when i was young,my parents was a tenant farmer. i've lived in the country. but not rich,they had great zeal for my primary and junior high school education. thanks to my parents my school records were so good as to stand in the first to fifth in my class. in the period of the end of my middle schhool life , not only my intereat in studying started to decrease , but also my grades begun dropping to lower ones. i was not conserned about it . i believed that\nwhitout even any effort i could know of and understand all of the contents of my school text books enough to show great improvement in my grades. why? because i thought to be a genious.^^ for me that had those thoughts, my father said,"james, we are youg only once.nobody can , without any effors,passion,and will,make his or her aim and drean come true.". but, never could i believe his advise in those days as he graduated from only elementry school. and , now i think i was wrong . am i late to restart all the things of my life ?
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First of all you need to use check spelling. Next, it's never to late tostart over. Youcan't undo or redo your past, but you can go on from the here and now.
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I feel qualified to answer that,,,,,,,,,,,\nWhen I graduated from High school and only with what could be considered average grades (no scholarship to Yale in the mail), when my dad made it quite clear that I had until the end of summer to find a place of my own ("I've raised you, now do something with your life") looking around our small town in western Oregon the opportunity's seemed to be restricted to pumping gas or pulling on a green chain. Nether of which really excited me. Checking with the Air Force recruiter on a fine summer morning much to my surprise I score quite well on their little test (guess it helped knowing the difference between a screwdriver and a crescent wrench) So off I went to a one full year long tech school where I received an education that has served me well all through my adult life. Would I suggest the same to others???? ABSOLUTELY
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PLease whatever you do DO NOT DROP OUT OF SCHOOL!!!! From a woman who is struggling herself, i envy you that you are in high school and still have a chance to make it. I understand that thngs are tough right now, but it will pay off. You have to sacrifice a few things to make it in this world. Dropping out of school is not an option and you will regret it for the rest of your life. You will not get these years back. I was sitting on the bus and watched the high school kids going to school and i almost wanted to cry. I cannot go back in time and fix what I did. If i knew then what I know now, I would have been in the front of the class, front and center, on time and did extra work on my projects. Then maybe i could have gone to Princeton or something. if you do this, you will be having to play catch up all of your life. Your situation is just hard now, NOW. it will not be the same tomorrow. Would you really want to ruin your life because of a small obstacle now. Please think about this. I had to do some regrettable things in my life and dropping out was one of them. I played catch up and i am 23 and still struggling while i have a friend who is 25 and is already working on his Masters degree at LIU. I envy him so much and it makes me look at my life. I have an Associates degree and am planning on "trying" to get my Bachelors one day, hopefully soon, but all of the struggles i had to overcome are unimaginable. The shame hurts more. So please, while you are still young and have a chance to be somebody, stay in school and do your best with what you have. If not for your family, for ME or anyone, but do it for yourself. I would hope that you do become successful and live a life free of worries. Make the right decision and stay in school.
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i think so. as a student with a parent thast cares for my grades and me i look at others and wonder the same thing. nowadays more and more highschoolers are becomeing parents and then they drop out, find an hourly-pay job, and just hope that their child does better than them. they dont care because their parents were high school drop outs and didnt care about them.
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Do you live in an area where you can get schoolarship, grant or free money if you have a high GPA? Motiviation for me is in the form of some pay-off. I have to know at the end of a long journey there is going to be a reprieve. So maybe you could set little goals/rewards for yourself. There must always be something to look forward to. We are all alike in that manner. Studying more won't make you rich necessarily, but it will make you successful. When we study too much, work too much, etc, we can reach burn out fast. We must allow ourselves time to rest, catch our breath and then give ourselves incentives to move ahead. Anyone can give up, lay down, refuse to move forward. It takes a driven person to continue on. You know which of the two you are. Best of luck and much success.
