i went out with ashlee for 9 mo. w/ no sex. she had a BF but i said i still want her. time goes by she calls me and says im going to leave matt, her BF. Next day she doesnt do it. breaks up with me because she cant keep seeing two people w/ work and school. i quite seeing her and start dating natalie about a month into this relationship with natalie. Ashlee calls me and wants me back. i went back with ashllee. She promised on her hands and knees that she would be that girl that i wanted. She said i couldnt do it earlier because i had a boyfriend. we go out for two mo. completely in love with this girl. Even talked about marriage and kids. then in about 5 weeks she stopped all of her cute ways and started to stay at school instead of coming over right away. i said look if you dont want to be myy girlfriend then please tell me. She hesitated and shook her head no. I got down on my hands and knees begging her to please love me. and she said it wasnt me it was her. Ashlle had 6 tattos ass
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well first of all don't put your self down  like that. even though i don't know u i think that u aare a nice guy becccaues any girl would love to have boyfriend like u that does care about that girl even though she left u try to find someone better becaues she wasn't the girl for u but she will notice what she lost it will be to late but she will notice it and she will be soory because there aren't any guys like that anymore well there is but not much but she will know what she lost and u will find someone that aprciates u and that won't have a bf while going out with u well g2g email me if u need anything later take care
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wow...that's an age difference.  none the less, sounds like she may be afraid of commitment.  But from the sounds of it, you guys never truly split up.  She calls you all the time, you guys do things, that doesn't sound like a normal broke up couple.  Normally they're at each other's throats or just totally avoiding each other.  From the sounds of it, you guys are going to be just fine. Good Luck and hang in there...it'll get better
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Give her a little time. It sounds like she must be really confused right now. If she truly loves you she will call you and come back to you. If not you will just have to find the strength to move on. But I would say form what you have said that she is a very confused girl right now. Give her some time to get things straightened out in her head. As long as she is confused things will never work out.Good luck to you cause it sounds like you care an awful lot about this girl.
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Oh goodness, well the first thing I have to say about the situation is that she definitely has someone else...women don't leave unless they have something else to go to!  And as long as she has someone else, someone who in her mind is "treating" her better, there is nothing you can do to get her back.  And if she asked you not to call, then that is a decision you have to respect.  Your calling her is not going to help and it will just push her away farther.   Sorry to say, but this is a situation that only she can (in time) decide that she wants to be back with you.  Give it some time (and give her some space) eventually this other guy will screw up and she will contemplate coming back to you.  If she doesn't come back, then it is for the best.  You deserve to be with someone who wants to be with you as much!
134953
Dude I just went through this same exact thing.  Your only missing her cause she was there for you and now theres no one.  I took her back after she tried the new guy, and two weeks later, she dumps me for other guy she just broke up with.  I wasnt hurt cause I knew it could happen so I didnt let myself get too involved.  But my advice, just move on, find someone new to love, there more fun, and you dont have to worry about her going back for the other guy.  She already left you once, dont let her walk all over you.  Hope this helps.
390405
she changed her mind. you were her back up plan and something better came through (sorry), don't ask her out again.
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Well my man...you could not have handled this any worse. She talks to you and asks if you would like to study together. You assume from that it must mean she wants to be your girl. Girls do not want to be responsible for directly hurting guys. So by not calling back she was telling you she wasn't interested . But in your hot  pursuit you did not get that.\n\nBy calling all the time you made it clear to her you were desperate. No girl wants or needs a desperate boy and not much will chase them off sooner. And man you were desperate.\n\nFrom the beginning you blew it. You had her number. You were going to study together. \nMan what more could you ask for huh? Well you wanted her as a girl friend in the worse way so you really pushed yourself on her.\nThis not only turns a girl off she runs from it. You have to get her interested before you can be her boyfriend. And you must know how to do that.\n\nSo what should you have done. Took the number. Called only when it was time to study. While studying, while you were together, you get to know each other. You begin to develop some social value with her and when and if, only if, the time is right you could make your move.\n\nHave you ever heard of this phrase? The worse you want it the worse you will get it.  Guess what....you are living proof that this phrase is correct.\n\nBack off.....find another girl to study with and this time do it right.
