it is so annoyin like everybody says i am pretty enough to be a model and everything but i am not alloud to date and every body keeps asking me to go out with this totally dorky guy who has braces and doesnt clean his teeth it is so nasty and he is not that cute he is 15 and he looks like he is 23 or something but he is so nasty and i dont really feel like disobeying my parents and everybody picks on me sometimes cause i havent given away my first kiss yet and what should i should i do?
130784
do nothing and wait some day you will met the corect guy
92590
you sound young so tell him your parents won't let you date and your afraid of them finding out.
148613
hey dont beat yourself up over it ..im 18 and never had a bf  and i consider myself a really nice person..i guess the saying goes nice guys finish last which is a shame...maybe your trying to hard and it just doesnt work out when your with a girl ..you cant compare yourself with your friends because everyone is different...looks arent everything most girls are looking for a good personality and someone that will treat them nice...some girls are looking for the so called "bad boy" type which really gets them no where.. maybe your looking in the wrong places ..you can always try a dating service which my cousin did shes 32 ..she has met some nice ppl and shes now getting married to the guy from the dating service..or just ask some girl that you are attracted...just be yourself and have confidence in yourself..dont go up to the girl thinking why dont girls like me ..just take your time your young
252128
are you kidding?!?!? lol you have asked this question 5 times so far, all of them are just worded differently. now you have become a slut about it lol too funny. if your begging for someone to come go out with you and telling them that they can do anything to you....you either desperate, fat or ugly......williing to bet that your at least too of those.....kind of feel bad for you right now.
271414
Yes, I've been there. It sucks! But you have to be true to yourself. I let the guy know that I wasn't all about being his P.O.A. I wanted a relationship. I am not the type of girl that you can call whenever you want a booty-call. I told him that. I gave him a few chances to change how he was towards me, and he didn't. I told him I was tired of how he treated me, and I left. You have to be true to you, and don't give in to be with someone. Don't give him the chance to use you for sex. Make him want you before he wants sex. You are young. You will find someone who wants to be with you for you and not for sex. Make the person wait. If he's into you, he'll wanna be with you for you before you sleep with him. As far as the following, and calling thing. Tell him he needs to get over it, and stop his crap. If he doesn't, and it gets to where you are scared (past the point of just plain tired of it) I would look into a restraining order, or talk with a police officer or counselor at school as far as what you should do, but be careful. Dont let something like that go, either. That could get ugly, and scary.
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don't rush it sweetheart your pretty and it takes boys awhile to see that at your age,  because your at the age of developement and growing up faster then they are and becoming grown up faces a new world of what boys notice when they get older too., if they seem cruel it's because they don't know what to say but it will come to them when they grow up too. enjoy being the little sweetheart that you are, and time will make them all crazy about you too. and you'll have them calling you and wanting to be around you so much you'll be asking ways to get rid of them here.
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It is very normal as a teenager not to like yourself. So many things are changing both within your body and life that it would be strange not to have such feelings.\n\nTake care of yourself and try to accept the things about yourself that you don't like. With me it was being shy and my nose. I am still shy and I have not had a nose job but I finally accepted that these things are only a problem if I let them be.\n\nThings will change again and you will see them differently. Good luck for the future from a very old Teenager!!!!!!
360160
okay, i have been in your shoes so i can understand where you are coming from, its not easy dating  a white guy,most times when i and friends go out (they'd stare, smile, wink), they do all that but never approach, 2ndly am still a virgin, am 19 and am in my 3rd year of university..so u know what....take this from me....don't worry..talk to people, being shy can be very good but you need to come out of the cocoon okay (at your own pace) don't mind what everybody says, it's your life.....i saw your pics and your'e a pretty girl so just go with the flow for now......i was also raised to feel the guy had to make the first move,  but you soon realise its a 2 way street (someday your'e gonna feel daring and you'll go for it) just take things easy.....when it comes, it comes..if not go out there and get it (cautiously)......as for having a child like face...watever....it's your face.....if they aren' t impressed by that wow them with your mind.......\nhope this helps......
