What's up with that? Is having kids an excuse to weighing 200lbs and not having sex with your husband? (not that he'd want to anyway) But really what's up with that?
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I've never been married but I think after people get married, their lives become very occupied with work, bills, children, marriage, and what not and they do not find time to exercise and stay in shape.  I think it's important to stay in shape but I know how hard it can be to find the discipline when you're always on the move with a busy schedule, boring meetings, travel, etc.  However, just like it's very important to love your wife or husband for who they are as human beings and what they meean to you emotionally, it's also important to like them physically.  I think it's great to make love to someone who, not only do you love, but you also find very attractive as well.
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I am 5 months pregnant.. My wife and I chose a childhood friend that we knew would respect our wishes.. Plus how many men (being honest now) would turn down a chance to have 2 women for a week with all for his needs cartered to.. NOT MANY!! I know three other couples at this time that are either pregnent or trying to conceive.
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My husband kind of did something similar to me..and I can tell you dragging it out only hurt me more.  Although he cheated, lied, etc.  I did want to be sexual, he didn't always, but in the end my ex just wasn't ready to settle down.  It can be harder if you have kids (as we did) but you can still be in their life and be a good father if you and their mother are seperated.  Just make sure nothing else is what is actually bothering you...before jumping..grass isn't always greener on the other side.
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Ah, I am sorry to hear how much this is upsetting you, and I feel sorry for him as well. I wish I had a crystal ball to look into and find out what's really going on here. Something's fishy. \n\nAt the start of many sexual relationships, the lovemaking is hot! It's natural for sex to wane over time and you two were very busy. I sense that there's an undercurrent you need to ferret out, as it seems that he is flat-out avoiding sex with you. \n\nAsk yourself some basic questions: when did things change? Was there an incident that you can remember? Has there been a gradual decline? Has putting on weight, having children, a change in income/earnings or something like that happened? \n\nAs for the importance of this to your relationship, although national studies have shown disparate results, sex is not usually the number one issue in saving a marriage. However, if it's a top need for you and it compounds your feelings of inadequacy, erodes your self-esteem, makes you feel unloved or affects your ability to feel good about yourself in general, then it's time to have a serious heart-to-heart with him. Be gentle when you talk about it and try to understand what's bothering him. After that, you may need to seek professional help either together or alone — or give him up in the end.
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My husband and I married never expecting to have kids because of various problems I had in my early 20's.Yes, I prayed for my first baby...mostly for her and that she would be healthy. My doctor had told me that because of my weight (obese pregnancy) that I would be facing severe complications and possible loss of pregnancy but I didn't. Except for the usual stuff and even more wieght gain, I was healthy and so was she. Now my son on the other..he was a complete blissful and wonderful surprise. So with God all things are indeed quite possible. God bless you and your husband...with as many as you want. Love in Christ, ~J~ <><
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I'd rather have the in shape guy. I'm not emphasizing good looking, that would be great but isn't mandatory. HOWEVER, if I'm investing enough of myself and time into someone that I have sex with them? I want them to stick around for awhile. Penis size seems irrelevant if you have to be air lifted from your bed for emergency surgery after that heart attack. Someone that fat literally lives on their deathbed, usually with clogged arteries, gout, or diabetes.No thanks.
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I WOULD!!! I MEAN IT'S NOT ABOUT WHATS ON THE OUTSIDE IT'S WHAT'S ON THE INSIDE THAT COUNTS! RIGHT! I SAY DON'T WORRY ABOUT IT SO MUCH BECAUSE IF A WOMEN CAN'T/WON'T EXCEPT YOU FOR WHAT'S ON THE INSIDE THEN SHE'S PROBABLY NOT WORTH FOOLING WITH!!! I THINK PEOPLE ARE REALLY GETTING TO JUDGMENTAL NOW DAYS!!! SO, DON'T WORRY ABOUT IT! JUST BE YOURSELF!! I KNOW HOW YOU ARE FEELING!! I'M 25 YEAR OLD AN HAVE NEVER WEIGHED MORE THAN 120POUNDS AN AFTER HAVING MY SON WENT TO 150! I HAVE BEEN STRUGGLING TO LOOSE IT EVER SINCE!\n\nWISHING YOU THE BEST!!\nAN IF YOU JUST NEED SOMEONE TO TALK TO FEEL FREE TO EMAIL ME!!
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I am so proud of you gal!! And even more glad that you decided to post your experience here for other woman to see that its doable..  a lot of woman just think its impossible, its hard but not impossible!! I am happy for you and your kids, you do not need a man like that in your life! I bet you will find better just give it some time as for him thinking that you will not make it on your own prove him wrong!!\nWish you and your kids all the best!
