She is still married though, and her son is my best friend. We have already made love, several times in fact. What should I do? I really love her, a lot, I mean a lot a lot, like she is the only woman for me. I can't live without her.
133887
Ask the husband to watch and critique your performance.
545962
it sounds to me like she loves you for the person you are inside, which is honorable.  she is attracted to the outer you now too which is also a beautiful thing.  to me, what makes a man attractive to me is his personality.  he doesnt have to look like the kind of man other women would want BECAUSE of his looks.  i dont fall for that either.  its whats inside.  from what it sounds like, your wife likes your whole package and you can relax and not worry.  she waited until now to tell you, probably because she loved you and felt it was just a matter of time before it would all kick into place, and now that it has, she is telling you so that you can know she has reached an even deeper level of love for you.  she is probably happy and excited to share that with you.  best to you both!!
234853
WELL I THINK WHAT YOU DID FOR HER AND HER DAUGHTER WAS MORE THEN MANLY. MOST MEN WOULD SAY OH WELL AINT MY PROBLEM AND WOULD HAVE STAYED. I THINK THAT YOU SHOULD STILL HAVE A RELATIONSHIP WITH THAT WOMAN IT SOUNDS LIKE YOU CARE FOR HER VERY MUCH. YOU DONT HAVE TO LIVE THERE AND SHE CAN STILL DEVOTE TIME TO HER CHILD. HAVE EITHER ONE OF YOU TRIED TO MAKE THE DAUGHTER APART OF YOUR RELATIONSHIP SO SHE WONT FEEL LEFT OUT. WE AS MOTHERS HAVE TO LEARN HOW TO SHARE OUR LOVE AND ATTENTION. TALK TO HER AND YOU TALK TO THE DAUGHTER TRY TO BE A FAMILY NOT JUST MOM'S BOYFRIEND. IN THE MEAN TIME- TAKE KARATE, GO TO THE GYM, BECOME A BIG BROTHER,DO SOMETHING YOU WILL BE PROUD OF AND STOP MESSING WITH SKANKY WOMEN JUST IN CASE YOU AND MOM GET BACK TOGETHER
179461
Sadly, currently i am the other man in that kind of triangle.(except she is not marride but living with the guy) I am in love with this woman.  But she will never leave this guy.  I was being used the whole time.  You are not in love with both of these men. You just crave attention anyway you can get it and dont wont to feel guilty.  I bet if you look hard enough one of these men really do luv you and is the best for you.  But you are not a strong enough person to do the work it takes to be in a real relationship.  No matter what these men are going to get hurt. AND YES IT IS YOUR FAULT!!  you are the bad guy in this!
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I think that we have all negleted a friendship when a man came into our life.  It sounds like she is the kind of person who has never had a boyfriend, or someone who really cared about her, and she wanted to do anything to hang onto him.  Forgive her, she just wanted someone to love her like your husband loves you.  You will always have a special place in her heart and now she realized that she screwed up by not being around
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I met a girl on line.  Now she's my wife and we have a son.  But before this happened I visited her in her county for a number of weeks over some months.  It was only after this time that I felt happy enough to ask her to marry me.\n\nSo I suggest if you can go visit her.  Also is this your first real love?
340545
Please, you are in lust with her I am doubting that love has anything to do with it.  You and your wife need to try and rekindle your marriage.
108950
Question, how is her relationship with her husband? Are they going through tough times and divorcing? Does she really love him or just cares about him. Loving him and caring about him are totally different. Perhaps she meant that she cares about him (reason:length of the marriage, or if they have children), and if she told u that she loves you have you seen any confirmation of that love? I don't mean physically, cause if you want her 2 prove 2 u that she loves u by having a physical connection, and she's still working on her problems (and she could also be conservative for that matter) maybe u could give her time to sort things out. Be there to support her but be patient. It's tough to go through a separation or divorce, and it'll take time. But if you do really love and care about her, you'll be there for her, especially at this tough times in her life. Be frank and honest about your feelings, and keep your communication open. But keep a safe distance, it's better 2 wait till the coast is clear b4 u 2 get physical to prove ur love 4 each other..(meaning, wait 4 them 2 finish all the legality of the divorce) so that u won't get hurt. Keep your senses acute, talk 2 her 2 get her side. If I really care 4 that someone, I'd wait, if that person is really worth waiting 4. Great partners only comes like a Haley's comet...if u know what I mean. But once u weigh everything and sense that your relationship isn't going anywhere then it'll be time 2 move on.
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I agree totally with ft402003, and I might add that I was just platonic friends with my husband for TEN LONG YEARS before we knew we loved each other.  TEN YEARS!!!!  That is a long time, buddy.  My sister told me once that friends make the best spouses, and I thought YUCK!  But, she was totally right.  When you talk to your "friend", you might tell her to not be afraid to go a step further, and to not be repulsed by it.  Let her know that you are just as afraid as her.  But, whatever you do, don't let her get away.  It is better to tell her how you feel than to keep suffering.  And if she doesn't go for it, then it is HER loss.  Not yours.  HERS.
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First off if she has moved on with her life and has started a family then maybe you should move on as well. \nI understand how you feel though, and I know its not easy but sometimes its best to just let go. You may get hurt trying to have a relationship with someone who is already in a relationship. She may no longer feel the same way for you and that can be a real heartbreaker. Honestly though I would call her just to let her know how I feel and see how she responds to that. If she gives you a bad reaction then move on with your life there are plenty of women who will love you and only YOU. \nIm pretty sure she wont be looking forward to leaving her husband after just giving birth 3 weeks ago.\n\nAnd you know how some men can be their ego's get all involved and it can be a sticky situation. Just be carefull and don't give your heart to someone who doesnt deserve it.
