when my mom died our neighbors offered food and collectively sent flowers,my dad's work sent flowers,my mom's siblings neighbors sent flowers and offered food,my school friends(i was 11) sent flowers,mom's nieces and nephews sent flowers and our church sent flowers.as i said earlier my friends mother died and her neighbors sent nothing,his employer sent nothing,his fraternal group sent no flowers.his brother's employer sent flowers  what on earth is happening in this country i do not get it. i am totally shocked and outraged that this happened. this man has volunteered his help to everyone who needed it.the people in question knew about his mom's death because i informed them so they could not say"i didn't know" am i out of step with folks or what has things gotten this bad please tell me. if it is true then i don't recognize this country anymore.
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well for one thing, did you send flowers? dont be so quick to judge people, after all how well did you know her? just because you liked her that doesnt mean that she was liked by everyone. lots of people are loners and prefer to be solitary than go out and have a bunch of friends. maybe the family wanted people to spend money on a certian charity rather than on flowers. perhaps a certain person still living at the house is allergic to flowers. there are many different possibilities as to why none were sent. if you sent flowers then you can sleep better tonight knowing you did a decent thing. if you didnt, well then stop being a hypocrite and start practicing what you preach.
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I'm sorry for your losses. I have a similar story but on a longer time scale...since my graduation from college party in May 2005, 3 people who attended have passed away. My mom's best friend, my best friend and yesterday my grandpa.  I'm not sure why things happen like that but after talking to people at work they all have similar stories. I think it's just how life happens and no sense can be made of it. \nNot to mention my grandma, best friend and grandpa all  passed in November 2001, 2005 and now 2006. (It's a tough month)\n\nIf it weren't for the bitter the sweet wouldn't be so sweet.\n\nBest of luck to you.
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my mom just died recently and you think weird stuff about like this might be one of them for you. It unfourtanelty is just a coincidence i feel awful for you... having a birthday on the same day your mom passes away. I hope things work out for you
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Reading the news on what happened to the two soldiers have saddened me deeply. It's horrible to hear how some people, people without regards for morals or sympathy, would do something as terrible as this to two young soldiers. Its disheartening to hear something like this because they are young citizens, a human being like you and me, taken away from this world by means of extreme violence. These soldiers have family and friends who will have to suffer from their loss. These soldiers will no longer have the ability to live life further than they have lived it. Its disheartnening to hear about something like this. May they rest in peace.\nI commend the two soldiers who have died serving our country, and to all members of the armed services who have, had, and will defend our country.
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My thoughts are with you APG. A tragic loss like this defies explanation and one could only provide words of comfort to those who are suffering from it. Why death takes anyone especially the young and innocent is a question that \ngoes beyond my reasoning ability. Offering you and this lovely woman's family and friends my deepest sympathy.
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For sure you are carrying a lot of grief and anger over the circumstances that led to your sisters death. It would help you to talk about this to others on a more personal basis. Have you ever thought about joining a support group for people who have lost family members suddenly as a result of violence or disasters? Below is a link that might be of some help to you. You have my sympathy. I lost my bro to a car crash several years ago, and I'm still angry with the people who helped cause the accident but I don't let it run my life anymore. Good luck to you, and God bless you.
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I have heard about and it is absolutley appalling!  On a brighter note, there is a  national group of motorcycle- riding activists and veterans  called "Patriot  Guard Riders"out there that has been going to many of these same funerals, they however are doing a wonderful thing. They are either running interference between the protesters and the family, shielding the families from these ridiculos intruders, or simply showing up to show support for the fallen heros and their families.
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yes, my story is rather differant, My Aunt Ann was dying of cancer and after all attempts for a cure she was given only a few months which ended up being 3 weeks. well the night of her death my Mother 'Anns sister' and my Aunt Bonnie 'also Anns baby sister' and I went to Anns House after her husband called and said it was time, we got there to find Ann unconcious and in her Bed. we sat with her for Oh maybe an hour when suddenly she sat straight up and smilled 'with tears in her eyes' and said Oh How beautiful they all are, Look at them, 'she then looked at us and said Cant you see them, and my Mother said No Ann I cant see them,. all this was bizzar within itself because she had brain cancer and had'nt been able to speak for over a week, and now she was speaking very clearly. After my mom said she did'nt see anyone, Ann started to talk to someone and was very very excited , She suddenly said 'But someones missing' and as if she was looking and listening to someone speaking She smiled and said ' Oh-' slowly laid back, looked up and gripped the corner of her blanket and slowly pulled it up over her head and she died. BUT To your Question this is the reason for my answer, 1 week after her death I was asleep and Ann was in my dreams, we was sitting outside having Tea like we would do in the summer, and she was smiling and said, so what Name will you give Him, and I said Aaron, Just as if I knew what she was saying. when I woke up I was floored, So a week after that I found out I was pregnant and was even more shocked , because my husband and I had tried for almost 11 years and was Told I could never have children.. I would continue to say what I believe and why I think there was 'someone' missing when my Aunt made that statement but maybe somethings are better left unsaid. ~_~
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We are all on this earth for a very short time. You & I aren't speacial, we too will die. Make the most of this life while we are here, is the lesson we should get from this. Lets try to be thankful for this young mans life even though it was short. He died doing something he loved. In my book thats better then being layed up in a bed suffering for long time. I know it is hard, but after the, understandable, saddess life goes on and our time here is limited.
