my ex gf says that she wants to go out with me again. But she told me that she likes someone else and she says that she might do something with him cause she hangs out with him a lot. But she says that she loves me and only wants to be with me. What do i do and what do i tell her
131414
She is you ex for a reason. No don't give her another chance. Tell her that you can only be her friend and if you have ever been intimate with her then just get sex from her until you find that special someone that interest you.
400189
My man, either she doesn't have faith in her ability to be in a relationship, she's holding out for something else, or she doesn't know what the heck she wants.  \n\n1) She likes you as a friend, you have fun together, she doesn't want to risk that by having a relationship with you because she thinks it would end in disaster and you would not be friends any longer...\n\n2) ...or he wants to keep  you around in case she doesn't get the guy she really wants, she can use you as a backup....\n\n3) ...or she's a ditzy-brained bird who can't figure out what the heck she wants.\n\nAny way this is playing out, the girl has some stuff to work out and you'd do well not to hang your heart on her, so move on, find someone else and don't let yourself get hurt!
634109
if you really think that in her heart she really wants you back, maybe going on a few dates may send a different message to her - that you really don't care about her as much as you said. She seems as if she is taking her time to think about what happened with your relationship and if its a good idea to reconcile. The important thing is that you've been sincere and you let her know how much you love her and would like a second chance, give her as much time as you think to make her decesion, but waiting too long will prevent you from moving on with your life
343796
i think you should stop calling her. I realize it will be difficult as sounds as though you really care for her but she is playing with your feelings. Sounds like she is out for her and not ready to be in a relationship. A friend of mine just went through something similar. Each time he got hurt more and more.  Guess I would tell her how you feel about what she is doing then if it continues its time to find someone new or accept the fact that is how she is.
213490
don't count on getting back together, or being very good friends for that matter. my ex gf said the same thing about maybe getting back together, now shes dating one of my friends and we barley ever talk
61823
I dont think she is playing a game. You two broke up and i think your prolonged contact with her is making it hard for her to let go. She might well have feelings for you still but having feelings for someone doesn't mean she wants to be with you. You giving her things keeps her feeling obligated to talk to you. I would wish her a happy valentines day and tell her happy birthday when it rolls around but back off to some degree. The only real way to know if she wants to get back together with you is to be straight up and ask or back off and see if she comes looking for you.
316143
HELL NO, Do you want another guy touching your lady? I wouldn't. What the hell is up with people these days over the 3 sums? I like it with me and my partner and NOONE else. But that is up to you. You have to live with the fact that your g/f wants to be with another man. What if she like it or him? Will you be willing to have another? I dont
331763
whats with him and ex's?  Youre an ex he's back with, now you're concerned about another ex.  Alarms went off when I read this. You need to be sure you're who he wants before you get hurt.  Give him a chance to be certain what he wants before you invest your heart into this once failed relationship.
425856
i think she's being honest with you and that she really doesn't want to tie you down...but on the other hand if you had already told her that you'd only want her then i think i will not let you go anymore...i just did what i had to do that is to let you know that i am open to possibilities that you might want to see someone else...but in your case, you are not wanting that...so,\n\ni think....maybe, just maybe...she just want to be out coz there is someone...but then why wait for you if there was someone else? maybe she just want to sort things out...let her have her space then...if she comes back and you find it in your heart that you still want her then go for it...\n\nif you don't want this option then talk to her and tell her that you still want to continue...if she said, no...then, you have to let go...nothing you can do here.
566188
If she doesn't want to do anything with you, then she's not into you.  She may have another bf......  no big deal.  Just ask someone else out.
100402
No. You need to let your girl handle it. Tell her you support her and that she is more than welcome to ask your help if she feels she needs it. My question to you though is what is your girl telling her ex? Is she making it known that she is seeing someone else and is happy in that relationship? Let your girl know that you have no problem stepping in to take care of the situation if her ex won't listen to her.
302838
think about this first..... you go out with this girl, you break up....... you risk losing 2 friends......\nnow do you want 2 go out with her?
649557
you already know the right decision.  move on!!!  do you really want to give her another chance to hurt you?  sounds like this is a heartless girl anyways so why would you want to date her? don't be blinded by love cuz nobody deserves to be treated like she treated you.
156790
She doesn't like you anymore. You can't force her to like you again. Besides, she's your ex. It's best to just get over it.
82814
I don't mean to be mean, but it isn't possible for her to love both you and her new boyfriend at the same time. It sounds to me as if she is keeping you on a string just in case the new boyfriend doesn't work out for her. You didn't say why you broke up or if she broke up with you or vice versa, but it sounds to me as if she is enjoying putting you through all of this. I know you don't want to hear this, and I am sorry I have to say it, but I think you need to care enough about yourself to realize you deserve better than being strung along and you need to respect yourself enough to not allow yourself to be played this way. Move on and find that special person who will love and respect you the way that you deserve. Even if you were to blame for the break up, you don't deserve to be treated this way. We all make mistakes. I know this will be hard, but it will be the best thing for you. If she truly loved you she would not be able to hurt you this way. Good Luck! \n\nSS
399850
shes confused and doesnt know what she wants. yet at the same time she doesn't want to loose you. she will eventually talk to you again. but this time, don't be wide open and just take her back everytime she wants you back. cuz shes gonna do it again. make sure she knows your getting tired of this
323520
She probably still loves you but she doesn't want to fully immerse herself back into the relationship bc she wants to feel that she is in control of the situation.  If its been since last year, she's had some time to think and may not be so sure about wanting to be with you.  You did  give her some time to get over you a little bit.  So she's probably just trying to see whether or not she feels you are the man for her still.  One of the most important things for a woman is having that sense of security with her man.  You broke up w/her so she doesn't feel secure anymore.  Keep taking her out and romancing her.  If she doesn't have someone else in her life that she's into and you can make her trust the relationship again she'll come around.  Good luck.