My feelings for him has changed. I am falling for somone else. I think Im in trouble, he might be in love with me, but I dont feel the same way. How do I let him down without breaking his heart?
123136
#1 quit acting like a whore sleeping around with one guy for 4 years now you want to jump in bed with somebody else. U should have more respect 4 urself because you owe it to yourself.
103243
Okay, 1st of all feelings like that just dont go away so he probably still feels the same way he just stopped letting it show. and 2nd you need to tell him how you feel. Im sure he will be thrilled to hear it.
606445
Just because the "L" word came out doesn't really mean anything Bad. Like you said you guys have known each other for awhile already!\nAnd telling him that you haven't felt that way in long time... \nWell, that's like telling him that you are not sure if you are ready for that step in your relationship with him... But, this could be a good thing! If he really loves you ... you will know! \nHe will still show interest in you and you and him can get closer in your relationship. Just don't rush it..  I have been married three times and all of them we're great at first! Ya' know? Just can't wait to be with them... all you think about... and that's great!\nAll I'm saying is to take your time if you want it to last... \nPay attention to the bad sides he may have and see if you really want to spend the REST OF YOUR LIFE WITH THIS PERSON...\n\nI don't think you really pushed... if he loves you he will stick around.    If you think you pushed... just go talk to him.\n"What should you do now?"  \n(1)Take your time...\n(2)Let the love grow...\n(3)Spend time together and talk<<< \ncommunication must be open. \nSharing your feelings with the one you love is very important!\nIf you are serious about this guy then try these steps and God Bless...\n later.
94797
How do you feel.  Do you want to be with him if so tell him.  Obviously he could be in love with you again, if not and you are not in love with him, tell him that you don't want him to tell you that he loves you because that [art of your lives are over.  Just because things were comfortable then dose not mean they should be comfortable now in this new found relationship.
457787
Definately tell him. I was in a similar situation and I never told the guy how I really felt.  He's with someone else now and it hurt so bad that I ended up spending less and less time with him. Now we barely ever talk.  I found out later that he had feelings for me, but now it's too late.
46784
Talk to him about your fears. Let your relationship play out and just go with the flow. Whatever happens will happen. You fall in love. You can't make yourself. Enjoy what you have.
105709
If he was really into you and really wanted to be with you he would.  But maybe he felt that way about you and you blew it.  Sometimes we don't know what we have until it is gone.  That sucks.  He does need to stop jerking your heart around though because you will never move on if he keeps stringing you along.  NOT FAIR.  Either he wants to be with you or he doesn't.  Don't play games.  If you have children you are too old to be playing games!!!!   Tell him honestly one more time how you feel but this is the last time and then you are moving on.  And MEAN it.  If he decides to stay with the new one tell him that you will no longer discuss his feelings for you.  Don't let him jerk your emotions around.
25913
Be straightforward with him. Get him when he isn't busy and tell him you need to talk to him. Just say "hey buddy, you know that I love you. But I need to know if you feel the same way about me. If you don't please tell me, because I am not going to waste my time loving someone who doesn't love me back." Just say something similar to that. Good luck girl...
518717
Are you secure with yourself as a person?  Are you honest to yourself (and him) about your feelings for him?  I am not judging you in anyway at all... I can just understand where you are coming from.  If you really love this man, don't try to change him or try to get him to do things that he would not normally do (emotionally).  To love someone unconditionally for who they are is the greatest thing of all and with that comes compromise and not trying to change who that person is on the inside.  I wish you luck with your relationship!!!!
249300
Just sit down with him and tell him everything.I think that he should know how you feel before he finds someone else.If you want to be with him,tell him that you want to be more than friends.
566263
WOW Ok i will give this a shot at!  First thing that came to my mind is , Don't Change anything. If you start to cuddle him more or start changing due to this news, he will feel like you feel sorry for him, and he will feel worse. Stay the way you are, The second thought is,,,He JUST  found out TODAY! So yes allot is going threw his head and will for awhile. Just be yourself, the women he fell in love with. Be there when he needs you. Stand by him. Don't make it the TOPIC everyday, let him bring it up. He will talk when the shock of it all has settled abit. JUST LOVE HIM AS YOU BEEN DOING! My prayers are with him & you.  Peace.
