I was with my ex for a year and some weeks and she comes out of nowhere and breaks up with me for my best friend which I knew about but they didn't admit it until like 2 months after we broke up. I miss her so much to this day and I know that she still loves me but she is also in love with my best friend. I love her with all of my heart and we had our marriage and everything planned out. I just don't know what to do cause I want her back so badly.
131429
Sorry to say it, but she's gone and you need to let her go.  No girl would ever get with a guy's best friend if she has ANY intention of ever getting back together with that guy.  Plus, why would you want her back after she did that to you?  You'd never be able to put it out of you head.
411921
I never got that whole if I date him no one can. if you guys are over, and you agreed to see other people then get over it, your not a very good friend if you wont let her have a chance at happiness. I don't see anything wrong with it if she was a good friend, but if she just stared at you and asked you why you were mad, that obviously tells you she's kind of a jerk, she obviously doesn't care about you or your feelings, considering you just told her you were still in love with him, if I started dating my friends ex I would have at least shown that I was sorry for causing any pain, but some thins cant be helped, such as holding back feeling for a guy, dang,...  then I'm sorry but if I were you I would have brought her down. keep in mind though that if you guys are supposed to be together you will and if he wanted to see other people then maybe you deserve better, unless it was your Idea in with case, WHAT ARE YOU BITCHING ABOUT. its not fun but remind yourself of 2 things first of all that she deserves the chance at him, and second of all that you may still have a chance of getting back together with him. I got back together with mine.  Good Enough?
328147
Each of you have your own expectations and definitions as to what Friendship is and it sounds like your expectations are different.  You should, as her friend, at least voice your feelings to her and if she is this good a friend should understand your feelings and your hurt.  If she still is cold to you then one of two things.  Something in your relationship, that you might not be thinking about, is standing in the way of her trusting you to include you and you should find out what that is.  Otherwise she is not that great friend that you thought she was but she was more superficial or her feelings have changed.  Remember that people get married every day to their best friend or that person that they most love yet within a year or two they divorce the person that they hate the most.  People's feelings at times change and often times for reasons you might never know or understand.  Give her a chance and talk to her about it at least it will let you clear your mind about the matter.
535022
It depends, do you love the ex? If you are unsure then take things slow. Maybe you and the ex could date, hang out etc and get to know each other again. Explore all the reasons you left to begin with, have any of those reasons (issues) been resolved? If not, nothing has changed and you will leave again when the "new, fun" is over.\nMake sure you don't go back just for comfort.
117399
No you shouldnt.  Thats just being ugly to her.  If you want her back you'll never get her like that because she will feel like you dont love her anymore and you are over her.  And besides you will just be using the other girl to make your ex jealous! Thats just horrible how ever you put it.  So dont do it.
243187
Sad to say, if she doesn't want to go back to you, there is nothing you can do - it just isn't meant to be.\n\nTry to remember the happy times you had together, and when you are ready, go find someone who will want to be with you.\n\nshe is offering friendship, so if it won't hurt your feelings too much, why not try to be her friend.  There are no guarantees, but maybe in the future, if you remain friends, and if you still want to be with her, it might happen - but see how things go.\n\nGood Luck!
545667
you are simply attached to ur ex..... hopefully, after some time, you will forget about her.  since it just happened its still fresh in your mind.  relax yourself and let time pass.  Open your mind to new opportunities and see wat happens.
244259
As long as your ex didn't cheat on you while you were together. Then the decision on that one. Merely, depends on whether you want him back.  If you do take him back. You just have to realize that a little baby comes along for the ride.  Now with getting set up with a friend of a friend. Well, if he is not talking to you anymore. Just let it be. You deserve more than that.  Just make sure to tell your friend. (Just so he can realize what kind of friend he has)
139770
I know how it feel to be broke up but want your ex back, it hurts badly, just see it like this, if it's meant for you to be together, he will come back on his on, if it's not, he won't...even if he does, if it's not meant to last, he will leave again, but if it is, eventually he will be there with you forever.....although nothing last forever, he will be with you until one of you die, so just hold on and see what happens, but remember, although you love him, if he doesn't come back, there are plenty others out ther that will be there, I had to make myself realize that, I thought that no-one else out there can make me feel like he did...A LIE!!! when there's something good there's always something better!!!! good luck!!
