My parents are sooo overprotective. I've never done anything that would make them not think i was trustworthy. All my friends can walk down the street but my mom goes "NO!" and gets mad when i ask. What can i do 2 change their minds.
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lol - Good for them.  One day you'll understand and appreciate them for it.  Believe it or not, they actually do know what they are talking about.\n\nOn a side note, learn to cook and clean and all about finances before you leave their house.  They sound responsible and probably can give you some good tips.
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If you have an adult close to you, that you trust, you need to confide in this person.  Or perhaps an older sibling, a teacher, a school counselor.  Anyone that you feel you can talk to...and they can speak with your parents. Sounds as tho your parents are under some very strong stress for some unknown reason. Beacuse neither one of them should be treating you, like you say they are.
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If you are living at home, you do not have the right to privacy!  You likely are not providing the home, the utilities, the groceries, the upkeep and maintenance or anything else associated with the home.  Further, your parents are probably purchasing most, if not all, of your clothing, make up, accessories and on and on.  Do you drive yet?  If so, did you provide your own car or did your parents provide you with one?\n\nResponsible parents KNOW that their children don't tell them everything ~ they were teens once, too.  They also know that it is a very different world than the one we grew up in and kids need a lot more protection.\n\nSure, there were dangers in the world when we were teens, but there were no internet predators, there wasn't near as much kidnapping of children and teenagers, children and teenagers, regardless of gender, being sold into sex slavery and any of the other things that teenagers think will "never happen to me." \n\nThe truth is that none of the ones in your age group that HAVE had it happen to them ever thought it would happen to them, either, but it did.\n\nSo what if he read an email about a guy you liked.  Don't you think he knows you are going to like guys?  You're making a big issue out of something that is no issue at all and, frankly, you're acting like a spoiled little princess about the issue, too.  Sorry, but truth is truth.\n\nAgain, you do not have the right to privacy as long as you are living in your parents' home.  I agree with all the other people who have said they wish more Dad's were like your Dad.\n\nInstead of being overly defensive, demanding "rights," and whining about something as trivial as this, why don't you be grateful that you have parents who are able to provide you with a computer, who are able to keep a roof over your head and food on the table, who love you enough to say "tough cookies" to you and "invade your privacy."\n\nYou want privacy?  Get a job, move out, be completely self-supportive and ask no one for anything.  Then, and only then, do you have the right to privacy.\n\nAs far as the answers on here that say what your Dad is doing is illegal?  Chances are they, too, are teenagers who think they are owed anything they want.\n\nNone of you are "owed" a darned thing!  What you have is by the grace of your parents or other family members providing it to you.  YOU, on the other hand, owe respect to those who provide for you.\n\nIf you were mine and threw a fit about me looking into your computer (which I definately would do) or looking through your bedroom (which I would do), then I would make life very easy for you by removing the computer.  Complain enough, and I would remove your bedroom door.  Continue to complain, and I would remove all extras, such as make up, hair styling equipment and supplies, one by one until you got the message.\n\nHere's the message:  Go to your Dad.  Apologize for overreacting to his CARE and LOVE for you.  Tell him you understand that what he is doing is done out of love for you.  Start respecting and stop demanding.\n\nLastly, you wouldn't be so upset if you weren't hiding something.  You know, I know it, and you can be very assured your Dad knows it.  Teenagers think they are so clever; but, as parents, we see right through you.  Sometimes we stop your behaviors if we think you can be seriously harmed by them.  Other times, we just sit back and feed you enough rope to hang yourselves so that you can learn a lesson the hard way.\n\nADD ON:  See?  My point proven exactly.  No sooner is my answer posted than I see you shouting (using all caps) at people, telling them to give you reasonable answers.\n\nMost of the answers ARE reasonable.  YOU are the one being unreasonable, sweetie.  You are a 13 year old **CHILD** and you are screaming at adults who are trying to help you understand?\n\nOf course you cannot go out and obtain a job and a car .
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i've been there done that..how old are u??..my mom done the same thing..u have to earn ur trust back..its hard tho' but i move out of my mom house when i was 17 in  a half..i was out of school..
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i'm 18 and my parents are STILL the ones controlling my life. i used to think the way you do. but now i'm slowly realizing that parents know best. they're only acting the way they do coz they love us and they want to protect us.  when i was 17, my parents found out that i had a boyfriend and they asked me to break up with him. although i didn't want to, i broke up with the guy and followed my parents' advice. i was sooo depressed. then one day, i heard news that my friend got pregnant. and then a month after that another friend of mine got pregnant and what's worse, she was left by her boyfriend. so i thought, it could have happened to me. (although i know that it could NEVER happen to me coz i think im responsible enough. hehe..) but you know how much we teeenagers fall in love. we're a crazy bunch..\n\nyour mom is not controlling you. she's just 'dominating' you in a way coz she wants the best for you. i suggest you show her that you're doing good in school, that you're obeying them, and that you're doing your resposibilities well to prove to them that you're a grown up now. the next time you two disagree, better discuss things between the two of you. and remember, be polite as possible whenever you're presenting some suggestions. she's your mom after all.\n\ntrust me, everything's gonna be fine. i'm just a teenager like you..who thinks i can do it on my own..but still goes back to "mommy!!!" when something's wrong. hehe.. :)
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honey it sound like your parents are way too protective of you and they dont want you to grow up. but remember this when you turn 18 by law you dont have to listen to them. apply for collages away from home and go somewhere away from them. dont let them hold you back from doing what you want. thay have to relize their baby girl is growing up. or do what i did join the military. your parents have no control  how faw away you are then. and you could be sent to other countries. there is military bases in korea china japan philipines england spain germany and all other kinda of places. and its a secure job especially if you make it a career. \n\nI hope things work out for you. all you have to do is show your parents your grown up, and while you may need advise they can't control what you do.
