me and this guy started talkin. we told each other some things about us and then he comes out and tells me he has a child on the way. i have no problem with that. but now he doesn't call me much and i sit and think is he with her or just tired because of the side-affects?
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im going to say hes not that interested.  when you first meet someone you really like you are giddy and flirt a lot and you are always thinking about them..  if this was the case i think he would probably be calling.  but it is still possible that he just dosnt want to involve you in all the drama in his life.  if you are really willing to deal with it talk to him about it.  if he cant open up you should move on
584006
When you slept with him it genuinely looked like she was not interested anymore. You were not being a tart you thought this was going to develop into something more. I would just put it down to experience and forget about it now. Take care x
244405
I am a doctor and while having wild trouble with my wife, I decided to never be with here again.  I have 2 kids. A few months later, 4 to be exact, I started living with one of my patients, who is 40, and had a wild drive for me since 2 years ago. While being my patient nothing happened, but we started talking after I left my wife, never to return I thought. I lived with this woman for over a year, and that was the happiest time of my life. Nevertheless, my kids were having very serious trouble, and even though I did not wish to see my wife again, I decided to return to my kids and get them out of trouble. I will never stop loving my patient, she was the sweetest girl I've never known, but I cannot live happily with her while my kids are going down hill. I may be damned, but I need my kids to be OK for me to be happy, and they demand my presence. I could never feel happy while being with the woman I love while my kids are going through trouble. You being a virgin is not an issue to me, it should not be an issue to you, it should not be an issue for anybody loving you. What worries me is to find you left aside because this guy is married. I am not saying it is right or wrong, I am saying I doubt he will feel absolutely and sincerely happy with you while thinking about his kids. Been there, done that, don't go there, yo don't want to go there. You'll be happy for a while, and then you will know hell. Excuse my honesty, but I do not wish any human being to go through my experience. Hence I have the need to speak about it. And only anonimously. Take my word: you don't want this.\nPD: I am aged 46.
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YOUR HIS TRANSITION GIRL. GET OUT FAST.  HE TOLD YOU HOW HE FELT!  DONT YOU WANT SOMEONE WHO REALLY CARES FOR YOU?  OR WOULD YOU RATHER BE IN A SITUATION LIKE THIS THAN BE ALONE?  I'D RATHER BE ALONE!
597598
I would bet that something else is bothering him, and you triggered an emotion.  It doesn't mean that there is any deep seated issue, and it doesn't mean there isn't.  In situations like that, I ignore the instance and bring it up later in a neutral and non condemning manner.  Then I see how the individual reacts once removed from the situation emotionally.
247593
I think it was a joke.  You said that you two don't talk as much as you used to, I think that he was just making light of the situation.  You shouldn't be discouraged from talking to him again.
134414
hey sweetie i kinda have been thru the same thing. i am 28 years old. when i was 20 i was dating this guy from florida and we would take turns visiting each other till i could move to be with him. well we ended up breaking up after about 18 months together and i was devistated. i will admit now it was my fault at the time. i couldnt wait and i needed affection. i met another guy and we started hanging out and my bf didnt like it at all. he is the reason we broke up. while we were broke up i became pregnant by the local guy who was a thug type. smoking weed, drinking all the time but he was a total sweetheart and made me feel so special. when he found out i was pregnant he said it wasnt his and demanded a DNA test to be done soon as the baby was born. well as bad as i treated the florida guy he stuck with me the whole time. he was even there when my baby was born. we got back together and then the babys dad and i had the DNA test done and guess what, it was his. well he became so happy and all of a sudden he loved me again and wanted nothing more to be with me. again i was letting him come inbetween me and the florida guy and hurting him. this other guy said all the right things and sweet talked me. saying things like, oh baby i will stop smoking and drinking and the drugs all for you if you just be with me so we can be a family. needless to say, i looked at him and just plainly to F**K off. the florida guy moved here to be with me and now we are married and very happy. it was the best decision i ever made. ditch the crazy one girl and go for the one that dont talk much. i am sure he treats you better and everything. so what if he dont talk. least he isnt crazy. right??? so what if he cant be there till june. thats 1 month and like 3 weeks. depending on when in june though. one more thing, the more you have in common with someone the more you all will argue. if you all dont have much in common there isnt that much arguing. i know cause me and my wonderful husband didnt have much in common till he moved here and now we hahve so much but we hardly argue cause we grew together in such a wonderful way. he is my everything and is the best choice for a daddy to my son. the real daddy ended up giving up his rights because he was a deadbeat and i later found out he had 2 other kids by 2 different girls and didnt take care of either. whats to say he was gonna take care of mine. he wasnt and i knew that. now the loser is sitting in jail for the next 7 years. good luck to you and i hope you make the right decision. i think you will. here is a hint, the out of state guy. lol. good luck. oh yeah, sorry this is so long too.
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Did he seem worried when you told him that she was pregnant? Just because he was the last one she slept with doesn't make him the father. Who else did she sleep with during that time. Only a paternity test will tell for sure.
451871
I don't know really what to tell you.. have you talked to him about this?? I am a father myself... and I know often times I may seem to be preoccupied or not generally paying attention... sometimes people may just be under a great deal of stress... maybe it's hard for him being so far from home for so long... I wouldn't assume that he doesn't want to spend time with you... I don't know him personally... but I know with my kid... I can't think of anything I'm more proud of... I can't imagine that your father is much different... I'm sure he loves you... maybe talking to him about this would be a good start...
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First off   Congratulations on the arrival of your gorgeous baby girl. Same day as my daughter but 28 years later. Now to your question, l don't believe that it would all be just over a few minor bills. I feel there is definately more to it. Have you tried really talking to him without getting angry and telling him exactly how you feel ? I would try that if you haven't already. Perhaps he is feeling a little left out with the new bubs and all. The fact that he is not affectionate at all is a real worry though. I really hope for your sake that he is not cheating on you, it seems to me that he could well be. Hope you can work this out but if not atleast you have your beautiful daughter to keep you occupied. Good luck with everything.
273840
could mean there's someone else, possibly a man....  seek counseling.  Hope things get better for you.
662733
Is he worth even knowing you!!!  He has obviously been seeing you and this other lady at the same time or you wouldn't be pregnant!!!!  Which is more important to him!!!  You give it out???  The guy is a snake!!!
136663
I am in the same boat right now! So, I know how you feel.  I just am there when she needs to talk.  I do not offer ANY negative input about MY feelings about the guy, just listen to how she feels and try to give her answers that are somewhat neutral.  Good luck!
66460
You are in for it. If he spends lots of time with the baby and its not alone. (at his ex's place without you) THen he's probably doing something with her and you. SO if your not into that, you have a lot of thinking to do. Its better to love and lost and never loved at all. (men in black)
441926
Do u have any children??? I would be as mad as u r....\nYou better tell him u also need him and that u feel he is just thinking in him self Relax time come on... that will be normal once a week but always....
557865
you fell asleep , didnt eat his popcorn lol and told him you were busy , do you honestly think a guy will wait around until your ready , and would it have hurt to speak to him for 5 minutes in between cleaning your room then maybe you couldve had the chance to explain about your visitors ,  let him know you'd speak to him in a few hours rather than let him think he was boring you to death , guess maybe he thought you were just making excuses not to talk to him
77347
Mabey he could just be nervous about having his first child. Hes becoming a father, and hes at that point in life that he has to become more mature and care for a new life. He could be acting like this also because hes nervous and unsure if he is going to be a good father to the child or not. If not for this reason he could be having some other personal reasons. You should talk to him and see whats up girl.\n\nGood luck and Congrats on your pregnancy!!