You may have some similar questions from me such as:\nDo ugly people often look in the mirror or have lots of pictures of themselves?
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No, that's not true.. people may be REFERRING to someone ugly when they make that statement ;)
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I've wondered the same question.  I tried to make mine look like me.\nThere were no nerdy avatars that I saw and I see a lot walking in malls.  Come to think of it, I don't see fat ones, either.  So, someone, doesn't have an avatar that looks like them.  Maybe it is the people without an avatar.  Ha, ha.  All of mine I try to make look like me and wear stuff that I would wear.  Sometimes, I will look at my avatar and think that I should take a look in my mirror before I leave the house.
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I personally know a lot of men who appreciate beauty. But men do like to look at things that catch their attention from time to time. Even women look at attractive things. Its just human nature. \n\nMen do want pretty wives. Some men could have problems later on in their marital life. This problem stems from the insecurities that a man might have. I know of a few cases where the guy was so overly possessive because his wife's really good looking and he thinks that every other guy is ogling her.  Personally speaking, I never judge a person by their looks. It's just plain wrong to do so and downright nasty. \n\nAnd by the way, i do not think that you look ugly. I believe that no one has the moral right to belittle anyone because they do not look like models. What do looks prove anyway?? Absolutely nothing!! If i wanted to know a person, I'd be concentrating on their personality rather than on their looks.
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I can say it's been a struggle.  Being born beautiful you just naturally grow into feigning lack of awareness when others so obviously turn their heads to look at you. I try, I really try not to be noticed.  It is difficult when you walk into a restaurant and the whole room turns to stare.  I just pretend I don't notice their gazes. On occasion I will look back, using my bedroom eyes and pouty lip face.  I can tell that just makes that man's day.  He's probably never had anyone as beautiful as me give him the time of day.  It's a curse but I manage.
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For the most part I agree with you but I think that being ugly or feeling ugly can not be easily catorgrized by simply saying that an ugly person can cope with life better. It depends on your defintion of coping and in what area. Some people who feel ugly are walking around broken and damamged and it affects other area's of their life. It affects their confidence, their ability to do things, and pursue certain avenues of life and if that means that they are coping with being ugly then it is not very healthy. I think that society squezzes beauty in to such a small box that many people suffer needlessly and become victims of society and the media at a very young age. But since you speak of reality, in reality anyone who sees themselves as ugly has deeper issues in life other than their apperance. And any man or woman who wants to be with a person based more so on beauty that character has issues as well. But personally when I was young I thought that I was dreadfully ugly I would walk past a mirror in a mall and cry. It was horrible and my expectations of how I should be treated was low because an ugly person should just be happy that someone wants to be with them. But I can not not compare this experience to what it is like to beautiful and have everyone think that same to me that sounds like a nightmare to.
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Don't worry about how you look, but how you feel about it. Would you prefer to know or not? I would rather read them. I am a worse critic of myself than anyone else, so if there is something negative to say, I can do that myself already and am not afraid what others may say or think. \n\nIf you want you can ask your sources what they prefer and follow their wishes.
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Yes!\n\nI actually have this problem, though not to that extent. I do, however, avoid mirrors etc. to the point of obsession. I live with my wife and kids and we have the normal amount of mirrors but I litterally go weeks without looking in them and when I do, I can never make eye contact.\nthe funny thing is, I never really realized it was a real problem others have and never even really thought much about it until reading this!\nThis is not a joke response. I'm going to ask my psychologist about this. I also have a weird thing about my real name. I hate it! it's a normal, average name, but I hate it so much I cringe whenever I hear it. My wife won't even call me by my name unless she's REALLY angry and uses it as a swear.\nI'm working on overcoming feelings of worthlessness and maybe this has something to do with the mirror avoidance. \nwow.\nThanks for posting question!
