There's this girl in my class...i know i'm 17, but this is different from a crush. i've had crushes and its nothing like it. i want to be a better person for her, i want to be the one who makes her happy, i want to just sit and share my love with her... she is in my company, one of my best friends, and i know for sure that she has had multiple crushes on me in the past, but now she doesn't want to be with me. i've told her how i feel, i've given her romantic presents, but nothing will do... pls, share experience - i feel like i don't wanna live anymore...
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Fool, I'm in late high school too, and after reading your current inquiry, some of your other questions, and some of your responses, I can say one thing with certainty...\n\nYou're being pretty homosexual lately...\n\nNow, excuses aside, you HAVE TO MAN UP!!!\n\nWhen she rejects your soul into oblivion, don't sit there and "feel like [you] don't want to live anymore." You f***in' sit back and play it like you got ALL the answers...\n\nShe doesn't want to be with you, so what? Fool, you gotta let her know there is plenty other p**** out there for you, and Hell yeah you funna go and get it. \n\nGirls don't want someone who can be calm, compassionate and emotional, they can already do that themselves. They need someone who's going to be strong and just show them how to live. That's tight if you're not stoked that she doesn't want to be with you right now, and she never will want to if you let her think she's in control. You need to go out and be the mother-f***in' boss of the hood, and let her know, what time it is...
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I think the best way to deal with it is to convince yourself that you dont like her. The more you think of her as just a friend, the eisier it is to talk normally. Everyone gets ally shy around crushes. Its just normal i guess.
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the best thing to do is be upfront with her about your feelings. she may just see you as a friend. and she may like you. but you'll never know if you don't ask her. tell her that you like her and ask her if she feels the same way? but i hope that you will not stop being her friend if she doesn't like you back. it's a horrible feeling as a girl to lose a great guy friend just because the romantic feelings are only one way.
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Be her friend. That's the best advice I can give you. It's ok to let her know you are interested in more.. in a low key way, because sometimes to put it all on the line can affect the friendship.If she knows already that your feelings run deeper, then just keep on  being there for her and being her friend.. If it's meant to  be more, it will be. If it isn't, then at least you have your friendship, and that's worth ALOT.
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I  am unclear about what you are trying to say, she wants to go with this guy to prom, and not you? She needs to understand you feelings, or you need to put your foot down. You are tottaly right for feeling this way. She tries to make you feel uncomfrotable, pay her back, AND see how she feels. Start inviting girls to hang with you, and act like its no big deal. See how she likes it.
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Your friend may be asexual.... It isnt a choice if she is. Do you totally control who you are attracted too? If so, I want you to go to school and become sexually aroused and fall into love with the most unattractive boy in school. (If you are a girl if not do the opposite) Hey its a choice, you should be able to do it. The main problem I see with this question is not your friend however your non acceptance of her. There is nothing "wrong" with her at all. Her behavior is not the norm however the norm does not necessarily mean it is the only right way. Accept your friend for who she is right now.... if you truely are her friend. Also, by the way, dont rush to judge. I know you feel grown up now, however, you are not. 16 is very young and one of these days you will look back and understand that. Your friend has plenty of time to fall in love and have crushes.... My guess is that she will go through that process but only in her time... not yours. By pressuring her, you may cause her to have trouble in finding that right person. A person has to love their self before truely loving someone else. Be a friend and accept her from where she is at. She isnt hurting anyone or breaking any laws. I'm sorry if I came across as blunt however your question, how you wrote it bothered me. I hope you question how you see her and give her a chance to find herself without judgement.\n\nBy the way, I'm a therapist and every expert in the world would laugh at you for even trying to research this about your friend at her age. She is still developing and growing. A human brain doesnt totally develop until around 25 years old. Maybe that part of her brain hasnt grown yet.\n\nBy the way, I understand you are probably doing this because you care, but seriously you are out of bounds and barking up the wrong tree... as the sayings go.\n\n\nBy the way, about your added comment... Does things that are right about your friend usually annoy you since you are back tracking and saying you dont think anything is wrong with her. Dont get me wrong, I'm not going to argue with you. My main goal is for you to look at yourself and become more aware of what you have said. I think you are doing that. No hard feelings..... Good luck with your friend and I hope you have a very long lasting relationship\n\nCounselorDan
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Shirley,\nYou need to slow down...\nYou have a crush on your teacher....\nYou like a guy you just met from China....\nYou ask questions like you are 14....\nWait for the right guy, the right time.\nEven if you feel it is taking too long.\nIt will turn out to be the right thing.\nSex is one of those things that you can't \nknow exactly how you will feel till you do it.\nDon't make a big mistake....\nLife is not erasable...\nListen to your real feelings,\nnot your hormones.\nYou won't be sorry for giving yourself time.
