A realy nice guy who is my classmate loved me during last year.He usually doesn't speak to younger girls or girls who are at the same age(we both are 21).he send me a HAPPY BIRTHDAY mail last year that I noticed his love from that but wedidn't speak about that anymore.now I noticed that he is realy cold to me.I feel that I am not different to him from other girls.I am sure that he is not gay.can you help me what's the matter?how can I tell him how priceless he is for me??
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I DONT HAVE A CLUE JUST TELL HIM
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A) You are still very young and guys are far less mature.\n\nB) Guys don't get signs, hints or looks...\n\nC) Don't get sexaul... At most kissing and holding hands and not too heavy at that either.\n\nNote and this is someone with no problems suggesting people go further in high school and Im REALLY open attiude wise.\n\nIf a guy likes you and not a dickhead he will like you to ask him out. Though if you do give him a choice of date or with mates choice...\n\nUsually if a guy fancies you he will be staring like you... Mostly at your boobs...and usually just as awkards as you if not much more.\n\nHowever as you are very young you can't lay it on to thick to get his attention as Id advise older girls too.\n\nDon't try and be them. You aint yet and doing so will only hurt you.\n\nGet involved in things like skateboarding, Join a martial arts group (get fit, learn to fight and can play wrestle him if get good) Whats he into? get good at that.\n\nLearn the guitar too.\n\nIf you get on a date nothing to formal...something like bowling or cinema.and rest up against him.\n\n\nIf he is confused he may not fancy you or even be aware of girls much and you are staring at him like stunned which he may feel strange as aint done it himself yet ie fancy anyone. He don't get whats going on Im guessing.\n\nDon't mean he won't.\n\nGuys often develop feelings for girl mates, especailly if they are lots of fun but in a couple of years
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How old are you guys?  He won't think it's cheesy as long as you already have some sort of relationship with him... like you at least talk and stuff.. If you simply admire him from a distance and you're thinking about approaching him and sharing your feelings he might be surprised and act "too cool" at first... but this is only based on the feeling I get about your age and maturity levels...
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he seems like he cares! just let him know that you want to go slow due to your past relationships! I'm sure he'll be understanding enough! best of luck!
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I am really quite familiar with the kind of guy that you described.  [I was exactly like that before!]  It sounds like he is favoring up to you and you are catching the vibes that he is sending out.  He seems to have other "multiple activity" going on in his life; but believe me, you can surely bring all of that to a halt, and turn him into a lovable little Teddy Bear.  It really does appear that it's you that he is after.  And you just watch!  Once you nail him, he will forget all of those other gals as if they never even existed to begin with.  And once they pick it up that someone nailed him, they won't have anything to do with him either.  It's like a mating-season.  If you are not in it then you don't even notice it. BTW, a well-known symptom of what you described is for him to ask you to hook up with one of your friends.  It's not your friends he is after!  He IS AFTER YOU!!!
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He is obviously young and shy. He's probably feeling vulnerable and doesn't want to be shot down and look like a fool. he probably doesn't know what to say or do to even approach you. invite him on an outing with some friends to the movies or something. in a group setting it's much easier for him to become more comfortable around you. He'll know you at least like him because you invited him. but don't through yourself at him that's always a big turn off. doing things together as a group is best because it also helps you become better friends.relationships are always better if you start off as friends. sounds like you might be pretty young so taking your time and not jumping into anything is a good idea. PLEASE REMEMBER TEEN RELATIONSHIPS ALMOST NEVER BECOME PERMANENT FOREVER RELATIONSHIPS SO DON'T DO ANYTHING YOU WILL LIVE TO REGRET ! Yes like sex.
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Well, it appears that he is no longer interested and doesn't want to hurt your feelings. I'm sure you're a nice gal but sometimes things aren't meant to be for a reason. We go through these times just to wake up one day and realize that these optical are supposed to guide us to your soul mate! So good luck and I wouldn't act like you're going to be there for him for ever and all ways. Guys take that for granted all too easily. I've done it in the past and learned how bad it can hurt someone too.
