I am really shy. I cannot talk to girls easily. Few years ago one girl offered me but my face get red and i was willing to do everything but cannot touch her. How can i get rid of my shyness towards girls. Also, Now i cannot remain without a girl... Take it seriously, I am in great problem... Tell me any suitable way
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You can indeed remain wihout sex, it never killed anyone, not in the short term anyway. Maybe you need to seriously consider finding a wife rather than looking for a less committed type of coupling. I'm sure a lot of your issues have to do with culture, so you should respect that culture and stay within the bounds of its mores. You will encounter a lot less anxiety if you do.
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Ok. (taking a deep breath) Let me try to help. This is a bit challenging.\n\nThe first thing I recommend is your sitting down and figuring out just what is causing you so much inner discomfort. Are you afraid to open up? Are you too "hungry" for a woman? Write down your thoughts, your dreams and your fantasies about being with others. Seeing who you are - on paper - helps your mind to sort things out.\n\nNext - take a look at your "shyness." Being shy only means that you are uncomfortable being open with/around others. WHY? Do you fear rejection? Well, based on what you wrote, women seem attracted to you so, allow them to get to KNOW you. \n\nHint: (Some women like being around less aggressive guys - smile)\n\nWHO do you admire? WHO is your hero (or fantasy girl)? THAT may also be why you feel you are missing the mark. Don't gauge yourself based on THEIR characteristics; we ALL have perfect counterparts. The trick is in finding people with similar interests and goals and the only way THAT will happen is by being YOURSELF. \n\nDon't measure yourself against who you feel is the "perfect man" or the "right girl." Just relax, laugh, and enjoy your contacts.\n\nFinally, put YOURSELF in control. Hey - YOU are the master of your own life and destiny; so MAKE THINGS HAPPEN for YOU!\n\nSelect; never settle - regardless of that being a friend or a lover... Just know that there are people out there looking for YOU (the real you) just as YOU have needs for their company.\n\nBe real. Be YOU. The rest will flow through.\n\nThanks for writing, my friend & Good Luck to you!
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stop being shy dude\ni was and i neva got a girl\nbut if i were u give it a shot
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Ask yourself is the possibility of getting this girl worth the effort of overcoming your insecurities and shyness? Is holding her, seeing her smile, laugh, waking up to see her face in the morning worth putting for effort to change?  You're the only one that can actually do that, though here is a little advice that may help you in talking to her:\n\nTo keep the other person interested in a conversation don't talk about yourself too much. Ask questions to get to know the person better, talk about any interests you have, classes, guys/girls, parents, etc. Become genuinely interested in the other person.\n\nThere are lots of ways to start a conversation; keeping yourself informed on current events, staying involved in activities, and keeping a mental list of good topics of discussion are excellent ways to break the ice. Ask simple, friendly questions about the person. \n\nAlso remember that body language is very important! Most people don’t even realize it but most times you’ll already have made a lot of decisions about the person by their body language and tone, before you’re more than a minute into a conversation. You want to be cool, calm, and collected; act like the person is an old friend, even if you’ve never talked to them before, and make sure to look them in the eye. Instead of focusing on how uncomfortable you feel, prepare yourself by thinking of the issues that interest you most and what you would like to discuss about a particular subject. A little preparation can go a long way.\n\nPay Attention to what the other person says! This one is Extremely useful as you can bring it up at a later time and the other person will be surprised and pleased that you remembered.\n\nContinue to speak to everyone you know regularly. If you are walking and see someone you haven’t talked to in a while, stop for a moment and talk to them. It does not have to be a long conversation, just say hello, see how they are doing and if anything is wrong. You would be surprised by how little effort is required to win the friendship of others when you require nothing of them.\n\nBe nice and generally try to end the conversation on a good note. You don't have to make sure the other person has a great time Every Single conversation, but you don't want to think of all the petty arguements they've had with you.\n\nArguements... Don't. There are Very Few 'good' arguements. "The only way to get the berst of an arguement is to avoid it."\nIf you're wrong, admit it.\n\nDO NOT critize the person, or a friend, when talking to the person. If you want to point out something they did wrong, try to point out something similar you did wrong.\n\nSmile! Not a forced smile, the person you're talking to will be able to tell the difference. And you don't have to be an overly happy hyper-active person. Just smile naturally and, if you can, be somewhat happy. Remembering good times with your friends/family can help.\n\nLet the other person do a lot of the talking and be a good listener. (Somewhat stated in my first advice, ask questions, talk about interests the other person has. Answer questions sincerly.)\n\nHonestly make the person you're talking to feel important. You don't want to fake this one or do it too often, but if you honestly think they did something well, give them that praise.\n\nAs for the no being able to relate to others because you don't drink of dance... You're not the only one, a lot of people don't enjoy the bar and club scenes, you'll find others that feel the same way. If the people you want to hang out with do goto these places you can go with them everyonce in a while. You really don't need experience to be with friends at most of them.\n\nIf you want more advice, there are a couple good books that Will actually help. How to Win Friends and Influence People, is probably one of the best ones. It's an old book, but trust me, it's just as useful tod
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well, you can't really remove "shy" from a girl. SHyness is something people need to learn to overcome on their own. \nI can give you suggestions that may help her break loose from her shell. \nI used to be very shy and I overcame it. I hung out with people that were just the opposite of me they were quite outgoing, so if you are outgoing that can break a shy girl out of her shell. I would see them socializing and making friends and this and that, now that I am not so shy, I have had more dates and I have lots of friends and I am not afraid to get out and have a good time. :)\n\nNow as far as style every girl varies. So it is hard to say what they like. If you are referring to men's styles, I like for my men to be clean cut. I like casual, I like to see men dressed up, I just don't like the sloppy look. T shirts and jeans are okay as long as it doesn't look sloppy. \n\nMy own personal style is simple. I am not into the fancy stuff. I like some of the things that are in style, I am a modest dresser. I like capri pants, sandals, casual skirts, blue jeans, nice t shirts and on occasion I like to dress up very nice if the occasion calls for it. \n\nLittle cat likes his blue collar with the bell and he thinks he's cool because he just got his rabies tag renewed so that he can fly to New Hampshire with me and he thinks he's even cooler because he gets to fly free. :)
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why?....if your a true man then confront that shyness in you.girls are nice to hang with,you have that self-confidence naturally..what you have to do is try to make some girl friend,just friends..talk with them..and here's how to get a girl's attention...offer some help,maybe a friendly favor that most girls ask from boys...be a gentleman and you must have yourself a sense of humor...ok?
