If you aren't gay, then why do you care? I'm a Christian and not gay, and I really don't care. Why is everybody else so mad? I'm curious to know what people think.
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Psychologicly, its called "reaction formation". Hundreds of tests have shown that people are not absolutely gay or absolutely straight. Every one is a little bit attracted to both genders.\n\nIf someone is very religious or otherwise has very strong beliefs about homosexuality, and they expereince an attraction to a member of the same sex, they form a "psychological reaction", essentially equating to , "OMG I'M NOT GAY!"\n\nAfter that, they will go out of thier way to oppress, hassle, and antagonize gays any way they can to validate thier beliefs and disossiate themselves from homosexuality. Gay marriage is an easy target becuase they can hide behind thier religous qualms or half-baked ideas that gay marriange is somehow harmful to society.\n\nDon't worry, most young people today accept gay marriage, and as soon as we start voting, you'll see this issue drop off the radar.
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I haven't read other responses yet, but I don't want to forget anything, so I'm gonna rush into my response.\nYou brought up some great points.  I think the main fact that you brought up is that our (when I say "our" I'm speaking for Christian conservatives b/c I can) beliefs have progressed for the better.  When you grow from being a child to an adult, your views of the world change.  The same thing can be said for collective thought.  I think that's a GOOD thing though.  It shows that we're changing for the better in many ways.  Thanks for letting your readers see how far we've come.\nOUR opinions aren't the last word.  You've just shown that.  However, from a Christian perspective, God's word IS the last word.  It (and HE) doesn't change.  Of course you can say that the God of the OT was a big meanie and the God of the NT was way nicer, but that's another discussion altogether.  In this respect, it's not wrong to say that the rules haven't changed.  Our UNDERSTANDING of the rules have.  The more you learn, the more you realize you don't know.  Cliched, but oh so true.  \nThe people who used (some still do) the Bible as an excuse to hate and abuse people of different color were NOT actually Biblically based.  They misunderstood (or intentionally so) the whole tribes thing & took that to mean different races.  Again, they weren't actually Biblically based.  People who say homosexuality is wrong and use the Bible to support that belief aren't taking the Bible out of context (in my opinion).  \n\nI can't speak for the bigoted stuff you mentioned like wearing sheets & crusading.  That's not a part of Christianity.  It's a part of retardation (no offense to mentally challenged people).  \n\nLike I said, your point is a valid one.  Opinions have changed, and they probably will again.  That doesn't mean we should just all not have opinions for fear that they will change.  There ARE fundamental truths, so it's important to hold fast to them.
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I am a straight man.  I have had many gay friends due to my involvement in theatre.  I do not hate homosexuals.  I am also a Christian and I know lots of people who hate homosexuality.  I don't understand why it is singled out as THE sin to hate.  I have told Fat christians that I think gluttony is a sin.  I have told rich Christians that greed is a sin.  I have then asked them why their sin is less of a sin then a homsexual's sin.  I have asked these questions many times in many adult Sunday School classes.  Needless to say it doesn't make me real popular.  So now to your question.  I think a lot of people hate homosexuals simply because they are told they should.  The Christian right is constantly bombarding us with the message that homosexuality is the number one threat to the family unit.  Of cours this is stupid.  Divorce, infidelity and not spending time together are the biggest threats to the family units I know about.  When a Christian tells me that homosexuality is a sin.  I always agree that the Bible does say that a man shouldn't lay with another man.  So by the letter of the law it is a sin.  But then I ask them if they have had to fight off strong urges to sleep with members of the same sex?  They always respond NO!  Then I say isn't it odd that most of the other sins in the Bible hold some temptation for us, but this one, if we are heterosexual holds none?  I then ask them if gay marriage was legal and the gay couples got the same tax breaks and property rights as straight couples would you be tempted to turn homosexual?  Of course they say NO!  Then I zing them with "So why do you suppose that of all the sins listed in the Bible we straight Christians spend so much time and energy focusing on the one that doesn't tempt us and never will?  Isn't it possible it's a convenient way to not deal with issues that DO effect us?  Isn't it possible that it's just a way to feel superior and holy without ever having to do anything but look down on others who are different than us?  100% of the time they then answer: "The Bible says homosexuality is a sin."  This one issue is truly one of the reasons it is hard to stay active in church.  When you KNOW people are judging and being blind and feeling so secure and right about it, it can drive you crazy.  Even when I tell them that I have watched gay friends die horrible deaths of AIDS without adequate medical care because their life partner of many years could not get them on a "family" insurance plan, it makes no impact.  Now having said all of that I would like to share with you some things about the current attitude in our society that makes me dislike the Gay Rights movement.  As a heterosexual Christian male, I am judged and hated before I even have an opportunity to share who I am.  As a straight male, I get sick of being told by effeminate men what is style.  I resent being almost always portrayed in the media as not as smart as gay men, not as in touch with our feeling, not as capable of expressing emotion.  I think on any given night on television there is a lot more straight male bashing then there ever was gay bashing.  There I got it off of my chest.  This is the longest answer I've ever written.  I wonder if anyone will actually read it all the way through?
