HELP MY SOUL IS IN PAIN my best friernd go to study & work to france & wont return how i cant get on with it?\nWe been one yera togrther a go to work to other state for half year and shee have one year aout i miss her and i cant get pver it helo me how long does this pain and how long this dwell last i can´t hold it more
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Hi\nif she wont return U Should forgot her as love .i mean U can have relation to her as e friend but No love and find new Love for your self but firs be sure that she wont return or she agree with this decision
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Well, I've been away from my 5 best friends for about 2 (almost 3) years &, so far, it's one of the hardest things I've ever had to do...\n\nI left my home country (Cape Verde) to come live in the US...& the day I left was the saddest day of my life...It felt (& still does) like I lost a huge chunk of my own self...\n\nMy best friends & I have known each other since we were about 3 years old (which means that we've known each other for about 14 years now) & always lived in the same street...we used to do EVERYTHING together...wherever you saw one of us you'd be sure to see the other 5...we had the most beautiful relationship (we went on field trips almost every weekend; we used to throw lots of parties; we used to go to each other's family's beach houses regularly, etc.) , but since I moved, things have changed a lot!!!!\n\nAlthough we keep in touch with each other, it's just not the same...I feel sad all the time because now I have no friends (nearby) and spend my days either @ work, @ school and/or @ home (which is totally not me)\n\nI used to be really active, but now I really don't do much (just so you have an idea, I've never been to the movies nor to the beach here in the US, & things that I once enjoyed are just not as fun as they used to be)...but whenever I feel sad I think of the good times my friends and I had together...& although sometimes it makes me feel even sadder that I'm not with them, most of the time it works...\n\nI'm planning on going on vacation next year, but we'll see...\n\nBut you know, my being away from my friends & living in a totally different place has helped me realize how good of a life I used to have as well as it has helped me appreciate all the ppl in my life...
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everyone i think in one point in our lives has felt the same pain. it'll pass. nothin here on earth is permanent, even hurt. \nThink about this.. God sees you in your pain and He knows excatly when to relieve it. One thing's for sure, that happened for a reason. After that, you'll emerge one strong person.\n\nI read that there are stages one has to go through when confronted with pain. First is the denial stage. we refuse to accept the truth and create all sorts of wrong reasons and justification why it happened. Then after that, comes the bargaining phase. in your case, say u bargain to her, wooing her and promising everythin just to win her back - all to no avail. others who are not mature enough often takes too long before they could pass these stages. Often, they intend to stay in misery and refuses to let go. Last stage is acceptance. That's when you finally realised and understood the genuine reason why it happened. You now resolve to go on with your life.\n\nTake it easy man. you'll pass through... i know
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Hi Lvy,\n    i think still ur not  accepting tht its over now , u 've some hope , m i rite ? if not , temme wats reason to remember ur past . it will effect ur coming life if ur goin to continue remembering tht person ...ya if u 've some hope and still want to continue wid him , wat ur waiting for go and tell him tht u can not live without him and ask him not to leave u ....\n   Luy u sud not love them who dun care for ur feelings and u . try to keep in mind tht its all over now and tht was ur past nuthing else .. i think ur young ....and some1 has to some in ur coming life ...think for him atleast start preparing for ur coming "SOME-ONE" . lol ...hahahah i said preparing ...i was saying tht washout ur mind and dun go after ur past .......every1 have some past and we have to forget tht ...\n   one more thing Keep Smiling .........:)\n     sorry if any of my word hurttttss
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Time heals all things! I was in the same boat about a year ago. I thought I was going to die, I wanted to die. The pain in my heart made me sick(literally), but then one day I realized hey it doesn't hurt as much as it did. It took me almost a full year to get over him, but now I am over him, and I just met the sweetest guy in the world. You just have to make yourself go out and have fun. I surrounded myself with fun happy friends and just made myself have fun. At first I was miserable, but then I started having a good time. Now I can be alone and not be sad. It just took time. I promise it will get better, just hang in there sweetie. If you ever want to talk, hit me up at clabarre81@yahoo.com.
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This question has no answer that can possibly relieve your pain, I'm very sorry for your loss and I hope you are able to live your life to the fullest.\nI hope you are able to find a support group to help you through this time.
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i really feel you, i just experienced the same ordeal.she didnt go to another country, but she was only 2 hours away.i can tell you that alot of times long distant relations dont work, or at least they havent worked for me.
