If your spouse enjoys a little hot chat to fill the gap between love-making sessions with you, is that better or the same as escaping to a motel for a flesh and blood tryst?
136067
I rather he does neither but I will take the chatting over the motel room tryst.  I know where my keyboard has been and I disinfect it frequently so I don't have to worry about getting a virus.  LOL
431029
Nice one fidgety .Reminds me of this one!\nWhen their marriage went through a rocky patch, a young couple went to see a marriage counsellor. The male counsellor listened while the wife outlined her grievances,the principal one being that her husband neglected her.\n"We've only been married two years," she said," but he never seems to take any interest in me. He never shows any affection. It seems as if he is bored with me already."\nThe husband simply shrugged his shoulders,so the counsellor decided to take drastic action.He went over to the wife and kissed her passionately. As the wife slumped back into her seat in shock,the counsellor turned to the husband and said:"Your wife needs that at least twice a week."\nThe husband replied:" well I can get here Tuesdays and Thursdays."
169831
It is the other way around in my marriage.  My hubby would choose sleep over orgasm any night.
170156
if youre going to argue...do it while having sex. \n\n(shrugs)
595359
No. But who are you kidding, you know your wife won't be fooled. So go to the reunion, be sociable, and take advantage of your in-laws: Leave the kids in their care and get away with the missus for a few hours of private time.
461077
He was just in the moment....if you really didnt like it tell him now, after the fact...if you ever talk to me like that again you better enjoy it because it will be the LAST time.  If it didnt bother you, get into it to...talking dirty and nasty in the bedroom is fun!
159626
It was ok; I have done a few. Mostly with people I met online, couples. And I was mostly single; meeting other couples. Keeps the emotions out that way. It is a pretty shallow experience, really. Sex one on one or even alone is better, alot of distractions with more than two people and pressure to perform. I think allowing other people into your bedroom is avoiding the real underlying issue within the couple.I had a boyfriend once that was always pressuring me to do that it got to be a real turnoff and we are not together anymore. If you are a sex a holic and can handle it emotionally go for it. It just wasn't my thing.
320569
You might want to sit down with your mate and calmly explain all of your feelings to him. No one on here knows from the paragraph you typed what you do in the bedroom. When you say spice it up do you mean install a chandelier in the bedroom and swing from it while he tickles your ASP with a feather and barks like a howler monkey or what? I honestly think though that your problem is communication but if you want to cheat especially since you have a child you better think long and hard if those 6 seconds of toe curling ecstasy with someone else are worth the consequences if you get caught.\nGood Luck!!
384508
No, adventurous sex never gets old.  My wife has given me a coupon book with things that I enjoy.  For example 20 minute massages, dress up sex, night out with the guys.  Stuff like that.  When I use the coupon there are no questions asked.  Good luck
171137
I do it all the time, lol if its a real heated roleplay i sometimes do it outside of my head, only if noones around. Im glad you asked, cuz now i feel normal
655914
Take a bubble bath together, then take turns reading a book aloud to each other. It is fun, and since there is no pressure, the spontaneous sex can be fantastic! (If it happens) Oh, a good bottle of wine never hurts, either!
404700
go with the hot friend.  no risk of creating a clinger and no risk of alienating the wife to be.  a blast all around.
310199
No!  Sex is something to be shared between lovers. By doing something like that you cheapen it for you both down to just an act.  \n\nSex is meant to bring lovers together - to teach trust and compassion for one and other. \n\nFantasy fulfillment and roll playing are good thing for lovers.  Just don't through it all away and have no place left to explore.
293885
Hey, as long as you guys are communicating openly and honestly about it, and you are both comfortable with the situation, then go for it.  Nothing wrong with it at all.  Just make sure that you both talk over everything and that you still both trust and respect each other when it is done.  Set up boundaries and rules before hand and let him know a head of time what is on and off limits so there are no awkward situations.  If this is your first time, map out the way the night is going to go with the third person from start to finish.  Who is going to do what, touch what, where at, what position and so on so that nothing is in the way and no one is left out.  Tell him what you want out of this and have him tell you what he wants out of this. Maybe even talking about what you are planning on doing will lead to some hot discussions and lead to a great night of sex before you ever even invite someone into the bedroom!   Good luck with this!   Love, Angela
575369
Any fool can start an affair but it takes a wise person to avoid it altogether.\n\nGetting shot by the jilted husband while the two of you are in the bed together ruffling the sheets will be an inconvenient time to finally learn the lesson that "messing around with a married woman" is probably not a good idea.
275080
There's nothing wrong with waiting to give yourself to your spouse.  I think it's more romantic to save yourself for your spouse than to "test drive" people in a misguided attempt for compatibility.  Nowadays "test driving" can kill you; I'm not willing to put my life in the hands of a condom.  I'd rather just wait.  I know that my body is special and not to be shared with just anyone; not everyone is supposed to share such a private,special, intimate and sacred act with me.  I guess I'm just old fashioned, but I don't care.
643730
Uh, imagine the opposite.  Dishonest and closed communication doesn't sound like an entertaining and enjoyable experience.  I think the bigger question would be, "how can I be open and honest with my partner when doing so would not be an enjoyable experience?"\n\nTo that is the ponderance of many a couple.  And, that's why relationships are tough.  It takes a long time for people to open up and be truely vulnerable with the ones they love.