Why do females date only bad guys, that may look good but they treat them like crap and cheat on them and hit them, why do they not give a good guy a chance?...plus how do i approach girls so that i dont seem to be weird or scare them?because i get nervous and shy around girls what should i do?
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most girls who stay in those kind of relationship have bad self esteem. they think that no one else will love them or that they earned being treated that way.
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well as a girl i like it wen guys approach me and come up to me decently and humbly.. more than a guy who is very proud of himself.. for us girls first impression is important.. most of the girls likes nice guys so if you are a nice guy just ask her or approach her decently and just be yourself..\n\ngoodluck hope im a great help to you..\ni.m. me for some more good advices!!!
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It is pretty normal.\n\nIt is not really self esteem, though I am sure that many others will disagree.  It is also not true that girls are attracted to abuse, or violence – most girls are really repelled by that sort of behavior.\n\nA lot of it has to do with confidence.  The “alpha male” type is invariably confident – though not usually in a terribly cocky way – and confidence is the sexiest thing a man can have.  If a man is confident in himself and his abilities – chances are I can be too, but if even he is unsure of himself – then I should be much more wary of him as well.  \n\nNot only is confidence sexy, but lacking confidence guarantees failure.  A confident guy will ask almost any girl out – and she may go out with him as a result (she may not but that is life).  The guy who lacks confidence, who never asks the girl out – will never date her.  I have lusted after a LOT of guys who I know liked me, but who never got up the courage to ask me out.  If you saw the last Harry Potter film, or read the books, think about why Hermione(?) didn’t go to the dance with Harry – not because she did not want to go with Harry, she obviously wanted to go with Harry, but Harry was too afraid to ask her – and so she settled for going with the lout who DID have the balls to ask her.\n\nMost girls, are terribly insecure and more than any thing else, want attention, they want to be wanted by men.  The thing is, that very frequently the guys who are “alpha male” types – the ones who tend to be more violent, and abusive to others, are also the ones who are least afraid to express their desires for a girl.  The “nice guys” the ones who “play by the rules” are more likely to believe that they need to “respect” a girl by not expressing and keeping his “desire” for a girl in check.\n\nA part of this also has to do with the myth that girls don’t like sex – the “bad boy” doesn’t care if she doesn’t like sex, he is going to get his anyway – and in the process satisfy the girl.  The “nice guy” will “respect” a girl and not satisfy either of them.\n\nThere are also a small number of girls who were abused as young girls who find the abuse to be attractive, in a very twisted, and unconscious sort of way – but that is a small number of girls, and I don’t think that is the population you are asking about.
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Embrace it.  These are life experiences.  Change your attitude toward the selection of men that you have dated to that of being greatful for the opportunity to date them.\n\nThings happen for a reason dear, every man you date and then dissappoint you, helps create the person you are to be for the right man that is still out there, and going thru the life experiences needed to be the right man for you.  Always bear this in mind when some man treats you badly.\n\nDoes this mean, that you should accept men to walk all over you, and treat you badly?  No, identify this behavior early, you should be getting very good at it, with your past experience.  No matter how hot he may be, and how bad you want him, if you notice a behavior that you remember in one of your bad relationships, be warned, and aware.  Eventually you will notice a difference in one man, the one man that is just right for you.
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Haha!  It's good to be back - computer was down for a few days.  Well.. I'm not a guy, (obviously), but unless things go REALLY well on a date it's a turn-off when the guy is all over you.  You've got to conquer the gettin-to-know-you before you jump on that.  So if it's a REALLY good date then you did get to know each other and it's okay to fall into that animal instinct.  If you're like 99% of the guys out there then maybe it is a good idea to relieve your stress before the date.  You may not get the urge to, er, be selfish on the date, and that will tell the girl that you respect her.  Also - it might give that first impression that you're a laid back bad-a*s type that most of the ladies can't resist.  So yeah - I think it is a good idea!  HA!
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Just be your sweet self, honey.  You're a great catch!  And you know, we're usually our worst critics, so you probably aren't half as bad-looking as you think you are!  Just be yourself, and if this girl can't see you for the great person you are, then she isn't worth your time!  Trust me, there are many girls out there who would love to date you!  Don't waste your time one someone who doesn't.  It's their loss, not yours!
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She does it because you let her.  You need to dump her.  Just do it.  She'll continue to treat you like dirt (and every other guys she dates) until she's old and bitter.  There will never be a man good enough for her.  It sucks I know, but some people just don't know that they suck.  She's got to be told now.  Then get your butt somewhere there are lots of healthy positive girls and try, try again.
