Ok I'm having seriously problems. I think my wife is going to leave me. She was upset because I was going to race in the Iditarod after getting fired from my job as a Doctor (long story, check previous questions if you care). Well even though she was upset I blew off her concerns and I heard her talking to her mom on the phone and I think she's leaving me tomorrow. Also, my good friend, Johnny Tsunami, who was going to be my partner for the Iditarod has been kidnapped. I feel like there is nothing good going for me now. What should I do?
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Don't listen to that hose with the above response. Keep doing what you doing. You need to win that race to save Christmas. We have to find Johnny soon. Do you think your wife is working with Yahoo Answers to keep him captive>? That would explain why shes leaving you.
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Listen honey I have been in a bad relationship myself and know where you arecoming from you have to stand up for yourself and move on you say you can't leacve Why? they have got you to the point where you are wallowing in self pity just as they like you. What is happening here is domestic abuse and it has to end before you end first. For your childrens sake leave him if he don't like it tell him where to go ****himself or tell him if he loves you to stand up to his family for you though from the sound of it he is week as s**t no man should ever allow anyone including his family to run you down. I wish i could do more for you but sadly I can't if you need to chat though send me an email and I will keep chatting and offering no strings advice I am a voluntary member of the samaritans and will make timwe to chat if you need me.
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Hey bax, its kind of a mess here at the house right now. Ricky is acting up.  He's saying that I'm giving him the cold shoulder. It been 2 months and he barely noticed it.   Same as usual, he sleeps in a different room and ignores me most of the time. hell,what can I do, even if i insist there's nothing. Those are just a few updates. heheh. that's it.  so how are you?, hope to see you again. i got my license. i can drive well now so we can go out if we wanted to, that's good news right? take care always. luv yu!
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Good decision. I'm glad to hear that you are getting this resolved. The stress you are going through over this,is not good for you. Try to relax and go for a walk or get involved in something fun until your appt.
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Tuesday January 24, 2006 \n\nand I had a crazy weekend.  I told Kina about Brian.  I really regret even beginning anything with him it was just because of curiosity and not only was it a waste of time, (because I love Kina too much to end things) but it didnt satisfy any curiosity that I had.  I liked Brian because he was funny and he wanted me.  But then I broke it down and figured out why ?  Because he knows i am taken.  He is only 23, he has massive amounts of women that he knows well and chills with them.  He just liked the challange.  But I never did anything like that with him.  Althought I did want to, the fact remains, Kina does me o-so-well.  Maybe sometimes he will conk out or his buddy might get a lil tired, he does make a valid effort to make sure my hearing goes down when we are done (lol) and he is the only one who knows what to say and how to say it..\naaanyway so I am at work, thinking about food.  my salvation.  Grub.  Well i am probably going home today.  I havent been home since Friday the 20th damn right?  I miss my pup.  Xeeny Weeny.  I miss her so fuckin much.  You know what i dont really miss?  MYSPACE!  at work I miss it but i have psycho steve monitering my every myspace move.  That shit head.  And he swears up and down to Lauren that Kay told him she was with Ryan that night.  He denies it.  But i believe my sister over anybody.  and Kay knows that, so what is he hiding?  I dont know, so much shit.  I really want to have my own place.  I want to feel freedom.  But i dont want a lot of bills.  Kina said when i talk about moving in with him I make it seem so farefetched.  And its true, when I think about it, I feel like even thought I want it so bad, it is almost impossible to happen.  What Kina wont hear me say is that I dont have a lot of faith in him to do the right thing so I feel our chances of making it together are slim to none.  I hope that I am wrong.  But im not getting any younger.  What am I really trying to say?  I dont fucking know man.  i really dont.
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This book REALLY helped me examine my marriage and decide to stay or go. \n\nLOVE MUST BE TOUGH\n\nI am SO SORRY that you are basically being torn down. Please find a trusted friend that can be there for you and help you maintain perspective on what is right and wrong. And talk to them so you don't blow up like a tea kettle one day and then he says "See you ARE blalblablabl" like an asshole b/c that is what they do. So release that tension.\n\nHe is being difficult and unrealistic.\n\nThe book will help to tell you to stay or go and if you STAY how to act to potentially change how things are.
