I have been dating a guy for 4 years.  we just bought a ring.  but, we were broken up for about 4 months right around Christmas.  During that time, i met a brother of one of my friends.  since then, i cant get him out of my mind.  he moved away, but i get butterflies thinking about him, and i love hearing his voice.  if something were to ever happen to him, i would kinda regret not telling him my feelings.  i know he feels the same way about me, he has told more than one person, and it is all over his face and how he acted around me.  but, i do love my boyfriend, he is my best friend.  is it possible that i love both of them???  and, what should i do?
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First of all I would tell your boyfriend if you havent already. If you feel the same about 2 guys then you shouldnt be looking, buying, or accepting any ring. But the way you discribe it its just a crush. When you tell your boyfriend about your feelings if you havent and you feel better and not that you love the other guy then that should give you your answer. I have been in the same situation and I told my now husband and i felt better to get it off my chest. The guy ended up in prison and i havent seen him since. The more you hide it and keep it bottled up the worse youll feel or if someone else knows about it then he will soon find out and it can end very badly for you.
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i understand you might love the first guy, but if he doesn't feel the same then move on, and love this other guy, you should let it go and follow your heart.  yes you might not love the 2nd like the 1st but not all love is the same.  You will probably always think about the love you had for the first guy, but the key thing here is that he doesn't feel the same, and you can't make someone love you.
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i was in the same situation u are a few yrs ago. i went ahead and told her. and to my surprise she agreed. we dated, we fell in love, we are getting engaged in december.\n\nu need to lose ur fear and tell him exactly how u feel. if hes really ur best friend, he will understand. and its possible he has feelings for you too. good luck. TELL HIM!!!
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Hey ya!\nDon't worry , maybe you can ask your sister about it ,maybe she knows it!\nBut I have brother too and a lot of my friends like him more than just my brother , so If I knew that someone from my friends loves him I won't tell him about it,cause it's something like sisters jealousy.\nIf your sister "don't know it ,but she can ask her" so then you must tell her that it's OK and you'll ask her.\nIt's time to move on ,keep on fun kin and be yourself! :)
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I was in a similar situation with the guy that I'm with now, only we didn't go to the same school.  We were best of friends for a year and stuff then he started going out with my best friend.  They broke up and it was really hard on my best friend so I told her that I would never go out with him.  Yes, as foolish as it may seem, I had an amazing amount of feelings for him.  But I played along and said, "Haha, yes, we're like brother and sister."\n\nWell, long story short, we got past that [so I thought] and we started going out.  Then, he just randomly comes along one day and says "It's akward because we used to be like brother and sister." etc.  So, that ended, we were still friends and now we're "together" again, I suppose, though not exclusive.\n\nSee, boys are undecisive and it may take some time for them to realize their true feelings for you.  I think you are blessed to have such a good friend but, hon, you can't MAKE him like you.  Just be who you are, and that's what he loves you for, is being you.  Just give it time and maybe someday, he will like you in the way you like him.  If you really like him, you shouldn't tell him, so you don't make it akward between you two.  But, if the time comes along when you just can't take it and you NEED to tell him, do so.  But in the right way.  Just cherish what you have with him, because it's better than nothing.
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well u are right, they both are important. But think about it, if your brother dosent want u to like him, then clearly its for a good reason. maybe he sees another side of him that u dont see when they are together at practice. if he was a good guy i think he wouldnt mind you two being together. i suggest u talk to your brother and ask him why it is that he doesnt want u to be with him. If he gives a good reason then listen to him, if he says somethin dumb or he doesnt even know the reason why then just tell him how u feel about the guy and he should understand that he means alot to you. hopefully, he'll come around.
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I think that everyone still has lingering feelings for their exs. Personally, if I were you I wouldn't care too much. Just be cautious for warning signs, like....him hiding his cel phone from you, canceling on you? small stuff like that. But if he really does love you then his ex doesn't matter that much. And really if she is dating again.. She's moved on.  I have a boyfriend of 6 months and I have feelings for my ex and my feelings are stronger for him so they don't  interfere.  I'm sure he has feelings for his ex's so we are even. It's probably difficult to have feelings for one person forever, As long as your love is stronger and you guys are honest. \n<3
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would you believ the same thing has just happend to me. bout 4 months ago i ran into this guy i went to school with and we started chatting and i got his number. later in the week i got a msg from him and we were talking about school and how we were friends and how i used to really like him. he then replied that he liked me and wish he had relised what he had missed out on in school and he should have hooked up with me.\nwe continued to msg each other and after a week he said that he still had feelings for me. the only problem with the whole situation is i met another guy and now im engaged, i got so confused on what to do but he still says now that he really likes me and i should leave the other guy. of course im not.\nAnyway the point to all this is yes there is a chance for you both as long as neither of you are in a relationship. a way to find out is by saying that you used to like him and find out where you stand with him. invite him out for dinner or a movie or something and try and spend time with him. you will soon know if he likes you or not.\nGood luck and hope this helps
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Figure out what you want for real. Do you have the habit of moving from one guy to the next? If so, stop and take a few breaths before you get involved next time.\n\nAs for the guys, stay away from his best friend. You never should date a boyfriend's best friend unless the old relationship is long dead. And even then, it can be a sensitive topic.
