scared  in love with married man
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why are you telling everyone our secret?\nDamn , you want us to get busted?
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There's some boundaries people shouldn't cross. That's one. Try not to be around him often,you can still be nice and talk to him,just don't so often. And if he's flirting with you then he's crossing a boundary. Don't flirt back & tell him it makes you uncomfortable cause he's married. And most importantly,find a guy that's AVAILABLE & loves you for you & you love him & I promise you'll get over Mr. Married. :)
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You should be afraid.. this type of romance never works out.. You would always worry that if he left his wife for you.. then he may leave you for another... and He will feel like if you would go with him when he was married then you will go with someone else if you are married.. there is no respect for the marriage.. what makes you or him think there ever will be? Find a single man and have a happy life.... You can find love with a single man and have a happier life... good luck.. :)
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You need to realize that your not really falling in love with him but that you still have a crush on him and that your feelings are based upon the past and not on your current life.  He may be a wonderful guy but the reality of it is you really have no idea if you two could ever really be together and be happy together like you and your husband are.  The best way to deal with this is just to keep reminding yourself how lucky you are to have the life you do and stop focusing on what you can't/ don't have.
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Listen to your heart. Give him a chance & give you a chance also. If you keep being afraid as now, you could never be in love again. But does he really love you?
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Your situation sounds very similar to my life story.  My wife and I got married very young, and I was not always very nice to her.  I drank a lot, and though I never physically abused her, I did emotionally.\n   She ended up becoming distant and looking for emotional relief in other men.  Never physical, but emotional hurts just as much.  I ended up meeting a woman, straying, and falling for her and it almost destroyed my life.\n   My wife and I go to counseling, which I suggest for you, and are working extremely hard to repair our marriage.  We are doing a good job, and things in many ways are better than ever, but there is still work for both of us to do.  In the end, ideally, we will have both grown stronger and love each other all the more because of all we have been though with each other.\n   This man is probably more of an infatuation than love because you are feeling things that you have missed.  Devote yourself to your husband, and him to you and remake better than before the love you had.\n   Get counseling, work it out.  Find you flame again.  If this does not work, than the only option left is to divorce, but this should be your last option, not your only option.\n\nGood luck.
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As much as you seem to love this man I think you deserve a hell of alot better!  This man does not respect you as a wife or as a person.  He takes your feelings and stomps all over them.  He is being totally immature and sounds like a totally controlling man.  YOU deserve a man who is going to love you,respect your feelings, and wont run out like a spoiled child when u have a disagreement!  Temper Tantrums r for 3 year olds not grown men.  And the fact that he didnt even want to save the marriage and go to counseling says volumes about the kind of man he really is.  LET HIM GO!  Find a real man!  Life is way too short to be spending it in a loveless marriage.  I met my hubby in 10th grade in highschool and we have now been married 22 years!  My husband would never dream of treating me like this!  Cuz he knows Id kick his butt!  smile!  Get rid of him, let him run, let him take the cowards way out.  YOU told him u would file for divorce if he left again- and he left.  THAT alone says he doesnt care about the marriage.  I feel so badly for you, I know this has to be hurting you terribly and wish I could wave a magic wand and make it all better for u but unfortunately I cant.  But I do believe in you.  You r a strong woman.  YOU can do this and you will find a man who will truly love you I PROMISE!  Lose this guy and get yourself a real man!  Good luck to u
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you're not crazy, but i encourage you to talk to your husband about your feelings. once this is out in the open, it can be taken care of. tell your hubby you feel badly about the way you feel, and you're coming to him for his help. also, avoid the other guy as much as possible.
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He probably just came to terms that you two will never be.  You are married, he is married...why continue and put other people's feelings at risk?
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Good for you, Emotional affairs can lead to worse.\nGet the book Love must be tough by James Dobson, and the Proper care and feeding husbands by Dr. Laur Shlessinger\nMake sure that all ties to this other man is over!  \nWork on your marriage and start seeing the first reason what made you want to love your husband the first place and why you married him.  \nAsk god to help you to restore your relationship>\nKeep your focus, and start being accountable for your actions, and be very sincere with your husband.\nI would go into long info for you, but I am running out of time, but the resources I have given you will help, and look on line as well of restoring relatinships.\nCheck your medical info make sure that there isn't no culprit hindereding your happness.
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Talk to him about your fears. Let your relationship play out and just go with the flow. Whatever happens will happen. You fall in love. You can't make yourself. Enjoy what you have.
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I think it might be possible that you are experiencing anxiety. Good Luck to both you and your husband.
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If you cant realize what he might be thinking/feeling...\nJust read what typed.  Give the guy a break.  Would you call someone 4 times a day, if you didnt like them??\nThink about it for just one minute.  He could be justa tad shy, + you're still married.
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We all make mistakes because we are human, so why is this a reason to fear her? We should never have to fear the one we love. Marriage can be tough enough without bringing the fear factor into it. I would suggest sitting and talking with her about what she expects out of the marriage...K
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This is a common problem in relationships and marriages today. Believe me when I say..."You are not alone!" It's the reason for infidelity and divorces today. But what you have to realize is that if you truly want to stay with this man, be devoted to him and have a marriage that zings. You are going to have to work on YOU first. Now I know you don't want to hear that. No one does! That's why people just throw in the towel and move on to the next failed relationship. Trust me no matter who you would be with next. There is going to be SOMETHING you aren't going to like, or you might end up with someone worse. (ex. he may drink, abuse or cheat on you). \nSo, how do you work on you? In order to rebuild that bond that you once had you are going to have to do the complete opposite of what you are doing now. Which means, getting a babysitter and going out on dates. Going away for the weekends, spending quality time together. Maybe you can't afford to do this all of the time. But spending time together does not have to cost much money. Go to your local park and take a lazy sunday afternoon stroll. One night a week make it date night. It could be anything from getting a movie and sitting on the couch together. Or going out to your favorite restuarant. Talk to your mate about your dreams, your goals, and your hopes for the future. If you are afraid of something open up to him and express that. \n In your explanation to your question never once did you dishonor him and say that he was a bad person. In fact you did quite the opposite. This tells me that you respect him still and obviously you still care about him. You are trying to seek answers on what you should do. That's a step in the right direction. \nMy last suggestion is that I would encourage you to seek professional marriage counseling in your area. There are a lot of very qualified couselors who specialize in marriage problems. Again, you are NOT alone! It seems to me that he truly wants to work on things with you. At least take this step and if it doesn't seem to help, (which I doubt you will feel that way) then you can at least say that you gave it your best shot! I hope this helps!\nI wish you the best of luck!!
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I hope that you are very careful with what you are doing with this guy.  Remember that you are married and you may lack a certain thing in your marriage which will be better work out with your husband.  I understand that it is kind of nice to have someone interested in your despite you are married but why are you dragging him on?  Will you be happy to divorce your husband because this guy sweet talk to you?  Are you sure that you will have a better future with this man than your current husband.  I suggest that you spend more time with your husband and rediscover him then talking to this guy, unless you have no hope in your marriage!  Good Luck!
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Run Run Run.  You should not be with a man who you are afraid of.  What do you want to show your children, is this the kind of relationship you want for them?  If he is accusing you of cheating it is probably him that is doing it.  Good luck