When Life gets you down. family, bills, work where do you turn for awnsers or do you just battle it out? and if so why? does it ever feel like." what does it matter anyway?" what do you do to change this or do you just live with this feeling. and why? I find that most people are routine alot of them are like cattle they go to work same time, eat the same time and do things according to what society wants. How do you break that cycle or routine without loosing everything? I may be rambling or just looking for various awnsers. Or Maybe there is no question just a statement. any way this one goes you still get your points and i have killed time improperly.
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A professor stood before his philosophy class and had some items in front of him. When the class began, he wordlessly picked up a very large and empty mayonnaise jar and proceeded to fill it with golf balls. He then asked the students if the jar was full. They agreed that it was. \n\nThe professor then picked up a box of pebbles and poured them into the jar. He shook the jar lightly. The pebbles rolled into the open areas between the golf balls. He then asked the students again if the jar was full. They agreed it was. The professor next picked up a box of sand and poured it into the jar. Of course, the sand filled up everything else. He asked once more if the jar was full. The students responded with an unanimous "yes."\n\nThe professor then produced two cups of coffee from under the table and poured the entire contents into the jar effectively filling the empty space between the sand. The students laughed.\n\n"Now," said the professor as the laughter subsided, "I want you to recognize that this jar represents your life. The golf balls are the important things--your family, your children, your health, your friends and your favorite passions---and if everything else was lost and only they remained, your life would still be full.\n\nThe pebbles are the other things that matter like your job, your house and your car. The sand is everything else---the small stuff. "If you put the sand into the jar first," he continued, "there is no room for the pebbles or the golf balls. The same goes for life. If you spend all your time and energy on the small stuff you will never have room for the things that are important to you.\n\n"Pay attention to the things that are critical to your happiness. Play with your children. Take time to get medical checkups. Take your spouse out to dinner. Play another 18. There will always be time to clean the house and fix the disposal. Take care of the golf balls first---the things that really matter. Set your priorities. The rest is just sand."\n\nOne of the students raised her hand and inquired what the coffee represented. The professor smiled. "I'm glad you asked. It just goes to show you that no matter how full your life may seem, there's always room for a couple of cups of coffee with a friend."
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yup I think everyone goes through this phase most people call it like an identity crisis, some people say it's depression, how I see it is well really more like a situation some lead to catch 22's and some you really have to think to solve, my advice is do what makes you feel happy, if you want to streak down the block go for it hope your a fast runner though or get a fat cop next to Krispy Kremes but really it's not good to look at this in a down sort of way, I mean most people look at Einstein he didn't really know he was going to solve E=MC2 he just figured it out one day. Everything will come to you eventually and you'll find out, I've got the same problem, I am 23 and haven't even started college yet...so just take it a day at a time a live it like each day is your first and you'll make it ;)
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When you are this down then you do not usually see things rationally.\n\nTry doing something new and different, something that you have not done or tried for some time. Remember, the time and resources that you spend on this should actually benefit you emotionally, career wise or financially. \n\nIn essence, it should serve a goal of your life not just show as a loss of time and effort at the and of the day. You will feel much better since it would have increased your own worth, reinstated your pride, improved your emotional standing or add to your financial picture.
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why are you feeling this way???  if the situation is that the person left you, do you think they are feeling this way.. probably not.life is about living and learning. yes I'm sure you are feeling bad but it is not a life or death situation. and if that's the case check yourself into a hospital.
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I'm in the same situation as you.  I think you have to take matters into your own hands, but that requires motivation.  And the lack of motivation is where I'm stuck at right now.  Sorry, this isn't much help.  But I just want to let you know that there are other people who have the same problems.
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I'm feeling really down right now too but my life isn't going good at all so that's my reason. As for you, try doing something that you like. Think about things that make you happy and make you smile. Everybody has moments when they are down. I'm sure yours will pass soon. Maybe you just need to clear your mind and get some rest and relaxation. I hope you feel better.
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I had a stress problem years ago and I tried Kava Kava for a while. It did help; it kind of slows things down without having a sedative effect. But what helped me the most was changing my outlook on life. I had to realize (and I mean that really deep down realization that you can feel in your head, heart, and soul) that all the worry and stress in the world wasn't going to help me. Stressing about money isn't going to pay the bills. Stressing about a relationship isn't going to fix it. Stressing about your job isn't going to make it better. Stressing over other people will not change them. So, really, what's the point in it? Nothing. You have to take charge and be proactive in your life. When you feel yourself getting stressed out about something, think "What do I need to do to make this situation better?" Then get a plan and do it. And don't worry about it. If your plan works, great. But if it doesn't, just think of another one.
