i'm a 18 yr-old female, i've having sex a month after i turn 18, and since then i haven't been able to reach an orgasm yet, or fell any pleassure for that matter, i mean, i fell the penis going in and out of my vagina, but i never had any pleasure, it feels just like putting my thumb in and out of my mouth, at first i thought it was because i was new at it, but now i've been having sex for about 6 months and it never gets better. i try differrent possitions and still nothing work. i do get wet, feel horney and all, but no matter how wet or horney i feel, i never feel any pleasure, so i never get any orgasm, sonetimes i get real dry while having, my boyfriend has to use the KY jelly. do you think something is wrong with me? i mean why can't i enjoy sex like anybody else? i know it's not because i'm too young, what can i do? should i stop having sex? i mean it's like wasting myself. i would really like to enjoy sex and have an orgasm like anybody else please help me.
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Have you ever had an orgasm on your own? Meaning, have you ever tried a vibrator or anything else to bring yourself to orgasm? If you have, then I'd suggest talking to your boyfriend and asking him how he'd feel about incorporating "toys" in the bedroom. One thing I'd highly recommend, since it's almost foolproof, is using a vibrator on your clitoris while your boyfriend goes in from behind, doggie style. This way, he can penetrate you fully and you're in position to have access to your clitoris without getting in each other's way.\nMost importantly now....NO, there is absolutely NOTHING wrong with you. I had sex for the first time when I was 16, and to be totally honest, I didn't have my frist real orgasm until I was around 24 (I'm 31 now). It's frustrating, I know, especially because it seems to happen so easily for the guys. Trust me though, when it does happen for you, and it WILL, it'll be well worth the wait. ;) For now, just try and relax and not think about trying to acheive an orgasm...the more pressure you put on yourself, the harder it'll be to have one. When you relax, you might surprise yourself.\nHope this helps you out. Good luck! :)
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I have the exact same problem, i cannot orgasm during sex. i thought it was something my husband was doing wrong becasue he's the only guy i've ever been with. but one day when my gynecologist was examining me i just asked her opinion and she said that my something is very far back making hard to reach orgasm by penetration. im not sure what part she said exactly. im sorry to tell you but there's no hope for us. But still do other things that excite you. Just because you cant orgasm doesnt mean it cant be fun. Dont fake it, go to the doctor and find out whats going on with your body and if you have the same propblem i have tell your husband. Mine understood, even though he was hurt.
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It is only obvious to be curious at your age.  It is funny I had the same questions and by being too embarrased to ask a grown up and the false information I got from my peers allowed me to explore  for my self.  However, the 1st time I had sex I was 17 my senior year in highschool. It was with my highschool sweet heart.  We had been together since 9th grade and he was already sexually active and constantly tried to convince me to have sex with him,  I wanted to wait til I got married but he would say it doesn't matter because we were going to get married anyways, he also advised me if I got pregnant it wouldn't matter because he was going pro in football so he would be able to take care of us.  However, he did go off to college on a football scholarship, got injured in college, never went pro, works a mediocre job, has 4 kids by 4 baby momma's and we broke up his first semester in college (honestly).   \nSweetheart you are 14 years old try to put your curiosity into something else more positive (education), trust me boys will be around and sex isn't going anywhere. When you are ready and the time is right you will know it there won't be any question about it and make him wait that will show if he really cares.\n\nTo answer your question honestly, sex is definately worth waiting for, the first time you have sex it will hurt. It will hurt probably the first few times and you will be extremely sore and probably never want to do it again. Basically it is like someone is hammering something large into a tiny hole (your vagina) the walls around the vagina will be inflamed and extremely sore.  (Imagine the felling) However, the boy will not experience the pain you are feeling and will probably try to continue ignoring your pain. If you do decide please make sure this is with someone you trust and cares about you. You will probably feel uncomfortable being naked especially at your age (i was) Initially it is not the most fun thing to do and nothing about the first time you have sex is fun or beautiful (even after you get married).  However, waiting for sex is definately worth waiting for and rewarding  because it is the most intimate relationship you can have with someone.  A man will truly admire the fact this his wife is a virgin and the only person they have been with is them.  I was glad I waited until I was older (17), but if I could have waited longer I would have.   REmember your body is a temple and don't let anyone enter it unless you know they cherish it and cherish you as well.  I hope this helps you make the right decision.
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Why do you want to have this for a longer time ? Only pain in your hands and body ache will be the result.  what it the wrong if you get it reasonably in short time. Don't wast time, and burn your calories unnecessarily. finish it in the usual time and if you feel do it again after some time, if you can.\n\nYou should show your capacity for  extended longer period only when you have sex with your partner. It will satisfy both of you-.
