well theres this gurl named shelly i dont like . my bf hangs out with her . he says shes just a friend . i kno shes just a friend but the thing is billy tells me what happens when he goes over there . i cant tell if hes just trying to be honest or if hes just tryin to make me jealouse . my mom told me he might just like it that he has 2 woman who argue over him .well i have myspace .and i talk to her on there. but the thing is she acts like shes my friend . and i just noticed this .becuz she would talk about how she would want to hang out then she would talk to billy on aol . i wrote an email to her sayin that i wanted to get over what ever problem there was i just didnt kno what it is. she wrote me an email sayin "i dont kno u , n i wouldnt have a problem" but then she would talk to billy and judge by saying "shes to overbearing" or "shes to controlling " and i would never ever tell billy what to do . is billy respecting me if he hangs out with her still? and could she b jealouse ?
121712
ignore her, and tell Billy you aren't interested in hearing about Shelly...if he doesn't get the hint then I don't knwo what gives...
532532
You know I've been in this same situation. It's really hard to deal with if you guys are so close. I just let my friend be and went to hang out with other people. I would call her and invite her places but she always turned me down because she had already made plans with her new man. This went on for about three months. When she called one day I told her. I'm not mad at you anymore but I would like for you to know that what you did really hurt me. We had been friends for five years and this guy comes and now you act like I don't exist. She apologized and we started hanging out again. Some people just get caught up in situations and forget about the feelings of others. You just have to put yourself in her shoes. If you were in a new relationship you might do the same thing to her. It's something new and right at this time you're just caught up in it. As long as you talk to her and tell her how you feel about it she should make it a point to try and share her time between the two of you. If she just blows you off then she wasn't a good friend to begin with and you'd be better off finding someone who cares about you and what your feelings are. Good luck with it. I hope she comes around.
153593
I cetainly wouldn't tolerate anyone going thru my things, I'd call her on that one, but as far as playing the big Sister role...she just may think because you are surrounded by brothers, you may want the "sisterly" advice...once you set her straight on the privacy issue, and she continues to "snoop", THEN tell your Bro, he wouldn't want your friends going thru his stuff either....as far as the "big sister" role goes, that probably won't last too long... and she may not either, chances are if she's annoying you this much already, she's probably annoying your other brothers in some way or another as well.....
199515
by not disrespecting another sister.  getting your own man and remembering what goes around comes around.  Why would you want to do that? We have such a serious problem with the whole cheating thing going on, that people are starting to think that it's ok, to the point of actually asking people on Yahoo.  I'm not trying to be disrespectful or condescending.  But shouldn't you give this young lady your utmost respect, (even if you don't know her), since you know this guy has a girlfriend. And "No", it doesn't matter to me if he likes you back.  You should be doing the sister a favor and pointing him right back in the direction of his girlfriend.
110018
first off, if y'all did it, thats why he doesn't want to spend time with you.  Second off, if y'all didn't do it, maybe he thought man, this chick is really annoying & I don't want to talk to her anymore I spent all day with her & thats all the time I need to get to know that I don't want to date her.  Or, he's probably just a jerk.
353399
If I were the guy, I would want to know. He sounds like he has morals and deserves much better than what he's getting. I wouldn't tell him until you have proof of what she is doing, that way she can't lie her way out of it and it would make things more believeable for him. If she gets mad, well she shouldn't be doing this to begin with, so she'd mad she got caught is most likely the real reason for her anger. Who knows what she could be passing on to the b/f and that's sad. If it were me in the situation and wondering whether to tell or not, I'd tell. I've been there and done that before and I have never once regretted it. I couldn't look someone in the eye knowing what I know that person should know and not tell. You and the b/f deserve better ppl in your lives.
44561
she needs to ease off the haterade becuase she's hating on you for what ever reason.  Some you doing that she wish she can do or have.  And if this guys are really your boyfriends they would respect you for you and not sleep with a hoe.. YES a hater hoe.. You need to shake them all off because they are nothing to you if they are doing this.  Don't try to be friends with her either because that's not going to work for her to leave you alone.  You trying having 3 best friends sleep with your boyfriends.  I just throw the trash out with them all and start over.  Its hard but you have to because if not your going to be hurt.  Don't play her at her on game becuase god knows what she might have for sleeping around. your better then that and she knows it and that's why she's hating.. one thing you don't want to do is show her that your all booty hurt over this again because that's what she wants and your showning her that she won. Good luck!!!
