Ok I met this girl named steph she has a bad relationship with an older man who has a daughter who's only 6 years younger then her and we got together but she talked none stop about him and another guy so i backed off though we made plans of adopting kids together and she introduced me to this guy name mike who married with  a beautiful baby girl and his wife is disappearing on em again and she had a gf  and we started talking now we are in love but it doesn't end there my mom'husband's little brother is trying to get with me and recently steph told me she wants me back...
132334
Yeah,   take her back....if it doesn't work out....get another one.
545473
No way this is normal. You need to put a stop to this-pronto!   There is a reason she is the "ex" so you have every right to remind him of this. He should be over her by now and have made the commitment of being with you. He's married to you now so he hasn't any reason discussing anything with her or being under her control. With exception of talking about the kid anything else concerning the two of you is is none of her business. He's out of whack for communicating with her like this. Time for a reality adjustment. So get up close in his face and tell him in no uncertain terms to shut that big mouth of his. What a lot of nerve. If you're wondering about what I think I think it sucks big time and is callous and disrespectful toward you. That shrew of an ex needs to be put in her place also. Who cares if she went "nuts". She's nuts if she thinks she had any say about the two of you being married! Who the hell is she anyway? Tell her to butt out of your lives. Share a relationship with the ex? God no!! So put your foot down unless you're considering becoming another ex.
512231
he has the leg up in this situation. her kids, and if she went back to him  that means she ended your relationship. may i reccommend match.com?\nSensitive guys like you are great, don't waste yourself on someone who treats you like dirt.
666129
I would say it all depends on the situation. Since you all have so much history and two beautiful daughters, I would think it'd be better to get back together, but that may just be me. Don't do what people on here say, just take the advice and build off of it. Maybe he got scared for some reason and pulled out of the relationship because he didn't know what to do. If you love him and you know he loves you, then I would give it a second chance. If it was meant to be, it will be. I know that's probably the worst advice line I could give you, but I've found out that it is pretty true. No matter what happens, I promise you both will be okay. Good luck and follow your heart.\n~Grace
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it will break my heart too!..but they're just kids, they don't know much yet..best thing you do is not to get out of the picture...spend time with them if you are permitted to (don't know your situation anyway)..tell your kids the you love them very much and that the wicked stepmom is just acting it because you're not there..step down to the level that your kids will understand...i'm sure they will get what you mean...as for the stepmom, don't show that you are devastated by this scenario...coz if you do...it will just encourage her more...
161028
I met a girl on line.  Now she's my wife and we have a son.  But before this happened I visited her in her county for a number of weeks over some months.  It was only after this time that I felt happy enough to ask her to marry me.\n\nSo I suggest if you can go visit her.  Also is this your first real love?
616330
Been there. You didn't say how the ex feels about you. Why does she deny him seeing his child? Because I do not know if my answer will help if you don't have the same life I had. The ex hated me and didn't mind telling everyone she knew. She thought I was the root of their separation. I didn't even know my now husband at the time they 1st broke up. I had been going with him for about 5 months when I found out that he wasn't DIVORCED! So for that reason she used us being together as what was wrong with their relationship. She told everyone that Mike drank all the time and that she didn't trust him being alone with his son. When really it was a way to punch him for leaving her. The reason for not getting a divorce right away, he didn't want them to cancell their medical insurance. Dumb then...we played her game for many months. Then I started checking things out. He could get the divorce, keep insurance on his kid, pay child support (a must) and the court would let him have his son every other weekend. If she didn't produce the child..She could go to jail. So Check it out where you leave. Your man may want to make the divorce legal...Now to the other part of your question..Why does she have to be there..Just to piss you off more than likely. She will dress up and look great. As if to say..see what you are missing. Have him get a divorce..then the ball is back in your court. Only never be late on one child support payment..or you guess it..she would have him in jail..Again just to piss you off. Don't let her get you down. But, make him make a choice and get a divorce..or get the hell out now why you can.
72813
It will never get better that is for sure. You have to ask yourself are you wanting a life with someone who has no respect for you. This child is going through a lot with her parents going through a divorce and than in steps another woman..no wonder the child acts the way she does and no it is not normal for most but remember what she is going through....Cejay
413846
Think she only wants you back because she knows your a respectable guy and you will help her raise her baby.  Sorry guy I would say no!
221077
You need to go with your instincts. If they are telling you to not introduce your kid to new g/f, then dont. You obviously have your childs best interest at heart. Good Man!
244224
Girlfriend you are a true Christian, but come on. You are going to have to confront her and let her know that she really needs to increase her circle of friends. It is commendable that you open your heart and home for your husband's ex, for the sake of your step daughter but you have to set some boundaries...because she is totally taking advantage of you. I would take her aside and  tell her Enough is Enough! You would rather her take the responsibility of dealing with the child as a parent. While you want to be there for the child you are in essence enabling this woman to pawn of the reality of her personal responsibility off to you. She obviously knows not to engage your husband so she gets in any way she can.  Think about it.
