Many strangers think I am around 20 and they don’t believe I am 40. Sometimes I feel insult sometimes I feel good under these circumstances. I’m not a pedophile or a gay; I’m straight not yet married, never feel I’m getting old. I like to have friends around 25. When I have times with people around 40s I feel they are old, because of their appearance and behavior. I had changed my hairstyle and dresses to look likes a bit older but it looked like funny. Sometimes I feel very upset to see the realty of my life. Always I have this question in my mind “What is wrong with me?”
135700
You believe looking and feeling young is a bad thing but it isn't. You have tried to be around people closer to your age and you don't feel right. You try to change yourself to fit in but when you do it doesn't help.  You feel uncomfortable looking and feeling young but then you tend to look at people your own age and think they look and behave old. I think your thinking the reality of your life is you believe you don't fit in the age range you are suppose to fit in but that is a false belief. There are many people who are in their seventies and eighties who feel and look younger and do things younger people do. The difference is they accept and enjoy the way they feel and don't try to change themselves to fit in to what they think things should be. When you are around people your own age you are projecting how you feel on to them and wonder why your not like them or why there not more like you.  Everyone is different.Learn to accept the differences. Almost all my friends have children but me and when i am around them they talk mostly about their kids. I can't fully relate to them and sometimes feel left out of the conversations because of this. I use to think something was wrong with me because i didn't want children. I now realize that I can still be around them and enjoy there company and there stories. It is  a bit different but he rules of acceptance with yourself still apply. Be yourself. Be around people you enjoy despite the differences you see and accept yourself and others even if you think they are old and you feel and look young.
147788
It is normal to feel down about yourself at this age and during your life. Everyone needs someone that they can be with and vent to on occasion but besides that you need a friend.  Not just someone to talk to but a genuine friend that will laugh with you, cry with you, and be there for you when you need them to be. Not some person that is jsut there because of something you have and or could give them. First you must find what is making you feel so depressed. Once you have found that think about why you feel this way and telling yourself "I don't know" isn't the answer.  I mean who can you be honest with but yourself first, huh? I did a journal when I felt really down and that nothing was going right and then I tried this.  It helped me so much that I started letting go the bad feelings and bad thoughts and started living without a care about those thoughts again.  If you still are depressed then you may want to find out why and instead of being unhappy start thinking of what got you to this point. Everyone has to hit rock bottom before they can start climbing outta the hole. You aren't there yet but I don't want you there. I want you to be able to be happy and content with everything you do.\n\nGood luck my dear!
246578
I am 74 and started a new career last year. They asked me how long I will be staying there and I said "at least till I am 80". I am charming. Don't know about the sexy but life is what you make it. I never feel my age and I work very hard at least 10 hours a day and I do go dancing with my grandson now and then. I had more fun in my life than my children. I feel bad about that. I went to dances with my mother when I was young and I had a blast. I did not know back then that you HAD to have THINGS. That made a big difference.
625532
I'm 40 and I have the same problem with some of my family.  Wish I had an answer for you.  Sometimes I get the feeling that the people in my life really don't think I can do anything right.  At least their actions say so.  I usually ignore their stupid remarks and go about things my own way.  If the remarks really get to me, I'll just plain tell them that I know what I'm doing.  Usually works too.
641541
My sentiments exactly. I am in my sixties and I have laughed all my life. I find humor in a lot of things. I have had a ruff life but if I wasn't able to laugh at anything I would probably be dead by now because I would be worrying about what made my live so ruff. I learned to move on and leave the past in the past and be as happy as I can.
452125
well for starters...enjoy looking young while it lasts...although you just may always have a young look about you.\nI'm 29, but most ppl think I'm 22-23ish. * LOVE IT now, hated it at 18 because i looked 15! lmao not fun* \nmy husband is older too, so i understand how ya feel. as if everyone thinks your a stupid kid or something...\nto this day some of his "new" friends treat me like that till they get to know me.\n\ntry dressing a bit older, but still sexy and classy.\nleave the girly girly clothes at home when you go out, and opt for something a bit more classy. \nslacks instead of jeans\nblouses or really nice tops instead of T-shirts\nfix your hair up in something other than a ponytail.\nstick to neutral colored makeup with either smokey eyes, or bright lips *not at the same time...one or the other*\n\nbut of course....keep the jeans and T-shirts for when you and your BF spend time out together.
