Please try to explain this question.  Also do you think that the wife is more willing to shift the blame from her husband to the mistress, saying that he would have never did it if she would of left him alone.
122116
Absolutely NOT! If a man cheats it is ALWAYS his wife's fault. If she were faultless he would have had no reason to cheat.
81068
I'm not sure, but it might be because his wife noticed the broken car door and asked him how the hell that happened.  That would be enough of a close call for the mechanic that he decided to back off from the other woman before he really did get caught.
340828
I don't have to read anything to tell you that married men almost never leave their wives. it's a comfort zone and no matter what they say, they will stay with the wife. they got married for a reason, remember?
655442
Most women I know who cheated were either bored with their married lives, or were in an unhappy marriage or relationship and could not or would not wait until they were out before starting something new.  I always say leave before beginning anything new.  Also, the grass is not always greener on the other side.
311032
Unfortunately the beaten wife syndrome has got a hold on her.  Its very sad to see these women who do this on a regular basis.  But they are the only ones who can change this.  Sure, you could have your buddies whoop on him, but then you are lowering to his level.  Until she realizes that she needs to make a change, this will continue.  Some women never get it and end up dead.  Maybe suggest that she go and see a counselor about it.  Then once they are no longer together, Have 6 of your Buddies kick the shyt out of him.
200679
I was the other woman, but didn't know it at the time. When I found out, I immediately ended the relationship as not to destroy a family. I didn't tell his wife, but told him that he should. Of course, he didn't. \n\nI just wouldn't want that thought on my mind, that I had been the cause of ending a marriage if it ever came to be  and I definately wouldn't have wanted it to happen to me if I were married.  No person deserves that kind of hurt.
259366
I know my husband isn't the cheating type, but at the same time why would you want to put a person in the position to have to make that choice? The temptation is to big if he has already said that he is attracted to her. So no I wouldn't have it!!
361970
Even as recently as the 19th century in Britain my wife to be would have had to have obeyed me, and done everything i told her. I could have beaten her if she disobeyed. I guess this all stems from religion. Thank goodness we have moved on.
386324
Why is it his fault?  Did he force her?  If not, it's her fault too and you'd be better off without her.
114678
You dont report her. Your hubby gets what he deserves.More importantly, why is he still your hubby if he had an affair with a student from singapore? What goes around comes around. You'll see her again, when she comes back to study and your hubby has another encounter with her. Too bad, so sad.
225006
women cant do nothing back as muslin can have more than one wife, being the case there is no infidelity...\nthe husband in this case gets away with it, how dam convenient.
517027
NOOO!\nWhy ruin her husband's (who hopefully loves her) relationship?  No offense, but she sounds like a very selfish person.  I wouldn't even want to be around someone like that.\nTell her that she is being completely unfair to her husband.
326344
I am going to start out by saying that I understand first hand that sometimes you don't pick who you love ,love picks you but in a situation like this the only two people that are going to hurt in this situation is you and/or the wife. He is using you at his disposal but he want you to be there whenever he wants you to meanwhile he is with his wife pretending he love her. Now, put yourself in the position of the wife, how do u think she feels. I am sure u r a beautiful person and you deserve to have a man of your own. No one should be forced to wait for someone to love them unconditionally and only them. Don't be a better mistress or the other person, get what u deserve out of life and that's for a man to love you and only u. It will never work because men who are married and have mistresses end up either cheating on the mistress and the wife or leading the mistress to believe that he is going to leave his wife and 9 out of 10 never do. Please do what will make u happy but remember we are talking about real happiness and not just temporary happiness on a whim or some jump off time.\nMEN IS LIKE A BUS ONE COMES EVERY FIVE MINUTES AND I THINK ITS TIME FOR U TO GET OFF OF THIS BUS AND CATCH ANOTHER ONE, A FREE ONE. If not for me for u stand up and claim ur self respect back, one day u will be married and this could happen to you, only your the wife now.
276411
No I would never do that and I dont even expect anyone wanting his sposuse or wife to do that.This is something very personal and should be decided by the person himself.
194006
Never! Even if she is unhappy in her marriage, you do NOT have the right to interfere. There are enough unattached people in the world. Find one of those. Think about her family. Does she have children, who will be affected by this? Do you want to start a relationship with someone who is willing to betray her current husband? Could you ever trust her not to do this with someone else? Be realistic. Lastly, would you want someone to do this to you?
658490
In our culture polygamy is virtually unknown. However, divorce is common and the only reason a divorce would be unfaithfulness, abuse, or some other viable reason for divorce. We do not look out the window see some other woman and divorce our wife. That to me doesn't make sense. The reason: you are trying to get rid of a woman who has spent a good portion of her life with you. What will she do? What will her children (if any) do? In your culture will she be relegated to poverty? If so, this is not right. You have "invested" in her life and she has "invested" in you. How can this be fair? And to take the other woman for your mistress can also wreck your home. While I do not understand how you can have 4 wives, I can understand that a decision of that nature would be hurtful and possibly extremely devastating to your 1st wife. It doesn't seem right to do this to her.
261558
No. What she has done is very inappropriate and in my mind, VERY selfish. I imagine she wouldn't like to be on the receiving end of such a thing should you have done that; am I right? Bottom line is this - it is not right for her to spend an evening like that with a man who is not her husband. Period! The mere fact that she kept this from you is an indication that what she did wasn't right. Deep down, she knew this would upset you and rightfully so. But if it were so harmless, she wouldn't have kept it from you in the first place. I think to help resolve this situation you should ask her what makes it "okay" for a married woman to do such a thing? I'd also ask her what makes her think that you should be "okay" with it as well?!