i had a friend!!!\nhe was a guy we were best friends we would talk 24/7 hug eachother like friends should and give advice to eachother!!\nhe was there whenever i needed him well at least thats what i thought!!!!!\nhe got a girl friend and started acting really dumb with me like seriosly!!!!\ni got really mad and said screw him and was mean too him cause he was being really mean to me!!!like passing the line!!\nnow he wants to work things out but then when ever i go over to his house he acts really dumb and its lame!dude!!!\ni really wnat to work things out but what is he does this again!!!!!!!?????????\ni really miss him and im still stressed out about it!!!!\ni dont know what to do!!!\n?????\nhelp me pleezzee\ni really need a friend right now but not one that will lie like he did?????\nthanks\nluvv yaL\nxoxo\n}IsAbElL{\nWAIT WHAT IF HE DOSENT WANT TO BE MY FRIEND ANYMORE??
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It sounds to me like you need a new best friend.\nIf he acts like that toward you then he is NOT a friend.\n\nI doubt if he will change back to how he used to be.  I've never heard of THAT happening.\n\nSince the two of you were freinds for SO long, that tells me that YOU are a great friend to have.\n\nIt should be VERY easy to replace him with someone who will appreciate having you as their friend.\n\nLeave the loser alone, move on and find new freinds so you can go back to being happy!
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WOw. I've been through the same exact thing this is what i did i just straight up told her that i was feeling left out and when i was hanging out with her and her new friend it was akward cuz she wouldn't act the same. You have to tell her cuz it will drive u carzy and will cause drama. If she is a real true friend she'll understand and make things better. If not find a new best friend that wont skrew u over for another person instead of treatin u the same
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Oh my GOD!!! That has to be the saddest story that I have ever read on here. You poor poor fella. This is for you *A great big hug* If it helps I have some nice boobs. I hope the best for you, and you have to remember that Tomorrow WILL BE BETTER!!! It has to be. You should think about dumping that skank of a ho girlfriend You deserve a lot better and you know that you do, and you should think about going to the doctor and if you need a little help there is no shame in it, I too have been cheated on and it is the worse and most horrible feeling, I had to go on Zoloft, but the good thing is that it helps and once you can come out of the fog of depression you can see more clearly. You deserve better! Get you a plan of action and figure out what you need to do, Evalute every aspect of your life... is it time for a lifestyle change... change of job, if at all possible kick her out because adding a move on top of everything is going to be more stressful, and what a B*tch to laugh at you after what you went through, find a safer jogging route... and did you ever think that maybe that guy punched you because she is banging him? I kinda wondered that when I read, because that is just too strange that a guy would punch you for NO reason, and then she laughed on top of it... Go out with some friends or family, if you don't have any... make some, you need to surround yourself with loving and caring people. Best of luck to you, and I hope that your nose isn't broken a nice guy like you doesn't deserve that. *Another big hug and maybe a  little kiss on the cheek*
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I went through the same thing with my best friend. She did a complete 180, started doing drugs having sex etc. and it turned into a huge fight. I confronted her about it and told her how pissed it made me. We didn't talk for the next six months. Then slowly we began to hang out again. We are now talking and hanging out but it will never be the friendship we once had. You need to confront your friend then ignore him completely until your ready to reestablish a friendship on YOUR terms. Like I said it won't ever be what it was but you can at least save something.
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im so sorry for u..i see how confussing this must be for you..<i could barely understand this it was so conf..> but i think u need to start from the begginning..why did she think u were ditching her...and tell her "i have a new bff and so do u, u should have thought about ur decsion before u got a new bff" so untill then..lets just stay bf..ok.."\n\nhope this helps..i hope things work out for u..\n\n: )
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ive been caught in this before. i got a whole childhood story on it and the more the girl went on, the worse i felt. but apparently this friend of yours must have been pretty traumatized (i cant spell lol) by what happened to her and still kinda haunts her. i can understand both of u, as u not knowing her past like that, and since u were friends u felt like u thought u could joke about anything. i guess some things are really still hurting deep inside. but she didnt NEED to blow up on u, cuz u didnt know. i get the feeling shes guna come to her senses eventually. try and see it from her side, being a constantly teased child and then getting it all over again, kinda like re-opening the wound.\n\nbest of luck with your bud.
