I am foru months pregnant, recently i caught my partner cheating and i decided to end the relationship. I live in the caribbean and he is living in the United States, we were alos making pans for me to have the baby in he united states.  What is the best option for me with regards of getting supportance after the baby is born.  Does the nationality of the baby also affects the legal process of getting supportance, knowing the fact the we live so far apart
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where does he live in the U.S.? Is he a citizen? Does he have a job? Are you still planning on having the baby here? What you will probably want to do is contact the United Way Information and Referral Line in whatever county he lives in to find out where to start.  It is usually easy to find the UW I&R's via http://www.211.org/ReferWeb/MainForm.aspx \n\nGood Luck\nand\nCongratulations on your baby!!
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Things like this happen all the time rest assured you are not alone. although i am well aware this will not ease your plight.\n\nThe residence of a child is a political battle. Ideally what needs to be done is that the welfare of the child is placed paramount. Then a decision can be made. Highly litigated cases can often be extremely damaging for a child. \n\nI vaguely remember a story about two women fighting over a baby and someone said he would settle it by a tug of war, once this was started the woman who loved the child more couldn't bare to hurt it and gave up instantly. Sometimes loosing your side of the battle is most beneficial to the child.\n\nIf you are sure that this is not the case, then you could appeal but this should not be taken lightly.\n\nYour question is hidden behind much impenetrable anger, if there was more factual information including the Countries in which the child, mother and father reside, more information could potentially be given in return.
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Thats an insanely complicated question. Talk to an international adoption attourney who deals with your state. \n\nI hate attourney's worse than the next guy, but when it came to adopting my sone, I wanted to make sure EVERY T was crossed and every I dotted.\n\n-HtJ
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I got pregnant by a guy who thought was a night in shining armor (turned out to be a jerk in tin foil).  When I miscarried at 12 weeks I was devastated!  I had serious depression after that.  I stopped living in a way and was just there.  One day it dawned on me that I needed to leave if I was ever going to move on.  3 weeks later I was at Naval boot camp in Chicago.  That led to meeting my wonderful hubby and having a beautiful son.  I'm even pregnant again!  I'm no longer in the Navy because I wanted to stay at home to care for my son myself but I know that if I hadn't of joined the Navy that day, I wouldn't have the wonderful life I have now.
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no obortion thats for one tell her to have her baby you never know when you are leaving. a baby would leave your essence and it would be the more mature thing to do. there are all types of places to help you raise your baby. take his ass to child support court take his money women have been able to raise kids on there own for the longest and this is coming from a man so its true to talk more \n\nroosie60000@yahoo.com have a lot of fun encouraging her through her pregnancy ok much love from yours truly roosie
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It was a very bad choice, but having another baby is not going to solve anything.  I really recommend signing up for the free online post-abortion study at http://www.healinghearts.org  Just about all of the email counselors there have aborted babies themselves, and they can help you work through all the issues you're dealing with.  If you've already conceived another child, the Healing Hearts study will help you get your life in order so that you can be a good mother to the baby.\n\nYou might also want to visit http://Abort73.com and confront what you did to your child.  The truth hurts, but you need to see it.
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Barbara is right. You need to file in the county where the child resides (and has resided for at least 6 months). And, you can only collect child support that dates back to the date you originally filed for support.\n\nYou can pick up the paperwork at your local Family Court office or you can request assistance from D.S.S. They will help you even if you don't qualify for other services.
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Be as honest with yourself and others as soon as possible... I know it is awful to be where you are at right now, but telling someone in your family or hers that you have the best relationship with is going to be your best bet long term.  You need support.  Since you are both minors, it is unfortunant that you have this in front of you, but I don't think it is a crime... If one of you were an adult that would be a problem.  Be as strong as you can.  This will get better.  There are other choices.  There are many families out there that wish to adopt a child.  But still at least be there as her friend and make sure she gets the proper medical care and emotional support.  Please don't wait any longer to tell an adult... Time will make matters harder to deal with.  I suggest not to break up with someone because of her medical condition.  She's got to be emotional too right now.  If you have other problems than the pregnancy, consider doing so because of that.... But you should really be there for each other since you both created the dilema.
