There is a super hot guy who works at my gym and we have been doing the whole "long stare" flirty thing for months and now I'm ready to move it up and have an actual conversation. Only problem is I don't know how to approach him. I've never had to make the first move with a guy and I'm not sure what to do. How do I go up to him (tonight!!!) and start a conversation so it gets across that im interested but not desperate? I think that I could really like this guy and I need a date for a party in like 3 weeks and would LOVE LOVE to take him, please help! Guys what kind of things would make you notice the girl and ask her out?! Please help I will be seeing him tonight at the gym.
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I think you should take a bold approach.  Guys who are athletes or who work out often like a woman who takes risks.  Just walk up to him and tell him that you realize he has been flirting with you for awhile now but your disappointed he hasn't asked you out yet.  So since he didn't make a move you want to know if he will go to a party with you in 3 weeks.
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Look, maybe it's weird, or just unfortunate, but guys need some kind of excuse to talk to you. If you're just there with your friends, lookin' all hot and stuff, but they have no compelling reason to talk to you, they won't. Blame it partly on shyness, partly on fear of rejection, and partly on respect for the space of others. Just 'cause a girl's hot doesn't mean I'm automatically gonna cruise up and say hello. Are you sure you were making eye contact? Maybe you were looking at their eyes while they were checking out your stuff.\n\nIf you really wanna be approachable, then try saying something yourself. Do it when you're up getting a coffee and Mr. Cute is standing beside you. Make a remark about the coffee, or how busy the place is, or whatever. Just give him a reason to talk to you. Just strutting by is not a good enough reason. Most guys, if you're dressed all hot and looking confident, will assume you've already got a man and leave it at that. Sure, they'll tell their buddies at the same table that you were totally giving them the eye and just what they'd like to do with you, but most guys don't have the stones to do anything about it. The ones that do can be pretty scary. Do you really want to date a guy that has no problem  striking up a convo with any cute chick that saunters by? Hey, if he did it with you, then... \n\nLastly, and obviously I couldn't possibly know this, but is there any chance that your image of "trendy" might come off as a little sleazy? How much skin were you showing? Guys sure like to look at something like that, but in the backs of their heads, they're wondering what Momma would say if they brought 'em home to dinner.\n\nGood luck.
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Walk up to him the next time in the hallway, gather all the courage, smile at him and say hi. Do this for a while, then talk to him at length one day.Will things pick up from there? it s up to you.
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Try working out in the same area as them...and then start talking you might not want to ask him out immediately..find out what y'all have in commen and just let it come natural..
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The guy may be wanting to get to know you, however he may also be shy, only way to find out is to take the first step, get a good friend to talk to him for you/introduce you and after a while you may get a conversation going without realising it.\n\nThings often work out better than one imagines - believe in yourself.\n\nHacker
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well after saying hello to him\nmaybe try to start a conversation with him im assuming u know something about what he likes and if u don't maybe talk to people that know him,to make starting the conversation easier \nand if u r really game maybe even ask him out, \nGood luck hope it goes well for you
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If it's someone you know from an organization to which you both belong or an activity that you have in common, suggest that a few of you go out for coffee or  drink to discuss plans or opinions or techniques, etc. While you're in that small group, pay special attention to the guy you're interested in.  Ask him his opinion, and at the end of the evening suggest that you get together again to talk.  \n\nAt that point, the ball's in his court. If he's interested, he'll agree to meet you or ask you out.  And, what's more, he'll think it was actually his idea!
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Girlfriend, you are a doll.  If he's not interested he's nuts.  Try getting around him and being avaible for him to start up a conversation with, smile at him, look at his and when he looks at you, look embrassed and look away.  If you are pressed for time, just ask him who's he going to the dance with, that should more than enuff start the conversation, give him the chance to ask you who you are going with, and maybe yall hook up.  Good Luck.
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awww this is so cute!\nActually, the best advice i can give is to spend more time with him and get to be friends or at least aquaintances first. If he does the akward staring thing, chances are he wants to talk to you but might be shy. Its never a piece of cake to tell someone you like them but its a bit easier when youve taken some time to talk to them and get to know them. Subtle flirting, like smiles, glances and giggles can go a long way too. and who knows? after some time, maybe he'll be the one stepping up to you! :)
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work out next to where he is...and just ask what doe sthat excersise do....just ask him questions that will have him talking to you...that way you can see if he is the type of guy you are looking for....
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Guys can scare very easy. So don't do anything. After either a make out session or sex.  It should be the guy who should respond back first.  Probably, sounds mean but, it is true.   If he doesn't make the first move again. Obviously it was just a short fling. Something you will have to deal and learn with.  But, if he wants more. He should be the one letting you know.   But, just be very cool and don't worry.  Relationships in the work place is hard.
