My mom hates doing anything illegal, but ever since i smoked mary j i fell in love. i turn 18 soon and i want her to agree with my way of life. so what should i do?
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If you want your parent to agree with every bit of your way of life you obviously have to live the life she would find agreeable.\n\nOn the other hand you want her to accept that you smoke weed.\n\nThat isn't going to happen.\n\nDo you  live in the US?  Have you heard of the war on drugs?  Do you think your mother will be agreeable if/when you are arrested? I make no value judgments here - I am just asking questions based on the facts of the situation.\n\nBy the way, do you have any idea what all that extremely hot smoke does to your lungs? Do you think it's better than cigarettes? the marijuana sold these days is not the innocuous weed the hippies shared.  It has been specially cultivated for high concentrations of the active ingredient, tetrahydrocannabinol - largely in response to the war on drugs, I might add.\n\nBeing 18 doesn't make an adult.  Adult choices and decisions make an adult.  And when you expect your mother to accept your smoking - when she clearly will not, based on what you say - you are not being an adult.
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as hard as it may be just tell her " your right" it is hard to be wrong all the time when to tell the other person that they are right. carry around breeze and spray after you smoke.  If your relationship with your father is important to you then being wrong with your mother wont be a big deal. telling her she is right takes the power away from her and puts it back to you,you know the difference and so does most people around you. your time is short with your father make the most of it.
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she is attracted to you but has a strict mom.\ntake it slow, and remember to be faithful to her. she is too young to be messed around by a user.
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If your mother will not let you go out, that is a fine answer to give. It is the truth. And to tell you the truth, I also think that 13 is too young.
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Seek counseling, and realize that, but for the actions of your Mom, you could say goodbye to being an "A" student, captain of anything, and the list goes on.......at 16, you were definitely not ready for the consequeces...would you have had to continue living at home, and get help from your Mom?...if you said "yes", then you were not ready.\n\np.s. those advocating you should have kept the child must not have thought it through that her Mom would be shouldering a great part of this burden this girl brought on herself. \nI've seen  ALOT of teenaged girls get pregnant while I was their age....most quit school, end up on welfare...\nThere are those few girls who are fortunate enough to have parents who will help raise their daughter's child so she can continue going to school, but those are the exceptions, not the norms.
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First learn English.\nSecond, if you love her that much then you would understand that sometimes it's better for you and that person to let go. You are young!!! live your life, go to college,get a good job, ask her to marry you when your stable and not living with your parents,and when it's not ILLEGAL!!!!!!\nBest of luck!!!!
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It sounds to me like a bit of reverse psychology....... just do what you feel is right in your heart. I would marry my partner to if it were legal,but I can't, and yet I still make love to my partner on a daily basis...... don't let your mom behind your closed doors. Those are decisions that you and your partner are going to have to make.
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It is illegal for a reason. Please please do yourself a favour and don't do it. I can almost guarantee you will regret it when you get older. Are you saying your mother will let you do it? Why would she do that?
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It is definitely not a racial crime. You need to get your mom to explain herself: why does she think your a traitor? what is so bad about it. If she disagrees with your choice you may have to tell you agree to disagree about the subject and tell her that you expect her to respect your life choice and show your girl respect. Perhaps she will warm up to your choice and you can change one ignorant persons point of view.
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Stay away.  Listen to your mom.  I know at your age you really don't want to, I didn't.  But she has been there and done that.
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The wish to stop smoking has to come from inside. Nothing you do will make your mom stop if she doesn't really WANT to.\nYou can, however, keep telling her how much you love her, how you want her to be with you for many years to come. Never fight, never confront her: just let her know.\nI was a very heavy smoker (three packs of cigarettes a day), and I quit 14 years ago after various unsuccessful attempts. What worked for me was the nicotine patch.\nI do believe that, when you are a smoker, your body becomes addicted to a certain amount of nicotine in the blood. The patch took care of that addiction, and then I only had to fight the sensation of not having something in my hand or my mouth. That is easier to fight than the physical addiction to the drug, because that is what it is.\nIt was not as excruciating as I thought it would be, and I have gone through very stressful situations in these years without resorting to a cigarette for comfort.\nI am so proud of my achievement that I dare put myself as an example in this matter.\nThere are many new products she could try: patches, chewing gum, ask around. Quitting cold turkey is extremely hard. I know I couldn't have done it.\nShow her my answer. Let her know those things do help. They do.\nI hope you will all succeed. The smells, the flavors, the deep breaths you can take without coughing, the stairs you can climb without suffocating, it's all worth it.
