Warning: Adult content\n\nIt is my experience that quite fashionably I guess or to hide some sort of weaknesses, some people say that they need to change their partners as many times as possible before settling down finally. They say that they are trying. What they try?\n\nOne of the answers is that they try flavours like flavours of ice cream.\nAnother answer is that they try that if they physically fit with another. Does it actually matter cause as the age goes by sex dies and things get loose; at least of fair sex. \n\nAdded to that they say that the longer the life the more certainty is that they would change their partners? What is the relationship between longer life and changing partners.\n\nBy the by my formula for life equals expected years one would live multiplied by an achievement factor. That means the more one achieves the more content the life is. The more content it is with successes and achievements the shorter it generally be e.g. Alexander the great.
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They don't understand that most amazing thing about marriage is growing old together.  To have somebody that loves , and cares for you when you are old, wrinkly, incontinent, invalid with no teeth :-) And yet he still thinks are beautiful. That is special...
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youre right when you say it's a neverending question with never a concrete answer to be had... all youre going to get are a bunch of other peoples opinions. Personally my own opinion is that if you get married, it becomes your duty to figure out what kind of sexual routine is satisfactory for the both of you. It's completely not fair and cruel for people to withhold sex, but at the same time, it's not fair for people to demand sex. That's why you need to communicate before hand. what you would be satisfied with. Some couples are fine with it being once or twice a week, and some prefer more. It all depends on the couple. For your other question, why do women want it less? I think it's because they have less of a sex drive-less testosterone and lets admit it, less chance of orgasm through sex alone so it's less of a motivation for them to have sex everyday. For women sex is generally a way to express love but for men, sex is just an activity. Most women can sense when their man just wants to f*ck them and I'm sure they don't mind this most of the time but generally they prefer sex to be about love and affection and closeness. I guess that's hard for men to understand, and it's hard for women to understand that men just see it as an activity sometimes separate from love. That's why the sexes need to communicate and sympathize with each other.
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Why not ask my ex-wife who thought it would be better to go out with a 53 year old married man instead of working on our marriage.  (Just a little vent here, I'll feel better, LOL.)\n\nI do believe too many folks give up too easily, or don't really try at all, or have unrealistic expectations of what marriage offers. \n\nMarriage is not give and take, it is give.\n\nI don't recall anything in my vows that said I'll be there unless I'm not happy.  They were a pledge to be there, regardless of circumstance.\n\nToo many folks either don't take traditional vows, or don't really think they mean anything, given the numbers of divorced people today.\n\nI don't know how to help folks decide that they are going to try.  All it takes if for one of the partners to bail out for the marriage to be over. \n\nSo we can coach and coach, but if one partner is selfish and chooses affairs, or abuse, or abandonment and divorce over working through the issues, I really don't know how you can solve that.\n\nI certainly wanted to work on the issues, but was unable to convince my ex-wife that her affair with a married man was a worse solution than working on our marriage.\n\nAnd the courts and society at large seems to go right along with her line of thinking.  If you are unhappy, don't bother looking at yourself, blame your partner and find another seems to be the way things are done.\n\nI agree, often they will end up with the same problems because they too are part of the problem, but failed to address that aspect of it.\n\nYou can run away from your spouse, but you cannot run away from yourself.  So if you have things that you need to address about yourself, then do that BEFORE you choose an affair or divorce.
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By nature, a lot of men are hunters and have the need for conquest.  Once they achieve the goal, whether it be to mate or marry, then something clicks in their head and it might be time to find the next challenge.  This trait is problematic in a marriage.  Some times we think that because we take the vow, that the deal is done, then don't need to try as much and take the relationship for granted.\n\nMarried for 10 years, then divorced for 5.  I find that sharing my freedom and independence with a special woman allows the relationship to remain fresh and alive.  I won't say never, but I'm liking being without the assumed obligations that go with marriage.  If I'm with someone, I enjoy making that choice more than once and if we find that its just not working for us any longer, it's simpler to part ways.  \n\nI say enjoy the gifts life has to offer and although it may be remote, if one day you happen across a keeper, then just don't close your mind to the possibility.  I certainly won't rush into anything and would live with someone for a good couple of years proir.  Let's see what we're like when all the pretending is over and learn if true compatibility exists.  Make sense?
