I left my Gran in the bath for three days. I was having a couple of beers, and just sort of, forgot about her. Now, instead of being all wrinkly like usual, she's a bit fatter and all sort of smooth all over. \nMind you she doesn't complain as much as she used to but I cant help feeling that it might not of been all that good for the old troll.\nHas anyone else done this to their Gran/Gramps? How did  you deal with it?
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theres a strong possibitity that someone or something has snuck in  and eaten your grama whilst you were wasted.its only a matter of time before it gets you to.Take a large heavy object(a snow shovel for example)and stove in its head,brutaly if posible.once it stops jerking cover it in suger and creasote and burn it in the back garden.these creaturs often reproduce asexualy and can be a bugger to get rid of once your infested.gooc luck mate:)
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When my Grandpa died the day after my 14th birthday, I wanted to die. I spent my birthday in hospital watching him. He was in a coma, and was for 4 days before passing away. It's the most horrific pain i've experienced in my life. It's now been 7.5years and although the pain has subsided, i still find that sometimes I'll just sit and cry because I miss him so much. I was his favourite of 16 grandchildren, and he was my favourite person in the world, and now i'll never know if he really knew how much he meant to me. The pain will change, but it will never go away. I am SO sorry for your loss, and I completely understand what you're going through. My thoughts are with you.
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I understand how you feel I lost my grandmother the same way. We were close and I am sure you were with your grandmother, she just wants to comfort you and let you know she still loves and not to be discouraged because she will all ways be there to watch over you. Don't be afraid it will all be okay.
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What I found worked for me was to only do a short sitzbath after I used the bathroom.  I agree, when I would use it more often or longer, I felt worse.  Once I started to feel better, I would just hop in the shower after, instead of the sitzbath.  Hope you feel better soon!!  It's MISERABLE!!
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Don't panic! This is not the end of your life, so try to keep this problem in proportion.  All I know of you is what you have written so I can really only guess what's happening to you, but it seems to me that the image of your grandad represents all the guilt you have inside you for what you are doing- some part of you feels it's wrong. If you think about it, the thought appears to be the most off-putting image you could imagine, and it is this image that gives the clue what your unconscious mind is going through. Young people go through tremendous and rapid changes emoptionally and physically and sometimes our minds can't keep up with our bodies. Perhaps you need to learn to relax and accept that you are a normal boy with normal desires, and maybe you need a different girl to think of- it might be your friendship with her brother is whhat is making you feel guilty; if you can't do this on your own then maybe you could find a counsellor to talk it through, although I do feel you will get through this.
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My brother's favorite pillow, he's resting in peace now.  I accidentally left it in a hotel room on the bed, one of the maids took it away thinking we had one too many of the hotel's pillows.  When we got back to the room, I cried, yelled, and had a emper tantrum, but there was nothing they could do for me, it was gone.  Maybe it was good for me somehow to be parted from it so I could move on and away from my long period of mourning.
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Haha! Omigosh! My grandpa is really sick and probably dying and I needed some cheering up. This made me laugh through my tears. Thanks.
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i decided to cheer myself up earlier this week by running a bubble bath and whilst it was running i covered myself in the body mud - omg!! - took me 3 baths to get rid of it off my skin and half an hour to clean the bathroom - had forgotten what was bugging me beforehand tho! \ntake time out from studies just to look after you - something to eat, something (other than coursework) to read, warm bath, early night - you are worth it hunny\ngood luck xx
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I'll try to be detailed but make it simple at the same time.  I'll tell you this as if you are about to have to go through Alzheimer's with a member of your family. I can tell you what it's like up-close and personal. My grandmother suffered with it for over 10 years before passing away a few years ago.  I was around her a lot so I'll tell you what I tell people:\n1.  It's a disease in which the victim loses more and more of their memory over time - most of the time it severely affects ones short-term memory.  \n2.  Because of this short-term memory loss one of the first noticeable effects is the continual repeating of the same questions.  It can get to where the same question is asked every 30 seconds - simple questions like "Where are we going?" And the repetition every 30 seconds is no exaggeration.\n3.  The next thing to go is personal hygiene.  People forget to shower, use the bathroom, and do normal things we learn as kids.  They begin to have to be taken care of constantly. \nSimply put - a victim reverts backwards in age and by the time he/she reach the severe stages of the disease they HAVE to be watched like a baby.  It's the most hopeless thing to have to experience...
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Hmmmm.  Last time I went was kinda weird.  My stylist told me her sister was seriously ill in the hospital with a sometimes fatal disease.  A couple times during the "foil" she hurried out to take phone calls.  As it turned out, her sister wasn't in as bad shape as they thought.\n\nI hate to say this, but I kept wondering if she was going to mess up my hair, being so worried about her sister.\n\nAnyway, we normally talk about our kids, vacations, weather, light stuff.
