My husband of 14 years has been asking me, or begging me to have a threesome with another person of my choice. Should i go for it? and why?
136631
Don't do it if you are not comfortable. Because you may start to regret it later and start having jealousy issues. Don't do it to please him do it for yourself. In the end its about you. If you do it, have rules of what you want done and what that other person is allowed to do. Show some boundaries if you want to stay sane.
182301
Forget it. Surprise him by NOT doing a threesome. He doesn't care one way or the other. So why would you even consider it??
430018
Three is nothing wrong with a little kinky foreplay.  I do what my husband asks, and he likewise, to keep our marriage exciting.  I think you should tell your wife, ask her to play along with you - what have you got to lose?  If she loves you, she wants you to be happy in bed.  Thats the key to keeping yourself from asking the question  "SHould I cheat on my wife?"
576878
You are young with great stamina :) be proud that you have so much energy.  However, if you wanna have sex 20 times a day thats normal(as long as you dont forget to eat).  Furthermore, there's nothing wrong with being attracted to other women.  You don't have to betray him just because your attracted to other women.  You should talk to him about and see if he'd mind a threesome with another woman.  Most of my straight friends wouldn't pass up that chance for anything.  so relax you're probably not gonna hurt your boyfriend, but make his day.
626012
bring in another partner..3some
77455
Nope.  Never have, never will.  For a while maybe, but in time, jealousy will prevail.  Don't get hurt.  Save it for one special person.  And if you are asking because someone wants you to get involved in a lovers triangle, evaluate your relationship with that individual and act accordingly. You're playing with fire......
50559
If being with another woman AND your husband is a fantasy of your then I say go ahead. If you are being told that you need to do this pr else I am leaving or whatever, then NO!\n\nEven if this is oyur fantasy you will need to very careful as you mentioned STD's, whackos and all the EMOTIONAL trauma this may cause. Finding the right third is the real issue, do not bring a stranger into your house.
29697
No way should you do this.  You two are a family with a child.  There is no reason to bring a 3rd person into your sex life.
193489
Ummmmm - that should be pretty easy.  EVERY guy wants a threesome.  he is probably wondering how to approach you about bringing another girl into the bedroom....
225539
Of course you should...if YOU want to...but...perhaps you shoudl turn the tables on him and tell him you will if he FIRST lets another guy join you in bed as well...
212078
you definitely should. isn't it time that the both of you made another step toward the ultimate commitment to each other? you have been together this long and have already talked about getting married. i think you should do it. god bless both of you.
119733
Thats cool that you two are talking about it.\n\nFirst, before you get into picking the lucky person you will ask to share your bed you two must be positive you are ok with this.  You also may need to talk about limits.  For instance, my wife does not care what another woman does to me but I am not allowed to let my mouth go near the special area on the girl with us.\n\nThe choice between another man or woman is up to you two.  Is your husband ok with another guy?  If yes, thats great.  The next question he would have to answer is does he want to do anything with the other guy.  If it is another woman same questions go to you.  Only you two can answer these types of questions.\n\nI have been in both types of bedroom play.  With two guys is myself and my best bud and his girlfriend.  A bit of alchol helped get this going but he and I did not touch.  We tried to always keep his girlfriend in between us.  (OK, slightly homophobic but I can admit it and deal with it.) I have also been with some very adventerous women and sometimes they would play with each other and other times act like my buddy and I and attempt to keep an invisible wall between themselves.\n\nWhatever you two decide, enjoy and good luck.
