I'm trying to find information on how well we rehabilitate child molesters. Do they really realize they have a problem and can they be helped and cured? I need information on whether we should put them in jail/prison for their crimes or if they are better on probation/house arrest etc. Also, if we rehabilitate them or not, how many child molesters re-offend? I'm not looking for how/why they did their crime, just how we are to go about correcting them and this problem. Thanks for any help or advice!!
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Here are a couple of good Yahoo Groups:\n\nAAOR -  http://groups.yahoo.com/group/AAOR/\n\nRoar4Freedom - http://groups.yahoo.com/group/roar_4_freedom/\n\nHere you will meet many former offenders who have lived for years offense free.\n\nYou can also look up the statistics at the US Department of Justice which show that most Sex Crime Arrests (over 90%) are first time arrests not repeat offenders.
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Well crimes in child pornography are taken very seriously. I was doing research for my job and came across an actual manual for officers dealing witht the release of sex offenders. For his crime I don't think that you are obligated to tell the neighborhood. The manual's pretty long but if you just skim thru it you'll see the hierarchy listing.
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Search under RECIVIDISM, FBI CRIME STATISTICS and BUREAU OF PRISONS.\n\nI suspect you'll find your answer there.\n\n***********\nExercise care.\n\nI'm sure hlg567 *MEANS WELL* but her stats are BADLY skewed. At 70 years old and 350  victims - that would be 5 per year not 2. Also it WRONGLY ASSUMES that the molestor begins his molestations of others at AGE 1 - a complete impossibility.
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You did nothing wrong, and should never feel guilty about what happened. I know someone who had sexual contact with a child, and they received the treatment they needed in prison to allow them to lead a semi-normal healthy life once again. If you expose your victimizer, you will be doing them a favor. They are actually suffering inside as well. But, for you to have full "closure" in your life...you need to forgive, let go, and move on.
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I don't know, but I would think it's extremely dangerous to put convicted sex offenders in a group home with mentally challenged people. Sounds like it'd be just too easy in that environment for a sex offender to re-offend. Does that make sense?
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I think these monsters lost ANY "civil liberties" they may have ever had when they chose to violate a child.  What about the childrens' civil liberties?\n\nI'm sorry, I have no sympathy for them whatsoever.  Furthermore, they're almost never rehabilitated.  They do it again and again and again.
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OK you say he is a recovering addict, How long? Dose he ask for money? How did he get clean? Please Email me with more details as I've been clean for 3 years and i think i could help. I started at 14 until i was 20. You can contact me if you have a look at my profile
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DEFINITELY should tighten up the laws concerning child molesters -- these are monsters in every sense of the word -- and just letting them out with little restrictions on their behaviors is a recipe for DISASTER -- and the Disaster is the continuance of the Molesting Behaviors in the future.\n\nNot only should California Tighten up these laws, but I have another Suggestion for California:\n\nHOW ABOUT if CALIFORNIA tightens up it's Child Support Enforcement Laws too!  My Ex-Spouse ABUSED my children, and was not just able to continue contact with the children (which disgusts me to begin with -- stupid California "justice") -- but he then was also able to continue to slide off the face of Child Support Enforcement, and now ... 19 years later, I AM STILL looking for Child Support Enforcement!
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Good god.   I have never seen so many "probably," "maybe," or "most likely" answers in one place in awhile.\n\nMy husband has been in federal prison for 26 years so please allow me to shed some authenticity on the subject.    The convictions on specific crimes do determine where they start out, such as a U.S. Penitentiary, like Leavenworth.  \n\nBut over time, some can wind up at a Medium or a Minimum.   IF they live long enough, they can be released to a camp before going home.    Camp is still a controlled environment.\n\nYou were not give accurate descriptions at all of the various levels, including the Wikipedia response.   \n\nMy husband was convicted on less than four ounces of cocaine, and got 41 years, thanks to RICO back in the 80's.  Due to his age and health, he  is currently at a Minimum.   He has been in prisons in Kansas, Georgia, Mississippi, Kentucky and Florida.   Go figure.   He is currently 700 miles away from any family, one way.   He is 65 years old, with health problems, and has been thoroughly screwed over by the parole board (long story).    We have been trying to get THAT straightened out for four years now.   \n\nMinimums are not Cupcake Facilities.   Minimums are enclosed by razor wire, they are patrolled internally and externally, and the guys are told when to get up, when to eat, when they can go outside, when they have to come inside, when they have to go to bed.    Visitors have to be on a list, and go through metal detectors, and at least three interior doors to get to the visiting room. \n\nThere is one doctor for the 2000 men at his facility.   I knew a young man that got gangraped and died from his injuries there, and an elderly diabetic who died in his wheelchair outside the med unit waiting for help.    Miniums are no picnic.   \n\nUnlike TV shows (I Hate Prison Break!), the guys do not discuss their crimes.    Child molesters keep their mouths shut, and gangsta wannabees brag to enhance their reputation.   You can't believe anything the inmates tell you, period, so no one really knows what anyone is in there for, unless it makes the news.   \n\n If you check out my husband's web site, you will see that he was not a white-collar criminal, as someone else stated.  There are white-collar criminals there, like income tax evasion or embezzling, but I would guestimate that 90% of the inmates in federal prison are there on drug-related charges (thanks to our politicians and their "get tough on crime" mandatory minimums  - 5 years for one joint).  \n\nThere are a lot of men and women who have no business in prison, but the power to decide cases on individual points has been taken away from judges, by the politicians and their laws.    Those laws always impress voters, until someone in their family gets in trouble.   Then they find out that once those doors slam, that's it.   The kid who died after being gang-raped was only in there for a three-year drug sentence, not a death sentence.   I met his parents and they will never get over it.\n\nThere are Cupcake prisons, for Martha and the politicians, but regular folks will never see one of those.  \n\nFor the most part, the documentaries you see on PBS are more accurate about current prison life, in any of the prisons.   Prison is hell on earth, with camp being Purgatory.   They are not intended to rehab, but are warehouses, to keep the "bad" people away from the "good" people.    \n\nHope this gives you more accurate info.
