I'm not suicidal, so please don't do my head in with "don't kill yourself" answers.\n\nI'm just bored and burned out with life and don't know what to do.  I've tried taking up new hobbies, meeting new people, moving, changing jobs, etc.\n\nIt's all the same!  I struggle just to get up in the morning because I know what's going to happen and I've seen it all before.  What to do?
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I've felt that way before and I doubt if the answer is the same for everyone.  The first thing I do is take time to be thankful for all that I have.  For all those things that seem so mundane to me, but realize that there are millions of people out there that would kill to have a tenth of the life I have.  Then I take time to remember, that life is a long road and there are always going to be stretches that are as boring as driving across western Kansas but you have to push yourself through that to make it to those things in life that make it all worth while like driving into the mountains in Colorado.
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What looks like a mountain of trouble and heartache today, may be just a little bump in the road tomorrow. You must see a Doctor. Do what the doctor tells you. Depression is real, it is dangerous...it is treatable. Believe me, I suffer from it myself. You have to want to survive, believe in the goodness of yourself. Your family loves you. They may not understand you...but then, no one is ever completely understood by their loved ones! Do you understand them?  We are all unique in our own special ways!\nSee, you have come to this site for help...that is a wonderful thing,,,you are reaching out for help...I am so proud of you! Now, go a step further, go to someone else, get a doctor. Tell someone who can get you to real help. You are in a survival mode...be your own best friend! Suicide is not the answer...get help right now...
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Never okay about suicide.  The fact that my heart went out to you despite not even knowing who you are I hope in some way will show you that your presence here on earth is valuable.  Life is hard.  Everyone has problems, you are not alone in that. Sometimes you can't help but thinking that you want to just throw in the towel and say the hell with everything but that is the easy way out.  Life is precious.  Millions of people everywhere in hospital beds, on battle fields, you name it, are fighting to preserve their lives right now.  You must find a reason to carry on.  Lonliness is easily cured.  Meet people, get out there. Happiness is never constant but we can't be ready to end it all when our lives aren't going as we'd like.  I am sorry that you have no wife and family and your parents are dead and that you and your siblings are not speaking and your finances aren't so good right now. But God still has a purpose for you.  You may be just what someone else needs in the form of a friend or companion.  I hope I have helped you in some way. It breaks my heart when I hear that someone has taken their own life. May God bless you and help you see the gift that you are regardless of your current circumstances. You are in my prayers.
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take positive action today, right now. Life is too short and precious. I am your age and have recently retrained after 2 horrible years of illness. I am now doing a job i love. It was tough to get here but well worth it. Be prepared for things to get a little worse before they get better. for example you may be quite low on cash for a while. \nFirst...what do you want to do? need inspiration? look through the job pages, or check out what courses are available. \nsecond...if you don't want to be in this country, where do you want to be? \nthird...how about giving yourself some thinking time and doing something positive and rewarding to fight off the depression? You're young enough to be eligible for loads of charitable organisations, for example BUNAC. They pay for your flights, you do some volunteer work in an interesting place. Might help to get you some perspective.\ngood luck xx
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I wish there were a simple answer to this. It is especially challenging because you have lost your social NETwork of friends and confidants.(*Net, because it'll catch you if you fall.)\n\nIt sounds like your life as you know it already has ended. In a relationship-focussed world anyway.\n\nIf you can, I recommend embracing that and totally starting over. Commemorate the death of your old life by burning keepsakes. (letters, movie stubs, etc.) and then, if you can, ... move.\n\nI know that's durastic, but extreme times call for extreme measures. Unfortunately I get the feeling that you are still in highschool, or just starting college. (*the friends thing tipped me off, I'm not psycic.) Living with your parents or alone in an appartment can make it hard to just pick-up-shop and start a new life in a new place. Challenging, but it can be done. (besides, if it comes to it, symbolic death and re-birth is always better than suicide.) \n\nOh yes, and annother hard thing about this, ... unfortunately as far as I know, the pain never totally leaves. Depending on how you act NOW, will decide whether you are left with a scarred heart or a diseased heart. (*p.s. scar is the better choice.) If you can grasp that frightening concept, that this will always be with you at some level, then it will actually surprizingly be easier to continue your life journey. \n\nIt helps me to think in metaphors. If you have a broken arm, what do you do? you set it. If you broke it playing football, do you just try annother team? ....