my childs father has supervised visitations and is suppose to call 24hrs in advanced if he is comming or not but does not. he has not seen him in 3/mos has not payed his support money and does not call.is there a way i cant terminate is rights or visits?
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Yes, you need to start keeping a journal of everything that happens.  It will be invaluable when you go to court.  Do this until your child turns 18.  Every missed visitation, missed child support payment, phone call, stupid thing he says to your child...EVERYTHING.  Start now!\n\nBut, the bad news is, 3 months isn't long enough to do much.  YOu need to start by filing a complaint about him not paying child support.  You can get a lawyer, but that's expensive.  My suggestion would be to either go to the court and file yourself, or call DSS/CSD/Whatever it is where you are.  Often they will help you, and once they get involved, they will take care of it until your child turns 18.\n\nOnce he gets in trouble for not paying child support, then you need to go back to court and ask for a modification of visitation/custody.  Normally when parents have shared custody, the mother gets less support because it is assumed that the father is sharing the costs of the child.  Use that and his lack of visitation as your grounds for requesting a change in custody.\n\nWhy does he have supervised visitation?  You may be able to use that to your advantage as well.\n\nYou will most likely not be able to get his rights terminated. This is a severe action, and courts don't like to do it.  If rights are terminated, the child becomes an orphan if the remaining parent dies.  Plus, terminating rights removes financial obligations.  In the eyes of the state, this makes it more likely that the state will have to pick up the slack in supporting the child with welfare, medicaid, food stamps, etc.\n\nI would just get yourself sole custody and make sure you keep his visitation supervised.  Then keep your child away from him, collect your child support if you are ever lucky enough to get some, and you and your child go on with your lives.\n\nThink about it, won't your child be better off?  My son has a dead beat dad and I let him off the hook.  I would rather he go off and not be in my son't life at all than he continually disappoint my son for the rest of his life by not showing up for visits, holidays, birthdays, etc.  Once a jerk, always a jerk.  Let him be a jerk to someone else.\n\nAlso, I know its not cheap, but I strongly suggest getting a lawyer when you do this.  He will protect you and your child and make sure you get what you deserve.  Also, I have heard more than one judge get upset when a parent comes to court without a lawyer.  Even though you can file by yourself, the results are just as serious as if you did have an atty.  So if you go by yourself and represent yourself poorly, it can have very negative effects on your child.\n\nGood luck!
515922
You should probably contact the Child Support Agency for further information if your husband has agreed maintenance payments with them.  FSee below for the link.
356283
Why not see if you can get a free consultation with a lawyer or someone who can look over the papers and tell you what they mean.  It seems that if a parent didn't want visitation, they wouldn't be able to force it.  I mean, how would it be in the best interest of the child to send them to spend time with someone who wants nothing to do with them?  It wouldn't be doing the father or the child any good.  They shouldn't be concerned, especially if he is paying support and not causing any trouble with the girl and her mother.
221674
You are going to have to set some rules. He is going to be in your life, on a limited basis, for years to come because of the children, but you need to set a few things straight. One, he MUST pay child support. Two. When it's his visitation, he picks the children up, and brings them back. Don't let him run over you on this. Stand your ground! He can pay a visit to the jail house.....then he WILL obey the rules. Good Luck!!
252063
If your unhappy get out... Make sure you have enough money saved up to live on for 6 months because you need to have a new place to live and take care of your child... YOu then file for child support and set the visitation limits... everyother weekend should be enough... Best of Luck to you
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Your child is still a child until age 18, and until then your ex can file contempt charges against YOU if your children do not go to him on his legal visitation dates.\n\nYou really ought to encourage them to go.  You'll be the one in legal trouble if they don't go.
547959
Do you have his social security number?? if you do call a child support office in mass. i live in mass and thats the only thing i can think of is call child support IF you have his social security number, if not then im sorry. Good luck
285861
Sounds like you are NOT a biological parent, but somehow raised the children as a custodial parent.  That is not good news for you.  Generally you have little chance to win any kind of visitation. \nI am sorry you will probably have to wait until the children reach the legal age.
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nooooooooooo he has no rights to ask you that and then he is remarried?? tell him to mind his business at home and send your child support payment on time.. that is what.\nthe only thing he needs to know is where to send the money i hope you slapped his ass with child support and i hope he has supervised visitations with the kids if he was abusive...you better talk that over with your lawyer.and do not let him intimidate you you have to be strong and direct with him,good luck honey.
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Unless a court has given you some sort of shared custody agreement, which you would know about, the custodial parent has all the rights.\nSince you are paying support, you can go to court to ask for visitation, but the court will not be interested in what is owed to you, but rather, what you can offer to the child.
