i don't know if i'm feeling the right thing in sex. can some one help. also does it have to feel GOOD every time?
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You first time can be painfull especially if he is not condsiderate.  It should get better but it does not feel good everytime. Some women don't even like it until their in their 30's .  Some never like it.  Women! Go figure.  Just try to relax and concentrate on your body and how it feels. Don't put a lot of pressure on yourself over it.
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Its good that you have waited, sex between two people that really care about each other is amazing. \n\nBe carefull, make him wear protection, choose a time when your not going to get disturbed, your both relaxed and you feel ready, for any female, it is usual to hurt at first, make him take it steady.\n\nYou will always remember you first time, make it special, take precautions and have fun
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I have heard of girls who had a good first experiance and came durring the experiance kinda get addictided to it like a drug and connot help wanting something up there all the time. You need to learn control though or else you'll end up with one of two things. And STD, or other illness (make sure the things you put up there are clean honey) or you will end up pregnant.\n\nBest to remember that although it feel good and is instinct, you control your sex drive, your sex drive does not control you.\n\nTake it one day at a time
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My advice to you is be honest and open with him, You can please yourself while he is making love to you. Communication is the key here. Tell him what feels good and what doesn't.
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I think you should be completly up front and honest...Honesty is the fundation of a healthy relationship.\nI know exactly how u feel...when i saw your question i had to respond right away, it has been 10 yrs for me also. my experiences have not been great either, not in the least.\nMy advice beyond being upfront is to start out slow and work your way into the deeper aspects of sexuality... Be emotionally intimate...that will enhance your sex life..have a lot of passionate, intense crazy make out sessions, you may become more and more comfortable with your sexuality that way.\nI think it is honorable that you haven't been careless and free with sex
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when you are having sex ,just imagine your past foreplay.if it doesn't work then, meet sex therapist b/cos you may have organismic dysfunction.
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If you truly couldn't wait, you would have gone out and done it :)\nIn your heart of hearts, you obviously want to wait until there is someone special in your life, and that is a good thing!\nCelebrate the fact that when you make love, it will be that - making love.  And not some cheap one night of sex which would leave you feeling worse.\nI know it must be very frustrating, but I think you are craving having someone special to spend time with more than you are craving 'sex'.\nThere are many people, male and female, who make the desicion to wait until they meet someone special until they have sex.  I didn't wait, and I do regret it.  Meaningless sex leaves alot of people unfulfilled - it left me feeling worse than I felt before.  This might happen to you too - often you can feel worthless and you self confidence drops after a one night stand.\nDo you really want your first time to be with 'just some random girl'?  Would it not be more special to wait until you find someone you truly care for who cares for you?\nI hope its not coming across like I'm telling you that you have to wait - if you really want to just have sex then you can do that - I just want to let you know that some of who did that wish we had waited.\nI don't know if you would actually be able to change how you feel - you are 24 so you are a grown man who knows his own mind, and it is likely that deep down you know you would be happier waiting.  I hope you don't feel presuriesed in to having sex - I've known a lot of people who has presuriesed mates 'jokingly' only for it to come out later that they themselves hadn't had sex and weren't comfortable with that fact, and were just trying to shift attention.  Mates have a way of making us feel small for taking the sensible route sometimes.\nYou made a positive descion to wait, and I think it would be best for you to stick to that descision.\nIf you've yet to meet anyone special - get out and meet more people.  Make new friends - the more people you know, the more chance you have of meeting someone who you click with.\nGood luck, I hope you can make the right descision for YOU!\n\nEditted to add:\nThe only way you can 'control' yourself is to think things through and look deep inside yourself so you know what is the right descision to make.  Only you can decide wether or not to wait, so if you find yourself feeling like you might be tempted to just go out and get laid, take a step back for a couple of minutes, and ask yourself if that is what you really want.  Listen to your heart and your mind, and remember that purely physical urges will pass, but the negative feelings you may have if you have an unfulfuilling sexual encouter can last a lot longer.\nHope this helps.
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Many women are doing it...If  your partner  takes his  time  and  uses  the  right tools...Ambiance...lubrication...perfect Time  and Place...it's  great....\n\nIs not supposed to hurt if you do it right and  take time  for Foreplay...\n\nYou will have  to try  it  to  find  out  if  you like  it...
