I've met a bloke who is really nice but i've not dated in years and don't know how to read the signals he's giving me, we live miles away from each other,only see each other on a sunday when we're both free but he goes out all wkend and i don't know if we're exclusive or not....without saying are we an item and frightening him off totally how can i be sutle but still get across what i want to know.....Where do i stand with him....
133921
Ask whatever his name is what's your status..\nBeing straightforward attracts alot of people
81824
First of all, self confidence.  Be brave, walk up to him, and say, Do you want to hang out this weekend?  The worst that can happen is he could say he already had plans.  If thats the case, if he's a nice guy he will offer a day or time when he's free and make plans with you.  If not, then he's probably not right for you.
449623
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383230
Well l guess it's all up to you. If he really liked you , you would think he would of asked you out by now. Do you think that perhaps he thinks you just want to be friends with him. You have your work cut out for you then.I guess you will have to give him the nod and let him know you are keen on him. Depending on how long he has been single he may need some more time. Only you will know by the response you get whether he is keen on you or not. Good Luck  just speak to him.
244730
You cant put your life on hold while he figures out what he wants. At the same time there is no rush to go meeting someone else.\nI think you should just carry on and get on with your life and if someone else comes along then sure date them. If he ever decides he knows what he wants and comes to you and your single then its up to you if you want to give it another go.\nHe doesn't seem to know what he wants or how he feels so the best thing you can do is just keep him as a friend as he may never know and you cant hang around and wait forever.\nPut him to the back of your mind and concentrate on other things in your life. \nIf its meant to be it will be!
424391
#1...Gotta play hard to get.  Men love a challenge.  Do not make yourself so readily available.  DONT call him...Make him call you.  No "last minute dates".  \n\n#2.....If you do have another date with this man...watch for signs he might be married...something fishy about this one...I am willing to bet he is attached somehow....(sorry, you might not want to hear that)...just keep this in the back of your mind hon...\n\nGood luck
329116
Wow, talk about mixed emotions. It sounds like this man doesn't know whether he's coming or going. He wants you and then he doesn't. He's just all over the place with his feelings. You see, a lot of men and women carry over issues from past relationships. If he has children I assume he's been married before. What do you know about his last relationship? Has he been single for long? I notice you say you became seperated just last July. Are you looking to become serious with this new guy? You have to ask yourself what it is you want out of this relationship and then determine whether you two are on the same page. A word of advice though, don't push him into something he's not ready for. It will backfire and send him running the other direction. Also, give yourself some time to be single for a while and don't rule out dating others either. Maintain your independence. It's very attractive to men. A man wants a women who is independent and who doesn't define herself through him. Don't make it too easy  for him to see you at the drop of a hat every time he wants to. However, always treat him with respect and honor and praise him when he's nice. I wish you luck!
672932
So you had one phone call and a lot of fun!!!\nI think you should try talking to him more often.\nBuild on things that you like in him, common interests and stuff like that.\nLong distence relationships are particularly tedious, but if you make it, then there is nothing like it.\nTell him that you find him interesting and fun. Ask him what he feels about you. \nFollow the 'One Step' process.\nTake one step closer to knowing him on every interaction.\nAsk him about himself, his past, his future, his aspirations, what he expects out of you, and stuff.\nIn a couple of months, if you are still going steady, then plan to meet up for date. This way, there would not be any nasty surprises either.\nTake Care, and all the best!!
256197
I say take a chance and look him up. There's no point in always wondering what if. If you find him and he's not interested then you can move on because at least you'll know one way or the other. Of course if he wants to be involved then maybe you'll get a happily ever after! Good Luck!
164410
Easy! \n\nDoes he call you?\nDoes he want you around?\nDoes he make plans with you?\n\nYes, he wants to date.\n\nDoes he tell you to call him?\nDoes he want you around only when he can hang?\nDoes he tell you about his plans but does not include you in them?\n\nSorry, just friends.\n\nTake it from someone that has: been there, done that.  Move on! You need someone that is genuinely interested in your time and will make time for you no matter what.
57122
Honesty is best.  Tell him that you are confused.  Ask what his intentions are for his keeping in touch.  Does he still have feelings for you?  Does he want to date you again?  Or is he keeping you close because he wants to be your friend?  Ask him straight up.  Then take it from there.
135614
he's taking the time to message you..maybe he's just busy this week. don't worry about it unless it becomes a way of life. but in the meantime find ways to be busy yourself, it sounds like you have made this guy your whole life and that is never good, you can't be part of a couple without also being yourself.
608997
he sounds kinda sketchy.  If you like him go out, but i'd let it play out before i had sex. He might be okay, or he might be a creep.  BUt you won't know unless you go out with him.  \n\nWell, unless you can tell he's a creep already.
422257
Maybe you should not move so fast into something. I know you are excited and probably dying for you two to kiss and hold hands, but you should try to get to know this guy a little better first, doesnt matter that this would be the 3rd time you guys hung out. Have a nice evening out, ask each other questions, and really try to determine your compatability with each other before rushing into things. You might discover that this guy is not that interesting and feel differently about him, and then you will have to deal with you and him still working together. Get my meaning?
100698
I can't really tell you yes he is into you, because I don't know how he acted around you, and I don't know him. What I can tell you is that if it seemed like he really had a great time and you both had fun, then maybe there is hope. I suppose if he called you to let you know he was home safe, that's a plus, because if he didn't care at all, he wouldn't of called at all. Now, about him waiting to call you, maybe he was nervous, busy, like the other person commented, maybe didn't want to seem desperate. Just give it time, and if nothing becomes of it, let it go, there are a ton of men out there waiting to meet ya! ;)
518032
how long have you known him? Why would you save him for last? Being around other people means that you date other people? Traces are not real love-FYI.
544871
It's the nice comfy sweatshirt thing.  You see, in moving 1/2 way across the country, he had to give up his home, the folks he casually said Hi to everyday, his favorite pizza joint, etc.  He's lonely at his new place and has decided he wants friends.  Instead of letting them develop, he wanted some already instant made.  Well, there you are.  He already knew you, etc.  \n\nI had this happen to me.  Yes, he's interested.  Yes, you can have a relationship.  However, with everything being new to him now (but him learning it later on) that there will come a time when he doesn't need so much attention ... and he may develop into the guy you knew when he was in town.\n\nI wish I could say "Go for it."  My problem with trying it out is that he really does need to stand alone for a little bit, so you aren't the sudden substitute for his lack of companionship.  It gets pretty draining and depressing being both a person's newfound companion but also his blame when he feels he needs other friends.  You don't need that.\n\nGood luck!