I think I want to end our intimate relationship, but we truly are very good friends.  He has helped me through the most difficult event of my life.
130836
just dont do it by phone.
322949
What I would do is simply change the nature of our relationship.  What I mean is he would still be my friend however, I just would no longer share intimacy's with him, and would no longer discuss anything with him of any detriment to me.  In other words, I'de feed him with a long handled spoon..
312006
i had a 5+ yr friendship with someone     we became best of friends   then we decided we wanted more.... todsy he is my hubby......
589924
yes, time to just let that friendship fade away. I know it's hard to let go, but I had a friend who is very similar. Kinda wasted all she was given, and here I had so little to work with, yet I have a rich, full life. It's because she is utterly jelous of your energy. If you do get a chance to hear the "you don't know what it's like to be educated" line again, Please - for me- say "I'm so glad I don't, because I wouldn't have such a successful life. It's seemed to impede yours."
634501
I would tell him that when he needed us we were right there for him, just the same as if he needed us now. It shouldn't be any different when the tables turn. Friends help friends out especially in their time of need, and if he feels that way after you talked to him just tell him that he burned his bridges and if he needs you again you will ignore his call for help. Because that's not fair to you guys.
78046
It doesn't sound to me like you ever wanted in the relationship to begin with. Your first feeling is usually the right one. So i would just contact him and tell him that you understand that the relationship is over and that it is probably for the best, but you would like to try to go back to the way things were before you started dating. It is not possible for some people but for a select few it works. Besides you said the sex wasn't great anyway and that is the only difference between a relationship and a friendship.
113098
I would think very much because you never know what might happen. It might go all wrong and you might not be friends again or it could go very well. Take your time to think. Just tell him that you just don't want to go out with him and that you don't love him but you like him as a great friend.
63985
Yes, you need to talk to him about how you feel.  Admit that you've tried to be ok with his friendship with this person but as much as you try you really aren't ok with it.  Your suposed to be his best friend now, not her and if your uncomfortable with the relationship he has with her he should be willing and want to end it in order not to ruin what you two have.
226470
yep, Married him,,,,we were friends for like 4 yrs we ve been married for 1 yr 4 months and to be honest it is the best thing I could have ever done, it is working just so great we don´t need to pretend anything we know each other like the palms of our hands we still can talk like good friends listen to each other ,,The secret of it i guess is to keep on being best friends many ppl forget their spouse should also be a friend to them and limit their relationships ...he knows my past I know his and we don´t use it against each other instead we use it to understand the fears that may still be a part of us..=)....Nope we didn´t really feel atracted at first I was *engaged* , he had a gf...time went by I had another bf...broke up ...and then I began noticing I had fallen for him I asked him about his feelings and I was lucky he felt the same way for me..
655982
The verse is great.  It sounds like you have a really good friend there.  God bless you in your relatiionship, and in your life!
181713
Not because I could live with him, but because I couldn't live without him.  There's some intangible thing that just makes us 'click'.  Peas and carrots, PB&J, Sonny & Cher (ok, bad example).  We're best friends with benefits.  My marriage has been the best and hardest thing I've ever done.  I have found happiness but it wasn't the cakewalk I thought it would be.  We lost the rose colored glasses in year three.  Being married includes birthdays and funerals.   And we've learned it's better to be happy than to be right all the time.
355549
Well, I can sympathize... because I have been "walked over" by many friends.  I'm smart, academically speaking, and have made many friends who feel it is my duty to tutor and provide them the answers and help on all their papers.  Or friends who only call when they need something.  This is why I only have 1 real friend, and my husband.  It took a while to realize that people are shadey, and you can't always trust them.  Hard lesson learned.  Now I evaluate every relationship, asking "Am I getting out of this relationship what I am putting in?" and if I am putting in too much energy... and not recieving any of that energy back, then you really have to evaluate if it's worth it..
62174
I should say NO, do not end it. Distance yourself though, this is the reality of life and you have learnt it without loosing your life.\n\nStop pouring yourself to them anymore. Just be friends, remember if she ever turns around for help to you -if you can offer without an effort that is, make it a point that you do this as a favor. Make him/her obligated to what you have done for her. Mind you, do not loose yourself as you make her realise what he/she has done.\n\nRemember, we pay back our debts in this world -be patient, you will get your chance to collect, with interest.
156466
that is how life is, people come in and leave our lives, but since he is your best friend and you do love him let him go and encourage him to make a new life for himself, and you do the same, I know you are hurting but it will subside.  A wise man told me that if you can count all your best friends on one hand then consider yourself very lucky.
281616
Former lovers can be friends, not that I've experienced exactly.  I have a couple that still count me as friend, some more that would slash my throat if they could.  First, remember YOU had an affair.  He is being generous and kind and that is worth something good.
662385
Whatever you do you should handle it calmly and spare his feelings. Because right now like you said he hasn't gone too far but yes if you fear it will go beyond what you want it to be then is best to resolve it quickly. handle this face to face and be strong about it. Tell him that you feel that your friendship with him seems a little too personal and it makes you feel bad and you do not want to feel bad at all. That you cherish the friendship but it will never be anything but a friendship. If he can not understand or accept it then I suggest you end it completely.
318182
It seems that you have a VERY genuine friendship with this guy. Honestly, I think you should keep the friendship, simply because it is a solid foundation that will take mother nature to rip it apart. \n\nBut it sounds like you have a very deep interest in him. The longer you keep it bottled, the more it will consume you. The worst thing that could happen is that he tells you to go to hell, but I doubt that will happen. Be honest with him. One of two things will happen: you will remain close friends, or he will become your significant other. But if you have such a strong relationship, there is a possibility that it could blossom into matrimony. That comes with time though. If he says yes, GET TO KNOW HIM EVEN MORE!!!! Because if you rush into a deeper relationship, and major problems that never before existed come to light, chances are that you will lose the friendship as well, which could be a "double whammy." \n\nRight now you have someone in which you can confide, and you will always need someone like that. Be careful, and continue to use good judgment.\n\nGood luck to you.  :)\n\nP.S. (I met my wife in 1998 (college) and I was just like your friend; I still am. I would do ANYTHING for her. I don't doubt that your friend has that same mentality. Just go for it and find out what's there.)