I have a great job, I just bought a house, my son is going back to school to teach. I'm happy but I have this nagging feeling that I should be somewhere else. I keep having these flashing pictures in my head that I'm in advertising and living in {New York?}! This is crazy! Am I crazy? I try to dismiss this as some sort of mid-life thing but when I think of staying where I am, I get really nausiated. Has anyone else ever felt like this? Please help!!!
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I would say to pray about it. God will guide you. If he has better plans for you, he will show you and things will just happen. Don't worry about it. Let the light guide your way.
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That's a tough call.  It's easy not to leave a job when you feel safe....\n\nAt your current job there's a chance things may change, people may leave, opportunities may arise...seems like workplaces are ever evolving...\n\nHowever, that's a maybe, and how much more time do you want to spend being less than satisfied?  \n\nDoes this new place offer health insurance?\n\nIf you go for it, you may really love it!!!  Or, not...  However, there are more jobs out there if things don't work out at the new place.  If you leave on good terms, your old place may even take you back.\n\nI think they recommend to have about 6 mos of savings for living expenses in the bank while your changing careers....just in case.\n\nLife is so short.  Work sucks most of the time!!!  At least it would be something new, right?  \n\nIt comes down to how risk adverse you are, I suppose.  Is the uncertainty going to cause you a great deal of stress?  If so, you may be happier staying put.\n\n\nGood Luck to you!!!
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For a lot of reasons, you can just feel unsatisfied with where you are in life.  That's not only restricted to middle age.  If it's been going on for 6 months, you should try and do something about it.  You don't want to be unhappy and you don't want your unhappiness to affect your family life.  Take a good look at things: do you feel like there's something in particular that's missing?  Would you feel more fulfilled if you tried something new and exciting?  I wish you the best of luck.
100958
well this all sounds very sad, but the truth is you should get out in your new location.  Don't bore yourself to death.  Go out there and have some fun: like at the bars or clubs, just about anywhere. Just have fun!
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We have relocated many times: \n\nFirst of all..do you work for a company that can transfer  you to that area? What is the draw there? Family? Friends?\n\nI would take a vacation to the area to make sure you like it first. Research the weather and community to make sure they are amenities you would want. \n\nLook for housing to see how expensive it is...go grocery shopping...all the things you would do if you lived there. \n\nThen look for jobs and see if you are employable in that area. See what the median income range is and make sure that you would be able to afford the cost of living for that area! \n\nMake sure that any family you would be moving with you is on board with the idea! Do you need to look at school districts for your kids? Is your wife ok with the move? Will your partner need to leave their job to acoomodate this move? Will your mom stop talking to you? \n\nAFter you do your research...then..try to get a job first. \n\nAFter you have a job..you can always live in a motel for a month or so while you look for an apartment or house or you can look online especially if you did your research while you were there. \n\nmove your stuff, sell your home where ever you are now with a trusted agent...and enjoy your new life!!\n\nNow, if your company offers a transfer..that is different! The company may have a relocation service available to them and you will already have a job..but make sure that you can afford the cost of living on your salary!
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It is normal. Children may feel excitement when their birthdays are near. Some adults still feel it. But most adults don't feel great become older. If you think your life there won't bring you any good, please don't be scared to change it. Try new things, don't let work be the only thing in your life as you only live once. New activities may bring you to new friends. Moving to another place could be a good option. Good luck.
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I am in a similar situation...dating 5 years, live 3 hours away and just moved back home after living with him for about a year. I know the feeling to miss the other person when you are at home far away but also miss home when you are with him. \nIts a hard decision to make, but I think it is most important to do what makes you happy and take care of yourself. Having your own life and career are great things, and if you are set on staying where you are, it will be up to him to decide where he wants to be. I hope things work out for you no matter what happens.
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I agree..:) i live in NJ now.. in an area that my son goes to a blue ribbon school..:) but I am trying to move because of cost of living.. housing here is ridiculos now..you can't find a one family home in a decente neighborhood for less than 500,000...and the taxes are the equivalent of a high scale rent...:) so my advice is don't come..:) I am leaving..:)
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moving to another state is almost ALWAYS the right decision. it will demand that you grow a little. and that's never bad! :)\n\nto reassure yourself... ask yourself before you go to sleep: should i go ahead with this move? or, am i making the right decision?\n\nask it outloud, and really focus on the question.\n\nthen go to sleep... when you wake up, don't get distracted with the alarm or the cellphone. let your mind drift until you remember your dreams. hopefully, your dreams will answer your question clearly and you can continue or change plans.\n\ntry it a few nights in a row if you're not convinced!\n\nour subconscious minds are powerful. deep down we know answers to many troubling questions. it's just a matter of tapping into the subconscious!
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You must live in the same place I do because my kids and grand kids all complain about the job market and low wages. I know that the wages are higher "up north" but I lived there and it's more expensive so its a wash. I feel sorry for you guys cause when I was young when you took a job you had a chance to work your way up, that doesn't seem to be true now. I hope you are successful in finding a decent job.
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I am a follower of Silvia Brown (psycic) and she says that these things sometimes happen. If I were you I'd go for it and try the move to this place you've never been and see if you find the guy. Give it a year or so...if nothing becomes of it at least you can say you had an interesting experience and saw a new place. It may even open the door to something better than what you have found in your dreams so far. Good luck.
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Just reading your question you sound like a wonderful person..first you gave up a good job but your priority was your baby (who you love more than life itself) and your husband is happy with you and your kids love you..couple of questions?..has it been very long since you had your baby?..could you be suffering from post-partum depression?..Could you just be depressed?..Please talk with your doctor about your concerns..So much about our lives today are busy and as women we are caregivers. We ignore our needs. Your feelings   and thoughts may be a chemical imbalance in your brain (you have no control of) often just talking with a mental health clinician can help you pinpoint why you have those feelings and how to re-direct them or change your focus..Be happy (I know how simple this sounds) Sometimes the money becomes the focus and it doesn't let you see how important your family and your life is..I wish you the very best.. Let this new move be a new start for you and your family..sounds exciting but busy...
604130
you have every right to feel that way...next door becareful...really...why did you move in knowing she was next door...too close for me....be careful and good luck....
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I would think its normal to occasionally have flashbacks and feel shaken over it.  If you are feeling like that ALL the time you might want to get some professional help. It was a pretty traumatic event for the nation, let alone Yew Yorkers. If you dont get professional help make sure you talk to friends or family.  Im sure that will help.
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Have you graduated High School? Do you have a job? Do you\nhave solid plans? Will your life be better if you move?\nAsk yourself a lot of questions. It is not easy to get by\nthese days. Even with a good job things come up that cost\na fortune. Just make sure you know what you are doing.\nGood luck what ever you decide.
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Moving back to your hometown can be hard after you've been out in the "real" world.  Many people associate home with certain things - like childhood, which can cause them to feel they aren't accomplishing what they should be.  \nIf you feel that these feelings you have aren't because of him and it's because of moving back home - you might try talking to a trusted friend or counselor to help you sort it out.\nEither way you should talk to him and tell him what you are going through right now, so that he knows you aren't trying to pull away from him or that you aren't unhappy with him.  \nAnother idea would be to maybe move a bit further away from "home" - like 30mins, close enough to everything but far enough away so you feel you have your own life.
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depends on how long you've been in your new area. if it hasnt been that long i suggest seeing if things pan out. but if you stay for a long time and find that you're miserable and still cant call the place "home" then i'd get out.