I´m a guy, and bi, and there is this other guy, my best friend,he´s bi too, I like him, we had sex more then a  couple time a couple months ago, and I feel i like him, but how I know if he feels the same?? i don´t wanna tell him yet, because i don´t want to ruin the friendship, I wanna be sure
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Just take your time and ask the quesion, no harm in trying.
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Okay, you like him, and you don't just like him........you LOVE him, and deep down inside, you feel REALLY upset that he likes your best friend, even though they go together, you still want him, but I guess only patience is your only option, I'm going through the same thing- except I don't know if my crush likes my best friend, I don't think he does either. But yeah, only time will tell. Hope this helps.
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Well first of all Mike, how sure are you that you are bisexual? And although I used to feel the same as you in that belief being gay is wrong, and not the way to lead life. Although I personally would not want to choose to be this way I don't have a problem being friends with a bi person. You sometimes can't help the urges in you..as to the question why you might feel this way..it can never be answered, and if it can you must look deep inside of you.. Being gay or bi sexual does not make you any less of a person and if you are you cannot change that. Instead of repressing your feelings try opening up with close people around you, start off slow with that process. If you really want to be str8 try counseling or therapy it may help.
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Well, you should be able to tell whether you have feelings for ted just by being his friend.. if you really like Justin that's a way to do it without hurting either one of them. BUT, life is too short to be with someone while wanting to be with someone else.. and no offense, but you sound young and if that's the case, you shouldn't be serious about just one guy.. play the field...most importantly.. find out who you are and what you want before you make any major decisions...do you even know if ted likes you? just have fun, enjoy life while you can, and don't hurt anyone unless its unavoidable- hope this helped
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If you and your best friend likes him then he should automatically be off limits to both of you. You don't want your friendship to be ruined over some guy. There are plenty other guys that you will like.....don't risk your friendship
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Ok, I think there are two possible answers to your question. He might be worried that a relationship with you, his best friend, may not work out and would destroy your friendship. Especially if he doesn't have any other friends. He probably loves you more than you could imagine.\nThe other option is that he's gay. I know, just hear me out. He may not have come to terms with it and has no idea how to tell you. Think about it. You guys are best friends, you're attracted to him and asked him to be your bf. He obviously llikes you a lot and is attracted to you but not sexually attracted to you. \nEither way, I think you should tell him that you really like him as a friend and wish there could be something more between the two of you. Remind him that there is nothing that could ever change the fact that the two of you are the best of friends.
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i would think that if you have known each other for that long and you have had a platonic relationahip he may not show anything at all to indicate to you how he felt. he may just hide it for fear of ruining the friendship. sometimes guys are really passive
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I don't think it makes you bi at all. You don't want to do anything sexual with her you just want to be the best friends ever. If you start feeling like you want to do sexual things with her and other girls then maybe you would be considered bi but you don't. You are just a girl who loves her best friend.
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You have to decide for yourself, can you see yourself with this person for the rest of your life and are you sure that you arent jumping into the first thing that seems like a relationship without getting to know the person. sex shouldnt be an issue until you have become best friends with him. take it slowly that way you won't get hurt
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Instinct will tell you.  Gays and bisexuals reciprocate gays.  If you're one, you will welcome such attention.  If not, hopefully you can keep the friendship after this one.  If you're one of those people who are confused about their sexual orientation, you are likely to push him away.  But be kind.  Confusion can turn into fear because most of us are afraid of the unknown.  And fear can turn into disgust.  Whatever you decide, remember, he is your friend.
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yes i think somthin is going on...he think probably both of you guys are attractive..but you should ask both of them if you feel something is going on
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You might feel like you're on a date, but that's just because you're straight.  He doesn't feel that way at all.  I had this one friend and I didn't think that I was leading her on or whatever and she KNEW I was gay, but she said that it was unfair of me to play with her like that and act like I was into her.  I wasn't GIVING her signals or anything though.  If he really wants you, let him come to you, you don't wanna lose a friendship just because you think you could convert him.  Things would just be WEIRD between the two of you.
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I just posted a question similar to yours except im only 15. I have a bf but im attracted to my best friend who is a girl and i know is bi. If you think your more in to guys but also girl than you maybe bi. I would say  you should just experience and then evaluate yourself.
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Well, this seems to be a tricky situation. I have been in a similar, yet not so intimate situation, with another friend. Now let me tell you what I did to solve the situation. This answer may give you an idea as to what your next step should be. \nI didn't feel the same way because I thought it was forced. I love my friend in lots of ways but when it feels forced then it is hard to get past the idea that we are not friends. At that time I felt uncomfortable. He likes me still. But I told him that we could just be friends. Now we are still friends and we're glad for it. Sometimes the timing may not be right or she feels it is forced. At this moment cherish the fact that you guys are friends. When the time feels right she will automatically open up to you. At that time, it will not feel forced and you will not have lost a good friend. Remember people feel uncomfortable and forced in many different ways.\nSee, differences between individuals are evident in any relationship, but it is how one handles those differences within the relationship that matters. Are you willing to lose a good friend over your desire for it to be more than that? Decision is up to you.
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take his feeling in to consideration. if you have no interest in men then just tell him you are my friend and i am not interested in men. we can continue being friends as long as you want. but there will not be any relationship besides friendship.\nBut if u are curious then just tell him that u are curious and not sure what u want at this time and you can try a relationship with him but remember he might not be ur best friend if things go wrong between you two.\nIf you are feeling frisky tell him that u are curious and want to see what it is like and do the deed but tell him that u don't know what u want yet and do not get attached. that might even screw up ur friendship.. well how about go do it with another man and don't let him know and if u like it then go for ur friend..
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If both are your friends whom you can talk freely too tell them how you feel like who you like and get to know that person after saying who you like.Sometimes men can be different from what they are as friends after becoming boyfriends.If you tell who you like among your two friends then get to know the one you like since its a crush after you get to know the one you like you really dont like him as a boyfriend crush doesnt develop into love then be thankful you realised it before it turned into marriage or something serious where you could be seriously hurt right?\nIf your friend is really your friend between the two guys and if you say who you like among two no matter what he will be happy for you he should be and he wont leave you if hes a true real friend who loves you.He might not be that friendly as before but he will be there for you always.So maybe after getting to know them after you tell your feelings maybe you realise who you truly love since being a friend and boyfriend theres a difference.get to know them and then decide but first tell them how you feel so they wont be in the dark about it.best of luck.
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You are a guy, and he is a guy, right?  Makin sure I understand the question.  True friends are the BOMB, but if you are a guy and not gay, then just tell him like it is - you like women, you love him as a friend, but ya just don't go that way ... if he's a true friend, he'll understand and won't hold it against you.  You've been brave and strong enough to be his friend - even though he's gay and you're not ... if I'm getting this right - you've gotta be true to yourself just as he is true to himself.  Just put it out on the table the way it is ... the truth is always the best policy.  You might tell him if you were gay, he would be the first one you'd come to, but you're not.  He'll appreciate your honesty I think, and you will be closer friends for it.  And if I'm wrong and you're a female with a gay best friend - they are good friends, and I've found, real, honest, down-to-earth people, so....same advice.