I don't no wot to do anymore? I'm 22 years old and nothing ever seems to go my way.When i go out with friends i'm ok but when i'm sat doing nothing all i think about is how awful my life is.Majority of this depression is to do with men as i fall in love way to easily and always end up hurt as i think i may get to clingy? I had my heart broken 18 months ago after a 4 year relationship, i thought i was over it but i'm starting to wonder if this is why i get so attached to every guy i meet?
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write down how u feel on a blank white paper..be clear of how you are feeling. when u do this, u'll know what's really bothering you.\nWrite down what makes you sad, and what makes you happy, and then focus on the one's that make u happy. most of the time, its the past that's holding one back. always remember its your present that will determine you're future, and you have to make sure being alone does not come as something that is bad...lots of things can be achieve even as you are alone, and trust me..as you write down what makes you happy, u'll realize life is worth the while\na heart can be broken, but not your dreams. rediscover it
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if it lasts more than 3 months you might be suffering from a light form of depression. however, it sounds normal to me. between winter and summer there is a period for each of us, that can be caracterized by your above-mentioned sympthoms. also. . .is your romantic life ok?\n\nsuggestions:\n1. don't overdo yourself with work\n2. sleep\n3. eat well. (eat many sweets in this period)\n4. talk about this state of yours with your close friends\n5. have some fun.\n\nand to asnwer your question: no, you're not going mad at all! :)\n\ntake care,\nMe:)
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Very kind of you to ask us Ladies, my Son. It's normal to feel depressed or as if life is passing you by. You're 22 years old and it seems that you have it all right where you want it. You just don't know what to do with it. Be happy that you have what you do. If you continue to be unhappy go and volunteer at a soup kitchen or a shelter. Trend towards doing something useful rather than sitting around feeling sorry for yourself. Give money to a library or to a humane society. Do something for someone else. You don't need medication. You need a purpose. You have "things" but you need to give of yourself to appreciate them. Good luck, child. I hope you find what you're looking for.
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sweetie - you didn't die because it isnt your time.  you should talk to someone that can help you with the issues that make you scream inside.  when i was your age, i did the same thing and it didn't work.  i got a ton of therapy, changed my lifestyle, attitude and dreams and today - life is great.  hang in there.  DONT GIVE UP!!! EVER!!!!
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Erin, when I was your age, I thought about it a lot! Never actually tried it directly, but I did a lot of crazy things that could have killed me.\n\nI always felt like I was alone in the world. Like no one understood, everyone hated me, or worse that I didn't matter to anyone. I thought if I died, it wouldn't matter. I also felt like all my problems would be over. \n\nBut the fact is, life has problems. We were made to work through them. Without problems, we wouldn't grow. Did you know that a plant that grows without any wind pushing against it grows weak and spindly? (You should try that as a science experiment some time!) Just like a plant, we need tough times to make us stronger.\n\nThe best thing you can do is stop focusing on what's wrong and start focusing on what life will look like once you've gotten through whatever's wrong. Ask yourself, "How is this going to look to me when I'm 18? 25? 40?" Picture yourself through the problem and living just the way you want to live. Whenever your mind wanders to bad thoughts, go back to that picture. Write it down even.\n\nThen, TAKE ACTION!!! The best way to beat depression is to GET BUSY!!! \n\nExercise, help someone else, do some research on how to fix the mess you're in, just DO something. Lack of activity causes the mind to linger in places it ought not be. You have to engage your mind in something that excites you. \n\nAlso, start telling yourself something positive several times a day. Don't let bad thoughts run your mind. YOU take control of your mind! Positive thoughts will sound silly at first, but it doesn't matter. Your mind believes what you tell it. SERIOUSLY!!!  :-)\n\nYou are special and important to God and to this world. Whether you choose to believe that is up to you. You may be struggling with those around you right now. Maybe your parents or a boyfriend, but don't give up. Love yourself enough to get through it. You will be stronger for having survived!!!
