I liked this guy for 6 years and i want to get over him, i can't take it anymore.
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It takes time to get over a love relationship.  Some people say that it takes half the time you were involved to get over it.  The best thing is to just talk it out with friends, or maybe a professional counselor.  It's a process, getting over a broken heart, not an event.  It's not something that you just wake up the next day and say, "I'm over it".  I found getting involved with new friends, or interests took my mind away from my sadness.  \nI'm sorry to hear that you are hurting, I hope that you can find some support and distraction soon.  It won't always be like this.  Some day in the future you will look back at this and realize that it wasn't a good relationship for you.
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I can associate with this question.  It's hard to lose your first love, because you know that all the memories you had together is shared by only you now.  A world of emotions go through your mind and it's tough.  I think in time this gets a little easier to accept.\n\nAs far as your current guy goes, just remember that he is the one who is here.  He is the one who has been with you for 6 years.  He needs your love or you might lose him.\n\nSeek out a therapist or a good friend who can sit and talk with you for a couple of sessions.  Sometimes just talking about it helps.  Maybe that's why you resent you current guy... because you feel uncomfortable talking about your ex with him?
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You're going to hurt him one way or the other.  Just be honest and tell him you're feelings have changed and you don't want to date him anymore.  He'll get over it after a while (unless he's psycho).
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I'm in the same boat honey. I'm trying to get over this guy who only wants to be my friend now.  And yes I want that, but every time I hang out with him I want to hug and kiss him like I used to, which wasn't too long ago. What my friends tell me, and what I'm now telling you, you need to break away from him for awhile. Try not to call him, as hard as that is, and just give your heart and head a break from him. And maybe in a couple weeks or months, or however long it takes you, you'll be able to hang out with him with no feelings other than friendship aimed at him. Also another good way of getting over him, is trying to date other people, even though they won't be him and you'll be comparing them all to him, it'll be a stepping stone, and eventually you'll meet that guy and not even think about your ex. Hope this makes sense and helps. Good luck.
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Yeah that is hard. I'm very sorry that you haven't gotten over him yet and moved on with your life.\nAt least you realize that he doesn't want you anymore. I know it even hurts to read it and I'm sorry I'm not trying to be mean. You need to recognize how short life is and that you deserve to be happy. You deserve to be with a person that will feel the same way you feel about them. Do you know what you are worth? Well then, move on with your life you are not promised tomorrow right? the sooner you realize this you will have peace in your mind body and soul. Cause i know how it is to crave for a man that you can't have I've been there. \nGood Luck  to you Hun.
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You poor thing! I can understand that you like him and it's hard seeing him with his girlfriend, especially after him kissing you. It was a stupid and bad thing for him to do. You could try ignoring him. Have a purely professional relationship with him. Talk to him before ignoring him and tell him that it has to be this way or you'll shatter (that's the way I would feel). Then get out there, be with friends, hang out, meet new guys. Maybe get drunk to get over him... jk. But you can't have him so you just have to move on. There's a guy that's better than him out there, all you have to do is make yourself available to him and off you go.
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try to convince yourself not to think about him .....\n\n** you will get over it soon.....
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It takes time.  I'm still not over my ex and that was 7 years ago.  I know that doesn't sound promising, but that isn't what life is about.  You learn to deal.  As time goes by it gets easier.  If you really love someone they will always hold a special place in your heart, even 50 years down the road.  Don't try to get over it.  Cry, listen to sad music, wear pj pants, and eat ice cream.  Everyone needs to wallow.  Eventually you will want to start living again and be happy and you will. Don't try to be friends though.  When things are that serious and one still has feelings and you try to "just be friends", the one with the feeling, you, will always get hurt in the end.  You'll realize it's not enough and you'll never heal that way.  Just remember not to shut love out because of one jerk.  Life is too long to live it alone and lonely.
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When I was 16 (I'm 19 now) I was madly in love with a guy from school. He broke my heart, and I was so devestated. I was insanely depressed for 3 weeks and after 2 months appeared happy but I was still so miserable inside. I was obsessed. I couldn't stop thinking about him for even a SECOND. I spent a year of my life with him on my mind, 24/7. Sometimes I'd wake up in the night and not be able to go back to sleep because his memory was so painful and I couldn't get him off my mind. Even when the pain of losing him was gone a few months later, I still felt anger about the situation.\n\nYou want to know when everything disapeared? 2 1/2 years later while at work, I looked to my right and the most gorgeous guy walked in the room. At that moment, my ex's memory disapeared. My mind returned to normal. I fell in love again.\n\nUntil something of that nature happens to you, start going out with friends. Surround yourself with people. Keep yourself busy AT ALL times. TRY to not think about her (even though I know how impossible it can be). Eventually, time will heal your pain.
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You have to want to, and let time heal your wounds.  Try counseling, whether alone or with him.  Talking out your feelings is the only way you will truly ever be able to process them.\n   Do not listen to these people who say give up and move on.  We do that too much today.  Give up to easy.  If you really love him, try to work it out.  You will probably never forget the hurt he has caused you, but you may be able to forgive, move on, and both of you learn a valuable lesson.  It may make you stronger in the long run.\n   I would suggest counseling before you give up, but if the pain is too great, then maybe you should seperate for awhile (not give up, just seperate) and work on things at a distance where you both have your space to heal, grow, and process.\n\nGood luck.  peace and love
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sometimes when your in love with someone it is hard to move on, but things get better within time. try doing things that you like to do to keep your mine off of the guy stay away from things that  reminds you of him one other thing  to do pray and ask God to give you strength to get over him and it will come when you least supect it to good luck
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you can't make someone like you, especially if he already likes someone else.  get over him and find someone else.
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don't do it....i did just that thing and ended up very sad and very screwed over. after we broke up i still had to see him everyday, so that made it even harder cause i still cared very much for him. think hard before starting a work related relationship with anyone
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i have sort of had this experience.i fell in love with this guy.our relation was going on steadily when another woman came in his life and he ditched me.i did not ask for explaination and just walked out of his life.i was so heartbroken.i lost faith in everybody and am afraid to love once more.whenever i see that guy i get very angry but pretend as if nothing has happened and try to enjoy but actually inside i feel sick.i think u should move on.it is hard but tyr and slowly u will forget.
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Stay with him.  Give him  some time, if in 6 months, you still feel this way, then leave him.
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You should find someone else that he's been friends with for a while, then build that person up so that he won't like the old person anymore. I have had so many crushes in my lifetime, and that's what I do, sure... it takes a while, but it's worth it in the end.
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Convince yourself that you deserve better and I'm sure you do.  Look at it as his loss, not yours and move on.  You can love someone dearly and still be smart enough to know that you can't actually be with them because it's simply not good for you.  I have an ex from 15 years ago that I'll always adore, but we can't be in the same room without trying to claw each other's eyeballs out.  We've broke up 12 years ago and we have remained friends..on the phone. lol