that you and your spouse can be seperated without it causeing alot of problems and know that its over.
127761
I think once the thought of a separation there are problems. I personally don't think separations are good whether it be one day, one week, or one year. If there are problems you should work them out while staying together. You never know when things can just turn around. The 2 of you could go see a counselor and then come home and cuddle up on the couch and everything could be fine again. You never know but it seems to me to be harder to work things out when you are apart from eachother.
176981
Because getting married too many times implies divorces, and divorces are only about money, money to the husband, to the wife, to the lawyer, to the goverment, that's why they don't want to stop it
75921
I would suppose it is easy for some to forget what they had in a marriage. If your friend is sure she wants to be with someone else she should go ahead with the divorce...K
588184
Separation does not mean divorce.  You still have to get the legal paper work done.  Check with your state to see how this is done.
203382
Married for 15 years and we still tell each other where we are and what we do and No they shouldn't get mad but they always will but they will get over it and they still love ya . It's good that you let your spouse know what you are doing just in case something bad happens or what if your spouse wins a million dollars wouldn't you want to know right away? There's always a what if and it's better to know and to be prepared than to wonder what the hell happened.Just in case it's your last chance to say I love you.
253490
because we feel tied down and once we finally are free its a big stress relief and heavy burden off our shoulders i was married once before and she was doing crazy shit then she cheated on me with my brother so when we went to court\nand got it final i screamed for joy while she jus cried....anyway some people change once there married...sex stops, affection stops its doomed from the begining
225297
Well, if both of you don't want to be in other relationships then its ok.  It's good that you both are looking out in the best interest of the children, but it will be harder for both of you to move on if you live together.
518290
Split up again. If both people are not happy it can't work.
50119
It means your free of trouble
163761
It's never easy to part from someone you care for.  However there comes a time when you have to do what's best for you.  Irregardless of how it might hurt the other person.  The longer you put it off the harder it will be.
57197
I already keep the state out of my marriage. I would like to think I am responsible enough to maintain my marriage without the government butting in. But I think that a lot people need someone/thing to act as a mediator when their marriages dissolve, so they turn to the state. Doesn't mean they should, but...
505846
I'm never going to marry again.  It is better to stay with someone because you want to than to stay because divorce is expensive, or there are children, or you don't want to go through the whole ordeal or some other reason.
267842
My dad (my parents have been married for 57 years) says that divorce is not an escape from your problems, just a new set of problems. That's why second and third marriages have a higher divorce rate then first marriages. Divorce is sometimes the only way to address certain relationship issues, but it needs to be as a last resort. Too often, people give up without investing any real effort.
399403
I think l know exactly where you are coming from. My husband and l did separate. I guess it was both of our faults for one reason or another, but our main problem l think was lack of communication. We are back together again now and try to discuss everything. Sometimes it is really hard to tell your partner how you really feel, but as we can not read each others minds we must all learn to talk about our problems or they just  get all blown out of proportion and before you know it we have huge problems.There is no point begging him for anything, but please try and get him to sit down and atleast listen to what you have to say. Pour your heart out to him if you have to, make sure you get everything off your chest and atleast then you can honestly say  you gave it your all. If he still chooses to leave atleast you know in your heart  that you did your very best to work things out. No-one can expect you to do more than that. Hope everything works out well for you. Good Luck.
599028
Now my spouse makes me feel complete. It only took 30 years. All I can say is you have to compromise. If you fight, you can't leave , you can ignore each other until everything cools down. I watched my sibblings leave their spouses time and time again, they always went back. That was time wasted. Work things out. There are no 2 people perfectly compatable. You have to work at it. Even now , we are not even 80% compatable, but there was no way, even 10 years ago that I was gonna start over. You probably found the right person, but how would you know , now? Good luck.
13332
Sounds like its just an easy way out..Maybe to try and not hurt your feelings, when what she/he really wanted to say was "I dont want to be with you anymore"
222513
You got divorced for a reason.  Remember that reason, and move on.