We had been dating 1 1/2 years and he cheated on me while he was drunk. Broke up with me b/c he said he felt guilty. It has been over a year and he hasn't cheated on me since that i know of.
122056
Sorry Girl YES He WILL Cheat AGAIN!
421767
At a bar. We would go to the same club regularly and he was friends with a friend of a friend. We would hang out the bar almsot every weekend for about 6 months. It wasn't planned though. We just liked the same scene. He was dating other girls at the time, but had his eye on me and I was interested in something strictly casual, but never tried with him because he was cool and I thought we'd be 'just friends'. \n\nWell, one night he called me because he broke up with his girlfriend and wanted to come over and eat mushrooms. I had nothing else to do and thought he was cool, so I let him come over and we had a good time. Nothing happened that night, but about a week later I got extrodinarly wasted and we hooked up. It started out as a casual thing scratch that as a very casual thing and I had little intentions of it being serious, but we ended up falling in love and I settled down a little bit. \n\nThis was after he moved in because his 'rents kicked him out of their place and he was staying in his car. We were already sleeping together, so I said he could stay at my place for a few days and that few days turned to months and that casual time with a guy who was actually worthy of my friendship unlike my other casual boys turned into a serious relationship. We've been together for almost two years and plan on getting married in 2008. \n\nWhat makes us stay together? Well, our geniune love for eachother and partially our own narcissisms. We love ourselves and I'm his female counterpart and he's the male version of myself. Our similar interests and goals and problem solving techniques help as well as compatible senses of humour.\n\nThe story I tell my parents and family? We met through friends of friends at church.
70052
Cheating is NOT OK...the fact that he did that too you in the first place is soooo not cool. I'm surprised you didn't do away with him then! The thing is if you didn't do anything about it when it happened...he's probably thinkin sweet i'll do it again...unless he's really genuine. Just ask yourself...If he's hurt me this much this soon, whats to come in the future...? And what might come in the future is heartbreak...and you don't want that. If you break up with him now, you can do it on good terms, and possibly hold up a descent friendship!! Just pretect your heart...good luck!!!
235277
Trust is one of the most important things. If some cheated on me then I'd want to know.  Whether to continue with the relationship would depend on how you found out you were being cheated on. If he or she came to you, then you know this person has a conscience and you may be able to continue with the relationship eventually letting go of the hurt from their indiscretion. But if they never said anything and you found out another way I think it would be best to let go of that relationship because there will be serious trust issues. I personally don't do the whole getting back at my significant other thing. If you have forgiven him/her then it wouldn't be fair to keep bringing it up or punishing them for what they've done. So if it's something you can't get past. Let go.
315822
If you strongly believe he won't cheat on you again, then take him back. But, I hate it when girls cheat on me, and both of the girls who have cheated are no longer with me. I broke up with them as soon as I found out. If there is no trust in a relationship, then it won't work out.
479177
he has a guilty conscience, dump him, forget him and move on to someone more deserving of you. Once a cheater always a cheater
588441
wake up,he cheated on you so why have him back.chances are you will never fully trust him ever again.time to move on girl
225173
were they drunk? or on any type of drugs? if youve ben dating this guy for a while then he is being very immature it sounds like this relatonship needs to be reevaluated and you dont need any weird drama in your life over a guy if he cant tell you straight up whats bothering him thenn cut him loose this is a sign on what to look forward to if this relationship persists.
75571
You sound like your having break-up remorse. First of all could you forgive him for what he did if he did do it? Lets just say he did, do you love him enoughf to let it go? You have to have relationships with trust, trust is the most important part in a relationship. If there is no trust, there is no relationship. Also remember that there are alot of potential people out there. Everytime I broke up with a girl I dreaded it and wanted her back, then when I took her back, I really wish I didn't because all I thought about was why I broke up with her in the first place.
