I have been sick for 15 yrs barely going out of my house.I suffer from extreme anxiety and depression as well .has anyone had these problems and dealt with them well and now has a reasonably satisfying life.if so how did u do it.i need an answer bad thanks Pat:D
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u have to learn to relax..try first by talking to your family ,then relatives,then try to have a walk at the park..dropping a smile from time to time wont cost u an arm or leg..you wouldnt know when  afriendship will bloom..but if u are somehow afraid to go out..\nwhy not try to have strol around the neighbourhood with loved ones or someone who is intimite to you or someone u feel comfortable with....\n\nlet s start step by step...first relax yourself,then hang aound your family,then reltives and close friends,then go out n see the world!\n\nbut if u still cant let go of the anxiety somehow..its better u seek professional helps...such as psychiatrist..perhaps they have better suggestions\n\nbut i felt tht once you open your heart,i m sure people around you will accept your presence and there s nothing to be afraid of in getting to know ppl and making new friends..infact it is the best euphoric feeling you ll ever had by just hannging out with bunch of friends and sharing thoughts and jokes!so there you go!!No reasons for being nervous or anything at all,be yourself and stay comfortable and u wont sweat a bit!good luck!
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Hi Mike, I'm sorry to hear this is worrying you. Ironically, just last month, I spoke with someone who has this disorder. This guy is a business owner, and actually very nice. His entire family knows, and understand. \n\nAccording to him, the different personalities were created to deal with stressful situtions. One can be aggressive, another shy, or one extroverted and outgoing. Many people choose to integrate the personalities, rather than get rid of them. This means the personalities work as a team, and understand the purpose each one serves. Not to make light of what you're going through, but sometimes I wish I had a few stand in's. lol Some say it's not an illness or disease, just an advanced coping mechanism of the mind.  \n\nThe main personality is called a "host" and the others are "alternates". These are just a few terms used, but there are others.  To answer your question, if you're over 21, I would begin searching for a qualified therapist, and after you have been confirmed as having DID, I would then figure out ways to tell your family. You can also join one of the yahoo groups dedicated to DID. They might provide more insight and suggestions. Whatever you decide, I wish you well Mike. Here is a link to yahoo did groups. Cut and paste to your browser: http://tinyurl.com/l9bls
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You know you have a problem if it makes it hard to function in your day-to-day tasks.  Is is a problem or merely an inconvenience?  If it is a problem then seek professional help.\n\nThere are things you can do, though, to calm yourself down.  You can learn relaxation techniques like muscle relaxation or deep breathing.  You do this in your spare time and then use the skills when you're in stressful situations.  \n\nYou're afraid of something.  A professional can help you with this or you can work through it yourself.  If you're like me or most people, then you slowly work through this kind of thing.  The sickness feels serious but eventually you find that it isn't.  The more you are cool with it the easier it is to cope.  Hope that helps.
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i  suffer from almost same thing, even if not all the time but u can say that i have those terrible days when i wish i could end mylife. u can do nothing without seeing a GP and then have a transfer to a psychologist... it might work i don't know... but u can see the psychologist five times for free after the GP arranges some paper for u... hope she gets better
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i've battled bouts of depression for years.this weekend i figured out that i probably should live in a warm climate in the winter, because from the holidays until the weather starts getting warm i just hate everything.   it took years to figure this out.  but sit down and try and feel why you are so down.  if it's not because of what is going on in your life, it could be something chemically going on in your brain.  and there are meds to help that.  just tell your doctor .  i know my doc gave me a couple of books to read about life,etc. and a prescription.  i analyzed myself and i think i know what the problem is now.  next step is what can i do about it.?  as much as i'd like to i can't go to florida every winter.  but i can make it a goal for myself.  please talk to your doctor.  especially if something is going on in your life.  doctors don't judge you.  they are there to help you.
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Keep fighting! You can't give up, no matter how hard it is. You are loved, and there are people who would miss you, no matter how bad it looks. And truly, if you haven't already, do get help, because as humiliating or weak as it may sound, it is not. I got help and you will never know how good life is until you have lived without depression. If you had a disease, would you feel shame going to the doctor for it? Depression is a disease, and you don't have to fight it alone. Please, don't give up.
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I understand how you feel and I think it's great that you're open to medication management and psychotherapy to improve your mental health.  However, in the beginnning with all medication management plans, it's imperative that you get the right combinations of meds, dosage and be monitored regularly in the begining.\n\nTreating depression is much more complex then treating an infection, like a cold or flu.  You're going to need to be an active participant in giving the Dr. information on your moods, thoughts, side effects and overall state of well being. \n\nThe mood disorder that your diagnosed with, will ultimately determine the type of medication your prescribed.  Each medication comes with a theraputic schedule for dosage and some require close supervision, as improper dosage changes can have detremental results with nasty side effects.\n\nThe point is, in the beginning, you'll have to be held on a short leash and be monitored until your Dr. figures out how you will react to certain meds/dosages and ultimately what blend will provide the best results.  Once you are at a theraputic dose where your brain has soaked in enough of the drug and you experience positive results, you'll only have to see your psychiatrist for maintenance purposes, for as little as once a month.\n\nI understand the money issue, I've been through it myself.  However, if you were diagnosed with cancer and you had to choose a more expensive and effective treatment vs. no treatment, what would you do?  It doesn't matter how, but you would certainly find a way to pay for it.  Mental health is equally important to your psychical health and you should prioritize it as if you would a terminal illness.\n\nGranted, I've spent tons of cash on therapy and it stressed me out plenty.  Right now, I've come from what I felt was a bottomless hole of depression, to the point where I look forward to every day!  I would have spent triple the amount I payed if I had to.  You really can't put a price on your health.\n\nI hope this helps and good luck in getting better!
