my x says we will neva get back 2getha but later he says  he misses me. should i wait for him 2 come around or just mive on? or what shouldi do?
120996
Leave him alone and let him chase you for awhile.  If he is sincere he will show you. I mean sincere in changing the pattern of bad behavior you specify.  If not then your not missing anything.
186491
just talking? not seeing each other? if you really like him, then you should ask him if he likes you in the same way... but if he really misses you, isn't he suppose to be right there beside you? and it's been a couple of months too, shouldn't he have opened up to you like a long time ago? but, it's still up to you... if you really like him and still want to continue the relationship between you guys, then ok.. but if you really have a strong feeling that he's just playin you and fooling you around, i suggest you end the things between you right now!.. cos he might be planning some stuff that are really unexpected.. especially if you haven't seen him at all! ;)
289328
The next time you see him, give him a hug and kiss him. He obviously wants that to happen because he asked you back out. I also think that you two should have a talk about what each of you is feeling and what feels appropriate to do/say.
419130
When I got deployed I was lonely and called my x whom I broke up with cause she treated me bad. When I returned I realized I just needed a security blanket to get me through till I was in a familuar place again. Your his security blanket. He will be great till he gets back in his groove, then you'll be on the back burner again. Go for the other guy.
111889
Don't wait.  No need putting off something that is potentially better for some bum that wants you to wait on him.  Move on.  If he decides he wants you back, make him chase you.  And make him chase HARD!!!
180563
The best thing to do is to sweat it out until he contacts you again. It may or may not be over - you will increase your chances of keeping him if you play it cool.
275593
move on. i jus went through the same thing that lasted a year n my x even has dated his new girlfriend for 7 months. hes goin 2 act like that towards u cuz he knows youll wait for him...he knows he can swing u right back in..so dont let him kno that ur waitin..dont wait! u can find a guy that wont play wit ur emotions.dont wait for nebody...guys should b waitin in line for you!
367119
Move on...find someone who truely appreciates you like you deserve to be.You should not try to get him back because obviously he has not been able to see the great, lovable , caring girl inside...so let him go and find someone who can find her and take care of her.There is nothing greater in life than being truly appreciated.you deserve better.I am sure there is someone just round the corner or right under your nose that you did not notice when you are so hung up on the ex.Let go and let the real thing find you.Bless you,sweety
375189
Wow this is a tough one. I'm in a similar situation in that my ex bf dumped me, but now it seems like he wants me back. We only dated for a month, and there was no sex cuz I'm saving myself for marriage. Now 8 months later I saw him on the street and he acted REALLY hapy to see me and asked me to contact him so that we do do something together. He really hurt me and I doubt that I'd contact him.\nMy best advice for you if you want your ex back is to show him that you REALLY DO want him back. Don't expect him to come to you, you dumped him so he's waiting for you to start it again. He doesn't wanna seem desperate. Try off slow, say hi to him on msn a few times then ask him if he wants to have coffee or see a movie and then see what happens from there. He may be happy or he may not be. Just remember that you now have to show him that you regret dumping him and that you want him back.\nGood luck:)
331763
whats with him and ex's?  Youre an ex he's back with, now you're concerned about another ex.  Alarms went off when I read this. You need to be sure you're who he wants before you get hurt.  Give him a chance to be certain what he wants before you invest your heart into this once failed relationship.
293887
if i were you i would call the guy again and if he still doesn't call you, you should move on to the next.don't let anyone have the upper hand on you.most likely he's no just seeing you and that's why he hasn't called.on the other hand he could have something going on in his life right now that's consuming all of his time.if it's meant ot be it'll happen no matter what.in the meantime go out and enjoy life.
162402
go and talk to him...tell him you missed him..and ask for forgivness if it is possible.\n\nsomethimes we should try to be humble and admit our mistakes..or even if we were right, we should do it for getting back our ex...\n\nshow love and kindness..;
263896
i check the best thing is to get to know him for at least the next month again first, cause guys generally have the tendency of using X girlfriends as there rebound girl, &as soon as the next person crosses his eye he moves on. So play hard to get and see if he still chases you. If he does you might as well give him another chance, what could it really hurt.
260537
If he knows that you want to work it out and you haven't heard from him, then just let him be and if he wants to reconcile, then it's in his court. You can't force him to feel a certain way. Meanwhile, focus on building other relationships in your life.
71789
ok i didn't even finish reading your story just bc it reminded me of what happen to me...sorry girl i feel your pain, but what goes around comes around.\nthe guy that dumped me realized the mistake he made 8months earlier and now he wants to try things again...yeah right!\ngirl you can do better even if you have to wait!!! trust me!!!
128741
You need to know some things before you try to get him back.\n\n1. why did he leave?  Did he leave because you don't put out and this tramp does?  If that is the case, I agree with the rest, don't bother.  If he left because of a fight/misunderstanding then i think you might want to try.  People have fights and then will do almost anything to win, so things might have been said, that neither of you meant.\n\n2. Why is he with her.  Is she like you, apart from the trampyness?  Is she the opposite of you?  Depending on your sex life with him, he may just be on a bootycall.  Doesn't make it right.  But if she is just like you, he might want you back.\n\n3. Why do you want him back?  how old are you? how long have you been dating?  What have you done together (meaning go to college, school, other?)  Maybe he was just serving his purpose for those times but wont work with these times.  We are all human and we have all done that.\n\nSo if you want him back, how bad?\nif you need him back you got to tell him and sex him up.  (If that is the only way, i say leave him)\n\nIf you love him, but still lead a life of your own, then tell him you need him and tell him you are sorry for what happened.\n\nfinally, if you are stil pissed at him and don't care if he comes back or not (but would like him back) then just say hey we need to talk and make sure he knows everything about how you feel and ask him why he did it.
389101
Email him and say... Hey just thinking about you. I have not heard from you lately and just wanted to know  if you wanted to go out again some time, and then give him an easy way out. Then at least you will know.