My son is walking with me down aisle.  I don't want it to be like he is giving me away...I am 43...he is 20.  What could officiant say other than that?  I was thinking on the lines of...when he asks who gives this bride in marriage....My son could reply with "She giveth herself..along with my brother and my blessings"...any ideas will help...Thanks
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Your officiant could just skip the question all together.  It was not in the ceremony for my wedding.  My dad was my officiant and he gave me away.  I was concerned how this would work, but he said that the question was not in the order of worship that he uses, so there was no problem.  Unless you specifically want the question, ask that your officiant skip it, if it is in his usual ceremony.
138839
Sounds like he wants you to be his mother.  I would just go seperate ways.  Good luck.
306559
They have been answered, just not the way you would have liked for them to have been. He always answers. I'm in the same position now and I thought why doesn't he hear me, why hasn't he answered my prayer. Then I realised he had. It was just that he felt at this time or maybe at no time in the future, that it was the right decision for me. However I am relentless in this prayer and will not give up. His time is not our time. That is so hard to come to terms with, that in a way he has said no. But a wise priest once told me don't ever forget that there is nothing he will not do for his mother, so pray to her for her support in your matter and ask her in her grace to pray to him with you and on your behalf. Between them any miracle can occur and any grace can be bestowed. Have faith. God bless. I will not forget you in my prayers tonight.
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Myself 14 years.  Happy going.\nAjoke for your question.\nA couple is celebrating their 50th Wedding Anniversary.  All the 10 Children (all married and kids) are attending the celeberation.  Lot of rush and friends, drinks etc.  The oldman by the way is seeing all these 10 sons at a time now.  He finds one among them not resembling with all the other nine.  He was restless and still sipping a drink.  He thought of asking his wife and asked her, is (our) 10th child fathered by a diffrerent man, to which the wife replied Yes my dear.  The old man was very very upset and sipped more glass of drinks.  Some how he want to know who that person is maybe one of his friends he wants to know who, abnd once again went to his wife and asked, My dear darling wife can u tell me who is that man?  Again the wife replied "YOU MY DEAR".  \n\nMoral - Dont live for longer periods after marriage or else dont celeberate wedding anniversaries after 20 years.
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Rather than just coming out and saying "that's not going to happen," my opinion would be to try and try and try again.  What better gift can a future spouse receive than you on your wedding night - with a commitment that you have chosen to become pure - again - for this night only.  It is perfectly OK to start making that commitment now.  Buy yourself a purity/commitment ring and wear it on your ring finger and really try each day to live out that commitment.  Believe me, it will change your life =)  My opinion:  Wait until marriage!!!  Best wishes =)
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This would hurt my feelings too, and I completely understand.   yes, I think it was mean to bring that stuff up about the cruise.  They know you can not afford it, and obviously they know you were not invited, so it was rude to talk about it at the dinner table.  They could mention it to you sometime, but should not make a whole conversation revolve around that.  I think that's very rude when people do this.  it leaves you in a position where you either have to change the subject or be quiet!  \n      I think they are being insensitive to you.  I am sorry you are in that situation.  My family and I have not always gotten along.  My mother treated me like dirt after I got married (before I had kids).  Mainly because of disagreements that occurred over wedding plans!  To this day, i don't think she'll ever get over the things that did not go her way for that wedding.  However, enough time has passed (almost 10 years) and there are now 3 grandkids.  \n  I would distance myself because I don't think they will understand how you feel.  Are there other people you could spend the holidays with?  I would go see the family but spend only a short time there and be civil and nice, and get it over with.  But emotionally, I would not invest anything in them.  If someone says something hurtful, just keep your expression blank or walk away.  \n    You need to spend time with people who really care about you.
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Lasermouse:  Sorry, I'm with you but I HAVE to answer this question.\n\nMy son will be born in August...and he is my son.  I don't care if he's straight or gay.  I don't care if he wants to wear pants or dresses.  I don't care if he wants to be a doctor or a clown.\n\nI love my son.  I want him to be happy.  THAT'S my objective.  Not for him to live the life that I prefer...I want him to life the life that HE prefers, and I'll back him up 100%
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Son's DO NOT owe their mother's anything besides love and respect...even though it doesn't sound as if she's too deserving of the respect!  Thank God your fiancee sees what's going on.  Yeah, you would think that at her age she would have reached a certain level of maturity...apparently not.  If she can't control herself she's out of the picture.  Stand your ground!!
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Why not???  Do what you want to do.  Forget wedding ettiquette.  I think it's wonderful that your family wants to do something for him as well.  I'm sure he will appreciate it...the only problem might be the finances.  Anyone who went to the first one may not be able to go to the second one because they can't afford it.  That is really the only thing to consider I think.
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Hey my friend,Check with him first and ask him why he needs to tag you along to his mom's wedding.Where is your\n girl?Is she busy that day?These are two questions that you need to press the answers from him.Prepare to act quick and behave in term of not crossing the  line.Do not sweat and let guy see your intention.Act normal and see his intention.If she is out from his life then you can take over.But,she is busy and he needs double take then say no.Hey You are   not the second hand for him eventhough you like him.Be clever and look for your ownself.You are lady and wait for your turn.If it meant to be yours then he can not run away from you.
