i' m 21 years of age ,having an affair with my friend since we both are in school . when we are just 15 .we both love each other and cares for each other, but some were we are  missing somthing .i want  that same feeling n freshness in my relationship which im having before . plz help me out
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Each relationship has a basis or reason in the first place. Sometimes it attraction, sometimes care, sometimes the chemistry between two.\n\nSit and analyse what kept you both going for the last 6 years. Find that onething out and both of you could use that as your anchor for your relationship.\n\nRevisiting the old days and remembering each good, sweet and happy things in the last 6 years also rekindles the fire and resolve to forward. Recreating the first date and first kiss or something like that will bring back the romance and give you both that Nitro boost... \n\nThink on your feet dude.. Be adventurous.. Walk that extra mile before you call this relationship off... Atleast that way you wont blame yourself later that you didnt try a lil harder...\n\n.:Fishie:.
29192
Wait til you get older and if you both STILL feel the same way then go for it! No illegal stuff missy!
585462
Yes, we all can be in love with many aspects of a person and not lust for them...it is an unsatisfying affair, at best. Your "friend" is looking for someone to take care of him, not a whole lot more. Relationships are built on less, I suppose. Not for me, not my diea of an affair...to each his own.
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tell him how you feel.  don't ask for any answers, and don't expect any, but do let him know, and that way the invitation for him to address his feelings for you will be open to him.  i have to question if you are sure you are in love with him?  being in love is like nothing else in the world.  it isn't just the feeling of euphoria at being in a new relationship, it's the understanding that you would literally lay your life on the line for that person, that they are your best friend, lover, confidant, and partner in life.  it's the only feeling that will ever grow no matter how long you are together.  be sure of this before you say anything to "K".  I wish you luck and happiness.
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I will never say that you dont love him. He might truly mean the world to you. But you have to look out for your best interest. You are 13 years old and have a lot of great experiences and 'firsts' ahead of you--homecomings, proms, driving, more dates, making captain of a school team-- i wouldn't limit yourself to one guy who is past all these life changing events. I also dont think that it is healthy that he is in jail already. He might bring you down with him one day.  My only suggestion is to be his friend.  That way you can still care about him as much as you want, but you also have the ability to go out and do what you want. There are going to be so many guys in your life throughout high school.  I am sure that you are ready to handle an adult relationship, but I would have as much fun until you absolutely have too. I was tied up with one long relationship after another. And now I am 23 looking back and wishing that I had given myself the chance to go off and have fun.  So, be his friend, and if later on in life, you are still in love with him, then make the commitment to each other.
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You feel that you love this older woman the question is, is it love or purely obession to something about her. I feel that it could be love. Most younger men are attracted to older women.\n\nIm 32 and I know that when I divorced several years ago I had alot of male friends alot of younger ones. Seemed like the younger ones would find me no matter what. I did date a guy who was 18 at the time and I was 25 it was a beautiful realationship but I knew that he needed to finish college and have a chance at life. He didnt need my life not that my life was bad!! I just was 25 and was divorced with 3 children! But my ex cheated on me all the time and I finally found out and wasnt going to tolerate it!! Anyhow this guy needed to expierence life without me. Shortly after we split up about six months I met another man who I have been married to now for five years!!\n\nAll Im saying is Im sure that she hears what you are saying but is probably not wanting to pursue anything serious cause she wants to give you space and time to live your life. If I can be of any futher help just email. Good Luck and keep us posted.
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If you get along and are compassionate toward one another in times of trouble, if you help each other in times of need, if your eyes and minds do not stray to others, and if you are at least 17 then you may end up together. Only you and he know how you really feel toward each other, but if you are under the age of 17 then I doubt it will last know matter what, but you never know. Wait and see.♀
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i understand what you are saying perfectly. after you have been hurt enough times, you don't want to go down that road again....when you are 18 and the first time in love, they really don't get it....at least not yet..........but, remember, if we do not love to keep pain out,,,then we also do not let love in.....it's a risk, but it's worth taking.. good luck
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You can't help the way you feel, it is being human.  I had a similar situation when I was 17.  I had been best friends with him for 2 years and gradually we got closer and closer.  For me it didn't work out but I am glad I gave it a go otherwise I would all ways wonder what if.  I think life is far too short to have regrets.
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Sounds like you need to explore and learn more about yourself to satisfy your curiosity.  I believe two females can please each other quite well...just as well as a man.  If you like her more than being with a man, then fine.  Who's to say what your preferences are supposed to be?  Like the rest of us, you are just human.  It's for you to decide.  You don't need to label yourself as gay or anything.  You are just you.  Cheating is a matter of personal beliefs, but some might see it that way.  My feeling is that if you are truly wanting to try, then find an equally curious friend and just enjoy each others company and see where it goes.  You can just take one day at a time.  Relax & enjoy!\n\nBecause you are unsure of your feelings about all this right now.  I'd just keep it to yourself until you have a better sense of how your really feel.  Even after your additional details, I don't recommend bringing him into the mix right now.  Like you mentioned, too many things can go wrong.  No need to stir the pot right now.  Better to keep this a private matter for now.  If things progress, there will be plenty of time to tell him your thoughts and feelings if need be.