254475
Well my friend just a few words of wisdom, you're lucky to look younger than your age. Imagine when you are 30 & you still look for the female attention you'd look just 27..!! Most 25 year olds today look like they're 30+ & consumed up all of their fuel & gas for life. They live the life actually of a 40 year old. So its good for you, take it in  a positive way. But just make sure you actually don't act like a 16 year old. but a 19 year old. Do justice with your personality... GOOD LUCK MY FRIEND..!!
621110
Well, really age doesn't matter. The only way it would is if 1) It is illegal, which in your case it isn't; 2) She or you feel uncomfortable; or 3) You are not at the same level mentally or emotionally. Other than that, like they say age is just a number. Some people are young and look or act old, and some people are older and look or act young. It's all perception.
630189
I have no idea.  I think you should be proud of your age.
371499
You don't look your age at all!  I'd like to be twenty four, it seems like at that age you're sorted, you have a place to live, a job, and you know what you're doing in life.  I'm eighteen at the mo, (and happy of course! ) yet I feel like I'm too young to be getting up and going, yet too old to be sitting still.
523223
I have the same problem but in reverse, I like younger women and I get some bad looks from other people. Especially when I was dating a 19 year old. And yes I am 41, but I don't care what people think. If you enjoy being with that person do what makes you happy!
54970
Sounds like you are having typical thoughts for somebody your age where you realize that you are not going to live forever and wonder if you have wasted your life. You see that the time you have left is getting shorter and there is so much you would still like to do.\n\nSometimes when we get older, we have to realize that it is probably too late to do anything earth shattering or to undo the things we regret. Still you are young enough to put your energies into helping those around you and shining where you are.
613973
when you find one, let me know... i'm feeling the same way... *25 yrs old but feel like i'm 40.. lol*
441589
Several of those before me have pretty much covered and validated your feelings toward the "same sex" and not much more I can add to that.\n\nPerhaps the "better" question that was NOT asked is "is it normal to become aware of these feelings at this stage in your life?"  Today most gay people come out or become aware of their identity in their teens or twenties.  However it is not unusual for men in their 40s, 50s or older finally recognizing what these feelings are.  Many have suppressed these feelings that they have refused to label as "gay" or didn't recognize as such.  But over time as you become aware that these feelings aren't some aberration that is unique to you.  You become aware that having these feelings may be a valid part of who you are today.\n\nWe all have our own clocks telling us when its the right time to come out and recognize this part of our life.  Yours just was pushed back a bit more than some, and that is NOT unusual, that's just how you were wired.\n\nI suggest you do some reading on this, check out web sites about "coming out" or go to a bookstore like Borders, or Barnes and Noble and look in the Gay and Lesbian interest section.  You'll see that you aren't the first, and certainly won't be the last to have these feelings.
531989
If you are a good person and areal friend dont worry about anything you cant be friends with everyone. The saying is true the older you get the less friends you have because you cant have time for everyone also you can not have things in common with everyone. I am 32 now and I remember your age it was so hard you feel depresessed alot. Think about the good things about your self the things you like and focus on those things and be confident. Good Luck
606539
I think you are really insecure if you need people to tell you what they think of you.  It's what you think of yourself that matters.  Everyone looks good at our age (ok, not everyone) but personality is what matters..........when we are 80 we are all going to sag and droop, you better have something to talk about other than your younger years and how great they were/you looked.  Personality and sense of humor go much, much further with me.  Looks can go at any time.  What if you were in an accident that left you disfigured and unable to work out for ever???  A personality might come in handy....ya think?
468852
I Turn 40 on Wednesday. No big deal. It is only a number. I do not feel any older now than I did 20 years ago. Seriously. My body feels older but my mindset isn't. Please don't take it so hard. It is just another birthday. Eat cake and be happy.