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ugggg! i hate that! so many people have gotten into debates with me about this (they are all republicans.)\n\nthey say that they hate gay people because they hate all the gay lingo and the pda with other men. although they are not bothered by boy girl action.\n\nthey think that people choose to be gay; they DON'T!\n\nwhy would any one WANT to change into something that will make their life hard?  Why would you want to change into something that makes you love someone you can't marry or start a biological family with?\n\nplease, son't get me wrong, i am in no way trying to say that there is anything wrong with being gay....really....i am just saying that it is not a choice....people labeled "gay" are born that way.\n\nsome people however choose to think they are gay or bisexual....i think that it is just a personal preference....a luxury to be able to have sex with both genders.\n\ni like all your questions.\n\np.s. GOD DOES NOT FROWN UPON BEING GAY!!!!!!!! I DON'T CARE WHAT YOU REPUBLICAN CHRISTIANS/CATHOLICS SAY; GOD DOESN'T "FROWN UPON" ANY KIND OF PERSON UNLESS THEY HAVE DONE SOMETHING WRONG....BEING GAY IS NOT WRONG!!!\n\nsorry...that is a pet peeve of mine.
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I'm a Christian, but many times I think if I wasn't I'd be so turned off by how some other Christians behave/act/talk.  In the name of Christ, they do some really outrageous stuff or twist the scriptures to fit their own agenda. Or act SO radically ridiculous  that it is a total turnoff to those who maybe are seeking. It's only a small handful of people, mind you, but those few can really spoil it for those that are genuinely trying to walk day to day and show God's love in every circumstance.  I consider myself a radical Christian, but mellowed by age, and a general sense of not wanting to turn off and offend every person I meet!
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Why should anyone care who loves who?  \nIt's my guess that most homophobes are repressed closet gays.  What other reason would they have for overreacting to something that doesn't concern them?\nGays want to be married so they can get the same benefits like health insurance as other families get.  \nWho is anyone to tell someone else that who they love is wrong? \nOther than deluded bible thumpers that is. \nI take it as a compliment if a lesbian makes a pass at me.  It's always nice to know when someone finds you to be desirable. \nWhat does that hurt?  NOTHING!!!\nPeople who dwell with hatred on what other people do need to get a life and do something more constructive with their time.
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Serj, do you not detect a smidgen on gay hate in some of these answers?  I do.  I have never been harmed by gays, approached but never accosted.  I think all they want is to be recognized as equals as human beings.  This I grant them.
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Doesn't the bible preach acceptance and love... doesn't it also say that our job isn't to judge, because he will do that?\nMy question is, why worry about people being gay, when we can't take care of our own citizens... and parts of the world hate us so much they are willing to die to kill us?  Is it really that important?  I don't think so!
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I'm not willing to say that most of them are, but I'm sure they make up a substantial chunk of the pie chart. Why else would anyone be so preoccupied by the subject?\n\nI've noticed that several people now have called this question homophobic. Why do you think that noting that some very narrow minded homophobic people might really be gay is derisive to gay people? Do you think that's a nasty word? Do you think it's mean to say the word homosexual? It's not. That's pathetic. Gay people have every reason to hold their heads high. \n\nWhat the asker is asking us to confirm is whether we've noticed that there are groups of people with very questionable opinions about homosexuality that may be reacting to their own sexuality like it's dirty, which is painfully funny, because only a sadist would pick a faith where the way they came from "God" is a cross that they must angrily pretend not to bear until they die -- and yes I have noticed.\n\nNow will all of you get off this "what's wrong with that?" business?
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Not feeling a little bitter are you Asker?\n\nOr are you feeling convicted?\n\nIf it is not such a big deal to you, then why do you place so much emphasis on the opinion of those who believe in this "sky-pixie"?\n\nI'm willing to accept that homosexuality is normal.  In that case though, who are we to say that pedophelia is not ok?  Who is to say that an adult male and a minor male child can not have a consentual meaningful sexual relationship?\n\nWhy should we say incest is bad?  Who cares if there are genetic anomalies that occur, heck with abortion legalized we can always avoid having to see those? The important thing is that we support two people who love and are committed to one another, right?\n\nBeastiality should be taught in our public schools as normative too.  Heck, with all that we spend on our pets, it is obvious that we love them.  And I'm sure when Fluffy puts its head on your lap, it must be looking for some sex.  Since we only have to accept that "NO" means "NO" then we don't have to worry about animals resisting sex since they can't speak human languages (except for some birds I guess).\n\nAnd you know, that person who desires to get naked and have an orgasm while rolling all over the hood of their car is ok too.  And why should I say they can't do that only in the privacy of their home.  It must be love, how many people can say they spent $20,000 on their significant other in a year.\n\nThink about it.
