my friend (a girl) tells me to go out with a friend of hers whove ive known for two years now... and she likes me, but i dont like her. and everyday when she asks me she calls me the gayest fag ever, a fudgepacker, gaya$$ queer, everything if i dont aske her out. she doesnt stop calling me names like that and ever since public school, ive been called gay, which im not. im afraid if the girl who likes me will ask me out then ill have to say no and i dont want to hurt her. WHAT DO I DO!?!?
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first of all, if that girl was REALLY you're friend, she wouldn't say something like that to you. And second of all, the next time you visit the girl, explain to her that you don't want to have as a girlfriend but it will be just fine for you two to be friends.
641543
i was in the same situation when i was younger. im a lesbian, and right now i have a great girlfriend. but when i was in high school, my best friend was my crush. i liked her soo much, but she was straight. i finally admitted to her that i liked girls, and she did what your friend did - asked me questions about how why and when? i told her a couple weeks later that i liked her, and she kissed me. we messed around a little bit, but it didnt evolve.\n\nnot every situation would be the same. i would tell your friend, that you like her. but only if you truly trust her. if shes nice, she will be respectful and either tell you shes flattered, but not interested, or who knows? she could be a closet case.\n\nanyhow, there tons of wonderful women out there, if worst comes to worse. im sure youll find someone perfect for you -- i did, and i was in your situation too. nowadays, i couldnt be happier with the girlfriend that i have now.  :)\n\ngood luck!
274276
if you like her, go for it, if people make fun of you they have no reason because i'm sure that when they ask someone out they don't get a yes every single time. you will never know until u try
315526
I don't feel as if she is a friend to you.  But "you" know if she is or not because you are around her.  It is very ironic that everyone who you've seemed to have liked she likes to and has been physical with them in some way. I feel as if no "so called" friends should fall out over a guy.  Stick to having a "true friend" someone who doesn't like who you like knowing that you like them.  You aren't losing to your friend sweetheart because as long as you know that she is liking who you like try not to be around her because a true friend wouldn't keep on doing this to you.  This has happened to me but the situation was different.  Eventhough I don't know you I'd like to become your friend or get to know you because we have something in common even if I only give you my opinions or advice.  I wish you the best and if you don't continue to be friends with her don't let it be over the guys let it be because of how she is treating you.
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He likes you.  Obviously not your friend (no offence to her)  even if you dont go out with him, hes not going to go out with your friend.  He likes you for a reason.  So, you like him, he likes you.  And I'm sure your friend will find another guy.  I mean, if she gets sad about it, thats her problem .  Not tryingto be mean, but she cant force thi guy to go out with her.  You don't have to force anything, so I say go for it while your still young!!
615243
If you are interested in this girl just play it straight. its not as if you are going to be with guys at the same time.. if you go out you will be leading a straight life... \n\ni am bi but i am in a gay relationship. i dont cross back over to the straight side of my preferences. \n\nIf you go out and finish you probably wont speak to her after so why tell her.. its only friends that need to know.. not girlfriends.\n\nTake this scenario: you go out with a guy... your not gonna go with a girl at the same time.. so you can just say your gay. Saying your bi will just make the other person be weary and paranoid about both sexes. \n\nBasically a person is gay ro straight... being bi just means you can switch when u need to
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Girl ive been there before. Its sucks. I know exactly how you must be feeling. This friend of yours is not a true friend. She knows you like this guy and if they get together seeing them together could hurt.\nIf you dump her, you'll look bad - like you let a guy come between you, but keeping her - you'll find yourselve questioning her loyalty to you often.\nBrave it out to keep your rep intact, but watch your back while she's still your friend because friends like her - definately dont remain friends.\n\nSorry about it. Look on the bright side though - another guy will come along one day and who knows? You might like him better than this guy and he might kiss the ground you walk on!! :))\n\nJust think positive always.\n\nGOODLUCK.
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wow u're definitely in a tight spot. well, if ur open-minded, u'd give it a go anyway. at least u can say that uve gone out with a gay guy. its something not many ppl have done. but if u'd rather not, let him know NICELY. he might get offended if ur like... "eeww i dont wanna go out with u coz i dig chicks". lol get what i mean?
