When i was i think 4 or 5... i had a cousin that used to touch me...once i remeber we were in a garage type building and he taught me how to give "head" and he let me knowing i didnt kno wat it was.....as time went on my family found out....and it was all about asking me wat happened then forgetting and never mentioning it agian. When i got older i had heard that it was called molestation which i already knew. But i never thought about it and i never wanted to research it.....until i did...i want to kno from other people if they consider this molestation...??
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Yes, I'm so sorry this happened to you. Let's be clear-you did NOTHING wrong. He was the one in control of the situation. You can still get counseling. It would probably help you even now. \n\nAlso, please report him. Usually people who do this crime do not stop. You might help save another child (or children) from the same person.
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Well something like that happend to a friend of mine years ago, but she was 14 and he was 19. Beings she was a minor the parents were informed on what happend.\nSomething like that really shouldn't be hid from her parents. And this boy needs to be took down or else there could be another young girl raped or worse. \nShe shouldn't be embarrassed or ashamed on what happend, it's not her fault if she said no. \nI was raped by someone, but I was an adult and as a result I had a child from it. If I could I would put the person who did it to me in prison but I was drugged by a date-rape type of drug and pretty much don't remember much of it and since they can't find the person - DNA does no good.\nSomething like that is too dangerous to let go if not for her sake than for someone elses. Of course it will be stressful but I think she will feel better after knowing he didn't get away with it.
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I think everyone has things from youth that affects us throughout our lives. I was sexually molested by a family member and it has affected me my whole life.It is really hard to overcome these events but it can be done. Best of luck to you
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I'm not going to say I was born that way, but I'm not going to say I "went over" either.  When I was about 9, I realized I had a crush on my best (girl) friend.  Very confusing, but I became OK with it, at 10 I decided that for me, it didn't matter who I loved, just that I loved.  I went all through my adolescent and teen aged years being openly(for the most part) bi-sexual, which is no "choice" any child would make.  No one wants the harassing, the beatings, the ostracism.  6 years ago, I lost interest in men all together.  I am not physically attracted to them, I don't connect with them well, and to be blunt, I find the thought of sexual penetration disgusting, I get nothing from it.  After 6 years of only being with women, I am much happier.  So, I didn't get turned on by wonder woman at age 5, but I didn't just decide to "cross over" either.  I hope I didn't come off as bashing, I didn't want to.  You seem to have asked your question out of general desire for knowledge, not to be mean.  The bottom line is, I (or any other gay person) can not make you understand how I/we feel, no one can make any one truly understand ones feelings unless both people have been in the same place.  The only thing I/we can do ie explain my/our feelings and hope that others are willing to accept them for what they are, feelings.  To answer your original question, I don't think my sexual preference should earn me "special" rights, but I do think that being a human being should "earn" me the same rights that all other human beings enjoy!\n\nBlessings
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I haven't remember an incident I did it. Maybe when I was way younger but couldn't remember the time of someones reaction or mine so, no elaborate explanation to tell you.
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i was 12 when my own grandfather repeated sexually molested me while i was sleeping, i am now 31 and to this day if my husband touches me while i am sleeping i freak out, if your husbands wants to help you get past this problem you must first make him understand why you pull away. also you have to remember that your husband is not your x-brother-in-law. i would suggest that you you try counseling, on you own at first then get your husband to join you for a few sessions. a professional opinion may help both of you to be able to work pass this. I wish you all the luck in the world and always remember that the shame belongs with the x-brother-in-law, you did nothing wrong and have nothing to be ashamed of. if your parents and the rest of you family doesn't see that then they need professional help! ps....patience is the key here, for some people they rebound a lot quicker than others, for some of us it is an everyday struggle to try to over come what has happened to us!
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I was molested from the early age of about 9 years to 17 years.....and it has effected my life in ways I would never have guessed. I have trust issues, I let myself gain alot of weight when I was younger(hoping to make myself as unatractive as I could in my teen years), I have anger, body issues now..and trouble with intimacy. I have wanted to commit suicide, and became depressed because I felt like the only thing I good for was sex. I am now in therapy and doing so much better. Its hard to discuss, because you feel ashamed and blame myself.....It never goes away, but you can learn to deal with it and love yourself again.
