Well being the woman of luxury that i am, sitting on my ass all day, i don't get much time to myself. I look after a baby 24/7, a 10 yr old, clean the house, cook tea and then clean up after everyone again. AND HE WONDERS WHY I GET SHITTY when he sits on HIS ASS and watches! HUH....MEN!!!!
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Because men do not see stay at home moms as working..And feel that if they get up go to work ect then they have the right to not work when they get home...\nYou can do what i did..hehehehe\nWhen my ex did that to me i sent him a bill.\nI put down in order all i did and a charge for that service next to it..ie:\nDishes...$10.00\nlaundry....$30.00\nCook.......&40.00\nect...ect..\nTell him look if you had to have someone to come in and do what i do you would have to pay them..Due to the fact that you cant help me( even it is to take the kids for a bit ) \nthen you will need to pay me for my services..\nIt worked!!!!!
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Yeah! These people are aTTACKers, aren't they...but helpful, too. Don't delete your question because I'ma watchin' it, girlfriend!\nWell, I say if he has the NERVE to check you on YOUR DAILY WORK, then you can get that same nerve.  \n\nThat is the trade-off, right.  And he wouldn't want to switch with you.  Tell him on a Saturday morning or a day off to track what the heck he does all day! Projects take longer than men think.  I like to get everything done in the 1st two hours of of the morning hustlin. Then, no matter what I do it's just done and the happy husbands off\nmy friggin' back.  \n\nTell him if you spent as much time cleaning up after HIM as you \ndid on the other household, necessary daily chores, he'd HAVE\nthe neat, sparkly perfect home he desired.  He'll get mad, that's just that tender little species of fragility and gentleness called\nTHE MALE EGO.\n\nTo those people who are working do NOT assume SAHM is\na dream job.  Its not for lazy bums.  Not the hardest work, \nbut important and challenging, more than you'd think.
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WOW!!,YOUR A BABE!!.seriously,you are very beautiful.If you were my women i would give you my paycheck plus do the cooking and cleaning,you would be spoiled..LOVE bill.
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Women get used to being treated like dirt. It's sad, but it's true. When I met my "great guy" it took everything in me not to toss him away because I didn't know how to react to a guy listening to me, giving me good advice, opening doors for me and offering to pick up the bill instead of "borrowing" money. I think women often get the idea that they don't deserve to be treated well. I definitely think one should be careful with the use of those three naughty words (I l#v! y@u.)  I've had to tell friends to calm down and enjoy the ride when they've freaked out because they're being treated well---I think it's the acceleration a relationship can have when things go well that can often lead to catastrophy. Most of all, if she can't take your good treatment, SHE DOESN'T DESERVE YOU. That's the downfall of good guys. The gentlemen just need to stay gentlemen and know that they are worth something. We don't need our good men going to trashy b*tc%es anyway.
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Mostly it is the way people are brought up that gives them the idea that a woman's place is in the home.  Psychology has a lot to do with that thought.  Everyone has different backgrounds and experiences in life that make them agree or disagree with that debate.  I as a woman dont feel that this statement is necessarily true and feel that a man has the same responsibility over the home as his wife does.  But like I said it all depends on how one was brought up and what ideas they developed on the issue.  For instance, my grandfather made the kids do everything in the house and would ask them to let my grandmother rest.  My mother then developed the idea that she should be a helpful housewife, unlike her mother.  My father, seeing that my mother did everything in the house, never lifted a finger in the house.  I grew up thinking how unfair that was of my father and believe that both should clean up around the house and look after the kids as well as both have the responsibility to work and pay the debts.  Thankfully my husband feels the same way!!!  LOL  We both make a mess, we should both pick it up!  We both spend money, we both should earn it!!
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I like to serve my husband but NOT because he tells me too.  It is great feel so needed but I would never consider myself submissive... why would you even describe your self that way?  The reason why people look down on submissive wives is becasue no one deserves to be bossed around and treated like a slave, so when you see someone doing that you have to wonder what the hell is wrong wit them?  Do nice things for your man becasue you love him..not becasue he makes you!
