I'm just wondering that if a guy says he's very attracted to you and you've done plenty of other things to give each other satisfaction, why a guy might still not have sex with you or be nervous about it with you?  Is it usually a deeper reason or a more shallow thing?
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He might just have some respect for you and not want to rush into anything.  He might actually be romancing you, taking things slow, getting to know you, letting you get to know him, and developing an actual relationship before taking things to the next level.  You can't take sex back.  Sex changes things... you can't help it... it just does.  You could always ask him if there's any particular reason why he hasn't tried to go all the way in the bedroom and see what he says.  Also, since STD's are on the average 1 in every 5 people he could be a carrier and struggling with a way to tell you before enganging you in sex.  The best thing I can tell you to do is to just ask.  Wondering and guessing will drive you bonkers!
545235
Are you serious? Do you actually seriously wonder why men like looking at women? Seriously? Do you really truly wonder? Do you have a libido? Do you understand anything about life and the sex drive and what "sexy" means? They wanna have sex with them, that's why! And there's no shame in wanting to have sex. You seem like you're trying to shame people for their sexuality, which probably means that you are ashamed of yours. Don't be ashamed.
45979
he could be a really nice guy and like you for who you are. I didn't have  sex with mt girlfriend or pressure her for 2 months. some guys think sex is a more serious thing and want to wait for the right moment.
602377
It means that he wants to go to the next LEVEL with you.. to be more than just casual friends.. to be STEADY .. going steady... but be careful.. He may want JUST to have sex and that is all so take the levels slowly
662819
Often when a man meets someone new , He will feel a bit nervous. Maybe  like, 'will I meet her expectations?' etc.. and sometimes this will cause a sort of ED.\nI guess it's the romance jitters.
607800
He may in fact find you attractive even though he may not consider you in a romantic way either.  I am friends with women to whom I am attracted but wouldn't act on it because of the friendship.  For you to try to nip this in the bud before he does or says anything would be premature.  And wouldn't it be embarrassing for you if you were wrong and assumed something was there that wasn't?
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dont be naive! he wanted to tease you or play with you. a guy will show interest if he is persistent, not when he feels like it. trust me. i did couple.i just telling the guy side of story. worst case scenario, you lose him. so what! theres a lot of guys out there that are sincere. think about it.
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It may be because he is embarrsed and remember hes a man and telling them how to have sex is an ego thing.  He may not have had much experiance either.  Dont tell him just do the things you like to him for a while and see if he starts to come around.
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You should ask yourself what do you want from this guy; do you really want a serious relationship?\nThe guy is honest and decent and it seems he likes you and wants a serious relationship and with some kind of commitment. \nHe could abuse you if he wanted, since you like make sex with him. But he prefers a mature relationship; Are you enough mature for that???
353151
Id think, it just depends on who the guy is and what hes got on his mind. My experience is, being a guy, he may want you to just get to know him for real, and he do the same with you. However, sound like to me, really, he just wants to be friends and thats it. Most guys will do this when he wants to get to you, in a sexual way, then hes gone, its a conquest thing with some guys. I guess it all depends on him, and what hes really after. Id just ask him and find out what hes got on his mind. Good luck.
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Maybe he needs something from you and he's just too shy to comfront you with it. Normally, shy men whos attracted to you behaves exactly what you have described. I think this guy needs encouragement from you, so he would be able to tell you whats on his mind. Goodluck!
426482
If you feel he is happy just to be with you and just having a decent conversation. If he tries to seduce either by trying to lead the conversation to naughty things or physically touching you, then definitely he's just after sex.
436953
Or the question might  be whats your problem? Yeah i know you didn't expect that. it seems your stuck all on you and think no one would dare turn you away> Maybe he see's through your hot body and see;s that your all about you!  Maybe he simply want's some one who is not so willing to give it up! It's hard to respect some one who is willing to bed me at first sight>
46992
Guys are born to be straight forward and biologically we should let girls know directly when we want to be with them... although we like challenges too, our attraction is more physically driven... girls like the feeling of reaching to tame a rouge man and therefore the fact that this guy is indiferent increases your attraction even more.  Somehow the balence of power in your relationship has tipped in his favor... the more you confess your feelings for him the more he has you in the palm of his hand... give him space.  I figure he is playing games and dont encourage these but find them necessary to create attraction.
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no, this is not all we think about, but, it is an innate preoccupation, if you had sex with him and he didnt have to try to get in your pants, then he would be more open and able to just sit and talk without thinking about sex, so if you have regular sex with him 2-3 times per week, he will be willing to just cuddle because he knows you are going to get on him when you want it so he doesnt have to worry, or "try to get in your pants"
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If you very in love and very emotionally connected, then i am 99% confident that the sex is emotional/loving for him.  If you are not very in love and not very emotionally connected, then I am 99% confident that it is purely physical to him.\n\nFor in-between those two, it's really going to depend on your relationship and the guy, and how the girl looks.  Is she very cute (if so, it's love), if she is not cute but very sexy, then it's likely sex.  \n\nFor the most part, though, unless you fit into one of the extremes on up above, it's very likely BOTH!\n\n----------------------\nand i agree with the guy above me, but i want to add to that - guys that are shy tend to be VERY emotionally connected in sex, and guys that are very outgoing tend to be the opposite (not always on the outgoing guys).
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OK,  since he is not yet an UNMARRIED man and has held on the "separation" status for this time.  You must assume he is not fully over his past.  If he is, then he is not ready to commit to you, or he would have done it.\n\nMen are, above all, opportunists when it comes to sex.  The only thing that keeps us from the biological imperative of being as "friendly" as possible with as many as possible is the fear of being caught.\n\nIf he has just upped things, I see two possible answers:\n1) He got a sample of Viagra or equivalent from his doc--and he wants to impress you .\n2) He has some insecurity brewing and it's his way of making himself feel better (which sucks if he doesn't get off)\n\nYou are sharp to pick up on the fact that we can actually want sex wiht you MORE if we are having it with somone else too.......I don't know why this is, but it is.