So my friend thinks one of his friends is gay.  Has thought so for years.  He told his other friend this info.  Turns out that the friend he thinks is gay isn't... In reality, the friend he told this to IS.  And, to make it even more interesting, that friend has the hots for him.  Now this guy isn't gay that I know of, but the gay friend wants him.  So what's a gay to do?
120075
well if the other guy you thought is gay, is not...\nthen the best thing for the gay guy to do is too either see for himself cuz the 'straight" guy may be lying, or to find someone else
647587
You can tell if your friend is gay by asking him.  \n\nIf you are not gay, you may want to mention how his behavior is unpleasant to you.\n\nIf you are gay, and he freaks out when you ask, you can point out that you're not the one who has been making sex comments and running around naked, and perhaps he should think about his actions.
67884
In this situation you should probably try spending some quality time with the person sooner or later it will become totally clear of their sexuality and you never know if they are they may come out and ask you first, either that or talk to a mutual friend if there is one available, and try to get the dish on what they are into, basically the same thing you would do if you were straight, nothing really has to be different. The worst that could happen is that he says no but it is best to be true to yourself :-))!!!
634232
You probably want to stay clear of that one as you may lose a friend.. You can tell them  you are gay.. That's accepted today.. BUT if you tell him you are gay and you are in love with him,  you risk losing him as a friend.  Start out with baby steps and then if he is cool and opens up to you too and tells you he is gay, maybe you want to begin with trust, going out with him, working out with him etcc... He will get the message and you will see from his demeanor whether you have a chance or are even his type.. To recap, you can come out to him.. If he comes out to you, then you need to be passive and let him figure out that maybe you are the guy for him.. BUT don't comeout and tell him you love him.. Disaster waiting to happen..
645528
I've seen several questions like this one lately...They completely blow the theory many gays spout out that homosexuality is not a choice!  According to most gays, you're either born gay or not...no in between.
444049
Hi there!\n\nWell I'm sure your friend did not "just discover he is gay" it's not like you look under this rock one day and Oh My God I just discovered this.\nIt just sounds cute the way you said it, but I'm sure he has known for quite a while because gay does not BING turn on all of a sudden.\nSo support him be his best friend more then ever right now, because it took him tremendous courage to even speak to you about it ...I would think.\nI don't know how old either one of you are but it is the same for heteros as homos we all need and all need at the different ages, so just be there for him and love him. It will all come in time, his courage will build and he will meet people just as everyone does, give it time. Maybe at school there are some support groups for gays, something like that could be helpful for him and help him feel more secure about himself plus he could meet people.
470181
Talking it over with close friends.  Eventually, a person accepts his or her sexual orientation, self-identifies with others like that, and notes who (or what) he or she is to a close friend.  I think the fact that this one longterm friend had actually come out to me some months beforehand also helped. It's a safety issue, I think. It was like a weight being lifted from my shoulders when I came out to him and said, "this" is what am.  It also answered questions regarding stress throughout my life.
26058
Get to know him. Mention a news story that you've seen on gay people or a friend you know is gay or tell him that you are gay/bi, and ask him what he thinks. If he reacts well to gay issues, just tell him you like him. Even if he doesn't feel the same way towards you, if he's comfortable with gay people you can still be friends.
262634
Nothing, maybe he just doesn't have your personality. He keeps his thoughts to himself. Many guys are like this, it doesn't mean they are gay or bi. Hell I' am like that mosto f the time unless I drink then you can't shut me up. Don't be afraid of this friend even if he turns out to be gay or bi. Just.... be his friend. And don't worry about his sexuality he will tell you if you need to know.
247329
You might feel like you're on a date, but that's just because you're straight.  He doesn't feel that way at all.  I had this one friend and I didn't think that I was leading her on or whatever and she KNEW I was gay, but she said that it was unfair of me to play with her like that and act like I was into her.  I wasn't GIVING her signals or anything though.  If he really wants you, let him come to you, you don't wanna lose a friendship just because you think you could convert him.  Things would just be WEIRD between the two of you.
206134
hmmm...personally, i'd guess that he's not gay.  I'd say that he's either bisexual, or he's playing that angle to get you to be more relaxed, more comfortable around him, so the transition to a relationship would be easier and less awkward.  It might not work, but that would be my conclusion regarding the whole sitch.
166056
it's really hard to tell someone's sexual preference these days, as i'm sure you know. i've never had to deal with this kind of situation before so my advice might be a lil spotty. i think you should just try and be friends with him for awhile at first and see if you can tell by just talkin to him. if that doesn't work and you feel comfortable enough then you should ask him. just be patient and see what happens. it could just turn out that he'll be a really good friend but not gay. you never know
203129
If he can't handle that you are gay, then you don't need him as a friend.  I'm straight and have plenty of gay friends.  One even asked me out, not realizing that I wasn't (honestly that made me feel kinda bad, but we reconciled)  If you KNOW he isn't gay but want to ask him out, don't if you want to keep him as a friend.  You should tell him you are gay and if he can't handle that, fark it.  But trying to impose your lifestyle on someone else is no better than a woman trying to make you straight.  (Or certain governments saying you can't be who you are or have chosen to be)
515236
With everything else you've told us, he seems more and more likely to be open to the idea, if not full out bi.  But if were just going to take the chest thing as the only evidence, I'd say 'nah'- I could see a straight guy acting similarly if he was secure in his sexuality and good friends- not every straight guy would freak out, you know?\n\nNow, a better litmus test would be to maybe brush his lips . . . nobody's going to take that as an accident.  Of course, that's probably too forward, but I wanna see the two of ya'll get together!  I feel like I'm involved in some suspenseful soap opera with all your questions!\n\nMy opinion, though, is that he's up for something, even if it's just curiousness or opennness about the idea.
416895
There's really not much you can do, since you probably won't change your other friends' minds about this situation.  However, they might be hurting because they feel like they've been betrayed - maybe they think that this person they thought they knew isn't the person they thought he was at all.  Maybe calling him names is their way of venting this frustration.  If this is the case, maybe you could talk to them about how hard it is to admit one's sexual orientation, especially when family relationships are at stake, that there was a reason he had to keep it a secret.  Make sure you keep supporting your homosexual friend, because with all of the opposition (especially the family opposition), he really needs you right now.  If these people can't accept your decision to remain friends with this person, then they probably aren't friends worth keeping, if they were ever really friends at all.  In any case, I don't believe in homosexuality myself, but I hope that you and your friend are able to find peace in resolving this situation.
166452
I would probably agree with gay, he may be confused with his own sexuality. The only other explanation is he could be shy or a virgin and not really know what he is doing. The best thing to do is ask him. It seems strange.
268540
No, I want to make it to Heaven so that is why I'm not gay. I am reading the bible gay people because make me like an outcast. I think people are okay with gay people. And what goes around comes around he isn't gay because he's my friend and I don't have gay people as friends.