I'm a nice guy and have never treated a women like dirt but they have told me more then once that they are looking for a bad boy. Every time it just blows me away.I can give them the world but they would much rather get the sh** beat out of them then live happy.
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As a girl myself, the best answer I can come up with is a feeling of excitement (and attention. Guys whistling, staring, etc..) Something about "bad boys" attracts some women. Just the feeling of going crazy, living life on the wild side turns them on. It's stupid and they're blind if guys treat them like dirt, but the thrill keeps them clinging on.
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I think a clue could be with your username. It kind of indicates that you like the "bad boy" type. The majority of those are not going to treat you well. Guys like myself are good guys who the bad boys don't have the guts to mess with. You need to find one of those...We always treat our women extremely well and you have all the fun with none of the drama...Lol.  ;)
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I was very interested in your question and the answers you recieved. I have been with "bad boys", you could say i have a lil bit of an addiction...lol It's not that i am stupid or because i ws abused as a child. It's not that i am still so immature that i do not see the pitfalls of being w' one. This said, I will tell you that Brad is right! Women want men who are confident, strong and well....act like MEN! It's in our nature as women. How many guys do you know that think it would be soooo cool if only their girlfriend acted more like one of the guys? It is great in theory..she would love sports and all the same stuff you do right? Then think about it....... do you REALLY want a girl who acts like a guy? It's not that we want the bad boy all the time (although some of us genuinely do like that...diff. reasons and i'm sure you know a few) It's that we want the guy who takes his place in the relationship as the GUY..so that we can feel like a woman. It's not that you have to BE the bad guy, you just have to pick up the traits that we are attracted to in them! Be a man, be confident, upfront, and yea...I've told a few other guys this, don't take too much of our crap because we will lose respect for you and start seeing you as a wuss! Do you know how many times i have seen girls w' nice guys and they are soo bored and not attracted to him anymore..they start checking out the bad boys... they don't understand why..i mean their guy falls all over himself for them. Our backwards screwed up society is partially to blame but all these lil girls need to stop brow beating all of our men into p***y whooped lil sissy boys and then turning around and whining that he just doesn't do it for them anymore! Romance is not dead! It's that we as women, and i know i am going to get so hated for this..lol, have put you men in a position of not knowing just how to be men anymore..... you can be both... you can be well mannered, polite, considerate, very caring and also assertive, confident and strong! Then....just stand back and hold on to your socks! Because the woman you get then will be a real woman..who recognized in you what it really takes for a good balanced realtionship! Not one of these crazy lil girls running around crying that they want this and that and basically the equivalant of being with another chick..and then dumping you when they realize that for some reason they just don't understand..you just don't do rock their world..lol \n  Just be you...be some of what she wants and needs, the same as you would want from her, and be a man. Good Luck!
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I think it's because they've had some very nasty experiences with a few jerks. When you've had a satisfying experience, it's very difficult to be bitter. A lot of girls are looking for love in all the wrong places. No, it's NOT just a country song. It's true. They say yes to anyone who gives them a line, knowing deep down that it is a line, but hoping that this one will be THE ONE. When they continually get dumped, it makes for one bitter female. If they would just stop filling that empty hole in their lives with waste-of-space jerks, they'd find out the treasure that they really are. Bitterness always comes from continually beating your head against the same wall. Instead of stopping the hurt, they find another wall to whack against. So, when you ask them about life, the only answer they CAN give you is based on their own failed relationships. I speak from experience, not from judgement. I too have beat my head against those walls for way too long. I finally found it hurt too much and quit. Now, I have a better experience, so my answers would reflect that. <*)))><
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They're not all like that. There are some great guys out there, just hard to find 'em. As for the ones that are, I'm still yet to find out why hurting us women seems to come so naturally to them. You've probably just experienced the ones that think and feel with their dicks.
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Most women don't know what they want even at an older age. I think most of us go through a period of yes, we do want the type of guy listed above, cute, smart, funny, respectful, but when we get that there just not bad enough. Don't have enough edge, they seem sissy to us. As women mature and grow older then we realize that those bad boys are just well, bad boys and we actually want a commitment from a guy not some loser w/o a job or ambition for anything.   While it's hard on guys, you just have to be patient there's  girl out there that's wanting a nice guy and can't find them and get's stuck w/ losers...hell, i always did. I think sometimes it maybe not so much a sense of false hope just maybe afraid of oh, my gosh what are my friends going to think b/c he's just so nice and this might make them think he's too sissy. I wish you luck in you search. God bless.
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Yes there are decent men out there....love us never having to say you're sorry, because if you love someone, you wouldn't hurt them in the first place....a women's worth is so high, they are the life bringer into this world.........treating a lady is easy... if you truly love them....IT comes so naturally...
