Before you judge me, let me just tell you the whole truth and you can go from there: first of all, I hate being overweight. All you know it alls out there who say that I'm overweight because I secretly want to be, are full of malarkey. Second, I can't just "cowboy up" and say no. It doesn't work...not for the long term anyway. My doctor warns me of the future...it doesn't help. I know that being this way affects all aspects of my life and yet, it is impossible to stick to any diet. I do not wish to have a gastric by-pass nor am I a candidate. I have only 60 -70 pounds to lose but it may as well be a thousand. \nNow that's out of the way, let me say this: I am not wanting pity, nor am I wanting a fellow sufferer to cry with. I'm wanting to hear from someone in my same situation that has either beaten it, or has had major positive results. \nCan you help me?
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I am in the same predicament you are in. My doctor is telling me stuff I already know and i have no will power. like tonight i ate 3 bags of m&ms and a king sized twix but i will start tomorrow a new and try not to eat that crap.  what I do is excersice with a friend always because if I didnt i would do it. Its motivation. and I use a smaller plate so it can look full for the eyes and when I cook I only cook enough for 1 serving so when I want some more its none so I have to drink water to get full. Yeah, sometimes I dont always follow my rules but I wake up everyday and try again and harder. I havent weighed myself in a while because when i do and see that I have lost weight, my mind goes " what are you doing? lets eat more" and i gain it back but the best thing is to Wake up everyday and start brand new each day. if you break a day, its ok, try again. What I have learned is to not stop eating what you eat(as long if its not too much junk)just eat less of it. and excercise like crazy. oh, I also have been eating alot of fruits. I really dont like all the fruit thats available to me locally but i eat what i like apples, oranges, grapes, watermelon, strawberries, i just eat a different one a day.its called food rotating. Lucky with my job, one of my clients love to walk so 2 days out the week i have a good walk and my other client has to excercise more, so i motivate her by excercising with her and get strength training incorparated into those days. oh, i try to eat at least 6 times a day. breakfast lunch and dinner and 3 snacks but i dont always succeed, but i am losing weight, something i am doing is right because i can feel it in my feet and legs and sides where my bra is. hey, if you want a person to talk to about your days to give you motivation to keep trying im here for you sweety. so good luck. if you want to eat fast foods, try nuggets instead of burgers. and eat tacos. the whole point is to burn more calories than  you eat. good luck.
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I hate stickly celebs. Heck I don't like anyone who has an unhealthy weight (skinny or fat). If your thin despite a well-balanced diet and exercise, then that's alright. Your Metabo is just fast. If your big and the same thing, then your Metabo is just slow. But if your force food down your mouth or eat fast food all the time or if your anorexic and stuff, you need help! Me and my fiancee' may not look like models (at least our stomachs don't) but we are happy with ourselves and don't fall into the whole thin/thick problems.
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I had Gastric Banding - Something else you might want to look into....when I first started my journey my gyno said Bypass but after I talked to my general doctor he gave me information on the gastric banding.  It is not as drastic as the bypass but you still get and see the results - It is a personal decision that you need to make and discuss with your doctors.  Yes www.obesityhelp.com is a great site for research and peoples stories of success - don't get me wrong there are some people that this is not successful for them or to the worst extreme they do die.  But this is how I looked at it - I am slowly dieing being 400lbs right now - at least I am trying to make myself better.  Talk it over with your doctors, family and others who have had it done.  Most doctors now will have seminars.  Good Luck!  By the way - I am down 60 lbs and able to walk not just to my car anymore - but I can walk up to a couple of miles.
