Why most of Indian girls don't accept about pre maritial sex relationship? If they are asked by any boyfirnd why they deny? Actually they like it or they just control themselves? or they think about culture and moral values?
133218
you got it. Its a cultural thing. Its a sin to indulge in pre marital sex. for 18 or more years they are told its wrong to have sex before marriage. You cannot convince them over a few months to change such an instilled value. Unless they agree on their own. And don't you dare go on forcing yourself on them because its not your right to do so.
316362
From working for an Indian couple....I have found out that most marriages in India are arranged from the time the couple are babies!  The couple I worked for, she was 2, he was 5 when they were betrothed by their parents.  So I'm thinking that finding true love and marrying your true love is something rare...and that might be why they are portrayed as such in so many movies there.\n\nI do know the lady of the couple told me she would "pick" 3 men for her daughter to have a choice to marry...not as bad as being betrothed to only one...but still, just 3?
297431
I don't think it a matter of Indian woman liking fair of white men. It's most likely that they (Indian woman) just looking for a relationship that will suit there family's wishes and also give a sense of independence. Due to arrange marriage's and so forth it seems like the fair or white guy is gonna be a bit more successful in his dealings and presents somewhat a comfort zone for Hopefully the Indian woman if not, then her family. Don't want to step on toes. This is just my thought which could uses some expansion upon this topic
564072
why do so many h/s girls  have sex\n\n\njust wait and give it time eventually the right one will come
559721
Most cultures have taboos regarding premarital sex.  Some have evolved from religious beliefs while others are merely a traditional more.  I think it is important for an individual to decide what role sex will play in their whole being.  If sex is just a rhythmic release of raging hormones and something to experience for pleasure then pre or post marital doesn't matter.  If however, a person views sex as the ultimate culmination of an evolving relationship between two people, then it takes on a more mysterious, almost religious aura...that special sex that binds a covenant between lovers should be reserved for marriage. Regardless of the level that sex plays in your life, it is imperative that you practice safe sex...not just to avoid an unwanted pregnancy, but rather to protect yourself from sexually transmitted diseases like HIV-AIDS, hepatitis, chlamydia, syphilis, gonorrhea , and herpes.
601936
I'm an older girl.....34....but am VERY curious about how teens deal with being gay/lesbian. I didn't come out until 2 yrs ago and didn't have to go through all the hard stuff as a kid/teen. How do you handle the dating scene? I can't imagine it. I'd have been scared to death to ask someone out for fear they'd 1) reject me and then 2) cause me no end of hell in school for it. Would love to know your thoughts on this! Send me a message if you'd like to share!     :- )
29368
"believe in" is a strange way to put it. It isn't Santa Claus or the Tooth Fairy.  It is a choice. Some people choose not to because of thier religion, others don't.  Whatever works for you. Some people are OK with it, and others can't handle it.  But once you reach a certian age, it is normal and accepted that you will have premarital sex - sexual compatibility is as important as any and every other type of compatibility in a marriage.  It is probably best if teens don't have premarital sex, but they for the most part will. But after age 18 or so, the 'dangers' become less - and people need to grow up sometime. It is bible versus reality.
673900
your all jerks! Women aint sluts u little fucker. Great? Takes loads more then talking for obne. Do you listen? Cuz u bastards tend to NOT listen. It takes time, money, romance, flowers. I dislike sluts very much so. No sex BEFORE any of that. No sex before marriage either! I sure hope they have respect for themselves.
452085
The prevailing culture is hard on both men and women, in different ways.  Sexual intimacy before marriage can cloud and compromise judgment.  It releases oxytocin, a bonding hormone, in women, and they form an emotional attachment to a man who may not be the guy they truly seek for a lasting relationship.  I think many women offer sex because they're afraid they won't have dates if they don't.\nSince sex is so freely available, most men take what is offered indiscriminately, and then find themselves with women who are emotionally attached to them when they may not return the feeling.  These Yahoo questions are filled to the brim with that scenario.\n  It's a recipe for a big, messy disaster and for one failed relationship after another, so that both men and women become sad and shopworn.\n    Kudoes to you!  There are plenty of women (everywhere, not just in church!) who would consider you to be a real jewel.
483846
b/c they think their cool.......but at the same time theres all those desis living in india forgetting their own culture so can you really blame them?\n\nI'm way more cultured (raised in American since the age of 9 and now 22) than the kids raised in india their whole life.  I go to the temple every sunday, respect my parents, will have an arrange marriage, live with my husband's family, no partying, no drinking, no smoking, i love cooking..............like seriously, is it soo hard???? So I guess the question should now be, why are the kids being raised in india more "westernized" than the kids that actually grow up in a westernized world.
298387
People don't understand the context of difrent nations and stuff. For the most part people in the US and other contrues with similar laws are fully prepared for life and aware of all the problems that can come with sexual activity and the fact there can be compilcations with pegancies that young... so it's iligal for anyone to have sex with some one under 18 now if your over 18.\n\nIt's felt they are taking advantage of the persons nivity.\n\nHowever other contries, and even the US up untill about 100 years or so ago. It was exspected for people to be prepared for life and know thise kinda things MUCH younger and they where exspected to start there life sooner too. So boys where/are exspected to start looking for a wife as early as 11~15 and marry as soon as posable.\n\n\n\nI agree that taking advanage of younger teens and what not is wrong. But people tend to forget in the past and in other countries kids aren't as nivie at that age.
323411
Well I am virgin. I do not know if I will wait until I get married but in most of muslam countries almost all girls wait until they get married. But I haven't heard a guy doing this. I would not like to marry a virgin guy but maybe some girls will find this cute.
94509
There are a lot of things going on here, I think.\n\nFirst off is the Judeo-Christian belief that sex (especially premarital sex) is somehow evil and corrupting(though this belief is certainly shared with other religions). There are no reasons to believe this other than religious ones. Yet, we, as a culture (Western culture) are so ashamed of sex that we've become ashamed of ourselves and do terrible things to avoid having sexual desires.\n\nSecondly, there's a belief that teaching teenagers about sex will cause them to go crazy and start humping like mad. Of course, they already are, but never mind that. It's kind of the ostrich and the sand syndrome. What people don't realize is that teaching about sex, reinforcing the positive aspects while teaching about safety, is utterly necessary. Abstinence only works on paper. And I also think that abstinence just makes one more loathesome of one's own body and natural physical desires. I mean, if we didn't have physical desires and act on them, how would our species continue?
627303
It's a good thing, and not just for how your future husband may or may not feel about it. The fact that you also recognize the dignity aspect speaks well for you. There is also a trend in SOME females to become more cynical about sex when they have given their virginity too early. Instead of being able to enjoy and fully realize the true emotions of making love, for many it's just sex. Which is much the same as a banana split JUST being ice cream. There is so much more to making love than just sex... sad that for many those bonds aren't there..... Good luck!!
288261
Girls are smarter at the outset but that is their nature in the long run they are normally incorrect if she has no gender complications.  Guys do not like telling half truths besides girls still hate rejection as this society still treats them the same as yesterday.
270970
There's a lot more issues than whether you're "ready" and how long you can wait.  Contrary to stereotype, not every male is instantly ready for sex at every opportunity.  If you can't grasp this then you're not emotionally ready for sex, or even a serious relationship.  If you as a couple can't discuss this issue openly then the two of you aren't ready for sex.
345667
Sex and life - too complicated. I am now running out of answers.  Can we ever stand on judgement? Many of us have cheated, in our minds at least, some carry it through  a bit more. You know what, let it be. Que sara sara, it is not your conscience, it is hers.  Things happen and life is so weird