A male aide baths my father. He is sent by hospice.  He does a great job.  Dad asked me if he should tip the worker.  I don't know.
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While I don't think there's anything wrong with you offering one, I think it would be in poor taste for the worker to accept it.  I would consider giving him a 'thank you' gift for his care and compassion after your dad passes on, though.
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awwwww thats so kind of you to post up top tips..\n\nwhy arent there more generous and caring people like you in this worllld !!\n\n\n\nXX
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HOSPICE COMES IN YO TAKE CARE OF THE TERMINALLY ILL PATIENTS. TO KEEP THEM AT HOME AND AS COMFORTABLE AS POSSIBLE
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CNA's handle personal care for patients. Bathing,Feeding, cleaning up any accidents, taking them to the toilet(if they can't themselves), dressing, range of motion exercises(for those that need it), taking temperatures, blood pressures, emptying cathetor bags,.. and the list goes on and on.\n\nOn the 3rd shift we would have to do rounds every 2 hours and make sure noone was soiled. If they were, you had to change them. Take temperatures of those that needed it, empty cath bags, turn the people that couldn't turn themselves (so they did not get bedsores) When you have up to 18 patients a night, it is not easy. We also had to get 2 up and ready each morning.Sometimes pass out food trays and help feed. Plus charting intake(fluids) and outputs(urine)\n\nHope that helps.
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If he is a supervisor, this is harrassment.  If he is not, he should be reported to a supervisor.\n\nBlessed Be
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Yes.  Taking care of your elderly family members is a sign of gratefulness.  After all the love and things they gave you, they deserve it a lot!
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I thank them everyday, I work beside them as a partner and friend.  \nI only wish we (Paramedics) were more appreciated for the life saving job that we do on a daily bases, when people are injured and sick.  When they look up at us and say "Am I gonna die?"  It's us that have that lasting memory on our mind.  Just remember, not all ambulance services are ran out of they Fire Department.  Thanks for listening
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a couple of years ago when my father passed away, he didn't want to leave my mother.  all kinds of phenomena took place such as, lights strobing, tv turning on and off by itself,  interference with the telephone, hearing aids etc.  i had taken 2 sympathy cards to mom from both myself and my daughter.  they had been placed on the mantle over the fireplace.  when i came back in the living room, the cards were face up in dad's chair which was the last place i saw him alive.  no one else could have been responsible for the activity as it was only mom and me in the house and she was upstairs sleeping.  i  checked with the neighbours to see if their power had been flickering or their phones not working and they told me they hadn't had any trouble.  my brother confirmed that there were no electrical problems with the house when i questioned him.   i finally convinced dad that mom would be ok and we would all take care of her.  it took about 2 days but he finally went to the light.  at that point, all of the activity stopped.   the strange thing is i was so conflicted emotionally when he left.  i felt sad that he had gone, but also relieved he had finally made the transition.  i miss him very much but know he is always with me.  i am sure there are skeptics out there that will not believe what i experienced but that is their issue.  i know what occurred and that is what is important to me.  take care.
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OMG Sheila! I used hair spray once! I had to peel my shirt off and thank God I had shaved under my arms or I hate to think what would have happened then. I felt so stupid! The worst part is that it was Super Hold hair spray. But I'll give you one better. When I was a police officer, I worked with a Detective who was a lot like Colombo. You know, so dumb he was smart? He was a good cop but he couldn't couldn't eat a sandwich without getting mayonaise on his fingers and then he would touch his head when he was talking, just Lt. Colombo would and everytime he'd get mayo on his forehead! One day, we were all at the station for role call and he walked in and he was just scratching himself all over his arms and his chest. I said "Robert, what wrong?" and he said "I don't know. I'm itching something terrible. I think I'm allergic to this new shower lotion that my wife just bought." I said "Shower Lotion?" and he said, "Yeah, it's from Dial. The soap people." I started laughing and I said "Robert, roll up your sleeve." He looked at me kind of funny and rolled up his sleeve and there was white streaks all over his skin and it was sticky to the touch. After I stopped laughing, I said "Robert, you goofy sh#t, you've covered yourself with liquid Dial soap, not lotion! You'd better get home and rinse it off, now!" After that we removed all the liquid soap from the station bathrooms and stuff just to mess with him. He ended up with like ten trial size things of body lotion in his mail box at the station. Oh, and thank you for you kind response to my "forgive me" plea. I'm not usually so cranky but I guess I had a moment there where I lost myself. As an American, it gets a bit tiring when everyone hates you just for being an American. I suppose the entire world doesn't hate us but sometimes it seems that way. Take care, Sweetie and thanks again. God bless.
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my dad verbally abused me (he said he wished i was never born in his own "special" way and said i was a terrible son, husband, father, provider, etc).  i promised years before that i would scatter his ashes in an open waterway but if he doesn't leave me money for this deed, i will be glad to flush him down the toilet.  after all "all water ways lead to the ocean" (from finding nemo), right?\n\ni haven't spoken to him since and i don't intend to no matter what he brings to the table.
