I know nothing about dope. He lies all the time and I'm afraid to leave for fear he'll sale my stuff. Last time I left, he sold my freezer and my new electric wheelchair. I get $377 a month, he gets $730. I can't support his habit. It's not my house so I can't evict him. He is 60 y/o, no car, no money and he has borrowed all he can from everyone he knows. It is so bad that I have started staying hungey. Does anyone have any suggestions? Email: oclawahah@yahoo.com
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Call the authorities, the police, adult protective services someone can come out to help you.1-888-436-3600, is the nationwide hot line for elder and dependent abuse. You need to talk to who ever owns the house about evicting him.\nCheck out the web sites I have listed in my sources!
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Hey little buddy! Sounds like you stepped into a big bucket of stuff there. Just goes to show it dosen't pay to try and be nice. This guy must be some kind of freak. The sad part is I'm sure he has done this same thing before. With a nut like this all it takes is a simple HI from a pretty girl and they automaticaly hear "Take me now, I want you for ever and I'll bear your demon seed" What's even sadder than that is he may end up hurting somebody. I'm glad you realized that and ran. The guy needs a  12 step program to stop the voices that are not there. Oh---The only time you should have to put your life on hold is if you have children. They would come first no matter what. Otherwise no man or no one can tell what you will or can't do. And for gods sake, don't be givin' out your danm phone number or address. Be safe and happy
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i myself have pondered this question since i was young. (i'm 17). this is my conclusion: he is so worried about stealin some trix his lazy ass never got up and got a job. do you ever see him at work??? nope. i think he should stop chasin the kids and go get a job, then he coukd buy them himself. and if they won't sell it to him, then he can sue. hate crime. yea, im bored as hell.
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If you evict him, he will retaliate! Thats a gangsters mentality. He will bust windows, slash tires or worse! Sounds like you may have to discreetly find a new place to live and move! Theres really no other solution.
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OK you say he is a recovering addict, How long? Dose he ask for money? How did he get clean? Please Email me with more details as I've been clean for 3 years and i think i could help. I started at 14 until i was 20. You can contact me if you have a look at my profile
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It sounds to me that he is just using you for your money, i dont know his past but you should ask him why he nevers sees you at night. If the answer does not seem genuine or if he takes ages to respond, he is using you and you should get rid of him.
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WOW MAN.........*inhale*......your dealer is a dumb@ss....*exhale*.........why would he go to your house.....? uhhh..... ummmm...oh yea...shouldn't you go to his place...*cough*?? no, he sounds so unprofessional, probably dropping your name in jail right now. let him sit....he probably rolled on you...*inhale.....*
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Go ahead, use force and then they can sue your friend, and then he won't be your friend any more. \n\nAre they really trashy, or just poor?  If they pay their rent, then not having furniture or hanging blankets in windows is not an indicator of trashiness.\n\nHow about this?  Does he keep the plumbing up? Does he flake out and pass the water bill over to his tenants even though there's only one meter and originally he was going to cover this by charging $50 extra per month in the rent?  Now the upstairs is still owed 50% of the water bill by the downstairs?  Does he refuse to get the upstairs people a mailbox?  Does he move marijuana smoking punkers downstairs that are up till three a.m. playing their music and then yelling at the normal people for being awake in the daytime?  Does he care to fix a dishwasher which is leaking into the downstairs apt, which he promised to fix on day one, along with the tub plumbing that's starting to make a huge spot on the ceiling downstairs?  It's the only bathroom, are the renters supposed to not bath indefinately while paying twice the rent of comparable units in the are? Does he insist the upstairs people take care of the gardening, without covering the cost of gardening tools?  Does he refuse to put in writing that there is a refund for the person who is paying 100% of the water bill for both apartments and covering the gardening efforts with her kids?  Did he offer to sell the entire house to both tenants before they even signed a rental lease and cause the one downstairs to go into fuedal mode because of this?  Could the fact he's not fixing anything be because he wants to sell the house right away and never intended to be a real landlord.  If your friend is anything like this, then HE is a slumlord. You're both more trashy than the people you want to kick out.
