my boyfriend broke up with me because he thought i was ugly
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well you should not listen to him. i don't know what you look like but i do know that everyone is beautiful in their own special way. you can find someone who loves you for who you are. it should be what is on the inside that counts anyway not what is on the outside. good luck,and GOD BLESS YOU!!!!!
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Before you can address the issue with your boyfriend, you need to address your issues with your body image.  Instead of picking yourself apart, build yourself up.  If you feel you're "chubby", try losing weight if that will make you feel better about your body image.  If you feel you're "plain looking", try a little makeup or a new hair color to see what works for you.  \n\nIt's a cliche, but true beauty really does come from within.  If you don't love yourself, how can anyone love you?  Guys get bored with girls who trash themselves.  It's like saying to them everyday, "Why are you with an ugly girl with me when you could be with someone prettier?".  Basically, you're second-guessing his high opinion of you.  It's may be a matter of time before he starts to agree with your poor body image and moves elsewhere.  \n\nJust because you value meaningful things like art over binge drinking and freak dancing doesn't make you less of a person, or unattractive.  Intellectual pursuits are much sexier to the right kind of guy.\n\nAs for the jealousy thing, you either trust your boyfriend or you don't.  If you think he's actually going to make a move on these other girls, maybe you should reconsider dating him.  If he is geuinely uninterested in these other girls and your insecurities are driving this persistant jealousy, try and find your own sex appeal and work on building yourself up!\n\nDon't waste another minute hating yourself.  Life is too short, and one day you'll realize you had nothing to hate about yourself to begin with.
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You say this guy is a nice guy but if he were to base his feelings for you on your appearance and materialstic things, he really is not a nice guy. He may seem nice but that would mean he is shallow and not worth your time when there are people who will appreciate you for you - everything about you.\n\nYou sound like your self-esteem is a bit low and sound pretty down on yourself. Why don't you try to feel better about yourself. If you don't like something about your appearance that you think you can change, try to change it. You can lose weight - just do some fun cardio-vascular exercises three to five days a week and try to eat healhty - veggies, lean protein, fruits, some calcium and brown grains - avoid carbs and sugar. You can lose weight very quickly. It is a shame you are afraid to meet him because of how you feel about yourself so if you want to never feel like this again and be happy with who you are and what you look like, try to exercise, drink a lot of water and eat a healthy and balanced diet. It will come off sooner than you think you know. And you mention pimples - why not see a dermatologist and try to get some prescription medicine to get rid of the pimples - or try Pro-Active (online) - it is supposed to work well I have heard. I am not sure what you mean with your eye - if you mean bags under your eyes, try to use some sliced cucumbers or tea bags to reduce the swelling or buy preperation H (hemmerhoid cream) to use on the bags - it is used by celebrities for under-eye bags - seriously... it is a trick that many people don't know about and it works b/c it acts as an anti-inflammatory.\n\nTo me, it sounds like you should feel good about who you are - you like who you are on the inside and that is the most important because we can' t really change who we are. These other things that you think are so unattractive - you can change them if you really wanted to - so change them. Why not? Just do it a few times and you will enjoy it and even look forward to it- try to get a friend to exercise with you.\n\nIf you do meet him and he is nasty or leaves and does not call you - shake it OFF because you would not want some shallow, mean guy like that anyway. If you are really scared, send him an email telling him what you look like before you go meet him - and then you will know if he responds or not. Then, you don't have to feel embarrassed meeting him face to face. Also, be careful - you don't know who he is and you don't say where you met him - there are tons of psychos out there. If you are under 18 - DO NOT MEET HIM UNDER ANY CIRCUMSTANCES!!! That is the way all these girls disappear and get killed. So, if you are 18+, meet him if you want to in a public place - get yourself there and back not with him and even bring a friend - it is safer that way. But if you think he might not accept you, tell him over the phone or in an email first and see what he does. And don't be sad if he does not call again - be happy that you don't have to waste anymore time with such a nasty guy. I am suprised that he never asked what you look like though - most guys do I hear pretty quickly.. .did you ever lie to him about your appearance - I would simply write an email or talk to him on the phone and mention it and hear his reaction and then see if he still wants to meet. There is nothing wrong with you so why wouldn't he? If he doesn't , he is obnoxious anyway.\n\nTry to ask someone to help you get a nice outfit if you do meet him, use some cover up and makeup (go to the mall they can help you there) - or even in a drugstore they can recommend things. - Try to look nice, dress nice - do your hair nice and don't worry.. There is so much more to life than what we look like - that is the least important thing. You don't know what he looks like either so maybe he is nervous and feeling the same way.\n\nCheer up ! We are all beautiful in our own way!\n:o)
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he wanted u for a period of time.. I think now its over.. so he's going away from you..\nNow what u can do is.. just forget such unworthy person and start living your life..
