My friend Leah and I both are in middle school.  There is a guy who likes Leah a LOT, but she doesn't like him.  He's a pervert and a jerk.  He asked Leah to sleep over (ew!).  One day, one of this guy's friends walk up to Leah and says "Matt wants to have sex with you.  He doesn't care if it's in a bed or on the floor, but he likes the floor.  He likes it hard."  WE ARE IN MIDDLE SCHOOL!  Leah wants this guy to leave her alone, especially because this is the kind of thing he talks about to his friends.  How can I help my friend get out of this situation?
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um..well, i think leah should go up to him and say "look (insert pervert's name here) i dont have any intrest in you, and i think we are waaaaaaaaaay to young for this, ok? so if u really like me, please back off. "\ni hope that helped
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Sounds like they both have mental problems.  Stay away from both of them before you are asked to share the bed they both probably share.
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just explain it to him. just because he got really upset doesn't mean he's not a good friend. think about it in his shoes. he's probably feeling somewhat hurt and jealous right now. you can't believe a guy for having those feelings when the one they like kissed someone else. i suggest telling him that even though you dont' like him in that way, he's a really special friend.
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i think its pretty cool when girls have there friends do this sort of stuff  for them. i know i don't mid it. i think the best thing to do would not to just say that your friend likes him. juts kinda be like so what do you think of this person. he will probably be like why do You ask. just be like idk just asking. he already knows by now that your friend like him so he will either ignore what your telling him because he doesn't like her or he will go talk to your Friend and stuff.          \n\nthat's how its happen to me before and if the whole thing turns out like i just wrote it down your friend is in good shape
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What see did was not cool... Lesbian, gay, guy or girl.  Let's say it was a guy and he was a friend... do you thing that it would be nice of him to pull it out and ask you to join him?  There's a sensitivty to these things and a way to approach them.  Be honest about the way it made you feel and ask her to stop. You don't need to worry about what to do because you've done nothing wrong. Just bew authentic to yourself and to her.
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Your friend may or may not be homosexual/bisexual, he could just be curious. To advance on you in your sleep is a bit odd, I must admit. \n\nIf you were not comfortable with the situation, tell him immediately, even going so far to say you do not want to spend the night with him again. Do not attack him for being gay or curious - he made a mistake.\n\nAnother aspect that probably will not be covered, is that this was a private moment for him and your having this against him makes him very vulnerable. Don't blow the friendship completely out of the water by telling anyone who walks by what happened. Just talk to him about it and move on.\n\n~Miss Cris\nhttp://lendinganear.wordpress.com
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If he has said bout you sleeping with other guys, embarrass him infront of a group of his friends, like, "so what if I did, I only did it b/c your d*cK was too small" or "yeah, only b/c you couldn't perform" or "if you would have lasted more then 10 seconds I wouldn't have had to" if you do something like that, it would definitely make him stop.  People already think you have done things, so dont worry about that, at least it will stop him from spreading more things.  Good luck!
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Hi, this is a very complex situation, and you have explained it very well.  Your friend who is 15 and gay, has a non-sexual relationship with a 21-year-old gay man.  Your concern is for your friend because he has a "crush" on this man, but the man is "not interested' (sexually?) in your friend.  So to begin with all the "against the law" answers are wrong. Unless a physical relation is part of the equation even our puritanically demented society has not passed a law forbidding friendship between people of different ages.  If it did organizations like Big Brothers and Sisters would have to stop their excellent work.  Through out our lives, it helps to have a "mentor."  Someone who is a bit more experienced than ourselves who can help us through some of the "passages" of life.  This cannot always be a parent, no matter how much we may love our parents, because a parent has different concerns (our safety) and often sees us a "child." To have a slightly older friend, who has gone through some life experience and can share and encourage is important.  Having said this, your concern is is for your friend, in terms of his feelings (crush) and the 21-year-old for his "life" and reputation.  I think your concern shows you to be a caring individual and true and good friend.  Hopefully we are always ready to listen to the people like you in our lives.  Have you calmly expressed your concerns to your friend in a way as clear as your question here?  If you have, and he still wishes to pursue this relationship then there is not much you can do.  I think the best "advice" you could give to your friend is to point out the Issues involved: 1) The 21-year-old is (according to you) uninterested, uninitiated (a virgin) and would suffer the "legal" consequences of any physical relationship - so is your friend ready to "accept' these "boundaries" to the relationship? 2) Can your friend pursue a friendship without a physical relationship (his crush?) Can he control his own feelings?\nOnce you have helped your friend clarify the situation and his responsibilities, then you can only support him in whatever decision he arrives at.  \nI would only add that a non-sexual "mentoring" relationship, while important for everyone, is especially important for gay and lesbian youth.  Most people have "models" of what they want and need to become in their parents, teachers, social heros, etc. But gay people grown-up largely without any models, without anyone who can say, "I did this, you can too."  So even though your friend sounds like a confident young gay man, with a loving family and wonderful supportive friends such as yourself, he may still need an "older" model that he can talk to about things and try to follow - always given the non-sexual, non-exploitive nature of the relationship.  Good luck.
