i love(i guess) this girl i cant get her out of my head everything i do shes in my thoughts and i cant see why she likes this kid when he does nothing for her maybe i just do to much and he does when im not around i just need to forget about her but i cant if you have any advice at all it would be helpful
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its her loss if she cant see that you'd do anything for her. tell her that you wanna take her out? goodluck
184692
i know how u feel me and my girl kissed when she left my house one time and my sister-in-law saw it....dont feel so bad if u love ur girl then just try to get a long w/ her mom even if she dont like u. if she loves her daughter then she will love her and her mate just the same. give it time it will get better. it did for me
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Ummm....how old are you for one??? Another thing is are you doing things you wouldn't normally do like making sure you are somewhere you know he will be before he gets there and then making sure he sees you.  If you're blatantly being annoying and he is avoiding you then it's stalker/obsession and believe me I speak from experience I was that way about the same girl for 3 years but she was leading me on and playing with my mind even though she wasn't really interested in me.  If you can look ahead and see yourself possibly getting married or having children with or even living with this guy then it's probably love, even if it's misguided and he doesn't love you it's still love.  I've heard it more and more lately and I tend to agree with this "somtimes love just isn't enough" because love is the igniter but hard work, determination, and a level head is the key to making love work.  But that's just my opinion. Hope that answered your question.
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Getting over it can be the toughest thing you'll ever have to do but trust me it will happen for you. In my experience getting as far away and having absolutely no contact with the person worked for me. Also try to get out and meet new girls, not necesarily to date but to hang out with, a companion. Sometimes a little positive girl attention is what will work to help you see how imporatant and special you are on your own. Keep smiling and dont change for anyone. In my opinion its her loss:)
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you can't stop thinking at her but you must do something else. follow my advice and will be pas this\nproblem. trying to find somebody else.Trying to consolate with idea :it's something human will be pass or " the man it's a man"or "follow the heart" or "pls :keep going ma man /it's my word in my contry/"(noroc)!
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she must like u too for saying that she can't imagine being a part of ur life, sounds like she feel she doesn't deserve how u feel about her. As for getting quiet mayb she's clearing her head too(seriously) or mayb she was busy. But honestly, give her some time to think things over becuz it could've been too sudden for her but a hands to u for expressing ur feelings which I'm sure is not going to go unnoticed. Just give it some time & she may realize how she feel bout u too.
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Oh my god, like so many things in my life im glad im not the only one in strange situations.  I dont really think this question has a viable answer that anyone can tell you. There is no black and white and this one, its all grey.  I believe that if you like her then you should stand by her, but dont wedge yourself between her and her Bf.  Show her your love and that you care for her, she will love you more for understanding than for telling her that she messed up.  and thats what i think that she more than likely did. You guys had issues, she was upset and thought it would be better on "the other side". Truth is no matter what one does things will always be bad untill they love themselves and who they are. She likes girls, she realizes that now.\n\nYoure going to have problems with the father of the child. (he has a penis). But because of the child he forever has to be a part of her life. Nothing you can do about that.\n\nJust take her in and accept her, help her through this time. If she plays with you then thats just life. We cannot predict exactly what she will think in the future.  If you really want to be with her, then just roll with it.\n\nsorry sweetheart, maybe im just babbling but i dont know what else to say. wish i could help.
