ok my gf and i have been dating for almost a month now but we have dated in the past on n off and decide to finally give a real relationship going but the thing is she has trouble opening up im her first real bf since her last one was kinda touchy like always all over her n she didnt know much how to be a gf so it was annoying her but im not like that i give her her space but when leaving or saying goodbye i always have to lead the kiss and i tend to go slow n steady but she just get nervous or laughts a lil (giggle) cuz she feels lil awkward is there anyway i can help her overcome this and to help her to get close like i try everything to get close to her and we text saying we want to but its just kinda hard for her (ladies who answer help me out or give some pointers thanks)
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If you are really doing what you say you are, then you are on the right track.  Don't try and teach her how to be a girlfriend, let her learn it herself, besides chances are, your ideas of what a girlfriend should be are gonna be completely different from what her next boyfriend will think.
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I say..she loves you dearly but she doesn t know huw much she is gonna miss you when you will break up with her.\n\nPlease trust me.because I used to treat my boyfriend the way your girlfriend is doing now...;\nOne day I told him that I do love him,\nanother I doubt if he loved me...\nand so on\n\nwell I always loved him but when he left me,my heart started to beat faster and faster for him...;and I cried,and I begged and I am dying but it s too late\n\nso please don t do that to your girlfriend...let her be grown up..let this love grow inside of hear heart for you...then a day will come that she is gonna kiss you proudly in the public...just give her this chance for receiving your love and care.\n\ndon t leave her because she will get hurt,just the way I am hurt and still feel a pain in my heart
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I think she was trying to tell you something...You should have said something like,"well, you have a boyfriend, aren't you happy with him?" Ask her some time what she meant. Maybe she will dump her bf if she really likes you and maybe she thinks you will dump your gf to be with her. You'll never know unless you ask her.
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Just tell her straight out that you want to be closer to her, and that you want your relationship to evolve into something deeper. Women appreciate honesty in a man...at least I know I do! Don't make her guess over your feelings. Who knows, she might want to be closer to you, but is scared to make the first move. Best of luck to you!
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It may work between you, or not. \nProbably she doesn't really know what she likes then... if she hasn't had anything with guys yet.\nOf course, she is afraid.\nA woman always needs to be emotionally 100% safe to be able to melt up in physical contact.\nHowever, don't be sad... some girls do have sex with a lot of guys and they still don't know what they like or what they want!\nShe is a treasure, take care of her.\nShow her you love her, that you love her truly and you will not run away after sex... and then she will react.\n\nDon't ASK her next time if you may kiss her or not!\nStart playing with her hair, for example... or stare at her lips - and KISS her, humm! :-) Take her by surprise. Or, ask her to close her eyes, simply.\nAnd no comment, after the kiss.\n\nNext time, kiss her again. \nNext time, you can do even more.\nDon't hurry her, cause if you do, she will run away.\nKeep her close to yourself, hug her... make her get used to physical contact. She may feel extremely shy, you will have to be patient.\n\nBut, if you love her truly, this should not be a problem! :-)\nGood luck!
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first of if u been workin so hard for this 2 work than u just dont give up like dat .. tell her dat u cant help but b romantic wit her n u like sayin sweet things n dat it bothers u wen she just brushes it out the way as if ur feelings didnt matter 2 her .. explain 2 her dat the same way its been hard 4 her its also been hard 4 u to make this work n dat even tho u feel like u just want 2 give up u still dont cause u love her .. ask her how she really feels 4 u n get her opinion on wether she thinks ya should keep tryin r not after talkin things out wit her only u would know wether 2 leave her r not .. i know its hard 2 make a relationship work specially wen it involves parents but if u both want it ya can make it happen .. good luck talk 2 her hope it turns out good 4 the both of ya
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Keep doing what you are doing, eventually you will get over it.  Never change something unless it never poses a problem.  You might be a little nervous, but that is ok, because you love your gf. Show more love and consideration still, someday you will see the appreciation.
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If when the relationship started you wanted to please her (for what ever reason). But now you are together you don't make the effort to show her how you feel, in a way she understands.  \n\nYou can't take affection on trust, it has to be demonstrated.  It might be you are not demonstrating it anymore.
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I think that you should ask her what is wrong first to see if she will open up to you.Then if she doesn't then ask her if you can take her out sometime to get her mind off of whatever is bothering her. But DON'T avoid and ignore her. You never know she might be feeling the same feelings towards you!
