i have been tring to vis- my sons grave  but when i get there i cant pull in it's like i cant find the brake i stay on the gass and go right by it am i scared or what  he was killed in 02 and i have only went to see him 1 time why  what is my prob
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I can't even imagine how you feel but my heart goes out to you.  Your son is watching and he knows that you're trying.  Look up and smile at him now.  He'll appreciate it more than you know. :)
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How sad for you. Maybe the coroner can tell you which funeral home he was sent to. 4 years and you missed the funeral? That's the part I don't get. You might also try contacting the funeral homes in the area to find out if they handled the case. if he was sent elsewhere, try locating his family. Use what you know, phone books, directory assistance, web searches, and public records. Hope this helps. Hope you find some closure. God be with you.
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Mine was a Tyco Glow in the Dark race car track, the one with a loop de do.I pulled on my moms leg for like two months for this. I never forget when I unwrapped it. I just about crapped my pants. I still have one of the cars. Don't know what happened to the track though. I wish I still had it.
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You are missing your son.  He made your house a home and now he's not there anymore.  Fill up the empty space with doing things for yourself that you put off because you were busy being a full time father (kudos to you for being a real father!).
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Yeppers. We have a little boy ghost. He's cooled down alot though. He used to run up and down our stairs and the hallway.\n\nAnd my mom had a dream and there was this little boy outside her window and she opened the window and took out the screen and was grabin his arm to help him in and his arm got all streatchy and when he got in her room his face got blurred and then my bro Eli called bc he said he just had this feeling that he had to call her. (He always does that when shes havin a bad dream) And then after that we heard running up and down the hallway and stairs. \n\nI'm afrade of the dark now because my brother closed my door and then i started hearing footsteps coming toward my bed and he was in his room. And i screamed and he came running into my room and i told him what happened. And now i sleep with my door open and the hallway light on.\n\nAnd we think we have a few other ghosts in our house.
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I lost my oldest son just over 5 years ago.  He was murdered.  I am still not over it & never will be.  The best thing I can tell you is turn to your religion.  That has helped me.  I think God gives us answers on how to go on without our loved ones in everyday things.  Like, this might sound wierd to most, but sometimes I hear (in the back of my mind) my son talking to me or answering a question that I've only asked myself.  I take it as he's giving me advise.  I think I'm living life as my son would have wanted me to live it.  I'm making decisions that if he were here & I'd asked him for his advice, they are ones that he's tell me.  I don't know hon, life goes on & so must we.  Sorry to hear about your loss.  A son, aunt, mother or father, its never easy & nobody has all the answers.  Just take it day by day.  You'll have good ones & bad one.  I've learned to deal with it cause all the tears & sorrow or angry feelings isn't going to bring my son back, just make me a bitter person.  He wouldn't have wanted that.  He was a good young man, 23 at the time & had his whole life with a wonderful career in his sites.  He was brutally murdered.  We just had the trial back in September '05.  It still hurts but like I said... he would want me to do just what I'm doing... trying to be the best person I can be.  Good luck to you sweetie!
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gosh.. ur not even dead yet how can they be walking over your grave?.. just go see a dr.??..Good luck take care...!
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Lexy,\nI am deeply sorry for your loss, however, remember you son is now in a better place and is watching over his mother.  Read Sylvia Brown's "Life on the Other Side".  I have had too many close experiences with death and this has really helped me understand what is to happen next.  Our bodies will terminate, however we will not.\n\nNate
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You mourn.  You remember and cherish the good times you had with him.  You might even do something to honor his memory.  And you wait for time to heal that wound his death made in your heart.  Trust me, the healing will come.
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sadness is a feeling.........just go with the flow....if ur sad...then feel that sadness....u will know when to stop.  My son died Jan 29 2005 and i still feel sad...........i am just not miserable sad.....u know crying all the time like when he first died.
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the mind is a terrible thing\n\nI have been lonely for a long time and have finally found a girl to love and marry so I am very happy but I have to deal with my children who are thinking I may be rushing it has only been two and one half years since wife died. And she wants her son to be there when we get married but he is in the service and cant come home for a long time. I guess i just have to learn patience.\n\nwell i have talked probably more than my quota\n\nGood luck and God Bless!!
