I can't get over being rejected, i cry usually 5 times today, and he rejected me 2 months ago! I can't get over him. I want to hangout with him but he alway say he's busy. I caught myself stalking him today after school... i walked him all the way to his house... he didn't know it. I'm scared i might hurt him physically since i can't get over him... I've even thought about killing him and then commiting suicide so we could be together forever... I can't take it anymore! I feel subhuman and i need help, and i'm only 14years old. He's a true gentlemen, holds doors for ladies, open car doors for them, Never argues with them, never fights them. I've seen him do this for his girlfriends...I want to forget about him all together but i can't! He is the most beautiful human i've ever seen grace this earth. i buy him presents (About 3 times a week) and stuff. I can't tell my parents about this because they'll only beat me. Im scared ... please help. I don't want to live like this anymore.
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first of all you are only 14 you have the rest of your life ahead of you. trust me im 25 i have had thousands of crushes along the way it is not worth killing yourself over if u kill him and yourself he might go to heaven and you go to hell because killing yourself is a mortal sin. as far as you folling him STOP IT STOP IT NOW. because if the boy does not know u are there than your making yourself hurt even more u buy gifts does he know they come from you? if the boy does not say hi to you that he does not know that u exsits stop swetting the boy leave him alone i know it hurts but u never know what guy is liking you because you are so worried about him the next guy that comes along might be your true love it is not worth it he is not worth your time and energy over 1 boy do something else get involved in some type of activity becasue you have to much time to think about him you are worried about this boy who is not worried about you he is not doing all of these things that you are doing to get his attention leave him alone by the time you get my age you would have had lots of boyfrinds some that break your heart and some you have left heart broken trust me get involved in a club and not 1 that he is in something else get a job at the mall of at the local y or ask your parents to send you to teen camp trust me you will find another guy and stop tring so hard if the boy does not like you so what i tell my kids the same thing you should say well im beautiful and forget there are more boys out there trust me you will find some 1 please take my advice ive been there so get on with your teen age life trust me you are going to miss it when its gone i wish i could get mine back
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Break-ups and crushes, bare names that express what we go thru when this happens to us. You can get thru this! The trick is, allowing your heart to catch up with your mental feelings. Try this. Tonight, write him a letter. If you don't have an address, or a way to make contact, that is OK. Pour all your feelings into this letter. After this, tell yourself you are going to beat this. Mentally, keep reassuring yourself this. You have to have a plan. Now think about what you like to do. Make contact with your friends. Especially the one who makes you laugh. You need her humor to take some of the dark out of your life. Get up in the morning and put the plan in action. Shower, fix your hair, put on something that makes you feel good about you. And get with your friends and hang out. Go to the show, book stores, mall, the baseball field, what ever you want. When you set idol , your  mind will start thinking about him and the hurt will follow. So you have to take full control of your thought pattern. The second you start thinking of him, think about this really cute outfit that you know you will look really hot in. Think about anything, but him. Stay as busy as possible. Run in the evening or go to the gym and never look back. This will help time to fly by. You are going to have lots of fun. And the best of it all is your heart is going to heal and when he comes home, he is going to be so sorry he treated you like this. Guys have a tendency to think we woman will just wait around fo them, but we don't anymore. By the next time you see him, you will of probably had several encounters with some of those "other fish in the sea" that people talk about. Remember, your self worth of you, is more important thanwhat others think. The better you feel about you, it will become sooo obvious to everyone around you, how great a person you are. That feeling you hate so much, will die off as soon as you step up the beat. Go Girl!!!
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Just tell him how you feel.  If things work out, great!  If they do not then stop talking to him every day.  You are clearly not over him and having contact every day is not helping you get over him.
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You are obviously still young enough to find a better person.  This guy has waaaay too much baggage for you to carry.  Take it from someone who wasted alot of her young adult age on the same guy you just described.  Believe me, you're wasting your time.  At first, because we were "in love", he was all for the "help" and did alot to stop the bad habits he had.  But after a few years, he started to resent me, because I had "tied him down", "made his life boring"  you get the picture.  Then when he became depressed, because he wasn't having any "Fun", (If you call drinking yourself unconsious fun or getting arrested because you started a fight at a gas station, fun)  He was so pissed at me all the time, because he couldn't go "out" that he started to verbally, then physically abuse me.  I tried to stick by him,  help him, I always told him that "all I wanted to do was help him", he just said I was trying to control him.  He would purpously start fights with me just so he could leave and use me as an excuse to go "out".  The funny thing is , I refused to listen to my mom.  I paid for it with nine years in hell, and I haven't seen my family for twenty years.  Please while you still haven't been through hell, get out.  If you choose to stay, keep in touch and on good terms with mom, you WILL need her someday.  Watch out for the warning signs and take care of yourself.  Good Luck
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Its really fun....I'm going through the same thing myself...my girlfriend of 2 yrs called it off 3 days ago and I'm suck in the same predicament. I absolutely can relate to you because I'm afraid that I won't ever find someone that I care and love. Not to mention she was my first girlfriend. To make it worse she tells me that she doesn't really see a future with me even though she tells me she loves me. Anyways I just want to tell you that its ok and hopefully both of us will be ok in the future. I wish you luck and I feel your pain. Oh, and the Dr. Steve answer is not fair... I'm not a teenager and I'm going through this so to say that "its a meaningless relationship" is cruel.
