He says he loves my curfs and that he loves me umm he has never cheated on me.BUT HE NEVER WANTS SEX WHEN I WANT IT WHAT IS WRONG WITH ME IS IT JUST ME THIMKING THAT HE IS GOING OFF ME OR WHAT
128403
Why don't you find another guy who can give you what you want, nothing wrong with you it's him.
640715
Because he's horny. You need to sit and explain that sex is not the goal for you and that he needs to respect the fact that you do not want to go all the way with him. Set up those boundaries at a time when you are not in the heat of the moment so that you do not feel any pressure to go further than you'd like at any time.\n\nAnd, if he doesn't respect that, get him out of the picture. You deserve someone who will respect your body and your choices.
214179
If he really loves you then he would still be talking to you and wanting to see you. If all he wanted was sex then he probably is avoiding you and not answering you phone calls. If that is the case then you are better off without him and need to move on. Life is too short to get caught up on the little things and there are wonderful great guys out there who would probably love to be in a relationship with you. Just learn from this experience and move on with or without him. :-) hope that helps.
671036
i think it depends on age and what you want from a relationship.has this person got no interest in sex or is that just sex with you.by you asking this question you have doubts about being with this person, if nothings going  to change and you want it to, maybe you should think about splitting with this person and remaining good friends with them.\nas for me, coz im not the norm and if i really loved them,i would stay with them.
301394
your heart sounds like it knows something isn't right. you have time in with this guy so you have to part in steps. first stop having sex(it is possible) tell him you are not feeling good in the relationship and you need space. stop initiating contact. see what he does. he should work hard to prove to you he loves you and wants this to work. if he doesn't start trying harder then tell him you need some real time apart. don't date new people get to know yourself better. only no sex and time will really help you see clearly what's going on
87993
well if the only thing he wants you for is just sex then the relation will not last anyway...i personally think he is being a baby about it...i have had women ask not to have sex that day for one reason or another... but i was still there with them...because i enjoyed there company\n\nthe only ones that i didn't want to be around are the ones i dated just for the sex...and those were the worst relationships i have ever had (in more ways then one)
517844
Your last few words sum it up well,...when you say, "he never calls me."\n\nSounds like he is using you sweetie. I am sure you have a lot to offer someone. Move on to someone who appreciates you and wants to spend time with you, doing more than having sex.
609157
OK,  since he is not yet an UNMARRIED man and has held on the "separation" status for this time.  You must assume he is not fully over his past.  If he is, then he is not ready to commit to you, or he would have done it.\n\nMen are, above all, opportunists when it comes to sex.  The only thing that keeps us from the biological imperative of being as "friendly" as possible with as many as possible is the fear of being caught.\n\nIf he has just upped things, I see two possible answers:\n1) He got a sample of Viagra or equivalent from his doc--and he wants to impress you .\n2) He has some insecurity brewing and it's his way of making himself feel better (which sucks if he doesn't get off)\n\nYou are sharp to pick up on the fact that we can actually want sex wiht you MORE if we are having it with somone else too.......I don't know why this is, but it is.
147137
He is using you. You tell him how you feel yet he doesnt reply but he will reply with sex. What is that telling you. He is using you and taking advantage of your "love". And you in return are thinking that he might love you or fall in love with you if you give him sex. Dont sell yourself short honey. MOVE ON QUICKLY before you end up pregnant and alone. You will be alone because he only wants you for sex and when it gets too complicated he is gone.
258699
You have to decide is this forever problem.. or a "Im just not feeling it" problem.\n\nIs the root of the problem.. you.. him... outside inclunces.\n\nIf you are not feeling it.. and then not being there for him in the bedroom.. things will become damaged.\n\nMen very very often equate love to sex.  Right or wrong.. its a reality.   If you are able to share yourself with him, then you will at least give him a belief that things are ok.\n\nIf you think the problem is not a forever, then I would recommend having relations..but also let him know there is a problem.. and try to work with him about it.\n\nIf you think its all over, then stop the sex and get yourself out the door to move things to where youw ill be happy.\n\nIts better for him and its better for you.  You don't want to be feeling like a "whore" having sex with someone you do not love just for a life.  (Please understand I am not saying you should feel like that.. but that is the natrual next feeling).
317580
It seems like you want sex more when you can't get it.  It sounds like he is using that as an excuse.  I have never heard of a man getting bored with sex.  Talk to him and if you can live without the sex stay with him, if not kick him to the curb.
671835
That makes sense to me. Spend some time with him. See what it is or isn't turning into. If he really really likes you, it wouldn't be JUST for sex. Make sure thats the case. Its natural for BOTH man and women to want sex. Also, I think why lose respect for people for wanting good healthy sex. Either way. Your caution makes a lot of sense to me considering that it sounds like maybe you dated some jerks. Maybe too many.
173568
The fact that he says he doesnt want to marry you is another way of telling you that we are just having fun.But there is no need to mention it.Not everyone will get married but if you love you girl enough, you will say i love you and show her that love.Automatically she will know that this is a worthy relationship.Mentioning that he wont marry you,should give you a light that he is not your guy because you seem to care about getting married.Why on earth would a person claim that they love you a lot and still have some areas of love RESTRICTED.Hit the freeway sister.....
604650
Love is about respect.  If he truly loves you, regardless his feelings on the matter, he will RESPECT yours!  The truth is, an individual who has the audacity to say "if you don't have sex with me, you don't love me" is suspect; I'd have to say that in saying so, they are showing that, in all likelihood, they don't love you!  Tell him: If YOU LOVED ME, you would respect my desire to wait until marriage-and if you don't have that level of respect for me, WE DON'T BELONG TOGETHER!.
12962
I certainly couldn't argue with your sexual prowess, having no personal experience with you from which to draw from. So I'll start by just believeing that it's at least close to being true.\n\nWhy does he cheat? You say you only do what he asks you to do. I find this statement somewhat odd and I am not sure exactly what you mean by it. Without more information it's hard to give you a "real" answer but, here are a few possibilites (I'm not implying that any of them or all of them are true.)... Maybe he feels neglected in other areas of the marriage? Maybe he married young and feels like he missed out on being single? Maybe he disagrees with your statement regarding "sexual prowess"? Maybe he is going through a mid-life crisis?\n\nIt's hard to give you a good answer without more information. Post more details or drop me an email, I'll help if I can.
502058
Maybe he is having problems preforming and he is insecure about it. I am 20 and my husband is 34 and we have been together for 2 years. Sometimes you still love each other and you still find one another attractive, but you just need a break from the sexual part of the relationship. Are you feeling pressure from the idea of marriage? Are you both stressed out in any way more than usual, maybe from planning a wedding? It all factors in, as long as you still love each other, it's OK. Sex isn't everything.
192983
Sounds like friends with benefits. Dump him. There will be someone special that you meet and will love you forever. This guy sounds like all he wants is sex from you. A relationship takes 2 people giving to it not just 1. Good luck.