Ever since I was in my teens, I've been overly concerned with the way I look.  Now, at the age of 24, I've had plastic surgery on my nose, cheeks, and chin to get my face more into harmony, but I still look like me (just slightly better looking).  I always seem to attract average looking girls, and I'm really just not attracted to average looks.  People will say this is shallow, but I can't help it.  Problem is, I never seem to get the hot girls.  I'm smart, funny, well-educated, in-shape, athletic, why can't I get the cute girls?  I can't help but think I'm getting rejected based on looks.
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picture this scenario, you fall in love with a hot looking girl, then over the years she starts to get some wrinkles or god forbid an accident that scars her face. would you fall out of love with her because she doesnt look as hot as when you first met her??. love is more then looks, you will never find true love with such a shallow attitude.
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Plastic surgery is dangerous, despite the fact it is becomming like a national craze. I recommend not doing it. At the end of the day, the poet Keats said: "Truth is Beauty, Beauty is Truth". \n\nNow, look around, you see lots of people have partners (bf-gf/husband-wife) and they all look different. Personality is really the most magical thing there is. I have dated a lot of bimbo's and to be honest, they are really boring.\n\nWhy compare yourself to these girls anyways. They probably have their own issues to work out, and if some have went for the option of plastic surgery, then perhaps they have the problem.\n\nRelationship-wise, looks fade over time, then what are these people going to be left with? There is NOT, as you say, tons of beautiful women with great personalities, i've dated lots of girls, and this is just not the case.\n\nWhat is attractive to me, and most men i know, is a woman who is confident in herself. If you deal with the INTERNAL issues you have, this will so come out EXTERNALLY. Energy, Happy eyes, etc. \n\nGuy's really have low standards when it comes to looks, if it moves, they want a go at it. Any girl could go out, whatever she looked like, and get a boyfriend if she wanted to. All you have to do is grab LIFE by the balls and walk up to someone you like and show them the beauty of your personality.  Low confidence and needy attitudes are a turn off. \n\nNow, onto the main bit of your question, the actual HOW to learn to be happy with your body. Well, first off, exercise is a great thing, every person has the ability to get themselves into shape. Once in shape, wear clothing that flatters your body (it doesnt have to be party-girl hooker clothes either!). \n\nMake up and hair styles can have a HUGE impact upon someone. Take a look through great MAKE-OVER websites that should give you simple easy tips that have a great effect. Even watch make over shows, catch some tips from them.\n\nEvery human being has a beautiful spirit, some just don't show it. Have fun, laugh and smile, there is nothing more attractive than some laughing and joking around. If you need dental work, get some (it's cheaper than plastic surgery). \n\nMost of all, DO WHAT YOU WANNA DO, go out, have fun, get involved in things that will have you comming into contact with tons of people. The more people you meet, the more chance you will catch some guy's eye (if this is even what you want?). \n\nDo not obsess over yourself, magazines have got people aspiring to a bunch of crap. Listen to Christina Aguliera's song "I am Beautiful" over and over if you want (however i do not recommend it because she is an alien). \n\nIf all else fails, download some audio serie's by the following people: Tony Robbins (success in life), Deepak Chopra (happiness in life), Wayne Dyer (love in life) and also, if you want an insight into how men work, download David Deangelo (this is a series about guys hitting on girls).
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Brown hair, brown eyes hard to go wrong with that. AND you're athletic? Tack on a few more points for that as well.\n\nHowever, as poeticjustice so rightfully states, it's about the personality, not the looks. Men can become attractive or unattractive by the way they act, I know plenty of 'hot guys' who have ugly personalities, and are therefore, ugly, and quite a few 'normal guys' who, because of their personalities, become absolute dreamboats in my eyes.\n\nYou like her and you don't know why? GO FOR IT! Who knows, she could be the one! Worst thing that could happen is that she doesn't like you back, but if you think you're in love why not go with it.\n\nJust ask her to do something fun sometime, and you'll know- you'll just know. I'm sure you're a cutie, don't worry about your looks! Beauty is in the eye of the beholder m'dear
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Hi David, I don't think your weight is the problem. You sound like a really decent guy but I do think you have a self-confidence issue and by telling yourself that your weight 'problem' is stopping you getting girls, it could be that you attitude on yourself if stopping you getting them.  No one wants to go out with someone who they feel NEEDS to be constantly told they look ok (but I can tell you now-you look fine to me!)and overall, most girls I know (the ones who have the most successful relationships...) dont have hot sexy guys, they have average Joes who treat them like princesses!  If a girl didnt want to go out with you because of your weight then shes not worth it-the shallow cow!  What would make her think shes so perfect to be worthy of YOU?! :-) Another good hint is dont always go for the girls who look the best either, go for the ones you get on with, make you laugh, make you FEEL sexy!!!  I really hope you find her, you sound like a genuinely nice guy.
