How can I arrange for random alcohol testing? Through my family doctor? Private clinic. I'm willing to pay. I'm no longer eligible for the random testing in the treatment program because of the length of my sobriety. I would like the random testing to keep my difficult ex-husband assured and perhaps to give me another year of "babysitting" though I do go to AA frequently and am feeling great about my sobriety.
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First off Congrats... You have made it farther than most do... and I respect you for that..\n\nFor random testing yes any clinic should be able to do it for you... But of course there will be a charge...\n\nGood Luck and best wishes to you.
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Are you working your program? If your not doing any work, you will surely drink again. I got to a point in my recovery where i stopped doing the work. I relapsed (surprise, surprise) This time around, when I feel myself getting bored, I do something to help someone who is still suffering. It helps me remember where I've been, and where I don't want to be anymore. It also keeps me out of my pity pot. "Pour me, pour me, pour me another drink" This program is for people who WANT it. I had to take every drink I took to get here. You'll know when your truly ready. Have you had enough pain yet?\n"It Works If You Work It"
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Make a video of her doing it....what a wonderful world we live in where you can tape just about anything and everything. Yes she has a problem with drinking because she cannot remember anything she does the next day. What she is doing is killing herself and one day may end up in the hospital for alcohol poisioning if she doesn't watch herself. But ya its AA not AAA, I think your A key got stuck hopefully. AA is not a shame but rather a support group for those who have alcohol dependency. I wouldn't knock it if you don't know what it is like.
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Alas, this test is a commercial one, so I'm guessing there is no way that they will let you have it for free... Also, it's designated to only be sold to professionals, so I'm guessing that you'll just have to book into a clinic/therapists. \n\nHowever, before you do, be aware that this test (nor any tests) is not a reliable indicator of AD/HD...(see below link)\n\nhttp://www.adhdtesting.org/tova.htm\n\n\nAnyway, hope that helps you somewhat! All the best
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There are several people in my life with drinking problems, my Grandpa  is the only success story I know of. They say that there is never a cured alcoholic, they are recovering for the rest of their lives. Alcoholism is a disease, and many people take it lightly because drinking is socially accepted. The way my Gpa stopped was by getting really, really drunk beyond the point of sickness, and he says his secret to 'recovery' was just remembering the feeling of that night. He immediately stopped drinking, and started chewing gum incessedly. He did attend AA mtgs and said that suprisingly, they really did help. He also said that the fact that my Gma attended the alinon mtgs helped alot bc he didn't feel as if he was all alone. You have to remain patient and not stress out the alcoholic to the point that they would want to drink. Remove all alcohol from the house, even if its a wine cooler. Living with an alcoholic is a very difficult thing. I hope this brings some insight. Good Luck
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I am proud of you, it sounds like you are having a nervous breakdown, but you are still sound enough to know to ask for help and not drink. You don't need the risperdal, you need a good support group of friends and family to stand behind you and to keep doing what you arre doing and that is looking for healthy and wise anwsers. You are aware that you are a mother ,and I am proud that you are not neglecting the childrens future but your including them in your life and future.Of course if the rispidal takes the edge for you  and your doc recommened it well give it a few days, you will feel a little dopey the first few days, your body has toget use to it, Your doc will titrate the dosage as you move on. I am so sorry for the breakup that you are going thru, stay strong, don't let that man get the best of you. If you haven't family or friends than seek out some help form clinics in your neighbor hood or continue to talk to your doc. don't pick up that  beer, it will only make taking the risperdal worse and then you won't be there for you children when they need you. You have an important role in life, know and learn that now. I give you credit for you asking for advice on such. continue to chat with other q and a rooms.what ever ittakes, just love your children, listen to their needs and love yourself. your husband is either an idiot or the two of you may be able to make this break up an amicable one. someitmes people grow at different times which makes it hard for one to understand another.try a marriage counsellor. god bless  you and the kids, and remember , beer and booze will make you fat and old looking before your time :)
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First,  I'd like to say that I am sorry for your loss.  I, also, think you should go to a doctor.  He may be able to put you on antidepressants or something.  Yes, You could very well be or develop into an alcoholic soon.  I don't think it is worth that..  There is nothing wrong with asking for help.  Good luck to you.
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You are deffinatley showing signs of having and or developing a serious problem. I think you should go and talk to someone (a councellor, not a friend or anything cos they can be quick to condem). I went through something similar and found talking through my problems really good. You shouldnt drink to get drunk - thats simply binge drinking. Have you thought about why you want to be drunk? Is it to feel good, to block out pain, etc? Also, its troubling to think that you hide your behavour. I know that its hard to talk about it, but it is deffinatley worth it. Its amazing how good i felt after the first session, just to spill everything out to someone who was totally unbiased, knowing that its totally confidential and whoever your talking to isnt going to think your a nutcase is fantastic!!! I hope everything works out for you, and again, please go and talk to someone. Something that really woke me up was when i was told that you can actually die just from drinking too much - because its a depressant, it can actually relax your system so much that you stop breathing and just die in your sleep. Imagine your parents/siblings/friends/etc walking in to wake you up and not being able to - that thought freaked me out. So yeah, again, hope it all goes well, i would give you my email address if you wanted to talk but i dont really want to post it here! Take care
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Yes, your husband is an alchololic. Whatever you decide on doing remember that your house needs to be a safe place. One thing I would highly recommend that you do is to go to a local Al-Anon meeting. These meetings are for people who are affected by a loved one who is an alcoholic. Your first step is in taking care of yourself. By posting here I believe you are ready to do this.\n\nI've noticed that subsequent posts to mine are giving you terrible advice. Yes, you must take care of yoruself and you need to be in a safe environment. In addition to this you need to talk to people who are experiencing the same thing you are. Your husband won't stop or be cured over night. This will be a long journey and expect a year or two if there is a chance. Tough love might be what he needs.\n\nRemember to take care of yourself by eating right, getting enough sleep, exercising, and by taking care of yourself spiritually and emotionally. You must take care of you. You are worth it! When both of you can be healthy individuals then you can work on your marriage. Until then, he needs to deal with the consequences of his actions. Don't give into his pleadings until he begins and continues to attend AA meetings.
