She thinks that I'm all that. She tells me that 'I'm the love of her life' and that she 'will never get over me' and that she 'will wait forever until I come back to her'. She's still crying two years later. She's a really sweet girl, I care about her and I hate to see her like this. How can I help her let me go?
128998
First, you need to make sure that she is not under the impression that there is any chance you guys could get back together. Remember you broke up for a reason and if it was a stupid one than maybe you should reconsider the relationship. Another thing you need to be careful of is that fact that she may be very unstable if after 2 yrs she is still crying over your separation. By now she should of moved on at least a little bit. I'm not saying that she should be with someone and madly in love. I am saying that she should of by now, come to the realization that there is nothing more there. Another problem may be if she hasn't seen you move on, this may fuel the flame sort of speak. If she sees the fact that you are single and not looking she may think that you are just waiting for the right time to get back together with her. Hopefully this helps......
536667
I Think she is thinking as more than a friend. And she thinks that you are only one who can understand her feelings and can give some kind of support to her. Plz let it continue the same.\nAnd i think you have to wait for the right moment to express your love.\n\nALL THE BEST!!!!!!
177985
I would say talk to her. Tell her your true feeling and what you want to do. Tell her you want to go with your heart. If she has any true true love for you she will see that. Ask her to be honest as to why she does not want you there.
630309
Your poor dear. At this point, I think it is best to let go and see what happens. If it is meant to be, she will realize how much you love her. If she doesn't come back, realize that you WILL meet someone that will appreciate your love and love you back. Sometimes the best, and hardest, thing to do is let someone go. I don't think you need to move away though! Give her some space and see what happens, but keep yourself open to meeting new people too. You never know who may be around the corner waiting to meet you!
661868
i know it is hard to let someone go  when your in love but sometimes its the best thing to do. She knows that you in love with her and she thinks your never going anywhere so she is playing with your emotions. as long as you let her walk over you she is going to do if she love you so much and want to marry you  she would do anything in her power to make your realtionship work. but believe me she going do what she wants to . you need to show her your strong and you deserve someone that will respect and love not some on thats wants her cake and eat it to. believe she come around and when she does it will be to late because you moved  on the old saying goes you never miss a good thing untill its gone. i hope you are strong enough to let her go . i wish you the  best of luck keep me updated
558449
Hope this works out for you. its probably a bit raw at the moment. could this possibly not be the first time this has happened, as im sure she is trying to tell you something and get a reactionary response. she wants you to want her and fight for her not just give up. im thinking that she wants you to commit after 8 years. she doesnt want to ask you to make it a more secure relationship possibly not long distance. she wants you to come up with that idea and put it to her. so she can feel loved and needed. thats what im thinking and im a chick and sometimes we can be a bit weird like that. so give it a go when things calm down have a honest talk with her and ask her what she really wants or doesnt want from you and decide what you are ready to give. if you arent ready to give everything - why have a relationship anyway. take care and give it some time.
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MAY IT HURTS YOU BUT ITS TRUE.......\nTHAT SHE DOESNT LUVS U AT ALL NOR SHE CARES ABOUT U.......\n\n\ntry 2 forget her bcoz if she is saying after rejecting ur proposal to maintain a relation as a friend then she is lying,(as it is impossible for a girl to say a person like u,that she doesnt needs u.)\n\n\nif u will not forget her now then in future ur pain will increase.just forget her and try 2 make some more friends who really needs u.\n\n\nSORRY AGAIN,\nG O O D L U C K 4 U R F U T U R E.
464187
She seems just as confused about you as you are about her. It seems as if she's almost trying to push you out of her life. Give her a taste of her own medicine; don't contact her as often as usual, and give the cold shoulder when she tries to joke around. If she really likes you, she'll keep trying to get to you. If she doesn't, nothing will change, and you'll find that your life without her is much easier.
286208
You cannot force her to love you. Move on, find someone else who will love you too.
