i went out with a mormon guy when i wuz 13, then he broke up w/ me cuz he said he wuzn't allowed to date til 17. i totally took it as an excuse instead of a reason. l8er on a friend of mine that goes to church w/ him said that he wuz right but age difers?
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Actually, most Mormon (or Latter-Day Saint or LDS) teens do not start dating until they are 16.  That's the age suggested by the church.  I say suggested because the members are still free to do as they choose, so it is possible to meet a Mormon teen who starts dating before 16.\n\nIf you want to know what makes Mormons different, that is a longer discussion.  In short, they believe in Jesus Christ, but they also believe that there are modern-day prophets and apostles, starting with Joseph Smith who lived in the early to mid-1800's.  They believe and read the Bible, but they also accept as scripture the Book of Mormon, which was translated from ancient records by Joseph Smith.
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I don't think there is realy an age that is appropriate, because all people have different maturity levels at different times in their lives. I lost mine at the age of 16 and I'm 22. My boyfriend got my drunk and basically took advantage of me. Don't get me wrong, I could have said no, but I didn't. Today I wish I would have waited. Thinking about when my son gets older and if he ever asked mom, when did yo first have sex. Most parents would never hear that so I probably won't, but what if they were to ask? Although, I would never take it back because it got me where I am today, I've been happily married for two years with a gorgeous ten month old son. People make mistakes, but hopefully they learn from them. Society isn't the problem I don't think. i think the parents and schools need to start at a young age teaching values, because they are lacking somewhere.
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Hi, this is a very complex situation, and you have explained it very well.  Your friend who is 15 and gay, has a non-sexual relationship with a 21-year-old gay man.  Your concern is for your friend because he has a "crush" on this man, but the man is "not interested' (sexually?) in your friend.  So to begin with all the "against the law" answers are wrong. Unless a physical relation is part of the equation even our puritanically demented society has not passed a law forbidding friendship between people of different ages.  If it did organizations like Big Brothers and Sisters would have to stop their excellent work.  Through out our lives, it helps to have a "mentor."  Someone who is a bit more experienced than ourselves who can help us through some of the "passages" of life.  This cannot always be a parent, no matter how much we may love our parents, because a parent has different concerns (our safety) and often sees us a "child." To have a slightly older friend, who has gone through some life experience and can share and encourage is important.  Having said this, your concern is is for your friend, in terms of his feelings (crush) and the 21-year-old for his "life" and reputation.  I think your concern shows you to be a caring individual and true and good friend.  Hopefully we are always ready to listen to the people like you in our lives.  Have you calmly expressed your concerns to your friend in a way as clear as your question here?  If you have, and he still wishes to pursue this relationship then there is not much you can do.  I think the best "advice" you could give to your friend is to point out the Issues involved: 1) The 21-year-old is (according to you) uninterested, uninitiated (a virgin) and would suffer the "legal" consequences of any physical relationship - so is your friend ready to "accept' these "boundaries" to the relationship? 2) Can your friend pursue a friendship without a physical relationship (his crush?) Can he control his own feelings?\nOnce you have helped your friend clarify the situation and his responsibilities, then you can only support him in whatever decision he arrives at.  \nI would only add that a non-sexual "mentoring" relationship, while important for everyone, is especially important for gay and lesbian youth.  Most people have "models" of what they want and need to become in their parents, teachers, social heros, etc. But gay people grown-up largely without any models, without anyone who can say, "I did this, you can too."  So even though your friend sounds like a confident young gay man, with a loving family and wonderful supportive friends such as yourself, he may still need an "older" model that he can talk to about things and try to follow - always given the non-sexual, non-exploitive nature of the relationship.  Good luck.
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I dont see anything wrong with dating a younger man, as long as there are limits to the age difference(not 18 or younger)  \n\nIf his maturity level is good with you, he treats you good, makes you laugh, has a  job, and is an all and all decent guy I dont see anything wrong with it.    \n\nPLEASE BE AWARE THAT ALOT OF THE ONLINE DATERS DO LIE.  SO PLEASE BE VERY VERY CAREFUL OUT THERE IN CYBERSPACE!!!!!
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i think its perfectly ok to start dating at 12. Hold hands, kiss but dont even think about anything else until you are 100% ready. Next time he wants to hold your hand, grab it and give him a big smile. =)
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Has he had his 13th birthday yet? If he won't admit he likes you, how will you ever get him to ask you out? he sounds kind of immature to me....do you really want someone like that????? \nPS age and maturity only go hand in hand sometimes.
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I'm with Ryno on this one.\n\nThis happened to me, too. She was 14 and I was 19. I don't think I went as far as Ryno, but she admitted to me her age the night we were ABOUT to do something.\n\nIf you are under 18 you should leave him alone for a few years. All you're doing is putting him at risk. If he's been silent for 2 weeks, assume that he wants to keep it that way. Don't encourage him to resume your relationship with him.\n\nChances are there will never be anything between the two of you at any point because you lied about your age--even when you're no longer a minor. People don't forget that stuff. If you do resume things at a later point he'll probably hang that over your head anyway.\n\nLet it go and date people under 18.
