me and this guy who have had something going on for a while between us..but we stopped hanging out cuz i just felt like he was using me just to get something..i kinda told him that i wasn't the type of girl to make out with someone if i'm not with them. Anyways we hang out now, i've known the guy now for a year well hung out wiht him for a year..i've known him for a long time. after we made out a month ago thats when i had asked him what he wanted from me, basically he didn't want anything now, he did in the past but i hurt him,it sounded like  a like cuz if you knew this guy it was more like i crushed his big ego he has. So anywho i hung out with him and this friend of his whom i had known but i didn't know they were friends too. So we were hanging out keep in mind this was a month after i had told him what i said earlier and it was like the whole night he was bringing up his issues (commitment issues) like trying to get my point of view about them. Also saying girls need guys..
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wow you wrote a book...short answer, you scared him
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well..personally, i would have been a little offended if you had called me up and told me you couldnt go all the sudden...mainly because it seems like the way you told him wasnt exactly sorry, or anything...i think you should have been sweet and called him up and just explained what happend and ask if you could go on the date maybe later, or another day, and be really sweet about it...on the other hand, i think he overreacted and he should have at least called you and told you it was over...i think its okay for you to call him..you both should talk through this and either make up and get back together, or make up and go your sepreate ways...and for in the future, always talk about whats going on, and be sweet about it..guys have a tendency to be stupid and think that if you cant do something you dont want to be with them..i kind of went through this with my gf a bit, and now we talk through everything and even though we disagree on stuff and sometimes get upset with each other, we can always work through it and make each other happy :) good luck!
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Although it may have been the ADD, also guys just want to spend time with they're guy friends. I just went through this I know EXACTLY how you feel. My guy hadn't seen his friend in over a year, i got a couple of text messages and he as well forgot to call. I was heart broken. My uncle explained to me that its not that he was ignoring me or avoiding me, it was that he hadn't seen his friend in a long time and he wanted to do "guy stuff" with his best friend. Because I spend a lot of time with my guy it was hard for me to understand that he could spend time with someone else. Anyways, I forgave him and things are back to normal, always tell him how things make you feel. keep a journal or something every time something happens write it down, you don't have to address it but if it becomes persistent then talk to him about it. It helps and he will listen. Life's too short. Love and learn. good luck.
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Wow how old are you?\n\nThis guys a sleaze for taking advantage of you, he spent all the time with you? He just doesn't have to charm anyone else when your already there, thats all.\nThe oldest trick in the book , he wants a long term relationship?\n\nHoney, he's using you, ok, and you fell for it, im sorry.
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If all he wants is friends with benefits, then don't do it! I've made that mistake with a guy. You will get attached and it will hurt even more when he is done with the benefits and moves on. You will realize how dumb it was and how he just used you. Give him the option of just being friends or having a relationship. "Friends w/benefits" is nothing more than just telling a guy it's ok for him to not respect you, to just use your body and not have any regards for your feelings. I know since you like him, it's hard to walk away from, but think about what lies ahead.
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It sounds like he probably had some interest in you but possibly not beyond friendship.  I'm betting he has another girl that he likes and he is shutting you out because of that.
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Sounds like the 'I don't want to go out with you,but I don't want you going out or showing any interest what-so-ever in any one else' syndrom.Don't let him stop you from having a good time when your out and don't let him stop you from talking or even fancing another guy.He didn't want to be with you,thats his loss and somebody else's gain.If you allow it he will come between any relationship you form,even if its just friendships.Let him carry on acting like a spoilt and sulky child,just don't let him spoil things for you and yes,I think you would be better of just having him as a friend but,in all honesty,would you want him as a friend if he acts like this.
