What do you think about a woman asking the man to marry them? Is that wrong? I heard a woman can do this on a leap year? LOL. I guess you could any year but I want to know if it matters who asks who? What do ya think?
126540
go for it.\nthats a great idea.\ninfact i respect your decision.\n\nokey. as said , its the tradition \nof a man to ask a lady to marry him.\nbut i guess culture is changing as we grow. \nas of this days, you wont be suprised to see a lady proposing to a man. that will depend on the love they \nshare both. infact i like it when a lady is the one to propose. \nwhen there is love, nothing will befall in between.\nthere is nothing wrong a woman proposing to a guy.\n\nbe inspired and go for it.
617294
Are you crazy? Hardly. Are there women out there like that? Of course. We're all very different.\n\nPS: Did anyone else notice that a guy asked this? Not that it makes any difference, I just noticed that a lot of the answers were directly pitched to women!
185003
Why do you think ,you want to marry this man?is it love, security , lust or proving a point.\n\nI did the same thing and it absolutely ruined my life.\n\nIt should be possible to find another alternative, I only wish that i had tasted the water before.\n\nwhatever you decide it, try to make the best ,rational solution that your young mind can give you.
352554
make it unique!! specially designed for her!!! My hubby prepared a video.... showing him n me in a few romantic moments & then proposed me in the video itself. He invited me home & told me that we'll be watching a movie but instead he showed that video clip after dinner. as soon as he proposes me in the video he paused it & took out the ring. I loved it!!! & I said yes.
440505
I am married and I think it is funny; don't marry this girl she has no sense of humor.  If I have learned anything by being married for 6 years, I must have a sense of humor.  Also my husband and I spent 150 dollars at James Avery on our rings.  We felt that we should concentrate on the marriage and not the materlistic things that are associated with it!
250020
By nature, a lot of men are hunters and have the need for conquest.  Once they achieve the goal, whether it be to mate or marry, then something clicks in their head and it might be time to find the next challenge.  This trait is problematic in a marriage.  Some times we think that because we take the vow, that the deal is done, then don't need to try as much and take the relationship for granted.\n\nMarried for 10 years, then divorced for 5.  I find that sharing my freedom and independence with a special woman allows the relationship to remain fresh and alive.  I won't say never, but I'm liking being without the assumed obligations that go with marriage.  If I'm with someone, I enjoy making that choice more than once and if we find that its just not working for us any longer, it's simpler to part ways.  \n\nI say enjoy the gifts life has to offer and although it may be remote, if one day you happen across a keeper, then just don't close your mind to the possibility.  I certainly won't rush into anything and would live with someone for a good couple of years proir.  Let's see what we're like when all the pretending is over and learn if true compatibility exists.  Make sense?
23872
You might want to find out how he feels about this. I know my husband would have flipped if i had done the proposing. But, then again we are pretty conservative people. Good Luck!
354395
as women we spend most of our trying \n to analyze what a guy does and what it " really means." The truth is it is usually very evident in how they act or in this case what he says. Marriage just isn't on the top of his list or any where close. But don't freak out because you guys are still young. The reason he talks about it is because he knows its important to you so he brings up the hypothetical situation so he can keep you interested without actually committing to marry you at this time. The problem here is that the women often gets impatient waiting for it to be the right time, get really pushy with the guy and end up losing him. Or the women decides  she will just be very patient, never talks about marriage, and wait for the guy to ask. So years go by and the guy gets comfortable with how the relationship is so doesn't really want to change it, so  marriage gets pushed even further from the top of his list. So if this relationship is worth keeping ,you have to find the right balance of not pushing too much, but letting him know that your not planning on being his life time girlfriend. It's hard to find that balance but it can be done.
618494
I always had my heart set on meeting Mr. Right and being married by age 25, that didn't happen.  I am now 28 and I am desperately hoping to find someone and be married by age 30.  I think that this is a common way of thinking because no woman wants to be an old maid.  I also think that women tend to be more obsessed with the thought of growing old and becoming less attractive.
226702
If anyone wants to order a mail order bride or whatever let them.  The bride is submitting herself to find a husband, better way of life, money, and etc.  So if there's two consenting adults then there's no problem because they both took the step together unforced.
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I don't think so. I would never ever have done it in a million years. If he doesn't propose it is because he doesn't want it. If you want to get married discuss the topic,shop for rings,and discuss it some more,but in the end please leave this one to the guys ladies. I know we live in a world where women are more independent and go after exactly what they want but really I would hope that the guy you are with has enough intiative to tell the women he loves that he wants to marry her. Don't you think that in the back of your mind you would always wonder if he really wanted it and if he ever would have proposed had you not?Good luck!
577598
good to know you take marriage seriously, guy.  asking a woman to marry you should be nerve racking as all get out!  \n\nkeep in mind, "marriage" is only sacred if a person makes good on his/her lifetime vow "to love, honor, and cherish" their spouse ...the commitment is renewed and lived each and every day.
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I don't agree with half these people and the things their saying...unbelievable! Firstly, I have seen a lot more personel questions then this on yahoo and secondly why are people assuming this person is not married? Sorry Lee Lee Bell, I know this doesn't answer your question, but reading some of the things people have written back to you made me mad!
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There is absolutely nothing wrong with asking a guy to marry you...just make sure, like a man does, that there is a 99% chance you will get a "yes" to the question. And, be prepared to say C ya in the small chance that he says "no, not at this time."  I assume you have been going together for a long period of time, that all is well, and it is time to get married. Go for it. It has been done for 100's of years, not just today.
128476
I would say its very common now for a black man to marry a white woman.  Have seen this many many times.  BUT you very seldom see a black girl and a white guy!  A woman knows by timeshe is 12 years old who her dream man is!  Hell we have our wedding and kids planned!  lol  Mine was the Marlboro man.  I dont think its really a choice u make.  You r either attracted or not.  I like my redneck cowboys!  Marrying a black man is not something I would look for in a husband.  Its just not my preference.  But if someone else does it certainly does not bother me.  Ummmm unless Vin Diesel asked then maybe.........lol  Nope love my cowboys and have since I was a little girl!
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hell first i am a guy.....i am a newlywed of 1 year...when my wife had told me she wanted marriage it was great news to me..i acted like i knew nothing of it..meaning i knew she wanted marriage..we talked about it..this was so exiting for me..if you know for sure he is wanting to marry you...then wait..don't approach him again..why? well alot of guys are the same i knew she wanted marriage so i thought about the perfect way to ask her..i thought about all the good things that i wanted as well..i think to sum this up...he wants to think of the perfect wedding..he wants this to be the most beautiful day for the both of you..he will come around give it time...please take this advise from a man who has went through the same exact thing
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A friend of mine married his wife after asking her for her hand three dates into their relationship.  At the time they were 19 - male and 17 female.  35 years later they are the only couple still together as everyone else has been married and either separated or divorced.  So this proves that it can happen but stats would say that overall this is too young to marry and that this age group would be more likely to end in divorce than those who waited until in their 20's.  I don't know if I can agree with these stats or not as it appears that we live in a very disposable society and men and woman of all ages are so ready to just throw in the towel as soon as things start to get difficult.