well, I have many things going on related to getting a girl. But, what's the best descent way to approach a girl with out sounding like you are a big shot? And, do girls like better a guy to be honest and humble, showing no more than what he he is and actually has? or girls like one to be flashy and more like acting like a big shot?
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well as a girl i like it wen guys approach me and come up to me decently and humbly.. more than a guy who is very proud of himself.. for us girls first impression is important.. most of the girls likes nice guys so if you are a nice guy just ask her or approach her decently and just be yourself..\n\ngoodluck hope im a great help to you..\ni.m. me for some more good advices!!!
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best way to get my attention to be yourself...no stupid pickup lines, and no games...be honest\n\nI value intelligence and a good sense of humour.  If you can carry a decent conversation and make me laugh...it's all good.\n\nnot date worthy...any guy who is overly cocky, and bad teeth is a total turnoff
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I have been a guy since i can remember  and when a girl asked me out I always was very impressed that she was asking me and not me asking her .  For a guy just that is most of the battle Ask very directly like hello hey I would like to know if you would enjoy a nice dinner together or whatever you prefered be blunt with men we dont like the flimsy ones.
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Confidence! Have confidence, man!  Don't slap her on the donkey or anything, just be assertive. ASK HER OUT! If she's making eye contact, she's likin' you too.
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I'm a girl, and if a guy randomly started talking to me I would think something was up. Most girls would probably assume that the guy is attracted to her or something. So, I say try to be next to her or close to her. Try to sit by her and join the same clubs as her. Establish some more similarities and then it will make more sense if you approach her...
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lol im a highschool senior how perfect\n\nwell typically if your decent looking with a an ok social status and fun to talk be around one of the above can make up for the rest and make yourself avaliable to some guy.. you bagged him. mmm if you float the idea that there could be a relationship like discretely and jokingly in the conversation.. he'll think about it and say "wow this could work".\n\nas for signs i tease them alot lol and i usually talk really loud to my friends around her so its like giving my crush a preview of what im like or something\n\nyeah im sidetracking now! its pretty obvious from guys you feel lit you know it since supposedly girls are 10x better at being psychics than guys
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Smile and be yourself. Be friendly. If it's a specific girl, talk to her. Ask her how her weekend was or about a class. Or compliment her. Girls love compliments.
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It's not that big of a deal and you don't need to resort to 'tricks' to pull it off. Most girls probably get sick of all the smart-a** lines and crazy 'methods' anyway.\n\nJust talk to her, get to know her a little, ask her questions. You'll soon know if it's working out and then you can proceed to part 2: ask her out, get her phone number, whatever, just don't let her get away if you can help it. And by that I don't mean follow her, hassle her, or anything not cool.\n\nWhen you talk to her be interested in her and what she's all about. If she asks you a question don't use it as an excuse to switch the topic to you, unless she keeps pushing for more info. That way, you'll make her feel special and she may even come away from the experience thinking, "Wow! This guy's different!"\n\nGood luck!
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Girls like confidence, a sense of humor and attentiveness. If she talks, listen. Compliment her (be honest though). Maybe you don't feel confident, but if you pretend you are, you'll convince yourself. We ALL get nervous around "the one"- even in our 20's. There's more to being attractive then just whats physical about you.
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Hey, don't sell yourself short!  Just the way you explained your situation was wonderful.  You knew what to say, your charm and energy comes through, you expressed your feelings very well, and it was as "convesational" as posted question can be.\n\nI know it can be scarier to talk to girls without your friends around, but you know what?  The girls aren't all that sure of themselves either!\n\nDon't necessarily approach someone for a conversation thinking of it as a "date conversation" - just be yourself and start talking about whatever, and as the conversation progresses you can always say you would really like to continue and would she like to go out sometime.  Be casual and don't sweat the small stuff.  Remember, she's probably as nervous as you are!  You already are the kind and funny guy who can speak up and talk to girls for dates.  Sometimes we keep ourselves from doing something simply because we're nervous about it.  Life's too short for that, and I can guarantee you that the girls are wondering what they can do to get you to ask them out!  Just relax, be yourself and you've got it made.
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be aggressive, B-E aggressive. Don't flirt with everyone, or else they will think you are a whore. And for gods sakes, buy a guy a drink every once in a while. Why are we afraid to talk to girls?  Maybe it's because we know we are going to pay $10 for your drink, and then get a fake phone number.