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I can relate and I know where your coming from. It is hard to pick up the pieces of your shattered dreams and get on with your life. \n\nYou first need to tell yourself that life can be hard but you can over-come. \nThan you need to tell yourself that no one is at fault. not her not you. that sometimes things just dont work out. \nYou need to amend this by sending her a note or talking to her and without making her feel your pain say good-bye. \nTake a good long look at yourself. Forgive yourself for any promises you made and never kept. This is called cleaning the soul. \nSit down and write only the positive things you can see in your life. never list negative things. \ntake a few days to get away from your life. I usually go to the mountains and nature outlets do a little camping and fishing. Tell yourself that when you get back your going to make new goals and work hard to build a firm lifestyle. \nonce you get back call some friends and have a get together and just have some fun but make sure you do not mention any problems and inform your friends the same. all these things will prime your mind to get started - the rest wont seem so hard but you must keep in mind that life does not end when something goes bad but restarts. \nFor every door that slams shut on you another opens up. \ngood luck
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1. u will know when u have found it nobody can answer that for u \n2. im in a similar position the way i c it is life is too short to keep this thing in your head the pain will hurt for a long time but u cannot let it rule ur life, go to the grave speak to this person or just talk to them when ur in bed they will hear u, it wont happen overnight but given time things will get better
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Ugh, been down that road, and I still feel the pain when I remember back.  But, at the moment nothing is gonna make it go away for you, it's still hurting you too much just yet.  \n\nUnfortunately time really is the only thing that will help.  You'll move on, you'll learn to trust another man someday (you just don't think so right now) and you'll find another guy that will make you fall 'in love' once again.\n  \nPatience and time...I wish the best for you.
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hey pal..even i hav been betrayed by my frendz and i knw how it feels,ive got over it wid a lot of difficulty.but U GOT TO HAVE FRENDZ IN UR LIFE!they r the ones who will b wid u till the end of ur life n guide u n support u.but be careful in choosin frendz the next time as u dont want the same thing 2 happen wid u again.i hope n pray tht u will get a frend who will b understandin n will b wid u alwayz.hope this helped.
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Live with your choice.  That is what life is all about.  If you feel like you need additional time to kick yourself in the butt, do so.  Learn to express your regret, write it if you cannot speak to anyone about it.\nYou do not have to go through this alone.  Pay attention to those around you and you can find help.\nTime will pass.  This is not the end of the world, it just may seem that way now.
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you must feel so mixed up and betrayed but try to focus on how lucky you have been to only lose three years and a few DVDs. Give yourself a holiday if you can and spend sometime with friends and family. Talk and cry about it until you feel better but keep away from him. I found out someone I lived with was a gangster and robbed banks for kicks. When I found out he was lying about himself and tried to leave him I got a beating and he hired people to kill me. Thank God I survived. My advice count your blessings, change your phone numbers and get this creep out of your life, your heart and your head. sorry you are hurting so much but real love is out there. keep the faith
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I can relate to you perfectly. The guy I have been with for just about a year did not know if he wanted to keep the relationship going. After a long talk I said I was willing to work on it but he still needed time to think it has been like 6 days now and he hasn't even called me. Your entitled to be sad and angry after all she wasn't 100% honest with you and that is always painful. About the being torn part the best thing I can say to you is to pray and ask who ever your god may be to give you the strength to get past this and to open your mind and heart so that you can know what it is you have to do. Also taking a break with her might not be a bad thing after all you never know what you have until you lose it. Good luck and I'll keep you in my prayers.
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I understand!  But life is like that.  It is never fair.  It will take time to try to forget (maybe a few weeks to a couple of months) but you will have to start healing.... make new friends, find new hobbies, study and work with passion!  You will never really forget .... but it will be less painful .... don't run after him okay? ... it will make you look pathetic and needy.  Take good care of yourself!
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Snowbunny, feeling the way you do is perfectly normal. Sometimes you don't know what you had until you loose it, I kow how you feel... No matter who you talk to, its like nobody understands or they can't grasp what you're going through and so you can't seem to get over this depression because even the advice your friends or parents give you still doesn't feel good enough. You just want to cry, you feel like treating everyone around you the way you feel. Can't eat, Can't sleep and you can't remember the last time you really smiled from your heart, but trust me when I say, if its meant to be, he will come back and you guys can try again. It won't be tomorrow or next month, no one knows but trust me. And what ever you do, don't consider hurting yourself over something that might feel "like the end of the world" to you. I've got a scar for every heartbroken event in my life when I was either used or mistreated. 5 years of bad memories but looking back now, I found someone who loves me the way none of those in the past could, even though I thought so that time. Thinking of you snowbunny..... good luck hey!
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You will not find an easy answer here. I can't even begin to understand all the hurt you must feel, but you can make it through this. You need close friends to lean on and a lot of time to heal. You need to be able to express whatever you feel openly -- maybe even go see a counseler. It sounds like you've been through a lot and my heart goes out to you. Be strong, but don't bottle up your feelings. You will be okay.