On with my life when all they do is hold me back they are into drugs and sleeping around with as many guys as they can and now i am starting my life with my b/f and just trying to get over that high school crap and start acting like a women and get my life together, and start thinking for MYSELF AND NOT THEM!!!!
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You're no longer close?  Then just leave them in the past, darlin.  You're trying to live better and clean up your act, DO NOT be around them, I can say they will try their damndest to drag you back down to their level.  Completely write them off, take them off your cell phone, email, ims, MySpace, whatever and however you talk to them.  Leave them and that life in the past and you will feel a 1,000 times better.
625871
Why don't you jsut lose all of your self identity, and just copy everything they do?!  You can drink whatever they do and smoke whatever they do and sleep with whatever they do and jump from wherever they do!!! It will be fun!
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Wow...sounds like your life is complicated. Here's my advice from experience. My ex-husband was also a drug user. When he wasn't high everything was fine. Then he started getting angry for no reason. Then one day he hit me. Then he was sorry and apologized and said he'd never get high again but he did and it started all over again. After many many times I finally saw the light. JUST LOVING SOMEONE IS NOT ENOUGH FOR A GOOD RELATIONSHIP. You have to be COMMITTED to doing what is best for the two of you as a couple. He was either unwilling or unable to be to me what he should be. Your boyfriend is the same at this point. Give him a choice - "either get clean or lose me". Tell him only once and tell him firmly. If he's willing and able you have done him and yourself a favor. If he is unable and/or unwilling , tell yourself it was not meant to be and move on. Fourteen is much to young to get locked into a deadend relationship.\n\nAs far as school goes, unless you have an immediate offer for a highly profitable career that you can't turn down, quitting school is liking committing suicide to your future. ANYTHING you want to do in life will be benefitted by the fact that you finished school.\n\nAs far as being friends - Yes, it is possible and beneficial to be friends with all types of people. Here's a good rule to remember though, if your friends are bringing you down, try to bring them up. If you can, great. If not, it's time to seek other friends.\n\nOne thing that always helped me was to see in my mind where I would like to be and what I would like to be doing in 5 years, 10 years etc. and work towards those goals. Spend the majority of your time with the people and things that will get you where you want to be. \n\nI hope that helps you. Best of luck.
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well, i honestly am going through the same sitch right now..i think it more of being jealous that your friend doesn't have time for you anymore & is more likely to be with the guy she is dating..
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Sorry hon, but this is a case that you can't do much with. THey are messing with stuff that will get them in trouble and messup their entire lives. You may just have to decide that you need new friends, before they bring you down too.\n\nI had a friend in hs like that, SHe was always messing with older guys and trying to get me too. I finally had to tell her that I couldn't hang out with her if she wsa doing those things. It really hurt, because she choose the drugs and the boys over our friendship, but I am glad I did it. \n\nShe has like four kids with four guys and is always high on meth. I am glad that my life isn't like that. But I am really sad when I see her like that.\n\nBottom line, you have to do what is best for you, your pot-head friends will drag you down.
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I totally understand what you are going through. I've found that the best medicine is just get extremely busy doing what you like doing, spoil yourself, take more time for YOU. Deciding that you do not have to have a boyfriend, but keeping your heart open if a wonderful man just happens to walk into your life soon! I went through what you are going through a year ago, and now I am married to my best friend and the most wonderful mate I could ever have asked for, and we are truly in love!!! So never give up on your dreams to find the right mate, and meanwhile just enjoy life!!!                                                  You will find that the perfect mate was waiting around the corner for you. So just love yourself and love others and be the best person you can be right now. Have fun, life is what you make of it!
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you sound great! i don't know why they're such jerks...i like guys who are just friends...i'm not into that bf/gf stuff yet (i'm a teen!) i like guys who respect themselves...you sound AWESOME!!! i'm sorry that people say that kind of stuff :(
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Asking that question myself. In my opinion it is as simple as because they can. Now that all of my male friends know that I am broke up with my boyfriend for good, they are really coming on to me. I am strong though and I know it would only make me feel worse. I am not over my boyfriend and I also don't want to bring any left over residue from that relationship into a new one. He cheated on me. I've decided to be strong and resist the temptation. I am giving myself a year to heal and grow. I need to to focus in on what it really is I want out of life and what kind of man I really want and need.
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Well, I can sympathize... because I have been "walked over" by many friends.  I'm smart, academically speaking, and have made many friends who feel it is my duty to tutor and provide them the answers and help on all their papers.  Or friends who only call when they need something.  This is why I only have 1 real friend, and my husband.  It took a while to realize that people are shadey, and you can't always trust them.  Hard lesson learned.  Now I evaluate every relationship, asking "Am I getting out of this relationship what I am putting in?" and if I am putting in too much energy... and not recieving any of that energy back, then you really have to evaluate if it's worth it..
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yes I wished I could do that but unfortuntly you cann't do that.  We have to learn how to let those feelings go and move on with our lives!!!!  I had a friend that tore my heart out of my chest at that's not the 1st time lol...  But this friend just really did a # on me.  I mean just about a year ago we stopped talking and I didn't understand why?  Then the truth finally came out she just used me for things like drugs,MY car,a place to stay at were she could stay away from home and I also think that she used me as a bodygard so if someone was going to beat her up then you would have to go meet me(im not a small girl like she was) but anyways you get my point of the matter.  So I have got away from drugs my car don't have her a$$ in it lol lol lol....I have seen that things come back to them and they well have someone else to do it to them too so don't worry they will get whats coming to them sooner or later...also don't let them brack you as a person be strong for yourself...I hope this info helps you out some...also I have heard that you will only have 2 or 3 REAL friends in your life thats not alot so be very choosey with friends.
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I think it is totally unacceptable but at the same time I'm not in your situation.  At the end of the day you are still going to be your own person and make your own decisions.  If you do decide to carry it out then I wish you the best of luck and I really hope it doesn't blow up in your face.\n\nGood luck!!!
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THANK YOU!!! what really do guys see in a gilr who gives it up on teh first night and has been with every guy on the block.. it makes me soo mad. Or how about the chicks that are married but like away on vacation or deployment(military) and act like total whores... ugh
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Miz J, You hit it on a nail . I truly get peaved when they try to chnage our lives around slowly until they have us just the way they want us. Im having second thoughts after a 4 year engagement for this same type of reason!
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The Best thing to do is STOP DOING DRUGS! You sound like a really nice girl...but drugs can ruin you, and your relationships. You just experienced that. If you hope to have a future that you will LOVE, then STOP DOING DRUGS! I would never date a guy that did drugs because I would worry about him constantly and what he is doing when I'm not there. That is probably how 'Greg' feels, and that can ruin his future as well as yours. I really do feel for you because I know people who do drugs, and they really changed, NOT for the good. If you REALLY want him back, you need to tell him that you will stop...but you have to MEAN it as well. Let him help you through this, he would be more than pleased. He still loves YOU...not your druggy self. I hope im not sounding like your mother or anything...beacuse I really do want you to get him back...for you and him.\nMy heart goes out to you!\nGood Luck with EVERYTHING!
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I KNow Really... I can't stand it when girls start drama (thats why i hang w/ guys, they don't do silly stuff like that) But I think they start drama because they don't think their own life is exciting enough, so they have got to start something... : ( it is kind of Sad.
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I think its because they think they already have you. They dont feel that they have to work to get you excited.  But if it bothers you that much i think you should talk to your man and let him know that you dont just wanna jump in to F**k-ing.  Let him know you exactly what you would like him to do.
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i had a friend like that. its a form of jealousy. they want what they can't have so they try to take what you have. or maybe she had a self-esteem issue.