Is it dancing around the pole or it's much 'deeper'??? I'm actually invited to a 'swingers' event, but don't know what's it about??
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A swingers event can have many forms.\n\nSometimes, as others have said it is a party where selected couples are invited with an OPPORTUNITY (not a requirement) to have sexual interaction with other couples. This interaction can range from flirting, to sexy party games, to sensual massage, to oral pleasure, to intercourse.\n\nOthertimes, it is simply what we call a meet and greet - an opportunity to meet other peopl involved in the lifestyle and potentially make friends, or meet sexual partners.\n\nIt can also be convention style, where vendors appear and demonstrate products and services related to the swingers lifestyle, as well as attend seminars on things like dealing with jealousy, sensual massage, etc.\n\nIt sounds as though you may have been invited as what we call a "ticket". A ticket is someone who is brought along to a swingers event simply because it is for couples only even though they have no intention of participating.\n\nIf you decide to go, please understand that there IS NO REQUIREMENT for you to have any interaction at all with other people there.\n\nMany people attend for curiousity, many attend because they are voyeuristic or exhibitionists, some attend because the sexually charged atmosphere enhances their own lovemaking with their partner.\n\nMost people do not play with other than their partner when they first get into the lifestyle. It is often the result of years of "pillow talk" and fantasizing which finally culminates in the urge to actually take the plunge and experience some recreational sex.\n\nSwingers in general have deeply loving and trusting relationships which allow them to experience sexual pleasure with others without causing issues in their marriage.\n\nALL successful swingers have a set of rules which guide their behavior as well as key words and signals which allow them to end uncomfortable situations.\n\nI recommend that you have a discussion with whoever invited you to this event and clarify what their expectations are, which type of event you are attending, and why you were invited.\n\nBest of luck!
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I'm hearing ya. Its all part of the fun. Just enjoy it!\n\n!
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yeah, i play its so cool. no 1: if your a member, there are a lot secrets then if you're not. all the tips are on these websites. WADDLE ON!!
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You have never been.........Mannnnnn it's a huge party.... Didn't you get the invite?\n\nNAHHH....really no one knows cause we cannot see that far and no one will in any of our life times.  So we can only speculate and have fun :)))
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Usually just to have fun with friends and maybe meet a few people. I've had one night stands. It was fun but, now I'm engaged so, such things are definitely not going to happen anymore. When I go back to college I'll be married and if I do go to parties it will just be for a good clean time maybe get drink and smoke a little reefer.
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The Meaning of The Song:\n\n\nWhile there is no clear reference or explanation of the song's lyrics, the lyrics itself are self explanatory: the song centers around a man's relationship with his girlfriend, and his observations about her wild and reckless behaviour including overindulging in alcohol or drugs. The song also contains numerous references to their active sex life and partying lifestyle. The imagery of the man's girlfriend "passed out on the deck", "pass[ing] the check" and other lyrics certainly paint the picture of fun.\n\nIn a lyrical trick, the observations of the man about his likes of his relationship with his girlfriend at the start of the song (e.g. "I love the places that we go, I love the people that you know") are in the second verse turned into the very same things he dislikes about her and their relationship. Other subtleties of their relationship, such as sex ("I like the white stains on your dress" or "I like your pants around your feet") or rough sex ("I love your lack of self-respect while you're passed out on the deck, I love my hands around your neck") give way to his dissatisfaction with the same behavior he found appealing at the start of the song ("I love the good times that you wreck").\n\nBEST ANSWER?????????
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Do what I did!  I took professional pole dancing classes!  They r all over now!  It was the BEST $150 I ever spent.  After 6 months of classes I now have my own pole in our finished basement along with colored lights and a nice chair for lap dances!  My man absolutely loves it!  He was amazed that I did it all for him!  Make him some sex coupons too!  My hubby loves getting them!  Make your own so u can make them anything u want them to be!  Run HIM a hot bubblebath for 2 by candle light!  Make Mr. Bubble work for u!!!  use Pop rocks when you ummmmmmgo down on him??  My hubby loved the sensation of the candy fizzing and popping on him!  He only lasted ohhh maybe 3 minutes TOPS!  lol  USE YOUR IMAGINATION and if u run out of ideas Im full of them!  Have fun girl!
