In a moment of selfish indulgence the email password of a good friend/ex-boyfriend (whom is still cared about tremendously) was reset. The email messages were never read. It was inconceviable, this was admitted many times. Would you forgive someone for their faults?
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it'll take a bit of time cos its a betrayal of trust but i would think that thats forgivable. especially cos you do seem real sorry
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Maybe he didn't expect his ex to attempt to hack into his account?? Just a thought! Whether he goes on porn sites is no longer any of your business, and I doubt he still loves you with no contact... I don't wish to be cruel, but it's time you tried to move on.
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How is it you were able to write that qusetion without it being censored? You definately get points for that.\n\nAs for your question, I agree.  Unfortunately we can't control other people or make them be nice.  The only thing we can do is forgive them.  Forgiving someone doesn't make them any less wrong, and it doesn't mean we have to start liking the person, but it does set us free so that we don't have to walk around pi$$ed off all of the time.  So basically we have a choice.  We could forgive and be happy, or not forgive and let the bastards get us down.
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You went through his personal stuff thinking you would find something and YOU DID! First off, going through his stuff is wrong and you are in the wrong for doing so; however, since you know whats up why do you want someone in you life like that? He's not going to be able to trust you and vice versa...it doenst get better from here even if you two agree to be with other, cause even though we forgive we never forget.\nYou two are just friends, right?  So then you two are allowed to see other people, right?  Technically, he is doing nothing wrong.  If you want more with him then that shouldhave been stated.  The rules needed to out laid down and I'm thinking they weren't, or were maybe unclear.  All in all, why would you want to be with someone who wants to be with other people?  \nI know exactly what youre going through and honey, it wont get easier cause youll keep finding shit out.  Since you had access to his e-mail, youll try to get access to other things, like his phone, voicemail, any other personal stuff...its not cool to go through his shit cause ultimately you know youre gonna find something.  That voice inside, that feeling in your gut...it doesnt lie
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Wholeheartedly!! I am of the opinion that if you can't write it out fully, it isn't worth saying. I happen to be one of those people that friends get angry at because it takes me so long to send a text message; nothing is abbreviated.
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Honey,\nI was in the same spot as you once before. I didn't like it. I didn't brake up with him. He wasn't cheating on me either. My online boyfriend broke his leg and was in the hospital for a few weeks. When I found out I was so freakin sad. I felt bad because I sent him e-mails and told him to stop cheating on me and I totally jumped to conclusions. I have never ever done that after what happened those few weeks. I hope you find out that he is not cheating and that he e-mails you and I hope that you and him  have a good lasting realationship.\nGood luck- babe
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is it okay is you steal something else from someone else from another question?  cuz i think it's hilarious so if you can i stole this from a best answer in a question.  here lemme quote it:\n\n"I was helping someone set up his computer, and he wanted to log in with a password. Now you have to understand he's got somewhat of a rebellious attitude and goes for the shock effect. So when the computer asked him to enter his password, he keys in 'penis'. I nearly fell off the chair from laughing so hard when the computer replied: \n*** PASSWORD REJECTED. NOT LONG ENOUGH ***"
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This is an experience that I dealt with with my "ex-husband". When I caught it, I challenged him on it. He came up with so many explanations that I finally gave him an ultimatum. I told him that he needed to chose between the internet and me. He was also looking at adult porn. He said he would quit, but one day, I checked history, and found that he lied to me. Not only that, but while I was online, I didn't realize that his instant messenger hadn't been closed, and an IM window popped up from a girl who said "hey sexy"! When I looked at the messenger, I realized it was his, and not mine. I told her who I was and she said "What are you doing on his computer?" I told her that it was my computer, and that he was sleeping in my bed. I asked her if she wanted me to wake him up. Well, she was fuming at that point, and started saying things like "Oh, we're just friends, and also that they had never met, she was only playing around". Well, needless to say, I showed him the door real quick. I live in Ohio, she lives in Indiana. When he left, guess where he went immediately??? LOL! Indiana, of course, and he married her 6 months later. Funny thing is, they are divorced now, and since then, he has been engaged to 3 other women, 2 of which dumped him for the same reasons, and he is planning on his 3rd wedding with his new fiance this year. I've always been told that "leopards never change their spots". That's some good advise that I got from my mother. She is very right!!! \n\nMy advise is....don't get caught up in the whirlwind of the lies. They only get bigger and better as time goes on. If he's doing it now and says he'll stop, he'll do it behind your back! Cut your losses and find someone who truely cares about you and your feelings!!!
