Its been almost a month since we broke up.He's 19 & im 21.We had petty arguments because hes a VERY Jealous guy.He doesn't trust me when im away from him.I never gave him any reasons not to.Maybe its because he had trust issues in another relationship before me.He thinks it involves guys every time I go out with my girlfriends.I also live alone & when hes not @ my house,he worries.I am a popular girl,so when we go out 2gether & guys speak 2 me, he gets upset.We broke up before,then he saw me out & there was a guy talkin 2 me.He got jealous & asked me 2 leave the club with him,so I did because I still have feeligs 4 him & im willing 2 do anything 4 him that'll make him feel better.We had sex,& didnt wanna let each other go the next day.But he still have that jealous feeling to the point where he acts out of rage.He gets inferiated when a guy talks 2 me.He thinks hes being unfair 2 me so he called it off but he doesnt want me 2 waste my time waiting,not knowing if he'll ever change.Why?
128217
A lasting relationship is built on a foundation of trust, communication, friendship and love.  If just one of those four begins to crumble, the relationship will not last.  Just like a house; if the foundation falls apart, so will the building.  His jealousy indicates that he does not trust you.  If he wants to change, then he will make the effort to do so.  In saying that he doesn't know if he ever will, he's choosing not to.  He's making the decision to stay the way he is.  Don't spend your life waiting around for someone who acts like that.  You deserve better.
423659
Sounds like the bf has some real issues.  He really did you wrong.  If he is serious about getting back together with you, he needs to prove himself.   I'd take anything REALLY slow.  Keep your eyes open, see if you can trust him again.
59163
For goodness sakes! Is he ashamed of being with you or does he not want people to think you are an item? He sounds like a guy I used to like in high school and in the first year of college. We only went to church together. And when we went out, it was after dark. He didn't want it to get back to his dad that we were seen together. \nYou might want to ask him why. But if his behavior does not improve, just leave him and his issues alone.
394216
He sounds like a very controlling guy the next time he does this don't contact him in any way he wants control and you are giving it to him every time there are so many better guys out there you don't need a guy who constantly makes you feel bad about yourself. Get rid of him he does not deserve you.
548334
As hard as it is, you have to avoid getting jealous.  He's dating YOU not her.  He broke up with her and chose to date YOU.  If he really wanted to be with her, he could break up with you.  At the same time, it's probably not a bad idea to tell him that you're a little comfortable that they're still so close.  If he respects you, he'll understand and try to make you feel better.  Good luck!
71691
Well you would have to ask yourself why you broke up with him in the first place. Did you only break up with him because he moved away, and then he came back and you got back together? Or was it something that you didn’t like and couldn’t resolve? Is he the type of guy that you want to be with and is he worth the trouble. If he is, then good. Here’s what you do to resolve this issue. You tell him that you want him to do something about this other guy harassing you. Men are really easy to figure out. We're problem solvers. You just telling him about this other guy may not move him into action until you tell him it's a problem. With guys you have to be specific with what you want from us. We see a problem, we try to fix it. If we don't see a problem, we probably won't act on the situation unless we're told to do so. If you tell your boyfriend that this is a problem and you want him to do something about it, I guarantee you he will. Especially if he really cares for you.
580025
For once on here I am going to be serious. Internet stories of jobs are hardly believable, but I am more than qualified to answer this question. I was in a chat for Psychological Disorders, when the messenger went kerplunk now I am here trying to get help on what is wrong, just having some fun with most of these, but I will be serious on this one.\n\nFirst thing, was there jealousy in the relationship that you and him had? If he was a jealous type, he is probably insecure and did this to see if you still cared for him.\n\nSecond thing, depends on how long you were together. I still have feelings for women I dated 5 years ago. Surely doesn't mean that I want them.  \n\nThird thing, Since I know nothing about you, age, length of relationship, etc... I would recommend a full split between the two of you, no friends, phone or IM buddies, you know the old saying about letting something go, if it's meant to be then he will come back.\n\nFourth thing, busting out my Oprah stick, "You are letting him have his cake and eat it too, of course he is going to be nice to you"\n\nLast thing, back to serious, when you break up with someone, never hold on, it could cause you to miss something or someone special that you didn't notice because you are still holding onto the past. Two things I have learned in life, life isn't stopping for you, so don't stop for someone else and there is a reason they are an ex. Hope this helps.
