well whenever one of my friends has a problem with someone she never goes directly to the person. like for example.. she was going to my sister about problems and complaints she had about me and my best friend.. it kinda makes me upset.. i wish she would come straight to me.. what should i do.. what can i do?
135093
talk to her,as in y is she nt comfortable confronting to people directly about the problem she has with them..ask her if she fears gettin in to a fight,if so then convince her that confronting and sorting out things with friends is a small as well as a healthy issue at the same time ,which would nt break a stronger relation like friendship or any other relation..
481867
WOw. I've been through the same exact thing this is what i did i just straight up told her that i was feeling left out and when i was hanging out with her and her new friend it was akward cuz she wouldn't act the same. You have to tell her cuz it will drive u carzy and will cause drama. If she is a real true friend she'll understand and make things better. If not find a new best friend that wont skrew u over for another person instead of treatin u the same
189176
i kind of dont know what you're saying. But, i am going to guess you and this friend have problems. I would talk to her, and tell her you love being her friend, and that it hurt when she insulted you. She'll be your friend
605388
To be open and give her your advise is better way.\nYou can make her understand that she made other people upset with her attitude this long. and what has she done can put her in trouble someday and maybe will make her friends stay back from her soon or latter.\nTry to open her mind about this, choose a sweet way and polite words to avoid irritating her. \n\nIf you do this way, means that you have change your friendship...to a better and quality one!!! coz this whats friends are for....\nGood Luck.
248758
I would ask her why her friends do that and have a talk about it. i think she may be jealous of you and this is her way of dealing with it! and if she gets worse after you talk to her then she does deserve you as a friend.
493490
I know exactly how you feel, my so called "best friend" is treating my like crap, and my other "best friend" keeps feeding her lies about me hating her, and now their both......I'm sorry, your the one posting the question, sorry. You know what, forget those dumb asses bitches. They don't know what the hell their losing, their losing a good friend, a loyal friend, a great sister, and a best friend. This world sucks, and if they think you suck, then are they really even your freaking friends!?!??!?!?!?!?!
532532
You know I've been in this same situation. It's really hard to deal with if you guys are so close. I just let my friend be and went to hang out with other people. I would call her and invite her places but she always turned me down because she had already made plans with her new man. This went on for about three months. When she called one day I told her. I'm not mad at you anymore but I would like for you to know that what you did really hurt me. We had been friends for five years and this guy comes and now you act like I don't exist. She apologized and we started hanging out again. Some people just get caught up in situations and forget about the feelings of others. You just have to put yourself in her shoes. If you were in a new relationship you might do the same thing to her. It's something new and right at this time you're just caught up in it. As long as you talk to her and tell her how you feel about it she should make it a point to try and share her time between the two of you. If she just blows you off then she wasn't a good friend to begin with and you'd be better off finding someone who cares about you and what your feelings are. Good luck with it. I hope she comes around.
13411
there may be reasons why they talk about her, maybe she did something wrong, talk about it. just stay by her side. its nice that she still has YOU as her friend who would not turn against her. RIGHT?
432009
wow you have a problem.  You are going to lose somebody.  If  you talk to your best freind,  Your sister is in big trouble and I'm sure you will be held responsible.  After all, she's not responsible enough to control her own life, its very likely she'll blame you.  If you say nothing and your Best friend finds out you knew,  you lost the Best friend.  I'd say you have to talk to the Best friend and let her know whats up.  She deserves to know so she doesn't make a decision that she will have to live with.
80594
look it is not you . so you need to get  your  friend  to talk to you and ask her why is she doing this OK but just be there 4 her or your friend that is what she need and want OK just be there she need you and try no to be mad ta her or she will not talk to you (i know one of my Friend did the same.) hey if you want some more 411 Emil me at (preppygurl0687@yahoo.com) OK go luck i know what is going on i was there to OK
453976
it looks as if she is very insecure, jealous of you, your clothes, etc. or just plain mean.  figures you will put up with her behavior, attitude, comments.  You don't need a friend like that.  If you have already tried talking to her, she doesn't listen, you've done your part.  Good luck.
84062
What's up with this? If you don't know what could be bothering this so-called GREAT friend of yours( and she won't even talk to youabout her feelings so things can be put right and you can make amends if you are at fault) well how do you expect someone who doesnt know either one of you to know?   You should be writing the question TO HER if she really means that much to you.\nIf I were in your shoes though, I would be a little careful of this person from now on even if you resolve whatever it was that she was buggin about.  Because her way of reacting to problems between good friends leaves a lot to be desired..Unless you are b.s.-ing all of us.\nShe is doing something very cruel to you by not inviting you to the party, and she is not interested in doing damage control.  Instead she is making it more hurtful and lettingwhatever she's on aboutt become something that all the rest of your shared 'friends' are gonna be gossiping about and taking sides about when everyone but you is at the party.  This is  spreading sickness and needs to be contained before it spreads even forhter and does even more harm to what peole think of her and you.  Are you responsible for some awful offense to her that you dont want to admit?  Is there someone in your circle of friends that has something against you and may have messed with your friend's mind? Is there something way back in the past that may have just come to light? \nBe honest with yourself and consider everything between you and her. If you still think your friendship deserves to be treated better than she is treating you, then YOU could be the hero and write to her and say so.Since she is refusing to answer you when you ask, Tell her that you are writing her a letter and walk away.  When she gets the letter she can in privacy getdown off her attitude and see what you have to say in the letter wthout losing face.  In the letter you can offer to make it up to her if she will tell you how you have offended her.  Tell her that no matter what, you value her friendship too much to just let it go without trying to make things better between you.,
656970
If the line was really crossed and your friend never  owns up to her part in things, do you really need her around?  \n\nFind some real friends who will be there for the good and the bad times.
370889
the only suggestion I can think of is to ride it out.....wait until something happens. Either your friend AM is making the whole thing up cause she's jealous or something, or TM's shy....anything could be true. Anyways, just wait for something to happen, and then go from there, instead of getting worked up about it.
18097
Sure she does! She tells you these things bc she feels safe with you. Now if that's all she does is tell you all the bad stuff about her life and takes no interest in yours, then you are a crutch to her. It is up to you if you want to hear about her other friends taking a crap on her or whatnot. If you want to be the crutch, I suggest selective hearing. It can be a downer to hear about her crap friends, and keep suggesting that she gets rid of them and the negativity they bring. Hang in there, it may be a phase and she'll realise what a friend you are and drop the losers and hang out with you... someone who cares...
658458
im having problems like that except vise-versa (srry can't spell 2day). take it from me, its not all that ez, it mite take them a wile 2 forgive u, but if they're true friends, they will come to their senses and realize that you appreciate both of them the same (unless you don't, and if you don't i can't help you there).
196722
Sounds like you have a friend who is jealous of your other friends. She might be one of those kind that they can have more than one friend but there Friends can only hang with them and no one else while their around.Tell her to cut it out or you wont hang out with her.