he is angry with me and he thinks i was lying him that there was not a problem.What should i do to relize him i am true and console him
127813
talk to him. explain to him what went wrong. if he truly loves you, he will understand you!
419576
Obviously he's going through some hard times right now, especially  if this has scenario has never happened before.  I definitely think that he's hiding something or not telling you everything because when he got upset and gave your some BS, he was trying to shift the focus on getting angry at you instead of you finding out what was wrong with him.  Definitely give him some time and if you know him like you should, then he'll come around and tell you everything.  Tell him about your concerns and make sure to give him some space to work things out.\n\nGood luck!
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Tell him. As a woman I know how easy it is for us to get into the classic withholding information/anger/feelings behavior, and say our favorite line when queried if something is wrong, "nothing". But men aren't stupid and they always know that "nothing" means "something", so instead of playing mind games about it, be honest and tell him - honestly. The key to any relationship is honesty. I am not talking about brutal, cut-his-throat honesty, as this will only make matters worse and make the argument bigger than what it is. I am speaking of the kind of honesty where you say something like this: "I am angry with you because I feel you did not ________ or "I feel you did _______ and this offended me." The key is to add "I feel" statements, rather than "You did" statements, as the latter puts the person on the defensive, and that will create another argument, though less intense than one generated by angry, blame and attack filled words.\n\nRemain neutral and calm. This is very, very hard to do in the heat of an argument. If the timing is not right and you are still too pissed off to tell him, address it at another time. You must remain calm and measured in your tone of voice. Be neutral and don't allow yourself to get emotionally plugged in to his reaction, which may be angry or defensive. If you have to, pinch yourself in the thigh to make sure that you remain calm and listen carefully to what he has to say!  Do not, no matter how hard you want to do this, interrupt.  If you feel that you are going to explode, then you need to excuse yourself and be alone for awhile. If you feel he is going to explode, you need to do the same.\n\nBeing honest and upfront about any anger induced situation (or anything for that matter) AT THE MOMENT IT HAPPENS is also key. Or, if not at that precise moment, later on in the day or a few hours later is also fine because it is still fresh in your combined memories. You know, as I do, that women tend to put off expressing their feelings (though not all women) and we allow cumulative anger to be built up inside of us until the tops of our heads want to blow off when we get angry. When we are triggered by the proverbial last straw, we explode and what was once a teeny, tiny stupidity, becomes a volcano, overflowing with lava! Everything he has ever done to you since you first met will be drawn out in single file and used as weapons, including the time when he looked at you the wrong way when you were tired. This is not productive. This not healthy for your relationship or YOU. Stress fouls up everything and makes you sick, so deal with things calmly and rationally when they happen. And as for those 5,000,000 things he did before? Let them go. If you didn't deal with them THEN, they are moot points now.  \n\nAs an aside, I am a patient sort who lets a lot of stuff roll off my back. However, at the same time, I have a very, very long memory and a temper when I am exceedingly provoked. When my hubby used to piss me off, I'd bring out the big guns and would go on the offensive. Every thing he ever did or said to me would come out, and the original thing that bothered me got lost in the emotional insanity. Not productive. Now? I tell him what I feel. Consequently, our issues are resolved quickly - and that is a relief!
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if you did something to make him realy angry then maybe he cannot help it but to shout at you. but on the other hand if you were upset by something out of your hands and just needed a cry and he shouts at you,,then no its not ok. because he is suppose to confort you and heal your tears. at least to make things easier. try making him cry and shout in his face then see how he likes this treatment.
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girl don't bother about what they say.just go to his house and apologize about what happened and he may forgive you.and another note whatever that girl say just tell her that she's hating and that you wish that you had him and stop drinking that haterrade
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If you can't get him to listen, try dropping him a note explaining the circumstances and the misunderstanding.  If he still continues his ways after hearing your side of it, then leave him in the dust.  He is not understanding, forgiving or tolerant enough to deserve you.
