Its really hard for me to find gay guys WITHOUT coming out of the closet, what do I do? 19/m/Tennessee
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Test 1\n\nGive a guy a long look - if he starts back "What U lookin' at?" - he's straight.\n\nTest 2\n\nlook him up and down (making sure he sees you do it) and smile - if he smiles back at ya - he may be gay.
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Unusual, yes, most straight guys I know are freaked out by gay men.  I wish I could find a straight man that is comfortable around gay people.  My best friend (whom I live with) is gay and I would love to find a man that would be comfortable with my best friend .
109749
Look for a gay club or a gay support group
232174
Listen..you sound like a wonderful person. You seem very respectful unlike many guys out there. I love the way you think, we need more guys out there like you. Your doing everything right dont worry, your time will come that you meet that special someone. Good Luck!
576112
don't fight it.  just be yourself and don't try to label it as "gay" or "straight".  you don't HAVE to be either, just be true to yourself - that's the only way you'll be truly happy with your relationships.\n\nkeep in mind that when being true to yourself and finding inner happiness, you will also come across ppl who don't understand and you'll have to deal with those ppl as they come, but remember; this is your life and you should do what brings you peace.
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Sounds like you are questioning yor sexuality!Or just coming out? whatever just don't worry unless you deside to stalk, then see a therapist please. There is medicine for that! Be safe and have Happy Holidays !!!!Dude
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I went through this same dilemma. I came out during my sophmore year of highschool. And there was the most drop dead gorgeous guy there. His name was Gary. Let me tell you. Anyways, I wanted to be with him very badly, but did not know how he felt. So I befriended him. We started hanging out, and stuff like that. Well two years went by and still nothing. Well in December of our senior year a bunch of us were out at a  party. His girlfriend was there and everything. (He had this girl for 3 years now) Well I went outside for a smoke, and he followed me outside and complimented me on my new glasses. Ok no big deal. Well we sat there and talked, smoked a few cigs and went back in. My best friend and I decided to get into the hottub. We had been sitting there for about a half hour or so when Gary came in. My best friend got out and went to go get a beer. I mentioned that my shoulder was buggin me from a fall I had taken earlier that week. So he reaches over and starts to rub it. Then we kissed, and ended up ditching the party and ****ed all night long lol. The next day he dumped his girl and him and I have been in a relationship ever since. So even the most straight acting guys may be gay. You just never know!
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It sounds like he may be gay and almost ready to come out of the closet.  You are pretty there is nothing wrong with you it is him.  Dump his azz and get you a real man who has a big d*ck and can't keep his hands off of you.
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You can meet decent guys online, and remember you can always chat before you even meet them, or just chat and never meet. If he starts discussing sex or anything else that makes you uncomfy either tell him or change the subject or ignore him till he goes away. Be open and honest, I'm not here just to talk about sex, if you're really interested in ME, then ask me abt me, not what I'm wearing, the ones who are interested will stay and the others will go. Don't give out your home address or numbers, always tell a friend if you've been chatting a while, always tell a friend when you start dating, make sure you have his real name (both), numbers and home address to give to friend, just in case!! I've done quite a bit, mostly for fun, but was always careful. Good luck!
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There is always a gay community lurking somewhere, even in the most repressed backwater area of the world.  My first suggestion would be to go internet hunting.  Go to Gay.com and look for your area in the chat section, and just start talking to people.  Though be forewarned a lot of those guys can be just totally obnoxious.  You'd probably be surprised to find something in your area.  \n\nAnother place to look would be in the "gay guides."  The Damron company makes gay travel guides, and there may be one for an area very close to where you live.  Just check on Amazon.\n\nAs for mentorship, unfortunately that's not something that our community is very big on.  Usually at colleges and universities you'll have a gay student alliance.  You may also have a local gay community center somewhere nearby.  You can usually call there and talk to someone very friendly who can help you with your questions.  \n\nAnd no 24 is not too old to learn.  I have friends who never came out until they were in their 40s.  \n\nI wish you lots of luck.
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try joining sumthing new such as volunteer work or something else your interesterd in that way u can meet guys who u have sumthing in common w/
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he is afraid, and well he should be, to come out fully. Leave it alone, don't bring it up, and certainly do not tell anyone else what he has said. He confided in you and it is a secret between you. He will find himself in time, but right now, if he is gay, he is very lonely, feels like the odd ball in a sea of people who are not gay. IT is NOT a nice feeling. IF it were to get out that he is gay, others will pick on him and make his life miserable. IT is a fact that suicide rates in Gay male teens is 5 times higher than the rest of teen males...a difficult time as it is, but being Gay make it much harder ... Good luck
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Hey guy.  Don't beat yourself up so much.  Maybe you are just looking in the wrong places.  There are people out there for everyone.  You will see that the Abercrombie types tend to be attracted to the Abercrombie types.  The bears are usually with other bears.  If people told you that you are cute, you probably are.  I know you have a lot to offer and the right guy will come along.  Just remember the attraction has to be reciprocal.  That's what makes the dating scene hard some times.  But it goes beyond the physical.  Find a group where you have common interests and mingle with that group.  Someone probably has a 'friend' who is gay that you might like.  Don't give up.  You need to be more upbeat and not sound so depressing.  Life is what you make of it.  I am single right now and am actually kind of enjoying the break.  Good luck.
107673
You really should be more careful, there are hundreds of other ways to meet guys......you are young, go out and enjoy life, stop wasting it looking for guys on here.
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EXPAND your hunting grounds!  If u keep looking in the same places- then u r only going to find the same old guys!  Go to different places.  Go to the higher class bars- not the dives.  get a part time job in a lumber store or auto parts store.  Make yoursle apparoachable my smiling alot and having a great time in public.  When u see a guy who interests u take the chance and ask him out!  Thank god its 2006 and we can do that now!  Men like to have girls ask them out!  That way they dont have to worry about rejection!  Good luck to u!
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Well, if you know for a fact that the person is gay, start a conversation with them. Get to know them, and what they like and stuff. There is a great website to go to. Its adam4adam.com You can meet alot of guys there. Thats where I met my current boyfriend, whom I love soooo much.
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no you are not gay. there will always be times like this when you will be confused  by friendship over attraction. just let it go.