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Well, I'm guessing that girl is you.. and I think that girl should stand up to that guy and tell him what kinda jerk he is, but first come up with a good case for it, you know, find some examples of when he was doing that, so that you have reasonable case when you bring it up.
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"Im not againts [sic] hitting people that are gay..." \n\nYeah, we get that.\n\n"But I gave him two warnings to stop, and its not like I could go anywhere since I was stuck in the car. Was I wrong to deck him for not stopping?" \n\nWould you have hit this person if it were a woman? Or would you have found a less violent way of affirming your personal space? Somewhere, you got the idea that it's acceptable to resolve your disagreements through physical violence. Big man you are.\n\n"Do you think that he was trying to hit on me?" \n\nI don't know. Maybe he just has extremely poor boundaries. People who can't keep their hands to themselves are obnoxious.\n\n"What would you have done in that situation?"\n\nI would have removed his hand and I would have given him a piece of my mind from the start. I also would have stopped making out with the girl because, not only did watching you feel her up seem to encourage him to feel you up, it's also rather gauche to make out in mixed company.
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This guy just told you that he wants to use a bunch of girls who will fool around with him just because he's on the wrestling team. He is only looking for notches on his bedpost. Get out of his way before you become one. If he only wants to be around girls he disrespects and uses, you don't want him near you. Get over him and  find a nice guy.
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K needs to make B jealous by making out with her bo in front of her.  B sounds like she is jealous of K.  and i agree B should be given lice.  she needs the head scratching to keep her busy.
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You know the girl? is she your friend or no? Either way it may have been in bad taste but be warned if he left that girl as quick as he did for you-he would more likely drop you as quick as a bad habit for someone he may think is hotter than you. I think that's the best reason it's not a good thing.
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oh that sucks! Thats a toughie! well obv the other guy is physco..and dint you ever give him a chance..ever..6 yrs is a long time..and i think in the END he will forget about it..but for now hes prolly gonna punish you..yeah its not fair...but what would you do..im sure he is checking his messages every minute..6 yrs means love..Yeah your gonna be sad..Umm where did this take place? school? id take that as sexual harrasment...yeah you better make it that way..well goodluck with your love..and if he doesnt llove you again..he is just lookin for a way out..and any guy would be lucky to have you espesially after being this honest and asking for help..goodluck!
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cute accent even in the writing.....well find a nicer looking girl that isnt sleeping with everyone.....you'll forget the other girl because if she is just going around in the circle do you really want your friends making fun of you....or you could just use her and sleep with her thats what american boys do alot of girls go around in the same group of friends....its quite funny thats why thank god i am out of that game...(i shouldn't say alot but alot of the ones that i know) It will eliminate the curiousity
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ok, first of all, just because you are gay, and he is gay..doesn't mean you get to have sex together!!!  i'm straight and my room mate is straight...and it means nothing..wtf!!!  if you had a mole on your ass, and i had a mole on my ass, do you think i'd want you to tell me about it?
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I've been in this situation.  (Actually I had two friends like this one guy, and used me to get to him since I knew him well.  He wasn't interested in either of them.)  Just be honest with your friend.  Don't give her/him false hope.