I am very happy in my marriage but, I am having sexual thoughts of being with a woman. Is this normal? I really want to try it..
137926
This is completely normal. I would explore this to it's fullest potential and add a few more people to the mix as time progresses. Who knows where things could go.
509731
I can totally relate to where you're coming from. I am also happily married to an amazing guy who sounds a lot like your husband - attractive, sweet, dependable. Yet I sometimes think about other guys I've been with (even brief relationships from back in high school!) or develop big crushes on guys I meet (see my latest post for details). \n\nI can also give you advice as someone who has followed her feelings and tried to "have it all" and the cake, too. A few years ago, I had a very brief affair - which I then confessed to my husband (also detailed in an earlier post). I was very fortunate that he forgave me, and now almost 4 years later we have a child together. The thing is, the affair totally wasn't worth it. Not only did I hurt my husband, who has been my best friend for 10 years, but I went through an emotional hell (and a deep depression).\n\nI can see a lot of similiarities in our situations because I am religious also. That can cause even more angst when these sexual feelings arise, because you feel so much guilt from them. What I've come to recognize is that the feelings are normal, but you just need to be careful not to act on them. It's OK to think about other people from time to time, to fantasize as long as you don't start spending all your energy wanting it to come true. \n\nIn your case, since you've been with this other guy in the past, it would be really easy to fall into it again. My advice is to stay away from him. Enjoy the memories of the exciting sexual moments you've shared in the past, and remember that you're an attractive person to other guys. Use it to boost your confidence and feel good about yourself, just don't act on it. Hope that helps! :-)
77079
Yes dear that is why I ask the ? I did. I was married but not in love but I was in like (she is pretty, nice and rich) and horny and wanted a women around so I married.. Then I fell in LOVE with a women that was a kinda  friend of ours..She not a close friend but a regular friend...... This is now going on still..I got a divorce cause I am in LOVE and want that.. not just a friend to have sex with ..but a women to cherish and adore and can't wait to be with...but she even though I feel she likes me holds me off from talking to her... so I'm extremely frustrated and lonely!!!!
451573
Yes, i think it is perfectly normal for happily married people to get enamored with another person from time to time...! The flirting that you think came from him may just be friendly interaction...I wouldn't risk acting on my feelings if i were you! You may embarrass yourself, and alienate your hubby! Good luck...
90585
I am very attracted to other women, they are sensual and passionate.  Being with another woman sexually is an incredible experience.  I have only been with one woman but the passion and the emotion that was involved in sex was incredible.  I have never been with a guy that I have felt that way with
629151
I believe its a hormonal thing and you still need to feel sexy and attractive to other men.Its quite normal as we get older to still feel like we can or want to get some one elses attention other than our spouses.As long as you dont TOUCH...you`re ok!...Good luck and have fun!
240925
You are obviously already attracted to your wife. Why don't you focus on making your wife happy? By satisfying her desires she will be more inclined to satisfy your desires.
517179
Well, its normal for someone to be curious about memebers of the same sex.  You might want to have a sit down with your husband- just remember that while he might get excited about seeing you with another woman, he'll be angry if theres another penis involved ok?\n\nBy the way, every married couple I've met who've been "swingers" have gotten divorce.  This is serious, so be carefull what you do- someones gonna get hurt emotionally.  Good Luck
494321
Well to be quite honest, you could be bi. I personally do not see anything wrong with that, and quite frankly many women are bi. I am not sure of the psychology behind, it but it is definitely more accepted than men w/other men. I would not freak out if I were you, take things as they come and you will know in time. After all it may just be that the idea is attractive to you, but if the opportunity to be with a woman arose you may find yourself not wanting to pursue it.
264493
After reading your question and additional details, I wondered whether your wife is a person who may, at some time in her life, have heard negative comments that caused her to develop insecure feelings about relationships with men.  For example what if she heard her mother say (in a moment of despair) that men want women only for sex.  And that if you give men sex, they'll be nice to you, but if you don't then they won't have an ounce of interest in you.  I think that as a result, she may, later in life, in her search for a good husband, have tested those words.  You may have had sex before marriage, but you also may very well be the only person she ever met who, at times, showed her love and affection without sex being involved. This probably happened without planning on your part.  You just loved her so much, that you found that being with her was great even if you didn't have sex on some of those occasions. As a result, your actions may have (in her mind) disproved the negatives she heard, and that may have caused her to look on you as someone with the qualities of an ideal husband.  After a couple of years of marriage, it's possible that your relationship has become one where (not by plan, but by habit) you show her the most loving and affectionate attention right around the time when you usually have sex--such as at bedtime.  Hey, this can happen very easily.  But, such an innocent turn of events, could be what triggered your wife's old insecurities, and caused her to want to re-test those negatives she heard many years ago.  If so, this should pass soon as you continue to show your love for her.
