I never felt "cute" until I hit high school and people actually treated me that way.  Guys hit on me all the time. Some days I feel good about myself but other times I don't see what people are talking about.  What is my problem?
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I think that you are suffering from a form of depression. It could be a chemical imbalance, easily fixed with vitamins. But there could be other causes related to physical emotional and social stress. As females we can receive the flattery of being hit on every day with out it effecting how we feel about our selves, if the issues about whats really wrong are not addressed. Don't think of talking to a counselor about these issues, as "needing psychotherapy" or something so drastic...Think of it as a class on how our bodies work and why we get in these situations. Once we learn how we trained our selves to think like this it becomes, not only easier to figure out how to correct these issues, but the issues become so clear that we can offer advice to friends in the same rut.
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There is nothing wrong with you. Maybe you just did not discover yourself yet. Just be patient with yourself and love yourself, because you are a wonderful person. As much as I am sure that there are people, who love you for who you are. If you spend more time with those people, you will feel much better!
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ooohhh!! you are so cute!!  you look so sad though!!  please, go and talk to someone!!  any one! you can talk to your friends or your mom any one!  you are so cute!  try to get involved in some clubs and stuff so that you meet more people.  Try alot of things and see what you are good at, and do it!!  i have some self-estem issues but when im playing softball i feel....well i feel happy and i feel like im actully good at something.  find something your good at!!  i hope that helps!\n\nbreson32@yahoo.com\n\nthats my e-mail if you ever need to talk!
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I kinda know how you feel.  I have a guy friend who feels the same as you and he talks to me about it sometimes.  Yeah it is kinda true.  I'll be honest with you and I don't mean to be rude or offend you but I've noticed that a lot of physically attractive men turn out to be @$$holes but on the other hand, the sweetest guys usually aren't the best looking.  So, like most women (and men) will go for someone who looks hot but in the end, they get hurt.  They want a shoulder to cry on and knowing how caring you are, they'll go to you.  I used to go after the good looking ones but I kinda gave up on that after I realized they all turned out to be @$$holes or perverts.  I mean, I still won't date a guy who is ugly lol but they still have to look at least decent.  I have found that these kinda guys actually respect women more and are very sweet.  So, with that being said, sorry to be blunt but you may need to change your looks and the way you dress.  I know it sucks but its true that people tend to be attracted to someone by looks and believe it or not but it does affect they're decision if they'd date you or not.  Also, I'm sure you'll find a good girl.  Hey, there's 3 women to every man on this planet...that's plenty enough for everyone.  Maybe you should stop looking.  I think they tend to come around when you least expect it and aren't looking.
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These are all signs of you trying a little to hard to find it, one cannot truely search for love to find it, it must find them. Do things to boost up your confidence, if you look down and feel down inside can you imagine what you appear to everyone else on the outside? Try and do things that you like to do when people see the happy you and playful you it will allow them to really see the true beauty inside and that will attract them to you. Nothing is wrong with you, work on your self esteem a little. Surround yourself with happy people and this might help out.
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I agree with Helper.  If you truly are really nice, let EVERYONE see it, not just the crowd you hang out with.  You could also be very intimidating.  If your attitude is like that about girls asking out guys, then you most likely view every situation like that as pathetic.  There is nothing wrong with being old-fashioned, but sometimes you have to go after what you want, don't wait for it to come to you.  Perhaps you just weren't meant to be with tons of people in high school.  Slow down and enjoy life now, don't try to experience everything all at once.
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I should hope not .. People say Im pretty and I have hot guys always pestering me .. but they arent nice guys .. they only care about a girls appearence. I like nice guys!
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when you feel good about yourself, it shines through and becomes an attracting feature to women.  be comfortable with yourself first and like everyone else said, be yourself.  dont try to be someone you're not.  it will backfire on you.
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i get like that too sometimes! its what u feel inside is affecting ur outside world! u have to start feeling good about urself! go out with your friends make them talk to you! trust me sometimes they cant see how u feel so show them!
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I had the same problem when i was growing up.  It didn't help my situation at all that I had two sisters who were gorgeous!!  They totally teased me everyday (I was chubby and wore glasses).  When I turned seventeen, I needed a change of scenery (I had other problems as well), so joined the Army.  After PT and contact lenses, I went home for the holidays.  Everybody kept saying how different I looked, and how pretty I was.  It totally boosted my ego.  I'm not saying join the Army or anything, but maybe you need a scenery change too.  Get away from the people who make you feel insecure.  I guarantee it will change the way you feel about yourself.\n\nYou don't need someone to tell you that you're beautiful, or smart, or anything.  Tell yourself..... it only matters what you think about yourself.
