like if your trying to get to know someone, and u really like them...but ur afirad to say your have a child..and its been maybe 2 months and u still havent told them...they are going to find out one way or another.....how do u tell them with out getting dissed? or looking like a liarr.
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If you really like this person just tell them because you will need to find someone who wants to be with you and you child. The one who can do this is the one you should hold one too. If they ask why you have not told them tell them that you wanted to make sure that they were ready to hear it before you made a commitment to them.
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Or when, don't you mean? How do you know what you look like to others? \n\nIn the eyes of the person who will matter most to you, you are already lovely, and you will only improve with maturity, like a good wine... \n\nYou know what? If you have children with them, you will always be the one they look at first, even if you have horrible scars all over you! \n\nLook, I have two stunningly beautiful friends - one is very happily married with no less than three children, and her husband spent four years in college getting up the courage to ask her out between b/fs. She had a lot of trouble with guys from when she was 15 to 23, when she finally met her husband-to-be. So did I! - they were all pompous brats who cried on my shoulder that if only they had enough money she would date them again. They were obsessed with the way she looked, and dropped out of the 'race' as soon as a 'better man' - richer, more confident, older, came along - they were also pests whom she couldn't relax with. One of them was her uncle, how horrible is that?! Their own cowardice & shallow ideas defeated them. Her husband was the only guy brave & humble enough to put up with this & hope that she would be free when his job brought him back to the city. We were friends, all three of us, because she was so funny & terrific company, when she was relaxed, before her crowd of silly fans closed in and she just went silent for the rest of the night.  \n\nMy other friend is also really beautiful and is single - and guess what - her parents told her she would never marry because she was so plain. She's happy with her life & career & has her own house, but also has a lot of weird guys hitting on her & getting really moody because she doesn't want to go steady with them. She says that she reckons she can't rely on any date to mean what he says. \n\nIt would be nice to have the choice - to think that anyone you see will be brave enough to ask you out; especially when they ask out loud enough to hear what they are asking you! \n\nIt's really hard to have to say no thanks, and must be harder to have to keep saying it to guys who seem really eager to date you. Worse to have to back off and break up with someone, after seeing them for a few dates, when they rely on you to tell everyone that you are happy to be seen with them. Especially if most of their hurt is pride, and they don't even hear how insulting that is.  \n\nBoth my friends know they were popular, felt they were too popular, hated all the attention, were embarrassed by the over-exposure and the way everyone hassled them. They tried to be nice to everyone, hated having to be firm with too many eager people, never enjoyed the fame of it. \n\nThey never knew they were beautiful. They thought they were OK-looking, and wished every total stranger would stop watching everything little gesture they made, so damn closely. They felt like a spy, a fugitive. In the eyes of the people who only saw their skin or eyes or lips or figure, they were gorgeous. The person being stared at felt always that they had done something Wrong, to be so watched. \n\nGrowing up, it was for them like the word went around that they had won the lottery. It wasn't any fun for them, and it was a frantic, feverish competition for the guys who wanted to be seen with them. They are really genuine friends, and have been for about ten years, and can see through any falseness as an added quality - I so value their opinions! They have a brilliant sense of humour and are not bitter about life, and are really decent people. \n\nGod, I do feel for you, it would be nice to feel special to someone other than your parents or their friends! If you like someone who is beautiful, they are probably shy for a reason, afraid of attracting attention, and might like to be asked out, believe it or not. \n\nHonestly, now, I would hate to have been beautiful in my teens. I know that now if I have a huge spot on my nose, I
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Well first do you think he will be highly upset and uncontrollable if he found out? If so, you might tell him in a public place, like a parking lot of a walmart or restaurant. Etc.. Another approach is ask him how he would feel about the two of you having children. And then ask how about if it was soon. He will start to catch on. Also let him know that this is possible and that you are'nt sure yet.
