I am a muslim girl from Pakistan. I searched everywhere for a right guy to get married but couldn't find yet. Even my family did try to find somebody for me but I refused to compromise.I want to get married to a man of my own choice.The one who attracts me physically and is compatible to me as well.I found only internet the best possible way to find somebody for marriage.but believe me internet is Fraud. There is only Cheating left in this world.now finally i am hopeless and think may be nobody is worth marrying me. may be i will find my soul mate in the after world.\nsomething is wrong with me I can't compromise upon marriage. I can't marry a person who doesn't attract me physically.i can't marry someobody who is not pious. i don't know what to do. i am depressed because i want to get married but to whom?????
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I understand u , i'm a muslim from Egypt, I know how u feel, but just take it easy dont make ur whole life rotate around this issue, it will come sooner or later, dont be over judgemental & also try to c many people, engage in new friends, try to go out, i know this is difficult in our cultures , but try. Beleive stop searching & it will come 2 u.
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do you like (or love) yourself? a little unsure, hu? not yet enough self-confidence, i suppose.\n\nguess you are a very young girl. \nyour education completed? \nyou and your family ok? \nnot enough boys around?\nor why this hurry?\n\nif you continue your "come and go" behavior you create the image "easy to have but not steady". not the best foundation for happiness.\n\nbtw: if you´re looking for mr. right - sorry, i am no longer in the offer (captured in 1983 - and i love it) :-))\n(2nd attempt - and it works // my wife says, í´m happy - and she´s right!) take your time.\n\nkeep learning but don´t waste yourself, show respect to the boy and his feelings. and to your own.\nwish you luck and patience
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i see that you want to have a more stable relationship and i don't blame u for that. \ni also wanted to marry when i was 17 and my bf 25. but we needed our parents' consent and they didn't agree. i have to tell you that now (when i'm 22) i realize that i'd have done a great mistake by marrying the guy then. i've met a lot of guys ever since and even though 'he' seemed to me the charming prince at that time, i realized that there were other guys much better than him.\nnow i don't even think about marriage, i want to enjoy life, cause all my life i'll be married. \nit's hard to be married i'm telling u. and you'll soon get bored of it and it's not like something you can give up like that. it concerns the rest of your life.
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All my friends are getting married too. And I haven't even found a soul mate. But it doesn't bother me. I think everything happens for a reason. Maybe is a good think you did not get married in August. Maybe your fiance wasn't right for you. A guy of your dreams might be closer than you think. There are too many maybes but no real answer. Right?\nI think you should meet new guys, go on dates, and have fun. You don't have to sleep with them. Guys who are interested in you just so they can get you in bed, those are wrong guys. See, you haven't find a guy of your dreams yet. And he is out there. It will happen when the time is right. \nDon't get depressed over this. It is not worth it. Why do we have to get devastated about guys? Why don't they get devastated about us? \nYour friends who got married they found their soul mates, but let me tell you, lot of them don't really tell you the way they feel. Not all of them are happy. And most of them are jealous of you b/c you are single. \nLive your life why you can and enjoy every single day of your single life. Do things. Go travel, visit  friends in different cities you haven't seen in a while. Go to places you haven't been to yet, you don't have to do that by yourself but go with a friend, sister or brother. Even taking vacation with your parents would be an option too.
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Im not offended in anything your doing by searching for a boyfriend but the best way to find someone you will like or would like to marry is by NOT looking. I know it sounds weird but I was single for 17 years and ever since I started liking girls I searched for a girlfriend. I went to the mall only on the mission to get a girlfriend. I didnt get on at all but it was when I said I was gonna stop and let God let me find the right girl was when I met my future wife. The right person for you is not someone you can search for and find but its a person that you meet without any explanantion. Thats the way I feel. Dont feel rushed to meet that person. There is always someone out there for everyone. My girlfriend lives almost 40 miles away and I met her in a place thats really far away from my house. Even if I searched all my life I wouldnt have found her where I did. Just be patient and you will meet the right person.
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I don't have a problem finding love over the internet. After all, I met my husband on the net.\n\nWhat I have a problem with is people who actively go looking on the internet. It's like putting your name in the personals in the newspaper. A sign of desperation. And last I looked desperation isn't a good thing.\n\nThe internet is also dangerous because people don't think when they meet someone on the net. They rush into it talking about how they met only a month ago and have talked for only a week over the phone and want to get married to this person. For some reason, if it's over the net, they don't want to wait until they actually get to know someone.\n\nMy husband and I have known each other for almost 9 years. We knew each other for over three years as friends over the net. Then we spent 5 and a half years "dating" going back and forth between our countries and talking on the phone for hours and hours every night for YEARS. \n\nWe've been married since June.\n\nMost people aren't willing to take the time it takes. It's not like meeting someone face to face. It's alot more dangerous and you don't have the ability to look at each other so you can rely on your own personal perception. \n\nPeople also aren't willing to wait until they're over that "honeymoon" phase of the relationship and work at the communication part. It's why most internet relationships fail. They can't handle the distance and work on the communication.\n\nEven my family, the people who were so sceptical in the beginning and advising me against getting involved with my husband. Even they have admitted that this is probably the healthiest relationship they've ever seen due to the level of communication he and I have. We can even finish each others sentences and yet we will find each other absolutely fascinating. Even after all this time.\n\nIf people would learn to be patient and take it slowly, I wouldn't say anything. But most people seem convinced they want to marry this person after speak to them for only a month or so over the internet. It's ridiculous.
