What can he do to go to sleep at night? He has a new job I don't want him to lose it. I think he's been going thru depression. He works at night between 5:00pm-9:30pm but when he come home he stays up all night. But now he also has a daytime job at 9:00 Am.  What can he do to straighten it out?He has tried over the counter sleep aids they don't work. He refuses to stay up all day he says it makes him feel miserable. So he ends up sleeping all day and getting up at 3:30pm.  What about his new job?
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you have to understand that insomnia is a mental disorder. there are few treatments that can help him. my recommendation is to take him to a doctor and give him prescription sleep aids, like lunesta. they usually work real well.
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I was told by a doctor that not getting to sleep was anxiety and waking up in the night was depression.  You will know if this is an issue within your life or a sleep disorder.  I think that counselling or something of that nature could help. \n I would also look at sleep hygene such as going to bed and waking up at the same time.  Just use your bedroom for sleep no tv or computer.  Keep a sleep journal there might be a pattern to your sleep and an activity(also look at what your eating, could there be something stimulating you there ie food intolerance, cola or drinks that has caffine, some times medication has caffine).  Try and eat earlier you are doing something energy intensive when your body is winding down.  Make sure your room is dark.  Have you tried those hynotherapy cds.  I have found them very helpful.\nI think if this is a long term issue for you then sometimes a doctor maybe be a port of call but do not let them put you on tablets if that is not what you want
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What do you think would happen if he complained to (anyone)?\n\nHe should either seek employment elsewhere or learn how to sleep while standing on his feet.
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I'm also studying for the bar.  He needs to put down th books two hours before bed time (a planned time).  Do some light physical activity (little yoga--foolling around maybe a short walk, etc).  Dim the lights about an hour before bed.  Slow the body down and the mind will follow.  I find a hot shower and milk (i know it sound cliche but it works) helpful for a solid night's sleep.  Sleep in a well ventalated room.  No light or noise.  Let the body drift off.  The mind will become quiet.  If that doesn't work--put him on the counch with some tequila and just go to bed.
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Sweety you're mad because you do not know or understand what is going on with him. It very well may be that he is trying to pack and work at the same time and trust me it is not easy.I did this one day and the next thing I know there was a female officer in my face in the middle of the night because I did not hear anyone knocking at the door. My boyfriend at the time had them kick the door in so that he could see if I was okay. Personally I think it was something else. Plus, I had children to take care of.
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I'm guessing maybe there are other things upsetting him... like too many other things in life are not going his way...  Perhaps his mind is so heavily fixed on these other situations that he has no time for any more -- that may be any thing (any thing!) you do or say.  If he needs time to think about situations, his mind may not be able to tolerate one more "any thing" that he has to respond to -- whether it is "Is it raining outside?" or "How are we going to pay the light bill?"  All he can do is "snap" or appear annoyed at you, because that somehow (he thinks) gives him more time to ponder his situations -- he "needs to" get back to worrying.  It could be things he over heard at work (like "sales are down") and he's worried about future lay-offs.  It could be the cost of living is going up and his pay isn't.  It could others (seemingly) out to get his job.  It may be unbearable "office politics".  \n\nI may be way off base.  But you (in my opinion) need to find a time when you can talk to him.  Find out what the other things are that might be aggravating him.  Talk things out -- and don't cry!  Be encouraging and support -- if those situations call for it.  \n\nIf a person is not feeling well, too, he/she might snap at the slightest things.  Even if he is just tired, he may snap.  Eat right, exercise, rest.... both of you.  \n\nYou didn't mention your/his age.  Could it be a "middle aged crisis"?  That, you should talk to him or others about who may have experienced the same thing.  But my best advice is to talk to him.  Couples need to be able to talk about ANY situation if they want their marriages to work.  Good communications is key -- open and honest communications.\n\nGood luck.
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I worked nights for 3 years and I learned that it was best to just live life that way. Make sure you have a "normal" routine just like you would working days. And keep that routine on your days off if at all possible. That is what I eventually had to start doing because it's too hard trying to get your body & mind adjusted to a 1st shift schedule for just a couple days a week. You are probably just not a 3rd shift person and it's really affecting you emotionally. I understand what you're saying about not being able to switch to days right now. Just work on a routine & make the best you can of it until you can get back on a day shift.
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Is he depressed, stressed or something else?  Will he see a doctor.\n\nA healthy man will usually have a healthy sex life.  I think you should be honest and tell him this is destroying your love for him and you would like him to address the issue.  \n\nIf he doesn't know how, then suggest that he start with the source of being tired.\n\nOne other thing that popped into my head.  Does he just say that to avoid a long conversation.  Perhaps he doesn't feel "safe" talking about what he really feels and thinks because he is judged or criticized.
