I'm 6 weeks pregnant with our first child and this is a much wanted pregnancy. \n\nBut I thought that women love the baby from the instant they know they are pregnant and I don't. I don't feel any emotion towards it at all. Is this normal? I was thinking that when my belly starts to grow or I see a scan or feel it kick that things might change.\n\nRight now it doesn't even feel like a real person. I only found out that I was pregnant yesterday. It's hard to work up an emotion towards it when the only way I know it's there is bcz of 3 positive tests.\n\nthe irony here is that I'm a VERY emotional person, I cry all the time at kittens, puppies, babies yada yada... Now with our very own child growing in my belly I don't feel any particular affection towards it.\n\nDo maternal feelings get stronger as pregnancy progresses do you think?\n\nthank you
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I am a mother of 2 and I was very emotional also. I would cry at the drop of a hat. Your question about not feeling love towards your baby yet is totally normal.You just found out that you have a baby growing inside of you,it takes some getting use to.Once you get passed the first trimester which is when you are usually feeling super nauses and hormonal.I promise once that baby starts to grow, It is amazing how much love you start feeling for baby
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not sure about your actual question, but if your abdomen is growing and you feel pregnant, then you should go see a doctor and they should be able to tell you if you are pregnant or not and that will answer your question...
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I got pregnant by a guy who thought was a night in shining armor (turned out to be a jerk in tin foil).  When I miscarried at 12 weeks I was devastated!  I had serious depression after that.  I stopped living in a way and was just there.  One day it dawned on me that I needed to leave if I was ever going to move on.  3 weeks later I was at Naval boot camp in Chicago.  That led to meeting my wonderful hubby and having a beautiful son.  I'm even pregnant again!  I'm no longer in the Navy because I wanted to stay at home to care for my son myself but I know that if I hadn't of joined the Navy that day, I wouldn't have the wonderful life I have now.
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THERE IS NOTHING WRONG WITH YOU!!!!!!!!! I am in the same situation. Don't let him pressure you, its not fair, your sweet little girl hasn't even been out of your stomach longer than she was in! How can you feel "normal" yet? My daughter is 5months and I am SO TIRED, the LAST thing on my mind is sex, we are down to maybe twice a week, from at least once every day before I was pregnant. Talk to your husband about how you feel and explain to him that you love him and to be patient with you. You'll get back in the game, don't worry.
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~~Many women have periods throughout their pregnancy, however if it seems to be a normal period or heavier than normal, or if there is any cramping at all, to be on the safe side go see the Doctor.  if the doctor says everything is ok, it wasn't a wasted visit, you got peace of mind out of the visit.~~\n\ncongratulations to you both, and, to you Happy Father's day.  if you have power point on your computer please sign up for PowerPoint fun and view the power point below, it will open your eyes about your little bundle.  it's a very touching Father's day letter.  if you do not have power point and wish to view it, the link below the power point link is a stand alone viewer for power point presentations.  it's worth watching.
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Yes you should worry a bit. I also have that in my family, If you feel like you have a lot of presure when having entercourse or feel a nott in your lower tummy you should be checked...Also some time you may have semtems of being prego... However if this is caught early you could still be able to have kids... Good luck....Again you may just be fine
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Well if she is preggers, sex in the first trimester is kinda icky, to say the least at least it was for me and some other women ive talked to, if she thinks its lacking passion, maybe thats because she has it in her head shes not making love to you anymore shes making a baby with you, maybe thats how your treating it lately, Tell her if she wants passion,youll give her passion... make love to her like you did when you were first together, rediscover every inch of her body, remember that now you probably know how to get her from 0 to 60 in 5 minutes, take your time like you used to, get her to the point where shes close, and start to do something else, tease her with the idea of getting off, dont just hand a orgasum to her on a silver platter, think **here it is but you cant have it** trust me when my better half gets this attitude OMG its MINDBLOWING when he finally lets me have it ;) i hope that helps i know it works when this mentality gets used on me hehe :P
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I was feeling the same way not so long ago.\n\nMaybe it's just a female urge, but I really wanted to get pregnant. I wanted to have a baby who was half of me, and half of him, I wanted a baby I could love and watch grow up.\n\nBut, I realized the life of that child would be deprived. As much as I know I would love him or her, they'd have very few chances at a good and equal future. If you guys aren't seeing each other enough, maybe you should talk to him about it. If basketball comes before you, then maybe that relationship just isn't the right one to commit yourself with a child to. Who knows when he'd leave you?\n\nBut, if you are pregnant, I suggest you seriously discuss it with him, and if you aren't completely sure he can provide for you and the baby, then maybe you need to think about adoption. It's a hard decision, but if it's in the best interest of the baby, it's quite possibly the best decision, too.\n\nGood luck,\n~Morgan~
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it's probably different for everyone  - i expected butterflies too but i associate butterflies with more of a nervous feeling and when i felt my baby move for the first time there was no mistaking what it was - it was kinda like being flicked from the inside - if you think that's something wait till you actually see it move for the first time - that startled me more than feeling it.  You'll know though when it happens.
