A close friend met this guy a few years ago and they had a thing together but the relationship didn't last.  And the guy started going out with another girl.  But it turns out that the guy has continued sleeping with my friend for the past 4 years and he's on to his 3rd girlfriend this year and will be moving in with her but he is still sleeping with my friend.  She loves him.  He says that he loves his girlfriend.  They're still having sex.  He's cheated on all his girlfriends with my friend and my friend knows this but she still loves him and she wants to move on but she can't seem to.
137599
NO- they don't mix!\ntell her tio get over him and dump him!\nhe's unloyal, unloving and he's onyl havng sex with her..for the sake of having sex. not because he loves her. he's shallow and pathetic. don't let your friend be misused- i think she's suffered enough.
117133
The sex fades long after the friendship dies.\nThat's why it's very important to have a good relationship with your other.\nMy girlfriend is my best friend.
444181
no one can be talking for him. so i don't think she is putting those words into his mouth. i have dated guys that were separated and i had nothing to do with their relationships with their wives. just because he slept with someone does not mean that he is moving on for her. it was probably just sex. my guess is that he really does want to move. regardless of the other woman.
514914
i totally agree....i have this guy friend...that when i first met him...started flirting with me...we got a little closer....made out a couple times and i really like him...then he goes and says that he doesnt want a relationship and that he is just cuddly with his friends....it kind of pissed me off...especially because i liked him....we are still good friends tho.
493237
Well it's like this... Immaturity has everything to do with it. \n\nOne he has his girlfriend A who has been with him for a while, He can see Girl A anytime he wants and even spend time away from Girl A and still get some when he goes back. \n\nThen he has Girl B, a new girl, she doesnt know him, but wants him and she needs the green light to go forward and give it up. \n\nHe lies to Girl B says he and Girl A are broken up, then he gets some from Girl B because he's told her all that she needed to hear. \n\nIn all fairness, assuming that your guy is a good guy, relationships are a little strange, sometimes it takes a few visits to fully break it off with someone. Girl A might need a little conforting or need to talk to him still. \n\nGood luck!!
404395
Well, if she really cares about you, then some stupid pact she made would be null and void! Duh! If she cheats, then oh well for her. I'm sorry, I really am. But honestly, if she does have sex with this guy, then you need to break up with her. Ultimatums are wrong. So, tell her go and have fun, but you just know what you have to do if she comes back with the news of her little pact continuing for yet another break- even though she claims to be in this relationship and it means a lot to her. If it really did, then it wouldn't even be an issue. I mean, why have sex with him, when she has you- someone who cares about her, who doesn't just want sex? There really isn't anything YOU can do. It all seems to be left up to her at this point. I hope she makes the right decision. But hey, if she doesn't, then it just wasn't meant to be. trust me- there are girls out there for you to fall in love with, who won't even consider sleeping with another guy! You need to go find her, in the case that this one cheats. Honestly, I wouldn't trust her anymore! I mean, how could you? She basically told you she's going to cheat on you. I mean, damn, come on.
22659
If he's sleeping with your friend, you don't want him back.  You deserve better.  Time to move on!
48992
i recently found myself in the same situation, so i know what you're going through.  the guy gets mad because he's worried that (like the other dude said), you guys are talking about him behind his back.  he may also be worried because you two may find out that he was cheating on both of you with the other one...as in my case.  Regardless, if you two really are friends and have lots in common, then screw the guy and thank him for a really good friend.  It'll really piss him off...
426818
I have been in just about the same situation as this.  I hate to say it but, once a cheater always a cheater.  If she went out with other guy and even if she said she never had sex or what ever she will keep going out with him because she is thinking that he is the light at the end of the tunnel.  Or if they are just friends.  Sorry but there not.  Guys can not be friends with women, we always want more.  You know what I mean\nWomen are crazy.  \nEveryone says no one can understand women, that's because women don't even understand themselves.
485560
You don't want your friend to fornicate with your ex, that's understandable, but you're no longer with him so they're gonna do whatever they want. It bothers you because either you're jealous, concerned because you don't want him messing with her heart (if he's the reason you guys broke up), annoyed that she's going for him even though she's well within her rights, or you still got feelings for him. Or maybe you're into your friend? Whatever, get over it, he's not your problem anymore, right?
