I feel like lately I haven't given him the attention he deserves. Life has been crazy and stressful for me these past few months. Between work and major money issues, our relationship has kinda been put on the back burner.We are together every weekend, but I feel like I haven't been the best girlfriend latley.I'm usually a very affectionate person,I guess I've just had a lot on my mind. I just realized how much crap he puts up with from me:0) I want some suggestions on how I can do something really nice for him.Not looking for  anything sexual really...just want him to know how much I love and apprecaite him. He's put up with a lot these past couple of months and deserves to be treated like a king...any thoughts???
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What does he like to do?  If he likes baseball, surprise him with tickets to a game.  Does he like beer?  Find the closet brewery (or micro-brewery) and see if they have a brewery tour you can take together.  Find something that is one of his passions and set something up that the two of you can do together that is all about HIM.  If you are still having money issues, go rent some guy movies and watch them with him over the weekend.  Make it his day.  As long as you show that you put thought, effort, and it fits his personality - you'll have a happy guy.  \nTop it off the day with a nice steak dinner and when you pour yourselves a glass of wine, give a toast to him to say "I arranged this day to show you how much you mean to me and to thank you for putting up with my crap over the past few months.  I just want you to know that I apprecaite all that you do for me, thank you for being there for me and I love you very, very much".
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Okay Bella, I've noticed that you have posted several different questions about this guy.  It's going to be difficult, but you need to move on!  This guy obviously doesn't realize what a great woman you are, and probably doesn't love himself to want that in his life.  And you need to realize that you deserve more.  I know your heart is very attached to him right now and it's hard to imagine him not being in your life.  One day you will ask yourself, "Was I stressing over that loser?  What was wrong with me?"\n\nThe right one for you will come along eventually, but this guy is not it.  He'll voice those same promises, but when he does, there will be no question in your heart that he's sincere.
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Well, can only answer for myself, But I would enjoy something or even just a thoughtful gesture from your heart over something thats store baught anyday.  Use your imagination.  Special dinner of his favorite food that YOU have prepared for him, a special evening to just yourselves, make it romantic, make him feel that he is the one and only man that has ever existed in your life.  Remember it is all about him that day.  Start from the time you wake up in the morning till the time you two finally fall asleep that night.  And I'm sure he will be doing something special for you, so be patient and work together so that both of you feel that the plans you have put together have went smoothly and fully.  Good luck and congratulations.
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So do i :-( you are lucky to have ur boyfriend by your side sometime. I feel neglected all the time by my bf. It seems he does not care anymore
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Are you secure with yourself as a person?  Are you honest to yourself (and him) about your feelings for him?  I am not judging you in anyway at all... I can just understand where you are coming from.  If you really love this man, don't try to change him or try to get him to do things that he would not normally do (emotionally).  To love someone unconditionally for who they are is the greatest thing of all and with that comes compromise and not trying to change who that person is on the inside.  I wish you luck with your relationship!!!!
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sit urself down and really give the matter some heart felt thought....... take the time to get it together...... YOU have a choice to make, so I think you better get busy...... it is NOT fair to your guy to be with him if you can not give him all that he deserves........ God bless
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I kind of think that if you have to ask yourself, "Am I being used?" Odds are, you ARE being used.  If someone does not make you feel your full worth, and if the energy he is putting into your relationship does not match your effort, then you should seriously re-evaluate the situation, because honey, you deserve one hundred per cent and no less. We all do.
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call him and tell him how much you love him. or send him get well ballons. if i were you i would send him ballons, or flowers(something big) to get his attention and when he gets them he'll keep thinking of you...making him want you to be there more. so when you do get there it will be a relief for both of you. do you understand? good luck, hope he gets to feeling better!
