HONEST answers plz. How important is a sex-life in a relationship compared to the emotional connection you have with your partner?? If you HAD to pick only one of them to have in a relationship, which would it be??? BRUTALLY, BRUTAL HONEST answers please.
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I don't think you can have one without the other in a relationship and make it work for long. I would rather start with an emotional connection and develop a whole relationship off of that and then it would be complete.
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In any relationship sex and intimacy are a very important component. Men often find physical contact a ideal way to connect to their partners. While it isn't everything it is far from nothing.
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At times a good conversation about hopes and dreams is in order. What do both parties want out of the relationship. Are both parties happy? A younger child can bring added pressures and it affected me also for awhile. I found myself doing many of the same things for a few months. I was in a total culture shock and didn't know how to handle the situation. I am now still there for my wife and its lasted 5 good years and counting. I am now myself again and love the family life. I guess at times it takes som getting used to and others it doesnt work out for people. The situation needs to be addresses because it is unhealthy for both parties. You have needs and so does he. You all need to work things out or split apart and find happiness.
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Hey, sex holds lasting relationships together. It is a neccesity. Love has nothing to do with it. People need sex, it is one of the main things we are built for.
570917
It is very important when its with my beloved one .. No one else .. Sex is to express my love to my man .. I hate it without love !! When its just for sex  and desire ..
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I don't know lol. well sex can be great in a bad relationship. but bad sex in a good relationship can be better. so i guess bad sex in a good relationship.
140220
if we have someone in our lives already...why do we do that?  find other guys on-line even if its only to talk...does our relationship lack communication...emotional support?
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Yes One Partner for whole life is OK for me, if you think to have sex with one partner for whole life is boring, than you are wrong, for enjoying your sex life you doesn't need several partner you need a different & good method of hving sex & one Strong man.
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More IMPORTANT?  Love by a landslide!  Sex without love is, well, sex and pretty common and easy to get.  Love, on the other hand, is unique, special and hard to come by or keep.  Love will weather storms, overcome all odds, wrap you up in your own special cocoon.  Sex will satisfy only the most basic need, which is gratify, either oneself or another.  Sex will not weather any storms, will not wrap you up in your own special cocoon and will overcome nothing but where and when.  Love without sex, depends on the relationship.  Since sex is really not used in all love relationships, such as a Mother's love for her child, a child's love for its parents, the love of your life, your soulmate might be a sexual love, but if you only included the sexual aspect, would you say "he was the sexual love of my life"?  NO!  You say "He was the love of my life".  While sex and love can be separated, sex without love is really worth very little, and love with sex is worth more money than you will ever have!  And who can discount the love of ones Mother?  A good Mothers love can overcome a lot of shortcomings in a childs life.  Ok, so now you have my 2 cents worth of whats more important to me.  Good question!
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I was in a your exact position, and my advice to you is say bye to him.  I am also a very sexual person, and when my ex and I had very low amount of (like once ever couple of months) sex I tried to talk to him about it, he would ignore me as well.  So I tried to work it out regardless, and after three loooong years, it just had to end.  If you two do not have a satisfying sex life, it becomes a major issue.  It's not a matter of how many times  you have sex month, it weather or not you are both happy with it.  It sounds like you are not happy with the situation, just like I wasn't, and my self esteem went down year by year.  I felt like it was my fault that he didn't want sex, and it hurt.  In retrospect, I realize it was not my fault.  We just didn't click sexually, and even though we cared about each other, it wasn't enough to hold together a relationship.\n\nSo in brief, my answer to your question is, sex is not important as long as it is present in the relationship.  If it is absent, it becomes a major issue. If you have already tired to talk to him about it, and you feel like he is ignoring you, walk away.  You need to be with someone who understands  your needs and tries their best to fulfill them.
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No doubt, good sex is an important component of any relationship.  The bigger question is:  Do you like yourself?  Do you find that you get along with yourself?  Do you make yourself laugh?  If so, I think you found a perfect match.
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I too have NO sex life due to a sick hubby right now and wish i was in your shoes on some days.  I guess - how much do you love hubby?  Enough to sacrifice your physical needs?  Could he ever recover and be the man you need?  If no to both, then leave hubby and get you some, girl!!!
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It sounds more like you're talking about polyamory.\n\nExcept for the marriage part, it hits everything you have mentioned.\n\nBeing polyamorous, I'll tell you that it's rarely about the sex. No more than you having a someone you date or would marry is about the sex.\n\nHaving multiple partners is both very rewarding and extremely difficult. You have to do a helluva lot of communicating, if you want to keep things together. You have to deal with your own insecurities and jealousies. \n\nI dated my ex-bf and ex-gf for a while, breaking up about a year ago. Lack of communication was a serious part of it. He wasn't much into talking or about the compromise needed when you are with more than one person. Eventually I had to leave them. I am still very much in love with them. \n\nI've quite a few friends with very long-term, loving relationships. Good friends of my wife and I are two couples that live together. They are all intimate with each other, except for the guys (straight). They been together for a very long time and have 10 kids. When the kids are old enough, they are usually told what the situation is, but the younger ones just consider it normal to have 4 parents. Strangely enough, the quad (a four person group, like that) is pretty politically conservative. I'm hoping they'll grow out of it. :)\n\nPolyamory is by no means for everyone. For some of us, it's the only ethical answer, to keep from cheating.
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I think it's great you two have such a close and trusting relationship. It's definitely not for every couple, but you are obviously not the only ones out there. Make sure both partners are comfortable and listen to one another.... Have at it, be careful of std's and such....Wow such trust you guys have.
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A healthy sexual relationship is a must in a relationship, it is what brings 2 people together that no other way does, it also relieves stress for both parties, and can also just be great fun, there are different ways that sex impact a partnership.  Sometimes the intense, I need only you in my life, the sharing.  And watch this, sometimes when things get 'testy' between 2, a lot of the time it's because they have neglected that part of the relationship, that's the stress breaker, and it opens doors to talk.  And the just plain fun?  That's when both parties are not looking for a soul matching moment, the 'core of them' it's when one of you just sneaks up on the other, just to enjoy!  Without sex / love making a relationship starts to build walls, feelings are hurt, doubts start to creep in, and not only men cheat!  It's healthy, very important, and really great ;)  As for not falling in love until after??  Well that's not always true.  My hubby and I knew each other for sometime, enjoyed each others company, and loved spending time together.  We had a sexual relationship for a few months before the L word came out, and it was great, and a moment I'll never forget, and one my hubby still asks remember when??  So I guess that could go either way, but don't mistake great sex and good times for 'falling in love' there are too many other things that play into a good relationship.
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i told ya. sex is how ppl show how much affection they have for there partner. it's not a necessity. as long as you have your way of showing how much you love your partner that's all there is to it! :) it's SO not about sex only. it's a way of showing affection.
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It is important to have GREAT and VARIED sex all of the time as often as possible in a relationship to keep the fire in it . . . \n\nSex before marriage I say . . . Try before you buy!!!\n\nand internet relationships well is new to me so we we will have to find out baby . . .