Okay then, I'm a year older than my sister and I really filled by rage at that moment!\nActually, I don't want to do anything stupid... but what would you do if you're in that kind of situation?\n\nAnyway, thank's for any of your reply...
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You know, I just love the way big brothers love their little sisters! Your sis must be upset, so give her a hug, make her a nice hot cup of tea (well, it needn't necessarily be tea- anything comforting will do!), tell her her boyfriend's a jerk, and try and cheer her up. I wouldn't suggest beating him up, because I don't think it's do anyone much good, to be honest! Just be there for your sister and give her a bit of advice. If she breaks up with him, then stick with her and help her meet some nice guys, when she's ready. If however, this guy who made her cry, harasses her in any way if she breaks up with him, then have a man-to-man talk with him and tell him to get lost. Don't worry; she'll be fine! All the best to you both!
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I'm guessing that you're a young 20something male, so you're not exactly mature, compassionate, or considerate.  I'll bet you wouldn't like it if your sister took your stuff without asking, posted it online and sold it, and you got confirmations in your email that your dirty drawers (complete with skid-marks) got sold to some panty-sniffing perverted male.  Huh, how does it feel when the shoe is on the other foot?  Not so good, huh?\n\nI think you need to grow up and become a real man, and have some consideration for your sister, and for other people as well. Yes this is only a prank, but it's not funny if it's at the expense of someone else.  In fact, it sounds like you mean to humiliate her and make her angry, and that's a sign of stupidity and immaturity.\n\nI feel sorry for your sister, that she has a brother like you.  I remember that when I was a very small kid, my brother, when he was 20something, tried to bait me and make me angry like that.  One day, I hauled off at eight or nine years old and hit him HARD in the balls, and he never bothered me again.  That's what insensitivity and stupidity get you: a good, hard kick in the balls, because you're not thinking about what other people feel; you're just looking to get a reaction.\n\nTime to grow up and be a real man and put away childish crap like this.  A real man who cares about other people would never do something childish like this.\n\nGood luck with your life.  Hope you grow up and become a real, compassionate, considerate man who has feelings for other people.\n\nCheers, K
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If you were 8 and he was 2 when you got along and he's 9 now,  that would make you 15?  You're a teenager he's a child.  Case closed.  I am 28 with a 15 year old sister who seems like a martian to me now.  When she was younger we were very close.  Now she is a different person,  as she is trying to "find herself".  YOU are a different person than you were then,  just as he is,  however I am sure that it's not all his fault.  You are asking a group of people who don't know you and don't know who you are to tell you if you hate someone?  How can we tell you your feelings if you don't know yourself?  Furthermore,  hatred is a horrid thing.  It consumes.  I speak from experience.  In addition,  honey your spelling and use of language is horrible.  It's difficult to read posted questions when they barely resemble english.
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Say this:\n"If you hate me so much, is Hatorade your favorite?  Also when you say you are so ballistic with me then why do you even take the time to write me an email?  Would you stop being a two year old toddler?  Seems like you have nothing better to do so stop hating and back off, because girl you ain't seen nothing yet!"\n\n               You go girl, I know you can do it!  Fire at her and she really ain't seen nothing yet so throw her way off course and let's see how that loser reacts!
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RENT THE MOVIE"ODD GIRL OUT" NOW YOU SEE WHAT HUNDREDS OF GIRLS GO THROUGH. IM 31 AND BEEN THROUGH IT ALL. THIS GIRL IS ACTING OUT TO FIT IN. THE BEST THING YOU CAN DO IS IGNORE HER. IF THE DAY COMES THAT YOU GET THE CHANCE TO PUT HER IN HER PLACE IN FRONT OF A LOT OF PEOPLE THEN YOU DO IT AND TELL HER HOW SHE REALLY IS AND HOW SHE REALLY COMES OFF TO PEOPLE. WELL I HAD AN EXPERIENCE WHERE THOUGH MY SISTER KATY WATCHED ME GET BEAT UP BY A GIRL IN FIRST GRADE EVERYDAY. ONE DAY KATY BEAT THIS GIRL UP AND TOSSED HER DOWN A SMALL HILLY RAVINE AT THE SCHOOL. NOT NICE AT ALL BUT MADE THE POINT. I DO NOT PROMOTE VIOLENCE. BUT A LESSON BURNED IS A LESSON EARNED. SO YOU DO WHAT U MUST AND LET HER KNOW IN FRONT OF OTHERS HOW YOU FEEL.AN SHE IS NOT YOUR FRIEND.
