what do you think about a man who declares his love for his wife daily and then goes to spend time with his friends leaving his wife alone, especailly when he has previously said that he wants to spend time with his wife or that he wants to go to bed early.  but the moment that his friends call oh he's gotta go!
130170
sounds like a typical man
587301
I woke my wife up one morning with a shrug on her shoulder as we both lay  in bed.  She asked me if I was going to speak to her that morning.  She was referring to my ability to shut down from angst and misery, both what I consider a byproduct of poor choices, and my inability to admit It wasn't for me.  She was right.  Snide, but right.  It was a long time since we spoke.  You'd think we had been asleep for years.\nBut I did answer her.  \nI said, yes I am, I'm leaving. \nI said, I'm miserable can't you tell.  Do I even remotely resemble the man you first met?  You deserve to be wanted, not just a compromise.  \nThat was Eight years ago and we are very close friends.  Oh, she is still a bitch, just somebody elses.  I am happy.  She is too.\n\nI hope this answer just changed a life.  Peace.
25458
being married, i believe that he should realize that when he married you, he GAINED a new best friend.  HOWEVER, there are things that i do with my buddy john that i don't do with my wife...football games, baseball games and my wife hangs out with her "homies" doing what women do.  But, everyday is ridiculous.  Bored you ask, yes...bored it is.  Plan a "date night" for the two of you.  Like every saturday or friday, whatever is convienent.  go to dinner, to a movie, go dancing at the club, have drinks at a bar, go to a comedy club, go see a concert...WHATEVER, the point is return to your roots of spending time together.  he is content to believe that you will always be home waiting for him, when he returns from where ever he goes. This is not petty, it is unfair.
347178
I am a business man and travel a lot. I love my wife and our 2 kids with all my heart. The problem is that when you are away you get used to be alone. When i come home i feel very happy but at the same time it takes me about 1 or 2 days to get used to all the yelling, playing, running of the kids. The same with the affection my wife gives to me. I do not know is this is OK but happens to me.\nHope i give you some inside. Best wishes!!\n\nPS  Best to do: Give him space the first day, and everything will be fine.
144511
Yep.  What is it with people that say "well, did you talk to him" or " no" or whatever.  i mean please, can't people see the big picture?  the guy was supportive cause he felt bad and guilty, not because he was genuinely concerned.  Someone who genuinely cares and is concerned makes sure that you lock your doors every night, that  you're okay every day.  I repeat, EVERY DAY.  Not selectively on weekends!
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Why is he still single (unmarried) at 43? Why do you always have to start the discussion about moving in together? Why did he make that remark?\n\nI think you are right to wonder about his commitment to the relationship. But don't overreact - take it easy. I may be wrong!
164817
I feel your pain, my husband thinks of sleeping as the greatest hobby. But over the years, I have just come to accept that it is one of his qwirks, and even though it bugs me, it doesn't mean that he doesn't love me, it just means he likes to sleep.
444181
no one can be talking for him. so i don't think she is putting those words into his mouth. i have dated guys that were separated and i had nothing to do with their relationships with their wives. just because he slept with someone does not mean that he is moving on for her. it was probably just sex. my guess is that he really does want to move. regardless of the other woman.
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Honey he is TOO controlling. You can drink whatever whenever you want. You are in control of you, he has no say over you. He should be happy with your choice of friends, although he may not like it if they are men. I vote to tell him to back off and if he doesn't leave him. My husband never tells me what to do, who i can be freind  with, what to eat, drink, and he basically doesn't care what i do. I feel free even though i am married. It keeps me safe and happy. He doesn't have to keep me under his thumb to have me at his side and neither shold your man. If he feels he does then leave him.
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I think he has not yet overcome his being a bachelor that he prefers his friends than family.  As far as I know, most responsible husbands & fathers prefers family first than friends or his bestfriend is his family, other friends just follow.
103659
You can't choose what you dream about.  Your friend is insecure with himself.  He needs to understand that his wife loves him and its not like she is actually in contact with the sportsman so he has nothing to worry about.  On top of that, its not like she's acting on these urges.
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Makes me wonder if the guys who are in favor of it would be in favor of sharing their Wives with other men as well.\n\nAfterall it should go both ways.\nSomehow I am doubting the guys would be in favor of that :)
375971
OMG! don't see him again there are so many guys out there dont waste time on this looser, he just wants to get his kicks on cuz he's sooo bored with his wife, and for her to call you well what the hell did he say to her! dont get dragged into this situation walk away he's using everybody, poor wife.
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Is that it? ... Is that all he's got to say for himself?..... I agree with you - you should not have to put up with it - and what's more if I were you .... I wouldn't....\nI would not be running around like a taxi service at any time - day or night - when you've got a child at home ..... who was looking after them?  Or did you have to drag your child out into the night too?.... He should be a man .. and that means keeping his word ... if he says he's going to be home by a certain time ... then he should be - no if's or but's .... he's got a family, a child too..... \nWhat's that about..... his phone going when he gets home and he 'leaves it downstairs' ..... after his night out - who would be ringing him?  If it was his friends.... wouldn't they be ringing you to make sure he got home ok?  ..... Good on you for not giving him any .... he doesn't deserve it ..... \nand in my book that would make be extremely suspicious - put together with everything else .....\n\nAnd yes, there are many 'men' like him ..... I, like a lot of other women have had my fair share of his 'type'..... which is why I would tell you now to be on your guard ..... he's up to no good - no matter what lame/plausible excuses he may give you .....
337884
From your description of your man, i find that he is an idle man who calls you ten times in a day. He can be OK for your friend but not worthy of being your husband. He will not be able to support you as his wife. Forget about him , my dear child, find some other desrving person.for marriage. Your well wisher.
66963
One of the worst things about dating a man like this, is that he is never going to be around for the holidays! Christmas, Valentines Day, Birthdays, Halloween...(just kidding) well you get the idea. And she will never be able to meet his friends or the friends of their marriage, and basically she is the secret, in his life. Usually a married man is very romantic to the *other* woman. However all the sneaking around, the late phone calls, etc...she will wake up and cry over it one day when she will need to call someone for something very important and he will not be able to be there for her! This is when she will realize that the intimacy they share is kind of false! Usually the *mistress* enjoys the passion and the excitment! However in the end...it reflects that she is wasting her time and energy, on a selfish man that she is best not to marry, because all the *wife trashing* he talks, will only be switched on her! She has a low self esteem to accept a relationship like this in the first place! That is why, I think.
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Yes...I was married for 18 years and the last few years felt like this all the time OR didn't want to be at home when he was there.  As hard as it was I realized it was because we had outgrown each other and weren't making each other happy.  We have since separated and are living our own lives.  We are MUCH better off as friends then we were as a married couple.