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Turn to God. I also lost my father at age 10. I am now 30. It hurts but God can turn any sadness to joy. I know this because 4 years ago I also lost my first born. God has a reason for everything and even though we may not agree or like it he will make good come from it. My suggestion to you is to turn it over to God. He is the only one that completely understands how you feel and he is the only one that knows exactly what you need. I hope this helps, even if just a little.\nGod Bless.
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First please let me say that your grandbaby is in my prayers as are you and his parents. As for the why, there is no why, I wish there were, but God doesn't take children or anyone else as a punishment, in fact he doesn't take them from us, life does. This earth belongs to Satan, not God, (It's in The Bible) Our suffering is due to Satan not God, when we hurt, God weeps along with us. God Bless all of you in this sad time. We lost our grandson back in July, try to find comfort in the fact yours is still fighting, and just might win. I hope and pray so. Please try not to lose faith.
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Yes, and I'm going through it right now.  I'm pretty sure it's my uncle who died two years ago January 16th.  He started having a lot of pain right around this time and in the beginning of December, was put in the hospital.  He had a lot of pain.  So much pain.  HIs pancreas was failing and so was his liver.  His lungs also kept filling up with fluid.  Right after he died, my stove kept turning itself off.  The electrical part of it.  My satellite receiver in a completely different room started doing this too.  Since two days ago, it keeps doing it.  Multiple times per day.  Not every once in a while like it was doing.  Also, my 9 month old son keeps looking at the celing and smiling and laughing.  He was doing that when there was a large balloon hanging from the ceiling.  It was for my daughter's third birthday party, barely full and two days old.  she turned three on Monday.  Well, as he is looking up there, smiling and laughing like something is there, that balloon all of a sudden pops on its own.  Nothing was visibly touching it.  It just popped.  The balloon next to it was blowing like wind was on it.  There are also these orbs of light that come and go.  They usually come from the hallway and go towards the windows.  When the balloon popped, some orbs were going.  Oh, yeah, and two elderly women had died in this house.  I didn't know this until two years after living here, when I was already experiencing what seemed like an angry spirit.  The things I was told by my neighbor matched exactly what was going on in this house.  At times, you hear this loud thud.
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I’m really sorry for your loss.\n\nYour experience is very normal, and I’ve heard as much from other people, especially if they had a good steady relationship with the parent who died. My grandfather died recently (he was in his 90's), and my mother is going through the same thing, even though she was prepared for it.\n\nEven deep friendships have the same sort of “resonance.” One author wrote about his best friend dying in an unexpected accident and said that every time he saw a white SUV of the same model as his friend’s sitting in a parking lot or passing him on the road, he had to fight the urge to pull over or turn around and look for him. His head knew that his friend was gone and not coming back, but his heart kept hoping anyway. \n\nThere are so many cues around us that we associate with someone we care about, and even when they are not there, we are still cued to respond.\n\nI know it’s distressful, but unless you are doing some dangerous things because of the feelings or find yourself unable to function on a daily basis, I would just say you’re very normal. \n\nLook at it as a clear indication of how much you loved your father and what a good relationship you two had together: Even though he has died, his presence still seems very real to you. \n\nHe is in a sense “always with you.” \n\nThat’s actually something special -- it's an experience that some people never have with their parents or anyone else. In a way, although you are suffering his loss, you are still very blessed.
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Sometimes it is hard to move on. Psychological help sometimes is recommended, it is not that bad. Sometimes, it is nice to talk to someone who is a stranger, and know that confidentiality is there and good advise can come out of that person. Your son can be the reason why you have not moved on. What I think happened is that God wanted your son to come to this world in order to help you with the loss of your fiance. A Marine never dies. He is probably guarding the gates in heaven, awaiting for you and your son to come trough. And knowing how Marines are, he probably wants you to be happy by marrying someone who will take care of his son and you. You have to carry on with your life so he can safely guard the gates in heaven. God Bless.
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I am so sorry to hear about the death of your father. When my aunt died last year, I thought I kept seeing her or hearing her voice and she didn't even pass away at my house. But that is their spirit, letting you know they are there. Ask God to help his soul and finally take him home. I know it may sound weird, but when you pray, also take time to speak to your father. He will hear you, trust me. If you need anyone to talk to, I am here.