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Well I'm here right with you... The man I feel in my heart is my soulmate has the same problems as your ex... in fact because of the last incident that occured two months ago, were I came home from my father's after visiting for a few hours and he became very physically abusive, I left him... but i guess my heart stayed with him.. I still keep in contact with him, we talk twice a week, I love him more than anyone could ever imagine... he knows that I would take him back but he would need to get help... we tried once a year ago while we were together, but he didn't want the help for himself (he wasn't ready), he was doing it for me... the important thing is not to push them to do anything they don't want because then they may become resentful... I love him so much, it breaks my heart when I see him, because looking at him I know that he's not taking care of himself (he's diabetic, 31, and insulin dependent)... I always remind him that I really fo care and love him, and that when he's ready to get help, I'll be right there with him... just make sure that he wants the help.. if anthing email me... we can chat
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I had the same problem as you, I was 3yrs younger then this guy at school & i totally loved him & every1 thought he liked me but he never made a move & then graduated & i never saw him again. Its heart breaking! Eventually with time you realise that u dont see him anymore and that he must not have felt the same because he never made a move. Hopefully you'll meet someone soon who's heart you steal away and you feel that same back. It unfortunately takes time. Try to hang out with friends & avoid lovie-dovie movies! Wish you all the best - i know your pain! :)
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Hello there,well i did have to stop to this question my dera!A question that i myself use to ask myself awhile ago,but for a long time now resolved!Now I really get the feeling that this questions also is asking for help and desperate mesures!Now i Do Not Know your Case..But I can Feel it!My Name is Smaara,I am from Canada a,Quebec,I am also Glad To answer this for You..But I am Also Offering You My Help!Now your Question Is Why Do Woman Always Get abused?-Well I have To say That in My entire life abuse was part of it..since i was 2 years old,You see i do not know you,and i know that you are living things that you do not deserve at all!In a Womans Life..She Who Has been Living With abuse,either Physical Or Phsycological is even if she doesnt want it seems to be attracted to it...If You had Abused since a very young age..when you reach teenager..you have the bad gift of usiing this vicious circle..that even without knowing!I Had a Really Rough Life Of Abuse...Believe me You Need To Get Out Of IT!Stop Now and Think About It...What Has Your Life Has Been Breing You With all The abuse You have Been Experiencing!I Lived it But Also Studied It and If You Do Not Btreak Up This Circle That Is around You,Following your Eveysteps Of Your Everyday Life Well...No Maen To Scare You But some Dont Make It OUt!Lots Of Woman Will Use The Help Hotline Our Abuse line..That is Not Your Way Out,And That My Dear Is What I Know,You need TO Get Out..Not Tomorrow,Not In a WEek,But asap.....Men Love To Abuse Woman Because Thery Feel It Gives Them Power,Yes Power Over You..He has a Nee To Feel that He Controls Youre Every Move And As Far As I KNow...I think That You Do Not Need That..Especially With The Life YOu Had!Mister Feels SO Important...But Let Me Tellk YOu,,Mister si Nothing But A Looser!Break it now while its Not To Late..You Need Help..I am There For You Even If You Do Not Know me.Read Below Plesae.
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Oh wow!  Went through what you're going through last month.  It's called DISCIPLINE!  I learned to focus my energy on other things.  Pray, eat, close your eyes when you see him, ANYTHING!  Girl, do NOT let him see you sweat!  Time heals all wounds...and no one said it would be an easy recovery.  Tell yourself that you want to leave him alone...plus did you say he has a girlfriend?  \n\nThat right there would be motivation enough for me, jizel...it just ISN'T WORTH IT!  The right man will cross your path in due time...just have a lot of patience...I do, and I'm not even thinking about another man...honestly...it took me about 3 weeks to get over the fool I was with.  And now I feel better than he could ever make me feel.  Now he realizes how much he misses me because I stopped answering his calls and even stopped calling him.  I stopped giving him a reason to make me feel anything other than disgust for his no good, lazy, no money having a*ss!\n\nTHIS TOO SHALL PASS.  Be strong, jizel, I know it's hard, but God won't let you go through something He doesn't think you can handle.\n\nKeep your head up and your smile too...\nMo~
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i know how you feel cuase i maybe just getting out of that right now...\n\nsee i haven't had a real boyfriend for almost 2 years  and about two weeks ago i asked a guy that is a grade younger out, he said yes becuase i knew he really liked me.. we went out for a week then i said i am just a lil over welmed by the feeling and just need to take a lil break.. after a while he started talking to my friends and practically the whoiole school found out we liked each other and now everyone considers us to be dating...  and we just kinda go with everyone cuase everyone else thinks it is great now im not so overwelmed with the feeling... i think the overwelming i use to feel was that i was afraid of being heartbroken again.\n\ndon't worry you will grow out of the feeling a lil while after you begin dating.. depending on however your emotions work..\n\nnothing to really worry about
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Honey.....blood is thicker than water.  Grow UP.  He is a waste of space for doing this but I'm afraid you are even worse.  The longer you play this game the worse you are going to feel when it all comes crashing down and it will, there is absolutely no way around that.  Get control over yourself and just stop it!
