Ok, so I really like this girl, I have for a very long time and I do feel at times she likes me too. However, she has a boyfriend. But everytime we meet up she constantly complains about him and is saying all sorts of things about how she doesnt know if she is happy. My question is should I tell her how I feel about her? I know that I would treat this girl like gold, and be a better boyfriend than she has now. But I'm caught between a crossroads. I don't want to the reason for a break up, but I do want to be with her really bad. Plus, I dont even know if she likes me like that. Should I at least ask her that? In the past she did like me, but I had a gf at the time. Does that mean she still likes me now? Bottom line, I am real confused and I don't know what to do, should I just let it go and see what time brings or be aggressive and see where that gets me? Obviously, you can see my dilemma and I appreciate any feedback. Answer any one of my questions, or tell me any of your thoughts.
136032
Sounds like u 2 are friends, so approach it that way.  Feel free to tell her you are there for her if she ever needs someone to talk to - do this in a consoling way, so she sees sincerity.  Then be patient and don't get aggressive.  Time will tell.
126692
I answered your last question, but now that I know more of how you are with things it helps me to understand it a little more.\n\nI agree that you should pray about it, and give it to God.\n\n  I would talk with her about it and let her know that you have to work on yourself more before you can give yourself to someone else.  Tell her that you do like her, but let her know that right now is not the right time for the two of you to be together and that you would like to stay the amazing friends that you are because she lights up your life when she is in it.\n\nGood luck and God bless.
231525
My boyfriend told me something just a little while ago. Before we were going out, he didn't know that I liked him, he said i was sending him mixed messeges! I definatly didn't think I was...I liked him so much! But I liked him so much that I would get nervous when I was around him, because I didn't want to give him the wrong Idea, that is what it sounds like is going on. It sounds like the girl likes you, shes just shy. Don't be shy too!! Go for it!
339743
Well it sounds to me as if you two are already going out, and if you really love her you should let her know how you feel, it was that way with my gf and i got the same advice, so far we are going steady and i coldn't be happy, so give it a shot, ask her out, i mean come on you dont want to be sitting there looking back and wondering what could have been do you?
406429
Well for starters every girl loves attention so even if you ask her out and she says no, she wont mind knowing you care :)\n\nI think the whole 'I still like my other boyfriend' is just a front so she doesnt have to feel akward around you and can be herself.\n\nWhen your out with her next, go for the hand, if she likes you, you will see major sparks if not then she will just let go of yours and say something funny or nice to let go of your hand. \n\nBut I think the best and longer lasting relationships are the ones that started out as friends, So good luck mate :)
68390
i think you should wait a while because you say she JUST got dumped. It doesn't seem right if she got dumped one second and is dating another guy the next (unless she dos that all the time). As for the figuring out part i think you should ask her directly but play it cool and try to do it when she is alone because you might embarass yourself if it is in front of a lot of other people.
546859
She may be guilty that she had hung out with you so much even before she had been dumped.  The girl may also think that her boyfriend dumped her because she had been so close with you.  I don't think you should push anything or talk to her right away about it.  Give her time and if she ever needs to talk, imply that you will always be there for her.  That's most important and casually smile or say hello to her when you see her around.  You shouldn't do anything drastic or you will confuse and scare her away.  Good luck on this, I know relationships are hard!
212196
omg!i have so been there!this is a perfect question!u see i liked this guy alot!and the same thing happened to me he got a gf so i was sad but then they broke up and now i flirt as mush as possible!so look my point is even though she has a bf still be sweet to her and flirt all the time and then if they break up try to become closer with her and then maybe ask her out!
101091
Girls are big players in love!  I should know, I'm a girl!  But she could just be confused with her feelings and doesn't know what to do so she's testing the waters!  It sounds like she really likes you though because as you say you talk for hours and friends who only care for each other do that!  It sounds like you should be together and give it a go!  It doesn't hurt to try right?  Imagine what it would be like not to see or talk to each other - it's hell!
