We were never married. I try to call her to see her but she never answers.She still lives at home with her parents. All I want is to see my daughter. I dont have the money for a lawyer so if anyone can help me it is appricated
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Go to your court house and file a complaint for visitations, and go to court and well go from there.  If it is something that you want then you will do what it takes.  I have been through similar things and the best thing that I can give you as advice is go to your county court house and file for visitations.  If you are fit and stable then you will get visitations through court and she will have to let you see your daughter...if she don't then she will be in contempt against a court order.
579129
How sad for you. You need to ask yourself if you and your unborn children are better off without her. If she doesn't show you any love or compassion, then she certainly won't show your children any, which will only hurt you more in the long run. Have you tried calling her and asking her why she would miss the opportunity to be in her grandchildrens lives? If she still refuses to talk to you, chalk it up to God's work and move on without her. What does your Dad have to say about all this? Maybe he could be your "rock" when it comes to dealing with Mom.\nGood Luck and remember you still have your Mother in Law to lean on and show you some support......I know because your story is the same as my daughter in laws and I love her as if she was my own.
273626
1. Continue with the child support action.  \nSince you say it was filed "through the state" the only issues at trial should be (1) paternity and (2) the amount of child support. The child support will be retroactive to when the case was filed, and may be retroactive to the date the child was born.  \n\nIf your ex is still in the military your child support will come out of his pay and the military will send the check directly to you.  Your child will also be eligible for all dependent coverage, including medical insurance, medical care through military hospitals, beneficiary of your ex's life insurance, disability pay, death benefits, etc.  Talk to a JAG at the base closest to you and find out what these are.\n\nChild visitation will probably not be heard at the trial, the ex would have had to have filed a separate action asking for visitation.  Even if he did, or does in the future, he's not goinng to get much, if any, given he's not seen or supported the child in two years.  \n\nIn the eyes of your daughter your husband is "daddy", she does not need any paper to know that.\n\nAt some time, in six or eight years, you can, if you want, inform her that 'daddy' is not her bio father.  In ten or sixteen years, or after bio dad is out of the picture (e.g. he's out of the military and you can't find him) your husband can adopt the child.  \n\nOf course, seek advice from an attorney who can ask and answer more questions than this posting can.
187955
I am sorry you seem to be having problems with communication and you aren't alone. A lot of couples don't know how to communicate, and even when they do it's not constructive communication. My suggestion to you is to seek counseling. Even if she isn't willing to go along, at least it can open your eyes and maybe you will be able to sort out your feelings. You do have a daughter, however do not make the same mistake so many others have made. Don't stay together just for the kids sake. Believe me, children sense when the relationship isn't happy. You have to do what's best for everyone involved. So good luck to you!
406607
Hey, you picked her, and now you're stuck with her forever, because you made a baby with her. You should have fought the move - it may be too late for that now. If she's living in another city, why is she trying to get the house? And why didn't you get an order for "no overnight guests of the opposite gender when the child is home" in your divorce/custody papers? I know a guy who did that, hired a PI and won custody of his 2 girls because the mom couldn't keep her legs crossed when her daughters were home.\n\nHave your visitation order with you and bring the police with you to pick up your kid for visitation. She can't keep the kid from you, and if the cops are already there, the whole tresspassing thing will vanish. Learn what your rights are and fight for them. There are a lot of father's support groups out there with a lot of legal information.\n\nShe is not going to get better. Maybe she will be distracted if she has a few more kids, and maybe you'll get lucky and she'll find another man to torture instead of you.\n\nDocument everything and bring it to court when you have to go. Don't be late with the child support, either, because judges don't look kindly on deadbeats -- and they also don't look kindly on women who won't let the fathers have relationships with the children. Record the phone calls. Get them for harrassment.\n\nGood luck to you.
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1. Are you sure that the child is yours? Try a DNA test, to be sure.\n2. Go to an attorney to help you. As father you have to pay for your child, BUT you must meet her and know her.\n3. She (the mother of the child) haven't the right to have this relationship hidden unless there is a serious reason. Speak with her and an special list (as physiologist or family consultant)\nMore info bellow:
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I have a similar situation. But it is SHE in my case. Plz..help us both(the asker and me).
649220
YES your daughter can depending on your state and her age  either you need to get a lawyer or a child's advocate, your daughter   "Motion  The Court" for what is an "Emancipation" against her father with what your telling me it should be granted, this is what children do, it is another way of being set free from there parents or a parent, go on the Internet and check it out, GOOD LUCK also most people don't need lawyers to do this but you may need one, I am also telling you it would be best that you allow you daughter to do this on her own of course go with her but as far as you going in to the lawyer or court room no the reason are this it is up to her and her choice that way no one will say you made her do this even thought they will anyways, Hallmark made a movie called "into the night about just this" try to get or contact me email and I will help you get the movie very helpful
532147
I would talk to a lawyer.  I don't know what the situation is but I would tell the lawyer your situation.  You are the father.  Unless you have papers you have as much right.  Your children come first before any other disputes.  If it is only jealousy then they can be talked to but if there is any abuse whatsoever then  yes.  It doesn't make it any  better she will not tell the name of her boyfriend.
