I met this woman just recently and I'am attracted to her both physically and mentally. But I slept with her on the first date. Im in my late 20's and she is in her late 30's. She already mentioned to me she had never done this before. Yeah right!! I think... So I ask should I even bother seeing her again? How could I even begin to think this could lead to something long term? Help!!
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Did you ever think she may be telling the truth? Give her the benefit of the doubt. The question I have is why is it ok for men to sleep with someone on the first date and get no rep for it, but for women it is different?????? Besides she might be a really great person and you will loose out on the relationship, remember you were there with her!
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I've been there and I know the confusion. My advice is don't worry about whether it is a date or not, just have a good time. Don't sweat any details that you might worry about if it was supposed to be a date. For example, if there is a third person there, that's cool. If you're interested in her, the best thing you can do is show that you can have a good time without stressing about things. \n\nGood luck & have fun!
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You will forever love and think about her.... that is a fact. The thing is that with time and more dating, it will fade.  I hope for your sake that you dont have to see her a lot bc that is just like picking an old scab... not very productive. I would try to avoid her until the pain of losing her at least dulls a little. I think you will find love, but you need to close the chapter of your life that included her first. Give it time... all wounds heal.
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well first off, her ex sounds like a *bleep*, so she need to dump it's butt! now for what you feel for her and she feels for you, if it's genuine, feel free to experiment but I wouldn't jump into sex, I would go on a few dates and maybe kiss, you still feel love and not lust then you might want to start thinking about the future with her...*hug* good luck!
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from a 25 year olds opinion,yes. its because there was an intimacy. like a lost best friend. its normal. i often wonder how she is and if life is good for her even though i havent seen her in 8 years.
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hey come on... that's just an infatuation or maybe you're putting your ilussion into reality. what if time will come that you'll meet her and you'll be surprised with her being over weight and some kind of an elephant-look body-shape, will you still fall in love with that lady. i bet you will run away and thanking of yourself for not introducing yourself to her. check it out boy...
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hey, the same thing kinda happened to me! except, he never wanted her sexually...but i was friends with her (probably during a time when she dated him), way before i ever met him...we lived in different countries, so i think she may have dated him after i met her...anyway, she used to come over and hang out all the time after he and i got married...they're just old buddies and well, what they used to have is now long gone...\nso, if you feel that you can trust BOTH of them, why not?
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I am older also.  I like younger women.  I am vain.  I am not attracted to many women my age.  I look great for my age so probably 10 years younger.  In many cases the girl has chased after me. Make sure that he is taking you out and exposing you to culture.  You should be going to plays and concerts and nice restaurants with him.  He should be introducing you to his friends (parents later).  See the book Pygmilian which my fair lady is based.  Your older guy should be expanding your horizons.  If you are just going to cheap restaurants or not really doing anything then you are simply giving it up for the price of a happy meal.
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At 2 years clean and sober, you most likely have the support in your life to maturely enter the harsh and horrid dating scene. I know, I too am in your predicament. I just go slowly and safely. I no longer have sex on the first date. The second date is up for grabs. Sex and love are 2 different things. Sometimes one needs some sportf**k**g.
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I honor honesty above all. It's your decision want to be involved with her modern life or not. Whatever decision you take, be responsible. I am not that modern and don't believe in pure sex without love, but I don't judge. I respect people with different life style and realize their lives could be much more interesting than mine. You sounded eager to give a modern life a try. If you are prepared, why not? Wish you all the best!
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No, I wouldn't go on the show Elimidate.  It is implied that you date whoever the winner is.  I wouldn't compete against other men for a woman because you can't be yourself around her.  She is also not necessarily the woman I would want to be with anyway.  I also wouldn't like a bunch of women competing over me.  Maybe some people would think of that as a fantasy.  If you think about it though, they are acting immature to try to be picked as the one you want.  However, why would I want to pick a woman who is immature?  Isn't that going to have a negative effect on the relationship?  If it's just to sleep with her and not have a serious relationship with her, then why do it at all?  I could just as easily find someone that shallow who just wants to sleep with me at a bar.  I know this is a long answer, but I don't look for immaturity as one of the good qualities in a woman.  So, no I wouldn't go on elimidate.
