my mom is in a severe depression and i dont know much else i can do to help...i've run outta ideas...she finds pleasure outta other ppl's suffering...wats up with that?
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You need to get other family members involved, and get your mom some help.  The family, or even friends need to talk with your mom and help her realize that she needs to get some help for her depression.\n\nShe might get pleasure from other people's suffering, because she is so depressed.  Some people want other people to be miserable too, so they aren't alone.  I know it sounds weird, but it's true.  Have you ever heard the phrase "misery loves company"?  That means people that are depressed want other people around them to be depressed, so they aren't the only person feeling down.\n\nGet your family and friends involved, and talk with your mom.  Maybe it's just a phase, but she probably needs people to talk things out with.
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Dear Rebecca,\n           Take heart and know that you are not alone in your struggle with depression. I have the same problem too and understand how you feel. Please know that you are okay and sound like a very likable young girl. If your "friend" can't accept you with your problems as you are, then I'd say she isn't much of a friend and perhaps you should try for other friends who will appreciate you for all that you are. I am sorry that you have to be hurt this way and my thoughts go with you but also realize that there are people who really will like you as you, Rebecca! Take care of yourself and stay sweet!
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Here is a link that can come in handy. \n\nhttp://www.dbsalliance.org/index.html\n\nor the book Undoing Depression by Richard O'Connor\n\nI've personally gone through the battle as well as dealt with a mom who has, so if you want to talk, e-mail me:\nkimmysauce626@yahoo.com
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theres many things you can do. when im depressed or feeling low, i call or talk to one of my friends or family members. i also like listening to music. another thing you can do is eat your favorite food.
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hey hoteve i wish the same thing my family is crazy . sometimes i feel like they dont even know i am here . i also feel like my two older sister get the most of my mom and dad's attention . but i a little bit learned that my parents cant help it they r  just being parents .wishing they would go to hell is not a very good thing . they do do some things for us though . if u ever need to talk just im me it should be listed
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I'm sorry to hear that! all you can do is try and be there for her and help her deal with her problems. but please take this advice don't let her start taking anti depression pills because they wont help her. my mom suffered a nervous breakdown when my father died and she started taking them and now she is completely addicted to them and is convinced that she cant get by without them and now she is a different person (not for the good).
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My mother has bipolar disorder. I know what growing up with a depressive is like and I also know I have occuring syptoms of it. My best suggestion is to keep a diary or write poetry of current feelings... never look back. And get a pet or something to talk to, take care of and love. Try to be as independant as possible and continue taking your meds. Because it gets way worse when you don't. Independance, love, and ablity to write out your feelings help. Also I'd suggest talking to a good friend who might be able to help you make sense of yourself... my mother uses me as her thought sorter to help her understand better. Hospitals are the worst thing I believe you could go to... gives you no personal care.
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I think you should still go out with her (with the full understanding that she might be in a bad mood and that would have NOTHING to do with you) Actually, she might appreciate a chance to cheer herself up, and forget about her mom's illness for a couple of hours (and, she might think very highly of you for giving her a few moments of happiness in a time of great sorrow in her life)
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i've been there... it got so bad... i was diagnosed with MAJOR DEPRESSION DISORDER.... my suggestion... go to your doctor and tell them what is going on.. they can not tell anyone.... because of laws known as HIPPA..... they will probably give you medicines to help calm you down... as far as your mom and dad talkin to you about each other.... tell them that you refuse to listen to it... thats what i did.. and it quit...   your lil brother.. take him out to have fun... take him to eat or have a movie night.. he needs to get out and be away from this also.... talk to him and see how he is feeling....
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I'm sorry about your loss. I lost my mother 2 1/2 months ago and will soon be going through a first mother's day without her. Because Mom was such a jokester and loved life to the fullest, when our spirits droop and tears threaten us, we share memories of something she did or said that made us laugh at the time. It's what she'd want to see within the family.. not alot of depressed and unhappy loved ones mourning her loss. It's really ok to laugh and smile.. dont spend too much time grieving over her loss, rejoice that you were blessed enough to know her as long as you did. Get the picture albums out and remember those things that made you smile and laugh. It's a great connection and keeps the memories strong of the woman you both loved so dearly.
