I hate my son because his is so attached to his dad who is my husband. Everything he wants daddy has to do it. I can't ever get to do anything for him. Just because I spank him constantly beacause he is mean, doesn't mean he has to run to daddy. His dad puts him to sleep, plays with him ,and everyhting else. Who agrees that my son needs to get over daddy and come to mommy?
130837
I think you are having a laugh and trying to wind everybody up...and succeeding too
156926
You and your husband are separating because you couldn't get along being married to each other, so there shouldn't be any problems now. You sound like you may be a little bitter, get over the fact that he has a new female friend. It was bound to happen, unfortunately it was a lot sooner than you would have liked. Learn to get along with your ex for the sake of your son, he is the only person that should matter to both of you in this situation. Don't let your anger or hurt of him having a new female friend get in your way of good parenting. If you have concerns that your son may be confused about daddy's new friend you should discuss this calmly with your ex-husband about how the two of you should approach this with him. Let him know your thoughts and concerns about how this may affect your son. Also, if him having someone else is upsetting your feelings don't be afraid to be honest with him about that. Let him know that this is not easy for you, but that you are trying and would appreciate him acknowledging your feelings during this difficult time. If the two of you can learn to get along it will make for a healthy and happy life for your son and eventually for you too. Good luck to you through this difficult time.
192179
He is a jerk and you did the right thing. Your kids should be your number one priority. I have 4 and they are the world to me. You are not the bad guy. The next thing he will do is try to get you to feel sorry for him to make you go back to him. Don't do it!
519308
I am a step mom to my husbands three children and he to my 3 children.  We both felt that when we married the other would have that right.  We each feel that if done in a proper way that the other should have that right.  We went thru the you are not my mom or dad things and that's ok but in the end what ever punishment was handed out was still there.  I do so because I want them to turn out to be responsible adults.  That's how we learn in life is by the punishments and rules in life are handed down by our parents and weather they are biological parents you will find rules suck but they have to be followed.  That's what works for us. I am mainly the one at home most with our last son at home so even though I am his step mom I punish more than his dad.  He does not like it sometimes but does abide by what I say.  Wish you lots of luck sweety!
624138
I am married and pregnant with another man's baby.  I was separated from my husband for 5 months before I got pregnant with my boyfriends baby.  My ex (soon to be ex-husband) still wants me sometimes too.  He said that if he got the chance to have his family back, he would in a heartbeat, even if he had to help raise another man's baby.  BUT......I don't feel right about that.  I should have never married my hubby because I didn't love him enough, and we were pressured because we already had one little girl together a year before we got married, so we went a head and did it.  Now, I have two little girls, already, and one more little girl on the way.  Yeah, i messed up, maybe if i would've given it a little more time after the separation, me and the ex could've worked things out, but I wanted to move on with my life with this other man.  But, anyways, the point is,,,,,,,, i am currently in this situation, and I choose to not go back to my ex husband because I have ruined everything that we could have had together.  I am still in love with my new baby's daddy, but he couldn't handle the situation, either, so we broke up.  So, make the decision that's right for you.  You are the only one that knows your whole situation. Good luck!     Praying a lot helps too!
507457
my dad did the same thing to me though i never cared\nhow could i, i was one.  what you do is go to court and\nmake him have time with his son. it sickens me when i\nhear a father abandoning his responsibilities and if that\ndoesn't work try becoming a father figure so whwn he does\ncome back he'll be jealous and want to be there for his son
309147
Did you ever tell him how deeply you were hurt by it? If not, maybe that's the reason why. You probably kept a lot of pain inside and never confronted or forgave him. Also, I go through this, when you look at your child, you are always reminded of the times, the good and the bad,  you had to go through with their father as they are growing because your child is product of you and her father. I would tell him how you feel, forgive, and let go. God blessed you with a great marriage.
518170
When I left my first husband, he chose to punish me by refusing to visit our son. Our son is 22 and his dad hasn't seen him since he was 18 months old. You can't force the dad to suddenly becaome a good person when he isn't, but you can affect your son psychologically by how you deal with it.  I guarantee your son doesn't care about the paperwork. If there is a man who is treating him like a son, that's good enough for a healthy self-image. Even if there isn't, you can keep him healthy if you keep a healthy attitude yourself. Be very careful that signing over parental rights isn't about YOU punishing your ex.
