what would you do if you have a mother that keeps trying to commite Sucidce & then tries to play it off as a joke when it doesnt work out? and she takes pride knowing that she made you go through all that stress
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well she certainly has a mental disorder, multiple at that. \n\npersonality disorder and depression I am sure there is panic/anxiety in there too \n\nShe really needs help, she needs medication and a good evaluation. \n\nHere is something for you. I know you are worried about your mother, I dont know how old you are. Make sure that you have relative that knows what the situation is so that if there is a time where she does that a relative is there to save the day. Because if by chance you were unsucessfull at stopping her, you might blame yourself. Please do not blame yourself. Seek therapy for yourself also, through your doctor or school.\n\nNow I wouldnt recommend this to any child to do, but call Social Services to get your mom the help. Youmight get placed in a foster home or with relatives until your mother gets help, the court can order her to do it and/or commit her themselves.
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The first thing you should do is consider that she is feeling out of place with you and your mom.  She's trying usurp your place with your mom, instead of making her own.\nDo your best to ignore her digs.  Talk to your mom.  Maybe all she needs is your mom to assure her that she loves both of you.
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omg do i know what you mean i am in the same boat with my mother i ask the Dr this question he told me the ones they are closest to they try to push us away so when they pass its not so hard on them he also told me that its like a survival mode she is doing it and not aware hope this helps e-mail me maybe we can be each others strength and sounding board hey remember you are doing a good job ask older sister to come over and sit while you get out if like my brother fat chance will happen take her out for rides i wear moms butt out driving makes her so tired and less fussy call and see if you are available for elder-care in your area its like a day care that go by income if you have children you are eligible for state help if not try elder day care cause you don't want her to pass and you have no way of supporting yourself cause you will be grieving plus trying to find a job and make ends meet happened to my best friend she lost everything me i am a cna which is a nurses aide and i work wk- ends only and have my oldest son come over while i work you have to plan for the future i know that sounds mean and i am sorry god i love you so much and don't know you and i feel your pain good luck
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i would recommend your time and love its not about whats physical give her a day of rest. If money is an obstacle just tell her how much she means to you and make her feel like the queen for a day every mother deserves it!
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My relationship with my sister! \n\nFor the past 4 years my sister has been "self-destructing". My parents and I have exhausted all efforts financially and more importantly, mentally. You can only do so much for someone that you love, and if they don't want to help themselves and don't see your efforts and love in trying to help them, then what do you do?! So now we are trying the "tough love" tactic and I am sad and scared she don't realize all that we have done and are trying to do for her. She is pissed off at us! I just hope we are doing the right thing!\n\nWow! this was a personal question! But you know what? I feel somewhat at ease answering this question. Thanks! :)
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Just chill out and relax it seems to me that you have your head sorted most people spend their whole life in a job they cant stand but you got out.. and as for your ma thats what they do is worry give her a week or two n shell be grand.
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At this point in time you have done all you can, or at least all you've had time to do.  You can try, but don't alienate her.  When/if it goes wrong she will need you. You may be disappointed but you're a good mom and that's your job.  Teach her what you can, some people are hard learners. But *if* it goes wrong, she *will* need you.  So don't put her in the position of not wanting to come to you when she needs help because she doesn't want an "I told you so."
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Sweet Heart this wont help..do u think ur mother would want so do something that would harm u...many of us face difficult circumstances everyday..which can be cateogarized into emotional/physical/mental situations..that doesnt mean u give up..u being distressed might not allow ur mothers soul rest in peace..i would suggest that u wake up and face life not by suciding or doin something stupid like that just be happy and find routes through whuch happiness itself knocks at ur door step..what abt the remaing of ur family..try living for them..take care sweety
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TOUGH!  I kind of had the same problem.  I talked to my husband about it, and made it very clear that I adored her, but feared her meddling would come between our relationship.  I also told him that I in no way wanted to come between him and his mom....but we needed to set ground rules.  He understood more than I thought he would...and he talked to his mom about it.  After all, he knows her better than I do...so he knew how to express this without upsetting her and making me look like a bad person.  It has worked very well, and we are ALL happy now.
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well.. she wont understand till either something big happens or till somebody tells her exactly what she needs to listen.\nbut the good point is at least you understand what is right and what is wrong. do not forget that. \nu seem to be a smart person - just try to help her handle the situation but dont try to prove urself smarter than ur mom after all she's the mom way better than u could be and yes --- respect her. she might be a liar, cheater to somebody but atleast she loves u and takes care of u.
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I'd throw her a party. Invite all her friends she's been running me down to. Include my sisters. Then in front of all her friends I'd tell her EXACTLY how she treated me all through my life. How it made me feel to be laughed at wearing cloth shoes in the middle of winter. How everyone treated me when I'd show up for a school trip with nothing in my pocket.\n\nHow her phone calls affect my schooling and how I made something of myself in spite of how she tried to ruin my life. While it's true she is your mother, if she doesn't treat you with love and is always running you down, then it might as well have been a test tube. Family is more then the group you were born into, it is the whole loving environment.
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listen to your mom honey,mom's are always right! look at it like this,what if it was the other way around,how would she of acted? hmmmm
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wow... i guess try to tell her you have things under control. but it sounds like there is more to it if she is that worried about it. so either she knows every minute of your day or you are going to have more contact with the detectives. hard to tell you what you should do. sounds like  you have a major issue in your life going and then a complication to add to it. but good luck... i guess always remember... your day is always just seconds away from getting worse... so be happy with what you have. at least your mom loves you.... like i said... it could always be worse
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What you wrote sounds like my story. I've got the same problem with my mother in law. My husband really appreciates that I act like I'm stupid. \nI refuse to drop down to her level and when she is really mean to me I just smile and nod. Sometimes I think she tries her hardest to piss me off, but I won't give her that joy.\nFor your husband it's probably best to ignore the situation and play along like you all get along. It's not worth splitting up families over. You may regret it if your husband decides to choose for you and stops speaking to his mom.\nBe happy she doesn't live IN your house. \n\nStay the respectable party and don't let your feelings show! I know this is tough but it's the most peaceful way. Good luck, don't let her drive you mad, you've got the upper hand!
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confront mom and ask y she's laying on a guilt trip. afterall it's not just your happiness it's her's too and maby an outside souce (you) should point that out
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You're trying to be friends with your Mom and sometimes thats just not possible. It sounds like you two have a lot of issues. She's your Mom and she won't just go away. You have to figure out what YOU can do to make the situation better. Its up to her to realize that you have your own life and although you love her, you can't be there all the time to help whenever she needs it. Figure out whats bothering you so much. Is she a drama queen or maybe too controlling? Try not to get so worked up about it and just look at the problem.
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first of all shes ur mom.. how long can she b angry with u. things wil cool down soon.. give her a good hug.. she wil surely calm down..say ur sorry.. even if ur not wrong.. it doesnt hurt to say sorry.. does it!!??