i have a friend whos daughter is in the military.shes  haven a hard time dealing with this. can you tell me if theres any support grps in Minnesota that can help her deal with this.
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yes, there are family support groups through her unit. the family support leader is usually the commanders wife.
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Wow. My intial reaction to the main question was "{chuckle} If there is, let me know where to find one...."\n\nBut seriously, from what you're saying, this is not just a matter of a support group. You're talking about potentially criminal and/or tortious behavior and threats by them. You may want to think about speaking with an attorney to find out if you should take legal action.
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The best thing you can do is be supportive during those times when she is wanting out.  I would recomend trying to help her hook up with some of these special battered women assistence organizations.  They can help her get relocated so he can't find her and help her with financial assistence if she needs it also.  What ever you do don't give up on helping her out of this situation.
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depends on where she lives, look in the front of a local phone book, before the government pages in the customer guide, and there should be a section labeled "emergancy & crisis intervention agencies". (Mine is on page A2, but yours may differ) \nGood luck.
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I am not a soldier...anymore.  I was active duty army for 2 1/2 years and also did a tour in Iraq.  I am now a soldier's wife.  My husband just left a week ago.  I know what you are going through.  You need to understand though that when he says he doesn't want you to worry...that's the truth.  I told my husband before he left that I don't want to know if he gets fired upon, has to shoot anyone, etc.  I would rather just stay in a lovely state called denial. LOL  When I was in Iraq I made that mistake of telling my mom when I was shot upon...I never told her about another incident.  I didn't want her to worry. (Keep in mind...is was there in the beginning)  Give him some time...hopefully he will start having some stories that he cares to share soon.  I am am yahoo messenger quite a bit...my email address is in my profile.  Keep your head up...good luck!
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****EDIT BASED ON FURTHER DETAIL FROM POSTER *****\nThis condition is a very serious one, in which you can potentialy loose your daughter.  The decision to either take emergency leave or not should be discussed with your daughters Doctor.  If the doctor feels that the condition is severe enough, ie they are unsure of the outcome, then i would take that type of leave.  However, given the implications of this type of leave (esp if you are military), unless the condition is MAJOR, i wouldn't risk it.  Being there for support, over the phone, sending letters, flowers, little gifts, ect, is preferential in this type of situation.\n\nIf you need to send remittance, i would.  It would help recover some of the cost.  So, as i don't know the entire story behind your daughters condtion, and your 'work conditions', i'm not able to answer any better than that.\n\nStill, hon, good luck, yes :)\n\n****END EDIT*****\n\n*Sighs* I'm sorry to see that people here are not as supportive as one would hope, but those are the breaks of an open forum.\n\nUsing just a 'tidbit' of thought i can understand that not all hospitals allow round the clock visits :)\n\nBut, as your child is in the hospital, under the care of a doctor and medication, you can expect your child to be there from 3days to about 1-2 weeks (dependant on the type of pnm. )  Chances are she'll be just fine :)\n\nI would visit her as long as the visiting hours admit, and then just sleep in the waiting room LOL, i'm just too much of a worry wart to be away from my little one when she's in the hospital.  \n\nJust remember pnm is a serious condition, however it is treatable :)
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contact you husbands command ombubsman they can get you to a support group if youre close to a milatary base . or even over the phone
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I am so sorry for her plight. The two of you need to pool your resources & she should live with you or you with her. The twins should be moved to another school so she can be with you & you can help each other, both as support & financially. Depending on her income, she probably qualifies for food stamps & WIC - all she has to do is go to the local department of Social Services in your community or call them on the phone. She should file for custody of the twins & have the courts establish support from the sperm donor (no way would I call him a father) so she can get the money coming in. If it's enforced through the court system, they will pick him up when he doesn't pay & put him in jail. She should also consider a restraining order against him for their safety. She needs to pull herself together & be strong for the children! Best of luck to you - the resources are there, Social Services CAN help you.
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Okay... you've got a lot of good advice there. But let me tell you what the hardest thing to deal with when deployed and you send all your letters and good things from home. Believe it or not, open ended letters. Those are the letters that say everything is great, and I got hurt. Everyone is fine, and Johnny's arm is doing better. Everything is wonderful, the electricity will be back on tomorrow. It may sound silly, but when away from home for an extended period of time, even the smallest thing on your end seems like a crisis on the other. So please take my advice, when you write about what's going on, both good and bad (we do want to know everything when deployed) make sure that he knows, that you've explained well, that all is okay. And please don't send him anything that will melt in the heat. All the best to both of you.
