My husband doesn't say anything negative about me just in life it's self. He will be watching the news or a movie and just blurt out something negative. Like oh she is ugly..or they don't know what they are talking about. Or of he sees someone he will make negative comments about them to me. I  tell him to shut up but he keeps on. I will ask him about his day and he will say it was shitty. I will ask him why he will say don't know.What can I do???Help Please!!!!
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People usually put other people down due to their own insecurities, personnally I know a lot of people like that and cannot stand it. Tell him a few things that are wrong w/ him next time he does that, see how he likes it. PHB
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I`m a man and agree with you all human beings complain sometimes, it`s in our nature. I can only suggest that you need to confront him and let him know about his negative attitude. If he dosen`t listen, just walk away as if he doesn`t exist. I do not speak to my next door neighbor, so I know where your coming from.      GOOD LUCK!
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Makes me wonder about what kind of person your husband is if he has friend like this.  Apparently, he has no respect for how you feel. I would tell his friend that if he cannot behave like a decent human being then he needs to find another place to hang out and tell your husband if that is the kind of friends he likes then he needs some professional help.
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sure! of course! his ife shouldn be worrying at all! y dont u invite his wife along and talk to her?? and just ignore the haters that be trash talking abou u ok?
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Well in my opinion he already knows that his commander is a d*ck, but nothing worth doing is easy. I would want my wife to support me, not let me know how crappy my position is. I know that already. Give him something to look forward to and cherish the time you do get with him. Many other women have bigger problems than "my husband works to much." You have your whole life ahead of you two to spend time together, let him get ahead in life now so that you can grow old, happy and rich together.  Support him he sounds like a good one.
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He sounds like he never grew up.  I have a son-in-law who is the same exact way.  In fact I'm wondering if you are my daughter who is writing this.  Whether or not he's cheating with another girl or not he's cheating your children and you out of a family life together.
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Your situation appears to be one of your husband using very poor judgment.Other than what you've already done to remedy the drama he has begun is to start being mindful of every aspect of your relationship.Then after a reasonable period of time ask your self if you want to continue in your marriage.I apologize in advance if my advice is blunt,but LIFE IS TOO SHORT FOR THE DUMB stuff.either he makes some serious changes,and seeks help and your forgiveness or.........only you can fill in the blanks.Take care an GOD bless you both.(ps I don't knw if you can find out about other accts,but i hope some 1 can help}
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what is it with men and that "dream" thing...  for my husband it was (still is sometimes) "I'm gonna be a rock star so I don't want to tie myself down with any 'good' jobs" \n\nhe's pretty much grown out of that but thats pretty much it, its growing up.  \n\nalso, don't let him have you think it's "not my fault cuz my daddy was distant" thats bullshit, I like to say "we've all been assraped" which is of course not meant to be taken literal but only a way of saying nobody had a perfect childhood, now get on with it and grow up.\n\nalso, how can you tolerate the ethnic slurs from him?????  this is your HUSBAND!!!  sounds like you guys have bigger issues than just the job thing..
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The root to your problem lack of conversation,....If there anything not right goin on , the best way to solve it is to talk openly to each other. Say your husband is up set over something that happen between his in-laws & him sometime ago, n he's not happy being with them....but for me at least he's willing to join you guy for a week. For me that's fair....Talk to your husband n make him feel good for his sacrifice....Then your job is to tell your family that your hubby has something to do........Time will heel things.....But never ever compare anybody with the past or with another person....Things can go very bad.
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I do find at times that some people treat you different when they find out you are married to a cop.  My dad was also a cop, so I got the double whammy, both in school when I was living at home and then after I married my husband.  I have had people make weird comments to me, but never had any favors asked.  Those were usually directed at my husband.  As far as dealing with people's ignorance about cops in general, I politely listen and then make no or very little comment.  Its not worth it to me to get into a discussion or an argument over their ignorance.  Unless someone personally attacked my husband or father over something that they did or did not do, then I kept my opinions to myself.  Peoples opinion of cops has been shaped by the news media who seem to take great delight in ripping apart police officers and what they do.  I would like to see any of them respond to a domestic violence scene, a fatal accident with body parts laying on the road, a death of a child, a fatal shooting or stabbing, being kicked, spat on, swore at, puked on and generally putting up with the worse that the public can throw at them.  I doubt that they would be able to deal with it.  Be proud of your husband and remember that they are part of the thin blue line that protects us from those that would do us harm.
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maybe he dont want to admit it to you, the reasonn for this are that all men are selfish and if they cant get there way then why not make ours miserables to, the thing we have to do as women is remeber that we should not be talked to down to or disrespected for that matter.Maybe is he truely unhappy with his life and wants your to be miserable with him, have you given him any reason to resent you for any reason, where yall young when yall got married, maybe he didt finsish college or anything that you may have done for him to act this way, if not girlfriend and you the road ahead is alot clearer then get out, pretty much what your doing is letting this man talk down to you and disrespect you, name calling is not fun for anyone and eventually it will get worse with time, after so much of this ABUSE you wil be tired of it, I hope that your smart enough not to have kids involved in this relationship if so yall are really headed for lots of trouble, I wish you well and if you wanna chat send me email if you would like cqueen742003@yahoo.com i hope all goes well for you, dont let him tear you aprat becuase he is not happy
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I hate it when they won't respect or listen to you, but still ask your opinion and want your approval and won't leave you alone about the topic unless you say something affirmative.  Erg. I'm sorry for you, but there is nothing more you can do but continue being his daughter and hope for the best.Treat him well.
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I actually just told my husband to leave me alone the other day,but he asked me what was wrong and I said,'hormones...just leave me alone'. He did though and I felt better after having some time to myself. I think your husband needs to realize that no one is happy all of the time. We all need time to ourselves and it is good for you and good for the marriage to be able to take this time. As for having a big blow-out about it...I would've walked away. I don't take that crap anymore. It isn't worth it to me to talk til I'm blue in the face,trying to explain 'why'. I shouldn't have to. An argument doesn't really get you anywhere. I tend to wait until things have settled down and then have a conversation about it and find out what he is feeling then. I gave up a long time ago on trying to justify myself to him. We actually have a better marriage this way. Good luck to you.
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Okay, I'm going to go out on a limb on this one and say if your Yahoo Icon picture is any example of how you behave on a day-to-day basis, then you're asking for the attention of other men.  I believe you like your husband to be jealous; otherwise, you wouldn't promote yourself in public with that type of picture, or with a name that suggests someone who has absolutely no intention of staying married to one man.
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Oh, nooooo....  Sounds like your husband needs to grow up and not listen to anyone but his new wife.  The situation you expressed is not a healthy and normal one.  He needs to step up and tell his ex to butt out and to tell his family that he will tolerate no more judgements from them.  What happens between the two of you is your business only.  Best of luck.
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I would find out what he is saying to her about her comments of you not being good enough for him.  Take his attention away from the computer during the times you know he is on it with her if you can.  Keep reminding him of why you guys got married in the first place.  There is such a thing as an "emotional relationship" and this will lead to other risk taking opportunities if you don't get a handle on this quick!  ONlY your husband is responsible for his actions not her...so don't be mad at her.  He has the choice to defend you and not let her take control of his own emotions in your relationship.  Good luck and remember you still love him.
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Some men just don't know how to that. It isn't something that they need for themselves so it is hard to remember to do it for others. Ask him to write some of the things he thinks for you on paper. Then you take the list. It isn't as nice as him actually saying it but it does help. My husband is terrible at compliments. He tries but it never comes out right. I've found this to work better.