From the birth till date I am living under stress, strain and anxiety. I believe in astrology and many pandits say that I have Rahu Dasha, Shani Dasha. Every time I feel confused and sad. In the office also, I could not concentrate in my office work. Please suggest what methods I should adopt so that I can live a life happily, enthusiastically and with more self-confidence. Right Now, I am feeling sad, dejected and a lonely man.
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make a pilgrimage to the ganges and bathe in the ganges with devotion. take up the practice of hatha yoga with an iyengar style teacher.\n\nread and memorize the bhagavad gita
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You are not alone on this -- books that I have read on this tells me to have a healthy diet and a regular exercise - you have to focus of what you are doing oftentimes when you worry or worry to much it will give you more problems..... if self help is no good . you can buy books on this matter there is really no need for a doctor - there job is to let you feel good anyway.. \n\nGood luck ....
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I'm currently dealing with the same things.  It got so bad for me that I had to take time off from work.  What I find helps is to see my dr on a regular basis, and I go see a psycologist also, just to talk and help to get things out and deal with them.  I started keeping a journal again.  Just write, don't think about what you are writing, just write. Its amazing what actually comes out when you don't think about the words.  \nTry taking a nice warm bath, play some relaxing music, light a candle, and just relax.  Slow deep breaths, in through your nose, out through your mouth.  I mix in some lavendar oil with my bath, its very relaxing.  \nTry taking a walk, not a quick run/walk, just a stroll.  Try to enjoy the beauty thats around you, because no matter where you are theres something beautiful.  That helps me to think positive, since in depression  you dont want to be a positive person.  \nTake any medications the dr gives to you.  In time, the majority of them will help.  Only you're doctor can determine which is right for you.  I am on several right now, and I am noticing a difference in myself. \nSurround yourself by friends and family, granted that they aren't the one causing you anxiety.  Talk, and listen to what they have to say.  Enjoy a cup of decaff herbal tea.  Limit your caffiene intake, since it can make your anxiety worse.  \nTry taking up a hobby or craft to keep your hands busy.  I have been doing plastic canvas work, and its helping me keep busy, and when I feel stressed or anxious, I work on my project until the feeling passes.  I have also been trying to read.  it helps me relax also. \nI hope this helped, its whats been getting me through the last few weeks.  Good luck to you!
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Astrology is just a game.  It is filled with deep insights like, "You feel under appreciated today," that apply to everyone.  What month you were born in has no effect on who you are.
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I would suggest seeing a doctor, I think medical first, then if you feel you need to talk to someone who will give you a totally different point of view on your feelings, try a therapist. \n\nI say medical because some anxiety related symptoms could be related to health conditions (like a hyperactive thyroid can cause one to be agitated, or a hormonal imbalance could make you feel more stressed).\n\nYou must remember that ultimately YOU are the one to make life choices for yourself. If something is making you uncomfortable sometimes it can help to talk to someone who can help you sort things out. You have achieved a lot in your life, and it sounds like you will move forward, but it won't be the end of the world to take the time towards finding out why you are feeling what you have described.\n\nIt's not unusual for people who are motivated to achieve and succeed to "stuff" their personal feelings. Many people think, I need to concentrate on the positive, so I can reach my goals.  While they let others get by with some pretty rotten things. No time to deal with the feelings, or the pain. No time to try to mend or forgive those that have offended or hurt you. \n\nMaybe it's time to share and unload some of that pain. If it means that some of your plans must go on hold for awhile, then so be it. At least you will know more about yourself at the end of the journey, and you will be a better and hopefully a happier person, so you can give your loved ones the best of you.\n\nThis is not necessarily a bad thing, you have realized that you have these feelings, and you are already reaching out to someone else for their input. I hope mine has helped you.\n\nI will really hope for what is best for you, so you can live a whole and happy life... Free from fears and leftovers from the past. You deserve better than that for yourself. Make it happen.\nruthie~
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i dnt think by feelin uneasy n angry others will change. u should do ur own work n not expect others to do for u same. coz i think dis world is pretty selfish ppl here do not wanna do work dey just want results. so u should carry on ur work. like d hindi sayin goes 'karam kar phal ki iccha mat kar' dont let other ppl effect u otherwise it will be much difficult for u to survive.. dis same prob was also wid me some time ago but den someone told me dis n now a days im much relaxed\ni also suggest u to do some yoga, pranyam it gives peace of mind\ni hope dis helps\nGood luck
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You have only 1 life, make of it the best you can. You choose your own paths and can change them at anytime. Things might seem down for you now, but they will get better.Take things 1 day at a time. Set a goal and praise yourself for a job well done. Write each one down each day and then look back and see just how much positive you have done for yourself and others. Even if its just the smallest thing like help an older lady or gave a helping hand to a neighbor, you are giving and making others happy that's the best feeling in the world.That makes life worth living. If you want to be loved then you will need to learn to love yourself, respect yourself. You are better then this. Make every moment count , life is precious and a true gift , don't waste yours. You are here for a reason we all are.