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hi there, this must be a huge dilemma you're facing. i have experienced this before, i'm 19 and probably you would think that i'm too young to comment or give you advice on this but this would be my sincere reply to your question. firstly, is this a mutual feeling? does she love you to the extent as you love her? you mentioned that she loves you as a friend, have you confronted her and made your feelings towards her known? it would be best if you know how she really feels then you can decide on what to do next. if she loves you, and you love her too, and both of you are happy with each other's company- why let go when you can grow and allow a beautiful relationship to blossom? but if she doesn't love you in a romantic way, it is definitely advisable that you let go before it's too late. allow yourself to meet new people and give your chance and someone out there a chance too. it will take more than a short period of time to get over her and resume to the "just friends" status but it will do you good. if she's unsure, give her time to think about it. i hope what i said made sense, there's too much to speak on this. i hope that all will go well and you're able to come up with a solution. do not let this issue put you down, alrite? there are many other beautiful individuals out there waiting to be discovered. and i'm sure that she is also a special person.
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I just answered another one of your questions, I hope this does not sound like I contradicting my other answer.\n\nI had a blind date a while back.  The woman was alot different from my ex wife or any of the women that I have been attracted too.  But sitting there all night talking with her, I realized that I could have fun with her and that I wanted to see her more.  Just from talking to her I became mentally attracted to her.  I was not sure about the rest.  We have been dating for 6 months now and it keep getting better.  \n\nI was married for 15 years to a tall, skinny blonde.  That is the type of girl physically that I thought I would date again.  Body and looks had nothing to do with me going out with the girl I've been seeing.
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I've "dated" a few younger guys, mostly for the sex.  So there are other MILFs out there I'm sure.   Your approach may be off and normally these things just sort of "happen" you don't go looking for it.  Or you don't wake up and say "I'm 35, I think I'll find me a nice young 20 year old to *uck".
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Us beautiful, older women have a motto.  First time for love, second time for lust & money.  Just kidding.  When you say you just share love, what exactly is your meaning of love?  Sex? Or are you too smushy?\n\nYou didn't explain the taking advantage part.  Of what?  Your money?  Your heart? You sound kind of smothery and clingy to me. Do you move too fast? That scares women away and makes you look too emotionally needy. There are beautiful women of all ages.  You need to look for the beauty within too.  Not just outside appearances.  Believe it or not, you can find both if you are patient. You do not have to settle for an ugly, dumpy woman to be assured of love.  You haven't found the right, beautiful woman because you are trying too hard.  You will meet her, just be patient.\n\n\nA friend once told me, when you scoop up sand really fast, it just flies into other people's eyes, huh?  When you scoop up a handful of sand and close your fingers too tighly, what happens?  It slips right through your fingers.  If you hold your hand out, with open palm and fingers together, what happens?  The sand will stay.  Then , I said something really smartazz like, then somebody runs by and knocks your sand out of your hand.  Then my friend said, well, you probably shouldn't have picked it up in the first place because it wasn't meant to be in your hand anyway.  Never pick up a handful of sand unless you know what the pollution level is.  We laughed because we felt really Confusciousy.  LOL.  There is total truth to it though.\n\nIf you really like someone a lot, hold on loosely, but don't let go.  If you cling too tightly, you will lose control.  That is a line from .38 Special.  Good luck.  And whatever you do, don't use that last line of your question on the women you meet.  You sound like your trying to sell yourself as some kind of gigolo and that is a total turn off, at least for me.  And the I think I am attractive sounds kind of funny because you know for sure if you are or you aren't to women.  You could be attactive to your Grandmother, but not to other women your age.  Know what I mean?  LOL!\n\np.s. Hannah sounds exactly right about you and Rashi.  I had a Libra husband who was as handsome as could be and turned out to be abusive.  Now I have a Taurus man who is rough looking and loves me totally and completely.  Your sign is no indication of how you really act.  It doesn't reflect how you were raised, how you will treat kids, etc. That is influenced by genetics and environment these days.  Don't put too much trust in the Zodiac.  Woman looking at you in the age ranges you speak of don't care about your sign. There are too many environmental issues to deal with this day and age to depend on the stars.  Women these days have evolved from the 60's and look for other traits, not one's zodiac sign.  You know how lame, "What's your sign ?" sounds to women these days?  LOL!  "What's your penis size and yearly salary is what you should worry about with the sexual lionesses from 35 and up.  LOL!
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Well my lady and i are into our 10 month and we met when i saw her across the mall.I have never walked up and introduced myself like that before,but i had this urge that couldn't stop.\nWe are soul mates,and are happier with every day that passes.I am glad that you have found love,and as you can tell from your own experience that it is possible.
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Since you only dated this guy for a very brief time you didn't really get to know him enough to fall in love; therefore, you created a fantastic image of this person. I'm sure your fertile imagination introduced someone incredibly irresistible and that is who you cannot forget. It's time for you to face reality and respect yourself enough to move on and expect the right person to enter your life. The past is over so please stop looking back over your shoulder because you'll never go forward until you let go of what no longer exists for you.