We have been together for almost a year and he has cheated on me with my best friend. We have worked things out but i just cannot let him go. he tells me he is sorry but i dont know of he really means it. he is not my first boyfriend but he is the only boy that i have actually really really cared for.i think that he is still cheating on me ! what should i do??
133272
well if he has cheated on u that many times u should lose him u r way to good 4  that lose ur bf to
425523
I say no, honey, if you don't want to be hurt again then stay away from him. Once a cheater always a cheater. You deserve someone better. And for the time being when you don't have a bf, get closer to your girlfriends! They won't cheat on you.
513534
Ask some friends if they think he is cheating on you.  Confront your boyfriend and see how he responds.  Of course, you don't want to tell him who told you.  Check out his body language and try to gauge his sincerity if he says he didn't.  If someone's telling you what you really want to hear, it's hard to tell if they're being honest or lying, so watch carefully and pay attention to what your instincts tell you.  This friend of his might have been telling you the truth, but he might have been lying to you in hopes that you'll break it off with his friend and he'll have a chance with you himself.
443293
You really DO have to decide for yourself and what anyone on here says cant change that but if he was cheating on me i would break up with him, and plus if you never see him, than what is the point? I think you should find somebody better than that because you dont derserve that!\n\nGood Luck And Take Care!
218943
I have to much respect for myself to EVER stay with a man who cheated on me. Regardless if he begged for forgiveness or not. You should move on to someone who truly respects you.\n\n\nhttp://groups.myspace.com/closetednerd
69533
If you have any concern, I think that you really should talk to your boyfriend.  Despite you have been together for 6 years, you are still very young and you are still learning so much about yourself.  He may or may not be cheating on you but there is a question for you, why did you get back together after he cheated on you last time?  Did you think that he would change?  Personally, if someone cheated on me once, it is very difficult to rebuild that trust for I know that even if for the rest of his life, he never cheats, I would still wonder if he is whenever he is late from work, have a business trip....so that will not be fair for the man!  Why do you want to be in a relationship that is second guessing?
647267
I dont understand if he didnt really want to be with you why would he have stayed with you for a year after you cheated. Just jot down on some paper everything you want to say to him, anything that you might forget. Some times a break up is temporary but sometimes they just tell you that to let you down easy. Thats what my ex did to me (neither of us cheated he just said we should have some time apart and we havent gotten back together yet and that was a year ago)You need to figure out why you cheated on him, it was obviously for some reason. Good Luck
463199
If i were you, because this guy has cheated on his girlfriend he will also do the same to you and disregard your feelings in time to come by going off with someone else....best advice i can give you is to protect your heart.
3364
gurl i think you love him and if you do then forgive and forget and yea its gonna be hard but then again if you dont think you can do it then move on to find someone better because if he would have loved you then he wouldnt have cheated on you, so he is not to much of a boyfriend
567678
You poor thing.  Finding little clues to him maybe cheating are probably eating you up inside.  If he won't admit anything, don't push it.  I would just keep a close eye on him with out him getting a clue as to what you are doing.  Act normal.  He WILL mess up.  I promise.  When he does, even though it hurts, leave him and take him for all he's got.  No one, even if you have a bad relationship, deserves to be treated like that.
260309
Pretty much it is a bad decision, if not cheating, but he showed you a desire to get past that by confessing. You should decide if you can forgive or if you get more pleasure out of holding this against him. If you like the upper hand, go ahead and beat him up for it for years to come. All he will regret is that he confessed this indiscreation to you. I'd let it go if I were you. Far worse things could happen to you than this.
287549
It's worth trying.If he's still with you that means that he's got strong feelings for you but he also can't get over the fact that you have cheated on him becouse he THINKKS you don't care for him as much as he does for you.\ndon't play games with him.if you love him too,try to get his trust again..
106298
Well normally I would say run to the nearest exit and so on! However you've continued the relationship with this man, and what's more you've been best friends for a long, long time! That's a lot of invested time/energy/love. I can only assume that the lie you're referring to was a cheating on his part. You had decided to forgive him, but cannot forget. (If this is not so please give more details) Why do you want to leave him now, is he continuing in the same way? - If this is the case, RUN! If not, if you just can't forgive him - then you have to decide whether you can go on without his friendship/love/companionship whatever the case may be! One of my favorite quotes, which I found very true in my case is, "It's not that I can't live without you, but I'd rather live with you." All the best in deciding!
217222
Good decision. But if it was the first time that he's cheated on you, maybe give him another chance. If not, then you don't need someone like that.
554662
say NO. Once a cheat, ALWAYS a cheat. If he cheated then, how do you know he wont cheat now? If he lied then, how do you know he wont lie now? If you DO go back out with him you'll have to walk on eggshells the whole time because you'll be wondering in the back of your head "was he really where he told me he was, with the people he told me he was with, or was he somewhere else with somewhere else" Which saying those thigns to him or asking him alot will just lead to fights. A relationship is nothing without trust and it takes a long time to re-build trust after someone cheated/lied to you. Find someone out there who WONT do that to you, this guy sounds like a loser, and there are millions of guys out there that arent losers, so go find one! good luck!
151207
..you probably dont think you can trust him because what has happened before..and i know exactly how you feel i havent been able to really trust a guy in over a year and im workin on it really hard and anytime i started to get somewhere with a guy all that i can think about is how much that other guy hurt me but i have to let go of the past and im tryin to figure out a way to do that too..but you are just goin to have to try your hardest to get over what has happen before..you might think you are completely over that but your probably not because you belive your boyfriend now..you just have to let your guard down with the chance of you gettin hurt again but sometimes its worth it/
195158
He made his decision long time ago. He cheated on you, let him prove that he wants to be wtih you. But what you should be asking yourself is can you get past his cheating and never bring it up can you forgive him and will you get past this and be in a healthy meaningful relationship. You owe it to yourself and to him.