My ex cheated on me, we have been broken up for a while. Now I am really attracted to a buddy of his. He is scared of being involved with this type of drama. But If we kept it secretively from everyone would it be a big deal? Im not a raunchy person at all, but for some reason this guy is a total turn on to me. Should I make the move?
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Well, if your ex cheated on you, then it shouldn't matter who you date. Even if it is his friend. Hard part about that, is you won't be able to hang out with him when he makes plans with your ex. So there will be a bit of drama more so between the guys, but I also think it's silly to keep things locked up. I hate hiding things, so I would tell the new guy that he should speak up. I dunno, it always sucks being in those kinds of situations. Good luck, I hope everything works out for you.
151121
It would be wrong for you two to hook up since you are both in relationships with other people.  Maybe you could just be friends with him as long as you don't have any lingering feelings for him.  If you do, then you should just leave it alone before someone gets hurt (whether it be emotionally or physically).
541540
!!!Well , you have a problem there!! I would in this particular situation most likely would somehow leave the (cheating) situation alone and let him now how it feels and that maybe he should think twice before making out with some girl he met that night. Also i would not go out with him because he sound like a slut , especially if he is making out with a girl he just met. I can give you advice but i can not  make the decision for you.\nTootles!!!
657174
well first off, i think anytime you get involved in relationships and committments there is a chance that someones feelings are going to get hurt. we never know fully what the intentions are of the other person. whether they are looking for a potential mate, sex only, out for revenge because they were cheated on, just companionship etc... what i can suggest is thorough complete communication. talk to him, ask him questions about everything even the HARD questions...once you do that, that will help you maybe to avoid potential heartache and disappointment based on what you learn about him...
85696
That's just a line you do not cross.  You should never, ever mess with your friends bf.  What comes around, goes around.  If you backstab your friends, who won't you backstab.  It's called respect.  Go ahead, get with him.  He seems like such a classy guy. You know, he cheats on your best friend with you.  I see why you are so attracted to him.  NOT!!! My sister's bf felt on my butt and I went straight and told my sister.  If you love someone, you wouldn't ever cross that line. I think he's the scum of the earth. Get with him, so he can do the same to you.  Who would want a man who has a gf?  Get your own.  Do you have low self esteem?  It really seems like it.  I am sorry but two things I teach my kids are morals and values.
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I'm an older woman and I think that there are more men who  cheat than there is men who don't cheat.   As for your guy,  the only thing he has in common with your 'ex' is he's a man.  He has a different look, smell, sense of humor, blood type, voice, brain, etc.  Right ?  Soooo, just because another guy cheated, doesn't mean that this one will. Each relationship is different.  In your mind, you think 'well if ----- didn't think much of me to cheat on me,  then I guess I'm not much, so everyone will cheat on me.' Don't allow yourself to think that way!
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Sounds like a set up darlin!Even im getting paranoid thinking about it....i would say...ask him if he was going out with his ex tonight...yes/no. If answer is no..and it happens again(a similar senario,with his ex) tell him to f off.\n\nIn a nut shell....TRUST your instinct..you will know my dear.
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I read your question and your answers.....no one attacked you. I was expecting to read some evil, vulgar things....but no.  There was one or two in which they were quite blunt with you, but all the others were quite sensitive and informative.\n\nBut, on this thing people are going to be jerks. Even to the most legit questions get a$$hole remarks. \n\nPersonally, I think you should have confirmed the rumor with him, before just dumping him. I mean, you've known the guy for  4 years, so you HAVE to know how is with women......right?\n\n To avoid that happening again is kind of an impossibilty. Because, most people put on such a facade in the beginning of a relationship.
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O.K. first of all, if your hung up about him sleeping with your "promiscuous" friend, and you can't put his past in the past.  Then you shouldn't go out with him.  You will end up only hurting yourself. 2nd, if you think you 2 can hook up, then don't let situations get in your way.  But, don't hide it from your friend.. You don't have to flaunt it in her face.  But sneaking around looses its glamor after a while.
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Sounds like there is a chance if man #2 is unattached.  He seems to have shown interest.  You did well not having sex with him from day one.  He may see you as a long-term prospect rather than a short-term fling girl.\n\nBut this has been dragging on for almost 1.5 years, and man #1 and #2 are friends.  Maybe it's too entwined a situation and you should look to a fresh new man for a relationship.  Man #2 hasn't made a move for you during that whole time.\n\nOn the other hand, maybe it's just your ex in the way.  Maybe man #2 doesn't want to step on #1's shoes.  That seems like a strong possibility.\n\nCan you try to get #2 alone again away from the ex?  It might be the only way you can see if there might be a chance.  It sounds like you two haven't been around each other much either.  He might be interested but needs to get to know you better.\n\nJust wondering as well why you're hanging with your ex so much.\n\nHope it works out for you.
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I think you might not want to because they might be the same and he just wants so booty..so i would check him out first....and i don't think you should worry about your ex because you caught him with another girl when you guys were still together!
440491
Wow that a messed up position, But you know what you have to do, Get that ex outta your head a cheater will never stop and to put yourslf throght that ..it really isnt worth it ...try and think what you missed about your ex and do it with your new guy ....STAY AWAY FROM HIM!! it cant be worth it...ow yeah thx for my answer too im gunna do just that and stay away from my ex....Just like you should be doing ....good advice you need to take it!
485560
You don't want your friend to fornicate with your ex, that's understandable, but you're no longer with him so they're gonna do whatever they want. It bothers you because either you're jealous, concerned because you don't want him messing with her heart (if he's the reason you guys broke up), annoyed that she's going for him even though she's well within her rights, or you still got feelings for him. Or maybe you're into your friend? Whatever, get over it, he's not your problem anymore, right?
618558
Sure why not, whore yourself around, get that good old slutty reputation out there.\n\nEx's are ex's for a reason remember that.
268850
Well, depending on whether you're still friends with your ex-bf. If he's someone you wouldn't like to hurt, I wouldn't touch his friend quite yet ^_-
549305
First off it sounds like HE hasn't done anything, it's seems like you're the one that needs to do something. It's hard to tell someone how you feel if you don't say anything at all. If the guy and your friend express interest in each other maybe it's just time to move on, no point in hurting a existing friendship over a possible "hookup". Plus if your friend and the guy go out and break up, you'll be right there on the rebound.
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If  your not  in  a relationship  then  your not  having an  affair ..   that  can  get ugly  i guess you cant help  how you feel .. I mean  if you  have feelings for this guy  maybe  u needa ask  yourself  who u   treasure  more as a  friend  him  or the girl ? cuz  once she finds  out   dont count  on being  any  friend  of hers .. i personally would never date any  guy  my friend has been with  or  whatever  but to  each  there    own .. I guess do  what  makes you  happy  .. your  all  adults   no  reason to  sneak  around  just  keep  it real thats really all  you  can do .. .. its sad when   kids are  involved  ..follow your heart  good  luck  to you   all