this guy  i know wanted to hook up until he met my best friend and decided that she is who he wanted to do...she turned him down and he thinks that I would still be intrested!
135678
Total waste of time! Void of concern, care,or any thought process.So........both can only scratch the surface of what he really is.
552452
Don't worry about it...it doesn't make you a bad friend if she said she wasn't interested in him in the first place. She had her chance and if she is calling you a "whore" it's only because she realized she is an idiot. Not your fault...if you really like the guy just stay with him.
507000
After dating several bad boys I realized I was tired and wanted to date a nice guy.  So I tried to find my very best guy friend that was so much fun yet very very nice and when I found him he is now married.  Lesson learned.  I think all women should think twice before pushing the nice guy away for the cool guy.
342854
Extremely weird, she wants to look into a relationship, but all the goodies go to your friend.  Sorry, need to next her.  You're friend can have her, no wait he has....
168833
I had that experience before - but I broke up with that bf for a very weighty reason, so, even if he continued his pursuit supposedly "in the name of friendship," I didn't give in.  It took out the complications.  Don't sweat it.  :)
642363
From what you said it seem to me what went on with buddies of mine when we were young and stupid. I have had buddies that could not stand their girls. And when the sex got boring it was time to bail. If they heard rumor from the girl's posse that she was thinking of dumping him, or that she had dumped him and he was not told yet. they would do a 360 turn and be the most charming you ever seen. To get her liking them again or take them back. Then they DUMPED HER. So, the official story is that SHE did not dump me, I dumped her. I think that is what he did. She came back, he had the power. And he used it. He was never really into her so much as to be the one to turn on and off the tap. She lost. She better just move on.
406578
Girl are you serious? For one, if he really cared for you, he would not have started dating someone that you call your best friend. If she was your friend, she would not have started dating someone that you were with and still have feelings for. If I were you, I would take the advice he gave you (which is telling you that he does not want you for a relationship, just something to fall back on) and date other people and just leave him the hell alone and her too. Do not put yourself in the position to be hurt, take control of your feelings, have pride and some respect for yourself. What makes you think a real man would want someone who is going to be their dummy, and wait for them to finish messing around with some other girl? He is making a fool of you, and it is time you get a back bone and swallow that so called love you have for him.\n\nI really do not think what you have is love any ways, I think you are just infatuated with him and its gotten stronger because now he has become a challenge since you can not have him when you want him. Girl it is so many other fine ass men out here and who could be better that what he is, that will love every step you take. Do not wait around for someone to approve you loving them and them loving you. He is not sorry for hurting you, he is just plan sorry!
445151
she sounds like she is just telling the truth.  It is just fine I mean she broke up with him so she could hook you and him up.  I mean it is not like he broke up with her and then asked you out and your friend was heart broken.
49251
It's up to you, but Let me tell you a little story."there once was this girl that kept getting played by all the guys she ever been with, so she began to think it was something wrong with her and she didn't go out with guys anymore, for about a year or so, then one day she decided to go out with a guy and they had been talking for about three months, kinda like you, and then the guy asked her if she would like to date on a permanate basis, she played hard to get for about a month after that in fear of getting her heart broken, now this guy though was different from the rest, he, treated her well, told her the truth about EVERYTHIMG, NEVER KEPT A Secret from her, unless it was for a surprise or something like that, but the Guy got tired of waiting for her so one day he asked one of her friends, "Am I wasting my time, becuase I really like your friend but she's not talking to me" The girl knew then that she was about to loose this guy, one who finally was different from her usual guys, so she went out on a limb and went with him, and you know what?.................................................................................................................................Now there happily married and the girl is very happy she chose to give it one more shot"  So dont give up we as women have to hold our heads high and kept it up and never let a man, keep us from reaching our goals or dreams and Never let on idot keep you from missing out on Prince Charming. And if later on the down the line, if this guy you with doesn't work out, wipe the dust off your feet and keep steppin.
543207
Tell him again and dont let him think there is a chance for something more. I can't promise you that your friendship is strong enough to be there when this is all done, but you HAVE to be straight with him.
122922
You want to be a good friend and I understand that but if I were in your shoes I would let it happen. If you make a big deal or say anything about it period shes going to wig and maybe end up dating the guy even longer just to spite you and that's just counter-productive. In my opinion she made a bad decision dating one of her friends X's but since that's not the question it's neither here nor there. The point is, she knew how he was before she started dating him, she should have known better. I'm not trying to be cruel but people learn things best firsthand. Be supportive, hope for the best, Maybe your X has changed but be ready to console her and help her move on when he screws her over as well.
263474
Hey, if the worst that happens is that you remain friends than so be it.  True friends are hard to come by.  Don't throw that away.  UNLESS-HE is still pining over you and wants more than just the friendship, than I would say, so long-you don't want to lead him on either.
437392
`Is the guy single?  Is he dating your friend?  If he is, would you want your best friend to stab you in the back?  If he is single then perhaps it may he may be fair game?  In any case, I would choose friendship over love.  Plenty of people out there in this world to date.
165030
oh my gosh, this just happened to one of my really good guy friends! tell her how you feel about her, if she doesn't want to be with you then she doesn't deserve you
95325
well first of all you guys are all friends right.. think about how you would feel if one of your best friends dated your crush, sure you wouldnt say anything because they are your friends but inside you'd be hurt.. do you want her to feel like that? she needs to ask him how he feels, and get it all out in the open. if not someone's going to get hurt and it's never going to get resolved!!
406490
maybe HE wanted you to be part of his sex life. And you turned him down after you got him excited. I would be mad at you, too.
240525
Its not a bad thing it just means your normal, and no your not a bad friend. She sounds like a lousy person anyways for leading him on. Just give it time and things will come out then you will have your chance. Just hang in there.