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Of course there are other things besides this, but make sure you get enough sleep at night (divide up the chores if possible, or simplify your schedule so you have more time), take time for yourself to relax (because you are busy, I would recommend scheduling "Me Time" into your packed days), and walk to more places if possible. I'm sure with 2 little ones you certainly are active enough, but walking with good posture should make you feel good (compared to bending over kids and stooping over to pick up the house). Put simply, you shouldn't feel like you have to "keep going" - you are allowed to "stop." Don't let yourself get stretched too thin! As women we tend to want to be everything for everybody, so we forget about ourselves. Nurture your family, but nurture your own health, too! Good luck!
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thats a thinker,\n i think i have a pretty good medium of the Cinderella story and equality, my fiance and i both work full time, we both clean our apartment (he probably cleans more than i do)\nwe both take care of our pets (8 of them) and yet he still does the little things, like bring me flowers or fix dinner for me, and i try to remember the little things also, like bring home his favorite movie, or fix him BBQ or Seafood (i hate both)\n\nthere can always be a good mix of both, you take care of each other, not just the man takes care of the woman
532902
my day consists of cleaning,laundry everyday is a chore but we just done get paid for it. my husband he vaccums. i read
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Do you know any other young wives and mothers in the neighborhood? If you do, why not hang out with them. If you don't, then introduce yourself.  Plan outings and fun things to do. You don't have to stay home 24/7. Do something nice for yourself. Do you have family nearby? See if you can get a family member to babysit for a few hours so that you can go out and enjoy yourself, pamper yourself!!!! I hope that things will get better for you. I know what it feels like. Sometimes we are so busy taking care of everybody else that we forget about ourselves.
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My husband and I have been in this situation for 6 years.  We have 2 sons, 6 & 2.  My advice is don't take each other for granted.  Even though I am at work all day does not mean I don't need time for myself.  Likewise, he should still be able to go out or pursue his own hobbies.  You need to watch each other for cues that the other is stressed out.  I try to do as much as I can to "help" on the weekends and in the evenings.  On the weekends, I run erands with the boys (post office, grocery store, etc) giving my hubby a little time to himself.  I also do most of the cooking on the weekends since he does it all week.  I try to get laundry and bills caught up (bill paying is my job).  He loves professional football, so during football season I make sure I occupy the boys so he can watch it at home or go out if he chooses.  It ain't easy! Communicate, Communicate, Communicate!!!!!
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Hope your not complaing young lady ...lol...sounds like ya have a good man there . Men like to take care of thier woman..maybe in return just love him as much as ya can and try to make his time with you relaxing and enjoyable ..sounds like you guys are doing good and that is always a good thing to hear...congrats ;)
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My man does that! It's the best time to get it done! F#ckin love it! I like the way you think girl X LOL
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Unfortunately my girlfriend is a clean-a-holic.\n\nEverything is shiny and tidy in our home.\n\nI'm not really complaining, but it would be nice sometimes to just relax, and let it 'runaway' a little.\n\nSometimes I'm trying to fix something, and I put down a screwdriver or something, and when I turn back a minute (sometimes seconds) later, it's been tidied away.\n\nHighly annoying.
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Poor thing.  I feel for you, and I would be pulling my hair out too!  However, your kids are old enough to pull their own weight a bit.  Put them to work to help you out (certainly they can pick up after themselves and take care of the dogs), and limit the amount of time that the boyfriends and girlfriends can hang out.  I think the reason women get so overwhelmed it because they don't say "no" often enough.
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well you must be as old as me or older and i ask why are you wasting time on here talking about something that important.  I got lucky and found this site to stop me from being bored out of my mind at night at work but other then that i spend time with my woman and take care of her in any and every way.  So your wife probably isn't the problem.
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HEY!! Its called hormones!! I do the same thing with my period. My friends joke that i've got the cleanest house in the world, and they also seem to invite me over everytime my PMS is about to start. Hmmm..... maybe its time to get some new friends!!!