its been 3 months since i split with my ex but we still cool but i stop calling him because he use to let me go quick. and because he use to act stupid. trying to make me feel bad but he gets mad when i don't call him he say'z dat i lied about being there for him no matter wat happens to us but is dat i don't wanna get hurt again and when i call him he alwayz act up i stll love him with all my heart but im just giving him what he want and it was space and when i do he sayz dat i lied about being there for him what should i do what do he really wants i ask him before if he want to work it out but he said no then what do he really want from me ? i need to know i still love him tho what should i do ? and what do u think that he wants from me?
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Be his friend, stay in contact with him.  If he wants space give him space but stay friends.  If he loves you, he'll change his mind, if he doesn't, you won't end up losing someone important.  Good luck
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im in a situation just like you ilove my guy to death but i feel isolated but ive been going out with him for 3 years. ive stayed with him by making him want me. i just did simple things like call him and tell him i just wanted to say hi and hear your voice so net i gotta go talk to you later and then i realize (on my ID) that he called me like 3 or 4 times he never leaves a full messge its either hey baby or hi and thats how he keeps me wanting him!\n       good luck!!!!
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I am also going through a break up right now. My BF of 4.5 years broke up with me 3 weeks ago. I was happy with him and he was happy with me, but he didn't know what he wanted out of life, blah, blah, blah. He still loves me and I still love him, so I have hope that we will get back together, but I'm not holding my breath.\n\nI too went through the depressed stage. I found that writing in a journal about how I felt helped alot. It let me get my feelings out without being overly emotional in front of other people. \n\nI am now in the angry stage, where I'm just so mad at him for doing this to me. \n\nI've heard that grief has many stages. My advice to you is to not make contact with him. If he calls don't answer and maybe wait a couple of hours to call him back. Make him think that you don't care.\n\nI wish you the best of luck.\n\n(((((HUGS)))))
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We always want what we can't have ....\n\nHe was eager and there for you and you said 'no.'  He wanted more and you said 'no.' He has suddenly stopped wanting you and guess what? You miss his attention and companionship.  So what happens next?\n\nA) Do you say that you are sorry and try and make up or ...\nB) Move on and leave the poor guy alone ...\n\nIts your choice, what do you really want? The silly arguments were more to do with his fustration at not being able to move the relationship forward.  Just good friends isn't going to work I'm afraid. You aren't serious just let him be or as I said 'say you are sorry and start being honest about how you feel - if you do! Only you know.
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Dear girl,\nI am suspecting that you are quite young if you're still not backing up since your Ex told you to. I would recommend, please give it a time. I know how you feel inside. I've been there, and it felt horrible at the time. But, trust me! After a while, maybe 3 weeks, maybe 3 months, but you'll feel much better. You will get over him! And you'll wonder why you were suffering as you are right now! The possible reason for your Ex acting this way is maybe that he have found his true love. And now he doesn't want to ruin it. Probably, his new girlfriend doesn't want you guys hanging out. So, please have some dignity and let him go. Don't be surprised though, if you get a call in few years from your Ex. So, I hope that you understand what I'm trying to say. Good luck!
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I've been in love actually i'm still in love with my ex.  I write her everyday and we talk every day but she tells me that she can not be with me becuase she needs time to heal from when i broke her heart.  So i'm giving her time.  All the time she needs.  I know that in the end it will work out because we both love each other.  It sounds like you have it just as bad as i do so i say you don't let go and you keep talking to each other and anychance you get to go see her, do it.  Eventually there will be a path created for you two to be together.
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We all make mistakes maybe you and him where not meant to be broke up but whats done is done the way you feel is nothing more then he felt he got over them feelings and you will too you have found new love and must go on. It dont hurt to still care for your ex theres memorys made that will stay with you 4/ever and him the same too. They never lied when they said love hurts huh be happy but you need to make sure she is good to your kids so you need to meet her and talk.*
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Just give it time. I had a situation like that happen to me. I dated a girl for 2 years and 3 days after we broke up, her best friend kinda threw herself at me. No one wants that right after a breakup. I would have dated her where she to give me some time, at least a few weeks before jumping into a relationship again. Just give him some space and be there for him, if there are feelings there it will happen. If his feelings are not the same you will have to settle for being friends. Hope this helps.
