I Really love ,my new boyfriend but im really.........falling for this other guy he has a girl and we dont want to hurt our boyfriend or his girlfriend, but we cant deney our feeling so should i go with my heart(my heart telling me to get with the other guy) or with my mind(witch tells its wrong to get with another guy when he has a girl and i have a guy)
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If you love your boyfriend then how can you love another?Sounds like to me that you have not figured out what real love is.Also does he tell you that he cares for you just to hit the booty?Remember that men love to have more than one on the side.And if he cares for you so much,why is he still with his girl?
665704
yes, you are the only one thats going to get hurt, and if he cheats on his girlfriend, he'll cheat on you. also, think of how you would feel if you were the girlfriend and found out, it would crush you. there are so many other boys in the world that you could date. be true to yourself, dont let someone elses guy take a kiss from you. once ok, its daring and taboo but youll find the consequences are far too great to put yourself in that situation. also, he said he loves you. does he even know you? love takes a lot of time, and usually if a boy who has a girlfriend is kissing another girl and professing love to her, he only wants one thing, or more. if you think nobody knows, think again, if you told anyone, or someone may have seen, and you may get a rep for stealing other girls guys you dont want that. show respect for yourself and others, and you will attract the type of guy thats right for you. you dont want to always be the other woman...they only get heartbreak. keep your chin up and leave that situation alone...
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Honestly....If it was me I wouldn't waste my time. If he's really interested in you then you getting with another guy might make him see what he's been missing. But in all seriousness though. If he shows no sighns of leaving the other girl then you HAVE to move on. Finding a new guy might make you think twice about your first choice. Lifes too short to stay stuck on one guy. Especially in your teen years...if your a teen.
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the guy i am dating now i have been best friends with for 6 years. when we first met we started to flirt nothing serious, then he told me that he wanted to persue this other girl very seriously. so we became really good friends. after four years we were finally both single, he was getting ready to move across the country and he told me how he felt. we've been dating for 2 years now. it is with out a doubt the best relationship i have ever been in. i'm glad we waited, because if not we might not be together right now. if he loves you and you love him. you will end up together. i hope this helps your situation.
155503
Ok well first of all I wouldn't want to be anyone's sloppy seconds so I would ditch your current guy thats crazy.And second of all if the other guy loves you and you love him and you're the oonly one he loves go 4 it!
43374
when your heart feels right you mind and body will follow. if you like or love him go for it if your heart feels right dont second guess yourself go with first feeling and you wont go wrong. remember if he hurt you one time he will hurt you again and if your really into him and he gets you like that again then imagin the pain you fill when he breaks your heart for the second maybe third time. you can stay friend with him and make him suffer i would go but i would play a mind game like he did or will try to do. play his game gurl and remember to love your self more than you love others
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I think you should do what your heart says. If it is telling you that you love this guy, not a little middle school or high school crush, but actually love the guy, its a tough decision. I was in the same position about 4 months ago, but luckily it worked out for me, my friend did get over my now boyfriend. But I had to sit down and have a talk with her. I actually asked her permission to date him. I didnt want to lose a friend over a guy. It can work, and if she says its ok, then she would have no reason to be angry, but if she says no, she doesnt want you to, then just think of how akward it would be to go out with him? she would always be angry, and it would hurt her alot. What if she made a move for him without talking to u? wouldn't that hurt you? Talk to her, and really consider what you say, how you say it, and listen to what she has to say. do it when things are not rocky, or else it will go horribly wrong. It sounds to me like you two need to talk it out, and if necesary, not have either of you date him. it is weird for a while...trust me. and if she says its ok, then it may be akward for a while, but eventually she will be ok with it unless she really does like that guy. And also be sure this guy is really worth it. Trust me, if its a crush, it could ruin both friendships. just have one on one time with him and talk things out with him too. remember, comunication is key. without it, it can all splash in your face. and listening to how ur friend feels is always important, so dont blow it off, or she will be very upset. more than if u hadn't asked her in the first place. just talk to each of them one on one, get a perspective from both of them, and be sure this guy is worth it and make sure he isnt best as a best friend...make sure u want to take it to the next level. who knows, maybe u guys can be as cute of a couple as everyone claims me and my bf is...and one more thing, GOOD LUCK!!! :)
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If you are with another guy, he feels that the other guy can take his place as your boyfriend. If you are with another girl, he doesn't feel as if he can be replaced. Because of this, he considers you being with another guy cheating but not if it is another girl.
