Communication problems in relationships
126149
generally, communication is being able to express what you think, feel and want from another and then hearing what the other thinks, feels and wants.  The problem comes when people can not express their wants or dissapointments and then it comes out in passive-agressive ways such as critisizing, making remarks that are dirogatory towards someone's actions or them.  The key is knowing SPECIFICALLY what you want from that person and telling them or asking them to meet those needs.  Example" I want you to take me out on fridays, even if it's to MacDonalds" or "when you go out with your friends and you don't call me, I worry that you're looking for other women or that you don't care about me, can you call me to say hello when you're out?".  When two people care about each other, they will do what the other wants provided it's within reasonable boundaries.  good luck!
520793
You can discuss pet peeves with your mate.  More often than none, people with annoying habits, don't realize they are doing it.\nIt just comes naturally to them and they do it without a thought.\n\nTalk it through. It's not worth giving up a potentially good relationship based on the petty things
566559
You are very strong for asking this question. You are certainly not asking for too much. This is not a problem she has with you, but a problem she has with commitment. She, for some reason, is not prepared to be as selfless and giving in a relationship as you have been with her. Maybe something is going on with her that is , creating this distance between the two of you. All though you probably already have, I suggest that you confront her and ask if their is an outside issue. If there is an outside issue and you help her through it, then you're relationship will be sstronger than ever. Best of luck to you!
530319
Really your not fighting, your probably just bickering. Its like adult going pains especially if you just moved in together. My fiance and I were the same way. I even gave my ring back!!! but we went to a communication specialist (couples therapist) and learned some tricks to communicating. I know its hard and you start thinking that things won't work out, but if you are truly meant to be, you'll be OK.  We had all the same issues you mentioned.Try this, sit and talk it out, if one of you is a blabber use a 5 min timer so you don't get off track of the topic at hand. Don't allow yourselves to deviate off topic nothing gets solved that way. Each of you should list your gripes with each other and go through the list,pick a time where you can really talk( no TV, no phones).  It will take a few tries before you can get through it with out yelling. No name calling and no blameing, start sentences like "going foward  blah blah blah"Cleaning? write up all the chores that need to get done and you together, divvy them up, then once chores are committed to on paper, its a non issue. The hard thing is  understanding that you don't get everything you want anymore it's all about 50/50( which sucks sometimes, but that's life) And there is no shame in meeting with somebody once a week if that's what you guys need, its not easy, it's one of the most stressful times in  your life. In some cases your insurance will cover it under adult therapy or under the the wide range of depression (even though its not,they just bill it that way and its legit because the situation makes you sad and stressed, don't feel labeled as depressed). Best of luck to you both
187955
I am sorry you seem to be having problems with communication and you aren't alone. A lot of couples don't know how to communicate, and even when they do it's not constructive communication. My suggestion to you is to seek counseling. Even if she isn't willing to go along, at least it can open your eyes and maybe you will be able to sort out your feelings. You do have a daughter, however do not make the same mistake so many others have made. Don't stay together just for the kids sake. Believe me, children sense when the relationship isn't happy. You have to do what's best for everyone involved. So good luck to you!
68041
definitely try to communicate!! it will probably help your relationship, but, even if it doesn't, it'll help YOU in the future, trust me.
226970
Sounds like a communication problem.  If you want this relationship to survive and grow you two need to sit down and come up with a plan to deal with these issue and any others you have.  Some times people who argue and complain a lot just need to have a set way to communicate those things in a helpful manner instead of the current method which is destructive.
558213
That's a tough one, maybe you two can hang out and try to avoid conversations that will stir up feelings from the previous relationship, but then it will seem like they are avoiding the situation, so maybe the best policy is to talk about whatever has happened and ask the person how do they think they can move forward. Maybe they may say they need sometime to themselves or something, or maybe you can suggest to them that they take up a hobby, like exercising, or jogging or something like that. Hope this helps!!!
182646
Well, have you tried involving gun fire? Seriously though a communication gap can put a serious damper on your relationship. Find out why he isn't open with you. Most likely he fears that you will be either disappointed or disinterested so he tries to keep it away from you. Good luck with your problem.
126898
it's ok to open up a conversation especially that you are feeling this way. if you don't get the right answers then it could be s start of misunderstanding that can lead to separation .at this point, maybe you're not sure yet about your relationship. communicate to each other in a nice way to resolve this problem.
76629
All these things can be worked on to improve and most of the people are not natural on these. Communication is a technique that must be learned. Personally, I try to identify my problems and work on it.It helps a lot!
456502
Talk with your girlfriends.
478113
See a doctor first to make sure there isn't anything wrong medically.\n\nIf not, are there problems in your relationship where you aren't feeling very close to each other?  Do you need to "spice things up" a little?  Sometimes in a committed relationship we fall into patterns of the "same old stuff" that just get boring.  Try something new!\n\nYou do use the word "hate" in your post--which seems to imply that you have unresolved conflict.  Work on it or move on if it isn't workable!
600258
Getting into fights over little unimportant things is usually a sign of bigger issues.  Just remember most relationships are made to end.  If it's "over" don't fight it.
258885
Sometimes when people are in relationships, they forget that they're supposed to maintain the relationship, like dating, talking and hanging out. Strange since those are the things which got us into the relationship to start with.\n\nMany years ago, a friend and I decided to date, knowing the difficulties we had had with previous relationships, we decided to create a relationship contract so that we would know what was expected, and know the penalties if we didn't live up to those expectations. It was one of the most enjoyable relationships I've ever had. She's still one of my closest friends.\n\nHere's a link to a copy of the contract\n\nhttp://jdoggiedogg.livejournal.com/4093.html
292425
If he is willing to go into counseling and see how to work out his problems, great, it says a lot for him.  If not, you really need to leave now while you can even though it would be hard...for your sake, you need to.  Your right, communication is the key to a great relationship, the way it sounds from what your saying is that it is a verbally abusive one and has the potential to turn into a physically abusive one.
21788
Have you talked to him about this?  The one thing I feel is the biggest problem between men and women is their lack of communication.  I think if we all just sat down and talked about our issues we wouldn't have nearly as many problems.  Granted, women are WAY more talkative when it comes to their feelings than men, but if a man wants to open up he will.\n\nTake this guy on a long walk or find somewhere somewhat private to take him and sit him down and ask him what's going on.  Don't be pushy or ask him a ton of questions, just ask him how he sees your relationship.  Ask him what he thinks is going on and where he sees it going.  And pay attention to his body language and expressions.\n\nGood luck!