at first i hated the fact that my man watchs porn, mostly cuz he hid it from me, now i got used to the fact and actually watch them myself i told him it was ok that he did that but he stills hides it even if i know he does it he still lies, i wanna be able to watch it with him i told him this but well it has not work why is he doin this id like a guys opinion on this
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you are describing a serious issue. he has a problem and won't change it or admit to it. The denial is bad enough but there are under laying darker problems.. I'd just dump that..he has a form of sexual addiction.. not a good one either
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The issue here isn't the porn, it's the sneaking around and the lying about it. That's your real problem.\nIt's only the beginning hon, unless you go get help now.\nMy ex started with magazines, then on to movies, then the Internet. At times he got so engrossed in it that I could walk right up behind him and he wouldn't know I was there. I'm not a prude and would do anything for him then, but yet he was so hooked on porn that I had to go without for 3 -6 weeks at a time. Finally, I was working nights, he was supposed to be home watching our son, who he had exposed to this crap "accidentally" a few times before. He was sitting in the recliner acting all comfy and sleepy. Just as soon as I had left the house he jumped up and ran to a local strip club, leaving our son unattended. After years of promises and trying I finally left him. Don't let that happen to you. Talk to him and then get counseling.\nI just wonder why there are so many women on here that are trying to make it sound like it's the woman's fault? Sad............
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cheating was wrong. and you were right to make him earn your trust back. But i would not get to bent out of shape about porn. It IS just looking with no personal contact. Besides 90% of men in America look at porn, the Internet is just a new way to get it instead of buying magazines in a store. But if you are really uncomfortable as you sound i would seek couples counseling to see what is going on. It will help more than you know.
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I think that it is cheating as well. Like you I am in the same boat. At first I was very angry and upset and so I asked other people if I was over reacting. The thing that sucks is that every one has their own opinion. I was getting different answers from them all. I say once you have seen one you have seen them all and there is no point to wanting to look elsewhere, otherwise what the heck are they with us for, just a recepticle? I am in a predicament my self but with strip clubs and porn so don't feel all alone. Keep your chin up and try to work on a resolution and compromise. I hope this helps a little to know that you're not alone. Just so you know if you let it continue to bother you it will become a trust and respect issue. So don't badger him to change because it won't work.
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I'd get pissed at my guy definitely for watching porn. Luckily my guy doesn't watch it. But I totally agree with you. Of course some men are like why is it a big deal. They just have a hard time seeing it from our point of view because they just thinks its the manly thing to do. MEN!
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if he initially lied to you there's a problem. put yourself in his shoes, would you have just told the truth or tried to lie? it sounds like there are some underlying issues anyway because even if he didn't have anything to hide he should've felt comfortable enough to come clean. for this reason, ditch him girlie! the only 2 reasons he can have is that either something was going on and he lied, or he wanted to not upset you in which case he should've felt comfortable enough about your relationship to tell you the truth - either way he's gotta go! good luck hun, you'll find someone better :o)
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I love to watch porn with and without my husband. We both sometimes watch it alone and we both understand that it has nothing to do with the other person. So it might not be personal. You can just see stuff in porn you can't always see at homen and sometimes it's just fun to see it alone.
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This is one of those things that it's all in the persons point of view. He may just be viewing it as a form of pornography which wouldn't be cheating at all and may just be getting himself all warmed up for a night with you. OR he's losing interest within what he has and things need to be spiced up a bit. If he starts acting differently towards you than I would seriously consider having a sit down and talk session with him and get both of your view points out and let him know that you don't approve of him watching other girls on the computer while they pleasure themselves.
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You know I think that is what is wrong with relationships the embarrassment of masturbation. I would do it and if he trips which I don't think will because if you have them already then he is comfortable with toys, but if he does trip just tell him "if I have to use the vibrator that means I am not cheating right, I just know you are stressed and I feel this is what I need because I am not stressed just horny" or just tell him to lay back and watch I don't know any guy who don't like to watch a women masturbate I mean that's why we watch porn.
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If you want to do anything to your body... let it be because YOU want it... not because you're tryin' to make someone happy...\nAs for the way he's acting... though I will admit that I look at pornography as well... I would NEVER think of tryin' to make my girlfriend like the women that are on them... if he truly loved you... it wouldn't matter what you looked like... (in my own opinion)... Though some will argue that looking at porno means you don't love someone... I myself love my fiancee very deeply... \nYou don't have to be the target of his attacks... nor do you have to subject yourself to those actions... you are beautiful as you are... and if he doesn't see that... look what HE lost...
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Ask him what would make him happy.. And that u would love to share his fantisies with him.. Hun lets be honest here men are men they can't help but watch porno on tv or net, its just within their nature. by getting mad at him will  not take u anywhere or resolve ur problem.. neither will it stop him from doing it.. fix the problem with a solution.. try watching it together and perhaps ask him what he likes doing the most and that u wouldn't  mind sharing that experience with hi..,don't forget aslong as it makes u comfortable and happy doing it as a woman.. Am not saying that u should do anything or everything against ur will. But try talking about it.. communication is the answer.. good luck.
