I've known her for a while, and we're pretty good friends. I have always liked her, but she never gave much sign that she like me more than in a little more than friendly way. Then last week, we ate dinner and I waited for her to get into her house, I kinda just grinned and walked home. She called me later and said she almost kissed me, but she held back. I was slightly taken by surprise, but I played it off. Now i want to make the move, but i dont wanna screw up. Theres just something about her, differnent from other girls that i've dated that just totally throws me off.
133508
what are you stupid or what?she's already told you that she wants you,you better act and act fast go kiss her right now
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paul i am sorry to say this but this doesn't really sound like much of a problem. I think you should stop worrying about whether she likes you and do something about it. Take control of your life. By now if she hasn't given you any signals, then don't bother, it ain't going to happen anytime soon. You got to come out straight and face her. Its now or never. Be a man!
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Ok... I've got two answers for you... so here goes...\n\nThe simple answer:  Probably.\n\nThe more complicated, and more important answer....\n\nYou are insecure. You know this... I know you know this, because you are an obviously intelligent person, but you simply haven't gotten to that point where you are really comfortable "going for it." I know this, because I was the same way for most of my life.\n\nGuess what? So is she. So is everyone. Everyone is insecure about things... over time those insecurities change to different things, but everyone has them. Yeah, most likely she likes you... but here's the best part, even if she doesn't, it doesn't really matter. Let's say you go talk to her, and ask her out... there's only really three things that can happen:\n\n1) She says yes, all is well and good with the world, you go off and have a wonderful time, and who knows...\n\n2) She says no. It doesn't matter what the reason is, just be nice and courteous, and let her know that you were interested, and to have a good life or whatever. Remember this: being nice now truly will be good for you later. After all, she might be taken, but that doesn't mean her hot friend is.\n\n3) She doesn't give you a clear answer. This can go a lot of ways, but usually if a girl doesn't make it fairly apparent that the answer is no, that means that the answer would be yes, except there is just something else going on that is keeping her from saying it. That can be anything from purely an insecurity issue, to having just gotten out of a relationship, and not feeling ready to date, etc... but the important thing is this: She didn't say no.\n\nIf #3 happens, let her know you are interested, tell her something nice, and let it go. In a week or two, take another shot and see what happens. If you end up doing this a couple times and she simply isn't going to say yes, then assume there is something you can'd do anything about, and move on.\n\nAnyway, good luck... and ask her out.
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If she wants to come and you do like her, give it a shot. Don't feel guilty if it doesn't work out because it was her decision just as it is yours. You have to try, that is the way it works. If you are having strong doubts now, though, I would tell her. Maybe you two could start seeing more of each other, like trips back and forth and take it from there.
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If it got you messed up then it sounds like you're still into her? Does she give you signs that make you think she likes you? What is your heart telling you to do? You only have one life and you have to make the most of it, please bear that in mind. Also, how good is your friendship? Are you settling for friendship, because you couldn't go out with her originally, or do you truly care about her as a friend? Try to establish what it is you do feel, then act upon it. Or are you messed up cos u think these guys may try to use her, and as a mate you're looking out for her?
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i think she may like you, but is possibly a little confused on how to proceed since you two have been friends for a long time. If you like her, i think you should start dropping hints back to her, but start it out slow. ask her for her cell number. when you wrote that she might have wanted you to call her, and then said her mom wouldnt like you calling the house, that might have also meant she wanted you to call her on her cell. i hope this helps a little.
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Good to cut it short --- but poor form on announcing to her friend that you liked her instead\n\nChances are the girl you were supposed to be on the date with found you pretty boring too!!
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Sorry to tell you, but she's just not that into you.\n\nHere are a few reasons why:\n-- someone already told her that you liked her, but she did nothing\n-- she flirted with you but nothing happened\n-- you asked for her number and she lied (big red flag)\n-- she said she had a boyfriend (maybe a lie but definitely a way of deflecting your interest)\n-- she said she'd give you her phone number Monday and she avoided you\n-- when she look at you, she doesn't smile or light up\n-- she only smiles at you when she's around her friends (so she doesn't have to talk to you; her friends protect her like a pack)\n\nI think you should give up on her being anything more than just a girl you know around school, or a casual acquaintance.  You can't make someone like you, and you can't make someone feel something they just don't.  I think she may be flattered that you like her, but she's just not interested.  If she had been interested, she would have talked to you a long time ago; she'd have given you her real phone number, and you'd have spent time together.\n\nSorry.  Unrequited affection is a bummer.  Good luck.  You deserve a girl who smiles and lights up when she sees you, is happy to give you her phone number, and would be happy to go out and spend time with you.\n\nHope this helps.  Cheers, K
252485
Do you like her back? If you like her, go ahead and make the first move yourself. Good luck!
78376
what you should do is be really nice to her and make he rfeel special but do it in a subtle way, then if she dosent like you there would be no embarrassment because there was no proof that you were hitting on her, but if she responds continue the behavior until you're comfortable enouh within your self to bring up the courage and say, i like spending time with you and i was wondering if we could spend some time together next saturday, or sommething like that.
