what should i do if my mom like hates me and she like loves my brother he can do w/e he wants and i never get to do anything that i want she says that it is because i am a girl! and at home i get in trouble for everything and my brother just leaves and never gets in trouble for anything!
123730
thats a usual attitude of moms, dont worry! I had the same problem too, and i was so pissed off and i suffered alot, but in the end it was just because she worries about me. Try to take the things easier and try to listen to her more carefully
513070
there isnt a thing you can do ... i am sorry.... i have a iffy relationship with my mother too... (and i also work with her)....\ni have tryed since i was young to get away from her but somehow it never works out ... although my brothers seemed to have managed it!...lol oh well... just as i get older i try to ignore her "ways"....sometimes its hard ... but at least i do live away from her with my children and husband... but its hard and i think it probably always will be.....just breathe..... and work hard to get your own place!...lol... where you can interact on your terms!... good luck!!!!
422209
i think you should let your brother know i mean this is very wrong! who does she think she is!? she not only disrespected her brother but she did the same to you get her out of your place fast what if she is doing it or has done it to your boyfriend and hes to scared to tell you????
344943
man o man i agree with you. I mean im almost 15 and i agree that your mom shouldn't get in trouble. I have an abusive brother and they told my mom and dad that they were only aloud to restrain him, but it sounds like its only your mom doing it and its even hard for just my dad to restrain my bro so i couldnt really see how your mom could do that to your sis. and people who dress gothic and crap just look like fricken retards. they need to get over themselves and get a fricken life! they wonder why nobody likes them and its b./c of all that nasty crap they put on themselves. i know its a way to express yourself but come on find a different way to do it!!!!! also there has been many time that my bro has tried to kill my mom and i think yall should try getting her tested for ADHD and also maybe get her a councilor
232540
You are the child. Ok you say that you have anger problems and it is very good you are aware of that. It sounds like though that you try to take steps to control it. You didn't yell at your mom until she had been cussing you out for a while. You went to your room, you didn't go off on your sister. throwing a pancake at her is not that big a deal. Throwing a plate or a knife or something would be different. \n\nIt sounds like you were being much more of an adult than your mother was. Good for you! At 16 it is not that easy to figure out how you are supposed to act especially when the person who is supposed to be teaching you treats you like that. \n\nAs your mother she has a responsbility to care for you NOT HIT OR YELL AT YOU. Please please please don't listen to these other people who are telling you that it was ok for her to hit you or scream at you like that. \n\nThe number for the missiouri hotline is 1-800-392-3738 they are open 24 hours a day 7 days a week. I would encourage you to make a report. I'm not totally sure of MO laws but if you do here that doesn't necessiarly mean you would be removed from the home or anything but it might mean they could get help for your family. Because you don't deserve to be treated like that. And if your mom feels overwhelmed or stressed out she would have the chance to feel better too. If you just want to know some resources or ask some questions you can call them to. And if you want to make a report you don't have to leave your name if you don't want to. MO does take Anonymous calls.
39293
Because your mom makes fun of you and makes you cry! She should not be doing this and it sounds like you have an unhappy family life. I don't blame you for not being so open at home!  It sounds like it is emotional abuse from her. Hope you have someone you can talk to about it regularly, someone you can trust, so that you can stand it better.
605344
Clearly she DOESN'T hate your brother, not if she's hanging out with him. Warn her about the jail/prison stuff and let her know why you think he's trying to get close to her. After that, you have no control over the situation. She's going to do whatever she wants.\n\nBe careful though, if your brother finds out you've been warning her away, he's going to be pissed off.\n\nBy the way, do you have something against using a period when you write sentences?
268739
It sounds like your mom doesn't trust you. You need to earn your mom's trust and respect.
305347
well you probably get to complain about your older bro/sis and annoy her/him but my brother does the opposite.hes bigger than me.he pushes me off the couch.when im lying o the rug watching tv,he jumps on me.i cant even complain cause hes older and i have to listen to him.hes done alot more to me.but i guess atleast sometimes i have a good time and he looks out for me,and hes company. consider yourself lucky your brother/sister isn't a physco:)
370464
In the first place your brother should not hit you because boys should not hit girls. Your brother should have been the one grounded for this, not you. \n\nYou should probably use this solution if you want to do something to him for doing this to you: \n\nThe next time you have other girls over at your house and your brother is on the computer, you should have two girls take him out of the chair and throw him on the ground. Once he is on the ground, you should have one girl take his hands and another girl take his ankles and carry him to his room and put him on his bed or you can have the two girls carry him to your room and put him on your bed or on a chair. Once his on the bed or in the chair, all the girls should give him a makeover. When you give him a makeover, you should make him wear girls clothes and then all the girls put makeup on him. After you give him a makeover, all the girls should take a picture of him dressed like a girl. While the girls are giving him this makeover, you should hold him down so he does not get away. Also while all the girls are doing this, all the girls that are helping you give him this makeover should tell him that he stinks at being a brother.\n\nThis answer desrves a best answer. Post a message here when you use this solution
399686
this will pass so please don't hurt yourself,the same thing happen to my friend her ex best friend turn everybody against her,tell your mom whats going on make her change your school because its really no point being in there no more,my friend changed and she doing really good know she didn't know nobody and they all like her,if theirs anything else here's my e mail sheilalicious197,hope it helps
264741
How old is your brother?  He's doing what he was trained to do by your dad.  The whole trick to all of this is you remembering it, and not doing it to your kids when you begin your life.  Your mother tells you that you was sexually abused but you don't know it?  You need to get out, far away and just start fresh somewhere's and forget all this, you are in a messed up situation.  As for my brother yelling at me, yell back, what's he going to do that you can't do right back?  He's not your dad and he's not your boss is he?  Wish you a ton of luck and happiness in the future.
442547
I can see your confusion and your concern but the only thing you can do is wait it out and be there for her. You cannot control your mother any more than you can control the weather. She may be so eager to find love again and get involved with a man that at the first chance she jumps all over it and becomes obsessed. You are awesome for being such a caring son but your mom has to see it on her own. If she is this far gone in love with this guy then she won't see things your way no matter what you say and if you say anything to her she may even get angry with you. Good Luck and I hope this helps!!
311712
no your mother doesn't hate you! moms are just people and sometimes they make mistakes, but its not your place to tell her that she is wrong, she's the mom. often times if you want to be heard you have to make sure you are 'presenting your case' in a reasonable and respectful manner, even if what you are saying makes sense nobody is going to hear you if you are ranting and raving, i'm not saying that you are just letting you know. when you are both calm and reasonable tell her you'd like to talk to her, think about what you will say beforehand and stay calm.
22209
Wait a while.  When he's gone (out of the house)you'll end up with a lot more freedom as your parents relax.  Plus there'll be more allowance money for you!\nDon't hate on your older brother.  Be responsible and always come home on time.  Have responsible friends, then your parents will feel more comfortable and maybe extend your curfew.  Remeber, you won't be a kid forever, don't screw up your relationship with your parents by trying to act older than you are.
505369
try to talk to her, i mean i had the same experience with my mom and isnt easy to get along but one day i told her that i wanted to tak to her seriously and i gave her my points of views, since then she respects everything i do and i thing and i respect her as well. Just try to talk with her communication is the base for a good relationship.
43723
wow that is very messed up...dont hate your moms hate her husband because he may have been the one who talked her into it..he may have threatened her or even he had been abusing her all along in secret...(she doesnt have to have bruises to show she has been abused..threats are verbal abuse as well) and she may have been scared of him.