I AM DISGUSTED!!! i just busted my fiance' -who i live with and have two kids with- looking at an 8 second porn clip of two guys having anal sex while the one "pitching" was wearing a wig while another guy watched! what would you do? i want to pack up and get the hell out of dodge! i am not into stuff that bizarre but what if a few years down the road he asks me to "pitch" to him with a strap on or if he decides he wants to fulfill his gay pleasures? i have no idea what to think of this...we have been together for a long time but how does one work something out that they find so disgusting. im not gay bashing- i just am personnally not into such activities. this is real. please no joking replys. this is sad enough.
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*shakes head* Woman... I would RUN so fast and so FAR in the other direction after packing my kids up!\n\nI dealt with a man for a year - who was addicted to all kinds of porn, tried to get me into working with him for a porn site, had a foot fetish, and the last straw was him watching chicks with d**ks do each other.\n\nIf it was a simple, stupid mistake for your man, then fine - but check the history on the computer for the next 4 weeks. See what the heck else turns up. This is not something that a 'normal' person would find exciting and enticing.\n\nMind you, I'm not against gays, porn, etc... most things are good in moderation  - but I just remember how much pain I went through trying to save my relationship after all the truths came out (after 8 months of being together) and how the last 4 months together were HE**. I'd hate for anyone else to go through that...\n\nGood luck... be well.
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We both know it is not any kind of sin to be Gay...big deal. Why so many want to stick their nose into my bedroom is beyond me. I have no intentions of scoring with them, why are they so concerned with this issue...very silly waste of energy and time. Straight or Gay, we all go about our lives to do the best we can, whatever that means. Good for you. A sane straight man is not as rare as it would seem, and in fact, most of my friends are straight and could not care less what I do...I ain't doing it with them, nor do I want to. I listen to their stories, they listen to mine, we all laugh. The similarities in the stories are amazing...we all face the same problems, it would seem. \nAnd by the way, misshavenpussy is a liar, is not a real person, is a man in Alberta bashing under many different identities, including kkkwhater, pinkbox, bring on the rage, etc. He has the distinctive job of handling oil pipe....perhaps a substitute for other kinds of "pipe?"  Very pitiful creature, indeed. Good luck
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EWWW> thats nasty. If he isnt gay he is a pedifile. Run. Divorce him and get tested.
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Did you produce any kids? If so, no calling her a skank.\n\nIf no, knock yourself out, but skank is going light on her...TWO guys? Is she going into porn maybe?
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I agree with you...  And it's also cool if a guy is um, having anal sex with a woman, but it's "gross" when it's 2 guys.  What is up with that bullsh*t?  Nonetheless, if it's love, then any kind of sex can be beautiful!  I myself, would LOVE to have a three some with two other men, it'd be super hot!
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I was on this site a few nights ago, and saw what you described, a womans butt, and two homosexual, well, its to obscene to describe.  Whoever lets that crud by, while giving violations for nothing, in my opinion, are just taking the opportunity, to sh t on the cristians.  My answer will probably be deleted.  I thought I had inadvertantly, got on to a porn site.
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I read your question and your answers.....no one attacked you. I was expecting to read some evil, vulgar things....but no.  There was one or two in which they were quite blunt with you, but all the others were quite sensitive and informative.\n\nBut, on this thing people are going to be jerks. Even to the most legit questions get a$$hole remarks. \n\nPersonally, I think you should have confirmed the rumor with him, before just dumping him. I mean, you've known the guy for  4 years, so you HAVE to know how is with women......right?\n\n To avoid that happening again is kind of an impossibilty. Because, most people put on such a facade in the beginning of a relationship.
