My sister in law has had it out for me since day one. Thing is is she is the only girl out of 4 boys and spoiled. She has 2 kids, usually no job(mommy and daddy pay the bills) and she sleeps with every nasty or amrried guy in town. We try to stay away from her but she always finds ways to cause trouble. She acts like she wants her brothers to take care of her raise her kids and be there when she needs them, problem is they are all married and have a life. She just acts kinda weird like she is jealouse and wants them, especially my husband, who is the youngest of them all. She is 29, and acts 16, how do I tell her to hit the road?
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invite her for a duel
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Well it sounds like each sister looked up to the other and maybe should not have when it came to this. You have your head on right which is what is most important but your concern for your sister who is way to young to be doing this - and did you say two guys were doing this with her?? \n\nObviously she does not respect herself or her body. She is way too young to even understand the body sexually, what it means and does, how it feels, precautions to takethat sleeping around causes people to talk crap about you and think poorly of you, that waiting for someone you love to share that with is the most important thing.\n\nYou know you are careful so you are not a hypocrite. You are also not 13. Where are your parents? Someone has to start keeping an eye on her and not letting her have boys in the house. She needs some rules and restrictions.. it sounds like she just runs around and does whatever she wants - where are the parents here? As her sister though, you can start to create some rules she should follow - and keep your eye on her. Don't let boys in the house. Not only does she not respect herself but not even the house she lives in. She is way out of her league and can get all types of diseases too - not just a baby. You have to tell her this - that STDs and HIV can be transmitted even when a condom is used, that pregnancy can occur even with a condom.\n\nMaybe she wants attention and takes anything - even negative attention rather than none. I feel bad for her though and your family that no one watched over you all enough to teach you right and wrong. It sounds like you got it so how did you learn that but no one else did?\n\nShe has to respect herself or no one EVER will. Men respect women that are picky about who they share themselves with - not ones who sleep around and treat their body like it is worth nothing. Make her understand how precious this is and how sexy not having sex and waiting can be - how much better it is when you love someone - talk to her very openly. She is not having it because of the way it feels - she has no clue.. she is doing it to feel attractive, get attention and feel better about herself. Try to help her boost her self esteem and spend time with her - hold her hand nad show her the way.\n\nMost important, teach her about how to be safe - about condoms, birth control pill.. everything - go  to a Planned Parenthood (they have a website) in your area and have a counselor there talk to her. She should know having a kid that young is not going to be good - it can end her life essentially - any other dreams she has... anything - watch her, talk to her, show her the way.
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You are a good mom and my heart goes out to you, that's horrible.  Well, you have to pray for starters, ask God to take care of this for you.  And LISTEN.  That's the best thing you can do for those kids is let them vent, let them have a comforting place in your home......sounds like you provide that already so good on you.  That woman needs some serious couselling.  I'm afraid she won't change unless she decides to OR unless everyone involved can clear their head, be ready and strong, and STAND UP TO HER TOGETHER.  She's picking on her daughter because she can, that's what bullys do.  It will be hard but if you all stand together and tell her her ways are unacceptable, she may get worse for a while or she may not speak to anyone for a while, but she will be forced to think long and hard about it.  From there, the choice is hers.  She does not have the right to cause this much grief to all of you and she needs to decide to stop, or spend the rest of her life without you all.  Your son and daughter in law are blessed to have you, good luck.
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Hello sweet little sister QuietWarrior.. :)\n\nLord God, You see our little sisters plea..We are to train our child in the way they shall go and when they are old they will not depart from it..Amen!\n\nYou and your husband must let her live on her own..you are not helping her by doing everything for her..she is no longer a little girl, but a grown woman, she must start acting as such..I know from first hand, I had to tell my son, that he could not longer come home when he wanted to..he is now taking care of his little girl and he is a GREAT father..\n\nIt will be hard at first, but God will grant You His peace that passeth all understanding through all of this..He hath for me.. :)\n\nI am here for you, if you need someone to lift your loved ones up in prayer or just to listen.. :)\n\nIn Jesus Most Precious Name..\nWith Love..your sister In Christ..
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Wow,,, that does sound pretty disgusting the way you worded it.  It often appears that the mother in law and daughter always seem to have competition going on.  I am not really sure why and it getting rather old.  You and this quy have been together 20 plus years and there is still tension between the 2 women he so obviously adores.  Being a woman you know how to add fuel to the fire or put out the flames...Try taking the higher road and leave it be.  I have another tool you could use as well... It is called PRAYER... the most powerful tool out here.  God sees all that is going on and He knows how you feel about it.  He also knows how your husband feels as well.  Can you imagine how excited he will be to see his 2 favorite girls interacting without foolishness.  Pray about it and leave it be...
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ok, so i lost you there at the end, but... there is always someone who gets all weird & acts distant to the family. they usually have other issues & i really suggest just staying out of it all & avoid such drama. making a fuss is only going to piss the brother off instead of making him WANT to be around the family. you can't assume it is only the woman who wants to keep him to herself. unless he says that. there may be much more to the situation than what you realize. so, i would just enjoy the family you have & accept your brother for the decisions he chooses to make.
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I don't think she is trying to offend you, you could even take it as a compliment because she feels so at home with you and her sibling. I don't know what kind of person she is, so I don't have the right words, try talking to your significant other about how to handle it since she is his/her family. If it really bothers you, I would definitely resolve it quickly before you get too heated or something happens.
