They have been just friends for many years there is no attraction on her part.But now she feels strange like her job is at risk or the comfortablity between them will be damaged! Any ideas????
130377
be honest with your boss. if you only want to be friends just tell him in a nice way that you find it difficult to date any one that you really like as a friend and you cherish your friend ship, so you don't want to let sex or any thing else come in between your relationship because a Friend is hard to find and easy to loose
315526
I don't feel as if she is a friend to you.  But "you" know if she is or not because you are around her.  It is very ironic that everyone who you've seemed to have liked she likes to and has been physical with them in some way. I feel as if no "so called" friends should fall out over a guy.  Stick to having a "true friend" someone who doesn't like who you like knowing that you like them.  You aren't losing to your friend sweetheart because as long as you know that she is liking who you like try not to be around her because a true friend wouldn't keep on doing this to you.  This has happened to me but the situation was different.  Eventhough I don't know you I'd like to become your friend or get to know you because we have something in common even if I only give you my opinions or advice.  I wish you the best and if you don't continue to be friends with her don't let it be over the guys let it be because of how she is treating you.
151523
i think you should let her know how you feel about her.\n\ni think it would be much easier to tell her this in person  so i would just ask her to take some time aside on a day and try to go out somewhere where you can talk dinner/coffee/park but somewhere commercial not too busy tho where there isn't eery silence or awkward feelings for reactions to a conversation like that \n\nbye what u have stated it doesn't seem as if she shares the same feelings with you  but i would not know since i dont know her\n\nbut be cautious  because if in fact that she doesn't feel the same way as you do about each other you might be faced with the problem of just wanting to stay friends \n\nbut also don't obsess or show obsession over the situation because that can push someone away and make them feel uncomfortable around you
470050
How long is a while?  If you have been seeing her for longer than 6-8 months, that's one thing.  Understand that you may be important to her, but this issue is not about her, it's about you!\nWhy are you feeling this way, and I don't mean for you to explain the situation all over again?  What inside of you is causing the anxiety, or jealousy, or emotions that you are going through?\nThink of the couple that had been married for 60 years, and one dies.  At least you have your love every day, so be thankful for that, at least.
138421
they need to sit down & have a serious talk about their relationship, where it is going etc.... then they both will know if they want the same thing or if they are wasting each others time.... if one gets serious & the other doesn't feelings are going to get hurt & no one wants that...hope it works out for your friend.
669285
her relationship just ended, so she is probably a little off right now.  give her a minute...and only a minute.  set up a group of 4 of you to go out for coffee, or even dinner, make it a fun night just to get out, that way he can make a move and she wont freak out with all of you there, and maybe it will help her come around.
230977
If you have a past, it must mean that something about her is worth liking/being friends with. If situations like this arise, and the friendship is worth keeping, time will settle whatever weirdness there may be. I would act as though you are friends, and nothing is weird, and hopefully she follows suit.
556661
she is alone,thats why using you.\ntry to get out of house or have someone in house.\n\nshe may be feeling what woman feel at 30's as that the time they r in thir hype,but loneliness is making her towards u.\n\ntake care!!
273949
when you two have a moment alone tell her how uncomfortable it makes you feel and to please stop.  be gentle since she sounds like she might be kinda sensitive.  if she doesn't understand what the big deal is tell her maybe it's best y'all spend a little less time together.  if that doesn't work and she's still hanging all over you maybe you should tell an adult.  i mean, it would suck to make a big deal out of it but if she's dense and isn't getting the message...what else can you do?  no one wants to feel uncomfortable around someone who is supposed to be a friend.  and if she were a real friend she would've gotten the message already.  ya know?  good luck.
416039
Yeah darlin' it sounds like you're feelings are stronger than his at this point, sorry.From his point: I think it's hard to be best friends w/ a member of the opposite sex when you're  involved with someone. He may feel like he's betraying her. She may be putting some sort of pressure or negative input. \nAbout you  feeling "used" when he comes back after their break up... (which BTW their future break up is 99.9% probabable, statistically)..though I do see your point,  if you understand human nature, and as you get older you'll see this same thing again and again, very common, because people change, life is change. Change can be difficult, especially in relationships. \nNow as for numbering your friends in a ranking system, and should you call him this lable or that lable... I think once you guys can get past that "disastrous system" and began to see all the people that you really enjoy being around as your "closest friends" without the number/lable system, I believe there will be a lot less hurt feelings and heartache between all of you. Not saying we didn't do the same exact thing when I was your age,and it sucked being  #2,3 or 4 then, just as it does now. But since I did survive my teen years, I want to share that with you! My advice to you is to be the best friend that you feel comfortable with being to him, and her, without crossing the boundaries and getting into their "relationship space". He's your friend, she's your friend until either of them stops being what you consider to be a friend, at which time they are no longer a friend...\nMeanwhile use YOUR energy on YOU not him!  Good luck girl...
366414
i would suggest she is having problems and fantasises things to take her mind off her s...  be gentle with your mate, sounds like she needs good frienship, don't be too harsh on her.
