i am divorced my daughter is 12 and lived wth me the whole time today  when iwent to pick her up from her fathers she refused to come home her dad said she will live with him. she has school tomorrow he lives a 100 miles away. who do i call what do ido. She knew she was in trouble when she left because her report card was bad. He says she will live there and will not give her up. I didnt want to make more of a scene and just left with my son, we were in a mcdonalds parking lot which is the meeting and drop off point.Who do i call tomorrow how do i get her back he stays with his girlfriend and i dont have the new address or number just his cell number and his mothers address and number since he stays there until recently. He won't anwer the cell,what about school she has no clothes
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Well, have the police pick her up, your ex should have just driven her home.That is in volation of custody/visitaion.It is like kidnapping \n\nDispite the choice of where she wants to live it is still up to court and what is in the best interest of the child. So really it is never her choice,even as a teen.A parent object, a judge listens and custody is deemed to be given to the approiate parent
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Did your daughter make the accusation before or after your husband stating he did not want her living in the house anymore?\nIf she said it after he made known his wishes that she move out, it could be a malicious lie on her part to stir up bad feelings and mistrust between you & him.\nThere's a well-known case about a California bus driver who was accused of molestation by two girls on his bus. It turned out they started the lie to get him in trouble because he told them both to be quiet on the bus in front of everyone.\nIf the accusation came before him wanting her to move out, talk seriously with your daughter alone, and take notes on the details. Then, talk to your husband separately and compare stories.  Then talk with your daughter again to look for inconsistencies.
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Usually, the child can "choose" which parent they wish to reside with when they are over 12 or 13.\n\nHire an attorney -ask him if he can do an emergency ex parte motion for your husband to have full custody and/or remove her from her mother's home, or guardian ad litem; and a temporary restraining order.  Remedies should exist via the family court system.   \n\nYou may want to contact her doctor and tell him what is going on.  He perhaps has pull with CPS to quickly remove her from this environment.
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My son's father and I were also on a schedule with our son and I was going through the same thing you are. We dealt with that for 7 years.  As hard as it was, I had to discipline him. The last thing I wanted to do was ground him during our time. \nWhatever you read, don't run off and find a girlfriend and get tangled up in that. The last thing your child needs is dealing with a woman in the house who is not her mother. She needs time as do you to get a schedule and routine down.\nMy son isn't quit as old as your daughter, but made the choice to live with me full time in lieu of his father. He understands that my rules are to better him, not to punish him. \nKeep the line with her......she will see you are doing it for her own good as did my son. She is old enough to have real heart to hearts conversations comprehending where you are coming from. Just remember to ask HER questions. Hear her out. She may feel torn between you and her mother. Make her feel comfortable, but that rules are still rules whether you and mom are divorced or not. \nThe two of you will be just fine.................Good luck
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I would say it depends on where you live.  The law in some places tries to keep families together.  I mean just because they fought today does not mean that by tonight they would have come back together.  It is a hard call A good Lawyer would be helpful.  Unfortunately the law is not working for the benefits of the women keeping your daughter safe is I am sure your top priority.So I would get her some councelling because this type of abuse has a way of sticking with the person for yrs.Post tramatic stress syndrome.  Keep her away from him Chances are he will be sorry but once they realize the law is a joke they are not really worried about doing it again.Change her # move her somewhere else and pls let her know that she must do this to be safe he will do it again and can no longer be trusted dont even try run
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My daughter had a similar experience.  (We live in Indiana).  You must act now to protect your daughter.  \n\n1.  Hire an attorney.  The attorney can explain YOUR and your daughter's rights.  Any information you receive from the school will be slanted to their best advantage.\n2.  Demand that your daughter not be in any classes or situations where the boy is --- including lunch, homeroom, gym, and especially  where he could be alone with her.\n3. Talk to your daughter and ask her what she wants.  It is important that you give her a voice in what occurs.  Don't shelter her, that will only make her feel more vulnerable.  Have her go with you and Dad when you go to the attorney.  What you need to do now is to empower her.  Not to be mean, but I sense that your daughter is a great student but perhaps 'shy' or non-assertive which allowed this boy to assault your daughter. Your job now is to give her the skills to protect herself now and in the future.  You need to TELL her that you are doing everything to protect her and put your words into action.  \n4.  I'm unsure where you live.  Indiana has enacted anti-bullying legislation, perhaps your state has too.  \n6.  If your daughter has been traumatized so much that she is having trouble focusing in school...doesn't feel safe...etc., talk to her school counselor, perhaps your daughter could have an extended excused absence until the boy is sentenced and removed from school...\n5. But to answer your question, your school must actively protect your daughter from this boy.  \n\nGOOD LUCK.