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I think the more parents get involved, the better. However it would be a positive involvement like they shouldn't force their children or be strict with them about studies. I have finished my studies and I can remember that from the day one till my last day I used to tell each and everything about my school and studies to my both parents because they were never strict. In fact in my exams they used to say that I should not take exams as a matter of life and death and keep myself happy because happiness matters more than good grades. Even if I got bad grade they would say that its OK I can do better if future. They have always encouraged me
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Nobody ever feels like they're good enough for anything. Even the top students at my school don't feel like they're good enough. The important thing is to study.  "What you do is always more important than what you should be doing" -forgot the author's name. Don't worry. Life always works out somehow.
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just posted this in another question but it works here too.\n\n girl asked her dad if she was a dem or rep. He says ok well you work really hard in school and you get good grades right. Yes. Well You know how Stacy doesnt work very hard and sometimes she is real close to passing but fails by a little. Yes. Well since you have a 4.0 and she has a 1.9 why dont you give her a little of your gpa so she can have a 2.0 and you will have 3.9 you still pass and she passes too everyone is happy. She says thats not fair I worked for that grade. Then you are a Republican\n\nwell this is what it is supposed to be but today there is no real conservatives in govt the entire country fell left.
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I'm having a hard problem understanding why you did not know he was failing long ago. Was there no communications from the teacher? Did you ever see a report card? Your son may have been lying about his grades because he was embarrassed and ashamed. You may be thinking that your harsh punishment of him is because of lying, but he thinks it's because of the grades. For our children to succeed in school, they need our daily help and involvement. So I ask again, where have you been all this time that your son was failing? What are you doing now to help him succeed and rediscover his love of learning that obviously has been lost somewhere along the way? All your harsh punishment will teach him is that in the future he'll have to figure out how to lie better. I would suggest some family counseling, because I think you are off-track in how you are handling your son and it's only going to get worse when he hits puberty, any second now.
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I agree with "WannaRide.." but only because I flunked 9th grade due to poor teaching.  When I was a senior I was a year or two older than most of my classmates.  Here's where I may be different than you: my classmates respected me because I was trying to pass my grades. But I knew a guy who never studied at all even when others in the class begged him to.  He graduated--near the bottom of the class.  But, he decided to make something of his life and joined the ARMY. He went to Afghanistan and shot some terroists.  He made good in his ARMY life what he messed up in school.  The choice is yours ultimately.  The better your grades, the better the chance that people will hire you.
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I am not close to being an expert, but let me just say this. I am 35 and I am a single mother of three kids. I have a fifteen year old, a six year and a four year old. So I have only two of them in school right now.\n\nMy 15 year old son is on honor roll and my six year old daughter just received high honors. \n\nI am not bregging but only trying to paint a picture. I do not force any kind of studying habits. I think my success has been mostly more about how I raise and communicate with them.\n\nGrowing up I have never talked baby talk with any of them and they all talked exceptionally well when they were little. So well to the point people would always ask how does you little girl or boy talk so well, they are using sentences and they are so tiny.\n\nMy son has told me that the reason everything comes so easy to him is because half of the things he studys in school are things that I have included in everyday conversation with him so he already knows about it and it gives him the opportunity to participate in conversation in class and it makes him strive more when he knows about it and the teacher is impressed.\n\nIf my kids have a question while watching tv I answer it and bring up other things in relation. If they don't want to watch the news I don't have a problem with that, I watch and telll them later about all the things that are going on.\n\nMy son told me at school for his graduation they played a movie they made of all the major news and events that happened in the past decade and when they showed things like Tim Mcvey, Jon Bonet or even the last space shuttle that blew up and he said that after the movie his friends were saying they didn't even know who or what half the things in the video were.\n\nMy son's comment was "Don't these kids parents talk to them?"
