Must I really pop the cherry in order to receive pleasure? There hasn't been intercourse, but penetration around the skin...
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Absolutely! You can have fantastic orgasms without actual intercourse. There doesn't need to be any penetration at all for an orgasm. Check out the following links for yourself and read up on your body:\n\nhttp://www.vitalinfocenter.com/sexual/women_orgasm.html\n\nhttp://www.the-clitoris.com/f_html/orgasm.htm
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there are definately some exorsizes that work try time alone playing and stop when you know its getting there..... try to keep practising this trick untill you can go for about 15 mins then when you are ready with a partner take control so you can take a break whenevef you want to also my best advise is this ... make sure your partner is pleasured before intercourse and then theres no hard feelings good luck with that one sweet heart ps its not very comman to find a guy that can last too long so dont think its just you sweety
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No.  There is nothing with you being a virgin at 22 keep up the good work and stay focused.  The vagina will cause you nothing but heartache and heartbreak if you aren't careful.  Make sure when that time comes, ask yourself is she worth it?  Will I care if I ever see her again? You are in control and you can't get it back so make sure you do your homework.  Once the flood gate is open it's over dude.  Good luck, much love.  Oh, masturbation helps the horny spells.
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There is going to be some pain, that is unavoidable. The key is to really listen and gage her reactions on when to move more and when you have broken her hymen. Let her tell you when it is ok to go in more. Don't allow her to be uncomfortable about letting you know what feels good and what doesn't. Make sure that you both are as relaxed as possible, and that doesn't mean that you have to drink to achieve this. Take a bath together, massage her back and shoulders, take time with foreplay as it will always make entering her less painful. Enjoyable? Not so sure, every woman has had different experiences with that part of loosing her virginity. Myself, I did enjoy it. But I wasn't tense, and was very ready for the act even though I didn't have any idea what i was doing. I had a very patient man who was willing to work with me and lead me gently and was willing to listen to me a gage my reactions from what he was doing. Hope that you too have a wonderful experience together and congratulations on waiting!! :)
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Beleve me...you'll know.  And if you doubt whether you did, you probably didn't. Get in touch with yourself!  What it feels like is something that can only be experienced. Even more amazing when you really love and appreciate your partner. There are no words on this planet for it...in fact an orgasm almost takes you to a different one.
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You could try to satisfie her oraly...ore use your fingers.Ore a little bit of both....just use your fantasy..there are loads of ways to play without actually having intercourse.Have fun!
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I am afraid the result may be a little shocking (?), but if you don't really understand that, here it goes:\n\nIn "fah q" just replace the "ah q" with " uc k" and I guess you will get it! That is an open (though quite rude and blunt!!!) invitation for you to be a permanent sexual partner of the person who asked you that.
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You need to masturbate.  No joke. It will get you in touch with what feels good to you.  Once you get that down, I suggest that you start riding him so that you can have more control over what gets you feeling something.
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i am assuming ur a gilr right!! lol... ok give him a hint, asking him how sensitive youa re down there... and how you imagine how hory you woudl get if you were tobe kissed there, this way you are proctecting ur innocense... and also inviting hime to conqueour new grounds us guys love that...
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its never fun to get your cherry popped...after a while you'll LOVE it.
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i get the feeling that you guys are more or less just diving right in. you need to spend a bit of time stretching yourself to properly and comfortably take him. the first time is likely going to sting a little, as there is some tissue damage when he takes your cherry, but the pain fades quickly (or so i am told) tell your fiance that you need to get warmed up first, use fingers, toys, whatever is comfortable to gradually stretch out. also, make sure you're turned on, since the natural lubricants released by your body are the best. have him try some oral play if you can, since the saliva will also help keep you lubricated. if you stil feel you need more lubrication, ensure it is a water based lube. if none of my advice works, talk to a doctor, it may be that (s)he can give better advice.