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I say study Carmen Electra's Strip Workout.  Practice.  On the day of the event get relaxed by drinking a bit and get into the part.  Then knock his socks off.  If you have Comcast you might want to look On Demand.  They have exotic dancing on there.  Good Luck! Oh, and you can buy a stripper pole at apolelotoffun.com.  They will come to your house if you want an instructional class for you and your friends.
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I've had "better than sex cake."  I have to say, it's wildly overrated.  \n\nNot all sex is that great, but when it's in its proper relationship (marriage) and it's mutually satisfying - such that your very souls have connected, there is nothing better.
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Go for it honey. It is fun and gets it off your wish list. Two girls can have a great time with one man, and one girl can have a heavenly time with two guys. I have been lucky and enjoyed it both ways. My girl friend and I have pleased single guys. Great fun, but often the guy ends up wanting to watch us together! Men! How to find a third person? I do agree a stranger will be safer. My girl friend and I are very close and have no hang ups, but not everyone is that lucky. Try checking contact magazines. Or advertise yourself. You didn't mention where you are so it is difficult to be specific. Here in UK there are lots of magazines with adverts. And local newspapers too. Many areas have parking spots where fun folk go for just such things. Completely anonymous then. You would be spoilt for choice. Some other sad countries are a bit prissy about people enjoying themselves. Best of luck. Have fun, but be careful. Joan.
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so this is a way for the people running it to pick up all the chicks and bang em?    or is it so the people running it can pick up the guys and make them gay?\nGirls if you actually want someone to talk to just start with me.
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do not let their judgment sway you, it is a good thing, try a swingers group, or pay for sites like adultfriendfinder... personally i like the big swinger parties that they have at hotels,(big cities) you get to meet hundreds of people and choose one or two or three....lol... and take them to your room,,,,, often these turn into friendships,,,,, that can be interesting,,,,,
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It's a type of dance.
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You seem to be talking about two different things.  The original Swinger's started in the 1960's and usually involved a group of couples who were neighbors/work connected/belonged to a regular group such as a county club.  The idea was that happily married couples could enjoy each others spouses openly.  the original name was "Wife Swapping"  What you seem interested in is a type of polygamy.  I've often thought I would enjoy having a co-wife who could share the household work and my husband.  The sex part could be worked out to suit the individual.  I don't agree with these jerks that want to add a new younger wife every time he sees one he wants. Even Mohammad said a man cannot do justice to more than two wives.  \nI had some flower children friends (years ago) that jumped over a broom and declared themselves married every time they got the urge.  They didn't usually last too long and resulted in a lot of STD's and babies with weird first names.  \nFor it to work, you need to know the people you're jumping in bed with.  That is if you are planning a relationship that exists out side the bedroom also.  Be Very Careful!
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I've heard of it before...but never knew the actual term of it. It's not for me though. I'm stingy, I suppose. I don't like to share. I'd be too jealous and hurt if my husband brought another woman into our marriage...as I'm sure he would be if I did. I think it sort of...degrades?...the sanctuary of a relationship...along w/ having an open marriage or relationship. It takes something away from the sacredness...not just religion wise, but also morally. But, to each is their own, as the saying goes. So long as the people involved are content w/ it, then why not? Whatever makes a person happy, I suppose, so long as it doesn't hurt others.
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WHY DO PEOPLE THINK DANCING IS GAY?  Origanlly women were not allowed to dance ballet.  The dancers who founded the jazz movement were all men.  Jazz is not gay, ballet is not gay, dancing is not gay.  Dancing is like singing or eating really good food, or laughing, it's one of those things that make life worth living, richer, deeper.  Why should we exclude men from one of the joys of life?  Why not making singing, love, laughing and enjoying beauty gay while we are at it? Just keep crushing men into little work slaves for the rest of thier lives who can only enjoy sports.  Sorry to vent, it just makes me sad to think we women are having all the darn fun while men support our happy habits by going to boring jobs.
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I don't know....might be kinda fun.  I think it's sexy. : )