411921
I never got that whole if I date him no one can. if you guys are over, and you agreed to see other people then get over it, your not a very good friend if you wont let her have a chance at happiness. I don't see anything wrong with it if she was a good friend, but if she just stared at you and asked you why you were mad, that obviously tells you she's kind of a jerk, she obviously doesn't care about you or your feelings, considering you just told her you were still in love with him, if I started dating my friends ex I would have at least shown that I was sorry for causing any pain, but some thins cant be helped, such as holding back feeling for a guy, dang,...  then I'm sorry but if I were you I would have brought her down. keep in mind though that if you guys are supposed to be together you will and if he wanted to see other people then maybe you deserve better, unless it was your Idea in with case, WHAT ARE YOU BITCHING ABOUT. its not fun but remind yourself of 2 things first of all that she deserves the chance at him, and second of all that you may still have a chance of getting back together with him. I got back together with mine.  Good Enough?
345126
MSN is just like Yahoo and ICQ. A way of talking to other people and making new friends around the world.\n\nSounds to me as though your b/f is jealous of you having friends on MSN because he either wants you all to himself or because he doesn't know how to use MSN or any other IM tool.\n\nYou have already argued your case with him and he obviously doesn't get it so tell him to get off your case as you have done nothing wrong or that if he continues you may just have to prove him right.
51392
Okay, as a woman myself, this is my opinion: I can understand and agree with your not wanting her to go to dinner with other guys. I wouldn't want my man going to dinner with other women! But some people think that there isn't anything wrong with it as long as they are just friends. She might not have meant any harm by it. Just talk with her, let her know how much it bothers you (but don't make it sound like you are accusing her of cheating) and ask if you two can come to a "neither one of us is ever alone with a member of the opposite sex" agreement. My parents had that agreement, and it worked great. Just a thought. If she is unwilling to agree to that, then it might be time to move on. Good luck.
509605
Esha, I'm talking to you from the perspectives of a guy. I want to consider you a luck gurl for having a guy who wants to displays his affection for you in public. It's only a guy that has no skeleton in his cupboard that does this to a gurl. He really wants to show you that he's the same person to you whether in private or public. Also, he's just trying to pull your legs with those flirting stuff. He wants to know how jealous you could be, but I can bet you he doesn't mean any harm. The next time he does that, you either pretend you don't notice that or if you can, say something as if you're encouraging him in his flirting game. In the contrary, this will shock him and you'll be better for it - trust me. I wish you a happy and fulfilling relationship with your guy. Cheers!
618640
I went back and looked at the questions and answers.  You were very careful not to reveal anything about her, except for the problem.  I think that she is taking her stress out on you.  She doesn't realize what a good friend you are being to her.  She does need help, and much more help than you can give her.  Can she go to her parents?  I want to say thank you to you, you are showing what a true friend is.
540576
They are both lying to you!  Wake up!  Neither of them say anything about the fact that they contact each other - that's one.  Number two is the fact that he got angry when you brought it up.  Number three is her b.s. response that it is all a scheme to make you jealous.  And what kind of friend does something like that? A scheme that they kept a secret?  How is that supposed to make you jealous if they don't tell you about it?  Please...wake up and smell the coffee.  You should get rid of both of them.
453950
Your friend is being really stubborn. It seems to me that she has some deep-seated issues with criticism. (I should introduce her to my best friend — they sound like kindred spirits.) You need to get them both in the same place (don't tell them your plans until you get them together) so they can work out whatever beef she has with him. It's good that your boyfriend at least tried to make amends.
329957
Honestly what do you expect?  I mean it is your BEST FRIEND'S EX.  Even if she says she's cool about, deep down inside she might not be.  Why don't you ASK her why she keeps bashing your man.  She could be jealous, or she could be telling the truth about how he really acts.  I have two friends who are MARRIED to my ex's, and I'm completely fine with it.  I never knock their hubbies or anything. Of course both of their hubbies are good guys, and I dumped them.
598541
well he might be sayin this dont seem right cuz its like in the family  thing but his body is sayin the cuzin pleases me , understandable , its a strange feelin,been there before ,but morality sinks in some times and takes over,but if he is trying to throw signs  then duu is probly just selfish and out to please himself  thinking he can get both ,but if youve moved on then dont worry bout him,but at least respect your cuzin to let her know if he does try,and if she dont know yall was a thing then it might help to be honest with her cuz im sure she dont wanna be hurt by someone who dont care ,but then again stand bac cuz they might actualy have something serious and he does care for real ,so it wouldnt be coo to mess wit dat,and if it didnt bother you you wouldnt have spoke up,so just ignore it  as best as you can ,itll pass
159909
Honey...sorry to say this but this wonderfull boyfriend of yours does not respect u or the realationship that he has with u..just by reading what u wrote i can tell that this kind of behavior from him breaks your heart...u shouldn't put up with this at all...if he is staring at her in front of u..god only knows what he does behind your back..it doesn't matter what any of us post here to say to u...But if i was u i would move on...get your things when he is not around and get out of this relationship...think about it this way...if i was your sister and i told u what u are telling us...what would u say?...see what i mean?...there are some wonderful guys out there that u havn't even met yet that are dying to meet u