I work at a battered womens shelter and see this all the time.  The worst case is when a ladies husband sicked his pit bull on her.  That was bad.  It is sort of a depressing job, but at least we can help them get out of a violent situation and get them counceling.
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While I don't know anyone currently in one, I have two friends who escaped just such a relationship.  They were smart and did not make excuses for their batterer...they got out!\n\nI'm sure it is a depressing job but concentrate on how many women you are helping.  Never lose sight of the good the shelter and you are doing.  Isn't that what is is really all about?
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That depends on what you consider abuse. If you mean torturing a pet, I think most states procecute that crime pretty harshly already. If you are talking about something idiotic like Whole Foods not carrying live lobsters because it is inhumane to the lobsters then you are way off base.
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LUCKY,hmmm.......  pondering  ...huh    yeah..  ok...   what in the hell kinda questions is this.....do you think that we like to act that way or make others around us feel bad.....its not choice...its misery....sorry for your misinformation.....\n\nI know in your manly world that is seems awful and I am sorry but show some love for the women who are in the pain once a month...come on...
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I absolutely agree with all of these comments.  It is sickening to think of someone abusing animals!  It is so so terrible.  But, cottonpatch was right - the states determine what the punishment is.  Typically by introduction of a bill by a Senator or Assemblyperson, and signed into law by the Gov.  In NY, we have "Buster's Law" and the last case I heard about, the guy went to jail for three years, which in my opinion isn't even enough!!
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Women get used to being treated like dirt. It's sad, but it's true. When I met my "great guy" it took everything in me not to toss him away because I didn't know how to react to a guy listening to me, giving me good advice, opening doors for me and offering to pick up the bill instead of "borrowing" money. I think women often get the idea that they don't deserve to be treated well. I definitely think one should be careful with the use of those three naughty words (I l#v! y@u.)  I've had to tell friends to calm down and enjoy the ride when they've freaked out because they're being treated well---I think it's the acceleration a relationship can have when things go well that can often lead to catastrophy. Most of all, if she can't take your good treatment, SHE DOESN'T DESERVE YOU. That's the downfall of good guys. The gentlemen just need to stay gentlemen and know that they are worth something. We don't need our good men going to trashy b*tc%es anyway.
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i know the feeling . we went through that with our neighbor, a very sweet elder . but her 3 mutts were terrors. they would bark even if they saw a paper blowing in the yard . it was effecting our sleep, we were getting fussy behind them dogs. the thought of giving them chocolate , came into my mind , being that chocolate is a deadly toxic for them and could kill them , but annoying as they were , we couldn't . they were 3 cuties , but barking maniacs . finally, the city send them a letter that if they did not do something that they will have to come to court and pay a much high fine for each dog , or have the dogs picked up . she had her other sister move them to the other side of her house . it was much better for us . probably driving crazy the other neighbors , but we were resting better . don't give up on the city . somebody got to listen or call your TV station and bring it to the public . good luck !
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Do you think it was real?  Because that is animal abuse, she belongs in jail.  Contact the ASPCA.  Also, look into the state that the site is registered and report it to that local law enforcement. If you can find out who the Internet Service Provider for the site is you could report it directly to them. If the site is offshore, it would be very difficult.\n\nBut your absolutely right, people like that are disgusting.  I hate people that don't like, mistreat, or hate animals.  I would love to hit one of them with my high heel shoes.\n\nHowever, its nice to hear that there are concerned people just like you still left in this world.
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They have this saying about an ounce of prevention is worth a Pound of cure.  Now, the women of this world have much to do with making babies and they also have the bulk of the investment in their offspring (physically and time-wise).  Therefore, it is very important that they be held in high regards and made to feel good whenever it is possible.  That is not being hen-pecked although that sometimes makes for a happy rooster, lol,  Anyhow, madness sucks and a hint of it is probably a sign of what's to come in the future; possibly spouse abuse and/or increasing disrespect.  If you simply overlook his anger and continue to develop that relationship then there is a fair chance that it could become a habit or could already be a habit.  That would be more than sad.  You would have to be on guard so as not to ever upset him because he could illogically knock your teeth out or worse.  Violence sucks and clear communication with mutual appreciation is blissful.  It's true, the women of this world are entitled to the utmost respect from every male for without you wonderful women we would not have been born.  I sense you females something akin to being GODS!  THE TRUE CREATORS!  Have a nice day, avoid conflicts as best you might.
