I've had alot of things happening in my life lately. Mostly bad. I can't seem to get out and do everything I used to. I want to tell someone, but I can't. I want to tell my mother, but I don't want her to worry about me, she's going through alot now too. Any Ideas?
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I understand your desire to stay away from\n"sledgehammer" solutions that involve powerful,\nsometimes untested prescription medicines. When it\ncomes to your health, remedies that are stronger are\nnot always better. I have three things that have\ngotten me through times when I've been depressed, and\nthey're all gentle solutions that I think will suit an\nintelligent person like yourself. \n\n1 - The first is what Freud calls the "talking cure".\nHe insists that it must be performed by a\npsychoanalyst who you are paying for, but actually\nI've performed it by writing in a diary. The key is to\nbe very honest, and try to find connections that you\nmight otherwise be supressing, because these are the\nareas that need work. For example, what's the first\nthing that pops into your mind when you think of\n"depression"? If the answer is "flying a kite", then\nfollow the chain... What do you think of when you\nthink of "kite" and "flying"... You'll be surprised\nhow quickly this takes you right down to an event in\nyour childhood or an unresolved conflict that might\nhave happened a year ago.\n\n2 - Looking for lies. A chair cannot make you\ndepressed. A lampshade cannot make you depressed. Only\nanother person can make you depressed. I believe it is\nbecause a chair and a lampshade cannot lie. Only a\nperson can lie. Depression, it seems to me, comes from\nbelieving a lie. That conflict (between reality and\nthe lie) takes up so much mental energy to maintain,\nit drains you as a whole. You may find, after using\ntechnique #1, that it leads to you to this conclusion\n#2. For example, after free associating your way to an\nevent, you might find that it was when someone told\nyou that you weren't worth a hill of beans. The\nproblem is not that they insulted you, the problem is\nthat you believed the lie. Beware, giving up on a lie\nthat we've believed in for a long time is tougher than\nit sounds.\n\n3 - This one is going to sound goofy, especially after\nwading in deeply with the other two techniques. Get\nsome light to shine on the cells in the back of your\neyes. Go outside for an extended period of time\nwithout sunglasses (no need to stare at the sun or a\nlight-bulb, indirect light will do). Use one of those\ngentle light therapy products like www.everlyte.com .\nTake a trip on a sailboat. Spend a few hours in open\nfields on sunny days. It's those cells in the eyes\nthat produce much of the chemical that pills and\nherbal remedies seek to replace, but the cells in the\neyes put the chemicals where they are needed, in your\nbrain, and not in your stomach and everywhere else.\nThis third technique will help you with the other two,\nallowing you to think clearly, and get out from being\nstuck in a loop.\n\nI hope this "whole-istic" answer is as helpful to you\nas it has been to me over the years. A gentle look at\nthe whole picture is often better than a sledgehammer\nto just one piece of the problem.
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No, not really\nY? Has it happened 2 u? \nDon't worry it's ok, u just have to tell ur mom
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I was in the same situation. I didnt know how to tell my parents i wanted to move out.. I started buying things i would need and starting saving money. I also would tell everyone else yet not them...then one day someone brought it up in front of my mom and she was like...what you want to move out. Then I came out and told her....Its not that i dont want to live with you anymore..its just it is time for me to leave and begin my life as an adult. They were sad at first but you know what... my parents told me after that they understand and as long as i am happy in my decision they are happy too, even though they miss me.\n\nThis is my story maybe it can help you.
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Kayla, \nSometimes things can get pretty low in life and we don't always know why. I have been there and my heart goes out to you now. It seems as though there are those that suffer more than others at times and I know it doesn't seem fair.\n\nThink about the future even though it is hard. Tell yourself that it is going to get better and take one little thing out of your day that may have made you slightly smile and think of it often.\nTalk to your Mom, I do to mine. She is with you, just in a different way. \nSchool is a hard place to find friends, especially girls. They can be very petty! Find them elsewhere. In a good place. Like maybe a support group or something.\nMost of all, say your prayers! He is listening even though at times it doesn't seem like it. Things will fall into place. I promise you that!
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I definetely understand your situation. I did something like that one time, and a friend called the cops on me! And true, I don't like people to know how screwed up my life is. But you know what? Things have gotten better, and I look back on those times and wonder how I survived. I'm just saying that this will pass, and one day you will feel SO together. Just hang in there.
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I think you have to eventually come to grips with the fact that\n\nyour mother has mental/emotional issues and that they have\n\nnothing to do with you. You need to realize that you're caught\n\nin the middle of this insanity, and that eventually all will\n\nbe well. Ride it out, nothing you can do at the moment.\n\nYour mother does not sound well. But I can be wrong.
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I think you need to tell your family, because in default of your own ability to take care of yourself, they might be the ones who end up making decisions about your care for you.\n\nThis is not something you should be dealing with on your own.  I would suggest that your psychiatric care person/team might be able to suggest a way for you to get through to your mother.  Perhaps she or other family members might be able to participate in counseling or therapy sessions with you.\n\nWhat she needs to understand is that what you are telling her is not necessarily an attack on her parenting you, as in an accusation that she caused or somehow brought about your illness.  If you and your mother have a history of not getting along well or communicating well, then you definitely need to involve a professional counselor in this.  \n\nWith your diagnosis, you definitely need to give some thought as to who might become responsible for decisions regarding your care should something happen that requires someone else to assume responsibility for you.  The default is to family members, and this may not be what you want.  If it isn't, you need to find out how to arrange things so that the person you choose is legally empowered to make decisions for you should need arise.  Your psychiatric care team should be able to assist you in this.\n\nGood luck and take care.  Be well!
