im college student n hav 2 study about 14hrs a day. last yr it was during sm programme i got 2know 4m afriend dat 1guy was interestd in me.at dat time d guy was sitting in front of me.he n i just know each otr but r not frinds.as i nevr expectd ths,i ignored what i had heard n movd 4m dat place. aftr few days he startd watching me in class  n othr places.he tried being good 2me.basically he is very innocent  n cud nevr say anything 2me,hes inteligent handsm nhardworking.im a avg looking girl. whn i was 14yrs i met wid an accident in that i brok both my legs .amajor surgery was done.nails r still presnt in my legs. ithought he was very good 4 me n one day i msgd him dat i was not intrestd nto stop evrrything.d next day he lookd upset n stoppd talking i2 stoppd talking . my problm is i still feel dat i shoud hav told d right reason n waitd for anser.my concentration has becm poor n iv stopd going 2placs where ican find him .evn i stay away 4m common frinds n im all alone.how2cm out of it
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Just have a talk with him and tell him the truth.  He would appreciate that instead of him thinking that you'd rejected him because you didn't like him.  Tell him that you have your own issues to deal with first.
181451
Ask him to help you with something. Guys like helping girls, it makes them feel wanted. Do not play to helpless tho, in the long run this can make you unattractive to him. From here you can find opportunities to be alone with him and just let things happen naturally. If he really does have feelings for you it will work out, just have patients and be his friend first.
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don't feel bad... it's ok.  if he really wanted to work it out, he would've tried. don't blame urself..... he said himself he wasn't trying at all.  it's possible that u answered him later than he was expecting, but love is fickle.. timing is really important.. and love can quickly turn sour when u don't cultivate it.\n\njust try concentrating on school, studies, exercise, friends, family and everything else. make everything Positive, Healthy, and Happy in ur life, so u have a lot to offer to any guy...and u will know when someone is taking care of u the "right" way, not ignoring u... u know?  :)  ur not even saying u wouldn't take him back, ur  just saying that he wasn't giving u any attention. that's a valid reason to be upset, and he needs to listen. if he doesn't do his part to make u feel Secure, then it's partly his fault too!\n\ntake some time out and ignore... be nice, but don't beg him or cry or anything.. life is too short to worry about "shoulda woulda coulda".... if he wants to, he will respond. good luck
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you said that you still like him but you didn't mention if he still likes you and i think he would not get involve with someone else if he is still interested in you.i can suggest that you focus on other things, instead of constantly thinking of him in class why not focus more on your studies, enroll in music or art classes. keep yourself busy until you heal and ready to get into another relationship. good luck:)
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School is a scarry place these days.. I hope that you put this much effort into your studies.... \nThere is a whole life ahead of you and you should not have time to worry yourself about these things.. You will stress so badly that at 18 years of age you will look 25.\nWhen a guy likes you.. nothing keeps him away..If he doesn't have something nice to say to you every single day... He is not worth the time.. Don't even talk to the popular girls anymore.. They can be cruel and dangerous... school is almost out.. Think of all the things you could be doing this summer...Summer romances are the best... I promise.
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i had EXACTLY  same situation,,,love at first site, college ddays gone, never spoken to him.....once i sent him a sms abt frdship with my name n i got reply....now v r frds n chat half d day....\ndon t know whether it ll work 4 u.... don t risk t...hope u get d right advice....all d best...i understand how it is like.....
462709
What are the benefits of having this guy as your "boyfriend"?\n\nIt's possible that your guy is shy, or maybe afraid of getting too involved with a girl, because maybe his friends will harass him. Maybe he feels awkward, and just doesn't know what to do or say. Let him know that you'd like to hang out with him a little more at school, and think of conversation starters. Make a list (for your reference only) of all of the things you'd like to know about him, and the things you want him to know about you. Then, don't deluge or assault him with 2000 questions in one day, but every time you get together with him, try to get a conversation- a dialogue- going. \n\nIf he's still not interested, or is distant, cold, etc, I would suggest that you let this one go, and find a boyfriend who's interested in being half of a couple. You can't expect a school-age boyfriend to dote on you every minute of every day, but you should be able to expect some conversation, and some company. Life's too short to devote it all to someone who's not going to meet you somewhere in the middle. Good luck to ya.
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ok well i am in 10th grade so hopefully i have some good advice.  the guy thinks he is a big shot because he is in high school. he also prob thinks hes cute or something and knows you think hes cute since you smiled and glared at him. he prob noticed it then when he was with his friends he wanted to act like a big shot because a girl smiled and glared at him. so he wanted to seem popular around his buds. and you are right he was just trying to get a reaction out of you. guys are just like that, as you get older you'll learn that all they want is a girls attention and when they do get her attention they feel like they are all that so they will obiously brag about it. think if some hott guy glared at you and smiled at you, wouldnt you go and tell your best friends? thats exactly what he did. hope it all works out for you, good luck in school!