83397
I was in love with my best friend and I told him. He didn't feel the same way as I did but that didn't hurt our relationship either, it actually brung us closer and our bond grew because of it. It's a huge risk to tell her but if you really feel strong enough, I say go for it. Who knows, your best friend could always become the best girlfriend you ever had and if nothing else at least she will understand how much you care about her.
586795
the first question you need to ask yourself is if you are ready to start getting over her. it's no use wanting to get over her if you aren't willing to...thinking that there is still hope for the two of you.\nyou never 'get over' someone you love in your terms. you just slowly forget them and slowly, the hurt goes away. there is no exact remedy to these problems. the only reasonable remedy is time and lots of it.\nas for your best friend, maybe she's just as confused as you...not wanting to ruin a friendship that took longer to build then a relationship between you. you need to tink which is better for the both of you, staying friends, being together, or forget each other totally.
595489
You were with your ex for so long that now you feel like no one else can compare. You are so young, now is the time for you to find yourself. To find out what you really want out of life, and a guy. No way you can no that if you have no experiences to base your decision on. I say you move on and focus on you for a while. If its meant to be with you and your ex... you'll get back together again.
669774
OK I  just went through a situation where my boyfriend left me because his ex ccame back into his life..I feel so miserable without him and i feel sick to my stomach...You need to be careful about what youdo..It could really hurt your boyfriends feelings..There must of been a reason why you broke up with your ex..so why are you wanting to go back out with him? AND if your not sure you dont love your boyfriend then dont lead him on..you just reallly need to think
321459
I'm sorry that happen and I can tell u really feel this young lady. And I guess the upside is your still friends. But the reason u feel this way is because ur feelings were true and when u have deep feelings for someone it's hard to let go, she may only love u as a friend because of it was more you'd still be her boyfriend. But if u look at it from another point like the fact that she has a boyfriend and she's still telling you that she loves u, waht does that say about her? I'm sure her boyfriend doesn't know his girlfriend is telling her ec she still loves him.\n\nI have been dump( and I know it's not about me) but I know that it hurts, but I also know that it's no good to hurt too long over someone who dumps or end the relationship and they can move on so easily while the other mate is still hurting. She moved on to the next guy( it may not last) so it's time u move on too. U can continute to be a her friend but don't expect her to come back( even  if she does) be strong and just stay friends with her, because she hurt u once she could repeat it then you'll really feel bad. Move on to a girl who will love and care enough for u not to leave you  or hurt you, once u get out there and find the next girl who's waiting to meet u she will keep u so happy  you'll forget about your ex.. So get out there and meet someone else and get rid of anything that reminds u of her so u won't  stay idle on her.\n\nGood Luck
34945
You don't.  She has made a choice that you need to respect.  The best thing you can do is move on and concentrate on you.  By making your life the best it can possibly be without her there is a slim chance she might realize what she lost.  The key is that you deserve to be happy and you can't be if all you do is focus on getting her back.  She doesn't want some guy who begs to get her back, she wants a guy who has his act together.
549164
You can't make someone love you. It is hard when you feel so strongly for someone and they do not feel the same way back. Trust me, IN TIME it will come full circle. Be a friend to her. You can tell her how you feel, just know that if you do, she might avoid you because she does not know how to deal with your feelings...ESPECIALLY if she is still hurting from a recent split up. If it is meant to be, it will work out. If not things will evolve and your outlook will change. Patience and time have a way of working things out.
201969
i have been dating one of my bestfriends ex-boyfriend, and weve been together for 3 years, we also plan on getting married. You cant help the person you fall in love with, and who are you to stop something that could be one of the best things that could happen for your best freind? if she really is your best friend then treat her as such dont let something like that bring your friendship down. let them try and see if it wroks out for them, if it does just be glad she found something a lot of people dont get the chance to, and if it doesnt work dont give an i told you so, compfort her as you would if you didnt know the guy. Keep smiling and find you someone who you can have fun with a be real with.