we have been together 6 months and we love each other so much, but for some reason we can't stop arguing about every little thing and i want us to go back to normal and everything be ok again. what to do?????
132669
Well the more you love someone the more there is to argue about. You want to make sure the other person is safe and not doing something bad so you argue. What I think you should do is go out on more dates. And recendle that fire you guys seem to have lost. Do something that you have never done and never tough you would do. Good luck
167728
I have never heard of any couple who doesn't argue. This is especially true when there are increased stresses in their lives. Having just been pregnant in the summer and in a long term relationship I know exactly what goes on. But then the arguments go away within ten minutes so you can't take minor issues to heart. Eventually the grass will get cut, the dishes will be done, as with the laundry. Just hang in there.
180114
You should really try. I mean, you both are together now. You shouldn't be afraid. Love each other, don't aviod one another.
411727
couples have arguments all the time.  Especially after a year of seeing each other.  Don't worry and call him.  Let him know you still care for him and want to work out whatever it is that you disagreed on in the first place.  That is, if that is what you want.  If not move on and find another guy.
453704
this reminds me of my relationship.. it's hectic. give him some time.. you already apologized to him. Tell him to call you whenever he feels like talking to you. GIve him some time you already said sorry so that's good that you've accepted your error.. but yea goodluck... try not to disrespect each other.. once you disrespect each other then it's really hard to work things out... and remember everyone has arguments... just be straight foward with him and tell him that you already apologized to him and to please not be in a bad mood... communication is the key! goodluck hopefully he's not moody anymore... and ask him why he's moody maybe something else was making him moody :P
590225
Well you could try explaining to them how it makes you feel and how it affects you. You may need to speak with them separately and when they are calm, Tell them how it makes you feel and that it hurts to hear them fighting and arguing as you love them both. It may help calm the disagreements, but it probably will not eliminate them.
230726
Sounds to me like you need a break, at least for awhile. You need to re-assess where you're headed in this relationship, and whether or not , that's where you WANT it to go. Take a while off, and get away from him.....see if you really want to continue....or not!
166791
Sometimes it's easier pointing out our partners flaws then our own.But we all have them. Tell him that the situation opened your eyes on seeing how he felt towards it and ask him to forgive you. In the end he'll do the same even if it takes a while. Just note that every time you have an argument remember whats important like when you first met and how you would get those butterflies in you stomach and just reminisce. It really helps ease the situation and it reminds you that arguing with someone that you care that much about is stupid.
530319
Really your not fighting, your probably just bickering. Its like adult going pains especially if you just moved in together. My fiance and I were the same way. I even gave my ring back!!! but we went to a communication specialist (couples therapist) and learned some tricks to communicating. I know its hard and you start thinking that things won't work out, but if you are truly meant to be, you'll be OK.  We had all the same issues you mentioned.Try this, sit and talk it out, if one of you is a blabber use a 5 min timer so you don't get off track of the topic at hand. Don't allow yourselves to deviate off topic nothing gets solved that way. Each of you should list your gripes with each other and go through the list,pick a time where you can really talk( no TV, no phones).  It will take a few tries before you can get through it with out yelling. No name calling and no blameing, start sentences like "going foward  blah blah blah"Cleaning? write up all the chores that need to get done and you together, divvy them up, then once chores are committed to on paper, its a non issue. The hard thing is  understanding that you don't get everything you want anymore it's all about 50/50( which sucks sometimes, but that's life) And there is no shame in meeting with somebody once a week if that's what you guys need, its not easy, it's one of the most stressful times in  your life. In some cases your insurance will cover it under adult therapy or under the the wide range of depression (even though its not,they just bill it that way and its legit because the situation makes you sad and stressed, don't feel labeled as depressed). Best of luck to you both
131133
I guess the answer is WHY are you breaking up.  Are you just wanting the attention that a fight provides?  If that's the case you need to do some serious sorting out.\n\nIf you just can't get along and are getting back together because you don't like being alone then do yourselves a favour and end it so that you can both move on.
75365
i definately think you guys should take some time apart try and start over again like you didnt even know each other dont think that just because you guys are not together means that you are going to loose you closeness from what it sounds like you will loose it the longer you are together i say take a break still see each other and get to know each other but dont live right on top of each other trust me it will not help the situation at all.
77335
Sounds like you are both in a better place to have an adult relationship now. When people ask about getting back together with an old flame I always ask them to try and think about what is going to be differant this time so you don't end up breaking things off again.\n\nYou are your ex need to have a serious discussion about what went wrong last time and how you can BOTH make sure that those types of things don't happen again.\n\nBest of luck
68666
Instead of fighting her on it go out and do something yourself, instead of worring about what she is doing. Relationships that have these problems dont last, so if you love her you need to love everything about her or move on.
81492
As corny and very used as it may sound, communication is basic, my husband and I have been married only for 3 years but the first year was like that, fighting over everything, but, we got tired of it, sat down and talked about what triggers our outbursts and started out with little things and moved up to  bigger ones,  I don't know for how long you have been with him or how serious it is, but you need to compromise and be commited to the relationship, besides  if you do one unexpected act of kindness towards each other, the other will be willing to reciprocate and it will make him feel you care and it will make things smoother. That worked for us and now things are a lot better.
191447
If you love him find a way to work this out  get counciling if necessary but stop the fighting.  Life is so very short and you have a lot less time to be together than you might think.  \n\nMy husband died 4 months ago and I regret ever moment spent angry and argueing I would give anything, do anything to be able to have an arguement with him.  If you love forget the rest and hold on to each other while you still have the chance.  You will not care one bit if you bowed down to him alive once that man dies and leaves you a brokenhearted widow.
613305
Honey, you already admitted that the relationship was hard to handle. It's time to let it go. Perhaps you're annoyed that it wasn't you who ended it; or more probably that you were so easily replaced. Let it go. It's time for it to end and both of you need to get on with your lives.
382209
How long have you been together, and living together?  Did this just start, or has it been an ongoing problem?  I would ask him what's going on and suggest counseling if it's bad enough to start affecting your everyday lives!  Good luck!