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I'm going through the same thing. And I know someone who went through it and is happily married now. So that makes me optimistic. I guess what I'm saying is NEVER SETTLE... Don't u want to b happy.
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Dear Silver465,  Never give up on love, when you least expect it, it can creep up on you and bite you on the butt before you realize it.\nYou will find love, I don't know where you live, but there are nice girls all around.\nIf you are a church goer, try going to the single get-togethers. \nI don't recommend on-line dating, but that is up to you.  Do you have any single guy friends that may be able to hook you up with someone???  \n\nGood luck, sweetheart, and I hope that you find someone SOON, God bless you,\n                                                                                                Juanita
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marry the one you love. my wife is a sikh and i am a englishman and she had the same problem with her family.  the guy you dont know will treat you like trash so dont do it. stand your ground the world is changing be yourself and do what you want.
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People are forever saying 'Where've all the good men (or women) gone?' You'd think there was no-one left! Well it's not true. I know finding Mr - or Mrs - Right isn't easy. But there are ways to improve your chances. In fact romance is no different to any other part of your life. It's up to you to make things happen! So, forget all the myths - most of them are wrong anyway. And take charge of your love life. It may sound unromantic - but it works! \n\nThe thing is, your perfect partner isn't just going to appear out of the blue. I know we all believe in love at first sight. We like to hear stories about how people fall in love. We adore the idea of two people's eyes meeting across a crowded room. I'm not saying it never happens. Just not very often.\n\nMore often a long lasting love starts when you meet someone who shares your interests, respect and friendship. So a strategy for meeting people like that can pay dividends. Just about everyone wants love, but few work towards making it happen. They think it's a matter of luck.\n\nBut actually, luck has only a little to do with it! Do you remember the joke about the man who prayed every week to win the lottery. But nothing happened. Then one day, in the midst of his prayers, there's a huge clap of thunder and a voice boomed: 'How can I possibly help you? First you have to buy a ticket!' Just about everyone dreams of finding a soul-mate. But few plan for success. We just hope for the best. In fact most of us put more time and effort into planning a party!\n\nMarriages aren't made in heaven either. If they were, then the angels have made a lot of mistakes! God doesn't provide us with a mate. He gives us the ability to make choices. Mind you, many of us make rotten choices - especially when it comes to choosing a partner. So we need to learn how to make them more effectively. And not just to settle for the first likely person to happen along.\n\nBecause, there's loads of possible partners out there. Lots of people have the right characteristics - if you can only find them. So the trick's to get to know more people who match your needs. Then you can safely fall in love with any of them!
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I'm in a 10 year realtionship with the girl of my dreams.  We try not to worry about the hate in this world.  We overcome obstacles together, like other couples.  You don't have to have kids or even a marriage certificate to truly be happy or to "bind" your relationship, you just have to love each other and all the pieces will fall into place.  Everyone has a soulmate out there somewhere, sometimes you just have to be a little more open minded to find them!  I absolutely believe that you will find happiness with the right person.
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yeah i would say the same as above, you can certainly find a better man to be married to....he sounds like a scumbag.....good luck to you
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Hi, i can understand the phase u r going through, what i feel is be practical and just forget him or else u will ruin ur life for nothing. Stand on ur own feet, don't beg for him, u r just pampering his male ego, u said he is marwari then just forget it, these people are like this only, they do anything out but when thinking abt marriage they will support their family's decision. Don't waste ur life show him u r not dependent on him, there must be somebody for u a good person who can really love u and take care of u but for that u have to come out of this phase on ur own, u will be successful just have faith in Shree Sai Baba, he helps out everyone. All the best!
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Ask yourself wht u want in ur women, if ur just interested in the beauty of the outer body,then u can get ur women in some beauty contest . If ur looking a nice angle heart, then any matrimonial site, or dating site will help but here also spent lot of time with each other to really understand .But the truth is that no one of us is reallly perfect , since we all are imperfect in some aspects or another,thts why the marriage ceremony is deviced as the shortcomings of the men is covered by women and vice versa.But the true test of finding ur beloved is to listen to ur heart , be honest, and stick to the ground reality ..Best Of Luck !!!!
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You sound really nice.  Why don't you go and try to meet people in person?  Try a dating service... Internet personals can be a little scary , although I know a few couples that met on match.com and are now married!  There are some places out there that will meet you, and try to set you up with someone, in person.  It's a more personal introduction then just typing away...\n\nI'm sure you will find the right lady.  I just don't think it's here... no one knows anything about you... But what we do know is that you seem loving and in need of a relationship where you can share yourself with someone else. \n\nYou will find what you are looking for, just start looking in the right places.\n\nGood Luck.
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hey! i guess we're on the same boat here. i don't know, i've been telling my friends about this too... but they would be like: 'just wait and the right one will come along...' so i guess maybe that's it. we've got to wait (and at the same time look. lol!) for the right one... let's not just rush.
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It just does, my friend.\nYou can't explain it. I'm sorry.\nBut I'll attempt to...\nI think that if you keep trying to look for love, it will seem so much longer and more strenuous. Looking so hard will just result in false hope.... false love.... FORCED love.... in a way. It's like you're trying to push yourself to find that one person.\nYou should just relax and have faith in God to bring you that woman. He has a plan for you.\n\nIn my case, I was friends with my boyfriend for a long time. I've gone through many jerks... but he was always there. I never looked for love. It was just so disappointing. I enjoyed life being single. Besides, I was happy not having relationship drama. I had faith in God. Little did I know, my boyfriend was right under my nose the entire time. And we plan on getting married someday. : }