heres the problem. Me and this girl went out a year ago and i messed it up. now we are talking and were best friends. And we both live each other a lot. but she has had a bf for a while and doesnt want to break his heart. but everytime i go to see her we end up kissing. She has already tryed to brek up with him and he wouldnt do it and she doesnt feel that she can do it again. But we have done more stuff then when we where going out. And she is taking me to prom and everything. What should i do i mean i love her more then the world?
130437
explain to her that her boyfriends heart is already broken because of what you two do together. It's unavoidable and if she is too imature to understand that she's not in love with you it's simply high school lust and we've all been there. You'll get over that too. In short, give her an ultimatum make her make a choice if her bf doesn't have a problem with you two going to prom than it's possible her bf is cheating on her too, or he already knows.\n\nSay for instance she does leave this guy and you two hook up are you ever gonna trust her? She cheated on him with you whats to say she won't cheat on you with somebody else? Nothing, it will eat at you and eat at you until it turns out to be true or your relationship ends. As far as I'm concerned she doesn't deserve you and needs some serious life experience to set her straight. \n\nfirst loves are hard and most say you will never get over them. I know I haven't but I can honestly say I found something a hell of a lot better than the games and bull s'hit that he played. If it's meant to be it'll happen, but the chances are slim.
432498
If she flirts with everyone, she is not ready to settle down into any serious relationship, not one that will last anyway.  Why don't you just be there for her as a friend, and what ever happens will happen.  Don't push any issues, otherwise you are the one that will be hurt.  Take your time she might turn to you after all, but it has to be of her own free will.  You want a relationship where you both feel love for each other, not just you, that's not fair to you.  Good luck.
243272
Ask a girl if she would go out with you. And assume that "going out" would mean being boyfriend/girlfriend. And when she says yes, you are in. But that means you have to act like a bf. My bf told me he loved me from the start, so it was never hard, but she might not be comfortable with that...! Then do really nice things for her, and someday...when the moment is right, kiss her and tell her she is beautiful! It will make her heart melt.
142860
Well, it seems you're a nice guy... not all relationsips are permanent... so i think its up to the girl if she'll dump her current one for you... meanwhile, you could just be there always for her, show her how much she means to you, for example, if the bf fails to pick her up after class you could present yourself to her and walk her home... this is a good time to catch up with each other and know each other better... build up your friendship with her... the best relationships i think originated from friendship... don't rush, there's time for everything...:) just be cool with her having a bf, who knows, one day she'll endup on yourarms instead of his...\n\nGOODLUCK TO YOU!!!
153285
Well my best-friend in the whole world is currently in a long distance relationship only her boyfriend lives in Mi and she lives in AZ. They've been together almost a year and never met and their still totally in love. All i can say to help is if you really love her and want to be with her then the wait is nothing, just think after you do finally get to see and be with her nothing else will matter. You have the rest of your life to spend with someone and if shes the one then the rest of your life doesn't seem like that long. I hope this helped in some way if not I'm sorry i was just rambling on. But i do have to say if you really cant wait any longer to see and be with her surprise her one day she'll love it. Just keep doing whatever it is your doing right now shes obviously happy and I'm sure she cant wait to see you either.I think that your relationship will work and Good Luck. Love is hard to find so don't give up..
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Adriana has given you excellent advice.  I agree.  Try talking to her in person.  You might bring her a rose on that meeting and tell her that you would be honored if she would be your date for the prom.  That should wow her.  Then talk to her about the fact that you believed she had a boyfriend.  Good luck!  (maybe you could let us all know if she accepted!)
613270
show her that  you wouldn't take things so seriously if y'all went out again. \nHow? i have no idea, but be discreet about it. \ni don't think it's a bad thing that you like her.\nYour in a tough situation.\n\ngood luck
353671
well on one hand you do have a point but think about it, if her bf is a junior and she's a freshman dont you think that they should go? because if they stay together for a real long time he will graduate and by the time she's a junior he wont be around to go with her to her ball so let her enjoy it now when she's with him she deserves to have fun too. and your friend will probably ask her to go with him if he's going because its his gf and I'm sure he would like to spend more time with her and he probably thinks that this is a romantic way for them to get closer and deeper in the relationship he's not gonna ask someone else to go with him if he has his gf and I'm sure he likes her enough to take her is he's going.
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How old are you? I get the feelin that you're not that mature. Your BEST FRIEND broke up with her boyfriend and youre already  in the line to get him? C'mon, you're kidding. Of course she's mad at you! Don't go out with him if you wanna keep this girl as your friend. Haven't you heard; guys come and go, friends are forever.
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PROPOSE, you will never know if you dont. Chances are she might be waiting for you to do so. Most best friends end up being together, its just a matter of how much time is "wasted" waiting for the first move. Dont miss out
240666
I suggest you make sure they are not bf/gf.  You stated she likes?  and then stated her bf.  If she just liked him, then you did nothing wrong. As that is past tense.  If it is her bf, then you did something wrong.  So enjoy life and I bet yourfriend is going to last longer than the guy you kissed...
532532
You know I've been in this same situation. It's really hard to deal with if you guys are so close. I just let my friend be and went to hang out with other people. I would call her and invite her places but she always turned me down because she had already made plans with her new man. This went on for about three months. When she called one day I told her. I'm not mad at you anymore but I would like for you to know that what you did really hurt me. We had been friends for five years and this guy comes and now you act like I don't exist. She apologized and we started hanging out again. Some people just get caught up in situations and forget about the feelings of others. You just have to put yourself in her shoes. If you were in a new relationship you might do the same thing to her. It's something new and right at this time you're just caught up in it. As long as you talk to her and tell her how you feel about it she should make it a point to try and share her time between the two of you. If she just blows you off then she wasn't a good friend to begin with and you'd be better off finding someone who cares about you and what your feelings are. Good luck with it. I hope she comes around.
145863
hmm i dunno if this is possible but why dont you both invite them somewhere, cinema whatever as friends, bowling i dunno. See which one of you gets on naturally with him more. you never know there may be a speical bond between a certain two. talk to her afterwards about it and tell her how you feel but say you dont wanna hurt her. at the end of the day, its kinda up to him, it may just wanna be friends with you both!
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It sounds like she just needs some time after her past relationship.  I owuld suggest that you remain her friend through this time and be as close to her as possible.  Maybe if she sees how good of a friend that you are, things will slowly change.  Don't push her to be your girl though.  It will only push her farther away.  Good Luck.
545321
Do nothing.  Even if she dumps the bf, you'd be a rebound.  Just keep your distance, be a friend, but don't push anything.  And if she dumps him and suddenly wants you, don't give in.  You'd be rebound man.  Give it time.  If she actually likes you it will work itself out.  Otherwise, I suggest you keep your options open.
201969
i have been dating one of my bestfriends ex-boyfriend, and weve been together for 3 years, we also plan on getting married. You cant help the person you fall in love with, and who are you to stop something that could be one of the best things that could happen for your best freind? if she really is your best friend then treat her as such dont let something like that bring your friendship down. let them try and see if it wroks out for them, if it does just be glad she found something a lot of people dont get the chance to, and if it doesnt work dont give an i told you so, compfort her as you would if you didnt know the guy. Keep smiling and find you someone who you can have fun with a be real with.
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If she wants to come and you do like her, give it a shot. Don't feel guilty if it doesn't work out because it was her decision just as it is yours. You have to try, that is the way it works. If you are having strong doubts now, though, I would tell her. Maybe you two could start seeing more of each other, like trips back and forth and take it from there.