I have been going to out her for just over 6 months and she is still scared to have sex. how can i make to be more relaxed(without druging ot getting het drunk)? and how can i increase her sex drive to increase the times we proform the act?
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massage and bribary,,,,, hot bath, long massage, all over, and ask if its ok to touch paticular parts,,,,dont be pushy, and if you need to have sex that bad with her, go to the bathroom and mastu_rbate on ya own, 1st, this might calm you down and she`ll not feel so pressured to give in, time will tell, dont talk about it for days to her, is it just her you want or just sex with her...... she will give in, but be paitent,,,,,,talk to her about her fears, and both go to the library for books and advise, or go to a family planning center for leaflets... just except its hers to give,,,not yours to take.
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Well give her time. May be its something going on in her life, that you might want to ask her, and l;isten to her, and help her out!\nMay be she was raped(God Forbid)\nMay be its something you did during one of your sex sessions!\n\nDont ask her for sex now or why she cant have sex with you now, \nTalk to her and dont be like without sex there is nothing that can happen between u 2!\n\nShe might even be pregnant and fearing to tell you!  Or she might have done some one else!\n\nTo know the right answer, you gota sit down with her and talk to her. Listen to her speak and dont interupt.
60162
Well my best suggestion to you is to cut back on the sex and definitly cuddle more and be more romantic. If you get the urge too bad go to the restroom and masterbat to relieve yourself. Being a woman myself, I know how it feels to think that all a man wants from me is sex but the longer you two are together then she will eventually realize you love her(if you do) and sex isn't ALL you want
539562
try asking her if she was being put off by something you did.. or try to arouse her interest by touching her sensual parts lightly.. or try not asking her for some time. Show more care for her even when you don't intend to have sex.. sometimes, she just feels uncared for and thus has no interest in sex \n\nTry having a romantic time out or staying home to build up sexual interest.. \n\nyou could also offer to accompany her for a doctor's appointment to show that you really care for her well-being than to just be interested in sex.
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Comfortably get her to watch porn movies that are for newbies.  Then you try new things with her and get her to feel comfortable with her body enough to try new things with you. You know her background, so be patient and slowly introduce to the life she has never known. She needs to feel sexy enough about herself to let out the kinky in her.  Buy her lingerie, sexy massage fruit oils.  Tell her you want to try new things and experiment with her in the heat of the moment.  Sometime a little loss of inhibition does a woman well.  Don't get her drunk..just where she feels sexy enough to try what you want.
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Some women think they should only have sex if they are feeling aroused. But the truth is, as she goes about  her day-to-day life, she might not think about sex all that much. So when you ask for sex, she won't be in the mood. Instead, try asking if you can snuggle, kiss, or give her a backrub. Make sure she knows that you won't have sex if she doesn't want to. After fifteen minutes of affection, you can ask if she'd like to have sex. She might be more interested at that point. \n\nTo be fair, you can also try to turn down your sex drive a bit. Try to spend a little less time thinking about sex or looking at things that make you horny. Instead, work on a hobby or spend time with your friends.
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Well, my best advice at this is... to let you know that your wife is 'not ready' to have sex yet.  I believe you are trying real hard and all that, but mentally she's not ready and is scared of the pain.\n\nWhen a woman gets 'aroused' her vagina gets lubricated and elongates, and what it sounds like for you two right now, is that her cervix is in the way and she's all nervous and not relaxed enough to 'enjoy it'.  \n\nThis should pass in time, but I'm sure you each could benefit from some reading :)   Here's a great site!
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This is an awful situation. \n\nYou lie there with an erection, emabarassed not knowing what to do.\n\nYou have to ask her if you can kiss her, and see what happens.\nIf she says no, then you have to ask yourself what the point of the whole exercise is.\n\nThere are a good number of women who don't like sex out there.
620132
dont have it so often.  then it will be more specail.  try foreplay but then no sex.  then carry all that sexual tension for a week and have a blast one night.  try new positions or techniques.
273202
Well, it's ambiguous if you've tried talking to her about it, when you say "She seems to think ...".  Have you just come out and asked "Why are you so tense?"  You're not instigating the response by a wham, bam, thank you, ma'am, are you?\n\nSetting the mood, as previous answers suggest, with a bath, a massage, cuddling would certainly help.  Try new positions that would get her to move.  Honestly talk about what feels good and what is awkward during.  It could only lead to more enjoyable situations.
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This is a case where it's a good thing for a guy to be pig-headed. Don't let yourself accept that you're going to blow first...insist SHE gets to orgasm first and mean it. (You've got to be stubborn though or she'll take you out!)Make yourself believe that you're not going out like that.Here's some practical tips that will probably help, too. First..oxygenate your body thoroughly before you even think about having sex, for example, earlier in the day go for a good run, shoot some hoops or do a bunch of pushups...anything to get the heart pumping oxygen-rich blood to the main vein! That's the principle key to your erection and good staying power. Next, get rid of that first nut privately, and pretty close to the time you're going to get with your lady. ( In the shower before you get with her is a good, discreet time and no one is any the wiser.) That first nut is mostly mechanical anyway; getting rid of it will calm you down to do some good, inspired thrusting and grinding. Lastly, don't do a whole lot of drinking...it weakens you more than you might think. And, if you know she's going to wipe you out when you take her from behind (for example) for God's sake don't start out like that; start in a position where you can maintain a good holding pattern without getting overstimulated. It's all in the planning, DAWG! Good luck.
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He just doesn't want it to get boring.  I get scared of the same thing b/c I do want sex all the time with my man.  I LOVE HIM!  But you just have to talk with him and give it time.  Maybe they dated a long time and that's why he was comfortable doing crazy sex scenes with her.  Your time will come.  OKAY?
588318
Well she is probabley not used to having sex and you just need to take your time..........Just go a little farther each time you do it and it will get better and better I always say the bigger the better and the more pleasure................Good Luck..............
656225
You can't. She feels comfortable in the bed, let her be where she wants to be or just don't have sex with her. xD
92831
go slow and be very gently with her...i have the same problem..me and my guy...he takes his time and loves on me when he inserts to help take my mind off the pain...don't be too anxious...slow is the key...
634728
If u haven't had sex in six month u need to first get off the build up because she's not going to like it if u come frist. u make her feel like she is the only woman u r about to make love to and just do what u usual do but with tricks and diffrent position also props.
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Dude you cann't make chicken soup out of just water. The point being you can't make her something she not. Seems your sex drive is no where close to hers. It could be you two just don't match up.\n\n It will not get better, maybe you jusy don't turn her on. With a lady its about all things the way you treat her and talk, how you make her feel. Its also maybe your just not  sexually incompatible. You need to think she is not enjoying the sex as much as you.\n\n There is alot more to this then can be talk about on this short note.\n\n Also you could try this, either cook her a nice dinner or take her out to dinner. when you get home just put on some good music just make the connection that you once had. \n\nIts not good to have her think all you want is sex. \n\nHave a nice day Don