I am a young single mother of two and I stuggle everyday to get by. I am always depressed! I feel lonely because who is going to what to be with me when I have two kids! I work full-time so that I can support us and even then I have to be on welfare. I would get another job so that I didn't have to stuggle for money but then I would never see my kids. All I want is to be happy but it's hard.
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I was once in that same situation.  First of all you must get your priorities in order (YOUR KIDS).  I wanted to date,so I got my kids on a good schedule.  I focused on them being asleep by 8:00 at night.  When I was successful, that is the time I accepted company.  Whoever you choose will probably be with you.  Don't put that on the kids because a good man will not care if you have kids. I found that if you start the kids' day early, let them outside for some real playtime, give them a good meal(come in from work and cook or start precooking meals), wash them up, then put them to bed (I let them think that they could watch cartoons in bed, it took 5-10 and they were sleep)....They will go to sleep. Be choosey!!! Because you don't want just anyone around your kids.  Working is good.  This means that you can take care of yourself. If the first man you choose is wrong....HOLLER "NEXT"....and keep going until you meet one that you can work with.  You'll be surprised.  (Meanwhile, try to network with another mother that's in the same situation or a smart teenage babysitter or a family member if you can.  Get out of the house sometimes....save a few dollars to pay if you can....BUT ALWAYS WORK ON THAT FIRST THING!!!
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I would say its not all that good because kids start feeling very lonely. When their mom starts working she has less time for her kids and they begin to act up so they can get thier moms attention. The best thing you can d o is find a goos time to spend with them and dont ever ignore them just cause your tired.
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Well, yes, I am a depression survivor.  I did not conquer it so much as just learn to deal with it.  I know I am vulnerable to depression.  I know it doesn't take much and that I am one to dwell on things and also to sulk and mope.  I am also a more introverted person and need my space, so for me, going out and partying would not help!  \n But I did learn that moping and staying home and not dealing with things is also very bad, probably the worst thing you can do.  \n\nIf you need time alone, you should take it, but make sure you are doing something productive or something you enjoy.  I need to do something creative usually.  If you do nothing, you will probably just feel worse.  \n\n    Getting exercise, doing a project, really helps.  For me, I like to cook, bake, or do crafts.  I like to read too, but I find too much sitting gets me in a bad mood, I will feel guilty if I just sit around and read all day, so I only read before bed now.  I make sure I get things done that I need to so that they do not pile up and overwhelm me. I try to keep things tidy and stop clutter from piling up, clutter is an energy-sapper.  I'm not really good at getting rid of clutter, luckily my husband helps a lot with this.  \n\nI take medication too.  I am pretty good right now.  I only see a psychiatrist once every 6 months, where he will do a med check and decide if he needs to make any adjustments.  If I feel worse in the meantime, all I have to do is call and I can get in right away.  He told me since I had depression most of my life, I will probably always need some medication.  \n  I just accepted that it's part of my personality.  (maybe somewhat my upbringing, and that I developed unhealthy ways of dealing with problems and of relating to people)  I don't want to become unable to function again.  I don't want to feel bad minute of every day.  I try to be proactive about it and nip the problems in the bud.  I work on things before they get out of control.  \n  At this point, you need help right away.  You need to get to a doctor, get to a therapist.   If you have been seing a doctor, talk to him and let him know you are not improving.  He should be able to come up with some ideas on what you need to change.  Get a new therapist.  counseling helps, but you have to be able to work with the person you are in therapy with.  You have to be able to communicate with them and tell them what is working and what isn't.  That is different for everyone.  You might have to change therapists a lot until you get one that "fits" with you and how you like to solve problems, and go about your mental healing.\n  Good luck and keep trying!
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yes i do very often. i'm a single child and i'm 18. i feel lonely even when there are people around. i think it's a psychological problem. but i always get over it. i try to find something to do to keep me busy like reading, renting a movie, painting or chatting with people on the net. with time i got used to loneliness and now when i'm surrounded by a lot of people for a long time i feel ill at ease coz i ended up liking loneliness actually.. loneliness can be good or bad. it depends how peopl react to it...
