i m a sophomore/10th grader living in u.s.since 2 years. my parents r in india.should i learn for SATs this summer or go visit india and chill.some r tellin to stay n study and some r tellin to go.(some=family members)I dont know what to do.I usually have to ask some one to make decisions.So i just want a help in making my own decisions and how to judge whats right or wrong by myself.thank you
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you follow your mind what you think is right for you not your family. if you feel its worng then its worng. if you feel it right its right. trust in God  he will drict your path. he want lead you down the wrong road. you have to think who's going to take care of you when you become an adult. think of you goals for your future and do what it take to achive them. but you only in the 10th you also have next year to study if you haven't seen you parent i really belive you should go see them.you can take if information with you to study for sat's that a good idea.
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Hi again. Apart from trying to persuade them that you want to attend this school, maybe is a good idea to find a job and contribute by yourselft to your studies, so as to cover even a part of the expenses.\nThis is what I did some years ago since my parents were not able to pay for my studies...and I did not regret at all.\nIf you want to do something, be sure that you will find a way to do it!!
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Spend more time to really know about him before you make that kind of decision, time do mean a good testing for both side to see this relationship is real or not...plus you maybe still too young or have lot of other time to see more people or more things in a more mature view later time.\n\nMost important is how your parents think? try to seek their advice, try to understand what they say to you is reasonable or not. As it is surely TOO risky for you that so young and have to follow this man to another country...as what may happen if things not work out well? that will be a big price to pay not mention may effect your study and future as well.\n\nHope you find your answer very soon then :)
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Depending on your score, it might be good, but you need it to be great. First of all you have to decide whether or not you want to go to a state university or an ivy league. If you want to go to an ivy league school, you will need to take the SAT again. The higher your score, the better chances that you will get into the school that you want to. If you think you got a good score, take it again, it can't hurt. If you get the same score, then no worries. Get a better score, then use it to your advantage and get the scholarship money...the less your parents spend on school, the more you get. If you happen to get a lower score (God forbid) then use your inital score and keep on moving. It is a win-win situation no matter how you look at it. Again, the higher the score, the better the chance for you to get into the school of your choice, and get scholarship money to pay for school.
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I studied abroad for a month when I was in college.  I didn't know until right now that it was through an AIFS program.  At any rate, it was a very valuable experience, especially if you've never left the country before.  I went to London and learned a lot.  Much of my learning experiences were more cultural than anything I learned in class.  If you have the opportunity and can afford to go abroad, it is definitely worth it.  My experience nearly five years ago and its something that is very vivid in my memory and I will never forget it.  Have fun!
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Oh my...this is an extreme version of a Romeo and Juliet situation!  My heart cries for both of you!  I am teary eyed right now  :(   Are you both in Israel?  I do hope both of you are very careful and is practicing safe sex.  It is like the wall that divides the Jews and Palestinians.  In your young age both of you are very vunerable and dependent to your respective families.  If you can keep your secret, then keep it until you reach an age that both of you can leave your parents home.  When you get to college, study in a school away from your home and if possible outside your country.
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Hey~\n\nI totally know where you're coming from... but you know what... this world is an amazing place regardless of all the flaws in it.  Life itself has so much to offer... these is Always something do to or to learn!!  I'm not sure how old you are... but I trust you're youngish if you're on summer break.  Have you thought about your future yet.  What do you want to do?  what things could you do/learn/learn how to do that would help you in that direction?  Surely there's a library in Beaverton (or www.amazon.com)... can you get a book that would give you info about following one of your dreams?  Or get a book about helping you to figure out what your dreams are.   Books are easier because they're portable and easy to pick up.... but even if you don't have a good book, you clearly have the internet to look things up.\n(for example if I had a summer break now I'd spend time studying Chinese, even on my own because it's my dream to speak tons of languages)\nplan for the future, learn an art, or a sport, or a language... anything  :-D\n\nOr perhaps you could look up programs or associations that you might want to be a part of (dunno how old you are but you could look into potential future internships or other summer programs for next year... or to plan on for the future)\n\nOr meet people who have similar interests to you  \nhttp://www.meetup.com/cities/us/or/beaverton/\nA movie group or music or religious or whatever else you're into.\n(just be wary of internet people... never can be too trustworthy...stay with the group unless you know you can trust someone.)
