Its like, I've lost my virginity when I was 16 and since then I had a lots of guys. My current bf has a really huge one and can satisfy me like no one else before. He can just shake my world when he does that with me. But now, the situation is getting bad, it seems to me that I have to do whatever he asks me to do. Its seems to me that I've turned myself into his slave. But also I want to have pleasure from him. And I'm confused what should I do? I can't keep doing whatever he asks me to, he even goes to other girls and I can't stop him. But I always get what I want, he does it any times I want him to do. But I can't keep doing whatever he asks me to.
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First of all to give him a chance, discuss this matter with him directly. Tell him that you won't be the way he wants you to be, but you love him a lot and wanna be with him. If he agrees and changes his attitude to you then it might become alright for a while, but if not then just dump him and tell him that you can easily live without him. I can assure you that when you'll dump him he will come after you, cause probably as you've said he can do it so well, he wouldn't expect this from you. And when he comes after you then you make him to do things you want, but don't push it as he has been pushing.
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This is a secret. And guys, I apologise for giving it out.\n\nBut sometimes it happens that if you get really intimate with a guy and go all the way the guy thinks he has 'conquered'... and hence, loses interest.\n\nThe best way to counter this could be to give yourself a make-over or somehow get his interest going again.It might also help if he notcied that other guys are interested in you, it could rekindle the passion (could be risky). Good Luck!
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God bless you, All you can do is stay normal as you can. Do not  push your limit, make him comfortable when he is with you. All (REAL) mans are looking two things in their life, first good sex partner and  second, somewhere back in their mind they are looking for good homely atmosphere (meaning they want to see how comfortable they are with you), if you offer both of these two things to him. then you must 'BELIEVE ME' he is not going anywhere, he will be with you forever.
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"If he doesn't know what he wants then he doesn't want what he's got" heard that somewhere. \nIt sounds like he's leading you on and just wants attention. Your best bet is to find someone who wants to be with you NOW. You don't deserve to be strung along. If he decides later on that he wants to be with you then you can give it a chance but until then (and who knows how long that could be if at all) do yourself a favor and find a great guy.
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Losing your virginity is obviously not something that you can take back - once you do it, that's it.  If you are experiencing increased libido, which is perfectly normal, then try masterbating.  I'm not saying that to be funny - everyone does it.  Call me crazy, but I think that you should know your own body before you decide to give it to someone else.  Ultimately, only you can truly decide if and when to become sexually active.  Personally, I think that if you have doubts, then you are probably not ready.  Also, as you mentioned there can be serious consequences.  If you do decide to become sexually active, then PLEASE protect yourself.
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Honey, you're only 16 and now you've gotten yourself a reputation.  Guys talk about this stuff!  Then guys will ask you out for sex only.  Guys who have never gone out with you will tell other guys that they have "had" you.  The guys who really like you are having trouble respecting you.\n"If I don't do it, they won't like me."!!!!  If you don't do it, what have you really lost?  Only someone who is using you, but you do gain back your self-respect, even if you are the only one who knows why.\nThe sad truth is that you may never be able to shed the reputation as long as you are going to that school.  The good news is that in two years, you will have graduated, your world and the people in it will change and you will be able to start anew. \nThis happened to me when I was in HS, and I never even had sex!
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basically your just human, i cant say your just a guy because im a girl and my main goal when i spend time with my love is to get laid, okay not always but most the time. and i mean at least your mind set on pleasing her. thats how he is, i tell him hes the reason im so selfish. so as long as your doing good work, keep at it.\n\ni told my friend i needed to go to group therapy for my obsession with sex, maybe you can join me ;) haha.
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The reason they want you so much is that you are a rare person. Wonder what percentage of the population has had ONLY one sex partner? VERY SMALL PERCENTAGE, I BET! I admire you for not having multi partners. You found what you wanted, and you stayed with him. Way to go! But the guys just want you because you're practically a virgin, at least to them.Hope that answers your question.
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I have a bf like this and it is very liberating for me to be on the other side. But it is only role playing and I definitely like for him to be controlling too. I have had orgasms doing it and it is about the domination I believe. He loves it. What ever two consenting adults want they should have..Live and let live....
