I sound rude, mean or insensitive perhaps, but when my boyfriend of 3 mos & I finally arrive atthe night I have agreed it has been sufficient time.....well he rolls over on his back, all tooo very submissively and passively and appears to think Im going to get on him & do what I consider his role, especially when Im not even keen on the idea of having it this soon. I mean, you wanted it, you at least be the dominant role!!Not to mention when he lays around the house he has this "posturing" or maybe better said "positioning" that seems to be so girlie like, hardto describe...but it is anything but appealing, and just appears way feminine. Im not even a very critical person, but it is hard not to notice his lack of masculinity in intimate situations, which is fine.....but if your a girlie guy, please dont expect me to get near you.If you are going to nag about having sex like a normal male will do, then dont get me to bed and turn into Miss Priss!What do I say to him?Im way turned off!!
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If you really like this guy , talk to him and tell him how you feel about this, if you are so-so , leave him and find someone "guyly" that you really like.
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I think it's great that he wants you to do that and it's not "weird" at all.  To me it seems that he is still really attracted to ya!  I mean, it's not like he asked to start borrowing your underwear!!  I mean, just say what comes naturally.  Be sexy!  I am sure you know what to say deep down...practice saying it alone before you leave it on his phone.  And the one answer was cool...start with text messages :)   Good luck, and don't feel silly...he wants ya, girl!
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Problem is your making it a problem. Let it go try not to stress about it. Everybody get's tired sometimes, tell your significant other to step it up and take the lead for a while. Try not to worry about it. Forget the male stereotype that men "have" to dominate. Sit back, relax, concentrate on letting him/her get it up for you!
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no, this is not all we think about, but, it is an innate preoccupation, if you had sex with him and he didnt have to try to get in your pants, then he would be more open and able to just sit and talk without thinking about sex, so if you have regular sex with him 2-3 times per week, he will be willing to just cuddle because he knows you are going to get on him when you want it so he doesnt have to worry, or "try to get in your pants"
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"now seems like he only pays good attention to me in bed" - That would be your problem. I have no insight into the mind of your boyfriend. However, I would say (coming from another man) that he is after just one thing. Then again, perhaps I am wrong. It is hard to be sure about such a concept when it is through a written medium and we've never met the person. Good luck anyhow.
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You are in a tough situation. Its hard to change peoples ways who are sat in them. But if he loves you he would be open for new ideas. Try to get him to do a little kinky stuff each time you all make love or show him what you would like to have done to you do it to him. Make it feel good to him and then he will know when he try it on you that it will feel good to you also. TURN HIM OUT GIRL MAKE HIM YOUR PERSONAL FREAK (only in the bed and behind close doors.) There is nothing wrong with a couple experimenting with each other it keeps the fire burning that way nothing will get old and you all will look forward to having sex because it will be something different each time.
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If he's anything like my husband, he thinks he does initiate. Men are of the mistaken impression that simply saying things like "don't you owe me tonight?" or "why did you wear your nightie to bed?" is initiating.  He needs help to understand what your idea of initiating is.  there are some great books out there but is he really going to read it if you get it for him? \n\nTalk to him again, but make sure it is NOT in the bedroom.  Give him specific ideas of how you expect him to initiate. Light candles; stroke my hair; kiss me passionately, etc....But say it in terms that are not accusing like "I really like it when you do this" or "this really turns me on"  \n\nIs he on medication that affects his sex drive. Most men can perform when the woman initiates but a med may not allow him to think about it enough to initiate---blood pressure meds, etc. \n\nGood luck with this.
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Honestly, I can tell you I go looking for it and I never can find it because I do want a relationship and commitment.  I personally Choose not to just sleep with the next hottie walking down the street, I want dinner and possibly breakfast... A phone call and a second encounter. I am not saying that it has to be set in stone, but if the man would put forth a little more effort in the follow up game, I would be a little more eager to explore more men.  The feeling you get when a 1 nighter is over is awful, Even if he would just call for coffee and say hey, I ad a really great time with you, but I am not where you are.... or some bullshit line I would rather get that than being ignored completely.  As far as cheating is concerned... HELL NO... I am a strong believer in do unto others as you would have them do unto you.... last time i checked i didn't want my man sleeping with anyone else... If I want variety, which I often do I have toys... and my man enjoys changing it up a bit for me!!!