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lalala, I too was molested as a child. Twice. Once at the tender age of 6 and once at the age of 11. Both times were by people known to the family. BUT. I am not a victim. I am a survivor. Megans Law is WRONG. It is denying Constitutional Rights to rehabilitated former sex offenders. It is not protecting anyone. The registries have never and will never protect a child. They are a false sense of security. A parents responsibility is to protect their child! Are you aware that little Megan Kanka, at the age of 7 was left outside for THREE HOURS with no parental supervision? Never was checked on! \n\nThe states inflate the numbers on the registries to get more federal funding. They create more sex crimes for the same reason. Do you realize that in some states, urinating in public is a sex offense and will put you on the registry? Did you realize that in some states, I will choose WI as I know the law there, if a teen couple is 16 and have consensual sex, they will arrest and charge both with sexual assault against the other? That makes them both a victim and an offender. WI is not the only state that does this. \n\nThere are many variables that you are not aware of. I have done my homework. I work with rehabilitated former sex offenders everyday. I do know what I am talking about.
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Our society likes to believe we practice what we preach but we don't.  If you have served your sentence then you have paid your debt and your past should be forgiven.  However, what you did and your chances of re-offending are fair considerations to potential employers.  I am an active advocate for survivors of sexual assault and child rape/sexual assault.  Pedophiles and rapists are very low on my list of who to help next, but, with sex offenders mandatory registration, I can't help but think we are creating more problems.  Sex offenders need to support themselves but I don't want them around vulnerable populations.  So it is a very difficult situation to solve.
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I've never felt the sex offender registry protected anyone. Many people believe there is a high rate of re-offending among sex offenders. This belief is caused by the misinformation portrayed by the media looking for ratings and politicians looking for votes.\n\nThe facts are, according to the US Dept. of Justice that only 3.5% of sex offenders will be reconvicted of another sex crime. The same US Dept. of Justice report states that it is far more likely someone with a previous drug conviction will be convicted of a sex offence than a sex offender. Current and pending legislation ignores these facts. Another fact is there have been more sex offenders murdered by vigilantes in the past year than children murdered by properly registered sex offenders. Those few sex offenders who went on to commit the heinous crime of murder were also drug abusers, they were not registered as required by law and no law would have stopped them.  Addresses and Pictures on the internet did not save one single child.\n\nWhile it is true there are some high risk offenders it is also true that most on the registries are not high risk. The majority of people on the registries go on to live a crime free life and reunite with, or build a new, family. These families do in fact include children. Are we to wait until one of these children are killed before changes are made? How many more murders must happen? \n\nThe only real way to protect our children is parental supervision. The vast majority of these highly publicized cases the past few years could have been prevented if the child's parent/guardian were present. In this day and age anyone who allows a 10 or 11 year old to walk the streets alone should be charged with child endangerment. Let's not forget that less than 10% of all sex crimes are reported. This means that for every sex offender in your neighborhood there are at least 9 who are not on the registry because they have not been reported or caught yet. \n\nIt is time for community groups, professionals and lawmakers to come up with solutions that will help stop the cycle of child sex abuse, and all sex crimes. The time for continuing to punish offenders who completed their court ordered sentences and their families for a crime someone else MIGHT commit needs to end. 80% of all sex offenders report being a childhood victim of sex abuse. Most never reported this and therefore never received victim treatment. With these facts in mind let's remember that today's victims are tomorrow’s offenders. Will the registries prevent this? NO
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Well, this is a tough question. And there is NO easy answer. First of all, it really does not matter whether we would like them to be released or not as the legal authority has made the rules. It does however seem that many of the released sexual convicts do seem to congregate in areas near schools and young families (which is well defined in all states) although it may just be that it SEEMS that way because we only notice that. In addition, there are many types of 'sexual abuse' lumped into one legal definition. I agree that the pervert 25 to 65 year old molesting a young girl or the 20-something female schoolteacher molesting a male student has a serious problem. But what about the 18 year old boy and his 17 year old girlfriend? Or the two 15 year old lovers? (Apart from the 'rape' issue) In most states they are legally equated and must be on the offender's list. That being said, this is a major issue we are currently dealing with as my district (I am my district's representative to my state's Children's Abuse Prevention Board) is home to a very sick predator who killed a family, abducted 2 children and later killed one of them. The remaining child was rescued and the predator awaits trial. I can't imagine what goes through his sick brain to commit such an act. He was released from another state by a judge who apparently did not understand how sick this guy really is. \nWhat can you do? Know your state's laws and abide by them. Find out who these people are and avoid them. If they illegally live too close to a school or playground, report them to authorities. Be aware that you may not harrass them in most states and they have legal recourse against you if you do. Above all, know where your children are, who they are with, and that they are informed of what to do in a bad situation. Practice with your kids if necessary. AND REMEMBER, IF YOUR KIDS HAVE TO 'JUST SAY NO' IT IS ALREADY TOO LATE. A SITUATION EXISTS AND THEY MUST BE PREPARED TO KNOW WHAT TO DO.
