I recently had a baby, he's 3 months old. I have a history of depression, but now my husbands leaving to go fight in the war.... medicine is not helping, what can I do to help get over this hump? Any suggestions?
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Do you have family?  I would stay close to your family, and your husband's family, and lean on them as much as possible to help you through this, at least initially....
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Baby that  will hurt, please don't do that, you need to talk to some one who will give good advice and listen to your problems, Do you love the Lord, I hope so because When I have no one to talk to I call on him, He is the only one that helps me thru and in a way of his own he may send someone to me to help or give me an answer to my problem, Honey God Works in amazing ways, just ask him to help you and sincerely know and believe, I promise He will help.  I now how you feel,  a time before I thought about ways of taking my life but the Lord stopped me and I know that if he helped me out of my depression, that he will do the same for you.  God Bless You.
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Maybe its because of all of the stress being put on you being a soldier and all. Here is a remedy that just might make you feel better.First off you should just talk it out with your wife. Secondly, play with your child, children tend to be happy.(Take it from me Im a kid)And lastly try and do something that makes you happy, or just stay in a room by yourself away from anyone so you won't take your anger out on them. I really hope this helps you.God bless. Bye for now. :)
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I'm the one with depression in our marriage, and I can tell you it is a tough situation from both sides. But we have been married for 26 years and the last 5 years have been our happiest, so don't give up.\n\nYou say that medication used to help your husband. It sounds like he needs to change his medication if what he is taking no longer works. That happened with me - after a couple of years on one medication or a combination of medications, they didn't seem to work any more. Then my doctor and I would have to try a different medication or combination of meds. Sometimes it would take two or three tries to find the right one.\n\nIt is not an easy process, but don't give up on your husband, and tell him not to give up on himself. I know *exactly* how he feels, believe me.  But in order to feel better, you have to *do* something. And that's the hardest thing in the world when you're depressed. But for the sake of your loved ones, and most of all for your own sake (this is speaking to your husband), you have to do it - go see your doctor, go to your therapist, whatever might work.\n\nGood luck to both of you. Feel free to email me if you like.\n\nP.S.  Here is a support site that has message boards both for people with depression and for families and friends of people with depression:\n\nhttp://wingofmadness.com/
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Of course there are other things besides this, but make sure you get enough sleep at night (divide up the chores if possible, or simplify your schedule so you have more time), take time for yourself to relax (because you are busy, I would recommend scheduling "Me Time" into your packed days), and walk to more places if possible. I'm sure with 2 little ones you certainly are active enough, but walking with good posture should make you feel good (compared to bending over kids and stooping over to pick up the house). Put simply, you shouldn't feel like you have to "keep going" - you are allowed to "stop." Don't let yourself get stretched too thin! As women we tend to want to be everything for everybody, so we forget about ourselves. Nurture your family, but nurture your own health, too! Good luck!
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You have to take the next step, which is the hardest, that is accept it, in it's entirety...unfortunately that means allowing yourself to feel that emotional pain and self-control is key. The process isn't an easy one, but a doable one, and sometimes all we have the strength for are moments at a time, and courage strengthens them into hours, and then days...but we heal.  Friends are a great support system to help you cope, and keep busy, and sometimes just getting away for awhile is also helpful.  I found what helped me the most through a similar situation, was getting back into what I enjoyed doing that I had forgotten all about, which was pertaining to the arts, and I got involved with helping the less fortunate people in my community.  It took time, but as each day passed I regained hope, and strength with the help and kindness of what were once strangers, but now good friends.  A healthy diet, and rest is also very important because sometimes we forget to take good care of ourselves in stressful circumstances, which rob us from being able to focus properly, therefore make sure your daily routine starts with a healthy meal and ends with a good night rest.  Beleive it or not it does make a difference rejuvenating us almost, such a simple task to make an impact on our mind and body who figure?  A check up, with your doctor is very helpful, let him/or her know what you're going through.  Hope this is helpful, wishing you strength towards your steps to moving on forward.  Good Luck!
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There are a number of things to try:\n* If this has been going on for more than two weeks, see a doctor.  Medication can help.\n* Confide in someone, hopefully someone older and wiser.\n* The music and exercise do help, actually, it's been proven, but it will help more if you do it steadily, like 30 minutes a day.  Don't wait until you're depressed to do it.\n* Call a friend\n* Try volunteer work - it will give meaning to your life.  You can find it through www.volunteermatch.com or by putting in your zip code to www.pointsoflight.org.  If you work with people who really have it tough, you'll have an easier time counting your blessings.\n* Especially volunteer on Christmas Day.  It makes the day go faster.  If you can't figure out what to do, visit a nursing home or a veterans hospital.  They can really use you, and people will appreciate it.\n* Look up a poem called "Resume" by Dorothy Parker: it will make you laugh!  Or try any kind of humor, jokes or cartoons.\n* You need to get out of your head and off your pity party - you can change your life, but you need to choose to do so.\n\nBTW, personally I give blood.  It makes me feel needed, that someone out there can live because I stick out my arm for a few minutes.  It also makes me appreciate that I'm healthy.
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I've gone through spells of depression that have lasted months.  The only thing that got me through was prayer and friendship.  I'm not one who goes to church every week nor do I talk continuously about my spirituality but I can say that when I have been struggling with dark thoughts I pray and talk to friends and somehow I get past it.  In your new city, make yourself get up early each morning and get fixed up.  When you get out of the house you will immediately feel a little bit better.  Look your best and that will help you to feel more confident.  Call on a friend from home, maybe a sibling or close family member when you feel your lowest.  One of my closest friends lives miles away and her friendship still gives me a great deal of support.  Just talk to someone and tell them the truth about what is going on inside.  It will be a great release and you will not be going through it alone.  Remember to pray for yourself, ask for courage and strength of heart..I promise that you will be better before you know it.
