She is 13 months old and has just started talking. Mom thinks baby hates her and love me (the daycare provider) more.
119522
She knows who her mommy is.  Don't worry.  If she is 13 months old, it's hard because they aren't receptive to everything you tell them at that age.  Just keep enforcing to her that you are "Jane" and mommy will be here later to pick her up.  Maybe her mom can give you some pictures of her to show the baby during the day, or even make up a little book with photos?  You can show the child the book during the day a few times, and refer to her mother as "mommy" to reinforce the idea of who her mother is.
31801
Wow I can't believe that first answer. If you guys used to have a close relationship with him, and now you don't, that is awful and heartbreaking. Obviously she doesn't want you to talk to him because you have an obvious right to really dislike her, if not worse. I would definitely try to talk to your son, and when you can, explain to him how much it hurts and that you can't understand why he is treating you like this for her. Hopefully he is just in a happy phase, will wake up and realize how dumb he is, and will then return? And dump her? I'd try that first... just don't call him 10 times a day... that can be awful...
586417
you created your daughter so why would you compete with her....the mom seems insecure to me.......she needs help maybe she feels that she is losing her touch....
389472
Your son is an adult so he should be old enough for mom not to come and fight his battles.... but I am with you  this heifer needs to go find someone her own age to play with.  If she were going after my boy I would go kick her butt but good and tell her the get the hell away from my boy.
496926
She was moving too fast as far as your daughter was concerned. Three months is not that long really, and if you had a problem like this with her this early in the relationship with her not be understanding about the sleeping arrangement, then she will not be understanding about other things that have to do with your kids. She is immature, and you are better off finding someone who has the same family values as you do. She wasn`t putting your daughter`s needs ahead of her own, and that is childish. You need someone who will think of others before themselves.
600832
I would absolutely tell the manager of your club that you don't appreciate the way they treated your babysitter.  They were rude and it was uncalled for, especially considering she was with your son, regardless of his age.
191646
She is saying things that have the potential to be emotionally hurtful to her child, but she may not be doing this intentionally to abuse you. For her to say something as hurtful as 'retard', then she is probably lashing out at you as a means of coping with her own insecurities. Bullies normally say things to make you seem smaller and they bigger, and they normally pick on the things that bother them about themselves. This may apply here. To call you a 'crybaby' she may be doing the same as above, or she genuinely may feel that by saying something so shocking she will be helping you by making you a stronger person.\nAnother thing to consider is, why don't you act your age? Is it because you've had some bad things happen in your life, and this is your way of dealing with it? Because she may be blaming herself for this, and that may be why she says nasty things like that.
334074
This is really really tuff!!! I was once in a similar situation. The mom decided to raise baby on her own however the out come was a beautiful child who is being raised by her now independent mom. You are not God nor are you blood family. What if you help her and she later tells her mom are you willing to risk the friendship you have with the mother.  What if you help her and something goes wrong? Your Friend will never forgive you. Tell mom and be there for both of them if they need help. Honesty is always the best way to deal with things. Problems are always bigger until out in the open where you can deal with them.  A MOM Myself.
99842
No I don't, but that hasn't stopped her from sticking her nose into my business. Always listen to mom out of respect. You are an adult simply say Yes you are right or no that is just not me. Say I love you Mom thanks for the advice. And change the subject. (have one ready at all times)
94298
Grandmas opinions are usually different than Moms just you can either give her, her way or sit down and have a talk with her. Make sure you start out with I love you and value your opinions but . . . \nGood luck I think all Moms have had problems like this I know I did.
287048
Give your self a break and relax a little. Whether or not you can see it yet, you already has started a small bond with this child by your own statements of "I pray to GOD that she is healthy, but am so scared that I will not love her" & "am afraid they might remove her when she is born". This is a good start by you even caring an inch about her. And it will only get better and stronger. You natural instint of protection for this little baby will take you over with out you even trying. Take some time out and start to look at the positive things this will bring you. You will have a little person that will need you very much and will love you unconditionally, you must do the same, remember this is not the little babies fault nor yours, and it could turn out to be the best thing that has even happened to you...
123265
i have been there and done that! first children will test you to see what they can get away with, do not let her do this! spend special time with only her, just have a daddy -daughter day, then tell her that mommy needs that kind of special time too, tell her there are things mom and dad talk about that she would not understand and that she is not to behave like this.when talking try and include her as much as you can, but you need to let her see you will not except this, she should grow out of it soon, but she  needs to know mom is not her equal, and that you love them diffrently, GOOD LUCK
333294
She's an idiot.\n\nShe's got the baby strapped in his car seat, facing the wrong way. Kids under 1 year and 20 lbs (whichever comes later) need to be in a rear-facing car seat.\n\nSheesh. She must not have read her birth certificate. It says right on there DO NOT REPRODUCE! She's one that needs to listen to that advice!!!
371028
TOUGH!  I kind of had the same problem.  I talked to my husband about it, and made it very clear that I adored her, but feared her meddling would come between our relationship.  I also told him that I in no way wanted to come between him and his mom....but we needed to set ground rules.  He understood more than I thought he would...and he talked to his mom about it.  After all, he knows her better than I do...so he knew how to express this without upsetting her and making me look like a bad person.  It has worked very well, and we are ALL happy now.
311712
no your mother doesn't hate you! moms are just people and sometimes they make mistakes, but its not your place to tell her that she is wrong, she's the mom. often times if you want to be heard you have to make sure you are 'presenting your case' in a reasonable and respectful manner, even if what you are saying makes sense nobody is going to hear you if you are ranting and raving, i'm not saying that you are just letting you know. when you are both calm and reasonable tell her you'd like to talk to her, think about what you will say beforehand and stay calm.
211414
It seems to me that she is very jealous of your family and is afraid that too much attention might be showered upon your brother and the new baby. This is very sad for everybody. I'm sure that if she wasn't like she is that your family would welcome her as a part of the group. Maybe she grew up as insecure and in a not so loving family atmosphere and this contributes to her behavior. You might try talking to her and see if she will open up. Maybe that you or your family could offer to go to their house and sit with the baby while they have a nice dinner out. This could be an icebreaker. Good luck to you and your family.
497240
first of all your child is not spoiled...i have 3 of my own...its called teething...obviously ur mother in law forgot how it was.... fyi have u tried rubbing whisky on babies mouth..it numbs it...ok back to m-i-l...let ur husband deal with her...he sticks up for u and the kids right?  anyways u can tell her it's her opinion on what she thinks about her grandchildren, BUT not her buisness...they r ur kidsnot hers....if opinion outburst keep happening tell her if she continues to make comments that r not needed or any of her buisness, then she cannot come around the kids if drama is what she wants to cause...only telling u from personnal experience...my  m-i-l doesnt come around or has seen our kids in about 4 yrs....ssoooooooo....good luck...stay strong ok