I thought I loved the ex, but she dumped me after cheating on me to be with the guy she cheated on me with.  This happened a year ago and I still have feelings of anger toward her.  How do I convince my new girl that i'm over her even though i still have anger toward my ex.
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I went through this, but the guy cheated on me. I still have anger for him, which happened a little over 3 years ago, my current boyfriend though the same way your girlfriend is think about the anger. You need to tell your girlfriend that you have anger built up towards her because what she did was wrong and you can't forgive her for that. But one thing I do suggest is that when your around your girlfriend don't mention anything about your ex cheating on you, pretend you don't even know who she is now. It is hard but trust me it pays off in the long run. I know don't even think about my ex cheating on me, because I love my boyfriend now and I'm happy with him. Just talk to your girlfriend and tell her exactly how you feel about the whole situation.
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Come on, darlin, open your eyes and find someone new.\nThis girl sas and does things that hurt you?  She cheated on you?  She wants you but doesn't want you now?\n\nPlease move on.  No ultimatums, no if's and;s or but's...move on.  She had her chance, she broke your heart and you can not allow this to happen again.\n\nIf you open your heart and your mind, you'll find a new love that might treat you like you need to be treated.  A new beginning with a new love.  Stop pining over this other gal and let loose of her.  She isn't worth it, believe me.\n  As I said, she had her chance, she blew it.  Once a cheater, always a cheater.  She is just too immature for you.  Move on...............
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Your friend feels hurt and betrayed by your actions when you dumped him for the loser boyfriend.  It sounds as if he cares more for you than the other guy ever did.  Keep this in mind when dealing with the friend you could trust.  He's not the same guy who treated you so badly and he probably will not react in the same way.  Give him a chance.  \n\nIf you want to rebuild the friendship, you need to give it time and take small steps. Trust is the fastest thing to lose and the slowest to regain. Back off for now.  Leave him alone for a week or so, then if you still want to speak with him, text or email him that you've had some time to think and you're wondering how he's doing.  (Absolutely DO NOT do this if you are not totally sincere.  You've hurt him once already and he doesn't deserve to be hurt again.) If he answers, then you have a dialog.  Ask if you can speak to him on the phone.  Tell him you know that you did was wrong and ask for his forgiveness.  Most importantly, let him know how much you miss him.  Tell him that you'd like to talk to him again later.  If he agrees, then ask if he'd meet you somewhere for a coke or something.  After a few times of talking to you and seeing you, he will start to see a change.  That is what he's looking for.  When you feel that the both of you are ready, then find a way to be alone with him.  Tell him how you feel.  Most importantly don't rush him or yourself.  Friendship is built on trust and trust takes time.  Best of luck.  Hope this helps.
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It is not un common for a guy to flirt with an ex girlfriend of his. If he has treated you badly and is still being a real gerk that my answer to your question would be to move on and find someone new although it might hurt and you will probably still think about him occasionally, it will all work out for the best. If you want to talk more you can email me at adorablegrl1986@yahoo.com                                                       Sincerely                                                                adorablegrl1986
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Hi i was seeing this guy for 2 years, and as soon as we broke up i was so devastated and went into a state of depression, i ended up meeting up with some old friends of mine for some one nighters and it was the best thing i had ever done to boost my ego, then i started seeing this other guy about 2 months after and we were together for about 6 months and we now remain friends, he new what it was all about and thought it was a great relationship we had. I think you need to get your mind off the EX and have a little fun, it really helps.\n\n**Oh and the 2 year guy, he is one of my best friends and he has been trying to get me back since we broke up, he jokes that i am the only one he will really love, i can see myself marrying him, but not until i am ready to settle down. He's out doing the same thing, i love what we have**
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Listen exes no matter what always have a piece of someones heart no matter how bad relationships have gone there is always that one memory that keeps it coming back. If you will give this girl the world then give her your support, guys again have trouble showing emotion so we really dont understand, but the fact of the matter is shes with you, she stays with you, and that should be good enough for you. Shes not running to him and she has been open and honest with you, now you need to take whatever she gives you and work with it, support is the most important thing, start at step one and work your way up, I know its hard but swallow a little pride and do it.
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Sadly and embarrassingly enough - I know that situation and have been on the girl side. I loved my new bf and just could bear the fact that my ex is just not noticing and forgetting me. Stupid enough I have been to start calling him and even meeting with him saying that I want his friendship. But really I just wanted him to be mine again even though I didn't really need him!!!\n\nBe careful women are fools!! It might not be the same situation, but based on what you said and what I've had it really looks like it!
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Not sure I get the question but I was with my ex girlfriend for 3 years and I thought I was in love with her then one day I sat back and thought "I don't actually like her, let alone love her". The revelation kicked me in the ass and after that I couldn't bare to be in the relationship with her anymore. She is a wonderful human being and very beautiful as well but I just felt nothing! I completely devistated her but even now, 6 months after she has gone, I still feel nothing for her! Odd!
