I am 23 ,virgin,student and for the first time in love .\nPeople believe in love at the first sight,on a speciall moment of life.From all the stories I can tell you,the most wonderful of all,was the day my love came from another country to me at the Station ..he hugged me strongly and so happy that gave me a speciall feeling of love for the first time.Is this a love?Can I count on it?Let me know if you have ever had such experience of true love inside of your heart?I feel guilty,because now that I am in love,I feel I will end up to my purity and innocent.How can I trust my love?how can I make him love me more and more everyday,when we are in two different countries?He was happy that I am going to meet him soon,and now he got hurt that I have broken his heart,when I told him that my family won t let me have this trip!What makes adifference.if I live in the studentroom alone or enjoying of my holiday with my love?I desperately need love in my life.I want to break up rules.is this wrong?
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love is when you cant live w/ out that person in your life. they are the last thing you think of before you fall asleep and they are the first thing you think of when you wake up
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this one's good.  be precautious!  hold off on falling in love.  many people will tell you to follow your head on this one.  i would have to agree.  be careful.  as you mentioned, you have a lot to loose.  and you will if you go with your heart.  take this as an infacuation.  and move on when it's old.  you won't have any regrets. \n'J'
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Um...okay I wrote something on your first question before in a fanfiction. Don't mind the weird name:\n\nYukito sat there thoughtfully and said, “I honestly, don’t know. I’ve never experienced love. I’ll try my best. But... I imagine love as something that takes is own course and is one of the things that fate cannot control. It’s a feeling of  hurt, and joy. Words cannot describe it. It’s like a sacrifice, yet a joy, a curse, yet a gift. We have the gift to love, but love is a strong feeling that can control other senses. Just by hearing someone you love say “I hate you.” could make you do anything.”\n“It’ll make you be angry or sad or make you feel like a total idiot. It is deceiving and sneaky. When you think you love someone, one day you may just think “I don’t like them.”. It leaves you even more alone in the end than when you didn’t love them. But as you go on you gain an understanding of what love is, and maybe be able to find it. No one forces us to love, it just happens. And we ourselves in the end are responsible."\n\nOkay, I'm a pessimist that doesn't reslly beleive in love (it's nice to imagine though) so if you don't agree, don't fret. The world is a big place, you're probably not alone. You sound young (not that I'm not either) so you'll bounce back. I've got a lot more crap on stuff like this so if you want to read, I suggest clicking the link on my profile. Don't worry, love will find you. I hope I did SOMETHING to help.
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Everyone deserves a first chance. If he hasn't given you any reason to not trust him then give him the chance to prove himself.\nNot all us fella's are jerks. There are some pretty responsible& caring men out there .So if you think you've found one, take advantage of that. The best advice is to follow your heart. Let it be your guide. Your thoughts will only confuse you. You've obviously been through a lot so why put yourself through anymore. This could be your chance for a family of your own & a lifetime full of happiness. You will only get hurt if you allow yourself to be hurt again. Romance is an adventure. You ultimately decide how the story will end. Will it be a drama full of heartache & fear or a Fairytale full of answered dreams & eternal happiness? Based on that; the answer should be simple.\n\nGo ahead my Dear give him a chance so that you have a chance.....\n\nGood Luck.........
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I am very sorry.\nMy first love and I had a long distanced relationship, and it was so hard.  We used to live in the same town, but I moved out to a big city 6 hours away by train to attend a college, and since then we only could see each other once a month.  He had a job offer in that city once, because he wanted to be with me, but the deal was pretty bad, so he didn't take it at the end.  Eventually, I moved out of the country, and we never saw each other ever since.  \nI knew it was coming to end one day, but I just didn't want to believe it.  He was older then me, so he must have known better, but didn't say anything.  We used to call, and write to each other.  But when I started getting less and less responses, I still didn't believe that it was ending.  I was so sad, and so lonesome, and made so many mistakes in my life because of that.  I should have let go of it much earlier.\nI tell you, I know it hurts so much now, but you have to let him go.  You called him so many times that his mailbox is full, that tells you that he has already made up his mind and it's not going to change.  Even if he changes his mind now, that'll not sort out your distance problem, will it?  You will only feel worse as long as you try to work out something that's no longer in your hands.  Believe me, I know that.  \nYou won’t be able to feel fine about it today or tomorrow, but try to think about something else instead of how to get him back.  Try to give yourself a break from it little by little, and then you should start to feel better.
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Does he think you’re a virgin? I think you should tell he just what you told all of us. If he really loves you this should not be the determining factor to whether or not the two of you’ll get married. He really should be understanding about this small “oversight”.
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Males can't..repeat..can't be trusted. They were born liars. Ok, maybe not all of them. Go with gut instinct. In our defense, we females were gifted with intuition. Make sure you convience yourself you can live without him..just in case. Love is a state of mind as well as a state of the heart. One can heal the other. Life is too precious to depend on someone else's love. If you have found it, that's great. If not, you will find it elsewhere. It's one of life's grand lessons. You have to go through it to grow. Good luck.
