HE TOLD ME I WASNT THAT LOVEY DUBBIE W HIM ANYMORE, THAT I DONT DO THE SAME THINGS TO HIM, SEX, ETC..I FEEL SO BAD I LOVE HIM, BUT I DONT KNOW IF ITS THE PREGNANCY OR ME? HELP????????
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Hey, that's a good question. I'm pregnant too and I'm the same way. I don't like having sex very much anymore either, I'm never in the mood. As a matter of fact, I don't even really like cuddling! Our horomones are very messed up right now, it's not us, I've already asked about this. Don't fret, and try to explain that to him.
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I would say your man doesnt respect your feelings for him or respect you. If he did he wont be behaving the way he is right now. I suggest you dump him. That should be your goal. Get selfish. And being selfish is not getting back at him or getting even, its just you are trying to protect yours and ur baby's future. Find a job, start working, be a woman, be empowered, live life and find peace.
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this is what i would do. i would leave him a note and say i'm leaving you for a while. and when i feel that you want us to be a family and take care of us like you should than we can be a family again but i can't stand you being gone all night and everything else. just tell him how you feel in the letter and be gone for a few weeks or even a few months to see if that changes him. if you do go back to him and you don't see any changes than he isn't going to change and he don't want to be a family and he don't care about you or the baby. one thing i do see you can leave anytime and you said that you wanted to leave so that is telling me that you made up your mind and what your going to do. no one can really tell you what to do you really have to follow what your heart is telling you. and you have to think about what is best for you and your baby. so you do whatever you have to do girly and if you ever need to talk i'm here. i hope i have helped you out and i hope everything works out for you and the baby
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I think he may have gotten scared, a baby is alot of reponsability, im sure he know's that and maybe he felt like he had to get something out of his system before settling down. However! be very carefull about letting him back into your life, you don't want to get hurt again but your baby does need a father. If his " calling hoes and bitches" is something you can get past this time i say give it another chance for the baby's sake at least but make it a point to tell him that this is it and either your gonna be a family or your not but you arent gonna out up with him cheating on you, you wouldn't be respecting yourself and he for sure wouldn't respect you if he did that! Good Luck:)
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I had one of those.  If you feel he cheats on you, then maybe he is. Don't do anything when you are feeling like this.  He will get defensive and men don't always admit what they are ashamed of.  Could start unnessary arguments, especially if you are right!\n\nIf you follow your heart, listen to your head every once in a while.  What kind of commitment has he made to you?  Not your son,  YOU?
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He is probably uncomfortable with u being 9 months pregnant.  Things will change.  Some men fear that they might hurt the baby.  Some men just feel that it is wrong to have sex with u when u are pregnant.  Just talk to him and ask him what the problem is.  Communication is the key without it u won't last.  So don't go assuming to many things and upset yourself for nothing just ask him o.k.
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Okay, dude treated you like crap.  He destroyed all your self-confidence and left you feeling really low about yourself.  Him treating you like crap only when you were hanging out with your friends is not a minor thing.  That is a sign of a controlling, possessive person who wants to cut you off from your friends (support group) and have you depend on him for friendship and support.  That is not healthy.  \nThe fact that your dad made you break up with this guy is probably the catalyst in this situation.  You needed to make that decision on your own.  That power was taken from you.  You needed to realize on your own that this dude was NO GOOD and you wanted more and deserved better than you were getting.  \n\nI am speaking from experience.  I was in a similar situation- dating a guy who treated me like crap, my family and friends hated him and kept telling me that I deserved better but that made me want to stay with him even more.  I even moved 2 hours away from everything (family, friends, home) with him.  It lasted about a year and a half even though I was miserable the entire time.  I didn't think it would do any good to break up with him- he'd just come after me and we'd end up back together.  I didn't have a good enough reason to get away from him.  I had created a whole new life for myself with him, and breaking up with him meant giving all that up.  The only thing that made me come to my senses was getting pregnant.  It gave me a whole new perspective of my "new life" and the way I was living.  I came to realize that I did not want to raise my baby in that kind of environment around that type of person.  It gave me the strength to leave him and completely cut myself off from that life and move back to my hometown.\n\nIt might help to think about things from that perspective- if you did get pregnant, would you want this guy to be your baby's daddy?  Is that the life you would want for your child?  Is that the kind of environment you would want to raise a child in?  \n\nDo some soul-searching.  I highly recommend keeping a journal, it helps to sort through the tangle of thoughts, feelings and emotions connected with relationships of any kind.  Write it all out and then re-read it.  Even if you have to burn it afterwards to keep someone else from reading it-what you write may actually surprise you.  And remember:  You DO deserve better!  You are a good person who deserves to be treated in a good way.  Right?
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I hate to hear/see people with this problem. I feel you. The good news is that this guy is an ex. Stop letting him into your life, and above all, stop letting him blame you for the miscarriage. That is NOT your fault! What a horrible man to say such things and make you feel bad for something that was beyond your control and no doubt saddened you completely. But now that he's an ex, you CAN take control of your life. It's so easy. Just do it, like Nike says. Spend some time with your friends and if you feel like you have no friends, get out there and make some. Finding a new activity or hobby is just what you need to keep busy. Do something that makes you feel good and makes you happy, just for you. You'll make other friends to spend time with and you might just meet someone special. The more you focus on yourself and your own happiness, the more fulfilled you'll truly feel inside. Don't put up with this guy anymore. Change your number if you must and get an unlisted one so he stops calling you. If the harrassment continues, get your local authorities involved. He is not allowed to torment you and there are laws in place to protect you from scumbags like him. Good luck.
