I have never been with a women before and i want to try it out and see if sex with a woman is as good as it looks, but i just don't know how to go about this . I just moved to a new state and i don't know anybody. Can you help me please??
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First of all I would say the most important thing is to be yourself around any girls that you fancy. As soon as you start trying to be someone you're not you will probably lose your chance of bagging the girl you're after.\nThe second thing to mention is that there is a very big difference between a one night stand and a relationship although a one night stand may lead on to something later on.\nIt sounds like you are after a one night stand. I would say you should go about things in this kind of order.\n\n1.You've gotta set yourself up to win from the start. Make sure you are looking good and the chances are this will make you feel good. Make sure there is somewhere you can go to make sweet love ie. your house, car, hedge, bus shelter.\n2. Find a way of starting conversation with the girl you like the look of. Just stay relaxed, play it cool and make her feel like she's special. Try to appear genuinely interested in what she does (even if you're not).\n3. If you've been chatting/ flirting for a while and you feel comfortable with the situation the likelihood is that she will feel comfortable too. By this time you'll probably be recieving signs as to whether she fancies you or not.\n4. Start getting closer to her, put your hand briefly on her arm, side etc. If she doesnt back away try leaving your hand there a bit longer each time. If she gets close to you as you get close to here look into her eyes and you'll know whether or not to go for the smooch!\n5. If a girl will kiss you then she obviously atleast finds you attractive and maybe will consider sleeping with you. Im assuming you have plied her with alcohol since you met her- if not start now. Champagne's a good one. Its not essential for her to be drunk but it often helps.\n6. If you are flirting loads with each other/ feeling each other up then even if she doesnt sleep with you, you can be very pleased with yourself.\n7. At this point if she hasn't dragged you out of the bar or wherever you happen to be you may have to initiate the move to somewhere more private. Some girls like subtlety and some like blokes who are upfront. Sometimes it is good to say "do you want to come back to my place?" wink wink or "do you fancy coming back to my place for a coffee?" or "can i walk you home?"\n\nLast thing to say is that most girls want sex just as much as guys do!\n\nSomeone else can go into the details- my fingers are tired! Hope that's of some help.
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once you decide to take that step, you will wonder what took you so long----making love to and being made love to by another woman is a wonderful thing.It is a very sensual experience, and I think that when the time comes, you will know what to do. It will come very natural. Now as for approaching someone, I think the main thing is to make sure that she is receptive to the advances of another woman and then just put your best foot forward---Good Luck
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Ask what thier thought on the subject is, like 'I have a friend who does threesomes, would you ever do that?'  Try a lot of drinks, a hot tub and the right questions.  It worked on me:)
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Making love to a women starts in the am, during the day. Start by being sweet, loving, not grope, not grab ass. When you get to the bedroom, tell her to tell you what she wants, open COMMUNICATION is KEY, be slow.... kiss her neck, shoulders, make love to her. pay attention to the noises she makes, stroke her gently get her worked up then when she is wrapped up in what you are doing and things are moving along then try inserting, but go slow make sure she is taken care of. oral is always good to get her going. but most important she has to be honest with what she wants from you if she won't communicate to you it's not your fault she isn't enjoying it. Don't stress, relax have fun enjoy it. every women is different yet similar so what worked on your last partner may not work on the current one. I take a little from each relationship and try it out and what works I keep. Good luck
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hey there girl i just want you to know that i am bisexual myself and i have been in an actual relationship with a woman and now i am currently with the man of my dreams and i hope to marry him some day soon, but i also still want a loving woman in my life and he is okay with that. there is nothing wrong with being curious and to tell you it feels very good especially if u like being eaten out, and if u can look at a woman and say she looks good.. and another things is taste yourself sometime and if u like it then i would difenately try it, but make sure your first time is with someone who knows what they are doing and takes there time with you because it is your first time. well that is my thoughts on it.
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She is totally wacked and needs serious professional help, more than you can give her.  If I were you, I'd run like the wind and don't look back!  I've lost my virginity too, but what's that got to do with anything?  Forget about that BS.  The new chick, let's hope you've improved your selection, but she's bound to be an improvement.  Get a grip man.  This is an obvious...get out while the going's good before she decides to cut her name on your leg or worse, pulls a Bobick on your balls when she thinks you somehow crossed her.
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To be honest I was not satisfied, I had this built up image of sex in my head, I thought it was going to be great and enjoyable. But it wasn't, It's not the same as pleasuring yourself lol, because your starting off with that person you have to learn what each others likes and dislikes are, but that was just me, I dont know about other people, I talked to some people and they felt the same way but I guess thas something that changes with time or from person to person well hope your first time is a blast! have fun.
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If you guys are really looking for a bi female to talk to, I would suggest message boards at your local adult bookstore, (if you have that available) or there are magazines and newspapers (i think one is called Night Shift) where you can browse personal ads or place one of your own. \n\nWhat you can also do is go to your local lesbian bar with your wife and make sure that you dress up, act respectful and have the husband sit at the bar and have the wife dance and meet people until she meets someone she likes. Be sure to find out (once she has chosen a woman she likes) if the lady is bi, and not a lesbian. A lot of lesbians might get inadvertanatly offended if you asked her to join a 3 some with a guy involved. \n\nYou know, make sure that you become friends with whomever you choose first. You never know if this woman is just into your wife, or if they would be willing to do more. Besides 3 somes are so much fun if everyone gets along and there is good communication. Everyone must be comfortable with eachother. \n\nIt is better to try and keep your search for a companion in the local field. It is much harder to weed out the crazies on the internet. Do your research, and be sure to be safe while you are having fun.
