Even though I'm married and I love my Husband, sometimes I wish I would of stayed single, I just wanted to know if I was the only one that thought that way.
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Of course!  But not for the 'sex' reasons.  For simple freedom of choice.  My opinion is from the guy point of view.  If I want to golf, I want to just go and golf.  If I want to go have a beer with the guys, I want to go have a beer.  If I want to watch the game, dangit!  I want to watch the game!  Choose what I want for dinner.  Spend money the way I want to.  Things like that.
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I would have to say that I have a tendency to expect too much, too fast. I am of the age and mind set that I want to be married, and unfortunately I almost lost the man that I truly love because of this. We are happily engaged now, but my insistence on knowing exactly where we were in our relationship caused him to pull away. That was my wake up call. We have since come to a compromise regarding boundaries, and are much, much happier and comfortable with each other. I never would have categorised myself as a pushy person, but I found out that when faced with losing something that I had never had before, I could step back and see the bigger picture. I give advice often about noticing the needs of your partner or spouse and accepting those needs without question, I just wished I would have taken my own advice a little sooner than I did. Peace.
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Hi Hmy ... I read your other questions and it's obvious that you husband isn't monogamous or intends not to stay that way. The only reason why you'd be  putting up with this  is because\nof low self esteem.   You don't think you deserve any better and  are desperate not to be alone.  Perhaps at the moment you don't deserve any better. Think of what you can do to change that.. \n\nMake what ever changes you need to feel better about yourself.  It could be education,  work, even volunteer work. Whatever it is you probally should spend a lot less time here.
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I am a few years out of a long marriage and have no desire to jump right back in...at first I was but the longer I am single the more comfortable being single I am becoming....and establishing finances, housing..activities doesn't allow me to consider settling down...its crazy enough doing the dating thing.
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Ignore the bashers of love in here, most of them wouldn't know love even if it slapped them in the face. My wife and I are the same as you two are, we think the same, act the same, like most of the same things, had very similar dramatic life experiences thats shaped who we are, and we married each other because we saw the bond we clearly had. More importantly, we both knew who we were as individuals, and knew what we wanted. You can't know if your meant to be with someone unless you know yourself well enough to know what feels right for you and know what you want.
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actually you predicament isn't bad. what could be? when a married person is in the same situation! as a single you've plenty of liberty (except getting into bed) to socialize.
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its really ok if u feel that kinda stuff coz now u r not being unfaithful and even ur dear husband wud ve wanted the same thing that is........ that u stay happy
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I know there is--I married my high school sweetheart, and two kids and twenty years later, we're still crazy about each other.  We were unusually fortunate, though, in finding someone we were so compatible with at such a young age, and both of us being open-minded enough to allow the other to grow and change as we grew up together.  That doesn't mean, though, that I believe there is only one person who each of us could achieve relationship nirvana with, though.  I think it's a matter of finding someone you can really connect with, and then building a strong foundation rooted in trust, honesty, tolerance, and open communication.
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Being married to my dear husband gives me such a sense of fulfillment and belonging. We have been married almost 20 years and are more in love than ever. It means we can rely on each other no matter what. We have been through some seriously difficult times but have always been there for each other. I don't know what I would do without him. I tell him he is my knight in shining armor. We have our disagreements, but they are much fewer in number now. We complete each other. Our marriage is a blessing from God!
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Thats a difficult question to answer. When I was married, I loved my children and I loved my wife. Differently but both passionately. They both meant the world to me. I made decisions for my kids that was best for them...and I did so with love. Everything in my life was done to teach them to be good people and give them the strength to succeed.Now the love I had for my wife was deep to the soul. I couldn't wait to get home each day to be with her... she was my best friend and totally had my heart...and had she not passed away, we'd still be together. But I still see her in my childrens eyes.
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I think because of the ambiguous boundaries in a relationship--relative to a marriage's--it is not as constraining as the latter and can actually help foster the relationship. I'd prefer to be in a relationship than a marriage.
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Try to get that into the marriage proposal I'm sure it'll be great.\n\nYes I would still have gotten married. It's called love.
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it is possible to be in love with more than one person. i am guessing you love your spouse and are comfortable with them. and the other one is more exciting now since it is new.that excitement will wan. try and picture yourself with out your husband and examine how it really makes you feel. you have to weigh the pros and cons. good luck i have been there
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I did.\n\nMy marriage was in danger of falling over.\n\nIf a person is truly committed, they will do this. At the very least, go for yourself and clarify things in your mind.
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I am in that situation now...my wife kind of has always disrespected me and now she is the one who has left me (ironic). Even though she never really loved me %100, I still love the good things and my heart aches for the good times. For me, I tend to love people that don't love me back because I guess I see it as a challenge or maybe I feel like I am the better person for giving more than I receive. Whatever it is, its not right and just like me, you need to just take time and get to know what your are without that person, then you will love again. Hopefully someone who loves you the same amount.
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I wouldn't. There were a few times I had planned too, and my supposed great friend the internet buddy blew me off. That's why I stick to my husband. I'm honestly happy for once in my life and I feel complete. I need noone else.
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I lost my 1st husband 10 yrs ago. I just dated and dated. I am very independent, but felt like you. I still felt lonley.\nTry personal ads where some men are in same area.\nWorked for me, been married for almost 2 yrs now. This man is really my knight in armor. Good luck to you..there are some good men left.