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I hear this statement all the time. I think what happens is that when women are young, they don't understand their own bodies themselves, so they don't know what to ask for or how to direct their partners to help them reach climax. Therefore, it's not uncommon that a girl never reach orgasm with her first boyfriend or so. As she gains a little more confidence in her sexuality and a little more knowledge about how to direct her boyfriend/lover to help her, her chances are reaching climax with him improve.\n\nOf course, the best way to ensure that you're able to tell your boyfriend how to get you off is to learn how to get yourself off without him! If female masturbation were as commonly accepted as male masturbation is, this wouldn't be a problem!!
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I'm 23, been married for close to 5 years, and in this whole time that i've been married, i've only been able to keep on going after ejaculating maybe 3 or 4 times. It's normal to go down after ''release'', but i'm confused about the not feeling it part. i've personally never had a problem with not being able to feel anything, sometimes i feel it too much and cum too fast (cries quietly to self). anyway the answer to both of your questions are, it's all in your mind, it all has to do with how turned on you are, how comfortable you are with the person, etc. hope this helped
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Well, I am afraid and embarrassed to say that I have to go with Sarah Barret! I am not fully aware of what an orgasm is. I feel so dumb! I know it's a climax a woman has while she is having sex, but what causes it and how do you know you are having one? I would like it if you could take time out and email me so I might have a damn clue what all this means. Thanks...
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Yes, you have experienced having an orgasm sweetie!  Isn't it a beautiful thing?! : )  Next time, just try to enjoy yourself and don't concentrate on just having an orgasm because sometimes it happens and sometimes it won't, but don't be dissappointed, because it will happen again as long as your boyfriend is handling his business!
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Hi story.  What a pity that I do not know your age, whether you are male or female, and whom you wish to give an orgasm!  I will assume that you are a young male, wanting to know how to please a girl.\n\nYou will need to know lots about female sexuality, whichever you are.  I recommend this site:\n\nhttp://www.the-clitoris.com/f_html/m_index.htm\n\nYou might like to read the masturbation methods; see M in the index.  See how many different ways a girl / woman can stimulate herself (or be stimulated by a partner) to orgasms!\n\nFor the M on a F setting, see the linked site on male sexuality:\n\nhttp://www.the-penis.com/\n\nespecially this section:\n\nhttp://www.the-penis.com/sextech.html\n\nand especially this section:\n\n:-)\n\n"First time sex"\n\n(quite a long way down, on the page.\n\nThere is quite a lot of detail about how to give HER pleasure, there; you need not go on to actual sexual intercourse.  There are links to other good sites.\n\nI like the way they also mention other ways to enjoy each other's company, eg:\n\nhttp://www.the-penis.com/malesexuality.html\n\n"101 ways to please your lover without "doing it"  \n\nJust a bit of fun. Substitute your favorite locations, ignore the ones you can't understand -  you've still got plenty of great ideas. I love the one about chocolate. \n\nEat Ben and Jerry's ice cream • share a tent • leave a rose on their car • skip classes together • go running • give them breakfast in bed • give each other a massage • take shag classes • make a mixed tape • bake them cookies • give each other butterfly kisses • wait in line for basketball tickets • canoe at the Lake • drink champagne in the gardens • bowl • camp at the National Forest • wash each other's hair • go to the top of the chapel tower • share a lollipop • sing to each other • go somewhere special and take pictures together • blow bubbles • share fantasies • suck on their toes • cover each other in chocolate and lick it off • compliment them • have a snowball fight • blindfold them and lead them on a trust walk • hot tub • shower together • go to a film show • respect yourself • play one-on-one in the park • take a road trip to somewhere romantic • play lap tag • take a class together • pass notes during class • go to the park and listen to bands • go mountain biking through a forest • play in the woods • surprise them with dinner in the library • make out in the stacks (library basement) • tuck each other into bed • take social dance classes • spend the whole day in bed • take care of each other when you are sick • put your perfume on their pillow • hold hands • do laundry together • send each other a package • send them a note through the express mail • play kissing tag • work out together • snuggle • learn to read each other's mind • read erotic poetry • tie each other's shoe laces • respect each other • leave notes on their noteboard • do favors for each other • make a collage together • learn Tae-Kwon-Do • be honest with each other • do classes together • read each other's palm • rent movies and cry together • wrestle • take a bubble bath • cut each other's hair • slow dance • star gaze in the stadium • put a note in their notebook • do the ropes course • picnic at the gazebo • take a walk • play in the mud • put love letters in their underwear drawer • flirt • wear sexy lingerie • say I love you • put a personal in the newspaper • have a candle light dinner • give each other a hug • consider mutual masturbation • run in the rain • look at baby pictures • nibble on their ear • give each other a hickey • make chocolate fondue • go horseback riding • study together • give them a piggy-back ride • spend the weekend at the beach • send each other E-mail\n\n\nIn other words.....be lovin
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Try new things... \n\nBut one thing that I have learned over the years is that if you play with yourself you will know what turns you on... That way you can give him little hints on what to do to get you off. \n\nAnother tip is that when you do reach an orgasm think to yourself what is going on??? are you breathing less or more? Are you taking long slow breaths or quick and fast? are you playing with your clitorus??? (some women that is the only way they can orgasm.) If the last is the case you can train yourself to orgasm without as much clitoral stimulation.... When your having sex with your man. get into the doggy style possition and let him play with your clitorus... After a while your body will associate the other stimulation with orgasm also.
