I'm married and I think I made a big mistake!!well it gos like this when 2 people get married they become as one in gods eyes but in my eyes if she doesn't help out with her responseabitily then she has to go?I need a good answer?
129264
Never let anyone tell you marriage is 50-50. If a person can't or won't give 100%...their all...they're going to have problems in that marriage. Takes 2 to make it work.
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Well, if you have tried flowers etc, then maybe it is time for you to see if her parents or a friend of hers can help you with this. Sometimes it takes more than one person to make someone understand what you've done wrong and that you feel badly for it. Get some help, get her mom or a sister or her friend to talk to her for you, tell them how sorry you are and that you want to do right by her. Then maybe you can set up a meeting with her and talk to her about it. I hope it works!:) I would suggest if she does take you back to go to a premarital counsellor, to help with things like constructive problem solving and how to compromise. It has really helped my marriage! Good luck and Peace:)
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Well if it was just part one of your question and things were great now and life felt good for you then I would have said let it go...however now that you are seeing him IM somebody and asking her to go to a game,etc and you didn't even know about it nor were you asked? I feel that whatever is going on, within your marriage, isn't heading for anything good. I think there are issues either from the past or in the present that need to be talked about.If you guys can take the time, to talk about them and how it makes you feel, etc, do it NOW! If you can't, and you need an objective third party, go and get counseling and keep working at it. However, do something now before it's too late!!! I will say a prayer for you both!!! Good luck!
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hi, \n It is a hard thing to be married to someone who does not share ur beliefs.... the Bible states that when a man and a woman r joined together in marriage they r not to separate.... 1 Cor 7:12-16 gives a firm direction from the apostle Paul for the very situation u r in and why he feels this way....\nGod bless and be with u in this time\nShaz\nx x x x x x
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I did.\n\nMy marriage was in danger of falling over.\n\nIf a person is truly committed, they will do this. At the very least, go for yourself and clarify things in your mind.
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Mindbogglingly rude.  I hope you sent your regrets:  "Congratulations on the beginning of your new life with your husband.  I regret that I cannot attend, as I will be spending time with mine."\n\nI disagree with the suggestion to send an RSVP saying you'll both come.  If he wasn't invited, he wasn't invited.  You also can't ask her "did you forget to invite him?"\n\nWhen it's all over and some time has gone by, see if you can talk this out with her and whether she has an issue with your spouse.
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If youve made a marriage commitment you have no excuse to dishonor it.\n\nOtherwise, look into the reasons for the failure. Its important to overlook trivial things. You will have trials in any love relationship. If you cant take it now, how will you handle the really bad? \nHow do you know it is doomed to be a waste? My guess is youre guessing yourself. Or that youve already decided. I seriously encourage you to inquire of God rather than us here who have so little knowledge compared to the Most High.\n\nPrayer is your most valuable tool. Use it. \n***************************\nTo therealdeal deal below. Divorce is wrong always. God only permits it in severe situations and even then it is not pleasing to Him. After all He puts up with us and takes us back each time we betray Him.\n\nMatthew \n31"It has been said, 'Anyone who divorces his wife must give her a certificate of divorce.'[f] 32But I tell you that anyone who divorces his wife, except for marital unfaithfulness, causes her to become an adulteress, and anyone who marries the divorced woman commits adultery.\n\nMatthew 19\nDivorce \n 1When Jesus had finished saying these things, he left Galilee and went into the region of Judea to the other side of the Jordan. 2Large crowds followed him, and he healed them there. \n 3Some Pharisees came to him to test him. They asked, "Is it lawful for a man to divorce his wife for any and every reason?" \n\n 4"Haven't you read," he replied, "that at the beginning the Creator 'made them male and female,'[a] 5and said, 'For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh'[b]? 6So they are no longer two, but one. Therefore what God has joined together, let man not separate." \n\n 7"Why then," they asked, "did Moses command that a man give his wife a certificate of divorce and send her away?" \n\n 8Jesus replied, "Moses permitted you to divorce your wives because your hearts were hard. But it was not this way from the beginning. 9I tell you that anyone who divorces his wife, except for marital unfaithfulness, and marries another woman commits adultery." \n\n 10The disciples said to him, "If this is the situation between a husband and wife, it is better not to marry." \n\n 11Jesus replied, "Not everyone can accept this word, but only those to whom it has been given. 12For some are eunuchs because they were born that way; others were made that way by men; and others have renounced marriage[c]because of the kingdom of heaven. The one who can accept this should accept it."
