Is what i did wrong. I really need to talk to him. Hes the only 1 I care bout now as im not so good wid my family. What should i do. I need your help ppl!!!
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If a man did this it would be stalking and you need to get a life. If he doesnt want you leave him alone.
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If you broke up w/ him there must have been a reason. What was that reason ? Do you want to go through it all over again ? I think I can relate to what you're saying tho. I went to the city partly to get away fr him for the wk'd after we broke up. Well, we were still talking on the phone sometimes but when he phoned it'd be more like "geeeeeeez... :( " but I'd still answer the phone. While in the city I didn't have a very good time. It felt like my fam was abandoning me or something. Like they were tryna get rid of me or didn't wanna see me, etc. :( I was very hurt. The main reason why I was thinking of moving to the city was to be near my fam too... After that I felt that my ex was the only one who really cared bout me. When I got back home I jut HAD to see him so I went to see him. I told him bout what happened in the city & how I felt that he was the only one who cared bout me. For a whole wk I wanted to be w/ him. I wanted to be w/ him every chance I had. We were @ this pt, just "friends". We went to see Default & I guess he was gonna go home after the concert. I didn't want him to leave. I didn't wanna go home either. He was gonna drink but I didn't really care if he did, as long as I could be w/ him. Well, his mom & sis were gone to the city, so he let me spend the night, which I did. I felt that I wanted to get back w/ him. B/w the day I got back home fr the city to the time we got back together officially was Apr 7th-13th I believe. There was even a time AFTER that that I thought that we'd be together forever. But in the past 2 or 3 wks I haven't been feeling that way. I wanna break up w/ him. When & how is the Q. This'll be our 4th break up. :( \nYou may also experience this as well. Have you broken up in the past ? If you have I think that this will only continue to happen. Don't let it. Be strong. Easier said that done I know, but when you feel like talking to him, call a friend. Maybe even get together w/ a friend or friends. It's better than giving in to urges. Hope this helps !!!
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Dear Mam, I was in a similar situation. I was in another state on top of it. He controlled everything, even the phone. When I got on he had to control the conversation, so my family quit calling. I was with him for 17 years.Because I was afraid of him. Now that is probably what is wrong with her, FEAR. He has probably threatened her and she feels she has no way out. Plus if you were close to her, dont you think she knows too? I missed my mom  sooo bad. Well she passed away before I got to see her after 2 years. He would never let me go visit any of my family alone so I feel for her. I don't believe that she knew what she was getting into. I didn't. He changed after we married.\nMy advise to you is wait and be patient. Believe me its killing her as much as you. To not see her mom I'm sure is hurting her. New Baby?\n She either keeps her mouth shut or they fight alot. Either way there will be heartbreak. Too bad you couldn't find a way to get her out of there but you see when you have more than what you grew up with, its hard to leave. Your daughters husband is nothing but an insecure bully that feels he has power over her. Makes him feel like a big man when you and I both know he's a very small man. Just has a loud voice and knows how to use his power.\nI too couldn't go anywhere with out my husband, he timed me when I went in the store, questioned me as to why it took so long and who was I talking to. He controlled the finances, He told my kids when and where they could go and who they could see and how long, that included church activities. I finally left after much proding from my church friends, 17 yrs later. I know exactly what is going on. I pray that she will come to her senses before that. I'm sure he is telling her that no one else will give her what he has and no one will love her either. Also He is probably demeaning her to keep her down and that she will have no friends no family or self esteem. So she will feel no one will want her so why leave? That is why I never left. I believed him! Why should'nt I? He was my husband and he would not hurt me. Trust me this man is a monster. He is narcisstic, anti social, among other things. \nTry putting an ad in the paper, classified, saying only what she will know. Maybe something can generate from that. Sounds horrible but it may be the only way. If she can't use her phone that will be very difficult to contact you. He keeps track of the phone records too. Believe me this guy is a scarey person.\nSorry this is so long, but there was alot to say. \nJust remember IF you reach her, let her know how much you love her NO MATTER WHAT.
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Well before begging for forgivness what did you ? was he a bf ? or just a friend. ? Sounds like you need his forgiveness and he doesn't wann talk too you. \n  Here is what you do.. be a strong woman drive over to his house and talk to him face to face . That way he knows you are turely sorry. then after you apologize leave him alone for about a month ..let him heal and then if he doesn't come around  move on.. you don't need a psychic or a reading you need someone to talk to...and if you want you can contact me.\n   Hope I could help.
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im very sorry about losing your father and it takes time to get over losing someone that you love.i know your mother is dear to you and she is very sick and you have to be strong for her.your a young child and things just arent going your way and im very concerned about your situation.why dont you ask GOD for help?HE is stronger than any storm in your life and HE does hear our cries for help.HE knows your hurting from these things in your life that have caused heartache. i also have lost my entire family and its tough on a grown man and it twice as bad for a young person.i will pray for your mom and for you. i do know if you put your faith and trust in GOD everything will work out just trust HIM completely.GOD bless you dear one and know i am sincere about your life.
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trust me, it sounds like a bad idea to even talk to him because you will get even more confused, if he actually tried ruining your life then i dont think he deserves shit from you except maybe a black eye. hun, dont let yourself get hurt, and dont hurt your new boyfriend, just dont answer the phone and hope he gets the hint, if he doesnt... then answer and tell him straight up.
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Please see a school counsellor as soon as possible.  Or call a help line right now.  Do you have a family member or other reliable adult you can talk too? Don't wait.  Get help now.