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I just got into a nursing program at BYU and what they do is if you have anything on your record, you just have to write a paper saying how you've overcome your problem. It'll for sure show up on your record, If they ask for a paper/explanation, just say that you took some rehab classes and haven't driven drunk since and don't plan to in the future. you should be fine, good luck!
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my mother was an alcoholic. I am not.\n\nIt can be hereditary. If NO ONE in your family has this disease, they may have began drinking at a very young age. \n\nI urge you to find them help. My mother died two weeks before my 13th birthday. She was 41 years old. She slipped in our bathtub and her she had a hemorage in her brain. This caused a stroke. She would have lived for all we know but because she had drank so much throughout her life her blood vessels had thinned out. When they had to put the feeding tube in they scratched the lining of her stomach. Because her blood vessels were so thinned out, her stomach filled up with blood and she died. \n\nAt the time she died she had been a 6 month RECOVERED alcoholic. \n\nIt is very dangerous. I hope maybe you can share my story with your children and show them the severity. It takes a lot of will power and many scare tactics for most people to over come this illness. They have to hit "rock bottom" before they can recover many times and no telling how severe that bottom can be.\n\nMy mother was a wonderful person, I never even caught on to her drinking problem until years after her death. Not all alcoholics are the "happy" type. I was fortunate to get the time I had with her. \n\nHer mother is still alive and the devestation that she has gone through due to loosing her daughter is something I wouldn't wish on anyone. I feel it was much worse than how I suffered and I would hate for you to end up in her position.\n\nPlease Take Care and I will pray for you and your family.
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Get out of debate now! \n\nWatch out for attacks on privacy, I'm guessing the resolution is "Random drug testing is justified?" so when on aff, they're going to attack you because you have no constitutional right to test for drugs. I like to look for a little thing called the Founder's intent of privacy. \n\nBut really debate is pointless and worthless, as are the great majority of the people who are in it, as you may find.
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possibly...if you are honest and tell the judge that you have a drinking problem....probably have you go to AA classes...they may, in fact, be the best thing for you....good luck
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Usually there has to be an order from a physician to check for certain things. But some doctors order tests like hepatitis b, c and hiv if the patient is pregnant or seems to be at high risk for infection, If you feel that you need to be tested contact a local health department. the price is not as expensive as private doctor office and of course all test results will be confidential Good Luck
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Have all your questions answered by visiting:\nhttp://www.alcoholmonitoring.com/
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I've taken a few tests myself. I failed one by using a urine additive because they can detect it in your urine. I passed one by drinking a detox drink like mentioned by another answerer, but the one I used was for "the morning after". I had a friend who swears that if you put a few drops of bleach in water and drink it that works. I don't know about this one though. Also you can take these pills used to purify water (from a sports store in the camping gear section)There's two different pills. Take one of each asap and you will pass. Definitely drink lots of water and pee as much as you can. If you can afford it buy the synthetic urine at the head shop (quite expensive!) Good Luck and keep tokin'!! (It's not as bad as alcohol for all of you out there against it!)
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Here's what I found.  I'm wondering what constitutes a "private club".  Can a bar owner go "private"?  I agree with places like Ruby Tuesday going smoke free - that's fine...it is a family place that serves food.  However, I don't feel my local hole-in-the-wall bar that doesn't serve food, is a place you'd NEVER take your child, and is full of construction workers coming off work in pickup trucks wearing Carharts should be forced to comply.  There should be more exceptions to this rule.\n\nPrivate clubs if only members are present and if the private club holds a valid D-4 liquor permit.  A D-4 liquor permit allows private clubs to serve beer and any intoxicating liquor to its members for consumption while at the club.\n\nFinally!  I found some answers:  \n\n"PRIVATE CLUB" MEANS A CLUB AS THAT TERM IS DEFINED IN R.C. 4301.01 (B)(13) AND THAT IS ORGANIZED AS NOT FOR PROFIT.\n\n"Club" means a corporation or association of individuals organized in good faith for social, recreational, benevolent, charitable, fraternal, political, patriotic, or athletic purposes, which is the owner, lessor, or occupant of a permanent building or part of a permanent building operated solely for those purposes, membership in which entails the prepayment of regular dues, and includes the place so operated.\n\nI know this is getting lenghty but I found the application for a D-4 permit.  It is pretty informative too!