I'm a latin girl and i met this great guy who is from de USA, we are very good friends but i feel that i have more feelings for him, but recently i'm feeling that he is getting apart from me, I thought he liked me because sometimes he showed very romantic with me. I don'r know how to ask him what is going on with him because I'm afraid that he discovers that I fall in love with him and thinks that maybe i'm just interest in his nationality. I'm sad because our friendship aybe could chnage and i don't want to. WHat should I do to talk with him about this?
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just ask him. if you are really that great of friends there should be nothing that you can't talk to him about. especially if it has to do with your friendship. just tell him that you have been noticing that he is distant and not acting like he use to toward you. is it something you did? something you said? maybe has has something going on in his life right now that has nothing to do with you. whatever it is, you just need to ask him. he won't take it as you have feeling for him, he'll take it as you are a concerned friend.
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What's wrong with liking him if you do?  I think that once you really get to know someone, you can't help  but love them to some extent.  My best friend in the world is a guy, and I love him.  It's hard sometimes, but you can't ignore the feelings, and nothing's going to make them go away.  It might help if you tell him how you feel.  If he likes you, then maybe you can hook up, or if he doesn't then maybe that'll give you some closure on the subject.
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so do you consider this guy a friend ?? You really need to sit down and talk to him. Do you have feeling for him ? Sometimes guys like to play mind games to see how you feel about them. If he is your friend then you should be comfortable asking him. If you like him make the first move. Be flirty. Hug him, kiss his cheek. If he shys away after you talk to him let him know that nothing will change if those arent his feeling but unless you do this you will never know. Or you could be sneaky and date someone else to find out how he feels but this could lead to hard feelings. Would you rather have him in your life as a friend or a boyfriend ?? Remeber friends are harder to find then boyfriends. Good luck
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I know that feeling (the terribal feeling not very well)\nTry to be nice, if you are not feeling what he is... Just be honest, your friendship will change of course but he knows it will, he took the risk by saying he loves you...\nDo not be rude he is just been honest, but you do not share the feeling so be clear state it correctly... \nRelation will change so be prepare you will never look at him as it was before, but you can be mature enough to go over this bad feeling you have and time will put you back together again and you will someday laugh about, if you both are real friends OK... sooner or latter you will accept him as he is.
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i know exactly how you feel... well, at least i think i do.. i am in love with my best guy friend whom i have known for almost 11 years... we are reallyc lose and a week ago, he confessed that he believed that we were meant to be.. blahblah.. and then we kissed.. and it's been a week and i have a feeling that he's avoiding me.. he's always busy and within the last week, he called me ONCE... that's it. and it was for a brief conversatio. i don't know what is going on... its really hard to do anything.. because i know that we were friends first.. and i dont want to risk it..\n\nmy advice to you... confront him before you assume anything and talk with him... talk it through... conversation is the best option you have... dont do like what i did and talk it out. it will save YOUR HEART from a lot of pain....
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I don't have to be Latino to be clued in on the cultural differences.  Latinos value "machismo" and more traditional gender roles.  At least your man was honest with you about it.\n\nThe last thing you should do is to take it personally and to fault yourself for his feelings.  You are not responsible for his feelings, as he is not responsible for yours.\n\nHe would be more compaible with someone he feels that he is more accomplished around.  He feels that you are more accomplished than him.\n\nMost guys who feel intimidated by their partner's success do bad things to try to elevate their ego, or "get back" at their partner in a passive-aggressive way.  These things they do are cheating, porn addiction, reducing women by stereotyping, objectifying, and reducing them.\n\nYour man was honest and has integrity.  Such a shame to lose one like that.  Maybe, if you want to work it out with him, you could figure out what it would take for him to feel equal to you.\n\nMaybe that would mean taking some online courses, some nght courses, or something that would certify him in a trade skill.  And if you were to get more involved, maybe it would mean selling your home and moving to one together.  A new home is not yours or his, but rather neutral territory that you get together.\n\nMaybe you could take some courses with him in something that interests him.  If he's into carpentry, then take shop classes with him.  If he's into motors, then take automotive courses with him.  Maybe if he saw that you were willing to try and possibly fail at something he could be good at, he would feel more machismo.\n\nSure, he is a Latino, but he is a man first.  All men want to be strong, admired, powerful, respected, appreciated, attractive, and saught after.  Some cultures value certain things more that others, like the ability to provide and protect.
