i would like to know the pros and cons of interracial dating, marriage, etc.. and also people's personal experiences or opinions on this topic.
121773
My son is biracial... I'm Italian, and his father is black.\n\nAs far as the issues we had as an interracial couple, we didn't really have any... our roommates were another interracial couple (black girl, white guy) and we found that when we'd go out together, people would automatically pair us up according to race.. we kept having to correct people! But once we corrected them, people were kind and not judgmental in the slightest.\n\nWhen I got pregnant, my straight-from-Italy grandparents were concerned at first because they thought our child would encounter a lot of prejudice, but once they saw that American culture has become more open-minded about interracial couples and children, they were pleased and excited (and everyone agrees that my son is absolutely adorable)\n\nI do run into the occasional (typically older) person that gives me odd, sidelong looks when I'm out with my son, but on the whole, I haven't encountered much weirdness... and this is Minnesota, home of the bland and mostly Caucasian!
622809
A personal observation: I have notes more so lately than ever that there a quite a few Black women out there with men not of the black race. Interracial dating is happing at both the high class and lower class levels, of black women. So I think that as black women we are “expanding our horizons” but unlike some others we are not forgetting our “past view.”
115991
I've been with my husband for over 22 years, we've been married for a bit over 18 years. We met our Sophomore year of high school. We have 3 lovely children and a great relationship. I am white, he is black.\n\nFortunately for us, we have no encountered a lot of problems. But I know that the problems are out there, they are just more masked now. We've gotten the disgusting looks, we've heard "under the breath" comments but they don't bother me much. We are content in our skins even if they aren't the same color.\n\nThe only thing that bothers me and it's not a racial thing, even if it may sound like one, is when women get involved with someone of a different race (and this applies to men too) simply because they feel it's a trend. I speak of this because I went to school with several girls who thought it was "neat to mess with a black guy". Right there, you know it's just not something serious. Why would you have to make the distinction of "black guy" (insert any other race in that phrase) you wouldn't say you think it's "neat to mess with a white guy", right? \n\nI feel that if you are interested in someone, go for it. Make the most of your relationship, despite the stares and comments. Keep your chin up and be proud of who you are, of what your relationship is and forget what others think. Good luck.
505879
Even if I were surprised, that they were a different race, I would still invite them in and treat them with the upmost respect. It's kind of hard for me answer this question in an honest way, because i'm in a interracial relationship (marriage) myself, so quite naturally, that's the reason, I feel the way I do, when it comes to interracial relationships. If a person told me that they don't believe in interracial relationships, I would not be offended, because that is your right, to feel the way, that you do. I would have more respect for a person, because of their honesty. It's wrong to tell a person that you're ok with something and then the first chance you get, you go talk to someone else about how awful you think it is.
444093
While I don't like the idea of mixing the races, I have known some nice couples who were in mixed marriages.  We are living in the 21st century and things are changing.  Most my black friends don't want any white woman dating their men.  Most my white friends don't want to date black men.  However, in our extended family, there is a white man married to a black woman.  We have had to accept it.  Either you accept the facts as they are or you will lose the person you love.
381912
I'm a Malay and currently having a  chinese girlfriend as well. Interacial relationships are very common now.The thing is, there are gonna be more obstacles than any relationships you can have with someone of your own race. Go for it man!!
163036
Inter-racial marriage can and does work. If you keep open lines of communication and discuss cultural differences before you marry. Love has nothing to do with race or culture and I think it's horrible that some parents try to pressure their children into limiting their choices by discouraging inter-racial relationships. My Uncle Ray and Aunt Mary are a perfect example of an inter-racial marriage that was successful, they had been married for 44 years when Uncle Ray passed away. They had a wonderful marriage and two beautiful daughters!
118994
ummm....few things r on good side. but whatever type marrige u do, best is to know eachother very well before marrige, everything... personal details, thinking, mind, habits, likes, dislikes, good n bad things.
588135
I don't know why either.  I am in an interracial marriage, and am very happy with it.  Sure, there are people who do not agree with our relationship, but we don't care.  "They don't pay our bills."\n\nIt astounds me at times how people will go out of their way to rationalize their prejudices.  They say, "Interracial relationships are wrong because society will be very hard on an interracial couple."  Society is hard on everybody.  If it's not about your race, it will be about something else.  Life is not fair, and fair is not equal.  But life is beautiful, and I agree with you-- all people are beautiful.
214392
I think it is good to see people commit to a marriage, it really doesn't matter what race or color. When it comes down to it, we all came from the same place-right? If you are really in live with your mate, then marriage is honorable. After all, you won't be spending the rest of your life with dear old mom and dad, so you've got to follow your heart on this issue.
