he has everything going for him but im afraid to take his virginity cause i never dated a virgin before and he is a scorpio and i am a taurus so i am wondering will it last
121755
First, drop all the astrology mumbojumbo, or else he'll think you're crazy, virgin or not.\n\nTalk to him like you would anyone else.  Virgins aren't aliens who don't like other things.\n\nWhen and if you two decide to get to the naked party, then let him set the pace.  The good thing about him being a virgin is that probably anything you do will be heaven for him.  So you have don't have to worry about whether he's comparing you to anyone.  Have fun.  Let him know what you like/don't like.  I'm sure he will be worried he's not doing stuff right.\n\nCommunication - for virgins, and non virgin alike.
568275
You should not be ashamed of being a virgin.  If you choose to be, then no one else has a right to put you down for it.  You are making the best decision in saving yourself for the right person.  You may of had chances back then, but you realize that maybe you aren't ready.  People should respect that.  If that is your choice, then don't be ashamed.  Be proud!
128729
Sad, all i can say is you shouldnt have given your virginty to someone like that... you can either love him forever with no commitment or move on \nand i say move on cause he may not be commitment type\nits morally wrong to take a gals virginity and just not want her\nsorry to say honey\nbut i think you were fed a line and i dont think you love him he's just all you know move on... i said move on not sleep on with everyone else\nGooD LucK
266008
there is nothing wrong with you still being a virgin, may god bless you.  sex is an act of true love that should be shared with someone that you are committed to for life. U can tell when that someone comes along when there is no pressure concerning sex during your relationship.  your correct there is no concrete proof that sex is safe and no you are not missing out on anything.
601046
oh please, this is a man talking more crap...does it mean you'll be together forever, no of course not, it doesn't mean that he doesn't have good intentions at the time he's saying it but you can't possibly be this naive?? can you? there is no way to ensure that you won't be hurt in any relationship, you just have to have confidence that you can handle it, if you don't your insecurities will definitely drive the relationship right into a deep ditch. its likely that is where you are headed if you are obsessing to this extent over something he said....what was the situation when he said it  (you weren't by any chance having sex were you?) i think you need to focus on finding some inner strength in yourself and a life of your own, a relationship should be a pleasant addition to the life you are building...not the entire thing, you will always lose if thats what you are doing. never invest more than you have to lose. if you get your life together and are able to support yourself and develop some confidence in yourself then you will know that you'll be ok whether he actually stays around or not.
498874
So, you're a virgin? Hold up. That is something really, really special, and in my opinion, you do not want to lose it through some hook up. Sounds like this guy has major commitment issues, and just wants to get in your pants. I mean, hell, he even admitted that he is "awful at having a girlfriend." Sounds like he's trying to seduce you.\n\nYou really need to think about what you want. You need to realize that it is a very possible situation that he could have sex with you, then completely ignore you/leave you. Either that or you guys try to work out a relationship and it fizzles. These are very possible outcomes, and if you want to have sex with him, you need to be prepared for the outcomes. If you want to see him again, but don't want to have sex, you need to be vocal about your needs. You need to actively tell him "I don't want you to touch me here, etc, otherwise I'm leaving." He needs to respect you, and he has no right to touch you where you don't want to be touched. \n\nWhat is this bit about him having sex for only 20 minutes? What? Is he a virgin or not? Sounds like he had sex but he is just trying to down-play it so he can tell you he wants to lose it to you. Sorry, but that just sounds like another way to get you into bed. \n\nIt sounds like if you two get together again, something might accidently happen. When things heat up like that, you might end up doing something you didn't intend to do. I just want to really emphasis how important your virginity is, and you really need to keep it for something special. You will always remember your first time. Is this how you want to remember it? \n\nIf you do decide to have sex, please use birth control & condoms. And think hard about this, because this guy doesn't sound like he would be staying.\n\nGood luck.
570510
I AM THE DECIDER does not give an informed opinion, how would a virgin (at least with a female) know anything about this!\n\nHe thinks he has a girl friend, but actually since she is repulsed by him, she is not giving it up, so he is used to being in a sexless relationship!
608997
he sounds kinda sketchy.  If you like him go out, but i'd let it play out before i had sex. He might be okay, or he might be a creep.  BUt you won't know unless you go out with him.  \n\nWell, unless you can tell he's a creep already.
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i don't believe you would still be a virgin, but that should not mean it is any less special when you chose someone to share your first consensual experience with. you are still pure and being victimized does not take that away. you define yourself any way you wish and make sure any potential partner respects that.
297681
At the end of the day your boyfriend is a 21 year old male and you must think as they would. A man will be a man and that includes acting up when the homies are around but he does all these things he does for you and is described the way he is, I don't think you have anything to worry about. Unless the man is cheating, smoking crack rocks or drinking till his liver turns colors I think you got a good one. A lot of people make the mistake of letting the "fear of the future" dictate what they do in the present. If he is good to you be good to him. Only time will tell if the relationship will flop or flourish. You gotta stop putting a stigma over and just let it be. Sounds like a good man don't let that fear mess it for you. I wish you all the luck in the world!
