my bestfriend been always acquainted with me for the whole days so its not impossible for him to have fallen inlove with me, but the fact is, i have my suitors around and he knows everything... i know deep insyd him, it hurts... what shud i do then...\n\ni need your elp guys just to have the strength to face whatever challenges i have then around....
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Who the heck uses the word suitors? If you really don't want to hurt him you should be with him that's the only thing that will work. But if you don't want to be with him just go with someone else and he'll get the picture. If he's really your friend he'll want you to be happy, even if it means his own misery.
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sorry 2 hear tht... yeah i saw ur other questions about ths guy b4. actually i also experienced ths kinda situation b4. at first, i was really good friend with ths grl & passed 2 funfull yrs until i found out tht i love her. and i had hint tht she loved me too. but other things came up i couldn't give her a chance 2 express herself. but whn i expressed myself, she rejected saying tht she never felt like ths towards me, which's a lie. also all on a sudden she hooked up with some1 else to take myself off her mind & replace me with him. the most shocking part is, being heartbroken i still tried to be her friend but slowly she made a distance between us & destroyed our beautiful friendship.\n\nmy point is, affection towards a friend happens all the time. but there r some issues involved regarding friendship, other ppl around u etc. as a friend, u were suppose 2 knw tht he already has a gf. but u didn't, which is not usual. so mayb he doesn't hav any gf & story of having a gf is the most reasonable way to dump u with hurting u less. and don't bother if he doesn't like u or not. if he didn't like u, u wouldn't be yur friend. but it can be true tht he's not feeling attracted 2 u as he told u. tht doesn't mean tht u r not attractive or he doesn't like u. there can be a lot of different reasons involved regarding friendship or something else.\n\nfrom my opinion, look into yur heart. if u think tht u really want him & u knw tht he has actually feelings for u thn stick 2gether & mayb someday things'll work out. but the downside is u donno if thts gonna happen. so there's a chance to get heartbroken again frm the same person for the same reason. on the other hand, continue being friend & move on, find another guy who understands u & doesn't hurt u like ths. but whtever happens, yur friendship wth ths guy will not gonna be same frm now on.\n\nhope ths works. feeling sorry 4 u!
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yes, I have and honestly unless if he shows some interest of being more than just your friends. If he dont leave it alone, you always fall in love more then once and men come a dime a dozen,,you will get over it.. I am sure that if he does not feel the same and he tells you , you are going to get hurt and ur friendship will never be the same and if you and him do something that may lead you to think that he loves and really he dont then you may mess up ur friendship, and im sure that you rather have him as a friend then not have him at all..just move on and find someone else. Trust me it really isnt that hard, though i am sure that you think it is. but i have been there b4 and i thought that i would never love again,,and boy was i oh so wrong.
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He could have been confused and tried denying how he really felt... especially since you both are so close it would almost be natural for him since there's already a connection between the two of you.\n\nI doubt he was leading you on and if he wasn't letting anyone know that he was gay there would almost be no way of you knowing.  He probably feels worse than you do right now and he might even be thinking be that he did lead you on in some way.  \n\nThe only thing I can say is that the longer you wait to talk to him again the more ackward things are going to be.  The sooner you get things out in the open and talk about it, the quicker everything will go back to normal.\n\nI'm bi and I actually had a similar expirience with a friend of mine who was gay.  We use to work together and he was always touchy feely; I assumed maybe he was bi like me... needless to say I was wrong.  (Even though I now know he is as gay as gay can be, he's got this thing with boobs lol, which I guess all guys do.)  \n\nI felt stupid for a long time but I didn't want my misunderstanding to affect things between us.  We talked about it and I realized that it wasn't an option to be his lover but "friends" aren't bad either.  I knew that keeping him as a friend meant I wouldn't lose him and losing him was the last thing that I wanted to happen.\n\nEverything is fine now and we're still really good friends.  Don't think that you're the first girl to fall for a gay guy because that's not true at all.  You get a man with the caring part of a woman... all straight ladies want that!!!  Just talk to him and let him know that no matter what you're going to continue to be there for him just as he will be there for you.
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Hello again Fantasy Foo, I've been were your at, and it's not a good feeling. One good thing about life is....Time heals everything. I was once told: If you love something let it go, if it comes back it's yours...if it don't it never was. If you have the fellas number or you know how to get in contact with him...let him know how you feel, but don't hate on his girl...thats tacky.
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i was in love with my bestest friend in the whole world.  in fact, i think i'll always love him to a certain degree.  i took a chance and told him how i felt, because hiding my true feelings felt like i was constantly living a lie.  unfortunately, like your friend, he didn't want to risk losing me since he knew he couldn't give me the kind of commitment i needed.  \n\nit's been over 3 years since my revelation (we've been best friends for over 5), and i've learned to move on.  in the years that followed, i slowly was able to tell him exactly how i felt and why, and also get the answers to questions he left unanswered for so long.  i know he loves me, that we'll always be constants in each other lives, and will most likely grow old together... but maybe just not as husband and wife.  and you know, what?  it's actually all right!\n\nlooking back, i don't think i would've done anything differently... even if we didn't end up together.  i told him what i needed to tell him, and never imposed a relationship on him.  suffering in silence, how i did before i revealed myself, and how i did even after that, was much much too painful... especially because he shared the most intimate details of his life with me.\n\njust do what you think you have to do.  if he doesn't reciprocate your feelings, then maybe he's not good enough for you.  i've always thought that my guy never really appreciated what was right in front of him, and maybe he's really not worth giving my heart to in the first place.  the right one will come along eventually.  hopefully, your friend is really the right one for you!\n\nif he's the right one, then he'll take the leap with you, and if he's not, at least you gave it your best shot.
