Okay it wasn't too long ago and I went to far. See my boy friend and I were just chilling and I ask out loud if he would marry me. Then After that at dinner I thouht he was cheating on me so I said we are over. I know I still have a chance. but how? you boys should know what to do?
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Well, I honestly don't think you're prepared for marriage, because if there's room for suspicion or doubt, then it's not true love. If you honestly wanted to marry him, you would do the best you could to tell him you were sorry, and weren't really thinking. Then I would give yourselves more time to grow closer together until you have no doubt that you, and ONLY you, are the one he wants to be with for the rest of his life.
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I think when you mess up in a relationship it's hard to earn your trust back. It's the HARDEST thing in the world, and I say it b/c there are things that I said to my fiance over 5 yrs ago that he still brings up to this day ~ and vice versa for him. But talking always helps... I would say if you really think this guy is Mr. Right go up to him on Saturday and talk to him. But if your out having a good time, just continue to have a good time and leave the serious talks for another day, just try to be good friends again AND then see if you can get back together. I think sometimes it's hard to be hurt or confused and jump right back into the same situation, but if your confused and you have fun then he will remember what he likes about you or he'll find out what he doesn't like about you... but either way your better off knowing which is how he feels. \n\n~ Good luck
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Yes, I have been cheated on.  But if you ever met my man you would have never guessed that he would ever have done that.  We are still together, he realized what he did was wrong and promised that he would never do that again or I was gone with no second thought. It really hurt me that he would do somthing like that to me, I didn't even find out until a year after it happened. There were some signs though, he became very jealous when I was with any guy or had them in my cell phone and he didn't know them.  There also pictures of the two of them together, he said at first she was just a friend.  Even when I talked to his friends they were shocked.  There is no way to prevent cheating if a guy is going to do it he will.  He told me the reason why he cheated on me was because he said that he wanted to be with me so bad and thought it was me, he was gone for a week. Right before he left I spent a week with him at his lake house and he was telling me that he wanted to spend the rest of his life with me.  Well it has been 3 years now since he cheated on me and I love him with all my heart, and he feels the same way. He knows now that even if I hear a rumour that he was with another girl it's over and he is scared of loosing me.  That was why I stayed with him when I told him that it was over and I never wanted to see him again, it took him 10 minutes for him to leave and he left with tears. then 3 hours later his roomate called me nervous becasue he hadn't seen him and it was 2 am in the middle of the week. I ended up calling him and had been sitting out my window crying  thinking what is he going to do because he really felt that his life was over becasue of a dumb mistake, thats when I knew that he  would be faithful.  I knew that he really loved me.  I hope this helped!
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Okay, I know this is a bit much to read, but...I had a guy that cheated on me 5 times.  No, I didn't know about it until AFTER we broke up.  I didn't know what to do.  I ALMOST(really, REALLY considered) having sex with his sister's ex...which that was an on-again-off-again thing...but I didn't.  Then I thought about being friends with him again...that didn't work out 'cause he messed with my little brother and I thought about kicking some major butt but, again...didn't.  The reason why is really insane:  I still loved him at that point.  Don't ask me why because I don't know now.  Maybe I thought he'd come back crying(but he was the one that dumped me).  Karma hit him where it hurt quicker than I thought.\nApparently, one of the girls he cheated on me with got pregnant by him and wouldn't you know it...nine months later he was landed with the responsibility of fatherhood.  A few months after that, another girl got pregnant.  HA!  This was too good.  Anyways, after getting over the breakup(in a record time of a few weeks), I found this current guy that I've been with for 9 months and a few weeks.  KARMA ROCKS!  So, if you took Karma into your hands, that's great...even the threefold law works since he cheated once and you hit him 3 times as hard.  Buuuut....I think that if you went that far you might just be a little on the evil side(but who am I to judge, babe?).  Maybe you should post a pic of your cheater on the site I have listed...after all, there's too much girl power I can't resist.
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you take your own advice, dont you think. men cheated on you\nthough out your relationship. so why would you do the same with\nthis young man. and  the fact that he said it ok that his girfriend\ndid not find out, some nerve. you will regret this.
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since im not married yet i cant say that i have, but u&#92;i cansay, "so far, so good"\n\nthat is my plan, and it is possible.\n\nthere are afew testimonies of this inthe book "boy meets girl" and i dont remember the authors name.  josh something.  ill get back to you on that.
