i like this guy but so does my best friend.\nlast yr we went through this and we got into a huuge fight.\nso not i keep my feelings so myself. but now we both like the same kid and i cant tell anyone becuz itll get to my friend. help!!
132666
take the guy away from her obviously both if you can't have him and if you want him and he wants you take him.\n cautious: if it doesn't work out between you and him you'll go back to her.\n if you two are really friends you will still be friends even if one of you gets him first
38252
i know that you value the friendship you have with him, but you absolutely have to tell him that you dont have the same feelings towards him...being a guy, theres nothing that we hate worse than either A being led on only to be thrown away (which im not suggesting youre doing it just might seem to be that way to him) or B not being told the truth early and often..\n\ni think the best course of action would be to tell this kid that you really want to keep your friendship because you treasure it but you dont think its a good time to be together
83388
I understand, but I think you'de ought to tell him that you really like him, but don't want your friendship with him and you to break... Break it to him gently, but say you still want to be his friend. Do what your heart tells you!
245959
you really have to ask her what's the deal with what happened.but since i assume that she's your bestfriend,then i say that don't let a guy come between friendship.no matter how much you love him.and IF she wants him for herself and she lets this guy come between the two of you, then later down the road you won't be the one feeling guilty about a guy possibly ruining a beautiful friendship.
104983
If you are a young kid, please ignore the prior poster. If you like someone I think you need to find a way to tell them. It's hard, but worth it. Take care
334631
Okay, you like him, and you don't just like him........you LOVE him, and deep down inside, you feel REALLY upset that he likes your best friend, even though they go together, you still want him, but I guess only patience is your only option, I'm going through the same thing- except I don't know if my crush likes my best friend, I don't think he does either. But yeah, only time will tell. Hope this helps.
82675
I've been in this situation before and i know how u feel. YOu want to go out w/ the guy but u want to stay loyal to your friend. I think you should confront your friend and tell her how you feel about him.. ask her if she would mind if you asked him out or something...if she gets mad..is that really a good friend? i mean of course your a "bit" jelous of her and she is most likely a "bit" jelous of you...well she certainly will be after you tell her your feelings..but thats ok..like i said, is she really a friend if she gets mad that you like him, and want to go out with him? we all get feelings about people and we cant control them..thats part of growing up..part of life..everyone goes thru it..just try to get past...live your life at your most!! hope i helped!! best of luck to you! =D! <3
356750
I think you should do what your heart says. If it is telling you that you love this guy, not a little middle school or high school crush, but actually love the guy, its a tough decision. I was in the same position about 4 months ago, but luckily it worked out for me, my friend did get over my now boyfriend. But I had to sit down and have a talk with her. I actually asked her permission to date him. I didnt want to lose a friend over a guy. It can work, and if she says its ok, then she would have no reason to be angry, but if she says no, she doesnt want you to, then just think of how akward it would be to go out with him? she would always be angry, and it would hurt her alot. What if she made a move for him without talking to u? wouldn't that hurt you? Talk to her, and really consider what you say, how you say it, and listen to what she has to say. do it when things are not rocky, or else it will go horribly wrong. It sounds to me like you two need to talk it out, and if necesary, not have either of you date him. it is weird for a while...trust me. and if she says its ok, then it may be akward for a while, but eventually she will be ok with it unless she really does like that guy. And also be sure this guy is really worth it. Trust me, if its a crush, it could ruin both friendships. just have one on one time with him and talk things out with him too. remember, comunication is key. without it, it can all splash in your face. and listening to how ur friend feels is always important, so dont blow it off, or she will be very upset. more than if u hadn't asked her in the first place. just talk to each of them one on one, get a perspective from both of them, and be sure this guy is worth it and make sure he isnt best as a best friend...make sure u want to take it to the next level. who knows, maybe u guys can be as cute of a couple as everyone claims me and my bf is...and one more thing, GOOD LUCK!!! :)
301993
I think honesty is the key. If you like him you should talk to your friend first. If you don't tell him that you don't really care for him, but you know someone that does. Lead him on, maybe he'll get interested in your friend!! Set up a blind date for the two, hopefully it will go well!
172232
I'm sure he likes you "in that way" but he's probably just as freaked out and confused about it as you.  Sooner or later one of you will hurt the other, either by asking the other to "cross the line" or by dating someone else.  I think you could avoid that by trying to be VERY mature and sit down alone and talk about how the 2 of you feel about each other which is probably in the middle between "just friends" and wanting to jump into bed with each other.  You freindship will not be the same after this talk but it might be a better alternative than waiting until this timebomb is set off by hormones rather than diffused by the 2 of you taking an honest look at how much you really care about each other, your special friendship, and I'm sure that niether of you wants to hurt the other emotionally.
370174
Well remember, ur friend will always be there for u but guys come and go. If u end up w/him and eventually "u will" break up- odds are. Then what? u don't have him and ur best friend has found another. Let me tell u, I had a very best friend in high sch. and we were inseperable 1 day another friend of mine says;tell her or I will! Sooooo.. my frined say's I F*****-John (my bf) I was heart broken! she almost laughed. She was my best friend!? what the hell? but now he ended up being a loser and she ended up w/3 kids to 3 diff guys and she's w/none. I am married 16 yrs w/2 kids and happy. I know u didn't need to hear my life story but u got it anyway. Chose ur friend! plenty of guys will come along later. Don't b a friend like mine was to me.
181828
I think you should ask your best friend and find out how she feels.  It would be wrong to loose a friend over a guy that you are not even sure you like.
546984
omg ive liked the same guy for 3 years i thot i was the only person that liked anyone for that long!! but anyways i think you should talk to your bffl and tell her that this is really upsetting you.. if shes really your friend she should listen.. and if that doesnt work just talk to your crush before she does or ask him out or something. i think he would be more likely to go out with you anyways because your a lot better friends with him and you have a good personality. hope this helps!!
514519
dear confused girl,\ndoes he like you? if he does then tell him that you still have feelings for him. talk to him, and why is your " BFF " telling him you don`t like him anymore? i think you should have a little talk with her too. good luck ! =]
283883
Well then, it depends on your point of view about how precious the friendship between both of you. If you have your ups and downs and you're sure that he can be trusted and befriended for the rest of your days, then go ahead tell him. Whatever happened with your relationship, a best friend will never go away. If bad things happened, then you can always returned to the first stage. And make sure that you tell him that...\n\nDespite that, I would strongly advice you to at least give him hints first that you liked him. Don't go forward first, and let the man do the job (honestly a man will feel greater if he moved on first). At least gave him hints, one or two that you can and have liked him more than a friend.  \n\nSlipped in some sneaky talks about relationship when you're talking to each other. The word, "What if we're..." can be a good trick to use. I'm sure if you managed to pull this one of, he'll realized your feeling towards him and move ahead to do what his heart says. \n\nA best friend is someone worth having, worth caring and worth fighting. Who knows, he can actually be your 'best friend' for the rest of your life. Good luck!
146581
Keep doing what your doing and put your feelings aside unless you want to risk losing your friend.  This is her time and her relationship or at least possible relationship.  If things between them don't work out then you should ask your friend if she thinks you and this guy might work out.
332817
if he tries to b like bff nice then say sm like this is only friendly right? i dont wanna loose ur friendship something like that...make it clear that u value his friendship but dont want more say its for fear of ruining the friendship... u can always talk to him about a kid u do like to show that u like someone else...thatll make him back off for as long as he knows u like the other person\nif at one point he does ask u out then tell him the same type of thing u dont wanna loose his friendship