husband prefers catfighting pic & videos over porn videos or pics
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The clashing of feminity with aggressive (typically male) behavior.. He probably also has fantasies about them engaging in sex acts.. Or if he has deep-seated unresolved emotional issues, he could be taking the fantasy to an extreme level.. Mixing the sensuality and the violence and culminating in a imagined situation of the woman that wins that fight raping the other..
655227
don't be mad! he's a guy. let 'em look at their porn. It's like us girls drooling over pictures of Brad Pitt shirtless. It means nothing...it's just what everyone does.
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I personally have nothing against porn.  But it does sound like your husband truly is addicted and that is bad.  What is worse is even if you could force him to give up the porn he would likely shift his addition to something else. Plus the addition means he's not dealing with his life stress well, most likely because he doesn't have the right tools.\n\nIn the end you can't make him do anything.  But I would recommend you see if you can get him to go to a support group.  They might better handle his problem then just a therapist does. Especially if the doc doesn't even know the real problem.  But if he goes to a support group, he'll be openly admitting to the problem.  And it sounds like he really needs that first step before you two will get anywhere.\n\nI would also suggest you seek out a support group of your own, even if you husband won't go.  Most likely your own therapist could recommend a local group, may even have local groups you can encourage your husband to go to.
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Ask him what would make him happy.. And that u would love to share his fantisies with him.. Hun lets be honest here men are men they can't help but watch porno on tv or net, its just within their nature. by getting mad at him will  not take u anywhere or resolve ur problem.. neither will it stop him from doing it.. fix the problem with a solution.. try watching it together and perhaps ask him what he likes doing the most and that u wouldn't  mind sharing that experience with hi..,don't forget aslong as it makes u comfortable and happy doing it as a woman.. Am not saying that u should do anything or everything against ur will. But try talking about it.. communication is the answer.. good luck.
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I don't know about porn but I use Ares for my music and they also have a video tab...Maybe you should just go out clubbing tonight though...
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For many men there really isn't a way to get him to stop; all you'll do is make him sneak around and do it behind your back. There are some who can and do stop, but they are more rare. If you are with a man who isnt capable of stopping, and you arent capable of walking away, there are some ways for you to learn to deal with it. \n\nSteps \nRealize that he isn't watching porn wishing you looked like those women...if he wasn't happy with you, he wouldn't be with you. Try to understand why he really is watching it and what he gets out of it. \n\nTry watching it with him...even if you HATE it, he will love that you're willing to share it with him. It can be a great way to spend time together, and might even lead to some pretty hot sex. Who knows, you might end up liking it too! Watching it with him will feel like you approve of what he is doing, and men need and love approval. \n\nAsk him if he wants to try some of the different positions, role playing, etc. He might have a fantasy or something he's always wanted to try but is too shy to ask. Try to understand the parts of him that he hasnt disclosed to you. \n\nEven if none of the above tips appeal to you...stop nagging him about his "habit"...nagging will only lead to fighting, and fighting leads to breaking up. There is a healthy way to fight in a relationship, but nagging leading into a fight isnt it. Professional counseling or marital counseling can lead to real change. \n\nTips \nDo not take his porn watching as a personal affront, many men are just much more visually stimulated than women are, and he isn't trying to upset you. (thats an excuse) \n\nWarnings \nDecide now if his porn is something you can learn to deal with...if not, you might want to consider ending the relationship yourself. You will never completely change him, and if you "make" him stop watching he might only resent you. It really depends on who he is and the nature of your relationship.
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I think it is very degrading to women.  I do not know why they do this and it is a question that enters my mind when I talk to a friend of mine who is into porn.  He is obsessed with this and it actually is running his entire life.  Has affairs with numerous women and has porn all over his computer.  Of course I do not respect him or the fact that he doesn't respect women, nor himself.  I feel there needs to be laws on this.  What a person does in private is his/her personal business.  But what satisfaction does a man get looking at magazines, internet, porn flicks, etc?  I honestly feel it is his real sense of inadequacy and definitely does not feel good about himself.\nWhen it comes to the sick-o man who preys on children is another sickening story which makes me ill thinking about it.  \nIf a man reads this...let us know why you need these degrading things.  You cannot be fully satisfied, otherwise you wouldn't be looking at these things.
