She has given me one more chance.  She says I am to control, I talk down to her and I am melodramatic.  I do love her and realize my behavior is inappropriate.  What should I do to change?  Seek professional help, act differently?  Please help this guy out!  Thanks.
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Well, you say you realize this is inappropriate yet you can't contol it.  I would see a therapist if I were you.  Not because you're crazy, but because maybe he/she can find ways for you to control your anger and what makes you feel so angry (I'm sure it isn't always your girlfriend).  And above all, don't change simply for your girlfriend, change to better yourself!  Good luck!
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Why did you lose your confidence?  Was she THAT crazy?  I don't think that you are suppose to be with a lunatic. Unless . . . are you crazy?  ; - }  Just kidding.  Maybe you should spend some time on doing things that you enjoy.  If you meet a woman with the same intrests, you may find her less, trainwreck-ish!
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You and I have spoken personally about it. I know you love her, but she won't change. Im not going to post what you told me because PERSONALLY is the operative word. I think that she is following the saying "Abscence makes the heart grow fonder" Now that you guys are divorced now she wants to try again, it seems that you are following this too, but I know it is because you were trying so hard for everything to work out and it didnt and you are still hurting behind it. Find a better woman, there are plenty out there.\n\nHope this helps.
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believe her and get past her past.  I'm in the same boat as her.  Think of it as her oats are sewn and you're the only one for her now!
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It might take some tough love.  Unfortunately many people in her situation develop a sort of addiction to the attention her problems and suffering attract.  Unless you can find a way to break the pattern, they will continue to use their situation to try and manipulate everyone around them.  \n\nYou should consider taking a tough love stance with her and tell her she has to get her life together if she wants you to have a normal relationship with you.  Refuse to be manipulated and allow her to create crisis after crisis to which she wants you to respond.\n\nI can only make some educated guesses for you, so just take it as some things for you to consider.
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She sounds like she is a looney tune,I think you made the right choice to distance yourself from her. You probably have saved yourself a lot of grief.
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There is absolutely nothing else you can say to her.  She is the only one who can change her behavior.  What YOU have to decide is whether or not your going to continue to stand by her. It's a hard decision, I know I am also dealing with something similar.  Only you know your limits and what your willing to continue to put up with.
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Honey, please don't tear yourself up.  Remember, that you are a valued person, your have a life that can be beautiful. Don't let her use you, respect yourself, where is your self-esteem? Next time she calls, be polite and considerate, but let her know that you have your own life and she isn't in it.  Politely tell her to find another ex to cry to.You my friend are worth so much more than to be used as a sounding board. Stop feeling sorry for yourself, and find someone who appreciate you for you . Please, do this for yourself.  I found someone I adore and am adore back, we would nerve be disrespectful of each other as she is to you.  Take a long hard look at yourself, you are one hell of a women. Someone out there is dying to meet you.
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You might consider talking with her and sharing your concerns. If you aren't satisfied with the way it went, you could ask for some help by getting someone to mediate. \n\nIf all else fails, you might want to take on the approach that its her duty as a teacher to teach and yours as a student to learn. We can't always get along with everyone, even as adults. And sometimes all we can do is try to get through uncomfortable situations that aren't in our control to change.\n\nI do commend you on taking responsibility for your own actions. Kudos for you :)
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Sounds like you are over-compromising and not being yourself. If you always do what she wants, how can she do what you want and why would she?! A relationship should be give and take but if someone can get away with making no effort etc, then they are going to. Start suggesting what you want to do, don;t always agree with everything she says. It might also make you a bit more exciting to her again. That is not about being raised right - you can still be polite etc but just about being yourself not a doormat.
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that sounded so nice.. if Im your woman I will feel honoured. The thing is, have you promised her before that you will change? have you shown your intentions? you may not be saying it but once you do your act, then that will tell her that you have changed. do the things she wants you to do even if it sounded new to you. It is when you're doing things out of the way to prove your sincerity that a woman will try to re-consider closing her doors on you. Write her a letter perhaps. write down the lines you remembered her saying to you. write down all your good memories. and thank her for being there and love her ... \nJUST LOVE HER.. and read the bible- for love is patient and Love is kind... again, JUST continue loving her
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You are so nasty.  Keep trying and she will tell you what she likes.  I hope you can follow directions well.
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Personally, I think that you need to realize your self-worth. You deserve more than she is apparently willing to give you. It sounds like you are in prison and she is the warden. I understand that she had problems before, but it is not fair to make other people pay for it. You can take situations in life one of two ways...either bitter or better. Sounds to me like she has taken the bitter road. But it sounds like you have taken the better road, and if you two are not on the same page it won't work. You really need to (and I am too) pray for her, because she apparently has issues that she needs to deal with. I think for now you should move on with your life. Maybe when she realizes what she has lost due to not being able to let go of the past, then maybe she will change her tune. There is nothing to say she isn't the one for you, but it certainly doesn't sound like she is the one for you right now. But God can work on her and turn her into the person you need her to be. If not, I know God will send you the right one, and she will treat you like a King and give you more love than your heart can receive. I pray for your situation. Sorry so lengthy! God Bless!
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Wow, buddy, it sounds like you really did screw up.  That sucks for you.  If you truly want to try and make things work with this woman, slow down.  She's probably really hurt right now, and she doesn't feel like she can trust you.  Start with little things, like a sweet email.  Send her an ecard to apologize.  Show her by your actions how much you regret what happened, because we all know actions speak louder than words.  The biggest thing, though, is to back off if she asks you to.  It may hurt like Hell, but you could earn some of her respect back if you comply with her wishes.  Best of luck in finding your answer.  I hope this helped even a little bit.
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It's sounds to me like you have them figured out, now you just need to choose. On #1, can you handle the "not so smart" trait about her? If you can't go for #2.\nOn #2, can you handle the temper? If not, go for #1. Maybe you should try to find another one all together. Do what makes you happy. Looks aren't everything either. Ask yourself who makes you laugh the most and who makes you the happiest. Good Luck
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She sounds crazy; if you keep her around, she is going to continue to try to controll you.  Drop her.
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You can't win her back but perhaps there is a chance you could EARN her back. \n\nBy this I mean that you should replace criticism with encouragement, emotional support and praise. After all, she's not supposed to be a mirror image of you, reflecting only your values, opinions and ways of doing things. \n\nIt sounds like both of you need boundaries. There are things that shouldn't be said, like hurtful judgments and criticisms. \n\nIt is so much more pleasant to appreciate and tolerate individual differences than to bicker over personal life styles!\n\nBest of luck to you and your lady!\nI hope it all works out for the best.