okay... here is the thing... i'm a little overweight, pretty short and pretty shy... i wanna have a special someone to share my joyous moments with but i think that because of (the above) characteristics, i can't get that special someone... what shud i do? please help... i've never had a boyfriend since 7th grade... :(
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Hey girl, not all guys are looking for the skinny model type. Just be happy with yourself and care about yourself. Have confidence and don't worry about being short and shy. Short doesn't matter to most guys, shy isn't so bad, just smile at the guys and try to be knowledgeable about current events or something so you have something to talk about. I'm sure you are a great girl and some guy is going to be lucky to find you.
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Well it depends on the guy you're looking for. Guys really like it when you can relate to them about something. It's hard to start a relationship or keep one going if you don't have something to talk about. And always show that you're interested. If you don't have a boyfriend right now then it can't get any worse if u try so it's always worth trying to get a boyfriend. You don't have to be hott to get a boyfriend, be yourself and as long as you try everything'll fall inot place. Give it time, be patient. Everything'll work out.\n\nGood Luck!
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Your biggest problem is your self image. You need to learn that you have plenty of great qualities and boost your self esteem instead of reducing yourself to your own negative perception of your appearance. The guys you really want to know could care less that you are a little overweight. It's what's inside that counts. Smile ;0)
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First off nobody needs a girlfriend. Being shy is a hardship for dating I know.I can tell you though just be yourself and someone special will find you. Try being friends with some girls first have some of your guy friends and some girl friends hang out somewhere. Having a friend that is a girl is a way to get to know what other girls like too. Good Luck and remember you do not need a girlfriend to be happy and go out and have fun.
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Have confidence dear -- if you are ready than do not rush it. Just be yourself and the guys will appreciate that versus a shallow phony-- they are everywhere! First- a little hint-- find a couple of guys that you find that are attractive-- then start conversations with all of them--asking them things about them-- what they think and feel about different things. The shallow guys will be annoyed and blow you off-- the decent guys will find that your interest in them as a compliment.  Try it and see how that works. Also ask around about them too. Do not make any commitments to go out with any of them until you narrowed the choices down to one or two. By that time I feel you will kn ow who those guys that are worth your time will be and who is not.
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Lonely one, your question really touched me. I, too, know what it's like to be an overweight woman and what it's like to be ignored by every man. I'm not trying to be depressing but it's the truth, as I'm sure you know. But I think there is someone out there who will love you for who you are. Realistically, there's only a small slice of the population that would consider going out with a very overweight person, but keep being the nice person that you are and it will happen. Feel free to e-mail me at rmaynard@su.edu We may have a lot in common.
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You get over your shyness by, if necessary, making yourself talk to someone. I know it's not easy. I'm shy too. But I MAKE myself talk to people and when conversation is started, then the next logical step is dating. Smile, and be friendly to men where you go....grocery store, gas station, post office, etc. There are a lot of good, decent guys out there, and one of them is waiting for a nice Lady like you. Good Luck!
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I totally understand where you're coming from. I am not at all attracted to short men. I like my men tall. My b/f is 6'6" but he's not the greatest of boyfriends. However, if your boyfriend is a great guy, then don't dump him for superficial reasons. You did say boyfriend, not some nice guy that's interested in you. There is a reason you made him your boyfriend, think back to reasons and consider is it really worth losing a great guy because he's lacking a few inches. Looks come and go, but great chemistry is something that will make a relationship work. Hope this helps some.
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first, desperate women don't care what a guy would look like, but I guess that's solved since you aren't a woman yet. second, you're too young to absolutely NEED a boyfriend. third, if you are searching online and exclaim you're desperate it's a bit redundant. and fourth, if you're such a cutie, why can't you find a guy in the real world?
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hey.don't worry sweetheart.b u'r self n get confidence u r not goin 2 b alone always...n do u know something nobody can b u right.u r who u r..u r u'r self.noone knows u from inside n when one does he'll come 4 u.....n u'r also not bad..just b with a little patience.u must b happy 4 the way u r..cos if anybody try 2 b u they can't...sweety.u really don't have 2 worry at all.ok.u r a lovely girl.
