A teacher used to tell me to celebrate myself when accomplish something... I used to let it go. But sometimes I go out with my best friend and drink Iced Cappicino. Sunny weather or snow, in the rain is more run. It's about how you feel. I never go myself, I don't think I'm worth spending money on alone. But I know a few people I can spend my entire life-time worth money on. I don't always tell others all the time. I don't fancy all the gifts, but I enjoy the hugs and words of wisdom.... b/c I learn and that leads me to more success.
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Sure do, kind of like after I lost a bunch of weight, I went and bought myself some new athletic shoes, which are now worn out....
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Things like that sometimes seem easy to do, and get away with, but the repercussions can be burdensome.  Also, they tend to glue you into a mindset and a lifestyle that may not be the best for your future.  Putting yourself into active things, oftentimes using your body instead of your mind, is a good way to lose those feelings that can creep up on you and tempt you.  A job, a hobby, a group, frienships, family time, are all good avenues.  Sometimes leaving a situation you are in is a viable alternative, with friends, groups, etc.  Life is not perfect, so finding a way to not feel totally out of whack when they happen can keep you level-headed.  Forgiveness also keeps you from feeling like your carrying the load around with you.  Also, the take some of that edge that we all fell like we are the most important thing around, and putting more selflessness, doing things for others even when you might not feel like it, can adjust your attitude toward feeling less alone.  Guard your mind, what you put in it, or what you allow others to put in it, because this will affect how you think, and what you think about.  Positive action is often the best thing for emotions that want to burst.  How you act affects how you think, and vice-versa.  In time, they become more a part of what you are and, hopefully, what you want to ideally become.  Keep a your head up.  Best to you!
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No, not really. Because I'd want somebody who would at least wish me happy birthday or do something nice for me if not a gift. I especially wouldn't want to feel ignored because she talks to everyone else but me. If you want some advice here's a dish: Why don't you just go find a friend who's nice and will treat you fairly? I know how it feels to go through this, but just find somebody who doesn't ignore you.
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What makes me happy?  well, talking with people I feel are really listening and sharing our differences and things we have in commmon.. sometimes, I think i'll never be really happy again because I RARELY get out of the house.. and I need to do this!  If you can come up with a plan.. maybe we'll both go out to soomewhere new (or old).. and we can compare notes?  I do run a small home-based business so I do see people every day.. but they're just not really friends (tho they do treat me as a friend) and I could use a real friend who doesn't whine about everything!  \nReally, if you come up with a good answer, let me know, ok?\nBest wishes!
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I choose to think that whatever time we have here HAVE FUN...you could get hit by a bus tomorrow. Not really into the idea of "wasted" but in my life I have done just about everything I set out to do. Started out being the first girl surfer in our group...and went on from there. If wasted makes someone happy THEN DO IT.  Personally, I would hate to waste any time that I would wish for in the end.  But I do live it to the max, and intend to go out completely and utterly exhausted.
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I think you made an excellent choice.  Good friends are hard to come by, and it has been my experience that they usually come in single digits.  I used to be a "group girl", had my clique etc., and I thought having a lot of friends was worth it.  I'd ignore the backstabbing and hurtful remarks.  Then I realized that I'd rather have one good, true, caring friend than a bunch of people that (in all honesty) barely knew me or cared about me.  So now I have just that, and my life (socially, spirtually, physically, you name it) has never been better.  My best friend has helped me to love myself and picks me up when I've had a bad day.  The "group" could care less...unless I happened to suddenly be a little more popular than them for some reason or another.  A lot of their antagonizing was jealously for one thing or the other, and that is probably your case as well.  Good luck with the future, and there's no doubt in my mind you'll find someone(s) worth your time. :)
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Money seems to be tight this year, and you always want to give a loved one something nice, and while holiday shopping you really don't think about receiving. Or I don't anyway. So, if someone took the time to pick out something for me based on my likes and it was cheap, I would love it more than a $50 gift certificate. Why? Because they actually pay attention to me, and know me well enough to make me smile with their gift. And that is my intention for every one on my list. So, in answer to your question; yes, I think it is the thought that counts. Although some people who have the money to lavish there loved ones with gifts, they also put thought into what they buy, they just have the money to reach higher. They shouldn't be looked down upon for that, us less advantaged people just wish we could do that.  Expensive doesn't mean less thought. Sometimes it could even mean more thought. One Christmas, all I wanted was a guitar, very pricey, and I knew that my mom couldn't afford, so I never asked. Everything in me was screaming with desire: have to play a guitar, want a guitar. My mom knew that, and she really surprised me when I woke up and there was one setting under the tree with a bow on it. It was the most precious gift I got because it came right from her heart. \nThe meaning of 'it's the thought that counts' is just as it reads, you put a lot of thought into any gift, and it counts.
