I am a single ( I think good looking) guy who keep trying to attract the eye of the opposite sex however I am having some serious difficulity.  I have trouble getting to the first date, however on the rare occasion that I do, things usually go well.  What am I doing wrong?  How do I get more women to notice and want to date me?
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You're probably just a bit nervous - that's normal.  Try getting to know her before you ask her out.  Avoid the pick up joint and go places you will meet people with common interests.
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You sound beautiful and confident.  The combination of those two elements can make a woman irresistable to any guy.  Go out there, have a great time, and meet as many guys while you still have the chance.  Good luck!
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I seen your picture, you are a hottie with potential.  Attraction is something must deeper than that.  Guys aren't attracted to women, it's the women who attract the men that get noticed.\n\nIf you as a women wasn't interested, nothing will ever happen to get you noticed.  Just be yourself, and be a lady with class.  If you like someone, and they like being around you without you looking at the clock that is the guy you want to be with.\n\nFun, is the magical word here.  Don't be one of the guys, that will never get you noticed.\n\nDress up in some nice clothes, stop wearing the same thing over, and over.\n\nChange the way you look, experiment.... You are hot without trying, imagine the attention you will get if you worked on it.   \n\nChange your hair style first, then get some designer glasses and shop for new clothes.  Never wear cheap shoes.  \n\nGet yourself a pair of Nine West, and treat yourself to nice clothes.\n\nAlways buy a piece at a time now, for Spring and Fall next year around Feb.
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Most women are too busy playing "hard-to-get", it's human nature.\n\nHere's three ideas to think about:\n\n1)  How about you get his attention by smiling when you catch him looking.\n\n2)  The best way to show confidence is to approach him.  (I think all ladies should use this advice).  The probably wouldn't be much use for dating sites if women approached men.\n\n3)  Or if your passive aggressive use your network of friends or co-workers and start a rumor that you like a particular guy.  Trust me he'll find out and seek your attention if he is attracted to you.
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hey, i went online, maybe you can too.  I've gotten lots of attention but haven't found anyone yet that I'm interested in dating full time.  It takes time but if you meet this person online, you could get to know her a little better and then maybe after a few emails, a few message sessions, and a few phone calls you might actually work up your courage to go on a date.  It might work!
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If someone is worrying about looks. They need to find someone else who doesn't care about looks. In a society where people see other people by the thousands every single day, yet don't talk to one another. You get that type of thing. All guys are attracted to women that are pleasing to the eye. But not all guys end up dating the girl of their dreams, looks wise. \n\nWhat do guys look for in a wife, well they look for someone they can have fun with. Someone who they can trust, and someone that shows them attention, and makes them feel like they are a man. Of course, everyone is different. Humans are complicated creatures. Its best to go out and meet as many people as you can, you will learn real quick which ones are interested in looks, and which ones aren't. But you have to be willing to play the game if you want to meet the right person. Lower your guard a bit, don't put to much of your heart into it. Don't expect too much from the start, don't get attached, and just simply meet guys! Same thing goes for everyone else out there, no matter what you are into, guys girls, both, whatever. \n\nThere are plenty fish in the sea right? Well, sometimes you have to actually go fishing ;)
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From this moment on, you tell yourself that you are an attractive, interesting guy than any girl would be priviledged to have. You are the man! Convince yourself you can have any girl you want. Look in the mirror and find the things that make you look good. If you need to excercise a bit to help things along. You are the Man!  Once you achieve this basic confidence in yourself, put the past behind you, concentrate on the future, which you are in charge of. You have what it takes to handle any girl, any situation. Go up to a girl, ask her out, treat her right.  You are the Man!
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Making eye contact is a must if you want to be subtle. No intense psycho staring. Size matters to a certain extent, it will depend on the woman. Humor is good, but the type of humor, again depends on the woman. There are no perfect set rules for attracting a woman. Pick someone you admire and try and come close to what he does when hes around women.
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Hmmmm... I think that you might want to seek professional help with this problem.  See the thing is confidence isn't something that you can teach.  A professional might be able to help you unwrap why you are not confident to begin with, but I am not sure anybody is going to have a magic pill for you.  Well here goes something.  Dude, the key to sexual prosperity, is rejection.  I know that sounds dumb but listen, every time your faced with an attractive woman, you get tense and lock up why? because you're afraid of being rejected and feeling like a loser right?  Well just decide not to feel that way (easier said than done but it doesn't have to be hard).  Try this exercise, go to a bar, and identify 5 women that you are attracted to, and go and introduce yourself, i promise at least 1 will want to at least TALK to you, and then when you feel a bit more confident with talking you can start romancing.  See love, and dating and courtship is a numbers game, and every time you hear a no that is one less you have to hear till you INEVITABLY get a yes.  There are like a billion people in India right? 500,000,000 women, trust me at least 100,000 will want to talk to you or go out on a date with you.  So never take anything a woman says personally, and welcome rejection, as one less hurdle to your inevitable GUARANTEED success, and you may find that you can talk to women after-all.  Good luck bro, and I hope this helps.  I know it sounds crazy but trust me it works.
