I use to go out with this guy for 2 months. My sister got mad that i use to spent time with him more then with my family, which it's true. So she went behind my back and started to talk to him. Now he saying that he want my sister and not me. He says that he in love with her. But he still call me everyday.\nHe always askin me can i go over to his house or what not. Im confuse because i know that hes not treated me right but i still talk to him. We cannot let a day pass by without us speaking with each other. I feel like i cannot let go of him. I know he's playin with me because of thethings that i have done to him. I regret it every single day that i talk to him. But i want to know its he doing this because i made him mad and to get even with me. Because he always call me. I ask him why do he still call me and he says because he want to have something with me. He would not be callin me if he did not want anything to do with me. I think all he wants its to get some booty.
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stop trying to convince yourself, ok you did what you did before but still that is your sister. if you want to give him booty go ahead. cause you probably will anyway. you are still sprung girl you gotta shake it off. he is only a man or boy. spend time with yourself get your mind right .go out meet new people.
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If you broke up w/ him there must have been a reason. What was that reason ? Do you want to go through it all over again ? I think I can relate to what you're saying tho. I went to the city partly to get away fr him for the wk'd after we broke up. Well, we were still talking on the phone sometimes but when he phoned it'd be more like "geeeeeeez... :( " but I'd still answer the phone. While in the city I didn't have a very good time. It felt like my fam was abandoning me or something. Like they were tryna get rid of me or didn't wanna see me, etc. :( I was very hurt. The main reason why I was thinking of moving to the city was to be near my fam too... After that I felt that my ex was the only one who really cared bout me. When I got back home I jut HAD to see him so I went to see him. I told him bout what happened in the city & how I felt that he was the only one who cared bout me. For a whole wk I wanted to be w/ him. I wanted to be w/ him every chance I had. We were @ this pt, just "friends". We went to see Default & I guess he was gonna go home after the concert. I didn't want him to leave. I didn't wanna go home either. He was gonna drink but I didn't really care if he did, as long as I could be w/ him. Well, his mom & sis were gone to the city, so he let me spend the night, which I did. I felt that I wanted to get back w/ him. B/w the day I got back home fr the city to the time we got back together officially was Apr 7th-13th I believe. There was even a time AFTER that that I thought that we'd be together forever. But in the past 2 or 3 wks I haven't been feeling that way. I wanna break up w/ him. When & how is the Q. This'll be our 4th break up. :( \nYou may also experience this as well. Have you broken up in the past ? If you have I think that this will only continue to happen. Don't let it. Be strong. Easier said that done I know, but when you feel like talking to him, call a friend. Maybe even get together w/ a friend or friends. It's better than giving in to urges. Hope this helps !!!
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If after a year of wandering blindly through purgatory and your not sure of the status of this relationship then the answer is NO. Your not his girlfriend and he certainly isn't your boyfriend. \n\nMen say what they mean, but in your case it's what he hasn't said.  Has he asked you to be his girlfriend or in a committed relationship? How does he introduced you to his friends and family? Does he even take you around them?\n\nWhy are you waiting for him to make his intentions clear? Ask him. Are you afraid he won't want to hang out with you anymore? Don't you want to be more than just a fuck buddy.? Isn't that why your asking this question? I think you know the answer to your own question and I think that you are so desperate to have the attention of a man that you are willing to settle for this form of dating purgatory and don't want to admit to yourself that your not his girlfriend and that he doesn't want that type of relationship with YOU, because if he did he would have made it clear to you.\n\nDump this loser and move on. You deserve to be with someone who will truly love you and who will tell you every day and every one he knows that he loves you. \n\nGet out of purgatory and find an angel that will fly you to heaven.
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It sounds like if he's truly understood that you're gonna break it off with him and yet he still hasn't changed his attitude, then he's probably wanting you to break it off. Maybe it's one of the whole, "I don't want to do it so I'll MAKE her do it" type things. Give him this last chance, try to go out and do something that both of you enjoy without the distraction of friends and family. Let him know that it really does bug you when he acts this way. If he still seems like he wants to hang on and will change, you decide, you go for it or maybe you've had enough. But if he's STILL acting that way by the end of the "date" call it quits. Move on to a guy who'll treat ya better! Good luck girl!
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wow he sounds like a real ass.  please find another guy to like, who will treat you nicely and how you should be treated (instead of being USED by the guy you "love")
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He sounds like a duetschbag to me. Just move on. You don't want to get involved with someone that's going to see multiple women. Notice how he ducked out of things when you asked how he felt and obviously tried to move the relationship a little further. He's a snake. Find someone else. As for the girl, There's nothing you can really do about it. Just move on, find different people to be around.
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He's not for you.  His hormones are taking over and have no control. Also, he is not respecting you, or your family.  If he wants to talk with his friends, why not go somewhere else?  I find it impolite to do that.  Don't allow him to rush you into doing anything.  You deserve someone that can treat you kindly, caring, respectful and open minded.  He's the one who's going to loose, not you. \n\nHe's also immature. He may think that can turn you on, but for me, it turns me completely off.  Find someone descent even if it hurts.  Besides, dating and flirting is fun, don't get tied down too soon. Enjoy your singlehood...\n\nRight ladies?
