I am a freshman in college, and my ex-boyfriend wants to room with me next semester.  I'm still friends with him, but this sounds like a bad idea to me.  Anyone have any thoughts?
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Bad idea. I dont think i have to explain why.
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Girlfriend you will experience all of the above! :-)  As far as the boyfriend situation keep communication open and tell him that you would love to try to make it work.  But, have a mutual agreement that if things are not working out so well long distance that you can walk away from the relationship as friends.  As far as the classes, most of them are pre-req courses, you will be fine! It's an atmosphere that takes time to get used to, but once you do you will LOVE IT! Eating habits, college brings out the bad eater in all of us, it will be so easy to grab something quick, which usually results in something unhealthy, just keep yourself active.  Homesickness, yes at first, but it gets easier with time  :-)  Dorm issues, I had a couple, but my dormmated and I got each other through alot! And Im sure yours will too!  Good luck to you, and stay positive!  \n\nMatt
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By date 5 within a two month period of time you're boyfried/girlfriend.  When you agree to stop seeing other people then you're committed bf/gf.  \n\nWhy on earth live with someone if you're not committed? \n\nUnless you just have a thing for your roommate.
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You don't have to be good friends to be roomates.  Since the friendship is not working out, plan on going your own way.  Don't expect her to invite you to places and don't tag along.  Find your own friends and spend time with them.  When you need to be alone, leave the room.  Take a walk outside, or go to another friend's room for a while.  \n\nIn order to make things more tollerable, sit down with her and discuss some ground rules.  You will have to compromise on some things.  Maybe no naked guys in the room would be a good rule.  I'm sure there are rules for the dorm about guys and girls mixing.  Review those rules with her.   Try writing out a contract that both of you will sign.\n\nAbove all else, realize that you are roomates and that doesn't mean you have to be best friends.  When I was in college, I didn't socialize with my roomates at all outside of the room.  I do have to admit that they were much more respectful than your roomate is so life was a lot easier.
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I say don't date the one in your grade, simply because if you breakup, then you are forced to see each other all the time, and that will disrupt your life.  But, if you are just asking about being friends then, why can't you be friends with both.  What's the problem, they don't like each other?  If that's so, then don't invite one guy to hang out while you are hanging out with the other guy.
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If you are meant to be, you will be. Enjoy diversity while you are young. If he doesn't want to be with you right now, why sit around and wait? You'll miss out on so much! You don't have to date if you don't want to. After a guy ripped my heart out my freshman year, I didn't date at all (during the school year anyway). \n\nMaybe the two of you will get back together. The more you dwell about it, the less romantic it will be, and the crazier it will drive you. Love finds you when you least expect it.\n\nEnjoy life while you are young and don't have a ton of bills to pay. Don't shut out other options entirely, just let them come to you. Good luck!
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i would say no. cause i was with someone before he went home from college and maybe two months after he was down there and calls me up and tells me that he found someone new. after all the things that i had done and all the time we spent together it seemed like it was for nothing.
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Like it or not, your friend was the one who ditched you--her boyfriend didn't "take her away" from you.\n\nMy best friend (and roommate) did this to me over a year ago.  I confronted her about it, and she stopped...but there was tension between her boyfriend and me for the remainder of her relationship with him.\n\nI still have trust issues with her and am waiting for the day she finds someone new and drops me all over again.
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Even if he doesn't realize it yet, or he won't admit it to you, he's going to want to explore his options a little at college. Pretty much everyone does. When you go off to college, it's pretty likely that you will too.\n\nIf you try to hold on too tightly, he may either break up with you, do things behind your back, or end up resenting you because he *wants* to explore on his own, and feels like you're holding him back. The fact that you will worry about what he's doing when you're not around will only make things worse.\n\nOne possibility is to break up with him before he leaves, but tell him that if he's interested after a semester or two, you might get back together with him. That also means that you can spend your time doing other things, seeing other guys casually, and generally letting your life go on.\n\nThere's a chance that even as he goes out and does the usual college things, he'll end up missing what he had with you. And if he doesn't, then it just wasn't meant to be, and you'll have a head start on moving on past him.
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maybe you are getting the things done your way. remeber two people being together is respect. Are you respecting him on the things he do. I mean maybe after school a group of friend is going to play basketball and you just want to do somethings else? I mean in a group event. of course your boyfriend wants to stay and hang out, but if you are like, "I want to leave, it is boring" which it is, but he still want to stay. you can't blame him. if you don't want to play go home first, have him walk you home or something than have him come back.
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I have to agree with your friend. College is hard enough without having to deal with the drama of a relationship. Focus on your studies for now. Relationships come and go, but friends are friends for life. Besides, you may be surprised at what might come out of that freindship.
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if he was sleeping on the floor of her dorm i don't think it's a big deal, especially if you two are only dating right now. i think at the point of marriage though, that would be plain disrespectful. \nyou should let her talk to her guyfriends still, some of them are probably like brothers, and i personally would Never let my boyfriend decide whether or not i can continue talking to some really good friends of mine. never.\n\nso i guess the question is: is she really that disrespectful of a person?
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By all means, if you and your ex had a good relationship while you were together, then I think you definatly should still be friends. My ex and I are still friends and we dated over 4 years ago. Ex boyfriends tend to be better friends that any other person sometimes because they know the real you. They understand you and they do care for you. I don't see anything wrong with it at all. My ex is a better friend to me than many of my other friends are.
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I met the guy I'm dating on the internet. He lived 12 hours away and wanted to come and meet me after about 5 months. I was in college and my professors and friends told me to have him come to the school to meet me. That way there were plenty of other people there and they could give me their opinions of what they thought of him. Never meet anyone alone where there are no other people or anyone you know. It's been over three years since that day and we are still together.
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First off I do not know the Circumstances. Why did they break up? How is the relationship going for the roommate? How long was he together with the girl. Unless he is positive that she is still trying to figure out what she wants. On thing is this is the nice way to not hurt him. Kind of like the answer I love you but there is no future for us. There seems to be two answers to this question. First answer: If he can stand the heartache of being hurt everytime she is with the roommate and there is no scene and he is not ready to move on then he should wait until he is ready.\nSecond answer: If he can't stand the pain then move on. Maybe then she will see that he is away and make her choice. Don't go running right back though. You might hurt the other person you are with at the time. Choices of the heart are different for everyone and every situation.
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No, this won't work!\nIf he wants to separate now until graduation, he will have other excuses later. Maybe he really believes that all your problems are due to his stress situation at med. school. But it is an illusion to think that this will be over after his graduation. Everybody's life is full of stressy situations, and he will have other ones later!\n\nOr he learns how to deal with stress management now, or he will never do it.\n\nBut maybe your problems are of a very different kind, and this 'stress' is only an excuse because he is to coward or simply to lazy to deal with your real problems in your relationship.\n\nMy advice to you is that you put all your energy finding out the roots of your problems. Even if you don't see any result in this later, never accept this deal of temporary separation, because it will senselessly ruin your own life!\n\nGood luck and be strong!
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i think its probably normal, but its not acceptable. but just wait til he goes to college and joins a frat, if you think thats bad.