There is this girl who try to seek my attention. Who give me signals as if she likes me. My friends are of the opinion that she has a crush on me. But I'm being reluctant in responding to her. I've hardly responded to her attention seeking attempts and even if I did that was for a very short period of time. This girl is apparently very proud of herself and even has bluntly turned down other guys' attempts on her. Now what I wanna know is that does this girl realy likes me. How real and serious this Crush thingie is. and what if I dont respond her positively or if at all I did it is for very short period of time. would this fade away her crush. Should I respond positively to her feelings or should I stay reluctant. Cause I think your value is up untill the time you are unreachable. But once get within reach you just lose your value. And besides I'm very sensitive person. I wouldnt want to be played with and wouldnt want to have a casual relation and endup being broken hearted. Thanks
126999
Be a friend to her, since all relationships begins with friendship. And since you are a sensitive person, this gives you some advantages and safeguards; you can hide most part of yourself and the same time you can find out her true intention.\n\nYou have asked some good questions back there, just proceed through cautiously and keep finding more about her. Setup boundaries between yourself and her, that will guard yourself from being too close.\n\nIn time who knows, you may find out that she is really like you.
179356
If you like this girl for more than her looks, then you might know some of the things she is interested in?  If not, take the leap! I am a 20 year old female, I don't know everthing about relationships but one thing I do know is that if you don't take that first step, you may never know what could have been.  If things don't work out and she isn't interested in you like you would hope, then things weren't meant to be.  When I was a sophomore in high school I dated a freshman guy who approached ME.  I knew then as much as I know now that he had a pair of you know what and I credit him for approaching me (I understand it isn't easy!!) And break the habit of talking through the friend to get to the girl, the sooner the better because you're wasting your time!! I hope I was some help : )
196842
I believe he likes the fact that you have a crush on him an doesnt want your feelings to change. He sounds kinda unsure about hisself. I would have to say I bet he feels the same way about you just didnt know how to reply when you told him how you felt. GOOD LUCK LOVE!
282381
Sounds like you two have a lot in common...basically wanting someone, but yet not to get hurt again. See if you can take her out and tell her that you really do like her and have like her for the past couple of months, but like her are looking for someone special and are afraid of being hurt. You respect her decision of not dating just to be dating, b/c once again you are looking for someone special to make your life complete. Pray to God for the strength to approach the situation with honor and dignity. Don't ever be afraid of no, b/c you never know until you ask. Keep your head up and your confidence high, you sound like a terrific sweet gentleman and I wish you and her both luck! God Bless!
400652
Well my man...you could not have handled this any worse. She talks to you and asks if you would like to study together. You assume from that it must mean she wants to be your girl. Girls do not want to be responsible for directly hurting guys. So by not calling back she was telling you she wasn't interested . But in your hot  pursuit you did not get that.\n\nBy calling all the time you made it clear to her you were desperate. No girl wants or needs a desperate boy and not much will chase them off sooner. And man you were desperate.\n\nFrom the beginning you blew it. You had her number. You were going to study together. \nMan what more could you ask for huh? Well you wanted her as a girl friend in the worse way so you really pushed yourself on her.\nThis not only turns a girl off she runs from it. You have to get her interested before you can be her boyfriend. And you must know how to do that.\n\nSo what should you have done. Took the number. Called only when it was time to study. While studying, while you were together, you get to know each other. You begin to develop some social value with her and when and if, only if, the time is right you could make your move.\n\nHave you ever heard of this phrase? The worse you want it the worse you will get it.  Guess what....you are living proof that this phrase is correct.\n\nBack off.....find another girl to study with and this time do it right.
155247
why don't you ask her next time you speak to her or next time she looks at you wave to her, that usually says a silent "hello". if she likes being around you, there's a good chance she doesn't have a b/f, so what's stopping you?after all there's no harm in asking, is there? before someone else does and you could regret it later.
550064
you already told her you like her, so now it's her turn to make a move. stay casual with her and act cool.patience is a virtue! good luck buddy!
99081
i had one guy actually say to me, "so you like me right?" and i was absolutely stunned. I DID, but it was just very awkward. see if you cant spend some time with her one on one and get a better feel for her.
538304
Well, as an MUNER, I've seen this happen. It's lucky that you were admin because if that note had been confiscated, there would be consequences. Anyways, you are right in asking him straight off would scare him. You don't really know this guy, do you? It seems like 2 or 3 weeks at most  and you already say he's NOT the player type. Maybe he is. If he really liked you, he would have called. This guy is not a perfect gentleman as he hasn't fulfilled his promise to call. I think he's keeping you as a safety as he flirts with you online but not in a more meaningful way. He maybe interested in another girl. There are other guys out there. Good luck.
162089
since you were honest about your question.....make some passes at her and see if she responds\n\nif you get that, what the f*ck is your problem look,you don't have a snowballs chance in hell of getting the coochie.\n\nif you get an awkward response at first that means she could be interested i would only try twice after the first response\n\nwhen the question is closed i would really like to know what happens\n\nthanks
517904
Well, if you really like this girl, you should try asking her out again.  If the same thing happens, then I would definitely take a hint and not bother again.  I feel if they are interested in you, then they would make an effort to go on that date that you plan.  Sure things come up but if it happens repeatedly, I would take it as a sign.
394250
It sounds good to me. I would only do it if I KNEW she liked me, though. I almost did a similar thing with this guy I like, but I changed my mind because I wasn't sure how he felt. BE CAREFUL, and plan what you'll do if she doesn't respond the way you want her to!
153775
Please listen to me carefully.... Talk to her about it because from experience it hurts when one thinks that you are interested and you blow them off with your disinterest. Just tell her how you feel.
195797
We wait 3 standard days before calling so as not to appear despirate and possibly lse your respect. Remember, this note was outside. Anyone could have picked it up. Including the wind. You obviously know he's interested. After the 3 days have passed, walk up to him and ask him what he thinks. Are you two on or not?
247221
The best thing you can do in this situation, is to take a step back, and wait. It appears you're pressing the issue too hard, and you have her a little threatened by your persistence. Leave it alone for a few days. It's obvious you're not going to care less, but it might give her a chance to see you're an all right guy that she would like to spend some time with. Good Luck!
468430
If you said it as you wrote she would probably not freak out but be in a little shocked? Especially since you don't know if she likes you. I would edit what you say and tone it down just a little. Try something like this:\nWhen you talk to me I get butterflies and feel tingly inside. You have such a beautiful smile and it makes me smile too. I think you're such a sweet, kind, and caring person.\n\nThen see what she says. If she is receptive, ask her out on a date. Have something in mind already in case she asks where you plan to take her.\n\nI just re arranged some of your wording and cut out the beginning. The beginning is a little too much at this stage imo.\nWith regards to whether it is love or a crush, well I guess right now it's a crush until you get to know her a little better...
486264
Well it could be her wanting to feel wanted. I would let her come to you, continue to flirt but do not ask her out. She might just want to feel liked from someone even if she does not like them. Wait it out.