I have been sexually, physically and emotionally abused and I just wanted to ask.
126320
I would luv u even if u were deformed. I understand its not ur fault u were abused. I know u are still a human being no matter what and u deserve someone to treat u right.
390617
I've lived through a lot of hard times and abuse, more than most people do . Have had to struggle to pull my self up out of bad situations\nwith two small children under tow , but everything that happens in our lives happens for a reason and I wouldn't change anything that happened because it has molded who I am . Today I am stronger for having to live that way .
625695
First... was this a dramatic change for you? Did yo just wake up one morning and say 'Hey Ive had enough and I'm going to be happy' ? You have to understand this is also an adjustment for your family, esp. your mother. They are use to you being one way and then you change on them..... put yourself in there shoes. It's great that you have been able to overcome your tragic happenings, it is a great accomplishment! I know I have been there myself. Maybe you can compromise with your mother and try seeing a clinical social worker and tell your mother maybe she also needs to seek some help herself..... Even though the sexual assault and abuse happened to you.... it does have an effect on her too.\nBe strong, stand strong... you have made it through a horrible experience..... remember you can make it through anything!
217047
no I thought I knew him dated 6 years but now he turned abusive and I never thought he would do that.by the way thanks for your rude answer to my question.a person never deserves to be abused even if I was bitter which I wasn't I just wanted him to show he cared.but after being abused by someone I thought loved me and would never hurt me yes I am bitter now.
282814
I was sexually molested by my step father and he talked me into doing things with my sister so I know how she feels.  I had a hard time too but i now see a therapist from the state Child Advocacy Center.  she needs to do that because it has helped me a lot.  Good luck
206764
well what you did was not easy  i too have done it but it want just your life that is suffering the life everyone thought they had is now turned up side down and the easiest way out is to blame you. I am so sorry this happen to you  but good for you that you  are not the victim anymore and your family will come around in time but the words we say be it what you say to them or what they say to you will remain as the biggest scar\nyou keep living your live with your head held high and dont think for a minute it was your fault. i would like to have contact information with you so i can discuss this farther i can really help .I will keep you in prayer and your family. i dont know if they will let me post it but it is JLSJSTEPHENS@YAHOO>COM
620958
i've gone through a lot of emotional issues from the time i was little. My father as an abusive ex-drunk and my mom has always been somewhat verbally abusive. How do i feel about it?I hate the fact that i was never really allowed to have a care free childhood and hate having memories of my dad beating me up or having to leave my house at night because my mom and dad had fought.
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I was once in the same situation for 10 years...I was verbally abused as well as physically abused...we had 2 children...in 60's we had no place to escape to...I eventually was given a way out.....our son is in prison because of his painful childhood....so I do know where you are coming from...people should never stay in an abusive relationship "For the Children" they are suffering that abuse with you....\nAs far as the healing...well its been nearly 28 years since I got out of that marriage...I have anger problems....I have memory loss... I have anxiety and post traumatic stress syndrome...but I have been holding out pretty good...healing takes time...I am still healing...one thing I did learn from all this...Men who do this sort of thing have a complex...they look to you as above them so in order to bring you to THEIR level they have to over power you enough to make themselves feel better about themselves..just hang in there...go forward don't look back....get a journal and write down your feelings..it really helps...and sometimes its better than trying to explain it to people who have never been there...time heals all wounds...but for some...it just takes a lot of time....let me know ...been there...done that...
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I bet you have seen alot of neglect and abuse.Unfortunately the weak,confused,helpless are usually the one's who get this treatment.You have the unique opportunity to make anonymous complaints to the department of social services.Keep you eyes open and be an advocate for this vulnerable population.You never have to give your name and they have to make an inspection when a complaint is received.Go to your state social services web site.Also keep you a log with with dates,names,times this is very effective.Good Luck you will be doing a great service
65524
There is no wrong feelings for someone who has been sexually abused.  You feel the way you do and how you deal with this issue in your life is up to you.  I would recomend though that you look at getting some type of therapy or counseling because the affects of sexual abuse are often not fully realized and will affect future relationships in ways you can't imagine.
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I think everyone has things from youth that affects us throughout our lives. I was sexually molested by a family member and it has affected me my whole life.It is really hard to overcome these events but it can be done. Best of luck to you
598209
You already know that you are not the things that this person has called you, you said so yourself. Now all you need to do is get that person out of your system and move on with your life. Meet new people, try new things. I think that when people are abusive to other people weather it's emotional, physical or verbal it's because that have low self esteem and they want to bring someone down with them. You do not deserve to be treated just anyway. Now that you are out of this relationship you can chooses how you want to be treated. DO NOT let anyone treat you any other way then you want to be. Good luck.
402862
Tell someone! Your being abused!!
