there's this girl at school, and she keeps on telling my best friend that i'm HER best friend, it's really wierd, i think it might have something to do with the fact that i'm going out with the guy that she likes, but she won't admit that she does like him. she keeps on telling me that i'm obsessed because i'm going out with him, i don't really know what my question is, but how do i let her know that she's really hurting my feelings when she says things about my bf, or when my bff tells me what she says to her, it makes her feel uncomfortable. i am VERY close to my bff, she's awsome. she understands everything about me, and there's nothing she doesn't know about me. i just don't know what to do. there's actually another girl too that thinks i'm her best friend.
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As long as you & your best friend know that you are best friends with each other, its all good.\nThis girl is probably just lonely & wants a best friend, or she could just be trying to cause trouble.\nEither way, just ignore what she says & tell your best friend to do the same & eventually this girl will see that what she's doing is pointless & she will go away.
165817
Well, I'm not a guy, but let me try to help U:\nU're an educated guy, U're so smart, but maybe she has seen in this other guy something she likes the most and maybe it's something U don't have, I don't blame her for that, but I do blame her for telling lies and trying to justify herself in that way.\nThere's another thing: If U're that kind of smart and polite, show to her that U can respect her decision, don't approach to her anymore, she's the one who has to make the balance, let her be happy, if she wants to be with this other guy, U'll have to focus on someone else, besides, sometimes we just judge for appearances, and maybe that's happening to U.\nNever judge a book for its cover!\n\nSee... as U added some new facts, let me tell U, about your image, don't care about it, I mean, the time will make the difference, let it to the time, and U'll see that she's the only one who is going to be judge by your classmates and friends, maybe they cannot realize what kind of girl she is, but, I'm pretty sure, if U're right, time will give that satisfaction to U.
168817
if she doesn't wanna hurt you then she is your best friend but ask her to be more honest with you next time ask her to give you her real opinion next time .you she she didn't say because she didn't wanna hurt you because she wants what is best for you .cause if she did tell you might get upset with her
525484
If your best friend is really your best friend, she wouldn't take him away. I had a friend like that once and it killed me to be around her with guys because I would say I liked someone and then she would instantly like them too. And she would win because I would just give in. There is no point in fighting her on it, especially if she already knows how you feel about him. If she doesn't know, you need to tell her right away. You friend has betrayed you in the most hurtful way if she knows how you feel. You need to sit her down and explain that you like this guy more than she'll ever know and that you have known and liked him longer than she ever will. If she is truly your friend, she will cease to try to steal him away. If she won't stop, you need to find a new friend, a person who won't betray you. And you need to tell the guy. He deserves to make the choice with his true feelings. Tell him that you don't want things to change between you too, so if he doesn't feel the same way, to just forget that you said it, but in time you fell in love with your best  friend and you wonder if he feels the same way about you. Then, you are letting him know how you feel, even if he doesn't feel the same way.
268967
believe your best friend!! unless you know that she's the jealous type or prone to lying, believe her! think about it, why would she LIE to you?
412087
I would ask her if she is seriuos about him but let her know that she can not keep playing with your heart. Let her know that is exactly what she is doing and that you can make her happy and just to give you a chance. she already admitted that she has feelings for you so i just think that she is getting nervous about being with you and possibly ruining your excellent friendship. I would talk to her and let her know what it is doing to you. good luck!
104520
OK everbody knows, does the one losing the interest know everybody know's. Ask for your best friends advice on her brother and see what she says.
268393
ha, she wouldn't be my best friend anymore! yeah, just tell her your mad. if she's your bff, she'll know better than to keep it up. she should pick u over the guy, and if she doesn't, shes no friend. good luck!
206419
well every best friend have a unique quality to them. i have a best friend shes always enjoying her self and don't always take thing seriously, me on the other hand i always take things serious ly yes I'm the boring one but i got her to make every thing exciting and me to calm things down at a certain time. best friend are not suppose to be the same.\n\n\nyou can tell her just make sure if you really enjoy your friendship with her it wont mess things up.