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I actually have a big problem when it comes to school myself. Im actually very intelligent, (sorry for flaunting it hehe)  but I have a problem with work ethic. As a result, my grades are suffering and Im underachieving tremendously. I gathered from this rather qucikly that school is what you make it...and getting good grades seriously enhances the overall experience.\n\nSo I would say grow a pair and study/do homework..believe me, life is alot easier when you get good grades
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Hi Swifty\n\ni was in the same boat..But I roughed it out. I know that some of the thing being taught to you now....75% you will for get or never use in your lifetime.\n\nBut....If you wish to life a good life and a good future......stick it out....trust me.\n\nNow That I am an adult ...I love to learn..I will die learning.\n\nLife is the ultimate test the you will ever endure. There are no text books or manuals. But you Will live and learn by your actions in life.\n\nMake learning fun...look where you are at now.\n\nHere in Answers you can learn...give advice....or vent if you choose to to so.\n\nI have graduated....I have a University Degree....and I am still learning....you will never stop learning.\n\nThe easiest thing you can ever do in life is give up....takes no effort...or no hard decision making.\n\nBut in life my Friend...you sacrifice nothing...you gain nothing. \n\nMake an effort to rough it out...you will be happy you did...trust me! If you do not have at hate very least a High school Diploma...no employer will even con cider hiring you.\n\n\nDo you want a good future or work at MC Donald's for $8.00/hr...The balls is in your hands now.....SHOOT !
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I am a pesky parent. my 21yr old lives any from home and goes to college and I still talk to her about her grades.She knows that I only want the best for her and that I am concerned and love about her.If I didn't pester her,she would think I didn't care.She says she loves me for doing it[even tho sometimes I am a pesky parent]She wouldn't have it any other way!!!p.s.I hope the answer you got from brnbrn3 was a joke even tho it was not funny. Ihave a 17yr old grand daughter who ran away on nov 21 2005,we haven't heard from her yet!!! An update incase you were wondering or praying for us.They found my 17yr old grand daughter on Monday Jan 9 2006.She is fine other than the fact that she has really messed up her life.She had big plans to go to college now she has missed so much school this year ,she can't even graduate.She was a straight A student  Senior year.She now sits in detention awaiting her day in court to see what the judge is going to do with her.So don't run away,and someday when you are sucessful, you will love your pesky parent as much as my daughter loves me.and someday hopfully my granddaugher will ,too!!!
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hey man, i know what it can be like to have a mom and dad that aren't around for you to set examples for you in life. When i think about when i used to live with my mom and dad the only thing i think of is "what doesent kill you, makes you stronger" but ofcource everyone situation is different. my advice would be to talk to one of your close family members if you have one, if not, a school counselor and go from there. good luck in life man and keep kicking ass in school... its the key to success!
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First and foremost, I must say that I applaud you for standing up for someone who you feel is being wronged. So what if she's " kinda big?" If God wanted everyone to be alike, then he would have made us that way. I also want to tell you that I had some hard times attending high school myself because no matter what you do, people are going to be just people. I was known as the "goody two-shoes" girl, but at least I wasn't bullying anybody, and I was able to get good grades. Grades that have put me where I am today. If you do as some people on here has suggested, and be a "goody-two shoes", then people will hate you for being good, and if you're stuck up and snobbish, then they will hate you for that also. Just be YOURSELF!! As long as when you get up in the morning and can still face yourself in the mirror, then you know that you are doing something right. And, I hate to say it, but this is just a growing process that we all must go through at some point in our lives. It sucks, I know, but in the end, at least you'll feel better for going through it, and being the victor!!
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No!  Don't give up.  My parents worked so hard all their lives to raise us.  My mom used to stare with longing at the Ed McMahon's sweepstakes, you know?  And I promised myself that one day she's get that house.  I watched mom work herself into a comma.  Dad sometimes worked two or even three jobs to feed all of us.  But when it was my turn, God allowed me to do for them what they did for me.  My mom's got that house and it's nicer than the ones in those magazines...lol.  Please just work hard, make excellent grades and give them their rest when it's your turn.  One day you'll be making lots of money and you will do what's right.  Just remember that every time it gets hard.  They are working for the family, not just for  you.  It's what families are all about.\n\nArena