It just seems that i have alot my guys that want to be my friends instead of my boy friend and it sucks! I dont like to date ppl that like live far away, but everything is far away from where i live. I just want to know why guys just think of my as a friend and not a girl friend.
120101
Guys tend to take childhood female-friend as buddy rather than girlfriend material. At least until you give them a different impression. I'm not saying that you should not be yourself.. but maybe show them the other part of yourself.
156621
In school at that age.. I did'nt have many girl friends.. sometimes I think girls find it easier to have guy friends.. because a male friend at that age is less likely to be judgemental. I wouldnt worry at all.
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OMG!!!! i am in your shoes in the current moment!!! My guy friend of four years lives in Seattle, but is working out here in California. I so like him, but he only admires me as a friend, he loves to hang out with me, even get advise from me!!! what sucks is tht i recently told him tht i liked him & i feel weird & he's his normal self. i think tht a friend is unconditional, but we are trying to put conditions. i just think tht we have to hang in there & hope tht someone will admire us as, we admire them. sooner or later it will come!!!! Sometimes we as humans want to control, when, where & time. We just need to realize tht the time will come. We kinda have to open ourselves to the world & understand tht our love is One sided. Until then we are just hurting ourselves. they r nt the ones causing pain, we r!!!!! Be strong & hang in there. Somedays are harder than ours. But our time will come. Good Luck!!!!!
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I used to be like that and all of my friends tried to help me but it was something that I had to learn on my own.  I went through a hard break-up and then I didn't even think about guys for around 6 months.  Now I have a new man and I'm happy but I realize that I could make it on my own and be happy w/out a man.  My situation may be different that your friend's though.
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BECAUSE YOU WANT ATTENTION FROM YOUR FRIENDS. . YOU WANT TO BE THE CENTER OF EVERYTHING . . THATS WHAT IT SEEMS LIKE TO ME AND THAT IF YOUR GUY FRIENDS FIND GURLFRIENDS THEN YOUR SCARED THAT THEY WONT HAVE TIME FOR YOU ANYMORE
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I've had a bad experience with dating a girl that I'd been friends with. It was pretty awkward, both of us knew eachother and what we like with the exception of relationship needs. I was so used to us just being friends that I made minimal moves. Unfortunately, she believed in the man making all the moves. She eventually got bored and went after someonme else.
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I'm a guy. It's hard because you don't want to mess up something that could be a potential go. Why don't you put yourself in our shoes.... We aren't sure if you like us in return (perhaps you already have a boyfriend), we're nervous because we probably think that you're out of our league and so on...... It would be easier if you let us know how you feel first. then we would be alot more comfortable telling you how we feel.
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i'm a tom boy and i always seem to get a lot of guys, be a little flirty but subtle and not obvious, be a really nice and respectful person, be their friend and flirt so they know there's room for more than friendship, i love having guy friends so work on that first.  You've got to be confident cause that what attracts them, if you act like all you want is a bf then you're not going to find the right one.
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i'm sorry to say, i am also not in your age group. but what your doing is great, as for those relationships, you truly are better off, i dont know what kinda girls your dating, but girls down where i live would KILL to meet guys like you. so just keep your head up high, and dont be asamed for who you are. once again i'm sorry i'm not in your age group
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Your hurt is very understandable.You can't allways know what the other person is doing in a relationship and this is where trust comes in.We all want to trust someone and not have to think about what may happen if they do go astray.Not all men are this way.Some of us would love to meet someone that feels the same way and would respect a bond between 2 people.Maybe you are attracting this type of person.Look at where you have met these men and see if there is any connection as to the locations.I'm not suggesting that you hang out in the wrong places but maybe the men you meet are there for the purpose of finding women.Just a thought.
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The guys are stupid if they are going to judge you by your friends.  If they aren't willing to get to know you then they aren't worth talking to anyway.  \n\nAlso they are probably intimidated by you and your friends.  You and your friends probably have a lot of confidence and stand strong to guys which can scare them.  \n\nAnd if you all are always together that can be a major factor as well because you aren't as intimidating when you are alone rather than with your friends.
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The truth is Like: Not every Girl or Guy think alike. But the Most Common reasoning for a Guy Is the Behavior of a Girl. If a Girl gives that extra bit of attention to a guy, You could be pushing him to imagine things that are'nt really there.\n   I'm not saying to ignore. But don't pay too much attention either.\n   Being a Guy: I Can read a Girls Mind, i Just Speak to find out. Though I would never mention it or Show a difference. \n   See another way to Make that difference would be(That's if u talk to him) try doing the opposite to what he says. See his reaction to find out if he's really after you or he just playing around. Here i would like the Question How Sure are you that he's interested in you or just has a passing phase crush on you?\n   I would end by saying,"Think what's right in your situation, and do it" coz "All of us have sometime or the other gone through the phase and in my case i have always done it without help". Though me being a guy. hope u like the Answer as its my 1st on Yahoo Answers!\n\nQ:-How can I make it clear that I just want to be friends without seeming stuck up?\nA:-If i were to make a point clear i would just be a bit shrude and say,"Hey guys you all are so sweet i hope u guy/s will present at my wedding" !\n\nIf u get the answer above through and maybe add,"Hey you guys are so sweet,I bet my boy friend would be very happy to meet you guys". Point Through and everything's Clear !\n\nThis is my 1st editing to my 1st answer on Yahoo! Answers! lol
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I'm not racist but i like guys with my skin color.  but i have friends from other races.  What matters to me in a guy is if they could treat me and my friends the same.  I don't want to go out with a guy that doesn't like my friends.  Thats a turn off.
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Ohhh this is the same thing I used to do.  I think it begins with men being a huge priority in life.  Do more with your friends! I bet you don't hang out with friends when you're with a guy.  Do a Friday date, and Saturday with girls. Take up a hobby, take your mind off of men. \n\nMost times after I used to have a date, less than a day would pass before we talked again, and I just seemed to click so well with everyone, I moved from one serious relationship to another.  Have this new mantra: "I am only going out to have fun. I am not looking for anything but a nice evening tonight." Set yourself some rules; don't let yourself get too comfortable with them. Make sure not to tell them everything about you in the first couple dates, and let at least 3-4 days pass between dates.  Going to each other's house is also very personal, make the first couple weeks dates "out".  Don't get too comfortable, don't get too close.  Be more picky.
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Oh yeah. That guy absolutely is head over heels for the girl normally. Too bad he's in the friend zone. I pity those guys more than any other man on the planet since they are so incredibly close to what they want and they will never get it. Its kind of like a homeless person that owns an unbreakable box with $1000 in it. The person wants that money more than anything, but they have no way to get to it. The plight of the "male friend" is truly one of the saddest in the history of humankind.\n\nWhich is why I don't make female friends anymore.
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Hi, maybe it's best to be friends first before get down to dating. However if you keep getting the" just friends" routine too much you'll need to ask what's going on that you can't take it to the next level? Ask a guyfriend or girlfriend - maybe they can see somethig your not seeing.  Good luck...
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Yes it's possible. I'm friends with a guy since we were in elementary. We hang out, but we don't get all close. we're just friends. and we've been like that for 4-5 years. We talk and stuff, but we're not interested in dating anybody yet. And he has a lot of friends that are girls, but no flirting, just friends. ;)