ok well my b/f go tmad at me cuz my step mom got on my msn n cused out his cuz...and he is mad at me..i dont no what to do..i dont want to brake up wif him..i love him..but i am scared he is going to brake up wif me cuz of what my step mom did..i mean should he be mad at me cuz of that..i have all ready talked to him about it and he says that he would think that i would have sayed to stop..but i mean if i did i would have got yelled at..so plz help me..i dont no what else to do!!
136864
He is in the wrong in this situation. It is not your fault that your mom got in the middle of something an could not control her words. If he is mad at you for something as small as this then he is not worth it. Even if you do love him, he does not have the right to make you feel bad like this. just make sure that his cuz understands that it was not you. You also have to remember that you are a strong, beautiful woman and the he should be honored to even be friends with you! :)
367528
I think it is time you left that relationship since you know he is threatening to kill you, he sounds like a really jealous guy and you don't need that in you life. I am sure that you love him but it could lead to something much more worse then what it is if you stay around him. I don't think it should be his business who you call and who you don't when he is not around, I am sure he has other women that he calls, so there is not excuse there. You should not subject yourself to violence, you could call the police and have him arrested for assault and battery. I am sure what you boyfriend intentions are were to get your attention but I think that is too much. Leave him and find someone who is not violent and jealous. You need to do whatever you can to get away from this guy because if you stay with him any longer you could end up in a body bag on the way to the morgue because you did not leave him when you should have and that is not something you need to face. So my suggestion is if you live with him move out immediately if not stop calling him answering his e-mails change your phone number if you have to find friend to hang out with until he is out of sight. You can do better and you will, just believe.
81135
Not good.  First, he is taking you for granted.  He sees no consequences for his actions and treats you like the dog that gets kicked for no good reason.  He may have frustrations, but has failed to learn or remember who really cares for him above all others.  This is a sign of emotional immaturity.  He needs a wake up call and needs to grow up.  How would he feel if the shoe where on the other foot?  He probably wouldn't stand for it, so why should you?  Don't.  The next time he pulls this crap, I suggest you react in a calm, yet defiant manner by explaining that you care for him, while he seems to have forgotten what a healthy supportive relationship is.  If he wants someone to take out his anger on, then he's got the wrong woman.  End of story, so no more of this behavior against me...no hard feelings.
248438
i think that you should maybe try to talk to his mom and explain the reason why that you ended the relationship and explain to her the reason and tell her that you done it for a reason and that you want to try and get along with her explain that she shouldn't hold grudges and all you are asking for is for another chance that's all and if she doesn't under stand The reasons then don't worry about it at least you tried and hopefully things will work out for the best with whatever choice she decides remember that you tried.
522130
What a totally bogus kick in the teeth. Of all the low down rotten disrespect. It's not a question of who to be mad at as the anger and resentment  seething inside you is plenty for the both of them. You have every right to be mad at both of those two miscreants. Your first reaction would be that you probably would like to ring both of their necks and I don't blame you. This is all so terribly sad.\n  Anger aside you should reevaluate your relationship with with this so called "boyfriend". He seems very controlled by that idiot rat-friend of his. Him you can write off as a bad influence, a clot headed loser who doesn't even deserve the right time of day.  \nBut your boyfriend. Because of the money spent on the booze pay special attention to his use of alcohol. This should serve as a warning to any future interaction with him. You will never have any positive relationship with a drunk. Take some time for yourself and get your feelings sorted out even if it means not seeing him for a while. You may need a break from him. He really needs to make some kind of a decision as to how he feels about being with you. Guilt or no guilt this little escapade of his may illustrate his true feelings.
515045
He won't give you an answer because to do so truthfully he would have to accept the truth about himself. He is very insecure in the relationship and has very low self esteem. And an anger management problem!His doing this before you marry him could actually be a blessing. Today your diary was torn up,what will you do when it is you that he rips to pieces? I beg you to walk..no RUN away from him ASAP!\n\n Older not wiser, you are very rude with your words. Do you know what was in the diary? Why do you assume it is about sex and why do you call her a pro? you sound as bad as her b/f! I call it  the SMS Syndrome....small man syndrome!
609953
Give him some space,  if there is some family problems going on, maybe he is just stressed out, and he lashed out at you.  Dont take it to heart, but give him the space that he needs, but dont wait for him either.  Go on with your life, and when he realizes what a jerk he was to you, he will call you.
159909
Honey...sorry to say this but this wonderfull boyfriend of yours does not respect u or the realationship that he has with u..just by reading what u wrote i can tell that this kind of behavior from him breaks your heart...u shouldn't put up with this at all...if he is staring at her in front of u..god only knows what he does behind your back..it doesn't matter what any of us post here to say to u...But if i was u i would move on...get your things when he is not around and get out of this relationship...think about it this way...if i was your sister and i told u what u are telling us...what would u say?...see what i mean?...there are some wonderful guys out there that u havn't even met yet that are dying to meet u
130156
I SAY U JUZZ CONFRONT HIM nd LET HIM KNO HOW U FEEL ABOUT EVRY THING. U HAVE T0 B CAREFUL THO B/C IF HEz KINDA KRAZii U DONT WANT HIM HURTIN U. OH nd THANKZ 4 BEING THE ONLY SMART ONE WHO IZ ABLE TO READ MY DAMN TYPING. I MEAN DAMN, ITz NOT THAT HARD. PEOPLE ACT LIKE THEY CANT READ IT JUZZ CAUSE ITz IN CAPZ. UR GONNA GET MY BEST ANSWER WEN IT HITz 24 HOURS CAUSE THOSE OTHER DUMAZZEZ WERE ACTIN STUPID.\n\n*~+~*NANI*~+~*
309745
sounds like his a real jerk, she will get fed up. next time u see him out. call her let her see it for herself. than she will change her mind, i pray she gets out soon , this is not the man for her, he cheats alies an now is hitting her, do u no her family, call them . good luck to you an her, please be careful .
