hi i am in love with my friend boyfriend he is so fine i was with him frist but i dump him then my best friend went with him i told her that was nasty now i wont him back i do i tell him i love him when was toghther for 5 years and i still inlove with him plz help me
124816
Stay away.  You dumped him, she took him.  Respect your friend, your boyfriend, and yourself.
331623
well first of all u need to be honest with him. tell him that ur friendship means a lot and u do not wish to ruin it or put him in a compromiseing situation but u have to let him know how u feel and ask how he feels, assure him that u'll respect his decission and if things work out in ur favour work to make it last and if it don't move on be happy for him and try to find ur own happiness.\nhope u get what ur heart desires
666949
You aren't really in love then.  You are infatuated. It's that butterflies in the stomache feeling that is most often deplicted in movies as love.\n\nI think you should dump them both and spend sometime figuring yourself out.  \n\nDefinately dump the guy who you've had 'problems' with. You're too young for 'problems' in any relationship.  My guess is that you are too young for a serious relationship anyhow....I mean if you are refering to infatuation as love, then you have a long ways to go before you settle down. \n\nI say get out there, date a lot, and don't get tied down.  Live it up while you have the chance because if you stay tied down now, you may never have another opportunity to experience all these great aspects...\n\nTo me, it sounds like you just like being sought after. I don't think you love either of them, you just like being the object of affection.  \nDon't jerk your boyfriend around, think about if he were doing this to you...\n\nOh by the way, don't misuse the word love...it cheapens the word...and in the eyes of more intelligent men, it cheapens the user. \n\nBe wise! Good luck!
73282
Love is a very, very strange thing and probably one of the hardest things to explain sometimes! I think its really nice that you care about your friend's feelings and that you don't want to see her get hurt. Unfortunately though, if your friend really loves this guy she will stay with him no matter what you try to do or say. In fact, she might even start to resent you for interfering in their relationship. The best thing I can advise you to do is just be there for your friend. Give her advice if she has a problem and give her your true opinion if she asks for it. A good friend would tell her to leave this man and that he's a waste of space. A great friend would accept her love for him and support the decision she has made being there to pick up the pieces when it inevitably goes wrong. Good luck.
42721
what's the matter with you girl? do you want to be cold TWO TIMER?\nmake sure to what you feel.. know the boy in your school deeper.. atleast you know your boyfriend more. ask this question to your self:\n"Do I still love myboyfriend? because i love another"\nwell, it's only you who can decide..=)
23226
I believe that if you truly love someone you will always love them the only change is the way you love them , if you have remained friends and kept in touch it may be a little hard , because you have gotten used to loving em as just a friend , however if you just run into em one day and start over it wont be if its meant to be . Everything happens for a reason so if the two of you are meant to be together you will . Trust me my first love and I have fallen in and out of love several times over the last 10 years I stopped stressing it when I realized that it will just happen if we are truly meant for eachother !!
157540
alright hun obviously there is something going on within your present relationship that has you wanting this other man. But even if there is a man's best friend is a subject YOU BETTER BE PREPARED TO TACKLE IF YOU PERSUE. Because like the saying goes, girlfriends and boyfriends come and go, but a best friend last forever. They've known each other longer than you and trust me from experience they will turn on you. I lost a good man at that time because i persued his best friend. Hun, unless you can deal with the consequences, back off and let him come to you if he feels the same way. If he doesn't then you have your answer and accept it. But if u feel u need to know go for it, but be prepared for what comes down the road
260331
dude the guy never liked you.... why you stressing?\n\nmove on.. obsessions like that are unhealthy.. find someone who's as crazy about you as you are about them. You can't get mad if the guy liked your best friend, he's entitled to like whoever he choses. \nif he was your boyfriend and liked your friend secretly then u'd have a problem but so far no problem.. get over it
220508
well if ur in love with 2 people then lemme tell u something honey, ur not in love. your looking for an outlet to get revenge on ur boyfriend who is treating u badly.
78142
tell him how you feel.  don't ask for any answers, and don't expect any, but do let him know, and that way the invitation for him to address his feelings for you will be open to him.  i have to question if you are sure you are in love with him?  being in love is like nothing else in the world.  it isn't just the feeling of euphoria at being in a new relationship, it's the understanding that you would literally lay your life on the line for that person, that they are your best friend, lover, confidant, and partner in life.  it's the only feeling that will ever grow no matter how long you are together.  be sure of this before you say anything to "K".  I wish you luck and happiness.
86258
regret is worser than regection. trust me i know from experience. there was a guy i fell in love with but i had the hesitation that you have. it was actually around your age too. anyway i hesitated and he found someone else he fell in love with. i regret it till this day. i would have prefered to take the chance with our friendship to know than stay wondering what if i did this or that differently. you need to talk to her. let her know how you feel but at the same that if she doesn't feel the same way then you would loved to still stay friends because friendship is better than nothing at all.
200197
Loving your "best friend" is not a bad start.  Does he love you back.\nAnd stop playing with the word "LOVE"!
662623
dont worry about it seriously ppl say things all the time to start drama. just follow your heart. if he really loves you he didnt say that and he still wants to be with you. who knows maybe ur best friend has a thing for your boyfriend and wants you two to break up. just let it roll right off ur shoulder and act like you never heard anything.
527493
well if u in love with him andhe in love with u follow ur dream don't let anyone come in ur path because u should never let anyone do that so u can tell her i am in love with him and i sorry if u wn=ant him but he is my perfect match so find someone else u tell her that ur own way nicely she get smart walk off go to him and hug him then have u two talk about how u feel about each other really
310130
I have been in exactly the same sitation. I have a boyfriend of 3 years. He's the best and would do anything for me. What I feel for my boy friend is ever-lasting love. But.....I also fell in love with my collegue from work. I worked with him for 4 years, known him longer than my boyfriend. He felt the same way. \nI was faced with the dilema; should I leave my boyfriend for my co-worker. \n\nAfter much consideration, I decided to stay with my boyfriend.\n\nThere is a difference between being "in love" and love that will last for ever. The feeling of being "in love" will only last for a short time.   \n\nwhat you need to ask yourself is: Who will be there for my when I have problems, when I get old, when times are hard. It is only that person who really loves you. And that person will most probably be your boyfriend
455253
i think you should talk to your friend. tell her that you like her a lot but you dont like the filrting that is going on. tell her that you dont want to lose her as a friend but if this "flirting" continues then you wil leave her. and my advice is that leave your boyfriend alone with her. if he is eally in love with you, he wont proceed, but if he fools with her, then think that you have nothing to lose. you never had him.
359708
Don't dump your boyfriend. Give it time. Eventually you might find that your boyfriend is a better man than the guy who "wasn't ready". Obviously your boyfriend had the respect and the guts to have a relationship with you. I say give him some respect and stick with him for a while. If after you give it time, you find that you are still having strong feelings for the other guy, then you should make your move of dumping one for the other. Just be cautious, and weigh all your options. Remember, you are not the only one who could get hurt. GOOD LUCK :-)