I have a good friend that likes me. He's really having a bad life right now, and he just got rejected by another friend of ours. He's hinted he's going to ask me out soon. Should I tell him I don't like him before or after he asks?
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Yes, go ahead and tell him now. Don't make him do the scariest thing in guy world - asking a girl out - only to be turned down. You can say "I am really glad that I have you as a friend, but I kinda get the feeling that you might want more. I love you and I don't want to hurt you, but I just don't feel anything but friendship for you."
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FOR STARTERS, YOU NEVER TOLD US IF YOU LIKE HIM BACK OR NOT!\n\n-----\nI say that if you two are REALLY good friends then you should find a time (wait for a time) when you are both alone and both feeling very comfortable (not cuddling, but sitting on a curb outside or just chillin in the car, talking) and then tell him what you just told us (it seems very innocent to me),  .... tell him that you really like being his friend and for everything in the world you dont want to lose that friendship.  Then say "keeping in mind that i dont want to lose the frienship for anything,  lately we've been spending a lot of time together and we seem to be getting closer and you seem to be ready to come over to my place at any moment and you seem to always want to be around me, and i was just wondering .... what do you think about the idea of us being more than just friends?"  He might say "what do you think?"  Then smile and say "i asked you first."  smile.  ---but before he answers, tell him that no matter what he says, you'll still like him just as much.
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It's funny how women can always tell EVERYTHING about a guy whom they don't really know that well when he's not interested in her, but he's interested in her friend. \n\nIf you are the one who likes the guy, all of a sudden, " I don't know if he'll like me back or I don't know if he wants to go out or I don't know if blah blah blah. " \n\nWhat makes you think you know how the situation between them is going to turn out. \n\nMy advice, stay out of it. If she comes to you, do your best to be supportive, but let the girl live her own life and give dude a chance.
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ask her. do not tell her that you like him when you ask though. kinda get a feeling for what she feels for him. If she likes him, than you might want to cool off a little bit. in HS my friend and i liked the same guy. he asked me out and i accepted. That really did hurt my friend. I decide not to go out with him because she met more to me.
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What I would do is something similar to everything that got said before. If you aren't already, be friends with him, get to know him, let him get to know you. If you still feel the same, and he hasn't already done so, you should ask him out. As awkward as it would seem. As a guy that's been asked out in the past myself, I can personally say that this might be the best course of action for you, and maybe een for him.
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I would ask her to stay friends, and if you like(more then a friend) to this friend, go out w/ them. Don't let someone that doesn't really like you mess up a possible relationship that would be better than the one that you are about to get in. trust me, messed up my friendship caused the same thing happened to me!
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Look, I told a guy I liked him, we were friends and he didn't really give me an answer...turns out he had just asked another girl out.  It may b awkward right after it happens, but with a little space, anything can mend.  Now we are ok, and I don't regret not telling him.
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if you are not sure if he likes you and you don't want to lose your friendship you should keep it to yourself. i once told a friend that i liked him and would like to go out with him some time. he walked off , because he thought it was a friend of mine who liked him and he never spoke to me again.
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He likes you.  Obviously not your friend (no offence to her)  even if you dont go out with him, hes not going to go out with your friend.  He likes you for a reason.  So, you like him, he likes you.  And I'm sure your friend will find another guy.  I mean, if she gets sad about it, thats her problem .  Not tryingto be mean, but she cant force thi guy to go out with her.  You don't have to force anything, so I say go for it while your still young!!
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I've been in his shoes. The best thing to do is to let him down gently and don't let him think that there's any chance. That sounds difficult, I'm sure it is. \nTry this: "I really just like you as a friend and I don't see us as anything more. I'm sorry." \nIf he asks if there's ever a chance, tell him probably not. \nHe's in a really vulnerable position right now, but he'll appreciate being let down right away rather than dealing with someone who's afraid to hurt anyone's feelings. \nDon't feel guilty...that's just the way it is.\nChances are he'll be hurt and your friendship won't be the same ever again...but that's why they call it taking a risk.\nDon't use the "you're younger" excuse, in my opinion, I would just use the "it's not you, it's me" thing. And he won't like that, he'll probably eventually not want to talk to you for awhile, but that's the way it goes. \nI'm just being honest.\nP.S.- The "jeopardizing the friendship" thing is generally looked at by guys as weak and a cover to the real reason you won't date him....my advice is to not use it.
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I think honesty is the key. If you like him you should talk to your friend first. If you don't tell him that you don't really care for him, but you know someone that does. Lead him on, maybe he'll get interested in your friend!! Set up a blind date for the two, hopefully it will go well!
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Yeah, if he told your friend no, then he's going to say it again. But be persistent. Be nice to him and at least be friends. That way later, he can trust you and maybe go out with you. (Lol, I wish a girl would do that with me). So yeah, just hoping that helped.
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If you want him to admit that he liked you you should say that my friend said that you like me on myspace. And if he denies it, then say that you were the one who asked him not your friend. But since you were the one who ask if he liked you you could just ask him out. That's like literally asking him out without him knowing that it was you. If you had the nerve to ask him if he liked you on internet find some more nerves to ask him out in person or ask him of what he really thinks of you. good luck
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1. You are in a tough situation,because asking him directly could affect your friendship, especially if you misread him.\n\n2. Just keep hanging out with him or talking to him and keep bringing up opportunities for him to ask you out.  Tell him about a concert or a movie that you would like to see, but you don't have anyone to go with you.  Do this a few times and if he likes you, he will ask you out.  Believe me, you will know.
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will this turn out bad ..  Perhaps\n\nor good ..   Perhaps\n\ni cant tell...  And I look like a fortune teller?\n\nwas this a good idea or no? ..  Probably not the best approach, but it's done, so there's not much you can do about it now (read: don't' worry about it any more that you've done it, focus on the future)\n\nshould i have just done it on my own .. In my personal opinion, you should have done it on you own.  What is the worst thing that can happen?  She can say "no".  Which is the same worst case scenario that could happen by having a friend intervene.  It would most likely not be the last time in your life that you would be asking someone out, and you most likely don't want to go through your entire life having friends ask people out for you.  It probably won't go over so well when you're older.  Yes, there's a chance that she could say no, but there will be plenty of "no"s in your life, as well as plenty of "yes"s.  Now is a good time to practice having confidence and getting used to asking someone out that you like.\n\nIn the meantime, there's not much you can do about this except wait.  So, don't get caught up worrying about what "might" happen; you could end up being very surprised!  Just relax, and know that you will be able to handle whatever the outcome is.\n\nAnd having someone else see if she likes you isn't the best plan, either.  How does she act around you?  Does she talk to you, or ignore you?  Pay attention to you, or not?  Find reasons to make conversations with her, and based upon how you feel, then decide if there is a chance that she might be interested in you.  Then you could ask her out.  If she says no, that doesn't mean that she doesn't like you; just that she isn't interested in going out on a date with you.  That will not mean anything negative about you; it is simply a fact that she isn't interested in going out with you.  But, you will never know unless you ask!
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Don't worry about it until this person actually confronts you. It may not be what you think.  Then if they do confront you, just explain to them that that is not your preference and that you can still be friends.  As far as the guy, why don't you ask him out? :-)
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2 solutions for you:\n\nIF YOU ARE A GOOD FRIEND:  You will not date him because you value your friendship too much to jeapordize is.\n\nIF YOU ARE NOT THAT GOOD OF FRIENDS: Explain to her how much you really like him and it is your choice, you don't have to lose out on something just because she is holing you back.