Well, I sometimes chat with my co-workers but I don't hang out with them. I've lost contact with all my college and high school friends. The only person I chat with is my brother and my boyfriend. He says I have 2 personalities. Bubbly and friendly personality ... and quite, lost in my own world personality.
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i'm a loner myself. i dont have close friends to hang out with. i only talk with my bf and my sisters. sometimes i'm bored and hoping that i have few friends to talk and out with. its not that i'm unfriendly, i just did'nt find someone that really understand me as a friend. when i found ur question,i felt that i'm not the only one who had this kind of problem. maybe it's normal.
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I am the same way.  Its like the only thing that anyone wants to talk to me about is the homework.  I didnt make any good friends in community college.  But now I am at the university level, and it does seem a little better.  Just everyone is so busy with their own lives and so I am; so its hard to find a good friend.  I hope it gets better when I start my career.
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I keep my personal life separate from work.  I do not think the two should mix.  I get along with my coworkers.  I am polite and friendly, but I never forget the line.  I have seen too many people routine their careers and professional reputations by forgetting that.
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Who are these people that don't want you to be yourself?  If they are people you call friends, I would find myself new friends.  If they are colleagues, so what, they are just the people you work with.  If it is your family, you need to sit down and talk to them about how you view yourself and how it makes you feel when they try to change you.  \n\nBe yourself, always!!  Love thyself, and most everyone will follow.
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Well, I can sympathize... because I have been "walked over" by many friends.  I'm smart, academically speaking, and have made many friends who feel it is my duty to tutor and provide them the answers and help on all their papers.  Or friends who only call when they need something.  This is why I only have 1 real friend, and my husband.  It took a while to realize that people are shadey, and you can't always trust them.  Hard lesson learned.  Now I evaluate every relationship, asking "Am I getting out of this relationship what I am putting in?" and if I am putting in too much energy... and not recieving any of that energy back, then you really have to evaluate if it's worth it..
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It might be some sort of anxiety problem, but if it's not giving you major problems, it's probably just a mild anti-social issue.  I don't like parties or large groups either, I prefer a small group, and I definitely need time to myself every day.  It's pretty normal.
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pick people who sound normal and similar to you and have their yahoo chat ID available.  Also search through public 360 blogs and send messages to people who sound like they might be fun to become friends with. If they turn out to be wierdos you can always block them!  I have made some great friends, some of whom I have met so good luck and enjoy...one can never have too many friends!
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Sorry to hear that you are having a hard time socializing.  I think you need to give some more information before anyone can fully answer your question.\n\nFirst, is your problem associated with your inability to "connect" (or understand) others?  Do you wonder if you're normal or what normal behavior is?  Or, are you highly intelligent and find others not smart enough to have a meaningful conversation?\n\nOr, is this an anxiety issue?  Do you worry about what others think of you?  Are you concerned that people will laugh at you or talk about you?\n\nIf this is a matter of having a tough time understanding other people, I wonder if you might have come from an alcoholic family?  I ask because sometimes children of alcoholics complain of these kinds of issues--they can't integrate, don't know how to behave normally, feel out of sorts.  If you did come from an alcoholic family, seek out a local ACOA or AA meeting for support.\n\nIf you feel anxiety seek out medical help.  Drugs like Paxil can reduce social anxiety.\n\nFinally, if you feel as if you're simply a misfit--seek out other misfits.  Do you have an odd hobby?  Find others with that hobby.  Chances are you'll see eye to eye.\n\nGood luck.
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People are too scared to tell you how they feel to your face.  I get talked about behind my back but I also have a problem with saying things about others.  I always thought it was human nature, though not okay to do so.  I don't like doing it, and I am trying to stop, but I just find that I am a cynic and I just have trouble telling people what I really think of them to avoid confrontation.  So, I say it to someone else.  I definitely don't think it's okay, I never have, but old habits are hard to break.  I know that it is wrong...judge not lest thee be judged, but it is hard to change, right?