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Ask an attorney, you don't want to do anything illegal and then get the shaft in the end. I thought that he could write a will and sign his money over to you, that way it's not in his name. Or, you can use it to pay his hospice nurses. But most importantly I would ask a lawyer
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Oh well, PD, thought I'd give you something more to read (along the lines of your story), besides the usual 'LOL' everyone esle has given you thus far:\n\nA man with no legs goes into the men's room in a wheelchair, looking very tired from all the wheeling. He asks the man in the next urinal to help him out with his business. The stranger is a little taken aback, but takes pity with the handicap nonetheless. \n\nThe kind man unzips the handicap's pants & pulls out his p*nis & is shocked beyond belief at what he sees! The handicap's p*nis was bright red with ulcers and green blisters with purple warts-like bumps and pus is oozing out everywhere! Still... despite being disgusted, the gentleman held his tongue and helped the handicap do his business.\nThe man puts the handicap's john back in the pants upon finishing the business and helps the handicap out of the men's room.\n\nNot being able to hold his curiosity any longer, the man asks the handicap, "Excuse me, I don't mean to pry or be rude or anything, but I couldn't help noticing... what on earth is That?! What wrong with it?"\n\nThe handicap looks at him and says, "Man, I don't know, but I sure as hell ain't gonna touch it!"\n\n:o)
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well im not sure of youre situation, is this care for an elderly relative or maybe a younger relative with mental retardation. i have cared for my grandfather before his passing for 2 years, he was in a nursing home and hated it. i also worked as a handicapped aide many years ago. and i was a cook in a mental institution. as far as if this is a relative. a family member is the best. i know it may be hard to find a close family member to do the job but it will most likely be done with the most compassion and caring. it got to the point where i took a job from 11pm til 7am so i could put my grandfather to bed before i went to work and get him up and dressed when i got home. he was very ill. he had a stroke and 2 heart attacks within a year. he died of a brain anurism in 1997. i came home from work one morning and he was lying on the floor. he wasnt dead. he had just accidentally rolled out of bed and had no way of getting back up. i quit my job that day so i could stay with him constantly except for trips to the store or whatever else was needed. i did that for 2 years without a dime of pay. dont trust anyone too much. i dont know what type of environment the loved one is in. family comes first but watch youre valuables and personal property. im just going to have to work with the limited information you wrote. as far as overcooking, just freeze complete meals in plastic tupperware trays. i used to do that alot. my grandfather loved meals like thanksgiving dinner. every few months i would go buy a #20 turkey and make mashed potatoes and gravy, stuffing, etc, you get the idea. go to walmart and buy a bunch of the plastic tupperware type trays with lids.im talking about the round ones with the seperate compartments.like the picnic plates. you can give youre loved one great meals for about $2. cooking in quantity is great and saves alot of money. they freeze nicely for months. take them out of the freezer and just put in the fridge the day before and they heat up great in the microwave. and the taste is still great. i dont want to bother you much on the cooking thing but that is something you can easily control. i have been a cook in everything from fast food to high dollar restaurants. buying in bulk pays off. you wanted an answer to youre question and im going to give you my best advice. it might take some work on your part or family and friends part. take one day a month with youre friends and go over to the loved ones house and cook. make way too much. and put all that food into the trays i was talking about. youre relative will still know it was from you, and youre heart, cooking comes from the heart. and the fools that are working wont be wasting anymore food. and you can keep track of how many meals you have made. as far as the one who couldnt ever sit still. do you drug test the candidates. edginess like that suggests crack or meth use. the one who cleans alot might be ok. and talking to visitors is also great. but not talking to the client wont work. i noticed you called them a client, you didnt say my father. or elderly aunt. i wish you would have given more information so i could better understand youre situation. as far as questions, my first would be what is youre experience? any delay in there response would be a goodbye to them. another thing i dont know is the environment. they have to be totally trustworthy. and i would test that during the interview. let me give an example. lets say i was married and i needed a live in caregiver for my mother in our house. i would conduct the interview at a time when my wife and my self both had some time. i would start the interview and have my wife walk in a few minutes later. with her purse and alot of cash in it. out in the open. i would have it arranged to fake an argument and to throw her purse on the table in front of the intended employee. have the cash loose so it doesnt look like it has been counted. and leave the room and walk into a bedroom with a closed door for a few
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Tipping is definitely something to do if you receive good service. If you feel the driver has done well and taken care of you, tip him. If not, tip him anyways, and you may get better service in the future. Is this someone you see regularly or is there a different driver each time? There are so many variables. Use your best judgement. Tipping will never hurt though...only help.
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do not unless he asks. just pray for him. and if he does ask, prayer's still good part of the help.
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I would say no.  Some people just take advantage of those kind enough to help them out.  You have to know when to say enough is enough.  Asking them to help out after you've helped them out is the right thing to do.
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My dad! Sadly, he passed away when I was 20, before I grew up enough to realize that I should tell him how I felt. I told him I loved him all the time. But never got the chance to tell him how much he taught me and how his life-lessons have affected my life. Bless you for learning this important lesson. Your sister is lucky to have you.