this is our first year trying out and i didn't have my cartwhell and round-oof totally perfect so i didn't make it.All of my friends have been there for me since kindergarten and know i am afraid they will abandon me.They have said that they couldn't do that because they would nver want to exclude me from anything.They even said that i have to come to all of the games.
125090
You need to go and support your friends. The more you are around the better. You can get them to give you tips and help you with your stunts and then next year you shouldn't have a bit of problem making the squad. You might want to enroll in a gymnastics class...then who knows..when you do try out next year you may be better than they are and they will see how much you have worked and that you are really serious about cheerleading. Another thing...If they are truly your friends then they won't abandon you.
335574
I've had friends like that too. And you can only do so much. Sometimes, they need to learn on their own, as much as it may hurt you to see them get hurt, but at least you know that you have trie to advise them well. However, let them know that you are there and that you are willing to listen. Perhaps, you can find a place where they help teens with problems and get help together.
572469
I would think either the teams really are even and you should consider bringing a friend to even them up or maybe they just don't want you to play. You should be able to tell by body language or how you're being treated by the person you're asking. If they seem concerned about helping you get in the game, they want you to play; if not, find something else to do.
233942
I just got back from prom... my parents didn't go to that, but they went to after prom... I still had fun... i even started teachin my dad how to dance.... it isn't the end of the world, you have to create your own fun... this being my senior year I could have pouted the whole time....be optimistic about the situation since you can't persuade them not to attend
577782
You are in a difficult position as you are their instructor. You cant get included unless you form a casual relationship of friendship first, by chatting etc. As you build up trust, then you can mention that you are interested in going along to join their activities, or even ask what activities you could get into from them. Maybe better for you to look outside of the school, join social activities like evening classes. Less complications with relationships with "students " etc.
324974
thats not something someone can answer for you, you need to try to do things that make you happy, and be around your friends, eventually you will be able to let them go, just know they are always with you....
267587
Omg, my friends did the same thing, but they are just kidding around.  They always make fun of me because they think I'm a perfectionist, but I'm actually not one at all.  Just laugh it off and if it really starts bugging you, pull them aside and tell them you're not going to dumb yourself down just to get the same grades as them, but you'd be happy to help them if they need it!
424046
speaking from experience, most of my friends are younger than me (i'm a sophomore in college) and my youngest friends are juniors in high school.  I never hung out with people in my grade because I thought they were all immature, and that my younger friends acted older than they did.  I'm happy in my situation, and you should be too.  Don't be friends with the other sophomores if you don't want to--hang out with the friends you already have :)
643556
Sounds like your friends have trust issues w/ you. You will have to allow them to gain their trust towards you again. Talk to your friends explain to them you made a mistake before and want to be trusted. Tell them your going to give them some time to rethink about not telling you anything, b/c it does make you feel left out. Tell them they can trust you just give you a chance to redeem yourself. Good Luck.
72511
I would suggest that you get involved in a school activity so that you can make new friends and get to feeling more confident in yourself. Find a positive group of people to be around so you won't be lonely and you'll be busy with the activities too.  I was shy and bashful at one time.  The drama club at school really helped me.  I see why that person is an ex-friend. Even if something happened and the friendship ended, that's no reason to make fun of you.   Hang in there and don't become like your ex-friend - making fun of people. You be the better person.
74253
My sister just went through this.  She came to live with us with just a few months left of school.  She still keeps in contact with her old friends by phone, e-mail, letter etc.  She was herself at the new school and she has a ton of friends.  Usually kids are very receptive to "the new kid" because you are new and they want to get to know you.  So be open, be yourself and make some new friends.  Have fun and let go that's what being a teenager is all about!
370624
I went to one in central Illinois beginning in junior high all the way until is was 16 (which was the cutoff).  I fought with my dad because I didn't want to go the first year and didn't want to be away from my friends.  I was sad to tell my father that I had the best time of my life. I made so many friends from all over.  All of the same people went back each year so it was good to catch up with everyone we didn't see  the rest of the year.  I still keep in touch with some people I met there and it was like 10 years ago.  It was a great experience that I would reccomend to all youths.
483600
Sweetie it is always a big transition going from jr high 2 high school. Some girls still act like their in jr high once they enter high school. Don't put limits on yourself when it comes to meeting new people, you are your own person and high school is a part of growing up not only does high school help you spread your wings but it also helps prepare you for the next level. Tell your friends that you enjoy meeting new people and that you are not gonna limit yourself to just one group of people. If they can't accept it then its their loss and you will always be their friend but you feel that you are maturing and its time that spread your wings and meet new people. They will probally be mad at first but once they realize that its not jr high anymore their whole attitudes will change and they will start to see the big picture. Trust me its okay to have new friends this happens everyday its a part of life and you just happen to be one of those young ladies that has matured a little faster than your friends. We all out grow our friends at one point or another its just that some of our friends choose not to grow up.
109647
I believe we have the right to distance ourselves from people, and situations that cause negativities in our lives.  We are are at liberty to purge our lives with anything that is harmful to our well being - physically, emotionally and spiritually. It may be difficult because the more you feel you need your friends the more they will (or seem to) behave that way. Sometimes even the most cherished friendships have to end.  They have served their purpose and it's time to move on to better things. I've been in your situation several times before and I did just that.  Now I realize that I have very little in common with these friends. I was just trying to fit in.
596576
This happened to me when I was in high school too.  I ended up following them around and trying so hard to be included, now looking back I just wish that I would have played it more cool.  Find some other firends to hang around with until things settle down with your 2 BF's.  That shows them that you are your own person and you aren't desperate!  When they seem to go out of your way to not include you act like you had better things to do anyways and the make some plans dont sit around... Oh and what ever you do DONT be b!tchy to them..that makes you the bad one.  Just be nice and courteaous and go about your business eventually they will go back to the way things were.
66135
Well, I have no friends and I'm not complaining. Like you, I am a nerd, but that's a compliment. In essence, they're admitting you're smarter than them. I suggest you accept yourself; don't try to change, because then you'd become a fraud. Besides you have your whole life ahead of you--especially, if you are a middle school or high school student.  Just know that when you do something great (which I hope you think you will and can do. Ambition is a gift.) that you probably won't even remember these people.
337957
Yes, let those people go if they are holding you back.  You said you'd be going off to college soon, and that will be a great start for a new social life.  In the meantime, start distancing yourself from your friends; spend more time reading, going new places and different places than you normally hang-out and maybe you can start meeting a whole new "mix" of people.  Good luck, don't let anyone or anything hold you back Girl!!!  Go Get Em!!!!!!!!!