I think I am a bisexual, but leaning more towards women. I've come upon this a few months ago. I thought that it was just a "phase" but it's lasting longer than I expected. I came out to my best friend already and he’s closeted gay. Having to know that I can talk about all these feelings made it more real and I guess I couldn’t suppress it much longer. A few months later I told three more people and one of them was my girl best friend. She took it pretty well. A few days later as we were going through this again she reassured me that I was just going through a phase and she would prefer that I’d be straight. That wasn’t really an answer I wanted from her. I wanted her to support me all the way if I’m bi/les. I guess straight people just don’t understand sometimes. I think it may be partially because my school sucks and all the boys there are wusses. That’s why I have crushes on some girls at my school. Is it possibly too early for a 17 year old to know this?
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I think that what ever you feel is normal for you.\n\nand all  your friends wont agree or feel the same as you do.  \nSome might want or ask you to act a way that doesnt feel normal to you.  But don't ask them to do it.\n\nJust be yourself and you will see who your true friends are later.  good luck\n\nstef
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I've changed sexuality (or rather my perception of it) First I was straight, then I was gay, then I was ashamed & scared so I thought I'd be straight...\n\n...I was in my twenties before I realised I was Bi - would I change it? Not on your nelly.\n\nI hope you have a fantastic time in college - but remember you're also there to study LOL!
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There really isn't a thing of being 'part gay' either you are or aren't.  A lot of people confess they are bi.. for girls it's just a way of fooling around and getting attention.  For guys it's a way of not having to come out of the closet totally or just be gay.\n\nIf you have begun sticking other guys.. well, you are probably gay.  If you feel horrible about it start seeing a therapist, maybe you are having issues.. but a therapist can help you determine just what you want, like and what will or won't make you feel bad.\n\nTake care.  You sound confused.
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I understand your problem, my best friend is completly straight and I am bi, when i say he is straight he is. But like you I have  a crush on him and still do,we have and still do go place with each other but I try not to let my self get to close to him. Just be there for her when she needs you but don't cross the line again unless she cross first.
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I went through this same dilemma. I came out during my sophmore year of highschool. And there was the most drop dead gorgeous guy there. His name was Gary. Let me tell you. Anyways, I wanted to be with him very badly, but did not know how he felt. So I befriended him. We started hanging out, and stuff like that. Well two years went by and still nothing. Well in December of our senior year a bunch of us were out at a  party. His girlfriend was there and everything. (He had this girl for 3 years now) Well I went outside for a smoke, and he followed me outside and complimented me on my new glasses. Ok no big deal. Well we sat there and talked, smoked a few cigs and went back in. My best friend and I decided to get into the hottub. We had been sitting there for about a half hour or so when Gary came in. My best friend got out and went to go get a beer. I mentioned that my shoulder was buggin me from a fall I had taken earlier that week. So he reaches over and starts to rub it. Then we kissed, and ended up ditching the party and ****ed all night long lol. The next day he dumped his girl and him and I have been in a relationship ever since. So even the most straight acting guys may be gay. You just never know!
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PLEASE! For the sake of embarrassment, DON'T ASK HIM!! If he's still in the closet, he'll only get angry, and you'll lose any chance of ever finding out. Instead of asking him, just put yourself out there if you are comfortable with your bisexuality. Do you have any close friends at work who may be friends with him also? They may be able to find out in some mysterious way. My best friend is a gay male, and he just recently came out over the summer of 2005. He's going through the same thing right now. It's tough, but hang in there. You just need to build your confidence, and the rest will come! Best of luck!
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I think maybe you're bi, because maybe you like girls, but you have these feelings for your friend but no other guy.  Maybe not.  Maybe it's all just a big infatuation.  Who really knows?  But it sounds like you are either gay or bi.  Of course, you seem to be very close to your friend so maybe you've grown from friendship to being with him so often and sharing so much that you wanted more.
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I feel for you Molly, I have been in that situation twice myself. The one really positive thing in your situation is that you want to move forward.... I know I didn't even want to move on from my first unrequited love, I just kept on hoping that one day she would return my love, which was really stupid since she was straight.  So, I ended up wasting 5 years of my life!  And then, apparently not having learned anything, I fell in love with another girl who was bi, but who couldn't commit to actually having a relationship with another girl.  She only wanted a physical relationship without any emotional ties, so there went another 2 years of my life.  Finally I learned that the only way I was ever going to be happy was if I worked on my self-esteem and learned to trust my intuition.... I had known from the start that both of the girls I fell for were completely unattainable, so really I had nobody to blame but myself for what I perceived as rejection. And I really believe now that subconsciously I wasn't ready for a realtionship, and that's why I was seeking out unattainable people. I needed to love myself and have the confidence to put myself out there in the world, instead of fooling myself that I could find some kind of happiness or fulfilment in unrequited love. I have no idea if you will relate to my story at all or not, but I guess my advice would be to just get out there, meet new people, make friends, enjoy life, be honest and open with yourself and others, and of course love and respect yourself.  Although it may seem impossible to imagine now, you will get over the heartache, but you have to make a conscious effort to do so which you seem to want to do.  I wish you all the very best.  Stay strong! Keep smiling! Love will find you!
