Here is an example of how I go to extreme lengths to\navoid people. The other day while walking along Mill\nAvenue, I noticed a group of 3 or 4 people walking\ntowards me. There was an expanse of dirt in a lot to\nmy left, and the sidewalk heading towards the road to\nmy right.\n\nI originally wanted to go left to walk in the dirt to\navoid the group of people in front of me, but that was\ncomplicated by a woman walking across both of our\npaths from the dirt lot to the sidewalk, making moving\nleft difficult. \n\nI figured the woman would turn up the sidewalk once\nshe reached it, so I began swinging right to avoid the\ngroup of people ahead. But she just kept walking\nacross our paths and it frustrated me greatly. Not\nonly was avoiding the group ahead difficult, but her\nmoving across both of our paths made avoiding her\ndifficult as well.\n\nI eventually stopped and waited until they all cleared\nthe path.\n\nThis is how it is every time I go out in Tempe. I walk in the bicycle lanes to avoid people.
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I spent a little time in Tempe, and walking in the bike lanes is a good way to encounter people - people who'll run ya over!  Ever been hit by a bicyclist who's not paying attention?  I have, and despite being a b*i*g strong guy - that hurt!  Get the heck back onna sidewalk, dude!\n\nSome people do want to be surrounded with people.  They function at their best in a room jam-packed with other folks.  They absolutely thrive on the noise, the odor (!), the hustle and bustle, the unavoidable bodily contact, and all that.  And some folks abhor such situations.  Niether type of person is a perv.  Each is perfectly within the "normal" range of social interaction.  Each is, if all else is equal, just as successful at life as the other. Although often the folks who like big crowds of people will try and tell everyone that they're the more successful, studies show that's rarely true.\n\nAfter that's said, I suspect your case is a bit different.  It is a bit unusual to go to the lengths you describe to avoid personal closeness to others, but it is not necessarily a sign of a problem.  If it appears that your aversion to physical proximity to other folks is messing up your life in a serious way, then you may benefit from some counselling.  Ya probably don't need medication, so don't let the idea of immediately being prescribed a pill scare you away from looking for someone with professional credentials to help ya out.\n\nOkay, so you're not sure you have a real problem.  The mental health professional can help you ease your mind in that regard - I, too, tend to shy away from large groups as well as some individuals - and I'm a health professional!\nSome groups I just don't want to deal with, and some individuals, putting it bluntly, scare me.  Oh, I'm perfectly capable of defending myself physically, unless the other dude is a real giant - but I'd just rather not have to confront that possibility.  Did that for years in the Army and I'm just tired of it.\n\nI tell you all this knowing that you have your own reasons for avoiding certain groups and certain individuals, to help you realize that you aren't necessarily "abnormal".  But ya know - it really might help to clarify that with a mental health professional.  If there's really nothing terribly wrong, he or she will help you realize that and you can go on living the sort of life you choose, rather than trying too hard to live as you think others expect you to.  Easiest way to get started is to visit your county office of mental health and ask to speak to an intake person.  Don't be afraid of telling the receptionist why - that helps them set you up with the right professional person.  And don't wait - get your questions answered and get on with your life.  Good luck!  Man, I'd love to be in Arizona right now, instead of wet, chilly ol' New York State!  You lucky, yo!
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The good news: yeah we all feel this way.  The other good news: there's a way to get your way, get people to move their lazy asses, and not come off sounding rude, obnoxious, or like a psycho crank from hell.  All these answers have one thing in common: passive-aggressive hostility, bordering on actively aggressive hostility, with a more than a dash of sarcasm and verbal abuse thrown in as well. (Shoving a sausage up someone's vagina?  That's rape, and that's sick, sad and WRONG.)  \n\nI'd be surprised if anyone actually did what you wanted them to do if you address them so rudely and disrespectfully.  And there's a possibility you could get yourself beaten up or killed if you keep going the way you are going.  I suppose it all depends on whom you say this to as well.  Do you speak this way to a 300-lb leather-clad motorcycle dude, or an older man who's taller than you, or just to women and children and homeless guys down on their luck?  \n\nPeople since ancient times have been decrying "O tempora! O mores!" (O the times, o the behavior!)  We all want what we want when we want it, and not all of us are enlightened, sympathetic, empathetic or upstanding enough to think of ourselves and others at the same time.  Given that, it is up to the individual to uphold the social contract NO MATTER if other people do or not.  If you know to do good and don't do it, you are no better than the people you criticize.  In fact, by being rude, mean and obnoxious, you may be much worse than these people.  Everyone, after all, makes mistakes, has a bad day, forgets.  YOU make mistakes.  YOU have bad days.  YOU forget.  No one -- including you -- is perfect.\n\nI recommend The Paradoxical Commandments by Kent M. Keith.  The book is titled _Anyway_.  Some gems include: People are illogical, unreasonable and self-centered.  Love them anyway.  If you do good, people will accuse you of selfish ulterior motives.  Do good anyway.  If you are successful, you will win false friends and true enemies.  Succeed anyway.  The good you do today will be forgotten tomorrow.  Do good anyway.  Honesty and frankness make you vulnerable.  Be honest and frank anyway.  \n\nAnd by the way, "frank" here doesn't mean honesty and telling it like it without tact or discretion or feeling for others.  It means being honest with sensitivity, compassion and empathy.\n\nLike my momma always told me, you can catch more flies with honey than with vinegar.  Peace, K
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Be an example.  It's hard to save the world on your own.  But if you set a positive, loving example and show the world what it is like to be kind and considerate others just might catch on.  That's what I am trying to do.  We can eliminate stupidity with our example.
