I am 28yrs old female and out of all the girls I have dated only 1 did not cheat on me but the last one I had lasted 3yrs I used to tell her how beautiful she was every single day,I used to give her my whole check (big dummy I was) then in march of last yr she just lied to me cheated on me and left me for someone else...Im starting to think its me (cant be the sex I never had any complaints) but then she treated me like I was the one that did those things to her...I have never cheated on any one and I dont intent too I dont believe in cheating on any one I believe that if u cheat just stay single instead of hurting the person...do women want to be treated mean or nice these days? that really confuses me....
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Rule #1.  You can't buy love!  If you put someone on a pedestal they will have no other choice buy to look down on you.  Next time, try looking for an equal...someone who is on solid ground and doesn't need the other person to pull them out of the mud all the time.  If a relationship is going to work, you need to build a trust that is 2 sided.  Both parties should give 100%, rather than that 50% crap that you hear so often on the talk show!  If each person is being real and giving it 100%, then one person doesn't have to do everything while the other one does nothing.  Most people keep repeating their past by looking 4 a person that is similar to the last person, or the one that got away in their dreams.  Next time, try leaving the SEX out of it until you know one another better and have built a trust.  Some people are better off alone & you may want to explore that option as well.  Relationships ARE confusing because people are confused about life.  Maybe you could stay busy & avoid relationships for awhile!  You need to get to know you so that you can start to make healthier choices for yourself in the future.  Sometimes it is a blessing in disguise when someone leaves you, because it could've only gotten worse instead of better, and the other person knew that!  It always is harder to be the dumpee, rather than the dumper because the dumpee is taken by total surprise & it takes longer to adjust.
513008
I agree with you. \n\nSome girls are so gullible. All a man has to do is give her some good d!ck, and talk sweet to her...and they're in a trance. Anything their man wants, they give it to him with no hesitation because they feel they are being good girlfriends. \n\nEven though the man is not doing anything beneficial for the relationship finacially, the woman still stays. The only time the girl would feel used or unappreciated is if the man ended up cheating or doing something to cause their relationship to end. I think those girls are either desperate, or afraid of being single.
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You should be honest with her sweetie - you seem much older than 18, and hopefully she will understand why you lied.\nIt is much better to come clean sooner rather than later, as if it does end because of it, you will be less hurt.\nAnd no need to self concious, you are a lovely bloke, and I'm sure lots of girls are beating down your door!\nWe've got to try and stay positive about these things, who knows - maybe it'll work this time round!  If not, there are always other women (me lol)  :)
155070
i don't agree with it... i never been cheated and i never cheated on sumone... but i do bliv that finding the ONE for us is very hard... we may think that we already find him/her but there is a continuous entering of people who might be the right one... coincidentally, the time that they arrive sumtimes overlaps... we cannot judge a person by committing a single mistake... he/she might cheat but it's not for the purpose of cheating... (well... there are sum cases in which this does not apply... it depends on the person...) but... always see the goodness of a person before judging him/her.... one can always change for the best... ;p
189947
Dont give up after 2, youve just had bad luck. Theres plenty of girls out there who won't cheat, but if it continues to be a pattern in the future maybe you are going for the wrong girls. Also, make sure you maintain personal integrity and independence throughout your relationship. If a girl thinks she can walk all over you, she might. Tell her what you will and won't accept firmly enough that she takes you seriously, but not so firmly that you scare her away!
663370
Guess she thought you were way too good for her or maybe she was cheating on you and you didn't know about it or she went back to her ex. Could be any of these... if you really want to know your answer than get a hold of her and ask her why did she treat you like this... u certainly did not deserve this! and now you do deserve to know the answer... ask her rather than assuming stuff!
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People cheat because they have a lack of self control.  If you know that something is wrong, and you do it anyway, then you are showing an amazing lack of self control, and your immaturity is showing as well.  It takes strength realize the truth.  A person does not have to cheat.  You simply tell your significant other "I don't love you enough to respect your feelings, or care if I hurt you."  Then leave them.  Because that is the exact message you are telling them when you cheat.  You are just too chicken to tell them to their face.
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wel i think she lied to you because you she didnt want to hurt you or thought she would loose you.  I don't think thats cheating as you guys only started dating and it was too earlier for her to know where that relationship is going.\n\nI would be gutted tho and know how you feel> It really sucks but what can you do?\nIf you like her and she has been faithful since, forgive and forget and move on with your relationship.  FYI it probably took a lot of courage for her to tell you and i dont hink she did it to spite you!
