We just moved in together 3 months ago and everytime I try to make the move... he's always too tired and just watches TV all night.  He said he'd be more turned on if I'd wait that he makes the move first because he's the man.  What's wrong with him?
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I could write on book on this, but I'll try to keep it short.  First, try to follow his request and let him make the first move.  If he doesn't make a move in a week then I'd say there's something wrong with the relationship.  My first guess is that moving in together has caused some problems. By moving in together, he may have learned some things about you that he doesn't like.  It could be that you're messy or your just getting way too much into his business he now misses the privacy he once enjoyed.  You should ask him if there's anything that you do that gets on his nerves and watch his reaction.  If he needs his privacy back, then let him hang out with the boys once a week and don't set a curfew because that will just piss him off even more.  If he wants to stay out late then just tell him to sleep on the sofa.  Good luck...
557014
This happened when me and my boyfriend first moved in together.  No one is to blame, you are just getting used to seeing sides of eachother you hadn't before.(you are prob both driving each ohter a little crazy, right? ) And now that you living together its not like you come over for a few hrs and she devotes all her attention to you and then you go home.  You both have to get used to not always being in the center of each others attention.  As for the sex, if you see each other everyday she doesn't have to  worry about the next time she is going to get it.. so it becomes less of a priority....  It will get better in time ..give it a month or 2..... if it doesn't I'd definately bring it up to her.. just dont place any blame... good luck and I hope it works out for you :)
450477
Why live together?  Do you love the guy, and does he love you?  Is this just a temporary thing, until somebody better comes along?  Are you guys just horny, but tired of driving home late alone?  Exactly WHY do you choose to live together, rather than marry?  Isn't the roomie worth marriage?  Or is it you that's good enough to sleep with, but not good enough to be a wife?  You wonder why they don't like this arrangement.  Perhaps they think that IF you two belong together, you should be married.
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I am in this very situation. I pestered, and asked, and begged and compromised time and time again. He also knows exactly what I want, and exactly how I feel about him. He doesn't know that I love him though... \n\nI think that over a nice dinner, or just kicking back and IF the mood is right, you should just ease into a conversation about the status of you guys' relationship. Find out FIRST what it is he wants. Does he want to be with YOU? Or just want to be with your Kitty?? I am not saying this out of offense, I am saying this out of love for another woman because I am going through it right now. My heart is broken because I have been sleeping with someone for the past 3 years not knowing if we had a "relationship" or not. Find out what he wants. Do Not tell him you are in love with him. Let him know you care, and you think of him often, and all that mush. But do not tell him you love him. Do not use the L-word. It will scare him, especially if he doesn't feel the same or hasn't even considered how he feels for you, or where he wants to take things. \n\n I myself had to take a huge step back from  "my" guy. It hurts so bad to love someone and to not have those feelings coming back to you in return. Please do not fall into this hurtful emotional trap. \n\nFind out where he's at in terms of y'alls "relationship". What does he want? Is he willing to take things up a notch, and commit to you and you only? If not, screw him. Because all he'll do is keep screwing you. And in the end, I can tell you, it hurts more than words. \n\nIf you feel to, you can write back. If he's not ready for what you are ready for, GET OUT!
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If he likes to watch porn than let him. Just because you're married to him doesn't mean that you should jump right in and change his habits. Maybe you're not doing a variety of things with him that arouses him. If you just lay there, that gets boring. Try some new things and act and dress up. Spice things up a bit! I do a variety of things and my boyfriend barely watches porn anymore, but sometimes it's fun to watch it together to make it more exciting. It depends on you and what you like too. Just ask him what he'd like and tell him what you'd like. Just trying to help. I was in the same situation. I'm into them now, and it can get addicting. Hope this helps.
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It could be he is stressed out about his work,or overly tired,you should really sit down and try to have a conversation with him,and see if there is anything going on in his life that he hasnt been able to express to you.Different people have Different sex drives as well,you really need to work it out with him and compromise.Let him know how your feeling.Also I reccomend that you consider marriage,sometimes the guilt people feel shacking up affects the sex drive.No offense! Good luck!
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Are you trying to talk and he is not interested?  Is it a comfortable silence where you are just content to be together and possibly know each others thoughts?  Do you want to break up, but are waiting for him to make the move or do you want to stay together and are worried he already left so you are afraid to put yourself out on a limb and reach out to him - maybe this is what he is waiting for?  Is there other demands on his or your time that limit the time to talk?\nIt may be a sign of breaking up, a sign that more effort is required, or that you are comfortable enough not to have to talk all the time.  I am sure these are the things you are already thinking, but only you and he can decide if it is over or if you want it to be over as we don't know the personality quirks of either of you.  If the communication is so bad that you cannot ask him then I guess it is over or never was.