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First thing first i just wanna say, like yourself  you say you do walk alot, -same here! I've walked so much in my life it's unreal litterly every day i go for a walk, then one day I started walking quiet fast, and seen people in a group out for a run/jogg one day. Thats when i thought hummm..... I cant do that... i'd .look so funny. See I' say that cause i'm tall, and to see a tall person bobbing along is like a giant flying in the air lol. or at least at the time I thought it that way. So i said to a friend one day- I think i should get into running! He said go for it,! -(him being very fit and active and motivating). I'm like i'd look really funny, and so he said inreturn- everyone looks funny but no one is really watching you unless they think you look good or happen to see you. So start slow he said to me, and thats what I did. Well i got my self some decent shoes for running and clothing-layers for the fall and cool nights and lighter clothes for when it started getting warm. I used my cd disman for a longtime to gage my running, and to help me keep a good speed based on the base and paste of the song. So that was one good motavation there. As for ur asthma, - ... start with jogging, and paste ur self- you can try and start with going on machines at a gym -tread,eliptical, etc or outdoors running (which i prefer when it's nice out).As for the fun part slap on an  mp3player wit an arm band or a waist/back pouch with ur diskman or walkmin etc and  put a good set of goodtunes that would keep you moving. A good selection of music you like thats fast -will help you have a bit of fun and gives you ur own focus and little world i find you get into when you have it going . But do start slow and only go at a rate inwhich your body and urself can handle things. Go with a friend or family member etc sometime together and having a campanion there might be fun too. just build gradually if your moving up to running. Do start with about 30min strech etc as you know probably before and after ur done ur cadio workout jog/run. As for a secret for running up hill's or roads that seem to be going up a bit when ur jogging/running, use your tip-toes and sortta bouce up hill,rather than putting ur foot flat and pressing with them when u go up hill. by springing up hill you'll get to the top or the stright way fas ter and always keep the speed you have up hill the same as down hill. hope i help a bit goodluck - i know u can do it :)
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Détaler à travers les récifs et les gorges est la disposition adoptée par les adultes pour échapper à la pousuite aveugle de la barbarie, de la rage et de la perfidie modernes. Voici l'explication du brusque retour à la nature.\n\nI just used "barbarie, rage and perfidie" as the social evils that make "adultes" want to escape and go to "récifs and gorges" (nature). I hope it helps!
