I am a graduate student who is trying to determine how most people define sexual satisfaction. It is completely confidential -- there is no way to trace who said what. It will take you under 2 minutes to complete. Serious submissions only, please.\nThank you!!\n\nhttp://www.surveymonkey.com/s.asp?u=524332005308
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it varies on the person it is defined when that person gets out of it what they need
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To be honest I was not satisfied, I had this built up image of sex in my head, I thought it was going to be great and enjoyable. But it wasn't, It's not the same as pleasuring yourself lol, because your starting off with that person you have to learn what each others likes and dislikes are, but that was just me, I dont know about other people, I talked to some people and they felt the same way but I guess thas something that changes with time or from person to person well hope your first time is a blast! have fun.
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A recent survey (which I can't find as a reference!!) suggested that:\n - most women thoroughly enjoyed receiving oral stimulation (cunnilingus);\n - only 25% of women enjoyed providing oral stimulation (fellatio).
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youre right when you say it's a neverending question with never a concrete answer to be had... all youre going to get are a bunch of other peoples opinions. Personally my own opinion is that if you get married, it becomes your duty to figure out what kind of sexual routine is satisfactory for the both of you. It's completely not fair and cruel for people to withhold sex, but at the same time, it's not fair for people to demand sex. That's why you need to communicate before hand. what you would be satisfied with. Some couples are fine with it being once or twice a week, and some prefer more. It all depends on the couple. For your other question, why do women want it less? I think it's because they have less of a sex drive-less testosterone and lets admit it, less chance of orgasm through sex alone so it's less of a motivation for them to have sex everyday. For women sex is generally a way to express love but for men, sex is just an activity. Most women can sense when their man just wants to f*ck them and I'm sure they don't mind this most of the time but generally they prefer sex to be about love and affection and closeness. I guess that's hard for men to understand, and it's hard for women to understand that men just see it as an activity sometimes separate from love. That's why the sexes need to communicate and sympathize with each other.
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Communicate is the best aphrodisiac, I had this problem too. wasn't very interested in sex. I just had lot's on my mind and issues. but once we were able to communicate honestly (so I thought), things got really great.   best sex ever.
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oh my god i totally agree! i love it! so yes its definitely normal! haha even though some people are all sketchy about i dont know theres just something about an angry anxious guy that turns me on. If he doesnt want it that bad that he wont make you then what the point..i like it because then i know that im really making the guy happy and doing what he wants. im definitely glad i came across this question...but my answer is yes you're normal and i couldnt agree more :)
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It's not silly or dirty! Why judge something you've never participated in? It's called either bestiality or zoosexuality. The second one sounds better in my estimation... less derogatory. I don't know if there are stats on it, though. Why do you want to know about someone else's sex life, which you evidently don't agree with, anyway?
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Excellent question. And to all the doubting ladies in the answers above, this husband gets his wife surprise flowers. Splits the chores at least 50-50 (ha - she doesn't do any yardwork, but I do about a fourth of the laundry, more than half the cooking, and at least half the cleaning). I tell her how beautiful and sexy she is (and she *is*!) Spend time talking to her (when our 3 kids aren't in the way!) and basically everything everyone says I should be doing. We've talked about our sexual desires and it's quite clear that my sexual satisfaction is last on her list of priorities. What she considers good sex is merely adequate "duty" sex to me. I won't complain too much, but it seems like I'm "owed" more than 10 minutes of sex once a week... Not contemplating an affair, but can totally understand where this guy's question is coming from.
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Sex is reproduction, honestly males wont get as much pleasure from sex as females. There are three possible reasons that you  arent satisfied in the act of sex.\n\n1: You are bored with your mate.\n\n2: You were never into her in the first place.\n\n3: You are gay.\n\nThen again, if you are that picky in the first place. Honestly you already know this. You're a primal beast what needs pleasure sexually and loves trying out new things. You want to experience every form of sexual pleasure possible. If you dont get it, you become bored. Honestly, caring for someone and using someone is two different things because if you cared for her sex wouldnt matter. Affection is an useless emotion, humans fool themselves into thinking we are capable of feeling it.\n\nThe answer is yours to decide, because no matter what you hear you'll answer the question on your own.. when you are ready to accept the truth.
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While it is neither ideal nor average, it does occur. Some people are practically anorgasmic while others have diminished sex drives. This is not necesarily bad since ones pleasure response to sex is to further procreation, but on the other hand that´s one less cheap thrill you can count on. Have you looked for counceling? Most people are sexually turned on by SOMETHING, but its a matter of finding out what.
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My wife went to one a few months ago. It was all ladies there. About 20 she said. She really enjoyed it. We are both open minded when it comes to sex so she wasn't really surprised by anything that happened while she was there except. After the show was over the Hostess invited her and three other ladies to stay later and chat. They were all a little tipsy from the wine I guess. The Hostess then changed into something MORE COMFORTABLE! The Hostess Then ask them to watch while she did actual sampling or OJT if you will, for some of the toys. I guess she felt if the ladies knew exactly how to use them and so on, they would want to buy them. Well, according to my wife since all these girls knew each other anyway, they all decided to participate with the Hostess. While I don't want to go into great detail here, they apparently did everything but oral sex on each other. When my wife told me the whole story I was sexually aroused. IT HELPED US TREMENDOUSLY!
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sexual self gratification
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I think noone of those who answered noticed that the key question is not WHY DO WE ADORE SEX?! it's why do we discard the partner after getting our fix of it.\n\nI would say it's coz most people take the easy way, they want to eat the cake but not help bake it!\n\nSad...
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I certainly couldn't argue with your sexual prowess, having no personal experience with you from which to draw from. So I'll start by just believeing that it's at least close to being true.\n\nWhy does he cheat? You say you only do what he asks you to do. I find this statement somewhat odd and I am not sure exactly what you mean by it. Without more information it's hard to give you a "real" answer but, here are a few possibilites (I'm not implying that any of them or all of them are true.)... Maybe he feels neglected in other areas of the marriage? Maybe he married young and feels like he missed out on being single? Maybe he disagrees with your statement regarding "sexual prowess"? Maybe he is going through a mid-life crisis?\n\nIt's hard to give you a good answer without more information. Post more details or drop me an email, I'll help if I can.
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I am a 44year old female, 14 years old the first time.\nI am hitting my prime, maybe have been since early 30s. It's been my experience that men hit their prime from 16 to maybe 25 - all downhill from there (sorry guys!!)  I am experiencing an increase in my sex drive & am very much more aware of my own sensuality & sexual self at this time in my life. I've never experienced any dysfunction but have been with several partners who have. (not fun)  I am a lot freer to experiment & enjoy - I'd love to take advantage of that but lack a steady partner at this point in my life. (gotta fix that, soon!) I've always been highly sexed, from my teen years & I don't see it slowing down any time soon. E-mail me if you want more details - I'd be delighted to provide you with information for your research.
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This is very true.. especially since I have never experienced an orgasm..  I find that even though I have never climaxed in my life( by the way I have been sexually active since the age of 18 and I am 22) I still enjoy sex. I enjoy the emotional connection I feel with the person rather than physical. Don't get me wrong I enjoy the physical aspect. But what truly makes me feel satisfied is the feeling of oneness with the person I am sharing my body with.
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weight sex masturbation all of them and also does anybody want to talk .why dont they read some of the previous answers before asking and maybe that would help .i think some of them ask questions just to try and shock others but its a case or seen it done and wearing the t-shirt with me ,oh well lets try again .