Because of the erection problem, we often have mutual masterbation and this feels good. We still feel close to each other (I do miss more penetration though). He also takes an awful long time to cum. We do all sorts of things, from phisical to 'roll play'. Any advice?
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First you want to see if it is physical. Start with the erection problem. See weather or not he gets nocturnal erections. If he does not it is physical and he needs a urologist. For the ejaculation problem check with a urologist first to rule out any physical problems. If neither problem is physical there are so many things it could be.\nNumber 1 is a medication side effect.\nThe second thing is call TMS or traumatic ma$turbatory syndrome. Does your husband ma$turbate in the prone position? This is laying on his belly thrusting against something. If so he needs to stop doing that and ma$turbate in the normal way.\nNext are any type of depression or anxiety disorders (this includes general, social, PTSD, OCD etc).\nCan he ejaculate more quickly or maintain an erection by himself but not with a partner?\nYou need to explore all the possibilities to find the root cause of his problem so that it can be treated. He may just need your help but he may also need to see a urologist or psychiatrist.
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This one is easy...GET ON TOP!!!! And make sure he understands that he doesn't c*u*m until you do. He needs to tell you if he needs you to slow down during intercourse so that he doesn't get off before you. Now, straddle that man and get busy, girl. Make sure you kind of lean your hips forward so that your clit is resting on his pelvic area. The back and forth motion that you make while you're riding him will drive your clit crazy...and eventually you will c*u*m. It may take a while...just don't give up. It's a proven fact that most women have to have some sort of clitoral stimulation in order to get off. There's nothing wrong with you. And if all else fails...break out the porn when you're gettin' busy. That will make it more fun for both of you, I'm sure!
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It might sound crazy but dont think about it.  An ex of mine had a similar problem and we dound that if he thought about something completely different during intercourse that it helped prolong it.  Over time he was able ot control it for longer periods of time.  Best i can do I am sorry.
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I've noticed that my husband also orgasms quicker when we don't have sex frequently. I suppose a part of it is the underlying excitement in your mind. I find sex to be better and more exciting when it's not a daily thing, perhaps that's why.
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Well, you could try the "head pinch" technique when he's about to finish, or get some over-the-counter desensitising cream where you buy condoms, but there is one more bit of information you need to give before anyone can give youu good advice: How long does he last and how long would it take for you to finish?\n\nIt could be *you're* taking too long, in which case you should masturbate more on your own to better tune yourself in to what gets you there, in addition to the increased foreplay you should have in either case.\n\nMy wife & I don't have that problem. I finish her before I start.
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I have the exact same problem, i cannot orgasm during sex. i thought it was something my husband was doing wrong becasue he's the only guy i've ever been with. but one day when my gynecologist was examining me i just asked her opinion and she said that my something is very far back making hard to reach orgasm by penetration. im not sure what part she said exactly. im sorry to tell you but there's no hope for us. But still do other things that excite you. Just because you cant orgasm doesnt mean it cant be fun. Dont fake it, go to the doctor and find out whats going on with your body and if you have the same propblem i have tell your husband. Mine understood, even though he was hurt.
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Hello Prissy, it sounds like the two of you are world's apart on your desire. You do love him though and he loves you.\nCan you talk to each other and reach some sort of compromise?\nI take it that he is good about pleasuring you or does he?\nThat could be a part of it also. I would suggest that you two sit down somewhere comfortable and have a honest and open talk about this. I wanted sex more than my wife did for many years.\nOne of the things we have done is one night each week,  I give her a complete body rub using oil or cream. After this she is so relaxed that she is ready for anything, including me!\nIt's not 3 times a day but he is going to have to lower his expectations a bit here and find ways to get you interested too!\nJust talk, stay positive and know that you love each other.\nGood luck!
