My father in low and my half brother in low tell evrybody that I cheating my husbend, I love my husband and have never chated him.Mu husbend and my friends belive me, but other people? Besade I tray not think about this, I not fell god, especialy when someone will send me convict look and I bring about my kids, pray to God and ask why they both doom me. My husbend say that is because his father want to give everything only his half brother. But why they atack me?
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well, the truth of the matter is you have never done it, sometimes people want to draw attention and waste other peoples time, by the way, just be yourself and go ahead with your life, At least you have the support of your husband who believes in you and above all God, whoo sees our hearts and knows each and every bit of our walks. They will carry the shame at the end, be confident.
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This is how women (and some men) get played out of their money and possessions and end up in the poor house. So yeah, if God hasn't told me, too. I can't get with it. Why would God tell them and not me?? They're not more important to God than I am so why wouldn't He tell me??
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oh, honey. I'm so sorry you are going through this. You have to work out your own salvation. Your parents can't do that for you. You must raise your children in the way they should go and they shall not depart from it. I don't know what this C.O.C. believes and have no opinions in that matter. I do believe, though, that it is wrong to turn your back on your children. Look at the story of the Prodical (hope I spelled that correctly) son. He left with all of his inheritance and his father accepted him back.  I do pray that God will give you peace in your situation and that he will open a door for you to walk through that is right. Ask for wisdom and he will give it to you.
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Maybe because other people don't take the vows of marriage seriously. and maybe they have never truly loved someone like you truely love your habby. Good for you. I think it is great, that you dont want to cheat.\nGod Bless you and your husband
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Hi young lady.  You're bound to get a ton of responses to your question, both from parents and from other teens who consider you either very lucky, or very unlucky.  I suspect that something happened this evening that upset you and probably prompted your to ask the question - perhaps they turned down a request or simply said something at a moment when you really weren't feeling happy with the state of your life.  Regardless, being a successful father myself (my son is now married and working on his master's degree to be a teacher), I can tell you something you probably don't like to think about; that is that raising a child . . . I'm sorry . . . a young man or woman, in today's world is a VERY scary and challenging thing to do.  Particularly in the case of young women, if you follow the newspapers or TV news at all, you'd see that the prevalence of sex crimes in our country is at an all-time high.  The Internet itself is being used as a tool by predators who want nothing more than to take advantage of gullible or naive young people who are too ready to trust, and not ready enough to protect themselves.  Your parents sound like they love you very much . . . enough to want to protect you from the very nasty and ugly side of humanity, for as long as they are able.  When you believe they are simply being mean or too strict, they are actually struggling with the choices they must make as you grow older, regarding how much freedom you should be allowed to have, as opposed to how much risk and danger could be waiting for them to allow you too much freedom, or perhaps more than you are fully equipped to handle.  Parents have a terribly difficult job, and very often they have to be the "bad guys" as far as their children are concerned, in order to ensure that their children remain safe and secure until they are old enough, and hopefully well enough prepared, to step out into this very brutal world on your own.  I don't want to put you to sleep here with a long message (I might have already done so:-), but I believe you will find in the long run, that in order to earn more trust and more freedom from your parents, you're going to have to demonstrate to them how responsible and how trustworthy you can be.  And if you attempt to mislead them, or you abuse a trust that they give to you, you shouldn't be surprised or angry at them if they back off and require you to earn their trust all over again.  As a retired military person, I can tell you most assuredly - freedom is everyone's right, but it is a right that we all have to earn, not once, but every day of our lives, but doing what is right (not just what is the easiest), and by setting a high standard of honesty and integrity for ourselves that no one can put a hole in.  I suspect that when you have become the kind of upstanding person your parents want you to be, you will discover that they will endow you with increasing levels of trust, and freedom, so long as you continue to prove that what they are doing is the right thing, not just for you, but for your entire family.  I apologize for writing so much, but I saw in your note some feelings of disappointment and frustration with your folks.  Try not to only consider their actions from your point of view.  To really understand what is happening in yours and their lives, broaden your point of view and try to consider what they're feelings are, and what they're reasons are for the decisions that they make on your behalf.  Don't be in too big a hurry to be out on your own - it's a far scarier and more dangerous world than you can possibly imagine, and your time in it will come all too soon.  Good luck with your question, and with sifting through all of the many wide-ranging opinions you're likely to see.  Use your brain, and not your emotions to determine who's advice is the most honest and the most intelligent, and don't just choose those answers that suppor
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I totally understand. Pray about it and ask other people to pray for you and then just do it! He'll be faithful to you!
