we've been in love long enough to know that we do want each other,but it seems that we've talked about everything,we see each other alot,and whenever we meet it's always the same thing,we sometimes make love just to stop thinking about what to talk about.\n\nIf you know what I'm talking about ,please help me.
127138
Try new and exciting things together that neither of you have ever done before.  Any interest in sky diving?  Bungy jumping?  Not that advnturous?  Join a gym together and work out together.  Play board games FOR SEX BETS!  If u win u get whatever u want and if he wins he gets what he wants.  Makes it much more interesting!  Pick something u have ALWAYS wanted to do and then just have him join you!  Or ask him if theres something he has always wanted to do but hasnt and do that with him!!!!!  Good luck to u!
50516
Yes, I have been in love.  What I did to tell him was to sew shirts for him, play chef's assistant when he wanted to cook, and cook when he did not want to, wash his clothes . . . but you get the idea.  When you love someone, actions speak way louder than words.  Anyone can say "I love you" and not mean it, maybe not even know what love is.  But doing nice things for him, things HE considers nice, will show him.  I used to read to Steve, books he had chosen for me to read, one chapter at a time.  Certainly he could read for himself, but he liked this little "ritual" of togetherness.  The important thing is to do what he wants you to do, not those things you want to do which force your tastes on him or try to change him.  If he wants you to do something you find immoral or distasteful, you can tell him that.  But if you can do it, and you know how to do it, love means you will want to do it.  And no, I'm not particularly talking about sex, although that is undoubtedly included in what he wants you to do!
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Well, it sounds like you're in love. Same sexes can be in love too. And I don't see anything wrong with it, no matter what anyone says on here. I mean other ppl will look at you funny, but sCrEw them. They can get over it. It ain't their problem. If anyone on here says anything bad about it, they must be interested in what you said or they wouldn't have even answered. Either way, maybe it will get tougher or harder as time goes by. Because it's different now. It's not the same as it use to be. He might get a little bossy or controlling or something, but talk to him about it. And if something happens, like he changes his mind about everything, he may feel a little bit awkward around you. It's your decision. But you know how stuff like that goes, similar to a relationship--if something goes wrong everything goes wrong. You just have to do what you can to fix it.\nBut maybe I'm a little wrong. I don't really know what kind of relationship or friendship that ya'll have.
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It's infatuation. HOWEVER, infatuation is just the first step towards love. In this stage you're in, you wanna be with them all the time. You can't stop thinking about them, etc, etc.\n\nAfter a few months of being in a relationship, this feeling wears down a bit. In 6 months to a year, if you still want to be with them, it's probably love.\n\nBut to keep the relationship moving in that direction, you have to create a strong base of MUTUAL honesty, trust, compromise, communication of thoughts/feelings, and respect.
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Just be frank! dont worry. once u try and speak out yourheart, nothing u wud loose. it's better to try then never. We're tlaking about the affairs of the heart. Just let it out. good luck and hope you both would be great couples :)
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I was married when I was 16 and he was 18.  That was 21 years ago.  We are even happier and more in love now than when we were married.  We are each others best friend and ALWAYS make time for the other no matter what.  Communication is definately a must. You can't expect the other to know what is on your mind.  Neither of you are mind readers. ALWAYS respect each other.  Our rule is whoever gets whatever whenever.  Sometimes you need to just spice things up.  It has worked well even with having five kids from 17 down to 4 year old twins!  To really make sure it will last forever...add God and it will!
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First, I think it's great that you care enough to ask and not just take the relationship for granted.\n\nNow, how to keep it alive.  Think back to the early days you were together.  Anything stand out from there that you don't do as much?  Whether it be an exciting date, time chatting, finding out new things about one another ... might try some of the old things.\n\nNext, is there anything you all have talked about wanting to do together?  DO IT.  I never really thought much about this, but it the past couple of weeks I have seen people make lists of 100 things they want to do in life, and on the "ellen" show one day, she took care of about 10 of the items.\n\nIt gives a sense of accomplishment to cross these things off and a sense of adventure in trying to create the list and then in planning to do them.\n\nIn fact, what am I doing sitting here at this keyboard, when I should be making out my own list!?! ;-{ )\n\nTake care and good luck!
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Your talking about being with this person for the rest of your life.You both need to get everything out in the open.Talk about what you want to do in the future,and what both your interests are.Ask them what do they like and want and work towards those things together.Some things they want and like,you may not want or like,but if you too really love each other you will adjust and work it out.Compromising is a key ingredient in marriage.
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it sound a little like infatuation. yet, it may someday lead to love, if that's what you both are looking for. step back and try to notice his behavior and body language towards you.
