One day i went to go pick up my two children from their grandparents house after staying the weekend and they told me that i could not take my children cause they got gaurdianship over my kids by god knows how. I was never served any papers , never went to court or even knew of what was going on. Can somebody please tell me how exactly how to go about handleing this kind of situation. I miss my babies so much but i just dont have the money to py some lawyer. i know the had to of went at this illegally and if i could just get in court i know i would get them back, these people are not the greatest when taking care of kids. They did it out of spite for my x. Somebody please help me im begging you. you would be my hero just to tell me what to do. Who to talk to. god bless you and your family.
136054
first off call the cops. they may be lying to you. second contact the legal aid dept of your area. they can help you out if you don't have the money.
522608
WOW you stepped in it this time. She is illegal, get her deported and take out an order that stops her from taking your child (an American citizen) you can do that I've seen it done in Virginia. I forget what it is called but if your lawyer doesn't know what to file ask him to ask another lawyer maybe one that has been around a while.
329660
I know a lot of states won't allow the argument that one parent works and has to take a child to a sitter and the other parent doesn't.  I went through this same argument with my ex husband.  I worked full time, and he didn't.  The judge said that it wasn't admissible into court as long as I had a safe place for my son to be while I was at work.  The judge then ordered that he had to watch my son when I was at work, so I wouldn't have to pay a babysitter.  Even if you don't get full custody, you can probably get to have your child whenever your ex is working or away from home for an extended period of time-ours was two hours.  The fact that he is a corrections officer doesn't really help him.  The judge is going to look at your charecter more than your job, unless your job is illegal.  My husband is a truck driver, and his ex is a stay at home mom, and we still won full custody of his three girls.  Come on, most truck drivers have a really bad rep of being vulgar jerks, but it didn't seem to matter.  If he is calling the police and claiming you are refusing to return your child when ordered, have the visitation drop off changed to the police station.  There is always someone there, and they make great wittnesses to pick ups and drop offs.  That is what we had to do.  My husband's ex kept bringing the kids home two and three hours late, but as soon as we moved pick up and drop offs to the police station it changed.  Evey time you drop your child off with him, they can give you documentation that you were on time and the child was in good health, ect.  Also, keep a copy of your custody arrangement handy.  That way when he says you're breaking it, you can pull it out and show you are following all of the guidelines it gives.  If you can record every conversation you have with him.  If you can't record them, keep a journal and write down everything he says and does around you.  If you keep it up all the time, not just sometimes, it is admissable in court, and it will give the judge a good idea of the kinds of things he is saying and doing to you.  Just keep on doing the best you can.  It won't be easy, but don't despair.  Let him keep being a jerk about everything.  As long as you document EVERYTHING he will hang himself in court with his behavior.  Good luck and God Bless:)
63069
First thing you need to do is to go get you're self some help.  Even if you don't think you need help go get some.  Becuse you're telling everyone now that you're not lieing and no one beleves you.  You could try getting a lawyer but what happens if all they do is take the kids away from there father?  The court has the right to move you're kids anywhere it wants.  Have to ask you're self is that fair to you're kids?  Or you can lose wich means you're never be able to see you're kids again.  Not to much can come from getting a lawyer.\n\nBut if you get you're self some help the cort is more likely to beleve you and the person who is giveing you the help.
659539
oh my dear, what a tradgedy. i am so very sorry.\nim sure if u take these children on, u will be a wonderful mother because u love them and obviously care very much. you are lucky to have such wonderful, supportive parents. take them up on thier offer of help and im sure u will do a good job. with parenting, u learn as u go along. all parents make mistakes but that is how we learn. just do your best, that is all u can do. u sound like a truely wonderful person and obviously your mate saw this in u. im sure u wont let her down. all any mother wants is for her children to be looked after and loved. it takes a special person to do this and it sounds like u are that special person. i admire u as your life will be changed forever and it will be hard but take all the help and support u can get and i am sure u will do great. you are a true friend and a very special person! i wish u all the best.
46995
Send her a certified letter about your intentions of picking up the kids. Actually show up at the designated time and have a witness.  Bring your written visitation decree along with you and notify the local sheriff's office of your intention to enforce the divorce decree.  Keep a written book of all of your attempts to visit your kids. If you find her new phone number, record all future calls.  Gather your child support receipts in a shoe box if you don't pay through the Court.  File contempt of court charges.  If you can't afford a lawyer, be willing to represent yourself in court.I spent $40,000 to get visitation for my husband.  I was the new wife and I kept good records and tape recordings and if I had to do it again, I would have represented him myself.  After 2 years he won visitation and it was very complicated...Don't stop paying child support and read the Book of Psalms in the Bible....
192206
Wow, I had one of these guys too...there are so many around it is unfortunate.  In my humble opinion, real people with issues get screwed because of dead beat dad and lying mothers.  There are so many guys that ditch a girl when she gets pregnant that when the court sees a guy who wants to be involved, they don't really care why. It's financial too..they figure if the guys is sending money, the state won't have to.  And so many women lie to get back at the guy, that we have lost our credibility in the courtroom.  I really feel for your situation.  Here is what I did..I spent years and thousands upon thousands of dollars trying to do the right thing through the court, and constantly getting told that I was wrong, etc...it made me crazy.  So, I just threw the door open to the guy..said lets stop fighting, this is ridiculous, neither of us can afford this, etc.  Said, visit whenever you want...and guess what?  Since the ball was in his court, he barely comes around anymore.  I don't know if you wish your children to have a relationship with their father or not...not that I think you wish them to not have a father, but if he is abusive, etc...I don't know what your situation is there, but this worked for me.  Best of luck to you, and hang in there.
