If you're living together than ain't you already commited?
124741
Im terrified of commiting...to anything! Im so scared that I'll make the wrong decision, that I dont make any decision at all? Strange.
176340
I did.\n\nMy marriage was in danger of falling over.\n\nIf a person is truly committed, they will do this. At the very least, go for yourself and clarify things in your mind.
482303
Sounds as if both of you are not ready to marry.
212078
you definitely should. isn't it time that the both of you made another step toward the ultimate commitment to each other? you have been together this long and have already talked about getting married. i think you should do it. god bless both of you.
613293
Commit to her! If you’re not ready to make a commitment, break things off with her. Otherwise, you are just using her.
197991
no. even if you think that the person with you now is the one you really love, you need to save some for yourself :)
111825
no! you must learn to live with someone before you marry them. This way you will know EXACTLY what your getting yourself into yes?
142793
My dear . . . it is normal . . . especially when you were in a situation where you were sharing expenses with someone else . . . to assuming responsibilities for your own action.\n\nYou are doing the correct thing . . . I wished you would have done that in the beginning . . . instead of moving in with a boyfriend.  I believe because of that . . . you were hooked into a tied circle . . . where you had no freedom.\n\nNow you will be free . . . to make your own choices in life.  Seize them . . . treasure them.\n\nMany people and couples live from paycheck to paycheck . . . it is normal and scary at times.  Check to see if you could find a roommate . . . to share the apartment with you.  Split the cost . . . of your living expenses.  That may give you a little breathing room . . . but make sure you get a written agreement with them to take care of certain responsibilities . . . in case you have to take legal action.\n\nYou can do it . . . I believe in you . . . I trust in you . . . it will be hard . . . but you are strong.
405421
It sounds like both yours and his priorities are noncommittal. Seeing each other when convenient should be enough for now. If this was love you would not have to ask this question.
324493
You love each other. If he is earning and have a house to stay, proceed and marry. Rest of the things will fall in line.
337193
It depends...how long have you two known each other and who will be making the sacrifice to move away? Let me guess you'll be the one. What are you leaving behind and is moving really worth it? Have you two known each other long enough?
599028
Now my spouse makes me feel complete. It only took 30 years. All I can say is you have to compromise. If you fight, you can't leave , you can ignore each other until everything cools down. I watched my sibblings leave their spouses time and time again, they always went back. That was time wasted. Work things out. There are no 2 people perfectly compatable. You have to work at it. Even now , we are not even 80% compatable, but there was no way, even 10 years ago that I was gonna start over. You probably found the right person, but how would you know , now? Good luck.
479550
that is not a reason to stay together.  If you don't love each other than move on.
514050
At the time you may not see it this way but my motto is "everything happens for a reason". You can't always see the reason at the time but later on you will look back down the road and agree. Don't stress the situation so much, both of you should talk about making compromises, and just go with the flow. Things will happen in due time and if its meant to be it will be!
43699
Sounds like your already married to each other.Congratulations.
282488
Don't do anything that you will regret later.  Something does not seem right here.  If the guy you are living with is so great, you would not be thinking of another guy.
532098
I moved in with a guy after 7 months before.. I think it ruined our relationship.  I will never live with a man until I am married now.  It seems crazy to commit to someone that much when you haven't decided if you like them enough to spend everyday (rest of life) with.  Esentially that is what you are doing.. spending the rest of your life together... so it is putting way to much into the relationship. \n\nI would suggest moving out and still dating.  You can take a baby step backwards.. He might think it is a good idea too.  It might save your realationship.\n\nGood Luck :-)