So... I there was this one girl I really liked in my old town but then I moved. Not very far away, but far enough way that I dropped contact with her. There are a lot of girls I sorta like in my new town, but none of them are interested in me. I'm afraid if I try and revive the relationship I had with this one girl from my old town, then I won't be able to pursue relationships with any of the girls in my new town.\n\nI really liked this girl, though. That's the only problem. She's really special, and I know her really well. So I don't know what to do.
136754
Well this is easy.Get back in contact with her and see what she thinks,and if you have a distant relationship then you wont have to worry about getting a girl there,and at least you know she is a special one,hard to find at times,all taken.
292126
I feel for you Molly, I have been in that situation twice myself. The one really positive thing in your situation is that you want to move forward.... I know I didn't even want to move on from my first unrequited love, I just kept on hoping that one day she would return my love, which was really stupid since she was straight.  So, I ended up wasting 5 years of my life!  And then, apparently not having learned anything, I fell in love with another girl who was bi, but who couldn't commit to actually having a relationship with another girl.  She only wanted a physical relationship without any emotional ties, so there went another 2 years of my life.  Finally I learned that the only way I was ever going to be happy was if I worked on my self-esteem and learned to trust my intuition.... I had known from the start that both of the girls I fell for were completely unattainable, so really I had nobody to blame but myself for what I perceived as rejection. And I really believe now that subconsciously I wasn't ready for a realtionship, and that's why I was seeking out unattainable people. I needed to love myself and have the confidence to put myself out there in the world, instead of fooling myself that I could find some kind of happiness or fulfilment in unrequited love. I have no idea if you will relate to my story at all or not, but I guess my advice would be to just get out there, meet new people, make friends, enjoy life, be honest and open with yourself and others, and of course love and respect yourself.  Although it may seem impossible to imagine now, you will get over the heartache, but you have to make a conscious effort to do so which you seem to want to do.  I wish you all the very best.  Stay strong! Keep smiling! Love will find you!
181217
Oh, you sound adorable!  Yes, I think this is a confidence issue.  Number one:  do not start dating again right away.  Rebounds do not help self-esteem.  It just makes you dependent on a girl's attention for self-love.  What I do is focus on the love that's already in my life, from friends and family members.  I just try to go out and have fun.  Pretty soon, I realize I'm having fun without a romantic interest.  And then, I become braver in approaching people, because their rejection isn't such a big deal.  I can do fine without them.  And don't look at other women as potential dates.  Look at them as potential friends.  Eventually, you'll find one you want to date and who will help you out of your shell.  But good luck and don't worry about it too much.  This girl isn't worth your time or worry.
110145
You don't do anything.  You missed your chance for now and you can't know for sure that you will get another chance so you need to move on with your life.  The reason you do nothing is that if you were in her place or this other guys place, you wouldn't want someone ruining what you had.
173781
Be very careful what you do!  I liked two brothers a while ago, and when they found out that I was interested in both of them, they both dropped me because they were offended!  A very sad loss, because they were both amazing guys.  I should've chosen the one that I had deeper feelings for (we had spent more time together, and had more chemistry).
530056
Geez, I'm in a rut right now with one.  I want to believe something will really happen, but the longer it goes, and his stories change, I"m starting to feel he's making me play games now.  \n\nI have however made 2 very good friends from the online dateing!  It's like we have been friends forever. The problem was, we weren't compatable with all the lovey, romance, sex stuff.\nBut I'll love their friendship and hold them dear in my heart forever!
661382
wow!.. that was beautiful.. Such a romantic!.. (takes my breath away..) boy, I hope it all happens for ya.. You sound like the coolest to be in a relationship with. It's risky business tho. The higher up you get (and I know.. I'm the romantic type too) the longer the fall sometimes. I tend to overromanticize things (and I know.. maybe we all do at times.. ?) and get hurt easy as hell.. Happens every time.. Some day I'll find MY Mr. Right.. I sort of envy old people.. the ones that have been married 50 years, but still must have some kind of connection, eh? What happened to the ex g.f. then you were with when you high-fived and fell head over heels for this honey? Well, my tendency here is to tell you to hold onto your dream.. you've high standards, but.. perhaps w/luck (yes, there is luck out there) you'll meet her again.. Or.. perhaps another one twice the woman? who knows? (all the world luvs a lover.)
