i tried to sort out matters many times... but u know  he just  doesnt understand....  ignores  me to hell  yet  claims  that i'm wrong in my thinking and that he still loves me.... wot shud i do? i really want him to become as he was initially!!  talking  didnt help....  and  it  wont help at all... please  suggest something  that  wud  prove worthwhile... please   now i'm tired of all  this seriously!! yet i dont wanna leave  him!!
128194
Ignore him sometimes and flirt with other guys in front of him, he'll come around. Yeah, we don't like talking about relationship stuff. Oh and if you have a good guy friend, go out drinking with him. That works too. Jealousy sometimes works wonders.
370337
I am actually having this same problem myself. I love him and I want to be with him, but at the same time I wonder sometimes if he really feels the same way. We basically have 1 of 2 choices..... we can stay and try and talk to them and see if it can work out . or we can just let it go and find someone else. \n\nI choose to stay for a little while longer and try to work on the relationship as long as he is willing to work WITH me to make this work.\nI'm sure you will figure out what is right for you. I wish you luck.
50918
I had the same problem and it wasnt good. talk to him, let him know what your feelings are. if he still didnt listen then he doesnt care so i will say to leave him and find somebody else.
43419
You need to contact a support group for YOURSELF.  You have to realize you can't change him, he can only change himself.  If he does not want to help himself, and you want to stay with him, you need the support of others who are going through the same situation.
453704
this reminds me of my relationship.. it's hectic. give him some time.. you already apologized to him. Tell him to call you whenever he feels like talking to you. GIve him some time you already said sorry so that's good that you've accepted your error.. but yea goodluck... try not to disrespect each other.. once you disrespect each other then it's really hard to work things out... and remember everyone has arguments... just be straight foward with him and tell him that you already apologized to him and to please not be in a bad mood... communication is the key! goodluck hopefully he's not moody anymore... and ask him why he's moody maybe something else was making him moody :P
370640
Just let things ride for a while, and see how things go. \n\nHe could be the best thing that ever happened to you, but give him the chance to prove that first. \n\nI wouldn't trash him because of his beliefs, and if everything else seems OK, you can always convert him later. Just make sure he does not have a problem with your beliefs. \n\nIf things work out, you may be able to get him to accept your way of thinking. \n\nGood luck, you know what to do, and you know how to do it, \n\nDarryl S.
69365
Trust and believe he is not going to change if he's acting like this now he will be doing the same thing later. If you cant deal with it I suggest you get rid of him SOON!..... GOOD LUCK!
19063
perhaps you should stop reading things into it, don't try to figure out what he's thinking.  Come straight out and be honest with him, "look, I said those things because I was confused.  I feel foolish, and you may not want to hear it, but the truth is that..."  if he is any kind of a man, he will hear you out.  Don't play games, if he is worth fighting for, be straightforward.  He heard what you told him and he took you seriously.  Don't try to "make him call", just seize the opportunity and do so yourself.  If he accepts an intelligent whole-hearted apology and he feels the same, it was meant to be.  Next time, don't be so impulsive!
93021
Well, it's sad but true: IGNORE HIM!!! it really works 4 me, when my guy is ignoring me or wants to treat me like I don't even exist, I show him he cannot do it to me and just pretend that I got to accept it just because I love him, so, I ignore him until he's forced to react and ask what happens, and when he asks me I just tell him: U just got to learn to treat me as the magnificent woman I'm not as a ****!!
357040
Knowing that you just hung up on him, wait until tomorrow or the next day, just to calm your nerves.  Find out if y'all can meet somewhere and discuss the problem.  But if chooses to remain stubborn, do others things to take your mind off of him.  It may take some time, but it can be accomplished.  I was in a situation similar to yours.  Don't waste your time thinking about someone who doesn't respect your wishes.