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I have had several times in my life such as yours. The best thing to do is to try to look at the good things in your life rather than the bad. Life has many ups and downs, however the downs stick out more than the good so it is important to try to focus on those things that make you happy. Time tells all and things will surely get better. Your attempts to make them better will only help along the way.
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Grief and grieving is an individual thing. Accept how you feel now. You will only make yourself feel bad by feeling guilt about this. Nothing will be gained by punishing yourself this way. You see there is a time for tears, always. Please be prepared though for your sadness to rise up and make itself felt when you least expect it. It could happen when you are watching a favourite TV show or a DVD movie that you have seen many times, but on this occasion something said along with the music that plays in the background will all of a sudden overwhelm you with sadness and remind you so sharply of your losses that you will be unable to stop the tears falling. This too, is OK. You see we are practical people who have many day to day activities to get through to enable us to live in the manner we see fit. The world keeps revolving and sun comes up each day and goes down at night to be replaced by the moons light. Life goes on and so do we. But our feelings of loss and sadness remain with us for quite some time, sometimes forever. As time goes by, year by year, the sharpness of the pain eases, especially as we have new happinesses and new challenges which give our life purpose. My friend, feel your pain today or tomorrow or next year it is OK. Just recognise that it is there and accept it as a natural human response. Time takes care of all of our ills. Life is truly to be lived...not grieved.
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I THINK EVERYBODY HAS DAYS LIKE THIS. BUT IF YOU WANT TO GET PASSED THIS. MOVE AROUND CALL SOMEONE ON THE PHONE WHO WILL HAVE SOMETHING GOOD TO TALK ABOUT. JUST FIND SOMETHING TO PICK YOURSELF UP.
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hey, hello :)\nseems like you know you have some issues to overcome, i say you are almost there!\ndon't be miserable. everyone goes through this kind of emotions @ least once in our lifetime.\ni know this feeling too. sometimes, you feel so empty, miserable & unworthy. and every time,when you try to take 1 step forward, you end up taking 2 steps backward.\ntry to start a routine of exercizing, mix with positive people & read joke books.\ndon't ever indulge in self-pity & regrets. the darkest hours are just before dawn. life is a grindstone; and whether it grinds a man down or polishes him depends on what stuff he's made of.\nif you really look around you, everyone has problems too. what makes them happy is that they try to overcome their problems one @ a time.
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I have not lost a parent. I have lost a brother. We were approx. 12 months apart in age. He died drinking and driving when I was 20 and he was 19. I was devastated, but never cried about it. He and I had talked about death but not our own. There isn't a day goes by I don't think about him. I am sad, on the inside, but not depressed. I can talk about him with great pride and conviction without crying a drop. And about the loss..... is there anyway to describe the feeling of emptiness and loss? No, but we can not dwell on what we can not change. I do know that my life would be completely different if he were here. I moved 1000 miles from home, just to get away from the sadness, it didn't help. But it did change the whole direction of my life. I will not say that it is a mental illness to have feeling like this, but it is very difficult to express the way you truly feel. I try not to talk about it but feel better when I do. His birthday was last week 10/25. Mine is today.
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It sounds like you're becoming a bit depressed to me.  This happens at times of change and when things are going poorly in your life.  It's nothing to be terribly worried about.  Here's what I do when I get depressed (I have chronic depression, as well as a couple of other mental conditions, so my situation is a bit different than yours, but these will hopefully help).\n\n1) Don't beat yourself up over things.  Sometimes you are tired or have a headache.  Sometimes you need a day to rest and take a load off.  Taking a personal day where you don't do much cleaning or such is nothing to be ashamed of.  Just remember you can't do this EVERYDAY.\n\n2)  Make a written schedule.  Write down EVERYTHING you want to get done and the time to get it done by.  Be sure to include of couple of minutes of personal time somewhere in there.  Then follow it!  If you don't get everything done, then cut down your me-time the next day as a sort of repercussion.  This really helps me out a lot.\n\n3)  Smile for five minutes, even if there isn't anything to smile about.  Try to avoid negative thoughts, just smile.  This sounds strange, but it actually does help your attitude and mood.\n\n4)  Try to exercise daily.  This is a cardio exercise, not a weightlifting sort of thing.  10 to 30 minutes really helps you lift your mood.  Listen to music during this, something high energy.\n\n5)  Talk about how you feel with a personal friend or family member.  Discuss how you feel and don't be afraid to show emotion.\n\n6)  If this doesn't help, you may want to consider some sort of chemical treatment, which can be described by a doctor or psychiatrist.  This is not something you have to take for the rest of your life and is something you take along WITH all of the other things I suggested.  I hope that you can feel better soon and if you need any more help, my im is felix_dovetail.
