Ok, im 16 years old and i met this girl at a dance. She seemed a little bit shy, but one of her friends came up to me and told me that she thinks im cute and that i should talk to her. So we talked for a little bit and when we split up, one of my friends that knows her said that she lives pretty far away. And every once in a while when i talk to her online or on myspace, she just reads my message and doesnt reply back. So im not even sure if im bothering her and if i should even bother to try and get to know her a bit more. But she lives about 45 minutes away. Im really attracted to and fond of this girl, but should i even bother?\nThanks =]
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Hmm, if she doesn't reply, then that could be a sign to 'back off' a bit, y'know? 45 minutes isn't that far at all, but it all depends on how often you see her (are you in school with her?) and if you have the means to get to where she lives or vice versa. Don't give up on her, just find a way of finding out if she's interested either through friends, or think of a way to mail her something that would provoke a response- say, 'have you got a boyfriend?' or something like that. If she continues to ignore your messages, then take the hint and leave it. Hopefully she'll reply!! Good luck!
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Give up on the girl who doesn't notice you.  If she hasn't noticed how cool you are by now, then she is not worthy.  There are lots, and I mean LOTS of women around that are hot, down to earth, smart and funny (like me!).  Besides, it sounds like you don't really know her, so what if she is a totat brat or really prude or has no sense of humor or is stuck up or whatever.  You may have seen her from afar, but do you REALLY know who this girl is?  Do you really want to take a GIANT leap and give up what you have for something that may not be as good as what you have now?  The grass isn't always greener on the other side, pal.\n\nAs far as the long distance thing goes, I would give a try for a while and if something does not happen soon with getting closer together, then ditch the situation.  Like I said, there are lots of women out there.
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If you've spoken with this girl once, it is hard to call it love.  I'd say you have  strong intrest however.  Until she turns 16, try and get to know her better.  She knows your intent which is important.  That way she won't just think you want to be friends.  \n\nWhile she may not be able to go out one on one, try to have more occasions where you might see her again, like at this friend's house.  Don't take this too fast, that way you can truly get to know her and let it grow into something you can share for awhile.  This can help you build confidence.  One of the most attractive qualities in people is being comfortable in your on skin, so to speak.  If you believe you're worth something, she will too.
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It sounds to me like she likes you.  And believe me, some of the biggest crushes I've ever had have been on guys who could be considered less than cute.  So don't judge her by the guys she's gone for in the past -- just ask her if she likes you, or tell her that you like her, and see what happens!
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This is hard advise and hurting your feelings further is definitly not my intent. Please, don't be offended by my observation. Your a beautiful young girl, as your picture surely boasts, and should not waste your time with someone who would cut off communications with you like that. People can be very cruel when the saftey of distance & computers are left out of the equation. In my opinion the jerk is probably married and was just having a good jerk over having such a young beauty interested in him since he never figured you'd ever come close to meeting. Your better than that dear. It time for the revival of the days when a young women was to be courted and persued by an upstanding and respectable young man with more intent than just a quick roll in the hay. What you have to bring to a relationship is a gift from our creator and is precious. There are many more out there that would never allow you to question there sincerety let alone allow you to be hurt. Keep looking sweetheart!
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There's definately something there, girls just don't "go and eat" with just anybody, but with someone they want to spend more time with.  She definately wants to get to know you better.  Go for it.\nA.L.
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Well, for starters, I wouldn't recommend you put down the relationship she's in with this guy she met online.  It is entirely possible that she really does love him - the fact that they haven't met face-to-face yet doesn't mean they aren't a 'real' couple.  You can learn alot about someone when your only method of spending time together is communicating! (and not getting caught up in lusty feelings because you're next to an attractive person - this is far more dangerous, especially if you're basing a relationship on that feeling..) \nIt sounds to me like you're being a friend to her, so that's how she perceives you - as a friend, and only that.  You sound angry, and annoyed that she would be interested in anyone but you.  Remember free will - just because she knows YOU want more doesn't mean she's obliged to give it to you, or fall in love with you, or however you want to look at it.  She's going to have her own wants and needs.  There is obviously something this guy is giving her that she hasn't gotten from you - which is why she's with him.  \nSo stop expecting things from her - go date other people, go live your life.  Maybe she will miss having you there for her all the time, and realize how important you are to her. And, maybe she won't - maybe you'll find someone you like better anyway.  Alternately, you could try talking to her about it - and ask her outright if she might want to date you - not just be friends.  Sitting around brooding about how she's dumb for not wanting to be with you isn't the way to get things accomplished.. it's just wasting energy and time that could be spent doing much better things...