252729
Ok I completly understand what both you and him are going through cause I have been there and done that, therefor my advice to you is if you really think and feel you love him try to understand his point even if you don't agree or like it very much. What it sounds like he is doing is avoiding having confrontations with his family and you. The less they know the less they will nag at him, they less they nag the better mood you will see him in. Think of it in a positive way he just wants to avoid problems between his family you and him, besides its also a healthier realationship for both of you, never know he may be thinking of taking the relationship a step higher and want to move in together in a few months and when he does he will drop the bom on them, just keep your eyes open at all times giving everyone and anything the benifit of a dought. Good Luck and take things easy enoy your time
148525
i think the best way would be is to go with what he asks you to do, but never let him get to you. agree to whatever he tells you, but do what you want anyways on your own account.. or with out him knowing.. more or less just letting things flow so u can live at peace. if this approach doesnt work, try discussing things with him, see his point of view and try to understand it, maybe there is a reason as to why he doesnt want you to do certain things. if also this approach doesnt work, save money, work hard, have patience and move out... all in all i think u should be strong and handle this smartly, cause if you rebel hell just be as suprpessive and controlling as he can get. try to work your way to get your peace of mind.. remember that.
648909
TELL HIM UER SORRY, THINGS WOULD NOT GO BACK AS THE SAME THOUGH!! IT MIGHT BUT IT WOULD TAKE A WHILE!!!
120744
WOW!!  I can so relate and can feel and understand the confusion and not knowing how to walk away from what you truly love, and believed was everything you had been looking for...  I wish I could tell you what the "right" thing to do is, but I would be a hypicite.  I know from the outside looking in that the self respecting and having love for yourself firstmost, would be to cut your losses and see him for the person he really is and not the person you're in love w/ that you THOUGHT he was.  To even consider waiting around for a man to deciede if he rather have you or an x is INSANE!!!  I know this in my mind, yet I have allowed myself to give up all my self respect and dignity for 6 months waiting for my so called "fiance" to decied between me & his x wife of 20 years.  In the past 6 months he has went back and forth 5xs! I also describe my guy exactly how you did yours, but I was wrong that isnt who he is.  I allowed to waiy and let him struggle w/ his indiscion tuntil I had no self respect left for myself & became willing to settle for him any way I could.  That's not what love and foorever is supposed to feel like.  Don't allow yourself to dig yourself into that hole because its a hard 1 to climb out of.  If he is'nt 1000% sure that u r the only one he will ever want, he is'nt worthy of you!  Don't sell yourself short.The loneliest place in the world is laying next to somone who doesnt love you any more, & 1 sided love is hell you deserve heavenly bliss- settle for nothing less.  My man walked out w/o a word and back 2 her 2 days ago, we finally spoke on the phone today and as much as I love who i thought he was I finally decieded i cant stand who he is.  Doesnt stop the hurt or build back my self esteeme i got alot of work to do to get over it...But this time I really believe he does want her mor than me , but why the hell would i ever let a man make that kind of descion i should have given him no more choice in at the 1rst slightest sign of comparing or weighing me against somone else.  Live and learn.  I*t is the hardest most painful 1 i have had to go thru, and hearring your ? i had 2 respond and share my understanding and expierence in hopes you won't allow yours to go on as long or as deep as I did.  Good luck, and ultimatly only u know what's right for u and only u have 2 live w/ the decision.  If i could leave u w/ 1 bit of wisdom it would be the man has to live up to your dreams, dont never settle for less than u have always wanted and deserve.  mr right is out there for us but we gotta get our mr wrongs out of the way!!!
216229
Don't really make it too complicated for the both of you. You have to communicate with each other and express how you really feel about one another and If you can't communicate with him then just presume that action speaks louder than words and that if he still continues to ignore you and you can't take it anymore then move on. If you find no reason to stay in the relationship you somewhat both have then don't. That's all.
413481
Stop trying to *change* your man! If he does something that you do not like you either have to accept him, or let him go, but you CANNOT change him!
670160
i have had a similar experience. You need to understand that everybody makes mistakes. What really matters is if they learn from their mistakes. If you think that he knew he was wrong and he loves you unconditionally now then you need to forgive him and stop thinking about what happened. If you keep putting him down, chances are he will feel desperate and lonely and will do the same thing again. If you don't want him to do the same thing again then stop punishing him. If he is really sorry for what he did then forgive him and forget the past. You can't build future living in past. Forget it and try building your future with him... =)