are you the glue...?\n...who holds everyone in your family together when they need it most?\n...who goes to bat for your friends and steps up for them when they need your support?\n...who takes up the good cause when no one else will?\n...who organizes and works around other people's schedules to celebrate life's moments?\n\nIF SO, how do you feel about your role?  is it something you do because "it's your job"?  because you love to do it?  because the happiness of others makes it all worthwhile?  are you thanked?  taken for granted?\n\nIF NO, who DOES these things in your life?  do you thank them enough?  should you help more?\n\nextra credit:  who holds YOU together when you need it?
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I don't know how but I did end up the responsible one.  No I don't necessarily enjoy it but it seems to come naturally.  All my friends say they don't know how I do all I do.  I say nervous energy.  Yes my family is good about saying thank you and so are my friends and the others I do things for.  As far as my "rock",  my grandma died 3 years ago but she is still the one I look to for support.  Prayer helps alot too.  Also my pets-unconditional love and support no matter what.
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a lot of free time and no work, that sounds like a recipe for trouble :)  excellent follow-up to your other question, i can't help but feel we're all part of a study!\n\ni'm a person who likes to feel that i contribute.  whether it's emotionally if someone needs to vent or ask advice, socially if dishes need to be done following a world series party, or financially if there's a collection for the bride and groom, i like to feel i've done my part. i bust my a** at work while others sometimes do little or even less.  if i want a job done, i find it's easier to do it myself than to try and convince someone else. my boss loves/hates me :)\n\nit's probably true that i'd feel a bit less comfortable letting my wife carry the burden of working while i did not.  while i'd be fine if the situation was reversed. (hmmm...what ARE you getting at with these questions!) i'd feel that i needed to find a way to do my part and contribute financially in some way. \n\ni wonder why that is- with the role reversal...i would be happy to support her, but not quite so cool with having her support me?  am i too responsible?  do i like to feel in control?  hmmm...maybe you can help me figure this out!\n\nps::: 6th sense strikes again... i knew it!  \n\npps::: jedi mind tricks not to be tested on upper level answerers, nae.  back, it will bring him.  back to seek your answer!
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My "group" was all self-abusers.  That is we we're all either "cutters" or people who punished themselves some way physically and made ourself hurt in the process.  We were all also sexually abused by people we loved as children, which then confused us as we grew up to adulthood.  (What does it mean when someone who says they "love you" treats you that way?  Is that what LOVE IS?  That's one of your only examples of love and it is your father, grandfather, etc., so shouldn't you BELIEVE THEM?  So, I was invited to this group BECAUSE we had similar interests . . . \n\nI hope that your group does too.  It really helped after listening to OTHER PEOPLE who went thru what you did.  Even tho you wish they hadn't had too, it made you feel part of the world, not left out, freaky and alone like usual.  This should be the point of group to me.  To "connect" you to others, to show you that your not alone and that others have survived!\n\nIn group you should be free to talk about anything, anything that bothers you.
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Yes I have and I played the role like everything was fine out in public and behind closed doors I was a mess. I cried for no reason and stopped taking phone calls from friends and never left my house nor let any one in. I can say that I'm finally coming out it and realizing that you can't do it alone. You really do need positive people in your life and you need prayer. When yo surround your self with positive prayful people who truley have your best interest at heart that tends to bring you out of your funk. I'm thankful everyday for my life and for God giving us Jesus. Be thankul for you life and for having this moment to make a difference. I think if you actually find soemthing to make your life meaningful whether it's voluteering in a food bank or just giving back to the community in some way; it should make you feel happy and blessed and hopefully help you realize that your life is great. You're alive you have access to a computer, you can read as well as write. Just that right there makes you better off than a whole lot of people. Love yourself and love your life right now because you never know when it may end; so give them something to talk about.  I love you in Christ and I wish you healing and blessings.
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As a believer in the Jesus, then you know that he loves those who help themselves.  You must also understand that what your friends have most likely is not what you need now in your life.  God knows what ye have need of and he will supply it.\n\nWhen I was young and my husband and I only had each other, we felt much the same way as you did.  We didnt have anything he was going to school, and money was not something we had any off.  So, one day we decided to change our thought.  To start doing that which was fun for us.  We managed to find those little things that helped us through the hard times, listening to music together, getting to know our neighbors more, and when our son came along, we dicide that it was just our little family and it would be the best family we could ever imagine.  \n\nJoy comes in small steps, but the first and formost step is always....Graditude for that which you have.\n\nWe also stopped all debt.  We cancelled all credit cards and went on a cash bases.  It was darn hard, but because we knew what our values where, and that we would not let the events determine our happiness or success we mangaed through it, reminding ourselves very often how much we had, and the baby certainly brought in a new perspective.  \n\nGet closer to each other, get close with those friends you like.  And rejoice for a new life is about to come into the world and Christ will be present at all your sides.
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Some people get a lot of joy and peasure in helping others, and it's real admirable, and i gotta love them for it.\n\nBut i am selfish. I am happy doing what I wanna do, i don't wanna follow some moron's vision of happiness, i wanna be me all the time. I dont give two hoots what anyone thinks or wants if it doesnt fall in my view. I can compromise, but i don't often, why should i make myself unhappy?
