I have a very close friend. But he used me to get his gf back. His gf is my best friend. He used me to make relationship with me. I knew that he loves her and helped them to make their relationship. But after that, my friend never communicate with me. I am very depressed with his behavior. I know that he is in a very good condition but after getting his gf  back he never sent me a mail. I am very depressed
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soshy'r upor rag hoitese khub! ekta kaj koro. sifat ke jokon phone korba tokon ei kotha gula bolba " kire sifat soshyr khobor tobor ki? valo to? toder modhe r kono jhamela nai to? jhamela thakle bolish. toder modhe jhamela thaklei amar valo lage. karon tokon soshy amar songe sobsomoi joga jog rakhe...otherwise...thak bad de!"...dekho eita boila kaj hoi kina. u know what i mean.
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Yes, I think your absolutely right about everything  you said that concerns you, your friend, and this guy. Just be glad that it wasn't you with this guy no matter how good he flirts or looks. I really feel for your friend because if she gives it up to him he's going to be gone like the wind soon afterwords. Hopefully things won't get that far for him and her, but if they do I hope that maybe she'll learn a lesson from it. You seem like a very smart girl to me. Don't ever let yourself be taken advantage of. Your worth something.
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Those aren't real friends. Real friends are there for you through thick and thin, and they would never dare make fun of such serious things as you have described. Don't listen to their laughs and teasing. They are either really big jerks or they are just to juvenile to understand the severity of your problems. Meanwhile, I hope you've gotten help for your problems, and if not, I urge you to because you don't have to suffer with depression...it can be treated. Not sure about the other 2 you listed, but I know there are professionals out there who can help you. It's time you made new friends. Real friends who aren't going to ditch you when the going gets tough. Hang in there!
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Dear ___,How are you?I have tried introducing your friend to many of my single friends who have liked him alot though hes not regularly in touch with them neither has given me any feedback.Though i volunteered for this i would kindly like to excuse myself this time around due to a personal family friend(some reason).I wish your friend good luck and thanks for passing this message to your friend.Love,Your name.
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YES.  My best friend of about 6 years once dated a girl I couldn't STAND.  (Being female myself, I thought my best friend deserved someone better than her.)  They eventually broke up, and all he could talk about for the next year and a half was how much she hurt him.  I was so tempted to tell him that I never liked her anyway, but I didn't, because I knew if I did, it would cause a rift in our friendship.  It's been awhile since they broke up, and he hasn't had anyone serious since, but I still feel better knowing that I've never said anything hurtful.
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I think he is. Did you try to explain to him how much it hurts you when he withdraws from you? He needs to tell you when you do something to upset him so you can work it out and get it out in the open. He is holding things in which only makes it worse. Make sure he understands that he has to be open and honest with you in order for your friendship to last. That is part of what being a good friend is. I wish you luck and hope you two work things out. Good friends are hard to come by so that makes it worth trying to work things out.
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This is mean to say but i dont think that your so called friend is doin a very good job bein a friend! If he knew that you had feelings for her he should have backed away and let you and her do ur thing! But it sounds like you really care 4 this gurl and if she left you b/c of long distance relationship i dont think she feels the same for you, thats not alwayz a bad thing. They are other gurlz out there that would be glad to date someone like you that actually cares!!! If you treated her right and you gave her wat she needed ( care and love ) then she will notice that she dont have and she will come back! Give her space and let her think about wat she lost and 4 you..... I think you should keep lookin 4 that special someone! But if you love her..... KEEP TRYIN!!!!! I WISH YOU GOOD LUCK! \nYa gurl ~~ Candi
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A lot of times, people are so consumed in their own problems, they don't even realize what they are doing.  Hang in there.  I have come to realize that if we have one awesome friend, we are quite fortunate.  I am sure you still have people around you that care about you.
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He probably confides in you because you are the only person he feels comfortable enough to do so with. He trusts you. I understand though, that he is bringing you down, causing you excess worry. Like you mentioned, he needs to speak with someone professional. There's nothing wrong with doing so. It sounds like he may have depression which will affect ones self-esteem. If you really do care for your friend help direct him to get some help. Let him know that he worries you and that mentally, you can't take the emotional blackmail anymore. Let him know though, that you do care about him and want to see him get some help to make himself feel better. You'd be the greatest friend ever to see him through this if at all possible and help him to get a "fresh" start again. Be upfront, honest and considerate with him...hopefully he will take your advice and get himself to feeling much better soon. Good luck to you!!