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your mom is going through empty nest syndrom...\n\nWith no kids to take care of she is lonley and is in need of some companionship...\nDrink is a way for her to cope with  this...\n\nHow ever she might be getting into the drinking to much...\n\nTry an interventions of sorts .. Get your other sibblings together and a range a family get together...\nYou might find this could help..\n\nAlso try calling your mom for no reason at all and ask her a silly question about cooking cleaning anything... \nI think your mom need to feel that she is needed and by asking her silly questions she will feel she is wanted ....
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have you talked to her since? she needs your support now more than ever! make sure to talk to her alot; she doesn't necessarily need to respond. ask her about her problems...make sure she knows you care. DON'T give advice to "fix" her problems; just show her that there's more to life! AND remind her of the people she'd be hurting (mainly you, other friends, parents, and siblings) if she decided to do it again. suicide attempts are always a very sad situation. get together with her and other friends; go walking, swimming, read a novel aloud to one another, watch a funny movie together, look at photo albums! make sure to spend QUALITY TIME with her. the next attempt she has may be interrupted by your phone call to hang out with her! good luck and keep it up! -sudo psycho...logist
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im sorry =(    best wishes to your mom... i dont think theres much you can do besides provide her comfort and let her know your there for her.
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really to tell you the truth there is nothing that you can really do for it my mom is the same way she has finally realized that it isn't the way to go and is now trying to get most of her medications and get back on her feet get in school etc. but what you have to realize is that this isn't really your fault but I really don't know much about you or her so i can say much about it with what i have to go by but i can say that you might have to have her talk to a councilor or someone like so that could possible help you both get through all of this
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FIRST OF ALL SHE IS FEELING SHE NEEDS SOMEONE TO MAKE OR KEEP HER HAPPY. IT'S AS IF SHE FEELS THAT BABY WOULD HAVE BROUGHT HER HAPPINESS SO THAT SHE COULD FEEL HAPPINESS. SHE HAS TO FEEL CONFIDENT OF HER SELF FIRST THEN MAYBE SHE WOULDN'T FEEL LIKE SHE DOES. SHE LET PEOPLE BRING HER SELF ESTEEM DOWN TO THE POINT WHERE SHE'S NOT HAPPY WITH HERSELF WITHOUT HAVING SOMEONE TO LOVE HER. TELL HER TO BUILD UP SELF ESTEEM GO OUT TO LIKE SUPPORT GROUPS, AND SEE A PHYSICIATRIST ALSO START TALKING ABOUT HER ISSUES. SHE WILL THEN MEET PEOPLE WHO HAVE BEEN IN HER PREDICTAMENT, AND SHE WON'T FEEL ALONE. SHE NEEDS TO TALK ABOUT HER PAIN AND HOW'S SHE HURTING, BECAUSE KEEPING IT IN WILL ONLY DEPRIVE HER OF HAPPINESS IN A LONG RUN. THEN HAVING A BOYFRIEND WHO IS GIVING NO SUPPORT IS NOT MAKING IT NO BETTER ONLY TO BREAK HER DOWN MORE THAN SHE'S ALREADY BREAKING DOWN NOW. SHE NEEDS TO GET AWAY FROM ALL THAT AND START A NEW CHANGE. THAT BABY MEANT THE WORLD TO HER TO WHERE SHE FEELS LOST NOW BUT GOD DO THINGS FOR REASONS, AND MAYBE THAT MEANT TO GET HER LIFE STRAIGHT FIRST BEFORE BRINGING A CHILD INTO THE WORLD. SHE ALSO LOST A FRIEND AND THAT HURTS ALSO TO THE POINT WHERE SHE FEEL SHE HAS NOTHING, AND I KNOW HOW THAT FEEL CAUSE I LOST A FATHER,GRANDMA, AND A CHILD OF MY OWN WHEN I WAS 4MTHS. I ALSO FELT I HAD NOTHING, BUT I STARTED SEEING A PHYSICIATRIST AND GROUPS AND NOW I'M BETTER. I THINK ABOUT THEM EVERYDAY BUT ONLY TO KNOW THEY ARE WATCHING OVER ME, JUST AS HER FRIEND AND CHILD IS WATCHING OVER HER. TELL HER ALSO SHE NEEDS GOD IN HER LIFE TO PRAY TO HIM ALSO AND WITH HIM SHE CAN NEVER GO WRONG. SO GOD BLESS HER AND GOOD LUCK!!!
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She loves the power she has over you.  \nShe may also be going through some very difficult emotions right now and she dosn't know what she wants.  Give her what she needs, you'll not only help her out  but you'll also feel better about yourself.  Just don't get your feeling envolved.  \nGood Luck.