dose i hurt them to have sex? is it very painful for them to deal with it?
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No, Unless he has phimosis which is a tight foreskin, that means he cant retract it back. And it hurts when he tries. He also cant see the head (glans) of his penis because of the tight foreskin. Since it cant retract, sex is usually painful, because its pulling the skin back and we all know that hurts if you cant pull it back from the get go. \n\nThe only other pain I can think of is Urinary Tract Infection. Thats when it hurts to take a piss.
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You cannot force your sexuality onto someone else...they will resent it even though under other circumstances they might be amenable.  You have to discuss it with her, apologize for what you did, and, if she forgives you, than ask if she might be interested.
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You are a good hearted person and an example to all the kids struggling with their own sexuality.  I was amazed to read your post, and quite impressed.\n\nI don't know what may hurt parents, I've never understood why parents were hurt by what their children were.  I raised two boys, adopted, whom I loved very much.  They were both straight.  They were both good boys.  The only thing that ever hurt me was when one of them smoked briefly (he stopped).  I never told him it hurt me, but he saw me cry about it once, although I didn't mean for him to -- and he just stopped and never smoked again.  One of my two died in a car accident nearly two years ago, but my relationship with him prior to his death and my relationship with my remaining one is/are very tight.  Closer than nearly any straight blood father I know.  That was partially because I was always there for my kids -- not to judge them, not to use them as an extension of me -- but for them.\n\nI can imagine that the fears I would have, if I were a straight parent would be:  Disease.  Lack of a loving family later in his life. Violence directed against my child by homophobes (fear for his safety).  And, last but not least, if I were a selfish bastard, a fear that I wouldn't have grandkids.\n\nI suspect that the parents that you can't reach are those who worry about their own status, what "other" people think of them (because of you) and think that God really came from the bronze age and throws gay kids into hell.\n\nMy parents were not concerned about me being gay, my father's only comment (I came out at 14) was "be sure you love the person you are with and never hurt anyone."  Well, I've lived up to that, or at least I've tried very hard to.\n\nIf there is anything whatsoever I can do to help you with your project (I've given you as much insight as I'm likely to, but you can bounce ideas off me) then email me at the address below.\n\nWarm thoughts,\n\nReyn\n\nhttp://www.rebuff.org \nbelieveinyou24@yahoo.com
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only if you're made an agreement to be monogomous. otherwise yes, because you will only hurt yourself. just move on babe, you're much better off without them.
285446
Wow. Is he such a moron that he can't figure out that you're hurt by his actions? That you're human and have some feelings? How could he think you would possibly want to have sex with him when he treats you like that? No, nothing about this makes any sense at all, honey. Especially why you'd want to be with someone who treats you like this. Of course, it could be that he feels like he's being neglected because of your children taking up your time. Maybe you need to get him to go to couples counseling. But don't stay with someone who makes you feel this way, or you WILL become bitter. Also, don't put on a facade for him, or fake how you're feeling. Don't lie to yourself that things will get better, and don't pretend. I wish you good luck.
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I would have trouble being a friend with someone that doesn't care who she hurts...\n\nAs for either sex loving... there's no problem with it, if it makes you happy and fulfilled.
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1. Does it hurt the first time you have sex? If so, how bad? 1. Ask Your Parents!\n 2. Does it hurt to give birth(dumb question), but how bad? 2.Worse than breaking a bone!!!\n 3. Is it worth having kids? 3.YEA!\n 4. What age do you think is appropiate for a child to have a cellphone. 4.13\n 5. What should you do when your dog don't like your kitten, what should I do to help them get along. 5.Pet training Classes\n 6. Is it unhealthy to have my hormones going crazy all the time, should I get hormone pills or something? 6. Ask your Doctor!\n 7. Is there an easier way to pluck your eyebrows, other than using the tweezers, and wax?! 7.Shave them.
199572
it all depends! Remember a womens body is designed to fit a baby out so it should never hurt. Just make sure you use a lot of Lub and feel comfortable with who your with, so that if they are hurting you you tell them to stop!
98321
They are telling you this because they have learned the hard way.  There are so many issues that accompany having sex and is so much better to wait until you are mature enough to handle these issues.  PLEASE WAIT!!
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If you use lubricant, foreplay, and above all, relax, it shouldn't hurt too much. If you are not comfortable with it and you tense up, it hurts worse. (I asked this same question on a teen site about sex, I may be wrong. Try typing "Teen nurse" into google, they have a lot of material there about almost everything you would need to know, I hope.)
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Yes sex will hurt the first time no matter what size he is but the trick is to take it slow and make sure you are good and wet. But the pain is not like any other type of pain it begins to feel good after a while. Make sure he is a gentle person and respects the fact that you are a virgin and it will be much more enjoyable.
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LOL,..I have been there.... she was abused as a kid.... if not outright sexually then by the culture's judgments and shaming of sex. Anyway it feels like she wants you to read her mind, right........ well, it does not matter what you do, you wont get it right,,,,,,it is how she wins.....if you force her she will be very angry, if you do not she will grow bored of you and treat you like you are weak.......but her fantasy is to be taken by force.......she does not want to feel responsible for the guilt invoked by her own pleasure. .. Her desire to be abused is probably driving her mad.
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you have to tell them...   if you don't, it'll hurt you, and it may end up hurting the other person too...\n\nwhy waste this one chance at life with being miserable our whole life, go out, try to find happieness...    if you love this person, tell him/her...
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Yes it does hurt. The pain level is different for every girl. Not to mention that is depends on the guy and his size if you know what I mean.
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READ: www.coolnurse.com/hymen.htm\n It isn't that bad. It only hurts for a little bit. Ever heard the term "hurts so good?" If you just go slow and give her a minute to get past the initual shock of the pain and then continue she will be feeling more pleasure than pain.The\ntrick is not to stop completely before giving her pleasure or she may not want to do it again for a long while!
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Treating them mean and keeping them keen works for a while, but I think they get fed up with it after a while.  You say he makes you laugh 'a bit'.  Is that really enough?  If you hated his habits to begin with, then you'll hate them forever because he probably won't change.  And you can't just stay with someone because they're good in bed.  As painful as it might be, walk away.  The pain will ease in time.  Find someone who treats you with respect and loves you unconditionally.  Good luck :)
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There is going to be some pain, that is unavoidable. The key is to really listen and gage her reactions on when to move more and when you have broken her hymen. Let her tell you when it is ok to go in more. Don't allow her to be uncomfortable about letting you know what feels good and what doesn't. Make sure that you both are as relaxed as possible, and that doesn't mean that you have to drink to achieve this. Take a bath together, massage her back and shoulders, take time with foreplay as it will always make entering her less painful. Enjoyable? Not so sure, every woman has had different experiences with that part of loosing her virginity. Myself, I did enjoy it. But I wasn't tense, and was very ready for the act even though I didn't have any idea what i was doing. I had a very patient man who was willing to work with me and lead me gently and was willing to listen to me a gage my reactions from what he was doing. Hope that you too have a wonderful experience together and congratulations on waiting!! :)