He has been coming home late for the past couple nights, and when i call him he dont answer the phone.He lives in a diffrent place than me, and when i ask him if i could spend the night with him he said no really fast. And last night when we were making love, he started laughing for no reason, i thought it was because mabey he thinks im stupid, because he is cheating on me and i still do things with him. HELP!
124758
He lives in a different place and he won't let you spend the night there???\n\nWell, that's your first, last and only clue that you need.\n\nTime to call a divorce lawyer and take him for all he has.
249097
It sounds to me that his picking fights about nonsense is because he feels insecure about himself or even about the relationship between both of you. What is/are the reason(s) for him to say that you're cheating? Is it because you're seeing/calling him less? Did you hold on something not telling him when he asked you? He may be suspicious of your response to him. If you cannot really tell him something but it doesn't relate anything to your relationship, try to reassure your love and feelings towards him. Let him know you're always loyal to him and standing by him. \n\nHe always threatens to leave but he never does--It shows to me that he is upset about something (or feeling dissatisfied about something in the relationship) but he still cares about & loves you because he always only says so without the actual action. Again, it may due to his insecure feelings about your love/concern for him. He may not feel the same care/concern as he does to you. He may feel you don't love/care for him as much as before. He is worrying about your changes if there is any. So try to figure out if there is anything bothering him or making him feel dissatisfied.\n\nRight now I'll give him the benefit of doubt about his seeing someone. I'd rather think the major problem/issue is that he is feeling insecure about himself & the relationship. So my suggetion is: Try to compliment him more and let him know you really love & adore him and why.\nIf both of you have common friends, praise him in front of his/your friends to let him feel special, respected and loved. \n\nHope it helps.
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This sounds like the classic case of him meeting someone and he doesn't want to tell you because just in case it doesn't work he has you hanging on the side. If he confirms it to you. It becomes real. Seeing you made him miss you threw him off. thats why the text. He seems to have the " out of sight out of mind" thing down. My advice stop calling, text, etc. He knows your patterns. You are being to conveint for him.This will have him approaching you instead. Right now you are to predictable to him. Mess with the pattern.Throw him off balance. He calls " look im busy right now can I call you back" then don't he will call you back.. I SWEAR!! tell him sorry I got busy. Don't get into it with him on the phone.. NEVER. keep being busy but say we need to talk, but I can't on the phone I gotta go now if he turns the topic, don't get mad.I know its stupid to play these games but this is the reality of it. THEN!! you decide if you want to put up with it. Confront him when YOU are ready. Then you choose to stay or go. Tell him not playing these games.\nKnow your worth. Don't be a door mat. good luck.
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i think he is cheating to but if he's not why deal with that. remember when you was growing up you had to answer to your parents where you going what time will you be back and had to be home at a certain time why go back to that you might as well be at home. and don't never let a man tell you where you can or can't go. that is to much control, and believe me it don't get better only worst. you need to sit down with him and tell him look i am not your child and you can't tell me what to do if he don't like it then you need to get out before it is to late.
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My answer is a question.  Are you so insecure and lonely that you can't recognize when you are being used?  Dump the guy.  The fact that you drove 300 miles to see him and then he blew you off should tell you everything you need to know about him.  Regardless of what he said, his actions speak for him.  He got all of you he wanted the first night, and was finished with you until the next time he needs an ego boost.  This guy is either married, seeing someone else, or just a loser.
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If you think that he is cheating on you and he says that he wants to sleep with your friend, he probably is. From what you described, his behavior seems pretty shady. I would move on from the both of them. If he can't commit himself completely to you, the relationship is doomed. You should never have to doubt your significant other in a healthy relationship. Also, if your friend is sleeping with him or anything else, then she is not your friend. Find people that respect you and your relationship.
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Call him on it.  It sounds like neither of you trust each other, so if you get down to the root of the problem, hopefully you can overcome it.  Have you done anything for him to feel betrayed?  It sounds like he's reading them.  Just call him on it and have a conversation about it.
