my friend likes my other friend and i am jealous i know how to deal with the jealousy but the thing is her bf, he is a nice friend so i tell him to talk with her all the time i also give him ideas of wat to say but i just dont like standing ther adn her thanking him for wat i did and i cant talk to her cus she tells me to go away and that is also why ii cant say anything to her and i cant reach her thro email or anything i just want her to know all the comfortin he gives her, well most of it that is comes from mebut i just cant deside wat to do and stay her friend thx in advance for the advice
119055
quit giving him advice..when he stops saying the sweet things, she'll get tired of it and break things off with him or realize that the things weren't coming from him...if you move in and say something sweet to her she may realize it came from you...if she tells you to go away, keep talking and eventually she'll have to listen
536113
It is hard to deal with pressure from your "friends" believe me i've been there. my once "friend" talked about one of my other friends behind her back because she didnt have a BF so we made one up for her and it backfired in our faces and then they made fun of her even more. the best thing to do is tell your friend you are tired of her comments, and if she doesnt stop then try not talking to her or not getting upset when she says these things. usually people will stop joking if they know it doesnt bother you. The main thing is to NOT make up a BF it will backfire. \nHope i helped!
329943
Tell her the truth. Let her know that the other individual is your friend and that you don't want to talk negatively about anyone. If she can't respect that, she doesn't respect your friendship.
78864
Ask yourself a question. Are you jealous of the crush she has on this guy?  Or is it that you are jealous of the relationship you have with her?  It's hard to share sometimes, isn't it?
20998
i can undersatnd why u feel so......i myself hav felt so very often.\ni think u ought to go and talk things out wid ur frnd.coz if u dont do so, sometimes if someday u lose ur friend, u shall regret abt not having given the relationship the care and treatment it needed. no dont avoid her coz of ur pride. but if she avoids u too much even if u hav been a very gud frnd to her,then if i were in ur place i dont think i wud hav continued seekin her attention. i think in suach a cse it wud b better to try and presrve the other frndships tht i hav........
18602
Sounds like your friend is in need of a mother-figure.  Maybe not.  Regardless, if I were in your shoes, I'd be happy for them both.  Don't interfere and don't be rude to your friend.  Being supportive is selfless and caring.  You'll find a better friendship with someone else.  Showing resentment is jealousy or envy.  Not cool.  And reall not mature.  Good luck.
375723
I have the same situation..I like them both but one doesn't like one of my bestfriend...I realized,if she treat me as a friend she should accept & respect me & my bestfriends.There is no reason to hate my bestfriend because she is not bad..Maybe,if my bestfriend is bad,rude or something which is not acceptable maybe i can understand my friend.But there is no reason because i've known her for so long and became my bestfriend.I realized,that my other friend has been jealous that's why she hate her and she just doesn't like my bestfriend's style.If i were you,as long as you know,trust and you like your bestfriend there's no way to worry about your bestfriend.But the other friend,you have to ask him/her why?then try to analyze and figure ot out...
39818
Tell her to get over it or get out...Jealousy sucks and only gets worse..If she trys to control your emotions she'll try and control everything else.
542378
When your friend lets you hang around with her and bf it's not right to try to entice him from her.Btetter stick with your own bf as you'll get a bad name if your other friends can't trust you
247443
Helll Yeah girl, I went through that before and look if he is a true friend then he would not put a fu** before a friend. You will still be there when their relationship goes bad and it will cuz she sounds like a biatch! Beat that ho down!
489334
Honey, this girl will get you into trouble, it sounds like this girl wants you for her own!! my advice steer clear!  I have had a similar situation with a Friend of mine, she had a girl that hung around her like a bad smell, and she hated me, she treated my Friend like a minion and called her one!  I must admit she was a bitch 2!!  I think you might just need to sit this girl down and talk to her, perhaps she doesn't realize that her behavior is just a little OTT. The jealousy thing tho, this is harder to resume, but you have to ask yourself, why does she do that?? could she be insecure?  my feeling on this one from reading your little statement is that she is making you unhappy and that is wrong, why should she ruin your life, you are spending time thinking about her and your other Friend, there are times when being a little selfish, taking a step back and saying- 'whoa' this is not about 'me'...is good, do something for you, personally if she is as nagging and annoying as she sounds, you need to click your fingers to the left, click your fingers to the right and click your fingers to the left, (practice this now) its cool!!! and say to this girl- I don't need this drama' and walk away, because when push comes to shove all that matters is you! xxx
235218
I did this with one of my bf and finally my best friend said you know your my best friend and I love to hear about your life but enough is enough and I didn't even realize I was doing it and i was so glad that she let me know instead of just letting it go on. Just be honest with her and tell her how you feel most likely she doesn't even really even know how often she really talks about him.
109504
I think you need to express to him, the importance of her not being in his life as a friend or any other aspect.  The two of you need your own life, without her input.  She's only going to be biased against you because of her situation previously.  You shouldn't talk about being jealous or anything like that, just appeal to him on a more inter personal, relationship aspect level and try to get him to understand and see how that relationship betweem him and her adds absolutely NO value to him or his life now!
463475
Sounds like your not being a very good friend. You know boyfriends come and go but friends are here to stay. You need to pay more attention to your friends feelings. How about you make plans with her? or invite her along with you and your boyfriend? I'm positive she is jealous of all the time you spend with your bf. She probably feels neglected. If you want to keep your friend I suggest spending more time with her, and when your with her, DO NOT talk only about your boyfriend. Good Luck.
353500
If they're you're friends, I think you should ask them and not us.  Ask them what's going on and tell them that you're feeling uncomfortable about the way they're acting about your boyfriend.  And keep an open mind.  It might be that they don't like your bf, that they don't like the way you act around him, etc.
86725
Sounds like this is a one-sided friendship. Is your friend jealous of your other friends? Maybe he/she is insecure or envious of you because you have other friends. There must be something you like about this person since you have remained friends for over 10 years. Has he/she always been this way? Or is it something that is recent?  If it is more recent your friend may have a valid point. We all go through changes and unfortunately we cannot always go in the same direction as our friends. We can only hope that our friends can take a back seat while we are growing. And if the friendship is meant to be it will be there when we return to earth. If your friend has always been like this, I would say it is time to reevaluate your friendship with her. Sounds like she is not the kind of friend you want to keep.\n\nI have 3 friends that I have known for over 35 years and there were times that we didn't speak or see each other, but we are still the best of friends today.
48992
i recently found myself in the same situation, so i know what you're going through.  the guy gets mad because he's worried that (like the other dude said), you guys are talking about him behind his back.  he may also be worried because you two may find out that he was cheating on both of you with the other one...as in my case.  Regardless, if you two really are friends and have lots in common, then screw the guy and thank him for a really good friend.  It'll really piss him off...