I am with my boyfriend for 18months, he comes from another country but has been living here, for the last 2 years for work, money and better life.He had a teenage relationship for 4 years before moving here. He finds time to c me everynight eventhogh his time is limited, never talks bad to me, loves my daughter a lot and generally has good relations with my family.He even took me for a holiday in christmas to meet his parents and stayed over with them. The problem is like this, he has communication with his x, i find messages and calls on his mobile, he sits and talk on the yahoo for hours with her. Last week he sent her a message saying that he is on the webcamera and they can talk on the net so she gets to the net. Last year we had arguements on these, and he was insisting she is just a friend. Now I try to fight it and convincemyself that i should ignore it. Guides what do I do, in the last 3 weeks he got net at his flat and he spends more hours there now than with me.?Help
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Well it sounds like he is still in love with her. I mean if I am seeing you and then tlaking with my ex on a regular basis then something is up. Look I have been in this situtaion before. No matter how much he denys it, the fact is that he can't let go. Let him know that he has a choice between you and that other girl. If he really cares for you then he will move one. Now I just hope that you are not doing the same. I think it is important that you both want the same in thing. And no matter what he tells you it is obvouis that he still loves her. Look the worst thing is to countue talking with someone that you were with and then deny that you have no feelings for her. I think you have a choice and it is up to you if your gonna play second place to that other girl.
576426
No, it isn't.\nHe's not got the priorities right.\nAlthough it is o.k. to hang out with friends when in a relationship, the focus clearly should be to be with your loved one first, then friends.\nSo if he hangs out with his friends occasionally, it's ok. But not in the way you describe it.\nI'd definitely talk to him to get clarity. Maybe he believes it's fine for you and not a problem at all.\nMen can be very strange at times and neglect their loved ones unknowingly and unintentionally. So make it clear to him and see whether he changes his behavior or not.\nIf he has any feelings for you, he will reduce the time with his friends and spend more time with you..
201970
I personally think that he is a J-E-R-K! I totally agree with you and I think that you should talk to him about it and ask him why is he not calling, emailing (etc) you at all. I'm not saying straight-up break up with him but he needs to show that he actually loves you. If I saw him, I would tell him to be your boyfriend and not to just think he can coast along enjoying the benefits and not doing the love. I hope you find someone who will treat you like a queen and not a servant. -Cody
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Ask yourself why is he insecure? Are you spending more time on 360 than with him? If he were spending his down time on360 instead of talking to you would you feel the same way? Is he spending a lot of time out of the home? He could be cheating and feeling guilty so he is trying to make you feel guilty. Think about those things and you may come up with the answer to your question.
509057
It sounds as though the two of you really need to sit down and talk, tete-a-tete.  The fact that you have been off and on for a couple of years, he's texting you now after a recent breakup, taking you to lunch, etc. and now you don't know what his motive is - just try to talk about it.\nI think that's the only way you are going to be able to truly get to the bottom of your dilemma.
99230
seems fishy, like he's either hiding something or just refuses to openly communicate with her anymore in which case, if I were her, I'd ease on out of this relationship & move on with my life....a relationship without open communication is no relationship at all.
663769
Nah, it sounds like he isn't being honest with you, and that is a major component in a distance relationship.  If he's lying to you now then it will only get worse as time goes by and he gets away with more.  Also, once a cheater always a cheater.  It sounds like you need to find someone a bit closer.
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I suggest you get a new hobbie or perhaps go out to the gym. You don't always want to be "available" to him. Occasionally I tell my bf that I'm busy. I've even had instances where I had other people vying for my time. So much that my bf got upset and said I was putting hi off for my friends. \n\nEven when my bf and I are together, I have something to do. We've been together for a bit and even when I spend nights at his house, I don't spend 24&#92;7 all on him. Maybe I'll read a book, or do some stuff online, maybe get some homework done or even talk on the phone. \n\nIts important in relationships to have together time and apart time.\n\nNow if he really IS neglecting you, TELL HIM. Straight out and without the tears. He'll ignore you, guys hate seeing girls cry especially when they dont understand why.  BE SPECIFIC. Say what he does and how often that upsets you. Then listen. Maybe he's bored of doing the same old thing with you. Spice it then, go snow boarding, christmas decorating, even BOWLING, just something NEW. Something so that when he thinks of you, he thinks spontaneous, not dull.