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Yeah, the best thing, and the least performed action, is just talking to the dude.  How do you know him, however you do, just spark a conversation.  Dredge up some of that fake-ass confidence that every girl has, and use it!  Guys to like conversing and they LOVE IT when girls approach them at all.  By the way, every relationship starts off in a kind of friendship level, so be friendly and flirty
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you don't need pickup lines.  They are cheesy.  Just be yourself and go have a real conversation with her.  At first, say "Hi, my name is _______"  Be genuine.  It is not necessary to impress her, or seek her approval.  Turns some women off.  Be yourself.
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1. What is the question? how to get her?\n2. First of all, girls...all girls...are attracted to confidence. You sound like you do'nt have too much of that...If you ACT like you have confidence, that is attractive to women.\n3. It's all about the game of "he who cares less"\n4. Start small - talk to her. Do you have classes with her? Start with little things like..."hi"..then progress to little things like "did you see that movie last weekend?" See? At least get on her radar.\n\nBut really it's the confidence thing you can do.
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My advice to you is to always be yourself - no matter the circumstances. Never you try to be someone else. You may not know this - but some guys are just there appreciating you as you are - a cool headed nice gurl. Maintain whatever virtues you're endowed with. Great advice I think that is. Cheers!
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I think your asking how to approach a female you don't know so she will like you.  I would like it if a guy came up to me and asked me what my name was, told me his, and we had a normal conversation and he told me he was interested in talking more and would ask for a phone number or give me his.  No lines, no gimmicks, just a simple getting to know you conversation.  I hate it when guys whistle at you and yell hey from across the street.  Its so disrespectful.
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You're not a shy guy, but you're not outgoing, either. Okay. I see where you are coming from. You're a "stuck in the middle" kind of guy. Normally, you are probably not nervous, and when a gal starts talking to you, you do not always get sweaty and start ststststuttering. But, you lack the confidence and machismo to just go right up to her and say, "Wow, you're the only good-looking girl that I have seen all day. I'm So-and-So. Mind if I get your number?" and hand over a pen and paper.\n\nYou DO have the right idea, though. It is a clever strategy and worthwhile goal to try to get the women to come up to you, rather than vice versa. But...unless they are practically drooling over you for some reason, like your disarmingly good looks and manly charm, that is not realistically going to happen - am I right?\n\nDepending on the location and situation, there are many different ways to start up the Attraction Game. Building attraction is definitely the most important part of getting anywhere with any woman. You cannot just stroll up to them and say, "Hey, you are like, so totally hot, and I like, like you, you know?" Unless, of course, you can pull it off in a particularly humourous way and get her laughing.\n\nThat's what you need to aim for. Laughter. Do not come across as being outright goofy - just playful. Even the more serious-minded women out there will appreciate a fine sense of humour.\n\nNext time that you see a lovely girl standing around, and you want to talk to her...look at her for a while. People, as you have probably noticed, tend to have a "sixth sense" that just lets them know when they're being watched. She'll probably at least glance over at you. Don't drop your gaze in a panic, though. Instead, smile cheerfully, and - slowly - move your gaze away from her. Don't stop smiling, either. Then glance back at her quickly, and look away again.\n\nWhat's the point of that little exercise? It builds attraction. A lot of our communication as humans is completely nonverbal - it's body language. By looking at her but not freaking out when she looks back, but rather slowly looking away, you're effectively saying: "I'm not a creep, because I am not staring at you. But I AM admiring you."\n\nShe'll probably smile back, or at least her eyes will shine with some degree of recognition. There's your chance. Look at her again - about the same way, just focus on her eyes (always, always, always look into a woman's eyes when greeting or talking with her!) - and stroll right on up to her. Sure - this takes courage. And sure, you are probably worried about being rejected. But don't be. Repeat this mantra through your head: There's no reward without risk.\n\nYou might even become so smooth at this whole thing that she ends up coming over to YOU, wanting to know what is going on. I love it when this happens; it shows me that the lady has some confidence and fire in herself. :)\n\nOnce you get there, say something spontaneous. This could be amusing and playfully-arrogant, like what I mentioned in the beginning of this post. Or, it could be simple and direct: "Hi there. My name is So-and-So. You are?" It sounds crazy, but this is honestly all you have to do. It's that easy. What you have to watch out for here is turning into a wimp - blurting out words randomly without thought, or thinking TOO hard about what to say and therefore saying nothing at all - but remember. You are already there. You've already initiated the conversation, simple as that might have been. Now all that you need to do is keep it up!\n\nAnd just go on from there. Keep a few things in mind if you ask for her number and go on a date:\n\n1. BE CHARMING, but do not become a "girlie-man." *laughs* I mean, don't let her walk all over you or get you sweating and stuttering. Be confident.\n\n2. BE FUNNY, but be mature, t