From 1st to 12th grade, at the beginning of every school year, I had to spend a few months fearing and struggling to adjust to the new school year, new classes, homework, studies, and tests. I was afraid of having too much work and getting bad grades. I really wish I can drop out of school, but didn't because I was afraid of what my parents would say. I always felt that my friends and classmates were smarter than me. At weekends, I was so happy. By Sunday night, I feared of going to school and having too much work during the weekends. At home I never want to talk about school. I would not talk to that family member or relative too much from then on that talks to me about schoolwork.\nDuring summer, I wish the schoolyear would start. When it starts, I would think "Why did I want it to start?"\nWhen I got to college, I didn't have that problem anymore. What was wrong with me?
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Know what helped me with that? Getting my books and folders together a week before class, and being ready then. I found I was feeling apprehensive *then*, and by the time class began, I had moved past that and was ready to study. Also, I would get up in time for my, say, 8 a.m. classes a week ahead of time. I built up the routine, and as I said, got all the anxiety out ahead of time.
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What you are feeling is perfectly normal for a person of your age. There would be something a little wrong if you didn't feel that way. The time will come soon enough. finish school, or you will have a lifetime of regrets over leaving now. You have no idea how lucky you are. I wish I had that kind of set up when I was your age. some of us run out of the house years too early for reasons of our own.\n\nI think you need a wild vacation, but a safe one. You will come back with a new perspective. Treat yourself to something different.
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Yes it was hard because I was distracted by the fair sex for 2 years,  I had to go to summer school to graduate on time.  Act like the answer to life is in your schoolbooks and notes.
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I think I was overprotected.  I rebelled when I was a senior in high school, and partied a lot then and in college.  Maybe if I had been allowed to do more, I would have done less.  \n\nON THE OTHER HAND, I have two kids right now and I find myself laying down the same rules as my parents did. :)  Go figure.
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Everybody gets burned out whether your in college or on the job. I just want you to know how proud I am of you. These next 2 years are going to fly. Enjoy it while you can. Set daily goals and give yourself a break once in a while. You'll get through it. I was the same way when I was in college. I am so glad I stuck it out. I have a really good job and a wonderful home to come home to. Think of your future and what your education will give you.
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There were many reasons i dropped out of school...i was way to much of a partyer, didn't like to wake up early.. my dad died when i was 16, never felt like going to school, just sat in my room and cried.. there was nothing the school did to make me drop out, i dont ever think its the schools fault, there is nothing they could do diffrent, its all on us
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It probably does suck to be in school but it sounds like you are going to a great school.  You will end up being a better person for it.  They are teaching you skills that you will come to understand one day when you are older.  You won't end up being some slack ass who quits college or ends up jobless in your 30's.  Don't worry everyone hates school at some point.  You only have a year to go.  Hopefully, your Senior year will be more fun.
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I have a daughter 17 which came to live with me last year. Her grades suffered for the last semester of the year. We sat down and talked and I started let her live more as a young adult rather than a child and the grades have improved. She still had guidelines but were alot less stringent. Allowing a child to grow a little bit helps alot. I was guilty of not wanting my kids to grow up and I was the problem which I realized. I have bit the ole tongue and let her fall a few times but it has helped her grow more.\n  I also have a son who is 12 diagnosed with ADHD(5yrs) I have spent time at the school sharing information with the school on some of the do's and dont's of a ADHD child. Some teachers listen but some are still blind to ADHD. I have encouraged that the teachers become more aware of ADHD and ADD. But what can we expect because our teachers who are molding the grown ups of tomorrow are not paid enough. Educators which care move on to higher paying jobs so that they can support their families and not have to deal with parents who send their kids to school for  baby sitting.\n  We as parents have to be more involved in our school system with support as well discipline.