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not really, maybe it was just a coincidence...i'm a woman, we are so moody when in comes to moments in making love.one minute we feel passionately sexy and would like to make love like we've never had it before, and then the next minute we'd feel like we're the fattest gal,unfit to make love.but a guy should also be sensitive enough to know how her sweatheart feels each moment.the body language speaks alot...goodluck!
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sometimes for a woman - the sexual enjoyment starts more with a mental stimulation then moves to the physical side. You need to learn to clear your mind, relax and turn your mind to sexual pleasure. I don't mean think about what to do to your man to please him - I mean think about what pleases you - what are your fantasies - what little thing that you or your lover does that just sends you over the top. Work this little thing into your mental fantasy - hopefully this will put your mind in the right mood - believe me if your mind is into it - your body will do just fine. Good luck and happy "O"'s to you!
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Sweetie, if you feel like you are being used... then it means you aren't happy. Therefore, talk to him about it. Say, why don't you pay this time.. or when he wants to do something say ok, well you pay because I had XXX bills this month so money is tight. Talk to him about making you leave after sex. If you don't bring it up, it will eat away at you.\n\nHere is a hint- if he gets angry/ defensive after you tell him any of this, then yes he is most likely a user and your instincts were probably right. If he says, sorry hun didn't mean to make you feel that way, or something to that extent, then he seems like a good guy.\n\nAnd girl, cmon now, real estate agent, successful woman, you've got it goin on- if it does turn out that he's using you move on! You're a catch and can do better!
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Good communication = Good sex\nEvery woman is a little bit different. If you want to have a mutually wonderful time with sex, then try telling her to be your teacher, and you follow her instructions. This way you learn what makes her happy in bed, and you both have a good time. Play this back and forth, and remember that you need to try variables like speed, firmness, and always feed back information. Don't be shy, and don't let your feelings get in the way of satisfying each other. Don't get into a rut by doing the same thing the same way all the time, but remember what it is that sends her over the edge, and use it with discretion. I am sure that you will both discover more, and more things that feel good, and better than either one of you ever thought of. Just be open, and give each other the respect that you both deserve. Nothing like higher learning.
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It's all up to you. I assume you're young, I have a great feeling you are. But understand, It is natural for a guy to want to. It's pleasing to males also to know it makes you feel good. But do not do anything you're unsure or very uncomfortable with. You ofcourse will be unconfortable with it being as you're unsure but it shouldn't stop you from trying it. If YOU want to, that is.\n\nBest of luck.
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I think your feelings are totally normal. You should wait until you feel is right. If you still have some doubts or fears hanging around don't do anything. If you want to make your first time special, wait until it feels right.\n\nI also strongly recommend to you talking about those fears with your boyfriend. Talking about those will help both to understand where you are at.\n\nWhatever you do, please do it with the full awareness.You do not want to remember your first experience with sadness or doubts.
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I would imagine (because that's all a guy can do) that we feel the same way about satisfying our partner as a woman does; self-satisfaction that we could make her feel VERY good.  \n\nAs to being told what to do, that really depends on the mood of the moment.  Am I in a kinda selfish mood where I want the satisfaction? Or is it her turn?  In the case of the former, mo directions needed!  In the latter, guidance--explicit guidance would be quite helpful (for both of us) and a refreshing change.  Being able to 'read' your partner is one thing, but actually being able to know what exactly they want?  Come on, nobody's a mindreader!
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Firstly, i would like to know what normal is? And to answer your question, if you feel within your soul that you want to find out about your sexuality then make sure that your partner knows exactly how you feel. Your body will let you know how the experience outcomes. Do take your time and be comfortable within your own skin and mind before you do anything around intimacy. Hugs are great and i am giving you one now to keep on finding your inner self and be at peace with your soul. \n\n:)
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Trust me, this is so normal and I actually feel like this all the time.  I love giving my BF oral sex. Just the thought of tasting him right now makes me quiver.  I also think that it has a lot to do with me making him feel as good as I do.  To know that he's 6 years older than me and I've given him the best oral sex in his life makes me overwhelmed.  I actually thought that I was the only one who felt like this, Thanks girl you made me feel a lot better