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Hey I am glad that u feel this way about your First Love!!. \nNo really I am !!\nIts very good that you still remember your first love...you actually should be proud of your self! Which again makes u worthy to be loved by another amazing man. But your'e in a dilema that if its ok to feel first love is incomparable? May be bcos ur feeling a little bit guilty as the man u r with now, is treating u exclusively well .\nAnd also this is 'THE 'question of your life! and you expect somebody to answer in a paragraph.....? well let me give a try.\n\nYou see if we put this question to different sorts of people the answers would be in their terms ,not your's.For example a scientist may explain its just a chemical and hormonal reactions, a  poet may say it's an inspirations for his lyrics and so on. \nBut what The first love means to you and How much it means to you\n- You decide it.\n If you start to compare its gonna lose its value. \n\nIf I ask you to close your eyes and imagine the picture of " A MOTHER " -without fail u r goin to imagine ur own mom( Not victoria Beckham with her 2 toddlers!)\n Now why is that? Is that bcos ur mom is the hottest mom in the universe ...? No, its bcos she means the word 'mother' to u. \nShe is the live example of the meaning of that word.She gave u this life and u become the new meaning for her life. Now u cannot accept anyone else in this life to replace your mom, no matter how much love they offer and neither she could accept anyone to be a replacement for you. Well if this is the case than how it could be different with Love. As a child u were a posession of ur mother. Now as an adult u want to possess and offer your love to some one else..\nAnd than u meet that some one and they become special to u.\nNow, 'he' bring the meaning of the word 'Love' to u. So when u hear the word love, now u relate it to that 'Meat head' aka the darling  ..lol..\nLike the same way u relate the word 'mother' in ur head. \nAnd so the first love becomes the 'First love' and get nailed and carved in our heart, and u just cant get it out. \nIt's what made you who you are now. It s became a part of you now. U cant seperate it from your body and mind. Only, you can decide whether you want some one that YOU loved ? or some one that LOVES YOU ? (provided there is still options).\nBut to my understanding if its so clear for you , than u wouldn't be here for an answer right. I think u felt morally compelled and u want to know what every body thinks...\nListen forget all of us, alright!\n U know what is right. I know u'll be confused like mad, but be confused ,only than u know where u stand and u start to see clearly.Well some people  telling you to forget it all and move on ...which I believe is a mistake!\nIt s like loosing ur core value..its like forgetting a part of u.\n I am not telling u to get obsessed  and dwell on his thoughts forever. I am telling u to deal with it. Get used to it. Like the way u get used to be with ur flat nose & big lips..etc ..lol....\n But we have to grow from that. \nu try not to forget him>>bcos the more u avoid his thoughts the more u gonna think about him and it goes on and on. \nIts nothing like he is the most perfect man for u..but the love which u had for him makes u to feel that way just the same way like ur mom.\nwhen u start to accept the fact that love is a VERB.. and the feeling of being in love is a fruit of that verb ..\nthan u have matured in love. And you would be able to open up to some special person again and accept and reciprocate love. \nBut this time it will not be completely emotional based but  u start to incorporate wisdom now\n ITS NO MORE FALLIN LOVE BUT STAND IN LOVE!.\nSo when u reach this stage of life u know how to love and how to be in love. And than after a couple of years from now , u turn back and can recap about it all with an exclusive pride and smile in ur  face while r
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You say you think you have never been loved and think you will never find it. Not to answer your question with a question but if you could receive love from someone what do you think it would be like?  What does love mean to you or what do you want love to mean to you? Does it mean you feel cared for, accepted, respected and appreciated? If it does than you can give love and maybe some day you will receive it but you need to be here to find this out.  Life might seem crappy at times, I've been there myself, but your life is like a story, but if you leave too soon you may never know how good the story could have been.  You never know who might enter your life that will change it in a wonderful way. Hang in there, i think love will find you.
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Sorry to tell you but he really is taking you for granted  is the Nice's thing   I can say...Let me tell you.  He don't love you   and he never will because if he do love you at least a Little  he won't  never hurt you feelings  Love is different and what I read is not even close  to be love...Trust me  You are better of alone than been with some one that  don't love you...Hey take a trip  if you can afford  to the place always you dream to go.. And you will one day will look back and think... How can I ever love that person  you will regret  all the time and energy you did wasted with that person...  Good luck  I hope I help out  a little...
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I knew I was really in love when the following happened:\nI cared what his honest opinion was, and I could talk about absolutely anything and everything.  When something bad happened, I wanted HIM to comfort me; when something funny happened, HE was the first person I wanted to share it with.  When I thought of the future, HE was in all the scenes.  It goes beyond butterflies and beating hearts, but sounds like you are on the right track.  Good luck!
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Love happens with only one and only once in lifetime. If you are in doubt means you are not sincere to your love. There is no concept of first love, second love and so on dear. Be practical, listen to your heart and then decide. Don't cheat yourself as well as others. \nWish you find true love in only one guy who deserves your love.
