For me the problem is that people are to worried about what others will think of them. If men act to sensitive they are marked as gay. And if a women acts to strong then she is a b**ch. Why can't a women be as strong as a man without being  considered that? They are some really strong women in our country and to think what they had to over come to get where they are?
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Men and women can both be strong and sensative in their own ways. Strength can be physical, mental, emotional, etc... Also, to be "sensative" does not mean to cry durring a movie, or say "ow" when pinched. Sensative, by it's adopted and implied definition, means to be aware of the circumstances and needs of others.\n\nIn reference to strength, men have a natural physical strength. Men also have a natural strength to put certain emotions aside when necessary. With the same respect, a man's physical strength often leads to arrogance and false security. Which, in all truth, is a weakness.\n\nPROVERBS 16:18 Pride [goeth] before destruction, and an haughty spirit before a fall.\n\nAlso, a man's ability to neglect his emotions often leads to stress and/or irrationality.\n\nIn regard to women, women have a natural strength for bearing children. Women also have a strength of patience.\nHowever, women often confuse patience for procrastination and neglect. Some problems require immediate action, not hesitation.\n\nReferring to sensativity, both men and women show it in different manners. Women tend to talk out their emotions before handling the situation. Men rather deal with the situation before anything else.\n\nThe problem with many, including feminits, is their lack of understanding of the sexes. Men should not try to be feminine:\n\n1 Corinthians 6:\n\n9 Know ye not that the unrighteous shall not inherit the kingdom of God? Be not deceived: neither fornicators, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor effeminate, nor abusers of themselves with mankind,\n10 Nor thieves, nor covetous, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor extortioners, shall inherit the kingdom of God.\n\n(note the word "effeminate" which means "acting or showing to be feminine against nature")\n\nWomen should not try to be masculine. If Christ only wanted men, He would not have created Eve. In stead, men and women shoul appreciate each other for their God ordained natures. And use the virtues of each other, guided by Christ, to the benefit of all.
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because people are cruel and want to target someone that is different then them. I wish everyone would just leave gay people alone. They are also human beings with feelings!!
91811
Because society makes us as females feel like we are not suppose to express our sexuality, and when we do its considered inappropriate.  And its more acceptable for men to be "dogs," and they won't be judged. But me personally have never let that get in my way, i love sex and i tell whomever i'm dating that i love sex.  But that doesn't mean i'm going to give it up easy, no matter how hard it is.
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As a gay guy I think it has to do with rejection and all that. Homosexual men get tons of abuse and are sometimes in need of counseling to deal with it properly. I myself am a super nice guy but some are so suspicious of being liked because so many people abuse them and rail against them that they end up doing the same thing to a guy that approaches them.\n\n  Another thing is that some people think of us all as sluts out for one thing and since society in general reject the idea of homosexual covanant relationships it becomes self fulfilling prophesy in some cases. Some guys have no manners and grab in ways they would not think of doing to a woman in bars and social settings so ....
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Some men just think if they express themselves they seem week. We think a woman admires us for our strength and back in the old days it was true that if a man showed fear or sadness or even that he was in love, then he wasn't a "man". It's in our nature to hide any softness. Only women were soft. But some of us have realized, though, that women are more independent now and don't need so much "protection". It's just in our nature to to be strong and silent, though in some cases it's for homophobic reasons. Some men just need to be assured that expressing feelings is not a weakness but that it shows they are comfortable themselves and their mate. Let him know that if he expresses himself to you privately that he doesn't have to be so open when company is around. Trust me, it's not just you he may be protecting himself from. If he's been hurt in the past it could take a long time to open up. Just don't over do it by forcing him. Some men just feel more comfortable keeping it inside, but you have your needs too so don't give up. Hope I could help.
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Partly I'd say it's the politically correct nature that society has been taking since the early nineties.  There was previously a huge social stigma and a lot of hatred directed at people who were/are not heterosexual.  While this has lessened as of late, that doesn't mean it has gone away and many people who fall under the GLBT category feel especially targetted and quick to become hostile.  In my opinion it's a placating tactic to devote an entire sub-group to such issues, but they are very specific in a broad sense (just a bit contradictory I know) and many people experience them.  This facilitates the need for a special category being listed.  However, to be perfectly fair they'd need to make a group under the category for every lifestyle and flavour of relationship.  Thankfully, life isn't fair, and there aren't hundreds of sub listings.
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because they're homophobic a s s w h o l e s and they think they're not men, or whatever...it's the same thing not letting gay couples get married.  everybody has a right to feel and do what they want, and i think we need to stop trying to police it!!
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The gay movement is aggressive against holy things: like marriage, people who say it's a sin, etc.  It is only natural to be wary of them because they want to start a war....they have already.\n\nMy point is, if there is any phobia, isn't it their doing?\n\nShould they just live their lives without forcing the rest of society to call what they do "good?"
