I am dating this great guy. Now my ex bf is back and pops the question. I still have feelings for my ex, but I feel bad hurting the other guy. My ex is handsome and poor, the guy I date is rich and ok-looking. Help!
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Follow your heart, and also ask yourself if you really want to get married. Marriage is a serious thing, and make sure he is the one you want to marry. Money, looks means nothing if a guy/girl treats you like crap. Whoever is respectful of you and treats you who should be treated, go for that one. Good Luck!:P
307546
just make sure that your new bf doesn't get hurt physically by your ex. there's nothing you can do, unless he tries to hurt him.
502136
Please, please, please do not go back to your ex that cheated on you, he will probably do it again.\n\nI don't think you need to feel as though you must date this other guy either. Why not just be friends for a while and if the relationship blossoms into something more, then great. If not, there is someone else destined to be the love of you life.\n\nI was always told that the best relationships are created from those that you did not expect. When I first met my husband, I thought he was the ugliest man on Earth, but we became friends. Then slowly, we dated and one month became three, three became, one year and one year has now become six. And over the years, I have become more and more attracted to him.\n\nThere is someone out there for you, maybe you'll meet him tomorrow or in three years. Or maybe you already know him and just don't know how attracted to him you are yet.
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honestly, if you don't know the answer, then you don't truly love either of them.  \n\nif you are wanting to date just one of them, pick the one that makes you feel most happy and comfortable.  in the long run, that's the most important.
37766
I think dating someone new is ok as long as you realize that you are still getting over the other person. It is important to not use the person to help your hurt feelings go away. Let the other person know you are fresh out of a relationship and not ready to take it farther,
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I don't think it's fair to the new guy that you're still in love with your ex boyfriend. Serious or not, he deserves your full attention and care. If you can't provide that, you should let him go so that he can find someone that can give him her undivided attention. You need time to heal and to get over your ex boyfriend and staying with another guy is not the way to do that.
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Stick to your new b/f, as going back with your ex wont work as there must have been something which made yous fall out. stay with the new guy as you never know he could be your soul mate, if you leave your new b/f and go back to old one he could leave you again so do you want that. stay where you are and be happy there's no point looking back just look forward and be happy. good luck
527201
Okay; I'm gonna put this plain and simple.\n\nBreak up with your boyfriend, but not to go out with the other guy. Don't go out with either one of them. If you're having thoughts or feelings of attraction for someone other than your companion, you're not ready for a committed relationship. Sure; it's fine to go on dates with both of them occasionally, but don't steady-date either of them for now. Wait until your feelings remain constant for one individual; then if you think it's the right time, see if you can progress that relationship further. That's my opinion. Hope it helped.
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I read in an article one time it takes atleast 2 yrs after a divorce to fully recover from the trauma from it.  My first question how long were you divorced before you and the new bo got together?  Personaly as hard as it would be but I would let them both go and concentrate on you and healing.  You stated you are not over the ex and it would not be fair to the new boy friend to enter in that relationship with those feelings.  You need to take some time for you and find who you realy are and what you are wanting.  Then with that in mind find the man of your dreams.  Good luck hun!
455694
I think you might not want to because they might be the same and he just wants so booty..so i would check him out first....and i don't think you should worry about your ex because you caught him with another girl when you guys were still together!
614361
i think that guy is just playing with you. don't take him seriously he lost his chance so well it all depends on you really do u still like ur actual bf or ur willing tobreak up him to go with the other guy. dunno this is complicated.
233034
Yes and no.. \nIf u like him for who he is, den YES, go ahead.. Who cares about the similarity? \n\nIf you miss your ex and u are going out with the present guy, den NO, cos u will be like taking him for ur ex's substitute.. Jus my 2 cents..
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the fact that you are looking at another suggests that you are not really with your man anymore and the best thing to do for both of you is end it.\n\nwhat happens with the other guy is irrelevant with regards to your situation with bf.\n\nif you should finish with bf and then get with other guy then cool but you must not think about this until you have sorted it out with bf.
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No, you obviously see something in this new guy or something wasn't right in your old relationship. If there was nothing wrong  between you and your bf you wouldn't have thought about breaking it off.\nListen to your heart. The new guy may not be right for you but your ex bf wasn't either.
412508
Who do you have more feelings for? then think about who you rather hang out with more. and if it's not your bf then you have to let go. You shouldn't have feelings for someone else while you have a bf anyway.. so if you do then it's best to call it quits with him.
638785
Don't feel guilty.  Get up and have a fantastic time with this new guy.  You aren't mourning, sweetie, you just broke up with someone!  Enjoy yourself and do what makes you happy!  Never feel guilty for doing something that makes you feel good!
436619
Nomad is very right!  But if your separation was just heat of the moment, I reckon the second time will be sweeter.  I believe in 2nd chances and if yous can work it out and start again, things will be stronger.  I would love to be in your ex bf's shoes, as for now, my situation with my spouse is near over and final.  But through this, you'll be a better person/lover, if not for your x bf, your next bf.  Good luck and best wishes!