really well, and he seemed very interested. WE reconnected via the internet. We had set-up a date to finally meet each other, and then he ended up disappearing a few days before. He claimed his computer had a trojan and his phone broke. I thought I could believe him because he nver signed onto the program we met on, which was very unusual. Finally, as soon as he signed back on, he sent me a message appologzing saying that his computer had a virus and his phone broke the same day, and that he would like to make it up to me the following w/e. I said sure, I'm not mad -- you aren't obligatged to me. So, we rearranged to meet the following weekend, and again, he disappeared. I tried contacting him three times since then, and he hasn't even opened my messages. What is up with this guy? And, should I try contacting him again? The weird thing is -- before he stood me up the first time, we communicated a lot and he showed a lot of interest. I'm so confused.
128852
dont be naive! he wanted to tease you or play with you. a guy will show interest if he is persistent, not when he feels like it. trust me. i did couple.i just telling the guy side of story. worst case scenario, you lose him. so what! theres a lot of guys out there that are sincere. think about it.
575051
I'm the nicest guy I know (and I'm very humble about it), and if you asked me if you should go and meet me after a few years chatting on the net and talking on the phone, I'd still say you were crazy!\n\nBe extremely careful, and dont expect worlds from first meet of a stranger who has no connection with you or anyone you know who is promising you ANYTHING, especially from a different state.
386387
Some people just latch on to someone they think they stand a chance with and won't let go. It isn't anything you are doing. You are being honest with him and he won't take the hint. If it is online then report him to whatever chat site you are using. If it is in person call your local magistrate and see what can be done to keep this guy away from you.
530514
i had EXACTLY  same situation,,,love at first site, college ddays gone, never spoken to him.....once i sent him a sms abt frdship with my name n i got reply....now v r frds n chat half d day....\ndon t know whether it ll work 4 u.... don t risk t...hope u get d right advice....all d best...i understand how it is like.....
659823
I know I still don't know what exactly happened, his "brother" David hasn't got back to me!  I didn't know him really really well but we have been talking for about 3 weeks now!  What a sweet guy!  Very caring about his friends!  No matter how busy he was he always found time to say good morning!  Or he would just write to say hi!  What a shame we lost such a nice guy!
568633
This sounds like the classic case of him meeting someone and he doesn't want to tell you because just in case it doesn't work he has you hanging on the side. If he confirms it to you. It becomes real. Seeing you made him miss you threw him off. thats why the text. He seems to have the " out of sight out of mind" thing down. My advice stop calling, text, etc. He knows your patterns. You are being to conveint for him.This will have him approaching you instead. Right now you are to predictable to him. Mess with the pattern.Throw him off balance. He calls " look im busy right now can I call you back" then don't he will call you back.. I SWEAR!! tell him sorry I got busy. Don't get into it with him on the phone.. NEVER. keep being busy but say we need to talk, but I can't on the phone I gotta go now if he turns the topic, don't get mad.I know its stupid to play these games but this is the reality of it. THEN!! you decide if you want to put up with it. Confront him when YOU are ready. Then you choose to stay or go. Tell him not playing these games.\nKnow your worth. Don't be a door mat. good luck.
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'he got caught up in some bullshit and ended up having sex with one of my friends................just read that back and see if it makes any sense!!!!!!\n\nNOBODY gets 'caught'up in something that makes them commit the ultimate no-no.  WIse up - people do things because they want to and they think that they can get away with it.  The reason he has called you again out of the blue is a slight mystery but trust me if he had realised what a mistake he'd made and wanted to get you back he would have done that 24 hours after the event.  He's just bored and is seeing how far he can go with you.  This whole episode is probably to hype his ego that he could get you back again no matter how badly he has behaved.\n\nDo yourself a favour and show him the door with a very large size 9 up his backside as he leaves.\n\nEveryone is worth more than this.  You have to toughen up and not let people rule your future.  If they bring you love and happiness let them in - if not get rid of them....for good!!!!!\n\nHard but true.\n\nGood Luck!!
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why must he pursue you?  Most likely if he is communicating with you online, he is probably someone who is also shy or something.  I say you should show you are interested, if you try to contact him, he will probably reply. Maybe he is thinking the same thing you are.  \n\nI like to use a little rule called 2 to 1.  If you try to contact him twice, and he dont respond- dont try again, let him contact you next- if he dont, hes not interested.
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They may be just people he met befor you on the service and he just wants to keep in touch. Its the hardest thing in the world to imagine and to confront when your not sure, you dont want to make yourself look insecure, but obviously your feeling that somthings up and once you feel that you always be judging your own intuition.Id create a fake person on the site and try to see if he falls for the bait> if he mentions you everythings probably fine if not you better run
24482
It sounds to me that he might not be interested but just didn't want to flat out tell you that. Or perhaps he's really a secret agent and spends all of his free time saving the world. Sorry kido...it just doesn't sound good.
456120
Do you expect us to believe that you haven't talked to any men in....what did you say... a year? He came home to you didn't he? Sounds like you have some trust issues or you wouldn't have been checking up on his internet usage. \n\nA little advise here..... people will find what they are looking for.... and that goes for trouble too!
639834
Maybe he was just being sarcastic or funny? Or he thought you'd be flattered?\n\nI'm a guy and I'll tell you: either A) He didn't mean it or B) He lost his phone with your number and the text message was never received (this didn't happen - I'm just trying to save your feelings here. See A)
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I don't really know..but how long have u been in contact with the person? it could be love.. there have been situations like this and people ended up being together forever!  I think you need to meet with the guy more..i mean I mean, the guy can say all the right words in a letter and by e-mail...
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if you have his email why don't you send him an email or aim and ask him?\n\nor look up his profile on aim, friendster or myspace\n\nwhy are you trying to hunt this guy down?  are you a stalker?
564660
Get your money back, then drop him. It honestly just doesn't seem like he's trying to spend time with you at all or even try and figure out his "true intentions". To be honest with you, I think he already knows his true intentions, he just doesn't want to tell you. If he really didn't know, he'd be talking to you still even if he was trying to figure it all out. As for that afternoon that he didn't show up, it doesn't take much to call or e-mail, he could have at the least done one of those things. Heck, I call my girlfriend if I'm going to be a few minutes late for getting to her place to see her. I consider it a requirement.
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Have you tried e-mailing him?\nUsually the screenname is also their e-mail.  \nSo if you can find out which e-mail it is, whether it be Yahoo, Msn< Hotmail, Aol, try them all and see if you get a match! Let me know if you hit one! If not feel free to e-mail me and we can try something else! good luck!
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I can't really tell you yes he is into you, because I don't know how he acted around you, and I don't know him. What I can tell you is that if it seemed like he really had a great time and you both had fun, then maybe there is hope. I suppose if he called you to let you know he was home safe, that's a plus, because if he didn't care at all, he wouldn't of called at all. Now, about him waiting to call you, maybe he was nervous, busy, like the other person commented, maybe didn't want to seem desperate. Just give it time, and if nothing becomes of it, let it go, there are a ton of men out there waiting to meet ya! ;)