he's jealous,dont trust her, dont want men or females around her. always ?'s her. never b-lieve her. she better b where she said she at. But when she call ; he answers when he's ready. better yet sometimes don't answer at all.calls her back a few hrs later or dont call her back at all. I believe he's cheatn.  What you think?
136790
i think he is cheating to but if he's not why deal with that. remember when you was growing up you had to answer to your parents where you going what time will you be back and had to be home at a certain time why go back to that you might as well be at home. and don't never let a man tell you where you can or can't go. that is to much control, and believe me it don't get better only worst. you need to sit down with him and tell him look i am not your child and you can't tell me what to do if he don't like it then you need to get out before it is to late.
665177
I'm confused.. When you say you were speaking to other men.. is that all then? I don't see anything wrong w/that. You say tho 'he stayed w/me' and I don't know why he wouldn't (if it was just conversation.) You say he had a secret relationship.. was it sexual? You two both sound kind of jealous/possessive.. I mean I am basing this on the assumption there was nothing sexual involved in any of this. (If there was, that's a different story..) Let me see here.. He treats you like crap.. I take it that's the real issue on hand here.. I think men are kind of like babies (I'm married to one.. lucky me..) or they want their cake/ to eat it too.. they want us to cook and clean (and spread 'em) but on the other hand they want their 'freedom' to screw around on us at the same time. (We can't do anything along the same line tho..) that sux, right? He stayed because he's been with you and while the other gal's 'something new/exciting & different' you're the one he's 'used to living with' I am thinking. (Hell, this is depressing me!!) Hey, I DO think you've got value/self worth, dont' get me wrong! I'm just kinda bitter about men is all.. It sounds like my marriage of l4 years (boring.. I'm bored..) My ole man's an asshole (cuts me down) and then developed (or so he claims) e.d. so he tries to do the oral thing (doing me 'one big goddamned favor') on me for sex (but it's wearing thin or gettin' old I mean.. fast..) I want to dump him too.. (I think you want to dump THIS guy..) do it!! that's my 'valuable' advice for ya
423985
Some people can be extremely convincing and have mastered the art of the mind game. However, these people are relatively easy to beat if you do your homework. What you need to do is make this woman come forward with some proof of this cheating and if she can't do it, then she has nothing to go by. Also, if your boyfriend is willing to accept the story from this woman and has completely disregarded what you've said, then either he's been likewise brainwashed by this woman or has some trust issues with you. Rumors are rumors and are always started by someone with interests...perhaps this woman is after YOUR boyfriend!
568741
Im a guy and I hate dudes that do this kind of stuff,makes it hard for those of us that dont cheat.[we're not all dogs] So check it out CONFRONT HIM.
251272
There is a strong chance that he is NOT cheating!!!!\nBUT he is surely not attracted to here sexually.... BUT he might like something in her that he values more than sex.... that could be a reason that he is still around!
588027
Konichiwa!\n\nFirst off. Some guys are defintly over jealous. Sit down and talk with him. I think what he is afraid of is you cheating on him, reassure him that you are not going to. And that you deserve the freedom to talk to anyone that you wish. This is not the old days where slavery and Housewives were kept behind locked doors. This is the 20th century.
113511
I agree those are what most people think, and the main one is Why? I think it comes down to, did I do something wrong, why did he/she do it? If your friends or family know about it and don't tell you I feel that's a huge betrayal. They either don't want to get involved but I think it's wrong for them not to, because then you look like a bigger fool when everyone around you knows but you. Both sexes need to be honest if they're cheating because it catches up  with them in the long run anyways. JMO
434509
I'm pretty sure in this case she's just a means to an end--in other words, a booty call. He's lost respect for her, hence the treating her like crap even though he's sleeping with her, and he probably feels that he's entitled to act that way since she cheated on him.
426818
I have been in just about the same situation as this.  I hate to say it but, once a cheater always a cheater.  If she went out with other guy and even if she said she never had sex or what ever she will keep going out with him because she is thinking that he is the light at the end of the tunnel.  Or if they are just friends.  Sorry but there not.  Guys can not be friends with women, we always want more.  You know what I mean\nWomen are crazy.  \nEveryone says no one can understand women, that's because women don't even understand themselves.
29857
I cannot agree or disagree with him.  I was not present during all of those 4 to 5 months that the couple was dating.  He says he never promised her to get into a serious relationship, but did he ever tell her that?  Did he just lead her on for the sex?  Did she ever ask him what his intentions were?  Did she just assume that because they were having sex that the relationship was serious (or would lead to more commitments)?\nAnd what business is this of yours (unless the woman was your sister)?\n... and don't you just hate it when somone answers a question with a bunch of questions?
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I would believe her but like if he ever called you. dont bring it up at first let him know you still love him then when the conversation is cool like yall talkin alot stuff. then just ask him question about cheating not towards him but just to see how he reacts. now if he still dont answer your call then he is embrassed to talk to you and know that you know he cheated on you.
264602
In my opinion, No... he should not be talking w/another woman about her's, his, or anybody elses relationships. whether you know them or not.  Things like this lead to emotional cheating.  Stop him now....
10516
I think he must be hanging out with my ex-boyfriend because he did the same thing. Only problem ... I let him get away with it for longer than I'm willing to admit. Girl, I'm sure you are so sweet, smart and better than him. Just move on. I know I should take my own advice at times.. lol. This guy is doing one of two things or two of two things. He's either 1. Terribly immature and doesn't want to appear "whipped" in front of his buddies - AKA "Bro's before Ho's theory...or 2. Cheating and trying to keep you at the same time. AKA- having his cake and eating it, too. Either way, pls dump him,go out this weekend and forget about his immature, childish, sick, evil ass. Boys like him deserve to wake up with nothing but themselves,cheap beer and their dumb buddies drooling on them.
181043
Yep. It's worse that he still sees her...how did you find out that he cheated? Did he admit it to you or did you find out yourself? It's awfully hard to trust someone even if it was someone before you that they cheated on. Often the cheater expects and awaits being cheated on and the cycle continues.
614041
no you told him if you keep trying it will turn him off from you just let him make his own decisons because obviously he knows she cheated so he just leave it beanyway but he doesnt want to he will have to learn the hard way it takes that for some of us but he is only hurting his self. It will never trust her again anyway.
145380
Plain jealousy..I have learned you can't tell females too much of you and your man's business. Don't listen to anything she tells you..she is trying to destroy your happiness...you have to live for yourself..and do what ever you are content with...perfect example..she has a sucky marriage..so why would you trust her judgement...maybe if she wasn't so busy hating on you...things would have been better for her. KARMA
98686
If it were me (which it's not) I would keep my mouth shut.  But you just have to think about what you would do if you were in her shoes.  Would you want someone to tell you or what?  Women generally have a "gut feeling" when their man has been cheating, so it's possible that she already knows and just doesn't want to admit it to herself.  Talking to him is definantly a good idea.  But why would he cheat and then ask her to move with him.  Maybe you can plant a guilt trip on him and he'll tell her.  But I think it's his place to spill the beans!  Good Luck!