i've known him for 3+ yrs. we were best friends that took it to the next level, and then he lied to me and ended up with another girl. i, for the life of me, can't get over him. i wan to soooo badly b/c i can't take the pain anymore, i want it to go away. how do i get the strength to remove him from my head, how do i move on? plz if anyone can help.
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The reason you can't get over him is because u can't let go.\n\nY do u want him back sweetie? I know it hurts that he's with someone else and if u don't let go and move on ur only hurting yourself.. He's not thinking  or worrying about you, so why waste time that could be spent getting yourself together  or dating other guys? U get the strength by \n\n1. Keeping busy\n\n2. get rid of anything that reminds u of him\n\n3. Stop worrying about what his doing or who he's with\n\n4.Get out there a date\n\n5.Know that he's not the ONLY guy and if he was worth it he never would have done this to you\n\nI hope you realize that in life people do breakup and it will hurt, but what don't kill ya makes you stronger.\n\nGo out meet other guys and enjoy it until you met the next guy who will not leave you for another\n\nHe's not worth your tears, next time u cry about a guy cry because your so happy with him
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I am happy for you that you realize he didn't love you, you are on the road to recovery!  WTG!  Why do you miss him so much?  You spent 3 years with him, that is a good chunk of time wouldn't you agree?  Even though someone hurt us more than imaginable, we still suffer a loss after a break up.  The only way to heal is to forgive him for all they ways he's hurt you.  You forgive him for yourself and your mental health, it really has nothing to do with him.  Then give yourself a lot of time.  You aren't going to get over three years in a month.  When you feel you are ready to move on you will but; give yourself a little time so what he did to you doesn't effect your next relationship.  Good luck and remember:  "NO MAN OR WOMAN IS WORTH YOUR TEARS AND THE ONE WHO IS WON'T MAKE YOU CRY."  I don't know who said it but; it's wonderful isn't it?
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not to sure about the other stuff but it takes 1 week for every month that you were together to get over him. I heard this on Dr. Phil and a couple other times i read it not sure where though... I am so sorry to hear this, it makes me so sad because i may currently be going through the same thing... :'( sorry for you and i hope it gets easier soon.   Good Luck
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just go talk to him.tell him how u feel.\n communication is the key to all relationships.\nif he cant get over it move on leave him alone it will be hard but with time it will get easier.
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yes u have 2 move on i spent all of last year in that same situation and it doesnt workout,find another guy ur interested in.he probably isnt gonna leave his g/f 4 u and if he does then he would do that 2 u too.i pretty much had 2 erase him from my mind,it was hard but i did it and im fine now.(if u find a sweetie then go 4 him instead)
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You did the right thing, once a big liar, always a big liar.\nIt's gonna be hard but you need to get over him and move on, he is not worthy of you :-)
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Yes it will get better. You will eventually make new friends and be happy again. It just takes time. if you know you wont ever see him again and you just wanna get over it just delete him from your memory by throwing out all letters, pics, other things that remind you of him. do something else to get him off your mind, get a hobby, read a book about something that interests you.
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Probably a subconscious thing. Even though you consciously have gotten over him, there is still some subconscious pain that you don't even realize. But if you just hang in there, you can get past even this. It may just take time.\n\nYou might try sleeping on your couch for a while, to prevent reinforcing that subconscious hurt anymore. Rearranging your room some might help too. But the more you push past it, the better it will get. Just be patient.
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Actually, getting over someone you really love its really difficult in any way. I personally experienced it and untill now I still find myself thinking of him all the time and I dont know why it happens. We ended everything 3 yrs ago.\n. Im optimistic still, tough after that all my other "relationships" ended crap. \nYou just have to accept it and move on and believe that there will be a brighter future. Look at it as a beautiful memory because first loves are never forgotten. They will always be special and will always be a part of you.
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i know exactly how you feel since i had that exact same problem.  i know it sucks extremely and you have no clue what to do [therefore, you put this question up on yahoo answers] anyways.  yes it sucks because all you can do is think about that person and in the back of your mind you always think "why?  there isn't anything you can do.  so why bother?" thats because he's/she's all you want.  and of course when you have your heart set on something/someone; it doesn't stop, it just gets worst.  well i'm sorry but there isn't any easy way to cope.  after awhile you'll think that you are starting to get over him/her, but then he/she will do something that just lights that little flame under your heart and you can't do anything but fall again and continue to fall until you land.  but the problem will be that you won't land because you are still falling for him/her and he/she won't be there to catch you.\ni'm sorry i can't give you any easy way to cope with it; if i had something to help me cope with the same problem as you; i would have gladly passed it onto you because i would hate for anyone to feel the pain i went through.\ni hope things work out for you in the end.\ngood luck.
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By doing this makes you a stronger man...you did good by leaving her alone...it is hard when you have been in love, then it's all over, it hurts immensely and life seems pointless at that stage, give yourself some healing time...it's natural to feel the way you feel...by ignoring her and not staying in contact is a good way to go...as much as it hurts you are proving to yourself that you can move on, despite the hurt and heartache...good man...at least your not hassling her with calls and constantly on her case...never call yourself a coward, you are no where near to being a coward...your doing the right thing...you are saving your feelings from being hurt further and you are also respecting your ex by letting her get on with her life...there should be more out there like you...stay with it and focus on other things to ease your pain, it's hard not to see or hear about her new fella but there's no other way to tackle this...lets know how you get on in a months time...the pain won't be as intense as it is now...bless you....x
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well, forget him. it's annoying you, i know. but we don't know what's the problem with him. we never met him anything. you better avoid him and let's see what happens. if you didn't do anything for him to hate you,  then let go. cheer up. don't think about him too much.
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try to forget him , I know it is hard , but you will make it :-)
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I think you need to get over this dude and fast\nForget his number ( its a figur of speach cause if you trully loved him samthings you just cant forget ).....Stay away from the friends that will ask you about him....Just go cold Tercky if you know what i mean.......Its hard to do and even harded to maintain nut keep telling yourself its for the best\n\nThe fact that you not showing intrest in him anymore will creat a feeling of curiosity on his part.....If the dosnt chace you he wasnt worth it if he does you in\nRemember the man thats worth your tears wont man you cry
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you need to seriously cut down on spending time with him and phone calls, etc. he's just not into you that way. the only way to get over him is to distance yourself.\n\nCall up some other friends and become very busy and important!! \n\nYou might be surprised how much you won't be thinking about him after a week or two. \n\nGetting away from the situation always puts things in perspective. you will come to find that he is not amazing enuff for you to agonize over!
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Time heals all things! I was in the same boat about a year ago. I thought I was going to die, I wanted to die. The pain in my heart made me sick(literally), but then one day I realized hey it doesn't hurt as much as it did. It took me almost a full year to get over him, but now I am over him, and I just met the sweetest guy in the world. You just have to make yourself go out and have fun. I surrounded myself with fun happy friends and just made myself have fun. At first I was miserable, but then I started having a good time. Now I can be alone and not be sad. It just took time. I promise it will get better, just hang in there sweetie. If you ever want to talk, hit me up at clabarre81@yahoo.com.
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i have sort of had this experience.i fell in love with this guy.our relation was going on steadily when another woman came in his life and he ditched me.i did not ask for explaination and just walked out of his life.i was so heartbroken.i lost faith in everybody and am afraid to love once more.whenever i see that guy i get very angry but pretend as if nothing has happened and try to enjoy but actually inside i feel sick.i think u should move on.it is hard but tyr and slowly u will forget.