I was with this guy for a year and then i got into some trouble and he disapeared should i move on or should i try to find him he is the only person that i ever loved and wanted to be in this way so what do you think????????????????????????????????????????
136524
Why did he disappear? he disappeared when you got into trouble? meaning he doesn't accept his responsibility with you...yes you may love him..but he doesn't even know how to be there for you...in my opinion, go out and have fun, there are other guys more willing to accept their responsibility whn they are with a person. Let go, he's totally not worth it...
167356
it all depends on how you broke up in the first place, if it was a mutual agreement, and you still/miss him a lot, maybe you can give the relationship another try, but if you broke up on bad terms, i dont think its wise for you to get back together, its best just to move on.
462714
Yea I think you should, I don't know how old you are, but it seems that he might not be ready for a commitment. and if you ask a question if you should just move on, you most likely should. good luck
394058
Just do it. He probably never really loved you anyway. He moved on so you need to move on. There is no easy way to do it. If there was then nobody would be asking the question.>
202466
option 3. he wasn't much of a friend before, and now that you have relationship baggage and nothing strong platonically to bind you from before, there is no friendship to revive here. too much complication and effort on your part. let him go and make different friends, see different guys, be free!!
468411
Ya get over him. You just gotta realize that in the grand scheme of things he is insignificant. He may have hurt you but people hurt eachother all the time. You yourself have probably hurt someone at some point. Everything that happens does so for a reason. You learned a hard lesson on what not to look for in a man and hopefully you picked up on that lesson and it will make the rest of your life easier. Life is what you make it and you can choose to live in the past or to take each lesson you learn along the way and create a wonderful future.
557423
Same story, different person, different day. That's the way of the world and life. It's a learning experience. If you learned anything, you will not go back with him ever. You know his faults and what he did to you. Respect yourself and get on with life without him...........
595489
You were with your ex for so long that now you feel like no one else can compare. You are so young, now is the time for you to find yourself. To find out what you really want out of life, and a guy. No way you can no that if you have no experiences to base your decision on. I say you move on and focus on you for a while. If its meant to be with you and your ex... you'll get back together again.
22487
He might have some issues.  I would move on from here.  He was great for the time you spent together, but that seems to be it.  If you are interested in him, go out a few times before shacking up again.  Not a good move, if you are interested in a relationship.
564106
Carry on the way you are for now and don't be tempted to chase him.  Still go out as friends and have fun, you never know what the future may hold.  They may not stay together forever so hang in there for a while and see what happens. (Not advising you to steal him though!).   If they decide to get serious then you'll have to accept it. Unfortunately we all go through heartbreak at some time in our lives but love will come your way sooner or later.  Be patient and good luck!
456213
OMG~thats is depressing!!I would say move with him or move on-but not until he's gone!!!
60709
Even though I'm a guy, I have been where you are before.  My ex always dangled that possibility that we might get together thing out there.  Unfortunately being the person who got left you feel like if there is a posiblity then you should keep your life on hold just in case.  Two years is too long to have to keep your life on hold for someone who has left you and cheated on you.  It is past time for you to get your life back and to seek out happiness once again.  Step one though should be filing for divorce.  I recomend this before you date anyone because in some states it can make a difference in the settlement still.  If you so much as date someone even though he is the one who cheated first and left they will still see you as equally cheating even though you waited two years.  Beyond that concern though you have every right and duty to yourself to move on and be happy.  Get divorced and find a guy who really loves you and deserves your love.
372369
i would say no. cause i was with someone before he went home from college and maybe two months after he was down there and calls me up and tells me that he found someone new. after all the things that i had done and all the time we spent together it seemed like it was for nothing.
26622
yes u have 2 move on i spent all of last year in that same situation and it doesnt workout,find another guy ur interested in.he probably isnt gonna leave his g/f 4 u and if he does then he would do that 2 u too.i pretty much had 2 erase him from my mind,it was hard but i did it and im fine now.(if u find a sweetie then go 4 him instead)
117349
I wonder how many people have been in your position and let it go, always wondering if it was the right thing to do? I say GO FOR IT!! What the hell do you have to lose? If it doesn't work or he's spoken for, then let it go - but at least you tried. If you find him and he feels the same way you do... wellll....
654343
He has absued you mentally, reduced your self esteem, made you believe that you love him so much that you  have to hurt yourself physically for him to believe that he has succeeded. My opnion is that you are too good for him because you are still hanging on. If you try hard enough, i believe that slowly you would get over him and recover back to your original self. All I could do is wish you the best of luck.
169606
I THINK THAT IF YOU TOLD HIM YOU WOULD STAND BY HIM YOU SHOULD KEEP YOUR WORD-BE LOYAL & FAITHFUL-AS FAR AS HIS PAST TRACK HISTORY-YOU WERE WITH HIM THEM...STICK WITH HIM NOW-I DONT KNOW THE KIND OF HISTORY HE HAS OR THE ADDITIONS U CANT HANDLE BUT-AGAIN IF U WERE DOWN FOR HIM BEFORE HE GOT LOCKED UP AND IT WAS EASY CUZ HE WAS @ & ALL OF A SUDDEN HE'S GONE FOR HOWEVERLONG DONT LET THAT TIME DISCOURAGE U BECAUSE U FEEL ALONE.