I have a sister and we are only 17 months apart and we were always close until she got with her second husband. i think he is so jealous over her and dosent want her to come around her own family. i have tried to call her and she wont pick up the phone. she recently had a baby back in december and i haven't gotten to see her baby yet and we only live 15 minutes from one another. what would you do?\nI speak to her ex-husband when i see him out could she be mad about that? but we all like grew up together. how do i get her to get over whatever it is she is mad at me about?
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IF SHE ISNT GOING TO ANSWER THE PHONE IN THREE MONTHS SHE MUST AIN'T GOING TO. THAT PRICK SHE IS MARRIED TO MUST TELL HER WHAT TO DO. IT IS HER FAULT THAT SHE LISTENS TO HIM.\nDON'T FEEL BAD YOU HAVE BEEN TRYING TO CALL AND TALK TO HER IF SHE IS TOO DAMN GOOD TO PICK UP A PHONE THEN I WOULD JUST FORGET ABOUT HER.\n\nHER LOSS. A MAN WILL COME AND GO BUT FAMILY IS ALWAYS THERE WHEN SHE NEEDS YOU DON'T HELP HER.\nBLOOD IS THICKER THAN WATER.\nSOUNDS LIKE TO ME IF HE CONTROLS HER MAYBE SHE WILL WISE UP AND LEAVE HIM BUT BY THEN IT WILL BE TOO LATE BETWEEN YOU AND HER.\nI WOULDNT CALL HER AGAIN. SHE KNOWS YOUR NUMBER AND WHERE YOU LIVE
181312
Grow up!  She's family, and if you have a problem with her, you need to talk to her directly!  Who cares if she is a twin or not??  You need to deal with this issue as soon as you can!  And the right way to deal with it is not to not buy her a present, to show your displeasure with her!
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i dont understand how in the world he took the kids away from their mother...that is something that is extremly hard to do in the courts...but i think that if she wants her family back that bad and feels like if she dont have her family back that theirs no meaning in her life then support her but also remind her to becareful and try to save some money on the side for herself just incase...maybe he really does love her and realized that the grass wasnt greener on the otherside and now he wants his old happy life back....just try and help her secretly save some money as a just incase fund....i wish your sister the best
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My best friend started seeing her boyfriend in August, lost her virginity to him within a week of them seeing one another. (She'd already moved out, and lived on her own.) Within two weeks he moved in, and they've been living together ever since. I emailed her the other day, because I wanted someone to talk to, and she never replied. I don't have her new cell phone number, because she never gave it to me after she got on his plan...and the only time I hear from her is if there is a problem in her life, and very seldom then. I haven't heard her voice since new years. \n\nSpeaking from experience, you should sit her down and tell her what she is doing. Ask her whether or not she wants to abandon her family for a guy. Ask her if she wants to get pregnant and become a mother before she has the opporunity to do anything else. Tell her that you feel that she is really ruining her life, and you think she needs to slow down. The best way is to tell her flat out how you feel with no regards to her feelings, and don't sugar-coat it. She obviously isn't concerned with anyone but herself and her boyfriend. Also, you better do it fast. If she doesn't want to slow down, then ditch her and move on. Her failure and lack of concern for other people shouldn't ever bring you down. If she comes around, then be thankful, if she doesn't then you'll have to move on and just say that you tried.
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well the next time that you answer the phone and its her tell her how you feel. tell her she is selfish and needs to stop thinking of only her own self. oka y i know that this sounds harsh and she is older and that whole respect thing comes into play. but you don't just get respect you have to earn it. she does not deserve it. tell her that you love her but she needs to stop asking your husband for things. Tell her that she is her son but now he has another family to worry about. as long as she can afford her own things he should not have to support her too. Ok you really have to do this it sounds bad but you don't want to go the rest of her life hating her and wanting her to go away. Tell her in the nicest way possible all of the above, tell her that you want to be friends with her and you want her to be in the childrens life but they can and will do with out her if she continues being this way. Good luck and remember the truth hurts but its the only way to go.
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I wonder the same thing. I try not to think about my sister hating me but it is really hard. My sister has caused problems between me & my mother just by doing things like you said: she would pick everything just to hurt you. I have shown my mother proof from my doctor that I am really ill & that I am dying but oh no my sister tells her that I am lying so now my mother refuses to talk to me. She says I made everything up even the letter from my doctor with his signature & the letter was written on letter head paper. Go figure. I made it all up. I wish that I wasn't dying. My sister says that she can't deal with my illness. I passed out one day asked her to take me to the hospital, says she can't deal with me. I don't know why she hates me. and I don't know how to handle it except for focusing on one day at a time. I have my husband and my daughter with me. She even told my husband something that my daughter did at her home, she was grounded for 8 months and then 2 months ago I found out from one of my other sisters that it was all a lie. she wanted to cause problems between my husband & I. She thought he would leave me over it. She has major problems. She has 2 daughters by her 4th husband. but actually the 1st one belongs to his brother but she confided in me not to tell him and I haven't. It has been 7 years and he still does not know. I don't cause her problems why cause me problems. Why can't she just love me? I love her with all my heart. I wish your sister would love you too. Maybe they are having emotional & mental problems and they have focused on us to take it out on so that they can live with it. I wish  you the best of luck in working things out with your sister. I am trying but to no avail.
