that she had just come out of a four-year relationship and they think that her current boyfriend is taking advantage of a emotionally vulnerable person (my friend that is). Basically, they think he got her on rebound, which is NOT the case at all. She was unhappy for a year with the ex, and just did not tell anyone. The new boyfriend is not welcome to the house, or call the house -- her parents hang up on him and shut the door in his face. He has attempted to make friends with her parents, and they refuse. My friend is literally depressed about this situation for over a year now. If she moves out, her family will disown her. Her father already does not speak to her for the past year. She has to eventually decide between boyfriend who makes her very happy, or her parents. What should she do?
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Why doesn't your friend tell her parents exactly what you just told me? Any true parents would try to understand, from the heart out. If they can't see that the boyfriend is a true boyfriend, because it's been a year, then she needs to tell them. Both the boyfriend and parents should compromise on a mutual relationship.
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If she stays with him, she is not only hurting herself but him as well. He may be a great person but eventually she will come to resent him because he is not "the one". She is also keeping him from finding someone that really loves him and someone he has a spark with. I hope that she finds what she is looking for. I have also been one that picks the ones that don't want to commit. I wish her luck and hope whatever she decides to do it is the right choice for her!
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First thing first she shouldn't get back together with him, try and talk to him and make him see that they won't work out...and get his family to get him psych help cos he might get really obssessed and do sumthin bad to her but I pray not..Gudluck dear
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Your friend is being really stubborn. It seems to me that she has some deep-seated issues with criticism. (I should introduce her to my best friend — they sound like kindred spirits.) You need to get them both in the same place (don't tell them your plans until you get them together) so they can work out whatever beef she has with him. It's good that your boyfriend at least tried to make amends.
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I think you should tell her exactly what you think; she needs to see how she is contradicting herself through someone else's eyes.  \n\nHer true feelings are that she loves and misses him, so I get the impression that the statement that she "saw no future with him because he's black" actually comes from some outside influence, like her family.  \n\nSo to me she seems conflicted by trying to follow her heart vs. doing what others expect of her.  A true friend will tell it like it is to help her see the situation more clearly.  Hopefully this will encourage her to be true to herself, rather than trying to follow someone else's ideas for who she should be.
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Although my boyfriend is grown, I had to watch him battle with his mother when he decided to get from under her and make life a better for himself. She did everything she could to undermind him. She belittled him, spread rumors, stole from him, brought drama to our home to break us up... You name it, she did it. Eventually he had to cut her completely from his life. It's been eight months since he last seen or spoken to her. What finally did was she lied and called the police on him, trying to get him arrested. I honestly think that something is wrong with her mentally.
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Man, I know what you mean. Sometimes family can be so annoying cauz you didn't pick them :(\nI think you should try to move out as soon as possible if you're unhappy. And I don't believe it's fair for her to not allow your friend to come over. I mean yeah, it's her house, but she could be much nicer about it. Just because it's her house I don't think that gives her the right to control who your friends are.
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do you want to end up having to cope with all her problems on your own , it sounds like she needs help with the eating disorder which may have been triggered by her parents divorcing . if as you say she is horrible to others this may be a way of expressing her feelings , taking her anger out on people close to her . can you speak to an adult and express your concerns and see if they can help you with this . she may need a friend right now but she also needs a lot of help from doctors.
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Yea, I was in that situation before. I finally just had to let go because I couldn't live my life without my mom being there for me. It sucked a lot because we had been together for almost 2.5 years. I just didn't know what else to do either. All I can really suggest is try to talk it out with her. Does she hate her personally or hate her because of the homosexual relationship? Explain to her that homosexual relationships are very accepted in society nowadays (at least way more than when she was growing up) and that you really love this girl but you love her too. Tell her a lot about how you love her and respect her but she should love and respect you too and that she should be supporting you. (A mini guilt trip isn't so bad). I tried to explain that to my mom, and she kinda "dealt with it" after awhile even though she didn't approve. My last bf was much bigger than me, with real long hair (all the way down his back) and he wore all black most of the time. She didn't even know him because she refused to talk to him, yet swore she could tell me what kind of person he was and how he was going to beat and rape me, and yada yada yada even though he was really the sweetest guy ever. Parents just don't understand sometimes and just want you to be like they were when they were kids. Try to come to an agreement. Good luck!!!\n\nPS: Don't do what everyone else is saying and "get a boyfriend," do what makes you happy. You can't live a lie.