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This guy doesnt sound like hes being considerate of you in ANY way at all. He is using you. A guy who cares for a girl shows consideration. A guy can say anything to a girl but what do his actions tell you? Those speak louder than words. He is making everything about him and nothing about you. Is that what you really want?
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Not always bad. It doesnt have to mean that you are boring or uninteresting. Maybe he just feels at ease and relaxed about your warm demeanor. It is definitely a compliment and could lead to something more involved, depending on his level of appreciation and yes, maturity.
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First of all you don't know if this is "unrequited" or not.  The best way to know if this is one sided or not is to contact him.  Do you know what university?  Do you have mutual friends that could get you in touch with him?  If you can get an address or phone number, send him a little note in the mail or call him.  If you get a return letter (and guys are horrible at letter writing) then you will know that you are still friends, of course depending on what he says.  You will definately hear it in his voice if you speak to him in person though.  Either way, if you get no response, you have to remember that it is wonderful to love someone else, but it is more important to love yourself first.  You could be missing out on some great opportunities, friendships and experiences.  If this guy is your first true love, you will never get over him.  A gal never forgets her first.....
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I would let him know how I feel.Just because he is moving doesn't mean there can't be a relationship. If your to shy to talk to him drop him a line and let him know that way. Who knows maybe he feels the same way about you.
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He sounds very confused and juvenile. This actually takes me back to the days of 5th grade....Maybe he thinks that you're attractive but doesn't value you as a person. Maybe he's trying to "tease" you but is coming off as mean. Guys can be stupid when they try to show a girl that they like her. Don't waste your time worrying about him -- he's not worth the brain cells.
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Good Lord woman!  Before I finished reading this, I already knew you shouldn't get into this relationship in that capacity, just be friends and let it be, perhaps later in the future w/o pushing things, maybe things will change, maybe.  If he was interested, he would've let you know already.  Obviously, in his subtle way, he is not interested, get a clue!  You say he still dates other girls, well, that should be enough to tell you he's still not ready or willing to commit to a relationship.  By all means, don't force a relationship!  Relationships should be easy, mutual and wonderfully exciting.
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Esha, I'm talking to you from the perspectives of a guy. I want to consider you a luck gurl for having a guy who wants to displays his affection for you in public. It's only a guy that has no skeleton in his cupboard that does this to a gurl. He really wants to show you that he's the same person to you whether in private or public. Also, he's just trying to pull your legs with those flirting stuff. He wants to know how jealous you could be, but I can bet you he doesn't mean any harm. The next time he does that, you either pretend you don't notice that or if you can, say something as if you're encouraging him in his flirting game. In the contrary, this will shock him and you'll be better for it - trust me. I wish you a happy and fulfilling relationship with your guy. Cheers!
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Well, I think you should just explain to him that he is a nice guy but you just don't feel the spark. Explain that it's not him, it just is not there. Hopefully he will understand....
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hey mama I am in the exact same position and my guy friend has mentioned he hates when girls make the first move so I am petrified to tell him, I feel like I have to wait for him to come to me. But he is probably thinking the same as you. Whenever drink, stuff happens and I usually spend every day with him and we do everything together. Work out together, party together, occasionally sleep together the whole 9. Whenever we need anything, we're the first ones each other calls. If you figure this out- lemme know!\nLauramr015@yahoo.com
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What are the benefits of having this guy as your "boyfriend"?\n\nIt's possible that your guy is shy, or maybe afraid of getting too involved with a girl, because maybe his friends will harass him. Maybe he feels awkward, and just doesn't know what to do or say. Let him know that you'd like to hang out with him a little more at school, and think of conversation starters. Make a list (for your reference only) of all of the things you'd like to know about him, and the things you want him to know about you. Then, don't deluge or assault him with 2000 questions in one day, but every time you get together with him, try to get a conversation- a dialogue- going. \n\nIf he's still not interested, or is distant, cold, etc, I would suggest that you let this one go, and find a boyfriend who's interested in being half of a couple. You can't expect a school-age boyfriend to dote on you every minute of every day, but you should be able to expect some conversation, and some company. Life's too short to devote it all to someone who's not going to meet you somewhere in the middle. Good luck to ya.