I was told I needed to have my uterus removed due to a fibroid cyst that has increased in size. I am worried about how this surgery will affect my relationship and my selfworth. Please share your experience. (I'd love to hear a man's point of view on this as well)
138732
While I haven't had a hysterectomy, I have had fibroids.  I had them treated without a hysterectomy through a technique called uterine arterial embolization.  There is another technique called myomectomy that is also effective, and probably better if there is only one fibroid.\n\nI encourage you to seek a second opinion - hysterectomy is one of the most over-recommended and over-done medical techniques around.  Unfortunately, some doctors view the uterus as an unnecessary organ, and some view hysterectomies and a profitable enterprise.  There aren't many of those, but it only takes one doctor to make a decision that's more in line with his or her needs than yours.\n\nI also encourage you to understand what the other treatments available are, and ask your doctor for a good reason why those treatments aren't right for you.
556419
I've been on it for a long time and have few side effects.  I am always very tired, but I've been that way my whole life, so didn't contribute it to the patch.  But I do notice excess weight in my tummy area that I can't get rid of, even though I work out four times a week and the muscles under the fat are hard as a rock.  I think that it may have fewer side effects than some forms of birth control, but like them all, it has some, and they are evil.  I'm making my man get a vasectomy because I'm so tired of dealing with it.  I'm sure we all are.
364926
I am sorry to hear about your recent surgery, that can be a very tough one I am sure. I had a hysterectomy to remove everything including a grapefruit size cyst a number of years ago. I too was surprised at how long it took for the discomfort to go away, I have to agree with the other post expect a good year. Then it became numb and has stayed that way. Try and avoid wearing tight pants with anything that cuts across that area and that might help. However, if you see redness,swelling,any kind of excretion be sure and call your doctor right away. Remember when they do that kind of surgery they are cutting through a number of layers and you have stitches on the inside as well. If you are the least bit concerned or have any other questions,,I too agree that you need to contact your Doctor, July is not a great deal of time to heal from a major surgery as yours, take care of yourself, don't do what you aren't supposed to,easier said then done but it will help to avoid scar tissue.\nTake care of yourself Hon!\nMagnolia
629931
I have had a hysterectomy too and I am in my mid thirty's.  I was a wreck for a while had to go on some anti anxiety medication.  I yelled at my kids, cried because I yelled.  I felt really vulnerable and anxious.  Those hormones control us more than people think.  Hang in there.  I had my surgery a little over a year ago and I am doing so much better now.
675973
I have cried before during sex,I wasn't taking the pill didn't need to had tubes tied years ago.I was extremely depressed,not on meds. and in a horrible relationship with a man I can't even begin to describe.I was afraid to get out away from him and ask for help.I finally did though,I told him I was going for a walk but I didn't tell him I wasn't coming back.I needed help for the depression,other wise I could of told him to take a walk.Not exactly like your case but thought I'd share it with you.The last thing I wanted from that man was sex.
472927
i am 14 weeks post surgery. i had a lapriscopically assisted vaginal hysterectomy. i feel great. i didnt have any problems after the surgery. i still have my moments of mild pain but thats supposed to be normal. i behaved myself completely during my recovery. i had 1 rule to live by.... "when it comes to hysterectomies you have only 1 chance to heal correctly the first time". i didnt want to take any chances on extending the healing time. i wish i had been able to have mine earlier. it took me 10 years and a move to a different state to find a doctor willing to help me. my life is so much better now!!!! the pleasure of no more daily pain or periods is worth all the pain of the surgery!
574217
Hello...i imagine that it must be psychologically difficult for you...but you have manage to live till now...life is precious..you can little by little save up money...and then inform your self on the complications of the surgery, cause the results sometimes can be worst....good luck!!!
619082
Side effects of hysterectomy (keep the ovaries).  No more cramping, bleeding, birth control.   Had mine 12/02 and started having an occasional hot flash just recently.  PMS hung around for a few months.  Other than that, and a lil 'swelly belly' .. everything's fine.  We adjust.  Beats the HELL out of alot of pain.
345447
This sounds more like a reaction to the anesthetic than a true health problem. At least from the information you listed.\nDid your doctor tell you you have a heart problem?\nIf not it was a reaction to the surgery.\n\nMy wife is a nurse who cares for a variety of patients. She says she hopes you had all of your female parts removed to eliminate the chance of cancer spreading. \n\nAll you can do now is take lots of time with your children and teach them to be the best people they can be. That way if you leave them they will have had a good foundation to help them live a good life as adults. If you can afford it, buy some more life insurance to help them in case you die. We have annuities that we can collect even if we live to be old!\n\nGood luck.........
