I met two girls in the last four months that I was interested in dating. Both of these girls got along with me really well. We spent time together. One of them I spent time with alone working on a project from 11 PM till 4 AM. We talked about all kinds of things. In both cases, I wind up holding bags for them and being called a brother. Why can't they see the fact that I liked them? Is it my fault that I end up mere friends with them? Thanks for any advice, and please be blunt and honest with your assessment. I want the truth no matter what it sounds like.
129065
You are a f****** p****.  Stop being a nice guy . . . because of you being a nice guys those b****** are walking all over you and you will get nothing.  I bet you are even taking them shopping, buying them dinner, and taking them to movies, etc. . . right.  They are using your dumb a**.\n\nYou have been labeled as a friend or a brother . . . by them . . . you will never get a little something - something.  You see once you received that label . . . you will never get that moved into the lovers category.  \n\nYou act like a friend . . . than a lover.  I bet they even talk to you about their sex life.  About the a**holes and jerks they date and give it up to.  Are you understanding where I am getting at . . . you need to get in touch with your inner a*hole . . . start acting like a jerk . . . stop being reliable and buddy/buddy with them.\n\nHere is something I want you to listen too . . . Monday through Friday between 3-7pm Pacific Time.\n\nhttp://tuner1.dc1.sonixtream.com/solon/media/tuner/Tuner?aff=fmtalki&useSame=true&type=IE\n\nThis is a radio talk show that talks about the issues MEN really care about . . . teaches guys how to get more tail for less money . . . and also teaches girls how men think.\n\nYou need to change your life . . . because right now . . . you have no balls.\n\nI am being blunt as you requested . . . maybe this kick in the a** will help you.
483529
Hi, \nSounds good for you. But you got to be careful. I'm sure that they are good friends with you, but you need to be cautious of your modesty especially in the time of the night. Sometimes guys can over do it and resulting in bad things happening for the girl. You try to be the boss there and control what they do to you. Set a limit and make sure that they understand that they dont cross that limit.\n\nAlso, you are on a date.. You may or may not be with that guy/guys for a long time. If for instance, those guys stop being interested in you, who is gonna be agonized? Its you...its you who is gonna live with the fact that guys touched you and used you. I dont really want any girl to go through that agony,cos I love my mom and my sister.\n\nSo,yeah! set a limit even though you enjoy it. I'm sure you are very young...but you've got to look at your future..\n\nBless you..\n\nwww.jerrickson.com
320530
This is just my opinion but I don't think a true friend would be mean to me just to impress another girl. And I think you are focusing too much on the fact that he was with another girl and not so much on the way you were treated.  You deserve respect and I think you need to surround yourself with people who will treat you right and will be true friends. Good luck hun!
155778
I don't think anybody else can really help you with this, brotha. It's all based on the decision you make. My advice is if you're digging her, go for her. If you want to be a jerk, go for everybody else. It's not that I'm calling you a jerk, but how do you think she would feel about the whole thing?
279320
WOW.  I feel that same way right about a girl.  I never told her though.  Now I regret that and am trying to contact her.  I think about her constantly.  She meant so much to me and I wish she would know that.  She is smart, nice, caring, and so beautiful.  She is my dream girl in reality.  Seriously.  We didn't talk that much (I'm kinda shy) but when we did, they were unforgettable.  I can tell you exactly what she said each conversation.  I like her so much.  I've had girlfriends, but she is totally different.  I really want to go out with her.  I gotta find her.  Well that's my story.  Hope you like it.
74158
Yes, because guys do not know if you like them or not.  I can never read girls right; when I think that they like me, how wrong am I!  I wish girls would be more open about their feelings, instead of playing hard to get.
655247
I don't see anything wrong with that.  Does your current girlfriend have a problem with it?  If she does,  surely she knew prior to becoming your girlfriend that you mainly had female friends.  I am a female who has very little female friends.  I don't get along with women very well.  I get along better with males.  I make sure that anyone I get involved with understands that my friends were in my life long before my boyfriends.
55532
Only time will tell. A while back my best friend went behind my back and lied to me about dating my older brother, later finding out the reason she kept it a secret was because she was cheating on him with a guy from school. We didn't speak for awhile, nearly six months, but when she was dealing with a big emotional problem the only person she knew would understand and not judge her was me. And so she explained her problem and since we had such a long history and prior good friendship I couldn't turn my back on her and to this day we are still very good friends and now even our daughters are all friends and like to play together even if they are only between the ages of 1 month and three years.
