I'm with my gf for almost 8 months, we dont see each other very often though coze she lives far away, anyway the thing is she's really bossy, she has a strong character and she's really inteligent. due to that she has totally dominated out relationship, she even tries to push me around from time to time, i didnt ever have problems like that with gfs and i dont know what to do.i love her and i dont want to dump her but im pretty fed up with this situation. i cant just talk to her and say" i wanna be the boss now" so can anyone help me bbe the MAN in this rellationship?
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You're right, you shouldn't be the boss and neither should she.  But a man should be the leader as long as he is respectful and mature about his intentions...by leader, I don't mean ruler.   A woman looks down on a man for being the weaker one and will not respect that, but on the other hand, admires a strong man who knows exactly what he wants and how to get it.  At the same time, being strong includes knowing when to be romantic and sensitive, and truly interested in her as a person.  You want to turn the tables in one fell swoop, so the next time a situation occurs where she is being bossy, put your foot down hard and show her a side of you she hasn't seen before.  From then on out, it won't be necessary to put your foot down so hard because she'll understand your boundaries. Good Luck!
469447
First of all, confront her about it.  If it still doesn't work out, then she's not worth it.  It's not every day that you find a guy that's willing to work through the hard times.  I know I haven't found one yet.  You deserve so much better if she's willing to give up on a seven month relationship just because of her friends.  I wish you luck.
149004
I've been there mate, sorry to say it, but she's taking you for a ride. She's using you when she find's it convenient. Sever this "relationship" before it breaks you in two. If she's willing to treat you like that, she's not worth it. She obviously doesn't have a high regard for your feelings, because if she did, she would have got with you totally, or not at all. Sorry to say it mate, but break this one up now, please. I know how painful it will eventually be if you don't.
144507
Trust is always a good thing in a relationship and it sounds like she doesn't have it. You guys need to try a calm talk instead of yelling back and forth. Tell her how she's making you feel by always accusing you of cheating. Tell her that you are not cheating. Once she starts yelling (or vice versa) conversation ends. You need to learn how to communicate w/out the yelling. If you guys can't do that and she still can't seem to trust you then it's time to move on and find someone who will.
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Wow. I don't think your being unreasonable with how you feel, but she did just start a new job. Lord willing, there will be more annaversaries, but she is probably very stressed right now from the change. Give her some time. If she doesn't want to party, ask what she wants. Find something that works for her and you. She will probably do better once things get easier.\n\nThis breaking up and getting back together thing concerns me though, and might have something to do with it all. Sounds like something hasn't been going right in your relationship. Perhaps something neither one of you is even aware of. You might want to get some councling on this.\n\nBut you should sit down with her and talk to her about the lack of attention she's giving you. I wouldn't expect her to e-mail you back every day on her cell, and she may feel smothered by too much attention. It may be that you aren't giving her enough space, and she's withdrawn. It may also be that she enjoys your e-mails, even if she doesn't respond all the time. Talk with her about how she feels about it all, and ask her if you could improve in any area.\n\nGive it some time and be patient, but she should do her best on this to let you know that she cares about you, and that even with the new job, she still loves you and more than intends to make time for you. This may not happen instantly, so don't be too pushy, but do be plainspoken and truthful. But, if she refuses to at least care about your feelings on this, and that not caring continues, you may want to look into finding a new girlfriend.
411584
ur girl's crazy. i know im a jealous gf so i know wheres shes coming form. BUT if you let her do that kinda stuff like spend the night at a guys bed. then she should trust you. but if i was you i would dump her!!!\n\n\nGood luck with the crazy gf!
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#1 Rule.  Women always want a challenge and things they can't have. It's just a fact of life..there brains work different than mens.     So you can either be  her new challenge or you can be that sappy wus that calls her 10 times a day that makes u not even remotely close to being a challenge.  If you really want her back...respect her decision, give her space.....and work on yourself..Create a life for yourself that will amaze her, and a life that will make her want to be part of.  Giving her space is tough to do, and seems like the exact opposite of what you feel like doing..that's why it's so tough.  But hanging on for dear life just gets you further away from her heart.   A women will fall for a guy that shows her utmost respect of her wish of needing space and time. But during that time...again work on yourself, find out  how you want to be treated by a girlfriend, and what kind of changes you need to make to make a women treat you that way.  Read some books on women and relationships....treat it like a test you need to study for.
