and tells me if i dont get back with him his going to make my life inpassable. i cant get away from him but cant, he makes me sleep with him and i was rape by his friends.... help me,,,,, tell me what can i do!
120632
Oh my god.  You poor baby, he is doing you like this?\nDo you have family?  A brother or a father, mother?  If you do, first thing you need to do is Tell Your Family!!! If you do have a brother or a father, you tell them, then just step away and let them take care of the situation.\n\nNow, If you do not have a family, and if you cannot protect yourself NOW, then you must find people who will protect you NOW.\n\nNo person is allowed to touch you without your full permission.  No One! If you were my family or friend, I would take care of his sorry @ss and all his sorry @ss friends.  \n\nGo on line and look up in your community, your city, for the police department, and if you are not comfortable calling them for help, just call and ask for the number for ABUSE SUPPORT.  They will be able to help and protect you.\n\nThen, honey, you will be happy.  \n\nDon't worry, just do right for yourself.\n\nBe careful.  Good luck.  We all love you.
308332
You need to leave, NOW!  He is going to blow at one point and if he doesn't kill you, or someone else, he is going to hurt you bad!  If he has ever hit you, he will again...and harder!  He is already verbally abusing you, mental abuse, and is probably making you feel worse and worse about yourself.  You need to get out before he totally ruins you.  You CANNOT change him.  He has to make that choice himself and seek the help.  You have done all you can do and he has refused counseling.  Tell him that if you are ever to come back, he will need to go to anger management and/or counseling.  You can only blame your childhood for so long until you have to take responsibility...it is time he takes responsibility for his own actions.  Good luck, and please get out before it is too late.  Three women in America are killed each day by their partners, don't be one of them!
242514
When you return, and if he ever hints again at the possibility of being violent, get away from him as fast as you can. Then get a restraining order. He clearly has a violent streak. And if he can punch his sister in the mouth, then I would take him seriously if he says he'd kill you if you break up.\n\nDon't put your life in danger. No matter how much he says he loves you, he WILL hurt you eventually.
38441
Forget him. The problem is that the more you can't have him - the more you want him ... That is why I suggest you tell him "I cannot be with you - you have to learn something. I will wait for you. Maybe one day you will grow smarter." And who knows - one day he could understand that he act like pig in this situation.
140215
Diana..this is what i think u should do..sit down and talk to him about the way he treats u..tell him first about the good things that u love about him..but then tell him that he needs to trust u when u go out with your friends or if u just go out by yourself..(shopping or grabbing a bite to eat)..tell him in a kind way that if he keeps this up..u won't put up with it cause u want him to be part of your life and not your whole life..if it gets messy where he does hit u....stand up for yourself and have him arrested then gey a restraining order on him..its that simple sweety....please please don't be one of those gals that end up in a abuses relationship...
107912
it doesn't sound to good, he sounds like he's a nightmare to live with. my advice is leave him before you get hurt anymore.
455440
He is stringing you along. He doesn't want you but he doesn't want anyone else to have you either. He doesn't like it when he don't have control of you. You are his back up plan, his security that he won't be alone. You need to dump him and meet you a real man. You don't deserve that. He is tormenting you. He will never change.\nI gaurantee you when you meet somebody and he finds out he will be on his knees begging you back but please don't make the mistake in taking him back because after he breaks you up with him he will dump you again.
673841
If this guy was playing with you, why would you want to live like that.   You are a beautiful person, don't let someone bring you down and try to mess you up.  He's probably really screwed up and don't know how to treat people and "Misery Loves Company"\nLet him go and get on with your life.  You will find someone else in time who will treat you the way you should be treated.  God Bless
261382
First of all I'd say that he isn't your best friend. A best friend would NEVER rape their friend!\n\nYou need to ditch him, get him out of your life. Tell him flat out that you are not comfortable with what he did. He needs to know that if he tries anything like that again, or comes around you that you'll report him to the police.
458436
You did the right thing! I did the same thing! If you are planning to sleep with this guy you need to know these things! If he got upset with you over that then he is not the one for you! He should totally understand where you are coming from!!!
311163
You just got played! No one made him do anything he didn't want to do. He cheated on you. Period. Can you live with that? Your answer to that question should tell you what to do.
145583
Why don't you have your friends come over to explain what happened?  If he means anything to you and you want to stay, you will try anything to keep him.  Good luck!
176896
he wanted u for a period of time.. I think now its over.. so he's going away from you..\nNow what u can do is.. just forget such unworthy person and start living your life..
285116
trust me ive been there get away from him. that kind of life is not the way to go. please listen to me i know from experiance
665250
Time to be harsh, honey.  This is YOUR life and you do not see a future with him.  Wish him well, tell him your reasons why, and STICK TO YOUR DECISION.  You don't do yourself any favors by continuing to take him back if this thing is over in your heart and mind.  What he is doing is a exerting a type of control over you with the crying and suicide threats.  You are probably a sensitive and caring person and he is playing on those emotions to continue a game that will have no winner.  \n\nIf you have really and truly made up your mind then tell him and let that be that.  You have no control over what he does at that point and if he hasn't seen it coming already and began the process of moving on, so be it.  Not your problem.  If he continues to call or come around, ask him nicely not to.  If it continues after that, call the police.  Don't send him mixed messages.  Your position is that I don't feel the same for you as I once did and I believe it is time to move on with my life.  And let that be that.
37346
You shouldn't sleep with him. He probably wants to just to reinforce his "control", to help make him feel superior within himself. AVOID sleeping with this guy!
265019
he cheated on you and now he's accusing you of cheating on him because you won't sleep with him?!! no offense to you, but somethings really wrong with him. you have to talk to him.