My husband is to be a best man. I have found a really nice ending to his speech that is not quite poetry but a short verse that wishes the newly-weds happiness, love, good health etc. He says he won't read it because it sounds "gay"!?! But his & his bests friend's relationship is not all macho anyway they really do have a nice friendship, that isn't all macho & hard!
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Tell him that people only remember the speeches that are truly touching and 'out of the box' for the person. If he wants to make a good impression that will be remembered he needs to have something special. The verse sounds good.
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Some men just think if they express themselves they seem week. We think a woman admires us for our strength and back in the old days it was true that if a man showed fear or sadness or even that he was in love, then he wasn't a "man". It's in our nature to hide any softness. Only women were soft. But some of us have realized, though, that women are more independent now and don't need so much "protection". It's just in our nature to to be strong and silent, though in some cases it's for homophobic reasons. Some men just need to be assured that expressing feelings is not a weakness but that it shows they are comfortable themselves and their mate. Let him know that if he expresses himself to you privately that he doesn't have to be so open when company is around. Trust me, it's not just you he may be protecting himself from. If he's been hurt in the past it could take a long time to open up. Just don't over do it by forcing him. Some men just feel more comfortable keeping it inside, but you have your needs too so don't give up. Hope I could help.
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I've totally been there. It sounds weird to people that haven't, but it takes some getting used to. Don't think he's weak, or trying to trick you...just appreciate & enjoy it. What did I do? Well I married him!
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Yes, I have been in love.  What I did to tell him was to sew shirts for him, play chef's assistant when he wanted to cook, and cook when he did not want to, wash his clothes . . . but you get the idea.  When you love someone, actions speak way louder than words.  Anyone can say "I love you" and not mean it, maybe not even know what love is.  But doing nice things for him, things HE considers nice, will show him.  I used to read to Steve, books he had chosen for me to read, one chapter at a time.  Certainly he could read for himself, but he liked this little "ritual" of togetherness.  The important thing is to do what he wants you to do, not those things you want to do which force your tastes on him or try to change him.  If he wants you to do something you find immoral or distasteful, you can tell him that.  But if you can do it, and you know how to do it, love means you will want to do it.  And no, I'm not particularly talking about sex, although that is undoubtedly included in what he wants you to do!
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Yes its cheating.  Your vows said in sickness and in health.  Just enjoy as much time as you do have left with him, take care of him as long as he lives.  I Don't see why you can't enjoy the other man's friendship though.  After all, friendship is what makes the world go round.  That and our polar axis, gravitational pull or whatever, LOL.
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no my husband is definitely not my best friend.he is though very loving  but he considers everything  in utilization of time. he cant waste his single minute on silly talks  or talks which can not provide him any knowledge.he spends his every minute productively  and so i have made few chatter friends  n they have really proved helpful in my solitude
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Get something from Songs of Solomon; that'll blow his mind. My wife did it for me when we were dating and honestly I've never read anything like it.
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He ought to try reading Wild at Heart: Discovering the Secret of a Man's Soul  by John Eldredge.\n\nFrom the review:\nIf Christian men are going to change from a pitiful, wimpy bunch of "really nice guys" to men who are made in the image of God, they must reexamine their preconceptions about who God is and recover their true "wild" hearts, writes bestselling author John Eldredge in Wild at Heart: Discovering a Life of Passion, Freedom, and Adventure. Eldredge throws down the gauntlet--men are bored; they fear risk, they refuse to pay attention to their deepest desires. He challenges Christian men to return to authentic masculinity without resorting to a "macho man" mentality. Men often seek validation in venues such as work, or in the conquest of women, Eldredge observes. He urges men to take time out and come to grips with the "secret longings" of their hearts. Although the book succeeds best in its slant toward a male audience, it also strives to help women understand the implications of authentic masculinity in their relationships with men. Eldredge frames the book around his outdoor experiences and appealing anecdotes about his family, sprinkling the text with touches of humor and overlying everything with heartfelt passion.