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There's a number of variables to consider...Age and physical fitness, stress on the job, in the home or health related issues. In general, posters claiming that they want it as often as possible are generally correct. But what's 'possible' will vary from man to man. Most men can attain an erection and sustain sex to orgasm once daily at least through their 40's. But sex is as much about the mind as it is the body, and sometimes familiarity can breed contempt, as the saying goes.\n\nMen's hormonal levels drop over the years as well...just as womens hormones change over time. These drops first occur in the mid 20's, and slowly continue over the next several decades. This can also (negatively) affect sex drive. Certain health conditions can affect performance ability, especially some vascular conditions and spinal surgery or injury; which would affect either the ability to get and maintain an erection from a blood standpoint, or the same ability from a nerve or 'feeling' standpoint.\n\nHow often should a healthy man who loves you and finds you exciting and alluring want to have sex with you? The answer remains as often as possible!\n\nIf you've been in a steady physical relationship for a year or more, and your partner is over 30 years old, don't be surprised to see sex slipping to 2-3 times a week. In the 40's and 50's, it's relatively normal for sex to go down to 1-2 times per week. And an occasional bout of absitnence is not unusual, particularly if there's some stress outside the bedroom that's affecting his mind. Remember, there's almost as much going on with the mind as with the body where sex is concerned!\n\nHope this helps a bit!
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Wanting, and needing to cheat? Shows that there are, in some cases a different set of circumstances that trigger such desires to be accomplish, as much for man as for woman's? Honesty and dedication are the basic needs that in such scenario are obviously missing. I don't really know what, and why there are such impulses so indescribably real, though I believed overall cheating is a sign of immaturity as well of insecurity from the two, as well than the third sided triangle? been involved in the act of cheating. Though I know that depend of the circumstances and especial cases of each individuals involved the results are most all the time, disastrous. As well than a very bad and sad experiences, if there are Children's involved.---Thou lol..., I will subjects to all to avoid it-----, especially went this become a sex-basic act of betrayal.
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here's teh deal the way I see it;\n\nmarriages are failing faster than ever before, I believe that the reason is people are not taking the time to get to know eachother like they used to.  \n\nIt takes a very long time to get to really know a person good enough to decide if you can live with them for the rest of your life.  Most people (99.5%) go straight to bed after the 1st to 3rd date; when this happens you find out if you are SEXUALLY compatable with a person and it becomes the most important part of the relationship.  \n\nProblem is, even though we all wish we could, a relationship involves much more than sex and you can't spend the next 40 years of your life f****ing.\n\nFor this reason, I am starting to beleive that it is a very good idea to wait for a LONG time before becoming sexually involved in a serious relationship.  Get to know th eperson on a spiritual and emotional level.  \n\nWhat do they do when they first get out of bed in the morning, have you ever seen her without makeup, have you ever seen him around kids, what is his church like, how does her mom cook.  THese are all questions you need to know as they will help you to better choose a partner next time.
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Yes, reading through many of these questions (and answers as well) can make a person cynical.  Unfortunately, there's a lot of cluelessness---not only about making a commitment that will last, and putting in the effort, but also about what men and women need at the deepest levels.\n   But if you look around in the "real" world, not just on this site where so many problems are discussed, you'll find plenty of people still married, raising families, and then enjoying grandchildren.  I've found that it's best to make your closest friendships with people who are, like you seem to be, committed to keeping their marriages intact.
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The fast answer- when you are raw, red, and painful, it's too much. The experienced answer- depends on age. When you have raging hormones like peaking teenage or 20s boys, it seems you can never get enough. Women peak in their 30s. Married couples without gray hair, 2-3 times a week. Now the serious answer- what ever suits the two of you with no pushing the other. New boyfriend? WEAR PROTECTION, THAT MEANS A LATEX CONDOM EVERY TIME!!! Remember...whenever you have sex with someone, you are having sex with everyone else that person has ever had sex with. Loving boyfriends aren't always totally honest. Who wants to ruin a good thing. Strong hormones can make boys do stupid things, I KNOW! All it takes is one mistake to ruin your life forever, and that's a long time. Please be careful.
