I haven't seen him for 4 long years then one day out of the blue he calls me asking me to come see him and he miss me.
128897
What you have to do is remember that you're x's for a reason, don't dwell on all the happy, romantic stuff that went on with you and him, think of why you broke up and how you felt and what the problems were.  There's always a good reason why we break up with someone.
145576
Just tell him that seeing him there was a little awckward for you and you're not really sure why.  Or tell him you were having a bad day and didn't really feel much like associating with other people.  Or, you can just tell him, "we broke up a year ago and never really talk anymore.  I wasn't ignoring you and i don't think you're weird. I just didn't have any reason to talk to you is all"
603185
Missing someone and not being able to see or talk with them is so horrible, because you feel so helpless and you feel as if there will be no end to your pain.  Can you email or write to him?  It may not be the ideal situation (because you want to be with him), but it will help--and although I know you won't believe this, you will eventually feel better and maybe even meet someone new.  He will never be like the one you left behind, but it will be ok--I know, because I've been there.  Take care...
348093
I have felt like this so many times!  It sounds like you guys are spending too much time together. Maybe spending less time together would help.  So when you are apart you miss him and then it seems like a treat to get to see him.  Then when you finally get to see him it will be exciting.  If this feeling continues maybe you should think about the fact that maybe you really don't miss him, you just miss having someone around.
174684
you are not defined by this guy.  You are just as special today as you were before he came along.  Do you really want him to call you and apologize?  If you let him get back with you then you are saying that you are not important enough to stand up for yourself.  Plus, there will be a new guy very soon, maybe the man of your dreams, do you want to be crying for this loser when the next one comes along?  \nYou are special, and he doesnt deserve to hurt you again.
531987
Dont call him again. He is making up excuses and is clearly not worth a minute of your time. I know it hurts and he is going to be on your mind but if you call him you are just going to look weak and hes going to know he can come back to you if things dont work out with someone else or hes lonely. Try to move on and im sure you will get a phone call from him!
361249
Either call him directly or snailmail him a letter of detail expressing your concern for the direction your relationship seemed to be taking.\n\nHe may have had other issues to deal with and could not open up about them at that time - therefore presenting distance that you may have misinterpeted towards you.....\ndo not push, if he can share his feelings he will.\n\nExpress to him how much you have missed him and that you are sorry for hurting him also.\n\nIf he does not wish to continue dating at least try and establish some form of friendship - mutually.\n\nBest wishes!
645794
That might not have been a good idea. Are you sure you want to meet him again? You don't seem to like him very much...
209898
I saw my brother last year for the first time in 19 years.  I love him but his problems were my problems and I left the state and moved down south away from all my family so I could start a new life. I miss him every day.  That's kind of sad...)(
478726
Well, you should not call and see him gradually. Do it little by little and finally do not contact him anymore.
133628
Just call her.  If she is willing to listen to you, then you could talk about what happened between you two.  If you miss talking to her, she just might be missing you too.  Good luck.
232391
Love can return. It takes a lot, but I don't see why you would want this if he would never give his number to you, deny straight to you that it was him, lie to you he was in an institution & then abandon you by going offline. I think it's a good thing that he disappeared like this & didn't wait until it had gone too far. I think that you should just move on & try to find someone else. I know those long hours & hour phone calls can be very bonding, & it's hard to let go, but look what he has done to you & you've never met him in person yet! (lied, lied, abandon, & hide stuff).\nI think that he didn't really love you as much as you loved him if he can just jump offline & never think of you again.\nGood luck when you decide to move on
101651
Be sure that you want to be with HIM, not with SOMEONE. Nothing has changed about whatever the situation was that broke you up.\n\nAside from that, just think of any excuse to call then see him. It will go from there.
472075
he probably finally realized how much he really cared for you..and missed you very much..\nyes he loves you..=D
416109
if u two have been together for a long time he is not over you, maybe he just wants to be friends with you so that he can do his own thing and you can do your own thing i think you should call and talk to him so that you can see where the two of you stand
544627
well 2 my guess he much have feeling 4 u if hes trying 2 call u and stuff...if ur really missing him like the way u say u r then u might be in "love" with him....2 tell u the truth guys aint very good and telling/showing there TRUE feels and if u really want them 2 tell u just ask and tell them what u feel...and if hes braking plans with u..u need 2 talk about it...or start braking plans with him and let him c how u feel when he does it 2 u!!
278210
Sounds like he just wanted an excuse to leave. Sorry if that sounds harsh, but its the vibe I get from your description. Try to move on and find someone who will love you and be honest with you. Best of Luck.