579573
So are you brave. Do you have a mouth. Communication is the key to any relationship. If you want to know , be brave and go ask and get it straightened out. Tell the person they are hurting you. Then at least you will feel better that you did something about it instead of sitting back feeling bad. You can't stop people from doing things. They have their own will and have to live with what they think, say and do. So do you. It is not what you say but how you say it. Remember that. Also remember , it takes two people to fight. It is easy to Love those who love you back but it is harder and take more strength to Love those and forgive those who persecute you.\nRev. TomCat
417872
me and my guy was online and i read him you question..this is da answer he gave me ....\n\n"We almost are in the same situation as you..I'm gonna go to another country for 4 years for my higher studies and she will only see me few times a year.. the thing is this is not as difficult as it seems.. dear sis you are not the first one to go through this.. there are loads of people who came through this or if not you have us... even we were pretty much worried in the first place as what to do... but let me give an advice to you... don't let go... just hold on...we are going to have a harder time than you even... cos it's a way longer period and we are both in seperate other countries which is not our mothercountry... so sister the distance doesn't matter...the only thing you have to do is to have a long distance dedication..... the key thing is to keep in touch as much as ppossible... not seeing your guy is tough... i know... but with time you may be able to adapt to that... just keep him in your heart..i'm just saying.. "so close no matter how far, couldn't be much more from the heart, forever trusting who we are , and nothing else matters.." goodluck sister... this will be posted by my girl who's in a country so far away while i'm writing this...\n\nhy im his gal hear ..darling  im teling u pls go ahead i dont regreat..taking the chance caz my guy is da best no matter how far he is his jus near my heart..and his all mine ..dont b scard i ws scrad my self....belive me ...i didnt know wht to do but jus go aead ..its better dan nt knwing wht u 2 wil end up with.
560485
I'M SORRY TO SAY THIS BUT WHAT THE HELL IS UP WITH UR MOTHER? WHAT KIND OF MOTHER WILL NOT STAND BY THEIR BABY GIRL? SHIT!!!!!!!!!!!!!! AND ABOUT UR MAN FUCKIN KICK HIS ASS TO THE CURB. IF HE WAS UR MAN IN THE FIRST PLACE AND F***KIN UR BEST FRIEND, THEN Y NOT LET HIM BE BUT BY HIMSELF. THAT MAN MAY NOT AMOUNT TO ANYTHING F***KIN AROUND LIKE THAT! GIRL LEAVE HIS ASS AND GO GET TESTED U NEVER KNOW IF HE MAY HAVE SOME KIND OF VANERIAL DISEASE THAT CAN HURT THE BABY! IF U WANT I WILL COME OVER THERE AND TALK TO UR MOTHER AND SMACK SOME SENSE INTO HER THICK ASS HEAD! GIRL, IF I KNEW U I WOULDN'T LEAVE U OR LET U GO ON WITHOUT ME HELPIN U! GAHHHHHH! I HATE THE WOMEN THAT DON'T STAND BY THEIR KIDS IN ROUGH TIMES LIKE THIS! U NEED TO HAVE A TALK WITH YO MAN AND TELL HIM HE BE THERE OR COUGH UP SOME CHILD SUPPORT. NO BABY SHOULD HAVE TO GO ON NEEDIN THINGS. IT SHOULD ALREADY BE THERE FOR HIM/HER! U TAKE CARE AND I WISH I COULD HELP U OUT MORE! TAKE IT ONE DAY AT A TIME AND U WILL SEE THAT THE LORD WILL SHOW U THE WAY!
296291
oh you're not in an abusive relationship at all are you? he was you wrapped around his lil finger and you don't even realize it. wanna know where this is gonna go if you don't grow a back bone and leave him? you'll be dead in a ditch somewhere and it'll be his fault. if he loved you back he'd trust you enough to let you do your own s.hit without havin to make you call ever 5 f.uckin mins. you need to stop and pay attention to what your gut is tellin you bout this guy. i wouldn't be surprised if it's tellin you to leave and not look back
339378
it's good you know that these thhings are now too much to take. DOn't tolerate each thng that he does. If you think you're being violated at this, yu shouldn't give much time for him. You'd rather have a breakup if he can't get better after explanations. After all, he is proving how immature he is with all that he does...
447669
I went through something similiar to this and I put my foot down and told my boyfriend to either stop talking with her or I was history.  He stopped immediately and things are great now.  Sometimes you just have to lay down the law or they will keep doing stupid things because you allow them to get away with it.  Good Luck.
83610
Honestly explain to him first that you feel like you're not trusted with the child and let him know how that makes you feel. If you two are in agreement then you can approach the mother in a non-threatening way and let her know that you'd like to be more involved. you are a step-parent here and should be.