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How long has he been your friend? I'm sure that if he hasn't tried anything with you yet, he won't. And since he's your friend, he probably knows that you are straight and won't try to put moves on you. It's not like he JUST turned gay, he's still your friend (I hope), accept him for who he is.
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Oh, my...That's tough.  I knew I was queer when I was 11, though, didn't have language for it yet.  I came out when I was 17, but I have a pretty easy family.  If you think that your families are going to completely flip, be careful but get support outside your home.  Do everything you can to get reassurance that your love for each other is a good thing. It might be helpful to find a queer youth organization in your community so you can find others to talk with.  There are a lot of folks in similar situations.\n\nGood luck...And ignore the person who said you're not old enough to know if you're gay.  Homophobic baloney.  They never tell heterosexual teens that they're too young to know they're straight.  ;-)
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when i was in the closet i always thought the about the worst outcomes possible. when i did come out, however, i'd found that i'd been wasting my time being scared. homosexuality is nothing to be scared of. i guarantee that you're family and freiends will still love and adore you because you are you. coming out of the closet doesn't mean you're a different person than you were when you were in it. you like guys in the closet and you like guys out of the closet. you're the same person. nothing changes. \n\nI remember when i was in the closet, my mother used to ask me if there was any girl that i was interested in. i used to always reply "i'm too young for a relationship". over time however she'd ask if there was anyone i was interested in. I'm a straight acting gay... and my mother had picked up on it. mothers can tell things about their children. chances are your mother has suspisions too. nothing changes except the fact that you're not feeling bad about yourself because of possibilities that your mind exaggerates. i used to think that everyone would hate me... i was wrong. i know what you're going through... if you come out.. even if you tell only one person... it'll make a world of difference. if you still feel like you want to change after that... i don't know how you'd go about doing it. but i promise you that people will still love you. \n\ngood luck, buddy :)\n\n(keep your chin up)
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I was in the exact same situation a few years ago in highschool.  So, I know what you're going through.  This is a tough situation, as coming out always is, but it usually gets better.  \n\nJust go with your feelings.  Don't force anything, let events take care of themselves naturally.  You'll know when you've met a girl you want to get serious with.  You'll know when (if ever) it's the right moment to come out to other friends and to your parents.  You'll know how far out of the closet is right for you.  \n\nFor now, I'd try networking with other people you know are gay or bisexual.  Make friends and educate yourself.  This can be a long lonely journey, so it's nice to have people you can talk to who know exactly what you're saying and have often been there themselves.  For me, there was nobody local so I met people online at gay.com   That can turn into a meat-market though, so I'm not sure I'd recommend that method, but you understand the principle I hope.  \n\nAlso, read a lot.  Read testimonies of other gays who have come out or gone through difficult times.  This will help you to see that you're not alone.   It will also educate you more and give you ideas for how to cope with your life.\n\nSee if there is a local PFLAG (Parents and Friends of Lesbians And Gays) in your area.  Go to one of their meetings if you can.  It will help you understand how to better deal with your parents if/when you decide to come out to them.  It will also be a support for you and them.\n\nI hope this helps you.  Good luck with your journey and feel free to write me if you have anymore questions or just need to talk.  I know how difficult this can be, but trust me, you'll be happier being true to yourself than trying to be someone/something you're not.\n\nFR\n\nPS -  God and religion have nothing to do with being gay.  Don't let that confuse the issue for you.  Be true to yourself, no matter what that truth is.  Figure out the theology of it after you know where you stand.
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I would NOT tell your friends about this.  You are only 15 and there is nothing wrong with being bi at all.  BUT your friends may turn into morons and tell everyone on the planet including your parents and it could make things awful for you!  Keep this to yourself for awhile!
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I didn't know I was gay but knew that I was different when I was as young as 6 years old.I just seemed to develop differently then the boys around me.While I did like some sports and some "boy" stuff, I also liked hanging around with the girls and doing girl stuff.As I got older I knew that I was definitely different because I had strong attractions to men and none to women.I think I was around 13 when I realized that the reason I was so different was because I was gay.But even then I thought it was something I could "fix" and even tried to "fix" it.By the time I was 16 and still could not "fix" my sexuality, I accepted who I was.Even though it meant a life of hardships and family disappointments, I came to accept who I was.It is to bad so many of my family members, including my own mother, could not accept who I was and went as far as disowning me and never having anything to do with me.
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I can't claim to know anything about your problem, I'm a straight female.  But it just broke my heart to read your question.  This must be so difficult for you.  I don't know what to tell you to do, maybe you should try to wait for the right person to come along before you say anything, at least then you would have some kind of support.  I can't speak for your parents, of course, but if my child came to me and told me he's gay, I would be loving and supportive, a parent always loves their children, no matter what, at least that's the way I feel about my child.  I just wanted you to know I feel for you and wish you the best! :)
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In this situation you should probably try spending some quality time with the person sooner or later it will become totally clear of their sexuality and you never know if they are they may come out and ask you first, either that or talk to a mutual friend if there is one available, and try to get the dish on what they are into, basically the same thing you would do if you were straight, nothing really has to be different. The worst that could happen is that he says no but it is best to be true to yourself :-))!!!
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You are still exactly who you were.  You were bi before and they didn't know it, and now they do.  Nothing about you changed.  I would let them go and focus on people who will love and support you for who you are, and appreciate your value as a human being on this planet.