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Let her go.  She will come back.  I went through this with my daughter for the same reason yours want to leave.  It didn't take her long to figure out it wasn't so bad at home afterall.  I didn't rant and rave just let her go.  She found out for herself just what kind of dad she has and I didn't have to say a thing.  Kept our relationship on an even keel.
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CPS isn't in the business of enforcing court orders, the police are.\n\nIf the order is still valid, and your ex's girlfriend is not supposed to be around your daughter, then any time she is around your daughter, she is violating the order.  Depending on where you are in California, the police might have a few dozen better things to do, if you want the honest truth.\n\nIf you are an eyewitness to this situation, you can file a report with the police (who may or may not accept the report), or you can get yourself to the issuing Court and ask to be put on calendar for a contempt hearing, where you will have an opportunity to explain to the judge how the order is being violated.  Depending on your daughter's age, she may or may not be interviewed by the police and/or questioned by the Court.\n\nI guess the bottom line here is simple: if the order is still valid, this woman is violating it when she is within 100 yards of your daughter.  However, her defense (obviously) will be that the child's father has seen fit to allow them to be together in violation of the order.  The judge may not see it that way, but he/she would have to be made aware of it first.\n\nIf you don't think this woman represents a threat to your daughter's safety or well-being, let it be.
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Hopefully your ex isn't being a total B*&%$.\n\nMy kids did the same thing to their dad when we divorced. I literally had to pry them off my neck to make them go with him. I sat them down and talked to them and things got a little better. \n\nIt is hard for kids to understand mom and dad not living together anymore and the child prefers to stay at the home that is their main residence.\n\nMake sure that when you do have your child you spend plenty of quality time with them. Taking her for a day at the park and playing is free and makes for some good quality time together. Also a nine year old child usually does not place a lot of attention on fathers day like they do mothers day because they are not in school at the time to make that sweet little card or gift.\n\nTry talking to your ex and voicing your concerns to her. If you can work together for the good of the child that would be a great thing.
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you have to prove that she is an unstable mother. but even if you dont get custody you still have the right to visit your son as much as you want to, no matter how far he is from you. And if she doesnt let you visit your son then report the bitch, if your son is old enough to make his decision then go back to court and the judge can hear both the woman side your side and your son decision  But Good luck to you and your son!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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As long as there are people brain washing her and telling her bad things about you she probably wont come around. You know your a good mother it sounds like your ex needs to find a hobby and quit trying to ruin the relationship between you and your daughter. I havent ever been through this but if my husband were to ever turn our daughter against me it would just break in two. My daughter is my every dream come true and I cant even imagine how things are for you right now. I hope that she doesnt listen to all this garbage thats been said about you and hopefully she will start contacting you again good luck.
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call the school she is graduating from.  Or, *gasp*, ask your daughter.
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She will have to prove to the courts that she and the daughter would be better off moving. Most courts won't look kindly upon her picking up and moving without a guaranteed job wherever she is moving to. Tell her to get her ducks in a row, then issue a written 30 day's notice to the father outlining the wheres and whys of the move. If he fights it, she'll at the very least be equipped with a good arguement.
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Contact child protective service in regards to her children and as far as you daughter goes, move so she can't find you.
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My daughter is 4 hours away, we have joint custody and I also have been treated like you by the court and my ex.\n\nIt makes us angry and the system is the system.\n\nWhat have I learned? Keep the high ground for the sake of your daughter. Be a great loving dad that is supportive and be a great role model.\n\nI have seen a big difference in my relationship with my daughter.\n\nShe only has one dad and a new step mom. keep up the good work my friend.
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obviously depending if shes a minor or not, could she not get in contact with socail services? if shes 16 or over she has the option to just leave without her parents permission, she can not be left on the streets, with the right help she could be housed in a bedsit. x She is old enough to just walk out! and so are you! if both or one of you work can you not both find some where small for you to live together? come on the pair of you are at your ages classed as young adults, she doesnt have to stay at home with her parents, im getting the feeling your not from the uk are you? or america? other wise im sure youd have both done your own thing by now.
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Call your mom Now and she should call the cops and have a bolo put out to locate her and make sure she comes home safely!! She is only 15 A lot can happen to a 15 year old don't waste any time get her home now!! Shes to young to even think of moving out with a boy!! Call MOM!!!!