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YOU CAN DO WHATEVER YOU WANT THAT DAY. ITS YOUR WEDDING. I DID IT ON MINE AND NOT ONE PERSON SAID ANYTHING TO ME. IF THEY DO JUST SAY THAT YOU ARE NERVOUS AND TO MIND THIER OWN BUSINESS. ITS NOT A BIG DEAL. ME AND MY HUSBAND BOTH DID IT. MAYBE OTHER GUESTS OR MEMBERS WILL JOIN YOU
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OK, hon. First of all, you don't need to prove your love to him. No matter what anybody says. No matter who you date, they will never be good enough for mommy and daddy. (Unless they pick the person) Second, don't focus so much on love. Give it time. I don't know how old you are, and personally I don't consider it an issue. If you focus on love, you will be heartbroken if things don't work out. I'm not saying set your standards low. I am not saying don't love this person. What I am saying is spend time with him. Enjoy the relationship. Don't get married young. And for gods sake don't get married without first living with the person. People seem VERY different when you have to share space with them. Trust me about that one. Don't rush. True love doesn't need a wedding band. If you love someone, being with that person should be enough. Sex is nice, but even that isn't necessary. The company of your significant other is all that is necessary. If you two love each other than that is all that matters. Marriage and sex are over rated. (Sex is nice, but still over rated) If you love him then your parents will eventually come to the realization that he is sticking around. They will either come to accept it, or they will disown you. I know this. I have been married. I was only 19. I told my parents the day before. At first they accused me of being crazy. They made some pretty insulting comments, and I told them to go fuck themselves. They learned to accept my wife and even grew to like her. You are your own person. Heres a motto that my stepfather taught me. "If you don't fuck me, feed me, or pay my bills......Go fuck yourself!" Your family is an important part of your life, but you didn't choose them. You were born with them. You couldn't change who they were. Your boyfriend is somebody that you chose to bring into your life. Your parents should respect your decisions. And if they think you are a fool for being with him...... remind them of who taught you. What examples did you have to follow. They are the 2 biggest influences in your life. Whether you know it or not. Everything that you have witnessed from them as a child has molded you to be the person that you are today. Everything from not enough hugs to the overprotectiveness. They have made you who you are. If they are unhappy with that, then they should try to do a better job next time.
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The Bible does say 'Honor your father and your mother.' It also says 'Obey your parents in the Lord - for this is right,' and even 'Obey your parents in everything, for this pleases the Lord.'\n\nHowever, it also says we must listen to God more than man. This does mean that if you are planning to disobey your parents (particularly if you are still under their roof), you must have a very good reason, preferably one straight from Scripture. And that means you need to know your Scripture, know exactly why you believe being with him is the right thing, why it would be wrong to discount him. And if you are still living under their roof, and you attend a church or other place of worship, you should probably consult with the pastor or other leader before you do anything.\n\nBut I absolutely agree that before you even do that, you need to get your parents' side of the story. And you need to listen without judging them in any way. Just to find out their opinion in detail. No arguments afterwards, just 'Thanks for sharing that with me.' If you don't do that, you will have a much bigger problem than whether to see this boy.\n\nDepending on your age, it may turn out that the problem has nothing to do with him at all, and plenty to do with a perception on your parents' part that you are not ready for a serious relationship. They may believe that you should not be 'serious' with someone until you are ready to be married.\n\nQuite frankly, if you aren't ready for a permanent relationship yet, I agree. You should stay just friends. Be faithful to each other, if that's how God is leading you, but keep it platonic and see what happens later when you are ready for something permanent.\n\nAnd yes, that something permanent does involve 'leaving father and mother.' But that does not mean 'leaving mother and father when it's convenient for me, and running to them and expecting them to provide for me when that's more convenient.' But once that moment comes, then, yeah, your husband absolutely does take priority over your parents.
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why stop with the vows? also do these things\n\n1. instead of a pastor have a referee "officiate"\n2. instead of rice throw "dust in the wind"\n3. instead of doves release "trial balloons"\n4. instead of a reception have "something to go"\n\nand finally\n\n5. instead of a honeymoon take "separate vacations"
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First of all, it isn't his Mom's choice.  When I got married after dating for 3 years, my husbands Mom cried and cried because I was Jewish and not Catholic.  Threats were made, and she never approved.  My parents were the complete opposite.  I do not care if it is money, religion, race, etc. a Mom will find anything wrong with her son's choice.  It also does not matter if you are smarter than him.  What does that have to do with the price of beans?\nI'm sure she didn't approve of you because you were underage when you met.  I'm sure you had sex with him also and he could have been put in jail for both of your actions.  You were a minor and he was not.  That may be something she is angry at.  I would not be pleased to see my 20 year old son going after a 15 year old.  I do consider it wrong and very inappropriate.  Have you ever considered this as why she is upset?  I think you both need to sit her down and talk to you both.  \nAnd so what if he is cut out of the Will...he didn't make the money...his parent(s) did.  That should not be an issue in the first place.\nTo tell you the truth, you seem to have an issue with money, intellegence and you trying to defend yourself not being a social climber and a gold digger, makes me wonder.\nBut it is your life.  You are in love and she doesn't have a say in anything.  She had her turn to say yes to the man she loves, now it is your turn (and her son's turn).\nGo on with the wedding.
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But he's still your son,no matter what.  You should honor your obligation no matter what.  You don't want your son to ever have any reason to say that you didn't step up to the plate and do the right thing.  HE'S YOUR SON!!!!!!!!
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Sounds to me like the message, loud and clear, is to back off and give the married couple some space.  And if you want your son to have a happy marriage, I think you should listen.