me dating an older guy he treats me so good and i really love him i want him to meet my mom but i'm afraid that it would be the end of over romance what should i do???
124662
Explain to your mother that your boyfriend is older, be honest, at least this way she is prepared, set up the meeting on neutral ground,introductions can be tricky , also you might want to give your man a heads up as in tell him to dress nicely, and to put on his best manners as well.Good Luck
234578
First of all, you don't have to spend the rest of your life with him, unless you are married to him. Second of all, if Mom liked/loved him enough to remarry, than maybe you should see what he's all about. Maybe Mom has some decent taste, you're just too upset over the divorce to see that. I bet you'll see something in him over time, give the guy a chance.
641286
How long have you two been talking?  If you both like each other that much and have been talking for awhile you should feel comfortable, not "iffy"  If you're feeling that way, then you shouldn't meet him.  Our intuition can be pretty dead on most of the time.\n\nI think it's good that you are thinking this through.  I know it's tempting to meet him, but it's better to be safe than sorry.  If you're going to go, please don't go alone.  Bring your friends, not just one but all of them, and don't necessarily tell him you are going to.  And if you're going to Florida with your parents, offer for him to have dinner with y'all and if he's still willing to meet you I think that's a good thing, but if he trys to get you alone... big red flag!
637108
Perhaps you could ask her indirectly. Carefully crafted words are the key here to achieving your desired goal.....having a boyfriend. Okay, step 1) find a time when you and your mother are relaxing, no phones, dinner is finished, house is clean. 2) Begin the conversation like this: "You know Mom, I am now ___ years old, and I was wondering if you would allow me to go to the movies with _____________. I know you have not had an opportunity to meet ________, but I can invite him by the house on _________. He is a really nice guy. Now, if you do not have a boyfriend, and no prospects, then I would suggest that you address your mother in this manner: Mom, I have really matured over the last year and I would like to respectfully request permission from you to go on a date occassionally with a carefully selected boy that I will bring home first for you to meet.  Don't be shy about it. Be assertive, without being pushy. Tell her what your heart desires, and do it in a kind, courteous, confident and mature manner. The way you approach this request to have a boyfriend is important. You have to let your mother know that you are ready for this big step in your young teenage life. \nNow, be honest in your evaluation of yourself here okay? Think! Really think here! And answer my question truthfully! Question: Have you been on your best behavior over the last year? Have you done everything that has been asked of you by your mother? Have you gotten into any serious trouble lately? Did you make good grades and behave appropriately in school? These questions are important, because if you have been cutting up and acting like a trifling little hoochie mama, it is highly likely that your mother will say no. But if you have been a perfect angel, and behaved appropriately over the last year, then I dont see any reason that your mother will not agree to your terms. Also, let her know that any boy you meet, you will bring them home to meet her, and your curfew is 9p.m. weeknights and 10:30 on weekends. Or, if your curfew is later than this, use your current curfew. Well, I hope this helps. Best wishes to you. And have fun.
218932
If the two of you are truly in love than it should be no problem for the two of you to continue as you are for one more year until you are of a legal age to do as you please. Your mom is just trying to protect you. It's her job. Don't fight it. Spend this year enjoying each other's company and growing closer together as a couple. Then, when you're 18, ask for your mother's blessing. I understand the urge to rush out into this wonderful new life (speaking from experience) but as a couple you should honor your mother wishes and just wait it out. One year out of a lifetime of happiness will be a drop in the bucket.
525482
Play it down, some mothers push their daughters into relationships and maybe your mom thought because he was at your place for Thanksgiving that the relationship is more than what you both want it to be.  Next time you see him just tell him your mom does that to you all the time to pressure you into forming a long term relationship.  Bye the way I find it a bit odd that your guy would take it so seriously, so he must be leary of committment to a certain extent.  Play the whole situation down and for your own sake ease off on the guy for a while if he really likes you he'll come around.  I feel badly for you though, it must have been embarassing. One other thing I'd have a chat with your mom and ask her to please never to put you in that position again.  Just tell her that you'll let her know when she's allowed to tell someone your dating that she loves him, sounds as if she was inviting him to be the "SON IN LAW" and he probably freaked.  Good luck
124619
Well, if you Both are serious about each other...then you Both need to set down with your mom and just talk to each other and let your mom get to know this guy and see what see thinks...if he is sincere...it will show...if he isn't...it will show also...just be careful....
65690
Start by not making an assumption about your boyfriends mom.  She may just simply not be the type to get close to anyone that isn't yet family.  She is also going to be naturally worried that you might eventually hurt her little boy.  Just relax and be yourself, over time you will prove to her that you are worthy of her boys heart.  In the mean time try to talk to her and find out her interests.  If you show an interest in her as a person and not just his mom it will help.  Sometimes it just takes a comment about how you hope that some day you can get to know her better to get her to open up.
