Separated for 9 months and she was staying with another guy.What if she comes back and my worry is the above.....
133222
Dude, that's up to the two of you. If your asking for permission, go ahead I don't care.
288032
You didnt mention why you separated, I think that is important to know to answer the question.  But anyhow yes it does sound like she wants to hold off on the divorce.  Its a good thing you have pets, it will give you both the opportunity to spend time together to know if you should get back together.  Unless your going to be single the rest of your life there is no getting away from emotional heartache.  Its a part of life and love.  Might as well try and work it out with someone who was good enough to be your wife in the first place.
607116
Seems she still seeing if you are the right one.  She probably needs a little more time away from you to sort things out.  You should be content with the fact that she still cares for now.
236697
Maybe she has been doing exercises called "Kegles", or maybe you just imagined it. Whatever the reason, if you are back together don't worry about it, just move on with your life and be happy!
144404
well, i would stay wit her or try to get back wit her. cuzz i moved to california from philadelphia and i was in the middle of a relationship. n me and my baby still togetha!!!!!!
270967
ugh baby you are in the wrong soup.sweetheart take a break from her & meet new gals without any extra baggage.well if she is so indecisive she'll keep going back to her ex.at the moment she is having fun with you as well as her ex n these exes never disappear from the present dating scene.they keep popping up.just chill & staying friends will hurt all the more as you had thought of being more than frnds & her ex'll also pinch you alot.you should really dump her coz she's not worth a dime.let the time pass by while you continue moving with it which'll help you heal better....\nTAKE CARE & GOOD LUCK!!!
518961
LET GO.  She is never going to leave him.  Why leave if she can have you both?  There's obviously something in you that she is missing from the other man (and vice versa) which is why she keeps you both around.  Aside from this, if she does leave him, how can you ever trust that she won't cheat on you when she gets "bored" with you?  I think you deserve much more than this.  Get out now and find a quality woman with more respect for herself (and for you) than to sleep with 2 men and deceive them both.  If you thought more of yourself, you would certainly not put up with this for another day.  You should demand more than to be "the number 2 choice" to anyone.
199786
First of all Thank you for serving our country! If you want to save this relationship you will have to work on the trust issue. But I would be concerned about her cheating again. Follow your heart.
235873
There's not much you can do.  If you tell her, you risk the chance that she'll think you want to get back together.  Are you really sure your not just being paranoid?  Not everyone plans their life around their enemies.  If you really have proof, just go up to her and ask her if the other guy is what she really wants. hope it goes well.
343516
Good job sweetie! If she had nothing to hide in the first place she would have told you about it, or not lie when you confronted her with it. If she didn't tell you because you would have gotten upset, then she should have not been doing it. Maybe you we her only one (meaning the only one to get her legal)for right now until she became a citizen.... then divorced you for the other man she lied about! I'm not saying that all men she talked to could have been potentially dating her, but be aware of her motives.. There are alot of things that I could get away with because my other half does not check up on me.... but why do it??? To betray him, loose his trust, or even potentially break his heart?? NOT WORTH IT!