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Take a break, let her realise for herself hes a loser. You need to play abit more harder to get, I know you love her very much but a girl likes to chase, not to be chased! if you get what i am saying, if u r the right one then she will realise. if she doesnt realise then its her loss. Atleast u learnt ur lesson to try n be urself more, then maybe she will c u for who u r. She is 2 obsessed with this druggo to think of you as more than a friend, howabout you talk to her best friend (female friend) and tell her what is going on? She needs to hear about the other guy from someone elses mouth otherwise she will pretend to herself you r just making up the stories about him being a druggi so that you will seem better than him. Send her a bunch of red roses one day, do whatever you can to make her come to her senses, as to forgetting the other guy- figure out whether he is interested in her or not, if he doesnt want anything to do with her than she needs to know that so she can get over him!!\n\nYou probably love her so much because she was your first love, and they are always the hardest to get over.\n\nSorry i wrote so much..\n\nGoodluck with everything and i hope it all works out :)
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you really cant let go you have a child together emotionally its always going to be hard she was your first love my advice is try to find things to do with your time you and your daughter together and just remember what goes around comes around
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hold on dude youll get her eventually..........i live out of state from my gf that i have dating since high school and its wicked hard...i miss her so much...i dont get to see her nearly as much as i would like....im going crazy...i see her everywhere i go....but on the bright side when i do see her its wonderful!!!  we always have a wonderful time (mega sex) and its enough to keep us in love.....\n\ndont stop talking!!!! talk to her as much as you can....you dont get to see her so take advantage of whatever you can get!!!\n\nyoull regret it big time if you try to just forget her....
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dear jeeyaa, u still have a chance to love someone younger than her.. i prefer u to forget her.. find a new girl.. u cant support her.. she's too old for u..
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why are you afraid to tell her that you dont like her behavior? I was in your situation when I was in collage and this girl was always chasing me! she wanted to be where I was because i was with my handsome and popular friends all the time (what could i do if they were my classmates!) anyway, one day I was just not in the mood to deal with her and I said: you know what, you have very good qualities but IT BOTHERS ME that you are with me because you want to hang out with my friends. Soooo.... stop being so obvious and let me have fun with them!  so, she got my point. she never spoke to me again (and my friends were happy for that too). it was sad because after all she was a good girl but A REAL PAIN IN THE BUTT!
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you seem like such a lovely guy and to be honest.. from what you have said   that girl does not deserve you.. You deserve someone who will love you as much as you love her.. and im sure she's out there somewhere.. it seems like this girl is keeping you on standby just incase things don't work out with the other guy..and even if she does loose this guy she will have another on standby sooner or later...she knows your too good for her and she's taking advantage of it!!please do yourself a favour and start the process of letting her go now cause it will take time .. and time heals!! and the one thats right for you will come along after you have healed from this girl.You derserve better and i think you know it !!It's not worth loving someone who doesn't do the right thing by you hun!It eventually makes your heart turn cold!
510991
I have the same problem. It seems like he likes me then he goes and talks (flirty, but not as much with her than with me). I get so jealous I try to calm myself though.good luck
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Dude you are in the friend zone and you will never get out.\nJust find someone new and start thinking of this girl as a friend. You let her slip away and now shes never coming back. Shes a friend and thats it. Sorry!!! I have been there, I have done that and it just hurts the longer you allow yourself to like her. Just drop your thoughts of getting back together with her and move on. Again im sorry dude.
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Listen exes no matter what always have a piece of someones heart no matter how bad relationships have gone there is always that one memory that keeps it coming back. If you will give this girl the world then give her your support, guys again have trouble showing emotion so we really dont understand, but the fact of the matter is shes with you, she stays with you, and that should be good enough for you. Shes not running to him and she has been open and honest with you, now you need to take whatever she gives you and work with it, support is the most important thing, start at step one and work your way up, I know its hard but swallow a little pride and do it.
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Whatever it is, just get a life for yourself and lead a better future! Everyone had been through this stage and see how far we've got! Don't be too upset, it's definitely part & parcel of a growing up stage. Once it's over, you'll get to be tougher and learn to be stronger. Well, all I can say is she's tired of being with you for a total of 4yrs and she's seeking for another lover who can or maybe excite her in different ways. Don't think so much and trust me, you'll SURE get over her. And you'd probably know how great & amazing it is when you finally get her off your mind. Your heart doesn't hurt anymore and you slowly forget the images of her! Ok, what I can suggest to you is do alot of excercises, read books that makes you doze off and try to occupy your time fully, that helps to waste off your energy and makes you tired so you can sleep soundly without having to miss her in the night! Lastly, it all depends on you, if you want to forget her, you must make sure you can do it. It's always mind over body, don't forget that!!! If you've a weak mind, then I can't help much! Ultimately, you shd know what you want!