viagra is stated by him as 0 pleasure only erect what about me he doest understand i desire him he shows 0 desire for sex as a topic in our life and of course i feel neglected the solo method is boring and unsatisfying for me.He is loving kind gentle strong BUT evasive and self absorbed at this time.
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Sounds like the issues are with intimacy and spontaneity, not anything physical, look into yourselves and ask whether or not there is any real attraction anymore and move on from there.
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well have you talked with your companion about how you are feeling about the sex life? ya never know they just might feel the same way that you do and just cannot find the words to say something about it for prolly the same reasons you wont because of feelings involved.  maybe it is something that you can help them overcome explain the things that you are wanting to do and ya never know. sex isnt always everything yes it is something but NOT everything. and if that doesnt work than you need to weigh it all and see if you can accept if they do find out and you could possibily loose them forever. it is a hard thing but i think you should look inside of your heart first and see which is more important\ngood luck
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He sounds a complete asshole...I'm not surprised you've lost your sex drive.\nDump him,move on,meet a guy who respects and cares for you,your desires will be restored!
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Ew...I think he's just a big cheese. Who really says things like that without underlying meanings? He's probably just trying to get laid. And I agree with the lady who posted first, I am kind of offended that that is how he described the work we do. My marriage is more like a  partnership where we share all of the responsibilities whether it be child-rearing, house-cleaning, or working. I don't like being described as someone whp has the dinner on the table by five o'clock and has the kids bathed so my husband doesn't have to do a thing to help. That's just ridiculous.
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basically your just human, i cant say your just a guy because im a girl and my main goal when i spend time with my love is to get laid, okay not always but most the time. and i mean at least your mind set on pleasing her. thats how he is, i tell him hes the reason im so selfish. so as long as your doing good work, keep at it.\n\ni told my friend i needed to go to group therapy for my obsession with sex, maybe you can join me ;) haha.
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I think it is sad that so much air time is given to something so silly.  I really don't care if Limbauh needs Viagra to get that "Rush" and doubt it would be as big of an issue if he were not a public personality. The narcotics which were/are (?) his issue are not the same as Viagra.  His dealings with one may cause the need for the other...
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His testerone level could be low and needs to be checked and also if he has high bloodpressure problems it could have damaged the vessel going to his penis that is restricting the blood flow into the penis  and sometimes viagra may not help or he may have to increase the viagra from 50 mg to 100 mg, there is surgery that can be done but i would not recommned it no matter what, most insurance will not cover it and it is very expensive and painful, i can tell u more about this if u e-mail me at eagleship2000@yahoo.com
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No, it is more likely medical than psychological (although it could be either). The first thing he needs to do is go to his doctor, explain the situation, and have a full physical. Men have problems with erections for a number of reasons physically, including diabetes, circulation issues, weight issues, and several other health issues not faced by women. If he is medically OK then you have to address psychological reasons. . . anything from guilt to lack of desire to a bunch of other issues. \n\nMedically there are treatments that are relatively simple.\nPsychological, not as simple. \n\nGood luck.
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Actually, the reverse is true.\n\nThe reason I know this is the personal experience of a 38 year-old male friend of mine a few years ago.  He has been without a partner for some time (8 years in fact) and relied on "self-service" during that time.\n\nWhen he did begin a relationship with a partner, he could no longer function properly and required medical treatment.\n\nThe doctor advised him that effectively the blood vessels had atrophied over the time primarily because masturbation does not sustain an erection for long enough to keep the blood vessels healthy.
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wow!! your a much better man than any i know if you have been around for 7 months and no sex! i just turned 28 and i dont know how you do it!!! yep, you love this one for real!  i would sit down and have a deep conversation with her about your feelings.
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not maintaining a erection for a mid 40 year old is normal\nfast ejaculation is not.. he should have learned to control this a long time ago\n\nwhy do you think Viagra was invented?\n\n\nDating a guy in early 50's- things are A OK
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It is the taboo of curiosity that has set his mind to this. In todays culture, you can hear about so many different experiences and the possibility is there. If your sex drive has increased as of late, he may feel that you might be up to something new. The curiosity alone is nerve wracking and the desire to change things up a little or spice things up even more can be a nagging thought. Ensure your feelings by keeping the communication lines open, enabling the point that he is all you want or need. Be willing to accept the fact that he may think he wants someone else, but that you are not ready for that. Maybe try the tactic of letting him know you are greedy for him and him alone. \nHell, if I had a wife like you.....anything I needed or wanted in the bedroom, I would probably not know what to do with myself. Just make sure that you keep your mind open to the avenues of conversation but hold onto your values and thoughts.
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If he isn't satisfying you sexually then find someone who can. Trust me it will only get less and less. Try being around him nude more. Or maybe try something a bit more fun, http://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/tg/detail/-/0962962813?v=glance\n\nIf you can't drum up his enthusiasim with seductions like the ones in 101 nights then maybe talk sex more often. Try keeping sex talk just talk, no pressure to preform. Talk about fantasies, ask him to tell you his fantasies that he thinks you might be offended by. Communication is the number one key to sexually satisfying relationship. If you can't discuss topics like preformance anxiety, jealousy, fantasy, or sexual expectations. then you will never have as healty a sex life as you can. Maybe suggest going to a strip club together
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It could be someone else, but not likely because that wouldn't make him half erect or come to quickly.  High stress jobs and health problems usually cause ED and usually viagra fix's the stress parts.  I'm sure someone will suggest that maybe he's gay, but there again, doesn't explain the weak erections.   You are in a tough spot and i'm sorry for ya.  Try to talk to him, as hard as it is going to be to do, and yes his feelings will get hurt most likely, and explain to him your problem.  That he needs to put out a little effort to make sure you get your pleasure too and that you love him, they are other ways for him to please u and his still get his.  If this doesn't work out, best advice is for you to move on and get another boyfriend, cause even though u love him, u are going to be very miserible and will end up falling out of love and cheating.
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I certainly couldn't argue with your sexual prowess, having no personal experience with you from which to draw from. So I'll start by just believeing that it's at least close to being true.\n\nWhy does he cheat? You say you only do what he asks you to do. I find this statement somewhat odd and I am not sure exactly what you mean by it. Without more information it's hard to give you a "real" answer but, here are a few possibilites (I'm not implying that any of them or all of them are true.)... Maybe he feels neglected in other areas of the marriage? Maybe he married young and feels like he missed out on being single? Maybe he disagrees with your statement regarding "sexual prowess"? Maybe he is going through a mid-life crisis?\n\nIt's hard to give you a good answer without more information. Post more details or drop me an email, I'll help if I can.
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Effoxor and others like is (Plavix?) tend to sedate/depress sexual stimulus (for real - no joke).  Its subtle, bnnut you definately don't have "any interest" when taking them.
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Do not listen to the first B*I*T*C*H  she is beeing rude!! \n  1.  if he is taking any other meds there could be a side affect in the form of low sex drive.\n  2.  ED is a real downer for a man  he could be feeling not like a "real" man.\n\nthe solution for you is to stroke his ego make him feel sexy and attractive some times in these situations that is what they are felling ( not attaractive or sexy)  \n\nask the doctor if there is side affects ot any meds that he is taking.\n\nit is not you!!!!   it his issue that needs to be uncovered.\n\nGod Bless and good luck!!!