He tryed to say i love you but couldnt spit it out.  When he is drunk he can say it, talking in his sleep he tells me all the time.  Last night i came right and and said are you in love with me.  He said yes i am.  Is it true and why cant he say it sober and awake?
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Like I've said in other similar posts. Men fear rejection. From an early age we're taught it's not a male thing to "hope and dream" for things we want. He privately hope in a small corner of our minds but we're supposed to be strong and leave the hopes and dreams to the girls. Sexist? No. Realistic. And so we never think we'll ever have what we've always wanted. So when it DOES finally arrive, either we doubt the possibility of it and reject it, or we fear to think or feel that this might be it and we try not to get too close in case it falls apart. He tells you he loves you when he's drunk because he has liquid courage then. His inhabit ions and fears of loss and rejection fade away at that time and he's more free to express himself. It's a form of emotional constipation. Be his ex lax and help him through this. Have patience. It will come the more he feels you'll always be there loving him. Good luck. Play your cards right and he'll open up in no time. "Anything worth having is worth waiting for."
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If I were you, I wouldn't try to get "even Steven" with him because I wouldn't want to stoop to that level, you know? Talk with him when he's sober enough and let him know how you feel. May I suggest couples' counseling as well? But I'd advise to not get even with him for it could even encourage his behavior if you do.
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personnally i wouldn't tell someone i loved them in less i wasserious. Unless she said it first and i was obviously joking. Next time say really? and if he says yes IMMEDEATLY then he means it if he hesitates then not so much.\n\n\nP.S. DOESN'T work for all guys some just want in your pants .. it's a sad fact of life. :(
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Sounds like he meant it, he just wants to prove it to you through his actions .... guys just don't know what to say .... wouldn't you want him to show you through his actions or would you rather he just said 'Of course I meant it' and not really mean it.
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i think the relationship defines itself, people get in to trouble with words, after all they are just words.  what the relationship is will be defined by actual events and actions, regardless of the words.  how many people do you know who hear 'i love you' and are treated like something far less than a loved one? if you feel the need to have it defined in words just say where is this going? if it freaks him out and he leaves it wasn't going anywhere but the bedroom anyway. good luck
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Anita...it's important to think about whether you really want to be in a relationship with a man who sounds like an alcoholic. I would also question the character of anyone who is talking about beating people up. Drunk and potentially violent is a scary combination. Do you want to deal with a drunk?  What happens if YOU anger him...will he beat you up too?
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If you were excessively drunk your speech was probably slurred and your whole persona would have been altered. I'm sure he would have been able to tell that you were not yourself. But be careful, he might think you drink Too much.
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ARE YOU DRUNK RIGHT NOW?\n\nCause by the grammar used on your question, it seems like it.\n\n Im not under d affluence of incohol as some tinkle peep.Im not half as thunk as u drink.I fool so feelish and da drunker i stand here da longer i get.\n\n\nLOL
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well it was probably just a dream & didnt mean anything.but i would be worried too if i was in ur situation. if he actually said "i love u ____" then maybe u should talk to him about it.
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perhaps you can say it without a single word. you can give him attention more than usually, take good care, always be there when he needs you, or some sort like that. love does not always came through words.
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Is he an alcoholic? If so he has worked hard to stop. If not I think you are over reacting. He didn't drink for 3 years. I think you should give him an other chance. He came and told you he has been drinking. Give him credit for his honesty. Tell him why you don't want him drinking. If you really love each-other, you will work it out.\n\nGood luck.
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He might just start talking nonsense! That's what happened when my boyfriend first told me that he was in love with me. Just take your time to feel him out and see what his aim is, if you love him then go for it. But don't jump into anything, always think b4 you act!
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Some friends of mine, when we were drinking and having a good time, always told me about the reasons they left with no doubts their sweethearts. But, as soon as they got drunk, they started to play in the HiFi "their songs", or the songs that make that emptyness they fell hurt. They used to cry for their girls, and started to call them (2 or 3 a.m.) making them lo listen "the song" and start to tell them thing like "you are nothing without me!!!", "you'll miss me!", "I already have another love", and other lies. He's affraid to be rejected.\nThe reason this guy is calling you is because he is crazy about you, but he doesn't have enough courage to tell you so.\nIf you think he is a good guy, you can give him a little help to move ahead and open his heart to you.  I am like him, with the difference that I never get drunk and never phone anybody when I am in a party.
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If it is true, tell him you love him.  Better late than never.\nAlso explain that you were taken by surprise, or you would have said it earlier.
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When he said it should not have much to do with whether or not she believes him. Deep down does she think that he loves her? Apparently she thought that he loved her before he said it, other wise she would not have had sex with him. \nI am still amazed at how much importance some women put on a man saying those three words. I have always put much more weight on actions than words. Kind of like Missouri "Show Me."
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that's just the way drunks are. don't worry about all the people saying that he thinks this about you and he want's to do that. he was drunk, and if someone is drunk, they are not in their usual state of mind. only worry about such things if that is how they are sober.
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Dunno but if you share some of that funny green stuff with me I'll try to help you find it.  But then again, you can't understand a word that he's saying to begin with.\n\nMaybe you just have to be a drugged out looney like him to understand what he's saying to begin with.  I don't think he was together enough to even send a message.