596263
well all you can do is just give her space, and yea. but the main key is to communicate with each other about your feelings and etc.  but if she really wants to break up with you, then all you can do is just accept it and move on. i mean she is not the only one, there are more fish out in the sea waiting for you! most likely its just puppy love, or then again you really might love her. always remember all the good times that you two had together, and move on with your life. i mean there is no sense on getting depressed over something silly as this. believe me, its not worth it! but if you ever need someone to chat with or whatever just e-mail me at sports2rhyme@yahoo.com or teddybear2006_2007@hotmail.com
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withdraw yourself for some time. don't make it worse than it already is! she is 10 years older than you. even if she loves you, she might also be totally confused now.\n\ntime will solve it.\nin any case, you did enough because you told her about your feelings. don't go crazy if she is quiet. get yourself busy with your own things for a while. maybe you can make peace some time later.\n\nlook. I also did like this with my closest male friend two weeks ago! (what a coincidence). but here the reason was different: I fell in love with HIM. and we also had a fight before that.\nof course we had, cause everybody was expecting something else from the whole relationship than he/she got!\nso it is the same: we don't talk and also don't write now.\nI told him not to!\ncause I can't take it any more, cause it hurts, cause... blahblahblah!\n\nbut the truth is that now after two weeks I calmed down and I would really want to make peace - if I only knew how!!!\n\nI think it is best you give her and yourself TIME.\n"and time can do so much...\noh myyyy love.. my darling, I hunger for\nyour touch\nalone"\n:-)\n\ncomm'on, put some good music and cheer up.\nyou are not the only one on this planet who messes up friendship for love!\nhere is another one, hellooo there!\nbut this one, over here.. ye she is female.\n \n((maybe you want a younger woman than 31? can we exchange ur ex-friends? instead of writing them poems? well, I haven't started writing poems yet, but I must tell, I am not far from it!!!\nI already sent him songs! hm.\nit is only the world cup keeping me mentally busy now, otherwise I would be writing poems and crying all day!\n\nI am OLNY 25, by the way! don't despair, the sea if full of good fresh fish!!!))
158518
she might be saying stuff like that b/c she doesnt want to admit that its really over and that she doesnt want to be heart broken,u have to tell her the truth,u might have to make the conversation firm to make her understand and if she gets mad at u then thats her problem b/c she shouldnt get mad at u if ur telling her the truth,good luck :-)
53247
It is hard to move on but if she does not want to be with you anymore then you can't make her stay. Maybe your accusations pushed her away or maybe she just was not ready and thinks that she may need some time. Whatever her reason, do not push the issue! If you worry her then that will only push her away! There is nothing worse that someone hounding you. Just let her know that you do love her and that you are sorry that things have turned out the way that they have and let her know that you will always be there for her if she needs you. Leave it at that! If you want her back then live your life, don't mope after her. I personally know how hard it is to lose the one that you love but once I started going on with my life he wanted to get back together so he then seen how it felt to be "on the other side of the fence".
447841
It might take some tough love.  Unfortunately many people in her situation develop a sort of addiction to the attention her problems and suffering attract.  Unless you can find a way to break the pattern, they will continue to use their situation to try and manipulate everyone around them.  \n\nYou should consider taking a tough love stance with her and tell her she has to get her life together if she wants you to have a normal relationship with you.  Refuse to be manipulated and allow her to create crisis after crisis to which she wants you to respond.\n\nI can only make some educated guesses for you, so just take it as some things for you to consider.
423877
My advice to you is ,I would just leave her alone for a while even though you love her and belive her give her time to just be without you, Then she will see what she wants and if its truly you you'll know, it might be hard to leave her alone but just tell her you dont want to be like everyone else, tell her you love and care about her and you want happiness in her life, and you dont want to be a part of stressing her out or dragging her down, Tell her you want her to have some time to herself and that you will be there for her when she is ready, and try very hard to stay away for a little while no matter what!! TRUST ME!!! THIS WILL WORK!! if she really knows what she wants and isnt just playing back and forth this will work for you, you cant keep being the one she runs to and get  you no gaurantee in all of this its right for your heart. Best Wishes & Good Luck
184906
Move on brother, she has found someone else, oh ya, do not attempt to get an explanation out of her because it will never come and you will only end up humiliating yourself.\n\nTime to be a man and suck it up, besides, look at your ages, did you really think it was going to last forever, ha. You will get you heart broken plenty more times in the coming years so learn from this and move on. Peace.
302066
Always a tough call.\n\nYou have to examine your feelings for her and respect that she told you that she cannot see you in that way.\n\nContinue to be pleasant and polite to her and just have her be a good friend.\n\nYou should find another who is willing to reciprocate the love you have to give. She will understand this decision that you have made and you can still be friends.