Okay I was dating a guy but then we toned it down to just friends. I felt like he needed to get over his ex. Well I met someone else and I don't know if I should be honest cause I don't wanna ruin any chances but at the same time I'm not gonna waste my time if nothing happens, am I being selfish? I like him but someone's gonna swoop me up, should I be straighrt up with him or wait it out?
137643
da best thing u can do now is to lay evrything out on the table n to c where things go from there... tis better to b honest... da thing is, v, as women, can only wait so long... he's got things n issue tt he needs to sort out first... so, u gaf him time...but u shld haf stated how long i guess...but u say u liked him n not loved him...so, if he still hasn't gotten back to u on tt matter, jus move on my dear fren... there r better pple out there who r more worthy of ur time ok?\nchin up... :-)
417687
YAWN.... he likes you. Persue him. PERIOD. Hell give in and you two will get together. You say he doesnt believe that you got over your ex but i can see how you have if your ex wasnt good to you. Its easy to get over a jerk. So go for this new guy. Persue. I know guys are supposed to persue, but i think it will be to your advantage to persue this fellow. Good luck!
152427
The fact that he waited for you to break up with your former boyfriend has no bearing on who you should date now.  It is your decision, plain and simple.  I hope this helps.
163330
There's nothing wrong with going out on a date with both of them to find out which one would be the best match for you to invest time into.  And it may take more than one date to figure that out.  It isn't like you are in a committed relationship so there's nothing wrong with dating both of them.  As long as you are honest about it and don't play games, you should be okay.  Have fun!
600216
you really shouldn't have to think so hard about it.  if he's not for you, he's not for you.  when you are with the person you're meant to be with, you don't have any doubts.  don't get involved with another person straight away though.  have some time to yourself before getting into another committed relationship and make sure it's for the right reasons.  don't waste your time with people who aren't right for you.
39245
Yes, you should take some time, even if you don't think you need it, to reevaluate yourself, your feelings about the world and relationships.  If anything, just to make sure you will be okay, and not have a bad after effect later than expected.  You know, to make sure you still know you.  Relationships change people, even if they don't see it, so it is best to just relax, take a break, and make sure you are totally comfortable to go back into dating before you try again.  If you are not sure, just wait, it is likely you are feeling some subconcious doubt, and that will hurt your chances of a good experience.  You will want to give a new partner what they deserve, and you have to be confident and sure to really give it your all.
36937
the truth is that  you might be getting fooled and he might also be for real. the truth is since u say he likes another i think you should let him stay as an ex. he might never have gotten over you and be somehow attached to u or might be possesive or he might just feel like he still has to finish up some things he could not whebn you are together. since u are the one who likes him u might get hurt if he does not reciprocate so i think , keep him as an ex.
672280
Take your time, you just got out of a relationship, enjoy life as single first.  Why do you want to get in another relationship so soon?
376056
I'd say calm down!  First, someone is going to get hurt.  That is not the end of the world so try and put that out of your mind.  Second, I think your decision comes down to whether or not you want to settle down.  That is the decision you have to make.  Guy #1 wants to settle down, Guy #2 sounds like he doesn't.  If you're ready to settle down, the choice is pretty clear.  Dating two different people is always messy, and you're going to have to be prepared for some fallout because of it.  However, if you make your decision firmly and honestly, you'll minimize the damage.  Good luck.
164097
there was probably a good reason why she is now an ex, go for the new girl. you don't know if the new girl will be a better choice unless you try, besides, she already has a man so why should you wait? did she wait for you?
911
Personally, I would say no.  He sounds like he does not know what he wants, or worse, like he was waiting to see what would happen with her before he moved on to you.  And you should never accept being someone's second choice.
19650
wait until you know how you feel. there is a difference between dating and having a boyfriend. it is totally okay to casually date more than one person at a time as long as they understand you're not exclusive. if you decide that you have very strong feelings for one person, stop dating the others and go exclusive with that person. don't pick one guy and stick with him unless you're sure about it, because that's not fair to him. if your emotions are going back and forth, that probably won't change even if you become his girlfriend, and you could ruin a good friendship. right now i'm rebuilding a friendship for that very reason, and it's slow and sometimes pretty awkward.
518032
how long have you known him? Why would you save him for last? Being around other people means that you date other people? Traces are not real love-FYI.
55257
You say you have been dating . But have you made a commitment to each other? If not just consider it for what it is. He found you to be a friend and some one he likes to be around but,  he is still looking for his one and only.
619861
Never wait for a guy to "get his ducks in a line."  Relationships are supposed to be fluid and encompassing - waiting until "the time is right" is just another way of announcing that he is not ready - not for you at least, and maybe not for anybody.  Go out with #2 and see where it takes you.  If #1 "gets his ducks in a' row (sheesh) then maybe he will come back around and - if he does - THEN you will have to see where you stand in your own life.  You may be so "over" #1 that you'll wonder why you even considered waiting for him.
481762
If they were your friends it wouldn't have mattered who you were dating as long as you were happy. I wouldn't stress about trying to earn them back because you haven't done anything wrong. If they want to be petty because you broke up with your ex to date someone closer to you then let your friends date your ex and you just concentrate on being happy with your new man. Friends come and go they'll see the light eventually but until then go have some fun with your new man.
35419
Hi there. I just had to answer you because you almost have the same name as my lovely wife Nyna.   *smiles*\nI'd  say not to  date the guy right away.  Wait at least 8 months, actuallly. It smells like rebound in here if you know what I mean. Friendshihp is the foundation of a good relationship after  all. If he can't be your friend for a while as his wounds are being given time to heal, he's not worth it. If he is worth it, he'll understand this thought and wait for you. If he does wait, though, be there for him.\nListen to his feelings about the break up. That will actually teach you a lot about the sort of relationship you'll have with him if you indeed decide to have one.\nBest of luck.