Lori says she has five children what should I do\nrun or stay with her becuase I love her so
123199
Well if you really love her than it is a no brain-er. Don't throw away a chance at happiness.kids are a blessing don't punish her for her sweet babies if you cant accept them, then you are not the right one for her
263251
First off- This girl is using you as a stepping stone. SHe probably WANTED to have a baby with this person, and now, here she is- that plan hasn't made her happy...so she's saying that you- and your family- will make her happy? What about this baby? WHat about what's RIGHT for this child that she's going to drag all over pillar and post everytime "happily ever after" doesn't measure up to her expectations? Perhaps someone should think about the best interest of this child's happily ever after. Stop interfering in this woman/girl's life and offering her solutions that sound selfish and uncaring. She is someone's mother- not just someone's girlfriend anymore. And, for the record, you don't sound so bright yourself, so, before you assume the role of step parent, perhaps you should get an education, as well. Do yourself a favor- and the baby. Get an education, and find a loving family to help raise that baby. Neither one of you sound like good role models. Life is not about a daily monitor on a happy-o-meter. Someone please give this child a better opportunity for a good life. Not a momma who will bounce from one bed to another pending the color of sheets that make her happy...
564160
you need to talk to her and explain how you are feelin about having another child...maybe you 2 could come to a compromise
617747
Yes! it sounds to me like you two are definatly in love. and if she didn't give you a good enough reason, like "i met someone else or i want to explore my options" then i think she still loves you, it is just too painful for her to be apart for so long. so i think you need to talk to her. dont just go over there and pop the question right away. but talk to her, make her fall in love with you again and then tell her you need her and that you two need to spend the rest of you lives together...then... "will you marry me?"
241718
In your situation I'm not quite sure that there is a right thing to do. My suggestion would be to talk with her and if she too feels that the relationship is over, then maybe you two should consider joint custody. That way, you never have to live without your child in your life. Find a solution where the least amount of pain is caused. It's a tought situation and I wish you all the best.
642436
well if she admit that she still love this guy (by the way do you have a kids?)its up to you man to decide,i mean with kids or without kids how can she focus on loving and doing her duty as a mum if she's thinking somebody else. besides after 5 years with you how she give herself to you if that guy is still in her mind
139923
Run and never look back.I have three kids with this guy and he does nothing for my kids and he's in the same town, what do you think a guy would do living in another country? unless you are financially stable enough and your prepared to raise this baby by yourself then don't do it.
305768
If you have exhausted all efforts to fix your relationship and you KNOW IN YOUR HEART that he is always going to be the way he is then leave.  One last ditch effort would be to go to counseling.  If he isn't willing to follow through with counseling, that shows he isn't willing to do "anything" to be with you.   Should you decide to leave him, so what if you have four kids and two exes.  You have no clue who would want to be with someone with four kids and two exes because you haven't been single, your life has been consumed trying to make your family work.  There is always someone for everyone.  A good friend gave me advice that she had to try EVERYTHING she could to try to make her relationship work before she walked out on it.  That way she would know in her heart it wouldn't work and could walk away with no regrets.  If you are to that point, then leave.  If you chose to leave, things will be difficult but I am sure you have a lot of friends that will be there for you.
299285
Keep in mind that this child is only 5 years old, and she probably lied, because she was afraid she would get in trouble...  Don't let that get in the way..\n\nIf you feel that it is going to be a problem for you, to deal with a step chile, then get out of the relationship....  find someone who doesn't have children...
303629
Yes call him he may have been wondering the same thing!\ndont wait for the reunion and be surprised to find you still have feelings for him!\ncall him! now!\ngo on get off of here and get on the phone! dont be afraid whats the worse that can happen?\nHe will be married with 6 kids!\ncheckit out you never know!
192179
He is a jerk and you did the right thing. Your kids should be your number one priority. I have 4 and they are the world to me. You are not the bad guy. The next thing he will do is try to get you to feel sorry for him to make you go back to him. Don't do it!
14993
You got to choices, and it's all up to you.\n\n1. Dont listen anything she says cause living 1 hour away from each other is not DISTANCE, believe you have no idea what a distance-relationship is. If you care for her as you say, FIGHT FOR HER, dont' let her go, if she really loves you, she'll stay with you.\n\n2. Move on... there's a milion other girls. Yeah, i know it's really hard and at this moment you probably believe that you can't live without her, than you will never be able to love anyone again and stuff like that... but believe me, in 6 months, you won't even remember her last name.
190988
Sound very confusing. Her telling you to stalk her sounds like she wants attention. I would give her some space, also it sounds like she acts to young to be married. If you don't want to find anyone else, stay single for a couple of months and play it by ear. I would usually say move on with your life, but if you really love her then she`s worth it !
202599
If you honestly feel as if the relationship is something you can't handle, then you should get out. Just be sure that if you do decide to leave her, make sure she understands why you are leaving. You're leaving not neccessarily because of her kids, but because you aren't ready to be a father figure and you'd like to travel. Make certain she understands this and be sure to use "I" statements so as to not put her on the defensive side of things.
30008
Talk it over with her. You have to. She is family. You both need to solve this.
458550
This is just about the most serious flaw that a relationship can have. You are at that uncomfortable point where you are about to realize that three years of your life has passed and that you can not afford to give this man more of your life if he is not committed to a future with you that includes children. Sure, it is easy for all of us to push kids off into the future but now the time to put up or shut up has arrived for your relationship. A word of warning to you. Having children is the most rewarding of all life's gifts but it is the biggest commitment that you will ever make and you can not go into it with a man who is not happy, hopeful, and excited about the prospects of being a father. You need to talk to him and see what he thinks... I believe that you are ready to move on and he needs to know this. I was living with a great woman for almost two years, two weeks before our third Christmas together we had a talk about our future, kids, faith... the whole nine yards. After a two hour talk we ended it... peacefully and very fast. I moved out before the new year. Sometimes you realize in your heart and your mind that the person that you are with is not the one you are going to end up with... we both came to that conclusion. You need to make a choice too. I have been married now for five years and have two great kids- I hope your choice works out for you as well.
442516
I think you made the right decision. If you two love each other then things should work out. Its cool that you show the understanding that you do. That may be what she really needs from you