He goes out all night. When he was suppose to come over to your house and never calls or shows up to tell you that he was going to the bars after he went fishing first. Then tells you that he stayed the night up the road, but had his friend take him back to his house.\n Another one is, he went out to the bar and he didn't come home until 5:00 in the morning, claiming that one of my fathers friends hit him accross the face just because he got me pregnant, so he didn't want to come home and take his anger out on me.
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Ask him. Point blank, out of the blue, look him straight in the eye and say: "Are you cheating on me?" His reaction will tell you exactly what is going on.
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the minute you tell him to leave and he doesnt he is committing a crime (tresspassing). you can call the police at any given moment where you revoke your welcome and he refuses to leave. \nThe police probably wont do anything but force him to leave because it is very difficult to prosecute tresspassing, especially since he is the father of your children. but if they have to come to your house more than a few times, they'll get pissed and actually pursue charges.
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Just wait for him to call you, if he doesnt call you within the next three days then he doesnt remember any of it. Then when you go out, tell him you want to go to dinner, then make not of his behavior, is he drinking a lot? Excessive? Is he just a natural slurrer? He was probably nervous about meeting you and probably kept drinking.  \n     I say give him a shot if/when he calls, there is no harm in that. Enjoy, you might have found a great guy that will make you laugh. If he doesnt call then just write it off to the fact that he was drunk.
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wow he is controlling. I do understand why he dont want you to drink and go out with out him cause alcohol tends to make you do silly stupid crazy things (been there done that) But my god you said you were sorry you are not his kid he either needs to grow up and give you a little freedom or you need to find a new man cause it wont get any better it will only get worse pretty soon you wont even be able to walk down the street and look at another guy without you being acused of sleeping with them. Yeah i would end it if i were you. Do it while your gone on vacation so you will have time to get over it.
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First, let me say I am sorry. I know the time that passes while waiting on him to return, you will be in pain and confusion, and anger.\nSecondly, yes, he was wrong. He probably doesn't realize the entire picture or didn't during the fight, and felt like you were trying to control him.\nThere is a very high possibility the hard facts are going to hit him while he is out with his friends, regardless how much he tries to ignore them. If no other time, it will be when he is on his way back home or when he walks from his car to the house. It will hit him that his child has been sick while he has been out, and everything else. At least, I hope this happens.\nBut I have had similar situations with my husband, in the past, unfortunately, it is part of developing as a couple.\nThis fight shouldn't mean you are on your way to divorce, but if in five years he has the same feelings, that might.\nIt is possible he was thinking inside his head all week how he needed a break and couldn't wait until the weekend to just simply get away from work and home and all the responsibilities. Even if there aren't many, he may feel very pressured about something right now, and unfortunately, you will put the icing on the cake when you object to him going out.\nTomorrow, maybe you could ask him if there is something he needs/wants to talk about, and if he is stressed out about anything. Be careful how you say your first question, he may immediately take it as you being nosey, instead of trying to help and support.\nNot that he deserves much positive from you, but we do all have our days we regret how we were, and its possible the day of the fight will be one of his.
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unfortunately nothing.  this is something he has to want to do and the more you guys bug him about it the more he is going to fight you.  go to the party and have a good time if he comes on later and asks you how was it tell him he should have been there...
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*Good one...here's one 4 you.....George was planning on going out with "The Boys" when his wife told him that he wasn't leaving the house.\n\nGeorge's Wife: "The last time you went out with your friends you got so drunk that you puked on your shirt."\n\nGeorge: "But Honey, I promise that I won't drink a drop of alcohol all night!"\n\nSo after begging his wife for an hour, George got the OK the go out with the guys as long as he stayed off of the booze. George met up with the guys at a local bar and proceeded to get $hit-faced. After about 3 hours of guzzling liquor, George blew chow all over his shirt.\n\nGeorge: "$hit! The old lady is going to throw my @ss out of the house for getting drunk and puking on my new shirt!"\n\nBill, George's best pal, gave drunk @ss George an idea of how to keep from getting in trouble with the wife.\n\nBill: "All you got to do is have a $20 bill in your hand when you walk through the door. Then, when she accuses you of barfing all over yourself, just tell her that some other drunk puked on you and that he gave you 20 bucks to get the shirt cleaned."\n\nSo, when George walked into the house with money in hand, his wife was waiting for him in the living room.\n\nGeorges wife: "I knew that your drunk @ss would spew bile and booze all over that new shirt!"\n\nGeorge: "Honey, let me explain! This drunken fool at the bar puked on me and gave me 20 bucks to have it cleaned."\n\nHis wife snatched the money out of his hand and observed that he was holding two $20 bills.\n\nGeorge's wife: "Is that so? Then where did the other 20 dollar bill come from?"\n\nGeorge: "Oh, That's from the guy who $hit in my pants."*
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WOMAN'S DIARY: Saturday 29th April 2006.\n\nSaw him in the evening and he was acting really strangely. I went shopping in the afternoon with the girls and I did turn up a bit late so thought it might be that.\n\n\nThe bar was really crowded and loud so I suggested we go somewhere quieter to talk. He was still very subdued and distracted so I suggested we go somewhere nice to eat. All through dinner he just didn't seem himself; he hardly laughed, and didn't seem to be paying any attention to me or to what I was saying. I just knew that something was wrong.\n\n\nHe dropped me back home and I wondered if he was going to come in, he hesitated, but followed. I asked him again if there was something the matter but he just half shook his head and turned the television on. \nAfter about 10 minutes of silence, I said I was going upstairs to bed. I put my arms around him and told him that I loved him deeply. He just gave a sigh, and a sad sort of smile. He didn't follow me up, but later\nhe did, and I was surprised when we made love.\n\n\nHe still seemed distant and a bit cold, and I started to think that he was going to leave me, and that he had found someone else... I cried myself to sleep..............\n\n........\n\n.......\n\n\n\n \n\n \n\n MAN'S DIARY: Saturday 29th April 2006.\n\nRooney's probably out of the World Cup, there go our chances then, gutted! Got a shag though
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Who says you can't do what you want? He does.\nJust do it. IF he gets out of sorts, leave again.\nIF he stays home, yoiu still go to the things you go to.\n\nThey are not bad or bad for you or him.\nHe is childish. Make him grow up.
