My mate has been seeing this guy for 2 months now and she's not entirely sure whether she should stay with him or not. He always takes the mick out of her...in a fun loving way....but its starting to grind on her. She thinks the romance has died down but reckons they'd be still good as friends. \n\nWhat would be the best way call things off?
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i'd throw another shrimp on the barbie, grab me a fawster's, and paddle down into rooville!\n\nthe best way to call things off would be to start avoiding him and let him get the hint.  it'll take time but if she wants the friendship to survive it'll be worth it.
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if the now relation is doomed --walk away.\nbut don't expect miracles!!, like living happyly ever after with eric.\n..live real!!, be well..
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My b-friend and his ex talked the whole first year him and I were together.  She too broke up with him and I knew she really hurt him.  It drove me crazy too.  1)  I had to decide if I trusted my b-friend or not.  If I didn't trust him then I shouldn't b with him.  \n2) If the two of them ended up together then him and I weren't meant to be.  \nWe've been together for a little over a year, the ex has faded quickly.  Just hang in there, she's an ex for a reason.
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I'm kind of confused.  Her boyfriend has been away right?  She still loves him.  But since he's been gone, she found another guy right?  But the second guy has a another girlfriend???  Ummm....that's real simple.  Dump the second guy since he's obviously got two gals on the string...and go back to the first guy if she still loves HIM.  There's nothing to tell HIM.  Even if she can't make up her mind between the two of them, obviously guy #2 hasn't made up his mind which gal he wants so.....if she isn't his OBVIOUS choice she needn't waste any more of her time.  Why hurt the first guy when it isn't even necessary????
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Well, I have been the rebound guy once.  She came right out and told me that I was just the "stepping stone"  and I was ok with that because I was in the same position.  But after a month or 2 she started drunk dialing me all the time and leaving me these psychotic messages on my machine professing her undying love for me.  One minute I'm the stepping stone the next I'm the knight in shining armor.  Personally I didn't want any part of that, and I don't think I will put myself in that position again!  I guess what I'm getting at is if you tell him he is the rebound guy keep it at that or just don't bring it up at all.
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First off I do not know the Circumstances. Why did they break up? How is the relationship going for the roommate? How long was he together with the girl. Unless he is positive that she is still trying to figure out what she wants. On thing is this is the nice way to not hurt him. Kind of like the answer I love you but there is no future for us. There seems to be two answers to this question. First answer: If he can stand the heartache of being hurt everytime she is with the roommate and there is no scene and he is not ready to move on then he should wait until he is ready.\nSecond answer: If he can't stand the pain then move on. Maybe then she will see that he is away and make her choice. Don't go running right back though. You might hurt the other person you are with at the time. Choices of the heart are different for everyone and every situation.
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I think the best thing that Jen can do is just to be very direct and honest.  She needs to emphasize that it's over, and that she's in a new relationship.   She needs to tell Tim, that while it is nice that he still has strong feelings for her, she does not.  Make all of the points in a clear, factual matter.  Don't obscure or sugarcoat what needs to be said.\n\nTim is obviously having a very difficult time accepting the end of the relationship with Jen.  What he doesn't realize is how much his efforts are futile and that he should have moved on already.  He's missing out on other opportunities for a relationship!  Perhaps it might not be out of line to suggest that he seek some professional help about this.
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Please continue to be his friend.  Relationships that start out as friends always last.  Since your friend now has a girlfriend, you should "take the high road" and quietly stand on the sidelines where their relationship is concerned.  If you "butt in", you will only cause confusion and discord, and may ultimately end up losing him as a friend.  Should their relationship break-up in the future, you will still have him as a friend and perhaps then your relationship with him will turn into something more.  Have a lovely rest of the day.
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As far as your "good friend" DO NOT LET YOUR MAN GO TO HER HOUSE WITH OUT YOU.  That is your friend not his, I can see if it was his friend.  There have been to many instances when matters like that turn into infidelity.  Be careful with this one.  If I was you I wouldn't allow it, and if he puts up a fight, then he is sleeping with her or if he continues to go without you knowing, he is cheating.  After all she is your friend and he should have female friends of his own.  Another thing, is everything going good between you two?  If there is some fighting and bad vibes I wouldn't allow him to go run to her.  Me and my man had a dicussion the other day about this subject. Something happened between him and his best friends girl, before us.  She came on to him when he was visiting with out his friend.  He left when she tried and he told his friend about it.  His friend did not believe him of course, she called her man before he did.  They use to hang out together and go out so it thought it was okay to go over to her house and wait for his friend to get there.  So you see where this is going you just don't let things like this happen, and you don't put yourself in that kind of predictement.  Not to say that everybody is like that but you don't want to take that chance with your man and your friend.  What we both agreed on is when you are in a relationship and you make friends with with your partners best friend who happens to be the opposite sex neither one of you should be hanging out with that person without your mate around it is not cool, it's some what tachy, and disrespectful, even when you are married.  I mean you have to have a very legit reason to go to your man's male friend house alone, and the same goes for him.  We leave that for the for married people who have established strong trust in each other and their friends.  Couples who have been married for years and their friends play a big part in their life.  Other than that, giiirrrl you better stop that s*** quick!  But sorry to say love, it already sounds like your man is doing your friend so start preparing to kick both of there a***** and dump his loser a**.  Move on and take my advice don't allow your man to see your girlfriends without you.  Just keep your girlfriends at a distance until you find out what kind of man you are dealing with, PERIOD!  Good luck and much love.  If you need to chat later feel free to contact me.
