The thing is I been with my b/f for 8 yrs ,and I still love him but I am not in love anymore with him and this makes me depressed ,I told him how I feel he tells me he feels the same way .and he thinks it's normal .because as time goes by u fall out of love ,and you just love deeply,that being in love is just some beginning phrase of a Fu_cking relationship\nis this true cause if so I am never gonna be happy I want to be in love forever .Is this normal
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this is normal, good thing that you know you do still love each other because you will not always feel all lovey dovey with anyone no matter what. when i start feeling like this i try to remember all the times in the relationship when i did feel in love, think of all the great stuff that you have done together, think of all the times he's been there for you, and hey you guys are still dating, so there is more.  i don't know but someday you might want to get married and have a family eventually.  because you have been together that long, try to still go out together like you did when you were first dating.  it makes a huge difference.  talk about your early relationship with him so you can remember some of the hot stuff together.  relationships are alot more than sex.  focus on really being really good friends, too.  that's what worked for me.  hope it helps for you!!!!!  (:
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How do you feel.  Do you want to be with him if so tell him.  Obviously he could be in love with you again, if not and you are not in love with him, tell him that you don't want him to tell you that he loves you because that [art of your lives are over.  Just because things were comfortable then dose not mean they should be comfortable now in this new found relationship.
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I dont believe that you can fall in and out of love with someone, I feel that if you are really inlove with someone, your never going to want to leave them. your not going to love them today, and not tomorrow. so I say dont say anything to her, move on. Its not fair to put her though it over, and over again.
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Yes it is normal. Most couples go through this and the trick is to keep working on the relationship like you did when you first met. Get together and start setting aside days where you hang out and do things together. I would also try to find out if there are deeper issues that got the two of you to this stage.
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The very fundamental thing we find in love is being liked and be very comfortable in a relation. And this act of mutually impressing each other may not be perpetual. This is where the discretion about true love comes. Its not really necessary that the person who gets irked or infuriated makes you feel not loved. Its the amount of our own patience and understanding we offer in return to his or her mood swings. Sounds tough... But believe me... Its the only way to retain and preserve love. Though love is generated from heart and definitely must not be a product of brain... one must not ignore the subtle hints given by brain too. Not to interpret the cautions in a negative way but to protect our loved one from possible errors and fallacies. Love is a strenuous journey if it needs to be navigated though impatience and misunderstanding. But at the end of the day if one believes that we truly love someone.... any sacrifice offered to make them happy is worthy of all those cherished moments we experienced and enjoyed with that person.
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No. I dont think there is such thing as falling out of LOVE. Like let's say..A wives husbands dies...she will always love him.\n\nIf someone says they fall out of love, it was never love.\n\nIt could be Lust, Infatuation, Crush, but Not Love. \n\nLove Never Fails...\n\n^thats what i go bY~^
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we meet new people everyday.and someone affects us in someway.we cant fight it.we are humans.not God.I guess, being in love with your current girl is not everything it is in the relationship.maybe you have longed for more and you never realised it.probably,this girl you just met made you to feel much better, someway.perhaps this is how you wanted to feel or to be treated.7 years of a relationship is very long.and it started when you were a teen.hats off to you, but now you are saying that this girl makes you to feel special.means that you are being appreciated.maybe this is what you expected from your gf. you never had it.there's no growth in your relationship.you guys have stopped explaoring each orther.maybe she thinks she knows in and out of you.but you know there's more.more about you. be frank about your feelings to your gf.she deserves to know on how you are feeling about the relationship.maybe she has an answer too.
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you're probably just going thru a mix of emotions, maybe a litte guilt. but dont worry if you love him, it will be ok. :)
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hi im not a big expert, and i dont know u, but as far as i understand u feeling this way is quite normal. no offence but i ges its normal for women to go throu this. i know loads of them who sunddly get in to this phase... so dont worry about it too much ok, its not a big problem its just a part of growing up. u sound pretty smart so i ges u will do the correct thing. stick to your studies. u said that u have never met him ! i dont think its really possible to love someone without really knowing that person. but i wont get in to that cos its cool. All i will say is the way u feel is quit normal so dont worry about it. its all about growing up so just take your time and enjoy it ok, it will pass, and please continu your studies trust me u will never regret it. hpoe things work out take care god bless.
