All of my relationships in the past have been no strings attached and very open, and this has been perfectly fine with me - I've never wanted anything more. But, now that I want to start having actual relationships, I'm finding that I keep attracting "no strings attached" type of guys, or at least am still giving off that vibe.\n\nHow do I get guys view me as a girlfriend and not a make out buddy?
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Date lots of men and take it really slow with all of them.  They are easier to sort when you see them a few times before getting serious with them.
258050
is the reason you haven't had a boyfriend because of them or you? i know lots of people in wheel chairs that have relationships. so is it you? maybe your so afraid of no one liking you that you give off the vibe to stay away. if your not confidant in your self or you dont like yourself...men can pick up on that. try cahnging your attitude about yourself and im sure things will change
126062
I don't know what these people are talking about, I flirt all the time and because of this I have never had any trouble finding someone to be with. The trick is to be confident and sweet. And if you have a good sense of humor use it like crazy... but don't bray at your own jokes like a donkey, that's NOT attractive. Give it a try ladies and gents, it works ;)
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i've only been out looking once.. \nstumbled upon it twice..and well, here's the thing..as a woman, i'm kind of looking for a guy who is sexual..and is going to give me what i want that night.. \nmindless, mindnumbing, meaningless sex.. but still a good time.. \n\nseriously, the last one night stand (not intentionally) i had was great.. we ended up back at my place around 2..and we uhmm ya know for a while.. and then had to take a break about 4.. we laughed, joked and had a good time before ya know.. uhmming some more..and then another break.. basically the morning ended with a lot of fun..and a lot more of uhmm..\n\nit's like i don't want to feel trashy after a one night stand, but i still want great sex.. \n\ni go into my regular bar..we get a lot of drifters in and out..i went one night with the intention of hooking up with someone..edned up leaving with someone else, and then hooking up with a completely different person.. odd i iknow..but serioiusly, i was determined to have sex that night.. and for some reason it seems guys decide to have a conscience now.. "i don't want to use you as a one night stand.. but can i get your phone number and we can hang out tomorrow?" wtf??\n\nthe next time.. i was just hanging out with people..and it just happend..and it was mindblowing good time.. \n\nso if you're going into a bar with the intention of a one night stand.. i would recommend going to somewhere you don't want to necessarily return to as the regulars will know the story..or go to wher eyo know you're going to get what you are looking for..
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Why is it that the men your refering to know they don't have to have a lasting relationship with you or why is it that your relationships are not lasting...I have found women think they can attract a man one way and think they can keep him another way...You sound intimidating and perhaps your a challenge, and once they realize your just like other women, they lose interest or consider the challenge over...there can be many reasons...just try and be the person you are and allow Mr. Right to recognize thats the person he wants..good luck.
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Did u see the movie hitch?????  I am dating a guy right now who becomes more and more attractive to me outwardly than he would be to most.  He was a friend that was always there for me, always a great communicator and never ever once found a flaw to bring me down.  He is now my boyfriend.  I get the occasional what does she see in him, and if they only knew what a kind person he was I would be fighting them off daily.  You are probably not bad looking just lacking confidence.  Stay true to who you are inside, and you will have a woman that truely loves you.  Quit looking at outward appearance when it comes to women.
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If I feel like I'm seeking someone and there aren't any choices that may be good enough, then there isn't any choice to be attached. I haven't met any guys recently whom I was very attracted to. It was like I was looking for something I knew it was not gonna be there, because that's what they are and they can't be changed. So, I wouldn't want to settle for less if they didn't seem good enough for me.
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I'm having the same problem myself. The way I decided to solve my problem, was to be great friends, but casual daters. If you value your relationship (as friends and lovers) talk about it...over chinese food or pizza or something. Really talk about if you think the relationship will last more than a month and what would really change once you 'officially' started dating. would there really be a difference in how you act around each other other than physically (i.e. hand-holding, kissing, etc.)?
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Be Careful you don't want to seem desperate, And your not really supposed to be asking guys out anyway. Although it is a bold move and I think that if more women could say what was on there mind there would be a lot more couples together today. And vice versa of course. But my advice to you is to speak your mind be confident. And don't be afraid of rejection. take it slow, be patient but most of all don't settle and Be yourself
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basically, all you have to do is talk to them as if they were one of your girlfriends, but a little lighter. just go up to a guy of your choice and introduce yourself and start talking and see how that goes. i really can't explain it any better than that. i have a lot of guy fiends; in fact most of them are guys! just be yourself around them, just not flirty too much. your just tryin to get a guy friend.
