Can anyone help me out with some advice on what to do and what to say. I havent spoken or contacted my x lover in 2 months. we broke up 5 months ago. after the break up we kept contact, but i felt that we needed time apart to figure out what we want. recently i started to think about my x lover. i know my x lover has too much pride even if my x lover misses i shouldnt expect a call \ni m sooo nervous because i want my x lover in my life again either as a lover or friend. i will take either or. but i have a blank mind on what to do or say\n\n\nhow should i approach this situation\nwhat should i say\nwhat should i do\nany suggestion will be glady appreciate it\n\nthanks
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I have learned in all aspects of life to always move forward and never look back. Don't say anything, just move on.
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I think both of you need a serious talk. If he says his feelings decreased but he says he made a huge mistake you need to ask how he feels now. Cause if he doesn't want to be with you in that way, you're only torturing yourself by hanging out with him and talking to him on the phone. If he feels that he wants to get back together then he should tell you when both of you have your serious talk. If he says he needs to think about it and you want to wait then don't pressure him. Show interest but not insecurity. I know it would be hard to stop talking to someone that you love if it wont work out. But sometimes you need your heart to hurt a little bit so it would heal. Just keep yourself busy. If it's meant to be then it will happen. There's plenty other relationship experience's that you will go through and not all of them will work even though your certain they're the one. And yes, I'm telling you this from personal experience. Good luck...
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Feelings are hard to understand.  My best advice is to give him time.  Give him space and do not call.  If you have changed, this is your time to prove it and lay off for a little while, if there is hope for the relationship, it will shine through.  However, be mentally and emotionally prepared for him to not come back.  In the end, this is not the last guy you will ever date, you're life might have just begun.
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Okay first of all since the break up nothing has changed so I'm assuming that you all are still intimate with one another and you're still arguing like lovers do.  The only thing that's bothering you right now is that you don't have that "TITLE" anymore as lovers which means that he can do what he wants and so can you.  So basically this dude is getting his cake and eating it too served on a silver platter with a platinum fork.  Do not allow him to question your where abouts every time especially if he's doing it in a "boyfriend" way.  I mean at this point he's looking at the situation and saying to himself " Why get back together when breaking up with her is just the same plus I get to mess around and not be faulted for it" Does it makes sense to you now!!! Lay down some rules and set boundaries within your relationship as friends and I guarantee you he'll miss that feeling as being your boyfriend and coming running back, it never fells.
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you called him and didnt leave a message,now that is not good. leave a message. then he really wont have no excuse. if he dont get back to you, forget him. i know its hard when you like someone, but i know you would be saying the same thing to me if i had your prob. leave a message saying how great the other nite was and how you are looking forward to his cal. gud luck. x
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Your X-friend is just that. She is not your friend. Stop playing her game with her and move on. You can rest assured that someday she will be sorry she lost a real friend and she will know why.
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I think it is too soon for you both to be in contact with eachother as you say it's too painful right now.  The best thing to do for the moment, until you get your own head sorted is cut all ties.  I know it might be hard but you need to straighten your own head and heart out first and be strong enough before you can be friends with him.  You are not in the right frame of mind now, it is too soon since you broke up, and staying in contact might only cause more pain.  I broke up with my ex in June and we haven't been in touch since.  I know at the start it was very hard as I went from hearing from him everyday to nothing but, now I'm a lot stronger.  I'm happier now that it's over as we weren't right for eachother but if I stayed in contact with him I know I'd probably be still hurting and in the same situation right now.  Time is a great healer and WILL make you stronger.  Just give yourself some "you" time.  Hope it works out for you!
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Have you told him you want him back? Also, I think it would be a good idea if you told him you can't stop thinking about him. Make sure to say your sorry and that you were confused. Tell him that you will not hurt him if he gives you a second chance.\nGood Luck Girl!
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I agree with Miss Marie. You don't know what you want. And dont try to be committed while trying to figure it all out. Maybe your ex was just a lustful thing. Just make a list out and weigh the pros and cons of each...