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I know its hard to blunt but sometimes its the best. I myself have a hard time speaking up because im always worried about the other person. Be firm and put your foot down becuase if you arnt and you just laugh and giggle he will take it as an open door. Write him a letter being very firm if its hard or something if its hard to say it to him directly. He may seem sweet to you but the fact that he doesnt get the hint when you are carrying SOMEONELS' child doesnt seem like hes a very respectful guy.
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you never finish gettin to know a person...there are plenty of things to talk about. i for example like to talk about mine/their childhood, its always a good piece of conversation bc you get to know the person as a child if you didn't know them as a child. its a good inside into their personality, family and friends...trust me it works!
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Why can't you tell your Mom? Where are you getting teased at? I would walk away and I would seriously think about telling someone who you can trust that will help you.
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You could do like everyone else and have them log on here.  We'll tell them for you.\n\nBut if you insist on doing it yourself, I suggest you wait until they start asking questions like "Where do babies come from?" and "Why does my little sister have a vagina and I have a penis?"  \n\nYou should handle them individually and not at the same time because they are not the same age or gender and can't process the information identically.\n\nAnswer all questions honestly and leave the stork to parents that lie to their kids.  And whatever you do, don't villianize sex, but simply say that there is a time and a place for everything.\n\nNOTE: Your goal is to make them as comfortable as possible when discussing sex with you.  Don't overload them, and never scold them for stuff that is only natural.  If you do, you can be assured of being left out of the loop when it comes time to discussing whether or not to have sex with their BF or GF.
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The first thing is settle for friendship when he does get here. People can be pretty decieving when you meet them in real life. Secondly, you heard he had a gf but it may not be true. Just casually try to find out if he does or not. Having a new father figure in a kid's life can be hard, but he's still at a young age. Just make him get to know the person first, it's always easier that way. Like if you guys go to the park or out for a dinner together. Plus, it's also a nice way to find out how he treats your kid. just take it a day at a time. good luck:)
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Time will come until he/she realize that you really care for him/her. Like being respectable and honest. Show that he/she's really impotant and meaningful to your life.
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Just be honest with them.  Don't beat around the bush and try to stall.  Just tell them out right.  He/she might be caught off guard or shocked, but you will feel so much better in the long run.
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if you like this person but you don't know if they like you......you should try talking to that person and eventually asking that person......i mean you don't have to come right out and say but you know in so many words inquire........but you shouldn't waste time wondering because while your wondering someone else is gonna get the person you want when the person probably liked you all along.........
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Tell him.  That is the best way.  If you are nice and don't tell him, it could be misinterpreted that you like them and are shy.
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get a grip and forget about what they will/do say about ur thing... who the f cares... it's big enough to make babies
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I don't really think you have to tell them who you like if you're not comfortable with it. Your parents might like the insight into your life and feel that you are more mature if you do tell them, (especially your mom) but it's really not necessary. Definitely tell them if you get a boyfriend though. Trust me, parents don't appreciate not knowing who their daughter is going out with.
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Well, if you're gonna tell them, there's no way not to be obvious.  Just tell 'em, no point in being embarrassed...so what, you like them.  If you tell them you'll most likely know how they feel too. If they don't like you, then you can focus on moving on.  But if they like you too, then bingo, things could work out.\nNo matter what you do, stop thinking about embarrassment...think about the person.  \nTry to get them in person in a comfortable place (like after school, at the mall, outside, coffee shop)  or give 'em a cute note asking to hang out sometime (give it to them, not their buddy who could read it first...that way you don't have to put ur name on it either which could save any possible embarrassment if he turns out to be a jerk.  Good luck!
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Let your parent meet the person and wait a day or two and asked them if they like them or not! About married don't jump into married unless u r sure u r ready for it.
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wow i'm in a very similar situation right now and its tough.  if you are having a conversation with him, try to touch his arm as your making a point.  it also wouldnt be a bad idea to simply say "you're really cute".  its better to let them know that you like them than to never try at all.  good luck, e-mail me if you have any more questions