i admit that he is so caring, sweet.. and he loves to spoil his gf.. maybe thats the reason why there are so many girls who want to be with him... i caught some of his past gf??? in his cp, but he kept on telling me that they are his past.. so i believe him maybe its true, but the last time i caught was the girl he called "mahal" so i confront him and i broke up with him.. but he cried with my aunt and some of our officemates.. the prob is until now i feel that i am cheated.. please help me..
131809
You know what, there are situations or incidents that looks like cheating but actually they don't, they are just very hard to explain and also hard to believe or understand. And that is what's happening to you right now, you find it hard to believe what he explains. Ok, let's say that he is really cheating on you, why can't you frogive him and give him a second chance if you truly love him? Everybody deserves a second chance if he only did this once. I'm also in that situation when my fiance cheated on me a mont ago, I also tried to kill myself eventhough I know its not the right thing to do, but after I was hospitalized, we met again and I forgave her for what she has done eventhough it is against my family, that is how I love her so much, I forgave and trusted her again. That is LOVE... Try reconsidering him again, maybe you were just carried away of your emotions and your anger, set your pride aside first and try to understand what he is explaining. But if you feel that there is no sincerity within him, be honest and that is the right time to break-up with him...
208556
I reckon you already know deep down. personally i think he probably is telling the truth.  if his behaviour towards you never changed and he really is as nice and kind as you say he is i cant imagine why he'd do such a thing, especially with someone like the girl you're talking about. she sounds like a right old tramp! chill out and talk to him about it. good luck!
632274
o  hell nawll gurl forget that sucka....he sounds like an arrogant playa if he would say some sh@t like that straight out...like your lucky to have him and should just be happy that he still talks to you...gurl you can find somebody thatll treat you good even after the chase is over, because if he treats you like a trophy after he done claimed you as his girl then what you think he gone do afta yall done had sex or spend the money up hell be gone out the door faster than you can blink....the truth is when you first meet he lied and tricked you...probably made you think that he was romantic and sensitive when really hes been taking notes form the playas handbook....most of my guy friends say they do stuff like that to make the girl feel secure so then they can get her to trust them then they hit it and leave....and you only been dating for 3 weeks i can understand his actions afta a couple om months but weeks gurl you can do much betta..trust me i hang with a lot of guys and this guy is looking out for himself an only hisself
96397
It sounds to me like he has some insecurity issues when it comes to women, and he needs to be constantly reassured no matter where he is. He probably does honestly care for you (at least from what you wrote), but he can't truly love anyone else until he learns to love himself, and if he does this to every female that crosses his path, then he is not there yet. The best thing you can do in my opinion, is let him know how you feel, and when he starts freaking out and calling you names, simply tell him that you deserve a guy who will treat you better and not make you feel uncomfortable..then walk AWAY. If the behavior continues, there is not much more you can do except leave him and let him work out his issues. Good Luck.
186483
If she really was a stalker, he would have told you about her by now.  You said this is a long-term relationship, so he would have confided that informatiojn in you.  He is lying, and I am a guy!!!  Sorry, dude, you are busted.  Move on, sister, he is not being faithful to you and why has he not made a committment to you?  At the very least, he is being emotionally unloyal to you even if he has done nothing with this online "girlfriend."  It has a long time.  Move on.  P.S.  I am married, so I am not saying this to get you or anything.  I know from experience that guys "cheat" on girlfriends with online hussies.
433579
You have very low self esteem. If your boyfriend doesn't give you any means to react this way then YES it's all in your head. You have probably been hurt,lied,cheated or deceived in the past. Well that's the past. You have to look ahead to the present/futur now. Just because others have deceived you doesn't mean that your present boyfriend will. You have to take a chance in life and open your heart. It's better to have Loved and Lost to have never had Loved at all. Have a little faith and trust in him. But if he does deceive you then hunt him down and shoot him. hahaha !
360623
You say in your profile that you are sexy....and intelligent.\nSo show some intelligence. He is not your soul mate - you are his sold -mate... bought and sold good and proper. \n\nWhat is this 'love'? A reaction to the way he is mis-treating you? Does it align with how you were treated in the past? \n\nIf this were true 'soul-love' there would be no question. He is clearly lacking in integrity... the girlfriend with kids are not being properly looked after, and neither are you. If he leaves them for you - how could you trust him. \n\nThere are plenty of other men around who would be so much better for you. Don't get so lost on the physical attraction, coz that's all this seems to be. Not love... love is reciprocated. This doesn't appear to be. \n\nOkay, so we're only getting a short bit of one side of this, but read all of the comments here, girl... we've all seen enough - on both sides of the gender divide - to know when you are being done over.\nAnd you are. \nLike a kipper.
470196
I would find some else because this person is not loyal to his own girlfriend,and he sounds like what we call "a two timer" which means he likes to see more than one girl, and if you do see him, a big chance he'll do the same behind your back, so don't fool yourself and get hurt later on....so find someone else who is himself not someone who wants to flirt and show off in front of other people to get your attention....thats being childish on his behalf....seek a guy who likes who you are as an person not what you are....the relationship will go a long way.....
