My boyfriend and I spent a lot of time on the phone problably close to 20hrs every day. Yes we sleep on the phone purposly. At first I loved it but now i feel like I have no me time, how do i tell him this without hurting him or having him think that i dont wanaa talk to him because i do but jus not as much as now. Please help I dont want to hurt him!!!!
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It is so nice to see/hear two people in love.\nBut you need to be up front and foward with him, if you talk to him that much I am sure he will understand that EVERY woman needs time to herself. And if he doesn't now, he will later!\n\nGOOD LUCK!!
653093
Your not needy, your just acting like a female. what you have to remember is that guys are different from girls.They believe that if they call a girl once in a week thats plenty. For us it seems inconsiderate and unromantic. I am in a relationship for about the same time as period as yourself and he calls me probably twice a week, even though I confronted him about it.Your not insecure or maybe you are but this happens in a relationship, insecurities,possesiveness,love.............\nWhat I think that you should do is confront him, you'll feel much better.You should count yourself lucky because I see mines once a week, not by choice I might add.If he doesn't call for the day send him a text or e-mail him.When your with him do things that will make him wanna see you more if thats what you want.\nGOOD LUCK and I hope that this helped.
111848
It sounds as if he is getting comfortable, and he may be a person who is scared of or doesn't want a commitment. Have you voiced your sentiments to him of how badly it makes you feel when he doesn't call? If not, that may be the turning point. You will probably get a better feel of his intentions by his reaction to the conversation. Beyond that, I would definitely not give him your "heart" until you absolutely know what he wants out of the relationship. Good Luck!\n\nLilD
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i don't understand how is it tat u can act like u have an attitude on the phone when u claimed u DON'T have an attitude.... it's a bit confusing for me.....  but u should learn to tone down on Ur aggression... everytime u feel like u r going overboard wit it, ask him to excuse you a while.. go to the windows and breath in the fresh air n calm down... i don't know wat is the conversation between the both if u tat u haf to be aggressive abt, but sometimes try putting urself in his position, u might be able to see the point from a different view... u know u r lucky tat ur bf still wanna talk to u on the phone despite u being like tat towards him, so treasure him while it lasts ok gal?
221381
Just tell him your busy or preoccupied, and that you need to spend some time on your own or with your friends.  Be clear that it's not his fault, it's just something you need.  If he really loves you, he'll understand. Be sure you still make some time for him, but feel free to limit that time for as long as you need.
281622
hi sorry to hear this...well its true about working late...i was and still am a repo man it calls for long hours..i am the same way..when i get home i do alot of the same..internet,movies,t.v...whatever.. it does take a while to unwind and let the day slip away..then when your unwound and ready for bed..your just waking up..its hard i know this aint what you wanna hear but he has to want to spend time with you..he has to compramize..with your feelings..i had to as well..how long has he worked 2nd shift? if he recently started doing the 2nd shift this will fade away..he will become tired sooner and be in bed with you sooner..i hope i helped if you have any further questions...please dont be afraid to e mail me and ask...good luck
250809
Surpise him and go see him But if you both care about each other you would find time to be together even if it is just on the phone if you wnat to call him then do it! Why ask us? We don't know what your relashionship is like or how old you are! I don't see why you don't talk as much on the phone as you do in person it shouldn't matter! But if you really want to go see him then go and give him that hug! Follow your heart!
354384
Give him the time with his friends. Sometimes I need time away and just want to go out with my girls. But he should answer his phone when you call. Or at least check in with you.
117623
I was in a relationship like that. HE only lived an hour away. BUt we were on the phone all the time, and every chance we had we were together.Now we are married. Sounds to me that your guy might not be ready for what you want. Tell him how you feel about him not calling or blowing plans off. Maybe he will take your feelings into consideration or he his just telling you what he thinks you want to hear.
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Your situation is very similar to what I am in. My b/f and I met online, talked for 3 weeks, then met.  We had the most unbelieveable weekend together!!  We now have been living together 5 months, but he works out of state for 2 to 3 weeks at a time.  Hopefully I can help with that I know.  \n\nThe void in your heart when you aren't talking to her is because all you two have right now, is talking.  You can't see each other every day so that's what you cling to.  Makes perfect sense, I felt the same way then.\n\nAlthough she isn't calling you as often as you'd like, what do you two have to talk about, that you haven't talked about in the last 2 months?  Those hour long phone calls don't last forever because seriously, what else is there to talk about?  My b/f and I decided a call in the morning and a call in the evening would be the best way to handle that.  We could wish each other good morning and tell each other have a good day, but we'd play catch up at night.  We always make sure to tell each other even the little things that happen throughout our day because we both feel like we too are experiencing things even when we can't be together.  \n\nWe do have seperate lives too.  When he is home, we are together 100% but when we are apart, I go out with my girlfriends and he goes out with his work crew.  Don't think for a minute I am not thinking of him when I am out.  He feels the same because many times, he calls me when he is out with the guys.  My point is, you can't just sit at home and mope, wondering what the other is doing.  You need to live too.  Have fun, do hobbies, go out with your buddies.  Keep your mind busy until you can be with her again.  \n\nIf it's meant to be, it will happen.  Don't rush or pressure her and don't be clingy and needy. You have to trust her.  If you don't, you will lose her for sure.
