my ex friend has been putting my son and my partner on the internet date sites some of them explicit. she is involved in some illegal activities. she cost me my job and a few friends with her lies, do i just let her get on with her pathetic sad life causing trouble for people or do i give her a taste of her own medicine.
135740
Someone pisses you off, take a bat and smash up her car. If it doesn't work; have a long talk with her.\n\nDon't give her a taste of her medicine, do something far worse to her than she's done to you. The only way to stop people like that is by beating them at their game. \n\nFor example: This guy at work let the air out of my bike one time....... So I could have laughed and forgot about it..........Instead, I mailed his rollerblades to Vancouver, a 1000 miles away.
256862
im assuming u keep system history and archives so u can go back and see whats what with her on the pc. also, a pointer might be, dont allow usage of the pc unless urstiiting right there. many a pedophile knows just what 2 say 2 a child 2 lure them in. kind of scares u? what business does a grown man have with a 12 yr old child? contact the police department with copies of the conversations as well, im sure they can help u with some monitoring type things u can do 2 make sure. dont worry about her being pissed about privacy, if something happened 2 ur child via some perv online, u will wish u would have acted sooner.! good luck!
224066
Just leave it alone, they'll most likely find out what she's doing eventually, but it's not up to you to point it out if you're not saving anyone from a dangerous situation or anything -- you're just looking for vengeance when you need to move on.  Believe me, you'll be better off if you just let this go...you'll get over it faster.
24480
Talk to her.  Call her and ask her if she might want to get some tea or coffee or lunch or something.  Don't admit to what you did and at the same time don't deny it either.  Denying it will cause distrust on her part because she believes you did what ever it is you didn't do.  That is what I would do.  You are marrying her son.  You are going to have many years ahead of you seeing this woman.  Make things right now or she could make your life a living her for the next 40 years or so(until she passes away).
489512
I would get some pictures and tell her. Pictures are proof, she might be too blinded by love to take your word and you said you two weren't friends anyway. Or you could just drop off the pics anonymously at her house or work.
78323
well your answer lies on one thing where is she at now as well who else has she been with in this matter you feel for the oldest thing going that is being played for a stand in . i have been there did  it as well not worth it in my opion how do you think i caught my.ex. wife. she was cheating i had the sence to get rid of it. grow up like i did. nt worth it my friend she this woman you are talking about is a player if she was with you you might thing who else has she fooled with you dont want to end up in court over this woman she aint worth ita woman like that cant love she has something called a whoreing spree ?
435410
Tell you ex's GF to take it on a hike.  She has no business wanting to know your child.  And for that matter, neither does your ex.  Be strong, and best wishes to you.
309741
Leave it alone. Nothing is more uncomfortable then having to face that person at work during a relationship period.  She need to grow up and do something about her life and you should just be her friend and quit sharing her business on the internet
613139
shes victimizing you... she shouldnt be putting you in the middle of her problems and that makes her a poor excuse for a friend... what im trying to say is, do you want to be the one who conspires and allows her to cheat on her husband or do god knows what? Think of the husbands feelings in this situation... While you dont want to be the cause of them splitting up you have to know that if you told you wouldnt and couldnt be held responsible, your friend decided to do this to her husband and she should have to face the reprocussions. Do you care about this girl enough to actually lie on her behalf over something that could split them apart? I think its the husbands right to know whats going on, in my case I think I would not tell the husband where she is but if you know his friends or family tip one of them off and possibly they will tell them... its complicated but you cant be incriminated because you didnt tell her husband where she was, you tipped someone off and they told, but i think its the right thing to do in letting the husband know in one form or another that his wife is lying to him and may be doing more... hes a human being and has feelings to, and she is digging her own grave... It was wrong of her to ask for you to lie about her because she is putting you in the middle of their problems and asking you to conceal the fact that she is destroying her marriage. If I was you I would tip someone off and then let them tell the husband,  either way theres nothing you can do to come out of the situation without getting hurt because if the husband figures out that you have been lying to him about something that is ruining his marriage then  hes going to hold you partially responsible... and think would you want to be in that sort of situation as well. would you want your husband to secretely be doing god knows what and you to be completely oblivious to it and how would you feel about it if he asked a friend to lie to you for him? you have to put yourself in the victims shoes, and honestly you both are the victim to her lying ways
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no. bad idea dude. restraining order and relationships are a disaster. let her go. \n\n\nSeriously, if there is a restraining order on you by her.  Even if she comes to you... you can get in some MAJOR trouble if caught.  Even if it's her lie verses your truth, the courts will normally go to her side since she's the one who filed the restraining order to begin with.
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You know what you did in your life.. \nIf its fake..  then i would be taking them for slander as well. \nto me its a play to freak  you out. \n\nIf it was me.. i would make a personal point of letting her know she is a very cruel person and it will come back to her three fold.