658352
My Wife had it done after the birth of our son. He took after me and was broad shouldered, weighed nearly 10 lbs. She tore. She had the procedure done more as self esteem thing.  She was worried our sex life wouldn't be as good or that she was to big now etc.... It did make a difference. I was satisfied before, even better now.  She was sore for a month or more after the surgery though. No nookie for like 6-8 weeks afterwards either.-rob
504436
Dont feel bad my friend. I am 35 and aunt Flo stays with me on a constant time period. I may stop a day or so then flood over and over. I think I may have fibroids or hardening of the ovaries, but who knows. I dont have children, nor do I plan to. I want a partial historectomy becuase i am sick of this mess. So dont feel bad, all we band of women understand...the gulf is with me also.
589069
Myomectomy\nI have had 2 fibroids removed 5 years ago.\nThe surgery itself is simular to how they do a hysterectomy. The incision will be about 3 to 4 inches across just below your pubic line, bikini cut.\nYou'll be in the hospital for 3 to 4 days. The 1st day after surgery is the worst, but you will be on a demerol drip.\nAfter the IV pain med you will be given percodan or some other strong oral med.\nYou will also have a catheter in for the 1st day. After it is removed going to the bathroom is going to suck. Not only will you feel like you have to pee constantly, but can't your stitches will feel like there ripping out everytime you move.\nYou'll be on a clear liquid diet the first 2 day and gradually be on solid foods by the last day. \nBefore they let you eat real food you have to tell the nurse you farted. Heheee!\nBy the last day they will have you up walking the halls. You WILL need the pain med to do this.\nWhen you go home the pain will not be as severe, but you will notice that certain movements will aggitate the incision.\nDo not try to sit up by using your stomach muscles. Roll on your side and ease up that way. \nAvoid walking up and down steps too.\nThe healing proccess is pretty fast. By the end of the 2cd week you will feel good. The only thing you will be bothered by is the feeling of the stitches pulling when you move certain ways. It won't be painful after the 2cd week.\nTry to walk as much as you can. Take a pain pill before you do at least for the 1st 2 weeks.\nThat will help speed up healing and make the muscles stronger\nUse neosporin or vitamin E on the incision scar. That will help it heal and fade better.\nMake sure you drink lots of water and cranberyy jiuce so that you wont be at risk for any urinary infections.\nOther than that it realy isn't too bad.\nUnfortunately fibroids can come back. I have 2 more that need to be removed again. However, I am 8 months pregnant with my 1st baby. I would not have been able to carry her if I would not have had that surgery.\nGood Luck!
63489
hey, man...i know you're not making a big fuss over this matter nor fretting out too, bad, are you? GOOD! because everybody is created uniquely special.. soooo special! whatever it is, trust HIM that He got a great plan for it...whatever the size is...your doctor would agree if i say it doesnt affect the act of procreation...have a wonderful day! thanks!
513654
you should see your doctor about this who can refer you to have them removed laprascopicly. I had several removed about 8 years ago and i also had some before that which erupted on their own which did cause quite an amount of pain and discomfort. Once the cysts are removed they may come back and you may be faced with the prospect of having polycystic ovaries which can affect your ability to become pregnant, however if they are small like you say, talk to your doctor about this, you will probably find that it will not affect you chances of becoming pregnant just good medical management, I myself have two beautiful children and it didnt take me long to concieve at all...good luck and remember speak to your doctor..he/she can provide the best answers for you.
397345
I am sorry about your sister I wish her the best over the next few years Dealing with a hysterectomy is not an easy process she will be spending the next few years adjusting and changing You as her sister be prepared not only physical changes but emotional and psychological watch for possible bouts of depression.  I went through the same thing and even though I was ok with the idea thought about the positives every one said I seemed to have a good frame of mind for it and a humorous outlook on it but when it comes down to it I am a basket case because of it I have learned of so many sideeffects of the hysterectomy that I was not prepared for If I can do anything My prayers are with her and you
321114
To remove a cyst it's always outpatient unless there are complications. Recently they have had great success with using laperoscopy to remove them. It is when they make two very small incisions and insert a laserguided scalple and camera to preform the surgery instead of having to make a huge incision and open you up. If you have a choice do it this way! \n\nIt is common to have alot of pain when you have an ovarian cyst. I personally did not but I was told I was an odd case. If you don't have the surgery you run the risk of the cyst rupturing and dying of internal bleeding so it is a good idea to have it removed when they get that big. Even if they don't cause pain. Make sure that when you consent to the surgery that you do not sign anything that gives them the right to take out your whole ovary if they think it's necessary. People have different opinions on what makes it necessary, your doctor is not always going to do what you would have wanted. Make sure you give yourself the choice.\n\nIt's a simple proceedure, complication is unlikely and you should be fine when it's over. Good luck and be well. :)
669410
This is for a doctor to answer and since she is seeing a doctor, you should trust him.  it is possible to remove a woman's uterus, ovaries, cervix, etc.  trust your doctor.  get a second opinion if you need validation.