I haven't heard from my friend in awhile, not sure if she is angry at me (for absolutely nothing, I promise!), or if she's just busy. If she is angry at me, I'm kinda angry at her to be honest, because it's a stupid reason (i.e. not liking the same colour of paint as her- that's not it btw, but similar!)\n\nDo I make the first move to see if shes angry (and possibly seem like a loser) or let her ring me (which, if she really is angry at me, may never happen!)?\n\nThanks everyone!
126933
Yes, make the first approach.   If it's something that really is no big deal, then just apologize for it and get on with the friendship.
654520
hey chill yaar....don't b upset....realx\nthe first thing u gotta do is "talk to her"...if she doesn't answers ur call...go to house and meet her its better to make things clear....u shud have done that long back....but hey its never  tooo late...u sau that sh din not called u back it cud be that she must have waited for her call but since u did not call...even she didn't alled u.....when in friendship u shouldn't let pride and ego interfere...neither u shud wait 4 ur friend to come to  an apologise or ta clear misundertanding....theres nothing wrong if u r the first one to do so if its going to do good to ur relationship....so just don't think bout anything go and talk to her.....ask her wat went wrong...clear he doubts if any....ask her to listen to u just once....and relax theres dfinately something good in "everything"\n\ngod bless\nkeep smiling\nle gran\n...sne...
345827
Don't go out with him. and call your friend, and see why she is mad with you. Tell her that you, just consider him a friend. and that because you are her friend/ you would not do that to her. That your friendship means more to you then any thing. So please do not be mad at me. I have not done nothing to you. Lets see what she has to say about this!
652456
The last time I answered an "urgent" question, the questioner never came back to pick a Best Answer.\n\nBut, anyway, here goes...\n\nIf you're going to play that silly game of "I'm busy over here with my friends" then be prepared to suffer the consequences. Basically, you snubbed her a number of times and she ended doing a "f*ck you too, buddy" on you. Then you wonder why...\n\nWakey, wakey. If you're ever going to have a chance with this girl then you need to stop playing games and communicate with her normally, treat her with respect and just let it lie for now.\n\nIf this is how you typically behave then we now know why she dumped you.
495657
I think you're right about having the right to know if she's considering it.  I also think that you might mess things up if you pressure her too much.  Atleast give her a day or two before you start pressing the issue again.  Hopefully within those 48 hours she will get back to you.  When you do call her, if she doesn't call you, try to keep it casual and let her have some sort of oppurtunity to tell you what she thinks before you flat out ask.
645702
Yes, she's blowing you off.  Try to make her jealous by making a new friend, and maybe she will want to spend more time with you. She doesn't sound like a very good friend.
381141
Apologize again- letting her know you are not trying to get back together, that you just feel sincerely sorry for what you said and that it was uncalled for etc. She may be worried that she'll have to do the rejecting bit again, and no one likes that!
346164
Don't talk to her - as long as you keep reacting (which is what she is after) you'll never get rid of her.  Ignore her calls/texts etc and never retaliate..if she tops herself it is not your fault..she obviously has serious issues and this is probably her M.O so do the smart thing and cut all contact..for good.
666783
Well, she did give you a heads up that she would be busy this weekend. I'm sure this is question requiring a sensible answer from a female. But what i would think is wait till after the weekend and maybe just one more day. If no reply, two possibilities, a)She's REALLY busy b)Something's wrong between you two. Face things as they come and dont get paranoid. And ease up on the emails and texts.
188014
you are a mess ! talk to her and see if she comes back . if not , keep on truckin'
504989
what your friend did to you was horrible. I think it's really up to you what you want to do from here- do you want to confront them and have it all out, or would you rather just get away from the situation before it consumes you? Either way, your friend doesn't deserve to be your friend anymore so i would forget about her and move on, clearly she's a pretty low person for wanting your ex.
393393
Firstly if I were you, I wouldn't call at 7:00. Have you been keeping contact with him throughout the month, or is this the first you've heard from him? If it is the first you've heard from him, I would most definitely not call until like..... 8:15 - 8:45. Make it seem like you haven't been waiting for him, and that you've got better things to do than abide to his schedule. \n\nAs for what to say to him..................... if y'all are still cool,  I don't think it should matter, talk to him like he was just another friend. But again, if I WERE YOU (lol) I wouldn't say much, and I'd give off a "what-is-it-you-need-from-me" kinda attitude.\n\nYa. I'm rude. \n"You must not know 'bout me, you must not know 'bout me............" lol
590737
My first question is this: are you sure he's ignoring you? There may be a perfectly valid reason. Did you send him an email and he just hasn't responded? Did you send him an IM that he didn't reply to?  Did you call and leave a vmail and not get a call-back?\n\nFirst, make sure that he is not out-of-town on a family emergency. If you are positive that he has been receiving your messages and purposely not responding to you, only then should you proceed with what I call my secret weapon: the handwritten letter.\n\nWrite him a letter that says the following:\n1. Intro paragraph. Tell him that you really value your friendship and that you are concerned about him. He has not been responding to your calls/ims/emails like he normally does, and you would like to know what's wrong.\n\n2. Body. Tell him that you are not sure if there is anything going on in his life (maybe he is depressed and not speaking to anyone? maybe a relative passed away and he is trying to cope with the loss?), but that you want to be there for him because you care about him. He should know that he can call you any time, day or night.\n\n3. Body, Part II. Tell him that if nothing is wrong, that you were worried that he was angry with you. Describe your last interaction and how you thought that all was well between you at that time. Apologize in advance if you offended him and assure him that it was completely unintentional. Finally, tell him that if it was something that you did, that you would like to talk about it.\n\n4. Finally... Tell him that you miss talking to him and hope that everything is ok. Tell him that you were thinking of some fun time that you guys shared together and that you hope to see him soon. Tell him to take care of himself and sign it \n\nYour friend always,\nXXXXXX\n\nThen, deliver it straight to his door or mail it to his house. Either way, nothing has the impact of a handwritten note in terms of sincerity and thoughtfulness. Try it. I promise he'll be back in no time. ;)
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i Think you should call the person and ask them politely but firmly why they haven't called you. if they say something like I've been busy or caught up with things, let it slide this once. if this is not the the first time they did this, you should ask them how come they couldn't give me a call at least to see how u were doing. it depends on how long you have been with the person, if its a serious, and other things like that.\n  in my opinion, i address thee problem with them after the 5th day i hadn't heard from them.
490964
Be happy for your friend. Let her have her own time to shine....like you had your time. I can totally see why you'd be upset, though. It'd make me the same way. The only thing I can tell you to do is to deal with it. You may cause a fight if you show your jealousy. Let her have her time in the spotlight, and soon, her time will fade as well. Good luck!
155778
I don't think anybody else can really help you with this, brotha. It's all based on the decision you make. My advice is if you're digging her, go for her. If you want to be a jerk, go for everybody else. It's not that I'm calling you a jerk, but how do you think she would feel about the whole thing?
3478
Yes, a woman with whom I was a really good friend (I will call her Jane) just turned on me and almost refuses to talk to me now. We don't live near each other anymore, so it's not as big a deal now as it once was. But I have no idea what I did or said to turn her against me. I am one who has really good relationships with people and long-term friendships. So this really took me by surprise.\n\nJane and I used to spend hours together every week and a lot of time on the phone. We were both members of the same professional association. I saw her there and she was really rude to me like I had offended her in a big way. \n\nI am still mystified by this situation and it took place nearly eight years ago. I was told, by a mutual friend who asked me about the break up that Jane had done this in other relationships. That made me feel a little less confused, but I am still saddened by the loss of what I considered a great friendship.