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Sometimes, during pregnancy you will experience mood swings which includes being depressed, try seeking your gynae to clear this up first and then continue to ask your friends in church to pray. \n\nJust know that in all things God will help you and heal you. Ask Jesus to fill you everyday, cleanse by His blood. Sing Spiritual songs througout the day, read the bible and spiritual books to lift up your spirit.\n\nTake time to pray with your husband and do bible study together, share verses, this will help both of you to be closer.
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First thing first. Consult the doctor. If its psychosomatic, conscious relaxation will help. Keeping one self bussy and cheerful is better start to work towards mental health.
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depression alot of people deal with...alot of people deal with stress from other people like family feeling not good enough all different reasons...but u hurting urself dont make u feel better its a way to vent a little but ur still pissed or bummed out in the end...thinking that killing urself will help it wont...u'll have ur family thinking why did u do that..or why was he so stupid or selfish..and if someone or people dont like u then u killing urself makes them feel like they win..why give up on the fight..and let them feel like they win...prove them wrong by getting up and start thinking ok im goin to do this and this and get my life back on track...one step at a time..and if someone trys to say u cant do that or what r u doing..don't let them get u down get an attitude with them and be like look this is what im doin i dont need to explain to u, as long as ur happy screw everyone else...use ur anger into ur power and make urself stronger...seriously..i know ur thinking yeah right u dont know anything im goin through..thats right i dont know what ur goin through..but i know i overcome abuse and sexual abuse and mental and physical abuse my whole life and yeah i wanted to give up and die more than once and the first time i was 3 years old...and im still here im 24 now and happy and dont deal with depression anymore..i dont let myself get bummed out..i fight myself im like no im not letting this drag me down i know its not my fault yeah it hurts and sucks but ill get over it..u just have to think positive..u want to talk to me ill share what i can with u..my yahoo messenger id is the same as my name on here so i.m ill try to help u..but im just letting u know that killing urself is like giving up and life is a blessing and filled with fun and excitement u got to be adventourus and have patience for things to get better and enjoy day to day,it just takes time...
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Hang in there. The best way for us to heal from our problems is to help other people heal from theirs. Do some volunteer work at a hospital.  I just went through this myself, I know how you are feeling. Geting your mind off yourself and focused on the needs of others not only speeds up the healing process, but helps us learn from the pain.
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Exercise is a great remedy for depression.  Give it a try for a couple of weeks.  Really get your heart rate up; work up a sweat!  Of course, check with your doctor first.\n\nI went through a depressive period a while back and tried a few different antidepressants.  They all blunted my mind.  Exercise has been the only thing to help.\n\nGood luck!
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i've battled bouts of depression for years.this weekend i figured out that i probably should live in a warm climate in the winter, because from the holidays until the weather starts getting warm i just hate everything.   it took years to figure this out.  but sit down and try and feel why you are so down.  if it's not because of what is going on in your life, it could be something chemically going on in your brain.  and there are meds to help that.  just tell your doctor .  i know my doc gave me a couple of books to read about life,etc. and a prescription.  i analyzed myself and i think i know what the problem is now.  next step is what can i do about it.?  as much as i'd like to i can't go to florida every winter.  but i can make it a goal for myself.  please talk to your doctor.  especially if something is going on in your life.  doctors don't judge you.  they are there to help you.
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I have 3 children by myself,I have severe depression due to the death of my daughter and 20 years of domestic violence [I don't have that anymore]\nMy youngest is 1 and I get up in the night with her.\nI'm also learning to drive,studying law,decorating my house which I just moved into and selling on ebay in my spare time.\nI have no parents or close help.\nYou have to just get on with it,everyone else does.\nI'd love to be able to go on the sick,but I ain't got time to.\nIt's called being a grown up,everyone has anxiety,gets tired and stressed but the difference is most of us don't have time to even get to the doctors let alone moan about it all.\nGet tough.\n\nbtw I did sort myself out,I had 6 months of counselling,and anxiety can be part of depression.\nThe doctor can't cure your ignorance or self pity though.\n\nAnd if you are struggling that much why post a question about wether or not should you have another baby ???
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all these could contribute, and most often, i think it's from expectations and hormones... not that i thought badly of my babies, but pregnancy brings forth so many expectations and ups and downs, and afterwards, i found myself physically and emotionally and mentally exhausted... your body goes thru so many changes, bizarre and extreme, and it takes a strong support system to bring yourself back to "normal" sometimes... i have suffered and recovered from ppd, it's not some petty, poor-mom-excuse for choosing to be sad and depressed, it's very real, and has nothing to do with how much you love your baby, yourself, or your significant other...
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Wow, that must be really difficult to come to terms with. I'm very sorry to hear about such a thing. Although I myself have not been in any situation like that I can sympathise with you. My very close friend has simular problems growing up. We had been friends for years before she finally told me recently about it. Had I knowen when it was going I probably would have tried to stop it. But we live in the now. \n  I would suggest definantly talking with someone about it who you can trust and is understanding. You need an emotional crutch to lean on while you build yourself up and make yourself stronger. You have made it this far. All you can really do is continue to live. Talk with someone. Come to terms with it as hard as that might be. Confront it. I would also suggest you find an interest that you can totally bury yourself in. Going to the gym on a regular basis helps with all kinds of stress. \n  I can only hope that you do what you can to deal with this. I hope the best for you. And one more thing, its never your fault, you can always rise above anything if you try. Take good care of yourself. I don't pray much even while I'm deployed, but I'll talk to the big guy and ask him if he'll help you out. \n   Peace in the MIddle East!