It’s a long story but here it is. We’ll call them john and Jane. and I'm the man in the middle that they both talk too. I met Jane before I met John his is supposedly my best friend. Jane doesn’t want to do anything with John, because their relationship didn’t work out. but John has it in his head that she still wants him. But he is mad because I LIKED her four months after they had broke up.(they only went out for a month). But that didn’t work out with me liking her, but Jane and I still stayed best friends. But John still has is in his head that I’m backstabbing him cause I hang out with a girl I met before him. and supposedly I'm his best friend even though I caused all him emotional brake downs this year. John always gets butt hurt if I don't call him everyday or hang out with him. Its now been a year and a half sence they broke up and he still hangs on her like they have a chance.
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Jane needs to tell John that she isn't interested and it won't work out.  Girls tend not to be straightfoward because they don't want to hurt guys feelings.  If needed, she needs to be blunt.  May hurt John at first but it's the best way for him to get over it.\n\nYou need to be blunt with him and re-assure him your his friend but you want put up with his low self esteem.  Basically, tell him to be a man and grow up.  In reality,  he won't get over her until he finds another girl.  Jane can help by making it absolutely clear that he isn't in her future.
313546
My cousin is like a best friend to me, & my "ex-girlfriend", who I've known for yrs., is still a good friend of mine & since they have alot in common with each other, I've hooked them up & he's been taking her out-(but they consider each other as "friends")-maybe he's afraid I'll be "hurt" seeing him with her but it doesn't bug me at all. -So you decide on dating his best friend,maybe it won't hurt him, Does he know about this? if not, mention it to him.
247443
Helll Yeah girl, I went through that before and look if he is a true friend then he would not put a fu** before a friend. You will still be there when their relationship goes bad and it will cuz she sounds like a biatch! Beat that ho down!
602026
Unfortunately for the two best friends that girl can not be forced into liking either one of them if she doesn't, you're gonna have to let them move on. As for helping the girl hook up with the other guy, if you dont have a problem helping her than go for it.....i hope everything works out
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If he isn't into his girl, then that sure says a lot about him. I wouldn't worry about hurting your friend's feelings, just tell her. She will be hurt more once she finds out the truth about what a jerk he is. You said you are interested in him? Why? He knows you're taken and you're happy with the one you are with. I would stay where you are and forget about this other guy if I were you.
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alright hun obviously there is something going on within your present relationship that has you wanting this other man. But even if there is a man's best friend is a subject YOU BETTER BE PREPARED TO TACKLE IF YOU PERSUE. Because like the saying goes, girlfriends and boyfriends come and go, but a best friend last forever. They've known each other longer than you and trust me from experience they will turn on you. I lost a good man at that time because i persued his best friend. Hun, unless you can deal with the consequences, back off and let him come to you if he feels the same way. If he doesn't then you have your answer and accept it. But if u feel u need to know go for it, but be prepared for what comes down the road
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Who are you kidding?? do you have any idea what a jerk this guy is????????? First off, he's gonna ditch you for your best friend and when he feels like he's done with her, he comes back to you??? Seriously, why would you ever wanna date someone who once dated your best bud unless if she's ok with it, but still I don't think that's right. Besides, he's playing with both of you and you will be played twice if you don't see what he's doing. Please don't tell him you love him because obviously he doesn't love you and he will hurt you. You can't trust a loser like him, and I hope you're smart enough to make the right decision. There are so many nice guys out there, find one that is serious and ONLY interested in you.
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Well remember, ur friend will always be there for u but guys come and go. If u end up w/him and eventually "u will" break up- odds are. Then what? u don't have him and ur best friend has found another. Let me tell u, I had a very best friend in high sch. and we were inseperable 1 day another friend of mine says;tell her or I will! Sooooo.. my frined say's I F*****-John (my bf) I was heart broken! she almost laughed. She was my best friend!? what the hell? but now he ended up being a loser and she ended up w/3 kids to 3 diff guys and she's w/none. I am married 16 yrs w/2 kids and happy. I know u didn't need to hear my life story but u got it anyway. Chose ur friend! plenty of guys will come along later. Don't b a friend like mine was to me.
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This guy would be mad to even consider getting back together with this girl. She doesn't deserve a second chance. To be honest I don't even know why you want a " friend " like her - you sound like a nice person !!!!!!!!!!!!!! Talk to the guy and give him your opinion - does he really want to go through that kind of sh*t again ?
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Been there with my best friend. She did that to me a few times, but I finally had enough and told her if she didn't find her own men, I was not going to be around her anymore. Its a trust thing: You trusted her with the knowledge that you liked this guy, and she went ahead and screwed around with him....Not Cool!!\n\nHowever, if the guy didn't know you like him, then its not his fault. If he did, he holds half the blame.\n\nI'd do the same thing again with my best friend, I'd let her have it! My best friend decided that she'd rather be my friend than have anyone I liked!!...GL;)
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the guy i am dating now i have been best friends with for 6 years. when we first met we started to flirt nothing serious, then he told me that he wanted to persue this other girl very seriously. so we became really good friends. after four years we were finally both single, he was getting ready to move across the country and he told me how he felt. we've been dating for 2 years now. it is with out a doubt the best relationship i have ever been in. i'm glad we waited, because if not we might not be together right now. if he loves you and you love him. you will end up together. i hope this helps your situation.
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First of all a guy is not worth a friendship!!!\n\nYou should not be in their relationship either that is just going to cause problems, especially since you are friends with both of them.\n\nAlso if you date him she will be mad at you and then if you and him break up he will be mad at you to and then you will not have a best friend. And I honestly dont think you want to risk both of their friend ships just because of the crush you have on him!
78843
Most of the time your best friend knows what's best for you.  If they are a true friend they are only looking out for your best intrests.  I would get rid of the guy.
37559
If it were me, I would tell them both that their friendship is more important to you right now and try to explaine that you might not be ready for a stead relationship at this time. That way you're not having to choose and possibly breaking up what the 3 of you have right now. Sometimes the best things are the hardest to do, because it's almost certain you will lose 1 if not both if you choose.
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well there is no doubt that if she is really messing with this guy, she doesnt deserve your friendship, so 4get about her because she is not being loyal and sincere. but most importantly, forget about the guy! i cant believe he is doing this with your bestfriend when he knows you like him!
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Well if she is your best friend (I'm assuming that is what b.f stands for), and she did that to you, knowing how you felt about him, then she obviously doesn't regard friendship like you do! The joke is on you unfortunately! I would suggests you redefine the quality of what a true friend is and is not! Of course your slowness to be to the point with this guy didn't help. Your friend did what you were hesitant to do and succeeded. You partially have yourself to blame. If this guy is a flirt, it is probably just as well she got him. Flirtation tends to lead to jealously and mistrust. You will see it unfold in front of your eyes, then you can thank your lucky stars that she got stuck with him!
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you didnt do anything wrong, it was good that you were honest about your feelings. he is your best friend, and best friends are suppose to care about each other. you might want to have a talk with him, maybe there is something wrong going on in his life that he hasnt told you. but if he is a bad friend in other ways, you might want to stop hanging out with him so much.