There are tons of women's shelters and free legal support for supposed battered women. But, why isn't there any help for men who are kicked out of their homes and barred from seeing their children when they are falsely accused of wife beating?
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LUCK OF THE DRAW......MEN BEFORE US PUT US IN THAT SITUATION WHY DONT U BE THE FIRST AND MAKE ONE!!! ILL BAK U UP!!!
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well...not being a woman, you really can't answer what you would do.  \n\nWomen stay for so many reasons........they can't make it on their own, they are scared, they have low self esteem, they want to be loved......and no being beaten isn't love but try telling some woman who is beaten and then he comes and tells her he is so sorry and that he loves her so much that she isn't loved.\n\nThere are just so many reasons.......what I want to know is why some men think they need to beat a woman to feel powerful?  \n\nGreat question....and I hope it isn't inspired by someone you know being beaten.....if it is.....do her a favor and call the police.  If the OJ case did one thing for us, it's that the police take domestic violence seriously now.
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Contact a domestic violence center and discuss your situation with them.  They usually have services that could assist you.  Some courts have family violence prevention centers, check with your court.
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Please contact your local women's shelter. They usually have toll free hot lines as well. You need to get out now for you self and especially for your daughter. I was once trapped or so I thought. I have survived on my own and I am better for it, and so are my sons.
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How about for the simplest of reasons:  Victims of domestic violence DO have another alternative -- get the f**k out of that abusive environment!
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Wow, I had one of these guys too...there are so many around it is unfortunate.  In my humble opinion, real people with issues get screwed because of dead beat dad and lying mothers.  There are so many guys that ditch a girl when she gets pregnant that when the court sees a guy who wants to be involved, they don't really care why. It's financial too..they figure if the guys is sending money, the state won't have to.  And so many women lie to get back at the guy, that we have lost our credibility in the courtroom.  I really feel for your situation.  Here is what I did..I spent years and thousands upon thousands of dollars trying to do the right thing through the court, and constantly getting told that I was wrong, etc...it made me crazy.  So, I just threw the door open to the guy..said lets stop fighting, this is ridiculous, neither of us can afford this, etc.  Said, visit whenever you want...and guess what?  Since the ball was in his court, he barely comes around anymore.  I don't know if you wish your children to have a relationship with their father or not...not that I think you wish them to not have a father, but if he is abusive, etc...I don't know what your situation is there, but this worked for me.  Best of luck to you, and hang in there.
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Call your local police department and ask them to help you get to a shelter for battered women. There, in most cases, you can stay until you find a job and a place to live. A lot of them provide job training and assist in job placement. I wish I could do more for you but at least this is a start. God speead. Oh, and the shelter is in a secret place where your husband cannot find you.
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men like him say that because they need to be in control.   if your kids are older then they usually get to make the decision of which parent they want to stay with.  Just explain this to the judge, they usually side with women.  i know from my own experience with my own controlling ex-husband.  he said he was going to take my daughter from me and now he barely even sees her.  Just stay strong in front of him and say "okay you have the right to try but we'll see what the judge says in court."  Women usually get custody of the children as long as they don't have a drug problem.  It doesn't really matter if you don't have a job.  they will make him pay child support and you tell the judge your still looking for one.  Nobody gets their kids taken away for not having a job.  You can get temporary assistance until you get back on your feet again.  hope this was helpful. don't give in to his little tactics.  all men use the same lines.  just act like it doesn't bother you.  All the judges I've seen were able to see right through my ex.  he got absolutely nowhere.
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Of course he should be paid back!There wouldn`t be any question if it were the other way around! \n  The fems and the women shelters have got the courts so messed up that a man has no rights at all anymore.These things go on all the time and its getting worse. \n  There is a movement in the male community to get the truth out about subjects that you speak of here and more.There are stats. on rape that are coming out that would make you sick,as much as 70% of rape victims lie and custody battles almost always have accusations of abuse or rape and as much as 85% of those are lies.WOMEN need to wake up to this travesty of justice in this country or our culture will cease to be the dominate force in the world.We can not continue on this path of demoralizing our greatest asset,our men or there will be a gender war and the result will be negative for all involved.Go to some of the men`s rights sites to get info on how to help your fiance with this lie.There is also a lot of information on the distruction of the American male and how this is going to come back and bite us all in the butt,BIG TIME!It would be worth your time to educate yourself on this issue,men in this country are treated very poorly by young women especially and the legal system is out to destroy men because of the fems and the women's shelters that gain financially from this bad law.Good Luck!
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Some friends and I have a hobby of teaching guys like him a lesson-Tell her to get out! go to a battered womans shelter a couple of counties away-and file charges-or contact me and if we are close or if I have any associates close, the situation may well take care of itself.
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Unfortunately the beaten wife syndrome has got a hold on her.  Its very sad to see these women who do this on a regular basis.  But they are the only ones who can change this.  Sure, you could have your buddies whoop on him, but then you are lowering to his level.  Until she realizes that she needs to make a change, this will continue.  Some women never get it and end up dead.  Maybe suggest that she go and see a counselor about it.  Then once they are no longer together, Have 6 of your Buddies kick the shyt out of him.
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That is a hard question to answer. I think it depends on your home life and surroundings. I'm pretty sure that it would be a that the numbers are pretty close between the men and the women. However, a woman is more likely to report her abuser, than a man would! I have seen alot of men get "smacked" around by their wives/girlfriends, more than I see men doing the "smacking"... you decide
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I am a social worker who has worked in this particular area. I have worked in a domestic violence shelter. The first thing is to "catch" the perpetrator in the act and then call the police but the person who is being harrassed needs to call and be there when to p.o. gets there and they will then direct you to go down the magistrate if you want to and take the restraining order out
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I agree with Glo. If she hasn't done so already, she should contact her local domestic violence agency. Some have lawyers on staff and others can refer to lawyers who will provide divorces pro-bono, or at a reduced rate, a sliding scale, or with payment plans. I work as a counselor at a domestic violence agency and we have lawyers that we can call in favors with. \n\nAnd don't be too quick to steer her away from legal aid. In our county, our legal aid does a wonderful job with divorces for women who are being abused. They cross train with our agency so that we are trained on legal issues and they are trained on domestic violence issues. It makes them better equipped to go into court and argue for the victim.\n\nBest of luck to your friend and to you as you support her.
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Here are some websites that should help you.  The issue is a very complex one, and a serious problem in our society.  Battered women often believe that the violence is their fault.  \n\nThere are many perspectives on the issue.  Battered wife syndrome has been effectively used as a defence in murder cases leading to reduced sentences.\n\nYOu really need to do some reading to get the whole picture.  I have attached several websites that should help you.
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I agree with the previous answers.  Go to a women's shelter if you can.  If you are isolated, you can also call your state's child and family protective services and they can assist you.  It is not good for you or your child to stay in a situation that is dangerous.  \n\nGood luck- I hope that this helps:)
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Not a lady, but I can hope to solve this unfortunate problem for you. There is always a legal aid office in what ever town you live in, you may have to dig for it and call lots of different people to find it but it does exist. The easiest way to find it, would be to call a woman's shelter, or your local YWCA if you have a chapter of that organization near you. If not, try your local college. Some of the recently graduated law students are hungry for whatever work that they can get and generally excel at their first cases. (mainly because they want the word of mouth advertising that can come from it). I wish you luck in this most unfortunate place in your life and hope for a speedy and clean proceeding.