iv liked a guy for a year. wen i didnt know him, my b***h of a friend (hoo also fancied him it turns out afterwards) asked him out for me. he sed no bcoz he thought it was a bam up. i was heart broken. well we've became really good friends. he went out with this friend of mine. she eventually dumped him, and even tho he tried to win her back, he was rejected. i was thinking of asking him out again, but i know tht it might complicate things. also my friend thinks that i'll never get him, because she thinks he's only interested in me as a friend (she hasn't got any direct knowledge on this, its jst her opinion)\nso any advice ppl?
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Sorry to say, but it sounds like he's not going to warm up to you anytime soon if he's still hung up over his ex.\n\nLet him know that you're here for him - as a friend. Keep things down low, make him laugh, be a good friend. After he has had time to heal, maybe you can ease into flirting and he'll see you in a different light. \n\nAt that point, I really think you should tell him how you feel. Maybe write him a note before summer and slip it into his locker or binder, then ask to talk to him later. If he's not trying to pursue you, chances are he doesn't like you like that. But I could be wrong...that's why you have to find out directly. Don't listen to your friend. You have to listen to yourself, not what other people think. This is your life, not hers.\n\n***warning: There is a downfall...your friendship could become potentially awkward if he doesn't feel the same way about you or only sees you as a friend. So it's up to you to make the decision on that part, just know the consequences.\n\nIf you don't want akwardness, don't tell him. Yet it seems like you like him a lot and you've been waiting forever, so waiting longer might not change anything (it'll just make you more miserable)
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Sitting around, wondering & doing nothing won't get either of you back together. If you think it's worthwhile to try again, make the first move & see what happens. I'm not saying go all out and tell him outright. That's just me & I'd much prefer the guy to take the lead to let me know where he's headed. Just call and say Hi or leave some kind of messsage that let him know. See what he does next. Be prepared for the worst though as he may have moved on. At least you won't spend your life wondering.
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Well, fess up first of all. Admit that you were talking to his friend.  But let him know if it was strictly just talking out of friendship or whatever it is. Be honest, if you were talking to his friend and you think that you're attracted to the friend, then try to date the friend if he's available. Don't keep leading the other guy on and letting him think that you're into him when really you're into the friend because you want them both or something like that. I'm not saying this is the case, I'm just saying you need to explain yourself. If he doesn't respond then let it go, as much as it will irritate you to leave something at that, you'll have the peace of mind to know that you did what you had to do and that you've apologized and offered some sort of explanation. It is his fault for burning any bridges. And remember to look at signs, this may be a sign that you're not compatible with him, if you can honestly see yourself saying that you wouldnt do this if the situation was reversed, then you know you're on different levels. Good luck with this situation.
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Ok if i was you in this situation except it would be a guy,  I would ask him out, and try to get to know him a little better. Then maybe if he had fun we would go out again.  Who gives a crap if she's spending time with this other guy.  Maybe they are just friends!
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He surely havs taken much place in your heart, because he was there with you when you were going through life's upheavals and downfalls. Time after time he helped you, be there with you. And you think the this guy is the one you need, because you know perfectly well, that he wants to help you whatever troubles that you will have.\n\nWhy he turned you down when you ask him out? My first impression on this issue is that he had set some boundaries between you two; avoid further commitments. May be he noticed that you now are well and able to live happily. There is no need for him to be close to you and support you.\n\nHe doesn't notice your feelings, yet even if he does, he still chooses to stay away from you. Because he sees that you do not need him in order to be strong. And he knows his role in this relationship; once you are well, he will back down or walk away.\n\nThat may explain why he doesn't talk to you; he fears if there is something more that you expected him to do or want him to commit. A friendship is really not a problem to him, I guess. But if you ask him to have stronger relationship with you. That, he cannot allow himself to do so.\n\nThere are limits that he set for himself in the first place, and he will not bridge those limits. He may fear that he can never be as caring as he used to be; and he may not have enough confidence to love you the way you want him to be.\n\nYou said it yourself; he is your first true love. That may be the very thing he fears of. Sorry, I cannot explain why. It will be best for him to answer it himself.\n\nThis is my perception on this issue; I hope that I'm not too sharp on you.\n\nGood Luck
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There is absolutely nothing wrong with giving him one chance.  On multiple occassions I have been asked out by guys I didn't want to go out with, but had a great time when I did. And even if he's not your "one and only", one date doesn't mean commitment, it's always nice to go and try to make a new friend.
