we work together. my bf always looks over at this very over weight girl who always looks at him.  and theres this other chubby hispanic girl who looks at him and she has 3 babies and can barely speak english.. and she has alot of stomach fat and huge thighs.. and he always looks at them.  hes half black and half hispanic.. and im white..  does lust over  this large hispanic girl with kids  and not want me?  he knows it hurts so ihe looks when i wont see\n\n\ndoes he like this attention of these gross girls ? i give him so much attention.
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no offense but do you think that you may be asking for the fights ??? people look at other people some times its because theres some thing they like about that person or they are reminded of some one else that was a good thing in there life , what ever the  reason if you bust his chops over it then he is going to get fed up with it , weather he and you split up over it depends on how hard you push this subject , its only human nature , and if this girl is real nice to him even if its just on a friendly side then you may even push him to her because you could breakup and he will look to her just to piss you off , I'm am sure you look at other men even if its an actor , sport personality , or some one your friends ask if you think he is hot , every one looks!!!! its if he isn't looking and touching that you have to worry about so dont give him a reason to feel that you being a bytch about it all and looking for a fight , i have been with the g/f for 5 years and i still look and have looked right along but i don't want to cheat on her i just look , and as far as how she looks beauty is in the eye of the beholder , maybe he likes fat chicks and he went with you because he saw something in you that made him like you , you may be the hottest chick to some one and a real dog to some one else , if she got 3 kids some one liked her enough to give her 3 kids !!!!!
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Your problems go deeper than just him wanting to look at other women.  This is not usually a serious problem as most men appreciate looking at women, even if they have no intention of doing anything with them.\n\nYour basic problem is your own insecurity.  If you had spent more time communication with you boyfriend instead of nagging at him, things might have taken a different path.  Communication is the key to a good relationship.\n\nIf you are ever going to be in a relationship, then you need to get help.  You obviously cannot deal with this problem on your own.  It will just keep getting worse until he gets fed up and then starts doing more than looking.\n\nYou say that you love him, but love is based upon trust.  You seem to be unbalanced by his "looking" because you do not trust him.  By nagging at him you are forcing him away.\n\nGet professional counseling.  Work on your self esteem.  When you know that you can form a long term relationship and trust the other partner then you will stop this destructive behavior.
589027
i don't know, but you're not wrong to be jealous, just don't go psycho on him! guys will always look at what catches their attention, just like women. i know i check guys out all the time but that doesn't mean i don't find my man attractive! it's natural to look, just don't stare. don't make it obvious that you're looking. same with him, if he's staring and drooling all over the place call him on it, if not let him look.
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He's just looking?  Does he say, "Man, I'd like to get me some of that!" or "Check out that booty!" - or does he just glance at them?  I don't think there is a straight man alive who doesn't look at least a little bit.  I think I'd be more worried about the man that *didn't* look.\n\nPlease work on being more secure in yourself - your man is with you for a reason.\n\n[There's someone you should get in touch with - you two could start a "My Man Looks At Women" club.  Actually, I bet you are the same person.)
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The best thing you could do is leave him so he can find someone less shallow.  It sounds like you really don't care about this guy at all, or you would accept him for who he is.  Why did you get with him if you're embarrassed that he eats a lot, anyway?  You admit he's "really fat".  This is what really fat people do.  But even if he is really fat, he still deserves better than someone who is ashamed of him.
78950
It's perfectly normal. They might be in your growing stage right now, but it's perfectly all right. But, I would still get a check on it if your boyfriend is touching them too hard...
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Dear heart,\n\nIt is more normal than most men would be able to admit.\n\nYour bf is an honest and fairly courageous guy to confide in you about this.  This is unusual and might be a good reason for you to invest more time in him.\n\nWomen check out other women constantly and this is not regarded as "abnormal".\n\nMen are also human, usually more human than they are able to admit.  \n\nAnd times are different now.  The older generation of men could not possibly own up to what your bf is saying.  He is actually with the times pretty well.\n\nAnd even if he is sexually attracted to certain other males, it does not mean he is not a good partner for you.  \n\nTruth be told, a LOT of males are sexually attracted to certain other males at times.  Most do not admit this to themselves, and it festers and screws up their relationships.\n\nSo I think you do have a bf who is honest with you about important things.  And that is a good thing.\n\nHope this helps.
