so, i'm 18, and there's this guy that i really like, but the catch is that he's a freshman in highschool, were as i graduate in 41 days... he's a great person, and we have so much fun hanging out and get along great, but he's like 14 or 15 (i'm not even sure)... should i try to persue a relationship with him? (i'm not talking about sleeping with him, that's just wrong outside of a marriage, and it would also be illegal, i know that)\nbut i alos lookd down when friends of mine get boyfriends that are 4 years older, but they also sleep with them, which is part of the issue.\nso, regarding the age difference, what is your opinion please
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it sounds like you guys have a basis for a great relationship. It sounds like you guys genuinely enjoy each others company, so you know what I thinK? I think that yeah, follow your heart. Its obvious you are digging this guy and he is probably digging you so go for it!
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I was 16 when my parents allowed me to start going out on dates with a guy alone.  Prior to being 16, I was only allowed to go out in groups.  Before I was 16, I can't really say that I supported their policy, but in hindsight, I'm glad that they made me wait until I was 16.  Before 16, I don't really think that you are mature enough to think seriously about what you really want to get (and give) out of your dating experience(s).  Even at 16, it's really too young to think about seriously dating anyone since most people now are going to college or pursuing some kind of higher education.  Regarding your friend who is 17 and has not been out on a date...is it because he is not allowed or is it because he doesn't have any desire to date?  Maybe he is just very selective about who he wants to date and hasn't found someone that he would consider dating.  Remember that when you are dating, your feelings are involved.  Maybe he doesn't want to feel obligated to push things to the next level with a girl and he is trying to avoid doing that by not dating.  I think that in time, your buddy will make up his own mind when he finds somebody that sparks his interest and he feels bold enough to ask her out.  He's 17, not 27.  Give him a little time to come out of his dating shell.  He's probably still just starting to get comfortable with who he is.
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I met my husband when I was in 8th grade and he was a freshman. We married when I was 23. If he likes you like that it will eventually come out. Just make sure that if you want things to go all the way make sure you trust him and you are ready. Don't let him pressure you. I am a firm believer in waiting until marriage. Just so you know but I know that age and how a guy will say if you love me you will. Well honey if you love yourself you won't. Right now you are probably like one of the guys to him because you play football which there is absoulutly nothing wrong with but if you want him to notice you do your hair and put on a LITTLE make-up and just get a little giggly. They like that. Good luck and remember respect yourself. Because you are worth it!!
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If you are under the age of 16 and he is older. Be careful and look for a friend your own age. You don't want to be taken advanage of and do something you will regret for a long time to come. If you are not a minor then you hopefully have matured into making wise decisions and age at that point doesn't really amtter. Think before you act. Good luck.
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I'm 15 and I date and so does everyone in my high school.  You can't put an age limit on love and attraction so it shouldn't matter how old you are, as long as you are being safe.  I think that teen dating is great because i sure can't imagine life without it.  It's great that you've found someone that you love and you shouldn't let anyone tell you that you are not old enough to have a serious boyfriend.
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If you are legal age (you didn't mention your age) then dating him is no big deal if you are both interested in one another.  If there is a huge age difference between you both you might keep in mind that your relationship with him might not be long term, as you might not have much in common.  However, as long as you are of legal age then go for it - who's to stop you.
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Age isn't the issue here... it's the maturity levels involved.  He wants a sweet young thing.  What happens when you become older?  Ask his ex-wife.  I learned the hard way, that some men objectify the women they care about.  In other words, they view them as objects or possessions, so they don't feel so bad when they get rid of the old to make room for the new.  Be careful.  You are just starting your life and I'd hate to see you ruin it so early.  Older guys are O.K. if you are old enough to have some life experiences to help you along.  You have never had an 8 year old and what about college?  This is the best time to prepare for the future.  I'll say a prayer for you.  Have you dicussed this with your parents?
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Even though it may seem cool that he likes you Tell him to back off and wait till you are older.\nMost 18 year olds seek relationships with girls close to their own age. A boy who singles out a much younger girl often has serious problems. You might get pressured for sex, He might become possesive or abusive. My 17 year old daughter says you should call the cops.
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Okay, so basically, what you're saying is, as of right now, you're 15 and he's 24? While it may seem thrilling and exciting at such a young age to have an older man interested in you, or to have anyone romantically interested in you since at your age you've probably not had many relationships, there are a few things you might want to think about:\n\nThis man, and i stress the word MAN has lived a lot more than you, even though numerically it's "only" 9 years difference, he's reached a lot more milestones than you. Chances are he's graduated high school, had some secondary schooling such as college or university, could have been in the armed forces, and he's probably already had his first love and a few relationships since. Now you, as a 15 year old girl, still have the rest of high school ahead of you, college, etc. It seems a bit disturbing to be that a 24 year old man would pursue something with someone so young.\n\nI know boys your age may seem immature, unromantic, and this guy may seem older, and wiser, and mysterious, but the difference here is still something i think you should think about, seriously.  \n\nWhatever you decide, i hope it works out for the best.
