I have been dating him for about 6 months and I feel totally different about him now.  He is really hard to trust, and he will not get a job, or help out around the house.
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mmmmmmm A man who will not get a job and work to support his family or himself is saying alot about himself and his character!  And on top of it he feels he is too damn good to help around the house which is an even bigger crock of crap!  My hubby and I have been together 22 years and has worked 12 hours a day 6 days a week for the last 10 years in a row!  On weekends he helps with laundry- does dishes every Sunday just so I can have a day off.  If I ask for his help- he jumps right in with no hesitation!  This so called man of yours- well not a man!  Your feelings are correct!  Give him the boot big time!  You deserve sooo much better than that!  You deserve a man who is going to love you and respect your feelings and needs as a woman!  Life is too short to waste on this loser!  There r alot of men out there looking for great women!  and u deserve to have one of them!  Good luck to you!
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If I was You!!!! I couldnt deal w/ it. But I guess you already made a decision and U will let him stay until he finds a place to go. But the point here is, how long  it is gonna take for him to find the place? if you R paying for rent and bills is he helping U out??? if he is not I think it will take longer for him to go. Plus if you guys are in good conditions now (as friends) why ruin it??? tell him to move to one of his friend's house because if U guys R not 2gether anymore and U are looking @ him @ your house everyday, doing the same things as a couple but w/out "rights" that is not helping U @ all. I can tell just by your writing that U still care for him a lot, but if it is over, IT IS OVER,  as he is moving out of your life he has to move out of your house. For his b-day you can buy him something (if you havent done it yet) but something simple for U not to feel bad about, but no cake, no party, no special dinner 'cause you dont have to. \n\nGood luck and dont think about him anymore, just think about U and how it will affect you to have him in your house longer, he will soon start dating and U will find that horrible. \n\nHE HAS TO GO NOW!!!!
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No you have needs as well and you have to make him aware of them. Sometimes guys we don't catch on to sublte hint then three months from now we come home she's crying and we can't figure out why. Then you unlaod everything that you've had bottled up for the last 5 months and the whole time he could really be clueless. Let him know what your thinking and why and see what he says, but assuming is never the way to go. You just moved in so establishing communication is key. Here is you first chance to do so. I hope it all works out well.
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Trust and believe he is not going to change if he's acting like this now he will be doing the same thing later. If you cant deal with it I suggest you get rid of him SOON!..... GOOD LUCK!
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It's hard to say without knowing more about the two of you.  Money could be an issue, or he could be afraid of not meeting your expectation.  It be as simple as he just doesn't really feel as deep for you as you feel for him.
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I wouldn't be his back up. That is what it sounds like. He keeps her incase you 2 dont work. I duno whats wrong with him. He sounds like a catch. Not. I feel bad for you. What an ass.
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First of all to give him a chance, discuss this matter with him directly. Tell him that you won't be the way he wants you to be, but you love him a lot and wanna be with him. If he agrees and changes his attitude to you then it might become alright for a while, but if not then just dump him and tell him that you can easily live without him. I can assure you that when you'll dump him he will come after you, cause probably as you've said he can do it so well, he wouldn't expect this from you. And when he comes after you then you make him to do things you want, but don't push it as he has been pushing.
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Sweetheart, it's going to be tough... but you're going to have to give him his space and somehow prove to him that he can trust you again.\n\nSorry.
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Seems like you have answered your own question, where is the relationship if there is no trust!!! I know what you mean tho. you can't change someone, they have to recognise their failings, and choose to do something about it. Try speaking with him about how you feel and see what he says..Then you will know whether he is willing to make steps to change his behaviour toward you, if he doesn't then you know what youve got to do
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Has he always been this way or has it just been recently?  Has anything happened between the two of you, as far as cheating, that would make him feel like he had to be so inquisitive?\n\nI just don't see how you can be together without trust; that is the number one thing in a relationship.  This situation will not get better if you just ignore it.  Do you really want to have to worry the rest of your life about what he is going to say when you come home an hour late or if some other male calls you, no matter who it is!  \n\nIf it were me, I would get it out in the open with him and really discuss how you are feeling.  Maybe even suggest you two going to a counselor.  You should be able to tell from his responses if he is willing to work on things and change to better your relationship.\n\nGood luck!
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Oh wow!  Went through what you're going through last month.  It's called DISCIPLINE!  I learned to focus my energy on other things.  Pray, eat, close your eyes when you see him, ANYTHING!  Girl, do NOT let him see you sweat!  Time heals all wounds...and no one said it would be an easy recovery.  Tell yourself that you want to leave him alone...plus did you say he has a girlfriend?  \n\nThat right there would be motivation enough for me, jizel...it just ISN'T WORTH IT!  The right man will cross your path in due time...just have a lot of patience...I do, and I'm not even thinking about another man...honestly...it took me about 3 weeks to get over the fool I was with.  And now I feel better than he could ever make me feel.  Now he realizes how much he misses me because I stopped answering his calls and even stopped calling him.  I stopped giving him a reason to make me feel anything other than disgust for his no good, lazy, no money having a*ss!\n\nTHIS TOO SHALL PASS.  Be strong, jizel, I know it's hard, but God won't let you go through something He doesn't think you can handle.\n\nKeep your head up and your smile too...\nMo~
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If you feel you need to have him investigated and can't trust what he tells you......\n\nfind a new boyfriend.\n\nCut your losses and move on.
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This is my advice to you. I was in the same position that you were in. I dated for a guy for 3 years and he broke up with me b/c he was afraid of commitment or whatever. But my advice to you is this 1) show him that you are the stronger one by not being needy,calling him all the time or really bring up the relationship 2) TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF by taking care of yourself it prove to him that you are okay and will help him realize what he is missing 3)surround yourself with family and friends a good support system is the key to the whole situation.
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Dr Steve summed it up best.  He's telling you what you want to hear and going to be doing it behind your back.  Unless he gets help he's not going to change.\n\nIt has nothing to do with you.  It's all about him.  I know you want to believe but sometimes you have to listen to your head instead of your heart.\n\nYou can't live your life worried.  You need to be secure in your relationship.  You are not.  Tell him if he doesn't get help by (Pick a date), than your leaving.
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He might have some issues.  I would move on from here.  He was great for the time you spent together, but that seems to be it.  If you are interested in him, go out a few times before shacking up again.  Not a good move, if you are interested in a relationship.
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You have been supportive of his ventures, please listen to me i have done this for my man for 12 years and i resent it very much. I feel i have nothing for my self, we almost split up not long ago and realized i had nothing for my self not even a job. Now i have decided to rebuild a life for me as well, he is supportive of it now but i don't thing he likes it very much. Go back to school do what you have to do. He will come to terms with it.
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it doesn't sound to good, he sounds like he's a nightmare to live with. my advice is leave him before you get hurt anymore.