ok ive been with my boyfriend for about a month now..and i REALLY care about him and i think im falling for him. hes such a great guy and he treats me well...BUT! he got a job offer in Colorado. so he might be moving!
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...If you or him doubt it probably don't do that.
642038
I didn't even finish reading your note, but from experience I would recommend ditching him... you deserve someone who can make up his mind and can love you 100%!! I had a fellow like that and I think he kept me around as security, so he wasn't alone and felt loved... don't be his love of last resort! Be strong and move on...
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Dear Penny,\nBefore asking any questions, or even analysing the myriad of eye movements, hand gestures and pupil dilating which probably indicate commitment, think what YOU want from this relationship. \n\nThe previous respondent talked about friends with benefits, but in this instance I have the feeling it applies to you also. \n\nSo: how do you feel about him? Honestly? Do YOU want to commit? If the answer is yes, be brave, be honest, and let him know you're ready to take this relationship to the next level.\n\nGood luck!
496184
If you are willing to have a long distance relationship with the new guy i say go for it.\n\nAlways listen to your heart
509119
Give it time, let him get to know you, my bf was the same way but after we spent time talking and just hangin out he realized that I was different and that I did not want to hurt him or mess with him, now we are in love and I know that I want to spend the rest of my life with him and he feels the same way. I hope everything works out.\n ~Kim~
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Trust yourself.  You know deep down what is right.  You likely would have RC as a boyfriend already if you felt chemistry with him.  He can prove all day and night that he cares for you. . . if the chemistry isn't there . . then it isn't there.  It's okay.  Be loving, but honest.  Don't give him false hopes.  Do use him as a crutch either.
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It's a sign of your boredom, but not a sign for you to ship out... A guy gives you attention and you think you're attracted to him? hey, just because you're having a rough patch in your relationship, doesn't mean it's going downhill. Think twice. And if you have some love and respect for your boyfriend, don't hurt him that fast... afterall, he's gonna be hurt by two people he cares about, his girl and his friend... Ouch.
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Lucky you.  Sounds like you have the perfect ingredients for a great relationship.  You already know eachother very well and you already have a great time together, so go for it!
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I have been with my boyfriend for a while too & sometimes  I feel like what does he love about me.  I think everyone feels that way sometimes because no one is perfect.  I would just continue complimenting him & flirting with him.  Tell him great things about himself all the time like how good he smells & how strong he is.  Maybe he has never been in love before & he wants to know how you know this time is different.  Make him a list of all the things you value & appreciate about him!
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it sounds like you don't want to really be with your boyfriend and that you impictire this fantasy guy that you wnat to come ans wisk you off your feet. he might be out there, but at the same time he might not. to me it sounds like you want someone who will treat you right and love you unconditionaly. i know that i had dreams somewhat like your and i met the man of my dreams and have been with him for 2 years. don't give up hope your mr right will come aroound and reveal himself to you, and you will know it's him. just don't go only on th elooks because it sounds like this fantasy guy has an amazing self worth and personality and that might just be what you're actually looking for.
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I personally do think it works at the moment I'm in a relationship which started over the Internet, although i have not met him yet, we have such a connection and i really love him. we have been going out around 7months now and its been 7 of the best months of my life.
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well if in the five months that this has been going on it seems that you havent spent to much time with her and all of a sudden she wants to move in and has a boyfriend. RED FLAG, if you like chaos then go ahead.
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well i can't speak for everyone, but i can definitely say that if God called me to move over to another country so i could be with someone i loved...and do work for Him i would. or if He called the guy over to me, i hope he would listen too. :) no matter where it is, if God says yes...it's go time. *hug*
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go for it. life's way too short to not live it to the fullest. i told a guy i liked him and we were together for 4 months! it could happen to you!! good luck. email me if anything happeneds!
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he is being very cool, it sounds to me he likes the thrill of the chase, if i was you i would take a step back for now, which i know is difficult and try to think 'what will be will be' And you are probably still fragile after the end of your previous relationship so some 'you' time might be a good idea then you may be able to think a little clearer.  Hope you get it all sorted out
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OMG!!!! i am in your shoes in the current moment!!! My guy friend of four years lives in Seattle, but is working out here in California. I so like him, but he only admires me as a friend, he loves to hang out with me, even get advise from me!!! what sucks is tht i recently told him tht i liked him & i feel weird & he's his normal self. i think tht a friend is unconditional, but we are trying to put conditions. i just think tht we have to hang in there & hope tht someone will admire us as, we admire them. sooner or later it will come!!!! Sometimes we as humans want to control, when, where & time. We just need to realize tht the time will come. We kinda have to open ourselves to the world & understand tht our love is One sided. Until then we are just hurting ourselves. they r nt the ones causing pain, we r!!!!! Be strong & hang in there. Somedays are harder than ours. But our time will come. Good Luck!!!!!
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I think it's more than a friendship relationship at this point. I would say he's defidently more than interested, but committed. I think since you have so much in commen, he probebly thinks along the same lines as you regarding dating and getting married. You should have a serious conversation about your futures with him. Hear what he's thinking, then be honest, and tell him your consernes, and hopes for the relationship becoming more. Good luck! It sounds like you've found a great guy!