my friend was going out with my other friend and he moved. she found out that he was cheating on her and he broke up with her and this was about a month ago. i dont want to look like im taking her on the rebound or anything like that. i think im in love. what should i do?
119831
this is one ball game u dont want to be playing at. not worth losing a friend over..and if u cant help fallign for her...become her best friend..and see where things go..right now she could use a friend not another guy...and speicllly a friend of her ex!
224968
Wow! All that happened in a week? It sounds like he's just as confused as you are. Most people don't hang out with somebody they just dumped. How can you be cheating on somebody that you don't have a relationship with? I think you need to wait a week or two to see how it goes. It sounds like the first few steps toward a friendship. It doesn't go easy when both parties are insecure. Just remember as the girl you are the prize he has to win over not the other way around.
397694
Having your friend break up with this guy for you was a real chicken-sh*t move.  You should see him face to face and tell him it's over, you're sorry but that's it.  You can say you met someone else if that helps.  But whatever you tell him, at least have the respect to say it yourself, to his face.
324206
Does it matter if he still loves you? You said you broke up with him and I gotta think you likely had a good reason for it. Go over those reasons in your head and couple them with the fact that he's cheating on his current girlfriend. I think we both know that you can do better.
112942
your point would be?  look you like him, don't play foolish games or he will just leave you b. its your friends lose. if he is a good guy, then go get him and don't worry about what your friend has to say.  they broke up for a reason. not your fault.  if the 2 of you are happy then you 2 should be together.
181240
If a guy did this to you then he is definitely not worth getting upset over. I know its hard especially when you find out that he cheated on you but he is not worth a minute of your time. Any guy that is would never do that to you you need a guy to take care of you and respect you and a guy that looks you in your eyes and says that he loves it and just by looking in his eye you know he means every word! If your friend that he cheated on you actually did then she is not really your friend no one with a heart could ever do that and still have the nerves to call her your friend. I know that what he did to you probably hurts alot but go reward yourself by shopping or something to try to get your mind off of him. but whatever you do don't be afraid to love again love is a gift but to find true love you have to mess up sometimes and learn from your mistake1!\nI hope that helps best of wishes**
417141
This should definetely be his decision....only he knows who he has stronger feelings for...but you didn't necessarily state why they broke up....if it was because she did something to him, you might want to convince him and let him know that you would never do that (and keep your word about it), but other than that, I think you're just gonna have to lie and wait...just be his friend in the mean time, don't pressure him to choose a you or his ex right now
7352
No, you shouldn't especially if you had strong feelings for her.  I recently broke up with a guy I've been dating for almost 3 months.  He wants to continue the friendship but I told him no, not this time.  I said maybe later when I'm completely over him, and it will all sort of happen by itself if we're meant to be friends.  Good luck.
380712
wow girl you have some problems.. those guys are going out with your friends, if you do make your move on them you'll prove to them exactly how loyal you are. and you just can't do that shyt to a friend, if you really do think of them as your friends. \n\nand if they ever do break up you should talk to your friend first before making your move on her ex. \n\nit's just a unwritten rule that you don't go out with your friends' boyfriends/exes. unless you really do want the drama.
573651
I would not trust this guy. Even if he never physically cheated on you with this other female while you were going out, he obviously had feelings for her. He would not have been with her two days later if he had not been harboring feelings for her for a while. You may hope that he will eventually grow up, but how patient and how many break-ups and reconciliations are you willing to put up with. I feel you will be better off keeping on a friendship level for a year. Date other people and have him date other people. You may just find your ideal mate instead of wasting your time. Or in a years time, maybe he will have his priorities focused on you.
394833
Yes, I think your absolutely right about everything  you said that concerns you, your friend, and this guy. Just be glad that it wasn't you with this guy no matter how good he flirts or looks. I really feel for your friend because if she gives it up to him he's going to be gone like the wind soon afterwords. Hopefully things won't get that far for him and her, but if they do I hope that maybe she'll learn a lesson from it. You seem like a very smart girl to me. Don't ever let yourself be taken advantage of. Your worth something.
410368
Hmmm...it appears as though she was not really ready to move on if she went back to him so quickly.  She should have totally healed before she became involved.\n\nIf you do not trust her, then you will always be second guessing her moves and motives for the things she does.  Personally,  I don't see how it can work if you don't trust her.  Without trust you have nothing.\n\nIt doesn't sound as though this is a compatibility issue, but a honesty & trust thing.  Has she cheated on you again since the first time?  If yes, then you need to let her go, cut your losses and move on to the person who is waiting for you to find her. However, so often we prevent ourselves from finding the happiness we deserve or long for because we stay with people we know we shouldn't be with.  In other words, we continue to settle.\n\nSo, let her go and heal from this before you move on.  Seriously.  If you move on too quickly you're just perpetuating the cycle and you will wind up hurting someone who just wanted to love you.
661081
My b-friend and his ex talked the whole first year him and I were together.  She too broke up with him and I knew she really hurt him.  It drove me crazy too.  1)  I had to decide if I trusted my b-friend or not.  If I didn't trust him then I shouldn't b with him.  \n2) If the two of them ended up together then him and I weren't meant to be.  \nWe've been together for a little over a year, the ex has faded quickly.  Just hang in there, she's an ex for a reason.
242963
I think you would be very smart to ask your friend first what he thinks about it. But be ware that he might still have feelings for her, even though he broke up with her. But still ask amd make sure that it is cool with him. And if its not, dont push the issue leave it alone. And if he is down with wit, go for it. Good Luck!!!!!
52477
I think she should move on b/c he has not been having a good time with her (he wanted to break up) so she should find someone else that will actually appreciate her.
558011
Hi man. I had a story like this some months ago. I couldn't do nothing, because I didn't want to ruin their love for each other. I just waited, and after three  months they broke up. And she understood that I loved her, and really liked it. I think you should just wait.Maybe you should make activities with other friends, that can help you not to think about your friend.\n    I really think that you'll win her heart.
270907
if she broke up with you then she isnt your girlfriend any longer.. but if she was cheating on you when you were together then be thankful she ended it.. once a cheater always a cheater...let it go and find someone that you can be happy with.. if you think she was cheating then more than likely she was or had plans to... move on and have fun.. life is to short...