I am in a bit of a fix as I really like a married woman who I thought totaly unavailable.\n\nWe work together and have grown really close.\n\nShe is always 'hugging me' and 'invading my space' with touches and careses.\n\nIt sometimes goes really quiet for a while when we give each other a certain look.\n\nI have known her for two years she has had a child 6 months ago, and ever since the birth of her baby she has been more touchy feely and wanting to spend more time with me.\n\nI am single and really like her, but respect the fact she is married.\n\nAny suggestions ?
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IF you have a relationship with someone that cheats, even if it's cheating to be with you, I promise you, u will always wonder if she's doing it to you, if she's going to the store or to meet another, such and so on.  It's great in the beginning, but trust is a major part of a relationship, and she will never truely have your's.  \n   Plus, how are you going to feel breaking up a family?  How you going to feel when that baby (who u will end up helping raise) is told by dad or someone the events of why mom and dad isn't together?  You sound like a nice guy who's going to let all this stuff bother him as time goes on, which is a good thing.
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well I don't know if she loves you or not, but we married people all feel a little unloved sometimes. Tell her how you feel and maybe you just cant help her with this one, which is hard for a man to except, but do talk to her and  make sure you let her know that you are thinking of her and not the fact that you feel unloved. I know sometimes if I am not in the best for whatever reason my husband always thinks its because of him and no it does not be. Take it easy on her and understand that you may not be the foremost thing in her life at the moment. But apart from all that well done and congratulations on 23 years of marriage and long may it last, you are brilliant for being together this long and being on here concerned for her, you are a nice man and it will work out for you, I  am sure
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Best Answer!\n\nLet's make this simple. One question had you ever met this woman in person or was this just a chat/phone type relationship? \n\nIf non of the above apply then its simple - you go to where she hangs out and you come with your "A" game of being a good friend only. She has been through a divorce and more than like is not ready for a committed relationship due to she is still healing her self. \nYour just was a good friend,but you more than like had expressed or told her how you like her more than friends and this basically forced her to bounce because she may not have wanted to hurt you. She may have sensed you to be a sensitive guy and knew you could not handle hearing she just wanted to have a person to listen to her in her healing process verses falling for her as it appears you have.  \n\nIt hurts guy to make a decision to love another person and she is not ready to love you back! \n\nNow you need someone to heal you..DAMN! \n\nHope this helps - keep your chin up buddy - You'll find another!
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OK, in the perfect world, if you want to have a healthy marriage, you should not contact this other woman and just go on living your every day life. And that is just fine and dandy, if only your mind didn't keep drifting away towards this other girl. Maybe it keeps drifting because it's a new and exciting part of your life you don't have anymore, since being married can get to be "boring" or just not as adventurous as it was in the beggining. That is totally understandable. \nWhat you didn't mention, is that if this girl is still contacting you? Has she given up on you? If she has, then it means that she just wanted to say hi and see how you were doing, she's not interested in you in any other way. \nI think you will always wonder "what could have been", until you have some closure in this part of your life. If you do decide to contact her again, you should meet face to face and tell her what she meant to you and how it felt to let her go. But remember that you are a different person now, as is she, in totally different circumstances.\nI don't think an honest luncheon to clear the air, and to put your mind and feelings at ease would be that bad.\nAs long as you know where to draw the line, and as long as you understand that you are a married man with different obligations now.\nGood luck man. Tough call.
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Go stright to her and tell her that you her... looking deeply and Straigtly into her hey.. no where else.... \nnot only this (expressing your love)... you have show that how many days you are loving her... how you know her.. where you saw her... which activity do you like in her.. which you dont (dont express too much...)... i think this will be a begining for your love... and when time passes (not too much months) she will defenetly accpet your love.... \n\nSome time they may try to reject you... but at that time (too) you have to show your love to them... this will lead to a happy married life..... advance wishes from this unknow friend....
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I would imagine that part of why you guys are so close is that there is little chance of anything happening between you.  You are married, he is gay.  There is a line between you that keeps you honest.  \n\nI have always been more flirtatious with women who are attached because I didn't feel anything for them and I knew that they didn't feel anything for me.  I didn't have anything to worry about.  When I was with a woman who I had feelings for, I acted differently, didn't want to make too big a fool out of myself.\n\nYou may want to work on strengthening things with your husband.  Try flirting with him, like before you were married.  Surprise him with a romantic candlelit dinner one evening.  Maybe you can turn things around on the home front
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You don't decide it. In my case, I just did know it was the time to give the next step. I guess usually when you spent time with the woman you like and accept that you like her and want to be with her even though all of her defects and faults, you decide to take the step. Good Luck\n\nPS --> Cooking is a plus! :OP\nPS2--> It worked for me till now.
