I'm 17 and i live with my brother...My father lives in India.\nLast night my brother came home late drunk..and in the middle of the night he came to my room and ...raped me...It was my first time and I'm still shocked...What should I do? \ni don't have any other place to live...If I go to the police will they support me? I mean do they provide me a place to live?\nI'm not a US resident...I've come to US with my dad last year then he went back to India leaving me with my brother.\nMy father is Indian and my mother french(passed away last year) and my brother is 25 years old.\nI NEED URGENT HELP
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The American system only works when people are dedicated to doing the right thing.\n\nYou need to put your fears about residency aside for the following reasons.\n\n- You will be raped again.\n- Your brother may move on to other victims, and if you do nothing you are ethically responsible.\n\nSeek out a battered woman's shelter in your area and report your brother. If his status is illegal, a report should expidite his exit from the country.\n\nIn addition, you need to take additional steps to legally establish yourself in the country or you will remain vulnerable to crimes against you.\n\nIt is not your fault you we're raped, but you are the only person who can take responsibility for what happens next.
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Go find another place to live.  It's obvious this person is bothering you.  If you're worried about being raped, it's a no-brainer -- LEAVE!!
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omfg! im sooo sorry to hear about that, your parents are fucking sick bastards i have to say! They sound like there are seriously menatally ill and need professional help!\n\nI have to say your bf sounds lovely for taking care of you and being there for you, i would personally give him a hug if i saw him.\n\nHave you reported any of these incidents when you were younger to the NSPCC for example?\n\nYou are past 16 so therefore, intitiled legally to leave home and im sure the local council could set you up in a new estate away from your parents. However, although you are past the age of using childline and NSPCC you can always call the smaratins for more help and advice who could arrange your house setting and also prosecute those demon parents of your so you can get your just desserts.\n\nIf you ever wanna talk just email me or message me on madness17@hotmail.co.uk\n\ni sure hope things improve for you and best of luck for the future xxx\n:)
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i was in your almost same situattion i was 17 (pregnant) he was 31. I lived in Nh i ran away to NYC. He got very possesive than that turned to abuse. Go back to your family, you dont knpw what you are putting them through. Atleast let them knoe that you are ok to let them know you are alive. I did see my mom for year & half & she wasnt mad please let them know you are ok. Do you know what its like to have the FBI contact your family saying they have a teenage girl that matches their daughters description. well thats what happened to my mom & i regret the hell i put her through. If i could only do it over. I now have a daughter & hope she never puts me through what i put my mom through.\nremember family is forever. please go back & if you need anyone to talk to email me.
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Good lord I'm sorry you are going through this!  The authorities sound lame in your town...for shame on them!!\n\nI would suggest contacting the following in the largest city in your state because I'm sure they have the following organizations there:\n--abused women's service and other such orgs that help women in trouble( even if you haven't been abused yet) they can lead you in a good direction.  ask them about your legal rights and what to do if you are not being taken seriously.\n--teen and young adult groups that do the same\n--church services that can help with this(find a progressive not backwoods church..big city)  \n\n--civil right/liberties lawyers or free legal aid groups and ask them to advocate for you because you are not getting help for this. \n\nCan you talk to the chief of police?  speak honestly with them about how you are afraid for your life and that if something happened and nothing was done then it would not only be tragic but on the backs of the police departments lack of responsibility.  if they do nothing then in a sense they are enabling this creep to harass you.  \n\n--check out some copwatch groups.  groups that keep eyes on cops so they themselves are lawabiding and actually do the job they are supposed and not abuse the law.  again, civil liberty groups would know.  that way you can inform them of the lack of response by the cops so that if anything else happens you have proof and then more leverage. \n\nThere has got to be some source of support group or legal advice for something like this...what state do you live in??  try to answer back and I will look up some info for you?  this is serious and could get ugly if you don't have support.  \nJust watch your back and stay with people as often as you can so you are not vulnerable. If you don't have a roommate, get one!  Lights, dogs, security systems-whatever you need to feel safe in the meantime as you get help.   \n\n*last resort: Worse come to worse if no one takes you seriously after you try everything get some guy friends/brothers and well...have them pay him a visit some stormy night.  Nicely.  Capishe?\n\noh can you find out if he has a record or is on parole?  through the freedom of information act you can find this out.  if he does, he could be in some violation and you could anonymously report him or have him returned to wherever he crawled out from under..\n\nFor now, write back where you live and I can help you do research online.  I'm willing.  \npeace.\n\nHERE IS SOME INFO I FOUND FOR YOU: \nJUST CALL THEM AND TELL THEM YOUR SITUATION AND INSIST ON GETTING HELP.  TELL THEM YOU DON'T WANT TO END UP A STATISTIC.   \nhttp://www.aardvarc.org/dv/states/arkdv.shtml\nhttp://www.angelfire.com/me/Marshamellow/call.html\nhttp://www.usdoj.gov/ovw/\n\nTHESE SHOULD HELP FOR NOW.  JUST BE PROACTIVE, GET ON IT AND DON'T WAIT FOR OTHERS TO SAVE YOU.  WOMEN NEED TO LEARN TO SAVE THEMSELVES.  AND THAT'S OK.  REACH OUT BUT ALSO RELY UPON YOURSELF.  YOU COULD GET A CELL PHONE AND JUST SAVE YOUR GRANNIES PHONE FOR OUTGOING CALLS ONLY?? OR GET ANOTHER PRIVATE UNLISTED NUMBER AND AGAIN, LEAVE YOUR GRANNIES FOR OUTGOING ONLY.  HEY GOOD IDEA@!  TRY THAT.  \nMAKE SURE ALL YOUR LIGHTS AND LOCKS WORK WELL AROUND YOUR HOUSE AND LIKE THE OTHER GIRL SAID, GET A STUN GUN AND MAKE SURE YOU GET TRAINING ON IT.  DON'T WANT TO SHOCK YOURSELF! \nGOOD LUCK!!!