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Now what exactly is she unhappy with?  My guess is she's not giving you the full story.  Did she suddenly decide that a married life and the responsibilities that go with it, is not what she wanted in the first place?  Was she upset with you because you were gone and she was feeling lonely?  Is there another man in the picture?  If you are even going to try to save your marriage, you need to do a heart to heart talk with her and find out what she wants out of the marriage.  If she wants out, then I guess she has made her choice.  Not much you can do about it then.
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that is great!!! When someone vows to save that for YOU for marriage you should cling to that as a sign that she REALLY loves you!! Respect her is what you do.... be there for her b/c she can't stop doing those things on her own... I promise you will be SOOO much happier in the long run if you HELP her work this through!
174000
If you married this person for better or worse than please tell me what happened to that vow. Goodness this is stupid to even think about running out on the person you married when they need you the most//////////
110694
I don't think there is any easy way to adjust and go through a divorce without some questions, hurt, anger and thinking you are a total failure for not being able to save a marriage. Just pray a lot....Nicole
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WOW! Good for you that you admitted this-that says alot about you.  I know how you feel and i have been in her place before-the best thing you can do is show her that you are sorry and that what you said to her was something said in anger and SHOW her that you do respect her and that you love her--SHOW interest in what she wants and likes--be patient with her because she does need time to get over this--i know it took me a long time to get over my feelings after the first argument my husband and i had-so give her time and show her that you know you screwed up! Give her the things she likes but do NOT try to buy her back with gifts--show her that you care and love her above anything else--even your pride!  Sacrifice a your favorite things and do the things she likes to do--she will see that and your actions will help her get over her hurt--you are married and time will heal things and help the both of you become stronger--you will see that just because you show her you care and give in on somethings you wont become less of a man--on the contrary she will respect you and love you more for that--believe me i have been there--and i am in love with my husband way more now than i was when we were "novios de manitas sudadas" GOOD LUCK and be strong!
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You have to now figure out if this is good for you.  She apparently doesn't know what she wants.  Either she's fearful of the life that could include being with the same person until death, or she can't handle being faithful.  She's hurting you, but does she realize it?  Have you ever just sat down with her to figure out what the deal is?  I'm sorry to say that I think a divorce would be the best thing.  She obviously has some issues, and no one can get through to her.
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We all make mistakes because we are human, so why is this a reason to fear her? We should never have to fear the one we love. Marriage can be tough enough without bringing the fear factor into it. I would suggest sitting and talking with her about what she expects out of the marriage...K
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She could be like a lot of women...meaning that eventhough she's in a sh*tty marriage, she's still gonna be faithful to him because the bond of marriage does mean something to her. If you try and push the issue with her you're only gonna make her uncomfortable and she'll push you away. I say just bide your time cause eventually she'll realize she's with a d*ckhead and leave his *ss. We all smarten up at some point :D.
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you are not selfish and don't be pushed into it, if you're not ready then it isn't right for you or her. be honest with her tell her she's the only one for you and you love her but just not ready for that big of a commitment. she wouldn't like being pushed into making a big decision like that either and lets face it if you have to force someone into a commitment then that says an awful lot about your self esteem and trust issues. wait until you are both ready, your marriage will be better for it.
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I think you need to listen to your heart and make a decision. Don't stay married if you aren't TRUELY happy, it isn't worth it. Take some time to just think without any outside distractions. :)