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He's waisting your time and so are you!  If he is living with another girl, and he left you for her, you're never going to be able to forgive him for it.  So if I were you, just tell him that you're not in the mood to be playing games.  Dont call him, dont answer his calls, and dont try to meet up with him anywhere.  Hes playing a game with you and if you let him win, then what else to you have to look forward to?  You need to be strong and stand up for yourself?  do you like to be pushed and toyed around?  Didn't think so!  Honey, there are plenty of wonderful men out there, this one is not the last and only one for you!  Just give it time, and good things will come to you!  And the best part is, it will come to you when you least expect it! take care Sweetie!
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Sounds to me like he needs to check his homeboys. Sounds like homeboys are jealous. If your boyfriend is that insecure when it comes to your whereabouts then he needs to spend less time with the homeboys and more time with you and tell his so called homeboys to stay outta your business.
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Ouch this a hurtfull situation. But first you need to confront him and find out whats going on and dont let him play you for stupid. You next person to confront is her! She needs to know what she is dealing and find out what she is doing. He may think its harmless but you guys have 2 kids together and it sounds like he is pretty seriously committed to you. He should have no reason to call her and break up a happy home. You seriously might want to rethink the whole relationship. Maybe even give him a scare and say you are leaving him because you found out he was talking to "that girl" if he loves you he will stop and wont ever do it again. And seriously think about it he has already cheated on your with this girl and she is obbviously still on his mind. You should have cut it off when he first cheated.
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My boyfriend also has a difficult time talking.  We've been together for almost 2 years and while we are not a long-distance couple yet (he's joining the military) right now he's in university so I only see him once a week or sometimes even once every 2 weeks.  We try to talk on the phone, but our conversations are boring.  I don't want to talk about what groceries he bought from the store that night.  So I try to schedule times when we are to discuss important issues.  In the past I have e-mailed him my concerns that I feel we need to talk about.  That way he has an idea what it is that I need to talk with him about and he has a chance to think about what he wants to say.  Sometimes I think guys need time to come up with answers (they're not as quick on the ball as women are).  But so far, we haven't been able to discuss anything important over the phone.  We wait until we are face to face.  This is a huge concern for me since all long distance relationships require communication.  If you can't talk openly and have meaningful conversations with one another, a long distance relationship will NOT last.  Good luck.
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It seems he is using getting close to your daughter as a way to stay in your house (maybe not intentionly) Sit down and talk to him, tell him your not ready to live with him full time. If your ready for try having just stay over at weekends. If he loves you he will understand, but be prepared if this is not what he wants to hear this may break upo the reletionship. First think clearly about what you really want and when you approach him with the subject just be prepared for what your gonna hear in return. \n\nGOOD LUCK!
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try to talk to him and tell him it bothers you that he is spending too much time on the computer and that you miss him and it is cutting into your quality time together..if he cared for you as much as he says he might get the hint...if this doesn't do the trick..unplug the computer and tell him no more chat until he learns to appriciate you and your time together again
142377
Why doesn't he block her or have his number changes?  She can only contact him and talk to him if he allows it.  The problem here isn't her but your boyfriend.  If he wanted to stop her then he would have.
389610
I don't think you love him...not yet, especially if you and he can't have a conversation over the phone yet.  A lot of guys don't like the phone, and they aren't like girls who can just sit around talking about things.  Don't call him unless you actually have something to say to him...whether it be, "hey, come over for a while", or "what do you want to do this weekend"...don't just call and make "what did you do today" the whole conversation.  Maybe what he is doing isn't even worth mentioning...in his eyes anyway.  It seems to me that you need someone that can stimulate conversation, and in this relationship that's going to have to be you.  Ask him direct questions and you will get direct answers.
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You need to ask him that question.\nEverybody needs some time to themselves even if they are not on their own. You cannot judge his willingness to communicate with your own as people are different. Understand why he needs time to himself, find a compromise between the two of you and then respect each others needs (his to isolation, yours to communication).