No matter how much I express love or care for this person she always makes me feel guilty, saying I don't love her and she's not good enough for me. No matter what I do or say it always seems to upset her or make her sad. No matter how many times I apologize it doesn't erase the hurt. What's worse is the fact I don't even know what I'm doing to hurt her. Every time I say or do anything she's suddenly sad or upset. She is always using guilt trips on me and like a faithful dog I bow to her will and do anything she asks. Should I continue this relationship?
121561
Dimples is correct!  She is the guilty one. She is trying to project on you.  If you really love her, let her go...completely. Do not accept bad behavior from anyone. I used to be in your shoes....16 yrs of marriage.  I let her go, we divorced, now we are the best of friends.
518811
In my oppionion, there's something she's not, or doesn't want to tell you. She may be avioding you because when that awful "thing/event" occures, it won't hurt you as much as it would if you were together. She might have to leave that town someday something worse. She may not know she's hurting you thins much. Another possibility is that she might want a break up, but is hurting you so you could be the one to break the realtionship, but the only way to fin out is to tell her how you feel other than simply asking, "What's wrong"
332079
If she took it that seriously you can really tell that it hurt her most because she was already feeling like a nobody.The truth is what hurts people the most. The best perspective here is to think that she's not talking to you because she needs you to suffer a little so you can see that you made a big mistake; if this is the case then it's temporary and she will get back with you. I don't think you should face this,for now, as the end of the relationship,if she loves you,she will forgive you. I think you have done all the right things,as you said, asking for forgiveness and owning up to the mistake.
46725
your behavior seems very irresponsible.  look at yourself.  take responsibility for yourself, your feelings, your actions.  Learn from your mistakes in this relationship
528297
That is why we have a saying look before you leap. I also learned from a seminar that we should breathe deeply, relax and count to 3 before saying things especially when you are mad or anxious. These are times when we say things abruptly that seem to be right at that moment but realize after that the words that we said could have been said in a better way.\n\nThis should be a good lesson to you. With regards to your problem, Having said sorry and making her feel you are sincere should be enough. It is now up to you if you want to win her back by starting from scratch. Earn her trust again and make her fall in love with you again. If not, move on.
136775
The evidence seems to point to guilty, however, I would say don't jump to a conclusion. My advice is for you to sit him down for a heart to heart talk. Tell him of your suspicions and of the things that you do not like. You are not in this relationship to get your feelings hurt or to be lonely. He needs to know this. It would be good for you to tell him exactly what you expect and if he cannot agree to this then perhaps it is time to move on. My heart goes out to you, Good luck.
602107
Have you tried to talk with your girlfriend about how you feel? When my sweetie feels like nothing is special, she talks with me and says "I miss when we used to ..." or "I feel like we are in a rut, do you think so too?" She usually gets the ball rolling and brings her dissatisfaction with the status quo to my attention. You can do the same. \n\nAnother idea is for each of you to list all the things you like and don't like about the relationship and compare your lists. You probably already know this, but when sharing your lists, do so in a positive and non-confrontational way.\n\nThen again, if this all sounds like too much work, figure out what you would like in the relationship and talk with her about that.\n\nJC
535003
I can relate to you perfectly. The guy I have been with for just about a year did not know if he wanted to keep the relationship going. After a long talk I said I was willing to work on it but he still needed time to think it has been like 6 days now and he hasn't even called me. Your entitled to be sad and angry after all she wasn't 100% honest with you and that is always painful. About the being torn part the best thing I can say to you is to pray and ask who ever your god may be to give you the strength to get past this and to open your mind and heart so that you can know what it is you have to do. Also taking a break with her might not be a bad thing after all you never know what you have until you lose it. Good luck and I'll keep you in my prayers.
205992
I'm actually having that same problem. In my case, yeah, I made a mistake, but I fessed up to it, was honest about it, and tried to apologize for it. I still feel like the other person is trying to make me feel guilty, and I refuse to be around people who are always negative all the time. I thought that I liked people like that, and maybe I did once, but now it just brings me down. I want to feel better, not feel how alone I am, and how much the world sucks. That's my story.
