we ended up our relationship because we both feel that its the wrong time and place since we're in the same place and he is my landlady's nephew.he has a gf already but he still shows that he cares and he never said anything about it.i dont want to presume things. i dated with other guys. i divert my attention to my work, friends and other activities but i still end up thinking of him. im really so depressed...
127781
If chocolate, friends, pedicures, and other guys cant divert your attention then you might want to see a therapist. It seems like you are really having trouble letting go of this guy and a therapist might be able to help. Good luck!
80740
I've been there and what i did was just start talking to him that way you don't feel so weird to be around him. we both are dating other people and we just talk as normal people b-cuz we realized we cant be as close Friends as we were before but we still hang out with the same people and its better to be talkin to each other than not talkin at all.
133531
I had the same problem as you, I was 3yrs younger then this guy at school & i totally loved him & every1 thought he liked me but he never made a move & then graduated & i never saw him again. Its heart breaking! Eventually with time you realise that u dont see him anymore and that he must not have felt the same because he never made a move. Hopefully you'll meet someone soon who's heart you steal away and you feel that same back. It unfortunately takes time. Try to hang out with friends & avoid lovie-dovie movies! Wish you all the best - i know your pain! :)
155288
Trust me at 19 you are gonna wish you had dated more, i was in a similar situation.  They guy and I dated for 4 or  rs although he was a good guy there was no motivation or goals I found out on my own and ended up leaving him for someone else. You have to ask what is your future with that person and is your family going o ever accept him?
518032
how long have you known him? Why would you save him for last? Being around other people means that you date other people? Traces are not real love-FYI.
555508
The problem probably is that your not being direct enough.  You say your doing everything but you haven't done what needs to be done if you want to be with him.  You need to actually talk to him and tell him that it is him you miss and that you want to be a part of his life.  Right now he probably feels like you ended things and that he isn't willing to risk getting dumped again without being sure that this is what you want and that your willing to actually be with him through the bad times and not end things so easily.
519507
Considering that he has already asked you out in the past (even if it was a few years back), half of the work is already done. It sounds like he already has feelings for you. I think that what you should do is start talking to him again.. don't just jump right into the relationship, start off talking to him, talk to some friends of his to see if he is single, and if that is not possible.. be like "Your girlfriend's lucky.." and test the waters. Most likely he will then at that point say "I'm single" or "Yea, she is" This would probably be a good indicator. You may not use the exact phrase, but whatever you choose to that extent should take care of that problem. My advice is, gee, just to get the friendship built back up, and get it to where you feel comfortable with him and want to get into a relationship. Just keep in mind, that no matter what happens, it will happen in its own time, no need to hurry things along.. Good luck!
177463
I hate to break it to you, but it sounds like he did....I know the feeling. It sucks. My best advice is to cut him out of your life, find a new hottie, and make sure he KNOWS what he's missing out on. :-) Good luck.
100419
Part of life and dating is finding out exactly what you are looking for in a man.  All of us get hurt at one time or another, some of us more often than others.  The heartache comes from having a strong connection with the individual, and then one day everything is gone, and IF we are lucky we may maintain a friendship with that individual (but how often does that happen?).  I know, I'm dealing with this now.  Yes it hurts.  Those men that have greatly impacted my life and are no longer in it....I never really forget them, they are just not always in the forefront of my mind, but I still think of them, some more than others.  It's ok to never completely let go of them in your mind.  I have had to write in a notebook to him, at least I don't feel so overwhelmed with my thoughts this way.  Be strong, it's hard, but we all go through this.\n\nLike they say:  It's better to have loved and lost, then to have never loved before.....\n\nand: Things come and go from our lives, it's how we loved them and how much we loved them the time they were here that counts.\n\nIf you care for this person and have showed it to him....he won't forget you, he will use you as a comparison for his next relationships, and that can be a good thing.
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I'm sorry things didn't end well for you, but you mustn't make assumptions on what happened. Not all of us are heartless like that. I know I'm not. I was in love, actually am in love, with this guy who had left for the Army. Well I waited for him and never did I stray my eyes elsewhere. When he came back, I knew he might get deployed for a year or more at any time, but never one did I ever think of just forgetting about him. I would've waited for him as long as necessary. Unfortunately, it didn't work out for us, but it wasn't because of that, there were other issues. My point is, don't despair, just because one relationship went sour. I'm sure someday you'll find that girl who will wait for you as long as necessary because she truly loves you. :)
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i know how you feel cuase i maybe just getting out of that right now...\n\nsee i haven't had a real boyfriend for almost 2 years  and about two weeks ago i asked a guy that is a grade younger out, he said yes becuase i knew he really liked me.. we went out for a week then i said i am just a lil over welmed by the feeling and just need to take a lil break.. after a while he started talking to my friends and practically the whoiole school found out we liked each other and now everyone considers us to be dating...  and we just kinda go with everyone cuase everyone else thinks it is great now im not so overwelmed with the feeling... i think the overwelming i use to feel was that i was afraid of being heartbroken again.\n\ndon't worry you will grow out of the feeling a lil while after you begin dating.. depending on however your emotions work..\n\nnothing to really worry about
569703
don't do it....i did just that thing and ended up very sad and very screwed over. after we broke up i still had to see him everyday, so that made it even harder cause i still cared very much for him. think hard before starting a work related relationship with anyone
49855
Keep your mind open to further possibilities. Don't compare the guy that you've date with your guy. I know it must be hard coz on 7 years of your life you only figure out him as your 'prince charming' in your mind. Open your heart to find the qualities that maybe you need on the guy you date with. Maybe you don't even realize that yet.  Don't close it the minute you meet someone wonderful. \nRelease your guilty feeling caused you date with other guys. It didnt mean you not love him anymore. Let your love to him be a part of your sweeties memory ever.  Don't stuck on it. Move on. Please believe that your guy doesn't want you feel sad and stuck on the past anymore. He must be want to see you happy again. So release it...
159843
I feel u, im in the same position but its only 3 yrs not 5 ;p well i told him abt 4 months ago that i have feelings (he's my best friend btw) and that i need 2 take a distance to get over him and we stayed like that 4 a month and it didnt work...try 2 get urself involved with other ppl, convince urself that u like some1 else...(i have no idea why am I giving advice) just try 2 get urself 2 think of some1 else
401765
There is no easy answer.  I felt like I spent the better half two years basically throwing myself at this guy I use to work with.  I never got any where.  We just remained good friends and now we just seemed to have gone down different paths and never see each other anymore.  Don't take it too hard if this happens.  It just means that you weren't meant to be together and you'll find the right guy down the road.
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He wasn't ready for what ever reason to commit to you. Don't beat yourself up over this, there are people that will come and go in our lives, some for the good and some for the bad... it just makes us stronger people. Obviously you invested more in this relationship than he did, and it's going to hurt for a while trying to get over it. Grieve for a while, if you want to cry and feel sorry for yourself, do it.... it's all part of the process of loss. Just always remember your self worth, and that we are not the lessor of our selves, we are the sum of ALL of our parts, and that is something phenomenal. There may be more men like him in your future... and then again you may meet your soulmate tomorrow.... just don't let life get you down...it's too short to waste the energy on negative people. God bless you, good luck, Peace.
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Hello again Fantasy Foo, I've been were your at, and it's not a good feeling. One good thing about life is....Time heals everything. I was once told: If you love something let it go, if it comes back it's yours...if it don't it never was. If you have the fellas number or you know how to get in contact with him...let him know how you feel, but don't hate on his girl...thats tacky.