My mother doesn't believe in teenage love.  There's this boy, though...I'm not even his girlfriend and I think I love him.  I don't love him because I have to and I'm his girlfriend like some of the other girls around here tend to do.  It's not fake puppy love.  He has a girlfriend and he has for ever.  Over a year.  I had a chance for a few weeks in between their relationship (they were having issues) and I realized how happy he was and how ecstatic I was.  Then he went back to her.  And he wasn't happy.  But now things are better between them.  He told me so much and it seems he just turned his back on everything he said to go back to her.  He knows how I feel.  But, he doesn't feel that way for me.  I still have these intense feelings though.  He claims to have "strong feelings" for me, as well.  But has never called those feelings "love."  Knowing this, is it possible that I love him?  I know...very thourough....but i need to know...
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Yeah... it could be love and it might not be. But my advice to you (trust me), since you're still a teenager, just be his friend. Don't talk about love with him. Forget he has a girlfriend and just talk to him like you are talking to one of your girlfriends. No teenage guy is ready for a big commitment so even if you are currently his girlfriend, it won't last... but if you are just friends, you have a much better chance of still keeping in touch 10 years from now and him winning your trust than his current girlfriend. And this might get him to finally realize you have always been there for him. I hope you get my point ( and I hope you take my advice)
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how old are u first? and how old is this boy that u are talking about ? it sound like it is just puppy love between the two of u
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I know it's hard to sometimes show love and affection when you're not used to saying it or have been shown love, But she is ur mother and consider ur self lucky..My mother died when I was 2 1/2 yrs old and I had my father who wasn't very loving, I knew he loved me, but he never told me until now ... I'm 20yrs old and Everytime we talk he says I love you....but it took us long enouf to say those three little words...which I hoped I had that when I was growing up. Love you're mom no matter what ...say I love you to her....be thankful and lilttle by little things can get better!!!
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Hey I just wanted to say thank you for your response to my question, I think it really helped and it wasn't mean. I also think that you are right, he called me this morning and told me that he was knocked out and didnt get up until 12:30 or so. I guess it is still taking me some time to really relax and trust him but I think your response was the best. As far as your situation, my boyfriend is actually 28 and im 18 so yeah, think about that one lol. Thats 10 years older then me, but he loves me and I love him and its been the best relationship I've ever been in. I think true love prevails over age and just as long as you guys can respect each other and love eachother and probably give her some time to also grow, you guys will be just find. Age is really just a number I just feel like sometimes our decisions or the stage that we are at life can sometimes conflict. Just make sure you two continue to communicate and understand eachothers needs and wants to go about things the right way. G-luck.
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This sounds sooooooo familiar.  My parents did not like my boyfriend for a very long time, but the longer we were together, the more they realized how much we cared for each other.  Now we are engaged and my parents are ecstatic.  Just think to yourself....................who's in love with him, me or my parents? when your in love, you shouldn't care what other people think, but since its your parents, i know its hard.  Just follow your heart!!\n\nGood luck and God bless!
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I am dadless, he left my mom shortly after she had me and has only contacted us via court orders, never met him or seen a picture. My mother has always showered me with love and although I love her, I can't help but shake the feeling that my existence ruined some guys life and that I am a burden. As a result of that, and a few other factors in my upbringing, I don't believe in love or men in general, but most men in my extended family have been bad examples too. I have deep seeded trust issues, my relationships are never about love (either sex or convenience). I tend to gravitate towards men that are older, I'm twenty and can't fathom being with someone under thirty. I don't, however, think that dads are necessary, the particular upbringing of the child is the most important thing, it's better to have no dad than a horrible dad. Plus, now that I am growing up and examining myself more objectively I realize that he is only human and probably isn't out to get me, which relieves some of my paranoia about him, I try not to take it personally. I will probably never trust, but I am starting to look at men in a case by case way and not despise the gender arbitrarily.\nMeeting? He is a part of me and I am a part of him, I will always seek out his approval and would feel loads better about myself if he ever felt like contacting me, which probably sounds pathetic. I wish that he loved me, but he pobably doesn't, I wonder if he thinks about me as much as I do but he probably doesn't, I hope one day that we could have some kind of reunion and he would accept me and acknowledge me but he probably won't. Socially I am a realist and would never trust that I could meet him and not end up crying in a ball somewhere, for me it is better not to know, because then there is a slim chance. I am terrified at the idea of meeting him, I'm sure I wouldn't live up to his expectations, from the correspondence we've been exposed to he's rich and was slumming it, and I can't shoulder that kind of disapproval at this time. But that's just me, it's my personal problem and certainly not the case with every dadless person I assume. I will probably evolve as time goes on and have different thoughts on the subject. Maybe they won't so long and detailed.
