I am overweight, and there is this guy i have liked for two years. he says he likes me  but he wont date me cuza my weight, how can i lose more than 30 pounds FAST???
129752
any loser who says that out loud to your face isn't worth putting down the Cheetos for, believe me.  Do not lose weight for any guy.  You have to lose it for you, when you are ready.
491859
Honestly, it's not good to force on additional weight or go on crash diets to lose weight.  I suggest just continue with a healthy diet, try to sleep more and find a way to manage stress, and you will feel better about everything by Sunday.  It's really not good to shock your body into gaining or losing weight.  \n\nI personally prefer a woman that is a little extra petite, so maybe your hot date might like your "bony hips."  :)
357161
I'm going on 38 next month but beleive me, i know how you feel, i have been heavy my whole life, i never felt liked, endured cruel jokes and felt i would never have a boyfriend. Girls and women are expected to look like everyone else on TV, its always the thin models that get the main roles in movies and chubby women are shoved to the backburner. We need to realize and believe that looks dont mean ANYTHING AT ALL, if guys are only going to like you because you have a nice body then that tells me what kind of person they really are, a JERK. You have so much to offer in this world, dont let anyone tell you otherwise! You are a special and unique person. Please just be yourself and stop comparing yourself to others, it takes all shapes and sizes in our world. Please enjoy yourself while you can and put a smile on your face, thats what will trully draw the right ones to you. For me i choose swimming to keep myself as healthy as possible, its easier on your body and burns more calories than any exercise you do out of water ( i was told this by a swim instructer ) and best of all its FUN. I know its hard, i dont mean to go on and on but i just want you to know your not alone. God Bless you.
625091
Tell him sorry but that isn't good enough for you and walk away.  Just from the way you wrote your question tells me there is no doubt that you will be attached to him and that you need more in a relationship.  If he really liked you then he would be willing to enter a committed relationship or simply date with no benefits.  You deserve a man who wants to be with you and only you and is interested in developing a real relationship with you.  Don't settle for anything less or you will get hurt.
261132
Refocus your anger to getting your figure back.  People often say that if you love someone it doesn't matter, blah, blah, blah...Bottom line is that looking good for your significant other is sign of respect for yourself and him/her.  Doesn't matter male or female obesity kills just the same.  If you grew 30 pounds that last 5 years, what about the next 5 years?  Another 30 pounds?  Lose the weight, make him drool, then dump his sorry a** and go get a real man
610532
For starters, you shouldn't be doing this just so your boyfriend will like you. If he doesn't like you now as you are, then he's not your boyfriend. Don't let something he may have said make you think there's something wrong with you...boys that age say stupid stuff all the time- trust me, I was a 12 year old boy once.\n\nFor you as a 12 year old girl, working out shouldn't involve anything more than normal exercise... so going to a gym isn't necessary and you could hurt yourself if you overdo it. If you are worried about your weight, you should first talk to your parents about your concerns and together, look at your diet and what you are eating. Your metabolism at 12 should be high enough to help burn calories, so the right food along with some regular exercise should be all you need. By regular exercise I mean normal exercise...walking, running, biking, swimming (it's a really good one)....these are all aerobic things that are good for your heart and lungs, and will tone you up as a bonus. The key is, don't overdo it. But first and foremost, talk it over with a parent first. I hope this helped you out.
238339
Your biggest problem is you stressing over your weight.  Stress can help you to add pounds when you're losing your mind instead of the weight.  Ask him to join you when you work out and to help you monitor your progress.  Girl get your head up and start looking forward rather than looking in your past.  Life is a bucket of changes.  Change can be good or bad but that's totally up to you.  Cheers!  This is to your future.
33914
Sweetie, you need to gain some weight. I weighed 135 at you age and had to fight the guys off with  a bat....LOL  just kidding about the bat but I was up to my eyes with guys. No guy wants to hug a skeleton. Take you some 3x5 blank note cards and pretty colored makers and write in different colors: I AM BEAUTIFUL. AT 14, 135 IS A HEALTHY WEIGHT ! WHEN A GUY SAY'S I LOOK GOOD OR, I'M  HOT; HE MEANS IT ! I WILL NOT LET MY EYES, MY MIND, OR OTHERS TELL ME THINGS THAT ARE NOT  TRUE ! JESUS LOVES ME AND SO DOES 1 MAGIC MOM ! JESUS LOVES ME LIKE THERES NO OTHER GIRL IN THE WORLD !  Now tape on the wall where you can see them from your bed, stick them in your school books or note book, in the bathroom near or on the  mirror or on the mirror in your room. Sweetie, please ask your parents to get this for you as soon as possible.  TEEN STUDY BIBLE ISBN  0-310-928370 at The Christian Book Store it is $16.95. It is a soft cover book full of wonderful things for young people like you. I have one I recently got and I love it. Pssst....I am no longer a teen on the out side but I sure am one on the inside because of the love that is found inside the cover of this and the King James Version of the Bible. If you like E me at*** springmagic2002@yahoo.com *** I will do my best to help you if you'd like. I can tell you this; I know a young man who should weigh at least 175 but had lost to 145  because this girl he knows told him he was fat. He is nearly 6foot tall, and the weight he had lost was starting to cause him problems. He had to change chairs at his computer after the pillow he sat on didn't help his boney behind. It took a bit, of kind words when he lost his temper at me. And hugs when appropriate, along with a lot of encouragement. The more weight he gained the better he looked (not pale, thin, and sickly) but strong, musclar,color in his face. This was now how he should look when at a healthy weight; and