i have met someone online and it has just clicked between us, have'nt felt like this for years. i know it sounds very selfish of me but you must follow your heart or live the rest of your life thinking what might have been!
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Be funny if it was your partner!!\n\nFace it, there's a big difference between online and face-to-face so be prepared to have your illusions shattered (sorry, I don't mean to sound so negative!).\nYou say you haven't felt like this for years, so what are you doing with your girlfriend then?\nI don't know how old you are, but by the sound of it you've already made your mind up.  If you are going to leave there may be no way to do it without hurting your partner.  I guess you've got to have a talk to her and say that you don't feel the same way anymore.  I suppose you should be honest and say that you've just stuck around in the relationship even though you haven't felt anything much (why, I don't know) then when something special has happened between you and an online friend you've suddenly fallen in love.\n\nI've got to say it sounds like you just haven't been that honest with yourself or your girlfriend.
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SNAP!!!!!!\n\ndid the same thing with a guy i met on her too. stayed up all hours just chatting about stuff and listing old songs! \n\nok, here's what i think. when you meet someone you just 'click' with, it is easy to get carried away with yourself and be consumed with it all. thats not to say that there is not anything serious there. all i am saying is reality is often different to fantasy.\n\nme and the guy i'm still chatting too met a couple of weeks ago. he is a great guy but i think we both felt that reality was a little different. we still chat and i am due to see him again shortly.\n\nwhat we decided was to take things slowly, get to know eachother better as friends as see what develops from that. it's the most sensible option i think.
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No, I wouldn't let it come between us. Eventually, one person would relocate, but that's just logistics. Hummm...about meeting someone online? I guess it would depend where you met them. Typically people you run into in chat rooms or on free sites don't tend to be of the same quality (or want the same things out of a relationship) as people who use paying services.
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The time has arrived.... u feel like this because there is a right person on the other side... U don't need months or years to fall in love it just happens in seconds but not over the phone or Internet try to meet her in person if u still feel the butterflies in Ur stomach when u meet her, i think the love chemistry is working...\nBut remember this think twice before taking a decision, after deciding stick on to it at any cost.......... Good Luck
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There is something missing if he feels he has to chat to someone he isnt close to about intimate details of his life.  In saying that it can be easier to talk to someone you dont know about things that are going on for you, i chat to ppl on the net, and i know its because i sometimes find it hard to talk to my other half, i must admit i do feel guilty about it sometimes, and i use this as a way of letting him know im not happy with something, its sad, i should be able to speak to the person i love, and i do love him a lot, but i try to make sure i dont get into any cyber stuff, i stop that in its tracks,,but even though i chat to ppl about my issues i dont think i could ever meet anyone from the net, as then i would be cheating, and i would rather leave him than cheat on him, why put us both through that pain? Try and make time for each other start with twice a week? Come to an agreement that he cuts back on his internet chat, and take a risk by chatting to you,dont ask, make sure you tell him how this is making you feel,and how you have needs too that you feel are not being met. How would he feel if you spent time chatting to strange men on the internet about you're personal issues?  Short sharp shock sometimes works, try going online, maybe not chatting but theres loads on the net you can do, then when he sees you spending a lot of time online then it might just give him the push to start sharing whats going wrong. Do you actually see what he is talking about?  Why not suggest you getting to know this person too, after all she seems to know as much about him as you do.  I hope things work out for you both, take care.
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It doesn't sound like there is much of friendship there.  He probably feels guilty that you wacked out the way you did.  Have you tried giving it time to get over him?  I'm sorry that you had to go to such lengths to get his attention.  I feel sorry for him and for you.  I hope you have learned that no man is worth your life and I hope you realize how lucky you are to be alive today.  Give it time and get into group or one on one therapy or both.  You may feel his is your soul mate but; don't you think that if he was your soul mate, things would not have gone the way did.  If you were truly meant to be, you would be but; your not.  What does that tell you?
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I believe it's possible because that's how I met my husband :) ! I also have a few friends who have also met their significant others through the Internet. I believe it's a good way to meet because you really get to know a person. Whereas I'm shy and take a while to open up to someone in person, I can talk more freely and answer questions this way.
