I found out thaty my 12 year old son has been male prostituting and my wife/ his mom caught him at a common spot for gigolos in our city, and other things have been brought to our attention also, but I can't punish him because me and him have a perfect son/father realtionship and he is my best pal ever...what do I do..and I'm 28 working with a job. how could he do this to us!!!!!!
136899
what u have to do is sit him down and talk to him...see why he's doing this and what possesed him to do this.... then just go with the flow... u might have to punish him because thats a little extreme, or give him a warning
525642
I'm not judging you or son, but I think you should let the Head conduct an investigation first.  Are we seeing the bigger picture here?  Could there be more to it?  I.E Is your son doing his homework or struggling in any way?  Does your son have any other peoblems such as relationship, friends, bullying, acne, football showers?  Is your son frustrated with the teacher.  Just gain as much information as possible first.  Is your son definitely 100% giving you the full story.  I hope everything ok would love to know the outcome of this one.
657736
well congratulations On being so accepting of your son being gay!!  The world could use more mothers like you! as long as you are accepting then I really don't see anything wrong with it!!, but I would pull them aside and tell them just that!! Congratulations on being a really cool, mother you seem to be the best!  \n\ncongratulations on your new business you really must be excited I wish you the best of luck and continued susses on your new venture!!!\n\ntell your son and employee I wish them well in their relationship
654282
There is nothing wrong with SEC. 1 son; whatever SEC. 1 son means.  and what is P.5?\n\nForget about this.  Your son has a big dick. \n The boys in the shower might make jokes, but that is only because they are looking at him and realizing how 'short' they are coming up.\n\nHair under his arms and around his cock is a good thing.  He is a boy man.\n\nWhy would you go to a doctor?  What would the doctor do?  Suggest that he cut his cock down to 'size'?\n\nForget about it.  In ten or twenty years he will be the dream come true for some lucky woman and you will have beautiful grandchildren.\n\nPS - let him wear the boxers.
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I hope this is not the same "friend" of 8 months that is yelling at your son!!! Stop that shyt!! Don't allow any man or woman to abuse you son. You are his first everything\n---his 1st teacher\n---his 1st ADVOCATE\n---his 1st experience with life\nStop putting these men in front of your happiness and your son's well-being. If that muthaf*$@#ka was yelli\nng at my 19 month old I'd catch a case. You better stand up for your son. I understand you want adult male companionship and you deserve "me" time. Taking care of a child is not easy, but he must be number one in your life. And stop having him around the dude you are f@#$kin'.  You wouldn't want your son to grow up to abuse women or worse get abused by women b/c he saw you being abused and your self-esteem get whittled away to nothing. I can only offer this advice b/c I've been there. My son is 13 and has only seen me with 3 men. Granted there have been more in my life, but I refuse to bring all of them around my man-child. Children WATCH more than they LISTEN> Even though your son is only 19 months he can still feel you, just like he did when he was in your stomach. The bond between you and your son is stronger than any bond you can make with a man. That baby is the closet thing to heaven you can get on earth. Cherish him and these years. He's exploring and should not be made to feel that his learning process is less important than some man.
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Wow! You should be proud of your son and quiet frankly,of youself too!! I feel for you and I totally relate to your situation.I am in a simular situation but I'm the Mom.\nI think from what you have said,you have done everything right,so don't stop now!! If your son is still loyal to his mom despite the fact she may not deserve it,that says alot about the character of your child and what you must have instilled in him growing up.\nLet it be his and your future daughter in law's day. I understand it won't be easy but  you sound like a father that would do anything for his son and I think it is absolutly wonderful that you are with someone that supports you and your son,I commend her also. I like what the girl said in one of your other answers,have fun with it ! Just gear yourselves up for this one!Be so nice yor sickening!! Don't,whatever you do,let your ex or anyone else cheat you or your son out of this day.\nThink about it.You have had all of the most wonderful memories and cherished times with your son being there for him the way that you have.He is getting ready to take one of the biggest steps into manhood that a young man can.I would venture to tell you that there is no anymotisy that you and your ex have that can be greater than the good you and your son have.\nKeep these things in perspective.Don't give up these gifts.\nGood luck ! I truely hope you and your wife and your son and future wife are the winners!!!!
405484
happened to me too. now my son is 26 and he has is own kids to support. and they can't touch his sperm donor (ex husband) because he hid out long enough to get away with it. Funny they didn't mention it was gonna go down that way until it was all ready over and done with.
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The therapist and support group cannot even legally give you any inclination that he is even a patient there under the HIPA rules so you can't do much but move on. Honestly, if he has done "sexual things" in front of your son and is an unstable drug addict you need to seek help for yourself to understand why you want him to be anywhere near your son. Sorry, to put it so bluntly, but yeah dream on.
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I'm guessing that your son will probably get hassled at school. Kids are mean, or at least some are, and he will no doubt get his share of the ribbing. That being said, I worked with a guy at Reynolds and Reynolds who was a dwarf. He was a technical manager, and when he first started, he was pretty uptight. Once he got settled, people pretty much treated him like anyone else. A good friend of mine worked under him, and he liked him a lot. I think that as long as your son doesn't make a big deal about it, no one else will either. It sucks to be different, but it isn't going to stop him from having a more or less normal life.
