i'm in a relationship...My bf sinned to me. My mom told me it's better  not to call him or make any *first* move. I agreed cause i was always the one who's calling him. I live in canada and he's in the US. i'm always paying the bill so we can talk.(it was worth it, but i always give) I waited for 3 weeks, he never called me. One time, i was online and he was online to, i waited for him to PM me but he never did... i can understand him not calling me cause international call is expensive.. but not pming me or sending me any mail????? GOD... what kind of bf is he? I want to break up with him but I can't... i love him still but he's hurting me so much. i don't want to call him because i'm scared and maybe he's thinking that we're already broken up. How can i end my suffering? how can i make evrything clear? please help me :(
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Just do it.  Just break up with him.  If he loves you as much as you love him then he will try to get you back.  Then you can explain to him about the phone calls and the emails.  If he doesn't try to get you back then he wasn't worth it in the first place and it will save you a lot of heartache, pain and money.
85094
you really need to be careful. remember that is his friend. you don't want to break up his friendship and your relationship. i think deep down you probably feel at least SOMETHING for him, but u r in denial. he probably likes you 2. or it could be that he was bored. i call everybody and their grandma when i am bored. maybe you should ask him. also, u need to tell your boyfriend to step up his game. plus, if he didn't pick up the phone anything could have happened. i know if a guy is callin me that early....i will not wake up. also, u needs to always have a plan B.<<<<take that the way u want to interpret it.
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His mind is on something else. But dont worry yet cuz worryin gets u no where.  just keep being that honest and truthful girlfriend you are.  Pretty soon whatever is going on will come to the light.  NOTHING STAYS IN THE DARK BELIEVE ME. so just be patient and dont call him cuz that will annoy him after awhile and conversations will be allot shorter more often. so give him his little space and let him come to you. And if dosent come you know what u gotta do. but dont give in and call him again because honestly love is like a Game and if you call him YOU LOST HE WON and then he got the upper ground.  you'll be fine girl just keep urself occupied and less worried you'll be fine.
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this sounds something that has happened to me recently so i'll tell you what i think is the best thing to do...in my opinion the guy is scared of hurting you more in the future so he keeps his distance so you don't get too close in the wrong way...one way you can help this, is to just call him up and invite him to your place to play cards with you and some other friends or just to hang out...or invite him out to go to the new movie playing in town or just a casually lunch at McDonalds....well i hope this helps a little if you need anything else let me know
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Excuse me... did you say bf or ex-bf? Believe me, he is a fugitive and you allowing him to be with you is illegal, in any state. The best thing for you to do is sever your contact and pray that they don't charge you.
637754
tat is wat happens to me all the time my boyfriend tells me when to call then I do but he never answers so i think u should call her make her feel better becuase i can never get ahold of my boyfriend and i makes me feel bad because he thinks i dont care but i love him so much so pick up the phone and call  and suprise her  she will be happy with that.\n\nbest of wishes:\ntina
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OMG....I understand your situation completely. No, I don't think you're being silly or stubborn. \nDoesn't it make you feel like you care more for him and he doesn't really care at all? Like he expects you to go begging for forgiveness. Like he doesn't care if you get back together or not. \nLike he can't be bothered enough to pick up a phone or type an email. That he doesn't value the relationship enough to try and discuss the situation. \nThe only advise I could give it wait it out. If he cares, he will eventually contact you. If not, you will have your answer...that he just does not care enough. \nSorry. Maybe it's not good advise and I know it would be torture for you to just wait.
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They there bubby! I gave you an answer last month regarding your BF who is in jail and demanding you send him money... I thought by now you would have left him because it sounds like he's having an extra marital affair in there, or he's paying for his drug habit... Quit sending him money now... E-mail me personally and lets talk...Been there and done that scene many times with my significant other and eventually caught him cheating on me so I left him after our 14 year relationship... He kept bothering me and wouldn't find a job and expected me to support him and finance his drug habit, so I went home clear across the State of Alaska, and you now how big our state is... Since then, I've got my life back, a new job and making more money and saving and planning on going on a vacation to meet this guy I met on the internet and hopefully take him home and start my life over again..... I occassionaly miss him and think about him but life goes on.... So I weigh the pros and cons of our past relationship and stop thinking about him and pat myself in the back for taking my life back towards the positive side and don't plan on returning to him... I used to go to the library to use a computer to check my e-mail, but since then I have been able to buy my own computer and alot of other things that I couldn't buy when I was with him..... I look forward to hearing from you Tracer and think positive and things will work out for you.... Otherwise do you have IM/chat so we can talk without having to wait for each others reply? So let's chat and come up with some alternatives to ease your pain.... I have yahoo messenger...
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If you really love this guy then ignoring his calls is the wrong thing to do.  If he wants space and has asked that you give it to him, you should not call him.  But, if he calls you DO NOT ignore his calls.  The only message that sends to him is that you have given up on him.  He knows you are hurt.  He is likely hurting as well.  If you want this man in your and your daughters lives, then you need to try to work things out.  Listen to him, give him his space, don't do something in retaliation that you can't take back.  The old saying that if you love something you should set it free, if it comes back to you it will be yours forever, if it doesn't it never belonged to you in the first place comes to mind in your situation.  Ask yourself if you would rather have this man in your life (even if it is only as a friend now).  The answer to that question will guide your next actions.  Just, don't do anything in haste or it might be something you will regret for a long time.\n\nBeen there.  Best wishes.
