y do u think, people at the same school who hardly know u would start talking about u behind ur back saying to ur friends and others, that u r just a stuck up snob that thinks they're hott...and that ur sooo overated? huh?huh? (guys as well as girls)
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I always think that if for some reason, someone you don't know is going out of his or her way to spread vicious rumors about you, you must either be quite popular, or pretty, or clever. Or, someone that person secretly or publicly likes, made a nice comment about you. Or it could be someone you inadvertently snubbed.\n\nPeople who do this usually have low self-esteem already, they are constantly criticising themselves in the back of their head, and many of them don't even know it. So, when they meet up with someone who is loads better than themselves, sometimes it is only apparent to them, or has someone see through their pretensions, their self-loathing is exposed and the only way they can avoid having to deal with their own self-hate, is to throw mud onto someobody else. That way, they can point at the 'mud' on the other person and hope that their 'mud' will go un-noticed.\n\nIf the rumors are particularly vicious, then a confrontation may not help, as you will be dealing with a lot of hatred, and this means a higher chance of it blowing up in your face. Explain to your friends that these are just rumors, have them help you to spread the facts about you. Be friendlier, nicer, show others that the real you is different. Show courage in weathering this, and you may gain more respect, and perhaps get more friends, at the end of it.\n\nChin up, you will be alright.
622543
Who cares if they think you are a nerd?? You know what you are and what you aren't so what does it matter.  If people cant accept you for who you are then don't care! Those are the people you should stay away from because they are two faced.  How do you even know guys think that about you? Maybe they look at you and think you're so gorgeous and would love to date you but they don't want to because they are shy or scared of you or something.  Stop caring about what people think of you and live your life the way you are and how you want to!
146600
Just be yourself.  Being popular is overrated, and at my school, the "popular" people aren't really that popular - they think they are, but the majority of people don't like them.  You're awesome the way you are.
251581
Thats what most guys think but as long as you only say hi and nothing more they wont think much of it either. They will just brag that they know you when they really dont. No say hi to everyone its ok. Dont worry, if guys that you are not attracted to you talk to you just start talking about another guy around them all of the time. Then they will see that their only your friend.
300107
Maybe they think u wont fit in with there crowd ppl label and u have 2 get used 2 it i label once i c some1 and they label meh back most ppl c meh as a prep when im not labels rnt always perfect but u have 2 learn 2 deal with it hope this helps um keep tryin maybe they will talk back but they prob wont sry bye
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Unfortunately, those girls grow up to be women who are simply bitter with themselves.\n\nI've had numerous accounts where women gossip about me, say I am conceited, etc. WITHOUT knowing one thing about me. \n\nI've even had some incidences where women confess that they thought I thought I was on my high-horse to later realize I'm very nice and down-to-earth.\n\nI've now learned to accept all kinds of gossip. I now embrace it and figure that I must have something special about me for people to stare, wonder & talk, without knowing one thing about me. Plus, depending on their own lives, it really amounts to them not having anything going on with themselves.\n\nBe flattered. Some people go unnoticed in life, you should be glad you're noticed and then some.
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im very shy but im alot of fun once u get to know me...im very mature for my age...im considered popular in my own crowed...which is a group of a bunch of...idk what they are..part jock...part prep...pary geek...so i pretty much get along with everyone...but the full blow popular crowd really needs to get a clue that they are not the only people in the school who matter...the emo kind of people need to stop cutting themselves and realize that they only get one life to live...the creepy scummy kind of people need to learn that soap is good for them and the jocks need to learn that takeing drugs only make there  u know whats smaller...and the durggies...they need to get a fucking life...but my group...the geeks need to just...loose the sweater vests...the jocks need to learn that there is more to life then sports..but i think if they both gave eachother some of them everything would be perfect..but itll never happen... what kind of person r u?
209463
You like being original, but you are also insecure and need the approval of the people that surround you. Well, that's what I think, but, since I don't know you... well, it is difficult to say
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It's not. Normal people don't love everything about themselves. If they do it's some kind of mental problem.\n\nEveryone thinks that they can be a little better here or little better there.\n\nHowever, if you think ur totally ugly, you need to check your self esteem. It's ok to be a little unsure, but if people are telling you that you are fine, then why worry?\n\nAfter all, even the best looking person in your school is not the best looking int the world, there is always someone better.