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take note:she was ur ex girlfriend..so it doesn't really matter if she dates another guy.. if u decide to take her back remember that u don't trust her.. so why invest or taking her back? u will go on the same cycle when u were with her....probably ur just bothered coz she moved on already while u r not.. \nit's normal.. try to get urself busy.. go out with friends and please try to forget her.. it won't do good for you.. i know u can do it.. so good luck
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Jealousy is a character flaw, I personally think that you are a mature person , whom has moved past  the initial bad feelings, this is a good thing. Your new girlfriend needs an attitude adjustment and a reality check, she is your current love interest. The only reason she told you to break off your relationships with your Exes, was to try to control you.
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Laugh at them. I mean, she couldn't handle being single and fell into a rebound relationship that is doomed for failure. It's painful, I know, but don't worry. You're over her, what she does shouldn't bother you. Let her find another guy, let her screw up that relationship, and push her from your mind. You'll find someone else soon enough.
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Put yourself in this situation. Would you get jealous? Yeah, and besides getting jealous you would probably be ticked off that since they got a girlfriend I'm nothing now not even a friend. If she meant the world to her then why could you drop her so easily??? Maybe you should care more about other peoples feeling instead of just your own. Good Luck:) Sorry, if this offends anybody.
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think about the reasons you spilt up.   if you got back together it could all repeat it self  i would stick with the new girlfriend never go backwards move forward   good luck
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Tell your new girlfriend that you are having a problem.  Explain how you are attracted to her, what you love/like about her, but that for some reason you keep thinking of your old girlfriend.  Explain that you don't really know why.  Then let her know that you need some time to work this out, and that the more time goes on, the more you realize that you're not ready to be in a new relationship after all right now, WITH ANYBODY.  And truthfully take that to heart.  I'd ease off of this new relationship for a few weeks or a month or so, just to sort out your own feelings.  You need to either A) get in touch with some real feelings of grief about losing your old girlfriend and work through them (maybe with a counselor?) and / or B) re-visit the old relationship to see if you should continue.  Either way, it's important to recognize and attend to what's real, your truest and deepest feelings inside.
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By doing this makes you a stronger man...you did good by leaving her alone...it is hard when you have been in love, then it's all over, it hurts immensely and life seems pointless at that stage, give yourself some healing time...it's natural to feel the way you feel...by ignoring her and not staying in contact is a good way to go...as much as it hurts you are proving to yourself that you can move on, despite the hurt and heartache...good man...at least your not hassling her with calls and constantly on her case...never call yourself a coward, you are no where near to being a coward...your doing the right thing...you are saving your feelings from being hurt further and you are also respecting your ex by letting her get on with her life...there should be more out there like you...stay with it and focus on other things to ease your pain, it's hard not to see or hear about her new fella but there's no other way to tackle this...lets know how you get on in a months time...the pain won't be as intense as it is now...bless you....x
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DAMN gurl thats the same thang going on wit me! well i think we still like our ex's. we just are being ignorant and trying to avoid them topop up in our heads, y? cuz we regret going out wit them in a way, but at the same time we dont! were mad we broke up and just think we hate them but we dont!!! and trust me it wasnt luv gurl, u still got a lot of yo life left, ull find ur true luv! \n\nhope this helped \nkarina\nnina02-atx@yahoo.com\nps: did yall eva do sumthin that when u think of it u wish u arent thinking of it for sum reason? maybe thats whats bothering u! its botheirng me!
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Well, I'm sorry, but it really doesn't sound like this boy has his loyalty values placed in the right spot in his mind. He toyed with this girl, let her toy with him in return, and kept secrets from you. That is definitely betrayel, and you have every right to be bothered and upset. Could you give him a second chance? Of course. Especially because he seems to be respecting your wishes now and not talking to her anymore. If he didn't care about what you wanted, he probably could have broken up with you and gone on seeing this girl. The decision really is up to you, though. If you feel like you can forgive him for this and give him another shot and staying with you (assuming that he has learned his lesson), then by all means go for it. But if you are still really bothered by this and think that it could definitely happen again, and he still has strong feelings for this girl, then maybe you should consider moving on. It would be very hard because you love him...but if he is not going to be loyal to you, your relationship would never last. And love is not very useful in a non-existent relationship.\n\nThink it over carefully. Talk with your boyfriend about what you are feeling, and see what he has to say about it. If he cares for you, there is bound to be something that he can do to make you feel better. Base your judgements off of a sound conclusion that you are certain of, and remember to do what you believe is right, and what will be best for both you and him. Sometimes decisions like this are all a matter of the heart, especially when dealing with forgiveness. I wish you luck!