Lately Ive just been feeling so useless. Like I really dont have a point in life. And at first I thought it was just b/c of the way things were going in my life right now. So I started this thing where I was going to try and accomplish something everyday...and I felt like it would make me feel better at least to know I was useful for something. I didnt get very far with it, b/c now I keep thinking about the future, and Im afraid that Im always going to feel like this. Like my life is repetitive. And that Im always gonna feel like Im missing something! Any suggestions about what I can do. And also...does this sound like deppression, and if so should I tell someone!?
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YOU ARE NOT USELESS!!!\n\nLife can often get us down & there seems no light at the end of the tunnel. I know how difficult & hopeless this can be.\n\nConfide in someone that you REALLY trust or speak to a counsellor, where you can explore your feelings without anyone judging you.\n\nTry and stick to your goal of achieving something small every day, however small, make sure that goal is achievable. It will do wonders for you self-esteem.\n\nI know it's cliched, but try and find some new activity, whether it's theatre, learning a new skill, whatever really, something to keep you occupied & where you can meet new people.\n\nIt isn't easy, but you will come through this. Email me if you need someone to talk to. x
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Hello! Can understand what you mean. Have not got too much self-esteem neither... but I have come to accept that it is not okay for me to feel that way somehow. I want to change it. Think one really needs to decide deep within to change it. There are many beautiful suggestions here. A counsellour I saw some time ago told me that I should say out loud "I am a wrothwhile person and I deserve to be happy." ... and it worked. Just that I became kind of lazy :o) . What might help you as well is the link below. It might seem childish but it really does help. Enjoy it and good luck to feeling better toward yourself :-) !
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Snowbunny, feeling the way you do is perfectly normal. Sometimes you don't know what you had until you loose it, I kow how you feel... No matter who you talk to, its like nobody understands or they can't grasp what you're going through and so you can't seem to get over this depression because even the advice your friends or parents give you still doesn't feel good enough. You just want to cry, you feel like treating everyone around you the way you feel. Can't eat, Can't sleep and you can't remember the last time you really smiled from your heart, but trust me when I say, if its meant to be, he will come back and you guys can try again. It won't be tomorrow or next month, no one knows but trust me. And what ever you do, don't consider hurting yourself over something that might feel "like the end of the world" to you. I've got a scar for every heartbroken event in my life when I was either used or mistreated. 5 years of bad memories but looking back now, I found someone who loves me the way none of those in the past could, even though I thought so that time. Thinking of you snowbunny..... good luck hey!
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It could be a big lack of fulfillment of your needs, feeling worthless, or very disappointed, perhaps someone did something to you and you haven't been able to come to terms with it and give closure to a situation. \n\nAsk yourself what it is, who made you feel so bad? There could be depression, a lack of assurance and feeling less, you'll have to take control of this and these deadly emotions. You have certain issues that if you search deep inside you'll be able to deal with it.
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You mean you're in a RUT.  I feel this way sometimes.  Don't worry, Something will come along to get you out of it.  \n\nRemember, "Time you enjoy wasting, is not wasted time".
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Honey, I've been exactly where you are now.  Please don't be so hard on yourself.  If you are depressed, see a professional, you may need an anti-depressant.  Sometimes the chemicals in your brain just get all messed up and meds can help that.  \n\nThink of how boring and empty the world would be w/o you in it.  No matter how bad things may seem, you were put here on earth for a reason, you just have to figure out why.  And even though life can be extremely hard most of the time, it is still worth fighting for.  Please don't give up yet.  You can feel better.  Your life can be better.  \n\nIf you ever need to talk seriously about this, email me anytime.  I know that I don't know you, but I am a good listener.  Plus, I do know what it's like to feel empty inside. A few weeks in an institution for attempting suicide really opened my eyes.  \n\nSurround yourself with good positive people that love you and keep telling yourself that your life is important.  My email address is on my profile if you need.  Write me anytime.   Take care of yourself and God bless!!!
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sometimes I think Im great but right now I am feeling low so maybe later I will think of something. my shrink says I should think of possitive things about myself rather then be so negitive. your question is a nice one
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Do YOU feel good about yourself?\nYes? Then don't listen to anyone else! The way you feel is what really matters.\nIf you ever think you'd like some advice, talk to someone who loves you and really cares, like your family and close friends.
