My boyfriend and i have been together for 5 months, my longest relationship to date, and i have had a past of insecure boyfriends that have blurted out "i love you" like it was nothing. Now that i am with my boyfriend now, he has voiced his concern early on for people exactly like my exes.  He has cared for me the most, by far, than the other exes, even though we don't say "i love you."\n\nShould I wait for him to say it first?
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try talking to him again, on how he feels about love. ask him when he think its a good time for a couple to say those words. \n\ni know how your feeling, I've been their. with the boyfriend i am with now. i wasn't for sure when to tell him i loved him too. we live in different countries so he wasn't sure if we would even work. \n\nits been a year now and where stronger then ever, even going to move in together. the moment i told him i loved it was about last fall or winter. he eventually saw how great and wonderful of a person i was and with him. he couldn't help but say those words back to me. \n\nyou pretty much just have to guess when to say it. you can't ignore your feelings, no matter if they get hurt or not. if you love him, tell him and then tell him why you love him. show him how you make him feel, by your words. \n\nif he can't appreciated that, then he's a loser lol. you've been together long enough to start talking about love. if you were to tell me you just been together for a week or two, then i would say no and wait more.
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it is hard to leave someone, especially if u love them in return. but as he has cheated, it is likely he will do it again. saying "i love you" might be just his way of making you forget what happened. you should move on. you need to think of yourself, not him, because he obviously was not thinking of you when he cheated. this is just my opinion, so dont take it to heart. if you want to talk more contact me by going to my profile.
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Sometimes in life actions speak louder than words. I want you to ask yourself why is it you need to hear him say I love you, why do you want or need him to say that. surely you are aware of his feelings. Some guys cannot say that but they do feel it . It's not about him being the emotinal type or not. It's about your need to hear those words. We cannot make others do or say what we want them to.  love is not about  expecting things from our loved ones it's all about acceptance being aware of each others needs and healthy communication based on honesty etc. so maybe you two need to have a really open honest talk about what each others needs are and what you both can do for one another so that each of you feel loved and appreciated without feeling like you are being to pushy demading or emotional.\n\nBe honest with yourself about your feelings and when you both chat togehter do so without judging one another. enjoy the time you have together making the most of your time and energy and never for one minute take each other for granted. Good luck with everything in life.  Sometimes in life we need to allow ourselves to think differently to improve ourselves and our life in general.
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Well I think that if he really loves you than he wouldn't care about what people say or do, and would only focus on only being with you...so if he loves you as he says then  why is he with another one? \nand doing anything for each other does not come from one side it comes from both sides of the relationship.(which is you and him)
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i say he loves and respects you and is trying to learn from his mistakes - before he leaped too quickly and it ended badly. I usually tell guys to wait until she is ready but I have to switch this time and say hey wait until he is ready. relationships are hard enough all by themselves without added pressure. sounds like a keeper to me. Be happy
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Has he told you that he loves you? If he has, then he is probably patiently waiting for you to express your love for him, so he really won't care how you do it, as long as you're authentic. If he hasn't then he's most likely too shy and is wondering how you feel about him...
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i dont tell people i love them unless i mean it. one of my x bf told me he loved me and i didnt say it back because i knew i wasnt going to mean it or feel the same way.
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NEVER tell a man that you love him first! Not only can it scare him away but it shows weakness on your part! Let him say it first, it will mean so much more when he does. Otherwise if you say it and he says it back how will you know he truly meant it!
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sounds like you are both quite young & placing too much importance on these words WAY TOO SOON\nalso you should be saying these things without expecting him to repeat the words back to  you\nif you ahve only just started dating then take your time & if things are meant to be then ""love "" will develop between you
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Do you love your boyfriend? If yes, cut off communication.\n\nDo you love those other people? If yes, why are you with your boyfriend?
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hey hun... i think saying i love you should be said when the person really loves u. ur friend gt her guy to say it in  6 weeeks.. i am sure he has said it loads of times after that.. but when ur boyfriend actually says it to u it would mean a whole lot more than it wld mean whenhe says it when u want him to. you need to do anything to make him say it. you just wait till hez comfortable enuf to say it. at least he is not mis-using the word love.
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There really isn't anything you can do. Only time can really help. Trust me. I know from experience. I have been hurt many times in the past and I've just recently began to open up to my current boyfriend after 5 months. There really isn't anything you can say to them either because honestly we've heard it all before. We heard the same thing from the exes and so when you say them, they don't really mean anything at first. So just give it some time and eventually people do start to come around and open up more. It just takes time.
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problem is him. Don't push it. Relationship is about trust. Letting him get to trust you little by little, in the little things then it will grow. Also just be yourself so he can trust the you he sees. Lastly, not everybody gets to say 'I love U' the same way. Maybe his may be different
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Don't stress...some guys just assume now you should know, so they don't say it as often.  He still means it, but is probably hoping you are secure enough in the relationship to know that without him saying it as often.
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You could start by saying, you know was thinking about how to accurately evaluate my feelings for you and I think I could love you.....If you were to evaluate your feelings how would you say you feel about me?....\n\nDon't be surprised to hear I don't know....Means he's probably scared to say he loves you.....If that occurs, don't be disappointed continue to try to convince him that he loves you.\n\nGood luck
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I am in this very situation. I pestered, and asked, and begged and compromised time and time again. He also knows exactly what I want, and exactly how I feel about him. He doesn't know that I love him though... \n\nI think that over a nice dinner, or just kicking back and IF the mood is right, you should just ease into a conversation about the status of you guys' relationship. Find out FIRST what it is he wants. Does he want to be with YOU? Or just want to be with your Kitty?? I am not saying this out of offense, I am saying this out of love for another woman because I am going through it right now. My heart is broken because I have been sleeping with someone for the past 3 years not knowing if we had a "relationship" or not. Find out what he wants. Do Not tell him you are in love with him. Let him know you care, and you think of him often, and all that mush. But do not tell him you love him. Do not use the L-word. It will scare him, especially if he doesn't feel the same or hasn't even considered how he feels for you, or where he wants to take things. \n\n I myself had to take a huge step back from  "my" guy. It hurts so bad to love someone and to not have those feelings coming back to you in return. Please do not fall into this hurtful emotional trap. \n\nFind out where he's at in terms of y'alls "relationship". What does he want? Is he willing to take things up a notch, and commit to you and you only? If not, screw him. Because all he'll do is keep screwing you. And in the end, I can tell you, it hurts more than words. \n\nIf you feel to, you can write back. If he's not ready for what you are ready for, GET OUT!
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Just because the "L" word came out doesn't really mean anything Bad. Like you said you guys have known each other for awhile already!\nAnd telling him that you haven't felt that way in long time... \nWell, that's like telling him that you are not sure if you are ready for that step in your relationship with him... But, this could be a good thing! If he really loves you ... you will know! \nHe will still show interest in you and you and him can get closer in your relationship. Just don't rush it..  I have been married three times and all of them we're great at first! Ya' know? Just can't wait to be with them... all you think about... and that's great!\nAll I'm saying is to take your time if you want it to last... \nPay attention to the bad sides he may have and see if you really want to spend the REST OF YOUR LIFE WITH THIS PERSON...\n\nI don't think you really pushed... if he loves you he will stick around.    If you think you pushed... just go talk to him.\n"What should you do now?"  \n(1)Take your time...\n(2)Let the love grow...\n(3)Spend time together and talk<<< \ncommunication must be open. \nSharing your feelings with the one you love is very important!\nIf you are serious about this guy then try these steps and God Bless...\n later.