he cannot afford and i feel she is just looking for a home because she lives with her sister
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How does your son get you to realise he is old enough to make his own mistakes?
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Everyone is saying small claims court, but your question was how to relieve stress and that would make more.  Besides even if he won you cant make people pay money they don't have.  The best thing for you to do for him  is to be supportive.  I know it is hard when you want something you cannot afford, tell your dad you love him and he doesn't need to buy you fancy things for you to love him.  Its a shame that your sister ruined things for you and your sister.  The sad truth is things may not get better.  You can help him by getting a part time after school job to help out buying the things you and your sister need.  I know you love your dad and respect him more than your sister does, so step up to the plate and be the bigger person.  Its a hard lesson of life, but you will be a much better person for it.  And I guarantee you will never disrespect or take advantage of anyone.  You will never end up like your sister.  And how you should deal with your sister is tell her she is hurting the family. (if you have already done this, good)  Let her know you cannot respect her until she makes it right. Then leave her alone, don't make any time for her, pretty much ignore her.  That's all you really can do.  Good Luck , I hope things get better.
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Tell her to contact Social Services. You should not have to take care of her. Give her a deadline for making other living arrangements. Break it to her as diplomatically as you can but have a heart-to-heart talk and let her know that you were willing to assist her in an emergency but now both she and you need to move on.
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She needs to open a savings account and put funds in the account whenever possible. it is sad to hear that the family will not help her however, they may want her to do it herself so when it is all said and done she will have accomplished and overcame something all by herself. that she should be very proud of and shows her maturity and determination.
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She would probably have to pay more to live somewhere else, but she is not being very wise if she doesn't have any credit in her own name. She owes it to her children to make sure they have financial security. If she intends to stay with this man, encourage her to get married so that she will have more rights in case something happens to him.
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Talk to her and give her a deadline. Tell her that she needs to move by a certain day, no exceptions! If it doesn't work, remove all of her personal belongings and deliver them to her mother. \nBy reading what you have typed, sounds like you are the type of person who gives in easily to others distress. She needs to understand that you will not take any excuses. Sometimes tough love is just what people need.\nIt is hard to advise on this because we who reply do not know the full situation.\nMaybe the person you are helping is a moocher. Maybe she's afraid to move in with her mother. Without knowing the person's age and situation, it is hard to say whether this person needs a reality check, or compassion.
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Tough one...BUT maybe you should try to get two smaller houses or even two apartments in good areas? That way you and your family would be in a good neighborhood but also you'd be able to help your mother.. because if you buy a house for your family only, no matter how good the neighborhood is you would always feel guilty for not helping your mom too... So, talk and figure out a way to help both of you! There has to be a solution. Maybe it would be smaller but in the end you would be happy.
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Oh man that is sad, look your best bet is to contact the media and tell them her situation, try to contact as many networks as you can so that her story can appear in the news. Once the word spreads of her situation alot of wealthy people are bound to help her. Tell her not to be ashamed to ask for help(if she is)\nGood Luck;)
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this girl is obviously a back stabber and you need to eliminate her as one of your friends.  find someone else you could move in with besides nobody knows better than you how your doing financially
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Maybe it is time for you or one of your Brothers to go visiting with Mom and Sis. I think it sounds like there needs to be more communication between you siblings.\nDoes your sister have anyone that relieves her ever? Is she stuck there 24/7, 365 days a year?\nDon't get me wrong, I love my Mother but she came to visit me for a month and I was so ready for her to leave. She is in good health but she lives in the past. She tells the same stories over and over to the point that I had them memorized myself. \nMaybe it is time for your sister to take a long break, since she is verbally abusive to your Mom. She might be feeling that she is entitle to any money because of the time that she has put in.\nSomeone with suicidal tendencies shouldn't be in charge of any one else, little lone a person in ill health.
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Well she should definately go to citizen advice bureau, she'll get good advice from them.\nIf she isn't entitled to the extra she should take it from the childs allowance, clothes allowance etc. She should tell him they have to last longer as she can't afford to buy now because HE has got himself excluded and costing her extra money. She must teach him to take responsibility for his own actions. If he wants to re-gain this clothes allowance, or pocket money or whatever she takes, then he has to get a job to pay her.\nHe is old enough to work, my eldest wanted extra money as I struggle. She got a job to buy herself what I couldn't afford and it was the encouragement for three of my others too. They love their independance and the thought of earning for themselves too. They also appreciate things more now because THEY HAD TO WORK FOR IT!!!!!\nHe has to learn to grow up, she is the perfect teacher to give him that push!\nGive her my wishes, and God Bless YOU for being a thoughtful friend to seek advice.
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I can totally relate.  It's just not fair!  Keep looking, and hopefully things will look up for you.
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Pray. And realize you can't force her to come home. All you can do is be there for her as a sister and let her make her own mistakes. If you push or manipulate, she won't feel safe in turning to you.\n\nAnd I'll be praying for you as well... :)
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Hi David, u r certainly behaving like a grown adult. well done. As for your sister she needs a kick up the butt, ask her who's paying the bills, puts food on the table n gives shelter, If shes providing it then kick the other person out otherwise put up n shut up.
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unfortuantely she won't grow up because nobody makes her- you "enable" her (I hate touchy feelie psycotherapy words) to do as she sees fit by not making her face reality and responsibility. Tell her that when the lease is up, she's gone- she HAS to fend for herself- suggest that since she has so much money to spend at bar, maybe they'll let her move in there- also, talk with Dad, and try to make sure he won't fold and let her in to mooch more, if she can just mooch, she'll never learn to be responsible for herself.\n I know it seems "mean" and "unkind" etc., but her being shielded from reality is much meaner and more unfair to her in the long run- tell her you love her, and BECAUSE of that, the free ride is over- good luck, and grit your teeth- it won't be easy.
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I understand what you must be going thru beacuase I faced the same dilema few years ago. Mother is like a shelter, saving her child from all evils. She cares for you and prays for you.\n\nI suggest you should maintain a contact with her. Not physically or mentally but spritually. Do good for her. If she left a sister behind her, pay respect to her as if she is your mom. Feed the poor and hungry on behalf of your mother and rest assured she'd be very happy to receive these gifts from you.\n\nYou will feel comfortable that way and it would be easier to bear the pain.
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Well, it looks like you have 2 options to me. Option 1 would be to try to find affordable student housing and/or grants to sustain said housing if you want to remain in the school you're in. It is too much stress trying to go to school while in a chaotic environment. What your sister does will then be strictly up to her and no longer your worry. Option 2 is to go move in with your other sister, ie change schools.\nAs for feeling guilty about her twins, there's a couple of things going on: YOU do not have twins, your sister does and therefore it is HER AND HER HUSBAND's responsibility to care for these children, not yours. As far as I am concerned, it is nice that you help your sister, but you are under no obligation whatsoever to do so. No obligation=no guilt! Keeping that in mind, do they feel bad that they are making your life exceptionally hard right now because of their bickering?\nI hope you find a tolerable solution, and I wish you the best of luck.