for example, I feel that  gossip is wrong and if a sentence starts off as I heard, then it is gossip and can hurt someone's feelings.... but almost everyday at my workplace there is a different rumor of someone. How can I avoid this gossip situation?
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its impossible. its the same thing at my job. i have been there for seven years, every DAY is new gossip. unfortunately thats just how people are. you can choose not to associate with them, but they will still talk about you--even if they are your 'friends'....\n\ntry not to talk about anyone, just ignore people when they bring up gossip around you or change the situation... tell whoever is gossiping--'look, i really dont like talking about other people' and change the subject. they will respect you for it, obviously you are more mature then them.\n\n\ngood luck .
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Certain things happen when folks lie. It is hard to make eye contact so you may want to try forcing that. Most people will give more details to a lie than when they are telling the truth. \nBut can you handle the truth?
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That is a really tough one... hm... I have a friend like that too, and I kinda just let it go. Maybe next time they bring something up like that, you can change the subject. Like if they say something like "I am so cool!!!!!" you can say "Speaking of cool... wasn't it cold last night?"... you know, really silly things, like take something from their sentence and say something that has to do with it. \nHowever, if they get mad just tell them the truth. Be like "I'm sorry, but you just made me feel like I was lower than you. You know? Like you are better than me." Just be honest (but throwing in a little guilt trick won't hurt) They might get mad, but eventually someone is going to tell them, and they aren't going to be nice about it. So take the chance that you have now, and just be honest with your friend. I have a pretty good feeling it will work out. Good luck! :)
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Just let her know that you are happy with the husband you have and it is necessary for her to tell you anything about him unless you ask.  Let her know that you don't believe that telling gossip about one anothers husbands is productive or strengthening for each others relationships with your husbands and is detrimental to establishing a friendship between each other.  If she is has morals she should be able to recognize this and hopefully refrain from those activities.
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I have found that it is usually best not to mix work life with personal life.  Sure, sometimes people get lucky and become friends through their jobs, and nothing bad happens.  But often the person you become "friends" with will try to take advantage of the situation, or worse, one day may get promoted and become your boss, creating an awkward situation.  Co-workers especially in an office) tend to be back-stabbers who will stop at nothing to get ahead.  They just might "accidentally" tell the boss about a mistake you made and corrected.  Or put you in a position you do not feel comfortable being in (lying to cover for them).  Or steal the promotion/raise that you were supposed to get.
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When the friend's wife starts to disclose too much information, you could say something like, "I'm sorry, but I'm quite (shy, conservative, squeamish [fill in something you are comfortable with here]) and this kind of conversation makes me really uncomfortable. Can we talk about something less (personal, intimate, graphic [fill in objectionable characteristic here]), please?" I find that this will usually solve the problem.\n\nIf you're extra-lucky, the wife will think you're stuck up or prissy and they won't invite you again! :-D
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This is the biggest problem with adolescents today.  The only correct advice I can give you is this:  If these others are your "friends" they will not listen to the one spreading rumors.  Next, you have to ignore it and anyone who you hear repeating it.  If it becomes abusive toward you, you need to tell the guidance counselor and know that you can press slander charges (yes it is against the law to tell lies about people).  this person has caused you emotional distress and could get in a great deal of legal trouble.  Relay this news to the girl in the presense of the guidance counslor.  Then, you HAVE to ignore it.  You can also start another rumor (about her).  Leave a note lying around that says a lie about her.  do not sign it.  this will take the attention away from you and onto her.
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It's human nature to avoid that which makes us feel insecure. If it is a topic that is close to home, it makes the person feel vulnerable, so they avoid the topic. People only deal with uncomfortable subjects when it is unavoidable. For example, do you go to the dentist when a tooth is just starting to cause problems, or do you wait until you're in agony before going to the dentist?
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You could go your entire life trying to squash rumors.  My thing is that I would address folks that approach me ONLY.  You dont have time for the rest of it.  People are going to think what they are going to think.
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Smile..... If you know they (the rumors) are not true it truly doesn't matter.  You are who you know your are and that is that. If it is true... then change it... if it is not then LIVE.  You are not made by what other people think of you but of what you know you are.
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When   people talk about other people to you, say nothing back.  They will soon stop talking bad about people to you completely,  and they will look at you differently,    in a good way! It really works!
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Hearsay is gossip. First-hand knowledge is truth.\n\nA warning is neither gossip nor truth - it is prudent.
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Rumors are nothing more than words. They are small thoughts of people who do not have place to talk about another relationship. Tell him how you feel but do not be blunt. A note depends on who he is or how he would take it. Most guys do not like the run around but avoid very blunt girls. Get the message to him with a little style, not allot of flare and effectively not for it to get confused. Do not be too direct but also do not take too long. Take Care and good luck!
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wow thats really possible bc gossip is the best!!! it better be good gossip!!
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Everyone makes mistakes.  I know what you mean about people making nasty comments on here...and in life.  I have a rule I try to live by (although it isn't always easy...because I am human and do make mistakes...) always say something positive or don't say anything at all.  It makes my life nicer.  I'm sorry you have had your feeling hurt.
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Humble yourself under the mighty hand of God.  If you just go about the day saying good things about people and not getting caught up in gossip as others, you will turn things around.  Let your light shine that they may see your good deeds and works and soon others will follow.
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I always remind myself that I cannot change people, but I can change the way I react to them.\n\nLove and compassion and a good ear for listening.  People who are negative should be taken in small doses as they can really bring you down.\n\nLook for the good in people and you will surely find it.  Stay clear of any gossip.  Even listening to it is harmful.  Be willing to walk away and not participate.  Or inject something nice about the person people are gossiping about this will end the conversation.\n\npeace