when they are daughters they have to obey fathers.\nwhen they are sisters they have to give priorities to brothers.\nwhen they become wives they have to look for their husband's happiness.\nwhen they become mothers and the kids grow, they have to look for the happiness of the sons.\n\nwhere shud woman find her own identity n home.\n\nbecuz ........\n\nshe lives in her father home n gets married then...\nshe lives in her husband's home.\nthen sons grow n she lives with them in their homes.\n\nplz think n discuss.......... no jokes i need serious and thoughtful answers for this. plz
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I find this question offensive on so many levels that it makes it difficult for me to answer.\nYou are obviously from a different culture, Middle East I presume.\nI am a daughter, sister, wife and mother. I was  raised in my parents' home, not my father's. I gave no deference to my brothers, nor they to me.\nI am not living in my husband's home, I am living in OUR home. And yes, we are both named on the title to our house.\nI, of course, try to make my husband happy, and he does the same with me. I don't OBEY him as he is not my superior, he is my equal partner in life.\nI did not give any special treatment to either sons or daughters. And when I age, I have no intention of living in my son's home. That is not a common practice here. We have retirement communities or homes, in which most elderly people prefer to live. If we don't continue to live in our own homes, which we do if we manage to stay in good health.\nI am educated and perfectly capable of taking care of myself. As such, I am equal to any man since I need no man to "take care" of me.\nThis probably did not adequately answer your question. As I said, I found it offensive and difficult to respond to. But I felt compeled to reply.
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Well, how well did her parents get along when they were together?\n\nYep, she's gotta add other people into the mix, and it's NEVER easy, but she's dealing with the same thing a billion people have dealt with before. Is she wimpy? No. She just hasn't found out yet, that she can handle anything life throws her way.\n\nShe's tough enough. She just has to dig deep enough to find herself. I talked a 6 yr.-old through a nasty divorce, in about 5 minutes. She knew what was coming, and how to prepare. A 12 can handle it easy. All she needs to know is that she can handle anything.\n\nYes (don't get me wrong), it's not fair to her, or either of her parents, that they made a questionable choice. But, when she goes up to either (both) of them, and asks, "If the only way to make me, was to get married to him/her,... would you take it back?" They're her parents. The answer is no. There is no one sane on this planet who would undo their child. They made a great decision to have her, and now they've got the good sense to get apart from each other, before they **** it up. \n\nI bet she's a good kid. Look out for her, and keep her that way.
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This is a leadership role. The women were to teach the younger women. This is the order that God has established for the church and the home.
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They are the World's BIGGEST COWARDS!!  Most of the time the will not fight a man.  Isn't that crazy?  The reason I could possibly think of has to do with some deep rooted hurt by a woman in their younger years.  A mother's lack of attention the mental and physical abuse from a woman.  Who knows they are a waste of space and some PHSYCO A S S SICKOS!!!
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Because their father's were like that towards their mothers, it's all they know. It's a never ending cycle. If they do find a decent guy, or if the abusive guy changes for the better, the girl will get uncomfortable w/the relationship and just leave.
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That's an interesting question! I think responsible men should be caring and thoughtful towards their wives/children. They should try to provide a stable home in terms of income, but I believe women should contribute to this, too (working outside the home whenever possible in order to show children, girls in particular, that a woman doesn't have to stay at home). \nMarried men should be mature enough to not spend too much time with the "guys," concentrating more on their families instead. This doesn't mean don't go out and have fun with male friends, just that there should be a balance between that and family time. \nI believe that men need to provide positive role models for their children and demonstrate to their sons that it's ok to show emotions (what some call their "feminine side")...that it's not a sign of weakness. \nNot trying to be the boss, but allowing that the wife has a right to exercise her authority and place as co-head of household. I don't believe in "lording it" over one's family. \nI believe men need to learn to listen, and actually "hear" what is being said to them. Some men talk too much and aren't used to listening. I don't want my husband to "fix" problems for me, just hear me out when I need to talk about them.\nShows of physical affection...hugs, kisses...in front of the kids is also a good habit to have.
