I'm getting married and am a little sketchy on who pays for what. I'm wondering who pays for the rehearsal dinner, the ceremony, the reception. Also do the bridesmaids pay for the own dresses? We would have no problem paying for the wedding because we feel its our day, our choice so we should pay. I know years ago the brides parents were suppose to pay for the wedding and the grooms parents pay for the rehearsal dinner. Can anyone help me?
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It sounds like you have a good idea. It is up to you and how much you can afford and what other people will pitch in.  Typically the brides family pays for the wedding ceremony/reception and the grooms family pays for the rehearsal dinner.  The dresses are paid for by the bridesmaids.  But you can do whatever works best for you and what your family wants to pay for.  But the more they pay for the more they will want a say in things.\n\nHere is a traditional list http://www.usabride.com/wedplan/a_whopays.html\n\nHere is one you make on your own (very good)\nhttp://www.weddingdetails.com/planning/qt_budget.cfm?\nprint=yes
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Here's my best guess:\n\nThey wanted to help out you and your fiance. They wanted to give him a great wedding and they probably thought they could, until the sister got engaged. Because they are obligated to pay for her wedding now, they probably can't affored to pay for both. \n\nThey are going to pay for the rehearsal dinner, I guarentee that because ettiquette says they should and they will. You need to have your fiance talk to his parents and find out the reason behind the broken promise.\n\nAgain, my  best guess is that sister's wedding threw a monkey in their pocket book and they don't know how to tell you they can't afford to take on your wedding too -- your parents should be doing that afterall, and I'm guessing that's what they expect.
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the bride does it and is usually escorted by someone (maid of honor)...i don't think the mom and bride should do this together since the bride has already been "given away" (although it's a nice thing to do)...the bride and groom going together is very nice and symbolic, but i think this part of the ceremony is meant for the future wife and mother to take a moment and pray to the Virgin Mary for guidance, etc.
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Everyone in a wedding is responsible for their own attire.  It would be nice if you didn't expect the groomsmen to spend $200+.  Since the kilts are $50 more than the tux maybe you could pay the difference if you really want the groomsmen to wear them.  Has anyone talked to the guys, are they willing to wear kilts?  $100 for a bridesmaid dress is really reasonable.  I got married 12+ years ago and the dresses cost $135.  If you do contribute to the cost of the wedding party clothes, I would make the thank you gifts inexpensive.  Good Luck.
358884
The Bride gets to pick the color and style but the individual bridsemaids pay for their own dresses, shoes whatever else is necessary. The bride should have a nice gift for each member of her party but she does not pay for their attire.
221012
Hold the wedding/reception at a local park. Not sure what Maymont or or others charge in the area. Check with the park & rec departments of each county/city.
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The people in each graduating class do it. Usually you get a committee together. Your school does not have any responsibility for you once they release you into the world.\n\nThere are companies that will do it. They charge a fee, usually included in the price of dinner and the memory book. The last quote I got was $75 - $85 per person for a 3-course meal with dancing to a DJ afterwards.\n\nYour school will be busy educating the students who were behind you. They will not have the time, energy or funds to organize reunions.\n\nFinding everyone is usually the hard part; women are especially difficult, as they change their name when they get married. Out of 500 people who graduated with me 40 years ago, we have valid addresses for 200 - 250, and we know 43 have died.\n\nThe 5th, 10th and 15th are usually not very well attended. The 20th, 40th and 50th are the big ones.\n\nColleges sometimes arrange tables or booths or a cordinator for all classes for Homecoming weekend, but they get a signifigant amount of money from alumns, and it is in their interest to keep school spirit alive.
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I had exactly the same problem. A 'friend' of mine got married and I was her bridesmaid (she was the bride from hell). She really is the rudest person I have ever met. \n\nWhen I got engaged I was really stressing over having her at the wedding and I certainly did not want her at the wedding. I started to lessen the amount of contact that I had with her (not returning all her phone calls etc). In the end, she confronted me and I was honest and told her that I did not find her behaviour acceptable and that since I was worried that she would be rude to people, I was not able to invite her to the wedding.\n\nShe was upset and has not spoken to me since. But, I have to admit it was one of the best things that I have ever done. I did not realise how much she upset and stressed me. The wedding plans were easy, the wedding was relaxed and I do not have to deal with her anymore.\n\nSo, although it will be hard - she needs to know and I think you will feel better afterwards too!\n\nPS Congratulations on your wedding!
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The bride is to puchase for her Attedants - Bridesmaids, Maid of Honor, Guestbook Attendant, Gift table Attendant, Flower Girl. For her mother and father. For the Groom's mother and father(groom and bride together), and for the groom.\n\nThe groom has to purchase gifts for his Attendants- Groomsman, Bestman, Ringbearer, Paige, $100 dollar donation to pastor or officiant, both sets of parents, and the bride.\n\nGrandparents aren't usually included, but that would be a nice jesture. Just think of everyone that is involved in the actual wedding ceremony and there is your answer. Also, if you have a wedding planner or coordinator - I'm sure they would appreciate a small gift......Think of your wedding like a weird christmas.........good luck!!!
