I noticed when people ask a girl what they look for in a guy, the girl would almost always answer "He does not have to be goodlooking but he has to be SWEET, CARING and HONEST and at least look PRESENTABLE". If this is the case, why are so many girls going head-over-heels for goodlooking guys whom they aren't even sure of being SWEET, CARING and HONEST? Why don't they say instead straightforwardly that they look for good looks in a guy?
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Personally, the first thing I see when I meet someone isn't their brain, I see their exterior. So when someone gives you a list of all of the things they want their significant other to be and they don't include the physical, they're lying. Everyone wants someone who is attractive but very few people are honest enough to admit it.
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Every guy has different preferences, so there is no right answer for this. Guys like girls who are confident in themselves, who know what they want and who have an opinion, but not too outspoken. Guys want a girl who will make them feel good about themselves and who cares about him. But don't be all over the guy--keep him interested by having your own thing going on. The important thing is that you have to be yourself and should never act differently because you think that is what the guy wants.
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it's true that men are obsessed with looks. but it's only an obsession. a good man knows that looks aren't everything...it's just hard not to notice it! especially bodies. i'm just being honest. \n\ni can be in the best relationship, with an absolutely gorgeous woman (as i am) and i'll still catch myself checking out a good looker on the sidewalk and have to just shake my head and get on with life. \n\nlife's just not fair. and anyway, the best looking girls knows it all too well and are way too obsessed with looks themselves whether it be them or the men.
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no one is telling guys to look hard, that's yalls choice. Everyone wants the cute, small frame big butt chick, but what about the cute girl, that's working and doing something w/ her life. yall overlook those kinds. Girls don't have to lookout, we see what we want for who yall are, not for how you look. you can look kool and still be an a$$, as compared to the book smart guy that really knows how to treat a girl. most of the time though, the cook guys only want sex, and there more to life than just that. maybe if guys looked at it like that, it wouldn't be hard for you to find a cute girl. look beyond the breast and butt for a change, you'll find a cute girl.
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Because until men get over the fact that they can think without using their eyes, it becomes pointless to pick out a girl based on what she looks like.  Number 1 reason why I have a major distrust of any online dating site.  I'm a guy, but it takes a real guy to say it like it is.  If you got no heart, then you don't (in my opinion) know how to view girls.  And it goes the other way as well.  If girls think that the best way to attract a guy by getting naked and then sharing their naked pictures online, then you are appealing to the eyes, but not the heart.  Unless of course the eyes have had free reign for so long that the heart is screwed every where he looks.
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They are kind of shaped by our society...\nA girl feels obligated to impress the guys that she likes, (usually regardless of fashion) and attract them to her. If all goes well they will go out.\n\nThis is just an average case, btw; many guys care about their looks, but don't need to spend as much time on dress, hair, and accessories!\n\nIf not the above, they like dressing up to reflect their mood or personality...It's one of the best forms of expression!\n\nIt's just how it is ;)
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People like to say that looks dont matter and its whats on the inside that truely counts. While this is true in theory is is most often not very true in practice.\n\nMost people given the choice between an average looking person who has a great personallity and an attractive person with a bad personality will go with the attractive person. I think the reason is that people think of their boyfriends/girlfriends a fashion items. "Nice coat!" "Cute shoes!" "Oh nice boyfriend! You got the whole set."\n\nI had a big time crush on a friend of mine who is in a wheelchair. She is awesome to be with, kick ass, and a beatiful person. Our lives went to very different paths so we never dated but I sure as hell wanted to.\n\nIf the person cares for you as a person, none of that shit should matter.
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We're a bit slow in understanding... No, in se everyone wants a guy that's nice. We're just frightened that 'nice' is all he'll ever be. A man is supposed to be an animal sometimes: It's superficial, but with a nice guy it's only guessing if he'll ever be a challenge in bed. With macho-dudes you're 'sure' of a challenge, and whenever he's sweet, it's even a bigger party, for you know that didn't com easy for him... The rough guy with the soft heart is a stayer on the market. And even when he doesn't have a soft heart, you can always pretend for your friends he has and then they think you're a winner. It's also very 'in' to complain about your guy. Some girls bond by wining. Don't ask me where that comes from. But in the end I think philosopher René Girard has an answer: 'You want what is wanted.' Tough guys get promoted a lot (e.g. by themselves or by 'cool' friends). Nice guys don't promote themselves and get promoted by parents (not really a reference, parents are those people we don't want to become like). And since you want what others you admire want,... you end up with a bully sometimes. Good to know: we do come to sence. When we get to know this nice guy and he surprises us with some unexpected male talents,... Ding Ding Jackpot!