32467
I agree with most everyone here about one thing. You need to remove yourself from the situation NOW. If their marriage is going to fall apart, it will do so without any help from you. Give her a chance to see things for herself without your infulence whatsoever. This will undoubetedly be difficult for you but it is the best interest of all involved. Should she wind up divorced (which it sounds like just may happen) then you can be there for her, be her friend, confidant and maybe even lover. Trust me....she will not know her true feelings for you until she has rid herself of any bad relationships. The last thing you want is to find this woman seemingly falling for you simply because she's unhappy now and you just happen to be the "fall back" guy. She may be looking for an "out" and you are the easiest way for her to accomplish that. Let her get out on her own, be her own person, make her own decisions, start a new life for herself and then, and only then can you be absolutely sure that it is truly you she wants and needs in her life. All things happen for a reason, so allow them to happen all by themself. If it was meant to be....then you two will be together. If not, then at least no one got hurt very badly. I know what it feels like to be in love with someone who is off limits at the moment. Follow your heart and instincts, but also listen to your head. Good luck to you my friend.
59536
Shes probally sad or u're not giving her enough attention. So in return she won't do anything with u. And/or shes going through a change with her body or something wrong with her.
89824
don't let it bother you.\nShe is feeling threatened now that you might steal her "dear little boy"..and have more influence on him..\n\nIt is common !! They start to feel jealous !
450053
You need to be very careful of how you handle this. If you approach her, she could take it as sexual harassment. Either way it goes, this will effect your job.  I would suggest finding another job before bringing this up to her. I understand that this may not be as easy as it sounds, but you should understand that once you do bring this up, things at work will change. What if she feels the way that you do, but someone later breaks it off? Will you still be able to work with her? Will she want to work with you? You also need to think about what will happen if she doesn't respond well to you. She may not take it as far as the sexual harassment that I mentioned earlier, but it could make her uncomfortable enough to not want to work with you anymore. You are probably safer fantasizing about her for now.
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it seems there isn't really any problem.and how they continue their relationship is for them to choose and decide--and other than a few little whines-- it seems -like a good caring friendship.She probably does feel guilty--about not paying-perhaps she has even tried--but he wants to the gentleman-and pay--so no insult--or perhaps she relays thsi information--so that it does not come across to others thats she's just using him-for money etc-she can aalways buy him a nice b-day present or the like at sometime--ifthe guilt is that big-----and maybe she does want something more--but it is not what he chooses -- it looks he'd rather simply have for now the comfort of friendship--and he has every right to choose that -if it is the way he desires it--and is comfortable with it this way-if he's simply after a companionship which offers comfort and support and is plutonic--it seems he has exactly what he wishes --if this is his true want.\n\nif she would like more --it is up to her to approach him-- and as for the making out--it may of been heightened in the telling than fact or may have even come from the other way--but it doesn't seemeed to have put a distance between them or destoyed possible future changes--\n\nhowever--it seeems the pressure is coming from you--and what you want\nperhaps this women even made the passes at him--perhaps this would in some ways make her feel there was some sort of relationship which gave her a little more conection to their relationship and his fondness for her and the spoils of being wined and dined --\n\nbut within -the letter --i do not see you say she really wants to be with him--or has confided etc-\n\n-you mention she feels a little guilty--well thats natural-- but it seems it is still offered and accepted and seems like they are both mostly comfortable-\n\n-perhaps she also doesn't want to be seen as some sort of kept lady etc--\n\nhe also (by your note) doesn't seem to be pushing for more-- and that may be exactly what he wishes-- and that,therefore,is  his choice-- not yours (sorry-i am sure you care-- but you are not going to marry tone of them or the like--so you don't get to choose or really have a say--you should be happy for them-\n\n-unless one of them is unhappy in the scenario--but you don't seem to say that--you seem to say--you are unhappy with it----well sorry--your happiness of their relationship-is probably minor--)\n\nthe other thing-is if he is on medication--pehaps he really cares for her alturisticly \n\nand even though he may like her--perhaps he has some questions and may see himself as a liabilty if it was to go to another level\n\ni think if you want to do anything-- you should be their friend-- and let them do their thing--and if you want some info--just ask which ever one you want--y"you mean you don't have any further romantic feelings for....?) an see what they say--\n\n but don't push it cos it is what you like or want---------- and if one of them does want more--instead of the lets get busy passing--perhaps you can suggest that person should speak to the other openly-- if that is uncomfortable for them--then maybe you can be the middle person--but if that does happen--i think you should try to stay neautral-somewhat--i mean don't push yor own agenda--give honest opinion--of it a good orbad-- but don't become a salesperson--thats not a best friend--\n\nfriends advise-- not sell--or push their desires - on to best pals\n\nit seems happy to me--and may even become a romantic happy-- but at the moment-it seems mostly a comfortable happpy--with a little bit of minor past happenings-\n\n its not some thing one would to push from the comfort area it is in and then instead of moving it towards the romantic-- it is moved -and pushed - to that of discomfort--that would be a poor outcome-- for all i think\n\nhave patiece--perhaps tact also -- don't gossip-- support- and be a best friend-- and do what is their wishes
461822
She is depressed and probably feeling insecure. I believe that she probably likes this guy because he makes her feel younger. However, you are right. The grass is not greener on the other side. Most likely, he will probably date her for "the candy" and once someone more attractive comes along, he'll most likely leave her. I hate to be so brutal. \nHere are some tips to boost her ego and hopefully help her realize that you are such a good guy:\n*pull her closer when talking to someone of the opposite sex, even if it's a relative.\n*surprise her with wine and bubble bath, possibly leading into a massage?\n*do fun activities with her, go out and have fun together.\n*tell her she is beautiful and give her affection in public(in moderation)\n*as crude as this sounds (I apologize if anyone is offended) but give her foreplay! \n\nIf all else fails and she still leaves you, if you truely love this woman, be there for her when she falls down. If she does this again, then she doesn't deserve you and you shouldn't let yourself get stepped on. \n I wish you the best of luck. \n*