i have mean t a wonderful man on line he has been widowed 6 yrs has 1 son 22 yrs old he is in corparote buisness and im just a plain country girl and him and i have a lot in common except for our education and we are going to meet but i can feel the closes he has for me any comments
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Be careful and meet in a public place... make sure you have immediate plans to BE in a public place for a few hours after you meet as well.  Like if he's picking you up from the airport.. make sure you to to 'dinner' or whatever after.  Make sure you have first name, last name, name of employer, phone, street address and that ALL of this is verified.  \n\nI have done it - it can be wonderful, but I wouldn't do it without being 'smart' about it :)  Make sure your best friend has all this info also :)  Good Luck and have a wonderful time!!!
330907
My condolences on you loss.  I believe that you have a great attitude concerning waiting for God's timing.  I have a feeling (and I get these every so often and have seldom been wrong) that someone who can connect with you will enter your life unexpectedly and you won't have to do a thing except keep your eyes and heart open.\n\nGod bless you.
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the mind is a terrible thing\n\nI have been lonely for a long time and have finally found a girl to love and marry so I am very happy but I have to deal with my children who are thinking I may be rushing it has only been two and one half years since wife died. And she wants her son to be there when we get married but he is in the service and cant come home for a long time. I guess i just have to learn patience.\n\nwell i have talked probably more than my quota\n\nGood luck and God Bless!!
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Yeah, I understand, hon.  It's tough to lose a dad. I lost my dad when I was 24, and it wasn't easy for me either.  Was your dad ill, or was his death sudden?  We don't know why God chooses his special people to be with Him, but know that wherever he is, your dad is watching over you, protecting you from harm, and loving you.  Meantime, talk things over with your mom, and your brothers and sisters if you have any, or even your friends.  Talking about the good times you had with your dad really helps.  In time, the pain will be a lot less, and you'll just be left with good memories.  My thoughts and prayers are with you.  Good luck and God Bless!
157001
I really hate to here of your father falling ill once again. Let me tell you just last week my father was told that he has cancer of the pancreas.It is a scary time for all involed but most of all the patient. I went to see my father just last year after 24 years, we had some bad issuses between us as well does my sister and brother does with him. I feel better that I went I can honestly say that I have no regrets. You feel how you feel and you can only do what you feel is best towards your dad. Always remember that you tried your very best towards him. May god bless you and your father, put your trust in him and he will lead the way. Good luck.
120585
I can't even imagine how you feel but my heart goes out to you.  Your son is watching and he knows that you're trying.  Look up and smile at him now.  He'll appreciate it more than you know. :)
636698
Sometimes it is hard to move on. Psychological help sometimes is recommended, it is not that bad. Sometimes, it is nice to talk to someone who is a stranger, and know that confidentiality is there and good advise can come out of that person. Your son can be the reason why you have not moved on. What I think happened is that God wanted your son to come to this world in order to help you with the loss of your fiance. A Marine never dies. He is probably guarding the gates in heaven, awaiting for you and your son to come trough. And knowing how Marines are, he probably wants you to be happy by marrying someone who will take care of his son and you. You have to carry on with your life so he can safely guard the gates in heaven. God Bless.
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NO WAY!  He's a dad and he likes being a dad and if he's never spoken to you, then the feeling is not mutual.\n\nMove on.  Find somebody who's looking for the same as you are.\n\nYou're way out of order.
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I lost my son 10 years ago on Nov.25 and I still think of him daily. It took a long time but now when I think of him I can laugh at the warm good times we had and it doesn't hurt so sharply. I know the pain and it is almost a physical thing, isn't it? It starts in your stomach and it feels like you want to scream and scream and scream. This will pass. He knows you love him. Trust that fact. And you will always love him trust this fact. And you will see him again when it is time to do so. Until that time you are responsible to him not to waste the life you have grieving for his loss of life because his life began again that day. He is in a wonderful place, God can take a lot better care of him than you or I ever could. He has all the answers. I know how much you miss him , and I believe they miss us too. He is busy and so should we be. the time till we are with them will seem shorter that way and we will be doing what is our reason to still be here, that is to be busy and to love others by giving help to those we can help. Bless your heart and Bless your Loving Parents heart. It will all be answered someday and you can trust that fact also.
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THERE ISN'T ANYTHING WRONG WITH KEEPING IN TOUCH WITH UR X'S MOTHER , AFTER ALL IT IS HER MOTHER NOT HER OR HIM , IF U WERE CLOSE THEN MAYBE SHE FEELS LIKE YOU R A PART OF HER FAMILY , LIKE A SON OR DAUGHTER . IT HAPPENS MORE THAN U THINK .
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honey i didn't lose my father and i don't know of any online groups, but my best friend recently lost her brother whom i knew, and i know how hard it is to go through something like that and i really do feel bad for you very much so, i'm not like one of those people who says they're sorry about a death and then skips away. it actually affects me, you know? well okay bye now and i hope you get through this!
