I crave more than one man, but I am in love with someone, it is not just the sex though it kissing, talking and overall sharing intimacy..., is it so wrong to want this?
136979
Yes, I think every woman has a desire for that, but it wont be found in men...ever.
266227
Yes it's sinful, it's called lusting, and yes it's completely human. And because we're human, we're going to sin. I would suggest praying for this guy the next time you start to fantasize. Instead of thinking of him in lusty situations, lift him up in love. And of course you're still going to have desires. But you know what? Jesus did too. And he made it through unscathed. So my advice - just focus on Jesus. And pray for your future spouse. Pray for God to take the desires away. Talk to him about it - because he knows - he's been there. :)
130184
No it is not wrong to feel that way.  Sometimes it is better to do the whole friends with benefits type of thing.  One of my ex's and I did the friends with benefits bit and when we moved on to other relationships we were able to keep the friendship.  It is nice having a guy to talk to about anything, that you know will understand b/c he is your best friend.  I think it is more important to have a best friend than a boyfriend.  It sounds like this guy is your best friend and sometimes when you move from friends to lovers you lose the friend.  So doing the friend thing would be safer but if your feelings are really strong then go for it and if it does not work out hopefully you can still be friends.
585462
Yes, we all can be in love with many aspects of a person and not lust for them...it is an unsatisfying affair, at best. Your "friend" is looking for someone to take care of him, not a whole lot more. Relationships are built on less, I suppose. Not for me, not my diea of an affair...to each his own.
32609
It is normal to be curious about how it would be with someone else.  But if you love him you know that it would never be as good.  Sex is more than technique...its truly a spiritual thing.
676306
just because your enjoying another erogenous zone does not a gay make.  we as humans have such an amazing desire for feel good endorphine rushes.  what ever that may be does not always dictate straight or gay.  enjoy your body and your lover's.  and as the old school song says, if you can't be with the one you love, love the one your with.  we have different degrees for murder but not for love.  well except luv or heart loves.  by the way i met a straight guy when i was 18 who was a construction manly man and he was curious what a woman feels when he busts guts so he put a broom stick not the whole thing mind you up his "l'onion".  explore kids but don;t damage or abuse.
41857
Personally I could do it if I HAD to. Of course most of us prefer sex over not having it but i think that if we were already in a relationship and i loved this person then we could find other ways to be intimate with eachother! Its kind of cute in a way!
561226
Exactly I am in the same situation, I feel as long as we restrict our relation to platonic, then there is no problem...Its like having some one more than a friend, Its a special relation...THERE IS NO WRONG IN IT... Go ahead....
390275
well i don't like 3sums i think that its wrong cuz you should have 1 lover and that's all. but hey that's my opinion, uhmm so yeah but if i was in your situation i would do what you were going to do trust them first then talk to them about it. well yeah Peace Out
28408
Sorry.  I think you might be using the word Love here just a little too loosely.  Is the only difference between these guys is you are having sex with one and not the other?  Or that you have a sexual attraction toward one and not the other?\nYou would not be asking this question if you have had many very close relationships with members of the opposite sex.  If that was the case, then you would have already dealt with a situation like this before.\nIt should make no difference to either of these guys how much time you spend with the other, Unless you have told one or both that they have an exclusive relationship with you.  It is not wrong for you to spend most of your time with a male whom you have a close friendship, but are not dating or do not have any romantic attachment.
227401
Sounds like rebound sex to me honey!  So my answer is LUST!  And there is nothing wrong with that!  Just go with the flow,,,maybe it will turn into more,,,maybe it won't!
162034
You need to evaluate how you are choosing men to sleep with and why you dont feel good about yourself. You need to be in love with yourself in order to love others completely.
283592
Honey, I am 28 yrs. and have been with my fiance for a total of 10 years now. In the beginning, we did have more sex than we do now. How long have you two been together? I totally disagree that it means you are not in love with him. I have more love for my man every year that passes by, even though now we aren't intimate like before. Sure, we love to be with eachother, it's just not the most important thing on our list to do. We have grown to be totally comfortable with that and it doesn't mean there is something wrong...that's my opinion anyways. You should try new and exciting things, even if it is just a laugh with eachother.
477801
I personaly dont like the fact that my man would be doing ANYTHING with another person but me. Its just not right why be married if its to more than one person. \nI just think that it is wrong. There should only be one person you love at a time that is what makes love such a strong thing. It can keep people together for years. \n\nBut we have people who want to tarnish that with their polygamist ways....i think that if you dont want to commit you shouldnt be in a relationship at all. You should just be single...whats the matter with that. You cant have your cake and eat it too.
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I don't think it's ok. Sex is a wonderful thing when you love your partner. And once you love someone you wouldn't want to share him/her with anyone. \n\nbut if uo just want to have physical pleasure maybe trisome is a good way to satisfy you.
41890
Are you truly attracted to him or do you just feel the need to have a man? I find it kind of odd that you do not wish to even physically kiss him (a sign of physical attraction) yet you feel the need to make love to him when he is not around. Maybe you need to look deeper and find what you truly seek.
591524
Temptation is normal, but don't let it get out of hand.  It's okay to have a little crush on this "other guy" for now, but just weigh what you and your boyfriend have and what you and this "other guy" have.  It sounds like you and your boyfriend are strong, moving past a problem like cheating, but obviously, you like your boyfriend MORE than this other guy.  That's why you're with him...YOu LOVE him, right?  If it is as you say, then you definitely don't want to give that up.  You tried the other guy 4 months into your relationship with your boyfriend, and you didn't decide to run off with him, but you stayed with your boyfriend instead, meaning that you want your relationship to work out with him, and he seems like he is prepared to stick it out with you as well.  If you truly love him, then you won't leave him for this other guy, even if it may seem more exciting or if you still have left over feelings for him.  The goal is to leave feelings from the past, in the past.  Since you have a commitment with your boyfriend now and you love him more than anything, the other guy is merely a temptation.  Like I said in the beginning, temptation is normal, but don't let it get out of hand.  We're all human...we all have hormones, adrenaline, sexual feelings... ;) ...Even happily married couples have temptations, but it doesn't mean they drop whoever they're with and move in with the other person.  Theres that self control and rationally weighing what you could lose if you go either way.  Now ask yourself, is the other guy worth losing your boyfriend over?  As time goes on, and you realize how much you have and don't want to lose, the temptation will subside.  If however, you realize you don't have much after all (and you don't actually love your boyfriend), then you should look further.  Don't make a decision until you are absolutely sure, because you may not be able to turn back.