I’m interested in that just wants to be friends. if I hang out with her and her friends it requires me to take vacation off from work.  Wouldn't I be putting myself out there, since its obvious I took time off for her.\n\nHere is background info:\n\nShe was interested in me and still is. but since are first meeting, she met another guy, even though she was still interested in me, she was hoping it would not work out, but it has worked. She said she unfortunately has a boyfriend right now, now she wants to be friends hang out, have lunch, dance, she doesn’t want to miss the opportunity again, and really thinks I’m a cool guy and wants to hang out and has told her boyfriend about and that she wants to be friends., And would love to spend time with me. She also invited me to hang out with her and her friends every Tuesday night. What do I do now? I almost think that I should give her space, maybe a month, and then play hard to get, but then again
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I'd avoid getting involved in this mess. If she likes you, let her figure out how to work it out. She sounds a little flaky to me. What happens when someone more interesting comes along once you two hook up? Is she going to want to be friends with him? See my point?
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Congratulations! You are the rebound guy. Dude she's definitely using you as the rebound guy. She wanted to date around and he didn't that's why he's not calling her back. If he was to say to her "okay let's have a open relationship", she would lie to you about it and act like she's acting now, like everything is fine. You have the proof that she is willing to be unfaithful to you, now what are you going to do with it????
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she doesn't hate you. i think she is just not that into you. because you like her so much, she might feel it's too much.\nand also, she is on vacation, so she probably just want to have a good time.
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If you find out how to get past the "friend barrier", let me know.  I hear a lot of women say they want to be friends with a guy & then date him, but I also know several girls who say I'm a great friend & have no romantic interest in me whatsoever.  Usually, I try the honest approach & tell a girl I'm interested in more from here, but have only had limited success at best with that idea.  Still, at least if you're honest & tell her your feelings, you won't be wondering years from now what would have happened if you had the guts to tell her.  Best of luck, & I hope everything works out for the best.
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sounds like she is showing off in person...she wants everyone to know she has a boyfriend...Is it that she likes you for a friend, but doesn't want to be committed?   sound like she is not sure what she wants...maybe she is too young
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i think you should let her know how you feel about her.\n\ni think it would be much easier to tell her this in person  so i would just ask her to take some time aside on a day and try to go out somewhere where you can talk dinner/coffee/park but somewhere commercial not too busy tho where there isn't eery silence or awkward feelings for reactions to a conversation like that \n\nbye what u have stated it doesn't seem as if she shares the same feelings with you  but i would not know since i dont know her\n\nbut be cautious  because if in fact that she doesn't feel the same way as you do about each other you might be faced with the problem of just wanting to stay friends \n\nbut also don't obsess or show obsession over the situation because that can push someone away and make them feel uncomfortable around you
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The best thing you can do in this situation, is to take a step back, and wait. It appears you're pressing the issue too hard, and you have her a little threatened by your persistence. Leave it alone for a few days. It's obvious you're not going to care less, but it might give her a chance to see you're an all right guy that she would like to spend some time with. Good Luck!
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She knows you like her and she is playing with you.\nShe is playing difficult with you.\nNow, you must play difficult with her.\nWhen she ask you to call her on Sunday just tell her that you are busy as you are going out with friends and that next time.\n\nYou have to cosider the following:\nDo you think you are the only one that she is doing this thing to?\nDo you think that she really visited a friend or was she with another man in her list?\n\nIf she likes you really she will not want to lose you.\nShe will let you go if she has got other men to play with.
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thats a tough situation \nbut you cant go back in time and changed what you said then\nbut im sure things will turn out for the best in the long run\nbtu for now i would suggest maybe backing of alittle bit\ncall ehr sometimes maybe causually ask her what shes doing that weekend and hint that yall should hang out\niif shes interested she will probably agree to that and continue makign  plans
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She might have gone out with the guy once or twice or maybe they are just not really serious at this point.  There might be room for you if you are persistant.  Ask her what exactly she means.  Ask her if she is into this guy or if they are just hanging out until something else comes along or what.  Then you will know where to go from there.
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Extremely weird, she wants to look into a relationship, but all the goodies go to your friend.  Sorry, need to next her.  You're friend can have her, no wait he has....
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Don't take offense, please, but: HELLO? DO YOU NEED A ROCK TO FALL ON YOUR HEAD? This girl definitely wants to be more than friends. If you too are interested talk to her about it. It sounds like you aleady have a good rapport so that should not be difficult. Good luck.
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I think she is testing you to see what you will do. Sometimes girls play hard to get and thats sometimes their way of doing it. Ask her again. Tell her you can't stop thinking about her and that you really like her and you would like to your friendship to a new level like dating.
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If this is a new relationship with him then maybe it's because it's exciting for her. Have you tried to schedual some time with your friend? Ask her to spend sometime with you too.
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WOW! I think she loves you but knows so much about you and you about her that it's become too difficult to broach the subject of you two being a potential love match. I think you need to ask yourself do I love her in that way? If you do you've got to bite the bullet this weekend and ask her if she has feelings for you other than as a friend? Tell her you want a relationship with a girl and are confused as she seems like a friend most of the time but then when you discuss the subject of other women she doesnt seem able to ddeal with it. DO YOU LIKE HER????? i hope you do and that she feels the same and can finaly get the strength to let you know, some of the best relationships start with 2 people being friends first I think you 2 stand a fair chance of settling down together unless she is just a friend and a possessive one at that. If that is the cse you need to tell her you are interested in having agirlfriend and she needs to allow you to do this if she cant deal with that then you need to meet her a little bit less cos no girlfriend will put up with you having such a female possessive best mate! Good Luck!!
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Don't make it complicated and obsess about it. She hasn't mentioned the boyfriend (if he still exists) because she's interested in you. Ask her if she's available. Her yes or no ought to answer the question. If she says she's "sort of" seeing someone, you can figure out if you want to "sort of" see her along with another guy or not.  Have fun, take a chance. Life's too short.
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My man, either she doesn't have faith in her ability to be in a relationship, she's holding out for something else, or she doesn't know what the heck she wants.  \n\n1) She likes you as a friend, you have fun together, she doesn't want to risk that by having a relationship with you because she thinks it would end in disaster and you would not be friends any longer...\n\n2) ...or he wants to keep  you around in case she doesn't get the guy she really wants, she can use you as a backup....\n\n3) ...or she's a ditzy-brained bird who can't figure out what the heck she wants.\n\nAny way this is playing out, the girl has some stuff to work out and you'd do well not to hang your heart on her, so move on, find someone else and don't let yourself get hurt!