My friend hurt his back. I borrowed him 2800.00 to help keep his house, get medicine, food, etc. Now he adds me to his bankruptcy after promises to repay if and when gets settlement for hurting back. Won't talk with me either as now is marrying a woman he proposed to on first time getting together after chatting on internet since Jan. Moving her to WI from ND.
128880
Contact a lawyer to find out your rights and to sue for the money.
254218
MY DEAR MAN HOW COME YOU HAVE MANAGED TO BECOME A DEBT-ER TO THE TUNE OF 5000$. IT IS REALLY A PITY TO HEAR THIS, UP TO THE AGE OF 53 YOU HAD MANAGED TO GET ONLY 5000 $ VERY POOR.\nNOW PEOPLE THREATENING YOU, MEANS THAT YOU HAVE TAKEN A HAND LOAN FROM WHOM SO EVER GIVING YOU, NATURALLY THE HARD EARNED MONEY MADE BY OTHERS ARE WASTED LIKE ANYTHING BY SOLES OF YOUR TYPE AND HOW DARE YOU ARE TO ACCUSE OTHERS IN TURN. I DO NOT KNOW WHAT LAW APPLIES IN YOUR PLACE TO COME OUT OF THAT.\nIN MY OPINION  YOU HAVE TO SURRENDER TO THE LAW AND TAKE PROTECTION. SECONDLY SELL ALL YOUR BELONGING AND REPAY AT-LEAST THE PRINCIPLE AMOUNT TO THAT PEOPLE FROM WHOM YOU HAVE TAKEN THIS MONEY.HEVE SOME UNDER STASNDING WITH THEM TO REPAY THIS AMOUNT OTHERWISE YOU HAVE TO MEET THE COSEQUENCES. NO ONE WILL COME FOR YOUR RESCUE EXCEPT ALLAH IN WHOM YOU BELIEVE. WISH YOU GOOD LUCK
641824
well how much money are we talking about here? If its over 500 bucks I wouldnt do it. If you are good friends it could ruin your  friendship. I had let a friend borrow 1500 bucks and had to fight tooth and nail to get it back and I'll tell you what? I dont feel the same about the friend anymore. Just my suggestion..
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Machelle,\n\nI don't want you to take this the wrong way, but honey, you need to slow your roll.\n\nWatch your actions, they become habit.\nWatch your habits, they become character.\nWatch your character, it becomes destiny.\n\nYou filed for bankruptcy for a reason.  \n\nStop living beyond your means.  You didn't luck up on a car where you owe $10,000 MORE than the trade in value.  $567 a month is rent on a one-bedroom aparment in the South!\n\nThere is nothing shameful about leaving below your means.\n\nRefinancing is not an option in your situation.  You are upside down.  Why would a finance company want to pay your loan off at $23,500 when the value of the car is $10,000 less than the loan?  The collateral is inadequate.\n\nIf you don't pay the refinancer, they have a net loss of $10,000 when they repossess your car from your work place parking lot..\n\nI think you need to return the car to the dealer, take the hit on your credit report, and start riding the bus.  I can NOT believe that you filed for bankruptcy and thought it was cool to pay $567 for a gas-guzzling SUV after you discharged your debts..\n\nYou got the bruise, but didn't learn the lesson.\n\nYour credit is an extension of your character and it is time that you take inventory of your character.\n\nYou are NOT your car.  Who are you flossing for?\n\nGet a used Honda hooptie and make life easier for yourself.
363545
You can maybe have a friend agree to call you to make sure you do what you've committed to. And if you don't then you have to pay that friend for everytime you back out. I know this sounds a bit silly but it just may work. Kinda like a curse jar. (you know, people who have a problem with cursing have to put money in a jar everytime they do it) except, agree to pay your friend a fixed amount if you don't committ to a particular goal.  You'll probably end up sticking to those goals if the thought of losing your money annoys you enough.
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You gently remind them. If they make an excuse to not pay you then and there, get them to commit to a date (I'll have it all for you next Friday) or a payment plan (I'll pay you $10 every Monday). \n\nIf your 'friend' still evadess his/her responsibility, just banish this person from your life. $100 or so is CHEAP to get a person like this out of your life forever and ever.\n\nNext time you loan a friend money, get something for collateral. That way, if there is some reason your friend can't pay you back, you can sell the item and get your money that way. So no matter what happens, the two of you can still be friends. If your friend both intends to repay you and values your friendship, your friend will readily see the wisom of this plan.\n\nWhen you loan money to a friend without getting collateral, you often lose both your money and your friend.
670500
No I do not think you should have to pay her back for doing something that neither you nor your poor wife could afford to do.I mean she did offer the money and never asked that you to pay her back.So all I would do if I were you, would be to give her a great big hug and a thank you for the needed help in such a tragic event.May God bless you all and releive the pain in your hearts.
197731
I'm not sure what you are saying because your question is not clear.  If you have some sort of financial agreement with this person you would have needed to get it in writing not a verbal agreement.  \n\nI would send a new question in and be very clear the way you ask.  It almost sounds like you are saying you had an agreement involving your friends suicide, thats just bizarre.
