I like someone for 6-7 months now, but a relationship has not developed yet (its long distance for past 3 months as I went to another country to study). The guy is nice, sensible, good looking etc. and is there for me whenever I need him. But I think he is not willing to get into a commitment. We havent slept together yet (due to long distance), but I am going to meet him now. I wonder if I should go ahead.... Please help!
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I don't think sleeping with him is going to, necessarily, change his mind. \nYou can tell him that you have feelings for him and you can ask him if he shares those feelings. I think you should find out how he feels about you before sleeping with him because for many guys sleeping with a woman doesn't always mean they are committing themselves. If you sleep with him and afterwards he tells you that he just wants to be friends, even tho' he doesn't mind sleeping with you from time to time, you might feel\nhurt and might even destroy your friendship. You have to be sure that you know what you want and find the right person who wants the same thing with you. You can't make someone commit if they don't want to for whatever reason. On the other hand, he might not know \nwhat you really want. In any case be ready to hear that he likes you, mor as a friend, or that he is not into a relationship. Don't sleep with him with the idea that he'll fall in love with you. In my experience that needs to come before sleeping together. Good luck.
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You're the only one that is able to make that decision.  If you think that you are ready and want a relationship, then go for it.  If not, wait a little while until you are able to commit fully and whole-heartily.
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you might just have to give him time if he doesnt want to be in a relationship just yet. but if he is still dragging his feet a month from now you need to take some kind of action
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All depends on what YOU want. \n\nI'm in the same boat. I hella don't want to be in a relationship right now - I wanna play the field....but there is this one guy that I REALLY like a lot...and if he wanted to be in a relationship, I'd do it.\n\nSometimes you just can't pass up the possibility of love or something special. \n\nAsk yourself one question.....will it be worth the risk?\n\nIf you wanna go ahead & get w/him, I'd take it slow. Be light & breezy. No heavyness, no drama.
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Long distance relationships can be very exciting because there is no routine. Each time you see him it is something special. Just the frequency needs to change. Enjoy it as long it lasts. You will notice when this relationship is ready for the next step. If you don´t see any progress at all you need to decide whether you want him as a platonic friend and whether you want to look for somebody else...
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the right person will come along when the time is right for the both of you, don't rush it, it'll happen, when it does, you will know. Don't settle for less or you will still meet him and not be able to be together because of your prior choices
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If he cares about you then nothing will seem that strong.  Usually though if guys want to make a commitment, they will be the one to tell you.  Your happiness is on the line.  If he is ready to commit, then he will. If he isn't ready then he won't and then you can make your decision as what to do, whether to move on or stick it out.
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If he isn't ready, then he isn't ready. I think if you pin all ur hopes on him, it's not very wise. Is he is saying a NO to u, or is he saying "I don't know". Does he have feelings for you...is it love, or lust? You know best. \nEitherways, he is not *moving forward* with u, and that's a strong signal. \n\nI would advise you to have a really honest talk with him and ask him what he REALLY thinks and feels. Tell him you are not judging him, tell him you truly wanna hear what he is going through, and to lay it all on the table, so you can make an informed decision. If he cares about you and your life, and your own future, am sure he should be ready to let you know honestly what is going on in his mind. \n\nI would say keep him as a friend (strictly) and date other people who would be willing to commit. I know it might be hard esp. if you have developed strong feelings and attachment with him. It's for you and him to decide whether you both can be friends and date other people, if you both wish. \n\nAnother thing is, you must have some discipline in order for things to move forward. If u decide to be strictly friends, then make sure you do that. If you give in, this situation might continue for a long, long time. \n\nI think he needs to miss u a lil bit, inorder to really know what he wants. Reduce ur talks, go date other people, and see where it goes after that. That's my 2 cents on this.
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Be careful, I've been in this situation and it didn't work out.  \n\nI think guys that do this aren't sure what they want, or they know that they really like you, but kind of want to store you for later, when they want a proper relationship.  Or they just like a bit of fun when they are out, but nothing else.  \n\nWhy do you keep waiting to meet by chance if he's texting you to meet up?  Why don't you meet up with him and see what happens.  Or say I'm busy, but we could arrange to meet up just the two of us on a different day.  You just don't know what will happen, unless you put yourself out there.
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maybe he isnt ready for realtionship right now, keep in contact with him as friends and if you both meant to be together you will be. good luck.
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Only you know if you are really ready, and the fact that you are asking this question leads me to believe that you aren't. Sex can be wondeful, but if you have to guess if he is going to stick around, makes me think that perhaps you are not ready for the emotional consequences that could result in this encounter. If he really wants to be with you he will wait. If he doesn't then you know your answer.
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I believe in love at first sight.  Tell me would it make since for you to take a month to decide if you like someone.  God put someone on this earth for you.  I don't believe in dating for a long period of time.  Like I said before you  should be able to decide if you like someone or not.  If don't thats your problem.  It has not happened to me yet.  It require patience
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Sounds like you guys have a great friendship going on.  Just keep up the good friendship and if you want to take it to the next level and you don't know if he does or not, then you are going to have to find out.  When you think the time is right, talk with him and ask him if he could ever see you two together?  Make sure after you ask that you get a serious answer.  After that you will know if the time is right for a relationship and if he is ready or not.  He may like you but not be ready, so it's your call when and if you want to pursue it further.
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fact is that you and him cannot see each other too often... and both of you are still very young.. I think each of you should live your life, but always do keep in touch. then, see what happen with your life in the next few years after you both graduate. you will never know what will happen, things are happening fast at your age. not to be wasted. either of you are planning to make serious commitment soon anyway right?
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Well... it depends. I have learned in my experience that some guys can't hadle the distance thing no matter how much they may love you. On the other hand some guys are loyal till the end. I guess only time will tell. Hopefully things will end well for you! Good Luck!
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go for it. life's way too short to not live it to the fullest. i told a guy i liked him and we were together for 4 months! it could happen to you!! good luck. email me if anything happeneds!
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Well, it depends on why you're saving it. I recently saved it for 7 months because I really like a guy that lives out of town. I've had a crush on this guy forever. He came here a few times and for various reasons it just didn't happen. The last time he visited, we did it and it was lovely. I don't regret it at all. Are you waiting because you're not attracted to anyone in particular? Are you looking for something special? I think you should do whatever feels right inside. Definitely go with your gut. If you meet someone and you think you wouldn't beat yourself up after giving it up to them, then do it. If there is someone special that you have your eye on, I say wait. The passion that will be unleashed in that one night will be worth it for you both. Best of luck...