How can I convince my parents to let me go. My mom was staying with her boyfriend when she was young; why cant we? She got to but it's just not right for us to. I really do love him. If they'd let me yeah I'd move. He wants me to move in when I'm 18 but mom said I can't move out til I'm outta high school. I'm not stupid I'm gonna finish school, cuz whats a month longer have to do with if you drop out and go longer. So what do I do? I also feel like i'm held back from everything. I have to be home early, I can't lay on the bed with him, I can't even go to his house anymore. I just wish they would let me out more. I mean yeah I do got a bad reputation when it comes to me, I've done drugs and everything they no bout, but why cant they trust me, if they trusted me I wouldn't get into a lot of stuff I do it cuz I feel like I'm not aloud to do anything!! What do I do.
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once you are 18 no-one will be able to tell you what to do, so maybe you should just live with your parents until then, after all it will beat paying the bills by yourself, also your mom may be trying to save you from making the same mistakes that she did, thats why she doesn't want you doing the same stuff that she did when she was young.
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been there done that...jus make sure that u unlock the door or have a key in the middle of the nite...i kinda locked myself out and yea.....BUSTED!!! jus tell him 2 meet u somewhere and then tell your mom that you are going out to hang out with youre friends.....they'll believe ya!!! good luk!
111024
Well let me ask you, do you still live at home??? If so it IS their rules still. Sure you may be 18 now but like I would tell my children, "As long as you live in my house, it's MY rules". now as far as being able to do what you want and you not thinking that they let you do a lot let me say this to you, Try bringing this up at dinner, explain to them that you feel like they aren't giving you enough "distance" to do some of the things you would like to do. And ask them if they will slowly give you a chance to prove to them that you are responsible and you CAN make your own decisions on things. And explain to them that if you do anything to lose their trust then you will go back to how the situation is right now... Hope this has helped out some... let me know what happens ok... take care!!!
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express your feelings to your parents respectfully but sternly. I'm sure it's not their fault that they can't get a bigger place just now so don't kick them while they are down with imancipaton(a low blow to parents). if you can afford to rent a place, how about helping them rent a larger place?\nif not, getting on your own is far better with parents support and experience. don't cut that off!!\n\nlow is the one that helps you hurt your parents.
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Just Pray to your God who ever you believe in Your mom just say these thing because she doesn't want to loose you. She needs you around just move it's that age your mom will miss you alot for the first few months but she will get over it. You are her baby the only one that she has now so she don't want to see you go so whatever she is saying to you she doesn't mean she loves you and need you but she knows deep in her heart that it's time to let you go and live your life. So don't worry just move and start your new life.
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You seriously need to make some serious changes. You have to create boundaries. It sounds like the requests you have made are falling on deaf hears. It seems to me you are trying to make everyone happy except yourself. Tell them if you are going to live in my house these are the rules if they don't like them they can leave. When your mom came back you could of asked her why are you here? When she said why do i have to tell them to pay the electric bill, it was because she is the one who invited them to stay. The things you are going to have to do will be uncomfortable. Your family will not like the new assertive you. Your mom is dependent on you and you are her co dependent. When she threatened you by saying she was going to leave and you said fine go ahead she was testing you. She did leave but she came back and you let her stay. So now what you say and what she says and your actions don't match. It's like when a parent tells his child no but then lets them have what they want. You have to back up what you say with actions and stick to them. You have fallen into the role of parent. You are not the parent you are the child but now your mom is acting like the child and now you are her parent. I think she should help you more. Do you want your brothers there? You did nothing wrong what i think you possibly feel is guilt because it is your mother and you feel obligated but your not obligated. No one should be taken advantage of.
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well, parents are really overprotective, especially if your the only child, or the youngest and you have older bro's/sis's that have gotten into trouble and they are just cracking down on you. but let your parents know that if they are too overprotective, that its not gonna keep you from doing things they are against, its going to make you want to do it more. Sit down, and talk to them, ask them why they are treating you how they are, and let them know how you feel because if you never express your feelings with them, they will just keep on doing it. If they do not stop, just try to stay away from home, i dont mean run away, but after school go hang out at a friends house, go shopping, go somewhere for a while so when you get home, all you have to do is do homework, then go to bed. If your almost 18, you only have a little longer to put up with this, but seriously NO parents should blame things on you if you didnt do them. Let them know how you feel, and then work from there. Good luck!