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My dear, I believe God wants you to talk to him. Even if it's just to say what has been happening. God works in strange ways, but I really think that maybe you should softly witness to him, as in not being too thick with it. I don't know why you two aren't together anymore, but maybe you should reach out to this man and tell that you are still very concerned and possibly(?) still have a very deep love for him. Please don't waste time reading a bunch of answers, there has to be a real reason for the dreams and feelings that you are having. Please call him today and ask if you could meet for coffee or dinner just to talk and catch up. By-the-way, as a step-mom I know how it feels to hear those words, whatever happened between you two CAN  be worked out. A real love isn't something to give up w/o a fight. He may have been using the bible to his advantage but fussing at him for it or talking down to him would probaly push him away. Either way good luck and God bless you for having such a strong faith. Please feel free to email me at mrsbrandyhall@yahoo.com if you just want somebody to listen and understand (of course I'll help w/ as much advice as you want). Let God work through you; don't fight Him on this.\nBrandy\n\n       (&#92;./)\n       (':')\n      (")(")
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Talk sh!t about him i had the same problem but he apolagized.Make up lies about him you know.P.S Do u live in vegas cuz i do my email is mariananvegas@yahoo.com\n\nIm in middle school!
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I am sorry to hear about your father. I will pray for him and you. Now to your question, if your feel the need to see him or contact him then do it. You may not get the response you want so be aware of that. If there is something you have to say to him do it. Even write it out. I am a life coach, if you wish to email me i wll talk more. speakingforlove @ yahoo.com
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It sounds like he isnt very mature- you should talk to your mom and let you know how you feel. It is possible he twisted the story to make himself look better and that isnt right. I cant really say because one of my ex's used to do the same thing and my mother would never side with him unless she heard my side first. I'm her daughter and she wouldnt betray me like that. I think they both have issues. Talk to her.
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Listen honey I have been in a bad relationship myself and know where you arecoming from you have to stand up for yourself and move on you say you can't leacve Why? they have got you to the point where you are wallowing in self pity just as they like you. What is happening here is domestic abuse and it has to end before you end first. For your childrens sake leave him if he don't like it tell him where to go ****himself or tell him if he loves you to stand up to his family for you though from the sound of it he is week as s**t no man should ever allow anyone including his family to run you down. I wish i could do more for you but sadly I can't if you need to chat though send me an email and I will keep chatting and offering no strings advice I am a voluntary member of the samaritans and will make timwe to chat if you need me.
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Oh, I really feel for you. It's very hard to face this sort of situation.  If you know where he lives, send him a letter telling him exactly what you have told us; that you love him and miss him dreadfully, that you miss his friendship and him being in your life.  You don't say how old you both are, but if he was quite young when this happened it may be that he is regretting his hot-headedness (you might find that out when you establish contact with him, but not initially), and he may later welcome the chance to get back in touch with the family through you.\n\nBut if you want to contact him, you need to make it plain that if he doesn't want contact with his parents, that's regrettable but perhaps understandable, but it isn't his relationship - or lack of it - with them that bothers you, it's the relationship between the pair of you that you want to heal.  However, you will also need to be very careful about your own relationship with your parents.  It could hurt them dreadfully if they find out that you have been in contact with your brother, and hurt people tend to lash out.  It may be that your brother felt very hurt if you seemed to take their 'side' rather than his in whatever happened when all you were trying to do was mediate, or just got caught in the crossfire, and he lashed out at you.\n\nJust spend some time putting your thoughts down on paper, don't condemn him in any way at all, and tell him you will always love and miss him.  I hope it all works out well for you.
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Well he's defiantly insensitive. I think you should try to talk to him about it. There could be other reasons why he is behaving like that. Was he close to your daughter? If he was, then by him not talking about her could be a way for him not to feel pain over her death. Or, maybe he's thinking that it would be better for you if he doesn't talk about her. Remember, men think differently than women. I'm also trying to give him the 'benefit of the doubt' since I don't know him. Either way, the point is that he is not emotionally available to you at times you need him the most. Please, before you give up, at least talk to him about it. After you have talked with him and you still find yourself hating him, then perhaps it would be best for you to leave. \n\nI cannot even imagine how painful it would be to lose a child to death. I am truly, from the bottom of my heart, sorry for your loss. I wish you all the happiness there is to recapture in life. Best of luck to you and your family. -Christy.
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As hard as it seems right now you did the best thing. This man didn't respect you at all. Yes God does have a better plan for you but in his time not yours. Keep the faith and he will carry you through this...K
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THE SAME EXACT THING HAPPENED TO ME!!\n\nBACK OFF---HE'S NOT WHAT YOU NEED
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You need to just call him and tell him that you know that you've made mistakes, but you really miss your mom and you really want to be a part of your sister and brother's lives, if he'll give you that chance. Explain that they are your only connection to you mom and though you weren't there during her death you want to be able to remember her with the people you love. I know the way I said it isn't how it happened but he's going to be much more likely to believe you and let you spend time with your family if you go along with his side of the story. Just talk to him and ask if you could maybe take your siblings out to lunch and talk to them about their lives and your mom because you really need to reconnect with them. Just be humble with him and honest about your feelings. I know what it's like to be completely disconnected from your family and then to try to reconnect after a tragedy and it's hard. People tend to think that you're being fake and you'll leave right after the tragedy is averted. Make it clear to your step-dad that you are there to stay and you want to be a part of their lives.