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Yes, you are still young and believe me what you feel for this boy is not love. You need to move on with your life, and definitely, for future reference, never be the "other woman". I hope this helps.
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I think he likes you a lot. He wanted you to meet his mom but did not know how to tell you or his mom that he wants to be your boyfriend. It does sound strange but some guys get nervous like that. Tell the boy sorry.
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Hey Me.... I am a mother and would feel very hurt if my child didn't tell me what was up and ran off with a 21 yr old. May I suggest that you sit down and talk with your parents. Yes they may be upset at first, but their your parents and will love you reguardless. Here is something else to think about. When I was your age I was head over hills for a man 7 yr older than me. I dated him for a year and realized that I wasn't in love with him, but liked his company because he listened to me when I thought my parents weren't. When it turn out they were. Then I met this cool guy my age and we dated all through highschool. So if you will take a suggestion from a mom..don't rush into anything take your time, because you never know a cool girl your age may come along that you relate to.
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okay its easy, parents are parents, and no matter what, no matter how it is, parents are always right.. you see, i met this guy.. and he's...not all there, kinda crazy, kinda.. just you know, not there.. and we ended up dating, i thought he was just perfect, blue and black hair... just. you know a babe? im into.. kinda crazy guys,  he was telling me within a month of our relationship that he didnt want to live, and he cut himself and all this..and i ended up getting really down, he told me not to tell anyone, but i told my mother because i thought it was the best,  and she was like nuh oh no way.. and like totally freaked out on me for being with him if he was like that.. i dont even think he believes in god..well he ended up finding it out from someone, and was really upset, i asked him why.. and he said i knew why.. and i told him i did what i thought was best, and that i cared for him.. he ended up calling me all these...few choice words, telling me..few choice things.. and we ended up breaking up...now im with this really nice guy... and everything is working out, just perfectly..and guess what? my mother loves him..but what im saying... is maybe you can talk your parents into it.... maybe like invite him over for dinner and you guys can eat as a family. and it would give your parents an idea to get to know him more, and see what a great guy he really is. or in my case, maybe theres someone better for you..  best of luck.
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When I was 16, my boyfrind was 20 ...and my parents said the same thing...but I stayed with him...they still disagree, but now im 19 (and living with him)and hes going on 23...its not as bad as parents think. As long as you are with someone you care about and he doesnt hold you back at anything, then i would say you are fine. I have been through the same thing. And am still going through it. Parents will be parents i have come to find out. Just go with your heart feelings and dont let anyone take that away from you-ever....if u neeed to talk you can im me or email..either way. i'd love to pass on some advice...
