I Used to know this guy who used to be a close friend of mine but later we had an argument as we did'nt think the same way.I mean he was only crazy about porn.All he ever talked about was porn at first I did'nt mind him but later he started gettin on my nerves.So we stopped meeting each other.For about two years we had'nt seen each other.During this period I got saved & became a bible believing born again.Now this guys back but hes even worse.He gone so crazy with prn & sex that he wants to do it with a whore.I tried talking some sence into him.But he just does'nt seem to understand & he just does'nt want to hear about God or the Bible.He told me that he does'nt really want to have sex with a whore but he cant control his urges.Hes told me that its my job to convince him not to sleep with a whore & if I dont manage to convince him within a week he will sleep with a whore & to top it all he said that if he gets any STD due to sleeping with a whore It'll be my fault for not stoppin him.
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firstly im sorry to hear that\nsecondly, it might sound a bit disgusting but tell him to masterbate or something, to sleep with a whore is just wrong and dirty but to blame ones actions on someone else to me is an even bigger wrong doing as well as being filthy!\nhe needs to sort his life out, and to do it now and get his head in order.\n\ngood luck, my love\nlots of love,hugs and kissess\namanda\nx x x x x x
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Well, I advise not to invite pornography into your home period. The bible says that the marriage bed is undefiled. And it also says that he will give us the desire of our hearts. So, advise your friend to pray about the situation and simply ask God to help them revive their lovemaking. You know what, the first lady at our church has been married to our pastor for more than 20 years. She said that before they make love, they actually pray and ask God to be a part of their lovemaking  and to bless it. She further stated that after they pray....... they make a joyful noise!!!
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this is starting to look like a blog . . . \n\nvboy who knows what is up with him and who cares . . . I know he asks a lot questions about homosexuals, cheating people, sex positions, how to cheat, how many times you had sex, etc . . . etc. And in the end he says all Muslims, homosexuals, and sinful people should be killed because they are going against gods will . . . \n\nTeaser . . . I don't give a damn if you are bi or not.  This is not the place for that.  If you are truly christian . . . don't the scriptures say to forgive the transgressor . . . for he know not what he is doing.  Ignore him . . . and leave it be.\n\nTZ - if thou is without sin, let him cast the first stone.  If not, back off . . . and get off her back. Do not judge lest ye be judged.\n\n- - - \n\nAs for myself . . . I don't really believe in god anymore . . . but I have studied in the past (while in search of god) . . . I have studied 15 major religions . . . I have also been an ordain minister, a pastor, a rabbi, a priest, an oracle, a vedic, even an akond  - but found everyone of them to be hypocritical . . . saying one thing while performing another . . .\n\nI am not perfect and I am not judging . . . but get off your high horse everyone . . . this is a place where people are supposed to ask questions and receive the best possible answers from their peers . . . this is not a bash site.\n\nHopefully this ends this and you take my advice and end it and live in peace.
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It really doesn't work that way.  First, you need to make a sincere commitment to God, not just say a weak prayer.  Second, since you have been involved in an addictive lifestyle, like promiscuous heterosexuals, drugs and alcohol, it is a struggle you will have all of your life.  I still struggle with my own sinfulness 20 years down the road, so, even if God can and does miracles, you need to prepare for the long run...and it may be a long and hard one.  Hope you get serious one day.  Blessings.
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I find it peculiar that someone who has a desire to live according to God's will as you do, would find a strip club fun.  That's why I really believe that it was not the strip club itself that was fun for you.  Perhaps it was just hanging out with friends or something that you found fun.\n\nBut I really don't know for sure.  I just know that I would hate to be anywhere near a strip club.  That said, I don't want to judge you.  We all have different ways we see things.  But I do know that the Bible is against such things.  Proverbs speak against it.\nBut God is forgiving, and He also understands our particular weaknesses.  So He won't forsake you just because you found it fun there.  Pray to Him, and let Him give you the answer.  It is clear that you do wish to follow Him, and if you keep that desire, you will find Him.
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Ma'am...I believe you've just been the victim of a very nasty thing that we men do sometimes. It's called "A ONE NIGHT STAND". He just appears to have wanted sex with no strings attached.A note - never trust men who try to get in your pants the first chance they get....they probably have done/are doing it with many others as well.