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I know i am not a guy, but can i would like to share an experience.\n\nMy boyfriend now, was my first, and i was worried about the same things. He could tell, as soon as he stuck a finger in me.  He actually loved the fact i was, and was patient with me. He loves the thought that i'm experiencing everything the first time with him, and he can show me how to please him.  Its has been 8 months now, and we have an awesome sex life.  email me if you have more questions about this....i have been there.\n\nallyalexmch@yahoo.com
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happens to me too.. it might be to rough.. if so tell him to take it slow... it could cause irritation. uhhh... you dont have to say hes good in bed... he might not be.. being to rough is not always good sex if it hurts its not right. there most likely isent anything wrong with you... im with the same guy it feels great its not rough and i love every second of it... i love the feeling if it gets rough but i know when it gets too rough and it needs to slow down.. make sure communication is very clear between the two of you.... most girls bleed... and the first time you have sex you dont always pop your cherry. you finally poped your cherry and if you dont have sex for long periods of time your vagina goes back to place making you tight all over again.
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Have more time for forepaly rather than intercourse.\n\nYou are absolutely right that this is a question a lot of women have. They are looking for the "Look, Ma! No hands!" orgasm. According to Shere Hite, only 30 percent of women orgasm through penile thrusting alone. This is not about failure — this is about anatomy. Consider this: when a man masturbates, he stimulates his penis, which is loaded with nerve endings. During heterosexual intercourse, his penis is stimulated in a similar manner. For a woman, the nerve endings are concentrated in the clitoris. (There are as many nerve endings in the clitoris as there are in the penis!) During intercourse, her vagina is stimulated, but her clitoris is not. The woman who orgasms through intercourse alone may be feeling pressure from her partner's pubic bone, or feeling sensation from one partner's hand touching her "love button" or clitoris. Another way women orgasm with their partners is by masturbating in front of, or with, them. In that way, there is a bit less pressure on intercourse, partners can take a risk with each other, AND partners can teach each other how they like "it." Remember, sex is not inherent — it's learned. \n\nIf you have other questions, try reading Lonnie G. Barbach's, For Yourself: The Fulfillment of Female Sexuality, or Shere Hite's, The Hite Report. Barbach developed and ran therapy groups for pre-orgasmic women. The value of Hite's book is reading about women who describe their experiences in their own words. Have fun practicing!
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What matters is knowing your own body and what you like - BUT also being open to trying new things.  Every woman is different.  Those who enjoy sex usually have done some exploration and know what their body wants and likes and are able to communicate that to their partner.  I know many women who will stimulate their clitoris when they are being penetrated.  I know many who cannot orgasm without doing this - but - it also increases the intensity and enjoyment of being penetrated.  As someone else mentioned - try different things, and yes age and experience makes a HUGE difference.  Having a partner you trust and can communicate with is also crucial.  Inform yourself with knowledge - buy a book or two or do some research on the web about this.
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I've offered this suggestion many times, and it has a great success rate...OR it shows you exactly what you have in store...Set up a nice, romantic setting - THIS IS NOT FOR SEX..DON'T LET IT GO THERE THIS TIME...Tell her that ahead of time when she sees the atmosphere.  Tell her you want to learn more about her needs and wants.  Have a list of questions in mind or on paper...show her you've really thought this out...example of questions you should ask...\n\nWhat turns you on?  Does the idea of candlelight and roses OR handcuffs and rope get you more aroused.  Do women, multiple people, couples, or just one man excite you.  Is there anything you've wanted to experiment with that you may have felt embarassed about?  Does playing with food, role playing, dressing up, anything possibly out of the ordinary.\n\nFind out what turns her on NOW...it may be very different from what you once knew...people change...and women change fast!!!\n\nMany times women have cravings that they are afraid or embarassed to admit...and nothing else fulfills them so they just put off sex because it's not worth it to them.\n\nOTHERWISE....\n\nShe's just done ...and you should move on...the way she reponds to your questions should give you some great indicators.\n\nGood Luck
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No, it doesn't mean that you are on the verge of doing anything. Virgin was a term used for as long as there has been civilization. Basically you haven't had any type of sexual encounter, and oral sex is still sex! You should wait til you are ready, and make sure you do it with the right person, my friends did that and they regret it to this day.