women and children are being abused. now is it because of race/ethnicity or is it b/c of economic status.
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Domestic violence towards women and children happens regardless of socio-economic group or race. But it happens more in the lower socio-economic groups. As some races especially people of different races not in their homelands tend to be in lower socioeconomic groups the incidence of domestic violence tends to be higher. Domestic violence tends to be influenced by stress and economic pressures obviously lead to financial insecurity and stress. Economic factors can also lead to social exclusion and that can lead to domestic violence and other crimes outside the home - it is also a major factor in the cause of emotional, psychological and even major psychiatric illness and of course crime both inside and outside the home environment.
317094
I am sorry to say this, but if you feel the kids are being abused in any way....you should call child protective services.  They will come out and interview her and her kids and see whats going on.   Forget her lies, if you can see through them you have some power, and not to sound cliche, but with power comes responsibility.
281969
I think you are confusing poverty with race. Poor people have more children. You probably have met people of Mexican heritage you did not even know were Hispanic. You also likely cannot tell the difference between a Puerto Rican and a Hondurian, so they all seem Mexican to you. \n\nThe poor in this country have always had the highest birth rates. This is a vicious cycle as having children is expensive and keeps them locked in poverty. The old welfarce system added incentive as it payed more and more with each child. The new system caps this and thus discourages larger families but it will be some time before we see the net effects of this. \n\nHispanic culture does however measure a man's Machismo with his ability to sire children. Birth control is a touchy subject with many imigrants of Hispanic origion. Some get the shot instead of the pill so that they can use birth control without knowledge/interfence from the boyfriend/husband. Many accept their role as mother of many children. Hispanic culture is not the only culture that has this value. Just one of the more blatent about it. Typically in the past once they are a generation in they tend to adopt a more Western attitude and raise smaller families as they climb the ladder in education and affluence. \n\nAs for teenage pregnacy no race has a monopoly on that. You see it with all races, religions, incomes. More often than not you see the children of the strictest households or loosest households providing the bulk of teen pregnancies. The strictest the teen girl gets in trouble out of fear. The looser ones out of ignorance. The result is the same. A child when a girl is far too young to raise one. both are preventable but the parents are either too strict or care too little about their children or both to prevent it.
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As a rape survivor, I can say that I believe that women are mistreated by some men, but some men are also mistreated.  For every bad man or woman in this world, there are way more good ones.  I can attest to that fact.  Yes, we women are at a disadvantage in some points, but I would still choose to be a woman, even living through what I have lived through....Good question....:)
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Unfortunately not anytime soon racism has been around since the beginning of time. I commend your wife for sticking through her devotion to the children even in times of adversity. I know when people talk about racism they assume that a minority has been the victim of the discrimination but they don't seem to understand that non minorities do experience racism from minorities that is just as hateful and mean. I can relate from that experience because  I am a mixed race person and i have experienced racist remarks for being too white and then the other side being to dark there seems to be no neutral ground. I guess what is so appauling is that these children are being taught to hate at such young ages which will damage them later in life. If only the parents of these children could understand that your wife is only there to help their children because someone needs to help them the parents seem to reject that help.
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your right! They are milking the government for all they can get. crying racism if they don't continue to get free places to stay, eat, get a check etc...I feel sorry for the real victims of Katrina, but they have found cases of people actually living in St. Louis, Missouri; that collected quite a bit of money; stating they were victims just because of their race. Most of the real victims have re-started their lives, but you have the ones that are lazy,and never having anything to begin with, in new homes. What a disgrace to our country. When another catastrophe happens, there won't be any funds. Not to say there hasn't been other catastrophes, but because of the race issue; this one will continue on.
