About two years ago, he knew of my feelings and back then, he quickly nipped it in the bud and told me that he just liked me as the very trusting friend I was. Thing is that we've kept that friendship as if that had never happened but recently I came to figure out that I harbored my feelings for him again and the thing is that somehow I think he feels the same way. I mean he dedicated a song that I truly think is loveydovey, at first I thought he was joking but he told me that he really meant it but when I asked him he would always evade the question and now the worst part of the situation is that he knows of my feelings once more but he hasn't said anything. Knowing him, he'd said something. It's been a little more than a week and we've had enough times alone for him to talk to me about it but he hasn't said anything. We've had our lovey moments but still...I know he's sort of dealing with his past demons so that's why I haven't nagged him about it. How do I get him to talk about it?
137525
So you lay your cards on tha table.Let him know first of all "No Pressure".Then you simply tell him your feelings once more and let him know bluntly that;Look I have loved you for all this time and I do not think I can keep waiting.Maybe he needs a push.Girl,tha truth is life is to short to put it on hold.If it comes down to it limit your feelings to just a kind caring friend.
677286
You have only talked to this guy once. More importantly, he has only talked to you once. There is no way you have feelings for this guy. There is also no way he has any for you. It sounds like an act of desparation to me. If you must continue to talk to this guy, take it VERRRRRRRRRY Slowly, and for god's sake, be careful!!
417321
If he's a really good friend, you should be able to tell him anything. You should tell him what your friends said, and ask him how he feels about it. Let him know, though, that you consider him as a good friend and that you don't want that to change if he does like you more than a friend. If he cares about you, he will understand and not pressure you to feel differently. Who knows, maybe he'll laugh at what your friends said! Just don't be afraid to talk to a good friend you trust about anything. Good luck!
80162
Let me tell you this. its all up to you. It's either he likes you back or he doesn't. I've been in your exact situation before. I'm female and I developed feelings for my best friend who's also a girl. one day, we were just chatting about normal stuff and i basically blurted out to her that i had feelings for her. she told me that what she felt for me was totally platonic and she didn't think of me any other way. Honestly, it killed me for a while. However, today, the relationship that the two of us have is even closer than the one we had before i told her. We didn't have any sort of awkwardness between the two of us. The only shitty thing is that I still feel for her and although I make it seem like I don't feel for her anymore, inside, I just wanna kiss her everytime she opens her mouth to speak. But I have to say that I was really lucky cuz its really rare that two people can overlook the fact that one person feels more for the other than usual. The funniest thing is that til today, my confession is still discussed between the two of us. Recently, I just asked her if it was the right thing to tell her about it in the first place. And, according to her, my confession saved our friendship. Cuz she had already suspected, but she was in denial about it, seeing that i was her best friend and all. But if i had not told her anything, she'd feel weird and eventually take a step back from the friendship.\n\nSo, whatever you do, just follow what your heart tells you to do. You could jokingly bring it up as a suggestion if you don't want to take the direct approach. See how he reacts, and if it's positive, just let it slip. Say that, you didn't really expect it to happen but it just did and you felt that you needed to let him know.\n\nGood luck though.
142489
This is confusing were you guys dating or not?  \n\nIf yes, and he said i love you but you didn't feel that way...why were you dating him in the first place?\n\nIf no, just tell him straight out that you don't feel that way about him but he's an amazing friend and you hope you guys can remain friends because this friendship means a lot to you.
441412
Aww. Come on, you should definitely talk to him and see how he feels, maybe he likes you too. But still you are young, and even if he doesn't feel the same about you, it's not the end of the world. Telling someone your true feelings can be tough because we are afraid of what the person may say, which is the position I'm in right now, but someday I have to muster up the courage to tell him. You can wait but don't wait too long.
415655
I guess I would sit him down and tell him to either confess that he still has feelings or to knock it off. If this continues, you are just going to be thinking about what's going on with him and will never know until you ask him. If there really isn't any more feelings there, then he's just being a jerk by leading you on since he knows you still have feelings for him.
347000
He could have been confused and tried denying how he really felt... especially since you both are so close it would almost be natural for him since there's already a connection between the two of you.\n\nI doubt he was leading you on and if he wasn't letting anyone know that he was gay there would almost be no way of you knowing.  He probably feels worse than you do right now and he might even be thinking be that he did lead you on in some way.  \n\nThe only thing I can say is that the longer you wait to talk to him again the more ackward things are going to be.  The sooner you get things out in the open and talk about it, the quicker everything will go back to normal.\n\nI'm bi and I actually had a similar expirience with a friend of mine who was gay.  We use to work together and he was always touchy feely; I assumed maybe he was bi like me... needless to say I was wrong.  (Even though I now know he is as gay as gay can be, he's got this thing with boobs lol, which I guess all guys do.)  \n\nI felt stupid for a long time but I didn't want my misunderstanding to affect things between us.  We talked about it and I realized that it wasn't an option to be his lover but "friends" aren't bad either.  I knew that keeping him as a friend meant I wouldn't lose him and losing him was the last thing that I wanted to happen.\n\nEverything is fine now and we're still really good friends.  Don't think that you're the first girl to fall for a gay guy because that's not true at all.  You get a man with the caring part of a woman... all straight ladies want that!!!  Just talk to him and let him know that no matter what you're going to continue to be there for him just as he will be there for you.
