my friend is about to ask a guy out for the 5th time. he said no all the other times. i dont think she should do it again. they are complete oppisites and he is totally rude. my friend is nice to everyone. i am mad at my friend (she does not know this) for getting ready to ask a guy out that is so rude to me, and everyone else. how do i tell her without her getting mad at me? pleeaaase tell me before she makes the same mistake again.
133414
Tell her straight out.  Say he's a rude person, he already rejected you 4x, and find a better guy (there's a lot of fish in the sea).
411921
I never got that whole if I date him no one can. if you guys are over, and you agreed to see other people then get over it, your not a very good friend if you wont let her have a chance at happiness. I don't see anything wrong with it if she was a good friend, but if she just stared at you and asked you why you were mad, that obviously tells you she's kind of a jerk, she obviously doesn't care about you or your feelings, considering you just told her you were still in love with him, if I started dating my friends ex I would have at least shown that I was sorry for causing any pain, but some thins cant be helped, such as holding back feeling for a guy, dang,...  then I'm sorry but if I were you I would have brought her down. keep in mind though that if you guys are supposed to be together you will and if he wanted to see other people then maybe you deserve better, unless it was your Idea in with case, WHAT ARE YOU BITCHING ABOUT. its not fun but remind yourself of 2 things first of all that she deserves the chance at him, and second of all that you may still have a chance of getting back together with him. I got back together with mine.  Good Enough?
537703
its most likely that the guy doesnt even have a clue what is going on. tell your friend that she sould just let him know how she feels and that she wasnts to go out or whatever
478139
maybe when he said yes to your friend, it meant he would say yes if YOU yourself asked him.  Guys get all weird when girls use eachother to get boyfriends. If your friend said he said he would go out with you, then you should've gone ahead and asked him.  Give him a break, the whole 'thru the friend' stuff is not dating-worthy.  Next time, go ahead and ask. Im not saying you'll get a definite "yes".\nhave a great day!
469826
Just tell her to ask him out and if he doesn't like her, His loss. I'm sure she can find better.
295923
Quit thinking he does/or doesn't.  Continue to talk to him and wait till he asks you out.  Then you will know.  Keep friends out of things.  The guy may have been embarrassed or felt pressured and you don't really know what your friend said to him to ask him.  Since he talked to you again afterwards, sounds like there is some hope for you.  Slow down.
394833
Yes, I think your absolutely right about everything  you said that concerns you, your friend, and this guy. Just be glad that it wasn't you with this guy no matter how good he flirts or looks. I really feel for your friend because if she gives it up to him he's going to be gone like the wind soon afterwords. Hopefully things won't get that far for him and her, but if they do I hope that maybe she'll learn a lesson from it. You seem like a very smart girl to me. Don't ever let yourself be taken advantage of. Your worth something.
422908
Case of sour grapes there - tell your friend you're going to give him a chance anyway, and make sure you also arrange another night out with her in case she fears abandonment.  Good luck.
664564
That's a hard situation cuz if you ask him out and he says no it'll be different. Have a friend ask him what it would be like if you guys were going out. He probably has already heard something like that just cuz. If he says it'll be great or something like that, go ahead and ask him. If he says "It wouldn't" like a man-biatch don't so you can keep ur friendship.  Good luck. :)
216009
It's a tough one.  But, from a female perspective...don't change your attitude towards her.  Most guys would start acting like a jerk towards her because they're hurt and can't handle the uncomfortable situation that they are now in as her friend.  I think you should just blow it off, don't make a big deal about it.  Act like she was the girl of yesterday, and a friend of today.  She could have been telling the truth or just making up an excuse because she's just not interested or ready for a relationship at the time.  If you show her that our friendship comes first she just may "see the light" and come around.  Or maybe not, and if so, don't sweat it so much-at least you'll still have the friendship, and hope for something more as long as you want a chance.
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i don't think anything about this situation is wrong. i personally didn't ever turn down anyone who asked me out before i was married because you never know what kinds of amazing people you might meet. so she said yes and now she doesn't like him. happens all the time. however, i wouldn't let him know that she went out with him just because she felt sorry for him. have her tell him that she just isn't feeling him.
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It doesn't seem to be polite for me to ask you a question, but one does wonder why you (a) would want to go out with someone who doesn't speak; (b) would have your friend act as a go-between (when you should take responsibility for your own relationships); and, (c) would expect for a person you don't know to behave in a way that suits you.\n\nMaybe you should just leave the guy alone. If he doesn't answer, that's his business. Besides, it may just be possible that he's ignoring your friend because he thinks this whole approach is not to his liking - that he's being objectified. He may be uncomfortable - and he may not be interested in playing this game.
466990
Sounds like this guy likes you...a lot.  I think your friend has a bad taste in judgement.  Any guy who keeps coming back for more is definitely interested.  Go for it!-- Don't listen to your friend, she may be jealous.
672417
I was just thinking the same thing. Look kids, dont ask us about this guy that you really like but dont want to ask out in case he says no blah blah blah. We dont care.
4915
He could be trying to say no in a nice way.  (Sorry!!!)  I had the same thing happen to me.  I asked a guy out and he said we would...sometime.  Next thing I know, he's "kinda got a girlfriend".\nGuys are jerks when they try to be nice.
373190
For the moment forget about your own friend.  You said you " only think of the guy as a friend and but he's okay "...based on that alone why would you choose to go out on a date with him.  You don't have an interest in any potential relationship developing with him so based on that alone...don't accept his invitation for a date.  Now, in addition to that, your friend really likes him, so to add that factor in...certainly don't accept the date.
445115
what is the question here? you liked him, you had your friend ask him out, he said no. Seems pretty open and shut. Move on