O.k.  I have come here often just to read and find the ansers to My questions, but htis time it isnt here.  My grl for 2 yrs have been having a great realtionship and are in love,  She hasnt minded physical contact at all any way and day until recently..  All of a sudden no matter how romantic, caring or giving with anything and I mean anything I cant even get some kind of physical affection in return..  Yeah there is supposed to be at least a 50/50 but something come on!!  This has ben happening for the past 2 months (maybe a little more I try not to keep track)
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Shes getting bored with it! Women, after a while going out w/ the same guy, get tired, just like men!! Plus, we dont like sex alllllll the time like men do!!
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Thanks for asking.I am fine.Track record for relationship love was yucky. Have great children,wonderful sisters thats all i need. Thought for years whats love got to do with it,Then lucky for me 2 years ago I found out.Everyday with him i find out more. Our world is just that.OURS we put ourselves in some messes clean some up and pretend the others are someone else's problem.I'm fine I worry about our generations to follow
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That's actually a tough situation because there's no guaruntee he'll ever been 100% ok with affection. This isn't going to help much, but start out small by trying to be affectionate at home and work your way up. Small things, like hugs, hold hands while watching a movie *at home*, and the occassional kissing that doesn't lead to sex.... IF that ever becomes comfortable then you move up to small social settings with friends. You don't want to jump right into situations where there are a lot of random people around. If you can't get up to or past the stage where you can be affectionate in front of friends it would probably be best to let it go. You don't want to push to hard, and in the end it's not always possible to change a person. I hope this helps.
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Oh my goodness! I was JUST like you with the Touchy Feely. I wasn't that at all when I started to date my boyfriend because I've never been used to that emotional display. I was so used to hangin' out w/the boyz that it just rubbed off on me. I'm used to it now because it's just his way of showing me how he feels. But don't let him get too "Fresh"
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Hope this works out for you. its probably a bit raw at the moment. could this possibly not be the first time this has happened, as im sure she is trying to tell you something and get a reactionary response. she wants you to want her and fight for her not just give up. im thinking that she wants you to commit after 8 years. she doesnt want to ask you to make it a more secure relationship possibly not long distance. she wants you to come up with that idea and put it to her. so she can feel loved and needed. thats what im thinking and im a chick and sometimes we can be a bit weird like that. so give it a go when things calm down have a honest talk with her and ask her what she really wants or doesnt want from you and decide what you are ready to give. if you arent ready to give everything - why have a relationship anyway. take care and give it some time.
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I wonder why your gf feels that affection should wait until after marriage. Innocent touching like hand holding, shoulder massages and playing footsie are normal parts of a dating relationship.  if she really feels that it is part of her personality, don't expect it to change.  You will either have to compromise with affection she feels is acceptable (and enough of it to satisfy you) or to move on.  Something as basic as affection in a relationship should have a common ground, otherwise, someone will end up angry, disappointed or rejected.
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I am so tired of yall asking us about these guys feelings! Hell, we don't know, REALLY, you need to be asking these men or ladies these questions. YOU are showing signs of cowardness by holding back, its 2006, go for what you know.  Yall must be youngins cause aint no grown folks carrying on like this. Well not all of them. I can say for myself that  life is too short to play games,you maynever get another chance, take it from someone who is lonely because I made the wrong decision.... I didnt say anything, now I'll never know if he loved me or not, but I have come to learn the answer...Im sorry i kinda went off there, Just speak your mind and be yourself, it thats is not good enough for them then they are not good enough for you.....sincerely Lonely aka mstwissta
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To answer your question, YES a PSYCHOLOGIST can help you with all of the above. They are trained in relationships, marriage, and individual counseling. I think it would be good for you to talk with someone about this situation. You will feel better for doing so! \nMy guess is, you will begin to realize why you are waiting on someone who isn't emotionally nor physically available right now!!!\nGood Luck to you I wish you the very best!!
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You are what you are and if he truly loves you, he will definitely respect your feelings. Dont do anything that you feel uncomfortable with now... make things clear now- its better than repenting later. Understanding, mutual respect and honesty are the very basics of any relationship. If he cant compromise and make adjustments now, it doesnt bode well for the future too, does it? So speak out whats in your mind- let him know how you feel. Explain to him that you come from a conservative background and that you dont feel comfortable with the relationship getting physical so soon. DONT DO ANYTHING THAT U FEEL IS NOT RIGHT!
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It sounds like she's not interested in working things out.  Or you haven't been listening to her needs and haven't changed your behavior and she might feel you'd be better off finding someone who likes what you like and allowing her to move on and be happy too.\n\nIt can be too late or it might not.  Only you can know for sure.
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It sounds like her feelings have changed towards you.  Ask yourself some questions.  Do you mind her touching you?\nTalk to her, find out how she feels.
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I am sorry to tell you, but i think he is simply trying to 'dump' you as unharmful as possible.  I went through this with my girlfriend, and i started spending less time with her to break the attachment.  Chances are he is changing his mind because he likes anything physical, like hugging, kissing, holding hands, ect...
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I am going through the same deal, except I am no where close to the love part yet. It is difficult to lay yourself out on a line when your not certain they feel the same. I am beginning to understand you just have to take that plunge if you care enough that it worries you and your ready to express it. I need to take my own advice.
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Not calling just makes me think they've moved on and if I find out it's been a head game, that just ticks me off. Honestly what works for me is just being nice to be around. Nice isn't the word I want, but seems to fit the best. You also may have a partner who has a personality that is content with certain levels of partnership and this is something you'll have to think about if it applies. I'm very independent, and am not comfortable with someone who wants to hang all over me. I don't do that myself, and for me it's a bit creepy and makes me feel suffocated. Just my take on things, if you really want to know, ask your partner he knows himself better than anyone else. Good luck!
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Geez, I'm in a rut right now with one.  I want to believe something will really happen, but the longer it goes, and his stories change, I"m starting to feel he's making me play games now.  \n\nI have however made 2 very good friends from the online dateing!  It's like we have been friends forever. The problem was, we weren't compatable with all the lovey, romance, sex stuff.\nBut I'll love their friendship and hold them dear in my heart forever!
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time will tell dude...if her affection towards you is getting more "close" then shes not lost to you dude...she just needs a little space...from what i understand i dont think shes going anywhere...just let it unfold...
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It is normal! Its like a "what if" type of problem. I think our subconscious asks what would happen if we were together. And if you care about someone you cant turn those feelings off or erase them. Your normal. Take care!!