me and this girl messed around one night and she won't leave me alone now. She came over to my place and wanted to mess around and i was like ok.was a little bored anywyas, but later i found out she had a b/f so. it didn't bother me to much because i thought it was just going to be just for fun...later on that night she told me i should get her a key made and i was like whoa. not cool. so ignored that and let it blow off but a couple of days later i get off work and go home and i find a not in my door.it pretty much said that she liked me alot and she wanted to move in with me soon.i know im going to have to tell her no she can't cause i need to get a college degree and a good career goin before i make a commitment like that. so the note made me a little mad cause she told me she had a bf and i thought we were just messin around and nothin serious. a few days go by and she just keeps calling me and just ignore her calls. how do i make her leave me alone without makin her mad any ideas?
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You may just have to make her angry.  There's no easy way to tell someone to leave you alone.  Just let her know gently, that the two of you have nothing special.  It was just one night and she has a boyfriend.  It's not fair to her boyfriend and it's not fair to you.  Let her know you two aren't right for each other.  Hopefully, she'll get the hint.  You could even be honest and tell her you're just not ready for a commitment right now, and it would be better if the two of you kept some distance.  She may be heartbroken, but I don't think she'll be angry.  If she does something nuts like breaks up with her boyfriend over you, or hurts herself or something.... you might just have to piss her off and tell her she's lost it.
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She's probably likes her boyfriend but has a crush on you at the same time.   She didn't tell you she had a boyfriend because she thinks you're cute and wants you to like her back. She would probably go out with you if she didn't have a boyfriend.    But since she doesn't dislike her boyfriend she has no reason to break up with him and she likes him enough and or doesn't like you enough to change the way things are.   Also things are stable the way they are and if she breaks up with him there is a chance that she might not get you. She just wants to have someone.\nShe probably does realize that you like her and she likes the attention.   Don't let her push you around or damage your pride but it doesn't hurt to be nice.\nIt's hard to tell without seeing the situation and what you are going through but this could be somewhat similar?   Hope this helps.  \nEither way don't stop being nice...Nice guys get all the girls in college.   Nice guys also get meaningful relationships instead of flings because they are keepers.
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Well for a start, don't lead this new girl on if you feel that way.  Play fair and let go of her now.  \nThen, stop dating for awhile and get your head straight about the other chick.  She was definitely keeping you "on hold" whilst sorting out her relationship with the b/f.  Sorry, but she used you!  Once you accept this, you will be able to get her outta your head and move on.  You will meet someone who gets your bells ringing, when the time is right, and you will then have no excess baggage tagging along in the form of this girl.  Also, I suspect it's a bit of an ego thing.  If you dumped her instead of the other way round, she would be outta your head ages ago!
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If she said that she don't want to get involved with anyone for a while, then that's somewhat a good thing. She NEVER told you YES (NOR) did she tell you (NO)! That mean's there's still hope in the future. Maybe she is trying to she if your a patient guy, one who would be true to her, and willing to wait and prove it! Go out together (as friends) and get her to like and admire you more. Good Luck.
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Honey, this girl will get you into trouble, it sounds like this girl wants you for her own!! my advice steer clear!  I have had a similar situation with a Friend of mine, she had a girl that hung around her like a bad smell, and she hated me, she treated my Friend like a minion and called her one!  I must admit she was a bitch 2!!  I think you might just need to sit this girl down and talk to her, perhaps she doesn't realize that her behavior is just a little OTT. The jealousy thing tho, this is harder to resume, but you have to ask yourself, why does she do that?? could she be insecure?  my feeling on this one from reading your little statement is that she is making you unhappy and that is wrong, why should she ruin your life, you are spending time thinking about her and your other Friend, there are times when being a little selfish, taking a step back and saying- 'whoa' this is not about 'me'...is good, do something for you, personally if she is as nagging and annoying as she sounds, you need to click your fingers to the left, click your fingers to the right and click your fingers to the left, (practice this now) its cool!!! and say to this girl- I don't need this drama' and walk away, because when push comes to shove all that matters is you! xxx
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You wrote -- "she know me and know i like her. because i have completed my 10th from her school. so she ignores me."\n\nWell, sorry, but if she is ignoring you because you completed your 10th, then you should probably move on.  Find someone new.
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Woah she's lucky to have had a boyfriend like you. Dedicated and things like that. Well she's one of those girls who listen to their elderlies without questioning authority. She's probably very sad about having to dump you. Get the picture? She's trying to forget about you, but it's a very painful process. I've done this once. Of course she has feelings for you. She's just saying it.
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She wanted to get back at you because you missed her call the night before.  It happens.  No big deal, get over it.  If you can't get over it, you need to date someone less cool.  Cool people need and give space.  They don't call each other every night for two hours.  They don't play phone tag games.
