if you are not ready for relationship, and, and if you know that a friend of yours is in love with you, and you have no feelings for your friend, would you agree to go out on a date because you think he is not going to talk to you again?
119330
No defintly not a friend is someone who understand you and is there for you no true friend would resort to emotional blackmail to get what they want from you and if he truely loved you he would want you to be happy not put his happiness in front of yours
19971
personally i agree with you that it is not love , just a fling.\n\ni would move on, but keep in contact with him as friend
170807
Sounds like he's unsure. I wouldn't bring it up again.  Just continue to be his friend without pressuring him, and he may eventually decide that he feels the same way. If not, you still have a great friend, and those are hard to come by.\n\nEither way, don't wait on his decision -- he may never decide, and you'll waste your time pining after something you can't have.
140817
if you fell uncomfortable..and you cant say that to him..then he isnt being just a friend. You should just not hang out with him anymore. If he is a friend then you should be able to set bounderies and such without hurting his feelings. Even if he isnt meaning it in a certain way..its how its coming across to you..and he needs to know that...either way if you cant be open and honest he isnt a good friend.
47972
Yes...a woman can be a friend with a man and eat a meal with him and still have feelings for someone else.\n\nBut from what you wrote, it sounds like you're at a certain point and she's not there yet. \n\nIf she's not ready to commit, then she's not.\nShe'll get there when its time for her, if its time for her.\nBut its not something that you can make happen. \nEmotions are either there or they are not.
281185
No, don't start 'dating' her if you already don't have those feelings.  I would say you could still keep hanging out as friends, but once it turns into romantic dinners and movies together and cuddling on the couch then you are starting a relationship that you might know won't go anywhere, and later on it will hurt her worse if you have to end it.\n\nOn the other hand, if you do develop feelings for her while hanging out as just friends, then I would say to go ahead and date her.  But only date a girl if you really do have feelings for her to begin with, don't start something that will eventually end later on.
343119
It will possibly ruin your friendship and if you are dating someone you should not even be considering it. If you do there will be conseqences. I suggest that you don't do it, it's not worth loosing a friendship over.
492389
no, if he is with you then he is with you for a reason and if he wanted to date her he would have not let that relationship go
173786
If your having mixed feelings and your not officially a couple yes walk away if he not willing to have a relationship look life as to much to offer to not be complete if you stay will things change if so than give him more time. Do this set a goal, time limit in your head and go from there.*
376570
If your friend is fickle and will get over this guy easily, then I wouldn't worry too much about her reaction.  If, however, this is her Romeo,  I would surrender the romance for the sake of the friend. \n\nStill, I have to wonder how much of a friend she is if you're considering dating the guy.
32816
It doesn't seem to be polite for me to ask you a question, but one does wonder why you (a) would want to go out with someone who doesn't speak; (b) would have your friend act as a go-between (when you should take responsibility for your own relationships); and, (c) would expect for a person you don't know to behave in a way that suits you.\n\nMaybe you should just leave the guy alone. If he doesn't answer, that's his business. Besides, it may just be possible that he's ignoring your friend because he thinks this whole approach is not to his liking - that he's being objectified. He may be uncomfortable - and he may not be interested in playing this game.
37559
If it were me, I would tell them both that their friendship is more important to you right now and try to explaine that you might not be ready for a stead relationship at this time. That way you're not having to choose and possibly breaking up what the 3 of you have right now. Sometimes the best things are the hardest to do, because it's almost certain you will lose 1 if not both if you choose.
45649
As long as there are no strings attached yes. You can't feel jilted if she doesn’t have feelings in return. Tell her you saw it and thought of her.
590368
You could be in love with her, but moving to be with her when she doesn't want a relationship is a double risk:  it's a big risk even when it's what you both want, but just saying, "okay... I'm coming... hope maybe you'll fall in love with me someday..."  Well, in my opinion that's both risky and foolhardy.  You can't force somebody to love you.
142489
This is confusing were you guys dating or not?  \n\nIf yes, and he said i love you but you didn't feel that way...why were you dating him in the first place?\n\nIf no, just tell him straight out that you don't feel that way about him but he's an amazing friend and you hope you guys can remain friends because this friendship means a lot to you.
549305
First off it sounds like HE hasn't done anything, it's seems like you're the one that needs to do something. It's hard to tell someone how you feel if you don't say anything at all. If the guy and your friend express interest in each other maybe it's just time to move on, no point in hurting a existing friendship over a possible "hookup". Plus if your friend and the guy go out and break up, you'll be right there on the rebound.
190256
I think eventually one of the "friends" is going to develop stronger feelings if they haven't already and are just acting like they don't.  It is hard to be intimate with someone without romantic attachments....maybe not at first but in the end.