I have been with my boyfriend for almost 2 years and last night I was hanging out with a good friend of mine... he kissed me.  I didn't exactly stop him.  I kissed him back.  I've had feelings for him for a few months but I ignored them cause of my boyfriend and I know my friend has strong feelings for me. Should I tell my boyfriend what happened?\n\nWhen my friend kissed me I felt that 'spark of electricity' that you're supposed to feel when you're with someone and I dont feel that with my boyfriend.  Am I with the wrong guy??
131807
Maybe you are asking the wrong question.  Maybe you should be asking yourself, should you be committed to someone so far away and denying yourself the opportunity to discover who is the right guy for you.\n\nIt sounds like you are fairly young - if you are anywhere under 25, you should give yourself the opportunity to explore, meet new guys, see who you like, who fits with you best.  Boyfriends are great, but you clearly felt like you were missing out on something, or you wouldn't have allowed that to happen.  \n\nFrankly, a boyfriend you have spent 21 days with out of 730 isn't really a boyfriend - he's an excuse not to have to date.  \n\nIf you think you want to stay with the guy in Australia, then commit to him, and stop allowing things like that to happen.  But if you want to look around, give yourself that opportunity.  Stop hiding behind him and step out into the world.  You don't need to tell him about the kiss - that will only hurt his feelings.  But you do need to tell him you want to open the door to other people until you can be together in person.  \n\nGood luck.
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I think you should do what your heart says. If it is telling you that you love this guy, not a little middle school or high school crush, but actually love the guy, its a tough decision. I was in the same position about 4 months ago, but luckily it worked out for me, my friend did get over my now boyfriend. But I had to sit down and have a talk with her. I actually asked her permission to date him. I didnt want to lose a friend over a guy. It can work, and if she says its ok, then she would have no reason to be angry, but if she says no, she doesnt want you to, then just think of how akward it would be to go out with him? she would always be angry, and it would hurt her alot. What if she made a move for him without talking to u? wouldn't that hurt you? Talk to her, and really consider what you say, how you say it, and listen to what she has to say. do it when things are not rocky, or else it will go horribly wrong. It sounds to me like you two need to talk it out, and if necesary, not have either of you date him. it is weird for a while...trust me. and if she says its ok, then it may be akward for a while, but eventually she will be ok with it unless she really does like that guy. And also be sure this guy is really worth it. Trust me, if its a crush, it could ruin both friendships. just have one on one time with him and talk things out with him too. remember, comunication is key. without it, it can all splash in your face. and listening to how ur friend feels is always important, so dont blow it off, or she will be very upset. more than if u hadn't asked her in the first place. just talk to each of them one on one, get a perspective from both of them, and be sure this guy is worth it and make sure he isnt best as a best friend...make sure u want to take it to the next level. who knows, maybe u guys can be as cute of a couple as everyone claims me and my bf is...and one more thing, GOOD LUCK!!! :)
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Yes, it is fine to call him if you feel that way - its the only way you can see if he has similar feelings and may actually help relieve some of his anxiety if he is wondering about the same thing. You can always call to say, "Hi! I just wanted to thank you for taking me out the other night. I really had a good time." and leave it at that. If you feel like kissing him, I doubt he would not want to. As for the "not dating anyone else" bit, I would wait a bit - after all, it has only been two dates - how much do you know about him so far? - do you really know if he's the one you want to be with now? And "Couple" or "Boyfriend-Girlfriend" are just labels - there is no set time that defines what it what. It depends on the progression of the relationship and I think when you are both ready, there will be the natural progression down the dating continuum.\n\nJust remember, guys often feel just as scared, confused or anxious as girls do.
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I am sorry to ask you that why do you have this feeling does your boyfriend likes you or not.Why is this feeling aroused in you.See if he had not loved you he might have left you long time back and had gone to some other female so which means that he does'nt love you but if he is there with you and take's care of you that means he certainly loves you.So why that feeling.See what i can tell you is when you love a person never doubt him or her until and unless you feel and see that something is wrong with themBut if nothing that thought of suspesion is there then enjoy loving and enjoy living.
602176
Believe it or not, this just happened to me last night.  My boyfriend was married for 11 years and they split up 9 months ago.  We have been going out for the last two months.  Last night, after about two beers, he looked me right in the eyes and said "I love you so much Ch*&^%)(*%$#."  I couldn't believe it.  He kept telling me he was so sorry and I know he felt terrible, but It is eating at me today too.  I know it was an accident and he didn't mean it, so I have decided to just force myself to stop thinking about it.  I know he loves me and I know he doesn't want to go back to her.  He is very loving and attentive in so many ways, so my advice to both of us is to stop being so sensitive and admit that our boyfriends are human.  They make mistakes, I wouldn't want him to crucify me if I were in his shoes.\n\nGood Luck.
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I think you should go ahead and tell your boyfriend about your feelings for the other guy.  If he really cares about you and wants to save the relationship, he would want to know the truth. Besides, it would be worse if your boyfriend found out you were having feelings for another guy from someone else.
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My guess is you have already won his heart and that is why you are in a relationship with him already.  I'm sure he is feeling just as bad about the misunderstanding as you are.  Take the initiative and make the first contact to resolve the issue and talk it out, you'll both feel better.  Misunderstandings in relationships are for learning about each other.  Remember the best part, you get to kiss and make up later!  Good luck!
