I have went out with a few girls and ive done things.i dont regrret it but my mom knows and my family has alot of gay friends and they except them!But they act totally different towards me????and honestly ive been madly in love with a girl b4...and i was happy?is that wrong?
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Well, all I can say , is what does your heart tell you. It sounds like you are confused. You have to think about everything, rationalize a little bit, think about the pros and cons and why it may be right or why it may be wrong, then YOU Decide. \n\nI have my opinions about that. I don't agree with it, but that is me. I would never turn away from someone who is gay, it's not my business and it is certainly not my place to judge someone. \n\nIt's your choice , do you feel like it's wrong? remember everyone has their opinion. ;)
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It's a little difficult to tell just from your description, but from first instinct, I would say no, she's probably not a lesbian. Girls like to have physical intimacy with their friends, not in a sexual way, just to feel close with someone who supports them and who they love, again, in a friend way. I know it may seem odd to you because guys typically feel weird being too close, but think about the way you feel about your friends or teamates. You know you can depend on them to help you out, right? And that if you're in trouble, they'll have your back. And even if you don't need help, they'll be there every day just to be your friends. You probly punch each other around or hit each others fists when you meet up or whatever. Girls are just different. If you're picking up a vibe from other things, well, you may want to talk to her about it. She may just be experimenting, in a very small way. A lot of girls do, especially high school and college. It doesn't necessarily mean they are gay. In your girlfriend's case, it's probably nothing to worry about. It doesn't even sound like experimenting. I'd let it go.
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my family has learned to accept me for me. I think I knew I was gay when I was 22 and had strong feelings for a close friend. after he came onto me. he was the first guy I was with, at first I didn't want to be gay so I fought it and dated women. for about 4 years I did that and thought about men and being gay, I hated myself for doing that. after my girlfriend broke up with me last august, I started dating men, and for the first time i was happy with myself 100 percent.  I came out 6 months ago and I feel like myself for thefirst time.
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I know how you feel and its not as bad as you might think it is.\nActually the others dont really care much and the only one who would care is the girl that would be your first hit - and I wouldnt even tell her. Because its no one elses business actually.\n\nIf you are worried about people thinking you are gay- well just occasionally mention some "hot" chick you seen crossing the street, or how you got drunk and lost your wallet in a strip joint.\n\nJust dont take it too serious - it really doesnt matter :)
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Dont listen to the people trying to say your not Gay or Bisexual, because you might be, only you can know. Yes @ 13 you are going through puburty(sp?) and will experiment. But only you know if you are or are not. If she wants to kiss you to, I say go for it. But as with any friend a relationship can possibly mess it up. \n\nThere is nothing wrong with you, you are normal. Dont ever let someone try to make you bad or that you are wrong for feeling the way you do. Be careful with who you tell because some people are not open and bad things can happen, because people are so close minded.\n\np.s- I am 22 years old and have gone through the same thing you are. So I know from personal experience and I am a Bisexual adult, I always knew ever since I was little. It took me some time to accept myself for who I am.
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Its just who you are. It probably has something to do with how you where raised. My mom was all overprotective and never had a bf or husband. I'm bi.
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why doesnt your mom like this guy and his family? most likely she looking out for you. i know its how to see or understand that at time but its true. i had dated this one person once and my mom did like her b/c she was bi and she said keep on talk about how it couldnt work out b/c she woould want somting that i couldnt give her...while to make a long story short she was right. you family are always going to protect you from getting hurt by others.
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I'm guessing that you live at home and are early teens..like you say someone is gonna get hurt but one way to ease the hurt is explain to your mom that you have these feelings for other girls and it aint gonna go away by her stopping you going with her and keeping you in the closet so to speak,you are gay and there is nothing wrong with that..ask her to compromise with you in that you wont flaunt your sexuallity where it might embarass your mom just as long as you can keep your friendship with your girlfriend...here is a little poem for you...\n\nIt took so long for me to say,\nlifes to short to hide away,\ni looked around and now i see,\ni am the only judge of me,\nit's now i say with my pride aloud,\ni am happy i am gay and i am proud.
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I didn't know I was gay but knew that I was different when I was as young as 6 years old.I just seemed to develop differently then the boys around me.While I did like some sports and some "boy" stuff, I also liked hanging around with the girls and doing girl stuff.As I got older I knew that I was definitely different because I had strong attractions to men and none to women.I think I was around 13 when I realized that the reason I was so different was because I was gay.But even then I thought it was something I could "fix" and even tried to "fix" it.By the time I was 16 and still could not "fix" my sexuality, I accepted who I was.Even though it meant a life of hardships and family disappointments, I came to accept who I was.It is to bad so many of my family members, including my own mother, could not accept who I was and went as far as disowning me and never having anything to do with me.
