and she has meds (topamax) she has had for about a year they help her so much but she has felt depressed and so  two and ahalf weeks ago the doctor gave her cymbalta but after a week she has lost all feelings for me and has told me she has been trying to find a way to get rid of me... she has shut down but only with me and wont talk to me she knows nothings changed between us still but is being deceitful and she wont go back to the doctor and wont talk to me about it... i could cope when her moods changing minute to minute but this mood has lasted for 2 weeks..... she really is trying everything to get rid of me i am soo scared and don't know what to do i love her so much please help
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You are a very strong and kind person and I wish you all the best of luck with your gf.\nMy friend is a manic depressive and her partner has been with her for 5 years now. He loves her to bits but at times has felt like he was making himself ill aswell. He learned that he had to put his own wellbeing first sometimes, so that he was able to give her the best he could. At one stage though, he did try to reason with her, by telling her that he had 'stood by her all this time' and she still wasn't getting any better. At this point, she ended it, blaming him for the way she was (she had been depressed from a young age) and evidently got worse. When speaking to her, she felt that he was only with her in the hope that she would get better. This was an awful pressure on her because she knew (as well as he did) that there was every chance that things could get worse and she may never improve.\nSo, I simply give you this advise, take care of yourself and satisfy your needs and ambitions. If she pushes you away, don't retaliate with any blame or make her feel that she owes you something for your time spent with her. Simply allow this to be the oppurtunity where you get some time for yourself. Meet with friends, take up a hobby, whatever. Most importantly, don't make her feel that you are leaving her, always be contactable and tell her where your going and when you will be back. Simpy let her accept and know that you are always there for her but also for yourself.\nPlease also understand that she may or may not improve. If you can't see a future with her if things don't improve, then maybe you should rethink your situation. \nMy friend is improving (and happily living with her partner) and is now working. She is a lovely person and I admire her strentgh. \n\nI wish you all the best of luck,\n\nHappy Birthday for Monday!!\nxx
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well theres nothing better than to be there for her..\nif u feel like doing something maybe u should go on a trip together to take her mind off everything 4 a few hours or a few days...
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Honey it would help if I knew what you were taking and believe me I know what you're going through.  This has been a rough year for me and the reality of life, the day-to-day is very difficult.  I'm being treated by a doctor and a therapist and additionally I'm working with a sort of spiritual guide who doesn't charge for her services.  She's really helped me learn to meditate and focus on what's good in my life and how to change what I don't like about it.  I don't know if that's for you but either way I want you to know that I understand what you're going through.  If you need to talk just message me and I'll get back to you as soon as I can.\n\nOK I know how it is then.  I was on Zoloft too and it nearly drove me up a wall.  My doctor did several blood tests and he found out that I needed two types of anti-depressants to not only even each other out but help me quit smoking and he put me on an insulin regulator (I'm not diabetic I have PCOS and for the first time in my life my cycles are "regular")\n\nHoney, it's a miserable feeling not just in the fatigue, the mood, the overwhelming sensation of everything and everyone demanding what you just don't have in you to give at this moment.  You are a Good Mom!  This happens to a lot of people.  My best friend has three from 1 and a half to six and was fine with the first one and the last one but her second was really hard on her and it took awhile to get back on her feet.\n\nMy cousins wife had post partum with her son and then again with her twin girls and was treated each time.  Last year she had a NB and she was committed.\n\nI just don't want you to think you are alone or that no one cares about you.  Whether you believe it or not I DO CARE ABOUT YOU!  You can msg me anytime you want and I'll get back with you the first thing!  I'm going to pray for you today and send good thoughts of love and support and encouragement your way.  \n\nYou can get through this!  I know you can!  You probably just need to get your meds either changed or adjusted.  Maybe some counseling would help too and if you want to talk to my spiritual guide she is more than willing to help you and she will not charge you one dime EVER!  She said I could give you her email and it's master_amara@yahoo.com\n\nThere's alot of people in the world who care about you.  You did the right thing by speaking up about how you feel.  It's the first step.  Sometimes we can't handle things all by ourself and we need the support of others.  I'm here if you need me and so is Master Amara but you can just call her Amara.
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She thinks you are bluffing it.\nIf you feel like killing yourself call a suicide prevention line
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Advise her to go to therapy, and as support, go with her. Remember that people with this disease are sensitive, so be careful. And always let her know that her illness is a disease and she can be cured with time and the right help.Take very good care, and let her know how much you care.
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Her doctor may need to review the medications she is on. Sometimes depression medications increase the desire for suicide in teenagers. Try to be there for her, and just be her friend and don't judge her.
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Get the counselling. It sounds like she's struggling with deeper issues or she wouldn't be sleeping in the same bed as you. I think she still loves you. Make sure you support her through this or you may run the risk of losing her. Listen alot and don't ever tell her that what she is thinking is stupid.
