my boyfriends ex-wife hurt him very bad and now he thinks all women cheat and are out for nothing but money
119428
Just be a good woman to him.  Be transparent and honest, always.  Don't let him try to make you jump through hoops for him, though.  His baggage is his baggage.  For him to insinuate that YOU are a cheater and only out for money just because of what his ex did is insulting to you and unfair.  You do not have to have your character called into question not based upon your own actions but just because he feels like creating drama.  And if he ever does that... call him on it.  Tell him, "I know what you've been through and my heart goes out for you, truly.  Nobody deserves to go through that, but you know what... I'm not the one that did that to you.  You have no basis upon which to say that about me and I am extremely offended at your insinuation.  If you need to vent about your ex wife, then please do, but don't try to make me a villain as well.
99130
I'm sorry you had to go through this, I know how much it hurts when your spouse cheats on you.  I wish I could say you could trust him and that everything will be fine but the truth is he crossed a line and now that line really doesn't exist for him.  I'm sure he regrets hurting you but I doubt if he really regrets that he was with this other woman.  I tried to forgive my ex when she cheated and believe her when she said she wanted to work it out but ultimately she did it again and I realized I could never trust her again.  Trust is one of the basic foundations in a marriage and once it is gone it isn't easily repaired.  I think you need to decide what is right for you and if you don't believe you can honestly trust him again then divorce is your only option.
274628
If he is telling other women that your two are broke up, then he is trying to do something with them.  You have your own answer right there.  He is a cheater and he is willing to cheat with one of your friends.  Get someone who respects you and your feelings and leave the trash to the bitchesss.  good luck, you deserve better than that!!!
175634
Girl, you needn't forgive him. Look at the facts. He cheated on you for two whole years, then, he had the courage to bring her to your hose. He sounds pretty dumb.
99577
forget it all together - you don't need the headaches. If he cheated and she cheated most likely they will cheat again. Unless you want to live a soap opera - move on to a different crowd of people.
254668
I think that you should be mad at him because now he is going out with a nother girl and sounds like he used you for money. Are you single and how old are you and what state do you live in?
317976
Obviously they are not over yet. If you love him, set him free. He needs to be reminded of why she is his ex. Give him some time.\n\nYou will not have trust now. You cannot have love without trust. Love is action. His actions do not show love.\n\nI know people make mistakes, but this sounds like the beginning of a bad relationship. Free him now before it gets out of hand.
196326
ummm yeah girl, dont get caught in that falling for losers while the nice guy watches and picks up the pieces trap. You should kick your ex's behind. You dont disrespect a woman by putting your hands on her OR calling her out of her name. If he has to physically hurt a woman, it shows he is a punk anyways and not a real man. Maybe his mistake in falling for you is that you didnt have a penis, which is what he is really looking for.
423985
Some people can be extremely convincing and have mastered the art of the mind game. However, these people are relatively easy to beat if you do your homework. What you need to do is make this woman come forward with some proof of this cheating and if she can't do it, then she has nothing to go by. Also, if your boyfriend is willing to accept the story from this woman and has completely disregarded what you've said, then either he's been likewise brainwashed by this woman or has some trust issues with you. Rumors are rumors and are always started by someone with interests...perhaps this woman is after YOUR boyfriend!
540273
I have the same problem and I am working on it. First, you need to apologize to your boyfriend for slapping him on the face, and tell him that you have a problem, and that you are working on it. \nNow, you cannot get "cured" in one day, or even one month from something like this. Prepare for the long journey. The key is to become a rational thinker. You will have to undergo the whole thinking and behavior modification process. Fear is the greatest motivator of human behavior. Try to think what is that you scared of most. If the unbelievable happens and your boyfriend does commit the cheating, what the worst that can happen? How exactly is it going to affect you? Will you die from it? Will your life be over after it? Will your head fall off, your spine break, etc. Sorry for being so graphic, but really, what is that so tragic and awful that is going to happen to you? Nothing of that. If the cheating in fact will take place, you will be hurt for awhile and that get over it and move on with your life. You are not that jealous of your first husband now, see? You see, when you were a child you learned from your mom that something REALLY bad is going to happen to you when your spouse will commit the act of cheating. Children always learn by fear. They think they are going to die if things happen the wrong way. You have to first identify and then face your fears. NOTHING is going to happen to you or your life if you will be cheated on. In fact, your life will only improve from it because it will help you to get rid of the cheater.\n   Also you need to learn how to unconditionally love yourself. Once you see how totally sweet you are, you will realize how in the world your boyfriend can possibly cheat on you??? Not a chance! He is not stupid. He knows how exactly how lucky he is and there is no way he is ever going to jeopardize his future with you. \n   Everytime you are feeling jealous try to get away and breath in a paper bag for few minutes. Absolutely let your boyfriend know that you have this problem so he can be a help to you when you will need it. Also you can start going to gym daily and exercising, this will help big time.
659316
An angry ex-wife is hell. My sister went thru the same thing, and let me tell you, it affects everybody in the family. They need to be strong to be able to safe their relationship.
459966
OK first of all vow to never vow that you will never date again! and i had them same thing happen to me, calm down things will get better.Just because you have gotten hurt so many times doesn't mean all guys are bad. You just need to move eon, you don't love him you just had lust for him, i know you hate hearing that because everyone hate hearing it. Just remember this little thing, nothing lasts forever so,live ti up drink it down avoid bull sh** and have no regrets cause a t one point what you did was exactly what you wanted. I f he cheated on you then he is not worthy of you! The only reason he cheated on you was because he had to make himself look good and make you look like the innocent type that can be easily broke and tamed. Never get to attached until yopu are absoultely sure that person would do nothing to hurt you, a way you can do that is ask ur friends to see what he says to his friends. I did that with my bf and they said he always talked about me and this other chick. Thats how i got the hint that he was cheating and then i dumped him b4 he could hurt me.All you nned to do is watch out
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She's one of those women who doesn't want the man anymore, but resent it when he is happy with someone else.Your boyfriend (husband) needs to put her in her place.  She has no place in your lives  and HE needs to make that clear to her.  Unfortunately when an ex-wife and kids are concerned there is always madness around.  Been there...done that.  Good luck.
480978
He is being abusive and its NOT GOOD... DUMP HIM. He is obviously pathetic and doesnt know how to treat a woman. He has issues... maybe volumes... Leave him! Find someone who will treat you much better.
273660
He probably expects you to go out and cheat on him, you need to sit down with him and tell him that you cannot be happy if everything you do will make him wonder. If he loves you he will get over his insecurities and make the relationship work out. Tell him that by doing what he is doing is not very fair to you. You trust him don't you? Than if you have never done anything wrong he needs to get over it and if not than I do believe that it is time to get on with your life. You should not be miserable b/c of problems that only exsist in his way of thinking.
147097
Your problem is that he's still into her in his head and that's really hard to break down. All you can do is be there for him and show him the contrast between a great gal (you) and a cheat (her).
81135
Not good.  First, he is taking you for granted.  He sees no consequences for his actions and treats you like the dog that gets kicked for no good reason.  He may have frustrations, but has failed to learn or remember who really cares for him above all others.  This is a sign of emotional immaturity.  He needs a wake up call and needs to grow up.  How would he feel if the shoe where on the other foot?  He probably wouldn't stand for it, so why should you?  Don't.  The next time he pulls this crap, I suggest you react in a calm, yet defiant manner by explaining that you care for him, while he seems to have forgotten what a healthy supportive relationship is.  If he wants someone to take out his anger on, then he's got the wrong woman.  End of story, so no more of this behavior against me...no hard feelings.