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Ok, I know I'm gonna tick some people off with my opinion so do what you feel you gotta do......I use to be involved with them for about 15 years until I finally figured out what they were all about and kicked them to the curb....even if they don't all do what your co-worker and his wife are doing...trust me when I tell you that they are trying to be slick, they try to be reeeeeeeeel nice to you with all that sharing stuff in hopes of gaining your trust in hopes of you letting your guard down so they can put the squeeze on you to take a bible tract or start talking to you about Jehovah while all the time looking for an opening to invite you to the Kingdom Hall.  I've learned that you HAVE to be as you put it BLUNT AND DIRECT to them or they will NEVER leave you alone.  And he has alot of nerve telling you that you need to work on being so blunt when they need to work on taking NO FOR AN ANSWER if you were being REALLY blunt he and his wife would've understood by now that you don't want to hear that crap.
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I have had 6 people in my hurt me very badly.  Because of their combined hurt and pain I find it very hard to trust anyone.  I aIso find it hard to believe that there are any good people in the world. I don't trust my child with anyone and I have taught her that the world is a big place filled with people that are looking to get one over on you.  I am a perfectionist wanting only the extremly best for my daughter.  I am also wayyyy over protective, but I am working on it.  I am also kinda a loner because I can't let people get close to me and know my true feelings about anything.  I also teach my daughter (and I know that I shouldn't) not to get close to people because once you do, they will leave you.\n\nMy father- went to prison when I was 7 years old.  Next time I saw him I was 22 years old, and he was in a coffin.  No I haven't gotten over it, still affects me some days.\n\n\n\nmy ex husband- walked out on daughter.  reminded me of what my father did to me, not over it 100%.  probably never will be.\n\nmy husband (married almost 5 years)- had an affair.  Nope, not over it yet.  I am not expecting me to be over it any time soon due to the fact that he willing did this and willing wanted to tear out family apart.  I filed for divorce, but he is trying to make things right.\n\nmy then best friend- for having an affair with my husband.  Lying to my face and then laughing about it behind my back (yeah I overheard a converstation about her laughing about having sex with my husband and how clueless and dumb I am about it).  I am still angry with her in sooo many ways, but you know it was her loss.  I am a great friend to the few people I do hodl close to my heart as friends.\n\nthe man that molested and raped me for years- This has affected me sexually, mentally, and physically.  I have gotten over the fact that it happened to me and my mother did nothing to stop it or protect me from him.  I know that he has an illness that makes him attracted to children, and that is his problem.  I tell anyone I know that might come in contact with him to be warned. \n\nmy mother- mentally and physically abusive to all 4 children.  I have only gotten over this one because I know that she lacked the skills or knowledge to provide anything better.
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NO seems like your friends have poisoned his mind against you girls/boys have a tendency to do that mostly when they befriend someone else friends or boyfriend or husband or anything other then parents or siblings they try to poison or try to win over that person by putting down the friend or close person whose already there before them through him they befriended or got to know that person.It seems they have got their way so please try to forget him and move on.Its happened to me and i would make such efforts to put things into place but then i realised something very important.Would you want someone as your friend or closer who would listen to other people and change his or her mind about you?That cant be a true friend,close friend,lover,husband or anything else.ITS NOT YOUR LOSS ITS HIS LOSS HE LET SUCH A GREAT FRIEND LIKE YOU GO LISTENING TO OTHERS TALK.Take care and email me if you want to talk.
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I would worry about that too. I'm was raised as very religious, but have found the light, so to speak and have become an agnostic. I'd keep my eyes open. A cheater is a cheater. P.S. Isn't adultery a sin?
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Wanting, and needing to cheat? Shows that there are, in some cases a different set of circumstances that trigger such desires to be accomplish, as much for man as for woman's? Honesty and dedication are the basic needs that in such scenario are obviously missing. I don't really know what, and why there are such impulses so indescribably real, though I believed overall cheating is a sign of immaturity as well of insecurity from the two, as well than the third sided triangle? been involved in the act of cheating. Though I know that depend of the circumstances and especial cases of each individuals involved the results are most all the time, disastrous. As well than a very bad and sad experiences, if there are Children's involved.---Thou lol..., I will subjects to all to avoid it-----, especially went this become a sex-basic act of betrayal.