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What is it about Grandpas and nasty jokes? My grandpa used to always tell innapropriate jokes. Like sexual jokes in the wrong company.\n\nThat is a good one though.
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First of all...God Bless your mother!  I commend her for what she is doing for your Grandmother!  We went through this same thing with my Grandma a few years back.  What we found what the best answer for us...and the least costly was...we hired a lady to live with and care for Grandma.  Most of her pay was room and board...paid her a small weekly wage, and she stayed 24/7 and only taking off 1 afternoon a week and every other weekend.  Then, we called an in home health nursing facility to come in daily for medication, bathing, anything the live in was not qualified to do.  The live in was responsible for meals, house cleaning, companionship, making sure her bed was clean.  (My Grandma was bedridden for the last 8 months she was alive)...this live in companion/caregiver enabled her to stay in her own home until she passed.  We found the live-in by running an ad in the newspaper. Please feel free to send me an email and I will go into more detail.  By the way..we are in Indiana.  I would be glad to help you research and answer any questions I can.  This is a very tough situation for everyone involved.....My Prayers and thoughts will be with you!
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Hi Evy, I'm not a grandma but I speak for my two grandmas and what they've told me.\n\nThey say that since they're not your children you don't feel so stressed out about them. You can spoil them all you want without having to see the end results the parents have to deal with after the facts.
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Do you know whether your Gram made out a living will, where if something happened to her that she would just want someone to make her comfortable with drugs, on that paper she could also specify whether she would want a feeding tube or whatever else to keep her alive.\nIf she can't swallow, that tends to be a problem, with eating and drinking.\nMaybe you could ask someone in the family, whether your gram, just wanted to go comfortably, I know they say hearing in a person is the last sense to go, so try and talk to her, and I bet she can hear you.I know I haven't answered your question, I am going just by what I have seen in the nursing homes.\nGod Bless you and your gram
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dearest grandma, it is what it is and they have the best treatments ever! It has been proven that having a good attitude and positive outlook, helps the mental health  and prognosis in it's self. advanced! My own mother survived a double masestomy and I have to double think an unknown fear away, everyday! So! My Advise is, Don't assume it, assume it is not and be on your day. Until you are told OR YOU ACTUALLY FEEL DIFFERENT!?OR is your grandma lonley? Maybe she needs extra family time. Parks with ducks?
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i think that the flowers should have all went to your gma - she was his widow so legally she shouldve been the one to have gotten the flowers etc then if she wanted to give them to some of the grandkids then thats her call.  you say she has alzheimers though so maybe did they leave one of the grandkids as power of attorney over everything, did the grandkids pay for the funeral?  was your gma upset about not getting any of the flowers?  was she crying or anything or does she have alzheimers so bad that she didnt realize?  if she didnt realize what was going on maybe you shouldve just said a silent prayer for the grandkids, usually bad things come back to people so if they were being ugly to your gma itll come back on them.  i think since you are a "step" though it may be better to just back out of it & let them handle it, theyll end up labeling you the bad person if you dont.  if shes got alzheimers really bad she may not know whats going on or even realize who her grandkids are, she may not be able to live on her own, im not sure of all the details but id let someone closer to her handle it, maybe send an "anonymous" letter to someone who "really cares for the old lady" and tell them whats being done to her & let them handle it, if you think shes being abused or treated unfairly maybe report it to your elder abuse hotline. i wouldnt apologize to them though, i dont think you did anything too wrong, if you did surely the funeral home wouldve stopped you before you got to the van, i hope it works out for you. you have a good heart & thats all that counts, your intentions were in the right place!
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Yes, and I'm going through it right now.  I'm pretty sure it's my uncle who died two years ago January 16th.  He started having a lot of pain right around this time and in the beginning of December, was put in the hospital.  He had a lot of pain.  So much pain.  HIs pancreas was failing and so was his liver.  His lungs also kept filling up with fluid.  Right after he died, my stove kept turning itself off.  The electrical part of it.  My satellite receiver in a completely different room started doing this too.  Since two days ago, it keeps doing it.  Multiple times per day.  Not every once in a while like it was doing.  Also, my 9 month old son keeps looking at the celing and smiling and laughing.  He was doing that when there was a large balloon hanging from the ceiling.  It was for my daughter's third birthday party, barely full and two days old.  she turned three on Monday.  Well, as he is looking up there, smiling and laughing like something is there, that balloon all of a sudden pops on its own.  Nothing was visibly touching it.  It just popped.  The balloon next to it was blowing like wind was on it.  There are also these orbs of light that come and go.  They usually come from the hallway and go towards the windows.  When the balloon popped, some orbs were going.  Oh, yeah, and two elderly women had died in this house.  I didn't know this until two years after living here, when I was already experiencing what seemed like an angry spirit.  The things I was told by my neighbor matched exactly what was going on in this house.  At times, you hear this loud thud.