I found out that the brother of a friend of mine persuaded her to sleep with him. now he told her if she would speak with anyone about that he would first rape her and then kill her. she told me anyway. Now he wants it again and again although she doesn't. WHAT CAN I DO TO HELP HER???? PLEASE TELL ME!!
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I agree with all the people who say call the police.  The truth is, though the threat may not actually be carried out., you need to treat it as a very serious threat to her life and safety.  The most important thing you can do is GET HER TO A SAFEHOUSE OR SOMEPLACE SECURE.  If she needs protection from this guy, start off by getting her out of this situation.   Also, be her friend and help her feel safe and confident.  If the guy asks you where she is or anything, tell him NOTHING and WALK AWAY.  If he tries to hurt you or violate you, run and bring attention to yourself and get to a public place right away.  If this happens at your house, call the police right away and report him as a trespasser.
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Wow!  Sounds like my family.  My brother married her, and we still don't get along, 2 years later.  I try to just put up with her because of my brother.  But I don't see it getting better. \nMaybe your bro doesn't see her faults.  If you say something now, he might take a closer look and decide he doesn't like those things about her, either.  He might get mad at you, but he'll get over it, won't he?
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i know alot of girls like her they will do anything for attention and she is trying to use sex as a comfort for all her pain and hurt, first of all if she is doing drugs and all that dumb stuff you should be there for her no matter what she did to you she is lost and needs soemone obviously no one cares about her get her into a treatment program secondly ask her what her deal is tell her how much you love her and you want to be there for her because she needs someone, this is a way of her reachign out in hope somebody will try to help, she might be a hoe for trying to sleep with your man but live to forgive but dont forget she is goign through a rough time and what she did was shitty but yoru friend needs you now more than ever, she is not in the right state of mind she is acting crazy and needs to be put in rehab as for yourr ex love andrew well he is a dogg for sleepign with your friend point blank get rid of his ass and he isnt worthy of you or your love get with it gurl and all yoru guy friends slept with her then chances are their all doggs too and probably not the right type of guys to be hanging out with and for your brother get him tested good luck to you and yoru friend
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I'm straight, but I love the story of how my best friend came out to me, if you'll listen. I was the first person she ever told. We went for a walk (for no "apparent" reason) and she had me sit down with her on an empty bench in the hotel near where we were living. She started talking, talking in circles, dropping hints and getting really upset. I was so worried about her. I wasn't sure what it was, but I knew it was something sexual. Was she raped? Was she pregnant? If she had been raped, I would break the guy's face, but she wasn't the type to get pregnant. Then it clicked in my head. I asked her if it was ok for me to guess what she was trying to tell me, and she nodded. I asked if she was trying to come out to me, and she didn't move. I asked again, and she nodded. I hugged her so tight! I told her how relieved I was, how I thought something bad had happened. She told me how she had been keeping it hidden for so long, and if she hadn't come out to me, she never would have. We're so close now, I go around calling her my sister. The one problem is that we both like the same type of girl, so if there's a nice bi girl we both like, there may be a discussion... ;P
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Hey sis, if you need to talk, I"m here for you. I married a brother who had been married to a sister who cheated on him. If you want to talk to him about it or ask him questions about it, I don't have a problem . Drop me a line, eh? I can understand how hard it is on the 'survivor' , It has been almost 7 years since we got married and there are still trust issues. But I know that eventually he will heal and  I am patiently waiting for that time. Meanwhile, we have a great marriage. Yeah, drop me a line and let's talk.\n( Bap'd 3-10-1990)
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Tell him to open his eyes and quit hanging with her...he should already know that by now...duh!
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If its annoying your brother, he needs to tell it right away to his friend. You can't be a friend with someone who does not offer you that comfort level. "Let her know exactly what ya feel and he will not do it again".\n\nTrust me, there are bigger problems in a relationship!
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Go find another place to live.  It's obvious this person is bothering you.  If you're worried about being raped, it's a no-brainer -- LEAVE!!