when I went by to see his family and saw how well he looked; I pulled him to the side and said young man have you looked in the mirror lately? If you haven't then go look now, you are soooo handsome looking! I meant what I said too. And I believe he could tell by how I said it that I meant what I said. But if I had thought he looked handome then, the next thing he did made him moreso. He smiled....and his face looked like a lit up Christmas tree as he started blushing at the compliment I had gave him. He has kept his weight up where it should be and has told me he likes it better than when he was so thin that even lying in his bed had started to hurt him,not just sitting up. I would never have known about the lying down, he was the one who told me. And before I left that day he stopped me and gave me the biggest hug. This young man is not a teen but a young adult with the weight of the world on him. He's not just losing onee parent to illnes, but both. He is my friend just as I am his. And he knows I am an  e-mail or a phone call away if he needs a friend when things are hard to deal with.Just remember God made every thing beautiful in its own way.And I mean it when I say gain up to about  130 and see if you don't get compliments from others. What does your Dr say about your weight; what about your parents?                 I am rooting for you to gain weight and look and feel better. I hope others will do the same for you. *^*
317453
The good, canned answer is that someone should love you for what's on the inside, not on the outside.  \n\nThe reality is that some people are not turned on by people who are heavier.  Physical attraction will always be an important part of a good relationship.  On the other hand, some guys really like women with more curves--  \n\nYou need to ask yourself what type of guy are you really looking for?  If it is really meant to be, your weight should not play too much a factor.\n\nI used to be REALLY overweight, and found that I would get to know lots of guys, but they would instantly put me into the 'buddy' category, because of my physical appearance.  They just didn't have any interest in me physically.  I lost quite a bit of weight, and had an easier time as men would be attracted first, then get to know me.  \n\nAs long as you are happy with yourself, and confident that you look good and have a great personality, then you should find the perfect guy for you.   You sound like a pretty insightful, intelligent person... some guy is bound to notice that soon!
250758
Dont worry,! hang in there i feel what u feel. there is a thousand guys out there ,, dont go on any dating services, i tried it, i met some one fat. not that i dont like fat people, they r cool, but anyway, keep ur chin up and be tall and strong it takes a lot of time to get over guys i guarantee u. but dont date one of his friends ,, thats the wurst thing ta do, stick it to ur gut. dont let him get to u.u cant stay sad 4 evur. dont lose hope on findin another guy to be with.
120536
tell him that you like him, and ask if he'd want to go out to a movie or something as more than just friends. If he says no..don't sweat it. There are plenty of men out their. I'm sure you're a cute girl, you can have anything you want if you work hard enough for it. Good luck! If he turns you down then you're too good for him anyways
138208
Be sincere...!!! Just tell him that you're sick for the time being & you can't see or date with him. And, if he don't believe you, just ask him to come over to see your condition. I believe he would be understand. Don't be afraid to be sincere. Because, it's   the best way to make people like you...!!! :-) Wish you well soon...!!!
367665
Grab your new freedom with both hands. Wrap your arms around your happiness. Do not look back at yesterdays bad news. Consider yourself free of the promise as he broke it first by not moving to call or make any contact with you. As for his not working you just lost 200 lbs. of dead weight. What a great diet plan. Explore your own personality find out who you are and what is important to you. Maybe you were just in luv with the idea of him, not the real him.
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Don't lose weight because your boyfriend tells you you need to. You should only lose weight if you want to, and think you need to. How tall are you? You sound like you're dangerously thin already if you're of average height, and in that case you should definitely not lose any more weight. If your boyfriend treats you like this then he's not worth being with.
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wow!  you are a great weight and definitely NOT fat!!!  he may have just been nervous about the date itself, not your weight.  he may feel more uncomfortable that you are older than him.  you may want to evaluate this yourself.  is he too immature for you?  does he have different values/ideals, goals, etc. that may get in the way?  if you know that you really care for him and want to keep dating, talk to him about this, and let him know you care about his feelings and ask him to let you know if he really was uncomfortable, or if he was just nervous.  Hope it goes well!  take care!
249127
Evidently you don't want a big man. I don't get it. Why do people not lower their standards just a little bit to meet someone who might turn into the next love of their life. Find a big man! He'll be happy as much as you are. Then lose weight together. It'll be fun. You can accomplish something together as a couple and build a relationship at the same time. It just sounds like you are attracted to smaller men or something and looking for one that likes larger women. Those are few and far between. Lower your standards, there are plenty of dating websites.
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no. tell him to back off. he is obsessed with you and he needs to stop. tell him to leave you alone. if he doesn't, tell authorities. then if he doesn't, get a restraining order against him. \nWho cares how much you weigh? whoop de do- you're 135. i'm 142 and 5'7". who gives a crap??? why is being 95 lbs. so damn special??? she's just a stick- most likely anorexic or bulimic. i feel sorry for her... and if he likes you- he wont like your stupid friend if she's a cheater. just tell him to leave you alone and quit worrying about your weight. trust me, most guys with any brains at all dont give a shit about how much you weigh.