I was speaking to a guy I knew for a while, who used to be friends with my aunt. Anyways, he's 34ish and Im 24, and before I left, we spoke on the phone for like two hours, and had an awesome conversation. He asked me when I was going to settle down, I had mentioned leaving, and told him when I have a reason to settle down. Anyways, I moved away for a year and came back. Never dated at all. Never tried to. I was thinking about asking him out, but he is closeted, and has given up on love, but my sister saw him the other day and asked about me. He was told I was here again and asked if I ws settling. Of course my sister said "I dont kn?" So despite him being abstinent, and a vegitarian, I think he's hot, and smart, and funny. But do you think he likes me? DO you think his persistent questioning of my settling is an indicator he is not willing to date me until I do? Of course he didnt tell my sister to tell me to call him or anything... AHHHH! I know this question is a mess- sorry!
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hmmm... it could be an indication that he likes you, why dont u call him anyway and ask him out for a drink or lunch and see what happens. It doesnt necessarliy have to be a date, just keep it casual and go somewhere with a chilled atmosphere (not dinner, dinner is 2 heavy) and see what sort of a vibe you get. Good luck.x
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Nobody gets along all of the time and you can't base your decision on that. I know exactly what you mean.\n\nWould you believe I'm 70 years old and I almost didn't have the nerve to ask a gentleman, who is a neighbor of mine, that I've know for almost 4 years over for Thanksgiving. I knew that he was going to be by himself and eating a TV dinner. A friend of mine told me to go for it and she knows both of us. I did and he said yes. \n\nI know it does hurt when you ask a fellow out and he says no, but you're going to probably hear that a few times. If he seems like he likes you and isn't dating someone else, go for it and he just might surprise you. If he does say no, ask him why and ask him if both of you can still be friends.
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The other day i met a guy i graduated from high school w  had not seen him in yrs    he was always a good looking boy and now a very handsome man! he came up to me and gave me a hug and i responded w how are u  long time no see!  as we chatted he informed me he just quit the navy to be closer to home....well as we chatted and caught up for yrs of life in no more than what was really 2 minutes at the most of conversation,  and heavy set women w short hair and glasses approached us  w a look of death on her face  now no one else was in room except my self and my lt. commander b/f (i was not alone either)  she continued to walk up to this once brave and driven man and accuse him of wanting to fuc_ me!  Now i am not from this kind of group of women  so of course it made me mad to be accused of such ridiculous accusations, and i WAS w a guy who knew we had obviously not seen each other since graduation from the first conversation!   so what do u think this Navy man's reaction was?   Nope, he bowed down like a puss_  the name i do not use often  but he earned it    i told him   what happened to the man i once knew  would never had tolerated his gal treating strangers, or ole chums in such a fashion...  i was put in a very awkward position,,,,my man told him to adjust his wife,,,(on order)  and he then followed orders to shut her up.... when it came down to    he cowboyed up found his tongue and wrote my man an e-mail and said he for the first time found the peace.... he left her! eheheheh   Why did such a guy change from a man to a puss_?   Why did she have such control   she was not pretty  overweight  and loud    he was still same man other than panty whipped!   he could certainly find a good women  so why did she act so possessive? why did he let her??? ive been seeing this all too often now  and as a women i am not pleased w the idea that jealousy rules a relationship   jealousy is a form of hatred for an enemy,  and love is not an enemy!  \n     good luck!
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What were they thinking? You have a brother. How cool is that? What to do from here? I would ask your sisters why they didn't tell you. Don't be too quick to be pissed yet. There may be a reason. I can't think of any but give them a chance. Have they been good sisters in the past or have they always left you out? Take your time and get your ducks in a row. It would be great to find out he is a real nice guy that anyone would love to have as a brother. You don't have to hurry or rush to judgment. I sure hope things work out. Good Luck.
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His just proably very busy and his thinking about you. Maybe his thinking about what to do with you next. Relax you dont want to scare this guy away. I've been there and done that. Its not cool becuase you hurt yourself for what you did. Just go with it and get to know him first. Don't jump to the marriage part. you guys just met.  I really think that there's things he needs to do and haven't had time to call you.  GIVE HIM THE BENEFIT OF THE DOUBT!!!!  unless you go out one day and caught him with someone else then just look at it like you don't care but don't let him see you be hurt. " Those who wait will be reward!!"
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It's up to you, but Let me tell you a little story."there once was this girl that kept getting played by all the guys she ever been with, so she began to think it was something wrong with her and she didn't go out with guys anymore, for about a year or so, then one day she decided to go out with a guy and they had been talking for about three months, kinda like you, and then the guy asked her if she would like to date on a permanate basis, she played hard to get for about a month after that in fear of getting her heart broken, now this guy though was different from the rest, he, treated her well, told her the truth about EVERYTHIMG, NEVER KEPT A Secret from her, unless it was for a surprise or something like that, but the Guy got tired of waiting for her so one day he asked one of her friends, "Am I wasting my time, becuase I really like your friend but she's not talking to me" The girl knew then that she was about to loose this guy, one who finally was different from her usual guys, so she went out on a limb and went with him, and you know what?.................................................................................................................................Now there happily married and the girl is very happy she chose to give it one more shot"  So dont give up we as women have to hold our heads high and kept it up and never let a man, keep us from reaching our goals or dreams and Never let on idot keep you from missing out on Prince Charming. And if later on the down the line, if this guy you with doesn't work out, wipe the dust off your feet and keep steppin.