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I had a stress problem years ago and I tried Kava Kava for a while. It did help; it kind of slows things down without having a sedative effect. But what helped me the most was changing my outlook on life. I had to realize (and I mean that really deep down realization that you can feel in your head, heart, and soul) that all the worry and stress in the world wasn't going to help me. Stressing about money isn't going to pay the bills. Stressing about a relationship isn't going to fix it. Stressing about your job isn't going to make it better. Stressing over other people will not change them. So, really, what's the point in it? Nothing. You have to take charge and be proactive in your life. When you feel yourself getting stressed out about something, think "What do I need to do to make this situation better?" Then get a plan and do it. And don't worry about it. If your plan works, great. But if it doesn't, just think of another one.
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Sounds like a case of depression to me.  I don't understand why "minor" setbacks should have brought this on.  The most important thing you can do is to get regular exercise!  Really.  The oxygen will revive you, exercise will improve your body, improving your body will make you feel better about yourself.  It's hard to start, but once you make it a habit it is a lot easier.  Next, I recommend some activity that connects you to other people, especially dancing--something vigorous, like ballroom, swing, Cajun.  It will give you a high, especially once you learn enough to feel confident doing it.  Third, perhaps you need a better job?
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Personally, I think rather than who one has faith in, its the strength with which one values what one has faith in, and the courage to fight one's odds, that ultimately matter in getting one through difficulties. Every religion can potentially sell itself as a means of solving one's problems, and I cannot say what is the reason for your unfortunate situation apart from health difficulties. Instead I would suggest for you to follow your own heart and not let others make you waver from your path. I am sorry for what happened, and I hope that everything will work out all right for you and your family. I have also read the Bhagavad Gita and important lessons I have learned from it include doing one's duty and not worrying too much about what is temporary in one's life. Just keep moving forward, life will get better for you. Stay strong!
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Lots of people with many responsibilites feel the way you do. It's normal to feel stressed out when you have so much going on, and untreated stress can escalate into panic attacks (sounds like that may be happened to you, since shortness of breath is one of the symptoms).\n\nNow is the time to take steps so your stress won't progress any further. If possible, talk to a therapist who can help you. At the very least, you need to list and sort the priorities in your life and make a sensible plan for carrying them out. You also need to schedule time for yourself; make an appointment for "you time," and KEEP IT!\n\nThere is no easy way out of your situation, but if you can prioritize your life and break down your tasks into managable chunks and work in some time for yourself, it should help tremendously.\n\nDr. Barb Nefer, http://www.bnlifeskills.com
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I understand how you feel but you must not dwell on these kinds of feelings.... volunteer for a something that you enjoy....spend a lot of time outside, noticing all the beauty in the world, get active and try to exercise (that's always good for depression) try to spend your time with people who will bring you UP and not DOWN, most of all learn to LOVE yourself, this is so important....you truly can't be happy with someone else unless your happy with YOU!!  This took me a loooong time to attain but I finally got there and you can too!!  I'm 36 and I'm still looking to meet the right person or to have that person realize that they want me.....I don't know that I will ever "find" someone but I sure intend on enjoying my life in the meantime!!!\nGood luck!
