my ex and i want to get back together but i am still deciding if i want to or not. one of the reasons i broke up with him is cause he told one of my friends "baby got back, and baby got rack." i was so pissed. but when he isn't around her he really devots himself to me. i don't want him to flirt with my friends if we go back out again? should i talk to him about it or just not go out with him?
128832
no... if someone isnt as interested as you as they are in your friends and they are retarded enough to show it\n\nthats two good reasons why you probably wouldnt be happy in the long run\n\nWith that i leave the real choice up to u
516379
I just got over a relationship where my best friend (who was also his x girlfriend) and him kept staying friends. I didnt really let him know how much it bothered me, but now that i look back, it totally bothered me... and now that were not together, im so glad its over because that issue was so annoying, not worth dealing with. Tell him to loose her and if he can't, drop him!
338992
Sounds like the 'I don't want to go out with you,but I don't want you going out or showing any interest what-so-ever in any one else' syndrom.Don't let him stop you from having a good time when your out and don't let him stop you from talking or even fancing another guy.He didn't want to be with you,thats his loss and somebody else's gain.If you allow it he will come between any relationship you form,even if its just friendships.Let him carry on acting like a spoilt and sulky child,just don't let him spoil things for you and yes,I think you would be better of just having him as a friend but,in all honesty,would you want him as a friend if he acts like this.
106773
You both may have love for each other, but if he still has major issues,the relationship won't last.  You'll have the same problems you had last time.  If all he is telling you is that "no one freaks him better", then he doesn't want to work on the relationship, he just wants the booty. That's cool if you are interested in just casual sex,  but don't think that he wants you back.
104423
My advice is don't pick up the phone when it's him calling.  He wants you back because he's lonely and he hasn't found anyone else yet.  It's hard to be lonely, I'm sure you felt like you wanted to get back with him when you first broke up, but if you are really over him and don't want to endure more weeks of fighting, just don't pick up the phone, so you can let go and so can he.
419130
When I got deployed I was lonely and called my x whom I broke up with cause she treated me bad. When I returned I realized I just needed a security blanket to get me through till I was in a familuar place again. Your his security blanket. He will be great till he gets back in his groove, then you'll be on the back burner again. Go for the other guy.
257773
Sounds like a set up darlin!Even im getting paranoid thinking about it....i would say...ask him if he was going out with his ex tonight...yes/no. If answer is no..and it happens again(a similar senario,with his ex) tell him to f off.\n\nIn a nut shell....TRUST your instinct..you will know my dear.
174081
i think he wanted to have sex with her so he broke up with u so u couldnt say he cheated on you with her then when he got what he wanted and seen that it wasnt what he thought it would be now he wants you back. i think you should go back with him and the two of you get a place. if he did something with her look at it like this he wasnt with you when he did it. so yu cant be all the way mad i think you should get back with him while he wants to get with you and dont wait until it gets to late.
331763
whats with him and ex's?  Youre an ex he's back with, now you're concerned about another ex.  Alarms went off when I read this. You need to be sure you're who he wants before you get hurt.  Give him a chance to be certain what he wants before you invest your heart into this once failed relationship.
463146
Sounds like you want to use the other guy to get back at your ex.\nWell here is what i think. You ex is going to think that you are crazy. He may think that you hooked up with the guy just so you could be close to him. Do what you think is best hun. I think that until things cool down you have to stay away from the ex. Even if you want him back you do not have to come off as looking desperate and crazy.
66713
Been there, done that. It's funny how our minds and emotions can ruin a good thing. One thing that I hightly recomend is getting your self esteem up. It's tough, but once you are sure and proud of who you are, you don't loose that. As for getting your ex back. It may or may not happen. Give him his space now, thats is what he wants. If for some reason he also has a change of heart, you 2 can work things out then. But for now, respect his decision. Take care babe, im rooting for ya :)
179959
Just say no. She'll take you for granted in the sense that because you're still around, you're available should she ever want to get back together. In the meantime, while she has you as a backup, she'll go on with her life, getting you to do all the boyfriend "work" (e.g. listening to her whine about work, traffic, her new jeans) but not giving you the boyfriend "fun" (although maybe once or twice she'll cave and fool around with you). You'll think she's just on the cusp of getting back together with you. And then she'll tell you that she's met someone else. With work, be as civil as you'd be toward any girl in whom you had absolutely no interest. But flirt with all the other girls at work so the ex gets a reminder of what she's missing.
