Last year in school, this guy and I became very good friends and i got a crush on him. At the beginning of this school year and last year, i was a preppy girl. I find out that he HATES prep stuff. and he HATES rap. i'm so desperate so i change how i dress and the music i listen to. i used to love prep clothes from hollister, abercrombie, all that stuff. and for music, i listen to the emo genre. secretly i listen to rap. i changed my entire life for him. after a while, he finds out that i have a crush on him. and he rejects me. he kept breaking my heart. now, still all emo, i'm friends with him. and still, with a gigantic crush on him. but he just called me yesterday for the first time in 4 months! yes, i love being friends with him but my life has completely changed. and if i change back, he won't want to be my friend. and not even the slightest chance of boyfriend. i care about him way too much to change back but idk what to do. i miss my old self. i'm in an emo trap that can't escape
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Life and love is very difficult, but if someone doesn't like you for who you truly are then they are not worth the time. If you change everything about yourself to please someone else then you lose yourself then eventually you will end up hating that person and hating yourself. You must be true to yourself before you can be true to anyone else, and it doesn't sound like this guy is much of even a friend if he didn't call you for 4 months. Some guys take advantage of the fact that someone has a crush on them and use that to their best interest. They never have your best interest at heart. It may be hard, but decide who you are and what you want for yourself. Move on and you will see that when you are truly happy with yourself a guy who really likes you will be there and you will be a happy person because you didn't;t lose yourself for some guy.
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I went through the same thing this past summer. The result: we're still friends, and I want him more than ever. I wish I had gone out with him when I had the chance. \nI was afraid of ruining our friendship because hes never had a girlfriend for very long. You should let him know. there shouldnt be a secret like that between you.
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Wow I had the EXACT same experience in eighth grade. Same class and same friend situation. Just continue to be yourself and act the way you normally do. No guy is worth changing yourself. He probably does like you though, one major thing to look for is how he treats you when you are around your friends.\n\nGood Luck!\n\nSara
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Yeah, that'll happen to some people in high school.\n\nIt seems to me like you need a boyfriend yourself to make you let go of this guy and live your own life.\n\nYou are thinking the grass is greener on the other side with this guy, and it may not be that way at all, since if you actually were dating him, he might actually be a jerk or a self-centered snob etc.\n\nI know this advice will sound weird at 1st, but try living as if this guy was obsessed with you, and you don't even notice him.\n\nSometimes just thinking the opposite of something that bothers you will make you live that way.
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Be yourself, if he doesnt like that then he's not worth it and you can do better with a hot preppy boy.... I suggest sticking to the hot preppy boys.
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Its kind of like losing the best friend you never had. I don't like dating, so i kind of know where your coming from. I get very nervous when im around any guy taht i like. But just because he moved away, doesn't mean you let him go. The next time you see him, you might want to have one of your friends get his number, email, myspace. anything that could be away for you to keep in touch with him. Friends is always a good step to being something more. So try this out and see if it works.
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That is soo me, I have the same problem, I have been hurt soooo many times that I can't even count on my hands how many times I have been heart broken. But i seem to go on, and now I really like this boy, and I afraid to ask him because of what his friends will say, so I'm just keeping it in, and its tearing me up inside, and I can't take it anymore. So, I have came to a conclusion that I'm never going to be w/him, and I'm just trying to forget about him, but I will always have that feeling, and that hope that he will realize that he likes me. Well, I say go w/your heart. \n\n                                 Good Luck!!!!!
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Yes, I think your absolutely right about everything  you said that concerns you, your friend, and this guy. Just be glad that it wasn't you with this guy no matter how good he flirts or looks. I really feel for your friend because if she gives it up to him he's going to be gone like the wind soon afterwords. Hopefully things won't get that far for him and her, but if they do I hope that maybe she'll learn a lesson from it. You seem like a very smart girl to me. Don't ever let yourself be taken advantage of. Your worth something.
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do you still talk you should call him and ask him if he  would comsider going back with you but don't get your friends involved because he might start liking them i know you might think that it won't happen to you but trust me it can happen to anyone well good luck with that and be brave
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Hey girl, Now this is a big situation. I had the same thing happen to me. You have to think for your self is he the one? Or is he just a friend. If you decide he's just the one embrace it!
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Sounds like he isn't ready to move on cause he's already turned down one of your friends.  You said you were with him when you were 13.  Depending on how much older you are now, I wouldn't try and re-establish some sort of a relationship unless you are ready for one.  To be fair to your other friend, if you truly feel a desire and need to find out if you and your ex have anything to build a relationship on, tell her first.  Explain to her one of your other friends liked him and he turned her down, and she wants you to get back with him, which leads me to believe he wants to try with you again.  So to keep your other friend that thinks she is totally in love with him, from getting hurt and rejected by him, talk to her, explain the whole situation and she won't feel so foolish.  The worst thing you could do is go back with your ex without explaining to her the truth.
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ok. I'm a few years older than you, but if there one thing i wish i could change about my life would be this.  I wish i had taken more chances.\n\nIf he likes you GREAT\n\nIf not you'll get over it.\n\nBut unless you try  you'll never know.\n\nGo get him girl!
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Ok blue, i know how u feel, so talk to him about your feelings. A guy friend of mine liked me but i didnt cause i just like him as a friend, just like what ur going through. It sucks i know, but i went up to him and asked him if we can talk and so i told him i dont have the same feelings for you. Plus ask him if he is willing to put your guy's friendship on the line if u guys go out, you know what i mean? You guys are probably good friends, right? I know u dont want to loose that,so let him no that. Speak ur mind and he should respect that no matter what.
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No boy is worth messing up a friendship especially if she is your best friend.  Trust me, BEEN THERE- DONE THAT!. I dove in on one of my friend's bf's once and she hated me for 2 years in high school.  Then she finally forgave me.  We hated each other during two proms and a Senior Trip.  It was not worth it.  Instead...why don't you wait and see what happens with them...chances are it won't last long.  School romances rarely do anyway.  Then after they go their separate ways, like probably in a week or two....then try your luck.  Trust me...don't move in on your friends crush.
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So what you really are after is popularity. You said that you knew a couple of preppy girls but that they were really fake.  Not to hurt your feelings, but you're about to venture down the same path.\nYou need The Order in your life desperately.  I think you should speak with my spiritual guide.  Her name is Master Amara Kiran\n\nhttp://360.yahoo.com/master_amara\n\nI'm not being hokey here and I really am concerned for you.  She really can help you.  Hey, it's worth a shot.  Please try!
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It's ok I moved away from my old school and it was hard because I had everygirl jealous of me because of all the boys that liked me and now I am the geek or something.  Anyways I had this boy that I had a crush on and his friend told me that he liked me and I was so happy our teacher moved us next to each oter and at the end of class we would have a nice talk.  I still miss him but what I did was think about what he does that is not perfect and I always take one of those fortune teller things and ask them if he still likes me and it always ends up with the answer no so I said he is missing out on alot because I am one fine hottie.
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Ok.. first of all your a junior in high school, so you dont need to be making future plans with a guy.. your TOO young, you have your whole life. On the other hand.. it's his life.. his music, not yours. Music is his love, his passion, let him live it, dont give him a reality check, cause look what happens, he gets mad. Let him do whatever he wants, if he really loves you he will show you.. he can love his music and you both, just dont make him choose. Trust me on this one.. I know first hand.. try to enjoy his music as much as him.. music is in the soul of musicans