I believe we as women belong in the home. Our career should consist of cooking, cleaning, laundry, grocery shopping, taking care of your husband sexually, and having a family. This doesn't mean you can't shop or go out with the girls too.  YOu can't have a career though.  SOunds wonderful doesn't it?  I wish the world would go back to that. ANyone agree?
126766
i agree that the man is the head of the house and women sumit themselves to them. I am a baptist and i beleive everything in the bible and the bible tells you that. i beleive that if more woman did what we beleive then the world would be a better place and men would not be out cheating because they would be satisfied at home
607360
I married for money and I can tell you that is not the way to go.  I was a single parent working to pay bills and have time for my child.  I married and became a full time Mom which I love.  But my husband is very controlling over the finances.  I have "things" and I love my children but I have no relationship with my husband.  I am just another one of his "children".  If I could do it all over I would marry for love, friendship, companionship, and someone I enjoyed being around.  Money is great to have, I love that I am not in debt and have the finaces to buy what I want but I am lonely and find life is not much fun.  I stay for the children but when they are grown I am out of this marriage!
661904
Somebrowing said "Hey parents, babies still don't make themselves."  High five to you, woman! I feel very fortunate because when I grew up, chores and privileges were delegated by age, not gender. My brothers and I were all taught to be self-sufficient and responsible. Our parents both had careers and were excellent role models for us. I can do basic car maintenance and my brothers can cook and sew....and vice versa. \nWe all had the same curfews based on age and were expected to let our parents know where we were at all times. I think boys and girls can both have many privileges and a great deal of freedom if they act responsibly.
425356
In the past that was true that women were less able to generate a reasonable living wage. I don't see that as a problem today. Men and women are entering the work force with the same education and while I do think that there is still a "good old boy" mentality, most women are able to compete with men in many areas of employment and receive the same pay. I was a class A welder at a factory so that I could afford to support my son. I made the same pay rate as the guy's I worked with and did the same work. I got tired of damn near killing my self on a daily basis so I went to college and got a degree in nursing. I am a managing RN for a hospice and I make more money than many men I know. So, I am not sure who is still complaining, but it's not me. Have a good one.
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I agree with you dei . . . \n\nGreat women are rare . . . \n\nAnd Ashley . . . you are correct also . . . a dedicated homemaker requires lots of passion . . . but I believe Dei (the asker) is also speaking in generalization.\n\nLook at the world around you . . . most women . . . are looking for a guy . . . to usually pay their way through life . . . because through feminism . . . they are taught that they deserve it.  \n\nTrue women work . . . and generally in the corporate or fiscal world . . . they don't work as hard as men, work as many hours, or they take time off for incidentals.  \n\nMen go to work . . . 8 hours a day . . . work overtime when asked with no complaints . . . even if we are sick . . . we still go to work.\n\nProfessional women . . . they go to school and get a good career or job . . . but then they decide that they want a baby.  They take a leave of absence . . . and when they come back . . . they are back at their job . . . usually part time . . . because they want to spend time at home with the baby or they don't even return to work at all.  \n\nWomen generally want to marry up . . . (marry someone who makes more money than them).  When they do . . . then they think more about their relationship than work and their work suffers.\n\nLet's talk about women who do not work . . . the housewives sect.  Because the age of women's lib . . . women stop doing the things that are normally a traditional gender role in the home.  \n\nDo you know how many women I dated . . . who don't even know how to make a grilled cheese sandwiche.  Or have problems cleaning the house . . . or do the laundry.  You know how many times . . . I came home from work late . . . and asked what's for dinner (to a fiancee) . . . and she says "you have two hands . . . do it yourself"  Many guys will say they heard that from their gf and/or wives.\n\nWomen often say they are taken advantage of . . . by men from the work they do at home or at a secular career.  If that is the case . . . why do women live longer than men.  And with women's libs . . . and mother's on strike . . . men not only work 40-60 a week but they also do housework too . . . is that fair . . . no it is not.\n\nAsh . . . you are an exception to the rule . . . but that is a rarity . . . a prize . . . your husband must love you a lot . . . and you must love your husband a lot to support him . . . in his career endeavors . . . as he supports you in getting a better education.\n\nSomeone like you . . . is something to be proud of . . . but women in general . . . no . . . I don't thinks . . . because most (in general) are self-centered.
