my dad died 2 yrs ago and now my mom is dieing ( she has cancer)
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One day at a time. I know it hurts, but you cant allow yourself to stop living. you have to look at it like this: everyone is on borrow time, their time was/is up. they had no regrets, so neither should you.
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im very sorry about losing your father and it takes time to get over losing someone that you love.i know your mother is dear to you and she is very sick and you have to be strong for her.your a young child and things just arent going your way and im very concerned about your situation.why dont you ask GOD for help?HE is stronger than any storm in your life and HE does hear our cries for help.HE knows your hurting from these things in your life that have caused heartache. i also have lost my entire family and its tough on a grown man and it twice as bad for a young person.i will pray for your mom and for you. i do know if you put your faith and trust in GOD everything will work out just trust HIM completely.GOD bless you dear one and know i am sincere about your life.
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Just be there for her my dad died on may 10, 2005 and he was a born again christian. I know he's resting waiting till our Lord Jesus Christ to come and take all of us christians to reunite. But it's still hard because I love him so much and I miss him being around but the good thing that clams me is to think that daddy is better than all of us waiting because he accepted Jesus Christ as his savior a few months before he died so thank the Lord he took him now then before. All I can say is just be there it's gonna hurt for a long time but just be there she's gonna need you alot. God Bless You and Your friend
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how do you start dealing with grief,,,not that we are taught that now are we.\n\nI lost my dad 4 years ago xmas eve ( so when people are getting all happy ready for xmas i'm not) and he died also suddenley,.\n \nI see rest of family getting on with it so I think why cant I, but are they???, they prob feeling the same.  think of him at times and then I get upset.\n\nI think also because it was sudden doesnt mean it hurts more than if u know someone is going to die before hand, like my friends mother who had cancer.\nThey prepared themselves for her not being round much longer.... but\n Shock of loosing a loved one is that SHOCK.\n\ntalking does help, listen to me hey lol i can only talk to strangers about this.\n\n its hard cause they ie parents have been there all our life we have known them forever and now they not there.\n\n\n\nSo as far as i know it is normal still to greive, cause you dont think about them doesnt mean you have forgotton them\n\n\nI hope this makes sense sometimes you cant get your words out.\ngood luck sweetie xx
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Hey sweetie...we all grieve in our own way and  our own timing. You are not a horrible person, it is very normal the way you feel.  I Praying can give you and your family strength, it  helps to get through these times, even if you do not believe in God but a higher power.  Talking to whom ever is willing to listen helps with the grieving. You are entitled to feel whatever you are feeling and then know you will get past it.  A simple I love you MOM when she comes back will be enough...and you will find that words will come that you didn't even think of.  Bless you and your family.
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I am so sorry to hear about the death of your father. When my aunt died last year, I thought I kept seeing her or hearing her voice and she didn't even pass away at my house. But that is their spirit, letting you know they are there. Ask God to help his soul and finally take him home. I know it may sound weird, but when you pray, also take time to speak to your father. He will hear you, trust me. If you need anyone to talk to, I am here.
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I am very sorry for you loss. Each person grieves differently and for various times. As each days passes it will hopefully get easier for you. Take care and I will keep you in my prayers.
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im sorry to hear that i just lost my dad in november from cancer i have soom websites but ill have to get them from my stepmom it is a diffucult thing and they dont want any help in times like this but thats what us friends and family are for god bless and good luck ill get those tommorow for u
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Honey, my Daddy died a year ago in october.  It is so hard to get use to them actually being gone.  Dont call yourself a crappy daughter.  Remember him!  Love him! Cry laugh and do what ever you want to if it is helping you to grieve.  Talk about him as much as you need to.  Nothing can replace the father figure in your life so I think you still need to grieve.
