i fell in love with this girl over the internet, but i just found out that she became pregnant and doesnt know who the father is. what do i do?
135203
first off, internet love is never a sure thing.  always be careful who you meet, cause the chances of them being who they really say they are are usually slim to none, and thats just asking to get hurt.\n\nnow, she got pregnant by someone else?  that should tell yo right there that she doesnt care about you as much as you care about her.  my advice is to get out of the relationship.  but, if you think its really love, talk to her.  one thing to remember: how would you feel raisising someone else's kid?  is she worth it to you?
126747
The first thing is settle for friendship when he does get here. People can be pretty decieving when you meet them in real life. Secondly, you heard he had a gf but it may not be true. Just casually try to find out if he does or not. Having a new father figure in a kid's life can be hard, but he's still at a young age. Just make him get to know the person first, it's always easier that way. Like if you guys go to the park or out for a dinner together. Plus, it's also a nice way to find out how he treats your kid. just take it a day at a time. good luck:)
374640
Hmm, I don't think that's what happened.  I think that's what she told you though...\n\nIt appears to me she left you, got with someone else, got pregnant, he did the bolt, then she suddenly loves you again.\n\nSometimes doesn't sound right here.
72036
well ppl should be careful while chatting on net. I mean you never know how the person is. I am not scaring you but I have come across many cases where girls have been abondoned and some have also got pregnant. I am not saying that it can happen to you but you should still be careful. Just introspect and analyze where this thing is going? Is it safe? Will my parents be happy with whatever I am doing? After all your life is a part of others'.
159211
Buddy!!! 'Drugs' and 'getting your girlfriend pregnant' have been two big mistakes you've made in life. (My apologies if you were not the one to get her pregnant). \n\nMistakes need correction. You're doing good with staying away from drugs.\n\nNow, Whether or not you were the one to get your girlfriend pregnant, you need to be with and around her. If you call her a friend, remember - A friend in need is a friend indeed. She probably needs your support, while you're trying to get her off your mind. I hope you're going to do the right thing here too.\n\nI wish well for the both of you.
409815
I think if your attitude is honorable and not smart alec like "hey dad, I got your girl pregnant...." that you'll be ok.  Good ol dad needs to know you really love his daughter and that you will take care of her and the baby.  It's all in your attitude, believe me.  As far as telling then in front of everyone, I don't know.  I think it would be great, but that's just me.  If her family does one of those go around the table to tell what you are thankful for you could break it then by saying something like you are so thankful for being a part of their daughter's life and that it will soon be 3 of you not just 2 of you.  Just love on everyone and be positive...it'll come back to you.  Good luck!
597634
maybe you should ask her to see a gyn regarding this......\neven with a urine test....its not 100% sure that she is pregnant...the only test which can confirm a pregnancy is through ultrasound......\n\nand if you want an abortion, you have to act fast....because once the fetus gets about 4-month-old, it will be dangerous for the mother to get an abortion done........
368056
Did he seem worried when you told him that she was pregnant? Just because he was the last one she slept with doesn't make him the father. Who else did she sleep with during that time. Only a paternity test will tell for sure.
81777
OUCH. \nWow that sucks. Yeah if she is dating someone else already then she should have had enough time to put some things together for your child to have. I would go about it gently so as not to pi** her off, where then your child may not get anything, but I would really try to maybe talk to her and say, you know, *insert child's name here* really misses their dad and it would really mean a lot to them if they could have some things to hold on to to remember them with. That's a tough one, sorry I don't have any brilliant advice.
352755
you dont have to hide, you tell her father about it honestly, \nyou can hide it temporarily but for how long? it is more hurting if he finds it out later, he will feel betrayed that after trusting you, you managed to hide it, so be brave enough to tell him about it right now, if you have a good relationship with her father, im sure he will understand you
256819
baby girl, there is nothing to figure out. you're both together and happy. right? then just go with the flow.
388166
Well...Only thing you can do now is tell ur family and ur baby's daddy.... At school they'll proboly excpet it before they reject it.... A girl at my school was pregnant and she is only 14. Everyone accepted her so u don't have to hide it.... Just find someone you an talk to.
196730
What if she is your one true love?\nI say go for it, because true love doesn't come around much these days and when it does, people are usually too distracted with whatever is going on in their lives to notice anyway.\nBUT if she did have the baby and kept it, be prepared to be a part of that kid's life. That is a major commitment. It adds a completely different dynamic to the relationship, it'll still be worth it if she really did satisfy you the way you say she did though.\nAs for this other guy, you say you USED TO call him so, you have no obligation to him. F*ck him. Just make 100% sure that she feels the same way about you after all this time before you make your move!\nGood Luck!!
199711
Maybe your local child protective services agency can help you. They deal with this sort of thing all the time and can tell you what you need to do. \n\nI would get notarized affadavits/statements from anyone who has information about this man. Also, you can demand a DNA test if there is some doubt about whether he is the father.\n\nGood luck. It sounds like you are the best hope for these children.
580679
My dear friend, you have nothing to worry about because THERE IS A GOD! Oh yes!! \nHe is a father or mother to us. Just get close enough and you'll realise. You know what, sincerely ask Him to show Himself to you and it'll happen. Ask with a genuineness of heart and spirit. I shall be here to hear your wonderful story.\nAll the best
225735
Have a kid with some one else? Have you tried asking? Maybe you should sit her down and ask if she wants everyone in the world to know that she is basically sterile and if it is okay for you to tell everyone on the Internet that? Lets say by chance you get her pregnant. Its a Girl will you reject the child? Your question says you want a Son. So not only do you want your Girlfriend to do something she cant do but you want her to push out a boy. If all else fails. Tell her you love her and you want to share in the ultimate joy of having children together. Then go to the fertility clinic and work on this together.
127467
Well first do you think he will be highly upset and uncontrollable if he found out? If so, you might tell him in a public place, like a parking lot of a walmart or restaurant. Etc.. Another approach is ask him how he would feel about the two of you having children. And then ask how about if it was soon. He will start to catch on. Also let him know that this is possible and that you are'nt sure yet.