i have a grandson who we have residents order on,we are having a lot of trouble with him,has he always,trying to cause arguments,especially with me,at the least little thing
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1.Because they weren't taught to respect their elders.  \n\n2. Because they aren't being treated with respect.\n\n3. Peer Pressure.\n\n4. Unresolved emotional issues.\n\nWithout knowing his age, it is hard to answer this question in the best way, but I will try to help as much as I can.\n\n1.Did his parents raise him to show respect? Maybe you could set a good example by showing how you treat people respectfully. Be careful when you  are upset or angry, to not say anything disrespectful in front of your grandson. Children learn what they hear and see.\n\n2.Do you treat him with respect? Children deserve respect too,and if they aren't getting respect in return, they may stop showing respect. Maybe by slightly exaggerating your respect for him, it will give him the incentive to return the respect.\n\n\n3.Peer Pressure is harder to deal with. Do the kids he hangs out with act disrespectful? If so maybe grounding him for disrespectful behavior would help him to learn to be his own person and not just follow the crowd. Explain to him why you are grounding him and how disappointed you are that he would treat you or anyone worthy of his respect with disrespect.\n\n4. Unresolved emotional issues can cause children to act disrespectfully. The only way to resolve the issues would be to get him professional counseling.\n\nMaybe if you sit down and talk with your grandson and discuss the problem with him, making sure to treat him with respect, he might just come around and start giving you respect. Let him know that this is a big problem for you and that you really want to solve the issue and would like his input. Be sure to ask him why he treats you disrespectfully and truly listen to his response.  You may be doing something, without knowing it, that is causing him to react this way to you. Maybe giving him the right to respectfully tell you that he doesn't like something you have said or done, would curb his disrespectfulness. Make him understand that treating you with disrespect will not be tolerated and that there will be consequences, so you would like to work with him to find a solution to the problem. \n\nOpen communication is always the best. \n\nYou do want to be careful about teaching children that they have to respect ALL elders or ALL people. They should be taught to "Treat" people respectfully, but actual respect has to be earned. \n\nI raised my daughter to give respect where respect was due. Not all elders deserve respect, so I think that just teaching them that they have to respect all people is wrong. She was taught to treat everyone with respect, until they did something to lose that respect. I certainly didn't want her to think she had to respect criminals, perverts etc.  Good Luck! =-)
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You should always stand up for ur rights . Just because the wrong doer is ur Senior or is stronger than u doesn't mean u should bow down two him, just use a different strategy or game plan that expose them.
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Come on you aint going to get no were if you keep being this way....just be the bigger person and go to jim and just talk to him i am sure that he can come up with something to talk about...if not have something ready to talk about.....
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Tread carefully........\n\nI have it on good authority .. some parents can hold grudges like forever....... You do not have the life experience to negotiate a cooling of the men folk ... don't try.  Ask you mom what the fight is about..... only after you have a full understanding should you proceed... And even then get with you mother or your Aunt to do the actual pushing & prodding of the two stubbon men folk  .... if you try you will seem medalsome and little pushy ..... Don't go there.\n\nI hope there is nothing stopping you and your cousins from e-mailing or writing to each other ..... at least keep in contact with them on your own .... If all else fails you can have the relationship with your Uncle later on when your older.\n\nKeep Clear of adult arguments .... climbing into the fray will only get you hurt.\n\nBe Safe.
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Aww that's terrible, to me it sounds like he's the one with all the problems and you're going out of your way to be friends with him.  He's being abit patronising and maybe it means he needs to grow up abit, so maybe there isn't anything you can do at the moment except explain to him again all this from your perspective.  When he does degrade make sure you defend yourself, and even if you're not right maybe you can give the thoughts you had that made you think that way.  But it's not an exam, and please don't let him make you feel bad and I really hope it works out!
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It sounds like she has serious emotional problems. Something has made it hard for her to lower her guard and trust  others. Just go about your life as if she didn't exist. That way, she can't hurt you. Talk to her if she talks to you but keep your distance.  It is very unnatural for a grandmother to treat her grandchild like that. And it's amazing that she raised a normal son.
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are you the child's relative. I can probably answer you if i had more info to go on. I just went throught this myself.
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Did you have any problems in the family that could have triggered his behavior? Usually children will lash out their feelings. I have a 12 yr, 10 yr, and 9 yr. My nine year old was very angry and got in trouble alot when I and his father seperated for divorce, he not only took it out on me and his father he took it out on his friends, teachers, grandparents, but we have since then talked to him and he is doing alot better.
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I would suggest that you go into the house and get any papers that you might need.  You are not entering illegally as you have a key and your uncle doesn't want his son to deal with it.  You will have to let the solicitor know.  I've been in a similar position and in the end i decided i loved my grandad more than my aunt  so i was going to do what he wanted and not worry about upsetting my aunt and going against her and my mothers wishes. I am happy that I did.
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Be firm in your convictions. If he continues to threaten you get an order of protection or restraining order against him. \n\nThis guy obviously has issues and should seek counseling or attend anger management classes.
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He needs to step up and be a REAL man and let his mother know in a respectful way that what she is doing is wrong!! He is not married to his mom but to his wife and of course the wife comes first and a grandmother should never treat her grandson that way!  Is she insane or what? Thats her grandson!!!! I know you wanted husbands answers only but as a woman I have been down this same path!!!
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I have conversations with my ass all the time.\n\nHe's angry with me at the moment because I went out for Indian last night so he is spewing..
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You try not to fuel the argument. Even if he's yelling at you, keep quiet. In due time maybe he will realise what mistakes he's making, if he doesn't I guess he is not worth it.
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You need to take a trip to your State Ombudsman's office. Look them up in the phone book. I assume you are in the US. File a complaint for lack of investigation and services to protect your grandson. That may get them moving. If that doesn't work, write a letter with what you just said here to your Governor's office. Be sure to address him/her in the letter as "Honorable Governor Name".\n\nHere's the big question, can you prove a history of drug abuse? Can you get their criminal histories from the courthouse (you should be able to, but it may cost to do so). I can look up people in most states to see what they have been doing. I can try that if you want. Let me know if I can help you further.
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You are absolutly right for standing up in what you beleive in. just because you are from another country doesnt mean that you cant think on your own. This may sound really bad, but i think that his parents are closed minded people. Keep doin what you are doin. but try to keep the kids out of it whenever possible, that wouldnt be good for them to see. You also dont want you kids to think that it is ok that grandma controls you. You may want to consider going to see a counsolor a few times by yourself, venting, then bring the grandmother in for a few visits... apparently she wont listen to you, maybe she will take the time to listen to someone else that isnt a member of the family.\n\ni truly hope that things get better for you.
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Talk with the principal immediately. It is completely ridiculous that your child should be left to suffer for the sake of the lowest common denominator. Fight on behalf of your child.
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Definitely think about a restraining order.  That's probably a good idea, and by the way, you might consider keeping your cool..Just a thought.  It will look good if you guys have to go to court for any reason.  Otherwise, they might throw that in your face.  Be careful.  If he starts causing problems, call the cops immediately.  Where I live, that doesn't really help, but at least you would have given it a shot.