ok,so i have been going out with him for three months,and one week(tomarrow) and i still love him,but i think the only reason he want`s to go out with me is because he know`s i will make out with him,but we haven`t made out since last tuesday(the day after both of our 14th b-days)they are on the same day,anyway,he likes this girl that i don`t like at all,and she doesn`t like me either,but he has been telling some people that he is going to break up with me for almost a week in a haf,but he keeps telling me that he loves me,he doesn`t like her,and he isn`t going to break up with me,the other day in science class,he told his friend,that he didn`t realy care about me that much,i was standing right there,i think he is just as confussed as me,but i don`t know what to do,i still love him,and i don`t want to break up with him,cuz he is realy sweet,i know,as soon as i break up with him,that he is going to go out with her(x-gf),cuz he always sits by her at lunch now instead of me!what do i do?
120113
move on darlin'!  Breaking up in a note is for little boys!
326643
talk to him. you love him whatever the decision is. i think it is important you two make up your minds first. does he want to stay with his girlfriend and why is it that the two of you always end up together. easy answer i guess. but does it make sense to give in every time you meet? do you want to progress - or do you love him and want to know better..? last but not least.. just enjoy that there's someone special like this boy in your life. guess he will be there always whatever your decision. good luck.
463452
ok let me put it this way, how would you feel if you were his girlfriend and he was holding hands, kissing and laying on another girl??? Exactly - its not very nice. And what you are doing isnt very nice. And he is weak because he cant decide between you two and allows himself to cheat when he is involved with someone else instead of being a man and breaking up. This guy would be a loser long term and you are better off without him.
548334
As hard as it is, you have to avoid getting jealous.  He's dating YOU not her.  He broke up with her and chose to date YOU.  If he really wanted to be with her, he could break up with you.  At the same time, it's probably not a bad idea to tell him that you're a little comfortable that they're still so close.  If he respects you, he'll understand and try to make you feel better.  Good luck!
551071
He is not treating you as first and only. It would be OK if he went with other guys - just - but no way if he goes with another girl (unless you are QUITE sure about her - like she was a sister or cousin or gay).\n\nI think you need to rethink this relationship and probably look for someone who actually wants to be with YOU and not just anyone.\n\nSorry - language problem: for 'goes with' read 'goes out with!
225177
From what you wrote, DON'T go out with him or even tell him you like him or anything unless you want to say goodbye to your friendship with his girlfriend forever. Find another guy. They're easy to come by.\n\n(Just follow the golden rule: would you like it if your friends hormones stole YOUR boyfriend? You would think she was seeing him even before you decided to break up. Put yourself in her position.)
632274
o  hell nawll gurl forget that sucka....he sounds like an arrogant playa if he would say some sh@t like that straight out...like your lucky to have him and should just be happy that he still talks to you...gurl you can find somebody thatll treat you good even after the chase is over, because if he treats you like a trophy after he done claimed you as his girl then what you think he gone do afta yall done had sex or spend the money up hell be gone out the door faster than you can blink....the truth is when you first meet he lied and tricked you...probably made you think that he was romantic and sensitive when really hes been taking notes form the playas handbook....most of my guy friends say they do stuff like that to make the girl feel secure so then they can get her to trust them then they hit it and leave....and you only been dating for 3 weeks i can understand his actions afta a couple om months but weeks gurl you can do much betta..trust me i hang with a lot of guys and this guy is looking out for himself an only hisself
138925
if you guys feel the same way then he should break up with her but if he doesn't you should move on cuz he is just an asshole!! you need to talk to him about how you feel and don't be the other gurl! and you also shouldn't wait cuz if he loves you he won't leave you waiting when he is with someone else that just isn't love.
447032
u said it..she is his ex which means he cant love her and the proof is that they hang out normally and that means they r friend and u said he clings to u then he likes u..try to make that turn to an affair and cling to him and if u love him really continue to the best in ur relationship and hint to him with ur love..he must reply..good luck
25662
It sounds like if he's truly understood that you're gonna break it off with him and yet he still hasn't changed his attitude, then he's probably wanting you to break it off. Maybe it's one of the whole, "I don't want to do it so I'll MAKE her do it" type things. Give him this last chance, try to go out and do something that both of you enjoy without the distraction of friends and family. Let him know that it really does bug you when he acts this way. If he still seems like he wants to hang on and will change, you decide, you go for it or maybe you've had enough. But if he's STILL acting that way by the end of the "date" call it quits. Move on to a guy who'll treat ya better! Good luck girl!
