Me and my GF have been together for more than 3 years. In these three years we tried to braking up many times because of major differences we have from each other but it didn't work. However, she doesn't have what it takes to be with me and I can't satisfy her either. \n\nThe Problem is: we have trouble staying far from each other, we so got used to each other that makes this almost impossible.\nI don't see any future with her because if that happens we will end up arguing everyday, but she always want me in her life and I want her too. \nSince we are still together we both have trouble finding someone else.\n\nis there any solution for us?\nIs she the person I have to spend my life with?
131948
I was in a similar situation.  I ended up marrying the guy and was divorced 6 months later.  It is a nasty thing to be so used to someone.  But, if you really feel that she isn't for you, then moving on it what you got to do.  Sometimes it will be a strain on the "friend" relationship that you have, but the catcher is that you have to keep it a friends relationship.  If you got back to having sex with her, you are just setting yourself up for hurting both you and her and whomever you might have had an option of dating.  Hope this helps.
575367
This is definitely not a healthy situation. You need to try and take a break. It is obvious that she has an amazing control over your emotions. True relationships are ones in which both parties can be strong without each other. Although your life feels incomplete without her if it were meant to be so many problems would no be going on.
118598
What did you do, if you post that you will get more help. Some times that is just the way it is. When something is in your face all the time you get used to it. It becomes something you think you can do without. The only way to know if you can be without anything, is to lose or let it go for a small period of time. Go the distance, if love is still there it can be rekindled. Spare no expense, use what you know about her. Shock her suprise her, make her feel like the love of your life, it's more than just words, it's action that makes the words. Good luck!
410757
She is moving waaaaay too fast!!  (My own opinion, of course!)\n\nYou are going in the right direction.  Distance can be a wonderful asset to building a relationship.  If forces the two to go beyond that initial "lust" and "infatuation" stuff and build a truly lasting friendship as well as deep relationship.  But, if one of the members is pushing for drastic change, well, I would be a little leery and wonder why?\nIf this is something you both want and think is going to last a lifetime, why go storming into it before you really get a chance to build that solid foundation?\nBut talk to her, keep building the way you are.  I believe in slow and lasting rather than wham bam, and gone!\nGood luck!
122677
SOMETIMES WHEN A RELATIONSHIP REACHES A POINT, THERE IS NO TURNING AROUND.  YOU JUST HAVE TO KNOW YOU WANT THIS AND FORGET THE PAST AND MAKE A COMMITMENT TO MAKE IT WORK.  JUST FORGET ALL THE MUMBO JUMBO AND START FRESH.  DON'T WORRY ABOUT WHAT HAPPENED THEN, LIVE IN THE NOW.  IF YOU CAN'T STOP FOCUSING ON WHAT HAPPENED IN THE PAST, IT WILL NEVER WORK.  AND IT IS POSSIBLE TO START NEW WITH A RELATIONSHIP.  I SPEAK 100% FROM EXPERIENCE.  I KNOW THIS IS A DIFFERENT SITUATION,  BUT LISTEN TO MY ADVICE.  IT WORKS.  JUST ASK HER IF SHE WANTS THIS OR NOT.  IF SHE HAS ANY DOUBTS, THEN SHE DOESN'T.  SHE MIGHT EVEN NEED SOME TIME JUST TO SORT THINGS OUT.  SIT DOWN AND HAVE A NICE LONG TALK TO HER AND DON'T BRING UP THE PAST; ONLY THE NOW AND THE FUTURE.  GOOD LUCK.  IF SHE LOVES YOU, SHE'LL STICK WITH YOU.
632254
It sounds like you 2 want to be together, seperation doesnt do any good, if you dont go to the problem,and come to somekind of middle ground of ageement on the problem truthfully, you will always come back to the answer to seperate not ever solving the problem, be honest with each other no matter how each other will respond. and remember dont answer by your feelings only by your heart which is not a desire, feelings,and desire are controlled by your flesh, your heart is controlled by your will.
