My hubby and I are on rocky road heading to divorce.  We are both early 20s.
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IT A DIFFERENT BETWEEN FLIRTING OR LUSTING BEHIND SOMEONE.SORT YOUR FEELING ON PAPER WRITE DOWN THE GOOD THING AND THE BAD THING I BET YOU THE GOOD OUT WEIGH THE BAD
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It is a disaster wating to happen. Also a divorce in the making.
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That is very hard!!!!  I'm sorry to hear about your rocky marriage.  Relationships are hard and it is extremely hard to let go of a fantasy, I went through that recently.  Sometimes you just need to let go in order to move on with your life.  Good luck!!!!!
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One (or both) of them may be leaving the door open for a future reconciliation. The person doing this may not even know that this is the case. When I left my first husband, he said he wasn't going to file since I left him, I was the one with the problem, and there were financial issues as well. This went on for several years. At one stage, I did go back to him, and he dumped his girlfriend like garbage. I am not proud of this, she was a nice girl, but I think I did her a favor since he went on to drugs & crime. After going back & finding out for sure he was wrong for me, I did file for divorce.\n\nThis is NOT to say that this is the case with you. But it could be possible. Maybe she thinks in the back of her mind that he will come back. Financial complications are easily resolved by lawyers, ask him to see one. A married man is a married man, whether he lives with her or not. Neither the law nor time is on your side. Good luck.
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Don't divorce over a moment of unhappiness. Try to make it work if you can because divorce is one of the most painful experiences ever. It can ruin friendships and families. Your children will definitly be affected and so will you even though you think you don't love him. Stay committed to  the vow you made and learn how to be happy where you are. Many people because of unhappiness chooses divorce as an option and it should never be an option. Be an adult and communicate how you feel to your husband and see a marriage counselor. Please don't be like everyone else and take the easy way out. If he is not abusing you or mistreating you, be happy. He may be the best thing for your. I've been divorced for 2 years and dating is hard. Sorry men, but these men out here are a trip. Trust me, the grass is not greener on the otherside. Don't you know many people would love to have what you have. That is why they date. My advice is to stay and make it work because it can.
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I have been married for 8 months, after being toghether for 4 years. The relationship went worst and worst from the 4-th day of marriage, and now we are waiting for the year to pass, so we could divorce... 0.001% satisfaction... :(
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I'm sorry you parents are getting a divorce! My parents divorced when I was 19 it's a very difficult thing espally when your older because your whole life they were together and now their not gonna be! Its gonna be a difficult time for you but like for me my life sucked for a couple years my life was so off balance I couldn't work or anything I didn't even have a place to stay! But I'm a truebeliver that everything happens for a reason like this! Its gonna be tough but stand by both your parents strong and focus on you I know how hard that seems right now but seriously ! They are starting their lives over by getting divorce and moving on with life without another! So you need to move on focus on you & your future ! Be strong it will  take time to get your life back but you will!
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I have been married for just over 9 years, together for 11 and have 4 children. We faced similar trials recently, we lost our house almost the car and were behind on a lot of bills. Divorce was never an issue, it will not solve any of those problems and if you agree on everything than you agree on that also. Sometimes you just have to lose everything to see what is really important... your family and their well being. You can always rent, get extent ions on the bills if you ask for help. It has been just about 2 years since everything seemed to go wrong for us, financially, but we are stronger and more aware of our money, emotions and the important stuff that always seemed to get lost before. It does get better. Keep your head up and stick it out.
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It does for us too - I run a law firm.\n\nBut come January we'll be full throttle because of all the couples who got fed up spending time with each other over the Christmas period and start divorce proceedings.\n\nThen around March it's the peak season for buying a new house.  This is followed in about June by all the divorced couples arguing about who looks after the kids during the Summer holidays.\n\nAround October time we get a peak in old folks writing their Wills (guess because they're worried they won't survive the Winter, which is pretty sad, really).\n\nThen around November we get the divorced couples arguing over who gets the kids at Christmas.\n\n\nAll you can do is tighten your belt during the lean times and keep expenses down. Have you tried selling speciality seasonal items to boost sales?
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Yep it is hard to get back out there after being with the same person for a long time.I Have been divorced for over 3 years separated for over 6.If you just got a divorce you probably should not jump right into a relationship.But is hard to be alone so find yourself some old friends and hang out.If you are interested in a certain type of activity hang out there and find people with same interests.I myself cannot wait for the racing season to start at the dirt tracks....And am looking forward to going to hang out and drive the go carts in cottage grove.So hang where you are interested like baseball game... and find someone female that is interested in same things and build from there.I am also from Minnesota. Good luck.
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That's quite an age difference. My only concern is that she becomes bored with the housewife routine, as all women get from time to time. she starts looking elsewhere for the fastlane she gave up to be a homebody.\n\nI would proceed cautiously. Divorce can be very messy especially with kids, and you know it will not all be bliss. I suggest you date and keep your options open...after all, your only 23...
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It can happen. I married my husband right out of high school. We were married 23 years and started having problems. We divorced...... 2 years later, and we are back together. We just don't work apart. The 2 years that we were apart was hell on both of us. We've now worked through our differences and plan on growing old together. :)
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just one word of advice! You sound young, i got married at 19, and am about to get divorced (i'm 20) we rushed into things wayyyyy too fast. We barely knew each other well enough to move in together and be married. Take things slow! Stay engaged awhile!
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you sound just like me. i'm trying to work things out but i know the end result will be me leaving. i just want to be able to say that i gave it my all and totally mean it. sometimes we just outgrow them. have you ever tried to start some sort of hobbie with each other or do a date night? maybe that will get something going for you. i tried that. my husband didnt even care to go through with any of it. he just agreed to it and never did it. i'm writing a book on my horrible marriage. as soon as i get enough crap for my book i'm out. its not worth it to stay.
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I am married and I got married when I was 22 and my husband was 20. My advice to you would be this, pray and seek the Lord if you believe in Jesus Christ. Also, I would say that, anything worth fighting for is worth having so if you really love this man and know that y'all are meant to be together, then it is worth fighting. Another thing is don't let people bring you garbage about your relationship, or your boyfriend, and something I had to learn is that misery loves company. I hope this advice helps you out to some degree.
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It won't matter when you seek a divorce, he is going to be hurt. Just go ahead and proceed with the divorce. If you two have been in separate rooms for months, the only logical next step is to separate for good. \n\nIt sad that his mother is dying, but that has nothing to do with your relationship. Especially if this has been going on before she found out she was dying.  \n\nMake the step and go on with your lives. he may be hurt and he may feel like you are leaving him, but if you stay will you really be a positive support system for him?
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Separation isn't really the end. It doesn't mean a divorce is headed your way. Separation is actually what saved my marriage. The time away from each other is what we needed, and made us realize that we didn't want the divorce. We're happier now than we were before. Separation is a time to see if a divorce would be right for you. If it isn't, talk it out with your husband, see where he stands on it all, and take it from there. One thing married couples need to understand is that no all marriages are perfect, you'll have your ups and downs but when it comes down to it, you still love each other. My husband and I have the most dysfunctional marriage I've ever seen, but it just works for us, and we really are happy.