I really want to remain open to others but it sometimes seems like it might be best to just put a wall up...I know that  is not the right way to go about things but I cannot help but feel it.
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The best thing to do is try and set your own boundaries and really keep in tune with your feelings.  First figure out what your limits are and don't let anyone pass them.  This may mean you might have to walk away from some situations and you might have regrets.  \n\nRemember it's one thing to protect your heart, and another to put up a boundary.  Protecting your heart means still being open, but setting those limits you won't let others pass, taking things really slow and really looking at the situation as a whole.\n\nOne thing I found especially helpful after ending a relationship was to make a list of what I wanted in someone else, a list of 10 most important to least important things, and I made sure that they at least had the top five before I would consider getting involved.\n\nFOr general situations, like with friends, family, etc.  I found that stepping outside the situation helps a lot.  Sorta pulling yourself aside and look in at it like it's your friend experiencing it.  What would you say or do to your friend, how would you expect your friend to react, etc.  This helps give perspective because your personal feelings aren't right there, it's more like looking in on a movie (even though you are the star)\n\nHope that helps.
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You can always say I think we should test our waters for a little bit. Or I'm just not feeling it right now..I'm having a lot of stressful things going on and I need some alone time. Why would you want to be in something that you don't like anyways. And if you love something you always go back. You can just be friends with benefits.
547218
Yes I can be like that but, I really do try to keep my mind open to all possibilities.  In life in general I have accepted some answers that I did not agree with for the exporation value.   This has often lead to new growth in understanding.
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Sounds to me like you are trying to talk yourself into staying- talking yourself into the idea period.  It doesn't have to be a horrible relationship or an abusive guy to make it just "not feel there". Do what's in your heart.
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if i have a problem i need to share it with a friend or i die. but after that i am worry that they tell my secret or they use it to make me feel worse. i don't trust human beings but i know i can't live alone...so ...
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I do the same thing.  I just don't want to be hurt any more.  Your intelligent and smarter than alot of people.  You'll just have to work on yourself.
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It sounds like right now you shouldn't choose either.  You need to take some time to yourself and figure out what you really want. Otherwise you're going to end up getting hurt or hurting them in the process.
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Well now, it seems that you are going to have to do it whether you like it or not.\n\nIf you make it hard on yourself and do not keep an open mind about it it will be hard. If you keep an open mind and make the best of it it will be easier.\n\nIt is up to you.
485446
Hey man, you have to look out for yourself and your integrity.  Always do the right thing and you will feel better for it.
600601
This is a situation that you have complete control of.  If things are becoming creepy then you need to slow them down and set the pace.  DO NOT allow yourself to feel pressured into anything that goes against what you truly believe in.
536746
Yes I do feel that way sometimes,but I can't just stop or run away. Nice to daydream at times tho.\n☺
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You should stay the way you are. It isn't good for you to hold in what you are feeling. You are just fine.
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I believe we have the right to distance ourselves from people, and situations that cause negativities in our lives.  We are are at liberty to purge our lives with anything that is harmful to our well being - physically, emotionally and spiritually. It may be difficult because the more you feel you need your friends the more they will (or seem to) behave that way. Sometimes even the most cherished friendships have to end.  They have served their purpose and it's time to move on to better things. I've been in your situation several times before and I did just that.  Now I realize that I have very little in common with these friends. I was just trying to fit in.
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Man, I know how that can feel...been there done that!!!  I found that I wasen't voicing my needs enough in some cases and in the others it was a matter of getting rid of the trash friendships that were merely sucking me dry emotionally and/or finacially.  Do yourself a favor and get rid of people who make you miserable and are just takers. Thinning them out and telling the people whom you choose to keep around what your needs are can be a very empowering experience.  Trust me, a few very close friends is worth more than a ton of supposed friends any day.  Hope this helps.
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I have almost the same problem,, and I know that even sometimes I help people so much and NEVER get something back,, most of the time i do not feel good! what I am doing now is I do say YES only to the people who deserve it,, my friends, family ,... people who really care for me,, try it step by step,, and keep in your mind,, NO BODY CARE FOR YOU AS MUCH AS YOU CARE FOR YOURSELF,, so put yourself first and all the others second,,
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its ok if your too nice sometimes but other thime like this just turn around and be like''hey i need a little space its cool to hang out with you guys but i kind of want a little time for my othe friends to'' i mean tell them yall can still hang out just not all the time it might be a shock to them but the'lll get use to it trust me
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Absense makes the heart grow fonder but it can also feel very lonely. I would try writing back and forth if possible. And find a hobby to occupy your time.