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For about one year, my first wife was a regular bobber.  I loved it!  Then one day she just announced that she wasn't going to do it again.  But, she had a great figure and we did all kinds of other things with toys, etc.  \n\nHowever, 3 years later, she wanted a car of her own.  She didn't work but, as it turned out, she needed something to see her new boyfriend.  Our marriage ended after four years.\n\nNow, I'm with my second wife.  Two months ago, she started crying and told me she couldn't do it anymore.  This week she told me her brother would sell us his car.....\n\nYou can take this respect thing and all that...for me, if the chick aint doing the rounds, my experience is she is not in the relationship for the long haul.\n\nBuddy, you better believe that if you weren't getting it up for her, she'd have you down at the docs getting a script filled...Time to level with her, time for her to get with the program.
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The idiots always tend to answer first.  \n\nLife WILL get better.  I am so sorry to hear about the loss of your wife.  Speaking from some experience, I am "seeing" a widower who was married to his wife for 20-something years.  I did not know him or her when they were married and it will be one year this month since she passed away and he has two teenage children.\n\nIt will be hard and it will probably get harder for you as holidays come and go but you have to hang in there.  You should be so thankful that you met the love of your life, many of us never get that chance.  My guy never thought he would be with another woman, never wanted to.  It is still difficult for him at times and I have difficulty dealing with it at times too.  He pulls away from me to deal with it and I kind of freak out (read my posted questions).  He tells me that it is kind of hard for him to believe that his marriage is over and he sometimes feels like he is cheating.  Give it time.  Time is the only thing that will heal your pain.  Hang in there and live life for that baby of yours, she needs you to be happy.  If you need to talk, feel free to contact me - I kind of understand.
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Oh my GOD!!! That has to be the saddest story that I have ever read on here. You poor poor fella. This is for you *A great big hug* If it helps I have some nice boobs. I hope the best for you, and you have to remember that Tomorrow WILL BE BETTER!!! It has to be. You should think about dumping that skank of a ho girlfriend You deserve a lot better and you know that you do, and you should think about going to the doctor and if you need a little help there is no shame in it, I too have been cheated on and it is the worse and most horrible feeling, I had to go on Zoloft, but the good thing is that it helps and once you can come out of the fog of depression you can see more clearly. You deserve better! Get you a plan of action and figure out what you need to do, Evalute every aspect of your life... is it time for a lifestyle change... change of job, if at all possible kick her out because adding a move on top of everything is going to be more stressful, and what a B*tch to laugh at you after what you went through, find a safer jogging route... and did you ever think that maybe that guy punched you because she is banging him? I kinda wondered that when I read, because that is just too strange that a guy would punch you for NO reason, and then she laughed on top of it... Go out with some friends or family, if you don't have any... make some, you need to surround yourself with loving and caring people. Best of luck to you, and I hope that your nose isn't broken a nice guy like you doesn't deserve that. *Another big hug and maybe a  little kiss on the cheek*
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Everyone's life is full of worries.  What makes yours more important?  Just deal with what you can as you can and don't worry about the small stuff.  Take life one day at a time and thank God that you woke up this morning.  We all feel hopeless.  I have a good cry and sulk for a few days.  Then I pick myself up and move on.  I have a family to think of.  Just think of how your loved ones would feel if you were not here.  Don't be selfish.
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Dear Mam, I was in a similar situation. I was in another state on top of it. He controlled everything, even the phone. When I got on he had to control the conversation, so my family quit calling. I was with him for 17 years.Because I was afraid of him. Now that is probably what is wrong with her, FEAR. He has probably threatened her and she feels she has no way out. Plus if you were close to her, dont you think she knows too? I missed my mom  sooo bad. Well she passed away before I got to see her after 2 years. He would never let me go visit any of my family alone so I feel for her. I don't believe that she knew what she was getting into. I didn't. He changed after we married.\nMy advise to you is wait and be patient. Believe me its killing her as much as you. To not see her mom I'm sure is hurting her. New Baby?\n She either keeps her mouth shut or they fight alot. Either way there will be heartbreak. Too bad you couldn't find a way to get her out of there but you see when you have more than what you grew up with, its hard to leave. Your daughters husband is nothing but an insecure bully that feels he has power over her. Makes him feel like a big man when you and I both know he's a very small man. Just has a loud voice and knows how to use his power.\nI too couldn't go anywhere with out my husband, he timed me when I went in the store, questioned me as to why it took so long and who was I talking to. He controlled the finances, He told my kids when and where they could go and who they could see and how long, that included church activities. I finally left after much proding from my church friends, 17 yrs later. I know exactly what is going on. I pray that she will come to her senses before that. I'm sure he is telling her that no one else will give her what he has and no one will love her either. Also He is probably demeaning her to keep her down and that she will have no friends no family or self esteem. So she will feel no one will want her so why leave? That is why I never left. I believed him! Why should'nt I? He was my husband and he would not hurt me. Trust me this man is a monster. He is narcisstic, anti social, among other things. \nTry putting an ad in the paper, classified, saying only what she will know. Maybe something can generate from that. Sounds horrible but it may be the only way. If she can't use her phone that will be very difficult to contact you. He keeps track of the phone records too. Believe me this guy is a scarey person.\nSorry this is so long, but there was alot to say. \nJust remember IF you reach her, let her know how much you love her NO MATTER WHAT.
