(OK THIS QUESTIONS IS FOR THE MEN ONLY) I've been with my boyfriend for 6yrs. He is not a one minute man, he can go on forever. At first it was great, but now after all these years, it's not so much fun. It doesn't matter if I'm on top FOREVER, it still takes him a heck of a time. Is it me or him? And are there things that can cause this, like porn or masturbating?
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M--- usually causes the opposite problem.\n\nFirst step: Get married or stay out of his bed.\nSecond step: You on top probably enables him to go longer. Try different positions.
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No, you ain't but might be in the long hull. What happened to you is just that your bf was not able to last long enough or sustain the tempo until u climax. Also, maybe u have some fantancies which you can't reach with your bf. What I suggest you do is to try as much as you can to stop masturbating. This will affect you greatly when you get married. Focus on your future... Get a man you love and will marry. After marriage, sex will be beautiful and you'll have plenty of orgasms, ok?
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has he tried any foreplay? i have learned that foreplay is important for my wife to have a pleasurable experience. \n\nalso, distractions could definately be an issue because i am in a similar situation as you are. my wife has mentioned that she was uncomfortable with the living situation so its hard for her to "be herself" at times...i have learned that the atmosphere has to be just right  for a woman.
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If he is longer than your previous partners it could just be that he is hitting against your cervix hard and causing you pain.  They do say there is a fine line between pain and pleasure and this is the perfect example.  You may want to see your doctor though just to make sure there is not anything wrong.  If you have not been sexually active for some time it would be a good idea to get a complete checkup.
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So no problem; next time you two go for it , get him off ahead of time. Give him a few minutes to get it back up then ride him until he cums.  That way he can get off twice, and so can you, maybe!
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Yes, you have experienced having an orgasm sweetie!  Isn't it a beautiful thing?! : )  Next time, just try to enjoy yourself and don't concentrate on just having an orgasm because sometimes it happens and sometimes it won't, but don't be dissappointed, because it will happen again as long as your boyfriend is handling his business!
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I have the exact same problem, i cannot orgasm during sex. i thought it was something my husband was doing wrong becasue he's the only guy i've ever been with. but one day when my gynecologist was examining me i just asked her opinion and she said that my something is very far back making hard to reach orgasm by penetration. im not sure what part she said exactly. im sorry to tell you but there's no hope for us. But still do other things that excite you. Just because you cant orgasm doesnt mean it cant be fun. Dont fake it, go to the doctor and find out whats going on with your body and if you have the same propblem i have tell your husband. Mine understood, even though he was hurt.
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I know i am not a guy, but can i would like to share an experience.\n\nMy boyfriend now, was my first, and i was worried about the same things. He could tell, as soon as he stuck a finger in me.  He actually loved the fact i was, and was patient with me. He loves the thought that i'm experiencing everything the first time with him, and he can show me how to please him.  Its has been 8 months now, and we have an awesome sex life.  email me if you have more questions about this....i have been there.\n\nallyalexmch@yahoo.com
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For starters there is absolutly nothing wrong with you. I was where you were years ago. The last straw was when I actually caught him fast forwarding during our time. I never told him to stop watching them but if we were in bed & he wanted to watch one I would tell him to turn it down or go to the other room. As for the BJ part HAH If he wouldn't give me the special perks I wanted HE didn't get his. Eventually any man will get sick of his own hand. My husband has always had a huge sexual appetite though. I found out later that he didn't have a porn addiction, he's into voyeurism. He liked the sneak peaks also the thrill of being caught. Try to talk to him again with a genuine interest of finding out what exactly turns him on about the movies without getting defensive. You might find that it's really something quite simple and possibly even fun for you to do together. You may have to stray from your comfort zone a little but don't let it compromise your morals or it will just make you resent him and you. A few years ago he stopped watching them as much because it was the same thing in each one. Of course them we got internet which opened up a whole new field. Our computer stays in the living room so anything he does now has to be when nobody it home so that helps. We been together for 12 years now. It's been rough but we have made it this far. If you do all you can and he STILL won't give you the proper attention that you need then there's nothing left for you there.