539595
Hello, Well you could try to be his friend, but you couldn't have a normal friendship because there would allways be that feeling of rejection that he had toward you. And the fact that he's acted like an *** in the past probably means that that the future with him wouldn't be too solid. Really the best thing to do is find another guy to start new with - because I think what you really want is more than a friend relationship and that's a love relationship...right?  You can speak to him and have a casual frienship but look somewhere else for a guy who can make you feel special...Love is what you really want...and I hope you find it...good luck ...ok? ....bye bye
88036
Well if he hasnt really said anything to you, I would just continue to be a good friend. Dont ignore him or anything like that. If he brings it up, just let him know that you would like to continue to be friends and at this moment nothing more. He should understand and continue to be cool with you..
167882
Tell him that you're interested in going out for a drink and getting to know him on a more personal level. See how he reacts. Talk about your old relationships and see how he reacts to that as well. You should be able to tell if he's feeling you. If it seems like he's shying away from the topic, it's best just to come out and tell him you have feelings for him. A lot of beating around the bush just leads to confusion. If you're straightforward with him you'll get an honest reaction. \nIt's hard to talk about these things with people we've befriended first. There is always a chance that unearthing your feelings might drive him away.. but it's much better to take the chance and get it out in the open. Make sure you think it through first. If this is the sort of fellow you can see yourself with in a forever sort of way.. and not just a skin-deep level.. then you know what you have to do. I know it sounds cliche'.. but follow your heart. You'll know what's best for you.
639394
There is something a little disturbing about a portion of what you wrote, this part below:\n"We have tried to date previously but I found out he was messing with someone else. I don't know whether he's being honest, or lying and I'm falling for it. We both want this to work"\nIf you tried to date previously but you found out he was messing with someone else, how did you find out?  Did he confess to you, or did someone tell you.  Basically what I'm getting at is this, people show us who they are and what they are all about early on.  We choose to either ignore that or think it will get better because we are attracted to certain things about them.  The truth is when someone really has an interest and wants to explore the possibilities of a relationship, they do just that.  I understand a person being skeptical and the fear of  getting hurt,  but life is about taking chances.  Wen a person shows hesitation in furthering the friendship, there is usually a reason, one that I think goes deeper than that.
102310
talk to him first.clear out misunderstandings..he can give u a chance but may be even he knows that such feelings die hard.may be u just want to get close to him and then feel the same way for him again..It would be so hard for him to know that again.Know this:its never easy for him either to lose a friend.
216129
It is so nice that you care so much about  both your friend and you.\n\nYou see whatever happened has happened. It can't be changed. So either you find ways to move on or you just slack back.\n\nYou said you are best friends. A lot of things happen between best friends you know so this should not be a hard one to tackle. It happened because you were both passionate about each other. It now appears you are both bi. No big deal.\n\nFirst you said you liked him and now you are saying you don't know if you like him. NO problem about that, you will soon know if you like him or not.\n\nHowever, since you said you have not seen him in a month and this whole thing is getting into you, well i think is about time you talk with him. It does not matter if you are different persons or not, you still have to find out where you stand. You need to talk with him and find out if you are both embarassed about the things that happened and if you still want to be best of friends. If you both still want to keep on having sexual feelings for each other, well that is when to find out, by talking to each other. Please tell him your mind, what you think, what should stop, what should go on and stuffs like that. It will work out.\n\nYou and i both know you don't want to lose a friend like him. Then i think it's about time you spoke to him.\n\nPlease don't feel shy. OK. Open up and tell him every single thing in your heart.\n\nYou will definitely find your answer. Keep it cool and GOOD LUCK.\n\nHave fun too.
225169
I have been in this situation.  How long have you been talking?  I've learned that you can't go off of looks these days.  The best advice that I can give is to lay off of any feelings that you think you might have and offer that friendship to him long enough until you figure the "real" him out.  But, while you're doing that, make sure you make it clear that you're not "really" looking for anything right now, but that there's always the future.  Some times men put on a front in the beginning (if this is a new situation) and he may be trying to hide his true feelings by being rude...just give it some time.
301685
take a look at your relationship: how long have you been friends, how has you understanding of eachother expanded, how is both of our love lives going, etc. you may want to start out with, "_____, how long have we been friends?" its a casual question, but then go deeper "do you ever wonder if this friendship will ever go anywhere than 'just friends'?" and you'll get a feel of how he reacts, and even though you may rehearse what you are going to say infront of the mirror, when you look at him , you'll know exactly the words to say...hopefully i've helped
494568
Oh tough one. No wonder you are in a state of confusion.  If he is a close friend of yours anyway have you thought about suggesting outings and activities that are just for the 2 of you rather than with a group of friends. Spending more time alone with him should help you to gauge how he feels. He could be feeling exactly the same as you are and equally scared to say anything. Be patient. If you are meant to be together it will happen in the end but don't expect him to pick up on hints. In my experience men are remarkable dim in that department.\n\nGood luck.