OK. This is a choice question.  If there are two men in your life..one is emotionally closed off but the sex is amazing..the other is romantic and really into you, but the sex is just awful with no hope of getting better. Which do you choose or do you just dump them both and continue the search for the "one" man that has these qualities.
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The right man will be the one you are comforatable being with. Being together is not all about sex. It's about meeting of the minds and eventually being like the other. If both of them discomforts you, then it will be better if you look for the one who will jive with your personality, likes and needs.
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I would go for the second choice, because in the long haul of things this guy probably wouldn't cheat on you or lye to you. The first choice would because all he has is his looks to worry about. He wouldn't be worried about you.
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I'd say calm down!  First, someone is going to get hurt.  That is not the end of the world so try and put that out of your mind.  Second, I think your decision comes down to whether or not you want to settle down.  That is the decision you have to make.  Guy #1 wants to settle down, Guy #2 sounds like he doesn't.  If you're ready to settle down, the choice is pretty clear.  Dating two different people is always messy, and you're going to have to be prepared for some fallout because of it.  However, if you make your decision firmly and honestly, you'll minimize the damage.  Good luck.
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I don't believe the sex of a person is as important if you truly care or are in love with this person. The problem I would have is how long did it take you to find out. I believe in honesty and if there is something that may determine whether you continue seeing that person after the first date, I believe it should be revealed. It is basically up to your heart and if you can overlook and forgive what was withheld from you. Once you forgive someone, the issue should never be brought up again or affect the relationship.
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Why do you have to choose?  Your a single guy who is looking for fun.  Be honest with what you want and if they can't respect that you don't want to be settled down, then why even bother with any of them.  If you are more happy being free then what do you have to loose?
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Oh God...more of those?!! If you don't know how to make up your mind which guy you want and you are seeking advice online, sorry but there's something wrong there...\n\nOh, and if it helps,choose the new guy...of course he deserves a chance the poor guy...oh, bless
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My mate has just been dumped by her boyfriend of 6 years - cos he said he needs time to himself. Imagine how she feels - you were only with this guy 8 weeks.\n\nJust think people need to put their problems into perspective a little bit. I know you must be feeling cr*p right now -but its not like you dedicated half your life to this guy. And if he wants you to change your opinion on something as big as sex then really he's not the one for you anyway.\n\nps - most men are weird. \n\npps - i was very prudish when it come to sex - but my mind has been opened ...... opened in the very best possible way
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HELL NO, Do you want another guy touching your lady? I wouldn't. What the hell is up with people these days over the 3 sums? I like it with me and my partner and NOONE else. But that is up to you. You have to live with the fact that your g/f wants to be with another man. What if she like it or him? Will you be willing to have another? I dont
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I'm confused.. When you say you were speaking to other men.. is that all then? I don't see anything wrong w/that. You say tho 'he stayed w/me' and I don't know why he wouldn't (if it was just conversation.) You say he had a secret relationship.. was it sexual? You two both sound kind of jealous/possessive.. I mean I am basing this on the assumption there was nothing sexual involved in any of this. (If there was, that's a different story..) Let me see here.. He treats you like crap.. I take it that's the real issue on hand here.. I think men are kind of like babies (I'm married to one.. lucky me..) or they want their cake/ to eat it too.. they want us to cook and clean (and spread 'em) but on the other hand they want their 'freedom' to screw around on us at the same time. (We can't do anything along the same line tho..) that sux, right? He stayed because he's been with you and while the other gal's 'something new/exciting & different' you're the one he's 'used to living with' I am thinking. (Hell, this is depressing me!!) Hey, I DO think you've got value/self worth, dont' get me wrong! I'm just kinda bitter about men is all.. It sounds like my marriage of l4 years (boring.. I'm bored..) My ole man's an asshole (cuts me down) and then developed (or so he claims) e.d. so he tries to do the oral thing (doing me 'one big goddamned favor') on me for sex (but it's wearing thin or gettin' old I mean.. fast..) I want to dump him too.. (I think you want to dump THIS guy..) do it!! that's my 'valuable' advice for ya
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I wonder how many people have been in your position and let it go, always wondering if it was the right thing to do? I say GO FOR IT!! What the hell do you have to lose? If it doesn't work or he's spoken for, then let it go - but at least you tried. If you find him and he feels the same way you do... wellll....
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Ok well first of all I wouldn't want to be anyone's sloppy seconds so I would ditch your current guy thats crazy.And second of all if the other guy loves you and you love him and you're the oonly one he loves go 4 it!
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just go with your heart. Im sure which ever one you chose will be the best for you. I personally think you should go out with the guy that you talk to more. The other guy youve dumped before so youve had reasons to not like him.
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The one for the great sex.\nThe love will one day be gone. Learn to love the one that gives  you the pleasure.
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I pick: Had a great heart and morals, a good job, would make a good father, etc..but had a really small d#$, sucked in bed, and not charismatic\n\nI would not seek out the other items in another person or thing. But, size really doesn't matter. If they weren't good in bed, it's probably mostly due to a lack of communication. If you let them know what pleases you then they can become a wonderful partner.
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Ditch them both...\n\nWhy would you want him back after this?
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that is a very difficult question i think you need to do what is right and stop before u hurt someone including yourself. just either choose one or let both go it will be the best in the long run
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i was in this very situation for the last two month, The man left me for another woman and while he was gone he was calling me the whole time and asking me if he could come home. He just went with the other girl for the sex. We had been in a relationship for nine years and have two children together. He eventually left the other girl and is now back with me and we are married now for the last week. Don't get involved with a man who is on the rebound it wont work. I told the other girl he was still seeing me but she didn't believe me.