He is in the army, and might be going on leave soon, so while he is gone he wants me to live in the house.  I wont have to pay for anything, I just dont see why I have to sign papers to live in his house while he's gone.  Nothing ever comes good out of signing some papers if you dont know what your getting yourself into, so has anyone heard of having to have someone sign papers for you to live in thier house while thier gone, oh and he wants to give me his car while he's gone, but he says I need to sign some papers.  To me it sounds kinda of weird. HELP!
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i was in the army, dont do it unless your married. ive seen too many good girls get themselves and thier credit screwed over from the same situation. tell him you want to be married before that kind of financial commitment and see what he says. that will tell you if hes trying to screw with you or not.
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You are right in saying that these people have a right to know the truth about this man but if it's his place than yes, he can evict you regardless of your lease or whether you pay ontime. It will help should you have to go to court over this but know that if it gets that far, as long as you can prove residency for at least thirty (30) days and you receive mail there, it will take 90 days for him to officially evict you. So you will have at least three months to find a new place. Only then will the cops come to your place and actually watch you move all your things and you leave the permisses. It can get terriably ugly so see if there isn't a way to smooth it over in the mean time. That is if you really want to stay there.
21224
Generally speaking, "moving in together" is a huge step.  And it hardly ever works when a total stranger picks up and moves in to your home "just to move in". If you are questioning what you should do, I think you are getting strange vibes from this guy.  He could be blowing hot air and just saying that he wants to come and see you. But it seems unusual that he's discussing moving in with you so early in your acquaintance.  If I were you I would let him know exactly how you feel. And if it comes down to it, I'd stop talking to him.
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Patricia, we have talked in part about this. I went threw the same thing with my ex husband a long time ago. He didn't want the divorce either and it took me a long time to get mine as well. He can be made to sign those papers. He is a controlling type of man and he is thinking as long as he don't sign those papers, he still has some control over you. If you can try not to even talk to him at all. As long as he thinks he has controll at all over you, he is not going to stop. Don't let him get you down. Just keep pushing the issue. Mine was nit picking me, he would want something so small, picture, bottle of oil, etc. I did get mine, but was wondering.
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You will not have peace and closure. You may wind up with a court case for selling his property illegally. Why are you waiting for him to give you your things? Get your stuff, with a friend, as a witness, and have his crap ready in the trunk to make a clean trade. Another option is asking the police to escort you to his home and do the switch.
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talk to him a month isn't that long. the worst thing to do is sweep it under a rug. enjoy the time you will spend with him until then and then you will really enjoy when he comes home. look on the bright side, at least he is not being deployed into war. that would be even worse. take what you can.
347120
Do it. Just make sure you take care of yourself. Start a little savings account in case things don't work out and you find yourself suddenly without a roommate. Do you really want to get to know your man's living habits AFTER you've signed a legally binding document?
546152
Although technically, the previous answers are right ( you should pay your rent because of your contract etc), I would advise that you hold on to that rent payment and don't pay him! \nHe sounds like a bit of a rogue, and if he is a crook you won't be seeing the whole amount of your deposit returned (typically landlords like him make up reasons such as cleaning bills, delapidation etc in order to retain your money) \nYou're moving out at the end of December anyway and he has no power to just 'throw you out', he'd have to get an eviction notice and go through certain legal proceedures. The chances of him taking you to court are very slim, he would only do this if he thought you had caused damage to the property, but it sounds as though the property wasn't completely legal anyway (basic rights are to have a corgi certificate, working appliances etc)\nSo, I say sod him!! Good luck x
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you need to get a lawyer, try legal aid they may be able to help you as long as you are in there income guidelines, he can stop you from being able to move and this will probably affect the current visitation agreement you two have. It will probably come to one having the child during the school year and one during the summer, also alternating holidays. that is if that's what he goes for, he could also go for total custody. Before you move you need to get the courts permission or else you can be charged for this. Be careful, it sounds like you may have a fight on your hands, don't let the thought of you wanting to move in with your current boyfriend, make you lose your child, do everything the legal way so you are all legal and still retain custody.
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Well, i am married (mil to mil) and if he gets married after basic training he might be a hold over, waiting for them to process all his paper before he heads to his A School. So i would tell him he might want to do it now and let the recruter do the paper filing and whatever else he needs to do. That is the recruters job, to do paper work or whatever needs to be done for your son to work for uncle sam. Dont let the recruter be lazy if he is acting lazy, it's a military thing. LOL If he gets married before boot camp then everythig will fall into place and him and his wife can be together as soon as he gets out of A School and he will have nothing to worry about other than finding a house. If you need anything feel free to e-mail me   tink41503@yahoo.com
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Unfortunately, he can file bankruptcy, which just makes it harder for you to collect. You did mention for "us" to qualify  for a loan on our new house... I'm assuming this means you both own this house together (BOTH of your names are on the title)? If this is the case, you can go to court, and sue him for your half of the equity in the house (and the original downpayment plus attorney's fees) - this may require him to sell the house (which he can't legally do without your signature if your name is also on the title also). While the money you used to pay off your ex's vehicle and travel trailer might be gone (but not necessarily), at least you might be able to recover your loss suffered in the mortgage loan. Good luck!
17786
The problem here is that he lives in your place. It dont matter if it is in your name or not he lives there. When i was served with a warrant at my sisters house it did not matter that i wasnt on the lease what mattered was what was in the house. All 4 of us went to jail even tho my sister and brother in law knew nothing about what was there. Im not sure if this helps you but I thought I would share my experiance. I think you gave yourself the best advice, "get an attorney A.S.A.P."
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Read your papers everyday. Don't worry. I am a military wife and I know how it feels not to hear from someone who's over there. Don't think the worst. There are many reasons why they may not be able to call you. When my husband was over there, someone compromised the unit by revealing to much info to a loved one on the phone. Consequently, they weren't able to call home for two weeks. Also they may be moving and they may not be able to communicate in anyway. If you have contact info, write or email. Many soldiers (along with everyone else now!) have Myspace pages. See if they have one. Next of kin is contacted as soon as all of the proper procedures are complete. The person the soldier listed on his paperwork is the person that will be called. It is not always a spouse or a parent. After that, it is up to that person to contact everyone. But please, be patient, relax, and pray. Things are tough but you will be okay and he is ok.
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IF the house is in BOTH of your names, he can try and do whatever he likes but legally he will get in trouble by the courts by keeping you out of your home, that is if you want to be there. If the house is in your name too, go for the house if you can afford it, or ask for the equity in the house.
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you are making an excuse "can't keep...living through him."\nif you wanted to be with him you would go with him.\nif you don't want to go overseas, don't.\nit seems completely reasonable that you simply prefer to stay where you are.\nyou are ready to settle down but feel awkward about pressuring him to do so.
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I have been wondering this myself.  You are so right, life isn't sure at all.  I have a lease where I am at until December and he has a lease where he is at until October.  ... I would like to buy a house in a couple of more years and I am not sure when it would be good for him to move in or if we will even still be an item.  It is just something out there.  Guess you just have to go with what you feel is best.
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i think the best way would be is to go with what he asks you to do, but never let him get to you. agree to whatever he tells you, but do what you want anyways on your own account.. or with out him knowing.. more or less just letting things flow so u can live at peace. if this approach doesnt work, try discussing things with him, see his point of view and try to understand it, maybe there is a reason as to why he doesnt want you to do certain things. if also this approach doesnt work, save money, work hard, have patience and move out... all in all i think u should be strong and handle this smartly, cause if you rebel hell just be as suprpessive and controlling as he can get. try to work your way to get your peace of mind.. remember that.