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I wish I could say "forgive" and forget. But "once a cheater-always a cheater." Actually, if you will listen to the wisdom that is inside of you, you already know what to do . . . \n\nThe reality is that being able to cheat is a huge character flaw. It means that person does not respect you or themselves. Plus, that person is able to lie and not feel guilty enough about it to break and tell the truth. I am no kid ~~ and if you are young, please learn from those of us who have been around the block and few times ~~ respect yourself and without a lot of drama -- tell the guy goodbye.  \n\nAre there ever cheaters who change? Yes, but you will find that those who have usually had a deep life-changing religious experience. Those who are "sorry" and say "they will never do it again" without a deep internal overhaul, are the ones who cheat again. \n\nI have experienced it all. I have been cheated on, I have been hurt until I didn't think I could hurt any more, I have forgiven, and I have been hurt right back again. This is not a vindictive response. This is a word from one older sister to a younger one -- stay away from the cheaters. They will only break you heart.
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.\nShe needs to change her PASSWORD to a secure one that includes numbers in two separate places, and NOT use information he can guess.  No kids names, doggies, birthdays, etc.\n\nExample:\none2tenhes1\n\nEven that one is too easy but it shows letters and numbers...you get the idea.\n\nA sure fire way for her to make her email unbreakable, is to NOT use a downloadable program...only use email "online" with a password required to get in EVERYTIME.\n\nstw\n.
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I had similar experience too. Initially I had a hard time deciding whether it was due to some fault of mine or that whether I should have been more tolerant. I even felt that maybe I could go and explain to my friend why I had stopped talking with him altogether.\n\nBut then, I felt that it was for the best. Maybe I was wrong in some aspects, but it was wrong on his part too to not have been understanding and to have taken things for granted. A true friend would never put his/her friend in a spot or do/say something which would hurt his/her friend's feelings -atleast not intentionally- and since this was happening quite often, I felt it was not unintentional (and even if it was, then it meant that he was being too insensitive).\n\nRegardless, now I have no bad feelings about it. We should move on... there will always be new friends both for us and for our 'ex-friend'... I just wish now that he too has moved on and I wish him all the success and happiness in life- only that I cant be a part of it. Nothing to feel too bad about it, huh?
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My husband cheated on me shortly after we got together...but I did say he's my husband, right?  He swears up and down to never do it again, it's hard to forget, but I have forgiven him and am still, after 2 1/2 years trying to forget.  It's not easy, but I love him too, and don't want to let go.  He respects me for forgiving him, and since I gave him a second chance, he will be faithful to me.
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Boy have I.  Just don't do what I did and make an ass of yourself through e-mail.  If you're going to risk anything do it to their face so you can at least gauge what their reaction really is while you are in the middle of it.
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I tried to email you and my computer said:\nthat your email didn't go through because your recipient email address has not been confirmed...\n\nthe person that was just there deleted thier answer....
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I am glad now after reading your question that i do not have my email available for messages like this.  Who would open their email address to receive horrible emails from people who dont agree with our opinions?  \n\nPhew!  I feel relieved!\n\nAlso i am so glad i have become a christian and am learning how we are meant to love one another, not judge or criticise, forgive, etc.\n\nAlso how do you know that we are all posers?  Some of us are real christians too!  We really want this world to be a better place and i know i personally care heaps about people - people i dont even know on this yahoo answers site.  So try not to be angry and bitter at us when we are only doing what we think is right and trying to help others.\n\nAnd remember - we can all have our opinions.  We dont have to agree.  It is interesting and sometimes informative to listen to others opinions.  I have learnt heaps from it.\n\nGod bless
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Well... I am queen of being scandalous... Try to somehow find out his password to his e-mails...  Open the emails and you can usualy find out all of your info there... I've found out web sites my ex was going to and was able to sign on every single site he had an account with and check and see what he was doing... THEN I busted him... It may or may not work...
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it depends on what the person issaying by that..\nIt could be that he/she quitted computer or vacation..\nbut there is more chance of him/her to read ur email