I have heard that one must hit rock bottom, is that true? How did you seek help (were you jailed, was it family, just you being tired, etc....)?
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I got to the point that I could no longer blame what was going on on someone else and had to look at me.  It's called a moment of clairity in AA and I thank God daily that I had one.
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C you briefly tell us where do you live? it's hard to tell you where you can get help, if we don't know where do you live.\n\nIf you live in US:\nhttp://www.troubledwith.com/\ntell them your low income situation, and see what they can arrange for you
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what do you do as a job? i found that i had to change my attitude in a lot of different areas of my life. i don't know exactly what i'd suggest for you since i'm not sure what type of work you do. are you religious at all? that is something i got away from and i found myself sinking deeper and deeper into anger and despair. have you talked to your doctor about it? i have had to stay on an antidepressant. my family has a history of depression. sometimes we just have chemicals in our brains that are out of whack. it is hard to deal with life if your brain isn't working properly. i have made myself always look on the bright side. i dont' know you, but as a starter, you can be happy that you have a roof over your head and at least some type of employment. i honestly know how you feel. please don't consider killing yourself. i don't know how many times i made passive/aggressive attempts to harm myself. i was wreckless and i did not care at all. it's an awful feeling. i really suggest you talk to a doctor. psychological sickness is the same as physical sickness. some people do not understand that. there are methods to heal yourself. please talk to someone. i'll say a prayer for you.
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I was once in the same situation for 10 years...I was verbally abused as well as physically abused...we had 2 children...in 60's we had no place to escape to...I eventually was given a way out.....our son is in prison because of his painful childhood....so I do know where you are coming from...people should never stay in an abusive relationship "For the Children" they are suffering that abuse with you....\nAs far as the healing...well its been nearly 28 years since I got out of that marriage...I have anger problems....I have memory loss... I have anxiety and post traumatic stress syndrome...but I have been holding out pretty good...healing takes time...I am still healing...one thing I did learn from all this...Men who do this sort of thing have a complex...they look to you as above them so in order to bring you to THEIR level they have to over power you enough to make themselves feel better about themselves..just hang in there...go forward don't look back....get a journal and write down your feelings..it really helps...and sometimes its better than trying to explain it to people who have never been there...time heals all wounds...but for some...it just takes a lot of time....let me know ...been there...done that...
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Need to know what state you are in.  Lots of rehab facilities out there.  Hear some are worse than just going to therapist, etc.
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Was that a serious q?  If it was my father in law was on big time.\nLook for:  \n  Binges of staying up for days (depending on how much they are doing),\n Crashing and sleeping for days (or just all day, again depends on how much they are doing.\n  Becomming violent\n  Overly happy\n   Very hyper/"wired"\n  Watch for them making jumps in convos - that nobody can follow.  I.E.  You are talking about how much you made from a paycheck to somone shooting a dear illegally in another state (personal, family experience of theirs)\n  Erratic mood swings.  (being happy, and talking one min, and the next be yelling about $50 you think someone is ripping you off, then saying how they got the person they are talking to out of trouble when they shot that dear in wyoming, to flipping your 6 months pregnant daughter in law over a chair while she was trying to get her husband to leave, to holding a knife to your sons throat threatening to kill him) ****Yeah, it happens fast.  I know because I was the pregnant woman being flipped over a chair.  And the person my father in law was talking to was his son, my soon to be husband.\n  Having hundreds of dollars and then being broke in a few days.\n  Being anti-social\n  Swear a lot (you had that)\n  They can make funny faces ( depening on how they are doing )\n  Unable to shut up (jabber mouth)\n  Visit the restroom frequently\n  Sniff a lot ( if they sniffed it, not if they smoked it )\n  Look for mirrors, or other flat surfaces with the residue\n  Erratic behavior (saying brb and being gone hrs, wanting to work on everything, cheating, lying, stealing ect)\n Grinding teeth\n Sores\nLoosing weight \n Dirty hands is just gross, doesn't mean meth.
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So often in life we see a bad situation and desperately want to make it better. Most of the time we can't really do much. You indeed describe a terrible situation, but there is little you can do. More importantly though, take this opportunity to explore what is within yourself - why do you so desperately want to help someone who does not want to be helped? Every hear that joke: How many psychologists does it take to change a light bulb? - Just one, but the light bulb has to WANT to change. It's true. You can't help people that don't want to be helped. When she hits rock bottom and decides to pick her life back up, that's when you will be able to help. Not before. Good luck.
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I hope by go you mean to seek help. When we are deep in depression it is difficult to see things clearly or to be able to see far ahead. What you need to do is call 911 and tell them you need help. You need to take a break and go to a hospital where you can get the treatment you need. I urge you to please make the call.
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I'm in the same situation as you.  I think you have to take matters into your own hands, but that requires motivation.  And the lack of motivation is where I'm stuck at right now.  Sorry, this isn't much help.  But I just want to let you know that there are other people who have the same problems.