486820
Well, firstly, you need to write down why exactly he's an EX.  I'm sure there's a reason for it.  Then you need to figure out if those reasons are still there.  You broke up with him for a reason, don't get back together with him if those reasons haven't been removed.\n\nSecondly, we always have a soft spot for some of our exes.  They're comfortable.  You know them well, and sometimes, you need the attention that they can give you.  Doesn't mean that you'll make a good couple, just that you'll make good friends.\n\nIf you're interested, spend some time being his friend and see if anything develops.
286056
Well if you had broken up, then its really none of his business what you get upto... behind his back, or right in front of him. Pity that he did actually want you back, you might have blown your chances here...\nSit down and have a chat with him, explain the situation to him, how you saw it, and listen as he tells you his side of the story... Good luck.
258959
If you broke up w/ him there must have been a reason. What was that reason ? Do you want to go through it all over again ? I think I can relate to what you're saying tho. I went to the city partly to get away fr him for the wk'd after we broke up. Well, we were still talking on the phone sometimes but when he phoned it'd be more like "geeeeeeez... :( " but I'd still answer the phone. While in the city I didn't have a very good time. It felt like my fam was abandoning me or something. Like they were tryna get rid of me or didn't wanna see me, etc. :( I was very hurt. The main reason why I was thinking of moving to the city was to be near my fam too... After that I felt that my ex was the only one who really cared bout me. When I got back home I jut HAD to see him so I went to see him. I told him bout what happened in the city & how I felt that he was the only one who cared bout me. For a whole wk I wanted to be w/ him. I wanted to be w/ him every chance I had. We were @ this pt, just "friends". We went to see Default & I guess he was gonna go home after the concert. I didn't want him to leave. I didn't wanna go home either. He was gonna drink but I didn't really care if he did, as long as I could be w/ him. Well, his mom & sis were gone to the city, so he let me spend the night, which I did. I felt that I wanted to get back w/ him. B/w the day I got back home fr the city to the time we got back together officially was Apr 7th-13th I believe. There was even a time AFTER that that I thought that we'd be together forever. But in the past 2 or 3 wks I haven't been feeling that way. I wanna break up w/ him. When & how is the Q. This'll be our 4th break up. :( \nYou may also experience this as well. Have you broken up in the past ? If you have I think that this will only continue to happen. Don't let it. Be strong. Easier said that done I know, but when you feel like talking to him, call a friend. Maybe even get together w/ a friend or friends. It's better than giving in to urges. Hope this helps !!!
155309
I think he may have gotten scared, a baby is alot of reponsability, im sure he know's that and maybe he felt like he had to get something out of his system before settling down. However! be very carefull about letting him back into your life, you don't want to get hurt again but your baby does need a father. If his " calling hoes and bitches" is something you can get past this time i say give it another chance for the baby's sake at least but make it a point to tell him that this is it and either your gonna be a family or your not but you arent gonna out up with him cheating on you, you wouldn't be respecting yourself and he for sure wouldn't respect you if he did that! Good Luck:)
411921
I never got that whole if I date him no one can. if you guys are over, and you agreed to see other people then get over it, your not a very good friend if you wont let her have a chance at happiness. I don't see anything wrong with it if she was a good friend, but if she just stared at you and asked you why you were mad, that obviously tells you she's kind of a jerk, she obviously doesn't care about you or your feelings, considering you just told her you were still in love with him, if I started dating my friends ex I would have at least shown that I was sorry for causing any pain, but some thins cant be helped, such as holding back feeling for a guy, dang,...  then I'm sorry but if I were you I would have brought her down. keep in mind though that if you guys are supposed to be together you will and if he wanted to see other people then maybe you deserve better, unless it was your Idea in with case, WHAT ARE YOU BITCHING ABOUT. its not fun but remind yourself of 2 things first of all that she deserves the chance at him, and second of all that you may still have a chance of getting back together with him. I got back together with mine.  Good Enough?