We broke up 2 months ago. With only one call in between, or should i leave it be?
124880
That depends........   are you interested in seeing/speaking with her again?\n\nI wouldnt asked "why" she said happy bday...because that will make her feel silly.   Why not just text her back with "thanks"...or   "thanks...how have you been?"
273654
Two hours is nothing for him to drive and take you out or spend the day with you.  I would, if I liked someone and they equally liked me!  There is always the telephone in between times when you can't see each other.  Doesn't sound like a problem to me.
501961
Unless you are absolutely insane, and want trouble, leave the ex alone.  Do not call him, do not see him.  You say he never actually cared about you, so why would you even consider talking to him.  Do not mess us a good thing!
514307
Uh, if its been 2 months since you have had contact with her, then its fair to say she is telling you to get lost.  Move on, she has made her decision.  A punishment wouldn't last 2 months.
267489
If there is no communication it will not last.  YOu only been with him for 8 months  I would move on.  That would be the easy way out but no one likes the easy way.  Most likely you will go on for few more month or until the point you say enough is enough.
401948
Don't call him, just don't. There is no reason for it, HE broke up with YOU. YOU are a wonderful person and HE was too stupid to realize it so there is no reason for you to go calling this moron. You deserve better than that and you never need to grovel to any man. No woman needs to grovel to a man ever.
510074
I'm sorry to hear you're in such pain.  Unfortunately, hurting comes with the territory; it will lessen over time.\n\nYou can do things to help yourself, though it might be hard:\n\n1.  You broke up for a reason, don't forget that.\n\n2.  He is now involved with someone else, and you may be crushed that he moved on so quickly.  Don't be; give yourself time...his moving on is no reflection on you.\n\n3.  Be honest with yourself about your real motivation for keeping in contact with him.  You've tried to talk to him...he does not want to talk to you.  Accept it and stop torturing yourself, your attempts to speak with you aren't getting you anywhere.\n\n4.  You may think it's wrong for him to respond the way he is, but look at it from his perspective:  You broke up; he's involved with someone else and you keep calling him.  You can let go, and it's annoying to him.  What reason would he have to talk to you other than to tell you to leave him alone?  What if the situation were reversed?\n\nNo, it isn't easy.  Having been there, I promise you you'll get over him in time.  You'll look back on this and wonder what all the hoopla was all about. In the meantime, stop calling him; it's not healthy and you're only hurting yourself.  It's not going to bring him back to you.\n\nTake care...
651126
I've had the miss fortune of doing the same thing, except it was in a text message. \n\nI say dont go back unless there is a significant change in the relationship. I mean, he broke up with you..and caused you a ton of pain (I'm assuming)....who's to say he wont change his mind again and hurt you all over again. Its obvious that you still have feelings for him. I think that before you consider getting back together really think about if that is what you want, because it might not benefit you at all.
209020
since you have been a couple for two years I think you owe him the courtesy of telling him that you want to part company.  I don't think you need to be cruel and say you found someone else all ready, if it is not necessary.  The relationship is stale and nothing is more demeaning to both parties, than just keeping someone around because they are comfortable, and better than no date, or cowardice of the stating former.  Not only should you want more for yourself, you should respect him enough to want more for him.
141767
take your time to heal. Don't call him. If you feel the urge to call him take it 1 day at a time( like an addiction). Occupy your time with something else. If you are sitting around and not doing anything you will start to think about him. It is good that you ended it now, because if you would have waited it would hurt more than now. Tell yourself that it is over and you two will never be together again. Look at breaking up like this; you are now one step closer to finding the one you are meant to be with.
226045
With time, I think there is a good possibility that the two of you will get back together. To find somebody that you enjoy being around, and that you find interesting , is RARE! He obviously enjoyed it as much as you did, so why wouldn't he be back? It's soon for him I know, but just give him time. It's okay to call and see how he is, just don't push(hard to do I know). If the two of you connected, and I believe you did,  just be patient. He'll be back!
246226
you r absolutely right and smart to stick to your schedules. thats how you flush out the big phonies!! trsut me there you did not lose anything precious here. if he ever call again dont even bother having anymore conversation with this pervert. learn from these expereince and fell out guys like that in the future!! good going girl!!
497314
It sounds like he's very hurt by not only the break up, but by your harsh actions of how you treated him after the relationship ended. He's seen you in a new light that was not good and now in turmoil over whether or not to get back with you. Best thing to do now would be to back off to give him time and space to figure things out. By you constantly calling and asking him what's he going to do is probably just making matters worse. Let him have his time to think about things and so he can make his decision.
180563
The best thing to do is to sweat it out until he contacts you again. It may or may not be over - you will increase your chances of keeping him if you play it cool.
162331
Did he give you a reason for the break-up?  I'm thinking that he doesn't want to rush into another relationship right now because he is still nursing a broken heart and doesn't want it broken again.  Give him so time.  The good news is that he still keeps in touch with you. Let him know that you're still interested and let him call the shots unless it looks like he's calling all the wrong plays.  In that case, put your foot down and tell him that you want him back but you agree to take it slow.  Let him know that you love him and don't want to hurt him.
80924
To me if the break-up was that bad, you wouldn't even be this close to getting the option of getting back together. Anything is possible and in almost 2 years people change a lot. What's so wrong with getting to know who you are now? Don't think of it as getting back together. If you didn't have a past with him, would you still want to get to know this guy right now?
258959
If you broke up w/ him there must have been a reason. What was that reason ? Do you want to go through it all over again ? I think I can relate to what you're saying tho. I went to the city partly to get away fr him for the wk'd after we broke up. Well, we were still talking on the phone sometimes but when he phoned it'd be more like "geeeeeeez... :( " but I'd still answer the phone. While in the city I didn't have a very good time. It felt like my fam was abandoning me or something. Like they were tryna get rid of me or didn't wanna see me, etc. :( I was very hurt. The main reason why I was thinking of moving to the city was to be near my fam too... After that I felt that my ex was the only one who really cared bout me. When I got back home I jut HAD to see him so I went to see him. I told him bout what happened in the city & how I felt that he was the only one who cared bout me. For a whole wk I wanted to be w/ him. I wanted to be w/ him every chance I had. We were @ this pt, just "friends". We went to see Default & I guess he was gonna go home after the concert. I didn't want him to leave. I didn't wanna go home either. He was gonna drink but I didn't really care if he did, as long as I could be w/ him. Well, his mom & sis were gone to the city, so he let me spend the night, which I did. I felt that I wanted to get back w/ him. B/w the day I got back home fr the city to the time we got back together officially was Apr 7th-13th I believe. There was even a time AFTER that that I thought that we'd be together forever. But in the past 2 or 3 wks I haven't been feeling that way. I wanna break up w/ him. When & how is the Q. This'll be our 4th break up. :( \nYou may also experience this as well. Have you broken up in the past ? If you have I think that this will only continue to happen. Don't let it. Be strong. Easier said that done I know, but when you feel like talking to him, call a friend. Maybe even get together w/ a friend or friends. It's better than giving in to urges. Hope this helps !!!