518358
How can you be friends with someone who has betrayed your trust? You can be polite because of your child and because in life you get more with honey than you do with vinegar! HOwever, that is all I would be. No information, no jokes, no real conversation. Then take a deep breath. Realize that he looked at your relationship with all its pluses and cons and decided to try his luck elsewhere. UNfortunatly he forget to inform you about his decision. Take another deep breath. Realize that a cheater is a liar is a sneak-- aren't you worth more? In other words, through thick and thin you stood by him but he could not do the same. Honey, he is not wrothy of your love. Put on some make-up, get dressed and go out!
190970
Look You need to rid yourself of this mess . Your so called friend is no friend if she has to email some girl that has no connection to her what so ever and tell her something that will she does not need to know anyway . She is obviously jealous of the new relationship and has no backbone if she can't tell the person she is treating who she is and why she needs to tell her all the crap she has been holding on to from her past relationship . Tell her if she doesn't confess you will tell her ex the truth and get out of this mess .
375305
I'm a female.  But if I was in that man's shoes, I would not take that lightly.  How can she be such a con?! \n\nThen I would sue for custody of the child.  How do I know if she will look after the child being a liar that she is.  She is just a bad person all round. \n\nI would be ashamed to call her my friend if I were you.  There's nothing wrong with him not using protection.  He had the knowledge that she wouldn't fall pregnant.  He was just decieved.  Period.
22321
This is an experience that I dealt with with my "ex-husband". When I caught it, I challenged him on it. He came up with so many explanations that I finally gave him an ultimatum. I told him that he needed to chose between the internet and me. He was also looking at adult porn. He said he would quit, but one day, I checked history, and found that he lied to me. Not only that, but while I was online, I didn't realize that his instant messenger hadn't been closed, and an IM window popped up from a girl who said "hey sexy"! When I looked at the messenger, I realized it was his, and not mine. I told her who I was and she said "What are you doing on his computer?" I told her that it was my computer, and that he was sleeping in my bed. I asked her if she wanted me to wake him up. Well, she was fuming at that point, and started saying things like "Oh, we're just friends, and also that they had never met, she was only playing around". Well, needless to say, I showed him the door real quick. I live in Ohio, she lives in Indiana. When he left, guess where he went immediately??? LOL! Indiana, of course, and he married her 6 months later. Funny thing is, they are divorced now, and since then, he has been engaged to 3 other women, 2 of which dumped him for the same reasons, and he is planning on his 3rd wedding with his new fiance this year. I've always been told that "leopards never change their spots". That's some good advise that I got from my mother. She is very right!!! \n\nMy advise is....don't get caught up in the whirlwind of the lies. They only get bigger and better as time goes on. If he's doing it now and says he'll stop, he'll do it behind your back! Cut your losses and find someone who truely cares about you and your feelings!!!
445287
Leave things alone and let it work itself out. You haven't done anything so if you start trying to fix it then it's only going to make you look even more guilty. He'll learn in time that you never did any of the things she said and he'll have to be the one to find a way to make it up to you. Let him see that your a stronger person then what she is making you out to be. and he will respect you more for it. I would just let him know that your not guilty but your not going to start trying to prove it to him either, and that he'll have to work it out himself. If you start having to prove things to someone you will be having to prove things to them from now on. If his going to believe you then let nature take its course. As for her why are you even friends with her. Dump her and if you do date her ex so what, that's why his her ex.
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Coming from experience, and in my case, I was engaged to someone about 14 years ago and about 2 years ago, I was in my homestate for my grandmother's funeral. I came through my ex's hometown and there was alot of unresolved issues at the time he broke off the engagement without a real reason. I decided to try to find out what his story was and to wanted to know why he did what he did. I mailed a long letter, asking the questions and searching for the answers I was looking for. He hurt me pretty badly by leaving without a real reason and he got the letter and wrote back. If you do decide to contact an old ex about unresolved issues on why your relationship ended, after you get your answers, move on. Accept the answers and accept that as closure. If your ex wants to be "friends" after the both of you aired it all out, my advice would be, don't be friends. Afterall an ex, is an ex for a reason. If you try to be "friends", old feelings will stir up, you could fall back in love with that person and you'll end up paying for it at the end. My ex wanted to be "friends" and I agreed to that but here it is 2 years later, I decided it was too late to try to be friends and realized he was never a friend in the first place. What my ex did was hurtful and I decided a while back that I didn't want anything to do with him period and I ended the friendship. I realized that he was never a friend in the first place. Get your closure, get the answers you're searching for, and move on. As for your wife, she is right, you know. Why open a bag of old wounds? You're with your wife now, stick to the present, don't look back at the past. There is really no good reasons to try to "resolve" anything. As for the ex's sexual abuse, she needs to deal with that.