I am working at a deli and it's me and 12 girls. All they do is talk about one another, and I am a very quiet person and it's worse than highschool.\nIt's putting so much mental stress on me what should I do?
128548
That's life.  It's good that you don't participate in the slander, though.  Mental stress is all a part of work.  The best thing to do, is to do your job and ignore the clowns.
358775
You are in a difficult situation and your reaction is totally understandable. If you have tried talking to her and feel this hasn't improved, there is not much you can do. Usually people react like that (especially people higher up then you) when they feel threatened. This would highly seem the case as she seems to get along better with people who are not as academically qualified as you are.\n\nThe way I see it, you have three options:\n1) you continue on and talk to her again to try an understand why she is like that\n2) talk to her supervisor about your concerns and see if they can do anything to help\n3) look for another job either in another department or in a completely different company.\n\nHope it all works out for you in the end you should work to live not live for work!
517873
I'm sorry you feel this way.\n\nThe sad reality is that there are rude teens and just plain rude people everywhere.  Consider this a lesson in humanities for you, and learn from it .  As for heavy workloads, unless any one of us is fabulously wealthy and works for "sport", there always seems to be more work than time no matter which is our chosen field.\n\nWhat you are missing is "passion" for what you do.  To begin, I suggest you stop using the word "hate" when you describe your job, and use your energy for more positive aspects.  Sub-consciously, you are feeding your situation; you must change this. This is "key" for your plight right now.  Change your attitude in a positive way, find joy in as many aspects of your daily work as you are able, "give" of yourself, and focus on what matters to you.  Focus also on organizing more eficiently for the "drudgery part" of your work; i.e. the old maxim, "work smart not hard".  Find solace in the small wonders of your life.\n\nBe kind to you and find your passion.  Visualize your dream job.  Take steps to go out there and make it happen.  Next year can be so much better, if you plan *now* for it!
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Main thing is not to stress honey. Slip a card into her desk explaining things, tell her life is far too short to be making enemies at your ages. Let her know that you want to wipe the slate and make like you are encountering her for the first time. At least if you can start by just saying Hi! & Bye! it's a start. I will say this though. NEVER be ashamed for the way you feel.Ever. I think you are just desperate to be liked. It's human nature. You need to be part of the crowd so to speak. Don't ever tell yourself your bad. Its usually our surrounding circumstances that dictate the way we act.  You will get ther honey. I have faith in you.
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i think i would consult the manager (as a manger of a store) when there is conflict between employees it really hurts the business, it may not be noticeable now but it will hurt the business.  this is what i would do, go to the manager, tell him/her what this person is doing tranlate what she wrote, and tell him i am her to work and not be playing games with people, and that i am afraid of her actions toward me and the may result in customer loss (if what shes doing this stuff in front of the customers........good luck and hope it all works out for you
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in the future i would keep all info like this to myself.  I know it would be hard and ,you need to get things like that off your chest,but people cant resist a good gossip .  think to yourself have you NEVER told someone something you have promised someone else you who keep quite. or have  you caught yourself saying " don't say any thing but........ " i wouldn't be too angry at your friend as I'm sure we've all been guilty at one time or another.  I just hope you can nip this one in the bud before rumours start flying . good luck with your friend and hopefully your new job !!!!!
632317
Talk quieter. Seems pretty simple. They probably DO enjoy your company but find you to be a "loud talker". This is very likely a problem in your office situation. Don't take it as a personal affront; take it as an opportunity to better yourself professionally.
577359
Haha, with a boyfriend, college, work, and every other thing in your life, of course you are going to be stressed. That's just life for you. I think maybe to be less stressful youself is to realise that through your entire life, you will have to face a lot of it. I don't think to be an average, healthy person there is anyway you can eliminate ALL stress in your life. Instead you have to learn how to deal with it. Try doing just the simple things that you enjoy doing more often. Try to relax and take breaks even for just a short while.\n\nAlso, remember, we're all in this together. I've had some really bad luck and fucked up times in my life so far, but you gotta learn to move on and get passed those things. Gotta remember there are people much worse off than you and I. Be thankful for what you have... you have a boyfriend, you're going to be graduating college, you have a job, I mean, you already sound like you have a decent life. ;p
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First of all, I appreciate you to think about this and ask a question openly here. That shows you have recognized a problem and willing to do something about it. That is a big step. This is a tough question and I will do my best to answer briefly.\n\nYou are going to do few things to understand yourself. Here are my suggestions. 1) Think calmly and deeply (while driving, while taking a bath or whatever brings you that concentration) on what where the times you were happy doing your job. You have to go back in time in your current job, in your previous jobs, and even in other activities that you may be involved in. Start jotting down notes. 2) Start analyzing those events and you will find a common pattern such as "I am very happy when I interact with customers a lot at work" or "I am very happy researching and analyzing a problem all by myself and coming up with ideas". 3)Think about what makes you upset or bored in your current situation - Is it because your boss does not respect your inputs? Too much office politics? Personal problems? 4) You just do not like your job -- may be your job demands a lot of interaction with customers but you do not enjoy that. 5) You think you are not compensated well? - may be a lost promotion or you feel that your friends who do similar work get paid much more? It could be even as simple as you do not enjoy flexibility in office timings whereas your personal demands need it. \n\nOnce you have given thought to these things, you will feel confident. Ask your boss for some time to talk in depth. Prepare yourself well for the meeting so that you are to the point and explain what gets you excited and what keeps you motivated. Good luck.
