- Personally, I'm straight and couldn't choose to be attracted to another man\n- Every gay person I know says it was not a choice\n- There are gay dogs, cats, birds, etc.  Did they choose?
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This is one more of the lies the church tells to brainwash Christians. I've heard many priests telling that lie. So, Christians who take their word as the word of God, will not bother to think that this is at least mistaken (if not a straightforward lie).\n\nThe only way to make them see the lie is by asking them "Could you choose to envolve in a homosexual relation?" The answer is always "No." So you ask, "If you cannot choose, why do you think they chose?"\n\n-------------------\n\nBecause of a private message I received, I would like to add I am generalising and retelling my experience in Argentina. I am aware that there are people who don't conform to this description, and are better Christians than those I've had to come across.
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the line between homosexuality and heterosexuality is not a point a to b thing. its a continuum, and yes, id oes  change over time.\nSome people really are not attracted to the same sex, even with all the booze in the world. But I would say that as a species we are curious, so it is in our nature to experiment.\nI live in a same sex union and i was previously married to a man, before i came to terms with my orientation. I was in denial. Like many are who will likely blast you for asking this question ;)
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Kinsey's studies showed that there are very few people who are 100% straight or 100% gay. I've been out of the closet since I was 18 (I'm 37 now). I've never been with a man, but I do occassionally have fantasies about them...and I do find them attractive. However I still identify myself as a lesbian...though I occassionally will question it myself. It's hard when there are social pressures that you have to be one or the other, but (as Kinsey's studies showed) you really don't have to be and perhaps aren't by nature. It's possible that you may be bisexual. And, really, does it matter? There is no rule that says you should or shouldn't be with a man if you're curious.It's ok to be gay, straight, or bi...just  be yourself...and be truly honest with yourself. Don't pressure yourself either way.
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I think gay never asks to be a gay. I think in their nature and unconscious mind and soul they have the tendency to get attracted to same gender. or maybe some decided to be so.. so be it... why not? What's the biggest problem? Nothing fails about it. It is not the end of the world being gay. You could be completely functional as a gay in our society. Who says gay are less than pig? \n\nIt's only about sexual orientations I guess. Not devastatingly a serious problem if u found your brother or father is gay. \nWe are all born with the right of freedom to be free as who we really are. This might sounds so corny cuz we all realize that religions, society, establishment often being there to quite us from what's real and not real in life.\nSo in our society now I presume homosexuality definitely should be accepted unconditionally whatsoever.
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You know I am a strong christian, but I don't shun science and common sense. Being gay is not a choice. It's just not, if you ask almost any gay guy or girl, they would say they would not choose to be gay, because who in their right mind would choose to be made fun of, shunned and hated? No one.
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I've seen several questions like this one lately...They completely blow the theory many gays spout out that homosexuality is not a choice!  According to most gays, you're either born gay or not...no in between.
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To be honest (i'm straight) i'm not anymore interested in the lifestyle of my gay friends than i am of the straight ones!  I mean i'll ask them how they are or what they have done over the weekend but nothing i don't ask any one else!!  I think some straight people either: a)secretly wonder if they are missing out on something; either sexually or with the lifestyle/social scene OR b)-and i know lots of people like this-are pathalogically nosey!  They have to ask you questions about anything and absoloutely EVERYTHING!  Its just the way some people are; they cannot function happily without feelin' as if they are included in everything!!!  Don't some people just DO your head in!!!!
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Because so many people have been brought up that being anything but  straight is wrong. I have very different opinions on that. I'm bisexual, i think that you can make your own decisions with out somebody else questioning you. It's your own sexuality, it's your own choice.
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Although I am not male...I would like to offer my opinion....I have a few friends that are gay and they are anything but effeminate! I know that when they tell people they are gay not many others believe. This is too bad that in this day and age, and with the access to all these tools to educate, many, or should I say most, still have this stereo type of what a gay man "should be". This is just plan ignorant and narrow minded. But then these people still probably are too homophobic to discover the truth...and get to know some for who they really are...not based on a preconceived label.
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I personally believe that it is a combination of genetics and environment.  It is never a "choice"...  Some people are predisposed to being attracted to the same sex by genetics, and other people are predisposed only under certain conditions.  There are also people that no matter what happens to them in their life they will never ever be gay.  Being gay is what arouses a person.  For me personally, a man does nothing for me... but a woman I find very arousing.  Its just the way I am, and no matter how I try to imagine myself with a man, it just does not work.  It feels very wrong and uncomfortable.  It does not feel natural.  A woman feels very natural, as Im sure it feels to a straight man.  I am a follower of God, and I believe that as long as we love, we are good.  Hate is what opposes the Lord, not love, no matter what form... whether I love my dog, my child, or my girlfriend, its still love, and only good can come from love.  Hate, ignorance, deception and misunderstanding are not good, therefore they are not following the Lord's path.  \n\nThere are gay animals by the way.. have you ever heard of the Bonobo Chimpanzees?  Look them up and their sexual behavior... you will find they are the most sexually free of any species on the planet, it doesnt matter if you are male or female.