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Girls do like nice guys. I had a bad boy phase myself, but after I got sick of their games and lies, a nice guy was the one who won my heart afterall. Sometimes it is hard for a girl to see that a guy they are dating isn't nice at first. Alot of jerks act super nice to get into bed with them, and even abusers have been known to act really sweet to the girl to gain their trust and then ruin their self confidence bit by bit, but the whole time, the girl may not see it, they see the "nice" guy they fell in love with. They sometimes never realize it was an act all along. Outsiders realize that this guy is a jerk, but the girl is so naive, they think that he really is nice, deep down. Some girls also feel they do not deserve someone nice. I felt this way for awhile after a mentally abusive relationship. I thought noone decent would love me. But I was wrong, and the girls who only date jerks are too. Just hard to make them see it. Find a girl who is ready for a nice guy, they are out there, justhard to find nowadays ;)
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I knew someone who was in an abusive relationship and yes, she did repeat the cycle. It was really sad but it seemed like she would only date guys who were jerks. I think women who are in this cycle have such low self esteem that they really don't know that they deserve better.
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I kinda know how you feel.  I have a guy friend who feels the same as you and he talks to me about it sometimes.  Yeah it is kinda true.  I'll be honest with you and I don't mean to be rude or offend you but I've noticed that a lot of physically attractive men turn out to be @$$holes but on the other hand, the sweetest guys usually aren't the best looking.  So, like most women (and men) will go for someone who looks hot but in the end, they get hurt.  They want a shoulder to cry on and knowing how caring you are, they'll go to you.  I used to go after the good looking ones but I kinda gave up on that after I realized they all turned out to be @$$holes or perverts.  I mean, I still won't date a guy who is ugly lol but they still have to look at least decent.  I have found that these kinda guys actually respect women more and are very sweet.  So, with that being said, sorry to be blunt but you may need to change your looks and the way you dress.  I know it sucks but its true that people tend to be attracted to someone by looks and believe it or not but it does affect they're decision if they'd date you or not.  Also, I'm sure you'll find a good girl.  Hey, there's 3 women to every man on this planet...that's plenty enough for everyone.  Maybe you should stop looking.  I think they tend to come around when you least expect it and aren't looking.
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Well you know women they are always competing against each other and hoping they can get a good guy like that.  I'M like you though who wants a girl that you and everyone around you has seen already, now as for myself i like to hide a little of my parts , its more exciting that why
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For one YOUR A GOOD GUY. Ima girl and I dont always want a good guy.  I dont want him giving me everything I want. I want to feel like "I" have to work for it not them.  I promise thats exactly what they are lookng for. If they cant find it in you they end up finding it in someone who does do it. You know what that's telling you..?  They arent your soulmate. When you find a girl and you treat them how they want and yall r perfect for each other then she wont do you wrong.  But stop being so lovey lovey and stuff. Be aggressive!!
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Been going on for a long time.  It happens on the mens side too though.  You know, the tall, good looking guy gets to stud the bigger, beautifull girl blaa, blaa blaa.... \n\nMen know they are being manipulated.. they don't care as long as it doesn't effect their rice bowl (money) and threaten a divorce by their wife, which costs them (money).. so your observations are correct and true.\n\nCan you play the same game... no... you don't have it in you.  YOur too smart for that game.  When the sheit hits the fan in life or business your the type the management will draw on or your family will depend on... don't fall for that mainpulative style... it is short lived as once their beauty is gone.. it all goes away and they are left in the dust to be bitter old bitches as the men won't jump like they used too as another pretty face will move in..\n\nyour smart... honest... and observent... and probably good in many other ways, .. so that too me makes a perfect gal.  A manipulative gal, I can pick her out right away and I stay away... no time for games for me.
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It's not all that much different up here in the northeast.  Nice men do land women, don't get me wrong....but the majority of men who land the women are the careless type.  I think it's a universal reality no matter where you go.....why do you think so many men try to be careless, bad, look mean, etc.....it's all to win the ladies affection because we all know it works.  Modern feminists try to tell us to treat a woman good, but we aren't affectionately or sexually rewarded in return......I think they need to re-evaluate their thinking.
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Maybe it's because girls like that find really caring guys and take advantage of them, or treat them like they're not worth anything, so then those guys clam up and are afraid to trust anyone anymore, then the rest of us really caring girls, if we want any companionship at all, are forced to associate ourselves with those "jerks."\nIt's a vicious cycle.
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I don't think that all men are in that category. Only you can change that behavior, if that is truely how you see women. Good luck! (My man is very gentle and giving!) They always say the "3rd time's a charm!"
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Yes, actually there are many of them out there.  Here is what I know from my own observation:  women, especially those who have come out of a bad marriage/relationship have this wall of ice around them...their body language gives off very clear signals of "approach me and die a slow and painful death"...not to mention the patented "all men are pigs" glare.  Now, there are some brave souls who will approach anyway only to find a sniper from a water tower shooting at them...for no reason!  Be aware of the signals you are throwing off...a nice guy wants to approach without barriers, and won't until the coast is clear.  Nice guys are the ones that never get a fair chance...for whatever the reason.