The problem is that she previously shagged two of my best friends in the past 6 months, and that she has a reputation for goign around. I dont want to seem like I'm getting the 'rests'; even if I can get with her. Yet I think about her often, I can't really help it. What to do?
134174
cute accent even in the writing.....well find a nicer looking girl that isnt sleeping with everyone.....you'll forget the other girl because if she is just going around in the circle do you really want your friends making fun of you....or you could just use her and sleep with her thats what american boys do alot of girls go around in the same group of friends....its quite funny thats why thank god i am out of that game...(i shouldn't say alot but alot of the ones that i know) It will eliminate the curiousity
538844
i know this has probably been said to you before but she probably sees you as a threat to her relationship with the other girl (believe me ive been there) shes probably just jealous so try to ignore it and if you cant talk to her about it and see of she relizes that shes even doing it
4822
I have the same problem budd :-(  \nTell her you like her but say that if she dosen't feel the same way you feel about her then just say you'd still like to be her friend.
353038
it happened to me. I never talked to my former friend who told me his feelings. This happens most of the times. I think the problem is the girl starts to feel uncomfortable with you. Of course she knows that you treat her more than a friend. I think you should try to treat her like the way you treat your friends, if you want your friendship. If you want her love, then court her. Never let your fears block your way. Besides, also give her time ti think and a little more space.. Good luck!
437126
She obviously already dissed you.  What you already know is enough to come to that conclusion.  From now on, do not regard her as close of a friend as you had thought or hoped.  Try talking and hanging with some other people, than just this group.  Also, look around for some other young hotties to set your eyes and energy on.  Give this friendship some space.  If it is a truly a good friendship it will still be there.  But, don't ask.  Let it be.  Do your own thing for a little bit.  I would not ask her anything because she knows your feelings for him.  If she needs to share with you something in regards with them then that is her job to come to you. She needs to be responsible for getting that out on the table with you.  Just be like whatever. If she cares about you and is close as you say, she will know to say something to you.
73643
From everything you said it sounds like you resisted her fairly well. What I don't understand is why you wanted to hang out with her in the first place. Did you want something to happen between the two of you? And if she is a so-called friend she wouldn't have been making the moves on you knowing you have a girlfriend. I would not tell your girlfriend about any of this, unless you are intending on breaking up with her. If in the future someone mentions it to her and she asks you, then you need to be honest with her about everything.
211664
why are you afraid to tell her that you dont like her behavior? I was in your situation when I was in collage and this girl was always chasing me! she wanted to be where I was because i was with my handsome and popular friends all the time (what could i do if they were my classmates!) anyway, one day I was just not in the mood to deal with her and I said: you know what, you have very good qualities but IT BOTHERS ME that you are with me because you want to hang out with my friends. Soooo.... stop being so obvious and let me have fun with them!  so, she got my point. she never spoke to me again (and my friends were happy for that too). it was sad because after all she was a good girl but A REAL PAIN IN THE BUTT!
199634
i have a feeling she suddenly is not seeing you in the "best friend" light anymore, but rather as something more, and doesnt know how to handle it and needs time/space to sort out her feelings. pressing her to talk about it when she is not ready would alienate her even more. she'll come around, just be patient. you hovering around does not help her think.
167322
I've seen it before so many times and I sympathize.  I personally would re-assert the boundaries of your friendship with her in a nice way, emphasizing how that kind of behaviour could jeapordize your friendship with her and that you'd hate to lose her as the great friend she is over something like that.  Best of luck.
56522
Honestly, do you really believe that she is your friend? If I were you, I would tell her how inconsiderate she is for actually dating someone she *KNEW* I had the hots for. I could see if she *didn't* kno, but she *DID*! That's so foul and disrespectful, and truly, I would re-evaluate this friendship with her. She doesn't sound like much of a friend if you ask me! If you allow your "friends" to continue to disregard your feelings, you're going to have a hard life ahead. Friends *DON'T* do things such as that. Guard your heart, hon. God bless you!\n\nHope that helped!
31544
you can't stop thinking at her but you must do something else. follow my advice and will be pas this\nproblem. trying to find somebody else.Trying to consolate with idea :it's something human will be pass or " the man it's a man"or "follow the heart" or "pls :keep going ma man /it's my word in my contry/"(noroc)!
199012
I'd be nice but firm.  Tell her you enjoy her friendship and would like to continue it, but that the relationship is over and that you would like to meet other girls.  Maybe she doesn't realize she's doing this.  If she still has feelings for you, it's gonna hurt no matter how you say it, but eventually, if she's mature enough, she'll get over it and you can restart the friendship.  Good luck!
652858
get a new friend, she didnt value you as her friend and disrespected your friendship by sleeping with your ex, a true friend would have respected your feelings and not have done it....
215350
Well if she is your best friend (I'm assuming that is what b.f stands for), and she did that to you, knowing how you felt about him, then she obviously doesn't regard friendship like you do! The joke is on you unfortunately! I would suggests you redefine the quality of what a true friend is and is not! Of course your slowness to be to the point with this guy didn't help. Your friend did what you were hesitant to do and succeeded. You partially have yourself to blame. If this guy is a flirt, it is probably just as well she got him. Flirtation tends to lead to jealously and mistrust. You will see it unfold in front of your eyes, then you can thank your lucky stars that she got stuck with him!
539215
I say play hard to get and act like she isn't there for alittle while. And if that doesn't get her attention then I think you should forget about her.
156422
well, i guess it's normal, happened to me too. But u should listen to your heart. And I think u already know the answer: he seems a player, so he's not good for u. Besides, u're friend likes him and u don't want to hurt her. If u feel like it u can play hard to get with him for a while because it's soooo nice to have someone et u're feet, isn't it? But don't get involved if u don't feel like it.
85616
I had the same problem. my friend of 6 years kept getting really jealous over my friend of just 2 months. Every time she came close my friend would jump in and pull me away. Not only that she was very close knit. I mean when ever she introduced me to someone she would say "MY BEST FRIEND". It got a little annoying when she wanted me to do the same. It got really bad when she started to make fun of my other friend. That's when I told her, hey listen, you have been my best friend so all these years. And if you think that she is going to steal me away from you, then you must not trust me enough, do you really think i am going to drop you after so many years together? I told her that if i wanted to stop being her friend I would have stopped, but I'm still here. I think you should just tell it to her straight, and if she doesn't believe you, that's her fault.