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Honestly, I think you should leave him. There are so many guys out there, you're bound to find someone better than him. It seems as if he's using you, and if YOU'RE noticing that, then I'm guessing he has to go. It seems as if he thinks he can manipulate you almost, like have you come over to see him at the middle of the night, or take your mind away from the relationship whenever you ask him about it. He seems to like having you in such control because of how you said "he just smiles and..." Don't have sex with him for about a month, and see what he'll do. Again, this is all only my opinion.
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Well I dont quite know what to think either?\n\nJudging by the question, you seem to have troubles with the boyfriend? I am probably wrong here because you question is a little hard to understand. However, I shall answer it like this anyway.\n\n\nFirstly, you should NEVER jumped to conclusions that he's cheating \nbecause you dont get to talk to him, etc.\n\nHowever, I would get a little suspisious of something in your position. I think you need to re-consider his intentions? What exactly does he want in your relasionship?\n\nAt the end of the day, your question isnt really detailed enough to come up with some useful answers (if any lol). I mean, how long have the two of you been dating?\n\nIf you havent been dating long enough.... then dont take this guy seriously. I wouldnt take a girl seriously if she acts the way your guy does. Oh well.... what do I know?\n\nGoing by your question, he doesnt take you seriously and the best way to solve this issue is by talking to him. I hope it all goes well for you, but be prepared to leave him if he contiues the same ways. I would certainly prepare myself for this, etc.\n\nGood luck!!
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Y R U putting up with this, he is trying to pull the wol over ur eyes, if this girl says that he& she slept 2getther she may be tellin the true and he want u to be the naive wife. U need to confront or set up something to see if he'll fall fo r the bait, thats one sure fire way to tell if he's cheating..\n\nU have my email email me and I can tell u how to go about this
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His mind is on something else. But dont worry yet cuz worryin gets u no where.  just keep being that honest and truthful girlfriend you are.  Pretty soon whatever is going on will come to the light.  NOTHING STAYS IN THE DARK BELIEVE ME. so just be patient and dont call him cuz that will annoy him after awhile and conversations will be allot shorter more often. so give him his little space and let him come to you. And if dosent come you know what u gotta do. but dont give in and call him again because honestly love is like a Game and if you call him YOU LOST HE WON and then he got the upper ground.  you'll be fine girl just keep urself occupied and less worried you'll be fine.
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For goodness sakes! Is he ashamed of being with you or does he not want people to think you are an item? He sounds like a guy I used to like in high school and in the first year of college. We only went to church together. And when we went out, it was after dark. He didn't want it to get back to his dad that we were seen together. \nYou might want to ask him why. But if his behavior does not improve, just leave him and his issues alone.
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Yes, you are wasting your time.  I know that hurts to read but when a guy is drunk he says more often than not what he really feels.  Plus I don't hear you saying he apologized the next day or anything.  You deserve to be with a guy who will love you and wants to be with you and that isn't going to happen till you end this relationship and move on with your life.
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Sounds like a fairly new relationship, take it slow. If he isn't calling, maybe he has good reasons. Tell him your bothered by this, try to come to a resolution between the 2 of you. A good relationship needs amazing communication. No hiding things. If this doesn't work, start shopping for a new relationship. Always another bigger better fish.
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!!!Well , you have a problem there!! I would in this particular situation most likely would somehow leave the (cheating) situation alone and let him now how it feels and that maybe he should think twice before making out with some girl he met that night. Also i would not go out with him because he sound like a slut , especially if he is making out with a girl he just met. I can give you advice but i can not  make the decision for you.\nTootles!!!
560796
I think you need to let sleeping dogs lie cause he sounds confusing and confusing leads stress, stress leads to pain and pain leads to heartache so move on and find someone else cause he's playing you.
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It sounds to me that he is just using you for your money, i dont know his past but you should ask him why he nevers sees you at night. If the answer does not seem genuine or if he takes ages to respond, he is using you and you should get rid of him.