me and my bf been together off and on for 5 and a half years..... do you think we should get married? have we been together long enough?
123439
What's the length of time that you two have been dating without interruptions up to now, without a break?  How many times have you broken up?  You should deal with the problems that you have had that caused the break-ups before you get married, because those problems will get worse during marriage.  Do you expect him to change?  Well, often that doesn't happen during marriage.  If there's a problem now, fix it.\n\nDo you see yourself spending the rest of your life with him?  Do you have stable jobs?  Are you sure you won't want to break up again?  Think about living with him 24/7.  If you have to go to a site to ask this question, maybe you should hold off thoughts of marriage for a while.
249856
I am actually one of those girls that has been engaged for years (2 to be exact). We got engaged before I finished my undergrad degree and decide to wait until I finished my masters. Anyway, it seems to me that just as long as you and your boyfriend have similar life goals, marriage may not need to be rushed into. Maybe you should wait until after you are done with school. Then you will have more money and time to plan your wedding. At the risk of scaring him away, I think that you should at least sit down and have a serious conversation about where you both see each other in the next 5 years. Having a frank conversation about your goals will help you to determine whether he is genuine when he says that you are the one, or if this is simply a ploy he uses to avoid confrontation or a possible break up. Remember that a marriage is life long commitment. It isn't something you should try to squeeze between school semesters out of convenience.
467287
dont get married .... unless your a positive you are both perfect for each other at least wait till your 20 you change over time and just because you are good toether now doesn mean you'll be good together later (forever is what marriage means)you'll both change over time and not nessecarily in the same way
535877
If it feels right to you then go for it. It really doesn't matter what other people think.\nI know of a few people who have done this and are still very happy together after many years.\nEnjoy
350511
If you love each other you should get married, then have a kid. Why hasn't he asked you to marry him yet?
628334
I would wait.dont get married bcuz of the babies.you two are still very young. you can still be good parents wiithout getting married.i met my kids father right before i turned 18 and had our daughter exactly a year later.5 yrs later we had a son.but through the years we grew apart as we got older and we split up at the end of"04". we both moved on to other people but we still loved each other.so now at the age of 26 and 28 we finally got married this year. just make sure your right for each other. good luck
676722
There is absolutely nothing wrong with asking a guy to marry you...just make sure, like a man does, that there is a 99% chance you will get a "yes" to the question. And, be prepared to say C ya in the small chance that he says "no, not at this time."  I assume you have been going together for a long period of time, that all is well, and it is time to get married. Go for it. It has been done for 100's of years, not just today.
254546
Wow 5 yrs is quite a commitment, but he should be up front with her that he isn't interested in commitment at this time.  If she can't handle that truth then maybe she should move on.
257408
So you are 7 years younger than your man--big deal!  As long as you are both over the legal age to marry--go for it!\nMake sure this is what you both want before taking that next step though--from experience it's a doozy!  If either of you feels like you must get married just because you have children together--DON'T GET MARRIED!!!  That will just make your relationship end badly for you, him and the children!  My parents are 9 years apart in age--married for 33 years now; my grandparents were 15 years apart and married for 17 years (my grandfather died & my grandmother never remarried).  I married a man who was only 1 year older than me--ended badly (we married because we had a child) and I remarried because I was in love with a man who is 5 years older--been together now for 13 years!
593873
no you shouldnt marry him not now. its not fair to him for you to just hold onto him till maybe something comes along better. he deserves happiness and if he is looking for marriage and your not let him go and stay friends.so many get married for the just because reason only to end in divorce and hurting each other. honesty is the best way to go. i think if you read what you just wrote you will know the right answer.
667623
no sure how long you two have been dating, but beware.  Guys who usually rush into marriage thinking should send up warning flags.  I was in a relationship that moved like that one, and he was very emotionally abusive, and would most likely have been physically abusive if we had gotten married.
281254
My husband and I dated for 6 weeks before he proposed to me, then I left Germany for 6 months, we were engaged during this time and married exactly 6 months later. We have been married almost 11 years. It hasn't all been roses though, we didn't know eachother really in the beginning and we were more in LUST then in love, we realize that now, but I believe that God brought us together for a reason! We have three beautful children and a good life together...I'd do it again for sure.
137543
& years is a long time and I think that it is time you started to apply some pressure.Ask him if he minds if you start seeing other people as you feel that your relationship has gone as far as it can,from what he thinks about marriage.I bet the reaction will be what the hell you talking about,but just tell him that you think you have been together long enough and that if he doesn't think mariage is in his plans then you had better start finding someone who has them plans.\nA chance it could back fire,but if it does then was the 7 years worth it?
138864
Well, I honestly don't think you're prepared for marriage, because if there's room for suspicion or doubt, then it's not true love. If you honestly wanted to marry him, you would do the best you could to tell him you were sorry, and weren't really thinking. Then I would give yourselves more time to grow closer together until you have no doubt that you, and ONLY you, are the one he wants to be with for the rest of his life.
602647
well marriage is just a piece of paper after 4 yrs together you should know that he is  committed to you.   IF he is going to ask you to marry him it should something is wants to do and make a surprise  you don't want to him ask just because you are forcing him to.  i say go with him.
334681
I was engaged to my husband for four years.  We have now been happily married for almost 10.  We took our time, because there were children involved and we didn't want to put them through divorce again.  However... we were sure we wanted to be together and married from the moment he gave me the ring.  Maybe you should give the ring back and tell him to propose again when he is sure!  If you love him and hold out hope, you two could keep dating.  This would just make it very clear to him that he needs to "poop or get off the pot".  Give him a little time, some men tend to need a little kick in the butt.  GOOD LUCK!
435485
How old were you and your husband/boyfriend when you first met?\n\nIn our middle to late 30's\n\nHow long have you been together?\n 5 years\n\nDo you believe in love at first sight?\nnot love, but a mutual attraction and chemistry....love grows over time.\n\nHow many kids do you have?\n1\n\nDid you wait until marriage to have sex?\nWe'll skip that question\n\nWere you happy with your decision?\nAbsolutely!\n\nAre you happy with your marriage/relationship?\nAbsolutely!!!