backup what they say with intelligent reason.  were out there. good luck!