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Parents are not over protective of their children. Yes, it is true that some parents are more cautious about the things they let their children do and see than other parents. No matter how much you try to protect children, you can't stop them from being hurt. I hope this helps.
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I hope that you can talk to your mom to ask her to tone it down around your friends,,,,, I sure that she would understand ,,,, if she wont dont let her be the reason that you cant bring friends home...... Good Luck!!
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This is a family issue. You know you are innocent so, I would allow your mom to know whats going on. Yes even your father. They can be your greatest allies here. Sometimes parrents can be a true blessing and in this case, maybe MOM has a few tips up her sleeve that can really help. After all she was once your age and had her best friend too. I would goto them with everything and let them in on it. That way your relationship to your folks is greatly inhanced and they may even have the solution you need. Its worth a shot.
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From my experience, coming home late or breaking curfew was a major way of testing my parents trust. Considering your ages, I am surpised that your parents are so restrictive. Ask yourself, what is this 'bad' that they think you're doing? Did your parents come from deeply religious families? Were your parents also restricted by their parents? What about her parents? It may not be fair, or make a whole lot of sense these days, but that could explain some of their methods. Do you or your girlfriend have troubled pasts, maybe trouble with the law? Did you ever have a truancy problem with school? Don't think that I am blaming their behavior on you, I just want you to think of all  possibile reasons. It almost sounds like you two live a bit far away from eachother, and that might explain why you're only allowed to see eachother twice a week, and talk on the phone for only half an hour a day. Have I nailed it yet? No? Okay, parents may not seem to make any sense some of the time, but they are your parents. Like it or not they have say into your relationships. The more you show respect for them and their wishes, usually the more trust they'll have for you. So if you're considering sneaking around after dark or anything like that, don't try it. Chances are you'll get caught, and just imagine how often you'd get to see her then? Probably not at all. I know this is a hard time for you both, you're almost legal adults, but until you turn the magic age of 18, you just have to bite down and endure this. You will get through this, just be patient with her and your parents. I am going to assume that talking with your parents wont make much of a difference, but there is nothing wrong with trying. Ask them what it is that they fear so much, and do your best to put that fear to rest. Assure them that you intend to follow their wishes, and do so when you're out with her. If they see that you're true to your word, the less likely they are to shorten the leash. I get the feeling that their fear is your sexual activity. It is my personal opinion that you two are at the ages when your sexuality is your business, however a parent will feel like your business is always their business. You can be 50 years old, and they'll still consider you their baby. Being that your sexuality is your business, I hope you wont mind if I give you a piece of advice: protect you and your girlfriend and use a condom every time. Anyway, you will get through this, I promise. Good luck.
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Tell your parents right away and take them and yourself down to the police station to report them!!\n\nDO NOT let them intimidate you ... that is unacceptable!!
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I think I was overprotected.  I rebelled when I was a senior in high school, and partied a lot then and in college.  Maybe if I had been allowed to do more, I would have done less.  \n\nON THE OTHER HAND, I have two kids right now and I find myself laying down the same rules as my parents did. :)  Go figure.
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You mention the word "respect". Check out the meaning in the dictionary.  I would not do anything my parents wouldn't approve of. Think of the consequences before you react. If you have to lie about something you know it's wrong even before asking someones opinion. And...this 22 year old MAN could be incarcerated for being with you.  You two are breaking all kinds of rules. You say you are mature. This will not be a mature move on your part.
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Honey your mom is going through a lot of stress right now and so are you. I can assure that she loves you and while she might be angry ( hell even PISSED) at you for sneaking out she will respect you being grown up enough to tell her what you did and why. Tell her how you are feeling and what you did. It is a fact of life that you have to accept the punshiment that goes with the "crime" so step up and maybe this conversation will help the two of you understand each other a little better in the long run.
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Did you try telling them..If not just don't be anywhere near them alone. Tell your parents and take appropriate action.
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As a parent of a teenager who says I'm too strict, I can say that it's very hard to strike a balance between keeping your child safe and allowing them to develop the independence they will need when they go into the world on their own.  \n\nAs a former teenager whose parents were even more strict than I am, I can say that overbearing parents can have their good intentions backfire as the child may rebel.\n\nThe parent and child need to discuss the issues at hand, which will depend on the activity the child wants to go do.  The parent has to be honest about the concerns that come up, and the child has to explain to the parent how they will handle the situations that concern the parent.  The child will have to prove to the parent that they are capable of handling themselves independently in order to ease the parent's mind.  \n\nIn my case, I have learned to trust that I have raised my child well thus far, and provided the foundation that will allow my teenager not to give in to peer pressure and to consider the potential consequences to any actions that might be considered.
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I was in the same boat.  My advice is to keep them happy, and tell them how much you're trying to get that job, or work hard at uni.  They wont stop, but at least they dont have too much of a reason to pester you.  After all, they are your parents and they probably just miss you - try not to cut them out of your life.  A sit down and chat session is reccommended: i had to sit my parents down and explain to them that im a big boy now, and to trust me to keep myself out of trouble and work hard.  They said they understand, but felt that they still needed to be parents to the baby of the family.  Keep your cool with them, they're only doing it cos they love you.