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At times a good conversation about hopes and dreams is in order. What do both parties want out of the relationship. Are both parties happy? A younger child can bring added pressures and it affected me also for awhile. I found myself doing many of the same things for a few months. I was in a total culture shock and didn't know how to handle the situation. I am now still there for my wife and its lasted 5 good years and counting. I am now myself again and love the family life. I guess at times it takes som getting used to and others it doesnt work out for people. The situation needs to be addresses because it is unhealthy for both parties. You have needs and so does he. You all need to work things out or split apart and find happiness.
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I admire the honest mature questioning. Do men get tired of the same woman? Genetically...deep down where the desire to procreate comes from I'm sure. But that's why we have a developed brain. We can move beyond the animalistic impulses and focus our attentions on the woman we love. If I, as a man, want something new in my sex life, why would I NOT express and share it with the one woman with whom I am comfortable and love the most? Some of us can think this way. Others.....not so much. Judge us not by others, but by our own actions.
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Gosh, I don't know if it ever gets boring or not.  I'll have to wait to find out.  I've only been married for 33 years, and each time it is different, with the same woman no less.  Sure, we don't do it twice nightly anymore, but I still am in the tries nightly stage.  Marriage is not something that you back out of if things get difficult.  You have to work on it all of the time.  I find that going out on dates and seducing my partner the same way I did before we got married, is a hell of a lot of fun.
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You hit the nail on the head with "mid-life crisis". He needs validation that his manhood and virility are still intact. This is however, a breach of his professional ethics. His marriage may not be unhappy ... just stale. It happens in the very best of marriages.
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The same thing happened to my second wife.  We did it like rabbits when we were dating but once married, the activity dropped off quite a bit.  I am sure the rigors of married life has something to do with it and the comfort in being in a long term relationship.  I am sure it doesn't happen to all women nor men for that matter.  Could be that you just need to try something different every now and then.  Location, clothing, time of day, etc.  Variety is the spice of life.
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Whenever an individual undergoes, a period of drastic change, be it physically or Socially. they are bound to experience some psychological changes too, it is possible that Your soon to be EX-Husbands desire for a more intimate relationship with you, is \na.  Nothing more than a drowning mans final grasp at a straw, i.e  last desperate attempt to salvage the relationship.\nb.  A final desire to capitalize on the situation, and get as much action as posible before, it is all over.\nc.  A failing libido's challenge, to prove that you did not divorce due to his failure to excite you, ( as i suspect from you query, you did not enjoy his advances then, any more than you do now!.)\nd.  A manipulation on his part, i.e to create a situation where you will not be able to divorce (Pregnancy, Shame etc)\n(You seem to be the kind of person who puts, his needs before yours.)\ne.  A horny Man!!!!!!\nRemember there are many reasons why an individual does something, as there are stars in the sky. The question you should be asking yourself is,\n" AS A STRONG WILLED WOMAN, ENDOWED WITH PRIDE AND HER TWO SENSE, WHAT ARE YOU GOING TO DO? AND WHY"
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It is important to have GREAT and VARIED sex all of the time as often as possible in a relationship to keep the fire in it . . . \n\nSex before marriage I say . . . Try before you buy!!!\n\nand internet relationships well is new to me so we we will have to find out baby . . .
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Heterosexual relationships that last a lifetime often see the role of physical sex diminish over time anyway.  Lifelong relationships last more because the two people do a nice job of working to grow closer in all ways.\n\nIn the end, people want to be with someone who they like spending their time with and who helps them grow and feel more complete.\n\nSo to answer your question, it might be difficult for any relationship to last a lifetime in today's society - but homosexual relationships stand just as much of a chance as do heterosexual ones.