There is a girl that lives right next door to me and we used to be sort of good friends. I totally hate her and so do most of my friends. I talk about her behind her back and say everything I say behind her back to her face. I feel kind of bad for her cuz shes sort of a Loser, what should i do?
119774
You don't have to be friends with her, but it's uncool to talk about someone behind their back, even if you do say it to her face. The coolest thing to do would be to either leave her alone, completely, or be extra cool and befriend her. Maybe you can help her not to be a loser.
438446
O ITS ON GRLFRIEND! jst ignore her, its not like she'll care. i know how u feel i knda had that kinda experience 2. jst ignore her & if she calls u bk, thn jst say wut? & jst gve her dirty looks. i mean if  she really was ur friend u wouldn't b so annoyed & h8 hert hat much
237824
Life's hard enough without having our 'friends' treat us like that. Tell her it was nice knowing her but you feel your friendship has fizzled out & you need your own space & so on. Don't go playing her at her own game & calling her names, try to part on friendly terms cos she sounds like the sort to hold a grudge & may go out for revenge if you end it by telling her where to go.
181998
You're friend is treating you this way because (im assuming she) she has her own insecurities about herself. i dont know you, but you are probably an attractive popular girl? someone genuin? This other friend wants you to feel about about yourself. The way to tackle this is to understadn she is hating something about herself and try to bring it out of her, subtly and perhaps bit by bit. then when you're feeling more confident you can talk to her about the way she speaks to you and the names she calls you.
203634
A friend does not talk like this about another friend.  Maybe you need to re-evaluate yourself to determine who the real "brat" is.\n\nHow do you think your friend would feel if she heard that you are talking behind her back and making fun of her?  How would you feel if it was being done to you?  Never, ever treat someone any differently than you yourself would like to be treated.\n\nMaybe you need to tell your friend what a "brat" you are and suggest that she deserves a better friend than what you are capable of being.
301462
Well what I would do is first of all, tell my friend the truth.  Tell her that I only said it because I was jealous of the time she was spending with the other person.  If you don't really dislike the other person, go to them personally and apologize and try to make amends.  Let them know you were jealous of the attention they were getting and maybe you guys can work it out.
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From personal experiences growing up, I know how much that can hurt; I'm very sorry you're going through this. \n\nMy best advice for you would be to ignore the cruel things she says and does to you. I know that it's very hard to turn a blind eye, but sometimes that's all you can do.\n\nI would also suggest that you not try and be friends with her. You should be courteous to her, but you do not need to be her best bud. If she is such a mean girl, do you really want to become her friend? Girls like that are very charming and manipulative. They can get you to do things you would never dream of doing. I once became good friends with the "mean girl" of my school (just so she wouldn't be mean to me), and she pulled me into the peer abuse with her. Before I knew it, she was having me say and do horribly mean things to the girl that had been my best friend since I was 4. I did horrible things to her, and I live with that guilt every single day of my life, even though now we're both grown women and she has told me that I am forgiven. It's a horrible feeling, let me tell you.\n\nSo, to sum up this short novel I've written: Don't pay attention when she does crap to you. When you try and fight back, you're just feeding the beast. Kill her with kindness, but do not try and become her pal. It will only hurt you in the long run.\n\nI truly hope your situation gets better real soon!
676523
you need to tell your friend how she is making you feel. besides being on the computer, how is it that she makes you feel like you are being treated poorly. what she is doing may not be on purpose. sometimes people do or say things unthinkingly or because it is what they are used to having done to them and it becomes 2nd nature . \n\nafter speaking with her- if she does the ugliness again- at that moment say- when this happens, it makes me feel like such and such. after pointing out a good example of the behavior you do not like and she continues to do it- terminate the friendship. say. ya know i really like you alot as a friend but i cannot tolerate you treating me this way. good luck, best wishes and no hard feelings but cya later
232697
u better bitchslap ure friend. shoot. omg. i hate girls that bring drama. even if she hates the guy she should be there for u. she aint a true friend.
635248
baby girl, those are harsh words to say. i'm sure you wish to take it back and have a do-over. but you're right. any friends of mine that treat me like dirt; i would simply ignore that person. it's for the best baby girl. just deal with the sorrow for a while. it will pass.
339561
talk to deja and tell her what is going on and how  feel maybe she can try and change for the better but she migtht feel bad because it goes if you are a true friend you will aceppt you for who they are but it always isent true just talk to her let her know what is going on maybe there is something bothering her that you can maybe help with
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The only thing I can say is she wasnt a friend to start with. And that dont worry about others  they have to answer for the things they do not you. Just move on and dont show any emotion about it. There is a saying what comes around goes around and sooner or later she will have someone do to her what she did to you.
398138
this girl is obviously a back stabber and you need to eliminate her as one of your friends.  find someone else you could move in with besides nobody knows better than you how your doing financially
130696
That's a terrible thing to do to someone. You were too good for that b*tch. Do you want me to kick her a.s.s. for you? I would. lol You seem like a great guy. Go out there and mingle. Don't be shy.
80515
I actually don't know, but what ever you do, think about this....\n\nIf you were in her shoes, how would you feel if you were rejected by your friends?\nHow would you feel, if someone did not want to be associated with you?\n\nSometimes some friendships are not good for us, but then we have to ask ourselves; is it because I am too proud to be associated with him / her… \n..or is she / he a bad influence on me.\n\nWhat ever you do, search your own heart, \nbe honest, and,\nspeak to her openly, but be careful not to hurt her,  the table might turn!\n\nThat which you sow, you will reap…
359922
I would say its a bad idea. If this person is your friend then going after someone they were with is just bad karma. The best thing I can suggest is to talk to her and tell her how you feel.
124738
Obviously she's not a friend if she treats you this way. try hanging out with someone else who is NOT ashamed of being seen with you. And if she keeps giving you attitude, stop talking to her. I'm sure you're not the only person she does this to. A TRUE friend does not treat a friend like dirt. And if she's saying lies about you then she's jealous about something. I can already tell that you are a TRUE friend, because you are willing to save this friendship with this nasty person by finding out what you can do. We need more people like you. So in answering your question, when you walk by her just smile. BIG!!