people i need your help, my ex wants to get back together with me even though she cheated on me and she still loves me, but she wants to wait until her grades come up at school and i told her she has 3 weeks and then i'm gone forever, but why does she not want to be with me now? why does she do things that she knows hurt me? help please, i am dyin over here.
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Come on, darlin, open your eyes and find someone new.\nThis girl sas and does things that hurt you?  She cheated on you?  She wants you but doesn't want you now?\n\nPlease move on.  No ultimatums, no if's and;s or but's...move on.  She had her chance, she broke your heart and you can not allow this to happen again.\n\nIf you open your heart and your mind, you'll find a new love that might treat you like you need to be treated.  A new beginning with a new love.  Stop pining over this other gal and let loose of her.  She isn't worth it, believe me.\n  As I said, she had her chance, she blew it.  Once a cheater, always a cheater.  She is just too immature for you.  Move on...............
455282
She can be bitter and hurt. You said that you went out with her right? well maybe she had true feelings for you and you broke her heart in a very harsh way. So, for her not to be the fool for everyone else she became this nasty Bi@tch. She is like that around you, because that is her cry for her and attention from you. I think that she wants you back.
212563
i think she made up an excuse to break up with you. she had this guy on the backburner and was thinking of hooking up with him while she was with you. but with this excuse she can blame you in stead of saying, "i like this other guy instead so i'm breaking up with you." cool off, and start finding another chick. don't waste you timing thinking about your ex.
470825
Oh goodness, well the first thing I have to say about the situation is that she definitely has someone else...women don't leave unless they have something else to go to!  And as long as she has someone else, someone who in her mind is "treating" her better, there is nothing you can do to get her back.  And if she asked you not to call, then that is a decision you have to respect.  Your calling her is not going to help and it will just push her away farther.   Sorry to say, but this is a situation that only she can (in time) decide that she wants to be back with you.  Give it some time (and give her some space) eventually this other guy will screw up and she will contemplate coming back to you.  If she doesn't come back, then it is for the best.  You deserve to be with someone who wants to be with you as much!
407682
she wants you back cuz ;the other guy is not meeting her needs!!!  she is lonely thats why she is with him, she is hoping you will call so the two of you will reconcile.
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The first thing I wonder is why did you break up?\n\nI don't have that information but from your question I can tell she is mad at you, and dude, when that is the case, let it go because it is a no hoper.\n\nWant to know something?\n\nRight now, it hurts bad, I can tell, but that is good, because it means you two once had something good and you are simply replaying all those moments in your head. It's natural.\n\nWant to know something else?\n\nLook around...there are attractive, smart, fun, great girls everywhere. Your town, this world, a biggggggg place. You are going to find a new girl, and once you establish some kind of wonderful with her, you will be fine.\n\nAccept your pain, but keep your eyes open and your CONFIDENCE up, for the next great girl.
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step back. tell her that you don't want to play games, because that's what she's doing.\n\nif you are ex's, then the feelings you are having now may be just because you feel like you are getting a second chance at something that didn't work before. think about why it didn't work out before. maybe you don't want to be with her afterall.\n\nthink about what she's doing now. it sounds like she's trying to play you and her "ex/current/who knows" boyfriend. sounds like she wants it all. or the opposite, she doesn't know what she wants, and that's why you are getting mixed messages.\n\nbreak up with her for now, until she figures out what she wants and she can stick to it. if she wants to be with you, then she ought to cut ties completely with her "ex/current/who knows" boyfriend. don't let yourself be in this relationship as it is now, because it's not good for you.
523191
You mentioned that you were confused with your life. Perhaps you should try getting a better foothold with your own life before you do anything else. Getting back with her while you remain in a state of confusion isn't going to help the both of you. And if you really want to be with your ex girlfriend, I'd suggest you come clean about your feelings to her and your present girlfriend. A girl wouldn't want to patch if you're already seeing someone else. Don't give your ex the wrong impression that you are a 'two-timer'.
432636
Girl, that's a rough situation. Its all good to help for a little while, but her ex seems to getting a little bit to dependent on your girlfriend. The bottom line is that her ex needs to grow up and be a women, it doesn't take that long to get get your stuff together. Tell your girlfriend to give her a couple of pointers and move on. Keep your head up!
70248
Dear girl,\nI am suspecting that you are quite young if you're still not backing up since your Ex told you to. I would recommend, please give it a time. I know how you feel inside. I've been there, and it felt horrible at the time. But, trust me! After a while, maybe 3 weeks, maybe 3 months, but you'll feel much better. You will get over him! And you'll wonder why you were suffering as you are right now! The possible reason for your Ex acting this way is maybe that he have found his true love. And now he doesn't want to ruin it. Probably, his new girlfriend doesn't want you guys hanging out. So, please have some dignity and let him go. Don't be surprised though, if you get a call in few years from your Ex. So, I hope that you understand what I'm trying to say. Good luck!
429912
Friends after the fact won't work dude.  If you want a relationship with her or still love her, tell her you want her back.  If that's a no go - you need a clean break - That involves your mate as well.   Explain you still have feelings for her and you can't be around her without feeling awkward.  Then find some new friends.
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It's clear that your ex is very jealous or wants to revenge or something like that and wants to brake your relation with your actual girlfriend. The best weapon u have is YOUR GIRLFRIEND. If you really love each other speak all things you re feeling now about the situation and give her an example with the same situation but with the players inverted. If she really loves you she will understand and will stop your ex.
238955
why did she break up with you in the first place? maybe she realized that she made a mistake and is reconsidering going back out with you.  give it time and don't do anything, let her make the first move.  maybe she is just spying on you to see if you got a new girlfriend, driver her jelous by showing her that you are happy without her
519333
You should definitely give her some time because she just broke up with her boyfriend.  There is still a possiblity that they might get back together.  Also, you do not want to be her rebound guy because rebounders never last long.  Just be a friend to her and let her know she can call you if she needs to talk.  But take it from me, I'm a female.  You do not want to pressure her or else it will turn her off of you.  Give her time.
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Love sometimes hurts.  This is one of those times.  You must either break up with her or insist that she break up with him.  This type of situation can lead to devastating results.  What if he finds out you are having sex with her and goes crazy?\n\nIt sounds like your total breakup is only a matter of time.  That being the case, the sooner the better.   The longer you are involved, the more hurt you will feel and the deeper the pain will be.  If she cheats on him, she will cheat on you.\n\nIf you get back together,  learn to be more considerate.  Better to bite your tongue off than to say things just to be hurtful.  Write your feeling down.  Read them back to yourself two days later.  Then you might want to edit what you wrote or even destroy it.\n\nI'm sure you know a lot of other girls.  Wait a while to heal and get to know some of them better.  You will be so much better off.\n\nGood luck.
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That guy is TOTALLY a rebound and after seeing what else is out there, she probably wants you back. Only small caution I'd say is that she could be using you as a "back up" because she wants to have you as an option just in case. \n\nMost likely, she just wants you back though and realizes that you are what she wants.
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baby, you need to open YOUR eyes.  sadly, she'll likely only realize how much you love her when you're not there anymore, when you've moved on for good.  sweet-heart, she's using you for a back-up.  you are feeding and satisfying her hurt ego.  this is not good for you.  I'm sure she doesn't intend to use you because when you've been cheated on you're an emotional mess, but she is.\nmove on, sugar.  this relationship is destructive to you.