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There are a number of ways to do this...\n\nFirst, Immediately before the actual procession begins the grandparents & parents of the couple are seated. Groom's grandparents first then brides, then the grooms mother and father, then Bride's mother and father. The Bride's mother should be the last one seen before the actual procession begins.\n\nProcession begins:\nYour bridesmaid(s) (generally youngest to oldest) walk (alone or with a groomsman escort) to the front and line up to the left side of the officiant/altar, if accompanied by groomsmen then seperate at altar and groomsmen go to the right (next to the waiting groom). If they are to walk alone then the groomsmen should already be at the front to the right of the groom.\n\nAfter the bridesmaid(s) comes the Maid/Matron of Honor (may or may not be accompanied by the Best Man)\n\nThen the ring bearer\n\nFollowed by the Flower Girl\n\nThen the music changes to the chosen song for the bridal march and the Bride begins her walk.\n\nThat pretty much covers the Procession.\n\nThe Recession is the same but in reverse.... with the exception that the groomsmen DO walk with the bridesmaids. Also, the ring bearer and the flower girl walk together (if they can get along... if they cant, it is acceptable to let them walk seperately)\n\n\nIf you need further help, feel free to email me and I will assist you the best I can.
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Unfortunately it seems as though your friend didn't do much research before choosing her planner. I am a wedding planner and depending what was in the contract, the wedding planner might not be in the wrong. Wrapping wedding favors, printing out programs and all other extra duties are supposed to be done by the bridesmaids, or any other family members who have agreed to help...unless otherwise stated in the contract. The wedding planner, I promise, had to do much more than the three of you...even though it seems like you haven't slept and are getting sick of things, you agreed to help once you accepted your duty in the bridal party.
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The price for the reception is very good. Depending on your area there maybe other places that will offer a competitive rate. If you have the money perhaps you should hire a wedding planner. They will have connections to get the best results for your budget. Also when you stress out they will be there to calm your nerves and reassure you that everything is going okay.  Sometimes your church or the reception place will have someone that can help if you can not afford a wedding planner. Best of luck.
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wow...that sounds really beautiful and I hope it comes true for u. As for me, my fiance and I are paying for our own things. We are having a nice wedding (with a wedding dress and tuxs). for the reception it is going to be one with  hay...music...liquior and a bbq. it is us. We arent the whole fancy stuff. Like a country barn dance like u may see in some movies.  It looks great in my head so I pray it looks good out of it.  2 months to go.
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I did everything for my wedding myself, and we were also on a budget.  I chose red as the color for the bridesmaid dresses...I also had a little red on my white dress, and I carried red roses.  The bridesmaids carried white calla lillies.  All the coursages and boutineers were red roses w/ white ribbons, when applicable.  All those flowers were down by Thrifty Florist and cost $290.00(USD) - (Bridal bouquet, 3 bridesmaids bouquets, 5 boutineers, 6 coursages) \n\nFor the ceremony/reception we did the flowers ourselves, I had red rose petals on the cake, and around the centerpieces, and along the edge of the head table.  The centerpieces were glass bowls with water and white floating candles.  I got the bowls at Wal-Mart, and the candles at candlesjustonline.com  I got the roses at Costco for $14/dozen.  I also made the toss bouquet out of red roses from Costco.  I got some artifical fall leaves from Wal-Mart and used those to decorate the arch we used in the ceremony, we also put them on the tables.  We had about 115 guests.  You can check out some pictures from the wedding/reception at my website http://stardustsweetee.tripod.com.  The fabric that's on the arch and the head table I got at Hancock Fabrics for about $10 total.  \n\nI tested out how I wanted the centerpieces to look before I bought 15 of the bowls and a bunch of candles.  I got one bowl and small package of floating candles, one little sprig of artifical leaves, and used my coffee table (even though it's square).  I set them out in different ways until I liked it...I asked his opinion, but of course, he didn't have one...\n\nWe made the chocolates that we gave to guests...Went to a cake decorating store and bought a brick (literally!) of chocolate, molds shaped like leaves, and some flavoring.  Melted the chocolate down, added flavor to the colored chocolate and poured it into the molds, let it set, and then filled the boxes I got at Weddingchannel.com (in the wedding shop) for $25/fifty boxes, the personalization was free, and tied a little red ribbon on the box.  Got the ribbon at Hancock Fabrics for 75 cents a spool.\n\nPlease feel free to email me with any questions/specifics, I'd love to help you!\nStarDustSweetee@yahoo.com
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I actually experienced this myself.  When my hubby & I wanted to go away to get married (inviting close family of course), everyone was cool with it but my mother and his father said he wouldn't pay to go.  After a few months of stress, I GAVE IN and had a bigger wedding here that everyone convienced me I would never forgive myself for not having....IT ENDED UP BEING THE MOST STRESSFUL EXPERIENCE OF MY LIFE!  Everyone had some sort of problem with something we were doing/not doing & we were paying for it!  I about snapped.  The first thing my hubby told me on the plane to our honeymoon was "You were RIGHT, we should have gone away!" We ended up not talking to anyone for about a month after we got back.  I mean we would say hi and all, but we weren't going out of our way to call...sort of a cooling off period! Do yourself a favor....follow what YOUR heart says.  Its amazing how such a wonderful event brings out the worst in everyone.  People can be so selfish!  GL to you and Best Wishes!  My vote is for an elopement! ;-)
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The bride can have the wedding wherever she wants.  It's her wedding.  Maybe the groom has a special reason for wanting it there.  Maybe it is significant because that's where their relationship really blossomed.  When you let your daughter be the flower-girl you should have been prepared for the cost.  You have no right to complain  because it's not your wedding.\n\nIf you simply can't afford it you might talk to the bride and delicately explain your situation.  She may offer to help or let you off the hook.
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Your wedding reception is the same day as mine!  I say take the gifts and send them a thank you.  What would be the alternative?  To hand it right back to them and tell them again that you would prefer no presents?  A lot of couples keep the ceremony itself to immediate family only and then invite the rest of the guest to join in the celebration with them.  Gifts are not for the ceremony alone, they are for the unity of the two.  They are for the celebration in general.  Also, many times when the couple expresses the "no gift" preference, it can also be read as "we prefer money."  It's your wedding!  Open a gift or two!  It may even be something the two of you could really use.