I have so many friends that are gay, and they are just the cooliest friends ever, but why are guys so mean my friends do not hit on anyone that is not gay. And I just don't think it is right. I have 2 gay friends that live in my town but it is such a small town they are even afraid to leave there houses.Noone is open minded here or alot of other places but here is bad everyone here is gangster wanna bes.
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I think this has something to do with being branded gay themselves.It's stigmatic, although very narrow minded, it's still out there all over the world. People are afraid of anything, or one in this case who are different and make quick assumptions.Hey, I had two great big trucky guys living across the road from me, both looked like rough rednecks, but they where very gay.Lovely guys though. Men are very egoccentric when it comes to their own manhood.
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Nothing, maybe he just doesn't have your personality. He keeps his thoughts to himself. Many guys are like this, it doesn't mean they are gay or bi. Hell I' am like that mosto f the time unless I drink then you can't shut me up. Don't be afraid of this friend even if he turns out to be gay or bi. Just.... be his friend. And don't worry about his sexuality he will tell you if you need to know.
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As a gay guy I think it has to do with rejection and all that. Homosexual men get tons of abuse and are sometimes in need of counseling to deal with it properly. I myself am a super nice guy but some are so suspicious of being liked because so many people abuse them and rail against them that they end up doing the same thing to a guy that approaches them.\n\n  Another thing is that some people think of us all as sluts out for one thing and since society in general reject the idea of homosexual covanant relationships it becomes self fulfilling prophesy in some cases. Some guys have no manners and grab in ways they would not think of doing to a woman in bars and social settings so ....
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NO... I have gay friends to. and some people think imgay but im not so dont let what people say make you feel bad.
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is english your second language? and why are you asking this in the gay/lesbian section? do you mean those type of boy/girl- friends?\n\nmost people don't have a boyfriend or girlfriend because they are losers and are socially inept.
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I have a friend who is gay.He grew up being my brothers' friend.We were always together,people thought we were a couple.This went on for years.Then one night he tried to commit suicide.Thank God he called someone to help him.He said he thought it would be best if he killed himself because he was afraid we would not accept him anymore.Boy was he wrong!We did not not shun him.He was & is still part of the family.We don't treat him any different now.We never will.I know that a lot of people say homosexuality is a sin.But it isn't my place or anyone else's to judge you or any other gay person.I know my friend is alot happier now that he is not secretive about his sexual prefferences.I have called my friend but he has not returned any of my calls,but i know he is fine because his mother has told me.Whatever his reason for not calling me,is his choice.Maybe i was just in his life for a season.Who knows?I still consider him my friend.I know he is Happy with his partner,so i am not worried about his well being.I would never turn my friends away,no matter what.Well unless they did harm to my family.That is a different thing.Anyway,this is just who i am.Be Blessed! Monica
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That would be interesting, But I know what you mean about hardly ever seeing gay girls and straight guys. Unless the girls are really butch then they probably have nothing in common with a guy, like how some gay guys are really girly so they have girl friends.
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Things are cut and dry.  You are gay, and he is straight.  He probably is just comfortable around you and enjoys your company.  That doesn't mean that he wants to be anything other than friends with you.  If he asks why yer still single, he just probably thinks yer a good guy and deserves to be with another good guy, but no necessarily him.  Keep being his friend, but dont think or hope for more.  If he really is gay, and decides to come out, Im sure you'll be the first to know, but until then... Just realize that he is STRAIGHT.
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I find it strange that he has to defend himself so much. Personally, I've known a lot of gay people. Some were open about and some were not. The ones that were not usally had their reasons for not wanting people to know. If he is gay, (and it soinds to me like he is) He has his reason for not being honest about. And truethfully, It's really nobodys buisness if he is, except his.I hope I helped some with your question. You helped me A LOT with the one I had. Thanks again.
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i certainly don't know about every gay guy, but i went through that and so did some of my gay guy friends. the thing is that gay men feel a special bond with straight girls and there is the whole thing of wanting to be "normal". almost every gay guy goes through a phase in their lives where they are just sick and tired of being tormented and ridiculed for being gay and they just would like to be "normal", whatever that is. so don't be hard on him. it does hurt the girls sometimes and that is not good but the gay guy is hurting too.TTFN.
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I have many dude friends, I also have a boyfriend. If I didnt hang out with my guy friends then I probly wouldnt have a BF. But i also have had past bf when I didnt have guy friends, but having them does help.
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Gay guys are often the first guys larger girls/women feel safe around.  Maybe because:\n\n- they know you won't use them for sex\n- they know you understand what it's like to be discriminated against or called names or harrassed\n- if you're "out" you can hang out with them in public places and you won't feel the need to do and say things to let people know "we're not dating" like some straight guy friends might who are worried about their reputation\n- if you're not interested in them sexually, it's nothing personal, so there's no real insult to hurt their self esteem\n- you're usually pretty fun to be around\n- you often have a better handle on sensitivity and emotional literacy than straight guys do, at a much younger age\n- less macho or sexist B.S. to put up with\n- at least a dozen other reasons\n\nTake it as a compliment.  Girls like gay guys.  \n(As for the marriage piece, that part I don't get and haven't noticed.)
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Actually, I think that there should be more gay guys like you. Keeping to ones self doesn't help to diffuse myths about homosexuality. Many gay guys, and I won't say most, travel in gaggles, like geese. Not sure why, but from what I've seen its for the casual sex LOL...
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If gay guys like you...I am sure straight guys would as well....Just keep in mind, most guys are lame and don't approach women.
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why not?? you're a human being and human beings have friends... not only gay or lesbian friends cause you're gay, but all kinds of friends :)
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He doesnt sound like much of a friend, if he's judging you on your "gayness"\n\nThats a load of BS!\n\nBe who you are, and enjoy it.
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is your gaydar working correctly?  i thought a gay person could tell another gay person?  if he's that hot, give him a shot!!!