I need surveys or statistics that prove that spending time with your children decreases the chances of violence?
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internet.  and child and parental psychology books and guides.
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there's more than 4 models, i don't get your question quite clear but let me see if I can help, I believe communication is the main key in any relationship, you need to communicate your kids about your believes and thoughts, rules to follow and role your kids play in the house and society, discipline; your kids need to know who's the boss at home and they need to know to respect adults at your house and why not mention on the street as well, love; we all need to feel love and tough love is another way to love as well,persistence; they need to learn that they can achieve anything they want by being persistent and you need to be the best example for them...good luck and I hope you get something from this
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whether or not children without fathers or more likely to have behavioral problems \n\nteen mothers \n public or private schools better education \ngov issues\nhuman traficking\ndrugs and vilence in schools (why?) are parents to blame?? tv?? peers??
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Parents usually.  Children learn from what they see and hear.  If they see this from their parents they are going to think that is normal, that every familt does it.  Also, if you are abused yourself it can be a repeating pattern as you grow older, not realizing that for most people violence is unaccptable.\n\nAlthough, TV does come in a close second.  It desencesisize them and often doesn't show consiquences to those action.
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I did a research paper recently and on a website for adult males who were sexually abused as children and some abnormal psych site they cited this group was more likely to become homophobic or unable to maintain long term successful intimate relationships due to substance abuse and self hatred issues
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No. Xbox and Playstations are not substitutes for spending time with your kids, nor are they virtual nannies. Instead, treat them as tools that would enable you to enjoy an activity together and buy games that you and your kids would have fun with playing competitively or cooperatively. Don't just hand it out on christmas and ignore them the rest of the year. There should be no reason sex offenders should even concern you if you exercise parental responsibility with regards to these consoles.
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It won't affect behavior in any negative way, but you have to realize that "violence" is actually the survival instincts that human beings have had for 300,000 years or more. People try to suppress it, and all it does is lead to more crimes and murders.\n\nViolent movies are pretty dumb. Like, the Chlid's Play series... I watched that growing up, and slept in the middle of the movie, and you know how I turned out? 6'7'' tall freakin teddy bear, that's what I am.
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I've often wondered that myself. Certain people believe in never hitting their kids & some people believe in doing whatever is necessary to get their kids to act right. Depends on your personal views.
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The media have arguably become the leading sex educator in America today. That's not good news, considering the fact that more than 75% of primetime shows contain sexual content but only 11% discuss the risks of sex.3 How significant is the influence of media on teens' sexual attitudes and behaviors? For 50 years researchers have explored the connection between media violence and real-life aggression in children and adolescents.4 More than 1000 studies show a connection.5 In fact, according to one leading researcher, "the controversy is over"6; now, we have a second major study showing a strong connection between sexual content in all media and onset of sexual activity among teens.7 Is there much doubt that research on the impact of sex in the media is going to parallel the media-violence research? The media represent a powerful teacher of children and adolescents.8 As such, the media cut across virtually every concern that parents and pediatricians have about young people: sex, violence, homicide, suicide, obesity, eating disorders, school problems, and drug use.
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I believe that some one (well, specifically a newspaper journalist) has done some checking and found (from court records, one assumes) that child murder has stayed more or less constant (and very low) over the past 50 years or so. That statistic implies that children are as safe now as ever they were, but the public  _perception_,  due to a few high profile cases, and publicised heavily by the media,   is that every child is in danger from every adult male - which is a gross insult to 99.9 percent of men.  Such a view has resulted in a lost and bewildered child in a shopping mall being ignored by males in case they are accused of molestation; in fewer men going in for primary school teaching (hence male role models are reduced); and a fall off in men and (women for that matter)  taking leadership positions in youth organisations, from cadets to scouts, guides etc., for fear of being accused of misconduct.\nIt comes to something when an adult of the 'tribe' can not comfort a small member of the tribe who has, for example,  fallen over, or is  in distress for some reason.  I recall as small boy walking into a bus stop post,  badly cutting my head.  A man came over to help, put his handkerchief on my bleeding scalp, held my hand and walked me home.  My mother was so grateful that some one had cared enough to help her son.  Today, that man no doubt would have left me alone  in case he was viewed as a paedophile.   What a sorry state our society has entered.
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THANK YOU THANK YOU THANK YOU. Let's treat the disease and not the symptoms for ONCE! Our society is composed of adults who are the product, more or less, of how they were raised. Proper parenting is the only way to create a lasting change in the society that will, in 20 years, be largely composed of the children of today. It goes further than abuse, though. It goes into teaching them accountability, responsibility, work ethic, independence, forming healthy relationships, financial responsibility... the list goes on. Thank you for bringing this up!
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I can pretty much count on one hand the number of times I was spanked as a child.  Most forms of discipline worked on me.  I was a great kid.  :P  I think today's parenting styles veer more towards being the child's friend than being the child's parent.  You can be both, but you can't forget that you're the parent.  With this responsibility comes the occasional need to discipline.  I think that if spanking is used as a last resort, it's fine.  If used too much, it, like any form of discipline, becomes ineffective.  I think the trick lies more in the consistency of punishment (and preventative measures) than it does the actual form...But then again, I don't have any kids, so what do I know?
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pros:  Your kids are free to learn based on their own pace, and delve deeper into thier own interests.  \n\nCons:  Your kids learn from you, so if you have bad habits they will have them too.  Evaluate your self before you start...\n\nand create a good group of friends with kids aged 2-3 years younger and older than your kids.
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Try serotonin and testosterone, the links to violence.\n\nThis is amazing.
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May try here; http://www.prevention.com/category/0,5775,s1-2-69-0-0-0,00.html   If your pop-up blocker not on you get two, a survey and a subscription form, just close them on the x top right. In school we did the Roll the head around, bend over and touch opposite toes, and jumping jacks, they good for something fast and get the circulation going. May try some Music in a Boombox the kids like not you!!! ;-D
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http://www.theantidrug.com/advice/parenting-drug-knowledge-quiz.asp?id=banner
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I agree that, at school, children are not held to a standard of morality or a set of rules in harmony with morality.  They therefore find themselves confused concerning the proper behavior at school.  This is one of many government failures in the public "education" system.  Additionally, their methods for enforcing their "rules" are quite ineffective.  You are quite right on all these accounts.\n\nBased on personal experience, I disagree that violence and fear of the same is healthy for children or for their discipline, though force has a place when used against the same.  There exists only one rational response to violence, and that it violence.  In the words of Ayn Rand, the threat of violence inherently removes morality from the discussion.\n\nViolence creates serious pschological stress (leading to diseases and disorders of the mind), and it looses efficacy as the children grow up.  As children get bigger, they realize that they can resist violence with violence much more effectively, and they tend to want to perpetuate violence to others when their will is violated (as has been done to them).\n\nMy own experience with my two little girls reveals that children want to obey their authority figures without threat of violence when such brings them security, sovereignty (in which they have proven themselves), order, consistency, and rationality (predictability).  I can count the number of times that I have used violence (a gentle, firm "spanking") against my daughters, over the course of both of their lives, on one hand with fingers to spare.  Freedom and sovereignty (even privileges) are all much more effective tools for disciplining children.\n\nBTW, every child I have ever known was a mirror image of their parents.  You can learn more about a person by observing their children for a few moments than by being the parent's friend for a month.  Additionally, every out-of-control child I have seen had a dysfunctional family (either single parent or soon to be single parent, or out-of-wedlock birth).\n\nYes, government is causing disciplinary problems, but no, the root is not in the preclusion of violence.