65838
I'm not sure about NY since I don not live there, bu legally since you have viitation rights to see your son on specific dates and times then legallay you have every right to take him, your son's father has no right leglly to keep him from you no matter his reason.  I would go to your attorney and file a complaint with the courts.  He on the other hand can also file a compaint staing that he does not want his some to be around that grandmother, but the courts will have to do an investiation as to whether he has a just cause or no.  I will tell you if they do find her unfit to be around then you will of course still have your visitation, but you will not be able to take your son around her at any time, unless it is approved by the judge.  Good Luck and go get your son, if he refuses on your day then I advise you to call the cops and have them interfere, and have your visitation papers in hand for the poice to see, they will make him hand over your son.
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hello,\nokay are you an idiot????i have 2 daughters and neither one of their fathers got any type of visitation till i got the court papers in my hand.....now you have to go through dfs and get your child back.....but there is hope if you did not do an DNA test then your good they have to grant you custody until the DNA is proved....because your a woman and the men have no clue on who was between your legs.....but you could also get him for parental kidnapping....and denying you the right to see your child....please lady use your brain if not for your self for your sons sake....i would have never let my children leave with out me......that is just crazy the way fathers think that they can handle   baby all by them selves yea right....but go to the county that you live in and tell them what has happened and they can help you get your son ....they have to prove the father before he can see the child and that saves you the heart ache....also once you have the child in your custody do not i repeat do not let him see or talk to you until the courts say so and get a good attorney due to the courts can say that you abandoned your child to the father...i live in Missouri and they are a mother state and the mother has to leave her child in order for the father to get custody of the child....good luck
90699
It depends on where you live.  Many states in the US forbid the withholding of parental visitation rights without a valid order.  If your ex is a substance abuser, you need to have it documented so that your child is protected.  Call the police, department of child services, your divorce attorney, whoever can LEGALLY have your ex restricted to supervised visitation.  He can't very well show up wasted if there's a social worker watching him, can he?\n\nKeep in mind, your ex's family may be very attached to your child, so make sure that they are able to see him.
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Just because he is ordered to pay child support does not mean he gets rights to your child.  Visitation and custody are dealt with in seperate legal battles.  Go after the child support.  It won't go against you if you don't go for it, but is it really fair that you're shouldering all the financial responsibility for your son.  Applying is easy.  Go to your state's .gov web address, and search for child support or dept. of revenue.  Once you fill out the application and send it in, they will notify you of any progress with your case, and will assign a court date. (Save copies of all paperwork you send in or they send you)  If your son's father is named on the birth certificate, that's good enough for the court.  If he's not listed, he can either say he is the father, and the court will decide the amount he is to pay or he can contest it, and get a paternity test.  If he doesn't show up to court for these hearings, a bench warrent will be put out for his arrest (they won't seek him out, but if he gets pulled over for speeding and there's a warrent, he will be arrested).  The judge will ask both of you to submit financial statements, and then determine how much he will pay (a percentage of his pay, usually no more than around 35%)  They could also order him to pay back support.  \n\nI'm not trying to say your son's father is a bad guy and deserves harassment.  I just want you to know the process.  I'm a firm believer in child support.  It takes two people to make a child, and two people to support it financially.  Right now, money may not be such a huge deal, but why take all of that on when you're already doing all of the parenting too?  What about your son's future?  What about college?  Perhaps having that extra money could mean moving to a better neighborhood with better schools.  Perhaps it means that you could afford to work fewer hours to spend more time with your son.  Think about the possibilities.\n\nAs far as him being irresponsible in other areas, if you're worried that he'll go after custody, most cases the child will stay with the primary caretaker (you).  They will review his behavior and decide if that's appropriate.  Same thing with visitation.  They will review his behavior and decide if it's appropriate.
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Which parent has custody?  These visitation rights sound horrible.  Also $250 for child support for 2 kids is a drop in the bucket.  What's up with that?  I hope this isn't something the court set up and if it is they need to go back to court and get it straightened out.  Are they just selfish?  Surely they (the parents) see what they're doing to these kids?
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Depends on your laws and papers you will have to check.  \n\nExample:  My daughter is 10, even when she is 17 she cannot make that decision.  The papers clearly outline visitation and unless those rules change, the child has to go to the visitation.\n\nIn my state if your child refused and you let him/her, disobeying a court order, his father can ask the court to hold you in contempt.  \n\nThe three of you need to discuss this and change your court order if need be.
165742
Call a lawyer and get a "Guardian Ad Litem".  This is a lawyer for your child to protect her and her rights.  She is of legal age to tell a judge that she no longer wishes to see her father and tell them why.  She is old enuff where the courts will recognize that she is speaking for herself and not for your wishes.  This lawyer will help her do this.\nGood Luck.