Men of a rare breed, like me, who care and respect girls, only seem to get girls who want just friends, but we need relationships too and sometimes we dont like to be just friends, why cant you just see us as guys who would actually make you happy instead of you dating those jacks and then coming to us to cry. It takes everything for us not to say "I TOLD YOU SO" or "YOU SHOULDNT GONE OUT WITH ME I WOULDNT MAKE YOU CRY LIKE THAT"
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I kinda know how you feel.  I have a guy friend who feels the same as you and he talks to me about it sometimes.  Yeah it is kinda true.  I'll be honest with you and I don't mean to be rude or offend you but I've noticed that a lot of physically attractive men turn out to be @$$holes but on the other hand, the sweetest guys usually aren't the best looking.  So, like most women (and men) will go for someone who looks hot but in the end, they get hurt.  They want a shoulder to cry on and knowing how caring you are, they'll go to you.  I used to go after the good looking ones but I kinda gave up on that after I realized they all turned out to be @$$holes or perverts.  I mean, I still won't date a guy who is ugly lol but they still have to look at least decent.  I have found that these kinda guys actually respect women more and are very sweet.  So, with that being said, sorry to be blunt but you may need to change your looks and the way you dress.  I know it sucks but its true that people tend to be attracted to someone by looks and believe it or not but it does affect they're decision if they'd date you or not.  Also, I'm sure you'll find a good girl.  Hey, there's 3 women to every man on this planet...that's plenty enough for everyone.  Maybe you should stop looking.  I think they tend to come around when you least expect it and aren't looking.
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I know what you mean, some girls I know are like that, but it is a load of bollocks, to be honest most of them have probably been hurt and are trying to avoid it so look for the superficial things that "have a guarantee". However most level headed girls I know do not want that as they can provide for themselves. It is about self respect if you ask me, y would i chose to be in a relationship chose to have the piss taken put of me?? y would i need someone Else's money when I can more than provide for myself?? however neither do i want a guy whom I have to provide for either, if he is able to work then he should do so, just like i do. If someone gave me a guarantee that a certain guy was going to be faithful, respectful and was a good person, but he wasn't rich, then I would snap up that guy without a doubt over a arrogant fool that earns so much he is probably so up his own arse that it moves when he talks and is probably so consumed in his own world that i probably won't see him anyway. Do get me wrong he needs to be career driven and ambitious but not to the point or cost of the quality of life. It is often the small things that people do not appreciate in life, trust me that timed phone call at the end of a bad day just to say "how are you?" is what it is all bout.
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This mean to be gentlemen and kindness with them... If I had someone on my side... I will do anything.. even it seems false.. the girls are more stronger than us... guys have the body and the girls that mind... A girls is the most beatiful thing that is created in the world.... Life is like this...
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No.  Girls are capable of having male friends without expecting to fall in love in the future.  At first a girl might want to be friends with a male to explore the possibility of a future relationship, but you can tell right away her intentions.  If she's overly friendly (flirtatious) then she's attracted to you.  But if she starts to mention other guys and starts to treat you like "one of the girls" then you hit the friendship wall.  \n\nGuys, on the other hand, will only have friends that are girls with the hope that "someday" they will be in the right place at the right time (when the girl is vulnerable and falls right into his arms). \n\nThere are exceptions to the rule, but for the most part the above is true.\n\nMaybe you can give us more details so that we can better answer this question.  Is there a certain way a friend of yours is acting?
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Being friends w/ someone you really cared about is very hard for guys , I dunno about females. Im talking loved, im not talking a one night stand fling... If these guys are people that were really special at one time , you just have to understand where they are coming from and they need to respect you as well w/ your choices.. Now if they were flings.. lol then you have a real problem
530594
We do it because some of us want to be perfect for the guy... and if you are like me, having been in some pretty bad relationships, some women never feel they are good enough for any man..
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Men & women can be friends. Just be careful not to let it go any further than that. Eg. I am friends with my male colleagues at work, but I make sure I get to know their wifes or GFs as well so they do not get the wrong ideas - aka they need to know I am not a threat. And I never put out wrong signals with colleagues - some may hint at something more but I always made it clear where I stand. If I am not interested, I am not interested period - particularly in married or men who are already with someone else.\nAs to why it does happen? Well, men tend to think of sex most times (read relationship books - it is a primal thing with them). They find opportunities for it to happen and at times end up jeopardising real friendships cos of it. If a guy friend pushes it, I let the friendship go. Maybe that's why folks say plutonic friendships are not workable. But I have good male friends who are absolutely faithful to their spouses so I am glad to know that such men, however rare, still exist. I for one would want my man to be exactly that - faithful to me and only me and I would be the same for him too.