274125
You are a very passionate man it seems and you truly love her but it doesn't seem that these feelings are mutual. Unfortunately i think you should move on. She's told you three times now that she doesn't want to be with you. As much as it hurts if you love her you should try and let her go. Plus not always when two people have very similar personalities do they get along. Give yourself some space from her and go looking around the pond. Like the saying goes there are a lot of fish in the ocean. Look for someone who is just as passionate as you are.
266341
sorry that things didn't work out.. I am 27 and had a relationship i soooo wanted but it didn't happen for me.. but now i have an even better relationship.\ni believe no real relatioship should be complicated.. i try to stick with the "if someone wants to be with you then they will" It sounds a bit like she is keeping you emotionally hanging on by talking to you each day and that's very unfair, i think you should take some time to distance yourself from her and ask her not to contact you every day, she doesn't need to know ya business, she gave up that right when she split from you she probably only wants to know it to stop you from moving on.. but you really should, once she sees you doing that then she will either realise how crazy she is being and jump at the chance to be with you for real or she will move on also.. either way you will know how she really thinks and feels and move on to better times with or without her.. good luck
298686
Your g/f is very immature. I know you said to answer yes or no. But you need to know something...If she is this immature and selfish (which is what it is) then that means she will "growup" in time. When she does its very likely she will also "out grow" you. I don't mean this as putting you down. I mean it as a warning to you. You have accepted this behavior in her. When she changes she may very well decide that she doesn't want a guy who would put up with this. DON'T put up with it. Its rude. And she needs to know you can't treat people this way.\nGood LUck To YOU!
350367
You can't force these things, she either loves you or she doesn't.  Sounds like she doesn't.  Also possibly because your relationship is long distance you romanticise about it too much.  If you lived together day in, day out, the rose-tinted spectacles may have come off long ago.  You sound like a lovely guy, you deserve better.  Let it go and find someone who will be there for you and love you the way you deserve to be loved.
285618
She probably is not ready to let you go and knows that after you see her for the last time you will be gone and she does not want that. My suggestion is to just move on because she does not know what she wants right now and until she figures it out then she needs to be by herself but you can wait for her forever. If you guys are met to be together you will.
129728
i don't know what's wrong with her, but if i were you i would get out now. how many more years of this crap are you going to take? if you have given her no reason to treat you the way she does and she still does it, she has some issues and you deserve better. in relationships where you have been together for a while and it seems like nothing will change, something drastic has to happen before anything will. take some time apart and reevaluated your feelings and the situation.
219070
First of all, your gf has to realize you can't make someone stay in a relationship the other person doesn't want to be in or love you if they don't. And if your feelings aren't there for her, there aren't there.  If you would like to save your relationship with your gf, then you probably need to cut all ties with your friend because your relationship with your friend will only get more serious.  I hope this helps!  Best regards.
442516
I think you made the right decision. If you two love each other then things should work out. Its cool that you show the understanding that you do. That may be what she really needs from you
558449
Hope this works out for you. its probably a bit raw at the moment. could this possibly not be the first time this has happened, as im sure she is trying to tell you something and get a reactionary response. she wants you to want her and fight for her not just give up. im thinking that she wants you to commit after 8 years. she doesnt want to ask you to make it a more secure relationship possibly not long distance. she wants you to come up with that idea and put it to her. so she can feel loved and needed. thats what im thinking and im a chick and sometimes we can be a bit weird like that. so give it a go when things calm down have a honest talk with her and ask her what she really wants or doesnt want from you and decide what you are ready to give. if you arent ready to give everything - why have a relationship anyway. take care and give it some time.
77660
Do both of you want this relationship to work?  Sit down and have a long chat, the "lockout" incident is just the tip of the iceberg!  Your problems are more than that, perhaps the two of you do not really have trust on each other.  You better think carefully if you still want to be together since TRUST is a foundation of any relationship!
92206
You really need to sit down with her and have a total heart to heart chat.  No games just complete honesty.  Are the problems that caused you to break up been fixed now?  If not they need fixed before even thinking of going back.  Ive seen people who truly do love each other but for some reason they just cannot get along outside of the bedroom.  I feel for u and my heart goes out to you but you need to also think of your own emotional well being in this.  Good luck to u