213705
Sorry to hear the situation you are in. I hate to say it, but somebody IS getting hurt. Just because her husband doesnt know YET doesnt mean it wont kill him inside when he finds out. \n\nAs for you, I think she is just using you...she would have left her husband long before you came around if she didnt want to stay. Her man is probably just not fufilling her needs, either emotionally or sexually...you filled that void for her, but I am betting you are not as important to her as he is. What will likely happen is she will eventually leave you all together and go back to him.\n\nI am sorry if this sounds brutal, but sometimes it is hard to see the truth when you are IN the situation. I dont think she is trying to play games with you nor is she trying to hurt anybody...just trying to fill a painful void with a caring man. If it were not you, it would be someone else. I really hope you dont get hurt here and sever this relationship; there IS a good, SINGLE woman out there for you who will want ONLY you. Not all of us play games. Take care\n\n------------------------------------------------------------\nYou are very welcome ;) Good luck in finding a nice woman!\n------------------------------------------------------------\nOh! That makes it SO hard. I thought I had the one too, not that long ago. I was with him for 2 and 1/2 years and even was engaged to him and trying to have children. I found out that since the day we met, he had been lying to me consistantly and had even created a profile on a dating web site days before he purposed to me.  \n\nLike my ex, this woman is telling you all the things you want to hear and you are completely devoted to her. The fact that you have to question it means your head is trying to tell you it is wrong, but your heart is arguing. You are trying to find some execuse for her actions, some way to beleive she cares for you as much as you for her. Trust me, your heart is making you lie to yourself, dont get caught in this trap! She doesnt really care for you...only herself, or she wouldnt be hurting the people she is SUPPOSED to be caring about (her husband OR you). Tell her you love her too much to play second string to her husband...you NEED to communicate here. Give her an ultimatim; say him or you. That is how you will find out the truth. I know you dont want to pressure her, but if she loved you, it SHOULD NOT have even been a necessity. It is time for the games to stop.\n\nYour heart is invested here and you will get hurt one way or the other...only you can decide how much. Even if she DOES decide to leave her husband (which I doubt) she will likely cheat on you in a few years (once a cheater, ALWAYS a cheater). The longer you are with her the more pain you are going to suffer! I feel it would be best if you broke it off and NEVER spoke to her again...then you can tend to your broken heart. Trust me...I know your pain. I wanted to kill myself when I left my man, but things will get brighter and you will see this woman DOES NOT deserve you! There WILL be someone better for you. Heal your heart and give it time. You CAN make it through this.\n------------------------------------------------------------\nI know :p Thanks. I wouldnt say that I know a lot...I have only been in one relationship. What I do know is based on a few things; that one relationship gave me more experience than I could ever have wanted, friends and their experiences and watching WAY to many talk shows :p My personality helps too, I guess...I am empathetic, can see all sides and I have really high morals. Ultimatly, you need to do what you feel is right and try not to let your heart rule you (as you would be supprised what you can convince yourself of just to follow your emotions). I really hope things work out for you! So many men are players and it is good to see one that goes against the rule!\n-----------------------------------------------------------\nYou are very welcome. I would be happy to provide my two cents on an
193252
What you can do is be happy that she is happy in another relationship, and move on. It may hurt, but that is the only choice you have. She is not going to come back to you right now because she is with someone, and unless your personality has changed signifigantly in that time, she will not be interested in you anymore. It sucks. Most people have a long list of people that they had to break up with before finding the one and they all hurt.
391896
She wanted to test the waters and now she's seen that what she had was better so she wants you back. You have to let her know that you aren't the "fall-back-on" guy. You have your own life and to be able to fully live that life, you need for her to leave you alone, you aren't interested.
630309
Your poor dear. At this point, I think it is best to let go and see what happens. If it is meant to be, she will realize how much you love her. If she doesn't come back, realize that you WILL meet someone that will appreciate your love and love you back. Sometimes the best, and hardest, thing to do is let someone go. I don't think you need to move away though! Give her some space and see what happens, but keep yourself open to meeting new people too. You never know who may be around the corner waiting to meet you!
132334
Yeah,   take her back....if it doesn't work out....get another one.
221506
bc some people stay with a person even though they dont love them anymore ,, bc of financial reasons children or waiting untill the person they are seeing decids they wont to be with them so i would say she wont be with you to much longer.
470825
Oh goodness, well the first thing I have to say about the situation is that she definitely has someone else...women don't leave unless they have something else to go to!  And as long as she has someone else, someone who in her mind is "treating" her better, there is nothing you can do to get her back.  And if she asked you not to call, then that is a decision you have to respect.  Your calling her is not going to help and it will just push her away farther.   Sorry to say, but this is a situation that only she can (in time) decide that she wants to be back with you.  Give it some time (and give her some space) eventually this other guy will screw up and she will contemplate coming back to you.  If she doesn't come back, then it is for the best.  You deserve to be with someone who wants to be with you as much!