I've got this girl friend who's just perfect for me.she mentioned  me to her parents as a friend...but for that itself they told her 2 forget about me 'cause they thought this would lead to luv problemsi.e, the type we see so often in movies!we really love each other...And i dont wanna giveup on her that easily. Her parents wish 2 find someone who they think is perfect. She's asked me 2 decide whether or not i wanted such aproblematic relationship! What 2 do?
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She's either saying that to get rid of you in a nice way or she's telling the truth.\nIf she's telling the truth then you will need to make that decision on your own!
403324
I think you should let her think about who she really wants. if she wants the ex who is an asshole then let her. Let her miss out on your good quality and you can find someone else that wants to be in a relationship. Don't still around with someone who is going to make a decision that is half hearted a girl like that is just pulling your stings. It seems like that two months was nothing to her. i think she already knew that she loved her ex and the she wanted someone to just keep her mind off of him.
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Go for the one you want.  Sometimes you have to hurt in this life, there's no way around it.  Or, make the true move of love and give them both away at her expense and be an independent girl.  They say we should make everybody happy, but it seems more logical to start with ourselves, doesn't it?  If you can't be happy by making your own friends happy, perhaps you should get new friends.
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i agree, i dont think u really want to have them in your life anymore...find someone else that you will love even more than her! your best friend is going out with a girl you love. a true friend wouldnt do that...so think about it like that. you will find someone that is perfect for u so dont worry about it! \n<3
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Well it sounds to me as if you two are already going out, and if you really love her you should let her know how you feel, it was that way with my gf and i got the same advice, so far we are going steady and i coldn't be happy, so give it a shot, ask her out, i mean come on you dont want to be sitting there looking back and wondering what could have been do you?
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You did the right thing because if you hadn't been blunt with her she would still harbour hopes that you would change your mind and she would become obsessed.  At least this way she has to accept it and will eventually move on. She might be hurt initially but it's best for her in the long run. I don't think the softer aproach would have worked with this girl.x
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some say "if you love them let them go...if they come back it was meant to be" but you see, maybe her parents are "controlling" her...i had the same thing happen to me when i was younger..we both waited until i gradutated and i sat down and talked to my mom...i told her, you always told me to follow my heart, and not let anyone tell me what to do...i love ***** and he is my heart and you can either accept him or not it is your choice.....she and my husband are friends....i was with him for 6 years before we finally got married, i am married to him now and i still feel the love like we just began dating! maybe you should talk to her and find out how she feels!
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as a guilty party, i can answer that.\n\nwe trust you guys. you stand up for us and care for us and listen to us better than we're used to - other girls don't do that. you dance with us when we don't have a partner, give us advice and a shoulder to cry on. why wouldn't we love you? you're the one that's always there. some girls never fall into this trap, but it can be hard not to, especially if she's going through tough times with other friends.\n\nstill, you can't just cut her out for loving you. talk more about your personal life and her romantic life. that is, talk about your girlfriends/interests and who else she should like. set her up with a friend of yours you trust not to hurt her. believe me, it works.
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sometimes people are just better off as friends,relationships sometimes ruin a good friendship.she may be jealous of the fact if you find someone else then your friendship wont be as strong because you will have someone else in your life,doesnt mean she wants you as a partner herself.im in a similar situation myself,my boyfriend has a female best friend,she is in love with him.its difficult.but only time will tell what will happen.
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If your parents would never let you have anything to do with her, then why would you want to call her. You would only raise her hopes up, only to be let down. If you ARE going to take her back without your parents consent then yes, call her and tell her that you still love her.
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love trumps the parents ! its necessary for her to love you not her parents,  sure it would be nice ... but its not always possible !,  marry her treat her well, treat the parents with respect, and they may come around one day , especially when you have children, if not ,  they  might miss out on  spending as much time with their grandchildren as they would like...you don't have to live near them, or see them very often  if they never come around...its not an ideal relationship   if they never  like you , but would you be happier with her  or without her ??? also  you could try to find out why they don't like you thru your girlfriend and try to resolve the   problem / reasons, best wishes ! PS  don't  let them ruin your  love and your life !
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My advice... Don't put a girl between her family and you. If the girl really "loves" you like you say she does and you "love" her to then she will come around and see that you really do love her. Now don't completely back off. Still be friends but tell her that you don't want to be off on the bad side with her family so you just want to be friends. but make sure you tell her you love her.
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Two thoughts to consider:\n\nTwo people who like each other (and who aren't separated by extraordinary circumstances) inevitibly hook up.  That's just how love works.  If she wants you, then she'll do what she can to be with you, so don't worry about that.  Let her flirt, and flirt back if you want.\n\nAbout the issue with her parents...\n\nIf she's truly an adult (or ready to be an adult), then she will do what she wants and not just what her parents want.  Letting her parents dictate her love life *would* be a sign of immaturity and lack of independence.\n\nWhat do I think you should do?\n\nDon't even think about what her parents want until you know what she wants.
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love will find a way.  for now, you might have to break up, but eventually her parents won't be there and you will be free to make your own decisions with each other.\n\nif you love something, let it go.  if it's meant to be, it will return.
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Well dear, the English language, although among the richest, is still poor to express certain issues. \nLove! Is Love a feeling or a property of a person? I think the second! Thus, if you are a person who love, then you love and you love everyone and everything! That is great! Congratulations!\nNow, since you love, you love your friends, also, regardless of their customs, attractions, wills, etc. What you are asking in if you should do what you do not like, am I right? \nIn the case you do not like something, you do not do this, because your closest and best friend is yourself! Yourself will never turn you down, or at least more than you will do to her!\nALso, we have many friends who either drink a lot, or smoke or take drags, ..., we get with them and try to influence them to soemthing we consider better! Others are doing thing we consider them fine, although those activities are not our style! Etc. We get together with them. We enjoy what we can communicate each other! Same way with your friend! You remain friends, but you should do what you really want! If you cchange, your friends will not like you any more, you will be done aanother person! If they like the new you and the new you is less good that the previous, run away, those might not be good friends, might not even be any kind of friends!\nNow, if she would bring another boyfriend, what would you think? How would you react?\nIt all depends on how you feel, what kind of girlfriend she is, what you want out of this relation, ...\nI might enjoy both of them and look around for another relation!!!!
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hi there, this must be a huge dilemma you're facing. i have experienced this before, i'm 19 and probably you would think that i'm too young to comment or give you advice on this but this would be my sincere reply to your question. firstly, is this a mutual feeling? does she love you to the extent as you love her? you mentioned that she loves you as a friend, have you confronted her and made your feelings towards her known? it would be best if you know how she really feels then you can decide on what to do next. if she loves you, and you love her too, and both of you are happy with each other's company- why let go when you can grow and allow a beautiful relationship to blossom? but if she doesn't love you in a romantic way, it is definitely advisable that you let go before it's too late. allow yourself to meet new people and give your chance and someone out there a chance too. it will take more than a short period of time to get over her and resume to the "just friends" status but it will do you good. if she's unsure, give her time to think about it. i hope what i said made sense, there's too much to speak on this. i hope that all will go well and you're able to come up with a solution. do not let this issue put you down, alrite? there are many other beautiful individuals out there waiting to be discovered. and i'm sure that she is also a special person.
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Well do you care for this girl?  Do you have strong feelings for this girl, or is she just a dish that you want for a nigth stand or every once a while.. Or do you want a relationship of friendship with her?  It is up to you of how far in a relationship that you want in your own life with her.