214479
hello!dont u worry age difference is not a problem he still loves you i think its good.after all you can tell your mom her opinion is always best and i think she understood  you s well s me.dont be upset if you have any problem share with me at:alina_alot2000@yahoo.com this is my id
172546
"To thine ownself be true" i think that you are young and need to do what you think you need to do. If older men are attractive to you, then by all means go out on a date with one, or have a sexual relationship with a few of them. You don't want to stay with your b/f if the only reason is because you two have a long history, or you are afraid to hurt his feelings.  You have to do what is right for you.  And you are still so YOUNG! you have plenty of time to find that special someone. Go out and have fun so when you do end up with the person you are suppose to be with for the rest of your life you are not looking back and having second thoughts about what you should have done. Life is the ultimate experience, live it up, because you only live once.
202981
I've been in your same situation when i was younger. with my parents i told them some of the nice things that this guy did, that let them know that he was nice. Ask this guy to meet them. Not really at the house at first, but maybe at a park or a school activity. Then he won't be so nervous. Tell your mom first. Mom's are always easier. Dads will understand eventually. Don't say date or anything yet, say hanging out or something like that, then after a while say casually in a conversation with your parents how your friends think that you and _your guys name__ are such a cute couple. or something like that. that will be easier. if they are really strict just say that this guy is your special guy. hope i helped!!!
663061
I don't think you should let him come over (especially if your mom knows nothing about him nor knows him).  As a teenager sex is on his mind. If he asked you if he could come over while your mom isn't there sex is definitely one of the top things on his mind. If he wanted to spend time with you he could easily do that while your mom is there or you two could go for a walk, or even out to eat. Time does not have to be spent alone in a house, and there are other ways to get and receive privacy beside sitting in the house together without anyone else there. You said you don't think he would "try anything" but you don't know for sure and you don't want to give him the opportunity to just in case he would. But if you were serious about this guy or just had feelings for him you should let your mom know about him if she doesn't already. But listen to your conscience and if you have doubts, if your hesitant, or uneasy about the situation, DON"T let him come over. If he gets mad if or when you say know that may give you an ideal more so if sex was what he was about. Don't rush anything or force yourself into doing anything you don't want to do. 4real k?
635145
Okay....this mom is going to try to answer you.  I don't know anything about your family so it it hard to answer.  My suggestion would be...let your parents get to know him, not as your boyfriend, but just as a friend.  Then if you really start dating they will already know him.  Don't make a big deal about race, maybe they won't.\nIt is easy for people to say don't worry about your parents.  I don't agree.  First of all....you wouldn't be asking this question, if what your parent thought didn't matter.\nFamily is forever.... guys can come and go.  \nYou answered a question I had, In your answer to me, you saw my love for my son and you told me to let God handle it. I can tell you are a very insightful person and I would bet you have a pretty good head on your shoulders.  Let them meet him first, then later.....Talk to your parents, give them a chance...they might just surprise you.  If he is good to you and your family....they will see that over anything else.\nGood luck, I wish you the best!
329102
Maybe you mom's trust issues are not with you but with your boyfriend. Also, at 16 you are starting to find out who you really are.  If you start to get involved with someone now, that could harm your ability to figure out who you are and what you believe in. If you have not done this yet, you may want to ask your mom why she does not want you to date at this time and when she thinks it would be a good time for you to start dating.  It is not good to ask these questions in the middle of an argument, but ask your mom if you could talk to her when you are both calm.  Your mom may have a lot of valuable insight for you, or she may have some irrational fears. You will never find out unless you two can sit down and communicate. Good luck.
462275
If you don't have any older sibilings then you should just ask your mom what she thinks about you dating.  Don't try to butter her up  first that will just make her think you want something.  Come her to like an adult, "mom i really like this boy and I was wondering if maybe you could meet him and see what you think" Tell your mom that he likes you but you don't know how you feel yet about him.  \n\nTo mention the date tell her thats a group of friends going to the movies or the mall and he wants to go with you as a group.. Dont mention One on One your going to have to sell the group especially  if she isn't in to you dating yet..\n\nHope that helps...
148840
Well, it you are at an appropriate age (15 and up in my opinion), and you are really interested in this guy... not physically please (remember...true love waits)... I encourage courtship... there's a book called "I Kissed Dating Goodbye" by Joshua Harris, and it's wonderful (it's about courting)... that way you and your parents can be involved and there won't be any secrets and the respect can still remain. Believe me if you are open and honest with your parents and help them understand that you want a healthy friendship with this young man, there shouldn't be a problem.  Best of luck...es
372413
I think that you should ask your mother if you can go on a chaporoned date. Have her come along and meet the guy. She might change her mind on your being able to date.