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The registries do nothing but provide a false sense of security. They also do nothing but take the civil rights from those who have already paid their debt to society. The rehabilitated former sex offenders have an overall 3.5% reconviction rate. The rate for child molestation is 1.2% of that and the rate for reoffense in an incest situation is less than 1%. \n\nThere is no need for these registries as they have become. The original intent of these registries were to register the Sexually Violent Predators. This information was also ONLY for Law Enforcement use. They have now become nothing but a vigilante registry for death and harrassment. Even the offenders children are harrassed due to the registry. \n\nMany of the Romeo/Juliet situations go on to marry once the offender is out of jail and the younger is 18. We have many of them in our support group. Therefore, their love for each other, was made into a crime. Now they face harrassment, ostracization, vigilante acts and their children suffer the same. \n\n90 to 95% of sex offenses occur by someone known to the child. A relative, close family friend, well known neighbor, teacher, coach, another child, scout leader, minister, etc. If you people would pay attention to the fact that the registries are GROWING you would be able to see this. They sure aren't growing because of reoffenses.\n\nThis is all nothing but knee jerk, get me more votes legislation. Now it is sex offenders, what group will be next?\n\nAlso, your child has a much higher chance of being harmed by a drug dealer/user, drunk driver, gang related incident, drowning, playground accident or struck by lightening than they have of being harmed by a registered rehabilitated sex offender.
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I think your right not to talk to her. Her actions were stupid and selfish. I recently had a similar situation in my family, a relative of mine had a pedophile boyfriend, she claimed she ended the relationship with him, but had obviously lied, because the man was arrested for molesting her boys. Shockingly no actions have been taken against her, she still has custody of her children. I heard that DCFS has 'black listed' her, and will be monitoring her closely, but I think she should have lost all of her children. She knew the man was a convicted sex offender and brought him into her home. Needless to say, I have nothing to do with her.
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You should really investigate more. There could be so many reasons for this. You’re just going to haft to walk in wisdom and find out by talking to them. Whatever they don't learn from you someone else is going to teach them. There going to find out from someone or something (TV, Internet, etc...) no matter what. Even if they haft to teach there selves threw there own curiosity and exploration. You might as well be the one to talk to them and answer there questions. You say your children have never been molested are you sure? This can happen and you not know and they might not tell you very easily. Boys can molest boys, or even older brothers molest a younger female or male sibling. I have known a female that was molested by her older brothers.  So watch over your 4 year old daughter to make sure that she is protected until you get to the bottom of this. Finally if there father is not in there life you should find them a mentor. I recommend a local church with a youth pastor that is fun and in tune with your kids needs. The pastor should stay current with the issues of your children’s age group and as they grow older. Where I go to church the youth church has a gym and even Playstation 2. They teach the kids what they need to know about abstinence and drugs. In addition you should volunteer there to get up to date with what is going on in kids lives. Also this will give you an opportunity to find a male that YOU can trust to speak into your kids lives………Your mom and some things they just need to talk with a man about and have some male guidance. Someone they feel they can talk to too get answers without feeling “busted” by there curious questions. You should also be in a church that will give you REAL usable principles that are practical on parenting, simple and easy to understand.\n\nOh and if there on the internet have you asked your self what are they looking at? Below are some links to help you out. Hope this all helped.\n\n\n22 Year old Male.
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How depressing that we live in a country that would put a child behind bars for so long over a non-violent crime.... he could not have signed the lease to an apartment at the time of his sentencing but could be locked away for a period longer than he'd been alive..... That said, YES! People change, and grow and mature and YES, he'll have a hard go of it, but if released tomorrow, he could still have a life and a good one.\nI have a penpal that I met through a friend... at 19, he committed a robbery that ended very badly and he is currently serving life without parole.... he just turned 34, and I see no trace in him of the reckless young man who committed that crime... In his place is a thoughtful, intelligent, well read young man who regrets his behavior but knows that no degree of remorse can change what he did.... Even behind the bars of a maximum security prison, he grew up... and your friend may very well have done so, too.\nYou may want to check out http://www.prisontalk.com if you want to know more about these issues.