it's like if a girl feels attraction for a guy, thats all that matters..he can be the biggest loser broke bum in the world, but throw in a little compassion, charm,charisma and a cute face/nice body- girls go crazy for him? but then take away the attractivness and he becomes just another bum that she would'nt look twice at..am i missing something? it's as if as long as you know how to communicate and express attraction correctly with a girl, thats all that matters and you are in! sweet!
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attraction towards wise people is wise.
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He would pro ably be flattered, and in fact he pro ably feels the same way about you, you just probably seem a little distanced from him because it sounds like you aren't making the effort to be with him alone, as a guy let me tell you we can be really stupid and blind...Let him know but not straight up tell him he looks cute blah blah make it seem like your interested than call his ass!
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Never settle.  It is not shallow in the least to expect an attravtive mate.  I feel the same as you, I won't become involved with someone I do not find attractive.  A good looking body is a sign that a person respects themselve and is  mature enough to maintain themselves.  These are good quaities in a mate that the outside look is a clue too, and I expect no less.  Just remember to find someone who is attractive in the inside too!
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Hmmmmmm, here I go being Shallow Hal again, but I can't help being truthful. There first has to be some sort of attraction in the physical sense, and for most of us that means different attributes. After the initial attraction, I listen to them speak and watch how they treat other people. I look for people who are intelligent, but not arrogant or bossy. I like confident women, but not mean spirited or waspish ones. People who show respect for others without being wishy washy or kissing ass also get high grades from me. Most of all I look for people who are confident enough with themselves that they realize they don't have to try and change or "improve" others around them. That, to me is a manifestation of great inner insecurity and a lack of sensitivity and respect for others.
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wow... that's almost poetic. seriously.\n\nnow as to your question, most guys notice looks first. after all, they see you before they talk to you. it's only now that online dating, chatrooms, and email penpals that have taken over that personality has a chance to shine before your appearance does.\n\nwhile looks are what will initially reel a guy in, it's personality that makes him stay. you know how parents used to tell their kids looks don't matter as much as personality? well they're half right.\n\nlooks are necessary in a relationship. if you can't feel something physically for the person you like personality wise then you WILL have problems. and while not everyone has a supermodel body or superhero looks, they usually have one feature that is their best (eye's, hair, smile, and yes.. their body too)\n\nnow that they have a starting/point of interest. the fun begins and the personalities of the individuals comes out and you find out whether you are compatible with each other. this is where a cute or plain girl can become beautiful in the eyes of a guy... and where a guy who at his best can only rate "cute" uses a sense of humor to go a bit higher in the scale to a "really cute" (or so i've been told :P)\n\nthis is also where a really hot girl can show how shallow and empty headed she can be... just like the bad boy "hot" guy can show how his head is comparible to a piece of wood (yes yes i know... these are sterotypes... but they are stereotypes for a reason. i.e. there were enough instances that it BECAME a stereotype. i know there are exceptions to the rule, trust me, i've met them)\n\nyour looks let them know there is a girl nearby... your personality lets them know that YOU are nearby. hope this helped ;)
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why when guys do the same. im pretty and dont care wat a guy looks like so long as he has a nice personality yes i do like perving at a nice looking guy. but have been out wit a pretty boy that was up himself
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i dont quite go on looks. Looks dsnt matter.. but the personality does. if a guy has a good personality and he'z sweet and easy to talk to and friendly .. datz enough. the guy i would be attracted to wont be BORing... i would go for a decent guy.. not a guy who just wntz 2 hook up with you.
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no. i think it is a coplement cause as a guy i look for personality and if they look good it's a bonus. I don't mean that as an insult though. If you had said that to me i would have been even more in love( if that was the case).
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Did u see the movie hitch?????  I am dating a guy right now who becomes more and more attractive to me outwardly than he would be to most.  He was a friend that was always there for me, always a great communicator and never ever once found a flaw to bring me down.  He is now my boyfriend.  I get the occasional what does she see in him, and if they only knew what a kind person he was I would be fighting them off daily.  You are probably not bad looking just lacking confidence.  Stay true to who you are inside, and you will have a woman that truely loves you.  Quit looking at outward appearance when it comes to women.
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well most girls go for looks in guys but to tell you the truth  girls should go for personality and how that guy treats her becuase most of the really good looking guys are jerks and will most likely will dump the girl and leave her to drown in her tears or he will not even go out with her so try to be the really nice guys that way you don't have to be good looking just nice and charming
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dont be soo uptight. hes a guy. and youre a girl. dont tell me you dont look at the occasional eye candy from time to time. next time you catch him you should be like, wow, she is hot... and leave it at that. hell most likely be like "damn, thats hot, shes confident enough to appreciate another womans beauty".
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i think that maybe you just like her looks because you said nothing about her personality or anything else all you were talking about was her body. so maybe you should try and get to know her for more than her body before you decide that you like this girl and are not just lusting over her
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I think looks are not all that important. Some girls may have a problem, but what really matters is what's on the inside. Looks are only skin deep.
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Maybe what you find as unattractive in a girl is actually attractive to most guys.  Plus you have to realize that you have to be beautiful on the inside not just on the outside for a relationship to last.
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If she slep with him the first night at the bar , he might be thinking she's (easy) and he can get it any time he wants.If he seem's interested one minute and not the next, that's just the way guy's are!It's like there trying to make (Themselv's)beleave they don't need anyone.If she likes this guy she should keep seeing him,but dont make herself  look too available.Dont sleep with him for a wile,have fun doing other things together.Alot of guys are dogs, but the goodguys want a respectable girl.Show him she is!
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I kinda know how you feel.  I have a guy friend who feels the same as you and he talks to me about it sometimes.  Yeah it is kinda true.  I'll be honest with you and I don't mean to be rude or offend you but I've noticed that a lot of physically attractive men turn out to be @$$holes but on the other hand, the sweetest guys usually aren't the best looking.  So, like most women (and men) will go for someone who looks hot but in the end, they get hurt.  They want a shoulder to cry on and knowing how caring you are, they'll go to you.  I used to go after the good looking ones but I kinda gave up on that after I realized they all turned out to be @$$holes or perverts.  I mean, I still won't date a guy who is ugly lol but they still have to look at least decent.  I have found that these kinda guys actually respect women more and are very sweet.  So, with that being said, sorry to be blunt but you may need to change your looks and the way you dress.  I know it sucks but its true that people tend to be attracted to someone by looks and believe it or not but it does affect they're decision if they'd date you or not.  Also, I'm sure you'll find a good girl.  Hey, there's 3 women to every man on this planet...that's plenty enough for everyone.  Maybe you should stop looking.  I think they tend to come around when you least expect it and aren't looking.
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I think you're a cutie, if she left you for your looks then she is way too shallow for you.  Find someone you will like you for what's on the inside and your good looks just come with the package.