I have a friend thats being abused and I wanted to investagate where or how i can help her without going to the cops.. trust me we've tried that twice.. so if anyone knows some phone numbers or an organiztion I can call and get information so I can help her that would be sooo helpful!!\nThank You
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Most all communities of any size at all, have a Battered Womans Shelter, or Shelter Home, or Transistional House. The term used is Domestic Violence. You don't have to be married to your abuser. Call the police one more time, they should know where the closest one is, and don't wait. If they cannot help you, go to this website and search for the nearest shelter.  http://www.ndvh.org/\nBe a good friend and don't let her go back or forgive.
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Yes-contact the local police department and ask them-also the local Department of Social Services, or if there are any advocate/victims right groups, anyone connected with YWCA. The police can help you with referrals.
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Good lord I'm sorry you are going through this!  The authorities sound lame in your town...for shame on them!!\n\nI would suggest contacting the following in the largest city in your state because I'm sure they have the following organizations there:\n--abused women's service and other such orgs that help women in trouble( even if you haven't been abused yet) they can lead you in a good direction.  ask them about your legal rights and what to do if you are not being taken seriously.\n--teen and young adult groups that do the same\n--church services that can help with this(find a progressive not backwoods church..big city)  \n\n--civil right/liberties lawyers or free legal aid groups and ask them to advocate for you because you are not getting help for this. \n\nCan you talk to the chief of police?  speak honestly with them about how you are afraid for your life and that if something happened and nothing was done then it would not only be tragic but on the backs of the police departments lack of responsibility.  if they do nothing then in a sense they are enabling this creep to harass you.  \n\n--check out some copwatch groups.  groups that keep eyes on cops so they themselves are lawabiding and actually do the job they are supposed and not abuse the law.  again, civil liberty groups would know.  that way you can inform them of the lack of response by the cops so that if anything else happens you have proof and then more leverage. \n\nThere has got to be some source of support group or legal advice for something like this...what state do you live in??  try to answer back and I will look up some info for you?  this is serious and could get ugly if you don't have support.  \nJust watch your back and stay with people as often as you can so you are not vulnerable. If you don't have a roommate, get one!  Lights, dogs, security systems-whatever you need to feel safe in the meantime as you get help.   \n\n*last resort: Worse come to worse if no one takes you seriously after you try everything get some guy friends/brothers and well...have them pay him a visit some stormy night.  Nicely.  Capishe?\n\noh can you find out if he has a record or is on parole?  through the freedom of information act you can find this out.  if he does, he could be in some violation and you could anonymously report him or have him returned to wherever he crawled out from under..\n\nFor now, write back where you live and I can help you do research online.  I'm willing.  \npeace.\n\nHERE IS SOME INFO I FOUND FOR YOU: \nJUST CALL THEM AND TELL THEM YOUR SITUATION AND INSIST ON GETTING HELP.  TELL THEM YOU DON'T WANT TO END UP A STATISTIC.   \nhttp://www.aardvarc.org/dv/states/arkdv.shtml\nhttp://www.angelfire.com/me/Marshamellow/call.html\nhttp://www.usdoj.gov/ovw/\n\nTHESE SHOULD HELP FOR NOW.  JUST BE PROACTIVE, GET ON IT AND DON'T WAIT FOR OTHERS TO SAVE YOU.  WOMEN NEED TO LEARN TO SAVE THEMSELVES.  AND THAT'S OK.  REACH OUT BUT ALSO RELY UPON YOURSELF.  YOU COULD GET A CELL PHONE AND JUST SAVE YOUR GRANNIES PHONE FOR OUTGOING CALLS ONLY?? OR GET ANOTHER PRIVATE UNLISTED NUMBER AND AGAIN, LEAVE YOUR GRANNIES FOR OUTGOING ONLY.  HEY GOOD IDEA@!  TRY THAT.  \nMAKE SURE ALL YOUR LIGHTS AND LOCKS WORK WELL AROUND YOUR HOUSE AND LIKE THE OTHER GIRL SAID, GET A STUN GUN AND MAKE SURE YOU GET TRAINING ON IT.  DON'T WANT TO SHOCK YOURSELF! \nGOOD LUCK!!!
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Call your local police department they can send you in the right direction.  Your doing a very good thing,  people like that make it hard for people who are really in pain to get the care they need.  Good luck and God bless
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You can call this toll-free number to talk to someone and get help: 1-800-273-TALK\n\nThey can refer you to a great center, please call them.
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I agree with the previous answers.  Go to a women's shelter if you can.  If you are isolated, you can also call your state's child and family protective services and they can assist you.  It is not good for you or your child to stay in a situation that is dangerous.  \n\nGood luck- I hope that this helps:)
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This what you do call the, Police and the new's station's and the rape hotline and have him picked -up. Why are they not helping her? That's what you have got to get out like yesterday and take her somewhere she can get counciling she need's to talk with someone are, As a group to keep from metal mishap's start to happen such as hurting herself. Good Luck and put him away for molesting a child, and his child JEZ !!!!!!