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Any husband that would say that to their wife should not be married.  Porn is an addiction just like anything else.  The both of you need to go to therapy together and fix this problem.  Verbal abuse is just as bad as the physical.  Don't let his problem get you down.  Either seek professional help to fix this or move on.  There is a man out there that will love you no matter what.  Those are the ones to hold on to.
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*shakes head* Woman... I would RUN so fast and so FAR in the other direction after packing my kids up!\n\nI dealt with a man for a year - who was addicted to all kinds of porn, tried to get me into working with him for a porn site, had a foot fetish, and the last straw was him watching chicks with d**ks do each other.\n\nIf it was a simple, stupid mistake for your man, then fine - but check the history on the computer for the next 4 weeks. See what the heck else turns up. This is not something that a 'normal' person would find exciting and enticing.\n\nMind you, I'm not against gays, porn, etc... most things are good in moderation  - but I just remember how much pain I went through trying to save my relationship after all the truths came out (after 8 months of being together) and how the last 4 months together were HE**. I'd hate for anyone else to go through that...\n\nGood luck... be well.
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Pornography is like cigarrettes: it's addictive, it's poisonous, and people who make it and use it like to act like it's no big deal.\n\nAll men do NOT watch porn on a regular basis. There are some men who watch it all the time, some men who watch it once in a while or perhaps watched a few when they were younger, and men who don't watch it at all. I can't tell you which category your boyfriend falls in.\n\nSign to watch out for: he keeps a bottle of lube near the computer, by the TV, or any other place that is so blatantly obvious to anyone who walks in the room.\n\nIf your boyfriend just REFUSES to talk to you about this, then you may try couples counseling or individual counseling. In the meantime, try to decide if his porn-watching is a deal-breaker for you, or if you are willing to be okay with it. If he's dismissing your feelings completely and just not listening to you anymore, it may be time to get out of an unhealthy situation.
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Yes, it is too much to ask.  I don't see what having kids, him being on call, how often you have sex, or who you live with having anything to do with it.  You state these things but you don't say how they are relevant to your wish.  You haven't stated any reasons why he should not watch porn.  Now if you're saying that he watches it in front of your kids, masturbates to it as your in-laws walk through, leaves it on when he goes out on a call where just anyone could see it, and doesn't have sex with you more often *because* of porn, then you might have a complaint.  However, you say none of those things.
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Porn is addictive, and is very hard to break free of.  If you're worried about it now, don't let yourself be fooled by the idea that he'll stop soon.  If he's that into it, it'll take more than you fussing at him to make him stop.  The good news is that it does not necessarily mean that he does not find you attractive.  Guys have a way of separating fact from fiction in this way.  This is not a good thing, but it's probably the allure of the women in the pictures (ie, the fact that they're 'willing and ready to  go) more than the fact that they are thin or have huge, uh, body parts.  He needs an ultimatum.  Them or you.
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Tell him you want him to delete all the porn becuse he doesnt need it anymore since he has you. And he might also need some therapy.
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If you are concerned with how harsh some of the content can be, why not use the parental block on the computer.  You can block out anything that is too harsh, like violent porn or anything hardcore.  Obviously he's curious and it's perfectly normal for him to be, there is nothing wrong with him wanting to see a naked woman ect.\n\nThere is nothing wrong with a mother wanting to protect her child from potentially harmful influences.
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Women that do like porn do not usually like the same kind of porn as men do. So most people prefer to watch porn alone. My husband likes to watch porn with me, and I don't mind (as long as it's my porn). My porn doesn't really turn him on, but he is turned on by seeing me turned on.
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Geeks need love too, but tell him he can interface with YOUR database or you're gonna have system failure! LOL Failing that, tell him you're running too hot, and you need him to cool you off or you'll lose your memory and his relationship's gonna crash!\nSeriously though, u might ask him if his OTHER girlfriend's last name is .jpg....internet porn ruins marriages...
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Yes it happens to the best of us, if you dont like it you need to lay a clear picture to him about how much it hurts you, over and over if need be, be strict as you feel you need to be, and he will see how much it bothers you, we went threw this also, i know how much i let it mess with my head, i hope you two can work threw this *HUGS* PS if he watches it offten he might need professional help, people can get addicted to porn easier then one might think, seen it on Oprah :P