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For many men there really isn't a way to get him to stop; all you'll do is make him sneak around and do it behind your back. There are some who can and do stop, but they are more rare. If you are with a man who isnt capable of stopping, and you arent capable of walking away, there are some ways for you to learn to deal with it. \n\nSteps \nRealize that he isn't watching porn wishing you looked like those women...if he wasn't happy with you, he wouldn't be with you. Try to understand why he really is watching it and what he gets out of it. \n\nTry watching it with him...even if you HATE it, he will love that you're willing to share it with him. It can be a great way to spend time together, and might even lead to some pretty hot sex. Who knows, you might end up liking it too! Watching it with him will feel like you approve of what he is doing, and men need and love approval. \n\nAsk him if he wants to try some of the different positions, role playing, etc. He might have a fantasy or something he's always wanted to try but is too shy to ask. Try to understand the parts of him that he hasnt disclosed to you. \n\nEven if none of the above tips appeal to you...stop nagging him about his "habit"...nagging will only lead to fighting, and fighting leads to breaking up. There is a healthy way to fight in a relationship, but nagging leading into a fight isnt it. Professional counseling or marital counseling can lead to real change. \n\nTips \nDo not take his porn watching as a personal affront, many men are just much more visually stimulated than women are, and he isn't trying to upset you. (thats an excuse) \n\nWarnings \nDecide now if his porn is something you can learn to deal with...if not, you might want to consider ending the relationship yourself. You will never completely change him, and if you "make" him stop watching he might only resent you. It really depends on who he is and the nature of your relationship.
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back when i was a stripper/pornstar, my husband had a very hard time dealing with it. i tried to tell him over and over that it was JUST A JOB. to this day he still brings it up if we fight. on the other hand, my boyfriend does not mind one bit. he loves all the little tricks i learned in the trade. i try to keep them all happy, but what can i say, its all about ME.
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My BF looks and he is not subtle about it at all!!! It bothers me with him which is weird because it never bothered me with other guys. But I think it is because he is not subtle about it he cuts off in mid-sentence to look at some girl, I haven't figured a way around him looking or my jealousy over it. Sometimes I say outrageous things to get his attention but it hasn't worked so far. I think I will just buy him some dark sunglasses so at least  I won't notice as much.
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There's no way for this to not be a two-part answer. Firstly, he's right in that it is human nature for males to notice other females *and* for females to notice other males - it's just an animalistic, survival thing.\n\nHOWEVER, it is *exceptionally* disrespectful toward you for him to admit being aroused by looking at other women, or to blatantly look at other women (especially when in your presence.) It is not at all unrealistic of you to be upset by his behavior and ask him to tone it down. He should care enough about your feelings that he won't want to intentionally hurt you by keeping it up.\n\nIf you explain that it hurts your feelings (and probably your self-esteem) when he behaves this way, ask him to be more discreet, and he *still* doesn't bother, it may be time to look into counseling. This is obviously his hang-up, and he may need help to see the effect that his behavior is having on your relationship. Good luck.
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No you are not overreacting.  Obviosuly this will not be a very popular answer, but whether it is "natural" for men to want to look at porn or not, doesn't mean it is okay.  First of all, pornography is dehumanizing because those women are not being appreciated as human beings, but as sex images.  They are photographed so that people can lust after them secretly without actually "doing" anything.  Secondly, since you are his wife, I'm sure it bothers you that he looks at porn!   You are his WIFE-the one he is to cherish above all others.  I don't say this to condemn him, but if he spends time looking at other women's bodies besides than yours, then it is is not putting you first.  He is getting his sexual graitiication elsewhere.  I think it might be helpful to find out why he feels the need to dabble in this.  Does it help his self esteem?  Is he bored?  Explain to him how it makes you feel and that you are willing to work on this with him.(?)   I don't want to step over any bounderies here, but MAYBE you could even offer that if he'll make an effort to stop, you'll make a conscious effort to make it worth his while  more often, if you know what I mean;).  I hear Victoria's Secret sells some fancy lacy sleepwear. ;)
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Simple Question. Its all with Modesty.\nPeople hide it, others protray it. Its human nature to be embrassed when they know what they are doing is wrong and they are still doing it.\n\nOk,If someones come and see you naked.how do you feel? embarrassed rite? excatly!!! Men do not like woman to see them watching porn. Why? Firstly what they are watching is illegal,2ndly its protraying the opposite sex and woman and woman would see it as a outrage of modesty to themselves. Men would feel embarrassed to let a woman know that. Watching Porn is like watching someone making you horny. your wife will feel inferior to feel that you need to go to other ways to endulge in sexual pleasure. That she will realise she cannot do for you as you already misstreat her trust.\n\nMen Watch Porn is normal. But its all in by human nature.we hide our modesty for a reason.Thats why people have to hide it. Its only human instincts.