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i am sure your brother knows she is a jealous controlling woman.  He just thinks he can't find another woman.  First get yourself plenty of girlfriends and have him come over to fix something at your place, then have them make a move on him. find him a job so he can rebuilt his confidence.  i can only tell you what people have done, i do not condome revenge. Post her picture on paper flyers printed from your computer and have her number on it. put it in bathroom walls of men restrooms. the post should read I am a xxx so please call me and tell me that i am....next get a calling card and use it on a payphone. have your girlfriends call her and tell her things. when you visit so they will not know it is you.... order pizza to her job or place and give her name. so they will ban her from recieving pizza from that place when she makes them deliver and loose money..... call mental institutions and ask them to send you literature to your home address for your personal problem, such as drug offender, prostition, depression and give her name and address instead of yours, call from a payphone so it wont come back to you...call the school where your child goes and cuss at the nurse or the secretary and give her childs name and her name and ask to hold meeting with the princilpe and ask for a confirmation letter send to her address and use her name, when she fails to attend , they will loose faith in her....
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Please convince her to get out while she still can. \n\nI thought I was reading the story of my sister. She went thru something very similar 1 1/2 years ago. He went to her church, seemed like a stand up guy, they actually dated a short while also before they were married. Again, same scenario, She found out he was a registered sex offender and learned he molested his own daughter. Bad situation. He was also obsessive compulsive and had to have everything just so or else. It took one night, when she was being beat up(for the first time) just for talking with our other sister and while on the phone and that sister switched to her other line and called the police. Then she wised up and got a divorce.\n\nPlease talk to your friend, this is not a good situation for her to be in.\n\nKeep this in mind too. Part of the problem with the world today is people turning their backs because they don't want to get involved out of selfish reasons. Sure, everyone gets worried about things happening to them, but people need to stand up for what is right, and stop letting bad people control everything in our lives.  Stay true to your friend, she needs you.\n\nGood luck and God bless....................
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I would suggest talking to him and see what he has to say, I would also tell him that if he doesn't tell her that you will have to.\n\nThis will leave the door open for him to do the right thing, but will also save your friends fellings a little, it will be better comming from him.\n\ngood luck.
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You can not help her. She has got to help herself. I have been down that road before. Believe me it is difficult. Sometimes we want to save someone it makes us feel good. But trust me the lies are just starting. Get out before you get hurt to bad.
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You can't convince anyone of anything.  The only way he will "get it" is when she finally dumps him.\n\nAll you can do is be a good friend when it happens...
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You can accept her. Well she has done what she has done, but she is your sister. She has come back to you that means she requires you. Everyone commits mistake. And she hasn't killed anyone. Its time for everyone in society to get matured. Now here is a chance.
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She's no "good friend".  That sounds like a Lifetime Television for Women movie.  You know, as a mother I want to say I'd kick her @ss.  But really, at this point there isn't anything you can do but sever your friendship with her.  He's 20 now, and the statue of limitation for rape ends at age 18 in most states (though you might want to research this for your state).  Your son, if he's the "mature type" could have very well seduced her.  But as I said, he's 20 now and there's nothing you can legally do.  I know you are hurt, angry and betrayed, I would be too.  And I'm so sorry for you.  Hopefully you and your son can discuss this and find out why/how it started.  But I would definately approch the woman and ask her why?  How would she feel if a man her age had an affair with her 16 or 17 year old daughter?  She'd have him in jail so quickly.  Remind her of that.  \n\nJesus, lady.  My heart goes out to you, really.  If you ever want to chat more, send me a message and we can exchange email address.  Good luck.
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Check this out:\n\nThis girl that I really liked, that I had been do'n...back in my freshman year of college came over to me and my best friends dorm room one night to meet me.  I was way late getting back from something and basically the same thing happened, except he didnt nail her.  They were just messing around.  I didn't catch them in the act.  He told me later that night even though I never suspected a thing.\n\nI know it sounds way shady, but I was never really all that pizzed, because it was better to find out she was a skeezer from him than the entire fraternity!  More importantly, he came clean.\n\nWhere you fugged up is still hanging with her after your buddy got all pizzed.  You should have kicked her to the curb that night and explained to your buddy that it was a good thing that you found out for him that she was a skeezer.  \n\nDid he love this chick?  Did you know he loved her?  If he talked to you about love and was all about this girl, then you really messed up.  YOu also messed up by not kicking the girl to the curb the night of the incident.  If you were a real good friend and valued him, you would have done that...dont you think?
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IF the man actually raped her, then I would tell her to go to the Police with this information!\n\nNow, if she doesnt, then I wouldnt put too much stock in her being raped, and that she was just unfaithful, and that any time you two dissagree, she may turn to this man, (and thats why he calls, to see if she is available again), for comfort, and that being in a sexual nature.\n\nI wish you well..\n\nJesse