my girlfriend (for lack of a better term) is pushing me away, she doesn't act as if she wants to talk to me. she just wants to stay locked up in her house. not come see me. or do anything with me. just not sure how to react. i'm hurt be it, and she knows. but doesn't seem to care.
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Sounds like she is going through a hard time, like she is depressed and cant talk about it. Many people shut people out for fear of rejection or humiliation. You need to talk to her, find out whats happening. Dont pressure her, let her know she can talk to you.
431215
I don't know; sometimes I get the feeling that my significant other is pushing me away, but then he will call me and tell me all the contrary. He calls me only when he feels like it, he'll see me when the time is convenient for him, he promises to call and then he doesn't, he will not give me a picture of his, he makes love to me and then takes off saying that he'll be back later, he doesn't, he calls me and makes up some excuse; however, he still says that he will be over in the morning and that we'll make love and make up for lost time, guess what? It doesn't happen. Then, again he calls (when he feels like it) and again apologizes and says I do care, but I don't know what is going on, too much stress, work, and no time, but I will make it up to you. I hope you get the message because I don't and I am getting tired of his little games, if yours is acting like this - then we are both in the same boat. It is only up to us to kick them to the curve or to keep on tolerating the way they are. Good luck.
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As hard as it might be since you LOVE her and want to be with her. Look you need to cut her off for a while, at least until she comes to a decission of what she wants. Fact is LOVE HURTS,but sounds like your gettin used. Why would you let her use you, I know in hopes she will stay, but have you ever thought she might come to a decission if you didn't let her use you. So next time and until she decides what she TRULY wants don't let her sleep over. Just tell her goodnight and send her on her way, let her think for a while. Besides do you deserve this think of your own feelings for a change. APPARENTLY YOU'VE NEVER THOUGHT ABOUT OR HEARD APPENTIENCE MAKES THE HEART GROW FONDER. GOD BLESS and good luck
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There might be some sort of communication problem that is going on. Politely ask her if anything is wrong or unusual about how she is feeling. Does she maybe think you have done something? Does she maybe think or feel you have left her behind or betrayed her? You can never know how someone feels unless you ask them. Questions are the key to results in any situation. If you do not ask you can not learn. Do not be rude when confronting her, but confront her none the less. She might have issues beyond the two of you and your relationship. She might have outside problems that she thinks no one can fix. Help her and also help her understand you are there for her. Don't sit back and let it go on. Talk to her and find out the truth. Don't let it sit still and dwindle till it is to late.
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Let her go, move on and be glad you didn't waste a lot of time on this...she she doesn't sound as if she knows what she really wants....did she want to be intimate, or was she doing it out of appreciation for giving her a place to stay?...being that she's the one who brought that up, where did that idea spring from?!\nAs a girl, sneaking out of bed in the middle of the night to sleep on the couch means she's upset and wants you to notice and feel sorry for her and follow her to offer comfort...it's part of the game.\nLet her go and find someone who will communicate openly and honestly and not play games.
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Well you need to really decide if you want to be with her-possibly forever. I didn't sound like you wanted to move where she is, Why can't she come to you? If either one of you REALLY love one another,one of you would be willing to make the small sacrifice of moving. Now she is wanting some time away from the relationship,she got tired of waiting. If you now are realizing that you were taking her for granted-then show her. Actions speak louder than words. I hope this all works out for you and if not,then maybe it just wasn't meant to be.=}
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All you can do is give her a hug and tell her that you are there for here.I have been in that situation where I have something wrong with me and my ex used to ask me what was wrong, I never told him, he would just get up and go into the other room. Dont do that. I know from experience even if she doesnt want to talk, she might still like you to be with her and hold her so she knows that she is not alone
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damn this sucks pretty bad . well as you said you never made her any  promises so yes you should move along .since this is going to be painful for her regardless just be really honest with her and tell her why your leaving ...exactly why ...women have a tendency to try and pick things apart too much ...if shes in some sort of denial shes gonna have a hard time understanding why your leaving her  , as long as your really clear she wont have to judge herself too  hard and wonder what she did wrong . and by all means dont let hurting her stand in the way of you being happy ...but no i dont think you necessarily think you shouldve left earlier sometimes we like to hang on too long thinking that magically things are going to falll in place but it rarely happens that way damn im blabbing hahah sorry
435095
you should dump her if she isnt willing to stop. you seem really sweet for saying that to her and she just turned you down. because if you're with her when she shoplifts, and she gets caught, you both will be in trouble. so dump her!
