hi ive been going out with my boyfriend for  2 years and we are having a baby together. Well he recently told me about his grandmother who used to lock all the grandmchildern in her upstairs when ever they were over,and if they were naughty she'd spank them with a wooden paddle and carve there names into it after. well my boyfriend always talked about his grandma and enemas. I asked if she has ever gaven him one and he claimed no he swore to god! but when i went to her house he was outside and she was telling me about how she gave all her grandchildern MANY enemas like she was proud after we left he's like did my grandma tell you about her give all of us grandchildern enemas. I was like yeah actually Then he quickly said not me though she constantly talked about them. i was like yeah you've had one admitt it she even told me heslike  uhh no my dad wouldnt let her! but not to my acknowlegdment she hasnt or to my belief! he gets super defensive about it do you think he's had one?
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If you believe him, then I sure you believe that Iraq had Weapons of Mass Destruction.
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I'm about your boyfriend's age, and I lost my mother last year.  If my experience has any relevance here, I felt somewhat sad on Mother's Day.  But more than that, I felt *strange*.  I would always call my mother, send her a card or gift, and so forth, and of course I couldn't do that.  I felt left out of all the Mother's Day talk.  After all these years, I was an outsider.\n\nOne thing you don't mention is whether your boyfriend has any chlldren of his own.  If he does, and if they make a fuss over him because he is their dad, that should help quite a bit.\n\nYou are a kind and supportive girlfriend to be thinking of your boyfriend's dad this weekend.  I think he is lucky to have you.
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Because they've been there and done it - good or bad your elders deserve respect.  You may not like the person, personally but he/she deserves your respect if there's a big age difference.  While what Gus brought up may be digusting and distasteful to you - edging a bit on sexual harrassment (if there are any ladies around) - he's an old guy reliving his glory days.  Sorry to burst your bubble but belive me you'll be there a whole lot sooner than you'll ever expect.  Give the old guy a break. When you grow up you'll understand.
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Hi grandma I'm a nurse and also have some experience in pediatrics.Don't rush the little man let him take his time and go at his on pace you haf to remember every child is different.My daughter is now ten yrs old and she did'nt walk until she was a week away from one.Everyone in my family thought that eas late but every child is different.Also grandma you can't listen to everything the doctor's tell you either although we go to them and expect to get a logical answer remember they're only human an make mistakes as well.Leave him alone he'll be catching up sooner than you think.(Stop worrying grandma and help him strenthen his skills).GOODLUCK!!!!!!!!
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I would only say something if you really feel the need to stand up for your brother, I would do it with them both standing right there so that way there is no he said she said crap going on between them talking about you. I would only do that under extreme cercumstances though. It matters how close you are over all to your brother, I mean if you can talk to him about anything i would definitally say something to him in private, something like dude is it just me or do you seem unhappy here lately, not really blameing her but if it is because of her he will come out and say so, if he asks you what you think i would go ahead and tell him but in the long and short of it if she makes him eat dog food on the floor every night for dinner and he still loves her, support him in his pick for a future wife. You might not like how she treats him over all but it looks like he does, maybe you havent gotten to know her well enough yet, Or maybe he hasnt, who knows. But i would definitally deal with this in a tender way, maybe your mom or dad can say something to him, or you can go to them and voice your concerns, they could probably get away with saying something to him easier then you could. I dont know ive never really been in that situation but i can see it going bad easily if its not delt with care :) I hope that helps
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Your uncles 2nd wife sounds like one of my step daughters,it has to be about her or  nothing at all she is always trying to start trouble she curses her dad and when i get on her butt she whines and says its all my fault .I don't have any use for her how can I she curses her dad yells at him and her dad has had 2 heart attacks already she has no respect for him or her self.The other daughter is great I love her as if she was my own she has the up most respect for her dad and me both girls in 20s the witchy one has three children in which her dad hasn't seen in 3 yrs because he wont kiss her butt.she is a nut.....
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This is not good!  Your uncle told you this?  Oh My Gd!  I'm so sorry for you.  I hope you are over this, and I hope that you stay far away from you uncle.  Don't be left alone with him ever again!  But, to answer you question, if you really want to know.  When he said open up....he was meaning for you to relax your vigina (because a 9 yr. old girl would be tight), so he could basically "poke" you.
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You had 26 answers already at the time of my replying, and i didnt read them but i can imagine what most of them will say. You are young, your boyfriend doesnt treat you right and doesnt treat his body with respect - so why do you think he will be good for you when he's not good to himself?\n\nOf course you have got involved with someone else. Its natural. You want a proper life with someone who cares. Its not a mess sweetheat, he's no good for you so just leave! Really, just pack up your stuff and leave. It may be hard but it will be best in the long run.\n\nGet support from family and friends, and just do it! A&#92; year from now you will be SO much happier!\n\nIf a friend was in your situation what would you tell them? You'd said he doesnt deserve you, wouldnt you? Come on, ring your mum or a friend and say you want help leaving..... they will be delighed to help believe me!\n\nMy daughter left a relationship like this last year. He was a drinker and had started to push her around too. Now she is with a lovely bloke.\n\nI hope you get the strength to do this, and make a good life for yourself.
