There is this group of boys that sit 1 lunch table away from me and they like to make fun of me. I've know them all for about 6 years now and they just started to hate me. The make fun of me because I've lost alot of weight and now they're telling everyone I'm anorexic and they make fun of the people I hang out with because they're not the cleanest people in school. When I tried to tell a teacher that what they were saying was hurting me nothing happened because one of the boys is a teachers son. I don't know whether to let it slide or say something.
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I read no evidence where they had a cause for hating you, and people seldom waste a lot of time and energy on people they don't like.  Perhaps they are getting a response from you that tickles them, so they make juvenile efforts for more amusement.  When they make remarks about your friends, tell them you don't want to listen and say, "I don't listen when anyone talks about you."  Strive to treat them as friends, even when they don't act like it, and the situation may reverse itself.  If not, and you get no response from the teacher, enlist the aid of your parents in talking with her or him, and then, if necessary, it is a chain of command thind: Principal, Board of Education, etc.  Recent laws should aid you in getting attention to your problem.  Good luck, and remember, the best way to get rid of an enemy, is to make a friend of them.
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Unfortunately, having to interact with persons that you do not like is good training for the "real world".  We all have to work, at some time, with someone that we do not want to work with.  The best way to deal with such a person is to treat them with kindness.  If he's looking at you in a threatening way, then smile, and say "How's it going, Man!" and then go on about your business.  If he insults you, then say something like "Hmmm.  I see where you're coming from!" then go on about your business.  In other words, don't feed the fire, and by being "cooperative" you will confuse him when he does not get the reaction that he expected.  On the other hand, if he is threatening you with physical harm, then do not walk away but look him dead in the eye and tell him to "lay off".  Hold your ground, and your eye contact.  Most bullies will run when confronted with determined opposition.  And do alert your teacher or principal if you feel that you are in real danger.
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Well child I think you need to relax. If you are innocent as charged then all you can do is tell those two girls that you did not tell on them. If you did, apologize to them. Then all you have to do is ignore them. Do not try to get even, it only makes things worse. In my opinion, the average school girl is the meanest and most uncaring person. You have to remember this, as long as you live your life and do things in the right and respectable manner, nobody can tell you otherwise. It is your duty to know the truth about yourself and when others try to pick on you for it, just know that they are ignorant and are only seeking attention, mostly from you. Just ignore them and try to cherish your childhood.
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Move around in groups.  Stick with close friends.  I was teased and picked on alot in junior high school.  One day I just decided to ignore them.  And, you know what?  From that point on, I didn't notice whether they made fun of me or not.  I just went about my business, and chilled with my friends.\nPhysical bullying is a another story.  You will need the intervention of an adult, if that is the case.
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unfortunately high school girls are like that. i have all the sympathy in th world for you honey...but i am happy as hell that i graduated years ago and never have to go thru it again. \nthe best thing you can do is tell the little bit ches "look i wasn't serious...i was joking...you 2 can continue to act like children and continue to hold grudges or we can all act like the adults we will soon be and move on with our lives" at least then you are the bigger person...\nand if one of the girls is fat and the other weighs 100lbs then the skinny one is anorexic and only hanging out with the fat one to make herself look better...and the fat on is already insecure so go easy on her...
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There's actually a funny saying that all my teachers have hung up in their classrooms. It says "Everyday I give special attention to one person... today is not your day..... tomorrow doesn't look good either." You don't have to say that, but I thought that is pretty funny... but in all seriousness you should approach them and be like "Listen... you all are very close to me, but there isn't enough me to go around." Then if two of your friends get into a fight you simply say... "i'm sorry... but I am NOT taking sides." Sometimes... unfortunately... you have to take a stand with your friends like that. Good luck!!!
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girl i have 2 boyz 11&3 and let me tell u i talk to my big son on a regular bout self-love and self-awareness, we talk all the time bout the kids at school, i even left work earlier so i can meet the kids he hang out wit at lunch (thou my boss wasn;'t happy but u no wat my children come first) if he was being bullied i would b up at that school so fast i would want to meet wit the teacher the princapal the parents and let them no i don't take this lightly, but i think the best thing is to try and aviod it from happening, get involed wit school activise from the start let the children in the school no who u r and the chances of ur child gettin bullied is next to none, don't b a chicken bout it thou do wat ever u have to do to mek sure ur child is safe even if that mean calling the police, DON'T TEK IT LIGHTLY!!!!!!!!!!!!!! it will in the long run mess up how ur child feels bout him/herself and that alone will lead them to stray!!!!!!!!!!!!
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It depends on what they are doing to you. If they are teasing you ignore them.  If they are physically hitting you tell your parents, tell your teacher tell everyone and fight back.  Tell your parents you want to take up karate and then make sure everyone around you knows that you know how to fight.  They will mess with you a lot less.\n\nEven if you can't do any of this just remember they are probably being bullies to you because you are probably a very good natured, sweet, kind girl and you are probably very sensitve too.  These are good traits to have, don't let anyone make you feel that they aren't.   \n\nWhen you grow up you'll probably do a lot better then those bullies.    \nI know it's really hard and it hurts, but just remember you aren't alone, let everyone know what is going on so that the bullies can be punished.  \n\nI went through it too growing up, and it's hard but try your best to not see it as them making fun of you, because they aren't, not really.  In reality it has nothing to do with you and everything to do with them. They are the ones with the problems and they see that you have what they don't have, that makes them angry and they take out their problems on you.  Don't let their problems become your problems though.  \n\nThis will help you out though, it will make you stronger and wiser then they can ever be.  Trust me on that one.