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I have been at the same place you are now for many years now. I am 26, and my best bet as to why you are JUST feelingthis is because something must have happened to you emotionally in the last few months that has triggered a "i don't care what YOU think i am going to do what i want" attitude. WHich is in no way bad. It is good if you are willing to accept that it may mean going against convention and learning to be discreet. It could also be with just ONE person...but let me tell you it is hard to find a guy that has the RIGHT size and the RIGHT apetite to keep you content and actually wear you out. Sometimes it means having a couple of friends handy because once a week is enough for some guys...\nI have also found that in the last 2 years i have developed some specific desires/fetishes which i did not necessarily have before. \nI think it just me evolving a bit and maybe becoming more in tune with my body.\nEmbrace what you are and what you like. Just be savvy and take care of yourself and know who you are becoming intimate with !
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If you feel you are able to handle all the possibilities and consequences that go along with it.  Hey, you could just end up with a good boyfriend.  On the other hand, he could be using you.  Oh yeah, he acts all "I really like you", or whatever, but if things go further and you "do the deed" (if ya know what I mean!), then things might change, then you will just feel used.  Remember, if all goes the way it's going, be safe have him wear protection!!!  I believe you are young, and even though babies are cute and lovable, believe me, whats in their diaper every 20 minutes isn't.  And believe me, we ALL know that STDs are a far cry from cute and lovable.  So do the SAFE thing and insist on a condom, no matter what he says about it.  No sex is better than unprotected sex.\nForeplay is the stuff you do to get eachother turned on.  The touching and rubbing, all that, is a type of foreplay.  All the stuff you do to get eachother all ready to go for sex is foreplay, pretty much.\nDo what you want, sis, but keep in mind what I have said.  People usually don't know what other peoples intentions are until its too late, so play it safe.
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That can be a complicated statement. I have to trust my partner on all levels. I have to believe he truly cares,and I have to feel safe to tell him what I want. If you have trouble with all partners than you may need to practice sex for one until you really get the feel for what works for you (no pun intended). If you were hurt in the past, it can be a real issue to enjoyment. If you were abused, you may have to get help. I did.
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Its not bad but it may seem unfair to him.\n\nIf your bf is one of those men that love having that done to him, you are going to have serious probles sooner or later because since he's been doing it, he's gonna start to feel hurt that you don't return the favour. He may interpret that to mean a lot of things which may not be tru like you don't love him enough to do it, you don't trust him enough or you are not committed.\n\nIf you had told him before that you don't like doing it, maybe he just enjoys ddoing it to you and is O.K with that. Don't be pressured into doing something that makes you uncomfortable but don't ask hi to do it to you. If he volunteers thats a different story.
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it's not what should you do, it's what can you do. looks like b/f has made some choices. all you need to do is get your mind around the situation. there are more guys out there. another one will come along, it all happened for a reason. the reason may not be obvious right now, but will become obvious someday, you have heard the saying when one door closes another one opens, hey the door closed, be thankful you found out now, before you had your 2.5 kids and caught him banging your friend. you expect your b/f to not like a gurl throwing herself at him , I can hear it now from you EX b/f oh please don't give me oral sex, yeah that's gonna happen. maybe you need to find some new friends, you won't lose much ditching the ones you have now. they don't respect you , that is obvious. good luck and don't take all that stuff too serious, you have a lot of heartache ahead of you, lol
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Listen to yourself on this one.  You know what will make you happy.  And you should not be doing those things until you can handle the full weight of responsibility they can bring.  Be yourself and hope that you can be OK with the out come.    If you asking the question you are not ready to loose your virginity, just a little hit.
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From what I understand from talking to my fiance, sometimes guys get so into it and so involved and excited that they can't "finish". I don't really understand it either, but believe me, we've been through it too. It's completely understandable since you waited until you were married to go for it(congrats on that by the way).I suggest just telling him to slow down and try to enjoy the moment more. Once he starts relaxing he'll come around..I promise :0)
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I think that if you have to ask, then no, it wasn't a good idea.  I'm glad that he asked, and I'm glad that you consented.  I'm also glad that you regret it.\nWhat's done is done.  More than likely you will continue the activity, but I want you to consider something....\nJust because the deed is done, doesn't mean you have to keep doing it.  If you really regret it, and feel that you truly were not ready yet, there is absolutely no shame in declining to engage further.  If you feel it appropriate, get together w/ your bf & tell him, "Look, it was really great, but now i regret it, and I just don't think I was ready.  So I'd really like to wait...before I do it again."\nAny good guy will respect that.  If the dude has a fit, drop him.  It's a good test of character.\nAs for you, you can run that game all you want, but I'm willing to bet you'll still be weak enough to give in if the situation comes about  ;-)  Just a fact of life, babe.\nSOooo... yes, it's too late to go back; no, it's not too late to wait; and yes, if you choose to wait, you should avoid situations where you can get caught up in the lust.\nDon't worry.  It happens to the best of us  :-)