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Number one problem right off the bat: you are shifting tenses. You dashed and you waited, as in past tense. Then your sister "comes" to you in present tense. Make it all the same.\n\n(dashed out of the gate)...why were you in such a hurry? (I dashed out of the gate, nearly dropping my books, and hoped I would make it to the sidewalk in time. If I was late, my sister would bail, and I'd end up walking home alone) or something like that.\n\nGet rid of the (I waited for ten minutes) that's like saying, "nothing happened for ten minutes". Use that time to explain who Michelle is. (I hit the sidewalk at precisely 3:02, gasping for breath and flushed in my face -- but at least I was there. My older sister, Michelle, was just coming down in the street. Her school was three blocks away, which was the only reason I got to meet her at this spot.) \n\nget rid of (as minutes passed by) again, that's saying, as nothing happened for a while. (we made our usual trek back home, through the park, down the alley by the post office, and onto Beale Street.) Use every line to give your reader more information.\n\n(a big black dog with cherry beady eyes staring back at us.) overall, not bad. but where is this dog? is it behind a fence. right in front of you? how close? do you have time to run away?\n(a big black dog with cherry beady eyes had come onto Beale Street, right onto the street where we were walking, and was standing right in front of us. he growled and started edging closer.)\n\ndetails add to the picture, make it easier for people to see.\n\n(we both stopped quickly when I asked my sister..) too much going on in that sentence. break it up. (we both stopped abruptly, staring back at the dog. he was directly in our path, and behind us was nothing but brick. I whispered to Michelle, "what do we do now? he's blocking our only way in.")\n\n(Michelle paused to think, careful not to make any sudden noises. We reached for each other's arms, and slowly huddled together. "What if we go to Claire's house?" Michelle offered. It's not too far away. I think we could make it.")\n\nagain, get rid of the (we ran for about three minutes). not very descriptive. (we ran fast as lightning, swerving our way down Beale Street, the buildings around us nothing but a blur. we could hear the dog running behind us, barking and snapping. I'd never seen Michelle run so fast.)\n\nand lastly, change (we just sat there and hung out) try something like (we made it to Claire's house safely, and we bombarded her door with frightful poundings. Claire let us in and listened to our story, which we must have told her a dozen times over. We were so scared we didn't want to walk back home. So we spent an hour on Claire's couch, retelling the horror of the vicious dog of Beale Street, until our dad came and fetched us at 5:00)\n\nhow's that?
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Do not go where the path may lead\nInstead\ngo where there is no path\nand leave a trail
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here's a story about the kind of person i am. there was this guy that abused me...and my friends were very angry about this fact. they arranged to have both of us "out back" of the building when i didn't know, nor he, what it was about. all of a sudden they come at him. i opened the door and told him to get away. THAT'S the type of person i am. i love people. i love my enemies. i pray for them. i will stand for anyone to the point of physical pain. and i have.
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venuscolony,\n\nThis could take a long time because I like to tell stories, but I’ll try to be brief.\n\nAs a young teenager, I went camping at O’Neill Park with a group of boys from my church. We rented Stingray bicycles and rode or walked up the steep hills, so that we could ride down really fast.\n\nThe last time that I went down the steepest hill, I decided to wait until all the other boys were way ahead of me, so I could go really, really fast. I started to pedal as fast as I could. When the bike started to go too fast for me to pedal, I just steered it down the winding road.\n\nAs I rounded a curve, I was going too fast to stay on the right side of the road, so I was in the left lane going about 50 miles an hour. I was 6 feet from the station wagon that was coming up the steep hill as fast as it could go – probably about 25 mph – when I first saw it. I had no time to react in any way.\n\nTo my left was a very steep incline – about 60 degrees – and my bike steered all by itself up that hill. When I reached the top of the hill, the bike spun around in mid-air, and I was left sitting on top of the hill while I watched the bike fall about 20 feet below me and come to rest next to the station wagon.\n\nYears later, I was driving down the freeway, and I needed to change freeways. As I entered the new freeway, there was a lot of traffic, but a large truck moved into the lane to its left leaving a large place for me to enter the freeway. The man whose car was behind the truck was observably angry that I had pulled in front of him, even though there had been a large opening for me. I decided to go in the lane to my left when I had an opportunity.\n\nThe large truck was just to my left, and it moved into the fast lane, so I pulled into the large space that it had just vacated. It was just one of those days I guess, but the man in the van behind me was angrier than the 1st man that I had pulled in front of in the other lane. This man was angry and because we were both in vans it looked like he was almost in my backseat because he was driving so close to me. It was easy to see his angry face.\n\nI decided to move into the fast lane when I had an opportunity, and I turned on my left blinker again to signal my intention. The truck was moving faster than the traffic in my lane, and behind him, there were no cars. I looked over my shoulder to make sure that it was clear, and then steered into the left lane.\n\nIt was very strange, but my van moved a little to the left, and then abruptly started moving back to the right even though I was still steering to the left. I looked to my left and saw the angry man with the van was right there. He had decided to get into that lane and accelerate really fast, so that I couldn’t get into that lane. I didn’t see him because I didn’t look over my shoulder again. If I had continued to go left, we would have had an accident going 65 mph.\n\nThese 2 times, I am certain that God’s hand or an angel saved me.\n\n2 of my 4 children have had experiences similar to the 2 that I described above. I have experienced healing personally and seen my children healed. You can be sure that God will heal your deafness, too. Let me share some scriptures with you.\n\nWho has believed our message and to whom has the arm of the LORD been revealed? He grew up before Him like a tender shoot, and like a root out of dry ground. He had no beauty or majesty to attract us to Him, nothing in His appearance that we should desire Him. He was despised and rejected by men, a man of sorrows, and familiar with suffering. Like one from whom men hide their faces He was despised, and we esteemed Him not. Surely He took up our infirmities and carried our sorrows (diseases – see below), yet we considered Him stricken by God, smitten by Him, and afflicted. But He was pierced for our transgressions, He was crushed for our iniquities; the punishment that brought us peace was upon Him, and by His wounds we are healed. Isaia
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I 'm trying to be a better person.I read a lot of self help books because i want to have high self-esteem and become an assertive person.I'm inspired to keep working at that.
