on one e-mail he talked about her ass. he does not drink, he gives me all his pay check.  we go everywhere together. if it wasn't because he left his e-mail open i would of never known
133267
As far as my personal experience goes....NO! Definately not!\nI have been married twice by so called men who have had affairs with co-workers.
187698
OMG that is awful!\n\nKeep it brief. He was being dishonest, cheating, and not communicating... so no reason why YOU should show him your vulnerability. \n\nTell him that due to your recent discoveries, you're speechless that he would disrespect you to such an awful degree... and obviously, as consequence, want to cut all contact with him. \n\nWish him good luck with his pathetic little life, hang up on him before he has a chance to answer or give any useless explanations, and go treat yourself!
151656
He's committed to another woman.  It would be unkind and unprofessional to put the moves on him.  Don't poop where you eat.  Find a nice single guy, and life will be much, much easier for you.
41390
Pay attention to what he does and not what he says. Of course, there are two sides to a story. I would say he was being polite showing your friend around work. He might be telling your friend what SHE wants to hear and not necessarily what he will do. If he does not respond to email, try calling him. I believe IF a man is interested in a woman, HE will persue her. Maybe it is time for your friend to move on. If he is really interested he would email, he would call, etc.
29857
I cannot agree or disagree with him.  I was not present during all of those 4 to 5 months that the couple was dating.  He says he never promised her to get into a serious relationship, but did he ever tell her that?  Did he just lead her on for the sex?  Did she ever ask him what his intentions were?  Did she just assume that because they were having sex that the relationship was serious (or would lead to more commitments)?\nAnd what business is this of yours (unless the woman was your sister)?\n... and don't you just hate it when somone answers a question with a bunch of questions?
673897
The words you used initiative and adult do not have any thing negative attached to them.  I think it is all according to what they said and how they said it.\nPerhaps they are a very close friend of yours and they were trying to be helpful with their unsolicited advice.\nWhat you observed as critical could quite possibly have been constructive criticism.\nRead the e-mail over again and keep and open mind while doing so.  Try to think of who this person is to you and what they mean to you.  Would you think of them causing you harm or having your best interests at heart.\nThen I would talk to them directly and see what they are trying to say to you.  \nI say hear them out and give them a chance, you might be giving up on a very good friend who really cares.
529416
I would have to tell him that I have read the letter, Apologise for the fact that I was snooping but I would have to confront him and ask him what she means otherwise you are not going to get it out of your head.\nYou take that chance when you snoop through other peoples things you find things that you don't like and it drives you crazy, I'm not condemning you cos Ive done the same thing but I would have to own up and bring the subject out IN the open.\nGood luck, and remember he might have said something meaningless to her and she has took it in the wrong context.
582176
I think that it says less about you and more about HIM that he's telling everyone your business and "using" you.  It says about him that he is a USER, and has poor character and that he shouldnt be trusted by anyone.  Thats what I would hear if he were telling me all of your business.  I think that your only issue if I can call it that is choosing a little more wiser.   Other than that, the rest is a statement (not a good one) about him.
270319
Sounds like she's a little jealous.  It didn't work out between him and her so she doesn't want him to work out with anyone else.  I think it's more of a hurt ego actually.  The question is why is she so concerned about your feelings that she has to tell you about all his downfalls?  Do the best you can to just ignore it.  It doesn't sound like you two are any type of friends and she's not physically there to make it harder to deal with so when you check your emails and you see her name, just click on that little X and you're done with it.
604758
Are you kidding me? My lady would have my nuts for earrings if I tried to pull something like that. No other women comes before her. Ex-lovers...Nope, don't even bring the name up. Not if i want to sit and listen to her bitch at me for the entire night. If she even thought I was emailing and having open communication with an ex. It would be my a**.  You are his women and he should have at least a speck of decency and stop it all together. If he does not your relationship will break down for sure.
4765
Absolutely not. How did you not kick him as hard as you could? You have more self control than I do. Whenever he is not home go and put your own profile on that same website and start sending him messages and just mess with him a while. Set up a meeting (if he goes for it) and bust him there. Then after he knows you know, talk about why he did it and see if its something he did out of boredom or for another reason. Good Luck!!
94835
You need to back up and QUICKLY. You have sevral issues going on here and NONE are good. If you are doing these things as you say than you don't trust him. This is bad. And you have actually written to a lady, this was/is also wrong. I would start by sitting down with him and explaining to him that you want to be closer to him and how much you really care for him. But you still gotta back up like I said and the quicker the better. You may need to talk to someone about your mistrust issues. Has he given you reason to believe he is screwing around. Until he does back off. And if he is screwing around, then DUMP him.
512794
If he only sent you an email he is probably with his ex, either way it means he does not care that much about you...he has your number, he can call you (right?) and the fact that he did not defend you over his ex, when she was obviously in the wrong, shows he either does not care that much about you, and might still have feelings for his ex, more so than he does for you..I'm sorry if this sounds harsh, but i am just trying to give you the best advice, which is to realize (which it sounds like you already have) that this guy does not truly care about you and the best thing for you to for yourself is to just forget about him and move on, as hurtful as it may be. You could email him back demanding an explanantion, and telling him how hurt you are, but it wouldn't make much of a difference.
421115
Well, I have been the rebound guy once.  She came right out and told me that I was just the "stepping stone"  and I was ok with that because I was in the same position.  But after a month or 2 she started drunk dialing me all the time and leaving me these psychotic messages on my machine professing her undying love for me.  One minute I'm the stepping stone the next I'm the knight in shining armor.  Personally I didn't want any part of that, and I don't think I will put myself in that position again!  I guess what I'm getting at is if you tell him he is the rebound guy keep it at that or just don't bring it up at all.
447404
You're right, there may be something going on.  You will have to play detective.  If you get a chance try to see if he has received any texts from her and read them. Ask him why he runs your sister down.  You need to follow him if you can (without being seen) to see where he goes.  I wish you luck.
25109
Hey little buddy! Sounds like you stepped into a big bucket of stuff there. Just goes to show it dosen't pay to try and be nice. This guy must be some kind of freak. The sad part is I'm sure he has done this same thing before. With a nut like this all it takes is a simple HI from a pretty girl and they automaticaly hear "Take me now, I want you for ever and I'll bear your demon seed" What's even sadder than that is he may end up hurting somebody. I'm glad you realized that and ran. The guy needs a  12 step program to stop the voices that are not there. Oh---The only time you should have to put your life on hold is if you have children. They would come first no matter what. Otherwise no man or no one can tell what you will or can't do. And for gods sake, don't be givin' out your danm phone number or address. Be safe and happy
542833
You teach people how to treat you. If you're ok with being asked out by email and never spoken to, then he's your man. If you think he's playing games or messed up, stop responding to him. I don't know why you'd even care to figure him out- I'd just ignore him.