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I don't know how old you are. You didn't say, but, you need to talk to your dad and if he doesn't want you to "date", then you need to do as he says, but, you talk about church. Talk to your dad about being able to do things as a church group(functions)with the boy you like. Or going for burgers with other friends included. See what he says
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IT IS ABSOLUTELY NOT WRONG!!! 1 year is NOTHING. It is much more about how you 2 connect with eachother than how close you are in years.  I once had a thing with a guy 2.5 yrs younger than me, and we are still great friends, cuz he was an absolutely AMAZING person, and was super cute, and quite frankly was more mature than most guys my age. Guys the same age as me were always pressuring me to do things I didn't want to, but since I was older than him, this boy was SO respectful of me and my decisions and feelings. And what a sweetheart... as you can see, I could talk for hours.  Obviously dating a guy like 5 years younger than you is kinda weird, but just a few years is NO reason to hide feelings for a guy. If he treats you well, who cares how old he is? And if you're worried about being made fun of, then DON'T! YOU like him, and it's YOUR business. End of story. Best of luck with him! <3
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you don't say how old the two of you are but here's my opinion.,\n\nright now- there's no reason for him to start up trouble in his family because even tho they will like you- they will certainly have issues because of their faith and that's ok. it is understandable\n\nfor now- just have fun and don't worry about all of that.
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It's perfectly legal for the 2 of you to date.\nBut...if you 2 have sex before you're 18, he technically could get charged with having sex with a minor, if someone decided to press charges.\n In Nebraska you have to be 19 before you can get married without parental consent...which is different to most of the rest of the US.
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Guys are really hard to understand.  Maybe he just want some one on one time with you or maybe he just want sex.  My parents were really strict and when I was in college I had my first boyfriend.  His name was Kenneth.  He was my age but he was a senior in high school and I was a college freshman.  We both lived with our  parents.  Throughout our entire year of dating, we never were alone.  I swear to God, we were never alone anywhere together.  There was always my parents, my cousins, my sister, his family, or his friends.  We lived within walking distance of each other.  Niether one of us had a car or could drive.  It was frustating to him because he wanted to have sex but I didn't care because we were both virgins and I wasn't going there.  After a year of dating he ended up breaking up with me for that very frustrating reason.  We are still friends 12 years later.  When I ask him why we broke up then, he always tells me he was a horny little teenager and I wasn't trying to hear it.  So I'm sure that might have something to do with it.  If so, leave him alone.  You're probably about 16 anyways and don't need to be around a guy alone.  I appreciate my parents strict rules.  Remember, your parents always want the best for you.
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Here's our story...tell me what you think.\n\nWe originally met in 9th Grade, he was the new boy in school.  We became fast friends and soon became more than that.  We were inseperable, many crazy adventures and all that fun young love stuff.  We broke up just before the school year ended because of our friends...you know the only people you listen to when you are 15 years old.\n\nWe stayed friends over the years, going for coffe every month or so to catch up.  I had the travel bug so after high school I moved around a bit, when I was gone he met someone else and married her.  On one of my stops home I found out he had married this girl (who I knew & knew she was not a good person), I told him my concerns & in my heart I knew that if he said me wanted he back I'd go.  He didn't so I was off on my journeys again.\n\nWell when I was 31 I moved back to my home town.  As luck would have it we met up one night, he was still married to the girl but he had been living in his basement for the last 6 years and had little or nothing to do with his wife.  He was miserable. \n\nWe spent that night catching up, when it was time to go home he grabbed my hand and said he let me go once & he was never going to do that again.  He moved out the next day and we are now married and have a beautiful 3 year old little boy.  \n\nSo no, I don't worry about him leaving me for someone else.  I think it all depends on the situation, and the rest of the story.  People look for love outside of their relationships because there is usually something wrong within their current relationship.  Others are just really shallow and want a "trophy wife"...those relationships never work out.
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yeah, that's wierd.\nIf you are 14, don't go out with anyone over 18, because that's just asking for trouble.
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I'm an LDS or Mormon; we believe that boy's and girls should practice reverance and practice the vow of chastity; no sex until marriage. However; boys and girls do date just like many others their age; no grabbing; groping; etc. Use some manners; respect that vow of reverance and chastity. If a boy were to kiss a girl; it should be more of a polite kind of kiss; holding each other would be okay as long as it didn't end up with the un-allowed heated-up version that would break the vow of chastity. Mary
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I am 25 and my fiancée is 21, personally I think that anyone who says they wouldn't go out with anyone younger than them is being a little narrow minded, surely the person matters more than how old they are?  \n\nAs for dating (if I was single) as long as I connected with that person and found them attractive (and as long as it was legal!) I wouldn't have an age limit at all!
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I dated a guy who is 35 and i am 20 it was going great but he always told me that he was afraid that i would leave him for someone younger. He left me for someone older be careful. HE still is playing games wiht my heart telling me that he loves me and then hurts me again and goes to someone his age just becareful.\nI also lost my Virginity too him and has been the only one that may also be y it is so hard\nAge doesn't matter just becareful