People around me are always hooking up and going out. I am one of the only people out of my friends still single. It's not that I'm not ready, it's just that I feel guys aren't interested in me anymore. Or really ever. Is it my attitude or my physical appearance? Or if not that, what!!!??!!
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Just give it time, you'll meet someone eventually. Until then, go out and have fun. Go to places where you can meet people and just open to anything. Maybe have one of your friend's boyfriends set you up on a blind date.
625277
Well it seems to me that you are an insecure person and you suround yourself with people who are equally insecure as yourself.  Because to you it's easy that way.  It's easy to live unchallenged and it's easier for you to just take what is offered.  When you don't like a situation that you are in you have to figure out how your gonna change it.  The first step is too stop taking advantage of other ppl especially if they let you because they are just as lost as you are and you will surely never find your way.  The next step is to work on being comfortable with yourself.  You have to be by yourself to do that. I would suggest that you stop dating or having any type of romantic relationship because nobody will ever be able to appreciate you if you don't even appreciate yourself. And then , after all that is worked out, you find a good secure, honest, independent woman, that isn't gonna let you fall back into your usual routine.  After that i can't say it will all be wonderful, but at least you know its something that you want instead of something that's just there. Godd luck!
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Yes i've always been exactly the same.  I've really no interest in guys my own age, and i've always been like this even since when i was at school.  Don't really know why though but it's not a problem at all.  Plus as the saying goes, there's many a good tune can be played on an old fiddle.....  I'm 29 and seeing a guy of 51 who is the sexiest guy i've ever met in my life and is well fit (and looks about 35).  Good Luck!
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Maybe you just look younger then your age, and guys your age think your too young to go out. You should feel proud of your self that at least you dont look old. Oh and one more thing you should remember that as long as you always dress up nice, and take care of you self, any guy will always ask you out, of course if you happen to be too pretty then maybe guys are just shy, and feel your going to reject them, because your to good for them.
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Not all of us are like that. I promise! It is always nice to do things when they are not asked for so don't stop being nice,but I think you need to try some different places to meet girls. I think normally you can tell if they are going to be like that from the beginning. Look back and see what they all had in common. Please keep trying because there are more of us out there than you think.
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Just continue to live your and be confident in yourself. Don't seem so desperate and anxious. It's okay, everything will come in time. So what you're obese? You know what that means? You weed out all the shallow people and you'll find someone really good. Thats how it was for me...I was 17 when I had my first kiss..and I was kinda fat...and I eventually lost 55 pounds about. But I was glad someone accepted me for me. All the time I was down because I didnt have a boyfriend and everyone else had one and when I was least expecting to meet someone, I did. I was with that person for about a year too. Realize how beautiful you are without a boyfriend and then one will come.
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Since I left a pretty detailed answer for your previous question, I'll keep this brief.  How do you know that "they don't think other guys are hot?"  Maybe some of them do.\n\nI would check out the answers left for your previous question.  There's a lot of good information.  I tried asking guys out for around 10 years, but eventually realized it didn't make me any more atrracted to guys.  It just made both me and them unhappy.  Of course, that doesn't necessarily mean the same thing will happen to you, but it is a possiblity.\n\nWhatever you decide to do, I wish you well.
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Ohhh this is the same thing I used to do.  I think it begins with men being a huge priority in life.  Do more with your friends! I bet you don't hang out with friends when you're with a guy.  Do a Friday date, and Saturday with girls. Take up a hobby, take your mind off of men. \n\nMost times after I used to have a date, less than a day would pass before we talked again, and I just seemed to click so well with everyone, I moved from one serious relationship to another.  Have this new mantra: "I am only going out to have fun. I am not looking for anything but a nice evening tonight." Set yourself some rules; don't let yourself get too comfortable with them. Make sure not to tell them everything about you in the first couple dates, and let at least 3-4 days pass between dates.  Going to each other's house is also very personal, make the first couple weeks dates "out".  Don't get too comfortable, don't get too close.  Be more picky.
