why people afraid of getting the relationship in the next level.its started by friendship but hard to had commitment
130829
They don't want to ruin the good relationship they already have. If you break up, then who's to say that you won't be friends anymore. It's all about trust and how well they know each other!
561688
It has happened.Some of the best relationships started out from friendship.
439562
People tend to act far less hostile to new ideas in relationships if they are kept in the loop! If you had invited your friend to meet your bf, and then added the part about the necessity for help with transport I would think he would have been far more willing to help!
21075
Some people do that because they may be afraid of committment. Others because they have a trust problem. They had bad relationships in the past. So they have a hard time trust their spouse. Or because they are stupid.
326594
I've had a bad experience with dating a girl that I'd been friends with. It was pretty awkward, both of us knew eachother and what we like with the exception of relationship needs. I was so used to us just being friends that I made minimal moves. Unfortunately, she believed in the man making all the moves. She eventually got bored and went after someonme else.
566973
Well, I think that being friends first should be the base to any relationship. If you were to persue the relationship over time with said person and it did, as you say, fall apart, then you still have that basic foundation of friendship to fall back on. A lot of people dont even have that. When they break they destroy one another, I think if you have a solid foundation of friendship then you will be close enough to know whats going on far in advance of anything getting really messy... But there are no guarantees in life, I know that much, but I also know that once you have a good friend you can never erase them or replace them. they are part of you for life!!
331908
Not all people are like this. However, this goes down to basic instinct, protecting one's self at all costs. A person will sometimes seem to be your friend or such when they need something, but when that need is fufilled, the person moves on.\nMuch like a parasitic worm, the parasite feeds off of the host until the host is no longer of any use, and thent he parasite moves on. In life, you want to distance yourself from parasites. Symbiotic relationships are the best. Give and take, though no relationship lasts forever, and people are very malleable. Sometimes they will stand by your side, other times they will be gone when you need them, or they may be the ones who are putting you in harm's way.\nDon't dispair. Not all people are like this. Just find the right people.
636365
It's called attraction and if you don't have it then there is no way you can have a relationship.  Simple as that!
168668
Aah classic commitment phobia. Your both so scared of being vunerable and saying you want to be with each other that you're pretending it's ok to see other people. What you need to ask yourself is this? Is this really the type of future relationship you want, with two people not able to say how they feel. Either become a couple or leave each other alone. Believe me i've been in a situation like this and no matter how cool and trendy you think you're both being a relationship goes no where, without some honesty.
165395
It's hard when you want more than friendship from someone who isn't sure...and that is what this sounds like.  Just be patient...the best relationships start with friendship, don't push her...if it is meant to be, it'll happen!  If it isn't someone will come into your life when you least expect it and you will understand better why "this one" didn't work out!  Good Luck!!!
184971
Alot of women are afraid of change for the most part!  They don't wanna believe in their hearts that the one they love could ever hurt them or betray them in that way that they have to leave them!  Alot of it is false security and hope that things will get better than they are!  I would leave now if I felt uncomfortable at all in the relationship so I did not wast anymore time on something and someone that was going no where!
293663
There are many reasons that people have a fear of intimacy.  First, fear of rejection.  Second, a bad past relationship. Third, fear of vulnerability.  And fourth, they may not be ready to make a commitment yet and are just enjoying being with many women at the same time.  There are many other answers, but in my experience these are the top ones.  All you can do is be patient and wait, the right guy will come along and sweep you right off your feet, in good time.  Good luck and don't ever give up.
556264
Hey, just like you said to me, friendships are a great foundation for relationships. i live in england anyways lol. bt really, if you have feekings for a person, dont be afraid expressing them, and always be ready to say positive things, because that is what drives people together. Good Luck!
408170
Oh, man.  Has this not happened to anyone???  Mine was so bad I announced a vow of celebacy to one and all and eradicated the words 'date', 'love', 'marriage', and several others from my vocabulary and spent two or so years studying every religious text and book on philosophy ever written and getting black belts in several martial arts.\n\nThen one day I met somebody who'd been just as verbal about relationships and became good friends.  And whammo!  There it  was - like a 2x4 right between the eyes, simultaneously after a few months.  We then spent 24 hours completely denying it and going on about not ruining our friendship.  After 24 hours, we were going, "Um, weren't we NOT going to do this?"  Eight and a half years later, and we're still together and greatly bemused by it all.\n\nSince then I've met quite a few people who'd given up on love, and a similar thing happened.  It's almost like screaming up at the Gods of Irony, "YUP, never gonna date again, ever, EVER!!!\n\nI think you really have to mean it though.  So, focus on some other goal in life, make a point of making sure you're friends with somebody first before dating them, because I've since discovered that every lasting relationship I know of started off with a firm foundation of friendship, and one day when you least expect it or even want it, you'll get the 2x4 to the head.
155988
I really don't understand how someone could be friends with someone they do not respect. You don't have to agree with everything, but you do need to respect each other for any relationship to truly grow. Honesty, trust and respect are the basis for any "GOOD" relationship. I wouldn't be able to be friends with someone that didn't respect me as a person.\n\nA.H.
236963
it could be that he has his own issues and lots of them - that is the why\n\nunless he is willing to face them squarely then he will drag anyone who gets close to him down into it\n\nnow to answer your first question?\n\nno no no - just 'good' friends isn't a runner up prize for a failed relationship.  friendship has to be based on something more than that IMO.\n\nI think to let this fish go - if he changes over time then worry about that then - but for now give him space and move past this
81031
"Let's just be friends" is one phrase that broke many hearts. It's like saying - we had something but now it's gone. Usually this is a one-sided thought, often resulting in big heartbreaks and bad depression. And the person who thinks it's not going to work is probably feeling really awkward and maybe even guilty for what they did. The two ppl try to ignore each other. It's easier for both.