IM the youngest person at my job and my supervisor has always treated me like i was unable to do my job. and now she is treating the girls who has been her for a longer period of time the same she started slacking off and we were getting along and now she's back to her habit’s she has to make you feel like a stupid a** in front of every one or talk to you like your 5.she put's her hands one our stuff on are desk all the time turning are phones on and we feel like were back in school not high school elementary school what should we do?
125971
I would speak with HR.  It sounds like your supervisor is in need of some social training about respecting people.
309733
Boy, do I identify with this - no one should have to put up with this - you need to go directly to the human resources department with a complaint - when you do, remember that the government doesn't want to have to deal with a lawsuit or bad publicity - describe the supervisor's behavior and use the following phrases in your description "I feel harrassed by this supervisor" "she belittles me and harrasses me in front of other employees" "she creates a hostile work environment" These are phrases that come right out of the human resources handbooks and are phrases that are used by lawyers when they bring a lawsuit against companies. The human resources department will absolutely know that you have been coached by someone with a legal background when you say these things - but that's a good thing. It will make their ears perk up and they will take you seriously. When you make this complaint you will most likely find that you are not the only employee who has complained - people like your boss are bullies and they have many targets for their unprofessional behavior - You may find that not only will you not have to leave your job - but your supervisor may find herself without a job. If human resources doesn't take care of this - or if you end up with the supervisor behaving even worse after you talk to human resources - get a lawyer and sue them for harrassment.
353156
She sounds like a bully. What a sad girl she is. And those other girls are not your friends. You need to find your own friends. I dont think theres a quick solution to this if its been going on your entire life.\nI would tell her that her attitude is sad and pathetic and your sorry shes such an unhappy person.
34115
Talk to parents.  I know it's hard but try to ignore her by not being around her.  Sounds like she is very unhappy and becoming a bully.  Try to talk to her about how you feel too, but definitely let parents know of her abuse.
19075
If that person truely is mentally impaired,then be compassionate that they really don't mean to be a problem for you, they are just trying to fit in the only way they know how to ...oddly.  If they ask weird questions and you have the time to listen ask them what they mean and to explain why they thought what they did.\nIf this person is just plain ignorant of his responsibilities, then I'd talk to the manager about giving that person a less complicated job, preferrably not right next to you, but even so if he a success he'll be less a problem, and every now and then tell them they are doing a good job. that will be worth more than his paycheck.. because no matter how awkward that person is.. they can always find a way to make money, but getting approval from their peers is always where they have lacked, you may find this person will want and thrive to do the best job for you just to be rewarded with your praise of a job well done.
112706
I'm sorry, but I disagree with the majority here.\n\nYou brought personal feelings and emotions into a work environment, which was wrong of you to do.  Your behavior is obviously making you emotionally unstable, and most likely disrupting this poor woman and possibly other co-workers.\n\nYou are an adult, and need to act as such.  Grow up and get yourself together.  Your teenage behavior is affecting the people around you, and they are just trying to earn a living and go home.\n\nThere are so many people dealing with various levels of depression, as well as disappointment, that do not find it necessary to share their grief.  \n\nWhy not try and meet a woman who may be interested in you without jeopardizing your work environment?  Is this not a more appropriate way to conduct yourself?\n\nJust do your job, then go home and cry like the rest of us.
199008
Yes, Go back to work. Be tough, tell her you didnt appreciate what she did and how unprofessional it is to act like that. It seems like they still want you to work there and everything, you arent the first person to ever get mad and walk off the job, but if the abuse continues or gets worse then you will have to consider something else.
95275
Tell your boss. She is being irresponsible.  You are being taken advantage of, you need to stand up for yourself.
20120
Maybe he is on a powertrip but most likely he is just thoughtless. I have found more often than not that people aren't generally intentionally malicious but many are so self-absorbed that they fail to think about other people. \n\nI used to work under a bunch of (stressed out) guys and I can totally relate! This guy was really rude to do that and I think next time you should only work on it for 5 minutes and tell him (or leave a memo) that you will finish it the next (bus.) day because you have a [insert something important here] to attend to. \n\nI wouldn't confront this person if they are your supervisor. You will probably be emotional and that is not a good thing to bring into the workplace.
