my bf seems to think he should be the loudest player in our rock band, but i said he should be underneath everyone else
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All instruments in a band should be roughly the same level of loudness. If your bf is playing loud, you need to crank it up a bit. Drums are a loud instrument, that just the way it is.
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If your like my ex my friends are more fun to be around ,they don't want to know when I'm coming home,where I've been, who I've been with etc..etc.. quit riding him like a mule , maybe you should give him sex more then once a month so he doesn't have to beg you for it, and then he might want to hang with you more ,unless he's gay and screwing his friends
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Im in a band callecd "the why not" and we play punk/soul... some people say we sound like a mix between Blink 182 and Yellowcard...\nWe have a kick a$$ drummer!!! he freakin rocks and our bassist can play ANYTHING!!! he's almost as good as the guy from the red hot chili peppers!! then theres the lead guitarist who's pretty good and the two cackup guitarist's (me)\nim the lead singer...
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It's either one or the other- either they aren't aware of how much the noise carries, or they're doing it on purpose.\n\nIf they aren't aware, the best solution is an anonymous note, so they aren't embarrassed.  Short & simple- "perhaps you aren't aware of how well sound carries here- I don't really know you well enough to be this involved in your love life, do you mind keeping it down?"\n\nIf they ARE aware, then the note won't make a difference.  Time then to break out the broom, and bang louder than they do.  Off-rhythm, of course!
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Man, he sounds like a real child.  You on the other hand sound like a real grown up.  You should be proud of yourself!
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That sounds like a pretty good answer to me. My suggestion to you is not to let him think that you don't know what head games he is playing with you, that will just make his head even bigger than what it already is. You are smart and let it be known!!
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I know exactly how you feel. My bf thinks I'm looking, I'm not. I just find the people watching is relaxing, that's all! I told my bf that he should know that if I wanted another boy, I'd be gone, but I'm with him and I really enjoy his company. I don't know how to make your gf realize that this is a pastime you like to do, but all I can say is reassurance is always the key. So Watch On!
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My girlfriend and I were having similar arguments.  She thought that I chose parties over her.  We were dating for 5 years and took a break for a couple months and recently got back together.  It is easy for your friend to be influenced by his friends, and his friends (especially if they are single) would like nothing more than for him to break up with you so they could have their "buddy" back.  Your boyfriend needs to stand up for you in front of your friends, or else they are going to walk all over you in front of you and behind your back.  You need to talk to your boyfriend and see if he is willing to stand up for you.  If he is then definitely give him another chance.  If he doesn't want to hear it from you then you should probably look elsewhere.  Knowing he will stand up for you will make your relationship stronger, but if you think he is too easily influenced by friends you are in dangerous territory.  The best of luck to you.  \n\nKen Holmgren
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I'd have to say he's being protective in this case. If everyone happened to be really drunk as you said and you and your BF were not. He was doing the only thing he knew how to prevent a situation from escalating into something potentially dangerous to you. Just give him a hug and a kiss and tell him thank you for looking out for you. I could only say he was over reacting if Sam were sober and joking around with you and your BF heard the conversation and went off even after knowing Sam was just jesting then it would be over reaction on the BF's part.
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alright, true story. watch the movie pcu, the part at the end where the tour bus stops to pick up gutter, the driver of the bus with pfunk is named louie. i know this dude. he is george's good friend, plays in the band. (the only white guy) but he is usually wearing a costume hiding his white skin. anyways, we were talking last month about george. he plays alot of instruments, he only ever recorded piano parts on parliment/funkadelic records but doesn't play anything live. it prevents him from dancing around and he says everyone in the band can play everything better than me so why should i do it.
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so u r saying that u r not wanting to play second, if this bothers u so much and he only fits u in when HE can then dump the a-hole.
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ask him "what is brooke's favorite band?" and then let me know what he says. we'll see if he really is magic. :)
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First of all you might be able to talk to the noisy offender or your gf's mom or have your gf talk to the bf. Perhaps he doesn't realize he's that loud. If that doesn't work do what I do: Go to WalMart or any drugstore and buy a $2 bag of earplugs. They really work well. I had 2 back surgeries a few months ago and am unable to get to sleep early, therefore I cant get up early. I will be on bedrest for about 9 more months. My husband takes our kids to school in the morning since I am unable to drive now. Anyway, my kids (5 of them) make SOOOOOOOOOO much noise in the morning!! After using the earplugs I don't hear them either at all or I hear them only slightly and am still able to go back to sleep. If the light bothers you try buying a "sleep mask". I believe you can buy those at a drugstore too. I know you're a guy but there's no reason to think they would make you look weird. I've seen guys wear them on airplanes and it really wouldn't matter in your case because you're not on a plane, bus or train. Good luck, I really feel for you!!
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Yes, DO call the police -- and let them deal with the noise complaint -- and the bass IS a problem -- I notice it too (it irritates me a LOT).  Keep calling every time it is turned up.  Sooner or later, they will ticket him and he will have to go in front of a judge and EXPLAIN why he can't stop "Disturbing the Peace".
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The guy doesn't respect you as a player, probably because you're female and that would make him a male chauvinist pig. Another reason might be that he thinks he's the only good player on this team and will hog the ball to shoe how "great" he is. In either case, you should speak to the coach about him. He will probably be a smuck even after the coach speaks to him, so good luck. If it continues and the coach doesn't remedy this you may have to approach the local district sports board.
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Honey, at the risk of sounding mean, you have to get a life! You both do! If you tell him that you need some space, he will think he did something wrong.You should probably back off slowly and encourage him to hang out with his friends or do other things, while you do your own thing . Good luck!
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Hes alright , better than sum crap bands on bebo. Why is he referring to himself as a 3rd person on his bebo tho ? lol.