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i constantly feel d same way.. boredom @ work, feeling that i'll never grow & i'll just grow old working d same thing over & over agen..\n\nhowever, like u, its also difficult 2 find another job here. i've tried 2 many things like bayt.com, etc etc but nothing came up. its like this is my fate\n\nso whenever that depression comes 2 mind, i try 2 divert my thoughts on gud things.. like being able 2 support myself & my family w/this job.\n\nmy job might not b so gud & really out of my line but im proud 2 say that its an honest earning & im still financially luckier compared 2 most of my frends here..\n\nso dont ever think of quitting not unless ur financially stable or if u have somebody 2 depend on. very few people r happy & satisfied w/their jobs so dont take that risk..\n\ngo & try posting ur CV on d net & who knows, opportunities might just pop in when u least expect it..\n\ndont lose hope but 4 d meantym, always think positive..
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Ya wanna hear something goofy? When I was a teenager, I felt just like you! I would wish to god I was a Siamese twin, just so I wouldn't feel so alone. It is hard to explain, I wasn't really lonely cause I had lots of friends and people who loved me, it's more a feeling that all of them and the whole human race belonged to this,(something) what ever it was except me! I could be in a room full of people yet feel all alone. Then one day I started asking myself: WHAT DO I WANT? As I lay in my dark bed   crying myself to sleep, I would ask: WHAT DO I WANT RIGHT NOW? WHAT WOULD MAKE ME FEEL AND FILL THE VOID IN ME? Perhaps something that would make me a part of something! Well I don't really know what to tell you except I volunteered for a suicide hot line, I served underprivileged children dinners, I  worked at a mission, helping the homeless, I sat with the elderly etc. and as time passed, the awful feeling of being alone gradually went away! That was quite a few years ago and I haven't felt that way since. I don't know what happened, but what ever it was, it sure worked for me. Maybe it will work for you too! Good Luck!
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Look, I am a fourteen year old kid and i have also had a pretty rough year, but let me tell you something, do not give up. This past year has been a struggle for me and my family, but once we found out the problems i was having, we were able to find the proper doctors and medication. I know that it seems tough right now, but you have to hang in there. Nothing is going to happen over night, but if you work hard anything is possible. Please trust me, if I could overcome my problems I am sure you can. As far as your job goes, you will have to make the choice whether or not to go back to school or live with what you have. Maybe it would be a good idea to go see a physiologist or psychiatrist to help work out your problems. Whatever you do, don't eat bad food just because you are depressed, or upset with something. Just say no to junk food. I also suggest that you spend more time with your son. Just remember that he will only be a baby once, so don't spoil that. No matter what always find time for you and your family. Bring your kid to the park or read books with him and always encourage him to do better. Never discourage him or ignore him, that will just make him feel bad, trust me I have a five year old brother. One day soon, sit down with your husband and discuss with him what you think the two of you should do in the future. I hope all of this helps and I wish you the best of luck.
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Wow, I feel for you.  Sounds like you are in the middle of things.  Everything.  I bet all you want is to be happy , and a kid.  Right!\n\nLife isn't fair, and I think you are finding this out early in life.  Do you keep a journal?  Do you see a counsellor?  You need to vent.  \n\nYour parents should not involve you.  You need to stand up for yourself and be honest and tell it as 'you feel it'.  If you want to see both, see both.  See the judge on your own.  Don't listen to all their problems, and mention that you are a young person and don't need all this weight on your shoulders honey.\n\nYou can email me.  I would listen to you.\nluv Ava
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Your isolating yourself aren't you? Yes your pain is real,we all suffer in life ,but these are lessons, to learn how to live for the better. Have you received counseling for the abuse? And living in 8 foster homes was no picnic either , I know i have two brothers i took in and although I'm not related they are my kids. They have suffered greatly also, but slowly but surely they are moving on in life. Now another thing you probably have is the feeling that theres really no one out there for you. That's just not true, hun I wouldn't be here typing this letter to you if I didn't care. Neither would any of these other people. If you would like to talk some more just ask I will talk , I will listen, and I will feel what ever your experiencing and I will give it my best shot to walk through the misery you are experiencing at any given moment. I'm a mom, and yes of 8 of my own biological children, but my heart has room for more, so you decide if u want to contact me, just dont feel alone reach out to some one ,ok you are cared about know that, its a start to healing and gaining some kind of self esteem.
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First of all, what are you doing relying on your parents if you have teenage daughters??  By all means I was not a perfect child but, bu time I was your childrens age, I didn't rely on my parents for squat except for a roof over my head and food.  Stop exausting your efforts on relying on other people and asking for help over the internet and rely in yourself.  If you want a job, there are plenty of them out there...  I lived in Santa Barbara so don't tell me there isn't.  See what "truth"?  What does this mean?  Call me your "angel" and I've heard your "cry", only it sounds more like excuses and moaning.  Stop blaming others for your problems and make some changed in your lives.  Where are your daughters?  Living in the street too?  Don't you think there is something wrong when you bear children and aren't able to take care of them properly.  Hell, I may not know anything about this, I'm only 24 years old...  I know shit happens and I feel for your perdiciment but, you need to make soemthing for yourselves, it's out there, you just have to find it and want it bad enough.  Good luck and God Bless.