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Wow that's an incredible question...I'll do my best to give an incredible answer.\n\nFirst..YOU DON'T SUCK! And only your thought of you do, you need to give yourself room to be human.. we all make mistakes, sometimes more than once or twice or even a dozen times before we start beating ourselves up enough to say.. "Well this isn't working, time to change tactics"\n\nDoing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results is the definition of insanity!! \n\nComplaining however is whole different thing in itself..Is it really that you're complaining about it... or needing feedback from an outsider's view to see if your decisions are with sound reason..and as long as you're looking for more info on what went wrong..and learning from them.. \n\nGiving up that right to complain happens when you aren't at all conscience that you have any responsibility in what has happened .... blaming circumstances, blaming others, blaming anything else but what you've personally contributed that made this outcome a reality is what voids the complaint department to me.  And it's okay to complain about yourself, as long as you're learning what you did doesn't work, and try a new path next time, and if the same result happen again.. and you complain.. to me that means you're looking for someone else's view to help see what you might have missed in the situation.\n\nGood Example?..Well I am a work-a-holic, and help-a-holic, When I have time I give it.. and where I see troubles I try to help with it. My hubby's granny had many troubles with credit cards, bills, health and a live in son that most of the time wasn't employed..So I took every path imaginable to bring back value and calmness to her life, but you can't help those who won't help themselves.. so as much as I tried to help in different venues, it was fruitless...you can't invite a person to live with you to help them, for them to want to bring the problem with them to you. And I don't hear them complain anymore since my hubby and I have made several offers to help, and they don't accept those terms, it's the only terms we are able to give. So you make peace with that, wish them well, and pray for them. Then you move forward.
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I need a break when nothing makes sense anymore.\nAnd when the break is over... i don't feel refreshed (or maybe just  a little) but mostly I'm angry that the break is over.
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Let me ask you this.  If you had a time machine and could change any event in your past, would that make you feel better about yourself today?  If it would then realize what it is about that event that is sabotaging you today.  If it is a past thing, often times we know intellectually that we are ok but our emotions are still tied to that past event.  Emotions stay the same no matter how old we get.  We cant stop the pain in life sometimes but we can increase the tools to deal with it.  When you dropped something as a young child you cried.  You can drop the same item now and it is ok, why?  You have information now that tells intellectually it is ok.  The emotions are the same but the tools to deal with that event are in place.  You have already experienced that event and it no longer shocks you.  So what is it about your life that is shocking you now?\n\nWhatever the issue is past, present, you need to see what is eating away at it.  It is ok to feel bad, it is the flipside of the coin to feeling happy.  The problem is if we become depressed about it, all life's issues become sensative and bigger problems than they are.\n\nYoung or old we all feel down at times.  Some just hide it better or keep themselves occupied to endure those moments.  Sometimes we feel like we are being taken somewhere and have no way to steer it.  The key is planning what you want to do.  Life is 90% how you react to it.  If you think you are successful and a good person, people will be convinced of it too.  Most reality comes from someone's perception.  They believed it and it became so.\n\nDepression is impression without expression.  Something gets you down, find a way to express it.\n\nIf you kind of hate yourself then you have not completely made full judgement on yourself yet.  If you hate yourself than you are having an expectation that you are not at yet.  Find out what that is and is it a valid expectation?\n\nGood luck to you!
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Good grief, cherish it!!  Don't worry about what might or might not happen!  I think in this stressful, sometimes negative world we dwell too much on the bad days! Good ones happen too!  Tonight, write down why today was so great.  Then next time you have a bad one, look at what you wrote down and remember it with affection!  Life isn't so bad!