I had a strong friendship with my friend.I just accept him just a friend.I'm not sure wether he is gay.Sometimes the feeling is just to strong that I finally attracted to him but in the same time i just consider it as a strong,meaningful friendship.I keep denying homosexuality because I don't wanna be gay.So what's your impression?
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Your question is worded ambigiously, so I'm gonna try to frame this the most simple way I know how.\n\nDo you want to f*ck your friend?  I mean it.  Do you?  Do you want to kiss him or touch him naked?  Do you want to feel his skin on yours?  Do you want feel his hands on your body?\n\nIf so, then you're at least bi.  If you don't want any of those things, then you're probably straight.  But if you're gay you're going to have to face it at some point.   You can deny it until the cows come home, you can pretend to be straight, you can pray until your knees lock up, but it wont make the feeling go away.  \n\nYou need to examine why you don't want to be gay.  Is it because of your religion?  Are you afraid of being physically harmed?  Are you afraid to be seen as different?  Are you worried about what your friends and family will think?  Do you think that gay people are all diseased or can't have normal lives?  \n\nSome of those fears are normal, some are fuled by a homophobic society that usually doesn't know what the hell it is talking about when it comes to gay folk.  You need to learn, think, and take some time to decide for yourself.\n\nI would highly reccomend renting or buying the TV show Queer As Folk... its five great seasons about gay life, both the normal and gay-specific parts (plus lots of sex :-) or the book "Am I Blue: Coming out from Silence".  \n\nhttp://www.amazon.com/gp/product/0064405877/sr=8-1/qid=1146355924/ref=pd_bbs_1/002-2832502-7269667?%5Fencoding=UTF8
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You should try everything once.  You might like it.  And you're friend lost his self respect because he's obviously not comfortable with his sexuality.  Get over it, it won't make you gay.
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I think you're secretly attracted to him and are using this question as a way of finding out if it's ok to be gay. If you want to be gay, be gay, just don't brag about it ok? fudge packer.........
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Oh get a grip woman!  He stated the guy is a true friend...not that he wants to bang him.  Would you had been bothered if he wasn't gay and had your fiance's picture on his page?  What diff does it really make?  Lets say he did want to bang your fiance...why would that matter?  IF your fiance is not gay NONE of it matters.  Get over it.
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Wow.  I think you should open the discussion in reference to homosexuality with your friend first to gauge a reaction.  If you feel like the reaction is positive, go from there.  Unfortunately, you need to discuss this a.s.a.p. with your girlfriend, she may already know, but just refuses to accept what's right in front of her.  She's your biggest issue first.
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Hi there!\n\nWell I'm sure your friend did not "just discover he is gay" it's not like you look under this rock one day and Oh My God I just discovered this.\nIt just sounds cute the way you said it, but I'm sure he has known for quite a while because gay does not BING turn on all of a sudden.\nSo support him be his best friend more then ever right now, because it took him tremendous courage to even speak to you about it ...I would think.\nI don't know how old either one of you are but it is the same for heteros as homos we all need and all need at the different ages, so just be there for him and love him. It will all come in time, his courage will build and he will meet people just as everyone does, give it time. Maybe at school there are some support groups for gays, something like that could be helpful for him and help him feel more secure about himself plus he could meet people.
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Tough one!\nI am a gay man and have several really close female friends. Something seems to happen in these relationships that turns them into really special and close friendships. Everything is usually very fun and open. We can talk about anything and just be ourselves without having to try to impress eachother or hold back our innermost feelings and deepest secrets.\nI would try to control your feelings to the best of your ability. It is possible to remain as close as you are without this affecting your close relationship. But please be careful because it sounds to me like you are in the emotional danger zone.\nIf your friend is understanding- tell him how you feel. Let him know that you understand that he is gay and are not trying to change him but that you really admire his qualites. If he is such a loving person, he will be proud and honored that you think so highly of him. ( I know I would be!!)\nJust make sure that you realize the situation that you are in and that a sexual relationship between the two of you would be doomed from day 1.\nGood luck! :)
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i totally agree....i have this guy friend...that when i first met him...started flirting with me...we got a little closer....made out a couple times and i really like him...then he goes and says that he doesnt want a relationship and that he is just cuddly with his friends....it kind of pissed me off...especially because i liked him....we are still good friends tho.
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no you are not gay. there will always be times like this when you will be confused  by friendship over attraction. just let it go.
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NO... I have gay friends to. and some people think imgay but im not so dont let what people say make you feel bad.
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YOU'RE not gay unless you enjoyed it, invited it, or want to do it again (and even then you could be bi or just curious). \nPretty sure your 'friend' is, though.
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So what.  Friendship should not have that kind of boundary.  I unfortunately seen what has happened when something like this happened.  My ex-husband always said "I don't know what I would do if he found out one of his friends was gay."  Well back in 84 we found out my brother (his best friend) was gay.  He shut down most of the communication with him, and after we divorced he never spoke to him again.  He threw out a 25+ year friendship over my brothers sexual preferance for no reason.  My brother never came on to him or brought any "dates" around when they were room mates.  Don't throw it out, it hurt my brother till his death 2 years ago to loose a close friend because he was honest.  So what if he is Scots, sexual preferanc is not set by ancestry.  Accept him and let him know that you will still be his friend, also be there for him to talk to, he will have a difficult road and any support even to just listen he will appreciate.  Not only that you will learn more about him (mentally) by doing so.
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Go with how you feel. Are heterosexuals that way because of a choice they made, I don't think so. That would be the same for homosexuals, I'm sure, not a choice, but something "inbuilt" from birth.
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it feels good.. a gay person is still a person!  they aren't any different except fo their sexual preference!  one of the things that i've learned about the ppl in the gay community is that they are the most open, caring, compassionate ppl out there!  they don't judge ppl because they know how it feels to be judged!
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A true friend won't be bothered by this.  I have plenty of bi friends.  I'm not bi myself but we still have fun flirting it up for the guys just to watch em drool lol.
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If he can't handle that you are gay, then you don't need him as a friend.  I'm straight and have plenty of gay friends.  One even asked me out, not realizing that I wasn't (honestly that made me feel kinda bad, but we reconciled)  If you KNOW he isn't gay but want to ask him out, don't if you want to keep him as a friend.  You should tell him you are gay and if he can't handle that, fark it.  But trying to impose your lifestyle on someone else is no better than a woman trying to make you straight.  (Or certain governments saying you can't be who you are or have chosen to be)
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I am not gay...but I have gay friends...\nWhat may lead a person to believeing they may be gay...hmmm...maybe when they catch theirself looking at others of the same sex, and thinking they are very attractive. Or just feeling attracted to one of the same sex...I guess if you were gay, sooner or later you would know it...and it would come to you naturally?