We are in desprete straits. My husband was discharged honorably from the US Army, this last Oct. He has applied all over for Law Inforcement jobs and no one has taken him in, they just do not need him when he applies.\n He is living on unnemployement, I got us on food stamps and WIC for the 4 children we have ages 1, 2, 3, and 4.\n Does anyone know what we could do. I mean he is asking local places for jobs and we have even checked human resource department and still nothing.\n I think it's sad, a 10 years vet from the US Army cannot get good paying job when all his skills came from being a military police officer.\n Are we not looking in the right places? We cannot afford day care thats why I am not working. And I cannot for injuries I have right now anyway.
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http://www.edd.ca.gov/eddv.htm\nhttp://www.michigan.gov/mdcd/0,1607,7-122-1679_1818---,00.html\nHope this helps....
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To join the military is a big adjustment period.  Let alone with a child already.  First you have to realize that there isn't one job in the Army where you can say 100% that you will not deploy.  Now deploying means anywhere from Kosovo to Iraq.  I have two children of my own.  I didn't have any when I joined.  Due to training, Temporary Duty in places where I'm not stationed, and Deployments I have missed both child births, both first steps, and both first words.  Is it hard?  Of course.  Is it worth it?  I believe it is.  Now also realize I'm an Active Duty soldier.  When I deploy it involves a lot of training before hand which means weeks away from home and long hours before I'm gone for a year.  For NG and Reservists deploying means "mobing" at an Army base for up to 6 months followed by a year long deployment.  As far as the push ups and the climbing goes. Ask your boyfriends father to teach you the correct push up form and start working on it before hand.  The minimum you have to reach by the end of training is 40 pushups, I believe, for the age group you're in.  Basic Training is hard but not impossible.  When things get hard just remember that you aren't the first female to go through it and you won't be the last.  I'm also an Army Brat.  My dad served two tours in Vietnam as well as Panama, Somalia, Bosnia, and the first gulf war.  I'm extremely proud of him and he helps me in my current carrier when I have leadership challenges.  Your boyfriends dad may or may not tell you what you want to hear.  He has a tough job though and I couldn't really blame him.  However my recruiter worked for my dad at one point so I got straight answers.  Ask him and when he tells you see how it makes you feel.  This is a decision you have to make for yourself.  You are responsible for raising your child and if this is the best way you can then go for it.  Is it better for a child to have a homeless family who's there all the time or a taken care of home who's parents are gone for periods at a time?  Granted that there are in betweens but I hope this kinda puts things in perspective.
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Thank You,someone else in my situation.My husband,too,is illegal.He got stopped at the border and immigration let him in america after 3 mos in jail.And he is mexican also.They gave him a social security card(for all those who think "mexicans" steal them)and a temp. visa.He met me and never went back.We pay our taxes ---- alot of them,and with HIS social security#.Property tax,insurance,dental,medical(for us and 4 kids),we pay it all.My husband supports 2 of my kids who aren't even his-they are white.Their boilogical father has nothing to do with them and we were married for 5 yrs.My husband is a great man,and is way better than alot of legal/born americans.When we can save the money,he will get legal(hopefully).Until then,he works,pays taxes,and doesn't get welfare.And uses his own ss#.Hope it helps to know someone else like you.
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I live in Colorado to and my husband can't find a job either.  Piston he asked a simple question you don't need to get rude about it.  Hopefully someone can answer your question and be nice about it.
