suffer from severe depressing some days can't get out of bed\nneed help or support
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Reaching out is always a good but tough step.  The best person to ask would be a local mental health practitioner - be it a doctor, psychiatrist, psychologist or therapist.\n\nBeyond that, it would depend on the area that you are in or would like to go to.  I've attached a link to the National Mental Health Services Information website.  You can click on your state, then click on the 'locator', choose your city and see what services are available.\n\nI'd also consider contacting the Depression and Bi-polar Support Alliance.  It is a patient run support organization and they are in nearly every community and might be able to refer your to a good residential treatment facility.  Depressed Anon is similar and might also be able to help.\n\nAdditionally, the American Residential Treatment Association might be able to help find a facility nearby, though they are limited.
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unfortunately depression is a very hard thing to deal with. nobody can get some1 out of it they can only help themselves, all you can do is be there when your friend needs you and support her in the decisions she makes.
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I will pray for you.  You have my sympathy.  I have bone cancer, and it is terminal.  I focus on what I CAN do, each day.  Some days all I can do is lay in bed.  Other days, although rarely, I feel almost good. I believe we send messages to our bodies, subconsciously.  If we think the worst, the worst will happen.  I am a registered nurse, and even though I could easily look up every aspect of my disease, I choose not to.  Only God knows when our time is up.
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That sucks!  (to put it bluntly).  Be strong.  Rely on your friends.  Cry if you need to.  Write in a journal to get your feelings out.  Go out (do not sit home & mope).  Do stuff with friends...even if you aren't in the mood b/c little by little you'll do better.  Eventually the crying stops and it all works out.  It's hard but you'll be fine.
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what about going to your church and if they cant help maybe they can lead you in the right direction to get help. I understand the hard times as I have had my share but some how it always worked out.  Good Luck
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Similar response as rest - however, don't forget that if you need assistance to get dressed, or get into bed and have to rest during day include that time too, reading, letters, correspondence, shopping whatever - it is often easy to leave out the little things.  Cooking for example might include meal preparation, lifting pans etc, shopping, helping to manage money etc, or what about shopping for clothing, ironing, washing.  As someone said, break each day down into hours and go from there, including what they do on an occasional basis.  Also, what they do on your worse day, not best.  Citizens advice may help or disability organisations.
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hey, hello :)\nseems like you know you have some issues to overcome, i say you are almost there!\ndon't be miserable. everyone goes through this kind of emotions @ least once in our lifetime.\ni know this feeling too. sometimes, you feel so empty, miserable & unworthy. and every time,when you try to take 1 step forward, you end up taking 2 steps backward.\ntry to start a routine of exercizing, mix with positive people & read joke books.\ndon't ever indulge in self-pity & regrets. the darkest hours are just before dawn. life is a grindstone; and whether it grinds a man down or polishes him depends on what stuff he's made of.\nif you really look around you, everyone has problems too. what makes them happy is that they try to overcome their problems one @ a time.
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I've gone through spells of depression that have lasted months.  The only thing that got me through was prayer and friendship.  I'm not one who goes to church every week nor do I talk continuously about my spirituality but I can say that when I have been struggling with dark thoughts I pray and talk to friends and somehow I get past it.  In your new city, make yourself get up early each morning and get fixed up.  When you get out of the house you will immediately feel a little bit better.  Look your best and that will help you to feel more confident.  Call on a friend from home, maybe a sibling or close family member when you feel your lowest.  One of my closest friends lives miles away and her friendship still gives me a great deal of support.  Just talk to someone and tell them the truth about what is going on inside.  It will be a great release and you will not be going through it alone.  Remember to pray for yourself, ask for courage and strength of heart..I promise that you will be better before you know it.
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Baby that  will hurt, please don't do that, you need to talk to some one who will give good advice and listen to your problems, Do you love the Lord, I hope so because When I have no one to talk to I call on him, He is the only one that helps me thru and in a way of his own he may send someone to me to help or give me an answer to my problem, Honey God Works in amazing ways, just ask him to help you and sincerely know and believe, I promise He will help.  I now how you feel,  a time before I thought about ways of taking my life but the Lord stopped me and I know that if he helped me out of my depression, that he will do the same for you.  God Bless You.