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There are a few questions you should ask yourself....\n1)why should you fret over your friends opinions?\n2) were you comfortable with the relationship before you told your friends?\n3)Is the fact that you are being teased about it the only reason you are now concerned?\n4)Do you genuinely have strong feelings for this person?\n5)How would you feel if you gave them up for your friends?\n6)Do you feel the aquaintance of this person is enriching your life?\n7)Are you already thinking on the long term?\n8) If it ended, would you be thankful just to have experienced this persons affection?\n\nNow, If it feels right to you, tell your friends that you understand their concerns, but that you want to give it a whirl and have some experiences. Understand also that  although your friends are an important part of your life, your romantic relationships are between you and your partner, and no one should be allowed to sabotage that. Even if you eventually end the relationship, a true friend will still be there for you. If you are thinking on the long term, consider this.....What does satisfying sex entail for you at the age of 19? Is it mostly just physical or is it a true soul-satisfying experience just to be with this person, whether the physical part is strong or whether it is lacking? How important is it to you to have the capability to have a physically satisfying sexual experience in the years to come? Is it enough to just be together emotionally, without the sex?\nLet me explain why I asked you to ask yourself this: I am now 37 yrs old, married 15 yrs. I have experience here, although all relationships cant be judged as if you had a crystal ball....\nWhen I was 16, I went MAD over a MUCH older man. He was  42. yes 26 yrs older. A few of my buddies ragged me some, but I let it slip without having an issue. I enjoyed being with him and it was my relationship, not my friends. Buddies can't supply you with what a romantic partner can emotionally.He was so wonderful, and just being in his presence was emotionally enough. However, he was much older, and parts of him just didn't work well anymore...I was ok with that ( although I wanted more), we did other things to try to compensate for what was lacking. He eventually bowed out of the relationship because he was continually disappointed in his inability to do what it is that men do.\nOf course, all men won't have this problem, but as they age, it is not going to comply to his every whim! On the other hand, when I was your age, I had several relationships I just knew would last forever.....and they were over in what felt like a heartbeat. \nSo, if it feels right, I say go for it, if it goes long term, I hope you care enough for him to overlook any issues he may end up with. and that you are easily emotionally satisfiable. I have a feeling that there will be many more relationships for you down the road, but I could be wrong! Love can amaze us all!\nI have been married now for 15 yrs to a man who is 10 yrs older than me, and believe me when I say, older is better...in a long term relationship that is. They have more experience and are not as easy to fly off and freak out like someone younger. Patience is a virtue, knowledge is wisdom, and that comes with age. But do understand this yet again...when they get older, parts don't work as well as they used to....it's not easy for me to deal with, but I love him, so I do. And the mid-life crisis' generally start at around age 44......and that is worse than one that doesn't work!
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You haven't told us your age.  No matter how you cut it, it really depends on how old you are right now.\n\nIf you're still very, very young ... let's say, under 24, then you can still afford to wait awhile longer.\n\nIf you're approaching 30 ... well, that's certainly not old by any means, but it is a benchmark because at around that age, you start seriously thinking about whether or not to have children.\n\nYou have to figure that if you leave this guy, it'll take a little while before you meet the next guy ... and then it'll take some time to build that relationship up to the point where marriage is a possibility ... and then yet more time until the topic of having children is ready to be discussed.\n\nI guess what I'm trying to say in a nutshell is this:  Don't waste ***all*** of your youth on a " possibility "... save some of it for the next guy you could be with who would gladly marry you in a heartbeat.\n\nThere's also that famous old saying that applies to guys who don't marry the women they live with:  " Why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free ?  "   \n\nSorry Sweetie, but I can't help but think that if he isn't ready after 4 years, he might never be ready.  And you just might be missing out on meeting that special someone out there who really wants you in every possible way.\n\nWhatever you ultimately decide, I wish you every possible happiness.  Good Luck !!!
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Yes\n\n\n\nby the way it is illegal for an 18 year old to "be with" a 15 year old in a relationship....you really should find someone your own age.
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You'd be perfectly fine at college.  I'm almost 24 and in my senior year.  My boyfriend is nearly 28 and in his senior year.  You'll be fine.  Go for it!
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If you like an older guy, you have to be up to his level in maturity.  Older guys really don't like to hang with immature girls, from my experience that is.  And I am not just talking sex either, conversation is a big factor in a relationship
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I will never say that you dont love him. He might truly mean the world to you. But you have to look out for your best interest. You are 13 years old and have a lot of great experiences and 'firsts' ahead of you--homecomings, proms, driving, more dates, making captain of a school team-- i wouldn't limit yourself to one guy who is past all these life changing events. I also dont think that it is healthy that he is in jail already. He might bring you down with him one day.  My only suggestion is to be his friend.  That way you can still care about him as much as you want, but you also have the ability to go out and do what you want. There are going to be so many guys in your life throughout high school.  I am sure that you are ready to handle an adult relationship, but I would have as much fun until you absolutely have too. I was tied up with one long relationship after another. And now I am 23 looking back and wishing that I had given myself the chance to go off and have fun.  So, be his friend, and if later on in life, you are still in love with him, then make the commitment to each other.
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Hi, I remember when I was your age I thought that a guy 1 year younger was a 'lot younger'. If he's a good person, { and especially if he's cute!}, defiantly go out with him.        ps. some advice for your future, 20 or even more years from now, when you meet a guy 20 years younger than you,  STILL GO FOR IT!!!        pss. Also remember this rule, "once a mistake, twice a habit", when any man shows signs of disrespect, or hurts you in any way, BOUNCE!!! Before you get to attached to him. You'll save yourself a lot of heartache!
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when i was 21 i was going out with a girl who was 16. we had a great relationship for almost 2 years and if i had a chance to do it all again i would. the only problem was that as she got older and matured we drifted apart but that can happen with any relationship no matter what age you are. give it a try but don't let him use his age and experience to get you to do anything you don't want to. good luck, hope all goes well