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Hard to be friends with someone who will not share their interiors. It is in being open and disclosing with others that the bonds of trust and friendship strengthen. Not replying to emails, saying that you sent too many (especially if they were personal ones) sounds pretty small-minded and needy to me.\n\nI think that friendship and communication are possible only between equals. It sounds to me like he was treating you not like an equal but like something like a dependent, a child. In that case, and remember we do  not know your relationship with this guy that well, I would say to keep your distance.\n\nGuys are funny (not laughable, but strange) in the United States. They grow up very late, if they grow up at all. They are sort of like dogs: wolves that do not mature. BTW, did you know that? Wolves have almost the same genes, dogs are the permanent juvenile form, though. Anyway, guys remain little boys: needy, whiney, and very self-centered. Your former friend seems like that is his case.\n\nLive well and show him that he made a great mistake in ignoring you. You are well-worth paying attention to. \n\nThat is my considered opinion.
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she has a bad issue and getting friends i bet? sweetie you just have to slowly slack from her, so she can get the hint, and also tell first and see how she acts by telling her how you feel about the friendship you both have. tell her that to listen to u for a moment and let her know. u seem sweet to let a friend hurt you. be sweet and don't stoop to her level.be straight foward. if he doesn't work and she bitch at you. then she is not a true friend. you can find better.
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I, too have drifted away from friends I know since childhood. The best thing to do is have a peer mediation. Sounds totally, dorky, right?  Talk to her privately, so no one get embarrassed and tell her your honest feelings. i know it may be hard at first, but trust me, once you get going, it'll be easier. Set up some rules, like no interruptions, and let her talk. Tell her she's been hurting you, and that she's too bossy! don't raise your voice or tell her you hate her though. =P LET HER TALK TOO! Maybe she's been going through something. when my friends and I did this, I let them talk also. WE all ended on the floor bawling, but it was GOOD. I felt...RELIEVED. My friends and I are A LOT happier, and now, we know to talk BEFORE we blow up. Let her say what she needs too, but IF SHE starts getting aggressive, or rude-WALK AWAY. You don't deserve that. Maybe your friendship can be salvaged, most likely no, but at least you won't end the friendship on bad terms. Tell her that this is what's best for both of you, and you know longer desire her he company. Be the better person and walk away if things get ugly.\nGod bless, hun!
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She did something she knew was deceptive and against your will. She\n\nthen misled you and was deceptive about it once you caught on. She\n\nflat-out lied about her actions and tried to make out as if it were\n\nyou who was in the wrong and had a lack of understanding (a\n\ngenerational thing that you aren’t able to comprehend).\n\n\n\nShe says Jeff is “easy to talk to” and that he’s “a great listener” –\n\nmajor red flag\n\n\n\nYou made your value of honesty perfectly clear and yet she\n\nintentionally betrayed that in spite of your openness of how much it\n\nmeant to your relationship.\n\n\n\nI find your statement here perplexing:\n\n\n\n“I personally think it’s a bit weird for a guy to be calling a girl\n\nwho has a boyfriend every day, but I also don’t’ want to treat my gf\n\nlike a child.”