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Well - Im affraid its complicated because I believe that I am Gay Man - I ve only had the occasional one night stand and d ont live with anyone. My earliest memories aged around 9 or 10 tend to suggest I preferred the Boys at school and have done ever since. I am a Christian that is a choice but my sexuality I d ont believe is. As for God he loves us as we are not for who we are.
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I'm a Christian and I am not "opposed to gay people". But when you tell me these two things then I have to respond in what I hope is a compassionate manner.\n\n"The discovery that some of us are created and/or shaped in our earliest infancy toward same-gender attraction was made in the last 150 years."\n\nThat may or may not be true although for the sake of discussion let's say that it is. Many people have a tendency towards a particular form of behavior. When they get old enough to make mature decisions they have to decide whether that behavior is beneficial or not and since we are talking about God, whether that behavior is in His will for their life or not.\n\nSome people seem to be born with a terrible temper and are prone to violent behavior. They either end up controling their urges or they reap the consequences of giving in to them. It could be a struggle that they have for their entire life and one that they cannot always win. Hopefully they don't commit murder or just give up and make themselves a menace to those with whom they come into contact.\n\nJust because homosexuality isn't exactly the same doesn't mean that there are not legitimate parallels. Someone who finds themself attracted to members of the same sex still makes a choice about how they are going to deal with that emotion just like someone who is prone to anger.\n\nWhen you talk about not bringing up the "Adam and Steve" argument I have to go outside of the guidlines you want to impose on this discussion. It is apparent from the command God gave to Adam and Eve to go forth and multiply that He created men to have sex with women for the purpose of procreation. God also made sex an enjoyable encounter between two people as an added bonus. So where does that leave today's "Adam" if he is not attracted to any of the "Eves" in this world but instead finds himself attracted to the "Steves" around him?\n\nThe book of Corinthians provides at least one answer to that question and Jesus spoke of another for those who were able to receive it.\n\n1 Corinthians 6:9  Do you not know that the unrighteous will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived: neither the sexually immoral, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor men who practice homosexuality,  (10)  nor thieves, nor the greedy, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor swindlers will inherit the kingdom of God.  (11)  And such were some of you. But you were washed, you were sanctified, you were justified in the name of the Lord Jesus Christ and by the Spirit of our God.  (12)  "All things are lawful for me," but not all things are helpful. "All things are lawful for me," but I will not be enslaved by anything.  (13)  "Food is meant for the stomach and the stomach for food"--and God will destroy both one and the other. The body is not meant for sexual immorality, but for the Lord, and the Lord for the body.\n\nIn this passage the Apostle Paul is speaking to relatively new believers who have been born again by the Holy Spirit. He talks about how some of them USED to be things like drunkards and men who practice homosexuality.\n\nWhen I came to Christ at age 43 I had been a drunkard for many years and had developed a chemical addiction to alcohol. I haven't had a drink since a short time before becoming a Christian but it was a real struggle for me until I was born again. That doesn't mean that I'm never tempted to drink or that I've lost the desire to have a cold beer on a hot day but it does mean that now I have supernatural assistance to overcome my struggle.\n\nI don't go around telling people about how Jesus made wine for the guests at a wedding and how I would be justified in drinking since it's not illegal and doesn't hurt anyone else. Instead I know that it's not in God's will for my life to drink alcohol and so I consistently make the choice every day of my life
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Yes and thank you for your email. I've never wished I was gay although the girls would often acuse me of being gay. I've never desired or even thought I was gay. I've always Loved being out with lady friends but sometimes they expect sex and I'm just not interested in them that way. But some times I do find someone I'm in Love with not in a sexual way but I'd like to be by her side.I think about sex if that would keep her by my side.But by the time I'm ready for that, she's already found herself another man.
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I am.... and I would tell them that their over-zealous all comsuming belief in something that is improbable is assinine, and that if they do not believe that it is natural, then they should look in nature. there are many other creatures that are not heterosexual. dolphines for instance, the second most intelligent species on earth, are bisexual, and will pretty much screw anything that swims by, whether or not they are in the same species or not.  if "god" didnt condone GLBT, then why are so many in the wild that way? he supposedly "made" them too.
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I am not gay and I do not put down gay people.  But I do read the messages so I will get a better understanding and learn more about your choices.\n\nI hope that doesn't bother anyone
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Isn't that stereotypical?\nEach relataionship hetero or not, has it's own private dynamics. I don't understand why you would want to know. \nA truly gay person would not be asking this question so are you just curious?
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I don't think anyone wants to be gay. I really don't think that a person would want to be rediculed and shunned by society and alienated by their family and friends. I honestly think that that's just the way that they...just like ppl are heterosexual. People can't help who they are attracted to. And I think that society should be more accepting of gay ppl...after all they are ppl too. I support the gays and I am with them in their struggles. I think that I may be attracted to girls as well. And what the hell is wrong with that.