As I said, I haven't done anything wrong. It just seems one day the phone stopped ringing soon after graduation. I now have no friends and don't leave my house much. I once thought a guy from my college was a new start. Then after he came back from Europe with a new girlfriend, he hasn't reponded to my messages anymore. Someone told me, maybe I sounded too desperate. Truly all I wanted was friendship. I have tried to call the people I knew again. And yet they don't respond. Now I haven't really tried talking to people at school anymore. For I have this aching feeling if I do, they will not want to call ever. I am a bit shy and this does not help. Whenever I have tried talking to people they look at me as if I'm some kind of alien. This must sound as if I have self-esteem issues. This is incorrect, for I think it's more like paranoia. I really don't know what to do, I would be willing to do anything if it will help fix my situation. I like having people to talk to, especially friends.
122514
Reach out and touch someone first and they'll do the rest toward friendships. If old acquaintances leave, make new friends because that's whats life is all about. Diligence, respect and modesty pays off.. Hold on to you for if you can be a friend to yourself first by realizing you're worthy of just being you, you will have begun the ladder of friendship one step at a time. I have full confidence in you. Remember this. Yesterday was a dare to struggle to hold on to the past [acquaintances who called themselves friends], and today is a dare to win[new friends including yourself first, and then others]. I think your life is like a precious jewel that can never be replaced.  Good luck ,much warmth and joy, and much wisdom.
72511
I would suggest that you get involved in a school activity so that you can make new friends and get to feeling more confident in yourself. Find a positive group of people to be around so you won't be lonely and you'll be busy with the activities too.  I was shy and bashful at one time.  The drama club at school really helped me.  I see why that person is an ex-friend. Even if something happened and the friendship ended, that's no reason to make fun of you.   Hang in there and don't become like your ex-friend - making fun of people. You be the better person.
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This is a normal part of growing up.  It happens to all of us.  I remember crying my eyes out with a friend because we hadn't spent that much time together, and now we're graduating and won't see each other in a while!  I have seen her twice since then; 14 years ago.\n\nYou'll miss your friends at first, then you move on.  If you go to college, you'll make lots of new friends, and they'll have a lot more in common with you.  If you work, you'll meet friends at jobs.\n\nKeep in mind that if you were very best friends, you will remain very best friends.  My friend since I was 10 and I talk every now and then, but we live in different cities and are in different points in our lives.  She's a single mom now going back to school, and I'm married with 3 kids and already graduated from college.  But we still talk, and I'd still consider her my friend!\n\nRelax and enjoy this moment in your life.  There are many big events to follow soon!  Your life will start changing dramatically as you grow up!  And you are ALWAYS growing up!\n\n(Your e mail address isn't confirmed so I can't write you back, so I'm editing this...)\n\nI'm sorry.  This is a normal part of growing up.  Changing friends, changing lives.  You met these friends, you will meet more!  Being sad is alright.  Let them know that you will miss them, and that you wish them luck.  Maybe in a few years after things cool down you'll see them again!  There is the internet, after all.  When I graduated, there was no internet or cell phones.  Getting in touch with people was much more difficult.  I've recently gotten in touch with some old friends; and it's nice because it's been so long we have so many stories to share!  I had lunch with a girl I haven't seen in 7 years a couple weeks ago, and I'm having dinner with a friend I haven't seen in 17 years Friday!  I'm really excited, and I'm bringing all kinds of pictures!  We met when we were 12, and now I have a daughter about that age!  Funny!\n\nLife is fun.  You'll enjoy it.  I'm glad to see that you are so aware of your feelings and not afraid to talk about them.  That's the first step in being an adult!  So many adults have trouble because they can't understand their feelings, and if they do, they won't talk about them!  You'll do well in your life!
74253
My sister just went through this.  She came to live with us with just a few months left of school.  She still keeps in contact with her old friends by phone, e-mail, letter etc.  She was herself at the new school and she has a ton of friends.  Usually kids are very receptive to "the new kid" because you are new and they want to get to know you.  So be open, be yourself and make some new friends.  Have fun and let go that's what being a teenager is all about!
