Why is it that anything that seems to bother someone is labeled as Gay no matter what it is? Many answers I've seen on here are like that and most of the time the question has nothing to do being gay at all.
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Many people associate homosexuality as something negative, thus they use the word "gay" as a general perjorative. Anything they dislike gets called "gay" not because it's homosexual, but because it's bad.\n\nThat's a very immature way of speaking, but it's out there.
111872
People are always looking for something to blame for their problems. It's more than easy to say that their problems is a result of their chosen sexual orientation.Some straight people blame their problem on other things also...poverty, ethnicty, or other things. Good question...why should they be allowed to 'throw fits' and get all the attention?
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Serj, do you not detect a smidgen on gay hate in some of these answers?  I do.  I have never been harmed by gays, approached but never accosted.  I think all they want is to be recognized as equals as human beings.  This I grant them.
645528
I've seen several questions like this one lately...They completely blow the theory many gays spout out that homosexuality is not a choice!  According to most gays, you're either born gay or not...no in between.
674734
Homophobia is a fear/belief really, much easier changed than sexuality.  I've known people in my life that were very homophobic but changed their views after getting to know a few gay people.   I guess that's the secret, the closest there is to a cure, letting people with those attitudes get to know as people instead of remaining a faceless avatar to them.   As a gay male as much as I would love for everyone to universally accept us, we don't have the right to tell someone what they can or can't believe.  When dealing with a people like this it's ok to be assertive, but I refuse to gve them even an iota of power over me by letting their words hurt me.
442872
Yes, like you I am sick of labels.  It is not important to know whether a person is gay or straight.  People are too anxious to wag their little tongues if they think they know something another does not.
558369
homosexuality is really an expression of authority on part of one male and submission on the other,it is really strictly a male nonsexual behaviour inspite of what everybody wants others to believe.thats why women are hypnotized into believing they could possibly also have same sex attraction when obviously all sex with women is about men and family  and social life.its a fag conspiracy internationally,\nproof\nwhy would gay fags want to be married? what on earth could make 2 men who already practice their deviance in peace ,what would make them want to commit that ultimatwe parody of everything ultimately sacred ,of the building unit of society?what difference is it for them to be called husband and husband?\nit doesnt make any sense,it indicates that it is a subversive movment fed by the appetites of millions of perverts.
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Although I am not male...I would like to offer my opinion....I have a few friends that are gay and they are anything but effeminate! I know that when they tell people they are gay not many others believe. This is too bad that in this day and age, and with the access to all these tools to educate, many, or should I say most, still have this stereo type of what a gay man "should be". This is just plan ignorant and narrow minded. But then these people still probably are too homophobic to discover the truth...and get to know some for who they really are...not based on a preconceived label.
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Isn't that stereotypical?\nEach relataionship hetero or not, has it's own private dynamics. I don't understand why you would want to know. \nA truly gay person would not be asking this question so are you just curious?
631278
First of all, thanks for your apology. That takes a lot of guts.\n\nAs for "homophobic", I'm not sure exactly what it refers to, but I think it's way overused in the gay community. I've concluded that "antigay" and "homophobic" are not the same, but are often intertwined. I would consider my family as antigay because they disapprove of homosexuality for various reasons, but they're not homophobic as in being afraid of or hating gays.
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Well I am sorry it makes you sick.  Not everything or every one is the way we all would like.  Some what disappointing I know.  As for WHY would someone like to be gay? I will tell you something.  I am happy with my lifestyle now. I am happy with the woman I am with.  But there was a period where I wasn't so sure.  Why you wonder.  Because my mother disowned me because of it.  My father bought books to see if they had the answers, maybe he did something wrong.  Or my personal favorite what my high school finding out and my teacher telling me I shouldn't eat with the other kids because it bothers them. \nDoes this sound like something we CHOSE?  Does this sound like something we ASKED for?  \nWe are stronger for the things we go through, doesnt mean we ask for the turmoil along the way.
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Wow, I am shocked at the majority of the answers. Perhaps they think that ACTING on being gay/lesbian is a choice?\n\nAnyways I do agree with you. People JUST don't understand that you can't control feelings. You DON'T get to choose what sex you like. Why do you think a big percentage of gays in denials kill themselves? Many try to like the opposite sex. but you CAN'T choose what you like. I just can't stress it enough. I don't know from personal experience, but I do know I couldn't pretend to like women because deep down inside I never would have sexual desires for women even if I wanted to. You can't force yourself to have sexual desires for something you don't want it for, and that is why straight people think being gay is a "choice".
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To be honest (i'm straight) i'm not anymore interested in the lifestyle of my gay friends than i am of the straight ones!  I mean i'll ask them how they are or what they have done over the weekend but nothing i don't ask any one else!!  I think some straight people either: a)secretly wonder if they are missing out on something; either sexually or with the lifestyle/social scene OR b)-and i know lots of people like this-are pathalogically nosey!  They have to ask you questions about anything and absoloutely EVERYTHING!  Its just the way some people are; they cannot function happily without feelin' as if they are included in everything!!!  Don't some people just DO your head in!!!!
554211
Why use 'gay' as a bad thing?  I'm not gay, but I have gay friends, and it upsets me that people always use the word gay to describe some bad or annoying...just stop.
247090
I've never said this statement, but I understand it from a woman's point of view. It has absolutely nothing to do with gay men and what they do or don't do in the bedroom. This statement is said in frustration when it seems like there is a shortage of quality, available men. The only relevance it really has to gay men is that they are not "on the market" for single, hetero women.
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No.  I believe some people are born with gay tendencies, but they still have a choice whether to act on them on not.  Being gay shouldn't be classified with theives and murderers though.  They aren't harming other people.  One can have their own beliefs without using harsh words or bashing.  It is against God to be gay but we are all under construction and have to find out the hard way on everything on this earth.  God said "Judge not, lest you be judged".  A gay person may be living in sin and won't admit it but they still have feelings and the right to be treated with respect just like everyone else.  How else will they open their ears to the truth?
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Becouse people who are anti-gay seem to flock to the gay arias of the internet and take offence, they have turned the section into a gay-bashing section where real questions are lost to stupid comments and offensive mitarial.\n\nThese same peopel either report you as abuse, or take offence and psot so many reported answers that Yahoo is forced to delete the question.\n\nIf this aria was set up like any other, the subject matter would reflect discussion, an opertunity to explore the issues of the gay community, and not stupid questions and un-related topics.\n\nThis is gotten away with becouse of the negitive outlook of the gay community in general, and the lack of seriousness in that feild.