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Well I have had a crush on someone since I was in 1st grade and we ended up getting together in 7th grade and broke up.  Well come to find out that he is still in love with me and me in love with him.  We just couldn't stay away from each other so either fate or the two of you will bring yall together.  I am now 16 and me and him are stronger than ever and are still going strong and I plan to be with him for w while, just let him know how you feel!!!!
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well it depends on how old we're talknig here, because theres a thin line between when 1-2 years can make a world of difference and when it can be insignificant, \n\nand its my personal opinion that if its just a 'serious crush' then its probably not all that serious in ways that yeild results, but,\nregardless, if he wants to do something he should just try befriending her first. talk to her. go from there.
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Instead of thinking about how bad you feel, because she don't like you the sameway, you should think about how happy you make her when you are there for her and how much she may need you to be there for her. Believe me I is good to have someone to talk to when you have alot on your mind. Just try that and then if that doesn't help let her know how you feel and see where it goes from there.
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Know what you mean here.  I was in the same boat a little over a year ago.  I'd been friends with this girl for a while and I developed a crush on her.  I was too afraid to ask her out too.  Eventually, a mutual friend told her how I felt and she felt the same way.  Things worked out pretty well.  We've been dating for 51/2 months or so.  My advice is go for it.  If she is a true friend then she should respect your feelings even if she doesn't feel the same way.  Ask her she wants to take things to the next level. You have to be carefully.  If she says no, then you can't go treating her any differently even if you are hurt by it a little.  She shouldn't change because you show interest in her so neither should you.
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it's ok, girl! life goes on. see if there might be another boy out in the world you like..\nbut if this keeps happening (which i really really doubt that is possible), MAKE UR MOVE!! dont be shy, MAKE HER LOOK BAD!! unless she's like your best friend, or something, but try talking to him a little bit! \notherwise, idk what to do...
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Ok, this is a sticky one.  Can you put your 'crush buzz' to the side and see the reality of 'what if it can work' set in? It will be national news, everything will blow up.  Can you honestly see her having feelings for you as well? Do you think moving in closer to her would work out for the both of you's or just you? remember she is married for a reason. Here's the good news, you have found someone that has shown you your 'ideal' partner.  What might have got you to have a crush on her is as a teacher it is their job to pay attention and help students reach there goals.  I know your not going to get that with a lot of girls at high school, hey they are young and still learning themselves, maybe you are more mature minded and that's great you have discovered your ideal partner which is a mature, funny, witty and with a great personality.  But as a teacher, not a good thing to do.  Just look at her and thank her in your mind for showing you an ideal partner =)
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Just tell her how you feel. It might sound simple but all you have yo do is just be your self and let her know whats on your mind. Tell her that you understand that you are friends now but you would like to take it to the next lvl. Ask her what her feelings are and where her mind is at. You might find that she has some feelings for you too or you might just find that she just wants to be friends. Whtever she says its always best to know something then to not know anything at all.\n\nThis might lead to something in the future if not nothing now. Just tell her what you think and see where it takes you. You never know what could happen......
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tell her how you truly feel. you've got a 50/50 chance to get what you want. at worst she says she doesn't feel the same and you remain friends. at best she says she does feel the same and wants to be with you too. life is about taking risks. if you aren't honest with yourself and with her you'll never really know what can be. good luck!
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best to just do it mate! ask her to go somewhere with you after school or organise a group of u to go to movies or shopping or something.  hopefully you can move around to get a minute alone with her and just tell her how you feel.  Or you could do the chicken way and tell her best friend how you feel and ask them for advice- they usually know everything abou their friends, and will tell them what you say too..so make it romantic and get her on your side!
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Apparently you have very strong feelings for this person. I know the feeling. I went to high school with this guy and i left but i always kept bucking in to him, and i knew he like me back but we never said anyting, and even now i still have a feeling to find him to talk to him. Go search for that person. Cause most people only get this feeling once.