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I don't know about you sweetie, but an addiction is an addiction, and he is addicted.  Marriage is Respect, Admiration Passion and Trust.  For sure the first two are not there, since this is grinding on you.  And Passion is a bit tuff, if he oogles 13 year old girls on the computer,,, eeewwwwww.   You may trust him not to betray you by cheating, but hey, I trust my dog too. You don't have a marriage, you just don't know it yet.  You have a rommate..... Porn addiction is about the toughest thing of all to cure. ..... next question is why did you marry this jerk???? and in my eyes, any guy addicted to porn is a jerk.  How do you not find this disgusting????  And why are you still there????  In your place, I'd dump him and get out of this marriage.....You'll only grow to resent this crap as the years go on.... If you have children, you want this guy to be their father?????Sorry, sweetie, you asked
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Poor girl... doesn't want to hurt the feelings of the guy who is so ashamed of her he doesn't acknowledge her in public....\n\nWhat are you, a dog?  Or how about a toilet...someone he goes into regularly but doesn't want the world to know when he does?\n\nPLEASE have some respect for yourself.  The fact that he didn't even think you were worth waiting for ... that he did you before marriage and is enjoying all the joys of marriage with NONE of the responsibility... don't you deserve much better than that?\n\nDUMP HIS BUTT!!!!\n\n And please... find out about real love through Jesus Christ.. and let HIM bring the man into your life who will love and honour you so much, that you will never go through such a thing AGAIN!!!!!!!!!!!!\n\nI hope you take this seriously... you deserve someone who actually CARES about your feelings, and loves you enough to marry you before he has sex with you.
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Hey, I like the doctor's answer there.. (I didn't know all that!) darn, I tried it a couple times and it sure didn't trip my trigger, doc. (I think the doc's not a doctor.. he's fulla **** tho.. lol) Let me see, yeah I had this one real 'loser' boyfriend who gave me his line he "didn't want to get me pregnant.. SO the only way he'd do me was anally." (Is this too sick or what?) Oh yeah and he flippin told me he wanted to marry me (and got me a hundred buck Sears amethyst ring as an engagement ring.) Yeah.. I know.. I know.. how dumb am I, right? Think it was a good way (spend a hundred bucks) for a 'good anal ole time!' I got sick of this after about two times and booted him. I cannot imagine why anyone'd like it.. I don't know why (and apologize if this offends someone decent) but I always figured that if the guy couldn't do it the good ole baby-makin' way, the gal had too big a 'hole..' and the selfish b**tard just wanted an 'extra good squeeze.' (Yeah, I'm gross.. I said I was sorry!) later-
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This is so funny! So refreshing to hear of another hubby with a sense of humor. Did it work? \n\nThank your lucky stars you don't have me! I was upset at my hubby years ago when he wanted me to rub his back with Icy Hot. I lovingly did that for him even though I was mad at him at the time right before bedtime. We went to bed and I spooned behind him gently and lovingly cupping his "jewels" in my hand as I always had. The only difference was that I hadn't washed my hands. I know I'll probably get raked over the coals from you guys out there but it WAS funny. He was "dancing in the sheets". Get it? He forgave me though as I did him for what he'd done.
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Why did you ask for advice about a couple, then post an article about someone who seems to have taken the Pearl's advice to dangerous extremes? This seems unfair.\n\nThe 'pipe' that the Pearl's recommend is soft, flexible plastic water tubing a little over 1/4" wide- almost the kind of tubing you use for aquariums and such- the article makes it sound like lead pipe or PVC plumbing pipe.\n\nI agree with some of the basics at their site, but overall, I am not a fan of the couple or the site. They seem to me to be fanatics in a bad sense of the word.\n\nOddly, it IS NOT their views on spanking or using what amounts to an updated version ofthe willow switch that bugs me the most- it is the commercialism, herbs, and ultra-conservative fundamentalist world-view.\n\nI believe that MILDLY painful stimuli is a powerful learning tool. You see it in real life all the time, and I think it has a role, properly applied, in child-raising. (I never used a switch (or other tool), and never had to do more than a single 'smack' with my 4 kids. Spanking should not be the only or primary tool in your child-rearing toolkit!)\n\nI am horrified at the couple in the article that put such faith in ANY human, then misapply the guy's teachings so grotesquely that death occured. This couple needs psychiatric attention- or if they are mentally OK, needs to be punished for their acts.\n\nThis seems like the blind leading the blind.
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I thought my ex-boyfriend was Bi because I googled search his e-mail address and found that he was on a site called hornygays.com!! Lmao.. the site is no longer up and he swears he is not Bi. I try to believe what he tells me though. Maybe a jealous pssied ex-girlfriend signed him up for it, who knows. If I were you I wouldn't believe anything until you see it with your own eyes!!!
