how do you deal?\nIt must be really hard cause I can't even imagine what a person shyer than me must go through.
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I'm an introvert, I don't go to parties, bars, can barely stand gatherings of people I know well.  But I work in school admissions and deal with people all day long.  I can be social in that context, it's more formal I guess.\n\nSo did you call that person?  Your other question posted.  I hope you did!
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Big hugs coming your way!  I can't imagine going through that.  All I suggest is keep yourself busy with friends..keep your mind occupied, and don't take sides.  Good luck and smile, things will get easier in time!
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i have the same problem...it actually harder for me in front of people that i know...oddly enough, strangers i have no trouble with...but that may just be me. but here are my guild lines\n\n1st know what you are going to say...practice your speech to the point that even if you start freaking out you can still say everything you want to say without thinking\n\n2nd when it comes time for you to make the speech...be calm...close off your emotions as much as you can...almost to the point of not thinking...this does help me\n\n3rd when i was starting out i couldn't make direct eye contact with anyone while giving the speech...this msy not be the case with you but it sure helped with me\n\nrecently i was kinda trust into a position where i had to give speeches about 2 time a week...i can honestly say that the more you do it the better you will get at it...and the easier it will become...so if you are going to have to give a speech quiet often it will get easier\n\njust to let you know after giving a speech i was so nearvous that i would almost be crying at the end of a speech...i am not normally the emotional type but then i was...now i can give speeches with relative ease...still not as good as i want to be but better none the less.\n\ni wish you the best of luck on your speech
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Its hard, I know from experience, you need someone to talk about it with, someone you trust or who knows from experience, if you want to talk more heres my email mikealdana_163@yahoo.com,, I can help if you want because I'm going through the same thing and I know its tough. I'm 16
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Overwhelm yourself with friends. \nI get over things like that when I hang out with one person or a group of people that NEVER make me feel bad. \nAlso pick one person to cry on. Don't conseal it completely or you'll explode!
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Everyone feels shy sometimes, but being too shy can hamper many aspects of your life.\n \n \nSteps:\n1.  Determine why you're shy in the first place. For example, are you scared of what someone might say about your physical appearance? Remember, there's an underlying reason for how you react in situations.\n \n2.  Act as if you're not shy. In private, behave as if you're oozing confidence. Hold your chin up, stick your chest out, add a swagger to your walk and speak firmly. It may seem ridiculous, but you will see results when you're out in public.\n \n3.  Practice making eye contact and smiling in your interactions with others. Strike up casual conversations with strangers about weather or current events.\n \n4.  Look your best. One way to improve self-consciousness is to always look good and limit ways you can be self-critical.\n \n5.  Lower your fear of rejection by imagining the worst possible outcome. If you approach someone, they may say "no" or they may just walk away. Absolutely everybody has been rejected at some point, but no one has to dwell on it.\n \n6.  Look and learn. Watching friends or even strangers who aren't shy is a good way to learn some tips first-hand.\n \n7.  Feel positive about yourself, don't get frustrated and have fun. Remember, the real goal is to find someone who will like you for who you are.
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I have the same problem...I usually tend to be very normal with the people I know....but when it comes to new people or strangers I shy out...so just pretend that you know the person...not literly though
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Let me tell you from someone who suffers from shyness.  It gets you nothing face up to it and just tell him next time you are alone with him and he will tell you his feelings. (I know it's easy to say, but all you have to do is get it started and the rest is easy)  Tell him you have something to say and just say it let him know your nervous and he will understand if he's a decent person.
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take it easy to begin with,and try to realize that pain has a way of coming at you. you can handle it if you go one thought at a time. don't be all over the board with your emotional system,it makes it worse. believe me when i tell you you are not alone in this world,God sends us people who care , be patient and at least glad your alive  it may take time to sort it out but be GOOD to yourself,your worth it.
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It's hard in a situation like that.  I coach fifteen year old girls and I had a similar incident and I wasn't sure how to go about helping her.  It took me awhile to try and get her help because I wanted to make sure and have the best action plan.
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Rather than label your problem and tell you to get therapy, I would like to give you hope. I have a good friend who has similar issues that your describe. He has great difficulty with intimacy and is close to only a few people outside of immediate relatives. He has not dated in years. How does he handle the problem? He developed a trusting friendship with me and I give him the support he needs anytime he calls. Does he think he is attractive? Probably not. Is his self-esteem low? Maybe...but the key to his willingness to work on his problem is knowing he has one person that no matter what will always be on his side. \n\nOne of the biggest things that I could recommend is opening up to someone. Rather than think you are ugly (something that may never go away), recognize that ugliness is YOUR PERCEPTION. The love of a friend looks beyond the outside. If you put this trust in your friend (or friends) and possibly consider taking a medication for the anxiety (that is what you are describing), you can slowly emerge from the self absorption that is distressing you. \n\nRemember, no one finds love or overcomes loneliness without giving to another. There is someone out there that wants to give to you. Try it little by little. \n\nWorse case scenario: What is the worst thing that someone could say to you? If you aren't sure or if the answer sounds ridiculous as you write it down...consider a social anxiety disorder. No matter how strong you are, being anxious can paralyze your efforts. Address the real problem and you will find your answers one by one.\n\nGood luck friend. I take care of my friends.
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since i went through kind of the same thing i think you should talk about it with out any hesitations.get it off your chest and see if it gets better.
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I'm sorry you have to go through this. Thats a hard desition. I would probably pray. Thats all I can tell you
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If you can talk to this guy, then say that it made you feel uncomfortable and not to do that again.\n\nIf it's a stranger and you were in a place where nobody knew you, then just shrug it off.  I was unexpectedly hugged by a mentally challenged person, and although I was shaken by the spontaneity of it, I also realized that it was just something random and nobody will remember what I look like or anything like that, so I just went on with life.
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Hi,\n\nJust to let you know a lot of people feel the same way, but try and relax and take a few deep breaths and tell yourself that you can do it.\nI was shy when i was a child but working in a hospital has made me more out going.\nA great book to read is Feel the fear and do it any way:- By Susan Jeffers. \nYou can get it in any good book shop or library.\nT.
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a person with low self esteem, well since i used to have REALLY low self esteem.. heres how I acted..\n\nNever talk... Head down all the time... Never fights back to ANYTHING... just takes everything... basically it
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I had been shy but I am not shy now yet, I am quiet like you so being shy is different from being quiet. I think when you have not something to talk and do not talk you are not shy and you can call yourself absolutely normal. but it sometimes occurs to me(us) that I want to start conversation with a stranger (or even a familiar person) but I can not. I think these times I am afraid not to have a good impact on him/her and be rejected. this fear is because of low self esteem  which roots in painful experiences in the past(you may remember when expressed yourself, they laughed at you).\nNow, I hope these tips be helpful for you:\n1-in such situations where you want to start a conservation, remind yourself that the pain of rejection is far less than the pain of regret. \n2-try to be a starter. do not wait for others to make conservation. I think, being a starter requires social skills which you may have not enough of it. but, the only way to acquire skills is experience .you would fail in some of these experiences and it hurt you but remember; "NO PAIN, NO GAIN".\n3-Read some books about "First Impressions". they help you to rise your self esteem.\n4-do not label yourself as shy. when you repeatedly say "I am shy" accordingly you will act like a shy person.\n5-Look at talkative persons. they usually do not care about what they say and what the effect is.I think it is better not to be too much worried about our expressions.