it seems like a lot of girls on Answers ask how to let a guy know they like him.  What ever happened to flirting?  isnt that instinctual for girls?  also, how do you personally flirt with a guy you like?
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I don't know what these people are talking about, I flirt all the time and because of this I have never had any trouble finding someone to be with. The trick is to be confident and sweet. And if you have a good sense of humor use it like crazy... but don't bray at your own jokes like a donkey, that's NOT attractive. Give it a try ladies and gents, it works ;)
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yeah, extremely true...  i usually do that with girls that i really like. For example the other day, this girl i like and I were making fun of each other, and i said to her 'do you know theres a point where you stop talking? yeah? well youve reached your point. so shut up" i know its just plain cheesy stuff, but it just happens because its just manly nature.. i think its cause we dont want the girl to know we're all over them, so we add a little twist to the whole 'procedure'.. but sometimes some guys go way too far, and it hurts the girl, and guys should know where their limits are..
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Flirting is a game. It is better when two people play it who know the rules and who are good at it.\n\nThe rules are different between every two people who flirt, you either understand what is going on or you don't. You are trying to make the person more interested in you than you are in them; this can turn into a bit of a competition. Or you are trying to flatter the person by flirting with them i.e. when much older ladies flirt with much younger men just for laughs.\n\nFlirting is not to be confused with 'getting someone to like you' which is much more serious.
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Yes, because guys do not know if you like them or not.  I can never read girls right; when I think that they like me, how wrong am I!  I wish girls would be more open about their feelings, instead of playing hard to get.
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I had a hard time talking to guys when I was younger. I would get so nervous that the thought of talking to him about anything but maybe a basketball game seemed impossible. I understand that the direct approach is a no, this doesnt come easy for all of us. The spreading of the word is an okay idea but just because you hear someone likes you doesnt mean you will believe it. I would suggest letting a mutual friend know that you like him and having them see what he thinks of you. It may seem like a not so great choice of action but it can prove to be successful. If you are not up to that get a friend to go on messenger or something with you (presuming your guy friend has it also) and let them type for you and ask him what he thinks of you. I used to use that one all the time to make me seem bold while I was biting my nails in the background. Good Luck!!!
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I know what you mean. It's fun to flirt and joke around, even when you're not serious. He might not even be serious either. I'm friends with a lot of guys that act all flirty and say a lot of suggestive things, but we both know that they don't mean it.\n\nAnd no one's saying you have to do whatever it is he's saying.  You can just be a flirt, and if he asks you out, just say yes or no, but if you say yes, simply say, "Alright, I'll go out with you, but keep your hands to yourself for a while, ok?"
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When I was in school, I was as kind and polite as I could possibly be to all of the girls I knew.  I would smile, try to be pleasant, open the door for ladies (my mother would slap me if I didn’t), etc.  However, despite these actions I was generally very shy.  Even when there was a girl whom I liked, I would consciously and carefully avoid showing any special attention to her.  I would just try to look for signs that she liked me and that it was *okay* with her for me to like her.  \n\nI hope this helps.  It is possible for seemingly outgoing guys to actually be very shy.  It’s a form of cover-up.
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Guys definately like to be told the little things that work best.  This is because guys want to offer their girls more sexual gratification than anyone else.  If you tell them how to do this, they will be more confident in doing it.  It is also an easy way to get what you want.  \nIts difficult to know what is the right amount of flirting.  I think that this would be different with every relationship.\nGuys find it very sexy to feel like they are offering some degree of protection to their girlfriend.  Guys are designed to be protectors and providers.  This truth has been evident from the beginning of time.  Historically, men have been the hunters and gatherers.  We want to provide protection and meet the needs of our families.  Knowing that we do a good job at these task improves our opinion of ourselves.  To feel this level of gratification is as sexy as it gets.
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She might be playing with your mind and your heart. Sometimes, girls think it's fun to make guys confused about her feelings for him. But, then again, she might like you, but is afraid to take the next step. Obviously, she flirts with you and pays attention to every little thing you do, but maybe she's not sure if she wants to be anything more. As a girl, I'm scared of taking the next step. Sure, flirting is fun, but committing to a relationship is scary. It just depends on what kind of girl she is. She could just be playing you, or she could be afraid of a relationship.
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For those that think that it is easy for a guy to confess or admit, it definitely isn't true(Personal experience). Sometimes all they need is a little hint. If you do not want to tell him, i suggest you look for the extreme. Guys whom usually like someone will act exceedingly rude/polite as a rule. Good Luck!