482821
I know it's tough when that happens but how about talking to her and just letting her know you miss having some time to hang out with her. Maybe you could suggest that the two of you plan something to do together... go to the mall? go for a walk whatever it is you both like to do and then to show that you see she is building another new friendship make an additional plan to get together with all your friends both Kelsey and Alex and suggest including the new girl. You can get to know her too and you can all find out what you have in common and make more friends. I hope it works out, I know having lots of girlfriends can be fun but can be hard work too, sometimes girls don't get along perfectly I'm afraid your experiencing that right now.
197322
I was in that exact situation a few years ago!! Totally clicked with my best friend, and when I pursued something we decided to date, and we never EVER went back to being good friends again. We talk a few times a week online but that is it. Ultimately it's up to you! You make the decision! If it's worth it... go for it!! Over all i think for me it was worth it. I would have always wondered "what if"...
390935
Sadly and embarrassingly enough - I know that situation and have been on the girl side. I loved my new bf and just could bear the fact that my ex is just not noticing and forgetting me. Stupid enough I have been to start calling him and even meeting with him saying that I want his friendship. But really I just wanted him to be mine again even though I didn't really need him!!!\n\nBe careful women are fools!! It might not be the same situation, but based on what you said and what I've had it really looks like it!
634277
Ok. I had the same problem. There was one guy I was with and we broke up so I went without liking anybody for a while. Then one of my best guy friends broke up with his gf and I realized I liked him but then my ex started coming back. So I chose the one that is the sweetest and that I have the most fun with and that wasn't my ex. It just so happens i picked the other guy who's my ex's best friend and we've been together for almost 4 months and I have a great ime with him all the time. although they aren't friends anymore, I still really like my bf. so pick the one that's sweetest to you and that you have the most fun with. even if that means long distance. (i'd choose the ex because he seems like he would be a great bf and that he really cares about you as lot).
496068
If you really like her and want to be with her then tell her and maybe she feels the same... some girls keep boyfriends no matter if they like other guys because they fear ending up alone and being rejected from the new guy... so, maybe she's waiting for you to make a move... i think you should definitely go for it and if she doesn't feel the same, then break off every contact with her and try to forget about her... if she'll say yes, then great... but if she'll say no, it'll be easier for you to forget about her... because she rejected you, so now instead of liking her you might start hating her... it's better to go for it, so you won't wonder about it later of what could've happened if you went for it... so, i encourage you to tell her what's up... either way you have nothing to lose, but to gain possibly... good luck...
326594
I've had a bad experience with dating a girl that I'd been friends with. It was pretty awkward, both of us knew eachother and what we like with the exception of relationship needs. I was so used to us just being friends that I made minimal moves. Unfortunately, she believed in the man making all the moves. She eventually got bored and went after someonme else.
502732
One thing I don't understand is your attachment to your previous relationships (past). You are not that desperate, are you?The relationships did not work, period. Move on. Don't date anybody just to date somebody. Find someone you really like. You will feel it when you see him. Forget about the past.
611126
You do not need to erase the memories of this girl. Only file them away as a beautiful time in your life. This girl was obviously under some pressure herself and that is not your fault. Remeber the times that you shared with her and carry them with you but do just that carry them. Go on with your life and make yourself happy. I truly believe that there is someone out there that will absolutely love your passion and heart. Go find her and have a life of your own. Iam not saying forget this other girl just find someone that can make you happy. Memories are just that memories. Move on.
140730
im in the same situation.. because of my past.. im afraid to get too attatched just to get hurt AGAIN... but honestly.. .if you like this girl alot.. and you're willing to wait to see where it may go, go for it! BUT LIKE SHE SAID.. if what you truly want is to walk away.. do what you gotta do... everyone goes through hard times.. but in the end.. she is probably more concerned with you being happy than anything else!
62013
don't hook back up with her again, I have a feeling shes just playing the "I wonder" game. Dont let her put you through another long, heartbreaking year! I say go for one of the other girls you mentioned, but please dont hold back your feelings just because that girl hurt you, we all should get a fresh new start with each other right, good luck.