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WOW you must be dating the girl that just broke up with me! So I will tell you what got me to be her boyfriend.... for a few days   8 (     She seems like the type of girl you have to fit, you cant fake. If you try to guess what she wants and emulate her perfect man and you arent... she will pick up on that and you will look dumb. But I would suggest break down her personality type. Hopefully you fit these. (ok starting off with that line probably makes u want to skip over my advice. I'm 22, she's 24 and looking for a husband in the near future. I didnt mess up in the courtship, She is moving far away very soon) but anyway...\n\nStrict - She wont like you giving her rules, but I believe her being strict means she likes order! This quality in girls is hard to deal with if you are a guy with low confidence. Dont second guess what you do. Either Do it 100% or don't. You don't want to seem out of "order".\n\nAggressive - What kind of aggressive? Assertive or actually Aggressive? Will she pursue a challenging goal? Or will she stand up to someone who tries to do her wrong? If she Is "Assertive" then that is a great thing, especially for you. A girl who is assertive wont play hard to get so much, because if she wants you she wont make it difficult for herself to have you. If she is aggressive in nature then you have to be aggressive. She is already confident in her own abilities to protect herself so Im sure she would want her man to do the same. And I dont mean physically I mean in general. You dont have to be confrontational about problems but you def cant let her see someone get over on you. You dont have to fight or anything, just make sure you take a stand.\n\nProud - A proud woman is a secure woman.\n\nStrong Woman - Ok so she is proud we get that. Accept the fact that she is in line with her femininity and doesn't see it as a weakness. So if you ever do something for her that would seem sexist. You can score a point or two by saying something like "its not because your a woman, its because I'm a gentleman" or something like that. Let her know that, yes you know she could have done it herself, but you wanted to do it for her.\n\nNow as far as the seduction goes. If you want her to be your girlfriend the attraction will build if you fit her type. Stick to your plans, dont be a flake. And be romantic all the time! Pursue pursue pursue, if you start dating, pursue some more. No girl wants to feel "got". Even if she is your girlfriend she wants to feel like you know that at any moment she could belong to someone else, so you are doing everything to show her how much she means to you! \n\nLastly respect yourself. Dont pursue her like a lap dog, be a man. She should know that at any moment you could be with someone else, but you know 100% that you want her and no one else matters. Dont look pathetic because u dont want to get used. She wants a man by her side. No man walks in front of his woman showing her off as a trophy, and no real man wants to walk in a woman's shadow being her boy toy. She wants her man at her side. If all else fails rent Hitch and watch it twice.\n\nIts a lot but it worked for me. I hope i didnt offend anyone though. Sorry if i did.
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I know where this girl is coming from. I think she is pushing you to see if you will take off at the first sight of trouble. Thats what I do. It's a way for her to protect herself from jerks. It's not fair to you but it sounds like she's been hurt before. Go to her and talk to her face to face, not on the phone. Tell her that she is pushing you away and that is why you are pushing back. Ask her flat out if she wants this relationship to continue. If she does then you have to make a personal decision, can you stick around through the ups and downs? If so then tell her you will wait it out. Let her get comfortable with you and trust you. If she pushes too much and you no longer feel wanted at all then tell her that, let her know that it can't continue, and that you need more than that.
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First of all if you love her then why does sex dominate your relationships. Show some discipline. If sex is the most important asspect then leave her otherwise if you LOVE her make it work. A GOOD MAN WOULD FOLLOW HIS HEART AND MIND. NOT THE PENIS!!!!!
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I think you need to ask her the question. Let her know you love her, but you don't like feeling like your not good enough. Ask her if she thinks you should stay together or break up, and let her know the terms of what you need for the relationship to work.
70707
sounds like to me she is just confused. she is used to being the dominate person in the relationship and as u know men are "the dominate ones" most of the time.  yeh she prolly does get a little shakey when ure around, i would be too if i had never been with a man before!!
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Don't let her put you under so much pressure, she knows how you think about marriage. Does she really love you??? If she would, she wouldn't do anything like this to you.\nI'm in a relationship for about four years, very happy! The first thing he made clear to me, when we got together, that he will never get married. And he was very determent.I didn't have a problem with that, married or not married, the aim is that we love each other. But 1 1/2 years ago he suddenly asked me to marry him!!!!! Course i said YES.\n\nI really wish you all the best with your gf and i hope that she really really loves you and tries to understand your point.
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I feel like if its your girlfriend and you have a problem with it, its on her to resolve it! You shouldnt have to say anything to the guy at all. Thats her situation. Tell her once and for all how oyu feel about it and if she does not do something ( stop hanging out with him or make him stop calling so much, w/e would make you more comfortable) then she does not care enough about you! I think she should care enough to ease your mind and to put you before him!
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You really do care for your girl...!!!\n\nShe probably hails from a very disturbed background. I think she is insecure not only about herself but also about her relationship. And I also think that she lacks self confidence.\nThere are a lot of things that you have not mentioned, that is how old is she and what is she doing...??\nFor her to get over the habit of not working well with people she needs to work on projects that have to be done in groups.\n\nConstantly encourage her to do things that involve her participation and that involve her interaction with lots of people.\nShe also needs your constant support and love. And if this does not work then you need to take her to a pshycologist.
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Don't care too much, leave her and do some other works/things those are more important for you. You are man, guy! World is not as little as you've known. You will find other girl as your girlfriend. Take a chance to get highest carrier that could you get. The girl will come later on.\n\nTake care.
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You need to sit her down and discuss it with her. If she's worth every ounce of energy you have left, that's something SHE should know..tell her. Ask her why she gets in those ...is moods a good word?.......You have to communicate how you feel and what your thinking to her,....then she will let out what she's keeping in, then you guys can get back down to business. But you HAVE to talk to her about it. Women will not tell you what's wrong, you have to wheedle it out of them....it's not that they are being mean, that's just their nature. Trust me talk with her about it, be patient and LISTEN, and she will tell you everything.