My ex girlfriend says she still loves me but she is dating this guy who is the bad ass type and what not. She really doesn't like him but she doesn't know which of us to date. How could I make her choose me
134953
Dude I just went through this same exact thing.  Your only missing her cause she was there for you and now theres no one.  I took her back after she tried the new guy, and two weeks later, she dumps me for other guy she just broke up with.  I wasnt hurt cause I knew it could happen so I didnt let myself get too involved.  But my advice, just move on, find someone new to love, there more fun, and you dont have to worry about her going back for the other guy.  She already left you once, dont let her walk all over you.  Hope this helps.
425457
Honey, You no in your heart what she is doing to you. I no it hurts and the whole thing sucks but we all been through it.It's right there in our face and we refuse  to see it.If you keep after her she will tell you point blank that she doesn't love you any more and she has been seeing her ex for awhile now.Don 't let her do that to you,beat her to the punch.Tell her you don't care what she does because you have been seeing someone for over 6 months now and you love her.I no you won't take my advise. You don't no me but I am giving you good advise so please take it. I hope everything works out for you.If the pain gets to hard for you, don't think about tomorrow take it a minute at a time or a hour what ever it takes. Don't let this girl get the best of you.
235873
There's not much you can do.  If you tell her, you risk the chance that she'll think you want to get back together.  Are you really sure your not just being paranoid?  Not everyone plans their life around their enemies.  If you really have proof, just go up to her and ask her if the other guy is what she really wants. hope it goes well.
212563
i think she made up an excuse to break up with you. she had this guy on the backburner and was thinking of hooking up with him while she was with you. but with this excuse she can blame you in stead of saying, "i like this other guy instead so i'm breaking up with you." cool off, and start finding another chick. don't waste you timing thinking about your ex.
633730
Dude, I am sorry. It sounds like she is just like me. I have put my boyfriend through serious heartache because dumb me doesn't know what I want. You really need to move on and when she's ready, she'll quit playing her games and come back to you or find out that you're not the one. She's young and she's still trying to find out who she is, like me, and she's keeping you on the back burner to make sure you're worth holding on to. If you just back off and get on with your life, things will fall into place. But still love her and pray for her, but go out and have fun!!!
666379
well, spend more time together. then maybe at the end of the date, ask her if she still wants to see you, because she likes another guy a little bit. i mean, she probably likes you better because she has been on dates with you, but just ask her. you will get a truthful answer, and just see how it goes. friend, or girlfriend. good luck
6993
Wow, tough problem. I think what I'd do is have a heart to heart with the girlfriend. Maybe she really does want him to be happy with you and maybe it's him that's holding out hope for a renewed relationship with her. If that's the case, she'll need to back off, but you need to find out if that's really the way it is or not first. Good luck. I feel for you.
179959
Just say no. She'll take you for granted in the sense that because you're still around, you're available should she ever want to get back together. In the meantime, while she has you as a backup, she'll go on with her life, getting you to do all the boyfriend "work" (e.g. listening to her whine about work, traffic, her new jeans) but not giving you the boyfriend "fun" (although maybe once or twice she'll cave and fool around with you). You'll think she's just on the cusp of getting back together with you. And then she'll tell you that she's met someone else. With work, be as civil as you'd be toward any girl in whom you had absolutely no interest. But flirt with all the other girls at work so the ex gets a reminder of what she's missing.
634277
Ok. I had the same problem. There was one guy I was with and we broke up so I went without liking anybody for a while. Then one of my best guy friends broke up with his gf and I realized I liked him but then my ex started coming back. So I chose the one that is the sweetest and that I have the most fun with and that wasn't my ex. It just so happens i picked the other guy who's my ex's best friend and we've been together for almost 4 months and I have a great ime with him all the time. although they aren't friends anymore, I still really like my bf. so pick the one that's sweetest to you and that you have the most fun with. even if that means long distance. (i'd choose the ex because he seems like he would be a great bf and that he really cares about you as lot).
8348
talk it out with her ask her why she is scard to break up with the other guy
546846
Well tell her you want to take things slow. If you are not happy with her staying with her Ex than get her to move out or move in with you. Arguments are healthy & add spice to a relationship. So dont shy away from them. If you two love each other, give it a chance!
287590
She's a bit insecure, and like the idea of having you on a leash.\n\nshe is playing emotional mind games with you and keeping you hanging on, pretending that you may have a chance.\n\nShe may also have broken up with you because she wanted to start another relationship with someone else, and then the other guy blew her off - she is stuck in a rut and has no-one to give her attention - and she knows that you still have feelings, so she calls you again, and makes a re-connection.\n\nshe is playing games with you - trust me, I have done this to a few guys, it's not nice but it's part of life.\n\nif you really wanna give it another go, try and get back with her, but give her conditions and ground rules, so she doesn't take advantage of your naivety and vulnerability, cos she knows that you are a bit soft and gullible, etc... sorry.\n\nanyway, if i was you, i'd GET RID!
549562
sorry, but this all sounds extremely immature and blown out of proportion.  and hate is a very strong word and emotion.  \nwhat happened with your ex-girlfriend is between you and her!  it has nothing to do with the present girlfriend, but you've obviously dragged her into it anyway!  not smart at all!\nthe best way to deal with your ex is to totally ignore her.  she'll leave you alone when she see's she's not getting to you anymore.  she's just trying to get a reaction from you.  so don't give it to her.  and wanting your girlfriend to beat up your ex?  think about it, it doesn't get much more immature than this.  think for a minute, you're causing trouble and blowing things way out of proportion.  and there's always the chance that your girlfriend isn't as tough as you think she is!  what are you going to tell her if your ex beats her up?  will your girlfriend then beat you up because she got beat up?  see what I mean, nonsense!
458286
well she obviously likes you and not him if shes with you and calling him a jackass.. she should stay with you unless shes a total player and you wouldnt want to be with her anyways if she is like that..
82814
I don't mean to be mean, but it isn't possible for her to love both you and her new boyfriend at the same time. It sounds to me as if she is keeping you on a string just in case the new boyfriend doesn't work out for her. You didn't say why you broke up or if she broke up with you or vice versa, but it sounds to me as if she is enjoying putting you through all of this. I know you don't want to hear this, and I am sorry I have to say it, but I think you need to care enough about yourself to realize you deserve better than being strung along and you need to respect yourself enough to not allow yourself to be played this way. Move on and find that special person who will love and respect you the way that you deserve. Even if you were to blame for the break up, you don't deserve to be treated this way. We all make mistakes. I know this will be hard, but it will be the best thing for you. If she truly loved you she would not be able to hurt you this way. Good Luck! \n\nSS
85888
If you want her back, apologize and promise to be good, and keep that promise. Otherwise, get out in the world and start dating again. You'll find someone new to care for.
376645
take note:she was ur ex girlfriend..so it doesn't really matter if she dates another guy.. if u decide to take her back remember that u don't trust her.. so why invest or taking her back? u will go on the same cycle when u were with her....probably ur just bothered coz she moved on already while u r not.. \nit's normal.. try to get urself busy.. go out with friends and please try to forget her.. it won't do good for you.. i know u can do it.. so good luck