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Reading this was like reading something I had written about my own son who is also a teenager.  He doesn't have diabetes, but he is at the age where I can't tell him anything!!!  Needless to say, I can relate to your situation but understand how yours is different because your daughter's rebellion can impact her health.  Have you called your DR. since the visit when he didn't "back you up"?  I think I'd start by letting him know I wasn't really happy with his approach.  Maybe next time he will more strongly express the importance that she take a more active role in managing this.  \n\nWith my son, the thing I keep coming back to is this:  He's got to make his own mistakes, because he's not going to listen to or learn them from me.  If he misses the bus again because he can't haul out of bed in the morning, he's going to have to "pay the price" of suspension from school, no excuses from me.  In your case, since she won't listen to you (but could get seriously hurt by not listening) are there any pre-teen diabetic support groups that local hospitals have where she can participate with her peers and listen to dr's/rn have open forums about the issues of the disease?  It also might help her deal with some of the other issues she's facing like feeling different.  That's a big deal for this age group.  There have got to be others you would trust for her to talk to, since she's going to rebel against you right now.  Of course she needs you as support/love, but I've just found that right now, they want to do everything BUT what we suggest or ask them to do.
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I'm sorry this is happening to you.  However, the military DOES have programs for this.  When my hubby returned from Iraq, he went through about a week of classes.  One full day of that, I had to attend as well.  It was basically "mandatory" that spouses attend.  They even provided free childcare at the counseling location.  It was a very good program too.  I'm positive it helped some of those returning who might have had problems adjusting.\n\nI realize you're already divorced, but maybe you can get him to talk to someone.  I don't know if he or you has moved on.  If not, it might not be too late.  Go talk to the chaplain of his NG unit to find out what's available to him as far as counseling.  Some of the problem might be that nothing is available in that area.  I do know that many of the Reserve and NG units are now being counseled at the post they process out from.  It's being done here.  \n\nBe strong and know this wasn't your fault.  War/combat changes people.  He probably didn't understand these changes or know how to deal with them.  You might want to seek counseling alone to learn how to talk to him and deal with some of what he's gone through even though you're divorced.\n\nGood luck.
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There are a lot of women dealing with this right now.  Family Care on base (or at the unit's headquarters if your hubby is a reservist or guardsman) should be able to help you.  Call base information for the numbers.  \n\nDon't hesitate because this type of stress could really amplify any post-partum that you may be experiencing.  \n\nAs far as dealing with it and being strong, it sounds like you already are doing both.  Get some help from those who've been there, though, and be honest with your hubby.  We can deal with a whole lot more than our wives think we can.
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For the sake of others in this situation:\n\nI called the Emergency Room at Marymount Hospital (Garfield Heights, OH).\n\nI spoke to Reception, and the Charge Nurse.\n\nHospitals (at least in Ohio) cannot treat minors without the authorization and/or consent of a parent or legal guardian, unless it is an immediately life-threatening situation. No Grandparents, Aunts, Uncles, adult-siblings, friends of family, etc.\n\nNo matter how much they may want to, they simply cannot.\n\nEven if a Social Worker refers, and takes, the child to any facility or shelter, the facility cannot take the child in, unless her Mother or Father actually accompanies her to the site.\n\nThe Charge Nurse was very sympathetic, but the hands of the medical professionals are tied by the law. Sorry situation.\n\nThe ER Charge Nurse suggested calling the police, have someone admit the police to the home, WHILE THE MOTHER IS PRESENT. The police can force the Mom to seek treatment for a minor, IF they are willing to do so. Judgement call by the responding officers.\n\nThis may be the best bet.\n\nLet's hope this girl does not keep falling through the cracks until she succeeds in her suicide attempts!\n\nI agree with the previous posters who suggested calling the DCFS (Dept of Children and Family Svcs), and a suicide prevention hotline for futher advice.\n\nAs Joker stated, Child Endangerment may be a very good option.
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See if you can get in touch with one of the tv stations in the area she is in. I know stations in our area have set up videoconferences for soldiers before.
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Start with Navy relief society.  Most Navy bases have off-campus schools that can help you.\n\nTry link below.
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I'd suggest calling any local military bases or reserve/guard units. I know that active duty military bases have programs in place like what you are talking about.
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Do you have an FRG Leader you can ask?  If not, I sent my son the following and he loved it.\nBaby wipes, poptarts, canned spaghetti(with poptop lid), Vienna sausages, crackers, sunflower seeds, puzzle books, sun screen (very high SPF), more baby wipes (can't have too many of those) and LOTS of love letters from you.  Your letters mean the world to him right now.  It is hard having him so far from home, but stay true and keep writing to him and letting him know you will be there for him.  My prayers are with you both and my hat is off to the both of you.  Being a soldier is hard, but so is being the woman behind the man.  You get the bad times too, but none of the recognition