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I am so sorry for your loss.  First of all, please know that your father's act had nothing to do with you.  \nA four year old is too young to be told about suicide.  It is difficult for them to grasp the concept of death at all.  Surely there was a memorial service or a funeral.  If the child did not attend have a private one.  Look through a family album and remember some good times with your father. Tell him that granddad passed away.  Tell him that means you won't see him again, but you will always love and miss him.  Tell him you can share memories about granddad anytime he wants.  That it is alright to cry about this and feel sad, but it is also alright to be happy and granddad would want him to remember the happy days they shared. \nLet this be something you believe yourself!  Life must go on.  Get some grief counseling for yourself and/or join a survivor's support group.  \nCelebrate Christmas with your child.  You don't want the season to be a dark memory for him.  It will cheer you up to do this.  Decorate your home together.  Remember you are building memories with your child.  \nAllow yourself some private time each day to mourn, but do gather your courage to celebrate with your child.\nPerhaps buy a Christmas card for your father.  Write in it all the feelings you have about your loss.  Seal it and put it away.  \nIf you celebrate Christmas you must have a belief in God.  Pray for your healing.  Release any guilt you may be feeling to God.  Pray for your father.  \nAgain, my sympathy and my prayers go out to you.  A tribute to your father would be living the fullest life you can.
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Contact the AMerican Cancer Society. They can offer help to you and your mom. They can send you information, find doctors, explain chemo or medication questions, and they can help find someone you can talk to about your feelings.\n\nI will keep you and your mom  in my prayers!!
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Just remember that your grief is for your father and to keep your anger towards your sisters for another place and time.  I lost my father last year, he too had heart surgery and never came out of it.  One of my friends suggested that I write him a letter to help me with my grief.  I was angry at the medical world for letting this happen, I just couldn't get past my anger for a long time.  Tell your Dad in your letter how much you loved him and how you're feeling.  Take your grief, your anger and channel it into something positive for your Dad's sake.  I also planted my Dad's favorite tree in my back yard to remind me of him.  So sorry for your loss.
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I really hate to here of your father falling ill once again. Let me tell you just last week my father was told that he has cancer of the pancreas.It is a scary time for all involed but most of all the patient. I went to see my father just last year after 24 years, we had some bad issuses between us as well does my sister and brother does with him. I feel better that I went I can honestly say that I have no regrets. You feel how you feel and you can only do what you feel is best towards your dad. Always remember that you tried your very best towards him. May god bless you and your father, put your trust in him and he will lead the way. Good luck.
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im sorry =(    best wishes to your mom... i dont think theres much you can do besides provide her comfort and let her know your there for her.
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Im sorry about your mom, it is okay to freak out, especially because your moms death is so recent. You still have 2 years left to think and eventually you will figure out that it is ok to leave your dad and your sister.Eventhough your sister is an "airhead" in two years she can grow out of it and im pretty sure she will take care of your dad no matter what.
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I just lost mine 2 days ago and I hadn't seen her in 11 yrs. I had left my home country and have not gone back since then. Also I am not able to leave right now to attend the funeral, it is tearing me up so much.  I feel your pain and understand where you are in this.  As hard as it may seem we simply have to think of the good times in memory and how much joy she brought into our lives.  Life is never the same when your mother passes away, however you must go on.  Maybe you can do something together with family that will keep her memory alive.
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I'm sorry for your loss.\n\nMy father died unexpectedly when I was 27. \n\nI don't remember much of the first year without my dad, other than some pretty messed-up holidays.  This is a protection mechanism. The first year is the most dreadful, because of holidays, birthdays and the awkwardness of figuring out how to celebrate something supposedly happy with the air of absence and sorrow hanging over it.\n\nWhen people initially told me in a few years it would be better, I was furious with them. I didn't want it to get better and I didn't want believe it would--a part of me felt that I would be a bad daughter if I stopped grieving. As I started healing and felt less pain...TI worried if I was grieving too little. And I thought maybe I had grieved too much, as well! Very confusing. I felt like I was doing everything wrong.\n\nBut this wasn't the case. I was grieving just right for me. And after a few years, it was still sad but not heartwrenchingly so and it kept getting a little better with each passing month. I realized that I wasn't a bad daughter. I realized that I was healing and getting on with my life and that by going on, I was, in my own way, honoring my dad. My father has been deceased for seven years now, and there are still times when it's painful, but it's not crippling or scary any more. And I remember much more of our happy times, too.\n\nPeople grieve at different rates and I feel it is wrong to try to put a timeline on healing. Our society is very timeline-based, even if those timelines don't properly apply to messy, organic processes like recovering from the loss of a loved one.\n\nIf however, you find that your grieving is truly interfering with your family, work and social life after year, you probably need some help working through your sorrow. Books, videos, chaplains or ministers or therapists are all very helpful in situations such as yours.