Reframing is a technique used to teach people how to get over difficult situations. Bad things happen in life, we need to search deep inside to find the lesson that can be learned...........and then learn from it. What have you had to reframe in life?
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Never heard of it in that sense!!
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Depends on the person.  Some people can brush of feelings like turning off a lightswitch.  Other people can't.  Work through your emotions but make sure you get out and meet new people and move on with your life.  Don't get hung up on what might have been.  It's nice to think It would have been nice if... but thinking too much, dwelling on it too much only consumes yourself with doubt and fears that you will never find something like it again.
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Word Of Advice, And Seriously If You Don't Take This On Board Like Many humans You Will Find Yourself gettig Lost In A Constrcution Of Unreality\n\nIm Guessing You Daydream, Think And Have Many Thoughts Come Into Your Head Alot, When You Sit And Detach Yourself From Reality\n\nWell Firslt You Need To Regain Your Cerebral Control Agin, And Undersatnd That Everything ARound You Is For You To Expereince And The World Is Large And Adventurious, The Only Thing That Stops People Is That The Goverment Has Created A World Were Everything Is Built Upon Socity And Order, You Have No Money Your Out Of Socitey, You Have Money Your Back In And You Live The Dream World, Well To Undersatnd You Must Find Things That you Wish To Expalnd On, \n\nIf You Have Little Money\n\nTry Reading Self Teach Books\nHanging Out At The Park And Finding New Freinds\nBuilding Confidence With Your Bodylanguage\nthe List Goes On\n\nMost Impotantaly Don't Goe Inside Your Head, Only Do This If You Wish To Develop A Skill And Visiualise A Postive Outcome...Any Negative Thoughts, Or Sayings Will Be Mirrored Onto Your Body And Hae Long Term Negatice Effects\n\nBy The Way Many Will Tell You That You Need To Find God, What This Really Means Is That All Your Fears, Anxietys And Stress Would Be Placed Upon A Non Existent Figure, Although this May Work In The Short Term, The Relapse Of This Is Very Dangerours, Many People Who Have Gone Into Relgion To Beat There Own Thoughts And Problems Wold Tell You That There Problems Have'nt Gone Away But Been Buried Deep Away And That God Looks After Them...Don't Fall In This Trap - As You Get Older The Brain Will Kill Away The New Brain Cells And Revive The Old Ones (Which You Buried Long Ago - Some Call This A Mid Life Crisis Others A Relapse Or The Cortex)\n\nIf You Want Help I Can Help. But Remember Im Not A TRained Practicnair\n\nAlien Boy
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No. The reason why I'm here and answering this question is because I did things in my past that I regret or even hated. These things that we have been hating and want to get back at or rewind are the reasons we are who we are today. \n\nIf ever we regret the fact that we are who we are, it is the same thing as regreting what we chose before. Because if you ever wanted to undo the bad things that occured to you, there is no way to redo the good things, or even bring back the times after you changed your fate.
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It is in the human nature to adjust to the circumstances as best as they can and fight back relentlessly. We may be facing doom but hey, we like to believe in miracles. We always hope that something may eventually turn up and help us.
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given the chance to fix one thing in my life, it would be ALL the wrongdoings i have made. but then, if i have been perfect all my life, what's the use of living this life and learning from our own mistakes? those mistakes in the past contributed to the person that we are now. things happen for a reason regardless if it is intentional or not. the best thing to do is to learn from one's mistake and continue living for the better, not for the worst.
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i've gone through some of the same things in my life. its hard to get over and i know what u are going through. i encourage to go to church and think about christianity. or even just read a bible. at my lowest point in my life it was the thing that saved me.
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Getting advice usually means you have to come to the realization that you can't handle a situation on your own. That can be very humbling. It's easier for someone to see wrong in someone else than it is for a person to see wrong in themselves. And sometimes, you have to be truthful with yourself about something that may not be right for you, yet you still want to do it. It also takes change on your part, which can be one of the HARDEST things for a person to do. Finally, advice comes from people's experiences. You may not have had experience in that area to know any better how to handle it. Because you haven't had that particular experience, you mat not even know you're handling it in all the wrong ways........
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Forgiving and Forgetting are NOT the same thing.  Too many people mistake forgiving as the same concept as forgetting.\n\nOne can forgive totally and never forget. How can we learn from our lessons if we keep forgetting the pain?  We can let go of the pain, but not forget the lesson/hurt.  \n\nI forgive if given time and space to do so.  But I cannot (and often will not) forget, as I want to remember my lessons.  Human brains are wired not to forget painful lessons.