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Well what I wanted to be always bothered my mother.  She's a very strong and independent woman who feels you should never rely on anyone otherwise you'll be let down.  Anyway, I've always wanted to be a great wife and an even better mom.  I wanted to be a stay-at-home mom so that my children wouldn't have to be in daycare.  I know this isn't considered a career but I've served in the military, been a used car salesman, worked retail, worked at a movie theater and even worked fast food and this is by far the toughest and most rewarding job I've ever had.  This always worried my mom.  She was afraid I'd get married and he'd leave me and I have all these kids with no money.  She also though I'd be bored out of my mind!  Well, I found my prince charming and we are happily married and expecting our second child this Christmas.  I honestly couldn't be happier and my mom sees this (and knowing what a good man my husband is) is no longer worried about me not earning an income.  When my children are all in school, I do want to get a part-time job so I can bring some kind of money into the house but as long as my kids are at the house, that's where I'll be.
65783
To be completely honest, I think that people do judge women who choose not to work after they're married, since housework doesn't accumulate as readily in comparison to when one has children.\nI think that the other reply that "doing whatever makes your husband happy" is a bad/chavanistic response.  You should do what makes you happy to.  And if you are and your husband is satisfied as well, that's a benefit.  Overall, do whatever you feel you want to do.  It's your opinion that counts!
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Since the day my 6 week maternity leave ended, my husband has been a stay at home dad.  I had just gotten promoted at work and have a good paying career.  He is a landscaper by trade, and made less money than I do.  He also had no benefits, whereas I have everything from 401k to healthcare and dental.  He stays at home, does the dishes, laundry, cleans, vaccuums, and even makes me supper most nights (he's a great cook too).  The only real "job" I have at home is folding the laundry after he's washed it....and that's cause I'd rather do it myself than have him screw it up.  LOL.  It has really worked out well for us.  We've avoided the expense of daycare, not to mention having complete strangers caring for your child.\n\nMy family doesn't really approve...my sister actually called him a freeloader once.  But this is coming from a stay at home mom whose abusive and controlling husband won't "allow" her to work.  \n\nIf I could, I would choose to be the stay at home mom, and let my husband work.  For a while I was jealous of the idea that he got to spend all that extra quality time with our son.  But now that it's been a couple of years, we have made it work out well for us.
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maid around the house, chef in the kitchen, whore in bed, and a lady in public. but i don't think this is the one that you are looking for. is it about piety? and the is it about the social and home spheres? i had it in my woman's history class if the latter is what you are referring to, but i can't remember it.
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i think it stems from our history of nurturing......we took care of everything while the men were out "hunting".  it is in our nature to take care of everything and as tired as it might make us we do feel fullfilled when everyone is taken care of.  i think we are more tired now because most of us have to hold down jobs AND take care of the home/kids.  more respect needs to be put on the womans role in society as "taking care of a home"
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Stay at home fathers are great!! Whomever is best fit to stay home should stay home. If the women makes more money then why not let her be the breadwinner and let the man care for the house? \nIf we have come to true equality then this should be ok.
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hey.  I have to read that book over the summer.  so far it seems like the womens role is to reproduce and take care of the cooking and cleaning.
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I feel that these woman are co-dependent.  They have always depended on men and other people and once you get into that habit it can be hard to break.  Thats why woman need to be independent and not depend on men so much.  Don't get me wrong, MEN ARE GREAT!!, but you need to be your own person to.