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I'm sorry things aren't working well right now. I think the best thing to do is give him some space. Just let him figure out things in his mind before approaching him. Eventually, he'll probably approach you. If not, you can start contacting him again after a while of waiting. I think it'll be easier for him to sort out his thoughts and emotions if he has some alone time. It'll probably be easier to be friends after a break. If he's still in love, it might be really difficult for him to talk to you and your daughter right now. It might be painful. So if you give him time to just be alone, maybe it'll get better. Good luck!
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Remember, people are ALWAYS communicating with you, even if it is non-verbal.  Right now he's saying that the pain of confrontation and admitting his bad behavior is more painful than trying to repair your relationship.  You have offered to try to repair it through your attempts to contact him.  Now it's time to let it go.  Big talker, right?  I didn't say it was going to be easy, or pain-free, it just has to be done for your own sake.  And believe me, you don't want to feel like you don't give a damn, that would be denying your feelings, your trust in your relationship, and your broken heart.  I'm going to tell you to do something that is going to sound dorky, but I really want you to try it (what do you have to lose?)  Write him a letter.  Say everything you want to say about how you feel, how hurt you are, how angry you are, call him names.  End the letter by saying goodbye and saying how much you will miss the relationship you had.  You will never send this letter.  After you've written it, read it once, then rip it up and throw it away.  I promise you this will help.  You will still hurt, but please do this and you will feel better.  You need closure, and since he's not giving it to you, give it to yourself.  Let me know how it goes.
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Open Communication here is key. You have to be able to talk to your ex and feel comfortable about talking about everything or anything that is on your mind. \n\nIf your ex holds back in any way shape or form in conversation, then he has other intentions and is probably just using you for sex.
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I've been in love actually i'm still in love with my ex.  I write her everyday and we talk every day but she tells me that she can not be with me becuase she needs time to heal from when i broke her heart.  So i'm giving her time.  All the time she needs.  I know that in the end it will work out because we both love each other.  It sounds like you have it just as bad as i do so i say you don't let go and you keep talking to each other and anychance you get to go see her, do it.  Eventually there will be a path created for you two to be together.
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Girl I am so sorry and I completly understand what you are going through. I recently broke up with my FIANCE and it has been so hard not see or talking to him.  I am trying to focus more on improving myself like going to the gym and I am going to get some certifications in my job.  Basically I am tring to improve myself FOR MYSELF.  I suggest you do the same maybe join some clubs in your area to meet new people.  anyway, email me if you need someone to talk to.
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Dear girl,\nI am suspecting that you are quite young if you're still not backing up since your Ex told you to. I would recommend, please give it a time. I know how you feel inside. I've been there, and it felt horrible at the time. But, trust me! After a while, maybe 3 weeks, maybe 3 months, but you'll feel much better. You will get over him! And you'll wonder why you were suffering as you are right now! The possible reason for your Ex acting this way is maybe that he have found his true love. And now he doesn't want to ruin it. Probably, his new girlfriend doesn't want you guys hanging out. So, please have some dignity and let him go. Don't be surprised though, if you get a call in few years from your Ex. So, I hope that you understand what I'm trying to say. Good luck!
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Dear Katie,\nFirst thing... you have to ask yourself... do u want him back? If yes, are you sure he won't do it again... well u said u haven't made out with him but did get into some kinda relationship... He could be only looking for his 'unfinished work'... i know that's sick but it could be true. Just ask yourself... you'll have the answer.\n\nMy advice---> Do wat love makes you do!!! Its always right!!!
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Hi i was seeing this guy for 2 years, and as soon as we broke up i was so devastated and went into a state of depression, i ended up meeting up with some old friends of mine for some one nighters and it was the best thing i had ever done to boost my ego, then i started seeing this other guy about 2 months after and we were together for about 6 months and we now remain friends, he new what it was all about and thought it was a great relationship we had. I think you need to get your mind off the EX and have a little fun, it really helps.\n\n**Oh and the 2 year guy, he is one of my best friends and he has been trying to get me back since we broke up, he jokes that i am the only one he will really love, i can see myself marrying him, but not until i am ready to settle down. He's out doing the same thing, i love what we have**