I broke up with my ex about a year ago for many reasons, one that he had cheated on me.  Now, my really good friend is dating him, after being in a horrible relationship with HER ex.  She dumped that guy and within 2 weeks was dating my ex.  I know she is in a rebound relationship thing, and I'm really worried about her getting hurt.  She is too good for my ex, and deserves much better.  I'm in a quandry, because I want to tell her to be careful, but I'm afraid that she'll yell at me and accuse me of still having feelings for him.  I don't have feelings for him but I am REALLY worried about her.  I really don't want her to get hurt.  What do I do?  Should I keep my mouth shut?  Or should I tell her?
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You want to be a good friend and I understand that but if I were in your shoes I would let it happen. If you make a big deal or say anything about it period shes going to wig and maybe end up dating the guy even longer just to spite you and that's just counter-productive. In my opinion she made a bad decision dating one of her friends X's but since that's not the question it's neither here nor there. The point is, she knew how he was before she started dating him, she should have known better. I'm not trying to be cruel but people learn things best firsthand. Be supportive, hope for the best, Maybe your X has changed but be ready to console her and help her move on when he screws her over as well.
387699
go for it im sure she will get over it. Just becareful cuz maybe he is just on the rebound from her and you dont need to get hurt.
357277
You need to decide who's more important--your friend or his ex. I realize that you're friends with both of them, but I'm assuming you've known your guy friend longer. \n\nIn that case, he's more important, I'd say. Tell him what's going on with this girl. Forget about her feelings; clearly she has no regard for anyone else's feelings, so why should give a sh*t about her's?
445151
she sounds like she is just telling the truth.  It is just fine I mean she broke up with him so she could hook you and him up.  I mean it is not like he broke up with her and then asked you out and your friend was heart broken.
258509
Well, I don't think it's a good idea to date her ex-boyfriend if you remain friends with her.  She may end up being jealous or if not jealous and she doesn't care, then she probably thinks he's a jerk anyway and let you find out for yourself.
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clear she was really hurt when her ex cheated on her. understand her feeling. now undoubtly she's feeling much better, she has revanged and she can forget her ex much easily. just don't cheat on her and everything will be fine
534650
Well I wouldnt put myself in this situation.  Quite frankly if you dont want someone talking to their ex, you have that right and shouldnt be judged poorly.  I am not down with that either, so tell her when she is done with his problems to come and find you...if you are still availiable.
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I know she’s your best mate, so you don’t like to see her act like this or hurt herself and/or her bf by acting this way. \n\nIn a sense this is really a problem between her and her bf. Ultimately, he must decide what he is willing to put up with and then approach her if he has a problem. You’re not part of that equation, directly.\n\nStill, if your embarrassment comes more because you hate to see her make a fool of herself and don’t want to see her ruin this relationship, you could approach her simply as a friend offering your observations and advice.\n\nYou can tell her that her past relationship broke up because she was flirting around, and now she’s sending out the same signals as she did when she dumped her old boyfriend – even if that’s not the image that she means to project to the world. \n\nIf she doesn’t want to confuse everyone (including herself – sometimes by flirting, we can encourage ourselves to fall in love with someone else, so she could easily end up cheating on THIS guy if she doesn’t drive him away first), she should stop.\n\nShe might not want to listen. You can't force her to change. But you can tell her in a way that shows that you care. She'll remember that and appreciate you for it, if the worst does happen.
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you're not expecting to much, but everyone is different..i'm friends with several of my exes to..but if a significant other really had a problem with it i'd do my best to come up with a comprimise..generally exes are exes for a reason....he should also respect your thoughts and feelings...and not just say it's being jealous...
