My best friend and her boyfriend broke up a few months ago, and they dont get along too well. I liked him when they were dateing and we continued to talk as friends. We knew my friend would be upset if we hung out so we decided we would "accidently" meet somewhere to hang out. I realized that i still like him but i feel extremly bad because its my friends ex-boyfriend, what should i do?\n- another random question i'v been told by past boyfriends that i flirt alot and have too many guy friends, howcan i stop flirting so much, and guyz does it rly bug you if ur g/f has a lot of guy friends?
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You have to make the decision as to end it with him or talk to your friend about it.  That's what friends are and sometimes its not good stuff.  See what her response is but I think its great that you at least had the decency to ask before acting. Now, about your flirting.  If it is just in fun there is nothing wrong with it unless you are out with someone else.  That shows no respect for him or you for that matter.  I had mostly guy friends too when I was young and still do, so what, friends are friends and I don't give them up for anyone.
516358
Okay this has happened to most girls before. You fall for a cute, sweet, smart guy, only to find out he's taken. Well, why wouldn't he be, with all those great qualities? The truth of the matter is, if the guy was as into you as you're into him, he wouldn't be with another girl, he'd be with you. Granted there are a lof of other factors involved, such as how long he's been with her, how old you are, maybe he's afraid to break up with her, etc. Chances are the guy really does like you, but you're right...you can't be "the other girl." And that's what you are shaping up to be at this point. I was in a very similar situation in high school. I really liked this guy who was dating another girl, and I talked to him every night on the phone, hung out with him every weekend, and we flirted constantly, but the end result was he stayed with her and I ended up disappointed, confused and feeling like a jackass. What you need to do is treat the guy like your friend, since that's all he is right now. He'll respect you for not trying to break up his relationship, his girlfriend won't get all upset, and you'll feel better about yourself for not obsessing over him all the time. Talking to him about it might complicate your friendship, and you could risk losing everything you have with him right now. Guys feel weird if put in a position like deciding between two girls, so don't make him choose. He might feel awkward knowing you care about him that way if he doesn't return the feelings. As much as you like the guy, give it time, and if he doesn't come to you, then he's just not into you. Maybe he'll break up with her and then you can tell him how you feel. You sound like a head's up girl, so you'll find someone eventually. You never realize how much you love girls' nights til you have a boyfriend and can't see the gals anymore! Take advantage of being single...when you're meant to have a boyfriend, it'll be that much better when you know he really likes you.
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You know I've been in this same situation. It's really hard to deal with if you guys are so close. I just let my friend be and went to hang out with other people. I would call her and invite her places but she always turned me down because she had already made plans with her new man. This went on for about three months. When she called one day I told her. I'm not mad at you anymore but I would like for you to know that what you did really hurt me. We had been friends for five years and this guy comes and now you act like I don't exist. She apologized and we started hanging out again. Some people just get caught up in situations and forget about the feelings of others. You just have to put yourself in her shoes. If you were in a new relationship you might do the same thing to her. It's something new and right at this time you're just caught up in it. As long as you talk to her and tell her how you feel about it she should make it a point to try and share her time between the two of you. If she just blows you off then she wasn't a good friend to begin with and you'd be better off finding someone who cares about you and what your feelings are. Good luck with it. I hope she comes around.
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Some guys get into this mode that they "forget" their friends for a while when they meet a girl they really like. He may grow out of it. However I think you should talk to him and tell him you still want to be friends, and if possible talk to her alone and see if she really "hates" you, or is possibly jealous of your history with her boyfriend. If she isn't, have her suggest to your friend that they and you and your boyfriend go out together some time.
48006
Ok blue, i know how u feel, so talk to him about your feelings. A guy friend of mine liked me but i didnt cause i just like him as a friend, just like what ur going through. It sucks i know, but i went up to him and asked him if we can talk and so i told him i dont have the same feelings for you. Plus ask him if he is willing to put your guy's friendship on the line if u guys go out, you know what i mean? You guys are probably good friends, right? I know u dont want to loose that,so let him no that. Speak ur mind and he should respect that no matter what.
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Smart girl, you have handled that poking incident very well. It was a harmless prank that some boys play to amuse themselves as well as others.\n\nHe is sort of feeling sore being ditched by others. And who doesn’t? I think he still has a liking for you; didn’t he betray himself by blushing (turn red as you put it)?\n\nPlus the fact that you now have a new boyfriend, it is indeed complicated for him. I sure hope that your friends don’t tease him too much, have mercy. Haha.
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well, i guess it's normal, happened to me too. But u should listen to your heart. And I think u already know the answer: he seems a player, so he's not good for u. Besides, u're friend likes him and u don't want to hurt her. If u feel like it u can play hard to get with him for a while because it's soooo nice to have someone et u're feet, isn't it? But don't get involved if u don't feel like it.