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I have the same issue sometimes and the more you do it the more frustrated you get and so you keep trying...its a never ending cycle. It could be that you are putting too much pressure on yourself, it could be that he is too fast, slow, small, etc. Positions seem to be something that you can vary to see what works best. The first thing you have to do is stop thinking so much about it, relax. If its not a normal issue for you then there isn't anything wrong with you physically. Try some different things and don't be too hard on yourself. http://www.allsexguide.com
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Try to do workouts and more kegals..... Also talk with your doctor and see what they suggest. He also needs to make sure you are really lubed up and ready for him. He should try oral on you and let you climax and then use ky jelly and be gentle and slow and take his time so he does not hurt you. Have you tried being on top so that you can control things? Try buying a couples toy so that during intercourse you both are stimulated.... I hope this helps you some and i wish you the best.
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Hey it happens...men are pretty sexual beings and they are lucky to have the ability to have such immediate responses...sometimes. Try to get him to slow down...spend some more time focusing on you and your body..and giving you pleasure first...then take a minute before letting him do his thing. As a man he is really in tune with the sensation of about to reach climax...get him to realize this and he,,or you can stop it grasping him right behind his testicles and apply some pressure to that area until the sensation subsides. It will take some practice. You need to apply the pressure to the underside of the penis, pushing up and in where the testicles are up against his body. This is an ac-cue pressure point that relieves sexual tension. After trying this a few times in a session your partner should find that he can last longer, and won't loose his erection. Another trick that works, but not as practical is to have him masturbate about 20 min or so before sex then he should have better staying power. Good luck and have fun!!!
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I've caught my husband doing it frequently also. We had a talk about it though and he told me sometimes he just doesnt feel like sex because he needs release and just wants to get it over with. I actually woke up one night and he was releasing himself while watching a porno on mute. I freaked out about it. I love pleasing him and it offends me too. Although I can kind of relate to why he does it without me sometimes because I do it without him sometimes too. I just dont want to have sex sometimes. it seems though that he doesnt want to have sex with you at all...and if that is what your saying, let him catch you a few times...if it doesnt make him jump your bones right then...I guess the only thing to do is look into couples therapy. Some guys are actually addicted to masterbating.
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ok  premature ejaculations  can  be  phyysiologic or pathologic well but in most  common cases its because hes new to it so by time he will hold it longer  there are so  excersise you both can do to  make the impovement  faster like prolonging the foreplay and like u masterbating for him and befor he feels like  ejaculating u should  stop give it a  30 sec  rest  then start again ,,,,,........
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I feel for ya. \nBy the way, I noticed your question about premature ejaculation, and wanted to help.\nTo help him help himself, get him to excercise his "pc" muscles--stands for pubococyxx, or something like that, and you have them too. When he urinates, have him clench down to stop the flow--those are his pc muscles. The simplest way to excercise them is by stopping and starting urination. Then, when you two get back in the bedroom, he can clench down to stop ejaculation--although it does take willpower.\nFor external help, there are several possibilities, depending on how kinky you want to get. Wearing a thicker condom is a good solution, most of the time. There are also creams availible. And of course, you can try a c0ck ring--or c0ck rings. Play around, have fun with it!\nAnd in the meantime, feel flattered that you excite him so much.
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JUST KEEP PLAYING AROUND. HE SHOULD BE THERE FOR YOU IN ABOUT 20 MIN. FOR ANOTHER RUN AT IT. HE CAN ALWAYS DO OTHER THINGS TO MAKE YOU CUM.
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He just doesn't want it to get boring.  I get scared of the same thing b/c I do want sex all the time with my man.  I LOVE HIM!  But you just have to talk with him and give it time.  Maybe they dated a long time and that's why he was comfortable doing crazy sex scenes with her.  Your time will come.  OKAY?
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It's hard - find out what he's doing and maybe try and be involved.\n\nA blowjob works wonders - believe me I've been there...!
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You really don't need medicine! Just learn to control your pace. You can practice with masturbation. You just go until you are close to cumming...but stop short and take a break until that feeling subsides...and then continue again. You can really learn to go as long as you want...and oh that ejaculation will feel good when it finally happens (which is whenever you and/or your partner want it to!). Of course when you are f---ing, you need your partner's co-operation in stopping the friction (her moving too!) when you tell her you are getting close. It takes some practice but it works! As a short term solution I would suggest jacking off a couple of hours before you have sex with your partner. The second ejaculation should definitely take longer.