he dreamt that he went out with a big fat girl and his friends were in the bar so he wouldnt go in because he would have been embarassed to be seen with her.  I am an attractive woman who is 8 years older than he is...am I reading too much into that dream?? was he embarrassed to be with me in front of his friends..I'm 125 pounds so age/fat thing making me question the dream....
133238
wow!  you are a great weight and definitely NOT fat!!!  he may have just been nervous about the date itself, not your weight.  he may feel more uncomfortable that you are older than him.  you may want to evaluate this yourself.  is he too immature for you?  does he have different values/ideals, goals, etc. that may get in the way?  if you know that you really care for him and want to keep dating, talk to him about this, and let him know you care about his feelings and ask him to let you know if he really was uncomfortable, or if he was just nervous.  Hope it goes well!  take care!
591674
I'm simply in awe that you were able to wait that long before you decided to take your relationship to the bedroom...\n\nIf you are scared about the weight, woman on top and spooning are good choices.  Same with doggy style.  \n\nTalk with him and find out what he thinks.  Does he have the same concerns as you?  \n\nAlso, I see no reason to post that he is of a different race.  If it doesn't bother you any other time, why should it be a factor now?
518785
Well if he said that, I do not know why you are with him anymore. I do understand what he does say though. I do not think that anyone would ever say anything like that. I think that is something that happens all the time with guys and life. It always is the way, guys want what they can not or do not have. I would really rethink being with him if he is telling you about thinking about other girls.
264423
Wow sounds like theres not enough trouble in your life if your going out looking fot what might have happened...I'm sure there are ways of figureing it out. altest at the time the possible incident possibly occured ....geeeeee..how bout chalking it up to experience and not getting so drunk you dont know what happened while apparently being with someone you obviously dont trust.........again i say geeeeeeeeeeeeee
635406
Well, why on earth would get with any of those losers who probably tell fat jokes all day long with friends and co-workers. How dare you even consider taking a chance just because you lost weight and now have some self confidence. What about what you will do to that poor guy who loved you for you! Does he deserve to get hurt? It's going to make him resent women in general and make it hard for him to trust again. He should reap the benefits of your new slim figure, he should have those same guys that talked about him for being with a fat girl, now turning green with envy. He deserves that, because he fell in love with the true you, your personality, and not with the outer appearance of  you. Do what is right, or you are going to end up miserable. I know so many slim girls who get cheated on and dogged out by the same guys you are talking about getting with. They would kill for a chance to have such a nice guy. Don't be foolish sweetie. Stay with this guy, get married, have children. I guarantee you that he won't leave your side during or after childbirth, over the extra weight that you gain. He at least have already validated himself in that department!
218481
he may have feelings for you but didn't know how to express them and maybe the dream is that he might be thinking of you and if you find him and start up a converstation things might go your way i'm not really good with dreams and all but it doesn't sound like a bad response.. :)
480266
Usually it just means that there is alot of insecurity of loosing him. Maybe subconsciously you know that his heart once belonged to her. The dreams tend to take over b/c of the deep seeded subconscious insecurities. You need to discuss this with your man, and embellish each others views on this matter. Put it to bed! You need some comforting from your man, as far as security goes. We all like to feel safe no matter how old we get!Right?
372996
I am pretty sure he was showing it around because he was glad that he got invited. if you don't want him to do it again, don't bne afraid to good naturatly teel him that.  and don't be embarrased that people now think that you like him. that wil incraese the chances of him asking you out or somthing of the sort.\nhope this helped and good luck\nand have a happy sweet 16th b-day
374075
Sounds like he has intimacy issues. Most guys would jump at the chance to have real sex with a real woman. Obviously, this guy is in love with his fantasy life, the idea of exploring his needs through detached means.
364243
Lifes too short to let someone stand in the way of your dreams.  If we could only turn back the clock, how many of us say if only!  Dont live to regret not following your dreams, you'll only blame him in the long run.  If this man really loves you he wont stand in your way, you only get one shot of life so go for it girl, wish i had.
273577
I don't know if it really has anything to do with THIS guy. Maybe your subconscious just used him as an example for you. Maybe you want to find love but maybe your too afraid of losing it and getting hurt that you don't even want to give it a try. Maybe your afraid that if you do get in a relationship that he will leave you and that is why he said "i know". If that is the case, don't be so afraid of life, if you hide the key to your heart, you risk losing it forever. OR... the dream could mean that you really do somewhere have a thing for him. Or it could just be that its 3am and i should go to sleep. Good luck.
127326
Honestly it sounds like he was playing the field. I'm not saying he didn't like you, but maybe he was seeing other people at the same time. Guys like to do this, especially older men with younger women, they think it makes them feel younger. I'm glad you have a sense of self respect, never let it go!! :)
491031
Don't second guess it for a second.  You did the right thing.  It sounds like he was a jealous loser.
376849
It's pretty hard for someone to forget their first crush from high school.\n\nBut you are in with a really good chance. Realistically, he knows this other girl is not into him, and she is conveniently out of the picture.\n\nI would go after him, and show him there is a real woman right in front of him who is on the scene and ready to be with him. He would be an idiot to choose a dream over that.
599507
WOMAN'S DIARY: Saturday 29th April 2006.\n\nSaw him in the evening and he was acting really strangely. I went shopping in the afternoon with the girls and I did turn up a bit late so thought it might be that.\n\n\nThe bar was really crowded and loud so I suggested we go somewhere quieter to talk. He was still very subdued and distracted so I suggested we go somewhere nice to eat. All through dinner he just didn't seem himself; he hardly laughed, and didn't seem to be paying any attention to me or to what I was saying. I just knew that something was wrong.\n\n\nHe dropped me back home and I wondered if he was going to come in, he hesitated, but followed. I asked him again if there was something the matter but he just half shook his head and turned the television on. \nAfter about 10 minutes of silence, I said I was going upstairs to bed. I put my arms around him and told him that I loved him deeply. He just gave a sigh, and a sad sort of smile. He didn't follow me up, but later\nhe did, and I was surprised when we made love.\n\n\nHe still seemed distant and a bit cold, and I started to think that he was going to leave me, and that he had found someone else... I cried myself to sleep..............\n\n........\n\n.......\n\n\n\n \n\n \n\n \n\nMAN'S DIARY: Saturday 29th April 2006.\n\nRooney's probably out of the World Cup, there go our chances then, gutted! Got a shag though
620046
That's wierd I say it's time you guys had a serious talk. He sounds like a jerk. I mean I'm totally for guys not inviting their gfs along in order to have alone time to party with their friends but a birthday celebration (ESPECIALLY his own is hardly the time to do this) Unless there were strippers involved and even if that were the case u guys still need to have that talk.
288821
Nothing at all.  Haven'y you ever had naughty dreams like that?  Nothing says that he will go through with what he dreamt.  The fact that he trusted in your relationship enough to actually tell you means he trusts you with things.  I am thats pretty gutsy for him to tell he dreamt he slept with your friend.  I bet he probably dreams sex with you too.  Until he actually sleeps with someone other than you don't worry about.  Be happy that he trusts you with secrets.  Dont let this little thing destroy your relationship