I am 20 years old.I withdrew from college because of major depression and my parents have me in complete isolation from everyone because they don't like a lot of decisions i've made so me getting sick was the perfect time for them to take my car and send me to my godmother's house away from familiarity and friends which is only worsening my depression. I know I need to break away from them, live my own life but I have no idea how I can support myself to be able to get an apartment, buy a car so i can be in a place to go back to school..Someone please help me because this is a move I KNOW I have to make for my well being
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First of all, you need to get ahold of yourself, find a job, and have a little more self confidence.  The people who get hired and move up in life all have great self confidence, a good out look on life and most are optomistic.  If you wallow in your depression, you will get nowhere.  So cheer up, look at the world with new eyes and go for it!
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You need to start thinking about what is going to be good for you and your future and make up your mind that you are not going to let anyone or anything keep you down any more....Please,...sweetheart...don't even be talking about killing yourself ....You should go and talk to a school counselor, and express your concerns...and tell them why you can't talk to your parents and that you want to succeed in this world..and then, I am going to tell you to pray to God and to Jesus, for your answers..and you need to talk to someone and let some adult that you can really trust, know just why you are feeling so violated and down....which is what I think is going on....Please little one, I think that there is a beautiful horse some where that is waiting to be owned by you..and a wonderful guy who needs you...Jesus Loves you and I bet a lot of people do..
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my dear . . . I am soooo sorry.\n\nYour mother is being a jealous . . . possessive b****.\n\nMost parents want their children to succeed . . . but there are a rare few . . . that will try to hold their children back because they don't want them to do better than they have.\n\nWhat is your plan regarding college . . . will you be moving into a dorm.  Probably getting a part time job . . . did you get a scholarship?  The best thing for you . . . is to get out of that negative environment.  I know it is scary . . . but you can do it . . . and you should do it.\n\nIf you are unable to move out . . . just reply back to her . . . just because I am trying to do something better in my life . . . which you could not do yourself. . . either . . . encourage me or butt out . . . because I won't quit and I don't want to be a loser like you.\n\nWell maybe not in those exact words.  But I think you get my meaning.\n\nTake care of yourself.
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I would contact social services. You obviously have a place to stay or you would not be on here. Stay in school, they will pay or child care. Social services should have plans for you and your situation. Do not stop talking with your parents. Keep attempting to work things out with them. You may have toget a job after school. email me if you like, i am a life coach and will coach you for free. james101092@yahoo.com
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I think you need to explore life and travel before settling down.  Go to college, get a career for yourself, get a job, an apartment.  See what it's like to live on your own.  Be independent before you become dependent on anyone.  Trust me, I was with someone but I cut him short, did all the above and now I am married with child and I can't tell you how happy I am.  I've done the things I wanted to before settling down.
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If you took drivers ed in school do you need further instructions or are you ready to take the test? Get a friend to let you drive with her/him to see if you are ready and if so then just go and take the test. Maybe if you have your license they will let you drive the car Soon you will be out on your own and it will not matter so much that they play favorites. My parents didn’t teach me how to drive, my husband and father-in-law did. Continue to be a great person and someone will be there for you and you won’t need or miss your family when you leave home. Stay in school and let them pay for your college. Get what you can from them in the way of education and when you are finished with school it will be time to start your life away from home. It will be all right if you believe it will, just hang in there you are almost finished with school and then can start a new life somewhere else. Make friends to turn your energies and thoughts on. ▲
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well you need to understand your parents first.they are scared of you getting hurt outside of your parents sight.make them know and think you are an adult.come home early from parties.make your outings short from friends.work hard at school if your schooling.plus get a job while you in college.save money to get a car for your self.and stick with your parents for another 5years by keep on saving money so that way you can buy a nice small house of your own..that way your parents wont worry about you so much.cuz they seen how you respect your self and securing your self on money wise...transportation and fianancial needs is the key to survive..so no matter how far are you from your parents..they know that you can manage your survival needs...show them that your a mature woman not a teenager girlie girl anymore...good luck independent beauty queen
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Wow your parents are being very selfish.  It sounds like you've made up your mind about your boyfriend and leaving him his not an option.  My advice is to move out asap.  You're 25, they can't stop you.  You're parents shouldn't hold that over your head...they are saying all that stuff to CONTROL you.  Trust me, sounds like something my mother would have said to me when I lived at home.  We get along a lot better now that I'm not living with her.  I don't think you're parents hate you but they are not being fair.  \n\nThis might sound out there but did you get your college degree yet?  That might help you get a better job and be able to afford living on your own.\n\nAnyways, I hope you feel better and I'm sorry you have to put up with that.  Again, move out asap.
