im 16, 5'6, carmel complexion, full lips and pretty eyes i got a great body so why the hell cant i find a man. I see less attractive women with boyfriends and i have a great personality so what am i doing wrong
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Be yourself, don't worry about other women. Believe me you want the right guy not just any guy that will date you,be content with who you are.
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Its hard to say why girls are not attracted to you. It could be anything. Don't try so hard. Stop looking for a girlfriend. Try finding someone that has the same interests as you. Looking for women in bars and clubs doesn't always work. Try the internet, chats, clubs...etc.  Let them get a chance to know you as a person. Then see if can develop into something else.
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Please allow me to say this.  Whats even more important to a decent man then looks is confidence.  If you want to be happy, start with yourself, with your life.  Find your own goals, work towards achieving them.  Find out what you can do well, and work to excell at that.  Most men would really like to sleep with someone that looks like a runway model, but few would stay with them if thats all they are, a bit of fluff with no interests, or if they aren't happy with themselfs or their life.  If you can find happiness just being you, everything else will fall into place.  Besides, your 17, give it time.  It took me longer then 17 years to figure out who I was and what I wanted from life.  Good Luck.
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Go out man......looking for love on the internet should be a last resort. IF you are "hunky" then there should be little to no problem meetin a decent girl. Good Luck with that
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*this is a long one*\n\nIt's understandable that you feel bad because you're not getting the kind of treatment your "attractive" friends are getting, but there's a lot going on here.\n\nGuys, from a very young age, are told what is attractive and what isn't. It has to do with the era, culture, ethnicity, and a million other things. It also has to do with the fact that it's a bar. Although people meet each other and form legitimate relationships all the time in bars, most often when alcohol and women are involved it's about sex. The men in there may care about your beautiful personality, intelligence, creativity, talents, etc. but that isn't the first thing they're looking at.\n\nPeople always say that men exploit women. To a degree this is true, but if it's one thing I've learned it's that women are terrific at exploiting the things that men like to get what they want. You girls aren't stupid, even those who pretend to be. Men for the most part aren't difficult to figure out when it comes to attracting us visually. \n\nWith that out of the way, don't get yourself down because you aren't the standard that pop culture deems hot. Every single woman is beautiful, no matter what age size or color. What matters most is how beautiful you acknowledge yourself to be, no matter what anyone else thinks. Because in the end, you can't control what they think or how they feel, and although there are ways to make yourself more attractive to them, it's only a shallow experience and you shouldn't have to change things about yourself to please others.\n\nI'm not one of those people who's going to tell you that there's someone out there guaranteed to be perfect for you, who just happens to love everything about you and treats you the way you deserve to be treated. If you find that person you're very lucky, because most of us out there just have to settle or lie to ourselves. \n\nWhat I am going to tell you though, is that there are men out there who acknowledge and appreciate physical features, but value the beautiful personality underneath. You're probably not going to run into one of these men at a bar. Where do you find them? There isn't one set place where we all congregate, that's the problem that goes both ways, for finding men and women alike.\n\nThink about this though: Next time you're at the bar, check out the wallflowers. Chances are there's a guy out there who doesn't get approached by the beautiful women, who may be insecure himself but like you has a lot to offer beyond physical appearances that conform to a standard. Talk to him, ask him to buy you a drink, if you feel like it offer to buy him a drink, see how that goes. Be yourself. This could easily end up being the most fun for you, because you'd be surprised how eager the person in the corner is to connect with someone else if they were just given the chances. If not, at least you interacted and didn't have to sit aside feeling hurt that people aren't approaching you.\n\n\n\nBut after all this, and I'm not saying it is this way, don't have a double standard or be hypocritical. Don't judge the guys on physical appearance alone. You know you're worth a lot more than your looks alone, and so are they. So is everyone.
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You will have better luck finding a boyfriend when you stop looking for one.\nJust be happy and don't worry about someone finding you.\nIf you're happy he will find you.