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Oh my gosh......somewhere down the line......my exes must have mated! The first was a raging drunk and the second the porn king. I left my first and never downed him in front of my kids.........but as life goes on and they get older they will see the mother and father for what they truly are. If you care about your child You will not live with a drunk! Wait, and I hope you don't........until your child is standing with a phone in his hand as you scream, "Please call the Police." While daddy is holding your arm behind your back and hollering, "Do it I dare you, cause if u do i will crush her arm and then they will really have a reason to be here." I swear to you as I type this I am shaking remembering all those years ago. I can't tell you what to do...........but for your child's sake.....please....seek help....please don't ever let this happen to your child because I swear.........no matter how you try to cover it up..........they always remember and so will you.........and so far as the porn.......you will never ever get over feeling like your 2nd, 3rd, 4th, 5th..........100th best..I can't tell you there are no words I have for you that can tell you what you will have to go thru. Your man is the two men i was married to in one. I wish I could change the course of your life. I mean this from the bottom of my heart...seek help...and listen...learn...and don't become a victim. I'm almost 50 and refuse to date...because of what i have been throught. Don't make my mistake...care enough about you and your child to know that you  deserve better. Because the man who love so much right now will become you biggest nightmare....it a short few years.........please.......I know i sound crazy...but seek help, break the cycle before your child...starts a new one with someone else....
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I totally understand how you feel. My ex gave me his computer (not expecting me to accept) and I hooked it up and found out that he and his girlfriend were swingers! There were all kinds of pictures of them doing it.. NASTY! I thought I knew him.\nI brought it up and he acted like it was nothing, just mad that I kept the computer. If I were you, I would want to know if he was sleeping with men when you were married. You don't have to show how shocked you are, ask him.
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Dude, really try and get some help.  You clearly have issues that need attending to.  If you're gay or not, this silliness isnt healthy for you.  Not passing judgment, but clearly this is a cry for help.
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Fact:\n\nmen look at porn to escape from something they are running away from something they are not dealing with.  I am not suprised you feel unnattractive! - this is abusive behaviour and totally disrespectful to you.\n\nI don't think it has anything to do with the fact that he finds you either ugly or attractive. It is to do with him and the effect of what he is doing is making you feel like you are the one with the problem but you are not - he is the one with the problem and he needs to sort it out now.\n\nIt seems like he has a pretty serious addiction and is neglecting you in place of porn.  If he doesn't want to talk with you, then he will have to talk with someone about it if he wants to remain in a relationship with you.  This cannot go on and he is not accepting responsibility for his addiction and apologies aren't going to change this.\n\nI think you feel used and responsible for what I am pretty sure he has lured you into those things you now feel really guilty about. But  he is addicted to porn, has been even before you got together as an addiction doesn't start just because of what you two did together.  His behaviour has it's roots from an earlier time and has just grown over time.\n\nYou are not guilty for sharing what you thougt was some fun between you - that was seperate from any porn he engages in and doesn't make you responsible for what he has done and is still doing now.  The videoing will have nothing to do with what addicction he has, so please don't feel guilty for his problem.\n\nPorn is very destructive and any person who jusifies it in their answers have no real idea as to the damage it causes.  It is a real relationship killer and is abusive.  Give him the choice of either getting help for this problem or to pack your things and leave him to it.  He will continue to be like this the longer he chooses to be in denial about it.\n\nWhat you did with him wasn't wrong or bad and didn't cause the addiction he has. No amount of sexual adventer between two loving couples can create an addiction to porn - it already has to be there inside the person and he had this even before you got around to adventerous sex.  He made his own choices and you didn't help him just because you had some adventerous sex togther.\n\nHe crossed the line of love and intimacy with you in a way that is totally disrespectful to you.  What he did with you was a shared intimate thing but didn't give him permission to then jerk off with fictional women outside of the relationship he has with you.  This line has been crossed and he cannot allow his apologies to make up for what he is destroying with you.\n\nHe cannot love you nor respect you and so he has to change or be left to his addiction.  This is just awful and truly feel awful for you.  You do not deserve this and you are probabley better off ditching him however difficult this might be, it has to be done because he will continue to abuse you like this by not meeting your sexual or emotional needs - that is abuse.\n\nWhat you have done right is be committed to a serial porn addict and love him regardless and unconditionally and shared an intimate and loving relationship when it was one.  So how does this make you wrong in anyway? - You gave him all that a committed girlfriend could have done and more and he is the one doing the neglecting and abusing, so what is he doing wrong? - this is the question.\n\nHe is doing everything a dysfunctional person would and is abusing your trust and love for him, so he is the problem not you. He will be the one making you feel guilty for what he is doing, so now he either has to stop, ot you walk out on him.