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Yes it happens here where I live as well (Ohio). It is terrible. The problem seems to be a lack of respect for one another as people. I have seen what a young black man has done to his so called friend over something stupid. It is amazing to me still that so many seem to rush to violence over minor things that could be solved by just talking it out. Men need to quit worrying so much about their rep & saving face. So called men need to grow up. Killing because someone made fun of you, took your woman or owes you money is way too permanent a solution for a temporary problem. We all know that sticks & stones..., there are other fish in the sea & money is only paper  are old adages that should apply. Not death, grief, prison or death row. We need to teach the young men of today (which are most of the perpetrators) forgiveness, humility, respect (for self & freedom) & to quit taking life for granted. It is too short! Another big problem is that they need to realize that family is the most important thing. Not so called friends that will leave you in the dust when things get rough. I have known many people have attempted to instill what is right (myself included) into the young people of today. They still seem to want to follow the wrong path no matter how many friends are killed. I don't have the answer. So many seem to live on the edge & blatantly don't care about the lives of others as if they have no humanity within them. All we can do in the end is keep talking, offering guidance & love them. I hope one day the killing stops. The human race as a whole needs to learn a better way.
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Children live what they learn.  If your "Uncle" is abusing them,  it may be a pattern they are used to, and therefore think is "normal".  Where is there Mom?  If, she is also being abused, she might be scared.  But trust me on this,  nobody comes out o.k. in a situation like this,  and your cousins need to get away from this man.  He needs to go somewhere to get anger management  and some kind of help for whatever makes him this way.   Tell them, this is not a normal life and there are places that will help (not always social services) them to get away from this abuse.  In the long run, everyone might have some semblance of a good life,  instead of repeating a vicious cycle. Like I said, trust me on this, I know,  I have lived the same way, and came out of it OK, they can too!  Good luck to all of you!
248810
I think there are a lot of domestic violence but few of them report to the police . It's no use to have someone acted as the middle man. It can only be solved by couples.
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It depends on why the children are poor, sick and hungry.  If its because you are spending all your income on drugs and not attending to your support obligations, then it is child neglect (not necessarily abuse).\nHowever, if your children are poor, sick, and hungry and you have done everything you could to support them, then you may just be unfortunate and in need of a helping hand, or you may be incompetent, and in need of a caretaker yourself.
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I'm sorry about what happened to you and your family.  \nI can't understand why women put up with abuse, either.  I can only imagine that it's because those men have a power over the women's minds.
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with all that you hear these days, it sounds like an emotional problem to me. those kids need help, as much as she loves her children i think it is also a form of abuse, she is just ignorant to it, and uneducated. someone speak up to her for the kids sake.
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"most" people..i dont think so.. just "a lot" of people.. my mom finally divorced my dad when I was 9.. but until I was 9 I had to watch him beat her up a few times a week.. it's emotionally scarring and totally unacceptable and my SO knows that if he touches me that way once it's over.
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I agree with red_flamedragon. and I would ask "does Islam, christian, hindus, buddhist and all other religion say to treat children kindly, but do they all really follow the laws of their religion?" there are lots of child abuse cases happening in this world. it's not the religion to be blamed, it's the people, culture and their upbringing that messes things up.
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You're very perceptive.  \n\nIt's still rampant. Especially in rural, southern areas.  But, you can find it in the big cities, too, where large groups of one race live together and don't accept it when other races come in (such as So. Central LA where the Blacks hate the Mexicans, etc).\n\nIgnorance plays a big part and it's sad..
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more than likely the children will grow thinking \nA. this is acceptable behavior (since mom doesn't do anything about it)\nB. This is normal behavior (i.e everybody does it)\n\nMom needs to get her butt to closest battered womens shelter for some therapy
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The next time you hear a ruckus going on next door, call the police immediately. Even better check to see if there is a help line for kids to call in your area and use it to report the abuse NOW! Call your Social Services Office or Children's Aid Society and report it to them. They have to check out all reports of abuse. If you are not sure who to call, phone a school or hospital in your area and ask them for a number to use. You can remain anonymous and the woman next door will never know who reported her if you are worried about retaliation on her part. Do this. You'll be glad you did. These children need help.