I just want to understand how my being gay affects you since I'm not sleeping with you and why you feel the need to be hostile or aggressive and defensive about it.
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What Ipersonally believe is, we were raised in a country where stuff like that should not happen. Also what part of the nation,many years ago a gay person would of been killed. thats why gays stayed in the closets.  now, the gays tend to get more noticed and more rights are for them and us straight folk just don't get it. please whomever is reading this dont report me AGAIN because since I do live in america I do have the right to speak what is on my mind , just like everybody else in U S A has the right to do.
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It is normal for people to feel scared about what they either do not know or do not understand. It is unfortunate that people express their prejudices usually with violence (whether physical or vocal).\n\nI think that a lot of hostility comes from men who consider a homosexual man a threat to their masculinity. The thing is, most of those people are homophobic and have NO IDEA about you.\n\nThese people attack what they don't understand, and it IS wrong, but unfortunately hate-crimes and such like have been part of society for thousands of years. Most wars break out because of it.\n\nSome gay people (some that  know) counter-attack by going out of their way to express themselves in an ultra-gay fashion, which is just adding fuel to the fire.\n\nThe thing is this. Being gay is not about who you sleep with, but who you love. Peoples love lives are the same, and should not concern anyone unless it directly affects them.\n\nI would suggest opening your heart to these people and say to yourself that maybe they are not aware f how incredibly ignorant they are. As far as a human being is concerned, try putting it into context...\n\n'I was lying on the street, my heart had stopped and lungs given up, when a stranger came up and touched me. He touched me not with the love of a man for a man, but of a man for a fellow man in need. After that homosexual man had saved my life, he became my brother for the rest of it. I have since been grateful everyday for that man, not homo nor hetro, who gave me my life.'        - Chameleon Dreams, Jayden Walker.
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"Im not againts [sic] hitting people that are gay..." \n\nYeah, we get that.\n\n"But I gave him two warnings to stop, and its not like I could go anywhere since I was stuck in the car. Was I wrong to deck him for not stopping?" \n\nWould you have hit this person if it were a woman? Or would you have found a less violent way of affirming your personal space? Somewhere, you got the idea that it's acceptable to resolve your disagreements through physical violence. Big man you are.\n\n"Do you think that he was trying to hit on me?" \n\nI don't know. Maybe he just has extremely poor boundaries. People who can't keep their hands to themselves are obnoxious.\n\n"What would you have done in that situation?"\n\nI would have removed his hand and I would have given him a piece of my mind from the start. I also would have stopped making out with the girl because, not only did watching you feel her up seem to encourage him to feel you up, it's also rather gauche to make out in mixed company.
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Talking it over with close friends.  Eventually, a person accepts his or her sexual orientation, self-identifies with others like that, and notes who (or what) he or she is to a close friend.  I think the fact that this one longterm friend had actually come out to me some months beforehand also helped. It's a safety issue, I think. It was like a weight being lifted from my shoulders when I came out to him and said, "this" is what am.  It also answered questions regarding stress throughout my life.
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I am gay and I would have hit him too . I don't like people of any sexual orientation who can't take no for an answer . He needs to be put in his place . Is he a friend ? If so I would go to him and let him know that I was angry with the way he handled himself and If he ever tried to push himself on me again I would punch the s*hit out of him . I would also tell him that this would be the only warning I would give . Good luck and I am sorry that you had to meet such an obvious ass*hole .
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I am not gay first off and the only reason why I am answering this question is because I am a mother who oldest daughter told me that she was gay,\nand I feel like I can tell you how I felt speaking from someone who is not really into that life style but have a child that I love with all my heart that is.....I hope what I say helps you to understand somewhat of how We the family feels at times (I am not speaking for all just myself for sure okay)\n\nAnyway, My daughter has always known how I feel about this life style, so she didn't want to tell me face to face, so she decided to tell me in a letter, when I first read it I had to read it over & over again because of course I thought it was a misprint or I was seeing things right? But it wasn't and I was reading it right, I was not mad like some people would think I was a little disappointed because of course there will not be a wedding, or the birth of grandchildren but, in saying all of that I love my baby girl no matter what, she decides to do with her adult life, it's not mines but, hers to do with as she please, but I do not have to be apart of it, and when I say that I mean I do not want her life style in my home, or durning holidays, things like that, I have two younger girls and I do not want it around them, because the way I feel is family needs a mother & father to complete it, this is how I feel period, but I will never turn my back on my child but, the life style I will not except around me...........I have nothing hatful to say or mean or nothing like that I just do not want it pushed apoun me inside my home is all, but she my daughter is always welcome to come over..................As I said I can not speak for all parents just myself and that is how I dealt with it, If she would have told me face to face I would have given her a big hug and kiss because she will always be the daughter I brought into this world and will love forever more.............................
