why is it that when you are dating someone and the other guy you like ask you to dump him for him and you like him and the guy your dating but you dont want to hurt either one of there feelings what sould you do
136583
it's that whole forbidden fruit concept. most people unfortunately want something more when they know they can't have it.
281116
was in that situation before.\n(assuming that this is on the same day?)\n\n\nI chose the one I like.\nwhy? because this is a change of a lifetime!\n\nfor the one I asked out?\nwell, he as to wait.\n\nbut if this is for a long period of time.....\n\ngo with the one you like most.\nwell of course you have to try to go out with both of them.\nbut even if you want to date both of them tell them, because if someone actually has real feellings for you he should be prepared to feel hurt.\n\nmy advice: enjoy it girl. but dont hurt other peoples feeling. that brings you nothing but problems(whether guilt or rumors). trust me, I saw some really ugly things in this Area.\n\nASiH
270010
If you are totally against going out with this guy, tell him a polite, but firm NO.  If you are merely holding out hoping the other guy will notice you and take you out, maybe you give the first guy a try.  You might end up having a great time and see that the guy you like isn't as desirable as you thought.
87983
that happened to me before too.\ni really like one of my close guyfriends(and he found out. one of my friends told him). but he was dating this other girl, who's one of my closest girl friends. it really sucked. but then after i stopped liking him. we still continued being good friends.
615938
Keep dating both of them...  As long as you're not exclusive with someone, you're allowed to date anyone you want.  Once you decide who you want, then commit to them..... that's how it works.
322299
Because you still have feelings even though you don't want to admit it. Also, jumping into another relationship right away will not be good for you or the other person. Take time to sort your feelings out, and when you are ready, you will not feel like that.
118897
word to the wise, don't even try.  If you come between two men you will cause problems and one or both of them will eventually resent or hate you.\n\nMake it easy for them date both of them at the same time.
156871
Don't date either of them if you want to remain friends with them.  If you don't care, pick one and STICK WITH IT.  Don't play them against each other.  It's not a good idea!
532255
Sounds like she liked another guy also and her friend betrayed her.  When you are dating and just starting dating, you have to talk to each other about what you feel about dating.  \n\nIf you only want to date only one person at a time, you have to let her know that.  There are many people who are dating and just dating with nothing serious in it, especially when you are just getting to know each other.  You should let her talk.  \n\nCommunication is the number one thing in any relationship.  At least she is being honest that she likes someone else.  If you don't want to talk to her because she likes someone else, tell her that.  Don't ignore her.  Tell her how you honestly feel.  I am like you.  I don't go for someone who likes someone else, but you have to tell her.  You might be good friends even if you don't make good boyfriend - girlfriend relationship.
464701
If the guy respects you, that's great. I wouldn't go back to your ex who doesn't want a real relationship, but if you don't like your current boyfriend then you don't have to go out with him. I'm sure one day you'll find a guy you like a lot AND who respects you as well. Don't think this guy you're dating now is the only one in the world so you might as well stay with him. Basically, follow your heart, and good luck!
143758
you need to ask the guy in question if he will give you another chance.  don't be surprised if he's a bit wary, after all you dumped him without really telling him why.  before you do any that, it may be wise to think over the reasons why you actually like him.  are they real reasons that you can build a realtionship on?  ultimately though, if you don't ask you don't get so go for it! you'll only regret it if you don't! good luck x
300692
If you do not like them both then tell them the truth.  If you like one and not the other tell them the truth.  If you like them both then, go on a date with each one and see who treats you better.  Not girlfriend boyfriend dates, just friend dates
250842
OK first find out if the other guy likes you then good but if he do sent then just dont stay with your boyfriend if you dont love him because at the end hes going to be more hurt that if you had done it now because by the time hes going to get closer to you and he will love you more so i think that you should break up with him because at the end hes the one that's going to get hurt at the end.
292434
You have to decide which person means more to you the one your with or the one your not with. Your the ony one who can decide is it worth rising hurting the guy you love for womeone who your not sure that he even feels the same way.
527201
Okay; I'm gonna put this plain and simple.\n\nBreak up with your boyfriend, but not to go out with the other guy. Don't go out with either one of them. If you're having thoughts or feelings of attraction for someone other than your companion, you're not ready for a committed relationship. Sure; it's fine to go on dates with both of them occasionally, but don't steady-date either of them for now. Wait until your feelings remain constant for one individual; then if you think it's the right time, see if you can progress that relationship further. That's my opinion. Hope it helped.
483444
Please do not start anything with him or anybody while in a relationship with another. What goes around comes around and you will be asking for the same in your relationship with that person.
228969
Well, fess up first of all. Admit that you were talking to his friend.  But let him know if it was strictly just talking out of friendship or whatever it is. Be honest, if you were talking to his friend and you think that you're attracted to the friend, then try to date the friend if he's available. Don't keep leading the other guy on and letting him think that you're into him when really you're into the friend because you want them both or something like that. I'm not saying this is the case, I'm just saying you need to explain yourself. If he doesn't respond then let it go, as much as it will irritate you to leave something at that, you'll have the peace of mind to know that you did what you had to do and that you've apologized and offered some sort of explanation. It is his fault for burning any bridges. And remember to look at signs, this may be a sign that you're not compatible with him, if you can honestly see yourself saying that you wouldnt do this if the situation was reversed, then you know you're on different levels. Good luck with this situation.