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I am so sorry to hear that. I do not know why she did what she did but I would think you better start looking after yourself. You matter a lot, always remember that. Move on with life... we only live once so make most of it. There must be someone out there waiting to be loved by you and will love you till the last breathe... well, I believe in marriage and love and there's always hope!
320677
She is married so it would be wrong to pursue a relationship with her. If you did pursue it the consequences could turn out bad. It could not work out and you could lose her as a friend. Friendship is the most important thing you could have. You wouldnt want to lose that. And you got to think about her husband too. You dont want to be the one who breaks up a ten year marriage. So all in all my advice is to keep her as a friend. Good luck with whatever you decide to do.
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I have a 2 year old.  Here's my take on this.  If you love this girl, you have to take the whole package.  If she were without a child, you would love her warts and all.  Same rules apply.  You want to be with her, take the whole package. Because if you don't want to, you have no chance with her.  Mothers will always think of their kids over their own wants.  And if you don't want to be with her and her kid, there's someone out there that does.  Don't waste her time or yours. As a mother, it was hard to bring my son around someone I cared for.  Because there's a chance that person may end up leaving.  Because you don't want to keep bringing people into your child's life only to have them leave.  If you love her, love all of her, child and all.  If not, let her be.  Let someone else love her and her child.
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The best way is with honesty,integrity and respect.I don't know how you feel about her, respect wise, but you owe it to your son. She still is the mother of your child. You will be forever connected it that respect. \nThis what I would want/expect ( I have a 15 month old son too). \n1.I would want to know if my son and I had a place to stay\n2. Can I support myself and the baby without you, and if I can't would you help me?\n3. Will you continue to be in our sons life after the move?\n\nI know that it's much more complex, but that is the basics. Whatever you decide, please remember that you have a precious baby.\n\nIs it possible to work it out?\n\nDoes she know how you feel? Don't lead her in the dark. If she has to take care of that precious baby, she will need peace of mind so that she can concentrate all her energy on him. She needs the patience too. It's harder to be patient when you have so much to think about. Remember that whatever you do to her, you ultimately affect your son too.\n\nGive her the heads up so she can prepare her life  without you.\nTreat her with respect, even when you don't feel like it. She will probably be taking care of your son most of the time. The more civil you are to each other, the better for everyone.\n\nIf you cannot get along with her, just try to be civil.\n\nI hope that whatever choices/decisions you make, you have you son's best interest in the forefront.  He is afterall, the innocent one.\n\nBest Wishes.....
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It's not suggestable...but many have done things out of 'love' that they probably shouldn't have done..\n\nThe facts are, if she doesn't love her husband she should divorce him, but she should do this before dating you. \n\nThe divorce stages are mind boggling and become very cruel in most cases, especcially when infidelity is an issue. (I have seen SO many people that have made a mistake of cheating), and they paid for it...any proof of the affair is brought up in court, and some have had to pay monetary damages to their soon ex-spouse for cheating and breaking their marriage contract.. One that I know of not only received money from the spouse.. but also the person they had an affair with...So.. no it's not a good thing to get involved with a married woman.  \n\n'Her son'..or 'their son'?  Because if the boy is a result of their marriage and relationship..it is the husbands son too...and he (the husband) will always be connected to your lady friend through their child.. as they should be. \n\nThe child, depending on his age could react in many ways..if he's really young the divorce would probably pass by with some uncertainties of "If mommy got rid of daddy, will she get rid of me too?" And if he's old enough to understand, then he may resent you for being the guy who caused it, even if you aren't THE reason .. you will be the easy focus for a kid to understand. \n\nIf you truely love her, respect her enough to leave her marriage alone until she is able to decide that she loves you enough to disolve the marriage and date you. My gut instinct is.. you're a fun on the side distraction to her, and she doesn't plan to leave her husband for you...and everyone desrves something more than just to be a 'second best waiting in the wings' (Just being honest)
260661
Holy crap you sound EXACTLY like me. Keep doing what you're doing. Sorry to all the wives out there, but you have no obligation to anyone except yourself. He's the married one, so he has to take responsibility for his actions if she finds out. Enjoy yourself. Life's short.
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No insult here, but your runner up in the great sensual game of her life.  Of ALL the people she has met... YOUR SECOND.  The other woman ... SHE'S FIRST.  If the other woman didn't exist, you two would be romping around in sensual glee... but, my dear, you are Al Gore to her G.W.Bush.  Painful as it may be your 49% to her 51%.  If you can deal with that and WAIT until it MAY POSSIBLY SOME DAY GO BAD, then you are pathetic and don't have self esteem, because while she is deep down on the other girl, your going to be all alone eating bon bons and ben and jerries just waiting for your turn to taste her.  FIND SOMEONE THAT'LL MAKE YOU NUMERO UNO.  Don't settle for runner up in someone else's race. You want someone to say "You are the only person I have ever wanted to be with for my entire life."  Instead your waiting for "Now that the other girl is gone, hey lets have fun."  Grow some self worth, grow some balls, and find YOUR mate.  Go right now, find someone else.