this is big to me bc we just had a little boy and i would really like to incorperate him into whatever i decide to do. so does anyone have any suggestions.
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the traditional 1 year anniversary gift is paper, so maybe you could make a scrapbook detailing the first year. that way you could incorporate pictures of your son and all sorts of other things.  your partner would probably really enjoy it and you would get extra points for the time and effort put into it.
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We just potty trained our 3 1/2 yewar old. He's our middle child. We thought he'd never be ready. Summer is a great time. first I bought him new underwear that he picked out, and after his firt morning diaper I put them on. And told him " good bye diapers " which he repaets all the time. Then we started sitting him on the toilet, ( with a training seat on it from walmart)  we have a selection of books he like sitting there by the toilet, we hand him one, and say "OK, if you make a poop go in the water , we'll wash out hands and have a popsicle ! " It took about 2 weeks of this exact method, and he poops there every time now, and sometimes just tried in hopes of a popsicle. We buy those cheep Koolaid popsicles in the long plastic tubes . Works great , we have to pick up a box every time, I think you could bribe with something sugar free if needed., Also\n( and some people may think this is cruel )  I told him to change himself one day so he could see what he has been doing in there ! my husband and I took the bathroom rug out, and stood close by with wipes at the ready, he took his diaper off and said ' OH NO I POO POO ! UCKY ! I could see then it was starting to click thus we explained why he needed to get the poop into the pot!
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Set the rules and follow them no exception. He should know what he will get punished for and when he'll be rewared. I agree with the previous post about taking away a favorite toy, no TV works too. If he likes TV or a particular toy, give it to him after he's done his homework or something else as valuable as a reward, but not for too long.
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Trampoline it is more fun in the long run and healthy he is playing and jumping on it and exercising on it at the same time. Good luck I am sure that whatever you get for him he will like.
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Sweetheart as a Mother of 6 children , let me be the first to say" CONGRATULATIONS" Then let me also and I STRESS this to you hon "DON"T MESS THIS UP,PLEASE"  You are obviously a very gifted young person and I applaude you. I begged and pleaded with my oldest son who I might add is also a very gifted person but no amount of begging, pleading or cryin even did me ANY good. NOW he's expecting his first child and he's working his butt off for very limited income. NOW he wishes he would have listened to me. But most importantly is that I know that down deep you knew the answer to your own question and you are very intelligent so what your probably lacking is the positive reinforcement you seek right now , sometimes I know when my oldest was younger he always did so well that I would forget to ask "hey, how u doin hon, OR Need any help?" Well for the record going to schookis so gr8
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I think all parents involved need to sit down together and discuss this...it's a decision that could make or brake this boy. Make a list of pros and cons...hopefully you can come to a reasonable decision. I hope it works out for you.
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somewhere that his son chooses where he is comfortable - local park, what are his hobbies? what he like doing? do something that he likes doing, ie football in the park, try inline skating, whatever he would like. Even if its something you hate doing or think you might look a fool, just do it.  \n\nDont try to talk to much to him, let him slowly adjust to you being around, it will take time, and you my find things difficult for a long time,  but you should be able to come to some sort of comfort point where you can be with each other a bit easier.\n\nDont buy presents unnecessarily- kids see through bribery easily. all you can do is be yourself and let him come around to the idea. It must be hard for any kid to adjust to mummy and daddy breaking up, so just take things slowly.\n\nall the best.
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how about music flat out . or painting making your own things with your hands is good and fun.\nlearn a instrument like a guitar or something.\ngo for walks get a new hobbie. :~)
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LOL! Is he looking to start a career? haha My 2 year old yells "SMOOSH" and stomps on any bug she sees! Then looks at everyone watching waiting for praise! Kids.... you have to love them. :)
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I am a strong supporter of tough love but it doesn't seem that your husband would agree with this approach.  You do not state the child's age so it is kind of hard but it sounds like he is in junior school by his actions.  If there is a mentorship program in your area perhaps you can set up one for this boy.  I work with youth in conflict with the law and have seen many of them make remarkable turnarounds after they have reached the age of 18.  As far as you and your husband getting on the same page - this is very important not only for you both but for the child also as he can sense the tensions and differences in your styles.  Sports also sometimes help kids to release some of their pent up energy and if possible you can set him up in one that he is interested in.  Best of luck.
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pray for him . It works remember we cant do any thing by our selves only GOD can do it . and try planning family time and invite him, like putting the kids in sports
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I'm assuming your child is less than five. He is at that point where he is learning to interact with other children and looking to you to see what your response is. You will need to stay consistent with whatever behavior you expect from him. If you do not, you will raise a hellion and make it 10 times worse for yourself.  This is because he will push you to that point of giving in. It can be exhausting. If you don't like his behavior, remove him.  Quietly. Explain Briefly what you expect or give him time out for 1 minute for each each year of his age. (I.E. 4 years old=4minutes) Good Luck. See the web site below for more info.
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I have a 5-year old with autism.  My wife and I have been successful getting him to talk to us only if it's requesting food or certain play activities.  I'd say about half the time he asks on his own without being prompted.  We expand his vocabulary by offering him more choices or making him make more decisions.  For example, instead of putting in the video he hands us, we'll pick up another and make him point and say the title of the video he wants.  Eventually, he'll ask for the video by name right away.  It's only been the last few months that he's been doing this, so I'm optimistic about how he can grow from this step to more difficult social interactions (even if it takes a few years).
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8 month olds can be a real challenge. I wouldn't do it unless you had some help first from an experience parent.
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Every now and then ask him what he wants to do. It might be getting on the floor and playing blocks or going to the beach, cooking ANYTHING! As long as you are doing it together and you show interest in what he is doing then THAT is quality time.\n(you sound like a great Dad, he is lucky to have you)
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As the mother of two boys with "issues", I took it a day at a time.  I did the best I could.  That is all you really can do...just take it day by day.  \n\nAll parents, even those with "normal" kids have tough days.  We just have more of them then they do.  Concentrate on the accomplishments and milestones your boys achieve and enjoy those to the fullest.  There are days that we think we just can't handle anymore but, being mothers, we do.  It all works out!  Good luck!
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It is difficult to give you advice. Take control. Be a leader. Set with him reasonable rules. Let him tell you how to take correctional measures if he tresspasses. You are close to him tell him straight to the face what is acceptable to you and what is not. Do not nag him. The best leaders usually renders support and guidance. Please do not be a supersoft motherly type. Earn respect by being his leader logically, but reasonable. If nothing else help sen him back to mother. See it as a challenge not a burden. Good luck.