(*insert laughter) ... nooooo... you take time off and let it heal before thinking of getting back on the field. (i.e. don't listen to that old tale, what do you do when you fall off a horse? get back on? maybe. If you're not badly injured!) (i.e. don't try to forget about it by going girl-crazy. I don't know what possesses people to try that, it seriously would be like pouring salt-water on an open chest wound. .... maybe ...acid instead of salt-water...\n\nI feel sad to read your predicament. Don't let anyone tell you it's not real. It is more real than anything else. It hurts. For me, it's like a black hole in my chest. kinda like a pulling in feeling, like my own heart is trying to forcefully suck the life out of me.\n\nok, so in a nutshell... take some time to mourn. acknowledge all the feelings. (anger, resentment, lonliness, sadness, pain, freedom, etc..) use metaphors if it helps. (poetry is born from times like this!) and then...... Move. Litterally. change your surroundings. Look for some place that you would be comfortable calling home. Do research first. (if you have that luxury...) probably most importantly though, is to start fresh. New faces. New people. New Jobs. New atmospheres. Even just a new lunch spot will help. Be bold. You will be amazed at what courageous new things you are willing to try when the pain is so bad.\n\nGood Luck! You can do it! You are an awesome person! You have the power, now all you need to do is decide where to direct it!\n\np.s. after reading some of the other responses, I have to add, that friends don't grow on trees. And, true friends are TRUE because you put the effort forth to keep them your friends. Friends are very important. Especially good friends. And Good Friends are people who know that friends are important! (i.e. if you are serious about having a strong friend-net, you look for friends that are serious about having a strong friend-net! You can't make a good friend out of someone who doesn't feel the need for serious good friends.)\n\nSome hints on keeping friendships strong: Contact your friend regularly. (regularly= once a day, every day. or once a week, every week. ... as long as it is consistant.) Trust is built this way: I punch the desk. It hurts. The desk is there. I touch the desk. It does not disappear. I walk out of the room. I walk back. The desk is still there. I close my eyes and walk into the desk. OUCH! It&#3
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Even I would not be happy, and I don't even know you.\n\nI am dealing with a suicide of a very close loved one. You want to know what that does to me? Nightmares. Horrible guilt - even though, intellectually, I know it's not my fault - guilt is something almost all people feel when someone in their lives kills themselves. Depression. Tears. Anger. \n\nThat's all that killing yourself would do for the people in your life. Suicide is a selfish action. I suggest that you examine your motives for it a lot more closely, because it's really more about how you feel than how they feel. And please get help.
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If you don't have a job go and get one, its as good a way as any to meet new people.\nPeople get depressed for many reasons, there's no point in killing yourself, unless you know for sure what happens after death.\nYou could try something extreme, go away on your own, maybe travelling or aid work, this will force you to meet other people and held get a purpose in your life.\nIf you feel like killing yourself, then you have nothing to lose by trying apsolutely anything you've never had the courage to do. Whats the worse that could happen?\nAlternatively try religion, its seems to work for many people.
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Yes, I have. I was hospitalized for suicide ideation and was diagnosed with depression (sounds weird but I had no idea I was clinically depressed!). I started taking anti-depressants and seeing a therapist regularly. They both have helped a lot.\n\nSuicide is one of the most selfish things you can do. You have SO many people around you who love you and care about you; your death will cause them lots of pain and heartache. I know, because I had a really good friend commit suicide a couple years ago.\n\nI can't tell from your question whether or not this is something that you're thinking about; if you are, I would suggest that you get some professional help. Working out the sorts of issues that are causing you to think about suicide may seem overwhelming, but there are plenty of supports out there for you.
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Registered Nurse here; Hun you hit the nail on the head, you have the symptoms of depression.  Depression is a real illness, like cancer, diabetes, cardiac problems etc.  It doesn't have anything to do with wealth or fame.  Doesn't matter how many friends you have.  Regardless of how great your life may appear, depression occurs from within.  Since you wrote you often think of suicide, this is a Red Flag, you need some mental health help.  Something is wrong, your depressed.  Now you can turn this around, but probably not by yourself.  Well probably require a good psychiatrist, therapy, and possibly a medication regimen.  It is not your fault you feel this way, or have these thoughts, it's actually a chemical imbalance in the brain, that for whatever reason became a little unbalanced.  The great news is we have the tools and medication today to regain the balance.  But you have to do your part and this begins with making an appointment either with your personal care physician, or a mental health clinic, or psychiatrist/psychologist.  Thanks for allowing me to address this sensitive question.  Know your not alone, and you will get better.
