let me know what is the normal frequency of having sex?\nis it because some women have lower sex drive?
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well when i was younger i really wasnt into it then after my first time i did it alot with the same guy atleast 3 times a day then i got with my soon to be hubby and we did it all the time when we first got together then after i got pregnant it died down to 0 times in 7 months then just today he got it couple of times and plan to do it many more
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I don't think 'every couple of days' is a low sex drive. Men who think about sex constantly should not operate heavy machinery! \n\nI have almost always had a high sex drive, sometimes I think it approaches an addiction. And in that case, maybe I'm using sex to try to satisfy some unmet need in my life. The only times I have felt that I didn't need sex all the time are when I was getting a lot of exercise and reading the Bible daily. At those times I felt generally more fulfilled and didn't need sex (or alcohol) as much. \n\nMaybe your finance is just better balanced than a lot of guys. How's the rest of his life? Is he committed to family, friends, career, without being a mommy's boy, needing to go out with the guys every night, or a workaholic? Look for commitment with balance, and you'll be okay.
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Don't believe these guys who say women want it less.  I have a high sex drive and I wanted sex a LOT more than my husband did.  To me, two days without sex was two days too long!
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my girlfriend has the same thing... we tried to have sex more often, and her cycle became regular.
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I think sex drive does increase with age to some extent, however, I feel that lifestyle also plays a huge part. A couple of years ago I went "all healthy" eating well, exercising etc. I was also in a good relationship, in a comfortable house with little stress (just enough to keep me motivated) and little to be concerned about, during this time my sex drive was uncontrollable!! \nNow that relationship has broken up, I've recently been unemployed and have had many things to worry about...I still like sex but do not enjoy it as much and haven't orgasm-ed in ages.\nI guess its natures way of reducing pregnancies during hard times...if you're settled and happy, your bodies telling you its a good time to make babies.
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There could be many reasons for lack of sex drive...both medical and physical. In your case, as you mention, "equipment works fine" (I have that problem with exercise..the equipment works, I don't want to do it..LOL)...but you could suffer from depression, have stress in your life (some of which you may not even realize) and medically, it could be hormonal, a side effect of an illness such as diabetes that you may not be aware of. There are lots of reasons and only your doctor could tell you exactly what it may or may not be. Good luck!
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It is all related to hormones and being tired from caring for the baby.  Don't worry, the sex drive will return.  If you are real concerned about it, talk to your doctor.
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youre right when you say it's a neverending question with never a concrete answer to be had... all youre going to get are a bunch of other peoples opinions. Personally my own opinion is that if you get married, it becomes your duty to figure out what kind of sexual routine is satisfactory for the both of you. It's completely not fair and cruel for people to withhold sex, but at the same time, it's not fair for people to demand sex. That's why you need to communicate before hand. what you would be satisfied with. Some couples are fine with it being once or twice a week, and some prefer more. It all depends on the couple. For your other question, why do women want it less? I think it's because they have less of a sex drive-less testosterone and lets admit it, less chance of orgasm through sex alone so it's less of a motivation for them to have sex everyday. For women sex is generally a way to express love but for men, sex is just an activity. Most women can sense when their man just wants to f*ck them and I'm sure they don't mind this most of the time but generally they prefer sex to be about love and affection and closeness. I guess that's hard for men to understand, and it's hard for women to understand that men just see it as an activity sometimes separate from love. That's why the sexes need to communicate and sympathize with each other.
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1-3 times.... it keeps me sane.\n\ni think i have an overly active sex drive...\n\n im 20yrs
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Sorry I'm a monogamist, I only need one girl or guy, admittedly I do have a high sex drive and masturbate a lot. As long as one woman can't satisfy you then I would avoid monogamous relationships and masturbate quite often. You may also want to look into some medication to try to limit your amount of arousal time.
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I dont see the problem...You really cant habe too much sex,I just cant have enough too and so does my woman,we enjoy,every minute,every position,every kinky detail!But the thing is that we're together for almost 7 years,how long have you been together for?When(if) the lust evaporates,suddendly one of you will get suspicious.Is she/he seeing someone else?is he/she getting bored?If you work your way around it youll be fine but questions that are oftenly asked,and seldomly answered could harm your relationship.
