It's kind of odd, but some days i feel confident and good about myself, and other days i dont.  what are some self-esteem boosters that you guys know of?
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hang around people that dont make fun of you\nalso you probably shouldnt have asked this question here if you didnt want to get bashed down by idiots
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The only thing I might be able to suggest is to become confident with yourself. How is your own self esteem? Are you able to gain a greater amount of confidence in yourself? Would you date yourself? If not, why not? Work on those things that you think you could change. If you can gain confidence in yourself, your insecurities might diminish, since you can see that you are worth dating. Not to mention, you might become less "needy", and also more trusting! (warning!!! Do NOT become OVER confident in yourself) Good luck!
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Find beauty in the tiniest things - the wood grain on your old desk, the flowers you walk by every day, the pretty displays in store windows. Do some community service - just trust me on this one. Spend a little more time with people who make you feel valued. Watch your favorite movie over and over and over again. Laugh at something, or at nothing. Smile more often - I think smiling is supposed to do something great like release endorphins and make you feel good. Good Luck!
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good thing. just stay true to yourself! i found cheerleading has made me more confident in myself and more outgoing.
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You have to get out of the negative talk in you head that keeps you feeling self conscious.\n\nThe best way to do this is to do something selflessly for someone else. Go volunteer at a soup kitchen, or at a hospital, put change in someone’s expired meter without them knowing, go volunteer at head start , do at least  3 selfless acts a day, with no concern of how you will benefit and or gain from it and I promise you will begin to feel better about your self. \n\nAlso do something nice for yourself at least once a week, paint you r nails, get a facial, and take a relaxing bath, what ever you like. \n\nThe best way to feel good about your self is to give, give to other, give to yourself, and you will begin to receive all the confidence and self worth that you need and more!!
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It's nothing you can't change...you need to boost your self-esteem.\n\nI gave you a thumbs-up for admitting there is a problem...THAT IS THE FIRST STEP !!!\nSEE BELOW:\n\nhttp://www.more-selfesteem.com/\n\nImproving Self-esteem \nThe first important step in improving self-esteem is to begin to challenge the negative messages of the critical inner voice.\n www.utexas.edu/student/cmhc/booklets/selfesteem\n\nWays to Improve Self Esteem \nWays to Improve Self Esteem by Susan Angell ... Apply "self talk"\n www.dtda.org/insights/improveesteem\n\n365 Ways to boost your self-esteem \nAn ongoing list of way to boost your self esteem -- check back here every day for the next way to boost your self esttem...\n www.lifefocuscenter.com/365waystoboostyourselfesteem\n\nhttp://www.selfesteem4women.com/?ad=5
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Sounds like you have a self-esteem problem.  You should make a list of your good qualities and go over it every day.
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self esteem is how positive you feel about yourself.  if u are happy with the way you engage in social settings, your confidence level is good, your are generally content with yourself, your self esteem is normal.  if you have low self esteem, your generally are not content with the way you behave, how u see yourself, and generally not happy on how you think u present yourself to others, then u have low self esteem.  u develop self esteem through life experiences, and self evaluation,  sometimes self esteem can take a while in ones life.  if you think about yourself, and find things u do not like, then u can work on these to increase your self esteem.  u do have to set realistic goals for yourself and know what u can do and can"t do.  you have to be content with your self and realize that everybody has limitations and you have to accept that.  for example a brilliant doctor may be good in his field, but realizes and accepts the fact that he may not be able to fix a toilet.
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I do not believe it is Always possible to stay Positive and happy. But I do believe that if you try to do at least one thing a day that makes you feel good about you that will help. Whenever an event happens that makes you sad you should try to do or find something to make that situation a wee bit better.Try to figure something about that situation that will make you feel a tiny bit better(if there isn't anything try to think about something you may be able to that in itself will help ? HUGS
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I would suggest you make a list of the attribute in them you like.\nthen work on developing those things in yourself; to build up your self esteem.
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wow..thanks for sharing that..and i believe it is all so true..you have a lot of knowlege good for you..this really made me think about myself as a person..i hope more people read this maybe it will help them..thanks for making me stop and think about myself as a person...
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Sweetness, what you're missing is confidence in your own self. No one can give it to you; it's the sort of thing you have to gain by yourself. Keep telling yourself that you're fine, that people are just "looking" and not judging. Look in the mirror at yourself and tell yourself that you are fine, you are marvelous, wonderous, whatever just so long as you beleive it. I was self-concious in high school too and that's what I did. I figured I could let other people knock down my self-confidence or I that I wouldn't. I opted for wouldn't. Good luck and Blesings.
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I was told that acceptance of other people, things and yourself make you a happier person.  Do something that you genuinely love and helping other people in need are also helpful.
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You don't usually notice the weight you've lost for a while... but others do.\n\nDon't worry about it.\n\nEventually, those that know you will compliment you.\nAnd you'll feel awesome.\n\n<3\nstranger.
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I used to be like that.  I learned to pretend that I was more confident and outgoing than I really was - I mean these people didn't know I was shy etc, so they would not find it strange.  Eventually I just became more confident and outgoing.
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I feel proud. I'm going through depression andf this site helps me in three ways;\n\n1) It helps me realise that i am not the only person who has problems or who feels the same way as me about the world.\n\n2) It acts as a form of escapism for me. While i am on here i am not thinking of my own problems.\n\n3) I can laugh at and join in some of the crack that goes on in this forum. Some of it is distasteful or below the belt but most of it is good natured.
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A person should not rely on a feeling of confidence that comes from external means...ie...you say when you are "...alone or with a close friend..."\n\nWhat that tells me is that your feeling of confidence MAY come from the fact that you know your close friend's strengths and weakness and insecurities...and so you KNOW that in certain areas you are "stronger" or "better" or "faster" or whatever....and IN COMPARISON that makes you feel confident. Or, IN COMPARISON that makes you feel less insecure. What it comes down to though is YOU comparing your strengths and weaknesses to others you know to help YOU feel confident. \n\nThat works great.....until you walk into a room of strangers........and suddenly your knowledge of their strengths and weaknesses is nonexistent. NOW how are you supposed to judge yourself? Now that you know nothing about them...you lose confidence in YOURSELF, because you don't know how you "compare".\n\nYour abilities and strengths and weaknesses are not RELATIVE or SUBJECTIVE. If you run a 45min 10k....you run a 45min 10k. THAT is objective...not subjective. It is a GOOD time that may even be getting better. If you have a good knowledge base in some subject, or an innate curiosity about things...THAT is an objective, positive quality. \n\nI think the key is for you to realize your strengths and weakness in an OBJECTIVE way...ie, not comparing them to other people...but just getting "your hands and mind" around them on your own...sort of a self-realization thing or something. If you are pretty...you are pretty. Not "pretty compared to...", but just plain pretty. If you run well....you run well. Not "run well compared to..."\nIf you have curious, thought provoking questions....then you have \ncurious, thought provoking questions...period!\n\nOnce you become aware of YOUR STRENGTHS you will become more confident. Not "your strengths compared to other girls' strengths"....but just YOUR STRENGTHS. They exist whether you are alone in your room, or in a room of 1000 people. They don't leave you! Your artistic ability, your athletic ability, your academic ability, etc all stay with you!\n\nKeep THAT in mind next time your mind starts to doubt!!