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Sorry to hear your angst ... I'm sure it's very hard and mixed up for you right now.\n\nBottom line girlfriend ... if you REALLY love your boyfriend, you'll forget about this lust you feel.  If you have the desire and feel you cannot accept not experiencing this other guy and getting it out of your system, then you have no other choice but to get out of your current relationship.  Otherwise, you're a cheater and a user.  You may not even know what could happen if that encounter were to happen, you may lose everything because it just wasn't everything you expected.\n\nGood luck in your choice, whatever it may be!!
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I think you should do what you feel is best for you. If you are not interested in your boyfriend anymore than you need to let him know before things go any further. Don't cheat. Yes, you might hurt your b/f but he will get hurt even more if you wait longer to tell him. Don't string him along. Tell the truth. Express how you feel about your situation. Maybe you both can come to a resolve. As for the other guy, let it go. Either let it go, or attempt to make amends. If he's not ready, then just move on. There is too much that is going to go on in your life to worry about things like this.\nRemember to always do what is best to you.\nLying or pretending to be/feel something that you don't is not in your best interest.
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Okay this has happened to most girls before. You fall for a cute, sweet, smart guy, only to find out he's taken. Well, why wouldn't he be, with all those great qualities? The truth of the matter is, if the guy was as into you as you're into him, he wouldn't be with another girl, he'd be with you. Granted there are a lof of other factors involved, such as how long he's been with her, how old you are, maybe he's afraid to break up with her, etc. Chances are the guy really does like you, but you're right...you can't be "the other girl." And that's what you are shaping up to be at this point. I was in a very similar situation in high school. I really liked this guy who was dating another girl, and I talked to him every night on the phone, hung out with him every weekend, and we flirted constantly, but the end result was he stayed with her and I ended up disappointed, confused and feeling like a jackass. What you need to do is treat the guy like your friend, since that's all he is right now. He'll respect you for not trying to break up his relationship, his girlfriend won't get all upset, and you'll feel better about yourself for not obsessing over him all the time. Talking to him about it might complicate your friendship, and you could risk losing everything you have with him right now. Guys feel weird if put in a position like deciding between two girls, so don't make him choose. He might feel awkward knowing you care about him that way if he doesn't return the feelings. As much as you like the guy, give it time, and if he doesn't come to you, then he's just not into you. Maybe he'll break up with her and then you can tell him how you feel. You sound like a head's up girl, so you'll find someone eventually. You never realize how much you love girls' nights til you have a boyfriend and can't see the gals anymore! Take advantage of being single...when you're meant to have a boyfriend, it'll be that much better when you know he really likes you.
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Allways listen to your heart and gut but just because you love the one does he love you too! If so he would make time for you no matter what! But Me I dont thingit is posable to love 2 men at the same time You can love many people at the same time  but Not LOVE them! So really follow your heart but if your gut is telling you hey something is not right check in to it find out what is wrong! But If you really Loved either of them you wouldn't be so confussed you would know! Who do you think of all the time when you wake up? when you go to bed? Which one is always on your mind if some one was at your door right now who would you want it to be! Who's eyes do you look into and see a future with him! There are a number of questions you need to ask your self! And go with your HEART!
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It's possible, but you're making yourself sound like a cheater. If you love someone else while you're already in a relationship then that's bad. It's better to be in love with two people when you're not with one of them already. If you love someone else while in a relatonship then it means that you want the other person who isn't your boyfriend/girlfriend. \n\nTry asking yourself what you can get from this person 'on the side' that you're not getting from your significant other. If the reasons outweigh the reson to stay with the person you're currently with, then maybe it's time to end the relationship, hm?
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Hey if you and your new boyfriend are in love with each other, that's great. God is love. You are sharing what God has created "for you". Keep it respectful, remember to talk to God about this situation, everything will be great if you follow God's will. God bless both of you. If you trust in God save yourself for marriage, and happy you will be.
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If you think you can have 2 boyfriends at the same time, you're a fool. You have to choose one. Based on your story, it seems like you have a commitment problem, so maybe you'll end up without either one...
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If youlove your boyfriend then you stay with him but make sure that the other dude kinda knows whats up in case anything goes wrong with you current dude.  thas what i would do if i was a chick.
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HELL NO, Do you want another guy touching your lady? I wouldn't. What the hell is up with people these days over the 3 sums? I like it with me and my partner and NOONE else. But that is up to you. You have to live with the fact that your g/f wants to be with another man. What if she like it or him? Will you be willing to have another? I dont