which I needed for myself and my mother.I feel damn bad about it but I need to buy clothes for winter and my mother will use the rest for household expenses.will something bad happen to me now or does the fact that i have admitted to my mistake absolve me of any harm coming back to me?
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Have you admitted it to the people for whom you work? Admitting it anonymously on a website won't absolve you from anything, but it is a first step toward making it easier to do  what I already believe you know is the right thing.\n\nYou need to admit it to the people from whom you stole it. Explain that you were desperate and made an irrational mistake and try to work out a plan to pay them back. Hopefully, they will forgive your momentary lapse in judgment. If it is a significant amount they may choose to prosecute you. You need to be prepared for that. Most likely they will find out anyway and then you're in really deep sh*t. You'll not only risk your freedom but you will be paying for legal services and perhaps fines that will far exceed what you took initially. But if you try to make amends they may work with you on this. Even if they do prosecute it will be in your favor that you confessed and offered to to the right thing. On a lesser scale, they may just fire you and you'll have to find another job, which may be difficult if you don't have it on record that you tried to do the right thing.\n\nThe fact that you feel bad means you have a conscience. You may be surprised how willing they may go to help you if you are completely honest with them. "Honesty is the best policy" is not just an hollow phrase. If you don't come clean about this, it will only get worse for you, even if you are never caught.\n\nYou already realize that you made a mistake. Don't let it eat away at you any longer. Everyone makes mistakes. You are human. I don't know if you are a person of faith or not, but I believe God will look out for you if you make every attempt to rectify it. I'm am not a bible-thumper by any stretch of the imagination. I know it is not for me to judge your actions and I don't and I hope other people of faith don't on this forum. (for them I will quote Jesus: "Judge not lest ye be judged".)\n\nSometimes we do things we regret because of great need. In your case basic needs for you and your mother. My opinions above are merely suggestions. ONLY you know what is best for you.\n\n If you follow what's in your heart (i.e. "Be True To Yourself") then everything will eventually work out for you.\n\n\nGood luck to you, pal.
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YES! Once I needed work clothing for a new job. I saw some things I wanted but could not afford. I was at J.C. Penney's and I talked to the manager, explaining my plight, as the clothing rounded off to perhaps only $65.00....therre were similar items on sale that were actually nicer, and I pointed out that fact. I was not pleading, or begging. I was so sincere. I needed the clothes for work as mine had been stolen, along with all I had had, the manager allowed me to go through the check stand with a variance of about $22.00 that made all the difference in the world and yes...I can now say I have negotiated retail. No, I haven't done this since. I was amazed and surprised and still to this day grateful. Thanks.....
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I think it's really up to you.\nClearly, it was their mistake and you've left the store, it's over.\n\nThat said, if it were me, I would have said something....just for peace of mind.  I hate to carry that guilt with me, I'd think about it all the time, or at least everytime I saw that store or rifle scope.\n\nAnd to your question about music downloads...I don't.
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I would express my hurt feelings. Then tell him he has to ask for it back  and return it and buy me something twice as expensive and extravagant. If he won't, I will simply close my mouth and stash money away and leave when timing is right.
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~If your abiltiy to use the English language and your spelling are any indication of your parentling skills, thank your lawyer, the Court, your sister and your parents for the favor they did you and the poor child.  I know your son must.\nI also know you have left out at least 50% of the story and I can imagine both what you omitted and why.\nYour consent is on file.  Hire a lawyer and re-open the case if you can prove fraud was involved.  You know it wasn't.  Like when you buy something and change your mind about it, "buyers remorse" won't change the facts or reverse the transaction.
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Is it worth the hassle?\n\nYou will have to take her to court and prove that you loaned it to her.  You have any witness that saw you tell her it was loan?  It is very hard to prove since she could say you gave it to her and just want it back because her brother broke up with you.\n\nThis is just a life lesson.  Forget about the dress.
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Maybe it's like, you're wanting to rid yourself of all baggage and anything that is weighing you down, and just running away from it. (in this case, the clothes are representing everything that you regret... because I suppose in some sense clothes DO weigh you down.  You could move much better with out them.)  That is actually really interesting.  You want to get away from everything that is holding you back from moving on... but, i'm not a psychologist so if you want to hear a professional idea, you could always go to one.  I wonder if they've heard things like that before?  I bet they have!
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Yes i did and i regret it. I was a young mother then only 16 and i stole my baby a pair of shoes. That was 20 years ago. May God forgive me
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look, you made an honest mistake, i mean from the sound of things, it came from the right place. grow a bit of a spine and admit to her that what you did was wrong, but explain to her how what she did made you feel; that maybe she should have gone about it in a different way. don't beat yourself that much over it, you are only human and will make some mistakes, especially with those you love.
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You still owe them the funds, irrespective of it being their mistake. They cannot penilize you for it i.e: charge intertest that you would not have paid, or make additional money on the deal. However as they have inconvienced you, they should allow you to settle the debt in a manner that you have been doing without additional fees.\n\nYou may be entitled to compensation for damages if for example you had already budgetted for another item. In that case a lawyer would be the person to handle that.
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Yes I would definately apologize, and I would do so by saying I'm very sorry, excuse me..let me help you gather your things back up.  And if any bags broke I'd go get new ones for her.  It would be a high concern if he didn't apologize..or if it was on purpose.  But if it were a true accident, or if he was truly sorry AND helped then it would be a low offense.  I'm just a nice person! :)
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Yes, because something was missing at home, guilt is the number on drawback.   Wish I could go back and undo it, but too late now....and then you can't seem to stop, either.
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I'm sorry that you feel persecuted because somebody had the temerity to ask you to pay back the money that you spent, did you think that Christmas had come early or what?  You spent it, you pay it back!  No wonder the banks interest rates are so high.----I cannot understand why so many answers encourage you to dodge your responsibility.
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Certainly wouldn't want to add to your worries mate by condemning you. Whats the big bugga if everyone gets what they want in the end? You did right by me if you didnt just force the issue and try to live beyond your means. Sorry about your losses love, monetary  and otherwise.
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Whatever you did happened in the past and you can do nothing to change it. I happened. If your deed involves hurting someone you love (that most likley the reason you feel bad about it) then it might be a good idea to talk with the person about it. If that person cares about you he or she might forgive you,especially since you didn't do it intentionally or without planning. \nIn any case it was something you did "without thinking" therefore you didn't plan, there was no "intent" more an "Impulse". Learn from the expereince, file it under life happens and go on.
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Yes. You're helping someone. I mean if you don't and something bad happens to them, wouldn't that make you feel a bit guilty?\nBesides, you might make a friend along the way.
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Live with your choice.  That is what life is all about.  If you feel like you need additional time to kick yourself in the butt, do so.  Learn to express your regret, write it if you cannot speak to anyone about it.\nYou do not have to go through this alone.  Pay attention to those around you and you can find help.\nTime will pass.  This is not the end of the world, it just may seem that way now.