I am a single woman with one child.  I like to think that I have my life together.  I have 30 credit hours until I recieve my B.A in English.  I want to be an elementary school teacher.  I have my own home, car, and job.  I am very independent.  I am an attractive female.  Why can't I find a man, that can and does support himself. I keep getting mama boys that live at home or DON'T HAVE A JOB. I don't want someone to take care of me....just someone that knows what it feels like to have a long day at work. I want to go dancing, take weekend trips and have fun. Life is short.
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Man, I like your personal ad I am very impress. Im kind of like what you describe except I dont have any kids and I already have my degrees ...Im 34 in Chicago. I have the same problem too ,but with females. Females I run into they smoke(weed), drink and party... EVERYDAY, I cant do it EVERYDAY. I have plans and goals not to mention A JOB.I came to the conclusion probably I attract that type of woman because of the people I hang with from time to time.
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I have lived in your shoes. I worked to get myself through college as a single mom.  We were broke for so long, it was hard.  There were many times when quitting school seemed like a great idea and I was pushed to do it.  \n\nI stuck it out and today I have a masters degree.  I have a good job and the ability to get an even better one.  My children lived through the times when going to McDonalds was not in the budget.  Today they enjoy Caribbean cruises and dine out all the time.  We live in a rather nice home and have enough disposable income to supply the "extras".  \n\nI did get re-married, however I finished my degree first.  I am so glad that my children have seen first hand the value of education. \n\nStick with it, focus on one semester at a time.  You CAN do this!!
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There is hope out there.  I think I am sexy, guys tell me all the time. BUt I am not stuck on myself.  I am not high class.  But i do like to look good.  I might go every once in awhile to go and get my nails done. or go get me an outfit but its not an everyday thing.
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It sounds to me like you are really enjoying your life and that your family is a very important part of that.  Do you really think that some man could fill the empty space that you would have without your family?  After all, family is forever and a relationship while hopefully forever isn't always.  I think you have a great life and that eventually you will find a soul mate without moving away if your just patient and keep trying.
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I married for money and I can tell you that is not the way to go.  I was a single parent working to pay bills and have time for my child.  I married and became a full time Mom which I love.  But my husband is very controlling over the finances.  I have "things" and I love my children but I have no relationship with my husband.  I am just another one of his "children".  If I could do it all over I would marry for love, friendship, companionship, and someone I enjoyed being around.  Money is great to have, I love that I am not in debt and have the finaces to buy what I want but I am lonely and find life is not much fun.  I stay for the children but when they are grown I am out of this marriage!
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I agree your situation is totally common, I am a freshman in a community college and it is common to feel like you are alone. Professional help is not a bad choice, I think. But I also think that you need to adjust your focus. School is very important and girls can always wait. I went through this recently, I was totally focused on the guys, I thought that I needed a guy to feel good about myself, but it isn't true. You can't expect anyone to accept who you are until you do!! You are a great person and you have many great qualities, but you can't show anyone that until you believe it yourself:) Think positive the sun will show again tomorrow and you get another chance at your life:)
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you would probably last with someone in ur same situation..cuz us single fathers go thru the same thing..the moment i say i have a child , gurls scram lol soo maybe u just need someone whos a parent aswell. like me..* wink email me! lets talk.....
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First of all, what are you doing relying on your parents if you have teenage daughters??  By all means I was not a perfect child but, bu time I was your childrens age, I didn't rely on my parents for squat except for a roof over my head and food.  Stop exausting your efforts on relying on other people and asking for help over the internet and rely in yourself.  If you want a job, there are plenty of them out there...  I lived in Santa Barbara so don't tell me there isn't.  See what "truth"?  What does this mean?  Call me your "angel" and I've heard your "cry", only it sounds more like excuses and moaning.  Stop blaming others for your problems and make some changed in your lives.  Where are your daughters?  Living in the street too?  Don't you think there is something wrong when you bear children and aren't able to take care of them properly.  Hell, I may not know anything about this, I'm only 24 years old...  I know shit happens and I feel for your perdiciment but, you need to make soemthing for yourselves, it's out there, you just have to find it and want it bad enough.  Good luck and God Bless.
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I agree with you dei . . . \n\nGreat women are rare . . . \n\nAnd Ashley . . . you are correct also . . . a dedicated homemaker requires lots of passion . . . but I believe Dei (the asker) is also speaking in generalization.\n\nLook at the world around you . . . most women . . . are looking for a guy . . . to usually pay their way through life . . . because through feminism . . . they are taught that they deserve it.  \n\nTrue women work . . . and generally in the corporate or fiscal world . . . they don't work as hard as men, work as many hours, or they take time off for incidentals.  \n\nMen go to work . . . 8 hours a day . . . work overtime when asked with no complaints . . . even if we are sick . . . we still go to work.\n\nProfessional women . . . they go to school and get a good career or job . . . but then they decide that they want a baby.  They take a leave of absence . . . and when they come back . . . they are back at their job . . . usually part time . . . because they want to spend time at home with the baby or they don't even return to work at all.  \n\nWomen generally want to marry up . . . (marry someone who makes more money than them).  When they do . . . then they think more about their relationship than work and their work suffers.\n\nLet's talk about women who do not work . . . the housewives sect.  Because the age of women's lib . . . women stop doing the things that are normally a traditional gender role in the home.  \n\nDo you know how many women I dated . . . who don't even know how to make a grilled cheese sandwiche.  Or have problems cleaning the house . . . or do the laundry.  You know how many times . . . I came home from work late . . . and asked what's for dinner (to a fiancee) . . . and she says "you have two hands . . . do it yourself"  Many guys will say they heard that from their gf and/or wives.\n\nWomen often say they are taken advantage of . . . by men from the work they do at home or at a secular career.  If that is the case . . . why do women live longer than men.  And with women's libs . . . and mother's on strike . . . men not only work 40-60 a week but they also do housework too . . . is that fair . . . no it is not.\n\nAsh . . . you are an exception to the rule . . . but that is a rarity . . . a prize . . . your husband must love you a lot . . . and you must love your husband a lot to support him . . . in his career endeavors . . . as he supports you in getting a better education.\n\nSomeone like you . . . is something to be proud of . . . but women in general . . . no . . . I don't thinks . . . because most (in general) are self-centered.