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Finally--an interesting question...thank you!! It actually made me think.I had never really thought about that before,but upon pondering it,I do believe that may be the case.When I was working at home all day,I longed for human interaction at times--so that I would be ultra friendly to people when I did venture out,to the bank,grocery store...wherever!!Just I guess to TALK to someone.My nature is friendly anyways,but I think even more so then--when I was in solitude more often.
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Hi, I'm 26 years old and currently in my freshman year of college. I definitely know how you feel; all throughout school I was not a very outgoing person. I usually kept to myself, at the same time I  tried to impress my peers. Now I realize how immature it was to act that way. You should never look down on yourself in any kind of way. It is important for everyone to feel they belong, and you seem to doubt yourself. The thing is, other people are just like you, they will not approach anyone and end up never making any friends. Be bold and walk up to the other guy like you and talk to them. They are just wanting someone to break the ice. My advice usually ends up being religious, but I do not feel like I should preach to you. One thing I will tell you is, turn to the Lord and he will never leave you. He will always be there giving you comfort, and the the great feeling that you belong. I never feel alone because I'm not. Just realize that people all throughout life will try to hurt you to make themselves feel better. You control your own life....make the best of it....live life to the fullest. Talking to an older person is great because they are wise and can give you some of the best suggestions. Hope this helps
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On my days off I talk to maybe 5 - 6 people. Since I worked today I talked too about 75 people. Sometimes at work I talk to a lot more, especially on the weekends.
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Very strange, I was discussing a girl with a friend earlier tonight. She is extremely shy and it's difficult for me to understand what she's thinking half of the time. I used to be introverted and then had a major incident and came out extroverted. I asked a psychologist if it was possible to change in that fashion. She replied "Yes, people may change with time. However it usually happens because of some life changing event". Good luck.
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You break a introvert with a 2x4!!  Come on! if you dont being around people (or dislike people all together), then why are you so compelled to fall in line with peole that are not like you?  Your confidence has little to do with you wanting to mingle. Trust me, had I a real choice in the matter, I would live so  far in the wilderness that it would take a plane to get to work every day if I had the choice, but its my JOB to interact with people. when the day is done, i want to be left the f... alone!! Take up a hobby that you can do alone yet meet others, like fishing, biking or mountian climbing. \nJoin a Sci fi fan club or RPG group or something. And if you do, make sure its OFFLINE! Stop hiding behind your monitors screen, that'll help a great deal.\n\n There has to be a row of coming of age movies made over the past 50 years that cover the topic of some geeky kid doing all he or she can to mingle with the "in" crowd... rent, look and learn.Dont quit being who you are for the sake of being a part of the crowd.
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I believe we have the right to distance ourselves from people, and situations that cause negativities in our lives.  We are are at liberty to purge our lives with anything that is harmful to our well being - physically, emotionally and spiritually. It may be difficult because the more you feel you need your friends the more they will (or seem to) behave that way. Sometimes even the most cherished friendships have to end.  They have served their purpose and it's time to move on to better things. I've been in your situation several times before and I did just that.  Now I realize that I have very little in common with these friends. I was just trying to fit in.
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I used to be really shy, especially around people I liked. I guess I got nervous. Then I realized, Just relax & talk to them like I'd known them 4ever, & if they don't like me, then I'm no worse off than I was before. I've made a lot more friends that way!
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What makes me happy?  well, talking with people I feel are really listening and sharing our differences and things we have in commmon.. sometimes, I think i'll never be really happy again because I RARELY get out of the house.. and I need to do this!  If you can come up with a plan.. maybe we'll both go out to soomewhere new (or old).. and we can compare notes?  I do run a small home-based business so I do see people every day.. but they're just not really friends (tho they do treat me as a friend) and I could use a real friend who doesn't whine about everything!  \nReally, if you come up with a good answer, let me know, ok?\nBest wishes!