So if you shake hands w/ a man are you shaking his Ding-dong instead? I wonder cause I go to alot of social events!
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i wash my hands every time
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I've had, honestly, SO much luck with this.\n\nWhen you walk away from a guy, and they grab your hand, or you're done dancing, and you've got your hand in theirs, as you pull away, squeeze their fingers just the *tiniest* bit. They notice, and they love it.
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How many have u seen, i m an asian, and I do not shuffle my feet, although have seen many here in europe, where i am rt. now, who do and got annoyed myself.Demeneurs and personality traits differ all over the world, if u make this a stereotype thing, u'll start getting angry whenever u see an asian, illogically, without any reason....it would be far beyond the shuffling thing.
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I’ve read at least half a dozen contradictory accounts of the origin of the handshake. Because handshakes clearly predate written history, all these explanations are ultimately somewhat speculative. But the most popular story is that an open right hand showed you were not carrying a weapon; if two men met and displayed empty right hands, this presumably meant a basic level of trust existed that neither would stab the other. In one variant of this story, the handshake evolved from an elbow-to-wrist “patdown” to check for hidden knives; in another, the shaking motion was supposed to dislodge any sharp objects that may have been kept in the sleeve.\n\nOf course, this explanation, while plausible enough, doesn’t account for left-handed men, who presumably would have been happy to extend the right hand in greeting while wielding a dagger in the left. But in many parts of the world, since ancient times, the left hand has been considered the “bathroom” hand, the one never used for eating, giving, or receiving—nor, by extension, for greeting—whether you’re left-handed or not.\n\nMeanwhile, the “I’m-not-going-to-stab-you” story doesn’t tell us why the handshake won out over other greeting gestures in the West. After all, in some cultures the standard greeting (even between people who don’t know each other well) is a kiss on one or both cheeks; in others, people hug, rub noses, bow, or even stick out their tongues. Writer Margaret Visser suggests one possibility. As she noted in her book The Way We Are, at one time the English were more demonstrative with their gestures of greeting—for example, English men routinely greeted all women with a kiss on the mouth. As part of the Victorian behavioral “reforms,” public kissing of any kind became socially unacceptable and the handshake came into fashion for both men and women as a convenient way to keep a person at arm’s length. So to speak.\n\nThe Left Hand Doesn’t Know What the Right Hand Is Doing\nAt least in the United States, the handshake has become an extremely ambiguous symbol. At one level, it just means “hello” or “goodbye.” But it can also be construed to mean “we’re in agreement” or even that an informal contract has been reached, as in the proverbial handshake deal. And on a still deeper level, it can mean “everything’s OK between us,” particularly after some conflict has been resolved. But sometimes social convention awkwardly calls for shaking hands to signify the end of a meeting, even though no agreement has been reached or a state of conflict still exists. And heaven forbid that one world leader should shake hands with another whose ideology differs deeply, since people on both sides will judge this as a disingenuous move at best, and at worst, a betrayal of the leader’s values. But was the politician saying, “I accept you and your beliefs” or simply, “Hello”?\n\nThen, of course, business types will read all sorts of meaning into the very style of your handshake. Even if you execute it under exactly the right circumstances, it must be firm but not too firm; it must be held for exactly the right amount of time but no longer; it must be accompanied by direct eye contact; and, for bonus sincerity points, you should add your left hand to make a “hand sandwich.” You may also be judged on the angle of your hand and the number and intensity of shakes.\n\nAnd if this kind of confusion isn’t bad enough, that’s just the standard, run-of-the-mill handshake. Gangs sometimes use special handshakes to signify group membership, just as fraternal societies and children’s clubs use “secret handshakes” as a kind of password, a symbolic way of saying, “We’re insiders.” So if someone outside the group incorrectly attempts a handshake, the results can be quite serious. On the other hand, a high five (arguably a variety of handshake) pretty unambiguously expresses satisfaction or congratulations—but that’s t
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I did that a few times while dating.. Called the guy by the wrong name. He didn't seem to matter. He said that I was with him not the other guy!!!!!
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What is "dirty" anyway??  Talking is not essential, but certainly welcome during lovemaking.  I know it sure works for me.  Of course grunts, groans and moaning are acceptable as well.
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I am totally on the same page!  I'm so tired of jerks.  Met a guy the other day, hot, seemed real nice.  He got my number, seemed real attentive.  Then he disappeared.  A girl was dancing like a stripper and he was all up in that!  Jerk.  \nI think the nice ones are too shy or already taken.
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my husband said he knew exactly when he fell in love with me. He said it was when it was a bunch of his friends, him and I at a college football game. I was the only girl in the group but blended in. His friends were getting drunk and actin up and just having fun and I didn't put my nose up at them, I just danced, cheered and booed along with them.  I know this may not be what would make every man fall in love but I guess I just took him by surprise and I HOOKED HIM!! (hook em horns!!)