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Just reading your question you sound like a wonderful person..first you gave up a good job but your priority was your baby (who you love more than life itself) and your husband is happy with you and your kids love you..couple of questions?..has it been very long since you had your baby?..could you be suffering from post-partum depression?..Could you just be depressed?..Please talk with your doctor about your concerns..So much about our lives today are busy and as women we are caregivers. We ignore our needs. Your feelings   and thoughts may be a chemical imbalance in your brain (you have no control of) often just talking with a mental health clinician can help you pinpoint why you have those feelings and how to re-direct them or change your focus..Be happy (I know how simple this sounds) Sometimes the money becomes the focus and it doesn't let you see how important your family and your life is..I wish you the very best.. Let this new move be a new start for you and your family..sounds exciting but busy...
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Ok, to point out a few things that are 'clues' in your litter paragraph...\n\n' I really like it this way' / 'I feel unhappy everyday' - You can't do both.  You either like to be a loner and are unhappy because you have a husband, or want to have more of a social life and are unhappy because you mostly only have a cat.\n\n'I was worse before I got a kitten' - suggesting you need social interaction.\n\n' I don't have any friends, or family in this state' The fact that you're even mentioning this seems to indicate that you know, deep down, that you need more social interaction.  Go on a double date w/ your husband and some people from one of your two's work, that's my advice.
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Do you know any other young wives and mothers in the neighborhood? If you do, why not hang out with them. If you don't, then introduce yourself.  Plan outings and fun things to do. You don't have to stay home 24/7. Do something nice for yourself. Do you have family nearby? See if you can get a family member to babysit for a few hours so that you can go out and enjoy yourself, pamper yourself!!!! I hope that things will get better for you. I know what it feels like. Sometimes we are so busy taking care of everybody else that we forget about ourselves.
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I was out of work for a while and it was awful. I was so broke and so bored. I hope you will find something soon. Just don't give up and start hanging out. That is the slow road to more unhappiness.
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im 23 and i have a son in 1st grade. im in college, work, and me and my son live on our own. i get lonely. i have almost no friends because im so picky about who i share my personal info and feelings with and who my son is around and the people that i associate with. but when ever i think about being in a relationship i look at the entire picture and i see myself alone with another child and debt or something like my husband cheating or just negative stuff, i call that my birth control since im not doing anything.\n\nim stopping there before i fill up the entire page and i would like to say i would really enjoy being yahoo buddies and chatting about all types of things, because i know those lonely feelings.
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It sounds to me that you are being selfish and you seem to have every right to be. It ain't easy out there on your own. You'll need a job to pay rent and buy food, try to share with someone and go halfs on everthing. Loneliness is a problem when you leave home, don't get into a bad relationship and get pregnant. That will double your problems. You have to do this, if you don't you will regret it all your life but ... Try not to piss your family off. You may find that it is worse out on yor own and want to go back. Take as little as possible so that they think that you will be back and expect you back. Leave a separate note to your Mum and sister, DON'T CRITICISE THEM, just say that you feel that you think that you are ready to go it alone and you have to try it. They are going to go nuts when you phone them, they will tell you that you are too young, to inexperienced, too stupid etc. Just say "Ok You may be right but I need to find out for myself"\n\nGood luck! You're going to need it.
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I have several suggestions. 1) Go to the doctor and explain how you are feeling and see if they will prescribe an anti-depressant to help you get through this. Being on anti-depressants does not mean you are crazy.  It means there is a chemical imbalance in your brain and the medication will even out the imbalance allowing you to function normally again. 2) Seek out a counselor.  If you have insurance start there.  If you do not, contact the local mental health clinic and request reduced fees.  There are multiple agencies that offer counsling and are willing to base your fee on your income.  3) Pretend that you are not depressed. This one is the hardest as far as I am concerned but it really does work.  Been there, done that!  I'd also like to add that I have a Master's degree in Social Work and deal with these issues everyday for many people. So my advice comes from years of practice.  Good Luck and please try one or all of these.  Your children need you!!!