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I can understand what you are going through. The first call I made was the day my granddaughter was born. My daughter was using drugs and leaving the baby with whoever would take her for days at a time. Everytime I called to report her, I was told that they would have to catch her in the act. Even though she had been caught in the act on more than one occasion, the baby was not taken from her until she was ten months old. That was almost six months ago and now I'm fighting the foster care agency and child welfare. There are times that I wished I had never made those calls because now my grand baby is worse off than she was with her mother. She's been moved ten times in five months and has developed a fear of men. \n\nNot being a blood relative, there is little you can do legally but you can be supportive of your boyfriend.  He will need an attorney to get through this tough time. Perhaps you can suggest to the daughter that the two of you would be willing to keep the children until she is in a better position. I found out the hard way that attacking my daughter for her abusive behavior made matters worse. I finally accepted her the way she was and she slowly started to see that what she was doing was harmful. We are now working together to get the baby placed in my home and our relationship has blossomed.\n\nThere are many resources online that may help you. Try a search on kinship care and grandparent's rights in your area. I wish you all the best.
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Hey, get a grip if you are thirty-two then you are old enough to know that when the time comes she'll tell you. But, be an adult, not a spoiled kid obviously she's lived with it all this time and there may or may not be something she doesn't want you to know just now. It doesn't change anything between you and your grandfather, apparently it didn't make any difference to him! Give your mom time and get on with your life, don't let it define you life!
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Perhaps she should have been more honest with you about the first husband.  BUT, remember, she may still have pain and heartache about it.  Did he pass away, was circumstances so that they couldn't stay together, did something really bad happene to him or did he do something.  The hurt and pain could still be so unbearable that she can't discuss it.  don't be so cruel and judgemental.  She's your mom.
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Girl! I am going to tell you the truth because I am worried and I don't want anything to happen to you. You are a weak women because you let this man hurt you. Yeah, he doesn't do now but he will. I know because my aunt went through the same thing. She told my uncle who she loves more than anything to stay out of it. One day my aunt husband was waiting at my grandma's door because my aunt wanted to see her mom. My mom was there too and she knew that her sister might not come back because he was mad for some reason. My grandaddy had a knife but my grandma told him to put it down. that was when my uncle went outside and he punch my aunts husband in the face. Then he got on top of him and was choking him to near death screaming "You made my sister hate me!" Then my grandma came up behind my uncle and took a broom and knocked him off of my aunt's husband. Then she told my aunt's husband to run and don't look back because my uncle would have killed him. The police had arrested my aunt's husband and we never saw or heard from him again. This is something you don't want to go through but it will happen if you stay with this man. This story is not to scare you but it has a message. This is a true story and I hope you don't go through what my aunt had to go through.
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Send him a letter? Dont you dare. He should always back you up - you are the one he is married to. I think you need to find alternate arrangements for babysitting. Quietly, with dignity, make other arrangements. If the grandma and aunty are not respecting your wishes, what makes you think they wont be disrespecting you infront of your kids? Try to put some distance between you and his family, so you and your husband can form your own tight knit unit. Then when you want to, you can see them on your terms. As dr phil says you teach people how to treat you - dont put up with it. Demand a higher standard of behaviour from them.
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NOOOO, don`t ever make him decide. If he chooses than it needs to be without YOUR help!\nI think his mother was way out of line with that comment. Try not to worry too much about it, it sounds like you have a great boyfriend there! If you want you can have a talk with her and tell her that you didn`t mean to "step on her toes", you are simply in love with her son and wanted to be with him on this important day.
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It sounds like she has serious emotional problems. Something has made it hard for her to lower her guard and trust  others. Just go about your life as if she didn't exist. That way, she can't hurt you. Talk to her if she talks to you but keep your distance.  It is very unnatural for a grandmother to treat her grandchild like that. And it's amazing that she raised a normal son.
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I've been there and done that. Except he was 7 years older. I'm guessing you are more mature than your age group. And seeing as how I have been in this situation I am in no position to judge you. It is hard. My mother did not agree with it. But she also knew that if she wouldn't allow me to see him in front of her, and at least give her peace of mind knowing that we were watching a movie in the living room, that I would somehow get to see him one way or the other. And she gritted her teeth and let us hang out at the house together for several years. Until I was about 16 or 17. Then I decided that it wasn't worth ruining my relationship with my mom, family, or friends for. It really is a personnel decision to make. I knew the relationship wasn't right, but I did it anyway. Talk with your bf. If he goes to college, what about you? You still have 4 years left of school. If he cares he will put you and your education as a priority. I am now happy with someone that is closer to my age and better for me and we have a beautiful daughter together. If your bf isn't the one, there is someone out there for you. Good luck honey!\nO! sit down with her, explain to her that you want to discuss something very important with her. Tell her not to get angry or start yelling if she does get up and walk off. If she doesn't get angry, continue to tell her what;s going on in your life, and your side of things. If she seems interested, later in the conversation she will ask questions, more than likely his name. if you don't feel she is comfortable with this don't tell his name. He is over 18 and can be charged with staturatory rape if you and him have had sex, even if it was mutual, because you are under 18. Really good luck
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my boyfriend's best friend's dad is a physic. He is very spiritual and he also knows a woman who has helped me with questions I had. I recently found out I was pregnant and when i met this woman she said that this would happen to me. She also told me that my boyfriend and I would live together. Which happened when it was said to have happened. I wish you luck e-mail me and I will get all the information for you. Good Luck and God Bless you in you time of Grief. It is always sad to loose a child. Your should never had to do that as a parent. smyle4mae@yahoo.com