What types of things will a women consider while she is thinking if she will or will not ever return to an ex?
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How well he treated me the first time around. How intelligent he is. How responsible and financially stable he is. How he treats other people. How he handled our breakup. And if I'm still physically attracted to him.
199946
You are going to be fine if you and your ex are on good terms.  Don't lose any sleep about it.  Dress nicely and bring a book and a snack because there will be a looooong wait.  But don't be afraid to say something if you feel something isn't quite right or fair.
667093
Now, this is my favorite one: 'Let him go, if he comes back, he is yours, if he does'nt, he never was' \nI believe in this, because it happened to me. \nI am guessing he cheated on you, or something.. and now you have trust issues. \nHappens!!\nDont wait for him to screw up, it wont work. I know, because I waited for my gf to screw up after she cheated and we got back.\nYou will only end up screwing your thought process!!\nWhat you are doing right this time to you are a lot mature and hopefully going slow. Which is good. \nLove him for what he is to you and for what he will be for you tomorrow. Dont resuscitate the past. \nI strongly feel you are going to make it. Just take it one day at a time, discussing your future and stuff is good and sounds ideal, but if you have had trust issues, I would not recommend you make long term plans.\nWhat say??\nCheers!!
51257
girl it is hard. i have been there. the only thing is to stay busy and try not to think about it. it takes time and it will ease with time. after almost 9 years i still think about my ex every once in awhile even tho i am with the man of my dreams now. you will do it. dont let him make you miserable. if so then he wins. go find something to do and focus on it. wish you the best.
392670
First, does it seem like something she would consider?  If so, then go for it man.... otherwise you'll just be wondering what could have happened, and maybe be hurt if she finds someone else.
516301
That would depend on if you want to be back with your ex and also if you think that the problems that were there when you broke up are improved. I had a strict rule. No repeats. The only exception has been my husband after we had split up for two months. Generally, people find it very hard to change. It takes a lot of time, patience and willingess on both parts. If you think he is changing or atleast making a good effort to, then you can go on a few trial dates. If you see signs of the old boyfriend, then you should probably just walk away with a clean cut. If he wants you and you don't want him it will most certainly hurt him more in the long run if he thinks he still has a chance.
316593
Your relieved that there is finally closure on a bad situation. but, also scared about getting too close to someone too fast because your afraid of getting yourself into the same situation again. Just try and trust and believe in people until otherwise proven that didnt deserve that trust. remember that person is not your ex and you just need to take it slow and try to relax. Best wishes and best of luck in your search for happiness.
558213
That's a tough one, maybe you two can hang out and try to avoid conversations that will stir up feelings from the previous relationship, but then it will seem like they are avoiding the situation, so maybe the best policy is to talk about whatever has happened and ask the person how do they think they can move forward. Maybe they may say they need sometime to themselves or something, or maybe you can suggest to them that they take up a hobby, like exercising, or jogging or something like that. Hope this helps!!!
305014
I don't have the answer here but I sure would like to know what it is.  My ex was the same way.  Words leave deep wounds and women "remember".
55834
Firstly, I personally believe you can never completely stop loving someone if you truely loved them once. So yes, in my opinion it is possible for you to get some of your old feelings back when you meet your ex again. I guess if that happens, then you have to weigh up your options and decide what is best for you and what direction to take.
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Not trusting my instincts/ignoring red flags.\n\nTrust your gut feeling about someone - such as you're not sure if you can trust someone or aren't sure if they're being honest with you. Most likely, you will find out down the road with your instincts were right. \n\nDo NOT ignore red flags or little problems you have with someone that you think will go away or that the good outweighs the bad. The bad is there and will not go away.  You'll end up getting burned in the end and regret not trusting your gut feelings.
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The best thing to do is try and set your own boundaries and really keep in tune with your feelings.  First figure out what your limits are and don't let anyone pass them.  This may mean you might have to walk away from some situations and you might have regrets.  \n\nRemember it's one thing to protect your heart, and another to put up a boundary.  Protecting your heart means still being open, but setting those limits you won't let others pass, taking things really slow and really looking at the situation as a whole.\n\nOne thing I found especially helpful after ending a relationship was to make a list of what I wanted in someone else, a list of 10 most important to least important things, and I made sure that they at least had the top five before I would consider getting involved.\n\nFOr general situations, like with friends, family, etc.  I found that stepping outside the situation helps a lot.  Sorta pulling yourself aside and look in at it like it's your friend experiencing it.  What would you say or do to your friend, how would you expect your friend to react, etc.  This helps give perspective because your personal feelings aren't right there, it's more like looking in on a movie (even though you are the star)\n\nHope that helps.
518763
Depends.  If you're putting all your energy into thinking about your ex, it doesn't necessarily mean they were right for you - it just means you are obsessed with thinking about them.  Find a hobby or do something to occupy more of your time - and when you start thinking about them - immediately work on changing your thoughts to something else.  Time to move on.
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It is natural to have feeling for the EX, just remember, there is a reason he's called EX, and you are the only one that really knows the reason for that, so as you began to get these warm feelings inside for the EX also remember what usually would happen after that warm thought would come remember the reality of why you made him an EX and EX-ommunicate your thoughts for even going in that direction, okay, Sista Girl.  Remember, you want your PRESENT to work out, so please, leave the EX, as an EX. He had your PAST, DON'T let him have your FUTURE.  PEACE.*
85936
How do you feel when you are away from this person?  What are the qualities you like about him?  Are they the inside ones or the physical ones?  When you have truly found love you will always want to be with that person.  They will be everything you ever dreamed, and of course they will still have flaws, but you will be able to overlook them.  If you are still thinking about the first guy what is it about him that keeps you thinking about him?  Does the new guy have those qualities?  Just some questions for you to ask yourself.  I hope that helps!
587763
It always happens, but try to keep it to a minimum.\nTry not to expand your thughts or details about that time in your life.\nThis gives the impression that you are still thinking about your previous lover, and that there may be some baggage there.
438932
Yes please! The sooner the better I say! So many times I ask myself how much hurt could be avoided if men/women were honest and up front with their intent?