649897
i know its hard baby girl..but you have got to get a backbone and love you for you...YOU MUST ignore everyone else and be happy with yourself..i've been in your shoes before ..wondering why everyone is popular except me...or what made me "lame"........or how come couldn't be like everyone else....but I had to learn that everyone is DIFFERENT your supposed to be DIFFERENT.....\n\nTrust me NOBODY is going to give two shits what those popular kids did when they were in high school, once you leave that little world you know as middle school and high school you will see that there is FAR MORE in this world to worry about ..(trust me).....IF YOU TRY TO PLEASE EVERYONE ELSE IN THIS WORLD..THEN YOU WILL END UP HATING YOURSELF...WHY?...BECAUSE YOU CANT PLEASE EVERYONE IN THIS WORLD......one way or another someone is going to have something to say about you...and you have just got to learn how to keep your head up and tell them that hey..if they dont like YOU FOR YOU..they can just buzz off......\n\nDONT EVER TRY TO CHANGE YOURSELF FOR ANYBODY..BECAUSE IN THE END YOU ONLY NEED TO PLEASE YOU....IF YOU RESPECT YOURSELF,AND  HAVE DIGNITY, AND DON'T TAKE ANY BULL SH** FROM ANYONE..THEN PEOPLE WILL HAVE NO CHOICE BUT TO RESPECT YOU OR LEAVE YOU ALONE......\n\nyou want to be so "perfect" in everybody else's eyes...but have you ever tried to be "perfect" in your own eyes first?.....please you, be happy with you FIRST....YOU COME FIRST,,,,,so pick up your backbone put it back in your BACK and walk like you have some pride young lady.........YOU are UNIQUE ..\n\nthink like this..YOU DONT NEED TO PLEASE ANYONE, THEY NEED TO PLEASE YOU!.....
495686
You say this guy is a nice guy but if he were to base his feelings for you on your appearance and materialstic things, he really is not a nice guy. He may seem nice but that would mean he is shallow and not worth your time when there are people who will appreciate you for you - everything about you.\n\nYou sound like your self-esteem is a bit low and sound pretty down on yourself. Why don't you try to feel better about yourself. If you don't like something about your appearance that you think you can change, try to change it. You can lose weight - just do some fun cardio-vascular exercises three to five days a week and try to eat healhty - veggies, lean protein, fruits, some calcium and brown grains - avoid carbs and sugar. You can lose weight very quickly. It is a shame you are afraid to meet him because of how you feel about yourself so if you want to never feel like this again and be happy with who you are and what you look like, try to exercise, drink a lot of water and eat a healthy and balanced diet. It will come off sooner than you think you know. And you mention pimples - why not see a dermatologist and try to get some prescription medicine to get rid of the pimples - or try Pro-Active (online) - it is supposed to work well I have heard. I am not sure what you mean with your eye - if you mean bags under your eyes, try to use some sliced cucumbers or tea bags to reduce the swelling or buy preperation H (hemmerhoid cream) to use on the bags - it is used by celebrities for under-eye bags - seriously... it is a trick that many people don't know about and it works b/c it acts as an anti-inflammatory.\n\nTo me, it sounds like you should feel good about who you are - you like who you are on the inside and that is the most important because we can' t really change who we are. These other things that you think are so unattractive - you can change them if you really wanted to - so change them. Why not? Just do it a few times and you will enjoy it and even look forward to it- try to get a friend to exercise with you.\n\nIf you do meet him and he is nasty or leaves and does not call you - shake it OFF because you would not want some shallow, mean guy like that anyway. If you are really scared, send him an email telling him what you look like before you go meet him - and then you will know if he responds or not. Then, you don't have to feel embarrassed meeting him face to face. Also, be careful - you don't know who he is and you don't say where you met him - there are tons of psychos out there. If you are under 18 - DO NOT MEET HIM UNDER ANY CIRCUMSTANCES!!! That is the way all these girls disappear and get killed. So, if you are 18+, meet him if you want to in a public place - get yourself there and back not with him and even bring a friend - it is safer that way. But if you think he might not accept you, tell him over the phone or in an email first and see what he does. And don't be sad if he does not call again - be happy that you don't have to waste anymore time with such a nasty guy. I am suprised that he never asked what you look like though - most guys do I hear pretty quickly.. .did you ever lie to him about your appearance - I would simply write an email or talk to him on the phone and mention it and hear his reaction and then see if he still wants to meet. There is nothing wrong with you so why wouldn't he? If he doesn't , he is obnoxious anyway.\n\nTry to ask someone to help you get a nice outfit if you do meet him, use some cover up and makeup (go to the mall they can help you there) - or even in a drugstore they can recommend things. - Try to look nice, dress nice - do your hair nice and don't worry.. There is so much more to life than what we look like - that is the least important thing. You don't know what he looks like either so maybe he is nervous and feeling the same way.\n\nCheer up ! We are all beautiful in our own way!\n:o)
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okay. i have been in the same place u r before. i was goin out with this guy that had made out with someone before and i hadn't. and all his friends were tellin me he was prolly gona want to make out with me. so i was really really nervous. but wen it accually came down to it, it was so easy. cuz we jus went in lyke we were huggin and then we started ta make out. it's actually fun. so don't be nervous jus make shure u brush ur teeth before and ur chewed gum. lolz. other wise its really gross. also....how old r u? i just turned 13. jus wonderin. wel thers ur advice. GOOD LUCK!
