am i doing something wrong? i have tried EVERYTHING, but every time, i end up having to fake pleasure...whats wrong with me?
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The common denominator is you.  Maybe your hey nanny nanny is too wide, maybe the guys are too small.  I suggest trying a magic wand and seeing if you can reach the Big 'O' that way.
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Want to be more confident when you, er, take matters into your own hands? These "manual sex" techniques (my editor won't let me say hand job) will make him want to give you a round of applause  - not to mention return the favor.\nPick Your Position\n\nAre you left-handed or right-handed? Which is your "best" side? All too often, women try to deliver the goods in a position that feels uncomfortable or unnatural. You are allowed to move, you know! Simply roll over on top of him or straddle his lap, plant a long, slow, delicious kiss, then climb off to the side that suits you. Don't be scared to deviate from the usual side-by-side position either. Try him standing in front of you while you sit on the edge of a bed or lie on your back while he hovers above you straddling your tummy.\nUse the Slippery Stuff\n\nWomen have (rather handy) built-in lubrication systems, but men don't. So when they masturbate, they use lubrication such as moisturizing lotion. A dry penis is a sensitive one; it likes gentle stroking. Sliding your hand up and down the shaft  - the standard male masturbation technique  - can feel more like a vicious yank than an erotic escapade when done without lube. Saliva is better than nothing, but clever girls come prepared with good-quality personal lubricant. He'll be pleased, not turned off, when he sees the tube, so don't feel remotely embarrassed squeezing some into your palm. But don't use too much; being too generous removes friction entirely.\nGet a Grip\n\nSexperts worldwide dispense the same advice on this one: Women need to be touched softer and slower; men need to be touched harder and faster. Lots of women make the mistake of being scared of his most prized part. Holding it between finger and thumb like it's made of spun glass isn't sexy  - it makes him think you don't really want to touch it. Instead, take a good, firm hold and move into a well-practiced, self-assured technique.\nPractice Until You're a Pro\n\nSimply read up about hand-job techniques, and you're liable to give up before you've even started  - it sounds like reinventing the Rubik's Cube! Try some moves out, however, and you soon realize it's more like connecting the dots. Keen to impress but don't want to look like a twit in front of your new lover? Practice on a prop, such as a curtain rod or a carrot. This is the basic motion you need to master: slide up, circle, slide down the other side. More specifically, grasp your hand firmly around the base of the penis, and slide it upward until it reaches the head. Once you're there, pause  - and rub your palm over the head in small, slow, sexy circles. Next, let your hand drop naturally down the other side of the penis, grasping the shaft until you're back to base camp again, but on the opposite side with your hand facing the opposite way. Do that 10 times, with each motion lasting 10 seconds, then add one quick, firm, up-and-down pump stroke. Repeat that cycle over and over, each time adding an extra up and down. But decrease the number of pumps if he's dangerously close to losing it (and you've got other plans on how to use that erection!).\nEmploy Backup\n\nIf you only use your hands, you risk having to dispense the longest hand job in the entire world due to overstimulation. No matter how deft and clever your handiwork, most men enjoy (often need) extra stimulation to intensify and speed up the process of orgasm. So while one hand is working on his penis, use the other to cradle his testicles or stroke a nipple. Use your tongue on his testicles or nibble his neck, the inside of his thighs and his nipples. Try holding one hand in an L position firmly at the base of his penis, pulling the skin back from the base (in the direction of his pelvis). Not only does it make him look bigger, but it also heightens sensitivity.\nUse Props\n\nIf you and your guy are adventurous types (and even if you're no
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Sounds like it has been stretched out from over use. Slow down. Try less partners. Use pelvic exercises to strengthen the muscles. Most of the time the female orgasm is reached from the exterior stimulation anyway. Focus more on this and less on the actual intercourse.  F1sTing is always an option! Let me know if I can help!
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(if you are female) you may be one of many women who can only reach orgasm through direct clitoral stimulation, if this is the case have you guy get behind you and penitrate from the back while you or he manually stimulates you. trust me he will be happy to oblige.
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I just asked this same question.  The only thing that gets me off is clitoral stimulation, not vaginal.  I have to have something on my clit, and not just anything but a clit vibrator.  What I got on feedback is that you have to be in the mood, you need a supportive partner, you need to be able to explore yourself to learn what you like, try different positions, that through clitoral you might have desensitized all the other areas and can only orgasm on that alone.  That is what I got so I thought I would share that with you...
