Unfortunately, sometimes we find oursleves in realtionships where we love the person we're with so much even though we can clearly see the relationship failing. The bible says that love is patient (in some translations it says it never gives up). So when should love give up the unsuccesful relationship and when should it persevere to the end, even if it is doomed to be a waste?
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If youve made a marriage commitment you have no excuse to dishonor it.\n\nOtherwise, look into the reasons for the failure. Its important to overlook trivial things. You will have trials in any love relationship. If you cant take it now, how will you handle the really bad? \nHow do you know it is doomed to be a waste? My guess is youre guessing yourself. Or that youve already decided. I seriously encourage you to inquire of God rather than us here who have so little knowledge compared to the Most High.\n\nPrayer is your most valuable tool. Use it. \n***************************\nTo therealdeal deal below. Divorce is wrong always. God only permits it in severe situations and even then it is not pleasing to Him. After all He puts up with us and takes us back each time we betray Him.\n\nMatthew \n31"It has been said, 'Anyone who divorces his wife must give her a certificate of divorce.'[f] 32But I tell you that anyone who divorces his wife, except for marital unfaithfulness, causes her to become an adulteress, and anyone who marries the divorced woman commits adultery.\n\nMatthew 19\nDivorce \n 1When Jesus had finished saying these things, he left Galilee and went into the region of Judea to the other side of the Jordan. 2Large crowds followed him, and he healed them there. \n 3Some Pharisees came to him to test him. They asked, "Is it lawful for a man to divorce his wife for any and every reason?" \n\n 4"Haven't you read," he replied, "that at the beginning the Creator 'made them male and female,'[a] 5and said, 'For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh'[b]? 6So they are no longer two, but one. Therefore what God has joined together, let man not separate." \n\n 7"Why then," they asked, "did Moses command that a man give his wife a certificate of divorce and send her away?" \n\n 8Jesus replied, "Moses permitted you to divorce your wives because your hearts were hard. But it was not this way from the beginning. 9I tell you that anyone who divorces his wife, except for marital unfaithfulness, and marries another woman commits adultery." \n\n 10The disciples said to him, "If this is the situation between a husband and wife, it is better not to marry." \n\n 11Jesus replied, "Not everyone can accept this word, but only those to whom it has been given. 12For some are eunuchs because they were born that way; others were made that way by men; and others have renounced marriage[c]because of the kingdom of heaven. The one who can accept this should accept it."
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relationships, and love for that matter, are not supposed to be judged/prejudged based on one event.  love is a decision to commit, not blind faith based on perceived symbolisms.  God has a reason for everything, every time.  It's not just the "ME" and the "NOW."
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Never give up. Ever. Giving up is just like sending the child to their grave. And who will continue to love this person if not the mother, father, or both? Everyone can be helped. Yes, everyone.
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You can't love without doing.  Love is action, not simply feeling.  And even feeling should prompt one to act on it.\n\nJesus said, "If you love Me, do My commandments."\n\nI don't really understand the "having a personal relationship with Jesus, yet (forgetting) about His Loving Teachings."  To my way of thinking, having a relationship with Him means my love for Him flows outward to others.\n\nLove doesn't always mean unconditional approval of what someone does.  \n\nI've said before, my husband and I come from abusive homes.  When you have a rigid, unloving upbringing, you naturally think that love must be the lack of structure.  Getting to do anything you want.\n\nAfter my second miscarriage, Jim (my husband) got me a black Labrador Retriever puppy.  He has a really sweet disposition.  I knew from our family raising Doberman Pinschers that dogs need to be trained, but Jim just couldn't bring himself to make Bear do anything in order to get treats.  Or to not let him jump up whenever he wants.  Or to refrain from giving him scraps from his plate.  \n\nBear became a terror.\n\nAnd it's not really his fault.  He needs to know what's appropriate.  And it's our responsibility to teach him.  Jim has felt like setting limits is unloving.  But really, we all need limits.  \n\nSometimes loving others - while it's not my responsibility to "train" them - means setting limits with them.  I have, at times, had to tell someone I love something that they really didn't want to hear.  That's always so hard, but it's the loving thing to do.\n\nI find that it's the single most humbling experience to go to another person and say, "This is what I see in your life, and this is what I believe the consequence will be."  But if a person knows that I love and respect them, and that I am not confronting them out of jealousy or pride - or too occupy myself to keep from examining my own life - I've found that it is generally well received.  \n\nIt's really hard to walk the balance between the fun parts of loving others and the setting limits aspect.  