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"Before you decide to critize someone walk a mile in their shoes. Then when you critize them you are a mile away and you have their shoes"\n-sisterhood of the traveling pants (book 3 i think)\nIt's hilarious!!!
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I always listen first....and then think.\n\nIf someones says I have hurt them, then I really have hurt them.\n\nI listen to what they say and then filter it.\n\nI'm a Pastor's wife. Sometimes people expect me to do or be someone I can't be.  Like they want me to stop by and visit with them to chit-chat when I just don't have the time.  They have unspoken expectations...and they get hurt when I don't meet them.\n\nI listen to their hurts, and apologize for the things I don't measure up in.  Most of the time they are right in some way.  I don't go and visit them...regardless of the reasons.  If they were sick, I sure would find the time to visit.  \n\nAnyways, listen to the complaint, filter out the truth and apologize for your shortcomings.
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I've read lots of responses of that kind.  They're a dime a dozen.  You mustn't let vicious people upset you or cause you to have hard feelings toward others.  Be a lighthouse and show others how reasonable and imperturbable you can be.
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I do. Especially annoyed with bad drivers. Sometimes I even wish I was in an island all to myself. Of course, as long as it has internet, food and w*. I've always said, being nice and good to others is the hardest thing to do. Me, I just try. There's too much grief, hunger, war, and fighting in this world I sometimes forget how lucky I am to be here. Life is hard, and if you are not living, then you are dead.
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Gee, let me think...\n\nFrist off let me say I don't condone any of these, but...\n\nI took wrapping houses to a new level, and once wrapped an entire block (except one house- did that on purpose)\n\nStole big rolls of toilet paper and walked around with them between my legs under a long skirt. (I'm short so it looks really bad)\n\nChinese fire drills, etc.\n\nI was part of one of the biggest traffic jams in history and also a 20 hour street party which resulted.\n\nWent canooing in a bayou/sewer!\n\nPretended to be blind in a restaurant (shouldn't have done that).\n\nAisle volleyball and shopping cart races at Wal-Mart\n\nWent dumpster diving\n\nThrew my sister in a dumpster\n\nMy brother in law stole a bread/crate roller thing (basically a small platform with wheels) from his job and we rolled down streets on it.\n\nMy teacher aide and I dressed in identical loud obnoxious outfits for a week and denied that we were doing it on purpose.\n\nStolen SPAM\n\nSquirted easy cheese into my mouth then closed the can and put it back on the store shelf.\n\nSmashed a pumpkin.\n\nDrove on the wrong side of a major freeway.\n\nA group of friends and I all drove our  cars about 10 miles an hour, forming a traffic jam on a busy freeway.\n\nDrove over 130 mph thrugh a hurricane in a sub compact, death trap of a car while everyone else was taking cover indoors.\n\nStole many signs.\n\nThrew myself in front of many cars. \n\nJumped on and off moving vehicles.\n\nMany many vehicle stunts.\n\nWore pajamas to school on an ordinary day (not a special dress up day)\n\nWore a friend's poodle skirt to school in the 90's.\n\nSet many things on fire in public (including myself).\n\nwrote my name on a large turtle.\n\nThrew ham at a football game\n\nThe list goes on and on.
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Absolutely !!  HELL I screeched my truck to a stop and got out to help a women who had fell on the sidewalk on some ice !  I then drove her to her destination and called the city and told them to get some "icemelt" down before they get a lawsuit!\n\nI have helped numerous people and will continue as long as they are in my sight !!!  It makes me sick seeing others just pass these people by!  I am a true believer of "do unto others" and the golden rule!  If you had fallen near me I would of been all over you making sure you were ok !\n\naaaaaaaaaaaaaaah life is good when I pave my own way!
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Run don't walk\n\nToo Much Drama\n\nIt will never work\n\nChalk it up to experience and move on!