Would it be okay to call my ex just to see how he is doing or should I wait for him to call me? He broke up with me 2 weeks ago and I know that the relationship got messed up because of him, but I just want to see how he is doing. Is he not calling me because he doesn't care? I feel like I should call him so that when he says that it was my fault that we didn't talk, I can say that I called and he was always doing something. What should I do? I still love him and think of him, but it hurts that he hasn't called after the break up and having been in a 2 year relationship together.
135274
PUT DOWN THE PHONE AND STEP AWAY.  Do not call your ex.  You'll end up looking like a desperate fool who wants to get back together with him and he will feel like he has 'won'.  Yes, it's that childish.  Don't call him and don't expect him to call you.  That's what a break-up does; it stops contact between the two of you.  There may be a time and place that you can be friends, but it is NOT now.  Now so soon after your split.  I know it seems like it should be different given your time togehter, but it's not.  I was in a 3 year relationship with a guy I wanted to marry and it ended badly.  I didn't talk to the guy again until 3 years later and even then it was akward and came across as desperate and stupid.  You have to accept this relationship as being over.  The first few months will be a test of your strength, but you can get through it.  You will never forget this guy.  It's been 10 years now for me and I still think of him and hope he is well.  But that doesn't mean you can expect a good relationship from here on out.  It's over.  Let it be over and move on.  Don't call him, you'll end up regretting it big time.
262375
I am also going through a break up right now. My BF of 4.5 years broke up with me 3 weeks ago. I was happy with him and he was happy with me, but he didn't know what he wanted out of life, blah, blah, blah. He still loves me and I still love him, so I have hope that we will get back together, but I'm not holding my breath.\n\nI too went through the depressed stage. I found that writing in a journal about how I felt helped alot. It let me get my feelings out without being overly emotional in front of other people. \n\nI am now in the angry stage, where I'm just so mad at him for doing this to me. \n\nI've heard that grief has many stages. My advice to you is to not make contact with him. If he calls don't answer and maybe wait a couple of hours to call him back. Make him think that you don't care.\n\nI wish you the best of luck.\n\n(((((HUGS)))))
121452
I think what you did was within your right.  You talked to your bf and he said that he talked to her about it and it didn't stop.  I don't want you to not trust your bf but there is a chance that he never said anything to her.  I had a similar situation where my ex-bf's ex-gf kept calling all the time for advice.  I realize they were just friends but she would call at all hours of the night becuase she had a fight with her current bf.  I talked to my ex about this and he said he would talk to her.  One night she called around 3:30 and I picked up the phone.  I told her that I wasn't happy about her calling this late and my bf had already talked to her about this.  She told me that he hadn't said anything to her at all.  So with that long story ;) that was my point there is a chance he didn't tell her that you had a problem with it all.
599075
It always hurt when you breakup with a person you still care about.  However, you had very good reasons for leaving him.  A relationship cannot be based on lies and certainly not with all that fighting you were doing.  Evidently he has moved on...  I know it won't be as easy for you to do the same, but give yourself time.  Don't let him see how much you are hurting...  If it makes him feel better telling everyone that he left you...let it be.  Bottom line, you know the truth.  As time passes, hopefully some of the hurt and pain will lessen.  Good luck and take care!
258959
If you broke up w/ him there must have been a reason. What was that reason ? Do you want to go through it all over again ? I think I can relate to what you're saying tho. I went to the city partly to get away fr him for the wk'd after we broke up. Well, we were still talking on the phone sometimes but when he phoned it'd be more like "geeeeeeez... :( " but I'd still answer the phone. While in the city I didn't have a very good time. It felt like my fam was abandoning me or something. Like they were tryna get rid of me or didn't wanna see me, etc. :( I was very hurt. The main reason why I was thinking of moving to the city was to be near my fam too... After that I felt that my ex was the only one who really cared bout me. When I got back home I jut HAD to see him so I went to see him. I told him bout what happened in the city & how I felt that he was the only one who cared bout me. For a whole wk I wanted to be w/ him. I wanted to be w/ him every chance I had. We were @ this pt, just "friends". We went to see Default & I guess he was gonna go home after the concert. I didn't want him to leave. I didn't wanna go home either. He was gonna drink but I didn't really care if he did, as long as I could be w/ him. Well, his mom & sis were gone to the city, so he let me spend the night, which I did. I felt that I wanted to get back w/ him. B/w the day I got back home fr the city to the time we got back together officially was Apr 7th-13th I believe. There was even a time AFTER that that I thought that we'd be together forever. But in the past 2 or 3 wks I haven't been feeling that way. I wanna break up w/ him. When & how is the Q. This'll be our 4th break up. :( \nYou may also experience this as well. Have you broken up in the past ? If you have I think that this will only continue to happen. Don't let it. Be strong. Easier said that done I know, but when you feel like talking to him, call a friend. Maybe even get together w/ a friend or friends. It's better than giving in to urges. Hope this helps !!!
