Do you tell him to brush up on his technique, or fake an orgasm?
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Honesty is always best. If you fake it , you can expect the same kind of performance  over and over again  ( Yawn). If you are honest but gentle, perhaps he will try to do better to please you . Suggesting something you like and gently asking him to do it is a good way to get the point across.
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The quickest way would be to try all types of positions. I think everyone has a certain position that brings them an orgasm.
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I have never faked an orgasm, but I have been sorely tempted to. Guys seem to think that a girl has to have an orgasm every time, which is unrealistic, and quite frankly, practically impossible. They think if a girl doesn't have an orgasm it means they are bad in bed. Which is not true. Many women fake having an orgasm to make their guy feel better about themselves and to get them off their back about whether or not they had one, and if not, why not. The problem is, it hurts the relationship in the long run. Because not only are you lying to them, but then they'll never know if they ARE doing something wrong and they'll think they don't need to change anything about what they do because you ALWAYS get an orgasm. The sex won't get better and trust will be broken. It's always better to tell the truth, especially about things of this nature.
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Tell him when you're getting tired.  Maybe he can finish himself off.  This can be done in a sexy way that still involves you, but not so much physical involvement.  If he loves you, he wouldn't want to exhaust you so much.
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like everything, it gets better with practice. you may be bad but so what? everyone has a first time. just let him know and you two should have plenty of fun perfecting it!
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If you told him it makes you uncomfortable and he still does it, find a spot on him he's uncomfortable with and work it till he screams and ask him, "how you like that? huh"????!!!
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I usualy have no need to fake an orgasm becuz my boyfriend and i are fantastic together. \nI will be honest i have done it once or twice simply for the reason that my boyfriend also likes 2 wait for me as  long as he can and sometimes if im just to tired and i cant get into it i will fake so that he doesnt stop himself from enjoying it (if i dont orgasm he doesnt want to either cuz he thinks its not fair for himself to have without me).  \nIt doesnt happen often and even if i have to fake the orgasm i still enjoy being with my partner & the fact that he enjoyed hmself is more than enuff for me.
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In bed: be creative and surprize him with something strange that he never expected...\nIn RL: make him compliments
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My God!  You just tell him. But be sure he is either experienced enough or else has studied enough about sex and female anatomy to know how to gently and lovingly deflower, or else you will be quite disappointed.  Look at Brittany P's answer.I recommend you and he take several months pleasing and orgasming each other manually and orally before having intercourse in order to know that he cares to please you as he should.
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i would probably find a way to work through it.  watch a flick with him so that he could probably get some tips on how to do it right, or just show him what you like, or the two of you could have an open discussion on getting more fire in the bedroom...
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Take the time to feel her responses to you and you can tell.  If you are in tune with her body then you should be able to feel whether she is having an orgasm or faking.
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The level of stimulation is close but only on the surface. He needs to reach a little deeper. Teach hm to explore you a little more.