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I was on edge at all time and really didn't help w/depression. It made me shakey and like I was on a caffeine rush at all times.\nEveryone is different though.\nGood luck.
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Talking out my overwhelming life with a councelor helped the best.\nDepends on the type of depresion, but finding a different life pattern helped me. Recognizing what causes the depression and anxiety helped. \n If drugs aren't helping, seek advice from the doctor to see if counceling will help sort out the overwhelming situations that person is facing.\n Knowing why you feel what you feel and overcoming "it" is such a relief to feel better and to have a sound mind again. Being depressed and thinking you are going to go crazy does not mean you ARE crazy.  It can however make you sick physically, so be careful.  Depression stems from all kinds of reasons, findsearch for the reason, but do not give up on yourself. Best question I heard while going through counceling " How do you eat an elephant?" Answer "one plate at a time." The big things get less scary when you take it one thing at a time.\nDrugs may be neccessary to help with some of the symptoms, (ie. couldn't sleep, stomach pains, rapid heart palpitations, and fearful anxiety attacks)  but drugs weren't the cure for me.  Good Luck.
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Go see a therapist, your symptoms sound the same as the ones I was experiencing. The doc. put me on some antidepressants and an anti anxiety med. Believe me, it's worth it. Some people might say it will just go away if you do this or that, but if it's getting worse it could be an illness that needs intervention, there's no shame in getting help, so you can reach your true life potential.
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EVERY one has issues, and some people find different ways of coping.\n\n\nWhat is happening to you at the moment is your minds way of finding a way of coping with the thing that has caused your illness.\nBUT it is possible for you to make a full recovery, there are many routes for you to take, there's medication, counseling and all round support.\n\nTo get well you first have to have a good talk with your nurse, build up a level of trust with him/her and find the route cause of what is happening to you. Form there it will become clear to you what you need to do.\n\nNo-one on here can give you the answers, you have to find them for yourself.\n\nHope this helps, if you need and more help then contact me via yahoo answers, I have been where you are now.
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take positive action today, right now. Life is too short and precious. I am your age and have recently retrained after 2 horrible years of illness. I am now doing a job i love. It was tough to get here but well worth it. Be prepared for things to get a little worse before they get better. for example you may be quite low on cash for a while. \nFirst...what do you want to do? need inspiration? look through the job pages, or check out what courses are available. \nsecond...if you don't want to be in this country, where do you want to be? \nthird...how about giving yourself some thinking time and doing something positive and rewarding to fight off the depression? You're young enough to be eligible for loads of charitable organisations, for example BUNAC. They pay for your flights, you do some volunteer work in an interesting place. Might help to get you some perspective.\ngood luck xx
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well, i feel like mine will never stop. i was on meds for years, then i was taken off of them, and now i feel as crazy and depressed as ever. it's a chemical imbalance in the brain, and that might not always be fixable. emotional depression is fixable, and chemical can be, but sometimes it's not. just the draw of the hand i guess.
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I disagree, with the response there already.  Depression is caused by a chemical imbalance in the brain.  Not always the issues in your life (with some exceptions)   It is hereditary, which proves it is in your physiology!   My sister has depression, has gone through many hospitalizations.  She finally qualified for social security, she is disabled and unable to work.   That release of the stress of worrying about work and money has helped her tremendously. It was a cycle of stressing about money and getting sicker.  She is so much better now.  And can still work, because there are ways to work when you can and still qualify.   Medication is an issue even if you don't want to discuss it.   You will probably have to go through a lot of them before finding the one that works for you.   And not worrying about work helps you through that process.   AND you will be denied probably at least two times before being accepted.  It just works that way.   I am a family advocate for children with mental health needs so I do know my way around the mental health system.  Good luck!
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I am just getting over it, thank goodness. For me it went in stages almost, horrible cough first, followed by stomach, then extremely high fever and congestion, then exhaustion.\n\nI slept all day yesterday pretty much. I got up a few times.
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i think its true. to me, depression is causing it. i dont eat well, always sleepy, tired and no drive to do anything. im still dealing with it. one avise, get to the root of the problem, stay healthy.
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This is a great question.  I am thankful for my family, that I had a job, have a house, have food.  Even though I am suffering terribly lately with my anxiety disorder...I am still thankful to be alive and thankful to have just a support system to help me through it.