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Write her love letters, call her sometimes, keep things light and simple. It's hard when people can't show each other their feelings, but physical aspects of a relationship aren't everything. If you know you're around people you trust to keep it quiet, do little things like hold hands. I know it will be hard, but if you love her like you say you do, it's worth it :) good luck!
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start with telling her about having difficult talking to her.  Share what you are thinking instead of letting it make you go crazy. \n\n"I know its crazy, but since we have been dating I have a hard time thinking of what to say.  Do you feel the same way?"
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Perhaps you haven't been out with him for long so he's not used to you quite yet.  If this is the case, arrange to do various activities together which you both enjoy whether it be watching movies, clubbing or sports.  Your bonds will strengthen over time and he will become less and less shy in front of you. \n\nIf you're concerned about your bf being shy in public, then talk to him about it.  Tell him how much it means to you to see him shake off that shyness.  That'll be an incentive for him to jump out of his shell, esp' if he cares about you.  However, don't try too hard to change him. One of the most fustrating thing men find with their partners is when they try too hard to change them.
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Ooooh, touchy subject.\n\nThis is how you do it. I can't guarantee it will work because she maybe very sensitive. \n\nSounds like you have a needy GF. Best way to do it is in person. Preferably, do something nice for her first, take her out on a nice date, a nice ralaxing one. Tell her how much you care about her. Ask her if she knows this? Pay attention to her reactions now! If she looks like she's not sure, you Re-Assure her. Then tell her you want her to do things on her own, things to better herself with. Say she should spend more time with her friends and family because you think it's important that she does that. Tell her you want an independent girl. Tell her you want her to be happy on her own and with herself. And you want to be there for her to add to her happiness. Because between you and me and whom ever is reading this, we are responsible for our own happiness, no one else. You can tell her that too in a nice way. \n\nYou basically make it sound possitive so she doesn't take it the wrong way....Then you tell her that you love to spend time with her but you also need time for yourself too and this is why you want her to do things on her own more. Then tell her again that you are not going anywhere, that you are there when she needs you. \n\nMake sure you give her a hugs and kisses afterwards...."Affection"  - - - i don't know any woman who doesn't go gaga for it.\n\nGood luck!
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I can understand why she's feeling distant,I know I would feel overwhelmed...it's a tough call.I would say wait it out,try to get her talk about about what she's feeling,have some patience...it's gotta be a scary time for her and mabe she's afraid to show that?I would at least be there for her and not pressure untill all this is done and behind you both...if you really care about her and she truely wants  this relationship,why riun a good thing?Give her some space.Mabe that's all she needs,to know that you care and are willing to stick by her.
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It could be that she just doesn't know how to react to you. She may be afraid that if she's nice to you, you might take it as an invitation. Let her know that you wont try to "convert" her. \n Or it's also possible she likes you and is afraid to show how she really feels. You should just say "Look, what's your trip?" If she trys to give you attitude just tell her "I just want to talk and find out why you seem so afraid to communicate with me. I'm not hitting on you. I just want to know what's up with you lately."\nIt could also be peer pressure. She may like you but doesn't want to be thought of as your "girlfriend" by the rest of the school. If that's the case she just needs to grow up. She's not worth the effort until she does.\nGood luck babe. Talk to her if she'll talk. If not leave her be and move on.
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I bet she doesnt feel comfortable opening up to you.  Do more mouth zipping and listening, maybe she will come around.
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lol - its true, you could be getting on her nerves :)\nit could mean a few things, eg.\nit means that she needs time by herself to work out how she thinks/feels about things in her life including you. It also means that she doesnt feel like she can say something to you that you wont like and she is building up the courage and finding her way to say it best. It also means that you and her are becoming too big in her life and that she cant balance her relationship with you with everything else she has to do in her life and that may be her fault or yours.\ncould be a whole load of reasons.\n\nall you really need to know is it is time to show some respect and independance and give her her space, if you care and love her then back off and find something to keep you occupied while she is finding her space.\nIf she is messing you around then maybe move on, I have asked for a bit of space before - it didnt mean i was breaking up with my gf or messing her around, I really needed it and she respected that and not having her calling me every five minutes concerned about if i love her and such was very cool of her, give her her space :)