523208
yes, I was married to a black man for 20 years.  I loved him very much but we caught hell from both sides white and black.  People were always trying to under-mind our relationship.  His family had problems with it, especially the females in his family.  My family at first was not happy, but when they saw him for who he was, we had a great relationship.  So, you can't force people to except your love of another person of any other color or country.  You both have to work on  your love of one another because there is always going to be hateful, mean people out there who are not going to be thrilled with your love and will say things and try to do things to end it.  People are just hateful.  But, I don't regret it.  My husband died and he was a good person and we endure a lot, but we loved each other and people saw that and pretty much had no issues with it.
656886
I have a inter-racial marriage.... I've dated guys of several different races.... race is just the color of the skin for the most part... each person is different in many ways.... in which the color of their skin does not matter and does not change anything.... I'm white if you look at me... but, when you take history of mankind in to account.... we are all mixed...
430619
Hmm, I'm a white guy married to a black woman, I'm polyamorous, Buddhist, and bisexual. I'd say I'm open to things outside my comfort zone.
352690
I think this is a good question to bring up, as it has raised many different responses from others (especially those who did not read the question well and answered assuming the questioner was being racist by asking the question).\n\nI personally do not think you are wrong for NOT wanting to date out of your race.  Many people remain committed to continuing the binds that hold their race true and that is something to be proud of, isn't it?  It used to be.  Every race was happy to continue to lengthen their ethnicity so as not to die out as a race.  In time, it changed and wasn't so important, given social awareness and immigration to other countries.  Then, we saw there was nothing wrong with integration.  So the same should be for those who do not wish to date/marry out of their race.  I can't say that the person needs to have a biased reason, such as "well, as long as you don't do it because you hate other races."  Because you're the one who has to live your life.\n\nYou are not a racist just because you choose to do this.  I have been called names just because I dated OUT of my race.  When I was dating, had men of my race shown interest, I'd happily have dated them, but they stereotyped me and avoided me based on that "probable" information.  I married OUT of my race simply because I fell in love with him - mentally, the "race" thing just didn't register, so I did what I wanted to do.\n\nI am proud of my race and you should be too, as this is our heritage, who we are (good, bad or indifferent).\n\nFor those who misunderstood you, please don't feel bad.  Perhaps they misinterpreted the question - this happens.  Know that you should not feel obligated to date out of your race.  Who are we to say that you should, that this would help lighten racism as we know it?  It's your decision/life, not ours.
629634
That is a real good point and makes alot of sence..since dating in your race is inter-racial lol
304044
If two people can find each other and connect, that's what really matters.  I always tell my kids, I'd rather have them be with someone of a different race they love that loves them and treats them well, than someone of the same race that doesn't.  Love doesn't know color.
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i'll tell you what, you want a straight up answer? i'll give you one! all PC crap aside. i have been all over this planet and seen some pretty awesome things and dated some very foreign women. in the end i have learned that there is two things that make this a little more difficult than dating some one of your own class and ethniticity. 1) parents- they make life difficult on every level of this because they are usually stuck in a oneminded track of how things ought to be. usualy because thats how they were brought up. but even thats a poor excuse for their offten tired and outdated principles. most times they just have a cankering of racial bigotry in their heads just like everyone else. they usually make things twice as difficult on their dughter/son as what things already are and in the end the child will usually claim allegiance to them and their wishes. it snot fair and you cant really do much about it. this is usually the biggest reason for "intermixed" relationships to fail. 2) each other- you to individuals are in most cases born of two completely different worlds. in each of these worlds there are certain rules and traditions that are generally expected to be followed without question (parents usually play a role in this also). often times you two individuals get these rules and traditions crossed or confused and guess what? problems occur! whats worse, is mosot times you blame eachother for not understanding the other or you tell eachother that the other refuses to listen or learn. the fact is, both times it all depends on the want or need to make it work. it can and often times does work out, but not without a whole lot of headache and elbow grease. you want to take this person on, good, but make damn well sure they want to take you on. there is a such thing as "slumming it", and you will find people out there that know they are going to end up with a person of their own race and class but are interested in playing with something a little differernt for a while. more often than not, and dont take this personal, but it is usually the female that gets this idea. guys dont usually particulary care too much about and too tell you the truth, the most bigoted and hard headed people i have ever met were mothers. they can play hell on their children if they dont approve of them spending their lives with some white boy, or this black girl of yours, blah,blah,blah..its hard man, you just got to have a pair and go for it in the end if its what you want. sometimes you cant control the outcome, but you can work to make the outcome better than it would be if you just left it for what it is on ts own. thats the truth in it from how i see things. everybody is different, thats how i look at things too. nothing ever exactly works out too plan. there wil always be a glitch or hitch somewhere, just make it work for you and your other instead of getting stuck on it. if your in that relationship than you should both know that it isnt interracial, its interpersonal. you two, together, or you two falling apart. thats the best i can explain it to you.