He is a great, fun and loving guy but, he wants to spend EVERY waking moment with me.  I prefer to have ALOT of alone time for reading, crosswords and Yahoo Answers.  Any suggestions ?
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why do u want ALOT of alone time? u have a privilege of having that Guy (if his feature is like u stated) can not u do with him all this activities?of course u need time for urself  but not ALOT, what if it was opposite  and he needs ALOT of alone time,,will that will be OK with u?\nTreat ur mate like u like him to treat u. if ur answer will be Yes , that means he  is not ur Mate..how do u define Mate?: is he guest at one's table, an assistant to a more skilled worker , or either of two matched objects ,, if u think he is  a match   u should really enjoy things together  ...I am only against this word ALOT...have time alone but not Alot , or find another match  with whom u will like to spend this ALOT
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I know what you mean, I am in the same sitution. I try to find things to do to keep him off my mind watch tv, go for a walk etc. As I see it if your unable to be together you need to stop wasting your time and find someone that you can be with and sooner or later you will feel secure to talk to that person (Thats what I am trying)
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Maybe you both need space. For you to enjoy other peoples company like your friends and family. For him to attend important matters that most needed of his attention. If you really are for each other then destiny will make a way.
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You're passive to the point of being submissive. Stop letting him make you feel bad by his actions. If his heart isn't in the relationship by being there for you in ways that will bring you happiness then my suggestion is for you to make sure he understand exactly what you need from him in order for the relationship to work. If you can't find common ground that creates an equal and mutual happiness then what's the true point of the relationship? To not make the effort to make you special day something to remember is about as selfish and self centered as I can imagine. You deserve better and I think you know this so make changes for you own happiness. If he won't take you out for your birthday then go out with friends and celebrate without him. If you don't have anyone to go out and celebrate with then let me know and I'll go party with you and I don't even know you but it's your birthday and that's reason enough.
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This is not the type of person, who you want to spend the rest of your life with. For one thing he can not communicate with you. You end up fighting a losing battle. You should not have to be on your peas and ques, all of the time, no one is perfect. But the Lord above. Do not waste any more of your time on this relationship. because you will never be happy. so it is time for you to start to think of yourself! Do what makes you happy!
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I have felt like this so many times!  It sounds like you guys are spending too much time together. Maybe spending less time together would help.  So when you are apart you miss him and then it seems like a treat to get to see him.  Then when you finally get to see him it will be exciting.  If this feeling continues maybe you should think about the fact that maybe you really don't miss him, you just miss having someone around.
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That is really sweet of you.  He is very lucky to have a great girl like you to take care of him on his b-day!  Sounds like you have done good with the dinner and webcam so far.  What else can you do for him?  Well, I believe the obvious would of course be providing him with some one-on-one personal entertainment later in the evening, perhaps with some new fun toys, outfits, or something.  But besides that, you could buy him something cool for his car (if he is into that kind of thing), or maybe some jewelry (if he wears a chain or earrings).  Cigars and alcohol are always good, since those last a long time, allows him to relax, and he will be thinking of you when he enjoys them.  THose are just my thoughts.  Good luck, and have a great time celebrating with him!
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No,it's not you.I have the same problem with my bf.He thinks that the computer is more important then spending time with you.Tell him politely to shut the computer off for a while.Also explain to him that you hardly get to see him and while you are visiting him to spend time with you.Let him know that it's rude to ingore you like that.Ask him to check his emails and his ebay account another time when you're not there.I really don't think that this behavior is normal.Or tell him that you're not going to be with him if he keeps this up.Ask him if he thinks that you're just there for sex?Maybe you should leave him and look for someone who's closer to you.He should pay attention to you,not to his computer.That stuff can wait.Ask yourself this:Do you want to continue to be with him or to find someone else?I think that what he's doing is rude.Good luck.
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Sure! you would probably have alot of fun sharing that experience together. You should also feel good about your relationship that he trusts your reactions and feels close enough to you to extend the invite. Try something new. You might be surprised.
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If you invite him and he does not come, then problem solved, I guess. \n\nMovies sound good, as long as its not a chick flick that you want to see. Ten pin bowling is fun. Swimming is great. What about a walk in the park ?\n\nIf you do all these things, you can talk about that, or if you haven't yet, you can discuss what you both would enjoy doing. Just relax and go with the flow.
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The more time you spend away from each other, the more time spent together is meaningful. Give him space so that no one gets attached. Sometimes the healthiest part of relationships is the quality of the individuals' personal life.
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leave him alone. he wants a break to think about stuff, give him a break to think about stuff. Go do whatever you like to do. Run, swim, read, shop, bike ride. Whatever. Give him the space he is asking for.
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being married, i believe that he should realize that when he married you, he GAINED a new best friend.  HOWEVER, there are things that i do with my buddy john that i don't do with my wife...football games, baseball games and my wife hangs out with her "homies" doing what women do.  But, everyday is ridiculous.  Bored you ask, yes...bored it is.  Plan a "date night" for the two of you.  Like every saturday or friday, whatever is convienent.  go to dinner, to a movie, go dancing at the club, have drinks at a bar, go to a comedy club, go see a concert...WHATEVER, the point is return to your roots of spending time together.  he is content to believe that you will always be home waiting for him, when he returns from where ever he goes. This is not petty, it is unfair.
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It depends what you're looking for, really. The benefit of taking the nerdy guy that you might not have considered is that if ya chose him, you'd give him a night he'd remember for the rest of his life just by getting to spend an evening with you. You might not have the best time that way, but the best way to be happy is to make someone else happy.
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Melissa, what does your man really like to do in his free time, besides dating you? I mean think of things he talks about and does as a hobby? I know that in one birthday it was cool as hell when my lady, at the time, surprised me by gathering my buddies and family in her apartment Club House for a surprise party. She pulled off the whole thing famiously. Called all the people, organized who was brining what, organized the decorations and kept me in the dark for 3 months. I mean that kicks ass. \n\nOn another front, I know that if you man likes doing a particular sport of hobby you could take part in it with him. I would love for my now wife to get on the back of my Honda crusier and ride with me. She has an honest fear of being on motorcycles so I can understand why she does not. However, the point being is there something that your man does which you could share which possibly you have not at this point? In either case it may just mean the world to him!\n\nPeace and good luck on the ideas.
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It's cool if you still wanna chat and make each other laugh...just be friends and leave it at that. He doesn't know what he wants and he's not ready to make any kind of commitment at this time. Don't try to force it if it's not there. Either wait a while till he's ready or move on.
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You are spending too much time alone together. That's not a good idea. Go bowling, skating, jog, get out among people. You are playing with fire right now.