I have extra flab on my stomach and hips left over from having my second child. I am so self conscious about it! I get nervous when my husband touching my stomach and feels my flab. Maybe I'm worried it's a turnoff even though he says it's not.
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If your husband still touches you then he likes what he sees, not all women get a guy who loves them throughout the various changes in their life. Feel lucky and enjoy having a loving husband who isn't looking elsewhere, and eventually you'll feel confident in yourself again.
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i am terminally ill and for a long time i was unable to admit it to myself much less my husband. he knew but i would not talk about it. he may just be in that kind of a place be supportive but do not push him. my husband almost pushed me away because he thought i needed to talk about it. by the way the docs said i would be dead 1 1/2 years ago and i am still a vibrant flamboyant sexy woman who lives each day to the fullest. time will pass and he will be more open and learn to enjoy each moment.
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Well who ever thinks diet is going to help that problem is off their rocker!!!! My friend is going through the ssme thing. Her mother just had a reduction for the same reason and she feels wonderful now physically and mentally. Insurance will cover that because of it being a health issue. Honey have it done I wouldn't think twice about it. Boobs are nice but they can be just as nice and make you feel better being smaller!!! Wish you all the best!
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THERE IS NOTHING WRONG WITH YOU!!!!!!!!! I am in the same situation. Don't let him pressure you, its not fair, your sweet little girl hasn't even been out of your stomach longer than she was in! How can you feel "normal" yet? My daughter is 5months and I am SO TIRED, the LAST thing on my mind is sex, we are down to maybe twice a week, from at least once every day before I was pregnant. Talk to your husband about how you feel and explain to him that you love him and to be patient with you. You'll get back in the game, don't worry.
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I went with my husband several times to strip clubs in an effort to try and fix some of our intimacy problems.  I even bought him a lap dance one time.  However, afterwards, it doesn't make me feel good or cool or sexy, even thought it might make him feel that way about  me.  How you feel about you is more important.  After a strip club, part of me really hates him for not wanting to just explore with me.  I keep trying to tell myself that I should just go with the flow.  That men look at women like women look at shoes...but it never seems to make me feel any better.  Before you go, remember that you can never erase that memory once it's there.  On the other hand, at least you know who your husband really is and what he really wants.  Yes, you'll be the coolest wife in the world (like me), but then soon his affection towards you over it becomes empty.  My girlfriend is so jealous that my husband is so affectionate with me...but his affection doesn't make me feel cared about by him anymore.
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Girl, get you a cute maternity outfit and let them know that you are about to become a mother, and despite looking like a sexy pregnant woman, you do not feel well.  Then I would grab me a plate of bbq (if you can hold it down) and clean my plate... mingle for about 10 minutes and excuse myself!  If someone thought that was rude... blame it on the hormones!  Good luck with everything!
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Hi \nFirst u should be happy for what you are. It normal for women to put on weight after pregnancy. What you think is what u gets it all in mind. You’re taking it too seriously.\nAs your message tells you have tried all kind of health, excise and diet books. You need \nSomething else that is “YOGA” it as helped a lot of people from getting out off this kind of problems. It will help you…\n\nHey my personal word “please don’t feel low…everything is  goanna be OK…:-)"
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This is a well document fact! A woman doesn't have her True Body Shape until after the Birth of her first child. Love your baby and the body you live in! Its what is on the inside that matters!
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You weighed 255lbs when you married your husband obviously  found you attractive...It doesn't really seem like he is being a pig but more or less supportive. I applaud you for trying to lose weight because that is extremely difficult especially when you feel as though your husband is losing interest. My fiance and I have been together three years and in the beginning we had sex everyday now maybe twice a month. It's not that we aren't attracted to each other anymore but with stress, work, family and alot of other things we are just to tired. Stay motivated your husband just doesn't seem to know exactly how to encourage you without you becoming discouraged. If I tell her she needs to diet then she'll feel unattractive but if i tell her she is fine the way she is then I am not being supportive of her diet. Basically he's trying and so are you...Good Luck!
