So I went to high school with this guy and girl who later ended up together, well I met up with him and he told me he was single.  Long story short, I slept with him 3 times, got pregnant, hid it from him, baby died, later told him, and now 3 yrs after everything his girlfreind from then and I guess now is harassing me saying that I ruined her life and I should pay for it.  Should I feel bad, I had no idea they were togethor, I think she should be mad at him.  A I wrong?
120014
Regrets wouldn't do any good. What's done is done. The past is past. Get on and leave her behind.\n\nAttagirl!
243106
You need to take responsibility. YOU chose him as the father of your kids right??? You girls make the mistake of doing whatever they want with no regard to yourselves or your unborn children........Then whine when they "turn-out' to be idiots...Remember.. IF YOU PAY ATTENTION, Guys tell you who they are. LISTEN!
114390
I am in that situation right now. I had a one night stand and got pregnant, which I was told I could never have children. The guy and I got together but we weren't in love. We made our bed so we are lieing in it. It isn't our son's fault that we didn't use protection. Besides I am happy I had my son. We feel that even though we are not happy, in order for our son to be whole with a happy life, that we are sacrificing our happiness. Divorce is really hard on the children and being raised by a single parent is sometimes difficult. All my son's friends are being raised by a single parent. Most of them come to our home to eat dinner and get dessert which they don't get at home. They hang out at our house cos their parents are out on the weekends trying to find another mate. One has gone down the wrong road, the other misses home cooked meals, the other one misses his dad doing father-son things even though there is visitation. If there isn't any abuse involved, I would say stay until they are out of high school.
200936
Sounds like you've got your hands full. With the whole money thing. He needs to give it to her it's a law and i agree. Plus the whole had sex with him while he was sleeping.... then how did she get pregnant??? He needed to shoot it for her to get pregnant. That sounds like a lie to me.
305717
First of all, i feel sorry for u.\nIt has happened ...fathers gettin cocky with their daughters. If u feel his intentions are not right..report to someone reliable..for help. \n         Show ur dislike for such actions...(maybe he is gettib too funny..and u are misunderstanding him). \n        BUt , if he still continues his behavior...show ur protest and kick his balls for once and for all.
324241
Fist: DON'T FEEL SORRY FOR THIS CREEP!!!!   Feel sorry for him?  Just imagine him doing the same thing to another girl, which he does or at least probably will.  I am a guy and I used to supervise a call center of almost all women and I always was very careful about not harrassing anyone!  \n\nYou should file a lawsuit, but you probably can't because you probably didn't keep a detailed log of exactly how and when he harrassed you and it would help to have some other ladies there with the same complaints and details.  Probably not, right?  Ok.  \n\nSo at least file a formal complaint with the company so it's on record that this has happened.  Why?  Because then when he does the same thing to other girls (which he will...) and someone else sues him (which will happen eventually if he keeps it up...), your complaint will help her case tremendously by demonstrating that he has a history of harrassment.
427380
sounds like a fking AS_HOLE oh my god. what a terrible person. you have to feel bad for his girlfriend, too...my god, DITCH THE FKER and good job for not making a "move"
158705
yes!dear because no one wants to be made a fool of! and thats selfish of them both. i mean sometimes people are not ment to be but lets be adults about it. and he is bogus treating you while you are pregnant! my dude did that and it hurts like hell.my daughter is 7 and it still hurts.but just remember that everything in the dark shall come to light but its up to you to crack the blind.
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I'm a female.  But if I was in that man's shoes, I would not take that lightly.  How can she be such a con?! \n\nThen I would sue for custody of the child.  How do I know if she will look after the child being a liar that she is.  She is just a bad person all round. \n\nI would be ashamed to call her my friend if I were you.  There's nothing wrong with him not using protection.  He had the knowledge that she wouldn't fall pregnant.  He was just decieved.  Period.
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YES! You should. See, he had the guts to come and tell you, if he had done it on purpose, he would have tried to hide it from you. This girl took advantage of him and while it may have been his fault, the beer didn't help. Make it clear you aren't happy and you are going to forgive him this once. Perhaps give him suggestions to make it up to you, like taking you out to dinner or something extra special. Make him work a little bit to say sorry, but make sure you make it clear you forgive otherwise you may lose him. Everyone makes mistakes. To Err is human, to forgive is divine.\n\nPerhaps talk with this girl and make it clear that this was not okay. Tell her to back off and perhaps get your anger out on her, not your boyfriend, cause it sounds like she was just waiting for him to get drunk. Being drunk, you can't remember anything and everything becomes a bluf, so an offer of sex would be pleasing because you didn't know any better.\n\nFYI, don't become overly suspcious and break up with im if he looks at another girl (and I mean just looks). Men are attracted to all kinds of women and him looking at another girl and staying with you is a compliment of how he loves you more than physical attraction could bring.
461858
From what you described, I think it was the only choice.  And why should you feel guilty?  She's the one sleeping with other guys.  Sounds like you fell for a ho.  She did you a favor. Get on with your life and never look back.
255773
when you play you pay.Thats what I was told.Murdering a child that the two of you unprepared and carelessly made shouldn't be an option.You shouldn't play God.Put the child up for adoption if you can't take care of it.ALWAYS be truthful.Lies will come back to haunt you.We all make mistakes.And by that I mean not telling the new boyfriend before you got with him.If he wants you to get an abortion he is a loser anyway,and if the new guy isn't supportive lose him,too.You're baby deserves better.None of this is the babys fault.Babies are God's gift to us.
132906
wow- you're angry.  Sounds like you picked a wrong partner.  But I bet you're no picnic to live with either, especially if ANY of this hostility comes through.  Hopefully you just had a bad day and needed to vent, if not- call a lawyer before there's children involved!
184412
Don't go back with him. if you did want a baby then you should get married first. but he'll just do it again and i'm sure that he slept with this girl for more reasons then u think
359922
I would say its a bad idea. If this person is your friend then going after someone they were with is just bad karma. The best thing I can suggest is to talk to her and tell her how you feel.
82917
Yes!!! I think it's really disrespectful...he shouldn't be talking about it anymore because he's not with her...it would be almost like he was recreating those thoughts...you shouldn't impliment things you did with past partners either...everyone is pleasured in different ways...how rude of boys to do this!!!
535331
wow it sounds like he doesn't have a life.. and your was the only one he ever knew. .... Maybe getting or hinting around you have someone  may hurt him enough to ( move on for a better word) maybe that is the hurt he needs to move on. But it sounds like his self esteem is low enough that he may not get the message.  Does your daughter have a clue or is she enjoying the fact that this "dad" figure makes her life easier because she has MAYBE  no dad or no spouse. ...  It sounds like this guy plays a big part in her life...  Does he like her ?? Sounds gross.. but sometimes weird things happen. or is he just not able to let go ?  I would tell her ... this is hurting you .. Or better yet get on with your life .. go out .,, not be home and just live and he and your daughters relationship may not have as much bang as it used to .. if your not around as much ... there is not a lot for him and her to have to analyze and talk about.....  I say get out of the house ... even pretend to have a life.. and pretty soon .. you will .. and this will be part of the past .. not the present.  \n\n BUT you didnt specify if that was her dad .... if it is ... well that is a differnt story... and she needs her dad.. and you still need to  get on withthings...