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never loose your class. always smile, be polite and do your job. we all love complements,so a smile and a thank you should be enough. but as all us girls know men can be to assertive. unless hes  drop dead gorgous, you just tell them you have so much going on in your life that your just not interested. if they still persisted, then you call security. have fun your only young once!!!!
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I am so sry, for what happened to u. Trust me the guy is so stupid, and u should be glad this happened b4 u guys did nything intimate. I noe it's hard to forget, but u should go on with life. Many times u will find urself in a drepressing position. Many times. Get over it. There are many guiys in the world. U never mentioned that this one was the perfect one so i'm guessing he wasn't. and even though u were going out it seems like u considered him as a friend. U must have been close, it hurts , i noe. U 'll find ur perfect one someday and u'll forget about this guy. Someday u'll be able to look back at this memory and laugh about it. I would suggest looking forward to that day. Enjoy urself, have fun, study, date, life is too short to have many regrets.
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hey mama I am in the exact same position and my guy friend has mentioned he hates when girls make the first move so I am petrified to tell him, I feel like I have to wait for him to come to me. But he is probably thinking the same as you. Whenever drink, stuff happens and I usually spend every day with him and we do everything together. Work out together, party together, occasionally sleep together the whole 9. Whenever we need anything, we're the first ones each other calls. If you figure this out- lemme know!\nLauramr015@yahoo.com
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okay, the deal is BOTH people need to "feel" it to go to the next step, whatever that is in your situation.\n\nyou don't feel it.  don't feel bad, that's just the way it is.  you have the right to make your own selection, and this guy is not "the one" you want to be with right now.  in other words, your situation, and your feelings are totally normal for a girl.\n\nokay, for the guy.  the good news (AND the bad news) is that this guy's situation and feelings are pretty normal for a "nice" guy, also.  he likes you, so he devotes all his attention to you, thinking this will make you "notice" him or like him.  but what he doesn't understand is that being all clingy and needy gives girls the impression that a guy has no life.  it's not very "manly", and girls like manly guys more than a guy who acts like a lost puppy looking for his mother.\n\ni would say the best thing for HIS long term mental health would be to tell him as much of the truth as you can.  tell him you think he's a nice guy, but you don't see it being more than friends, and this needy clingy thing is not really attractive, and never will be.  tell him "you've pretty much already blown your chances with me, but some other girl is going to find you very sexy once you learn how to not smother her with yourself.\n\nit might seem harsh, but if you mean well and wish him happiness, it's really the kindest thing.
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Well, I would have to assume you're from a small school. Chances are though that this guy will do to you as he has done everyone else. And that's hurt you in the end. If you're prepared for the emotional stress and mature enough to handle then go for it... You only live once!
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flirt and talk with him. If your sitting by him in class or something rub ure leg on his or something like that and see how he reacts if he moves it closer your succeeding if not then too bad. and Don't act like a skank, that is definitely a turnoff for me, but some guys may be different. good luck
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hi yamini, just remember one thing always be with a person who loves you and not the other way round . as you said you go to tuitions that means that you are still studying. first pay attention on your studies if he is the one made for you it will happen soon . You can ask him to be your friend first so you know him .
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Wait at least another week, then I would call him, but don't ask him why he didn't call you or anything like that because it will just annoy him. Act like you weren't even expecting him to call you, and just casually ask him how his exams went. Keep the conversation short, just enough to remind him that you're still there. If he is really shy and you think this might be holding him back from asking you to hang out, you could try making the suggestion that he should hang out with you and your friends sometime. Don't ask him to hang out alone with you unless you KNOW that he is interested in you. After this phone call, if he doesn't call you back again, DON'T pursue this any further.
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Well my man...you could not have handled this any worse. She talks to you and asks if you would like to study together. You assume from that it must mean she wants to be your girl. Girls do not want to be responsible for directly hurting guys. So by not calling back she was telling you she wasn't interested . But in your hot  pursuit you did not get that.\n\nBy calling all the time you made it clear to her you were desperate. No girl wants or needs a desperate boy and not much will chase them off sooner. And man you were desperate.\n\nFrom the beginning you blew it. You had her number. You were going to study together. \nMan what more could you ask for huh? Well you wanted her as a girl friend in the worse way so you really pushed yourself on her.\nThis not only turns a girl off she runs from it. You have to get her interested before you can be her boyfriend. And you must know how to do that.\n\nSo what should you have done. Took the number. Called only when it was time to study. While studying, while you were together, you get to know each other. You begin to develop some social value with her and when and if, only if, the time is right you could make your move.\n\nHave you ever heard of this phrase? The worse you want it the worse you will get it.  Guess what....you are living proof that this phrase is correct.\n\nBack off.....find another girl to study with and this time do it right.