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She obviously already dissed you.  What you already know is enough to come to that conclusion.  From now on, do not regard her as close of a friend as you had thought or hoped.  Try talking and hanging with some other people, than just this group.  Also, look around for some other young hotties to set your eyes and energy on.  Give this friendship some space.  If it is a truly a good friendship it will still be there.  But, don't ask.  Let it be.  Do your own thing for a little bit.  I would not ask her anything because she knows your feelings for him.  If she needs to share with you something in regards with them then that is her job to come to you. She needs to be responsible for getting that out on the table with you.  Just be like whatever. If she cares about you and is close as you say, she will know to say something to you.
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ask your frend do go up to him and casually say.. what would you say if (your name) asked you out?\n\nThen she can tell u his answer, if he says yes go for it and u no u wont be rejected\n\nIf he says no, to save ur embarresment, the girl can say.. mm i am just joking by the way
79066
Well Think about it? Will it reuin your friendship with her or will she just hate you? Well First of all My Friend Liked me and then i never liked him I went out with him and it reuin our friendship now i hate him he is trying to be cool now but he cant. Well You should know cause it what you do not what no one else do Okay
284015
I'm in an identical situation only i am a guy. And the guys in your story are girls in mine. I'm not gay. Just wait it out and eventually they will break up. However you need to know what your best friend would do if you were to go out with her ex. If she was really your best friend, she would understand and she would let you go out with him-but come on thats never gonna happen. You need to find out who you like more, this guy, or your friend. It sound to me that he sorta like you, and if your friend knows he flirts with you, and shes not jealous shes\n- in it because the guy is popular\n- is a whore that just wants to sleep with her boyfriend until she is bored\n- is trying to tell herself shes being uptight\nYou need to know if he likes you before you do anything about your friend. Ask one of his friends or a brother or sister of his. It will be hard, but if you loose a friend, how good of a friend is she?\nP.S. Do not go out with this guy directly when he breaks up with your friend. She wont like that, and he wont think your much of a friend. Wait at least two weeks, by then your friend should be interested in some other guy.
80994
So...screw your friends. No, not literally. It's just a figure of speech. What I mean is, okay, you like this guy. Great! But what's holding you back? Talk to your friends. Ask them what they have against him? What have they heard? And if they're serious, then take their advice and just move on. They may be right, and they might even help to prevent you from any unnecessary heart break. \n\nBut on the other hand, if they have no valid argument, just tell them that if they're really your friends, then they'll lay off and respect your judgment, and you may go out with him in peace.\n\nThat's all I have to say. Take it or leave it. It is of no greater consequence.
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It's always hard when a friendship comes to a cross roads, and then to (possibly) an end. \n\nYour friend is 14, you are 17. That might only seem like 3 years, but it almost lightyears away from eachother. She is just really getting the idea that she is a sexual being at all, and (not knowning how long you've been out to yourself) I'm assuming that you've come to terms with your sexuality at least some time ago. She is going to be feeling uneasy, becuase what can that mean for her? She probably did/does look up to you, even if she was always telling you what to do! :) She is probably really freaked out. Tell her that you know who you are, and what you want and you don't want that to affect your friendship. Tell her the ball is in her court, and that a friend doesn't try to change someone. Then tell her if she is interested in hanging out, or asking questions so that she can understand what is going on with you, you will be there. If she cannot, or will not, do any of these things.. you will just have to move on. It sucks, and it isn't right....but just know that there are people out there who will like you and want to hang out with you for YOU, not because you are/aren't a lesbian.
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Well, obviously this chic is jealous of something about you if she has gone out of her way to speak of you in such a way.So two things I would do- first- confront the other girl-ask her is she's a lessie- then of course there might be an arguement but keep things cool by opening up the conversation with " for info only"...or "it seems, the way they come across"..., then you can throw the rumor back at them- or simply put on a bigger show when your with your boyfriend to let others know your not gay.
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If you are ashamed of who you are (gay), you aren't going to have much luck finding someone else to like you when you don't like yourself. You should not feel ashamed, and instead of relying on what other people think of you, think about what makes you the good person that you are.\n\nNow, how to ask someone out? You should get to know them a little bit first, and especially so to find out if they are gay. Once you feel comfortable talking to them, just ask them if they would like to do something with you sometime like a movie or lunch. If you go out, make a point of talking to them and asking them about themselves so you will know if you want to go out again.
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hey there, i went through this too....  me being a girl can put myself in her shoes and imagine the situation!!\nso, i think you must go & talk to her &ask her if shes interested in you!!\n    if shes not, DONT go behind her she will hate you more\nyou could also talk to her friends!!!!!!!!!!!!!!..........