Please, don't answer this question unless you were aleast 18 yrs old in the 60's and 70's. and NO it wasn't gay related.\nI'm trying find out exactly what it was. Alcohol?, Drugs?, both?, neither?. Sex? does anyone know ? Would anyone remember?
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Jimmy Hendrix--purple haze------it was drugs and free love parties with a black light....
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I think you need to post something like this in the gay & lesbian section...\nThis is for men's health issues.
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Well I am sorry it makes you sick.  Not everything or every one is the way we all would like.  Some what disappointing I know.  As for WHY would someone like to be gay? I will tell you something.  I am happy with my lifestyle now. I am happy with the woman I am with.  But there was a period where I wasn't so sure.  Why you wonder.  Because my mother disowned me because of it.  My father bought books to see if they had the answers, maybe he did something wrong.  Or my personal favorite what my high school finding out and my teacher telling me I shouldn't eat with the other kids because it bothers them. \nDoes this sound like something we CHOSE?  Does this sound like something we ASKED for?  \nWe are stronger for the things we go through, doesnt mean we ask for the turmoil along the way.
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It may have been a completely unrelated incident. Have you experienced it more than once? If, not it probably had nothing to do with the sex. It was just a coincidence.
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He doesn't remember, but it was with a woman.  He's had HIV for over 10 years.\n\nHe basically dipped his stick into too many skanks....
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It is not an abnormality, nor is it a disease. It is a normal, naturally occuring state of existance.Nor is it a mental illness.Homosexuality was removed from the DSM in the late '60's.
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Although I wasn't aware of sexuality at all when I was in kintergarden I had dreams of being in love with my best friend, Mark Serdinack.  I didn't realize it was homosexual until around 12 when mom sat me down for "the talk"\n\nI then realized I had not only been having gay feelings, but had done some gay things as well.  <mutual masturbation, oral>  I vowed to remain celibate until marriage, however I only made it until I graduated from high school.  \n\nI dated girls and made out with them while in high school, but wouldn't go past groping while fully clothed.\n\nAfter high school, I lost my "virginity" to a girl, but felt it was really wrong...  on many levels.\n\nI experimented with a few guys, but was overwhelmed by guilt.\n\nI didn't really ACCEPT my sexual orientation until age 21.  That's when I realized that I couldn't change it and that God wasn't going to help any.\n\nI was resentful that people told me that if I did everything right, I would change.  It made me think that if the change wasn't happening, it was something I wasn't doing right.  So I tried harder.  I prayed harder.  I went to Bible college, intending to be a minister...  because I thought that if i dedicated my entire life to God, THEN he would change me into a straight person.\n\nIt never happened.  Perhaps I should have worked even harder at it...  given it a bit more time, but I think 10 years of that eternal damnation was enough for one lifetime.\n\nIf a person lives to be a hundred, 10 years is ten percent...  and thats all god requires.\n\nAt age 21 I freed myself of all of it.  By age 24 I was with the boybriend I'm about to celebrate my 16th anniversary with.  My life became MUCH better after I accepted it and lived my life instead of pretending to be something I wasn't hoping that if I pretended good enough I would magically change.
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I didn't know I was gay but knew that I was different when I was as young as 6 years old.I just seemed to develop differently then the boys around me.While I did like some sports and some "boy" stuff, I also liked hanging around with the girls and doing girl stuff.As I got older I knew that I was definitely different because I had strong attractions to men and none to women.I think I was around 13 when I realized that the reason I was so different was because I was gay.But even then I thought it was something I could "fix" and even tried to "fix" it.By the time I was 16 and still could not "fix" my sexuality, I accepted who I was.Even though it meant a life of hardships and family disappointments, I came to accept who I was.It is to bad so many of my family members, including my own mother, could not accept who I was and went as far as disowning me and never having anything to do with me.
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Why would anyone choose a difficult life?  Especially when it would be so easy according to straight people to "choose to be straight."  If so, I have a question for them.  Why don't they CHOOSE TO BE GAY?  See all those emotions running through you straights right now?  That's how we feel.  We feel "how can we change, if we could, wouldn't we?  Same as straights who are asked to think gay."  They find it incomprehensible to think about men, as I do about women.  Its just not normal for me, sorry, does that sound like a choice or something I'm stuck with?  I cannot remember feeling anything other way from the age of 5 on up.  The men were always attractive the women were always the nice ones.  So, while it may be a choice for some, it was not for me.  The very idea that I could have CHOSE this life is laughable.
