How do I make better decisions, be confident, outgoing and not let people take advantage of my niceness
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This is tricky, but it can be done. The one thing I would recommend is to accept the fact that not everybody is going to like you, you can't please everyone and you should keep yourself genuinely kind to anyone regardless of apperance, background, etc.\n\nIf you want everyone to like you, you'll end up hating yourself. You'll mold yourself into someone you're not. If you want to please everybody, you will be truely miserable (trust me, I know.) Being kind not only gives you a good feeling, but it can make others feel good as well. Just make sure you're not a doormat to people. If you're not confident, it won't show...but don't confuse being confident with being outgoing. You don't have to be the most outspoken person to get your point across (and to get attention, for that matter) just stay true to yourself and find a group of people who will love you for who you are. :) good luck.
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Don't listen to the person above. Nice guys arent always left behind. It just takes more time to get ahead but once you get ahead you stay ahead. For starters don't ever change who you are just let some qualities fall and others high light them more. Let say if you always hold the door for someone then one day don't. I can guarantee that you will respect yourself everytime you hold it after that. Just by making the smallest gestures you can change someone's life so don't think its going un noticed its just foggy right now. My website is below
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You are naturally a "giver." You wish to please those around you.\nSometimes this stems from lack of self esteem, sometimes from fear, somtimes from anxiety. Most times..all of the above.\nWhat you need to do is make a conscience decision to take care of yourself. You can easily care for your own needs while attending to others. But make it an equal share.\n\nPeople will naturally take advantage of a personality type such as yours, so take it slow and easy, but be cautious, always.\n\nTeach yourself to say "No." Practice it in the mirror if you must, but learn how do say it w/o guilt. That's what you are harboring is guilt.\n\nGuilt is a pointless, detremental emotion which will get you nowhere fast.\n\nLose the guilt, gain the self esteem and strive toward respecting yourself more......if you do, all will fall into place....I promise!!\nPeace!
347563
Best thing you can do is appear cool and calm. That makes you appear confident.....
484822
Just don't think of it in terms of popularity. You shouldn't get caught up in labels. (I'm not saying you are).  Be respectful to those who deserve respect. Be firm with people who don't. Don't look to make enemies. Discern between true friends and ass-kissers. Look out for yourself. Focus on what's really important in life. Think about the future.
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Just be yourself and be calm,you sound like a nice person and this will shine through for you.
366464
Just try to be more outgoing and try to make good impressions on people. don't be afraid people wont like you, if they don't just move on to new people. don't let it crush your self-esteem. those people wont know what their missing.
530749
First off, you should never change who you are to impress people. If you know you are charming and funny etc, than what's the problem. People always see you the way you portray yourself to them. Don't be afraid to speak your mind. if you're not comfortable in your own skin, why should others feel comfortable near you. like I said, people see you in the way  you want them to see you. You already began the first step...you took a step back and realized that you have great qualities.
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smile, be a good listener, don't get into peoples personal space, have empathy, don't spread gossip, be genuine, do not put on airs. a few  examples that will help.\ntake your worst personality trait and replace it with a good personality trait.
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Go out with your friends, to a dance, a movie, most anything that appeals to you, and your friends. There is no BAD going out. You can have fun at most anything, if you want to. I go out a lot with friends to dances, clubs, outdoor concerts, whatever, and we have a great time. I am finally beginnning to "loosen up" a little, and dance some........you know what, I LOVE it! I am the "shy" type too, but it helps if there's others there. Go out! Have a   good time! You deserve it! Good Luck!!
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Stay strong, Hold your head up high and go for it. Unfortanatly rude people are everywhere. Just remember to keep the faith and believe. Nobody is better than you.
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Humble yourself under the mighty hand of God.  If you just go about the day saying good things about people and not getting caught up in gossip as others, you will turn things around.  Let your light shine that they may see your good deeds and works and soon others will follow.
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Maybe you should come out of your shell. Learn to talk to people before they talk to you. People are so judgmental and that's what makes the world horrible. Don't let them get to you, if you  are comfortable with the way you are, that's just fine, you'll fine the right people in time. Don't change for anyone, be happy with the way you are, if they misunderstand you in a bad way, blow them off that's there lost...=)
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Confidence comes from within......you have to believe in yourself that you are worthy of the best and go after it.  You have to learn to take risk....such as if there is a girl that you like, approach her and ask her out.  If she says no, don't go into a shell.  Keep your head high and learn from that  and move to the next one.  Because one day someone will accept.  I know you have heard the saying if you don't love yourself how can you expect others to.  People only see what you see.  If you see greatness others will see it too.
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ignore them.  you made certain choices in your life, as we all do, and as a result people perceive you in a certain way.  now you're living your life in a different way, and those that are open-minded (read:  worth your time) will shift their perceptions accordingly.  those who are clinging to your past mistakes will eventually be cycled out as you meet and form relationships with people that respect you enough to pay attention to who you are and what you're doing NOW.  \n\nyou can't control what other people think of things you've done in the past, and you can't control how fast they let go of it.  efforts to 'change their minds' will only bring more attention to the past by making it the focus of your actions in the future.  what you CAN control is who you surround yourself with.  choose carefully.
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you don't need to take charge, you need to meet a person that will respect where you are at, don't give it up to a jerk, your sensative, which is good, but the wrong guy will hurt you. I suggest you join a gym, this improve your confidence and energy
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Ok however you see yourself that is exactly what everyone else will see. You think that you are a dork then you are a dork it's up to you how you want people to see you. If you need to make some changes don't be afraid of self improvement it is only to better yourself you don't have to change your morals or standard think how you want to be recieved by people then and take a look at your best qualities about yourself and use them listen to or read a lot of self help books because their are people just like you had the same problems and now they are either popular or they are movie stars you name it people change what they feel they don't like about themselves usually they start with negativity stop being hard on yourself and give your own self a chance! Start beleiving in yourself and start with a positive mind don't hang out with people that don't except you and always have something negative to say about you or treat you not so nice the real friends will come eventually