What do you do when you love someone more than they love you?\nI know that my boyfriend loves me, but I feel like I love him more. I'm so in love, more than I have even been in my life. I normally don't give anyone the time of day, let alone love them. Cupid shot me with more emotions than I can handle. How can I relax more and take things one day at a time. What can I do to gain more control over my emotions?
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I had that problem with my ex boyfriend. I love him more than he love me and he end up using me. I am not saying that your boyfriend is using you I just want you to be careful and don't put more in the relationship than him. When a boy see that you love him and know that you are willing to do whatever for him. They got you where they want you and then they will tend to use you. I promise you this being use by someone you love so much hurts like hell. I been there. Just slow down and don't call him as much as u was and let him do the calling. \n\nI wish you the best of Luck with your relationship!\nMs.T~baby:)
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Keep things in perspective. \nWe tend to think that the first important love we know is the best one, and that we will never get over it. The fact is, it's absolutely not the better one. With every relationship, we learn better what we want and need, and whether the people we are with are being really respectful, loving or loyal. You now face a little bit of a stressing time, as you have just lost the man you have been with. \nTry to look ahead: many better things await you. Hold your head up and check out the views. You will find a lot of exciting experiences await you.
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Your boyfriends loves you very much.\n\nIf he didn't he wouldn't put up with the way you behave, especially not at the age of 20. There are millions of young girls out there that he could have but he chose YOU. He loves YOU and he only wants to be with YOU.\n\nHe can't show you that every minute of every day because that simply isn't normal. You would probably get fed up with it if he did, you would feel smothered.\n\nYou need to sit and imagine what life would be like without him. How much you would miss him and how much you don't want that. You have to appreciate him and concentrate on the good points of your relationship.\n\nWhen you feel the rage start building, count to ten or walk away. He is much more likely to come after you than if you scream, cry and act crazy. When you do that you are actually making yourself unattractive to him and let's face it, if someone was screaming in your face and acting crazy, you would want to get away from them wouldn't you?\n\nYou are definitely NOT crazy, don't worry. You are very young and your feelings for this boy are obviously very strong. Love can make us do crazy things! Just calm down, take your time and let him have some space sometimes.\n\nYou should also have time away from him to spend with your own friends. If you never leave his side to go do something different how are you ever going to have anything to talk about? You could be telling him funny stories about things you did with your friends and making him laugh and love you even more. It will make you more interesting - it's very easy at your ages to get bored with a relationship. You have to keep it going but make it fun. \n\nHowever, hurting yourself is serious stuff and is usually the product of low self-esteem. Don't be afraid of the doctor - he/she can actually help you. They certainly wouldn't think you are crazy or lock you away. There are thousands of young people with similar issues. One day you will look back and think 'I can't believe that was me'. Unfortunately, it's all part of growing up.\n\nYou have taken the first very big and VERY important step. You are talking about it. Don't be afraid to talk about it. Your feelings are what makes you the person you are, never be afraid to express them (calmly). Please talk to your doctor - you will be surprised how kind and helpful they will be.\n\nTake care x
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Please do not listen to these other people. Although they mean well, I know personally that there can be real, true, lasting love (not LUST or INFATUATION! Boy am I sick of those dumb words! People just use them to sound grownup and wierd and fancy shmancy! {not to "dis" you other folks, but that's what it seems like to me :)} ) at first meeting- and yes, even at first sight. As to what it feels like... everyone is totally different. If you think you are in love, and you love someone very much, more than any one else, than you ARE in love- for the time being. You may, who knows, some day, find someone else who you will be able to love even more. Not because you didn't love the first one- you did, as much as you could at the time. But each new person you fall in love with you seem to be able to love more. Who can say whether we are all in love a dozen times in our life, or if we only "really" love one of those people, or if we never "truly" loved any of them? Love is different for every person, at every different time. Sometimes it makes you sad, sometime it makes you happy, sometime insecure, sometimes confident. No one knows. But if you think you're in love, then tell yourself you are and go with your emotions, whether you become mournfully melancholy or exuberantly happy. There is nothing sweeter than feeling something deeply and telling yourself you're in love, whether it's for an hour or a lifetime- or eternity.
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There is really no way to just cope if you love the person and don't feel like they are giving you the attention, love and affection you need. I have found that things are alot easier when I stay busy and try to keep my mind off certain things that remind me of the negative things. I try many things to keep myself busy from going to eat or have a beer after work to playing online games or just doing some school work. If you have children together it makes things harder because you want to kinda put on a show and spend time with the kids togeather. If you don't have kids I would suggest finding some friends separate from your spouse. Spend some time with them or just plain talking to someone about it helps so much.
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Just that you thought of it probably means you try and do that already, wouldn't it be great if we all felt that way?\n\nApologize even if you are right.\nAsk for their help even when you do not need it, then thank them.\nSmile the whole day and maybe even hum or whistle a lttle now and then.\nWink at them just like your avatar.\nIf it is someone you love:\nNice Things To Do To Say "I Love You" \nhttp://www.worldkids.net/love/nicethings.html\nOnly say nice things about others, even if they are jerks.\nhttp://www.ehappylife.com/custom/lessons_64.html
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You can never quantify love.  Realistically, sometimes one person loves the other more and other less but it does not necessarily mean that the relationship is not going to work.\n\nFor example, you might love your bf more (if that's the way you feel), it doesn't mean to say that he doesn't love you.  He may love you and want to marry you...it's just that you are more affectionate/expressive. or your love for him is really really great. \n\nWhat if he doesn't love you as much as you love him? It doesn't mean to say that he doesn't love you enough to marry you. You get what I mean?\n\nLove is love. Why measure it? If you both love each other and would be willing to spend the rest of your days together, it doesn't really matter who love whom more or less.
