I'm a young adult i barely go out because i dont want to hear any caos coming from my parents mouths. I love them dearly but if i'm out later than 12 midnight they freak out, do you think it has something to do with my younger sis leavin for college last summer and i'm the only one at home now? let me know what's up
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They could be both overprotective and concerned,which you should be greatful for cuz alot of parents just don't give a S*** about their kids.I can tell you that there are alot of sick people out there in the world,when I was younger I had to call my parents if I was going to be late coming in I had to call at 11:00pm, if i was a minute late they would freak out.Which I never could understand why back then,till a school mate of mine was found dead,she was only 15 years old,she had gone to a party,when she decided to leave the party she was walking home took a ride by someone she thought she knew.Well that person that she thought she knew raped and smashed her head in with a rock.To this day they still haven't found her killer.So that means he is still walking around the streets.Look what happen to that poor girl in NY when she was leaving the bar. Look what happen to her,how she was found.And I could go on.That's why they worry.Parents love their children they just want to be able to protect them all the time. Maybe they have miss your sister and they don't want to lose you.I'm sure they have some stories about sick things that have gone on in there life time.When you finally have children of your own you'll understand. Good Luck.... and take care.P.S. just remember your parents love you and want to make sure your always safe. You should thank them.
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Wow.... wurrble sure had an interesting thought about that.... lol. Well, can't you just see him after 5 p.m. Oh yeah, it's the summer, that would be a long day. Can you try to get to know some other people ( witch would be hard to do when your stuck at home) or maybe contact some old friends? Do you have any relatives you could hang out with? What if you talk on the phone with your friends, or read a book? Well, good luck! :)
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Well let me ask you, do you still live at home??? If so it IS their rules still. Sure you may be 18 now but like I would tell my children, "As long as you live in my house, it's MY rules". now as far as being able to do what you want and you not thinking that they let you do a lot let me say this to you, Try bringing this up at dinner, explain to them that you feel like they aren't giving you enough "distance" to do some of the things you would like to do. And ask them if they will slowly give you a chance to prove to them that you are responsible and you CAN make your own decisions on things. And explain to them that if you do anything to lose their trust then you will go back to how the situation is right now... Hope this has helped out some... let me know what happens ok... take care!!!
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Even though your upset, don't make a big deal about it.  People are funny around the holidays.  For some strange reason, traditions are hard to break.  If 12 noon and 1pm is the tradition in this family, then let your family have their tradition.  It will cause too much of a "stir" for everyone to change things around.  Also, are there going to be elderly people there???  Old people don't like to drive at night (hard to see) so they usually need events to start early so they can get on the road before dark.  There are probably several reasons why they are sticking with the early dinner time so don't take it personally.  Show up when you can, give every one a big hug, eat some left overs and be thankful you have a family to share the holiday with and also be thankful that you have a job.   Happy Thanksgiving!!!
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If anything it's nice to hear that your not much of a slacker in your academics.But do you do it to prove something to your parents?Trying to make up for past events isn't easy now or later in life.You'll learn that the more that you stay out of the party lifestyle will be beneficial.You can put on your public face, but I'm sure your parents love you very much and are just trying to look out for you .The news said there were some teens planning a massacre.So at least your parents are there for you .And just try to talk out a compromise .There's so much more out there to look forward to.Stay strong!!
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I got my . al ong time ago. its nothing to worry about. Just tell your mom and everything willl be alright. Just chill out and you'll be fine!
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I was in the same boat.  My advice is to keep them happy, and tell them how much you're trying to get that job, or work hard at uni.  They wont stop, but at least they dont have too much of a reason to pester you.  After all, they are your parents and they probably just miss you - try not to cut them out of your life.  A sit down and chat session is reccommended: i had to sit my parents down and explain to them that im a big boy now, and to trust me to keep myself out of trouble and work hard.  They said they understand, but felt that they still needed to be parents to the baby of the family.  Keep your cool with them, they're only doing it cos they love you.
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sounds just like my brother...he's 20 and still gets scared and has nighmares after watching scary movies...me, i love them, scarier the better! i'm not sure how you can avoid being embarrassed tonight, other then just telling her that you would perfer a comedy or something...just be upfront with her!
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I'm 20 and when I left for college I met so many different people and realized that my parents were very strict.  I'm an only child and I think thats the reason.  I soon realized living on my own that for most of my life I'd been scared of my partents.  Don't get me wrong I love them and I did  have a great life, however I was living for them and not for me.  Their big mistake was not letting me know they loved me for who I am and not who they wanted me to be.  When I was finally out on my own I had a really hard time but I finally learned to relly on myself and it's been great.  \n\nI never really confonted my parents about this.  I figure there really is no point thats how they were my whole life and me telling them they screwed up isn't going to help our lives.  I'm happy with my life now and I wont let them control me anymore.
