I had been working on my personality to make it pleasant, among girls, but once such thing happened that I lost the icon of pleasant personality. Now I want to regain it, how is it possible?
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That "lost icon of pleasant personality" may still be in the Recycle Bin. Try restoring it from there.
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I dont think your problem is reinventing yourself?  I think your problem is mentally refusing to accept that any physical change will most possibly have pyshical side effects?\n\nAccepting that as part of the change is essential.  \n\nI know what you mean by reinventing yourself though. Visualise what you want to be and live as if you were that new person. Talk to people as if you are that fit healthy person, you are aware of yourself, you are aware of others etc.\n\nTHEN be forgiving of yourself that your internal thoughts/feeling are taking a little bit of time to catch up with your new external persona.  This is not you being false.  Its not you NOT being yourself. Its just you working towards the petson you want to be.  Dont be too hard on yourself.  \n\nOh and other people possibly already perceive you as the person you are striving to be.\n\nGood luck x\n\nhmm have gone back to edit this as I saw a few typos.  This is my latest resolution of not being too hard on myself!!  So I will acknowledge the typos and try to not correct them..lol
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Awww Don't worry Jerry I think there is someone out there for you that will surely take your breath away, its hard to find a decent person out there these days with all the confusion and what idols people have in their life they usually want to act as hard core as their rock star idol or as stuck up like paris for example no one ever really thinks about being their self and thats whats wrong with society today no one thinks that what they are perfect and if their personality is even a good one.... I may have tried to change myself just to fit in but truthfully I think being my self is all I really needed to do I love people who are caring and fun to hang with and I hate being one to disappoint... I really love keeping a positive attitude I mean now a days you can never tell if people are serious or if their joking with their attitudes I think you sound like you have a good head on your shoulders and the people you meet with attitudes must be completely not worth knowing because what they don't give you is respect and as they say If you respect me I'll respect you so don't worry you'll find some one that will respect you... I guarantee it :)
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Sometimes, we all kinda go through that phase. But its nothing that you can't grow out of. Just take a bit of time out for yourself and re-evaluate your goals, your apirations, your associations with the people around you and work towards improving and developing on them. Be nice, be interesting, [Read the newspaper, magazines, editorials..theres a whole lot you can learn] expand your social circle and you'll do A-okay
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I know EXACTLY what you mean. This is what you do... Find something that really makes you happy, like a hobby. I was kinda like that with this girl, but my thing was music. And one day I got lucky and someone invited me to go record at their studio. I was so excited about that, that when my girl called and picked a fight and did or said stuff that would normally ruin my day, I was like whatever, cause the other thing was keeping my mood up and I knew that it wasn't a big deal.. \n\nSO, find a hobby, keep your mind interested in things other than a girl. Then they won't be the focul point of your brain and that's actually an attractive thing to girls. But you can't fake it, it has to be natural. SO FIND WHAT IT IS THAT MAKES YOU JUST AS HAPPY AS TALKING TO HER AND DO IT!
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You've experienced the good days with your girls at the past. And you liked it. However, losing something that you really treasured always gives disappointments. The reason why you are lonely is that you feel embarrasing when you think of the nice things that you had in the past but you lost in the present day today. You notice the big difference of the past days compared to these days. Because of that, you tend to feel disappointed. You want it back. And because you cannot get what you want, your brain is being tortured because of the lonesome you feel and makes you feel stressed. You have a good profession. You have a nice job to brag it to women. And with that, you may use your profession as your appeal to women in order to have a successful proposal. You may also start entering the gym to restore your lost nice looking body.
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If I could change something about my life, it would be to do with my self-confidence.  I have never felt important or felt like I had anything special to offer other people.  I have had several bouts of depression in which case each one seems to be harder to get through than the one before.\n\nI am being married next month and the one thing that is really important to me at the wedding is that I feel beautiful when my pictures are being taken.  I know it sounds very superficial and I understand that.  I can count on both hands how many times I have been told that I was beautiful and actually felt it.  I want to be able to look back at the pictures and think that I am a beautiful woman, inside and out. \n\n I live in Eastern Canada and I do not believe that we have a shortage of resources here or anything like that.  In order for me to get stronger emotionally and mentally, I think I would have to be able to meet with a counselor and talk things out.  Because of the fact that I am 21 years old, I feel that it is a great time for me to gain the self-confidence that I have always longed for.  I want to get this resolved before I have children as I do not want them to go through life following my example of being the person who couldn't stand up for herself or give her opinion.  When my children look at me, I want them to see a strong and confident woman who they look up to.
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After that you will be doomed like any thing and you would not be able to tolerate the humiliation you feel yourself after getting down from your respectability and high rank. DON'T THINK ABOUT TEMPORARY HIGH RANK AND RESPECTABILITY. MAKE SURE YOUR PERMANENT UPGRADATION.