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tell her that you only have fun once in your life that you want to see your cousins tell her to stop hattin' on people that life is short she does't wast any regrets and her sister wouldn't like it either.
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My mother in law didnt like me either. She said it wouldnt last a year. Well its been 32 years and we no longer speak to her because she pulled some rel nasty stunts on our children. I say stay with him and ditch the mother in law too.
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Ya this is real problem, my friends and sibs don't have enough time for me after their marr, worst is after kids, my sis is always behind them and wants to be this nice homemaker! Even if she finds time to talk she always brings up her family issues!/// Well on the other hand my sis's hubby is a nice guy..but we have very few family gatherings..may be thats how things work after marr///
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Goodness.. seems like you are an in-law in an outlaw situation.\n\nThat's sad that your brother-in-law is not supporting you and your wife with helping out with your mother-in-law in her difficult times with cancer, and on top of it, he's taking advantage of your mother-in-laws good nature with taking the car then not paying her for it properly as he promised.\n\nNo, I personally would not allow my son to treat me this way, or at least I would like to think I wouldn't, but my son is quite young, and has a diagnosis that may prevent him from being gainfully employed in the future...he's smart as a whip, but he has social skill challenges... so I can't say I wouldn't bend my own words when he is older.\n\nI have a simular situation with my grandmother-in-law, she has a family member that lives with her and doesn't keep a job, and does some unacceptable things, but it is her choice alone that allows for him to be there and to take advantage of her in this manner.  Even if he ends up putting her into bankruptcy, it is her choice to support him, and I really can't say or legally do anything about it.  \n\nIf your mother-in-law accepts this behavior from her son, that is her choice, it's not right, but still her choice. She is the only one with the power to change how he treats her, not you or your wife, but I'd love to see you get a second set of keys and repo this vehicle and then see how fast he comes to see your mother-in-law !!
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i am sure your brother knows she is a jealous controlling woman.  He just thinks he can't find another woman.  First get yourself plenty of girlfriends and have him come over to fix something at your place, then have them make a move on him. find him a job so he can rebuilt his confidence.  i can only tell you what people have done, i do not condome revenge. Post her picture on paper flyers printed from your computer and have her number on it. put it in bathroom walls of men restrooms. the post should read I am a xxx so please call me and tell me that i am....next get a calling card and use it on a payphone. have your girlfriends call her and tell her things. when you visit so they will not know it is you.... order pizza to her job or place and give her name. so they will ban her from recieving pizza from that place when she makes them deliver and loose money..... call mental institutions and ask them to send you literature to your home address for your personal problem, such as drug offender, prostition, depression and give her name and address instead of yours, call from a payphone so it wont come back to you...call the school where your child goes and cuss at the nurse or the secretary and give her childs name and her name and ask to hold meeting with the princilpe and ask for a confirmation letter send to her address and use her name, when she fails to attend , they will loose faith in her....
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It seems that your mother in law is lonely.  She must not have anyone else to confide in.  Although this is a burden you shouldn't have to carry, her talking with you alone is helping her.  Examine the problem you had with her before.  The ex's must have allowed her to have this behavior.  Which is why she kept up with them, not for his benefit, but hers.  Another female to confide in, to sympathize with her.  Does she have any of her own daughters?  Maybe she feels she should be able to be close with you as she sees you as her daughter.  She could feel comfortable talking with you because she trusts and respects your opinions.  Being dogged and treated like crap by your husband truly affects who you are.  You question yourself, your existance, your will to go on.  You eventually lose who you are.  All the while clinching to anything for your sanity.  You must decide how you want to handle this.  Do you want to shrug her off and continue to hold your grudge on what she did to you.  Or choose to forgive her and open your heart to her.  It's your choice.
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Sweety, this is the nature of mother-in-laws, and in turn sister-in-laws.  You are not part of their family, and think about it from a mother's perspective, you are having sex with her baby boy...Anyhow, ignore them, be sweet as cake and they will have to stop eventually.  Best wishes
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tell mom-in-law to do things your way in your home or hit the highway...[its your life] make your own choices..
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I'm not Muslim..  But your husband has turned her down...in the past.  So he does not like, want or love her.  Her feelings are one sided.  yes she is jealous you have the man she wanted but didn't want her.  I agree with others she is no friend of yours.  If at all possible I would exclude her from your house and set her away for the lack of respect she has shown you and your family.  If you have to be near her than I would ignore her be polite but stay away from her...tell you husband about what she does that you know it's childish and petty but it's hurtful and maybe he can talk to her brother about it.  But I agree never leave her around him alone she is spiteful and is likely to start another rumor that won't be pleasant for anybody.
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Cut the man off, keep the sister.\n\nGuys come and go, and as messed up as it is on the other sister's part, when it all comes down to it, all you really have in this world is family. When the sister you know is going through problems with guy after guy, the sister will be there through it all. \n\nYour friend needs to take it as a lesson that her sister cannot be trusted around her boyfriends, do what is necessary to make ammends, and kick the dude to the curb.\n\nIt's hard with kids, but would your firend want her kids doing the same thing to their wives? Kids learn by example, and even if they didn't see or realize what happened this time, if he is doing it now he will do it forever. At some point the kids will be old enough to realize what is going on, but naive enough to think it is OK, and then what??\n\nAs hard as it is, she has to move on; plenty of people have done it--she can too, especially with your support.\n\nHope this helps :)