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Here's a thought:\n\nCollege is about education. Education includes exposure to places and people that are unlike your hometown and your family.  Try gently explaining this to your parents.\n\nIf you're not expecting any financial support from them, you don't need permission to go, but try to address their anxieties with a calm, reasoning attitude, and perhaps they'll lighten up a bit.\n\nThey're obviously afraid for you to go somewhere far from home.  They'll miss you.  It's a big world out there, and they're uneasy about you "flying the nest." Perhaps they don't understand that leaving home is part of your education and growing independence too.\n\nJust be gentle, and give them time.  They'll come around eventually. Later, when you start to provide them with evidence of how well you're doing (good grades, new ideas, a genuine passion for a particular area of study), I bet they'll even be proud.
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Hi there. Thanks for the message. It seems that your parents are not being supportive in the business school issue. I feel sorry for you. \n\nI think it is both good and important having goals in one's life, either short term goals or long term ones. Setting goals helps you to concentrate and plan things ahead. To me what matters is not whether I have goals, but whether I have SMART goals. SMART means specific, measurable, attainable, realistic and time limited. So if I were you and I set goals about going to business school. I would think about questions like do I have the ability/ potential to achieve that goal, even though my parents are not supporting me? Am I financially independent? What am I going to do to move those barriers? Should I talk to my parents or find other people/ resources to help? Should I find a job first? Etc. Last but not least, set a time limit for your goals. It can motivate you.\n\nHope this helps.
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well get to study in Singapore is a good thing.For me,i also want to get a scholarship to Singapore and study there..but my mum and dad disagree cause they taught I'm still too young to study there.well if you really want to take a scholarship i can recommend you one scholarship ASEAN scholarship..try it ..i think it will help you to go Singapore to study.. Even though leaving your friends and family behind is hard, whats few thousands miles away when you have high technology. You can make video calls or send emails to them regularly to keep in touch. studying overseas is an experience of a lifetime.
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With respect, this is my opinion...\n     It sounds a little bit like a pep talk for the parents.  Like they aren't going to have a clue what to do with their lives now that you are graduating from High School.   It comes off as condescending, which is totally not your place.  Your parents have plenty of experience and probably have plans for their lives that you have no idea about.  For many of them, there are more kids that are not yet graduating so this is not quite the end of their high school experience.  \nI think you should spend more time showing your appreciation for all they've done and show them an interest in exploring a new phase of your relationship with them, as adults. \nTry to see your life from their eyes...They had a life of their own and chose to include you in it.  In doing so, they suddenly became responsible for making everything in your life happen; all the dragging out of bed, all the getting homework done, all the sports and trips and sleepovers...all to get you to this point in your life where you are finally ready and able to take control of things for yourself.  \nI would recommend opening with a laugh if you can, and then just be thoughful and humble and respectful.  Every parent there, no matter how different they are individually, share the common feeling of pride in their graduate.  They worked hard to get you there, thank them well and you'll close with tears.