93025
My husband cheated on me shortly after we got together...but I did say he's my husband, right?  He swears up and down to never do it again, it's hard to forget, but I have forgiven him and am still, after 2 1/2 years trying to forget.  It's not easy, but I love him too, and don't want to let go.  He respects me for forgiving him, and since I gave him a second chance, he will be faithful to me.
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Yep. It's worse that he still sees her...how did you find out that he cheated? Did he admit it to you or did you find out yourself? It's awfully hard to trust someone even if it was someone before you that they cheated on. Often the cheater expects and awaits being cheated on and the cycle continues.
129557
I think he's going to end up cheating on you again.  He continues to lie, and obviously still has feelings for this other woman.  Knowing that you both have been unfaithful makes me think that there are some serious problems in your relationship that you just aren't willing to address or work out.  I know that being with someone for that long can make leaving them all that much harder, but you need to step away from the relationship.  Yes you were both wrong, but that doesn't mean he can't forgive you and stop holding your actions over you head.  Have you forgiven him?  There really is no trust in your relationship anymore and I just don't see a realtionship working out in the long run if the partners can't trust each other.  Hope this helps, good luck!
190813
Well I think you did the right think by breaking up with him. That takes a lot of courage. But now you need to stay strong and stick to that. He cheated on you and yea, he probably says he changed and won't do it ever again, but the truth is, you won't really be able to trust him again. You will always wonder in the back of your mind if he is cheating or if he will cheat again.\nIn the long run, you will just end up miserable. So yea, he wants you back, but too bad. His loss and he should have thought about that before cheating on you. \nDon't give in...Be strong.
503846
i kicked my ex out after taking to much of his controlling ways, lies and unreasonable behaviour in hope he would realise his mistakes, he acted differently for a few weeks, i took him back to discover one week after the split he jumped in bed with a nasty druggie who lived on the next street for two weeks +. we stayed together after that for almost a year but things were never the same, i wasn't turned on by him anymore as i saw him as 'dirty' which made me feel unclean. we have now permanently broke up and i can't wait to get a nice healthy sex life back on track with next man!
224772
Sorry angel,  You will never know if he will do it again, how did you find out the 1st time? I mean did he tell you or did you find out? was it 1 time or 100 times? If he cheated then he would lie about how many times he cheated. You are the only person that can determine if you can trust him again or not. You have to decide weather the relationship is worth the worrying or not worth it and find someone to be with that you can trust.  good luck  god bless
45875
well if you are going to take him back then you have to get over it. otherwise let him go. i cheated with a guy and we got back toghether and he treated me bad because of it instead of like loveing me and us chillin because i was faithful to him for a while and well guess what i did it again and we are now broke up. but you are not wronge to give him another chance. people do change and though it is not an excuse yall were both going through some pretty bad stuff so i mean he could really be sorry. but if he does it again which he may not then leave him unless you want to give him another chance (there is no such thing as to many chances but when you get tired of soemthing you area tired of it) so i hope if he does keep cheating you will leave cause youdeserve better but its really up to you but this could work out for yall and i hope it does. good luck and God bless.
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While it happened a year ago, it feels like recently since you only just found out. That he partially blamed you for his transgression is another red flag. You are obsessing because part of you wants to hang onto the relationship and you know that it is in trouble.\n\nWHat will telling him again accomplish? WHat do you think to gain? Do you hope he will console and comfort and reassure you? WIll that be enough for you? You say you want to be heard, that you want him to know that he broke your heart.\n\nHoney, you broke your own heart. What he did he did to himself and for himself. It has NOTHING to do with you, no matter what he says. The reason you hurt is you still want to be with him even though he has shown himself to be untrustworthy. You cannot control him and you now know you cannot trust him. He couldn't even take full responsibility for his actions. \n\nYou are afraid to lose the false image you had of him and are mad at him for being other than what you want. He was unfaithful, nothing can change that, not even your forgiveness.\n\nYou don't have to break up with him. If you start to act jealous, insecure and needy, he will break up with you. Be good to yoursel, be true to yourself and mend your heart, and know that you are precious.