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He might have some issues.  I would move on from here.  He was great for the time you spent together, but that seems to be it.  If you are interested in him, go out a few times before shacking up again.  Not a good move, if you are interested in a relationship.
544871
It's the nice comfy sweatshirt thing.  You see, in moving 1/2 way across the country, he had to give up his home, the folks he casually said Hi to everyday, his favorite pizza joint, etc.  He's lonely at his new place and has decided he wants friends.  Instead of letting them develop, he wanted some already instant made.  Well, there you are.  He already knew you, etc.  \n\nI had this happen to me.  Yes, he's interested.  Yes, you can have a relationship.  However, with everything being new to him now (but him learning it later on) that there will come a time when he doesn't need so much attention ... and he may develop into the guy you knew when he was in town.\n\nI wish I could say "Go for it."  My problem with trying it out is that he really does need to stand alone for a little bit, so you aren't the sudden substitute for his lack of companionship.  It gets pretty draining and depressing being both a person's newfound companion but also his blame when he feels he needs other friends.  You don't need that.\n\nGood luck!
382209
How long have you been together, and living together?  Did this just start, or has it been an ongoing problem?  I would ask him what's going on and suggest counseling if it's bad enough to start affecting your everyday lives!  Good luck!
281622
hi sorry to hear this...well its true about working late...i was and still am a repo man it calls for long hours..i am the same way..when i get home i do alot of the same..internet,movies,t.v...whatever.. it does take a while to unwind and let the day slip away..then when your unwound and ready for bed..your just waking up..its hard i know this aint what you wanna hear but he has to want to spend time with you..he has to compramize..with your feelings..i had to as well..how long has he worked 2nd shift? if he recently started doing the 2nd shift this will fade away..he will become tired sooner and be in bed with you sooner..i hope i helped if you have any further questions...please dont be afraid to e mail me and ask...good luck
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Maybe his sex drive isn't as active as yours is.  Instead of bugging him for sex a lot then wait until he's actually horny and have him go to you.
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Sounds like he's trying to let you know what's going on...you're not listening.  If he's in good health overall (not overweight, smoker, etc) then it could be due to him holding out for you, preoccupied, stress, etc.  There are a lot of reasons why men lose an erection.  A lot of the time my b/f holds out for me and then when I'm good..he's good with that.  He's held out so long, it goes away.  He's usually ready to go again in 10 mins, though.  The fact that you cheated on him really doesn't help.  He may be picturing you doing some of the things you do with him, with someone else.  He's going to be questioning every new thing you do in bed.  "New tricks?  New man?"  It's all about communication.  Let him know you're concerned and really LISTEN to his responses.  You two will work it out if it's meant to be.  He needs to truly forgive you for your mistake and move on if he wants to make it work...you'll need to bring his trust level back up.  Hope I helped...
644887
It has not been long since you both move in. Let the relationship breath, has he show any of his true colors yet ? If not, you may want to see how living together going to be. Just slow down and take one step at a time. \nHave you and him talk about marriage already ? If so, maybe he not ready to pop the question yet. Or maybe he waiting till the right time, he could want to surpise ya. \nHope everything turns out for the good.
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It seems like you want sex more when you can't get it.  It sounds like he is using that as an excuse.  I have never heard of a man getting bored with sex.  Talk to him and if you can live without the sex stay with him, if not kick him to the curb.
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no, this is not all we think about, but, it is an innate preoccupation, if you had sex with him and he didnt have to try to get in your pants, then he would be more open and able to just sit and talk without thinking about sex, so if you have regular sex with him 2-3 times per week, he will be willing to just cuddle because he knows you are going to get on him when you want it so he doesnt have to worry, or "try to get in your pants"
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I think it was a mistake to move in together.  First of all, the basis of a relationship is honesty even when the other person might not like what you have to say.  Sex is important.  Your relationship is already in trouble since you want to cheat.  He needs to know that you have a right to sexual pleasure.  You need to talk. There is also medication for premature ejaculators.  You wont find out any of this if you dont talk.  If he doesnt want to talk, tell him that this is so important to you that if you dont talk, you will step out on him.  You have a right to pleasure.  Hes probably not very happy with himself either.  No guy that goes off in a few minutes is really very happy with himself but his manhood prevents him from talking or doing anything about it.  Speak now or hold someone else's piece.