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*this is a long one*\n\nIt's understandable that you feel bad because you're not getting the kind of treatment your "attractive" friends are getting, but there's a lot going on here.\n\nGuys, from a very young age, are told what is attractive and what isn't. It has to do with the era, culture, ethnicity, and a million other things. It also has to do with the fact that it's a bar. Although people meet each other and form legitimate relationships all the time in bars, most often when alcohol and women are involved it's about sex. The men in there may care about your beautiful personality, intelligence, creativity, talents, etc. but that isn't the first thing they're looking at.\n\nPeople always say that men exploit women. To a degree this is true, but if it's one thing I've learned it's that women are terrific at exploiting the things that men like to get what they want. You girls aren't stupid, even those who pretend to be. Men for the most part aren't difficult to figure out when it comes to attracting us visually. \n\nWith that out of the way, don't get yourself down because you aren't the standard that pop culture deems hot. Every single woman is beautiful, no matter what age size or color. What matters most is how beautiful you acknowledge yourself to be, no matter what anyone else thinks. Because in the end, you can't control what they think or how they feel, and although there are ways to make yourself more attractive to them, it's only a shallow experience and you shouldn't have to change things about yourself to please others.\n\nI'm not one of those people who's going to tell you that there's someone out there guaranteed to be perfect for you, who just happens to love everything about you and treats you the way you deserve to be treated. If you find that person you're very lucky, because most of us out there just have to settle or lie to ourselves. \n\nWhat I am going to tell you though, is that there are men out there who acknowledge and appreciate physical features, but value the beautiful personality underneath. You're probably not going to run into one of these men at a bar. Where do you find them? There isn't one set place where we all congregate, that's the problem that goes both ways, for finding men and women alike.\n\nThink about this though: Next time you're at the bar, check out the wallflowers. Chances are there's a guy out there who doesn't get approached by the beautiful women, who may be insecure himself but like you has a lot to offer beyond physical appearances that conform to a standard. Talk to him, ask him to buy you a drink, if you feel like it offer to buy him a drink, see how that goes. Be yourself. This could easily end up being the most fun for you, because you'd be surprised how eager the person in the corner is to connect with someone else if they were just given the chances. If not, at least you interacted and didn't have to sit aside feeling hurt that people aren't approaching you.\n\n\n\nBut after all this, and I'm not saying it is this way, don't have a double standard or be hypocritical. Don't judge the guys on physical appearance alone. You know you're worth a lot more than your looks alone, and so are they. So is everyone.
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You're probably just attractive and wanted. Why not ask them why they like you? Or go out with one if single!
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Not everyone is out for sex. Some guys actually have honorable intentions. Sounds like you may have run across one. My advice as a guy is HOLD ON TO HIM. The sex fiends are a dime a dozen.
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Hmm.. i'm good looking, smart and well mannered as well. Trust have always been a problem for me, since my gf broke up with me for another guy (LD) and then my next gf slept with one of my best friend. \n\ni'm now focusing on my career and promised my self not to force myself in to a relationship just for the sake of a relationship.. \n\nI sometimes feels lonely but then again, it's more sexual than emotional.. i don't think anything is missing since i try to write what is my goals and match it with my current situations. \n\nTry to identify, where are you now and where do you want to be. sometimes putting something in writting is good since it helps you see clear of things you didn' know exist. I hope this helps, but if it doesnt Dog's do help...
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You may not want to hear this, but seriously you are not ready for a relationship. Sure, your hormones may be telling you otherwise. But you still have a lot of growing up to do. Guys will come and go throughout your life. You have plenty of time for a relationship later on. But now, being you are so young, just concentrate on being "friends" only with all the guys you meet. Dating is a big step, and you are not ready yet. Good luck to you!
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You are beautiful no matter how you look. You are beautiful just the way you are. Be proud of yourself. I'm sure a right guy will come to you. \n\nI used to think I'm unattractive, and nobody asked me out. But when I say "F*ck this, I don't care what people think about me" and be myself, then my true love (now) just come right to me and say hi. See, ZI think guys got attracted by the woman's confidence, not their look. \n\nDon't rush. Congratulate yourself that you're still single. Don't you see us women who have bf always have to struggle and be hurt?
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I am now in a fulfilling relationship. Before my current relationship I hadn't had a boyfriend in 8 years. (talk about a dry spell) A year ago all the guys that I had crushes on started approaching me and I had plenty to choose from. It's like I became more attractive. Just wait it out. Don't try to hard. When you stop looking for love, love will find you.
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I'm going on 38 next month but beleive me, i know how you feel, i have been heavy my whole life, i never felt liked, endured cruel jokes and felt i would never have a boyfriend. Girls and women are expected to look like everyone else on TV, its always the thin models that get the main roles in movies and chubby women are shoved to the backburner. We need to realize and believe that looks dont mean ANYTHING AT ALL, if guys are only going to like you because you have a nice body then that tells me what kind of person they really are, a JERK. You have so much to offer in this world, dont let anyone tell you otherwise! You are a special and unique person. Please just be yourself and stop comparing yourself to others, it takes all shapes and sizes in our world. Please enjoy yourself while you can and put a smile on your face, thats what will trully draw the right ones to you. For me i choose swimming to keep myself as healthy as possible, its easier on your body and burns more calories than any exercise you do out of water ( i was told this by a swim instructer ) and best of all its FUN. I know its hard, i dont mean to go on and on but i just want you to know your not alone. God Bless you.
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Hi, \n\nYou probably are a gorgeous gal, \n\nDon't hang about waiting on losers!!\n\nCheers!!