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Probably, it is because she must have had bad experiences in the past. Maybe it is because people whom she really cared about must have really hurt her. It must be because of this that she wants to be absolutely certain that this time she will not be hurt by anyone that she wants time to think over it. Have patience. Be there for her. I am sure that she loves you too but is scared of commiting herself and revealing her innermost fears to you. Understand her. She is probably going through a very tough ordeal. I assume, you too are feeling dejected and very frustrated. Be patient. Reassure her that no matter what, you will still love her and care for her and that your love for her will never change. Give her space. But let her know that you really and truly love her and her alone. It will take some time, but definitely everything will be alright. All the best.
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have you talked to her since? she needs your support now more than ever! make sure to talk to her alot; she doesn't necessarily need to respond. ask her about her problems...make sure she knows you care. DON'T give advice to "fix" her problems; just show her that there's more to life! AND remind her of the people she'd be hurting (mainly you, other friends, parents, and siblings) if she decided to do it again. suicide attempts are always a very sad situation. get together with her and other friends; go walking, swimming, read a novel aloud to one another, watch a funny movie together, look at photo albums! make sure to spend QUALITY TIME with her. the next attempt she has may be interrupted by your phone call to hang out with her! good luck and keep it up! -sudo psycho...logist
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Sounds like she is going through a hard time, like she is depressed and cant talk about it. Many people shut people out for fear of rejection or humiliation. You need to talk to her, find out whats happening. Dont pressure her, let her know she can talk to you.
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Sounds like your girlfriend isn't really in a "fun" mood right now, friend. Honestly, just be there for her. There is nothing you can say or do to help her get over such serious traumas, so always be ready to lend an ear or a hand. I promise this is help you guys get closer, and by the time she's ready to move on with her life, you'll have a better relationship than you would have without any og this.
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Ummmm.......No.......If she remains depressed for more than a few days it's a sign that she is clinically depressed and they make meds for that.......
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you can't stop her being depressed, but you can be there for her.  be patient.  its possible she will always be like this but without you she could be worse.  try and encourage her to have fun with you but if she doesn't want to go out suggest you go round to hers. she needs people like you in her life that care about her.  good luck :)
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I am also bipolar, and very knowledgeable about the illness.. The doctor always knows best but has no real chance of being in a position to help if he has to make guesses at her condition. \nI am thinking that perhaps her bipolar disorder may have morphed into a more serious combination of many different afflictions as a result of her age and the traumatic loss of her life partner..\nFind a way to speak with her doctor or psychiatrist and explain the finer details of her actions.. she may not be honest with him because of the paranoia of how he might try to help.. might be schizophrenia, dementia, post traumatic stress disorder.. or even being bipolar with new tendencies (it gets much worse over time, especially when treatment is abandoned and she stops the meds) \nlook into these possibilities. Doctors know best, always.. but they need your help to be effective, especially in your grandmothers case.. when she isn't being very cooperative and taking a much more proactive approach towards her own wellbeing. She needs her medicine.. and she needs your help to get this under control. It seems that she is in a bad spot with being so mixed up in all of the emotions of what is happening all around her. Powerlessness is a horrible thing.. it seems she desperatly needs a helping hand. \nEducate yourself to whatever the possibilities for her behavior might be in a clinical sense so you can be helpful to the doctors. \nDo your part to get her the help she needs. Good Luck .. :)
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If your goal is to get well you should be on it as long as it is helping your symptoms. And remember the patient is not always the person who can best judge wheter it is working or not. Keep talking to your doctor, and if they feel your sysmptoms are not improving they will try something else. Another thing to consider is that it is best to fight depression with therapy and meds. Sometimes we can make our depression worse because of what we tell ourselves. Cognative behavioral therapy can help with that. And my final point is that in some cases the depression does go away so you don't have to take pills anymore, but yet again it is only the doctor who is capable of making that decision. Good luck.
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If you go to your doctors {Primary Care Physican} and let Dr. know your concerns thats the first plcae to be evaluated, and the doc can take it from there and either referr you to another kind of Doc or treat you.\nBest Wishes\n\nP.S.\nSince you have recognized possible bipolar please \n"dont let it control you and lean on it as a crutch through life..." \nmeaning dont blame everything on having  B P...\n\nI have a close family member-teenage years-and she tends to act out more than ever and always says I cant help it \nits B.P. \nI suspect she is using it as an excuse to get her way with mommy n daddy,\nshe is now at the dating age and wants to run off with her boyfriend and gets away with it cause she blames it on B.P.\n\nSo please dont let it control you, YOU CONTROL IT!!!
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I have dealt with this too. The best thing to do is for him to start back on his meds. But with someone with this condition you can not convince them. They have to decide for themselves and sometimes they do. You can try to talk to him when he is being nice if you think it is safe. But I know from experience their mood can change quickly. If he is not on his meds you should not be there. It can be dangerous. I know you care for him but you do not want something bad to happen. Find someone to live with until you have the money to move, a friend, a parent, someone.