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OK, perhaps he sees it this way: He likes you still and on some level feels guilty about dumping you. Even if he believes that breaking up was the right thing to do. But he still would like to see you and perhaps hang out with you, but he doesn't want to how do I put this, insist upon seeing you since that could lead to an awkward moment with you telling him no or not saying no but implying it. So he left it up to you to decide if you want to hang out with him or not. This allows you to politely say no without the awkwardness of saying no. You just don't give him a shout out. You're "too busy" or it slipped your mind or something like that.\n\nOf course, he could also be doing it as a means to get back together, but he could also just miss hanging out with you. \n\nAnd yes, I have hung out with exes before. See how they were doing and all that. Sometimes you miss a part of your life, even if you have moved on.
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Why get back together with him?\nThe deal is you broke up with him. He's moving on. You should too.
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The only way he is going to know how you feel is if you tell him directly. If you do get back together, make sure that you work on the things that made you break up in the first place. I hope he feels the same way, but if he doesn't, I would move on. I hope everything works out well!
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Been there, done that. It's funny how our minds and emotions can ruin a good thing. One thing that I hightly recomend is getting your self esteem up. It's tough, but once you are sure and proud of who you are, you don't loose that. As for getting your ex back. It may or may not happen. Give him his space now, thats is what he wants. If for some reason he also has a change of heart, you 2 can work things out then. But for now, respect his decision. Take care babe, im rooting for ya :)
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Give him some time you have hurt him and his pride right now won't let him talk to you. He's hurt and mad and needs a little time to deal with it. That's what goes on sometimes in break ups so give him some space. You're both better off if things weren't right in the relationship and you weren't happy just takes some time to heal before you might be able to be friends. Best of luck.
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He didnt seem to treat you very well hun, you obviously had problems within the relationship, did you try telling him how you felt or did you just split up with him without discussing how he made you feel?\nIf you want him back then you need to talk to him but this time make sure that you tell him how you feel, take control a little.\nIf he only wants you back on the same terms as you had before then it's obvious that he is just using you hun.\nTry talking , but it does sound like he was using you a little.\nDont let him rule when you do things, be brave , ask for what you want when you want it, if he says no then cut your losses and find someone who truely appreciates you.\nGood luck, hope all works out ok for you.
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u need to be strong, and never go back to this guy, u are still in love with the ex, and it is hard when he calls. sometimes we can still love someone but they aren't good for us, sometimes it is hard to move on, but we got to, for our own well being, when we truly know that person will hurt us. just be strong, when he calls again, hang up, don't let him suck u in again into his world.
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Wow!\nBig problem on this one.\n-------------------------------------------\nWell,it seems like your ex boyfriend is truly sorry.Seems like he still cares about you.I think he is waiting for you to ask him back out,because he is afraid you are losing your love for him.\nThis decision is entirely up to you.You need to face facts.\nHe is in love with you.He is very sorry.He cares about you.\nYou two need each other.If you're going to let some dumb a** chick get in the way of you two,you're dumb.\nGet him back.\n(If that's what you feel you need to do.)\n\n\n-Nick
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You should give him the same exact respect you would want him to give you...but I have a feeling you have already gone beyond where that line is with you.\nSit down with him.  Tell him how much he has meant to you, but that you have changed and he doesn't mean that anymore.  Be honest, the worst thing you can do to yourself is lie.\nI would caution you on one thing though-the new relationship is always going to seem exciting-at first.  Then it becomes just another relationship.  Don't keep the current guy hanging on while you find that out.  Since you betrayed his feelings, it is better for him if you move out now and be honest with him.\nI am not judging you harsly, it just sounds that way.  I have been on  BOTH sides of this arguement so I know what you are feeling and I know what he is going to go through.  \nJust be a good person about it, as good as you can anyway.