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Blame their parents. A lot of times the person having all the children, came from parents who had a lot of children.\n\nAnd blame the government. Many women learn quickly that there is more government support money available based on the number of children they have. \n\nInstead of education and a job, they live in poverty with several children. BUT they do not have to work!\n\nTHEIR children grow up never getting an education, never geting a decent job, and repeat the same mistakes that their mother did. \n\nWhere is the father? He is no where to be found.
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Love goes a long, long way.  They only need to support themselves in a style that is right for them.  This might mean that they both happily live in one room.  \n\nI would encourage you to support their decision to marry but also to advise them on the responsibility of having children.  Once children enter the picture its not about them anymore. They can love one another but they need to love their future children enough not to bring them into the world until they can give them what they need. This mean financial responsibility, bank accounts, health insurance and a home of their own.\n\nLove is blind, the reality is you probably have little to no influence on their decision to marry.  But hopefully you can plant the seed of reason when it comes to children.
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Your right but make sure you make it clear she finishes school and they do get married.Its not he will get her knocked up after living in its like 24/7 being together and it doesnt work out.put condition that she finishes school gets married then has a child since i know of a similar thing happening to a friend of mine and after living in she got knocked up and it didnt work out LOOK OUT FOR YOUR DAUGHTERS FUTURE PUT CONDITION THAT SHE FINISHES SCHOOL GETS A JOB GETS MARRIED THEN HAS CHILDREN.your a very good mothers.best of luck.
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She's gonna have to decide, as we all do, WHEN she's ready to grow up.\n\nif she choses you, she may have to wait until her siblings are older before she sees them again. Again, I don't how how long that is and if she's willing to wait. She loses but so do her parents.\n\nIf she choses her parents, you will have to wait until she grows up, moves out and gets on with her life. Her parents might think they've won, but as she's old enough to lead her life in a way that makes sense to HER, she may cut them out of her life for making her choose.\n\nShe can gain their respect by becoming independent (of you\nAND of their manipulation). I bet they'd be pretty surprised if she said "I'm not gonna be forced into chosing what I don't want. I will say with him and I want to remain a part of your lives. If you choose to keep me from my siblings, then that's your choice for making them and me suffer. But I won't cave to ultimatums."
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In most Asian countries a woman is still deemed as a man's property. She is taught that not covering up is a sign of shame, and of great taboos within the society (meaning not being a virgin, or commiting adultery, or being a loose woman) which would get tongues wagging and it would just all turn back against her.\nIt is a largely patriachal society where they are taught from young to be subserviant, submissive and under the mercy and law of a man's judgement and rule. \n\nThis is further emphasized in their religion where a man is the head of the family, makes all the decisions and his word is law, due to his supremacy under the eyes of their God. (Set in stone by the ruling that a man and a woman are equal, but men has a degree over them, that being the fact that they make the decisions.)\n\nAs a result, the whole society is based upon this ruling of divine law because it is a part of their religion, which is also one that governs their daily lives.\nThis has become such a norm that even if a woman wants to be independant, go out unveiled and is a feminist, she will be under the law of her husband or father, who is by law the head of the household and can demand her obedience legally.\n\nIn the more tribal or rural areas, her life depends on her ability to conform. If a woman doesn't wear a veil she is seen as a 'dishonour' to her family - women are the honour of the family and it is the man's duty to uphold it, supposedly - even the smallest spark of a rumour of her being seen with a man would have her killed.\nAn example is a report on the news a few days ago about a Pakistani man who slit the throats of his 3 daughters, one 16, the other 6 and 4. Reason was she was accused of adultery (with no proof or evidence) by her husband and the father felt "dishonoured", slit her throat, and those of her sisters because they "might follow the example of their elder sister in the future".\nThe irony is that she had wanted a divorce from her husband who was forcing her to work in a factory, when in their religion a woman is not obligated to work - she is encouraged to stay at home and assume a childbearing and childrearing role, as well as the duty of upkeeping the household and it's affairs.\n\nSuch cowardice is not unknown in these areas, where women live under a veil of subserviant fear and forced obedience, where their lives depend upon making sure no one can find any excuse to accuse her of something.\nIn the more educated areas, a woman does so because she is taught as such, ordered by her husband or father to veil herself, or she herself have chosen to do so.
