She was nice, civil & friendly. . but it was a rather nerve racking experience.  A week later she turned up @ his place with her girlfriend. It freaked me out; (though I tried not to show it). Am I over-reacting? and why is my BF so insensitive and thinks that meeting his ex-wife is no big deal and wondered why I was slightly withdrawn afterwards? . . How would other ppl react?
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They have a child together and it stands to reason that they are civil with each other to make sure that their child is secure.  I think you felt the way you did because you may have expected her to be not a nice person, but she was and you don't know how to react.  That is understandable.  You might also feel that if you like this person you might somehow be betraying your boyfriend.  I do not believe that would be the case if you have a heart to heart talk with him. \n\nI am sure you will work things out.  Good luck and email me if you want.
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honey I so feel your pain. I want to give you some advice and please read carefully. Do not waste one more moment of your life fretting over this woman. This situation will always be a thorn in your side if you let it. DONT LET IT. You said your not a hateful person but if you let it this or she will make you one. Trust me I have been married to a man for 10 years and his ex is the beast master GOG OF MAGOG.I finally had to let it go but it just about ate me alive before I realized. I became bitter, hateful, obsessed, you name it. It will hurt no one but you.
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it all depends.of course no one wants to see their hubbies getting pounded on but if she meet him when he already was in the biz. she was wrong to have asked him to leave.but who knows if she even asked.but u know what he is an adult and can make his own decisions.yea it sucks that's he is gone but i have to say it is romantic why he left.and to answer your question,no he is not a sucker.he could always come back.or their will be another beef-cake in the future.do what i do and focus on those cute Lil shorts they like to wear.  yummy!
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My question is . . . why do you care . . . you dump him for a reason.  Why do you care is she goes through the trash and take him home.\n\nI would be upset . . . I would just feel sorry for her . . . because she doesn't know what a jerk he is.
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I just got over a relationship where my best friend (who was also his x girlfriend) and him kept staying friends. I didnt really let him know how much it bothered me, but now that i look back, it totally bothered me... and now that were not together, im so glad its over because that issue was so annoying, not worth dealing with. Tell him to loose her and if he can't, drop him!
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There is definitely trouble brewing.  She obviously still has something for him, since she sought him out on MySpace and is actively chatting.  Never trust a partner who still talks to their ex!
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Hi there,\nI can somewhat relate to you in a sense that I was in your shoes when my boyfriend (now my husband) was doing the same thing like your wife did.  I think, I forgave him since we're not really together (I was in another state).  Yes, I was grossed out when I heard this and the thought of 2 on 1 is disgusting.  We decided that not to associate with those kind of people, which helps me to cope.  Out of sight, out of mind.   The most important thing about this ordeal is having trust in this person again and make sure that it won't happen again.  Yes, then your can feel more secure and comfortable being with this person again.\nBest wishes,
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He has an insecurity complex. He's hoping if he focuses all his attention on her that she will never leave him. Most of the time this behavior 'smothers' the other person & it backfires on them. It has nothing to do with you personally. It is his own insecurity. Just let it run it's course & when he comes to you bummed after she dumps him, tell him how it made you feel & how it needy he looked to all his friends. He'll agree, but prob continue the pattern the rest of his life. Sorry
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I actually know what you mean.  At one of my gf's parties i was having fun just talking to this guy and my gf saw that and gave me this look like what the hell are you doing.  She is my first gf too and I haven't really been with anyone else, so I can understand what you must be feeling or fearing might happen.  My gf made it real clear that she was a little disturbed by what she was seeing and after that I realized how much it bothered her and now I am more aware of what I can and can't do.  With us it is kind of a little game though. She has done the same thing to me.  She will look at other girls and make comments just to see my reaction.  It is kinda funny that she is worried about me however, because she happens to be bi while I find myself more straight up gay.  I should really be more afraid of her time alone with a guy she finds attractive.  Perhaps what your gf is going through is similar.  Maybe she knows it bothers you or maybe she is just not sure how much it bothers you. I would definetely talk to her.  Communication is always the best way to treat little problems like these.  Be honest yet compassionate and not too firm with her.  It just seems that the trust between the two of you needs to be strengthened.  Number one thing.  Be brutally honest!  It tends to work out more than not.
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I was 17 and it was our first date. He was 17 too. We went to Makoto in Dothan. We were fine until his girlfriend showed up. I had no idea he had a gf. She punched me in my face so I stood up and knocked the s*** out of her. Then he stood up and told me he was sorry but I told him to take me home NOW. And then Isaid don't ever tlk to me again or ask me out again. He took me home and never spoke to me again.
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Why would you think he would hurt her? You must have some evidence based on the relationship the 2 of you had. But keep in mind that, unless he was awful, their relationship could have a completely dynamic than yours did. Tell her your concerns and then let her make up her own mind.
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hey, the same thing kinda happened to me! except, he never wanted her sexually...but i was friends with her (probably during a time when she dated him), way before i ever met him...we lived in different countries, so i think she may have dated him after i met her...anyway, she used to come over and hang out all the time after he and i got married...they're just old buddies and well, what they used to have is now long gone...\nso, if you feel that you can trust BOTH of them, why not?
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Not sure why this is in the Fantasy Sports section but......\n\nAfter not taking several hints, I had to bluntly tell her that I wasn't attracted to her.  She cried uncontrollably & went home..... never to speak to me again.
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NOOO!\nWhy ruin her husband's (who hopefully loves her) relationship?  No offense, but she sounds like a very selfish person.  I wouldn't even want to be around someone like that.\nTell her that she is being completely unfair to her husband.
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Yes!!! I think it's really disrespectful...he shouldn't be talking about it anymore because he's not with her...it would be almost like he was recreating those thoughts...you shouldn't impliment things you did with past partners either...everyone is pleasured in different ways...how rude of boys to do this!!!
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What does the husband think? If there is an understanding between the two of them, then I think its fine. Whatever her real agenda is going on a trip alone without her husband, if she does have something hidden behind her sleeves, then its she is taking an advantage of her husband's trust. And if thats the case, I feel pity for her and the husband as well.
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They do not speak to each other.  Apparently, she thought he was critical of her in an interview he gave.  I am not absolutely sure but I think she claims it was about her having adopted when she first did.  She also often said that she did not appreciate his cheating on her mother.  Not very consistent for a woman who slept with a married man.  He has expressed that he would like to make amends but she is not budging.