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Bsically, this guy is completley abusing your feelings for him. He wants a no strings attached relationship because this means he can do whatever he wants, whenever he wants and he does not have to make any real effort with you or show you any commitment. He just wants a bit of fun. Now if you're ok with this, theres nothing worng with it but as you have taken time to come on here and ask this question, I'm guessing your feelings for this guy are pretty strong and that you wouldn't be ok with that kind of situation. If you really like him, this will end in tears. You must respect yourself and realise that you deserve much more than his.
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Puh-lease...I've never dated, never kissed anyone, none of that and I'm in college.  Don't worry about the boyfriend stuff.  At some point, God'll bring someone to you who really appreciates you for who you are.  Right now, focus on friendships with guys and girls.  The best husbands are best friends, anyway.  :)
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What exactly are you looking for when you go out dressed like that?\n\nAre you dressing sexy so the guys look at you or because you feel sexy and dress that way out of your own confidence?\n\nMen see confidence and that is why they approach. You can be in the tighest, shortest, cleavage, skin showing outfit, but if you don't have inner confidence-Men can see that and stay away.\n\nYou may not even know but you may give off an "unapproachable" vibe. Guys may find you attractive, but something about you is revealing you are looking for something. I was told not too long ago- I give off that unapproachable vibe-Well- I quickly worked on that...It's still a work in progress.\n\nSeriously though, I used to think that if I didn't get a guys number or hook up with a guy at the end of the night that it was a waste. Now I don't even care- and I have found that when you aren't there to hunt your prey- they seem to fall all around you.\n\nSo think about your intentions and your actions. If you are going out just to meet a guy and you are dressing all sexy just to attract a man then yes, when you walk out at the end of the night- you will feel lonely and strange.\n\nBut if you are in there and you have your drink-find your inner confidence- only you will find it. A man won't, your girlfriends won't, not even your family. You have to find it, and truly believe it- because girlfriend- you are fabulous. You have to believe in yourself. Believe me- I went through it and today, while I am still single- I am confident!
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Tell him sorry but that isn't good enough for you and walk away.  Just from the way you wrote your question tells me there is no doubt that you will be attached to him and that you need more in a relationship.  If he really liked you then he would be willing to enter a committed relationship or simply date with no benefits.  You deserve a man who wants to be with you and only you and is interested in developing a real relationship with you.  Don't settle for anything less or you will get hurt.
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maybe cuz you wanting a serious relationship is the problem..thats scaring them away..most guys dont want a serious relationship..that scares them...guys like freedom to do whatever..and i mean whatever they want to do..they dont want to answer to no body..they dont want no body all up in there bussiness and so on..they dont want to wake up knowin they got a girl and they got another girl they intersted in and they think of the things they CANT do juts because they have a girlfriend..you know waht im saying? guys arnt ready and they dont want to be ready for a realtionship..i been through it..seen it ..done it..my ex was the same..i guess he wasnt ready for a relationship..nor a serious relationship at that..find somebody that wants the same thigns you want..find somebody thats willing to give just as much as you're willing to give.maybe being too nice and too leinent is a problem also..good luck..hope i helped..im too much of a nice perosn..i bend over backwards to make sure my boyfriend is happy and it doesnt seem to work out either for me..like in the end im the one hurt..so i dont know girly..whats meant to be is meant to be..theres somebody else out there.you're being prepared..there only lessons..things you learn from it..so you think positive..say "it was nice while it lasted"..you take from it what you take from it and move on..theres someone out there worth your while..love will come when its time and then your heart will heal
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What is so important about getting attached to a guy? Don't worry so much about it and you'll soon see that a guy will have his eyes for you and want you.  How old are you? I'm asking because young guys don't necessarily want to get attached to a girl at a young age and would rather wait until they're older.  Im not sure of your age though, so no point in discussing that subject...
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I am now in a fulfilling relationship. Before my current relationship I hadn't had a boyfriend in 8 years. (talk about a dry spell) A year ago all the guys that I had crushes on started approaching me and I had plenty to choose from. It's like I became more attractive. Just wait it out. Don't try to hard. When you stop looking for love, love will find you.