i love this girl that i went out with for a year bfore she kissed another guy and we broke up, but i cant stop thinkin about her and i still love her and she says she still loves me, but she says she wants to wait awhile so she can focus on school work and not guys, it hurts so bad to see her around and know she is not mine. we are currently just waiting for her to do better in school but i am not sure if she is true, what should i do?
128037
Forget about her!!! I've had the same situation with this guy, until I finally said to myself, Hey! What am I doing here? He doesn't deserve me and I'm not going to wait forever! I shoudn't be running after him he should be running after me! And if he's gonna want me back, it's too late for that! And guess what? He wantd me back. And I didn't. That's what you should do. Have some dignity MAN!
56151
It sounds like you missed your chance.  If she is with someone else, just leave her alone.  If you still like her and she's no longer dating another guy, then talk to her.
150474
you can do nuthing if a girl has given her heart to someone else but wait for her to change her decision on her own. in teh mean time what you could do is to be nice to her, be a good friend and in your own way take care of her not infringing upon her space or privacy. be true to her, and for god's sake dont build up things to break her away from teh guy she loves or matter may get worse. be a good person that i believe you are, and all shall be good. even then if she does'nt turn around to you, trust me, someone far better than her is awaiting you in her life.\n\nP.S. just look around yourself and see to it that you are not treating someone as you are being treated by this girl?
550123
Quick Fix/ Do you love her? YES.   Have you been hurt in the past? YES.  Who cares my friend. You are franklly just scared.  Moments of intimacy cover it up sometimes and that is why you feel happy.  Let go of this fear. This girl you have in front of you is going to make you very happy.  Let go of your past, and live.  Otherwise, the next question you are going to be asking us is" How do I get her back?"
164097
there was probably a good reason why she is now an ex, go for the new girl. you don't know if the new girl will be a better choice unless you try, besides, she already has a man so why should you wait? did she wait for you?
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She's still not over you. Even through she's dating another guy, you're still on  her mind. Its just not easy or quick for girls to move on. \nIf you don't have any feelings for her, then discourage her from contacting you.
280879
Find yourself another girl for that month and your current girlfriend she just wants some time to have sex with this guy that's if she haven't already.  Don't let her play with your emotions if she needs time let her go for good.  If she really loved you she wouldn't be asking for time because another guy.  Come on shes obviously a whore.  Don't buy her any gifts and for that whole month don't call her shes gonna realize she lost a great guy that B.I.C.T.H!!!!!!!!!!
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I guess it's something that ppl hav 2 deal wif..u might probably feel alone,confused..And all you think about is to try to move on but the real thing is, you can't..I went through the same problem too.Fact, I'm actually still stuck!It's hurtful and so confusing realli.It suxs to rejected...Most ppl would say move on...she's not worth it..and realli, she's not. U can't wait for her to accept u..the longer u wait, the deeper u'll go. I mean, she might not feel the same way about u like the way u feel about her. And that's not love. U didn't do anything wrong, it's realli something u hav to accept in life so, at least, try to keep ur mind of her and u may actually realise that there's someone out there which is so much better and will love u like the way u love her...i realli hope this helps..
665907
The best way to get over the break up is to get her out of your life.  The sooner you can do this then the sooner you can move on.  The last thing you want to be hearing about is her tales of 'making out' with other guys.  This just rubs salt in the wounds.  I'm not saying that she wasn't justified in doing this, because you both apparently agreed to do you own thing, but why she would want to tell you I don't know!  Anyway, until you get her completely out of your life then you will never get her out of your head.  So if it definitely looks like she is moving on then you should try to do the same, and as fast as possible.  Out of sight is out of mind as they say.  It will be difficult, but it will be the quickest way to you getting over her.  All the best...
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:) hmm, a tough question, this one. I can't really say that she is supposed to leave her boyfriend because of you, or, that it is wrong for her to do so when she does love you and have no more feelings for her boyfriend.\n\nHowever, you have only known her for a little while. Don't you think you might just be expecting overly by speculating that she might consider ending her current relationship with her boyfriend?\n\nI only suggested that you should tell her how you felt about her as I know she will respect your determination/courage to let her know. Frankly, I didn't expect that your feeling towards her was strong enough to the point of contemplating whether or not she wants to be with you in the end.\n\nI don't really approve of this but who am I to judge since this is between you and her. No one can guarantee the outcome of both of your future. There's also a possibility after the both of you declare as couples, once you are apart, this sort of thing might happen again and she would leave you for another guy. First of all, imagine you're in the boyfriend's shoe; how would you feel if your girl left you for a guy whom she'd met only few months back?\n\nOn the other hand, it is her choice really, if she does sincerely loves you and her feelings towards her boyfriend is a thing of the past. I believe she is matured enough to think for her own good.\n\nBy the way, don't pressure her to choose between her boyfriend and you. It won't seem fair to anyone.\n\nI hope it helps.
