My friend is being physically and mentally abused but she doesn't want help. She has been hurt soooo much that she has been put in the hospital. What should i do to help her?
125280
The first thing you should do is tell somebody please tell somebody. being her friend it is your responsibility to let someone because you telling someone could save her life. I dont know if eith of you are religous but pray with her and pray for her that God her strength to move beyond this situation. Let her know that you have her best intrest in mind and that you want her to be safe and let her know that she can trust you and that you love her and you have her back no matter what.\nI'll be praying for you both
125413
it sounds like she really needs help to get her life straightenend out, if you ignore her she will feel like you don't care and that you think she is worthless.  You need to help her get her life back on track before something worse happens to her.  Help her get counseling, get into rehab, even go to church.  If you avoid her and something really bad happens, like she ends up getting killed, then you will never forgive yourself for standing by and letting it happen when you could've done something.  Maybe what she really needs is a friend like you to help her.
393924
This is unfortunate matter sweety...But please do not get upset with yourself...It's nothing to do with you...Be happy she's in a safe place now where she can get help...All you can do is be there when she needs you...Remember she's not herself now, so just think about the good times...She'll be back to herself soon enough...Be strong for your sister...You're dong a good job =)
512931
It sounds as if your friend suffers from serious depression. I know your intentions to help her are good, but if her condition is due to psychological causes there is nothing you can do for her. She definitely needs professional help. Can't you talk to her parent about this? They have to do something less it ends in a tragedy. I admire you for being such a wonderful friend to her. And believe me, one day she will be grateful too.
201045
The poor thing...  She is lucky that she has you as a friend who really wants to help her.  I dont blame her for not wanting to talk, she must feel terrible.  I think the best thing to do is to go somewhere with her where there is no-one else around you guys, like the beach or a park or go on a bushwalk, or just do something that you know she loves.  Make sure no-one else is around (especially not the people who are making fun of her) and try and get her to relax and not be afraid to speak. \nIf you cant get her to go anywhere with you straight away, try sending text messages to communicate or write each other letters.  Buy her a diary to write down all her feelings in.  \n\nShe needs to know she has support.  Try talking to her family (as long as they arent the ones who are laughing at her).  If you dont help her now, (or get someone to help her) she could end up developing social disorders or agraphobia (where she will be too scared to leave the house).  You are a great friend, she is lucky to have a friend who cares about her and doesnt make fun of her.  Just help her through it as best you can.. And as for the people laughing at her, how pathetic.  They must be really horrible people to make your friends life hell. Good on u for sticking by her.
492701
He is an adult, so unless you can prove (in a court of law) that he is mentally incompetant, you cannot force him to do anything against his will. Even if you could put him in a treatment center, it wouldn't do any good if he didn't really want to get better. Sometimes, as hard as it is to do, you just have to let them hit rock bottom. That is when  they will ask for help....then you move heaven and earth to get them the help they need.
456612
Contact your local "legal services", they're sometimes free or sliding scale.  Get her to talk to someone about her legal rights.  Then try the local mental health services to see if they could help.
568798
i think your friend is trying to hurt herself under the influence of alcohol, she may be also falling down, not able to control her balance, because she must be drinking too much, and getting high. if she is injuring herself, it's a cause for concern. does'nt she have any family? you haven't mentioned her age also? i guess she may be your room-mate at a hostel, or both of you staying together in an apt. or something? you should not take the responsibility of this alcoholic friend of yours, as it seems you are'nt able to handle the problem and the situation competently, you may also come in trouble along with her, for attempt to commit suicide by self-injury, like cutting veins and all that. the most imp. and right thing to do now is to take her to a psychiatrist for consultation and treatment, so all these emergencies will end. if needed, admit her in a rehab., till she improves, as per dr.s advice, visit her periodically, impress upon her the urgency to take this step. don't allow her to take an undue advantage of your submissive nature, you could be kind, but should not be unreasonable and irrational. help her to help herself, if you really care about her. hope ther is no unntural relation between you two!
67545
Have your best friend talk to her friends parents. They can be the most helpful, the best thing to do is to have an intervention have everyone say how what she is doing is affecting them and hurting herself, then if all works out well she will want to get treatment if not the parents can get her help against her will. But she needs to get help, it is a dangerous disease to have. Her body will start to shut down slowly and she will end up very sick or dead.
471562
Hi there,\n\nTry talking to her. If she is cutting she is screaming out for help but just doesn't know how to get it. \n\nIf she doesn't want to talk to you it is very important that you see if you can find some-one she will talk too. If you can't think of anyone call LIFELINE or KIDS HELP LINE to get some help!!!\n\nLife line 13 11 14\nKids Help line 1800 55 1800 \n\nYour a good friend to be concerned.
210513
You have to make sure that they know you are there for them and you need to let them know that it's not an ok thing to do. Convince them that they need to stop and get help. You have to be there for them and support them in everything. Anything else? e-mail me at mowel3point@yahoo.com!
601795
I am bipolar who mainly has manic episodes and I am going to make this short and to the point. There is nothing that you yourself can do for her. If she is refusing to take her meds and is becoming violent, the best thing you can do for the safety of ALL involved is to call your local Mental Health Hospital or Clinic and have her committed. They will take care of her by putting her on the medication she needs and giving her the therepy she needs. I've been in a hospital before and it really isn't that bad. They look after you 24/7, they feed you, they keep your room clean, they monitor you, they make sure you have your meds on time, and the doctor comes in to see you on a regular basis for therepy sessions. Trust me, if you care about her, that is the course you will need to take, for her sake, and the sake of all involved.
89466
This what you do call the, Police and the new's station's and the rape hotline and have him picked -up. Why are they not helping her? That's what you have got to get out like yesterday and take her somewhere she can get counciling she need's to talk with someone are, As a group to keep from metal mishap's start to happen such as hurting herself. Good Luck and put him away for molesting a child, and his child JEZ !!!!!!
271214
gorl oh my gosh she really does need help u need to tell or call someone and i am serious i have had a situation like this and just try to talk and comfort her and tell her how much she is loved by u and her other family and freinds tell her that she still ha s2 acomplish things in her life and that she can get help and that you will be ther with her if she wants.\n\n                         - i wish u the best of luck with her and u
304401
Make some calls to find a nearby facility where she can get help.  As much as you love your friend, she needs PROFESSIONAL help. She probably has to be checked into some kind of hospital where they can help her gain weight and teach her how to eat properly.  Eating disorders are about control, not about food.  She needs therapy.  You can help her find that therapy and be there for her when she comes home.  Stay her friend no matter what, even if she gets mad at you. Someday she will thank you for your support.
644616
It sounds like he has issues to deal with and he is telling her he is not capable of giving her what she wants. Whether it is permanent is on him but she needs to tell hi that she will give him space and stick to it. Tell her to show him support that way and give him a little space to work his demons out. Also Tell her to tell him to let her know when he need to talk and go from there. I know it is difficult to stand by and watch loved ones suffer but if they need space give them SPACE. Tell her to keep her head up and be the supportive partner. He will come around when he realizes he needs her and is ready to talk. take care and she is lucky to have a supportive Friend like you- good job!
501914
Call around to local hospice centers or hospitals. Don't forget about shelters for victims of domestic violence as well or group homes. Working in a group home might help her if she can see people who are more in her age range who are less fortunate than her. Also, check with churches since many of them have soup kitchens for those who don't have a place to go or will be able to help you find one where you can volunteer.\n\nGood luck. I think this is a wonderful idea and anyone you help will appreciate it.