He left a month ago and has taken up with another female. Neglected the kids and refuses to send support (have an order). He has posted several website for sex and I'm sure she was one who responded. He claims he's in love with her and is happy. Only known her for 1 month and staying with her for two weeks. Will it last?
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I am sure it won't last. He has put a bandaide on a wound. Be patient and know that you are a queen and worth a lot more. Focus on you and the kids and everything else will work out the way its susposed to. If he isn't helping than you should have more than enough on you plate. Don't try to fix what you can't. All you can do is control yourself. Get that good and all other things will work themselves out.
639245
Wow this is serious...but from my point of view I think this woman does love him in some weird twisted way. I think she feels like he will change. If she really wanted to get out of the relationship she would report the abuse and get a restraining order. If he is an unfit parent she would definately win. But Honestly there is nothing you can do. she is not going to move on until she is completely over him. This is coming from someone who was in a similar situation...Minus the children!!! \n\nI hate to say it but you are simply he morale booster and a shoulder to cry on when she needs it. Alll you can do is show her that there is someone better out there and hopefully she will move on before it is too late...\n\nGood Luck!
664609
Your ex-bf's problem has nothing to do with age. He wants to "have his cake and eat it too". (I hate that cliche). I agree with phattphatt. This guy is unstable and needs to be kicked to the curb. If he keeps this crap up she will do the same and he will have lost you both. I'm not so sure what the age problem is, she is only a year younger. Your first statement made it sound like he a was dating a child and he was in his thirtys. Give him the boot and find yourself a real man.
18393
Honey I'm not sure what to tell ya.  Don't give up on him.  Do you have anyway to contact him?  You should tell him how you feel.  I don't know why he hasn't talked to you in a month.  That concerns me a little.  Like I said, don't think bad, think good.  Hope things work out for you.
156421
He has been with you for two years, so this must mean something. He says he loves you and I am sure he does. Is he a generous and  thoughtful guy as this is an indication why he gives money to that girl. She is probably in a difficult situation and has no one else to turn to. Is he replying to a text rather than sending them which is a bit different. Give him a chance. Dont throw away the time you have been together. Play it by ear for now.
112954
Been there, done that.  He is using you, I say get out now while you are still not too emotionally attached.  If he only spends 2 hours at a time with you, it sounds like he is having his fun and then running home to his wife.  That's exactly what my ex did, the best thing you can do is learn from it.
70050
i would have to say that he doesnt appriciate you enough if hes going to be gone for 3 weeks with out saying anything to you and i would think you need to move on. if he cant see that he has a good women at home then he doesnt deserve you. so dont get so down on your self.
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Well, it's only been 2 months. Unfortunately you can't just wake up out of your nightmare and wish it to be over.  For starts he can quit coming over and telling you that he had sex w/ other people and basically rubbing that in your face. He can also quit telling you he loves you. You obviously broke up for some refined reason (unknown).  If he loved you then he wouldn't be sleeping w/ someone else now would he? I think that you two should stay apart for awhile. There's nothing wrong w/ remaining friends, however, if your trying to move and maintain a healtly lifestyle then he needs to quit.  Simply speak to him and tell him that it's best if he quits coming around for awhile b/c your having a tough time dealing w/ this situation. That you don't feel it's right him coming over and telling you he loves you then hearing that he slept w/ someone else. If you loved me then you wouldn't be sleeping w/ other people. I think it's fine if we remain friends, but I need time. I wouldn't recommend burning or doing anything to the pictures. (memories of good times) the wedding dress yea, you could probably sell it. The ring ahh, well, if you have a daughter or have one in the furture you could always give it to her to wear. (or just pawn it) I wish you the ever most luck. As for strength from God to overcome such a hurtful relationship and for the strength and wisdom to know that "slicing body parts off is wrong" (see made you smile) Good Luck! Here if you need a friend.