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It sounds like you really care about her.  However, she's going to do whatever she wants to do no matter what anyone says to her.  All that will happen is she will distance herself even more.  As I'm sure you realize, that's not a healthy thing to do.  Especially being so young and experiencing lots of 'firsts'.\n\nI would think that the best thing to do is just remind her that you're still around.  Even just saying 'Hey' in the hallway between classes can make all the difference in the world.  When the inevitable (that you believe will happen) happens, chances are, she'll remember that you were at least willing to give her the time of day when she was with this guy when everyone else gave up on her.  Empathize with her (I'm sure you've probably had your share of heartbreaks too), let her know that it's not the end of the world.\n\nI know that this is all easier said than done.  True friendships are built on solid ground.  In this instance, patience really is a virtue.  I'm not saying to spend all of your time waiting around for her to call you, by all means, continue living your life and going to school.  But like I said, just remind her that YOU are still willing to be her friend when she's ready.\n\nGood luck and I hope this helps!!!
133144
Okay I am a bisexual male so it may be a little different for me but here is my advice anyways. (Also I have been in a similiar situation and I have a little insight.)\nThe FIRST thing you need to do is decide how important this girl is to you and are you willing to tolerate her going back and forth on you. IF YOU ARE NOT--then take my advice and break all ties with her. It may hurt at first but if you keep dealing with her you are just reopening a wound over and over and it will never heal. Trust me in this...been there and I wish someone would have told me that. Could have saved myself a whole lot of pain and a broken heart if they would have.
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Ok this is from personal experience I had with a girl. The thing I'm gonna put my money on is that he's trying to make you jelous because he believes he's run outta options. I hate to be blunt but if your considered a really attractive girl in your school it doesn't matter how goodlooking he is but he may be scared of you, espically of approaching you directly. You also have to think of the way you treated him, you cheated on him, and also you pushed him away when he wanted to talk to him...well now its time to put youself to the test.\nI'm not sure of your age so i'm not sure if you can drive or not, but since your able to still monitor him IE knowing how he acts arond other girls I'm 100% sure he knows this information about his flirting and girl handeling is getting back to you. So you need to choose a night, time, and place and track him down randomly. Talk to him about it, I know the girl I went through with this I did the exact same thing and it would have ment the world to me if she had just tracked me down and come to me to talk about it. You've got to put yourself in his shoes and realize just how much you hurt him, its also possible he wants you to hurt some too since you seem to have been completly unaffected (from his point of view) from the break up. Once you've sat down for awhile and thought this over and you actually understand his pain and the hell you put him through (I know i'm being harsh but it'll help you in the long run) only then will you be ready to talk to him about it and salvage something.\n\nAnd if your not trying to salvage something or you know you'd never be able to handle a serious realtionship with him without cheating its best to just leave this be and go through the pain of losing someone.\n\nHowever from what you've told me about him and how i'm guessing how you feel I think its for the best that you two try and salvage a relationship. At the very least try and follow my advice about trying to put yourself in his shoes and feeling his pain, it'll give you a better perspective on things. \n\nGood luck to the both of you!\n\nFeel free to e-mail me if you need more help
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Nick, I'm not going to say "ditch" this "perfect" girl but I'm going to give you something to think about.\nWhat happens if you spend all your time on this girl when you never know that there's another more deserving girl looking from behind the scenes.  And, what happens if you waste all this time on her when suddenly you two go out and you find out that she's not so "perfect" at all?  Follow the advice of others, go into the dating game for once.  Probably this "busy" "senorita" will feel jealous and at the end will feel bad that she has been spending too much time on the books and all that most of the "great guys" will be taken?  \nMaybe, just maybe, you could wait.  You two are both young there's still time after high school to pursue love.  Right now, this girl is probably worried about her future and that's why you should wait for her.  You too should be busy with the "important" stuff because hey!  I'm sure all of us people who graduated from high school are probably thinking why didn't we do our homework instead of partying and stuff?
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you already know the right decision.  move on!!!  do you really want to give her another chance to hurt you?  sounds like this is a heartless girl anyways so why would you want to date her? don't be blinded by love cuz nobody deserves to be treated like she treated you.
481500
If you're serious, dont, no matter how much you loved this girl, she is definatly not worth your life,  There are plenty more girls out there, girls that you deserve and that deserve you.  Seriously, you'l find someone else, i thought i wouldnt but i did....\n\n\n\n\nIf your not serious, and this is a joke, well then you are just plain sick....
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It's obvious you've missed out cos you never said anything to this girl when you had the chance.Painful as it is, you will have to let go cos this girl is seeing your mate.Love does take time to heal but if you give yourself chance, you will be able to love again...just don't let your love for this girl blind you so much that when someone else comes along you fail to see them...keep an open mind