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I agree, I always wondered that myself. I work with a lot of women who talk about women can do everything a man can do, but let a heavy box land in front of them and it's like they forgot everything they said about their abilities.
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For a couple of reasons. Americans fall victim the very human instinct of being afraid of that which they don't understand. If they are not gay, then they don't want gay people around, because they make the "straights" uncomfortable.\n\nAlso, it makes people feel like they belong to something to exclude someone else. That is the root problem in the cases of slavery, sexism, and homophobia.\n\nLastly, Americans resent being told what to do. It's part of our nature. So when people in government make laws FORCING us to accept a certain lifestyle, or laws that PROMOTE one group over another, there is a dangerous backlash in retaliation. \n\nGood question, but be careful not to limit your vision to the faults of America. It isn't just us-and it isn't all of us.\n\nGood Luck!
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As with all cultures, there is definitely a fragmenatation within the gay community.  It depends how stable and established the community is before it forms subcultures.  For gay men, you can be a twink, bear, queen, fashionista, muscle mary, drug whore... the list is endless.  Many people find that they associate with one particular group (eg muscle marys may find that they have a shared interest in going to the gym).  Lesbians can be butch, femme, dykes, into tattoos.. again the list is a long one.\n\nFar from being a negative thing, this subdividing should be seen as positive - it shows that gay culture is strong enough to allow fragmentation.  Some people see their sexuality as a secondary thing.  As long as gay people remember the battles our forefathers had to get us to this point, our communities should stay strong.\n\nThere is one further point to remember - not all transvestites are gay.  There are many straight people who enjoy the experience of wearing the other gender's clothes.  They tend to be drawn to gay communities because we are seen as being more tolerant of those who appear different.\n\nOf course you are going to get the odd person who verbalises an intolerance towards others.  I think this actually is an expression of self-loathing and low self esteem, something that is a recurring theme in the gay community.  If you hear people critisising others, ignore them, they're not worth the effort.  Eventually if we all work towards a common goal of support and acceptance, they will tire of being ignored and join the party.
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the reason being men are so insecure to be around you\nwith their girl coudl be the fact u play the dominate role and you could easily replace em because you offere a better calling, althought you might not see it that way but fact is guys might \nguys are not all there and are not as resonabl eand understanding and when they feel not in control things\ngo to hell from there and they will do anything nasty\nto regain this control which results of confidence security etc.\ni dont believe there is anything u can do to avoid this\nalthough you migh tmean well it will never be viewed that way. its like how gay people are looked upon unforunately thats how the world evolves \nmy best advice to you is to just talk about it with them\nand make a reasoning to secure their control\nor again just learn to brush it off, there is no way \nout of it unless the people that make comments to you\nlearn or change.\nsorry to hear that, its a cruel world\njust think of it what makes u fall only makes us tronger\nbest of luck to you
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I find it strange that he has to defend himself so much. Personally, I've known a lot of gay people. Some were open about and some were not. The ones that were not usally had their reasons for not wanting people to know. If he is gay, (and it soinds to me like he is) He has his reason for not being honest about. And truethfully, It's really nobodys buisness if he is, except his.I hope I helped some with your question. You helped me A LOT with the one I had. Thanks again.
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Because they don't want to lable themselves as a particular type of person. The truth is we all have a place that we wish we could go but we don't. We just don't talk about it for fear of rejection of others.
123806
I think this has something to do with being branded gay themselves.It's stigmatic, although very narrow minded, it's still out there all over the world. People are afraid of anything, or one in this case who are different and make quick assumptions.Hey, I had two great big trucky guys living across the road from me, both looked like rough rednecks, but they where very gay.Lovely guys though. Men are very egoccentric when it comes to their own manhood.
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i actually did research on this for a speech on gender differences, and one source said that in a study, women were more frequently sexually aroused by images of women than men were by images of men. this was not a "how hot was that?" survey, this measured their chemical reactions when viewing the images.\ni also think it has something to do with social acceptability. women are often encouraged by media and other influences (i.e. men) to perform bisexual acts, whereas it is much more taboo for men to do so. look at how gays, lesbians and bisexuals are portrayed in the media: with lesbians, it's often split between unattractive women and gorgeous ones, and bisexual women are usually very attractive. gay men are typically the comic relief, and i can't remember the last media reference i heard to a bisexual man. when these stereotypes are drilled into us daily, they often become a part of our subconscious, sometimes even altering our beliefs.
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I believe it's because alot of people are arrogant.  They think they know everything and that they're better than everyone else.  Plus, it's also because of stereotypes.  You know...if you're a guy and you talk kind of feminine...then you must be gay....\nArrogant people only bother to look at the surface.  They look at you and determine which stereotype you fall under, and if they don't like who you are stereotypically, they won't bother getting to know you better, they just move on.