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i think first off you should talk to a offical at your high school, a teacher, counsler, adminstator, etc.  someone who is an adult with a job at the school that you feel comfortable talking to.  tell them what has been going on and that you want it to stop.  if he keeps breaking your stuff, that is not right!  it sounds like he might have an anger problem, and i hope he doesn't hit you!\n\ni am also sixteen and even tho my problem was different from yours, i went to a teacher and told her and everything became better afterwards.  i was nervous talking to her and then the counsler and then to an adminstrator and then i had to talk to a off campus police officer!  my case was a friend told me that this guy tried to rape her.  and well i asked the teacher what my friend could do, and she really helped me out.  \n\ngo to someone you know can help a.s.a.p.!
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The woman he is with is just out right sick.  She is old enough to be his mom and to me its rape no matter what. If I were you I would tell the cops because no telling how many young boys she have slept with or raped. You just stay in school and take care of your baby.  That's the most important thing right now.  It will be hard I ain't gonna lie I was a teen mom myself. You take care of your responsibilities and do the best you can. Leave those boys along because they aren't about nothing, a lot of young boys are plain out immature. Focus on school and bettering your life for you and your child.
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Call the police. If he has raped you press charges. Just because you are married to some one does not give them the right to force sex on you. And your children will understand when they get older. The guy sounds crazy, you need to protect your family. You really need to talk to the police and see how they can help you. And turn to the Bible for answers as well. You do have scriptuall grounds for divorce and re-marriage. You really need to change your situation. Hope everything gets better for you and you children! I'll pray for you!
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You did something you thought would help, unfortunately you got screwed over in return.\n\nNot much you can do, if he continues to say that you've done this then you'll have to find some way to prove that you didn't. \n\nEither way if he lays charges you're branded a sex offender. See a lawyer first, maybe talk to his grandmother, find out if he has any..............um...............other issues going on about why he would lie (I'm assuming your innocence). The fact that he is 18 does play in your favour, he is an adult and as such has the right to make his own decisions whether or not others think they are the right ones.\n\nIt's a hard one, I don;t want to tell you never help another, because then where would you be, but you have to think a little harder now about whom you decide to help.\n\nBest thing to do if this situation comes up again is have the names and phone numbers of a few shelters on hand.\n\na plus is that when the cops came they didn't arrest you they just told you to tell him to go home.\n\nBetter off not to have anything more to do with this kid either.\n\nHope it workls out for you.
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You might want a police escort there, just in case.  But if you are of legal age, there is nothing they can do to stop you.  I hope you're really sure this is the right thing to do, leaving your family for the promise of a boyfriend!\nMen will come and go, families are forever!\nRef: Escort: your local police dept can assign a police officer to your house, to keep you safe and escort you out.
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Had the same type of neighbor at your age and he isnt safe stay away from him let it be known to your parents how he looks at you and makes you feel when he speaks to you ignore and avoid him..my neighbor even went as far as calling one day when I was home alone and asking if he could just sleep with me once and he would never ask again when I told me mom she went over there with the cops and he was told to avoid all contact with me come to find out about it yrs later he raped and got his 13 yr old niece pregnant and made her tell people that a neighbor did it...Please hun make sure your parents know you never know what can happen during a brief moment you are home alone please be safe and careful...Good Luck and may God protect you.