643094
Wow, I am in a situation similar to yours as well.  My next-door neighbor and I grew up together, and I found out that he had a crush on me since we first met each other, which was about 7 years ago.  I was in a long-term relationship with my ex, but me and the neighbor remained friends throughout the whole time.  We didn't start getting closer until the summer of last year, when we started hanging out more and more, and I finally saw a different side to him, a kind, considerate, more gentler side.  We became fast friends and I started developing feelings for him.  We eventually talked about it and we aren't together now (mainly because he's in the military and is about to go to Iraq---he didn't want a relationship while he was over there), we have been talking and thinking about the future, because the feelings are definitely mutual there.  To make this long story short, you should tell your neighbor how you feel about him.  Who knows, he could have the same exact feelings.  Take things slow and gradual, and something could eventually escalate from that.  I'm very happy right now, even just as best friends, and even though it's hard for us to really hide our feelings for each other, I definitely know those feelings are still there.  Wish you nothing but the best!!!
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i would definitely get hurt... but i will control myself make sure not to be mean or rude ... and be perfectly polite.. and all..\nbut when i get alone with my BF i would tell him what i really feel and that i got hurt and all... and not to do that again....\nU know some times u date and  brakeup u become good friends after a while... and if they have been friends before they dated then there is a possibility that they will be all excited and hug each other... but there is a very fine line .... as long as ur BF is honest and u know tht he truly loves u and all.. just tell ur side and wait and see what he does...\nthere is a big possibility tht he would understand u and becareful the next time.... not to make u hurt...\n\nAfterall it's all about understanding isnt it...:)
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This is confusing were you guys dating or not?  \n\nIf yes, and he said i love you but you didn't feel that way...why were you dating him in the first place?\n\nIf no, just tell him straight out that you don't feel that way about him but he's an amazing friend and you hope you guys can remain friends because this friendship means a lot to you.
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I wouldn't freak out about it. Trust what he told you. That he wasn't interested in anyone but YOU. That is how trouble and hurt feelings get started, people talking smack. However, your so called *friend* never should have went to his house, knowing this is your *love* interest. I would casually mention to him that you were told she was there and then ask if everything is OK? If he acts normal to you, and smiles and says yes, perhaps even gives a small run down of why she was there, then your cool. If he offers nothing and is not acting his usual self towards you, then you know something is up. If that is the case, drop your friend, she will do it to you again with someone else. If he is normal with you and nothing has changed and all goes well. I would call my friend, let her know how *uncool* it is she did that, and then I would keep her at a distance and not be *as close* as you once were. I hope this helped some. Blessed be
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the guy i am dating now i have been best friends with for 6 years. when we first met we started to flirt nothing serious, then he told me that he wanted to persue this other girl very seriously. so we became really good friends. after four years we were finally both single, he was getting ready to move across the country and he told me how he felt. we've been dating for 2 years now. it is with out a doubt the best relationship i have ever been in. i'm glad we waited, because if not we might not be together right now. if he loves you and you love him. you will end up together. i hope this helps your situation.
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For starters, why were you laying on the couch with your boyfriend's best friend??\n\nDon't hurt your boyfriend. You own this situation, not him. I would ask his friend WHY he tried to kiss you? Were you sending him mixed signals by laying on the couch? You should have confronted him with it when it happened. \n\nDon't put yourself in that position again. Sorry, I can't get over the fact you were laying on the couch with him?!
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bcuz guys r like that-for them it's all about"men points" and who kissed her the longest-at least for alot of guys....sounds to me like your boyfriend is better then that though.....to giv eu my honest opinian i think it's fine u gyus haven't kissed yet-i don't usually like to either tilla couple months in and every couple is different-do what feels right-if u don't want to kiss yet-don't-if he trys to push u into it tell him the truth.... and maby-just maby if u aren't comfortable with it in the next 3-6 months maby he isn't really the one for u-the perfect guy u would be comfortable to do just about anything with...but like i said everyone is different-don't be pressured by his friends n don't let him be either....when u guys feel in lvoe enough to kiss-kiss-and not before then.....jut remember too a kiss is no big thing just an expression of love for e/other so ya know....don't make him feel like u don't want to kiss him-jus that u aren't ready.\nwell i hope it all works out for u and i hope i helped!\ntake care\n~Ally
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ask urself one question.. how would u feel if he did that to u? do u love him and want to be with him ?(current boyfriend) if u dont... end that relationhip before u try to start up another one...its not fair to anyone involved
205362
Why you want to tell him about the kiss?  Didn't you know that it would make him mad? You're with his friend, you tell him you care about him before you break up with the friend, then another friend kissed you, all before you broke up with the first guy, have I got it right?  Tell me what you would think if a guy did this?
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You telling him about the kiss made him jealous, which he responded by allowing a girl to give him head.  Guys like to feel that they are the best.  By you showing attention to another man, he felt less important to you and responded the only way he knew how.  If he is the kind of guy that will try to hurt your feelings every time you hurt his then you should not date, and definitely shouldn't be friends.  I would start dating him casually and let the trust build from there.  The only sad thing is, is that if this does not work out then you are probably going to lose a friend.