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Look, I am an Active Duty Marine who just finished my 3rd tour of Iraq. I also have a brother who is Active Duty in the Army. I wish to share a few things. 1) If your husband joins the military, he will probably go to Iraq regardless of status (i.e. Active Duty, Inactive Reserves, Active Reserves, or National Guard),  or job for that matter. 2) It has been proven that the Active Army does a better job than the rest of the Army Components. They are better trained and react better under stressful or combat conditions. \n\nHere is a "war story". I hope you don’t mind me telling it to you. I was in a small city in the middle of the Al Anbar Province of Western Iraq. We were a small 5 man detachment from my Marine Company supporting the Active Duty Army Unit that was operating in the city. I should tell you that my unit supports both Army and Navy Units as well the Marines when they are in the same Area of Operations (AO) as us. Well, we had machine guns and spotters on the rooftop of the building we were working in and out of for security. Around 2 in the morning one night, an activated Army Inactive Reserve Unit convoy was going down the Main Supply Route (MSR) that ran beside the building. They saw our machine gun posts and spotters on the rooftop. Now, granted that they were green and inexperienced, that still is no excuse for their actions. However, when they saw the Soldiers/machine guns/spotters on the rooftop, they opened fire on us. They were shooting at us for five minutes, which is forever and a lifetime when your getting shot at. Fortunately, their Grenadiers didn't open on us or we would have taken a lot more friendly casualties than we did. We only had three wounded that night. The result of that night is that both myself and the Active Duty Army soldiers that I was working with learned that the Reserves are highly untrust worthy. \n\nSo, if your husband does join the Army, he, based on my experience with the Army, he should join the Active Duty Component, and both the Inactive and Active Reserves as well as the National Guard should be avoided. Be prepared for a lot of stupidity and hassle working the beuarcracy of the Military.  I would recommend that you talk to three or four different Army Recruiters so that they can all point out different things, that way you won't miss out on any opportunities that a single recruiter might forget to mention or not mention.  Honestly, the Air Force treats their people and families a lot better than the Army or Marines do. I wish you luck.
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I'm sorry, but he's not.  My hubby is on cycle break, thank goodness.  However, I'm checking on this for you as we speak and I'll do an edit when I have your answer.\n\nEDIT:  I'm so happy to help in any way that I can.  Military life comes full circle for many of us.  We were the "young'uns", now, we're the "old folks".  Never be afraid to ask questions.  Military life is a life like none other and we ALL need support.\n\nI really am glad you asked a question and specifically pointed me out.  However, my info is pretty limited as of right now.  Ft. Sill is closed due to our weather conditions.  Hubby won't be able to check much until he goes back in.  Anyways, this is what we have:  19 January should stand as graduation date.  That would be 9 weeks BCT and 2 weeks exodus.  We do fill up fast here and I'm glad you worked it all out ahead of time.  Hubby is going to try to check on exact dates of exodus.  Is your son coming home??  What a great present I'm sure that would be for you.  I'm glad his letters are upbeat.  That's a good sign.  Most of the Drill's here are cool.  We love all of them in our unit.  They really want these guys to succeed.  The phone number to the unit I think your son is in is (580) 442-1304.  I'm sure you already have his number, but this is what I deducted from the info you've given.  Your best bet is to call them....they do need to answer your questions.  I know they don't like to be bothered by family members, but you have a lagit question and they can answer it.  Since hubby is in a different unit, it's hard to get exact info other than knowing everything is on schedule for what's posted and that's the same he has.\n\nGood luck and I'm sorry I couldn't be more helpful.  If I do find anything else out, I'll be sure to post it on here.  Be sure to yell "HI" to me while you're in town!!  I can't even begin to tell you what an awesome experience graduation will be.  Enjoy!!\n\nEDIT2:  I wrote your e-mail addy down.  How did you find me??  I haven't answered any other questions of yours and you seem to know me so well.  Anyways, glad I can help and if I find anything else, you'll know about it.
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buddy i am a vet, two tours in iraq. and i want to thank you for saying such a good american thing and having the courage to post it here. i finished my military sevice couple of weeks ago and people like you are the reason we can keep going. even though our wives leave us, we lose most of our money, never get to see our kids born and miss thier birthdays. it helps to know there are still people left that have a love for this nation we serve. its hard to put up with the things we do and most every morning we'd rather stay in bed. thanks for makeing getting up every morning worth something good. my name is sgt curtis wellman, 6 years usmc 3 years us army
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Hubby just passed 18 years in the Army.  We're so looking forward to retirement.  It's been a good life, but we're ready to move on.  He's now a Drill Sergeant and it should take him to 6 months out from retirement.  We just hope and pray that nothing comes up that forces us to stay longer.  However, after this much time, he'll do his duty if he has to stay.  \n\nWe want to find out what other people call "normal".  We're ready!!\n\nCongrats on your service.  Good luck with retirement and your future.  Please stay safe and get home!!
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You CAN work.  You chose not to.  Are the Marines paying for you to lay around and do nothing or did you get a medical discharge?  I bet a discharge.  So get your butt up and go to work and stop feeling sorry for yourself.  No one is going to donate money to you.  You see REAL veterans coming back from Iraq and Afghanistan?  They are missing body parts and they don't whine like you do.
