I've a friend from the last two years. \nAs far as I know, I'm her only boyfriend & i love her, but i'm just too afraid to express it to her coz i feel rejection will mean breaking friendship also, but i don't want to lose her. \nShould I tell her what I feel or say nothing & wait for her to say something...Please help me out. Thanks in anticipation.
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Maybe she's waiting for you to say something first..Go for it and tell her.  If she's been hanging around with you for 2 years, she's not going to freak out and run...unless she's crazy.
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Well, maybe you should tell her how you feel about her! She may only think you want to be friends, so I would tell her soon. Ask her how she may feel about the idea of the two of you dating.  She may be happy that you have spoken up!  When you start dating a good friend sometimes it changes the friendship. You can only hope that the feelings for one another become more intense and more loving. If you happen to drift apart, then the original friendship may be forever changed.  I thought I would toss that in for your to consider. I mean if things do not work out well for you, you can only hope that you can still be friendly, and not resent any new fellows that may come along in her future if the two of you fail at your attempt at a relationship...do you see what I mean?\n\nGood luck, I hope she feels the same for you too, you sound so nice!
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Well dear, the English language, although among the richest, is still poor to express certain issues. \nLove! Is Love a feeling or a property of a person? I think the second! Thus, if you are a person who love, then you love and you love everyone and everything! That is great! Congratulations!\nNow, since you love, you love your friends, also, regardless of their customs, attractions, wills, etc. What you are asking in if you should do what you do not like, am I right? \nIn the case you do not like something, you do not do this, because your closest and best friend is yourself! Yourself will never turn you down, or at least more than you will do to her!\nALso, we have many friends who either drink a lot, or smoke or take drags, ..., we get with them and try to influence them to soemthing we consider better! Others are doing thing we consider them fine, although those activities are not our style! Etc. We get together with them. We enjoy what we can communicate each other! Same way with your friend! You remain friends, but you should do what you really want! If you cchange, your friends will not like you any more, you will be done aanother person! If they like the new you and the new you is less good that the previous, run away, those might not be good friends, might not even be any kind of friends!\nNow, if she would bring another boyfriend, what would you think? How would you react?\nIt all depends on how you feel, what kind of girlfriend she is, what you want out of this relation, ...\nI might enjoy both of them and look around for another relation!!!!
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She digs you for more than just friends. I did this same thing only 4 months ago. She has a "crush" on you, otherwise she wouldn't waste her time. See, pouring out even the simplest thing like telling you she has a crush makes her vulnerable. You will have to spill the beans on how you feel first and bring it out in her to feel comfortable being a bit more candid.
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If this is your best female friend, its hard to believe that you havent been 'out' already. Thats what best friends do..... Surely by now you have a relationship that is based on mutual trust and understanding. Just talk to her and tell her how you feel. Keep it low key and make sure that she understands that you are cool with whatever response comes your way. If you cant handle the answer then its best you move on anyhow. Best friends trust each other with their emotions - this one should be no different. You'd kick yourself if later on you discovered she was thinking the same as you but neither of you had the hutzpah to speak up. Carpe Diem - seize the day!
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Of course, it's frightening to confess your own feelings when there's a very important friendship at stake....but is also true that a truthful relation always lean on honesty, and then you should tell her what's happening in you. Don't take it as a confession, think at that as an issue to talk about together, since you intimately know each other. She will appreciate your honesty, and if it's really a true friendship nothing will change between you two. So definitely, go for her...maybe she's feeling the same way and she's afraid to tell as much as you do...if not, you must go for her anyway, otherwise you'll always live in doubt. Remember, regret is always less painful than repentance. Good luck!
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Have you guys been friends or have you guys have talked if you guys have then better.You can be there whenevr she needs a shoulder to lean on but if you never spoken to her and you've just be admiring her then i think it's best you wait for the meantime try been nice around her,with time she'll get used to d friend whom she enjoys spilling her heart to.After a while when she getting stronger tell her how you feel abt her.Gudluck.
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Tell him right away...trust me that is the best thing to do....if you continue to hang on it will be very difficult...a Friend you like is not your friend anymore so the best thing to do is just go up to him and tell him...worst case you get rejected but trust me if your friendship is strong enough it will be ok and i don't have to tell you the best case..SO GO FOR IT.
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well, I really appreciate your kind heart..\nalthough there's no chance to prevent her hurting feeling...\nbut I believe, it's much much better you tell her the truth, that you can only keep her as a friend, than act like you're her someone special...\ncause it will be more hurts...\nbe brave.
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Dear ___,How are you?I have tried introducing your friend to many of my single friends who have liked him alot though hes not regularly in touch with them neither has given me any feedback.Though i volunteered for this i would kindly like to excuse myself this time around due to a personal family friend(some reason).I wish your friend good luck and thanks for passing this message to your friend.Love,Your name.
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Well it depends on if you like her. If you do you should say it right back. If you dont tell her that you just want to stay good friends. She may take it hard at first but after a while she will get over it.
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Hurts to be rejected by a friend, I remember that. Yet new friends is how you grow. Your world expanse & gets bigger all the time & with each new friend. Really it has true. It must become bigger then a friend or two. You are young & so is your friend & I think she is experience the need to grow. Spread her wings & fly solo a bit. Keep talking & being friends but let new ones come in to your life. Over the yrs. ahead you will meet many new friends & your circle widens. Makes life interesting. Chances are good she will always want to be friends just trying something new right now. So don't beat yourself up about it. Tough being a kid at times.
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i think you should tell her what is what and how you are feeling. get things out in the open. don't bottle your feelings up inside. it will be worse for you that way. you could ask her how she knows if you are in love or not. sometimes, yes, friends,parents, etc see things we don't. know what i mean? good friends are honest and open with each other. the key to a good relationship/friendship is communication.
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Why torture yourself by wondering when you can end the torment by asking? People are often afraid to take the direct approach because they are worried about the outcome. But could that be any worse than dragging out the uncertainty?\n\nLet him know that if his status is unavailable for a romance, you still want to be his friend. If you truly have a good friendship, asking him how he feels shouldn't destroy it. Hopefully it will improve it by removing the layer of uncertainty.\n\nGood luck!\n\nDr. Barb Nefer, http://www.bnlifeskills.com
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Sounds like he's unsure. I wouldn't bring it up again.  Just continue to be his friend without pressuring him, and he may eventually decide that he feels the same way. If not, you still have a great friend, and those are hard to come by.\n\nEither way, don't wait on his decision -- he may never decide, and you'll waste your time pining after something you can't have.
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it happened to me. I never talked to my former friend who told me his feelings. This happens most of the times. I think the problem is the girl starts to feel uncomfortable with you. Of course she knows that you treat her more than a friend. I think you should try to treat her like the way you treat your friends, if you want your friendship. If you want her love, then court her. Never let your fears block your way. Besides, also give her time ti think and a little more space.. Good luck!
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explain this to her.  say I love u but I am allowing u to cloud my every thought and I've come to the realization that this isn't healthy for me.\n\nif u can handle it ask her to still be friends