He always keep silent, when i talk to him about my feeling on our relationship.  Why is that?? Is that just personality or it means something? By the way, we stay together for over 3 years.
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I think all guys act like that sometimes.  Men might not be as in "in touch" with sharing their feelings.  I guess is this silent response a new thing? or old?   I think you should find a neutral spot and time to talk to him.  Maybe when you are in the car driving somewhere say  " Hey i somethings been bothering me...or hey I want to talk to you about something, can we talk about it now...and if not when would be a good time."  After you schedule your appointment, tell him what is going on, and how you feel Try not to talk his head off, give him the short story of it all, and see what he says. Only he really knows why he is acting that way. But you have been together for 3 years, so im guessing  he is invested in you and the relationship otherwise he wouldnt be there.
499634
communication is the key. maybe you should invite him ot your place and let him know how u feel.  if he loves you and if avoiding you is not his intention, he will comfort you and reassure you that that is not the case.  if your feelings of doubt persist after talking to him, listen! it's your female intuition. good luck....
583373
I am in this very situation. I pestered, and asked, and begged and compromised time and time again. He also knows exactly what I want, and exactly how I feel about him. He doesn't know that I love him though... \n\nI think that over a nice dinner, or just kicking back and IF the mood is right, you should just ease into a conversation about the status of you guys' relationship. Find out FIRST what it is he wants. Does he want to be with YOU? Or just want to be with your Kitty?? I am not saying this out of offense, I am saying this out of love for another woman because I am going through it right now. My heart is broken because I have been sleeping with someone for the past 3 years not knowing if we had a "relationship" or not. Find out what he wants. Do Not tell him you are in love with him. Let him know you care, and you think of him often, and all that mush. But do not tell him you love him. Do not use the L-word. It will scare him, especially if he doesn't feel the same or hasn't even considered how he feels for you, or where he wants to take things. \n\n I myself had to take a huge step back from  "my" guy. It hurts so bad to love someone and to not have those feelings coming back to you in return. Please do not fall into this hurtful emotional trap. \n\nFind out where he's at in terms of y'alls "relationship". What does he want? Is he willing to take things up a notch, and commit to you and you only? If not, screw him. Because all he'll do is keep screwing you. And in the end, I can tell you, it hurts more than words. \n\nIf you feel to, you can write back. If he's not ready for what you are ready for, GET OUT!
373079
It may mean that he's insecure about you loving him, he may think that he's not ready for you to love him.\nOr, it may mean that he's just going to use you and he doesn't want you to get attached to him.\n\nI would talk to him about it, hopefully he'll understand, and communication is a great thing.
101445
He might just be feeling uncertain about his feelings and how to express them to you.  I think you just need to have an honest talk with him about how you feel about each other.  Be careful though, it could be that his hormones are guiding him if you know what I mean.  Don't let him use you.  Keep him in line and he will always respect you.  You have too many years invested as really good friends to mess it up by becoming too personal.  Good luck!
446586
Sometimes in life actions speak louder than words. I want you to ask yourself why is it you need to hear him say I love you, why do you want or need him to say that. surely you are aware of his feelings. Some guys cannot say that but they do feel it . It's not about him being the emotinal type or not. It's about your need to hear those words. We cannot make others do or say what we want them to.  love is not about  expecting things from our loved ones it's all about acceptance being aware of each others needs and healthy communication based on honesty etc. so maybe you two need to have a really open honest talk about what each others needs are and what you both can do for one another so that each of you feel loved and appreciated without feeling like you are being to pushy demading or emotional.\n\nBe honest with yourself about your feelings and when you both chat togehter do so without judging one another. enjoy the time you have together making the most of your time and energy and never for one minute take each other for granted. Good luck with everything in life.  Sometimes in life we need to allow ourselves to think differently to improve ourselves and our life in general.