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i get like that too sometimes! its what u feel inside is affecting ur outside world! u have to start feeling good about urself! go out with your friends make them talk to you! trust me sometimes they cant see how u feel so show them!
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Yes that is selfish, I am sure many people have felt that way.  I know I have but doing something like this would not solve any problems.  If you feel you have hit bottom then the only way to go is UP!  I know you can do it, as I said I've been there and it's not fun.  Focus your abilities on something else.  You can make a difference it's just finding your path.  take care. Send me a note if you want to chat about.  Otherwise be strong for you.  Take care.
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I know exactly how you feel! I always start things and then when they don't go the way I think they will, I just stop doing it. You can always think about how you will feel when you accomplish something. No matter how small it is, you can be proud that you actually followed through and finished a task. People tend to try and get the approval of others to feel good about what they have done. It feels so much better though when you are the one you are trying to make happy. Self-affirmation is so important! Even if you are all alone and don't want to finish something, just think about how you will feel when you are done! I try and do small tasks throughout the day, so I don't get overwhelmed by too many long-term goals. Hey, so what if all I did was vacuum? It is something that I managed to accomplish. I always try to remind myself that I need to focus on the now, and take one step at a time. I know we all want to focus on results, but that gets too frustrating and makes us quit. Focus on the journey! Good luck to you!
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sometimes, i feel like i'm not worth it. there comes a point in everybody's life where they will feel like that. but honey, everybody is worth it in their own right. you may feel like this but if you look on the bright side... i know, it may be difficult to be optimistic but it won't hurt to try. if you could change your perspective on how you see things, you might be able elevate yourself from your problems and insecurities. change your outlook on things. try something new. take up a new hobby that can involve your child so he won't have to be lonely. just find something to do that can at least mend that broken smile...\n\nif what i said doesn't help... well, good luck with everything. i do hope you can find happiness. nobody deserves to be sad. i should know... i hate being sad but i am in real life.
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nothing, everyone feels like this sometimes, just live trough if for now, it will get better =]
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I hope you feel better!!!!!\n\nHere, ill give you some thumbs ups on your best answers....you will notice points appearing from nowhere!!!!!!\n\n=) Have A Great Day (=
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Erin, when I was your age, I thought about it a lot! Never actually tried it directly, but I did a lot of crazy things that could have killed me.\n\nI always felt like I was alone in the world. Like no one understood, everyone hated me, or worse that I didn't matter to anyone. I thought if I died, it wouldn't matter. I also felt like all my problems would be over. \n\nBut the fact is, life has problems. We were made to work through them. Without problems, we wouldn't grow. Did you know that a plant that grows without any wind pushing against it grows weak and spindly? (You should try that as a science experiment some time!) Just like a plant, we need tough times to make us stronger.\n\nThe best thing you can do is stop focusing on what's wrong and start focusing on what life will look like once you've gotten through whatever's wrong. Ask yourself, "How is this going to look to me when I'm 18? 25? 40?" Picture yourself through the problem and living just the way you want to live. Whenever your mind wanders to bad thoughts, go back to that picture. Write it down even.\n\nThen, TAKE ACTION!!! The best way to beat depression is to GET BUSY!!! \n\nExercise, help someone else, do some research on how to fix the mess you're in, just DO something. Lack of activity causes the mind to linger in places it ought not be. You have to engage your mind in something that excites you. \n\nAlso, start telling yourself something positive several times a day. Don't let bad thoughts run your mind. YOU take control of your mind! Positive thoughts will sound silly at first, but it doesn't matter. Your mind believes what you tell it. SERIOUSLY!!!  :-)\n\nYou are special and important to God and to this world. Whether you choose to believe that is up to you. You may be struggling with those around you right now. Maybe your parents or a boyfriend, but don't give up. Love yourself enough to get through it. You will be stronger for having survived!!!
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I think a lot of people feel that way from time to time! I have felt that way when I was having anxiety or depression. It is kind of an detach feeling, or a feeling of unreality. If you are feeling this way often than you might want to talk to your doctor! \n\nI hope you feel better soon!!! Best wishes to you!
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Yes sweetie, it does sound like you are suffering from depression. Please take these messages w/your email to the nearest doctor or clinic and get on some type of medication. Also, you MUST get out of the bed and start some kind of exercise. It will release endorphines in your brain and make you feel better. Keep me posted. Much love from someone who has been there.