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You're young, right?  I know the feeling, and have it again as an old person.  It's like you cannot respect their judgment, or cannot believe they are telling the truth, when they say you are pretty.  You figure they must have lousy taste, or they want something and are just being flattering, etc.\n\nFact is, it doesn't matter very much what anyone else thinks of your looks compared to what you think when you look in the mirror.  Most young people, especially, exaggerate the importance of their worst feature, and minimize the importance of their best feature.  So, for example, you may have a really classically beautiful face, but you can't appreciate it because you are that dissatisfied with your hair or your figure.  Or the other way around.  If you think an objective view would help, try going to a professional photographer and getting your portrait done.  They see beautiful people all day long, and they also see people who are less than perfect, and know how to maximize the model's potential.\n\nNow go one step further.  Mix that photo with several gathered from the Internet (any that are in jpg format that you can copy with a right click) of people you think are prettier than you.  Create a "poll" for someone else (so as not to prejudice the answers) to ask several people to rank order the pictures.  My guess is you will come up higher on the ranking than you think you will, and specifically higher than several pictures you considered to be prettier than yourself.  That's because tastes differ, and you are not able to be objective about yourself.\n\nI know plenty of people will say "believe in yourself," "love yourself," etc.  This is my suggestion on how to gather more-or-less objective evidence for believing in yourself.
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people do not want to look in the mirror and face themselves....\npeople never want to dig to deep into the truth because their too scared to ruffle a few feathers....\n\npeople are generally a**holes and thats about all I can say...\n\nim a BRUTALLY HONEST person..which is why most people dont know how to act around me or ask me any questions because they know I will tell it like it is .....and most people do not want to face the truth....
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I think under most circumstances people tend to date others at their own level of attractiveness. Sometimes you will see a great looking girl with an ugly guy or vice versa, but usually its a 1 to 1 thing.\n\nI'm not making any judgements about physical size and attractiveness. Just maybe see if you are setting your sights too high. By the way, I'm slightly overweight myself just so you don't think I'm being unfair here. Good luck!
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no one can define the word ugly....\n\njust have lot of sex...it will burn every thing out.
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The real answer is because there are so many ugly people like you.  And I am not talking about looks....
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Dare anyone answer you! LOL When I saw your question it took me back to Jr. High..and I will not say how long ago that was. There was this georgous girl in 8th grade. She walked like she was a princess and her face was like an angel. ( no I am not a guy, go with me here) Everyone was speechless around her because her beauty was unreal. I can see her face like it was yesterday. Well, as this beauties personality came to bloom in front of us over time she became very ugly. She had a cold heart, was completely self-centered, had a foul mouth and very unpleasant to be around. Sure she had boyfriends but they were for very short terms and they never went back. I felt sad for her, it was as if her beauty was.... deceiving.... her. In conlusion, I will say that, as for myself I do not think I am ugly, I FEEL beautiful at times, but my body will become very wrinkled and probably arthritic someday with those age spots too, the only beauty worth noting comes from inside. I know it sounds cliche or idealistic but I think it is so true. The personality, character, and SOUL is what makes someone beautiful.
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Beauty is really what you're own idea of beauty is.  We all live on our own scale in a lot of things.  As far as skin deep I'm not able to agree, but it's in the eyes and the smile and the body language and everything else.  So what you see as unattractive may be beautiful to someone else who see's what they're looking for.
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there are some people that love to ridicule others and make fun of them but if they would just look in the mirror they may not like what they see.  Different people need love just as we do and in fact some need more, they are special people with special needs.
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you just lose your self confidence, i think you;re not really bad inside , because you think you are ugly ,you try to hurt people  i think you experienced that when you're not good looking people dont care about ur inner side ..so you want to act like this to take advantage on people ...am i right?
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Why should u care about what others think about the way u look?  \n\nDo u have a brain, do u use it... \n\nThe world is to concerned iwth looks, and it's really quite pathetic.  If you ahve a good heart and good soul, who cares if your 20lbs overweight.