243899
i have this kind of female boss. she shouts at everyone and always blames others for her mistakes. she doesn't quite know how to work on a PC and doesn't speak any foreign languages. she always says bad words about me because i'm almost 29 and i'm not married. she got married at 21 and has a kid. she thinks this is the only way for a woman. and also likes to talk on the phone all day long and gossips all the time, gets angry when someone laughs and many other things. she's just frustrated and very sick in the head. \ni used to leave the office everytime she said something bad to me, but at a point i couldn't take it anymore so i said some bad words to her. almost shouted at her and since this happened she hadn't said anyting bad to me again. i don't know if this is the right way to solve your problem. best thing would be to get another job.
483849
Yes I went through the same thing.  I found at that point there is nothing you can do.  Although you probably never deserved to be in this sitution I find that usually people need to gang up on one person and bully them.  It is not acceptable.  I went on meds because of it and when I was done working there I came off of the meds.  Management was involved in this case and I was approached by a laywer to sue these people.  I choose not to, the reason being that it would have cause more stress.  I now have a better job with better pay and I no longer take meds.  Please hang in there.  Start looking for a new job right now.  They cant fire you without a just cause, worse come to worse you will be asked to leave with two weeks pay.  But find a new job, being unhappy is not worth it.
279977
It's sad, but a lot of people seem to have Dragon Lady bosses, tho men can be just as bad.  A lot of people simply don't know how to be supervisors--they know how to do a job so they get promoted, but they don't get trained in how to supervise anyone else.  Maybe part of the dynamic is that you're a tiny person and she's bigger than you so she may be throwing her weight around without knowing it. (No pun intended.)  If it were me, I'd meet with her privately to explain how I felt and how she could best help me, and what she expected of me.  If that didn't work, I'd try to meet with her boss, privately, to see how the boss thought it could be handled from that point.  And I'd keep looking for a job elsewhere.\n\nIt might also help if you went to her to ask her questions before you tried to do something that you weren't sure how to do correctly.\n\nLet us know what happens.
362717
you should tell them you don't appreciate them disrespecting you and especially in front of people if you keep letting them do it there not going to stop. until you let them know how you feel .your just being too nice and that's OK but you have feelings too . tell them to treat you like they want to be treated ,they shouldn't threaten your job either that's not very professional .she could lose her job also  and start taking your lunch i would just do my job and go home you dont need friends like them .
126586
Check your job description - if the task is supposed to be undertaken by you, then approach the person she reports to and informally tell them of the situation. If she is spending time doing parts of your job, she may not be doing her new job sufficiently well. \n\nThink about why she is still doing her old tasks - is she insecure in her new role and want a feeling of familiarity?
571728
It's frustrating girl!!! Guys can be so juvenile, it is obviously because they are insecure themselves, and are making themselves feel better by belittling your man. And you are right, to tell a supervisor can often make things worse. The best he can do, I hate to say it  in that it is in a way sinking to their level, but think of the kind of things they might say to him, and come up with some really witty comebacks...put them in their place - not being objectionable, but even so they can't respond but might have a bit of a laugh. If he can try and break the ice with them, not by sucking up but by standing his ground...it isn't always easy but the truth is, sooner or later there will be another new guy, and the others will forget about your man and start focusing on him. Tell him to stay above it, and don't take the bait. He is better than that.
669086
talk to her. Let her know that you feel unappreciated. Sometimes people get so wrapped up in their lives, that the little things are overseen.
173012
DO NOT DO HIS WORK!!!!   \n\nif someone isn't cutting it at work and you get questioned about work not getting done, then inform your supervisor of the problem.  you shouldn't have to do your work and his.  \n\nthis is coming from a managment person of many years.  your supervisor may not be aware of his slacking...all your sup may see is that the work is done. \n\nif he leaves tasks that HAVE to get done by end of day, but are his responsibility, then document this and take the documentation to your supervisor.  explain that you are not complaining, you are simply pointing out that he slacks and you're left with it.  it's unfair and if you are doing more, perhaps you should have better wages, better hours etc.  BUT like i said...don't whine and complain, managers HATE that.  we all feel like we do more than our co workers, however, if you have documentation and show it to your sup in a professional manner and it is clear that he is shirking his responsibilities, then your sup should hear you loud and clear.\n\ngood luck and take care!