Except for braces, glasses, and a goofy laugh, i am a total computer nerd. All the girls i know say im awesome and funny, but none likes me. is there anything i can change to make them like me as more than a friend?
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I just helped a friend with this actually. Two simple pointers:\n\nBe mysterious: This doesn't mean be so vague it's annoying, it just means don't leave yourself completely open to everyone. Be outgoing, but don't give away your life story. If you pull it off correctly, it makes it look like there's a lot more to you than there really is.\n\nListen: Become their friend, ask them how there day was, and pay attention. Don't interject with your own stories too often. (If you do, make it brief to show you empathise, but don't try to out-do them.)\n\nAnd for anything else, I would recommend the dating game articles on outpostnine.
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Popularity is so over-rated. What you need are true friends. Kids who are popular are often shallow & self-centered. How did they get popular? By debasing & humiliating others. I see it all the time.\n\nIt sounds like you have a good head on your shoulders. Why? Because you are concerned for your friends' feelings. Follow your heart. True friends are rare & will be there for you when you need them. Where will the "popular" kids be? Out the door as soon as you have nothing left to offer them.\n\nI don't think there is a perfectly straight forward answer here. Whatever you do, don't compromise your friendships w/ those who love & care about you. You will regret it later when you really need them.\n\nThe only thing I could suggest is that you explain to those "popular" friends that you enjoy being friends with lots of people & that you don't pass judgement based on popularity. I would say take it or leave it. And if they leave it then they are rotten apples anyway. Who needs them?\n\nOne of the biggest nerds of them all, Bill Gates, has a list of advice for young people. One of the things on the list touched upon this situation. It goes something like...be nice to the dorks & nerds, one day they will be your bosses. LOL. How true!
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Yep, this sounds like an esteem issue indeed.  Your quote, "I've never even been liked by a girl before" ... How do you know this???   Another quote, " there's never been one who thought of ever being with me as more than just a friend."  OK so with this attitude you're not going to get kissed.  What you need to do is find the one that you want to kiss and then you need to change your tack.  No more "hey I'm goofy and safe like a brother". Girls generally like guys who are confident, yet sensitive, eager, but not too eager, and can show a subtle sex appeal.  It's like playing a role in the movies sometime, but once you learn the part and get that game face on, girls will dig you.\nAsk them girlie questions, chicks love to hear "wow nice top, sweet jeans, did you do something to you hair, it's hot".  Returning an oh so subtle wink and grin to her when she strokes your ego is a winner too.  I have this crooked little grin that I do with my uppers and while I'm doing it I put the tip of my tongue on the bottom part off the teeth and widen the smile ... Chicks dig it, be touchy but no in an overbearing way, just a little rub on the shoulder when you say hi.  You've got to show some appeal as a boyfriend and you need to step up the game my friend.    PS:  Never be afraid of rejection, or her saying no, you graciously thank her and move to the next target.  It takes work to find perks!!!!!
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hey! you sound nice. I suggest that you just smile a lot at school. People are attracted to smilers! Also, try to do nice things for people. Remember their birthdays, share stuff with them. Keep on being nice! Hopefully that works for ya!
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nah, shes probably a snob and thinks shes better than you. some people are like that. i've had people take an instant dislike to me for no reason.  how does everyone else treat you? if they like you loads and genuinely take interest in you then she may be jealous.
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Are you a geek? lets see\n\ndo you work hard for a living and take responsibility for yourself? Yes\n\nDo the ladies seem to enjoy your company? Yes\n\nso far that makes you seem pretty cool actually. So you've been in a few fights where you didn't come out on top. Its all good youre a lover not a fighter now show those other guys who the real ladies man is. \n\nThe point is this as long as youre holding your own in a good way it doesn't matter what other people think about you. Sounds like your doing pretty good so far. \n\nNow learn how to defend yourself properly, build a little muscle, add a little confidence and you'll have all the bases covered my friend.
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i understand she's probably cute and everything, but why would you want someone whose shallow enough to not like you  because she thinks your a nerd? She doesn't sound like a keeper.
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Work on your sense of humor. If you're funny you can't not be liked. But don't ask me how to get one. I was gifted with ti from the start.
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Dont worry. You are normal. Just mix up well with all. Dont try to impress others. You have a superiority complex with known friends and inferiority complex with new friends,\nDont try to be Unnatural and try to attract attention.Attend more parties. Read a lot on various subjects, Be a good conversationalist. In all parties there would be various small groups, small circles centred around one or two heroes or heroines , just switch from one to another, wherever the topic talked is your favourite subject just get attached to it. \nDont open mouth or volunteer information to unknown groups and unless you have real knowledge on that topic.\nOver a period of time you would be liked by one and all.\nDRESS WELL PRESENT YOUR BEST ALWAYS.
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Nothing. You can't make anyone like you..don't worry about it. Someone who is just right for you is out there. :)
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I hate to lay some of the blame on you, but first ask yourself, are you being rude? Are you  being self-centered. If not, then, as much as this is probably the most annoying answer on the planet, you'll just have to wait. Keep trying to make friends with girls and eventually, you'll find the right one.
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For me it depends entirely on who is inside that nerdy exterior.  I have always been the gal that gets to know someone for who they are before they are attracted to them in any real sense.\nYou could be a supermodel, but if you are not a kind person you would be plain ugly to me.  If you had pens in your pocket, a protractor and a tesla coil, if you were good to me you could be my Adonis.\nI recently talked to a couple of those "she's going out with him?!?!?!?" people from highschool.  They get it now.   I have a pic from when I was doing some modeling, the boy I am with was my b/f and he was in band.  He played the tuba....so yeah, girls can like nerds!
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yea man.  i can help you out.  pretend you dont care.  if you want a girl just pretend you dont like her, and she'll come crawling back.  never failed.  girls dont you dare get pissed at me either.  you know its true!
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= ) I'm back.  To make a girl feel special, you have to get to know her, and pretty much ask her.  Every one is different.  But, tell her she's beautiful, not hot, look her in the eyes when you talk to her, and are telling her something of importance.  And I am a firm believer in making them laugh.  It breaks the weirdness, be yourself.  As far as meeting girls, ya got me there, I'm a homebody. Pretty boring.
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First you have to know her but make sure you don't become her "friend", get the point?  \n\nIf she thinks of you as just a "friend", it's game over....\nthere are plenty of tips around the internet\n\nbut one of the most common is to be funny\nyou don't necessarily have to be nice and don't be rude\nbe intriguing.
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this seems to always be the case..i guess you just have to try and be yourself..since you both probably hang out with each other a lot..try to be more outgoing than her and change it up a little bit..however..dont try too hard they may start to notice
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unfortunitly you may need to go in for surgury, I recomend you get a sweet coco coating to desguise your otherwise lame apperince, then when you find the girl you want you can convince her to like you back by explaining that you nuts for her, or to make it easier just put some diced almends on you back and say that you just added some "nuts for you" then when the kids come out as Taffy, with luck they will be better flavers