its this guy i have known for 4 years or whatever and him and i have try getting together but it didnt work we even got into a big conflict between him,my friend and i (he try to get with her well actually two of my friends! anyways lately i have been thinking,day dreaming about him everything but its not a ever today thing its maybe like 3-4 times a week!i have been thinking about calling him but i dont want to! whats your advice???? please help!
130039
if he tried your friends, he will try your friends again, move on. get your mind on someone else, go to the mall, check for guys. flirt, flirt, flirt.
74869
If he is truly your friend he is probably wondering if he should call. So why not give it a try. the only thing that could happen is he will hang up. But at least you will know how he feels and he will know you care if he ever needs you.
78515
Just tell him how you feel.  If things work out, great!  If they do not then stop talking to him every day.  You are clearly not over him and having contact every day is not helping you get over him.
322656
i know its very difficult bcoz i'm going thru a similar situation... but believe me, if u dont let go then its only u who'll suffer.. at this point of time my life is just like hell... but i knw one thing only u can do this, no other person can help u... so the best thing would b to stop thinking bout him n put yr mind in other things... make yrself so busy that u dont get the time to think bout him... n stop doing things that would remind u of him... if u dont make yrself strong, u'll not b able to get on with with yr life... so u gotta accept the situation n move on...
110731
You are not alone! If any one has gamble in love, then, at one time or another they too, were in this situation.  A few weeks ago I seen a segment on TV about a woman who actually makes her living helping others that have broke up from their mates. This is how devastating a breakup can be.  The first thing she did was make sure the person did not become a couch or bed potato.  She said you have to get back into the world as soon as possible.  I realize that you are more concerned about the daily thing, and seeing him all the time.  Just, get up every morning, always fix yourself up and dress 'hot'.  Lean on your friends when you have to see him or be in the same class with him. Everyone has that one friend that makes you laugh alot, you need her now more than ever. Continue your life as close to normal as possible. Scope out someone else that you might be interested in dating and start conversations with him. You may not be ready, but get ready. Your X will see that your life has not stopped because he walked out. And by moving forward and keeping a good appearance and attitude, he will definitely take notice. I don't if you want him back or not, but moving on to another relation ship always makes the other one feel rejected and if someone else wants you, so does Mr X. You got the power..now, GO GIRL!!!
539595
Hello, Well you could try to be his friend, but you couldn't have a normal friendship because there would allways be that feeling of rejection that he had toward you. And the fact that he's acted like an *** in the past probably means that that the future with him wouldn't be too solid. Really the best thing to do is find another guy to start new with - because I think what you really want is more than a friend relationship and that's a love relationship...right?  You can speak to him and have a casual frienship but look somewhere else for a guy who can make you feel special...Love is what you really want...and I hope you find it...good luck ...ok? ....bye bye
544331
I understand!  But life is like that.  It is never fair.  It will take time to try to forget (maybe a few weeks to a couple of months) but you will have to start healing.... make new friends, find new hobbies, study and work with passion!  You will never really forget .... but it will be less painful .... don't run after him okay? ... it will make you look pathetic and needy.  Take good care of yourself!
582030
Sadly, stopping to think about him is one of the hardest things to do. There´s no way to just stop. And you´re doing it cause he´s obviously a really important person in your life and you really care about him.\nSuggestions:\n1- Go for it! ask him out.. get a friend to set you guys up... or at least hang out with him more so he can see the great person you are\n2- Find someone else that wants to be with you... unless you´re in Love with this guy you´ll forget about him\n3- Wait... a long time... i don´t suggest this that much because you´ll go pretty insane. Either you´ll end up liking him less or just getting use to the pain and the obsession. But i really suggest either trying to be with him or going for someone else
304133
i feel ya, girl! yeh, it seems somewhat pathetic to some people that i had this HUGE crush on someone i barley knew but for some reason i can't forget him or anything he said to me the few occasions we talked. I haven't seen him or talked to him in the past 2 years but i'm still completly in love with him!\n      gee.......i didn't really answer your question, well maybe you'll fall in love with someone else and forget all about him. Anywho, good luck with everything!
254339
Why not?\n\nIf you have spent a lot of time getting to know a person and it doesn't work out romantically, it's great if you can still have a close friend.\n\nCalling 5 or 6 times a day, and wanting him to come over for protections sounds a little obsessive and unbalanced tho, and it sounds like she might want this man back.\n\nTalk to your man about how you feel and see if you two can work something out.
67526
enjoy your daydreams, they never disappoint you. Chances are slim that you two could work this relationship, unless he lives closer than you think.
239876
Just step back and see this picture as it is. He is not the one for you. Move on. If you want to remain friends and have your feelings all mixed up for his benifit go ahead, because he is more important than you right? I did not think so, so just put this dude in your history book and be thankful he was honest enough to let you know who he really is before you fell more into him.
275790
You don't say how long you know this guy, nor do you say how long has it been since you've heard from him.\n\nWhen one calls regularly, and that stops, we tend to think the worst.  There could be a reason why he hasn't called, but there is no law to say that you cannot try calling him.\n\nSee what sort of reception you get - is he warm and friendly, or is he cold and distant?  That in itself will tell you where the relationship could be headed.\n\nBetter to know now, so you can mourn - if you need to mourn - the relationship, then move on to find someone who will truly call you back.\n\nGood Luck!
220965
what is his personality like? is he a player? your friends seem to think so. there's the possibility he will do that, even though you've been friends for five years. \n\nbut, he can only take advantage of you if you allow him to! just refuse to go that far with him. you have the power to control that. find the strength and be strong. get to know each other all over again intellectually from a "relationship" point of view.\n\ni have found that friends' opinions are usually right. they have a more objective view about the situation than the two people involved. plus, your friends are only trying to look out for you because they love you, and don't want to see you get hurt. however, in the end it is your decision.
643094
Wow, I am in a situation similar to yours as well.  My next-door neighbor and I grew up together, and I found out that he had a crush on me since we first met each other, which was about 7 years ago.  I was in a long-term relationship with my ex, but me and the neighbor remained friends throughout the whole time.  We didn't start getting closer until the summer of last year, when we started hanging out more and more, and I finally saw a different side to him, a kind, considerate, more gentler side.  We became fast friends and I started developing feelings for him.  We eventually talked about it and we aren't together now (mainly because he's in the military and is about to go to Iraq---he didn't want a relationship while he was over there), we have been talking and thinking about the future, because the feelings are definitely mutual there.  To make this long story short, you should tell your neighbor how you feel about him.  Who knows, he could have the same exact feelings.  Take things slow and gradual, and something could eventually escalate from that.  I'm very happy right now, even just as best friends, and even though it's hard for us to really hide our feelings for each other, I definitely know those feelings are still there.  Wish you nothing but the best!!!
154425
What is the rush? It sounds like you don't really know this guy and that is a risk. Don't you want to know who you are considering spending the rest of your life with. I would urge you to slow down and try and be more objective. Learn as much as you can about him. It sounds like you are caught up in a fantasy about romance. Fantasies and dreams are nice, but what we wind up with is the real world. Put you fantasies aside and look at what is in front of you.
677286
You have only talked to this guy once. More importantly, he has only talked to you once. There is no way you have feelings for this guy. There is also no way he has any for you. It sounds like an act of desparation to me. If you must continue to talk to this guy, take it VERRRRRRRRRY Slowly, and for god's sake, be careful!!