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Hi hon!\nThis happened to a friend of mine also.  He was 19, had cancer.  Was on some serious medication, but was getting by.  Then we all stopped hearing from him.  Visited his house, but his mom said he had died.  But his shoes were in the hallway.\nSo we all grieved, and moved on.  \nYears later he showed up on one of my friends doorstep.  His mom had told all his friends that he had died.  What a bitch.\nMaybe he didn't want people to see him like that.  Maybe his mom thought his friends would stress him out.  I don't know.  All I do know is we aren't friends with him anymore, we wish him well, but what a terrible thing to do to your "friends".\nSo I shared a little something with you there didn't I?  Take it for what it is, an experience.  Perhaps you aren't getting the whole story either!\nHave a great week...
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Do I no how you feel!! Welcome to the Black sheep of the family club :0)\n\nMove out of the house. You are the strong hold of the family. This is how I rationalized my situation. Now that I have been out for quite a while I get phone calls for help from my family. What should I do, or this is what mom is doing how can I....\nAs far as not being able to release the same way they do to you what I did is find others outside of the family....Parents are supposed to be there for there kids but in todays world this is not always the case.\nGood luck it will not be long before you are out on your own...
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Hi you right it's not worth fighting over. Maybe she just feels like she can't talk to you about certain things that are happening in her life right now. I wouldn't worry to much about it. People sometimes find that it is easier to confide in strangers. That way no one will be able to judge her.
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Your mom is looking out for you. You should not be allowed to do what ever you want. Do you see the news at all these days.  There are a Lot of things going on, even with people  you trust and you think they would never do some of the terrible things that they do. No one else will care for you and love you as much as your parents. You may not see it now, but when you get older you will appreciate that you had parents who looked out for your best interest. You are at the age were most children don't like much of what the parents say or do. With that said I do not think it is right for you mother to call you stupid. Try to talk to your mom about the name calling. Tell her how it makes you feel.
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I say just tell them what you have been feeling. I hope every thing goes the way you want it to. If it doesn't there is always some one out ther who loves and respect you for who you are good luck :)
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I don't know if there is a way to really get over it. She is your mom.  I do know how you feel.  My relationship with my mom has always been strained I always just let her say whatever and took it.  I eventually backed away and we didn't talk for a while. Then we slowly started talking again.  We still talk but don't have a close relationship.  I would give it some time and let her cool down.  Hopefully she will come around.  Hang in there.  But remember that even if she is your mom she shouldn't put you down and she should support you.  So even if you do have a relationship again with her don't rely on her for emotional support.
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This is a tough place for a young woman to be! You are going through an emotional time anyway as you enter puberty. Have you talked with your sisters and do they acknowledge the way she treats you? Maybe one of them will be kind enough to tell your mother how her actions are affecting you. My other suggestion would be to speak with a minister or your school guidance counselor, perhaps have a family session. Please know you are worthwhile despite all that is going on. love to you.
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just tell your mom that you need to talk to her. tell her in a mature way that you're going through certain changes and i'm sure she will listen to you and everything will be fine
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Trey\nYou totally need to tell your mom.\nThere is no way on the right or wrong way of telling your mom the problems you are dealing with in life.  \n\nOur parents are here to help, protect and love us.  I am a mom and I would want my girls to come to me for anything and everything.  \n\nEspecially if it has to do with drugs, eating disorders and self abuse.  There are reasons you are doing it and you can not handle all of these issues on your own.  You just cant.\n\nYou need to be flat out honest and tell you mom what is going on with you.  I believe you wouldnt be asking Yahoo Answers if you didnt want the help...right?\n\nGo to mom and say, "Mom...I love you and I need to talk to you about some things that have been going on in my life.  I need your help right now.  So please, what I am going to tell you, you might get mad at first, but I need your love and support right now."  And than tell her.  Tell her you experimented with pot and you are dealing with cutting and anorexic issues.\n\nYour life is to precious not to talk to someone.  If you really dont belive you can talk to your mom go to your school counsler or another responsable adult who you can trust to help you find the help you need.\n\nI also realize how bad you dont want to tell your mom.  But I really belive you need and should tell her what is going on.\n\nI would totally respect my girls and feel so apprecitive if they came to tell me they were pregnant, getting high or anything in life that they are trying to deal with on thier own.\n\nEven though you are 13 you still have alot of mental growing up to.  And I know at 13 you feel like you should be treated like an adult.  But there are many things in life 13 year olds just cant do yet because they arent mentally ready for it.\n\nGo to your mom,  and talk to her.  Tell her your exact feelings and be honest with her.  SHe will totally respect you for it and love you!
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You have to tell someone. If you are worried about the way your Mum may react you need to get another adult family member that you trust  to talk to her. If there is no family member that you trust then maybe a teacher etc. I can tell you as someone who was raised with abuse you need to break the cycle. Silence will not solve this problem. hope this helps and I hope even more that this problem is resolved