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My husband did both times I was PG with our girls!! HE thought I was HOT!! I was always like"I am so FAT" and he was like "Ya but I got you all fat" It really brought us closer together and we were able to get very confertabul with each other Sexully! this makes our relationship the best ever. Years later And we still have a wonderful relationship.(but he dont like me fat after I have the baby, so he motivats me -Positively- to loose the waight)
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I agree with kny390, first step is your doctor. He will know firstly how to appeal, and will be able to maybe contact the consultant on your behalf. \n\nBut you are really gonna have to make your doctor understand how awful and disgusted with yourself this makes you feel, so a few tears wont go a miss. Make him understand how this affects you daily, how you wont undress in front of your partner, or go swimming, however it is that affects you,  make sure he knows.\n\nI know how it feels to be overweight and have  baby flab, ive got it, but im way too afraid of surgery!  i know how it feels to see my tummy in the mirror, get undressed in the dark, hide behind baggy clothes, never be able to wear anything tight and sexy, so you go for it girl, if its causing such distress, its surely worht another try.\n\nAll the best. \n\nxxxxxxxxxxx
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I WOULD!!! I MEAN IT'S NOT ABOUT WHATS ON THE OUTSIDE IT'S WHAT'S ON THE INSIDE THAT COUNTS! RIGHT! I SAY DON'T WORRY ABOUT IT SO MUCH BECAUSE IF A WOMEN CAN'T/WON'T EXCEPT YOU FOR WHAT'S ON THE INSIDE THEN SHE'S PROBABLY NOT WORTH FOOLING WITH!!! I THINK PEOPLE ARE REALLY GETTING TO JUDGMENTAL NOW DAYS!!! SO, DON'T WORRY ABOUT IT! JUST BE YOURSELF!! I KNOW HOW YOU ARE FEELING!! I'M 25 YEAR OLD AN HAVE NEVER WEIGHED MORE THAN 120POUNDS AN AFTER HAVING MY SON WENT TO 150! I HAVE BEEN STRUGGLING TO LOOSE IT EVER SINCE!\n\nWISHING YOU THE BEST!!\nAN IF YOU JUST NEED SOMEONE TO TALK TO FEEL FREE TO EMAIL ME!!
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First of all, if you are feeling ashamed because your bf wants you to be skinny, then you need a new botfriend.Seriously.No man should make you feel that way and he should love you for you, not just your body.IF you think you may be pregnant, take a test.then you will know.IF you are, then you NEED to be eating and you HAVE to gain some weight to carry the child safely and for it to be healthy.Then he will just have to deal with it and if he dosent....kick him to the curb.
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I had lipo done on my stomach as well as my "love handles" 3 weeks ago and i am so happy with the results... i went to Tijuana Mexico becuase its so inexpensive there and i chose a surgeon who was educated here in the states... i couldnt be happier with the way i look..tell me this though besides the fact that you have had children ( i have 2 myself) how is the elasticity of your skin.. do you have a lot of stretch marks or did your skin bounce back fairly well ? that is what makes the difference becuase after they "suck out the fat cells" it takes a little while for your skin to adjust depending on the elasticity.. anyway feel free to IM or Email me with questions
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well that hasn't happened to me... but my advice to you is to be happy with yourself... and honestly it sounds like you husband is a little insensitive. He should be your best friend... if anything he should be the only person you are NEVER embarrassed to do anythign arround. A husband and wife is a team... they should be the other half to yourself, and you should always be comfortable with yourself (and the other half of yourself.)  If you feel you fat, then maybe you should look into losing wieght... try eating small meals more freguently throughout the day and exercise. \n\nMost importantly you should talk to your husband... become best friends.... \n\ngood luck sweetheart... and remember short, tall, skinny, fat, blonde, burnette, redhead, whatever you are BEAUTIFUL for who you are.
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what you are going through is post partum depression, he most likely does not think you are ugly, but you feel he feels that way, it is natural. It will pass. Believe me if you had his kid then to him you are the most beautiful woman in the world. That's how we men feel, we just fail to say it.
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I am going to be totally honest here. If I saw a girl with a scar on her belly I wouldn't think anything negative about her appearance. I would wonder what happened but nothing more than that. I wouldn't be grossed out at all; I would be more grossed out at the sight of an old man in speedos! \nI think we, as women worry too much about what others are thinking and compare ourselves to other women. We are somehow blinded to the truth when it comes down to our appearance. If we keep on doing that, there will always be someone "better looking" or “skinner” in our eyes. Thus we'll never be satisfied. We should embrace our beauty and what we have and who we are and be proud of our bodies. \nI think it’s great that you lost the weight!! Congratulations!! Don't let anyone or anything ruin this new experience in your life. \nYou have a loving future husband who I'm sure loves you for who you are and accepts every beautiful imperfection you may have. \nI believe scars give us character. It should also come as a reminder, thanks to the surgery you’re healthy and here now.\nHave fun shopping for that bikini!! Remember that if you’re confident in the way you look, you will exhibit that confidence and show it off to the world!!