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He may feel rejected but if you have talked about how you feel them i'm sure he won't.  Sometimes he may get frustrated with you...trust me I was in the same situation.  And each time he gets upset just remember that he is in a different situation.  Men tend to think of sex as a was of expressing their love.  One thing I did was to find other ways to express my love for him. I wrote tons of love notes and made cookies with his name on them.  This made my ex-boyfriend feel like I truly loved him.  You just need to have good communication and I am sure he will not be upset in any way. Good luck and if you need any advice just send me an email
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You say in your profile that you are sexy....and intelligent.\nSo show some intelligence. He is not your soul mate - you are his sold -mate... bought and sold good and proper. \n\nWhat is this 'love'? A reaction to the way he is mis-treating you? Does it align with how you were treated in the past? \n\nIf this were true 'soul-love' there would be no question. He is clearly lacking in integrity... the girlfriend with kids are not being properly looked after, and neither are you. If he leaves them for you - how could you trust him. \n\nThere are plenty of other men around who would be so much better for you. Don't get so lost on the physical attraction, coz that's all this seems to be. Not love... love is reciprocated. This doesn't appear to be. \n\nOkay, so we're only getting a short bit of one side of this, but read all of the comments here, girl... we've all seen enough - on both sides of the gender divide - to know when you are being done over.\nAnd you are. \nLike a kipper.
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1-3 times per week is pretty good!  Talk to him and try to find out how he feels.  I think it sounds like you two are getting along famously.  You could even try spending some time away from him and see what he does.
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hahahaha!! we got exactly the same problem... well, i guess he really loves you but just can't express it the right way. Talk it to him.. tell him what you feel. I guess i have no doubt for his love but maybe he just don't know how to take care of you. so talk it to him so that he will know what you feel. I did that and my fiance is making progress.. i can see that he is doing his best to show his love to me and to attend also to my needs.. just give him a time don't pressure him..
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Sex is very important in mine and my husbands relationship . I will be honest and say for two weeks we have not had sex or talked much about anything and we always had talked before . After my husband went to  work today I emailed him and asked him what was going on . He says he's been tired and under a lot of stress at work and has a lot of stress because his brother lost his kids . I have been so sad the past week just because I didn't feel loved or wanted . After he talked to me about what was going on I felt a lot better but sex helps people feel more loved and wanted . To me sex and talking is a big part of a relationship .\n\nAngel
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First issue its nice that you want to make him happy, but don't completely get rid of who you are to completly cater to him.  Ask yourself this question... While your sitting up here asking you could do to be perfect for him, is he asking what he could do to be perfect for you?  You cant make someone else the complete focuse of your life, ive seen it happen so many time where girls definition of herself is her relationship and the shits not healthy.  Make sure you love yourelf before changing yourself for someone else cuz if he loves you for you thats all you need to worry about.
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He's feeling threatened and vulnerable. If my girlfriend told me that, I'd start wondering how long until the interest in women grows stronger than her interest in me and she leaves me. And this probably made him feel inadequate, like he wasn't good enough to satisfy you himself. It may not sound logical, but our emotions often aren't. The fact that he got upset is likely a sign that he cares deeply for you. If you care about him, make him feel manly and make it clear to him that you need his manliness (unless you don't, in which case there is likely a break-up in your future).
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You are going to have to bring it up with him if he won't. These things can be really difficult even for the closest and most articulate of people. Yours / and his possibly hearts are at stake here AND yours / his most significant relationship. He has been the only one that has endured over the past 7 years isn't he? Although I must add you didn't really give the others a chance by continuing to see and sleep with your friend, did you? You clearly actually love him on a lot of levels, which is wonderful but pretending that you are happy with the set up is just wrong and will ultimately make you really unhappy. If you are sure of your feelings for him then you must either bring it up with him or if there is some doubt in your mind that he feels the same way about you, you are just allowing yourself to be used. I'm sorry but it's true. I don't think any man would let the love of his life slip through his fingers, which may suggest he likes your relationship the way it is because there are no pressures/commitments etc... which men usually associate with a girlfriend/partner/wife unfortunately. Why do they think this? I don't know. Anyway, I would bring it up with him, it's clearly at the forefront of your mind and doing your head in. Maybe start by saying simply "We have spent so much amazing time together over the years and now more than ever, I never want it to change but I just feel I need to let you know how much I think of you. I love the time we spend together and you on so many levels". See what he says and take it from there. There is absolutely nothing wrong with being honest, in fact I would highly recommend it. Too much time is wasted in this life and we only get one shot at it (that we know of!). All the very best to you.
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I didn't even finish reading your note, but from experience I would recommend ditching him... you deserve someone who can make up his mind and can love you 100%!! I had a fellow like that and I think he kept me around as security, so he wasn't alone and felt loved... don't be his love of last resort! Be strong and move on...