writes him all the time. Now we have a nice established relationship of 9 months, he's 23 and I'm 22, in college and so forth. He says she's been his internet friend of 2 years, which is true. Okay. Well, she is always writing disgusting messages on his page like "so when will you come by Cali so I can screw your brains out" and the like. He says she is just joking because we "joke like that" and that he told her to tone it down. But she keeps doing the same shit.  I just wrote her a message telling her what I think. What to tell him?
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I think what you did was within your right.  You talked to your bf and he said that he talked to her about it and it didn't stop.  I don't want you to not trust your bf but there is a chance that he never said anything to her.  I had a similar situation where my ex-bf's ex-gf kept calling all the time for advice.  I realize they were just friends but she would call at all hours of the night becuase she had a fight with her current bf.  I talked to my ex about this and he said he would talk to her.  One night she called around 3:30 and I picked up the phone.  I told her that I wasn't happy about her calling this late and my bf had already talked to her about this.  She told me that he hadn't said anything to her at all.  So with that long story ;) that was my point there is a chance he didn't tell her that you had a problem with it all.
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He sounds like he's acting like a spoiled brat to me! He needs a good butt whipping! He needs to act his age, not his IQ!! So what if you got a call from an old pal? So what?!? Its not like you were talking dirty or something. Sounds really controlling and jealous, so you better put an end to his mess now before it gets too bad. Put your foot down and MAKE him listen to you!! GL;)_
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Dear Am I Being Unreasonable:\n  I know how you are feeling unfortanely I have been in that same situation but I was on the other side. I had a best friend whom I had forever when I started dating this guy.Well the boy friend didnt like that fact that we "hung out" so much. He "just knew" that we were doing something. Well it turns out he was right we were and actually ended up getting married after a long drawn out process. The point Im trying to make is if your boyfriend is keeping things from you and lying then you dont need him. You deserve better. It sound like he wants his cake and eat it too. A realtionship is built on trust (or suppose to be). I haop that I have helped. I have enclose my email and yahoo messenger if you want to hit back at me !!
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I reckon you already know deep down. personally i think he probably is telling the truth.  if his behaviour towards you never changed and he really is as nice and kind as you say he is i cant imagine why he'd do such a thing, especially with someone like the girl you're talking about. she sounds like a right old tramp! chill out and talk to him about it. good luck!
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Come on guy!!!!...  Sounds to me like your mad and you have no idea what your talking about and you want to get some support for people you don't even know on this site.\n\nWhat has she told you...? If this is really true and not just in your head, why are you still there?  And don't tell me it's because you love her.  Just because you love someone doesn't mean you have to put up with their crap and she just thinks of you as just a backup ****.  \n\nIf this is for real, leave.  Even if it isn't real, leave.  Your head is so screwed up you couldn't think straight abut her anyway.  Just leave.
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His  gf is more important now than spending time with his friends. If his gf ask him not to talk to you or other members of the family, it won't be for long. things are goning to change now since he is going into a relation with this gf. He knows what he is doing and sending him a letter will only makes him confuse,  just give him time to work thngs out with his gf. he will come back if they don't really mean for each other.
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She is very spoiled and very selfish. It sounds to me like she really isn't too much of a friend to start with. It sounds like she is miserable and in return making your life and everyone else's around her miserable. \n\nPerhaps you should just start staying away from her. It sounds to me  like she has no interest in you anyway especially if all she wants to do when you two are together is e mail people\n\nMaybe if people start leaving her a lone, she will start to realize that her behavior is not acceptable.
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Why are you letting this guy make you crazy?  Why is he the one making all of the decisions?  You're smart, if a girlfriend of yours just told you what you've told us, what would you say to her???  Maybe it's time to move on...
392371
There is definitely trouble brewing.  She obviously still has something for him, since she sought him out on MySpace and is actively chatting.  Never trust a partner who still talks to their ex!
