I used to sleep lightly enough that if you wee in the same room and spoke softly, I'd wake up. Now when I sleep, it's all I can do to wake up. I have a nearly 12 month old baby, and a 9 year old who sleeps the same way I do. I'm worried that if my husband had to leave overnight and there was a fire he'd come home to find no home and no family. I hate to admit it, but I can sleep through just about anything. If anyone has any advice for me, it would be greatly appreciated. thanks.
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I also can sleep through any thing and I mean anything!But when my wife goes away I hear everything.I can hear the kids get outta bed ,the whole shot.When she leaves some thing must tell me "well its up to you now "and I hear everything.When I know someone else is around for back up I sleep like a log, Snoring and all!!
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Your husband seems to be on a second shift work schedule. There is nothing wrong with him. But when he comes home from work he isn't ready to go straight to bed. He needs time to wind down. And by that time it could be 1 or 2 in the morning. This is very normal for someone who works any shift other than first. \nPeople who don't work, or work first shift can not understand someone who works second or third shift. It's not the same amount of sleep nor is it the same quality of sleep. \nDon't worry he is fine....
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You gotta ask yourself now...is he the type of guy you want to raise your child?  The child comes first from now on.  I don't know him but from what you've said it doesn't sound like he should be raising children if he's sleeping with children.
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As you age sleep needs change. You didn't mention your age, but five to six hours is considered normal during the retirement years. \n\nAs far as how it impacts your body, when my husband and I have hit stretches of sleep deprivation (job, kids, etc), I noticed the following physical and mental changes in both of us:\n\nThe most obvious one is that we often felt intensely sleepy and longed to be able to go lie down.\n\ncalf muscle and the muscles on the soles of feet tended to want to cramp at the slightest movement.\n\nWhen laying down on the bed it felt as if the bed was moving in rhythm with heartbeat. It was almost as if the heart was beating slow but tremendously powerful beats, enough to move the bed.\n\nIncredible mental confussion and microsleeping in the middle of the day. Microsleeping is when you suddenly realize you are missing conscious time. That could be anywhere from seconds to several minutes. Your eyes will typically stay open and you may even be able to perform a task that you do often, but you are not consciously engaged. Once I suddenly realized I was driving and I didn't know where I was heading and only vaguely remembered even getting into the car and didn't remeber any of the drive between those two points. After about 10 seconds, I was able to make myself remember and knew I was heading to a baby well check up. That really scared me! I was afraid to drive the kids anywhere after that for a while.\n\nImmune system suppression. You can get sick much easier than normal.\n\nNot as emotionally stable as normal. I cried very easily. Some people are more irritible than normal.
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How wonderful that you and your wife have adopted a daughter! Congratulations! Perhaps you should tell you wife you're a light sleeper and you sleep better on the couch. And that your rest is very important to you as you don't want to suffer from lack of it and your goal is to get a bigger house so you can once again enjoy sleeping her.
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Hey, that's a good question. I'm pregnant too and I'm the same way. I don't like having sex very much anymore either, I'm never in the mood. As a matter of fact, I don't even really like cuddling! Our horomones are very messed up right now, it's not us, I've already asked about this. Don't fret, and try to explain that to him.
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the fact that your husband is that controlling is kind of scary i must say....what happens if you leave the house anyway? i mean are you scared of him?   ......that is disturbing....you should go and do what is healthy for you and your baby....**** your husband if he is endanging the health of you and your baby
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I'm sorry to hear this, and think that management is quite inconsiderate for doing it in such a way.\n\nNo, I don't think anyone can go to sleep as soon as they get home--need time to unwind.  You'll probably wind up with little, if any, sleep.\n\nAgain, I'm sorry.
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You might need to right your wrongs.  It may mean accepting the consequences, but this too shall pass.  I sometimes replay the day over and over in my head and am not able to sleep.  As well as often times I wake early (sometimes as early as 2a.m.) in the morning when my husband leaves for work and I start thinking of the activities of the day ahead.  I am a Christian so I pray, and most often times that helps.
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I am a father and I have large family. The first think I do is to retreat in my privet room and stay there for sometime alone. I need this time to re-energize. You did not ask what the second thing I do so I will not answer. LOL
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I think this is a good paragraph! \nI'll do my best and see if this would be what your looking for, though not much difference I don't think. This is sort of repeating what you say but different wording\n\nNew moms often sleep poorly, wheither their children sleep well or not. Even adults who have no children, they have the threat of being awakened, which causes them to disrupt their own sleep. The threats trigger a syndrome which what experts call an on-call syndrome. It's named after a fitful sleep that afflicts emergency workers, medical students, and doctors. These people who have those certain jobs loose about 1 1/2 hours of sleep when they are on call or not.
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Sounds like you need to examine your own lifestyle. All this bed hopping hasn't exactly worked, has it? Think it through. Your son has been through a lot, granted. But WHY has he been placed in that position? Take control of your life and learn from your mistakes.
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We have a lot more time at night after my daughter goes to sleep ... so I love the sex right before bedtime... plus we both get to let out all of our stress that has built up throughout the day.\n\nBut waking up with a nice hard d!ck rubbing up against your @ss always makes me horney in the morning... haha... my man likes to spoon !
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I have had to go out of town for a few days leaving the kids with my husband.  He thought he could do it just fine.  When I came home he just hugged me and said "how in the hell do you do it??"  I just laughed at him.  he never took my job for granted again.  Now when he gets home he cooks and lets me sit and relax because he knows I am exhausted.\n\nSo to answer your question, I say go out of town for a few days and see what he says when you get home.  This is something that they cant understand till they are in your shoes.
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Depends on the circumstances. My husband and I have an 18 month old so as soon as our son falls asleep (nap times included) I normally let him know that little monster is tucked away.  Some days I'm more subtle, like a few soft kisses after I've turned off the T.V.  Others I'm more direct, like walking into our bedroom in something sexy or maybe nothing at all.  Fortunately my husband loves making love as much as I do, so it doesn't take much for him to get the hint.
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well -- how about i tell you what i do and maybe you'll get some ideas.... i'm a nurse that had a baby and wanted to stay home with him instead of putting him in daycare. my husband didn't want the loss of my paycheck and gave me a lot of grief about going back to work but ALSO expected me to do all the "real" parenting, house cleaning, cooking, etc. i told him if i went back to work that he would have to split everything 50/50 and he agreed. i told him the very first day he didn't do one of "his" new split duties i would quit my job on the spot.... as in if it's his turn to change a diaper and he didn't do it -- i wouldn't go back to work the next day because i'm not going to be walked on like that...if i'm a homemaker, then i'm a homemaker...if i'm a nurse, then that's what i'm going to be and he can hire a housekeeper, cook and nanny. he agreed to split the job duties.....well, a couple of days before i was going to start a new job, i started him out on the split duties....needless to say....i'm now a very happy stay-at-home mom. i keep the house, cook dinner and take care of my son. as far as your concern about him wanting you to answer your phone right away...that's controlling behavior. remind him you're an adult and tell him where he can stick it next time he gets mad. then quit your job.   :)
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It sounds like it's pretty much routine with him...schedule this naptime into your plans and know this is a given...stop letting it bother you and work with it.  Some people just need to nap, it's their body's way of functioning properly.  He could also be suffering from sleep apnea at night and is not getting a good night's sleep.  Allow him his nap time...and lovingly wake him up by kissing him or snuggling with him.  This is not the worst thing a wife has ever contended with...at least it's something that can be worked around.