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Think about this for a moment if you will, if he took all the time and energy that he has spent on you this past 6 months and spent it on his wife, do you think he would have a bad marriage? Another point to ponder, the feelings he has for you right now, do you think he had those same feelings for his wife when they had been going together for 6 months? One more, if he has shown this pattern before, how long before he is bored with you and needs another woman to make him feel good? You are asking us if you should have a relationship with a liar and a cheat, I would not recommend it. What I would recommend though, is for you to step back and look at your relationship with your head and not your heart so you can actually see what you are doing to him and his wife.
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Well, as an MUNER, I've seen this happen. It's lucky that you were admin because if that note had been confiscated, there would be consequences. Anyways, you are right in asking him straight off would scare him. You don't really know this guy, do you? It seems like 2 or 3 weeks at most  and you already say he's NOT the player type. Maybe he is. If he really liked you, he would have called. This guy is not a perfect gentleman as he hasn't fulfilled his promise to call. I think he's keeping you as a safety as he flirts with you online but not in a more meaningful way. He maybe interested in another girl. There are other guys out there. Good luck.
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Here's our story...tell me what you think.\n\nWe originally met in 9th Grade, he was the new boy in school.  We became fast friends and soon became more than that.  We were inseperable, many crazy adventures and all that fun young love stuff.  We broke up just before the school year ended because of our friends...you know the only people you listen to when you are 15 years old.\n\nWe stayed friends over the years, going for coffe every month or so to catch up.  I had the travel bug so after high school I moved around a bit, when I was gone he met someone else and married her.  On one of my stops home I found out he had married this girl (who I knew & knew she was not a good person), I told him my concerns & in my heart I knew that if he said me wanted he back I'd go.  He didn't so I was off on my journeys again.\n\nWell when I was 31 I moved back to my home town.  As luck would have it we met up one night, he was still married to the girl but he had been living in his basement for the last 6 years and had little or nothing to do with his wife.  He was miserable. \n\nWe spent that night catching up, when it was time to go home he grabbed my hand and said he let me go once & he was never going to do that again.  He moved out the next day and we are now married and have a beautiful 3 year old little boy.  \n\nSo no, I don't worry about him leaving me for someone else.  I think it all depends on the situation, and the rest of the story.  People look for love outside of their relationships because there is usually something wrong within their current relationship.  Others are just really shallow and want a "trophy wife"...those relationships never work out.
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she still has it for him what a mess!  he shouldn't be talking to that bimbo in the first place I would never allow it not in a million years! Oh what a tangle web we weave.  you need to start layin down the law and do it LIKE RIGHT NOW he is never to speak with her again you have a baby on the way and who gives two used tampons what she thinks and them getting together should be the last thing you should be worried about you have lots more important things to worry about now than her right now.  Take care of this do it ASAP.
556190
How long were they together?  Its possible that she was a major part of his life, and you can't expect him to just let go of that completely.  Just remember, though, he is with YOU, and not with her.
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I have to agree with max, not only that, I bet things weren't reallygoing "too fast" for him,  he probably had a girl the whole time and she has just dumped him so he is crawling back to you for some attention and what max said.....sex.\n\nDon't let him off easy, make him work for it and prove to you that he is sincere
272134
Sounds like he is having a really hard time letting go. It probably wasn't a good idea to get back into the dating scene as fast as he did. If he's kept all of her old letters, pictures, and gifts, then he really needs to take the time and figure out what he wants to do. It's very likely that he still has feelings for her especially since they were engaged. Have a talk with him and tell him how you feel about the situation. Then, tell him how you feel. Good luck to you!
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I should hope you are very secure in your relationship, and if so then his hangin with them is not the issue.  If you have some concern for him hooking back up with her (which would be stupid) then you should let him go.  He was smart enough to leave her, can't imagine that he would find anything she does attractive.  You are the better woman and if he does not know how you feel (since you said you don't want to stop him?) then how can things change? The ball is in your court.  Good Luck!!
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Contemporary male wisdom is to "keep her wanting more". Hopefully, he is just trying to get you more interested in him by keeping his distance. Is it working?\n\nIf it is much longer than a week, I would probably try to contact him. If you get no response, you should probably move on.