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It is very hard to sad to deal with. Do you have family near by? That helped me. Do you work? Praying really helped alot! Do you have IM? does he have it too? I know on the AKO you get install the IM and that saves some heatache. \nI remeber when my hubby was there. I was 4 months preggers when he left. That was very diffcult. But you have got to keep your self busy.  I know it sounds mean but you really have to. Hang in there and I will keep you in my prayers as I do for every miltary spouse and their spouses!
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you're probably just going thru a mix of emotions, maybe a litte guilt. but dont worry if you love him, it will be ok. :)
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I think your ego has been severely injured. It just isn't morally right for a man to kick out his wife and baby. But it did happen so you must heal yourself first. Cry long and hard and get it all out of your system. Come to terms with what he did and then move on. He has to deal with that wrong-doing,  NOT YOU!\n\nAfter you have done that, stay busy, busy, busy.... map out a plan to get your life back together again. This plan should not include him (or any person that doesn't respect you / baby). \n\nFrom now on, everything you do is for the betterment of you and that baby. Raise that baby with much love and devotion and if you should happen to find the right man on the way, then he could pitch in and help you.  But until then your baby has only YOU to depend on. \n\n~good luck.
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First, did he tell you he went? If so and youre still upset, then you might wanna explore WHY this bothers you so much. He came home to you, right? If it's something he enjoys, why not let him go? Either way, have a talk with him and let him know your feelings.\n\nIf he didnt tell you he was going (or went - sometimes this stuff happens on a whim), then I feel you on feeling disrespected since it would appear he was doing something shady.\n\nAt any rate, Id have a talk with him...non-accusatory, respectful, etc...dont get him defensive because youll get nowhere...\n\nGood luck :-)
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I am pro-choice too but if it's not your choice then it's not the same. You can't let him make you feel pushed into this. It's a big decision. OK there's a risk that it will be still born of miscarry. But if there is any chance that you will have a perfectly healthy baby then You should do what you feel in your heart is right. Sit him down and explain how you feel and maybe he'll see where your coming from. You need top think about yourself and that little child inside you. If you do abort it, you'll always be wondering if it might have been OK.After all you have already got one perfectly healthy child, who's to say you can't have another? Just don't make any rash decisions. There's too much at stake.
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They say when you truly love someone you would give up your life for them. and from what i see it seems that is exactly what you have done. you have no life of your own it is all about his life and no advice can help you you have to decide on your own. That does not seem to be your worse problem though you say you are 2 months pregnant? then why does your other question say you are having trouble conceiving
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In my opinion, you are giving this guy way too much control...what makes him think he has the right to add on after saying 'I love you'..'thats how i feel at the moment but you probably wont hear it often'.\n\nI read your other questions like you requested, and there is only one thing i can't work out...have you slept together before? If you have did he know about the kids? or has he only just found oout about your kids? \n\nIf the latter is the case then i think give him time bc he is obviously trying to adjust to the fact you have kids. Some men find it very difficult to handle as they see it as more commitment. Even so, do not put up with any shit from him, like over the love issue, or birth control and even sex. He either needs to take time to decide if this is what he wants or he resaures you that he does love you but is just finding it hard to cope with.\n\nHowever if he did know about your kids previously and has just started having a funny turn, i would seriously consider ending it with thiss guy. These kinds of men become very possesive and not very nice men in general. It is nothing to do with the fact that you had children with another man, its the fact he does not want to share you. And the only thing that concerns me is that you are already reffering to your children as a mistake in one of your Q's. Please do not be one of those women who put men before your children. You have to remember and he especially has to remember that you did not cheat on him and have these children, you were in a relationship with another man, the same way he has had relationships with other women. I mean he says he does not like the idea of you sleeping and having kids with that other man..can he look you in the eyes and say he has not had any other sexual relationships?\n\nI really think you need to consider what kind of man you want in your life...\n\n1. someone who makes you sad, on edge, uses love against you, uses your children against you, makes you feel guilty about having your children?\n\nor\n\n2. A man who loves and respects you unconditionally, who will accept your children, makes you happy and genuinally loves you.\n\nThe decision is yours, are you a weak feeble woman or a strong confidant woman who will put her children first in her life 100% and no matter how hard it is to leave someone you love, if they are not treating you right leave. Remember your children will copy the type of relationships and people you go for as you get older. let them grow up in a happy family environment. \n\nI wish you all the luck and let me know what happens x
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well, i he loves you then make him work for you. you are obviously a good wife cause you still stay by his side, but that only means you deserve the best. tell him how you feel. if all gets worse then you should think about talking to God. He cares for you and your child. if you ever need more advice feel free to email me. i hope all turns out well.
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dear sunshine,\nI am a 31 year old married man with two boys, i left my wife almost two years ago, cuz of cheating, i was about to forgive her and take her back, but i found out she is pregnant.\n\ni still have not decided if i even want to take her back and adopt out her baby, she wants me back, i dont know.\n\nbut one thing i will tell you sunshine,\ni know i loved her, truely\nfor she had the capacity to make me the happiest man in the world,\nand yet at the same time;\nshe could hurt me more than i ever knew i could be hurt.\ni believe that this is what true love is, and that it is unconditional- no conditions, such as; i will love you if you do this, or not if you don't.\n\ni will always love my wife, and have already forgiven her.\nbut that does not mean i want to be with her....\n\nyou should ask yourself this,\nif your man got pregnant from someone else, (God forbid, :) ) - would you take him back??\n\nn e way,\ngood luck.