I made a mistake lending money to a friend whom I have known for 15+ years.  It's sad to say I'm worried about getting paid back. The bank has record of the check i wrote out to the friend but that's all i have to proove there was a loan
122389
Sadly that's not even proof of a loan.  Since there is no documentation your friend can simply claim in court that it was a gift then you're stuck with your word against his/her word.  All the check does is prove that you gave money to the friend.\n\nYou can sue your friend for the amount but without documentation it's a toss up that relies on credibility.\n\nI'd try to get your friend to sign some sort of note (notarized of course) that statest he money was a loan and gives some sort of repayment schedule.\n\nIf your friend refuses to do this or says something like, "hey I'm your friend" you know your're jobbed.  But hey at least you learned something.  You never loan money to friends or family.  Always consider it a gift and if you get paid back it's a bonus.
537083
There is one an only way to get your money or part of it back. In a very innocent way ask him to sell to you something valuable he owns, like a laptop or TV set. Tell him that you need this item and that you would pay him in a few days, (it is incredible but this kind of people almost always believe that) and do not pay him until he pays you.  I had done it many, times and believe me, it works.
299277
If it's not too late, see if you can stop payment on the check that you wrote (if you wrote one already).\n\nAlso, go to the bank and explain the situation; if you deposited it in good faith, you shouldn't get into trouble
255810
Well, it isn't your fault they sent you the checks. But if you know that it is a mistake and you cash them anyway, they can probably take you to court over it. And I bet they can afford better lawyers than you...
70730
Welcome to the club.  There's a lot of us who have lent money to relatives, friends, or romantic interests and got nothing back.  Forget the money.  In the future, consider any loan you make as a gift that you probably won't get back.  If you're not willing to lose the money, don't lend it.
99989
Only if you can afford not to have it paid back or don't value the friendship because it won't last down the road. Money has a way of separating even the best of friends. They'll forget about it, you'll never see them again, you'll get tired of asking for it & get mad seeing them spend money on things when they should be repaying you, they'll get mad if you keep asking for it back, etc, etc, etc. It's easier in the long run not to get involved. Even the 'best' of friends will surprise you when it comes to money.
113452
No one but a friend or relitive is gonna loan you that kind of money but if you should happen to find someone who would let me know
420733
Best thing to do is Kindly talk to your bank and explain the situation and hope for the best it may depend on your history with the bank if you have a good reputation you may be all good but your going to have to replace the money that was taken out
56113
You shouldn't have to give it back.  Especially since there were no stipulations upon acceptance of the money.  Even if he decided to go to court over it, states requires that loans if over a certain dollar amount be in written contract form.
119524
Would have been helpful if you would have provided the check amount.  Another way to deal with this, is to take the person to small claims court.  Along with the criminal side, you will get a judgement, which affects a bad credit rating as well. \nAgain, the amount the check was written for would be the determining factor.
538334
You got yourself into a bit of a hole...  There are some third party on line E-spys that can help.. But they can cost 35+ dollars..  Not sure how much the check was wrote for.. if it was under 30 bucks it might be a learning lesson if it was much more then that you might want to seek legal advice.. To see what you can recover, Including a search and legal fees..  Good Luck,, Wish I could smack the Bum for ya..
365149
I would be honest with her and tell her that she has not yet paid you back to 200.00 and therefore you are not able to give her any more money....she is treating more of a gift than a loan unfortunately.
591065
My bestfriend and I have known each other since 7th grade, however, we wern't really friends till 11th.  We have had our rough patches, but no matter what is going on we would always be there for one an other.  Recently I needed to borrow a faily large amount of money for a settlement on an old debt.  She let me have the money (my family would not do this for me), since I have paid her back.  I think that people may have bad expirances with so called friends because one trys to take advantage of the other.  We would never do this to each other, it is far more importaint to me that she is always a part of my life.  She has been my bestfriend for 10 years and I don't plan on that ever changing.
525385
Never, never, never..........loan money.....especially in large amounts ....to anyone not unless you really really know them.   \n\nI would keep on confronting her....or make up some type of repayment plan to where she can pay it all back.   If she can't do that, then have her do some work that you need done (for the next several months) till you feel it's completely paid off.....if she can't do it any other way.   I've learned..........I'm out over 10,000.00 dollars!  and I will never again.....listen to anyone's tale again.  If they need help, .....I will do it my way or no way!
278449
You learned from their mistakes probably.  That's what happened to me.  My mom was HORRIBLE with money.
653342
Well, I can offer my own situation from last summer... without the vacation part as I am a "working poor single mom" and cannot afford a vacation.  I was driving down the street through a very nice, "older money", part of town.  I looked to my right and saw a very expensive woven purse (from Dillards, a store I can't even afford to step foot into).  It was obvious someone had left it on the roof of her car and forgotten about it.  Well, I gingerly looked into the checkbook to obtain the woman's address or phone number, called her, and made an appointment for her to come to my house and pick it up.  I actually offered to take it to her.  Anyhow, there were quite a few "hundreds" peeking out of her wallet.. I did not pick it up to see how many hundreds since I felt it would be an invasion of her privacy.  The woman was extremely grateful and later sent me a card with a cheque for 100 dollars for my trouble.  I decided that I would split the "found money" between both of my kids.  They each got 50 bucks and a very good lesson.
59068
They made a mistake at the bank, it happens all the time. Just take it back to the bank and explain the situation. They'll issue you a new one.