single father (first time father)
126786
Well, first of all, her bladder most likely is not fully developed and so it's not her fault.  So, please don't traumatize your child by yelling at her about it.  Just comfort her and deal with the issue.  Here are a few things that can help your child, but will not make her bladder develop any faster:  \n1. get a plasic mattress cover on the bed.  This makes it very uncomfortable when she pees it and thus she'll really try hard to get up when she's gotta go.\n2.  Don't load her down with drinks before for bedtime.  Give her at least one to one and a half hours before bed in which she isn't drinking.  Also, make sure she goes before going to bed.\n3.  When all else fails, get some Pullups for the girl so you don't have such a mess.  She should only wear them to bed though.\n\nHope this helps...
115097
My opinion as a single mother:\n\nLeave ex with child, move away, forget about your school.\nRent a place, does not matter, house, apartment, in a nice small town somewhere, but far enough away. You get a job as whatever, even waitress for now. You can resume your career later in your life.\n\nYou and your child will be very happy in new life without the ex and will also life in peace.  You will then be able to have a real life, find real friends, meet real men, have a real intimate life.  Your child will respect you, trust you, know that you can protect from harm, and grow to become stable and secure in new home and new surroundings.\n\nLife can be as beautiful as you choose to make it.  Nothing of real value comes without great sacrifice  Staying in your current situation is not benefiting your child, but harming you both.\n\nGood luck to you my friend!
665627
Be a friend and take interest in him by getting to know him like you would a friend, not like a mom or a mom who has not been around.  I met my day at age 25 and I was all excited about getting to know him and having fun with him, but  I realized quickly that he had no fathering instincts (whihc was ok cuz i din't want a father figure all of a sudden) and pretty much was not a friend or someone I wanted to hang out with.  He was boring, lazy and expected me to take care of his house and cook for him the shauvinistic bastard.  I would have wanted for us to just chat about life and have a have a few drinks.
602428
first of all, find out for sure if you're pregnant. then decide if you want to have the baby, if you do, doesn't the child deserve to know who his/her father is? it's really hard to raise a child by yourself, so think about what's in the best interest of the baby
71181
In years of being unemployed, under employed and overwhelmed, I never missed a payment, but I certainly kknow how that felt for me. \nI am not done yet...but my father never paid child support.\nMatter of fact I only saw him 3 or 4 times growing up. \n\nI think as a matter of course in doing what is right, you can hold your head up, even if it is tough going.  I will tell you I honor and respect you for taking the extra effort to do this, even if it is not fair.\n\nNot all fathers are like you.  I do wish you luck.
364235
a child without a father is not a good upbringing for any child.he will behave in\nis a different way when he is older, as a child needs both parents aorund him when he is growing up.
557562
I know how you feel...my ex stopped paying for our 3 children too.  The minute I met the man I am currently with(13 years) he stopped paying any support, luckily my new man had no problem helping me support the children.  They are now 22, 24 and 26, and they have little respect for their father, but great respect for their step dad. Any man can be a father it takes a real man to be a Dad!
493272
First of all, kick that "aquaintance" in the butt hard! Second, maybe you should join a support group for single parents.
4831
#1.  Keep the baby.\n#2. Talk to your parents.\n#3. Stay in school.\n\nKeep in mind that if the father isn't around, that doesn't mean that the baby won't grow up properly.  If he doesn't stay, then just rely on your parents or other support groups to help you out.\n\nFocus on your baby, include your education, include your family life, and go from there :)\n\nI wish you would have waited till you were much older, but as you didn't, your responsibility is now to the baby :)
227875
Tell him that you don't mind him going out when chances permit but that it would be nice for him to come and take his baby with him on occassion and give you some well deservred free time of your own while also bonding with his baby. Hello? Daddy?
564167
he needs to be a man and take responsibility.  He needs to stay out of jail.  Get a real job and send the money he can  most importantly be there as a father not just a paycheck.
313917
Wow.. You have honestly been blessed, having been a single mom myself and recently married, I know the state of shock your talking about. And yes, he loves you that much. Congratulations !\n\nJust know that, hundreds of single moms every day are hoping and pray for what we have been blessed with. \n\nStand proud & love him, soon your going to be a family
28586
Once again, he has a kid. She will ALWAYS be his kid. I would NEVER let a man come before my daughter. Men who can't/won't understand that aren't worth my time. As I said earlier, a bit of action is easy to find or replace.
307586
You're correct: being a single parent is one of the most difficult jobs in the world, particularly if you have few or no marketable skills. \n\nYou need to get very, very honest with yourself. Some key questions to which you need answers from yourself are:\n\n1. What's changed between us since we first married?\n\n2. Has either of us been unfaithful?\n\n3. Have we been making time to be alone together since the children were born?\n\n4. When did our problems start?\n\n5. Have we both taken good physical care of ourselves since the children were born?\n\n6. What are the stresses in our lives that might make us cross with each other? \n\n7. How can we simplify our lives so we can unload some stresses and have more time for each other?\n\nThat should get you started on thinking about what has caused the deterioration in your relationship. I strongly urge you to seek out a qualified marriage counselor. The two of you should go together if at all possible. If not, then go by yourself.\n\nRelationships are the most difficult thing you'll ever do, and this one is badly in need of help.\n\nGood luck. :)
310083
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598006
Happy Father's Day!  I like the idea of asking him.  Even though it is your day, ask him if he knows a good activity/place for celebrating Father's Day.  If he picks a place that is totally for him, ask him if that is something a father would enjoy.  Or, go to his place first, then tell him about yours.  Another option would be to pick somewhere that the two of you can be alone.  Enjoy the time you have together before he grows up.  (and he becomes too cool to hang out with his father or becomes too busy)  I like the kayak idea.
483167
Great answer, way to go dad!!!!!!!  I loved it.  I'm a single mom, but I have to say, thier dad does step up to the plate with them.  Not all dads are dead beats, way to go 5 stars on that joke.