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Although I don't have the answer you want ... I can relate with your feelings. I don't know if just knowing that you are not alone in this helps or not. I went through almost the same exact situation about 6 months ago and it brought back all kinds of feelings of lose and sadness. I am sorry that you are having these feelings and hope you can learn to cope in some way. I still just push all of my hurt to the back of my mind...some days I am kinda ok and other days I cry at the drop of a hat--I guess its just something you have to carry with you for the rest of your life. Once again i am sorry and wish you the best. I am 31 years old myself with no other children-but hang in there and hopefully things will look up for us both.    :)
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This seems a bit cold - and I apologize for that. But you need to really take a GOOD look around - you're typing on a computer about how depressed and upset you are. Atleast you have a house under you, which some people don't. Some people would literally kill just to have a roof over their head, and you definately would not hear those people complain that they were depressed. Life is short, yes, and sometimes it can be lonely, depressing, irritating, etc. But when you look at what you have, compared to the guy you see every day on your way home from work, or school if you're not as old as some of us, you have it pretty good. He holds a sign that reads "Homeless and Hungry - Please Help", and meanwhile you roll your window up and try not to make eye contact. Maybe turn the radio up a little to tune him out altogether. You get home and Mom or Dad, or both, cook dinner and sit down with you each night to hear all about your day. Or if you are old like us (relax, just mean over 18 or 21) you might be the one sitting down with your children to hear them talk excitedly about the day they had. Just thinking of my family can usually cheer me up when I am feeling down. Also, giving money to that guy helps to make me feel a little better. \n\nJust think about your family, friends, your car, your stereo system, your last good hook-up, whatever makes you feel happy and better, when you are feeling down.
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This is sad. Okay, when I was 17 I fell in love really hard. He was 18 and after only 3 months ... we ran off and moved into together. We worked really hard, had lots of bills and after 2 years together, we had a baby. Later we got married and it was good. Unfortunately the guy I fell in love with got messed up with drugs and alcohol. \n\nI really loved him and after our divorce, I didn't think I'd find anyone else. After a string of broken relationships, not to mention my broken heart I finally found someone else.\n\nWe've been married for 3 yrs. now, together for 5 this July and I love him beyond imagination. It took a long time but it did happen. You know how people say that you'll find love when you least expect it? That's what happened to me, I was almost ready to give up!
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It sounds like you are maybe a teen or young adult, I am not sure. But I am 15, and I have that same exact feeling, its kind of wierd how well you explained it. But I just try my hardest to live in the moment, I think that is the only thing that you can do. By doing that I found something I love to do that makes me happy, tennis. And I realized that by thiking that way I stopped sociallizing, so I try to do one thing social a day(normally doesn't happen) But when it does I am happier. Just dont think of the future and think about what you want to do or be right now, and then try it. Each day you will make more progress to being happy again.
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girl i know exactly how you feel!!!! ive been married 10years and very lonely... dont get discouraged!!! alot of women may have alot of male companions but ask yourself ARE THEY QUALITY MALE COMPANIONS. ive thought about leaving my husband many times, not for any other reason except we have no quality time together.... i stay because i dont want to CATCH anything, if you know what i mean... you can go have fun with friends and eventually youll  find someone. dont go sleeping around either.. ok..
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32 is not old, you're just in a slump girl, we all get to feeling a little bad sometimes and take it out on ourselves via age or looks or weight etc..  32 is in no way old and you are doing just great!  keep your chin up and eyes bright, things will get better for you and you will once again realise how young you are!  Stop looking for that special guy and you'll be surprised just how fast he shows up.  Did enjoy the "spinster" part though, <thump you on head>  quit being so tough on you will ya please?  LOL  Life doesn't even start until 50 or so they tell me, am surely hoping they are right too.
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You may be depressed already and have been for some time and you may not have realized it yet. You sound to me like your zeal for life is very low. That is a symptom of depression. Do you sleep too much or not eat even if you're hungry? There are several warning signs of Depression and a lot of us don't realize them. You're detached and that tells me perhaps you are afraid of getting close to people and of special occassions because you don't want to be hurt or disappointed. I would seek counseling if I were you. There's no shame in it and it doesn't mean your "mental" or that you'll be doing thorazine and weaving baskets, it means there is a chemical imbalance in your system/brain. Millions of people suffer from depression and there are good treatments with relatively few side affects. You may only need counseling. You are losing out on life, Honey and the people that love you will understand. Talk to them! Let them know that you're considering treatment and I'm sure they'll support you and don't let your anxiety get the best of you. Identify the problem, take steps to solve it. Good luck, and have a Happy, Happy Valentine's Day for once! =)
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I used to be like that and all of my friends tried to help me but it was something that I had to learn on my own.  I went through a hard break-up and then I didn't even think about guys for around 6 months.  Now I have a new man and I'm happy but I realize that I could make it on my own and be happy w/out a man.  My situation may be different that your friend's though.
