I'm kinda in a long distance relationship with my guy. A co-worker of mine recently told me he has feelings for me, however I don't return them. I've been wondering if I should tell my guy. What do you think?
126117
As long as nothing happens between you then he doesnt need to know!!
662072
I can relate-I am also in a long distance relationship, I'm in Hawaii,he's in Maryland...  The best thing for you to do is trust him..  Just because he asks "baby, do you still love me?" doesn't mean he's cheating on you.  One thing I've learned about most* men in relationships, is once they say they love you and they mean it...They feel very vulnerable and generally need reassurance that you feel the same-they are trying to avoid heartache themselves... You two need to talk more and communicate alot more than you already are, tell him your worries and if you seriously think he's cheating on you then you're probably right.  If your gut feeling tells you he's not, then he's probably not.... Go with your instincts.
159367
I have been in the situation before and it worked out for the best. I got the courage to sit down with the guy and talk to him about my feeling but i didnt sound despert to him i just told him that i think we are made for each other and that i still loved him a lot. I told him the truth and after i told him he got the courage to say what his feelings are and he said that he still loved me 2. I know its hard to step up and be the first to say what you feel like, but if you do it might just work out. Good luck
624351
Tell him how you feel. Even though he is leaving its always worth the feeling deep down inside knowing that he knows how you feel. He maybe even want to give it a shot with a long distance relationship. Good Luck!!
197594
thats a terrible situation to be in.  i agree, i would sit him down and tell him how you feel.  you may be surprised and find out that there is something going on that has nothing to do with you.  he may be stressed at work, worrying about family, who knows.  but if it comes down the the fact that he doesnt care, then you should get out of the relationship.  someone once told me that the one that loves the most get hurt the most, and you dont want to be in a relationship like that.  good luck!
158753
I don't think I'd do anything quite yet.  You should probably wait and see what happens. I understand you're worried but if your relationship is strong, you 2 can work this out.  Some people can make long distance relationships work out, some can't.  He says he's taking you with him, do you even want to move? That's something you'll have to decide and that could give you the rest of the answers you need.\nBest of luck to you!
41063
From personal experience and I also have friends trying to make long distance work. Its sooooo hard! No matter how much you like or love that person its nearly impossible, especially since you both live in two different states. Have you ever heard of the expression, The right person but the wrong time. Dont hold each other back.
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I knew I loved my bf the first time I laid eyes on him.  But I didn't tell him exactly how I was feeling til around Christmas time which was 3 months into the relationship.  But I agree with my bf ... saying I love you to your bf / gf puts a different spin on the relationship.  Makes things more serious.  So I would advise that before you say those 3 words to him that you make sure that it is exactly how you are feeling.
206414
you were right. you shouldnt lead him on if you dont feel the same way. the same thing happened to me with my boyfriend and he respected that those feelings hadnt developed for me. eventually i knew for sure that i love him, so when i told him he knew it was real and not a cop out. honesty and trust are the most important things in a realtionship, so never lie.