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If you like this girl for more than her looks, then you might know some of the things she is interested in?  If not, take the leap! I am a 20 year old female, I don't know everthing about relationships but one thing I do know is that if you don't take that first step, you may never know what could have been.  If things don't work out and she isn't interested in you like you would hope, then things weren't meant to be.  When I was a sophomore in high school I dated a freshman guy who approached ME.  I knew then as much as I know now that he had a pair of you know what and I credit him for approaching me (I understand it isn't easy!!) And break the habit of talking through the friend to get to the girl, the sooner the better because you're wasting your time!! I hope I was some help : )
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ok here ya go, ask her to hang out like maybe go grab a bite to eat beforwe work, ya know not like a date date but more of a friend. then start a conversation about how great she is. she will get the picture that you are interested. but hey girls get scared and they think the guy might not feel the same. so you might can just ask her if she likes you like that she will say yes, if not she will still be your friend because she is coming to your house anyway. I dunno I always called a girl and iasked, but the girl i got now my friend hooked us up.
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It would depend on lots of things as to whether 2 move in or not (who is she to you, whats the age difference if any,have you bothered to look for any true signs that she is interested in you?)even so- regardless of all that you should NOT - NO WAY just go ahead and do it anyway- if your feelings do turn out to not be reciprocated she may well give you a damn good slap!  I know i would if someone i didn't like just came along and planted one on me; respect her personal space and portray yourself as the gent you are!  Also if you will have to continue to see her it could get most awkward!  Do you even know if she has a boyfriend? Do you even know that she is straight - not from her smile thats 4 sure!  Also you just never know what issues a person has from their past - close, unexpected physical contact from some one could be quite disturbing for them.  I'm not saying any of these things are so; but how much have you REALLY truely thought it all through?  Or have you just thought you did!?(when really you were just playing your romanticised version through in your head?)  I honestly don't mean to be a wet blanket - but i would advise picking a discreet moment where you can have a quiet talk with her; explaining how you feel and finding out if she SAYS she feels the same-if she does you could always break the inevitably awkward silence with a kiss couldn't you?! but i certainly wouldn't reccommend stealing a kiss!And what's this "make ravishing love to her without saying a word" all about - don't you watch tv or keep abreast (forgive the pun!) of current affairs? ALL blokes are strongly advised to get a loud and clear, VERBAL "yes" to a straight, direct question - it's called consent!  Sex without consent/rape/illegal - there are many terms for it none of them being too good for either of you! PS Women should be able to SMILE @ random people (men or women) without running the risk of being jumped on! A smile alone means SQUAT!
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Well..as much as it hurts, rejection is part of our life. Anyway, did she show you ANY signs that she might like you? Like staring, trying to get close to you, being super nice to you, smiles at you, laughs at your jokes (even at the not-so-funny ones), and things like that. But even if she doesn't show those signs, you should tell her that you like her. Maybe she'll start to get more interesting in you. Believe me, every girl likes it when a guy tells her that he likes her. I started to develop a crush on a guy that i initially didn't really like when his friends told me that he likes me. So, really, you should tell her. She might say "no," in that case, offer to be her friend, and who knows, maybe little by little, she start to like you. Hopefully she'll say "yes". Good luck! =)
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Just become really good friends before you start a relationship! Trust me, I've gone into a relationship based on physical things (without a strong friendship) and things didn't work out! I think it's great that you are willing to wait until she seems ready to "make a move"! I wish more guys were like that. Find out what type of things she likes to do. Maybe you could invite her to go bowling you and a couple of friends, or go to coffee(i suggest Starbucks), or out to eat,  or somewhere else that you guys could just talk.  I know the movies are fun but you should do something where the two of you can talk. You can't really get to know someone that well by going to the movies. To keep her interested in you maybe you could just flirt with her a little, every girl likes to be flirted with every once and a while. Good luck! If you want any more advice on it you could always contact me.
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You say she likes you so you must have given her a reason to think you're a nice guy! Maybe you like her a little too, in spite of the missing parts? Give it a try if you think you can do it without hurting her. If you are really uncomfortable about the whole thing, do her a favor and leave her alone. If you decide to go for it, maybe make it a double date or invite a few other people to meet you somewhere for the first couple of times, just until you get to know each other a bit better.
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Sounds like you two have a lot in common...basically wanting someone, but yet not to get hurt again. See if you can take her out and tell her that you really do like her and have like her for the past couple of months, but like her are looking for someone special and are afraid of being hurt. You respect her decision of not dating just to be dating, b/c once again you are looking for someone special to make your life complete. Pray to God for the strength to approach the situation with honor and dignity. Don't ever be afraid of no, b/c you never know until you ask. Keep your head up and your confidence high, you sound like a terrific sweet gentleman and I wish you and her both luck! God Bless!