when we make love to eachother.., it takes him a long time to c u m. what can i do.. that will get him going to c u m faster. he has always had a problem with getting himself to c u m in intercourse but its so easy when he gets a b l o w  j o b from me.. or a hand job.. What should i do???
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BEAT HIM IN HIS SLEEP
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My God!  You just tell him. But be sure he is either experienced enough or else has studied enough about sex and female anatomy to know how to gently and lovingly deflower, or else you will be quite disappointed.  Look at Brittany P's answer.I recommend you and he take several months pleasing and orgasming each other manually and orally before having intercourse in order to know that he cares to please you as he should.
638238
watch the teeth.  Get as much of him in as you can.  Use your whole tongue, using just the tip can tickle and he wants to be pleasured, not tickled.  Get good suction cuz if u just let him have sex with your lips it's kinda boring.  Dont pull it out of your mouth and ask if he's almost there, just keep going till he finishes.  If ur good it wont be long anywayz
291974
Do you practice delaying techniques?  It would probably be really helpful.\n\nTrial and practice - work on delaying his orgasm with manipulation.
670898
Ask him for more play time.  Perhaps he could perform oral on you and use a vibrator on you to help you reach orgasm.  The once he has helped you out, you can make love.
189028
I like to start with slow kissing, long and passionate, then lots of caressing and licking while slowly undressing each other. Taking your time and a little teasing before actual sex is the best! It prolongs the whole experience and when you both finally org*sm then he should satisfy you more with or*l sex, and you do the same to him afterward!
636686
Try to do workouts and more kegals..... Also talk with your doctor and see what they suggest. He also needs to make sure you are really lubed up and ready for him. He should try oral on you and let you climax and then use ky jelly and be gentle and slow and take his time so he does not hurt you. Have you tried being on top so that you can control things? Try buying a couples toy so that during intercourse you both are stimulated.... I hope this helps you some and i wish you the best.
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Are you overworked, kids, school or Stress? Maybe, your significant other can help you more with your responsibilities? In order to be intimate you have to be comfortable in the other aspects of your life. Talk to him and explain everything that going on in your life.  Tell him when your ready if he can be patient he'll know! Explain that sex will be more passionate etc when your not pressured, that way it wanted and you both can enjoy.
620474
Just chill on the sex. It will happen. If he wants to respect you and not sleep with you, then just wait and when it happens, it will be great. Guys do grow up and get to an age that they don't want to talk about it all the time. But it does concern me that he is getting oral sex from you but not giving maybe? that means to me that he is playing a game.
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First, he should wash after sex and use lotion.  Next, some men don't have a high sex drive.  Why do you even bring up cheating on him.  If you really love him this would not even be an option that you'd have thought of.  Yes, you are too young but there are people younger than you married so- give him some space.  Lots of men when they are stressed out have a hard time even thinking about sex.  Communicate!!!!!
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Okay first use lots of lube and have him finger you first with one finger than with two to get you use to it or you could use a butt plug put it while you are having s*x than switch to an*l have him go real slow and just try to be really relaxed if you do it right it feels great. Good Luck and P.S. always try to be opened minded when it comes to s*x you never know what you just may like.
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Okay, I'm going to tell you.  First of all, don't get stressed out about it.  You don't have to perform.  If you guys care about each other, you will be patient.  And always remember you can just not do it.\n\nThis is how it works:\n\nThere is a layer of skin, and then everything else.  There is a head and then everything else.  With me so far?\n\nWell, if you GENTLY move the skin on the non-head part up and down, it will rub against the head part, which is very sensitive, and for all intents and purposes, this will trick the special organ into believing it is having intercourse.  It is actually better to use a lubricant, like a hand lotion, because it goes much more smoothly, it feels a lot more like an actual woman part, and there is less of a chance of him getting hurt.  \n\nBut remember one thing... the more gentle and slow you are to start out with, the more he will feel... and when you go faster and harder, remember that he will make a big mess.\n\nAnd one last thing.  It's really all about being intimate.  You should not just do it because it's fun or feels good.  You should only do it as a way to be close to another human being.  Otherwise you will be disgusted with yourself later.
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OK I think that you should give him some time. Guys tend to be kinda slow sometimes. LOL. But just let him make the first move that way he can get some time and think about what he's gonna cover in the conversation. Good Luck
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if YOU want to have sex, then by all means do it!  but if it is HIM that is pressuring you, you need to tell him that you are not ready yet.  if he loves you, he will wait.  'til then, there are plenty of other things that you can do to keep each other satisfied.
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he is afarid he will finish too soon.  you can try telling you want to do this and if her finishes the you will make him hard again.\n\nif you think it is because he wants to be in charge let him stand and you kneel in front of him,  maybe tie your hands behind your back..
672103
sex should bring mutual pleasure to both individuals.  My last boyfriend wouldn't climax until he had made sure I had come first.\n\nso my advice on how to present this to him:\n\ntell him you want to try new things to increase pleasure for the both of you.\nyou can try this game where for one week, you guys can do everything EXCEPT have sex. \n\nso, either he tries to make an effort w/ foreplay, special condoms for the extra sensitive guy, etc etc...\n\nor dump him.  there are better guys out there.
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You need a lot of foreplay, then when it's time for actual sex, it won't take you long to get off.  You could also get on top when he gets tired, then he can just lay back and enjoy.