My friends tell me I'm good looking. I have some lady friends who tell me I'm good looking. So why am I single? I just can't seem to turn the lady's head's. Tell me what I can do to improve my physique and become more sexy
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The reason you're single is you choose to be. Physique and looks are great for anybody to have (whether you're male or female) but confidence in what you have to work with is what ultimately tends to be the greatest turn on. Ask yourself this... would I want to date someone like me?
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annB, doesn't it really annoy you when THEY DON'T READ OR ANSWER THE QUESTION YOU ASKED?!?!\n\nYou said "physically" ans all these people are trying to demonstrate their 'reconstructed' selves by saying stuff like "ooh...personality".\n\nYeah, sure, a nice personality is best. But you said *physically*!\n\nSo...\n\n1) "Good proportions" and a natural look (but natural doesn't mean "no makeup",\n\n2) Sexy walk\n\n3) "Confident" body language\n\n4) Big smile\n\n5) t.i.t.s. & a.s.s (obviously!)\n\n:-)
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Saucey, it is looking at beautiful women like you that bring out the aggressiveness in men.  My goodness, what do you think we should be like when you walk by?  Should we not look at you and just turn away?  Should we change any subject that we were talking about?  No, as good looking as you are we should approach you and start a conversation, for how else can we meet you?  We have to be aggressive for we are the hunters, the alpha males and we need to meet the females of our species in order to procreate and also have fun!!!!
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If it's just a friendship then u shouldn't worry about looks. Friends don't care about how there friends look. If it's a relationship(i.e. g/f b/f), then you shouldn't worry either. Unless you lied about the way you looked, which isn't cool.She hasn't asked you how you looked, which is a good thing. It means she wants to meet you based on personality alone, in other words, she doesn't care what you look like. So you shouldn't either.\n\nThat's the best advice I can give, based on what you said. Best of luck.
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It doesn't mean you are unattractive, it means you just haven't found  anyone worth your time yet.  Keep going out and meeting people, and it sounds lame but it will happen for you - and probably when you least expect it.  \nIf you want to speed things up, try getting a new hobby where you interact with people, if you attend church get involved with any singles activities there, you can also try an internet dating service.
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Welcome to the club...same here...i am intelligent/smart/beautiful\n\n(people say so)sweet personailty and guys look at me but no one asks me.:(\n\ni am going to die single...which is ok..i dont mind..lol\ni am independent/alot friends/who needs a boyfriend anyways.right?
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It's hard to explain in my personal preference.  You could have a supermodel and an "average" woman, and I may choose the latter.  Looks aren't everything, but they are somewhat involved, I'm not going to lie.  Other than that, I look for a fun personality, capability to have a good conversation (serious or otherwise), attitude, and a sense of humility.  But some other guys are just in it for the looks...sad, as it may be less fulfilling.
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Hmmm...Well I think you're cute. Probably one good looking hottie, as a matter of fact. Here's my email address if you wanna talk. supra_324_nova@yahoo.com Oh, I am about the same age as you.\nThanks for your advice before.
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Never put beauty above everything else...\n\nEveryone wants to look nice, beautiful, sexy, muscular (for men)!!\n\nI have beautiful, drop-dead gorgeous friends who are just so tired of shaking off men's advances. At least these girls arent shallow.\n\nthe shallow beauties are just beautiful shells, empty/filthy inside...you'll never enjoy a meaningful life with girls like these.\n\nI'll go for brains, if beauty comes in a package ...well that's a bonus.
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umm people tell me im good looking...?\nand im 14.....\nim not sure what you want to get out of this besides a gf, how will this help?\njust wondering :)
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Maybe they do like you and you're too caught up in self-consciousness to realize it. Or maybe they're just too stupid to know that redheads rule. Everybody here is gonna tell you that looks don't matter. They're lying. None of them would ever date someone they didn't find physically attractive. People will hate me for saying that, but it's true. I don't know what you mean by "an average body," but it doesn't really matter. You know if you look nice or not. Regardless, assuming you're in high school and assuming nobody there really is attracted to you (which I doubt), eventually you'll graduate. Go to college. You'll find the scene is completely different there. One more thing. I hope you're not being narrow-minded about the guys you're interested in. There's probably some reserved, nice guy out there, maybe not Mr. Universe, but not bad-looking either who would love to take you out but is scared to death to say anything. Give him a shot. Oh yeah...try taking the initiative and asking a few guys out yourself.
