***** and proceeds to call her bad names. Why is he lying to me about talking to her. He says he wants to marry me, so i am confused if he knows it upsets me why does he keep talking to her?
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Let him know that you know and show your proof.  Then listen to what he says.  If it sounds fishy, kick him to the curb.
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from what you say you only danced with him a few times and he got your name and number and you did not give it to him. and now he comes to your house you did not say wether or not you gave him your address or if he found that to. and now he wants to marry you. Well let me tell you he is a physco. i bet you realised that already. i went to pay my electric bill i called on the phone and started talking to the man that was on the other end. we ended up starting to talk outside of his company. he lived in another state. one day he got on a plane came to my home and said he wanted to get married. i did not no what to say because i thought stalker. within two days a call came in and it was from his daughter that did not no where he went to and did not no who i was. the story finally ends when i found out he has been wanted for 10 years and in 3 different states and i worked closely with them to capture him. now he is in prison. what i am saying to you is you do not no him. why all of a sudden do you think he would become that attatched to you. you need not to worry about his feelings because you need to worry about yourself. you do not no what he really has in store for you. and i would make it clear that he is not to cantact you again and that is it. you do not need to explain anything to him. this is not your problem it is his. if he does call you again then take the steps that you told him you would. be firm and good luck
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He won't give you an answer because to do so truthfully he would have to accept the truth about himself. He is very insecure in the relationship and has very low self esteem. And an anger management problem!His doing this before you marry him could actually be a blessing. Today your diary was torn up,what will you do when it is you that he rips to pieces? I beg you to walk..no RUN away from him ASAP!\n\n Older not wiser, you are very rude with your words. Do you know what was in the diary? Why do you assume it is about sex and why do you call her a pro? you sound as bad as her b/f! I call it  the SMS Syndrome....small man syndrome!
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They do not speak to each other.  Apparently, she thought he was critical of her in an interview he gave.  I am not absolutely sure but I think she claims it was about her having adopted when she first did.  She also often said that she did not appreciate his cheating on her mother.  Not very consistent for a woman who slept with a married man.  He has expressed that he would like to make amends but she is not budging.
247124
He sounds like a spoiled brat with reality issues. She needs to drop him ... NOW! \n\nAnd yes, it's possible to affect someone's mental health by that sort of behavior, especially if they have rather delicate mental stability.
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I'm not sure I understand...\nIs it the fact that he uses you as a sounding board about his sister that bugs you, or is it the fact that she can get away with things that you cant and he'll still love her?\nRealize that for a lot of people are trained as kids to put family first, and the fact that he cares so much about his sister (regardless of her behavior) says a lot about his character. He sounds like a good guy, and he's probably confused about why you are so upset.\nIf you want to not hear about her anymore, then ask him not to talk about her when you are together, or change the subject when he brings her up. \nYou may also want to figure out why you hate her so much...she doesnt seem to have done anything directly to you, has she?
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okay he called someone else baby?okay i was seeing this guy we were on the phone this girl i guess she was in the background saying something to him i swear he said THANK YOU BABY,i could not believe it i aske him about it he said i call ever girl baby.i had the wearded feeling about it but i blew it off.guess what he was seeing other girld behind my back .please if he calls another girl baby or honey dump his butt
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Um, no, it is NOT RIGHT! What is wrong with you people? He is MARRIED! That means he stood before God and vowed to be faithful and honest to this woman. And, instead, he is out trolling for God knows what on the internet. Yuk. Find your own man, this one is taken. Plus, why would you want a creep llike that?
137594
Sounds as if he needs to get a back bone and tell her to stop calling. Unless he likes the drama she brings into his marriages...Dolly
75483
You are so right if he cannot tell her he is with you than something is very wrong here. A man should be proud of the woman he is with you and him sure have a problem but look this does not mean leave him just get him to be honest with her if he is not honest with her what lies has he said to you sorry i did not mean nothing bad from that its just nobody deseves this i wish you both the best this can be simple just sit and talk and than call her and put this issue aside and you two be happy. Good Luck.
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seems fishy, like he's either hiding something or just refuses to openly communicate with her anymore in which case, if I were her, I'd ease on out of this relationship & move on with my life....a relationship without open communication is no relationship at all.
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He wants his cake and eat it too.  If he did not ask you to marry him and you all were obviously in some sort of relationship/friendship(so you thought) and he did the mentioned above, that says alot about his character.  He's a loser, want-to-be playa, cheat, liar, etc.  Why would you want that friendship again? Friends like that, who needs enemies.
579995
It's just ignorrance. Forgive him. He may not have the capacity to understand how inappropriate he is. With free speech comes the ugly side. Tell her that people like him may not be mature enough to get it. Thanks for being so supportive of her feelings.
