i just posted the question "how does he feel about me?" now i want to know how i would go about leaving him. after reading the comments that you guys left i do realize that he is using me for sex, and i don't want part in that anymore, becuase i know that there is some guy out there that would appreciate me, i have a good heart and a good personality, and for some reason he has failed to realize what an awesome person i really am. mr. wizard said it all. that is just the way that he acts. he always has an excuse why he cannot talk to me. i hate it. i don't want to deal with it anymore. i don't know how i would go about leaving him though. how can i call it quits. i feel like i would be so lonely without him. i know that it's the best thing, but i don't know how. i have made him my everything. i am not sure if i can function with the thought of knowing that he is no longer mine. how can i tell him that its over? help!!!
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babe you are on the right track - you only deserve the best trust me mr right is out there for you and he cant wait to meet you so just tell this guy its just not working out the way you want it to be and that you wanna see other people cos you want something serious - plus he treats you like shit you said so he really doesnt deserve an explanation if you wanna hurt him just say that you want some fun in the sack hehehe but trust me the man of your dreams is comming and he will treat you the way that you deserve to be treated goodluck
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My mate has just been dumped by her boyfriend of 6 years - cos he said he needs time to himself. Imagine how she feels - you were only with this guy 8 weeks.\n\nJust think people need to put their problems into perspective a little bit. I know you must be feeling cr*p right now -but its not like you dedicated half your life to this guy. And if he wants you to change your opinion on something as big as sex then really he's not the one for you anyway.\n\nps - most men are weird. \n\npps - i was very prudish when it come to sex - but my mind has been opened ...... opened in the very best possible way
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I think you are doing the right thing and just to let you know it will end soon. If you were to back off now that would defeat your whole purpose and have wasted yours and his time. I know you did not want to hear this but, there is always a but isnt there? But If you cant see him changing or being flexible enough on this subject then you may have to let him go, if you fold and let the relationship go back to what is was it will be worse than it was before. I would hang in there, but not for too long.
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it's not what should you do, it's what can you do. looks like b/f has made some choices. all you need to do is get your mind around the situation. there are more guys out there. another one will come along, it all happened for a reason. the reason may not be obvious right now, but will become obvious someday, you have heard the saying when one door closes another one opens, hey the door closed, be thankful you found out now, before you had your 2.5 kids and caught him banging your friend. you expect your b/f to not like a gurl throwing herself at him , I can hear it now from you EX b/f oh please don't give me oral sex, yeah that's gonna happen. maybe you need to find some new friends, you won't lose much ditching the ones you have now. they don't respect you , that is obvious. good luck and don't take all that stuff too serious, you have a lot of heartache ahead of you, lol
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Hi, My X use to do the same exact things! I know exactly what it feels like, unfortunately the last few lies I found out were from my children. He was hangin around with a white trash piece of shit that was his sisters friend. He swore up and down they were just friends, come to find out he had been seeing her off and on for about 12 years! I was married to this asshole for 17 of them! Please please... Listen to your heart, especially with his track record.. make sure for yourself and I hope its not true, but that there isn't another woman! I don't know how I didn't find out sooner. I guess the kids were younger..not sure.. But the things you were saying is just how it was with us.. and he didn't even care when we didn't talk I think he actually enjoyed it because there was less to cover up if I wasn't asking him questions! But please keep your eyes and ears open, and I hope you find nothing but just in case hun.. take it from someone who has been there. Take care good luck and if anything changes please keep me informed or if u need another woman to talk to email or im me anytime! Good luck & be strong! Kim
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From my expericence, I have learned that trying to show a man all of my great qualitites in order to make him appreciate me and want a more serious relationship has NEVER worked.  It only made me seem desperate.  Desperation has never made any person want to be with another person.  Even though you may feel that you can't let go of the person, it would be better to do so.  He has made it beyond clear to you that he isn't interested in having anything more than a sexual relationship with you.  In other words, you're good enough to have sex with but NOT good enough to have a meaningful relationship with.  That is horrible for your self esteem and self worth.  You deserve better and more.  Just because he asks about your activities doesn't mean that he cares about you.  He tells you flat out that he doesn't.  It may be difficult but you should consider stopping the sexual relationship with him.  He doesn't love you or care about you.  If he did, he'd want to have more than sex with you.  I hope that you realize that you deserve more than a quickie when he's bored.
