Him and my friend went out almost 4 years ago and they don't even talk anymore but I still feel bad b/c they were in a relationship. Should I tell her even though she doesn't like him anymore? (I really like him and he likes me)
119065
The fact that you feel bad tells me that you are a decent person,but if it's been four years and they aren't even talking,you did nothing wrong.With age comes wisdom,as a53yr old man I say let sleeping dogs lie.Now I know some people would disagree with me and I respect that,but I can't think of one good reason to tell.Go with your heart,do whats best for you and your friend,whatever you decide,good luck.
384888
first of all figure out if he is even worth your time and energy,, make sure you really like him... also you haven't even started off right... you lost a friend for this guy and you don't even know if he likes you... what would be the right thing to do is apologize with your friend and try to get back together and even if your friend says anything about yeah u better cause its all your fault or he's mine deal.. shruggle it off because its not worth another fight... also if your friend stopped being your friend because you guys like the same guy then maybe you should think about if your friend was really ever your friend... but if you really like this guy then i say go for it... but dont do anything you will regret
336643
that's good you told him, you had to let your feelings out, now ,if he only likes you as a friend let him know it's still OK with you if you'll are still friends.also, if he doesn't show that he likes you back don't feel bad sometimes it is better to have a friendship relationship instead of no relationship at all.but also give him time maybe he likes you too, but has not had a chance to tell you yet.
457787
Definately tell him. I was in a similar situation and I never told the guy how I really felt.  He's with someone else now and it hurt so bad that I ended up spending less and less time with him. Now we barely ever talk.  I found out later that he had feelings for me, but now it's too late.
274008
Your EX-bestfriend's EX-boyfriend?  um... you should ask him out on a date, and then go for it with him.  Because... well if she isn't your bestfriend anymore you owe her... nothing, and even if she still was your friend, as long as you didn't sleep with him to break them up... (which i am sure you didn't do) then you still owe her.... nothing.  How long have they been broken up? if it has been say over 6 months (which it sounds like it has if you have listed to his other girl problems) then I would say you have satisfied ALL of the waiting before moving in criteria.  Life is short sweetie, take a chance, and good luck.
293916
how long have you been friends??? frankly, it really should be okay because you've moved on, right? unless, your friend is your bestfriend and she knows how you still feel about him, then maybe that's another question...so, maybe you need to ask your friend what is going on...you know, talk to her or something...but if she's not that close, leave it! like i said, you've moved on right? go find someone else better...someone who deserves you... ^_^
532532
You know I've been in this same situation. It's really hard to deal with if you guys are so close. I just let my friend be and went to hang out with other people. I would call her and invite her places but she always turned me down because she had already made plans with her new man. This went on for about three months. When she called one day I told her. I'm not mad at you anymore but I would like for you to know that what you did really hurt me. We had been friends for five years and this guy comes and now you act like I don't exist. She apologized and we started hanging out again. Some people just get caught up in situations and forget about the feelings of others. You just have to put yourself in her shoes. If you were in a new relationship you might do the same thing to her. It's something new and right at this time you're just caught up in it. As long as you talk to her and tell her how you feel about it she should make it a point to try and share her time between the two of you. If she just blows you off then she wasn't a good friend to begin with and you'd be better off finding someone who cares about you and what your feelings are. Good luck with it. I hope she comes around.
21892
Tell your friend out of respect.  They deserve to know that their boyfriend likes someone else.  Unfortunately for you, unless your friend doesn't like her boyfriend you probably won't be friends very long if you date her ex.  Decide whether the boy or friend is more important to you because this will be a situation where you only get to keep one.
499556
people who had been in a bad relationship may feel this way. give her time and just be her friend for now...
450694
YEA RIGHT!!!! tell her how you feel and how much you like him and if shes a real friend shell be understanding especially if she doesnt even like him!! Good Luck ♥
377646
If he isn't into his girl, then that sure says a lot about him. I wouldn't worry about hurting your friend's feelings, just tell her. She will be hurt more once she finds out the truth about what a jerk he is. You said you are interested in him? Why? He knows you're taken and you're happy with the one you are with. I would stay where you are and forget about this other guy if I were you.
292497
If you tell him right now, when he just got a new girlfriend, it will sound like you want to ruin his relationship with her.  Give yourself (and him) some time, just be his friend, and see what happens.  He knows you like hanging out with him; that's enough for now.
98527
i completely understand what ur going through, i was in the same boat a you. my advice is, if he really is happy with his girlfriend right now, i wouldn't say anything. because right now you're his friend, and you should be happy for him, unless she really isn't good for him (meaning she doesn't treat him right). but, if and when you do tell him, make sure you do it in person. just tell him that he is a great friend, and that u love being friends with him b/c he is such a great guy. then tell him that somewhere in the friendship your feelings changed, and now you like him. that's all i can really tell you. i hope i was some help.
292832
Do you still have feelings for him? If you do try him out again if not tell him frankly that you would rather stay friends if he cant handle that then shame on it all.
552452
Don't worry about it...it doesn't make you a bad friend if she said she wasn't interested in him in the first place. She had her chance and if she is calling you a "whore" it's only because she realized she is an idiot. Not your fault...if you really like the guy just stay with him.
93216
Oh wow, tough situation. It would help a little with these type of questions if people told how old they are. If you all are adutls though, just let her know how you feel. Also your best friend doesn't sound like too good of a friend if you even think he might say yes. But then again, maybe he doesn't know how you really feel about her? You should tell him. Real friends wouldn't do things to hurt others. Also, maybe you acted all cool or whatever when you broke up so she thinks you won't care? Honesty and straight-forward communication is always the best policy in every relationship. If she doesn't love you back that's rough but at least you can try to move on. It's a fact of life that at some point we will probably like someone who doesn't like us back and vice versa. It's not pleasant but it's also a good reminder to treat others how you want to be treated...karma can come back and bite you in the butt!
58802
i've been in the same situation b4... i introduced them to each other.. they went out and became a couple.. later they broke up bcuz he was a total jerk.. now i cant stop blaming myself and she cant stop blaming me..\nmy advise is stay out of it, tell him: " if u like her, go ask her out yourself and dont get me involved"