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I know where this girl is coming from. I think she is pushing you to see if you will take off at the first sight of trouble. Thats what I do. It's a way for her to protect herself from jerks. It's not fair to you but it sounds like she's been hurt before. Go to her and talk to her face to face, not on the phone. Tell her that she is pushing you away and that is why you are pushing back. Ask her flat out if she wants this relationship to continue. If she does then you have to make a personal decision, can you stick around through the ups and downs? If so then tell her you will wait it out. Let her get comfortable with you and trust you. If she pushes too much and you no longer feel wanted at all then tell her that, let her know that it can't continue, and that you need more than that.
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I'd avoid getting involved in this mess. If she likes you, let her figure out how to work it out. She sounds a little flaky to me. What happens when someone more interesting comes along once you two hook up? Is she going to want to be friends with him? See my point?
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Thing is talk with her . . . not to chat . . but the next time she called . . . asked her . . . \n\nYou broke up with me . . . telling me that you want to be left alone . . . and not to bug you . . . yet you call me periodically on the way home.  What the f*** is going on?  Until you are able to tell me the truth . . . don't call me again.\n\nDon't worry she will call . . . because you called her out.  But now she will have to explain herself.\n\nDo not give in to her . . . and tell her how it felt when she did all what she did to you.  Odds are she will probably respect you more . . . because you stood up for yourself . . . instead of acting like a p***y . . . you have been.\n\nIn my opinion, take control of the situation . . . and don't let her boss you around . . .
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First of all she is waiting for you to contact her, as she turned you down, she is probably wondering if you are still talking/friends with her. \nShe dosen't wanna change the relationship because the way it is feels safe, and she dosen't wanna change/risk that. By her saying that she dosen't deserve you shows she is maybe a bit insecure and has been hurt in the past, she feels she wouldn't live up to your expectations, Saying your easy means she would be worried that you wouldn't stay faith ful, or you would be off with the next bit of skirt that looked your way, is it that she has seen you cheat or heard how you talk even when your with someone?\nTrust her when she says she wouldn't lie, chill out, txt her saying your sorry if you put her in a difficult situation but it's was because how lovely you think she is, then go back to normal, go out like normal, don't put it off or you''ll both feel weird, just from now on make sure you don't chat up girls in front of her or talk about cheating etc, then you never know, maybe next time she'll be asking you, if it's meant to be you'll get together in time.
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She made her feelings clear.\nYou didn't want to hear it, but she is not leading you around.\nListen to her!\nBe content you still have her company on some basis and if it gets impossible, go away.
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You know I've been in this same situation. It's really hard to deal with if you guys are so close. I just let my friend be and went to hang out with other people. I would call her and invite her places but she always turned me down because she had already made plans with her new man. This went on for about three months. When she called one day I told her. I'm not mad at you anymore but I would like for you to know that what you did really hurt me. We had been friends for five years and this guy comes and now you act like I don't exist. She apologized and we started hanging out again. Some people just get caught up in situations and forget about the feelings of others. You just have to put yourself in her shoes. If you were in a new relationship you might do the same thing to her. It's something new and right at this time you're just caught up in it. As long as you talk to her and tell her how you feel about it she should make it a point to try and share her time between the two of you. If she just blows you off then she wasn't a good friend to begin with and you'd be better off finding someone who cares about you and what your feelings are. Good luck with it. I hope she comes around.
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Well I'm a female, and I'll be the first to admit that women can and do send mixed signals.  Sorry!  I personally find that  tYpe liKe ThIs to be extremely annoying, but then again, maybe  she thinks it's playful.  Sounds like you are on her mind right now, who knows why.  If you want it to be more (again) then respond.  If you are over her, then be polite but don't get engaged in it.
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the best course of action here is to not make a move on her. be respectful of her and her boyfriend. if she ends up breaking up with boyfriend, give her some time, and then try.\n\nsometimes girls flirt with guys, even when they are in a relationship and don't want to break up with their boyfriend. some girls are like that! she may think you're fun to hang out with, but she may just be that type of person.\n\nyou're better off looking for another girl. for one thing, why do you want to be with a girl that flirts with other guys when she still has a boyfriend. if she's doing it now, she will do it if you get together with her.\n\ndon't worry, you'll find another girl, guaranteed. or she'll find you.
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Ouch, you listened to the wrong suggestion my friend. Hacking into something like that is very wrong and abusive. If she's not answering she may have you on ignore, meaning she isn't going to see you contacting her. You've done right by letting her know what you did, and honesty is the best policy. But, now she has developed a distrust. Throwing hints her way was great, and getting to know her by asking questions is great. But, calm down, leave a kind message on her desk, let her know you know what you did is break her trust with you and your very sorry. Let her know in the note that you were having heart felt feelings for her and you were trying to find other ways to get in touch with her. If she accepts the note, she will let you talk to her, try not to push yourself on her verbally. Cause that will cause her to walk away from you. If she doesn't accept the note, she may be still be upset about the situation, cause that is private.\nThe best of luck to you.