658758
Honey, you shouldn't have to put up with his crap...If I were you, I would dump the idiot in a second. While he has a wandering eye (and by the way most men do), to call you ugly is completely out of line...Its clear (and don't take this the wrong way) he probably is not too interested in you. In his mind, right know you are the best he can do, but he always looking for something better. The thing is, he would leave but he knows no one else is out there for him so he feels "stuck" with you...NOT COOL....I would dump his ass in a second...
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It is a bit loutish to truly ogle. My interest in other women's appearance did not stop with my marriage.  Some of us are people watchers who prefer to watch women. I often try to put a story with the face. I also like art and photography galleries. this is innocent study of human behavior. So if he is not turning to you and saying crap like "I wish you looked like that" or " Did you see the gams on that one,Ay". Maybe cut him a bit of slack. \nTruth is, when he loses interest in looking at other women he is probably not looking toward you either.\n\nIt never hurts to read the menu  even if you can't afford the entree.
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Sounds to me like he needs to check his homeboys. Sounds like homeboys are jealous. If your boyfriend is that insecure when it comes to your whereabouts then he needs to spend less time with the homeboys and more time with you and tell his so called homeboys to stay outta your business.
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i think your bf is an idiot, that or his father never taught him that it is whats inside that counts and not whats on the outside. beauty is only skin deep. my father taught all of us boys that it was the inner beauty of a woman that meant the most. even if you have put on weight on the out side your still the same person on the inside. there are alot of men in this world that loves women that have some size to them and are not skinny.
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yeah i know lol.......some guys are a joke...so stupid....theyre just primitive animals who arent evolved enough to do anything else....pitiful.......oh yea......your bf is a dumbass.......if he doesnt want anything from you other than sex hes got a big problem....anybody who cant keep there pants on isnt worth your time.....what kind a guy only sees value in a womans body? what a jackass....\n\nbut dont give in!!!!  i have great respect for you!!  youre one of the few who has it in themselves to do want they want to......dont let some moron pressure you into something you dont want to do..........oh....and you are worth it...believe me.....you have other qualities besides your "you know what"......im sure youre very special and unique and quite wonderful....dont worry about those other guys....you'll find one someday who is smart enough to know when he has something good........there are some guys out there who respect a woman for her beliefs.......\n\nim sorry this happens to you sweetie, and you should know there is nothing wrong with you!!!......keep up hope!!!....\n\ngood luck i really hope you find Mr Right......
336516
That doesn't mean he is cheating. He can loOK just not touch. Men DO like to look at females. It's their nature. It's how they are wired. it's OK as long as he's with you and wants only you. Don't you find other men attractive? I'm sure you do. It's ok too. The men you look at is of no threat to your man, right? So don't be so insecure. make a joke out of it. Let it go. Be a strong woman. Men don't want to constantly reassure their women they love and care for them.
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I may be naive, but I don't get why you (or other women) let a model make YOU "feel worthless". Do you think less of your boyfriend because some other man in this world is a) smarter b) has more money c) has more muscle or d) can do something -- whatever it is -- better? Your boyfriend likes looking at a pretty girl in a bikini. That's ALL it is. It has NOTHING to do with you. Besides, these women don't even look like that in real life anyway. Clothing is made especially for them, they get their hair styled and make-up put on for hours, pictures are re-touched. Like any other woman in this world, you can do some things better than her, she can do others better than you. It's not a contest if you don't make one out of it. Do things for YOURSELF, don't worry about anyone else!
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Ew...that's awful!  Your height and weight are pretty average in actuality.  Okay, so you aren't a skinny, boney model, but who is?!  If he's being mean about it, he obviously doesn't care about your feelings.  He only cares about what you look like.  Try talking with him at first.  But if that doesn't work, leave him.  There are plenty of guys out there that will think you're beautiful, even if you gained another 20 lbs.  No reason to stay with someone who makes you feel bad, especially over something as superficial as weight.  Stay true to yourself and good luck!
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Every guy notices other women from time to time, we can't help it. But to make it so obvious that your girlfriend notices and is bothered by it, well, that shows a deplorable lack of class. Also, calling your girlfriend "ugly" is really beneath contempt.\n\nCall him on it. Make sure he knows how much he is hurting you.
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But...but...but...why would you want someone like that?  Once he's with you, he might still be attracted to those "taken women" still?!  Please reassess....you might be just heading for a lot of frustration and heart ache!