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You might want to look in your neighborhood for some employment idea. Cutting grass, washing cars, walking dogs etc. You are such a wonderful person to try to help your parents. Just remember that those are adult problems and you are still a young one and you should try to enjoy your childhood. It goes by so quickly. Good luck to you and your family
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Try talking to you guidance counselor if you are in high school or your health center if you are in college.\n\nYou are making an important step in admitting that you have problem.  If at all possible I recommend you give your parents a chance to support your recovery and treatment.  Facing your problem is hard enough you do not need to take it on all by yourself.
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First off *HUGS*!\n\nSecond off, unfortunately there is nothing youc an do to make them stop.  Be it your mom, dad, step mom or sibling, that choice has to come from them.  And remember, its not your fault.\n\nHow old are you?  It really sounds like you are in an abusive situation.  I would talk to a councelor at school and let them know whats going on.  Are you living with this family member?  Is there anyone else you could stay with?  As far as your step mom goes, can you talk to your dad?  If you can't talk to him or her, you need to let her comments go.  Realize you are none of the horrible things being said to you.  Sometimes, its unfortunate but you have to take a mental break from the people in your life.  Your step-mom or dad if they are the ones that you have the issue with.  You are a strong young person and this is a very short yet impressionable time in your life.  \n\nTell youself you are your own person and you will not let the rest of you're life be the summation of this small time frame.  And that you will not end up like them in your future.  I know this is hard though and you don't always have to believe it in certain moments, but when always remind yourself and eventually it wont be so hard to remember. \n\nAre there other activities you can do?  Maybe take up volunteer work or a sports activity to get you out of the house as much as possible?  Its always good to have someone to talk to.  Like I said, go see a councelor at school.  If you feel you can't do this, there are Alateen meetings all over.  They are connected to Alcoholics Anonymous in the fact they are for family members of alcoholics.  You can meet other people in your situation and it can be a great support.\n\nBe strong love, you are your own person and can get through this, and there is NEVER anything wrong with yourself or asking for help.  You'll be in my thoughts and prayers.
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I'm sorry to hear about your situation. I'm having trouble getting back to school also because I and my family are too poor. I want to be a psychologist, a counselor. All you can do is wait and have faith that what is meant to happen will happen. In the mean time work hard. God(whichever one you believe in) helps those who help themselves. :^)
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You can't do anything in regards to your parents. BUT I say stay in school get educated and then move out on your own. If your father is wrong then give your mom support. And right now, from what you have supplied here your dad is dead wrong.
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what is so important about where you live now,moving maybe a better place to make new friends and cutting your wrists is not going to change the fact of moving unless you die then you wouldnt no if they moved or not so why put your parents through all this shit tell them how you feel and see why they want to move it maybe for the better like a better job means more money you can always write to your friends so do the right  thing and talk to your parents and get some help cause if you would take a big risk on killing yourself because your moving then you need some professional help
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For your own metal health and well being you need to find a way to move. Rent a room with some other college students, check out the dorms, apply for grants and loans. Get a part time job.\n\nYour dad sounds like a very angry and unreasonable person. From the little you have said his treatment of your family is psychologically/emotionally abusive. The man sounds much like my own father. Moving out was the best thing I ever did for myself. Reading the book "The Dance of Anger" by Harriet Lerner helped me resolve many of my feelings about him.\n\nAbout talking to your GF, there are plenty of public computers. Your college should have some and your local library. Yahoo Messenger has a web based version that does not require you to download so you can use it on public computers.\n\nGood Luck and take care of yourself.
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First, unless you are been physically or psychologically abused DO NOT LEAVE YOUR HOME. And if so you just don’t pack and leave, there are steps to follow to ensure your safety and wellbeing.\nHave a talk with your parents, let them know it’s difficult for you at home and it’s causing serious distress on your life. Best wishes
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Please phone your doctor immediately, Ask for an urgent  appointment. The Doctor whether you are on campus or at home, can refer you to social services  for assistance.\nYou may be able to take a year out , but that needs discussing with your college/university\nLife is short enough without finding new ways to make it shorter. Nothing on this earth is worth making yourself ill over.\nWhilst you are going through a really bad time now, you will miss out on how good and beautiful life can be, so please do not end your life. You can get the help you need but sometimes we just do not know where to begin. I hope this will be a new beginning, for your mum and you