252646
Wow, that hurts!!Be strong and wise girl.It's hard but remember that theres no way you can control him, or his actions, including him leaving his girlfriend. Your probably thinking that you love him and no one will ever compare to him. I'm a girl too, I know how we are.But I'm sure you've felt that way for someone else before him.Look ahead to the love you will find after him...and know that your new man is all yours.Sometimes you have to look at the big picture for what it is. Your man is lying to both of you...is that fair to you or her? Put yourself in her shoes...how would you feel? And I'm sure you've heard that saying that what goes around comes around. Treat others how you wanna be treated. Anyways...trust your gut....it's already telling you to leave...listen to that and find happiness. Good luck with everything and if you ever wanna talk, feel free to contact me! And please dont let that player win the game.
54917
girl , wake up and smell the truth! he is hiding something from you , that is for sure! he either has another girlfriend or he has a secret life ;) but i think the girlfriend thing is more probable
672706
Glad you can admit you're no good to him or any other good guys out there.  Break up with him, coz you're obviously not in love with him and you don't truly appreciate him, and it'll be better for him in the long run.  As for you,  I 'm not sure if you could ever find true love only because you may cheat on the next guy you're with.  I can only assume that you need a lot of attention, and ONE guy can't fully satisfy you.  Do him a favor, leave him...he doesn't deserve you.  Give him a chance to find someone who will love him and appreciate him.  If you're having seconds thoughts about being a whore, then hopefully it will be the last time he will forgive you.  For him not to move on from all this suggests that he has some sort of low self-esteem, AND you sleeping around just adds more to that.  Stop making him miserable, he deserves more than you.  Stop making yourself miserable by "feeling guilt".  If you truly feel this, you wouldn't have cheated on him again and again and again.  Once a cheater, always a cheater.  Good luck on finding the right guy, coz the next guy may not be as a doormat like this current one.  OR the next one will cheat on you too.  So take your pick, karma's a b**ch.  And as you've heard it, what goes around, comes around.  Also, I hope you didn't transfer any STDs to your so-called boyfriend(don't tell me he's just a friend).  You only have yourself to blame.
396531
I agree with you that he could be lying, but let me tell you more about what I think he is,\n\nI believe he never had a gf before and he likes you so much, so if it happens you could be the first one in his life ( I mean he could have no experience so bear with him ) also he is not a kind of a social person but he could try to seem social , he is a dreamer,  he also could be affectionate and romantic if you help him to get over his blushing.\n\nTry not to question if he likes you before you know if you like him first or not, if we respond to admiration we would have had several gfs and bfs, but none one would really love, its only true ones that we should choose, so be careful.
54629
i think he's gotta commitment problem. if u go w/ him, he shows signs of being a potential cheater. go 4 someone else! u can do better.
343289
He has a girlfriend and so you need to put that into perspective. You might like him holding you but how does that look knowing he has someone else? Let him get rid of his girlfriend. Then if he does see if he's still interested in you. If he is then it will be up to the two of you as to what you will call yourselves. As far as the other girls go if theyre calling you a s**t or a sk**k, or some other evil word, then jealousy is about 85% of the problem. The other 15% is that they feel that you are giving yourself up easy because hes is with you all the time. To the these girls you hit them intellectually with facts. If you havent slept with him then let them know that. You cant be a wh**re if you havent done anything with him. The next step is to ignore them. Hard as that may be it works. Its great that you can take these girls on, but dont look to fight them if you dont have to. Especially over some guy. It just aint worth your time. You have a life of your own to deal with. Second and above all else the most important factor. Research this guy some more. What is he doing with you if he has a woman. Maybe he cant get the love, care and attention from her so he seeks it through you. Also you said he asked you out so you know that he likes you. Perhaps then his girlfriend is a front for his true feelings for you. You wont know however until you tell him to clean up his act. If he really likes you he will do what is right, even at the expense of hurting the other girl. Hopefully this can be a stepping stone for you to take action that will give you results. Good luck!
40337
Well was he cheated on you before? Because If not then your being too paranoid. The real sweet thing is that he actually emitted he use to had a crush with her. Just talk to the two at the same time and set the record straight.
324780
He sounds like a good guy from what you say in your question. If he is so caring and meets you all the time, surely he hasn't got time to cheat! Saying that, you can never know what a man will be like further into the relationship.
465088
you women are insecure for sure!\nwhen you think you can sense hes up to no good, you are actually falling for your own delusions. you are nutty.\n\nget over yourselves. so if hes on the toilet for too long and doesnt read your insecure "remind me how much you love me" texts, then hes instantly cheating?\n\nyou are not only insecure but have delusions about your importance too.\n\nmate, if the girl you text rates your interest on the reply time, give her a miss, shes insecure and nutty too.