we have been together for over a year and had a short break in January, which was the hardest thing i have ever been through. i know that he will do anything for me and in so many other ways he is an amazing bf, he just seems to struggle with putting me first in front of his mates i.e he can't agree to stay in with me some nights incase something is happening with his mates! and showing me proper affection like holding my hand, giving me random cuddles etc without a drink...our sex life seems to be disappearing dramatically too...when we do have it, it just doesn't feel like it used to...i love him to bits and the last thing i want is to break up but i dont know how much longer i can go on feeling like this...
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It sounds like your love may have more problems than his inability to show you affection. Has he just started to act this way? or has he always been a non-affectionate person?  This could make a huge difference. He may have not been shown affection growing up and finds it uncomfortable and awkward as an adult to display his emotions toward you with the physical act of touching and embracing. As far as the part about having to have a few drinks before he says I love you, well that could lead right back to the intimacy issues. Honey, some men have many many hang-ups about exspressing their emotions and desires...talk with him about this, let him know that it is OK to tell you what he feels, it is OK to show affection etc... it may take a while, but he will eventually become more comfortable with it if you work at this issue together. God bless and lots of luck to the two of you. Peace.
530959
if youre not gettin any sorry im in the same situation.my husb.works all the time and thats his reason we dont.he says he loves me and would never cheat so i go on that bc i love him.so when it turns into months bf you get any i know how you feel
101445
He might just be feeling uncertain about his feelings and how to express them to you.  I think you just need to have an honest talk with him about how you feel about each other.  Be careful though, it could be that his hormones are guiding him if you know what I mean.  Don't let him use you.  Keep him in line and he will always respect you.  You have too many years invested as really good friends to mess it up by becoming too personal.  Good luck!
106773
You both may have love for each other, but if he still has major issues,the relationship won't last.  You'll have the same problems you had last time.  If all he is telling you is that "no one freaks him better", then he doesn't want to work on the relationship, he just wants the booty. That's cool if you are interested in just casual sex,  but don't think that he wants you back.
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My mate has just been dumped by her boyfriend of 6 years - cos he said he needs time to himself. Imagine how she feels - you were only with this guy 8 weeks.\n\nJust think people need to put their problems into perspective a little bit. I know you must be feeling cr*p right now -but its not like you dedicated half your life to this guy. And if he wants you to change your opinion on something as big as sex then really he's not the one for you anyway.\n\nps - most men are weird. \n\npps - i was very prudish when it come to sex - but my mind has been opened ...... opened in the very best possible way
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It could be either. Relationships are tricky. Especially when it's hard to break the chains between the two of you. If it's been over for 6 months though, and he has not asked to get back together with you, then he might just be looking for and craving the attention and good feelings that you give him. Remember, you are not his consolation prize. I would tell the guy to either shape up or ship out. I'm sure he did leave something great, - I'm also sure you deserve someone who knows what they want. My ex did this to me for a long time and I hung on because I still loved him very much - but he wasn't still in love, he just wanted the attention and affection that I gave him. He wanted me to keep his ego afloat. Stop giving this guy attention and see what he does. Then if he starts to call and come over, either don't let him, or tell him to make a choice. You need communication. Ask him what his intentions are.\nRespect,\n-laura
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The old case of "having his cake and eating it, too." When it's "convenient" for him to have you around, when he needs something from you, he pulls you back. When he's not feeling as into you, he pushes you away. He needs to make up his mind. And you need to NOT be his yo-yo. Respect yourself! You are worth it, I am sure.
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communication is key! He may be uncomfortable being affectionate in public. But he could also not want his friends to know how he feels about you. Keep in mind that guys are different when it comes to relationships. Unless they are in love with you they may not want to be affectionate in front of his friends. As long as his friends are aware that the two of you are together then you shouldn't worry and just give him some time!
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why were u with him for so long??\ni've seen couples like this. they usually stay together.\nwhy? - don't ask me; i hate feeling trapped! - but that's just me...\nif it works for u -ok!\nif it doesn't - cut him loose!!\n...although after all this time u're probably used to him and feelin' safe\nur choice..
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uh oh i have been in this exact situation before and it didnt turn out to good because i didnt take action. i just let it go, and he eneded up dumping me. you have to ask him whats going on between us or something will happen, because my last bf only wanted me, and not me(like my personality) he just wanted to make out and it was badddddd ACT FAST. NO JOKE!!!!1\nor mabey you should listen to everyone else, i mean, if he barley talks to you, does that mean he bareley says i love you or he wont TALK to you? mabey he doesnt want to say i love u around his friends or something. mabey he's past the stage of the everyday i love you, youre beautiful thing.
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If it is not something you are comfortable with, then you shouldn't have to do it just to keep the relationship going.\n\nHave a chat with him and find out if he is understanding enough to give that part of his life up (He should, if he loves you that much.)\n\nIf he's not willing to give it up, then you have to decide if it's something you can put up with, no matter how much you like him or how great he is.\n\nIf you can, then stay. If not, then leave him as you will never be happy with him and will get more stressed out as time goes by.
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It sounds like you both moved a bit too fast and now he's trying to back off a bit.  If you've only been together a bit over a month, it's a bit too soon for most people to be totally in love.  Just give him his space and if he does love you, your relationship will flourish.  If he doesn't love you and he doesn't "try" in your relationship, then you don't need him!\n(The further you get in a relationship, the less often you feel the need to say "I love you".)
103243
Okay, 1st of all feelings like that just dont go away so he probably still feels the same way he just stopped letting it show. and 2nd you need to tell him how you feel. Im sure he will be thrilled to hear it.
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Talk to him let him know that you feel that your at a point in the relationship that you want to have more physical contact with him.... if he feels unfomfortable (which i doubt) wait until he's ready to rush things
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He didnt seem to treat you very well hun, you obviously had problems within the relationship, did you try telling him how you felt or did you just split up with him without discussing how he made you feel?\nIf you want him back then you need to talk to him but this time make sure that you tell him how you feel, take control a little.\nIf he only wants you back on the same terms as you had before then it's obvious that he is just using you hun.\nTry talking , but it does sound like he was using you a little.\nDont let him rule when you do things, be brave , ask for what you want when you want it, if he says no then cut your losses and find someone who truely appreciates you.\nGood luck, hope all works out ok for you.
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Oh my goodness! I was JUST like you with the Touchy Feely. I wasn't that at all when I started to date my boyfriend because I've never been used to that emotional display. I was so used to hangin' out w/the boyz that it just rubbed off on me. I'm used to it now because it's just his way of showing me how he feels. But don't let him get too "Fresh"
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OK...i will guess you have been dating about a year, give or take a couple of months.  This is the fork in the road of your relationship.  Almost all guys do this at the same time.  They get scared and feel trapped, so they want to break-up for a while.  Give him a few weeks and he will either come back loving you more than ever ready to go all the way, or he won't come back.