644145
would you believ the same thing has just happend to me. bout 4 months ago i ran into this guy i went to school with and we started chatting and i got his number. later in the week i got a msg from him and we were talking about school and how we were friends and how i used to really like him. he then replied that he liked me and wish he had relised what he had missed out on in school and he should have hooked up with me.\nwe continued to msg each other and after a week he said that he still had feelings for me. the only problem with the whole situation is i met another guy and now im engaged, i got so confused on what to do but he still says now that he really likes me and i should leave the other guy. of course im not.\nAnyway the point to all this is yes there is a chance for you both as long as neither of you are in a relationship. a way to find out is by saying that you used to like him and find out where you stand with him. invite him out for dinner or a movie or something and try and spend time with him. you will soon know if he likes you or not.\nGood luck and hope this helps
389287
ok... i dont know you or your man, so i can only tell you what i do know. i have been with my man. i met him online and we became friends. after 1 month of chatting, he left to South America for a month. when he got back , we met up and started our relationship that same day. after 2 weeks, i knew that i loved him. but i held it in, and didnt say anything. 3weeks... i thought that he felt the same and we were doing as you are- telling each other how we felt about each other and all that jazz... anyway, after the fourth week had past, i was lying in his arms morning after valentines day, and i was thinking how wonderful everything was and how much i love him.. and i couldnt not tell him any more. so i told him. and he just smiled. he said thank you and that he just needed a little time to decide how he feels, but that the fact that i told him that i love him wont scare him away. anyway... 3days later, i get home and he is in my bed (he lives an hour and a half away, so that was a big deal) and he had a single red rose. he told me that he loved me and that he doesnt want to lose me. Its been 10 months now and i have no intention f leaving this man. he feels the same. We told each other a month into the relationship and everything was fine. My point, after that rather long winded saga, is that, if you are meant for each other, then telling him, should be the least of your worries and you should be secure in your relationship enough to have the confidence to tell him. dont wait for him to tell you first. chances are that he is confused and trying to sort his head out too. men arent complicated creatures. just silly ones. lol. if you love him, tell him. everything will be fine hun. trust in yourself and your relationship. \nDont wait on men. lol. You're a woman. Be a strong one.\ngoodluck to you hun\nxxx
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It sounds like you've spent enough time trying to figure out if something can happen or not.\nSo I'd leave it and be open to something new.  If you're going to do that make sure you either tell him not to touch/hug you any more or you make it clear that you just want to be friends/work colleagues and nothing more.  Don't give out mixed messages and he'll get the point - he may be as confused by your actions, but you don't say what you do when he is 'all over you'.\nIf after this he says he does want to be with you seriously, maybe give ahim acouple of weeks to prove it by acting like an adult, otherwise forget it.  He sounds a bit childish, but his actions may also be affected by your own.\n\nGood luck!!
113798
My boyfriend is still friends with the one long-term girlfriend he had before we got together. He still talks to the girls he had flings with throughout his early 20s. I'd be lying if I said it doesn't bother me occasionally. The important thing is that it's only occasionally. I trust him and I know he would never betray that trust.\n\nIf he still has feelings for them I'd be wary of getting too attached to this guy. He isn't bad, it just seems like he isn't sure of what he wants. Maybe those feelings will fade, maybe they won't. The important thing to remember is that he is entitled to those feelings and you can't force him to not have them.
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being at work doesn't mean he's really working on your relationship with you.\n\nIf he doesn't take time for you now, he won't later.  Drop him and let him come to you if that's what he really wants.  It sounds like he's looking for an excuse to leave the relationship.\n\nWhy waste your life while he tries to decide if he wants to spend time with you or not?
212026
If you truly love him, you wouldn't mind the distance. The catch is, does he truly love you back? If you think he does, then it is well worth it.
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Let me tell you a little bit about my own experience: \n     I tell my girlfriend all the time, very sincerely and sweetly, that i love her.  I do spontaneous things, like buying flowers or candy or some other gift, for no reason at all.  And i sometimes just hang out with her, with no obligations or intentions; just hanging out to be with her.  Yet, she sometimes gets insecure, and doubts me.  It has never been because of something that i have done, just that that is how she is.  Lately, because of this, i have been sensing those things, and i have found myself being emotionally hurt by her, and the little things that she has been doing.........  I love her more than you could imagine, but because of her doubts and insecurities, i have been getting hurt, and i now have doubts as to whether the relationship is fit to survive.  \n     In your case, if he has done nothing to bring about these feelings, then you should probably have no worries.  Innocent until proven guilty.  I know, from personal experience, that it starts to hurt when you signifigant other doubts you and your motives/intentions when you say "i love you."  It is extremely painful because you say those words to someone, expressing what you truly feel inside (not in all cases mind you), and then you are essentially "slapped" in the face when that person questions you.  If your boyfriend is seemingly sweet and sincere, then he probably really means it.  if he respects you as a person, and is supportive of you, then i would say that he probably means it.  Good luck to you, and i hope that i have helped.
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Definately tell him. I was in a similar situation and I never told the guy how I really felt.  He's with someone else now and it hurt so bad that I ended up spending less and less time with him. Now we barely ever talk.  I found out later that he had feelings for me, but now it's too late.