I met a guy and I think he's really great. He's funny and charming and has all the bells and whistles. I hate to admit this but I spent the night with him on our first date, I just felt really comfortable and easy with him. I have never felt that way before after meeting a man. I don't have myself believing that I love this guy, deep down I don't think I will in the future. Was I wrong to do this? I don't generally believe in one night stands, but this felt different. He actually called me the next morning (lol) Should I just wait and see what develops or should I just tell him that although I am physically attracted to him, the chemistry just isn't there? Any suggestions would be helpful!
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1) Wait until you are married before you have sex!  How stupid is it to have sex with someone the first time you meet them?!  Aren't you aware that there are diseases that can KILL you that are transmitted via sexual intercourse.  And don't say that condoms were used!  People still get HIV when condoms are used - condoms aren't failsafe!  Or you could get pregnant!\n\n2)  Why not get to know this guy a little better before you decide you are in love?\n\n3)  Have some dignity and respect for yourself.  Take time, get to know the guy, REALLY find out who he is - and not that he's just great in the sack.
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For starters maybe you can say...."hey I know we just met but I really like you"!!\nThink about it....neither one of you would have agreed to have another date if you didn't like each other....\nIt's little things you can do to let him know you are interested without coming off too strong...but make sure you feel natural when doing these things!!  Maybe like brush your hand against his...be sure to make eye contact  this always helps ...remember to be natural...you know be yourself!
463037
OK ,why are you worried? Even though some men like a challenge be careful not all of them like the chase make yourself available like the guy said .You seem to like this guy if your worried so just give it chance .
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that happened to me once i liked a guy(lets call him x) and i secretly told a friend of mine that i thought x was cute. four months down the line i get a text from x asking how i was and asked me to go out on a date. we met for that date had a really gud time and he told me that he liked me the first time he saw me. we kept intouch for another 2 weeks and after that i have never heard from him again.i felt really bad coz i never knew what  turned him off. at times i wonder how it would have been if he kept in touch. i am glad it happened like that because i would never have met my bf whom i love very much and he makes me happy.
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DONT be afraid to approach him on your own. Why do you think it would be strange? If some pretty girl came up to me, and just started chatting to me, do you know how good that would make me feel? I would feel great for like a week, and if it turned into something, I would be thanking God for her braveness in coming to me. I might never know otherwise, and thus would have missed out on something great...Without even knowing it. And that sucks. LOL Go say hi next time. Ask about the music. And NO. Do NOT go smashing into things like a klutz. BAD first impression. Even if he already knows you slightly. DONT bump, or trip, or any of that fake crap. Be REAL!
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This guy fights for your country and you can't even finish him off??\n\nno...  j/k..  yeah  I think you did the right thing.   \n\nBTW,  it's not wrong of you to bring him home for a one night stand,  you shouldn't feel bad about that...that happens ALL THE TIME.  \n\nSounds to me like he has NO experience with too many women.  If he's too arrogant to even try to get you all hot,  then it's not worth it any way...   \n\nI'm sorry you had a bad one night stand,    but it does happen.  it's done,  move on, and progress.  better luck next time.
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SNAP!!!!!!\n\ndid the same thing with a guy i met on her too. stayed up all hours just chatting about stuff and listing old songs! \n\nok, here's what i think. when you meet someone you just 'click' with, it is easy to get carried away with yourself and be consumed with it all. thats not to say that there is not anything serious there. all i am saying is reality is often different to fantasy.\n\nme and the guy i'm still chatting too met a couple of weeks ago. he is a great guy but i think we both felt that reality was a little different. we still chat and i am due to see him again shortly.\n\nwhat we decided was to take things slowly, get to know eachother better as friends as see what develops from that. it's the most sensible option i think.
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Like I tell everybody, I think that you should call whenever you get the feeling.  I hate how people make dating into a game.  There is no certain amount of time that you should wait.  Just because you waited a week doesn't mean that's the reason it didn't work out.  If the moment is right between two people and if they are feeling the vibe of each other, then it doesn't matter.
