well we were together for 2 years then all of a sudden one day he left me to go to California to live with his brother and now he has no idea if he wants to be with me
123881
if he has no idea that he wants to be with you, then you shouldn't be with him. it doesn't matter how long you guys have been goin out, if he can't figure out what he wants then kiss him good bye, you already wasted 2 yrs, why waste more?
455440
He is stringing you along. He doesn't want you but he doesn't want anyone else to have you either. He doesn't like it when he don't have control of you. You are his back up plan, his security that he won't be alone. You need to dump him and meet you a real man. You don't deserve that. He is tormenting you. He will never change.\nI gaurantee you when you meet somebody and he finds out he will be on his knees begging you back but please don't make the mistake in taking him back because after he breaks you up with him he will dump you again.
516955
me and my brother are 2 years apart and let me tell you it sucks when all of your friends end up dating your brother! it doesn't matter how many times the friends would say to me i promise it wont come between our friendship it always did,your friend needs to think about her friendship before she does any thing,at least talk to her friend first and see how she feels about her dating her brother if she really doesn't have a problem with it then go ahead but I'm telling you i have lost more friends because of my brother than any thing else..he would cheat on them and then break up with them and then they wouldn't want to be around me anymore because of him!
611680
i think he has broke up with you without telling you move on and find someone new
160990
Sounds like he may be scared of your brother for whatever reason. Most brothers are protective of their sisters. I know I am. But, you had it worse: your brother was friends with your ex. So, maybe this guy was scared of a double beat down. Or, the other possibility is this: he may not have really liked you but was being polite when he cuddled with you or he freaked when you cuddled and didn't know what to do. Then, at the last minute he realized he made a mistake by leading you on and freaked out, like most idiot guys do. Instead of just talking to you about it, he ran to your brother to tell him nothing happened and in his own juvenile way, he saved himself the agony of having to tell you he lead you on and used your brother as an excuse!!
74168
It may be hard for him.  Don't get too upset, after a year's relationship that is probaby a very uncomfortable situation for him.  He is right to tell you not to spoil your life because of him.  Maybe he also felt you were still hanging on for some reason or another and thought the best thing for you, personally, was for him to not be around.  Sounds like he is a nice guy and things just didn't work out.  I would move on.
425369
Oh sweetie im so srry for ur situation.....but if u re-read ur question out loud...ull find the answers already there....do u really think u deserve to have someone that is only with u when u can provide an outlet for tham but when the chips are down for u, he pleads the 5th? And the mortgage excuse he gave u is dumb....because that $$$ can go into a place w/u....besides the brother shouldve never gotten a home he wasnt going to be able to pay for on his own..... what did he think, that the brother wasnt ever going to eventually move out and get on with his life????? or did ur boyfriend assure him that no matter what woman ever comes along, he'll never leave?\n  It really a tough situation for u, lookin for a new place and dealing with this too, but deep down in ur soul, u know what to do, u just have to want and be brave enough to do it.\ngood luck
255829
this sounds like there are a lot of emotional issues that need to be looked into. I think you better have a straight forward talk with your friend, you are right, no one should be abused in a relationship, but it sounds like he has issues if its been two years , he has someone nice and he still stays with this other one. who pays the rent? is he a kept man? alot of questions to be answered.
104496
Leave his @ss...if it's weird and doesn't feel right, then that's not a relationship you need to be in. Just because you've been together for 2 years doesn't mean you have to stay together for old times sake. If he keeps leaving, this time you be the strong woman and walk away. Trust me, Honey, I know. I did it and I am much better for it. You may love him, but he obviously is not treating you the way you deserve to be treated and you need to cut your losses and get out.
282959
I don't believe that for a second.  No way you can stay with someone, put up with everything for 14 years and not having feelings.  He's just made/making a choice and the easy way out for him is to convince hisself he doesn't.  He said that for 2 reasons, one to hurt you and the other he's trying to convice hisself.  He'll figure out that he was wrong later, but it will be too late, if he was to want to fix it.  Sorry about your problems.
642712
You should move on if you know/feel that he's not gonna come back to you. But you shouldn't hold a grudge against him for choosing his father over you (no offence). Maybe at that time, when he said he wasn't going to move in with his father, he meant it because he knew that his brother could take care of their father. But when his bro left, he might have been battling whether or not he should go back to his dad. But I guess that for him to do that, he and his dad must really have a strong connection. :)
124171
U should talk to him, if u don't u may spend the next 20 yrs asking yourself why didn't I? or was he the one?\n\ntalk to him before he leaves
402634
You're right, they should. But maybe he's wishing for the single life again. Tell him to grow up and move home, or pack up and move on. He can't have you both ways.
14763
hmmm...june 2006.  sounds like he needs to graduate from somewhere, perhaps?  or be released (hopefully not)?  \n\nor maybe he just wants to get his life in order before he meets someone whom he cares about.\n\nif you've known him for two years, you should be fine asking him for his reasons for waiting until june, and if he truly cares about you, he'll give you an honest answer.\n\n//
428937
You wrote a pretty long question, but no where in the entire paragraph did you say that there has been any change in the thigns that caused you to break up.  That's the key here.\n\nObviously, you care about him.  He must have had some good qualities, because you would not have been with him for two years if he didn't.  So, you gave it your best shot.  Unfortunately, *it didn't work.*  That's sad, and it has to hurt.  Two years, all that effort, and it just didn't work out.  Ouch.\n\nBut the one thing you got, or should have gotten, is the lesson that you don't work as a couple.  Whatever happened between you shows that you can't be together as a couple.  So, yes, you have to move on.\n\nI know this is not the news you were hoping for, but I think it is important to hear the truth.  Good luck!!
77664
ARE YOU IN COLLEGE?  DON'T COME HOME EXCEPT EVERY MONTH OR SO TO VISIT FAMILY.  CAN YOU TALK TO HIM AS TO WHY HE BROKE UP?  GOOD LUCK!
396909
OK here is a love triangle for you this is great. My brother dated his girl for about two years, while i had my own boyfriend. we dated for about a year and a half. So after double dating and treating my brothers girlfriend like a sister she dumps my brother. Not too long after that my boyfriend broke up with me. About a week later i saw my brothers ex and my ex holding hands at school. Now my ex wants me back lol I'm getting back with him. I know it sounds nasty and he broke my heart, but you gotta listen to your heart do what your heart and soul tell you to do. you know you got it girl...