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my balls ache only if my gf turns me on incredibly and after that ... nothing. Then not only my balls, but my stomach as well are aching as hell. It's not that the balls are aching all the time if a boy don't do sex....this is just an excuse. So i'll give you a valuable advice - DO NOT turn on your bf unless you've got any further intentions:)))) But to be easiest to compare it - just imagine how do you feel at the first or second day of your period, although it is not the same but just for the protocol.....
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He has a strong sex drive. Skipping work once in a while to have sex sounds like fun to me though. He's probably not going to change how often he wants sex - why do girls always think they can change their boyfriend? You may need someone who's slightly less needy. That sounds a little excessive to me - he could be using that to control you. He is also not considerate of you in trying to manipulate you into doing more. The getting mad part is a huge problem - you shouldn't put up with that.
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Sorry hun, but that sounds like a typical male to me.  He wants to be seen as the stud he probably portrays himself to be.  It was just sex to him and you neither your feelings are attached to it.
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As a guy who holds the door for his girl I have to admit that it is hard to accept when she does it for me.  I guess I see it as part of my obligation to always let the woman go first.  Over time I've come to accept that my girl wants to also feel like she is doing something chivelerous.\n\nJust talk to him and let him know that you want to be able to open doors for him and that by him refusing he isn't respecting you as an equal.
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maybe the problem is that you live together..i mean you see each other all the time...theres no more anticapation of wondering when you'll see each other.  the other thing could be that he knows the things that you do that arent soo "ladylike" just be a lil more girly in the next little while...bend over and show him what he's missing.. and wait for him to throw to the bed!! hahaah
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Sorry to you other ladies, but sex is one subject that you cannot just "talk" about. First of all, because us men don't show emotions, and secondly, because problems in bed also mean the guy isn't manly. So that is like a double whammy.\n\nThe guys have is right in here. Throw him down and make him do it.
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When I was growing up in the South, a girl just didn't even go to a guys house if his parents weren't home and certainly would never go into the guys bedroom. I realize things are different now however, one thing hasn't changed: This guy will think better of you if you don't do anything or allow anything to happen that could lead to sex. If you tell him you don't want to go into his bedroom even to "see" something, he may protest, but inside he will like you more. If you are attracted to him and want to date him pulling away a bit is a good way to accomplish this. People usually badly want what they can't easily have - it's a fact of life! Maybe bring a board game (is that cheesy?) or come with some CD's to listen to together. If he has a computer, come prepared with some things to look at together online. Maybe bring a DVD you like. Maybe plan to hang out in the house just for a little while, and then go to get something to eat or go to another friends house together, or go to a movie or the mall. Good luck and have fun!
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I don't know about anyone else... and this was new to me... but when I got with my BF that I am with now, he told me he does it a LOT, like 8 times a day a lot! LOL.... I think it's hott, as long as I'm not around to give him any... hehe! He slowed down now cuz he has me around all the time! Maybe you just need to find a grilfriend to take out all that frustration on LOL! If your 'thangs' no raw... than wack on! LOL
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Don't worry honey. I know it's not a nice prob2 have but it's not serious. Sometimes it could be stress or distractions.\nDon't let him drink or at least limit it b4 sex as that makes it hard 2 keep it up. encourage him,never let him feel pressured but seek for ways to enjoy yourselves in foreplay and sex. It may take time and patience but this is temporary. as for his age, it doesn't affect it. Some suggest having sex in different surroundings.\nWhen my boyfriend had that problem  i asked a friend of mine(male) to advise me but he said it was stress and so my boyfriend and i switched to early morning sex b4 he would be thinking about problems at work or other things. after a month, he was fine.\nGuys most of all need to know that you think they are the best and sexy. When their confidence is up, they are more likely to stay up. \nso just keep at it, build his faith, don't pressure and have fun. Also try new things.\na practical tip is after or b4 the bj, put his hand on top of urs and let him guide u in how he likes a hand job. This is a real turn on and he will know how to do that.