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Yes I was afraid and said no after our 2nd date and have  regretted it ever since as I missed out on a very good opportunity. You never get a second chance.\n\nTherefore if it is not right move on til it feels right.\n\nGood Luck
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ok... i dont know you or your man, so i can only tell you what i do know. i have been with my man. i met him online and we became friends. after 1 month of chatting, he left to South America for a month. when he got back , we met up and started our relationship that same day. after 2 weeks, i knew that i loved him. but i held it in, and didnt say anything. 3weeks... i thought that he felt the same and we were doing as you are- telling each other how we felt about each other and all that jazz... anyway, after the fourth week had past, i was lying in his arms morning after valentines day, and i was thinking how wonderful everything was and how much i love him.. and i couldnt not tell him any more. so i told him. and he just smiled. he said thank you and that he just needed a little time to decide how he feels, but that the fact that i told him that i love him wont scare him away. anyway... 3days later, i get home and he is in my bed (he lives an hour and a half away, so that was a big deal) and he had a single red rose. he told me that he loved me and that he doesnt want to lose me. Its been 10 months now and i have no intention f leaving this man. he feels the same. We told each other a month into the relationship and everything was fine. My point, after that rather long winded saga, is that, if you are meant for each other, then telling him, should be the least of your worries and you should be secure in your relationship enough to have the confidence to tell him. dont wait for him to tell you first. chances are that he is confused and trying to sort his head out too. men arent complicated creatures. just silly ones. lol. if you love him, tell him. everything will be fine hun. trust in yourself and your relationship. \nDont wait on men. lol. You're a woman. Be a strong one.\ngoodluck to you hun\nxxx
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For me, it was to see if we were compatible for a long term relationship.  So I'd go out with him to find out more about him.  If I go out on a first date with someone who I thought seemed nice (on the phone) and then I find myself "white knuckling" it through dinner because he just makes my skin crawl and I can't wait to go home, I won't go out with him again.  On the other hand, if we go out and we just hit it off and have a GREAT time and feel comfortable together, it's a good sign that I'd hope he calls and we go out more often.   Just go with the flow and see what happens.  If you go out with her and find out she wants 10 kids and would like to be a stay at home mom, but you want no kids and prefer a career woman then there's your answer.  She's not the one for you, but that doesn't mean the world is going to end.  Someone will come along that goes on a first date with you who you've been waiting for - and it will just flow perfectly.  You won't have to force it to work, but you CAN be friends (there's that "taboo" word... friends......)
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I'm soo old fashion when it comes to relationships. I def. think the guy should make the first move....I dont' feel as though I should be making most of the phone calls or asking him out! If a man is interested in me he would show it. \n(And yall MEN know this:)
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I'm having the same problem myself. The way I decided to solve my problem, was to be great friends, but casual daters. If you value your relationship (as friends and lovers) talk about it...over chinese food or pizza or something. Really talk about if you think the relationship will last more than a month and what would really change once you 'officially' started dating. would there really be a difference in how you act around each other other than physically (i.e. hand-holding, kissing, etc.)?
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I know how you feel, it would make me feel scared and uncomfortable too. I think men take a different approach to things, we are more sensitive and think about things before we say them. You must also think that maybe he was just saying that she was hott, maybe he just thinks that she is attractive. I know that doesnt make you feel much better but try not to assume if you really like him approach him and talk to him about it. Just say that i heard you thought so and so was cute? As long as you approach him in a non accusing way i think that he should understand. If you can't face him then just find someone new :)
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Well, it depends on why you're saving it. I recently saved it for 7 months because I really like a guy that lives out of town. I've had a crush on this guy forever. He came here a few times and for various reasons it just didn't happen. The last time he visited, we did it and it was lovely. I don't regret it at all. Are you waiting because you're not attracted to anyone in particular? Are you looking for something special? I think you should do whatever feels right inside. Definitely go with your gut. If you meet someone and you think you wouldn't beat yourself up after giving it up to them, then do it. If there is someone special that you have your eye on, I say wait. The passion that will be unleashed in that one night will be worth it for you both. Best of luck...
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Wait for another time.  It sould like it may end up being too stressful if you have to be misleading.  Think about how great it would be if everyone could be open.  If he doesn't know you like him then you're more likely to be disappointed that you didn't have quality time with him and it will be all your own fault.  If he's the right guy for you, you'll have a chance to be with him and enjoy the fact that not only you like him but that he likes you.  Wait for that to happen and you'll enjoy yourself more.  Even if it doesn't happen, you'll be glad you didn't push the situation.
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Single is good for awhile. My guy friend reminded me of the concept of "dating". You are going back out into the social scene and just meeting new people. Forming a friendship is the most healthy way to building a romantic relationship. Your giving yourself and your friend, time to really honestly, get to know each other inside and out. Jumping in is never healthy. If your jumping in for the wrong reasons (lonliness, a "need" for a mate), then you will soon find your relationship ending in a firey crash and burn. Practice patience with your new friend. It's ok to be attracted to him/her but keep a level head and don't let your emotions rule your decisions. I am experiencing this very phenomena about building a friendship first. Together, we are keeping level heads, (even though he is just so dang hot), and it is much more fulfilling and healthy, than any relationship I've had before. The communication is great, we understand and accept where we stand with each other, and we're keeping the door open for the possibility of a wonderful, romantic, relationship to develop. I admit, it's not easy. I am still learning the whole patience thing myself. But this is so good, and healthy. I wish you luck, and hope that you will not jump in to something out of desparation. Be positive, be patient, and ask God to help. God Bless you friend.