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wow...I'm in the EXACT same position. I could've asked this question because I'm going through the same thing. I've been absolutely infatuated with this guy and don't know what I will do once he leaves. It's so difficult but the best way to get through it is to find another guy. It sounds much easier than it really is because no one compares to "him."
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Guess what L****e, I've noticed that too. * really 'dumps' himself on you whenever he feels he needs help. No offence, but I really dont like him as a person anymore. I did like him in the pre-M****e days, but now... YUCK. Plus, hes an EMO which is really starting to bug me. And his hair!! HELLOOO you are plantinum blonde!! Never gonna get it to go black!! Don't worry though, because  when he remembers that you where there when he was dumped the first time, he'll come crawling back. Either that, or I'll make him remember i.e. hurting him. xx
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If that's how you feel then you have no choice but to put it all out there, just like that.  There's no time to beat around the bush, or hold back your words.  Worst case scenario, he rejects you- but then you'll at least know where you stand, and that you did EVERYTHING you could.  You don't want to have regrets later on, or wonder if there was anything else you could have said or done.  Good luck, and know that no matter how this turns out, you were true to yourself, loved him with all that you had, and fought for what you wanted.
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Hi Raiden,  well..you are going to get alot different ways to look at your situation.  You sound like an honest, straight-forward kind of guy that has had to deal with alot in 18 years.  My heart goes out to you and if I had the answers I would tell you..but if I told you they would only be the "answers" for myself.  You are the only one that holds all the answers for what is right for you.  As frustrating as that may sound to you it is actually good news.  You don't have to follow any one elses path.  This life is your journey and you are not asking too much out of it.  Sometimes the only thing that holds us back is our own fears...fear of getting hurt, fear of rejection, fear of judgment, fear of failure... I want you to try something for me.  ask yourself what you would do today if you weren't afraid.  Don't push yourself into anything just think about it.  When you are ready you will know it.  There is nothing wrong with you.  You weren't put on this earth to suffer you were put here to discover.  And if you believe nothing else...please believe me that how you feel about yourself and life today will be different with each passing day.
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Aww. I went thru this over the summer break last year. And I'm telling you, fr. female to female, the best thing I did was leave him, and in this case that's what I think you should do. Im not even going to lie, it took alot out of me to leave him! Just like your dude he made me feel bad and yet still I gave him chance after chance cause I thought that he would change and that it was just a phase... Unfortunately, it was'nt a phase, this was the real him. A rough, heartless, mean person that put others down to make him feel better. That's not even the worst of it! I thought he was the one for me SOOO much that I went against my family, ALL FOR HIM! My family turned against me cause they wanted me to not be with him so bad! Back then I didnt understand why they kept on acting like that but now I see. They were just looking out for me. And even though I dont know you, I, looking out for you too because I know how it feels to be where your at right now. It feels as if the whole world has turned against you. And that he's the only one who loves you. (Or at least thats how it felt to me!) Thats not true, after you leave him your eyes will be open again and you'll be able to see who really loves you and those are the people that tried to warn you about him. The best thing you can do is leave him. When I left my boy, at the time I felt like I had made a HUGE mistake, but after I start realizing all the other people in life that is there for me and that have my back thru thick & thin, there was really no point for him being in my life. Boys can only give you so much joy for so little time, but what will you do when that joy turns into pain? Or when he leaves you? Your back to the depressed you again? That's not how it's suppose to be. NEVER let a dude determine how your day is going to be or how you look at the world! You should never even look for happiness in boys, this is kinda old school but, the true happiness lies within yourself. If you feel good about yourself, you wont care what NO ONE thinks about you. See how much you can gain if you leave him? Dont worry ok? The right one for you will come along ok? Dont ever let a dude make you question how much your worth! Im sure your a very sweet person that's just feel into one of the traps that most fall into. It's not your fault. But listen, the best part of breaking up with him is the fact that he WILL want you back! That's what happened to me and he STILL is asking for another chance and what do you think I said? NO! Once he breaks your heart he'll always find another way to do so, so why go thru it? Yeah it makes you stronger but other than that its just causing you great pain. I hope a lesson from my experiences help you! Just remember to stay strong!
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Forget about her!!! I've had the same situation with this guy, until I finally said to myself, Hey! What am I doing here? He doesn't deserve me and I'm not going to wait forever! I shoudn't be running after him he should be running after me! And if he's gonna want me back, it's too late for that! And guess what? He wantd me back. And I didn't. That's what you should do. Have some dignity MAN!