I knew a girl from my town online, we used to talk with mic but without cams, it lasted a bit more than three months, we liked each other very much so we dicided to meet and so we did. So here's the problem: she's fat, she's not ugly but not beautiful, I like her personnality but not her look. To tell the truth, deep inside I don't feel that I can go farther with her, I prefer to stop. What should I do?
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You have to be honest and real. Tell her that you really like her but you just aren't attracted to her. Be prepared tho, she is gonna cry and be hurt. Nobody likes the truth. You will feel better if you are honest and if she doesn't respect that then that is her problem. Good luck.
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You def. only have an idea of this girl..like that other person posted...def. meet her and talk to her alot more in person...its a whole other character face to face....you'll have to suck that up and get comfortable in person..otherwise..you have no relationship...
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Hey, i have the same problem. In most girls they trully dont care about looks, but you have those shallow girls too. I'm a guy that feels the same way. well the chance i think, would depend on what you are like, along with your personality. And if this girl is a popular, cheelaeder type, i would say she is going to be shallow , because girls like that don't want to be embarresed in front of their friends, but if she's not liek that try to talk to her learn about her. and if she is shallow just stay away from her.
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you've only seen the girl for a month? wait later til you decide.\n\nwhich ever have a good personality
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You really need to meet them before you make a decision. I've met a couple of people from online that ended up being completely different than the way they presented themselves. I've also met a few that we just didn't click in person. \n\nRegardless of when or how you decide to meet them, please play it safe and meet in a public place! There are a lot of psychos out there so better safe than sorry!\n\nGood luck to you!
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Should tell her how you feel. Don’t feel scare if she would turn you down. If you’re too shy to approach her,\n What i did last time is that i call my secret admire. Sometime i wrote letter and e-mail. But i can say, talk to her in person sure has the edge and more advantage.\n\nLove is a lasting forever thing. So take your time. And no rush. Girls look at 2 things, handsome and good personality. You know what handsome is. Good personality is the way u act and speak and how u behave yourself, also how u conduct yourself. They often look for good qualities. This is quite a tough area to improve. In other words, if they like u, means they really like u. If not, then, don't be sad and give up like others do, maybe there's still a chance u can improve. \n\nAll the best to u.
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whoa! not trying to bash you but the age difference is probably the reason why you cant have a conversation. plus you need to be carefull talking to minors online and on the phone. Yea you may love her but dont go to jail for it! another thing is the fact that you may be too mature for her as far as the mindset.
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dont waste your time on this girl and move on with your life. there is someone out there for you, you just havnt met her yet. think positively and gain some self confidence an eventually you will find her.
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Tell her she's not fat, make sure she knows that you think she looks good, healthy, pretty, that you don't like it when girls are too skinnny and unhealthy looking.  If you suspect a serious problem, anorexia or bulemia, please seek professional help with her.  Good luck!
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first you have to realize that long distance relationships are difficult, but possible...how well do you know this gal? if youve only IM'd, then it might be best to take it slow, get to know her...also consider that 'she' might not really says who 'she' says she is...never know man, could be a freakin weirdo using made up pics...start with the e mail thing, then get a phone # and talk for a while-and i mean a while-months...get to know her and make sure she is on the up and up before you consider meeting...lust is a powerful emotion, but dont let it cloud your judgement
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I know EXACTLY what you mean. This is what you do... Find something that really makes you happy, like a hobby. I was kinda like that with this girl, but my thing was music. And one day I got lucky and someone invited me to go record at their studio. I was so excited about that, that when my girl called and picked a fight and did or said stuff that would normally ruin my day, I was like whatever, cause the other thing was keeping my mood up and I knew that it wasn't a big deal.. \n\nSO, find a hobby, keep your mind interested in things other than a girl. Then they won't be the focul point of your brain and that's actually an attractive thing to girls. But you can't fake it, it has to be natural. SO FIND WHAT IT IS THAT MAKES YOU JUST AS HAPPY AS TALKING TO HER AND DO IT!
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Keep trying man, but don't push things, just try to talk to here in the more relaxed way possible, like you didn't care about her, and pay attention to what she says, then you could discover what she likes and then start talking about what she likes. This should help you, it it doesn't, move on, there are always other girls.
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as long as you keep acknowledging she is prettier than you, you are going to continue to make yourself miserable.  Who cares what she looks like.  let go of the past and focus on today and tomorrow.  Did you ever think that she might be thinking the same thing about you??  Quit wasting your time thinking about what she looks like and start focusing on how gorgeous you are!!!!
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ok heres what you do find one friend who has the same problem you do and hang out with him when he talks to a girl watch him and make a mental note of what he does wrong (watch the body language) but most of all if you find a girl that your into TELL HER the worst thing she can do is say that she isnt interested (and belive me thats gonna happen alot in life) but dont give up just move on to the next one and try again. its not hard all you have to do is strike up a conversation with her and after a few mins just say "ya know, i really like you" and then tell her why (so she doesnt think your full of @#$%) ie. your really funny or fun to be around and if shes cute tell her that just be honest. but dont get all upset if it doesnt work out THERE ARE MORE GIRLS OUT THERE. just take your time and relax when you talk to a girl they are ppl just like us. and they can smell bull@#$$% a mile away.
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You'r hot,don't fret.ask her what her name is and stuff so she knows your alive then pop the big ?????,and if she says no maybe she is scared or something,never think you'r ugly,I'm a woman and it shows in men that don't like themself.
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= ) I'm back.  To make a girl feel special, you have to get to know her, and pretty much ask her.  Every one is different.  But, tell her she's beautiful, not hot, look her in the eyes when you talk to her, and are telling her something of importance.  And I am a firm believer in making them laugh.  It breaks the weirdness, be yourself.  As far as meeting girls, ya got me there, I'm a homebody. Pretty boring.
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i agree with pancharito because that is how it normally works.  normally girls with good personalities are better than the good-looking ones.\n\nof course, maybe she is good  looking and nice.  if she is, then that is great.  there are good-looking girls out there who have great personalities, but most of them i'd say don't.\n\nas far as keeping conversations going...just be yourself, find out what she likes, and if you have anything in common, start talking about that.  maybe you have a class together or both like a band or sport.  you can find something.  talk about something that's happened to you recently.  tell her a story about yourself.  ask her how she is doing, if she had a good day at school, what she did the past weekend, etc.\n\nbut you need to realise that you can't make people like you.  they have to like you for who you are and sometimes that requires them to realise something in you that they like.