40202
Well, his message sounds so overtly loving that it really may just be a sister-like friendship.  If you've already talked to him about it to show your care, which is a good thing, how about getting to know the friend better?  After all, if she's like a sister, and you two have been dating that long, it would make sense that he'd want you and the friend to become friends, too.  He probably wants the friend to like you as much as he does and secretly get her approval.  If he gets very uncomfortable with the idea of you and the girl getting close or hanging out, maybe there's something more to worry about.  In the meantime, it might be fun to get to know her.  And honestly, if the three of you are hanging out and then your guy goes home with YOU, you'll feel that little win inside.  Also, he might talk about you to her just as much as he does about her to you, so there's a happy possibility.
495296
you have been together long enough to know what hes like and what he is capable of. dancing is just dancing. he cared about your feelings thats y he didnt go and he told you, that was his way of saying, i love you and i wont go for you if you know what i mean, even if he made you feel bad im sure he loves you. you have to stop being jealous, also its healthy for him to hang around his friends and you should go out dancing with the girls as well. see how he reacts to that. in the end, only you know what he is like. so is he trustworthy or not?
464016
He sounds like a duetschbag to me. Just move on. You don't want to get involved with someone that's going to see multiple women. Notice how he ducked out of things when you asked how he felt and obviously tried to move the relationship a little further. He's a snake. Find someone else. As for the girl, There's nothing you can really do about it. Just move on, find different people to be around.
100890
it kinda sounds like he's just using you as a rebound..like he'll still have his pride of "i still have another girl to go to" sort of thing\n\ni don't really know though, but if he liked you so much, why didn't he ask you out first instead of "i'll date you if the other date's bad"?\n\nwish you the best of luck =)
10516
I think he must be hanging out with my ex-boyfriend because he did the same thing. Only problem ... I let him get away with it for longer than I'm willing to admit. Girl, I'm sure you are so sweet, smart and better than him. Just move on. I know I should take my own advice at times.. lol. This guy is doing one of two things or two of two things. He's either 1. Terribly immature and doesn't want to appear "whipped" in front of his buddies - AKA "Bro's before Ho's theory...or 2. Cheating and trying to keep you at the same time. AKA- having his cake and eating it, too. Either way, pls dump him,go out this weekend and forget about his immature, childish, sick, evil ass. Boys like him deserve to wake up with nothing but themselves,cheap beer and their dumb buddies drooling on them.
318132
I've been in your shoes and I've been in the opposite side of your shoes. Clearly, like previously stated, this man does not know what he wants. Do you really think it's possible for a man to break up with you and change all those feelings of romance into friendship in just three days?!? He's just lonely and trying to fill the void (platoniclly, sexually, who knows), and he's probably unaware that your heart is at stake. If you want to be "friends" with someone after you've dated them, break up for real, cut contact, go about your life normally again, see other people, wait AT LEAST 3 months (maybe more), then see how you feel. A few years ago I had a gf and we went back and forth with the break-up/friend thing, and looking back it was such a waste of time. We ended up breaking up for good and we don't talk anymore. Now life is good. I have found another great girl and I don't need to be friends with my ex. After two years we've never done the break-up back and forth thing.\n\nGo after the one you love, don't waste your time and energy trying to decide if this confused guy is for you - he's obviously not. Your heart, future, family, etc. is too valuable.
120403
Well it sounds like he is still in love with her. I mean if I am seeing you and then tlaking with my ex on a regular basis then something is up. Look I have been in this situtaion before. No matter how much he denys it, the fact is that he can't let go. Let him know that he has a choice between you and that other girl. If he really cares for you then he will move one. Now I just hope that you are not doing the same. I think it is important that you both want the same in thing. And no matter what he tells you it is obvouis that he still loves her. Look the worst thing is to countue talking with someone that you were with and then deny that you have no feelings for her. I think you have a choice and it is up to you if your gonna play second place to that other girl.