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Temptation is normal, but don't let it get out of hand.  It's okay to have a little crush on this "other guy" for now, but just weigh what you and your boyfriend have and what you and this "other guy" have.  It sounds like you and your boyfriend are strong, moving past a problem like cheating, but obviously, you like your boyfriend MORE than this other guy.  That's why you're with him...YOu LOVE him, right?  If it is as you say, then you definitely don't want to give that up.  You tried the other guy 4 months into your relationship with your boyfriend, and you didn't decide to run off with him, but you stayed with your boyfriend instead, meaning that you want your relationship to work out with him, and he seems like he is prepared to stick it out with you as well.  If you truly love him, then you won't leave him for this other guy, even if it may seem more exciting or if you still have left over feelings for him.  The goal is to leave feelings from the past, in the past.  Since you have a commitment with your boyfriend now and you love him more than anything, the other guy is merely a temptation.  Like I said in the beginning, temptation is normal, but don't let it get out of hand.  We're all human...we all have hormones, adrenaline, sexual feelings... ;) ...Even happily married couples have temptations, but it doesn't mean they drop whoever they're with and move in with the other person.  Theres that self control and rationally weighing what you could lose if you go either way.  Now ask yourself, is the other guy worth losing your boyfriend over?  As time goes on, and you realize how much you have and don't want to lose, the temptation will subside.  If however, you realize you don't have much after all (and you don't actually love your boyfriend), then you should look further.  Don't make a decision until you are absolutely sure, because you may not be able to turn back.
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I was with my last boyfriend for 3 and a half years when I met my current boyfriend. I knew very quickly that I wanted to be with my current boyfriend, so I had to break my ex's heart to make myself happy. (I've been with my boyfriend now for more than a year) It hurt my ex like hell and I felt terrible doing it, but I knew that I wanted to be with someone else. So I had to do it for myself even though I hurt someone I cared about in the process. Just be careful and tactful in the way you say things. Make sure you don't sound like it's all his fault.
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its really hard to manage time... i understand where u coming from madam...but u should give a lil time to the brother.. he is a striving dude trying to be ambitious by holding on to a job.. as time goes by i am sure he will get to the top of things...but work can be very hectic... its hard not to hear from the person u love...have faith and keep the relationship..understand the brother i am sure he loves u alot..... goodluck.... FAITH AND UNDERSTANDING TWO KEY ELEMENTS THT NEED TO BE PLAYED!!!
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There is no possible way you could be in love w/ this guy.  You hardly know him at all especially if youve only seen him for 4 days.  You may like him a lot but its not love.  Talk to that friend and have him give Travis your phone number.  If Travis is interested, he will call you.  If not, then he wont.  Dont say you love someone until you have dated them AT LEAST 3 months solid.  You are only asking for a world of hurt then if you say it earlier.
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Yes, I have been with someone for just over 9 years. A year and a half ago thisman and I stopped talking formore than a few months. My high school sweetheart called out of the blue at this point....WOW!! So I fell in love for him all over again, only to find it was not him, it was him from high school. Then after a few months started talking with the other guy. It sucks. Think! Before you do. Its your life.
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talk to your best friend about whether or not she would be comfortable with you dating either of them! on one hand, she probably still has feelings for her ex, no matter WHAT she says...on the other, she may feel like you are giving her younger brother more attention than her, and that may cause a rift in your relationship...my true advice, date someone that has no ties to your best friend, or you may risk losing her friendship forever. boys will forever come and go, crushes lose their potency...but a true friend is something to be valued more than a boy toy.
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i think it would be better if u confess to the other guy that u are in a relationship. it is quite possible to fall for other people while u are in a relationship. its natural so dont worry ok? just take your time to know this guy.. it might just be a crush since u say that u love ur boyfriend. may be after sometime u will realize this new guy is just not ur kind. tell him the truth about u being into a relaionship. dont lie. it could harm ur relationship with ur boyfriend in future. and about telling your boyfriend..i think u should just tell him u have made a new friend nothing else.. tht is it.... dont worry. hope it was of some help.
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Do you have a crush on this best guy friend that's kind of like your brother, even in the slightest? If not then I suggest you relax about it a little. You might want to let them know if they start going out that you love them both, and wish them the best but the second they start having issues you don't want to get involved. Maybe you should also go in to a little more depth with this with your best friend too so she understands. I understand your discomfort with this because when people break up they both seem like jerks and you probably won't want to hear it.