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ya it really sound like she likes you. .ye seem to get on great and it seems she enjoys spending time with you. also friendship is the start to the best relationships.. so go for it and good luck
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I'm a girl, and if a guy randomly started talking to me I would think something was up. Most girls would probably assume that the guy is attracted to her or something. So, I say try to be next to her or close to her. Try to sit by her and join the same clubs as her. Establish some more similarities and then it will make more sense if you approach her...
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It seems a little tacky to me.  If I were you, I'd make contact with her and ask her out in person.  If you don't have much contact with her she may not have a good idea about who you are and an email may seem strange to her.  The personal touch is always better.  Don't be so shy.  The worst thing she can do is say "no" and the world won't end if she does.
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I think you should hear it from her before you move on. Who knows, maybe she likes you. Good luck and ther's plenty more girlz out there, don't worry, you'll find the right one! :)
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Yayeh! go for it. Body doesn't matter. It's nice to look your best-(it makes people feel good. And, it's easier to be kind to someone)- eventhough it's not SUPER important. Go out again, and see if you like her personality, the rest will fall into place. Best of Luck!!! :)
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I know this is not a dating site, but you do end up meeting people here regardless. If you wanna keep contacting her, persevere. Be honest and open and hopefully she will eventually believe you just wanna be friends. (posting this question could probably earn you a few Brownie points with her too) Good luck!
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If you are truly attracted to her, then at 8 tonight (if she hasn't contacted you by then) send her a text that says "Hey sexy/gorgeous/sweetie (something of that nature.) I was wondering, what are you doing tomorrow night? Would you like to go out again?"\n\nOr something like that. I'm sure you know how those things go. But anyway, you say that so you have a reason to get ahold of her WITHOUT seeming impatient or desperate. If she's really attracted to you, she should reply shortly and probably accept your invitation to go out again. \n\nGood luck with this - have fun!
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Ok, you wait for that time when she is by herself, so you and her are not distracted or embarassed by others noticing the potential "hook-up", and you say to her: "Hey, I have been noticing you, Id like to get to know you better as a person, could we get together sometime and get to know eachother ? If you have a BF, than I would never disrespect that, but if you dont, I'd  like to meet, hang out and get to know you. I love a pretty face, and more importantly I always have room for a good friend". Makes you sound classy, not desperate, and that you VALUE her as a person before a potential love bunny ! Women like the man who is in to HER, not her jeans, although there is no doubt in my mind that you have already noticed that ! Dont be like all the other skanks if you really really want to know her, LEAD her to you, dont push her away by letting her think she is only bootie material. She is a young woman, she will know the difference, dont give her all the bullshit others have said to her. Be unique and catch her attention, by the way you speak, move, body language !
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If you really like her and want to be with her then tell her and maybe she feels the same... some girls keep boyfriends no matter if they like other guys because they fear ending up alone and being rejected from the new guy... so, maybe she's waiting for you to make a move... i think you should definitely go for it and if she doesn't feel the same, then break off every contact with her and try to forget about her... if she'll say yes, then great... but if she'll say no, it'll be easier for you to forget about her... because she rejected you, so now instead of liking her you might start hating her... it's better to go for it, so you won't wonder about it later of what could've happened if you went for it... so, i encourage you to tell her what's up... either way you have nothing to lose, but to gain possibly... good luck...
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Depends how long since she last replied. She could simply not be at her computer. Leave it for a bit, if she doesn't get in touch after a couple of weeks, then she obviously isn't interested.\nI think people would expect you to talk to more than one person, but I think it might feel wrong because it's like going on lots of "first dates" with girls, ie getting to know them on a one to one basis.\nThe girls will expect it and are probably also doing the same thing, but if it makes you feel awkward then just talk to one girl at a time\nx