When I talk about rejecting women why do people talk sh*t? Why do they interpret everything bad as if u were gay. I'm always afraid of diseases and I never fuck any woman that I'm not sure or don't know. When I reject them I miss out on a good fu** I see other friends doing it with other women but i don't..though I feel out of place like if i was a "p**sy" which I'm not. I don't want my di** falling off for some easy ho. I hope u can understand "niggaman", life is a scary thing when not taken into considerations and we can't go back on our mistakes...which I'm trying to avoid! I hope this is more clear!
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Probably because there are so many ignorant parents and they had ignorant parents.  I'm guessing this applied to you and you come from a long line of ignoramuses.  Do something productive with your time, go pound sand with your Butt buddy the very ignorant N-man.
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Shyness and fear of rejection are there for a reason.\n\nNature is trying to stop you from being rejected.\n\nIf you think a woman might reject you, she almost certainly will.\n\nIf you ever meet a woman who you don't feel like that around, ask her.
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Ok. (taking a deep breath) Let me try to help. This is a bit challenging.\n\nThe first thing I recommend is your sitting down and figuring out just what is causing you so much inner discomfort. Are you afraid to open up? Are you too "hungry" for a woman? Write down your thoughts, your dreams and your fantasies about being with others. Seeing who you are - on paper - helps your mind to sort things out.\n\nNext - take a look at your "shyness." Being shy only means that you are uncomfortable being open with/around others. WHY? Do you fear rejection? Well, based on what you wrote, women seem attracted to you so, allow them to get to KNOW you. \n\nHint: (Some women like being around less aggressive guys - smile)\n\nWHO do you admire? WHO is your hero (or fantasy girl)? THAT may also be why you feel you are missing the mark. Don't gauge yourself based on THEIR characteristics; we ALL have perfect counterparts. The trick is in finding people with similar interests and goals and the only way THAT will happen is by being YOURSELF. \n\nDon't measure yourself against who you feel is the "perfect man" or the "right girl." Just relax, laugh, and enjoy your contacts.\n\nFinally, put YOURSELF in control. Hey - YOU are the master of your own life and destiny; so MAKE THINGS HAPPEN for YOU!\n\nSelect; never settle - regardless of that being a friend or a lover... Just know that there are people out there looking for YOU (the real you) just as YOU have needs for their company.\n\nBe real. Be YOU. The rest will flow through.\n\nThanks for writing, my friend & Good Luck to you!
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D! How come the guys get to choose from decent women but us women get the bottom of the barrel to choose from? Just Kidding. I'm sure these are all really nice guys. I just thought that this would be the perfect time to come out of the closet and let the world know I would rather be GAY!\nLove & Light\nSharon
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To be honest (i'm straight) i'm not anymore interested in the lifestyle of my gay friends than i am of the straight ones!  I mean i'll ask them how they are or what they have done over the weekend but nothing i don't ask any one else!!  I think some straight people either: a)secretly wonder if they are missing out on something; either sexually or with the lifestyle/social scene OR b)-and i know lots of people like this-are pathalogically nosey!  They have to ask you questions about anything and absoloutely EVERYTHING!  Its just the way some people are; they cannot function happily without feelin' as if they are included in everything!!!  Don't some people just DO your head in!!!!
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Its called pride!!!!!! No one likes to suffer rejection especially from our nearest and dearest and if that means not saying anything it makes it the easiest option. What you need to start doing is being honest with yourself,because its one thing to admit it to yourself but it takes a stronger person to deal with it. Thats what you need to do is deal with it and progress instead of sticking your head in the sand and admitting it and moving nowhere. Honesty and humility walk side by side and if you dont worry about what could, should or would happen things become a lot clearer because it simply doesnt matter....
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some people are just not that interested and they don't what to hurt your feelings. We don't know the real intentions of strangers and we don't know their reasons either for their weird behavior, but I can definately relate to what you're saying. Good luck and I hope you don't let people get you down. It's not worth it! Takes too much out of you and you get nothing in return. Keep your hopes up and reach for the stars!
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When I came out, I had many of the same problems. I'm a lesbian, and the "piece of meat" feeling is the same for us, not as bad, because women don't work like that, but still there. I got alot of apologies, and still do 10 yrs later, about past jokes and "that's so gay" comments. I think that people do that as a way to make themselves feel better about themselves and the stupid things that they say. Not that they wont continue to say them, just not to you. \n\nThe gay bar, lol. Oh my god, the first time I went to the dyke bar was traumatizing. I felt so alone, and I was alone, which didn't help. Had not one gay friend.I felt like everyone was staring at me. I worried wether or not I looked like a lesbian.  But unlike straight bars, alot of people took me under their wing and the feeling in a gay bar is alot more comfortable. There definitely is an expectation of the way we look and act in the gay community, I think it is one of the things that we do to make ourselves better than the straight community. But, you should act however you feel comfortable, people will love you regardless. Welcome newbie, may your new gay life be fabulous!
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Why bother with what other's say... u r happy n comfortable with guys right? so do I... so, ignore what other might think or say, just get on with your own lifestyle... and trust me, they wish they could do the same thing but THEY CAN'T. hahaha...pity on them.