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I think you need to explore life and travel before settling down.  Go to college, get a career for yourself, get a job, an apartment.  See what it's like to live on your own.  Be independent before you become dependent on anyone.  Trust me, I was with someone but I cut him short, did all the above and now I am married with child and I can't tell you how happy I am.  I've done the things I wanted to before settling down.
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i think that everyone needs companionship so look for that relationship, as long as you are still being motivated to better yourself in all areas. You have to continue to look for that better job, more money, education, etc.  just remember everyone starts out the same way you have (unless parents are filthy rich) and grandma's saying "If you see a turtle on a stump you know it didnt get there by itself"everyone needs help at first
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First, of course it is possible.  All it takes is focus, work, and commitment. If you have those, you can do it.\n\nSecond, don't count on being female or minority as being a help.  It may, but probably not.  You will have to work your asss off in Grad school.\n\nThird, screw everyone else.  This is between you and your God, your conscious, yourself.  If you are a single parent there is another consideration - your relationship with your child.  With a good support group you can surely do it, but even without one, you can do it. \n\nThere will be sacrifices.  You will have to give up something.  Maybe straight A's, maybe some luxuries, niceties, even things you thought were essential.\n\nDrive, motivation, focus, willingness to do hard work.  With these you can surely do it, not even a question.  Without the commitment to yourself, however, you don't have a chance.
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Have you actually checked with your school? Also check with women's help centers in your area. A lot of times they will bend over backwards to help a single mom get funding for school.
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it all depends on your financial situation.  YOu definitely have a job taking care of three children, YOu could always make a little money babysitting while your children are in school but just because you dont have a "paying job" doesn't mean your job is any less important than your husbands.  If you weren't home to take care of the kids, clean house, cook, then your husband wouldn't be able to work.
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Hey softballgirl. I too am single, been single for way too long. Right now I am in a place that will continue to keep me single (overseas working on a govt contaract) and hating it.  Maybe you would like to get in touch with me and lets share our misery and find a fun solution to it?    bagdadboyd@hotmail.com
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I think that is a fabulous idea. I believe everybody needs love, but timing is very important. I am a very independent person. I didn't want to be one of those needy or high maintenance chicks that had to have someone to take care of them. It turns out that guys really dig people like me and you usually stumble on love when you least expect it or when you aren't even looking. I think you should focus on studies now. Pamper yourself once in a while, and just be happy with yourself...the rest will fall into place.
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sounds like your in a pickle...i am 26,man that looks old, but anyways, listen.i got the same thing from my girl, about a few weeks ago. not the fact of moving cause of school or anything(we have been 2 gether for 6-7 years and have a 4yr old son). she just came to me with the fact that she thought we need time,i never saw it coming and all that, yeah..it sucks.when your in love and when they come to you with this crap, your kinda like...what?when?how?why?me? i got like you. thisterrible sinking feeling inside.thats when you really know that you care,but what hurts the most is when they are like?oh?i hurt you?\nBUDDY, i hope your young.you have no children? so go on with your life.its gonna be ahrd, i mean you put in the effort, 5 years of your life and now this. it will take some time getting over this, but hey. im sure you have a mom, or family or friends you can lean on at this time. it will just take time, besides...there are soooooo many beautiful women out there. i was at the point to where iwas like i didnt care about those other women, but get this...they do care. they are out there looking just like you will have to.some will come to you,and some you will have to suck it up and go for.everyone gets rejected here nd there*trust me it sucks) but movw to the next. if you dont want to get hurt all over again, then dont get too involved. whats the best part about this? you will meet so many intresting people and get to do new things. yeah she might be in austin having a blast with out you. you will just have to accept this, get over it and have blast yourelf. if your here and shes there, it will make it easier,but when she comes back...or is ever alone at school and the memories come back to her, she will reliaze that she had something special. not every man is gonna treat her like you did..some may be better, most will be worse(most guys in collage are NOT looking for relationships ya know?) and she will, or try to reach you again to see how you are. hopefully youve moved on, got a black book packed with girlfriends, that are friends, some even more, thats when its sweet..when she comes back trying to be a apart of your life again...you might take her back...you might reliaze, you have moved on and shes just another face in the crowd, she didnt care about your feelings then...you could blow her off, you could give it a shot all over agian. i know its not easy.in fact me and my girl are still together after i found out how she felt. we are not married..so its no promise that it will work, all i know is that i have son with this woman, and i love him-if it works with her,great if not...i ahve him, and thats all i will ever need, me,him,god-you will understand once you have a kid, it is amazing\nwell good luck pal,keep your head up..if it help..go beat the shit out of a door, or punching bag, a little stress relief, or go have a drink this weekend at aclub or bar, and enjoy the view, the eye candy..the ladies!who knows, someone might be looking for a someone like you.