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i was popular for always coming late to school lol\nother than that.. not at all =)\njust a normal average girl, and still am\nhonestly, before i wished to be more popular, but now.. heck no... it is just a stupid and childish highschool thingy!\ni realized long ago that the popular girls in my school always got troubles with jealous girls, abusive handsome boyfriends, pervert teachers, etc etc\nso all of us who were not so popular back than are luckier than them =)
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maybe the guys at this school ain`t like the guys at your old school these guys don`t know you don`t give up just don`t jump out there and make a fool of your self just wait girl you will see he could be right around the corner just to shy to speak to you ,you know what i mean well i hope i could help you
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You want the practical or the sociologist's answer? When you try too hard, people can tell, and even though a lot of the "in" crowd is really insincere, they have something to work off of - connections, friends, money, some kind of social tender. But they can sense that you're just trying and shooting blind, and it's irritating to them. You're trying to do something that's not you.\n\nIt really depends on your personality, and as Julia Kristeva said, fame (or, in your case, popularity) is a social phenomenon. However, there are things you can do to let people naturally feel drawn to you.\n\nOne of them is not to care - be confident, develop your skills and talents, and be DAMNED good at them and proud of them. Don't be arrogant; be humble and caring and sincere, but know your strengths and be honest about your weaknesses. People will want to know why you're so satisfied, why they feel good around you, and what makes you tick.\n\nAnother is to be really outgoing without trying. I'm not talking about extroverted, but this ties in with confidence. When you have confidence, you'll slowly drop your fear or awkwardness at not fitting in.\n\nAll through elementary school I was supposedly an outcast, but I was so unaware of my surroundings (I had friends and a GREAT life outside of school) that I didn't know, and it didn't matter. When I moved, it became more apparent, and all through junior high, I was awkward, but I eventually grew into my own group of friends, though I was never "popular" but not an outcast either.\n\nI moved in the middle of high school (again), so things were weird, but I found that I loved the people I could have very stimulating, and, yes, geeky discussions with. I loved choir and drama, and I loved conversations with my teachers. I got along with people who loved these things too, and everybody else who didn't care to get to know me, I didn't lose sleep over. I actually enjoyed my peace of "invisibility," not being involved with all that drama, and for some reason, I started getting more attention and even guys hitting on me, though I wasn't one of those people eager to get into a relationship anyway.\n\nStill, it was my workplace (a martial arts studio) that really opened me up. Getting into routine, discipline, and the quirks of the place built confidence. I interacted with people there whom I wouldn't normally have spoken to outside, and it didn't matter that we were SO different; we respected each other. I was happy with what I did, and it showed.\n\nThat's carried a lot through college. I don't have to party to meet people, but I am confident in my abilities and organised enough to get my work done so I don't have to stress and cram and avoid people when I'm studying. It wasn't until I got here that I realised people noticed me, but I'm so used to being out of the limelight that I didn't realise how many friends I'd made throughout the years from all walks of life and how many people I'm now getting to know, just by being myself. I guess I'm still not "popular," the kind of person who hears about all the events, but I think I have more real friends than the people who stick to one group anyway.\n\nSorry for the rambling, but the key is not to worry and to be confident. Take care of yourself because you like yourself; take care of your health because it'll make YOU feel better, not because you'll look better to everyone else. I dress well because it helps me start the day off well, not to attract attention. I do my best not to get praise, but because I feel good about it; I feel accomplished. =)\n\nGood luck, but you don't need it!
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You don't. That's just the way they are. Unless you want to be ugly and unliked. Maybe it will die down once you get out of school. Maybe.
537085
Why do you care what people think? You are just looking for attention. People are going to say you're a lazy drop out & all sorts, why are you looking for that bad attention?
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Omg, my friends did the same thing, but they are just kidding around.  They always make fun of me because they think I'm a perfectionist, but I'm actually not one at all.  Just laugh it off and if it really starts bugging you, pull them aside and tell them you're not going to dumb yourself down just to get the same grades as them, but you'd be happy to help them if they need it!
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Guys take that as you are not interested in them. It makes it hard to talk to you if you appear standoffish, and some might think you snobbish.
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They are only talking behind your back to make themselves look better.  People who talk about others are always trying to make themselves look better in someone else's eyes.  Guys also give each other a hard time and not think too much about it.  Maybe you should just ignore this kind of behavior.  Don't practice it either.  As you say, they are being immature.  Be the mentor, not the little kid.