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I am a single mother of two kids, ages 13 and 14, and i go to college full time.  I just ended a relationship with my boyfriend because he said i didnt havent time for him. He was always bitching so i fired him.  Anyway, i can see where you are coming from.  I talk to someone who lives far away, and i seem to feel like i have known this person forever.  He is really great!  Although, i do seem to have feelings for him, but i really dont think that will work out because of the distance between us.  If he lived closer, and to be honest, with everything that is going on with me now, im not ready for another relationship. Maybe when i get out of school, but for now, just me and my kids and my school work.  Of course, the kids come before everthing.  Anyway, not sure how to give u a straight up answer.  It could go either way.  Good luck with school. I think its great that your doing all that.  Im not working right now and going crazy with it all but i will graduate in December of this year and it will be all worth it!  What ever u do, dont let a relationship come before your son and your schoolwork.  You are working hard at a brighter future for u and your son.  You can do it!  You dont need a man to take care of you or your son. Does the guy live close by?  Anyway, I think it is possible to love someone you never met, but is it wise?  It seems kind of scary, but i wouldnt get my hopes up.  You have to be aware of the possible dangers, even if you talk to him all the time, doesnt mean that you truly know him.  Watch yourself, for u and your son.  We have some real sickos out here.  Anyway, good luck with school and dont give up.  I cant tell u how many times i wanted to give up.  Just watch yourself.  Bye for now!
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I don't think your crazy.........Since he died at a time and place of his own choosing he may have set some of these things up prior to his death......I have known people to do that before they die.......Mom's dying of cancer will buy birthday gifts for their children to be given out at the right time? Just a thought.......The other things you"feel" can be any number of things but I believe he is with you when you need him.....I am sure he was in a lot of pain at he time of his death but I am also sure he loved you. Enjoy your quiet times.............You will heal soon.
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Look, you sound very insecure about this relationship because\n\na) you met him online, and don't "really" know him\n\nb) the age difference, 13 years.\n\nc) You currently live in two separate states\n\n\nAs for the idea of meeting him online, that doesn't matter.  I met my husband online in 1995.  We married in 1996, and we are celebrating our 10th year of wedded bliss this July.  So online relationships can work, but you should proceed with caution because there *are* a lot of nutjobs out there.  My question to you would be to honestly evaluate whether he's ever said anything "weird" or "offbeat" to you.  If he has, tread carefully.\n\nAs for the age difference, that is a legitimate concern no matter how you met the person.  Thirteen years is a big gap.  This guy has been through his entire 30's, and you're not there yet.  It can work, but it is something to be concerned about.  He might act like your dad rather than your partner.\n\nAs for the distance, if the relationship is right, you two will work that out.  \n\nI think the main thing for YOU to do is to understand that you have not yet met this man, and until you do, and you get together, you won't REALLY know what his deal is.  Why don't you two schedule a weekend rendevous IN YOUR AREA, so that he is on YOUR turf.  DO NOT take him to your home.  Meet him in public places.  Tell friends and family when and where you are meeting him, and give them as many details about the guy that you can spare.\n\nWasting your time online dreaming about this guy is fruitless.  Go for it or let it go.  No sense never fully realizing your REAL life by daydreaming over someone that might or might not be who he says he is.\n\nGood luck to you.
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You can continue to be friends but don't saddle yourself down to him as he is long distance. If you still feel the same about him when you are older then save some cash to meet him. But take someone with you as you don't know who you are really chatting with he could be an old perv!
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How are you?  OK.  I am 20 years as well, and I was forced to "grow up" at a pretty young age myself.  I had the same relationship with my father.  He passed away two years ago when I was 18, and I am glad that I had cleared everything up with him before I did lose him so quickly.\n\nI always recieved awesome grades and never, ever, got into any trouble.  I captained my Varsity Golf and Baseball teams, was the sports editor for the school paper, I was a great son; yet we were always fighting.  Finally one day, I sat down and wrote him an email(I knew that if I tried talking it would go nowhere).  I explained to him exactly how I felt.  I asked him to listen to "perfect" by simple plan becuase that summed it up about as close as possible.  \n\nThe next day I recieved the longest email ever, and he explained why he was so hard on me.  He said that one day I would understand and that he wanted me to live a better life than he did.  \n\nTwo years ago, I finally understood everything.  When he died I took on a lot of responsiblity within the family, and I was strong enough to do so becuase of the way he treated me.  He did love me, he was just preparing me.  \n\nSo sit down with him, or write him an email.  Whatever you have do to to deal with it, do it.  I think it will help.  I still read the email he sent me periodically, and the words make so much more sense.  We had a great two months before he suddenly passed away, and I am so glad that I did what I did.  --Joe
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Who cares what others think.  If you and he both think it will work out, than it will.  If he treats you and your kids great... wonderful!  Maybe he seemed mature before because you didn't know him very much, or maybe he was depressed, and now that he knows you, he feels like he can really be himself and have fun.  I wouldn't worry about anything.  Sounds just fine to me.