i know that i've hurt him. i still like him as a friend but i'm just through with the relationship.i have a new bf now but i still wanna be friends with my ex. what should i do?
127850
Well, you clearly are not a good friend are you? We can all see that because you hurt your boyFRIEND, so can you honestly blame him? \n\nAdditionally, why do you want to be friends with your ex? Just because you used to date doesn't mean that when you break up, you will be friends. It doesn't always work that way, and given that you have hurt him, you can hardly expect to continue to be on good terms.\n\nI strongly suggest that you stop any efforts to befriend him, move on and try to be kinder to your next significant other.
398895
Stay out of it.... don't get involved one way or the other... getting involved in other peoples relationships like that will only hurt YOU... both parties will blame you for the break up... for ruining their happiness... etc... \nIt's better to have a friend than a bf/gf... part of being a friend is not always trying to "Save" them from being hurt... but to be there for them when they are hurt... "The object of life is not to never fall... but to get up when you do"... sometimes... your friends are the ones who pick you up when you're down... \nIf you think he is interested in you... then I would try to keep your distance from him... don't give him signs that you're interested in him... especially not when your friend is dating/seeing him... the last thing you wanna do is hurt you're friend... or even damage the trust and love that you're friend has in you...
402557
You should stop beating the crap out of yourself for one...  You have a good friendship.  Good friendships are generally screwed up by dating.  Just roll with it.  Be glad you still have a good friend and go find yourself a boyfriend.  Maybe do a double date or something!  Don't try to fix something that isn't broken.  You can still keep him as a friend and date other folks.  Sounds like a plan to me.  You'll be fine as long as you give yourself a break and stop looking for reasons why you did something wrong.  You did nothing wrong, he did nothing wrong, you're still friends, just roll with it before you mess up a good thing.
390935
Sadly and embarrassingly enough - I know that situation and have been on the girl side. I loved my new bf and just could bear the fact that my ex is just not noticing and forgetting me. Stupid enough I have been to start calling him and even meeting with him saying that I want his friendship. But really I just wanted him to be mine again even though I didn't really need him!!!\n\nBe careful women are fools!! It might not be the same situation, but based on what you said and what I've had it really looks like it!
404977
You need to think about your status right now. How do you feel about your ex boyfriend? Why did you  leave him? And then ask yourself why exactly it is you want to see the guy you met, and why exactly  it is that you  like him. \n\nReflect on this before making a decision. It's never a good idea to start something new while on the "rebound" because you might make wrong decisions and someone could end up getting hurt.\n\nThe one thing I've always had problems with while being on the 'rebound' is hurting the  'new guy'. I would talk about my ex and say i was mad at him all the time, but what it meant was I was still thinking about him. \n\nIf you find yourself constantly talking about your ex; either negatively or positively, i would definitely steer clear of starting something new until I was confident that I was ready.\n\nBest of luck!\n-Mick
545462
you should talk to him\ntell him that you are sorry, and tell him that you still have feelings for him and that you want him back\nits better if you do this in person, trust me i have experience\nEVERYTHING goes alot better (even the relationship) when you do things in person
192055
Your ex is an ex for a reason...& I'm sure you remember those reasons, don't you?..So why would you look back!!...Give you new friend a chance at least, if not, move on...There's always bigger & better fish out in the sea..
331554
If he is your Ex, tell him it is over and quit playing games...If you are done with the Ex leave him alone and reassure your new BF that it is over and he has nothing to worry about with him...\n\nDon't play games...someone could get really hurt and it may be you!!  Be careful when dealing with someones heart!!!
243932
Do you like him? As it seems you do and you guys hang out. do you want to be friends or more? Think, if you are more than friends and you break up. Will it affect your relationship? which do you value most? think about it.
168833
I had that experience before - but I broke up with that bf for a very weighty reason, so, even if he continued his pursuit supposedly "in the name of friendship," I didn't give in.  It took out the complications.  Don't sweat it.  :)
312399
Why bother? You have lots of friends. This will just be a "complicated friend."  \n\nLife's tough enough. \n\nFriendly is fine (when you run into him on the street Hello/how are you?/nice seeing you/goodbye). But friends? Too complicated with an ex.
111240
It sounds like he still likes you.  If you guiys are still on speaking terms I think you should talk to him and ask him about all the shit hes been spreading.  If he's just mean, you might have to get your bf to avoid him and his friends or if the situation gets really desperate tell someone who has more control over him(your ex)
65051
question is...  what do u want from him now?  if u want to possibly start a romantic relationship w/ him then call him back.  but if u just want to be friends...  if he's not over u, then it would hurt him more for u to be makin ur way back into his life.
160697
You need to let him down lightly. Don't lead him on anymore than you already have. Just gently tell him that you love him, but only as a friend. Don't do it over the phone or through e-mail. It has to be done straight to him. After you break up, then continue, or at least try to continue, being his friend and being there for him. He probably will be hurt, and I understand that's something that will be hard to deal with. Just tell him you still love him, just not in that way.
476737
Well just wait a while and make sure that you are ready to date some one new because you never know what could happen and getting into a relationship even though you know that you still have feelings for your ex.. isnt the perfect way 2 start a new relationship. wait a few days see if you still want your ex back if u do talk to your ex and try 2 work something out.... it worked for me and we've been dating for two weeks now (yea i know not 2 long lol) but my advice sweetie is just 2 wait dont rush your self it aint necessary :-)
657588
Do not reply to his message. The emotional baggage that would ensue from you two remaining friends will blur the boundaries of having a friendship versus a more intimate relationship. If you do feel the need to reply, reiterate to your now ex-boyfriend that you wish to end the relationship and that being friends is definitely not an option. If her replies further with emails, phone calls or person to person visits, do not respond. If you see him in public, speak and go about your merry way.
634277
Ok. I had the same problem. There was one guy I was with and we broke up so I went without liking anybody for a while. Then one of my best guy friends broke up with his gf and I realized I liked him but then my ex started coming back. So I chose the one that is the sweetest and that I have the most fun with and that wasn't my ex. It just so happens i picked the other guy who's my ex's best friend and we've been together for almost 4 months and I have a great ime with him all the time. although they aren't friends anymore, I still really like my bf. so pick the one that's sweetest to you and that you have the most fun with. even if that means long distance. (i'd choose the ex because he seems like he would be a great bf and that he really cares about you as lot).