350773
Just continue to live your and be confident in yourself. Don't seem so desperate and anxious. It's okay, everything will come in time. So what you're obese? You know what that means? You weed out all the shallow people and you'll find someone really good. Thats how it was for me...I was 17 when I had my first kiss..and I was kinda fat...and I eventually lost 55 pounds about. But I was glad someone accepted me for me. All the time I was down because I didnt have a boyfriend and everyone else had one and when I was least expecting to meet someone, I did. I was with that person for about a year too. Realize how beautiful you are without a boyfriend and then one will come.
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This boy is doing exactly what you seem to want..he is noticing you but in a very clumsy way. He doesn't know how to go about getting a reaction from you so he is trying every angle, sometimes sweet, sometimes sneaky, but always for the same reason. I would say he is behaving in a typical adolescent boyish way.\nWhy don't you ask him for a date, that should put him out of his agony :-)
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Sweetie, just be his friend. If you get a chance to get him alone, talk to him and just let him know that you like him as a friend but you usually don't talk to him around his friends because you know that they will make fun of you. You can't make someone like you so if you offer him friendship and he rejects it, then he's just a shallow jerk and who the hell needs him anyway? Hold your head up high and be proud. Don't let them make you feel less than you are. I can tell that you have a good heart and you're a very sweet girl, so if they don't like you, you know we do! I think you're very special and sometimes people in this world just don't know what to do with a good, genuine heart like yours. If they don't, then they deserve your friendship in the first place. It may not be much, but you do have us and we'll be your friend. The people on YA are good, caring people who don't give a damn what you look like. And don't say that you're unattractive. Email me and I'll give you a few tips to improve your appearance if you're really that concerned about it. Just realize that true beauty comes from within and from what I can tell, you are a true beauty. I've seen your answers and questions and your a sweet soul with a beautiful heart, so the one's that don't think so can just piss off! God bless.
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Your too young to deal with this now, wait till your 15 or 16. come up with goals like your attitude and the weight issue. if you feel your not attractive weight only makes your problem bigger. Lose the weight and get a body men will want then facial looks wont be as important. take your time your still a baby.
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OMG- You're ME! I am the same way. I good with people, but I'm not good WITH people, if that makes sense. I know I'm sweet, nice, generous and lots of other positive things. I tend to put myself down before others get a chance to, but my self esteem is improving. I have a BF who adores me and I'm making a serious effort keep our flame going. I'd say you should go into a clothibg store and just try on several different outfits just to see how cute you can be in differnt clothes. Do your hair a different way and try to be social with people. I know it's easier said than done because I'm like a brick wall around people I dont know. It take a LOT for me to get comfy with new people, and my "open" is still not considered open to others. My BF said I need to let loose and communicate more and just be relaxed. Maybe you overthink things, like me- always wondering what everyone else thinks... just let go and stop worrying. A BF will come sooner o later, dont settle for just anyone, make sure he's worthy of you. Good luck! By the way, I am a 21 y.o. plus sized girl & I think I look great. Just dress to flatter your body type and have confidence.
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why are you so obsessed with his looks?\n\nsounds kinda selfish\n\ngo 'head, give me a poor rating i really don't care. I just pray you grow up one day and see that there is more to a person than their appearance. Especially someone you would call your "boyfriend"