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This is hard...how far are you willing to go.  I only ask, because there are numerous things that you can do. This depends on him and what kind of image he may have of you.  You always want to be yourself...don't try to be something you are not.  Disappointments are not good.  Try to have short conversations with him.  Statements that leave him hanging and wondering...What did she mean by that???  He's gonna come back to find out...if he is intersted.  I once left a post it note on a man's door with my #.  He called 20 mins later.  Subtle things work the best.....Okay, well it helps if you enjoy some of the same things.  Interraction is your best bet.  Some girls don't need to flirt...and honestly you prob don't need to.  If he is a fresh too, he might not get it.  But if he is a playboy...is that what you want?
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well what i did, when i first joind the gym, is i asked the front desk if they could help me out with what to do in the g ym, and considering your a female, i would ask a male to help you out, or something else you could do is ask one of the guys in the area where they ift weights and stuff, and that can also help make a good relationship. ps dont ask one of those guys that are a muccle head, their mean, ps im 14lol im also a male. lol use the advice, it sould work, also you can ask just any random guy for help with the machines.
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i can relate to this.\nwhat i suggest is that you try to open up a bit. it's hard, and takes time, but if you become more outgoing, he won't be too intimidated if he was too approach you. in situations like this, it's YOUR turn to make the first move. start small talk, ask him how his day has been, smile (rather frequently), and just don't think about what you're gonna say. let it out. a friend of mine suggested this to me, and it worked, i suggest you try this yourself. usually if he's staring at you, he in fact, DOES like you.\nyou go girl, get out there and get that guy ;D
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You'll never know until you get up the nerve to talk to him. He's probably looking at your because you're attractive, so now you've gotten his attention, take the next step and show him what a great person you are! Don't ask your friends though, that's usually taken by the other person the wrong way. Just stand next to him at a good time and make a comment to him about the school or the football team or the cafeteria food. Talk to him!
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at this point, you have got to be strong gurl! its kinda hard getting a guy thats shy too, just like you... so, do anything that you think will get his attention... by just approaching him, you will get his attention.. tell him you want to be friends with him.. and when you guys do become friends, tell him you wanna get to know him more.. and you wanna hang out... if he does agree... go somewhere quiet... tell him that its hard for you to say this at this point, but tell him that you really like him a lot.. and then ask him what are his feelings and tell him to be honest... and if he tells you his true feelings, and tells you that he does also likes you, then you've done it gurl!! good for you! but if he doesnt like you, dont worry! you have so much more years ahead of you.. im sure you'll find a guy thats so much hotter and cuter than that guy... and he might even like you back too :)
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Getting a guy to notice or like you involves the use of basic social skills. You should be honest, direct, pleasant, and reasonable. If you really like a guy, but you haven't really talked to him - you're dying to, but you're too scared - here are some tips to help you say hello. \n\nSteps \nGet a new look. Don't change who you are, just try something different. Try a new hairstyle, new clothes, etc. \n\nBe yourself. Everyone probably says this, but it's true! No guy wants a girl to pretend she is something she's not. \n\nDon't cuss. It turns guys off most of the time. \n\nSmile. Whether closed-mouth or open-mouth, do it. It'll say to everyone, "Wow, she's a nice person!" \n\nFlirt a little - not like crazy, but a little bit here and there. \n\nTry to be around him often, such as sitting near him. \n\nShow off a little when you're around your friends, but not a lot because then he might think you're just silly. \n\nTry to make lots of eye contact - and when you do, smile! (Guys \noften don't look at girls in the eyes, so looking into theirs when they're talking shows them that you are interested in them). \n\nGo up to him and talk to him. Try to get to know him a little by discussing things you have in common. You could even compliment him. Even if you just say he has a nice shirt or a cool watch; it shows him that you're into him. \n\nTell him how you really feel about him once you get comfortable talking together. \n\nBe a brave person and stand up for who you are, and what you believe in. This will catch his attention, and his respect. \n\nTips \nDon't change yourself too much. \n\nA good way to start a conversation is to ask him a question - \nsomething about an interest you might have in common, or even what the time is. Make sure you hide your watch! \n\nSit close to him an touch him on his arm to show him you're interested. \n\nListen to him and don't interrupt him when he is talking. That makes them really annoyed and it's rude! \n\nAct confident but try not to seem stuck up. \n'Bad clothes' are those old pants you used for painting the fence and the sweatshirt with the pony on it. \n\nAsk him out if you're sure he's interested. Most boys love it when girls ask them out. \n\nConsider helping him out with other things like homework and social problems. \n\nWarnings \nNo guy likes a person who is snobby. \n\nIf he tries to do anything you're not comfortable with, tell him that you are not ready for that stuff yet. If he's cool with that, great. If not, then he's not really the nice guy you thought he was. \n\nDon't wear bad clothes when you decide to be brave and walk up to your man. \n\nMake sure to brush your teeth! \n\nBe sure to have gum, breath mints, listerine strips, etc. around in case you need to freshen up quickly. \n\nDon't tell him lies. \n\nIf the guy is a jerk, but you find him attractive, don't let him take advantage of you. Find out more about him before you let things get too serious. \n\nYou can't get everyone to notice you. You cannot get everyone to like you all the time!