I've been sexually active for 8 years, I can orgasm, but not through sex. Is there something im doing wrong? Or may there be something wrong with me? Don't get me wrong, it still feels great, I just dont go. Its becoming an issue. =/
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Well, let me tell U that I was in your shoes for many time, I had sex and it always felt good, I had orgasms but not during sex, I was so desperate, and frustrated, but one time I had sex with my bf and nothing happened that time, still he didn't give up, and continue doing things to make me get the orgasm.  After three months of having sex with him, and we had tryed almost everything, he told me that I needed to focus on the point, I mean, when I was doing it, I always was thinking in something else, and that didn't make me feel good.\nI found that the way to get the orgasm was being on top, so I did it, in the beginning it was really difficult, but at the end it happened.\nSo, my advice is: focus on the point that U're gonna get it, think that U can get it, no matter your past experiences, if U trust on yourself U'll be able to experience it.\nI'm telling U this, because now I can enjoy it, I have an orgasm during sex and in other situations, like o.r.a.l. sex, been m*stur*b*ated by my bf or myself. and it feels really great.
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come on don't get frustrated. it's absolutely normal to feel good and not good sometimes.. you're old enough to have sexual experiences with a partner. that will definitely help
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It could just be a mental thing, idk.   Try doing some erocit things, like when you move in, walk around naked, or build up your sex drive on a free day when you fave time to see what turns you on.
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Are you stimulated to arousal when he penetrates you during intercourse? If not, then you will most probably NOT have a successfull orgasm. You may need more stimulation prior to him entering. Have you talked about this with him? If he isn't aware there is a problem then he can't very well try to help you. Have you thought about asking for oral sex? Or the two of you could talk and find out what you need to both achieve orgasm, it DOES NOT have to happen at the same moment as your partner, I think that is a huge misconception that most couples believe. Try out differnt positions and talk to him during sex, tell him what feels good and show him where you need to be touched. Don't feel embarrassed or silly about this, most men would really appreciate the fact that they know exactly what to do to make their partner orgasm, and you are just teaching him how. Good luck.
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My dear, the way that I see it you seem like a "deprived" person in the area of self expression. SO you say, you have a great family and supportive friends. And that you are a social person. Have you ever behaved that way sexually when you were still in your teens?.. or even while you were in your early twenties?\n\nAs to the relationships that you had in the past,  Perhaps you have honestly loved at least one of them. I think that is not the issue. May be you're still in love with one, but something's pulling you back. Just a thought in your mind is quite different from actually doing it. You are not scared of the thought of commitment, but the actual practice of it, I am sorry to say that you still lack it. Who knows, you may have already found her but you just do not realize it?\n\nIt is hard to answer your questions outright because it needs details to be understood. But the way I see it, going for one-night stands is your way of dealing with your self expression. These women are strangers and you pay them for pleasure, so you get to "say" everything and that they will just have to follow. The way I see it, there are things that you want to be done your way and perhaps sometime in the past, things did not happen the way that you wanted them to happen that is why you vent your frustration on a "safe" avenue where you can easily get away with - your sexual activities with multiple women. So you say, it must feel really good. I am sure you are not scared of STDs and AIDS because you're just having fun, right? But what happens when pleasure is over? That, you have to deal with again, and the cycle continues. See, for as long as the root cause is not properly dealt with, this will go on and on and on with your life. This is not a normal guy thing. I suggest you seek professional help about it.\n\nYou've asked this question because you feel that something is not right somewhere. Congratulations, that is a good start.
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I use to think i was sick and asked my Dr. if i was normal to have such a strong drive that it drove me crazy and i seemed  to want more all the time. He said, it is a natural and normal feeling and some people have stronger drive than others. I started experimenting to try and learn how to control it better so not to drive me so batty. Don't be so concerned this is natural and your blessed to have orgasm's and a good strong healthy drive and desire for love. It's called life. Some people wish they could do what your able to accomplish. Masturbating is healthy and normal. The fact that you can help yourself while he's away keeps you out of trouble and satisfied. Learn to teach yourself and him how to turn you on more. Foreplay is a very wonderful way to teach and learn from each other. It will turn you both on to do this to one another and share idea's and curiosity's and fulfill each others fantasies and make some up as you go. I have personal experience and can tell you honestly that this really works as long as you are both willing and able to open up and share with each other. Good luck hope i helped
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all your energies are focused tooo!!!!!! much on da orgasm... creating too much anxeity...and too much expectation... which creates a block... Next time you have sexs dont be in a hurry...and dont search for orgasm somewhere in your brain or any other part... just realx and have sexes as if orgasm never existed...just wait and watch...it will come as surprise guest!!! all da best...
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You're not alone. I took a human sexuality course and only less than 1.5% of women are able to obtain an orgasm from penile-vaginal intercourse alone. The reason for this is that only the outer 3rd of the vagina can be stimulated, so during intercourse you're not getting much out of it. The larger part of women orgasm from clitoral stimulation, as in your situation, this can be attributed to the number of nerve endings in the clitoris which are about the same as those nerve endings in the head of a penis. Some positions do offer clitoral stimulation during intercourse, you might want to consider being on top a little more that offers both sensations and can lead to orgasm, take it slowly and be patient. Good Luck.
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Not all women have orgasms easily, I only get one about 3/6 times.  Ususally the best way to have one is by oral, before penetration.
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Nah i dont think theres anything wrong woth you, its happened to me too, ive never had sex but sometimes i even skip a month, yeah its probably cause you run track, DONT GET SCARED, ITS NORMAL!!!!!
585952
No. They most likely don't know what an orgasm is. I did not know what an orgasm was until 10 years of having sex. But i did do a lot of screaming and carrying on.
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This is definitely an issue that you should address with your gynecologist.  You need to be sure that you are speaking with a doctor that is concerned with your issue as well.  Often times, women have to find their nitch (so to speak).  You have to find your best way to obtain an orgasm.  Try experimenting with yourself.  Toys, massaging shower heads, etc...\n\nAlso try visiting a website called www.talksexwithsue.com.\n\nI found that she is very informative and knowledgable about all things that have to do with sex and orgasm.  she also has a show on Oxygen you might want to check out.
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Did you get a euphoric feeling after you were done? Did your body shake or quiver? You may have experienced an orgasm or maybe just climaxed- but didn't have a mind blowing orgasm. I masterbate and it doesn't always feel the same way everytime.
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I can tell you that alot of woman DO NOT have orgasims from intercourse.. some woman can only climax from  forplay or ORAL stimulation! but you also might try a c.o.c.k ring with a marble on it.. it rubs your clit. while you have sex! I think it would help!
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Well.well, maybe time to come out of closet, I ejaculate like I'm peeing but it's not, just like you guys we can cum just as much if not more than you do....\nI have never thought it strange cos all my life (sexual) it has happened , funny tho cos partners have asked if I had wet myself LOL, I call it being a healthy robust woman who has great orgasms...so there is a bit of  trivial info ..LOL
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my belief is that you are at the low end of the normal range.  you should benefit from testosterone replacement.\nthis problem can hit anyone. don't think you've done anything wrong.  \ni have had to go on testosterone replacement three times during my 40 years of being sexually active.  it does work!
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I've been masturbating since I was 16 and don't see a problem where it has cause me to become weak or to not physically  develop properly.  I'm now a healthy grown man (and still enjoy masturbation).