335534
I'm afraid you're stuck.  In the court's view (and mine too), you helped make that child, and, thus, are responsible for helping raise him.  Your ex's response to you, however, is mean and vindictive.  Someday he will find out you are alive and wonder why she lied about you.  Continue the child support for your son's sake.  At least then you can say that in spite of the meaness of his mother, you still did everything you could to help in his rearing.  He will someday understand that it was his mother that forced you out of his life and that it was not your decision.  If you stop child support to spite her, you will hurt your son as well.  If there is to be any hope of a relationship between you and your son when he is eighteen (then your wife can not longer stop you legally), you do not want to hurt him in any way or give your ex any more fuel to use against you.  Be the better person and then stick it to her when you tell your son the truth when he is eighteen!!
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Do I no how you feel!! Welcome to the Black sheep of the family club :0)\n\nMove out of the house. You are the strong hold of the family. This is how I rationalized my situation. Now that I have been out for quite a while I get phone calls for help from my family. What should I do, or this is what mom is doing how can I....\nAs far as not being able to release the same way they do to you what I did is find others outside of the family....Parents are supposed to be there for there kids but in todays world this is not always the case.\nGood luck it will not be long before you are out on your own...
358826
First of all there was a lot you could do and it would have been much simpler to do it, you should have taken your son to a safe place, and left that crazy,immature,self centered,imbecile of a girlfriend of yours to do whatever she chose to do.\n Now you have opened a serious can or worms, even with a good lawyer you are in for a nightmare.child services can get involved,and you probably have no witness or way to prove any of your story,and even if you did,your still going to have to deal with kicking and striking her ,and to compound it ,the child was in the house at the time.\n What you need is a good lawyer,voluntarily get yourself enrolled in parenting classes,and counseling,and try to get your parents or some responsible adult to petition for temporary custody on the grounds of best interest of the child.\n Once this is resolved,petition for custody of the child,or a declaration of guardianship for your son, and petition for your girlfriend to have supervised visitation with her son only.\n Good luck, get enrolled in parenting classes and counseling today,to demonstrate your responsibility and intention to the court ,they aren't going for the "what else could I do" defense, and get yourself a good family lawyer who specializes in child disposition cases.
587059
My ex pulled stuff too. Your ex will probably get away with it. Just concentrate on the custody. People like your ex will find a way of getting out of paying and you don't want someone like him raising your child.
641993
get a damn good lawyer and sue for alienation of affection. Simply put if a child is taken from a family and they have done the circus route and within the time specified then by every law I am aware of then Social Sevices has to "give back" the children.\n\nIt is the laws that state it is the job of "Social Services" to try and keep families together using whatever means necessary in order to have a reunited family unit.\n\nOk so its the government but they still must go by same laws it just makes your job a little harder and unfortunately they have the county sheriff and your neighbors or family who say one thing but with a good lawyer can be made to look totally in a different light in court.\n\nAlso, file a petition in the family court with jurisidiction over the matter for sole custody. It's free cuz "Social Services" has already filed the motion to remove. remember your under the gun for time so file soon. Also file subpeona's for as many "fine upstanding character witnesses" as you can. The more stable and even a cop or counselor or two really won't hurt. They are required by law to report any suspisions they have to the court anyways so their word carries more weight in court especially if ts a judge who has dealt with them before... make sure the judges like them though. Don't get the one who pissed them off the last case they were on... lol... j/k\n\nTell them to be careful. What state they live in? Also write to Congressman, State Reps, Senators, Mayors, Govenors... you would be amazed who will contact you! Trust me on this...
141855
I reported a man who kids use to come to my place of work and tell me mommy and daddy make us do all kinds of sexual things,it was all done in secrect,but,they took the kids away and the grandparents have custody and he got 7 months in prison,she was ordered to stay away from the kids!sometimes,speak up to help these poor children,I do,it breaks my heart!The police interviewed the children and both parents where taken in,I still don't understand why she didn't get any time coz she also has aids and probably gave it to her 2 kids!so sad!I pray for them every night!Young children don't know how to make these things up and that was enough to get him arrested and have the children taken away!
62247
Any local attorney will be willing to give you a free consultation and can help you to find an afforable attorney and even work with you to get affordable payments. Good luck. If he took your kids to Florida without your permission then you should press kidnapping charges against him.
308975
Sorry for your troubles, be nice if you and her could come to a agreement on your own.  Question that we really need to know to give fair answer is why she doesn't want you to see them, that could be very important in this.  I usually don't come back to questions unless I'm emailed so.\nIf you get a lawyer, just make sure he knows the threat, so when you sue for visitation, you can allow for this, in other words, part of the order will be if the kids live greater than say 100 miles, yall have to split the cost of getting the kids back and forth and you get them one weekend out of the month, and if they live locally you still get your one weekend, then it's to her advanage to just live close, because moving only cost her money and stops nothing.  I'm not sure how the courts deal with grandparent visitation, I know they award it, but not sure how.  I know that my ex tried to move away from me during our custody battle and I was able to get a order preventing it till the hearing, so I bet you can too.  Good Luck.
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well' we had a hearing for custody i was present the mother was not it went into record.   you can appeal the order.\n\nlegal aid in the state of wva is free or low cost they will help you i am sure the state has not kidnapped these kids the state does not take kids, unless danger or no one fit is able,  these circumstances should be explained to an attorney many will consult without a fee;  keep trying
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I would suggest that you consult with an attorney.\n\nIn almost every state, if there is a CPS proceeding, or child in need of care proceeding, you are eligible for an appointed attorney if you cannot afford one.\n\nI urge you to contact an attorney licensed in your state to assist you.  For a referral if you are not eligible for a free attorney, contact your local or state bar association.  Please... don't try and do it cheaply.  Your kids are worth it aren't they?