170075
My wife and I have an exceptionally happy marriage. We've been together for 15 years, and still love every moment we spend together.\n\nMy wife is bi-sexual, and I am straight, and for years she had fantasies about inviting other women, and other men and other couples into our bed, as did I.\n\nAt some point it became a part of our pillow talk, we talked to each other about our fantasies, and engaged in sharing fantasies as part of our lovemaking.\n\nAfter a few years of that we decided to invite a friend into our bed.\n\nIt was a disaster! We hadn't done any research at all on how to be successful, and foolishly thought all we had to do was enjoy ourselves.\n\nA few more years went by and we continued to share fantasies, and again the subject came up - needless to say we were more cautious this time, we actually found some swingers discussion boards, and became participants - asking questions, and learning how successful swingers did it.\n\nWe joined a couple of swingers match making sites and started to understand what we were looking for and how it matched with what others were looking for.\n\nWe found a great magazine about swinging (I'll put a link in the sources section), and read it cover to cover.\n\nWe looked online and found a swingers club in our area and decided to visit the club.\n\nWe went to the club and get so excited that we couldn't wait and ended up having semi-public sex with each other (which was one of her fantasies - she is very exhibitionistic).\n\nThen we went home and again had fantastic sex.\n\nWe went again the next weekend, and found a couple that looked fairly unthreatening and asked if we could sit down - they were very helpful in explaining all of the etiquette of the swingers lifestyle, and what the expectations were, so we sat with them all night and basically had them do a brain dump of everything they had learned in 25 years of being swingers.\n\nOne of the things we kept hearing was that we needed to set rules - which explained the disaster we experienced in our first attempt - no rules! We didn't know what was expected, there were guilt feelings and jealousy, and recriminations.\n\nWe sat down and developed a set of rules designed so that we would both know whet was okay, what made each of us uncomfortable, what was strictly off-limits, etc.\n\nWe discovered that getting ready to go to the club was so exciting that we almost didn't even need to go, the anticipation, the time we spent naked while bathing, grooming and getting ready, the conversations we had with each other while getting ready, watching her get her sexiest outfits on, and try things on for me, excited both of us so much we almost always had to make love before we even went to the club!\n\nAs we got more comfortable and confident (because of all the open conversation) our sex lives again improved, we couldn;t keep our hands off of each other, riding in the car became really hot, getting ready for work in the morning became really hot, getting ready for bed, going out to dinner, all of our daily activities became huge turn-ons because we were so hot for each other.\n\nWe would spend time talking about things we wanted to try, and watching attractive women walk past would cause secret smiles to cross our faces because we would both be wondering if that sexy soccer mom was really a closet, back scratching, climb-the-headboard s lut!\n\nOne night at the club, after months of playing with just one another, we met a married woman who followed us back to a room and joined us.\n\nIt was incredible! We both felt completely confident in our marriage and in our rules, and fulfilled a couple of our fantasies right then!\n\nWe met her and her husband for dinner a couple of nights later and immediately hit it off - the hardest part of swinging is finding a group of people that all like and respect each other, and find each other attractive!\n\nWe started having foursomes - extremely erotic and enjoyable, and became
281333
THIS IS A VERY TOUCHY SITUATION. I DON'T KNOW ANY MEN THAT WOULD GET SO DRUNK THAT THEY WOULD ALLOW ANOTHER MAN TO RAPE THEM. YOU SHOULD HAVE A SERIOUS TALK WITH YOUR HUSBAND TO SEE IF HE MAY BE HAVING ANY HOMOSEXUAL FEELING THAT HE IS TRYING TO SUPPRESS. COULD ALSO BE THAT HE IS BISEXUAL. EITHER WAY  THE DESIRE TO BE WITH ANOTHER MAN IS GOING TO HAVE TO BE SOMETHING HE IS GOING TO HAVE TO FACE EVENTUALLY IF THIS IS THE CASE. THINK ALSO HAS HE GIVEN YOU ANY OTHER REASON TO THINK THAT HE MIGHT BE GAY. IF SO I WOULD CONSIDER LEAVING HIM. BETTER TO BE SAFE THEN TO END UP WITH AIDS. BUT BEFORE JUMPING TO ANY IDEAS TALK WITH HIM AND PRAY ABOUT IT.
86862
Have a threesome huney, two guys are better then one.   LOL
284745
If you really love him wait! If he loves you he would have that house done just to be with you! you already have two kids do you want another one, a 51 year old one at that? Maybe he isn't ready but then if he wasn't he shouldn't have asked you! He is makeing excusses. Try this if you are haveing sex with him tell him you made up your mind no more sex till your married if he is getting it already why would he rush to get married? I understand he wants to make this house bigger for your two kids but buying pigs or chickens and haveing to put off the house for the animals is a  excuse! He want you to live with him but not to get married it sounds like so that he will have all the beneffits of being married with out being married! Don't give in to that or you may never get married. Think of your two kids what kind of signal will you be giveing them if you do this? Like you said neither of you are getting younger! Only you can decde what to do it's your life and your kids life's do what is best for all of you! If you let him to keep makeing excuses he will do it. If he really wanted to marry you he would have that house done befor now! He would spend all of his time working on the house that he could spare. Not sure how long you have been waiting but It don't look like you will be getting married anytime soon! There will always be something for him to do that he thinks is more important then the house! That means these thing are more important then getting married to you and have you and your kids to be his family! i understand this is a touchy subject and hope I wasn't to harsh! Good Luck!
543296
Just mention the excellent probability of threesomes and I'm sure he'll be fine with it. He won't leave you if you're pregnant...