DO YOU MEN EVER END UP IN LOVE WITH THAT GIRL YOU BRING HOME FROM THE BAR.AND WHAT IS THE BEST PICK UP LINE THAT A WOMEN CAN USE. AND WHAT IF I DON'T WANT SEX. HOW DO I GET PAST THAT AND FIND THE REAL MAN. NOT THAT I DON'T LIKE SEX ,BUT IWANT THE NEXED RELATIONSHIP TO BE THE LAST AND THE BEST I EVER HAD.SOOOO WHAT'S UP GUY'S.......PLEASE HELP LIKE I WAS YOUR SISTER.
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Yes, I feel for a girl I brought home from the bar. The only problem, she just wants to be friends w/benefits.\nIf a girl says anything to a guy, especially in a bar, you immediately got him hooked, unless you are huge or hideous. Just say Hi my name is .... whats yours...? you will know imediatly if he is interested. If you pick a winner, hang out get to know him, and if he tries to take you home, have a good excuse on hand as to why you have to go,if you like him make plans to meet again somewhere, or exchange #, & get to know him more through the phone.If you want to weed out the horn balls, make him wait 3-5 dates before you get sexual. or explain to him on date 2 or 3 your intent of not screwing around untill you know your right for one another.\nI might not know much about dateing, considering I am single. but thats how I think things should be.
187459
Are you attractive? Obviously. Without any male competition(boyfriend or husband) most men will be even braver than ever. I was with some army buddies when one of them came running into the bar-" There's this bar next door and its full of women!" We went in and found out it was a lesbian bar but even though no body hooked up it was fun hanging with people who liked women just as much we do with out the cockblocking tension.
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Hello, Im not a freak...yet I find it hard to find decent women. I dont look at appearances but the heart and soul...You can change that by being yourself ...sean. Ps. and when a quite guy like myself is afraid to approach you,maybe because im shy, maybe because im normal...go and talk to him....he may be the love of your life although he may not drink or dance like the other guys...
665177
I'm confused.. When you say you were speaking to other men.. is that all then? I don't see anything wrong w/that. You say tho 'he stayed w/me' and I don't know why he wouldn't (if it was just conversation.) You say he had a secret relationship.. was it sexual? You two both sound kind of jealous/possessive.. I mean I am basing this on the assumption there was nothing sexual involved in any of this. (If there was, that's a different story..) Let me see here.. He treats you like crap.. I take it that's the real issue on hand here.. I think men are kind of like babies (I'm married to one.. lucky me..) or they want their cake/ to eat it too.. they want us to cook and clean (and spread 'em) but on the other hand they want their 'freedom' to screw around on us at the same time. (We can't do anything along the same line tho..) that sux, right? He stayed because he's been with you and while the other gal's 'something new/exciting & different' you're the one he's 'used to living with' I am thinking. (Hell, this is depressing me!!) Hey, I DO think you've got value/self worth, dont' get me wrong! I'm just kinda bitter about men is all.. It sounds like my marriage of l4 years (boring.. I'm bored..) My ole man's an asshole (cuts me down) and then developed (or so he claims) e.d. so he tries to do the oral thing (doing me 'one big goddamned favor') on me for sex (but it's wearing thin or gettin' old I mean.. fast..) I want to dump him too.. (I think you want to dump THIS guy..) do it!! that's my 'valuable' advice for ya
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I've been there, and I've found that waiting for at least date 3 to have sex seems to work a lot better than hooking up on date 1!! I've never had a serious relationship develop out of a one-night stand. I'm not saying this will be the case with you, but maybe it's time to move on and save yourself the confusion. Clean slate and all.
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i think that's the best kind of guy as long as you don't plan on setting her up.  i think that shows you have balls and your not looking for a one night stand and shows that your at least half way mature. well good luck i'd respect you if that was me you were talking about. any guy that does that deserves props. well good luck with the lucky girl.
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D! How come the guys get to choose from decent women but us women get the bottom of the barrel to choose from? Just Kidding. I'm sure these are all really nice guys. I just thought that this would be the perfect time to come out of the closet and let the world know I would rather be GAY!\nLove & Light\nSharon
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Check this out:\n\nThis girl that I really liked, that I had been do'n...back in my freshman year of college came over to me and my best friends dorm room one night to meet me.  I was way late getting back from something and basically the same thing happened, except he didnt nail her.  They were just messing around.  I didn't catch them in the act.  He told me later that night even though I never suspected a thing.\n\nI know it sounds way shady, but I was never really all that pizzed, because it was better to find out she was a skeezer from him than the entire fraternity!  More importantly, he came clean.\n\nWhere you fugged up is still hanging with her after your buddy got all pizzed.  You should have kicked her to the curb that night and explained to your buddy that it was a good thing that you found out for him that she was a skeezer.  \n\nDid he love this chick?  Did you know he loved her?  If he talked to you about love and was all about this girl, then you really messed up.  YOu also messed up by not kicking the girl to the curb the night of the incident.  If you were a real good friend and valued him, you would have done that...dont you think?
