I have a boyfriend and we haven't been going out for that long and I like him-A LOT. but I just can't get over the flirty factor-it makes me me. and usually I get on my other account-hottgirlrox-because lots of boys chat with me. and I get of get shakey and and feel bad when I do it, but i like to do it. plus I'm forever saying how hot this person or that person is around him and he doesn't seem to mind, but i really do feel guilty. and I just don't know if I should.
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Of course you shouldnt do it...its disrespectful. think of it this way, if he was doing it would you be upset.  if he really doesnt mind, which i doubt, than rock on....your probably really young and you dont owe anybopdy more than your willing to give at your age.  as you get older and get into more serious relationships realize that this is not normally acceptable.
489715
probably not your best bet. if you do that, he'll think you are manipulative, and conniving, and you probably aren't you just want him! totally understanding. you should just tell him how you feel ok! =)
124463
hey,...i m kinda in such a situation too. just joined this new company, and there's this guy who always look at me whenever I pass by. He even looked at me admiringly when there was once we were in lift, and he was with another girl, whom I heard later that the girl is his girlfriend. Mmm....but then, I have bf too. But, I kinda like the attention, and think that he's cool. Never talked to him, but I have fantasy about doing it with him. Am i bad?
207319
I used to feel this way. Just knowing that all my friends around me were getting boyfriends made me feel like I was getting behind. They would always talk about their experiences and gush about how happy they were...which now that I look back on it, isn't so important (because you don't need a guy to be truely happy...at least not when you still have time to find one) Wanting a guy, I thought, would make me feel complete. I wanted to know what love really was, or how it really felt (because as they say, you can't really know until you've experienced it) Girls want to feel special and maybe they want a little more excitement in their lives. Guys...you can't live with 'em, can't live without 'em :)
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I am not being rude or judging you, but maybe you should talk to a councilor. I am sorry to here of your lose, but remember you are not the one that passed on, you are a live and you shouldn't feel guilty about moving on. It will feel like that you are comparing, but if you hang in there you will find the things that you like about the new guy in your life. Hang in there and don't give up. Good luck.
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Hi,U know I used 2 have the same problem... first of all... DO NOT FEEL LESS than other people,second: if someone comes by N U start blushing or gettin nervious, just imagine that person stading in an empty space with NOTHING but the opposite sex's underwear on,THIRD: let GO,hang loose,B confortabe,if U pretend everything's under control everything WIIL B under control,N lay back  relaxed,keep in mind YOU ARE WAAAAY better than the rest and if U DO say something stupid DON'T GIVE A FUCKIN' SHIT ABOU WUT THEY SAY OR MIGHT THINK ABOUT U,\n\nN fInally,whe U put all these on practice N B-come a more confident guy,find a girl who's a bit shy N THAT will B the perfect girl 2 start a conversation with,N hopefully date.... well this is wut I did N now I have a much better life,I realy hope it works 4 U .\n\nFeel free 2 E-mail me @ : debbie_free2nite@yahoo.com
398945
it's about power of control to see who the weaker sex is and guess what girl you lost and he's laughing at you for being this way. ( get over him and move on find another boyfriend and have him to kick his ass  and tell him to stay the hell away from you for now on, you got it ) don't let him make you feel any less than you already feel and don't show anymore feelings toward him after this. ! sorry to sound Harsh but guys like that make me sick too !
99177
It sounds like you might be afraid of losing out altogether.  Probably both boys have some appeal to you, but probably neither one is everything you are looking for.  Perhaps if you step back and really look at yourself and look at yourself in relation to your boyfriend(s), you would find that you are afraid of being alone.\n\nDate whomever makes you feel happy, but don't be too involved yet because you aren't emotionally ready.  Spend some time doing things with other friends and get to know yourself better.  Even spend time by yourself doing things you like.  The better you know yourself, the better you will understand yourself in relation to others.
171240
Sometimes. If I see a guy that is really hot I find it hard to control myself. But then I realize if I come on too strong, it may be a turn-off--so I have learned to control it. Instead I'll just flirt some and see what it goes.