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Talk to him about how you feel and about your concerns.  Let him know you want him to be honest about his intentions regarding you both becoming a couple again.  Tell him that you would rather have him be honest - that he needs a place to stay when he gets out, or that he really does want you back.
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Thank goodness you only wasted 5 months with this loser. you've found out that you don't want this one so get ready for your destiny. Get fit and healthy, go the gym, get your hair done, spend time with the girls and have a laugh. you are now free to find someone really great and only your ego got a bit bashed. it's ok you'll get over it. he obviously has so why let him have anymore of your headspace? He was seeing others when he was with you most likely. don't go to bed with someone until after 6 months and it won't happen like this again. if they won't wait you don't date!
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it's about power of control to see who the weaker sex is and guess what girl you lost and he's laughing at you for being this way. ( get over him and move on find another boyfriend and have him to kick his ass  and tell him to stay the hell away from you for now on, you got it ) don't let him make you feel any less than you already feel and don't show anymore feelings toward him after this. ! sorry to sound Harsh but guys like that make me sick too !
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I just got over a relationship where my best friend (who was also his x girlfriend) and him kept staying friends. I didnt really let him know how much it bothered me, but now that i look back, it totally bothered me... and now that were not together, im so glad its over because that issue was so annoying, not worth dealing with. Tell him to loose her and if he can't, drop him!
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Just move out, did you consider doing so.  What you're about to do might seem nice and hot now, but will you be able to deal with this in the future??? Can you just think of how terrible the consequences might be?  Start thinking of it backwards, if you will be able to deal with this and the possible consequences of this than go right ahead, if not, I suggest you take a real action like moving out, we're all weak and if this is how you feel now than there is a big chance that you both might weaken again one day.
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He sounds immature.  Ask yourself if you  are better off with him or without him.  Sounds to me like without would be the way to go.\n\nI just ended a 7 year relationship - so don't feel alone in this.  I feel sad at times but am getting my life back together without his head games and am feeling at peace\n\nGood luck
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Ya, im sorry but it sure sounds like from what you said that he is moving on away from you. Especially the part where you say that he didnt even talk to you yesterday at all. Dont say anything to him just yet, but in your mind start planning what you would do if it ended...like who you think you would like to go out with next..or dont even think about relationships at all for awhile, maybe just take a break. You dont always need to be in a relationship. Take time for yourself (buy yourself one of those mud masks or a new nailpolish youve been wanting, indulge in you!) and your family and think about those things for awhile, ya know. Good luck!
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oh you're not in an abusive relationship at all are you? he was you wrapped around his lil finger and you don't even realize it. wanna know where this is gonna go if you don't grow a back bone and leave him? you'll be dead in a ditch somewhere and it'll be his fault. if he loved you back he'd trust you enough to let you do your own s.hit without havin to make you call ever 5 f.uckin mins. you need to stop and pay attention to what your gut is tellin you bout this guy. i wouldn't be surprised if it's tellin you to leave and not look back
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YOU THINK HE'S USING YOU? HE IS WHAT ARE YOU BLIND. HE IS USING YOU BUT YOU HAVE TO STOP IT TELL HIM AND JUST DON'T MAKE YOURSELF TOO AVAILABLE. TRUST ME HE IS JUST IN IT FOR WHAT HE CAN GET OUT OF YOU WHETHER IT'S MONEY, A RIDE,SEX WHATEVER. JUST CUT HIS ASS OFF DON'T LET HIM CONTINUE TO USE YOU GIRL YOU PROBABLY HAVE A LOT GOING FOR YOURSELF
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you sound almost like a mirror image of me but i'm at the 3 month stage and i don't know if he's with somone else, the other difference is he said to me that he wants to work things out i haven't seen mine in 20 days and yes im counting. the best advice hang in there, me personally i would tell him how much of a many swearwords he is for hurting me and how could he get with somone else so soon. but as i said hang in there im now ruling my own life but it is hard moving ahead without the one you love. Be Good!
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Hun, I'm so sorry. I think you have to let go. I know you don't want to hear this. But he has to make his own mistakes. Stay strong......keep your dignity. If he comes back.....you will feel that you did the right thing and he will need to prove himself again. Just be strong and don't stop being you.