me and this guy were together for 1 1/2 yr. and we still talk. he has a girlfriend,but says he loves me. I want to be with him. but my heart need a break so I havent called him in 2 weeks. so should I call him or what.
123490
Don't call him.  You may think that it would be good to get together with him but in the end it will not result well.  A friend of mine went through this with a guy she dated for 2 years.  since you were together for so long there may be a part of you that will always have some feelings for him and the same could go to him having some feelings for you.  I think he is not used to this new relationship and thinks about what he is missing when he is not with you.  It will be for the best if you don't go back to him.  I wouldn't call him or hang around him very much because it will only make those feelings stronger.  Find a good group of friends that aren't exactly mutual friends that you two made when you were in the relationship, and hang out with them.
125210
If he wants to talk to you he will call. If he wants to see you again he will ask you out.\n\nDon't call him. Would you like to hear this line from him when you give him a ring? : "Oh hello there, sorry I haven't called, I've been busy" Pathetic.\n\nMy present boyfriend called me everyday and it was nice to finally find a guy who didn't play these "mind/dating" games.
376677
To start don't come on too strong until you get to know each other better. After a while if you still feel like you have to play games he's not the one for you. My boyfriends calls me to tell me he misses me if I haven't been in touch for a few days and we never worry about who's turn it is.  If we are thinking about each other we let the other person know and it very comfortable...but once i dated a guy who said i called him too much because i called him twice in one day.  Thank god we split up and i met me current boyfriend!
294868
Have u tried to call him? maybe something happened to prevent him from contacting you. Has he done this b4?  maybe he wants to break it off and doesn't have enough balls to tell ya.  So u can call him first or keep waiting for him to call ya.
107905
you sound almost like a mirror image of me but i'm at the 3 month stage and i don't know if he's with somone else, the other difference is he said to me that he wants to work things out i haven't seen mine in 20 days and yes im counting. the best advice hang in there, me personally i would tell him how much of a many swearwords he is for hurting me and how could he get with somone else so soon. but as i said hang in there im now ruling my own life but it is hard moving ahead without the one you love. Be Good!
538940
Appreciate that he is returning your calls and has let you know that they're HIS issues, not yours.\n\nYou've only been hanging out a month.  Depending on what he has going on, that's really not enough time to develop trust.  It happens over time, and this relationship is in it's beginning stages.  It may not be an exclusive relationship, though it sounds like it's heading that way.\n\nDon't put any more pressure on him.  He knows you're there, he knows you're concerned.  That's enough.  If you continue to call him, then you need to ask yourself "Am I really concerned about him, or am I feeling insecure because I'm not part of what's going on?"  He's having some challenges right now, and I think he's handling this appropriately.  If you're really concerned about him, then keep it about him.  Be available to him if / when he needs you.  \n\nWhat's going on with him has nothing to do with you.  Keep this situation in its proper perspective; otherwise, you will lose him before you've gotten things off the ground.
97947
If he continued to call you after the break up, then it sounds like he wasn't ready to give up either. Or, maybe he enjoyed being in a friendship w/ you, and when you told him your feelings, it freaked him out. Either way, I'd try to get in contact w/ him to see what's going on. It seems odd to me that he would leave you hanging like that, so maybe something happened to him...try calling. If you get in touch w/ him, and he simply doesn't want to talk to anymore, then yes, it gets better. True love never fades, but it does alter and changes over time. Just give it some time. Good luck to you!
436987
Wait for him to call?  He already called you several times and you didn't answer.  Why would you want to call someone who stood you up?  You are better off moving on, since he stood you up.  Do not let him walk over you.
305149
its only hard for us if we love the guy.  My BF of 4.5 years broke up with me 2 weeks ago and at first I kept calling, but I realized that I can't do anything about it. He broke up with me because he is trying to figure out what he wants to do with his life and doesn't want a GF right now. I realized that if he wants to talk to me, he will call.
300192
Hey girl, I have a strange feeling on why he is ignoring you...Do you think maybe his girlfriend found out he was talking to you? Did his girlfriend know that you guys are friends. The other thing I am thinking too is that he probably really likes you and wants you more than a friend. I also would like to ask you why are you in a relationship with someone you are not satisfied with? I think the issue is that both of you are in love with each other and he has realized this..Maybe he is trying to take his time to figure this all out...I would NOT approach him at his job right away to find out where he is. I would wait another week, try calling again, and if you are still unsuccessful, try and approach him in person. I think maybe right now he needs time to think about your relationship. He may want to take it further in my opinion, and right now is probably confusing for him. Give it time and it will work out! Good Luck!
38691
This guy is toying around with you.  He's hot, then he's cold.  Sounds like you'd be better off without all the mind games and drama.  Looks will only get you so far.  Have to have the personality to match!  Don't call.  If he calls, and you still want to be with him, make it conditional.  Ask him to be honest re: what he feels and to stop acting like such a "drama queen."  If he blows up or acts immature again, then leave the relationship alone.  At least you gave him one final chance to prove himself.  You are much better off looking elsewhere.
526178
Plain and simple, guys don't open up really at all, it takes a lot to force it out of us.  Usually something huge that pushes them over the edge will make them break and open it all up.  But to go and expect that out of a guy after 3 or 4 weeks is asking a whole helluva lot.  But you're a woman, and you need that communication link in a relationship, which is why relationships are so hard.  But then you have to add the broken heart into the mix and it really could go either way.  Him talking about wanting to do things with you in the future could be a lot of things.  Everyone has a perception of what they are saying, and the person who's listening takes it in a different way.  Happens all the time.  I wouldn't take it to heart, sounds like he's running, especially if he made that call without really knowing you at all.  Sorry you're all broken up about it, but best of luck
174684
you are not defined by this guy.  You are just as special today as you were before he came along.  Do you really want him to call you and apologize?  If you let him get back with you then you are saying that you are not important enough to stand up for yourself.  Plus, there will be a new guy very soon, maybe the man of your dreams, do you want to be crying for this loser when the next one comes along?  \nYou are special, and he doesnt deserve to hurt you again.
16711
If he says he broke up with her, that's all you have to go by.  If you like being with him, then continue on and don't worry about it.  I'm concerned that you have already slept with him, since you haven't even known him for 2 weeks ... but that's your choice, I guess.  I would definitely wait much longer before choosing to get so intimate with some one you don't really know.
484091
Like I tell everybody, I think that you should call whenever you get the feeling.  I hate how people make dating into a game.  There is no certain amount of time that you should wait.  Just because you waited a week doesn't mean that's the reason it didn't work out.  If the moment is right between two people and if they are feeling the vibe of each other, then it doesn't matter.
593171
I would wait for him to call you - a relationship when you are doing all of the chasing can fizzle out and become boring.\n\nAsk him why? That might be your best option.
332485
Yes, you had no right calling him.  Just because it was a guy that she was talking to doesn't mean she was cheating on you.  I can relate to this because I broke a 5 year relationship because of something like this.  My ex was accusing me to cheating on him with someone that was over 300 miles away because I talked to this person everyday.  I asked him to leave over 3 months ago it was hard to break it off with him but I couldn't live with him always looking through my stuff.  Now he says that he shouldn't have gotten into my stuff and acted like he did...but he did it himself over nothing. SUCKS THAT MEN ONLY THINK THEIR GIRLS CAN ONLY HAVE OTHER GIRLS TO VENT AND TALK TO!!!!