My best friend is smart, pretty, & just a beautiful person. But, she’s been dating John, for a yr since then he has been beating her and she constantly shows up with bruises and bloody lips. I have told her to leave him but she just smiles and says that he “didn’t mean it.”! Anyway a mth ago she told she was 3 mths pregnant and that she was going to tell him that night. After that I didn’t see her for 2 wks and when I saw her again the baby was gone! She finally breakdown and t me that when she told him he immediately knocked to the floor screaming that the child wasn’t his and kicked her in the stomach until she was bleeding and she was in the hospital a wk. She told me that she was too ashamed to tell me. She is now staying with me and I won’t let her see him. He has called here every night and every time I threaten to call the police she begs me not to. The otha night I came downstairs and caught her talking to him on the phone saying she’d be home soon! Pls!!!I need help!!! Pls!!
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:}\nProvide her with good christian counsel\nPray for her \nSpeak with John regarding G-ds will for his life
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Oh, honey, love makes you put up with things that you should never have to put up with.  Let me ask you this, if your very best friend was in this relationship - in your place - would you tell her to stay and wait for him to either really hurt her, or change?  Of course you wouldn't.  You need to love yourself.  Leave.  If you don't have friends or family, go to a shelter.  If he truly wants to change for you, he will have to do it on his own.  Good Luck!
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Be as honest with yourself and others as soon as possible... I know it is awful to be where you are at right now, but telling someone in your family or hers that you have the best relationship with is going to be your best bet long term.  You need support.  Since you are both minors, it is unfortunant that you have this in front of you, but I don't think it is a crime... If one of you were an adult that would be a problem.  Be as strong as you can.  This will get better.  There are other choices.  There are many families out there that wish to adopt a child.  But still at least be there as her friend and make sure she gets the proper medical care and emotional support.  Please don't wait any longer to tell an adult... Time will make matters harder to deal with.  I suggest not to break up with someone because of her medical condition.  She's got to be emotional too right now.  If you have other problems than the pregnancy, consider doing so because of that.... But you should really be there for each other since you both created the dilema.
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Why is she putting up with this behavior! Of corse its cheating. And what's this about him hooking up with other women when he gets back.This guy sounds like a selfish pig !And He's doing this while she's back here taking care of his three kids.Honey tell her to get out as soon as possible. He obviously has no respect for Her or their kids , not to mention their life together.Does your friend have self esteem issues ?If she does get her the help she needs. She and her kids deserve so much more DUMP THE LOOSER! Help her get her life back on track Not just for her sake but for her kids .Hope this helps.Tell Her to keep her head up!
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The sooner she tells her mom, the better. For the sake of your friend's life and her baby's, she should be getting prenatal (before the baby is born) medical care.  \n\nIf I were her mom, sure, I'd be...pissed off. Then, after I cooled off, I'd remind my daughter how much she's loved, and tell her that we would face this together.\n\nBut that's just me.. :)
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SERIOUSLY, GET HELP NOW AND GET OUT WHILE YOU CAN. THIS IS CALLED ABUSE, AND HE IS OBVIOUSLY AN ABUSER. YOU DO NOT HAVE TO LIVE WITH THIS. YOU'RE WORTH MORE THAN THAT. GET OUT, GET HELP, GET ON WITH YOUR LIFE. I BEEN THERE DONE THAT, AND I SPENT SIX YEARS WITH AN ABUSER. AT FIRST IT IS ONLY WORDS. THEN IT'S SLAPS, AND THEN BEATINGS. IF YOU STAY, YOU WILL END UP SERIOUSLY HURT OR DEAD. THERE IS LIFE OUTSIDE OF HIM, & YOU SHOULD GET TO IT. I KNOW IT SOUNDS LAME, BUT GET COUNSELING IMMEDIATELY. FRIENDS, FAMILY, WHOEVER. I LOST SIX YEARS OF MY LIFE TO A LOSER. HE HAD ME TOTALLY CONVINCED THAT NO ONE ELSE WOULD EVER WANT ME AND I DESERVED EVERYTHING THAT I GOT. I HAD NO SELF ESTEEM AND NO SELF RESPECT. I LOST ALL MY FRIENDS AND MOST OF MY FAMILY BECAUSE OF THAT LOSER. THE ONLY THING THAT OPENED MY EYES AND SAVED MY LIFE WAS GETTING PREGNANT, AND REALIZING THAT I DID NOT WANT MY CHILD TO LIVE WITH HIM TELLING HER THAT SHE WASNT GOOD ENOUGH, & HIM BEATING ON HER & EVENTUALLY LOSING MINE OR HER OR BOTH OF OUR LIVES  BECAUSE HE JUST WENT "A LITTLE TOO FAR" WITH THE BEATINGS ONE DAY. PLEASE TRUST ME ON THIS ONE. GET OUT NOW WHILE YOU CAN. THERE IS NO REASON ON EARTH FOR YOU TO HAVE TO PUT UP WITH THAT. PLEASE, PLEASE, PLEASE GET HELP & GET OUT. YOU ARE THE ONLY ONE THAT CAN HELP YOURSELF, AND IN THE LONG RUN, IT WILL BE WELL WORTH IT. DON'T BE STUPID & WAIT LIKE I DID.
