I'm from a small town called Athens I have a couple of friends that say their not racist but one of them expressed to me a month ago that he use to hate blacks and his friends and him would beat them up.Now he says he's kool but he gives off this weird uncomfortable feeling wen i'm with him. He jokes around about blacks and how we are so different but we all bleed red. What do u think about this should i cut off the friendship we are not that close.
126926
Racism shows ignorance, and total lack of respect! Unfortunately our wonderful country is full of MORONS! I'm sorry that your friend is making you uncomfortable, tell him that you would like to continue being friends but that the racial jokes are making you believe that he still has racial issues (either that or make some jokes about his race). Most of my friends are Hispanic (I'm Anglo) we all joke around, (but we know that it's just joking and we don't make each other feel out of place. If he is a true friend, he will understand your feelings and respect your wishes. Good Luck.
90660
well i know how you feel, and it is already hard work to stay friends with someone when you live a long ways away, so if you dont get along very well anymore maybe it is time to let your friendship just drift appart this might be easier than trying to be friends with someone who doesnt or isnt willing to understand you.
632227
Yes, he was being racist. Unfortunately, people do not treat others in the way that they themselves want to be treated. His point has nothing to do with you, and is likely the result of the frustration he was feeling because of his alien status and the recent immigration ballyhoo. No he isnt worth you going to jail. Why dont people realize that they are being racially insensitive when comments like his are being made? Racism is not the one way street that most people believe it to be, and it is often an excuse for poor behavior.
666422
You know what?  I hear this all the time with different ethnic groups complaining that some other race does not like them.  Give me a break.  You know what, some people are just feeling sorry for themselves or they are passing the blame of something onto another, like a different race.  I am latino and I don't feel that way.  Alot of my friends are latino and they don't feel that way either.  I have many other friends who are white, black and arab and asian.  We have better things to do and think about than another race is being prejudice toward us.  Those people who think that way need to take a closer look and figure out why they feel that way.  They need to put the blame on themselves.
316927
This is what I once told a retired, racial, state trooper from Alabama, who stopped talking to me after he found out my daugher was black/white. I told him to go to any library and find me a time in history when American's fled from America to go elsewhere to live; to find me a time in history when any other race went to a country, stole the people from their homes, brought them to a country where they were treated less than dogs; women and girls raped brutally while their husbands, or fathers, or brothers were forced to watch; where men and boys were auctioned off like cattle. I asked him how he would feel if I sent someone to his house to do this to him and his family. He couldn't or wouldn't answer me, he has not to this day gone to the library to do  any research. So until people can do some research about what they hate, they need to stop hating it. And, this retired, racial state trooped from Alabama started talking to me again after a few weeks. And his racial jokes all but stopped. He still can't help but tell a few, but they are not in the same tone as they were before. I feel I must also tell you I was born and raised in Louisiana, I am 42, white female taught to believe that niggers are niggers and feed the dogs better. When I joined the Army, I was brought to the realization that everything I was taught to believe about the black people I grew up with was a lie. I was so humilliated and sick of myself when i realized what i had been part of that I wanted to die, but was too scared to die because how could I stand in front of God on judgement day? Anyway, I am glad to know that what I was taught was not the truth. Anyone seeking the truth should go do some research at any library. Its free. Be you any color of skin.
392447
i agree with you...to a point, but, rather, I believe it is the black people who HATE the white people; I'm a very nice, welcoming, happy person who likes EVERYONE...unless they give me a reason not to. And most often, i find the majority of black people doNOT like white people; they don't smile back--they glare. Or they just look at a white person with hatred on their face. This happens every week, at the least. It also bothers me that I live in a white upper middle class neighborhood and...suddenly, a few black people have moverd around there...i always smile at them, especially because the most often put their heads down, like they don't want to be noticed, or anyone to, i dunno, burn a cross on their lawn...i say people are people, i don't care whWHAT color you are!
236666
I'm black. I respect all, white, indians even martians (if they are there), because they are human beings. I wouldn't mind making friends with any of them. To me its fun, coz I'm exposed to lots of different ideas. Like once, my indian friend told me they throw away chipped cups. Ok, we don't keep loads of em, but to us its not an issue. All that and may more. We're all human beings. Try living with an a black person, especialy where I live (Tanzania - East Africa), you'll know how EXTREMELY GREAT, blacks are! They may not speak english fluently, but they will surely give you a great treat!!!! LETS RESPECT EACH OTHER
582342
They feel bad about themselves in some way.\n\nI applaud you -- I hope you speak up and out when the conversation turns racist.  Then you are really shedding light on the problem.
475977
it doesnt sound like #3 is a very good friend i would not want a friend like that #3 sounds like a back stabber and two faced people like that do nothing but cause trouble stop hanging with #3 and save your self before things get worse
261706
Them white boyz... ha ha ha\nWhy are you so worried about bashing white ppl all the time? This happens all the time, in any race, skin color, religion, ethnicity whatever, ppl will associate together if they have something in common and can all relate to. And even if they do that does not mean they're racist, or anti-religious, or anarchist or any other crap. You can be different ethnicity and still be white! This is just a typical stereotypical bashing. Seems cool lately, so you decided why not right? You just sounded more racist and condescending towards others than them white boyz you just described.