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I think you need to ask him about it and tell him how you feel but dont scare him off. Say something like i am beggining to kinda like you...But if you are not into me then i would love to still be friends. But tell him that no matter what happens i want to still be your friend.
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The next step is up to him - congratulations on your courage to tell him how you feel - I know it wasn't easy.\n\nSee how he responds to you from now on.  Is he still friendly or is he aloof now because he, too, feels embarrassed by what you told him?\n\nIf he seems aloof to you, then he doesn't share the same feelings as you - ok - you tried - now go find someone who does share those feelings with you.\n\nGood Luck!
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It would do no harm to suggest keeping in touch. You might say you've enjoyed his company and are sad that he is leaving. You are impressed by the courteous way he treats people which is different from what you're accustomed to.\nI've know a few Latino men who have these characteristics; they seem to be indifferent to a woman's age or looks. It must be the way they are raised. I think it's only in our Western culture that such things matter so much.
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Well consider the amount of time that you've gotten to know him. Have you been friends long enough to see his true colors?  All that matters is how comfortable you are with him and how much you trust him. If you have a connection that feels like its something special and just cant hold your feelings back then I say go for it!
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A great way to connect would be to teach him English and try to learn Spanish, you can teach each other. It will also show you are interested in him if you learn a little Spanish on your own.
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I know exactly how you feel!Only in kind of a tighter position. Just look at my Q & A.But since your the guy,YOU need to make the first move.Dont be shy,it sounds like you guys really like each other.
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well, write a  letter telling him  ur feelings.ask it personally.try befriendin' him. get to know him better.well, u got jealous becoz he was talkin' with other girls coz u were scared of losin' him.if u tell him how u feel, wait for him to think.tell him personally. just  muster up ur guts n  spill out ur feelings to him once n all,if not that way write a cute n romantic letter or even a poem will do the trick. don't come to conclusions. ask ur best buddies if they have acquaintances with him. if the feeling isn't that strong enough, forget about the guy u'll move over it.if in case rejected, don't feel low, he didn't know that he missed out a gud person.it isn't the end of the world.u'll find many guys around who might b interested in talkin' with u.so gud luck !
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I'm a guy and I feel the same thing (with a girl). I can't tell you to tell him because I don't have the guts to do that myself. Maybe you should just wait for a while, although if there's no sign from him of liking you and especially if he seems into someone else, maybe you should let the matter drop. But if you truly feel love and can't let him go, then you should probably tell him how you feel. Perhaps he feels the same way about you too. I'm telling you, there are many other guys in your situation, too, so girls aren't the only ones. Maybe he doesn't know what do to either, although there's always the possibility that he really doesn't like, but not because you're not an extraordinary girl, but because he likes someone else or he just doesn't know you enough. I hope I didn't bore you with my answer too much.
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i would get to know him! become his friend look in his eyes when you talk and smile whenever he walks in the room! that gives him a huge hint!\n\ndont break them up because that is just wrong. but once you become his friend be around him alot call him be his buddy then when you know him well enough pull him to the side and tell him how you feel. im sure you will get a good responce\n\nLove ~*Chloe*~
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If you like him and enjoy hanging out with him then talk with him and hang out.  Guys are hard to understand and confusing.  Just be honest and mature.  Talk about how you are feeling and explain what you mean so he doesn't take things the wrong way and same goes for you, if he says something that you don't quite understand let him know.  The way I look at things is that if things are meant to happen then they will.  Don't worry, just take it easy.  Best of luck to you!!  :)
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It's the nice comfy sweatshirt thing.  You see, in moving 1/2 way across the country, he had to give up his home, the folks he casually said Hi to everyday, his favorite pizza joint, etc.  He's lonely at his new place and has decided he wants friends.  Instead of letting them develop, he wanted some already instant made.  Well, there you are.  He already knew you, etc.  \n\nI had this happen to me.  Yes, he's interested.  Yes, you can have a relationship.  However, with everything being new to him now (but him learning it later on) that there will come a time when he doesn't need so much attention ... and he may develop into the guy you knew when he was in town.\n\nI wish I could say "Go for it."  My problem with trying it out is that he really does need to stand alone for a little bit, so you aren't the sudden substitute for his lack of companionship.  It gets pretty draining and depressing being both a person's newfound companion but also his blame when he feels he needs other friends.  You don't need that.\n\nGood luck!