I am a very religious person and so I like to devote a lot of my time to church, God, etc. but my friends think I should go out with this one guy who likes me...we are good friends and I'm afraid I'll ruin our friendship with a relationship, and I don't want to go out with someone in fear that my religious devotion will ware away...\nAny suggestions?\n(sorry it's more like two questions..)
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Try praying to God a lot.  More than likely, He'll tell you the answer (although maybe not in the way you were expecting).  But ultimately, you have to do what seems right.
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go for what you believe, and if you always hear that God is against such and such or your religion is against such and such, then it maybe wrong...thats just how things are...but in the end you do what your heart is telling you, and remember no matter what God loves you.\n\nGood luck and God bless you hope this helped
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wait until you know how you feel. there is a difference between dating and having a boyfriend. it is totally okay to casually date more than one person at a time as long as they understand you're not exclusive. if you decide that you have very strong feelings for one person, stop dating the others and go exclusive with that person. don't pick one guy and stick with him unless you're sure about it, because that's not fair to him. if your emotions are going back and forth, that probably won't change even if you become his girlfriend, and you could ruin a good friendship. right now i'm rebuilding a friendship for that very reason, and it's slow and sometimes pretty awkward.
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Absolutely not!  You should feel lucky to have him.  If you want the relationship to grow then you always have that.  I too am a christian (getting baptized this Sunday!) but I believe what you have is far from wrong.  It seems that your feelings for him are deeper than sexual and that is something Christ cherished, LOVE.
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Don't go out with either of them. You can't experience something really special with one person or claim that you have a reason to date one person over another if you like lots of other people in the same way simultaneously. Everyone says "this one person is the best person in the whole world, and I love them to pieces," but the truth is that you can find 10 people exactly like him just by looking around. And usually you can have a perfectly good time, if not a better time, with people who you're not dating. Don't ruin either of your good friendships.
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You sound somewhat like me a year ago. I don't have Christian values, but I valued myself enough that I didn't take sex lightly. I waited until I was 21 and would have waited longer if I had not found the perfect guy that I know I want to be with forever. Stick to what you believe and don't let anyone tell you otherwise. There is NOTHING wrong with being a virgin and waiting until you're ready to have sex. Worry about school, that's the most important part, not what your friends think.
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This is kind of hard to deal with because on the one hand you want to stay friends, and on the other hand you would like to go out with him to see what happens.  If I were you I would go in and maybe go out to a bowling alley or sports event telling him that you just wanted some on to go with you.  See what happens from there if he is really interested in you he will probably asked you out.  But if you just want to stay friends make sure that you tell him right up front so that no one will get their feelings hurt if things don't advance any further than just going out and having a good time.  By no means ask them out to a dinner date or a movie, or worse yet over to your house after you go out.  I have a lot of really close friends and I like to go out with an eat, go to parties, and just to be around having a good time.  I was straight with these people up front and I know that they really do like me but they know that it is for friendship only.  And I have some really great friendships that I will always cherish.  There is nothing wrong with going out with a friend because I think the best marriages are really based on friendship and honesty to each other.  Good luck
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let them think what they want - and you should do the same - be your own person and do what ever the hell you want to do. if the guy you do end up going out with is a good-guy he should stick up for you and defend your honour (excuse the clich'es). basicly you need to not care what others think, feel, or do. you are in it for yourself so you are the only person you should be worrying about.
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I agree with FSJD. Be careful.  But if you and him click, I don't see any reason for you not to date him.  Your friend is no longer going with him.
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do you go to church with him? \n\njust keep dating him, you'll eventually have deeper conversations and you'll learn as to where he stands with many issues and by living his life you'll see how important his values/convictions are. you'll know, trust me. you need a man that pushes you to grow. don't worry if he's not for you.\n\nand keep asking God, if he's not for you God will pull a string and you may break up, or God might even tell you himself who you should be with.
