I am at a crossroads. I have a boyfriend who I like a lot, but he is a long way away.( over 15 gours) We only see each other every month. Then there is this other guy who recently started working at the same place that I do. He is also in a relationship. I like him a lot and we have been hanging out for the last couple of weeeks just as friends. I like him a lot and I know that he feels the same, but neither of us knows how to end the other relationship. I dont want to jump from one relationship to another, but I really like this guy. What should I do, should I break up with my BF and jsut see where this goes.
133696
Having an affair with someone who works at your office is one of the fastest ways to utterly, completely destroy your life.
278575
You need to be honest to the guy you are with and let him go don't lie to him, if you say you love the other guy then go with him, it is obvious you know what you want, don't waste you time and his time by staying with him knowing you do not love him, I hope you make a decision soon. Good Luck
527201
Okay; I'm gonna put this plain and simple.\n\nBreak up with your boyfriend, but not to go out with the other guy. Don't go out with either one of them. If you're having thoughts or feelings of attraction for someone other than your companion, you're not ready for a committed relationship. Sure; it's fine to go on dates with both of them occasionally, but don't steady-date either of them for now. Wait until your feelings remain constant for one individual; then if you think it's the right time, see if you can progress that relationship further. That's my opinion. Hope it helped.
327766
Okay...not cool to make a move on someone with a boyfriend, so just ride out this situation until she's done with him.\n\nI am much older than you, and I was recently attracted (attraction was mutual) to someone who disappeared after I voiced my attraction.  I think it was sort of what your situation is, he's not going to act on it and the potential is dying on the vine.  I don't understand not going for it.  When you are young, you do hear that "many fish in the sea" thing, but it's really not true.  There are very few people who can ignite you on more than one cylander at once, and that is why I acted on my feelings.  I know it was mutual.  I don't know why he shrunk away, but I have to respect that the way you have to respect the fact this girl has a boyfriend now.\n\nShe will most likely break up with this person at some point because that is the nature of young relationships, so when you get that chance again, go for it.  And in the future, go for it, too.  I am sad that my thing didn't work out, but not as sad as i would have been if I had just never said anything.  \n\ngood luck!
240451
Relationships are a "two way street" HOWEVER, if it is important to you, YOU may need to put forth the effort to pursue the relationship.  Why is the other person responsible for not continuing the relationship? Maybe you need to examine why the other persons aren't responding. Are there health problems? Are they too busy? Is the relationship not really what you thought it was? Have you drifted apart?\n\nAsk your friends why you only seem or hear from them is when you call. Maybe the relationship isn't as important to them as it is to you?????\n\nMaybe you need to find new friends with similar interests. Join a church, book club, community center, gym.....take a class.....do what interests you and you will find others who share your interests.
156514
If he's worth it, do it. My boyfriend lives 3 hours away from me and we're only able to see eachother once a month (maybe twice). If I didn't like him as much as I do, it wouldn't be worth it. I won't lie, it's hard. But I feel like our relationship is strong enough to get through the times we can't see each other. It also depends on how old you are. If you're too young to be able to drive yourselves to see each other, it's probably not the best idea since it'll make it harder. But if you really like this guy and you think it's worth having someone 3 hours away, rather than 3 minutes, do it. Sometimes long distance relationships help you to get to know each other better. When you're not together, you can only talk to each other. You don't have the physical stuff (even if that stuff is fun) to distract you. You have this opportunity to get to know each other very well.
91604
I've gone out with 5 guys all together and the fifth is my soul mate.  With the other four, I rushed into the relationship because I felt no one cared about me.  I didn't want to be left out so when they showed any interest I was hooked.  When I met my current boyfriend, I decided I would take things slow and be very cautious.  We've been together for two years.  We've been through A LOT of trying times and are still as much in love as the day we met.
208168
First, you need to be fair to your bf of right now. If you don't want to be with him, let him know and end the relationship. Don't keep him because you don't want to be without a bf. Then once you are single, pursue the guy you like. Start off be finding out more about him (not stalking) by asking him about himself. See if you share intersts and then just ask him to do something that you both like to do. Or just ask him out for coffee or something very casual so that there isn't pressure and just get to know each other. If something is there, the spark will ignite.
