My boyfriend and I have been dating almost 6 years. I love him, but Im not sure i am ready to get married
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If you're not ready, then it's not the right time.  When it is, you'll know.
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Depending on how serious the future is for your relationship and how much you are willing to compromise and give up of yourself in order to make it work. \nIf you just aren't ready then you cant force yourself to be and you have to be honest about that. Its hard enough when you are in a marriage to make those kinds of sacrifices so you should definitely look at how sound your relationship is first.\nSecondly, how important are his dreams and goals to you and are you on the same page about where you want the relationship to go.\nThere's also the possibility too, that you could be honest and say you would try it for a while and see if you still feel the same about the city in an allotted time-frame. Enough to give your self time to adjust and then reassess if the city is really right for you.
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Marriage isn't going to be a magic carpet ride. Wait on the vows. You are both too young. Maintain the relationship, pursue your goals, education whatnot,maybe even live together in a couple of years unless that goes against your beliefs. There is no rush. Besides somewhere between your middle twenties and early thirties your both going to change how you view things, trust me on this. It is better to wait and see if you are still compatible in several years rather than go through the heartbreak of a divorce and possibly have young children that would be dissappointed. It may in the end work out. I know of a couple that has been together since their preteens, now in thier fifties, and still happy. Believe it, it's true! But they only got married after they attended college and secured their positions in the work force.
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Seriously I know how you are feeling, I was that way, and I waited and now we are getting married.  It isn't just the ring or the beautiful dress, Remember you will be with this person for the rest of your life and No turning back because you can't handle it. The rate for divorce is very high, So have patience, Alot of people don't know what they are going into. But TAKE IT EASY.
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Honestly?  If you are having to ask this question, you are obviously not ready.  There is nothing wrong with not being ready.  Marriage shouldn't be "disposable".  You shouldn't marry thinking, "Oh, well, I can always get divorced!"  That shouldn't be what it's all about.  Marriage is difficult at times, and you should only marry someone you love, and someone with whom you would love to have a family with, and with the intent of growing old with that person.  It isn't always romantic, it's about washing underwear with brown streaks on them, it's about supporting each other through the worse possible moments, it's about letting him see you without your make-up and you taking care of him when he's all sick and nasty...if you can honestly say that you would be there through EVERYTHING, then you are ready...if not, you are better off waiting.  If it is meant to be, it will be, no matter what!
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I think the problem is YOU, not your boyfriend. In many cases, when people find themselves in front of one of the most important decisions in their life: MARRIAGE, they tend to get afraid. The reason i think you saw that dream in the first place is because the thought of being married scared. I bet you really love your boyfriend, but you need more security. \n\nThere's a milion ways you can see to find out if your bf is cheating on you, but even if that's so, do you really think he would be proposing you a marriage ???\n\nAnyways, i think you should take some time, go spend a weekend somewhere where you can take your time and think everything through. All the answers to your questions rely in the bottom of your heart, you just have to search for them.\n\nYou're about to make a very important decisions, if i were you, i'd jump out of my shoes from happiness, but i would also take the nescessary time to think this through and see if you're both ready or not. After you've set things right in your mind, talk with your boyfriend. See how he reacts to your questions, the way he talks, the way he looks at you etc.
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Take your time. There is no hurry to get married. If he isn't ready what good will that do you?  I can understand him wanting a job before he marries you. It makes him a good man not wanting to live off you. Slow down and enjoy your time with him right now, it will all work out okay........
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Your boyfriend should understand that your education is more important. If he loves you, he will wait until you are ready. Just explain to him that you want to finish school and get a job so you can afford a dream wedding when you are both ready!
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All i have to say is take your time you dont have to rush marriage and you all can still be in a relationship without being married. Weddings are very expensive even if you just want to have a nice size wedding it can still be a little expensive depending on what you want. And also being married can be expensive to. And if you dont have the funds right now you should probably wait a little while longer. i know you love him and you probably cant stand the thought of being away from him but theres is nothing wrong with waiting because you dont want to end up 2 or 3 years down the line saying i wish i would have waited. And even though money is not all marriages should be about but let me tell you it can make up a huge chunk of it. So just dont rush because you want to be with eachother its a huge commintment think about it.
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You are definitely too young to get married.  You definitely don't know who you are let alone know what you want in a marriage. What's the rush?  You should wait a few more years.
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Hi Ann! It doesn't sound like he's ready for the commitment that you want and deserve. You seem like you appreciate straight-forward answers and you seem to have the courage to ask him. It's better to know than to wonder, regret later and carry anger, when you could of had that time for yourself or with Mr. Right. Good luck....and you deserve better!
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If I was dating someone for 7 years and they haven't popped the question yet,.I would start to think if I am waisting my time or not.  No offense but If this man doesn't want to get married and you do,..then maybe he's not the right one for you.  You need to just be strong and try to tell him that you want a life long partner, not a life long boyfriend.  You only live once so take the time you have and make the most of it!!  good luck
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I think you need to get over yourself.  You can still get married and do the things you want to do.  But make sure you are being fair to him.  Figure out what priority is first and make sure he knows it and if he is truly worth your time and hand in marriage he will help you keep that priority at the top.  What is important to you is important to him...that kind of thing.
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From what you are saying, it sounds like you may be all ready for a relationship, but he is not.\n\nThough, honestly, if you already have children with the guy and yet he is still not "ready" for a commitment - then you probably need to get rid of him. He is not for you. If he does not have the maturity to take responsibility in his life to care for his lady and his kids by at least becoming a legal husband and parent, then there is most likely some serious issue he needs to get over.\n\nI would recommend seeing a counseling psychologist, believe it or not. They really can help in these kinds of situations and will be able to offer some excellent, customised-for-you-and-him advice. That is probably the best route, if you cannot get anything out of him by sitting down and talking, seriously, directly with him. He needs to understand that not only do you want to be married, that you also feel that it is right to get married.\n\nSaying it's "too expensive" is a total cop-out, no questions about it. If two people really wished to (and, hey, when I marry I plan to do something along these lines), they could have a tiny wedding, and cut to the chase right away. "You want to get married? Yeah? Okay then. You're married." Not difficult at all.\n\nAnyway, you need to talk to him about this, and if that does not get you anywhere, try speaking with a personal counselor. I loathe to sound cold, but you may be with a guy who just does not deserve your time and patience.
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You should treat everyone with respect. \n\nYou may not be ready for marriage yet, but he may be.  Have you considered whether he might be the right husband for you?\n\nIf you decide he is, don't let him get away.
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I'm in the middle. You do have to think about your future and your goals. But then he is your love. If you say that you know your gonna end up with each other, then don't worry, things will work out at the end for both of you. Plus, if  you say he loves you then he'll want you to be happy no matter what decision you choose.
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I'm 20 and my fiance is 21.. weird... same ages.. we've been together for 3 years and engaged 1.. we will have been engaged for 2 and together 4 when we get married next September. I don't think age is an issue.. you have to do whats right for you when you're ready, you can't put a time frame on love  :) if you and your boyfriend want to be engaged 20 years and have a 10 year honeymoon, by all means.. do it ... do whatever makes you happy.. life is too short to worry about what other people think =)  good luck