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It sounds like he llikes you. He may be scare he will get hurt again. If you and he become an item then that may spoil the great friendship you have and then he'd he hurt if he loses that too\n\nSo just bare with him he's trying to deal with this and the last thing he needs is to lose another.\n\nThe feelings u feel is just him having fun with his friend and may be u just in hopes that theres something there
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well i guess for this time i can't talk to him/her for a moment (after he/she cool down). maybe around a week or 2 weeks.. if he/she had a very bad temperament you should wait around a month.. anyway, i've ever misunderstood a friend.. the main story is about the same as yours. and my friend (she) got a really bad temperament, i do anything to make her happy.. so she didnt answer my call, didnt reply my sms, also didnt reply my message on friendster, i send a letter to her house.. and she never reply any single letter. and our friendship end there.. ToT i've never gonna make any mistake again. i will treat my friends nicely
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I want to say that your friend is wrong for going about it the WRONG way. She should have been honest and maybe it wouldn't feel so bad when it's happened. You have every right to feel betrayed because she was not completely honest with you. Nevertheless we all are humans and as the person before me stated, people act on their instincts. She had a crush on him, or maybe she thought she did or whatever it may be, the realization is that they're having that special thing while you're hurt from it. What I would do is move on. I'd give her my well-wishing and if I could handle being friends with her, I'd maintain contact with her. Don't fall for the "third-wheel" plots, I hate those, make sure to avoid them because you may find yourself becoming extremely angry at your friend and her not knowing it. That's all I can see myself doing in this situation is just moving on. Good luck with this.
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I just got over a relationship where my best friend (who was also his x girlfriend) and him kept staying friends. I didnt really let him know how much it bothered me, but now that i look back, it totally bothered me... and now that were not together, im so glad its over because that issue was so annoying, not worth dealing with. Tell him to loose her and if he can't, drop him!
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I would say the best thing to do is to be straight forward and honest, though that's the harder choice. I would contact them or even wait till they come around wanting something and tell them how you feel. " Hey I thought we were pretty close but over time it seems like you come around only when you need something. I don't mind helping you to some extent but when we get together lets do things we can enjoy and is fun." Their response will tell you what kind of friends they are..... Do to them what they are doing to you and see how long they stick around or if they have this talk with you. A friend who wants a relationship with you will work to keep it together and healthy.
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I went through the same thing with my best friend. She did a complete 180, started doing drugs having sex etc. and it turned into a huge fight. I confronted her about it and told her how pissed it made me. We didn't talk for the next six months. Then slowly we began to hang out again. We are now talking and hanging out but it will never be the friendship we once had. You need to confront your friend then ignore him completely until your ready to reestablish a friendship on YOUR terms. Like I said it won't ever be what it was but you can at least save something.
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You need to find a way to engage with him.  It's possible that he is just paniced.  (I don't know how long it's been since you told him), and if he was your friend for a long time and he slept with you, then I find it unlikely that he is just running away for no reason.  Write him a letter, Call him, walk up to him and say we need to talk. Do somthing, figure out for yourself if you want to be in a relationship with this guy, and if you do, then just lay your feelings out there, and let him find his way.  If he loves you then he will treat you with the dignity and respect that you deserve.  (I think that it is much more likely that he is just freaking out).  So give him a little paitence and understanding because you have nothing to lose.  But be prepared for him to say he doesn't want to be with you (this is for your sake).  And whatever happens sweetie, your a woman of real value, and there is sombody out there who will love and cherish you for who you are.  Don't settle for less.  (but give cut him a little slack being told your going to be a father with your friend and not your GF is big news).  Good luck sweetie, and I hope this helps.  By the way, don't pay attention to the a**hole who answered above me, he is just being a prick.
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You know I've been in this same situation. It's really hard to deal with if you guys are so close. I just let my friend be and went to hang out with other people. I would call her and invite her places but she always turned me down because she had already made plans with her new man. This went on for about three months. When she called one day I told her. I'm not mad at you anymore but I would like for you to know that what you did really hurt me. We had been friends for five years and this guy comes and now you act like I don't exist. She apologized and we started hanging out again. Some people just get caught up in situations and forget about the feelings of others. You just have to put yourself in her shoes. If you were in a new relationship you might do the same thing to her. It's something new and right at this time you're just caught up in it. As long as you talk to her and tell her how you feel about it she should make it a point to try and share her time between the two of you. If she just blows you off then she wasn't a good friend to begin with and you'd be better off finding someone who cares about you and what your feelings are. Good luck with it. I hope she comes around.