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For sure you are carrying a lot of grief and anger over the circumstances that led to your sisters death. It would help you to talk about this to others on a more personal basis. Have you ever thought about joining a support group for people who have lost family members suddenly as a result of violence or disasters? Below is a link that might be of some help to you. You have my sympathy. I lost my bro to a car crash several years ago, and I'm still angry with the people who helped cause the accident but I don't let it run my life anymore. Good luck to you, and God bless you.
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I think your angry because your hurt.    You desire to stay in one place,  don't want to keep starting over, you want stability in your life and want to be able to believe that what your mom says is true.  I think your anger is a combination of many other emotions.  Resentment, sadness and frustration. What you could do, is tell your mom, when you are not angry,  that you feel hurt at the fact that her words and her actions are not the same. Next time she says i promise, say mom, i love you but don't make promises you can't keep.  It may not seem like a big statement to say but it will let out some of your feelings. When you disagree with someone and you don't express how you feel and save it for later you are a time bomb waiting to happen. So each time you have the opportunity to express and emotion other than anger let it out even if it is just a little bit. After some practice you might see that your anger won't be as intense.
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You have some problems in your past that is ruining your future. You need to figure out why you are so angry. I hope you find some help before your family falls apart. Get some counseling and have a nice life.\n\nGod Bless.
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Gee, my mom is 80 or so, and I have similar problems. The only thing that has helped me is reading the Crankshaft Cartoon in the newspaper. Seeing that the problem is not unique to my circumstance has enabled me to find some humor in it. \n\nI think perhaps we can learnhow to be patient and not become hateful or angry by having to deal with these situations. I purpose in my heart not to expect my mom to do what I consider logical, or best for her, and condition myself to drop down into the "peace that passes understanding" whenever she refuses to keep track of her holdings. Sometimes it doesn't work, but I am worse off when I allow myself to get upset. \n\nI have started to clean up my own affairs so that I don't do this to my own son as I age. Why, just a few weeks ago, I actually gave away 4 books! (lol) It seems really difficult to fight the process of becoming my mom.
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I'm not sure if I'll be a big help in this, but here's what I know...\n\nMy Husband told me that Hate works 24/7 and it can never leave a person's heart and soul, to Forgive, Forget and Move on is a lot harder to do than anything else. He told me, "If you'll stay hatefull and unforgiving you won't be the same person anymore, because as simple as hating someone or something takes everything out of you making you harshes and meaner to the world around you. When someone spends a long time hating, they might loose the grip with the reality and what's important to them... and in the end they might never be able to come back to the way they used to be: sweet, kind, and forgiving" ... I knew what he meant when he told me that, I just personally had a hard time to doing that since I had my own private reasons for the hate, revenge and being mean. I thought I had every good God-given reason to stay that way without even thinking of consequences. In my thinking, I thought, "Why on this God-green-Earth I should even consider to forgive a guy (of all people!) who raped me when I was little?! Why can't anyone see what I mean?" In truth, my Husband was the only and the first person to open-up my eyes to everything. He was able to understand and see everything the way it was needed to assist me in recovery through this whole mess. He helped me and guided me to the firmer ground knowing fully well that it'll take probably a long time for me to come back to "normal" or at least to the way I wish I was...\n\nYou know, one day was an eye-oppener for me... In the evening, before going to bed, when I was washing my face, I took a glimpse in the mirror... I thought I'll scream... I didn't expect to see the face that was looking back at me. I knew it was me, but I just couldn't recognise myself... no anymore, at least. I've spent so many months and years hating someone I didn't quite remember and for what they've done that every possible negative emotion that I could possibly have... I could see it as plain as daylight written on my face. I looked cold, harsh, mean and completely uncaring towards anything or anyone. It was something I didn't expect and I hope will never see. I never thought that all the negative emotions will change me so drastically and deteriorate the way I looked on the outside... He didn't see anything on my face even though I was afraid to ask. I thought I'd give him a heart attack not only with that question but also acting like a scared cat... That night, being in my Husband's arms it felt so safe (just like always), but for some reason it dawned on me that maybe I didn't deserve him in any way because of the what was going on and how everything turned out to be. Remembering and knowing in my heart that he loved me, that he'll always be here no matter what and he'll never judge, criticise, ignore or