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Learn to break out of your shell! It's hard, but start small.  Start by smiling at people that you walk by or encounter.  Then try by saying hi when you pass by others.  It takes practice! People tend to be attracted to people who are smiling and seem outgoing even if they are shy by nature.  You will look more approachable that way rather than if you just ducked your head and kept walking. \n\nWhen you get used to being friendly with people try it on a girl you like.  Smiling is always important because it shows you're happy and confident.  Also, if you feel like you're not talkative, try coming up with conversation topics before you approach someone.  That way if the girl happens to be shy you have something to say so it doesn't feel awkward or anything.  Good luck!
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Go to some of the parties.  Join clubs.  Get professional help if you need it.  Do whatever it takes to get over your crippling shyness and be a little more social.  Volunteering is a nice way to meet people and it also improves your personality and confidence.
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she's just a really friendly and polite girl, that's why she always says hi and bye. and i think its really cute that your too shy. well anyway, i know its hard to get rid of your nervousness whenever she talks to you, but you have to know, she's only human, she's not immacualte or anything, if you wanna be closer to her, you have to stop being so freaked out when she talks to you, that might freak her out and might not wanna talk to you anymore.
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It's really hard to be shy, I know.  The best thing you can do is be yourself, always.  The next thing is eye contact and smile.  Eventually you will work up enough nerve to say "Hi".  You'd be surprised, a lot of guys really like shy girls!
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You get over your shyness by, if necessary, making yourself talk to someone. I know it's not easy. I'm shy too. But I MAKE myself talk to people and when conversation is started, then the next logical step is dating. Smile, and be friendly to men where you go....grocery store, gas station, post office, etc. There are a lot of good, decent guys out there, and one of them is waiting for a nice Lady like you. Good Luck!
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I was very shy in highschool too...and lonely.  There's really no magic way to change your personality.  What changed things for me was 2nd year university when I gradually went from Brunette to Blonde...then I got a lot of attention and it helped to give me more confidence just to be noticed.
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Sounds like you're gonna have to.  I know if girls waited for me to make the first move they'd still be waiting.  I've always been way to shy in person and in a way it's worked out for the better.  If you want this guy, you'll probably have to do all the first moves.  Don't worry though, once he's confident he's not going to be rejected he'll break out of it.
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Its rough but it will end.  Pretty much the same thing happened to me till I met a great girl through a friend of ours.  You just need patience.  Try just concentrating on a hobby and just not think about not having a girlfriend.  It helps and if that stops working take up a new hobby.  Learning new stuff takes a lot and will take your mind off of girls and when you do meet a girl it will make you more intresting and give you something to talk about.
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im sometimes shy,\nand u canget over it!
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from a 17 year old girls p.o.v. :  i find shy guys to be hot! but at the same time i find shy guys to be a turnoff because its hard to talk to them. my advice would be, tho i kno it seems hard for u but just try ur best to be more outgoing, dont hold back. when u see a girl u like, go up to her and casually say hi! i love it when a guy makes the first move! ive tried really hard to flirt with shy guys but its always so frusturating cuz they come off unintrested.
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I used to be just like that. but you dont really get over being shy, you jsut get better at being outgoing. the first thing i did was join a club that takes you all over the U.S., it's called FFA. I got a job and it was a waitress at a bar. so there are many opportunities there. just go up and talk to the guy, any guy, it's how i did it and now im still shoy to an extent, but hey, im get out there and i have fun while chatting up some hottie. so jsut break away and strike up a conversation with some random guy, like a guy from school, in the grocery store...anywhere...even in the mall. it works.