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I know how you feel. My ex-wife was cheating on me with one of my best friends. We also got divorced, and it was really rough for me for the first year or so. Every part of my life changed, all the routines changed, had to get used to being alone. There is no easy fix when your betrayed by someone you love and trust. Seems like everything you believed in was a lie. It helped me to lean on my family for support. It was hard at first because I felt ashamed, but believe me, you don't want to go it alone. Turn to your friends and family for help. Keep your mind busy, take a night class or something. It helps. Why did he do it? She told him what he wanted to hear. Maybe he thought he wouldn't get caught. Don't get caught up in the why and how, it will only make it worse. Don't get down on yourself, or blame yourself. He chose to do what he did, knowing that he was married. You didn't force him to do it, and you couldn't have done anything differently to prevent him from doing it. You are still a worthwhile human being, and you still have your life ahead of you. As time goes by, it will get easier. You might even realize one day, that your life is better now than it was then. Keep your head up, and good luck.
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I think that is great advice to follow.  It leaves any question out.  No one could accuse them of any wrong doing.  If these young men are having problems being faithful, I would get them in church and tell them to confide in their wives.  That would get it off of their chest and hold them accountable for any actions they may take in the future.  Wives have a way of straightening out their husbands if they know what is going on in their head.
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Um, no, it is NOT RIGHT! What is wrong with you people? He is MARRIED! That means he stood before God and vowed to be faithful and honest to this woman. And, instead, he is out trolling for God knows what on the internet. Yuk. Find your own man, this one is taken. Plus, why would you want a creep llike that?
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I think I might have an answer to part of your question, if I may. Of course, I can only speak from my own experience, but here goes. Maybe the reason we don't post questions about our relationships with our spouses, friends, family & other such issues is that we get our help from the Lord. We have His big book of answers, that helps guide us along our way. We also have each other, being connected by the same Spirit. We pray, asking God for guidance. We go to our Pastor's, asking for deeper answers from parts of the Scriptures that we're not acquainted quite so well with. You see, some issues need to be given into God's hands. You've seen some of the dating & relationship posts here...would you trust your relationship issue with most of the people that post on those sites? It's not intriguing when you think about it. But, one of the reasons I come to this site is to use my years of various experiences to help people. I don't always use Scripture, because it's not always required, especially when someone wants to know how to get wine stains out of their carpeting. Or how to get their two year old to talk. Things like that are practical, everyday experiences. Being that I've been married for over 28 years, raised two kids to adulthood, and have a mess of other experiences, I can help people...and I do. And yes, I am a "devout" Christian. I treat everyone with respect and answer every question carefully, even the ones that are nasty or just plain goofy. It's part of my nature to treat everyone as I would hope they treat me. For the most part, if you give respect, you get it back. This forum is a wonderful, yet scary thing. Through this site, I'm getting a different view of the world than the evening news ever could give me. There are just so many hurting young people out there, and I want to reach out to them. It's more than just the "mom" in me, it's the Lord Who is in me. Everything that gets to me has to go through Him first. I hope this helped answer your intrigues. <*)))><
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F U CK YOU son of a b i t c h you unfaithful i d i o t.The evil that men do lives after them.As you make your bed you will lie on it.In life someone very important to you will leave you frustrated when things are tough and you will ask God why me.But will not know that you have just proven to him that you cannot be trusted.And don't mind the insults you deserve them.Have a nice day know that what you do in life has an effect on you no matter what.Thank you
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Wow are you ready for my answer. It isn't gonna be short sorry but I think I can help you understand this a little better.\n\n Most of what I have to say is from being that way myself. My wife God Bless her has stood beside me through all the B.S. I did to her in the early part of our marriage. First let me start off by saying don't let him or any other man push you around. Now it is OK to let them have some control. Men need and expect that. They still want to be king, but we have to keep in mind a king is nothing without his Queen. A man will act that way when they know they have a great thing and are afraid they are going to lose it to some one better.  The reason he doesn't like you talking to other boys is one in the same. He knows they can offer things he can not. I agree with him to some extent. I want the attention of my wife. I don't want her giving it to some other man. But slowly I have worked on this and now things are better. I have had to make myself trust her because she has never showed me any sign that she has done wrong. \n As far as him calling you up out of the blue, it is because loneliness has gotten the better of him. He never did think you was a liar. he knows the truth. He has his own faults and expects you and every one else to be the same. Now the only thing left is to decide if you want him back in your life. We know what he is like so far and if he will change is yet to be seen. As I told some one else tonight its a matter of talking to him. If you are gonna give this another shot then sit him down and talk to him. Let him no how you feel and dont forget that both of you need to give and take. You have to give a little as well. A relationship is a two sided coin. I always told myself that I was not spose to change for anyone. Well I was wrong. Changing is all you get done in a relationship. You have to mold yourself around that other person and vise versa.\n\n Hope this helped......I really do. God Bless.