Let's say you met this girl in Winter, a very cold season.  She has a very cute face and has a nice figure, and she has a great personality. She's caring, kind, smart and she's so fun to be with. You really like her and you two became great friends. Now you wanna be more than friends with her and you are falling for her gradually. You are about to ask her if they could move on to the next step as gf and bf. However the season has changed and it's warmer. You see her wearing light cloths like a T shirt and find a big gross permenent scar on her body which she had never told you about. \nHonestly what would you do? Would you mind and change your mind? Or Would you step back and think about it for a while? Would you mind going to the beach with her if she had a gross looking scar?
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People like to say that looks dont matter and its whats on the inside that truely counts. While this is true in theory is is most often not very true in practice.\n\nMost people given the choice between an average looking person who has a great personallity and an attractive person with a bad personality will go with the attractive person. I think the reason is that people think of their boyfriends/girlfriends a fashion items. "Nice coat!" "Cute shoes!" "Oh nice boyfriend! You got the whole set."\n\nI had a big time crush on a friend of mine who is in a wheelchair. She is awesome to be with, kick ass, and a beatiful person. Our lives went to very different paths so we never dated but I sure as hell wanted to.\n\nIf the person cares for you as a person, none of that shit should matter.
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What ever flots your boat. Anything you want her to do or be. IF you want her to be your girlfriend or anything you want. Do what you think is right.
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Pretty hard situation, but I think deep inside, you already know the answer. If she's the love of your life, no ocean's too wide, no valley's too deep, you will do it. But if you guys will just be transitional lovers, slide back to the good old days because it's comfortable, until you meet the next hit, then you better let it slide.\n\nLook within, you know best what you want.
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If it is someone I really like I would wait as long as they wanted. It would totally be her decision and I wouldn't want to pressure her into doing something she doesn't want to do. If a girl wanted to give it up too soon I would ask her to wait, and think about what she was doing, to make sure it is what she really wanted. I wouldn't want her to regret it later. I think that at least a month should go by without sexual relations as a minimum if it is someone you really like. Anything less and either her or I would regret it.
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OMG, i had that same problem, but mine escilated to a much more intense factor.  What i would tell you would do, that is doesn't matter what other people think about you, as long as your BF knows that you like like him (i wont say love because that might be to deep) then it doesnt matter.  I know noone whats to hear that because from my own experiance just believing that wont help and that is probally what you dont want to hear.  what i would do is spread rumors that is she/he is a lieing bi*ch and then more people would like to beleive you than her because if they think she is a lier then they would believe you...well i hope i helped!  Oh and one other thing.  Dont become her freind again!  i made that mistake, move on, that is what i found out too late
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I'd avoid getting involved in this mess. If she likes you, let her figure out how to work it out. She sounds a little flaky to me. What happens when someone more interesting comes along once you two hook up? Is she going to want to be friends with him? See my point?
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"what are you thinking about her usually or all the time? like are you thinking about you and her making out? kissing?.. or just simply her face? smiling? "\n\nall of these + asking out for a date
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By saying she is way out of your league, you aren't respecting her as a person.  You are saying that she look down on you just because she is beautiful.  If you really think this girl is so wonderful don't you think that you owe it too her to give her a chance to feel what ever she may about you instead of you choosing for her?  This girl may see beyond your looks and her looks and be interested in a meaningful relationship that is based upon more than just looks.  Take a chance and let her know how you feel and ask her out or you will never know for sure and you definitely won't get the girl without at least trying.
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Give it a try. If they ur "buddy" they should know what you like and they wouldn't be talking to you about this "perfect" chick if she ain't worth it. Your friend is telling you she "perfect" for a reason. It don't matter. If you like her, you keep seeing her. If you don't like her, f*ck it then-you dnt need to be with her. I know how it could be and how you feel. I never been in something like that, but I can relate and kinda put myself in your position. cuz NO, I haven't been on one and I don't really know what it's like, but I'm not dumb-I would go ahead and do have the damn blind date. I mean, if my friend tells me things I like about this person, then yeah, why not? Find out about her first, though. You wouldn't wanna waste your precious time when you can find out about her now. If you like what you hear, then... do it. It would be nice if u had a pic, but that's the point of a blind date (i think)... watever.\n\nSo, yeah... go ahead and do it. And if you feel "apprehensive"... i dnt kno what dat means. lol. sry :(
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From experience....a friend "is" what she is looking for.\nShe obviously has not had enough time to get over, settle in, or even realize and let what has happened sink in. \nIf you get involved with her at this point...you are asking for a heartache. Sorry.  It will comfort her, but she will move on or go back.  You will be left in the cold.  I believe that you did the right thing and if and when she gets her head on straight, she will call the one who "let" her go.  Her friend.  If she doesn't; she was not worth having!
