I'm under too much stress because i am in love with someone else and i have been in love.
130950
Please what were you doing with him in the first place if you love someone else. that doesn't seem very mature or fair to the other guy. stop playing games with peoples hearts and grow up.stress??? caused by guilt or maybe wanting something that belongs to another!
213914
no, cute gal you are not crazy it is HUMAN NATURE, matters of the heart!!!\n\nI am so happy you acted responsible with this situation it could of costed you time and emotional scars and we all know that is very hard to clear up or face yourself when you are emotionally a reck. \n\nbut what you have did is very important to all mankind you listen and stayed true to yourself, you know what you want and this tells me  you are on the path to getting it!!! \n\nnever accept less, you deserve the world you have to know and acknowledge that first, then others will give to you!!!\nthey can't handle you in any way unless you allow it.\n\nyou will get over this person and be on to the next. \nstay in control!!!
377810
You are certainly entitled to your feelings of loss and sorrow in this situation.  But there has to come a time when you slowly start to care much much less.  This other person will experience the very same rejection from someone else, that is a guarantee!  Personally, I feel that this person valued you enough to tell you straight from their heart.  So many people we admire take advantage of our vulnerability and use us.  Now imagine the fallout from being left after being used!  This person has honorable intentions.  Your choices are evident.  Either abide by this person's commital of friendship, or make YOUR CHOICE to abandon them due to the fact that, "it just makes you feel better." \nThat is something YOU have complete control over.  YOURSELF and NO ONE should Ever take a front seat over your very precious emotional feelings.  Fix yourself by realizing there are too many others and so little time.  Get busy.  You will also be much more attractive by staying busy.  YOU do have a life of your own.  YOU work people in when you want to! Do not give up the power of you to anyone!  Good Luck
415506
Have you tried just honestly making an effort to stop yourself, everytime you start to stress about something someone else does?  Try to fill your mind with other more important things.... get a hobby even...you need something else to focus on.  And remind yourself that other peoples' business doesn't concern you or affect you!  Just doing something constructive and/or relaxing may help you alot!
299239
Stop worrying about it.  He is probably feeling a bit insecure that you were watching another man, blah blah blah.  Give him his confidence back, if you really feel you are in love with him.  Not encouraging anything.. I don twant to get into trouble for the advice.  But do whats right, and make him feel loved again.
260903
to start with, i know you have a stronger feeling for one of those two people, it just so happen that maybe, just maybe, you found something that you needed in one guy but you really love the other and now you confused yourself that the love the other where in fact, you only see something about him that you like but you not specifically love him. assess your feelings and start to weigh things out. \n\nand if it happens that they both weigh equally in your heart just like the other, then its tme to take chances on one which you think loves you more, then drop the other. in loving someone, its not necessary that you are sure, what matters is that you loved all the love you can give, and then who gives a damn if it doesnt work. what matters is that once in your life, you do a crazy thing and feel loved like no one had ever felt before and that feeling will be enough to sustain you for a long time.\n\nand see after sometimes, you would just reminisce the old feeling and just laugh about how carzy inlove you have been for the two guys..
594623
Oh geeze im sorry about that thats really sad :( I hope things get better for you im not sure why your feelings changed maybe it was because you were so in love with her and it might of been scaring  you that is was so real
288305
you're in love! everything you are feeling is natural. try not to stress out about it or you will drive him away!
508264
welllll i dk  really i mean ur in one big predicament.umm i mena its really up to u i mean go with the one who u feel like you would be more happy with and u like more
184184
Get over it and move on.  If your contemplating what your life would have been if you had gotten serious, how much do you love the one your with now?\n\nMove on and focus on the relationship you're in now.  Keeping that friendship alive with that friend will only complicate matters in any relationship you choose to open up.\n\nLeave the other guy alone hes probably still getting over how far he fell in love with you.  He may or may not come around again but leave that up to him.\n\nIf you knew it was a good thing and he would do anything for you, was it vanity, attractiveness or simply incompatability that prohibited you from seeing exactly what he was all about?
309211
It's possible, but you're making yourself sound like a cheater. If you love someone else while you're already in a relationship then that's bad. It's better to be in love with two people when you're not with one of them already. If you love someone else while in a relatonship then it means that you want the other person who isn't your boyfriend/girlfriend. \n\nTry asking yourself what you can get from this person 'on the side' that you're not getting from your significant other. If the reasons outweigh the reson to stay with the person you're currently with, then maybe it's time to end the relationship, hm?
248286
I was in a similar situation one day and let me assure you... It will end in a heartbreak, and the broken heart will probably be yours, and you will only blame yourself because you were the one who decided to get in between a married couple. So get out of it while you can.
5751
I went through the same thing and after I decided to go back with the old fling because I still loved him I remembered why I couldn't stand him.  Funny thing is I realized that the other guy I loved more.  Try to think back why it didn't work out in the first place.  Make a list to yourself about why you love one and the other and you might be surprised by the answer.  It may not be love your felling for both.
290463
Time and falling in love with someone else.
81358
Sorry to hear your angst ... I'm sure it's very hard and mixed up for you right now.\n\nBottom line girlfriend ... if you REALLY love your boyfriend, you'll forget about this lust you feel.  If you have the desire and feel you cannot accept not experiencing this other guy and getting it out of your system, then you have no other choice but to get out of your current relationship.  Otherwise, you're a cheater and a user.  You may not even know what could happen if that encounter were to happen, you may lose everything because it just wasn't everything you expected.\n\nGood luck in your choice, whatever it may be!!
475358
the truth will set YOU free and i think you will feel much better about yourself and feel much healthier, believe it or not, stress is a major cause of illness, but its a chance you take when you meet someone you think highly of to tell them the truth about yourself... its a gamble but it may just pay off... at least you'll know that that person cares for you WITH all your flaws... and lets face it no-one is perfect and everyone has a past whether they admit it or not!! good luck, love will find you when you're least expecting it... just live life to the fullest for you...be happy.
101895
yeah i loved more then nything else my 1st grl friend.i was jst crazy 4 her n we had bout 1-2 year long relation.then she told me dat she loved someone else and not me.an witout me knowing nythin c was moving wid him.yeah i loved her but i didnot stopped her bcoz no use of dying 4 someone who doesnt care.i had lot of problem initially but m tellin u no use of getin sad.its of no use.u have your own life n no one have got the right 3 make it hell.why should u care 4 someone who doesnot value and respect your love.get up from it.der iz lott 4rm life den that person get involved with it.n watever hapens hapens 4 the good.there r obiosly much better things hidden 4 u. dis may noy b the perfect answer you r lookin for but hope so it can help it.i myself have xperinced it and is leading a much better life.BEST OF LUCK