What exactly is shame ? \n\nSome people might be ashamed of doing something while others might not. Why ?\n\nWhat should we be ashamed of ?
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Shame is taught, and what is shameful changes with culture.\n\nYou should be ashamed to go out in your underwear--ooops Madonna changed that, and now fashion is underwear.\n\nThe things, like my example, I was taught were shameful no longer are.  It almost seems like breaking the shame barrier on something is avant garde or cutting edge.\n\nIsn't it amazing how some things just roll off some people while others are devestated by the same thing?
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If that ever happens, smile, and ask: why do you want to know?\nThen watch them struggle to come up with the reason for asking such an assinine question.\nMost people ask embarrassing questions to deliberately discomfit someone, or put them down.\nToss the ball back, and watch what happens, its truly gratifying
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We let others sin go right by us ... we sweep their evil under the rug and endure all their iniquity.  Lets also look hard in the mirror and when the evil is our own, do the exact opposite and make sure to go and make ammends for our wrongs before doing anything else.\n\nKeep turning the other cheek and take the spot least availible always putting others first.\namen
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well first off we are taught certain morals by our parents, such as "do not steal" "obey your parents"  as you get older you develope a feeling called empathy which is your ability to feel anothers pain. though everyone has empathy to a different extent, (some murder and ignore it, others cry at the slightest thing and others can handle more). the thought that "i do not like pain why should i put another person in pain"  is quite a basis for morals. i do not wish to be stolen from, raped, abused, lied about, what is my motiviation to do that to someone else?\n\nwill people commit those without motivation?
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Humans have a tendency to glorify their personal ignorance.  Those of us in the United States seem to excel at this.  He are taught a little morals in our childhoods and believe that we are righteous.  We learn how to barely read and write and think that we are educated.  We become aware of a few emotions and feel that we are mature and experienced.\nThe best that you, personally, can do is to stop comparing others to yourself and just work on YOU.  The other have their own problems.  You need to work on your instead of judging them.  If you are lucky and get your own poop together, then others will come to you to ask how to get out of their own ignorance.\nWipe your own nose and butt.  Let the others do the same, in ignorance or not.
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That is an excellent question and a very good point. I totally agree with you. What makes anyone think they are good enough to judge others, and what right have they to set the standards for other people. As long as people are doing their very best within their means, people should live and let live within reason, providing they are not causing a danger to themselves or others.
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It's a sad thing that people call themselves Christians but do things that shame the name of Christ and His followers. Then because that one man did that horrible thing that makes all Christians go through the same trial and condemnation even the ones that honestly live their lives according to what Jesus commanded. Why are we being hated the most than the other religions in this world? All people are hypocrite in their own way because no one is perfect, only God is perfect. All humans fail not only Christians but you expect the most of us, to be holy and just shrug our shoulders, and get over even when we are being pushed on and rediculed at. A true Christian would do everything to be a good witness for others but even though we live a quiet life people still has so many things to say about us especially the ones that doesn't even know us. I don't think the man in that story is a Christian at all, just the label but not in the heart.\nGeneralization is mean and a crime towards conduct.
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was this sort of on, sort of not on, the news tonight?  All I saw was them talking about an "incident" and not saying what it was.  \n\nWhat you describe is a horrific crime and brings shame on those men's families, combrades, country, and flag.   But the answer to the question is that everyone is capable of their very own acts of evil.  \n\nThe question here may be partly one of respect.   If you think you're part of the best nation on earth, what is everyone else?   If you can dehumanise the "others", regarding them as less than you, you can justify anything. That is not a uniquely American problem - aggressor nations very often commit horrible violations, with attitudes like that never far away from the action.\n\nBut it's also about self-respect.   If that were you doing that, could you look yourself in the eye afterwards?   Of course not.   So how can they?   People who have pride in their good qualities are less likely to descend to such horrible depths.\n\nNot much of an answer, more of just a train of thought.   Not much shocks me these days, but that does.   If I believed in hell, I reckon I would believe in it for that.
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I agree with all of you. People around the world are claiming races, people belonging to a particular religion or culture to be responsible of one-person's (or a group of very few people's) act. Why should any one blame someone else for someones misdeed. There shouldn't be even consideration of the person's race/religion/country/language. Not all the people of a particular group have same thoughts or ways to think. Not everyone acts in the same way in a similar situation.
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Honestly, do you really care if people respect you?  Most loner/rebels don't care what people think.  Don't feel bad about not getting any respect for being decent, most of the decent people I know aren't respected at all.
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Yes. If you KNOW right from wrong and choose to do wrong... What's wrong with you? What kind of person do you respect? Do you respect people like you? Or do you respect people that live a dignified life who do their best to do the right thing?\nIf you feel bad about who you are and how you act then why do you do it?\nGrow up. If you act like trash then you are trash. If you are trash than you will attract others that are trash.\nDo things that make you proud of yourself rather than doing things that make you feel like a bad person. And if your "friends" find your poor actions charming, then you need more respectable friends.\nGo do something good for some one, will you?
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To me the saying is about empathy. If you were to percive suffering from anothers perspective, you would be discouraged from making that person suffer.\nBut then does that mean that we are all selfish creatures, only not doing bad for fear that we might one day be on the recieving end? I don't think so; I genuiely think we are onditioned aginst causing others pain. Of course there are exceptions to this.\nThe biggest problem facing the idea today is the fact that we are encouraged to divide into "them" and "us". People who do not share the same country/race/religion as us are portrayed as less human and therfore less deserving of this empathy. With these people we are encouraged not to care about their well being.\n\nPerhaps the phrase should be "Treat ALL others.."\n\nSorry I couldnt think of an example ;)
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I think it has something to do with the fact that you can get a wider perspective on whatever you are asking on here than with your friends and family....I mean...thousands of people from all over the world can read your questions.\nAnd plus..no need to feel embarrassed...I mean..you can ask a question with no worry here.  People may have a smart*ss remark...but who cares...you don't know them and they don't know you.\n:)
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I will be following this very closely, as this question is incredably nessisary to ask. Strange that is should be asked however, since we are all human beings. No one is less than anyone else. Why do we have these ideas that people can push others around or away because of ones subjective belief of right or wrong? Well said Asker.
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very well said dear! I got one answer which insulted me... it made me mad a little while but what the  ****... the main reason we are here is to enjoy and forget those serious problems that surrounds us!!! Hey, we're here to have a break from everything.\nPeople tend to uplift themselves at the expense of others... Shame on them!
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the bigger question is ...\nwho hurts homosexuals ?\n\nwhy does anyone feel that they can be hurtful to others simply because they dont understand them
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Sure - anyone who says they've never done this is likely lying.  It's natural to gravitate toward what is familiar.  Some people obviously bring it a lot farther than others.  I can't really say I'm ashamed of it, but I try to stay aware of my responses to avoid offending others.  I judge people all the time, not just on race or nationality though; I make judgements about people by the way they look, act, speak, etc.