There's no way I can tell my parents I self injure, so how do I tell my friend?\nAnswers can be funny, but please, short, working answers.  :o)\nHelp NEEDED!
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If you want help to stop self-injuring, your parents are the people you want to help, because they can get you the help you need. It would be unfair to your parents, also, to find out you self-injure after you wind up in the ER or the morgue. \n\nI'm a recovering self-injurer, and I know how hard it is to tell people what you do, but it helps, because they'll know what's going on and how to distract you when the urge to injure strikes. \n\nUntil you can get some professional counselling, try hammering LOTS of nails into a board every time you get the urge to injure. Hammer until the urge passes. You can also just smash the hell out of the nails and the board, just as long as you don't hurt yourself. \n\nContact me if you want to talk more.
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Well, I have recovered, and the reason is with help from friends, and often support from family.  Another thing that has really helped me is support websites.\n\nI first told my school, and then they told my parents.  My parents got me into psychiatric care, and having taken medication and going through talk therapy, I have learnt other ways of coping.\n\nI still often desire to self-injure.  One of the most important things in curbing my desire to self-injure has been the lack of blades.  The other thing is that self-injury also becomes a mild physical addiction.  This is because the brain releases pseudoopiates at the response to self-inflicted pain.  After a time, as with opiates, the body becomes addicted, and you need more of the substance to keep going.  More however is not produced by more cuts.
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i totally sympathise with you and know how you feel...at the age of 14 i was diagnosed with aneroxia, depression and i sef-harmed (i still have some scars now...3 years later)- i was in denial about all these things but then one day i cracked and realised i needed help....i sat down with my parents and explained EVERYTHING....about what i was doing to my body....how i was feeling inside....and how i came close to taking a overdose.....i was referred to a psychiatrist and was admitted in to a psychiatric hospital for 6 months...im not trying to scare you and tell you thats where your going to end up because mine weren't just about the self-harming but what i will say is that you need to sit down with your parents..tell them not to speak because there is something you need to get of your chest and just get them to listen.....as for you saying that your mum was angry when she saw your cuts...it isnt an anger for example....if you damaged someones property....but an anger that is brought on by being worried, scared, feel like they cant help e.t.c...and probably why you never went to them for help...once your parents get an idea (i wont so understand because no one can ever understand unless they are going through it or has been through it) of what your feeling then get them to take the right steps forward to getting you psychiatric help and counselling....but DONT keep this to yourself.....im not saying its a 2 minute job to fix because even after i came out of hospital after being in there for 6 months i carried on self-harming but i still got to see a cousellor and psychiatrist twice a week.....now 3 years later i no longer self-harm but carry the scars with me.....i wish you much luck
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You cut yourself because you hurt and the physical pain is far easier to deal with than the mental pain. Trust me. I know, although I don't cut, I do pick....You do need to see someone about this. You can't make it go away on your own and eventually you're going to really hurt yourself...then your secret will be out whether you wanted it to be or not. Go check with your city's human services. They can be very helpful and you can remain incognita if your a minor. You do need help. I did too. The hardest step is the first one.
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She needs HELP so , how can you assist her BE HONEST with her about what you feel she is doing to herself , then guide her to some professional or talk about why she is mutilating herself, maybe abusing going on from within family ???
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I used to have the same problem that your friend has. My parents were crazy and strict and I became depressed and suicidal for many years. I never attempted suicide, but I did cut myself occasionally. I understand when she says it feels good. The best way that I can explain it is that the physical pain sort of momentarily takes away the emotional anguish that you're experiencing. It's not a healthy thing to do, buy many people do it. If your friend doesn't want to see a therapist, the best thing that you can do for your friend right now is to just be there for her and listen as much as you can. Since your friend can't really change her parents right now, there's not a lot that she can do about her current situatione except to learn how to cope with the problems that she's dealing with. If your friend expresses any desire to commit suicide or you think that she might be thinking about suicide, then you need to tell someone about it, a school counselor, a church advisor, or a parent.