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Look there is a lot of time for u to think about ur future.\n\nBut, First of all get urself a passport. This will be useful if u want to go outside india for study. It is always advisable for u to opt for further study either in India or abroad.\n\nThere are always a lot of career oppurtunities awaiting for you in this field.\n\nI advise you to learn CAD/CAM tools which will be helpful to you when you appear for any interviews in INDIA or Abroad. However, learning new things always helps u a lot at some point or the other.\n\nTo learn new things 2nd year is the most appropriate one.\n\nIf u r planning to go abroad then plan it as early as possible beacause it is not an easy task for you and ur parents.\n\nAnd, being the only girl dosent mean that you should run away from that course. You can enjoy certain previlages over others.\n\nYour CGP is really good. try to maintain it throughout your acad's.\n\nI didnt get you as you gave your date of birth. if there is any special reason then let me know about that.\n\nbyeeeeeeee\n\nAll the best for ur future.\n\n*[IGNORE THE SPELLING MITAKES IF ANY]*
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It seems like this really isn't your problem directly. Where did NY fit in? Dunno, best bet, stay in school and don't worry so much, seems like you're just a kid. Good Luck :)
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Studying abroad is excellent. For your entire life, love have lived in the USA. It is like living your life without looking in a mirror. You leave AND study abroad, it is like a breath of fresh air. You can see your country from a far. You will learn so much. (You will understand this later). I think at this point in your life, it is important that you know, you will make a lot of new friends (unlike people you have ever meet). If you study in a country where they don't speak English, it's even better. You will dream in that language in which is spoken in that country. It is also difficult. You won't understand everything at once like you do now. It is like going back in time at the age of six or seven. However, when you finish a YEAR (not six month's, because you will just start making friends then you will have to leave them after six months) you will have grown-up so quickly and see things in a totally new light. It was by far the best decision of my life.
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why dont you go with him...they have great colleges.(The American University in Cairo).the country is very cheap you'll have alot of fun...There is alot of americans and europeans there...it's nice..
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Updated 11/14:\n\nAs I read this question I think this:\nA teen [atheist] should do whatever any teenager should do.  Try to establish communication, work towards mutual understanding, and don't lost sight of the fact that you are pretty much grown up and they are the ones who brought you safely to this place.   Respect is a powerful tool.  You can't win respect from some people no matter what you do, but you can choose to lavish it on others regardless of what you think of their choices.  No matter what their mistakes, your parents deserve your respect just for bringing you to this place.\n\nOK,  that was the update.\n________________________________________\n\nI'm in agreement with you that taking communion wouldn't be appropriate if you do not believe.  The communion is meant to be a way to share a unified faith experience.  Obviously, you don't feel that way.\n\nIt may be time, at 18, to begin discussions about making a plan to move out of the home.  Are you nearing college age?  Is a work/apartment plan appropriate for you?  We have always asked that our children make a plan.  One even chose a half-way house so that he could leave quickly without a plan.  (It was still a plan.)  Two have chosen college.  One went to live with another family for a time until she got a decent job and found an apartment.\n\nYour parents have a responsibility to the world (and to you) to bring you up to the point that you can make a reasonable plan for your future and embark on it.  They may not feel that you are ready, or perhaps it is not customary to let children in your culture leave at this young age. \n\nI suggest talking rationally with them about what is required to remain under their roof and whether it would be an appropriate time to make a launch plan.  Having a plan in place will take some of the pressure off of you, and it might help you comply until the time when you have reached your goal and step out on your own.\n\nI wish you well.  I'm quite certain that you will do well once you have a plan in place that suits you and your future goals.  Just don't lose sight of the future in your angst at the present situation, which I can see is intollerable.\n____________________________\nAnother thought before time runs out...\nEven atheists can spend a lot of time and emotion proselytizing.  Perhaps it would be good to check and see if you are trying to convert your folks.  Obviously, they believe strongly.  You believe strongly in something different.  Suppose you reach a truce.  Suppose you stop talking to them about your disbelief in exchange for them to stop trying to force you to believe.  A similar compromise could be reached that would best fit your situation.  (That would also help you to appear less "rebellious.")
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well, u can try to talk to ur parents by stating WHY u want to go study aboard....give them clear reasons and evidences that PROVE u can take care of urself when u r out there...espeically u r YOUNG and a GIRL...usually parents wont allow that...nonetheless, u need to ASK URSELF : "why i want to go study aboard" first b4 u can present ur case to ur parents....clear and sort out ur minds so u know EXACTLY why u want to make this decision and carry through it! :)\n\nmoreover, u can talk to the advisors from other colleges that provide study aboard plans and ask them for their advice....seriously, there r MANY THINGS to do b4 u actually can go there...i tried it b4 so i know...;)  and i m a person who came to U.S. to study as well...^^\n\nhave fun searching for the answer.  if u need help, just email me or wait for more great answers from others.\nnonetheless, u can ask Jesus to help ya, He will be glad to help u! :)  Jesus loves u!