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I just prefer men who are comfortable being themselves.  Don't try to be something that you are not just in hopes of attracting women.  Cause when they figure out that you are really not that type of guy, they'll lose interest.  Just be yourself and you'll have better luck attracting a woman who is compatible with you.  Good luck!
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Yes, there are men out there that want the same thing as you, the only bad thing is finding them.  Just from the description you gave of yourself I like you (not like that though) because it's what's on the inside that makes you beautiful or ugly.  I've seen some REALLY beautiful women as far as looks but thought they were ugly because of their 'I'm better than you' attitude.  So just give it time and eventually (even though it may be hard to wait) you'll find your special someone...
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The reason you're single is you choose to be. Physique and looks are great for anybody to have (whether you're male or female) but confidence in what you have to work with is what ultimately tends to be the greatest turn on. Ask yourself this... would I want to date someone like me?
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you need to find one thing good about yourself, one thing that you apprecaite and like.  I recently gained some weight and felt disgusted about myself.  I used to attract guys because of the confidence i had.  After gaining all the weight i no longer had that confidence and found it hard to pick up guys.  So i askked someone what was one good thing about me.  They told me my eyes so i would always look at my eyes and then i would slowly bring in other thiungs about myself.  Noone is going to want to date someone with no self asteem even if you are attractive.  Confidence is the key.
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WELL THEY MIGHT NOT BE THE RIGHT WOMEN FOR YOU TO ASK FOR A DATE. I THINK YOU'RE  A NICE GUY, PROBABLY YOU ARE TOO NICE FOR THEM...DON'T WORRY JUST BE YOURSELF AND YOU COULD GET ATTENTION FROM A SPECIAL ONE!!!
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Jeff, you need to adjust your outlook. If you approach a woman thinking that they won't have you, then you're right... they won't have you. You have to look confident without being a cocky jerk. (But I doubt that will be your problem.)\n\nCheck into activities that don't cost much money -- classes through the Parks & Rec department, adult ed at the local high schools, group outings for hikes or other things you like to do, etc. If you don't have money even to participate in cheap activities, then it really will be difficult to meet a woman. \n\nFirst rule - to meet an interesting person, you have to BE an interesting person. Join a book club, take square dancing lessons, do volunteer work. Hospitals are always looking for volunteers, and most of them are women. Join a non-profit board. Volunteer for a political candidate. You'll meet much better women than what you'll find in prison.\n\nAnd stop being so desperate. Nothing turns off a woman faster than sensing that a guy is desperate. And even worse, no woman wants to feel like she is choosing a guy that nobody else wants. So drop that outlook right away. You may be scaring them off before they've had a chance to know you.
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First off, congrats on realizing beauty. Most ppl overlook it. Second, you don't really want a guy who only likes you because of how you look. But I'm sure you knew that. To answer your question, it differs from person to person. In my experience, if I have one particular guy I want to notice me, I smile at him, and try to be friendly, and make lots of eye contact. This shows that you're into him, without being creepy. Guys don't generally like girls who hang all over them. If he shows similar signs, then I know he's interested. If you are just trying to find somebody, and don't know how to start, then my advice to you is, STOP! If you just go, and have fun, and make sure that you look great, no matter what, guys will come to you. But if you seem like you're trying too hard, it's not a good vibe. Desperation will call unlikely characters, and those aren't the ones you want hanging around. I hope this helps you're question, and don't give up hope. Mr. Right could be right around the corner! Good Luck!
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Hey guy.  Don't beat yourself up so much.  Maybe you are just looking in the wrong places.  There are people out there for everyone.  You will see that the Abercrombie types tend to be attracted to the Abercrombie types.  The bears are usually with other bears.  If people told you that you are cute, you probably are.  I know you have a lot to offer and the right guy will come along.  Just remember the attraction has to be reciprocal.  That's what makes the dating scene hard some times.  But it goes beyond the physical.  Find a group where you have common interests and mingle with that group.  Someone probably has a 'friend' who is gay that you might like.  Don't give up.  You need to be more upbeat and not sound so depressing.  Life is what you make of it.  I am single right now and am actually kind of enjoying the break.  Good luck.