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Want to be more confident when you, er, take matters into your own hands? These "manual sex" techniques (my editor won't let me say hand job) will make him want to give you a round of applause  - not to mention return the favor.\nPick Your Position\n\nAre you left-handed or right-handed? Which is your "best" side? All too often, women try to deliver the goods in a position that feels uncomfortable or unnatural. You are allowed to move, you know! Simply roll over on top of him or straddle his lap, plant a long, slow, delicious kiss, then climb off to the side that suits you. Don't be scared to deviate from the usual side-by-side position either. Try him standing in front of you while you sit on the edge of a bed or lie on your back while he hovers above you straddling your tummy.\nUse the Slippery Stuff\n\nWomen have (rather handy) built-in lubrication systems, but men don't. So when they masturbate, they use lubrication such as moisturizing lotion. A dry penis is a sensitive one; it likes gentle stroking. Sliding your hand up and down the shaft  - the standard male masturbation technique  - can feel more like a vicious yank than an erotic escapade when done without lube. Saliva is better than nothing, but clever girls come prepared with good-quality personal lubricant. He'll be pleased, not turned off, when he sees the tube, so don't feel remotely embarrassed squeezing some into your palm. But don't use too much; being too generous removes friction entirely.\nGet a Grip\n\nSexperts worldwide dispense the same advice on this one: Women need to be touched softer and slower; men need to be touched harder and faster. Lots of women make the mistake of being scared of his most prized part. Holding it between finger and thumb like it's made of spun glass isn't sexy  - it makes him think you don't really want to touch it. Instead, take a good, firm hold and move into a well-practiced, self-assured technique.\nPractice Until You're a Pro\n\nSimply read up about hand-job techniques, and you're liable to give up before you've even started  - it sounds like reinventing the Rubik's Cube! Try some moves out, however, and you soon realize it's more like connecting the dots. Keen to impress but don't want to look like a twit in front of your new lover? Practice on a prop, such as a curtain rod or a carrot. This is the basic motion you need to master: slide up, circle, slide down the other side. More specifically, grasp your hand firmly around the base of the penis, and slide it upward until it reaches the head. Once you're there, pause  - and rub your palm over the head in small, slow, sexy circles. Next, let your hand drop naturally down the other side of the penis, grasping the shaft until you're back to base camp again, but on the opposite side with your hand facing the opposite way. Do that 10 times, with each motion lasting 10 seconds, then add one quick, firm, up-and-down pump stroke. Repeat that cycle over and over, each time adding an extra up and down. But decrease the number of pumps if he's dangerously close to losing it (and you've got other plans on how to use that erection!).\nEmploy Backup\n\nIf you only use your hands, you risk having to dispense the longest hand job in the entire world due to overstimulation. No matter how deft and clever your handiwork, most men enjoy (often need) extra stimulation to intensify and speed up the process of orgasm. So while one hand is working on his penis, use the other to cradle his testicles or stroke a nipple. Use your tongue on his testicles or nibble his neck, the inside of his thighs and his nipples. Try holding one hand in an L position firmly at the base of his penis, pulling the skin back from the base (in the direction of his pelvis). Not only does it make him look bigger, but it also heightens sensitivity.\nUse Props\n\nIf you and your guy are adventurous types (and even if you're no
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Get passionate about your work-out,  sweat,  breathe hard, assume enticing positions where he can view your cleavage and booty.   Ask him for suggestions to improve your performance.  Gaze at him without blinking and let your lips fall slightly apart.  Say girly things, like "oooo, that makes my muscles hot", etc.  Ride the cycle like it's a wild stallion.  Work the thigh master like you love it (still breathing hard).  Ask him if he knows of a good masseuse.  Etc., etc.
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Rubbing is wonderful but let me tell you how to move it along give him a back rub then have him flip on to his back and rub his pecks and lightly kiss his neck while you are doing that lie on top of him and gently rub your genitals against his until you both orgasm. This is one of the hottest experiences and it is extremely intimate. I am sure that once he experiences this with you he will want to do more.
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fist off im staight male....men need extra attenion too not just the ladies , this is a common misconseption...if nothing is wrong(medically)use foreplay thats right foreplay!!!men get out what they put in but if they have a little help ..hmmmmmm...so suprise him.. and seduced him ..use sexy clothes, soft music..be provokative..but not to forceful...he his to know his still in control...light a candle or dim the lights so he can see he prize in a diffent view...oral if your into that and do a little dance or strip tease, men are excellent body langauge readers...moan and talk at the same time..whisper exactly what your thinkin to him ,and lastly ride him like you mean business and if you got it right, boom!!now call your girlfriends...lol
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personally I like to GENTLY slap my guy upside the back of his head.\n=)\nRemember though...no matter what you decide to do...he may need to figure it out in his OWN time...and only you can decide if thats okay with you.\n\nFor instance...when I let my hubby know he's doing something really wrong and he REALLY needs to stop....sometimes it can take a week before he addresses the problem...and decides to fix it.  I've learned not to get in his face because he's a really smart guy and when he's ready...he always comes around. Everyone takes a different amout of time to admit they are wrong...and to correct their behavior.\n\nBest of luck hun!! :)