594373
I have had 6 people in my hurt me very badly.  Because of their combined hurt and pain I find it very hard to trust anyone.  I aIso find it hard to believe that there are any good people in the world. I don't trust my child with anyone and I have taught her that the world is a big place filled with people that are looking to get one over on you.  I am a perfectionist wanting only the extremly best for my daughter.  I am also wayyyy over protective, but I am working on it.  I am also kinda a loner because I can't let people get close to me and know my true feelings about anything.  I also teach my daughter (and I know that I shouldn't) not to get close to people because once you do, they will leave you.\n\nMy father- went to prison when I was 7 years old.  Next time I saw him I was 22 years old, and he was in a coffin.  No I haven't gotten over it, still affects me some days.\n\n\n\nmy ex husband- walked out on daughter.  reminded me of what my father did to me, not over it 100%.  probably never will be.\n\nmy husband (married almost 5 years)- had an affair.  Nope, not over it yet.  I am not expecting me to be over it any time soon due to the fact that he willing did this and willing wanted to tear out family apart.  I filed for divorce, but he is trying to make things right.\n\nmy then best friend- for having an affair with my husband.  Lying to my face and then laughing about it behind my back (yeah I overheard a converstation about her laughing about having sex with my husband and how clueless and dumb I am about it).  I am still angry with her in sooo many ways, but you know it was her loss.  I am a great friend to the few people I do hodl close to my heart as friends.\n\nthe man that molested and raped me for years- This has affected me sexually, mentally, and physically.  I have gotten over the fact that it happened to me and my mother did nothing to stop it or protect me from him.  I know that he has an illness that makes him attracted to children, and that is his problem.  I tell anyone I know that might come in contact with him to be warned. \n\nmy mother- mentally and physically abusive to all 4 children.  I have only gotten over this one because I know that she lacked the skills or knowledge to provide anything better.
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Your isolating yourself aren't you? Yes your pain is real,we all suffer in life ,but these are lessons, to learn how to live for the better. Have you received counseling for the abuse? And living in 8 foster homes was no picnic either , I know i have two brothers i took in and although I'm not related they are my kids. They have suffered greatly also, but slowly but surely they are moving on in life. Now another thing you probably have is the feeling that theres really no one out there for you. That's just not true, hun I wouldn't be here typing this letter to you if I didn't care. Neither would any of these other people. If you would like to talk some more just ask I will talk , I will listen, and I will feel what ever your experiencing and I will give it my best shot to walk through the misery you are experiencing at any given moment. I'm a mom, and yes of 8 of my own biological children, but my heart has room for more, so you decide if u want to contact me, just dont feel alone reach out to some one ,ok you are cared about know that, its a start to healing and gaining some kind of self esteem.
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Given that you were sexually abused it is not surprising you had a sexual relationship with your father.  When sexual abuse happens a person's sense of themselves, esteem, their understanding of healthy boundaries are completely screwed up.  This is why THERAPY is SO important.  You cannot blame yourself for what happened with your father.  Your need to want to do anything to keep him comes as a product of your earlier abuse.  The line between appropriate and inappropriate - and being able to say NO - got lost when it happened to you earlier.  Generally people who go on for years without help will find themselves in positions where they are taken advantage of (and allow that to happen - because they don't realize it at the time) and until you get the help - this will continue to happen.  \n\nShame is a huge piece of this.  Your father is an adult too and he should have known better (if not more) than to have sex with his own daughter.  You cannot blame yourself. It sounds like you need to do a lot of forgiving of yourself.  Please go and get some help - if you don't you will continue to live in this cycle of pain and shame and only you will be to blame.  What happened to you was awful - but you are an adult now and have the means to get the help you couldn't when you were younger.  There are many support groups that are free, and counselling offered - talk to friends - your doctor - look in the phone book and call up different places.  Ask lots of questions. In the meantime you can't change what happened with your father - you made a mistake - but YOU are NOT a mistake.  Stop being hard on yourself.  The past is the past - try and put it there for a while and go and focus on your own healing.  Most of all try and have compassion for yourself.  We all have our scars and things to heal - you are not alone.
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Real challenge, but it may be the Lord has dropped this on your desk. Take yourself out the picture. Here is how I would start it...\n\nMy name is Denise, my father molested me as a little girl. My mother knew, but refused to believe it. No one would listen to me. When I turned 16, I left home to get away from my family. I needed a place to stay so I slept on a park bench my first night away from home. A very nice young man found me and gave me a warm place to stay. He listened to my plight and was very nice to me. He said he would give me a job working in his film production studio until I could earn enough money to get a place of my own. I did not know it at the time, but I soon discovered I was to make the beds and set the props for a studio doing porn movies. The money was small, but it was a job. I saw how they filmed it, and it looked painful, but they made it sound pleasurable. I did this job for a month and could only afford a shabby apartment which I had to share with a girl I met on the set. She told me how much she made per film and it was 10 times more than I made for the same amount of hours!\n\nYou can see where this is going. You can show the seduction, the pain of doing the scenes, getting caught in the initial thrill of making money and becoming a "star", being recognized then men groping themselves as you walk by, the incredible emptiness you feel as you go to bed at night, being diagnosed with HIV, being fired so as not to spread the disease and decomposing--then dying alone.\n\nHow powerful would THAT be, sis?