I really want to tell her as polite as I can be. It's a very disturbing view for everyone in my office.
119975
wow... this is hard\ni think there really isnt a polite way to tell her to shave\nbut you said that everyone in your office is disturbed\nso you can ask other female coworkers to "discuss" what is the best razor/ wax etc etc with her\nask them to ask "what do you use?" etc, those kind of Qs\nif it's not working, ask your boss to install air conditioning =)
150108
I agree that if what she wears is not up to code with the office dress code, then it should be brought to her attention. Without involving the district manager. Unfortunately, the bare-midriff styles have been in for too long a time (okay, I wore a tube top in the 70's and 80's too)and a blurred image of what is proper and not proper for work has come out of it.\nI would suggest striking up a conversation (more than a few in this forum have suggested it) and while praising her work, if applicable, then bring up gently that you've noticed her wardrobe violates company policy. Admit that if the manager had to handle it he/she would be very likely to embarrass you coworker. If she tells you to bugger off, then let things alone and let them take their inevitable course. Make certain you're doing it for the reason of her well being and not because she's on the pudgy side.
673090
Next time you have to make a call walk into her salon and sit in the waiting room and have a very loud conversation.  This will definetely get across the message that you are a pansy and too afraid to simply mention to someone that their behavior bothers you.  Grow some stones and go tell her.  SHe probably doesn't realize it bothers you wuss.
111990
That's a tough situation.  Just tell her "Look there's something I need to tell you that you aren't going to like, but I think you need to know."  I hope she handles it well and doesn't blame you.  Just be honest, talk to her, and be supportive with whatever she decides to do with the information.
361266
The answer is that she is just being personal and that's not being professional. I have seen one of my lady bosses treating several staff that she dislike this way and worst, she can be a totally different person with staff that she LIKES. After a while, all the staff that she don't like left the company and she still thinks she is right. There's only three solutions to the this problem\n1) Leave and find a better environment-you may even have another one of this ppl in yr new workplace-so its realy a matter of luck\n2) Stay and ignore her completely. If you don't have a line of report to her, just do your job and make sure that she cannot find any loopholes that you didn't do your job correctly\n3) Thirdly, try to win her over and get into her good books. It sounds tough but sometimes, we have to take a look at where we have gone wrong and amend our own character. Its not easy and takes alot of you swallowing your pride and giving her the leeway\n\nOther than this, I dunno how to help. I have been working for almost 20 yrs, seen the good and bad of bosses and I'm still learning daily how to handle them\n\nGood luck...
253821
SOME people have HUGE foot phobias.. Cant even hear people talk about their feet.. I say, phuck umm.. You wernt doing anyting wrong really.. Maybe you should have gone in the bathroom but then again some office chums have known each other for YEARS! I dont know.. Its your feet, tell her to kiss um!
617369
When you know she is wrong about something, get the proof and put it on her desk 9don't let her know wher eit came from.) Or, get a couple of people to work with oyu on this, but when she is beeing to interruptive, take her to the side (liek a professional should, witha stand by if need be, then she can't freek) and say. I am sorry to tell yo this, but I do not apprechate the way you talk to me or the way you interrupt (really anyhting that is on your mind.) She wil be embarressed, promise. Also, have other people do the same. Be sure to stay professional. Also, the best thing is when you knwo she is wrong about soemthing and you have proof. If you can stay consisten, stay professional, don't back down, and have other people do the same, I promisse she wil stop that soon (she wil be more uncomfortable than she makes you). That is not beeing rude, or not nice, it is beeing professional. You have a job and it seems that your interrest is in having a good work environment and therfore, for the better of the business or job. Remeber, take her to the side, with oneother person max, if you do it infron of people she will might get divensive and it can back fire. She might anyhow, but just start aut your conversation with:\n"I am just taking you to the side to tel you something and really do not want a reply, but rather have you think on it. So please listen and no hard feelings. This is a work place and it is for the best of the business (Unit, Team, whatever it is) that we have a good work environment and  this and that is not helping. SO please think on it and maby we can talk about it. (Always best to havea third person there, just so she cannot say you did or say something bad or wrong to her.) Hoep this helps,\nCole
510007
Make it polite but firm and make sure they understand how she feels about this.
303009
You can handle this situation in 3 steps.\n\n1...Know that every time she talks she gives you compliments in disguise. Jealousy is the root.\n\n2...Very important. Stop listening to what was said. If you make clear to every one at work your non-interest to hear any gossip, by so doing, from her part, why talking to deaf ears. You will make her non-existant.\n\n3... Show yourself the bigger person. Say to her with a smile good-morning/good-night. I guarantee you: she will be crushed.
475649
Just explain that sometimes you would like to do it a bit gentler. Do it her way sometimes and your way other times.
496061
Try by starting to talk about something in the news that was disturbing to you and hopefully this will lead to other subject and if not ask her what her favorite movie is or her favorit hobbie and get to know her and what she has been doing and what her hopes and dream are!!! And dont forget to tell her yours as well
340571
That wasn't very nice of her. I hope you can make some nicer friends soon.
151904
THAT IS SO MEAN. TELL HER TO EAT ALOT I GUESS.
172545
Wow it's amazing that there are still people so simple. \n\nI think "leaperpup" really said it best. If she won't respond to diplomacy that's I'd embarrass the heck out of her, and spray Lysol, and other anti bacterial sprays around, and encourage others too also. \n\nGetting up and walking away is definitely an option, so is waving your hand around and turning on a fan. \n\nIn the end I think I just might ask her, "are you so annoyed about being sick that you insist on spreading your contagious germs?" \n\nAlso check on company policies, if you work for a large place she is definitely violating something. In the end your best bet will probably be to ask for another place to sit, perhaps even an "upgrade" showing her that in the end, the mature always come out ahead.\n\nI wish you the best with this!
42686
Being from an outspoken culture doesn't give her the right\nto be rude,nor does the fact that she's your boss. I think\nyou should do exactly what you say you will do if she brings\nup the subject of your weight again. She may mean well,and\nmay genuinely care about your well-being,but she needs to be\ntaught some manners.
674383
well open up to ger talk more openly with her
624164
Tell her if you don't want to worry about this issue popping up later. Things might get nasty.