He told me he loves me and wants me to be his girl, he is the perfect guy like he's sweet, cute,kind, nice, everything any girl would want but i just don't see him in as my boyfriend how do i tell him,and not hurt him at the same time?
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Jen,\n\nThere is no easy way of doing this. You have to be straight and honest with him and you may even need to be painfully blunt. Teenage boys are notorious for hearing what they want to hear so you saying friend may sound to him like not now but maybe later.\n\nIn the long term the quick band aid approach always works best.
605548
I'm a guy. It's hard because you don't want to mess up something that could be a potential go. Why don't you put yourself in our shoes.... We aren't sure if you like us in return (perhaps you already have a boyfriend), we're nervous because we probably think that you're out of our league and so on...... It would be easier if you let us know how you feel first. then we would be alot more comfortable telling you how we feel.
415205
Tell him the absolute truth about how you feel...either he'll fall for you or he won't...you can't force him...
115101
Slip..., I sure love your avatar!! lol...\n\n Just tell him, you want him too! But you want to take it kind of slow this time. So things don't end up like before!\n\nPlus, it'll serve him right for dumping you the first time!\n\nGood Luck and Best Wishes, Girl.
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HE MAY BE TELLING YOU WITH WORDS THAT HE LOVES YOU BUT THE TRUTH BEHIND IT IS HIS ACTIONS.  WHEN YOU LOVE SOMEONE YOU WANT TO SPEND MOST OF YOUR TIME WITH THAT PERSON AND YOU DO SPECIAL THINGS FOR THAT PERSON. LOTS OF GUYS ARE VERY FREE WITH TELLING A GIRL THAT THEY LOVE THEM AND NOT REALLY MEANING IT JUST TO TRY AND GET WHAT THEY WANT.  GOOD LUCK
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1st, you hafta be open with him.  if you want to move a little faster, mention it to him.  hes not a mind reader.  2nd, he might actually respect you, like most guys dont, and doesnt wanna ruin a good thing.  be patient and help him along.  3rd, he might be shy of public affection.\n\nthe only way to figure out anything is to talk to him.  relationships fizzle without communication.  \n\n7
168609
tell him how you feel. his relationship with the other girl must not be strong enough because he wouldn't be telling you he loved you if he really loved her. you guys have a history, and there's a good chance that he will come back to you.
446295
ask him, guys aren't like girls...they don't care if you ask them point blank, they don't need us to know what they want, and don't care if it's a complete surprise, and usually aren't shy about it, as long as it comes to the same result they're happy :)
486144
He is a guy, and if he can get  physical with you without a commitment, he will. Most guys don't need to love a girl or even like her to get physical.  He is using you and you are letting him.
76678
Ultimately a guy just wants to be loved.  Each guy is different and expects different things from different girls.  Remember, he wants you to be his girl friend so that means he like who you are.  Just be you and if you are concerned about something talk to your boy and find out what he is thinking.
509012
you know if you will tell him in a delighted way he will listen to you since you dont want to broke her heart tell him that you see(lie)i already have a boy friend etc or tell him that i am sorry that i cannot come with you since i am not free ,work or parents or big brother wont allow by this way you will not break his heart   best of luck....
97310
Haha, why do you want to tell him?\nDon't worry about guys right now.\n\nBut if you wanna tell him, just say you like him and find out what he says.  Nothing's better than being honest.
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Just continue being your sweet and wonderful self and there's a guy who's bound to like you for you and wishes to spend all the time in the world with you. Don't give and you'll see everything will be alright :)
81699
It sounds like he's committed to you so what's the hold up.  What do you want out of the relationship?  If you really love him tell him.  If you don't let him go. The relationship won't go anywhere if you hold it back.  Tell him how you feel or eventually you will lose him.
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YOU WASTE ALL YOUR TIME OBSSESSING ABOUT HIM BE-CUZ YOU REALLY LIKE HIM AND CAN'T LET HIM GO. I GUESS HE LEFT YOU WITH SOMETHING THAT NO OTHER GUY HAS LEFT YOU WITH AND THAT WHAT MAKES HIM SO SPECIAL TO YOU. JUST TELL HIM AND IF HE PUTS YOU DOWN THEN JUST LEAVE HIM. HE'LL COME BACK AROUND AND REALIZE YOU WERE BRAVE ENOUGH TO TELL HIM. THAT'S JUST MY GUESS THOUGH.
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He would pro ably be flattered, and in fact he pro ably feels the same way about you, you just probably seem a little distanced from him because it sounds like you aren't making the effort to be with him alone, as a guy let me tell you we can be really stupid and blind...Let him know but not straight up tell him he looks cute blah blah make it seem like your interested than call his ass!
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Just be honest with him.  \nTell him that even though you think he's sweet and nice, you'd rather not be with him right now.\nYou don't even have to explain yourself if you don't want to.  But please don't lie.  That's not fair.\nIt's better to break it off now before he gets too attached.  Do NOT stay with someone because you feel sorry for them or pity them...it's not healthy.