Ok..I let this go for the first 3 moof school and as long as nothing was said school was fine and what i mean i conplain about the the bad behavior the kids has in my daughter class room and then the teacher started being mean to my child cause she thought I was talking about her not taking control..They call my daughter liar , name and make fun of her , call her rude they say mean things to her, well when she take up for her self and say thing back the teacher act like she is the mean kids , other student in her kids has told me the teaher dont like her and is mean to her...I have talk to teacher, principle, superdient..superdient help a little..\nI do want to state she has never been in trouble in school , never been to princple and is a honor roll student, does her work , is in gate, gifted and tal. and academic team...And has alway like school until this year and now she write in her joural how she hate school and dont like kids being mean...and has alway got student of the month
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THATS HARD BUT U SHOLD TAKE THAT UP WIT THE BOARD OF EDUCATION IF THE TEACHERS AND PRINCIPLES AREN'T LISTING TO  CAUSE THE TEACHER CAN GET FIRED FOR THAT
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this will pass so please don't hurt yourself,the same thing happen to my friend her ex best friend turn everybody against her,tell your mom whats going on make her change your school because its really no point being in there no more,my friend changed and she doing really good know she didn't know nobody and they all like her,if theirs anything else here's my e mail sheilalicious197,hope it helps
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As a mother of 3(and a day after all 3 of their P-T conferances!!) I absolutely agree with you..\nToo many parents out there coddle their 'poor innocent children' and don't even know the first thing about teaching them responsability and discipline..I really think that it is a major problem right now but will really come back to bite us in a few years when they are 'adults'.\nMy now 10 year old had major problems with late work and 'forgetting assignments last year. The teacher cared enough to call me and both her and I sat down and developed a plan to work this out together..we checked her work leaving school and I checked everything at home. It was time consuming for both of us; I also NEVER blamed the teacher-i made my 10 year old accountable and wanted her to understand that she needed to become responsable. A year later at her 5th grade conferance(last night!) her teacher this year had nothing but good things to say..how she dives into her homework at study time..asks for help and never has late work this year..plus she had almost straight A's..\nI think teachers are wonderful and are one of the most under-paid professions out there..\nUnfortunately some parents take those things as some sort of personnal insult or don't seem to understand that in a few short years their children will need to enter the adult world.\nI hope knowing that a very, involved caring mom(able to admit that my child isn't perfect!)completely agrees with you will help
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My son's first experience in school in Kindergarten got him one of those teachers.  We butted heads all the time.  She labeled him a trouble maker because he didn't stay on task and wanted to move faster than the class did.  I told her that she was wrong so I was the demanding parent.\n\nTeachers come in all types and some are just not good or have worn out their welcome.  Some fear change.  Some are threatened easily and when there is a smart student they feel it and react badly.\n\nIf there is an issue that she is wrong about (or any teacher in the future too) bring in proof that you are right in writing.  I did and, yes it made my teacher MAD, but the other students then started to question her and she was forced to prove herself the rest of the way through.  You may not be the favorite in class with that teacher but you will be respected by your fellow students.  If the teacher threatens to fail you for speaking up (like mine did) go higher up (principal, dean, etc) with the proof.\n\nYou're an A+ student.  Let her know it!
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She probably doesn't really hate everyone.  She may just be tired, or frustrated because the kids don't enjoy her class.  The absolute best way to get someone to be nice to you is to be nice to them.  Maybe no one is ever nice to her.  Give it a try.  You might be surprised at how well it will work.
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You should encourage your daughter to tell Kathrine that if Henry wants to join them in their play it is OK.  I would also speak to the teacher about it.  Sometimes they are unaware of these types of problems since they don't seem to be acting disruptive.  Speaking to Kathrine's mom could be a big mistake.  You never know how she will interpret your input.  Also, at 4 kids see things differently.  Any chance you could spend some time at the school during recess and watch as things take place?  Hopefully you could intercede and help all the children to get along together.  Hooray for you and your communication with your child.  You should continue your open lines of communication because it will help as your child grows.  Especially in the teenage years!
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It appears you have been very professional in dealing with this - good on you!  Do you belong to a professional organization of teachers?  They should be able to provide more support.\n\nInterpersonal relationship advice.....why does she have any power over your students?  You've done very well in modelling appropriate behaviour - good on you!  Is there another teacher who could give your students peer partners?  That would give another opportunity for appropriate modelling.  Ask her students about their motivation:  What do they get from being mean to the girls?  Until you understand the underlying fears of the people involved, you won't be able to determine their motivation.  Sometimes we just have to work with jerks - realize her limitations and work around them.