309731
You just learnt a valuable lesson didn't you?\n\nUltimatums always lead to heart break.\n\nI hope you can patch things up, start by apologising for being immature.  Explain that you wanted to be close to him and that's why you insisted on knowing his thoughts.\n\nGood luck with this.
263224
I think both of you need a serious talk. If he says his feelings decreased but he says he made a huge mistake you need to ask how he feels now. Cause if he doesn't want to be with you in that way, you're only torturing yourself by hanging out with him and talking to him on the phone. If he feels that he wants to get back together then he should tell you when both of you have your serious talk. If he says he needs to think about it and you want to wait then don't pressure him. Show interest but not insecurity. I know it would be hard to stop talking to someone that you love if it wont work out. But sometimes you need your heart to hurt a little bit so it would heal. Just keep yourself busy. If it's meant to be then it will happen. There's plenty other relationship experience's that you will go through and not all of them will work even though your certain they're the one. And yes, I'm telling you this from personal experience. Good luck...
673089
Sorry but there really is no easy way. You care about him and don't want to hurt him even though he has hurt you. Tell him what you said to us. Let him know that even though he had your heart from the beginning you do not feel like an important part of his life so you need to end things so that both of you can find other people who may be better suited for the types of relationships that you guys want to have.
339882
If your heart is telling you no don't stay with him always fallow your gut feelings.If he's someone you can't stop thinking about and you miss him when he's only gone for a short time then your in love with him no dout about it.If you know he's changing for you and wants to do better then he's in love with you too cause he's changing for you.I say don't live in fear you're in love this guy and he loves you too.He loves you so much that he's willing to change for you.He may have messed up in the past and did some hurtful things,but he wants things right again if he's changing his old ways for you then he means it this time and dos'nt want to mess things up again.I say stay with him and give him a second chance show him how much you love him by doing it.I hope that things work out the best for you and him.
131721
Yes, defiantly talk to him about how you feel.  BUT DO NOT DO IT ON-LINE.  Please go see him somewhere and sit down an find out the scoop.  If he likes you and you like him then its settled.  But, if he cant let go of you but is seeing others while so called protecting you, etc., then its time for you to let him go.  Put him on the spot and ask him directly about what he wants and let him know what you want.  PLAIN AND SIMPLE.
618839
Break-ups and crushes, bare names that express what we go thru when this happens to us. You can get thru this! The trick is, allowing your heart to catch up with your mental feelings. Try this. Tonight, write him a letter. If you don't have an address, or a way to make contact, that is OK. Pour all your feelings into this letter. After this, tell yourself you are going to beat this. Mentally, keep reassuring yourself this. You have to have a plan. Now think about what you like to do. Make contact with your friends. Especially the one who makes you laugh. You need her humor to take some of the dark out of your life. Get up in the morning and put the plan in action. Shower, fix your hair, put on something that makes you feel good about you. And get with your friends and hang out. Go to the show, book stores, mall, the baseball field, what ever you want. When you set idol , your  mind will start thinking about him and the hurt will follow. So you have to take full control of your thought pattern. The second you start thinking of him, think about this really cute outfit that you know you will look really hot in. Think about anything, but him. Stay as busy as possible. Run in the evening or go to the gym and never look back. This will help time to fly by. You are going to have lots of fun. And the best of it all is your heart is going to heal and when he comes home, he is going to be so sorry he treated you like this. Guys have a tendency to think we woman will just wait around fo them, but we don't anymore. By the next time you see him, you will of probably had several encounters with some of those "other fish in the sea" that people talk about. Remember, your self worth of you, is more important thanwhat others think. The better you feel about you, it will become sooo obvious to everyone around you, how great a person you are. That feeling you hate so much, will die off as soon as you step up the beat. Go Girl!!!