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It sounds like he doesn't have much confidence in himself, he knows he is doing wrong with the alcohol, doesn't think he is good enough so expects that you will go out and find someone who is.  Plus it sounds like he is trying to push you away before you have a chance to do it to him, its human nature to protect yourself even at the cost of others.  Or on the other hand he very likely could be cheating on you.
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Sounds like he is going through a phase.  My man jsut went through that and I kow, it hurts.  He'll come out off it soon, and he will some running back to you.  What hurts them the most is when they hear you are going out and having fun without him, try it girl.  Good Luck!
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ok hunny been there done that.  with your sweetie i cant give a guarenteed answer but i had that problem with my son's father when we were together. he thought it was his responsibilty to look after his mom.  last straw for me was when she "borrowed" 200 bucks to take his sister back to the mainland for ferry and gas and i found out that she used it to go bowling. man i was pissed beyond recognition since the money came out of my account which i used to pay ALL the bills and he wouldnt ask her to pay it back. in your case hes the child and unless they are unable to work or seriously something wrong with them then his responisbility is to you and his children.........however many kids there are and his parents should know that their grandbabies come first and foremost. doesnt matter whose kids they are they are always first and shame on his ex for trying to stick him with two kids that arent his. personally i wouldnt put up with whats going on but maybe make a really big chart and stick it up somewhere really obvious (maybe in the bathroom right over the toilet where he presumably STANDS every morning to take a piss and cant miss it) and put up a couple column where you detail the money your bro gives you for gas and the money his parents drain out every month and ask him how if hes going to support his parents where is the money going to come from for paying child support plus all the monthly bills. family is only as important as you make them and he needs to get rid of his and be a big boy. if they want to know his every move maybe perhaps you should suggest to his parents that he get his old room ready so he can move back in it or offer to move your entire family his kids your kids an all into THEIR house so that they can be in control and you can stay rent free and they can babysit.  all else fails change your phone number refuse to open your door and have all the accounts put in your name with only you being able to access them. or as suggested by the others then by all means kick his ass to the curb............ but thats up to you and how much more of this you are willing to deal with.
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"Ratting him out" will not bring him back to you.  It comes across a bit juvenile.  If this man would treat you poorly and leave you, then stab his friend in the back by sleeping with his girlfriend, is this really the type of guy that you want to waste your energy on?  Think about it, all of this time that you've been so concerned with his actions, was he even thinking of you?  I would say re-direct this effort towards finding your own happiness.
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I can not figure out why I can't meet a good lady like the way you seem to be. Look....have you given any thought to the way you may be choosing perspective mates? That you are not being as prudent as you should be? To find two bad apples one after the other?\n\nI've asked myself those questions to, and I'm sure many other folks have too.\nthe fact is, you're IN IT right now, so you don't have too many options......sort of. If you left him......he may not be as bad as the other one. If you did it, do so without anger, pettiness or nastiness on your part. That often is the springboard to get the crap rolling.....vindictiveness.\n\nYou didn't go into a lot of detail outlining what transpired in this drunken accident, so I'm not sure how to take that. If he got drunk.....not a god thing, but what happened? Did he wreck the car, did he put his family in jeopardy in the car? Did he hurt himself? Did he hurt other people?\n\nMaybe all that doesn't matter, maybe just the fact that he did it is enough, but then.....is it really an unforgivable mistake? Is this something you can't forgive?\n\nI know I'm asking you more questions than I am giving you answers, but I'm hoping that perhaps you'll read this....consider it, and perhaps add some detail so someone else can offer you some pertinent insight.\n\nI wish you well and goodness and hope everything works out...whatever you end up doing.
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Get him out of the house and fast if his g/friends parents adore him so much he will have a bed to sleep in and tell him no coming back to live till he learns what respect is......organise  one night a week where he comes over for dinner,him only to start then eventually the girlfriend and if anything starts show him the door. He will eventually learn dont bite the hand that feeds you
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Hi,\n\nMy house mates Father has just had the same thing happen to him.\n\nMy profile is public, and my IM and email details are on there. Do get in touch.\n\nMy house mate is gonna talk to them on the phone tomorrow.\n\nSend me an email, and i will let you know the results of the days phone conversations!!\n\nCheers\n\n:o) J2G
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I would call him sometimes guys get caught in thier own lives.IF you don't get a response back,i would move on.Iam sure you will catch a better fish.Itis know good to be sitting aronud being miserable when you could be out having a good time with someone else.Thier is a reason he is not calling,i would talk to him If he doesn't give a good anwser .i would move on.