One of my best friends, has a girlfriend and ever since he started going out with her he's been ignoring me and almost all of his other friends and only paid attention to her. But then he stopped hanging out with her and talkin to a lot and stuff. Now he hangs out with his girl friend's friend,Kara, more than anyone else. Well his girlfriend was talking to me and she was saying that she's fed up with him hanging out with Kara than her. She's thinking about breaking up with him. She's talked to me about this stuff and I've always talked to him and told him to becareful and tell him what to do. Now I'm wondering should I warn him this time that she might break up with him or should I do what his girlfriend told me and not tell?
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Don't tell him, because you told the girlfriend you wouldn't.  Honor that commitment.  Once she has broken up with him, you can tell him you knew, but since he was never hanging around with you, you didn't have the chance to tell him.  Don't be jealous though when your friends hang out with women, this is just how life works.  You are going to have to get used of it.  You will do the same thing too.
144561
I'm a guy but I think my rule of thumb in a relationship works for both sexes. You date.. then you break up.. and when you break up, there is a good reason why the break up happened, and now you need to move on to someone else.  Life is just way too short and precious to be lingering over what could/should/would happen...  If your best friend made you break up with your boyfriend.. is she really your best friend? Most guys have an unspoken code of conduct when it comes to friends' girlfriends/wives (unlike movies or TV shows) Move on....find you a new and better man.. and make your ex and your best friend realize what they lost when you walk in with your new beau!
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Friend - It depends on the reason for the break up.  Does he know it bothers you?  Have you discussed that he may still have feelings for her?  Not all break ups are the same or follow any rules.  GBU
596382
He has an insecurity complex. He's hoping if he focuses all his attention on her that she will never leave him. Most of the time this behavior 'smothers' the other person & it backfires on them. It has nothing to do with you personally. It is his own insecurity. Just let it run it's course & when he comes to you bummed after she dumps him, tell him how it made you feel & how it needy he looked to all his friends. He'll agree, but prob continue the pattern the rest of his life. Sorry
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If he isn't into his girl, then that sure says a lot about him. I wouldn't worry about hurting your friend's feelings, just tell her. She will be hurt more once she finds out the truth about what a jerk he is. You said you are interested in him? Why? He knows you're taken and you're happy with the one you are with. I would stay where you are and forget about this other guy if I were you.
560661
I'm kind of confused.  Her boyfriend has been away right?  She still loves him.  But since he's been gone, she found another guy right?  But the second guy has a another girlfriend???  Ummm....that's real simple.  Dump the second guy since he's obviously got two gals on the string...and go back to the first guy if she still loves HIM.  There's nothing to tell HIM.  Even if she can't make up her mind between the two of them, obviously guy #2 hasn't made up his mind which gal he wants so.....if she isn't his OBVIOUS choice she needn't waste any more of her time.  Why hurt the first guy when it isn't even necessary????
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First ask yourself these question? Did you know her before you knew your girlfriend? Is her friendship worth your relationship with your girlfriend? If you say yeas to both of these question then you should still be friends with her. If that friends doesn't do for you or you can't trust them and call them a real good friend then let them go.
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My cousin is like a best friend to me, & my "ex-girlfriend", who I've known for yrs., is still a good friend of mine & since they have alot in common with each other, I've hooked them up & he's been taking her out-(but they consider each other as "friends")-maybe he's afraid I'll be "hurt" seeing him with her but it doesn't bug me at all. -So you decide on dating his best friend,maybe it won't hurt him, Does he know about this? if not, mention it to him.
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i completely understand what ur going through, i was in the same boat a you. my advice is, if he really is happy with his girlfriend right now, i wouldn't say anything. because right now you're his friend, and you should be happy for him, unless she really isn't good for him (meaning she doesn't treat him right). but, if and when you do tell him, make sure you do it in person. just tell him that he is a great friend, and that u love being friends with him b/c he is such a great guy. then tell him that somewhere in the friendship your feelings changed, and now you like him. that's all i can really tell you. i hope i was some help.
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Your friend is being really stubborn. It seems to me that she has some deep-seated issues with criticism. (I should introduce her to my best friend — they sound like kindred spirits.) You need to get them both in the same place (don't tell them your plans until you get them together) so they can work out whatever beef she has with him. It's good that your boyfriend at least tried to make amends.
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THIS IS NOT AN EASY SUBJECT!! FIRST HE NEEDS TO ASK HISSELF WHAT HE WANTS FROM HER A FRIEND OR A GF! CAUSE ONCE YOU CROSS THAT LINE ITS HARD TO GO BACK. AND HE DOESNT NEED TO FORGET ABOUT THE GF HE HAS RIGHT NOW. WHAT IF HE LOSES HER AN THE OTHER GIRL DOESNT HAVE THE SAME FEELINGS FOR HIM. BE CAREFUL IF YOU ARE GIVING THIS PERSON ADVICE. SOMEONE COULD GET HURT!!!
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i think you should tell your friend cos if you'll are true friends she will know that you are doing this in her best interest i am saying this because my best friends boyfriend was doing the exact same thing to her and i told my friend that she needs to put her foot down and confront her boyfriend cos if he truly loved her he wouldn't treat her that way.  it's harsh but sometimes you have to be firm with the people you really care about.
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Some guys get into this mode that they "forget" their friends for a while when they meet a girl they really like. He may grow out of it. However I think you should talk to him and tell him you still want to be friends, and if possible talk to her alone and see if she really "hates" you, or is possibly jealous of your history with her boyfriend. If she isn't, have her suggest to your friend that they and you and your boyfriend go out together some time.
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yes, i think you should make the first move. why let something get away when he was your first. if you don't then why be mad your the one standing back letting her do this. best friends are few and far between and if she'll do this to you then what else will she do. so tell yourself the truth she is not your bestfriend.friends stand beside each other not behind each other.
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From what you wrote, DON'T go out with him or even tell him you like him or anything unless you want to say goodbye to your friendship with his girlfriend forever. Find another guy. They're easy to come by.\n\n(Just follow the golden rule: would you like it if your friends hormones stole YOUR boyfriend? You would think she was seeing him even before you decided to break up. Put yourself in her position.)
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hmmm, getting caught up in the middle huh? that's quite hard since both of them are your bestfriends..however, if you guys are really good friends, you should talk it over & try to patch things up..as for you, choosing between the two of them would not do good..it would be better to act as the mediator & just stay in the middle while trying to get the girls to patch things up..Ü
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If you tell him right now, when he just got a new girlfriend, it will sound like you want to ruin his relationship with her.  Give yourself (and him) some time, just be his friend, and see what happens.  He knows you like hanging out with him; that's enough for now.