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I've met a lot of people on a dating website.  Some guys are just on it to find some girl that they can have sex with.  Some guys are on there to find mr/mrs right.  I have met both types.  I met my current boyfriend off of a dating website, and I can see me being with him for the long haul.  We talked a fair amount online, then we started chatting on MSN, and then we talked ont he phone.  It sounds a little funny but our first date, wasn't that much of a normal date (movie/coffee), I needed a lift to our mall, cause my vehicle was busted and needed to get fixed and he offered me the ride.  We have almost been together ever since and talk every day.  You just have to be careful, and don't let the bad ones ruin it for you.
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+ I really don't know as I don't seem to have that problem. My girl friend was still having guys call to ask her out when we first started (and she still is) and I suggested that the three of us get together and that never happened. Someone was intimidated, but not me. Seems like the guy would always say no, or that is what I was told. I sure hope that is the truth as I would hate to find out otherwise later.  My thought was that if they thought enough of her to ask her out they probably had the same values as I do so they had to be OK guys and maybe they would be valuable people to know. \nI am getting ready to go on a work trip to South America and I told her that it was OK to have dinner with some of them if she wanted, and I guess that was a wrong answer too. So I am busting back to get everything done and every time I turn around I get asked to do more things. I can't understand it. If I were to do the same thing, would I be considered inconsiderate, thoughtless or greedy for attention? I suppose I will never really understand. I really hope that when I return she will have spent at least one full 48 hour period without having consumed any alcohol as I worry a lot about it and sometimes I stay away because of it. Well I hope my thoughts help you sort out yours. \nGood Luck from a guy who is not intimidated and who cares enough to just walk away if the other person would be happier that way. (Been there done that)
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how about saying....  i am sorry if i embarressed you friday...  i normally do not get that drunk and behave that way..  Hope we are still ok????   or\n\nsend him a questionaire (this worked for me once after a date which i didnt hear from him in about 4 days)  \n\nDear_______\nplease respond to the following survey ASAP\n\n1...  Had a wonderful time, not casey behaved like a true lady\n\n2...  Had a horrible time never want to see not casey again\n\n3...  Had a date Friday???\n\n4... Not casey appeared to have gotten a little drunk, would like to see her again though if she promises to behave\n\n5....  Friday was_(please fill in the blank)_____________________________________
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You are right, I see some of my old friends play guys and it makes me sick. When they start in a relationship she thinks she wants him and him only, and 2 weeks later, she wants his best friend too. then both guys get hurt (heart break) and she moves on to the next guy, who falls for her... and it goes on and on... Just sickening...  Some men do women the same way though, not as many men as women though. Don't stop being the nice guy, there are some good women left that appreciate a great guy, and that sounds like what you are. Good Luck with the next one.
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Exactly what you just did. Find a nice way to say it. Like maybe I am interested in someone else. And do not elaborate on it.You walk with your dignity as well as her keeping hers. Good luck. Post script. Question for you. What are you looking for on here? Be honest not only with yourself but to your friends online.
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I just wanted to say thanks for spelling ho correctly.  Some guys may look at it that way but in all honesty sometimes a girl just wants to get laid too.  If this is a guy that you see yourself wanting to be in a relationship with I wouldn't recommend it, it may just give him the wrong idea about your previous lifestyle.. but like I said, sometimes a girl just wants to get laid, and if that's all you're trying to do.. go for it girl!
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Tell us your gay. That one is painless. \n\nAlso, most women can take the "I'm just not into you". \n\nI would rather know that a guy just isn't into me than for him to give me a whole bunch of crap like "It's not you it's me"\n\nNOW if you want to through in diamonds and things (axe the fur......fur is wrong) then go right ahead. Nothing says closure like a pricey shinny thing. :)
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I am so tired of yall asking us about these guys feelings! Hell, we don't know, REALLY, you need to be asking these men or ladies these questions. YOU are showing signs of cowardness by holding back, its 2006, go for what you know.  Yall must be youngins cause aint no grown folks carrying on like this. Well not all of them. I can say for myself that  life is too short to play games,you maynever get another chance, take it from someone who is lonely because I made the wrong decision.... I didnt say anything, now I'll never know if he loved me or not, but I have come to learn the answer...Im sorry i kinda went off there, Just speak your mind and be yourself, it thats is not good enough for them then they are not good enough for you.....sincerely Lonely aka mstwissta
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Leave him behind, if he had another girl on his arm the very next day after you asked him out, then he is definitely not serious about a relationship, he probably said yes to keep all his bases covered, just go to the bar have a few drinks, maybe play some pool, sit back and unwind you'll most likely meet someone that serious about a relationship in no time at all. And if that's not your goal then grab a rebound guy" been one my self a few times" and show him off to your ex and see what his reaction is. well that's all the advice i can give with out breaking a million more of the guy codes, but hey good luck with what ever you chose.