i was in a relatinship with this guy that i dearly loved so much and now have separated due to the distace thing, the thing is i cant get over him and now im in a relationship with another guy but im focussing on my first boyfriend, im comparing my current one to the other guy.
136318
I know very well what you mean ! i think that the worst is to know that you found your second half , your soulmate but because of the circumstances you have to separate . it happened to me 6 years ago , and even thou its not that painfull as it was at the start i still spend a lot of thoughts on him and on the time we shared . will i get ever over it ? i dont know , i just know that yes , time heals a lot of pain , i dont feel pain anymore but i still think !!!! you will learn not to compare with time and besides its a bad thing to do . of course i know that its not easy at all not to but even this time will teach . ok , in the bottom of ur heart ................but i am sure that you will manage . think that there are a lot of people on this universe which felt the same!!! i wish u luck and all the best !!!!
532343
Your relationship with your ex is not completely over, you don't have closure OR you were so content in the  relationship you cannot adjust to the change fast enough.\n\nYou have to analyze your feeling honestly and openly and you will get the answer.
151207
..you probably dont think you can trust him because what has happened before..and i know exactly how you feel i havent been able to really trust a guy in over a year and im workin on it really hard and anytime i started to get somewhere with a guy all that i can think about is how much that other guy hurt me but i have to let go of the past and im tryin to figure out a way to do that too..but you are just goin to have to try your hardest to get over what has happen before..you might think you are completely over that but your probably not because you belive your boyfriend now..you just have to let your guard down with the chance of you gettin hurt again but sometimes its worth it/
383953
Go out with the guy that is going to ask you. Now, deal with this other guy you like more. Just hang out with him and talk to him. If you find that he likes you and you like him then let this other guy understand that you have feelings for someone else. If you were to continue dating him then you would just be on a guilt trip and that is no fun.
264263
Who is it that you really want to be with!?  I was in the same situation, but i stayed with the guy that i was longer with because i knew how he was and i didn't really know the new guy and how his personality really was since i wasn't with him for long
134953
Dude I just went through this same exact thing.  Your only missing her cause she was there for you and now theres no one.  I took her back after she tried the new guy, and two weeks later, she dumps me for other guy she just broke up with.  I wasnt hurt cause I knew it could happen so I didnt let myself get too involved.  But my advice, just move on, find someone new to love, there more fun, and you dont have to worry about her going back for the other guy.  She already left you once, dont let her walk all over you.  Hope this helps.
382509
i did twice, almost at the same time. i was dating this guy that i absolutely loved. we dated a year before we ended it. it was really heartbreaking. he didnt cheat on me or anything, atleast i dont think he did. i thought we were going to get married! in the middle of that relationship, i also became friends with this guy who had a crush on me. i had a crush on him too but we never dated or anything because i was so in love with my boyfriend. my friend and i stopped talking because i wanted to be with my boyfriend and i felt i was cheating on him because i had a crush on him. anyway, bad idea. i got my heart broken twice.... my boyfriend dumped me and i lost my chance with my friend =( im glad to say that my friend and i are friends again and still close. i still believe i lost my chance with him though =/
54949
You probably will not be over him completely until you are involved with another man.  There is, as you know, a man-shaped space inside your . . . heart . . . that you need to fill.  Choose wisely this time, and you won't have to go through this again.
186432
Sometimes, its hard to get over an ex.  It sounds to me like you jumped into a relationship with your new boyfriend quickly after the breakup of you and your ex.  Thats not really a good thing, as you need time to come to terms with your feelings and to get over your ex.  \n\nI think you need to consider your feelings for your current boyfriend.  Do you really like him?  Do you really want to be with him?  If so, you are going to have to let your ex go.  There's only so many times he can be called another guys name without freaking out!  If you find you still have overwhelming feelings for your ex, maybe you need to put this relationship on hold while you sort your feelings out.  You can't be with someone and still hold a torch for someone else.  Its not fair to them and its not fair to you.
666924
It is totally normal to be feeling like this. They say when you break up with someone that you love it congers up the same emotions as it does when someone dies. You are in mourning for your lost relationship but don't confuse this with love. It takes time for your mind and your heart to come to terms with these situations but it will pass. Talk to you friends about everything you are feeling, even the stupid things, you may feel silly at the time but once you have got all you feelings out you will feel a load has been lifted of your mind. Every time the thought of your ex comes into your mind, change it and put your boyfriend in his place. Don't keep thinking back on things you and your ex used to do, go out and try new things with your boyfriend, these new memories will move the other memories out of your mind and you will feel yourself letting go of the past and moving on to happier times. Trust me, this has happened to me before, i nearly let my new relationship break down because of it but i got past it and am happier than i have ever been. Don't be afraid to let go, you will always have the time with your ex to look back on in the future but don't let it destroy you chance of happiness.
536793
I can relate to you. I have felt this way before but I have realized that if someone hurts you, then they do not like you in the same light in which you like them. You call this first person as a substitute for being with your soulmate, but no one can really be with someone who has no feelings for them. On top of this, no one can be with someone when they do not feel it 100%. I hope my advice helps you, and I sincerely hope you can get in contact with your soulmate. Best Wishes.
290632
Yeah that is the prob. When i started dating my BF, i got lots of other proposition while with him, esp old flings but now that i've broken up, no1 is interested and am oh-so-lonely
324340
Take your time...sometimes missing someone can be therapeutic as well as painful.  You don't say what happened between you two so I can't really elaborate.  However, when my ex and I broke up, it took me quite some time to get over him.  I can assure you that no matter how hard it may seem right now, all of the feelings that you are experiencing will eventually pass.  Also, kudos to you for not jumping into another relationship.  Until we completely heal from a breakup the only thing we can bring into another relationship is pain.......
5751
I went through the same thing and after I decided to go back with the old fling because I still loved him I remembered why I couldn't stand him.  Funny thing is I realized that the other guy I loved more.  Try to think back why it didn't work out in the first place.  Make a list to yourself about why you love one and the other and you might be surprised by the answer.  It may not be love your felling for both.
598952
stick with the one you like more and let the other go. dont hold onto someone when he could be finding someone who will care for him more
411828
Honestly I have had the same problem, my boyfriend broke up with me not to long ago. and I could get over him. But we all have to understand that we fall in love more then once and that you will get your heart broken more then once. But even if you do two get back togetter that it sucks to know that your going to break up with him anyways in the future, then why the heck go back out with him.\n And remember he broke up with you. So maybe there wont be again.
177016
I feel the same way. My boyfriend broke up me last week and I just can get over it. They don't have an effect on it because they probably didn't love us like we love them and we gave them to much of our love. U love him and that's why u can't get over him. Try 2 be friends with him and I know that might be a hard to do.Just pray on it God will bring someone in your life that will appreciate you like u want 2 be appreciate.