i think i made a mistake my ex ask my permission to go and talk to Another gurl and me trying to be strong so dat he don't know i still want to be with him i told him go ahead u don't need my permission was i wrong to say that to him because i really want to be with him or work it out at least what should i do he said he was gonna call me today but i don't know if i should ask him why he ask my permission to go talk  to another gurl plz let me what should i do and did i make a mistake he sayz ''misses'' me but he just maybe playing with my head so i just need to do if i made a mistake or not what should i do about me and my ex plz be pecific and write alot so dat i can get a hit about the advice u are giving me
120795
I don't understand why he asked you for your permission...
200781
Ummmmmm wait a sec - do I have this straight?\n\nHe cheated on you - you forgave him and gave him a 2nd chance?  \n\nYou later cheated and he won't give YOU a 2nd chance?\n\nWell that about says it all if I have that straight.. he doesn't want to give you that 2nd chance because this is HIS way of getting out and 'blaming you for it'.  I bet he has another 'side'.... I'm so sorry, and realize that you have already punished yourself enough, and that you TRIED to be honorable and tell him the truth, and if you could forgive him and he won't you, he's being a JERK!  I'm sorry /comf!
107905
you sound almost like a mirror image of me but i'm at the 3 month stage and i don't know if he's with somone else, the other difference is he said to me that he wants to work things out i haven't seen mine in 20 days and yes im counting. the best advice hang in there, me personally i would tell him how much of a many swearwords he is for hurting me and how could he get with somone else so soon. but as i said hang in there im now ruling my own life but it is hard moving ahead without the one you love. Be Good!
445287
Leave things alone and let it work itself out. You haven't done anything so if you start trying to fix it then it's only going to make you look even more guilty. He'll learn in time that you never did any of the things she said and he'll have to be the one to find a way to make it up to you. Let him see that your a stronger person then what she is making you out to be. and he will respect you more for it. I would just let him know that your not guilty but your not going to start trying to prove it to him either, and that he'll have to work it out himself. If you start having to prove things to someone you will be having to prove things to them from now on. If his going to believe you then let nature take its course. As for her why are you even friends with her. Dump her and if you do date her ex so what, that's why his her ex.
418019
It was nice that you and your exboyfriend remained friends. The other girl sounds like she was very unsecuried. But you did wrong by lieing and you should of let nature take its place, Did you ever hear that sayen if you love something set  it free if it comes back to you it was meant to be if it doesn't it never was meant to be. You need to tell your friend that you lied. Just tell him you two need to talk with no yelling or anything. And tell him the truth. This might make the love you two have alot stronger or it might be a few hard feelings. But it will be out in the open and you will beable to look at him without guilt.
244733
tell her that its your choice and that there is nothing wrong with him and that he is a responsible guy and that your not going to leave him just because you don't like what happened and tell her that you want to make your own mistakes and that you want to feel free and not so controlled
66544
This guy sounds like he's really confused and a bit immature.  I think you really need to answer that phone and tell him how much you were hurt by what he did to you.  Talk it over . . . you might be surprised to find that he's been just as torn up about this as you have been!
192055
Your ex is an ex for a reason...& I'm sure you remember those reasons, don't you?..So why would you look back!!...Give you new friend a chance at least, if not, move on...There's always bigger & better fish out in the sea..
372799
Well, since you already told him how sorry you are and everything... it is up to HIM to decide what to do next. You have to give him space so he can figure this out. If you keep trying to talk to him to fix it, it'll just push him away even more. Just give him time.\n\nIf it doesn't work out, it will be alright.\nGod has a plan for you. He will give you the one in His time.\n\nAll you can really do is learn from this experience and use it to build the future.\n\n\n\nWell.. if you think he may have been using you, don't you think you're better off WITHOUT him?
105145
I would let it go if I were you. If he really cared about you he would have called you. If he hasn't called you because of your ex, then he isn't going to take this relationship any further whether you call him or not. Sorry, don't set yourself up to get hurt anymore.