241911
If you don't talk to him, how are you going to find out? You need to communicate SOMEHOW.  But you need to try not to be too pushy so you don't scare him if you know what I mean.  People get scared if they're feeling pushed.  Maybe HE'S afraid to tell YOU how he feels. Try telling him he's really special in your life.  You don't have to come out and say "I love you" -- but everyone likes to hear they are special to others.  Wouldn't you?  I'll be if you heard that from someone (him maybe) -- you wouldn't feel quite so insecure would you?
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He might be pulling the whole "distant and mean" routine in order to get you to initiate the break-up.  If your boyfriend is particularly lazy, I would bet that this is the case.\n\nThat being said, there is a good likelihood that he is simply at a junction in his life where he is having to divert some of his attention from you and put it on other things.  This happens from time to time and it is something you will have to come to deal with if you ever hope to forge a meaningful and long-lasting relationship with someone.
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problem is him. Don't push it. Relationship is about trust. Letting him get to trust you little by little, in the little things then it will grow. Also just be yourself so he can trust the you he sees. Lastly, not everybody gets to say 'I love U' the same way. Maybe his may be different
320566
u need to talk things over. communication is one of the keys to a healthy relationship. You both need to listen to each other's opinions and thoughts. Why not try spendin time alone w/ yourself first.Collect your thoughts and asses yourself.Try to see things in an optimistic way.Do not let insecurities overcome you.I'm sure he likes you.Sometimes,there are just things that don't go the way we want them to.
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y dont u sit down with him and have a long talk.explain all your feelings and your insecurities.Be honest, and ask him to be honest with you. if he still insists on talking to this person despite you voicing your fears, then it myt mean that he does not regard your feelings.In that case, before you get burnt,leave with what dignity you have. In the instance that he undertands you n works with you to resolve this issue,it wouldmake both of you stronger.
413008
I have gone through the same problem as you, my boyfriend sometimes sweet talks to me and other times he doesn't, but i'm the same to him. In this way i feel that when we do tell each other that we love each other it is always special. I don't know but it makes the relationship more exciting. I just love my boyfriend and he loves me, sometimes we don't need to say "I love you"  to now that we love each other, just by the looking into our eyes, or the things that we do for each other, we know that we do. You should talk to your boyfriend and tell him exactly how you feel.  Good luck!
81699
It sounds like he's committed to you so what's the hold up.  What do you want out of the relationship?  If you really love him tell him.  If you don't let him go. The relationship won't go anywhere if you hold it back.  Tell him how you feel or eventually you will lose him.
166380
Yeah, unfortunately, some people thrive on fighting. Or look at your relationship, how long have you been together?? Is he trying to get you to break up with him so he doesn't have to be the bad guy?? Did you do something he hasn't forgiven you for?? If he always has to fight with you then I'm guessing he's not the type to talk about it. Are you?? What do YOU want?? Are you happy like this?? Try talking to him
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I read what you wrote twice.\nI still don't know what you are asking.\n\nAdditional:\nRemember that many men are not very good at talking about emotional things.\nIf you are committed to each other then you must discuss how you feel - you must try to see each other's point of view. It sounds to me that you have different priorities at the moment.\nWhat is it that you want? Can he provide this at the moment?
49004
It usually means nothing, but it could be that he has lost interest in you.  Talk to him about it and if he won't be honest than tell him that you can't have a relationship without honesty.
65030
EITHER HE IS SCARED OR HE DIDNT MEAN IT....THIS GUY I KNOW HE TELLS ME HE LOVES ME AND I KNOW THAT HE IS TELLING THE TRUTH HE'S JUST NOT READY FOR THE COMMITMENT. SO I'M JUST GIVING HIM A BREAK UNTIL HE CAN FIGURE OUT WHAT HE WANTS...ANOTHER THING YOU SHOULD DO IS TALK TO HIM LET HIM KNOW HOW YOU FEEL AND FIND OUT HOW HE FEELS BECAUSE THERE IS NO SINCE FOR YOU TO KEEP WASTING YOUR TIME ON SOMEONE WHO CANT MAKE UP HIS MIND..JUST GET IT ALL OUT IN THE OPEN SO THAT YOU KNOW WHETHER TO MOVE ON OR NOT