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There are alot of men who are for real. You just haven't found one yet. Keep looking and always have good self esteem
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I am a girl of 22 years old and have had a lot of experience with guys. I am not shy and will ask a guy face to face what he looks for in a gal... from what i have been told guys look for "normal" girls. most hate it when a girl cakes her face in makeup and trys too hard to look "nice" what guys want is for a girl to have personallity rather than looks. thats the honest truth. They dont want a really ugly girl when theyre young coz they dont wana lose in front of their mate.... so be yourself and be confident and whatever you don DONT change the way you look or act to impress anybody be proud of you and be confident with yourself and youll have the guys flooding at you...promise. xx
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Just continue to live your and be confident in yourself. Don't seem so desperate and anxious. It's okay, everything will come in time. So what you're obese? You know what that means? You weed out all the shallow people and you'll find someone really good. Thats how it was for me...I was 17 when I had my first kiss..and I was kinda fat...and I eventually lost 55 pounds about. But I was glad someone accepted me for me. All the time I was down because I didnt have a boyfriend and everyone else had one and when I was least expecting to meet someone, I did. I was with that person for about a year too. Realize how beautiful you are without a boyfriend and then one will come.
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You have to think of Yourself First. Forget about how men see you. Start thinking to make youself a better person.\n\nExecise, lose weight...if you are in shape get some interest like a hobby or some good reading...build some "new you" but not because you have to boost confidence with men, do it because you must boost confidence "in Yourself". You look in the mirror and you think.."I like you now.."\nWhen you have reached this point you will see strange things happening to you...Men will be attracted to you as ever before, even if you were ugly..Why? Because your  self-confidence send out a message, like a scent, telling men that you are OK you are the woman they are looking for, and all of this because you spent time building that confidence\nFOR YOURSELF BECAUSE YOU ARE A GREAT PERSON. DO IT FOR YOU::
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doesn't sound like you have a very high opinion of yourself so that's going to be your first problem in finding true love.\nbeyond that, i don't think very many handsome guys are looking for ugly guys but i am sure there are some...keeping hoping
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Maybe you have met the wrong type of men on line.  Maybe it's your yahoo ID.  I am not an expert on this but there could be a few reasons behind it.  But I pick one of these two reasons.  I hope that things get better for you in the future and maybe everything will be OK.  Good luck in finding nice honest guys.  Take care.
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Not all girls are. But you have to ask yourself, are you superficial.  A lot of guys in your position look for a hot chick, when there could be a perfect girl for you that isn't the most beautiful or the skinniest.  If you aren't superficial then you'll find her eventually. If you are, prepare for heartbreak.
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You have discovered one very wonderful way of finding a man who is right for you! Sure, you can meet guys who may be attracted to various things about you, but if he doesn't respect your choice (which IS a Right Choice, btw), then he obviously is NOT THE GUY FOR YOU!\n\nThink of it this way. There are 6 billion people on this planet. ONE is meant for you....\nSo you will definitely have to sift through and be picky.\n\nDon't give in! Find friends who help you stay strong! PRAY! You have resources that will help you. Trust in The Lord!\n\nBUT WAIT... WHY IS IT THAT ONE OF YOUR ANSWERS DEALS WITH THE SIZE OF MEN'S PENISES? BE CAREFUL... you may be PLAYING WITH FIRE.
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To get a guy's attention you just have to be yourself...If the guy can't see how great a person you are then he is just a loser. Also it's his loss if he can't see it. Plus the guy should be so lucky to know a girl like you. I think the more mature guys look for other qualities other then looks, but I'm thinking that teenage guys are normally for the looks. Good Luck!
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STOP LOOKING, they don't exist!!!   I've Searched High & Low!  All men are like that it's in their genes   ....the secret is that you got to learn how to handle them, manipulate them, train them to your every command.   The ones that don't participate are the ones that become Alcoholics or otherwise known as the loser you see every night in the pub on falling around on the street dribbling. Depressed coz they can't find a women that finds the smell of booze, drink, kebab and puke attractive.\n\nThe secret is that you have to make them think that your great idea was actually there idea.  Be it buying you a new car, new house, jewellry, taking you out for the night, spending a night in together, you going out with your mates etc etc etc.  \nIt's then and only then that you will find happiness with a man.
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Like you said good looking and fit right.  That is the first thing you look for apparently and until you don't have them in the begin part then maybe something might work out for you.\n\nI will say this much I will admit this to the whole world I am not the greatest looking according to the media but I am happy with who I am and where I am going in life.  I have lost 123 pounds yet no guy that are GOOD LOOKING will look at me but I don't care I would rather have someone who is down to earth and smart for that matter.  They are worth of my time no matter how ugly they may think they are.