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Please say some thing to change my mind! --> if you say so doesn't it mean that you aren't very sure about your want to run away? gooosh.. it's tough.. and I totally understand how you feel!!\nplease CONTACT me and let's have a talk,ok?\nbara_no_seido@yahoo.com email me or let's chat by yahoo messenger - bara_no_seido\ntake care!!
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I know it's hard, believe me! It's not something you get over in one night, or one year. It takes alot of time and you have to ask yourself if you are willing to give yourself that time? Is the marriage good now? Is it worth working on? Your wife needs to work on rebuilding your trust. Is she willing to do whatever it takes to help you along with this? It really seems to me that she is, because 20yrs is a long time that you both have invested in. I know you are in pain right now, your wife has been in pain for the last 10yrs thinking about what she did and has lived with knowing that one day you would find out and maybe end the life she really wants. And that is to be wife and a mother to YOUR kids. I am not making excuses for her because what she did was wrong! I know you need validation right now and you have every right to feel that way. You (I am sure) are a great dad. So for right now, focus on that. Time will heal...I promise!
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I just don't see a feelgood way out of this.  Be honest with her.  It already sounds like you are compassionate.  Honestly explain your feelings, how long you've been feeling this way, how you struggled with it, didn't want to hurt her, etc but that you couldn't reconcile how you feelings evolved to living in a way that is in full honesty for both of you.  She's going to undergo grief and pain so there is no avoidance of that.  It really is hard to tell someone you care about as a person, knowing you're going to cause them pain, that you've tried, but don't feel the way you would like to feel anymore.  Many people deal with faded feelings in ways that cause even more problems down the line, cheating, avoidance, etc. It never makes the problem better so you know that it will take great courage on your part to get in the drivers seat and take the relationship to it's inevitable destination.  She was a whole person before she met you so hopefully she has the inner strength and faith to trust she will continue to be a whole person without you.
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Ugh...what a mess. Look, no one is perfect and there are a ton of people on here who will tell you what a bad person you are because of this scenario. First and foremost, please remember no one has the right to judge you. Everyone makes mistakes and everyone hurts people...nobody is above this. Please don't listen to all the horrible words posted here. It doesn't make you a "bad" person...but you are troubled and confused and this situation is only going to lead to so much hurt and pain for so many people, especially the kids. I hate to say this, but most likely he will stay with his wife. I know you love him and can't imagine a life without him, but you have to right now. You're both obviously in marriages that aren't working. This is where you need to focus your efforts right now. If you're so in love with him wouldn't you want him fully devoted to you? I thought so. And if he truly loves you, then he'll want to be with YOU and only you. For your own health, well-being and safety, stay away from this right now. If there's any hope for the two of you, it will be later on when all the issues have been dealt with and all the pain has healed. I wish you all the best.
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It is very hard to sad to deal with. Do you have family near by? That helped me. Do you work? Praying really helped alot! Do you have IM? does he have it too? I know on the AKO you get install the IM and that saves some heatache. \nI remeber when my hubby was there. I was 4 months preggers when he left. That was very diffcult. But you have got to keep your self busy.  I know it sounds mean but you really have to. Hang in there and I will keep you in my prayers as I do for every miltary spouse and their spouses!
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it's very hard to leave when your lives are kinda of one. you feel bad for leaving. since most of the stuff you share are in your name and you don't want to leave him with nothing. i understand how your feeling right now. i really do. in some ways I'm in the same boat.as i sit here 1in the morning have way to much on my mind to sleep.looking for people to help or dealing with a similar situation.if you feel you can sit down and really talk things over with him no fighting aloud.get all the bill that are in your name.close them or ask that he be taken off.set up a account so its not hard on you when you do get your own place and if i were you i would tell him to do the same. the best thing is try not to fight it will only bring more problems along the way.since both cars are in your name and one is paid off. see if he wants the other car he would take over the payments and get it put in his name just in case later down the road something happens your not responsible.i know its hard but you will work everything out and move on happy that you did. you ever need to talk e-mail me brooke_sittner@yahoo.com