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i would like to work to make my own money. my mom always told me you was relay on a man. and the cooking part--- i love food and i love to cook so that's no a problem. the cleaning part --- i would like to have someone clean for me.. i think that's where the money comes in.. with out a job you cant paid the maid.. but it would be nice to have a lot of money and just chill back..
201443
I have these things but they are not mine. I have a wife and three kids. We cannot afford to live on our own so we have been living with my in-laws. The reason I choose to live with them is so my wife can be at home with the kids until they get older. We still struggle to pay the bills we have like: student loans, health insurance, gas, etc. We are rich in love not material things.
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I think it is still a man's world myself, because I never got further in my career and never got paid more than my counterparts...\n\nLike my husband got paid twice as much as I ever did and got more paid time off than I did...\nI put in more time in years, but he always got paid more and got more benefits...\n\n\nHowever, on the other hand, I could claim more health problems and either go home sick or call in sick with more child related instances or personal instances than my husband could...\nHe was always expected to be well and strong and go to work, but I was never perceived that way...\n\nI had more personal freedom by being a woman in my job than he did in his job as a man...
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I am a housewife or whatever you want to call it. I don't really like the term 'stay at home mom' b/c I am a wife, too. I really like that I am a mom don't get me wrong, but I really feel like that term takes away from my identity- I am still a 20's something female who really wants to do things as one, too- not just a mom. I mean I LOVE my daughter (who is 7 and a 1/2) and I raise my 5 year old step son and I have since right when he turned 2, but he wasn't even bottle broke and only said dada and ba ba. His dad was raising him alone and totally babied (is that a word?) him. He still does, but when his dad isn't home, I have taken him light years... I also have a 13 yr old step daughter who comes over every tues. and Every weekend.\n       I agree that we don't get enough credit and when I have to say that to ppl I stay at home, I always feel like I should explain myself even though I don't really feel that way. My husband really figures that since I am home then the house should stay spotless, and always look clean, even though no one in the house closes the shower curtain when they are finished- if they use any products (which they do, all day and night) they stay right on the counter. My husband starts a pile of trash on the kitchen counter instead of putting it in the can --even if it isn't full- then he wonders why the house looks the way it does by the end of his day off and never remembers that when he came in the night before he said 'Wow, the house looks great honey'. The clothes just get thrown on the floor wherever and hangers get thrown on the bed... so no matter how hard I try, the house always looks cluttered, you know , like I never bothered, when it what I do everyday and then also at LEAST one night a week, when noone is home (wed. or every other FRI & SAT) I deep clean for hours with my ipod, and you really can't tell so much of the time. If the dishwasher is empty, ppl will still not put there dishes in it, and I didn't even mention the actual doing of the laundry or that my husband changes 10 times both of his days off AND where a 2x in everything, and always wears an undershirt. We have Big towels and then somehow we accumulated quite a feww smaller towels too, well, my husband will give his son a bath and use a beach towel for the floor instead of one of the small towels, which isn't a great big deal until you multiply 4 x 7 to make at least 28 big towels a week already, so washing more big towels instead of little towels makes no sense. They take up at least 3 times more room each.\n     My step son is enrolled in daycare (he goes from 9- 4:30 and pre school is from 1-4 on wen. and fri.) a cpl days a week and that and that started back in Feb. b/c I was at a breaking point, b/c I was raising him myself, while his mom did nothing for him, never came and got him and I was being fought against in trying to help 2 other ppls' son grow and do things that were appropiate for his age. I love him like he is my own, and have taught him everything, yet he the fact that he wasn't mine was being thrown in my face when I would try and do anything towards helping him become more independent. I left for a couple days and when I came back home, I let my husband keep him there 2 days a week so I could get some piece mind and that way his mom had to pick him up 2 times a week and keep him for a cpl hours til his dad got off work, and I was hoping that the school would tell my husband what was appropriate for his age instead of me. If those things weren't going on he would be home all the time.\n\nSorry, this is soo long, but that was a great Q! b/c I thought I was going crazy!!!!