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It sounds like you lost yourself, and all your stress is stem from the responses from people around you, do something for yourself and do it in a way that you love it with a purpose and forget about how others would think.
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We all change and develop over time.....you are not exactly the same person you were 5 years ago.  So don't expect to be.  It seems what you have is a little lack of confidence.....happens to all of us.  Just get back on the horse so to speak.....but do it in small doses......Do some of the things you used to do and build little successes.....get your rythm back.... in the process you will make new friends and you'll forget all about this period....
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Hi Amanda, \n\nPlease know that everything begins inside you, and that is where you can begin your being more outgoing and more assertive. \n\nSeveral powerful tools to help turn your desires into reality are as follows: \n\nHave your ever heard of the term, " Brain Writing"?\nDo this daily: Take a pen and paper and start writing what you want to transpire. for example, " I am a vibrant and outgoing person who is assertive and spontaneous". or something to that effect. Write this, say, 10 times, or as many times as you feel comfortable with. \n\nAnother is called creative visualization. Find a place where you will not be disturbed, perhaps when you go to bed at night, and in your mind, visualize yourself being very outgoing, talkative and assertive. See yourself in different situations and see how you are spontaneous and assertive. If you should feel uncomfortable, stop the visualization and say to yourself, cancel, cancel negative thoughts. and continue with your visualization. \n\nWhen you do this, you sub conscious mind takes everything in, and it cannot tell the difference between a real event or an imagined event. So each time you do these creative visualizations, you are setting the stage for the new you to emerge. \n\nIn closing, always remember, that others will always see you as you see yourself. It's called self confidence and other people will always pick up on it. \n\nI apologize for this being rather long, but it was necessary for me to do whatever it takes to help you to become the new person you desire. \n\nEnjoy the new you, \n\nDarryl S.
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you've only seen the girl for a month? wait later til you decide.\n\nwhich ever have a good personality
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i don't want you to change your personality\n\nyou are beautiful the way you are, there is only one kitten freak, and that is you, and with you comes your great personality, which is just SUPER!!!\n\ni would be sad if you were a different person because i love the way you are! you are sweet, innocent, and you are still a kid, which is the best thing in the world to be, I Promise!!!\n\neveryone in this world is sorta mean...noone is nice and sweet all of the time, that is just they way life is sweetie :) it isn't bad to be mean sometimes, but rather, just treat people the way you want to be treated\n\nunless you are just having a bad day, and on those days it is ok to be mean, because everybody in the world does this!!!\n\ntalk to you soon my dear! :)
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Ask your friends that will give you a honest opinion for that.  Or if your still friends with the people that rejected you before ask them why they rejected you then you could pinpoint what exactly was the factor making you get rejected.  Then change it after,  if it is your personality don't expect that you'll be able to change that so quick it's more of a progressive thing.  I did that myself I was so shy but now I'm outgoing than I was before.
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i have started beleiving more in myself.\n\ni have paranoid personality disorder. its very hard to overcome.\n\nbut i beleive in myself...that i can improve my personality.\n\nit will  be very hard.....but i think with time and lot of will power...i  will be able to improve my personality.
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It's good that you were able to bounce back and now realize there's just no compromising your life choices from now on!\n\nIt's natural to "outgrow" a relationship.  But it is also necessary to have a polite attitude when people offer their companionship - welcomed or otherwise.  Simply show that you no longer share the same interests and that your goals in life have already shifted.\n\nAlso, it should not necessarily be the case that it is only them who expect you to act in a certain way (i.e. how you used to be), as a part of this circle, you are also entitled to swaying them in doing whatever it is that you believe is appropriate at this stage of your friendship.  There just may be a reason for this reunion to have taken place, maybe it is now your turn to influence them!\n\nAt all times, though, be steadfast and consistent in showing to them that you are already past that stage in your life and that you are moving on to greater things.  It is up to them if they are going along with you for the ride.
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I have a few suggestions on overcoming your problems.\n\nYou need to love yourself for the person you are, tell yourself daily that you are strong and confident (preferably when you feel the least). Everyone is unique. Everyone is different. Good posture might help with your confidence, it sends a confident vibe.. \n\nTry acting confident for a day, you'll see you might actually like it.. and it's not as difficult to pick it up after a while as it sounds.\nSometimes you might feel a little cheesy but it will really help.\n\nAs for the concentration.. work on developing patience and listening skills. If you are genuinely interested in what a person has to say, it is easier to listen. Or you could try tapping one finger on your leg, I know someone who does this. (discreetly though) Don't make it look like you are impatient. \n\nI hope this helps