i broke up with my gf 3 months ago.im getting depressed .she left me 4 other guy .he is not good 4 her.cuz he is uneducated .she dosent understand it .talks rudely to me.i have neary commited suicide.i cant sleep buy cry whole night long.i love her very much.i cant understand wat to do.i always feel no one supports me.cuz she was my only friend.wat shall i do?
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well get help bcuz she is not worth your tears have u ever heard that saying "dont cry over anyone who sont cry over you" well yeah and she doesnt deserve you so its best to move on and find a new relationship \ni know its not what you want to hear and i mean I KNOW ivd been thru that situation and i moved on well im still on that but just try God Bless
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been there done that. I no excactly how you feel, I had the same thing happen to me with this dude. we kissed and every thing. its a weird situation. since she doesn't talk that much then ask her if you're offically going out. then latter tell her that you don't want her to call you so often. stick with her, once shes gone you'll feel realy bad like I did when I let him go. enjoy every phyisical action she does, it gets better and better. I used to not think about the dude that was with me and we went for a long time. you'll realy miss her if you leave her. I did.
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By doing this makes you a stronger man...you did good by leaving her alone...it is hard when you have been in love, then it's all over, it hurts immensely and life seems pointless at that stage, give yourself some healing time...it's natural to feel the way you feel...by ignoring her and not staying in contact is a good way to go...as much as it hurts you are proving to yourself that you can move on, despite the hurt and heartache...good man...at least your not hassling her with calls and constantly on her case...never call yourself a coward, you are no where near to being a coward...your doing the right thing...you are saving your feelings from being hurt further and you are also respecting your ex by letting her get on with her life...there should be more out there like you...stay with it and focus on other things to ease your pain, it's hard not to see or hear about her new fella but there's no other way to tackle this...lets know how you get on in a months time...the pain won't be as intense as it is now...bless you....x
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Aww, this reminds me of My friend Lauren and I. We got together, she loved me, I love her, but outside pressures made it very hard for me to cope with Us. I understand where  your girl is coming from and I also understand where you are coming from. You can't make someone stay if they don't want to. And you shouldn't try if you see that they aren't happy. Especially if it starts to make you unhappy. I would suggest letting her do what she wants. Let her know that you care for her and want her to be happy and that you are there for her but draw the line somewhere. Let her know that she does hurt your feelings by doing these things and let her know that she can't be so flippant and careless. Lauren and I are good friends now and sometimes I look at her and feel a pang, but I know that we would have both been miserable if we stayed together with all the problems we were having. Sometimes its better to let something go to keep a friendship than to draw out a love affair and have it end in hatred...Oh yeah, I think that she should take some time to figure herself out without any outside influences from you or other guys or girls. The hardest thing to do is to truly know and love yourself. You are always your own worst critic....Good Luck!
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Dude I just went through this same exact thing.  Your only missing her cause she was there for you and now theres no one.  I took her back after she tried the new guy, and two weeks later, she dumps me for other guy she just broke up with.  I wasnt hurt cause I knew it could happen so I didnt let myself get too involved.  But my advice, just move on, find someone new to love, there more fun, and you dont have to worry about her going back for the other guy.  She already left you once, dont let her walk all over you.  Hope this helps.
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I cant even begin to imagine how you are feeling.  I know you want to follow her but would SHE want that?  I can bank that it is no.  You need to seek therapy.  You are very depressed right now.  While thats normal, you need the help to ensure you dont do anything stupid.  The pain you are going through is probably the worst you have ever felt in your life.  Take it one day at a time.  If that doesnt help, take it one minute at a time.  Talk to people.  Let them know how you are feeling just like you did here.  Never let yourself be alone right now.  But do greive her death.  Thats healthy.  You will be fine and every day it does get a little easier.  I have lost 3 kids and 3 sisters and my dad so I can relate a little.  Know that you have a friend here and you are not alone.
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Oh, i am very sorry. Sometimes, to maintain a realationship is very difficult especially when u are abroad. You can try to participate in your favourite hobby or concentrate on your studies. U can try to start a new relationship as u will have a partner to support you. Always look for those who love and care for you and sometimes telling to another person will help too. Or you can try to have a gathering with some good friends and dun ever think it is because of ur look that she dumped you. Built up your self-confidence and estemn. I hope you live life to your fullest.
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Sounds like your girlfriend isn't really in a "fun" mood right now, friend. Honestly, just be there for her. There is nothing you can say or do to help her get over such serious traumas, so always be ready to lend an ear or a hand. I promise this is help you guys get closer, and by the time she's ready to move on with her life, you'll have a better relationship than you would have without any og this.
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Hey boy wonder , You're so cute I am sure you won't be lonely too long . I wish you would think of me ! I am sorry just teasing you . I know it is hard for you right now , But you have to remember that you broke up with him for a reason . Keep your chin up and remember that you are a special and unique individual , You have much to offer and a lot to give the right guy who will appreciate and love you for all you are , and all that you have to offer . Call friends and go out to dinner , see a movie , start a project , or take up a hobby  , volunteer someplace that needs your special talents . The truth of the matter is , No matter what advice anyone has for you it will be hard and you ultimately have to work it out on your own . Just make sure you have a good friends shoulder to cry on or ear to bend when you need it . Best of luck to you .
