I've been with my partner for 8 years we treat our relationship like a marrige and have a child together, but are not married. Would god think of this as a sin, even tough we treat our relationship as a sacred union?
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thats for you to decide but dont let a man waste the best years of your life if hes not going to commit
325914
Why in this world would you two ever marry?  You two will self destruct in a very short time if you marry.  A christian should never marry a non christian.  It just makes the whole marriage very difficult, if not impossible.  You should tell him everything that you think BEFORE you ever marry.  He can not OK or deny you to go to hell, you will go there no matter what he believes, but for your own belief.  I think you are just looking for problems dating this person.
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NO. not at all. First of all, I would like to congratulate you two. You're a match made in heaven. Basically, the bible states that sex is a blessing given to married couples. If you're just living together and not having sex, that's absolutely perfect. It's the most exciting thing you can have once you get married. But if you guys are married but not having sex... then there really is a problem behind that. Try talking to your partner about that.
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If you feel this will be an issue that can cause problems in a relationship, it would probably be a bad idea to stay together. I know you will have issues if you get married and have kids because you'll want to instill one set of beliefs in them, and he'll want another set of beliefs instead.
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I'm not sure if it's a vow breaker, but it's not a good idea.\n\n1 Corinthians 7:4-5\n" The wife's body does not belong to her alone but also to her husband. In the same way the husband's body does not belong to him alone but also to the wife. Do not deprive one another except by mutual consent and for a time, so that you may devote yourselves to prayer. Then comer together again so that satan will not tempt you because of your lack of self-control."
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I prefer marriage over just living together. It tells me he loves me enough to commit to being together for the rest of our lives. To stand before God, family and friends and declare his undying love for me. It's the only way for me.
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Its important to have a wonderful union, true but if you consider it this way; \nmarriage is sacred and within the boundaries of marriage physical intimacy can be expressed to the HIGHEST degree while at the same time be respecting God's principle of abstinance which is always followed by His blessing of a rewarding relationship as long as you both shall live.\n\nThe fact that you have cheated (yes I am being blunt and it hurts)and have had physical intimacy prior to marriage with other woman makes you a bigger loser than a winner. Why???? you ask?\n\nWell if you would never have had physical intimacy with another woman prior to a life-long commitment within the boundaries of marriage you wouldn't know how to compare her to another woman would you? Am I right or am I right?\n\nHow can you compare something to nothing? How can you say she is good if you don't know any other way? So realistically she IS be the best because she is the only one. Anything and everything she does is the best because it is her and you love her and have dedicated your life to her and love her unconditionally not on the basis of if she measures up to your standards. None of this if..., but..., or expect..., that is the poorest love you can give; conditional love that is.\n\nNow given that this picture has been flawed yet you choose to do what is best by her, yourself and God, I commend you for this, it shows that you would like to have a new start. In Jesus' Name you will!\n\nIf you have a new start how about you renew your mind to a mind that originally knew nothing of physical intimacy? Why compare her if you are giving her the chance to correct her past and likewise you want to forget your past? What have you got that other men don't have? What can't she do that other women can do? \n\nTrue love will naturally allow you to have a wonderful fulfilled life of physical intimacy where both the heart, mind, soul and body are connected and involved. Now this is true climax, but in terms of only physical satisfaction I would think you are missing out on the best because as soon as you add the other elements, your satisfaction grows exponentially.\n\nDon't tell me you are truely pleased when your heart is not there and don't tell me that even if you trick your heart in believing its real, after reality kicks in, you're not left with a sour taste that far outweighs and outlast the sweetness of the original deceitful lie.\n\nAbstinance is not a means of torture but a means of long term gain and success. If you cannot abstain for much longer get married sooner.
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Marriage is really a civil contract, not a religious one.  If you want a divorce, you can get one, no problem, and be free to marry someone else.  If your husband is a lifer, sweetie, don't you be one too.....
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Religion doesn't mis with relationships. It doesn't matter what your religious believes are. I am not going to say that i agree with you beliefs, but its not my place to judge. The point is that no matter what religion you are, in a relationship both parties must respect each other enough to accept the others religious preferences. I understand it is frusterting, i have had my own relationship problems because of religious differences, and it shouldnt be that way. Religion is a personal decision and your partner needs to respect that the same way you need to respect his. In my situation we decided on a comprimise that we were simply going to leave it alone. He has his and i have mine, and it is not dicussed and all religious practices are done in private and we promised that we weren't going to take crap about the other and not try to convert. Don't ever change your religion for a relationship....in fact don't choose one over the other. It is not something you should have to decide a side on. If you indend to stay with him for good, and have kids with him you might want to dicuss and agree on how the children will be raised, religiously, but besides that, you should both just agree to disagree.