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How old are you? I get the feelin that you're not that mature. Your BEST FRIEND broke up with her boyfriend and youre already  in the line to get him? C'mon, you're kidding. Of course she's mad at you! Don't go out with him if you wanna keep this girl as your friend. Haven't you heard; guys come and go, friends are forever.
394833
Yes, I think your absolutely right about everything  you said that concerns you, your friend, and this guy. Just be glad that it wasn't you with this guy no matter how good he flirts or looks. I really feel for your friend because if she gives it up to him he's going to be gone like the wind soon afterwords. Hopefully things won't get that far for him and her, but if they do I hope that maybe she'll learn a lesson from it. You seem like a very smart girl to me. Don't ever let yourself be taken advantage of. Your worth something.
567389
Isn't it surprising how easily one gets into a 'situation' without really meaning to? It´s time to move on, you'll survive. Stop seeing the 'ex-best friend' and maybe you two will get together again in the future, much wiser for the experience.
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Please continue to be his friend.  Relationships that start out as friends always last.  Since your friend now has a girlfriend, you should "take the high road" and quietly stand on the sidelines where their relationship is concerned.  If you "butt in", you will only cause confusion and discord, and may ultimately end up losing him as a friend.  Should their relationship break-up in the future, you will still have him as a friend and perhaps then your relationship with him will turn into something more.  Have a lovely rest of the day.
380712
wow girl you have some problems.. those guys are going out with your friends, if you do make your move on them you'll prove to them exactly how loyal you are. and you just can't do that shyt to a friend, if you really do think of them as your friends. \n\nand if they ever do break up you should talk to your friend first before making your move on her ex. \n\nit's just a unwritten rule that you don't go out with your friends' boyfriends/exes. unless you really do want the drama.
284015
I'm in an identical situation only i am a guy. And the guys in your story are girls in mine. I'm not gay. Just wait it out and eventually they will break up. However you need to know what your best friend would do if you were to go out with her ex. If she was really your best friend, she would understand and she would let you go out with him-but come on thats never gonna happen. You need to find out who you like more, this guy, or your friend. It sound to me that he sorta like you, and if your friend knows he flirts with you, and shes not jealous shes\n- in it because the guy is popular\n- is a whore that just wants to sleep with her boyfriend until she is bored\n- is trying to tell herself shes being uptight\nYou need to know if he likes you before you do anything about your friend. Ask one of his friends or a brother or sister of his. It will be hard, but if you loose a friend, how good of a friend is she?\nP.S. Do not go out with this guy directly when he breaks up with your friend. She wont like that, and he wont think your much of a friend. Wait at least two weeks, by then your friend should be interested in some other guy.
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O god you poor thing this happened to me and the only thing i could do was try and get over him. If your friend likes him and he likes her chances are they goin to get together so you have to decide if you can support them and be happy for them and if not you should tell your best friend how you feel and see what she says.if she nos that if they got together it would hurt you she probably stay away from him. there are loads of lads out there who will love you back so try not to beat yourself up bout it
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It's normal.. we all go through the same thing.. (I mean unless we had a flamin' bad break up that is!) Does the current bf know about this? ..and deal w/it? He sounds like a kool dude if so. It'd be hard, but could ya like change where ya R hangin' out, so ya 2 don't meet up? I kow it's rough if ya got the same friends, right? If ya have a bad breakup ONE of the good things about it is you got a TON of bad info. to use mentally to get over the bad dudes. I mean if he beat ya up, dissed ya, you gotta make that memory a WHOLE lot better.. (helps ya get over the hurt.) How long it been since ya broke up? It'll get better, I promise! If it's too new a hurt, I think it's kool ya got wit another guy already too.. later-     melancholia
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I just got over a relationship where my best friend (who was also his x girlfriend) and him kept staying friends. I didnt really let him know how much it bothered me, but now that i look back, it totally bothered me... and now that were not together, im so glad its over because that issue was so annoying, not worth dealing with. Tell him to loose her and if he can't, drop him!
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Well if she is your best friend (I'm assuming that is what b.f stands for), and she did that to you, knowing how you felt about him, then she obviously doesn't regard friendship like you do! The joke is on you unfortunately! I would suggests you redefine the quality of what a true friend is and is not! Of course your slowness to be to the point with this guy didn't help. Your friend did what you were hesitant to do and succeeded. You partially have yourself to blame. If this guy is a flirt, it is probably just as well she got him. Flirtation tends to lead to jealously and mistrust. You will see it unfold in front of your eyes, then you can thank your lucky stars that she got stuck with him!