the judge stated i was not fit to raise my kids because i moved 3 times in 1 yr but all to a bigger house for us ,he tryed killing me got 4 years probation and custy of our kids how that and CPS been involed many times and gotten aletter stated that they no its happen and then drop the case whats wrong with limestone city and there just plenty more to tell
120848
YOu need to document everything that happens, keep a jounal.  I have an ex husband that is a drug addict and my kids aren't safe with him, our boys are 4 year old twins, which I have custody, but I am now fighting him in court to keep him from them unless supervised which is looking good.  All the documention that I have is helping me greatly, plus I have a wonderful lawyer that believes in me.  You need documentation and people to back you up other then family and friends.  Be patient, gather your ammo against him, find a GOOD lawyer, make sure you get a different judge, make sure you are in a stable home, with a good job, show that you can raise your kids, also maybe take your kids to a phsycoligist and then have them write you a letter of what they think.  That always has weight in a situation like this, it is helping me out.  Good luck!!!  I hope for the best for you and your kids!!
321907
As someone that works in the law enforcement field I apologize for that judge's mistreatment of you. So many people in my field become desensitized to the pain that crime causes the victims, and it's a shame. I've seen it myself first hand and it's sick. Don't let that stupid judge's reaction hinder your healing. Be strong... in the end it's your strength and courage that will help you heal. In the end no punishment given to a dirt bag will heal you. Get help, seek God, and stay strong. Email me if you need a friendly ear. nworkman82@hotmail.com
140232
I think you should contact court services, or whoever is in charge of your probation and explain this to them and perhaps try to ask them for an extension.  If you are required to attend court, pending a probation violation hearing, I'd either try to communicate with the presiding judge who might be able to grant you an extension or may be able to work things out so that you will be re-sentenced in such a way that you'll be able to complete all the conditions and obligations of your probation.\n\nAt the very least, if you feel you need more time to get this community service madness taken care of before you appear in court, you could always contact the clerk of court's office and have your hearing rescheduled.  Sometimes you can do this a number of times before you actually have to appear in court, and by that time, you may be able to find the time to take care of your community service hours.  \n\nIn the meantime, you should see about getting at least a start on your community service hours, because some hours is going to look way better to the judge than no hours, which means you didn't put forth any effort to do as you were asked.  \n\nIf all else fails, and none of the above helps you, call around in your community and see if you can't get a free consultation with a defense attorney who will be able to point you in the right direction.\n\nGood luck.
434185
Your son did good by leaving and should counter file against her for filing false police report. Also if there were any adult witness in the facility it would be best for him to get statements form them to take with him that he was the bigger person and left.
533395
It sounds like you've done everything possible to get your life straightened out. Good for you...I think you will get your kids back eventually. Now that there's a new case worker maybe things will change. Keep up the good work and keep praying. I hope things will work out for you.
345780
You will more than likely have to pay for the damages that you did and have to do some kind of community service; you may also have to go to jail also, although they will put you in juvenile detention and now you will also have a criminal record. Good job...I think what you and your friends did is totally uncalled for and you deserve whatever the Judge gives you. Maybe you'll think twice about it the next time you're going to do something that stupid!
642177
a few years ago, me and my children were hit head on by a druck driver. me and the kids were okay. only a few cuts and bruises, but she was hurt very bad. my lawyer pressed charges against her, and when she got out of the hosp, she was to turn herself in for booking. well, she told the judge she was going to write us an apology letter and send my kids some toys. he let her off with her word and a slap on the wrist. she never did write us a letter. as a matter of fact i heard thru the grapevine (her boyfriend was the brother of our mortage holder) that she said, "they weren't even hurt that bad." well, how would she know what my children went thru. what i when thru. living the memory evertime we go down that road. she didn't hear my kids screaming and crying. after i woke up, after being knocked out by the air bag, i climbed out the drivers window and i had to walk around her truck to to get to my kids, i looked inside to see if she was dead or what. all she said was get me out of this damn truck. i didn't say anything to her. i just left to go see about my kids. i knew she was drunk or high. never want to go thru that again!
132212
I have been divorced 7 years and have received about $1000 dollars from my ex-wife. I have raised my son and daughter since they were 12 & 6. My son is now on his own and of course my daughter is still home. I have taken my ex to court 5 times and she still won't pay (it has cost me about $1,500). I have taken the action on my own since she doesn't seem to care. I made up excuses why they couldn't go over but soon relized that she didn't want to go to jail so she didn't do much. It is up to the courts to decide the ultimate outcome. Your children will figure out what is going on as they get older. I found out by speaking positive things about their mother all these years helped me not look like the bad guy. My children now understand what kind of person their mother is on their own. I pray for people like us to prosper in all ways despite having a parent not caring for their own children. GOD BLESS
400321
You are lucky to have been given a third chance. Generally speaking the case would have been dismissed (in my state) after the second no show.