\n\n\n\nI don’t. \n\n\n\nYour “girlfriend” is acting childish but you don’t want to treat her\n\nlike a child. She has given you every reason to question her integrity\n\nyet you insist on being more permissive. You wonder how a guy (which\n\nshe admittedly feels so comfortable being with and confiding in) would\n\ncall on a girl who has a “boyfriend”. Dude, in my opinion, HE is her\n\nboyfriend too. Is it really that unclear? My guess is that YOU are\n\nprobably NOT her “boyfriend” in HIS mind, but YOU are merely an\n\nobstacle (she never mentions you and he never asks about you) . It\n\nwould seem, on it’s face at least, that she may feel the same way (why\n\nwould she be honest about this too when she found it so easy to lie\n\nabout everything else). The fact remains that she encourage, or at\n\nleast welcomes, his advances which she KNOWS FOR A FACT are totally\n\nagainst your will and undisputedly outside the parameters of trust\n\nthat the two of you have agreed upon for your relationship (in view of\n\nher previous lies about Jeff).\n\n\n\n“she says ‘she thinks about him all the time, and misses him. She’s\n\ndepressed that she can’t see him.”\n\n\n\nI’m not trying to belittle you or suggestion that you are less than\n\nintelligent because I know how love clouds the mind. But, c’mon big\n\nfella; you need to wake up because as hard as this is to swallow, in\n\nmy opinion you’re being had.\n\n\n\n“She says that maybe I don’t trust her, and she can’t spend the rest\n\nof her life with someone who can’t trust her, and she knows I feel the\n\nsame way.”\n\n\n\nShe KNOWS you don’t trust her and she KNOWS you don’t want to be with\n\nsomeone you can’t trust. It kinda makes one wonder if she’s not trying\n\nto help you dump her by continuing to give you reason after reason to\n\nnot trust her, doesn’t it? See what I mean? I don’t think she “feels\n\nbad” because she doesn’t “want to make you upset”, she feels bad\n\nbecause she KNOWS it makes you upset and she KNOWS that isn’t right –\n\nbut she still does it, doesn’t she?\n\n\n\nI find it odd that you think it “might” be ok that she doesn’t tel you\n\nall these little details about her relationship with this guy but that\n\nshe obviously tells him all the little details of her relationship\n\nwith YOU (if you’re not aware, intimate talk is what “easy to talk to”\n\nand “a good listener” often represent). You’re not seeing the two of\n\nthem discuss YOU because he probably already knows more than he cares\n\nto know already.\n\n\n\n>>>Do I let her keep meeting him as long as she’s honest with me about\n\nmeeting him?\n\nYou may not have a choice anymore.\n\n\n\n>>>Should I be worried? \n\nYou bet.\n\n\n\n>>>Do I tell her that she can’t be his friend and my boyfriend at the same time? \n\nYes, you can, but you risk losing her if you do. \n\n\n\n\n\n>>>Can I honestly, in good faith, tell her who she can and can’t be friends with? \n\nYou know what – you can (sort of). In a mature relationship everyone\n\nknows what the rules are. You
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First of all.....my sympathies for the loss of your babies.\n\nI have been in this situation...friend-wise....and can only tell you of this experience. This person told everyone I was her "best friend" but would only call me or come to see me if she had nothing else to do. She didn't have time to talk when I called her if something that sounded more fun came up. Basically, she used me until I became fed up with it. I finally told her I couldn't be her "fair weather" friend anymore, it wasn't worth the effort since I had nothing glamorous to offer her.\n\nThe short of it is...no matter how you handle it, this type of person won't get it. They're never at fault, never wrong and consider themselves to be the best thing walking upright! Avoid her and always be busy when she decides to call or come around. You're worth more than what she has to offer!!
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why are you afraid to tell her that you dont like her behavior? I was in your situation when I was in collage and this girl was always chasing me! she wanted to be where I was because i was with my handsome and popular friends all the time (what could i do if they were my classmates!) anyway, one day I was just not in the mood to deal with her and I said: you know what, you have very good qualities but IT BOTHERS ME that you are with me because you want to hang out with my friends. Soooo.... stop being so obvious and let me have fun with them!  so, she got my point. she never spoke to me again (and my friends were happy for that too). it was sad because after all she was a good girl but A REAL PAIN IN THE BUTT!