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I am sure you are the cutest thing don't be so down on your self most people don't like the way they look  think of it this way when you get older you will still look young and trust that is a plus so cheer up love your self and other will do the same .
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OMG- You're ME! I am the same way. I good with people, but I'm not good WITH people, if that makes sense. I know I'm sweet, nice, generous and lots of other positive things. I tend to put myself down before others get a chance to, but my self esteem is improving. I have a BF who adores me and I'm making a serious effort keep our flame going. I'd say you should go into a clothibg store and just try on several different outfits just to see how cute you can be in differnt clothes. Do your hair a different way and try to be social with people. I know it's easier said than done because I'm like a brick wall around people I dont know. It take a LOT for me to get comfy with new people, and my "open" is still not considered open to others. My BF said I need to let loose and communicate more and just be relaxed. Maybe you overthink things, like me- always wondering what everyone else thinks... just let go and stop worrying. A BF will come sooner o later, dont settle for just anyone, make sure he's worthy of you. Good luck! By the way, I am a 21 y.o. plus sized girl & I think I look great. Just dress to flatter your body type and have confidence.
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As a woman, when you feel confident and complete, as though you are doing your very best with everything and accomplishing your goals, your heart will be balanced.\nOthers will sence your positive attitude without you even knowing it.\nThe coolest, cutest guys will be begging you to please be their girlfriend.\nIf you can reach this point, use caution and try not to break too many hearts.
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hey dont feel so down, there are a lot of ppl who like to badmouth others for no reason! i've got flak too... there are some kind ppl out there. \nand hey, dont be depressed abt ur looks, ur perfect the way u r! dont forget that i gave u a 7.5 in ur last question! lol...\ncheers and dont stop smiling!
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Actually now that I think about it....I do! I think it has to do with confidence. Sometimes I feel like I have my "ugly days" and sometimes I feel like I have my "pretty days"! It's really weird! When I am dressed professionally I tend to act more professional than when I have casual clothes on. Also I feel the better I am dressed (the cuter the outfit is) the better and cuter I feel! Good luck with the project!
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You may be doing it without even realizing it.  If you just be who you are, then you'll make the lasting impressions with the right people for you.  There's one, and only one, person out there who is truly made for you, and I wouldn't worry a second about the rest of 'em.
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*this is a long one*\n\nIt's understandable that you feel bad because you're not getting the kind of treatment your "attractive" friends are getting, but there's a lot going on here.\n\nGuys, from a very young age, are told what is attractive and what isn't. It has to do with the era, culture, ethnicity, and a million other things. It also has to do with the fact that it's a bar. Although people meet each other and form legitimate relationships all the time in bars, most often when alcohol and women are involved it's about sex. The men in there may care about your beautiful personality, intelligence, creativity, talents, etc. but that isn't the first thing they're looking at.\n\nPeople always say that men exploit women. To a degree this is true, but if it's one thing I've learned it's that women are terrific at exploiting the things that men like to get what they want. You girls aren't stupid, even those who pretend to be. Men for the most part aren't difficult to figure out when it comes to attracting us visually. \n\nWith that out of the way, don't get yourself down because you aren't the standard that pop culture deems hot. Every single woman is beautiful, no matter what age size or color. What matters most is how beautiful you acknowledge yourself to be, no matter what anyone else thinks. Because in the end, you can't control what they think or how they feel, and although there are ways to make yourself more attractive to them, it's only a shallow experience and you shouldn't have to change things about yourself to please others.\n\nI'm not one of those people who's going to tell you that there's someone out there guaranteed to be perfect for you, who just happens to love everything about you and treats you the way you deserve to be treated. If you find that person you're very lucky, because most of us out there just have to settle or lie to ourselves. \n\nWhat I am going to tell you though, is that there are men out there who acknowledge and appreciate physical features, but value the beautiful personality underneath. You're probably not going to run into one of these men at a bar. Where do you find them? There isn't one set place where we all congregate, that's the problem that goes both ways, for finding men and women alike.\n\nThink about this though: Next time you're at the bar, check out the wallflowers. Chances are there's a guy out there who doesn't get approached by the beautiful women, who may be insecure himself but like you has a lot to offer beyond physical appearances that conform to a standard. Talk to him, ask him to buy you a drink, if you feel like it offer to buy him a drink, see how that goes. Be yourself. This could easily end up being the most fun for you, because you'd be surprised how eager the person in the corner is to connect with someone else if they were just given the chances. If not, at least you interacted and didn't have to sit aside feeling hurt that people aren't approaching you.\n\n\n\nBut after all this, and I'm not saying it is this way, don't have a double standard or be hypocritical. Don't judge the guys on physical appearance alone. You know you're worth a lot more than your looks alone, and so are they. So is everyone.