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I am a strong supporter of making a marriage work, but it does not sound like this man is taking your relationship seriously. As a husband and father he needs to be responsible for the well being of his family. As his wife you have a right to know where the money is going and where he is spending his time, as it involves the health and well being of the family.\n\nYou need to take him aside and be brutally honest with him. Explain that you cannot and will not live this way. If you think it's worth it, offer him another chance to redeem himself, but do not let this man put you and your child at risk. If he is doing drugs, that is exactly what he is doing. He could get arrested, and then you will be left without an income as well as legal bills.\n\nIt sounds like you are doing all of the work, and that is not the way to have a happy marriage. I hate to say it, but it sounds like you may need to move on. If you think he's capable of change, I would give him another chance.
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May I give a freind your e-mail address? He's been drinking for years but keeps saying he wants to quit before he gets too old.\nAs for me I am a little mean to him, I won't buy him beer, I won't be around him if he is drinking and I won't even talk to him on the phone.He trys to make me feel guilty but I tell him if he wants to be around me be sober!\nI won't plead or beg him anymore, but I do pray for him.
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contact bbb and see if they have any reports similar to yours on him
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i agree with christoph...s. Call the police. This situation is one in which you cannot control any more than he apparently can. This is not behavior that should be tolerated. If he goes to jail it might save his life and your sanity ! at least in jail he will have no choice, but to stop using. And also they have NA (narcotics anon.) meetings and some sort of re-hab services available to him. I know it's a hard decision to make but I wish I had done that for my husband, He died due to a cocaine overdose and I was a widow at age 27, Please think about it. God Bless you and your dad.
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what a loser ! \n\nwhy would he think a kid have enough money for him.\n\nKick him out and get a restraining order. He cannot get an order to force you to pay him anything.\n\nActually, you can force him to pay you until you are 21
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sell he's things on ebay... burn he's clothes... pay a bum 50 dollar to kick the shit ot of him... Then pt drugs in hes pocket and ring the police and say he hit you... Then break up with him because he is a looser... Take Care I wish you all the happiness in the world but get rid of him... It's only money... Good Luck... I will give you a hug if you need one... i feel sorry for you...
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Im sorry to hear about that too.  Im about to lose everything too.  My dad doesn't have much money, or his drivers license, or anyone to watch my lil brothers.  My mom just left for another man, and she pays most of the bills in the house.  So i guess im about to experience what you've been experiencing. But anyways, homegurlz right.  Dr.Phil or Oprah aint going to help you any.  They are way to buissy with their television and stuff.  But never give up hope gurl. So here is the number to Dr. Phil if you want to know, (323.461.PHIL ).  You have to leave your name and your number and a message.  Sorry about your dad too.  I hope he really gets to see his Grandchildren.  If you live around your aunts, uncles, cousins or anybody, ask them to take you and your boys to your dads house.  They might be willing to help out, you never know.
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My boyfriend's family is full of drug addicts, so I have lots of experience in this.  They are past the point of getting help.  It sounds like your loved-one is not.  I would tell him right now that he needs to go get help.  I would not ignore the problem.  It only gets worse.  You need to stand strong.  Don't feel sorry for him.  But, do not let him just run- you have to let him know that he is cared for.  Most importantly, DO NOT lend him money (he will only use it to buy more crack).  DO NOT let him use your car for any reason.  DO NOT let him live in your house- he'll steal things from you to pawn to buy crack.  This is out of his control- he's an addict now and he needs to go into rehab.
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It's not a big deal...I mean it's strange he shows up outta nowhere and wants to call the welfare, but if he does and they do come and there's nothing wrong...they're just gonna go away. They will say it was an unfounded call and be done, just like that. If you have nothing to hide and only to prove you're right, don't worry. Perhaps he's talking about calling the welfare because the mother doesn't seem to be taking proper care of the child. They might want to hear from you how many hours your keeping this child and what kind of lifestyle you know her mother has her living in. Don't feel shamed if they do show up...quit worrying about what the neighbors think, like I said, if you're doing nothing wrong, there's nothing to worry about. I have a drug addicted, psycho sister who is currently in jail. When I had my first child and I didn't wanna listen to her crap all the time about drugs and money and so forth she'd call the welfare on me and blow them some wild story...knowing full well when they checked it out they would find nothing. I went through this 4 different times!!!! Each time they would come, they would ask me about what the supposed report was about, check my house out and my daughter and say I'm sorry mam for having to come over like this, I'll document this as an unfounded case. I understand your anger about the situation. I would probably withdraw myself from the mother and child as to not be involved with anymore of their issues. Good luck!