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Really its sort of getting out of hand,have a chat with your mate,sort of bring up the girl in a none committal way,if she is just a casual thing to him let him know you could really go for her,but don't want to upset any one,if you don't find out that way,call it a day with happy memories
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I never got that whole if I date him no one can. if you guys are over, and you agreed to see other people then get over it, your not a very good friend if you wont let her have a chance at happiness. I don't see anything wrong with it if she was a good friend, but if she just stared at you and asked you why you were mad, that obviously tells you she's kind of a jerk, she obviously doesn't care about you or your feelings, considering you just told her you were still in love with him, if I started dating my friends ex I would have at least shown that I was sorry for causing any pain, but some thins cant be helped, such as holding back feeling for a guy, dang,...  then I'm sorry but if I were you I would have brought her down. keep in mind though that if you guys are supposed to be together you will and if he wanted to see other people then maybe you deserve better, unless it was your Idea in with case, WHAT ARE YOU BITCHING ABOUT. its not fun but remind yourself of 2 things first of all that she deserves the chance at him, and second of all that you may still have a chance of getting back together with him. I got back together with mine.  Good Enough?
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I cannot agree or disagree with him.  I was not present during all of those 4 to 5 months that the couple was dating.  He says he never promised her to get into a serious relationship, but did he ever tell her that?  Did he just lead her on for the sex?  Did she ever ask him what his intentions were?  Did she just assume that because they were having sex that the relationship was serious (or would lead to more commitments)?\nAnd what business is this of yours (unless the woman was your sister)?\n... and don't you just hate it when somone answers a question with a bunch of questions?
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Hi Tiera,   well it sounds like this guy is a real jerk. Not trying to be mean or anything just going by everything you said.  Now, as far as your friend goes I believe that you should stick to your guns and be there for her.  If you havent done so already,  I think you should tell her all about this guy and just prepare her for what you might think will happen. Don't try to make her break up with him per say,  but just let her know that you are telling her these things because she is your friend and you dont want to see her hurt.  Thats really all you can do at this point.  Sometimes in life in order for someone realize what they get themselves into they have to learn the hard way.  The only thing you can do is just assure her that you will be there for her no matter what.  She will appreciate you more down the road when she realizes she was wrong and you were right.  Stick to you guns hun, and dont abandon your friend because this is when she is gonna need you the most.  Good luck with everything...........
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You tell Tony that you think Amy thinks that you guys are broken up. Then wait until Tony checks on this and that should move the break up along faster. Then you just have to realize that it is hard for a guy to hang out with his ex-girl friend right away, so you will have to decide if you want to hang with Amy or tony. If Amy then you may lose tony. If you hang with tony and tell Amy that you want to help tony get over you before you date, then it may all work out or Amy may find someone else, but if she really likes you then she will wait.
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The first issue: is your mate still dating your friend?  If so, take time out to think about your feelings and respect your mate's current relationship, as well as, your frienship with your girlfriend.  If their relationship is over, or when it is over...tell him the truth - that you realize that your friendship has grown into relationship feelings.  Then see where he stands.  He may or may not share your feelings.  If he does, give it a try...go for it!!!  If not, enjoy the friendship you have.  Whatever you do, don't break up any of his relationships, before or after you discuss this...otherwise, you will lose your girlfriend, and most likely, lose your mate's friendship in the process.  Life is not like those chick-lit films!  Best advice:  Be honest, at the right time....  Good luck!
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Helll Yeah girl, I went through that before and look if he is a true friend then he would not put a fu** before a friend. You will still be there when their relationship goes bad and it will cuz she sounds like a biatch! Beat that ho down!
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Sounds like you are answering your own question.  So I'll ask you one that might just clear things up...... who would it hurt most to lose, your mates or your girlfriend?  When you have an answer, ditch the other one(s).