356218
Guilt is not going to change your circumstance, it is going to add to your stress. Guilt is a disease. (best taught by religion) \n\nYou have to do what you have to do, and only you know what that is for sure. \n\nIt is there own problem if they cannot understand and accept what you are asking for. \n\nNo one should ever feel guilty. But that doesn't mean succumbing to there needs to rid yourself of guilt. That will make things worse and leave you open to being manipulated with guilt in the future.\n\n You are are responsible for your own happiness. They are responsible for theirs. \n\nIt sounds like this will just go on and on if you don't cut them off now and deal with it. Then, it may only take a short time to figure out. You won't know unless you do it.\n\nThey will have there own guilt to deal with for not giving you the space and freedom you required.
149004
I've been there mate, sorry to say it, but she's taking you for a ride. She's using you when she find's it convenient. Sever this "relationship" before it breaks you in two. If she's willing to treat you like that, she's not worth it. She obviously doesn't have a high regard for your feelings, because if she did, she would have got with you totally, or not at all. Sorry to say it mate, but break this one up now, please. I know how painful it will eventually be if you don't.
472343
WOW! Good for you that you admitted this-that says alot about you.  I know how you feel and i have been in her place before-the best thing you can do is show her that you are sorry and that what you said to her was something said in anger and SHOW her that you do respect her and that you love her--SHOW interest in what she wants and likes--be patient with her because she does need time to get over this--i know it took me a long time to get over my feelings after the first argument my husband and i had-so give her time and show her that you know you screwed up! Give her the things she likes but do NOT try to buy her back with gifts--show her that you care and love her above anything else--even your pride!  Sacrifice a your favorite things and do the things she likes to do--she will see that and your actions will help her get over her hurt--you are married and time will heal things and help the both of you become stronger--you will see that just because you show her you care and give in on somethings you wont become less of a man--on the contrary she will respect you and love you more for that--believe me i have been there--and i am in love with my husband way more now than i was when we were "novios de manitas sudadas" GOOD LUCK and be strong!
646018
It seems to me as though you had some sort of insecurities when you were telling these lies.  How big are these lies?  If they are huge lies, well, then you very well might have already dug yourself into a hole which you cannot get yourself out of.  The only real thing that you can do at the moment is to just tell her the truth, and try and show that you are sorry.  Do not try and hug/kiss her after you tell her, because she will withdraw.  You must give her time to think about her feelings toward you, and then whether or not she is willing to forgive you.  During this process, which can take any amount of time, you must appologize to her in various ways.  Show her that even though you lied, you truly love her, and you should even tell her why you told her the lies.  She may actually understand and be more willing to forgive you.  What you must do is to tell her immediately before anything goes any further.
309677
Maybe she doesn't feel as strongly about you as you feel about her. Back off a little, and give her some space. As the old saying goes..."If you love someone, set them free. If they come back, they are yours. If they don't, they never were." Besides, do you really WANT to be involved with someone that is incapable of displaying emotion? Marriage is a life-long commitment that should never be taken lightly. Good luck.....
269902
If he is hurting her then he doesn't deserve her. Tell her how you feel! if she doesn't see you like that then just tell her that she can do better and for her to move on even if it isn't with you. atleast she is happy
618844
Just move on.  Regardless of who was at fault, if she really wanted to rekindle your relationship, she would make an effort to do so.  Don't allow her to make you feel guilty because of her selfish motives.  Move on.  Life is too short to deal with difficult people.
540694
Maybe she's cheating on you.  Either that or she's insecure.  Guilty parties in relationships will often project what they're doing on to the other person.  If she can get you to admit you're cheating then maybe she won't feel as guilty.  That's just one possibility.  Or maybe she really is insecure, in which case perhaps you both need to go to couples counseling because if she keeps it up you may just get fed up and decide to make her accusations come true.