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Yes zool, sometimes I feel very sad and loney too.  My marriage of 27 years broke up about 3 yars ago.  Then I met someone, fell in love and got engaged.  He died last September.  Since then I can't seem to "find my place."  You know, where I belong.  I moved to another state but feel like I need to go back where I came from because my children and grandchildren are there.  What is making you feel sad and lonely?  You can email me at watsoq9@yahoo.com if you like.
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It will hurt you so bad for a while.  You need to try and be strong - you must care about YOU at this time.  Go out with friends, take up hobbies, read, chill out, buy clothes ..............  Maybe it would be an idea to have some counselling.  This will help you understand and deal with your feelings.  Right now you are so hurt and just cannot make sense of it all - understandable.  Time is the best healer - I know that hearing that right now doesn't help but, trust me - it is!  Mail me anytime if you wanna talk.  Chin up, take care x
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sounds like your in a pickle...i am 26,man that looks old, but anyways, listen.i got the same thing from my girl, about a few weeks ago. not the fact of moving cause of school or anything(we have been 2 gether for 6-7 years and have a 4yr old son). she just came to me with the fact that she thought we need time,i never saw it coming and all that, yeah..it sucks.when your in love and when they come to you with this crap, your kinda like...what?when?how?why?me? i got like you. thisterrible sinking feeling inside.thats when you really know that you care,but what hurts the most is when they are like?oh?i hurt you?\nBUDDY, i hope your young.you have no children? so go on with your life.its gonna be ahrd, i mean you put in the effort, 5 years of your life and now this. it will take some time getting over this, but hey. im sure you have a mom, or family or friends you can lean on at this time. it will just take time, besides...there are soooooo many beautiful women out there. i was at the point to where iwas like i didnt care about those other women, but get this...they do care. they are out there looking just like you will have to.some will come to you,and some you will have to suck it up and go for.everyone gets rejected here nd there*trust me it sucks) but movw to the next. if you dont want to get hurt all over again, then dont get too involved. whats the best part about this? you will meet so many intresting people and get to do new things. yeah she might be in austin having a blast with out you. you will just have to accept this, get over it and have blast yourelf. if your here and shes there, it will make it easier,but when she comes back...or is ever alone at school and the memories come back to her, she will reliaze that she had something special. not every man is gonna treat her like you did..some may be better, most will be worse(most guys in collage are NOT looking for relationships ya know?) and she will, or try to reach you again to see how you are. hopefully youve moved on, got a black book packed with girlfriends, that are friends, some even more, thats when its sweet..when she comes back trying to be a apart of your life again...you might take her back...you might reliaze, you have moved on and shes just another face in the crowd, she didnt care about your feelings then...you could blow her off, you could give it a shot all over agian. i know its not easy.in fact me and my girl are still together after i found out how she felt. we are not married..so its no promise that it will work, all i know is that i have son with this woman, and i love him-if it works with her,great if not...i ahve him, and thats all i will ever need, me,him,god-you will understand once you have a kid, it is amazing\nwell good luck pal,keep your head up..if it help..go beat the shit out of a door, or punching bag, a little stress relief, or go have a drink this weekend at aclub or bar, and enjoy the view, the eye candy..the ladies!who knows, someone might be looking for a someone like you.
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ohh i know how you feel..i'm trying to get out of this one myself, but you have to understand we all love and loose.it's a part of life.i have realized that not all men are out to hurt you, just remember that you control the outcome and that you've learned valuable lessons.learn from them and move on, you can't think that every time you have a relationship it's gonna turn out the same way,but it will if you think that way,stand up and be strong you owe yourself that much