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ok so let me get this straight, ur friend likes a girl, and is good friends with her, and u wanna no if its ok for him to ask her for love???\nThats wut i get from it so i would say that there's nothing wrong with it, but jtlyn, sumtimes you wont b friends after or atleast not for a while, cuz after my ex dumped me, i couldn't tlk to him with  out yelling or crying. so jus b carfu and if its in his heart, tll him to go 4 it that MY oppinion but wth do i no??\nHope i could hlp,\nAlex
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She shouldn't go for it becuz if she does and he ends up telling her that he doesnt like her then she'll b really sad and all. U should tell her as a friend that he doesnt like her but he doesnt no what he's missing becuz she a good friend. And Later she'll thank u for it. She'll find a new person 2 like and she'd have her hopes crushed if she went for it. Good luck!
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first of all your not that smart if u reject a guy who u like. second u must ask him out since he already made the first move, its all your fault that u two are not together, no offence. If he already asked u out he problay has feeling for u. I would know since it takes me one or 2 months to get over a girl who rejected me. Just ask him out and see what happens. good luck to the both of u
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Yes, I think your absolutely right about everything  you said that concerns you, your friend, and this guy. Just be glad that it wasn't you with this guy no matter how good he flirts or looks. I really feel for your friend because if she gives it up to him he's going to be gone like the wind soon afterwords. Hopefully things won't get that far for him and her, but if they do I hope that maybe she'll learn a lesson from it. You seem like a very smart girl to me. Don't ever let yourself be taken advantage of. Your worth something.
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They always say if at first you don't succeed try again so basically I think you should. Hopefully after so many tries he'll give you a chance. On the other hand, if he told you he's not interest than maybe you should try friendship as an option. It's best to be there for him somehow even if it's not the way you want. I am sure the right man will come along soon or he will come to it don't sweat it!
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Go for it.Your friend didnt want him.She is just jealous.Go have fun and tell your friend that you like the guy if she cant accept it tell to back off its your life.
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First off it sounds like HE hasn't done anything, it's seems like you're the one that needs to do something. It's hard to tell someone how you feel if you don't say anything at all. If the guy and your friend express interest in each other maybe it's just time to move on, no point in hurting a existing friendship over a possible "hookup". Plus if your friend and the guy go out and break up, you'll be right there on the rebound.
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In this case you are lucky because you had a chance to see for yourself what kind of man he is.  Based on what you witnessed I personally would not ask him out, instead I would get close to him, be his friend and then hopefully he will get the message that you like him.  Sometimes guys do not like girls that make the first move.  So, it is in your hands, you decide.  I do agree with the first person that answered you should ask very discreetly why their union did not last.
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Better not ask him out together since both your friend and you like the same guy. I got a friend in the same situation. Later he got together with one of the gals and the 3 of them are like really awkward! Think of your friendship!
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rejection hurts because you took a chance, and anytime you take a chance on anything, you obviously want it to turn out the way you planned. when it's because you're rejected by another person, not only do you not get you're way, but it feels like you're not good enough. the thing is, its probably not you. its either a: he's an idiot, or b: is good enough to realize that you two just aren't compatable. just be patient. he may realize you're the best thing that ever happened to him, or you might move on and find an even better guy. good luck!
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Ok blue, i know how u feel, so talk to him about your feelings. A guy friend of mine liked me but i didnt cause i just like him as a friend, just like what ur going through. It sucks i know, but i went up to him and asked him if we can talk and so i told him i dont have the same feelings for you. Plus ask him if he is willing to put your guy's friendship on the line if u guys go out, you know what i mean? You guys are probably good friends, right? I know u dont want to loose that,so let him no that. Speak ur mind and he should respect that no matter what.