I am a 15 year old guy. And I have known this boy for a long long time. And well... we did the lovey dovey thing and I have discovered my sexuality. How can I tell my parents so they will still love me the same as they did before?
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My son came out to me when he was 17.....I had known he was gay long before that though, probably even before he did.  Your parents will love you regardless.  Even my parents, who used to say things like "All gays should be shot", have now changed their views radically and say "to each their own".  Don't be afraid, parents just want you to be happy, no matter what.
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Tell your parents when they are both home.\n.Tell them when they are not busy\nOnce you start keep on going with it no matter what they so or how they react while telling them.\nBe understandable with their feelings....\n\n\n,
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a year and a half? Your parents can't be that upset, you both are mature young adults (I hope) and you shouldn't hide the fact that you care about someone.\n\nGood Luck
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dont tell your parents, keep it secret. my step-sis kept a bf secret for 3 months one time, i'm sure u can do it for that long or longer.
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hmmm well it might not be if since you are asking the question. Have you tried to sit down with mom or dad and tell them this or can you ? Cause you should feel comfortable to where you can at least tell one of them if both, then one of them will surely tell the other anyways. Wouldn't you rather tell them than not and have something more worse to happen like pregnancy . Hope that's not happened yet you are young still and there's a whole lota life for you yet before experiencing anything more than a kind kiss, which for you could've meant more for you than him.Here's something to ask yourself was kissing to tell you thanks for helping him do something and the kiss went from the cheek to the lips ?!!  Was it more intense than that ? If you can say yes  to that question and or others you should ask yourself about this boy like , how well do you really know him for him be kissing you and where was his thinking.? Was he just trying to be friendly to you and you thought it to be more or what? I wouldn't want my daughter kissing someone that much older but it does happen . It doesn't mean that it should continue happening though . I just believe it some things to think about and I SURE HOPE YOU DO AND OR WILL AND WILL ALSO CONSIDER TALKING WITH YOUR PARENTS AS WELL AT LEAST TO DO FOR YOURSELF IF NO ONE ELSE.
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Introduce him as your slave.  That should pull the wool over their eyes.\n\nSeriously, why hide who you are?  Are you ashamed of being gay?  [If you still live at home, you get a "bye" about telling your parents until you can support yourself.]\n\nGood luck!
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If your parents discovered you are gay, yet you are dating a girl, then it doesn't sound like you are gay but experimenting with your sexuality.\nYou are very young, and I think your parents should be guiding you with advice on practising safe sex, rather than stop you from dating whom you wish to.\nIf you were dating a girl, and dating again, you can't be gay....if you are, then you are still to discover that. You are testing the waters and your parents are only stopping you from discovering that for yourself.\nYou could be in love with this girl, but maybe its not the love you think when unsure of your sexuality.\nJust take things slowly, and keep things quiet until you are sure of yourself. Family should be supportive no matter what your choice is, or sexuality.\nI wish you luck, and be careful when testing the waters, condoms and safe sex, for you and your future partners.