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Got a 15 year old daugther going through this right now.  Been her dad and mom for 8 years now.  I don't know what to expect really in the future.  I know right now it's floating between hate and hurt.  I wished I knew how to help, but all I can do is be there for her and let her know dad loves her.
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Please convince her to get out while she still can. \n\nI thought I was reading the story of my sister. She went thru something very similar 1 1/2 years ago. He went to her church, seemed like a stand up guy, they actually dated a short while also before they were married. Again, same scenario, She found out he was a registered sex offender and learned he molested his own daughter. Bad situation. He was also obsessive compulsive and had to have everything just so or else. It took one night, when she was being beat up(for the first time) just for talking with our other sister and while on the phone and that sister switched to her other line and called the police. Then she wised up and got a divorce.\n\nPlease talk to your friend, this is not a good situation for her to be in.\n\nKeep this in mind too. Part of the problem with the world today is people turning their backs because they don't want to get involved out of selfish reasons. Sure, everyone gets worried about things happening to them, but people need to stand up for what is right, and stop letting bad people control everything in our lives.  Stay true to your friend, she needs you.\n\nGood luck and God bless....................
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Honestly what do you expect?  I mean it is your BEST FRIEND'S EX.  Even if she says she's cool about, deep down inside she might not be.  Why don't you ASK her why she keeps bashing your man.  She could be jealous, or she could be telling the truth about how he really acts.  I have two friends who are MARRIED to my ex's, and I'm completely fine with it.  I never knock their hubbies or anything. Of course both of their hubbies are good guys, and I dumped them.
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thats can be a tough one. maybe talk to some other people and of her family members that may have the same concerns. get together as a group...not a very large group. maybe you a friend and a fam member...keep it small so she doesn't feel like she's being attacked all at once. tell her your concerns. get some information ready on women in abusive relationships....ie: support groups or counsellors that specialize in that area. cause this sounds like its developing into a pattern that you want to nip in the bud now before she really gets in the deep end. explain to her that its out of love and concern for her and her well being. there are some obvious self esteem issues there for her if she feels she can't stand up for herself or let this guy treat her like that. all you state though is he is being mean. how is he mean. there is no excuse, but, what the situation is will have something to do with how to handle it. cause he may need help of a couples counsellor. he may not be aware of his behaviour and how its affecting her. and if they talk it out it may be able to resolve the problem. if he is hitting and being physically or verbally abusive......then she should get out. cause someone does not need to put up with that for any reason. he needs help no matter what...but if its gone to that then talk to her. maybe get feed back from other people phone a victim support hotline on the situation. i'm sure it can be anonymous if you call
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she needs to let hm know that he'll never get what he wants. and if he doesn't respect her relationship with her b/f, then she doesn't want to be his friend,either.  if his behavior continues to be negative, she needs to let everyone know, especially her b/f, just incase he is dangerous. (which nobody knows, until it is too late.) and reassure her that she can come to you at anytime and you will help her get the help that she needs.
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He should consider her feelings maybe a tht would be moving to fast or is too much of a commitment for her. Or maybe she's scared of her parents finding out. I know my dad would kill me.
32668
Comfort your friend and tell her NOT TO DO ANYTHING! As in completely nothing... Tell her not to call her boyfriend, not to go to the guy's place, not to talk with his friends, anything that has to do with the guy. Play cool and she should act as if he's not a big loss. DON'T EVER MAKE HIM FEEL SPECIAL. You're all good and he's not the center of her universe. She was born without him anyway plus he is just an OBSTACLE. She'll get over him. Just always be there for your friend. Oh how I hate cheaters! Plus I believe in carma... I say good luck to that di*khead
639245
Wow this is serious...but from my point of view I think this woman does love him in some weird twisted way. I think she feels like he will change. If she really wanted to get out of the relationship she would report the abuse and get a restraining order. If he is an unfit parent she would definately win. But Honestly there is nothing you can do. she is not going to move on until she is completely over him. This is coming from someone who was in a similar situation...Minus the children!!! \n\nI hate to say it but you are simply he morale booster and a shoulder to cry on when she needs it. Alll you can do is show her that there is someone better out there and hopefully she will move on before it is too late...\n\nGood Luck!