i give answers and i cant give myself answers\n i dont want to seem needy\n but i do want a boyfriend\n but i dont want...\n  i dont know what should i do should i look or just BE
120301
All I can say to you is be patient. Your perfect guy will come to you soon. You just have to be willing to wait.
548902
yes. talk to your friends. they should be able to help you. or ask your boyfriend himself what he wants.
192835
As a guy I would say "Leave it alone and don't ask." If you go up to him and ask him why he turned you down he is going to feel pressured and on the defensive. It is not going to change the fact that he said "No", so what good will it do besides to satisfy your curiosity? If you put him in that position I can guarantee that he will recent you and you won't have a chance with him. He will see you as being pushy, aggressive, stalker like and annoying and will stay away from you. If I were you, I would be friendly, smile, say "hi", and let him know that his saying "No" didn't affect you in any way. Guys can't stand indifference, so if he does like you, it may make him decide to ask you out on his own. Some guys just don't like for the girl to be the chaser. I'm not saying that is right, but it's the way some guys think. I don't have a problem with it myself. I like when a girl knows what she wants and isn't afraid to go after the guy.\nk.m.
313876
talk to him, let him know how you feel, let him know what you want and need in a relationship . . .see how he responds . . .
348755
Be yourself.  If you are under 18 then you don't need to worry yourself.  Boys/men are a lot of trouble if you are not emotionally ready to handle them.  Focus on school, participate in extracirrcular activities and spend time with family and friends.  You have your whole life to get a boyfriend.
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umm... i don't think that's a good reason for wanting a boyfriend.. so what if all your friends have boyfriends? and what good will it do if you find one in a rush and just end up in a bad relationship?\ni think you should just take it slow. you can't rush love. you'll find someone when the time comes ^_^\ngood luck.
321384
you shouldnt ask him out because then your gonna look so desprit.you dont need him anyway cause you can get another boyfriend and you known that.e-mail me back when you get this e-mail.
89517
to begin with honey, he doesn't love you. if you're not allowed to have a boyfriend yet, i'm sure your parents have a good reason. they are just trying to protect you from having to make decisions you're not quite ready to make. if you've seen me on here you know i'm gonna tell you to take this time to learn and to grow without complicating things. learn about yourself. learn about others. and as you're ready, learn about life. you've got a lifetime ahead of you. don't rush into things. :)
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I think you are just in a long rut and do not have any self confidence. That is why you don't have a problem asking over the internet. You should just be bold and ask someone out. So what if they say no! If they do then you are in the same spot you are in if you don't ask. Be confident in yourself. You never know if they want the other guy until you ask.\n\ntosmith
588589
You need someone to love.  \n\nYou have a very giving nurturing spirit, but feel there is no one who needs it or deserves it.\n.\nYour boyfriend may also be acting indifferent or too independent for you and you feel somewhat lonely.
93595
first, desperate women don't care what a guy would look like, but I guess that's solved since you aren't a woman yet. second, you're too young to absolutely NEED a boyfriend. third, if you are searching online and exclaim you're desperate it's a bit redundant. and fourth, if you're such a cutie, why can't you find a guy in the real world?
268047
sometimes you have to wait for the guys to come to you. in the meantime, think of some things you really like in a guy. dont worry, you will get a boyfriend when the time is right. dont fret because all your friends have them, think of all the pro's and con's of having a boyfrind. patience is a virtue! :)
367151
You say , listen, I don't want to be involved with anyone right now, or at this time in my life, so you need to understand I'm not trying to be rude, just honest. I don't have the time or desire to date anyone right now. But I'm sure there is a guy somewhere out there who will be interested in you.
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I don't know you or your history so I am going to take a blind crack at this. \n\nIt seems like it is so important that you hook up with someone that even a guy coming up and asking you stupid questions can catch your interest. I can see where that could be fun and even a bit funny, but I think the fact that you were overjoyed is telling about how you value yourself. I believe you are putting too much stock in having a boyfriend (most likely to boost how you feel about yourself) and that is making you come off as desperate. Relax and let things unfold in normal time. Don't rush it just because your insecurity HAS TO KNOW RIGHT NOW! That will blow it for sure.\n\nBecause it is so important to you, I am sure that when you tell them that you "like them" it comes off more like this: \n"I like you and want to marry you and have your children and be close to you as my only one forever even before I know what your favorite color or your middle name is". I'll bet that is a big turn off.\n\nYou are definitely moving too fast, pushing too hard and sending the wrong message (that you are desperate and high maintenance) Your standards are too low and you are worth much more than any guy that is willing to say hi to you. \n\nSo, take a deep breath and see if this guy is really good enough FOR YOU instead of the other way around. Remember that anyone that ever rejects you is doing you a big favor in the end by eliminating themselves from your consideration and not waisting any more of your time with a relationship that would eventually fail.\n\nI wish you well and good luck.
307260
no u might just be more picky then her and waiting for the right guy. there is no reason to just accept who ever because u feel like u are lacking a boyfriend. wait for the right guy he will come along.
530932
Asking him was the best thing you could do.\nBut dont you think its best to satisfy yourself before him?\nI mean do not wait for him, if he doesn't make a move then simply move on to someone who will.\nIts all about self satisfaction, or you'll be stressed forever!!!!\nGOOD LUCK
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Be Careful you don't want to seem desperate, And your not really supposed to be asking guys out anyway. Although it is a bold move and I think that if more women could say what was on there mind there would be a lot more couples together today. And vice versa of course. But my advice to you is to speak your mind be confident. And don't be afraid of rejection. take it slow, be patient but most of all don't settle and Be yourself