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u r looking for the wrong girls...\nand just be yourself rather than trying to be someone else\nand remember that all girls are different, but that doesn't mean you change for them..\ni found this somewhere, i didnt write it but i can highly relate to it, and so can many of the girls you are looking for....\n\nTo the nice girls who are overlooked, who become friends and nothing more, who spend hours fixating upon their looks and their personalities and their actions because it must be they that are doing something wrong. This is for the girls who don't give it up on the first date, who don't want to play mind games, who provide a comforting hug and a supportive audience for a story they've heard a thousand times. This is for the girls who understand that they aren't perfect and that the guys they're interested in aren't either, for the girls who flirt and laugh and worry and obsess over the slightest glance, whisper, touch, because somehow they are able to keep alive that hope that maybe... maybe this time he'll have understood. This is homage to the girls who laugh loud and often, who are comfortable in skirts and sweats and combat boots, who care more than they should for guys who don't deserve their attention. This is for those girls who have been in the trenches, who have watched other girls time and time again fake up and make up and screw up the guys in their lives without saying a word. This is for the girls who have been there from the beginning and have heard the trite words of advice, from "there are plenty of fish in the sea," to "time heals all wounds." This is to honor those girls who know that guys are just as scared as they are, who know that they deserve better, who are seeking to find it.\n\nThis is for the girls who have never been in love, but know that it's an experience that they don't want to miss out on. For the girls who have sought a night with friends and been greeted by a night of catcalling, rude comments and explicit invitations that they'd rather not have experienced. This is for the girls who have spent their weekends sitting on the sidelines of a beer pong tournament or a case race, or playing Florence Nightingale for a vomiting guy friend or a comatose crush, who have received a drunk phone call just before dawn from someone who doesn't care enough to invite them over but is still willing to pass out in their bed. This is for the girls who have left sad song lyrics in their away messages, who have tried to make someone understand through a subliminally appealing profile, who have time and time again dropped their male friend hint after hint after hint only to watch him chase after the first blonde girl in a skirt. This is for the girls who have been told that they're too good or too smart or too pretty, who have been given compliments as a way of breaking off a relationship, who have ever been told they are only wanted as a friend.\n\nThis one's for the girls who you can take home to mom, but won't because it's easier to sleep with a whore than foster a relationship; this is for the girls who have been led on by words and kisses and touches, all of which were either only true for the moment, or never real to begin with. This is for the girls who have allowed a guy into their head and heart and bed, only to discover that he's just not ready, he's just not over her, he's just not looking to be tied down; this is for the girls who believe the excuses because it's easier to believe that it's not that they don't want you, it's that they don't want anyone. This is for the girls who have had their hearts broken and their hopes dashed by someone too cavalier to have cared in the first place; this is for the nights spent dissecting every word and syllable and inflection in his speech, for the nights when you've returned home alone, for the nights when you've seen from across th
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Not all of us are like that. I promise! It is always nice to do things when they are not asked for so don't stop being nice,but I think you need to try some different places to meet girls. I think normally you can tell if they are going to be like that from the beginning. Look back and see what they all had in common. Please keep trying because there are more of us out there than you think.
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Too much stereotyping here. Women don't ALWAYS go for the jerks. I sure as heck don't. if he is a jerk I will point him the other direction and make him leave. \n\nThere are men out there that are wolves in sheep's clothing(my ex for example) he treated me like a queen before we got married After we got married he became abusive. \n\nGuys are not going to be jerks when you first meet them. They are cunning. A lot of them start acting up once they know the girl is hooked to them. the girl is so involved with being "in love" with the guy that she cannot see that he is being a jerk and treating her badly. Of course the girl is going to blame herself sometimes because the guy has her convinced its her fault or it can also be low self esteem issues that cause this or the girl is so relieved she has a guy she just doesn't care and she is afraid that there is nobody out there better. \n\nThere are nice guys out there, they are very hard to come by and to say start dating nice guys is easier said than done. BELIEVE ME. You have to work very hard at it \n\nI know some ladies that are quite vicious as well and really it has been found that the women are worse than the men.
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and............... why exactly do u think like this?? has a girl ever ever thrown herself on u?? (lol)\n\nand by the way, wat exactly do u mean by decent, good, guys??\nr they still left?? i thought they became extinct a long time back!!\n\njust go on with whatever u r thinking............. i can't change the way u think.!\n\nGood luck
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As a girl I want to tell you that you are right. Most girls don't want to date a nice guy because they are not exciting. If they treat you like your not that important to them it makes them a challenge. Girls have a fixing complex. It makes us feel good when we have the power to change the way a guy feels or acts. You need to find a girl that has learned that lesson and has matured a little.
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some girls aren't your stereotypical girls.  they don't get all excited when a guy calls.  they don't try too hard.  they don't go after any guy that seems interested in them.  don't expect every girl you're going on a date with to be the clingy, always want to hang out at the first chance kind of girl.\n\ni say go out with her.  she might be interested.  and if nothing happens and you still think shes cool, you can be friends.
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Unfortunately, many decisions are made by one's first impression and often they are based on looks.  If a woman will not talk to a guy because she thinks he's "too good", it's because she lacks confidence in herself.  She is self conscious about her own looks and therefore chooses not to take a chance of being shunned by him.  Rejection is the worst possible hurt...especially for those of us who lack confidence in ourselves and take it to heart.  Believe me, if this same guy approached the woman instead, this lady would be on cloud 9!  But she won't take the initiative to put herself out there because the risk is too great and the consequences could be devastating.\n\nIt's a double standard, isn't it?  Guys are supposed to accept rejection without question and not be hurt by it.  Grown men don't cry and all they want to do by talking to us is to get into our pants.  God forbid they might actually want to have a conversation and get to know us...maybe forge even a friendship.  It just doesn't happen that way.  Besides, we're better than that!  We won't give them the chance.  Women can be quite cruel.
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You had a real loser, and I want to assure you, not all men are that way. There are some, just like there are some bad women, but the vast majority of guys I know, respect their women very highly. I raised two boys myself, and I taught them from an early age that ladies are special, and must be treated with dignity and respect.... treat them the way you want to be treated. For a guy to treat you the way he did, he is a disgrace to the male gender. I apologize to you, on his behalf. I am sorry Mam!
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Look, this girl is probably really insecure, or shes just totally messed up. Don't go acting like all girls are like that: everyone has different personality. I think shes looking for a relationship she has total power over and she isnt going to get that. From the way I see it, there is no way for her to learn other than the hard way. Don't talk to her anymore and leave the issue alone: it isn't worth your reputation or anything for that matter...
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Girls being to afraid to break traditional barriers and ask a guy out or bring up taboo subjects.  Also, don't make the mistake of getting jealous or upset really easily, trust him.