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Did not have strict parents that watched my every move. Never wanted to be with a female, so never had to 'switch'. No abusive childhood. My childhood went pretty well. I am close to both my mother and father, who live in the same home. Growing up my mother stayed at home and was a stay at home mom and my father worked. It wasn't until I entered junior high that my mother went back to work part time and not until I graduated high school that my mother began working full time.\n\nAs a child I remember very much the desire I had to kiss and hug the boys. I always admired the girls who could do this. I had boy and girl friends growing up. Yet, it was the girls that I admired because of the one reason: society said they could kiss the boys and hug them. I had a few crushes on boys growing up. Once puberty hit those feelings got mixed in with sexual feelings and not only did I find myself emotionally and romantically attracted to guys, I found myself sexually attracted to guys. I've never had the desire to even kiss a girl, let alone have sex with one. Girls are....well they're pretty like flowers, but I have no real desire to be with them as anything other than friends.\n\nIf no one is born gay, then I am not sure how to explain myself. I can't think of a time when I was ever attracted to the opposite sex...emotionally, romatically, or sexually. So I'm not sure what's going on, but all my life I've been attracted to males. And from all the books I've read that people have given to me written by folks who say that gays aren't born it's enviromental, well none of the enviroments they describe fit the enviroment I grew up in. In fact, the enviroments they say are 'healthy' and 'traditional'...well that's exactly how I grew up. When I came out to my parents, both of them weren't surprised. They said that my grandmothers (paternal and maternal) had sat them down when I had gotten to be school age and told them that from what they could tell there were signs that this was a possibility and that they should perhaps atleast try to plan for it. My parents apparently did just that because when I told them they weren't surprised and told me what my grandmothers had told them. They were just happy that I am happy and healthy and they are very supportive and loving. In fact, they also embraced my beloved when I brought him home for them to meet.\n\nAs for why there seems to be an increase in lesbians and gays in America? From what I can tell, and this is just based upon a few studies that have been done and my own opinion of what those studies were concluding (because most studies just give you the facts and then leave you to judge what the information is saying) was that the increase isn't real, there isn't "more" lesbians and gays in America than there ever has been. Or for that matter, there aren't any "more" in the world. The reason that it seems like there are more, is because a lot more are coming out and becoming visible. They feel safe to be honest with society and don't want to live a lie. In some places in the world it's still not okay for gays and lesbians to be honest, so they have to live a lie publicly. Yet the studies say that within the overall population of the nations, whether gays and lesbians are allowed tobe public about it or not, the ratio of homosexuals to heterosexuals remains the same. Now this is how I conclude that if the ratio seems to be the same, then the "apparent" increase isn't really an increase, it's a steady ratio in the population and that what people are actually saying is an increase is really not an increase in the numbers of actual homosexuals, but the increase in visibility.\n\nSo that's my answer to your question. Not sure if it was any help to you, though. It may not be the type of information you were looking for. \n\nPeace be with you.
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That really is a hard one to answer, a part of me would tell you to tell your parents yet there is a chance that things there could go sour. If I were you I would do my research i.e. stories out of the bible ( The good simaritain, the prodgical son... to name a couple. the prodgical son talks about unconditional love.)\nRemember being gay isnt against any belief its the sexual acts that arent liked in the church before marriage that goes for those who identify as straight as well,\nBut if you decide to hide it they will find out in the long run. Maybe drop hints here and there.
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Once again, I know you're not going to want to hear this...but I say NO.  There is a reason your parents don't love him - he's too old for you.  Age does not become as much of a factor when you're older (read:  above 18), but right now, it's just plain illegal.  Some states have an age of consent (usually 16 or 17) but if your parents want to, they can press charges against him if it goes beyond anything friendly.  \n\nNow, I also know this won't get me a best answer, but that matters not and I will tell you anyway - I've been in a similar situation.  I was 14 and very much "in love" (I doubt that you really do love him, after all, how long have you known this older, very nice, very HOT! guy?) with a 19 year old.  When my father found out about him, he pressed charges to the full extent of the law.  To make a long story short, my sailor boyfriend (he was in the Navy) ended up paying a huge fine, got Dishonorably discharged and did some jail time.  I don't know if he had to register on a sex offender list as this was 11 years ago.  That makes me 25 (almost 26) now.\n\nI have to ask you, what on earth would a 22 (almost 23) year old want with a 16 year old?  You say he's very nice - I hate to tell you, but it's probably an act.  