i have a girl friend, and i smoke. (not arround her) and she knows it do you think i should quit or keep going.
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Switch to a pipe and see if she likes that.
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My mom smoked to and yesterday was her 20-day not smoking anniversary and she stopped like this:\nshe ate more so she wouldn't have the desire to smoke\nwe encouraged her everyday and promised a party for a whole month of not smoking\nwe didn't give her a chance to smoke\nand she saw me when she smoked and saw that every time I was coughing because I REALLY don't like that smoke...
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I used to smoke, the only way that I did it was pure willpower and mind over matter.  You can do anything that you set your mind to, if you truly want it bad enough.  So, go over again the reasons why you want to stop smoking, is it for yourself or for someone else?  If it is for yourself, then you are already half way there.  Also, while you are trying to quit, don't put yourself into situations or environments where you are going to be tempted to smoke because other people are smoking.  Last but not least, make sure you have the support of your friends and family.  If you are trying to stop smoking, others should respect this and not smoke around you.
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Give her your stash and parapheallia.  Then ask her for whatever you need for a smoke.  She will see that you have cut down, and maybe you can arrange with her to help you quit.\n\nReal people don't need drugs.  Just losers!
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F*uck man - so long as you use responsibly, its no problem.  Smoke on Friday and Saturday nights, then leave it alone - you'll be fine
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Hehehehehehehe :D My boyfriend smokes, and keeps trying to give up, perhaps that will encourage him more.
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They are much nicer to you this time around and tend to apreciate you more than  last year then that is a change in behavior for the better. Quitting smoking is hard, but lying about it is also not going to work.\n   You might have to compromise if you want to keep the relationship. The first thing you should do is let this person know that you are aware that they are trying and that you know that they are still smoking. Tell them they lying and sneaking bothers you and see if you can do anything to help them keep their promise. A lot of times your significant other won't be able to change who they are no matter what they intend to do.\n  If something isnt working in a relationship then something just isn't working and you may feel its time to move on.
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No.  If you keep smoking, even if you find a solution, it won't last.
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Straight facts might work, but more likely you'll have to combine facts with an appeal to her emotions (e.g. tell her how much you love her and how you will help her quit if she chooses to).\n\nIf she doesn't want to quit, it will likely be difficult, but it can be done. Take it slow; don't rush the process. It takes time and patience to convince someone to do something they don't initially want to do.\n\nI'll pray for you.\n\nIf she quits, thank God.\nIf she doesn't, blame me.
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Firstly, good job on quitting smoking! I've never smoked, but I know how hard it must be to stop, since I've had 2 relatives who've smoked, and they've tried several times to quit but were unsuccessful.\n\nSecondly, I have never smoked, so there's nothing for me to quit. But good job to you!! And good idea on getting it off your mind!\n\nThirdly, I think you should watch the movie "Thank you for smoking" as a reward this week. It's a very funny movie about the people behind Firearms, Cigarettes, and Alcohol. They only show it in select areas, so check your area (movietickets.com is a good site) to see if they're showing it.\n\nI think with your enthusiasm you'd love it.\n\nOnce again, good job on quitting!!! \n\n< 33 Ana
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Well as it stands I see alot of issues on both sides. My answer may have a conflicting opinion but I will try to be honest and as helpful as possible. \n\nFirst, all guys talk with their friends about problems as I am quite sure girls do also. Now the only problem is if your guys friends are responsible adults or just being plain selfish. A true friend will try to give advice thats honest, people you "hang out" with will say whatever they need to to allow the party to keep on rolling.\n\nSecond, this may sting a bit but...guys in general do not pay attention to the same kind of things that girls do. A 4 month anni to a guy is a minor blip in life not worth mentioning in most cases. Obviously it is a larger deal for you and therefore to be attentitive to your needs he should acknowledge this as a semi-special day. Though,  I would not hold my breath.\n\nAs far as drugs and alcohol is concerned your boyfriend really needs to want to quit them on his own...not with your influence starting this urge. If he truly wants to stop then that is fine but if not your setting you both up for some serious pitfalls. I smoke and my wife hates it but we have made mid ground arrangements. I smoke outside and not in the house where it will effect both our space. You may not drink and may not like it but that doesn't mean that he shold feel the same way so long as it is not having a negative impact on his funcionality and responsability as an adult.\n\nIt really depends on how your new boyfriend percieves your relationship with your ex's and that is something that also involves alot of trust. In a 4 month relationship it is hard to tell how how comfortable anyone can be. This is something you really need to discuss with your boyfirend to see how he truly feels.\n\nYou both sound young indeed maybe early to mid 20's. It may just take time and alot of patience on both your parts to come a comfortable mid-way meeting ground. Remember it takes sacrifice, communication, patience and alot of work on both parts to make it work. \n\nKeep yer chin up!
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I wish u loose ur job for smoking weed. I wish u get caught everytime u smoke weed, joint, crack or whatever. I hope the worst for u man only then u can be strong enough to bounce back and cleanup ur act. Smoking Weed is so stupid.
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Talk to him. A couple of ciggaretts shouldnt ruin a relationship. just tell him to quit smoking or quit you. he will make the right choice.
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Yes. Very much so. And I'm a smoker. I do not smoke in public, around children, or around pregnant women. It is MY choice alone to die of cancer. Not theirs. I do not defend smokers in ANY way. Smoking is a dangerous habit that I wish I could control and quit. Unfortunately, I can't seem to stop. I've been a smoker for 18 yrs. and I will NEVER tell another human being to deal with MY habit in public because I have the right to smoke. They have more of a right to breath and to live with out being wrongly affected by me. I smoke in the privacy of my own home. I apologize for those smokers who do not get it, that WE are the offenders. Keep it up guys...maybe smoking will be banned.
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I'm a smoker, but I understand your concern. I also have an eight month old daughter. Although I know the effects of second hand smoke on her, and the possible health risks for my self, I am simply addicted to smoking. I used to be addicted to other things so I tell myself that I am doing the best that I can. Understand if you can that your mom loves you and is probably addicted to smoking herself. Unfortunately addiction is such a powerful thing that it takes precedence over how much you love others, yourself, or God. Try writing a letter to your mom with your feelings and concerns and put it in a loving card or give it to her with a flower.  It probably won't get her to stop smoking, but it will most likely open the door for the two of you to talk about it.
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You keep doing this to yourself like most of us do, we think that this visit will change her/his mind.  You are right though, it isn't going to happen.  I think that right now some of things that help me are focusing on others.  I chose to volunteer on days that seem to be the hardest on me.  I forced myself to do things that I blew off while I was in this toxic relationship.  I blew off my friends, I didn't give my 100% to my job, family etc.  You need to do things now that you really enjoy that did not involve your ex.  You really need to stop visiting your ex.  If you were a recovering alcoholic, would you go to a bar? If you were trying to stop smoking, would you go hang out in a smoky bar?  STOP seeing her.  You are so right about going out to find someone else. Right now all that would be is destructive.  If that didn't pan out, you would be heaping more hurt on top of this hurt.  I don't know what you can do to keep her off your mind.  I still haven't found the answer to that one.  I don't know if that is possible.  All I know that you should keep yourself busy doing things that are productive for you and others.  First things first, quit seeing her. Cut all ties.  This is the only way the healing will begin. Good luck.
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this is a bit rude and i mean no offence if any is caused\n\n\n\n\n\n\n\n\nwhat do you do if your girlfriend starts smoking\n\nslow down and use a lubricant