my boyfriend has changed a whole lot. Whenever he gets around some cool boys he try to act all hard and shit. Then he starts yelling and cussing at me. I love him so much and I hate to brael up with him. what should i do?
124094
Your boyfriend is extremely insecure and when he gets around "cool guys" he disrespects you, and you want to know what to do? Break up with his phoney a**. If you allow him to treat you this way he will and after awhile it will not be just when he's with his friends, it will be all the time. Never, and I repeat never let a guy disrespect you, you deserve better!
157932
you are 16 and he is 13...you are still both babies but your sister and friends are jealous.  why can't they be happy for you?  you know your boyfriend's boys are high fiving him every time they see you with him...ignore what other people say and get used to it, it doesn't stop when you get older, believe me.
314312
he sounds More of a annyoing little brother then a real boyfriend!! break it up!! tell him you can't stand it anymore!! IF HE CAN'T BE MATURE THEN FIND SOMEONE WHO CAN BE!!! Good Luck!!
157297
The ugly head of jealousy has reared itself.He is insecure that you are maturing and catching the eye of other guys.Going to different schools makes it worse for him because he can't keep an eye on you.This is normal behavior for your age group.All of you have feelings you are not used to and you have to go through them to be an adult.These are tough times but also the best of times.Reassure him that you only care for him but you want to be able to have friends without him being upset about it.If he still acts mad and pouts about it to the point you're sick of it,tell him you need to be free to see others.You are too young to be this tied down to an insecure kid.
278893
thaghost84 above is full of **it. There is no point in staying with someone you can not talk to. If you stay in this relationship, it is going to get worse, so you might as well make a decision now as to whether or not you want to deal with a boyfriend who doesn't care about the same things you do. He is jealous and controlling and does not deserve you. You may not like hearing this but it is the truth. Dump this guy and date someone you can talk to. This is a good foundation that you can then build on. You start with the foundation, not the roof, if you want to build a solid, beautiful home. The same is true with relationships.\n\nBuh-bye now!
627031
I would tell him that hes pissing me off and upsetting me by saying those things and talk to him about it. see if he will agree to stop it. then if he keeps on, i would just dump him and move on. there are PLENTY of guys who will make you feel special... you dont need one who tells you that you need to change just to suit him.
368720
Sounds like he is going through a phase.  My man jsut went through that and I kow, it hurts.  He'll come out off it soon, and he will some running back to you.  What hurts them the most is when they hear you are going out and having fun without him, try it girl.  Good Luck!
350066
He's a bully. If you stay with him, get used to a life of walking on egg shells. I bet he was "sorry" later and tried to tell you he didn't know what made him do it, or said you "made" him do it.  It's not a mood swing, it's a precursor to more verbal and emotional abuse.
54609
well....u really need to tell him hes gonna get his ass kicked.if that happened to me i would get my girls.....take notes) and my new bf and beat the shit out of him....then if that happens others will FOLLOW.....!!
255886
Ask someone who is rough and tough to approach him to tell him not to make this sort of remarks in future. Let that guy tell him you are no longer his and tell him to stay out of your life. In the meantime, get closer to your new boyfriend for as long as it is neccessary. Use whatever means to avoid him.
370803
Yeah, that'll happen to some people in high school.\n\nIt seems to me like you need a boyfriend yourself to make you let go of this guy and live your own life.\n\nYou are thinking the grass is greener on the other side with this guy, and it may not be that way at all, since if you actually were dating him, he might actually be a jerk or a self-centered snob etc.\n\nI know this advice will sound weird at 1st, but try living as if this guy was obsessed with you, and you don't even notice him.\n\nSometimes just thinking the opposite of something that bothers you will make you live that way.
523803
Wow someone sounds positively angry with the guys......some men are this way but many are not....it sounds like you have been hurt ....if so you need to not let this turn you into a bitter, and twisted person try to get past it. Good luck.