258959
If you broke up w/ him there must have been a reason. What was that reason ? Do you want to go through it all over again ? I think I can relate to what you're saying tho. I went to the city partly to get away fr him for the wk'd after we broke up. Well, we were still talking on the phone sometimes but when he phoned it'd be more like "geeeeeeez... :( " but I'd still answer the phone. While in the city I didn't have a very good time. It felt like my fam was abandoning me or something. Like they were tryna get rid of me or didn't wanna see me, etc. :( I was very hurt. The main reason why I was thinking of moving to the city was to be near my fam too... After that I felt that my ex was the only one who really cared bout me. When I got back home I jut HAD to see him so I went to see him. I told him bout what happened in the city & how I felt that he was the only one who cared bout me. For a whole wk I wanted to be w/ him. I wanted to be w/ him every chance I had. We were @ this pt, just "friends". We went to see Default & I guess he was gonna go home after the concert. I didn't want him to leave. I didn't wanna go home either. He was gonna drink but I didn't really care if he did, as long as I could be w/ him. Well, his mom & sis were gone to the city, so he let me spend the night, which I did. I felt that I wanted to get back w/ him. B/w the day I got back home fr the city to the time we got back together officially was Apr 7th-13th I believe. There was even a time AFTER that that I thought that we'd be together forever. But in the past 2 or 3 wks I haven't been feeling that way. I wanna break up w/ him. When & how is the Q. This'll be our 4th break up. :( \nYou may also experience this as well. Have you broken up in the past ? If you have I think that this will only continue to happen. Don't let it. Be strong. Easier said that done I know, but when you feel like talking to him, call a friend. Maybe even get together w/ a friend or friends. It's better than giving in to urges. Hope this helps !!!
497314
It sounds like he's very hurt by not only the break up, but by your harsh actions of how you treated him after the relationship ended. He's seen you in a new light that was not good and now in turmoil over whether or not to get back with you. Best thing to do now would be to back off to give him time and space to figure things out. By you constantly calling and asking him what's he going to do is probably just making matters worse. Let him have his time to think about things and so he can make his decision.
153691
Well, Ms. Badass.. You're not a badass after all.\n\nYou haven't told us the reason for the breakup other that "I was really hurt".. What does that mean?  Did he meet another girl that is better looking, more intellegent than you?? Of course not!! No one is better than you.. Remember, you're a badass!\n\nIf he really cares for you and if he hurt you in anyway.  Then it is up to him to apologize to you and try to win your heart back, if he has any type of decency in his bone.  If not, I say... Good riddance..  Pick yourself up and get someone better.  Don't get into the habit of yoyoing back to someone who has hurt you in some way (unless it is just a simple misunderstanding).  \n\nIt is natural to want him back since you miss that companionship and everything that comes with it. But you will have to understand within yourself if you really want him (he, who has hurt you) back or move on to greater things!
388798
Just b/c your the one who broke things off doesn't make it any less painful for you.  You are still going to go through the "missing him" part...  Just make sure you don't go back and forth on your decision and get back together with him.  Stick to your guns.  You made your decision, now stick with it.
283006
Your GF was wrong, but she is upset because she thinks that the ex is trying to get you back, or that you want the ex back. It can be very hard on the GF when the ex starts calling. \n\nYou were kind to talk to your ex when she was upset. But if you want to move on with another woman you need to talk to her (ex) when she is not upset and tell her that she has to find someone else for emotional support, then you have to follow through and not talk to her. Next, even though you were not wrong to listen to someone in distress, you do need to apologize to your GF. Try to explain that you don't want this other woman bac and that you are sorry that your GF was hurt.
256860
while breaking up with him wasn't the best thing to do, most of us whould have done the exact same thing.  Have a talk with him. Ask him if he's intrested in giving you a secind shot and explain why you broke up in the first place.  If he isn't all you wanted-he's out of your system and you might cry a little.  the decision is yours but i know what it's like to like someone that much.  give it a shot. who knows- maybe he was dumping them because they wern't like you.  Only he and his friends know. Carpe Diem. Seize the day and take a chance-sorry if this is corny. I'm watching a walk to remember
507773
It sounds like you need to make the decision for him and break it off.  If he is still talking with his ex, then he is not over her and will not be able to fully commit to you or anyone else until he is.  It sounds like he needs to be taking care of his issues with his ex and not getting involved with anyone else until he has that figured out.  You sound more like his safety net than anything and if she was to call him back and tell him to come back to her, you would be dumped and he would be gone.