In the last couple of years, I've known a guy who was one year older than me in college. He was so cute and handsome, I liked his style a lot and I thought it could be gr8 to know him better so I started to ask him abt some papers and notes of his past years in order to study them..so he gave them to me and I noticed that he wrote his email address on the paper so I added him and we started chatting on line and we became close friends but the story didn't end this happy ending coz some people just don like to see other people happy, my friends("no longer my friends) liked him too and they started to get to know him too, and some of them actually mode moves on him they didn't respect our friendship ..so I thought why not warn him, I mean we were close friends at that time, so he replied that I shouldn't worry abt that...but since then he became weird with me....anyways he got religious and stopped talking to girls and I lost contact with him..was I wrong when I told him abt these girls
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NO seems like your friends have poisoned his mind against you girls/boys have a tendency to do that mostly when they befriend someone else friends or boyfriend or husband or anything other then parents or siblings they try to poison or try to win over that person by putting down the friend or close person whose already there before them through him they befriended or got to know that person.It seems they have got their way so please try to forget him and move on.Its happened to me and i would make such efforts to put things into place but then i realised something very important.Would you want someone as your friend or closer who would listen to other people and change his or her mind about you?That cant be a true friend,close friend,lover,husband or anything else.ITS NOT YOUR LOSS ITS HIS LOSS HE LET SUCH A GREAT FRIEND LIKE YOU GO LISTENING TO OTHERS TALK.Take care and email me if you want to talk.
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i say yes, meet the guy someday, but as for whether he has "feelings" for you or not... i am not a mind reader. can't help you there... but i think i can say that he thinks you're a good friend...
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Sounds like he's a little immature. My advice, don't worry about it and make friends with someone else. He isn't the last boy you'll ever like, and if he's that young, chances are you're young too, and you will meed plenty of other boys in your day, Lord willing. And don't give your friend any more of his messages ;)
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I know how you feel.  I am going through that right now.  I just graduated college and I never got a chance to tell the guy I liked for 2 years that I liked him.  Our relationship is confusing.  Sometimes it seemed like he liked me other times it seemed like he hated me.  That's why I didn't pursue the relationship.  Like my friend tells me, "If we are meant to be together, we will be together.  God will see to it."
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This sounds like a case of too slow too bad to me.  You never mentioned your feelings to your friend and he made his move before you.  Let it be until hes out of the picture.
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Well I hope you don't let him fool you a third time.  My first love did this to me. Guys can be very tricky. He befriended me for a year before I decided to have sex with him. He was my best Friend.  After we had sex he dumped me.  Guys like the game especially as teenagers, so becareful.  I grieved the relationship for quite some time.  I got together with my girlfriends who let me cry. I concentrated on my work and having fun.  With time my heart healed and so will yours. Just be patient with yourself and don't keep in touch  with him. He is not a real friend.
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Hard to be friends with someone who will not share their interiors. It is in being open and disclosing with others that the bonds of trust and friendship strengthen. Not replying to emails, saying that you sent too many (especially if they were personal ones) sounds pretty small-minded and needy to me.\n\nI think that friendship and communication are possible only between equals. It sounds to me like he was treating you not like an equal but like something like a dependent, a child. In that case, and remember we do  not know your relationship with this guy that well, I would say to keep your distance.\n\nGuys are funny (not laughable, but strange) in the United States. They grow up very late, if they grow up at all. They are sort of like dogs: wolves that do not mature. BTW, did you know that? Wolves have almost the same genes, dogs are the permanent juvenile form, though. Anyway, guys remain little boys: needy, whiney, and very self-centered. Your former friend seems like that is his case.\n\nLive well and show him that he made a great mistake in ignoring you. You are well-worth paying attention to. \n\nThat is my considered opinion.
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I have been in this situation.  How long have you been talking?  I've learned that you can't go off of looks these days.  The best advice that I can give is to lay off of any feelings that you think you might have and offer that friendship to him long enough until you figure the "real" him out.  But, while you're doing that, make sure you make it clear that you're not "really" looking for anything right now, but that there's always the future.  Some times men put on a front in the beginning (if this is a new situation) and he may be trying to hide his true feelings by being rude...just give it some time.
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yes, I have and honestly unless if he shows some interest of being more than just your friends. If he dont leave it alone, you always fall in love more then once and men come a dime a dozen,,you will get over it.. I am sure that if he does not feel the same and he tells you , you are going to get hurt and ur friendship will never be the same and if you and him do something that may lead you to think that he loves and really he dont then you may mess up ur friendship, and im sure that you rather have him as a friend then not have him at all..just move on and find someone else. Trust me it really isnt that hard, though i am sure that you think it is. but i have been there b4 and i thought that i would never love again,,and boy was i oh so wrong.
