the just of it is i met this girl and she was wonder ful we had a bad break up ad now i cant seem to stop thinking about her and it feels like its consuming ne how do u cope with that?
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It takes time. You will probably get sick of hearing it. No one thing can make you stop hurting.\nYou just have to go on with your life, work, school, whatever it is you do. Keep in contact with good friends, keep busy.\n DONT rebound. It will only hurt you and confuse you more.
429093
Enjoy it! It's so sweet. It seems you have fallen in love. I don't know if I would help you if I could. I guess try really hard to focus on what you're doing. breath.. focus.. and get addicted to the work/thing you need to do. You can keep thinking about her after you're done.
49995
Letting go is hard. You need to let yourself heal before you date again because you're on the rebound. The girl that worries sounds like a sweetheart but you need to be honest with her and tell her that you're just not as ready as you thought you were for another relationship. As for getting over this girl, acceptance is the key and the first step toward recovery. I've been there, I know. You have to allow yourself to go through the grief stages, and yes, it's like grieving over a death because it is a death in a way. You'll got through many emotions but it is a necessary path that you must take. This girl does not deserve you and if you have to get mad and hate her, do that if it works for you as long as it doesn't harm anyone. Avoid all contact with her because for now, it's keeping you tied to her. Heal first then perhaps you can be friends. If you feel you need counseling, than get it. There is no shame in it. Another thing you can do is to work out at the gym. It helped me a lot and when you see your body starting to change for the better, you begin to feel better about yourself and more confident. You will get over her, sweetheart but it will take time and effort on your part. God speed and good luck. =)
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Hahahahahahaha! \n\nDude, you screwed the pooch. \n\nWhat, she all of a sudden looks good because she's found someone new? I know what that's like. I've been there. You don't want her - but you don't want anyone else to want her either.\n\nYou're mistaking that feeling of loss as love. \n\nWhat you need to do is go out and date someone else. How about the chick you screwed your 'love' over with in the first place?
630521
OOOH I KNOW WHAT U MEAN WHEN I BROKE UP WITH MY BOYFRIEND I COULDNT STOP THINKING ABOUT HIM AND I WANTED TO GET BACK TOGETHER BUT HE HAD A GIRLFRIEND BUT AS I KNOW NOW U GET OVER THAT PESON WHEN U MEET SOMEONE ELSE U LIKE A LOT
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You never forget. And you don't fall out of love. The trick is to keep your mind open to further possibilities. I imagine the hard part is that when you meet others, your first reaction is, "It's not her." No....its not her. But she just might have qualities that you need........but that you just don't even realize that yet. Let your heart open back up.......let your mind open up. Don't close it the minute you meet someone wonderful. Don't compare......enjoy instead. It will happen........you can hold me to that. :)
318321
There's a reason you broke up. If you broke up once, who's to say you wouldn't again. You broke up recently? That's probably why you can't stop thinking about him. You just miss him, but you'll get over him after a while. You'll find someone else.
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well, first you have to forget about the idea of your 'one true love'. whether or not such a thing exists, she was obviously not it. for the other part - I'm sorry but I don;t know any shortcuts through a broken heart. give it time, try to get out and be around people who can distract you, try to find a job, hobby, or person to be excited about. One day you'll wake up and she wont be the first thing on your mind...I promise.
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Ending a relationship hurts.  Just take time for yourself.  Do the things you didn't get to do as often when you were with her.  Try something new.  But definitly don't rush into a new relationship.  It's only been a day, like you said.  It will get better, I promise!
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Its rough but it will end.  Pretty much the same thing happened to me till I met a great girl through a friend of ours.  You just need patience.  Try just concentrating on a hobby and just not think about not having a girlfriend.  It helps and if that stops working take up a new hobby.  Learning new stuff takes a lot and will take your mind off of girls and when you do meet a girl it will make you more intresting and give you something to talk about.
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WHew thats quite a story indeed. I think the best medicine for you is a night at the strip club. After that you should keep your eyes open and find someone new. Once you find someone else you like. It will be alot easier to get over her. However, I'm sure you'll still think of her from time to time, but it won't be as hard once you someone else to love.