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Since you don't like bars, I would say network with other lesbians through groups that might have meetings and get involved.  You can go to the bar's even if you're not "out"; big deal.  I would join a softball team or something athletic.  Go to a church for gays and lesbians.  You'll find a new girl when you least expect it.  God Bless.
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Ah, the ol' "Well, there was this one time in college..." lesbian episode. Hey, if you want to try it, go for it. But what do you mean you didn't know what "spend the night" means? She grabbed your breasts; doesn't that give you some idea? I'm guessing it won't be just "kissing and holding."\n\ndo it if you're that curious, but know that it's going to be a part of you forever. Not saying that's a good or bad thing, just that it is what it is.
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You know what?  The answers aren't a simple as looks, or sounds...for example...I love a woman's body, the female form..but it doesn't automatically make me want to have sex with her.  That person might even be totally into themselves and stuck up...which is a no go for me.\n\nWhen I'm actually having sex, I'm looking for softness.  I'm looking for that woman to allow me into her mind.....that sounds corny as hell though...but it's true.  It's a turn on, that she is allowing you to please her and vice versa.  \n\nThen as a guy, you pay attention to the sounds....not just the regular moans....but the real, deep, almost primal moans to let you know you are really working her over the way she wants.  I personally like to see involuntary movement of the limbs.  If she is making faces she wouldn't want to know she made, curling up her toes, or moving in ways or positions she has no idea she is even in, or even why she is in them.....then I know I doing what I'm supposed to.\n\nPlus a good attitude is necessary.  A woman who actually speaks and lets you know what she wants, what works...either vocally or with her eyes, or moans, whatever....will be better during sex.  It takes out the guy's guesswork at everything.  It shows she is conscious that you are actually trying to do a good job......and you want to make it happen together.  Communication, as with everything else in life, is the most crucial part of sex.\n\nSoooo....I guess it's the combination.  It's looks, although looks can and have fooled me.  I actually had the best sex I've ever had with someone that wasn't the supermodel type.  She definitely wasn't ugly.  She was real thick and she had the features I liked.  I guess it depends on the guy.  \n\nYou could say it's the sounds....but I've had girls who made yeti sounds....or they sounded like I was hitting them in the stomach with a lead pipe (no pun intended)....or they were screaming in my ear, like it was sexy.\n\nIf guys have that nice combo of looks, the right sounds, and a good attitude to match.....and the right amount of freakiness....goes a long way.\n\nOh.....and the difference between a one nighter and a committed relationship comes down to those two people.  The one nighter is exhilerating, exciting......might even hit the spot for a while.  Relationship sex depends on how you feel that night....or how your day went.....just more factors involved.\n\nWhat do I know?  I'm just a guy @ work with too much time on my hands.
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Hey pheobe,\n\nIve actually use Craigslist a few times.  Once I received some pretty good head on one response.  Another time I met up with a cuban/black mix chick.  We went out to the movies, ate dinner out, and I spent the night.  Had nice long sex.  She was a big girl but so what.  Try it out.
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You know... sex is an odd thing. You don't learn it anywhere - no matter how many porn tapes you see or karmasutra you read.\nWe assume we will learn by *instinct*.. but instinct is only worried about the reproduction part - not the pleasure. So we are left with absolutely nothing at hand to know how to properly please women. Add the fact that every woman is different. Some will want it here - others over there. Some harder, others softer. Some want you to scratch and pull, others just want you to carress. You get the picture.\nYou know your body more than any man will ever know it. Of course, there are skilled men that know how to discover the sweet spots and what cool things you like having yourself put through. But most men don't.\nSo please. Please. Please. Please tell us! If you see we aren't going at it right for you... then grab our hand or even our genitalia and guide it as you feel pleases you! Both you and your partner will appreciate it.
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Hey dude. Sex is the most pleasurable moment in a persons life. Since this is going to be ur 1st time. I wud suggest you not to get carried away woth it. Bcoz often it has been people who have been deprived of it try to make the most of out when subject to opportunity for the 1st time. Its a flavour which u need to taste in due course of time and can be enjoyed over longer and extended periods of time. For the 1st time I would suggest you to please try oral sex. Kissing, fondling with private parts, Intense kissing. Then when both u and ur girl are confident and cant hold it long. Just try watching some Soft Porn movies like "Body Shots", "Wild Things", "The Lover". These movies will guide you exactly how to go about sex @ the 1st shot.  All the best and Good Luck !!
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You're on the right path. Hold on to your virginity and be honest about this. Most of them are jerks, but this will weed them out and you'll eventually be likely to come across a decent man.
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Go online!  Honestly for women that is one of the few places to meet other bi/lesbian women....you can't exactly go up to some chick @ a bar or restaurant and say "hey, you're cute...wanna come home w/ me?"  Lol...go on myspace or yahoo personals or some other dating website...good luck!
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Leave all is info with a friend, including any pictures of him.  Meet in an open safe place.  Bring someone with you.  Take your own car and don't let him know where it is parked.  In my community we had someone who was just arrested for meeting ladies on line and raping them.  He was quite handsome too.  So beware and have fun.