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well when I was engaged to my fiance I went out every saturday and usually did not come back home till like maybe 5 or 6 in the morning.  I went out with my cousin and some of her friends and we went out to the same spot every weekend.  My Fiance did not mind.  I mean its jut like him going to hang with the boys.  They might not go to a club but they are hanging out and sometimes might go to a bar for a drink or something so I dont see anything wrong with it at all.  And no I would not be upset
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Ok, if you can hear them BEFORE you got into the house then they're TOO LOUD. It sounds like they don't seem to care who hears them or your feelings. Just because your sister is "emotionally unstable" doesn't give her the right to act this way or to let this continue- especially, if she knows that your younger brother is in the house. She is disrespecting YOU. Honestly, you need to talk with her about that- especially, if she can be heard outside.
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they severely limit a teens ability to socialize and blow off steam after high school and without that downtime then stress builds tension rises fights break out more often kids get more rebellious drugs rise(used to calm down that and at my school too many kids do pot,crack, whatever)\n\nits just not a good idea unless the curfew is for say a really late time like "no hanging out at friends houses or parties after midnight or 1 am" not 10 :00\n\nits just unreasonable what with studying and homework or stupid projects
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My mom still does that to me and I am 29. Look at it like this girly....your parents don't want you to f*ck up like they did (I'm not saying they did but you know). I wouldn't  say they are putting you down. Maybe that's what they think needs to be done in order for you to listen. You see all these shows now a days...kids are ruthless to there parents. I wouldn't hit them...you know what kills my mom that I do when she is yelling at me. I just agree, "Yes mom, your sooooooooo right mom"....LOL
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I know how you feel..\nI have 4 younger siblings and I can barely ever find a time and place to talk to my mom just the two of us.\nOne thing that works for me...\nWhen your mom is driving you to or from an activity or school and your siblings are not in the car is a great time to talk to her. I am always telling my mom about things that are going on in my life on my way back from school. Sometimes we even sit in the car for a few extra minutes after we have already gotten home- just to talk.\nYou should not have to sned your mom an email or letter to let her know you want to talk. Just start talking! If you tell her exactly what you are wanting to talk about, I'm sure she wouldn't mind sitting down with you sometime and tell you all you need to know.\nAnd if you have already told her and she hasn't shown any intrest in talking to you about it alone, then maybe she is avoiding the subject because she doesn't know how to talk to you about it. \nGood Luck
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Good for you. There's no need to be out until 2 am--not only do you need your zzz's, but it's not safe! Keep to your values, and respect your energy level. Don't let them persuade you to stay out. \n\nI'll pray for you!
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I have a different emotion the night before my period. One night i cried all night because my dad didn't tell my mum she looked nice before they went out and another i completely lost it because my sister used my new unused toothbrush. Have your monthly meltdown. If it's infront of family who cares. I just steer clear of friends and boys, may freak them out.
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OOps sorry let me edit this..\n\nMost important question is - are they LEGALLY your gaurdian?  It sounds like this might be your sister.. or maybe a young aunt.\n\nWhat state are you in?  How old are you?  It depends on how your caregiver will react.  I did the same thing when I was 17 and my parents freaked and were able to take me back.  I spent a few days in Juvi.. but other than that nothing terrible will happen.  If you are 17, I suggest talking to your parents about this and seeing if they would let you.  Does your friends family want you to move there?  Have them talk to your caregiver.  If you are any younger, either wait or have the family talk to your caregiver..  I totally understand where you are coming from, sometimes your home can just be toxic, especially if your parents are going through a divorce, or some issues of their own.. I've been moved out for 2 years now, and even when I come to visit, it just sucks my soul dry.. Some people and places are just so bad for you.  Talk to them .. really.  OR just go ahead and do it, but know this - they will be able to find you - and they will force you to come back - BUT after that happens, they will be open for dialog with you - you will be able to tell them how damaging their home is to you - and they will be able to take you seriously.. This is what happened to me- They never listened until after I ran away.. Then they let me finish my high school degree online and let me move out when I needed to.\n\nTo help you any further, I would need to know your age and your state.\n\nAnd like the other person mentioned, if you are working and making some of your own money, you might be able to get emancipated. \n\nChoices Other Than Emancipation\n\nEmancipation is only one of several alternatives available to you if you feel you cannot live with your caregiver.  You may want to consider other options such as:\n\nfamily counseling or mediation service between you and your parents; \nliving with another responsible adult (aunt, uncle, grandparent, or family friend); \nseeking assistance from public and private agencies; \nan informal agreement with your caregiver allowing you to live outside your home. \n\n\nMy final advice to you is this - family counseling - if nothing else works - this will.  The other person there can help you communicate effectively with your caregiver - and don't assume they will only be on your caregivers side either.  Present your case to them, and unless you have no reason for wanting to move out, they will support you and help you work out a solution with your family..\n\nGood luck, ok?  Feel free to personally email me if you need any personal or legal advice..  Bj_Osterhout@yahoo.com