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I think most people are more concerned about the people they(truly) love than with their self when something like this happens.  You are probably very normal in what you feel.  If you didn't love him you wouldn't be so tired or anguished by this. Keep plugging along as best you can. As said before keep your own health (physical & emotional) or you'll be of little help to him.  Seek counseling if you need it, I feel you might.  Chesk my bipolar site for links to some very good medical resources.\nhttp://www.geocities.com/tls3123283/index\nThere are some good links to find support for you within them. Goodluck and God Bless
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I am also going through a break up right now. My BF of 4.5 years broke up with me 3 weeks ago. I was happy with him and he was happy with me, but he didn't know what he wanted out of life, blah, blah, blah. He still loves me and I still love him, so I have hope that we will get back together, but I'm not holding my breath.\n\nI too went through the depressed stage. I found that writing in a journal about how I felt helped alot. It let me get my feelings out without being overly emotional in front of other people. \n\nI am now in the angry stage, where I'm just so mad at him for doing this to me. \n\nI've heard that grief has many stages. My advice to you is to not make contact with him. If he calls don't answer and maybe wait a couple of hours to call him back. Make him think that you don't care.\n\nI wish you the best of luck.\n\n(((((HUGS)))))
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You are what you are and if he truly loves you, he will definitely respect your feelings. Dont do anything that you feel uncomfortable with now... make things clear now- its better than repenting later. Understanding, mutual respect and honesty are the very basics of any relationship. If he cant compromise and make adjustments now, it doesnt bode well for the future too, does it? So speak out whats in your mind- let him know how you feel. Explain to him that you come from a conservative background and that you dont feel comfortable with the relationship getting physical so soon. DONT DO ANYTHING THAT U FEEL IS NOT RIGHT!
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Are you secure with yourself as a person?  Are you honest to yourself (and him) about your feelings for him?  I am not judging you in anyway at all... I can just understand where you are coming from.  If you really love this man, don't try to change him or try to get him to do things that he would not normally do (emotionally).  To love someone unconditionally for who they are is the greatest thing of all and with that comes compromise and not trying to change who that person is on the inside.  I wish you luck with your relationship!!!!
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i don't know what to tell you...this is a touchy situation...i understand the situation you are in because i have experienced similiar things....it's hard when you love someone and they act like that...you know deep down in your heart that sometimes it's best to go on with your life without this person and never look back....but it's so much easier to say then do.. you have to just take one day at a time and look at things and ask yourself...Is this what I want to go through for the rest of my life?  Weigh your options...look at the advantages of your relationship with him compared to the disadvantages of it...this is something nobody can tell you what to do...you have to not only follow your heart on this one but you have to consider what your mind says too...
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have you stopped to think that maybe u're suffocating the poor guy? I felt so claustrophobic just by reading about ur issue! Before u can 'love' someone u have to start by loving urself because it seems like without this guy u feel as if u're worthless. Love is not clingy. Love is not insecure. Happiness is not dependable on men alone. If this guy was able to 'love' u at one point...what makes u think the next best thing isn't? Take care girl!
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Hi Dear,\nWhat i may say may not be a perfect opinion but to some extent it may do u good.. First of all i would like to clarify one point-- you are not Obsessed or infatuated but you are Deeply in Love with this Guy.\n\nI don't know how old u are.. but by ur talks i can figure out that you know the difference between Love and Infatuation. Getting into arguments in a Bf/ Gf relationship is very common, but when u get into it u should be smart enough to tackle it and come out of it without being separated. And that's where ur MINUS point begins. U have said that you still communicated through text message, about missing each other and how things changed. "TEXT MESSAGE" cannot be related to "HUMAN FEELINGS" There is a vast difference in taking the pain and writing and Posting a Love letter than just emailing or scanning a love letter.\n\nI suggest you call him and meet him person to person and express ur beautiful feelings towards him. It does not matter even if you cry in front of ur intimate partner, because u will know and find a deep inner peace in your heart. A feeling that will later make you feel better. If he still loves you i am sure he will understand and appreciate your feelings....\nBest of luck!!!!
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I understand what you are feeling. I am very much like that myself. I think it happens because I take everything and everyone overly serious and i take everything to heart. I have learned that a good way to cope with sudden mood changes is to write your throughts/emotions down. I used a journal like an emotional logbook....what was the situation, what emotions did it cause and how severe where the emotions and how did i react? How did others react to my reaction? Things like that can make you discover a deeper reason for your moodswings which can help you learn how to control them better. Of course, counceling can help tremendously. It sounds like you let your environment control your emotions.....maybe that can be helped through journaling and counceling. Try it out, and see if you can figure out what causes you to change moods so quickly.....you might need to take a more objective approach to yourself.
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Ahh. Love. \nIts when you love so much it hurts. \nWhen you hear their voice for the first time in days and burst into tears. Its when you worry about him for every little thing. When he's slightly emotionally hurt, you cry with him. When you feel like you can fly and soar no matter where you are. When you would do anything for them, such as heal them, or stay up all night until they feel better. You can imagine all eternity with him, no matter what he does. And if you're not loved back, you feel like you're nothing. How every single word of theirs echoes in your bed room. How they have invaded your brain and thoughts and dreams. And if they die right now, you feel you might as die as well. Even 1000 miles cannot seperate you two. And you miss them every second you're apart. and how you'd never forgive yourself for hurting them, ever.  But most of all, you glow of the happiness when you're together. \nThey seem to be your everything.....\nso thats how it feels. \nxoxoJenny
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Just because you handled the 2nd loss more easily doesn't mean you loved them less. It's because you knew what to expect. There are always ups and downs with love. If it were all an even road it would become boring. And when you find the right love, where you both work at making the relationship work, the love will grow stronger. Don't give up hope.