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I would definitely rather have a loving boyfriend who would always be there for me.  The later would probably be very lonely, as you would not have as deep or as close of a bond with multiple men. But everyone is different!\nIf you're asking this question because you are doubting your own relationship, then I suggest you think long and hard about the situation as a whole.  No one else can tell you what to do in a situation like this, as you probably already have your mind made up.
37559
If it were me, I would tell them both that their friendship is more important to you right now and try to explaine that you might not be ready for a stead relationship at this time. That way you're not having to choose and possibly breaking up what the 3 of you have right now. Sometimes the best things are the hardest to do, because it's almost certain you will lose 1 if not both if you choose.
113784
Well, I think you should ask for his opinion. Just carry on for a lil while, and if you both find that you cannot bear the circumstance any longer then maybe breaking up is good for both of you. At least you don't have to worry too much about meeting each other and the distance either.\nBut if you two (esp. him) feel that you can still carry on, and that the love is true and strong enough to help you overcome this obstacle, then just stand beside him and fight for it. Happiness just worths its name if it is gained from challenges and hardship. Nothing valuable is easy to get my dear : )\n\nStand firm, and if you two have the same idea, then just go with it, whatever it might be...
13690
No offense or anything, but don't be a gold digger in this case... look deep in your heart and decide what's best for you.  \n\nHave even thought about just staying single???? Instead of having a boyfriend, stay single and enjoy dates with people and then decide on who you want based on the needs and desires you are looking for.  Money is a good thing, but as they say, money doesn't buy you love.\n\nSecondly, be forewarned...it's always good at the start of the relationship where they pay lots of attention to you, but after awhile things will change, and you be sitting there wondering why I ever left that last guy I was with.\n\nFollow your heart.  If you have to break up with him, just have a chat with him and explain that you feel that you are not meant for him and that you should go your seperate ways.  Say thanks for all the good times, but right now, you need time to think about things.  It's nice and you don't let him know about the other guy your interested in, becuase that would destroy him.
365479
the fact that you are looking at another suggests that you are not really with your man anymore and the best thing to do for both of you is end it.\n\nwhat happens with the other guy is irrelevant with regards to your situation with bf.\n\nif you should finish with bf and then get with other guy then cool but you must not think about this until you have sorted it out with bf.
359891
dont be so push and selfish, the man does not want to commit yet, \nbut then again you feel that you are going nowhere you love him but then you are not happy with that kind of situation, so i suggest move on to the other guy,test the waters see if you can be happy with him,you and the first guy you seem to be going nowhere find someone who makes you happy,and someone who is complete when he is with you,no need to get stuck with the first guy set him free, and let him set you free
226410
I'm sorry, you are in a tough situation.  Sometimes guys grow out of that cheating thing when they get older.  Some don't.  If you are happy in your present relationship, then focus on that.  If you have doubts, then maybe give your ex another chance, if you think he really loves you.  It sounds like he does, but it was hard for him to commit at such a young age.  I might give him another chance....but not at the expense of your current relationship.  Try to think about which person you feel you are better with.  Who makes you happier?  Who makes you feel good about yourself and life in general?  Who is nicer to you?  Who is the most responsible?  Think about it.  Again, sorry, relationship questions are the worst.
130806
Step back, look at this situation, is this really how you want the rest of your life to be? I would say walk away, no run. Don't look back just run. And on another note if you are willing to dump the current boyfriend for another guy then why waste your time with him, obviously he is not who you want, might as well get rid of him too, time to clean house back up and punt. Just a little tip from your uncle Will.
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I think you really need to take a look at your relationship and see where it is going.  Is this a guy that you think that you might want a future with?  Can you picture yourself with him for 4 more months, for another year?  What about after college?  College changes people, and that is something he hasn't experianced yet.  By just being in college, you have been thrown on an express way to maturity while he is still left behind in regulated high school life.  \n\nEvaluate your feelings for this other guy.  Where do you see them going?  Is this a fantasy of yours or can you really see yourself with him?  \n\nBreaking up with a bf is not the end of the world.  If you don't think things will work out with him, than there is nothing wrong with moving on.  People usually do not meet who their will marry or be with for a long time until later in life, so you don't think that by breaking up with your bf, you will be an old maid.  If you guys are on a break, then take advantage of your break and see what else is out there.  Maybe it will help you appreciate each other more or maybe you can find something else out there for you.\nBest of luck!