I have some friends there but I feel like they all hate me, when they laugh and giggle at the most stupidest things, I feel sad and depressed. My best friend is having some trouble as well at a public school, where she is getting called a nerd. I don't know whether I should change to a public school or not because I am afraid I won't get the job I want and get teased because my parents say that I am quite smart.\nI am confused as what to do but I am also feeling sad and maybe depressed a lot lately. I am definitely not happy though at the highschool I am at now!\nPlease help!
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I have had my children in both private and public school.  They were actually the same considering the level of education you get.  If you are quite smart as you have indicated, there are plenty of accelerated classes available to you.  There could be a "Gifted Program" in the public school.  I personally feel if you do not like the school you are going to at the moment and you are depressed, it may lower your grades in time.  I would go and be with my friend.  Kids your age need someone they can share things with.  I believe you will be much happier.\nGood luck to you
55098
A lot of people, especially a lot of pre-teens, feel this way sometimes.  Maybe you could talk to a counselor at school, and see what she or he suggest?  They may suggest that it would be a good idea to speak to a counselor or therapist for a while.  You would have an opportunity to talk about why you cry and what makes you feel bad, and they will be able to suggest things you can do to feel better.  If you feel comfortable, you could ALSO talk to your sister or mom, or someone else you trust, about how you feel.  Feel better!
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Let me tell you about friends babe.  Most people confuse acquaintances with friends.  If you have 2 or 3 friends that last you over a life time you are a very rich person indeed.  Only your family will be there for you.  Talk to your mom or dad but don't expect a lot.  Teachers don't seem to be the same standard as when I went to school.  Their behaviour leaves a lot to be desired, especially in maturity.  I say to you , you are on the right track.  Study hard and don't let offence from immature people worry you.  They have a problem not you.  You are not a loner either.  You are simply a mature person.  Congratulations on being you.
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Sounds like intellectually home school would be great for you because you seem driven. But please allow me to relate to you, I am not here to disagree with you but to offer you my own personal experience with you.I am not against homeschool,but I have very similar personality traits as you and it was not the best for me.I was in public school until 9th grade and my mom pulled me out half way through.Of course at the time I was thrilled because I was overwhelmed with social anxiety.Although fairly popular I disagreed with most of what went on with my teenage peers,like parties,drinking,drugs,and promiscuis(spell check)sex.But as time went on I became very detatched from society and found hard to relate with others and the outside world.Which later led to depression which caused me to gain alot of weight which caused me to be even more anti-social.Don't be so quick to say that you can't be helped because when i realized what my problem was I made myself get out and find a job dealing with the public.And I would ask questions and start conversations with strangers until I felt more comfortable with people.I then became more sure of myself and the depression left and I lost the weight.The point is that you shouldn't be so close minded. I know by the words that you use you are very smart so use that to the positive and don't be so pessimistic and closed minded. I regret that I spent so much time being an adult and looking down on my peers instead of setting an example for them amongst them.Now that I am 23 years old with many responsibilities, I wish I had gone to prom or homecoming or dances or field trips instead of focusing solely on academics.
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hey thats all the better that your smart! dont worry- just because you smart doesnt mean that you can only hang out with the "smart kids" (unless you want to!!) i moved to New York from South Korea in 6th grade (i knew english fluently) and was placed in the highest classes available. they were easy for me but the people there wernt my type so i made friends with people that wernt in my class. i distance learned for 7th grade and now im going back there for 8th and i asked specifically to not be placed in the high classes because i wanted to be more with my friends. keep this in mind- once you get to college there is no such thing as the "cool crowd" the "geeks" or any of that. you can roll out of bed put your hair up and walk to class in your pajamas without taking a shower and no one cares. most of the time you wont even talk to others in your class anyway in college. besides good grades mean good job so do your best and dont let schooling get in the way of your friendship!
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Do some scholarship searching and get into college.  You'll find that its really a deja vu of high school, except without curfew and parental monitoring.  Its really cool and you will probably be happy there if you miss being a schoolkid.  College kids are just overgrown schoolkids.  As for what to major in, I can't tell you that - you'll have to figure out for yourself what you like to do and find the point where what you like intersects what you are GOOD at.    That will ensure that you can actually pass the courses in your major and get a good paying job after college.  (I changed majors a couple of times in college, trying to find the right thing for me.  So did a lot of people I know.  It seems to have turned out okay for everyone, so go ahead and experiment.)  Talk to a counselor to help with the depression if you can find one.  And keeping in touch with your high school friends will probably help you feel better as well.
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I also go through the same thing. Actually, I asked a question like this not long ago. I think that it is boredom, loneliness, maybe ADD. Find something that keeps you busy. Even if you don't feel like it, get more involved in things going on at your school. Find community projects, get a part-time job, just get out and meet a lot of people. I did the same thing as you, I started school away from home, and after one semester, I went back home. It was one of the biggest mistakes of my life, and now it has been 4 years since I left school. Please stay in school. If you keep thinking that this "new thing" is going to be perfect and the solution to all your problems, you will be let down. Just take things day-by-day, find something different to do everyday.