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Depressive disorders make one feel exhausted, worthless, helpless, and hopeless. Such negative thoughts and feelings make some people feel like giving up. It is important to realize that these negative views are part of the depression and typically do not accurately reflect the situation. Negative thinking fades as treatment begins to take effect. In the meantime: \nSet realistic goals and assume a reasonable amount of responsibility. \nBreak large tasks into small ones, set some priorities, and do what you can as you can.\nTry to be with other people and to confide in someone; it is usually better than being alone and secretive.\nParticipate in activities that may make you feel better.\nMild exercise, going to a movie, a ballgame, or participating in religious, social, or other activities may help. \nExpect your mood to improve gradually, not immediately. Feeling better takes time. \nIt is advisable to postpone important decisions until the depression has lifted. Before deciding to make a significant transition--change jobs, get married or divorced--discuss it with others who know you well and have a more objective view of your situation. \nPeople rarely "snap out of" a depression. But they can feel a little better day by day.\nRemember, positive thinking will replace the negative thinking that is part of the depression and will disappear as your depression responds to treatment.\nLet your family and friends help you. \n\nSelf help for depression\n\nEffective therapy needs to incorporate everything that works in lifting depression. You may be able to help yourself effectively, although often it is useful to get the help of a professional.\n\nHere we'll go through what you can do, as well as what you should look for in any therapy you choose to undergo.\nWhat you can do to help yourself\n\n1) Know about your condition - what you know about your depression has been shown to have an effect on well you respond to treatment. Take the Depression Learning Path - it's the best way to start helping yourself.\n\n2) Cut down on rumination. Do whatever you can to decrease the amount of rumination you are doing. (Ruminating is 'chewing over' emotional issues in your mind without coming to any decision to act.)\n\nIf possible, decide to put off difficult decisions for 1 or 2 weeks while you get your energy back.\n\nWays to cut down rumination are to:\n\na) Stop yourself when you spot yourself doing 'all or nothing' thinking. (See thinking styles)\nb) Read novels when you have nothing to do, to occupy your mind. (Make them exciting novels, not romance or self help books!)\nc) Do exercise (see 5)\nd) Work if you can\ne) Keep yourself occupied as much as possible in ways that stop you thinking too much!\n\n3) Find ways to assess and monitor your depressive episodes - The way depression makes us adopt all or nothing thinking is a unique and crucial part of understanding depression. The way depression makes us generate seemingly hopeless outcomes to our situation can make it almost impossible to see a way out of it. \n\nFinding ways to gauge your depression can help to show the shades of gray, that will ultimately defeat the black and white thinking on which depression thrives. This is often done in the form of a diary, where you grade how bad your days have been on a scale of 1 to 10, where 1 is the worst and 10 is the best. Then, after 2 weeks or so, you can look back and see how things have varied over that time. \n\n4) Lower your emotional arousal levels calming down emotions such as anxiety and anger helps your brain function more subtly and decreases the amount of catastrophising you do. Along with getting proper rest, being able to relax is incredibly important.\n\nRelaxation therapies are effective in overcoming some of the other issues that can co-occur with depression. The effects of panic attacks, anxiety and anger, etc can be lessened and overcome with the ability to relax properly and deeply. Physi
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In response to a previous answer, you do not have to be stuck in bed to have depression.  Many people, actually, have the ability to "turn it off" in social situations and act completely normal around other people, but when they are alone, they feel very depressed or hopeless (this is a condition called dysthymia, a type of depression).  Just because you can get on the computer does not mean that you are not depressed.\nIn regards to speaking to your parents, if you do not feel that they will listen to you, there are plenty of resources that you can access on your own.  Ask you school counselor or a teacher if they can refer you to someone.  Just say, "I'm having a hard time and I think that I need to talk to someone professional."  If you do get into counseling, the counselor will likely give you tools and techniques for communicating with your parents.\nHope this helps.
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Get a purpose in life - eg. a job you enjoy, take relaxing walks in the nearby areas, or make friends...\n\nIf you are unable to get over the depression, you might benefit from seeing a psychologist: sometimes depression originates from chemical imbalance in the brain, which can't be helped by anything but medications. It is not a sign of weakness to see a professional before it's too late!
