ok well i saw the guy that i have wanted to be with for 2 years now and he has a new girlfriend but he told me when he came back he would be with me no matter what should i make him keep his promis or  let him be.
133023
You could but usually the other person gets the choice of weapons.  Good luck with that.
262588
You have to wait - the hardest thing to do - for him to find out if he`s interested in you as a girlfriend. Don`t try to come between him and his current girlfriend, he`s chosen to be with her, and until they split up - if they do - you have to play the waiting game and let him come to you.
211283
just tell him flat out he can't have both if he wants to be with you he has to break up with this other girl and if he really truely don't want to loose you he will leave her.  if he doesn't or begs for time to pick one then just leave him alone dont answer his calls and dont talk to him if you see him somewhere.  some people just have a hard time letting go of the past, goodluck to you.
362058
if he were interested in you he wouldn't be with his girlfriend or he would drop her for you. but bear in mind that:1. he might do the same to you one day. 2. you will have to think about the consequences if you cause them to separate- it's probably all about feeling guilty 3. you wouldn't like this to happen to you if you were the girlfriend 4. there are so many guys around that you could pick- why complicate your life with someone who's in a relationship already? 5. you may appear as attractive and adventurous to him, but what if he takes you for something else?\nbetter forget him him to have a light conscience- you'll find your soulmate if that's what you're looking for. maybe this relationship is just not meant to be!
445234
IF YOU REALLY LOVE HIM YOU'LL STICK BY YOUR MAN !!!\n\nBE PATIENT !!!\n\nIF IT WAS MEANT TO BE HE'LL BE BACK !!!
191180
don't trust him too easily, people can change, but most only pretend too. i'd give him a chance but don't get to attached to fast girl, he might just be telling you one thing and doing another
221238
I should hope you are very secure in your relationship, and if so then his hangin with them is not the issue.  If you have some concern for him hooking back up with her (which would be stupid) then you should let him go.  He was smart enough to leave her, can't imagine that he would find anything she does attractive.  You are the better woman and if he does not know how you feel (since you said you don't want to stop him?) then how can things change? The ball is in your court.  Good Luck!!
170469
He is lying to you! He wants a variety of "booty call" prospects, of which he wants to add you to the list. If he hated the girlfriend he would end it. Don't be so naive. If you have to try and take someone away from someone else, then you are a low-life, and deserve someone like him, and remember, what goes around, comes around. On the other hand, think before you act. Don't lower yourself. There are plenty of available guys that would like to be with a deserving girl. Covetousness, is wanting something or someone that belongs to another, and can be a very deadly thing!
113798
My boyfriend is still friends with the one long-term girlfriend he had before we got together. He still talks to the girls he had flings with throughout his early 20s. I'd be lying if I said it doesn't bother me occasionally. The important thing is that it's only occasionally. I trust him and I know he would never betray that trust.\n\nIf he still has feelings for them I'd be wary of getting too attached to this guy. He isn't bad, it just seems like he isn't sure of what he wants. Maybe those feelings will fade, maybe they won't. The important thing to remember is that he is entitled to those feelings and you can't force him to not have them.
136612
He's already taken! Yes, it may seem that you guys are meant for each other but you may not know him well enough, he may love his girlfriend in a way you may not understand and what you can do is to invite him and his girl and your friend to something and you can analze how strong his relationship is with his girl. Even if it is weak, if you guys are meant for each other, he'll come to you.
444914
Your going to have to let the part go if your wanting this relationship. People make mistakes and don't always make the right decisions. If he is back with you and that is what you want then don't worry about and get on with your life.>
330940
Why would you want him back after he has had another girl???  You should have more respect for yourself than that!!! And, if this girl is such a whore, wouldn't you be afraid of getting a disease after he has slept with her?\n\nI really think you should move on.  There are many many guys out there who will love you and not break up with you for someone else. Sex is going to feel great all the time... But even better with someone you really love and who loves you just as much.  Be smart...sometimes you have to use your brain and not your heart.  Good luck!
61019
I think it would be safe to say that he isn't going to forget you, why? he made the ultimate sacrifice for you. He told you to date others even though he wants you for himself. He could of said while i am gone do not see anyone else, but instead he put you before him. I would assure him that you are here for him and will be here for him when he gets back. A man who puts the woman first really cares and loves her.
562940
A girl shouldn't settle for some guy just because he will treat you good.  It isn't fair to him or yourself to create a relationship that isn't built on love and passion.  The fact that he jumped straight to a promise ring without you two dating is like a huge red flag of desperation on his part.  Don't fall for the big move he has made, instead focus and think about what you want in your life and for your future.
22010
"Believe half of what you see, and none of what you hear".  Take things slow (talk on the phone, hang out, etc...if he is persistant than he may be genuine.  Right now to be safe do only things you would do if he did have a girlfriend.  BE VERY CAUTIOUS!!!!!
278129
i would do nothing because if you were his girlfriend and you found out not only did your boyfriend like someone else but the girl knew about you and she decided to pursue it.  tell him when he finds out what he wants to let you know, but i wouldn't hold my breath waiting.  did you ever hear that saying that, (the way you got him that's the way you lose him).  think about that and be careful.
378874
Honestly....If it was me I wouldn't waste my time. If he's really interested in you then you getting with another guy might make him see what he's been missing. But in all seriousness though. If he shows no sighns of leaving the other girl then you HAVE to move on. Finding a new guy might make you think twice about your first choice. Lifes too short to stay stuck on one guy. Especially in your teen years...if your a teen.