I am a beautiful 21-year old woman. I am a little shy and have trouble meeting men when I go out. How do I meet someone without looking like an idiot? Or how can I "invite" people to approach me?
136059
Go out with friends and just have fun.  Don't approach the situation "looking" to meet a guy.  If you are just being yourself with friends, the guys will approach.
281255
well everybody had ups n downs. don't be frustrate, and dint feel shy about to meet people. and dint underestimate itself. everybody is beautiful, u r beautiful too. just meet the people, talk to them, share ur thoughts. don't afraid  they r also human beings like u. if anybody not coming to u then u have to take a initiative.
355814
Try somewhere where the vast majority are men. A place that you can deal with.Or something you like to do.Get some guts and start talking to one your interested in.Your not likely to get yelled at or the cold sholder.
349713
As a matter of fact, I have the same problem. But I don't really mind as those people aren't even my type, so i just regard them as not even worth it. I don't know if that helps for you though. You sound terribly shy and lonely, so perhaps you should socialise more and if you do see someone you like, make the first move.\n\nBut don't try too hard though, I know this girl who was really desparate for friends, so much that it showed and she was ostracised by her classmates (who were a really mean bunch to begin with).\n\nDon't look for online friends, it's only a way to meet perverts who prey on lonely young people, and even if they aren't, no on e is sincere about online relationships because on the internet, you're just an avatar.\n\nTo be honest, if you haven't got friends, you cannot do very much about it. I suggest you just find another hobby for yourself to take up your time and sit out this awkward period in your life.
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You need more confidence; just remember that while looks get the first glance, for selecting a partner most women are much less visually oriented than most men are. Stereotype, but I think true. So, think about that to boost your confidence.\n\nThen, just start getting yourself in situations where you will interact with women.  Book clubs, Toastmasters (that will also help your shyness bigtime) Church groups if you are religious, parties, etc.  In this day and age, just approaching random people you meet in public has a low probabilty of success since people tend to be more guarded (but it can work, and might be good practice; ain't like you will ever see them again!)\n\nSkinny?  I was very skinny for a long time. Always teased in HS. during college I lifted weights.  After college I took up martial arts.  Stayed thin, but I was ripped. . . now, at my HS reunions, I am reasonably well filled out now but still thin. (I will never be a muscle monster; just don't have the genetics) and most of my HS compatriots are FAT!  HAHAHAHA! \n\nAnyway, it is more attitude than anything.  By the end of high school I didn't care I was skinny anymore.  That made a big difference.\n\nAs for you being attracted to almost every girl you see, I am guessing you are in late JHS, HS or college.  That is normal. Don't worry.  By the time you are about 25, you will be able to interact with women without **constantly** thinking of them sexually, and by 35 you can do it half the time you are talking to them. Sometimes being a man sucks.
539148
Well if you are at a club or bar or place like that with a social atmosphere, approach her and say "Hi, I kept noticing how beautiful you are and I finally got the guts to come over here and introduce myself" A guy said that to me and it totally worked..good luck!
518666
nope, not too much to ask. im a decent guy trying to meet people online too.  so dont worry, we're out there. \nas far as attracting a guy, make sure you are as attractive as possible, and i dont mean that to sound as shallow as it does. you have few enough opportunities, and you dont want one to pass you by because you didnt make a good first impression.  guys are physical, sad but true. after that though, make sure that you are interesting. i hate girls that are ignorant of the whole world. they are boring.  so read, keep up to date, know whats going on. have well thought out opinions.  \nwhen you feel jaded try to remember that people are often hard wired to act the way they do. its not an excuse for bad behavior.  but often people are just going through their lives sort of oblivious to the actions they are taking. there is romance out there.  there are men who have honor and kindness and decency.  its just that girls tend to go for bad boys, so we have to act like jackasses to attract any.  find the guys who have accomplished difficult tasks, who are working hard to improve themselves.  who think before they speak, and can backup what they say with intelligent reason.  were out there. good luck!
72202
i cano often be found at church.  im only 22, but hey, age is just a number.  seriously though, we are a bit harder to find than an average guy.  usually (i know in my case) we are a bit shy.  we don't often hit on girls, we think it rude.  ergo, nice guys finish last.  some of us do respect women, personally i had no choice growing up, having 4 sisters, no brothers until i was 11, and a step dad that i really didnt get along with, it wasnt hard to learn.\n\n\n\nmaybe try lowes, or star nursery.  stay away from wal mart though.  unless you want a good deal on something.  \n\n\ni got you beat on how long its been since a date, too.  i know its not a contest and i probably get the loser award, but im working on 22 1/2 yrs.  also known as "never"
23393
Find other women in personals possibly or try pheromones that will attract women. Good luck! And have fun!
361982
I'd give the guy extra points if he dared to come up to me in a group. What most guys think is a girls night out isn't true most women do go out cos they want to meet guys. It'll show your bravery and most women appreciate that. Go over and introduce yourself to all then start a conversation with the one you're attracted to...pick up lines I'd prefer something unplayer-like...a basic introduction, 'Hi I'm so and so, have I seen you here before?' That way you are playing it safe, she can't kick your ass for it.