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This is a sticky one. \n\nFirst, let's look at him. The fact that he lied is very troubling, but I can see why he thought it was a good idea. While he was disrespecting your wishes, he was also trying to stick with his friend while sticking with you. No, it's not a smart move, and his point about your insecurity is invalid (lying is just not ok because relationships are about trust), but it sucks for a person to have to choose between a significant other and a friend. I think you guys can work through this however. \n\nWhy do you dislike this female friend of his? Do you suspect that he's cheating on you? Is she flirtatious or touchy-feely with him? Is she just an unlikeable person to you? Or are you merely jealous and insecure? \n\nLet's go with the last question for a bit. You've admitted that you are insecure. Plenty of girls are like that, sadly; I think it's mostly from social conditioning (but that's a whole other Answer!). You said that every time he talks to another girl, you ask him if he wants to be with them. It's exasperating for a guy to hear that. He's going to start feeling as if there's nothing he can do to convince you that he wants only you. It's also exhausting for you because you will needlessly worry about losing him. This will put a strain on the relationship, maybe even cause it to break. \n\nTo me, this is the more troubling problem. It's difficult, even impossible, to change others, so we have to change ourselves. Look into getting help for your insecurity; this will make you an overall healthier person, and spread into your relationship with this guy. A quick Google search for "overcoming insecurity" yields some nice articles: \n\nhttp://www.coping.org/growth/security.htm\nhttp://www.pathwaytohappiness.com/writings-insecurity.htm\n\nYou may want to seek professional counseling as well. You'll feel a lot better overall if you can let go of the worrying over losing people, and start placing some trust in others. It will be a great relief (trust me on that). \n\nNow, let's go back to the female friend. They're probably "just friends," but if they way they interact suggests more, then you have a right to be a bit suspicious. Example: if they are too familiar and flirty with each other. \n\nThis is getting a bit long, so I'll just sum it up. You both need to work on yourselves and with each other to make this work. You should focus on overcoming your insecurity and learning to trust others. You should also respect his friendships, even if he's friends with someone you cannot tolerate. Likewise, he should be supportive of your self-improvement efforts, and stop lying to you so you *can* learn to trust him! It's very hard to trust someone when you catch them in a lie. He should also respect that you dislike his friend, and do things like not forcing you to be around her, not talking about something funny that she said or did, etc. If he won't work with you, then I doubt the relationship is worthwhile. \n\nLast of all, it's very important to remain calm and even-tempered. If you start crying or becoming too angry, he may reach for anything -- even a lie -- to make you stop and calm down.
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you should talk to them and find out what happened and tell them how u felt about bein ditched. i know it sounds lame but it could work and you might forgive them. but if their still being jerks about it then just move on and make better friends.
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Talk to him...I played a joke on my fiance last night. He was kind of being a jerk and so one of our guy friends came to my house and tooka pair of my pants and my cellphone (he lives next door) and when my fiance called our friend said,\n\n"hey marissa left her pants here with her cell...can you come get it!?"\nwe were just playing and he knew nothing would happen betwen me an dour friend but he got SOOO Mad!\n\n\nTalk to him. get him calm enough to explain what was going through your head when you did whatever it was. Whether it was a joke or not. \ngood luck and keep me informed.\n\nrylanandmarissa@yahoo.com
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A lot of people in this situation (just broken up with boyfriend/girlfriend), don't want to hear what they know they should do.  They want to hear go back to him, tell him you love him, he will come back to you, just wait for him, etc.  \n\nBe there for your friend, and if she continues to call you stupid, then tell her that not only has she lost her boyfriend, but she will be losing a good friend if she continues calling you stupid for your advice.
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LOL.....man......I wish I had caller ID a few times too. I had this exact same thing happen to me! You described it well too. I thought I'd split a gut when you said that about the caller ID....ROFL.\n\nWell meaning person, sweet, intelligent....but MAN, just could not understand plain, well-stated english.\n\nOk.....I don't know which way you want to go....\n\n....but I tried and tried...and tried and tried and tried and tried....and did I mention that I tried?...to be polite, respectful, caring.\n\nTo carefully lay barriers (even tho I wanted to hide in a tank), talked with her, communicated in person, on the phone. And it's not like we were strong buds or anything it was just a low-level friendship, but she was treating me like a nuclear-powered soul mate. It was very inappropriate.\n\nI'd speak to her....kindly, clearly, but the message did not sink in. I asked her about what her feelings were, and she squarely, flatly said friendship. I asked her several times...just to be sure, and she emphatically said friendship. \n\nI tried my best to be this woman's friend, but it was never enough. She demanded more and more of my time and attention. It got worse and worse, and I communicated more and more firmly with her. I was starting to look for tickets to the next Shuttle launch so I could get away.\n\nI eventually had to warn her that she was quickly going to lose a friend if she didn't cut it out.....and she didn't....and I had to finally be rude to her. :(\n\nIt's a shame, but I wanted to make sure I did everything I could on my end, to give her every possible chance to keep the friendship. Severing a frendship is a pretty major thing, and I felt bad but things were getting pretty trippy.\n\nDunno what you can glean outta all this, but I wish you luck!     :D