we both work and all he has been doing lately is eating and sleeping like today he says he was tired but as soon as his friend says she needs help moving he is right there i didnt mind helping but it was 8 by the time we got back home and i wanted to sit and talk but he went to bed should i talk with him about it or am i making to much out of it?
126898
it's ok to open up a conversation especially that you are feeling this way. if you don't get the right answers then it could be s start of misunderstanding that can lead to separation .at this point, maybe you're not sure yet about your relationship. communicate to each other in a nice way to resolve this problem.
407088
If you know he loves you and you trust him, give him time. He might not be ready to talk to you today because he had a bad day at work? Or maybe he's surprising you with something? Keep your hopes up, i bet everything will be fine!\nGood luck!
597440
The fact that you have these feelings is 'normal'.  The abscence of them would not be.  Your working hard, on different shifts, tired, together but alone most of the time.  Just remember, communication is important.  Good luck and stop to have fun!!!  He'll thank you!
149144
Ask yourself why is he insecure? Are you spending more time on 360 than with him? If he were spending his down time on360 instead of talking to you would you feel the same way? Is he spending a lot of time out of the home? He could be cheating and feeling guilty so he is trying to make you feel guilty. Think about those things and you may come up with the answer to your question.
588953
As a retired medical professional, I think your friend is doing very well. He must be in good health to be able to keep this up. I hope he is eating healthy. If he has different partners, he should be using protection. Having sex does drain energy at the time but a little rest will make everything better. He might not want to go with someone that is years younger (20's or 30's) that may be a little too active. I am proud of him and for him. I hope this helps.
331068
Selling what?!? Anyhow he's working and not having fun. Respect the fact that he's earning money. Would you rather date someone who needs to borrow money? Just accept it but make sure there is a couple times a week that is just for the 2 of you. Tell him how you feel and you'd appreciate if he set aside uninterupted times for you. Good luck
663763
He may be an idiot, but he sounds more lazy than anything else.  If you can get to sleep and get up on time, why can't he?  If he can't get to bed at night it's his own damn fault.\n\nDon't let him blame you for his shortcomings, he's only using you as a scapegoat.  He needs to place the blame where it belongs and get himself together if he wants to be a part of your family.  You deserve someone who will work to keep your family happy and healthy.  Be sure you tell him that!
428413
You need to ask him becuz i dealt with this same issue with my bf.  At first, i just got on here and asked the same question.  then, I said, you know what i am going to ask my man.  I asked him that same night and he told me that he was depressed and had too much stuff on his mind in regards to his life.  Read my blogs and see how that is going....he may be worried about something that is going on at the job or something, but guys wont tell you unless you ask
150443
It sounds like your relationship is really not much of a relationship since you get to spend very little time together.  Unfortunately he is working towards a profession where this schedule problem will probably be an issue for a long time to come.  If you can't deal with it then it is time to get out and move on.
199814
No, your not wrong.  A guy deserves to have his friends, and your not going to like a lot of them, but he needs to also respect you and how you feel.  It seems to me that since you work on weekends there is obviously time for him and his friend to hang out, and that it shouldn't be a big deal to send the friend home once you get off work so that the two of you can spend time together.  A marriage is about compromise and committing to what is important.  In this case what is important should be you and the compromise should be a little less time spend hanging out with his friend.  Doesn't seem like a lot to ask keep the marriage going.
268112
Oh Jeeze...This is an obvious mis-communication in languages from man-speak to woman-speak.  You said,"What's wrong?" and he said "Nothing," but you already had it in your mind that there was something wrong, so you persisted.  YOU ARE NAGGING HIM.  Now he has something wrong - you.  Leave him alone, and let him have his space.  He'll call you later (it's been less than 1 day - you'll be fine).  Sorry to sound so rude, but I've had this too many times.  I would end up argueing because nothing is wrong, and I have to think of something to be wrong when she insists on an answer, when I'm really just tired/moody/blah.
589735
Well the simple fact that the two of you are working  two jobs each is a big part of the problem. Why are you? He's tired, your tired and it becomes something else to be done sometimes, instead of being a fun part of your relationship.\n\nIf it's possible try to cut back some of your hours, so that you guys can have some quality time with each other. Or at least a day off together. That will hopefully lead to sex. \n\nTry to sit down and talk to him about how you feel he might not really realize how much your sex life has gone down.\n\nI'm still going through this madness with my boyfriend only the roles are reversed. \n\nDrop me an email if you neeed someone to talk to.
130582
Hopefully he will call but, I would give it about a week and then call him back and see whats up. He may be working or caught up in something at the moment. I think most worry about relationships when they are long distance because of the unknown.
658723
I would cancel on my buddies, and go to the hospital with my boyfriend. This is an important time for your girl/boy friend. If you guys have a serious and truthful relationship and wanna keep it that way; a little get together with coworkers shouldn't be that important. If you don't offer your support now when she/he most need it, then the trust between you would be broken. She/he wouldn't know if she/he can count on you for support for any other occasion. A little get together can be arranged any other time. Everyone will understand.\n\nAdded Details:\nWell, if he chose to go out with friends just for fun instead of being with you in your time of need; then something is seriously wrong here. The feeling EXCLUDED excuse is a very lame one. He is trying to defend himself by blaming you. You guys should definitely have a serious talk on the matter if you want to pursue a good relationship. You never know he may have a reason after all for not supporting you. Maybe there was something more than a little get together with his buddies. I'm not defending him but you should leave room for the unknown. Just as he may just doesn't care. If it is the latter I would leave him, but you are responsible to take your own decision, and unless you guys talk about it you won't be able to work it out.
174906
may be he was tired from work.. talk to him, and work it out...you're getting married for goodness sakes!! Those are tiny problems compared to what you will be facing in a married life...
337773
Girl, my ex boyfriend was like that too. Which is why we broke up.\n\nAnyway, I think he needs a vacation from work or something, he sounds over-worked and just stressed out beyond belief. \n\nI know all about the 24hr shifts, my ex used to be on 24 on 12 off, so yeah. I feel your pain. Just try to work it out, and if it doesn't it doesn't. Maybe if he can change his shift to a better time closer to yours, and shorten his down a tad, even for a short while, to level out his stress a bit. I mean, it can't hurt anything.\n\nI wish you two well. Good luck.
412273
Yes, yes and yes ... no need to explain ... she's at home all day ... what else should she be doing ... freaking watching soap operas and talk shows ... she should be giving something back to the household if she's not helping financially ... she gets mad that you take a nap cause she just sits there all day and waits for you to get home .. tell her to pick out a hobby or something .. buy some cook books - cooking isn't hard ... tell her you feel she's not attributing to the relationship in the way you expected and you feel like you're doing a lot of the hard work .. and for what .. so she can get fat on the sofa all day .. good luck dude .. lol .. can't stand lazy b*tches .. I work full-time, clean the house and cook dinner for my family ... it's not hard ... I do it out of love .. and I know how hard my man works - so cooking dinner is nothing .. he'll clean up so it works out perfect .. you need to come up with something for her to do and fast or you're going to be fighting a lot in the future ... !