If you are not a married woman, plz do not answer!!!! Ignorance will be ignored.\nShouldn't mistresses be sued for messing around with married men? I think they should be fined and penalized for knowingly wrecking a family. \nWhat is your opinion?
131984
If she knows that he is married, the hell yeah!!! But if she doesn't know and he is lying to her as well, then no.
337149
Yes, and maybe women should dominate the relationships, and go off to work leaving five men at home all day.  Somehow I don't think you would like that idea nearly so much.\n\nAny culture or religion that allows men to be in charge of women, especially in numbers, wants to keep women subservient to men and to keep them shut out of anything they could have any influence on.  They also tend to be much more tolerant of men physically and verbally abusing women.\n\nThe men in these relationships are happy because they are in total control and can have sex whenever they want to because if one woman isn't in the mood, another is bound to be.  The women are only contented because it is the only life they have ever known; it is how they are taught they are supposed to live, and they are never allowed to develop their intellects enough to consider that there might be other options.
279543
Good point, but first of all, we need to deal with adultery separately to murder and molestation.  The latter two are most definitely crimes, and society regards them as seriously now as it ever has done.  However, adultery is not in the same class, indeed, some, including me, would not call it a crime (I am not saying that makes it right or acceptable, just stating a fact).\n\nI note that you call adultery 'theft', but is it?  Theft usually involves the taking of anothers possession without their permission.  However, in adultery, one is not dealing in possessions, but people, and further more, people with free will - ie: one cannot steal another's partner because that partner's agreement is necessary.  It is not like stealing an object which has no say in the matter, adultery is a conscious and willing act on behalf of both parties involved.  Also, have you ever thought that, in some cases, adultery may be what keeps a marriage together?  Consider the younger wife of a much older husband - he has lost interest in the physical side of things and his wife is extremely frustrated.  It starts to cause problems in other aspects of their relationship, as she blames him for her frustration, and he feels guilty about it.  So, she takes a secret lover, her physical needs are satisfied, she no longer holds her husband responsible for her frustrations, and he thinking she is content with the way things are no longer feels guilty.  They still love each other in other ways.  Of course, the danger is in the secret lover becoming more important than the husband.  Just a thought.  \n\nOne also needs to consider motive.  Too complex an area to discuss here I feel.\n\nOverall though I do feel that as far as proper crimes are concerned, in the UK, we are not tough enough on criminals, and for a long time  the human rights of criminals have been considered at the expense of those of their victims.  Only recently have our politicians woken up to this fact, something society has been aware of, and complaining about for years!  How on earth people so out of touch with society can presume to govern us is beyond me!  But that is another topic entirely.
192206
Wow, I had one of these guys too...there are so many around it is unfortunate.  In my humble opinion, real people with issues get screwed because of dead beat dad and lying mothers.  There are so many guys that ditch a girl when she gets pregnant that when the court sees a guy who wants to be involved, they don't really care why. It's financial too..they figure if the guys is sending money, the state won't have to.  And so many women lie to get back at the guy, that we have lost our credibility in the courtroom.  I really feel for your situation.  Here is what I did..I spent years and thousands upon thousands of dollars trying to do the right thing through the court, and constantly getting told that I was wrong, etc...it made me crazy.  So, I just threw the door open to the guy..said lets stop fighting, this is ridiculous, neither of us can afford this, etc.  Said, visit whenever you want...and guess what?  Since the ball was in his court, he barely comes around anymore.  I don't know if you wish your children to have a relationship with their father or not...not that I think you wish them to not have a father, but if he is abusive, etc...I don't know what your situation is there, but this worked for me.  Best of luck to you, and hang in there.
631301
No - adultery may be hurtful and wrong but it's not criminal - the state should not get involved in people's lives on a personal level.
540905
In my opinion, it is the highest form of disrespect a man can show his wife! It also opens the door to him partaking in these kind of activities with other females. I don't see how any man can claim to love his spouse when he is willing to share her in bed with other men! Does that make any sense to you?!  He sounds like an unprincipled man to me.
662522
LUCKY,hmmm.......  pondering  ...huh    yeah..  ok...   what in the hell kinda questions is this.....do you think that we like to act that way or make others around us feel bad.....its not choice...its misery....sorry for your misinformation.....\n\nI know in your manly world that is seems awful and I am sorry but show some love for the women who are in the pain once a month...come on...
270631
It is a violation of the UCMJ but it is one of the least enforced offenses because of the burden of proof.  But a Child would be good proof.  I don't know of any one who has been punished for Adultery when it was not part of a larger investigation.