100482
Let her go.  She will come back.  I went through this with my daughter for the same reason yours want to leave.  It didn't take her long to figure out it wasn't so bad at home afterall.  I didn't rant and rave just let her go.  She found out for herself just what kind of dad she has and I didn't have to say a thing.  Kept our relationship on an even keel.
385050
Call your attorney, this is not acceptable.She is flagrently disregarding YOUR time with YOUR child.
341383
Don't leave.  Don't leave, don't leave!!!!  Been there done it!  I no longer have custody of my daughter and I pay child support and don't see my daughter.  Don't do it.  ...  I also know that no matter what ppl say, you are going to do what you want.  But when I was your age, I was in the same situation!  Gosh, I pray I could truely speak to you and tell you all I have done and gone through!  You have no idea what will happen.  I would of never in a million years thought I would loose her and now that I am back in the same city as her - I don't even see her!  I haven't missed a beat with sending my child support - I just wish I could see her as the courts have ordered!  I will pray for you and once again... Don't leave - stay here and face it!  If this new guy loves you he will find something here or come back!
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Why don't you try to support your child for once and let her experience life instead of protecting her from it? Your child could have filed for emancipation at the age of 12 if she wanted to and you would have had no legal right to her. If she wants to be at home, she'll come home. Until then, maybe you should try to treat her like the adult that she will be in less than a years time instead of like the 10-year-old that she hasn't been in quite some time. I left my home when I was 16 and moved in with my aunt because I couldn't deal with living with my parents. \n\nJust because you think you're right doesn't mean that you are and just because your daughter thinks she's right doesn't mean she is. Maybe, and I know other parents don't like to hear this, you were wrong. Just get over it.\n\nYour daughter may be physically 17 years of age, but that doesn't mean that her mental development didn't speed up at some point. You're going to do nothing but put strain on your relationship with your daughter if you try to force her to come home. Instead try to support her, see if she needs help with paying for rent and getting through school. Maybe getting a job. \n\nI'm thinking that you and your daughter have problems because you don't even know where she lives now. Even though I'm grown, my parents at least know where to come live with me because they apologized to me for everything that had occured in my youth because of them. Just because you're the parent doesn't make you right. Your daughter isn't just your daughter, she's also herself. She has to be herself or she's just a copy of you. That's not why you had children and you know it.
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How old is the girl...perhaps she feels she is not ready for more...\n\nI sugguest that if you are both of legal age then you sit her down and talk to her, lack of communication is one of the biggest factors in relationship breakdowns...maybe she is just waiting for you to make the move...perhaps she thinks your not ready yet...or maybe she believes no sex before marriage...\n\nit could be a wide range of things...talk to her....
572006
"Whenever I (her mom) try to talk to her, she reminds me that she's 20 years old and doesn't have to listen to me."\n\nSeems your daughter is quick to take your help when she needs it but then shows no appreciation or respect for it or you as her mother. She's right, she is 20 and she doesn't have to listen to anyone. It's also true since she 20 that she's of legal age so my suggestion is this. The next time she spends the night at her cheating boyfriends house, who she left to move home, then pack her things, call a local mom n pop mover and have all of it delivered to her boyfriends house. When she looses it and calls you or comes home, which she will, advise that you're also of age and don't have to listen to anyone, especially her. Send her on her way with one last thought and that is when she's ready to grow up, act like an adult and treat you with the respect you deserve then you're willing to sit down and listen.
614807
Sad. \nI am a father with custody of my now 20 year old daughter. It is very sad. If it doesn't work out, you will greive the end of the relationship.\n\nYou owe it to yourself to rest knowing you did everything you could to keep the relationship. I would make one last case with her. Try to convince her to stay with you, but if and probably when she rejects it, move on. \n\nDo your best to get a non-contested divorce. Know this, you will only retain custody of your son if she allows it. Courts give the children to the mother if they just look like they want it. So if she agrees, keep your son with you, if not, let her have him and fight for the best visitation you can get, Joint custody, if you can get it.\n\nDo some work on healing yourself and do what you can to get yourself back to happy with yourself. People make mistakes, big mistakes but it doesn't make them failures. Don't expect to re-establish a close relationship until you have gotten yourself off the rebound and back to a normal life.\n\nGood Luck and Sorry to hear about your loss.
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Contact the attorney directly, but you may be out of luck.\n\nIf she was just a girlfriend, you were never married, spousal privelege doesn't attach. I'm assuming you were not her physician, so that is out.\n\nIf you are subpoenaed, they can compel you to testify. You can tell the judge no, but he can tell you "Go to jail go, directly to jail" and keep you there until you talk.