I just found out that a family member has been spying on my internet activity because I forgot to clear my history. This family member is super hyper sensitive and if I confront him, I know I will have to endure a weeks long hissy fit. However, I feel very betrayed. Should I confront him?
124359
most definately  confront him ..and tell him that he is a creep and if he does it again he will be sorry....\n could this be a younger brother you are talking about..\nwell he sounds immature anyways.......
535303
My dear.........there is no doubt, that there are times on YA that you're going to run into something like what you ran into. The best thing to do the minute you feel uncomfortable, is to log off. Of course, if you feel threatened, report it. You have no way of knowing if this person is merely playing sadistic jokes.....or is a serious wack job. Be careful..............LATER
571603
It's time to hit the ignore button.\n\nYou won't hurt his feelings because he won't know that's what you did - you'll just no longer be bothered and he'll no longer see you on line.
218130
Yes, you should definitely speak to him about this particular issue if it bothers you. If not, it'll build up your suspicions very quickly and it will rapidly turn your relationship sour. Get it out of your head and clear it up while it's still early.
453350
i WOULD CONSIDER A RESTRAINING ORDER IF IT GETS MUCH WORSE AND MAYBE OPEN A NEW EMAIL ACCOUNT AND STOP USING YOUR EXISTING ONLY LET THE PEOPLE YOU TRUST AND FAMILY KNOW YOUR NEW ONE.  I would also get some anti-spyware programs for your computer lavasoft has a good one and also maybe a good anti-virus and firewall protection service like zonealarm  by zone labs.  Really it seems like you have a smart but jealous and vindictive hag out to ruin your life.  I hope this helps and seriously watch your back.  But first and foremost get a new email account.
48321
if you feel someone is after you, or gonna hurt you, GET HELP!!! Inform EVERYONE YOU KNOW that you feel you may be in danger. You should not go anywhere alone!!! Don't become a victim. I am a mom with 2 kids and a family, I care about you!! Write to me at: javagirl09@excite.com I want to help!!
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I understand how you are feeling. Not that it has happened to me but I can imagine how it would make you feel. I am married and if my wife were conversing with another man over the internet, I would be concerned. But if she went to all the trouble to wipe out the conversation logs. I would be doubly concerned. Yea, he may give you some reason as a matter of security, but he should have no problem in letting you see those logs before he deletes them. \n\nSome time ago, I was talking to another woman over the internet but as a rule, I would never say nothing negative about my wife. Of course you should not anyway. But we all get mad. And if we start talking to another woman or man about how we are unhappy about our spouses, we are opening the door for an internet affair. Another thing is I would try to get my wife to read the logs because I would let her know I talked to an online woman and I wanted her to be secure. \n\nTalk to your husband about it. Tell him you need to feel more secure about this. People are leaving spouses all the time and flying across the country for people they never seen. And tell him it would protect him too because you love him so much
414237
If you having feelings that your fiance is spying on you.  This means that if he is does not trust you.  If he is unable to trust you before you are married to this guy, what are you going to do when you are married.   (Does not sound very good).\n\nhttp://www.ewido.net This company was out of Germany and has since been purchased by AVG. Now the name is AVG antispyware. Still the same program with excellent technolgoy. When you download the program it will come with all functions an if you don't purchase in thirty days they will just remove the background scanner and the auto updates. You will update on a manual basis. Scans all 195,000 objects in my system.\n\nhttp://www.emsisoft.com This company is out of Austria. Almost the same as the new AVG. A2Squared free version download. They will ask you for you email address so they can send you a key that is good for life. You will get any new free version with the same key. Plus has rootkit protection and rogue dialer protection. (I have ADSL, but use for the added protection).\n\n(Both of the above program will find keyloggers.. A2Squared is the best for finding keyloggers installed in your pc.\n \nFor "zero day attacks", Attacks that hit before any security company has knowledge of the attack. I use a free software that is is excellent state of the art technology to identify any program that the behaivor is strange, like trying to download hidden files, etc. etc. Will get a pop up with indepth details, so you can decide for yourself if you want to allow or deny. Plus will block all malware and tell you if there are any hidden programs running in your system. http://www.cyberhawk.com\n\nClinical Psychiatrist, France
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It sounds a little bit dangerous. If you would be comfortable letting your partner know about it, it is probably ok. If you feel like you have to hide it, it is wrong. The fact that you posted this question also raises doubts about the wisdom of continuing the e-mails.
70168
you should not take him seriously he is obviously still sexually intersted in his ex and your isecurity has led you to snoop into his his personal email account because you do not trust him relationships do not grow and flourish on mistrust and insecurity and if you aren't dating others you need to start and move on or stay where you are and continue playing sneaky games
499868
first of all, that's terrible, you didn't deserve to be attacked!\n\njust politely ignore it, she probably wants to get a reaction from you. if you don't give it any more emotional energy- she will go away\n\nor-\nif you feel violated- write the yahoo people to complain\n\nor- if you really can't let it go. write back how you are feeling, that it was abusive of her to attack you for no reason, and perhaps she is striking out because something in her life is causing her pain. but- only do that if your real email is hidden and she can't reach you any other way (360 page, etc..) and you feel it's neccesary for you to stick up for yourself. there is nothing wrong with that.you can state your peace without being mean. just state the truth.
71869
Betrayal is one of the most tragic things that can happen to a person.  Betrayal from a friend is the worst kind.  I hosnestly don't know what I would do.  I would be heartbroken for sure.  would it make you feel better to just go kick his a**? Really, I am stumped on this one.  I can imagine the pain of betrayal, and would be at a loss as what to do.  So, I guess I'd just go to the person and tell them how much he has hurt me and tell them that I'd never get over it, how much I had trusted him, and then try to get on with my life.
71979
Just because she is a blood relation does not mean you have to tolerate her verbal abuse.You are well within your rights to tell her to put a sock in it.I would not blame you at all if you decided to trim back on the time you spent with her.Sometimes it's the only way to deal with negative family members.
240921
Well I wouldn't accuse him of anything....but I would watch very closely for any future "disappearances" or "unusual" behavior and then maybe confront and/or leave him.  Good luck! :)
181936
I think a lot of people feel safe and anonymous on websites like those to explore thoughts or curiousities without feeling like they are "really" doing anything wrong...since it is a computer screen...but the mental side of it...can destroy a relationship..yes you should forgive..but NOT forget..you know what he is truly like ..his thoughts...when you have your back turned..so be smart...but don't become obsessed over what he "might" be thinking or doing....then YOU could be the one to destroy the relationship and actually Create what you Fear most
667321
The truth will set you free. when you finally get in contact with him you make sure you tell him everything, Like how you didnt appreciate when he wasnt callin you and checking on you or nothing. Its alright to hear his side of the story but you give him a piece of your mind, and make him feel shity. you spending your time waiting on him to call, and he out doing other stuff. let'em know girl
150113
Is that your job? What would your job be like if the kids didn't trust you any more because they felt you had betrayed them? Wouldn't it be better if the district or the school offered a seminar on things parents should know about the Internet?