i just asked another question "do guys mostly date a girl because of her physical appearance or some do look at their personalities?". and from the answers,  guess not-so-attractive-gals have no luck in bars, no chance for love-in-first-sight kind of thing right? and no one would ask their numbers in bars right? coz their inside charms (like personalities) are not showing just by a peek.
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Every person has his or her own idea of beauty. I have a good friend who is attracted to very large women. Personally, I am very attracted to bookish, quiet, intelligent women who many guys may not look at twice. Yes, many guys chase after the Barbie dolls.... but not all guys do. More important than your looks is your attitude about yourself, and your openess to being accepted by a good man who sees the beauty on your inside and out. I bet one day it happens for you!
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Well I am not a guy But I see the inner beauty in the men I date. After all the cute is gone you are left with a cute asshole nobody. I figure it is that way for men also when they look for a mate. Of coarse everybody wants that perfect person who is all that .but think of it this way "our skin is just our garage where we                temporarily store our souls."
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Because although guys pretend to be deep, they're not.  They almost always chose the easy pretty girl over the complex average girls.  When I was in high school, I was a punk rocker, as was this guy I was totally in love with.  On paper we were perfect together, both smart, offbeat, and complex individuals.  He didn't want to go out with me, no matter how hard I tried.  A few year later I ran into him and his girlfriend -- a slutty looking dumb blond.  I realized that he was still immature and looking for an easy relationship, which I am most certainly not.  But there are guys out there who don't care what style you have, they just want to be with you, no matter if they're like you or not.
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I know it sounds bad, but usually the first thing a guy looks for is how the girl looks.  If she is good looking, then he wants to find out other things about her.  That is just how most guys are.  And I am always busy, but if I really like a girl, I always find time to kick it with her.  And the only reason I'm always busy is because I don't want to be broke, because when you are broke you are no fun.
582734
Why not try to find a girl for him to go out with and try to get her to help to boost his confidence, I honestly think that practical experience will help more than words in this case.
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Guys are all about looks.  Some like breasts, bottoms, legs, etc.  If you don't have the feature the guy finds appealing, you have no chance.\n\nGuys generally do not have conversations with women they are interested in.  Guys see women they communicate with as friends.  The women they like they either try to impress or pretend they are listening to them.  That is the unfortunate truth about men.
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no one is telling guys to look hard, that's yalls choice. Everyone wants the cute, small frame big butt chick, but what about the cute girl, that's working and doing something w/ her life. yall overlook those kinds. Girls don't have to lookout, we see what we want for who yall are, not for how you look. you can look kool and still be an a$$, as compared to the book smart guy that really knows how to treat a girl. most of the time though, the cook guys only want sex, and there more to life than just that. maybe if guys looked at it like that, it wouldn't be hard for you to find a cute girl. look beyond the breast and butt for a change, you'll find a cute girl.
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Not necessarily. I can't judge what men look like cause I'm a man myself, but the homies I've had that women were really digging didn't seem to go for the most gorgeous girl. They kind of went for the total package. Beautiful inside and outside. Not necessarily the most gorgeous on the outside.
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hm...well,i don't.but maybe guys these days like to show off their girls so that he will look cool among his friends, sorta like a trophy or something.in this case,beauty does not lie in the eye of the beholder,but in the eye of the beauty magazines!my second ex is the Barbie type,when we're on a date, it's like, she's spending time with her mirror than with me most of the time.and i don't enjoy myself coz the way guys look at her makes me feel uncomfortable.it only lasted for 2 weeks...2 weeks of hypocracy.i'd rather look for someone genuine and normal.
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I am a girl of 22 years old and have had a lot of experience with guys. I am not shy and will ask a guy face to face what he looks for in a gal... from what i have been told guys look for "normal" girls. most hate it when a girl cakes her face in makeup and trys too hard to look "nice" what guys want is for a girl to have personallity rather than looks. thats the honest truth. They dont want a really ugly girl when theyre young coz they dont wana lose in front of their mate.... so be yourself and be confident and whatever you don DONT change the way you look or act to impress anybody be proud of you and be confident with yourself and youll have the guys flooding at you...promise. xx
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Not all chicks are that superficial so in my point of view its not really that important.At the end of the day it's whats inside that counts.I can and have looked past that.
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Depends on whether the guy / girl looks only at the body for their definition of a date. If that's the case, then no. If not, then it's possible, though your "personality" thing has got me in a bind. It just takes a lot of appreciation, respect, and oh yeah, maybe a different date helps. ^_^
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I think under most circumstances people tend to date others at their own level of attractiveness. Sometimes you will see a great looking girl with an ugly guy or vice versa, but usually its a 1 to 1 thing.\n\nI'm not making any judgements about physical size and attractiveness. Just maybe see if you are setting your sights too high. By the way, I'm slightly overweight myself just so you don't think I'm being unfair here. Good luck!
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Are you attractive? Obviously. Without any male competition(boyfriend or husband) most men will be even braver than ever. I was with some army buddies when one of them came running into the bar-" There's this bar next door and its full of women!" We went in and found out it was a lesbian bar but even though no body hooked up it was fun hanging with people who liked women just as much we do with out the cockblocking tension.
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Speaking as a Black female I think there is a very strong double standard in our (African-American) culture.  Black men will date a white female in a New York minute, but cry foul the minute they see us with a white or any other man.  We tend to get hassled more by other Blacks for dating outside of our race.  Also, many (not all) white men are raised to appreciate a more Euro centric standard of beauty (blonde hair, blue eyes, big boobs, skinny body, small butt, etc); in spite of the "browning" of America this beauty standard still dominates.   Black females don't fit into that particular beauty standard so I think it's hard for some (again some not all!) white men to see our beauty.  I also think it's hard because of the painful past that Black women have with white men.  When white men do approach us, some of us tend to be suspicious of them.  This is just my opinion for why you don't see more  Black females with white males.  If you're really serious about interracial dating, there are websites that are dedicated to this.
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im pretty and my friends are pretty. i wont discriminate against ugly people i've even dated ugly people in the past b/c of their personality. but if a girlfriend of mine is ugly i'll tell her that she's not that attractive and should play up other moves to win over guys. no point in lying to her b/c she know that she ugly no matter how much i deny it.
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Maybe they do like you and you're too caught up in self-consciousness to realize it. Or maybe they're just too stupid to know that redheads rule. Everybody here is gonna tell you that looks don't matter. They're lying. None of them would ever date someone they didn't find physically attractive. People will hate me for saying that, but it's true. I don't know what you mean by "an average body," but it doesn't really matter. You know if you look nice or not. Regardless, assuming you're in high school and assuming nobody there really is attracted to you (which I doubt), eventually you'll graduate. Go to college. You'll find the scene is completely different there. One more thing. I hope you're not being narrow-minded about the guys you're interested in. There's probably some reserved, nice guy out there, maybe not Mr. Universe, but not bad-looking either who would love to take you out but is scared to death to say anything. Give him a shot. Oh yeah...try taking the initiative and asking a few guys out yourself.