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Be frank with them and tell them to grow up! Tell them that you are an adult and can speak to whom ever you please. Let them know that they are also putting unneeded stress on you at work and that is not fair to you.\nThe problem they have are between the two of them and they need to quit bringing you in the middle of it. Tell them you aren't going to stand for it any longer...end of discussion.\nIf necessary, go to management about it. If they get upset about it, tell them that you didn't know what else to do and that you deserve to come to work without having to deal with their crap.
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I guess it is you the one that can help you out. \nI have the same "problem" but I don't see it as a problem. Better off alone than in bad company.\nDon't you know girls at job? at the bar? where you go? Try to start a nice chat.\nI am a loner so for me is difficult to start a conversation with someone I don't know, but if I wouldn't like the way my life was going I would try to do those things, and try to be more social. I guess.
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i think everyone goes through that stage but usually when they're younger and only for awhile, you know? just try and remember that the world never revolves around a single person. psychologically, we are prone to think everyone is always focused on us, but in reality people have their own lives to worry about. do you constantly make fun of other ppl in your head? probably not. you have other stuff to do. so it's the same w/ other people. other things are more important to them. if this doesn't get better for you though, i would seek a professional. this sounds like a very consuming problem. good luck :)
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i was like u wen i was at ur age til now, i think, dat im 24 already. i couldn't tell a story longer than 2 sentences. and it disgusts me coz i cudnt express my self. i cant say its due to stress... but maybe u hav to improve ur social interaction. for now, u need to hav a keen observation of the society when ur goin out with ur frends. pick some ideas that u think wil help u improve ur speech and communication. and, read more books... answer som question, orally. formulate ur answer into words. thru dat i assure u it cud help u a lot. it did to me...gudluck sis!
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First of all you can not make someone like you. And I am not sure why you would want to.\nGo about your work like you do not notice. I had a girl at work not that long ago that didnt like me. She was very open about it and it got to the point where she wouldnt talk to me. In our workplace we HAVE to communicate. But she wouldnt. I just kept on talking to her acting like I didnt realize she was trying to ignore me and not talking to me. I still got my job done and honestly it annoyed her which made me feel better hahahaha!\n\nAct like you do not know they are behaving like children. If people want to act like that on their own time that is their business. But I am at work to do my job and if they do not want to be my friend that is fine...I am not there to make friends. However in the work place I am going to be professional about it.\nAll you can do is be the bigger person and make sure your work is not effected by your concern over their behavior.
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I say if you walked out in the first place the jobs causing you stress, try looking for something else. And tell your therapist maybe she can help you figure out things you'de like to do more than yer other stressfull job!\n\nGood Luck Miss Unemployeed and stressed on....SmileyCat : )
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I'm sorry, but I disagree with the majority here.\n\nYou brought personal feelings and emotions into a work environment, which was wrong of you to do.  Your behavior is obviously making you emotionally unstable, and most likely disrupting this poor woman and possibly other co-workers.\n\nYou are an adult, and need to act as such.  Grow up and get yourself together.  Your teenage behavior is affecting the people around you, and they are just trying to earn a living and go home.\n\nThere are so many people dealing with various levels of depression, as well as disappointment, that do not find it necessary to share their grief.  \n\nWhy not try and meet a woman who may be interested in you without jeopardizing your work environment?  Is this not a more appropriate way to conduct yourself?\n\nJust do your job, then go home and cry like the rest of us.
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If you are really unhappy, you should think about changing jobs.  I changed my job two years ago because of a similar experience and I have never been happier.  There is also a high level of stress in my new school, but now I feel I have the support from my superiors at all times instead of the critics I used to have.