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I'm really sorry to say it, but he's got someone else.  Please do yourself a favor and cut him loose completely.  Do NOT let him know how hurt you are - he will just use those feelings against you while he strings you and this other girl along.  It will hurt a lot, but please know that you deserve better and no matter how bad it looks/feels now, someone better WILL come along.  You may not think you will last long without him, but trust me, you will.  Just take it one day at a time.  Don't be afraid to lean on your friends.  Cry it out.  Do whatever you have to do, but do not go back to him.  There are good guys out there.  You will find one.  Just don't waste any more of your time on this guy, because he obviously does not love and respect you any longer.  Good luck and if you ever need anyone to talk to, I'm here (mytib1@yahoo.com).  Take care of yourself,\nWendy
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It doesn't sound like he was your everything if you were depressed even when you were around him. The best way to get over a guy is to let him go. Have one day where you cry and are depressed and eat cookie dough and let yoursself feel all the pain. He must not be your soul mate if he's treating you badly because your soul mate should never treat you badly. If you were constanly fighting, you weren't happy, and realtionships should make you happy. If sounds like you were simply codependant on this guy and you don't know what you're going to without him. It sounds like you need him and you need to realize that you don't. Hang out with your girl friends, reconnect with your family. Move on and stop sitting in your pity just because it's comfortable, you deserve to treat yourself better, and to find a person that will truly care for you.
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Man I feel your pain, been there done that.  Anyways, my tips for you.\n\n1)  NO CONTACT WITH YOUR EX!  Trust me on this one, until you are over your ex, you should have zero interaction with her.  \n\n2)  Workout.  Working out helps you release any chemicals in your body that carry depression.\n\n3)  Pick up a new activity or interest- when you learn something new, you gain confidence, which is something someone that just went through a breakup desperately needs.\n\n4)  Vent to friends until you can't anymore- and if your friends don't want to hear it, go to a counselor!\n\n5)  Pay attention to your hygiene and fashion sense- Give yourself a new look if needed.\n\nGood luck
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You will not find an easy answer here. I can't even begin to understand all the hurt you must feel, but you can make it through this. You need close friends to lean on and a lot of time to heal. You need to be able to express whatever you feel openly -- maybe even go see a counseler. It sounds like you've been through a lot and my heart goes out to you. Be strong, but don't bottle up your feelings. You will be okay.
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sorry 2 hear tht... yeah i saw ur other questions about ths guy b4. actually i also experienced ths kinda situation b4. at first, i was really good friend with ths grl & passed 2 funfull yrs until i found out tht i love her. and i had hint tht she loved me too. but other things came up i couldn't give her a chance 2 express herself. but whn i expressed myself, she rejected saying tht she never felt like ths towards me, which's a lie. also all on a sudden she hooked up with some1 else to take myself off her mind & replace me with him. the most shocking part is, being heartbroken i still tried to be her friend but slowly she made a distance between us & destroyed our beautiful friendship.\n\nmy point is, affection towards a friend happens all the time. but there r some issues involved regarding friendship, other ppl around u etc. as a friend, u were suppose 2 knw tht he already has a gf. but u didn't, which is not usual. so mayb he doesn't hav any gf & story of having a gf is the most reasonable way to dump u with hurting u less. and don't bother if he doesn't like u or not. if he didn't like u, u wouldn't be yur friend. but it can be true tht he's not feeling attracted 2 u as he told u. tht doesn't mean tht u r not attractive or he doesn't like u. there can be a lot of different reasons involved regarding friendship or something else.\n\nfrom my opinion, look into yur heart. if u think tht u really want him & u knw tht he has actually feelings for u thn stick 2gether & mayb someday things'll work out. but the downside is u donno if thts gonna happen. so there's a chance to get heartbroken again frm the same person for the same reason. on the other hand, continue being friend & move on, find another guy who understands u & doesn't hurt u like ths. but whtever happens, yur friendship wth ths guy will not gonna be same frm now on.\n\nhope ths works. feeling sorry 4 u!
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Its really fun....I'm going through the same thing myself...my girlfriend of 2 yrs called it off 3 days ago and I'm suck in the same predicament. I absolutely can relate to you because I'm afraid that I won't ever find someone that I care and love. Not to mention she was my first girlfriend. To make it worse she tells me that she doesn't really see a future with me even though she tells me she loves me. Anyways I just want to tell you that its ok and hopefully both of us will be ok in the future. I wish you luck and I feel your pain. Oh, and the Dr. Steve answer is not fair... I'm not a teenager and I'm going through this so to say that "its a meaningless relationship" is cruel.
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mmm thats sounds bad... but r u sure that yr gf left you? if yes than thats not good...just  try to relex.. it will be ok
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Dear Sobby, Your question lacks some information. I would need more info to answer honestly and effectively, like why did you break up? How long were you together, and how long have you been apart? But vaguely i can tell you that if you are sure she is not interested in you anymore then you should move on, There are plenty of "fish in the sea" and hurting your self will not accomplish anything but getting yourself hurt. It will not make her feel any different.  As far as concentrating on your studies, it is imparitive that you keep your thoughts on them as much as possible. If you fail at this it could cause a chain reaction in your life that will cause you to fail at other things, and will also make you feel like hurting yourself even more. You seem like an intelligent person, so you should act as you are and move on.  If she doesnt' want you, find someone else, Its not easy, but it gets easier with time.