she has several male friends she says she knew before me and she does not want me to know their numbers.  Am I over-reacting by wanting her to release the secrecy?  We are supposed to be serious about each other.
133771
Normal for her to have male friends.\nNot normal to keep them "secret".\nIs she keeping their identities or just the phone #s a secret?\nHas she introduced you to them? If you've all hung out then it's probably fine and she just thinks you're weird to ask for the numbers.
136492
Sounds kinda fishy, i'd think he already did something with this chick and even more so if you said he said she was a slut and all this crap and now all of a sudden he is friends with her and hasn't told you when they went out ??  They go to lunch once in a while and he claimed she used to wear slutty outfits ?  Sounds like they have the flirting down and maybe something more.  Do some investigating, you can never be too sure, these women know how to get what they want and they.  If I were you I would talk to my husband about your insecurities and tell her he would not like it if it was the other way around and to pls quit the friendship with her, because believe me if it hasn't happened yet it is well on its way.
88081
That's wrong! If you don't want anyone to know you are with her, then why are you? It sounds like your using her.
623857
Look be honest but do not name names, she would not want you telling anyone her name if that was the case. \nI say yes I had relationships - they were ok but they were not you. Since i met you all the others are fading from my memory and are nothing more than a passing moment. I say i could tell you, but you know that would not be right. For that would only cause pain for everyone. \nBut listen all those relationships were just roads leading me here to you.
313985
Sounds to me like she wants 'to have her cake and eat it'. One rule for you and another for her.\nThe point is you appear to be accepting this situation which suggests she has the upper hand in this relationship. She can do whatever she wants and you have to like it or lump it.\n\nGet this straight, there is NO SUCH THING as just good friends between two heterosexual people of the opposite sex. People like to pretend there is but experience tells us otherwise. This is why in the back of your mind you're not comfortable with her lunching with this other guy.\nYou see, one of these straight friends always likes the other but doesnt want to tell her/him because they're afraid of rejection and of losing this person forever.\nGet your revenge in first, if she insists on doing it her way start making plans for life without her. You will never be happy in such an insecure relationship, the whole thing sounds phoney anyway.
348074
Usually if women are upfront about their dating status and if they tell you there is someone then take it as a sign of disinterest.  You hope she is telling the truth. If she is or not then you can not tell.  Just respect it and take a step back. Let her take the lead and if she decides to open up and let you  closer then you might have a chance, but if you want to keep favor in her eyes step back for now.  It may be better to be friends.  She will respect you more and may even be interested later.   Honor her space.
126180
She'll probably use another guy to make you jealous. and if you've had previous experience with this stuff than it's probably a given that she likes you but she doesn't want to tell you her dirty little secret. Maybe she thinks that you will hate her if she says something. You should probably just needs sometime to get the courage to tell u. BE PATIENT!!!
458124
From what you have wrote I think that she what to be more than friends.  If she didn't want to be more than friends, she wouldn't be telling other people that you are her boyfriend.  If you only want to be friend with her than you need to talk to her and let her know that here actions are making you uncomfortable and that she needs to stop telling people that you are her boyfriend.
605098
if it was an innocent message to a guy, she wouldn't care if you saw her doing it or not.  for her to want to hide it, means that its more than nothing.  she might just be in the beginning and just talking to the guy or she might be in a full-fledged affair.  whichever it is, she's definitely doing something she shouldn't.
369002
i think you should stay with her; it is an online thing after all; think of it this way: would you appreciate it if she talked about your mutual affairs in public? but you are exposing the intimate details of your relationship here, right? so the anonymity of the internet is a shield for certain things, that would otherwise be unacceptable.
603926
Ouch, you have been 'regulated to second man' and that sucks-big time. I wouldn't let it faze you too much because you didn't have any real emotional attachment ot Jane. \n\nIf she has done this to you it is an indication of her true personality. Someone who brushes you off like this has no regard to you as a person. Even if she just wanted to be friends by calling you up, she has shown little respect if she treats you like this during the hang out. Even friends don't ignore each other.\n\nI know how you feel-believe me (all guys have horror stories like this) and the best thing you can do is forget about her. Better yet, if she ever calls again, say  your too busy to talk. \n\nNow repeat after me: 'Be gone evil woman' and move on :)
655247
I don't see anything wrong with that.  Does your current girlfriend have a problem with it?  If she does,  surely she knew prior to becoming your girlfriend that you mainly had female friends.  I am a female who has very little female friends.  I don't get along with women very well.  I get along better with males.  I make sure that anyone I get involved with understands that my friends were in my life long before my boyfriends.
95108
Lets put it this way, do you think she doesn't know about it already?  If you want misery, tell her, let her know what you think.  I am all for communication, but it is a very sensitive area to women.  I wouldn't even think about bringing it up.  Besides, you should be loving the woman for who she is and not what she looks like...that is really shallow.
256756
Well, I think it was a good thing that you called her on the false story.  Her reaction is typical for someone who has been CAUGHT.  She may have seen it as her opportunity to end the friendship of many years.  People change and interests change.  This might be a blessing in disguise for you.  If she is a gossip queen and you could care less about that - this may be your opportunity to focus on people who share your values.  HUGS TO YOU.  It is hard to lose a friend for any reason.
154141
I think you still need to be patient here.  It may be something traumatic, hurtful, or embarrassing that he just doesn't want to tell you right now. When he trusts you it'll come up.\n\nIf you really insist on knowing, you could probably find out from one of his friends. But be careful because he could easily (and rightfully) perceive that you are prying into his personal life. Men don't like that any more than women do.
62972
Hmmm - is it her computer? Then why is it your issue? \n\nCould be she has imaginary friends or knows you pry and doesn't want you to know the names of who she is really listing. Either way, if it's her computer it's her business.
344136
you don't have to tell her anything. it's none of her business.. go out together somewhere and make sure she sees you!~ she'll get  the hint