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No, why would you feel guilty? No one got hurt, right? You both enjoyed it?\n\nThe only thing you might want to think about is if you are really interested in having a serious relationship with this guy, you might want to slow down a bit.\n\nMost guys don't take "easy" women that seriously.\n\nBut you shouldn't feel guilty at all.
349020
Well.. It also happens to me.. I'm a person who talks to guys a lot online.. When I'm talking to someone for hours and getting to know him better, I feel like there's a connection between the two of us and that he's worth talking to. On the other hand, when I'm talking to other guys on here, I feel that I'm just wasting my time talking to them and that they're not worth talking to.. But yeah, Its hard when you meet people on the net because of the time difference and it's really hard to catch up with 'em when you're busy.. I am not really sure if my answer will help but yeah, I'm just sharing y'know.. =)
474712
Smart girl, you have handled that poking incident very well. It was a harmless prank that some boys play to amuse themselves as well as others.\n\nHe is sort of feeling sore being ditched by others. And who doesn’t? I think he still has a liking for you; didn’t he betray himself by blushing (turn red as you put it)?\n\nPlus the fact that you now have a new boyfriend, it is indeed complicated for him. I sure hope that your friends don’t tease him too much, have mercy. Haha.
604505
Oh my goodness! I was JUST like you with the Touchy Feely. I wasn't that at all when I started to date my boyfriend because I've never been used to that emotional display. I was so used to hangin' out w/the boyz that it just rubbed off on me. I'm used to it now because it's just his way of showing me how he feels. But don't let him get too "Fresh"
441510
If you ahve a boyfriend, then why are you trying to show off to get other guys' attention?? unless your boyfriends are on the track with you guys, then i wouldn't do it. it'll just appear slutty and make you look like someone who wants to get all the guys in the world. trust me, its happened to me before.....it's sad, unfair, but true.
111472
I used to have this same problem with guys I used to date but, I found the love of my life and I can't stop talking. I feel comfortable around him. I know that he will not judge or think less of me for what I have to say. Maybe she does not feel comfortable around you. Maybe she is afraid that you will judge her.
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my boyfriend tried to do it once, and i felt like i'm going to poo or something. yet there's this good feeling but i still don't like it that much.. really makes me feel sooooo uncomfortable
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You can not be responsible for that which you can not control, which proceeds all others.  Do not try to feel bad for feeling a certain way.  Your feelings are only honest, and honesty can never be looked down at.  Looking down on honesty is being dishonest.  To be ashamed of a true feeling is what would be 'wrong'.  Also, this friend of yours does not own this person or you.  If you wish to clear your conscience, talk to your friend and tell her the truth.  Tell her that you appreciate all of the same things about this guy.  \n\nNow I said having a crush is nothing to be ashamed of, but acting on that is a different matter.  You should do what you feel is right.  Your true feelings are always correct.  Now honesty should always be expressed, but caution should also be used.  Lack of caution is not true honesty.  It is just plain inconsiderate.  Take a time-out and try to gain some perspective.  Take a long walk, read a book, or do anything you can to get your mind off the subject.  Only when you clear your mind can you think clearly.  No one can tell you what the correct thing to do is but yourself.  You should think about what every decision would mean, and what different things you can do to make your decision best for all parties.  If you believe your friend will do something seriously bad if you talk to this guy, keep that in mind.  Make your decision according to anything.  I will say this.  Do not concede to fear and allow someone to intimidate you into doing their will.  If you like this guy, and he likes you, it is only right that you two should explore what you have together, but do not leave your friend in the loop.  Definitely do not let her intimidate you either.  \n\nSummed up, you should do some soul searching and the answer will be clear to you yourself.  I, nor any of us on yahoo, can tell you what is right for you.  Only can do that.  All I can do is give you suggestions on how to come to the decision yourself.  Like I said, take some time off of both people, at least two days.  Read a book.  Put it out of your mind, and I will give you a good method on when you know when you're ready to make your decision.  It seems that this weighs heavy on your mind.  Keep yourself busy with books, or household projects, or art, or anything you wish, and the second you realize that you are so wrapped up in what you are doing that you've COMPLETELY forgotten your ordeal, if only for an hour or two, then you are clear.  This is what clear is.  Be clear, and make clear decisions.  Good luck sweetheart.