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she's f*cked up! why would she do that that is stupid.......i hope eveything turns out ok but that's really if YOU want to take it that slow, it's really your decision i'm just here to help you decide....e-mial me and i see if i can give you anymore tips if you guys get back together\nby the way i think you should get back together but on that certain day she has you guys talk or what ever say your busy that night or just don't pick up foor her and then call her another night and see if she gets mad. or if she sets a certain night to go out then say your busy that night and try to reschedule. if she gets mad i suggest dumping her cuz that really is f*cked up.\ni'll try to help you in the long run\n\n~matcher and love expert
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"It didn't go over well", huh ?  You mean that SHE broke up with you and you dabbled around with someone else, then you two got back together and she is ticked off ?  if that's what you are saying, then she is merely not in control of the Green-Eyed Monster.  You see, what she meant by breaking up with you was "See ?  See how much you will miss me ?  See how empty your life is without me ?" ....she didn't mean that you two were really "broken up" - it was just a test for you to see how important SHE was to you and when you went on to someone else,  - WELL - that wasn't exactly in her plans.  And she is hurt and she is angry.\n\nWell, you are not responsible for either emotion that she is feeling, although it would not hurt if you understood them.  She did this to herself.  You can empathize that she feels bad that you were able to so quickly "replace" her (because that is what she feels....and, to tell the truth....that is what happend.)  We human beings don't like to think that we are easily replaceable.  But, indeed, we are.  (Ah yes, for all our talk about "soulmates" the truth of the matter is that many people can be our "soulmate" and that means it is not quite so much destiny as timing.)  She may well have expected you to pine away after her and when you did not, she is angry.\n\nLife is all about growing up - all the way until we die.  You both have gone through an episode that should have taught you both some lessons - different lessons than the other could have learned.  Now you are back together and going forward, hopefully not backward.  (She is looking backward, by the way.)\n\nAnd, as a side note, this idea of full disclosure - telling new girlfriends or boyfriends about your past - not a good idea.  Not particularly respectful of the people in the relationships in your past.  The same holds true for interim relationships - you weren't "with" your current girlfriend during the time you were broken up, you should not share details about whatever you did in your interim relationship.  It is not her business and it is disrespectful to the other girl.  (None of this "oh, if you loved me you would share with me" - see what it got you ?  She's pissed.)\n\nAnd no, it wasn't cheating.
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He's blowing you off, but there may be a lot of truth to what he says. Unfortunately, I've used that line and lived to regret it. She was a great girl, but I didn't want to get exclusive. Sometime afterward, I wished I hadn't broke up with her because the other girls I met were not near as nice as she was. Hope that gives you some kind of consolation. You do deserve someone better, and you will find him.
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think about the reasons you spilt up.   if you got back together it could all repeat it self  i would stick with the new girlfriend never go backwards move forward   good luck
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Just say no. She'll take you for granted in the sense that because you're still around, you're available should she ever want to get back together. In the meantime, while she has you as a backup, she'll go on with her life, getting you to do all the boyfriend "work" (e.g. listening to her whine about work, traffic, her new jeans) but not giving you the boyfriend "fun" (although maybe once or twice she'll cave and fool around with you). You'll think she's just on the cusp of getting back together with you. And then she'll tell you that she's met someone else. With work, be as civil as you'd be toward any girl in whom you had absolutely no interest. But flirt with all the other girls at work so the ex gets a reminder of what she's missing.
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hey well one sorry to hear that. two well the best thing i think you can do is go talk to her. find out exactly why she broke up with you. if the chemistry just wasn't there for her you will have to find a way to move on. if it was something else that can be fixed well than talk to her and maybe you can fix it. goodluck and i wish you all the best.
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You should definitely give her some time because she just broke up with her boyfriend.  There is still a possiblity that they might get back together.  Also, you do not want to be her rebound guy because rebounders never last long.  Just be a friend to her and let her know she can call you if she needs to talk.  But take it from me, I'm a female.  You do not want to pressure her or else it will turn her off of you.  Give her time.
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Haven't you asked this question tons of times before??? \n\nAnd by the way, it sounds like one of two things has happened with your girl: she was either using you in the first place or found someone she'd rather be with. Some people just aren't suited, or 'meant to be.' STOP stressing over this and don't let her breaking up with you doubt yourself or put a huge dent in your self-esteem.
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she is using you as someone to get her mind off of her break up with her boyfriend. I wouldnt get my hopes up just yeah. whoa....back boy!
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Well, as the, old saying goes, " We learn from our mistakes." If you didn't want to go out with her in the first place, you shouldn't have. But now you have complete knowledge of what your better judgement saw, 'her immaturity.' She treated you like a 'FOOL', and has gone on with her life for 7 months and now justs wants to pop back in and play you like a 'idiot' until someone else comes along. Tell her, Hell no, and why you never want to date her again.!!