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I thought it was illegal for a company to fire you.  They don't have to hold your old job but they have to have a job for you. I would like to thank you for your sacrifice, it's because of people like you that I can enjoy my freedom. Shame on all of the companies who don't honor our veterans. As the wife of an active duty soldier it really burns me up.  good luck to you, and again THANK YOU!!!! Maybe call your local news affiliates and bring it to thier attention.
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it's nice to hear the air force is treating you well ... I was a army wife and it was not" 90210 "like you explained ...{thanks for the dumpy comment }, My husband was a GRUNT in Bosnia and in Afghanistan ... It was sheer hell for me and our 2 boys .. Im thankful for Ft. knox they did all they could do to make it as easy as they could for us during my husbands deployment... No matter what branch all these men and women are HEROS ! I was not aware that there were people who did'nt support our troops ... I just thought it was Bush they did'nt support ! being a "army" wife is very hard!!{ there is no fun and games at war} maybe I should have had my husband Join the airforce so we could not appear to be so dumpy!!! My husband is a hell of a man and Im very proud of what he has done for our country.. HOOAH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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sense the first answer you got was useless!! And based on the idiots personal feelings about a military that he probably doesn't have the guts to join and serve with!!!!\n\nI will do my best to help. The entry-level separation is for people who "can't" make it. Either they fail to meet the requirements physically, or they are a discipline problem. It won’t be a dishonorable discharge; it would be a “general discharge” And would be further classified as, under “Honorable” or “Less than Honorable” conditions. As far as I know “your friend” wouldn’t fall into this category being as she has already graduated boot camp. I would suggest that she go to her first unit and “ride it out” for alittle while. I served 12 years in the military and can tell you that not everyone is cut out for the service. Most people that I have dealt with that want out are usually new and kinda flip out in boot camp. The rest of the service isn’t like that. It honestly is similar to a 9-5 job.\nYour friend had to know that the military isn’t the “girl scouts” She had to of known there was a chance of getting deployed? Either way I would say to her that she should at least get to her unit and do her job for a few months and if after that she still doesn’t feel like she is cut out for it, go talk to her Chaplin and then her commander to see what her options are. Hope this helps! (Tell “your friend” to keep her chin up!) There is a category called "failure to adapt" this is for people who have served -12 months active duty and "aren't cut out for the military" Not sure of the exact details for that one.
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Yes - I agree.  Get a lawyer and appeal.  My husband worked for 30 yrs. or so and finally had to quit because of bipolar and his meds.  He applied twice, was turned down both times.  We finally found a reasonable attorney and just last month, my husband received his first check for 1,100.00.  Just don't give up - keep trying, okay?
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"Psychic"... A psychick would be a psychiatrist's girlfriend.\nI checked what's going on in your and spouse's b'day's. Get through November, and you'll start seeing a little more light. Although you probably would not wanted to have done this, but, you would have been better off, by 'you' not working, reducing your income, thus, qualifying your family for temporary support. You could have gone back (*or still can) to school, because, next year, you would be in a great position to make a 'career' change, big time! Not only could you be doing something, that would 'pay' more, and be more secure, but, it would be fulfilling a dream, that you have had, but, almost have given up on...Are your children all from this 'marriage'??? If not, what's up with past due child support? No can do? There are organizations, that can assist with that, as well. As far as 'hubby' goes...I'm sure it was not entirely his fault that he was not employed for a 'few' months, it doesn't take long to suffer a set-back. I don't feel like he is doing the type of work, that he is capable of, and or enjoys. Government housing, sounds like a 'dirty word', but, there are many aspects to assistance, and aid. That is what we pay taxes for. Is hubby a 'vet'? does he have any benefits from the government? You don't always need it to purchase government seized property. Not only could you get caught up, you can instill a future for not only yourselves, but, your children, as well. If you further your education and training, you can be getting into a better occupation, within the year. As your income level rises, then hubby can go into some form of training and or trade-program, if he so desires. By the beginning of 2008, not only could you be in your own home, but have secure jobs and futures. Your kid's could be more optomistic about their futures, and their self-worth. Good-Luck!!!