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Maybe he's one of those rare, one in a million guys who actually just want to be friends with a gal.  Just go with out.  You sound quite lucky to me.
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Your hurt is very understandable.You can't allways know what the other person is doing in a relationship and this is where trust comes in.We all want to trust someone and not have to think about what may happen if they do go astray.Not all men are this way.Some of us would love to meet someone that feels the same way and would respect a bond between 2 people.Maybe you are attracting this type of person.Look at where you have met these men and see if there is any connection as to the locations.I'm not suggesting that you hang out in the wrong places but maybe the men you meet are there for the purpose of finding women.Just a thought.
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Most women don't know what they want even at an older age. I think most of us go through a period of yes, we do want the type of guy listed above, cute, smart, funny, respectful, but when we get that there just not bad enough. Don't have enough edge, they seem sissy to us. As women mature and grow older then we realize that those bad boys are just well, bad boys and we actually want a commitment from a guy not some loser w/o a job or ambition for anything.   While it's hard on guys, you just have to be patient there's  girl out there that's wanting a nice guy and can't find them and get's stuck w/ losers...hell, i always did. I think sometimes it maybe not so much a sense of false hope just maybe afraid of oh, my gosh what are my friends going to think b/c he's just so nice and this might make them think he's too sissy. I wish you luck in you search. God bless.
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You can have a friendship between a male and a female without it turning romantic.\nI have a lot more male friends than female ones. It just turned out that way because I grew up with 5 brothers and their friends. I feel more comfortable around guys than girls because there were no snide or catty remarks.
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because its a mans first insticnt to do whatever it takes to get out of trouble. Most guys lie about it because they don't like getting in fights with their girlfriends and they don't like to see them cry. Also a lot of men are shallow, and if for some reason you "aren't giving him what he 'needs' then they feel bad about window shopping for another girlfriend. I know, its happened to me a few times. Men are stupid sometimes.
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Most girls just want to feel protected by a guy and it is hard to imagine a guy smaller than us protecting us from anything. That's not really a fair question though....Why don't guys admit to only wanting sex from girls?
671145
Guys are built differently than women...when a guy sees that something is wrong their first reaction is to try to "fix" whatever is wrong, when in reality sometimes all we are looking for is understanding or some comforting words. Try not to see it as a fault, it really isnt, us women are just more "emotionally intuned" than most men are.....I asked my father this same question many years ago, and he told me simply that most times guys really don't know what to say...like when we cry and they are just silent...it's because they dont know how to "fix" it...\n\nSo to answer your question, yes i believe it is common, and very normal : )
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FIRST OF ALL....IF YOU GUYS ARE REALLY GOOD FRIENDS YOU WONT PAY ATTENTION TO THEN...AND THOZE STUPID GIRLS...WELL SINCE THEY AINT GOT SHIT TO DO AND OBVIOUSLY THEY ENVY YOU, DONT PAY ATTENTION TO THEM. THEY JUST HATE THE FACT THAT YOU GUYS PROBABLY HAVE A STRONGER FRIENDSHIP THEN THEM THEY ARE JUST TRYING TO SEPARATE YOU ...
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Maybe you ARE to good for them; I know, it doesn't make you feel any better... I've had guys say that too. I remember in my one of my Psych classes that guys fall for a girl right away and then there feelings tend to decline, whereas a it takes a girl a while to fall for guy but it usually steadily increases. Maybe that has something to do with it. I also think if guys want a sexual relationship and don't get what they want, they try to find someone else so they can.
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trust me this can not be a problem...i have guy friends who were scarred to have a girlfriend because they really never had one...when i advised them if they were ready i told them to go out in groups and when your guy friends talk to girls get in the mix and talk to them back...ask for a number....and trust me although you have never been with a girl it is ok...not all girls like it when a guy tries to make it seem like he know it all...as for me good guys are the ones worth being with...take your time and get out there and mingle and dont be scared to just talk...