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Please, please, please don't kill yourself!  You may feel so hopeless and sad, but killing yourself is not the answer.  You are suffering from depression.  Depression is a disease, it is a chemical imbalance in your brain that can be fixed, sometimes with medication, sometimes just with counseling!  If you have health insurance, please go to your doctor right away and tell him or her how your feel.  He or she will send you to a psychiatrists who can help you.  \n\nYou put this question in religion and spirituality, so I assume you are religious.  If you can't get to a doctor please go to your place of worship and ask your rabbi/priest/etc to help you.  They may be a counselor, or they may know one who can help you for free or for very little cost.  Even if you do have health insurance, if you  are religious you should go to your place of worship because your rabbi/priest/etc might be able to help you by getting you more involved in church activities or other activities where you can make friends.\n\nIf you ever feel that you want to kill yourself, please call a suicide hot line instead.  The people on suicide hot lines can help you find hope, get help, and stay alive!\n\nGood luck, I hope you will keep posting so we know you are OK!
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If you really to die, you should have taken your life already.  Instead, you are writing here and trying to express your frustration in life.  I do not know you in person but from what you wrote, I believe that you need a more rewarding life.  You seem to lack close friends, career....focus on something you like and do something different.  If you do not cherish yourself, nobody will!
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Get some help:\n\nCall some on this list that can help you!\nIf you kill yourself, your dead.  Then nobody can help you, you can't even help yourself.  My brother committed suicide.  Not the best option!\n\nSuicide: Don't let despair obscure other options\nDespair and hopelessness may lead you to think about suicide. But you have other options, from weathering an immediate crisis to creating a long-term safety plan.\n\nWhen life doesn't seem worth living anymore or your problems seem insurmountable, you may think that the only way to find relief is through suicide.\n\nYou might not believe it, but you do have other options — options to stay alive and feel better about your life. Maybe you think you've already tried them all and now you've had enough. Or maybe you think your family and friends would be better off without you.\n\nIt's OK to feel bad, but try to separate your emotions from your actions for the moment. Realize that depression, other mental disorders or long-lasting despair can distort your perceptions and impair your ability to make sound decisions. Suicidal feelings are the result of treatable illnesses. So try to act as if there are other options, even if you may not see them right now.\n\nNo, it probably won't be easy. You may not feel better overnight. Eventually, though, the sense of hopelessness can lift. You can find support, appropriate treatment and reasons for living.\nWhen you need immediate help for thoughts of suicide\n\nIf you're considering suicide right now and have the means available, talk to someone first. The best choice is to call 911 or your local emergency services number.\n\nIf you simply don't want to do that, for whatever reason, you have other choices for reaching out to someone:\n\n    * Contact a family member or friend\n    * Contact a doctor, mental health professional or other health care professional\n    * Contact a minister, spiritual leader or someone in your faith community\n    * Go to your local hospital emergency room\n    * Call a crisis center or hot line\n\nCrisis centers or suicide hot lines are often listed in the front of your phone book or on the Internet. They generally offer trained counselors — usually volunteers — who can help you through an immediate crisis. Some crisis centers with an Internet presence offer e-mail contact, but remember that responses may not be as prompt as they are with telephone support.\n\nTalking to someone about your feelings — connecting with someone — can help relieve the burden of despair and isolation, even if just temporarily. It may help you shift perspective and more clearly see that you have options beyond suicide.\nDaily coping strategies to manage thoughts of suicide\n\nYou may struggle with suicidal feelings frequently, perhaps many times a day. Develop a strategy to cope with those feelings in a healthy way. Consider asking a doctor, family member or friend to help create a strategy tailored to your specific situation.\n\n\nThat strategy may mean doing things you don't feel like doing, such as talking to friends when you'd rather hole up in your bedroom all day with the curtains drawn. Or it may mean going to the hospital for a mental health evaluation. But stick to your strategy, especially when you're in the grips of despair and hopelessness.\n\nAs part of your strategy, consider these measures:\n\n    * Keep a list of contact names and numbers readily available, including doctors, therapists and crisis centers.\n    * If your suicide plans include taking an overdose, give your medications to someone who can safeguard them for you and help you take them appropriately.\n    * Rid your home of knives, guns, razors or other weapons you may consider using for self-destructive purposes.\n    * Schedule daily activities for yourself that have brought you even small pleasure in the past, such as taking a walk, listening to music, watching a funny movie, knitting or visiting a
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Seriously, dude... suicide does nothing for you. It's not the right thing to do, and it won't help anything.\n\nI never considered it myself, but I know about it.\n\nJust don't do it, because there are countless ways that you can improve your life without taking it away.
