Do you think that good looking girls get "hit" on less by REAL men because they are intimated?? I am not saying I am drop dead gorgeous but my guy friends say that if they saw me in the bar they would not be able to approach me b/c of the way I look, I was shocked when they said that...Any feelings/suggestions on this??
132402
Most men who would not do not have alot of self confidence. They will look and say she is pretty, but dont believe they deserve someone that pretty. \nYou deserve a man who is confident, and loveing is comfortable in his skin. You must also believe in yourself and bleive for the man you want. Don fall for second best. \n\nAnd not good to tell a man he is second best. that is part of what makes men less confident in themselves. When leaving them just agree that you are not best for one another.
186770
Maybe the girls are too intimidated by your good looks.  Maybe they think they would never measure up.  Make sure you are extra friendly and "approachable" around women, then they'll probably be all over you.  OH, and have fun and laugh, women adore that!
10119
You are beautiful no matter how you look. You are beautiful just the way you are. Be proud of yourself. I'm sure a right guy will come to you. \n\nI used to think I'm unattractive, and nobody asked me out. But when I say "F*ck this, I don't care what people think about me" and be myself, then my true love (now) just come right to me and say hi. See, ZI think guys got attracted by the woman's confidence, not their look. \n\nDon't rush. Congratulate yourself that you're still single. Don't you see us women who have bf always have to struggle and be hurt?
186789
great question and the trouble is you're trying to understand it from a guy's standpoint so you have no chance.  it's definitely down to what the girls here have been saying that they just feel uncomfortable with it and there is also a sense of predictability in treating a woman too nice. I'm single but cool with it as I know the key to all of this is being who you really are and not trying so hard to impress.  concentrate more on what makes you happy in life and the right girl will be attracted to that. don't try and make others happy as you'll lose sight of yourself
593701
why when guys do the same. im pretty and dont care wat a guy looks like so long as he has a nice personality yes i do like perving at a nice looking guy. but have been out wit a pretty boy that was up himself
448078
Yes. I like a certain look in men and I don't like the more ordenary looking guys who claim to like me. Also I was jealous of my roommate last year for she got so many comments on how hot she was from men. I didn't think she was that good looking myself.
247285
My BF looks and he is not subtle about it at all!!! It bothers me with him which is weird because it never bothered me with other guys. But I think it is because he is not subtle about it he cuts off in mid-sentence to look at some girl, I haven't figured a way around him looking or my jealousy over it. Sometimes I say outrageous things to get his attention but it hasn't worked so far. I think I will just buy him some dark sunglasses so at least  I won't notice as much.
82534
Its a fear of rejection.  If they think your that "hot" then they are probably afraid that you will shoot them down.  Most of us guys have fragile egos.
155391
well being a guy my self, looks are really not that inportant to me, it is what is on the inside thats counts the most! thats is where you really shine, and look your best!
619753
im pretty and my friends are pretty. i wont discriminate against ugly people i've even dated ugly people in the past b/c of their personality. but if a girlfriend of mine is ugly i'll tell her that she's not that attractive and should play up other moves to win over guys. no point in lying to her b/c she know that she ugly no matter how much i deny it.
428258
Up until a reasonable age women are programmed to compete for the attention of men (in the same way men are programmed to compete with each other.. in sportsm business etc)\n\nFor women, they compete often on how attractive they perceive themselves and others to be..hence in a pub if they feel they are better looking than others they will get a kick if they perceive the opposite they will feel down..  \n\nFor whatever reason these girls (cannot be women because as I say most women grow out of this because it is disrespectful and most get to an age where it no longer matters/they no longer care) see your girlfriend as a threat and probably wish they were the one on your arm..\n\nStay loyal to your girl next time they do it - kiss her, tell her she's fab, hold her hand or do anything to show them you are 100% with her and not even vaguely interested in even getting an ego boost from their flirting..
377757
it's true that men are obsessed with looks. but it's only an obsession. a good man knows that looks aren't everything...it's just hard not to notice it! especially bodies. i'm just being honest. \n\ni can be in the best relationship, with an absolutely gorgeous woman (as i am) and i'll still catch myself checking out a good looker on the sidewalk and have to just shake my head and get on with life. \n\nlife's just not fair. and anyway, the best looking girls knows it all too well and are way too obsessed with looks themselves whether it be them or the men.
550990
Hey, Conan, here's a newsflash:  you're normal!  Right, some men aren't quite as driven as you and some are even more driven.  But they're normal, too.  As long as you don't hurt anyone, including yourself, ain't no sweat.  And as long as it does not bother your GF...Look, there is no absolute regarding what endorphins do or do not do for you.  There is a range of acceptable responses and yours do fall within that range.  By the way, if she gets you that hot 'n bothered, would ya mind posting her pic so's us other guys can see what we're missing?
368864
Having other guys check you out makes you feel good about yourself... of course but it's not like we want to go home with those guys or see them naked. It really depends on the girl to answer this question but my answer for most modest girls would be no? not all women are scandalous
454736
and............... why exactly do u think like this?? has a girl ever ever thrown herself on u?? (lol)\n\nand by the way, wat exactly do u mean by decent, good, guys??\nr they still left?? i thought they became extinct a long time back!!\n\njust go on with whatever u r thinking............. i can't change the way u think.!\n\nGood luck
11141
I'm a guy, and when I usually see a beautiful woman, my first instinct is to assume she's taken. (This is the exact same thing supermodels and actresses go through.) Tone your fire down just a bit, and guys won't be intimidated of you. I know! I've been a guy all my life! :-)
172362
yeah but how else can some guys, like me, get chicks then? \nprostitution has many cons i dont disagree. but there some guys out there that just can't get a break with the chicks. cause either we're not good looking enough, not buff enough, not enough moeny and those superficial things woemn go for these days thanks to programming like sex and the city. always, always some knight in shining armor. puh-lease. look at amsterdam. those forced into it against their will, i agree is bad and should be fought against. but for those that do it on their own free will, i think they provide a basic, needed service to those guys like me that just can't get any. and by the way, i have't tried one myself. haven't quite gotten the nerve to try it yey. too many risks u know. like disease and all that.