ok so when i meet a guy im attracted too we'll hook up and then hang out..in that order...and then everything will be a amazing for a while...and all of a sudden i hear "youre beautiful and amazing, and you deserve someone so much better than me..youll find someone i promise" yet if im so beautiful and amazing then how come ive never had a boyfriend?
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The tricks to relationship is leaving the other person wanting more.  That is to say that you do not give in to sudden urges while dating, not revealing too much, etc.  You pace yourself and preferrably after 3 months, you take it to the next level.  By then, a guy would either like you or show his true face; you'd simply saved yourself the hassle of trying to be intimate with someone who just wanted to show you around his bed, or yours.\n\nThe thing about relationships is that when you give him everything he wants from you in the beginning, you have a higher chance of ruining any interest that you have stirred within him to know you better.  Again, pace yourself out.  Let him get to know you better.  If he remains interested, he'll see you for who you are and your hook ups won't be merely hook ups anymore after those 3 months.  You'll be able to enjoy your beds a lot more because it's not meaningless anymore.  It would be more like an act of sharing each other and trying to please each other.\n\nBest wishes...
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I would consider not believing one or the other if I were you.  You probably didnt have the best of relationships and the ones that you did have you probably got hurt or belittled.  Maybe you just have had so many bad experiences its hard for you to respect guys.\n\nAlso consider the fact that if you have not had any good relationships that have worked for you, then why would you be attracted to the guys?
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trust me when i tell you, you really don't need a guy!\ndon't feel pressured cause all the people around you have boyfriends, what good will you get if you have a boyfriend that is mean to you and treating you in a terrible way or one that knows that you want a boyfriend just to have one and gets advantage of you, trust you want none of that so wait take your time till you find someone that really cares about you and you care about him, then and only then its worth to have a boyfriend and not cause everyone else have one !!
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Never feel that you are not good enough for someone. He may like you for who you are no matter what you think. Just because he is handsome doesn't mean that he isn't going to like you. Just follow your hurt and take things as the come. If you guys do hook up then have a ball and get to know each other. It isn't about looks that make a relationship, it's about what's in it!!! GOOD LUCK
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You are probably attracted to these guys because they are safe, they don't pose a challenge to you, they don't make you want to become a better person. You deserve better, but you don't believe it. Set some goals for your life, challenge yourself to learn new things, to meet people you would not normally associate with because you "think" they are better than you. Go out and help other people, volunteer at a retirement center, work at a youth center, when you are helping others, you will feel better about yourself and also you will learn that you are capable and Worth something. Live your life like you only have one life to live.
354358
Whatever is going on. Your not being fair to yourself. You deserve better than some guy who may be into you.
205507
Listen to me and I will say this with no doubt in my mind, there is always going to be people that are better than you, thats just life. The thing that makes you better than them though is accepting the fact there is no number one beautiful girl, or gorgeous guy, it is whatever you make it. One of your problems is exactly that when you start realizing your fighting a battle none of us can ever win and I mean nobody, you will calm down with that a little bit, your perfect in your own way, everyone is. \n\n As far as a boyfriend you will definetley find one but dont just settle with the first guy that asks you, you have the right to look around. The best thing to do is to force small talk, even if your not popular who cares! Those are highschool BS stereotypes and I know you say its different when your there, but I have been there. Talk to people be sociable, but most importantly dont change anything about you. As a matter of fact the chances are there is a certain someone that may like you and you just dont know it yet. Keep your head up. It will come.
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I have been with my boyfriend for a while too & sometimes  I feel like what does he love about me.  I think everyone feels that way sometimes because no one is perfect.  I would just continue complimenting him & flirting with him.  Tell him great things about himself all the time like how good he smells & how strong he is.  Maybe he has never been in love before & he wants to know how you know this time is different.  Make him a list of all the things you value & appreciate about him!
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o.k I'm confused! i thought you said you had a boyfriend! how can you be lonely?? whats the real story!!!