133339
I did not read any of the links, but I would like to know what your point is, really.  I can't believe you think it is a good thing -- or a trivial thing -- to so warp a child's life.  Making it a monetary fine, of whatever amount, is tantamount to making all little children into prostitutes!  And slave prostitutes, at that, since they wouldn't even get the money themselves!!!\n\nThis is really bizarre, and I'm looking forward to your explanation.  I'm not going to follow all those link, and neither is anyone else, I'm guessing.  Or maybe one or two of them, but not all.
253637
Having been on both sides of the "ex" fence, I can say with assurance that some females simply cannot grasp that the man they are with can be with someone after her, and some females simply cannot grasp that the man they are with was with someone before her. (Men do it too, it isn't a gender issue, it is a maturity issue.)I was married to a man who currently has a show on A&E! I have to listen to his "woman" tell lies and take credit for my children, and guess what....I hate it. On the other side, I have an ex-boyfriend whose current whateversheis  feels duty-bound to berate me for my conduct in situations that she was not privy to. All I can say for sure is that ultimately, YOU are responsible for YOUR conduct, and while losing your patience is understandable, it is probably better to always take the high road. Additionally, as an often attacked, but never bested ex, I can say without exception that a soft answer always turns away wrath, and ignoring small children(or adults acting like two-year olds) tends to put a stop to immature behavior. (On the practical side, a good log to document another's constant bad behavior goes a long way in court and should always be used.)
253691
NOW THAT YOU KNOW WHAT WIFE SWAPPING IS, I SUGGEST THAT YOU FIND OUT IF IN FACT THIS IS EVEN LEGAL IN INDIA. LAST I KNEW, MEN DIDN'T EVEN LIKE OTHER MEN TO LOOK AT THEIR WIVES LET ALONE HAVE SEX WITH THEM!
168515
wow... I just can't even imagine the level of stupidity it would take to let a stranger in the house to fondle you.  And what a sicko to think of doing that... yikes... I sometimes think Darwin's theory should be enforced by someone... women like that should not breed.
276921
Most men will deny such behavior, especially when they have no defense. I wouldn't worried about it, but I would keep my eyes open. Married men flirting, especially in the work place where both of you work is disrespectful to you as a wife and the marriage.
606138
I think that is great advice to follow.  It leaves any question out.  No one could accuse them of any wrong doing.  If these young men are having problems being faithful, I would get them in church and tell them to confide in their wives.  That would get it off of their chest and hold them accountable for any actions they may take in the future.  Wives have a way of straightening out their husbands if they know what is going on in their head.
612362
Wow Robert, that's a deep question.  While I'm not exactly sure where your position is in this question... are you the one abusing or watching someone be abused?  It appears that you are the one abusing, so I will go with that.  I have been an abused woman, mentally, physically, monetarily and sexually.  I didn't like it one bit.  It is a demeaning and horrible thing to do to another person.  After the initial shock of it all, one begins to think they deserve it until it becomes a way of life.  Thankfully, I woke up before he killed me.  \nThere are people who are submissive totally by nature who are into BDSM and to them, they need a dominant figure in their lives.  Someone to guide them and discipline them and to them this is love.  To their Masters or Owners, who crave this, between both of them, it is the most generous gift one can give to the other.  I will not disagree with these people because they are the only ones that know what they "need" to exist and feel at peace within themselves.  \nIf I understand your question correctly and you are wanting to change the fact that you abuse women and then loose the relationship, I would suggest finding a support group of some kind to help you with it.  If you find it is something you truly need in your life, then perhaps you may want to do some research on the BDSM lifestyle and learn what it is about.  My best friend is a Dom and explained it to me in a way that I truly understand what he means when he says he does not "abuse" his submissive.  While it's not something I would be interested in, I feel it gives him and his partner an opportunity for them both to get what they crave.  I will add here that that lifestyle requires a certain mind set and a complete understanding of it.
554807
Are you partly doing this because your partner is impotent and you need to get laid? I don't mean to sound rude with that question, I'm just wondering why you mentioned that as part of your reasoning for doing so. Well, how does your partner feel about the whole situation? There are risks with this job of course. When you're out there for any man with money to have there way with you, you're more than likely to run into men who are low lives, with no respect towards women, and may be violent toward you. Not saying all men who pay for services are necessarily low lives, but there will be those in the group. Be sure to ALWAYS use protection, and remember there are some things that can't be stopped with protection, most likely something caught while kissing... Well, there are many risks when dealing with such a lifestyle, but if that's the life you want to live, then I beleive you should have the right to take risks. But remember, you do have a daughter, and I hope your husband is ok with it later on, after the fact. It's easy to be ok with something, until it actually happens. I asked about your husbands impotence because I know there are escort services out there that don't require giving it up... But I'm thinking that's what you want to do.
640937
being a married police officer i would have to say no we don't. i know i put my wife thru hell from time to time. it has alot to do with the crap we deal with from day to day. when i copme home from work i find myself snapping over stupid stuff. then again i do work with some great people who make great husbands and wifes.