This guy comforted me one night by cuddling me. He knows Im going through a hard time with the fact I caught my ex of a few years in bed with another girl. He is kinda friends with my ex though. Not really close friends. I have not talked to him since. Should I not think so much about this guy anymore, and realize that he was just there for me one night when I needed it? Or try to pursue something with him? Does this mean he cares for me? Or since ive not heard from him he does not care?
120194
He might have done that in a friendly way. I would not contact him about this, if he wants more I am sure he will let you know....K
70458
Follow you heart. You've talked with this guy for a couple weeks already. You should have some idea how important this relationship means to you. If you are ready to taking it to the next step, call him up, give yourself a chance, let him knows how you feel about him. you won't get kill from that.\nThe reason I would say this to you, cause you're sending me a message that you're care about him. There is nothing wrong with sentimental.
174140
he probably just needed somebody to talk to, don't neglect or ignore him now he's feeling so low...i suppose it wouldn't hurt to get to know the guy!  find out whats up with him, and tell him if he ever needs to talk that you're there for him!\n\nHe needs a friend, be strong and stick by him u neva know u might like him in the end!\n\nGL hun\nx
595434
if it were meant to be you would be together. if you are both in pain why don't you get together and talk? if he cares about you why isn't he doing anything about it. sometimes guys just say these things because they don't want to hurt you. it doesn't necessarily mean that they care for you in the context you are putting it. as hard as it is the less you see of this person the easier it will become. at first the pain is so intense but in time with all hurt it fades little by little everyday.
61291
I'm not emailing you...sorry, I don't need any more friends but it sounds like your not even interested in this dude. Why would you even consider dating him if you don't even like him? Remind yourself why it didn't work out with you guys to begin with and just tell him your not interested anymore. Or if you think there might stillbe something there spend some time with him as a friend. No sex or kissing...really just friends for awhile.
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From experience....a friend "is" what she is looking for.\nShe obviously has not had enough time to get over, settle in, or even realize and let what has happened sink in. \nIf you get involved with her at this point...you are asking for a heartache. Sorry.  It will comfort her, but she will move on or go back.  You will be left in the cold.  I believe that you did the right thing and if and when she gets her head on straight, she will call the one who "let" her go.  Her friend.  If she doesn't; she was not worth having!
75560
Is this guy telling the truth about not having sex, or is he just trying to sleep with you?\n\nDo you like this guy or have "feelings" for him?  If no, then I wouldn't sleep with him.\n\nMaybe find a date for him, or an escort to boost his self-esteem.
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Well, I don't know how long you have actually known him because you didn't say, but I would say to just keep your guard up.  It sounds like he may be pretty fickle, where you seem to know what you want.\n\nI would enjoy hanging out with him but try really hard to not allow it to get too serious with him.  \n\nEspecially if he said something "about not caring for you about three years ago".  I would be very careful and keep my eyes open for someone else.\n\nGood Luck
518032
how long have you known him? Why would you save him for last? Being around other people means that you date other people? Traces are not real love-FYI.
203965
Look, just because you and him didn't work out as a couple, doesn't mean that you can't just be friends. Me and my ex of 13 years just went out to the movies together today to see "Silent Hill", I paid, he drove. We hadn't hung out for 3 years! I gotta tell you though, we had a blast just hanging out and being friends. I bought lunch after at "Jack-n-the-Box", and he came over to my house to eat it. It was the first time he had ever come to see where I lived since we separated. We have a daughter together, and for her sake, we discussed it, and came to the conclusion that, even though we parted on bad terms, we could set that aside and be friends. She was very happy to know we were being nice to each other. I would never have an intimate relationship with him again, but as a friend, he is a very good guy and a wonderful daddy. Do what your heart tells you. You know in your gut whether or not it would be a good idea to hang out with him again. Just remember that ex'es are ex'es for a reason...it didn't work out. Friendships are always nice to have though if at all possible. Good luck sweetie.
105145
I would let it go if I were you. If he really cared about you he would have called you. If he hasn't called you because of your ex, then he isn't going to take this relationship any further whether you call him or not. Sorry, don't set yourself up to get hurt anymore.
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I didn't even finish reading your note, but from experience I would recommend ditching him... you deserve someone who can make up his mind and can love you 100%!! I had a fellow like that and I think he kept me around as security, so he wasn't alone and felt loved... don't be his love of last resort! Be strong and move on...
64528
Ok!!! I think I get it. You broke up with your ex ok, you started to see this other guy but something is not right. Ok! Its not totally your fault but kinda is in away. but if you look at it this way.  He fell for you right after you broke up with your ex. When your still need to recover and think about what had happen between you and your ex. Figure things out!! RIGHT!  You really didn't need to be with him or any one. You really needed was a friend to talk to BUT (this is were its his fault)  he took that oppunity to get with you and now his all booty hurt becuase you pulled away.  He knew he was on the rebound.  If he cared enough for you he would of just left it as friends until you are ready for a relationship. So he can get the full true feeling of been in love with you.  Honestly his hurting himself because you did what was right about not let him go on knowning that there is a change for you two. But you should of been honest with him for the start.  You need to sit and talk to him and if he don't gave you that then its his lost cause.  Really if he really care for you, he would be htere as a true friend and wait a while to the time was right.  Then maybe there can be a change and things will feel right and nothing missing.  Your mind and heart is with someone else not with him.  If he can't expect that then its not your lost.  You just need to look at it if its one less person to know.  Your not a bad person for breaking it off with him. You told him what was up.  sometimes its better that way.. He'll end up talking to you matter what.  Jsut give him the space and time to cool off and then really see him for him not what was.  Maybe he was just doing it for something else who knows. Best of luck to you.
174684
you are not defined by this guy.  You are just as special today as you were before he came along.  Do you really want him to call you and apologize?  If you let him get back with you then you are saying that you are not important enough to stand up for yourself.  Plus, there will be a new guy very soon, maybe the man of your dreams, do you want to be crying for this loser when the next one comes along?  \nYou are special, and he doesnt deserve to hurt you again.
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Appreciate that he is returning your calls and has let you know that they're HIS issues, not yours.\n\nYou've only been hanging out a month.  Depending on what he has going on, that's really not enough time to develop trust.  It happens over time, and this relationship is in it's beginning stages.  It may not be an exclusive relationship, though it sounds like it's heading that way.\n\nDon't put any more pressure on him.  He knows you're there, he knows you're concerned.  That's enough.  If you continue to call him, then you need to ask yourself "Am I really concerned about him, or am I feeling insecure because I'm not part of what's going on?"  He's having some challenges right now, and I think he's handling this appropriately.  If you're really concerned about him, then keep it about him.  Be available to him if / when he needs you.  \n\nWhat's going on with him has nothing to do with you.  Keep this situation in its proper perspective; otherwise, you will lose him before you've gotten things off the ground.
585368
I would say that he at least cares about you a great deal. It sounds like he loves you if he is willing to work it out. I know it is hard to look at him when he is hurting but things will get better! \nGood Luck
532658
I think you should go with your gut feeling. If you don't feel like hooking up with him yet then don't do it. Your friends already warned you that he could be a player and its nothing more hurtful then giving in to temptation and then getting your feeling hurt. I think you should talk to the guy and tell him how you feel about the situation and if he doesn't understand where you're coming from then its obviously that he's not the right guy for you. And to answer your other question about if he grabs you after you tell him no....then he doesn't respect you and you should move on.