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I met a guy online 6 years ago and fell in love with him that very night. We talked online daily and on the phone every Friday night and Sunday afternoon. 2 years later he flew here to meet me. I will never ever forget seeing him for the very first time.  My heart was pounding so hard I could hardly breathe. Words cannot express the love I felt at that very moment.\n\nRemember...\nIt takes time to know people.  To know if they are for real.\nAnd always meet in a public place for the first few times.  Trust your gut feeling, mine never lets me down.\n\nGood luck and be careful.
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Ok, I am looking at your history now.....\n1. "I agree with the first girl what have you got to lose besides time itself. Jesus Loves and Adores. "\n    this answer was in response to a girl looking for her godparents on line. I thought it was a good answer but you didn't have much to add to what had already been said. I like to do research on my answers and try to say something that hasn't been said if I can.\n\n2."Christian and a good person in general. Not what you wanted to hear right and I am 15 fyi. Jesus Loves and Adores. "\n    So that is what you look for in a girl. hmmm\n     If it is true great answer, but again, kinda short. I would explain what you mean by good person.\n\n3. "I never had a job on account of my age but try fry cook. Jesus Loves and Adores. "\nAgain a short answer but this time it was about something you knew nothing about. Why did you answer? I answered this one too but I have years of summer job experiences to draw from. That is what makes a good answer. \n\n4. "They are not true friends. If you hang out with them you will become like them and do you want to be like her. You should stop being friends with her and tell her why. Good Luck God Bless and Jesus Loves and Adores. \nI actually really liked your point on this one. If she hangs out with girls that can't be trusted then she evcentually will learn to lie too. Good answer!\n\n5."You already know your boyfriend very well stay with him and don't take the chance of going for this other guy and figure out the love he has for you is just temporary. If you take a chance like this you could end up with no one and be left alone with a broken heart now if your current boyfriend is abusing you physically, mentally, or in anyway dump him but don't overreact and make something actually pretty insignificant into something catastrophic so you could just be with the other guy or it will probably lead to a broken heart and most of all pray for guidance from Jesus Christ our Lord. Good Luck, God Bless, and Jesus Loves and Adores. \nSo this is an answer you can be proud of. Great explanation with advice that is true to life.\n\nI closing I would say try to answer stuff you can answer based on your life experiences. There are a lot of people on here that take this stuff seriously. If you go around giving advice just to get points you could hurt somebody. \nHope this helps, it was the toughest answer I have ever given. \nLOL
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you have to revaluate your relationship with this person. If you are truly in love ….well it would be a horrible mistake to leave. However, are you sure it is not just because you want this to work which is making you feel as if you are in love?? Talk to your family about this problem and ask their advice (since they know you better then me). Work it through with this guy and see if there is a compromise. Make sure the sacrifice is not only one sided otherwise it might haunt the relationship in the future. Make sure you know this guy and understand who he truly is because people can seem different over the net or phone??. Think and ask for guidance from those closest to you. And most of all discuss it with all the people which will be affected.
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Hello:\n\nOne of the hardest things I have ever had to realize is that loving someone isn't enough to make a relationship work. \n\nI was in a long term relationship with a guy, whom I was in love with. The only problem was that he was insanely jealous, and I am a little too trusting. He would assume I was cheating on him, if I had a conversation with a guy friend (a guy friend that I had been friends with long before I met my boyfriend). And if I saw him chatting with a random girl I would just assume they were chatting, and nothing more. I should also say that I have never cheated on a boyfriend, much less cheated on this guy. \n\nEventually he started to push the limits more and more when it came to making me jealous, so much so that he started making out with a girl at a party we had gone to together. Even though afterwards he told me that it didn't mean anything, but that he wanted me to feel jealous, it was too hurt to try to make the relationship work. \n\nWe had a long talk and learned that we had spent so much time trying to hurt each other, that we didn't have anytime to enjoy each other. Obviously our relationship was disfunctional, and I'm happy to say we are both in relationship and are successful and we are still friends with one another.\n\nThe relationship I have now is fantastic. But we still do have problems. The best thing I have done in this relationship is that we face issues head on. But we both know how we each deal with stress. When I am stressed I like to be left alone, where as he likes to be distracted and just take a break from it all. We are able to recognize when we are stressed, and how we can help the other one deal with the problem. \n\nI would suggest that you wait it out. You've been in a relationship that has been successful for so long. Wait until he has started school and starts feeling comfortable there. But be supportive and if he doesn't want to talk to you about his feelings - just let him know that you are there for him if he ever needs to talk or a distraction. \n\nI hope this helps and good luck!
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Hello, you shouldn't worry, man can be really great when they are inlove, but that is never forever, and if he is not a good person he will again do the same thing. I think that you should find some other things that make you happy, the church, kids... Even if it all seems hopeless it isn't, somethimes you can discover beautifull things you didn' see before. When the love is in question it's never worth fighting for, because you can't make someone love you if he doesn't know what love is, and the first chacacteristic of love and most appreciated is sacrifice. There is the difference between the woman and man in romantic love, man should sacrifice for women with proving his love and affection, and woman feeling the same should do the sacrifice taking care of his children. In your case, that man doesn't love you, he doesn't know what love is. Do the little difference in this world, teach your children how to love, and your life will get the meaning.\nI wish you all the best, you deserved it.