we have a 7 months old baby boy
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If you are intent on marrying him, or at least getting an answer from him, you need to simply take charge of the conversation, and sit him down, and find out why he isn't committed enough to you to marry you. If you've been together for 4 years, and you have a child together, he would seem to have an obligation to hang around and (I would think) to do the right thing by marrying you. If he avoids the topic altogether, he may just be perfectly happy with "getting the milk without buying the cow" so to speak, meaning that he has you, and he has the child, but no legal responsibility to either of you, so he has the freedom to leave when he chooses. This, of course, is not fair to you, and he needs to show some responsibility.\n\nI say sit him down at a time when you can get everything in the open, and simply don't let him walk away from the conversation any more.
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how old are u first? and how old is this boy that u are talking about ? it sound like it is just puppy love between the two of u
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Way too long.  Have a talk with your husband.  Set a time limit for this kid to get on his feet or sink on his own.  3-6 months should be sufficient.  The two of you together must approach the son and inform him of your final decision and the time limit.  Whether he's in good shape or bad, everybody's on the same page and knows exactly when the moving out date is.  Why should he be self sufficient and independent when he can leech off the two of you?  Some children are natural manipulaters  and users and lazy.  They just need a giant hard push out into the real world.
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ahh at 7 he is not HOT\nhe is a kid
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Have you had your baby yet?!?!?  Last I heard you were nine months pregnant.  Seems like that's the more important issue to take care of before you hook up with another guy.
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Little boys with big hearts!\n\nCongratulations to your son.
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You know even though your son's level is 28 months he may just not be ready. some children with special needs have what is called splinter skills...meaning maybe your son is 28 months functioning level in some areas, but not in others. I work with a seven year old disabled little girl and we have been training the same way and the same amount of time you have...and nothing here either. Sometimes she just happens to go and we cheer and clap and stuff but sometimes I seriously doubt if she really knows why we are cheering for her and I think she mostly just likes the fact that we are paying positive attention to her. However her therapists and teachers all agree that it doesn't hurt to toilet her on a regular schedule at all times because hopefully sooner or later she will start to comprehend what is going on. We also use pecs, and switches that say stuff like "bathroom please" that we have her press everytime we take her to the bathroom. We also read Elmo uses the potty everytime we go to the bathroom with her. Good Luck!
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28 with a six year old son
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Bribery might help, give him something to look forward to at the end of each nine weeks and if he does well you could take him on a mini trip or buy him a game he wants. Some kids are motivated in diff ways so don't worry it might be something personal in his life like friends or girls, hope all goes well!
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I am a parent but I only have six years experience.  Still, you need to kick his little a** out.  I know he is your kid, but dang.  He is taking you for granted, you need to teach him how to take care of himself.  What is he going to do when you aren't there?
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Have him to take care of business prior to you guys starting.  That will get the initial out of the way and he should last longer.
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I hope this is not the same "friend" of 8 months that is yelling at your son!!! Stop that shyt!! Don't allow any man or woman to abuse you son. You are his first everything\n---his 1st teacher\n---his 1st ADVOCATE\n---his 1st experience with life\nStop putting these men in front of your happiness and your son's well-being. If that muthaf*$@#ka was yelli\nng at my 19 month old I'd catch a case. You better stand up for your son. I understand you want adult male companionship and you deserve "me" time. Taking care of a child is not easy, but he must be number one in your life. And stop having him around the dude you are f@#$kin'.  You wouldn't want your son to grow up to abuse women or worse get abused by women b/c he saw you being abused and your self-esteem get whittled away to nothing. I can only offer this advice b/c I've been there. My son is 13 and has only seen me with 3 men. Granted there have been more in my life, but I refuse to bring all of them around my man-child. Children WATCH more than they LISTEN> Even though your son is only 19 months he can still feel you, just like he did when he was in your stomach. The bond between you and your son is stronger than any bond you can make with a man. That baby is the closet thing to heaven you can get on earth. Cherish him and these years. He's exploring and should not be made to feel that his learning process is less important than some man.
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sounds like your son is heading a guy life so be prepared
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Go to a Children's Museum. Your son could play and have a good time doing some hands on activities and learn  through play while having fun. You and your wife will so find that this is a very relaxing experience because I can guarantee that you will also learn something new in the process and see old things through new eyes.
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Keep them all-\nLook at his face and YOU will know!\nMy son's name changed when I was 8 months prego.\nI asked him and he always kicked for the name he liked!\nSo there ya have it.
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8 month olds can be a real challenge. I wouldn't do it unless you had some help first from an experience parent.
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When I can manage to carry my baby to term... and I will patiently stay in bed for the next 7 months if I have to.