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Well my first suggestion would be to exercise.  Walking is an excellent way to start.  I would say to keep doing that.  I agree with one of the earlier answers to join the YMCA.  I belong there and have made many friends.  It helps to keep me motivated.  That being said, it sounds like you are an emotional eater.  ME TOO!!!  When I am upset, when I am happy, when I am depressed, when something good happens, when something bad happens etc.....  I use food to fix all issues and celebrate the good one.  \n\nSo I joined LA weight loss.  I love them.  I am only saying that as a suggestion.  But I will tell you what they taught me.  \n\nFirst and most important is journaling.  Write down everything you eat and be sure to include portion sizes.  \n\nNext I would concentrate on portion sizes.  Keep track of how much of each thing you eat.   Now you have a starting point to where you can start to make smaller portions and healthier choices.  \n\nIf you don't already, start eating more fruits, veggies and lean proteins.  Grill your chicken, steam your veggies and loose the fast foods.  I love chinese and have had my share of depressed chinese eating but if you find yourself there, just have a smaller portion and fill up on water.  \n\nThat is the next important point.  Drink water and pleanty of it.  At least, if not more, 8-10 8oz. glasses a day.  Stay away from soda as it is empty calories and makes you dehydrated.  \n\nAnd keep your chin up.  It will not happen over night but it will happen.  I have on my refridgerator a list of all the reasons I am trying to lose weight and what my reward will be.  I am 10 lbs from my goal and my reward is getting my belly button peirced.  I have lost over 50 lbs so far.  If I can do it, so can you.\n\nIf you would like to email me you can.  My personal email is ejniver@hotmail.com\n\nElicia
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3 years ago I weighed 230 so I totally understand what you are going through. The hardest thing is you cant actually lose weight until you are truly happy with yourself.\nI did the Subway diet for the first year. I would have 1 foot-long everyday with a small breakfast and snack. I would eat a 6inch for lunch and dinner. You can have any of the under 6grams of fat sandwiches with no mayo. (They're all delicious my favorite is Sweet Onion Chicken Teriyaki) \nBreakfast ideas are oatmeal or oatmeal with one piece of whole wheat bread. Whole grain cereal, An egg on a piece of whole wheat toast and some salsa. Also for a snack or lunch you Can have Lean Cuisines (which are actually delicious) and of course vegetables and fruit are always a great snack. I really like sliced up apples with a lil bit of peanut butter on top. \nThere is alot of different things you can have. You want to make sure you eat 6 small portions a day, even if you arn't hungry still eat small portions so you don't accidentally over eat. \nI personally count calories. The average women can have 2,000 calories a day so if you start eating 1,700 calories instead you will lose about 2 lbs. a week. Also you should walk for at least 30 minutes a day. \nIt also helps to have a friend to talk with about your weight struggles because it is so hard. \nFeel free to contact me back. =o)
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Hello!  I was diagnosed with hypothyroidism about 8 years ago at 24!  My GP diagnosed me and told me that I was slightly outside the normal range.  I went to endocrinologists here and there to be sure everything was being done for me that was possible because I too, had gained weight and that caused me to be depressed.  I was always told if you want to lose weight, it's very simple, eat less or burn more calories.  I felt I was doing all I could.  I educated myself in nutrition and exercise.  I worked out at least 45 min to an hour four to five times a week and ate only whole grains, fresh fruit and veggies.  I cut out all the obvious fats like butter, mayo, salad dressings, creamy soups and sauces.  I quit eating candy, chocolate, pastries and ice cream.  I thought for sure it was just the disease I had and I had to learn to live with being 40 to 50 lbs heavier than I wanted to be.  Then, about two years ago, I separated from my husband and shed several dress sizes and approximately 35 lbs in three weeks from the stress.  By the time my divorce was final, I was down 15 lbs more...I wasn't eating much and when I did, I ate the wrong things.  I had abandoned my healthy lifestyle completely, I wasn't even exercising anymore.  It's been a year since and I have put about 10 to 15 lbs back on but I'm happy and living healthy and have been maintaining.  I went to another endocrinologist recently and he said, "no one ever said why your thyroid failed, we have no reason for it...we are going to find out."  After testing me, he found that there was no cause and believed that I had a "cold" of my thyroid, which I didn't even know was possible.  To be sure, I had to go off of my hormone suppliment and be rechecked.  Did it and he was right!  Your thyroid can get a "cold" and be dysfunctional temporarily.  Be sure your fiance gets checked by a good specialist on a regular basis and make sure she finds one that wants to find out what caused it to fail.  It's possible she has the same problem I had.  Also, have her check how many calories she is taking in per day, keep track and then figure out how much she is burning.  I found out that for my size, I can only take in about 1300 calories a day to maintain my weight because even with exercise, I'm not active enough.  She may think she is doing everything right and she may not be.  There could be another explaination for her weight gain.  I really think mine was because of depression (unhappy marriage).  Here's a link to a website that will allow her to figure out how many calories she burns doing different activities...right down to watching tv and sleeping!  \nhttp://www.healthstatus.com/cbc.html\nHave her go through it and then spend a week recording all of her caloric intake to compare.  Good luck and I hope some of this helped!