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First off you need to realize that even though your life may not be going the way you want God has a purpose for EVERYTHING ! We may not understand it at the time, but there is a reason. You have to try and be happy first...as far as the past goes, you can not change that but you can change the future. When you wake up in the morning, say to yourself It is going to be glorious day! Thank God for letting you wake up in the first place.....You have all the reasons in the world to live you have 3 sons who I am sure love you. You are probably feeling this way because you are going through a divorce, but Honey, I have been through 2 myself and I have found someone who treats me the way I should be treated.....it has taken me 35 years, but hey.....Good things come to those who wait.....Continue to see your therapist and look for a job, they are out there.\nI use to be on depression meds. and I have been off of them now for 10 years...granted, I Still have my moods, but they are not what they use to be, and when I get in one, I try to sing, or read a few funny jokes or talk to a friend or family member. Life can be rewarding......it only takes a little bit of time. It is time for you to stop worrying about what everybody else thinks and worry about what you want.........suicide is not the answer......
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I don't know.  I have been to the point of suicide.  I used to say how dumb could a person be to even consider such a thing. People that haven't been there don't truly understand.  I don't know about a truly painless method;but I do know the true pain; hurt; despair; and feeling of emptiness when a person deems suicide is the only option.  I took a lot of pills thinking I would just drift off to sleep-seemed easy enough-didn't work I woke up sometime later.  I am diabetic I have stopped my insulin and ate sugar-undying stomach pain and vomiting.  I don't believe there is anything easy or painless about suicide.  Even if one was to succed with a painless method-what is waiting for us after our self affliction.  There are many different opinions on the religious viewpoint as to life after death of a person who takes their own life.  I'm sure many people disagree and most that do probably have never been suicidal;for what it's worth my personl opinion is a truly suicidal person is not responsible for their actions.  Their mentality is not of their norm;if it were than why are their actions and personality straying from happy times in life.  If you are considering suicide-talk to someone please.  For some reason I am still on this earth; I simply believe its not my time or I would be gone.  It's a struggle sometime but life is worth living.
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I don't know  you but i value your life.\nyou need to seek someone to talk to or can help you.\n\nhttp://www.suicidepreventionlifeline.org/crisis.aspx\n\nplease look out for yourself.
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Help Yourself When You’re Feeling Suicidal\n\n\nThe following are some ways to help you cope with suicidal feelings: Tell your therapist, a friend, a family member, or someone else who can help.\n\nDistance yourself from any means of suicide. If you are thinking of taking an overdose, give your medicines to someone who can give them to you one day at a time. Remove any dangerous objects or weapons from your home.\n\n\nAvoid alcohol and other drugs of abuse.\n\n\nAvoid doing things you're likely to fail at or find difficult until you're feeling better. Know what your present limits are and don't try to go beyond them until you feel better. Set realistic goals for yourself and work at them slowly, one step at a time.\n\n\nMake a written schedule for yourself every day and stick to it no matter what. Set priorities for the things that need to be done first. Cross things out on your schedule as you finish them. A written schedule gives you a sense of predictability and control. Crossing out tasks as you complete them gives a feeling of accomplishment.\n\n\nIn your daily schedule don't forget to schedule at least two 30-minute periods for activities which in the past have given you some pleasure such as: listening to music, playing a musical instrument, meditating doing relaxation exercises, doing needlework, reading a book or magazine, taking a warm bath, sewing, writing, shopping, playing games, watching your favorite DVD or video, gardening, playing with your pet, participating in a hobby, taking a drive or a walk.\n\n\nTake care of your physical health. Eat a well-balanced diet. Don't skip meals. Get as much sleep as you need, and go out for one or two 30-minute walks each day..\n\n\nMake sure you spend at least 30-minutes a day in the sun. Bright light is good for everyone with depression, not just people with Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD). \n\nYou may not feel very social but make yourself talk to other people. Whether you talk about your feelings or about any other topic, reducing your social isolation is likely to be helpful.\n\n\nRemember that while it may feel as if it will never end, depression is not a permanent condition.\n1-800-273-TALK