If a man who is not your boyfriend penetrated you sexually while you are sleeping and as soon as you awake you kick him off you are you obligated to tell your boyfriend? My boyfriend was already mad that I was sleeping over at a friends house, so this would escalate the situation. It will never happen again and I will never see this man again. Therefore my boyfriend will never know. I want to spare our relationship the anguish. Is that right? Does he need to know everything?\nP.S. I had a physical exam and I did not catch an STD nor am I pregnant.
132190
I still believe you need to tell someone because you were molested and it is not ok for that jerk to get away with this that easy, I understand why you don't want to tell but it is better you deal with it.
299058
It sounds like your guilt wants you to tell, but telling will only hurt her and make you feel better.  If it was a one night stand, let it go, otherwise someone's got to break it to her, preferably you.
248857
Ok..then let me return to you this question:what do you call a man who sleeps with a lot of women?Why is it ok for men to do this,but women should stick to one man?That is so hypocrite!
545704
whether he is your ex or not you shouldn't be sleeping with him if he has a girlfriend because I am sure you wouldn't like that. But that wasn't your question. It seems like he just wants to have sex with you. You deserve someone who hasn't kept you on the side for the past couple of years and by letting him sleep with you with no commitment he knows he can get away with it... so he might be thinking why should he be with you when he doesn't have to be to get into your bed. Good luck and I hope things work out for you either way.
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Your boyfriend could have gotten herpes before he was with you.  It can lie dormant in the body for years before symptoms appear, or you can get symptoms right away if your immune system is weak.  I just depends on the person.  It's probably not good to play the blame game, because he'll never know how or where he got it.  And it is possible that you gave it to him, unless you've never been with anyone before.  Like I said, you'll never know who got what and when, so it's just better to accept it and move on from there.  Hope this is helpful to you.
20056
Your question doesn't have anything to do with this category (Diet & Fitness) but...\n\nAsk him. It's no big deal!  So it's a little embarrassing...you'll get over it.  And you won't have to lie awake at night, wondering.  :)
415125
Why are you embarrassed about it?  Is there something to be ashamed about?  So what if you had sexual relations...it's when he starts lying about the details of that sexual relationship then you have a problem.  But women can be pretty good at nipping men in the butt if they chose to reveal details.  Let him know that if he wants to remain civil friends that he should grow up, or else you might just have to let all of your female friends within the common circle of friends know just how pathetic a lover he really is.  He knows that you are bothered by your past sexual relationship and is trying to tease you.  He wants a reaction from you.  Just don't give him one.
508405
OK, lets look at your question...  "while I was housesitting this week I accidentally ran across undeniable evidence that he has a boyfriend".\n\nNo, you did not "accidentally" run across "evidence", you were being nosy. To justify you being nosy you then turn around and say "he's been LYING to me over and over for months and months". If you feel so hurt and angry, how do you think he will feel when he finds out about what you have done while housesitting? Yes, you should confront him...  about you being judgmental and not being the true friend that you have pretended to be to him.
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5 guys in one night!!  Aren't u concerned with diseases?  Or getting pregnant?  I'm sorry to tell you, but yeah in my opinion it makes you dirty.  In fact if you were a friend of mine I would have a few other choice words to say to you.  Wrap it up girl, you're gonna end up with some horrible STD if you continue.
546305
A whore is someone who sleeps w/ a whole bunch of people. So, no, you're not a whore. All you guys did was make out. You're reading  too much into it. What happened was:Both of you were feeling vournerable. And both of yall emotions just took over. It's totally natural. Nobody is at fault here. So don't worry about it honey. I mean, think about it. You guys are still friends right? And he probably hasn't even brought it up again right? He might feel like you feel. But it's no big deal.
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Prob not a great idea.  You are asking guys if it's ok to just sleep with another guy, of course they are going to say ya, it's their dream, sex with no strings.  What happens if you get pregnant?  If you fall in love and he doesn't? or vise visa?  What happens if one of you gets someone you really want a relationship with and the other doesn't want it to stop?  Masturbate, it's safer and alot less headache's
655638
well... you have the right to complain if he explicitly told you that he hadn't slept with other girls before your relationship, because then that would be lying.  But if he never brought it up and you just assumed that you had the same morals, then you kind of have less of a right to complain.\nBUT, if he currently has friends with benefits, then that definitely IS cheating, since he's your boyfriend, and he shouldn't be fooling around with other girls..\nI think you should talk to him about it, but don't throw any harsh accusations at him..
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You definitely need to define your relationship with him.  I think you should make it clear you are a couple and that this relationship is exclusive now and if he can't handle that he needs to leave.  This is worth fighting about because if he only sees you as dating then he believes he has the right to be sleeping with other women still and I don't think you want him sharing your bed every night if that is the case.
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I'm into brutal truth BUT some people can't handle that kind of truth. it would depend on the man. Can he handle it? If something can come back and bite you in the butt later, it's best to just get it out and deal with it. I'm sure your partner would rather hear it from you then someone else.
548794
If he's your boyfriend and he genuinely loves you then he should respect your wishes - it's NOT ok for him to sleep with someone else - it's basically blackmail on his part as he wants sex.  If he won't respect your wishes and therefore does not truly love then you are best off without him.  It doesn't matter what you believe in but if one party isn't ready or happy about having sex then the other should wait if they love you enough - that applies no matter what your beliefs are. Never allow yourself to be pressured into sex.
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" and I have a boyfriend that tonight told his friend to basically have sex with me...."\n\n???WTF?? There is a word for people like that- dang girl- get your head out of whatever dark place it is in and get rid of both of them..neither one of them respect you..why don't you respect yourself
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Let me give you a tip that I use all the time. If he said he was going to call you, then you wait for him to call you. Control your hand when you are thinking about reaching for the phone!! It's called self-control. I just used it 20 minutes ago. If you call him it will seem that you are desperate to talk to him. You will get used to this as you get older. A lot of guys say they will call you when they get home but guys get distracted easiliy. So my guy friend wants to help. He wants to know when you guys had sex? When were u guys sexually active  or has it been in the equastion the whole time? Did u guys have sex before or after he said I Love You?