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Honey,\n\nIt's not that you are gay.  Most people use gay as a synonym for quiet (Beta in anthropological terms if you would) and attack bois that they perceive as weaker than themselves, in order to build themselves up.  This reduction of the humanity of other males perceived as weaker than the self dates back to ealier times -- when commonly the males of a victorious army raped the losers, not because they were gay, they weren't -- but rather because it demeaned those raped and clearly demonstrated their dominance (it is the same mentality that prevades prisons).\n\nYou are not picked on because people really think you are bi or gay -- though you happen to be, most of those who call you a faggot would be extremely surprised to discover you are actually homosexual.  You are picked on because you are thought of as weak.\n\nPity those who do this.  The fact that so many males of our species have not evolved past that point is truly pathetic.  Be yourself, and don't worry about hatred of fools.  If you need to talk to someone, email me at believeinyou24@yahoo.com . \n\nRegards,\n\nReynolds Jones\nSchenectady, NY\nhttp://www.rebuff.org
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stop fighting who you are if you dont except you who will this is really rediculus that you people still are made to feel this way its a travisty  i am a straight female married kid the whole works yea 4 me right well my best friends not so lucky she is a lez. i love as my sister she has been this way since a child small child she never said but we all knew she was ashamed datted guys had sex with them when she told me finely i stold her i knew  yes i know most are not as receptive but if you dont stand up and stop being afraid to be who you are youll never be able to learn about your self hiding the fact that your a homo. also means that unwittingly you cover up other great things about your self most /some come around eventully and for those who dont you dont need  them you should only surround yourself with friends and family who love and care about you and can except you for you and nothing less weather there new or old friends and family stand up for petes sake be proud of who you are after all you are going to be with you for a long time
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I think you're secretly attracted to him and are using this question as a way of finding out if it's ok to be gay. If you want to be gay, be gay, just don't brag about it ok? fudge packer.........
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Why do YOU care specifically?  Although I'm not gay, I really don't care who is.  I have better things to think about, like world peace, pollution and hungry people in the streets.
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People just need to be more tolerant. If being gay is against YOUR religion, don't be gay. But leave everyone else alone. Besides, I have never met a hostile gay person, they don't bother anyone else.
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look the best thing for you to do is to ignore him your wasting your time being stressed over someone who is acting like he is. I don't care if you are straight or gay this man just sounds like he is no good. if he is getting Violent then its only going to get worse
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Are you trying to get back at me cause i said you were nasty? lol....I know you are....too bad you're gay..wait til you see my real pic...
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Well I am sorry it makes you sick.  Not everything or every one is the way we all would like.  Some what disappointing I know.  As for WHY would someone like to be gay? I will tell you something.  I am happy with my lifestyle now. I am happy with the woman I am with.  But there was a period where I wasn't so sure.  Why you wonder.  Because my mother disowned me because of it.  My father bought books to see if they had the answers, maybe he did something wrong.  Or my personal favorite what my high school finding out and my teacher telling me I shouldn't eat with the other kids because it bothers them. \nDoes this sound like something we CHOSE?  Does this sound like something we ASKED for?  \nWe are stronger for the things we go through, doesnt mean we ask for the turmoil along the way.
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I find it strange that he has to defend himself so much. Personally, I've known a lot of gay people. Some were open about and some were not. The ones that were not usally had their reasons for not wanting people to know. If he is gay, (and it soinds to me like he is) He has his reason for not being honest about. And truethfully, It's really nobodys buisness if he is, except his.I hope I helped some with your question. You helped me A LOT with the one I had. Thanks again.
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Well you shouldn't feel uncomfortable, (but most guys are homophobic) Just tell them nicely that you are not interested or that you have a girlfriend. They will get the point, no need to bash on them. Respect others that are different from you.
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ill admit curious but not gay. right now im gonna stick by kkkjewhaters side. but when i turn gay (if i ever do) ill let you all know. im not the "hide in the damn closet forever" type.