She was giving me a goodbye hug at the airport, and it was a really close hug.  She's a lot shorter than me, so I was against her stomach.  I wasn't thinking anything sexual, I guess the contact just made it happened.  She didn't say anything, but I'm pretty sure she noticed.  Should I say something?  Apologize?  Is she likely to upset or embarrassed?  Or is this no big deal?
135552
Ouch! Don't make it sound like a big deal if you bring it up with her.  Just say something like, "Hey, haha, at the airport, when you hugged me goodbye, sorry about that stomach-poking..."  And laugh while you're saying it, but make it sound like you don't find it completely funny like an immature idiot, but a bit embarrassed in a cute way.  Try to blush bit, if you can, and sound as sincere as you can while laughing.
567368
I would tell her. The sooner the better. She probably won't get mad at you unless it's been a while but even then she'll eventually appreciate that you came to her and let her know what was going on.
353803
I think it's good that you have emotions and show them, but now maybe it is time to be a little more in touch with them so they don't sneak up on you and overwhelm you.  She means a lot to you and it's triggering some feelings of possible abandonment it sounds like--probably tapping into old baggage from childhood.  \n\nI find when my reaction doesn't match the situation it is usually because of something in my past, not the issue at hand.
283897
I don't think so-- at all. She's the one that should be apologizing to you and asking for your forgiveness. It sounds like this woman is more concerned about herself than she is anyone else. If she can't be respectful, you shouldn't have to be around her. I think she definitely deserveed that kind of slap in the face. She had it coming.
423524
Don't feel horrible. My fiance' does the same thing, and we've had many talks about it. It's a security issue for them and means she cares about you. She gets worried that you're going to be upset or angry(yes, even though it can be the most insignificant little things) and thus apologizes profusely. It can be aggrivating but go with it, explain to her that she doesn't need to be sorry for whatever trivial thing it is and make sure she knows for sure that you aren't upset with her over it.
462276
i'm a girl, but i have done that before, and it means nothing. i didn't have any feelings for my ex, and you should not stress at all over it. if it really bothers you that much, confront her about it, but do not make a huge deal about it because 99.9% it means nothing at all except that its a nice gift she likes.
368485
All you need to do is next time you two run into each other instead of just stopping and talking out stretch your arms, wrap them around the other persons back with a little not too tight squeeze and go for it. If they don't want to be hugged they'll take a step or two back away from you. The hug should be (because it's the first time and your unsure if they want really want it) short and sweet. Sometimes people will let you hug them to keep from hurting your feelings so next time you see them and want to hug try and read their body language. If they back or or become frigid you know that's not what they want.
428354
well, you wanna give her time to relax and maybe forget a lil bit of what happened..so dont do anything right away....right before she leaves call and say bye, have a good time blah blah...ok, then she leaves with you on her mind...then after maybe another few weeks or so if you can, send her a text to say, i just wanted to say hi hope all is awesome....then when she gets back, dont get all over her nuts, wait a lil while and then call to say hey! welcome back!..sorry i didnt get a hold of you sooner, been really busy....this way she knows your "over it" weather you are or not....then say hey, there is a few of us that or gonna go and do ....i dont know what you do for fun...and invite her....this way its a group so its real chilled out...this will get you back in to a friend situation...and yer on your own from there.
102419
The physical reaction may be beyond your control. What would be wrong is to expect her to acknowlege it or to assist in relieving the situation.\nIf it happens, you should both ignore it.\n\n(I'm presuming that we are talking here about a legimate therapeutic massage studio, not a uhm...more personal sort of establishment.)
348892
You did nothing wrong.  When you have a chance, talk to her alone, face to face.  It's her fault in the first place for playing baby games.  Tell her you can't apologize for something that wasn't your fault.  That you hope you & she can be friends.  Let her know what she did wasn't cool & you felt awkward when confronted.  You actually stuck up for her!