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You have to be sure of your self and be in the way you are, girls  like a lot of things in a guy, a mean maybe is stupid but nice, we like that, or smart and ugly, or a lot of different ways, but we always like something so you have to be fine in the way your are,trust in what so u think your good at....
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Well....not everyone learns their lesson.  I'd rather be with a handsome sweet honest guy.  Sometimes girls dont learn that "bad boys" are toxic and they just keep going after them cause they want to "help" them.  Though...It is far better to be with one who is nice and appreciates you.\n\nI also dont understand the opposite, nice guys with girls who are drama queens and treat them like dirt and tear their heart out and rip it to shreads so that they can hardly believe that there are good girls out there.
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For one YOUR A GOOD GUY. Ima girl and I dont always want a good guy.  I dont want him giving me everything I want. I want to feel like "I" have to work for it not them.  I promise thats exactly what they are lookng for. If they cant find it in you they end up finding it in someone who does do it. You know what that's telling you..?  They arent your soulmate. When you find a girl and you treat them how they want and yall r perfect for each other then she wont do you wrong.  But stop being so lovey lovey and stuff. Be aggressive!!
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Definitely a good personality.  Looks are always a plus but it's who the person is inside that makes them special and attractive to you.  Many girls can look hot, but only few can possess that certain personality a guy is searching for.  The beauty factor will naturally go up when it is followed by a glowing personality...something know as the halo effect.
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Being nice goes a long way for me. Of course we all want to have an obviously attractive mate. However, I've met really pretty girls with terrible attitudes that make them the ugliest of creatures. And I've also gone for some really nice girls that may not be the standard in beauty or physical form.\n\nAnother good quality is confidence. Not conceit, but knowing ones self to be good. Confidence is a secret weapon of both male and female. People will be attracted to such a person and may not even know why. \n\nIt also helps if you keep yourself well. Regardless of your physical shape, keep yourself clean and fresh. I've seen too many girls who think that they can just slop by. Every guy wants girl to 'look' like a girl.
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I agree great guys are hard to come by these days. But not all guys are bad either. That's an understatement. I think it's cool you like to treat a gal like a lady. and i agree completely with you on that. But i guess it's just in their nature and the way they were brought up. But there still is hope, i'm sure there are great guys like yourself out there. And if not at least we know there's one. \nCheers!!
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what i look for in a guy is basically someone i can have a good time with.  I go for personality first and he has to be able to make me laugh and smile. no one likes a serious stiff guy. but u have to be careful also that the guy isnt took much of a clown. Looks always come second to me because sure u can have a good time showing off your boyfriend if he's cute but u cant always have a good time with him.
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if you take away the physical appearance of the female, which is obviously very important to men, then there are three things to look for in a girl. The first thing is flexibility. there's an incredible attractiveness to a girl that can be flexible on a date and not a miss priss that has to have everything go perfect. The second is integrity. Being straight up and honest with a guy is pricleless. A woman with integrity is a woman that can be trusted when all the evidence points elsewhere. And trust is the most important thing in a relationship. The third thing for a woman to have is that she has to be giving. A woman who is all about herself is very annoying, and needs to be pushed to the curb. As far as what you should do to show guys you like us, that's easy.  Men and women are different is so many ways.  Unlike women we don't give a damn about all the mental mind game crap.  if you like a guy tell him you're interested.  If a guy doesn't like you then he won't ask you out.  if a guy does like you he'll be relieved that you came forward and initiated something.
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I respect girls who try new things and go outside their comfort zone.\n\nAny girl who goes after what she wants will be attractive, because she is likely to be happier, more confident, and more driven, in my mind at least.\n\nDo it and don't worry about what guys like.