my parents don't wanr me hangin around mean kids and being under an influence. HELP!!!!!!!!! please. i don't know where to go.
123682
You can go to a public school, but to keep the peace with your parents, you can have a wise choice in friends. Choose people that you like and your parents wouldn't have a big problem. Don't fall into the influence and you'll be fine. Some people need some problems in their life though, so they can know how to deal with them properly if it happens in the future.
302408
Karo is absolutely right. First step: Tell your parents, then your responsibility is done. Then you go on doing the right thing so your parents can handle your sister and not worry about you.\n\nOh, wait--I just read your details--do your parents already know?  Then they are going to have to get outside help. Unfortunately, it is fairly expensive. Tell them to start with the doctor, she will need medical evaluation, a psychiatric workup, and then probably placement in a rehab. My husband and I just put his 16 year old son in a place in Utah. First we tried two different military schools, but his bad behavior just escalated.\n\nFirst step:  enlist help of her pediatrician or doctor. Also, talk to counselor at school.\n\nAnd again, you need to be a help to your parents here, but the biggest help you can be is to just be your normal, good kid self-- do your homework, keep your body, room and clothes neat and clean, don't sass your parents, and stay away from bad people and drugs.
212390
Go to a counsler a teacher a friend someone you can trust. Get out of there! Remember Jesus said we should love one another? Well abuse is not loving you. Find some family you can life with that are not like your parents! Please! and killing yourself..... suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem remember that!
648852
From my experience, coming home late or breaking curfew was a major way of testing my parents trust. Considering your ages, I am surpised that your parents are so restrictive. Ask yourself, what is this 'bad' that they think you're doing? Did your parents come from deeply religious families? Were your parents also restricted by their parents? What about her parents? It may not be fair, or make a whole lot of sense these days, but that could explain some of their methods. Do you or your girlfriend have troubled pasts, maybe trouble with the law? Did you ever have a truancy problem with school? Don't think that I am blaming their behavior on you, I just want you to think of all  possibile reasons. It almost sounds like you two live a bit far away from eachother, and that might explain why you're only allowed to see eachother twice a week, and talk on the phone for only half an hour a day. Have I nailed it yet? No? Okay, parents may not seem to make any sense some of the time, but they are your parents. Like it or not they have say into your relationships. The more you show respect for them and their wishes, usually the more trust they'll have for you. So if you're considering sneaking around after dark or anything like that, don't try it. Chances are you'll get caught, and just imagine how often you'd get to see her then? Probably not at all. I know this is a hard time for you both, you're almost legal adults, but until you turn the magic age of 18, you just have to bite down and endure this. You will get through this, just be patient with her and your parents. I am going to assume that talking with your parents wont make much of a difference, but there is nothing wrong with trying. Ask them what it is that they fear so much, and do your best to put that fear to rest. Assure them that you intend to follow their wishes, and do so when you're out with her. If they see that you're true to your word, the less likely they are to shorten the leash. I get the feeling that their fear is your sexual activity. It is my personal opinion that you two are at the ages when your sexuality is your business, however a parent will feel like your business is always their business. You can be 50 years old, and they'll still consider you their baby. Being that your sexuality is your business, I hope you wont mind if I give you a piece of advice: protect you and your girlfriend and use a condom every time. Anyway, you will get through this, I promise. Good luck.
590967
hang out with idiots, eventually you'll become an idiot too.\nits a fact of life.\nchoose your friends wisely.\nyour 18 by the way. if ur so responsible why dont u leave your house and get your own apt or something then you won't have to listen to your dad.
333010
my mom's side is allergic to anything alcoholic and my dad's side goes overboard to the point of killing themselves. it is not a chance that i feel comfortable taking. i don't have any friends that have a "problem". however, in high school they used drugs. they don't now. hubby used for a bit. before we met he said that he had a "drinking problem" and stopped. very seldom he has a drink.\n\ni know of a girl that has a severe drug problem, i don't think that she will admit it to herself. she would rather buy drugs than food for the kids, lives with her mom-at age 31, doesn't know how to drive and mooches off of everyone that she can. people are getting wise, thank goodness. she's on he 4th kid, now and her 3 year old knows how to use the word "bong" correctly in a sentence. scary, huh?
495683
Oh Kirk - you need to get out of there as soon as you can.  You deserve better.  There is help and support out there. No one has the right to treat you like that.  Are there any agencies you could contact ? And please contact your mom or another close relative or someone you feel you can trust.  I guess you much feel totally alone and scared and adults have not exactly been a source of trust for you.  Believe me you need to get out.  I wish I could help  I truly do.  I am in Scotland.  I am not surprised that you feel so bad about your life.  IT IS NOT your fault please believe that.  Contact someone and get yourself to safety.
83131
yeah im working on this too but my parents are all about grades and shit not that stuff. uhhh what im doing, and it seems to be working, is to take more responsibility and like do crap around the house without them asking. come home when ur told, do stuff u wouldnt normally do, make sure u can do everything to help them out that u possibly can. suck up, be a tool, good luck.
563690
You can't fix his problem. A drug abuser has to stop on their own. You just have to do what is best for you and your child. LEAVE! If you don't have the money to get your own place, do you have family or friends you can turn to for help until you are financially stable? It's time to swallow your pride and ask for help. Good luck.
592759
Let me ask you this, are you going to local college? Can you get a dorm? Alot of schools have programs w/ $$ assistance where you can get a dorm room too. I would def. look into removing yourself from the sittuation b/c then you could be better able to help them clean up their lives. If they are supporting you $$ you may need to gather up some family and friends and do some type of intervention. Know that thay will resent you for a while, but I'm sure the drugs&drinking are contributing to how they treat you. There are some great family couselors out there and many progs. to which your family would benefit. Things will prob. get worse b/f they get better, but hang in there.
78951
Did you try telling them..If not just don't be anywhere near them alone. Tell your parents and take appropriate action.
170173
I hope that you can talk to your mom to ask her to tone it down around your friends,,,,, I sure that she would understand ,,,, if she wont dont let her be the reason that you cant bring friends home...... Good Luck!!
448434
Sweetheart, the problems of your parents are exactly that-their problems.  You are not a cause of it.  I know that you feel like they don't care about you but they choose to have you, I am sorry they yell at you.  Try talking to your school counselor or your pastor.  You are not to blame.  But sweetie, if you run away you don't make the situation any better for anyone.  Life on the streets isn't pretty, you will get hurt!  Please stay home and talk to someone first and if nothing changes there are other alternatives.  Please don't do it.   Someone does care!!
103885
Tell your parents right away and take them and yourself down to the police station to report them!!\n\nDO NOT let them intimidate you ... that is unacceptable!!
516813
Talk with your parents about this, and perhaps the schools guidance councellor.  The children there seem quite unruly and I think what you describe only happens when there is no adult supervision around.  They may have no clue it's going on ... except for the broken items you mention.  You need to let adults know there's a problem .. start with your own parents and follow their guidance.
491267
you were wrong for drinking in the car, and underage. i don't blame your cousin for leaving you, he did not want someone drinking in the car which is also against the law. you both could have been in big trouble for your dumb actions. he could have lost his driving privileges. where were your parents?
24990
You are my kind of sister, Loving_Christ. Keep obeying your parents until you are out on your own. Use your computer to go to church. Here are a few links where you can start.\n\nYou can write me if you need more help or direction.\nhttp://www.schneblin.com/studies/\nclick on the link... "email the author"