57578
I had the same problem when I first moved here (Texas).  I came from Upstate New York, where guys are way more foreward---  people are more reserved here in that way, it seems.  Put yourself out there---  ask someone out for coffee, ask to meet for lunch, you know, little "safe" dates.  After a few of these, you should know yourself if this is a person you really want to date.  Don't do the bar scene dating---  you meet so many crazy, wild people who don't really want a relationship.  Another idea:  ask close friends or relatives to "set you up".  Or, you may try Yahoo! personals.  It sounds risky, and may be, but I met the most awesome man online 14 months ago and we have an incredible relatioship!
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I seen your picture, you are a hottie with potential.  Attraction is something must deeper than that.  Guys aren't attracted to women, it's the women who attract the men that get noticed.\n\nIf you as a women wasn't interested, nothing will ever happen to get you noticed.  Just be yourself, and be a lady with class.  If you like someone, and they like being around you without you looking at the clock that is the guy you want to be with.\n\nFun, is the magical word here.  Don't be one of the guys, that will never get you noticed.\n\nDress up in some nice clothes, stop wearing the same thing over, and over.\n\nChange the way you look, experiment.... You are hot without trying, imagine the attention you will get if you worked on it.   \n\nChange your hair style first, then get some designer glasses and shop for new clothes.  Never wear cheap shoes.  \n\nGet yourself a pair of Nine West, and treat yourself to nice clothes.\n\nAlways buy a piece at a time now, for Spring and Fall next year around Feb.
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oh well i absolutely love stuff like this.  its so easy! ok well first of all.. you should realize that everyone who is going because they want to and they want to have fun.   no ones going there to scrutinize anybody.  Well first of all... dress up and look pretty.  So when no one knows anything about you (you have an awesome personality, etc) they will know one good thing about you: you look nice!  So that will give you confidence.  And never stop smiling.  People will be scared to talk to you if you do not come off as super friendly.  And if someone doesnt introduce themselves to you, it is because they are nervous like you are!\n\nHere is how to socialize:\nintroduce yourself.  assertive, eye contact, say hi im "name", that you are so in sos husband.\nThen, ask questions.  (their name if you dont already know it) After a conversation, people always report liking someone a lot when THEY were the ones talking the whole time! so thats a good trick... because they will like you and you wont have to talk much!  Just be really interested in Them!  Tilt head, smile and nodd as they talk.  Eye contact!\n\nHave a bunch of questions thought of before you go so if you get nervous you can just resort to those pre rehearsed Qs (never a yes or no question).\n\nGreat questions:\nWhere do you work?  Are you from around here?  How long have you been in the area?  Who did you come here with?  If they have a job that requires a degree, ask where they attended school.  Do you enjoy the neighborhood?   Usually you should ask questions that naturally follow each other, and not randomly jump around.\n\nYou can propose a problem, and ask them for the solution.  for example:  My husband and I have been trying to find a good italian restaurante, do you know of any?  Do you two have a favorite restaurant?  \n\nYou keep asking these questions until you find something unique you have in common.  example:  you both have kids the same age, are from the same hometown, you had the same major in college.  Once you find something you have in common, this is when the conversation can be fun.  This is when people get into things they start laughing about and when natural conversation comes in.  At this point, you dont really need any rules, just talk openly and ask questions!  Just dont say any really opinionated things like "I think homeschooling is wrong" or "accountants are boring".  Everything should be lighthearded and complimentary.\n\n"Expert" tips:  Ask questions that don't assume anything... like, asking are you here with your husband? that assumes: 1. theyre not gay.  and 2. theyre married.  this could turn into an awkward situation!  But usually things are pretty obvious so dont really worry about that.  \n\nSo SMILE!  Ask questions, become interested in the other person's life, and when in doubt, smile and nodd!!\n\nNow have fun impressing your husband with your amazing social butterfly skills.  By the end of the night hell miss having you cling to his arm.\n\ngood luck but more importantly have fun!! :)
618861
You sound like a very charming person; I'm sure that you will find someone soon. With a personality as upbeat as yours, I think you will find that plenty of guys would love to be around you. Good luck!
79291
Yeah they still exist just not on the internet.(Not for dating anyway), Find something like a community theater to join or a function where a lot of people attend, Church fitness club Ymca the list goes on and on. The best way to meet people is to be around people. Check on volunteer work things like that. A Cancer walkathon or something where you can walk and talk and help someone at the same time. Decent Men and women are out there but you have to make yourself available.\n\nGood Luck!!
510758
Ok, well I would start to know men now! That way you have time to get to know them more! Now for the dating part I really don't have any personal experience but just go out for coffee, to dinner, or a movie! Or have fun and go to a carnival, go bowling, or just go to your place and hang and watch movies!\n\nYou'll find him!
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Be respectful. Be charming. Be polite.\n\nAs long as you are good, you will eventually attract good women. (You will find some not-so-good ones, too, but the good ones will stick with you.)\n\nNot all women think guys are dogs. Women who have been burned by men, will think that. Remember, respect, charm, and polite.\n\nThose are very essential elements, and don't forget honest. \n\nIf people are rude, shrug it off. Someone who's ticked today, could be pleasant tomorrow. \n\nGood luck.