I was in love with a girl. She said she love me too. But she is right now carrying another guy's baby. she said she still loves me and that what happen was a mistake. I don't believe her. She is contemplating Abortion......
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I would really look at the relationship. I would also wonder if she had other problems. You need to really look deep to find out what you are going to decide. Trust is hard to regain and living with someone you dont trust is impossible so dont do it unless you really are sure she is the one for you. Good luck and God Bless!!
87259
You both still young, maybe take a abortion. Taking care a baby is not easy and huge responsible. If you both haven't confident to raise the BB up. Then don't bring to earth for suffering.
448305
OK you need to do what you feel is right. I think that you need to tell your current g/f a/s/a/p you don't want her finding out later from someone else. It is so nice to see you wanting to help out this woman and her child. But I do think it would be wise for you to get a paternity test done. She is the one that offered you one. I really don't know what else to tell you, except you sound like a really great guy and her and her daughter would be very lucky to have you in their lives.
36331
Uhm, she got pregnant with another guy's baby... ignore her. It's over... don't go back, she'll just do it all over again.
86574
You've had 4 abortions?? I really hope that's not true. \nI hope that when you actually try to have children you struggle with it. 4 abortions is just sick--why didn't you consider giving them up for adoption? I can understand when there's one abortion---but 4? What was wrong with birth control or protection?\nMy husband and I have been trying to have another child for 2 years now--we'd give anything to have another one. And there are so many other families just like ours. You've thrown 4 away? That's not right! You should feel terrible about your decisions!
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She wants both of you probably because you both have different qualities.\n\nIf she did really love you then just you would be enough.\n\nStop letting her play you.\n\nSay she got pregnant how would you know who was the father?\n\nI know its hard but you have to leave her alone if she wont leave the other guy alone, block her from instant messaging you, block her e-mails & if necessary change your phone number, do you really want to waste time with someone whos always thinking of someone else? \n \nIt seems to me like she is playing with both of u. I think that u need to move on and find someone else and show her that u don't have time for games. If she loves u she wouldn't do u like this so find u someone that feels the same way u do and wants to be with u and only u.
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Yes! it sounds to me like you two are definatly in love. and if she didn't give you a good enough reason, like "i met someone else or i want to explore my options" then i think she still loves you, it is just too painful for her to be apart for so long. so i think you need to talk to her. dont just go over there and pop the question right away. but talk to her, make her fall in love with you again and then tell her you need her and that you two need to spend the rest of you lives together...then... "will you marry me?"
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Well......It seems like you are scared to try it again with her because she hurt you really bad and it is hard to forgive and forget. Your heart is still broken. It sounds like you don't trust her and you know a relationship WILL NOT work if you can't trust one another. You will always be wondering if she doesn't come home on time or not call you etc. what is she doing? Is she out with someone else? ......\nIf you want a relationship with her then you will have to forgive her and trust her again. ALSO....there's a little deal with a new baby. The baby is not yours.....so are you willing to deal with someone else child? The baby is so innocent and deserves to be loved and cared for no matter who this girl is with. The Baby should never feel like it has caused problems or anything like that. Are you willing to care for this child and love this child if you two are together as your own?\nBig Questions...I know you are the one asking for help, but I want you to think about the whole picture and not just about the girl, because now there one more added to the girl for life!
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I have not heard about this, but how it has saddened me that a whole childhood has now been lost. I wonder how she will ever cope. Of course the questions come to mind, where were her parents, where did she get the alcohol, who gave it to her etc. But what concerned me most was what type of person ( if not another young, immature child) would take advantage of a child that age no matter what state or condition she was in. God my daughter is 11 the thought of pregnancy at that age terrifies me let alone the reality. Where were the responsible adults. I hope if the other party to this was old enough to know better, he gets whats coming to him. The decisions and responsibilities this child is now faced with are far to heavy for her to even comprehend. There effects will be far reaching. How can one expect an 11 yr old child to understand those actions or the consequences. Good lord this has made me so very sad. We will be praying for her physical and emotional safety and well being. Plse do the same.
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Tell her that even though she may not want you, thatyou are going to be there for your baby. It is the right thing to do. You dont have much control over wether she wants you back, but you do have control over being involved in your childs life. Be a big part of the childs life regardless, you will find out what unconditional love is. That decision is up to you. congrats!
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Yes, support her and help her through this pregnancy.  If she decides to keep the child (which will be difficult, but possible) help her finish high school by getting her homework for her.  If she decides to give the child up for adoption (the best choice) help her through this time by being there for her.  If she decides to end this childs life, pray for her, but don't give up on her.  This is not a good choice, I have been through it and I still regret it to this day. I am forgiven, though......
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marrying the chick with the baby, probably isn't a good idea, sounds like she wants you to be the baby's daddy, and for the other chick, you should go out with her and see what happens. good luck. :)
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Hi Che,  The way you ask the question with all the information, You both sounded like a happy couple. I don't think you did anything wrong,(if you didn't leave something out). She is very confused about her love for you,or she has found someone else to replace you.It's one or the other. I would find a nice girl who know's what her feeling are. That way you don't have to go through this again. Your right us girls don't all do this.I have a old man and i would never do this to him. Good Luck My Friend.\n\n  Clowmy
564160
you need to talk to her and explain how you are feelin about having another child...maybe you 2 could come to a compromise
616211
Ooh...what a mess! Ok, first, should have waited a little longer to cohabitate. Now that makes it hard on you, your boyfriend and your son. All things in due time, my dear. Next, I do have some good news here...you'll probably always love your son's father in some small way because he shared with you an experience no one else has, which is creating your child together. This will change with more time, though I can't say if your feelings for your boyfriend will change. I loved my ex dearly but he wasn't in love with me. He accidentally got me pregnant and we both decided it was for the best for me to have an abortion. We're still great friends ever since we broke up, but that will always tie us together, even though no one else knows what truly bonded us. It took me time but I didn't move on until I was really ready and it sounds like you did. You're also really young and you already have a child so a lot of this could stem from those early 20's feelings of newfound independence and sowing wild oats. Only you can decide. Take some time for yourself and figure out what it is you really want. Once you clear your head, you might realize you do love this man, or you might soundly be able to declare to yourself that you don't. Remember that love takes time to build and establish, and you haven't been with this new guy for too terribly long. Whatever you decide, best of luck to you.
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That's a tough situation for you both.  I can imagine your girlfriend is pretty devestated too.  Don't forget to consider her in all this.  I'm sure she wanted children too, just as much as you do, and to find out she cannot is a terrible shock for any woman, as well as the fact that she has cancer, which is also awful.\n\nBe sensitive here.  If you love this girl, you need to decide what is more important - a life with her, or children of your own.  If you want a life with her, adoption or surrogacy may be an option for you both.  Otherwise, you have to end the relationship and find a woman who can bear you children.  A lot of couples don't find out they are infertile until after they are married, and it can destroy a relationship.  If yours is strong, maybe you can get through this. \n\nThe way you talk, though, it sounds to me like you have already made up your mind.
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to her, you are still her baby, and she only wants what is best.trust me, i have been there.sometimes, though, they are right.they see things about us and the people we are with, that we dont see.take her advice to heart, but make your own decisions.kindly let her know that you appreciate her love for you, but that you have to make yourself happy, and make your own mistakes.