This question is regarding my best friend. This guy is in love.Both love each other but her parents are not ready for the marriage as their hosrescopes do not match. They are trying to convince them since last year but no results.\nAs the guy is the eldest son in the family, his family has also started building pressure on him saying  either marry or leave her. He dont want to do that. What should he do?\nWe ( me and this guy) are roomates we daily use to have heated discussions on this topic. I didint understand how to help him? Can anybody help.
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What? The parents are not ready juz bcoz of their horoscope didn't match? wooow...what a reason.\n\nwell...if they both are in love and ready to take any responsibility and risk by getting marry, then do it.\n\nit is true, they'll end up with 2 question only, get marry or be gone.\n\nthey are mature enough to do it by them selves, sooner or later, parents will understand and starting to accept it step by step.\n\njust pursue what you both think is the best.\n\none of the reason why they don;t get  marry it's bcoz it is not the time yet.\n\nencourage your self to dare to take the decision, don't thibk too much by thinking only.
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hi..dts gud havin a boy friend..i do have one..c,just handle the situation carefully...tell your parents first,and make them understand the depth in love u have for ur guy..it always takes some time for ur parents to agree...bt,still u wait and wait...jus dont run away with him...bcoz that most of the couples do these days whn their parents are not allowin...tell dm that you really cant live with out him....and the main part is,you must have satisfied all your parents expectations..........let them know love these days is not a big thing to worry about...it vil take time,wait to hold the hands of ur guy forever,gud luck..........
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Well, if he's truly a good guy like you state, then what is the problem?  \nI say, if you know in your heart that this man is right for you and that you want to spend the rest of your life with him, it is ultimately YOUR decision.  It may put you on the outs with your family, but if he is around long enough (especially as your fiance or husband) maybe they will start to see the good that is in him.  After all, if they make these assumptions and they hardly know him, perhaps they will grow to like and even love him once they get to know him.\nIs there someone in your family you are especially close to?  Seek them out and have a long talk with them.  Maybe you can get to see this man from your eyes, and then can spread the word.\nThe main thing is though, you can't MAKE anyone like anyone else.  And family disputes arise all the time.  No one likes everyone they meet, and family is no exception.  If you feel that this man is right for you, then by all means BE WITH HIM.  Maybe it will piss some people off, but really, this is your life and it is up to you to find the man who is truly right for you.\n\nGOOD LUCK!
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have you told your boyfriend how you feel? maybe yu should and see what he says, or see if he will ask his parents and sister what they think of you. there has got to be  a reason, unles they are just really protective over their son?But i would go, dont let his family stop you from being with him.it is his family, they will always be a part of his life. good luck whatever you decide to do :)
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Their culture is strict... but if there's a will, there's a way... and if you really love each other then you'll fight for your love... Do something... don't just sit there and watch him get married... if you fail, then at least you've done your very best part... you won't have the moment in your life wherein you'll get to think about that time in which you had the chance but you didn't do anything...:)
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You could try writing them a letter if they wont see you. In the long run though, it comes down to this... You're marrying HIM not his parents. If they want him in their lives they'll come around. He needs to make it clear that he loves you and wants to be with you, even if it means not seeing his family. My guess is they will come around after a few weeks. Hope this helps.
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Have I got an answer for you!!!!  I went thru the exact thing- I kept telling him no no no no NO NO NO NO!  Day after day!!!!  It is just taboo to date your best friends brother!  Finally I said yes just to shut him up!  And we have been married for 22 years now.  Love can be right under your nose and u do not even know it!  Always take a chance on love!  Its well worth it when u win!
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She should evaluate their relationship....what really is important for him? Why after seven years ans telling her he wants to marry wouldn't he want her to meet his parents? What does he has to hide? is he hiding something? All in all she should value herself...a man that really loves a woman will not push her to do something she is not sure to do...he will respect her decisions and believes and if she does not wants to have sex before marriage...which I think is something very important for her...he should respect that decision...
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Now i'm not going to call you crazy but please listen up. This is not a world you should trust, meaning there are alot of cooks out there who is willing and able to take advantage of your love for them. Why don't you wait about a year, have patience, and see where God wants to take you. You have a soul responsibility to your son, and taking him on a dangerous journey is not very wise. You going alone is not wise in itself so putting your son a risk for something terrible to happen is even worse. Love conquers all but as it says in Pr 14:8 The wisdom of the prudent is to understand his way: but the folly of FOOLS is deceit. Don't be decieved into something that might not be meant to be and might not be God's will for you and your sons life. Seek the wisdom and instruction of the Lord if you believe. You have only known him for two months and you are quickly and foolishly running off to another state with him. Is this because you have a dream for your son to have a father and you to have family, well let it be done right not foolishly. Take the step to saying I will go with you but not now. Wait about a year or even two, and see if he still loves you then, see what kind of person he really is. Then  see after that if he will marry you. If so then you know you are on your way to having that family but my best advice to you is seek the kingdom of God first and all of these things shall be added unto you. Make sure you are equally yoked, meaning you must have the same beliefs in God and are both saved. If that's not the case than it will not work, trust  me on this! Do you know for sure what he believes as far as God and salvation, marriage? Do you know for sure what he does for a living? have you done a back ground check on him? Give me his name and I can do it for you email me privately. It's for your and your son's saftey. Do yo know his history and full personality? Do you know his family and have you talked to any of them? Is he controlling? Do you know what he likes and don't like? Do you know his dating history? Most of these you probably believe you know or don't know yet but are serious things you need to consider when leaving your safety zone and your family. They might be on to something so talk to them. Parents often times can sense danger of there child. please email me. I am very concerned for you saftey and your sons. \nsincerely yours, Godly Woman
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The solution that will please everybody is to wait.  If you are so much in love neither of you is going anywhere then just enjoy being together and please the families, you have your whole lives to spend together enjoy it.