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I have been there...not exactly in the same circumstances but at 19 My relationship finished and i know the pain you are going through, i really do..it hurts so so much and you feel that there is nothing left for you...i am now ten years older and since my split up with that boyfriend, when i was 19, i have done so much with my life..much more than i would ever have done if i had stayed with him...i have more friends now...have had lots more boyfriend...have had an excellent time... going on girly holidays...travelling...meeting new people...i sometimes wish i could go back in time and tell my 19 year old self how wonderful my life was going to be...I can't do that but i can guarentee that your life will get better and better... you will get to know yourself better, you'll do different things, you'll get excited when you have a crush on some one new...believe me, it will happen i never thought it would when we first split up but i then went on to fancying someone different nearly every month...it was great fun. I am all settled down living with a boyfriend now, all grown up..but i look back on that time and smile..it was great...it will be hard for you but look to the future...don't let him string you along... get yourself dressed and go out with some friends...be with people you like. Life is great, you can make it great with out him. Hope this helps xxx
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Wow, that's a difficult one.  Have you ever met the online person in person?  The danger with falling in love with someone online is that they may not be who you think they are.  It could be also, that the person you don't know intimately will always seem better because you don't know all their little annoying peculiarities.  On the other hand, you have this on and off again long term relationship.  The fact that it isn't a stable relationship tells me that there are issues that come up, you break up, issues get worked out (or not, maybe you guys just get lonely), you're back together, the sun is shining until...and back into that again.  Look into your own heart.  What is it that is so alluring in the online person?  It is real?  Is it sustainable?  Does he snore in their sleep?  Is he a morning person?  Does he take cream in his coffee?  Sugar?  What is his mother's middle name?  (lol, now I'm wracking my brain on that question).  You get my drift.  You may want to talk this out with a neutral person like a counsellor to help you with this.  Maybe the answer right now is no answer, leave it as is and the next time long time bf leaves, see about the online one.  Just a thought.
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i could not imagine what you are going through. i personally have never experience or been in that situation.i think you do not love yourself or feel worthy for someone to love you.that is very important no matter what family drama or life changes you have to go through you must always remember to love yourself.
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I met my fiancee online over six years ago.  I loved him long before I kissed him for the first time.  I believe that the lack of physical contact forces people over the internet to get to know each other better than if they were dating traditionally.  We still had a few wrinkles to smooth out once we moved closer to one another but we had already fallen in love.
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Something similar happened to me and I thought that the other man was the love of my life.I still love and care for him and can't get him out of my system, but I wonder if I would have felt that for anyone who was there for me at that moment,being that I was so needy emotionally.It is a tough thing to deal with and very unfair.I want to tell you go with your heart,but understand that isn't easy sometimes.\ngood luck and I will pray that the universe leads you in the right direction.Be open and honest with yourself and remember you deserve to be happy!
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I was in that exact situation a few years ago!! Totally clicked with my best friend, and when I pursued something we decided to date, and we never EVER went back to being good friends again. We talk a few times a week online but that is it. Ultimately it's up to you! You make the decision! If it's worth it... go for it!! Over all i think for me it was worth it. I would have always wondered "what if"...
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Thats how I feel. I want a relationship but the person I want it with seems disinterested , when initially they appeared to be. Guess I'm too slow & old fashioned as I wanted them to make the first move & they didn't. Think they may have moved on to another. I don't know for certain but I am still in the same zone, in love with them. I'll always love them. I promised I would & I meant it. I have not gone back on the promise, have seen no one for a VERY LONG  TIME and will not, even though I may have said I did just to make them jealous because I want them to notice me. I love them. I want them. How much more can I say it, prove it, whatever. I feel bad for you. Don't be like me & feel like fading away & dying because you feel useless. Do something before it's too late.
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Time heals all things! I was in the same boat about a year ago. I thought I was going to die, I wanted to die. The pain in my heart made me sick(literally), but then one day I realized hey it doesn't hurt as much as it did. It took me almost a full year to get over him, but now I am over him, and I just met the sweetest guy in the world. You just have to make yourself go out and have fun. I surrounded myself with fun happy friends and just made myself have fun. At first I was miserable, but then I started having a good time. Now I can be alone and not be sad. It just took time. I promise it will get better, just hang in there sweetie. If you ever want to talk, hit me up at clabarre81@yahoo.com.
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I am sorry that you are going through this, but everyone has at one time or other.  I know it feels like the end of the world, but it isn't.  If you were haveing numerous misunderstandings then it wasn't meant to be.  You may go through several more of these before you find the right one.I am a firm believer that there is someone for everyone out there.  Just got to  weed out the bad ones.  Hope this makes you feel some better.  Good Luck to you!
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I DEFINITELY agree...Im also attached to it for personal reasons as well....that's how I met my fiance 6 years ago....I in Chicago...he in Scotland, UK. If it wasnt for Yahoo, we probably would have never met.