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As a member of the US Army for over 18 years I can say that alot of what you hear is not true. While it is true that the military has the least benefits than any other Federal Government branch. When people are discharged from Active Duty they have a 6 month window to take care of any medical conditions that have occurred. \nNow the pay leaves something to be desired. You can't work in the military for the money, unless you are miserly and live on base or post and eat in the Mess Facilities.\n  Now that I have reached a higher rank, the money is better and the housing allowances are better. Separation pay is good, if you are married. \n  I have been wounded four times in combat wiTh the US Army and have fought a medical discharge twice for the last injury to my foot. \n  Now, I have known guys that take a discharge because they don't want to fight it. Some stay in and some go. But, God willing, I will stay for as long as I can.\nBut, there will always be people who feel the US Government cheated them, It may be true or it may not. But my advice I give to all that feel that they shouldn't be discharged, is hire an attorney. I did and finally after I reached my 18th year I was saved. I got my lawyer to argue my point and to delay a hearing until I reached my 18th year, where the Military cannot discharge me, if my injury was duty related.
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It is terrible that this has escalated to a crisis situation, but we all have to go through this to a certain degree. I just answered a similar question five minutes ago, so I'm going to copy it in here. Here's the other guy's question:\n\n"What profession should I be? (read details)?\nI was thinking of becoming a lawyer or maybe joining the military.\n\nI'm a A-B student by the way dont come in here saying it's up to you blah blah blah just give suggestions if you can find out military pay and lawyer pay and list other jobs that have a nice salary and benifits thank you dont suggest to me any jobs that have much math btw "\n\nAnd here is my answer:\nIf you don't mind going to work each day to lie, cheat, steal, destroy, and do whatever necessary to win, then you might not mind being a lawyer. If virtue means nothing, if morals are unimportant, if purpose and meaning don't matter, then it might not bother you to be in the scuzziest proffesion in the U.S. There are no good lawyers; only snakes and (what do you call the things that live off of others and such the blood out). I'm not saying there are no good people who are lawyers, but when you call the lawyer out, he puts on the mask of Darth Vader, and is not coming to do what is good or right or honest or worthwhile. Lawyers build nothing, produce nothing, and destroy everything, and seclude things for special interests. \n\nNeither could I handle the military, and someone commanding me to do something every day. Your free will and creativity is stifled, smothered, and stamped out. \n\nYou want a decision? From the information given, since you cannot write a complete sentence and are lazy, and cannot communicate well, you would not make a good lawyer, and would make an excellent military target -- just point and shoot. \n\nNeither could I invade another country for some unspecified reason, when Congress has not declared a war. Neither could I break up my family and lay my life down for oil interests. \n\nOnly when Congress declares war, do we have authority to invade another country, according to the U.S. Constitution. Otherwise, we are the terrorist, like in Iraq, in Viet Nam, or Columbia fighting the Drug War. That's why our military are commanded to apply the U.N. patch before invading another country. They have pledged allegiance to protect the U.S., not some unspecified special interest group with ulterior motives. If it is right, then why the secrecy and conspiracy? You want to be a terrorist? \n\nFirst, learn how to write a specific question in a complete sentence. It will help you organize your thoughts. Don't get lazy on something so important and run your thoughts together and abbreviate, unless all you want are opinions. This isn't a chat room. Don't waste our time and make us guess or fill in the blanks. \n\nEvery college has counselors, and most colleges will give tests to match your aptitudes with your interests. I took a whole battery of tests for free that took three days to complete, and discovered that I am well-suited to Engineering. Of course, I knew that once they told me, but I was already enrolled in Business School, because Engineering seemed too hard, and involved too much math. If I hadn't taken those tests, I would probably be a bored bean counter today, hating my job and every new day.\n\nA piece of advice: never do something because it is easy or easier, and never fail to do something because it is hard or harder. You will have to challenge yourself to grow, and besides, your layman perception is not very accurate. How do you know what you're capable of until you try? Sure, I hated the math in college, and I struggled with it, and even had to take Calculus over once, but I got through it. What an accomplishment for me. You think I ain't proud, and full of a sense of completeness? Now instead of shying from things, I have to watch it that I'm not too Bigheaded.\n\nYour choices
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Although it's not going to be easy, it's time to have your son step up to the plate of adulthood.  Make an appointment for him to meet with a recruiter from the Army/Navy/Airforce/Marines.  He will get good direction, an education, and with luck take responsibility for his life.  I know this isn't the best of times to join the service, but it doesn't sound like he's on a great path as it is.  Good luck, Mom.