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It depends on how old your son is.You need to be very honest with your son about his father without sounding condescending.Make sure that you are being truthful but not mean.You have your own feelings about your man and so should your son.When you do decide to let them spend time together supervise.Make sure that all of you are on the same page and understand the roles you are all playing.Good luck
639843
That's the saddest thing i've ever heard. I'm sorry to tell you this, but your life is at risk. I know you love him, and you think he will change. He won't. People who are like that won't ever change. He needs to go to anger management or something to help him deal with his problems.Think about you and the baby. You can't be with him. Once the baby gets older, what if he hits the boy too? now both of you will be hurt.  Talk to a family member. Talk to somebody. But I warn you, don't talk to him about anger managment or something alone. Have a few friends there, so that he can't hit you, and if he does, then you're friends can help you. You may love him, but you can't love sombody who doesn't love you. Think about that. Take my advice.\n\nYou have my sympothy\nand my prayers\nGood luck,\nbe safe\nand be happy.
362304
Wow this is one for the books.Don't they realize how they are hurting your children and there very own son.does your husband have brothers & sisters.If he does he should try getting in there good grace.The way they are treating you after loseing your baby I really don't know why you would want anything to do with them.It was their grand child. Good kuck,but I think you should move on with your own family.
256190
I think it is probably your son is not close to you before and he has no one to turn to for love. Hence some teenagers find love in the wrong place. It is already proven that family history affects a person's choice of partner.\n\nI believe you should take some time to bond with your child, no matter what it takes, and no matter what happens I believe you can forgive him for what he has done to you. Hurting it is but you need to start now by being part of his life and helping him, letting him know that you support him. I believe lectures and scolding will not help, this will drive the distance further between you two.\n\nYou need to find time and activities to spend together to build up the relationship, it may or may not be immediate, but I believe he will be touched by your unconditional love one day.
556610
I agree with you.  If a parent (mother or father) uses the child to get to the other parent the child will only end up resenting that parent.  I am a single parent and I do not do this.  I will admit that it is difficult not to talk bad about the other parent at time.  I do my best to let my children make their own opinions of their father.  If I need to say something against him I make sure they are not in the room.  My ex husband badmouthed his ex wife in front of his kids daily.  They did not turn against her but against him.  We all need to be careful and thoughtful of our children.  They need to come first - not ourselves or our revenge. \nGood point to make with this question.
302713
that's a rough one.  i hate to say it, but you should probably be more understanding... they are his kids.  or talk to him about their discipline problems.  he's their dad so he should play the 'bad guy', not you.\n\nand it's really a problem if they are rubbing off on your son.  talk to your BF and tell him that he needs to stop making excuses for them and start handing out the discipline.  be patient with him... it'll take time for him to step up and get use to his new role as the discipliner.
142356
My heart goes out to you. I unfortunately have learned to live with the same type situation. Your daughter in law is probably suffering from low self esteem among other things and is probably really making things hard for your son as well. I have discovered that the sweet girl that I thought would be prefect for my son is the terror I hoped he would never have to deal with.  My daughter in law not only tries to manipulate my sons family life, but his work and social life as well. More than likely your son is going through the same thing. I dont recommend apologizing for things you didnt do though. She will try to manipulate you and your son forever, all we do is bite our tongues and let our son know that we love him, no matter what. We just pray one day he will take the upper hand and let her know that it is not OK to treat his family like she does.  (She also withholds our 3yr old granddaughter from us). Good luck to you, I know how painful this situation is.
373720
Do you have children? It would be much harder to see my son suffer than suffer myself.
142077
Hmmmm...tough question.  Have you confronted him about the problem and given him the chance to straighten up?  If you haven't then I'd say that you need to confront him straight up with the facts, nothing more.  Anger won't help to do anything but give him the evidence he needs to secure his argument.  If you have talked about it before, I'd say it's time to split.  I realize that your son will have trouble with that, but if you want to, you can arrange for some kind of visitation, so his "daddy" isnt suddenly gone from his life.  That way, the two of them can still have their "playtime" but at the same time the constant aggrivation and anger.