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Tell him to call the mental health office - or the hotline and they will give him information regarding FREE counseling services.  The thing with medical assistance is they can only check the accounts that you give them- if he has the money in a separate account from his checking, he can probably get away without them knowing about it.  People of multiple accounts in many banks for that reason-- rich have them in off shore accounts.  Best of luck to your friend, you seem like a really good friend to be doing this for him  And there are family crisis centers that can give counseling to the whole family and by the way, he doesn't have a job so he should go to social services in his town and see what else they can do to help him get back on his feet--- again, he should not disclose that one bank account- and if it IS linked to his primary checking that he uses and they would ask for the records for, he should withdraw the monies from that bank and put it elsewhere and explain the withdrawal as a repayment of a loan to YOU.
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contact your area police dept or county sheriff's office.  they usually have someone who goes out into the community to work with people on things like this.
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For the sake of others in this situation:\n\nI called the Emergency Room at Marymount Hospital (Garfield Heights, OH).\n\nI spoke to Reception, and the Charge Nurse.\n\nHospitals (at least in Ohio) cannot treat minors without the authorization and/or consent of a parent or legal guardian, unless it is an immediately life-threatening situation. No Grandparents, Aunts, Uncles, adult-siblings, friends of family, etc.\n\nNo matter how much they may want to, they simply cannot.\n\nEven if a Social Worker refers, and takes, the child to any facility or shelter, the facility cannot take the child in, unless her Mother or Father actually accompanies her to the site.\n\nThe Charge Nurse was very sympathetic, but the hands of the medical professionals are tied by the law. Sorry situation.\n\nThe ER Charge Nurse suggested calling the police, have someone admit the police to the home, WHILE THE MOTHER IS PRESENT. The police can force the Mom to seek treatment for a minor, IF they are willing to do so. Judgement call by the responding officers.\n\nThis may be the best bet.\n\nLet's hope this girl does not keep falling through the cracks until she succeeds in her suicide attempts!\n\nI agree with the previous posters who suggested calling the DCFS (Dept of Children and Family Svcs), and a suicide prevention hotline for futher advice.\n\nAs Joker stated, Child Endangerment may be a very good option.
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My apartment building burned to the ground on January 26,2003.\nApproximately 30 people including myself lost every thing they owned. I lost my car when the building collapsed and managed to walk away that morning with just my daughter, my dog and my purse. \nPeople from all over the county came together to make sure every family in that building had a place to stay that night.\nChurches and civic groups arranged to have furniture and housewares donated by merchants in the area, families donated \nclothes, housewares and more furniture.  Total strangers donated $ to a fund set up to help each family get into a new apartment and to make sure their utilities were connected.\nI worked at a car dealership @ the time and the owner of the dealership gave me a car to drive until I had saved up enough $ to pay for it.\nI had $96.00 in my bank account and an 8 year old daughter to support and was left with absolutely nothing due to something beyond my control and total strangers chose to help me and make sure that I had everything my family needed to get on with our lives.\nI have a completely new understanding of what people's kindness can do. I want to be able to make people realize that you can start over, all you may need is a hand.
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I would contact someone in the battered womens/childrens services to help you get this information.  Just call a shelter listed for battered women, and they will talk to you.  There is usually one local and you can call them and they will not report you to anyone including your mom.
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i wish i knew where peole could go for help. Human trafficking, unfortunately, is a serious problem that is occuring all over the world. \n\ntake care.
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Please call a hotline right now. There are mental health hot lines. There are suicide hot lines. There are abuse hotlines.  Open your telephone book right now and look in the front. There are listings there for help and you need to call one of the numbers now. I don't know where you live but I know in Florida that if you have a mental problem and you cannot afford the medications, then some of the mental clinics and hospitals will give you the medications at little or no cost. My daughter has had mental problems all her life and the times when I could not afford her medications or blood tests, they provided them to me for as little as $3.00 per month. \n\nIf you were in a residential treatment facility, then whay aren't you on medicaide?  You could be on S.S.I disability and that would automatically get you the medicade. \n\nBut the important thing is to call and get help now.  In Florida there is a baker act law, it just means that if the courts or doctors or a family memb er ar friend, thinks that you are a danger to yourself or anyone else, then you are put in a facility until they can evaluate you and get you back on your medications. My daughter has been baker acted 9 times and only once by me and my husband. \n\nIf you can't find a mental health place tonight that will help you, then you should find out which hospital in your area has a psych unit and go to their emergancy room tonight. You are asking for help and here it is. Now GO.
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here is a link to alot of different support groups,and chat groups,involving sex abuse,both adult survivers,and children..hope it helps
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If you want to help her, educate yourself about the due process involved in abuse cases. In most instances, the minor is removed from the home until an investigation is completed. She may be moved to a home of a family member (who may or may not allow her father to see her despite the courts order), a foster home (where she may or may not be mistreated) or a group home (again, where she may or may not be mistreated). I am not suggesting that child abuse is right, but there are no ways of guaranteeing that she will not be further victimized in her quest for help. Before you (or she) make a plan on what to do, consider all the options involved. Good luck. \n\nP.S. I am an abuse survivor and child abuse advocate. Please feel free to contact me through my email here.
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=I have friends there and I just left them a message on their answering machine to see if they could help since there is no phone listing for that person.  Good luck