I've been faithful to her ever since and she still doesn't trust me. I let her know where I am always and I'm always forward with her. I love this woman with all my heart and I'm willing to do anything to regain what I've lost in our relationship.
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She might start to trust you again, to some degree, but it will never be like it was before you treated.  She will never be able to say, "I know he would never betray me like that."  because you did.
228747
I think you better give up that girl..trust is very important in relationship..u can do that..even u love her, there are still another women which deserves u..she doesnt deserve u...
206387
She could be like a lot of women...meaning that eventhough she's in a sh*tty marriage, she's still gonna be faithful to him because the bond of marriage does mean something to her. If you try and push the issue with her you're only gonna make her uncomfortable and she'll push you away. I say just bide your time cause eventually she'll realize she's with a d*ckhead and leave his *ss. We all smarten up at some point :D.
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Love and trust cannot be forced. I appears to me that she has trust issues in the first place if she can't let go of something that she knows to be false. Of course, there is also the chance that something else is affecting her decision. Ask her to tell you why she won't return your calls, if she says she doesn't want to talk to you, you best let go. You could also try dropping communication to zero for a couple of weeks. You might make her curious and she might even come to ask YOU what's going on. Then you two can talk it out and figure out what is best for each of you. Hope these ideas can help you. Good luck. \n\nTo everyone else, It isn't fair to automatically consider someone to be a "moron" or "stalker" without knowing all the details. I think this person deserves the benefit of the doubt. We have all seen much worse than this. Thanks.
229215
Sounds like you have some trust issues in general. Maybe you were betrayed by someone you trusted and now you're on guard. It takes time to build trust and to allow yourself to be vulnerable. Once you do, you'll be able to tell that person anything.
97949
It will work as long as you trust each other and you are committed.  I am in the same situation.
555780
trusting people takes time. especially when you once had it and then lost it. i think that you should be VERY patient with her. don't turn her insecurities into an argument. try to understand where she is coming from. i think that if you don't lie continuously, she'll eventually trust you. believe me...
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Fess up!  The longer you lie the most the distrust builds, but if you come clean you'll show you are willing to try and be honest and build the trust up again.  Yes, it will be hard at first, but if she truly loves you and sees you are truly trying to make things right and address the problem, she'll stick with you and help you work through it.
423146
You cannot force trust. This is an issue of trusting one another. The more you push, the more she pulls. Better to just be you and be the way you truly are. If she comes around and cottons to that kind of honesty, then good for both of you. If she continues to have qualms about someone who is honest and trustworthy, those issues are better helped by her actions, not yours. Just be kind and steady and send out a good feeling of love in her general direction and she may eventually relax once again. I once invited a small cat into my back hall and she kept coming closer and closer and then she made eye contact with me and what she saw there enabled her to cross the threshold and enter my home. She has been with me ever since and I have never betrayed that trust. You are the same way, except you are with a person, not a little cat who was stuck out in an ice storm last March.
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Your issue is trust, correct? Ask yourself these questions:\n\n1. How important to you is trust in a relationship?\n\n2. Are you willing to allow trust to be continually compromised in a relationship you choose to be in that may ultimately fail because of this trust being broken over and over and in turn then make you feel unable to ever trust another person in a later relationship.\n\n3. Is the answer to question #1 VERY and the answer to question #2 NO ?\n\nI would never presume that you would make decisions about your life by allowing me or anyone else to directly influence those decisions but I think you can see where I'm going with this. So, believing you're a good, bright and sensible young woman I'll leave you to make your own decision and wish you the best in whatever you may decide.\n\nGood Luck !!
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I feel it was wrong for her not to tell you and now you feel trapped and lied to but the thing of the matter is ---which boils right down to you can you forgive her for lieing to you and if you are willing to continue to love her because if not then these problems will always exist in your relationship or marriage and I am a strong believer that you should not get married under false pretenses but if she has not shown any other signs of cheating or anything like that then you should give her the opportunity to prove herself to you and if you still want to wait to get married you dont have to rush into this you should want you marriage to be happy and joyous and loving=== dont get married because your families want you to get married because you love her yeah people make mistakes and I was also cheated on so I had to weigh my options of what would be best for me and  my children and I assume that you dont have any children so take your time and you talk to her about it a little more try to put yourself in her shoes try to understand what made her do it and why get a sense of understanding first and then you can make a rational decision on whether to leave or not \n\nhope things work out for you
243250
You and I have spoken personally about it. I know you love her, but she won't change. Im not going to post what you told me because PERSONALLY is the operative word. I think that she is following the saying "Abscence makes the heart grow fonder" Now that you guys are divorced now she wants to try again, it seems that you are following this too, but I know it is because you were trying so hard for everything to work out and it didnt and you are still hurting behind it. Find a better woman, there are plenty out there.\n\nHope this helps.
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if shes hiding things from you, then maybe she doesn't trust you enough to tell you. trust is the bridge of a relationship, so if thats the case, then she dont love you. 2 maybe she cheated and shes scared to lose you so she figures its best not to tell. From my point of view, you seem to be the one calling the shots here. trust your judgement
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Trust is something that is earned and can be destroyed so easily.  She has to understand that you have done nothing to make here distrust you and  even though she is hurting, you are there to listen. Sometimes just being a listner will truly show your intentions more than trying to convince otherwise. Actions speak louder than words and she will know this once the heart heals. Right now she is hurting and that will cloud her thoughts, just give it time as time heals most.  Be there when she needs you but dont crowd her.  \nIt is a shame that people today forget what trust is and what commitment is about. So often men and woment run to the next thing that may look better than the person we are with, but you have to stop and ask-- is this worth losing what I got now for something I know nothing about...
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Unfortunately, she knows you cheated before. Now, you are climbing a mountain to get back up to a level playing field.\n\nThe ONLY way to get her to believe you is to go out of your way to make her feel secure. She doubts you, so you will have to work overtime to keep her from running away.
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hey man, are you dating my girlfriend?  I cant believe there is anyone I can relate so well with - \n\nI guess all I can say is to just trust her until something really messed up is proven to you- give her the benefit of the doubt man!  Does she tell you she loves you? I know they can lie about that too, but at least they are saying it.  If she turns out to be a liar, dont do what I did once in my past- dont even attempt to make her feel guilty, because chances are she wont anyways.
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REMEMBER... For so many years u haf go through so many highs n lows wif her. She's always there 4 u. U should not betray her trust. A ger's heart is like glass, very to be broken. \nThink properly, think carefully.\nTry sitting down wif her to slove ur problems. Should always talk with her.\nNobody can help u. Only u n her can solve this 2gather!