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We as humans were designed to interlock with the opposite sex. Thats the way God made us. The relational differences between a female/male relationship and a female/felmale relationship can be confusing. Jesus offers us a way out of our sinful lifestyles. I was involved in what you are now involved in. It is no doubt hard. I felt so bad and was so unsure of everything. But once we recognize that we are not perfect then we can go to Christ and He will forgive us and lay upon us the will to change and do better in His sight. All sins are equal and they all demand repentance. You need to get out of this situation for your spiritual well being. You should pray and ask what God wants for you. Tell her that your friendship means a lot and that is why it developed into what it is. Tell her you overstepped some important boundaries apologize and ask her to forgive you. I will pray for you. Just remember Jesus saves the broken hearted. No sin is too great to be pardoned as long as you come willing to yield to Him.
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I was addicted to sex at one time. (and bad sites...of course) It is actually a pretty dangerous addiction, as it's overlooked by society, and it can cause a number of mental problems. As for convincing him to stop, the answer is different for everyone. He will need to want to stop for himself, first, for this is the only effective reason. I went to a councelor about it, and that helped me incredibly. I had to have some bad things happen in my life, before I was able to control my other addictions.\n\nThe important thing is that the person is able to see what freedom is like for them when they are not addicted. Freedom from being controled by the addiction.\n\nMy answer to your question is this. Councelors spend their lives learning about this sort of thing. You should find a friend who can recommend a trustworthy councelor for you. Go and see them and explain your delima. Not only will they help you to feel better, they will explain all the things you can do for this person. I promise, this would be your best option. I've been there, I know that an addict like me won't listen to someone trying to tell them how to live their life, until they know the right words to say. I won't give you too much advice, because I don't know everything, but I can give you some examples of what people did to help me. I sent you my email address, if you're interested. I don't know how much I can help, but I will be more than happy to help someone show another person out of addiction!
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I went through the same thing with my best friend. She did a complete 180, started doing drugs having sex etc. and it turned into a huge fight. I confronted her about it and told her how pissed it made me. We didn't talk for the next six months. Then slowly we began to hang out again. We are now talking and hanging out but it will never be the friendship we once had. You need to confront your friend then ignore him completely until your ready to reestablish a friendship on YOUR terms. Like I said it won't ever be what it was but you can at least save something.
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I doubt if he was taking meth. That was just a cover-up for his homosexuality. The other man denied selling him meth. He seems a lot more honest than the pastor. It was about sex, not meth. He has resigned from the church. His days of leading or fleecing the sheep are over. I can forgive people for their short comings, lord know I have mine, but to criticise and condemn others for doing the same thing you are is unforgivable. Hypocrisy is the real sin in this case. He is only sorry that he has been outed. He would have kept doing the same thing and leading a double life if the other man hadn't come out with the truth.
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I have a girlfriend whose ex-husband is addicted to porn.  She'd find his movies/mags between the mattresses when she changed the bed, or tucked away in his drawers when putting away laundry.  Even in the glove compartment of their family car.  She talked to him, ragged at him, but nothing would stop him.  Finally, she devised a plan.  She went to a porn shop, and bought about 100 bucks worth of stud movies and toys for HER.  She tucked Her mag between the mattress, and put her toys in the night stand drawer.  Put a few movies in the bathroom drawer.  All hidden, but easy to find by him.  WELL...he did find them, and just about came unglued.  He accused her of being unfaithful, and unsatisfied in their relationship.  He tore through the house looking for her stuff and then lite a fire and burned it.  While the fire was raging, she grabbed a bag she had stored some of his porn in and threw it in.  He got 2nd and 3rd degree burns from trying to save his crap.  While He was at the hospital.  She packed her bags and moved out. True story.  After she got counseling, she learned that 70% of men who used porn alone, disapproved of their wife's/mate watching porn alone.  It's an illness.  He won't change unless he gets help.  Sadly, he'll always have the urge.
