I've known her for a while and always kinda had liked her. She left for about a year to live in another state and just recently came back and started working with me again. I do really like her and everything but I didnt want her to find out like this, especially since she has a B/F... even though she keeps hinting that she likes me and it doesnt seem like they have a great relationship anyway... \n\nSo do I bring it up and say it was nothing... say I was joking... never say anything about it again and avoid her... or do I just tell her that it was the truth and see what happens when I'm sober?
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Well...first see how she feels on the subject...if she's kinda stand off-ish, then brush it off, but if she isn't, well...see how her relationship with her b/f is and if it's in the rocks...there you go\n\ngood luck anyway
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i think you should tell her everything you told us about her.\nif she really matters to you, you need to realize that she is in pain with her current bf and she need to get out of thatcurrent relationship. most girls need that push. tellher that you will love her and take care of her and she will have nothing to worry about when she is with you. if she is as wonderful as you say then you musy have intense feelings for her. just go for it. it sounds like she likes you to me. good luck and tell me if everything works out.
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I suggest that you 'clear the air' straight away. First off say she looks great. Then tell her you enjoyed your fling but your not looking for a serious relationship right now. Then talk about some mutual interest to get normal conversation going. Good luck!
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yea but i don't feelings for that guy so, i pretend nothing had happened.but you should give it a try.if you tell her, you'll have at least 50% of the chance.if you don't, it will be a 0% chance.
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I think she's trying to be bold.She wants you but you are too shy to tell her what you feel.Anyway,my thought is that u shouldn't tell her about any girl anymore if u really like her.Women will always be jealous.They are created like that.Even men are also jealous but its more pronounced in women.This "co-worker" of yours is showing you that she likes you and she does not want any girl in your mind except her.So,if u wanna play along,best of luck!But do not step on her toes anymore.....
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"How can I politely tell this girl that it isn't working out and that I am no longer interestd in her?"\nYou're doing a great job already... Tell her exactly what you've told us. She'll probably be hurt, but that's life. At least she'll understand why you guys aren't working out and she can work on it in her next relationship.
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You are right it wouldn't be fair to take her knowing what you now know. Tell her you are sorry but you just don't think of her 'like that' but she as has been such a good friend it is only fair to say it right out. \nOff course you could end up dateless then what will you do?
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I think that as she is your friend you should make up, you were both drunk and she is your mate.\n\nI reckon that the two should meet up and talk about this tell her that she is your mate an nothing will ever come between the two of you, but you also have other friends as well, and while you accept the fact that she doesn't like the guy you were chatting with. You are not going to stop talking to him, and as she is a friend she shouldn't expect you to.\n\nMake up with her as good friends are hard to find, and maybe the two of you should consider going into your local and apologising
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I have learned straight forward honesty is the best thing in a situation such as this. That way there won't be any misconceptions in what you are telling her. It may shock or even hurt her feelings, but if you don't care to be friends let her know. Good luck.\n\nEagleman
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Hi there.\n\nAsking questions isn't any sin. It shows plainly that you really would like to get to know her better. Since I'm already aware of your situation with this particular girl, I think, by now, you should have sincerely told her about your feelings towards her.\n\nYou don't have to worry about what she might think about you. I can guess that if she really likes you, she will most definitely enlighten you with the fact that she HAS feelings for you too. If, by chance, our speculation about her having feelings for you were a myth, then the worst thing that she would do is reject you politely.\n\nHere's the thing; don't go up to her and straight away ask, "Do you have feelings for me?" or any of that sort of query. This might tick her off as you would sound really pathetic. I felt the same way when a guy misjudged my friendly gestures as interest towards him when he demanded to know point blank whether or not I have the hots for him. I mannerly told him that I regarded him only as a friend and explained the fact that my gestures had only friendly intentions. He and I are friends till now.\n\nIn a way, I think you could dig up your courage deep within to tell her how you feel. And like I said before, she will tell you if she feels the same way or vice versa. Whatever the response she might give you, make sure everlasting friendship remains in your bond with her.\n\nBefore I leave you to ponder about the things I have shared, I'd like you to remember that friendship often ends with love, but love ending in friendship, with certainty, rarely happens.\n\nI hope this helps.
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as far as finding out if she likes you i would suggest that you talk to her and if all else fails ask her if she does like you. but personally i would let it go. if she's with her current bf simply because she doesn't want to be single then if you two actually did get together then she might be doing the same thing to you in the near future and that's just not fair to you.
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Babe ....... don't tell her just wait till she says something about it and then say it was just an experiment and it will never happen again (yeah right) ........=)
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well , get UNSHY then... go to her in private and just ask her if there is a problem... dont make a big deal of it or embarrase urself or her.. just let her know that you really wanted to take her, but if there is a problem could the 2 of you work it out.. tell her you heard rumors, dont accuse her , just tell her what you heard... if it is the dont know thing, suggest a short date, pizza, movie, or something with a few of HER freinds... keep it light and respectful...... God bless
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If she's really your friend I think you NEED to tell her what happend. Just tell exactly what he said about her that will make more sence to her.  She will be devestated but it's always best to know.  Just turn the situation around, would you like to know or would you like your friends to tell you. Plus is not the end of the world, she will lose her boyfriend that dosen't want to be with her anymore but that's why you are there for!
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Based on what you wrote, it seems like you don't want to miss out on her. So take a risk..tell her how you feel. If she is as beautiful inside as she is on the outside, she will not be mean to you. Just ask her if things are getting serious with her current boyfriend and take it from there. Get her talking about it and that will clue you in to what you should say next.
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Since things have only gone two weeks so far, now is a good time to confront HIM, not her. Since he has already told you that he only asked her out to find out if she liked him or not, then you have the right to confront him and pull him onto the carpet for his behavior. Simply telling him that if he doesn't tell her you will wouldn't be a good idea, as that is exactly what he may be hoping you'll do. It would save him the guilt of being the one to hurt your friend's feelings. Instead, let him know that you'll confront him in front of her, and remind him of exactly what he has said when he had told you the truth about why he had asked her out. That should be enough to serve him notice, and since she is supposed to be his friend as well, maybe he'll realize how much he values that friendship and come clean. If not, at least your girl friend will have a better understanding of your true intentions.\n    Holly, in response to your "personal" note, I'm afraid this situation really is an all-too-familiar senario. Best advice I can give both of you is the same. If you fear that you may be the one that was asked out just out of curiosity, the way her friend was, ask him directly. Not in an accusing frame of conversation, but instead give him an out. Ask him if he really likes you as more than a friend, or if he feels that you would be better off as friends, because you also value that friendship and wouldn't want to lose that. Friends can weather all kinds of obsticles that couples are harder pressed to survive AS a couple. \n  Good luck to both of you!
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Since you two are such good friends there should be no problems on putting it all out on the table. Ask her simply what is going on here. If she says she wants to take it to the next level great for you two. If she says sorry for the signs but i only want to be friends you can totally be cool and say Oh, good me too (lying) but wait until you are ready to say how you feel. Also, do not believe the saying about not wanting to ruin a friendship by dating becasue if you are real friend not a thing can ruin it. GOOD LUCK!!!!!!!!!!