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Are you trying to fix what you cannot fix?\n\nLet the pressure and trouble fix you instead of you fixing it.  How can it fix you if you are trying to fix it?  Let it cause you to be still, to listen, to be soft ... and find a new resource for combating the trouble ... a help and salvation that is beyond you and your resources. \n\nHave you found God?
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We had a natural disaster.  We learned for a period.  And then we went back to our normal habits.  We had a terrorist attack.  We learned for a period and went right back to our old habits.  Some one said to set an example.  And she is right.  If we do as we want to be treated its a start.  Teach our children these same values its a start.  If we think we a disposable, then we will be treated as such.  If we think we are replacable, then we will be.  See what I mean.  Examples and behavior is the key.  Its slow in coming but its the best we have.  Disasters dont teach us perminantly to change.  It takes patience.
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we all have bad things happen to us in our life dont magnify it,if you do youll fall deeper into a depression,try and turn it into a positive thing use what happened to you to help others BE A SURVIVOR not a victim
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Let me ask you this.  If you had a time machine and could change any event in your past, would that make you feel better about yourself today?  If it would then realize what it is about that event that is sabotaging you today.  If it is a past thing, often times we know intellectually that we are ok but our emotions are still tied to that past event.  Emotions stay the same no matter how old we get.  We cant stop the pain in life sometimes but we can increase the tools to deal with it.  When you dropped something as a young child you cried.  You can drop the same item now and it is ok, why?  You have information now that tells intellectually it is ok.  The emotions are the same but the tools to deal with that event are in place.  You have already experienced that event and it no longer shocks you.  So what is it about your life that is shocking you now?\n\nWhatever the issue is past, present, you need to see what is eating away at it.  It is ok to feel bad, it is the flipside of the coin to feeling happy.  The problem is if we become depressed about it, all life's issues become sensative and bigger problems than they are.\n\nYoung or old we all feel down at times.  Some just hide it better or keep themselves occupied to endure those moments.  Sometimes we feel like we are being taken somewhere and have no way to steer it.  The key is planning what you want to do.  Life is 90% how you react to it.  If you think you are successful and a good person, people will be convinced of it too.  Most reality comes from someone's perception.  They believed it and it became so.\n\nDepression is impression without expression.  Something gets you down, find a way to express it.\n\nIf you kind of hate yourself then you have not completely made full judgement on yourself yet.  If you hate yourself than you are having an expectation that you are not at yet.  Find out what that is and is it a valid expectation?\n\nGood luck to you!
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If the perspective is to have meaning all must take the good with the bad, which is in my opinion subjective to the individual. This format allows for serious and let's call it not so inspired questions and responses and doesn't discriminate between the positions. If one considers that there are an incredible number of variables inter playing; as you so aptly alluded to in your question it is fair to express that the less inspired frame the more focused which allows the message that fits to sparkle like a diamond washed up from the mud.I hope this has helped to explain my point, I apologize for the metaphor, habits are hard to break. My final thought on your excellent question is this, it is a gift that we can give ourselves when we refuse to let ourselves be offended by others; this is not to say we should tolerate abuse; but when we forgive those who would annoy us for their own reasons we liberate or rather free ourselves to explore other more productive thoughts. Thank you for the opportunity to express my thoughts, I hope all goes well in you life.
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An ongoing teaching through the media and society in general that you should do what you want and what makes you feel good. This flies in the face of biblical wisdom (God's wisdom) which correctly teaches do unto others as you would have them do unto you. Another words put others first before yourself. Now on the surface this sounds risky and against our nature but just imagine a world where everyone helped everyone else out and before you even asked there was someone there to help you in your time of need.. See the problem with do as you want and for yourself is when the hard times come everyone else is too concerned about themselves to help you out and you’re on your own. Guess God is wisest after all lol.
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Forginess is coming to terms with something done to you, letting go of the negative feelings towards the event anf person, and moving forward in your life. Doesnt mean you forget... dont get hurt twice. But not stewing over it, I guess you could say.\nDo you have to go to the person? No. Not unless you want to, and that person is seeking your forgiveness.
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It's called Denial of reality in psychological terms. It's one of the human viewpoint ways of coping with life.