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at 17 your legally able to move out if you think you can handle it. even though police or "legal authorities" dont recommend it and like to get ignorant. You cant be sent back home. You can be tried as an adult at 17 so you can move out at 17. I moved out at 17 and the police said there is nothing that can be done. Goodluck and take care
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I think you should just talk to your parents about moving to the dorms. Maybe they will understand. Just tell them how you feel and that you want to be on your own and more responsible. Personally, I don't think college is the same if you live at home. You need to take care of yourself, experience more freedom, have more responsibility, and find out who you are for yourself!
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OOps sorry let me edit this..\n\nMost important question is - are they LEGALLY your gaurdian?  It sounds like this might be your sister.. or maybe a young aunt.\n\nWhat state are you in?  How old are you?  It depends on how your caregiver will react.  I did the same thing when I was 17 and my parents freaked and were able to take me back.  I spent a few days in Juvi.. but other than that nothing terrible will happen.  If you are 17, I suggest talking to your parents about this and seeing if they would let you.  Does your friends family want you to move there?  Have them talk to your caregiver.  If you are any younger, either wait or have the family talk to your caregiver..  I totally understand where you are coming from, sometimes your home can just be toxic, especially if your parents are going through a divorce, or some issues of their own.. I've been moved out for 2 years now, and even when I come to visit, it just sucks my soul dry.. Some people and places are just so bad for you.  Talk to them .. really.  OR just go ahead and do it, but know this - they will be able to find you - and they will force you to come back - BUT after that happens, they will be open for dialog with you - you will be able to tell them how damaging their home is to you - and they will be able to take you seriously.. This is what happened to me- They never listened until after I ran away.. Then they let me finish my high school degree online and let me move out when I needed to.\n\nTo help you any further, I would need to know your age and your state.\n\nAnd like the other person mentioned, if you are working and making some of your own money, you might be able to get emancipated. \n\nChoices Other Than Emancipation\n\nEmancipation is only one of several alternatives available to you if you feel you cannot live with your caregiver.  You may want to consider other options such as:\n\nfamily counseling or mediation service between you and your parents; \nliving with another responsible adult (aunt, uncle, grandparent, or family friend); \nseeking assistance from public and private agencies; \nan informal agreement with your caregiver allowing you to live outside your home. \n\n\nMy final advice to you is this - family counseling - if nothing else works - this will.  The other person there can help you communicate effectively with your caregiver - and don't assume they will only be on your caregivers side either.  Present your case to them, and unless you have no reason for wanting to move out, they will support you and help you work out a solution with your family..\n\nGood luck, ok?  Feel free to personally email me if you need any personal or legal advice..  Bj_Osterhout@yahoo.com
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With respect, this is my opinion...\n     It sounds a little bit like a pep talk for the parents.  Like they aren't going to have a clue what to do with their lives now that you are graduating from High School.   It comes off as condescending, which is totally not your place.  Your parents have plenty of experience and probably have plans for their lives that you have no idea about.  For many of them, there are more kids that are not yet graduating so this is not quite the end of their high school experience.  \nI think you should spend more time showing your appreciation for all they've done and show them an interest in exploring a new phase of your relationship with them, as adults. \nTry to see your life from their eyes...They had a life of their own and chose to include you in it.  In doing so, they suddenly became responsible for making everything in your life happen; all the dragging out of bed, all the getting homework done, all the sports and trips and sleepovers...all to get you to this point in your life where you are finally ready and able to take control of things for yourself.  \nI would recommend opening with a laugh if you can, and then just be thoughful and humble and respectful.  Every parent there, no matter how different they are individually, share the common feeling of pride in their graduate.  They worked hard to get you there, thank them well and you'll close with tears.