478372
Well to me it would depend on how long you've been together.  I'm ASSUMING a very very long time if you go so far as to call the boy your "stepson" as otherwise that would not be appropriate.  So since you've been together so long and love the boy as your son I would have to say why would you not go with them?  The fact that you are questioning going is reason enough to me to not go - at least not for now.  Maybe let them go and get settled.  Then see how things pan out once his real mother gets out of prison.
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i dont think its your problem man. i know he's your kid and you're concerned for him, but if he's 30 and cant get his crap straight, i dont know what you can really do for him. he's going to need to be willing to start at the bottom. like, rock bottom, working at wendy's or something. but, thats better than going back to jail.
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It's not an easy thing to deal with, you have to think about what is best for yourself, your husband and most importantly your son.\n\nYes, I strongly recommend counceling as well. You also have to have a heart-to-heart with your husband and find out what he wants as well as tell him what you want.\nYour son will not be happy living in a family where happiness comes last. You two have a job to do and that's to set a good example to your son.\nIf you two truly love each other and want to stay together, then it can be worked out, but you both have to communicate with each other. \nI have a dear friend who's gay who was married for a time as well. He married because he wanted a family, to him that was more important than his being gay. \nHe actually came out to his wife and they had originally decided to stay together to start a family. But someone else thought it was terrible and convinced his wife to put him out of the house. \n\nI know both of them and she had said a few years afterward that it was probably the worst decission of her life. She regrets it terribly.\nHe was very hurt because he really did love her and really wanted a family with her. \nThey both knew he was gay, it was something they originally were prepaired to deal with. It was only once he was 'outted' to a family 'friend' that things got ugly. \n\nGranted, neither of them speak to this person now as a result of what happened. But the damage is done and they can't go back. \n\nJust make sure whatever you two decide, it's something that you both really want, you both can live with and neither of you will regret. \n\nAlways remember your son comes first in all of this. Make sure, if you do decide to split, to keep the lines of communication open for your son to know his father. \nWhen my husband and I split up, I never said anything bad about his father in front of our son. I let him know his father and make up his own mind about him when he was old enough. Now he and his father aren't all that close, but that was my son's choice, not mine.
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This exact same thing happened to me when I was in junior high.  I didn't report him to anyone myself, but I told my best friend.  And because she cared so much about me, she reported it to the counselor's for me and it was taken care of.  His parents were called, my mom was called, everyone had a meeting, and he was suspended from the school.  I don't know if your case is as extreme as mine was, but the best piece of advice I can give you is report it to someone you trust.
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I agree with the person above me although "old" isn't exactally how I would word it.\n\nNot only if you tempt this man could he loose his job, but he could get arrested for having a relationship with a minor. \n\nIf you are having problems, speak to your school's psychological counselor. They are required by law to keep whatever you say in that office. They have a code of ethics and they will help you. \n\nTalk to your teacher, as well. See if you can't resolve this between the two of you.\n\nSay something somewhere along the lines of "I like you, more than just a friend. I'm fustrated because I know I shouldn't, but how do we resolve this?" Let him know right off the bat that you DO NOT want to persue a relationship with him.\n\nI know sometimes being young is hard, but realize that he's happy with his partner, his job and his life. You need to find your own preferrably within your peer group (your age group, is what I mean.)
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i have a son who is 7 and im a single mom im 25 i can tell you that when he is 12 he wont be able to go by himself.. its not cuz were being mean or want to know your every move it really cuz we love you.. its not a love that you may have for someboy this love is very hard to explane.. i wish i could tell you that your mom is wrong and to let you have some freedome but im young and my dad still wants me to call when im on the road or going to the movies with my son... the reasson is not becuse you cant be trusted. i bet you are a very pretty girl and your mom may have fears of what some strange crazzy men may be thinking when they see you... so im 25 and i have my own house and im single and i have a 7 year old son.  AND i still have to call my dad and let him know whats up.. why cuz he loves me.. be happy you have a mom who cares enough about you there are lots af girls out there who dont i have my dad.. good luck hun and god bless
638094
If I happen to catch my 12 year old son masturbating.  I would excuse my self and apologize for interrupting his privacy and leave immediately so he could compose himself from being embarrassed.  Later I would ask to talk with him to let him know that masturbation is okay and that all men do it.  That it is a form of personal sex called solo sex or single sex and should be done in private and kept personal.  I would then ask him a few questions to see if he had all the correct information and if not would make sure that he knows how with out hurting himself, knows how to clean up, and knows how to keep it private and personal.  I would then assure him that as an adult I would not try to invade his privacy and that I hope he would respect mine.  And that we will need to talk about other aspects of sex as the need arises.
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He's obviously an @ss, I would get some psychological help for your son as soon as possible so he doesn't end up with abandonment issues and blaming himself for his biological (only) father not wanting to see him. Good riddance to him, sorry for you and your son.