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WOW~ greygoose martini hit the nail on the head.  I have always said the same thing!  Choose the mother or father of your children wisely so that you won't have to deal with any of this.\n\nMy view of this whole issue is that most people try to hurt the other through their children.  I hope that you aren't one of those people who just try to make your ex's life miserable. My sister is going through some stuff and her ex is a big jerk who says he is going to make her life a living hell until their child is 18.   He is just mad because she finally got the nerve to leave him after years of mental abuse.  Even the mediator said they won't have anything else to do with him because he is so meanspirited.\nHe says he is looking out for the best interest of his child but then he can't control himself not to call my sister names and say bad things about her to his child. \n He says he is going to quit his job so that she doesn't have any way of getting the support.  He would cut off his nose despite his face...what a loser.
590444
That sounds very rude and inconsiderate to me.  If she asked your sister then she asked her so she should stay.  She can just let her friend know that the spot has been filled because she declined.  I dunno man, but to me she is already setting a bad example for married life if she can't even stay true to her word and cant even show respect for your family.  Looks like you got some thinking to do.  Good luck.
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I think you should try to talk to him.  Ten to one he wants to still talk to you but he is angry and doesn't want to show he's weak.  So you need to see what is wrong.\n\nMy sister's friend and her got into a fight and now my sister won't call her to fix it and I think that will be the end of her friendship.\n\nHope it helps!
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Perhaps she should have been more honest with you about the first husband.  BUT, remember, she may still have pain and heartache about it.  Did he pass away, was circumstances so that they couldn't stay together, did something really bad happene to him or did he do something.  The hurt and pain could still be so unbearable that she can't discuss it.  don't be so cruel and judgemental.  She's your mom.
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I'm with you. I just recently had a baby and I didn't even call to let my brother know I had her cuz he hadn't bothered to call and see how we were doing or how my mom was doing and she had cancer and just passed away in November. So I think, if you don't want to contact them, don't. I say, they know how to get ahold of you, if they want to, they can.
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How do you feel about it? Does it bother you that she is mean to him? If it does the best thing you can do is talk to her about it.  Tell her not to say a word to him.  There is a probability that she is jealous and mad at the fact that he chose you or the fact that you guys are together.  But one thing I can tell you is dont choose a man over family.  It is never worth it.......
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Why can't you still be close to your parents without dealing with your sister.  If your sister is at your parents' house, then just don't go over there.  If she comes over while you are there, then pack up your kids and leave.  If her oldest child is mean to your youngest child, grab her oldest child and tell her to stop.  You're sister and her kids will only do what you let them get away with.  You can't change how your sister behaves or how she raises her children, but you don't need to let her stress you out either.  And nobody is forcing you to spend time around her.  If you want to spend time with your parents, do it when your sister isn't there.
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It sounds like your sister has already given up on her relationship with her husband if she is openly talking to you about this other guy.  I would sit her down and tell her that she should try to find out what happened in her own relationship to make her so unhappy and get counseling.  Tell her if she decides to divorce it will be harder to split assets with a house together.  It isn't your place to tell her husband although you feel you should.  It would never end well for you.  Tell her how bad it makes you fell that she is deceiving her husband.  If things are so bad she should get a divorce first and look for another man second.  Maybe you could tell her that if she doesn't tell him before they buy a house together you will.(Even if you won't)  Maybe that will make her think twice and she will either tell him or not tell you the dirty details from now on.  Good Luck
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She hasn't called u cuz she's avoidin u.  N thats not a bestfriend, bf don't bail out on any situation. She has no concern for u n your family now that she has a place.  n her boyfriend stayed with her, i'm sorry but sounds like they took advantage of your hospitality, giving them both a place to stay. If she's a real bf she'll find a way to get her half n help out.  You r a good friend to her, u might have to reconsider your friendship. Hope things work out for u n family.
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i am sure your brother knows she is a jealous controlling woman.  He just thinks he can't find another woman.  First get yourself plenty of girlfriends and have him come over to fix something at your place, then have them make a move on him. find him a job so he can rebuilt his confidence.  i can only tell you what people have done, i do not condome revenge. Post her picture on paper flyers printed from your computer and have her number on it. put it in bathroom walls of men restrooms. the post should read I am a xxx so please call me and tell me that i am....next get a calling card and use it on a payphone. have your girlfriends call her and tell her things. when you visit so they will not know it is you.... order pizza to her job or place and give her name. so they will ban her from recieving pizza from that place when she makes them deliver and loose money..... call mental institutions and ask them to send you literature to your home address for your personal problem, such as drug offender, prostition, depression and give her name and address instead of yours, call from a payphone so it wont come back to you...call the school where your child goes and cuss at the nurse or the secretary and give her childs name and her name and ask to hold meeting with the princilpe and ask for a confirmation letter send to her address and use her name, when she fails to attend , they will loose faith in her....
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The only thing I can tell you is to stay away from this chick. she still has feelings for your husband and is using any means she can to try to cause trouble. she is the immature one carrying on like that. I understand if you're trying to respect her because she has your husband's kid. you don't have to deal with her just ignore her and don't let anything she say or do get you upset it's expected behavior of a jealous childish person.