my wifes girlfriend wants to get with me. I warned my wife bout her friends behavior to no avail. What can I do ????
137573
Firstly: tell your wife if you are certain now. You don't want to try to figure this out alone. I wonder why if you told your wife about her friend's behavior your wife didn't respond well... Odd. Secondly: Are you SURE that she wants to get with you? Maybe you're misinterpreting her. But if you're definitely sure, then, after telling your wife, just avoid the other woman. \n\nAll of the above is assuming you don't want to cheat on your wife. If you do, then....I guess you don't have any problems then, do you?
671693
If he really wants to leave his wife, he will do so.  If he says that he cannot leave his wife because he can't save money, that is horse manure.\n\nI think your friend has a rude awakening coming.  You can warn her, but you can't really stop anything.  Just be there to help her pick up the pieces if this crashes and burns, as I think it may.
58507
Been there...don’t let the situation fester. You should go alone and work on your issues first(we all have them). You can not make her, or anyone, do something they don’t want to do. She will see that you are serious, making an effort and a commitment. You will learn how to ask her in a way that she would be willing to start going. Be a leader and take the 1st step. Besides it may take a few attempts to find a counselor that you like and trust. It may be helpful to find a female as your wife may feel less threatened. It worked for me and my wife. Good luck.
177019
WTF are you thinking? She is married! Tell her to goto a marriage theropist. Talk to her husband. Seek Professional help. \n\nIt will only happen to you in the future. You need to be her friend and not her lover.\n\nThere are plenty of fish in the sea.
267879
HI ,\n I THINK U ARE RISKING THREE LIVES AT A TIME...\nACCORDING TO ME DO NOT INTERFERE IN UR FRIEND'S MARRIED LIFE\n  GO GET A NEW PARTNER... NOTHING IS PERMANENT IN THIS WORLD\nHAVE FUN
500396
Hopefully your husband wants your help and isn't putting out signals to attract this type of attention.  That's another whole problem altogether.\n\nBut what I would do if this is just some ordinary floozy putting the moves on your guy--and I've seen this done very well--is to go up to them and join the conversation with the attitude conveying complete confidence that you are welcome in the conversation.  HE will welcome you, right, even if she won't?  Maybe put your arm around your husband.  If he becomes standoffish, again, that's a problem; he needs to welcome you into the conversation.\n\nThen be sweet as pie to her.  Ask her about herself.  Take an interest.  Never betray that you are anything but completely assured of your wonderful relationship with your husband.  Ideally, bore her with prattle until she leaves on her own (getting her to excuse herself from you two is the best way, it's a much stronger position than walking away).  It doesn't matter if she's interested in you, believe me, in fact, use the fact that she isn't!  Then stay nearby your husband in case she comes back.  If you can't bore her to death, you and hubby will have to excuse yourself from her company and move on.  \n\nIf she gets too pushy or nasty to you personally, say something very pointed in a very nice tone (like "peddle your wares to someone who's interested, honey").  But never, NEVER get bitchy.  It's beneath you.
409284
The fact that she is continuing to see this other guy makes it clear to me that she is not interested in working on the marriage.  If she was truly sorry, she would have immediately ceased all contact with her lover.  Sorry to say, but I think you should move on.  I know it seems that people today take their vows too lightly and divorce is easy, but in your case, I don't think this woman is worth waiting or fighting for.  Whether or not you are to blame for her falling out of love with you, she betrayed your trust and continues to do so.  Find a woman who is worthy of your love and devotion and let your wife screw up someone elses life.
437309
maybe you should sit down and talk with her and ask her how she feels if you assume to much it could come off as an insult if you dont assume enough you will always wonder for the simple fact that you are married could be the reason that she is not coming straight out with you COMMUNICATION!!!
294364
it sounds like you're a great guy-faithful to your girlfriend-as well as a good friend [you've tried to explain your situation to the girl but she just doesn't listen]. you have to make a choice: do you want to keep your girlfriend? if you want to, have NOTHING to do with this friend. don't go over, don't stay alone with her, don't take her calls, delete her messages. it's not that your friend doesn't GET it..it's that she doesn't CARE or RESPECT your life and your wishes. get away from her and dump her..otherwise she's going to cause YOU to get dumped.
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Wow hombre,\n\nThat's just tricky enough to warrent bringing out the big guns and asking the team of experts at Yahoo! Answers.\n\nYou are, however, still screwed.\n\nTake lots of mental snapshots of what it was like to have both of these people as friends because those days are coming to a close soon.\n\nTrust is foundational in healthy relationships.  You've allowed a couple of relationships grow for 10 sitting smack dab on top of a fault line of lies.\n\nNow your buddy's wife can't either trust you or face you without thinking of the 10 years of betrayal you enabled to continue.  You can't trust your buddy nor face him without thinking of the harm he's caused his wife and you by his actions.\n\n10 years of lies and manipulation that get bottled up in relationships don't just drain out like a bathtub my friend.  No matter how the truth comes out it's going to be like a needle to a balloon.\n\nBest get it over with sooner than later so there's more time to heal and move on.
513886
I would keep doing it.  You obviously have no respect for your wife, so why let her get in the way of your sleezy relationship?
23992
It sounds like she has no respect for you and has no consideration for your feelings.  Why would you want to be with a woman like this? Would she be so understanding if you were spending your free time with another woman?  You need to take charge of the situation and put your foot down let her know that this is unacceptable behavior and if she refuses to put a stop to it you know that she is not the one for you.  Ultimately the decision is yours do you want to live this way and if she is not looking out for your childrens best interest than maybe you need to.
20065
There's gotta be more to this story.  Anyway, he has to be the one to quell this situation.  He needs to be up front with his wife.  Any kind of sneakery and she'll have the right to blow a gasket.  He needs to let her feel like she's the one putting boundaries on your and his relationship, whatever that may be.  (Women are funny that way)
522410
Wow, I give you a lot of credit! I would have lost my patience a long time ago. I think before you look elsewhere for physical contact, suggest going to counseling with your wife. She obviously has some issues she needs to overcome and you should try to stick by her while she works them out. If she refuses to go to counseling, I would be very tempted to get out of the relationship rather than cheat which is only going to complicate things further. Good luck!
213119
I will warn you now from being ther 'other woman'... you are setting yourself (and the prospecitve other woman) and your wife up for a LOT of heartache. I fell in love with a man that I can't have and it has destroyed my life (message me offline if you want to hear it). He calls his wife an ice cube and they have barely had any kind of intimate relationship in four years. I gave him love, affection and my soul only to have it destroyed. Could you honestly hurt anyone like this if it happened?? You have to think of all of the people that will become involved and it will more than likely turn into a big mess.\n\nThink seriously before you proceed.
233265
The choice is all yours. If you feel you can trust your wife than go for it if not than tell her she done screwed up. She's returning for a reason maybe she knows your involved with another woman and that made her jealous or maybe her parter that she left you for left her and she feels alone. Let her know you will remain her friend but thats about it. Either way just remember she cheated once she may do it again. Good Luck.
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no she is just angry she is probably saying if you hadn't thrown her the part it would never have happened but she should choose her friends wisely , it is pretty obvious that the husband was into it or else he would have been with his wife and not them,just to show that he is a cheating bastard. judge how long he has been doing it