hes 17,im almost 16,his parents hate me,we have been together for 2 years and we wanna get married,his parents dont wants him to leave if he does he will be in trouble
121055
Hi,\n\nDont you think that is a pretty young age to get married. Does the law allow you to get married at this age over in your country. About his parents hating you, it is natural because they think that you are leading him away from them into danger, eventhough you might not be doing so.
615432
If you are over 18 you can do as you please. However, your parents will be very upset and may disown you. Let them meet him and his family. Maybe they will arrange a marriage with him for you.
51192
If you aren't sure, wait.  If he really loves you, he'll be willing to wait a couple more years.  Your parents are right, the statistics on marriages before 22 are much less promising than if you wait.  The reason for this is not to say that you aren't in love now, but so many people do a lot of growing between 18 and 22.  People can completely change peronalities, life styles, morals, values, and everything in those four short years.  Being married while going to school and going through this transitional time in your life, could put quite a strain on your marriage.  Talk to him, and see if he will wait.  Never go into marriage if you don't know with all your heart that he is the one, and the only one, the one you love with all your heart, who you can imagine spending the rest of your life with, and with no one else.  Good Luck! :)
568370
you don't say how old the two of you are but here's my opinion.,\n\nright now- there's no reason for him to start up trouble in his family because even tho they will like you- they will certainly have issues because of their faith and that's ok. it is understandable\n\nfor now- just have fun and don't worry about all of that.
547264
I think you should do it. If you trust him and really like him why not. There are a lot of things we can get scared of doing but when we do it, we never regret doing it. Try it for a while and see what happens. Your parents should support you.
581820
he is playing you for a fool and why does it even matter if your parents dont want you to date then it hsouldnt be a problem , right?\ngo with them, they really do know best and im sure that they have your best interests at heart\nnow if you are like 20 and still living at home or something then this choice really should be yours, and still he sounds like an immature player to me\njust keep it as friends
477000
Your young your parents are just looking out for what they think is best...talk to them dont fight with them sit down with you and your boyfriend and talk to them ... I live in NY and in NY what your doing is illegal in my state it called rape so be carfull and talk to your parents
247227
The most important thing to be concerned about is you and your soon to be wife. If your parents don't want to come I would leave it alone and move on to concentrating on your wedding. My husband and I have been married for 7 years and have been together for 12 years and one thing we have learned is that you can not base your marriage on what other people do or don't do, say or feel and whatever else. Bottom line is to keep communicate with each other and decide together what to do or don't do. If your parents have decided for whatever reason not to be a part of your new beginning, even though it may hurt, accept it and don't let it take away from what you and your soon to be wife are about to experience together.
92590
you sound young so tell him your parents won't let you date and your afraid of them finding out.
410888
get married first and then tell ur parents , atleast I did that because I didnt want any caos in my marriage, if u love him marry him otherwise u will remember him often
631396
Just be patient with them and let them get use to the idea that you are now engaged. This is a initial reaction, and as a parent I know if my children are serious about a decision I might not like, I will eventually be won over by them being more mature than me. If your parents try to break you up, prepare your self's so that there is no miss communication between you and your fiancee', so their attempts will fail. The fact that you are of age and not luring this over their heads, and want their blessings tells me your probably both a pretty mature couple. In the meantime, just stay fast to your engagement, stick together on this issue, and give them time to realize that you are going to get" married" in time, and I bet eventually they will jump on the band wagon, and you and your financee' will have full support of the families.
199211
well if you're in love with him and he says that he loves you and regrets what happened, then I don't see anything wrong with it. Just remember, if he lives with his parents, don't write anything that you don't want them to see.
147789
Probably because he truly cares for you!  Just because you're meeting his parents doesn't mean you two are getting married.  \n\nThat being said, if you are uncomfortable with the idea, you should tell him, and if he cares about you at all he should respect your feelings.
645513
I truly feel bad for you,but you need to see or search the reasons on why your parents feel the way they do towards him,i mean i would take some heed to their actions,remember they have more wisdom from age and experience.However,if they really don't have the facts to back their actions,this is something you will have to face with your parents.Always be honest with them no matter if they are not going to approve.You are an adult,and you need to let them know that you are not trying to hurt them by your choices of life,that you are trying to find your way and if it is a mistake,then you need to find that out as well.This is how wisdom comes,with experiences in our daily lives.One thing to remember is your parents have an unconditional love no matter what,just like you do for them.I just hope your boyfriend proves them wrong and doesn't make you regret any decision that you might make.Without family,we have nothing! I hope the best for you,Good Luck!
388620
Your parents have legal control until you go to court and become legally immancipated.  A court may not allow it, because you are not self-supporting and are not legally married to your boyfriend.  \n\nEither he steps up to be a man and marries you, you get a job and support that baby.... or you go home to your parents.\n\nYou need to consider all of the ramifications if your boyfriend dumps you, Honey.  It happens all the time!\n\nBest Wishes,\nSue
33652
Why do you think the law says you only become legally adult at 18? That's not because they just want to make your life miserable. It's because a person usually becomes mature enough to understand what MAY happen - what consequences will follow a particular action, and be able to be responsible for it when they reach that age. \n\nHoney at 13, you haven't even experienced all there is you will be responsible for. I strongly suggest that you wait until you are 18. If he loves you, as you say he does, then he will be willing to wait for you too. Then you will be both free to decide and marry.
38097
First of all, if your parents don't let you, you can't. You are a minor. You can get emancipated, but that is a long shot in the dark. Frankly, you should listen to your mother. Getting married is NOT the answer. If he loved you to begin with, he wouldn't have gotten you pregnant, asked you to sleep with him, or agreed to sleep with you. It is a respect issue, and he obviously doesn't respect you. You need to respect yourself! Listen to your mom.