My boyfriend is the dominate one in the relationship and doesn't respond to my questions or initiatives.  He is the one who makes decisions.  I just think we have been dating a year and a half and should think about a deeper commitment.  I keep waiting on his lead to no avail.  Any advice as to what I should do?
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wait until he feels he is ready
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Remember, Love is a two way street.  If he is a politition with a bunch od $Mula$ then he can probably afford to come and see you.  Why hasn't he?  I would say to stand back and take a look at the relationship from the outside.  When you speak or email, try to put yourself in his shoes and figure out what you would mean if you were saying the same things.  \n\nIf his work is more important to him then he is probably a lost cause, at least for now.  My best advise would be to just drop it for know, drop the boyfriend since he obviously doesn't mean that much to you and then get to know yourself a little better.  Let these relationships develope on there own and try not to push too much.\n\nGood luck!
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It sounds like he's committed to you so what's the hold up.  What do you want out of the relationship?  If you really love him tell him.  If you don't let him go. The relationship won't go anywhere if you hold it back.  Tell him how you feel or eventually you will lose him.
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He probably is not clueless, he is just not interested. I noticed that when my boyfriend does not want to deal with something or someone, he just ignores it. Seems like the same thing is happening to you.
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If after a year of wandering blindly through purgatory and your not sure of the status of this relationship then the answer is NO. Your not his girlfriend and he certainly isn't your boyfriend. \n\nMen say what they mean, but in your case it's what he hasn't said.  Has he asked you to be his girlfriend or in a committed relationship? How does he introduced you to his friends and family? Does he even take you around them?\n\nWhy are you waiting for him to make his intentions clear? Ask him. Are you afraid he won't want to hang out with you anymore? Don't you want to be more than just a fuck buddy.? Isn't that why your asking this question? I think you know the answer to your own question and I think that you are so desperate to have the attention of a man that you are willing to settle for this form of dating purgatory and don't want to admit to yourself that your not his girlfriend and that he doesn't want that type of relationship with YOU, because if he did he would have made it clear to you.\n\nDump this loser and move on. You deserve to be with someone who will truly love you and who will tell you every day and every one he knows that he loves you. \n\nGet out of purgatory and find an angel that will fly you to heaven.
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It sounds like a tough situation.  If I were you I'd keep trying.  Just be prepared if he gives you an answer you don't want.  Have you given any thought to what you will do if he says he isn't into you like that?
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I wouldn't sit around and wait on the call. If someone has to provoke me, that's not a boyfriend. Is he trying to start a fight over guilty feelings about something???? The only way to get past this is to have an honest talk. Why does he provoke you....why is everything "in his hands"....why the hurtful talk....???? Both sides need to be honest with each other and act more maturely and respectfully towards each other.
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Problem is your making it a problem. Let it go try not to stress about it. Everybody get's tired sometimes, tell your significant other to step it up and take the lead for a while. Try not to worry about it. Forget the male stereotype that men "have" to dominate. Sit back, relax, concentrate on letting him/her get it up for you!
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Hun you've only been with him for 6 months. It's a good thing that he doesn't want to rush things. It took me and my fiance a year and a half before we said the magic words "I LOVE YOU". Now we've been together for almost five years and are about to have two kids. Stick it out. It was worth it for me. Good luck and if you need someone to talk to, my email is flower_child69420@yahoo.com
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have you talked to this guy about taking it to the next step? Maybe it's time for you to both sit down and discuss where you both want to see where this relationship will lead you to. If what he's offering at the end of the line is not want you want, then its time for you to re-consider the relationship.
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I have a sexy boyfriend of 4 years.  It's like ALL chics go for him.  The reason why he went for and kept with me I think is b/c I'm not the jealous type (guys like to have a 'pawn' to play against their mates when it comes to bargaining the relationship if anything goes wrong, and jealousy can get dangerous and irritable, causing a rift).  He LIKES that I'm easy-going and not jealous, so that gives me extra confidence points he can appreciate.  If I were to act out of jealousy, it may just wear my mystery out instead of confirm my love for him.  If we get into stupid fights, I act as if I don't care if he thinks he can just go out with somebody else (he threatens to at worst, but then he chooses not to on his own)!  My point is, ACT INDEPENDENT, so that he has something to respect you for.  DON'T be at his beck-and-call so that he thinks "oh, I can just have her anytime I want; that chic is always available to me".
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From what you described, I'm 99.9% positive that he has feelings for you. His problem is that he can't make a decision for himself. He's sending you quite a few signals. He's waiting for you to make the first move before breaking it off with his current girlfriend. He's insecure. He doesn't want to be alone. Question is, do you have feelings for him? Do you want to be with a guy that insecure? Remember, the relationship will change once everything is out in the open. Which is more important to you? The friendship or the relationship?
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First, be glad he's honest and not pulling a line.  Second, don't be hurt just because you don't like the answer to a question you posed.  Third, realize these things have to work on their own time; you can't mandate a schedule.  Fourth, at some point this indecision can just be a delaying tactic, but don't jump to that conclusion now.  If the relationship is badly stalled for months and you're not happy about it, then you have a real problem.  But you need to let some time pass before you declare it badly stalled.
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thaghost84 above is full of **it. There is no point in staying with someone you can not talk to. If you stay in this relationship, it is going to get worse, so you might as well make a decision now as to whether or not you want to deal with a boyfriend who doesn't care about the same things you do. He is jealous and controlling and does not deserve you. You may not like hearing this but it is the truth. Dump this guy and date someone you can talk to. This is a good foundation that you can then build on. You start with the foundation, not the roof, if you want to build a solid, beautiful home. The same is true with relationships.\n\nBuh-bye now!
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I have a similar problem in reverse. I always find that guys (some of which are my friends) have a tendency to be clingy. This rattles my cage very much, however the best thing you can do, is bring it up casually (but not passive-aggressively) in a conversation, listen to that person's response, then fill in the blanks yourself. Don't dwell on it. If it's been a long relationship (5+ months) and there have been very few or no instances of cheating, I would trust the person to not do that to you. I hope this has been of help but I am not very good at giving advice.
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If you have to push somebody to make more of an effort, just to feel like you are wanted, then i would be questioning quite a few things. I don't want to sound mean, but to be honest, it sounds like his attention is already elsewhere. If you feel like you are second place to everything, that's not good at all. \n\nInstead of breaking up, sit him down, talk to him and tell him how you feel and see how he reacts. If he is honest with you, he will tell you what he wants and feels too.
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Why are you letting this guy make you crazy?  Why is he the one making all of the decisions?  You're smart, if a girlfriend of yours just told you what you've told us, what would you say to her???  Maybe it's time to move on...