143785
If they cheat they don't really love the person. I don't think it's that he still loves him, it's just that he was used to that other woman and probably is just having a problem to adjusting to her not being there. It can be a major life change if they were together a long time.
527555
After a while you will care that he might be having sex with her. You just gave him an excuse to disrespect you by doing whatever he wants to. If he REALLY loved you he would not consider being with others in front or behind your back. Think about it. Your best bet is to move on because he isn't wasting any time. When you love someone you can't think of anyone but that one person in your life. And having another would have never crossed his mind. He probably just loves certain things she does and certain things you do. Its call having your cake and eating it too.
338291
I would tell him that he is no longer with them, and any problems you guys have, stays between the two of you. He needs to stay away from them. If he needs to talk to someone, he can talk to you, and that is that. No way would I bend on that. How do you know he isn't still sleeping with any of them? I don't trust a man that has to run to another woman. If he insists on still going to them, then tell him if that's where he feels the need to run to, then he should stay there.
128297
First off I do not know the Circumstances. Why did they break up? How is the relationship going for the roommate? How long was he together with the girl. Unless he is positive that she is still trying to figure out what she wants. On thing is this is the nice way to not hurt him. Kind of like the answer I love you but there is no future for us. There seems to be two answers to this question. First answer: If he can stand the heartache of being hurt everytime she is with the roommate and there is no scene and he is not ready to move on then he should wait until he is ready.\nSecond answer: If he can't stand the pain then move on. Maybe then she will see that he is away and make her choice. Don't go running right back though. You might hurt the other person you are with at the time. Choices of the heart are different for everyone and every situation.
303671
As far as your "good friend" DO NOT LET YOUR MAN GO TO HER HOUSE WITH OUT YOU.  That is your friend not his, I can see if it was his friend.  There have been to many instances when matters like that turn into infidelity.  Be careful with this one.  If I was you I wouldn't allow it, and if he puts up a fight, then he is sleeping with her or if he continues to go without you knowing, he is cheating.  After all she is your friend and he should have female friends of his own.  Another thing, is everything going good between you two?  If there is some fighting and bad vibes I wouldn't allow him to go run to her.  Me and my man had a dicussion the other day about this subject. Something happened between him and his best friends girl, before us.  She came on to him when he was visiting with out his friend.  He left when she tried and he told his friend about it.  His friend did not believe him of course, she called her man before he did.  They use to hang out together and go out so it thought it was okay to go over to her house and wait for his friend to get there.  So you see where this is going you just don't let things like this happen, and you don't put yourself in that kind of predictement.  Not to say that everybody is like that but you don't want to take that chance with your man and your friend.  What we both agreed on is when you are in a relationship and you make friends with with your partners best friend who happens to be the opposite sex neither one of you should be hanging out with that person without your mate around it is not cool, it's some what tachy, and disrespectful, even when you are married.  I mean you have to have a very legit reason to go to your man's male friend house alone, and the same goes for him.  We leave that for the for married people who have established strong trust in each other and their friends.  Couples who have been married for years and their friends play a big part in their life.  Other than that, giiirrrl you better stop that s*** quick!  But sorry to say love, it already sounds like your man is doing your friend so start preparing to kick both of there a***** and dump his loser a**.  Move on and take my advice don't allow your man to see your girlfriends without you.  Just keep your girlfriends at a distance until you find out what kind of man you are dealing with, PERIOD!  Good luck and much love.  If you need to chat later feel free to contact me.
518961
LET GO.  She is never going to leave him.  Why leave if she can have you both?  There's obviously something in you that she is missing from the other man (and vice versa) which is why she keeps you both around.  Aside from this, if she does leave him, how can you ever trust that she won't cheat on you when she gets "bored" with you?  I think you deserve much more than this.  Get out now and find a quality woman with more respect for herself (and for you) than to sleep with 2 men and deceive them both.  If you thought more of yourself, you would certainly not put up with this for another day.  You should demand more than to be "the number 2 choice" to anyone.
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are you saying he's been cheating on his girlfriend with you for four years?\n\nif he hasn't told her/left her by now, he never will, and he's probably just using both of you for sex.\n\ndump him and find a real man.