leave me in any way, shape, or form... It has made all the difference in the world to me. That same night I just thought to myself, "Whoever you are I forgive you with all of my heart and soul for what you have done, and I sencirely hope you'll never do something like this ever again to anyone else." I meant every word... I don't know why but I felt so light, as if a big weight and burden was lifted off of my shoulders. That night was one of the most peaceful and restfull nights I've had in a long time. My heart didn't feel like it had to work over-time just to calm me down and my whole being started to heal. It took me about 2 months to start and heal if not completely, but at least be on the way to recovery. I know, there wll still be moments when I'll remember the past as if it only happened yesterday. It'll be just that a memory of that day and nothing more. Forgiving him actually took out the sting from the event and was like a healling herb that my heart and soul needed so ba
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i was in your almost same situattion i was 17 (pregnant) he was 31. I lived in Nh i ran away to NYC. He got very possesive than that turned to abuse. Go back to your family, you dont knpw what you are putting them through. Atleast let them knoe that you are ok to let them know you are alive. I did see my mom for year & half & she wasnt mad please let them know you are ok. Do you know what its like to have the FBI contact your family saying they have a teenage girl that matches their daughters description. well thats what happened to my mom & i regret the hell i put her through. If i could only do it over. I now have a daughter & hope she never puts me through what i put my mom through.\nremember family is forever. please go back & if you need anyone to talk to email me.
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I feel so bad for you in this situation.  You should tell a trusted family member (dad, grandma, aunt, etc.) how you're being treated and how you feel.  She has absolutely no right to treat you badly.  If she does physically harm you, call the cops.  Sorry if I'm not much help, but one last thing;  DO NOT COMMIT SUICIDE!  I'm serious.  Good luck, I hope things improve.
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well, first of all, ask yourself what you want... then confront the girl if you are ready to.. then tell her what u feel, express everything and if its not enough, take some time off alone and reflect with what happened. talk to other people, share what bothers you, in that way, your anger or maybe rage might somehow released.. keep yoursel busy as well, it might help..
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I'm sorry that you were treated so badly. I recognise the anger you feel. I've had the same experience myself and I know how much it hurt me. \nBest advice I suggest is do nothing. \nThis person has probably long forgotton about you. Getting your vengence on this person more than likely will not make you feel any better. If anything, you may even end up feeling a little guilt. \nThe things that happened to you were wrong, but its happened and you can't change that. It might help to find a way of dealing the anger you feel in another way that could maybe help others. \nI guess this may not be what you are looking for. All I can say is, its helped me.
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Dear Erin,\n\nI know exactly what you are going through and exactly how you feel.  Lots of people are telling you to let it go, they are not wrong, but for me the piece that was missing was the HOW. \n\nI sat down with a pen and a notebook and I wrote my mother a letter.  The first one I wrote was scathing, mean, confrontational and a lot of finger pointing examples.  After I wrote that letter, I felt a little bit better inside.  I re-read that letter two weeks later and decided to write a new letter instead.  The second letter still held a lot of anger and frustration but was not near as nasty and spiteful.  I felt better after that one also.  Again two weeks later re-read and wrote a third letter.  \n\nBy writing the letters I was getting the anger, hatred and resentments out of my head and was able to not think about them as much.  Every time I wrote one of these letters it took more of the anger and hatred out.  I did confront my parents about the things that were really bad and wrong but was able to do so in a non-confrontational way because I had already done the confrontational part in my letters.  I never showed or sent the letters to anyone, and when I was ready to let go of the crap I put them in the fireplace and burned them.\n\nGood Luck and feel free to email me @ janesalladay@yahoo.com
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I went through the same thing with my husband.. you might try anger managment counseling or taking a trial seperation. Just remember that when you feel yourself getting to the point of explosion that you have 2 feet WALK AWAY.
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First of all, if you have to asked, "should I be angry," then the answer is NO.  You are either angry or you are not. So that is question and answer one. \nCheating? Well of course it is, but if it doesn't matter to you, then all is ok...let it go (it is ok with you, because you had to ask, "should I be angry?"\nWhat has her getting it on with two girls have to do with you getting it on with a man???? Sort of twisted logic there. WHo knows, maybe this will open the door to some wild times for you when she gets home. Don't be judgemental..things will work out one way or another. Relax, there is time enough to get things 'straight' when she gets here.