I really need to sort my house out .....but I  keep going from one thing to another - have even started painting things - and am making a mess everywhere........!! :o) :o(\n\nI need some friendly advice.
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IF YOU'RE TRYING TO DO YOUR WHOLE HOUSE, DUDE, IT'S NOT GOING TO HAPPEN IN ONE DAY. CALM DOWN,BREATHE. TAKE IT ONE TASK AT A TIME. START IN THE ONE PLACE THAT EVERYONE WOULD SEE LIKE YOUR LIVING ROOM OR DEN IF YOU HAVE ONE; THE MOST PUBLIC PLACE. YOUR ROOM CAN WAIT. IF YOU WANT TO PAINT, YOU SHOULD GET RID OF UNWANTED STUFF FIRST SO YOU DON'T HAVE THAT MUCH TO MOVE.DON'T MOVE TO THE NEXT TASK UNTIL THE FIRST IS COMPLETED. YOU WON'T GET ALOT DONE LIKE THAT. YOU'LL BE FINE. GOOD LUCK!
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I think the best thing to do is to work on things over time instead of saving everything for the last minute.  I always found that when the last minute came, I would just keep putting things off.  Just set aside a little bit of time each day to work on something.  But, oh i know thats harder said than done.
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how old are your kids?  even if they're toddlers they can do stuff to help you out where you're not the only one cleaning up.  all those other organized and clean homes look at the families does everyone in the household take responsibility for their messes probably so or they have several full time maids.\n\nok, what part of stepford do all you posters live in????  the people that created the mess need to learn to be responsible for cleaning it up!!!!!
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I'm in the same situation as you.  I think you have to take matters into your own hands, but that requires motivation.  And the lack of motivation is where I'm stuck at right now.  Sorry, this isn't much help.  But I just want to let you know that there are other people who have the same problems.
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I'm glad to be living with my fiance now, but there have been a couple of times in the past that I wished I was living alone. Once was when I was living with friends who had different standards of cleanliness - they are wonderful friends but I felt like I ended up doing more cleaning than was precisely fair. Another time I was in a relationship that turned abusive right at the end. Living alone was far preferable to that!
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Move out!!!! Moving out of home is one of the best things you could ever do!!!!
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im a mum and i found it hard having help in the kitchen maybe you could start by helping with the washing up   then ask if you can help with the cooking my kids always leave me with the mess grrrrrrrr
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Sounds great..I think I will do a little "housecleaning" my self\n\n:-)
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Personally, I find it very entertaining to answer questions on Yahoo! Answers. If you are looking to do something more active, this could be a good time to organize your room and go through your wardrobe and get rid of clothes you don't wear anymore (donate them to a charitable organization, so they will help someone else). Or you could see if anyone in your family could use some help on a project. The best remedy I have ever found for boredom is to do things that make something better or help other people.
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No, help yourself.  Get away from the computer, right now!  Go ahead and do your chores.  Don't make me repeat this again!  You'll be in real trouble if I see you here again.
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losing my children.  I am not as great a housekeeper as I'd like, although my children are happy.  So the house is sometime sacrificed.  Oh well.  I also have a disease that can be disabling.  Maybe that's why my house can be cumbersome.  But I try not to focus on it.\n\nHave a lovely day!
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Oh god yes. I am going for a brand new job, moving into my boyfriend family home until we move into our newly bought flat and I haven't got the time/money/patience or 'jolliness' in my heart for christmas!
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Hey I'm in the same boat, but this is what I'm going to try this weekend. I'm going to sit my husband down face to face without t.v. therefore he can really see how serious I am. I'm going to lay everything out, let him know exactly everything in which i do daily, weekly, and monthly. Let him know how tired, and worn out I am. Ask him to put his feet in my shoes and tell me would he be able to do everything I do on his own. Then I am going to ask for one or two hands of his help regularly, and permanently not just temporary to make me happy.
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perhaps refreshen your study room, brighten it up with bright paint, clear out the debris, open the windows, let in fresh air, take a quick shower, set yourself a break time before you get stressed, have a buddy to call you for 'keeping on track'...reward yourself, listen to positive motivation tapes in free time, take up a a new sport for boosting energy,...and talk things out with a counsellor perhaps...might be something there troubling you, choose uplifting music in the background and even splash some Bach flower remedies and aromas around, to clear the head and to revitalize you.  don't get down about things, you'r doing a great job....and hey!! its okay to work with a buddy too....find more buddies and have a different one each night...that makes each one, one a week, and is not tying them down monotonously.
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Unfortunately my girlfriend is a clean-a-holic.\n\nEverything is shiny and tidy in our home.\n\nI'm not really complaining, but it would be nice sometimes to just relax, and let it 'runaway' a little.\n\nSometimes I'm trying to fix something, and I put down a screwdriver or something, and when I turn back a minute (sometimes seconds) later, it's been tidied away.\n\nHighly annoying.
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well.....once you figure it out...let ME KNOW!!!!   I need to clean 2 homes!!
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Well, you have already nailed it pretty well, and under the circumstances you are doing a whale of a lot better managing this that I ever would! You're further ahead of the game than you realize. You are also tired and need a breather. You need to schedule some down time for just you. You are the one that is important here. And self care is job one. Always. You have been ambushed, so when that happens you always step back and regroup. And the best way to self care your way through this one is to be by or hang around yourself a little more. Find your center once again. Centering. A wonderful concept. And correct, too, on every level. Diet, bubble baths, rest, fresh air, cleaning your bedroom, checking your wardrobe and getting free of old stuff you will never wear again - in other words, spend a little time reinventing yourself. You are already pretty strong because you have a good mind with which to sort out all this foolishness and get your bearings, but the unfortunate truth in life is that when we are tired, anyone can take a whack at us and it is like they could blow us over with a feather. You can feel that sensitive, and it is because you are smart, really. It is the downside of being smart. You can be too sensitive. So when you find your center once again you will also find more strength to call this what it is: abuse. Others here on Yahoo! Answers are giving you some fine answers about actions you can take, but I am focusing solely on you taking care of you. Self care. Make more time to pamper yourself and start feeling good about who you really are, because look at what you are doing here: you are  working on your degree. I mean, my God, all this other chaff is just fuel. Be very alert and see it for what it is - a prime distraction and begin - just begin, to look for a better place to bring yourself for work. That does not, fortunately, need to be put in place before the end of the week. If worse comes to worse, you can just walk away. A social worker once told me, "Chris, sometimes all you can do is walk away." I never forgot that one. Under most circumstances, I get the impression you are normally extremely self-reliant and independent of mind, so it is probably just because this whole mess has worn you down a bit that feeling it is a lilttle rough on you right now. I am sending you good energies and my heart goes out to you hoping you find the perspective to see the bigger picture and put you back into it in the dignified and self-respecting way you rightly deserve. Get your self-esteem back intact and believe in who you really are. And for God's sake, get some rest. None of us thinks well when we are exhausted. The other thing is emotionally draining, and only time will heal that one.  God Bless You, too.     - Chris.