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Because they are selfish. Some women weren't meant to take care of other people. They innately think of themselves before others. \n\nRaising children means foregoing most of your own needs and especially wants. A truly fabulous mother will feed her children and only drink water when she doesn't have money. \n\nSome people, male or female, just aren't great parents.... they are too selfish for it. It doesn't mean they don't love their children.... it just means that they don't think about their kids before themselves. It is about how they naturally think.
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Peace in the home is so important.  Try to find a way to get along with them.  Perhaps use a counselor.  Maybe, if you give it a chance, you can actually become close and enjoy a relationship with them as sisters.  Good luck.  I'm sure there's a lot more to this story than is presented here.
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Stay at home fathers are great!! Whomever is best fit to stay home should stay home. If the women makes more money then why not let her be the breadwinner and let the man care for the house? \nIf we have come to true equality then this should be ok.
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I would say she has  a serious problem.  She is very immature -- number one. She definitely needs help of the professional kind.  I know her family cares about her, but this kind of person only is concerned about her own self and how she can meet her own needs - no matter how odd they might be - and at the expence of her own families welfare. She needs a strong husband to stand up and say enough is enough.   And to tell her if she refuses to get the help she needs, then  he can no longer support her - emotionally or financially.  What kind of example is she setting for her children. Her husband should also think of that.  His kids are more important than the pathological relationship he has with his wife.
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Mostly it is the way people are brought up that gives them the idea that a woman's place is in the home.  Psychology has a lot to do with that thought.  Everyone has different backgrounds and experiences in life that make them agree or disagree with that debate.  I as a woman dont feel that this statement is necessarily true and feel that a man has the same responsibility over the home as his wife does.  But like I said it all depends on how one was brought up and what ideas they developed on the issue.  For instance, my grandfather made the kids do everything in the house and would ask them to let my grandmother rest.  My mother then developed the idea that she should be a helpful housewife, unlike her mother.  My father, seeing that my mother did everything in the house, never lifted a finger in the house.  I grew up thinking how unfair that was of my father and believe that both should clean up around the house and look after the kids as well as both have the responsibility to work and pay the debts.  Thankfully my husband feels the same way!!!  LOL  We both make a mess, we should both pick it up!  We both spend money, we both should earn it!!
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A married woman has been confirmed in a way.  By that I mean she is not out there looking for some man or trying to be attractive or feeling insecurity about whether she will get married or whatever.\n\nShe has a husband.  Its a kind of a position of honor, when a man says I desire you so much that I want to give up this whole life that I have to myself and my own imaginations to make you my wife.\n\nThis honor creates in the woman a place of ease emotionally, psychologically, etc.  If her husband is a man of some standing, good looks, personal presence, etc. she feeds off of this and all of this translates to a more confident relaxed socially dynamic person.\n\nA married woman with children is even that much more in a position of strength.\n\nIts just like a manager of a business, or a captain of a troop of soldiers.  When you have meaning and authority in the management and support of other people's lives it creates in you a sense of purpose and worth that results in considerable boost in confidence.\n\nThe married woman is like a general in her own house.  Her husband depends on her for many things and her children are quite totally dependent on her in many ways.\n\nMarried men put out this same kind of vibe in their position of strength as a kind of creator of life in their families.\n\nYou just don't pick up on it because you aren't looking for something in a man to make you want to bone him.