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That is really nice i most say am happy for you.OK frist u have to make up ur mind to do it which i think u already have ,say no if you are offered ,don't listen to what people say coz they will try to make u feel less of a woman, they are just jealous they wished they were in your shoes and last try not find self in places or situations that u would  be can be tempted and finally i think u should not talk about it with people they don't have to know if u have had sex or not.Good luck
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Now...I won't bore anyone with answering this question...plus there are some good answers already...on the topic...\nHowever, can't help noticing...YOU are a man (although not mine..:P)...YOU are telling me what to do...(*speak up*)\nAnd what that makes you?? The S...S (no intention to be offensive, just playing...:D)\n\nI might just feel rebellious and stubborn...and cross my arms in front of you and say nothing...for once...:P \n(isn't reverse psychology working or what..:P)
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You are just nervous. It is natural to feel some doubt after all what if you get rejected. What you need to remember is that men find assertive, positive, and direct women to be irresistable. Long story short just Say It already.
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Don't be afraid to ask such a question. How else will you learn? ...and ignore anyone who bites your head off for asking, because it's a question a lot of people raised in a mainstream heterosexual society have, and I'd rather they ask me and other non-heterosexuals than try to get answers from talk shows and bad movies.\n\nI've tried to explain this many different ways to heterosexuals, and here's the answer that seems to work best: \nWhen it comes to a relationship between two women, there is no such thing as "the man" or "a man" because the whole point OF the relationship is that it is between two WOMEN.\n\nI've been in several lesbian relationships and each has been a bit different, but in each, I have considered myself to be a woman who loves another women. \n\nNever have I been in a sexual relationship with a woman where \nshe was consistently more aggressive in bed with me--our relationships were about giving and receiving, about challenging traditional ideas about gender and power and the ideal body, and we usually took turns experimenting with what made us and our partner happy.\n\nNever have I been romantically involved with a woman who always wanted to play the feminine/passive role, with me always leading when we danced, being the one to pick her up for dates, etc. Rather, my relationships with women have involved us sharing equal power and responsibility, taking delight both in being the one to give flowers and the one to get flowers, the one to cook dinner and the one to be served a hot meal, etc.\n\nAlso, from what close friends who are gay and male tell me, its much the same for them. \n\nOf COURSE there are always walking stereotypes--gay men that will tell you they have always been a top/"the man," or the bottom/"the woman," but that's the same as it is with heterosexual traditionalists who worry about who "wears the pants in their relationship, thinking that a mother who works outside the home is setting a bad example for her children and that a man shouldn't cry or express deep emotions in public. \n\nIn general though, homosexuals challenge traditional ideas about gender. They aren't all walking stereotypes. They don't all lisp, have really short hair/nails, spend all their time at dance clubs, or spend any significant amount of time worrying about if they are too masculine/feminine, or not masculine/feminine enough.
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Something fishy here Charlie : why does you want to hear from women only?   And how come no sex in your dreams?  The degree of repression required to achieve this staggers the mind of a simpleton like me.
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I really hate questions like this that generalize all guys into stereotypes.  Just because you have dated the wrong type of guy, don't lump the rest of us in with him.  The only comment I see which may hold water is that guys aren't as emotional as girls, & I even disagree with that to an extent.  I believe men don't express their emotions as readily as women, & that is part of our nature, but we do still feel as deeply as women.  However, most of your questions could as easily be turned around & asked about girls, as many of us men have been put through similar situations by women.  Many of us have felt lead on by girls.  Many have felt girls started something & then changed their minds, whether it was sex, dating, or even a relationship.  A lot of us have wondered why girls don't care if they hurt us.  I think all of us have wanted to know at one time or another why women can't be open & honest with us about their desires, preferring to beat around the bush & making us guess what they are thinking to prove we really love them.  I'm guessing some guy recently hurt you, but it isn't fair to vent on all of us because you got hurt by one scumbag.  You deserve better than the way you were treated, & men in general deserve better than to be lumped together with those of us who happen to be jerks.  It's akin to racism, in that you are chastising everyone in the group for the actions of a few bad apples.  So, learn from the experience, see what it is that this guy did that hurt you, decide you deserve better & settle for no less, & look for one of us who will give you what you deserve, because good men are out here.  You just have to look in the right places.
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Well you probably have one of a couple problems.\n\n1) sampling problems.  Where are you trying to find dates?  Are you going places where openly gay people congregate?  Because you're not just going to have the perfect gay guy drop out of the sky.\n\n2) are you openly gay?  I mean really openly gay.  Because once it is common knowledge that you are gay, then most women will stop hitting on you.  \n\n3) are you a loser?  That sounds harsh, but I'm serious.  It is so critically important, in my opinion, for a guy to come to the point where he is happy with himself and his life and is secure and confident in who he is BEFORE he tries to get into a relationship. If he enters a relationship without being confident and secure, then he is only going to dump his problems, his insecurities, and his self pity on the person he tries to end up with. I believe that it is self-pity, lack of self-esteem and lack of self-respect that people find unattractive and hence make some people unable to get dates
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You are so funny! and so right!\nWomen are terrible...and there are heaps of us!\nFortunatly for me I am fantastic and talk none of that junk.\nYou are hanging around the wrong sort of women. These ones are either\na) shallow - interested in only appearances of herself and others\nb) self conscious - which is why they need to discuss others appearance\nc) uneducated - and have no knowlege of the world to actually have some sort of intellegent conversation.\n\nJust keep looking. And run away from these types.