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What are you, the stink police?\n\nI absolutely don't get you or the other school brats who have written in like it's okay to criticize "in a helpful way" your friends.  Do any of you like to be hurt?   I can just see a school full of teenagers running around sobbing because you're all so helpful pointing out each other's flaws in the name of "friendship".   When did this version of friendship start?\n\nWith friends, you're there for them no matter what.   You don't judge or criticize or tell them what to do with their hair or their boyfriends or their body odor.   Would you want someone telling you that you are selfish or immature or a gutless coward because you leave notes for people who offend you?\n\nI don't think you're trying to be her friend.   Your question is all about you, and you sound like a major drama queen, worried about how being a snitch will fall back on you.   Face it, you aren't trying to help her.   You're trying to find a way to be nasty without getting caught.   You even said the teachers won't do anything about it, so why bother embarrassing or humiliating this girl?\n\nMaybe she can't take showers at home because she has a stepfather who likes to watch.   Maybe she can't wash her own clothes because her mom's a drunk and doesn't want to take the girl to the laundrymat.   You don't know WHAT her situation is, so why not focus on yourself (like you aren't already) and see what needs improvement there?    That should keep you busy for awhile.\n\nGood luck.
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I would suggest that you let her remain in public schools, mostly because she is already shy, home schooling will just withdraw her from more social interaction.  You have two options, let your daughter know that everyone goes thru phases and that she should ignore the "bullies" and focus on her school work and friends in which case the bullies will either give up because they know it doesnt bother her anymore or hopefuly they will grow up.  your other option would be to see if you area has another local school that has open enrollment that would alow her to change school districts and give her a fresh start.
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I've had issues with a preschool my kids went to for a few months about a year ago.  \n\nThe school was basically two large rooms, separated by age using partitions, instead of actual walls and doors.  What made this LOTS of fun is that my oldest (who was 3 1/2 at the time) and my youngest (who had just turned two) were in different classes, but could often see each other running around their individual classes.  Every time Colin (the little one) saw Cameron (the older one) in passing, he'd start up crying again.  Apparently, he was in a perpetual state of separation anxiety.\n\nThis same school, in Colin's class, did virtually nothing "learning".  They would play, nap, etc., but there was no circle time, no active learning experiences.  Basically, his "class" was just supervised play, or babysitting.  \n\nCameron's class, however, I think was TOO advanced.  At 3 1/2 years old, his class had journals.  They would have reading time (which I normally would have no problem with, but no one seemed to notice that he was just glancing through one book after another, instead of someone working with him).\n\nThe final thing, though, was when Cameron's teacher called Child Protective Services because he had a scrape on his face.  She had not been there in the morning, when we told his morning teacher we had taken him to a park and he fell down, so she called in this "unexplained injury".  The total communication breakdown this evidenced kind of sealed our decision to change schools.  After the change, both of the kids just started learning A LOT, and we noticed major changes in them.\n\nI think there are some major things to look for to decide if your child is in a "good" school.\n\n1. Does the school encourage you to visit, call or ask questions?  My kids' current school has one woman working in the office, and she knows us all by name.  We were encouraged to visit before enrolling the kids, and we can visit or come up there at any time.  They were also very understanding when I called every morning about an hour after drop off for about a month, just to make sure the kids were okay.\n\n2.  Are the classrooms spacious?  Are there potties closeby (for potty-training kids, having bathrooms for 1-2 classes is GREAT)?  Does each child have his or her own storage space (cubbies or lockers)?  Is there natural light (I like that there are big picture windows in my kids' classrooms)?  Is there a playground with safe, fun equipment?  Is there a covered area outside for play on lightly rainy days (this isn't always there, but there's a big back porch where the kids play, and is covered with chalk drawings, on rainy, but not storming, days).\n\n3.  Are the children there clean, and do they seem to be comfortable and happy?  Do the teachers interact with them on a child-friendly level?\n\n4.  After you enroll your child, does he seem happy in the evenings?  If asked, will he tell you things he learned, and what he did that day?  Does he seem to like his teachers?  After a while, does drop off get easier?\n\nIt's important to remember that, even for a child who LOVES his school, his teachers, his friends, drop-off is NOT a foolproof way to find out if he is happy.  My 3-year-old plays happily throughout the day, and he's just crazy about Miss Paula, but when I drop him off, he cries and cries.  I've asked occasionally, and been told that I'm probably not even out of the parking lot before he's happily playing with his friends, listening to a story, or telling Miss Paula about what he did the night before.  This is VERY normal for young kids, and for slightly older kids who are naturally shy, VERY attached, or who are going through some major changes (for example, if your child is being put in daycare/preschool because the parents split up, he moves out of the house with Momma, and Momma, who has always been home with him, has to go to work, all parts of
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You need to arrange a meeting with the teacher immediately to address this - have another person with you, and keep notes of what was said.  Don't go in all guns blazing, be polite but firm and explain your concerns in a dignified manner.  If you do not get anywhere with the teacher submit a formal written complaint to the head teacher and ask for a meeting with him/her to disucss your concerns and what can be done.  Take notes of everything and copies of all letters/details of phone calls.  Take notes of anything your child tells you and of any changes you notice in your child behaviour - reluctance to go to school, nightmares, bedwetting, acting out of character. The teacher has behaved unreasonably, but give them a chance to give their version as you have so far only heard one side.  As I said - make notes of everything, the more documentation you have the stronger your case if you do need to take this any further. It's hard to stay calm and rational in this situation, I know but you've a better chance of a positive outcome if you do!
