My mom borrowed money at work, but she is paying it back every month, now i know it is wrong to borrow money and not ask, but the people she works with is family and she was to shy to ask them espesily her boss he is her cousin but he always brags about everything and just gives his kids money out of the works account, so now today the bookkeepers and her boss wants to see her does she have a foot to stand on or what will happen to her? Please help i am so worry about her and so sceared she does something to herself.
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Yikes! First of all, even though what she did is very wrong we have all don't things in our lives that we are not proud of.  Now knowing your financial situation I will not condemn your mother. Secondly, this is a very serious situation and I am not sure what will happen.  In most cases the boss would not ever consider keeping the employee.  However, the fact that she is family is a very good thing for her. This may really work to her benefit.  You should just relax and don't worry about things that are beyond your control.  Say a little prayer to God and just be there for your mom.  Everything will work out! Good luck and God bless!
517313
don't use the money, they most likely will notice that they made a mistake. I would call them and tell them that they are overpaying you. or go back to the office with the money and tell them what is going on. if they say they overpaid then you will have to give them the money back but if they say the money is yours, then you can keep it. if they ask for it back and you don't give it back, they can and will sue you, I am sure you don't want that
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I think the boss is taking advantage of her.  She should contact the authorities right away.  If she gets fired, she is better off.\n\nTell her to keep complete and accurate records of all her unpaid work.\n\nMy son is also putting in an extra unpaid day at his work, \ndoing training every Saturday.  He claims it will help him in the future.  I believe the boss is taking advantage of him also, but it is voluntary on his part.
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Toni, I think I used to work with her sister; I knew someone just like that. She sounds like a piece of work, and unfortunately there's someone like that at every job, at every church, in every group. But, you didn't take that job for her, and don't lose that job over her. It sounds like you have a lax group of managers that they don't respond to your complaints, but trust and believe they will step in and level their authority once you take matters into your own hands. Don't stoop to her level, but elevate her to yours. Be strong, be patient, and eventually a positive change will take place to remove her as a headache in your life. There will be a promotion, transfer, something, to get her off your back. Actually, you sound pretty funny, maybe one day we can talk and you can come join myself and a sharp female doctor in our business and you won't have to worry about coworkers or bosses. With your sense of humor and your medical background, I think you could do quite well. Good luck to you, and I don't want to see a posting from you asking if anybody knows a good lawyer to represent you for assault (lol) It will get better.
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Yes, my ex boss was mean to me all the time. She used to yell at me and tell me that I needed to grow up. I used to get the blame for stuff that I knew that I had not done. And when I would try to defend myself she would say, "Well maybe you just spaced out from all the medication you are on!" And I am not on any medications.\n\nThere was also a time that money turned up missing that I honestly believe that never existed. My boss mentioned it in front of customers. And then in the end she fired me over it. I did not take it but in the end I had to pay that money back.\n\nMy best friend who still works there says that someone who once worked with the boss says that that they have done that to people before. And that the money was probably never there at all.\n\nOther people say that they probably did it for unemployment. Either way I had money taken out of my paycheck without my permission and I did not take that money in the first place!!! No police were involved in this or anything.\n\nI never did anything about it. I didn't know what I could do or that I even could do anything.
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Sometimes with families you have the 'sponge' one that always relies on others to support them etc.  I didn't say that to be mean just pointing out an observation. I think your mother is looking out for you, she doesn't want you to have to give up what you have worked hard for to support somebodies elses decision she may consider wrong.  I don't know the history of your family, is this your aunts 5 baby or first?  Does she act responsible and is just caught in a bad situation at the time?  IF you give your aunt everything where are you going to be-what if tomorrow you find out you have a family after you have given your money away?  IS THE MONEY GOING TO HELP THE SITUATION OR PROLONG A PROBLEM???  if you give money how is it going to affect your relationship with your mother?\n\nBest of luck in your decision
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You did it so why can't they also try and improve their lot in live. Just because you have become more successful is not any reason for people to try and take advantage of you financially.  With Christmas coming I imagine your going to hear all kinds of sob stories.  How did they survive while you were working your arse off to get your business to where it is today?  Be as honest with them as you can and let them know that your not a ATM and would appreciate if they all would cease asking you for help financially.  Congratulations on your business becoming successful and all the hard work you have put into it.  Bravo!!!
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Oh MY GOSH!! That really makes my skin crawl, a son gives his mother his paycheck to pay her bills and SHE ACTUALLY TOOK IT!!! You need to be mad at both of them!!! And you need to remind him that HE has a family to provide for and that even though it is important for him to be there for his mom---THE KIDS AND YOU COME FIRST!! Whats NEXT?? Is he gonna let her come and live with you or will you be moving in with her because you got evicted because of this? Message me if you want to vent...I feel your pain.
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I have alot of experience with this and I have learned one important thing....there are one of these people at every single job/workplace.  If you are not his supervisor, do nothing.  It seems the boss likes him so your best bet is to go to work, do your thing, keep to yourself, then go home.
