I only found out because sombody else told me of her previous life which she also denied, do you think this is good behaviour?
120644
One of the big things that makes a relationship last is trust. There isn't anything wrong with getting a sex change, but by not telling someone who she is dating that she is an MTF, this gal's actions suggest that she believes there is something wrong with it, or that she's not happy with who she is, or that she's scared to tell the truth. \n\nI can see why she wouldn't want to tell her partner, it's not an easy life to lead, changing one's sex is a huge deal, but y'know... with great power comes great responsibility, to walk like a warrior you have to stand true. \n\nIf she wants to make it last, she's got to be brave and give her sweetheart the trust that she would want from her. (Do unto others, blah blah blah...)\n\nBut another consideration is that relationships are like casseroles: only the two people who made it know what's truly in it. \nMaybe the girlfriend already knows, maybe the two of them have had conversations you know nothing about, and perhaps, even if it doesn't seem like a good idea to you, this MTF has valid, private personal reasons for holding back until she feels like it's a good time to tell her lover. \n\nSo... "good behaviour" is an interesting way of putting it, if it's a fling: people don't tell each other ALL KINDS OF THINGS (marriage, children, debt, etc.) when they are just fooling around. If it's serious: eventually, the information will be divulged, which will either make or break the relationship. \n\nWhatever transpires, I hope those two get to make their decisions for each other without the interferance of judgemental busybodies...
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well why do you think she is a "little bioch"\n\nmy e-mail is blackmumbabla96@yahoo.com\n\nif you tell me more about your problems with her yet her good side I will help you decide.\n\nI have reasoned with myself and did this with my friends and decided if they were really good friends. I feel I have made the right decision with all of them!
537065
i think it would be wise to ask your hubby what is his opion about all of this first before asking other peoples opinion. since he already know everything about your past, and i think his ok with it, give your man the respect, by asking for his help his your problem. but for me i dont think it would be wise to tell your ex about the baby, for it will definitely open doors for a questions and if i were your husband i would definitely dont want you to get too involved with your past specially with what happened to you and your ex. but thats just me. . .  the best thing you can do is to pray for God's guidance. goodluck and GODBLESS to you and your family.
624151
This is a mystery. All we know is that she got it during childhood but she hates talking about how it happened. I tried looking it up but all sites say the same thing... It's a secret.
317131
good on you for telling her off.\nThey are probably continuing more discreetly.\nFace it, they both lied to you until you found them out.
542115
I WOULD IF I HAD ALREADY KNOWN BEFORE SHE BECAME MY MATE....ALSO I WOULD ACCEPT IF SHE HAS NOT TOLD ME OTHERWISE...AND THE TRUTH COMES FROM HER ONLY I MEAN....
608132
You don't have that right.  You don't own her, and you aren't her parent.  If she wanted you to know, she'd tell you.  That doesn't mean she's hiding anything from you.
623857
Look be honest but do not name names, she would not want you telling anyone her name if that was the case. \nI say yes I had relationships - they were ok but they were not you. Since i met you all the others are fading from my memory and are nothing more than a passing moment. I say i could tell you, but you know that would not be right. For that would only cause pain for everyone. \nBut listen all those relationships were just roads leading me here to you.
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I think everyone has untold secrets. I wouldn't tell him unless he specifically asked.  Then I would not lie to him.  I am sure he has secrets and they should be kept that way.  Your shrink is right in saying the past is the past and has nothing to do with him.
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it sounds like you had a bad expierence in another life time. when you go to bed tonight, keep saying that you want that part of your past lives not to bother you anymore. you might have to do it a few nights. but it will help
507490
All I can say to you is to urge her to not dwell on the past, nothing good can come out of that.  She just needs to move on because her whole life is ahead of her.  She has many experiences to live through still, and many good memories are just ahead.  Being stuck in the past is self destructive, because there is nothing you can do about it.  I hope this helped a little, good luck!
75963
She shouldn't have lied to you, but don't leave her over it. It's her past. She can't help what she's already done. It can't be changed.
639924
If the real reason is just to let people know and not to gain anything yourself, most of the time I would say it was okay.  I trusted someone for years, with my deepest secrets only to find out they were telling everyone.  No one was nice enough to tell me what she was doing behind my back.  I would have appreciated the honesty.
241469
maybe she was maybe she wasnt..try to find out about that before u even think about calling her or for that matter anyone a liar..
660829
Not sure if this apology includes me (so it would be presumptuous for me to accept it) but no offence taken anyway because, luckily, your suggestions about my possible past were off the mark. I could also appreciate that you had perhaps misunderstood a generalised answer I gave (that I hadn't actually applied to your own situation).\n\nFor the record, I don't think I'm an idiot either but, of course, that's just my subjective opinion! ;-)
544717
If you didn't trust her you wouldn't be asking her ex and why does this bother you so much?  Sounds like you have doubts about her past.  Either accept her story or move on to someone you can trust.
536499
for 1 if the person talks about others then they will talk about you.No I wouldn't join them I would actually say something like this.I'm sorry ,but i really don't want to here things about her or him.I know that person and if u have something you need to say then tell her because I don't like it when somone is talking about someone I know behind there back.Wheathere you know the person or not it's not nice to talk behind someones back.