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It's tough being young. you might not want to hear it, but in the majority of these situations parents want what's best for there kids. i'm 25 so i'm still young and only within the past 2 years have i had a good constant relationships with my parents.  i'd say develop patience. deal for a year or two. by all means have fun and experiment but realize that you are human and YOU ARE NOT INVINCIBLE. take what mom says with a grain of salt. if you choose to do drugs, which I AM NOT SUGGESTING, don't use them to get f'd up, use them to learn, and carefully. As long as you keep in mind that mom and you are fighting most likely because she's concerned, you should be able to breathe it off, when you get in fights with her. you're both human, it happens. don't let the snags off adolescence scar your relationship with someone very important. good luck kid.
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First of all, I'd emphasize the fact that you love her and that you're only discussing this with her because you don't want to lose her.  If you still live with her, be a good model and go for walks, drink diet sodas instead of regular, and perhaps offer to cook dinners.  Is your mom alone often?  She may be lonely or bored, so maybe the two of you could do some activities together like dance class, yoga class, aerobics, or swimming.  You don't have to stick with something that turns out boring, so find your niche.  As for the smoking, perhaps having her talk to her doctor would help.  There's actually a medication called Zyban that helps a lot with the depression and cravings people get when they try to quit but it's prescription only.  Also, if she's alone, cooking for one can be annoying.  Help her find some easy but healthy recipes so that she doesn't feel like she's wasting time.  Good luck!
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Livi, I have a daughter, she's 21 now.  I would be heart broken to know that she was hurting and confused.  And if she doesn't even know you got your period, then honey I think you need to skip the boyfriends for awhile and get to know your Mom.\n\nI remember when I was in the seventh grade, you are going through a lot of emotional stuff right now.  A Mom you can talk too would be great.  Can't you see yourself sharing some of this with her.  Please try.\n\nNow, about this nineth grader.  If you really really like him, then talk to him.  Tell him up front you aren't going in for no kissing and no touching.  If he can't deal with that, then drop him.  If he's truly interested in you then he will give the chance to be comfortable with the idea of kissing him.  My daughter broke up with a boy because he started smoking again.  So, you be careful with young man.  I don't want to read on here later on that you went out with him and now you are pregnant.  \n\nKissing, touching, and even sex is fun stuff, I am not going to lie to you.  But with it comes other stuff that's not so fun.  You don't sound you are ready for this kind of relationship, and if you don't want to sound like a "baby" or not cool, then tell him you are grounded.  Or tell him the truth that you haven't gotten permission from your Mom, and she would ground you for life if you went out with him without her ok'ing it.\n\nLivi, please see if you can speak to your Mom.  Give her another chance.  We parents don't always don't know the right answers, but we do care.\n\nGod bless us all..........
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Dear ....\ni can understand that what u did are so sexy and nice ....those are all ok if u did ....BUT think ab why ur mother become mad like that....without any anger....just think....tatoo and piercing are somethings that some kind of special people do that(i dont wanna say they are bad people....)thats why ur mother become more sensitive ab what u r doing is wrong like u smoke pr ur bf cuz now she think u wil act like most of those special people....ur mother did wrong cuz she didnt talk to u friendly ...it pass....\nMy advise to u is:\ngo to her and talk to her....ur mother is the only one in this world wh want u to be ok,succesful,healthy and happy....maybe later u see that tatoo is not good ...then pls try to do some nice sexy things that wont be on ur body for ever....\nGood Luck
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Tell her you're in love and that you think this is what's right for you. Be an adult about it and show her that you're serious about it. She's your mother, she'll understand in time, but it will probably be big shock at first.
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Your mom is looking out for you. You should not be allowed to do what ever you want. Do you see the news at all these days.  There are a Lot of things going on, even with people  you trust and you think they would never do some of the terrible things that they do. No one else will care for you and love you as much as your parents. You may not see it now, but when you get older you will appreciate that you had parents who looked out for your best interest. You are at the age were most children don't like much of what the parents say or do. With that said I do not think it is right for you mother to call you stupid. Try to talk to your mom about the name calling. Tell her how it makes you feel.