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well, i was looking forward to my 16th birthday a couple of yrs back and had invited heaps of people from my grade. everything was fine until my mum had me get all their house numbers. i was excited to hear they were actually gonna come, but once that happened, they became weird and said that they 'may' come. im just like, ok. on the day of the party, i was waiting a while, and my best friend came, but it didnt seem like any1 else was gonna come. i got a call from this guy who i sorta had a crush on and he asked me if guys that were his friends at school were gonna b there, and i told him that they said they would, and so they probably would. unfortunately, none of my friends from school came. i had my family there, like my cousin laura and my cousin elizabeth, n my cousin jessica came too, n the music was kinda cool, but i still felt bad because out of all the people that i had invited from skool, only 1 came, my crush, expecting that the guys were gonna come. (my best friend had left school the previous yr, in yr 10). i thought things couldnt get any worse on my birthday. then, all of a sudden, a fight breaks out between my cousins laura and elizabeth - a sorta catfight (slapping, hitting, shoving). elizabeth locked herself in the bathroom while laura stormed off to my parents room, fully angry with elizabeth. laura's sister tania also was angry with elizabeth and called her names n told her off. suddenly, my birthday had turned into a horrible day, with me having to try to settle things down. i spoke to each one of them - elizabeth, laura and tania, and they calmed down a bit, but once elizabeth came out, they got into another fight b4 things were settled down again. apparently they were fighting over some guy. when they all left, i went to my room crying. it was the worst birthday ever! and not how i want to remember my sweet 16th.
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Ya wanna hear something goofy? When I was a teenager, I felt just like you! I would wish to god I was a Siamese twin, just so I wouldn't feel so alone. It is hard to explain, I wasn't really lonely cause I had lots of friends and people who loved me, it's more a feeling that all of them and the whole human race belonged to this,(something) what ever it was except me! I could be in a room full of people yet feel all alone. Then one day I started asking myself: WHAT DO I WANT? As I lay in my dark bed   crying myself to sleep, I would ask: WHAT DO I WANT RIGHT NOW? WHAT WOULD MAKE ME FEEL AND FILL THE VOID IN ME? Perhaps something that would make me a part of something! Well I don't really know what to tell you except I volunteered for a suicide hot line, I served underprivileged children dinners, I  worked at a mission, helping the homeless, I sat with the elderly etc. and as time passed, the awful feeling of being alone gradually went away! That was quite a few years ago and I haven't felt that way since. I don't know what happened, but what ever it was, it sure worked for me. Maybe it will work for you too! Good Luck!
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Some people are just born into a world of self-delusion and indecisiveness.\n\nThey think that the world revolves around them and this gives them just cause to treat others with very little consideration. Being someone who has been on the receiving end, I would suggest deleting her number from your phone and moving on to someone more deserving of your affections.\n\nIt might churn you up at the moment but the sooner you get back out there and meet "genuine" people the sooner you will start to feel at ease.\n\nBest of luck!
330763
I've had the same thing happen to me and it sucks. My two best friends ever had to leave but that didn't stop our friendship. I e-mail them almost everyday and I talk to them on the phone. I haven't seen them in a long time but that never stopped our friendship. My friends moved different countries. You're lucky at least your friend is in the same country and if you want to visit you should make a plan. Things will be different but something that NEVER changes is friendship. Trust me it'll be ok.
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From what I read there was too much drama going on so that means......MOVE ON and make new friends!  You sound pretty young, so here's some advice...unfortunately in life, you will meet people who claim to be your friends when in actuality they aren't. So you just experienced that part of life early, so now you can just learn from it. Focus on school and important things. You will find better friends soon!
502971
Yes I have and I played the role like everything was fine out in public and behind closed doors I was a mess. I cried for no reason and stopped taking phone calls from friends and never left my house nor let any one in. I can say that I'm finally coming out it and realizing that you can't do it alone. You really do need positive people in your life and you need prayer. When yo surround your self with positive prayful people who truley have your best interest at heart that tends to bring you out of your funk. I'm thankful everyday for my life and for God giving us Jesus. Be thankul for you life and for having this moment to make a difference. I think if you actually find soemthing to make your life meaningful whether it's voluteering in a food bank or just giving back to the community in some way; it should make you feel happy and blessed and hopefully help you realize that your life is great. You're alive you have access to a computer, you can read as well as write. Just that right there makes you better off than a whole lot of people. Love yourself and love your life right now because you never know when it may end; so give them something to talk about.  I love you in Christ and I wish you healing and blessings.