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Sleeper_grrl has the right attitude.  If you want a good relationship, then you should be able to talk with the guy.  If you can't talk to a man about what he feels, then he is not someone you want a long term relationship with.
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Don't expect anything concrete from this guy first.  looks like he's way too confused about what he wants to settle down.  Just agree when he says he doesn't want a relationship.  If saying "let's just be friends" riles him up, forego it.
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I'm confused.. When you say you were speaking to other men.. is that all then? I don't see anything wrong w/that. You say tho 'he stayed w/me' and I don't know why he wouldn't (if it was just conversation.) You say he had a secret relationship.. was it sexual? You two both sound kind of jealous/possessive.. I mean I am basing this on the assumption there was nothing sexual involved in any of this. (If there was, that's a different story..) Let me see here.. He treats you like crap.. I take it that's the real issue on hand here.. I think men are kind of like babies (I'm married to one.. lucky me..) or they want their cake/ to eat it too.. they want us to cook and clean (and spread 'em) but on the other hand they want their 'freedom' to screw around on us at the same time. (We can't do anything along the same line tho..) that sux, right? He stayed because he's been with you and while the other gal's 'something new/exciting & different' you're the one he's 'used to living with' I am thinking. (Hell, this is depressing me!!) Hey, I DO think you've got value/self worth, dont' get me wrong! I'm just kinda bitter about men is all.. It sounds like my marriage of l4 years (boring.. I'm bored..) My ole man's an asshole (cuts me down) and then developed (or so he claims) e.d. so he tries to do the oral thing (doing me 'one big goddamned favor') on me for sex (but it's wearing thin or gettin' old I mean.. fast..) I want to dump him too.. (I think you want to dump THIS guy..) do it!! that's my 'valuable' advice for ya
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Sitting around, wondering & doing nothing won't get either of you back together. If you think it's worthwhile to try again, make the first move & see what happens. I'm not saying go all out and tell him outright. That's just me & I'd much prefer the guy to take the lead to let me know where he's headed. Just call and say Hi or leave some kind of messsage that let him know. See what he does next. Be prepared for the worst though as he may have moved on. At least you won't spend your life wondering.
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I'm having that EXACT same problem right now with a guy I'm hanging out with.\n\nAre you friends with him?  does he call you?  Do you hang out together?  Or are you wanting to know whether or not he is interested in doing these things with you?  Because there is a big difference, at least to me.
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Yea!!I am glad to see your moving on a little bit.  For the record I am not frustrated with you, nor the all knowing one...I think you are cute! I can tell by your questions you are overly causious.  I just feel pulled to encorage you to move it up with this gentleman.  Time goes by too fast and I hope you give him that look or tell him that it is time to take you out...I would take you out sight unseen and I have no Idea who you are.  So just do it girl!
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Has he had his 13th birthday yet? If he won't admit he likes you, how will you ever get him to ask you out? he sounds kind of immature to me....do you really want someone like that????? \nPS age and maturity only go hand in hand sometimes.
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There was a guy in my dorm freshman year that was sleeping with me and half of the other girls in the building.  None of us minded, even though most of us weren't the slutty type.  What set him apart from the rest was not only that he was hot, and confident, he was very mature about it.  He never tried to trick anyone into bed with fake feelings, he never lied about or tried to hide that he was seeing all of us, and he didn't tell all his friends.  He also didn't show up for 2 a.m. booty calls uninvited.  He kept us all satisfied and let us come to him, or he took us out on a date when he felt like seeing us.  He never made anyone feel disrespected, and he didn't freak out when we dated other guys.  Basically, he was very confident and straightforward.  The first time we got involved, we'd just been talking, and he looked at me and said, "I'd like to take you upstairs."  Honesty, no fear of rejection . . . and when someone did say no, he still talked to her and treated her as though she hadn't, and more often than not she ended up with him eventually.  We ended up recommending him to girls who hadn't had a turn yet!  (Plus, he was always safe and prepared.)
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hmmm...personally, i'd guess that he's not gay.  I'd say that he's either bisexual, or he's playing that angle to get you to be more relaxed, more comfortable around him, so the transition to a relationship would be easier and less awkward.  It might not work, but that would be my conclusion regarding the whole sitch.
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Well, as an MUNER, I've seen this happen. It's lucky that you were admin because if that note had been confiscated, there would be consequences. Anyways, you are right in asking him straight off would scare him. You don't really know this guy, do you? It seems like 2 or 3 weeks at most  and you already say he's NOT the player type. Maybe he is. If he really liked you, he would have called. This guy is not a perfect gentleman as he hasn't fulfilled his promise to call. I think he's keeping you as a safety as he flirts with you online but not in a more meaningful way. He maybe interested in another girl. There are other guys out there. Good luck.
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Let me tell you my story. 15 years ago I met my husband in our work place. I started our conversation with, Can I ask you a question that a few of us girls have been talking about in the break room because you would like a man's point of view on it. Of course he said yes, so I asked him how he felt about dating between people in the work place and how he felt about women making the first move as for asking a man out. I told him I wanted his honest opinion. \nHe gave it to me...so I asked him out. Now we have lived a very happy life. Good luck with this man and I hope he is everything you wanted.