I am dating a man who has been in relationship for 10yrs. with a woman, they are unmarried. He asked me if I found him attractive when I first met him(physically), my answer was "No,your personality is what attracted me" Is this insulting to you? He took it as me saying he was ugly.
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no. i think it is a coplement cause as a guy i look for personality and if they look good it's a bonus. I don't mean that as an insult though. If you had said that to me i would have been even more in love( if that was the case).
644010
Question him, sounds like he is not into you that much. Yes, we all notice people we find attractive, but all the time?? No sense of love there at all.
292611
Looks aren't everything. She likes or loves you for the person you are. Be thankful for that. My boyfriend thinks the same way. I tell him all the time its because he's an amazing man and I love him.
85393
If you are told your hot, it's because you are in his opinion. It has nothing to do with your sexual preference. I think he is just jealous that you are that good looking and that you prefer a female over a male. I find nothing wrong with that. I think it is natural and everybody has a choice on who they want to be with. He is just trying to get at you, don't let it disturb you much, does he have a girlfriend, he's probably jeaulous that you have. Good luck.
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Hey Angel,\n\nYou have gotten some good advice regarding your self esteem.\nIf you don't like what you look like change.  Exercise, eat less.\nProbably more importantly .... eat right. \n\nYou've heard about women who seem to crave abuse?  They become battered wives ...after a relationship ends they find another jerk just as bad or worse than the first. \n\nWhy would you be even remotely attracted to a guy who called you a fat ugly whore?  It sounds like you're grooming yourself to be a battered wife. \n\nThis piece of work shouldn't be a consideration.  A girl has to have her standards.   If you ever let him get close to you he's going find out as soon as he can if the "whore" thing is true and most likely spared more rumors no matter what. \n\nI have a very good feeling about you ... I think you're going start doing all the right things and turn into a dreamboat. \n\nGodspeed!
532153
most people need to be attracted to each other before they date i am sure you wouldnt date a ugly guy. i am sure you dont look at personality before looks. you have to have attraction before anything else.
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You are very pretty! Alex may be hot, but it's gone to his head. Move onto the next one, sweetie!  Alex is superficial and shallow if he called you ugly. Truely.  And if Dan isn't doing it for you, move on.  I was in a relationship where I wasn't head over heals in love with the guy, and that's not good either. You can have it all. You can be totally attracted to your boyfriend, want to spend time with him beucase the conversation is GREAT and have him want you just as much!\n\nJust dont have sex until you're married!!
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Not all men are that way. I suggest that you dump this clown, and find someone who will appreciate you for your obvious intelligence & personality. Looks ARE important, I enjoy looking nice for my woman, and appreciate it when she makes the effort to look good for me. But, it is an effort, something special. Not daily life. \nBy the way...sweat pants can be sexy too. It is all attitude.\nA relationship based on what you describe does not bode well for the long term.
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I totally understand where you're coming from. I am not at all attracted to short men. I like my men tall. My b/f is 6'6" but he's not the greatest of boyfriends. However, if your boyfriend is a great guy, then don't dump him for superficial reasons. You did say boyfriend, not some nice guy that's interested in you. There is a reason you made him your boyfriend, think back to reasons and consider is it really worth losing a great guy because he's lacking a few inches. Looks come and go, but great chemistry is something that will make a relationship work. Hope this helps some.
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People place too much importance on looks to begin with. I dont care who you are looks will fade in time and its the personality that will carry a relationship through. If you are attracted to him...and he has a great personality as you stated...what are you waiting for..go out with him. It sounds like you may be concerned about what others will think of you being seen with him. If your friends are that shallow, they are not much of a friend to begin with. Go for it girl and I hope you have a great time.
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An ugly, well-talking woman is not going to impress any man who is looking for a girlfriend.   And a dishevelled guy who looks like an alcoholic is not going to impress any woman by talking well to her either.\n\nPeople's physical looks are very important in whether they like each other or not.  And of course, you don't need a lot of time to judge whether a person looks attractive or not.  A few seconds is all you need to make this kind of judgement.\n\nGood character can offset some of the dislike people have for an ugly person.   But usually, it's not enough to eliminate the dislike entirely.
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He probably means himself. But it sounds as though he is not real swift in the sensitivity department. I think you might want to tell him that you have heard that "joke" enough now and it is time for him to wrap it in tissue paper and store it in the attic.\n\nDefinitely don't take it personally. You are probably exotically gorgeous and he feels very lucky to have such a beautiful wife. He may be worried that you don't find HIM so great-looking. Another tactic you could take when he says it again is to say,"Nonsense, honey, with me so beautiful and you so ruggedly handsome and masculine, our kids are gonna be the most beautiful ever born."\n\nLighten up. Don't take him seriously. Some men are kind of stupid when it comes to women. LOL.
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Why is he still single (unmarried) at 43? Why do you always have to start the discussion about moving in together? Why did he make that remark?\n\nI think you are right to wonder about his commitment to the relationship. But don't overreact - take it easy. I may be wrong!
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It depends on the person who calls them beautiful.  Even within the television "beauties" people's opinions differ on who is beautiful and who is not.  When I've let myself get beyond the surface (upon meeting a nice guy), I've noticed that his character overshadows his looks.  I hope that is true for women.
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Comfort and familiarity can be two enemies in any relationship.  When we are single, we are all playing a game. It may not be overt, but we are trying to put on our best performance.\n\nBest looks, funniest, most outgoing, most sensitive.  All these attributes are put out to our potential mates to make us stand above the rest.  Once one gets married, there's a tendency to stop putting on our A-game.  Sweat pants become the norm, not shaving the beard for days, and weight gain.\n\nWhy?  We've snagged our mate and all the physical preparation rituals we had to endure, fall by the wayside.  Why look nice and fit, we're already married.\n\nThen something happens, and the relationship is dissolved. It's back to the gym, to feel good about ourselves and to look good to others, so we can repeat the entire ritual once again.\n\nThe warning signs are there - old photos from previous relationships, even how the potential mate talks about their physical appearance.  If looking good (I'm not talking super-model here) is drudgery, then beware.  It's just a matter of time before the Cobb Salads are replaced by Hagaan Daaz - and the lean sandwiches fall by the wayside to Philly Cheese Steaks.
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1. no you might not be a pig head physical attraction is important but the person inside is much more important.\n2. no, it is very important to some people, you don't want to be do in it with just some ugly chick, but people might not like to hear that you do look for partners on looks. lie a little.
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I think that it is completely silly to ever assume that someone is too hot for you.  \n\nI used to be really dorky looking.  I got self esteem, some low cut shirts and pants that fit properly, a better haircut, and BOOM all of a sudden I'm being hit on left and right by all these "pretty people" who never looked at me twice before I got contacts.  And most of those people do not interest me in the slightest.  \n\nMost of the women and men I've dated have been told that I'm prettier then they are.  Not to sound like a raving ego maniac, but I mostly agree.  That is because I like PEOPLE who are well rounded and interesting, not just people who are hot.  \n\nSo anyone who has an interest in anyone should go for it, reguarless of how hot or not they feel they are.  Not every hot person is looking at looks only and plenty of not hot people are amazing and wonderful.