If you're in love with your friend, would you tell him knwing he is against friendship to love thing coz it could ruin a long-term frienship? Or would you choose to keep it to yourself and be miserably happy listening about how he couldn't find Ms. Right?
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i was in love with my bestest friend in the whole world.  in fact, i think i'll always love him to a certain degree.  i took a chance and told him how i felt, because hiding my true feelings felt like i was constantly living a lie.  unfortunately, like your friend, he didn't want to risk losing me since he knew he couldn't give me the kind of commitment i needed.  \n\nit's been over 3 years since my revelation (we've been best friends for over 5), and i've learned to move on.  in the years that followed, i slowly was able to tell him exactly how i felt and why, and also get the answers to questions he left unanswered for so long.  i know he loves me, that we'll always be constants in each other lives, and will most likely grow old together... but maybe just not as husband and wife.  and you know, what?  it's actually all right!\n\nlooking back, i don't think i would've done anything differently... even if we didn't end up together.  i told him what i needed to tell him, and never imposed a relationship on him.  suffering in silence, how i did before i revealed myself, and how i did even after that, was much much too painful... especially because he shared the most intimate details of his life with me.\n\njust do what you think you have to do.  if he doesn't reciprocate your feelings, then maybe he's not good enough for you.  i've always thought that my guy never really appreciated what was right in front of him, and maybe he's really not worth giving my heart to in the first place.  the right one will come along eventually.  hopefully, your friend is really the right one for you!\n\nif he's the right one, then he'll take the leap with you, and if he's not, at least you gave it your best shot.
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YES!!!\nI don't want to be the barer of bad news but you probably don't really love her. Real love takes time to develop. That being said two days is way too fast to tell someone you love them. You probably scared her away. Next time wait till she tells you that then at least you are only reaffirming her feelings.\nThe best thing to do to try to work things out again is to tell her that you said that because you thought that she wanted to hear it. Or you were mistaken about your feelings because of the history between you two overwhelmed you at first. Then invite her out for drinks or something AS FRIENDS ONLY. Work on your friendship and maybe it will have another chance to blossom. But even if it doesn't you can never have enough good friends.
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well if she dont believe you then  give her a rose.\n but also think of it this way would if you and her took it to the next level, and it didnt work out. how would your friendship be then? would it be ruined? thats scary but i think i would rather be a best friend and love her as a best  friend then, how do you know maybe she is the  the right one and if she is then it  will happen, thats how love begins frindship first then, then it grows into more so know matter what it sounds to me like its on the right track!!!!!
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Sounds like he's unsure. I wouldn't bring it up again.  Just continue to be his friend without pressuring him, and he may eventually decide that he feels the same way. If not, you still have a great friend, and those are hard to come by.\n\nEither way, don't wait on his decision -- he may never decide, and you'll waste your time pining after something you can't have.
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This is always a tricky situation, and its often feared that the friendship might be ruined if the other person doesn't feel the same way. I think that if you two are 'best friends' and really close and have a healthy relationship, then if he doesn't feel the same way, maintaining the friendship should be easy.\n\nI think you should tell him and for all you know he could be feeling the exact same way, and having the same fears! So take the risk. If you don't then you are risking a really good chance to be with someone in a relationship that you really care for.\n\nPlan the right way to do it for you- whether that be on the phone, face to face, through a hand written letter, email or msn...whichever is best for you, the point is that you do it and get it out in the open of your relationship. \n\nJust remember of all the great possibilities, that's why you should do it.
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I think it depends on how you look at the situation.  If it was me, I would say something just because every woman knows the unwritten rule, "Do not mess with anyone that a friend of yours likes."  There are no exceptions. I really don't care if he likes her back.  However, if the way you feel is, oh they like each other maybe they should date, then leave it alone.  From the sound of it though, that's not it so I would just let my voice be heard girlfriend!
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It will possibly ruin your friendship and if you are dating someone you should not even be considering it. If you do there will be conseqences. I suggest that you don't do it, it's not worth loosing a friendship over.
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I have always been the type of person who wants to know.  Most people on the other hand live with the rule that ignorance is bliss.  Do you know what kind of person your friend is ? But chances are if you tell you will loose both friends and they will work it out and continue their relationship.  What you can do perhaps is make it so that they will stumble upon it themselves somehow.  This way you did your part and you dont have to loose any friends.
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I just got over a relationship where my best friend (who was also his x girlfriend) and him kept staying friends. I didnt really let him know how much it bothered me, but now that i look back, it totally bothered me... and now that were not together, im so glad its over because that issue was so annoying, not worth dealing with. Tell him to loose her and if he can't, drop him!
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I've seen it before so many times and I sympathize.  I personally would re-assert the boundaries of your friendship with her in a nice way, emphasizing how that kind of behaviour could jeapordize your friendship with her and that you'd hate to lose her as the great friend she is over something like that.  Best of luck.
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you really have to ask her what's the deal with what happened.but since i assume that she's your bestfriend,then i say that don't let a guy come between friendship.no matter how much you love him.and IF she wants him for herself and she lets this guy come between the two of you, then later down the road you won't be the one feeling guilty about a guy possibly ruining a beautiful friendship.
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I actually don't know, but what ever you do, think about this....\n\nIf you were in her shoes, how would you feel if you were rejected by your friends?\nHow would you feel, if someone did not want to be associated with you?\n\nSometimes some friendships are not good for us, but then we have to ask ourselves; is it because I am too proud to be associated with him / her… \n..or is she / he a bad influence on me.\n\nWhat ever you do, search your own heart, \nbe honest, and,\nspeak to her openly, but be careful not to hurt her,  the table might turn!\n\nThat which you sow, you will reap…
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I currently have this problem... and know exactly how you feel. My best friend is in love with me and has been for about 10-11 years now. I tell him I don't see him that way and that I love him but not in those ways. But that doesn't stop him from trying... and he is moving down to my area with all the hopes that we would be together...
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Feelings are just that.. feelings.  They are neither right or wrong.  True love can't be made where it doesn't exist and can't hide where it does.  He is feeling that he somehow betrayed his friend.... He should discuss his feelings with him.
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well maybe yes \n\nbut dont blow your friendship \n\nyou may lose your friendship should you say i love you to her now
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i did and i still do. i have never told him.it's so hard to tell whether you like your friend as just a friend or as something more because the line between friendship and lovers is very thin. i always liked him as more than a friend but i settled for friendship rather than nothing. when i am with him, it feels like its just the two of us and the way he looks at me.
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AHAAAAAAAAAAAAAN to be very honest with people are making sense in their own way but if you think you dont love your best friend then you dont but since you said your confussed now that tells me right away you do since you know from six years and your always talking about him to this guy who you suppose to be dating so if i would be you i wont let get to my head but yes i would think about it a little plus just wait time will tell everyone and everything so good luck.