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Sorry this is a long one, but ignorant people make me so I think that most people are accepting of homosexuals today, but they aren't gung ho about accepting it.  I accept homosexuals for who they are and think they should have the right to marry.  I have gay friends and see no problem with their lifestyle.  However I'm not about to go protest in favor of it.  Not because I'd be embarrassed, but because I'm way too lazy to protest for anything.  Whereas we've all seen the bible thumping lunatics in the streets screaming to keep certain rights away from people they don't agree with.  They're too stupid to realize gay people are born that way, because if they admitted it they'd have to admit the bible is wrong, and at that point their whole foundation of life would crumble.  They're idiots who base their lives off of a fictional book(the bible).  If there was ever a proposition or something that I a voter could vote on directly, you'd have my vote.  People in love should be able to marry regardless of who they're in love with.  This is one straight man who is giving you his vote.
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I've seen several questions like this one lately...They completely blow the theory many gays spout out that homosexuality is not a choice!  According to most gays, you're either born gay or not...no in between.
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I'm a Christian and I am not "opposed to gay people". But when you tell me these two things then I have to respond in what I hope is a compassionate manner.\n\n"The discovery that some of us are created and/or shaped in our earliest infancy toward same-gender attraction was made in the last 150 years."\n\nThat may or may not be true although for the sake of discussion let's say that it is. Many people have a tendency towards a particular form of behavior. When they get old enough to make mature decisions they have to decide whether that behavior is beneficial or not and since we are talking about God, whether that behavior is in His will for their life or not.\n\nSome people seem to be born with a terrible temper and are prone to violent behavior. They either end up controling their urges or they reap the consequences of giving in to them. It could be a struggle that they have for their entire life and one that they cannot always win. Hopefully they don't commit murder or just give up and make themselves a menace to those with whom they come into contact.\n\nJust because homosexuality isn't exactly the same doesn't mean that there are not legitimate parallels. Someone who finds themself attracted to members of the same sex still makes a choice about how they are going to deal with that emotion just like someone who is prone to anger.\n\nWhen you talk about not bringing up the "Adam and Steve" argument I have to go outside of the guidlines you want to impose on this discussion. It is apparent from the command God gave to Adam and Eve to go forth and multiply that He created men to have sex with women for the purpose of procreation. God also made sex an enjoyable encounter between two people as an added bonus. So where does that leave today's "Adam" if he is not attracted to any of the "Eves" in this world but instead finds himself attracted to the "Steves" around him?\n\nThe book of Corinthians provides at least one answer to that question and Jesus spoke of another for those who were able to receive it.\n\n1 Corinthians 6:9  Do you not know that the unrighteous will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived: neither the sexually immoral, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor men who practice homosexuality,  (10)  nor thieves, nor the greedy, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor swindlers will inherit the kingdom of God.  (11)  And such were some of you. But you were washed, you were sanctified, you were justified in the name of the Lord Jesus Christ and by the Spirit of our God.  (12)  "All things are lawful for me," but not all things are helpful. "All things are lawful for me," but I will not be enslaved by anything.  (13)  "Food is meant for the stomach and the stomach for food"--and God will destroy both one and the other. The body is not meant for sexual immorality, but for the Lord, and the Lord for the body.\n\nIn this passage the Apostle Paul is speaking to relatively new believers who have been born again by the Holy Spirit. He talks about how some of them USED to be things like drunkards and men who practice homosexuality.\n\nWhen I came to Christ at age 43 I had been a drunkard for many years and had developed a chemical addiction to alcohol. I haven't had a drink since a short time before becoming a Christian but it was a real struggle for me until I was born again. That doesn't mean that I'm never tempted to drink or that I've lost the desire to have a cold beer on a hot day but it does mean that now I have supernatural assistance to overcome my struggle.\n\nI don't go around telling people about how Jesus made wine for the guests at a wedding and how I would be justified in drinking since it's not illegal and doesn't hurt anyone else. Instead I know that it's not in God's will for my life to drink alcohol and so I consistently make the choice every day of my life
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Some people are threatened by other people unlike themselves.  I used to be a lot more intolerant toward homosexuality than I am today.  While I still don't condone it, I am much more tolerant of it because I have met a number of people who are gay, and they are as human as I am.  Today, I believe that a person's orientation is his or her own business, and as long as they're not bothering me, or flaunting themselves indiscriminately, I say live and let live.  Incidentally, I would say the same thing about heterosexuals too.\n     Frankly, I'm not sure why these posts are being taken down.  I haven't noticed.  But I have noticed a lot of other questions on here that are very sexually derogetory, so I hope they're being consistent and removing those too.
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just curious...why do you want to know. I'm not gay either (not that theres anything wrong with that) and don't plan to be. But I am curious why you want to know.
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It is totally possible to hold Christian beliefs and be gay. It's just not possible to believe that God accept's your lifestyle. The Bible makes it clear that same sexes coming together is an abomination. either give up the penis or Prepare to swim in the lake of fire dude.
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You know I am a strong christian, but I don't shun science and common sense. Being gay is not a choice. It's just not, if you ask almost any gay guy or girl, they would say they would not choose to be gay, because who in their right mind would choose to be made fun of, shunned and hated? No one.