My bf just broke up with her boyfriend. She says she needs a guy like me. I think i might love her, but she doesn't know it. I'm afraid if i say or do anything, it will hurt our friendship. What do i do? Does it mean anything?\n(I also have another question sort of like this. could you click on the weblink under my smiley?)Thanx
123006
it might and it might not it could just mean she things your a good guy and she would like to fine a good guy but then again she could be hinting it feel it she how she reacts to a little casual closeness flirt if  you can tell she isnt feelin it then back off and stay friends remember not to over do it so then you can still keep your friendship
378909
it just means he cares about her alott. and he doesnt want to lose her to someone else. make your friend talk to her bf about talking to some friends, especially ones that she knows arent interested in her and she isnt interested in them. she needs some space everyonce in a while. at least you know thereis someone out there who will treat your friend right and care about her the way she needs to be cared about
138347
you should let her know that you don't like being blown off for this boyfriend. you know that she really likes him, but that she should still be able to have time to spend with her friends. Also, tell her that you think this guy is not putting much into the relationship, and that you don't think that he is the right guy for her. then just let her react to what you said, whether it be good or bad. at least you got your opinion out there.
240655
Brickjacks, listen to yourself. You sound as if you're hoping for the impossible; holding onto dear life just because you are not sure how does she feels about you, whether or not she wants to be with you and if she's just toying around with your feelings. Have you already asked her what she thinks of you? Have you told her how you feel about her?\n\nI really can't tell you what she's trying to do or how you should handle this situation and neither can anyone out there who answers your question because quite frankly, we don't know her. She might be a social butterfly or maybe she's a saint after all.\n\nMy opinion, you should have already confronted her by now. The more you stall your feelings for her the more confused you'll get from her reactions and advances.\n\nTake this opportunity to get to know her better. Since you're going out with her, you'll get to see what she's like. Don't stress yourself with impossible questions (i.e. Does she wants to see what kind of person I am before she decides to dump her boyfriend and be with me?)\n\nYou're not some "thing" that could be analyzed and be taken for granted. You're not some low grade ketchup/sauce that needs to be compared with another to determine which of the two taste good. You're a human, you have feelings and you know yourself better.\n\nShow her who you really are TODAY/NOW and if she shows the slightest indication of her being the malicious girl everyone (well, almost everyone) in Y! Answers been telling you, leave her. Just be her friend. She's not worth your aggravation.
345654
Tell your friend that she probably does love him and that's why she's doing this. Maybe she's thinking about being with him for the rest of her life but she wants to make sure she is doing the right thing, so she wants to see what life is like without him. If she didn't still care about him then she would have said so and broke it off all together. Tell him don't sweat it, if it was meant to be, it will be. Hope I helped and let me know if you need more advice. :-)
612997
Okay first of all since the break up nothing has changed so I'm assuming that you all are still intimate with one another and you're still arguing like lovers do.  The only thing that's bothering you right now is that you don't have that "TITLE" anymore as lovers which means that he can do what he wants and so can you.  So basically this dude is getting his cake and eating it too served on a silver platter with a platinum fork.  Do not allow him to question your where abouts every time especially if he's doing it in a "boyfriend" way.  I mean at this point he's looking at the situation and saying to himself " Why get back together when breaking up with her is just the same plus I get to mess around and not be faulted for it" Does it makes sense to you now!!! Lay down some rules and set boundaries within your relationship as friends and I guarantee you he'll miss that feeling as being your boyfriend and coming running back, it never fells.
351122
Ouch. That is a bummer. My recommendation would be to sit down and have a heart felt talk with her about it. Ask her if she is more into him than you and if she is to just tell you so that you don't get even more hurt than you will be. If she tells you that she isn't in to him, just ask her to not talk to him so much or come up with other arrangements that work out for both of you. Best of luck.
262335
I think you're going to have to let this guy call the shots unfortunately. The person who did the breaking up is the person who really has to decide whether or not they see something they didn't see before or just want to give it another try. If you really want to be with him then you might want to bring the subject up in a serious way and let him know that no matter what he says or feels it doesn't have to change anything between you. You could just say something like "You know we've been friends so long and really still get along so well, I've thought about whether we should try again. What do you think?" If he says he's not interested then just back off and continue the friendship. It's more important to keep that in tact especially since you have been friends this long.
545321
Do nothing.  Even if she dumps the bf, you'd be a rebound.  Just keep your distance, be a friend, but don't push anything.  And if she dumps him and suddenly wants you, don't give in.  You'd be rebound man.  Give it time.  If she actually likes you it will work itself out.  Otherwise, I suggest you keep your options open.
253531
A lot of people in this situation (just broken up with boyfriend/girlfriend), don't want to hear what they know they should do.  They want to hear go back to him, tell him you love him, he will come back to you, just wait for him, etc.  \n\nBe there for your friend, and if she continues to call you stupid, then tell her that not only has she lost her boyfriend, but she will be losing a good friend if she continues calling you stupid for your advice.
358724
Well actually I would distance myself from the bf.  He is taken and no matter what you should respect that. \nThis happened to me once too. And I acted on it.  I pretty much lost a great friend.  \nBottom line is ...  Guys come and go.. but friends are the ones that stick around.\nYou need to ask yourself.. Is this guy worth your friendship?
321408
Warn her, if you think that your friendship will bear the load. It will make her skeptical of you though. She maight think that you want to be with this guy ultimately. She is only blinded by his money at this point, and is on the rebound. Best advise to give her is that she should give herself a little time to heal from the feelings of loss from the last relationship.
516379
I just got over a relationship where my best friend (who was also his x girlfriend) and him kept staying friends. I didnt really let him know how much it bothered me, but now that i look back, it totally bothered me... and now that were not together, im so glad its over because that issue was so annoying, not worth dealing with. Tell him to loose her and if he can't, drop him!
366583
This is tough. Everyone is in a difficult situation when a guy likes a girl in a relationship, no matter the status of the relationship. I'd say be a friend to her. Hang out with her in moderation so as to not arouse suspicion from the current boyfriend. Give her moral support if she needs it during a possibly impending breakup, but do NOT encourage her to break up with him for you, in any way/shape/form. This could cause gossip, this could cause her to see you as a housebreaker, this could cause boyfriend of the day to kick your ass. And right after she breaks up with him, if this happens, it is not the right time to ask her out. You don't want to be the rebound. And you don't want her when she's just getting over that. It's not the right start to a healthy relationship. Be that good friend for a week, two, as long as you can wait after the breakup, and if you're sure she likes you, ask her out... or maybe sparks will fly before then... anyways... good luck in this hella conundrum
184623
Just because things went wrong with his relationship with your friend doesnt mean it wont work out for you and him.  SHE could just be telling u things to make u not trust him so you dont go out with him.  NEVER EVER listen to other people!  always go on your own judgement and what he tells u himself!  She was all moddy because she is still hurting  from the break up.  So of course she will be moody and a little upset for awhile.  I say things could work for u and him as long as u stop listening to other people and judge him for himself!  Good luck to u
240666
I suggest you make sure they are not bf/gf.  You stated she likes?  and then stated her bf.  If she just liked him, then you did nothing wrong. As that is past tense.  If it is her bf, then you did something wrong.  So enjoy life and I bet yourfriend is going to last longer than the guy you kissed...
38929
If she can't break up with him I believe that only means she has developed feelings for him, or else it would have been a lot easier for her. Otherwise, she might be feeling sorry for him assuming he might get upset and hurt, which also means she's with him for the wrong reasons. If your friend has no feelings for him, and is not attached to him emotionally, then she should leave him and be fair to him,  and most importantly to herself.