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Tell him were up all night on "answers" and your just too tired to work. lol. (lol, sage)
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my husband also works at night,he is always tired too.but may i suggest as i have to him,blacking the windows..fooling you that it is night,also run a fan,the sound should help you feel refreshed when you wake and,it also drowns out unwanted daytime sounds.this is the only way i could sleep when i worked night shift,hope you sleep well..ZZZZZz
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Okay well, i know that when a person is between sleep and wake, they are capable of having conversations. I also know that these are the times you should take advantage of and ask him a real question about your relationship that he may avoid otherwise. The truth normally comes out when the subconcious is in control. \n\nNo- for real. It's hard to answer a question like that. If the arguments are really bad, maybe you should poke him and make him thing he got bit by a tiny bug. Just enough for him to realize what time it is. Now i admit you cant do that everyday cause if hes smart he will figure it out lol. \n\n\nThen theres the option of getting over it. By that i mean, if you say he doesnt remember any of it and he wouldnt normally say those things otherwise, then get over it. At least you woke him up to go to work. Would he rather lose his job? you know? You love him, there is a way. In this you may just have to stop being a woman, turn off your hurt feelings, and wake the man up. You know he doesnt mean it, just get past this in the morning and the rest of the day is fine. \n\n\nAlso, did you ask him how you should wake him up. Or if you should at all and ignore the alarm? Ask him for a suggestion on how it should be handled. Your gonna marry him? Then you should be able to talk to him about anything. And trust me, there will be WAYYYY more important conversations than this in your relationship. Might as well get the communication practice in while you can hunny.
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I'm surprised the docs at the ER released him after one day. Suicide attempt sounds like a good candidate for an inpatient stay (but there are often a lack of beds in some hospitals).\n\nIf he is an imminent danger at any time you or his parents or anyone can call 911 and have him taken against his will.\n\nIn the meantime, my experience is to use a bit of tough love to get people to actively seek and participate in help. They are cognitively buried in that day's pity.  \n\nI go through a list of questions. "Do you remember a day when you were happy?  Or not depressed?"  "Did you want to kill yourself then?"  "What changed between then and now?" "Do you realize that hurting yourself might be a permanent solution to this problem? If you make an impulsive decision in this state of mind, do you realize you don't get to go back the next day and take it all back?"\n\nThen I bring up the selfishness of the suicidal mentality (not in a harsh way but tough love, and pointing out that the person is loved and people are there to support him/her).  Does he care that little about you and his family that he wont accept help during this period or that he will run away from you all permanently?\n\nBasically the final steps of the conversation should be a mutual agreement that he needs help doing what's best for him and everyone who cares for him is right there beside him and that you will both go right away to start packing for an inpatient stay or looking up doctors for outpatient therapy. If I were you, I would consider the inpatient because one day isn't long to get over whatever he was battling that day. My guess is a serious convo about the situation will open him up and you'll see his real emotional state.
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Science doesn't know enough about how the brain works to predict the behavioral outcome in this situation.  Sometime people wake up perfectly fine mentally.  Other times, their brain function is seriously reduced.  It can alter personality, intellect, emotions, and physical ability.  If he wakes up, as hard as it might be, try to be patient and take your cue from him.  If he wants to be close to you, be supportive, but his stress level will make it hard for him to be there for you in an emotional sense and forcing the issue will only make things worse.  This is a very difficult situation, you have my sympathy.
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I feel your pain, my husband thinks of sleeping as the greatest hobby. But over the years, I have just come to accept that it is one of his qwirks, and even though it bugs me, it doesn't mean that he doesn't love me, it just means he likes to sleep.
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one night you should tell him to take it easy, and you should cook like your favorite meal, and then pop the question.....make it a speech tell him "He's my homemaker, housewife and my everything when I get home from a long day of work. I manage a large portion of a company and have just recently been too sick to function. He has nursed me and been by my side the entire time, never leaving me for more than a few minutes at a time (he has to shower and go to the bathroom afterall.) We're a solid foundation together, and now that I'm feeling better (and I have a ring).. I want to do it." its very much from the heart i can tell, good luck sweety with everything and congrats on the baby!!
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I went through a similar cycle with no help from anywhere.  Drugs left me zonked the next day too.  Eventually I found relief through my own little techniques.  Stress doesn't help mind you.  She has to find a pattern that suits her.  The trick is that when your head hits the pillow it can't say "OK go to sleep, go to sleep this time".  The n the cycle has already begun.  I drink a warm malted milk and then always force my imagination to go somewhere.  For me the start is always very science fiction, but that is just me.  Before you know it the mind can wonder on its own and zzzzzzzz.....  Just advise mind you, insomnia is different for everyone and there are different types.  The other main variety is waking up 3 hours into sleep and then being stuck awake.
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Ah the world of shift work. I work 12 hour days and 12 hour night shifts and talk about exhausted. You need to go easy on youself and allow yourself a recovery day, especially after nights. Go easy on the coffee, eat healthy ,regular small meals or snacks ,at work  or home,since big meals can add to the tiredness. I tend to stress out a bit on the night before I start my day shifts so I take a low dose of sleep-aid, half the normal dose, on that night. I guess I am worried about waking up on time(0430), and what I am going into. (I work as a nurse in a large jail) After my first shift back I tend to relax and can sleep better. I also prepare all my meals before going back to work so I don't do any cooking at all on the days I work. LOL.