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Please call someone at one of these hotlines.  Sometimes it's easier talking with a stranger about your problems.\nhttp://teenadvice.about.com/library/weekly/aa070500a.htm\n\n:http://www.mayoclinic.com/health/depression/DS00175 \n \nDepression\nIntroduction\nDepression is a disorder that affects your thoughts, moods, feelings, behavior and even your physical health. People used to think it was "all in your head" and that if you really tried, you could "snap out of it" or just "get over it." But doctors now know that depression is not a weakness, and it's not something you can treat on your own. Depression is a medical disorder with a biological and chemical basis.\nSometimes a stressful life event triggers depression. Other times depression seems to occur spontaneously with no identifiable specific cause. Depression is much more than grieving or a bout of the blues.\nDepression may occur only once in a person's life. Often, however, it occurs as repeated episodes over a lifetime, with periods free of depression in between. Or it may be a chronic condition, requiring ongoing treatment over a lifetime.\nPeople of all ages and races suffer from depression. Medications are available that are generally safe and effective, even for the most severe depression. With proper treatment, most people with serious depression improve, often within weeks, and can return to normal daily activities.\nSigns and symptoms\nTwo hallmarks of depression — symptoms key to establishing a diagnosis — are:\n·Loss of interest in normal daily activities. You lose interest in or pleasure from activities that you used to enjoy.\n·Depressed mood. You feel sad, helpless or hopeless, and may have crying spells.\nIn addition, for a doctor or other health professional to diagnose depression, most of the following signs and symptoms also must be present for at least two weeks.\n·Sleep disturbances. Sleeping too much or having problems sleeping can be a sign you're depressed. Waking in the middle of the night or early in the morning and not being able to get back to sleep are typical.\n·Impaired thinking or concentration. You may have trouble concentrating or making decisions and have problems with memory.\n·Changes in weight. An increased or reduced appetite and unexplained weight gain or loss may indicate depression.\n·Agitation. You may seem restless, agitated, irritable and easily annoyed.\n·Fatigue or slowing of body movements. You feel weariness and lack of energy nearly every day. You may feel as tired in the morning as you did when you went to bed the night before. You may feel like you're doing everything in slow motion, or you may speak in a slow, monotonous tone.\n·Low self-esteem. You feel worthless and have excessive guilt.\n·Less interest in sex. If you were sexually active before developing depression, you may notice a dramatic decrease in your level of interest in having sexual relations.\n·Thoughts of death. You have a persistent negative view of yourself, your situation and the future. You may have thoughts of death, dying or suicide.\nDepression can also cause a wide variety of physical complaints, such as gastrointestinal problems (indigestion, constipation or diarrhea), headache and backache. Many people with depression also have symptoms of anxiety.\nChildren, teens and older adults may react differently to depression. In these groups, symptoms may take different forms or may be masked by other conditions. Kids may pretend to be sick, worry that a parent is going to die, perform poorly in school, refuse to go to school, or exhibit behavioral problems. Older people may be more willing to discuss the physical manifestations of depression, instead of their emotional difficulties.\nTypes of depression\nThe main types of depression include:\n·Major depression. This type of mood disturbance lasts more than two weeks. Symptoms may include overwhelming feelings of sadness and grief, loss
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Its hard to be put in that spot but happiness has to come from within. You might be able to help her through whatever is really hurting her. Just ask her what she is struggling with and talk to her.
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Go out for a nice meal, you probbaly had a tough day, as your question sounds depressing. So Go out, have some fun, an denjoy the city, or town, or wherever it is that you live.
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I have a similar situation in the past.  Not exactly the same but similar.  \n\nI told my man to get his b**t out of bed and help me around the house.  Some days I had to almost drop kick him to get him to help.  \n\nIf he doesn't want to help and his family lives close by, then call and ask them to help you.  It will embarrass him so much that he wont want to stay in bed any more.
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Registered Nurse Here; Well hun, I think most of us feel this way from time to time, however when this starts out numbering the good days.  It would benefit you greatly to see a Physician, your family doctor, he or she, may decide with you to try a medication or they may suggest a psychiatrist.  Not sleeping well and crying spells are two classical symptoms of depression.  I know  your having a hard time, and there is no need for you to suffer to this degree in the era of medication and modern technology, you can be helped and assisted to feel better.  Please seek medical/mental attention,  there is MHMR, or a family practice doctor.  Both of these can put you on the road to recovery.  Thank you for the opportunity to address such a sensitive question.  Please seek some help.