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Your friend has a serious problem and I do not mean just the boyfriend.  She may have psychological problems leading her to choose to be in a relationship which is abusive.\n\nSome women seem to always choose this type of relationship, one guy after another.  If she does not see this problem, then there is nothing you can do for her.\n\nIf you believe that the couple may be in love and this is what is keeping them together, the best you can hope to do is confront both of them together and tell them that this physical activity is not "normal" and before someone gets hurt or is arrested, they should go to counseling.\n\nA quick temper is one thing.  Hitting another human is another.  If things get out of hand, call the cops yourself.  We do not need any more headlines to draw attention to this kind of problem.
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If she is your best friend...why would you even talk to him knowing the things you know. She is the only one you need to worry about and be true to. You owe him nothing. And if there are children involved then all the more reason to stay away from him. If he found out where she is, then he could harm all of them.
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Ask your friend if everything is ok and explain your fears to her.Tell her you are concerned for her safety and you dont want anything bad happening to her. Tell her that if he is abusing her then you and her can go and get help together as a team and that everything will workout for the best.\nI hope everything works out.
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she needs to let hm know that he'll never get what he wants. and if he doesn't respect her relationship with her b/f, then she doesn't want to be his friend,either.  if his behavior continues to be negative, she needs to let everyone know, especially her b/f, just incase he is dangerous. (which nobody knows, until it is too late.) and reassure her that she can come to you at anytime and you will help her get the help that she needs.
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It is called co-dependency.  They have to break the cycle.  In order for this to happen, they sometimes need professional help.  \n\nYou might have to get "tough" with your friend.  I know someone that had a much younger sister.  The older daughter lived on her own.  The Mom of the girls had an abusive boyfriend.  The older daughter helped the mother get away from the boyfriend.  The Mom called the boyfriend and had him pick her up.  As a result, the older daughter went and filed for custody of her sister.  The boyfriend ended up killing the mother.  \n\nI hope this doesn't happen to your friend.  She has to want to leave him and move on.  See if you can get her into counseling.  You might contact your local Women's shelter and explain what is going on with your friend.  They should be able to give you some resources.  Good luck!
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I had the same problem. my friend of 6 years kept getting really jealous over my friend of just 2 months. Every time she came close my friend would jump in and pull me away. Not only that she was very close knit. I mean when ever she introduced me to someone she would say "MY BEST FRIEND". It got a little annoying when she wanted me to do the same. It got really bad when she started to make fun of my other friend. That's when I told her, hey listen, you have been my best friend so all these years. And if you think that she is going to steal me away from you, then you must not trust me enough, do you really think i am going to drop you after so many years together? I told her that if i wanted to stop being her friend I would have stopped, but I'm still here. I think you should just tell it to her straight, and if she doesn't believe you, that's her fault.
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I know exactly how you feel, my so called "best friend" is treating my like crap, and my other "best friend" keeps feeding her lies about me hating her, and now their both......I'm sorry, your the one posting the question, sorry. You know what, forget those dumb asses bitches. They don't know what the hell their losing, their losing a good friend, a loyal friend, a great sister, and a best friend. This world sucks, and if they think you suck, then are they really even your freaking friends!?!??!?!?!?!?!
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Just keep being there for her.  He is obviously controlling and sounds like he may be abusive.  She should seek some type of counselling to find out why she would stay with someone who controls everything she does.  In the meantime, she needs friends like you who are understanding and are there for her.  Keep seeing her and trying to get her to seek help.  You're a good friend.
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dude i am a jeolous guy, just to let you know before i answer.  \ni would be fucking pissed that she is doing that you have every right to be jeolous, i would beat his ass, but talk to them BOTH first then beat his ass, works for me!
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first, keep asking your best friend for proof, if she doesnt has, tell her that she is ruining your friendship with her, ask her why she wont stop it. Tell her you and your bf love each other so much and she better find one for herself as your bf is never going to leave you..make it very clear...if she doesnt want to listen, dont talk to her...a best friend should never behave like that. appreaciate your loved one. All the best :-)
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Your friend is being really stubborn. It seems to me that she has some deep-seated issues with criticism. (I should introduce her to my best friend — they sound like kindred spirits.) You need to get them both in the same place (don't tell them your plans until you get them together) so they can work out whatever beef she has with him. It's good that your boyfriend at least tried to make amends.