56858
This is an easy question. How old are you and your girlfriend and how long have you been dating? If she told you she is not in love with you, then she has probably been feeling this way for awhile and finally got the courage to tell you. If you want her back, all you have to do is ignore her, make yourself busy and when you talk, be somewhat short with the conversation. If she still cares about you, more than likely your unavailability will pull her closer. If she really doesn't like you anymore, that will be obvious too. If that is the case, then you should definitely try to not call her as much and find other things to entertain your thoughts so that you can move on.
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aigghtt man u need to relax i was in ur shoes before and i was asking the very same question a few months ago\n\nif she doesnt want to talk that s fine\njust either email or text\njust saying  "hi"  act like u have move on\n(u r probably saying no i dont want to do that) well let me ask u everything that u have done till this day has it work,  NO, all ur caring has it gotten u closer  NO, because right now she doesnt want it,  she is fill with negative feeling and in order to rid of these feelings u need to stop pressuring her into a relationship\njust simply be cool  act like u r enjoying ur space\nand that everything is good around u \n\nbelieve me it will work and continue being ur self but dont pressure her soon she will allow those walls to drop\nbut do not once again pressure her or try to convince her to be with u
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i think she's being honest with you and that she really doesn't want to tie you down...but on the other hand if you had already told her that you'd only want her then i think i will not let you go anymore...i just did what i had to do that is to let you know that i am open to possibilities that you might want to see someone else...but in your case, you are not wanting that...so,\n\ni think....maybe, just maybe...she just want to be out coz there is someone...but then why wait for you if there was someone else? maybe she just want to sort things out...let her have her space then...if she comes back and you find it in your heart that you still want her then go for it...\n\nif you don't want this option then talk to her and tell her that you still want to continue...if she said, no...then, you have to let go...nothing you can do here.
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Something seems to be missing in your story--or your girlfriend is schizoid.  But seriously, it isn't really normal to fight every week, so possibly she is still angry about whatever it is you guys have been fighting about.  I would think about the tone you may have had when you asked her to clean, I imagine you were upset because she wasn't helping, and that may have set her off.  If you want to save your relationship talk to her like an adult to an adult and try to figure out how to resolve your problems in a positive way.  Try to avoid accusatory and patronizing statements.  You two are probably just having trouble adjusting to living together.  Good Luck
39801
Ouch. Kudos to you on doing what you said you would, but for her it might be too little, too late. She needs to know that you will do what you say even when she isnt threatening you. Is there anything else about you that you know bugs her? Make an effort to change that too. She feels like you dont care enough about her to change, but you are doing the best you can now.\nLevel with her, tell her that you didnt change before but that now that you know how life is without her that you want to be just the man she needs.
529447
been there done that. I no excactly how you feel, I had the same thing happen to me with this dude. we kissed and every thing. its a weird situation. since she doesn't talk that much then ask her if you're offically going out. then latter tell her that you don't want her to call you so often. stick with her, once shes gone you'll feel realy bad like I did when I let him go. enjoy every phyisical action she does, it gets better and better. I used to not think about the dude that was with me and we went for a long time. you'll realy miss her if you leave her. I did.
577761
let her go..she's just testing you now...she doesnt want you, but no one else can have you...trust me, you will be better off without each other...sorry
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You know I've been in this same situation. It's really hard to deal with if you guys are so close. I just let my friend be and went to hang out with other people. I would call her and invite her places but she always turned me down because she had already made plans with her new man. This went on for about three months. When she called one day I told her. I'm not mad at you anymore but I would like for you to know that what you did really hurt me. We had been friends for five years and this guy comes and now you act like I don't exist. She apologized and we started hanging out again. Some people just get caught up in situations and forget about the feelings of others. You just have to put yourself in her shoes. If you were in a new relationship you might do the same thing to her. It's something new and right at this time you're just caught up in it. As long as you talk to her and tell her how you feel about it she should make it a point to try and share her time between the two of you. If she just blows you off then she wasn't a good friend to begin with and you'd be better off finding someone who cares about you and what your feelings are. Good luck with it. I hope she comes around.