My boyfriend is saying i cheated on him, now like 1 yr later after the rumor was going around and i thought we'd settled it. He swears to God that he has a tape of me doing it!! and i think he does have a tape but only with some one that looks like me or something... but he said he is 100% sure its me!! what can i do or say???
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Watch the tape with him, and point out why it cannot be you.\nIf he doesn't have a tape he is a psycho. Or he's just bluffing to try to get you to "tell the truth". And that's just sick.\nIf he doesn't trust you over something someone else said, he is not worth your time, and will never trust you, because there is nothing you can say or do to prove your innocence. My ex boyfriend played little mind games with me all the time, and didn't trust me. People with trust issues like that have one of two things wrong with them 1. he was cheated on before and can't trust anyone anymore 2. He himself is not trustworthy. Take your pick. He's probably got more issues than a news stand. I'd dump him. I know it sounds tough, because you have some history, and you probably love him if you're going through the trouble of trying to make things right, but seriously, if he doesn't believe anything you say, do you think you can be happy with him?
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Well I guess I would have to say something - oh sorry wrong room so hed be sure he saw me.  I would leave with my head held high and never speak or acknowledge him again.  If he tried to talk to me or even act like he knew me - I would respond with i think you have me mistaken with someone else - never give him the satifaction of thinking you ever knew him at all because obviously - you didn't.  People that cheat also lie and steal.  Who needs that in there life.  I am sure it hurt like haties.  At least that is what i think i would do - good luck to you - that was a tuff one
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Just ask him about it, usually if there is nothing to hide he'll just answer you... but he may not want to answer because he thinks your accusing him of something... if that's the case just drop it until you have proof something is happening... Its probably nothing to worry about :)
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I feel for you on this one.......what I've noticed with the one girl that cheated on me is that you stop talking about your feeling for one another and try to hide what he did that night.  The shorter the conversations the more likely it is that the other person is cheating on you........
102897
Just tell your partner exactly what you posted!!!! I don't think it's right but it's worth a shot!
181043
Yep. It's worse that he still sees her...how did you find out that he cheated? Did he admit it to you or did you find out yourself? It's awfully hard to trust someone even if it was someone before you that they cheated on. Often the cheater expects and awaits being cheated on and the cycle continues.
608478
A liar makes a horrible boyfriend. You might want to consider trading up. But if you want some information, I'm putting in a Website that might help. Hope this helps.
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he can't keep playing you like that, telling you he's been with someone else just to make you jealous whether he's really been or not.  you do deserve better than that, someone you can put up with, someone who appreciates you, wont be with someone else or lie about being with someone else.  you need to move on, find someone who makes you happy, or maybe take a break from dating completely for a while to find out what you really want.
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Sorry angel,  You will never know if he will do it again, how did you find out the 1st time? I mean did he tell you or did you find out? was it 1 time or 100 times? If he cheated then he would lie about how many times he cheated. You are the only person that can determine if you can trust him again or not. You have to decide weather the relationship is worth the worrying or not worth it and find someone to be with that you can trust.  good luck  god bless
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No i dont think that your being cheated on. Your friend was just joking around.If he starts to get to close to your girlfriend then be watchful.But it sounded like a joke.
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Your boyfriend is breakin up with you.  I've done it like that b4 myself.  dont need to come out and say it, just let it drift apart n by the time the girl asks whats goin on, i'm already with someone else.
578397
I suppose he've cheated you.\nOtherewise some kind of accident occurd.\nNow its hisduty to contac with you.\nYou are a nice girl look at your future.
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y did u do it? u don't trust him? if u don't trust him... y b together in the first place? a relationship would not last if both parties do not trust each other... talk it over with him. COMMUNICATION is the word! :)
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I have to agree, you will not find out he is cheating unless you catch him. Do you think that maybe that this group of people that are telling you things possibly don't like you? Maybe they are jealous of you and your man and don't want to see you guys together. Question yourself girl. I believe all people, whether or not they say they do not know their significant other is cheating, deep down they have suspicions, that maybe something is not right.  Did you ever suspect him of cheating before people have told you this? How was your relationship before all of this happened? I think you need to evaluate the way your relationship is going. Good luck.
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If he's convinced that you've been cheating on him and can't be persuaded otherwise, then he has trust issues. If he doesn't trust you, how strong is your relationship? \nAnd do you really know what he's thinking? You sound humiliated, and what you really need is a heart-to-heart with your boyfriend. So many problems can be sorted by talking openly and honestly. If you love him, then you have to be able to come to him with your problems. If you're not comfortable and instead would rather ask random people online to help you with relationship issues, then what does this say about the strength of your relationship?
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aww...girl best thing to do is to call him and ask. honestly he should tell you if that was him sending it. orrr ask his sis if hes cheating....Good Luck!
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Some people can be extremely convincing and have mastered the art of the mind game. However, these people are relatively easy to beat if you do your homework. What you need to do is make this woman come forward with some proof of this cheating and if she can't do it, then she has nothing to go by. Also, if your boyfriend is willing to accept the story from this woman and has completely disregarded what you've said, then either he's been likewise brainwashed by this woman or has some trust issues with you. Rumors are rumors and are always started by someone with interests...perhaps this woman is after YOUR boyfriend!