625678
My husband and I talk a lot during. Sometimes it's just a matter of telling the other what we want at the moment and other times it can get a bit dirty...LOL...It just has to do with the moment and what we are feeling.
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It has not been long since you both move in. Let the relationship breath, has he show any of his true colors yet ? If not, you may want to see how living together going to be. Just slow down and take one step at a time. \nHave you and him talk about marriage already ? If so, maybe he not ready to pop the question yet. Or maybe he waiting till the right time, he could want to surpise ya. \nHope everything turns out for the good.
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For my honey and myself it is all about talking... sounds boring but we spend A LOT of time talking to each other (and that is one of the reasons we also spend alot of time still doing other things that are MORE FUN! ;) ). I think she is one of the smartest people in the world so it is an incredible turn on to have these great in depth conversations that challenge us both.\n\nOf course, the fact that she is the most beautiful woman in the world helps... ;) \n\nBut seriously, I think the fact that I respect her and that we challenge each other interlelecutually helps A LOT!\n\nThe other aspect of that is that a lot of the time we spend talking is done in our bed, and in our bedroom there is no TV. To us,  our bedroom is like a little escape from the world where we lay in bed (generally naked which also helps ;) and we talk for hours. That means that she is always my focus, and I am hers, when we are there.\n\nI think one problem is that people get too comfortable and then end up taking the other for granted; which we both try NOT to do specifically. We just make sure that no matter how busy we get that we try to spend a little quality time every day...\n\nOne other thing is to DO THINGS together, it sounds stupid and like common sense but what people forget is that it is the things we do that make the memories that are important and keeps things interesting we go camping and backpacking together as well as take a lot of road trips). Experiencing new things or new places together also helps to solidify relationships and, as mentioned, helps keep life interesting, which in turn keeps everything else interesting... ;)\n\nGood luck to you both, it is always good to hear about good stable relationships... does my gay heart good! :)
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this is normal, good thing that you know you do still love each other because you will not always feel all lovey dovey with anyone no matter what. when i start feeling like this i try to remember all the times in the relationship when i did feel in love, think of all the great stuff that you have done together, think of all the times he's been there for you, and hey you guys are still dating, so there is more.  i don't know but someday you might want to get married and have a family eventually.  because you have been together that long, try to still go out together like you did when you were first dating.  it makes a huge difference.  talk about your early relationship with him so you can remember some of the hot stuff together.  relationships are alot more than sex.  focus on really being really good friends, too.  that's what worked for me.  hope it helps for you!!!!!  (:
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it sounds like you still love him have you tried talking to him about any of this. i think you should confess your love for him
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That sounds like the situation I'm in with a guy...except he is in Mexico. He says he loves me, but rarely calls me, etc. I think they might both be unsure about what exactly they want.\n\nHere is what I have decided: Let love take its course. Try to keep busy with your own life and see her when you can. Are you ever going to be able to live in the same city? That's a huge consideration...\n\nMaybe some people are just different in expressing their emotions than others. For instance, my guy said it was hard to believe that I loved him because I don't constantly say it. However, my actions show it. He is the opposite: he constantly says it, but sometimes his actions don't make me feel like it.\n\nI would suggest trying to come to some sort of an agreement on what you can both accept in the relationship, which will take bending on both sides.\n\nGood luck.
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SNAP!!!!!!\n\ndid the same thing with a guy i met on her too. stayed up all hours just chatting about stuff and listing old songs! \n\nok, here's what i think. when you meet someone you just 'click' with, it is easy to get carried away with yourself and be consumed with it all. thats not to say that there is not anything serious there. all i am saying is reality is often different to fantasy.\n\nme and the guy i'm still chatting too met a couple of weeks ago. he is a great guy but i think we both felt that reality was a little different. we still chat and i am due to see him again shortly.\n\nwhat we decided was to take things slowly, get to know eachother better as friends as see what develops from that. it's the most sensible option i think.
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Oh dear... My husband and I meet on yahoo chat... We both fell in love with each other, but were very busy with work and school... we were two stats away from each other... we didn't want to beak each-others hearts, so we decided to be friends... two years went by, and he ended up driving to meet me. It was suppose to only be for a week, but he ended up staying and moving in with me... \n\nYou are not being selfish. Long distant relationships are hard. A large part of being in love is the physical connection with each-other. It is only natural that you want to meet him, to hold his hand and to kiss him. His schooling is important to him, and it shows how much you care for him by understanding that.\n\nI say be friends... continue on with your life... if it is meant to be that you two are suppose to be more than friends one of you will end up with the opportunity to get on the plane so you two can meet.