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I definetely understand your situation. I did something like that one time, and a friend called the cops on me! And true, I don't like people to know how screwed up my life is. But you know what? Things have gotten better, and I look back on those times and wonder how I survived. I'm just saying that this will pass, and one day you will feel SO together. Just hang in there.
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Hi... I'm sorry you guys are having to go through this. I can totally relate to this... I am 21 and am diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder, Major Depression that's recurrent and severe, Generalized Anxiety Disorder, and DDNOS. In the past year and a half, I've been hospitalized 9 times and have seen several psychiatrists and therapists. I've been on many different medications. So I do know what he is going through. \nI have been out of work since January of 2005. I first had to apply for Temporary Disability and be on that for 6 months before I could apply for Social Security Disability. But when it came time to apply for SSD/SSI I was nervous because I had heard from MANY people that it was a long process, and you almost always get denied on the first try. It took 8 months for them to give me a decision, and thank god, I was approved on the first try. I think that I was approved on the first try because of all the documentation I had... from the doctors, hospitals, and therapists. So I would definitely recommend getting as much support as you from his treatment team. \n\nI hope that everything will work out. Don't listen to the people on here who are saying nasty things. They have obviously never had to deal with severe mental illness before. You and I and everyone else who has suffered from it either personally or through a loved one knows that mental illnesses truly are debilitating. \nGood luck!\n~Julie~
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no1 but u yourselfcan help u ./ first of all .. say that u dunt need help.. coz if u feel helplesss then only u will b down .. believe in ur self ur abilities and mark ur goals .. achieve thme and work hard .. God bless u amen ... \nbe motivated internally .. or else it will b hard in life for u
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I've only experienced total hopelessness like that once in my life.  The only way I got through it was due to the fact the breathing is an involuntary function and I didn't have the choice to stop.  It's probably not the answer you want to hear but there's nothing you can do but be patient...time will make everything bearable.
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i was in a bad stage of life. only 14 and i was doing drugs, drinking, cutting, trying suicide, and hating life. my mom vocally abused me and my dad ignored me. my aunt had just died and my best friend hated me. boys were treating me oh so wrong. and i was getting bad grades.\n\none night i was crying and praying god to send me down an angel. i was begging. i fell asleep doing that. about a week later, this guy came into my life and i have not done any of that bad stuff since then. i get really good grades. my mom is still crazy but its getting better. and my dad and i have a father-daughter relationship.\n\ni know how to stay away from the guys who treat me bad too.\n\nand i have a bunch of great friends now.\n\ni love my life and i don't want to die yet. there is so much more beauty to see in life.
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Yes, sexually/physically. It started when I was three - by two cousins and an uncle, it went on for thirteen years. I did as much as I could to escape it, even running away - constantly. Recently, I went to the police (for a second time) However, the punishment given didn't fit the crime, and the cousin who abused me most, only got 5 years. I think people now a days are too scared to go to the police or report anything, because victims don't get enough support. Abusers get a couple years in prison - victims and survivors - they get a lifetime of never ending pain. I wouldn't wish the feelings they caused me to have on anyone, not even my worst enemy. \nIf you are in a situation where you're being hurt, please get as much help as you can...to physically get you out of the situation, and to help you with your emotions too.
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YOu can't help your friend as much as you wold like to you just can't. She has to help herself. (I know in NY there are places that will take you rehabs and stuff even if you dont have money , the state helps you) People that bad off NEED to hit rock bottom cause its the only thing that will make them turn around and help themselves. Sorry but its the truth.
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Gosh I feel bad for you...sounds like a hardcore case of depression.  It's so easy for other people to just tell you to seek therapy, isn't it?  I have lifelong bipolar disorder, so I know how it feels to have been down in the depths of depression...thankfully for me, I eventually snap out of it and go into "happy" mode.  In my experience, talking to a therapist has not helped.  They ask me a million questions, write them all down and make me feel like a science project, give me a prescription, and send me on my way -- all for $175 for a 30 minute appointment.  I have found that when there is a constant vague feeling of depression for seemingly no reason, it is because I have suppressed that reason.  Identify the sources of your unhappiness.  For me, I finally realized that it was about three different instances in my past that had changed my mindset or my innocence in some way -- made me jaded to the world.  I'm still working on it, but I'm hoping to confront and forgive or be forgiven by the people involved.  And yeah, I've had my heart broken and I still have feelings years later, so it's perfectly normal.  If you have self-esteem issues, work on something that you enjoy and that you are good at -- don't worry if you fail at first, practice makes perfect.  Help others or be a friend.  It's almost impossible to feel low about yourself if you know you are good at something or worth something to someone.  If your self-esteem is in the dumps because you are worried about what people think of you, then don't be.  Look at people who are stupid and unattractive and have confidence -- if they have it, then why shouldn't you?  Basically, you need to recognize meaning in your life.  It's already there, you just need to find it.  All right, enough Dr. Phil crap from me.  Good luck and bless you.