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I'm a guy. It's hard because you don't want to mess up something that could be a potential go. Why don't you put yourself in our shoes.... We aren't sure if you like us in return (perhaps you already have a boyfriend), we're nervous because we probably think that you're out of our league and so on...... It would be easier if you let us know how you feel first. then we would be alot more comfortable telling you how we feel.
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Guys won't talk about their feelings until they feel they can trust you.  If you ask them outright, they'll avoid it because it's being forced out, or they feel threatened.\n\nYou have to understand that men act the way they do, not because they're jerks, it's that they are different from us.\n\nMen normally SHOW, I repeat, SHOW their feelings, they don't talk about them.  Most guys don't really understand how they feel.  Asking a girl out is the hardest thing for them, because it's showing that they like you.  If you don't accept, they've left themselves open to attack.  I know it's stupid but that's the way they think.\n\nIf you want a guy to ask you out, drop hints about it, like "I don't really know what I want to do on Saturday".  Or "what are you up to this weekend?"  Stuff like that.  When you want a guy to talk about his feelings, don't outright ask him, because he really needs to think about it for a while before talking about it.  Start talking about how you enjoy doing things, and how much fun it is.  He'll start to respond.  Never ask a guy about what he's thinking about, because most of the time, he's not really thinking about anything.\n\nThe real way you can tell if a guy loves you?  See how hard he tries to do things for you.  See how hard he tries to make things good for you.  If you want him to like you even more, thank him for doing these things.  Tell him something flattering about what he did.  He'll brush it off saying it was nothing, or something like that, but he's trying to minimize it, and avoid being embarrased.  Inside you just made him feel really important and special.
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I think your asking how to approach a female you don't know so she will like you.  I would like it if a guy came up to me and asked me what my name was, told me his, and we had a normal conversation and he told me he was interested in talking more and would ask for a phone number or give me his.  No lines, no gimmicks, just a simple getting to know you conversation.  I hate it when guys whistle at you and yell hey from across the street.  Its so disrespectful.
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I'm not sure if you want to tell him you like him casually, or want to let him know you like him, but do it in a casual manner...\n\nIf you want to let a guy know you are interested, but not walk up and say the words, then just pay attention to him...make a point of making eye contact, smile, say hello, comment on something he's doing or wearing...give him a compliment...\n\nIf he's at all interested in you, then he'll likely make the next move...
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I had the same problem a few years ago. I would try to drop subtle hints, like touching his shoulder when you talk to him. Don't be overly flirty cause he may shut you down and you might feel silly, but see if he responds to the subtle hints and if so then take it to the next level. I would recommend not ruining the friendship if you truly cherish it. But you don't want to regret never telling him how you feel, so feel him out. Drop hints, compliment him a lot, tell him he looks really hot today in a particular outfit. Whatever you would say to a guy who you liked that wasn't necessarily your friend. Good Luck!
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Flirting is the attempt to let someone know you like them but with deniability.  If  they don't like you back, you want to be able to pretend that you didn't actually like them.  You were kidding or they misunderstood.  You are just friends.....blah, blah, blah.\n\nThat is pathetic and neurotic and isn't what flirting is supposed to be.  A high quality person does not do this.  A high quality person, man or woman, knows what they want and goes after it and does not care what anyone else thinks about it.  They like you?  They walk up to you and tell you.  You don't like them back?  That is literally, nothing to them.  They are giving you an opportunity, not supplicating to you like a boot licking slave.  They want to be with you because they want to and they care about you and think you might want that to.  But, they don't HAVE to be with you.  It does not effect them negatively if you say no.  It does not say anything about who they are either way.  If you turn them down, don't be surprised to see them walking off with someone else, 10 minutes later.  They chose you first but they have MANY options and there are plenty of fish in the sea.  Also, they aren't mad at you about it and won't mistreat you if you come around later (women do this all....the....time...when you approach them).\n\nNow, what is flirting supposed to be?  Flirting is the art of subtly turning your partner on and then increasing it more and more and more by taking two steps forward and then one step back to drive them crazy with desire. It's what you do to make the sex you have with them later, something very pleasurable.
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I remember when I was a teen, this was simply done by passing a note.  Something sweet, like will you be my boyfriend yes or no?  Of course things may have changed greatly since I was a teenage.  You just have to show him that you are interested in him as a boyfriend is all :), then flirt with him, give him sweet kisses, just keep it toned down for now :)