Especially for Christians.  I love many people who are not Christians, and of course I want them to believe in Christ.  I understand those who go to the extreme pushing their beliefs.  I understand being afraid for someone else.  But love is not about fear.  Love is about faith and trust.  \n\nI also understand those who refuse Christianity because they resist the pressure put on them to convert.  I really hate being pressured into anything.  It makes me sick.  Jim teases me because I'll drive a car till it falls apart.  I hate buying a car.  It literally makes me ill.  High pressure sales.\n\nI don't believe Christianity is about that.  God gives the increase.  I don't have to make anyone do anything.  And I thank God for that.\n\nI don't believe Jesus settles for compromising.  Not because He is unloving, but because the limits are for our own good.\n\nMy dad used to train our dog to sit for hours at a time.  It made him feel successful to be in control of something else.  I let the memory of that keep me from training Bear.  What I realized is that not training Bear put him in danger.  I don't need to control him like my dad did our dogs, but for his own safety, he needs to learn to obey me (and Jim).  It's not an ego trip.  I can see things he cannot.  He may really want the ball or the cat that just caught his eye.  I can see the car coming between him and the object of his attention.  He needs to obey my voice rather than his impulses so that I can keep him out of the road and out of harm's way.  I need him to trust me, and work with me, when I take him to the vet.  He doesn't understand why I let the vet hurt him when he gets a shot.  If he doesn't trust me and obey me, he's at risk.\n\nI believe serving God is like that.  If I don't trust God and obey Him,
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Lots of people make that commitment, but not many manage to keep it.\n\nI would say that if you only "really like him or maybe even more" then now is not the time to be thinking about making such a commitment anyway.\n\nWhen you find somebody that you simply can't be without and love more than you love your own life, then and only then should you consider such promises.\n\nPlease, don't give yourself away so cheaply.
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9 months. :( \nFor good reasons that are medical. When you really love someone you understand, but that doesn't take away the urges and so real natural needs. Commitment is some times tested to the limits!\n\nEagleman
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True love is when you would do anything for them.  Even if it means putting yourself at risk.  We tend to be selfish people as a whole but when you can open yourself up and give freely without conditions, then you know it is real.  Would you be with someone who wouldn't put thier life on the line for you?  I wouldn't.  My brother gave my father a kidney...that is love!!  My brother gave me bone marrow...that is love.  As far as "not enough"....sometimes it is what you are willing to accept and put up with.  All of us are different.
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Anyone who refuses to allow themselves to love someone because of their spiritual beliefs has some major issues.  DO you really think God would tell you that a person from a different church didn't deserve to be loved?  I've been on the "dumnped" end of that situation more than once, and I can tell you that it hurts pretty bad.  As long as you're honest with the person you love and respect their right to have their own beliefs, it shouldn't matter what those beliefs are.
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A strong love relationship cannot be destroyed by anything or anyone, remember that.  Even if all odds are against you, your true love for each other will make your love prevail and thrive despite the test of time and space.  Just follow what your hearts dictate.  Live your lives the way both of you want to.  You are not accountable to anybody for what you do in your life, only to God and with that philosophy, you will never allow any circumstance or anybody to control your lives.\n\nDon't give up hope because for as long as you respect your own decisions, and believe in your hearts that you will happy with each other, you should continue loving each other for as long as it takes.  Your happiness depends on your strength to show the world that you alone have to decide for your own self and that they only have the right to advise or reprimand you but still the decision is yours to give no matter what it takes.
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Different peoples, Different point of view about love...\n\nfor me..When LOVE is pure.. its unconditional.. u always give and not expecting in return.. always give in some time u will think "i have nothing to give" but it always has feeling to give.. and forgive.. even how deep is the pain and hurt it will be okay.. the more u stand still no matter how trials come.. how u hold him/her when the storm is hitting u so bad.. the more u sacrifice that more u feel love in ur heart.. When there is too much burden and worries.. and ur eyes are full of tears.. and when he/she/hey came and hug u tight and tell "i love you, things will be okay" it seems like there is nothing to worry, feels like im in safe place.. im protected.. \n\nLove is the feeling that is hard to recognise at first and when u have it.. its difficult to let go..
