ive been with my guy for 2yrz..the best 2yrz of my life untill he got arrested and i moved to vegas for school.now my whole family but my mom is trying to keep us apart...how can i let them know  that id reather die then lose him..how can i prove to them that were right for eachother????what can i doo???!?!!?!?
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Maybe you should look at it from your parents' perspective. \n\nIs he in for something violent? Stupid? Maybe they think you will come to harm - if he can screw up his own life, how hard is it for them to imagine he can screw up yours royally? Not very. Could they be right???\n\nGive it a break for a few months. People will cool down, and you can then revisit it. You won't die of loneiness. They were once young too, and given a little time to see themselves in you, who knows how things might turn out.
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oh please! dont even listen to them. just tell, \n\n"dad,mom, i am the one getting married here.i am going to live with this guy for the rest of my life and if i do not have feelings for him, the marriage will never last. i have someone i love and my heart is with him and i am getting married to him. i would really appreciate it if i could get ur blessings, but if not, i will still marry him"\n\nsimple and short! gurl, they wont live with you and this "certain" guy. if they reallly like him, guess wat?they can get married to him. or have him live with them. sheesh!\n\ndo wat ur heart tells u anyway!
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hummmm...my advice, start talking to ur mom abt it and like start to cry and tell her abt how ppl were going out since 6th grade and uv been saving urself 4 some1 thts worthwhile...and mabey even trow in a lil bit of"i want a pure relationship...nothing phisical!" if she has a heart she'll give in or at least reconsider it!!\nhope i could help!!\n**~Lauren~**
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i know how you feel. i have some problems with my family also... i was fourteen when my parents sent me out from china to belize. my mom had my little brother when i was ten, and i couldn't accept the fact right away, and she usually scold me for everything. \nat the point of time, since they are coming and visit you, you should just act normal, and once you have a chance you call up your sister to a place where you guys can speak alone, and you need to tell her how much you are sorry about the past, and your feeling towards your whole family, and that no one can change what had happened, not even god. you need to tell her that you love her and that you are sisters, no matter what you will always be her sister and that no one can change it. people live people dies, and that you are sorry that your dad died, but nobody would want that to happened. you were just simply in love with someone that the family didn't wanted to accept and tell her that life is short, if she will continuing mad at you, then you couldn't do nothing more better to let her forgive you. Just remember don't yell at her or cry...\n\nwell, good luck, is just a suggestion that i am giving...\n\ngood luck again.
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this sound similar to what I went through. THe only difference is that my dad didn't step in. I pretty much grew up making mistates and learning from them on my own. I don,t recommend this at all. Get involved with her. Don't punish cause at this age they think that parents don't know any thing. Try to spend quality time with her and gradually talk about whats going on in her life. Remind her that you love her and want the best for her. Let her know that for any reason, you are there for her. Somewhere in your conversations ask her about her boyfriend. Even if you have to pretend, make her think that you see where she is coming from. 16 year olds need to know that their dad will be there for all of their life, even the mistakes. My dad just pretty much let me live and learn. I think I turned out o.k. but I still wish I would of had the guidance from my dad. My mom died when I was 10 and it was really hard for him, but he did not seek help. I really hope that things get worked out. Don't give up and try your best to be involved with your CHILD. She is still your child. The mom needs a good talking to. She is alot of the reason that your daughter is doing what she is doing. Explain your concerns and she is you can meet in the middle some where or at least come to some understanding on why this is not appropriate. She has alot of influence on her. Good luck.  Contact me and let me know how it goes.
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Loving someone is not a crime. You or your bf would have to be caught at something that is actually illegal and turned in. If that were to happen then some one could go to jail. You are old enough to do what you want to do. If your mother and sister don't like it, then to hell with them. Mom raised you, now that is done. Time for Mom to let go. You are going to have to put your foot down on this. Do what you want to do, so long as you don't break any REAL laws.
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I wudn't go on any1's.......Tell them that u love both of them dearly and u wudn't wanna lose any1 of them, but it's there fight and they shud be able to get out of it... Give them time and practice ur statement. GOOD LUCK!!
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If you think you're doing well with your aunt, then stay with her. Make decisions that will benefit and help you. As for your brothers in Michigan, there's alway email, snail mail or telephone to contact them and still have some sort of communication. I know that your Mom and Dad doing drugs is not a good thing not only for them but for you as well, so why not talk to them. Encourage them to have a better life free from drugs. Be an influence to your family by doing the right things. I know you can do it. Just handle the situation with an open mind and heart.
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Keep talking to your brother,he seems to be the only person in your family acting like a grown-up!You are entitled to your beliefs and he is your brother,losing him would be like losing an arm,so keepthe lines of communication open and hopefully your parents and sister will come round,good luck,stay strong.
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An honest answer is usually a good thing but not always appreciated it might just be easier and more tactful to tell them that at the time the plans were made it sounded like a good idea  but after some soul searching and consideration you feel that things are different now and it wouldnt work out like planned and you would rather not put any more strain on an already strained relationship. They may not like it very much my parents hated it when I moved out of the town that I grew up in and I kept telling them I would come back.  It took me six years to finally come back after having cut everyone in my family out of my life to have them finally figure out that I dont do things the same way they do and that I am entitled to my life and opinions. After a long time and a lot of relearning in our family we have a great relationship.  There is always hope for the future but you must consider what is best for you and not what is best for them if it is not in keeping with what you want and need. Much easier to tell them now that it wont work out then to move back and have it all fall apart in six months to a year and bring even more division to the family. Good Luck with your choice.
