If my Ex-husband's girlfriend is causing my children emotional distress when they have to visit him, am I able to get a restraining order barring her from being around them when it's his visitation time?
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You could try, but it would be up to the judge.  I think you'd probably need some pretty clear examples of how she is causing significant harm.  \n\nAnother avenue may be to get the custody agreement to stipulate that this girlfriend cannot be present.  The problem may be the court assuming you are a jealous ex-wife and not taking your concerns seriously.
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It seems the issue is how much your often violent ex-husband should have access to your daughter.  Generally speaking, he or she must be really bad to has his parental right to have access to his/her child being denied. (although your ex could have lost his right due to his criminal conducts ... but the bar is really set high to lose this parental right) \n\nTypically, many divorced parents go thorough the visitation-custody arrangements (or more correctly put battles!) until the child fully emancipates !0!  I venture to guess here that your ex wants to see your daughter and want it as much as he possible can.  If so, his option would not be a mediation hearing but get the definitive direction from the judge.
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Let me help you some. If there are no custody orders in place, you both have equal rights to your daughter. If that is the case, I would suggest going directly to the county courthouse and file both an immediate custody order and a restraining order on him for the threats. These usually will only be good for 30 days. After that time, you must go to a hearing and plead your case to the judge as to why the father shouldn't have any rights. \n\nAdditionally, when you go to the hearing, be as detailed as you can. Have dates, times, and names. Present everything chronologically and don't let your emotions rule your testimony. For a judge to deny a father's right is a huge deal and they don't take it lightly.\n\nAnother suggestion: If they ask you to try mediation, don't do it if you think he is truely dangerous/manipulating as you make him out to be. Mediation does not grant any court issued orders. It only says on paper that you and he will try to abide by the rules you both set out in mediation. If he violates the mediated rules, nothing happens to him. Get a solid set of custody orders signed by a judge only.\n\nOnce those orders are in place, you file a police report every time he violates the order, EVERY TIME! If you don't report his violations, you just empowered him to do as he sees fit.\n\nGood luck. By the way, what state are you in?
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Sadly -- you will not just have to prove (with all of the papers entered into evidence) that your ex is an abuser, but ...\n\nAlso have to endure an UGLY Custody battle as well.\n\nThis is more a Battle to make you miserable than any desire to have custody or visitation with the children -- and the longer he can drag it out and make you pay -- the more he is happy about the situation -- MORE control and Manipulation on top of the abuse you already have SURVIVED.\n\nUNFORTUNATELY -- the violent, abusive ex (and soon-to-be ex) has MORE rights in any proceeding than any of his Victims/Survivors.
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ok #1 if he is paying child support then he has every right to see them...i mean legal right...go to the courts and tell them that he has been paying child support for how ever long and tell them that he was awarded visitation rights and that he has not got to see the kids...tell them why and they should contact her and let her know that she has to let him see them....unless he has been proven unfit..then they may ask for supervised visitation...but it's better than nothing......and it's free......let the courts handle it..and if he has been awarded visitation then she could be in trouble for not upholding to that....who knows...it's worth a try...GOOD LUCK!!!!!!
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Yes, you need to take this deadbeat to court.  I don't know where you live, so it I can't give you any specific advice, but every city has people (usually in the family assistance office) that can help you with the paperwork.\n\nYou may not want to see this guy again, but your child--HIS child--needs financial support, and you should get it for your daughter.
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I doubt that incident will make a judge decide to give you custody.\nIt helps your case that he didn't see her. I doubt he'll even go to jail, but I don't have the details I need to make that decision. You are right not to expect too much. The DA will make a decision as to whether this matter will be brought to court. It sounds like you kept your part of the order when you sent your daughter to visit him. Did you know that your son would not be allowed? Did you send your son knowing that your x would not allow that? I am not trying to be dispectful, but am trying to point out possiblies. If you can afford it, hire an attorney to help  you with the matter.
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go to your courthouse and file for custody and visitation. (they'll help u w/ the form.) when you n ex go b4 the judge, tell him what you agreed on and as long as it is agreed on by both of you, the judge would have no problem with it. when speaking in front of the judge, state what visitation u have agreed on clearly, and it will be written into an agreement for both of u, n u will each get copies. if you have agreed on a support ammount make sure you tell him that also, and that will be written up too. just remember, they are three diff. things and you need to address them as such.