426857
don't worry my dear you should be proud of yourself  bet there are not many young girls that can say that dont know how old you are but that is a very precious thing and you keep hold of it until the rite man comes along this world is full of young girls sleeping around and having  baby's that they don't want  and picking up infections so you don't have to worry and you don't have to be scared it  nothing to worry about its not the end of the world and when the rite man comes along it will be so special  so when you lose your virginity make sure its for the rite reason with the rite person don't let any one tell you any different  a man if he is a man will think more of you for not sleeping around so hold on to it  till the rite ti man comes along
501098
well he is ready. sounds liek what my bf and i were liek not too long ago. (weve been sating for 2 years) always talked abotu having sex. i told him how i wasnt comfortable wih the idea yet and wasnt sure (we were both virgins) so i just told him that. he didnt bother me abotu to as much as he used to before. i knew he respected my decision. i eneded up waiting over 1 and a half years intot he realthionship till i felt liek i was comfortable wiht it and everything. you shoudl just tell him that you dont know if your ready yet and if he relaly loves you he will respect your decision and stick it out till you feel more ready. there are better ways to please a guy that just sex. you can always make him dinner or something =) good luck. just dont rush into things if you dont feel ready. i dont konw how old you are. but advise waiting till you are in a serious relationship to loose it or have sex.
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If you're worried, don't have sex the first time you see him. And if he sticks around, and you're ready to have sex (along with any consequences [such as pregnancy, STDs, etc] of sex) then do it when YOU feel ready, don't rush into anything or you will regret it.\n\nGood luck and take care.
456837
HELLO?!  If you lost your virginity to him, then he should rightfully be yours.  Losing one's virginity is a mark that you belong to him, and vice versa.  If she knows that you two have already "marked" each other, then she should know to stay away.
666124
wait until you find mr. right and plan to get married, then all will feel right and you won't have to worry about being scared. men are not always as experienced as you might think they are. if a man loves you he will wait.  if you find one who is a virgin too. then the union will be even more special. I made the mistake of having sex before marriage and i have a daughter who was taken from me and will never see. I am with someone now who i think loves me very much and i want to marry him and have his child. but he sometimes complains about his inexperiences, and is afraid i will leave him for something better. but i think we do pretty good together. if you can wait, wait til it is right.
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i was 18, we were together 4 years. hun, your body is not ready to have sex yet. and you know what, you can only lose your virginity once. it never comes back, you never have a second chance. if you have sex with this guy, i GUARANTEE you he will break up with you shortly afterwards. then, when you are older you meet the one, you get serious. you cannot lie and say you are a virgin, cause once you have sex he'll be able to tell. a man will respect you so much more if you hold out (in the long run). it's hard to tell whose the one to lose your virginity too the only way to make sure is to make them wait, and wait and wait. it will be worth it. i started dating my fiance at your age and made him wait 4 years. he has even told me if i would have given it up easy he wouldn't have respected me and we wouldn't still be together. people may pick on you but that's normal in school. i guarentee you these people picking on you are gonna end up with a std or pregnant before you get out of high school! another thing to look at... you start at 14.  even if  you have sex with people after 6 months to a year cause you feel so strong about them. now that doesn't work out because guys at this age are all about the sex and having it with as many girls as possible. that is 1 to 2 people a year you have sex with. no big deal to you now but imagine when your 25, 30! hun just do your self a favor, put your head in those books, become a strong independant woman and worry about the sex later. the emotional part of sex lasts longer. it takes minutes to lose your virginity and it may be something you regret the rest of your life.\nI am 21! i'm not old, just seen all my friends make the wrong decision and had to listen to them bitch about it all the time.
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Yeah they can make it for the long haul. :-D \nYou are salt, Taurus is pepper; you are the cup, Taurus is the saucer. As opposite as you two are, you match up famously! Your Taurus lover is an earth sign, you are a water sign, and this adds up to one fertile mix! \n\nNeither of you is a social butterfly in the way an Aries or a Libra can be. You two love to stay home and listen to some music, or pop a good murder mystery into the VCR (Scorpio's suggestion) and pour a glass of fine red wine to have with some fruit. Afterwards, it's time to make love. \n\nYou and Taurus have a good, healthy attitude toward sex. Weekends, according to both of you, are just made to while away together in bed. Sexually, you answer one another's needs perfectly, and afterwards, you feel physically and emotionally fulfilled. Taurus are patient and like to take their time with lovemaking, much to your delight. Taurus will never rush, for they approach love the way they would approach a fine meal -- with relish, great anticipation, and a discriminating palate to make it a perfect experience overall. You, Scorpio, want to explore the depths of your Taurus lover's soul. Even though your Taurus won't have the same need to know you all the way down to your bones, being an open person, your lover will tell you whatever you want to know. This is especially good, for while you're curious about your Taurus, you don't like to reveal much about yourself in the beginning. \n\nBoth of you are possessive and prone to jealously, so luckily you understand each other. Your outbursts of temper won't ruffle this Venus-ruled lover. Taurus will just shake off your anger with a shrug, knowing these clouds will pass. You two favor a daily routine over constant changes in your lifestyle, which you both find exhausting and a waste of time. \n\nFidelity will be strong in this match because neither of you could bear telling your life stories to one stranger after another. Your good sex life will help sustain years of closeness, and your sensuous attitude will ensure that you continue to savor one another's charms. This combination is a positive yes! \n\nBest Wishes and Good Luck :-)