I do not know if i really want to be with him i really love him but......i don't know i need help!
137261
it depends on you and what you want. not what he wants. if you feel like your slipping in the relationship, try to keep it going because if it`s not meant to be then things would have been over with done, sealed, and packaged. your relationship was supposed to happen because it makes you who you are but if it`s meant to be and continue, well that is what destiny is for. just go with your heart, not your head.\n\nhope that helps =]
6075
well search your heart and find out if you love him or you want to get down with him.  its very goood to clear things out of you or you will hate your self if you don't express your self or you will blow up. but if you love him then this is a way to tell him:\n"i really like you and you have been such an inspiration to me.i don't know if you feel the same way and i hope what i am about to say dosen't ruin our friendship because i like being your friend. i don't know how to put this i find you very attractive and i think i begining to fall in love with you." what about that. sorry i could not help much
122156
Sweetie, you're only 16.. way too young to be thinking about being so serious about a relationship. From what you said I can feel a strong sense of immaturity espeecially from you. I respect your feelings and all but I do have to tell you that you can't simply change the world because you love him. Life is more complicated than you think my dear. Accept the fact that it is not you who can make that change easier. It is only HIM who can make it easier or harder because that's his life.\n\nWhy not reverse the situation? Why not try to understand the transition that he is going through and allow him to grow-up by himself. If you are really meant for each other, you will have all the chances. When you're both old enough and more mature to handle things, you can still end up being together.\n\nFor now, I say let things be and allow both you and him to grow-up.
241911
If you don't talk to him, how are you going to find out? You need to communicate SOMEHOW.  But you need to try not to be too pushy so you don't scare him if you know what I mean.  People get scared if they're feeling pushed.  Maybe HE'S afraid to tell YOU how he feels. Try telling him he's really special in your life.  You don't have to come out and say "I love you" -- but everyone likes to hear they are special to others.  Wouldn't you?  I'll be if you heard that from someone (him maybe) -- you wouldn't feel quite so insecure would you?
89357
I am going through the same deal, except I am no where close to the love part yet. It is difficult to lay yourself out on a line when your not certain they feel the same. I am beginning to understand you just have to take that plunge if you care enough that it worries you and your ready to express it. I need to take my own advice.
634112
Sounds like you feel he doesn't love you and just using you for sex.  You may have that feeling because he is.  If you feel that way you can't be enjoying your time with him , so do something that you can get into with him. Just spend some time together going out to diner or movies you may need some quality time together and rekindle your relationship.
385912
We always find something wrong with whatever situation we're in- your boyfriend sounds like he needs some room/latitude to check out things. Don't suffocate him. He probably loves you very much but right now is feeling constrained by the relationship. Best thing you can do is let him know you love him and allow him some opportunity do what he wants. It maybe doesn't seem fair, but it's a chance for you to do some thinking/living for yourself ,too. It is said ,"Set it free and if it's real, it'll return to you sooner or later". That's what good love is- trusting, enduring, and patient as well as self-sacrificing.
313876
talk to him, let him know how you feel, let him know what you want and need in a relationship . . .see how he responds . . .
637102
I agree with the statement, "he's not that into you".  Can you really deal with that?  If you can deal with being someone's convenient comfort, then by all means go for it.  If you're looking for someone to participate in your life, then he's not the one.  It sounds like he's not capable of participating in anyone's life when he has problems of his own.  I learned very quickly not to get involved with this kind of guy.  It's a continual cycle.  You guys make out and have fun.  You "express" how awesome you're feeling.  He runs away and (ugghhh) if you pin him down, there's an excuse that has nothing to do with you!  Hence...he's not that into you or the excuse that he uses for his lack of "connecting" with you would be YOU! Ha!  A guy that tells you that he's having a hard time talking to you because......(you really said something that made him think twice, you did something that really made him angry, you really didn't seem to be that into him..)  now THAT's the guy who's into you and is giving you the opportunity to work together on a relationship.\n\nHow do you get over him?  Easy, picture yourself having his kids and constantly being left at home with the little ones because he always has something better to do AND your friends and family are all shaking their heads because they probably told you not to go there...AND you're crying your eyes out every night because he believe he's with someone else and he doesn't care about how you feel.....yada yada yada...  How can you create an image out of what is NOT true.  You're imagining yourself building a life with this person??  On what grounds?  Our imagination takes shape in reality when we have a solid foundation for what we'd like to make happen.  Why imagine yourself as a doctor and think it's going to come to past if you've no interest in medicine or haven't started medical school?\n\nJust some thoughts...
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Honestly i think he's just confused and needs time with out you so that he can see how much he needs you. He might just need room to realize that you all do belong together. Talk to him get all your feelings out because if you keep anything in and away from him you will lose him for longer than planned. trust me. My boyfriend and i were about to take a break and i told him exactly how i felt i was scared to do it because i didn't want him to feel like i was making him stay but he said that he was glad i told him because it let him know that i care deeply for him. Just try talking to him about it and see what happens from there.
675275
I think you should talk to him directly, he might be suffering from something that you don't know, he might need your help. Make sure he loved you as much as you say you loved him, make sure that the time you send together wasn't just time pass, if all is ok then ask him out and get married. Share his feelings, and share his problems, and you can expect him to share your feelings and problems and your life.
23633
If you are not sure how you feel about him, how can you say you want your love, for him, to grow? First and foremost, you need to KNOW how you feel before you do anything at all. Let nature take its course.
597927
im in a situation just like you ilove my guy to death but i feel isolated but ive been going out with him for 3 years. ive stayed with him by making him want me. i just did simple things like call him and tell him i just wanted to say hi and hear your voice so net i gotta go talk to you later and then i realize (on my ID) that he called me like 3 or 4 times he never leaves a full messge its either hey baby or hi and thats how he keeps me wanting him!\n       good luck!!!!
127072
im confused about my guy as well...i guess no way out.. unless u wanna ask which i dont think is the best idea... do wht im doing - waiting, if he loves u, he iwll tell u someday...just b patient
81699
It sounds like he's committed to you so what's the hold up.  What do you want out of the relationship?  If you really love him tell him.  If you don't let him go. The relationship won't go anywhere if you hold it back.  Tell him how you feel or eventually you will lose him.
501395
uh, why do you need help. i think that there is a definite connection with your boy. if not, then you definitly want it because you know all the signs you describes point to wanting. just make sure he's a nice boy. nice boys end up last, but in the end, they last the longest.
97718
If you don't feel the same then no, if he does not really love you or you do not love him chances are things will not work out, and there's no reason for you too be hurt again f you was. It takes two remember to make a relationship work. Just follow your heart. Good luck