why is it that no matter what u do for another person they in return don't think it's good enough..why are there some people who enjoy control??
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ever noticed how when you try controling someone they are actually conrolling you?\nthink about the last kid you babysat. little kids are great at it naturally.\nthe more controlling someone thinks they are to you the more power you have over that person.\ncontroll yourself and you will be controlling him without him even knowing it - boys are silly creatures
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With that behaiour you will indeed lose her, when we need to control others it is because we have no control over our own life. Search deep inside yourself and see why that is...K
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Sweet heart , if there is not bad people in this people how we'll we get to know that we r good. Its just a system which has been going on for a long time that some people r good and others r bad. If me and u want to change this rules we cannot. In one-side u can say that its justs a game of time. Sometimes it introduces us to good ones and often bad. Yah! what u say is  completly true. Yes there are many people who are jealous with our happeiness. They are jealous because whatever we have they don't have. And they want to achieve this things because they think no they deserve that. They are proud and arrogant of themselves. But what happened is for good. If ones u met some problem because of a bad person, in life u will be aware of all this . By the ways whatever happens life always goes on. Don't think of this much, because it will only make u hurt no one else. And always try to keep away urselve from this peoples. Thanks alot . Take care.
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I trust people to act in the way that they show me they do.  I learned I can't trust anyone to act the way I want them to.  But why should I be able to, they're not me and they have different goals, and different reasoning than I do.  But I can usually trust them to act in the ways that I have observed them acting in the past.   And I take a while to get to know someone before I decide what I think of them.\nSo I only trust myself in one respect, but I trust everyone in another.
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ummm....why are u allowing yourself to feel that way and make a next person (regardless of who it is) affect your life and the things that are important to you...People often can't realize the concept that how you feel about something that happens and how u react to it is entirely your choice...
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That's an awesome question and I wish I had a certain answer for it, but the best I can think of is because nice people are the only ones who can endure the suffering they receive. But knowing the pain is there shouldn't stop any person from learning as it only leaves you richer for the next experience. We learn more from our failures than any amount of successes can teach us. So maybe all the bad stuff that comes your way is there to help you better be the person you're meant to be. I know because I have often been the one cheated on, that I'd never cheat on anyone else because I don't wish anybody else to feel the same way I did. So perhaps things that like help mold what it is you look for, the things you want to be like; the things you don't want to be like and before long when you're no longer concerned about finding somebody, that somebody will be there.
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Perhaps it's in the choices you make that decide the treatment you get? It's so easy to point and blame. But do we all not choose who we connect and associate with? Don't we pick the jobs we apply for? Continue working for the bosses who have? The freedom to choose what we want is, perhaps, one of the last remaining rights we have left. And with it go the responsibilities of poor judgment and choice. I could generalize as you did but that wouldn't be realistic or honest.
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I would much rather have control over what happens to me - why let someone else's "perspective" make you do things that probably won't work for *you,* right?\n\nIf I had children, I would make sure I stress maintaining that ability I've provided them: to think for themselves.
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i had a friend like that. its a form of jealousy. they want what they can't have so they try to take what you have. or maybe she had a self-esteem issue.
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This is just life. It if weren't for the bad times, we wouldn't enjoy the good ones as much.\nIt seems like you are too good and willing to give what you have to help somebody, I used to be this way also, but the truth is if you don't take care of yourself, nobody else will, and if you don't take care of yourself you can't take care of anybody else.\nWe can't just be as free with what we have as when we were\nteenagers, then we had time to gain it back, now we need to hold on to what we have. I would recommend that you break the cycle of helping too much, I have the feeling you help others, not just the men in your life. If you are a person who feels the need to help others, then there are plenty of volunteer opportunities out there and it won't cost you money. But I know that sometimes we feel that love is worth any cost, but you end up losing by giving  all and then having nothing left for your own needs.\nUnless you are extremely wealthy, I suggest you start trying\nto take care of your needs, and when that is done, be putting something aside for your own future when you need it.
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WHy do you think some people should get a free ride? I earned what I have, no one gave it to me, why should I give it to some one else.\nThat's is one of the big problems in the world. Too many people looking for something for nothing.
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If someone holds the power/control in a relationship then love cant reside within it.  That's a waste of time.  Someone would always have their guard up.  Who would want that...not me.
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Some people bring joy to us almost on a daily basis. Some people suck the energy out of you... The reason its hard to let go is that you know it will never be the same again. We get comfortable with people we can trust and count on.... It goes with my theory of people come into your life for a reason and always at a time of need....But the only thing that stays the same is change...
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We all should be nice to every one. Some day you could loose all your money, and wouldn't you want people that have more than you to be nice to you? You don't have to have them as a friend but they can be a lot of fun too. Some times people don't spend money to have fun.
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A person only has as much control over another person as they are given.\n\nOne really should not try to control another person, it's not a healthy way to participate in a relationship.\n\nInstead, a healthy relationship is an equal partnership where both partners seek to find solutions to issues that can be embraced enthusiatically by their partner.\n\nIt's not about control, it's about caring for another person more than you care about yourself or getting your own way.
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A person's response does not determine their value system, it is determined BY their value system (possibly).\n\nWhy do you want to manipulate others via knowledge of their value systems?
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ALL people are selfish but to different extents\n\nif somebody let you down it doesn't mean you should completely stop trusting people - just be more careful who you trust next time