412151
Yup, they surely are mastah, but not as quickly as you.\n\nWhich "black people" are you looking at?  The constant parade of crackheads, welfare, ghetto, perpetually incarated streoptypical black person as portrayed by our great media or are you looking at the fastest growing middle class in Americanada?\n\nAre you looking at Condoleeza Rice, Colin Powell, and Barak Obama?\n\nAs far as the so called "N" word is concerned, black people can call each other whatever they want in whatever manner they want just as other people and cultures refer to each other using outwardly negative terms but between friends is understood as something else.  \n\nDon't get me wrong, a black person using the "N" word for the same reason and effect as anyone else is just as wrong.  The difference is in who can use a term such as the "N" word in a neutral or positive way.  If you happen to be white, and your name happens to Eminem, and your close friends happen to be Dr Dre, 50 cents, and the rest of the "posse" then you can do it because the understanding exists that the intent is not to wound.  And it's all about the intent.\n\nNow if you happen to be just an acquaintance or it's a first time intro, then I would not suggest greeting a black person with, "what's up my n*gga?" you might get in a bit of trouble.\n\nNow judging from the conversations I have had with my friends, some white people are not mad about black people using the "N" word, they are mad that they cannot liberally use it.  They cannot parse that the word could be anything but a derogatory slur...or maybe they can and feel that they can wiled the power of the word judiciously.  \n\nI still say what I have always said, I invite any person who is not black to use the word at their discretion when speaking to black people.  As you're walking down the street, feel free to say, "hello N*gger, nice day isn't it?"
304225
Agreed. It seems like it's the "minorities" that sometimes keep the racism alive. I don't have a problem at all if someone is a different color or whatever, but it does bother me if they use it as a crutch. What really annoys me is when some people are so proud of being "black" that they emphasis the fact with the whole, "Mmm, girlfriend. I dunno wud up wit chew sistah..." kind of stupid accent. I mean, if they want to be treated like equals, they need to start acting like equals. Morgan Freeman was asked how we can end racism, and he replied, "Stop talking about it." meaning, stop talking about us vs them, or white vs black, anything like that.\n\nIt also kind of annoys me when some people get offended about getting called "black". I remember seeing a survey once in Time where they asked people some question and then had the answer by race. They had "African American" down, and then they just had "white". It just struck me as oddly ironic.\n\nBut yeah, mainly what bothers me is when people make themselves look ignorant when they start getting all ghetto or whatever.\n\nTo quote a friend of mine, "I don't have anything against people with different colored skin than mine, I just hate black people."
421999
hmmm thats strange. i've never heard that one before. Maybe it is just your friend who is a racist and not all French people. You should teach him that that is not cool or stop hanging out with someone that is racist, so he knows its not acceptable to have such views....
367822
You think your life is rough? I have been beaten, hanged (But I survived) cut shot at and threatened by bad white people and I still don't hate ALL of them! I am black but even blacks don't like me cause I don't look like the traditional black person. As for standidng out, BLACKS STAND OUT THE MOST! Asains and whites look simular in someways. Ever notice the word caucASIAN? Only reason why you think you have it worse is cause all you are thinking of IS YOURSELF! Don't you think that people that beleive what the TV say are stupid? I am sure you don't want to hang out with stupid peiople! Now stop worring about what others think and focus on your good quality's......
569505
I don't know. I think we all do that to some extent. Pesonally, I have been known to refer to other blacks as ni**ers when they act stereotypical. Whether we'd all like admit it or not, we do it. But, just like you, I am an equal oppurtunity hater. I hate anyone who does something to p*ss me off, or something uncalled for or idiotic. Their race/ ethnicity/ gender really has nothing to do with it whatsoever. Buit no, I don't think you ar a racist.
211595
put them on the spot and ask them why they feel you are ignorant. maybe there is something you are missing. then again maybe by their answer they will show that they are the ones missing something! either way if their behavior continues find new friends. have enough respect for yourself to not allow others to treat you that way!
659488
Im with the person above. No one can voice their opinoion and be politically correct. If anyone is racist its everyone but white peopleIve tried to meet and be friends with african americans and hispanics but all I got was negativity. they think everyone is racist but not everyone is. and if you feel like the government is racist take a number and run for office of some kind stand up for yourrself. What about homosexuals almmost everyone who is not homosexual is racist (or what ever i guess they are more segrationist then racist since homosexuality isnt a race but whatever) against them everyone says they go straight to hell but do they? Everyone's afraid to be sued for racism cause they wouldnt offer a scholarship. Like I said if anyone is racist its not the white people cause we get the negativity. and yes media will publish and exaggerate crap to make money. We used africans as slaves a long time ago, we gave african americans the right to vote a long time ago, we let them adopt. HOMOSEXUALS cant live thewir lives openly because people will destroy their lives, they can't adopt because of their orientation because people think they will teach their kids to be gay. its been accepted by alot of scientist that homosexuality is prolly genetic it cant be helped except for the killing of mothers who pass the gene. I'm tired of hearing crap from colored(i mean all colors not just blacks) people complaining about inadequate right and treatment. so what your your not the only one I get made fun of because I listen to Beethoveen not rap! But I dont complain I just tell them thats your view not mine live with it. So you have no room to complain white people are put down just as much so grow up and just live your life. Dont let people stop you cause your black or whatever. Look beyond yourself and at the bigger picture when i did i realized homosexuals and everyone deserves the same rights.