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Sweetheart. I know how much this hurts. He chose what was most important to him and that was his friends and not you. If he loves you, Then YOU would have been his choice instead of his friends. I am pretty sure you wouldn't have minded hanging out with all those friends, but the girl that intrudes was in the middle. You deserve SO much better than that! If I were you...I would try to get over this guy. \nI am sure you told him how you feel already, but if you haven't, do that. You are going to have to have closure. \nMove on by showing him what he is going to miss out on by his choice. Always look your best! If you have any good looking guy friends that are single...Spend some time in the public eye with them. \nDon't go out with anyone else until you are ready, but do move on. \nHe sounds like a jerk and doesn't deserve you! It's true that a man will chose his girl over and above all else when he's in love. He didn't do that and he didn't deserve the chance to start with!
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I think you're going to have to let this guy call the shots unfortunately. The person who did the breaking up is the person who really has to decide whether or not they see something they didn't see before or just want to give it another try. If you really want to be with him then you might want to bring the subject up in a serious way and let him know that no matter what he says or feels it doesn't have to change anything between you. You could just say something like "You know we've been friends so long and really still get along so well, I've thought about whether we should try again. What do you think?" If he says he's not interested then just back off and continue the friendship. It's more important to keep that in tact especially since you have been friends this long.
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This guy doesnt sound like hes being considerate of you in ANY way at all. He is using you. A guy who cares for a girl shows consideration. A guy can say anything to a girl but what do his actions tell you? Those speak louder than words. He is making everything about him and nothing about you. Is that what you really want?
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try talking to him and be honest. If it ends the friendship, then he was obviously just playing at being a friend while his mind was working in a different direction.
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if you fell uncomfortable..and you cant say that to him..then he isnt being just a friend. You should just not hang out with him anymore. If he is a friend then you should be able to set bounderies and such without hurting his feelings. Even if he isnt meaning it in a certain way..its how its coming across to you..and he needs to know that...either way if you cant be open and honest he isnt a good friend.
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It's a week since you asked.  Maybe it all worked out in the meantime.  \n\nIt sounds like he's not very good to you when he's around his friend.   \nMaybe you could ask him why?  He might not have realized.  \n\nHope it works out for you.
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Don't worry too much about it, maybe he went out with you and decided he didn't like you as much as he thought he did.  Men (and women) are like this all the time and instead of being honest and telling what it is...they do things like this.  He's trying to "let you down easy" and not confront the situation.  My advice is to get involved with other things (friends, family, etc) and keep it moving.  You can't get someone to be interested in you if they aren't.
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I'm not emailing you...sorry, I don't need any more friends but it sounds like your not even interested in this dude. Why would you even consider dating him if you don't even like him? Remind yourself why it didn't work out with you guys to begin with and just tell him your not interested anymore. Or if you think there might stillbe something there spend some time with him as a friend. No sex or kissing...really just friends for awhile.
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What help do you want?  To know if he's interested in you?  I'll assume that's it.\nWell, it sounds promising.\nBut think, does he want to have a relationship with you or just have sex with you?  Is the chasing ever going to amount to anything?\nHave you talked to him and at any point told him you're not ready to date or you're not interested in a relationship?  If so, that could be why nothing has happened for him to show real interest in dating you.\nIt's a good sign that's he's not accepting free sex from anyone else, yes.\nThink hard, if you told him you were ready for another relationship, would he cringe or look hopeful?  Not sure, try telling him something along these lines, without directly involving him in the question.  See how he reacts and gage by that.  Or, just have a conversation about it.  \nI had a similar situation, except when I made a move back, he totally stopped wanting me.  Until I hadn't seen him for a year and had finally given up and started dating someone else who I love.  Then he saw me and couldn't stop trying to hold my hand and telling me how he made a mistake.\nSometimes guys who chase do it because they don't know what they want and, when they're confronted with it, they don't know what to do with it and turn into jerks.  They might come around later but you don't want a guy like that, trust me.
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i think he likes you but wasn't ready to make a big commitment after his last break up. so that's why he said he just wants to be friends! and next time the subject comes up on IM just say you do like him. i hope everything goes well!