ok what i am wondering is is how bad it hurts whenever u guys lose your virginity and have sex for the frist time because whenever me and my girlfriend have sex, i want to do it as easy as i can to her because i dont want to hurt her because of the stuff that tears with the frist time having sex.
138567
ya umm ur a nice bf and all but damm just do it and try to be careful and gental and stuff and try to have fun at the same time
521026
Ok, this may shock you as I have different feelings about sex than you do but hear me out. Sex is not that big a deal. It is a natural thing that occurs everywhere all the time. Losing your virginity is NOT that big a deal either, it shows you the beginning to a world of natural instincts, however it has consequences so be careful from now on. Get it out the way (not from a young age mind you, I was 17 when I lost mine and that is a common age even though sometimes I feel the kids of today are starting to blossom earlier - I am going on now...). Nothing came from having unprotected sex did it? No babies on the way? No STD's or diseases? No? Then realise that you had a good time with no consquences of a physical nature and move on, not point dwelling on the past - you can't change it. Just learn from it. Don't be afraid to try new things either, its fun and you're not the first ever to try it ok.\n\nLife is not always that bad, not always great but not that bad either. Partying is always fun, but going to the extreme and partying all the time is bad for your health. I suggest you join a group or get a job (good luck with the interview by the way) and meet new people that way. Charity work is always rewarding and you meet new people too. As for your roomate, there are ways to live with people even if you don't like them. I work with guys I can't stand and as I am in the Army, its hard to get away from them, I learn to deal with it. It strengthens my character to be the bigger man and act like the mature adult I am rather than stoop to their lows. Just remember that there are others out there less fortunate than yourself and pick up your head. \n\nOn the God thing..... I am agnostic. If he exists, which in your case you believe he does, you must seek him, not the other way around. He won't come and say hey, pick your chin up and be better for it. You have to do it yourself, and thank Him for the realisation that the only thing you can do to help someone is to show them how to help themselves. \n\nSo remember, sex is great, join a social group, find a charity to work for or a paying job (school first though), live life with your head held high and proud, and look after yourself in a hard world. Good luck.
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Losing your virginity is supposed to hurt. You can try having him penetrate you with his fingers first to see if that helps, but ultimately, you're stretching an area that's never been stretched and breaking through a membrane--that's gonna suck. Bleeding is also common when the hymen is broken. (I bled like a freakin' sacrificial lamb. Ugh. That's sexy). So put a towel that you don't mind throwing away underneath you when you do it. Make sure you use a lot of lube and have him take it slow...or you can just do it the "rip off the bandaid way" and just let him go for it. After the hymen is broken, the pain subsides very quickly and you can go about your business. You might notice some residual bleeding the second time, but there should be no pain. \n\nBest of luck to you.
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it hurts some girls, and sometimes it doesn't.  Just depends on you and the guy.  It didn't hurt me at all, but the guy I gave it to was gentale, and took things slow.  I was well excited, and we agreed that if I said stop, or slower, he would...\n\nYou know the time is right, when it feels right for both of you.  it is fun and exciteing, but don't rush it, it is so much better, when you are both ready.
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Well it all depends. You can expect bleeding, although many women do not bleed at all their first time, and then there are others who do. I did not bleed when i lost my virginity. It may hurt, it depends on a lot.    Make sure you go slow so it doesn't hurt too bad, and you have a less chance of bleeding. Other than that, expect pleasure :) It's awesome haha. Goodluck :)
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You shouldnt have sex until you are ready to deal with the consequences of sex. Pregnancy, STD's, guilt (if its your first time and the person dumps you directly after). Those are just to name a few. Being a virgin is rare and prized. Keep it, cause you'll never get it back. If the person professes to love you, they will understand your commitment to being a chaste person (virginal)
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We all loose our virginity eventually.  Whether its a good thing or not, really only depends on you.  If you felt it was right at the time then why bother with anyone else.     The only person to judge you , is you and no one else.   Now that you have lost your virginity,  just be careful.   And it does get better.   I just hope the guy likes you too and isn't just using you.   Take care.