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why would you drop him if things are going good....hope its not becasue of what she said...cuz that would be wrong
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She did something she knew was deceptive and against your will. She\n\nthen misled you and was deceptive about it once you caught on. She\n\nflat-out lied about her actions and tried to make out as if it were\n\nyou who was in the wrong and had a lack of understanding (a\n\ngenerational thing that you aren’t able to comprehend).\n\n\n\nShe says Jeff is “easy to talk to” and that he’s “a great listener” –\n\nmajor red flag\n\n\n\nYou made your value of honesty perfectly clear and yet she\n\nintentionally betrayed that in spite of your openness of how much it\n\nmeant to your relationship.\n\n\n\nI find your statement here perplexing:\n\n\n\n“I personally think it’s a bit weird for a guy to be calling a girl\n\nwho has a boyfriend every day, but I also don’t’ want to treat my gf\n\nlike a child.”\n\n\n\nI don’t. \n\n\n\nYour “girlfriend” is acting childish but you don’t want to treat her\n\nlike a child. She has given you every reason to question her integrity\n\nyet you insist on being more permissive. You wonder how a guy (which\n\nshe admittedly feels so comfortable being with and confiding in) would\n\ncall on a girl who has a “boyfriend”. Dude, in my opinion, HE is her\n\nboyfriend too. Is it really that unclear? My guess is that YOU are\n\nprobably NOT her “boyfriend” in HIS mind, but YOU are merely an\n\nobstacle (she never mentions you and he never asks about you) . It\n\nwould seem, on it’s face at least, that she may feel the same way (why\n\nwould she be honest about this too when she found it so easy to lie\n\nabout everything else). The fact remains that she encourage, or at\n\nleast welcomes, his advances which she KNOWS FOR A FACT are totally\n\nagainst your will and undisputedly outside the parameters of trust\n\nthat the two of you have agreed upon for your relationship (in view of\n\nher previous lies about Jeff).\n\n\n\n“she says ‘she thinks about him all the time, and misses him. She’s\n\ndepressed that she can’t see him.”\n\n\n\nI’m not trying to belittle you or suggestion that you are less than\n\nintelligent because I know how love clouds the mind. But, c’mon big\n\nfella; you need to wake up because as hard as this is to swallow, in\n\nmy opinion you’re being had.\n\n\n\n“She says that maybe I don’t trust her, and she can’t spend the rest\n\nof her life with someone who can’t trust her, and she knows I feel the\n\nsame way.”\n\n\n\nShe KNOWS you don’t trust her and she KNOWS you don’t want to be with\n\nsomeone you can’t trust. It kinda makes one wonder if she’s not trying\n\nto help you dump her by continuing to give you reason after reason to\n\nnot trust her, doesn’t it? See what I mean? I don’t think she “feels\n\nbad” because she doesn’t “want to make you upset”, she feels bad\n\nbecause she KNOWS it makes you upset and she KNOWS that isn’t right –\n\nbut she still does it, doesn’t she?\n\n\n\nI find it odd that you think it “might” be ok that she doesn’t tel you\n\nall these little details about her relationship with this guy but that\n\nshe obviously tells him all the little details of her relationship\n\nwith YOU (if you’re not aware, intimate talk is what “easy to talk to”\n\nand “a good listener” often represent). You’re not seeing the two of\n\nthem discuss YOU because he probably already knows more than he cares\n\nto know already.\n\n\n\n>>>Do I let her keep meeting him as long as she’s honest with me about\n\nmeeting him?\n\nYou may not have a choice anymore.\n\n\n\n>>>Should I be worried? \n\nYou bet.\n\n\n\n>>>Do I tell her that she can’t be his friend and my boyfriend at the same time? \n\nYes, you can, but you risk losing her if you do. \n\n\n\n\n\n>>>Can I honestly, in good faith, tell her who she can and can’t be friends with? \n\nYou know what – you can (sort of). In a mature relationship everyone\n\nknows what the rules are. You
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First of all, she can only control what he allows her to.  I understand that he does not want to disrespect her but she has too obviously butted in before.  Don't involve her in personal business and decisions. As a matter of fact, keep discussions with her on subjects about HER.  Try putting distance between him and her. It's really sad to say, but if he doesn't put an end to this, it won't end.
99857
He doesn't sound like a bad guy, but he isn't ready to be in a relationship. Five years is a long time to get over somebody, and if he isn't over her yet, then who knows when he will be. Keeping pictures of her and talking about her is only reenforcing my ideas that he still wants her and whether he really wants her or just the memories of them together with their child (who knows.) I know that its hard especially when he's not purposely being mean to you, but its gotta end. If you want marriage and children, then you are selling yourself short for him. I'd say to continue in this relationship only if you want to continue being second string to her memory.