For years I have begging my husband to take me to a club so we can dance and have a few laughs with some friends. He's refused, said clubs aren't his thing, blah blah blah. I accepted it. So now he has been hanging out with this new friend from work and all of a sudden he wants to go clubbing with this guy alone without me.  I totally trust him. We are beyond past the whole jealousy crap. I told him NO! Just on principal. I've been begging him and now all of a sudden he wants to go to the clubs. It's fact of the matter not jealousy. Am I overreacting or should I just let him go? I would have no problem with him going if only he would have taken me in the past. Now he's telling me "ok I'll take ya" but it's kinda late now.
134662
Personally, I wouldn't let my husband if I were in the same boat, but I'm really stubborn like that. I would guess that you are probably pretty strong-minded as well! But every situatuion is different, some women wouldn't care or if they did they'd just let them go anyhow. I say don't let him, but is it going to cause a huge argument or anything? You have to choose your battles you know?
191799
There's no harm in you asking a guy friend to go with you. If he's just a friend , that's fine...no pressure. You go as friends , have a great time, and who knows, when the night is over, you might end up being more than "just friends".....right now, a guy friend just popped into your mind....YES! He's the one! Call him...... invite him, Have a wonderful time at the dance, you and him. Good Luck!
53871
I had something like this happen. girl appeared out of no where and wouldn't go away. she was determined to get him back and no matter what i said or thought about it me told me i was over reacting. well let me tell you how over reacting i was. I heard messages from her tellin him she wanted him come over and play at 3am. and he would hide to talk to her. well let me tell you. I left his sorry @ss shortly i foudn out he went and hid after i had our son to call her. if your man can't respect that you are uncomfortable leave it wont get any better
20957
Why can't you allow your boyfriend to have female friends?  Why are you so insecure?  I have female friends and I have been happily married for several years.  I wouldn't want to be in a relationship with someone so insecure that they would force me to choose my friends based solely on if they have a penis or not.  What's up with you?  Do you sleep with every guy you know?  If not, cut some slack.  On the other hand if you can't trust your boyfriend based on his behavior that is a different story.  Remember you don't have to trust everyone who enters his life, you just have to trust him.  Now here is a heads up for how guys think.  If my wife is even slightly jealous of a female, I love it.  It's just another way for her to say "I love you".  Of course she trusts me and I have never given her reason not to.  Stop nagging and start bragging.  Tell me I'm a saint and a king and I might believe you and act like one.  Tell me I'm a dog and a snake, and who knows?
227783
Trust and respect are the cornerstones of a relationship! If he isn't giving you the respect you deserve, by honoring your request in regard to the strip clubs, and is breaking your trust by going to them behind your back, then I would have to say that your relationship is in serious trouble. I dare say that his behavior will not be improving any time soon, so you are going to have to decide whether or not you are willing to continue putting up with him doing as he pleases, whether you like it or not. Good luck!!
224350
he probably meant exactly what he said, you took your husband for everything and that makes him cautious about being in the same situation. if its true what can you really say about it and how can you be hurt over it? the facts are the facts and honestly anyone would tell him he's a fool to ignore your behavior in the past and not be careful, wouldn't you if it was a friend asking for advice? And think about it you love him now and everything is fine, if you ended up in a divorce situation that wouldn't be the case and the best  predictor of future behavior is what you've done in the past. i'm sorry he hurt your feelings but they are the facts of your life and you should respect him for that unless you are looking for a sucker and not a life partner.
86018
If you are not into it, leave him.  It is obvious that he does not think that you are enough for him, and he is going to go out and be with other women, regardless of how you feel, or even the risk of disease he will be putting you in.  Just tell the loser to get his sorry ass away from you, and move on.  You deserve better.
504397
I am not a man, but couldn't resist answering this one.  He doesn't want you to be out all night long, he is thinking if you are out all night long then you are spending the night with another man.  He says he is glad you don't care anymore, but his actions speak louder than words.  Keep on acting like you don't care and see how fast he wants to come back home.