241911
If you don't talk to him, how are you going to find out? You need to communicate SOMEHOW.  But you need to try not to be too pushy so you don't scare him if you know what I mean.  People get scared if they're feeling pushed.  Maybe HE'S afraid to tell YOU how he feels. Try telling him he's really special in your life.  You don't have to come out and say "I love you" -- but everyone likes to hear they are special to others.  Wouldn't you?  I'll be if you heard that from someone (him maybe) -- you wouldn't feel quite so insecure would you?
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I'm 26 and in a long distance relationship as well.  We live 2.5 hours away from each other and I always return her phone calls.  It pisses me off if other people don't return mine, so I always return theirs.  Point to remember, guys don't like to talk on the phone.  I have trouble talking on the phone for more than five minutes.  I love her, but it seems like more of a job than a pleasure.  I can talk your ear off in person, but not on the phone.  Sounds like your boyfriend is forgetful or too busy.
572243
It means he's too crazy about you to listen to the part of him that's telling him you need your sleep... my boyfriend knows that sleep is healthy and encourages me to go to sleep early. That way, we are both awake and alert when we see each other during the day! Tell this guy you need your sleep, no matter what. If you love him back, then say "I love you too, goodnight." And hang up. If you're still not sure if you love him, say, "I enjoy talking to you too, but if you don't let me go to sleep now then I won't be able to talk to you for the next few days because I will be asleep!!" Then hang up. Oh, you didn't say you were on the phone? Well, same situation applies if you are talking in person. Instead of hanging up, LEAVE. Or if he's at your place, make sure he leaves. If he really cares for you, he will respect your wishes.
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It would be great if that "honeymoon" period would last forever :) I know I have been disappointed before when the calls and invitations slow down.\n\nIt is normal. He was probably getting to know you at first. Now, y'all are running out of new and interesting topics. If things are still good when you do talk to or see each other, then you shouldn't worry about it too much. If he keeps on calling and/or seeing you on a daily basis, it will probably eventually get boring for both of you. ... Unless your daily lives are full of extreme and exciting activities. \n\nMy advice to you if there are future relationships with other guys... Try not to make yourself quite as available. I use to think that it was silly to pretend that you are busy when you aren't really, but it does  help it take longer to get to the point where you are now. ... Hanging out with a guy 2 or 3 times a week and talking to him maybe 4 days a week should be plenty at first. Even though I know it is tempting to try for all you can get! \n\nAs far as how to talk to him about it, you will have to play that one by ear. You may start by hinting to him how much you enjoyed those daily talks. You could tell him it would be sweet to occasionally get a quick call to just say "hi." If he doesn't take the hint, try briefly calling him once a day or every other day, just to let him know that you're thinking of him. If this doesn't work out, then you may have to just come right out and ask if he likes how things are going or if he thinks the two of you need to back off a bit.
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Well it's not official over until one or the other says so. my advice would be to try to save your relationship while you can. It also seems to me that you guys are playing that "since I'm too busy to call you game. I don't have time to call you either". Don't play that game give him a call if you feel he's too busy. Try letting him know how you are feeling right now. Don't let it just pass by like that you need to let him know because he's not a mind reader and neither are you so talk to the guy and find out what's really going on.
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I suggest you get a new hobbie or perhaps go out to the gym. You don't always want to be "available" to him. Occasionally I tell my bf that I'm busy. I've even had instances where I had other people vying for my time. So much that my bf got upset and said I was putting hi off for my friends. \n\nEven when my bf and I are together, I have something to do. We've been together for a bit and even when I spend nights at his house, I don't spend 24&#92;7 all on him. Maybe I'll read a book, or do some stuff online, maybe get some homework done or even talk on the phone. \n\nIts important in relationships to have together time and apart time.\n\nNow if he really IS neglecting you, TELL HIM. Straight out and without the tears. He'll ignore you, guys hate seeing girls cry especially when they dont understand why.  BE SPECIFIC. Say what he does and how often that upsets you. Then listen. Maybe he's bored of doing the same old thing with you. Spice it then, go snow boarding, christmas decorating, even BOWLING, just something NEW. Something so that when he thinks of you, he thinks spontaneous, not dull.
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It's good that you want to make sweet gestures like that. \nI've been with my hubby for 19 years & still do soppy things. Last week I left a big chocolate heart on his pillow when I went to work for him to find when he came home from work tired. Send him text messages to say you miss him when you haven't seen him all day. Leave notes around the house. One of my favourite places to leave notes is in the glove box of his car cos he always leaves his radio in there & I know he's sure to find it. Tell him...I tell my hubby every day I love him & he does the same with me.