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He want's you to be what you were before you argued, but he's not sure how to do that. I don't know who was wrong becasue you didn't write anything here, but I suspect he may think that you owe him a sincere apology.\n\nJust a theory. If you were wrong somehow, it's a bigger person to be able to say you are sorry.
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i would ask him what he is afaid of -- if he tells you the truth?- tell him if its nothing to worry about he should tell you everything -- the only reason for a person to lie, is usually because they have something that they don;t want you to find out, for lots of reasons, to protect you, to make sure you don't get mad, for fear of you getting so mad that you would leave   i say confront him and if he cant tell you the truth-- he dosn;t trust you-- thats my personal opinion  i have dealt with this before and ultimatly i left him-- I never got the truth out of him unless we faught then he told me and as allways it was never anything big- tis jsut the fact that he never respected me enough to confide in me--- i think its  a power trip- so they feel like they have some sort of control
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don't get mad, get even!\ntreat him how ever u want! sure, u should find a way to punish him ! use u're imagination.\n\nP.S. if u ask this question without being mad already, tells me that he doesn't mean that much to u.
494756
Be honest with him if he gets mad at least at the end he can respect the fact that you were upfront and honest. Just explain to him how you feel and tell him that you don't really want a relationship right now but you still want to be friends with him.
170004
Just ditch him, you now know he's a liar.  YOu can't have a relationship with someone who doesn't know ow or want to communicate or be honest.
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Talk to her directly. Tell her that you are not exactly pleased about her lying to you for you feel that she didn't need to lie to you because you would've let her visit Sam if she had asked. There isn't a reason for her to "fear your wrath" but she does need to know that you are somewhat disappointed with her.
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Just be straight with him.I've been in a similar situation before and my b/f was just happy that I was honest with him.He didn't get mad about the lie at all.Honesty is the best policy,no matter the consequences!
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All is not well in your home tonight....there is lying and deception going on.....and not by you. He is lying to you, and using you. Tell him to tell the truth, or get out! After he tells you the truth, then you tell him to get out, cause you ain't gonna like what he tells you. Good Luck!
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Be honest n explain your situation. Still he didn't understand means it is not your fault.Give him time to think.
338246
Try appoloigizing, and asking what you did that made him so mad at you. Were you having a bad day and something you said sounded cruel? Was HE having a bad day? Still, nothing works better than a heartfelt appoligy.
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I don't kno how 2 being be here goes. Have u ever considered that these accusations might be a reflection of wat he is doing to u? He might b the 1 that's cheating honey. Or he might jus hve trust issues and u don't want to hve anything 2 do with that, cause u'll always have 2 end up proving ur self to him and this will drive u insane. Stop hurting urself, it does u no good and i jus shows him he can control u. I kno love makes us do crazy things but i doesn't sound like this love is mutual. U are so young and i'm sure u are very beautiful so stop the damage u are doin to ur body no one deserves that. Do me a favour if u are crying now cry and cry and cry but when u stop make sure that's the last drop that u shed. Ur rela.. with this guy wasn't goin anywhere if he could accuse u and hurt u feelings with no regard. Pls go have a nice long bathe when u finish cry, will bubbles and everything. Place some cucumber on those eyes of yours. Or some used tea bags.Make sure its warm water to revonate ur skin. I kno its only 4 days ago but ur health is at stake here. U need a friend some one u can tell face to face to comfort u, u need a hug, i wish i could give u 1. U may not hve an appetite so drink lots of water. If u do want 2 eat, go hve a nice meal. Get out of ur room, and go sit in the park feel the wind on your face take a friend with u, u need some moral support, this is very imp. I kno u may not want 2 go out but i'm deeply concerned about ur physical health. \nPls don't call him this will only depress u more. He's not calling cause he never really cared that much in the first place. I can't stress enough how hard this is and the strenght that it will take 2 overcome this aspect of your life. But u are very strong, 2 be with a man like that and still come out sane. U are beautiful. Ask GOD for the strenght to overcome all this pain that u are in now. Pls don't leave this too long i would like u 2 get better. The longer u leave it the harder it'll be 2 overcome. B strong I kno u are!