well this guys i like asked me if I wanted to chill at the zoo.. so we went today.... just me and him... we talked and got to know each other better and stuff.... but I dont know what to do now ... Im not even sure if  this was a so called "date" cause the word never came out of his mouth the word "chill" did.... \nI dont know what to do next....\n\nI felt like I was on a date because he was asking me questions and talking about his life and stuff.... but im not tottally sure...\n\ncan u help
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In your case with that guy, you're still in the observation situation at this point because you're still looking forward of knowing him better, that's why you talk about life and stuffs like that more often... The best thing you could do right now is still observe his words and actions towards you because that will really help you to analyze what to do next... About going out in the zoo with him, I think your observation was right, it was a date, maybe he's just shy or hesitated to call it that way but it also means the same for him... Look forward in knowing him deeply and that's the best thing to do at this time and also talk about life and stuffs like both of you did before... Goodluck!
3590
If you asked me on a date, I would have made arrangements to make it a night that you would want to date me again.I think he was in shock, to be asked and just put some icing on your attempt to get him through that situation,which is very wrong...You need to ask him if he is joking you or not,and be straight forward with him...Whatever you do,don't wait around for the answer,because there are many men that will not turn you down...Unfortunately I would,because I am married to that girl that asked me out...lol
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Hey, I know the feeling. I know this guy name Kipp and this chick named Cassi who is one of my BFFz and she is always caught up in a love triangle and doesn't know what to do. I say meet this guy and be yourself. Think positive and hold life with a tight grip and loosen up occasionally. I would go up to the movies and be normal and just sit next to him and talk and crack jokes and stuff, but play it cool, don't look like a loser and trip over your own two feet like I did on a date. Good Luck, and I hope it goes well! Oh, and stay away from guys named Zach! By the way, My cat's name is Sherry Ann!! How ironic?!?!
61291
I'm not emailing you...sorry, I don't need any more friends but it sounds like your not even interested in this dude. Why would you even consider dating him if you don't even like him? Remind yourself why it didn't work out with you guys to begin with and just tell him your not interested anymore. Or if you think there might stillbe something there spend some time with him as a friend. No sex or kissing...really just friends for awhile.
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Wow four dudes, nice! go on a date with all of them, doesn't have to be dinner and stuff, could just be a lunch, get to know them, don't promise any of them anything and don't sleep with them, just keep it casual and get to know them till you decide which one you like the most..have fun :)
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A girl asking out a guy is not desperate, in fact it's a pretty common thing nowadays.  As for being hella scary, well, that part can't be denied.  It's always a frightening thing to put yourself out there when you are uncertain of what the response will be.  The feelings you have for him have nutured a hope, and should he decline, it would be the end of a very promising, very wonderful dream.  The thing is, as wonderful as having a crush is, it is even better when you have those feelings reciprocated.  And if one of you doesn't make a move, that may never happen.  From the sounds of what you say, it is very likely that he likes you too.  For all you know, he's on here right now asking what the best way to ask out this amazing girl is.  You won't know unless you talk to him.  \nIf you can work up the courage to ask him about this, you've got a lot of good things going for you. First, girls look damn cute when they're nervous, so even if you feel like you're talking like a monkey etc., he'll think its cute.  I know because I've had a couple of guys I managed to ask out tell me this very thing.  Second, if he wasn't interested before, your confidence and forwardness could very well instigate attraction.  Like I said, times are a changing, and a lot of guys like a girl who knows what she wants.  And last, I know it's scary, but you aren't going to seem desperate, you aren't going to seem pathetic, and if the worst happens and he doesn't want to pursue something more than friendship with you, well, he'll still feel flattered, and he'll still want to be your friend, and you'll know where you stand.\nI wouldn't be too scared though, seriously, from the sounds of it, he's just too scared to make a move, and he's just wishing that you would walk up to him and say " you know, i really like you..." so he can sweep you off your feet and you can live happily ever after!
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Haha!  It's good to be back - computer was down for a few days.  Well.. I'm not a guy, (obviously), but unless things go REALLY well on a date it's a turn-off when the guy is all over you.  You've got to conquer the gettin-to-know-you before you jump on that.  So if it's a REALLY good date then you did get to know each other and it's okay to fall into that animal instinct.  If you're like 99% of the guys out there then maybe it is a good idea to relieve your stress before the date.  You may not get the urge to, er, be selfish on the date, and that will tell the girl that you respect her.  Also - it might give that first impression that you're a laid back bad-a*s type that most of the ladies can't resist.  So yeah - I think it is a good idea!  HA!
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first off, don't worry about what other people say about him being weird and such. if he just asked you on a date rather than to start a relationship, go on the date and see what happens. if you still don't like him,  tell him that you just wanna be friends.
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what is the question here? you liked him, you had your friend ask him out, he said no. Seems pretty open and shut. Move on
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oooh so cute your first bf^^ you should do something natural that you usualy do with a friend... don't try to be too romentic the first time, go walk in a park and talk with him... take this first date to try to know him a litle bit more. Good luck :D
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I kind of have the same prob, but with asking this guy out. i don't know what to do, i need to know because i heard he liked me and that he is too scared to ask me out. and i was wondering if it's weird if a girl asks a guy out or not. well, good luck! sorry i was no help! :(
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LOL, well just tell him you really like that date and ask if he enjoyed it or not. If he did, he might ask you out again. Or you can just say, i wonder if we have a next time.
51155
DONT be afraid to approach him on your own. Why do you think it would be strange? If some pretty girl came up to me, and just started chatting to me, do you know how good that would make me feel? I would feel great for like a week, and if it turned into something, I would be thanking God for her braveness in coming to me. I might never know otherwise, and thus would have missed out on something great...Without even knowing it. And that sucks. LOL Go say hi next time. Ask about the music. And NO. Do NOT go smashing into things like a klutz. BAD first impression. Even if he already knows you slightly. DONT bump, or trip, or any of that fake crap. Be REAL!
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Good to cut it short --- but poor form on announcing to her friend that you liked her instead\n\nChances are the girl you were supposed to be on the date with found you pretty boring too!!
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Yea!!I am glad to see your moving on a little bit.  For the record I am not frustrated with you, nor the all knowing one...I think you are cute! I can tell by your questions you are overly causious.  I just feel pulled to encorage you to move it up with this gentleman.  Time goes by too fast and I hope you give him that look or tell him that it is time to take you out...I would take you out sight unseen and I have no Idea who you are.  So just do it girl!
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I've been there and I know the confusion. My advice is don't worry about whether it is a date or not, just have a good time. Don't sweat any details that you might worry about if it was supposed to be a date. For example, if there is a third person there, that's cool. If you're interested in her, the best thing you can do is show that you can have a good time without stressing about things. \n\nGood luck & have fun!
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Once went on a date where a guy was happen to let me know just how much he was at ease with being a "flake". He used the word more than once. So I felt if he is comfort in his "flakiness" and still has a good job. I should be more relaxed about the fact that I liked being super busy as long as I scheduled my "work time" with my "fun time". I thought things we going well until I started to tell him what I liked doing. He started to go on the defensive about being a flake. It didn't seem to matter that I didn't care either way if he liked to relax a lot. He just resented the fact that I liked "keeping busy" and actually liked my job. He became sarcastic about how much I made, trying to get me to tell him. The date just got very uncomfortable and went from an easy date to just pure disaster. I refuse to think it my fault because I simply talked about myself since he talked about himself. Inferiority complex is a baaaaad thing I tell you. Very unattractive in a man.