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One of the hardest things I have ever done was sit and watch my class graduate from the audience. I got pregnant @16 and dropped out my junior year. i tried going back, but it didn't work out for me. I attended the graduation ceremony to see my friends, and I cried. I felt like the biggest loser.  I never did graduate, but did obtain a GED.  I have a good job, a nice house, a good car, & 2 BEAUTIFUL childern. I NEVER graduated, Am i a loser?\n\nBe proud of yourself for what you have acomplished. So you don't get to "walk" with your class.  you still met your requirements(or will after you earn the 1&1&#92;2 credits) that is HUGE! that is more than I did and more than alot of people will do.
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I did CC in high school, and it was the worst time i've ever had in my life even though i was the top runner. i think you should quit track. it realy doesn't sound like you're having a good time of it. i wish someone would have made me quit CC--my life would have been so much better!Waaay too much pressure. I've learned that all the things in HS i thought were such huuuge problems really aren't that big of a deal. If you want to talk sometime, i'm here. As for the phone thing....it won't last forever. Use the time you would've talked to friends to write in a journal, figure out things in your life.
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You'll be fine.  It's normal to freak out about something you've never done before.  They wouldn't have chosen you if they didn't think you could do it.  You'll love it, you'll be great at it, and you'll make a lot of money when you graduate.  You'll be fine.  Just get you and your children into a routine now so that it's easier when school starts.  The school should have a Student Services Representative/counselor/tutor who can help you if you do encounter any problems.  Don't forget to communicate with your professors, get your assignments done way early so you don't fall behind, and have fun!
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I dropped out of school when I was 16 years old and was still in the 9th Grade in HS. When I was 19 someone talked me into getting a GED so that I could get a good job. I did and without having to take any preparation classes first. I was pretty happy about that. However, the guy that talked me into getting my GED couldn't get me the job that he promised. I was really upset and felt like that I got my GED for nothing. Some years later I decided to give community college a try and maybe get an associates degree to even get me a better job. One thing lead to another and I found that I liked college much more than high school. I have a degree in Economics and will have my MBA by December of this year. Looking back, I am really happy that guy talked me into getting my GED. It is never too late to get started living life because you never know what you can find out about yourself. "Success is not a destination, its a journey" \n\nJust a thought, \nI'm Joe
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I loved going to college.  It was truly the best time of my life and would love to do it again one day to get another degree.  School can be a lot of fun if you make it that way.  In high school, I really wish I would have applied myself more.  Yeah, school is hard but it is worth it when you get older.  If there was a way that adults could take high school over again, I would sign up in a minute.  I would take all the classes that would better prepare me for things and apply myself more.
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Can I asked what happened? You did say they are your ex-friends.\n\nWhen I was about your age, I had major problems in school. I wanted to be a singer, and everyone thought I was insain. Every night I'd come home and beg my parents not to make me go back to school, but of course they made me go. They told me to keep my head high, ignore all the nasty comments made and keep going on with my life. Today, I'm 23 and am the moderator of the discussion group for the choir I always wanted to be in. My parents were right. Had I not gone back to school, my classmates would have won. I graduated with NO friends :(  I turned out and G-D willing I am going to be a child phycologist.\n\nI am giving you the advise my parents gave me: keep your head high, and NEVER miss school unless you are truly sick-- other wise, your classmates win and they get the pleasure of upsetting you to the point where you stay home from school.\n\nGood luck!
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I would think long and hard before I decided to graduate early. There are some people it's right for, but they are few and far between. \n\nThe people I've known who did that were notably emotionally behind their peers in college. A lot happens in your senior year. People change a lot in those last few months. The pressure of grades is off once you're accepted to college. The pettiness of teenagers starts fading once they realize it's almost over. It doesn't seem as important to pick on each other, and they start getting nostalgic for the high school days that are ending. This frees everybody up to stop worrying, have fun, and mature a lot.\n\nThat said, what is college like... well, it's harder than high school. The work is harder, and so is the personal responsibility. There is no one to tell you to study, no one to tell you to go to class, no one to tell you that doing <insert bad decision here> is a really bad idea. Which is nice if you're ready to take on that responsibility yourself, but can get you really screwed up if you're not.\n\nThe nice thing about college is it's a fresh start. No one knows you, no one cares who you were in high school. Some of my best friends my freshman year were people that I never would have talked to/never would have talked to me. All the freshmen are nervous and unsure and pretty much all you have to do is say hi for them to latch onto you and be your friend. For the first week, anyway.\n\nThe bad thing is that you usually don't get any guidance unless you actively seek it. You may have to learn to be very assertive to get an idea of what classes you should be taking, what majors lead to what careers, whether you should do an internship and how to arrange it, pretty much everything. You can float through and hope to fall into a good job (which does happen to some people), but more often you'll just get lost if you aren't really motivated and self-directed.