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well to be honest it could be one of two things, i am not to judge and dont know u 1: ur not well endowed,sorry  but thats my problem and i have had this happend to me b 4 ur not the only one and 2: not enogh foreplay or to much, just got to take ur time talk to them and tell them how good they are, and remember oral does a great job for orgasms for women, also toys which i have never used might help some,
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Orgasms with sex didn't happen for me until I got a little older, more comfortable with my own body, in tune with my own sexuality, and finding what worked for me and going after it, and practice of course.\n\nRead this, good advice:\n\nhttp://www.talksexwithsue.com/femaleorgasm.html\n\nAlso, just my opinion, but stop faking it.  You don't do you or your partner any favors by faking it.
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kisshot85, its your name and yet you fell miserable even having that name,\nstart feeling sexy, what i could get from your question is that you stress alot and its something that happens all the time, right?\nit won't do  you good stressing out,the only remedy that i can help you is that you stop stressing over things that are of no importance.\n\nyou are still young, think of your 40's and your beautiful hands that are been destroyed, if you can do me a favor, stay away from people who are often being a buredn insteadt of joy.\n\nkisses and get well soon
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How often do you try with a toy?  Is it possible that you have decreased your sensitivity?  If so, he should do it manually.  If not, get a better lover.
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You know... sex is an odd thing. You don't learn it anywhere - no matter how many porn tapes you see or karmasutra you read.\nWe assume we will learn by *instinct*.. but instinct is only worried about the reproduction part - not the pleasure. So we are left with absolutely nothing at hand to know how to properly please women. Add the fact that every woman is different. Some will want it here - others over there. Some harder, others softer. Some want you to scratch and pull, others just want you to carress. You get the picture.\nYou know your body more than any man will ever know it. Of course, there are skilled men that know how to discover the sweet spots and what cool things you like having yourself put through. But most men don't.\nSo please. Please. Please. Please tell us! If you see we aren't going at it right for you... then grab our hand or even our genitalia and guide it as you feel pleases you! Both you and your partner will appreciate it.
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Grow up and get some self-confidence . . . that is you problem . . . confidence.  If you act like a sex toy . . . that is all you are going to be.
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there are definately some exorsizes that work try time alone playing and stop when you know its getting there..... try to keep practising this trick untill you can go for about 15 mins then when you are ready with a partner take control so you can take a break whenevef you want to also my best advise is this ... make sure your partner is pleasured before intercourse and then theres no hard feelings good luck with that one sweet heart ps its not very comman to find a guy that can last too long so dont think its just you sweety
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...When I was with my boyfriend I'd play with my clit while we were in action. It took me 4 years to cum with him. Get totally immersed in what your doing. Body, mind, soul, with an environment to match your deepest fantacies. Maybe do a little yoga to get your mind off of every day life. Watch a porn before you go at it. Have a little chocolate or, better yet all three! If you're having sex just to get an orgasm, it won't come. A little trick I've learned... when he's on top of you, move your hips up and in towards him so he's totally inside you. Keep moving your hips wherever feels best, play with your clit while your at it, stare at his body and into his eyes and keep telling yourself how sexy he is and how much you want him. Use a vibrator while your at it. If all else fails, get a book to better educate yourself or even call a sex therapist. Life is too short to have limited O's.
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JUST CLEAN IT WELL...MOST IMPORTANT USE LOTS OF LUBE AND RELAX MAKE SURE THAT'S WHAT YOU WANT TO DO OTHERWISE YOU WONT LIKE IT...YOU HAVE TO BE VERY RELAXED AND STIMULATED FOR IT TO BE COMFORTABLE AND PLEASURABLE
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I have the same problem...my bf is like that...he thinks it's a serious thing, I think it's because he feels like if I do that then he isn't satisfying me himself, so it's kind of letting himself down. That's all that I can come up with.
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There are a lot of incompetent counselors out there.  So you might want to switch.\n\nBut for the orgasm issue, I'm thinking sex toys might help you.  There are a lot of them out there.  But even fingers could do it.  The point is, you need to be by yourself, with no one around posing a subconscious threat, before you will let yourself have an orgasm.\n\nAnd btw, a surprisingly large number of people have been sexually violated.  You are not alone, not by a long shot.  Maybe a support group could help.
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Sweetie, why do you have two unhappy faces, and you think that something is wrong with you?? If that is what you enjoy, then go with it..You might see from one of my questions that I absolutely love to slip my tongue in there!\n\nIt is so exciting to watch a woman swirm with enjoyment when I am doing that to her :) Mainly because it is so BAD :P Bad in a good way!!