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Being cheated on more than once shows that you are making bad choices of people you chose to date.\n\nThere is nothing wrong in being afraid of being hurt again. But, only you have the power to make sure that it doesn’t happen again.\n\nTake some time to learn from your past mistakes. I bet there are many similarities in those people who cheated on you. Identify what those similarities are. So, then in the future you can avoid letting that type of person in your life. Also you have an issue of loneliness. This is probably the biggest factor in the choices you have made. You wanted so bad not to be lonely, that you dated anyone for the mere fact of not being alone. Right there is the start of making bad choices. It has become a vicious circle. Only you can decide to get off the marry-go-round.\n\nDon’t let the ‘feeling’ lonely run your life.\nDon’t think you don’t have an identity unless you have someone else.\nDon’t you have any goals or dreams for yourself? Fill your own life with setting goals and achieving them. Surround yourself with friends and family who support your goals and maybe even help you accomplish them.\n\nIf people don’t like you when your not dating, ask yourself why?\nPeople tend to like to be around happy people. If your going around complaining that you are lonely and being depressed, maybe your friends are tired of it. Or Maybe you could use some new friends.\nIf you are always going to depend on others to make you happy you will always be setting yourself up for the eventual disappointment.\nOther people don’t want to be responsible for your happiness. That is a lot to ask of someone. How can you expect someone else to make you happy when you don’t even make your self happy. You expect someone to do for you what you won’t even do for yourself.\n\nBeggars can’t be choosy.\nDon’t be a beggar anymore. Become a chooser. And learn from your past to choose wisely.
533682
well still some women (like me)that never did and never will cheat.You have just to know how to treat them nice.
179738
well..she cheated on u because some girls have that personailty they cant stay faithful to anyone.one ***k is not enough for them(excuse my language)or sometime money can make ppl do crazy stuff..and no it is not normal if someone really truely love u then there is nothing more imp then that person in a relationship  i am sorry to say that but these type of girl are Slutts.girls like her make us good girls look bad and now i am sure it wont be easy for u to trust another girl..see how she messed it up for another girl..and yes i strongly believe love is a commitment.LOVE IS PATIENT AND KIND IT ALWAYS PROTECTS,TRUSTS AND HOPES.and yes u have made a good decision stay away from her and take my words she will be regerting it sooner or later.and whatever love u gave her god owe u and he will get u back all the love u gave to her from someone else and that would be ur miss right.its her loss.i hope i helped.u take care and good luck be strong dont even think abt her.make sure u make her feel she made a mistake.bye
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They usually act nice towards you because they don't want you to kow that they are cheating.  They also ask you if you've been cheating because subconciously, they are preoccupied with the thought of cheating.<---Just my personal opinion.
631375
You kind of answered your own question.  It sucks to be cheated on so why would you want to put another person through that?  If the girl really wants you then she should dump her man and be with you.
111807
you may want to start with making yourself available. respectable people don't date cheaters.
19786
I think about this almost daily, as I am currently going through a divorce myself, because of some unbeliveably UGLY stuff my husband has done.  I, as well, consider myself wounded, possibly to that same point of no return---from that hardened heart.  Only, I ask can any MAN be trusted.  When I read your question, it just hit me:  I know I, a woman, CAN be trusted.  Obviously, you feel that you can.  So, YES, we are out here.  We made bad choices in allying ourselves with the people we married--people unworthy of trust.  That does not mean there are not wonderful persons of integrity in each gender out there.  Let's try to move forward and treat people as individuals, rather than representatives of the worst common denominator of their gender.  After all, how would either of us feel if we were dismissed as capable of the UGLY?  ...but I am with ya.  I mean, it's all well and good to say these things to myself, but getting to the point of feeling it in my heart is different.  Good luck to us both/all!
271398
i hate to say it but men are selfish...i think they will always continue to cheat because they just cant control themselves if another woman happens to show interest. if he cheated once yeah he prob will cheat again but its not ur fault he just doesnt respect himself how could he respect you?
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sigh, alas tis the truth with many of the females...because i hear that all the time too, the whole 'i want a good man, i ain't settlin for no scrub, he has to respect me, blah blah blah" and right after that they can't let go of some alchoholic that beats them, or some playa that cheats on them constantly but "oh i still love him, if he does it again he's GONE"... when he shoudl've been gone in the first place.\nYou know what's even worse?  LOOK AT THE YAHOO QUESTIONS!  A LOT of women are askin "what should i do, i love him but he's cheating on me what do i do?" \nor "i like him, he's a great guy, but he watches porn and flirts with other women..what should i do?" I mean you see a hell of a lot of questions like that...so that's a good question, what ARE women's defense to that? Cause i'm one of the good guys, and THANKFULLY i've found a sensible woman who actually KNOWS WHAT SHE WANTS!  But i've dealt with the gullible and confused girls that dissed me for the a*shole, and then had the nerve to say they're just stronger now after gettin over it, when in essence they shouldn't have been in it in the first place!  \nWhat is up wit dat?