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get a lawyer and as soon as the baby is born get a paternity test and then visitation... don't talk to her at all though! Good luck.
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Wow, nothing like a man screaming at you about how evil you are for wanting to avoid abusive men....\n\nMeanwhile, you don't say how far along in your preganancy and all that you are.  Clearly you have to leave the man. If you feel that he'll pursue you and it will be an ongoing nightmare, and if you are in the first trimester (miscarriages happen), I think you should seriously consider the impact that having sole responsibility for a child in a dangerous circumstance will have on you.\n\nIf you're averse to abortion and could "go away" and live elsewhere until the pregnancy is over, you could give the baby up for adoption (and the baby will be adopted so long as it's healthy and of a desired racial background - but it's not a positive thing otherwise).\n\nIt sounds to me like you've made the decision and are asking for support.  The answer is that throughout history women have had to manage their own bodies, and this is yet another case of it.  Have the abortion if you feel it's YOUR best option.  The baby doesn't actually exist yet.\n\nPeople do realize that women with access to good medical care still die in childbirth and from pregnancy-related complications, right?
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It depends on what country you are from.  If your child is born in the UK, your child could have dual citizenship which may be a benefit down the road. I suggest you contact your embassy and ask them.
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Congratulations! A baby is always a blessing in disguise. Talk through your concerns with your partner, remember God never gives us more than we can handle. Good luck!
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i am so sorry you are going through such a tough time. If you love her then don't give up on her. She is probably upset also about losing the baby and pushing you away may be her way of dealing with the loss. Keep calling her... send flowers and a note...write to her...don't stop!  she needs to know that you are there for her and doing everything that you can to get her to the states to be with you. Tell her that she misunderstood you and that you would never say anything to cause her pain. Remind her that you love her and want to have more babies with her and if it is Gods plan then you will... whether it's naturally or adoption. Just don't give up... fight for her if she really is your soulmate and true love.
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You need to decide what is best for you and your child. Is he a caring person who will welcome the baby? Do you think that he would be willing to support the baby?? I think every child should know their father and the father has the right to know he has a child, what he does with that information is up to him.
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it's gonna be tough for you.  right now, the government is now proposing that, for children born in Ireland of foreign parents, citizenship at birth will only be granted if one of the parents has been legally resident in Ireland for at least three of the four years before the birth.\n\nit's not a question of you can or cannot.  if you really want to, sure you can but don't be so sure of you and your baby's citizenship.  it's harder than you thought.
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There is a loop hole in the Benefit Law which will allow the family income support while his partner is pregnant and then after the birth he will have to claim job seekers. But the wife's/partner's doctor will have to say he  needs to be with her while she is pregnant. As an ex benefits officer, I used to think, why not work like the rest of us, if both of the couple are well.\nThey would also be entitled to housing benefit and community charge.\nIf he is going to stay at home I hope his partner will go to work and support the family!\nPeople who do not work just because they are lazy need to be ashamed that they are taking tax payers money for sitting on their ar5e!\nOnce the baby is born they are entitled to child benefit and child tax credit  he will have to call 0800 882200 or 0845 3003938 (If your brother already has a child with his wife/partner, once the new baby comes along it will be a change of circumstances and he will need to call 0845 3003900) whether he is working or not!\nIf he considers himself to be on low wages he can also claim help with health costs which pays for dentist and prescreptions for himself and the whole family, he will need a form called a HC1 he can obtain this by calling 0845 8501166.\nWhile he is also working he can claim working tax credit call 0845 3003900.\nHope this helps
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my boyfriend's best friend's dad is a physic. He is very spiritual and he also knows a woman who has helped me with questions I had. I recently found out I was pregnant and when i met this woman she said that this would happen to me. She also told me that my boyfriend and I would live together. Which happened when it was said to have happened. I wish you luck e-mail me and I will get all the information for you. Good Luck and God Bless you in you time of Grief. It is always sad to loose a child. Your should never had to do that as a parent. smyle4mae@yahoo.com