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Ur above them, dont worry, one day ull find a guy worthy of ur greatness, i did =P
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I don't know you or your history so I am going to take a blind crack at this. \n\nIt seems like it is so important that you hook up with someone that even a guy coming up and asking you stupid questions can catch your interest. I can see where that could be fun and even a bit funny, but I think the fact that you were overjoyed is telling about how you value yourself. I believe you are putting too much stock in having a boyfriend (most likely to boost how you feel about yourself) and that is making you come off as desperate. Relax and let things unfold in normal time. Don't rush it just because your insecurity HAS TO KNOW RIGHT NOW! That will blow it for sure.\n\nBecause it is so important to you, I am sure that when you tell them that you "like them" it comes off more like this: \n"I like you and want to marry you and have your children and be close to you as my only one forever even before I know what your favorite color or your middle name is". I'll bet that is a big turn off.\n\nYou are definitely moving too fast, pushing too hard and sending the wrong message (that you are desperate and high maintenance) Your standards are too low and you are worth much more than any guy that is willing to say hi to you. \n\nSo, take a deep breath and see if this guy is really good enough FOR YOU instead of the other way around. Remember that anyone that ever rejects you is doing you a big favor in the end by eliminating themselves from your consideration and not waisting any more of your time with a relationship that would eventually fail.\n\nI wish you well and good luck.
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This guy has:\n\n1) "Been Chasing me for ages and ages (even when i was in a serious relationship)" - shows persistency, and also means that you are not just a fling or a crush for him.\n2) "He Always compliments me and makes conversation with me" - could be that's he's trying to get points, or that he simply is a nice guy. find out if he also compliments other women/people. about the conversation, it shows that you guys have chemistry.\n3) "i always catch him looking at me" - and he always catches you... :)\n4) "he doesnt flirt with any other girls" - now, i don't know you so  i could not say how you found this out, or if you are just supposing it. it ccould b that he does when you are not around, as well as that he could really be a no flirt type of guy (good :))\n\nBUT:\n\n1) "he only texts me at the weekends to meet him out" - maybe he is busy/ maybe he thinks YOU are busy/ maybe he is "busy", if you know what i mean (another person...)\n2) "he asked how im enjoying he single life (as if just come out of a 5 year relationship 8 months ago). I said i was enjoying it!" - now, you are, but why do you wonder if he likes you? :)\n3) "He said he wishes he could meet some like me (when i was in my previous relationship)" - it could be that he considers you a good friend and a good person. depending on your relationship, you are the best judge of the meaning of this sentence. he could be cueing you to think you are the right person for him, but it could also mean a sincere compliment.\n\nDoes he like me?Any advice?\nit seems he does, but again, YOU are the best judge for that :)\nit seems to me that YES he does.
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I don't think you are missing anything. You seem like you know what you want. That person is out ther, some where. he might not be all those things at the same time, and then again he might be those and more. It is ok to have standards about what you expect from a male.  That is great that you are not just taking anybody that comes along. Keep your head-up.
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most people need to be attracted to each other before they date i am sure you wouldnt date a ugly guy. i am sure you dont look at personality before looks. you have to have attraction before anything else.
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Maybe because you're beauty, more guys are getting attracted to you. This will definately attact the Jack---es, where as before you had men interested in true love. No, I'm not telling you to get ugly, just that the guy will be harder to find, and will have to love you for you, and you'll have to love him for him. Maybe you're biting on looks too when you look for a guy, then find out his personality is not so good. Can't tell with the amount of info, but keep trying!!!
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Don't worry about it.  Think of it this way,  when a guy DOES come along,  he's gonna wanna be with you for you.  He's not gonna be some superficial asshole who only wants you because of the way you look.
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I got to say that you shouldn't let this break you down. Maybe you are beautiful or sexy. Now for some guy to say that they "love" you without even knowing you or some guy to just come up to you and ask you out is kind of weird.\n\nYou don't have to make them happy, but just you know, give them a little gesture of some sort. It's OK if you have to be a little on the offensive at times.\n\nIf you really want to make one happy. Find maybe the 1 client that is actually not so straight forward. Someone who actually want to get to know you. Where you were born, your family, relations etc.\n\nThat is the kind of person you are looking for.\n\nEveryone is attracted by looks. Of course, looks comes first, but some people don't care who you are, but they just want to get in bed with you. That is a whole norther story though.