im so scared and confused i dont know what to do...ok first i got sad because my girlfreinds is gonna go to a college hing in liek 2 years and theres a SMALLlchance she wont be able to talk to me thne i got in a fight with my mom and hell i dont know im scared and confused i dont know whats going on im 14 can somene help me?
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i dont kno what to say just good luck
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It's a horrible feeling to think nobody cares but I garuntee you there is lots of people who do care and you don't realise it.  As for school, don't worry about them it might seem like a long way away now but believe me before you know it you will be out of school in the real world with real people who have more important things to do than bully somebody, and you will meet people who accept and like you for who you are.  Chin up!!!!
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To to a counsler if you are still in school if not... Take her to a mental health department quick... It helped me..
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you definately need to express your unhappiness. not to sound mean or anything but...don't expect anything to change with your parents. eventhough ur mom isn't happy either. i don't think your parents are going to up and change again just cause YOU are unhappy. that's just how I see it. maybe you can join some kind of activity or something. it really doesn take time to make friends. i've been in that situation before. my whole 9th grade year sucked because i had no real friends. but you will a buddy. it will just happen. i can't really explain it. just hang in there. \n\ngood luck.
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I think you should tell your parents, or at least one of them. Start with a conversation. Say "Mom, can I talk to you?" and just start telling her how you feel and what is wrong. She will be glad you did and she can get you help. I know how hard it is when you are 14 b/c I was there with the same problem. Now I look back and realize, I should have just told them. Teenage years are hard enough, don't make it harder. Get the help you deserve so maybe you can actually enjoy being a teen. We are here for you, IM me if you need to. I've walked in similar shoes for years so I might be able to offer some advice.\n\nI agree, school councilors are terrible! We only want you to reconsider telling your parents b/c they really are the easiest, quickest, and most reliable choice availible to you. Be glad you have them, later on you gotta fix it yourself, lol!
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Hi it must be awful for you but sometimes grown ups act in really silly ways. Try as hard as you can to keep out of it, do you have a aunt or cousin you can talk to? Once everything has calmed down quietly explain to your mom how much this is all upsetting you. If you are really suffering or feel that you are in physical danger ask a teacher at school to help you.  and don't worry...it will probably make you a stronger person.
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hey man, i know what it can be like to have a mom and dad that aren't around for you to set examples for you in life. When i think about when i used to live with my mom and dad the only thing i think of is "what doesent kill you, makes you stronger" but ofcource everyone situation is different. my advice would be to talk to one of your close family members if you have one, if not, a school counselor and go from there. good luck in life man and keep kicking ass in school... its the key to success!
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Hey sweetie I know what your going through I am 35 and believe it or not I remember being your age, it is hard begining your teenage years and yes I believe talking to even the school councler would benefit you, but please find someone you can trust and let them help you, Please?\nAlso hon, sounds like you had a trauma happen if it did and you know what I'm talking about please seek help soon? Also You Need A big Hug My family and I send it to you now.
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GET OVER IT.. AND GO BACK TO SCHOOL AND GRADUATE. GO TO COLLEGE AND YOU LIFE WILL BE MUCH BETTER,, STOP THINKING ABOUT THAT AT SUCH EARLY AGE.. GO HOME AND HELP YOUR PARENTS WITH SOME CHORES........HELP THEM OUT FOR A CHANGE......
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discuss with your syster that you can not continue like that because if you will continue like that you loose your school, and no body will care about you.\nIf she didn't find a solution try to find another place to study.
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Its really fun....I'm going through the same thing myself...my girlfriend of 2 yrs called it off 3 days ago and I'm suck in the same predicament. I absolutely can relate to you because I'm afraid that I won't ever find someone that I care and love. Not to mention she was my first girlfriend. To make it worse she tells me that she doesn't really see a future with me even though she tells me she loves me. Anyways I just want to tell you that its ok and hopefully both of us will be ok in the future. I wish you luck and I feel your pain. Oh, and the Dr. Steve answer is not fair... I'm not a teenager and I'm going through this so to say that "its a meaningless relationship" is cruel.
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Man you're killin yourself thinkin about it...just go for it!Worry about that in summer...you'll be sad either way towards the end.But if you get w/her now you can bring some sweet momories w/you to college...
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You seem to come from a very religious home. So perhaps your parents have certain notions on how you should be educated.  This might  explain why they don't see how much this situation disturbs you.   I know it might be hard for you to see things this way, but you must believe in your heart that these things will pass.  This heartache will pass.  If  the head Nun or director of the school won't help you with  this situation, then it seems that you have no alternative  but to help yourself. The best way is to become oblivious to the name callings and the ill treatment by your classmates. While at school stay focus on your lessons, and  know in your heart that when you get older things will be a lot better.   They will get better because when you  become an adult\nyou can choose legally what your name should be . For now you  should become oblivious to the problems and only think of the  future,  Good Luck!
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Do some scholarship searching and get into college.  You'll find that its really a deja vu of high school, except without curfew and parental monitoring.  Its really cool and you will probably be happy there if you miss being a schoolkid.  College kids are just overgrown schoolkids.  As for what to major in, I can't tell you that - you'll have to figure out for yourself what you like to do and find the point where what you like intersects what you are GOOD at.    That will ensure that you can actually pass the courses in your major and get a good paying job after college.  (I changed majors a couple of times in college, trying to find the right thing for me.  So did a lot of people I know.  It seems to have turned out okay for everyone, so go ahead and experiment.)  Talk to a counselor to help with the depression if you can find one.  And keeping in touch with your high school friends will probably help you feel better as well.
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it might be a good idea to consult a counselor, you sound very confused about your feeling right now.... best wishes!
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I don't know if there is a way to really get over it. She is your mom.  I do know how you feel.  My relationship with my mom has always been strained I always just let her say whatever and took it.  I eventually backed away and we didn't talk for a while. Then we slowly started talking again.  We still talk but don't have a close relationship.  I would give it some time and let her cool down.  Hopefully she will come around.  Hang in there.  But remember that even if she is your mom she shouldn't put you down and she should support you.  So even if you do have a relationship again with her don't rely on her for emotional support.
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Trust me... it happens!\n\n I just recently turned 16 (Mar.10) and I've been going through this whole change. I feel like I'm sitting on bridge and watching the world pass me by. After all the weird years in life I finally found my Hero - who saved me. My life is numb - I'm not interested in anything anymore. I don't care what someone says. I don't hate but I don't love. The only thing that makes me cry is the fact that I don't know if I'll ever meet my Hero again. He's a Paramedic - the proudest man I've ever known. \n\nHowever if this is serious and you would like to talk but can't seem to trust anyone. I'd advise you to talk to your school counsellor. I know... I used to freak out by the name of them. But when my teacher set an appointment I was actually looking forward to it. It's amazing what a 30 minute talk can do - at the end of it I had a few problems cleared out. Well, the problems didn't clear away but they became clear of how I am supposed to handle them. \n\nHaving said that, Good Luck!