my bf doesnt like the fact that ive been with a girl before and had a threesome, on one occasion he was there when I was with the girl, he never said anything about it at the time but now he always says things about me being with a girl,is it fear or jelousy?
125678
i just creamed my jeans and i got two points, yessss!!!!
62996
I think he is afraid of the reaction other people would have if he told you that. Some people really do talk when they hear about relationships. Summing it all up; can it be fear?
626462
as friends yeah but he might get jealous.sounds like you are bf and gf but just arent saying it. dating and holding hands, sounds like it to me. he probobly likes you but is afraid of the pressure and akward questions.\ngood luck\ngod bless +
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you need to tell him how you feel. if he still does it and sees no problem with it, then break up with him. he's obviously not into you if he can't stop talking about other girls...especially right in front of you! and above all- don't pretend like it's ok with you when he does that!!! maybe that's why he still does it- you're not letting him know that it bothers you...
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I don't see anything wrong with that.  Does your current girlfriend have a problem with it?  If she does,  surely she knew prior to becoming your girlfriend that you mainly had female friends.  I am a female who has very little female friends.  I don't get along with women very well.  I get along better with males.  I make sure that anyone I get involved with understands that my friends were in my life long before my boyfriends.
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It sounds like your boyfriend is self conscience of your relationship and he is he sure of himself.  Have you made attempts to reassure him that he is the only one and that when you go out you are just having fun with your female friends.  \n\nI think many times we as women forget that men can also suffer from low self esteem and can be just as self conscience about relationships as women.
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This is one of those things that it's all in the persons point of view. He may just be viewing it as a form of pornography which wouldn't be cheating at all and may just be getting himself all warmed up for a night with you. OR he's losing interest within what he has and things need to be spiced up a bit. If he starts acting differently towards you than I would seriously consider having a sit down and talk session with him and get both of your view points out and let him know that you don't approve of him watching other girls on the computer while they pleasure themselves.
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Well its obvious that he's interested in taking your relationship further if you didnt know it.   Many times, people are scared to say the things that you are brave enough to admit.
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There's no way for this to not be a two-part answer. Firstly, he's right in that it is human nature for males to notice other females *and* for females to notice other males - it's just an animalistic, survival thing.\n\nHOWEVER, it is *exceptionally* disrespectful toward you for him to admit being aroused by looking at other women, or to blatantly look at other women (especially when in your presence.) It is not at all unrealistic of you to be upset by his behavior and ask him to tone it down. He should care enough about your feelings that he won't want to intentionally hurt you by keeping it up.\n\nIf you explain that it hurts your feelings (and probably your self-esteem) when he behaves this way, ask him to be more discreet, and he *still* doesn't bother, it may be time to look into counseling. This is obviously his hang-up, and he may need help to see the effect that his behavior is having on your relationship. Good luck.
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I'm a girl and I would be devastated if my BF told me that.  Sometimes things are just better left unsaid.  She would lose respect for you at the least.  If you don't want the chance of losing her and you DO love her, keep it to yourself. :-)  Believe me, I've kept the same thing to myself.  Girls are sometimes just after some nice hard...ya know..and then we get hit with the love bug!! haha
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You are not the smothering type like one person above me said. \n\nYour boyfriend sounds like he's trying to have his cake and eat it too.  You nailed it when you said: "To me, I think this seems like he wants to be able to have me around if/when he wants me, but for me not to get mad if I can't have him around when I want him. Like he wants to be with me, and for me to be there for him, but he doesn't want to have to be there for me."\n\nI knew a guy who was sleeping with this girl for a year and a half and he refused to call her his girlfriend..he just told people they're "seeing each other."  This generally means a non-exclusive relationship, and while he was sleeping with her, he was also seeing other girls and possibly sleeping with them too.  \n\nTell him you're not looking to take a step backward and that if he wants space that badly then he can have all the space he wants because you're leaving him.  He doesn't want to be committed to you? Then he shouldn't get sex or anything else from you.  Don't get used.
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By the sound of it, I think he is confused. He is asking you these questions to see if you still love or care about him. The same goes for when he hugs another girl he is probably thinking of you. Not saying anything to get your hopes up or down. But he probably compares your hugs and kisses to other/s.
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I used to have this same problem with guys I used to date but, I found the love of my life and I can't stop talking. I feel comfortable around him. I know that he will not judge or think less of me for what I have to say. Maybe she does not feel comfortable around you. Maybe she is afraid that you will judge her.
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He just doesn't want it to get boring.  I get scared of the same thing b/c I do want sex all the time with my man.  I LOVE HIM!  But you just have to talk with him and give it time.  Maybe they dated a long time and that's why he was comfortable doing crazy sex scenes with her.  Your time will come.  OKAY?
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My boyfriend told me something just a little while ago. Before we were going out, he didn't know that I liked him, he said i was sending him mixed messeges! I definatly didn't think I was...I liked him so much! But I liked him so much that I would get nervous when I was around him, because I didn't want to give him the wrong Idea, that is what it sounds like is going on. It sounds like the girl likes you, shes just shy. Don't be shy too!! Go for it!
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Calm down....Just cause your bf change his plans and does something else dosent mean he cheating. How can you sound more untrusting. I doubt he goes outta town without tellin you,im sure youknow why he goes. alot of times its a persons own thoughts that trigger insecure thoughts that causes striff and tension in relationships.  I have this same problem with my girl, she always thinks im cheating or doing something specfically to harm our relationship,like i wanna argue about things like that. Its ridiculous, I dont know if she wanna wardenize me or not, Itry to please her by telling her stuff but she complains I told her too late. Its not a problem cause I really like her and its not a big deal(as much) Sometimes you gotta choose your battles and deal with the good and the bad if you really like him/her if you generally know he not cheating. TRUST HIM ladylocks!!
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He's blowing you off, but there may be a lot of truth to what he says. Unfortunately, I've used that line and lived to regret it. She was a great girl, but I didn't want to get exclusive. Sometime afterward, I wished I hadn't broke up with her because the other girls I met were not near as nice as she was. Hope that gives you some kind of consolation. You do deserve someone better, and you will find him.