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Hmm, ask your boyfriend why he's uncomfortable with holding hands.  Maybe it's just not his thing.  Maybe he'd rather show his affection in other ways.  I don't think you should reprimand him for it if he's a good boyfriend, but if he does other questionable stuff, then it should probably raise a few flags.
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Why should one form dominate?  How dull.  \n\nNo. A handshake can be rude, offensive, intrusive, and an excellent way to transmit disease.  Even in culture like the US where a handshake is common, few know how, when and who may correctly offer, and who must wait to be offered.\n\nI think bowing would be an excellent choice, but forcing homogeneity is to cause serious harm.\n\nLyotard has a lot to say on the negative ideal of consensus and its negative aspects.
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it depends on which places you want to visit...some european countries are handshakes only for everyone...some are a kiss on both cheeks for everyone...in the us, handshakes for all are the most appropriate when meeting for the first time...
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What? This is a very weird question, but um... I think either a bow or a handshake is fine although, the handshake is more casual and commands less repect, which is appropriate for the US since we are governed by our people and not the President, and the bow is usually associated with royalty.
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I actually said the same thing about my husband.  Around me he is totally different then when he is with his friends.  I finally just asked my husband what the deal was.  He looked at my puzzled, and replied that of course he acts differently around me.  I couldn't understand it.  He told me that the way he acts with me is how he wants me to see him.  The way he loves me.  The way he acts with his friends is just being one of the guys.   I told him that he cusses, drinks when he's with his friends but not around me.  He said he respected me to much to act that way with me.  Its a guy thing.  I've learned to live with it.
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I heard from someone once that every person we meet up with in life we are destined to meet for some reason, no matter how small.  That same person told me if we randomly meet twice it's not such a small reason so I should at least say hi to the person.  I have made some really good freinds that way.
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Both John ad his wife shake hands with 4 people.\n\nI'll try the briefest explaination I can.\nThere are nine answers 0-8 plus Johns which is unknown for a total of 10.\nTake any couple for an example.  Which couple won't matter because we will figure the total for one partner which will give us the answer for the other partner.  Once we have accounted for each number of handshakes, the missing number of handshakes will be the unaccounted for partner - John, and of course the one remaining known value will be his wife.\n\nRemember every person will surely not shake their own hand or their spouses.\nOne person shakes no hands. He/She knows everyone.  That means everyone knows him/her and will also not shake his/her hand.  You now have 4 couples who will not shake their own, their partners, or his/her hand.  That is 8 people who will shake at most, 7 hands.  The only person who could possibly shake 8 hands will be that persons spouse.  So couple one shakes 0 and 8 hands.\npick any of the remaining 4 couples.  Any single person of the remaining 8 must shake the hands of at least one person. (because we have 1-7 remaining) If he/she is unknown to one person, then that means he/she is known to 6 of the seven remaining persons. One of which is his/her spouse.  So there are 6 people (the 3 other couples who know and won't shake hands with themselves, their spouse, this individual or the first person who shook hands with no-one) who will not shake hands with more than 6 people.  That makes this persons spouse the one that shakes hands with 7 people. The spouse knows the first person, themselves and the spouse.\nAnyways the other two couples work out to shaking 2 and 6 hands, and shaking 3 and 5 hands.  The remaining person shook 4 hands (the last number) and is coupleless/without a spouse so that person must be Johns wife and she and John both shook 4 hands.  \n \nBy couple: 0/8, 1/7, 2/6, 3/5, 4/4.   We know 0,1,2,3,4,5,6,7,8 were given as answers at the party so the only single (non couple) is 4.
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not every ones personality clicks. however, we don't have to please everybody because we cant! however, it is good to be sosociable with all people! a simple hello, a smile. or a thank you if we are in a store . so if people act differently its them not you or i.  we all should try to get along as far as we can. if we cant then move on. history, culture, whatever the case may be we all should have a conscience!! we all know right from wrong and good and bad. god made us that way!!! so if people act differently its not you or i its them! i hope you see my  point on this matter. and yes every culture has their own beliefs .  and their own ways.that does not mean they have to be rude or unsocialable  people talk different languages. so we all don't talk different languages however its good to take a foreign language. it can be very use full. i took french, and Spanish. that way i can talk to other people and make friends. like i said some are sociable some are not. i just move on. shake the dust off my feet. its their loss. maybe our gain. thank you Kat
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as long as you don't make any noise. We all do that once in a while but knowing we all do that and actually being there and acknowledge someone did that in public are 2 completey difference experiences. I'm someone standing next to you farts, AND makes noise, how would you react? I know whoever did that didn't mean it and that person must be very embarrassing but I also think it's only natural that people would look at the one who did it with "unfriendly" eyes