75800
If this second guy was only after her but they never got together, whats the big deal. She obviously didnt like him then or they would have gotten together so i cant see anything stopping you from bein with him or tryin it on with him. Your not goin to hurt her...You didnt say if she's with this guy you fancied first but if she is, you've def nothing to worry bout!
315937
I bet you and I know that no one can give a definite answer to your question since not all girls think alike. It all comes down to what kind of person she is, how long have you known her, etc.\n\nYou need to know her well to determine whether she does have feelings for you or was her advances towards you merely shows that she's being friendly or otherwise. Is she a social kind of person? Does she have a lot of admires? Is she the shy type of girl? Have she ever done this towards her other male friends? All these you need to take into evaluation.\n\nHow often does she sees her boyfriend? Is there any rift going on between them? Does she seem to have any problem with him? Would her advances towards you mean she's regarding you as her platonic boyfriend? You need to know her well in order to understand this body contact you've experienced with her.\n\nI admit that I've done those kind of advances towards my male friends before but only to those whom I regard as close friends and those whom I acknowledge like a brother to me however, I take care not to give them any wrong impression. On the other hand, there were those who regarded my advances as interest. For your information, I've done that to my boyfriend as well.\n\nAs I have said earlier, it is hard to tell whether her advances signifies her interest in you. Try evaluating the questions I gave you. They might clear up your dilemma.\n\nHope you'll find your answer soon.
121706
As long as you make your time with her romantic, you don't need to be in any rush to be sexual with her and you can still avoid the "You remind me of my brother" comments. Just make sure when you guys are together it is obvious that you are not her brother, not just her best guy friend.. as long as you keep that at bay you can take as long as you need to be intimate with her.
507883
You obviously have an awesomely amazing friendship. Girls seem to be more in tune, with one another...in comparrison to guys being in tune with girls. I can see how this attraction came to be. I'm sure its been quit awkward. If the two of you don't want to loose your friendship, you should try and discuss the issue. Perhaps you could get her a card, or something light...that lets her know, that whatever happens, you will always be there for her. You could talk about your attraction to one another...and find out if it was just curiousity or if it involves more. Regardless, let her know, that you will always be her friend. No matter what. She is probably just as shocked as you. I've always believed that women could relate to women on a more "natural" level...you've both got in you you...you both owe it to yourselves to get to the bottom of this. I wish you the best. I'm sure it will be a Halloween to remember!
199515
by not disrespecting another sister.  getting your own man and remembering what goes around comes around.  Why would you want to do that? We have such a serious problem with the whole cheating thing going on, that people are starting to think that it's ok, to the point of actually asking people on Yahoo.  I'm not trying to be disrespectful or condescending.  But shouldn't you give this young lady your utmost respect, (even if you don't know her), since you know this guy has a girlfriend. And "No", it doesn't matter to me if he likes you back.  You should be doing the sister a favor and pointing him right back in the direction of his girlfriend.
132164
i'm sorry to say, i am also not in your age group. but what your doing is great, as for those relationships, you truly are better off, i dont know what kinda girls your dating, but girls down where i live would KILL to meet guys like you. so just keep your head up high, and dont be asamed for who you are. once again i'm sorry i'm not in your age group
109441
I think its awesome. I know for a fact that I've missed out on many great opportunities simply because I did not think the girl was interested in me. Or even worse, I was too worried about being rejected. My wife of 10 years persued me. I never even knew she felt like that about me. Just think, if she never made "the move" we would probably not be so happy together right now. I say go for it. It was perfectly fine back then and its more acceptable now.
556301
you sound great! i don't know why they're such jerks...i like guys who are just friends...i'm not into that bf/gf stuff yet (i'm a teen!) i like guys who respect themselves...you sound AWESOME!!! i'm sorry that people say that kind of stuff :(
367958
You are young, and so are the girls you are interested in.  Right now they are going for the fun types, not the settling down types.  It might not be what you want to hear, but in love, patience is a virtue and when they are tired of being treated like **** they will notice you and it will be a war for your attention.