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I think that's perfectly normal. The "in-love" feeling doesn't last in married type relationships. Every couple is different so some last longer then others but eventually it will sizzle out and marital love which is an unconditional love for your spouse/significant other will surface.\n\nI am adjusting to that myself. My fiance/husband (we've been together for 6 yrs)  is a great guy and we realized how much we truly and deeply love one another but we are not "in-love".\n\nYou know, my mom always warned me about this kind of marital love I would be facing. She use to say "Kristina, marital love is different from being in-love, that feeling you are experiencing while young ...you'll see..." now that I'm int that kind of relationship,  I finally understand what she meant by that...\n\nlol luckily my parents displayed love and affection around the house so it left a good impression on me as an adult.\n\nHope this helps \n\nBest wishes to you and yours sis!
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Yeah, I have and still am. I guess, its suppose to hurt cause you cant always be happy. Love is really complicated, one day you're happy then the next day you're crying your heart out. You just have to stay strong...
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No it doesn't mean they were not "right" for each other.  People change over time, it is natural in all of us to become different as we grow and life changes.  So things just didn't work out after the growing up and life changes.  That doesn't mean in the beginning they weren't perfect together or madly in love with each other.  Deep down they can both remember the good times and will always have a love for each other.  Good luck to you and Take Care of yourself.
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I think you know the answer already yourself... 9 yrs, a long time and I'm sure that you have both had many ups and downs, and that should be proof that this will last forever,because after all you are STILL together 9 yrs on. You have come through so much and still standing. You ask the question because its natural... its the biggest commitment you will ever make and no one can tell you what to do. Only you can decide. And as the saying goes " Time will tell" .Unless he is treating you "badly" or harming you in anyway, perhaps the time is now. And Yes, it is normal to feel this way. .... Good luck to you.
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Hi Dear,\nWhat i may say may not be a perfect opinion but to some extent it may do u good.. First of all i would like to clarify one point-- you are not Obsessed or infatuated but you are Deeply in Love with this Guy.\n\nI don't know how old u are.. but by ur talks i can figure out that you know the difference between Love and Infatuation. Getting into arguments in a Bf/ Gf relationship is very common, but when u get into it u should be smart enough to tackle it and come out of it without being separated. And that's where ur MINUS point begins. U have said that you still communicated through text message, about missing each other and how things changed. "TEXT MESSAGE" cannot be related to "HUMAN FEELINGS" There is a vast difference in taking the pain and writing and Posting a Love letter than just emailing or scanning a love letter.\n\nI suggest you call him and meet him person to person and express ur beautiful feelings towards him. It does not matter even if you cry in front of ur intimate partner, because u will know and find a deep inner peace in your heart. A feeling that will later make you feel better. If he still loves you i am sure he will understand and appreciate your feelings....\nBest of luck!!!!
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You have to decide is this forever problem.. or a "Im just not feeling it" problem.\n\nIs the root of the problem.. you.. him... outside inclunces.\n\nIf you are not feeling it.. and then not being there for him in the bedroom.. things will become damaged.\n\nMen very very often equate love to sex.  Right or wrong.. its a reality.   If you are able to share yourself with him, then you will at least give him a belief that things are ok.\n\nIf you think the problem is not a forever, then I would recommend having relations..but also let him know there is a problem.. and try to work with him about it.\n\nIf you think its all over, then stop the sex and get yourself out the door to move things to where youw ill be happy.\n\nIts better for him and its better for you.  You don't want to be feeling like a "whore" having sex with someone you do not love just for a life.  (Please understand I am not saying you should feel like that.. but that is the natrual next feeling).
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This is a good question- so when you find out let me know, haha~! I'm pretty much in the same boat to be honest. I think when your in love it means you can fight, get along, laugh, cry, everything togeather no matter what and still have feelings for that person. To other people it means their soalmate whatever that is I don't know. But how your going to tell him? I'm waiting for that right moment when he does something "unforgetable", but I would say it when he's feeling his worst, after a really bad day. Then he doesn't have to say anything and even if he does, at least you know he'll feel better about himself no matter what he says. And if he says something you wern't expecting that's negative, he's probably not worth your time either that or he's "really" not having a good day. Good Luck & Best of Wishes~! :)
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Wow...that's tough. I wish I knew what to tell you.  I think if you feel like you DONT want to fall out of love then you wont. Because obviously that shows you love the person.  Sounds like the relationship just needs some serious work.  I know this sounds corny but Men are From Mars, Women are from Venus is a GREAT relationship related book and I think it helps A LOT. It will help you understand your man/woman so much better.