318339
i understand you are very frustrated...\n\n... i can see that you want him to make a decision\nbecause you hate being taddled along and dragged about\n....\nand you want a definite 'relationship' or 'not' kind of\n... relationship...\n\n... and i bet you... he understand that as well...\nbut put yourself in his shoes..\n\nif you had a boyfriend and were getting along fine...\nand suddenly, a single guy enters your world...\n\nand completely blows you away...\n.. now what would you do?\nyou might say, 'i'll take him,' but it's not that easy...\n\nhe's struggling...\nand i might take a step further to say...\nmaybe his girlfriend is on him about this...\nmaybe she's getting the hint he's not 100% committed to her\n\nmy best advice to you is... give him time...\n\nif you constantly prod him, he might completely ignore you..\n.. if you give him room for thinking and reconsidering,\nhe will seriously weigh it out...\n\n... moreover, he will see your understanding side\nand your compassionate, openness and he will run to you..\n\n.. meanwhile, you go out and have some fun...\ni don't mean cheat on your soon-to-be-boyfriend\nbut go out and meet your friends... guys and gals...\n\nmeeting other gals will set you back to your\ngiggling-chatty-girly mode, which will ultimately put you\nin a euphoria of confidence..\n\nplus, guys will drool over you, and you can neglect them\nand gain higher self-esteem...\n\ngodspeed
546077
Back off and get a grip of yourself.\n\nYou say nothing changed...and yet you say things got a little worse.  Obviously something changed...it just wasn't by your rules.  Things changed also in that you've shared something important about your feelings.\n\nJust be nice to him but don't expect him to react the way you want him to.  Respect that he'll react the way he needs to.
162101
Aww that's terrible, to me it sounds like he's the one with all the problems and you're going out of your way to be friends with him.  He's being abit patronising and maybe it means he needs to grow up abit, so maybe there isn't anything you can do at the moment except explain to him again all this from your perspective.  When he does degrade make sure you defend yourself, and even if you're not right maybe you can give the thoughts you had that made you think that way.  But it's not an exam, and please don't let him make you feel bad and I really hope it works out!
474712
Smart girl, you have handled that poking incident very well. It was a harmless prank that some boys play to amuse themselves as well as others.\n\nHe is sort of feeling sore being ditched by others. And who doesn’t? I think he still has a liking for you; didn’t he betray himself by blushing (turn red as you put it)?\n\nPlus the fact that you now have a new boyfriend, it is indeed complicated for him. I sure hope that your friends don’t tease him too much, have mercy. Haha.
341535
im going thru the same sort of thing. my relationship is way longer than yours and my guy is 24 and he is also working on a degree for computer science and forensics....i thought that was normal until i would go to his place and he would ignore me...i would just walk away and ignore him back! most of the times i fell asleep listening to music on my MP3 player which is sad! now my bf sort of passed that phase where videogames were his world but he still plays them and  the only thing i can do is to do my homework or read a book or be on my cell or cook or something. ...your bf is going thru some weird videogame stage where he wants to beat a level and he cannot therefore he gets frustrated therefore he curses and uses bad words because he is mad...! keep yourself preoccupied while he plays for lets say 2 hours tops and that is it! have a talk with him and tell him that if you are over you would appreciate it if he would nor curse and to pay attention to you and not the videogames! if he gets mad which he will tell him that he can play his game for an hour and then you two can watch a DVD and he cannot comment or make excuses!if he keeps it up just get  out of the relationship honestly since if he is willing to pay more attention to some stupid game and not the time he has with you he is taking you for granted! as for you putting up with his tantrums well, just get out of the relationship because you never know what can trigger him to go at your throat or call you names or curse you! he seems to have anger management problems and just because he has a bad day does not give him the right to take it out on you!!!!!! wha next, he will become physically abusive but by "accident" since he cannot control his temper?think of all the worst case scenarios and then think if you want to be with a guy who is obsessed with video games, does not spend quality time with you, treats you poorly, takes out his stress or bad day on you and gets aggrivated with you? even if you love him please leave him and i am giving you this advice as a friend since i am 22 also and in college, because he is pushing you away and throwing away the good relationship he has or by his actions he seems not to care for you anymore.. he takes you for granted and you are his outlet to release his stress and anger and bad day and nothing more... if he actually loved you he would spend time with you and would not treat you so poorly or take out his bad day on you but rather act nice, sweet, would not curse if he knew you hated it !\n\n\ningrid