I was with my boyfriend on Saturday and his uncle called (unexpectedly) to tell him that he was in town and he would be there for a little bit (his uncle drives commercial trucks). My boyfriend, not being mindful, tells his uncle that he will quickly meet him and never mentions that he is out on a date with his girlfriend. He asked me if I wanted to come with him and I said no because I felt that was a waste of $$ if I didn't stay to watch the movie. So he leaves and I was very pissed off. We both did finally arrive to meet the uncle at the truck station, but the uncle wind up staying in town because it was raining so hard.\n\nHe says there was no reason for me to be mad because that is his favorite uncle and if I had left in the middle of our date to see one of my relatives he wouldn't have been mad. I don't think that is true....am I being reasonable or just over-reacting? I wanted him to see his uncle, but just leaving in the middle of the date was plain rude to me.
124431
I personally think that he was being kind of a jerk.  yes it was just a movie, but he planned to be with you that night and to just ditch you is just plain rude.  tell him how you feel and ask him if he could maybe do something different next time.
214831
I went through a similar situation and I made my BF talk to her about her pushiness. She no long calls at 6 am so thats good! You should not complain to much about his family though as they are and will always be in his life. You should be calm and explain to him your feelings! Good luck.
128337
I agree with loving_father.\nPut yourself in your friends shoes. How would you feel?\nI was in this situation once. My friends knew my GF was seeing someone else and didn't say anything. Needless to say, they are no longer my friends. Do the right thing.
598541
well he might be sayin this dont seem right cuz its like in the family  thing but his body is sayin the cuzin pleases me , understandable , its a strange feelin,been there before ,but morality sinks in some times and takes over,but if he is trying to throw signs  then duu is probly just selfish and out to please himself  thinking he can get both ,but if youve moved on then dont worry bout him,but at least respect your cuzin to let her know if he does try,and if she dont know yall was a thing then it might help to be honest with her cuz im sure she dont wanna be hurt by someone who dont care ,but then again stand bac cuz they might actualy have something serious and he does care for real ,so it wouldnt be coo to mess wit dat,and if it didnt bother you you wouldnt have spoke up,so just ignore it  as best as you can ,itll pass
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Are you sure he's not a very busy person?  Is he already seeing someone else?  Other than that I can only think of two answers:  1)  You're coming across as too needy somehow and scaring him away.....\n2)  Sorry to say, he might not like you much, or just not that way.\n\nIf it was me I would act very nonchalant about it.  Don't call too much, and say you've been busy if he asks.  Or you could come up with a "date" plan yourself.  Pick out a movie that you both could enjoy, and say you're dying to see it and you can't get your friends to go for various reasons, etc.  I don't know how old you are....any "manly" things you could ask him to do for you in your house?  Ask him to make a trip to the hardware or auto parts store with you?  Do you cook?  Tell him you're just dying for some chili but you always have too many leftovers!  You're dying for a banana split at such-an-such a restaurant, but don't want to go by yourself.....etc.  These are ideas for after you give him a tad of the cold shoulder for a couple of days and make sure you're not coming across as needy.   Good luck!  (You also could be coming across as not interested enough!!  I've had that happen to me a couple of times.  You have to figure out which it is!)
25662
It sounds like if he's truly understood that you're gonna break it off with him and yet he still hasn't changed his attitude, then he's probably wanting you to break it off. Maybe it's one of the whole, "I don't want to do it so I'll MAKE her do it" type things. Give him this last chance, try to go out and do something that both of you enjoy without the distraction of friends and family. Let him know that it really does bug you when he acts this way. If he still seems like he wants to hang on and will change, you decide, you go for it or maybe you've had enough. But if he's STILL acting that way by the end of the "date" call it quits. Move on to a guy who'll treat ya better! Good luck girl!
620046
That's wierd I say it's time you guys had a serious talk. He sounds like a jerk. I mean I'm totally for guys not inviting their gfs along in order to have alone time to party with their friends but a birthday celebration (ESPECIALLY his own is hardly the time to do this) Unless there were strippers involved and even if that were the case u guys still need to have that talk.
170328
I tell them I was not expecting you! I am really not up to company right now. ____day would be much better. Could you come in the morning or afternoon?(smiling):)\n\nSomething along those lines. I don't like to fabricate stories and I am not afraid to hurt feelings as it is extremely rude to stop by any ones home unannounced.\n\nGuarantee it won't happen again.
379317
I think that your unexplained absence at the event likely made her very upset and angry and turned her off for good.  You made her wait, you made her very anxious, and you made her lose face--essentially, you ruined the entire event for her.  That kind of behavior reflects very poorly upon you and is a good indicator of the type of man you are.  You have a right to change your mind, but out of respect for her, you should have called her beforehand to let her know.  Sorry, but I think you lost her for good.