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You'll know..her feelings will be more natural..she will be more laid back, able to tell you anything.  I say wait it out a little longer..if she does not reciprocate..move on!
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If she knows it, but she got married anyway, then I guess you may have to face the fact that she is not interested in you.  If she's that great, get over her and be her friend.  You say you're married, so work at that.
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I think it sounds like you and him had a lot in common, and he views you as a good friend, after all you two were together for a while. He may still have feelings for you, but if he is getting married he should not be flirting with you. Now he may also have the other thing on his mind, and is not ready to let go of that or he misses your company and body. If that is the situation you know what to do. Just simply tell him no, but that you two can still remain friends if you both agree to that. Let him know that that is as far as it goes, unless you two think you may eventually get back together. Buy that does not appear to be an option at this point. Whatever you do , do not let him use you for sexual relations. Good Luck and I hope you two can remain friends.
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hi there, this must be a huge dilemma you're facing. i have experienced this before, i'm 19 and probably you would think that i'm too young to comment or give you advice on this but this would be my sincere reply to your question. firstly, is this a mutual feeling? does she love you to the extent as you love her? you mentioned that she loves you as a friend, have you confronted her and made your feelings towards her known? it would be best if you know how she really feels then you can decide on what to do next. if she loves you, and you love her too, and both of you are happy with each other's company- why let go when you can grow and allow a beautiful relationship to blossom? but if she doesn't love you in a romantic way, it is definitely advisable that you let go before it's too late. allow yourself to meet new people and give your chance and someone out there a chance too. it will take more than a short period of time to get over her and resume to the "just friends" status but it will do you good. if she's unsure, give her time to think about it. i hope what i said made sense, there's too much to speak on this. i hope that all will go well and you're able to come up with a solution. do not let this issue put you down, alrite? there are many other beautiful individuals out there waiting to be discovered. and i'm sure that she is also a special person.
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I Think she is thinking as more than a friend. And she thinks that you are only one who can understand her feelings and can give some kind of support to her. Plz let it continue the same.\nAnd i think you have to wait for the right moment to express your love.\n\nALL THE BEST!!!!!!
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Hi Friend\n\nI think its good question.\n\nwhy do not you discuss your problem with her.so you can come to a conclusion.were things are not the same.whether communication or you both have lost interest in each other.Try going out with other friends. go with them where you would have preferred to take her and not anybody else.(some good movie etc) Because they can be many reasons.\nI personally think you should give each other some space and latter share your feeling with each other and check-.once you are sure about your feeling then only decide about Marriage.
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You could ask her straight out what she is looking for.  If you're not willing to spend some quality time at home with her to get to know her, you may want to move on.  You know what it's like to have children so I'm sure you understand how difficult it must be for her to raise two children on her own and why she is busy and can't get out much.  Her children will always come first or, atleast they should.  Perhaps you should rearrange some things in your life if you truly would like to get to know this woman.
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Well I just recently got married two months ago and I think that it's absence that makes the heart grow fonder. Before I couldn't wait to see her and I would get all excited when I prepare to meet her. Now that I see her everyday I think I've grown more accustomed to her as she did to me. This is when people start treating each other less "special" I believe the trick is to try and maintain that feeling.
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hey, the same thing kinda happened to me! except, he never wanted her sexually...but i was friends with her (probably during a time when she dated him), way before i ever met him...we lived in different countries, so i think she may have dated him after i met her...anyway, she used to come over and hang out all the time after he and i got married...they're just old buddies and well, what they used to have is now long gone...\nso, if you feel that you can trust BOTH of them, why not?
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The important thing here is that this is all about you...........where does the object of your affections come into it other than that? You've given no info about her so there is no way of knowing if she might be attracted to you as another female or if you are confusing friendship with more because of what you seem to need from that friendship. If, for example, she is a married woman, or in a hetro relationship you could put the friendship at risk if you 'declare' your feelings. You don't mention ages...............you may have a 'crush' which may pass with time.