my dad dosen't whant me and my boyfriend to be together so today 3/10/06 my boyfriend is going to talk to my dad and tell him tha he loves me and that we are still going to be together. Would that be a good idea for him to talk to him?
122199
of course it would. your dad probably doest want him as your boyfriend because no father would want his little girl to be played. he will see that your boyfriend actually cares about you and really likes you.
63332
If you truly love him, the go for it. But if you feel that by with holding his daughter's presence for so long he has broken the trust between you, wait, and try to figure out why he didn't tell you. If you think you can live harmoniously with this idea, and you truly love him, I think you should move ahead with the relationship. It all depends on why he didn't tell you. Maybe he didn't want to scare you off with the idea because he loved you so much. Good luck and best wishes!
180141
You need to have both you and your bf apologise to your dad. Sometimes when a parent sees something like that it can hit them pretty hard. Not because they frown upon what you did but because they realize that you are growing up and experiencing grown up things. Your dad probably just didn't know how to react and still doesn't. You need to let him know that you understand that what happened shouldn't have happened and that your sorry. The sooner you do this the better. In his mind he's still trying to figure out what happened and why. More time only makes it worse...
371063
If your dad says that you are allowed to have a boyfriend, why not have a chat with him about it. Don't necessarily tell him that you have a boyfriend, but just mention that there is a boy that like you and you think that he is nice, but he is just a friend. How would he feel if you went on a date with him. Doing it this way you are just testing the water so to speak. Just mention it casually too him, and then leave the situation for a while.\n\nThe thing is you don't want your dad to hear about you having a boyfriend some someone else, at least if you start testing the water, its a start to try and gage what your dad's reaction will be
23700
it's easy just to say the right thing to do is to apologize, which it is, but it's not that easy for someone with an abusive father like that. this all goes much deeper than any outsider looking in would see. so you can encourage him to say he's sorry, but as long as his Dad's not gonna change it may not do any good for their relationship. But deffinately encourage him to apologize. like you said, you only have one dad, and he could lose him at any time.
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I think you should do what is best for u and ur child. if he is a good father, and treats you well, and you LOVE him, you should be hopeful. If he isn't any of those, tell him ur  glad he's in ur life, but you'll never be together again.
332960
my boyfriend's best friend's dad is a physic. He is very spiritual and he also knows a woman who has helped me with questions I had. I recently found out I was pregnant and when i met this woman she said that this would happen to me. She also told me that my boyfriend and I would live together. Which happened when it was said to have happened. I wish you luck e-mail me and I will get all the information for you. Good Luck and God Bless you in you time of Grief. It is always sad to loose a child. Your should never had to do that as a parent. smyle4mae@yahoo.com
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I was dating my husband (who is 4 years older then me) for 3 years before I told my parents (we are from 2 different cultures) because i was worried that they would be upset.  When i did tell them they didn't want to meet him.  My mum actually cried when i told her because she was so against it!! They met him after 4 years of us being together.  8 years later we are still together and we have been married for one and a half years.  My parents absolutly adore him now.\nWhatever is meant to be will be and if it's supposed to last you will get through anything together!!
648727
What a Dad the most important information you can give out is your opinion. But Dad have you ever thought about sitting down and having a talk with your daughter? I know it is a hard thing to do. But in the end the discussion is well worth it. Feed her brain with knowledge and trust her. If you raised her right you have no worries. I wish my dad would have talked to me earlier about that. But you know what I would not change my life lessons for the world. The choices we make today are the ones we live with.  The best thing a father could do. Is hug your daughter tell her you love her and arm her with knowledge. Hold you head high Dad you have good intentions.
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You know what? This may hurt, but screw your parents. I've lived an awful life, and I could tell you my life story, but it would go on and on. I'll give you the short version. I have been tossed back and forth between my parents all my life. (they were never married, and never intended to be, I was just a big "accident.") I would go not seeing my mom for 7 years and then not seeing my dad for 4. It's really messed up. I moved in with my mom 4 years ago after not seeing her for the 7 years. I thought that her and I could heal things with time, plus my dad is a really awful person and I wanted to get away from him. Things were ok for a while, and then about a year ago I cam home from school and she was gone. Just gone. I found out that she had moved to another STATE to be with some guy she met on the internet. So now, I have no parents.  I'm going to be honest with you--it IS a hard road, and sometimes you are going to feel like you will never make it to see tomorrow. You just have to have faith in yourself. And guess what? I'm 18 now and I have my own place with the guy of my dreams, and for the first time in my life, I am TRUELY happy. So I wish you luck...reach for the stars and never give in on your dreams. If your parents really love you, then maybe someday in the future they will see past their mistakes...
