i really like this man & i even love him but he has a family of his own. the thing is he's not happy where he's at. he's ready to move into his own place & he's already asked me to move in with him. but there's no problem with that, right?
127983
why get involved with a man who's been engaged for 8 years... if he changed his mind about her how do you know he won't change his mind about you too? but if you really love him you have to give it a try because otherwise you'll always regret not knowing if it might have worked.
188300
It's become a question of comfort it sounds like. He is comfortable financially with this person, but lets this stop him from being true to himself and follow his heart. It's really hard to leave someone, but he needs to build up the courage to do so.  You need to show him that you love him, and make this as smooth of a transaction as possible.  best of luck to you!
87992
I am sorry to say that I think he has feelings for someone else and doesn't want to hurt your feelings openly yet. He sounds confused. Is he maybe thinking of not coming back home? Something is not right in any case.\nI would probably leave him. If he really loves you he will protest and maybe even come clean. If he is seeing someone else he will let you go and spare you whatever excuse he will use to eventually leave you. Of course thats just how I see it because I didn't live with him for nearly 3 years.\nFor the moment I would ask him what his plans for the future are if it's not marriage...or if he just doesn't want to marry you.
546394
I think the kicker is that you are also moving in with 2 guys. So..really..you can't play the "I'm hurt and worried" card with him over this. It makes no sense to even try.  \n\nWhy can't the 2 of you just move in together someplace?
577373
Sounds like he is very controlling.\nIf he separates you from your family them you will be all his to gain control over.\nAsking you to do that is also very ignorant and dissrespectful to you. If he has any love, concern and respect for your feelings he wont expect you to do that.\nMen come and go, families do not!
566996
Yes, its close. Problem is not in closeness. You get a crush on any guy anywhere, if it is gonna create any problems for you then your home cant remain un affected. I would say, do not base your relation based on distances of your houses. If he is really worth it go for it... And when you said 'if anything were to happen' it indicated that you are not very mature in your thinking process. I say be careful. You cant afford to ruin anything be being careless. Its your responsibility to decide and think in the welfare of you and your family. Neighbour means they have and interaction with you and your family too. Bottoml line is its more likely to get exposed sooner. Take care
349552
it's too bad they live right down the street from you. they are hard to avoid.  if she is so obnoxious, i'm sure your fiancee knows this.  so, if he is willing to keep the family relationship going, and you want to keep your relationship with your fiancee going, i think you are going to have to just grin and bear it until you can move away from where they live.  i would tell him that you know it's his brother and sister in law, but you have a difficult time around them.  your personalities just don't seem to mesh and you don't mind seeing them occasionally, but you cannot put up with on a constant basis. let him realize you are not doing this to cause friction in the family but it's just too uncomfortable for you and you would prefer not to get so involved with them. then, it's up to him to decide - you or them.  good luck.
210550
I am not happy with anyone other than you. I have learned this over the past couple months, and in some ways, I dont want to leave him because it will hurt, but I do want to be with my family. All 3 of us. I realized that.. you loved me thru and thru, just like you said. I am willing to make it work... I just hope you still are. I know that in relationships, there are good times, and there are bad times. We need to be able to work thru the bad times together... We need better communication.. and all in all, We need eachother.
249876
SOUNDS TO ME LIKE HE IS HAVING SECOND THOUGHTS OR FEARS OF SOMETHING. YOU NEED TO BE VERY CLEAR OF WHAT YOU BOTH EXPECT OF EACH OTHER BOTH FINANCIALLY AND RELATIONSHIP WISE BEFORE YOU MOVE IN TOGETHER OR IT COULD GO SOUR VERY VERY FAST TRUST ME I HAVE BEEN THERE AND I SUFFERED BADDEPRESSION FROM IT. I MOVED 275 MILES FROM HOME BOUGHT A HOME W BF AND NOW FEEL TRAPPED IN HELL...SO B CAREFUL VERY CAREFUL FINANCES CAN SCREW UP A RELATIONSHIP FAST AS HELL.. BE VERY VERY CLEAR OF ALL EXPECTATIONS BEFORE BEFORE BEFORE YOU MAKE A MOVE W THIS GUY!!!!
164367
Money does not buy happiness. If the man is good to you and you love him nothing else matters. You said it yourself he is perfect, what more could you ask for. I would stay in a one room apartment if that's all we could afford and the man is perfect. You can also work to help financially. No one knows what will come next, even a rich man can go bankrupt then what do you have if you were only in it for the money?
568370
you don't say how old the two of you are but here's my opinion.,\n\nright now- there's no reason for him to start up trouble in his family because even tho they will like you- they will certainly have issues because of their faith and that's ok. it is understandable\n\nfor now- just have fun and don't worry about all of that.
542914
You are absolutely not being selfish.  I understand his family is important to him and the baby, but your family is equally important.  The other factors( such as the baby going to a better school and you being able to work)  are what make the decision to move a good one.  You being closer to your family is just a perk.  As far as not having the money to move being his reason to brush you off, maybe he has a point.  However, if you feel that he is just saying that to avoid moving you really need to sit down with him and tell him all of the reasons you'd like to move.  If he tries to brush you off tell him how important it is to you to make this decision together.  Also, make sure his family realized that it's not anything against them and you aren't moving to hurt them.  Good luck.  I hope everything works out for you.
264501
You are so selfish. It's all about money to you. It would be such a convenience to you if could just move in with him, no regard for how he or your kids feel. Maybe he knows this and that is why he is not moving the relationship forward. You need to give the poor guy a break and move away, learn how to deal with life on your own, and then try to get into a healthy relationship...
169845
Think you've already made your decision by moving out but instead of following your head or your heart follow your instincts,don't think that after being with someone soo long that you can start fresh like strangers,as you have said you'd need to fix what was wrong in the first place...but if he's not willing to do that what's the point of trying again,you have to think about yourself,and your children,life's to short to be messed about...your the only one to see the relationship they way it is so your the only one that can answer your question but if i was you i'd say away and listen to your instincts,your gut feeling they're very rarely wrong...
61077
Men want to be able to take care of and provide for their families. He's not leaving you or anything like that. He's just trying to give you the best life he can. You should try to be supportive of him.
293425
If you would like to known as 'the skank', by his family, go for it.  Consider this, sometimes things are not as they seem, could you possibly imagine that this family member's aim is only to use you and throw you away like a used rag? After that you'd be scorned by him, your boyfriend of 2 months, his family and to boot, they'd still be family and closer than ever.  Why?  Because he proved to your boyfriend' that you were no good.
482988
Hes a killjoy, and a selfish one at that.  He has a family to consider!  Tell him to put you first some times.