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i've dated a guy like that.  he was very shy, but very sweet.  I helped him break his shell, and then ripped his heart apart when we broke up.  I still feel guilty to this day and wish I would of kept him. he was a sweetheart, i was young and flighty.  i learned my lesson, and he had enough experience to move on and find a very nice wife and just started a family. i'm very happy for him.  can't say this will happen but if i had to do it again i would. we both benefitted in the long term.  as for the masturbating, all guys do it, and all to different degrees whether they have had sex or not. it's not so much sexual as a tension release for them or something to clear their minds.  like a journal but they only get as far as sharpening the pencil.
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Many women go through this more than you know! I actually went through the same thing. First of all, it could be a number of things that can trigger this, stress at home or work,is one factor, having a job, kids, house cleaning, cooking dinner, trying to pay bills, it all adds up, so having sex to some women is more of a chore than anything else. You need to ask if your boyfriend is turning you on? Do you need to try different positions? Different places? Is he Romantic? What makes you get in the mood, he would probably would like to know that. Also some women don't feel sexy enough or don't like the way their bodies are so that may be another factor, but i would talk to your boyfriend as he may be able to help, communication is one key factor in a relationship,  he needs to know that you need to be pleased in bed not just him. also your diet could also be another factor, be sure you are eating properly and get the recommended amount of excercise. so i would try new and different things, my husband and i have been together for 13 years and i ended up being the same way until i realized what turned me on and i learned i like it rough and i enoyed it when he spanked me and pulled my hair. You never know what will work with you until you have tried it. Hope this helps Good Luck!
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all men get horny in the morning, it doesn't mean they have to have sex...it's a few minutes feeling that they can ignore.... come on, he can save it for the evening to be with you ! please don't settle for that, this thing is addictive and it's already showing :"almost every day"... and the stress part is pathetic, aren't you under stress too ?! does that make you watch porn every day??? This is how you should talk to him and be firm, try to find a compromise at least, or believe me, you're heading right into a marriage disaster ! Good Luck
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From what I understand from talking to my fiance, sometimes guys get so into it and so involved and excited that they can't "finish". I don't really understand it either, but believe me, we've been through it too. It's completely understandable since you waited until you were married to go for it(congrats on that by the way).I suggest just telling him to slow down and try to enjoy the moment more. Once he starts relaxing he'll come around..I promise :0)
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There are a lot of reasons why a man can have that particular problem, but it more than likely isn't YOU, okay? My husband has that problem, and he takes viagra sometimes, but he's 52 years old, this is our second marriage. He said he was okay up until about 8 years ago, so it has nothing to do with me. One time I was with a guy who had this problem, and later I found out he had once been a heavy drug user, and it finally caught up with him. I'm not saying this is the case with "him" but there are different reasons it can happen, just don't blame yourself, okay?
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i have the same problem and i posted here about it.  they said that it comes with age and some are real shooters and some are not.  but i would definitely like to go back how it used to be.\n\nduring sex, im quite sure that sometimes i ejaculated with a much faster velocity since i can feel it.  few months ago, i was out of town and i have to do it alone, i was so aroused that it shot like it used to.  so i guess, other than age, level of arousal also plays a part.
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i see what yu mean. but..... i  don't know if you had the same volves. as me , but mine said in  sickness and in health.. just as it says  in  sickness and in    health...  honey, i know it's hard, but   we have to  endure. my husband  has not given me sex   for 20 years because  of a medical  problem. some times i question   that medical  problem but  i   have to live with it. i masterbate to  fulfill. you may have to  too.  it get old. you can only imagine so much.  i  wish  somehow we could met and satisfy each   other. good luck  humming.....you   want   to get in  touch  with me, my email :tootalljones@yahoo.com we can have im sex want to. im is the   same .yahoo IM down load it.
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This makes me laugh... lol.\nOkay, sex doesn't last for a few mintues I'll tell you that.\nYou can make it last a long time... enjoy it.\nWhat is normal? I don't think there is a standing time for normality... just do it till both of you well.. how do I put it? Feel satisfied.\nSex is something that is for the both of you remember that.\nHow many times should you start over? Depends on you and your partner. Does she want to do it again? Can you still keep on going? Ask yourself and your partner these questions.\nHope this helps. ^_^