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LIFE IS A RISK, A JOURNEY OF A THOUSAND MILES STARTS WITH A STEP.\nTHE BEST WAY TO APPRECIATE YOURSELF IS WHEN YOU ARE TRUELY FULLFILLED, NO MAN HAS THE RIGHT TO DEPRIVE YOU OF HAPPINESS,,,,,,.\nRIGHT KNOW YOU ARE FEELING LOW, BUT GUESS WHAT, DIG OUT YOUR SELF ESTEEM FROM WHERE EVER YOU BURIED IT AND MOVE ON. YOU HAVE YOUR LIFE TO LIVE, DON;T ALLOW NO MAN BRING YOU DOWN. NOBODY IS ABOVE EDUCATION, OR BETTER STILL LEAERN A TRADE! YOU HAVE EVERY RIGHT TO BE HAPPY GIRLFRIEND.
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i think you should try to be less reliant on those astrology things... if you studied for the exam and everything you should be ok :) believe in yourself, not in divination stuff.
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There is an excellent book called "Man's Search for Meaning" by Viktor Frankl.  I think that he has some very excellent points there.  \n\nI think that we must fill our lives with purposeful things.  But what is purposeful?  I think it depends on you and your unique talents, interests, and circumstances.  If you could do anything you wanted your whole life and actually get paid for it, what would it be?  If you can find a career to make out of that, then you will be on your way to having quite a meaningful and joyous life.\n\nAlso, meaning for me has come from focus on things that last, and not on getting caught up in the things that are temporary.  \n\nYou might benefit from some of the wisdom of Wayne Dyer, Deepak Chopra, Steven Covey, and even Dr. Phil.  Consider getting some of those books on CD and listening to them in your car if you don't have time to read.  These have helped my dad a lot.  He also loves Earl Nightingale, who has unfortunately passed on, but you can still get his CD's.  If you google his name, you should find his and some other good self-help sources.\n\nYou could just be going through a normal phase when you feel that things haven't happened as quickly as you would have liked.  I know that I feel that way about relationships, as you pointed out.  I am 31 and not married, and have no prospects!  Sometimes I just resign myself to this and think that I just wasn't meant to get married, and other times I seriously long to find someone.  And then I get discouraged when I look around at the options.  Maybe you need to come to terms with this, if this is what is bothering you.  \n\nHang out with friends.  Do things for others.\n\nAnd also, check out Rabbi Pliskin's Daily Lifts - his philosophy has gotten me through some of the toughest times ever.\n\nhttp://www.aish.com/spirituality/dailylift/
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I feel where you are coming from. The only way to calm you down is to either find something to keep you busy or Play with your self daily and either one can keep you satisfied.
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I have also suffered severe depression on and off for quite a while, and am currently battling post-natal psychosis.\nAnti-depressants aren't any good for me either. If medication isn't working for you, then more medication probably isn't going to achieve much.\nSelf-confidence comes with self-esteem, which cannot be provided by any drug. I'm not sure feeling elated all day is exactly normal, either.\nI am currently being treated by a natural therapist and an excellent psychologist, and have come further in the past eight weeks than in the past four years.\nYou need to check things like your hormone levels (these will most likely be out of whack with the depression), there are nutritional factors to consider (depression, anxiety and stress deplete the body of many many nutrients), cognitive behavioural therapy is brilliant, as is learning relaxation techniques. There are probably past issues you need to deal with (psychologist), and good regular exercise is suprisingly helpful (I hate it but I do it!).\nI honestly think you'd be better off exploring other treatment methods than putting your poor mind and body through another horrible experience with medication.\nWhatever you do, I hope it works for you :)