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Im sorry to hear about that too.  Im about to lose everything too.  My dad doesn't have much money, or his drivers license, or anyone to watch my lil brothers.  My mom just left for another man, and she pays most of the bills in the house.  So i guess im about to experience what you've been experiencing. But anyways, homegurlz right.  Dr.Phil or Oprah aint going to help you any.  They are way to buissy with their television and stuff.  But never give up hope gurl. So here is the number to Dr. Phil if you want to know, (323.461.PHIL ).  You have to leave your name and your number and a message.  Sorry about your dad too.  I hope he really gets to see his Grandchildren.  If you live around your aunts, uncles, cousins or anybody, ask them to take you and your boys to your dads house.  They might be willing to help out, you never know.
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Has he left before and came back?  Then You have to worry.  If He has been violent before, pack some things and You and Your Mom get out.  You know How intense He has been in the past, and what He may or may not have done, before that You need to be concerned about.  Just go to Your Mom and talk to Her, calm Her down, tell Her You are in this together.  If He has been abusive He may have made her think she can't make it without Him.  If You pray, get on Your knees and Pray with Her, that all will be OK, and that the two of You will be Safe, and You Both will make it fine, together.  My heart is with You, no one should have to go through this, especially a Child.  God Bless, and Best Wishes
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you said that you and your mother were close.do you still love her? i would have a heart to heart talk with her and ask why she wants paid or that when she helps she wants something in return.ask her if she loves you. if she says yes, then i would say do i have to pay you for your love mom? tell her that if you had a car that you would help her if she were in a bad situation like you and that you would not expect money or favors.love is uncondtional. love is not selfish or rude.as far as your boyfriend goes, he is angry because he has a caring family and they love him and help him without favors . it hurts him to see your mom do you wrong and thus he gets angry. pray for your mom and show her love even though it might not be returned.in the long run she will miss that love when you are gone and married with a family of your own.some people dont know what they are missing till its gone.
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You are so damn lucky that dad love you want you to live with him..... Guess what? My Mom and Dad have the most awful marriage and they were divorced when I was two and they remarried when i was 18. didn't last 2 months i love my mom and dad and they still put me in the middle between them. \n\nYou so lucky that your Dad love you... I lost my father he died having cancer he died Feb. 2006... UMMM i never get a chance to tell my father I love him wished that He never been like this. Before he died he told my uncle that tell my son I not mad at him and it my fault and I deserved this death. God Damn Him, I never stop thinking about him all my life still to this day.\n\nYou go and see what he is capable of and once you know that he same father that he love you and your brother and go live with him....Most kids stay with mom than dad. and sad part I wish I live with my dad I might help him change him better person but didn't happen.\n\nYou so lucky to have Dad that want you live with him and being there for you. That I don't have, I still missed my father so much that hurts me most that My mom hid me from my dad.\n\nWish you luck......and you are only 15 hrs from your mother.
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hey bro.. me again..well as i said... been there happened to me..my case similar..though she was living down the street..as for what u v done with not talking to her its the right thing..its difficult otherwise not to think about them 24*7... my x had got engaged and that's y we d broken up.. as far as the family is concerned keep u r distance... don be rude as i can tell that's not gonna be u...be polite... mom likes u huh??? what is this now i have to get my life copyrighted...?lol.. ne ways what i think is send her sis flowers and something but don think u should go there...cause if u do it ll just bring the memories flooding back...\nand we don want that.. what we do want is to forget this girl and find someone better.. though we sometimes feel we don want someone better we want her.. but we don have her... when we r finally over her and moved on we ll look back and smile and laugh... but i know it hurts now... but u r not alone in your pain... and there r many more pain full things... so chill and get busy with other things... be polite but distant... take care...
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"Various Reasons"  I will trust you when you say none of them are serious.  If I were you, I would put my foot down once and for all.  Tell your Mom and your sister, be nice about it but firm,  that you do not appreciate their back stabbing regarding your wife-to-be.  Tell them you love them all, but you are not going to put up with any more of it.  And if they love you, they will have to make the effort to accept her as well, because YOU love her and that should be reason enough.  Tell them that disrespecting HER is like disrespecting YOU.  And you do not want them to do it anymore.  If they are reasonable people, they will listen and abide.  If they are not, I would simply make myself scarce when it comes to visiting your mother and sister.  Harsh as it may sound, they will get the message and eventually lighten up on your beloved.  CONGRATS on your upcoming wedding and GOOD LUCK!!
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It's a tough situation.  I don't know if this will help you now but maybe later.  My Mom died when I was 12 and my father got a woman that I didn't like.  Grownups need someone to share their lives that they can communicate with in a loving manner.  I realized this and when my Dad asked me if I wanted him to leave her I knew that I could not replace the enjoyment she gave him.  So I told him I was happy that they were together.  He died of cancer a few years later, but they were happy years for him.  I guess adults need to feel affection and support from their partners and you may find benefits in having 1 parent, if not both, who are more content. I sympathize with you, just try to concentrate on your own life for now.  Things always change.