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Hi, what you feel now is understandable, especially at this age,well-known as crisis of teenager period. But please trust me, if your parents separated it is not because of you and you should not be selfish,they have a right to live their own lives,if they do not want to be together. Would you prefer them to pretend and play happy family when they may not be happy together. Believe me, if they are apart it does not mean they love you less - both love and cherish you and your task now to help them by being understandable. You will understand them when you will start dating and get married. Put yourself in their position: will you live with a person you are not in love anymore. I mean they still love each other but it different love, not passionate. Please be understandable you are mature enough,be brave.
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Play it down, some mothers push their daughters into relationships and maybe your mom thought because he was at your place for Thanksgiving that the relationship is more than what you both want it to be.  Next time you see him just tell him your mom does that to you all the time to pressure you into forming a long term relationship.  Bye the way I find it a bit odd that your guy would take it so seriously, so he must be leary of committment to a certain extent.  Play the whole situation down and for your own sake ease off on the guy for a while if he really likes you he'll come around.  I feel badly for you though, it must have been embarassing. One other thing I'd have a chat with your mom and ask her to please never to put you in that position again.  Just tell her that you'll let her know when she's allowed to tell someone your dating that she loves him, sounds as if she was inviting him to be the "SON IN LAW" and he probably freaked.  Good luck
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and now the entire internet knows. how far away from being 18 are they both? and how much do they like each other? because I think they should probably get married if they love each other that much, but if not, give the child up for adoption. Because if he leaves her, he will be regarded as an immature person who can't own up to his mistakes and runs away from them. So basically, marriage or adoption. Abortion is too horrible for both mother and child to think about.
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Okay it all depends, do you love her, are yall gonna get married, if she supports u more than ur parents then go for it. Besides, ur gona have to leave the house at some point in ur life to have ur own life and be a man. And yea u took a risk, cuz u never know wat the future holds and u guys could breakup, but point is u left the house as ur own man with a life, and ur parents should cut the cord and accept ur decisions. Its time to make ur own decisions and they should do no more than say okay. Its understandable why they said what they said. My fiance and i been living together for awhile, we have a son and every decision we make is for the best for him, and we are HAPPY. So if our family dont approve, then they are losing out, we never told them to divorce or leave anyone they were with or else. But u should try to contact them a couple of more times, try to talk to them if theyll listen, but it sounds like they just wont let go, but both parties should consider each other and why they feel the way they do. IF you and ur girl are happy then great. this has nothing to do with ur girlfriend, its between u and them, and this can make ur relationship with ur gf and parents stronger if yall make a final decision of the end result. i.e. mom and dad are gonna do this, my gf and i are gonna do that, the end. Just remember they all love you.
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answer this: could you marry into a family like that? do you want to call the man who raped your sister your brother? I wouldnt. Nor would i want to call a woman who knew about it and didnt care "mom". who says the same thing couldnt happen to you?\nDo yourself a favor and get out. Your bf might be different from them, but he still has them in his life and i know i wouldnt want to deal with that.
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Sounds very selfish. Someone who would do that doesnt care about providing the optimal home enviorment for the child. There is obvisouly no commitment between the parents. My question is What is the reasoning for not getting married? So if things don't work out one of them can walk away? What kind of lessons are you teaching that child. Can one person raise a child? Yes, Would two people be better? Yes, Would two people who are in a legaly binding commitment be better than that? Yes, Would a Mother and a Father in a legally binding commited marrige be better that that? YES!! Why would you want anything less than the best for your child? Where have standards gone??
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Looks like the guy is a mommys boy?!! If hes from a single parent family especially, drop everything cut ur losses and run like the wind dudette!  on a serious note, I understand you must now be feeling like you cant ever go on with  out him and that your world will end. trust me it wont, you are best to put an ultematum (is tht how u spell it? oh who cares!) to him and say either u marry me or stay with the mom.  Also dont be a martyr and live with them, live separately even if its a yard from his moms home.  If he wont leave his mom, u have to leave him and look onwards, it may not appear so right now, but you will meet someone else who deserves all your love and will reciprocate unconditionally without a mom for free!