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When I was single, yes, I would stare, but try not to get caught.  However, I would welcome any chance to talk to or be around the guy.  If she is hot and cold, perhaps that is just how she is. Regarding your haircut, I would take the looking old comment as a compliment, but that could be a totally platonic thing to say.  Any other details you can add?
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From this moment on, you tell yourself that you are an attractive, interesting guy than any girl would be priviledged to have. You are the man! Convince yourself you can have any girl you want. Look in the mirror and find the things that make you look good. If you need to excercise a bit to help things along. You are the Man!  Once you achieve this basic confidence in yourself, put the past behind you, concentrate on the future, which you are in charge of. You have what it takes to handle any girl, any situation. Go up to a girl, ask her out, treat her right.  You are the Man!
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OMG- You're ME! I am the same way. I good with people, but I'm not good WITH people, if that makes sense. I know I'm sweet, nice, generous and lots of other positive things. I tend to put myself down before others get a chance to, but my self esteem is improving. I have a BF who adores me and I'm making a serious effort keep our flame going. I'd say you should go into a clothibg store and just try on several different outfits just to see how cute you can be in differnt clothes. Do your hair a different way and try to be social with people. I know it's easier said than done because I'm like a brick wall around people I dont know. It take a LOT for me to get comfy with new people, and my "open" is still not considered open to others. My BF said I need to let loose and communicate more and just be relaxed. Maybe you overthink things, like me- always wondering what everyone else thinks... just let go and stop worrying. A BF will come sooner o later, dont settle for just anyone, make sure he's worthy of you. Good luck! By the way, I am a 21 y.o. plus sized girl & I think I look great. Just dress to flatter your body type and have confidence.
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Confidence attracts me to women. You dont have to be hot, just know that you are hot is the sexiest thing ever. Also, a great personality is very good thing to have. You have to be able to laugh at yourself. Do worry so much and just go out and have fun and be yourself. DO NOT TRY TO BE SOMETHING YOU AREN'T. that is very unattractive
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I have asked myself the same thing!! So i asked my guy why is this, i said is it because you have a beautiful confident woman at home and what you need is someone not so pretty who looks at you and says wow! I cant beleive I am lucky enough to have this hot guy, you know..like they need to feel worshiped so to say..and he also stated that he knew they wanted him and it was easy to get
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You need more confidence; just remember that while looks get the first glance, for selecting a partner most women are much less visually oriented than most men are. Stereotype, but I think true. So, think about that to boost your confidence.\n\nThen, just start getting yourself in situations where you will interact with women.  Book clubs, Toastmasters (that will also help your shyness bigtime) Church groups if you are religious, parties, etc.  In this day and age, just approaching random people you meet in public has a low probabilty of success since people tend to be more guarded (but it can work, and might be good practice; ain't like you will ever see them again!)\n\nSkinny?  I was very skinny for a long time. Always teased in HS. during college I lifted weights.  After college I took up martial arts.  Stayed thin, but I was ripped. . . now, at my HS reunions, I am reasonably well filled out now but still thin. (I will never be a muscle monster; just don't have the genetics) and most of my HS compatriots are FAT!  HAHAHAHA! \n\nAnyway, it is more attitude than anything.  By the end of high school I didn't care I was skinny anymore.  That made a big difference.\n\nAs for you being attracted to almost every girl you see, I am guessing you are in late JHS, HS or college.  That is normal. Don't worry.  By the time you are about 25, you will be able to interact with women without **constantly** thinking of them sexually, and by 35 you can do it half the time you are talking to them. Sometimes being a man sucks.