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first of all he needs to "GET IT" he needs to get how he is hurting you and changing you, and you and only you can do that! so you need to sit down and and tells him everything dont even leave a fly out just get it all off and if he dont care then hes not worth it any more. you sound perfeclly normal and im sure you are very beautiful  , you should never give up on your self no matter what because there are people that loves you to death and its like giving up on them...you cant controll the way people treat you but you can controll how you react. dont trap your self with the thought that if this relationship is over then your life is over...i think if this over then its time for a make over and a fresh new start...wont that be super my beautiful?!
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I used to have the same problem and i got suicidal dont go that far please because it wont make it better. what i did was i tried to change how i looked to myself i told myself i was pretty i did my hair and my make up and i wore pretty clothes i felt prettier and other people started thinking i looked prettier too:) try it positive reenforcement sometimes works. Good Luck and God Bless and im sure youre a pretty person on the inside and thats all that matters and tell your brother to shut the f*** up he shouldnt talk to you like that anyway hes supposed to be there for you not make you feel worse
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Honey - you said it all already - you knew he wasnt right for you.  Sounds like you are just lonely now and your current relationship might not be the right one for you as a marriage.  Its too late now, and no matter how much you might want to - you cant go back in time and change things.  And truthfully, you probably really wouldnt want to.  Whatever made you break up with him, it would have gotten worse.  Chin up dear girl, plenty of fish in the sea :)
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you should tell him the truth face to face but nicely dont just go up to him and say you are ugly leave me alone say some thing nice like im sorry i dont like you as more than a friend anymore but i hope we can be friends
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It's all jealousy. When people tell you you are ugly usually it's their way of making themselves feel better by bringing some one else down. It shows you that they have a low self-esteem. \nSometimes it could be a joke. Don't take it too seriously. \nIf you get an insult - whichever way it is intended to and how- just remember that you are beautiful. (Should I?)\n"Nooooo matter whatttt theyyyy say....\nWordssss wont bring meeeiiii down...." \nJust remember!
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It sounds like he may be trying to push you away in the hopes that *you* break up with *him.*  He may be too chicken to do it himself.  The problem is, is that it's affecting your self-esteem.  You don't deserve to be treated that way- being used is no fun, so don't allow it!  Think about where you see yourself in 5 years.... still in the same place???.... .don't waste any time.  Believe me, there are guys who will treat you right.  We teach people how to treat us- don't allow it anymore!!
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what you are going through is post partum depression, he most likely does not think you are ugly, but you feel he feels that way, it is natural. It will pass. Believe me if you had his kid then to him you are the most beautiful woman in the world. That's how we men feel, we just fail to say it.
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People aren't beautiful/handsome because of how they look on the outside. That changes with the years. Its what they have inside that truly lasts. Maybe he's seen the inner you, which he sees as TRUE beauty. Think about this and don't stress over it so much.
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i'm sorry about how your boyfriend is treating you. but he keeps on doing that because you allow him to.  get out of that relationship at once! believe me, it would get worse! he is simply telling you he doesn't want you anymore, so what are you waiting for? love yourself.  this relationship has not and will not in any way diminish your chances of finding happiness elsewhere. your value as a person does not depend on any man's assessment of you.
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Dump him the jerk!  Why wasting your beauty on some jerk who doesn't appreciate you?  My advice: you should love yourself more and go out with someone who treats you right.
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I realize that it may be really hard right now but I hope you realize how valuable you are yourself and that you will take care of you during this time. You may or may not\nget the full answer as to why he broke up with you.  I had\na boyfriend in high school that everyone swore or thought\nwe would surely get married and we ended breaking up and we had been dating over a two year period.  Give him his space and see what happens.  Be good to yourself in the meantime.  If you were good to him and know that in your heart  of hearts you gave your best thats all that anyone can ask.  He may have some things he needs to work out.
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You sound like you are trying to justify breaking up with him.  From the way you describe yourself, I would say that you did do the right thing.  If you are a flirt and he is the jealous type it would never work.  I wish you the best in the world.  May you find happiness.
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Hey Angel,\n\nYou have gotten some good advice regarding your self esteem.\nIf you don't like what you look like change.  Exercise, eat less.\nProbably more importantly .... eat right. \n\nYou've heard about women who seem to crave abuse?  They become battered wives ...after a relationship ends they find another jerk just as bad or worse than the first. \n\nWhy would you be even remotely attracted to a guy who called you a fat ugly whore?  It sounds like you're grooming yourself to be a battered wife. \n\nThis piece of work shouldn't be a consideration.  A girl has to have her standards.   If you ever let him get close to you he's going find out as soon as he can if the "whore" thing is true and most likely spared more rumors no matter what. \n\nI have a very good feeling about you ... I think you're going start doing all the right things and turn into a dreamboat. \n\nGodspeed!