378663
You should believe ur best friend if you've known him for a long time and if you trust him more. Analyze on who told more lies. I think she's just a jealous girl who wants to ruin what you have but don't let her do that. Soo I hope I helped.
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why are you afraid to tell her that you dont like her behavior? I was in your situation when I was in collage and this girl was always chasing me! she wanted to be where I was because i was with my handsome and popular friends all the time (what could i do if they were my classmates!) anyway, one day I was just not in the mood to deal with her and I said: you know what, you have very good qualities but IT BOTHERS ME that you are with me because you want to hang out with my friends. Soooo.... stop being so obvious and let me have fun with them!  so, she got my point. she never spoke to me again (and my friends were happy for that too). it was sad because after all she was a good girl but A REAL PAIN IN THE BUTT!
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If she is your best friend then she should understand. You know you can't make someone like you and you know you mustn't live your life according to someone else's ideas or wants. It is normal that she might hate you or feel jealous. Guess what it ain't your fault. SO TELL HIM!!!
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i think you should tell your friend cos if you'll are true friends she will know that you are doing this in her best interest i am saying this because my best friends boyfriend was doing the exact same thing to her and i told my friend that she needs to put her foot down and confront her boyfriend cos if he truly loved her he wouldn't treat her that way.  it's harsh but sometimes you have to be firm with the people you really care about.
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first of all, i know people are going to answer MUCH differently than me, but I've been through this (more than once) with friends.\na BEST or REALLY GOOD friend, would keep the secret.  thats right.  dont blab.  if it bothers you, you need to talk to her.  ask her if you can help.  most people just do it for attention, others truly NEED the pain to stop thinking of what bothers them every day.  Some people think that theyre 'rebelling'\nAnd yes, she will hate you for telling.  Even if she does want attention, she'll still hate you.  kiss the friendship byebye. \nConfront her.  tell her it bugs you.  it scares you.  just tell her how you feel.  say that you knew that it would be better to talk to her about it than someone else.  they'll like to hear that.  it shows that they can trust you.  believe it or not, they smiled (inside) even if just for a split second.  \nDont get mad.  Don't say 'If you dont stop, i cant/wont be your friend!'  this, is also a good way to throw away a friendship.  \nDont push it.  If they say they dont want to talk about it.  Dont ask anymore.  drop it.  completely.  BUT...make sure to say that THEY can talk to YOU whenever they feel the need.  this shows trust.\n\nI hope i've helped.  But truly, don't tell.  Even if it doesnt ruin a friendship, it makes it very very awkward.  You wont be 'best' friends anymore.\n\nSORRY IF I WAS TOO BLUNT! :)
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I have had this happen to me before and I simply said look I love you as a friend and I am not into that its fine for you to be like that but thats just not for me. Be sure to explain that you won't judge her or look at her any differently and that it will not come between yall friendship. Just tell her in a nice way so that she don't feel like a jackass for telling you because you know its got to take some guts to tell your best friend something like that. I hope that I have helped.!!!!
245959
you really have to ask her what's the deal with what happened.but since i assume that she's your bestfriend,then i say that don't let a guy come between friendship.no matter how much you love him.and IF she wants him for herself and she lets this guy come between the two of you, then later down the road you won't be the one feeling guilty about a guy possibly ruining a beautiful friendship.
425236
Ah, this is a good question. Had the same thing happen to me. Unfortunately, you just have to deal with it. Once people get the notion in their head that you are dating even though you said no, they are going to think it and probably that you are just keeping it a secret. It's inevitable. There is nothing you can do unless you two stop hanging out with each other or one of you gets in a relationship with someone else. The "stop hanging out" idea is a bad one, and who cares what other people think anyway? If you two are best friends, then it doesn't matter at all. :)