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I have quite a few bad date stories.  But the one that takes the cake was the first guy I dated after my divorce 3 years ago.  I decided to be proactive and try the online dating format.  I corresponded with this guy for about a week and he asked me out.  I had not seen a photo (bad move on my part) but agreed to dinner. When I called him to confirm our date I got this really odd voice mail message that made reference to some obscure bible passage.  Now, please understand that I'm not what you would call religious.  My profile clearly referenced my musical tastes and what you would call "new age" interests  While I thought the voicemail thing a bit odd, I tried to maintain a positive attitude so we set up a time for us to go out.  The next night he picked me up at a friend's house and showed up in a mini-van.  Immediately, my reaction was "omg, this is not good".  I walked out to meet him at his vehicle and the inside looked like he lived in it...fast food remnants, sporting goods, etc.I knew this was no love connection but I tried to be a good sport and at least make it through dinner.  We went to a local restaurant where he started to spout off his very fundamentalist religious rhetoric.  He told me that "the government" has already developed "mobile execution stations", I think he meant that these are like the emissons testing vehicles but more sinister.  Basically he said that the end of the world is coming and people who refuse to have a bar code/mark of the beast would be executed.  He leaned into me and serious as a heart attack says "so, what are you going to do on judgement day?  Are you going to take the mark of the beast?" Needless to say "mark of the beast" is looking more appealing by the moment.  At this point, I'm thinking that this date can't get worse...but low and behold it got much worse.  There was a large group of people adjacent to us at this restaurant and were obviously celebrating a child's birthday.  There were helium balloons all over their table.  My date summons the waitress with whom he had been relentlessly flirting with and says "can I ask you a favor"?  Immediately I put two and two together and started praying "god please don't let him do what I think he is about to do"!  You guessed it...he procured a balloon and managed to suck helium and do his best Alvin and the Chipmunks impression.  I started inhaling my dinner in the hopes of getting out of there ASAP.  He managed to get the attention of the entire restaurant and then asked me out again for the next night.  I told him my to take me home and politely declined further dates.  After this fiasco I realized that dating takes a lot or work and a lot of humor.  I started giving my dates silly little nicknames.  This guy was affectionately called "Jesus Boy" by me and my friends.  This was one of many frogs I had to kiss.  Some of the others were "college professor guy whose kitchen looked like a nuclear waste dump",  "Yoga instructor that looked like Yoda" and "transvestite dude" (you figure that one out)! and countless other potential suitors.  I'm happy to say that I finally did manage to find a great guy and we both like to laugh about my very laughable dating exploits!
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It seems ok to me....sometimes, if you have plans, then trying to maneuver around them can be very difficult, as you are finding out.  Don't woryy about it; and don't think that you were"put on the back burner," either.  The trip was occupying his attention, and he tried to get some time for YOU.  That's a good thing.  The fact that it didn't actually work is immaterial.
539362
+ I really don't know as I don't seem to have that problem. My girl friend was still having guys call to ask her out when we first started (and she still is) and I suggested that the three of us get together and that never happened. Someone was intimidated, but not me. Seems like the guy would always say no, or that is what I was told. I sure hope that is the truth as I would hate to find out otherwise later.  My thought was that if they thought enough of her to ask her out they probably had the same values as I do so they had to be OK guys and maybe they would be valuable people to know. \nI am getting ready to go on a work trip to South America and I told her that it was OK to have dinner with some of them if she wanted, and I guess that was a wrong answer too. So I am busting back to get everything done and every time I turn around I get asked to do more things. I can't understand it. If I were to do the same thing, would I be considered inconsiderate, thoughtless or greedy for attention? I suppose I will never really understand. I really hope that when I return she will have spent at least one full 48 hour period without having consumed any alcohol as I worry a lot about it and sometimes I stay away because of it. Well I hope my thoughts help you sort out yours. \nGood Luck from a guy who is not intimidated and who cares enough to just walk away if the other person would be happier that way. (Been there done that)
376295
Can I ask why you didn't offer to pay for the tux rental but pay for his girlfriends' dress which cost $200. I agree with most of the people leaving comment. You haver every right to be upset afterall, he did leave you hanging on your wedding. I would be  very upset. Give yourself sometime to get over it. When you are calm and ready to speak to him ask what his excuse was. In the future don't rely on him on important events such as this. I know it's easy to be said and done...try to talk to him and if he give you a good enough reason see if you can let it go...Blood is thicker than water no matter what you guys are sibling can't be mad at him for a lifetime.....Do give him hell for it and let him know how much he hurt  you for doing such things....
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What kind of drama was his aunt talking about?\nI think your boyfriend wants his cake and to eat it too.\nYou sounded really good and I was proud of you....for a while....until the last 3 words..."I don't think"\n\nWhy would you let someone treat you this way? He humiliated you, lied to you...what else? People will only do to you what you allow them to do. \n\nTo get respect, you must demand respect.\n\nShame on him.
90158
I would have to say that if you have been talking on the phone for that long. Then you have acctually have been dating that long. I think it would be alright to go to his house as long as his family is there. If you feel uncomfortable make an excuse and leave. That is your right.
74515
WHOA! You should defintaly try to explain yourself again and make her understand. I would be furiuos if my girlfriend stayed at her Exs for a week. Thats totally uncalled for and you have every right to be pissed. I mean theyre Exs for a reason right? Yea man thats definatly not cool, and if she insists on keeping contact with the Ex then maybe theres still some latent feelings towards him. If she doesnt get it, then tell her that her still talking with him is directly effecting your relationship and could possibly be the downfall of it as well. Godd luck with that man.
407954
Yeah, it sounds bad. He wanted to cut out quick, and that's good. You don't want him hanging around just to be polite, do you? The fact that he hasn't called yet, doesn't mean anything.. guys are not usually phone hounds like women are, but not coming in was the clincher.