I really want to be with the guy that I'm dating, that came home after 4 years, but he doesn't call, or email, or anything, and I like someone else that does call and email me, but the two were best friends before.  I feel like I need a change from both of them, but it's only because I feel so bad for loving my boyfriend (seriously love him) and liking his ex best friend.
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Aside from being a really complicated question, you shouldn't ever get involved with your boyfriend's friend. That will just be bad.  I mean, if they are enemies, that's really still not a good thing.  If your boyfriend isn't treating you the way you want to be treated, talk to him about it.  And also be honest about the other guy calling you.  If your boyfriend doesn't approve, tell the other guy that you want to respect your boyfriend because you LOVE him and that it's really something the two of you shouldn't get into.
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If the guy respects you, that's great. I wouldn't go back to your ex who doesn't want a real relationship, but if you don't like your current boyfriend then you don't have to go out with him. I'm sure one day you'll find a guy you like a lot AND who respects you as well. Don't think this guy you're dating now is the only one in the world so you might as well stay with him. Basically, follow your heart, and good luck!
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If you love the other guy, stay with him! An ex should always be forgotten. But I don't blame you for feeling a little cheated on. You'll get over it if you love the boyfriend you're with at the moment.
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Little confused with question but I "think" i got it.\n\nYou have the hots for your ex-boyfriends's best friend. But the bugger isn't calling you, even though you have told him you are interested.\n\nAssuming I got it right ... here goes....\n\nGoing out with your best friend's Ex-girlfriend is ALWAYS a bad idea..... I can't imagine too many "friends" who would do that easily.\n\nI am also a little troubled that YOU would try to jump the fence and hook up with your ex-bf's best bud..... what if your ex didnt like the idea of his friend going out with you? You would be causing friction between two friends and in my book .... thats totally UNKOOL.\n\nAnd last choice is that NO he is not interested in you.\n\nI highly advice that you bat your eyelashes towards someone else..... there's no way that these two guys are the only two guys in your whole world...... find someone else who isn't directly connected to ur ex.\n\nOf course if you do hook up with your ex's best friend, I am sure we will see a new question one day:\n  \n"I still have feelings for my Ex... but I'm involved with his best friend... what should I do?"
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I met my boyfriend through a friend. Our friend wanted me to go play cards and stuff with him and maybe a little more. Then like I went home and the next day he called me and said you remember the guy that had to leave early? And I responded yeah...why and he told me that he wanted me to go to the movie with him the next Friday. I agreed and we hit it off decent. Went out the next day (Saturday) again and it just kind of happened. I wasn't really looking for anyone at the time but just hoping to get with the guy that hooked us up. It all turned out well though a little of 6 months later we are still happier than ever!
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hi..! well, i understand what do you feel right now.. i know it's hard to let go someone that you like, even though you cannot like them.. i think maybe you should try to 4get your bf's best friend.. i know that would be very hard.. i can understands you.. but that's all you need.. bcuz love need 'sacrifice', it means that you should let go that boy (your bf's best friend),, bcuz that is the beautiful of love.. you should enjoy it, even though it hurts you.. ok sista..
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never.. move on... Going after a bestfriends boyfriend/ ex boyfriend is the worst thing i person could do. Forget him
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Figure out what you want for real. Do you have the habit of moving from one guy to the next? If so, stop and take a few breaths before you get involved next time.\n\nAs for the guys, stay away from his best friend. You never should date a boyfriend's best friend unless the old relationship is long dead. And even then, it can be a sensitive topic.
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I had that experience before - but I broke up with that bf for a very weighty reason, so, even if he continued his pursuit supposedly "in the name of friendship," I didn't give in.  It took out the complications.  Don't sweat it.  :)
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Well, depending on whether you're still friends with your ex-bf. If he's someone you wouldn't like to hurt, I wouldn't touch his friend quite yet ^_-
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I know where u are coming from but always rememeber that if a guy like u be with that guy. Your ex boy friend really not paying you any attention. So good luck on your decision.
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I just got over a relationship where my best friend (who was also his x girlfriend) and him kept staying friends. I didnt really let him know how much it bothered me, but now that i look back, it totally bothered me... and now that were not together, im so glad its over because that issue was so annoying, not worth dealing with. Tell him to loose her and if he can't, drop him!
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I married the perfect guy, but I still feel something for the man I was suposed to marry. I've contact him after 11 yrs and he is still mad at me, besides we have an ocean between us, and I dont want to leave my hubby! wilmary69@yahoo.com
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I was in that exact situation a few years ago!! Totally clicked with my best friend, and when I pursued something we decided to date, and we never EVER went back to being good friends again. We talk a few times a week online but that is it. Ultimately it's up to you! You make the decision! If it's worth it... go for it!! Over all i think for me it was worth it. I would have always wondered "what if"...
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Your friend feels hurt and betrayed by your actions when you dumped him for the loser boyfriend.  It sounds as if he cares more for you than the other guy ever did.  Keep this in mind when dealing with the friend you could trust.  He's not the same guy who treated you so badly and he probably will not react in the same way.  Give him a chance.  \n\nIf you want to rebuild the friendship, you need to give it time and take small steps. Trust is the fastest thing to lose and the slowest to regain. Back off for now.  Leave him alone for a week or so, then if you still want to speak with him, text or email him that you've had some time to think and you're wondering how he's doing.  (Absolutely DO NOT do this if you are not totally sincere.  You've hurt him once already and he doesn't deserve to be hurt again.) If he answers, then you have a dialog.  Ask if you can speak to him on the phone.  Tell him you know that you did was wrong and ask for his forgiveness.  Most importantly, let him know how much you miss him.  Tell him that you'd like to talk to him again later.  If he agrees, then ask if he'd meet you somewhere for a coke or something.  After a few times of talking to you and seeing you, he will start to see a change.  That is what he's looking for.  When you feel that the both of you are ready, then find a way to be alone with him.  Tell him how you feel.  Most importantly don't rush him or yourself.  Friendship is built on trust and trust takes time.  Best of luck.  Hope this helps.
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Hi i was seeing this guy for 2 years, and as soon as we broke up i was so devastated and went into a state of depression, i ended up meeting up with some old friends of mine for some one nighters and it was the best thing i had ever done to boost my ego, then i started seeing this other guy about 2 months after and we were together for about 6 months and we now remain friends, he new what it was all about and thought it was a great relationship we had. I think you need to get your mind off the EX and have a little fun, it really helps.\n\n**Oh and the 2 year guy, he is one of my best friends and he has been trying to get me back since we broke up, he jokes that i am the only one he will really love, i can see myself marrying him, but not until i am ready to settle down. He's out doing the same thing, i love what we have**
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i think that you should just tell ur boyfriend how you feel. Tell him that although you like him so much u still have feelings for your ex that u need to deal with. the sooner you do this the less you will hurt him. There is no point of being with someone when ur thinking about another person.