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i was also into self mutilation and i used to cut myslef too.  i also have my reasons to why i did it. best way i think is to talk to someone you are close to. you are too young for this type of thing.
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only if u want him to snap. trust me, coming from someone who is in the same situation--i did tell him. BIG mistake. Apparently they feel bad for doing it, but they cant stop it. So sayin something would only make them feel worse. Which could send them in to an alternate mood swing, like depression and suicide. That-you-dont-want!\nJust try understand that, that is apart of him and who he is. If you cant tolerate it, then i suggest possibly ending the friendship..\nIf you need to tell someone..tell a parent or a doctor..someone who could help more than just you make him more aware. Does that make sense?
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Do not worry about what others say to you or about you. I know it is hard at your age to do this. These people don't know you and you shouldn't waste your time on them. I too was picked on as a teenager, even though I have not been through the trauma you have. I was very skinny and hairy and I was always picked on for this. I never stood up for myself, partly because I was scared and partly because my parents forbid me and my brother to ever say or do anything against anyone, even if they hit us. Now, as an adult with a daughter, I have taught her to stand up for herself and she always takes up for people who are being picked on. Just keep in mind that those who are picking on you have low self-esteem. People who are confident don't have the need to make fun of others. Also, those who have a hard teen life are usually the ones who are the most successful and the ones who have it "handed" to them can't make it on their own as an adult. Talk to a school counselor, or find an adult you can trust and confide. Maybe there are some programs to help. What about your friend's mom, maybe you can talk to her. Just hang in there. Make yourself a goal - what you would like your career to be - and focus on that. My goal was to be an architect, but I'm a nurse instead. But during high school I would draw house plans all the time (and still do at times). Lots of luck.
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Did you try telling them..If not just don't be anywhere near them alone. Tell your parents and take appropriate action.
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Have your best friend talk to her friends parents. They can be the most helpful, the best thing to do is to have an intervention have everyone say how what she is doing is affecting them and hurting herself, then if all works out well she will want to get treatment if not the parents can get her help against her will. But she needs to get help, it is a dangerous disease to have. Her body will start to shut down slowly and she will end up very sick or dead.
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I am 19 and also cut. I wish so much that  ihad gotten help years ago when it first began now it feels like its to late. Dont be ashamed of it you really need to tell your parents. its hard to do and honestly quiting will take all you have and its something you cant do alone. so get help please before its to late.
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Tell your parents...and tell them now!!
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Tell another adult that you trust.  Parents and teachers are great listeners.  This is something that you don't want to let happen any more.  Tell someone and if they don't listen tell someone else.
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You need to talk to your parents. You can't find and answer here. Your family, church or teachers can help best. Open up, talk to them. They will help, I am sure!!\n\nFrom a website:\n\nIf you are struggling with any form of self-abuse the one non-negotiable is that you need to talk to someone. No matter the reason why you hurt yourself there are people who can give you some insight into your abuse and help you. Talk to you parents, teacher, friends, pastor, youth leader or counsellor. Some people have said to me "I don't need help - I can stop this myself" Please understand there is nothing weak in asking for help. To me it shows that you are strong enough to have the will and desire to change.\n\nI wish you the best Giggles. e-mail me if you like!
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First talk to her about how it upsets you. Then if she can't do anything else, tell her you'll tell her mom but you guys can do it together or tell her she should tell her. or any other person she might trust, but has authority. Be careful to tell her how much you care about her and that if she keeps going in that direction, what if one day the cut is too deep and she's gone for good? Talk, listen, and support her in getting help. She will need it!
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I've had friends like that too. And you can only do so much. Sometimes, they need to learn on their own, as much as it may hurt you to see them get hurt, but at least you know that you have trie to advise them well. However, let them know that you are there and that you are willing to listen. Perhaps, you can find a place where they help teens with problems and get help together.