Just wondering how long you think is too long when trying to get over an ex... it's been 3 months since we talked but I still think about her and hope she'll call (She won't, I know...)
137785
Well You did not give the reason of your breakup so it's hard to give an advise.  Anyways, I think you still in love with her so why not try to court her again if she's still single.  Don't wait for her to call, she might waiting for your call as well.  Do the first move, she probably waiting for you to call her. Talk things out, or just say hi.
522406
maybe you didn't have closure with the ex.  I know that's the reason my ex still haunts me after 5 years.  fortunately i've got the greatest gf in the world, and i can talk to her about this.  I LOVE NIKI!!!
582035
Man, I just got out of a relationship with a girl I didn't think I felt much for, and you know that saying 'you don't know what you've got till it's gone'? Well, I realized how much I truly loved her. Maybe it will hit your ex just like it hit me. Maybe with some time she'll miss you, especially if it was as good of a relationship as you say. And especially if you were her first. You don't forget something special like that. Even if she downplays it, it should be something that will be with her always. Just give it time I say.
630079
well I know how u feel, coz I just got out of 3 years relationship, 6 months ago. He's still in my head, and I think about him sometimes. I tried to date but it doesn't work out, coz I'm not over my ex completely. Here's some suggestion, forget about your ex and move on. But if you can't then don't rush hooking up with some other guy coz it's not fair for ur new guy. Good luck sweetie!
372737
13 years is a really long time.  I don't think you are giving yourself credit because it has only been just a year. I am not sure about running out to meet other women is the best way.  I think that just makes a person vulnerable to more hurt.   I think that if you look over the year and think about how you were right after the 2 of you divorced and where you are at now, I bet you see that you have made  progress.  Time does heal it just may take a little longer for you so don't be so hard on yourself and I do believe that in another 2 months you will be even a little closer to smiling without faking it.  It has been 4 months for me since I had any contact and it has been a very happy time for me.  Somedays better than others.  I decided to volunteer my time on a day that seems to be the hardest for me.  I also got back in contact with the friends I blew off while I was seeing this person who was so toxic.  What a waste of my time on this earth.  You will eventually heal, I am holding on to that belief myself.  Good luck.
624561
I would say she had to be somewhat interested. She wouldn't have called after a month if she wasn't, she would have just let it go. She may just want to be friends, not sure, but, at least you know she was thinkin about you. Long distance relationships are hard, but Wish you luck.
62576
Never go for someone who is still holding on to an ex. Now, don't get me wrong...there are times when I still think about my ex's, but it doesn't mean I'm still in love with them, but we did share something that's undeniable. I gave them a piece of my heart, and you can't really take that back. So, if he's still in love, you need to give him time to find closure, but if he just thinks about her once in a blue moon, it's okay to go for it, help him get his mind off of her.
120363
Laugh at them. I mean, she couldn't handle being single and fell into a rebound relationship that is doomed for failure. It's painful, I know, but don't worry. You're over her, what she does shouldn't bother you. Let her find another guy, let her screw up that relationship, and push her from your mind. You'll find someone else soon enough.
441713
I've been in love actually i'm still in love with my ex.  I write her everyday and we talk every day but she tells me that she can not be with me becuase she needs time to heal from when i broke her heart.  So i'm giving her time.  All the time she needs.  I know that in the end it will work out because we both love each other.  It sounds like you have it just as bad as i do so i say you don't let go and you keep talking to each other and anychance you get to go see her, do it.  Eventually there will be a path created for you two to be together.
119205
Um, you can keep in touch with her like a friend, think of any of your friends , how do you keep in contact with them? Do the same thing.\n\nBut if yor feelings are still fresh and strong, try not to talk to her in a long time, keep busy, after a few months, you will begin to cool down. Everytime you want to talk to her, think of how she feels and remind yourself that she does not want to come back to you.\n\nHave you imagined how it would be like if she came back? Trust me it will be never be the same  knowing that she once wanted to leave you. You will never be sure about her or her feelings again.\n\nSo let the healing begin. I have been there , so I know what am talking about. And what helps is that you two can still talk.\n\nSo do not speak to her like for a month, then may be call her after and then do the same after a month. But keep busy during this time, do the things you love the most. Hang out with your friends more.\n\nBut if you keep talking to her, your healing will be delayed.\n\nHope that helps. I know what you are going through but you will come through. Good luck.
