Do you think this makes me annoying or outgoing?
120214
not at all , its normal for a normal female
630854
hey i have tha same problem... i bugs me really bad.. just talk to that persona and say hey.. i dont wanna be anything more than friends..  *GL
474377
It depends on what's going on.  If it's something about YOU that you're just really irritable, there's a lot of things that could be.  You might consider seeing a counselor.  (Or getting more sleep, easing off of stress, or any number of other things).  I think it's worth noting though that some personalitiies just don't mix.  I know a lot of really SUPER nice people who have a LOT of energy.  I find them a bit...grating.  I'm pleasant with them, but I don't really hang out with them much, and it's not because they're bad people, but because I just don't enjoy their company through no fault of their own.
115153
omg I'm quiet and shy too! People think I'm a snob and that I think I'm too good for them. One of the reasons they do that is because I dont smile. I know its hard, people tell shy people to just go up and talk to someone but its not that easy. I would try talking more to your friends (that would help you not to be as quiet and show people that you can talk to other people as well) thats what I am working on now. Good Luck!
137888
if you have to ask you are probably doing it. it has to do with the subtle control or the appearance of an attempt to control or at least influence us in an indirect way, and it is this indirectness that is so annoying.\n\nfor example, if i forget or neglect to clean up after my GF fixes dinner, and she kids me about it "saying you lazy sack get off the computer", the message is cool and i'll say "oh yeah i'll do them as soon as i can". (i usually mean before midnight!) but she could ask again in an hour. if she says "are you gunna do the dishes?..."  then my response is "did i fkking stutter before?". however, if she tickles me and says "you addict, get yer butt up and do them dishes boy" then i will likely laugh and go do the dishes, thinking nothing bad about her whatsoever. the latter happens 98% of the time, and the other 2% i write off cos it is usually due to her being in a bad mood; besides, she usually is spot on despite her poor delivery.\n\nnagging is completely unnecessary and i believe it is a manifestation of a someone having nothing more important to do in her life but control the person near her. if nagging is some kind of "issue" that you have to work on and you find yourself constantly checking to see how you are doing with the "issue" then you seriously need to find something of substance or value to focus on. go write a book or volunteer or something!
127225
I'm an introvert, I don't go to parties, bars, can barely stand gatherings of people I know well.  But I work in school admissions and deal with people all day long.  I can be social in that context, it's more formal I guess.\n\nSo did you call that person?  Your other question posted.  I hope you did!
291236
I used to be like that.  I learned to pretend that I was more confident and outgoing than I really was - I mean these people didn't know I was shy etc, so they would not find it strange.  Eventually I just became more confident and outgoing.
340207
be straight forward, honest, and tell her straight away, yet round about as well\n\nlook, i think your nice and have a nice (insert vocabulary, or sense of humor, or something of the like) but (insert annoying part) is annoying as hell, and i would appreciate it if you would cut it out/stop it
181452
Sounds like your an old Trophy on the mantel. Your dealing with an insecure type A personality.
173057
Many times a person who needs to be loud in conversation or the "Know-it-all" type, or the type that seems to not allow others to talk...is a person who is insecure and feels very low about themselves.  Their loud boisterous opinions and lack of being able to let others in on the conversation says that that person needs extra attention and has very poor communication skills.  Trying to tell them to "shut up" is NOT going to get the point across.  As a matter of fact...it might worsen the objective.  Perhaps if you make copy of this answer with your question and quietly and in private present it to this person...you may get somewhere.  Start with a "Hey...(his name)...can I please talk to you for a moment in private.  Then take him aside and let him know that you appreciate his input on things...however.."I'd like to let you know that there are people who have some input into the many conversations we have...as we have listened to you...perhaps you would be fair to listen to what some of us have to say."  "And by the way...eating/chewing with your mouth open or full is socially unacceptable...perhaps you didn't realize you were doing this...and as a friend, I thought I might let you know.  \nTwo wrongs never made a right...instead it makes a war.  So treat his rudeness with corrective/non-judgemental kindness and see if a greater response comes from your directives.  Thanks for caring enough to make a positive difference in the lives of others.
527719
Well usually Im quiet and sometimes I say random witty things
397657
you can IM me if you want..i know what it's like to be shy, etc. but i love talking on IM lol so it's: sing2thekingforever ....IM me anytime...most of the time i might be invisible, but i'm usually on...lol
573235
Look, you need to just be up front with her and have the guts to tell her that she's being too loud.  That way maybe you guys can still hang out if you like her at all.  If you bring it to her attention at least she will be aware of it.  Either that or just stop hanging out with her.  But it's better to be honest than it is for you to just ignore her.
349682
No. He wants to get a reaction from you. Act as if it dosen't bother you. By reacting to the comments it makes him feel superior.
42648
It is them being rude. How you should respond depends on the context. Is it going on during "water fountain" chat or during business meetings. Is it your boss or someone at your level or below that might be competeting with you. Is it going on with your boss present or not.\nThese issues will make a difference on how you should approach this.
420013
maybe your arrogance?? its one thing to know you have it... and not feel the need to flaunt yourself in here...  but its a whole other thing to have to try to get as much attention in here as you can.
229262
no way. lol, i'll be honest. i consider myself a pretty mellow guy, and i'm usually the type to try and make a deflectionary comment rather than an insult. but if it gets bad enough, i'm gonna start saying stuff, and it comes out fast and is usually accompanied by me setting my shoulders and clenching my fists. lol, i hate to get that way, but i'm not perfect.