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You are obviously still young enough to find a better person.  This guy has waaaay too much baggage for you to carry.  Take it from someone who wasted alot of her young adult age on the same guy you just described.  Believe me, you're wasting your time.  At first, because we were "in love", he was all for the "help" and did alot to stop the bad habits he had.  But after a few years, he started to resent me, because I had "tied him down", "made his life boring"  you get the picture.  Then when he became depressed, because he wasn't having any "Fun", (If you call drinking yourself unconsious fun or getting arrested because you started a fight at a gas station, fun)  He was so pissed at me all the time, because he couldn't go "out" that he started to verbally, then physically abuse me.  I tried to stick by him,  help him, I always told him that "all I wanted to do was help him", he just said I was trying to control him.  He would purpously start fights with me just so he could leave and use me as an excuse to go "out".  The funny thing is , I refused to listen to my mom.  I paid for it with nine years in hell, and I haven't seen my family for twenty years.  Please while you still haven't been through hell, get out.  If you choose to stay, keep in touch and on good terms with mom, you WILL need her someday.  Watch out for the warning signs and take care of yourself.  Good Luck
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first of all you might be too young to realize that if his dad passed away his mom is all he has. He might not like to leave her because he is scared of loosing her too.  She probably raised him and  i can aonly assume tha they are very close. I get that you think it is unattractive, but that is because at 15 you are too young to understand that this is much deeper than being just a mamas boy.
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I don't know you or your mom but has she said this about any of your other boyfriends?  I didn't believe it and lived to regret not taking the advice of people who really did care for me.  Looking back now I see what I couldn't see then.  Controlling someone else is usually very subtle.  Be careful and always know that your mom will be there if needed.  No matter what he may tell you.  Good luck.
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I guess I am mature enough. Understand your feeling are very natural for your ages. There are hormones that give you those feelings. Know that. Next decide how you want to deal with these feelings in your life-use your mind-pay no attention to the feelings. Do you want to cross your parents? Do you want a relationship with this boy? (remember he will act on his feelings-because most boys-enjoy the acting out with little problems in there life). Do you feel you have the time to give to a relationship? Are you studies important (they effect your whole live-girl)? Of Course you think about him-Its not because you have shared times together-but because of hormonal feelings. And yes he will move on --he is young and so are you. My advise-wait-get busy-volunteer (hospital-animal shelter-anything)-join a club or church-do things to get busy. And see if you can get busy with something that you love or will help you later. Waiting may seem long-but its not and your day will come.
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Your parents are correct in some of their thoughts, being a parent I understand what they are saying to you.  Now being a young parent, I remember what it was like when I was your age and your thoughts and feelings as well.  So I will give you advice based on what my past, similar to yours, has taught me and what I have learned.  You feel that you are truly in love with him and I believe that feeling is valid.  However, the love you feel and the person you choose to be with when you are 15 is much different than the person you will choose or feel to be with when you are 21 and yet again 27.  So understand as much as you love him, he is not sounding as though he would be the best person for you.  He has relationship issues, and not sure but obviously has done something that is not in the best interest or he wouldn't be under house arrest.  There is a huge age difference between 15 and 18.  3 years is not a big difference when you are older, but it is when you are younger.  You at 15 should be happy, living life to the fullest, not worrying so much about things of this nature.  Relationships all have their ups and downs and people who really are committed yes work through them, but relationships also shouldn't be a fight to be together, meaning they shouldn't always be work.  Now maybe you feel yours isn't but if it isn't now, it seems to be going in that direction.  Try, just try, taking your parents advice and back off for a bit.  Yes it will hurt and take some time, so don't think you should be happy immediately, but after some time, for everyone it is different, weeks, months, you may find you are happier with someone closer to your own age and without all of the relationship difficulties you are experiencing now.  Parents don't try to do or say things to hurt their child, they try to give you advice based on their wisdom, which comes from their experiences.  I wish you the best of luck as I don't think you will take this advice as to the extent of your love for this boy, however you may look back upon it and think, hmmm....  Gook luck to you whatever you decide to do.
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I can see your confusion and your concern but the only thing you can do is wait it out and be there for her. You cannot control your mother any more than you can control the weather. She may be so eager to find love again and get involved with a man that at the first chance she jumps all over it and becomes obsessed. You are awesome for being such a caring son but your mom has to see it on her own. If she is this far gone in love with this guy then she won't see things your way no matter what you say and if you say anything to her she may even get angry with you. Good Luck and I hope this helps!!