Especially when pornography in any form is one of the leading causes of marital problems, and the main struggle of men!
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It seems to me that media companies don't really care what they are putting onto the television, as long as its making them big bucks.  And seeing how many of the people in our hedonist society are driven more towards pleasurable things , the media knows that many of them will watch these shows that can be described as smut.  These days its all about sex, drugs, etc, and the media knows that.  Filth is on tv because it sells.
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Dear el ....\n\nPorn is powerful stuff.\n\nIt is often addictive, sometimes when we have neglected certain areas of our lives.\n\nWhat in your life might you be neglecting ?\n\nlearning to become comfortable with being a male ?\nlearning to be connected to others "\nletting go of "boy ways" and adopting "man ways"\naccepting that "porn beauty" is mostly not real\nbecoming "ok" with the beauty that people DO have\n\nThese are some possibilities.\n\nThey are all hard work.\n\nLife as a grown man requires hard work and is often difficult.
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It is a disaster wating to happen. Also a divorce in the making.
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Maybe you have an addiction to being addicted to sex.  The problem isn't the sex, it's the ADDICTION.  Hahahahaha.....\n\nFornication and adultery are not really permitted.
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What transpires in the mind, also transpires in the heart. If a married guy glances at another gal because she's attractive, there's nothing wrong with that. But if he ogles her and undress her with his eyes, then it's an issue.\n\nThere's a book titled: 'Pornography; an Affair of the Mind'. The author's husband got addicted to online porn.  The mind responds to certain stimuli; some good some bad. The key is to reinforce the good stimuli and avoid the bad.  Check out the book and read it with him.
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I don't know about you sweetie, but an addiction is an addiction, and he is addicted.  Marriage is Respect, Admiration Passion and Trust.  For sure the first two are not there, since this is grinding on you.  And Passion is a bit tuff, if he oogles 13 year old girls on the computer,,, eeewwwwww.   You may trust him not to betray you by cheating, but hey, I trust my dog too. You don't have a marriage, you just don't know it yet.  You have a rommate..... Porn addiction is about the toughest thing of all to cure. ..... next question is why did you marry this jerk???? and in my eyes, any guy addicted to porn is a jerk.  How do you not find this disgusting????  And why are you still there????  In your place, I'd dump him and get out of this marriage.....You'll only grow to resent this crap as the years go on.... If you have children, you want this guy to be their father?????Sorry, sweetie, you asked
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usually it is a problem with in \nthey need a n attitude adjustment, lol or therapy : P j/k
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Their problem isn't sexual; it's the inability to psychologically reconcile your desires with your relentless internal self-loathing and your hypocritical public pious, judgment against people who don't have an issue with their own sexual orientation.  They live in a world of fear and self-loathing.
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I personally have nothing against porn.  But it does sound like your husband truly is addicted and that is bad.  What is worse is even if you could force him to give up the porn he would likely shift his addition to something else. Plus the addition means he's not dealing with his life stress well, most likely because he doesn't have the right tools.\n\nIn the end you can't make him do anything.  But I would recommend you see if you can get him to go to a support group.  They might better handle his problem then just a therapist does. Especially if the doc doesn't even know the real problem.  But if he goes to a support group, he'll be openly admitting to the problem.  And it sounds like he really needs that first step before you two will get anywhere.\n\nI would also suggest you seek out a support group of your own, even if you husband won't go.  Most likely your own therapist could recommend a local group, may even have local groups you can encourage your husband to go to.
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-   Sin.  It's the #1 cause of mankind's problems.\n-   Greed and Pride (leads to much of the following)\n-   Crime (rape, theft, murder, child pornography, kidnapping, etc.)\n-   Crimes against humanity (torture, experimentation, genocide)\n-   Unwillingness to get involved (turning a blind eye when abuse  and injustices occur)\n-   Abuse (spousal and child, as well as other types)\n-   Politics (what a joke) \n-   Religion (killing, rather than loving, in the name of God)\n-   Environmental issues (pollution, global warming, poor use of natural resources, deforestation, etc.)\n-   Natural disasters (hurricanes, earthquakes, tornadoes, flood, drought, etc.)\n-   Economies (disparate global economies, poverty vs wealth)\n-   Starvation (especially in 3rd world countries)\n-   Disease (especially, but not limited to, 3rd world countries)\n-   Education (lack of edu. or poor edu. leads to poverty and a class of people who cannot defend or fend for themselves)\n-   Waste (indulgent over-consumption, poor stewardship of what we already have)\n-   Covetousness (wanting what others have that you do not have)\n-   Love of wealth and power (people will stop at nothing to get what they want)\n-   Unfaithfulness (not just to spouses, but to families, communities, work, etc.)\n-   Selfishness (Lacking the ability to empathize...demanding your way.  Make no mistake, this is a mass problem as well as an individual one)\n-   War\n-   Terrorism\n-   Slavery (it still goes on today...it's just disguised as "cheap labor")\n-   Sex slave trade (the wholesale abuse of women and children around the world)\n-   Immorality\n-   Lack of responsibility\n-   Judicial systems (when money can buy a better defense...)\n-   Drugs\n-   Addiction\n-   Teen pregnancy\n-   Organized Crime\n-   Lies, lies, lies\n-   Entertainment/Media (feeding the world its version of beauty, truth, etc.)\n-   News Media (oh the inaccuracies! and all the trouble that causes)\n-   Cultural misunderstandings or insensitivity\n-   Hatred\n-   Bigotry\n-   Egocentrism\n-   Sexism\n-   Racism\n-   Unemployment\n-   Poverty\n-   Homelessness\n-   Social Security (and other issues that face the elderly)\n-   Rights vs Responsibility  (when your rights step on mine, where does responsibility come in?)\n-   Child abandonment (the making of orphans throughout the world)\n-   Technology (creating a world that is increasingly interactive with machines rather than other humans)\n-   Human Desensitization through Media (i.e. violent images, violent actions, adult themes, lack of consequences, etc.)\n\n\nOkay, I may add more to this later.  This is as many as I can think of at the moment.
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lol. thats why they have porno
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Pornography is now mainstream media.\n\nInappropriate material is available on TV, movies, music video, computer games, etc.\n\nChildren are exposed to filth on a regular basis.  Adults that do not wish to participate are wxposed as well.\n\nIt stinks.
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Accepting the fact something is wrong is half the battle. Personally I think trust is another huge issue. Once trust is gone then a lot of people think they can fix the disorder by themselves and end up making it worse.
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It is called a sexual addiction and can be resolved (in most cases) through counseling.
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Because it interferes with moral or religious issues.
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Well' I look at it this way. If he is watching porn and getting off instead of getting off with you then most likely he is addicted to it. He needs help. It is not right for a man to fantasize about other women and getting off by it when he has a loving partner at home. Get him some help. If he refuses help you will wind up in divorce. I can hear it in your writing. P.S. He is giving himself to the porn not you. I know this must really hurt your feelings. Try getting him some help before it is to late.
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I'd get pissed at my guy definitely for watching porn. Luckily my guy doesn't watch it. But I totally agree with you. Of course some men are like why is it a big deal. They just have a hard time seeing it from our point of view because they just thinks its the manly thing to do. MEN!