612997
Okay first of all since the break up nothing has changed so I'm assuming that you all are still intimate with one another and you're still arguing like lovers do.  The only thing that's bothering you right now is that you don't have that "TITLE" anymore as lovers which means that he can do what he wants and so can you.  So basically this dude is getting his cake and eating it too served on a silver platter with a platinum fork.  Do not allow him to question your where abouts every time especially if he's doing it in a "boyfriend" way.  I mean at this point he's looking at the situation and saying to himself " Why get back together when breaking up with her is just the same plus I get to mess around and not be faulted for it" Does it makes sense to you now!!! Lay down some rules and set boundaries within your relationship as friends and I guarantee you he'll miss that feeling as being your boyfriend and coming running back, it never fells.
103271
You missed your chance with him and now you are out of luck.  He has moved on and made his choice so let him go and find a single guy to chase after.  If he is doing it to just make you jealous then don't play his games because you deserve to be treated better.
664897
He sounds immature.  Ask yourself if you  are better off with him or without him.  Sounds to me like without would be the way to go.\n\nI just ended a 7 year relationship - so don't feel alone in this.  I feel sad at times but am getting my life back together without his head games and am feeling at peace\n\nGood luck
612652
Thank goodness you only wasted 5 months with this loser. you've found out that you don't want this one so get ready for your destiny. Get fit and healthy, go the gym, get your hair done, spend time with the girls and have a laugh. you are now free to find someone really great and only your ego got a bit bashed. it's ok you'll get over it. he obviously has so why let him have anymore of your headspace? He was seeing others when he was with you most likely. don't go to bed with someone until after 6 months and it won't happen like this again. if they won't wait you don't date!
235358
It sounds like he may be trying to push you away in the hopes that *you* break up with *him.*  He may be too chicken to do it himself.  The problem is, is that it's affecting your self-esteem.  You don't deserve to be treated that way- being used is no fun, so don't allow it!  Think about where you see yourself in 5 years.... still in the same place???.... .don't waste any time.  Believe me, there are guys who will treat you right.  We teach people how to treat us- don't allow it anymore!!
639941
First of all, you can do better. Secondly, he is a jerk. From the way he does it, it seems like he is putting you as a 'back-up girlfriend'. For all you know, he could have gone out to see other girls and probably get intimate with them. He was 'tempted by other people', you say? Bull. Don't let his mistake be yours. He left you for that period of time because he was afraid that your love wasn't 'good enough'. Well, if I were you, I'd dump him for good even though I love him so much. I'm sorry miss, but you can do better than a person who puts his priority as an option.
77220
I have a sexy boyfriend of 4 years.  It's like ALL chics go for him.  The reason why he went for and kept with me I think is b/c I'm not the jealous type (guys like to have a 'pawn' to play against their mates when it comes to bargaining the relationship if anything goes wrong, and jealousy can get dangerous and irritable, causing a rift).  He LIKES that I'm easy-going and not jealous, so that gives me extra confidence points he can appreciate.  If I were to act out of jealousy, it may just wear my mystery out instead of confirm my love for him.  If we get into stupid fights, I act as if I don't care if he thinks he can just go out with somebody else (he threatens to at worst, but then he chooses not to on his own)!  My point is, ACT INDEPENDENT, so that he has something to respect you for.  DON'T be at his beck-and-call so that he thinks "oh, I can just have her anytime I want; that chic is always available to me".
232940
It sounds like he has another girl. If he is your EX-Boyfriend, I wouldn't even waste my time with him. There are lots of other guys out there, who would treat you right. If you really can't live without him, then when you see him, ask him in all honesty what is going on. Tell him to be up front & honest with you, you deserve it. Long distance realtionships are very hard. But all in all I would dump him, & take a break from guys. The right one will come along, just give it time.
54079
Sounds like he's on the verge of cheating to me.  If all you did was ask him a question, and he got pissed, he's feeling the pressure.  This doesn't sound normal to me, I think you should ditch him.  If he really cared about you, he wouldn't get angry and insult you when you ask him questions.  AND he wouldn't be meeting other guys behind your back.  I think you should confront him and if he doesn't beg for forgiveness, it's not worth it.  Don't worry, you'll find the one that is.
565543
he know's he did the wrong thing by dumping you. he's probably trying to act like he is in control. and it's obvious he still likes you but won't admit it coz he's a guy and wants to act like a 'man' and 'tough' n all. all i know he wasn't thinking when he dumped you and did something very stupid. \non the other hand he is also jealous when you talk to other guys or other new guys take an interest in you.\n\nb happy ur free n single coz he lost you now ;)