there was this guy I used to like so much, we kind of dated too. I think I kind of still like him, because after a long time since we seen each other, I heard that he has a girlfriend, and I cried for one day, and I wanted him to be single so I will be the only one on his mind. Then I realized that it was so cruel and stupid. When my friends hear this, they think I am in love, but I can never admit to myself or say to myself that I love him. I just don't get the feeling. Am I in love with him?
134372
I think you might just be missing him, or that youre still attached to him.  I couldnt really call it love, but it all depends on how you define love.......
93556
I have bad news for you: YOU are playing *him*.  He's been nothing but honest with you, and you're not being honest even with yourself.  You know how he feels, yet still keep in contact with him... because you like the attention.  He makes you feel good about yourself.  But you're only stringing him along.
423431
Do you think about him a lot? Do you find yourself wanting to be with him? Wanting him besides you? Does he make u laugh? Do u like how he makes u feel when ure with him? Hopefully those helped. \n\nI must say tho- I dont think u like him. If u like someone- U KNOW. If u had to think about it, then Im sure u dont.
162372
Your not crazy by a long shot. You seem that you may be scared of a commitment and that is why you seem to like guys who you will never know or have to make a decision to be with. Try finding out why you feel this way? Maybe a guy has done you wrong and it makes you leery of meeting someone who you might fall in love with>>>>>>>>
281100
i know exactly how you feel... well, at least i think i do.. i am in love with my best guy friend whom i have known for almost 11 years... we are reallyc lose and a week ago, he confessed that he believed that we were meant to be.. blahblah.. and then we kissed.. and it's been a week and i have a feeling that he's avoiding me.. he's always busy and within the last week, he called me ONCE... that's it. and it was for a brief conversatio. i don't know what is going on... its really hard to do anything.. because i know that we were friends first.. and i dont want to risk it..\n\nmy advice to you... confront him before you assume anything and talk with him... talk it through... conversation is the best option you have... dont do like what i did and talk it out. it will save YOUR HEART from a lot of pain....
439866
i know how you feel cuase i maybe just getting out of that right now...\n\nsee i haven't had a real boyfriend for almost 2 years  and about two weeks ago i asked a guy that is a grade younger out, he said yes becuase i knew he really liked me.. we went out for a week then i said i am just a lil over welmed by the feeling and just need to take a lil break.. after a while he started talking to my friends and practically the whoiole school found out we liked each other and now everyone considers us to be dating...  and we just kinda go with everyone cuase everyone else thinks it is great now im not so overwelmed with the feeling... i think the overwelming i use to feel was that i was afraid of being heartbroken again.\n\ndon't worry you will grow out of the feeling a lil while after you begin dating.. depending on however your emotions work..\n\nnothing to really worry about
421983
WOW! This is CRAZY! I am in the exact, I mean exact same situation! I have a guy friend (best friend at that) and he is a little bit attractive, and I know he is in love with me because he tells me so, but I do not have romantic feelings towards him. Sometimes I get the urge to let things go further (physically) but in the long run, I never let it get that far. I believe, if something is mentally stopping you from going further with him, then you should listen to your gut feeling. It might also make things complicated after you initially sleep together. He'll be calling you all the time, crying about his love for you and whatnot, and you will have to tell him (once again) that you don't have feelings for him. Trust me, this is what happened when I slipped up and accidentally kissed my guy friend....but either/or, GOOD LUCK!!!
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Don't put up with it.  If he really liked you, he wouldn't want you to feel like you do right now, and he wouldn't be dumping you.  I realize you like this guy, and this isn't the advice you wanted, but it's true.  If you let him act like this, and then you two get back together, he'll just break your heart.
285631
Guys can be so awful sometimes. he seems really pathetic. any way i dont think u can continue liking him after wat he said... can you?? i know it must hurt a lot coz u were in love wid this guy for so long.u must have probably thought that he was great guy thats y u were in love wid him. but now he has opened ur eyes n proved to u that he is really a creep and not someone u can give ur heart to.
