My sister hates me very much and even though she hates  me im trying to love her but I cant but is it right to hate her for me to be like her?
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It isn't anyone's place to tell you how you is right or wrong.\n\nI can tell you this. Hate uses up a lot of energy. \n\nI was face with a big forgiveness issue a few years back. I found for me that I first needed to define what forgiveness wasn't rather than what it was.\n\nIt is not saying it is ok what was done to me.\nIt is not saying I have to trust this person\nIt is not saying I have to let this person hurt me again.\n\nSo what did I conclude it was for me? For me it is just letting go and letting be. It freed me up to focus on going on with my life and establishing relationships with other people who would not be hurtful to me.\n\nMy two cents worth any way.\n\nI wish you the best.
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I'm not sure I understand...\nIs it the fact that he uses you as a sounding board about his sister that bugs you, or is it the fact that she can get away with things that you cant and he'll still love her?\nRealize that for a lot of people are trained as kids to put family first, and the fact that he cares so much about his sister (regardless of her behavior) says a lot about his character. He sounds like a good guy, and he's probably confused about why you are so upset.\nIf you want to not hear about her anymore, then ask him not to talk about her when you are together, or change the subject when he brings her up. \nYou may also want to figure out why you hate her so much...she doesnt seem to have done anything directly to you, has she?
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how does ur sister know that THAT teacher hates her? ive been in that situation before and i found out that the teacher didn't hate me at all it was just a misunderstanding between us. try having ur sister talk to the teacher maybe it'll help but if ur sister is afraid of facing the teacher then tell her to go to guidance counselor & ask for the counselor's opnion.\n \n& also u shuldnt be scared of having him/her as ur next teacher cuz she might actually like u as a student & not everybody's bad it may seem that way but it's not true but if ur that scraed then maybe talk to ur parents about it r the skool couselor. but before u do that try to give the teach a chance maybe u'll end up liking her/him (as a teach) good luck!
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you used to mess around???! if i am understanding the use of this word correctly then its your fault that she is acting this way... you were leading her on. she is your step sister, and its just as disgusting as if she was your real sister...\n\nyou two need to talk it out for sure. tell her she is beautiful and if you two werent related, it would have been possible to take this somewhere, but since you are related she needs to get over this and forget about the whole thing.
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Odds are your sister told her daughter not to talk to you but it's not your nieces fault, it's her Mother's, remember that. As far as the sibling rivaling there's no age that that's not possible. What caused this? Were you two compared to alot growing up? Gosh, I hate to go her but I will. My sister and I are both in our 50's\nand she has always hated me with a passion, we haven't spoken in over 2 years and she has instructed her 30 year old son that if he talks to me even at family gatherings she's through with him, fortunately he told her he loved her but I did nothing to him and he will have a relationship with me. Anyway I love our Mother but I blame her, she always compared us and that's not a fair thing to do. I even started to go to counseling over the whole thing. I've come to realize that it's okay if she doesn't want anything to do with me, I still love her and I'd be there if she needed me, I can't make her like me and I can't change things. It's her loss that we aren't in each others lives and with or without her I will go on and I will be happy. I will not let it ruin my happiness or my life.
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just be your self, if she makes a nasty reply, then she's the one at fault, there is someone out there that will love you just as you are, dont get stuck on one person\ngood luck
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The secret to getting along with anyone is to accept them exactly as they are.  When your sister is rude to you that is just her being herself and you don't have to react and compound the problem.  Change the subject if you can.  Unfortunately, people won't always accept you exactly as you are, but will like you a whole lot more if you are never rude.  Good luck.  Thank your parents for grounding you because you have "learned your lesson"; and that has great shock value too <G>.
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just be frank with ur sister tell her what u feel about that incident and what u reacted , and what u did is becoz u love your sister , and u cant see her in pain , so just go and explain , even if she doent listen , utell her , express everything , through anyway , message , letter ....
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God bless you for trying, I will pass the kindness to each person I meet, but it is getting really hard. It is never too late to stop hating. Even though attitudes are tough to handle sometimes, I don't hate anybody, even when they hate me.
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I know we don't know each other, but 2 years ago, my sister was stabbed to death by someone whom she thought loved her. She bore him 2 children. She tried so hard to get away, even going 1400 miles away to Virginia. But he kept telling her things she wanted to hear & she invited him back in her life again. Now I lost a sister because of this monster. She kept saying that he changed & would keep trying to work it out. DIDN'T HAPPEN. Just be there & keep an eye out if possible for her. HE WILL NEVER CHANGE. I'm telling you, if you have to follow her to keep an eye her, if you think she's in danger, then YOU have to make the move. 'Cause when someone is in love with someone who is brutalizing them, they can't see. I hope this may help in some way, shape or form.....
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Do you want to continue having a good relationship with your sister, or do you want her to hate you?  The answer will dictate what you should do.
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It shows me that ur sister is in the stage of being a rebel than to listen to her older brother which is YOU.  If you butt in her life,but it will make u look like a controlled brother for you.. Amen, I understand you too. I felt the same way with my brother years ago. Thank goodness hes still making through in this life. What i did was? Back off and was sweet talking to him about girls and be more open with him .. He became more trustworthy  and be able to share more personal questions which i didnt realized he would have gone that far than me. Of ocurse, i am his older sister. I always at best advices and suggestions and the rest is up to him. He learns more from me and looks up to me as a role model.. U see i didnt want to be a controlled sister. ITS A TOUGH CHOICE.  Let your sister go and face the real world of whats shes going through .. best be on her side and be a good brother to her . open up with advices and suggestions without scolding or controlling or commanding. Give her a story with reasons and let her think . thats how i handle my brother.  we now are best freind than before.HE told me that i was the best sister he ever had. So u can learn from this example. its hard but its their life, not ours. we had our wild days, of course!\nhave faith and keep on eye on ur sister.. Hope everything will be allright between you two!\nSmiles
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That is just what siblings do. It is a constant battle for sibling to compete for the favor of their parents. Be happy that you have siblings and ignore her behavior. If you do this she will get tired of it. Your parents will hopefully get tired of her telling on you and ignore her asw well. Be kind and do what is right and she won't have any ammunition against you. Eventually you will both grow up and learn to love eachother for who you are.
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Beacuse you're so hateful?
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Good grief, just tell her you don't like her. You have to understand, there's no law that says you have to like everyone. You don't have to put her down, but flat out tell her, you don't want to hang out with her anymore.  Because as time goes on you won't do anything and you'll wind up hating her.
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Actually, you are both right.  She is right when she says that she feels hurt because you two are not close.  Who are you to deny her what she feels to be true?  Feelings are not based on facts and truths of historical circumstances.   They are feelings.  Don't look to deny others their feelings.  You are right, too, when you state that you have a different life or different lifestyle than your sister.  You are two different individuals so naturally you will do things differently, and with differences conflict is inevitable.  You can resolve whatever conflict exists between you and your sister by talking to her more often.  Communication doesn't by itself solve all the problems of the world but it certainly smooths out the bumps in the road.
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I am a twin, and as much as my sister hates me sometimes, we always make up. Hang in there, she'll forgive and forget. She'll need you to have her back someday, and hopefully you'll be there. stay strong. Twin  Power!!!