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I'm an older girl.....34....but am VERY curious about how teens deal with being gay/lesbian. I didn't come out until 2 yrs ago and didn't have to go through all the hard stuff as a kid/teen. How do you handle the dating scene? I can't imagine it. I'd have been scared to death to ask someone out for fear they'd 1) reject me and then 2) cause me no end of hell in school for it. Would love to know your thoughts on this! Send me a message if you'd like to share!     :- )
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Welcom to the wonderful world!\n\nDont worry u are normal and fine - we are all intrigured by homosexuality but few of us admit to it....
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I can't claim to know anything about your problem, I'm a straight female.  But it just broke my heart to read your question.  This must be so difficult for you.  I don't know what to tell you to do, maybe you should try to wait for the right person to come along before you say anything, at least then you would have some kind of support.  I can't speak for your parents, of course, but if my child came to me and told me he's gay, I would be loving and supportive, a parent always loves their children, no matter what, at least that's the way I feel about my child.  I just wanted you to know I feel for you and wish you the best! :)
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I agree! If your friends are making fun of you then they aren't true friends! I have had sexual identity issues myself in the past. It took me years to become comfortable with the fact that I like women as well as men and also become open about it. I try to surround myself with positive influences; people who will love me for me. People who will accept and support me no matter what! If they don't like my lifestyle they can f*** off. Why would I want to put myself in a situation that is harmful to my emotional health? Neither should you! Talk to your friends and tell them how their words make you feel! If they still make fun of you then you should find new friends ASAP. Try going to your local university and see if they have any trans-sexual support groups. Also try searching on-line for websites that support alternative lifestyles. I know what it's like and I know how important it is to surround yourself with good friends! You might also want to becareful who you choose to come out to. I don't necessarily blast out to the world about my sexual identity (although i just did ;=) ) but if I think someone is going to become my friend they should also know the truth. \n\nYou might want to try these sites to start:\n\nhttp://thelovelinks.com/8_Alternative_dating_sites.shtml\n\nhttp://www.mygaypartner.com/\n\nhttp://groups.yahoo.com/group/tgusarights/
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My son came out to me when he was 17.....I had known he was gay long before that though, probably even before he did.  Your parents will love you regardless.  Even my parents, who used to say things like "All gays should be shot", have now changed their views radically and say "to each their own".  Don't be afraid, parents just want you to be happy, no matter what.
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I am out to my friends and family.  I did not come out until I was 23...a few years ago and it lifted such tremendous weight off my shoulders.  I cried to my Mom and told her that my "friend" was more than that and I was tired of hiding my feelings.  I actually feel free now.  No more trying to have a girlfriend to look "normal" in front of my parents.  No more calling my boyfriend a "friend".  No more hiding from people when I want to hug the person I love.  No more lies. Period.\n\nOne thing I did learn is that you cannot rush it to come out.  Your time will come. Just be yourself.  You may have to cover up things you really do not want to, but be cautious of who you confide in and expect some people to shun you and not want anything to do with you.  But don't sweat it. Your real friends will be accepting and it won't eve be an issue.  Being gay shouldn't be the topic of every discussion...it's just an extension of you are.  You happen to like someone of the same sex. People just need to accept that.\n\nYour life will change, but for the better.  You do not want to go through life hiding and faking.  That is more difficult than just coming out an dealing with people who dislike you for being gay.  It makes it easier for you to know who can be your friend when they know the real you.  And, coming out is a journey.  You do not just come out and blabber it away to everyone.  If someone asks...tell them the truth. But, if they don't..it's none of their business.  The time will come when you need to tell them if necessary.\n\nIt's up to "us" to educate people and let them know that we are just as normal as they are.  Who we sleep with has nothing to do with our pesonality and our capablilities of being successful in life.  \n\nSo, again, don't spend to much time thinking of when you should come out.  Your time will come.  If it's now...then do it.  But be ready for good and bad.\n\nUltimately, you will find happiness in yourself and the people that love you will see that.
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Yes, most people question their sexuality at one time or another. I myself have tried experimenting with guys a few times. I came to the conclusion that it is not for me, no harm, no foul. Don't come off as though you "love" her, jumping in with feelings like that will result in pain if it ends. Just get to know her for now. you'll find out if oyur gay or not eventually.
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To be honest (i'm straight) i'm not anymore interested in the lifestyle of my gay friends than i am of the straight ones!  I mean i'll ask them how they are or what they have done over the weekend but nothing i don't ask any one else!!  I think some straight people either: a)secretly wonder if they are missing out on something; either sexually or with the lifestyle/social scene OR b)-and i know lots of people like this-are pathalogically nosey!  They have to ask you questions about anything and absoloutely EVERYTHING!  Its just the way some people are; they cannot function happily without feelin' as if they are included in everything!!!  Don't some people just DO your head in!!!!