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Bad place to go ESPECIALLY so soon after he broke up with her. One - she's your best friends ex. There is a reason he broke up with her and you probably don't want to subject yourself to the same just for a little sex.\n\nAlso think about if you did start dating her - do you really think your friend is going to want her hanging out with the both of you or with you guys as a couple? \n\nI understand he's not so broken up about it, but they are still an ex-couple -\n\nMy vote is don't do it.\n\nMiss Cris\nhttp://lendinganear.wordpress.com
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You are one great guy. Wish I knew some more like you. Let her have some time to get over her ex and then when the time is right to hint to her again you'll know. The only warning I would give is, don't give too much of yourself that you may be hurt- eg giving her money when she may never want you two to be anything more than "good friends" don't let her use you because if she things you still like her but are a soft touch and if she's feeling hurt right now, it might be 2nd nature for her to crave attention even when she may not want the same sort of attention that you have in mind to give her (ie.g/bfriend type) All the best and know that the right one is out there for you even if its not her. You sound like a great support to her when she needed someone most, but don't neglect your own needs  :)
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doesnt sound good, unless her and her ex have been good friends before and are just trying to be friends again. (actually thats not too right either) and they shouldnt be talking about sex. thats wrong. and her ex had clearly shown intention to get back together... the right thing for her to do is back off. then again, she's a gal. gals love to be loved. (by lots of other men - it just makes them feel special, wanted, hot, etc) BUT ANYWAY... if they're making it a habit, u need to tell her you're uncomfortable. otherwise, end it. cuz if she doesnt care about your feelings, she's probably not THAT into u anyway.
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My best advice and somewhat from my own and friend's experiences...it's not a good thing.\nI am still very close to one of my ex boyfriends but we keep it to phone conversations here and there and I believe it's possible to still be friends with someone even though you realize you don't make a good couple. \n\nThe part that concerns me about your situation though is the fact that he is spending quality time with his ex.  I don't think that's ok and if he wants to spend time with her it should be done in a group setting (if they still have the same friends) or you and her husband should be there too and make it a double date thing, that should be the only time he spends with her.  \nOr if they work together, then that would be the only other exception.\n\nI would express to him that it makes you uncomfortable and you don't think it's ok for him to continue a relationship where he invests time with her...if he enjoys her company that much than why isn't he back with her?  \n\nI would ask him to make that change and if he loves you and wants to be with you than he will understand.
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I asked my husband about his ex before and he asked about mine.  The thing is you get hurt because he is telling you about someone he has had a prior relationship with, someone he has been intament with.  Its hard knowing that someone else has been with the man you love.  I am sure your husband wasn't the only one you have been with either.  Tell your husband..." I am sorry that i am always asking you about your exgirlfriends.  Its just something i need to know about.  If I seem a little upset its because its hard picturing sharing you with others.  Also tell him .." When i get upset i need you to reassure me that i am the only one you want to be with."  My husband reassures me all the time.  He is always telling me how lucky he is to have me.  I am able to trust him because he tells me I am the only one for him.
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WHOA! You should defintaly try to explain yourself again and make her understand. I would be furiuos if my girlfriend stayed at her Exs for a week. Thats totally uncalled for and you have every right to be pissed. I mean theyre Exs for a reason right? Yea man thats definatly not cool, and if she insists on keeping contact with the Ex then maybe theres still some latent feelings towards him. If she doesnt get it, then tell her that her still talking with him is directly effecting your relationship and could possibly be the downfall of it as well. Godd luck with that man.
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Sounds like she liked another guy also and her friend betrayed her.  When you are dating and just starting dating, you have to talk to each other about what you feel about dating.  \n\nIf you only want to date only one person at a time, you have to let her know that.  There are many people who are dating and just dating with nothing serious in it, especially when you are just getting to know each other.  You should let her talk.  \n\nCommunication is the number one thing in any relationship.  At least she is being honest that she likes someone else.  If you don't want to talk to her because she likes someone else, tell her that.  Don't ignore her.  Tell her how you honestly feel.  I am like you.  I don't go for someone who likes someone else, but you have to tell her.  You might be good friends even if you don't make good boyfriend - girlfriend relationship.
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I just got over a relationship where my best friend (who was also his x girlfriend) and him kept staying friends. I didnt really let him know how much it bothered me, but now that i look back, it totally bothered me... and now that were not together, im so glad its over because that issue was so annoying, not worth dealing with. Tell him to loose her and if he can't, drop him!