Okay, the situation is like that: My current boyfriend is a nice guy, but put himself limitations I don't wanna live in, and also  is very jealous,for an ex? This ex-bf of mine is intelligent, but lives away from here, but is gonna be here for the summer and is currently here? I feel I don't wanna be with my current guy no more...
130036
If you are in a relationship, you have to do what it is that you think is best. If your boyfriend your with now is not where your heart is, why are you wasting his and your time, move on because it is not fair. It seems as if you want your cake and to eat it too.  You have to be fair to yourself and to your boyfriend and to your ex. Follow your heart.
382661
There's your problem.  You hung out with your ex.  There is a word for this... emotional adultery.  You are getting your needs met by a guy who is not your boyfriend.  That's the definition of adultery.  I know the word adultery sounds extreme, but it is a HUUUUUGE epidemic in this world.  And you fell victim to it, without realizing it.\n\nPlease be careful about this tendency in the future.  Protect your relationships from temptation.  If you have a bf, honor him by getting your needs met by HIM, not other people.\n\nWhy are you hanging out with your ex anyway? Convenience? If your bf were still around, wouldn't you have been with HIM instead?\nStop hanging out with your ex.  He's an ex for goodness sake.  Meaning previoius, not present.  Go visit your long distance bf and see for yourself if it's over. How can you know if you have stopped loving someone if you don't spend any time with them?  Of course your feelings will start to fade.  Go be with him and remind yourself why you liked him in the first place.
612997
Okay first of all since the break up nothing has changed so I'm assuming that you all are still intimate with one another and you're still arguing like lovers do.  The only thing that's bothering you right now is that you don't have that "TITLE" anymore as lovers which means that he can do what he wants and so can you.  So basically this dude is getting his cake and eating it too served on a silver platter with a platinum fork.  Do not allow him to question your where abouts every time especially if he's doing it in a "boyfriend" way.  I mean at this point he's looking at the situation and saying to himself " Why get back together when breaking up with her is just the same plus I get to mess around and not be faulted for it" Does it makes sense to you now!!! Lay down some rules and set boundaries within your relationship as friends and I guarantee you he'll miss that feeling as being your boyfriend and coming running back, it never fells.
468262
it is difficult because you are making it difficult. you are still obsessing over the idea if you should trust him or not and you should not! he can do the talk but can he walk the walk? i dont think so from what it seems! he seems as though he is playing both you and his ex and he is telling you that he wants to be with you just because that is what you want to hear! if he actually would love you he would act on other better terms and not like a jerk who wants his cake and to eat it too! i have broken up with my bf and so has he with me but none of us have talked with our ex's or tried to play the other person since we are both with our ex's-we are 22 and almost 24! i would not accept this guy's behavior no matter how much you love him since he obviously is not mature enough for you, your needs, his actions or his behavior! he thinks that playing with people's minds is fun, therefore he does not know and i think that this guy at some point will surprise you by cheating on you! do not accept him and all his drama into your life but rather focus on what you have and how young you are as well as that time will not  not come a second time around as well as how you should take care of yourself first and be in a healthy relationship! this relationship from what i can make out of it is not the best relationship so you might want to rethink it and make yourself happy with someone who can take care of you and knows what he wants out of life as well as treating you better than this! if you go back with this guy you are headed for splitsville another couple of times as well as more tension, lack of trust and frustration building! i have given you the info from personal experiences and i hope that at least you consider some of them!
130806
Step back, look at this situation, is this really how you want the rest of your life to be? I would say walk away, no run. Don't look back just run. And on another note if you are willing to dump the current boyfriend for another guy then why waste your time with him, obviously he is not who you want, might as well get rid of him too, time to clean house back up and punt. Just a little tip from your uncle Will.
364500
Do you like where you live? Do you like your job? What do you care when you tried to do what is right and the ex boyfriend can't realize that. So your going to uproot your whole life for a jerk that doesn't appreciate that you had his wellbeing at heart?  Don't let this instance ruin your whole life. On the other hand Chicago is a GREAT city.
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My friendship with my ex never created a problem with my current b/f. My b/f understands that my ex and I were friends first and that's how we'll always be despite what happened in our relationship. There are certain boundaries that you should not cross though. There is always suspicion when it comes to dealing with your current's ex, and that's normal. It's a human thing. Just try not to take it too personal unless you're sure there's a reason to.
281845
you should stay with him ok. im dating my bff's ex boyfriend. i like him and he likes me just because he's your bff's ex dont mean you cant like him
651853
Hey girl- My boyfriend and I have been dating for a year and 9 months. We go to the same college so we are together 9 months out of the year. during the summer, though, I am in another state and he stays there. I really think that the only reason we as girls would think that we have feelings for someone else is that we get the attention from this guy- the attention we usually get from our boyfriend when we are together. Don't let your mind and emotions take over. Stay true to your man- your love, if you believe that it is strong enough, will stand through even the hardest times... God bless!!
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I am the same way that you are, the guy I am with is the one for me as well, and we also have a baby on the way. But my jealousy and Insecurity did kind of hurt us, because things are not the same right now, and we are both trying to get back to the way we were, because we both really love each other, and do not want to lose one another, plus we want to because of the baby. I had to learn the hard way to not be that way, because he would never do anything to hurt me. So the best advice I can give you, is just dont let your jealousy get in the way, I mean it isnt going to go away, just dont let it get the best of you, because he will either change (not for the good), or he will end up leaving you. I had a bad past too, and this guy I am with is PERFECT for me, so just try your hardest to let go of your past, and tell yourself that this is your present, and can also be your future if you just let all the bad stuff go. Trust me, I do not wanna be the jealous type anymore either, but it is just something that is hard to get rid of. If he has been able to handle it this long, then he is a great guy, my boyfriend put up with it for a LONG time, but theres only so much one guy can take, so please stop while you are ahead. I hope this helps some.
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It sounds like he still likes you.  If you guiys are still on speaking terms I think you should talk to him and ask him about all the shit hes been spreading.  If he's just mean, you might have to get your bf to avoid him and his friends or if the situation gets really desperate tell someone who has more control over him(your ex)
455694
I think you might not want to because they might be the same and he just wants so booty..so i would check him out first....and i don't think you should worry about your ex because you caught him with another girl when you guys were still together!
192055
Your ex is an ex for a reason...& I'm sure you remember those reasons, don't you?..So why would you look back!!...Give you new friend a chance at least, if not, move on...There's always bigger & better fish out in the sea..
408304
The grass is always greener...  IMO, stick with your current boyfriend and forget about the first one. Or, stay single. Perhaps you aren't ready for a commitment with either yet if you are having difficulties deciding between them.  Goodluck with whatever you decide to do. :-)
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Nomad is very right!  But if your separation was just heat of the moment, I reckon the second time will be sweeter.  I believe in 2nd chances and if yous can work it out and start again, things will be stronger.  I would love to be in your ex bf's shoes, as for now, my situation with my spouse is near over and final.  But through this, you'll be a better person/lover, if not for your x bf, your next bf.  Good luck and best wishes!
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Well he is infatuated with you, in one way or a next, he may become very jealous if u get a new boyfriend, and may become a stalker of sorts, the best thing to do is get a new boyfriend thats a big guy and tell hiim to deal with your ex (intimadate him a little)
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You can think of him, but do you still love him badly? Because you shouldn't as you're already in another relationship. It's not right not being loyal to your present bf. If you really want to find him, and you succeed, just be friends. Thrust me, things will get uglier if you go overboard.