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Dont call him again. He is making up excuses and is clearly not worth a minute of your time. I know it hurts and he is going to be on your mind but if you call him you are just going to look weak and hes going to know he can come back to you if things dont work out with someone else or hes lonely. Try to move on and im sure you will get a phone call from him!
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Get your money back, then drop him. It honestly just doesn't seem like he's trying to spend time with you at all or even try and figure out his "true intentions". To be honest with you, I think he already knows his true intentions, he just doesn't want to tell you. If he really didn't know, he'd be talking to you still even if he was trying to figure it all out. As for that afternoon that he didn't show up, it doesn't take much to call or e-mail, he could have at the least done one of those things. Heck, I call my girlfriend if I'm going to be a few minutes late for getting to her place to see her. I consider it a requirement.
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Well, since you already told him how sorry you are and everything... it is up to HIM to decide what to do next. You have to give him space so he can figure this out. If you keep trying to talk to him to fix it, it'll just push him away even more. Just give him time.\n\nIf it doesn't work out, it will be alright.\nGod has a plan for you. He will give you the one in His time.\n\nAll you can really do is learn from this experience and use it to build the future.\n\n\n\nWell.. if you think he may have been using you, don't you think you're better off WITHOUT him?
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It sounds like he's very hurt by not only the break up, but by your harsh actions of how you treated him after the relationship ended. He's seen you in a new light that was not good and now in turmoil over whether or not to get back with you. Best thing to do now would be to back off to give him time and space to figure things out. By you constantly calling and asking him what's he going to do is probably just making matters worse. Let him have his time to think about things and so he can make his decision.
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A long distance relationship,usually doesn't work out,It seems that hes discovered someone where he lives.if he truly cares let him call you,but don't continue to call him and not receive a call back I know its easier said than done .cut him off you've done nothing wrong.,that your calls go UN answered.
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If you broke up w/ him there must have been a reason. What was that reason ? Do you want to go through it all over again ? I think I can relate to what you're saying tho. I went to the city partly to get away fr him for the wk'd after we broke up. Well, we were still talking on the phone sometimes but when he phoned it'd be more like "geeeeeeez... :( " but I'd still answer the phone. While in the city I didn't have a very good time. It felt like my fam was abandoning me or something. Like they were tryna get rid of me or didn't wanna see me, etc. :( I was very hurt. The main reason why I was thinking of moving to the city was to be near my fam too... After that I felt that my ex was the only one who really cared bout me. When I got back home I jut HAD to see him so I went to see him. I told him bout what happened in the city & how I felt that he was the only one who cared bout me. For a whole wk I wanted to be w/ him. I wanted to be w/ him every chance I had. We were @ this pt, just "friends". We went to see Default & I guess he was gonna go home after the concert. I didn't want him to leave. I didn't wanna go home either. He was gonna drink but I didn't really care if he did, as long as I could be w/ him. Well, his mom & sis were gone to the city, so he let me spend the night, which I did. I felt that I wanted to get back w/ him. B/w the day I got back home fr the city to the time we got back together officially was Apr 7th-13th I believe. There was even a time AFTER that that I thought that we'd be together forever. But in the past 2 or 3 wks I haven't been feeling that way. I wanna break up w/ him. When & how is the Q. This'll be our 4th break up. :( \nYou may also experience this as well. Have you broken up in the past ? If you have I think that this will only continue to happen. Don't let it. Be strong. Easier said that done I know, but when you feel like talking to him, call a friend. Maybe even get together w/ a friend or friends. It's better than giving in to urges. Hope this helps !!!
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Ok, look, I know this is hard. I mean, it sounds like you're truly suffering. BUT, it is true what they say, "Time heals all wounds." Give it time.\n\nBut, for immediate help. Try this.\n\nNO CONTACT FOR 30 DAYS. Do not call him. Do not write him. Do not email him. Do not drive by his place. Do not talk to his friends or relatives. Do not make any sort of contact with him for a FULL 30 DAYS.\n\nTrust me. This is what I do when I go through a break up. The 30 days is a goal. Once you make it through those 30 days you feel like you've made some sort of progress. It works.\n\nAs for the general heart ache and pain. You just have to go through it. Life hurts sometimes. We all have pain.\n\nGood luck.\n\nOh and before you do the 30 days thing, you might mention it to him. Hopefully he'll understand. If you guys both stick to it it'll be easier on both parties.\n\nSplooch!
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if he's hurting you now... imagine how much more he's going to hurt you if you stick around. That's not what love is all about. For real, that's not what love is all about.\n\nNo one deserves to be treated like that. You wouldn't treat someone you cared about like that... why are you letting someone do that to you. \n\nMove on and don't look back. Even if he calls and you want to answer... don't, cuz he already has shown you his disrespect for you. to him, your just a filler.\n\nThere is nothing insane in being with someone who wants to be with you and enjoys and loves you.\n\nGirl, don't get sucked into his world... get out before he makes you suffer even more. \n\nOne day you will look back and realize you did the best thing cuz your gonna have someone who will really appreciate and love you.