383534
You are who you are ... if you want to be considered bi-sexual then go ahead ... I'm in your situation and consider myself bi-sexual ... I've been dating a guy for over a year now & I haven't been with a woman in over a year & a half ... it truly feels like I'm missing something sexually ... we try things like going to the Strip Club or buying lots and lots of lesbian porn but for some reason it doesn't take the feeling of kissing another woman, feeling another woman's skin on top of yours ... or just the sensation of another woman is so different from men ... !\n\nI've never wanted to date a woman or be in a relationship with one but for some reason I can't help but to be attracted to them ... not really sure if I answered your question but ... in reality ... it's only you who labels yourself ... unless you go around kissing & dating girls while your with your man people won't know ... just call yourself .. " name here " .. and try to fill that hole you know your missing ... I wish I knew how ... it would make things a lot easier for me ... good luck ... !
259786
The wife's instinct is closer to correct.  I married a man, who was and is a straight man, but wished to become a woman.  If/when he does that, he will be a lesbian--still attracted to women.
47758
Oh you too hah sista girl.   I agree with Malfean,....deep within (and if you are honest with yourself), you would like to know what it would be like to experience a sexual encounter with this individual you're fantasizing about. Been there and came damb close; however, I've realized that.... this was all I pictured him for (sex and a little intimatcy....hugging - kissing)....there was nothing else....no visions of hangging with friends together, walking in the park, dinner and the movies, sitting up together on the sofa having good dilogue about whatever, bringing the paycheck home to you (hello..).... it was just sex, good sex, more sex and sex....I tried picturing doing other things with him and the imaganation didn't go that far....why???.....well, your soul mate (and that's your husband) have and will probably always supply you with those little things that truely matters. The things mentioned above (hangging together..etc.) will go farther than a good quick fix in the sack. I know it's just fantacy...but sometimes you have to see it for what it truely is...you'll realize it means nothing...so let it go.\n \nNow sometimes our spouses becomes less attractive to us over the years depending on how much they have let themselves go in appearance or how lazy and boring they may have become,...so we fantasize about someone who is just the opposite of your spouse; however, I've learned that if I'm to be in this thing 'til death do us part', I benefit more by talking to him (my spouse) about what we can do to make daily interaction with each other more exciting.... therefore, bring that excitement to the bedroom later on.....\n\nGirrrrllll...look at me giving advise about something I need to work on myself....but non the less, I know it's what I need to do to keep thoughts of other men out of my head when I'm with my husband. (Oooh, I did say other MEN hah....ummm...I mean that man...)..SMILE!!!!.... It's working though.\n\nSo good so far. It may get tough at times, but keep your interaction with each other positive and exciting...laugh a lot...it helps.
176376
I would say those are natural feelings.  We all need fulfillment to some degree, and from what you descirbed, I wouldn't say that it sounds like you're thinking about enging in any type of experimentation that would be more harmful physically or emotionally.  Unlike other types of fantasies, since you had a previous relationship with him, you have more of a frame of reference to work from.  In time you may meet someone else, and these feelings might shift accordingly as you move on from him.  For now, it shouldn't pose any significant problems.
634595
You should be comfortable with your relationship before you try it.  If you have to ask yourself that question, then you probably shouldn't try it.  \nThat is the reason I wouldn't want to do it with my wife.  I'm sure it would be a lot of fun, but I think it would end up causing a lot of problems like you quicker / longer with her.  Or you enjoyed her more than me.  That kind of thing.  \nIf you are very self confident and not the jealous type, then you should be good.\nAlso, If you think you might enjoy doing some stuff with the other woman, then you might want to do that too.
377394
i hope to have a girl as my girl friend like u,u r completely normal nothing wrong with u,some people just have a high sex drive,i am a guy and in some days i do it like 3 or 5 times a day also.it all depends on the sex drive and on how much u r turned on,but if u always all the time do it 5 times a day,then i guess ur husband is the luckiest man in the world to have u as a wife,and i recomend u to do sex more with ur husband or to do it harder and more passionatley,or try to change ur routine like for example try new positions or do exentric things like toys for example.be happy with ur self there is nothing wrong with u,any man wishes to have what ur husband have,be happy and good luck.
513811
Yes it is possible.  Fairly rare, but it does happen.\n\nI don't feel that way myself.  Although I have seriously fantasized about watching my wife with other men.