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He has a lot of excuses, none of which strike me as sincere.\n\nI would guess that he has met someone new, or is out of love with you but finds some aspects of your relationship worth hanging on to (financial, maybe?)    Or maybe he just doesn't have the guts to say none of it's what he wants anymore.   If that's the case, then don't make it worse for both of you by hanging on until it's a disaster.    Go while you can still stand each other.\n\n Not wanting sex has nothing to do with him getting older.   I'm in that older bracket myself, and age has nothing to do with THAT.    Have you ever met one that didn't want sex (except this one)?   Exactly. \n\nYeah, they get bored easily but so do we, especially with those younger ones who think they are Sex Machines but have a lot to learn.   If he's already exhausted his sexual imagination, maybe YOU should move on :-)   \n\nHe's working long hours?   Are you sure he's at work? \n\nToo many excuses.    If he's mature and really cares about you, the sex should always be good.    That's not an age thing, a weight thing, a beauty contest, or a 2 1/2 year thing.    Go the mall and look at all the weird unattractive couples who are obviously crazy about each other.   This ain't no beauty contest, this is real life.   Not everyone is pretty.   A good relationship makes sex good.    \n\nThere is the slight possibility that he could have a physical problem causing a low sex drive, but that's not what I'm seeing here.    I've never seen a man turn down an attractive, caring partner.    THey could have just ridden a bicycle cross-country, and can still find the strength to do the wild thang.   So hire a private detective or do a little snooping on your own.   \n\nGood luck to you.
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Most people who are happily married do tend to gain weight.  It is kind of like the freshmen college weight gain most people experience.
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I'm simply in awe that you were able to wait that long before you decided to take your relationship to the bedroom...\n\nIf you are scared about the weight, woman on top and spooning are good choices.  Same with doggy style.  \n\nTalk with him and find out what he thinks.  Does he have the same concerns as you?  \n\nAlso, I see no reason to post that he is of a different race.  If it doesn't bother you any other time, why should it be a factor now?
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I wish my hubby had a higher libido...after having five kids and being married for several years our love life has gotten boring and his sex drive has gone down. We are always paying attention to the kids and dealing with other things to even begin thinking about intimacy. \n\nI would love it if I actually had to worry about tuning myself up to meet his needs! It would make me feel more desirable...
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oh sweety, that is a  far cry from looking 200 pounds.. maybe he got you confused with someone else.. or was just jokin but i dont understand that joke but then again i dont understand  guys..
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Oh hell, we are so different now its almost funny. But we grew together, not apart. He's military, so he started cussing a bit more (stopped that in the house), we both gained about 20 pounds in the last 9 years. We both have things we didn't realize till married. Lots of things. But that always happens, the changing part. If we were still the same, it would be so sad. But I found out lots of good things about him. And we try to talk alot when we notice changes. Its all about communication!
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My husband weighs 250 and hes hot.  He has a shaved head too does that count?  Anyway I think he is hot but what is most important is his personality and the way he treats me.  That is seriously what attracted me to him, not to be sappy or anything.  So that would be a yes.
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I've been married for 14 years and also have 4 children.  I could go for months without sex!  \n\nIt is called EXHAUSTION!  There are days when I think to myself, if he touches me I will scream, literally!  After a day of "Mom, I'm hungry, Mom, take me to practice, Mom, he hit me, Mom, Mom, Mom, Mom!!!, I'm lucky to get a shower, let alone actually be in the mood for sex.  Don't stress about it.  There is nothing wrong with you, it is just a natural part of being a mom.  It will get better, won't it???  No, it will.  Just try to force yourself to do your wifely duty when you can, and eventually you will actually WANT to do it.  I know that sounds awful, but it is just what happens in a marriage when there are children.  You are only one person and you can only stretch so far.  Don't allow yourself to feel guilty because you are human.  \n\nP.S. You may not want to tell your husband you are forcing yourself!  lol\n\nGood luck to you!
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I think you are HO. I read your other posts...um did you leave your husband yet??? Is the divorce final??? Because you are asking how to screw all of these random guys and are you still married????? Considering you asked if you should leave your husband only 2 weeks ago it would seem you are sTILL married. THat makes you a cheating HO.Maybe you should worry more about your 5 year old kid instead of screwing random guys and worrying about booty calls all the time. Straighten up your life. Hopefully your husband will find out what a dirty skank you are and leave you before you give him and STD. Keep your legs closed.