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First of all you don't mention your age but one must assume that you are over 18 at least. Is this child from him or from another man? Don't bother with a restraining order because they are only as good a the law enforcement in your town. There have been a number of women killed by boyfriends after they have a restraining order placed. Take No. 2's advise. Get the heck out of Dodge or where ever you live and do it quick. Don't let anyone know where you are that can tell HIM! It is for your safty as well as that of your daughter. The man is a psyciopath and you should make a report to the local police before you leave. It is a crime to threaten someone else with bodily injury. Not to mention that he has said that he will will have your daughter KILLED. At least the law enforcement will be on the look out. Once you have moved away use your mothers maiden name because you can do that legaly. Don't list your phone number either. Just initials and no address. If it were me I'd move to a different state. I would put as much distence between him and me as I could. It may be hard at first but you will be alive and well. If you stay it may take him months to do what he says he is going to do but trust me he will eventually do it and then it will be too late. Men that talk that way usually do so to intimidate, but then they need more power over you and they start to do things physicaly to the people they say they will hurt. Talk to the law or the DA in your town and they may be able to give you more advise. No matter weather you take my advise or theirs PLEASE take your own advise and get out of there. Hope this helps and may God watch over you and your daughter. Be Safe If you need to talk to someone email me at Whilemom47@yahoo.com
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You need to leave, taking your son with you. If your s.o.'s prior domestic violence was severe enough to land him in jail, you and your son are in danger! But I think you know that. You need to go to your version of the Family Court and apply for an ex parte Protection from Abuse order to start with. If it is approved, this could give you temporary custody of your son and even possibly give you possession of your place of residence (depending on a lot of situations, of course.)\n\nOnce you have done this, get in touch with your version of the Legal Aid Society. They should be able to advise you about the legality of the recordings you have and help you at no charge. Also, check out the Domestic Violence Center. If you have nobody you can live with until this comes to a full hearing, they may be able to find you a safe shelter.\n\nOnce you go to a final hearing, if you get a FULL Protection from Abuse order, you can try for custody. You MUST try to do this, despite the threats. If you don't, you KNOW there will be more trouble and possible violence. If you DO this, you will at least have SOME chance that things will get better and you will have what you want and need.\n\nPlease -- take care -- but get help soon!
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Call the police.  If he put his filthy hands on you, that is assualt.  He might be on probation, so I would look into that.  He couldn't so drunk one of these days and no telling what he might do.  And your daughter is witnessing this behavior?  She might think it's okay for a strange, drunk man to be treating you this way.  Do something immediately.  I worked in  a prison for 8 years, I know how those offenders act and I would not want any of them living next door to me.  I'm not saying all of them are the same but he haven't seemed to change.
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Are you sure that your family views it as a burden?  Being homeless is not a good prospect, and I'm sure they wouldn't want that for you.  You would be placing a burden on them by making them worry that you might be killed or raped in the shelter.  If my son were grown and in dire straits (for whatever reason), I would want him to feel that he could always come home.  Talk to your parents about how you feel.  You're an adult, and that's what adults do.
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OOps sorry let me edit this..\n\nMost important question is - are they LEGALLY your gaurdian?  It sounds like this might be your sister.. or maybe a young aunt.\n\nWhat state are you in?  How old are you?  It depends on how your caregiver will react.  I did the same thing when I was 17 and my parents freaked and were able to take me back.  I spent a few days in Juvi.. but other than that nothing terrible will happen.  If you are 17, I suggest talking to your parents about this and seeing if they would let you.  Does your friends family want you to move there?  Have them talk to your caregiver.  If you are any younger, either wait or have the family talk to your caregiver..  I totally understand where you are coming from, sometimes your home can just be toxic, especially if your parents are going through a divorce, or some issues of their own.. I've been moved out for 2 years now, and even when I come to visit, it just sucks my soul dry.. Some people and places are just so bad for you.  Talk to them .. really.  OR just go ahead and do it, but know this - they will be able to find you - and they will force you to come back - BUT after that happens, they will be open for dialog with you - you will be able to tell them how damaging their home is to you - and they will be able to take you seriously.. This is what happened to me- They never listened until after I ran away.. Then they let me finish my high school degree online and let me move out when I needed to.\n\nTo help you any further, I would need to know your age and your state.\n\nAnd like the other person mentioned, if you are working and making some of your own money, you might be able to get emancipated. \n\nChoices Other Than Emancipation\n\nEmancipation is only one of several alternatives available to you if you feel you cannot live with your caregiver.  You may want to consider other options such as:\n\nfamily counseling or mediation service between you and your parents; \nliving with another responsible adult (aunt, uncle, grandparent, or family friend); \nseeking assistance from public and private agencies; \nan informal agreement with your caregiver allowing you to live outside your home. \n\n\nMy final advice to you is this - family counseling - if nothing else works - this will.  The other person there can help you communicate effectively with your caregiver - and don't assume they will only be on your caregivers side either.  Present your case to them, and unless you have no reason for wanting to move out, they will support you and help you work out a solution with your family..\n\nGood luck, ok?  Feel free to personally email me if you need any personal or legal advice..  Bj_Osterhout@yahoo.com
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Get help take his ass to court, you have nothing to lose. You should also go to your parents and make sure you go to the hospital they have ways of checking these things. Dont give up, and even if there is no court justice, he will pay, there is karma you know. good luck, sorry, and dont give up.