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> I need to get back into work mode, which has seem to left me a long time ago.\n\nGreat! Count this as your first step towards doing something about it. This is a joyous moment! Be happy about it!\n\n> Right now I just feel like asking philisophical questions to myself, playing video games, thinking about girls, talking with my friends, and sleeping.\n\nCongratulations, David, you're normal. Welcome to the world of knowing your responsibilities and being mindful of your existence. Sorry if that sounds odd, but really I think you've partly answered your own question here already. First, though, it's obvious that you need to get motivated. Isn't being in "deep peril" motivation enough? I assume that would mean failing at school, or not meeting some other important work requirements? But what's more important? Is it girls and friends (be honest with yourself), or taking responsibility for what's important right now? Think about this, though: All those things keeping you from "entering reality" (as you put it) will still be there after your school stuff is finished. The thing that's even cooler is you'll probably appreciate them much more than you do right now. Plus, they'll still be there while you're focusing on school. It's not like one or the other. Yes, balance is the key here! Of course there's the outside chance that your behaviour is somewhat psychologically imbalanced. In this case, David, I recommend that you have a chat to a school counsellor, parent, or a local psychologist. Anyway, good luck and go get 'em on your studies! Really hope this helps.
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I was homeschooled from 2nd to 9th grade and went to a Catholic high school in 10th grade til graduation. We tried to get me in for 9th grade but there wasn't room, so they guaranteed me a space the next year.  There were two of us who were homeschooled and entered at the same time/year and both of us did very well academically and socially.  There were no issues related to homeschooling at all. The real issues are about parents and their perspectives about education and relationships, and that affects kids no matter where they go to school.\n\nI did go to the first semester of 8th grade in a public school, and it was so irrelevant and frustrating (because home schoolers are with adults so much that they don't get into a lot of typical middle school stuff) that I asked my parents if I could come home again.  I recommend a higher-performing school or a more nurturing community school if you decide to put your kids in junior high. Everything people are saying here about the crud of middle school was my experience and I didn't need it.  \n\nHowever, the one thing I realized after I entered the corporate workforce in my late 20's, was that I hadn't learned what I call "playground politics" in school (they weren't kidding when they said that "all I ever needed to know I learned in kindergarten"), and so I had to be a quick study of how petty politics of personality work (Ironic, huh? I didn't need this in high school but I did need it in the San Francisco workforce!). I'll never be an expert at playing the game but I think it's also because I'm a more straightforward and optimistic personality and had not really experienced the brunt of passive-aggressive tactics before.  \n\nAlso I think it's very important to know the social players in your environment and your kid's environment, and talk about it with them. Make them aware of what's going on around them and teach them to network and have lots of different kinds of friendships, from the loose aquaintances to the tight-knit. My parents didn't teach me that and I graduated from a high school full of the kids of Silicon Valley millionaires with no clue of what was going on around me.  Also have them do a skills/career options inventory early on so they know what they might be good at or interested in doing with college/career and can be thinking about it before they have to make choices in college.  That doesn't have much to do with homeschooling but sometimes more relaxed families don't think about it. \n\nBottom line: homeschooling spared me a lot of grief, allowed my personality to fully develop, and allowed me to read more than my peers, so I have better reading breadth and comprehension, and my mom taught me phonics and grammar so I can spell and write better than a lot of the teachers I had! I had time to enjoy competitive horseback riding and I had to give that up when I went to school. Homeschooling is great when you have friends to do it with and plenty of interaction with the community.  High school is great for getting ready to go to college and it's at the developmental stage where a child is discovering and defining their individuality. It's a good time to go.