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Girls tend to be more emotional, and tend to do this more then guys. Why did u date her then?! I don't get it. I agree, but I am somewhat more mature then most of them, and older. I'm not a teen. It's a teen thing. How is it hs bs? It's not bs, nor is it hs! He's 19 duh. Stop being so old! But it is kinda young, and I agree it's over. But some need closure. Aint no harm in calling at least prank calling and reading the blog. I do it. I don't comment on it, but I read it. We never dated, he's just a jackass. I don't agree w a break though, nope, u either stay or break-up. A break is a break-up. Seee, ur a real asshole!!!!!!! It's ur s/n! Moron. I don't agree w it's a game, could be tho. But it is what the other person said. Death blow makes NO sense.
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He won't give you an answer because to do so truthfully he would have to accept the truth about himself. He is very insecure in the relationship and has very low self esteem. And an anger management problem!His doing this before you marry him could actually be a blessing. Today your diary was torn up,what will you do when it is you that he rips to pieces? I beg you to walk..no RUN away from him ASAP!\n\n Older not wiser, you are very rude with your words. Do you know what was in the diary? Why do you assume it is about sex and why do you call her a pro? you sound as bad as her b/f! I call it  the SMS Syndrome....small man syndrome!
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First, you ahould ask him when he plans on telling her. Perhaps he is trying to spare her feelings. Ask him! Don't get rude, loud or demanding, that could turn him off. Allow him some time to make the announcement. If he is a gentleman, he'll introduce you together.  I have known quite a few guys that were friends with thier Xs, and that shows that they are capable of not being nasty, and remaining friends is a good thing.  He is not making you feel insecure, you are doing that yourself. Relax, don't nag, pressure him, or give ultimatums.  Suggest a night out with all of you together.  She may become a friends of your's too!  No need to be jealous of his past since he has chosen to be with you now.  Accept that, and be patient, be happy, and supportive.
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Well I'm sorry to say this but she shouldn't have trusted him this much. I know she was so crazy for him because he was her firest bf even though she had never met him in person. You are her real friend and I think it's true that she never had any bf before, but what about him? He could have just lied to her about whatever he said. Maybe she wasn't this guy's first gf. Maybe he was playing around with her online after all just for fun. Then she started to get serious, which probably made him upset, so he just changed his phone # and everything to get rid of her. \nI'm so sorry to say this but there's nothing you guys can do. He doesn't love her as she does. It's just gonna annoy him if you try hard to find his new phone # and contact him to tell how much she loves him and wants him back. \nSorry...but I believe she learned something from this experience.
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Well, her boyfriend is a loser if he's breaking up through a freaking note! That should give her a lot of comfort knowing he's lame.  Just letting her know you're there for her and if she needs to talk or just needs someone's shoulder to cry on you're there.  Sometimes people need someone to listen to them or just be in the same room without anyone talking.  Also, Ben & Jerry's icecream is the BEST cure ever.  Have a girs' night out when she's ready.  Let her know life isn't over and that her boyfriend is the one who is at loss! Who writes notes to end an important relationship?? Like I said, his loss.
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Damn, he should at least say hi.  What a dick.  As far as conversation goes you can keep it to a minimum, which is what I'm sure he wants.  I know it always pisses me off if some girl, regardless who she is, keeps giving me an IM when I'm trying to talk to someone else.  If you got something to talk about, then cool.  If things slow down then back off.\n\nHe should still say hi, unless you all just got off the phone or whatever.
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Me again, this time it sounds bad.  I think you better think twice about this internet pal you have.  He owes you an explanation.  It is not polite to agree to meet with a lady and then not show up at all.  I don't want to say this, but i think you should move-on.  forget this guy, 2x, no good explanation, that doesn't sound right at all.
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it's good you know that these thhings are now too much to take. DOn't tolerate each thng that he does. If you think you're being violated at this, yu shouldn't give much time for him. You'd rather have a breakup if he can't get better after explanations. After all, he is proving how immature he is with all that he does...