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IT IS ABSOLUTELY NOT WRONG!!! 1 year is NOTHING. It is much more about how you 2 connect with eachother than how close you are in years.  I once had a thing with a guy 2.5 yrs younger than me, and we are still great friends, cuz he was an absolutely AMAZING person, and was super cute, and quite frankly was more mature than most guys my age. Guys the same age as me were always pressuring me to do things I didn't want to, but since I was older than him, this boy was SO respectful of me and my decisions and feelings. And what a sweetheart... as you can see, I could talk for hours.  Obviously dating a guy like 5 years younger than you is kinda weird, but just a few years is NO reason to hide feelings for a guy. If he treats you well, who cares how old he is? And if you're worried about being made fun of, then DON'T! YOU like him, and it's YOUR business. End of story. Best of luck with him! <3
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just ask him...believe me...i've had many guy friends and they all agree on one thing the girls they like the most are the ones that are upfront and honest with their feelings... and that's always the method i chose. And never lost any friendships over it...although i have to say, it may not have been the response i wanted...we still remained good friends, if not better. (and just to keep things clear, when i say friend, i don't mean with benefits...just good cry on the shoulder, tell all your secrets to type)
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THEY R NOT REAL FRIENDS AT ALL.... I MEAN C0MMON THEY COULDN'T EVEN TELL U ABOUT IT?? LIKE THATZ MESSED UP MAN/ I THINK TO EXPRESS THE WAY YOU FEEL JUST EMAIL THEM OR TEXT TELLING THEM HOW U FELT AND THAT U THINK THAT THEY SHUD JUST KEEP TO THEMSELVES AND U DONT WANNA HAVE TO DO ANYTHING WITH THEM.. AND REMEMBER 2 STILL B RESPECTFUL. BCUZ U KN0 I KNOW U MAY N0T WANT 2 LET G0 BUT THATZ SERI0US SO I HOPE I HELPED U OUT.
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Hi, this is Cat...After 1 1/2 years did you not know how he felt about you? If he's clammed up, obviously he wasn't ready to hear how you felt about him. Usually a guy will be responsive how he feels way before a year has passed, he might not say so, however his actions will speak louder than words. I suggest you give him space real fast, leave him alone for a couple of weeks to a month to think and to chill out. He's probably afraid of commitment or he does not feel the same about you. Do not approach him again regarding this issue, he may bolt like a wild horse and never come back. Instead just be a friend to him for now, if it's not too late. Lesson well learnt, you know what to do next time.
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Being friends w/ someone you really cared about is very hard for guys , I dunno about females. Im talking loved, im not talking a one night stand fling... If these guys are people that were really special at one time , you just have to understand where they are coming from and they need to respect you as well w/ your choices.. Now if they were flings.. lol then you have a real problem
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It was really hard for me too. Once, I started to tell him, and i found he already knew but he didn't like me like that. He said we should be friends until he could sort out his feelings. That was two years ago. His name was domingo. I think he forgot to think it over but we are good friends now and he likes me and my best friend more than any of the other girls. He says they are annoying, and we talk about mature stuff he is interested in. He still hangs out with boys more than us, but hey, what can you expect from a 12 year old? My friend has no romantic interest in him, so in a few years, when we are both 16, i think i might ask him out. Oh yeah, your problem..... well, you get my point right? even if you can't work up the nerve now, it will be easier later. in your case, however, sooner might be bettter than later. i'm sorry if i am confusing you, love is very confusing.
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At a bar. We would go to the same club regularly and he was friends with a friend of a friend. We would hang out the bar almsot every weekend for about 6 months. It wasn't planned though. We just liked the same scene. He was dating other girls at the time, but had his eye on me and I was interested in something strictly casual, but never tried with him because he was cool and I thought we'd be 'just friends'. \n\nWell, one night he called me because he broke up with his girlfriend and wanted to come over and eat mushrooms. I had nothing else to do and thought he was cool, so I let him come over and we had a good time. Nothing happened that night, but about a week later I got extrodinarly wasted and we hooked up. It started out as a casual thing scratch that as a very casual thing and I had little intentions of it being serious, but we ended up falling in love and I settled down a little bit. \n\nThis was after he moved in because his 'rents kicked him out of their place and he was staying in his car. We were already sleeping together, so I said he could stay at my place for a few days and that few days turned to months and that casual time with a guy who was actually worthy of my friendship unlike my other casual boys turned into a serious relationship. We've been together for almost two years and plan on getting married in 2008. \n\nWhat makes us stay together? Well, our geniune love for eachother and partially our own narcissisms. We love ourselves and I'm his female counterpart and he's the male version of myself. Our similar interests and goals and problem solving techniques help as well as compatible senses of humour.\n\nThe story I tell my parents and family? We met through friends of friends at church.
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would you believ the same thing has just happend to me. bout 4 months ago i ran into this guy i went to school with and we started chatting and i got his number. later in the week i got a msg from him and we were talking about school and how we were friends and how i used to really like him. he then replied that he liked me and wish he had relised what he had missed out on in school and he should have hooked up with me.\nwe continued to msg each other and after a week he said that he still had feelings for me. the only problem with the whole situation is i met another guy and now im engaged, i got so confused on what to do but he still says now that he really likes me and i should leave the other guy. of course im not.\nAnyway the point to all this is yes there is a chance for you both as long as neither of you are in a relationship. a way to find out is by saying that you used to like him and find out where you stand with him. invite him out for dinner or a movie or something and try and spend time with him. you will soon know if he likes you or not.\nGood luck and hope this helps