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if you pretend nothing is wrong then youre not being a friend. Talk to them. Tell a parent or teacher if you have to. Its not something you will be able to deal with alone.
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You are a courageous young lady!  The people who taunt and laugh at you are not worth your salt!  If you continue to work on your condition, you will in time draw yourself to friends who will help you grow,  not destroy you.  \n\nYou are able to know what you want in life, do something useful with your talents, gifts.  Focus on those things that build you up.  As far as you can, speak to someone safe about those hurts you get from insensitive people.  Remember, these friends will also go on to hurt even their own group, in other ways.  Just bc you are one of few who have this problem, you seem to be singled out for bully.  \n\nActually, if they say, "nikki, you look anorexic", you can admit and say, "well, actually, I am bulimic", in a firm tone, withuot smiling.  You mean what you say.  Listen to their 'jokes' about you, only their tones make it sound hurting.  But you are really being helped to grow out from it, if you are able to 'read' it for its healing tone.  But dont ever look to them like you are agreeing with their insults.  Look serious enough to send the message that yeah, you know they know you have a prob, but, that they don't know you are working on helping yourself get out from under it!  \n\nYou will really confuse them, bc their intention is meant to embarass you,  but you will only hear the challenge part, not the bully part. \n\nI'm all for your growth from this ailment.  I hope you will learn healthy habits, even from listening to those who seemingly want to hurt you.  Listen only for the part that will spur you on to climb over your obstacles, not get run down.  \n\nGo for it, girl!!  Yeah!
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Boys are so stupid at that age!  I remember, I was stupid then, too.\n\nIt is possible that some of the boys are teasing about it simply because they want to talk to you and have no idea what to say.  Think up some good comebacks (that don't insult them; just 'cause they don't realize how much they hurt you doesn't mean that they wouldn't feel hurt.)  Who knows, you may find yourself in a fun exchange of banter with one of them; and once you start the conversation, you could nicely ask that some subjects be off-limits.  At that point, the ones with any manhood developing in them will respect that.\n\nGood luck!
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You are being bullied.\nDo not put up with it.\nBy-pass your teacher and go to a senior teacher or the Principal.\nIf it is not easy to get to see either of these people to arrange a meeting, then make a request by letter - you could hand it to the secretary to pass on.\nMake sure you use the word 'bullied' in your request.\nYour parents could help you to sort this out with the school, though you sound strong enough to do it for yourself.\nI hope you solve the problem soon.\n\n**ADDITIONAL**\nIf the school will not help, you could appeal to the Superintendant of Schools for your area. There will probably be a website something like 'www.weymouth.ma.gov/schools'. Do not give in; make a fuss. You might also consider threatening litigation against the school for not protecting you.
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If this person is your friend, you should be able to tell him/her that enough is enough already, and to stop. \n\nIf he/she doesn't stop teasing....\n\nDo you know your friend's parents?  Let THEM know what's happening.\n\n"I always felt _____ and I were friends.  But when I started this special PE class because I've got health/physical problems, he/she started teasing me a lot, and I wish he/she'd stop."\n\nIf you don't think his/her parents will help, or you don't know them, say the same thing to your case manager or a school counselor. Hopefully, both you and your friend will get pulled in to a meeting together to deal with it.\n\nIf you don't think any of these things will help, then the person is NOT your friend.  Report them for bullying (that's what this sort of teasing really is).  This person is making the choice to bully, so he/she should have to deal with the consequences.
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Being one who was really really picked on for all of elementary, junior high and high school I know all about this kind of crap! Number one, remember this. Nobody call tell you anything unless you let them. You ARE good at the trumpet! You already know that! Secondly, EVERYONE is beautiful. YOU have to decide that's true and not listen to anyone else. \n     Now about Jamie, this boy is hurting. Hurt people hurt other people. When you have a toothache you aren't all nice and sweet. No, you are hurting! So you act like it. Well, emotional pain is the same. Jamie is hurting in some way. \n     I am not suggesting that you try to find out why, I'm just giving you a reason for why he says these things to you. He's probably picking on you especially because 1.) he likes you, 2.) he's jealous of you because you're happy and he's not, 3.) he doesn't know how to be your friend any better than this. \n     My suggestion to deal with this boy is to be confident about who you are and to ignore him. If he keeps it up then fight back! I don't mean argue, but find out why he is hurting and call him on it.  That FOR SURE will stop him.
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If you didn't want anyone to know, you just told everybody!  Sounds like you are needing attention.  This girl is giving you plenty of it!  Take it as a compliment.  I had several girls like that at my school.  Some would make fun of me, then start doing the same things...others would just stare at me...and do the same things....She looks up to you!  Give her a chance!
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you should hold your head up and realize that there will be a lot more boys in your life and that if he hates you it's just too fucking bad for him , the best way to treat him is kill him with kindness, just remmember someday you will be beautiful and smart ,,and he will be fat lazy and stupid,, so get over it and enjoy your life
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I am sorry, I didn't quite understand your question. Could you add a little more detail. I know your parents are teasing you but I am not sure what about. This is only a guess since I didn't understand the question is if someone teases you, just don't react and that takes their power away to get to you. Another thing you can do is to join in on the teasing of yourself and by doing that, it also takes their power away. For example if someone says you are fat....and you say, yes, I sure am....where do they go from there?  No where. I, personally, when teased have always done just what I mentioned....if someone says Boy, you sure goofed up big, didn't you.....I say, wow, your not kidding....I think I rate the biggest goof up award......see what I mean...? What can they really say after that....Nothing....Hope I helped you a bit.