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I am going to disagree with most of your posters.  Is it wrong for you to like affairs....absolutely not.  You can't control the emotion, excitement, or feeling of the secretively in the whole idea of an affair.  Yet, while you asked if it was okay to like them the answer it is NO?  It is important to know that it is wrong to act on them morally.  Just like I may love robbing banks and the excitement of it but it doesn't mean that I should run out and do it.  Maybe you should find ways to suppress the excitement in sleeping around.  While bank robbery is illegal it can seldom be seen as illegal to have an affair too.  I wish you the best in your struggle with this.
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I usually give friends 3-6 months to start "coming back" once they begin a relationship. After 6 months, I think it's okay to start bugging them, but you will find that usually, they start wanting to explore the outside world again at this point. \nIt's hard not to feel left out when friends hook up with each other, but I guarantee you, they will eventually get enough time together and start being more independent. All that stuff they love about each other will simultaneously become the stuff that becomes annoying about each other, and they'll remember that they were once separate individuals with different tastes, personalities, etc. \nThis is when they get to discover you all over again! \nUntil then, if you can, try to schedule time with each friend separately, and say something like "I really like (other friend) and I like hanging out with both of you, but is it okay if I have you to myself today? I miss our time together." \nIf they are glued together at the hip, try to schedule quality time one-on-one at least every 2 weeks with each friend. Make concrete, scheduled plans and be clear about it being just the two of you. \nYou might have to settle for 1/2 hour lunches, or quick hang-out sessions, and for awhile, it might seem hard to connect, but love is a crazy thing, it does wacky things to people's brains, so try to be patient. They will have to have the same patience when you fall in love and have no time for them!
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You know, it's all about maturity, when you are young you want to see the world and that means having as many sexual conquest as you can, having different girlfriends with different nationalities, having threesomes, foursomes, having sex with no string attached, getting drunk until the dawn, having to have no responsibilities, nobody to call and travling the world.  But, as soon as you hit you mid 20's to 30's, things gets little complicated, you start to realize that you would still like to screw but you would really like to settle down with someone special and spend the rest of your life together.  So, give him some time and believe me if you guys have good chemistry, he will come back to you.
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ok when you are 13-21 youremotional about relations, you want to exp. love and I know that youve been thru or seen boys act like jerks, b/c love hurts and this is when all they care about is their tool when the girls want a lovin b/f. then they start to loose there sex drive late20's early 30's about the time  you girls like sex or love a lot more at the oppisite time (who says god dosent have sense of humor).well so we NEED emotionallly While you need to get your groove on. But guy's will never admit this(I'm a guy) Ha.ha. but really around the time your desire goes up around35-40 all we want is a wife and kids or nokids but to be loved. men are great at looking like teflon b/c we are young and virile then when we start to see grey, baldness and the worst erectile dys. we get MIDLIFE CRISIS and buy what kids would buy to make us younger (thats shallow) If your woman loves you she loves YOU! aBMW never fixes things ,but we feel it does. Hair can be died pills can make their tool work so your right they look virile and new but believe me many men over 50 cannot get it up and you gals from35-50 are sexcrazed. Your right \nthat men can have children for life. and yes I think many religions accomadate this behavior. but believe you me. most men Its hard to see our soft little underbellies. and we get hair transplant we do what ever work out to keep this picture in our head of us in the mirror @16-21 the good years. It helps now that men dont work in the sun anymore well as much. Im not lady but dont shun my answer Im the rare one that'll tell you about us.you have a still virile man or you exp. show you men are virile ya my grandpa was a sneek. some never die sexually even at 70 but menopause if medicated thereafter you can still enjoy sex when I say meds I mean to keep up estrogen intake as well as a little test. But by the way have you been watching big love. J/k
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I know what you mean. when i was your age I was infuriated by people always saying that I couldn't fall in love young. now that I'm older I understand that I wasn't mature enough to really love someone. love is a give and take relationship. when you're young no matter how you think you're treating the other person, you're mostly taking. most people at your age are very selfish. however, this is not a true fact in ALL cases. a few centuries ago, people were getting married at your age. so, obviously, there is a very possible chance of someone really loving someone else at your age. I'm guessing your in a relationship that you consider to be getting serious. I would just advize that you really try to do what's best for the other person in everything you do. don't concentrate on what YOU want only. in this way you will be lightyears ahead of people that are even 10 years older than you. I hope that the girl you're with realizes that she can't be selfish either if this relationship will last...I hope you understand what I mean..
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Your hormones are raging. Think about it this way. When your older and no longer care about sex that much anymore, are you going to be with someone who loves you and that you love. You want someone who will be your friend when that time comes. For love, you have to make sacrifices. You can't have everything or you might end up with nothing.
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I know where you are coming from. When I was 8years old I met this guy that is now a family friend. He use to live with my dad and step mom. When I was 15years old, he was 29. I have feelings for him too. But I lost my virginity to him and yes I do regret it. But I am still in your boat because I met this guy and he is 28 but I am 17 and he has 4 kids n his girlfriend broke up with him. I love him to death no questions asked. But not to long ago I found out he use to work with my mom and step dad. And my step dad was his boss. So its kind of weird talking to him now. But all I have to say since I was in your shoes before. Tell him how you feel and go from there. I still havent done that with this guy get because of him knowning my family. Just kind of freaky. But tell him your true feelings. And if he feels the same then go from there. But dont tell anybody about it because he can get arrested. But if you want more help just email me at  Always_Follow_Your_Heart_128@yahoo.com\n\nHope I helped a little bit. \nGood luck!