im not ready to have sex but my g/f is. what should i do
138078
I respect you immensely for not wanting to.  Sex is a very serious thing and it ties two people together permanently.  (Have you ever noticed couples around you who need to break up because they're miserable: the reason they won't is because they're having sex) It is a very serious decision. Treat it as such.
520798
Just be yourself, and it sounds to me like you are trying to go somewhere that you are not ready to go! Any guy that makes you worry that you will be called an inexperienced  "anything" you should just stay away from. There is something to be said about a young woman who is brave enough not to have casual sex just to be what you call "cool"  You have your whole life ahead of you I hope you think about what you "should do" rather than you "have to do"   My motto in life is if you are unsure of what to do ....dont do anything!
319960
There is nothing wrong by being turned on my her.  You should tell her how you feel and how she feels about having sex before marraige.  Just don't make sex the only thing going on in your relationship with her.  If it is based around that then it probably wont work out.  My boyfriend and I were the same way.  We wanted eachother so bad but we waited for about a month.  We are still together and I know that we are inlove.  We might even get married.  Good luck.  I wish there were more guys like you who didn't just look at girls as sex objects and actually cared about thier feelings.  Bravo to you.  I bet she's a real lucky girl.
205273
You've been friends 4 awhile,on the same level,obviously you both want it,sex is good for stress...you're are stressing way too much.\nlets face it...you don't wanna hear the answer"no don't do it"...you won't listen if I say it...\nWhy waste your time in here when you can be over there...\ngo relieve some stress now...but do come back...we'll be waiting for details...
56970
Honey, if he'd not willing to wait. Then he dosen't love you and respect you. Remember you are a woman no matter what anyone tells you, sex dose not make you anymore a woman that what you are right now. Be smart, kick snoopy to the grib.
281661
You should talk to your girlfriend, explain that your nervous and why your nervous, she might be able to put you mind at ease. Or if you feel to uncomfortable just say you can't make it. No point going away if your not going to enjoy it : )
470228
1st off, u should be sure she LIKES making out with u. Try some "tricks" or whatever to make making out with you more enjoyable. Whatever you do, don't just try to take her shirt of or something. A guy friend of mine tried that on his gf and she got pissed as hell! Try somthing subtle like moving ur hand up and down her leg or sumthing. If she likes the feeling, she'll d somthing 2 show it.
645409
Take your time. Your first meeting is NOT an advicable time to want to have sex. Show her how much you respect her and her body by abstaining. You are young and have plenty of time to get to the point of "sex" with her.  Besides, why risk pregnancy, STD's, or hurt feelings after. Respect yourself enough also to say NO. No contraception is full proof!!!!
62946
Dude you cann't make chicken soup out of just water. The point being you can't make her something she not. Seems your sex drive is no where close to hers. It could be you two just don't match up.\n\n It will not get better, maybe you jusy don't turn her on. With a lady its about all things the way you treat her and talk, how you make her feel. Its also maybe your just not  sexually incompatible. You need to think she is not enjoying the sex as much as you.\n\n There is alot more to this then can be talk about on this short note.\n\n Also you could try this, either cook her a nice dinner or take her out to dinner. when you get home just put on some good music just make the connection that you once had. \n\nIts not good to have her think all you want is sex. \n\nHave a nice day Don
88359
find out what shes missin in her sex life now, and let her know u got what she wants....then when she laughs at you lmao..tell her.." dont knock it til you try it" ALWAYS WORKs
30869
you said you want to love her? Yet you don't want to talk about sex. If you are polite then you shouldn't have a problem finding someone. \n\nAlso maybe go to school and find one. YOu need to form sentences. Maybe you'll meet one there.
633242
Maybe ya'll should try kissing and touching each other all over but not actually having intercourse, you know one full evening of just teasing and touching but no sex what so ever oral or otherwise, she'll be writhing and begging for it!!!
234541
If she doesn't enjoy sex maybe it is time to find out why.  Find out what she likes and dislikes and don't make the assumption that this is personally directed towards you.  It could be an issue that she believes only affects her and it doesn't.  Whatever the cause it is best to find out as many answers to your questions with her honestly and openly.  If there is no way to resolve your sex life then you will know whether or not you want to move on.
311241
Good idea trytaking her shirt off while kissing if she doesn't resist go ahead and get her to bed !hope it will be the best sex you've ever had !!!!!\n\nKeep me posted
534201
Why not lay off the sexual stuff altogether?  Concentrate on becoming better friends.  Do activities together.  \n\nIf you're not ready to go forward, maybe you should go backwards.
128209
try not having sex with her for a month, then tie a bow around yourself and stand there naked, but don't initiate anything, just stand there and tell her "I'm here if you want me" and if she doesn't initiate it then i think you should sit down with her and discuss it.  Women often initiate less than men, it doesn't mean she doesn't love you.  Maybe she could make suggestions to you that will help her enjoy it more.  Listen, don't preach or judge, just listen.
207522
Are you overworked, kids, school or Stress? Maybe, your significant other can help you more with your responsibilities? In order to be intimate you have to be comfortable in the other aspects of your life. Talk to him and explain everything that going on in your life.  Tell him when your ready if he can be patient he'll know! Explain that sex will be more passionate etc when your not pressured, that way it wanted and you both can enjoy.