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If he can't handle that you are gay, then you don't need him as a friend.  I'm straight and have plenty of gay friends.  One even asked me out, not realizing that I wasn't (honestly that made me feel kinda bad, but we reconciled)  If you KNOW he isn't gay but want to ask him out, don't if you want to keep him as a friend.  You should tell him you are gay and if he can't handle that, fark it.  But trying to impose your lifestyle on someone else is no better than a woman trying to make you straight.  (Or certain governments saying you can't be who you are or have chosen to be)
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As one of Jehovah's Witnesses (as you identified yourself in another question) you know what "hangin' out" can lead to. Why not just plan to share in the ministry together? Also spending time with him and other Christians from your congregation in group outings and fun get-togethers is a great way to get to know someone, then you can decide whether you really want to start dating. If he likes you (and the attraction is mutual) it will be quite obvious after a short while.\n\n1 Corinthians 15:33 - "Do not be misled. Bad associations spoil useful habits."
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if he was a christian he would respect you for your decision. I think you are doing the right thing.  Think about this...Dont worry about why he's doing it.  Its the Devil talking. God would love for you to be around Christians, and of course the Devil would not.  Don't put God after your boyfriend. God first, ALWAYS! God Bless You!
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You should definitely pray about that. God wants to have a close relationship with us, so if you pray about it, He will give you an answer that Yahoo Answers cannot.
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Girl, if you're a Christian, you know the Bible tells us not to be unequally yoked (in marriage).  And the reason a Christian dates is for the sole purpose of getting married.  He sounds manic.  He needs medication.  You should pray for him, but like the other woman said, get away from him.  You won't be deserting him.  He'll live.  And perhaps his aunt and uncle do have it good, but it's not about what we have here on earth.  It's about what we get after death, and the saved individual gets eternal life in heaven with Christ.  Tell your boyfriend to stick his foot in a burning fire, and then ask him if he wants to spend eternity with his whole body in there.  Yes, it does seem like nonbelievers are just as blessed as Christians.  But just think about what comes after you die.  Remember, you're a stranger here.  You don't belong here.  You're just passing through.
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My husband and I are atheists. He told me about his position before we married and I accepted it. I was an atheist in every way but by name, and just decided that I am what I am; I've been happy with the decision ever since.\n\nThat said, the argument they give about dating outside of their faith is almost the same one used by those who oppose gay marriage. They somehow believe that gay marriage is a threat to heterosexual marriage. My husband and I have discussed this before; our feeling is, if our marriage is somehow threatened by Bob and Dave's marriage, then we have other problems. Our marriage is our marriage; the only threat to our marriage would be a lack of love, respect or communication with the other. That's our problem, not something Bob and Dave created.\n\nIf you are strong in your beliefs, whatever they are, you rise to the challenge to defend them. Your faith (whether in God or in yourself) should not be shaken by association with those who believe differently than you. If anything, it should bolster your confidence to go out into the world. \n\nYour friend believes that all she does is based on faith at its very foundation. Frankly, she may be feeling very conflicted because you are a decent, trusting, and honorable person on your own - without having the guilt of religion as a motivator to be these things. In her mind, and that of her friends, you can't have those qualities without faith. Your relationship with her proves that you can; it's a threat to what she believes, and on some level she may be questioning her faith. You are not asking her to give up her faith. You are treating her with kindness, respect and are offering the prospect of being in a loving relationship. You have not shunned her friends because they are Christians, you embrace them as cool people who just happen to believe differently. \n\nI don't know what to tell you other than you seize opportunities when they're presented to you. I hope she at least considers how wonderful dating could be for the both of you. The only way you're going to know is to jump in and see what happens. If it goes well, you will approach any hurdles your differences present from a standpoint of love and respect. If it doesn't work, you will have given it an effort, and time will heal whatever heartbreak occurs.\n\nYou can't know how it's going to work without giving it a chance.
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girl, or what ever you are. Tell them you have to get to know me, and maybe you got to go to the last resort, the church.  If you believe in God, then you should go. There's always somebody you can at least try in church.  Plus they won't try to get into ur panies as quick as some men.  But I promise you whoever you end up with that's the "one" and trust me you'll know who the one is-remember I promised you- you'll be content with them. It's something about love and fate that just trips me out how they truly interact with each other,comebine perfectly and leave you with an epiphany that yo feel as if it were right in your face.