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I absolutely think so!  I have been a size 2 my entire life.  I had a hysterectomy and went to a size 16 within 6 months.  I figured it was because of the hormones and it would all go back to normal soon.  It's been almost ten years and I am still a 16.  I eat considerably less than anyone I know and exercise, yet  I can't lose any weight.  I have seen several doctors who treated me like a fat girl looking for an excuse to be fat.  That really pissed me off because I was looking for a way to lose it without pills and I wanted to know if something was wrong.  Then I started vomiting every time I ate (not on purpose).  Every time.  I went back to my doctor (who I have finally realized is an idiot) who said nothing was wrong...how does that make sense.  Wow, I can make a short story long...lol!  Several doctors later it turns out i have a disease in my blood that is turning food to waste or fat and using no one of it for energy.  She has me on medication now.  The lbs are coming off and my energy level is through the roof because my food is actually working for me rather than against me.\n\nI am not suggesting that your friend has this as it is pretty rare.  There are also thyroid disorders etc.  Point is if diet and exercise aren't working your friend(s) should go see a doctor.
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join a support group.  i am sure there are others with similar fears.  the most important thing you can do is love yourself regardless of your size and know that even if you cheat a little you are still a special person.  sounds like you are putting too much effort in to controlling your eating habits to prevent gaining weight but you are not nourishing your self worth.
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I think we always have someone that in our minds is better than us, but you gotta get that out of your head. If you wanna stay motivated, wake up every day and look at yourself in the mirror and say " Am I Happy with what i see?" if you are than theres really no reason to put you through the stress of weight loss. If your not then write down what you would like to improve and just stay to it, if you feel like your startin to break down then tell a loved one and i'm sure they will get you through it.
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look it is really unhealthy for some one your age and size to be so worried about you weight. if you are over weight talk with your dr. just eat healthy and exercise regularly if you are insistant on losing weight but dont go too drastic because youll cause yourself to get sick and have long term health problems.
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whoa!!!\n\nI know how that feels.. :(\n\nLimit your food intake and try to exercise. Walking or jogging would help a bit... \n\nAnd I'm not sure if it's healthy, but whenever I feel like I gained a lot of weight and I want to stop it, I try to drink at least 2 glasses of water before each meal to trick my stomach into "thinking" that I'm full, that way I won't eat a lot... It does work.\n\nJust don't do it habitually.
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i wish that people would stop and think about everything that they are losing out on just because they think they are fat. i have been fat my whole life. i used to dread meeting new people because i was afraid of what they were thinking of me, now i could care less. there are way way bigger people in this world out there then 150 pounds. if you came up to me in person and said that you think you are fat i would laugh in your face. ill tell you what, you want me to send you a picture of some of my family members? i have an aunt that is close to 400 pound. and a cousin that is 330. and i aint no skinny minny myself. what you have to do is except yourself for what and who you are. if you dont like it then you should cut back on calories or lose it the right way because the ways that you are trying will work and then you will gain all of the weight back. and my mother used to be bulimic--she had dentures by age 24.