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Orgasms with sex didn't happen for me until I got a little older, more comfortable with my own body, in tune with my own sexuality, and finding what worked for me and going after it, and practice of course.\n\nRead this, good advice:\n\nhttp://www.talksexwithsue.com/femaleorgasm.html\n\nAlso, just my opinion, but stop faking it.  You don't do you or your partner any favors by faking it.
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There are literally HUNDREDS of books about female orgasms and how to get one.\n\nThere is no way I could type long enough to help illuminate you to your own potential.\n\nIt does have to do with the guy(s), however. \n\nIt's probably your relationship with them and their ability to be both patient and SHARING with you.\n\n\nWhen you feel safe and you feel love..........and guys stop treating you like their own hand or a science project.....you'll begin to FEEL the differences......\n\n\nNow you are worried, up-tight, pushing, searching.....\n\n\nThat's not love, surrender, bliss, celebration.......\n\n\nRelax...........really.........breathe.........
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(if you are female) you may be one of many women who can only reach orgasm through direct clitoral stimulation, if this is the case have you guy get behind you and penitrate from the back while you or he manually stimulates you. trust me he will be happy to oblige.
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No, there's nothing wrong with that. There are a lot of women out there who cannot have vaginal orgasms, only clitoral ones. So when you guys are doing it, tell him to come closer to you (if missionary) and the rubbing will get you off. If you're in some other position, stimulate your clitoris yourself. On the other hand, maybe you're just not in the mood of having sex when they do. Ask yourself, do you get completely aroused? Is he hurting you? Is he too big for you? Who knows? maybe it's something more simple than you think ;o)
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Mentally?  Maybe a little but it will pass.  Physically?  Depends on if you are nervous, you will hold the muscles tighter it might hurt at first.  so get yourself or he can get you real relaxed and lubricated.  start drinking at least 8-10 glasses of water a day to help with dryness that ids sometimes due to age and hormones.  This will make your vagina more easily lubricated naturally.  Of coarse the BIG last element is will he be rough or go too fast or if he is large or extra large it will hurt so much foreplay is needed. Have some oral sex, first him a little, then you a lot!  It will help to slow things down some to give you time to lubricate naturally.  So things aren’t forced and you don't react and tighten up the pubic and vaginal muscles.  If you do it might hurt, a bit until they loosen up some.I had a problem with this same thing.  This really works.  especially adding the water to your diet as soon as possible. you will feel moist, ready and young again.
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Well sometimes, when you and your lover are getting really hot and nasty, it just feels like the right time to do it!! When you've got baby-oiled up or whatever!! LOL!! \n\nOf course, you have to be totally relaxed and I found that rubbing my clit or getting him to do it (whilst he's in there)makes the whole thing much more pleasurable!\n\nIt's not something I want to do all the time, but now and again, hell why not!! When it comes to what makes a women come, we are all different. And not only that, but what may make me orgasm one week, might not work for me the next!!
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You'll be one of those sad sad women who never orgasm.  \n\nIn order to come during sex you have to figure out how to make yourself come.  That means you need to spend some quality time with your right hand (or left if you're a leftie) and your brain.  Think about what YOU like, what turns YOU on, and how it makes YOU feel.  It has been my experiance that women who do not orgasm do so because they have no idea what they even like.  They see sex as something you do for someone or with someone, not something you do for yourself.\n\nBuy books on the subject, from fantasies to anatomy to technique.  Get a hand mirror and check yourself out down there.  Look at internet porn.  Read some erotica or Harlequin romance novels.  Spend a lot of quality time with your hand between your legs.  Think about buying a vibrator.  Learn the shower head trick.  Take mental notes on what works and what does not.  \n\nYou have to take a certain ammount of responsibility for your own sexual pleasure.  You're the only one who can make it happen.