529000
Hey, brother, can you spare a dime?\n\nThis sounds like a good idea but if I were to do this I'd tend to think of it more as a grant and not expect a repayment.  At the very least you can make a friend and what's wrong with that?
65366
Talk to the attorney that represented you in the bankruptcy. That is what he/she was paid for. Make sure this creditor was in the petition to discharge in the first place. If not then they have every right to pursue the matter further.
459577
First mistake was telling them anything.  You should have been completely silent.  But since you have confessed and are paying them back you can include this in your defense.  The key is to work your a** off and pay them back regularly and with a large amount.  (i.e. $100 a week).  Get a lawyer though, he can make this go a lot better for you.
405926
i'd wait to get the money and THEN break up. at least get it in writing that they owe you money before you do it, that way if you wind up taking them to court you'll have documentation of the money owed.
641363
I will relay one that my friend told to me.\n\nBack-story:\nShe went out with this guy who told her some sob story about going through a divorce and that he was wealthy (he claimed to be some real estate big shot).  Well, it turns out this guy said he had a car, but that it was in the shop (she never saw the mystery car).  She had to drive him around on every date and he also wore the same outfit on every date (keep in mind that this was 6 dates over a 1 month period) .  Then on one of the dates he asked her to stop at the ATM (it was one of the drive ups) and he couldn't take out any money because the acount had less than $20 in it.\n\nThe Worst of the 6 Dates: \nHe asked her out to the movies.  She picked him up for the date.  When they were at the ticket window, he paid in quarters for the tickets.  He also paid in quarters for the dinner, she offered to pay and he got angry with her.  He was snappish with her the rest of the date. Then at the end of the date, asked her inside his house (he lived in a house with another guy and only had a TV and a mattress on the floor in his room).  He actually wanted her to make out with him on the floor mattress after behaving like a jerk during the date.  Thank God she declined and went home.  She told me about the date the next day (she was so depressed).  I made her see the humor in it (I told her that it was probably his laundry money - I mean the guy wore the same outfit on every date) and it is now one of our favorite inside jokes (quarter man / rerun guy).  LOL
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Well as you probably have already guessed, he doesn't respect you. Once someon loses their respect for someone then they are capable of doing silly things.\n\nFrom my experience, I've been there before, it is unfortunately going to have to be one of those situations that you may have to totally forget about your stuff. He is acting really immature and using your stuff to still hold on, for whatever reason. It is a control thing. He likes  the control.\nSo, don't give it to him, Just walk away completely, don't have your friends get in touch with him to get the stuff or anything like that. I'm so sorry to have to tell you that cause I know what it is like to not get your stuff back, when it is your stuff. What goes around, comes around.\nHe will eventually end up losing stuff as well that will equal what you lost. I know that sounds weird but I have had many experiences like this that have happened. Weird but true.\nI lost $2000 I let him borrow to my boyfriend of 3-1/2 years. I tried a couple of times to get it back but to no avail. So I came to the conclusion that I would rather walk away from the money then go through the agony of getting it back AND seeing his face again. Since I had broken up with him I just really never wanted to see him again. What goes around comes around. He got his eventually, he ended up going into major debt and owing the creditors tones of money and screwed up his credit for years and years.\n\nAbout the chatter that is going on, well, that again you can diffuse if you don't respond to it AT ALL. No matter what is being said. Him and maybe even your friends are just doing it to get a "rise" out of you. Don't play that game. Your better than that.\nYou'll look stronger and feel better about the whole situation if you don't respond and just stay friend with your friends, the ones that are worth it, and remind yourself that this will pass. When they see you move on and that none of this is bothering you they will be impressed and move on as well. It may take a bit but hold on, it will come. Time heals all!!\n\nRemembre, it is all about control and insercurity on his part. Don't let him get the best of you since you are soo much stronger than him.\n\nI wish you all of the best and good luck. I hope that helped!
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Credit is nothing more than an agreement, a promise.  If you failed to pay in the past, and you want to get someone to loan to you again, you have to repay what you borrowed.  If you are going to instead see how little you can pay to eliminate your past debt, your new lender has got to think that you will treat him the same way.\n\nPay your debt...or suffer the consequences.  As you said, you made some bad previous choices.  Either own up to them (and pay) or work through the various options of being a renter until your bankruptcy is discharged, etc.\n\nIt's hard to get a new lender to believe you are credit-worthy (aka, "trustworthy") if your primary goal is to *NOT* pay your debt in full.
104556
Judge Joe Brown would love for you to give him a call.  LOL, but if not, Small Claims Court is definately the way to go.  It helps if you have documentation that you actually gave them the money (such as a cancelled check).  But the odds are your friend wont show up for court anyway, and you'll just get a default judgement for the $$.  Of course, collecting the $$ after that can be a whole new challenge.
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I"m so sorry for your loss.\n\nDid you go to a bankrutcy lawyer?  I would check with them.  If some of the debt included in the bk was soley his, you might not be responsibe.  If it hasn't gone through completely, you might be able to file hardships with creditors who will suspend rates or payments for a little while.  Also, the bankruptcy courts might be able to recalculate payments because of your lack of income.\n\nBasically, I would see a professional.  Maybe you can find a relative to help you with finding someone that will do it cheap/free.