I work at a hotel and sometimes the guests buy me things;( food, cigarettes and other little things)and my boyfriend dosent like it. He says that I'm nieve and the only reason they buy me is because they want to have sex with me. The people that buy me are our regular guests and I think they are just being nice.I know when someone is tring to flirt with me and I tell him every time someone brings me something. Am I wrong?
133834
your boyfriend feels threatened and i would be too if my bf got gifts from other girls put yourself in his shoes..I'm sure you would be a little jealous or concerned. if you love him you wont talk those gifts relationships need compromise and in the end those gifts don't matter you don't want to hurt your bf by thinking you might do something. just tell the customers that you don't feel right accepting them but thanks anyways.
589476
It's very common, and I don't think it's wrong, unless you act on it. It might be awkward if you are working with him, but I don't think that you should change your plans just because you're attracted to him, unless you find a better position. There will likely be more bosses and unavailable coworkers in the future that you will find attractive, so if you want to live your life, you might just have to grin and bear it.
447067
I had a friend of mine that we played that game for years. Nothing ever came out of it because we were too good of friends and I did not want to lose her friendship.  There were times she would flirt and even one time where she told me if she likes a guy they are paying at the movies and she had me pay the next day.You need to talk through it with him, it sounds like he is really unsure of himself and just as confused as you are.  I think he is waiting for the green light from you that says where you stand.
654318
Well, if you act slutty, you risk gaining a reputation of being slutty.  Maybe you need to cut back on the drinking... it could clear your mind enough to know that yes that is beyond how things should go.  They are fighting over you as they figure if you are willing to do what you did, they will all have it easy to get all they want from you otherwise without worrying about commitments.  And that is slutty behavior.
95622
One night stands with co-workers really don't work out. You both agree things won't be weird but they are then the roomers start flighing. My advise is don't. If you do keep it on the down low.
440971
I am old fashion...He pays for the date, always.  I refuse to accept his role in the relationship.  I think the problem with most men is that we as working, independent women feel the need to display our equality.  I don't.  I am equal but you will open my door.  I am equal, but you will pay for the date.  I am equal but if you see me carrying heavy bags or see something in my house that needs repair, you will offer your services.  And in return, I cook my butt off, never say no and make each intimate moment an adventure.  Also, leave that tired clown alone, he's not a real man and will never make you happy.
159752
You have a tendency to punish him when he gives you what you want. That will make him close up and communication will be next to impossible. I'm sure you don't do it maliciously, but you should stop to think how what you say might be perceived.
561756
Whatever you do don't have sex with him.  He might be trying to give you something that you might want.  Don't trust him.  He's up to something.
208909
There's nothing wrong with you.He says he's attracted to you and you do have sex,just not that often.If it bothers you I'd ask him whats going on.Tell him his behavior makes no sense to you, it makes you feel insecure and you need to know why he does this.I'm sure the two of you can work it out..good luck!
25863
Sorry to burst your bubble, but strip clubs have strict rules about the customer touching the girls..  And sex with the girls in the club is usually illegal..\n\nAlso, you wouldnt believe the training these girls get to separate the customer from their money...  They will make you believe that you have a shot at being their boyfriend, but it is only a trick to separate you from your money.\n\nStrip clubs are fun places to go with your friends, but only if you know that it is an illusion that will disappear the moment you walk away or run out of money...
474026
Ahhh, I see another person using YA has a sense of humor too. \n\nIt is only inappropriate if he didn't offer to buy you a lap dance from a stripper of your choice.
473822
My boyfriend does a similar thing - but I am pleased he is honest with me. It's when they pretend they're not doing it - and become secretive that there is a problem. If he was to cheat - he would not make it so bloody obvious that was his intentions. Start doing it back to him - have a laugh. Me and my boyfriend used to work together and we both had top five's of the opposite sex in the office. It's made us close, maybe he feels like you're his friend - which means he feels comfortable saying 'Ooh, 9/10 she's hot!' You're obviously his 11/10 - so I wouldn't worry honey.
68418
Here's the problem - you are co-workers, so getting intimate with you may be an ethics violation.  He probably got a vibe that the other women were friendly without being too serious, so he was OK with this mock flirting.  However, if you displayed a serious, shy work-type demeanor, he probably didn't want to 'provoke' you by being too familiar.  you may not understand this, but every time a guy goes to be with a girl, there is a question in the back of his head that is saying, 'will I be sued?'  An honorable guy will not try to get too intimate with a co-worker, so if you want him to flirt with you, you will have to act like you will be his friend and not mind the intimacy that a co-worker should avoid.  In today's work environment, it's very easy for a guy to be victimized, so you will have to go all out to show him that you will be OK with a little display of affecdtion without taking him to court or getting him fired.
447297
That she is a prostitute, or an easy "lay"...\n\nInvite girl to your hotel room and a guy thinks its a 'sure thing' that he is in for some sex...\n\nNo two ways about it, and if you hollar "rape", your going to be answering a lot of questions asked by the Police as to WHY you went to a man's hotel room if you weren't going to give him sex!\n\nI wish you well..\n\nJesse
123565
Sometimes,\n\nYou pay for there company.  If they decide to have sex with you, that is there decision.  If they do not have sex with you, you have to pay them anyway.  You are not paying for sex.  Most of the time they will not have sex with you, but will spend time with you to talk or go out.  The ones that always have sex give the rest a bad name.  Usually guys get escorts to show off and do nothing else.  I have a friend who is an escort and has never had sex with a client.  Most of the time she is taken out to eat and then for drinks after.  She says that once you get the reputation for having sex, it will follow you around, but if they know you do not have sex, you will get the clients that want to go out to show you off.
127729
Comin' from a guy this straight up...he wants u to get him somethin', but he don't care wut it is...u know wut he doesn't like so as long as u stay away from that stuff he'll be kool...he wants u...thats wut he wants, thats wut he always wants, thats all he wants...the other stuff is just added benefits...i don't know if yall are sexual or waitin' but if yall are, then he would greatly appreciate somethin' different...not that u ain't already great or wutever, but a setting change or a new position or some different clothing will always make him happy...u don't even have to buy anything really...he doesn't need candles and all that, if u just let him walk in the door and let him take u on the kitchen table or against the front door or out on the balcony i guarantee he will luv u for it...if yall are not that far yet then a nice dinner and a new outfit would will suffice...
119025
I flirt to make the other person feel good..I mostly flirt with the ones that don't get flirted with because they are old or disfigured etc..I'm not in it for my ego but to boost someone elses..\nI especially love old people..I think they lack the attention they deserve.\nSometimes I'll Flirt/Tease someone I wouldn't mind being intimate with..but only happens once in a blue moon...