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You have to do what you are feeling inside.  Otherwise you are going to have these feelings all of your life and regret it every day when you don't know for sure.  As far as incest, I think you must be referring to sexual thoughts about your father.  This seems to be common and I also used to dream about it.  My guess is because that is the first man you are close to and know everything about; I think it is something you grow out of.
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I was molested by a cousin when I was 7 I didn't tell someone till I was 14. Please don't wait. These perverts could be out hurting other children. If you can't tell her write it in a diary and leave it in plain view. If you have kind of mother that's a little nosy, she'll read it and she will come to you. Or just write her a letter telling her what happened and how hard it was to tell her to her face. Getting these people off the street will help you feel better.
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Incest is more common that you think.  People just don't talk about it.\n\nI worked with a bunch of women in NY amd most of them were abused as kids.  My best friend who is Jewish was raped by her grandfather - a Rabbi - from 5mths old to 16 years.\n\nIt happens in all strata of society.
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I have heard (from radio therapists, etc.) that it is completely normal for children to be curious that way.  Even that siblings under the age of ten usually have some sort of sexual interaction. I remember messing with the girl across the street.  Does that help?
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I remember those days and God Bless them. Back then there was no fear of seriel killer or child molester because whether we new it or not the neighborhood watched out for us. When I was a child my parents busted my butt when I did wrong and I am a better person for it. God help this generation where the state and local governments have stepped in a taken the right to discipline away from parents, yet they act baffled when one of those young people do things that those of my generation would have never considered. Life was good back then, I wish we could have those days back.
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Engaged in some innocent but still incestous activity with my sister when I was 13 and she was 12. Just mutual masturbation when we spent the tight in a motel room together on a family vacation. Our parents (who had another room) caught us after the second night and needless to say were not amused. The s--t hit the fan! We just carried "You show me yours, I'll show you mine!" one step further. Looking back it wasn't right, I wouldn't do it again, and it's probably a good thing we got caught. It was my first hand job though and it did feel good!
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I'm confused too...I don't know how many boys are in that story...but to me it just sounds like being a normal young person....thats what crushes and obsessions are all about. You kind of just have to ride it out and try not to do anything dumb (not an insult to you, but I definitely remember doing dumb stuff bc of boys)
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Real challenge, but it may be the Lord has dropped this on your desk. Take yourself out the picture. Here is how I would start it...\n\nMy name is Denise, my father molested me as a little girl. My mother knew, but refused to believe it. No one would listen to me. When I turned 16, I left home to get away from my family. I needed a place to stay so I slept on a park bench my first night away from home. A very nice young man found me and gave me a warm place to stay. He listened to my plight and was very nice to me. He said he would give me a job working in his film production studio until I could earn enough money to get a place of my own. I did not know it at the time, but I soon discovered I was to make the beds and set the props for a studio doing porn movies. The money was small, but it was a job. I saw how they filmed it, and it looked painful, but they made it sound pleasurable. I did this job for a month and could only afford a shabby apartment which I had to share with a girl I met on the set. She told me how much she made per film and it was 10 times more than I made for the same amount of hours!\n\nYou can see where this is going. You can show the seduction, the pain of doing the scenes, getting caught in the initial thrill of making money and becoming a "star", being recognized then men groping themselves as you walk by, the incredible emptiness you feel as you go to bed at night, being diagnosed with HIV, being fired so as not to spread the disease and decomposing--then dying alone.\n\nHow powerful would THAT be, sis?
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Me and one of my childhood friends did it once and no nothing happened. \n\nP.S. You seem interesting fuzzy. Tell me about yourself (not hitting on you).
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I would agree with Loss Leader.  Your question assumes that what you've said is fact (that family members are punished less severely than "strangers") and I don't know that under the exact same circumstances, that's actually true. \n\nA 35 year old male who molests a fifteen year old female should be punished the same whether they are related or not.  If you know of two cases with the same fact pattern to demonstrate what you're saying is true, I'd be interested in hearing about them.  \n\nI would suggest that given family dynamics, it's entirely possible (in the above case, for example), the mother of the child may ask for a more lenient sentence, and it's even possible the victim would ask for a more lenient sentence.  I've certainly seen it happen myself...and obviously, I don't think it would happen for even a second if the suspect and victim weren't related.