Are we truly afraid of getting hurt? Or is there more to it than that? If you love, truly and deeply then what do we have to loose?
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Because one must open oneself completely for love to occur. Very vulnerable state, which also requires honesty. It is very scary, even though exilirating. Sometimes it is too much. Sometimes, we are too scared to be honest with ourselves, or do not feel strong enough to risk the hurt.\n\nIt's like jumping out of an airplane, but you're not only not sure your parachute will open, you're not even sure you're wearing one.
259126
Not always. It should not hurt when you fall in love, thats the good part. Its falling out of love that sucks. There will be more. there will be othere. Time will heal your pain.
194559
Firstly you need to overcome your fears.  Try and find a common interest (if you know each other I am sure you have one) and talk about that.\n\nAnd as for knowing if it's really love... I don't think anyone ever does.  You need to just ride things out.  That's what I've always found.  Best way to learn.
290273
just because it has a reason and that there is no avoiding it doesn't mean we don't have a need to fear. If i bee is destined to sting me i might be afraid of how bad it will hurt. or if i was in a situation where i thought i could die, i wouldn't be afraid of death, cause there's no getting around, it but i would be afraid of how i die or afraid of the things i have left unfinished. God has his plan set for us, and bad things happen to good people, but just because we don't want it to happen doesn't mean that if we pray hard enough its not going to happen, some bad has to happen so some good can come from it. So i don't know who the question went from fear to free Will , but there can be fear even in certainty and nothing can change what is destined
28424
Don't expect to never get hurt. Just asking this question indicates that you're a sensitive person, and there will be things along the line that will hurt you. Just be sure that you take a little time to think about things rather than a gut reaction, which will only aggravate situations.
319154
Have You ever though that we are trained from birth to hide some of the things that we feel. If our other half is sick and dieing we keep as much inside to keep from hurting the children or the ones that we love or if if we are in pain and our child needs something done we do for them. It was what I was taught to be strong that The female has to hold it together no matter what she feels. Even if it fell like you are dieing inside.
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I understand you completely because for me it usually does and that's why I'm afraid,but not everyone is the same. You have to give it a chance. Believe it or not life is about talking risk. If you didn't you'd be in the same place forever and who knows you may end up happy but there's not garentees!!!! lol Oh yeah and your definately not weird it's called "love"
576414
Love is what you make of it.  The definition you've given about having a higher concern for another without regards to oneself, to me that is love.  Actually there's more to it than that, but then again not everything can be expressed verbally now can it?
362230
In order to truly love someone, you have to let them get close enough to hurt you.
572912
i think its both... independence and fear, but mostly fear. i have been one of those people. sometimes when u feel that ur getting really close to someone you get scared... this might sound weird but you think that it would be easier for you to hurt yourself by taking yourself away from that person then that person leaving you. it took a while for me to notice what i was doing. hang in there with the person that you are talking about, you just need to show them that you're not going anywhere and that there is nothing to be afraid of.
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Love, and life actually, is about taking chances...not risks, although those are to be taken too sometimes, but a chance is different i think....sure she might get her heart broken, but if she isnt willing to take that chance, she will never allow herself to know love either...being afraid is normal, hell we are all afraid that something might be too good, or too perfect, and it turns out usually that nothing is really perfect...but the fact is you will only know what good can really come from a situation by being a part of the situation...so unless he beats her, or treats her badly emotionally...i would say she should at least be open to the possibility that she will get something really great out of this relationship...i have found out that if the only thing you have to suffer is a broken heart, its well worth the chance...broken hearts come and go....love will be with you always...
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Based on the catogory you chose, it seems like you are young.  Don't be afraid and go do it.  Just don't move to fast and remember.... kids are always falling in and out of love.  Yes, you will get hurt, but this will NOT be the first time in your life. Believe me, it even happens to adults... Good luck..
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There is no absolute answer to this.  Some people need a transitional person between major relationship and some don't.  I know your scared of being hurt but the truth is in every relationship you will ever enter and truly find love there is always a risk of being hurt.  If you really think this is a great guy then why let him go just because of being scared.  To do so may mean missing out on something really special.
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No. \nThe things we feel Most Deeply\n are the things we cannot---Dare Not\nput into words\n\nThey are sacred.
668650
A man once had true feelings for me, we didn't just have sex. He held me, kissed me, cuddled and watched movies, and he made me feel wonderful. I loved him and it felt great. I came to believe that if this is so bad, why is it so wonderful. From then on, I felt no shame and believed truly that love conceurs all.
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Just like women we dont want 2 be hurt either. I just think that men are not programmed to be that way, its sad but true. We also dont want to feel like a wimp so we hide those feelings and never really show the real us, until sadly its to late.  Words of advice ask once, then try other ways of finding out what u want to know.
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This means he has been hurt and does not want to face that pain again.\nFear holds people back from a lot of things in life \nFear creates Jealousy so much when it is built up then creates Anger, Violence then Hatred and then before you know it, the relationship is over.\nMen do hold pain in because women are so emotional and men could not bare for anyone to see them like that \nSo they tuck it in, take a breath and try to look brave.\nTalk about feelings and emotion can make the relationship feel that little bit closer ; )\nHow far would we all go through life if fear held us back.\n\nLove & Blessings \nMilly