326509
hi, i feel that you should not be talking to your ex, if\nyou are still close that good but he has a girlfriend, and\ni feel it very  disrespectful of him to be talking to you\nabout his problem with her. because if the shoe was on the\nother foot how would you feel. he need to get his situation\nwith her together and  if it meant for you and him to get back\nyou will. the big guest ion you should ask yourself seriously\nif he so unhappy with her then as you stated why is he still\nthere.
497314
It sounds like he's very hurt by not only the break up, but by your harsh actions of how you treated him after the relationship ended. He's seen you in a new light that was not good and now in turmoil over whether or not to get back with you. Best thing to do now would be to back off to give him time and space to figure things out. By you constantly calling and asking him what's he going to do is probably just making matters worse. Let him have his time to think about things and so he can make his decision.
210493
It depends on who broke up with who but you could contact him, but just don't sound too desperate. Just act friendly, ask how he's doing and maybe you two can hang out at some point. Then let him make the next move.
217346
Does "ex" not break it down enough? why waste your precious time calling him if hes no going to call you?
314516
Really guys like to be called by girls.  In fact all girls should start calling guys first.  It would make things easier for us guys.  But if your worried try this.  Write down 3 or 4 things you could talk about.  Like his old job with you, something he mentioned when you talked to him 2 weeks ago, something that's going on in your life, etc.  Then just have this paper when you call and if it goes into awkward silence.... you've got something to say!  It's like an outline sort of.  And don't forget to ask if he wants to hang out!
364382
No you should call him.   Why should you get upset waiting and wondering what is wrong when you don't know.  Be direct with him and tell him you want to and need to know.  Him ignoring you is just being childish and you deserve to know why.
376677
To start don't come on too strong until you get to know each other better. After a while if you still feel like you have to play games he's not the one for you. My boyfriends calls me to tell me he misses me if I haven't been in touch for a few days and we never worry about who's turn it is.  If we are thinking about each other we let the other person know and it very comfortable...but once i dated a guy who said i called him too much because i called him twice in one day.  Thank god we split up and i met me current boyfriend!
38734
Relax and quit jumping to assumptions that have no real basis.  IF he goes a couple of weeks and doesn't contact you then you would be right in what your thinking but we are only talking a weekend, and you never know what happened during that time.  For now just relax and enjoy your life and don't worry about it, he will either call or not call.  Either way, life goes on.
16711
If he says he broke up with her, that's all you have to go by.  If you like being with him, then continue on and don't worry about it.  I'm concerned that you have already slept with him, since you haven't even known him for 2 weeks ... but that's your choice, I guess.  I would definitely wait much longer before choosing to get so intimate with some one you don't really know.
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Have u tried to call him? maybe something happened to prevent him from contacting you. Has he done this b4?  maybe he wants to break it off and doesn't have enough balls to tell ya.  So u can call him first or keep waiting for him to call ya.
117419
wow i'm sort of in that situation now. not quite as far tho. well, didn't you two split for a reason? i think you should consider those reasons again and see how it might be different if you were to get back together again. another thing, he "bumped" into you. he didn't call you. could it be that he's trying to find an exit to his current unhappy relationship and he knows it's easy to get back with someone familiar? i would think hard before even allowing him back into your love life. to be on the safe side, it never hurts just to be friends. and don't ever seem too available. if he really wants you back, make him work for it! good luck.
98701
No, I don't talk to any of my ex's.. but one thing I would do is ask the ex what his intention to get in touch with oyou after so long is.  He is probably unhappy in his relationship and wants to bring you into his life for some reason.. If he was single, I would think his intentions were okay.. but since he IS in ANOTHER relationship, he needs to break up with his current GF and then pursuit hsi ex's.  Word of advice for you-- tell your current significant other!  He should know from you then ever finding out by accident.  Good luck with this sticky situation!!!