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I really don't know. I feel we do have an obligation to help our fellow man and woman. However, I am not blind to the problems that some have created. After all, I live near Reliant Stadium and met some very nice people but I also saw some trashing the parking lot near Fiesta and criticizing the efforts of citizens to help them (It wasn't enough or what they wanted). One night I wanted a sandwich from Subway and had to wait to be let in. They let me in when I told them I wanted to buy a sandwich. I also know people who work at the hotels and some of the evacuees tested their nerves. I guess what I want to say is let's help those who want to help themselves start over but the hand outs have to stop. My late father always said "If you give a man a fish, He'll eat that day but if you teach a man to fish, He'll eat for a lifetime."
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Is there something on the other side of death?  Well that is a question will only one way of finding out...I personally believe yes there is and God and my passed loved ones are waiting to greet me when my time comes.  If you are thinking about killing yourself there are plenty of people to talk to.  Please call these people 1-800-273-TALK  or 1-800-273-8255, this is a crisis hotline  that can not only help answer your questions but help you, and talk to you if that is all you want to do.  My brother killed himself and it is not something you want to put your loved ones through, not to mention yourself??
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I don't think your crazy.........Since he died at a time and place of his own choosing he may have set some of these things up prior to his death......I have known people to do that before they die.......Mom's dying of cancer will buy birthday gifts for their children to be given out at the right time? Just a thought.......The other things you"feel" can be any number of things but I believe he is with you when you need him.....I am sure he was in a lot of pain at he time of his death but I am also sure he loved you. Enjoy your quiet times.............You will heal soon.
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Hi itstight38@s...,\nI'm sure your grandfathers friend knows how you feel and all is forgiven. My answer to your question is on the day my 12 year old son was killed he asked me if he could stay home from school and I told him no. There are times I wish I could take it back but in my heart I know that when God calls you home there is nothing we can do but except it. I know where my son is and I know he's in a better place than I am and I hope God will let me see my son again when it's my time to go home. Thanks: Blueladybug
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From what I read they are not convinced that there was human to human transmission in the case of the Indonesian family that died.  But it would make sense that there was.  It is definitely something to worry about--if it starts up the only way to be safe is to eliminate human contact, stay home, no work, no school, no gatherings of any kind---church, movies, sports events--nothing.  And no shopping, either, so you better lay in at least a year's supply of food and water.  Sorry, thats how it looks to me.
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Every society has different ways of mourning their dead, and so does each individual. This doesn't seem to do as much with how to deal with grief as it does to give you ideas for decor, as you stated.
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OK what is up with this heart attack stuff..My husband and now your mom. \nShe will be in my prayers. Keep us posted about her updates. Take your laptop and keep in touch.\nI had a very hard time and still am dealing with it all. I come here to escape it all..I took my lap top in one day in his room and the Doctor asked me  have you heard of that Yahoo Q&A and I said yes and I showed him this one and he said there is this one babe from and he stopped and said no way...And I said yes..Funny small world................So you wanted new.........\n\nI  have  official made the commitment to take my road trip. I just emailed my family and told them that I was going and if they were not going to support me on this one OWell things happen..\nIt just hit me I need to do this regardless of life and what is going on. LOL for me
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You both are young. The death of a loved one at any age is hard. All the other answers says it all. You can't cheer her up. Nothing will at this time. You didn't say if she believed in God. But that is what is helping me right now.It was her Mom's time. It's sad that she had to go via car wreck. Let her cry. Here are some ideas that I have done and will do myself(I lost my 82 year old Mama in March this year). I planted a small flower garden in her memory. Nothing big or elaborate. My Mama loved flowers any and all. Her b-day is in a week. We still plan on having her a party.I'm getting helium balloons and we are going to write her a special message and let them go. We realize she won't get them, but hey-Who knows?? Just be there when she needs a shoulder to cry on. Let her remember her Mom. Remind her of something funny her Mom did. Don't let her dwell on the bad times that all mothers and daughters have. I can tell you; us Moms wouldn't want our children to remember those times. Sit down with her if she wants to look at pictures of her and her Mom in happier times. Some people will tell her thats the wrong thing to do. Maybe-Maybe not. God will help her.Have her read scriptures in the Bibles that will encourage her.Just be her friend.Her Mom is just a memory away.I'll be praying for you and her.You will have a rough road being her friend, her pain is yours. God Bless you for wanting to help her.