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I think it's pretty common for a woman in your situation to have a lowered sex drive, but I think it's good that you're concerned and want your groove back! Talk to your doctor, there may be something simple you can do. It could be as simple as a vitamin deficency. Most likely, you're exhausted....or maybe you've got some resentment feelings toward your partner that you haven't wanted to explore...Try to think about that and if you have some, talk them out with him. That may make all the difference! Also, sex leads to more sex...the more you do it, the more you want to do it, so have fun and go for it!
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Age is only a small factor in a mans sex drive.  At 43 depending upon his job and if there are other factors in life stressing him out he may only have time for sex a couple of nights a week.  On the other hand if life is good and everything is going great he may feel like having sex every day.  At 43 though unless he is in really great shape his body is starting slow down a bit and while he enjoys sex just as much it probably takes more time to get him excited and he probably doesn't recover as fast after.\n\nNow after all that I have to say that your decision to marry him shouldn't be about sex unless there is a major difference in your sex drives.  I think there needs to be some compatibility in sex drives but it shouldn't be even in your top 5 of things to consider when deciding to marry someone.
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Not all women have low sex drives. The mood swings and being tired sounds like she is going through menopause. Women start menopause early even though they don't know it. It starts in the mid 30s on some women. Just be there for her and maybe suggest marriage counseling or try to get her to suggest it herself.
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I do not think there is any such thing as "normal" in regards to this question. Each couple will have their own desires, their own wants, needs, urges and motivations. Sex is tied to emotions and other factors besides two willing bodies. In other words, it may seem normal for your husband to want sex more often, but if his mind is on work, worries, children, responsibilities etc. He may not be able to perform as well or as eagerly as he would without the stress issues.  There are also medications that can affect one's desire (or lack of desire) so all of these kind of intricacies in your OWN relationship may make what is "normal" very different for each couple. \n\nMy husband and I did not get married until we were older (late 30s for me, early 40s for him), and I must admit that the first two years was a lot hotter than the last 8 have been, but I have had a surgery on my back, and my husband has had some health problems that have had a profound effect on our sex lives. The part that really matters is that we are both happy and satisfied (not only with the sex, but with each other)!  We were friends before we were lovers, and if for some reason one day one of us is no longer able to have sex at all, I don't think either one of us would walk away from the other because of it!\n\nI guess it's a lot more important if you are young, and maybe there are ways that you could approach and talk to your husband if you want to know if HE is happy, and if YOU are not happy...then I think you should try talking this over with your husband (PRIVATELY) before you are tempted to invite others into your bed!  It may be that you could spice things up a bit to make the package more appealing. If you could just offer him a massage and if he relaxes so much that he goes to sleep, then let him sleep. Let him know that you are not doing nice things just for the purpose of seducing him. Maybe try some feminine lingerie, and instead of wearing your fuzzy pink bunny slippers and terry cloth bathrobe, put on something that will remind him that you are all HIS and that he is a very lucky man. :)  \n\nIf you have changed in weight or attitude since you got married maybe he would appreciate your efforts to improve yourself. So if you can be more helpful, less demanding and show him that you really do want him to be more attentive or less attentive (which ever the case)...Perhaps your feelings will seem more important to him. \n\nBefore you feel tempted to cheat or anything like that or if you are suspicious that he is cheating, ask him to go with you to a marriage counselor, or if you both are invested in a church, you may consider asking the Pastor, Priest or Reverend for "couple's counseling".  If you go to counseling, be honest about your feelings, and encourage your husband to open up too. If there are things in your marriage (like sex) that are not satisfying to both of you, then maybe you could find ways to make them more balanced through work and compromise. Sometimes we cannot always have things as we always dreamed they should be. There is NOTHING wrong with sharing those dreams with your spouse, so that both of you can work towards a happier marriage that is mutually gratifying in many many ways!\n\nGood luck, what is "normal" is what works for you and your husband!
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Me nor my husband never go more than 3days w/out having sex. So on a weekly average let's say 2 or 3, But on a good week honey we can go evey night and maybe twice a night on some night's. We have a good sex life and that's great, exp. when ur married
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Nothing wrong with it.  Enjoy it while it lasts cause you will have times like that and times you won't want it.  Me and my wife are that way.  Sometimes I am the horny one then her and sometimes both at same time then sex daily is awesome thing.  Maybe try spicing things up with sexy lingerie and stuff.  Nothign is wrong with you just your body tell you it is in heat and wants to have sex