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I don't see anything wrong with it. I went to the store with my Mom or my Aunt until I moved out.(and when I visit I still like going with my mom) I liked helping and besides sometimes you can ask for stuff you like and they get it. Plus you get brownie points with them for helping out and that's always good. I wouldn't let what others say get to you they might be jealous that you are not worried what other people think and are more interested in helping out your mom and getting something for being helpful. It's a win-win if you ask me! ^.^
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hi, she is just your gf. you don't know what might happen to your relationship with her in the future. don't give your money to her. she sound like she like to have your money and not paying back which is so unfair. i know you  love her but she has to control herself. and also, if you are going to loan money for her, let her sign an agreement to pay whatever amount you guys agreed to pay every month. think about yourself too not just hers. anyway, that's not your problem. yes, you can help but don't shoulder all of it. good luck!\n\n i am a woman with almost the same problem and my ex bf paid all my debt, unfortunately, we broke up  and there's no aggreement for me to pay him back every month and now he is suffering to pay for it. careful! i don't wanna do it again though and thinking i will pay him the whole amount at the end of this year but i will just surprise him. he don't know my plan of paying him the whole amount.
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"For example, if you overheard a piece of a conversation where the person was saying how they could afford to buy something new, and you knew that they had debts with someone locally, would you confront them about the purchase or would you contact the person they owed? "\n\nI just took a tid bit out but you can see where I am taking this from.  Right there you are contradicting your argument.\n\nIn one section you are talking about eaves dropping and not getting into other peoples business. And in another you talking about confronting someone about someone else's problem.  You have a point I just feel that you are explaining your self the wrong way.  Gossip will happen all of your life in every place you go. Work, School, even Church.  \n\nI can understand that it is frustrating when you hear people do this, but technically you are doing it yourself and not even realizing it.  When you hear someone say something behind someones back and you tell your friend "Now that is messed up." and then rant about people being the way they are and talk about how they should say that to that persons face, you are just doing it yourself.\n\nLet me ask you this. If you hear someone saying something about your friend, you would confront them about it, but would you also go and tell your friend that so and so was saying this about them.\n\nBy no means am I cutting up your question I am just suggesting to you to take a closer look at the situation and realize that everyone does it to a degree, some more than others but we all do it.
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Bit harsh isn't it?  Blimey the kid hasn't done anything wrong for you to take his pocket money away!!  You're supposed to use that one as a punishment not a bribe.\n\nI agree with ILOVEMARMITE and I quote;\nWhy should he get a job. Teach him rather to have a responsibility in the house to earn his pocket money !! Its not the 1950's anymore !!\n\nTo add, his sister is only 9 ffs!  How much pocket money does she get and what does she do for it?  The differences between a 9 year old and a 13 year old are massive in terms of emotions etc.  Your son is a teenager and doesn't know if he wants to be an adult or a kid at the monent.  Give him back his money but go along the lines of " I'll start you off at a (say) £1 per job.  I will give you 10 jobs to do every week and IF they are completed you get the cash, if not, you only get paid for the ones that have been".\nThis works in my household and theres the added bonus of yoou not being the bad guy as you've laid out the ground rules already.\nGood luck
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ok hunny been there done that.  with your sweetie i cant give a guarenteed answer but i had that problem with my son's father when we were together. he thought it was his responsibilty to look after his mom.  last straw for me was when she "borrowed" 200 bucks to take his sister back to the mainland for ferry and gas and i found out that she used it to go bowling. man i was pissed beyond recognition since the money came out of my account which i used to pay ALL the bills and he wouldnt ask her to pay it back. in your case hes the child and unless they are unable to work or seriously something wrong with them then his responisbility is to you and his children.........however many kids there are and his parents should know that their grandbabies come first and foremost. doesnt matter whose kids they are they are always first and shame on his ex for trying to stick him with two kids that arent his. personally i wouldnt put up with whats going on but maybe make a really big chart and stick it up somewhere really obvious (maybe in the bathroom right over the toilet where he presumably STANDS every morning to take a piss and cant miss it) and put up a couple column where you detail the money your bro gives you for gas and the money his parents drain out every month and ask him how if hes going to support his parents where is the money going to come from for paying child support plus all the monthly bills. family is only as important as you make them and he needs to get rid of his and be a big boy. if they want to know his every move maybe perhaps you should suggest to his parents that he get his old room ready so he can move back in it or offer to move your entire family his kids your kids an all into THEIR house so that they can be in control and you can stay rent free and they can babysit.  all else fails change your phone number refuse to open your door and have all the accounts put in your name with only you being able to access them. or as suggested by the others then by all means kick his ass to the curb............ but thats up to you and how much more of this you are willing to deal with.
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Hi, my daughters name is Mercedes. Look, I am a manager in a restaurant and see it everyday. Don't worry about it. You are there to make money, not friends. If you make a friend in the process, great. Keep focus, do your job and the only ones you need to pay attention to is your boss(es). They sign your check, they give raises, they are the ones that are there for YOU. It is THEIR job to be there for YOU!
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I have dealt with this issue ALOT because I am the first to graduate from college and BY FAR the most successful career-wise and financially in my family.  I am always telling them NO for just about everything that they ask for and the reason why is because I dont want them to rely on me each time they get THEMSELVES into a jam.    Its not my RESPONSIBILITY to bail them out.  Plus every dime I send to them takes away from what I am trying to do.  Adults have to handle their OWN business, including his family.
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Breathe dude. Don't let her have that kind of power over you. You can't control others, and sometimes people just ain't right, don't let her harm you more by making you so angry. Just let it go, and keep your peace. You'll get paid, or you won't. Not in your control, just don't help her, or count it as a gift and move on!