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Without a doubt, true love is appreciated wherever we go. The love that can make a real difference in life is that described by the Bible writer Paul: “Love is long-suffering and kind. Love is not jealous, it does not brag, does not get puffed up, does not behave indecently, does not look for its own interests, does not become provoked. It does not keep account of the injury. It does not rejoice over unrighteousness, but rejoices with the truth. It bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. Love never fails.”—1 Corinthians 13:4-8.\n\nYes, “love never fails.” Love heals. Love unites. Love is shown not just by words but by unselfish actions. Love has a pure motive. Paul also wrote: “If I give all my belongings to feed others, and if I hand over my body, that I may boast, but do not have love, I am not profited at all.” If we make sacrifices or give gifts just to be seen by others, then from God’s viewpoint it is in vain.—1 Corinthians 13:3.\n\nJesus put it this way: “When you go making gifts of mercy, do not blow a trumpet ahead of you, just as the hypocrites do . . . that they may be glorified by men. Truly I say to you, They are having their reward in full. But you, when making gifts of mercy, do not let your left hand know what your right is doing.” Yes, love does not boast or brag.—Matthew 6:2, 3.\n\nWhat Is Love?\n\nOne description of love is ‘a feeling of warm personal attachment or deep affection, a warm fondness or liking for another.’ It is a quality that moves people to work for the good of others, sometimes at great personal sacrifice. Love, as it is described in the Bible, involves both the mind and the heart. The mind, or intellect, plays a role because a person who loves does this with his eyes open, recognizing that he and other humans that he loves all have weaknesses as well as attractive qualities. The intellect is further involved since there are those whom a Christian loves—sometimes, perhaps, against his natural inclinations—because he knows from his reading of the Bible that God wants him to do so. (Matthew 5:44; 1 Corinthians 16:14) Still, love basically comes from the heart. Genuine love as it is revealed in the Bible is never merely intellectual. It entails deep sincerity and full emotional commitment.—1 Peter 1:22.\n\nPeople who are selfish at heart are rarely capable of a truly loving relationship because a person who loves is prepared to put the interests of another ahead of his own. (Philippians 2:2-4) Jesus’ words “there is more happiness in giving than there is in receiving” are especially true when the giving is an act of love. (Acts 20:35) Love is a powerful bond. (Colossians 3:14) It often includes friendship, but the bonds of love are stronger than those of friendship. The romantic relationship between a husband and his wife is sometimes described as love; however, the love that the Bible encourages us to cultivate is more enduring than physical attraction. When a couple truly love each other, they remain together even if a physical relationship is no longer possible because of the infirmities of old age or because one of them is incapacitated
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What won't we humans do for love?  Think about this, love can be transitory sometimes and when we find love we want to hold onto it with both hands and never let go...because what if it went away?  \n\nI'm sure most of us have known "love" in one form or another and I think I'm correct in assuming that a lot of us have had that love taken away.  Whether a relationship ends, we loose a friend, family member or even a pet.  Sometimes love  just goes away.  So when we find it we don't want to loose it and because these feelings are so strong within us it can bring out the best and worst in our behavior.\n\nSo love in any shape or form is a glorious thing but without it in our lives it's truly a great tragedy.
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Never.\nThere is passionate love and companionate love.\nPassionate love fades.  Companionate love grows.
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Yes, love can make its way through anything even though it may seem hopeless now. Just ignore the people who are against your relationship with this person. Its not like she can't change. If you really love her, I strongly believe you should go after her. Love is a splendid thing and its worth taking a chance. I hope my answer helps you. Good luck and take care.
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well sometimes you can trick yourself out of love if you are always so anti- love. If you go into a relationship cynically believing that it will be nothing but lust, then it very well may turn into a self fufilling prophecy. you will never give yourself the chance to experience love because you will always believe it is lust.
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Keep your chin up, and understand that will be a lot of time apart from each other. But if you really love the person, don't give up, no matter what. It is not easy, if there is not an official commitment to each other, but just keep the love in your heart no matter what happens.
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dont ever give up ur love one...its not giving up its just giving time to each other to know urself more.....hope it helps you....gudluck..