i went out with a guy he was trying to force me to give in easily but i did'nt because of this he stoped coming to me, this guy assured me that he really does love me. but i dont understand this if he does love me why cant he wait a little bit longer.
133013
What kind of love does he have for you if he can't understand you and be patient? I mean even if he really does love you, do you need that kind of love? He needs to understand your situation, your needs and your requests if he can't understand any of those then who cares what he thinks. Don't blame yourself and think about what you're about to do not about what you've done because it definitely wasn't wrong. \nGood luck! :)
138355
that sounds like a no.  if he really wanted you, then he would make time for you and make an effort to go out with you.
616390
complete openness should already been present before a relationship should have started. Too often we rush into things for many reasons not taking enough time to get to know one another. then we get together and wonder why it doesnt work out. love isnt compromise its about love and acceptence. trust and honesty. he pushes you away means he has none of what it takes to be a good understanding loving caring mate. sorry but I say respect yourself and you can do and deserve better.
563556
Maybe it's the fact that I'm a little older.  But I feel that when a man has doubts about his feelings for me, then it's best that I leave him alone with his feelings.  I refuse to let a man keep me dangling and waiting.  Is it worth the wait, possibly?  But I can't wait forever and so I continue moving on with my life.  If he comes around then great, if not then I know it's not meant to be.
235358
It sounds like he may be trying to push you away in the hopes that *you* break up with *him.*  He may be too chicken to do it himself.  The problem is, is that it's affecting your self-esteem.  You don't deserve to be treated that way- being used is no fun, so don't allow it!  Think about where you see yourself in 5 years.... still in the same place???.... .don't waste any time.  Believe me, there are guys who will treat you right.  We teach people how to treat us- don't allow it anymore!!
399259
Very possible.  Or he thought you were dragging your feet.  It is understandable that as more time went by, and he began feeling more insecure, that he distanced himself from you.  It was probably a way for him to protect himself in case you backed out.  Now that he feels more assured you will proceed he feels free to express his love for you again. I hope that helps.
86676
Gosh. I totally understand everything you are saying.. just give it a little time.. you know what you want.. but your just waiting on him, right? ok... just wait. Love will always wait.. remember...love is love
100236
it means they think you are ok together and stand a chance but not sure if it's "love" yet, or don't want to admit it till they're sure of what they're feeling....give them time but don't rush it, it sounds they are the type who take this seriously and honestly and are worth the wait (not too long though)....
241517
He certainly sounds interested, but not quite certain enough of what he wants (unless he is just looking to use you when it's convenient for him.)\n\nPerhaps he thought the visit that didn't work out was your way of politely trying to put him off?  If you think his intentions are honorable, you should just call him, so he knows that you are still thinking of him.  If that isn't enough to get him to invest more effort, then perhaps he's not worth the trouble.  Listen to your heart, but proceed cautiously.  Good luck!  :)
115661
Well, He does like you and is scared of you getting mad because he does. So he tries not to let you see how he feels. He doesn't know how to talk to you without letting you find out. Thats why he ask's you to call him then won't talk to you. He is just scared that you don't feel the same way about him. Rather than ask how you feel he would rather love you in sceret. My advice is to ask him out and if he says no then ask him, "why" but I'll bet he'll say yes. He may say he is to busy, if he does then tell him to let you know when he feels like going out. All you will have to wait is two days Tops,then he WILL call you for a date! If he makes you wait, DO NOT CALL HIM, AVOID HIM. If he calls don't bring it up he may call you three times before he ask you! But as sure as I'm setting here he WILL ASK YOU!!
594750
he said he loves u but can't be with you. thats it. he can't be with you, at least you know he loves you. find another guy.
65942
Odds are that he was seeing someone else and that person found out about you and him and he had to make a choice.  He probably had a lot of fun with you but he probably didn't fall in love with you like you did with him.  It could be that he used you, it also could be that he got hooked on you and didn't know how to let go of you till he was forced to.
357302
It means he wants to move on & he's hoping you'll leave him first saving him the trouble of dumping you and feeling guilty about it.\n\nDoes that give you your answer? Why are you still sticking around? If he doesn't want you, leave first chance you get and find someone who does.
226197
If you really like this guy (maybe even love him), then give it a bit more time. You can't really force anyone to commit. However, you should try to find out why he won't commit to you. Maybe that incident before wherein you found someone else while you were "somewhat together" is hindering him from committing to you because you just might leave him for someone else.
206414
you were right. you shouldnt lead him on if you dont feel the same way. the same thing happened to me with my boyfriend and he respected that those feelings hadnt developed for me. eventually i knew for sure that i love him, so when i told him he knew it was real and not a cop out. honesty and trust are the most important things in a realtionship, so never lie.
545733
You can still keep dating and not necessarily wait for him completely. Who knows when he will be ready to date again and be fully healed. With you there waiting on him he may feel pressured to get with you because he doesn't want to lose you and in turn jump into something he may not be ready for. Healing takes time and no one really knows how long that is...not even him. Just be a good friend to him now and be there for him when he needs you. If you really like him and want to be with him just be patient. Good Luck!
223071
Guys can tend to get clostrophobic in situations like this. Love having you there but only when they want you there. I'm not sure on his thinking after such a long relationship but it would seem to me that he is distancing himself because he does want out but can't face the fact that he will be alone and probably doesn't want to be alone therefore still calling you.He definately loves you but doesn't know the best way to address the issue, therefore keeps up the pretence that everything is fine by calling you, wanting you etc..\nOn the other hand i could be wrong, i'm no expert