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nope - this has nothing to do with you. This guys seems to have a lot of problems, problems with women and relationships, problems with sex. So he runs away. He had already ran away when he entered your door, you know. He really did not mean things to last. \nSo his problems can be in his childhood, it can be that he is extremely insecure, maybe he was raised extremely catholic or who knows what. \n\nFor you there are certain decisions to make: \n- He almost raped you it seems. This is inappropriate behavior. If you want you can take "revenge" and file a complaint with his supervisors and so on. It sounded like this however was not completely without your consent. So - I would probably not go there in this siutation. \n\nNext decision - do you like him? Do you want to see him again?  If no - then you should just close that chapter. There are such guys out there, you may encounter a few of them and those will be memories of bad sex for a life time. An experience you learned from.  So - accept it as such and move on. \n\nIf you like him and you think he is worth to follow up then you would have a lot of work ahead of you. Besides - if you get his interest back (on a conversational base) - you would have to deal with him in a professional way with his underlying problems. I personally would not want to go there either. There are plenty good guys out there and good sex is important. \nA guy who delivers bad sex won't improve, some just got the gift and others don't.  And underlying severe problems don't go away easily. \n\nSo overall - maybe closing the chapter, putting a mark on it as learning experience and being grateful for that he he voluntarily disappeared is the best way to go.
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Yes, I've been there. It sucks! But you have to be true to yourself. I let the guy know that I wasn't all about being his P.O.A. I wanted a relationship. I am not the type of girl that you can call whenever you want a booty-call. I told him that. I gave him a few chances to change how he was towards me, and he didn't. I told him I was tired of how he treated me, and I left. You have to be true to you, and don't give in to be with someone. Don't give him the chance to use you for sex. Make him want you before he wants sex. You are young. You will find someone who wants to be with you for you and not for sex. Make the person wait. If he's into you, he'll wanna be with you for you before you sleep with him. As far as the following, and calling thing. Tell him he needs to get over it, and stop his crap. If he doesn't, and it gets to where you are scared (past the point of just plain tired of it) I would look into a restraining order, or talk with a police officer or counselor at school as far as what you should do, but be careful. Dont let something like that go, either. That could get ugly, and scary.
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Feel bad for sinning?!?! What, are you nuts?? Christianity ROCKS! I go out on Sat nights, get hammered, have sex with multiple women, and sometimes even men. But I then go to Church on Sunday, so its all good!!! You should give this bombass religeon a try! Its freakin awesome! I can look at myself in the mirror and sleep well at night knowing that Im a better person than you are cuz Im going to heaven! Youre on your way to hell! HA HA HA!!! \n\n(This was a rant...Im not really Christian...)
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Yeah, you do sound like a perfect match here.. (I'm listening to your friends here too.. they're all Christians, they know you 2 guys.. we're a load of strangers out here and do not.) I am glad you are Christians and it'll pay off.. I hope you do not get a lot of rude-comments in here.. (people are like that.. you sound like a really nice girl, er woman.) I was thinking back when I was in h.s./then college.. Back then it was a big age difference to have a high school and college 'kid' hook up.. (too much difference..) Now I don't know(?) (Guess I am too old!.. lol.. 53/f) I think if you've got these same morals (you don't sound in any HUGe hurry here, that's good) you should pray on it, wait some more. Can you talk to your minister? (I know.. it's embarassing.. how about talking to the minister's wife? other women in the church?) You'd be surprised (if it's like MY church) how helpful they can be! (might put in a good word for ya even.. wink) IF this guy is looking (and he will be) for a good CHRIStian wife, don't worry, he'll go straight back to his favorite church (and guess what?! YOU'll be there!) good luck.. I'll be praying for you two.. peace out
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"BEEL®" U R AN IDIOT! GOD FORGIVES EVERYONE. THATS WHY HE IS GOD!\n\nNow, and speaking from experience, it will be hard but it is not impossilbe and it will take TIME. For those who have never been tramatized sexually or any other way it is easy for them to say "Get over it". I would not say that they were being insensitive but that they are not able to deal with you on that level b/c truely unless you have been through IT, whatever the IT is then you can not really give any type of advice. \n\nI would suggest that you pray a whole whole lot and let God bring you to the place that you need to be. Also, try to look up a 12 step program for abused women in your area b/c talking to others that have been through it will help a great deal. \n\nAlso, if you ever get to this point, then confront him. Express yourself, whether it be anger, sadness, hurt  that you feel. be sure that he knows how you feel and let him know that an apology is necessary. \n\nNot that you can't go on w/o one but he needs to admit and acknowledge that he has wronged you.
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LOOK AND READ THIS IDIOTS PROFILE ABOUT CHRISTIANITY.\n HE IS A LOSER.  AND MAYBE A CATHOLIC LOSER AT THAT.  \nHE IS A SPIRITUALLY IGNORANT SOUL.  IN NEED OF TRUTH.  \n\nPRAY FOR THIS GUY. HE IS MESSED UP SPIRITUALLY.