the more i am attracted to a guy the more recluse i become. what is the problem with me?
134160
I have the same problem. And I'm 22!
317464
The truth is that personality is the most important, but there has to be some level of attraction.  However, in my case, once I've gotten to know a guy he's become more and more attractive.
96967
you just said it your all the things these guys are not and so i guess they must feel that if they are with you they don't need to be cause you can deal with all of it....and maybe your looking in the wrong places where do you meet these kind of guys?  by the way you sound perfect so don't worry I'm sure you will find the right guy sooner rather than later
337704
That's a hard question to answer. It sounds to me that you've been involved with the wrong men. Don't accept 2nd best and you'll eventually find that there are decent, genuine warm hearted guys out there.\n\nAnd try not to generalise or Typecast, we're all different!
371970
Unfortunatly that happens quite frequently.At first men do everything in their power to attract you and to make sure you notice them. They treat you like a queen etc. Then as soon as they know that you are theirs and ain't goin' nowhere, they stop trying. What to do in this situation, is to show him, that you are still desirable to others and if you wished you could have any man you want, and you won't hesitate to trade you b/f! Perhaps that will scare him into showing you more attention, and make him work to keep you!
173310
Possibly you've become Metrosexual and many Metrosexuals live very well when they're dealing with other who have similar Metrosexual values.\n\nYou might be "metrosexual" if:\n\n1. You just can't walk past a Banana Republic store without making a purchase.\n\n2. You own 20 pairs of shoes, half a dozen pairs of sunglasses, just as many watches and you carry a man-purse.\n\n3. You see a stylist instead of a barber, because barbers don't do highlights.\n\n4. You can make her lamb shanks and risotto for dinner and Eggs Benedict for breakfast... all from scratch.\n\n5. You only wear Calvin Klein boxer-briefs.\n\n6. You shave more than just your face. You also exfoliate and moisturize.\n\n7. You would never, ever own a pickup truck.\n\n8. You can't imagine a day without hair styling products.\n\n9. You'd rather drink wine than beer... but you'll find out what estate and vintage first.\n\n10. Despite being flattered (even proud) that gay guys hit on you, you still find the thought of actually getting intimate with another man truly repulsive.\n\n"Some people think he's gay, but he's actually metrosexual."
618861
You sound like a very charming person; I'm sure that you will find someone soon. With a personality as upbeat as yours, I think you will find that plenty of guys would love to be around you. Good luck!
60885
I don't understand the bit about fear that he'll get better, but look at it this way:  you seem like an outgoing talkative type and that makes you a good match for a quiet, introverted guy.  He doesn't have to strain himself to keep up the conversation, and you're probably entertaining to be around.  And you like having someone listen to you.  Two people who both want to talk a lot can wear each other out.  So opposites attracted, and it works for the most part.  It's no big surprise that--guess what--you're different.  Not every man is like your partner--some will talk your ear off and others are puppy dogs.\n\nIt's not a matter of being too affectionate.  If you want more sharing you might have to adapt to his style, and he might have to practice at it.  Try drawing him out, with follow-up questions, and realize that quiet types need time to think through an answer before they say much; if they feel rushed they resort to short answers, or aimless rambling.  \n\nThere's an interesting book called "You Don't Understand Me" that talks about the different ways men and women communicate.  Maybe that would be helpful.
529898
Its not you its just the type of guys that you are attracted to.  Sometimes love is so blind that you will put up with a lot of bull because at one point in time in the realtionship you was happy.  If a guy treats you bad leave him alone cause NO woman deserves that.
341128
All guys have different taste.  Being yourself is the most important thing.  Don't ever change.  You have to like who you are to be likeable.  I'm sure you are a wonderful person, and who wouldn't like that?  Always present yourself in the most honest way, and the right guy will notice you.  Don't be in a hurry.  Enjoy life.  If you are not dating right now, focus on God, your friends, and your hobbies.
372
I guess a bunch of guy are into you! Same thing has happened to me too! And ya it's probably normal! Have fun!
529861
Hey guy.  Don't beat yourself up so much.  Maybe you are just looking in the wrong places.  There are people out there for everyone.  You will see that the Abercrombie types tend to be attracted to the Abercrombie types.  The bears are usually with other bears.  If people told you that you are cute, you probably are.  I know you have a lot to offer and the right guy will come along.  Just remember the attraction has to be reciprocal.  That's what makes the dating scene hard some times.  But it goes beyond the physical.  Find a group where you have common interests and mingle with that group.  Someone probably has a 'friend' who is gay that you might like.  Don't give up.  You need to be more upbeat and not sound so depressing.  Life is what you make of it.  I am single right now and am actually kind of enjoying the break.  Good luck.
632759
You are growing and changing rapidly - and perhaps - so are your tastes in boys.  For whatever reasons you liked them in the beginning, that has changed.  You don't say whether you got to know them, or if they did something to turn you off.\nAs you grow, you set in your mind the type of person that you seek, and maybe those two boys simply don't fulfill your ideal boy.  You will meet many boys who may pique your interest, but you won't date them all.  It is good to be selective.\n\nIf you tend to do this with every boy you meet, THEN you may have a problem.  You might be considered too picky then.\n\nNext year you could meet a boy who really fulfills your ideals and if so, then you will date him - but for now, you are simply shopping around and seeing what is available.  \nYou are young yet and there will be time for dating in the future.
62003
You may not like the answer, but its probably becaus eyou let them control you, and these people tend to attract each other, I kno wbecause the same thing happens to me!
17738
Don't change who you are just to impress a guy....cause it's not you then your pretending to be someone your not and that will stir up some problems. Just be you, and if you as atractive as you say you are they are prolly just intimidated =)
374892
try looking at the positive then negative traits of the guys, chances r you know non of them well enough when they fail to impress you initially. & if that doesn't help then look elsewhere, get involved in new activity to make new friends. Lower your expectation a little to give more space to possible chances.
562609
yes you should see a counselor to seek more information and help with this situation. it sounds like you are attracted to being popular more than being attracted to him because despite his disrespect towards you, you choose to stay around because of the popularity you've gained. it's important to look at this situation and decide which you value more. respect from him or the popularity amongst peers. i understand the importance of being 'accepted' but it shouldn't dictate your values because you are the one who decides what you will do with your life and not someone else.