The only reason an older guy would be interested in a teenager (yes, you still are a teen, even if you are blossoming into a woman...you're still a minor) would be to get into her pants.  The other reason is that you might still be a virgin (I hope so - don't go rushing into that) and well, a lot of guys like that.  I doubt there's a lot that you have in common, due to the age gap.  \n\nIf he really does care for you, he will wait until you're 18.  You won't even be able to drink until he's 27 or 28!  Is he gonna want to wait that long before you can enjoy a night on the town?  Believe it or not, I know a guy who was arrested for having a drink at home with his wife, who was at the time 20...she was still underage.  \n\nHow did you meet this guy?  It is kind of bizarre for there to be such an age difference...is he a family friend?  A friend's older brother?  Please don't tell me you have met him online.  Teens and twentysomethings travel in different social circles.  There might be another reason your parents don't like him (aside from the obvious) that you don't know about.  How do you know he's never been in serious trouble?  Have you done a background check on this guy?  He might have spent a night in jail for whatever reason, have outstanding debts etc that he is hiding from you.  \n\nYou shouldn't go behind your parents' backs - you will lose their respect and obviously you have no respect for them either.  Perhaps have him come over and have a discussion between the 6 of you (make his parents come also) over dinner.  Perhaps you two can stay in contact (as FRIENDS only) for a couple of years, then explore a relationship.  Keep in mind then, he's gonna be almost 25...What do HIS parents think about it?  Granted, he's an adult (whereas you are not, even though you might think you are) and his parents really don't have a say in what he does, but it would be good to get their opinion also.  They'll probably say the same thing everyone else is.  \n\nAlso, if your parents decide that you can date him by going with what STRANGERS online decide, then they have some serious thinking to do about their choices.  No matter who says yes (age is just a number I've seen posted a few times here), it is still ILLEGAL and I can't believe they would actually consider it.\n\nI'm sorry that I wasn't a help to you, but you should know how it really is.  Any adult (especially judges) will look at this and say it's a classic example of "guy wanting to get into a young girl's pants" and then lock him away.  Wait the 2 years.  Hell, you might even hate him when you start to
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Wow!!! This is a problem considering you are not 18.  Maybe wait to be so open with your mother about your sexuality until you are old enough to move out on your own.  Trust me, she does love you, but she will obviously need time to get through her own issues about your choices.
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Well, I know how it feels to have that happen to you and I can truely say that just talking to your parents and the same time would probably be the best way to tell them how you really feel about it. If they don't listen, just try to understand that everything happens for a reason and you may not like it. But God always has a plan. Trust me. I hope I helped you out!
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Hey Me.... I am a mother and would feel very hurt if my child didn't tell me what was up and ran off with a 21 yr old. May I suggest that you sit down and talk with your parents. Yes they may be upset at first, but their your parents and will love you reguardless. Here is something else to think about. When I was your age I was head over hills for a man 7 yr older than me. I dated him for a year and realized that I wasn't in love with him, but liked his company because he listened to me when I thought my parents weren't. When it turn out they were. Then I met this cool guy my age and we dated all through highschool. So if you will take a suggestion from a mom..don't rush into anything take your time, because you never know a cool girl your age may come along that you relate to.
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Well, it you are at an appropriate age (15 and up in my opinion), and you are really interested in this guy... not physically please (remember...true love waits)... I encourage courtship... there's a book called "I Kissed Dating Goodbye" by Joshua Harris, and it's wonderful (it's about courting)... that way you and your parents can be involved and there won't be any secrets and the respect can still remain. Believe me if you are open and honest with your parents and help them understand that you want a healthy friendship with this young man, there shouldn't be a problem.  Best of luck...es
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I was born gay, my mom said she knew when I was 8. I came out when I was 14. So the desire has always been there.
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Dear:Jennifer     You are a Christian,The Truth will set you\nFREE,Tell his parents who you are,and do not be ashamed. If\nthey accept you good,if not them ? GOD IS LOVE
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Oh, my...That's tough.  I knew I was queer when I was 11, though, didn't have language for it yet.  I came out when I was 17, but I have a pretty easy family.  If you think that your families are going to completely flip, be careful but get support outside your home.  Do everything you can to get reassurance that your love for each other is a good thing. It might be helpful to find a queer youth organization in your community so you can find others to talk with.  There are a lot of folks in similar situations.\n\nGood luck...And ignore the person who said you're not old enough to know if you're gay.  Homophobic baloney.  They never tell heterosexual teens that they're too young to know they're straight.  ;-)