429196
Explain to him that you are flattered by the attention he is showing you and you are pleased that he likes you so much because you feel the same way, but you know he has a girlfriend, and until that changes and he's "single" again, the flirting has to stop.  He'll respect the fact that you don't want to break up a relationship or get him into trouble with his girlfriend, and you aren't putting any pressure on him - you're merely being honest.  Always take the high road.  If he is being honest with you, and he wants to pursue a relationship with you, he will move on from his current relationship.  If he doesn't, you'll know that his flirting was just that and nothing more.  Good luck!
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I was in love with this incredible girl, Morgan, and I have never loved anyone in my life this way. THe great thing was, she returned the same amount of love. I wanted to marry her (I still do), but we broke up a few months ago. She said the same thing. She felt pressured. I realized she had never been single in her life after she was 15, and she is now 22. That's a long time. I tried SOOOO hard to do things to please her and make her want to take me back. The thing I finally realized was that I was making it worse. I was making her feel more pressured than ever. I quit trying, and after some time, we started becoming close friends again. I wish we could be together again, but she needs to be free. Freedom is a very tough thing to find. What i didn't realize is that i was the one who wasn't free. I needed to find happiness in myself. Who knows what will happen? Maybe we'll get back together, maybe we won't. I will love her to the grave, but the only chance I'll ever have, is letting HER figure it out. I have, for the first time in my life, come to a point where I don't desire to have a girlfriend. That's an incredible accomplishment for me, since just 6 months ago, I was in a hurry to get married and have a family. That was part of my problem. I wanted to spend so much time with her, cause she made me feel like no one else could. But love, as I found out, is something you do, not feel. It is patient, kind and generous. I can still love her even though we are not together, and I don't have to think about her every minute of the day. I can focus on my band, my job, and more importantly, making myself a better person. I hope that helps!
585419
Lots of people experience this. Often these kinds of feelings can cause us to act in ways which are not in our best interest.  (e.g. to perpetuate a dysfunctional relationship because we like the way another person makes us feel some of the time.)  Ask yourself: Why is he my *ex*-boyfriend?  Something in the relationship wasn't working for one (or both) of you.  Is there chance that that problem can be overcome and resolved permanently?  Try to look at your own self, and identify ways which you might like to grow as a single person.  You don't actually need this guy, even if it feels like you do.
412451
I was with my last boyfriend for 3 and a half years when I met my current boyfriend. I knew very quickly that I wanted to be with my current boyfriend, so I had to break my ex's heart to make myself happy. (I've been with my boyfriend now for more than a year) It hurt my ex like hell and I felt terrible doing it, but I knew that I wanted to be with someone else. So I had to do it for myself even though I hurt someone I cared about in the process. Just be careful and tactful in the way you say things. Make sure you don't sound like it's all his fault.
293347
Hi! That happened to me before, my male bestfriend was falling in love with me, everyone in our group knows about it and advising me that it would be better to have a boyfriend from the bestfriend level as it always works. But I kind of aloof everytime I know he might ask me a question, or something as I only want to remain friends. Because what I believe before, if we became boyfriends/girlfriends and split up, we might never be friends again, and I like having him as my best friend. I was a teenager back then. Now i'm 30 and he's now married. And I'm still single.\n\nLet her know how you feel when she's no longer in a relationship. Or if you can't wait that long, let her know now, who knows. She might be open minded about it and let you know how she feels for you.\n\nCheers!\n\nMitch
457787
Definately tell him. I was in a similar situation and I never told the guy how I really felt.  He's with someone else now and it hurt so bad that I ended up spending less and less time with him. Now we barely ever talk.  I found out later that he had feelings for me, but now it's too late.
68673
i have sort of had this experience.i fell in love with this guy.our relation was going on steadily when another woman came in his life and he ditched me.i did not ask for explaination and just walked out of his life.i was so heartbroken.i lost faith in everybody and am afraid to love once more.whenever i see that guy i get very angry but pretend as if nothing has happened and try to enjoy but actually inside i feel sick.i think u should move on.it is hard but tyr and slowly u will forget.
48164
Hey girl, Now this is a big situation. I had the same thing happen to me. You have to think for your self is he the one? Or is he just a friend. If you decide he's just the one embrace it!