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You are not the smothering type like one person above me said. \n\nYour boyfriend sounds like he's trying to have his cake and eat it too.  You nailed it when you said: "To me, I think this seems like he wants to be able to have me around if/when he wants me, but for me not to get mad if I can't have him around when I want him. Like he wants to be with me, and for me to be there for him, but he doesn't want to have to be there for me."\n\nI knew a guy who was sleeping with this girl for a year and a half and he refused to call her his girlfriend..he just told people they're "seeing each other."  This generally means a non-exclusive relationship, and while he was sleeping with her, he was also seeing other girls and possibly sleeping with them too.  \n\nTell him you're not looking to take a step backward and that if he wants space that badly then he can have all the space he wants because you're leaving him.  He doesn't want to be committed to you? Then he shouldn't get sex or anything else from you.  Don't get used.
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Terri! If your sister is someone you trust then i think that he's lying to you and probably going to keep doing it. He might of wanted to go out by himself with his friends and he feels like he had to lie to you so he wouldnt hurt your feelings but he should have been honest after your sister seen him at the club. Why did he lie after he was seen? If he is a good guy like u make him sound maybe he is worth forgiving and the best way is to sit him down and talk to him about it and the way u are feeling. What he says would be the deciding factor to what to do next. To stay with him or leave him.If hes out picking up girls but he says hes serious with you then leave his sorry butt because you will begin to doubt everything ever time you are not together. Good luck!
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i am all for the "find a better guy and make him jealous" thing, but it puts you in a pickle with him being your brothers friend, and if you do anything to upset this guy your brother might get ticked off at you.(because that is how men are) i suggest talking to your brother and finding out what the deal is whether or not this dude is in to you or if he is slow-playin. then i would tell him (brother) that this dude really upset you because of the way he treated you. and if your lucky your brother just might have one of those "rules for dating my sister" talks with the dude.
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OK here is a love triangle for you this is great. My brother dated his girl for about two years, while i had my own boyfriend. we dated for about a year and a half. So after double dating and treating my brothers girlfriend like a sister she dumps my brother. Not too long after that my boyfriend broke up with me. About a week later i saw my brothers ex and my ex holding hands at school. Now my ex wants me back lol I'm getting back with him. I know it sounds nasty and he broke my heart, but you gotta listen to your heart do what your heart and soul tell you to do. you know you got it girl...
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If you really love this guy then ignoring his calls is the wrong thing to do.  If he wants space and has asked that you give it to him, you should not call him.  But, if he calls you DO NOT ignore his calls.  The only message that sends to him is that you have given up on him.  He knows you are hurt.  He is likely hurting as well.  If you want this man in your and your daughters lives, then you need to try to work things out.  Listen to him, give him his space, don't do something in retaliation that you can't take back.  The old saying that if you love something you should set it free, if it comes back to you it will be yours forever, if it doesn't it never belonged to you in the first place comes to mind in your situation.  Ask yourself if you would rather have this man in your life (even if it is only as a friend now).  The answer to that question will guide your next actions.  Just, don't do anything in haste or it might be something you will regret for a long time.\n\nBeen there.  Best wishes.
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Well he's your little brother and sounds like he's looking up to you and wanting to spend time with you.  There's nothing wrong with it at all.  When you want to go out and do your own thing explain it to him so he doesn't get hurt and hopefully he will understand.
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Don't get engaged the minute he steps off the place, tell him that you want to be with him for one month after he arrives.  (He will be a little different than the man you know and love)  After two weeks, reevaluate whether or not he is the one for you.  This gives you two weeks before he pounces on you with his question so be ready.  As for the sister, ask for specifics, maybe she knows something about him that she hasn't told you for fear of hurting you and losing you.
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You're right, there may be something going on.  You will have to play detective.  If you get a chance try to see if he has received any texts from her and read them. Ask him why he runs your sister down.  You need to follow him if you can (without being seen) to see where he goes.  I wish you luck.
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I never got that whole if I date him no one can. if you guys are over, and you agreed to see other people then get over it, your not a very good friend if you wont let her have a chance at happiness. I don't see anything wrong with it if she was a good friend, but if she just stared at you and asked you why you were mad, that obviously tells you she's kind of a jerk, she obviously doesn't care about you or your feelings, considering you just told her you were still in love with him, if I started dating my friends ex I would have at least shown that I was sorry for causing any pain, but some thins cant be helped, such as holding back feeling for a guy, dang,...  then I'm sorry but if I were you I would have brought her down. keep in mind though that if you guys are supposed to be together you will and if he wanted to see other people then maybe you deserve better, unless it was your Idea in with case, WHAT ARE YOU BITCHING ABOUT. its not fun but remind yourself of 2 things first of all that she deserves the chance at him, and second of all that you may still have a chance of getting back together with him. I got back together with mine.  Good Enough?
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may be he dont know what he wants\nmay be he feel shy and concentrate on this word ( shy)\nso sometimes he get the encourage enough to he he loves u to ur sister then he feel shy again and say he dont love u \ni think from my mind he loves u \njust try to talk to him personally and u will know everything