397162
I had to learn the hard way too, never ever use a court appointed attorney, or public defender! They have too big a caseload to give you fair representation! You will not get nearly the results that you would by hiring your own personal attorney! Public defenders bank on getting you to consent to a plea bargain whether guilty or not, that way this eases their caseload somewhat and this means one less person they have to deal with!\n\nOften times the public defender works on your case as minimum as he or she can, and will not put as much of an effort as if he was a private paid attorney. Many people have lost their kids or have gone to jail on the account of having a sorry a$$ public (defender in their corner. )\n\nAs for your situation, call your local bar association and see can't you get something done about your attorney. It is worth a shot, but even with them, they are like cps in that they have tons of immunity! Suing an attorney for malpractice is like suing a judge or the police department! it is rare that a person wins against any of those people! I don't know enough about the law to say whether or not that they did anything wrong in stripping your visitation right just becasue of what your stepfather said.\n\nif your kids have a guard ad litem or c.a.s.a (court appointed **** advocate (I forgets what the s stands for) but try talking to them. Sometimes they can help when no one else is willing to! Just remember that casa's still work for and or closely with cps and you always have to be on guard of what you say and do. But if push comes to shove, try a local children's or women's advocate agency in your area, or better yet, google cps, you may be able to pull up more and other helpful info on people who have been through what you have. I wish you the best of luck!
508197
He is threatening her and that is illegal. If she did that and served her probation time, she has no problems. The courts are usually in favor of having the mother give most time to rearing the children unless she is totally unfit and it can be proved. Tell her not to be afraid of him and to stand up and say go ahead and tell them. They are the courts and they have access to her record and probably already know about it. Been there, done that, and the judge just told my ex he was wasting his breath and forget it.
566503
Let me get this straight.  You married a sex offender who committed some offense against you.  You had three children with him.  Now he is arrested (for the offense against you?), and supposed to get treatment before he can see his children.  Your children.  Now, are you saying he has not gone to the treatment, and is therefore not allowed to see his children?  Your children?\n\nI suppose you may feel shafted, but it sure sounds to me like you were at least as much a volunteer as a victim.  I think you'd better have a long talk with the counselor you were undoubtedly assigned when all this came up in court.
372038
even if you were charged and convicted of the alledged offence above this was before you were granted parole. you can only be sent back to prison if you break the conditions of your parole part of which you agreed to make no FURTHER infringements of  the law-this is to say they cannot drag up anything that happened before you were granted parole. also as it was ligitated in the civil courts which you won-she should have filed the complaint then-not now. it will seem like sour grapes to any judge (if she can find one that will preside over her complaint-unlikely). i beleive everyone should be given a clean break and i wish you and your family all the luck in the world-and don't be naughty again please.
197221
I was sexually assaulted after my shift was over at a restaurant, by the owner, who was drunk.  A lot went on. I went to the police and reported it, and brought my clothes that I had worn that night.  It was a 3 hour humiliation session.  I was on tape and also written report.  The guy was brought in for questioning, denied everything and basically called me a liar.  The burden of proof was on me.  Since he hired a lawyer quickly, a pal of his who was a former mayor, I had no choice but to drop the case. Unfortunately, I think a lot of women do this. I couldn't put my kids and parents and husband through a long painful trial, and having no real evidence except my testimony.  What goes around comes around, I guess, and he'll get his one of these days.
592141
5 yeara of that? yickes and ouch for the kids, this cant be good for any of you and ther family..its so sad.\n\nAnyways, go to lawyers.com, they can help you find one in your state.\n\ngood luck and make sure you have the best interrest in the kids ( i wouldnt drag my kids through that, him and i compromised and the kids are happy )
497892
The family court judge will do the following... if he's any good.\n\nTaking into account that the judges first and foremost objective is the care and well being of the child(ren).  Therefore, what has happened in the past does not play into what is to happen going forward.  The past doesn't pay for nor should it take away from the child that needs support.  So...\n\nThe judge should ignore the tax problem and the guy shouldn't bring it up as a debt he has to pay.\nThe judge will base his decision based on the Non-Costodial parents wages and/or potential wages.  Thus based on the number of kids there will be a set max percentage that can be asseted.  If the custodial parents ability to fully support the child financially, then the judge will most like award the maximum amount.\n\nDuring this process, the non-custodial parent has the right lay out the income and expenses they have and ask the Custondial Parent to do the same in an attempt to lower the amount of Child support to a level the JUDGE can deem as fair to the CHILD.\n\nIn my case, the after the judge looked at all the debts I got and the cost of my house note and the amount of money and number of kids (3), he looked at me.. assested the support amount and then said, "But I really don't know how you are going to make that amount and keep your home."\n\nSo.. it's about the kids.  Period.  Not that it's wrong, it's just the way it is.  The fact your friend hasn't paid Taxes in years is not a factor the judge will probaly consider nor does he want to hear about it as he would prefer the man be out of jail and working to support the child.. then in jail and the state support them.\n\nHope this helps!\n\nOh... he better have an attorney and he better tell them everything!
3626
That's absolutly terrible!  I think you need to get a better lawyer.  2 1/2 years is ridiculous.  He needs to stop playing around, and get this resolved for you so you can get closure and begin to heal.  Check out this link below it's for the National Organization for Victims Assistance they promote the rights of victims of crime and crisis everywhere.  I know it sounds superheroish but they should be able to help or at the very least point you in the right direction.  If you just need to talk to someone, the churches in your city, any denomination, can help.  They are always willing.  Good luck!