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I went to gay bar in D.C. once, many years ago, and quite by accident, with a friend. I did not know until that moment he played for the other team.\nOnce inside, I went the bar and ordered a drink, that's when I noticed there were none of the fairer sex around.\nI looked up at the monitor, expecting to see sports scores or something else.\nAt that exact moment, there was a "moon landing" taking place, and yes THIS one appeared to be real, Full glory touchdown and all....\nI puked all over the bar, and ran.\nHe remained behind, looking for his own moonshot........
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As for as i know they havent been able to tack it down with DNA evedence quite yet, but they know that it changes the brain chemestry.... But from things ive read and from gay ppl i know alot can come from their childhood, one lesbian i know was talked down alot by her father, she was called fat and ugly and it was a mess, she wasnt, but she totally blames her dad for making her want to cling more to women, and i know a gay guy that says his babysitter molested him when he was younger and ever sence then hes never really wanted a women sexually, he was 10 or so when it happened. But at anyrate, i cant say that ALL have had something like that happen, but i know for a fact that it can determine it in some cases... awww well its not like anyones really going to be able to answer this lol i think for every gay person walking they have a differnt reason on why they think they are that way, who knows maybe science can figure it out, i also know that back in the 50's and 60's it was considered a mental problem, even though public views have changed, i think they might have been closer then the DNA theory, that something scared them or changed them or how ever you want to put it that made them not want the opposite sex, but i dont think it was a disablity, well other then it kinda makes it hard to have kids lol but who knows, im not tring to offend anyone at all i have gay friends and i love them dearly... but its just my 2 cents
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I went through this same dilemma. I came out during my sophmore year of highschool. And there was the most drop dead gorgeous guy there. His name was Gary. Let me tell you. Anyways, I wanted to be with him very badly, but did not know how he felt. So I befriended him. We started hanging out, and stuff like that. Well two years went by and still nothing. Well in December of our senior year a bunch of us were out at a  party. His girlfriend was there and everything. (He had this girl for 3 years now) Well I went outside for a smoke, and he followed me outside and complimented me on my new glasses. Ok no big deal. Well we sat there and talked, smoked a few cigs and went back in. My best friend and I decided to get into the hottub. We had been sitting there for about a half hour or so when Gary came in. My best friend got out and went to go get a beer. I mentioned that my shoulder was buggin me from a fall I had taken earlier that week. So he reaches over and starts to rub it. Then we kissed, and ended up ditching the party and ****ed all night long lol. The next day he dumped his girl and him and I have been in a relationship ever since. So even the most straight acting guys may be gay. You just never know!
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Lets see he was a bastard son of Mary, roamed the desert where all the chicks covered themselves from head to toe.  And, oh yeah, he supposedly had a penis.  \n\nFrom the age 15-33 most males have the libido of a dog in heat.  Also they didn't have tighty-whities back then, so the constant movement of the genitals while walking would have kept them in mind, especially if there were some women around.\n\nI think this is a sound theory.  You should consider doing a little more research on the matter and blogging it all for us.\n\nCheers
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I remember those days. They felt like just yesterday, but now im 20 years old and it brings back so many memories.\nYou really have nothing to worry about, trust me we've all been there. You'll look back one day and realize how foolish it is to be worried about something like that. Kissing comes naturally. Remember that if you feel uncomfortable, and if he pressures you, you shouldnt do anything that u dont want to.\n\nGOOD LUCK :o)
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I'm 21 (Didn't c the 70's) and not gay, so I don't know!!
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Personally, I think he abused both his position and, more importantly, you.  He'd probably get away with it if there were no witnesses but I think you need to talk this episode through with him (or maybe even his boss) - in a calm and collected manner. \n\nAs to how it's made you feel, you've just experienced something outside of your everyday boundaries.  You're bound to be a little disoriented - if only because you've been forced to address something of which you had been certain, namely how straight you really are.  In an effort to get over the double trauma of nearly drowning (and this guy's efforts in saving you) and then this violation, there are a whole mix of emotions that you're having to juggle.\n\nFear, gratitude, lust for life, anger and, yes, even pleasure are all trying to be reconciled; so no wonder that in all the confusion you're having wild dreams and urges.\n\nFor all that what I have written is plausible, I am not a professional therapist and I would urge you to seek one out, to help you reconcile yourself to your recent experience.\n\nOne thing I am certain of though, you are no more gay now, than you were before this incident. \n\nGood Luck
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Before stating "it can't have been in you ever since you were born" in your question, you may want to check out some scientific studies on the matter.\n\nMy first source shows that homosexuality for males has been linked to the Xq28 in males; second source is on a genetic link of the X chromosome to a gay person's mother; third source is on gene variations on the X chromosome; fourth source states that it "confirms that there is a strong genetic basis for sexual orientation, and that for some gay men, genes on the X chromosome are involved," and the last source is on a link between brain structure and homosexuality.