we were separated and I dated someone else.  I led him to believe there was sex.  There was not.  I did it to get him to leave me alone-at the time he was in the begging stage.  Now we are working things out and I so regret hurting him and recognize the damage.
120810
Causing him to believe something untrue was true, was probably the worst you could do, but obviously born of pain, jealousy, feelings you didn't understand, believe in, or could control.\n   I'd have to say,, at this point, if you honestly regret and repent, all you can do is be honest, show by your actions, behaviors, your regret and true desires,,,(not meaning become more degraded to either)  AND endure the pain, distrust, sometimes anger,,,maybe even dismissal, as part of the pennance, and believe that it could take a lifetime.\n   Backing up, but already having delivered my sermon, and with no desire to condemn,,,It may be that he "BEGGED" beacuse of the devestation you caused and his devotion to you???\n   If you truly want this to be healed, don't expect it to be forgotten. It may however, be forgiven and in both efforts toward healing, there may be enough salve to make the scar tissue less an issue?\n\nRev. Steven
492754
I'd say...I jumped into this relationship and now I regret it. I don't want to hurt your feelings, but I need out. Then, leave. You are right, if you keep on it will hurt more later and I promise you...the longer you wait, the harder it will be to do.
14301
My ex-girlfriend. Her name was Amie. I posted a Christian ad at the personals and she responded telling me everything I wanted to hear.  I looked at her profile and it looked as if she wrote it specifically to match everything I was looking for.  She posed as a Christians girl but after months of her lies being exposed, I found out she was a prostitute (luckily I wasnt having sex with her) which would explain why she was always getting drunk and grabbing at my "member".  I can honestly say I know how it feels for women to be sexually harrassed and "man-handled" all the time- this woman never stopped! Anyways after months of her trying we quit hanging out after some serious arguments- she called me 3-4 times a day to argue with me and hung up on me as soon as she got me angry- it was very hard to remain a Christian with her and even worse when we split up. I got tired of her calls and insults so the last time she hung up on me I called her and left a message and emailed her to tell her what a worthless piece of crap I thought she was- 2 days later I got served with a restraining order and ended up going to court in front of a judge she knew personally (probably a client) and he did not let me say one thing in my defense- so I have a restraining order on my record because someone who wouldnt leave ME alone, got mad when I responded to her insults. I NEVER went to her house or called her to harrass her, she did it to me! Needless to say I am not too happy with our legal system when an innocent person can be victimized so easily by a lunatic with the courts help. The story is much longer but I tried to shorten it up - but this was something I asked for, but found out later it was bad for me- Although, maybe what I was asking for would have been ok, if she wouldnt have been an imposter!?
159510
When something similar happened to me, I tried to forgive but I could not forget. I ended up having to leave him for my own sanity. That level of betrayal is unforgivable.It sucks but you don't seem to be able to move on with her so maybe you so move without her.
398945
it's about power of control to see who the weaker sex is and guess what girl you lost and he's laughing at you for being this way. ( get over him and move on find another boyfriend and have him to kick his ass  and tell him to stay the hell away from you for now on, you got it ) don't let him make you feel any less than you already feel and don't show anymore feelings toward him after this. ! sorry to sound Harsh but guys like that make me sick too !
502809
My mate has just been dumped by her boyfriend of 6 years - cos he said he needs time to himself. Imagine how she feels - you were only with this guy 8 weeks.\n\nJust think people need to put their problems into perspective a little bit. I know you must be feeling cr*p right now -but its not like you dedicated half your life to this guy. And if he wants you to change your opinion on something as big as sex then really he's not the one for you anyway.\n\nps - most men are weird. \n\npps - i was very prudish when it come to sex - but my mind has been opened ...... opened in the very best possible way
187199
They do it because they are dumb. I just got out of a realtionship like that and he wants me back. He is a big loser all they want is sex and if you don't give it to them, they WILL cheat. I cryed so much over him...hes a loser
323623
You should seriously ask yourself whether you truly believe that he wants you not just sex! Why did he pursue you for so long yet flee the coop at the first sign of trouble!! That is truly immature! He showed that when he couldnt have you the chase was good but as soon as he got you it wasnt good any longer! You should consider whether he is worth the trouble!
278393
well...recently...I ended up cheating on my last boyfriend because he disappeared for two weeks then came back and ignored me for a week and I didn't know what was going on so when an old friend of mine put the moves on me about 50 times within one sitting...saying "no" got to be to hard. I should have just left, but I was so upset...I don't know what I was thinking.
570225
What planet are you from?  Are you goinf to put up with this kind of treatment?  Punishing you for what?  I would dump him so fast it would make his head spin.  No one in a relationship has the "right" to "punish" one another.  This is the cra ziest thing I have ever heard of.
222620
In the early stages of any relationship, it's easy to have blinders on. To not want to see who and what the other person is made of. Don't be too hard on yourself, you aren't the only person in the world who has done this, and god only knows you won't be the last! \nMy question to you is this....Now that you know this info...what are you going to do with it? \nHoney don't stay with someone who emotionally, sexually, or physically abuses you. You deserve so much more!!!
36436
this guy i was dating: i was "Dangerously In Love" with him,but all he could think about was my "Humps", so "Hypothically" he said "Wait", i only have "4 Minutes" so baby let me tell you about my "One Wish",i said no because i dont want to hear from no "Scrub", and from someone who thinks hes a "Hustler". so to end this conversation i told him that im going to just "Shake It Off".......
86121
I agree, stop the sexual part of the relationship and see if he still comes around. If he is willing to still date knowing he isn't getting any, then he is interested. If not, then yeah you were a booty call, which then you should kick him to the curb and find someone you deserve. Good Luck!
148242
Its sad but true that the only way to get even is to pick yourself up, swallow your pride and accept you made an error of judgement in going out with this guy. If he sees you out there enjoying yourself and looking good, that is the best revenge. Don't stoop to his level and think of nasty tricks, you will get a bad reputation and he will realise he did the right thing by dumping you.
135542
That is so sad to hear, but i dont think that it will hurt because it seem like this one night stand boy done already popped your cherry (not to sound nasty or nothing but the last boy done open you up) it  always hurt at first when they stick it in but then after a while the pain is going to go away
105448
i've dated a guy like that.  he was very shy, but very sweet.  I helped him break his shell, and then ripped his heart apart when we broke up.  I still feel guilty to this day and wish I would of kept him. he was a sweetheart, i was young and flighty.  i learned my lesson, and he had enough experience to move on and find a very nice wife and just started a family. i'm very happy for him.  can't say this will happen but if i had to do it again i would. we both benefitted in the long term.  as for the masturbating, all guys do it, and all to different degrees whether they have had sex or not. it's not so much sexual as a tension release for them or something to clear their minds.  like a journal but they only get as far as sharpening the pencil.
564992
Usually assault is intentional. It sounds like your partner didn't mean to hurt you and probably didn't hear you. If your partner is loving in every other way and this is the first time you've been hurt, I would chaulk it up to getting carried away in the heat of the moment. If it happens again or becomes a habit, then it's time to reevaluate.