Girlfriend of 8 Monthes Love to death live together
131099
If you feel you love her.Start by asking her to marry you, then be engaged for about a year, If your still happy and in love after that start planning!
383754
I think you really need to have a heart-to-heart talk with your "significant other" on this issue. This may be the time to sort things out before it is too late. She is used to visiting any time she likes and as you know, old habits die hard. You have to be patient and accommodating.
176173
IT DEPENDS ON HOW LONG YOU HAVE BEEN SEEING EACH OTHER...IF YOU HAVE BEEN DATING FOR OVER 6 MONTHS AND STILL DON'T KNOW HOW TO COMMUNICATE , THERE IS SOMETHING WRONG AND THE TWO OF YOU NEED TO TALK ABOUT IT AND TRY TO OPEN UP TO EACH OTHER. IT MAY BE THAT YOU ARE SO IN LOVE WITH HER THAT YOU ARE SCARRED SAYING THE WRONG THING MIGHT END YOUR RELATIONSHIP, BUT IF YOU HAVE TO ASK THIS QUESTION IT MUST BE WEIGHING ON YOUR MIND. JUST TRY TO TALK TO HER ABOUT HOW YOU FEEL AND HOPEFULLY SHE FEELS THE SAME AND YOU BOTH CAN START TALKING ABOUT HOW YOU FEEL WITHOUT BEING SCARRED.
504511
Sounds like you are getting some of your own medicine there buddy.  Why was it ok for you to be with both of them while you made up your mind, but not ok for her to be with both of you while she makes up her mind?  You say I alot in that paragraph as though you have given up something you wanted, and the decision is soley yours if you spend your life with Jen.  It's not.  It's up to Jen too and since you started this, you kind of have to wait for her to figure it out the way you did.\nI'm sorry you are hurting, but this is what you wanted, time to decide if she was the one.  Now give her the same courtesy.
174124
what you just said in the question sounds like a good start to me.  you have the right to be happy and if the relationship you are in right now does not make that happen, then you shouldn't have to stay.  it doesn't matter if your significant other is related to hers, you should do what makes you happy.  just try telling her what you wrote here.
351703
hey, youre heart isnt in the right place man! you have a lifetime to wait but a lifetime to waste. your will must aligned to the will of God in your life. The woman you love 8 years ago will not be the same woman you love at this very moment. Put yourself in a mirror and tell yourself what a handsome guy like you wasting your life in waiting. It is better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all..Go back to the basic.
238037
I think you should stay loyal to your current girlfriend. If she is pregnant, she is going to need you by her side for support.
171015
Unfortunately..not until she is gone. We all make that mistake. If you really love her and she still loves you...GO GET HER. You can work it out. The main thing is YOU LOVE EACH OTHER...everything else is 'details'...and details CAN be worked out. Just be glad you realized it now and may have a chance to fix things. What's the worse thing that could happen? She could say 'no'. I think it's a chance you have to take. Be honest with her...and yourself.
202934
I can tell through your question that you are hurting.  You need to give her some space...people can fall out of love, and it usually isn't easy for them either.  Something has changed and you can feel it and see it...don't prolong the agony for either of you...it will be hard, but you will survive and someday when you meet and fall in love with the love of your life and you are hers...it will all make sense.  Good Luck : )
174702
Accept her decision if you sincerely care for her. If thet time is right things will happen for the two of you. I also think that you should really think this realtionship through! You say you have been together for three years yet you have only seen her for a total of six weeks thats not healthy in a realationship. Did you ever think that she might have someone in her country? Just think it over and if she is still the one ask her to marry you. Good Luck!
526880
In my opinion anywhere above twenty years is too much of an age difference. I have no doubt in my mind at all that you and your girl will live a happy life together forever. As long as you are both treating each other with respect and courtesy then you should be just fine. Loving her is part of it but you also have to show her that you love her. Maybe you should renew your vows if you're married (hope you know what that means), or plan a surprise trip to a country she has always wanted to visit. I know that might sound like a hassle and quite a chunk of dough out of your pocket but from your description it sounds like it might be the only thing that will work... good luck in resolving this conflict, i will keep you and your girlfriend in my thoughts and prayers
231995
You know they always say that age is just a number, but in this case it seems that age is the FACTOR. She is young,scared, and unsure about what to expect from life...she just started living it as a young adult.\nYOU on the other hand have had time to "experiment" and live it up some...So my advice to you:\n1st-Talk to her about what you are feeling; because it is you and her in the relationship.\n2nd-If nothing changes and she isn't ready; which I am SURE you will respect her values...then it is time to move on. \nBecause there is nothing worse than being with someone who doesn't make you COMPLETELY happy.
468124
Maybe you should say If i love you i would help you get out of this   there is better life than this.  Just try to help all you can.  You need to tell an adult to solve this.  Do it quick because you wouldnt want something bad to happen to her and you never got help her.
379006
tell her what you just told us...you love her and you dont want to throw away 4 yrs of your life together...\nAnd for goodness sakes start romancing her a little...i dont know any woman who doesnt like being swept off her feet rather than just being taken for granted!
346067
u r a brave man, There are many ways to commit suicide, but u have to decide, how u want to die. Peacefully or painfully.\nIf u die peacefully then u will suffer even after death, but if u suffer painfully u will rest in peace.\n\nsince 5 yrs ur in love, but still she doesnt have guts to come with u. May be there is some problem with u, u could not give her so much love, that she wants. she should have felt that if i miss him, i would be missing everything in my life.\nok , now lets come to the point.\n\nNever try to get her with help of sympathy, always talk bold, give wise solutions, let her choose. Say only one thing, what u do i accept it, but never take any decision, which seperates u from me.....................
576682
Sweetheart, you are young and in love; I know it sounds like a hard thing to do, but just be her friend, you are both too young to have this kind of stress in your lives. Be her friend, and be a good friend, things have a really weird way of working themselves out, so don't worry, if you love her you will cherish any relationship you have with her. \n\nP.S. You sound like a guy that any girl would be lucky to have, but I have to tell you; this probably wont be the last time you feel this way. I wish you good luck and good love
222541
It's good that you seem like a good man if you are showing all the signs that you love and care for her. However, your girl seems to have had enough of you for whatever reason. I think she may feel overwhelmed by the living arrangement you guys have chosen and she finally figured out that she needs her space. Maybe living together put a strain on the relationship and she feels smothered. You can't make her stay if she so desperately wants to go.