341729
What see did was not cool... Lesbian, gay, guy or girl.  Let's say it was a guy and he was a friend... do you thing that it would be nice of him to pull it out and ask you to join him?  There's a sensitivty to these things and a way to approach them.  Be honest about the way it made you feel and ask her to stop. You don't need to worry about what to do because you've done nothing wrong. Just bew authentic to yourself and to her.
51155
DONT be afraid to approach him on your own. Why do you think it would be strange? If some pretty girl came up to me, and just started chatting to me, do you know how good that would make me feel? I would feel great for like a week, and if it turned into something, I would be thanking God for her braveness in coming to me. I might never know otherwise, and thus would have missed out on something great...Without even knowing it. And that sucks. LOL Go say hi next time. Ask about the music. And NO. Do NOT go smashing into things like a klutz. BAD first impression. Even if he already knows you slightly. DONT bump, or trip, or any of that fake crap. Be REAL!
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I don't know but I think you should ask her "Did you need to tell me something else?" If the answer is no then ask "Did you need to ask me something ?" Tell her that these awkward silences give the feeling that something is being left unsaid and you would like to know what it is.
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Hey hun... well - I know just where you're coming from on this one as my best friend (guy) has just had this problem as he told his friend how he felt about her.\nFirstly, don't feel guilty about saying anything - it will have actually made things less awkward between the two of you. If you're close friends (as you say you are) then she shouls respect you for saying something to her face. Far too many guys don't say anything and the girl doesn't know where she stands at all.\nI don't think you "need" to rectify what you said - it's said now and that's final - you can't sincerely say anything that will take it back - and it will never be forgotten.\nYou say she feels something for you too, but still said you should stay friends - it sounds to me like she's scared of losing the friendship you have, which if it's as special and close as you say would be a shame. I don't understand though, why she said that she liked you and still turned you down - I mean, if she truly respected your feelings - would she have kept quiet and not kept you going through this torture, with the hope that something could still happen. I know that, obviously, you think the world of her - but are you sure she's worh it and she's not just playing with your affections and your emotions.\nI think you did right keeping quiet for a few days, you didn't say anything in the heat of the moment, and have let everything settle. If her reply to you didn't say anything about what you said, this could mean she'd rather move on - stay friends and not spoil your friendship in anyway. However, it could also be that she doesn't want to be the one to raise the topic, maybe she's embarrassed or maybe she thinks you're embarrassed and don't want her to raise the subject. It's up to you on that one - if you want to talk about it then bring it up in a quiet moment in private. However - if you do want to talk about it, make sure you don't sound like you're renewing your feelings to her, or are pleaing with her to take your relationship to a new level - as this is likely to spoil any chances of remaining friends.\nIf you are as close as you say, I don't think she will behave differently. But, even if she does, you MUST NOT behave differently around her - keep being as close as you ever were - this should put her at her ease a little more.\nI know it's difficult, as I said my friend's in the same sit, but you have to try and stop seeing "signs" that she likes you. Just try and see these that you and her are close friends and nothing more. Slowly try and get yourself to see someone else in this way - althought it's likely you will always like this friend as more than that.\nI hope this helps you, good look mate - I have a feeling you might need it with this one.
425637
Explain to her what happened & why you didn't say anything. If you guys are really best friends, you'll get over it. Best wishes!
379317
I think that your unexplained absence at the event likely made her very upset and angry and turned her off for good.  You made her wait, you made her very anxious, and you made her lose face--essentially, you ruined the entire event for her.  That kind of behavior reflects very poorly upon you and is a good indicator of the type of man you are.  You have a right to change your mind, but out of respect for her, you should have called her beforehand to let her know.  Sorry, but I think you lost her for good.
484151
Congratulations! well, let's see... you should probably be the one who initiate the move of holding hands first. You can do that by asking her if she's cold? and take her hand and warm them up and dont let go? it's chessy but it works! and take things slow. if you are going to give her a hug, don't rush into the hug... make sure you see where her head and arms are... you don't want to bump into her like an idiot... give her kisses on her hands, then cheeks then watever... but like I said, take it slow and be aware of where you are and who's watching.. make sure she's in a comfortable environment. don't worry about it, this is what makes being in a relationship fun! goodo luck