People have always said men dont mind size, but i always think men aren't going to look twice at you if you're not instantly attractive. is this true? I feel i need to lose weight to look instantly interesting to men, i'm a size 14 at the moment.
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I know is important that men are atracted to you..but the real reason you have to loose weight is because of your health(cholesterol,heart attack,diabetes etc) besides your self steem!!
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It's instinct.  Men are attracted to women who can provide healthy offspring.  Big boobs triggers in your instinct that this woman can easily provide nourishment for a child.  As for the tall, short thing, I'm not sure.  Chubby equals unhealthy, so that's why you aren't attracted to them, but I'm not sure why short women turn you on vs. tall.  Maybe your own height has something to do with that?  My boyfriend is 5'10, i'm 5'8 and he doesn't like it when I wear heels.  I think it may be an alpha male thing.  You can't look like a (tough) alpha male when your woman is taller than u.
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Yes, I think so.\n\nPersonally, for me, short men are unattractive. (no pun intended). I am short myself, so I do not want to date someone who is smaller than me or just the same as my height. It looks really weird for me. But really do not get me wrong, I am not being shallow for setting physical standards, but hey, it's just me.
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It depends.  If you're ugly guys probably aren't going to notice you unless you give them a reason to.  Unfortunatly appearance is the first thing thats noticed.  If you don't have that you have to somehow show that you've got something else to offer(funny, smart, interesting, etc) in order to get noticed.  If you're attractive you're probably doing something horribly wrong that just annoys guys before they even get a chance to appreciate how good you look.  In this case all you have to do is start shutting your mouth, look pretty and wait to get hit on.  Then try not to screw it up.
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Every person has his or her own idea of beauty. I have a good friend who is attracted to very large women. Personally, I am very attracted to bookish, quiet, intelligent women who many guys may not look at twice. Yes, many guys chase after the Barbie dolls.... but not all guys do. More important than your looks is your attitude about yourself, and your openess to being accepted by a good man who sees the beauty on your inside and out. I bet one day it happens for you!
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Believe it or not some guys are not out just for looks. Now I am not going to lie there has to be a physical attraction. However I have dated some drop dead sexy women who have tried to use me as a rug, and I would not allow it so I got rid of them. I have also dated some normal everyday looking women who although were not model material did treat me  the way I prefer.
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ok its completely up to you what you do.If you are naturally skinny and want to stay like that,then that is fine.But if you want to put a bit more on like you do then that is also up to you.It is completely your decision.I have asked my boyfriend for you and he says he prefers nothing particular,and that te outside appearence doesn't matter.He says what he prefers is confidence with the appreance.And i agree that confidence is attractive.I think a good size is a ten.But if you really want to go up to eight i would advise eating a little more carbs such as more breads and rice but also mix it with healthy eating.Even if you want to put more weight on never become unhealthy.Yes it will put the weight on but 1)you will go up to a huge size  2)you may not look unhealthy but it is seriously dangerous internally.I hope this helps.
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yes, sadly.  looks are so important in our world that people only see the outer layer of our beings.  why should it matter if you are a little overweight? a little older? not too pretty?  these are the hidden prejudices.  and don't let anyone tell you they aren't there. \nolder employees are a valuable resource:\nolder women re-entering the work force aren't looking for husbands and trying to start families, so they would be more liable to stay in your employ longer.  \nolder employees aren't apt to be phoning in 'sick' [read hung-over /stoned from too much partying].\nmany men, and women, miss out on wonderful relationships because they are looking for that 'perfect' person.  and employers are the same. sad but true .\nif i were in h.r. i would be different from the norm and hire that gal that is a little frumpy or that fella with the 'not so perfect'  teeth as long as they fulfilled other qualifications.  i would suspect they would be far more loyal employees than the 'pretty ones' if only because i gave them a chance.  pretty people don't have to try as hard as they quite often can get by on their looks.\nhaving said all that there are exceptions to every rule!  my theory may not always prove to be right, but i'm thinking it is most of the time!
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I think you just needed to vent a little! You should be proud of how you look no matter what size you are. As long as you're healthy and happy, that is all that matters. Don't worry about what other people think.
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Like you said good looking and fit right.  That is the first thing you look for apparently and until you don't have them in the begin part then maybe something might work out for you.\n\nI will say this much I will admit this to the whole world I am not the greatest looking according to the media but I am happy with who I am and where I am going in life.  I have lost 123 pounds yet no guy that are GOOD LOOKING will look at me but I don't care I would rather have someone who is down to earth and smart for that matter.  They are worth of my time no matter how ugly they may think they are.
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Why should u care about what others think about the way u look?  \n\nDo u have a brain, do u use it... \n\nThe world is to concerned iwth looks, and it's really quite pathetic.  If you ahve a good heart and good soul, who cares if your 20lbs overweight.
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I cannot speak for others but size is not a preference to me. I know girls who exceed their BMI but yet are beautiful and very sexy (Yes, you CAN be beautiful and large.)\n\nIf you're hot, you're hot.
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Losing weight will not make you more attractive, per se. You might get more ATTENTION from people who would have never talked to you when you were heavier, but remember: part of attraction is allure. You need to feel good about yourself; feel sexy. Men and women can tell someone who has low self esteem a lot of the time from the way they look (don't make eye contact, walk with head down, etc), and even if not from the way you carry yourself, they will know when you open your mouth. Make sure you're losing weight to benefit your lifestyle - as a part of being healthier, not to worry about who you will ATTRACT. That stuff will come along at the appropriate time.
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I think that they are.  Guys who are fat is the norm for us (USA).  I mean I work with several HUGE men.  But I also work with a few HUGE women.  Who gets the most sh*t about being overweight?  The woman.  Most people think that a pretty girl is a skinny girl.  I'm overweight but not grossly so.  I hate feeling the ugly one when I happen to be standing next to a skinny girl and a guy checks her out and ignores me.  But hey I don't really hvae to worry about it.  I have a loving guy in my life who loves me for ME.
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i'm a rather big girl maself.I've noticed that guys dont usuually fall in love with me or want me at first sight but they get crazy over me after they know me. Most big girls have wonderful personalities i wish guys would look past size and get to know us first.\nOf course there are guys who get love the idea of having a big girl to use and abuse.The most important thing is 'Plus Ladies' are unique and wonderful people!!!
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The national average for women is a size 13. At your age it's hard to meet a guy thats interested n anything  thats less than a twig. How do you feel about your size? Are you comfortable in your own skin. Older men like curves, and you have them. Your not that big......your just curvey. Have confidence in your self that attracts men.   Find a hobby that preoccupies your time where you dont feel down and one that you can also get exercize Trst me it makes you feel better. Good luck Sweety1
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Depending upon the weight-loss...  yes, your appearance will change.  This is obvious, for the most part.  As far as your attractiveness...?  Well, a lot of that has to do with your own level of self-confidence.  When I lost weight, I found people approaching me right and left...  people that I had never thought I'd have a chance with.  It didn't take long for me to realize that this was mainly cause I felt good about myself, and this, in turn, was reflected in my outward appearance.  It's amazing how beautiful a person can look with a smile on their face and a twinkle in the eye.  :)