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It does sound as though they are jealous...what you need is medical evidence that what is happening at school is affecting your daughter, like a letter form the doctor about bruises after hitting and kicking, or a letter about her being upset and in a state of "Mental Anguish". then go to a solicitor/lawyer and sue the Educational Authority for neglecting the needs of your daughter and not taking care of her properly, not providing a place of safety.\nMy friend did this and miraculously within a few days of her going to the solicitor, the bullies were expelled from the school and the authorities were made to pay compensation by the court.
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if you have to ask, then maybe you shouldn't be parenting at all. dude, thats just not right. she probably is all fired up about going to daddy's job and you wanna take her to a whore house? come on! i totally respect your position and wish i had your job but use your head, will ya? it is no place for any juvenile. Period! call in sick and fake another job for the night so your daughter will stop wondering what you do at work. be creative. did you tell her you work at a brothel? if you did, just explain it to her. PLUS, if you DO take her and she reports it to her fellow students (which she will) or teachers, you could risk having her taken away from you. keep her outa there.
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I am so sorry that your son's teacher said that to you.  There are no easy answers as I am left wondering about some of the details.  I am a mother of 3, and when I was a child I was in special ed as well, I am hyper active.  As an adult I use my excess energy to my advantage and I work in a field where things are always changing and I don't have to sit for long periods of time....\n\nEvaulate the situation.  What if anything would you want the principal to do?  Is there another class for your son to go into?  Besides being a Jerk is this teacher the "best" teacher for your son?  Is changing schools an option?\n\nDepending on your answers to the above questions, you may consider talking with your son's teacher, or making an anonymous report to the principal of the school stating that you fear retaliation if you speak to him/her directly.\n\nSometimes we all say or do things that we realize after the fact were wrong.  Sometimes we don't realize what our words truly mean.  I think that a solution for the teacher is to have him/her take an in service on diversification and understanding special needs.
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I can tell by your rambling letter that you really could use someones help and support.  Why Montel?  How about getting an appointment with one of the school administrators. I would think children going through the stress of having one or two of their parents in harms way is stressful enough.  The kids then have to be subjected to bullying. \n\nDon't just storm into anyones office with all your complaints.  I understand your frustration.  Instead, write down in short sentences the facts.  For example, on such a date little Mary was kicked on the bus.  Or, little Amy had her lunch stolen.  Explain their fears of school  and how long this torture has been going on.  Wait a week if you do not hear anything.  Go over that persons head.  Make sure you know who and when you spoke to these people.\n\nIf you don't get results, I hate to recommend this, but maybe a big antiwar news show such as MSNBC or CNN may want to hear your story.  Good luck
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i am exactly like you are.  I'm always.. stuck and getting picked on.  But i just ignore them.  I stick with my friend.  dont' worry about them.  there obviously immature and just ignore them and they will stop.  I know that its hard and that sometimes  you want to go up and smack them.  but it will make things worse if you do it to by talking about htem behind there back.  just remember how much that it hurt you.  and now you don't want to hurt htem.  they will EVENTUALLY grow up.  and if they don't.. well then thats there problem.  just be how you want to be.  its okay to cry. i've cried at school a million times.  all because of DRAMA.. it sucks but you'll make it through.  good luck.. best of wishes<33
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Well child I think you need to relax. If you are innocent as charged then all you can do is tell those two girls that you did not tell on them. If you did, apologize to them. Then all you have to do is ignore them. Do not try to get even, it only makes things worse. In my opinion, the average school girl is the meanest and most uncaring person. You have to remember this, as long as you live your life and do things in the right and respectable manner, nobody can tell you otherwise. It is your duty to know the truth about yourself and when others try to pick on you for it, just know that they are ignorant and are only seeking attention, mostly from you. Just ignore them and try to cherish your childhood.