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Hey, if the worst that happens is that you remain friends than so be it.  True friends are hard to come by.  Don't throw that away.  UNLESS-HE is still pining over you and wants more than just the friendship, than I would say, so long-you don't want to lead him on either.
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if you guys are best friends then there might be a chance that he might be thinkin the same way as you. build the courage and just tell him your feelins. if he's really your best friend then he wont hate you, or avoid you.
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If your best friend says about you smth. like that----HE (or SHE)IS Not your friend.Real friend will stick up for you.I know that it sounds awfull,but that`s life and you can`t change it.Still there are some good people,it just that it`s difficult to find them.\nWish you luck!!!:)))
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Its common to have those feelings cause you think you can trust the person with all your inner details and secrets... The way you would want a serious relationshiop to be. And you have to remember,t he person you want to spend the rest of your life with has to be your friend first. You should think of them as your best friend. And love simply follows naturally. Thats the recipe for a great relationship anyhow.
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Hey babe, your situation bites to say the least.. I've been there once or twice before and I've been on the opposite side as well. The way I handled the "rejection" was to take a step back and look at how my feelings were affecting our friendship. Once I did that I realised that we were not suited as lovers and that a close friendship was all that the both of us were capable of. \n\nIt takes a lot of time and patience to get to that stage though, so stay strong, when you're spending time together, enjoy it for what it is, stop looking at her actions as if there is a hidden meaning.. trust me - the only hidden meaning is your imagination! \n\nFrom the other side of the great love/lust struggle, when my best friend fell for me she declared her love and I let her down quite gently. For the first few days everything was great but by the end of the week we were constantly fighting and I felt that I couldn't breathe because she was smothering me with her attention. \nWe took a break for about a month and when we started really hanging out together again, she had cooled off and realised that she would rather have me in her life as a friend rather than chasing me out of her life by her desire.\n\nWhat you need to do is sit down and think about what this girl means to you and whether you can stand being around her until your feelings die down a little. \nIf the answer is yes, then maybe you need to limit the time you spend around eachother for a while and then you can go back to how things were before.\nIf the answer is no, then you need to take a look at your own life and try and come to the realisation that it may never happen and if your friend doesn't want to take you up on your offer, then you need to focus on yourself and spoil yourself until a truly deserving candidate comes into the scene :)\n\nGood luck, don't shed too many tears over her, try and broaden your circle of friends and soon enough you will rarely be thinking of her!
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Hi. I am Renee. I have some advice for you. Ask your friend or your best friend to ask this special guy's best friend or friend if he likes you. If your friend "reports" that his friend doesn't know, then ask him yourself. I had that happen to me once. I asked him . And guess what? He became my boyfriend 2 days later. Hope you follow my advice!!
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It doesn't sound like there is much of friendship there.  He probably feels guilty that you wacked out the way you did.  Have you tried giving it time to get over him?  I'm sorry that you had to go to such lengths to get his attention.  I feel sorry for him and for you.  I hope you have learned that no man is worth your life and I hope you realize how lucky you are to be alive today.  Give it time and get into group or one on one therapy or both.  You may feel his is your soul mate but; don't you think that if he was your soul mate, things would not have gone the way did.  If you were truly meant to be, you would be but; your not.  What does that tell you?
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It is totally possible to have a best friend of the opposite sex with out falling in love with them.  Especially if both people involved are thinking with their heads and not what is down below.  I have had a few very good guy friends that I was never in love with.  I care alot about them because they are good friends, they are like brothers to me, so I guess you would say I love them in a family way but I'm not in love with them.  It's totally possible!
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I'm kind of in the same situation...only I am in love with my best friend so that could be the cause, huh?  Anyway, if your love for him is only as a friend, you're probably thinking of him as a brother, and close siblings are generally protective of each other.  It's okay to be protective, just don't let it get in the way of your friendship.
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Well if she is your best friend (I'm assuming that is what b.f stands for), and she did that to you, knowing how you felt about him, then she obviously doesn't regard friendship like you do! The joke is on you unfortunately! I would suggests you redefine the quality of what a true friend is and is not! Of course your slowness to be to the point with this guy didn't help. Your friend did what you were hesitant to do and succeeded. You partially have yourself to blame. If this guy is a flirt, it is probably just as well she got him. Flirtation tends to lead to jealously and mistrust. You will see it unfold in front of your eyes, then you can thank your lucky stars that she got stuck with him!
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Why are you thinking so hard on this?  To you, and in your heart taz was your friend, that is all that matters.  He may or may not have been, what does it matter now except in your heart.  You said you trusted him, so trust or don't, don't beat yourself up over something that can only bring pain.