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This is tough, not knowing all the details, but if you really love this girl for all the right reasons, then it will work out! I am a mother of 3 girls, and I have put them through this same situation, but only for a good reason, the guy was generally a jerk, I am not saying you are, that was just my situation. Just be up front with her mom, and honest, and don't hunker down to her, let her know how you feel in a honest kind way, be a man about it. Have respect for her and her mom. Do something special for her mom, give her flowers or invite her to dinner with you and this girl. It will take time but patience will win out. Maybe her mom is over protective, maybe she had a bad experience at that age, and thinks it is happening to her daughter. Just go easy and don't take everything so personal, just be who you are inside that is all you can do, you don't have to prove anything to anyone if you are real with yourself and others. Just live and let live. Good Luck to you.
308345
some times the best thing to do is just let her talk to whoever she feels comfortable talking to.  after she talks to her stepmom do her problems seem to be taken care of, or are they made worse?  maybe that should be your focus.  if she seems calmer after talking to her ex-stepmom why is there a problem.  if she seems worse after talking to her then maybe there is a problem.  your daughter is probably reaching out for someone who she thinks understands her and her situation in life.  maybe you should look at this woman as someone who could mentor your daughter instead of seeing her only as your ex husbands ex wife!!  all in all if it is good for your daughter then let it be.
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from what you say you only danced with him a few times and he got your name and number and you did not give it to him. and now he comes to your house you did not say wether or not you gave him your address or if he found that to. and now he wants to marry you. Well let me tell you he is a physco. i bet you realised that already. i went to pay my electric bill i called on the phone and started talking to the man that was on the other end. we ended up starting to talk outside of his company. he lived in another state. one day he got on a plane came to my home and said he wanted to get married. i did not no what to say because i thought stalker. within two days a call came in and it was from his daughter that did not no where he went to and did not no who i was. the story finally ends when i found out he has been wanted for 10 years and in 3 different states and i worked closely with them to capture him. now he is in prison. what i am saying to you is you do not no him. why all of a sudden do you think he would become that attatched to you. you need not to worry about his feelings because you need to worry about yourself. you do not no what he really has in store for you. and i would make it clear that he is not to cantact you again and that is it. you do not need to explain anything to him. this is not your problem it is his. if he does call you again then take the steps that you told him you would. be firm and good luck
355174
Here's our story...tell me what you think.\n\nWe originally met in 9th Grade, he was the new boy in school.  We became fast friends and soon became more than that.  We were inseperable, many crazy adventures and all that fun young love stuff.  We broke up just before the school year ended because of our friends...you know the only people you listen to when you are 15 years old.\n\nWe stayed friends over the years, going for coffe every month or so to catch up.  I had the travel bug so after high school I moved around a bit, when I was gone he met someone else and married her.  On one of my stops home I found out he had married this girl (who I knew & knew she was not a good person), I told him my concerns & in my heart I knew that if he said me wanted he back I'd go.  He didn't so I was off on my journeys again.\n\nWell when I was 31 I moved back to my home town.  As luck would have it we met up one night, he was still married to the girl but he had been living in his basement for the last 6 years and had little or nothing to do with his wife.  He was miserable. \n\nWe spent that night catching up, when it was time to go home he grabbed my hand and said he let me go once & he was never going to do that again.  He moved out the next day and we are now married and have a beautiful 3 year old little boy.  \n\nSo no, I don't worry about him leaving me for someone else.  I think it all depends on the situation, and the rest of the story.  People look for love outside of their relationships because there is usually something wrong within their current relationship.  Others are just really shallow and want a "trophy wife"...those relationships never work out.
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They do not speak to each other.  Apparently, she thought he was critical of her in an interview he gave.  I am not absolutely sure but I think she claims it was about her having adopted when she first did.  She also often said that she did not appreciate his cheating on her mother.  Not very consistent for a woman who slept with a married man.  He has expressed that he would like to make amends but she is not budging.
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OK, in the perfect world, if you want to have a healthy marriage, you should not contact this other woman and just go on living your every day life. And that is just fine and dandy, if only your mind didn't keep drifting away towards this other girl. Maybe it keeps drifting because it's a new and exciting part of your life you don't have anymore, since being married can get to be "boring" or just not as adventurous as it was in the beggining. That is totally understandable. \nWhat you didn't mention, is that if this girl is still contacting you? Has she given up on you? If she has, then it means that she just wanted to say hi and see how you were doing, she's not interested in you in any other way. \nI think you will always wonder "what could have been", until you have some closure in this part of your life. If you do decide to contact her again, you should meet face to face and tell her what she meant to you and how it felt to let her go. But remember that you are a different person now, as is she, in totally different circumstances.\nI don't think an honest luncheon to clear the air, and to put your mind and feelings at ease would be that bad.\nAs long as you know where to draw the line, and as long as you understand that you are a married man with different obligations now.\nGood luck man. Tough call.