I am a very jelous person and anyime i see my hubsand even talking to anther woman i get very upset and threaten to kill the bitch. Anyone else have this problem?
133610
just trust your husband - if he cheats, there's no reason for staying with him...there's probably hotter guys out there, u know?
614998
My husband modiness and be upsetting at times but i get like that at times too. I cant really say anything makes me really mad at him as we work through all of our differences and we love and accept each other even with our imperfections!
426405
She does stuff to delibratley irritate you and make your life miserable. First, quit showing things irritate you. For things that normally get to you eventually she'll make a comment like, "Does this bother you?" Just say, "What?" Let her respond and your reply is, "Oh, I didn't notice so I guess not." Tune her out. \n\nThere are always people like this in life, eventually it will be your husband as well. I'm sure you do things to irritate her as well, we all do something that will annoy someone at some point in time. You may want to have a discussion with her and be assertive (not aggressive) and listen to her. Let her know you want to be friends and don't like living with tension on a daily basis. Explain you would also like to go back to having fun with her and you care about her. Also, ask her to stop doing certain things. Set two to three non-negotiables you want her to stop and ask her what you do that irritates her and you can change. It's give and take and don't take things too personally. \n\nSomething much deeper is going on with her and you that needs to get resolved. Or her problem is nothing to do with you, and she's just taking out whatever is going wrong in her life out on the person she lives with (which could be anyone else as well). Just be sure not take things too personally. Good luck!
169078
You have all my sympathy - I too have no understanding of the deeper mechanics of the evil female brain. Maybe you should try talking to her and see if she is willing to communicate to you what the problem.\n\nHey, worth a try,
580323
I've been guilty of that "super nice, but I am really hating you at this moment" kind of behavior.  A lot of the time it's because we want you to know why we are upset.  Not just that we're pissed- but the reason you pissed us off!  It can be tough figuring that one out, I know...  And the whole niceness thing is fake, you know that.... we want you to know we are ticked and trying to hide it...\nI think most women assume that men are emotionally retarded and think we are making it easier to understand us, when actually we are making it harder.  Good Luck with your girl...
298100
Oh, i am the same way, once my adrenaline peaks back the f*ck up!One of my major things that upsets me easily is seeing someone do something cruel to animals.one time some one was acting like they were gonna shoot my cat with a b.b gun, my adrenaline sky rocketed and i beat their @$$!
272082
I'm wondering if it's not you in this situation?  Maybe you should check yourself. None the less, if she's mouthing off to you, ball your fist up and knock at least two of her front teeth out, and say, "Hey bitch who do you think your talking shit to?"  Bet she won't talk mess to you again.\n"HUMIIATION", is not good.
643829
It's probably more common than we think because my husband is like that too. When things are going his way he basically ignores me but when I get upset and pull away from him then he wants to know what is wrong and is a little helpful which makes me mad because the way I see it why isn't he helpful all of the time? Why is it only when I am upset? I think they get worried that we won't do as much as we normally do for them when we are mad. Been nearly 10 years and I still can't figure the man out.
543292
Yes, I've had a problem with this myself. Altering the way you deal with things will only happen over time. If you think about it, you've reacted a certain way all your life so changing things around will take time and patience (which of course is something you don't have!! Don't worry, the irony was not lost on me either!)\n\nFirst of all, accept the things you cannot change. In my experience there are a lot of árseholes out there, certain friends of mine will always be very money oriented and my first marriage did not work out. I no longer fight it, I accept it. \n\nThis is going to sound like self-help book bull but when someone is mean to you, or does something to fundamentally upset you, respond with a smile and with kindness. It really throws them which is amusing and which in turn makes you less angry. \n\nWhen it comes to interpersonal relationships (i.e. wife/husband/mum/dad) have a mental look at your previous arguments and see how they went. Do you labour on a point relentlessly? If so, did it get you anywhere? Have you ever recorded yourself having an argument? Do you look "sane" and rational? Chances are that you don't. When you are having a 'heated discussion' stick calmly to the one point you are debating and don't let it become a list of everything that person ever did to annoy you. And remember, once you raise your voice your point is invalid.
106057
The only thing I can tell you is to stay away from this chick. she still has feelings for your husband and is using any means she can to try to cause trouble. she is the immature one carrying on like that. I understand if you're trying to respect her because she has your husband's kid. you don't have to deal with her just ignore her and don't let anything she say or do get you upset it's expected behavior of a jealous childish person.
418025
My fiance is not the best listener.  Used to get me pissed because I would be talking about something I thought was important to me (and I don't usually express myself much) and she would respond with a comment about something totally different like she wasn't even listening to what I was saying.  Made me feel dumb to get mad and bring it up because I felt like a whining woman (sorry ladies)\n\nI learned to deal with it and now just realize I have to bring her back to the conversation and make her focus lol  She tries more to listen to what I have to say too.\n\nLove you babe.
132906
wow- you're angry.  Sounds like you picked a wrong partner.  But I bet you're no picnic to live with either, especially if ANY of this hostility comes through.  Hopefully you just had a bad day and needed to vent, if not- call a lawyer before there's children involved!
230923
LOOK sweetie...married couples are gonna talk...period..you cant get mad at them for that...ask yourself would you get upset if your husband was talk ing to another women all the time??  friend or not i garauntee if its more than a simple hello then you wouldnt like it...as far as your friendship with the girl let her know that no harm was intended and you can still be friends I think...unless just sayinghi dont email him and mess...you might have been talking to him more than his wife was and that can make people uneasy...i would just be careful cuz truthfully he is not your friend he is your friends husband...i hope you can feel me...
311032
Unfortunately the beaten wife syndrome has got a hold on her.  Its very sad to see these women who do this on a regular basis.  But they are the only ones who can change this.  Sure, you could have your buddies whoop on him, but then you are lowering to his level.  Until she realizes that she needs to make a change, this will continue.  Some women never get it and end up dead.  Maybe suggest that she go and see a counselor about it.  Then once they are no longer together, Have 6 of your Buddies kick the shyt out of him.
527218
Ooh yessssssss.......I get a little mad and sit and steam a bit,  then I bide my time, and pop!      Revenge is a dish best enjoyed COLD!!!        I am sure I was a witch in a previous life if not this one.     Or maybe there is some truth in, WHAT COMES AROUND GOES AROUND!!!
95024
You are a stalker and have deviant behavior.  If you truly don't want to rape someone, and I think it will happen if you get frustrated for too long, go to a psychiatrist..NOW!!!  Spare some women the pain that you will cause them.  You are a very dangerous person right now.
157205
I can totally relate to what you are saying. I live with the same type of thing every day, unfortunately the person in question is my boss. Sometimes I think if I let loose one day the consequenses might just be worth it. Horrible, I know, but this kind of person can cause the most severe and aggressive frustration! My advice is to avoid him as much as possible, which is what I do with her, but should you happen to proceed with a physical confrontation I admit I would find it comforting to know that at least someone had some consequence for their constant crap behavior and maybe will think twice about it in the future.