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She might be protecting you....until the cold-sore\nor herpe outbreak ends.\n   No seriously,she may be feeling a bit guilty about\nyou two ,and this is her way of handling the situation.\nAs for the cheating...thats just plain silly, of course it is.\nAs for the future : don`t expect anything different if you were\nin the bf shoes.\n   But,she obviously likes you enough to engage in the\n"feel on her WHOLE body" part.You may be one step closer\nto being her new bf. How long has it been since she saw the\nbf ? Girls get horny too, ya know.- You might be just a "fillin"\n   Are you really sure she still has a bf ? It might be her\nway of S-L-O-W-L-Y engaging into a new relationship. Either that,\nor she really has a warped sense of morals. ummm.......\nDoes she have a sister ?  \n  Best advice : talk to her
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Oh my god, like so many things in my life im glad im not the only one in strange situations.  I dont really think this question has a viable answer that anyone can tell you. There is no black and white and this one, its all grey.  I believe that if you like her then you should stand by her, but dont wedge yourself between her and her Bf.  Show her your love and that you care for her, she will love you more for understanding than for telling her that she messed up.  and thats what i think that she more than likely did. You guys had issues, she was upset and thought it would be better on "the other side". Truth is no matter what one does things will always be bad untill they love themselves and who they are. She likes girls, she realizes that now.\n\nYoure going to have problems with the father of the child. (he has a penis). But because of the child he forever has to be a part of her life. Nothing you can do about that.\n\nJust take her in and accept her, help her through this time. If she plays with you then thats just life. We cannot predict exactly what she will think in the future.  If you really want to be with her, then just roll with it.\n\nsorry sweetheart, maybe im just babbling but i dont know what else to say. wish i could help.
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I wouldn't come right out and tell her that you saw her naked it will probably embarrass her and then things between you will be awkward and uncomfortable. If you think that you might have feelings for her and want to pursue a relationship then start gradually. Try flirting with her and see what her reaction is. If it is positive then you can start to hint that you find her attractive and would like to see if you can take the relationship to a different level if she doesn't feel the same then the friendship should be able to stay the same. If she likes you like that then great! But if it turns out that you really do like her and want to be with her and you never tell her you might regret it later. Good luck!
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I would respect her for the person that she is and be a good friend to her and not take her where shes not ready to go yet. I wouldnt want to taint whats left of her childish wonder and innocents, or whats left of it. I would do everything possible to let her know you think shes a amazing person but yet keep healthy boundries, what would her parents do if you crossed that line? Probably bannish you from ever seeing her again. At this point i would stay close to her, but not close enough to touch, she has alot of growing up to do before shes ready for the kind of relationship your ready for. Just let her know that you care and she can come to you with all of her problems. But make sure you dont create any problems for her by showing her how you feel completely. I know its a complex situation, but you can handle your feelings being trapped inside for a few years that what she can handle knowing how you feel and not being able to act on them, at least with out any serious consequences. I hope it all works out for you in the long run, but make sure you stay far away from romance for another 5 years or so :) for both of your interests, but by all means be a good positive influacne for her journey threw adolecance, it can be a rocky road :)
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Know what you mean here.  I was in the same boat a little over a year ago.  I'd been friends with this girl for a while and I developed a crush on her.  I was too afraid to ask her out too.  Eventually, a mutual friend told her how I felt and she felt the same way.  Things worked out pretty well.  We've been dating for 51/2 months or so.  My advice is go for it.  If she is a true friend then she should respect your feelings even if she doesn't feel the same way.  Ask her she wants to take things to the next level. You have to be carefully.  If she says no, then you can't go treating her any differently even if you are hurt by it a little.  She shouldn't change because you show interest in her so neither should you.
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Lend her my shirt?  I'd give it to her and dream forevermore that, once in a great while, she'd wear it again.\n\nAnd you had BETTER believe I'd watch her change, then perhaps I'd gouge my eyes out, since, having once seen perfection, everything else might seem empty and corrupt afterwards.\n\nWell, maybe not.  But I'd definitely give her my shirt.
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aww thats reely reely sweet. ok. uhh i would probaly pick a dif. song b/c this song is perty much onli talkin about the way the grl looks. and unless ur gf gets turned on by someone constantly talkin about how she looks...then yea. but some girls get offened b/c they think they are just someone that looks pretty for u to walk with. u kno wat i mean? if u dont understand wat im sayin...IM me-- johndeeregagrl87@yahoo.com\n[[shes reely lucky to have a bf like u]]