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Weeell, i've been there before. it upset me a lot because he didn't just "look", he gave "several glances" to "several girls" "several times" whenever we were out.no matter what anyone says, its awful.its also absolutely rude to you.i'll guess, not only were you jealous, you felt insulted.the thing i worried most about was, if the girl and other people noticed what he was doing,they'd ask themselves why and check me out, too.maybe even feel sorry for me.i didn't like that thought one bit.i'll tell you what, there are men who are real gentlemen who wouldn't do that.if you're he's girl, he should give you undivided attention, have eyes only for you when you're together.that's what he'd also want from you.no, its absolutely normal that you're upset.i think its just really rude what he's doing.you wouldn't want to be rude enought to check other guys out infront of him, would you?although he does deserve an equal dose of his own medicine.honey, if you're beginning to feel insecure all the time, its not always because there's something wrong with you, although you can help yourself and do something about it.but most likely there is something he's doing to cause it
361917
you need to dump him, its rude for him to be going out to dinner with another female, no matter what classification he tries to give her, if she is really a "friend" then he would invite you along and introduce the two of you, instead of leaving you by yourself at home or elsewhere without him....
579407
If he is your ex-fiancee, why is he still your bf? Doesn't the word EX imply that there was something that is no longer there?\nThere is a difference between you saying 'he leaves you alone on the weekends' and 'go out .. every once and awhile'.\nSorry, but these are two complete different things.\nAt the end, I'd say, nothing wrong if you would like to go out occasionally, but you have to realize that Ex means it's over.\nAnd he at 21 surely wants to enjoy his life and gather more experience before committing himself again.\nSo what about you also moving on and getting a new life? Does this sound like a feasible option for you?
184826
i don't think anything about this situation is wrong. i personally didn't ever turn down anyone who asked me out before i was married because you never know what kinds of amazing people you might meet. so she said yes and now she doesn't like him. happens all the time. however, i wouldn't let him know that she went out with him just because she felt sorry for him. have her tell him that she just isn't feeling him.
660936
i would hate it too i think that its just encourageing something bad to actaully happen- my hubby has people he works with who cheat and go to strip clubs and i know my hubbys gone with them and i hate it.....tell him how you feel but make sure he knows if you catch him without him telling you it will not be ok----
373588
I was always told that in any relationship there are signs and signals to watch for that will give you a heads up as which way the wind is blowing in the relationship.  If the two of you planned to celebrate your birthday...alone than that's what should have been done.  To arrive there, with friends, and already drunk is jusy wrong.\n\nIf someone else invited this girl and he knew about it ahead of time then he should have told his friends, in private, that as soon as you arrived you two were going to leave because there are bad feelings between you and this girl.  Once you arrived at the hall that's exactly what he should have done.  He might have been able to do so had he not been drunk!\n\nYou know those signs and signals I mentioned?  There were two of them right there.  He rearranged the plans the two of you made and he had  total disregard for your feelings?\n\nI'm going to ask you your question:  Shouldn't you leave him?  Why would you stay with someone who ignores your wishes?  Do you enjoy being treated that way?  Forget him
600110
yeah like he said you should ask him first before making assumptions ....you need to apologize and hope next time keep your jealousy under control...otherwise you will drive him away wihtout the help of other women!!
166266
He wants his cake and eat it too. My suggestion: back away, take some time for yourself and then find someone who's ready to give you what you want and need. I'm sure your friend is nice, but if he was ready to commit, he would have done so by now. And finally, you don't need him even as a friend in your life, cuz he'll always be there to play mind game with you. Do you need all that drama?
141991
Yes. It's time to wake up. She obviously is still hung up on this guy. Why else did you go to the club he was playing at? I'm ashamed to say "been there, done that", although I did not drag some poor guy along to watch! Leave her to yearn for the guy who treated her so badly and find a lady who is free to be with a nice guy like you.