546323
It sounds like a relationship to me....do you want it to be.  If so, you can teasingly ask her if you are her boyfriend to gauge her reaction.  There's no timeline when two people who are dating become a couple, but if you desire an exclusive relationship with her you'd better express that to her in order to ensure that you're both on the same page.  And if you like her I suggest you start planning special things the two of you can do together, such as planning a trip together, plan a special holiday event, etc.  You seem like a really sweet person.  Communication is the key to most good relationships.  Good Luck
249752
the best course of action here is to not make a move on her. be respectful of her and her boyfriend. if she ends up breaking up with boyfriend, give her some time, and then try.\n\nsometimes girls flirt with guys, even when they are in a relationship and don't want to break up with their boyfriend. some girls are like that! she may think you're fun to hang out with, but she may just be that type of person.\n\nyou're better off looking for another girl. for one thing, why do you want to be with a girl that flirts with other guys when she still has a boyfriend. if she's doing it now, she will do it if you get together with her.\n\ndon't worry, you'll find another girl, guaranteed. or she'll find you.
394250
It sounds good to me. I would only do it if I KNEW she liked me, though. I almost did a similar thing with this guy I like, but I changed my mind because I wasn't sure how he felt. BE CAREFUL, and plan what you'll do if she doesn't respond the way you want her to!
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I bet you and I know that no one can give a definite answer to your question since not all girls think alike. It all comes down to what kind of person she is, how long have you known her, etc.\n\nYou need to know her well to determine whether she does have feelings for you or was her advances towards you merely shows that she's being friendly or otherwise. Is she a social kind of person? Does she have a lot of admires? Is she the shy type of girl? Have she ever done this towards her other male friends? All these you need to take into evaluation.\n\nHow often does she sees her boyfriend? Is there any rift going on between them? Does she seem to have any problem with him? Would her advances towards you mean she's regarding you as her platonic boyfriend? You need to know her well in order to understand this body contact you've experienced with her.\n\nI admit that I've done those kind of advances towards my male friends before but only to those whom I regard as close friends and those whom I acknowledge like a brother to me however, I take care not to give them any wrong impression. On the other hand, there were those who regarded my advances as interest. For your information, I've done that to my boyfriend as well.\n\nAs I have said earlier, it is hard to tell whether her advances signifies her interest in you. Try evaluating the questions I gave you. They might clear up your dilemma.\n\nHope you'll find your answer soon.
664638
I think you should just call her, because you sound confused and you just confused me by reading all that....lol. But seriously, if you like her find out for sure, because she may be feeling the same way about you (confused). Sometimes people don't give off clear signs on wether they like a person or not...maybe their shy...maybe their scared..or maybe they don't like you.....you never know. Just keep on untill you get a clear YES or NO!!! But in this case if you do get a No..then don't feel stupid or anything, because you already know your a good person and she would probably end up the one missing out!!! Also don't listen when the people on here tell you to start "playing games" that is soooo immature and a waste of time..do what's in your heart. So find out!!! that way you can make your next move.....either you will start a wonderful relationship or you will move the HELL ON!!!!!! (so you can quit wondering) \nGood Luck and Be Blessed!!!!
304255
Well if you really like this girl then why do you have to call it quits? But If you don't like her anymore then don't waste more time and end it ASAP then move on.\nIt's just a matter if what you feel for her is enough for you to hold on to the relationship or is it enough for you to let go. You will still be the one to answer your own question in the long run.
536336
yea thats deep, but she obviously loves this guy, and u have to think about whats best for her, and apparently she thinks this is best, just try and get over her. If it was meant to be between ya'll then it will happen regardless. but i wouldn't tell her because that would make her feel uncomfortbale and maybe get u in a fight with the b/f. there are plenty of other girls that will be just like her. trust me!
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If she broke up with the guy for sure, and if you are not close friends with him, you can tell her you like her.  But understand that right now she is on the rebound, and not really ready for a new boyfriend.  Even if she thinks she is.  But you can start spending time with her if she is willing, and maybe something will develop from it.