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A typical macho man married a typical good-looking lady. After the wedding, he laid down the following rules: \n\n"I'll be home when I want, if I want and at what time I want... and I don't expect any hassle from you. I expect a great dinner to be on the table, unless I tell you otherwise. I'll go hunting, fishing, boozin', and card-playing when I want with my old buddies and don't you give me a hard time about it. Those are my rules. Any comments?" \n\nHis new bride said, "No, that's fine with me. Just understand that I have rules too. There will be sex here at seven o'clock every night - whether you're here or not..."
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Being married to my dear husband gives me such a sense of fulfillment and belonging. We have been married almost 20 years and are more in love than ever. It means we can rely on each other no matter what. We have been through some seriously difficult times but have always been there for each other. I don't know what I would do without him. I tell him he is my knight in shining armor. We have our disagreements, but they are much fewer in number now. We complete each other. Our marriage is a blessing from God!
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Ew...I think he's just a big cheese. Who really says things like that without underlying meanings? He's probably just trying to get laid. And I agree with the lady who posted first, I am kind of offended that that is how he described the work we do. My marriage is more like a  partnership where we share all of the responsibilities whether it be child-rearing, house-cleaning, or working. I don't like being described as someone whp has the dinner on the table by five o'clock and has the kids bathed so my husband doesn't have to do a thing to help. That's just ridiculous.
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Men gradually grow up.  My husband is more mature now then he was when I met him, but he still has a long way to go. Enjoy their antics and just laugh at him and say to yourself I am so glad I have my girl best friends.
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Snagg him up before someone else does!! after i got married (to my best friend) two years later i met another guy that is now my best friend and if my husband and i ever parted, i would choose my new best friend as my new life long mate. It helps that you guys are already best friends, that's a good stable foundation. Good luck, and make sure to tell him how you feel. Even if you don't say, show it.
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wow!  I have been married to my husband for 9 years this January.  We have overcome some horrible conditions.  I do not want to go into detail here online.  However, I love my husband despite the things we have been thru.  Infidelity was not one of the issues, but we were involuntarily separated for 3yrs 8 mos.  We have been thru things with our ex's...just about anything that could go wrong has...Now, we are best friends and know each other inside and out.  Trauma brought us closer...it is often not that way in marriages.  We're blessed that way..I had to spend Thanksgiving alone again this year...but we will get thru this.  So, the answer is yes.  Despite everything and everyone, if you want to overcome, you will.
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My husband inspires me every day. He has Complex Regional Pain Syndrome, which is a debilitating nerve disease. He's in pain every day and losing most of his motor skills, yet he gets through each day looking forward to the next. Yes, he has his good days and bad, but he still has a sense of humor and never a day goes by that he doesn't tell me or my girls what we mean to him and that he loves us. He's my hero.
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I have a friend who is gay.He grew up being my brothers' friend.We were always together,people thought we were a couple.This went on for years.Then one night he tried to commit suicide.Thank God he called someone to help him.He said he thought it would be best if he killed himself because he was afraid we would not accept him anymore.Boy was he wrong!We did not not shun him.He was & is still part of the family.We don't treat him any different now.We never will.I know that a lot of people say homosexuality is a sin.But it isn't my place or anyone else's to judge you or any other gay person.I know my friend is alot happier now that he is not secretive about his sexual prefferences.I have called my friend but he has not returned any of my calls,but i know he is fine because his mother has told me.Whatever his reason for not calling me,is his choice.Maybe i was just in his life for a season.Who knows?I still consider him my friend.I know he is Happy with his partner,so i am not worried about his well being.I would never turn my friends away,no matter what.Well unless they did harm to my family.That is a different thing.Anyway,this is just who i am.Be Blessed! Monica
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Is your guy, gay??? \n\n(5 out 3) Guys don't like poetry!