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im doing well...except ive been kinda sad latly, i think its because girls overthink things and i can't help think about a guy whose in the marines for 4 years but we keep in touch....hes in oklahoma and im in N.Y....so its kinda depressing because he's always on my mind.  I'm sure he'll visit time to time but its very lonly without him here physically too....so today im doing well compared to other days where i can't get him out of my head for the life of me, and when we talk on the phone, i hate silent moments so i start rambling on to the dumbest stuff like out of know where...i wrapped presents today....god i feel so stupid!
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I believe we have the right to distance ourselves from people, and situations that cause negativities in our lives.  We are are at liberty to purge our lives with anything that is harmful to our well being - physically, emotionally and spiritually. It may be difficult because the more you feel you need your friends the more they will (or seem to) behave that way. Sometimes even the most cherished friendships have to end.  They have served their purpose and it's time to move on to better things. I've been in your situation several times before and I did just that.  Now I realize that I have very little in common with these friends. I was just trying to fit in.
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Well, I've been away from my 5 best friends for about 2 (almost 3) years &, so far, it's one of the hardest things I've ever had to do...\n\nI left my home country (Cape Verde) to come live in the US...& the day I left was the saddest day of my life...It felt (& still does) like I lost a huge chunk of my own self...\n\nMy best friends & I have known each other since we were about 3 years old (which means that we've known each other for about 14 years now) & always lived in the same street...we used to do EVERYTHING together...wherever you saw one of us you'd be sure to see the other 5...we had the most beautiful relationship (we went on field trips almost every weekend; we used to throw lots of parties; we used to go to each other's family's beach houses regularly, etc.) , but since I moved, things have changed a lot!!!!\n\nAlthough we keep in touch with each other, it's just not the same...I feel sad all the time because now I have no friends (nearby) and spend my days either @ work, @ school and/or @ home (which is totally not me)\n\nI used to be really active, but now I really don't do much (just so you have an idea, I've never been to the movies nor to the beach here in the US, & things that I once enjoyed are just not as fun as they used to be)...but whenever I feel sad I think of the good times my friends and I had together...& although sometimes it makes me feel even sadder that I'm not with them, most of the time it works...\n\nI'm planning on going on vacation next year, but we'll see...\n\nBut you know, my being away from my friends & living in a totally different place has helped me realize how good of a life I used to have as well as it has helped me appreciate all the ppl in my life...
651960
Did I ever....had a friend that I wanted as more than a friend.  My friend moved out of state,  and we kept in touch my telephone for about two years.  Through a couple more moves on his part and some on mine,  we lost touch, for three yrs.  I connected with a  friend of his and found out he'd be in town,  so we made plans to see one another,  only to have a blizzard cancel plans,  he flew out of town the next morning.  When he got home,  he told me on the phone that he'd been in love with me for the last five years or more.  Time goes by,  we lose connection again,  but for FIVE years this time.  We've now been reconnected by phone and internet for about four or five years.  He begs me to move accross the country with him (even with my five kids, lol, he must have it bad, huh??lol).  I told him he should've said something while he lived here,  but he thinks I should've been the one to say it.  Just one of those things that makes ya wonder????What if????  The bad thing about missing the chance,  is that I know we would've been perfect for eachother.  The good thing is that I am in a happy marriage with five wonderful children.  Regretfully,  there's just no way to ever know,  leaving me with more "wonder" than I really care to have sometimes.
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i think is absolutely normal that you feel that way and you have every reason to. it also looks to me that you may need someone to talk to. so i'll give my msn so you can add me and talk when ever you need to\nlosanteojosdegaba2006@hotmail.com\nluck! ;)
664566
Girl I am so sorry and I completly understand what you are going through. I recently broke up with my FIANCE and it has been so hard not see or talking to him.  I am trying to focus more on improving myself like going to the gym and I am going to get some certifications in my job.  Basically I am tring to improve myself FOR MYSELF.  I suggest you do the same maybe join some clubs in your area to meet new people.  anyway, email me if you need someone to talk to.
459051
I am the same way.  Its like the only thing that anyone wants to talk to me about is the homework.  I didnt make any good friends in community college.  But now I am at the university level, and it does seem a little better.  Just everyone is so busy with their own lives and so I am; so its hard to find a good friend.  I hope it gets better when I start my career.