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I truly feel bad for you,but you need to see or search the reasons on why your parents feel the way they do towards him,i mean i would take some heed to their actions,remember they have more wisdom from age and experience.However,if they really don't have the facts to back their actions,this is something you will have to face with your parents.Always be honest with them no matter if they are not going to approve.You are an adult,and you need to let them know that you are not trying to hurt them by your choices of life,that you are trying to find your way and if it is a mistake,then you need to find that out as well.This is how wisdom comes,with experiences in our daily lives.One thing to remember is your parents have an unconditional love no matter what,just like you do for them.I just hope your boyfriend proves them wrong and doesn't make you regret any decision that you might make.Without family,we have nothing! I hope the best for you,Good Luck!
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When I was 16, my boyfrind was 20 ...and my parents said the same thing...but I stayed with him...they still disagree, but now im 19 (and living with him)and hes going on 23...its not as bad as parents think. As long as you are with someone you care about and he doesnt hold you back at anything, then i would say you are fine. I have been through the same thing. And am still going through it. Parents will be parents i have come to find out. Just go with your heart feelings and dont let anyone take that away from you-ever....if u neeed to talk you can im me or email..either way. i'd love to pass on some advice...
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HELLO! I AM A MOTHER OF FOUR/ THREE BOYS ONE GIRL! I KNOW IT IS HARD TO DEAL WITH LIFE ISSUES SOMETIME! NORMAL- WE JUST HAVE TO DO THE BEST WE CAN! I HATE YOU ARE HAVING PROBLEMS. I HAVE HAD SAME HAPPEN WITH MY 14 YEAR OLD SON!PARENTS ARE NOT PERFECT AND WE DONT ALWAYS HAVE ALL THE ANSWERS! JUST KNOW WE DO TRY TO DO ALL WE CAN- THESE OTHER FOLKS ON HERE TELLING YOU TO CUSS YOUR PARENTS- SO WRONG! GOD SAYS TO HONOR YOUR PARENTS! DO YOU PRAY? ARE YOU SAVED/ARE YOUR PARENTS SAVED? I WILL PRAY FOR YOU TO DO BETTER IN SCHOOL! ARE YOU DOING YOUR BEST? tHEN THAT IS ALL A PARENT CAN ASK! IF NOT, WILL YOU TRY HARDER? I KNOW YOU CAN DO IT! RELAX TOO- WHEN YOUR PARENTS FUSS TRY TO THINK OF SOMETHING ELSE= WALK OUTSIDE IF YOU CAN-LEAVE THE ROOM! STAY CALM! THEN YOU CAN THINK BETTER! I FEEL YOUR PAIN! YOU WIL BE IN MY PRAYERS-EMAIL ME IF YOU WANT -MY HUSBAND IS A PREACHER-WE WILL HELP YOU ANY WAY WE CAN-GOOD LUCK!
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Sweetheart, the problems of your parents are exactly that-their problems.  You are not a cause of it.  I know that you feel like they don't care about you but they choose to have you, I am sorry they yell at you.  Try talking to your school counselor or your pastor.  You are not to blame.  But sweetie, if you run away you don't make the situation any better for anyone.  Life on the streets isn't pretty, you will get hurt!  Please stay home and talk to someone first and if nothing changes there are other alternatives.  Please don't do it.   Someone does care!!
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Wow, you seem to be in a rut. First off let me say this ,  I'm 25 and I hated my parents when I was 16 or 17 too. It is a very tough time in life and once you are done with this stage you will feel stronger and wiser, trust me. Now here is for the real life stuff, having a full time job is not all its cracked up to be , but if you feel you are ready for it than do it to the fullest. In regards to your GED , if your parents will not give you a ride find a friend, an uncle , an neighbor who will ,as long as they are safe , legal , and trustworthy; that way your parents will realize that you are willing to take something in your life seriously. Do this sit down and write realistically where you see yourself in 5 years , then work backwards to see how you can get yourself there. Life is a constant struggle, im dealing with struggles of my own , but all I can say is if you overcome this , the next battle will not feel as hard. You seem like you have an idea of what you want but you want some guidance, reach out to someone you trust to be your mentor. You will be fine. Hang in there, don't deal with all your problems at the same time, take them one at a time and soon the pieces will fall into place.
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well hon you are 24 it is time you make your own decisions. you have to start somewhere or your parents will never give you up.if you are sure this is what you want to do then stay where you are at. they will still love you just as much. good luck and GOD BLESS YOU.