258959
If you broke up w/ him there must have been a reason. What was that reason ? Do you want to go through it all over again ? I think I can relate to what you're saying tho. I went to the city partly to get away fr him for the wk'd after we broke up. Well, we were still talking on the phone sometimes but when he phoned it'd be more like "geeeeeeez... :( " but I'd still answer the phone. While in the city I didn't have a very good time. It felt like my fam was abandoning me or something. Like they were tryna get rid of me or didn't wanna see me, etc. :( I was very hurt. The main reason why I was thinking of moving to the city was to be near my fam too... After that I felt that my ex was the only one who really cared bout me. When I got back home I jut HAD to see him so I went to see him. I told him bout what happened in the city & how I felt that he was the only one who cared bout me. For a whole wk I wanted to be w/ him. I wanted to be w/ him every chance I had. We were @ this pt, just "friends". We went to see Default & I guess he was gonna go home after the concert. I didn't want him to leave. I didn't wanna go home either. He was gonna drink but I didn't really care if he did, as long as I could be w/ him. Well, his mom & sis were gone to the city, so he let me spend the night, which I did. I felt that I wanted to get back w/ him. B/w the day I got back home fr the city to the time we got back together officially was Apr 7th-13th I believe. There was even a time AFTER that that I thought that we'd be together forever. But in the past 2 or 3 wks I haven't been feeling that way. I wanna break up w/ him. When & how is the Q. This'll be our 4th break up. :( \nYou may also experience this as well. Have you broken up in the past ? If you have I think that this will only continue to happen. Don't let it. Be strong. Easier said that done I know, but when you feel like talking to him, call a friend. Maybe even get together w/ a friend or friends. It's better than giving in to urges. Hope this helps !!!
89138
I totally understand what you have been through.  I think she could still be your friend but the question is NOT NOW. You have to move on no matter how hard it is.  You have to re-establish yourself with someone else, and be a whole again...before you can be friend with your ex.  It is very selfish of her to keep 2 men around.  Be strong and let her know that it is for the best. If she still cares about you, this is the least she can do for you.
569625
well in a way it's a good thing that you're avoiding her..but dont like shut her out completely. once she realizes that you've moved on,she'll probably start to miss you. you know? hah,i sound a lil silly,but i guess what you're doing is okay. give her a call,see if she's in a talkative mood. you can tell if she doesn't wanna talk if theres awkward silences,or if she comes up with a lame excuse to get off the phone. : ]
359350
I'd say if you two have been together for a year and she's STILL not over him, there are some major issues here.  It shouldn't take somebody that long to get over an ex, especially when they're suppossed to be with somebody else.  Confront her about it.  Tell her how much it hurts you that she's not over him, and that if she doesn't clean up her act...you will have to end the relationship.  To tell you the truth she doesn't seem very mature or stable, so you're probably better off without her anyway.  At the age of 29, you need somebody who is at your same maturity level and stage in life, and is ready to commit.
425438
Let her go. She's your ex. The only way she can get over you is to stop talking to you. It's just like quitting smoking. but there are drugs to aid this. Also she needs counseling.
184645
No matter what anyone tries telling you.. its always going to be hard to get over someone after being with them for six years. But I think that your best bet is just to try and go out to do things that will get him off of your mind. Spend as much time with your friends as you can... keep busy! No matter what you do it will always hurt though. You just have to be strong and not give in to him if he does start to call.. because thats just letting him know that he can use you over and over. Dont let him know you're bothered by it. I wish you the best of luck and I hope that everything goes in your favor.
410045
I think that everyone still has lingering feelings for their exs. Personally, if I were you I wouldn't care too much. Just be cautious for warning signs, like....him hiding his cel phone from you, canceling on you? small stuff like that. But if he really does love you then his ex doesn't matter that much. And really if she is dating again.. She's moved on.  I have a boyfriend of 6 months and I have feelings for my ex and my feelings are stronger for him so they don't  interfere.  I'm sure he has feelings for his ex's so we are even. It's probably difficult to have feelings for one person forever, As long as your love is stronger and you guys are honest. \n<3