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wake up,he cheated on you so why have him back.chances are you will never fully trust him ever again.time to move on girl
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I think he still likes you, but he probably chickened out. The tournament COULD have been true...but... The guy could have met another girl, also.  I'd suggest YOU asking him to go out some other time, and see what happens. If he says no, just shrug it off, sort of, "Okay, just thought it'd be fun." If he says yes, well then.... Good luck, girlie!!! ;)
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OK, maybe his friend lied (I doubt it). But you have to get a hold of yourself.  From your typing style, and misspellings, I assume you are VERY young.  This boy may be your 1st love, but believe me, he will NOT be your last. Does he deny being with the girl at all, or just denies anything happened?  Get to the bottom of this.  If he is innocent, apologize for not trusting him.  If he is guilty, break up with him.  You don't need to play these games.  You deserve better.
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Let it go for now.\nBe his friend \nYou'll probably marry him in 5-10 years from now\n;)
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would you believ the same thing has just happend to me. bout 4 months ago i ran into this guy i went to school with and we started chatting and i got his number. later in the week i got a msg from him and we were talking about school and how we were friends and how i used to really like him. he then replied that he liked me and wish he had relised what he had missed out on in school and he should have hooked up with me.\nwe continued to msg each other and after a week he said that he still had feelings for me. the only problem with the whole situation is i met another guy and now im engaged, i got so confused on what to do but he still says now that he really likes me and i should leave the other guy. of course im not.\nAnyway the point to all this is yes there is a chance for you both as long as neither of you are in a relationship. a way to find out is by saying that you used to like him and find out where you stand with him. invite him out for dinner or a movie or something and try and spend time with him. you will soon know if he likes you or not.\nGood luck and hope this helps
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Let him go. He's married. What about the wedding vows he made?\nIf people can break these vows whenever they wish...then they meant nothing.  How would you like it if you were married to a guy and he left you like that?\nSomeone wonderful will come along for you. And you'll be glad \nyou waited...
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That question is unfortunately one that is tricky. Everyone deserves a chance to prove themselves worthy. BUT, he has admitted to cheating in the past, and sometimes, once a cheater always a cheater. He doesn't sound like he knows what he wants, by saying you never know what will happen in the future, and maybe you should hold off on dating until he is sure. You have to find the answer in yourself and go from their. You are your own best judge of what you want. and no one on here is going to be able to solve your question. \n\nIf you want to take a chance and date him, then you should, but I would be leary, I really don't think he is ready. I talk to my guy friends all the time, and they understand me,,,,but that doesn't mean we should date ya know?????\n\nDon't settle just because he understands you. I understand where you are coming from but that doesn't mean we should date. See where I'm coming from. PLUS YOUR A GIRL AND I ONLY DATE GUYS lolololol!!!!!\n\nI wish you luck, and maybe you should take time,,,,don't open yourself up to him so much, and let him play into that. He knows what you want with him, and hasn't made an attempt to change your situation, by being a couple, just go slow,,,hang out and talk,,,,and be friends,,,don't let your heart do your thinking, it can confuse things much more if you do that...\n\n\nGOOD LUCK\nDAPHNE
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get up the courage to try again. the only way you're going to get it done, is if you do it.\n\nyour friend is right in not wanting to help. relationships are between two people. you shouldn't ask your friends to get involved. they are there for support when things go wrong.\n\nincrease your self confidence by asking him. if he says yes, good job! if he says no, it's not the end of the world. he just wasn't the right one for you. tell yourself, "wow! i did something that i didn't think i could do! go me! it was worth taking the chance. no one can ask for more than that!" and it will boost your confidence so that later on, when you find yourself attracted to another boy, you will be more confident to ask him out. it is impressive to boys when you have self confidence.
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be front about it, if its to hard, try it over the phone instead of in person. or be romantic about it. my current boyfriend started things up with me by asking me to prom. in each class that i went to during the course of the day, he left an envelope with some cut up pieces of paper. at the end of the day, i put the pieces of paper together, and it turns out it was a puzzle, which read "will you go to prom with me?" and on the envelope it said to meet him at a certain time, so i did, with my own envelope with a puzzled 'yes' in it. it was really sweet.
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I am so sry, for what happened to u. Trust me the guy is so stupid, and u should be glad this happened b4 u guys did nything intimate. I noe it's hard to forget, but u should go on with life. Many times u will find urself in a drepressing position. Many times. Get over it. There are many guiys in the world. U never mentioned that this one was the perfect one so i'm guessing he wasn't. and even though u were going out it seems like u considered him as a friend. U must have been close, it hurts , i noe. U 'll find ur perfect one someday and u'll forget about this guy. Someday u'll be able to look back at this memory and laugh about it. I would suggest looking forward to that day. Enjoy urself, have fun, study, date, life is too short to have many regrets.
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If your boy friend loves you he want leave you.You have to talk with your boy,tell him what you think,ask him answers as you ask now.Only him knows the truth