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I don't have many possessions, but I don't mind because that's not what's important to me. Relationships are more important (I'm talking about friendships as well). If you don't have a goal yet, why don't you spend time volunteering at non profit organisations? It will make you feel better helping people, and it might help you decide what goals you want to set for yourself. There is plenty to do, for example, soup kitchens, rspca, elderly, disabled.
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I think sharing is something that is inate in your own character. To a certain extent, its about the sort of person that you are, and how considerate you are of others.
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do something you enjoy doing,you know yourself better than i do ,pool party mite be fun,i got drunk,but i am over 21.and my birthday is in January,so its to cold to do anything outdoors,which is what i am into during the summer .but it has rained allot here lately . but i think you can think of something.have fun and have happy birthday.
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No, it's not too late. Heaps of people have achieved their life's greatest achievements later in life (I think there's even a book on it). And I think accomplishments are totally personal. One person's accomplishment may be huge, like curing cancer or something, and another's is not having a drink, one day at a time. Money is only one measure, and not everyone buys into that measure anyway. I know when I had my baby, I felt like I'd achieved my primary purpose in life. (But as I'm not dead yet, who knows what I may yet achieve?!)
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Doesn't sound like a good plan to me. I like my thoughts to stay to myself. I often think to myself (especially around my boss) I would really like to tell you off or something in that sense. But I pretend to be a good girl and don't say anything to offend others.
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my husband was away on my birthday (is a new trucker, and had to be in school over 6 hours away :(  I am Very close with the people I work with, and was just all bummed out this year and didn't even tell anyone.  They all got pissed at me for not saying anything, but I was just not in the "oh yay, happy day, it's my birthday!!!" mood, ya know?  I spent it all by my self doing absolutely nothing.  My neice's party was on my birthday, so I did that, but she turned 6 the day before.  I made it loud and clear to my family that this was HER birthday party, I was completly cool with it, she needed her own special time to celebrate.  I know all too well how you feel though.  Do for yourself today...take a luxury bath with oil and salt and bath beads and good music, maybe a drink or two.  Pamper yourself, you diserve it.
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I stayed with my dad until he died.  He wanted me to be safe and to take care of me and me of him.  So it worked out fine.  I was not ready to be independent and that was best for me to do in my situation.  I know other people may have looked down on me but that is their problem.  Just because I was not married or independent did not mean that I was stupid or crazy.  They did not and do not know me to judge me.  I did what I wanted and what was best for me.  Then I realized that as my dad got older and in worse health, that he needed me because he would have been all alone and could not be alone as his illness progressed.  One day he told me that he wanted me to stay and not to marry until he died.  That did make me feel good and useful and have a little more dignity when others would say things to me.  But all in all, I would not have changed a thing.  So you do what is best for you.  Your family is the most important thing, if they are good to you, so treasure them.  You will be out and on your own one day when you marry or find a boyfriend or go to college or move for other reasons.  So, do what is best for you. I think that you are lucky.  :)
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I have almost the same problem,, and I know that even sometimes I help people so much and NEVER get something back,, most of the time i do not feel good! what I am doing now is I do say YES only to the people who deserve it,, my friends, family ,... people who really care for me,, try it step by step,, and keep in your mind,, NO BODY CARE FOR YOU AS MUCH AS YOU CARE FOR YOURSELF,, so put yourself first and all the others second,,
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You know, I'm myself have done this a time or two now that you've made me think about it.  Its wrong and I should stop doing it. I just get so frusterated as people ignorance sometimes that it leaks out.  I'll try to be more aware of it.  Thank you for your question, its made me think about myself and how I can be a better person.  \n\n*hugs*
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Pretty much we are responsible for we go. Not so much where we've been. If there's something in life that constantly gets us down, then we should work hard at fixing/changing it. I have found a job that I not only love but that I'm good at!! A job that I can see the changes and improvements that I'm making and making a name for myself for my future.\n\nI love my family and friends although I do not always understand them. But, if we were all alike, then it would be boring!!\n\nI've made major changes in my life since January. I'm determined this will be my year!! I'm willing to share it with anyone who wants to be a part, but I refuse to have anyone hold me back.\n\nMy advice to those who feel stuck in a job etc...make it your year!! Don't be afraid of change!! Grab what you want to make yours and run with it :)