How do I tell my boyfriend that I cant stand the fact that he talks to his ex-girlfriend. I want to tell him that When she calls and plays on my phone it makes me hate that I ever went with him. I love him so much.
138483
tell him straight up that you dont like it and you cant take that...i did that with my bf a while ago and he stopped...i understand how you feel bout the whole EX thing, i hate the idea of someone he's been with intimately calling him still
480468
ask her why is she always talking at her ex cause you don't want to hear her talking about them and if she misses them that much then she can go back to them cause she is totally disrespecting you in always how would  she like it if you talk about your ex girl friends but tell her if she doesn't stop you are gone and will be looking for some one different good luck
545823
You said it yourself, he is your EX.  Get over it and get on with your life.  And I'll bet he really doesn't want to hear that.
229660
get rid of her!! trust me i went through the same shit with my ex and turns out he was just playing me and another girl at the same time
211283
just tell him flat out he can't have both if he wants to be with you he has to break up with this other girl and if he really truely don't want to loose you he will leave her.  if he doesn't or begs for time to pick one then just leave him alone dont answer his calls and dont talk to him if you see him somewhere.  some people just have a hard time letting go of the past, goodluck to you.
275697
A week straight? And he's already said he loves you? But he hasn't taken his ex-girlfriend's voice off his voicemail? This guy is playing you. Dump him fast. He's a jerk and is stringing you along. He still has a girlfriend and is just looking for a little action. You deserve better.
468349
No, you're not a bad mother but your ex does have a right to see his child.  Your daughter clearly likes your boyfriend more than her own father because he does not show her love and affection.  Evidently your boyfriend does and he is nice to your daughter.  A lot of men do care about their chidren but may not show it.  Maybe your ex is annoying because he doesn't want to end things with you.  Your daughter is his connection.  So, tell your ex you have a boyfriend.  If he gets mad so what?  You have a right to go out and see whom you wish.  Don't let your ex run your life.  If your boyfriend can sometimes take care of your daughter while you do other things then let him and don't bother your ex.
541708
Were you wrong to tell his ex... Not at all.  The key word is "ex".  If his relationship with her is really over then it shouldn't matter to him if his ex knows that he is with another girl.  Mind you, it does depend on how long ago they broke up. For instance, if they were together for a long time and they just broke up a week ago... it might be a bit soon for him to have a new girl in his life.  This would for sure hurt his ex and he might be mad at you if this is the case, but nevertheless he is the one being inconsiderate not you.   If the relationship has been over for awhile, then he should have told her about you himself... you should be the one mad at him for not mentioning you.  You are not a rebound chick.   Perhaps you need to ask him what his relationship is with his ex.  Likewise, if the relationship is really over what is big deal with his ex knowing that he has moved on (providing he has moved on). It sounds like he might have a lot of baggage.  Make sure that this is something you want to be involved with before you get too involved.  There are plenty of great guys out there.  Good Luck!
256494
I think you shouldnt even talk to your ex at all just ignore him, and you should tell your bf because he should know but just tell him andim sure it will be okay i mean you  you would want to know if his ex was emailing him right?
498705
Hello:\n\nFirst off, I know exactly how you are feeling. My ex-boyfriend and I spent more time fighting than we did simply being happy with each other. It just got to be so frusterating. Ultimately I just decided that something wasn't working because we were arguing about the same few things. \n\nWe decided to sit down and have a serious talk about it. One of our main problems was that he was an incredibly jealous person, and I usually am not. He would get upset if he saw me talking to one of my guy friends. I have never ever been unfaithful to anyone and just could never do that to someone, and yet he always assumed that I was messing around behind his back. \n\nAnd then he would get frusterated that I was such a trusting person, and that I would never confront him for talking to another girl. So he started pushing the limits a little bit in order to make me jealous, and boy did it work. It just seemed that we were spending so much time hurting each other. And we agreed that the relationship wasn't working out. \n\nNow we are both in relationships, and we remain friends. And both of our relationships are much more successful than we ever were together. Some relationships just aren't meant to be. It was through that experience that I realized it isn't enough to simply love someone, there is more to making a relationship work. \n\nI would suggest having a serious talk with your girlfriend. Figure out which things you are fighting about most often, and I'm sure you will find a common thread. Then you need to decide if it's worth it to make an effort to fix the relationship, or if it's time to move on. \n\nI wish you the best of luck, and I hope this helps!
177809
i think that you should just tell ur boyfriend how you feel. Tell him that although you like him so much u still have feelings for your ex that u need to deal with. the sooner you do this the less you will hurt him. There is no point of being with someone when ur thinking about another person.
181314
Why are you messaging your ex boyfriend? I think you are creating drama for yourself. So wallow in it, you deserve it.
91912
It's only natural that she is his "reference point" as you say, and I think he's probably honest about not loving her anymore. But he should stop mentioning her all the time! Have you talked to him and told him that it hurts you? I think that'll help. Good luck!!
293318
If it hurts you that he is talking to his ex, and you have told him this calmly and rationally, and he is still doing it - there is something wrong.  In a healthy relationship, he should understand your insecurity about it and possibly decrease or eliminate contact with her until you feel better about it.  \n\nSeek some sort of couples counseling to \nA. Find out why he would do this\nB. Work out your trust issues from your past relationship.  \n\nIf you don't address these issues now, they certainly won't magically disapper once you are married.  Take the time to solve them now so that you have a clearer plan for your future.  \n\nGood luck to you.  : )
435059
have you done something that could annoy her? or probably she's having second thoughts on breaking up with his ex. maybe you should give her some time alone. but keep the communication line open. text her from time to time (but not too much), ask her how she is. but do not annoy her by texting too much. if this scenario continues for days, try giving her a letter and express how you really feel. tell her you really like her but having second thoughts on pursuing cause she might think you're taking things too fast. just be honest.
517005
You and your boyfriend need to sit down and talk EVERYTHING out.  From taking things slow to him hurting your feelings.  Talk about why his past realtionships bother you and why your past relationships bother him.  While talking about all this remember to be honest, no matter how brutal the truth might be and also remember to listen to everything he says and not get offended.  Same goes for him.  If you guys truly care for each other, you guys can get thru this.  :)  Good Luck.
435987
He talks to his ex and hides it because he likes her. You are serving as a filler in his relationship gap.