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No, you're not a bad mother but your ex does have a right to see his child.  Your daughter clearly likes your boyfriend more than her own father because he does not show her love and affection.  Evidently your boyfriend does and he is nice to your daughter.  A lot of men do care about their chidren but may not show it.  Maybe your ex is annoying because he doesn't want to end things with you.  Your daughter is his connection.  So, tell your ex you have a boyfriend.  If he gets mad so what?  You have a right to go out and see whom you wish.  Don't let your ex run your life.  If your boyfriend can sometimes take care of your daughter while you do other things then let him and don't bother your ex.
333725
Since you say "we will not be together" I assume you 2 are splitting up.  When that happens the parents will find out.
553705
i think that me and my boyfriend may be breaking up today. i'm really nervous and not sure what to do.  don't call him, just let it all go. that'll be the easiest thing to do.
564855
i know it may be awkward, but i have an overprotective father too and  just talk to him. do not get defensive though. you could say something like "dad i know you're worried about me, and i really appreciate you looking out for me, but i need you to trust me. i know you might be worried that i'll be pressured into doing something i don't want to or i'm not ready for and i can tell you right now that will not happen." you just really need to open up to him and more importantly, listen to what he has to say. ask him why he seems worried. if you havent already, invite the guy over to have dinner with your parents. if he has just been coming over and hasn't sat down with them, they would probably be a little suspicious. make sure he brings flowers or something to eat, parents love that!! good luck!!
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OK, hon. First of all, you don't need to prove your love to him. No matter what anybody says. No matter who you date, they will never be good enough for mommy and daddy. (Unless they pick the person) Second, don't focus so much on love. Give it time. I don't know how old you are, and personally I don't consider it an issue. If you focus on love, you will be heartbroken if things don't work out. I'm not saying set your standards low. I am not saying don't love this person. What I am saying is spend time with him. Enjoy the relationship. Don't get married young. And for gods sake don't get married without first living with the person. People seem VERY different when you have to share space with them. Trust me about that one. Don't rush. True love doesn't need a wedding band. If you love someone, being with that person should be enough. Sex is nice, but even that isn't necessary. The company of your significant other is all that is necessary. If you two love each other than that is all that matters. Marriage and sex are over rated. (Sex is nice, but still over rated) If you love him then your parents will eventually come to the realization that he is sticking around. They will either come to accept it, or they will disown you. I know this. I have been married. I was only 19. I told my parents the day before. At first they accused me of being crazy. They made some pretty insulting comments, and I told them to go fuck themselves. They learned to accept my wife and even grew to like her. You are your own person. Heres a motto that my stepfather taught me. "If you don't fuck me, feed me, or pay my bills......Go fuck yourself!" Your family is an important part of your life, but you didn't choose them. You were born with them. You couldn't change who they were. Your boyfriend is somebody that you chose to bring into your life. Your parents should respect your decisions. And if they think you are a fool for being with him...... remind them of who taught you. What examples did you have to follow. They are the 2 biggest influences in your life. Whether you know it or not. Everything that you have witnessed from them as a child has molded you to be the person that you are today. Everything from not enough hugs to the overprotectiveness. They have made you who you are. If they are unhappy with that, then they should try to do a better job next time.
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It is a good idea that he doesn't meet her till you are both sure where your relationship is headed. You don't want to confuse your daughter. Your daughter could also become attached to him and if you both decide to end the relationship it's one less thing you have to worry about.
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Sometimes, I have wished that, but never strongly enough to want to do anything about it.  You have a daughter and that ought to be good reason to keep going, even if things are rough between the two of you at the moment.  You have to set an example for her.    At the very least, you should keep reading the Job Classifieds, so that you can find something better than the one you have.  Can't you talk about this with anyone you know?  What happened to your boyfriend?