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It's frustrating, but the basic finances have to be taken into consideration.  Emergency Vet care is comparble to a human going to the ER, so there's that aspect.  Depending on the severity of the damage, even with an owner, the kindest thing can be euthanasia.  When dogs are victims of hit and run there are usually broken legs and punctured lungs.  (When my dog was hit, his back was snapped, and pelvis shattered.) With strays, there are also the possibilities of diseases like heartworm, that a healthy animal wouldn't have.  Not only are they very expensive to cure, they can make recovery more difficult.  Even with injuries that aren't fatal, there's the cost of feeding and housing the dog, and the possibility that the animal would not be adopted.  I loathe going to animal shleters, because most of them have such a limited budget that if the animals aren't adopted within a set time frame, they are put down.  Is it a kindness to take a dog to the vet, have serious surgeries, then put him into a concrete bunker for a few days, in hopes that someone will adopt? \n\nOne of my friends is a Vet; when something like this happens, she gets so upset...  At the stupidity of people who don't chip their animals, at the thoughtlessness of some jerk driver, at the fact that the most she could do for an animal was to put it down.  It's not easy for the people who work with animals to do, they do it because when all the factors are weighed, it's the right thing to do.\n\nIt may not appear to have been a kindness, but it was.
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I am a social worker who has worked in this particular area. I have worked in a domestic violence shelter. The first thing is to "catch" the perpetrator in the act and then call the police but the person who is being harrassed needs to call and be there when to p.o. gets there and they will then direct you to go down the magistrate if you want to and take the restraining order out
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i hope she never comes back!! ppl like you make me sick, guy's who use violence on women sohuld be locked up, it's a sign of weakness. i hope you rot in hell, i don't care if you report me ,i said what i wanted too.
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"Its the Pits..."\nthis is just another avenue, after i read motherload's answr "The Bull About Pit Bulls" my brain went dead...that is a a great title.
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It's a lot more common than you think. The liberally biased media only shows the one side that affects women, but of couse as usual they never show the balance of both sides. Have the two dolt morons who ansered prior ever heard of autopsy reports from HBO? They chronicle how men were beaten, abused and poisoned prior to dying? Women abusing or trying to kill their sopuse is becoming a common orruccence more and more and it is an alarming problem that needs to be addressed.
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May I suggest your local Rape Crisis Center or Battered Women's Shelter in your local area.  What a blessing that would be.  Also, if you have a homeless shelter in your area, buy everyone good hats and gloves.  Jingle blessings!
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It's one of the way for them to channel their anger. they sometimes imagine the animal is a person that had done damage to them when they abuse the animal the imagine that that they hit the person they were angry at. this type of person have to take anger management class or they can solve it them selves by trying to find other way to channel their anger maybe by buying a sand bag to his on it carrying heavy object helps to reduse the level of anger in a person.\nand also this person have to have support from their love ones.\nother reason this person have the tendency of feeling superior when they hurt animals. they think there is no other way for them to feel strong and by abusing animal it makes them feel strong.
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Wow, kudos for the spouse for having a wonderful understanding of "For better or for Worse".  This person is a gem for staying with their injured spouse and not being selfish and cheating or doing other things to emotionally hurt the already physically injured spouse.  You can handle anything if you are able to be a compassionate, understanding, giving and totally unselfish person.  Unfortunatley, there aren't alot of people like that in this society.
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I'd love to have someone like you around, if I were to get attacked. It's scary to think of how apathetic people can be. There is more than one way of getting involved or to help. As long as one can help out, instead of walking away, ignoring it. If it were me, I wouldn't physically get in the middle of the bashing, because I know my limits and weakness. But I would get help, distract, get a large object to swing, etc. There are ways of helping out and getting involved to help our fellow people. Even to give assistance to the victim after the fact. But to walk away, that is uncool... But then again, I can't say that is wise 100% of the time, for there are different social conventions and rules or lack of rules in different cultures, sub-cultures, and countries.