he tells me he cares and loves me but i dont know cause he is my bestfriend........
119692
Why not??Who else has grown to know your likes and dislikes, pros and cons, ideals and hobbies, interests and virtually everything about you?? Is that not what you need in a relationship?To me, good friends are perfect matches in relationships.Generally speaking..
314920
Honestly, I think you should tell him how you feel. The only reason I say that is because he is the only person that will give the truth about the situation. If you ask your friends they might lead you into the wrong direction. yes, it's nerve-racking but once you find out the happier and less confused you'll be.
585368
I would say that he at least cares about you a great deal. It sounds like he loves you if he is willing to work it out. I know it is hard to look at him when he is hurting but things will get better! \nGood Luck
84958
He is the only one who can say if he loves you or not, and right now he probably doesn't know.  He clearly still cares for you, but relationships are complex.  Caring for someone and loving them are not always the same thing.  He has told you that he can't be in a relationship right now, so for now that is the truth that you have to accept.  If you really care about him, it is okay to wait and see what happens with him, but no one can tell what that will be...
66417
sounds like he cares a lot about you but is NOT in love with you. you are the best thing in his life right now, the only thing he is sure of and now he is going to lose you. have no regrets about it; you followed your heart and those actions never need to be explained or appologized for. don't worry you'll always be cool, just don't confuse those moments to mean anything for than that and i think you'll be fine. Don't forget to get your ring!
122243
Unless you can feel what he feels you'll never truly know.  If you love him as much as you say then you should trust him to tell the truth when he says he loves you.  \n\nAsk him to describe what he feels for you.
533291
maybe he loves you\nmaybe he is so insecure about himself he has to LIE about you and him...\nask him straight out..if he likes or LOVES you and see what he says..\nif it was me..I would do it in front of his friends and then let him see what he is going to say..maybe have a friend or two with you so they can back your story up..\n\ngood luck\n\nsmile
292867
Sounds like he does! Listen if you really like him you need to let him know before he gets to the point that he feels that anything more would mess up the friendship. If he doesn't feel for you the way you hope Hell you still got one totally awesome friend!
439517
had a conversation w/ his best friend where his best friend told me he luved me (i liked his best friend for 4 years) and that he (being the best friend) wanted to make out w/ me.\n\nmy bf still doesn't no
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Tricky situation.. You both care about each other, but probably arent sure to the extent of that caring.. \n\nI know a lot of people who prefer dating people they are friends with first, but you gotta be careful and look at what the friendship means to you because if a relationship doesnt work out - how is the friendship going to change?\n\nTake some time and just think about how you feel, try talking to him about what he means to you - that should clear up some confusion - best of luck
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ask him how he really feels about you, but be careful, because one way or another, after you cross that line, your friendship will feel different. in other words, you have to make the choice between a good friend that you already have and a potential partener. this is a gamble you have to be willing to make and possibly lose, but the payoff is worth it because the best loves are your best friends, ask anyone who is really in love
281100
i know exactly how you feel... well, at least i think i do.. i am in love with my best guy friend whom i have known for almost 11 years... we are reallyc lose and a week ago, he confessed that he believed that we were meant to be.. blahblah.. and then we kissed.. and it's been a week and i have a feeling that he's avoiding me.. he's always busy and within the last week, he called me ONCE... that's it. and it was for a brief conversatio. i don't know what is going on... its really hard to do anything.. because i know that we were friends first.. and i dont want to risk it..\n\nmy advice to you... confront him before you assume anything and talk with him... talk it through... conversation is the best option you have... dont do like what i did and talk it out. it will save YOUR HEART from a lot of pain....
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I currently have this problem... and know exactly how you feel. My best friend is in love with me and has been for about 10-11 years now. I tell him I don't see him that way and that I love him but not in those ways. But that doesn't stop him from trying... and he is moving down to my area with all the hopes that we would be together...
142829
Duh! He still has feelings for you even though he might try to hide it. He may not care for you the same way he did when ya'll were going out but, trust me he stills cares for you.
595970
Ok, I think there are two possible answers to your question. He might be worried that a relationship with you, his best friend, may not work out and would destroy your friendship. Especially if he doesn't have any other friends. He probably loves you more than you could imagine.\nThe other option is that he's gay. I know, just hear me out. He may not have come to terms with it and has no idea how to tell you. Think about it. You guys are best friends, you're attracted to him and asked him to be your bf. He obviously llikes you a lot and is attracted to you but not sexually attracted to you. \nEither way, I think you should tell him that you really like him as a friend and wish there could be something more between the two of you. Remind him that there is nothing that could ever change the fact that the two of you are the best of friends.
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By what your saying, it's obvious that he doesn't care about you or your feelings. If he is your boyfriend then why is he kissing your best friend and even better why is your so called best friend kissing him. I think you need to drop both of them.
335919
i think maybe he is starting to feel something for you since u r having his baby,..but if u are with someone else dont blow it.. let ur friend make the first move as to his feelings for u