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I agree with you. You get married because you love that person for that person, not because you love what they can do to you in the sack.\n\nPeople say sex is an expression of love, but I think lack of sex is a greater expression. If your boyfriend/girlfriend loves you enough to say "I don't need sex. I can wait." That's someone worth being with. It they're ready to hit the sack right away... well... maybe they don't completely love you for you.\n\nThat's why I'm a virgin and will remain so until marriage. If a guy says he can't wait that long, then he's not worth my time.\n\nSo, getting back on track now... Is viriginity important to guys? I guess it depends on the man. To me, (female), virginity is very important. I don't care if they have experience or not and I'd rather they didn't. I want to be the only person they've ever been with and I'd hope that my future spouse will feel the same way. =D
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That is so sad to hear, but i dont think that it will hurt because it seem like this one night stand boy done already popped your cherry (not to sound nasty or nothing but the last boy done open you up) it  always hurt at first when they stick it in but then after a while the pain is going to go away
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Sex will hurt the first time.  I didn't bleed, but alot of girls do.  It will hurt, and most likely none of it will feel good for the first few times.\n\nTo prevent it from hurting, abstanince.\n\nBest advice, wait until you are with the right person.  then the pain and unpleasentness doesn't matter.  It will be special because it is with the right person.
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Listen to yourself on this one.  You know what will make you happy.  And you should not be doing those things until you can handle the full weight of responsibility they can bring.  Be yourself and hope that you can be OK with the out come.    If you asking the question you are not ready to loose your virginity, just a little hit.
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Too much fuss about virginity. Non-virgins make fun of people who haven't. Virgins think they are so righteous for not losing it. Blah blah blah. It's not that big of a deal. When it happens it happens. You're the same person afterwards as you were 47 seconds before.
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i am an 18 yr. old female who is still a virgin as well, and i totally charash it. it is the most preshes thing to me. being a  virgin(keeping your verginity tell your married) is very rare now days. and trust me i have had many chances to brake it several times, but i just cant do that because i would be just like all the other people. i might even end up with an unwanted pregancy, std's, aids, the shame of loosing your verginity to someone who you really dont love and care to spend time with every day of your life, for the rest of your life, ect..... i could go on all night and day listing things but i wont.\nI also agree with you. i would charish it tell your married and have that be your first time. hopefually that will be her first time too. and that way you both will have something special to look forward to, and you wont really have a clue if your bad or good the first time. stay strong and keep your virginity. i know that it's hard but its possible. dont let people bolly you into it. I personally would prefure someone who is still a virgin when i marry him. best of luck. remember if you have sex just one time their is no being a vergin again.
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Negative\n\nDont loose your virginity, if he said he can wait then perfect! Dont ruin the relationship because your horny. Hell you can masterbate to solve that problem. \n\nYou only have your virginity once, so cherish it and who know maybe in a couple of years you two will break it off and you will be thankful for not going through it. Hell maybe years to come you two will get married, then you should loose your virginity.\n\n-James
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Yes i'm sorry to say but that was too young to lose your virginity. Your lucky you didn't get pregnant. It was just luck i guess. But you can't just hope next time you don't get pregnant. Because you might not get lucky next time. But i think that you spended some time to think about it and i think that your a couple of years younger than usual but thats perfectly fine. Nowadays its natural.
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First-time sex shouldn't be painful, provided you are with someone you love and you feel completely relaxed with. You have to be completely ready for sex and totally comfortable with the idea. There should also be lots of foreplay to make sure you are well-lubricated. Provided all this is true, you shouldn't experience any pain.\n\nHowever, if a girl feels unsure about having sex, or unsure about the person she's having it with, her vaginal muscles will tense up, which can cause a lot of pain. This is true of any sex, not just first-time sex.\n\nBe safe, have fun.
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I loved her, respected her, and cared for her very much.  I was very, very gentle-and listened to her every wish during the event.  It was a little painful to her, to say the least...which made me feel bad, but she loved me also, and made me feel not so badly about it.  It's not really like having "sex"-that first time.