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What he is doing is another tactic of power and control. If he wants to talk about the children, one of you can contact a local mediation program. Maybe your local YMCA has one or a nonprofit. Contact legal aid or the program that assisted you with the restraining order and ask if they know how you can get a divorce without him signing. Many times they have attnys that do pro bono work for woman in abuse cases.\nThere are times once the restraining is droped/ or the woman starts talking to her partner when the order is still in place that the abuser becomes even more abusive. So then the courts realy step in and the mother is realy questioned about can she provide a safe home. And the mother then has custody issues with the state. We are dammed if we do. Or dammed if we don't. When we suddenly are separarted from our partner, after loving him for so long and having children together etc. Being alone is scary. When we were with him we knew what to expect. The beatings the dirty words etc. But when alone we are unsure. So please find a support group through a woman's program. They will respect and understand your fears. It isn't worth having CPS or another state agency in your bussiness. But if he realy hurts you this time and you die who would protect the kids?\n Stay strong, you can make it!
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I hate to say it but I believe you have a reason to be concerned about your soon to be ex-husband's visits to your son even though they are supervised.  \nMy suggestion would to make sure your attorney has the information.  Due to his past history make your request for supervised visitation be a non negotiable point in the divorce.  Make sure your attorney brings it up to the judge.  Usually at some point the judge will ask you if you have anything to say.  Tell him/her yes.  Explain the abuse and drugs and so on to the judge.  Have it written down at least the key points so you remember everthing you want to say to the judge that way you don't leave anything out.    \nAlso for your peace of mind, I would suggest you talk to a therapist or member of clergy to help you deal with your feelings about him and his behaviors.  \nSomeday you will find that special someone who will love you and your son.  He will be the best person for you and your son.  \nBest of luck
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You can be emotionally free of that person, but you will never be freed of the responsibility of the child you both made. You owe the other person respect as the childs parent, but nothing more. Tell him your relationship is over, and other than conversation about the child and the childs needs, you have nothing to discuss. Do not argue, do not meet anywhere. Drop the child off at his mothers when it's time for visitation and pick the child up there. You have to separate your personal life from him.
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You can try to get a restraining order preventing her from taking the child to step dad.
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I live in Georgia and am a man. My ex wife is abusively controlling. After our divorce she turned into super mom. Having to control every tiny thing about the children to the point of obsession. My son wants to be with me and my attorney says the judges have to consider a request at 12, strongly consider at 13, and no choice but accept the request at 14. Unless the request isnt in the best interest of the child, ie... the requested parent is a crimminal or drug addict etc...
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I'm not sure about NY since I don not live there, bu legally since you have viitation rights to see your son on specific dates and times then legallay you have every right to take him, your son's father has no right leglly to keep him from you no matter his reason.  I would go to your attorney and file a complaint with the courts.  He on the other hand can also file a compaint staing that he does not want his some to be around that grandmother, but the courts will have to do an investiation as to whether he has a just cause or no.  I will tell you if they do find her unfit to be around then you will of course still have your visitation, but you will not be able to take your son around her at any time, unless it is approved by the judge.  Good Luck and go get your son, if he refuses on your day then I advise you to call the cops and have them interfere, and have your visitation papers in hand for the poice to see, they will make him hand over your son.
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I'd say block their number, restraining orders are generally only issued if threats of violence or actual physical contact of a violent or threatening nature have taken place.
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Dear Friend,\n\nYou need to speak to Child Protective Services.  They will tell you the process for your state.  Obviously, she'll get to tell the court her side of things as well.  If she's a real threat to your kids, hop on it.  If you just want to hurt her, find something better to do with your time.\n\nYour Friend,\nFrancesois
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You cannot stop visitation rights in any ftate unless the parent has a record of abuse toward children. Sometimes visitation can be stopped, other times it has to be supervised. All states are the same, EVERY child has the RIGHT to EACH parent. \n\nDepending on the age of the child can determine if visitation is allowed. Can the child speak for him/herself?\n\nMy ex didn't care to see my children...we even lived 1/2 mile apart. Children grew up not wanting anything to do with him. Their choice...court couldn't change it. \n\nTalk to a lawyer is your BEST shot. Child Support and Visitation do NOT go together. TX can order $5.00/month CS and unlimited, unsupervised visitation; or they can order $1000.00/month and NO visitation. There is no way of knowing unless you have a record of any confirmed abuse to the child. \n\nThe court won't care about father not having interest in child. In fact, they might demand that he does. Good luck, I can feel for you.