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i know the feeling well, i think its because ur going through so many changes at that age that some things just seems 2 stay with u.unfortunately u were bullied and thats what u remember the most.\ni know its easier said than done but try and move on. ur not the same person now as u were then, for a start ur older and i would say definitely much wiser! if only they could c u now!\ntalk about it if it helps, a best friend helps. good luck.  :)
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I have also been in that situation before. Moving to a new school is quite intimidating, but don't fret. The more that you have confidence in yourself and your situation, the faster you will be able to adjust. The best thing to do is join school clubs and volunteer for activities in your school. Being part of a group is a fast way of bringing people together and bonding with one another. Also, surf the Internet and look for local hangouts in your town, most cities have a website advertising the local hangouts...etc. Also, don't hesitate to speak with your guidance counselor at school, they are trained professionals there for your help, whether academically, or personally, they can help give you tips about coping with your move, and even give you good advice about how to meet some people at your school, I guarantee you that they know the local hangouts from hearing the teens talk about it in school. Of course, don't hesitate to talk to your peers, you can initiate a conversation with someone next to you in one of your classes or at lunchtime, lunch is designated as the social event of school!! Good luck, you'll be fine and have a kicking social life in no time!!
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I felt the same way when i graduated high school and started my first semester in college. It's a very scary thing. Unfortunately, I let my anxieties and depression take over and i dropped out. now that I'm older i realize how much of a mistake that was. Whatever you do keep moving/living, things will always get better and you'll look back and be glad you didn't let your feelings at the time hold you back. You should never be embarrassed about who you are. It's you! People can love it or hate it, but as long as your living your life right and not hurting anyone, than Walk, and Walk tall. Be proud of who you are and what you've accomplished and look forward to the many more accomplishments ahead of you. As you go through life you'll meet different people and things will happen naturally. But if you let these feelings keep you stagnant you'll stay in the same place physically/emotionally and these opportunities won't arise.
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its normal to feel sad a lot and feel extreme ups and downs when youre 13 because youre going through a lot of changes in your life and with your hormones. but if you feel like its getting out of control then you need to do something about it. if people are really your friends they wont look at you differently, they will want to be there to help you? if you really feel like you have no one to help you out they have a bunch of teen hotlines and websites where you can meet people to talk to you about your problems. you could even talk to me more if you need someone. you might also want to think about talking to your doctor or getting yourself into some therapy to see if they can help you out. its rought but try and keep your head up and see this through.
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It sounds like you are a very depressed young lady. Maybe instead of talking to your mom just about the boy that you like you could tell her about how sad you have been feeling and that you feel like crying alot. You are at an age where your body and hormones are changing an awful lot and it can be too much to cope with at times. I remember my teenage years all too well!! \nIs there a counselor at your school that you could talk to? Or a teacher? I think you need to talk to someone about your feelings!
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I agree your situation is totally common, I am a freshman in a community college and it is common to feel like you are alone. Professional help is not a bad choice, I think. But I also think that you need to adjust your focus. School is very important and girls can always wait. I went through this recently, I was totally focused on the guys, I thought that I needed a guy to feel good about myself, but it isn't true. You can't expect anyone to accept who you are until you do!! You are a great person and you have many great qualities, but you can't show anyone that until you believe it yourself:) Think positive the sun will show again tomorrow and you get another chance at your life:)
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Snowbunny, feeling the way you do is perfectly normal. Sometimes you don't know what you had until you loose it, I kow how you feel... No matter who you talk to, its like nobody understands or they can't grasp what you're going through and so you can't seem to get over this depression because even the advice your friends or parents give you still doesn't feel good enough. You just want to cry, you feel like treating everyone around you the way you feel. Can't eat, Can't sleep and you can't remember the last time you really smiled from your heart, but trust me when I say, if its meant to be, he will come back and you guys can try again. It won't be tomorrow or next month, no one knows but trust me. And what ever you do, don't consider hurting yourself over something that might feel "like the end of the world" to you. I've got a scar for every heartbroken event in my life when I was either used or mistreated. 5 years of bad memories but looking back now, I found someone who loves me the way none of those in the past could, even though I thought so that time. Thinking of you snowbunny..... good luck hey!
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Well, to be completely honest, that school is pretty much for people who didn't fit in at all in high school, and it shows.  A freind of mine with similar problems went, and she said it was like being around a whole group of people with no real social skills and she ended up leaving after a year.
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you definately need to express your unhappiness. not to sound mean or anything but...don't expect anything to change with your parents. eventhough ur mom isn't happy either. i don't think your parents are going to up and change again just cause YOU are unhappy. that's just how I see it. maybe you can join some kind of activity or something. it really doesn take time to make friends. i've been in that situation before. my whole 9th grade year sucked because i had no real friends. but you will a buddy. it will just happen. i can't really explain it. just hang in there. \n\ngood luck.
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I'm not sure how old you are - I'll assume early teens.\n\nFirst - well done for such good 10th board exams. Seems you are very talented. \n\nSecond - can you talk to your maths teacher, or your parent, or another adult about what happened? It's really important you try because ultimately it's affecting your maths and more importantly, it's affecting your self esteem. You need to sort it out if you can. If you can't, then you either need to accept you won't do well at maths this year, or you need to rise above the teacher and do well in the subject in spite of their bad behaviour. \n\nThird - you need to harden up. You are going through a particularly sensitive time of your life, and I'm so annoyed that a teacher has let you down, but you need to rise above it and know you are better than they are making out. You really are.\n\nFourth - please don't worry about your weight. If you feel you are gaining, perhaps it's just you've been sitting down a lot and need to get more active for a while, or eat more fruit. If you ever feel like a blob, then just go for a walk or a run. But balance it out. PLEASE don't lose control with it. You are intelligent, so you know how not to over eat. You know how to eat a balanced diet. You just need to stretch your legs. \n\nFifth - if you feel depressed for at least another week then tell your parent or get to the doctor and talk to someone face to face. \n\nSixth - You're great - keep going.