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I have a weightloss blog you can read. Sometimes it's funny.  And I'll write back if you write to me.\nI wasn't motivated for a long time. I'd say "I want to lose weight" and then eat a lot and sit on the couch. Lately I've been working out like a fiend and living on slimfast with no problems. It's like finally I flipped the switch from SAYING I wanted to lose weight to actually DOING something about it.
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Leave.\nShe'll be in such miserable health in 3-4 years.\nYou gave her your opinion now give her an ultimatiom. Yeah thats not right, but shes not taking the healthy choice.\n\nLosing weight does not make you healthy. Eating right and working out does\n\nMy friend had gastro 5 years ago - she is only 30 and on disability, miserable, sick,her husband left her. She probably wont live too much longer.\n\nGastro is a sad "hopeful" thing.  She did look great of course right after.\n\nGood chance your girlfriends drs wont allow her to do it anyways, from what you say she is not obese.  Maybe you could edge a word in to her dr too.
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WHOA- that is a touchy subject for you. I personally have lost 143 lbs and fell great so I know how you feel about wanting to help others, I do it all the time. Sometimes they are thankful and sometimes they are resentful. Take it easy with her. Like you-nobody else can motivate her. SHE is the only person that can do that. One day she will see a picture, try on a pair of jeans or an old dress and make a decision that she is tired of it. In the meantime you stay on track and set the example for her both foodwise and exercise. She will eventually follow suit because on the inside the jealousy will eat her up. CONGRATULATIONS TO YOU!!!!!!! Keep up the good work!
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first, I know exactly how you feel!  Trust me, diet pills are only a quick fix IF they work.  Do you realize that the FDA does not have to research or approve of them?  Some teas may curb your appetite or have a diuretic in them.  Again, that is only a quick fix.  The best solution would be a sensible diet and exercise routine.  First, cut all portions.  I would reccomend going to the Mypyramid.com website.  Keep a 24 hour diary of what you eat: this includes drinks condomints, and snacks.  Be sure to write down portions as well.  Then go to the web site and enter in what you ate and drank.  The site will pin point your problem areas and what foods you need to decrease/increase.  Its not about avoiding all fats but certain ones.  Anything processed or fast food is out of the question.  Fresh fruits, veggies, and white meats are a definite, but watch how you prepare them!  Trans fats and saturated fats are pretty much a huge down fall too.  Now Im not saying you can't enjoy a burger once in a while, but try to avoid it more than once a week, if not less.  As far as exercise goes, well there are thousands of options.  YOu can try a gym.  ONe thing I did was get a body fat/BMI and physical done.  Then I was given a trainer and I do cardio workouts and toning workouts.  If you can afford it, i hear Jenny Craig or weight watchers are really good.  I now jog/walk almost everyday.  I do Tae Kwon Do, yoga, and free weights at home.  The gym atmosphere really wasn't for me.  But yoga and TKD have really made an impact.  YOga helps my flexibility and strength, which I need for TKD.  And TKD is a great strength/cardio workout.  Don't fret about the weight issue too much.  The goal is to be HEALTHY and happy.  YOu and I, we're the average, even if you don't feel like it.  Good luck!
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I'm a registed dietitian, so I may be able to help.  First of all, most of the diets and diet pills out there DO NOT work.  They promise a quick fix, but like the old saying goes "if it sounds to good to be true, it probably is".\nI would recommend you stop eating anything that contains refined sugars (read food labels carefully for sugar and corn syrup ingredients).  Increase your fiber intake (with fresh fruits, vegetables and whole grains) and start a low-impact exercise program.  Because of your weight you may not be able to do a lot at first, and that's fine, don't push yourself, but as you continue your tolerance for exercise will build up and you'll be able to do more. \nEmail me if you want more help with your plan.