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it's not all about the looks, it's about personality and heart, the person inside, even fat girls are pretty and attractive, make sure you always look the best you can and add a little lip gloss and smile and be happy.  heh you born ugly you stay ugly, but if you fat, well you can loose it. i use to be model, now i am fat, 30kg overweight, and believe me when i say i have seen some hunky guys with some girls that are fat, and some even not so pretty, so just because you fat, has nothing to do with finding a man. it maybe not your time yet that all
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From this moment on, you tell yourself that you are an attractive, interesting guy than any girl would be priviledged to have. You are the man! Convince yourself you can have any girl you want. Look in the mirror and find the things that make you look good. If you need to excercise a bit to help things along. You are the Man!  Once you achieve this basic confidence in yourself, put the past behind you, concentrate on the future, which you are in charge of. You have what it takes to handle any girl, any situation. Go up to a girl, ask her out, treat her right.  You are the Man!
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Maybe what you find as unattractive in a girl is actually attractive to most guys.  Plus you have to realize that you have to be beautiful on the inside not just on the outside for a relationship to last.
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Beauty comes from within. Looks are merely skin deep. From your question I'd imagine you are already a beautiful woman. If nature figured you needed to be skinny, then you will be skinny. That's genetics. Work with what you have and be happy with that.
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For women it isn't all about the looks.  A little extra weigh makes you a teddy bear to some girls.  Just keep your chin up and look for someone who matches your personality.  Be romantic and sweet and you will find a nice girl.  Good Luck!!
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If he's interested in "better-looking girls" then he's probably better looking himself.  Why don't you go after a not-so-good-lookin guy and you won't have that problem.  There's many out there, trust me :)
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Oh, don't worry.  You're just what old people call a "late bloomer".  You just develop slower than others.  If girls' think you're cute, that's fine.  If it's sex you're worries about, you're probably not ready, so give yourself more time to enter puberty.\nAnd I know it's hard not to be self conscious, but you need to find something to motivate yourself and be happy with who you are, puberty or not.  You're a great person, no matter what your body looks like.\n;)
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NO, it doesn't affect your attractiveness!!  No one's face is perfectly symmetrical, no matter who you are or how many surgeries you get to try to make it symmetrical, it would never be that way.  Be happy with what you have, focus more on yourself, keeping yourself healthy and happy without worrying about how "perfectly symmetrical" your facial features are!  Life is too short to worry about things like that!!!  Good Luck!!!
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umm people tell me im good looking...?\nand im 14.....\nim not sure what you want to get out of this besides a gf, how will this help?\njust wondering :)
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Maybe they do like you and you're too caught up in self-consciousness to realize it. Or maybe they're just too stupid to know that redheads rule. Everybody here is gonna tell you that looks don't matter. They're lying. None of them would ever date someone they didn't find physically attractive. People will hate me for saying that, but it's true. I don't know what you mean by "an average body," but it doesn't really matter. You know if you look nice or not. Regardless, assuming you're in high school and assuming nobody there really is attracted to you (which I doubt), eventually you'll graduate. Go to college. You'll find the scene is completely different there. One more thing. I hope you're not being narrow-minded about the guys you're interested in. There's probably some reserved, nice guy out there, maybe not Mr. Universe, but not bad-looking either who would love to take you out but is scared to death to say anything. Give him a shot. Oh yeah...try taking the initiative and asking a few guys out yourself.
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If you are very young then there is a chance the rest of your face will "catch up" with your nose by the time you are 18.  If not, you can always have plastic surgery to have it more porportional to the rest of your face.  With that said, it's really what's inside your head and your heart that counts...not the size of your nose.  If you are hanging out with people who care more about your looks then I suggest you find new friends.  :)
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Never put beauty above everything else...\n\nEveryone wants to look nice, beautiful, sexy, muscular (for men)!!\n\nI have beautiful, drop-dead gorgeous friends who are just so tired of shaking off men's advances. At least these girls arent shallow.\n\nthe shallow beauties are just beautiful shells, empty/filthy inside...you'll never enjoy a meaningful life with girls like these.\n\nI'll go for brains, if beauty comes in a package ...well that's a bonus.
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Does that have anything to do with calling yourself airplanegirl? Honestly, your nose looks just fine! I'm being honest. Maybe you look at it too much trying to think of a solution for it. That can make it seem out of proportion. I think you are a very pretty lady. (I peaked at your 360 account, by the way.) Stop worrying-there is nothing out of the ordinary about you, Ok?