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It's hard living with someone.  I would just leave her alone and focus on trying to keep your stress down.  How far along are you?  It could just be that you're on an emotional rollercoaster, I was (and am) with all my pregnancies.  I'm around your age and 12 weeks pregnant, so if you want to me to kinda be there throughout it you're more than welcome to email me at kalliea923@yahoo.com  I hope all gets better with the living situation, and just remember that nothing lasts forever.  She may get over it soon.
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Men don't understand a womans emotional being. I cry all the time for no reason (i am pregnant though) but if you really look at it how good does it feel to cry, DAMN GOOD! i believe it helps me stay sane. keeps me balanced, if i couldn't cry for no reason than i would cry for every other reason, which i don't because i cry for no reason, does that make sense? i think that yes it shows a sign of strength that you can cause yourself to be most vulnerable, because really nobody makes themselves vulnerable, they always wait for somebody else to. and I am completely Happy with myself and not depressed. i just think that crying is good for your soul.
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Having had an abortion myself, years ago, I hope that your Sister was counseled before she went through with it.  No one counseled me back then so I didn't know what to expect.  Initially I was "fine" and relieved on the way home, but the more I thought about it, the worse I became.  All these years later, it's left an emotional scar that only other women who have had the same procedure done, can and do understand.  I still remember the date the abortion took place, the name of the Doctor, what the room looked like, what my due-date would have been, and how old my child would be right now.  Each holiday after the abortion took on a new feeling and a new meaning within me.   Each holiday would have been my child's "first holiday".  Each day became harder and harder for me.  Still, to this day, I can't look at a pregnant woman - it hurts too much.  Please be there for your Sister and to listen to her.  She may even have suicidal feelings - this is a very common occurrence as well as trying to get pregnant again to "replace her first child".  While she may look the same on the outside, please remember that she's now different on the inside.
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There is no greater loss than that of losing a child. I have not experienced it myself, however a few friends have due to drownings, illnesses, and car accidents. The feelings you are having must be very common because all of them experienced the same thing. The woman had a strong desire to have another child and the husband....the protector and provider was very hesitant.\nI don't know how they did it sir. But, each of them had another child and they are the best parents I have ever seen. They don't worry about the small stuff. They enjoy life and their children to the fullest. They find so much joy in their family.\nGod bless you and your family.
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Your depression doesn't sound very boderline - it sounds real.\n\nThe stress of taking care of your family, the pregnancy and whatever else going on in your life is taking its tole on your body, your mind and your baby.\n\nThe most important suggestion I have is to talk to your doctor. There are medications that are approved for use during pregnancy. But even if you don't want to take medication, just talking to your doctor can help. You could also see about getting a referal for a therapist who can help you talk through your stress and develop healthy ways for coping with it.\n\nOther ways to deal with depression include confiding in a good friend, keeping a journal, focusing on something positive and sometimes even just sitting down and having a good cry.\n\nWhat you are feeling is okay and understandable. But in order to continue caring for your family and to ensure the health of the baby you are carrying - I strongly urge you to see your doctor sooner rather than later.
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LOL, well by the time I had my fourth and fifth kid, I had seen and read so much about childbirth that I didn't even notice all those things. I just was so focused on the fact that this little guy was staring in my eyes and actually real and had just been INSIDE me for almost a year. Amazing.\n\nI have to admit, it's a little shocking at first. But all that body "stuff" is the same things doctors get used to and don't notice anymore either, so. hmmmm. \n\nInteresting comments. Sorry you haven't had the accompanying joys yet.
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That's totally normal. =]\n\nI've never been pregnant but I want to real soon.
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That's a good question and I appreciate your respect.  I must first make a disclaimer that I am a guy and have never been pregnant, so I can't claim what emotional bonds there are between a pro-choice mother and her unborn child.  That being said, I think it is the potential of the child that I would love.  What it had a chance to be and experience once it was born.  It would be wonderful to see it develop into that potential through ultrasounds etc. To answer your questions: Yes, I would think of it as alive.  Yes, I would think of it as a mass of tissue with the potential to become a human being (I assume you are asking about the first trimester, when aborting is currently legal).  Yes, I cold still bond with it, knowing that it will be loved and grow up to perhaps be a wonderful person some day.  I don't think the same is true of a child that grows up unwanted/unloved/abused/addicted to drugs etc.  I don't think I am a hypocryte just because I don't force my beliefs on others.  I am pro-choice, not pro abortion.