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So sorry that you are going through this. I can relate 100%.\nThe pain and depression from a break up can take over your life if you let it.. It did me for a while and I still have my moments. (I was w/ my now ex for 19 yrs.)It has been 9 months since my break up...\n(he also walked out on his 2 daughters)..\nDrugs and alcohol can consume a persons morals and soul...\n\nHere are some things that helped me and some I still continue to do:\n\nWrite a letter to her, but don't mail it, this is for you to express your feelings...burn it after reading this letter.. write and burn as often as you wish.. it does help.. this helps me to let go..\n\nKeep a daily journal of how you feel each day. \nJot down a POSITIVE word to describe yourself (loving, caring, compassionate, outgoing, and so on.).\n\nTake a long brisk walk, go for a swim, go to the gym... do something just for your self, something that you like and brings a smile...\n\nMake a  pro/con list of the relationship you had with her.\ndon't nit pick or sugar coat this list...be HONEST....\nThen make a list of the things you want to find in a woman(NOT HER)..don't over load this list, no one it perfect..\nI had to redo my list a few times....\n\nGo out with your freinds or family, DO NOT ISOLATE YOURSELF from others or life.... it only makes life harder for you!!!\n\nRemember and remind yourself that she chose her life and you can not change her.(I tried to change my ex and waited for him to grow up and change his life for 19 yrs., I lost out on a lot more then just losing him)...\n\nRemind your self that YOU are a GOOD person and you have control of your life, you can't change the past BUT you can change your future and make it happy if you choose.\nYou have control of you!!!\n\nAgain I'm sorry you are hurting so deeply. \nIn time you will feel better and begin to start your life over.. look to make friends with other women first..\nDo NOT rush into a new relationship just to be with some one and not be alone... THIS WILL NOT HELP YOU...\n\nIf you want to chat, email me, I'll be your chat pal.\n\nI hope this helps..
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It takes time to get over a love relationship.  Some people say that it takes half the time you were involved to get over it.  The best thing is to just talk it out with friends, or maybe a professional counselor.  It's a process, getting over a broken heart, not an event.  It's not something that you just wake up the next day and say, "I'm over it".  I found getting involved with new friends, or interests took my mind away from my sadness.  \nI'm sorry to hear that you are hurting, I hope that you can find some support and distraction soon.  It won't always be like this.  Some day in the future you will look back at this and realize that it wasn't a good relationship for you.
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She was going to cheat on you anyway, you did the right thing.  Take it from someone who went through a similar breakup with someone they thought was truly in love with them - move on.\nThe best thing you can do for yourself is to just move on.  Obviously you will still think about her, but you absolutely, positively cannot call her, write her, ask her friends about her, talk to her parents.  Nothing.  I had always held out hope I could get back together with my ex.  It was my friend who coached me on not having any contact with her.  Now, looking back on things, I realize how much added pain it saved me.  Like your ex, my ex did what she did and nothing could change that.  It was in her and it was in her head and it would have happened sooner or later.  And trying to get her back was not an option.  Not trying to get in touch with her was the best thing I could have done.  \nI just got back into the dating thing after a few weeks.  Sure, there may be a few "rebound" girlfriends, but sooner or later you get into another satisfying relationship and leave the bad memories behind.
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you need to seriously cut down on spending time with him and phone calls, etc. he's just not into you that way. the only way to get over him is to distance yourself.\n\nCall up some other friends and become very busy and important!! \n\nYou might be surprised how much you won't be thinking about him after a week or two. \n\nGetting away from the situation always puts things in perspective. you will come to find that he is not amazing enuff for you to agonize over!
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We can't handle it at all. We fall so quick that all we want to do is be with that person and talk to that person 24/7. The only way i see it is keep doing your own stuff when you were single and let him come to you. Us girls are always chasing the guys asses let them chase us for once
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Tell your new girlfriend that you are having a problem.  Explain how you are attracted to her, what you love/like about her, but that for some reason you keep thinking of your old girlfriend.  Explain that you don't really know why.  Then let her know that you need some time to work this out, and that the more time goes on, the more you realize that you're not ready to be in a new relationship after all right now, WITH ANYBODY.  And truthfully take that to heart.  I'd ease off of this new relationship for a few weeks or a month or so, just to sort out your own feelings.  You need to either A) get in touch with some real feelings of grief about losing your old girlfriend and work through them (maybe with a counselor?) and / or B) re-visit the old relationship to see if you should continue.  Either way, it's important to recognize and attend to what's real, your truest and deepest feelings inside.