i have several male online friends.  they all tell me im engaging and sweet, but after a while, i feel that they are all avoiding me.  what is it with sweet, confident women that guys find intimidating?
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Most people that are online conversing have someone they have exclusivly at home. They are just looking for what they what and then when they get bored they mive on. The trick is when that happens, ignore them too. Don't try to change it. If they don't wanna talk or ignore you sometimes than ignore them to, you have better things to do.
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That is definately normal.  Women these days are being attacked on so many fronts.  The chief one being self esteem.  What she really needs to do is have confidence in herself.  Men are drawn to that.  She needs to feel comfortable with her body, and with her personality.  If she doesn't know what to say when around others, that is alright.  If she is confident, the people she is around won't be able to help talking to her.  She can learn all of the other stuff on the go.
577708
What cracks me up is that we are all lumped together.  Not all men or women or fake.  And not all of us are stuckup.  I admit some are.  Usally the really pretty ones or real handsome men will be that way, but they are the ones I feel sorry for, I dont envy them at all.  I look deeper to your heart and that is where I find the beauty.  So please dont lump us all together.
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lol....just be yourself...be confident!!! Like i said..it may take a while because I'm 23 years old, married and there are still things I shy away from. It happens but like i said..be confident. You don't need you friends to introduce you to there female friends if they don't want to. Introduce yourself...have a nice conversation and take it from there.  And it's good you don't use your car or money for the women. There are soo many women out there looking for a guy like you. Give it some time.
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I use to have this problem, but now I dont. Basicially all u have to do is go up to them with respect, but at the some time be funny. Women love a guy that makes them laugh! Be confindent! Dont be afraid! Rebuke your fear! Look for something on them to start a conversation. Women also love compliments! Look at it this way. If u dont talk to her, u have o% success. But if u do, your success just increased! 50% is better than 0%! Dont be afraid!
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i was afraid that i wasn't interesting enough for a girl to consider attractive. I felt intimidated and knew that i was never able to have a relationship with a beautiful lady. I saw myself as being a low level guy compared to these built, strong, male models. I compared myself alot and so knowing what women wanted i decided to not approach the ladies whom i thought were attractive, and fantasized instead. Now, i figure that communication can expand and reconstruct the way i look and knowing tht a risk is worth everything in life. Finally, teasing and flirting with an attractive lady isn't difficult at all anymore, because i understand what a women wants from a guy like me. A very good eye connection with proper communication skills.
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nice....sweet...intelligent...and good looking?  sounds good to me..dont worry about wont be long before the guys come flocking......btw you do seem kinda full of yourself though....might want to work on it.....the whole "i have a LOT of friends" thing made you seem a little too into being popular....
551119
Well guys are probably intimidated by your beauty. It just means you'll have to make the first move. Good Luck!
165767
Well, most guys feel they are threatened by someone smarter than them. Plus when they try to get some, they feel they might not be able too, because you aren't some stupid chick willing to do anything.
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I think a clue could be with your username. It kind of indicates that you like the "bad boy" type. The majority of those are not going to treat you well. Guys like myself are good guys who the bad boys don't have the guts to mess with. You need to find one of those...We always treat our women extremely well and you have all the fun with none of the drama...Lol.  ;)
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You want my honest opinion regarding this . . . generally . . . weak men . . . yes they are intimidated by you . . . but I am not.  So I will tell you the truth . . . and sometimes it hurts.\n\nDo you want to know why?  Partially it is ego (his) and your attitude.\n\nReason one . . . his ego.  Men have a preconscieved idea . . . that the man should be the primary wage earner.  Some feel less than a man when his woman makes more money than he does.  Psychology Today did an analysis about 18 months ago . . . regarding this . . . (I could be wrong on the time frame).\n\nReason two . . . your attitude . . . you say you are not picky . . . don't lie . . . you are.  If you weren't . . . you wouldn't care if he was single or divorce or widowed . . . and with your request . . . must have a job.\n\nPlus, you have to brag about your intellect.  Masters degree . . . I may not have a masters . . . but I am degreed.  You travel the world . . . most men . . . barely travel . . . unless it is for work . . . like me.  Also you claim to be beautiful . . . believe me . . . I don't believe you.  People I have met that claimed to be beautiful are not . . . me I never claim to be something I am not.  You are intimidating men . . . with your attitude and actions and these men think that you are beyond their league or they may think that you are just a b****.\n\nYou want to know how to get men to ask you out . . . stop bragging about yourself . . . and be your f***ing self.  Go out and have a good time . . . do not look for a relationship.  If you are attractive . . . men will come to you . . . or you may need to go to them.  Buy them a drink for a change . . . be a human and not a Master Degree princess who travels the world.  Plus how old are you . . . I have no idea . . . but it sound like you are looking for a boy toy anyways.
109037
Not all women are intimidated by other women with positive features.  I for one am not intimidated (maybe a little envious-ha ha).  I say good for you!!
650227
Have you tried asking them out? A confident strong woman sometimes intimidates certain guys but you shouldn't change how you are unless you are disrespectful or verbally abusive. It just takes time and patience. Be open to signs from other people and don't be afraid to make the first move- you may be surprised.
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they are afraid... to be put down, rejected, thought less of. pity really, i usually go for the intellectual girls my self and don't succeed... they seem to prefer the jocks... oh well.\n\n-----\n\nit doesn't seem desperate on your part. they're just flustered and in shock probably. if you know anything about the guy then you can use that as an opener... this way he knows the subject matter and will have something to fall back on. if he continues to act flustered and walk away then you'll either have to try harder to get his attention (if you are determined to persue this guy) or start thinking about getting a new subject to go after.
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every guy is different. i like girls that are smart and aggressive and talented. like i am. but most guys find that too intimidating. most guys find me intimidating so it's even more so when a girl is like that.\n\nbut every guy wants a girl that they can have fun with. they want a girl that is like them. guys pretty much just want a best friend that they can have sex with. and why not? you girls know that that's all you want too.
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Don't be afraid to be a "little" aggressive, a shy guy may need just that from a female to feel at ease. Confidence doesn't have to be "aggressive" per say, save that for stalking! I recently had a friend that ran into this same predicament.  Against my suggestion, and that of several other guys in the room at the time...she opted to try to warm up to him slowly and, as I feared for her, he started to view her as a "friend" and not a "date". This is the ultimate killer in trying to date someone. We aren't in the 20th century anymore, its ok for a girl to ask out a guy, and honestly, quite refreshing.\n\nGood Luck
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You know, men like you that go "unnoticed" are what I consider to be one in a million. Not because you feel completely ignored by women, but because you guys are generally the ones that every woman would die for, if she weren't so distracted by "bling-bling", Cartier wristwear, and big dikks. Excuse the bluntess...But honestly, I have a friend like you. He went through the same thing; no attention in and out of school, every gf he's had dumped him for no reason....then he fell in love with me. Awkward as it was, I thought I just wanted to be friends. I saw the nicest guy in him, but he was like you feel you are: nothing out of the ordinary. But that's what made him extraordinary. Once I saw that by being his friend, I fell in love. We are now together...End of story: don't give up. At least this way, you know that the person you end up with is for real and will last. Have faith, my diamond in the rough...