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I am grateful for so many things....I'm grateful that I'm alive and have full use of my body (have chronic health problems). I'm grateful that I have a wonderful husband and supportive family and friends. I'm grateful that I live in a country where I'm not forced to cover my face just because I'm a woman. I am extremely grateful for our men and women fighting to ensure that we'll always be free. I'm grateful for my horses and my dogs - they help me so much emotionally when I'm feeling bad physically.\n\nNice question - sorry you had some jerky replies.\n\nHappy Thanksgiving to you!
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Overall? Yes, I am. Love my family, and I'm sure u feel the sam way, deep inside. There must be something that u love? how bout' ur best friend, for example, if u haven't made decision/moved, u might've never meet ur friend. You have a chance a make a difference in some1 else's life. jus, i'm sure u'll be happy in da futur! jus a  phase. I've been through it. i think. Any other questions? u noe where u can reach me
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My real friends accept me for who I am and also don't let me cut them out of my life so easily.  You find out who your real friends are even when life changes (moving away, new job, new school, bad breakups, etc).  They've been there for me through it all and I hope I've done the same for them.  These are the people you can count on when life seems to be going the other way.  Yea, there are times when they aren't perfect, but are you? No one is and you only try your best.
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I like the way you think. Personally I give back one person at a time. Sometimes in groups it depends on where I am and what is needed by each individual.  Just people in general, I don't really have to know them, just what they might need. Sometimes a wise conversation, or a friendly gesture. Just Because. Those who know me, know that children are my Purpose( A better way to see the world)!  Remember when Good Deeds are done, someone is doing something GREAT!
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Who have you known the longest?\n\nWho do you feel most comfortable around?\n\nWho do you feel comfortable talking to about your life?\n\nWho is there for you most when you need them to be?\n\nWho would do almost anything for you?\n\nWho do you feel is most likely to not phase themselves out \nof your life in one way or another?
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I am 22 and unmedicated for Bipolar. I think about or attempt every winter. The happiest time of the year. I live a couple of hrs away from my nearest family member but they have never come to see me. even when they are in town for business they will not call they just pass on thru and keep on going. They know where I live and my cell but they will not call or come by\nThe lonlyness of the holiday sesion, seeing every one happy and in love it is just depressing when you are alone. Feeling like no one cares about you or loves you during thanksgiving & christmas. Lets be thankful for what we have right well what do you have really? what makes it the happiest time of the year? Family they haven't rembered me sence I was 12. Friends they have there own familys and can't come by when needed.\nSo every year I sit and I think and I plan.\nLast year I was about to when I got a call from my sister in law telling me that my mother was in the hospital for emergency heart surgery. I couldn't leave my mom in the hospital possible on her death bed wondering if I was going to come or not. I couldn't break her heart when she might not survive to see the next year.\n\nbut now the summers half over and i wonder what will this year be ike?
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1.how did you spend Easter? On the beach\n2.have you flown on an airplane since 911? Yes, to New York the day war broke out\n3.do you exercise everyday or at least 3 times a week? I move off the chair, if that's what you mean\n4.what is your age? Some beans\n5.how much time do you spend on yahoo answers? In and out, here and there\n6.why do some people call others names when asking a question they really need an answer to? I have no idea\n7.what are your plans this weekend? Go to a gig, get shit done\n8.are you in high school,college,work full time or full time parent? Student and parent\n9.are you closer to your mom or your dad?or closer to someone not even your blood? Disowned one, trying to disown the other. Would rather have my sister\n10.have you ever met someone in person whom you met online? Lotsa times, all good :-)\nthanks and be careful if you do meet someone online in person!
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Love does bring people together for sure . For holidays does your family gettogether? Well thats love wanting to share things with those you love is natural . Love bonds us to oneanother makes us feel like we are apart of something special makes us whole .
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heyy!...i dunno how u thot up of this enitre assumption....but i admit that there is substance and conviction in what you say. everyone does have a purpose, greater than others that he/she is biding by. once you realize yours i guess it is your sole duty to carry it out, however many-a-times just finding out ur "JOB" as you expressed does'nt have to be of supreme importance. i personally believe that the journey to realization and self-actualisation is more significant and of much much greater consequence.
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I agree with blissfuldeedee above...Far from feeling sorry or thinking less of that person, I would admire that person. I admire strong independent persons who don't need to always have a "sidekick" to be able to do something. Is there a rule that you always have to have someone with you to do something??? The world is full of bigots. I know you're not one of them.
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My husband has 2 uncles and a cousin who are blind and I help out where I can. Helping an organization is one thing but acually living with or around them is another. Helping an organization is great but at the end of the day you can go home and not worry about it unless you want to. Mostly my uncles need help for instance reading the paper, Mowing the grass, Any yard work, dusting, they have a nicknack rack that needs cleaned quit often . When they need to go somewhere which is quite often and they get bored really easy. They can do most every other thing for themselves. But the running on a whim everywhere drives me crazy. I also have 2 children who are homebodies and like to play at home. I am torn. I try to be sensitive to there needs. I love them.