Its a really long story that spans over a year.  But I feel like i make him worry too much and I feel really guilty when i do that.  We are officially going out or any thing, but, ugg, what is wrong with me?
129441
Two schools of thought on that one\n\n1.Quit leading the poor fella on, either you love him or you don't. It sounds as if he definitly takes your feelings into consideration, why not do the same. \n\n2.Give him and love a real chance and you might surprise yourself finding out just how wonderful it can be to have someone in your life that puts your feelings first, there's not a lot of us guys out there like that.
183592
My guess is you have already won his heart and that is why you are in a relationship with him already.  I'm sure he is feeling just as bad about the misunderstanding as you are.  Take the initiative and make the first contact to resolve the issue and talk it out, you'll both feel better.  Misunderstandings in relationships are for learning about each other.  Remember the best part, you get to kiss and make up later!  Good luck!
564529
You are wasting good years of your life if you are not at least honest with him about your feeling (and your concerns).\n\nAre you enjoying the s e x and afraid that it will end? If so, go along for the ride.
401794
I think you know the answer already yourself... 9 yrs, a long time and I'm sure that you have both had many ups and downs, and that should be proof that this will last forever,because after all you are STILL together 9 yrs on. You have come through so much and still standing. You ask the question because its natural... its the biggest commitment you will ever make and no one can tell you what to do. Only you can decide. And as the saying goes " Time will tell" .Unless he is treating you "badly" or harming you in anyway, perhaps the time is now. And Yes, it is normal to feel this way. .... Good luck to you.
100089
That's exactly what it sounds like.  Ask him.   If it bothers you enough and you guys have been dating for a long time, I would express my disappointment to him and see if he cares enough to stop.
470376
Bummer!  That is a shitty one!  \n\nOK so, it does actually happen.  Kinda like a slip of the tongue.  I did the same thing to my b/f once.  It really was NOT intentional!  Just kinda happened.  It feels terrible to be on the receiving end I know, but as long as you have made your feelings known to him, and he doesn't do it again - no harm, no foul.  However, if he does it again  -  find a new boyfriend because this means he has NOT got over his X, and it was NOT a slip of the tongue.  Give him the benefit of the doubt THIS time!\n\nMaybe you should also think about mentioning to your b/f that you are uncomfortable with the fact that he still sees his X (if he does) and that this is the reason you may have over-reacted (I am not saying you did - it's just a bit of reverse psychology that will make him feel better about himself)  to his blunder.  As long as you are open and honest about how you feel, he can't turn around at a later date and say he wasn't aware of your feelings.
259142
Take this as a learning lesson.  I did the same thing and I know how it feels.  Just remember everything happens for a reason.  You hurt his feelings so let him have some space to figure things out.
134362
I am so sry, for what happened to u. Trust me the guy is so stupid, and u should be glad this happened b4 u guys did nything intimate. I noe it's hard to forget, but u should go on with life. Many times u will find urself in a drepressing position. Many times. Get over it. There are many guiys in the world. U never mentioned that this one was the perfect one so i'm guessing he wasn't. and even though u were going out it seems like u considered him as a friend. U must have been close, it hurts , i noe. U 'll find ur perfect one someday and u'll forget about this guy. Someday u'll be able to look back at this memory and laugh about it. I would suggest looking forward to that day. Enjoy urself, have fun, study, date, life is too short to have many regrets.
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Whether this is "your fault" for being with another guy, or "his fault" for freaking out, doesn't matter.  Even if it was an accident, and you say sorry and can prove it, still doesn't matter.\n\nStuff like this is a clear signal that one of you (maybe both of you?!) aren't ready for a real relationship.  Take some time off, think about what YOU can do better next time (even if it's just thinking about how to choose a boyfriend that isn't so immature).  Then, after a few months (I would suggest 3-6 months at least!) you might possibly think about another boyfriend.
555508
The problem probably is that your not being direct enough.  You say your doing everything but you haven't done what needs to be done if you want to be with him.  You need to actually talk to him and tell him that it is him you miss and that you want to be a part of his life.  Right now he probably feels like you ended things and that he isn't willing to risk getting dumped again without being sure that this is what you want and that your willing to actually be with him through the bad times and not end things so easily.
201975
I feel bad for you. Get some self esteem and find a guy that really respects you. This guy's using you.
200063
He's probibly just feeling very insecure and wants to make sure that you know that he values your opinion. \nIt may seem annoying, but it'd be even more annoying if he just went off and did something and you had no idea where he was, or you had something planned.\nAt least he's keeping you in mind when he's going to do something, instead of not.
469795
You need to be up front and clear. Don't worry about his feeling more than your own. You don't have to tell him about your past but you can ry telling him I am not ready to take the relationship any further yet. I want to go slowly. Don't accept any dates at his house or any invitations over to his house. Don't allow him at our house. Keep all contact in public-- that way there won't be any possible ways for him to try and convince you or make you feel guilty. However, if he is not listening to you you have to ask if you even want to be with hi,\nDo not feel obligated to him. If he is a nice and normal guy who genuinely likes you he would not want you doing things because you felt obligated to,
311297
you're probably just going thru a mix of emotions, maybe a litte guilt. but dont worry if you love him, it will be ok. :)
670147
Perhaps he thought when you said your the "bad guy" meant that you have done some naughty things as well which made him upset. Your revelation might have brought confusion in his mind. Doubts might have stepped in.\nSo, you must reassure him that its not because of it (like you cheated or what). Just make him know that its about an attitude issue. Ask for space and time to rebuild yourself and tell him that your doing it for him, and your relationship. If he doesnt agree of asking for time, then why not make him a part of your rebuilding process. Ask fof his help and guidance. In this way, he will feel appreciated and that you trully want him to be a part of your life. :-D
638785
Don't feel guilty.  Get up and have a fantastic time with this new guy.  You aren't mourning, sweetie, you just broke up with someone!  Enjoy yourself and do what makes you happy!  Never feel guilty for doing something that makes you feel good!
511162
i do this ALOT too! \ni really know how you feel! i think that...well...for me its because i get to know them really well and i just can't help but ot fall for them.\nSo no, nothing is wrong with you!!\nwe really dont know if guys feel the same way...which makes me mad...lol..but this happens, i think, because we become really good friends that we want to be something more. thats how it feels for me. i think its normal....as long as its not like just because you want someone or because your desprate. if its real...its normal.\nhope i helped!\n~ALSO~\ni try not to say anything in fear it will ruin what we already had. if you feel comfortable that it wont change things, you should tell him how you feel.