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I want a girl who's quite, cute, shy, but can be all hot and crazy when she's going all out. And that's the girl next door when I'm in 7th grade. Lol\n\nAnd I know she wants a fun, advanturous, interesting a guy who can lead her, give her good feelings and emotions that she can never find in nice guys, she wants a guy who knows what he's doing; not a wuss, he's not afraid to express his anger at the right moment, also knows the moment to be sweet and loving... etc. \n\nKisses slowly and cuddle with her in the living room, making her feel safe and comforable\nKisses passionatly and violently in the bedroom, making her feel like a total sexual being...\n\nthere are million things more...\n\n\nP.S. \nThank you for your post to my question, these days are important to me for that I'm realizing the most important concept where my family, friends, everybody around me, life have failed me. Your post really cheered me up, now, good luck to you stranger!
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having a boyfriend has its ups and downs and it is nice to have one, but you're still an adolescent. patience is a virtue. someone will eventually find you.
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Sometimes being "fine, slim and tall" is not enough.  You have to have a nice personality, and a good sense of humor.  Or at the very least find someone that likes your personality, sense of humor, etc.  It's that whole "beauty is in the eye of the beholder" thing.\n\nSomething else to consider is, maybe you are not the problem, chances are there's nothing wrong with you... maybe the guys in your town just don't have good taste when it comes to women. \n\nBe patient and open-minded... finding someone special is always worth the wait.\n\nGood luck!
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Maybe they do like you and you're too caught up in self-consciousness to realize it. Or maybe they're just too stupid to know that redheads rule. Everybody here is gonna tell you that looks don't matter. They're lying. None of them would ever date someone they didn't find physically attractive. People will hate me for saying that, but it's true. I don't know what you mean by "an average body," but it doesn't really matter. You know if you look nice or not. Regardless, assuming you're in high school and assuming nobody there really is attracted to you (which I doubt), eventually you'll graduate. Go to college. You'll find the scene is completely different there. One more thing. I hope you're not being narrow-minded about the guys you're interested in. There's probably some reserved, nice guy out there, maybe not Mr. Universe, but not bad-looking either who would love to take you out but is scared to death to say anything. Give him a shot. Oh yeah...try taking the initiative and asking a few guys out yourself.
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Hey Miss2good4me,\nI am really very thankful to u for showing so much concern.And Actually i think u r right 'bout me that i am desperate for a Girl....but u can say i am rather confused.coz i think i am really in love and i don't wanna go for anyone else,but i feel really lonely when i see others.I've already missed many opportunities and girls coz i didnt hav the courage to go up to anyone.I was thinkin maybe you wud me the one for me(Atleast online) so that i wud get to know a lill more 'bout  girls(If u dont mind ie).Here's my ID just in case:karan_wagh2001@yahoo.co.in\n\nbye\nPs:i don't think the Gay guys wud turn straight.(waitin 4 ur reply)
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is the reason you haven't had a boyfriend because of them or you? i know lots of people in wheel chairs that have relationships. so is it you? maybe your so afraid of no one liking you that you give off the vibe to stay away. if your not confidant in your self or you dont like yourself...men can pick up on that. try cahnging your attitude about yourself and im sure things will change
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hey dont beat yourself up over it ..im 18 and never had a bf  and i consider myself a really nice person..i guess the saying goes nice guys finish last which is a shame...maybe your trying to hard and it just doesnt work out when your with a girl ..you cant compare yourself with your friends because everyone is different...looks arent everything most girls are looking for a good personality and someone that will treat them nice...some girls are looking for the so called "bad boy" type which really gets them no where.. maybe your looking in the wrong places ..you can always try a dating service which my cousin did shes 32 ..she has met some nice ppl and shes now getting married to the guy from the dating service..or just ask some girl that you are attracted...just be yourself and have confidence in yourself..dont go up to the girl thinking why dont girls like me ..just take your time your young