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Per the Judeo/Christian Bible, "no."\nBut most people who claim themselves to be Christian in this country don't practice what they preach.  The rate of divorce alone demonstrates that point.  From a "civil" perspective, why not?  They can't do any worse than what the heterosexuals have done.\nFrom my own perspective, "no."
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First, remember that the Bible is a message of restoration (both between men and between God and men) and should be looked upon as guidelines for maintaining a peaceful life and reconciling life to peace in times of conflict.\n\nunfortunately, your husband has fallen into an addiction that is not easily broken.  Men fight great battles trying to overcome their flesh in this way, and as a wife, while i am sure it is a painful situation, you have to understand that it is painful for him as well.  If it were just a pornography issue, i would say that it is not a grounds for divorce because Christ uses the word "fornication" which i would suppose implies an act involving another person.  That's just me.\n\nHowever, once you bring into this equation the idea that he has cheated, you bring in a justified cause and grounds for divorce.  \n\nI think what you really need to realize is this:  If you are trying to justify a carnal desire for divorce (and trying to justify that desire with God's word), then you cannot keep a good conscience about this.  On the other hand, if you are truly seeking and desiring what is best for your family, then after much prayer, i would consider following through.\n\nLook for true repentance in his heart, and if there is no fruit of any, you have no choice but to divorce.
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hun...if you believe in GOD, it shouldnt be such a problem.\n\nmarriage is not always about money...once you both married, GOD will lead you both to a better life! believe in that!\n\nlike my self with my husband now,, he didnt have any job yet and still looking...but a week after we married, a job called...and now we're living our life better.\n\nand your relationship has been going too long...its about time for you to step to the next level!\n\nfear is normal...but the only way we can get tid of it is by facing it and go on with it.\n\ndont mentioned this reason to your couple, he might get offended...but being supportive and always pray will give you both a way.
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Yes, you can. You are married in the eyes of God and not living in sin. \n\nAsk a priest if you need more assurance.\n\nWith love in Christ.
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This sounds like some freaky cult not to be insulting but wow. You aren't going to go to hell for dating. You aren't going to go to hell for considering someone for marriage if they are not fully converted (what the heck are you converting into?) As long as you do not have pre-marital sex then you have no worries of going to hell. And even then our lord is a very forgiving lord and he will never stop loving you no matter what you do.
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If a person is married and in love with their spouse, do they not ask their spouse to "forgive" them when they wrong them? It's about relationship, for a relatioship to be a healthy one, there must be communication, empathy, and forgiveness when you have wronged them. This is ESPECIALLY true with God. I mean, HE'S GOD! Would you not be sorry for hurting Him after all He has done for you. I mean we live and breathe because He chooses to sustain our health another day, we are able to work, choose, and make our own decisions (right or wrong) because he chooses to have grace and allow us to. Why would someone not ask for forgiveness for sinning against such a gracious Father? As a father myself, it means much more to me when my daughter comes to me and asks for forgiveness for doing something wrong instead of not asking at all like she doesn't care about me. And if your kids refuse to ask forgiveness for disobeying you, you will eventually punish them. God does us the same way, we suffer the consequences for disobeying Him here on earth if we refuse to turn from our ways, we still go to Heaven because He is our Father and nothing can change that, but nevertheless, He has to punish us and does so before we die. \n\nAs far as the old testament goes, the high priest atoned for the sins of the people once a year with a sacrificial lamb because that was the covenant God made with them. The problem was that this only "put off" the sins and didn't cover them for good. It took a perfect, sinless, person to actually live that life for us, then to be sacrificed in our place to completely cover those sins once for all, and that is exactly what Jesus done. I hope this answers your question, Peace.
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i would say that when we go to heaven we would no longer be in our roles of wife/husband/parent/child...etc...our time will be spent worshiping God.. but i found this..check it out..\n\n \n\nQuestion:  "Will there be marriage in heaven?"\n\n \n\nAnswer:  The Bible tells us, “At the resurrection people will neither marry nor be given in marriage; they will be like the angels in heaven” (Matthew 22:30). This was Jesus’ answer in response to a question concerning a woman who had been married multiple times in her life – who would she be married to in heaven (Matthew 22:23-28)? Evidently, there will be no such thing as marriage in heaven. This does not mean that a husband and wife will not longer know each other in heaven. This also does not mean that a husband and wife could not still have a close relationship in heaven. What it does seem to indicate, though, is that a husband and wife will no longer be married in heaven. There is likely no purpose for marriage in heaven since there is no procreation or loneliness.
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That would make you unequally yolked, and I don't believe God intends for you to marry someone who isn't a Christian.\n\n*EDIT*\n\nIf you two are deeply in love, then if she is the one, she will get saved.  If not, then she's not the one for you, and you should ask God for help with moving on.