I have a boyfriend and what happen was i was having suspicion of him cheating so i broke up with him but i found out he wasn't cheating so i got back with him at first it was a little rock but then it got back normal and it a few things i am concern with and i need your help\n1) he calls me at night i know he has to work but i have to go to school and he want me to stay on the phone real late \n2) he acts funny when i ask him do he like me around people\n3) when i ask him do he have another girl he say do you want their to be another girl\n4)he didn't get me nothing for valentines day and when i ask are he going to get me something i hear a different story all the tim\nhe say im thinking too much about but i don't think im thinking enough \n what to do help me please
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Girl there are so many questions and ifs and buts to this relationship that it amazes me you two are still together.  Regardless, this relationship just doesn't sound good and you really deserve to be in one that is better than this.  Let it go and move on with your life so you can be really happy.
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WOW... you are a PIG!!!!!!!  I think that when you started thinking of doing something with this other girl you should have broken it off with you girlfriend..\n\nSome advice from you..  I was in a relaitonship for 6 years.. we were highschool sweethearts... he cheated on me and then told me that he jsut wasn't sure what he  wanted.. he hadn't experienced anything other than me so that is why it happened.. he said he loved me but didn't know if he was in love with me so he wanted some time apart to think... well that time apart turned into a few months and then you know what happened.. the jerk realized what he had and came back but it was too late.  \n\nso sometimes when you are in a relationship for so long you tend to overlook a lot things, you tend to take things for granted.. you tend to think do I really want this what if there is something else out there.. and then you follow your doubts and find out everything you wanted you had but its too late... don't let it be too late for you.. figure out what you want.. and you need to talk to your girl you can't hide that! Also I hope you used protection if not you also need to tell your girl and you both should get checked there are a lot of diseases out there!\n\nHope this helped.. \nanything else just email me!
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Well, I'm sorry, but it really doesn't sound like this boy has his loyalty values placed in the right spot in his mind. He toyed with this girl, let her toy with him in return, and kept secrets from you. That is definitely betrayel, and you have every right to be bothered and upset. Could you give him a second chance? Of course. Especially because he seems to be respecting your wishes now and not talking to her anymore. If he didn't care about what you wanted, he probably could have broken up with you and gone on seeing this girl. The decision really is up to you, though. If you feel like you can forgive him for this and give him another shot and staying with you (assuming that he has learned his lesson), then by all means go for it. But if you are still really bothered by this and think that it could definitely happen again, and he still has strong feelings for this girl, then maybe you should consider moving on. It would be very hard because you love him...but if he is not going to be loyal to you, your relationship would never last. And love is not very useful in a non-existent relationship.\n\nThink it over carefully. Talk with your boyfriend about what you are feeling, and see what he has to say about it. If he cares for you, there is bound to be something that he can do to make you feel better. Base your judgements off of a sound conclusion that you are certain of, and remember to do what you believe is right, and what will be best for both you and him. Sometimes decisions like this are all a matter of the heart, especially when dealing with forgiveness. I wish you luck!
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the first thing you need in a relationship is honesty and the ability to trust, and it looks like your boyfriend has broken these, explain to him that you need to trust him and that he must be honest in future or your relationship cannot proceed any further. good luk hun
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Call him on it.  It sounds like neither of you trust each other, so if you get down to the root of the problem, hopefully you can overcome it.  Have you done anything for him to feel betrayed?  It sounds like he's reading them.  Just call him on it and have a conversation about it.
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It sounds to me that either he really just doesn't give a fig about your relationship, or he really does but he doesn't want to show that he's bothered by what your friend said to him.\n\nSometimes guys SAY that they don't care just because they don't want to talk about a potentially tough subject for them. At the same time, he's being insensitive to your feelings.\n\nMy advice: Firstly, do YOU even want to go out with him, or do you just have a boyfriend so that you can say that you have one? Do you actually LIKE this guy or not? If you have feelings for him, and want to try and salvage this relationship, corner him and tell him, "Look, everytime I try and talk about stuff, you just shut me out. That really bothers me. It makes me think that you don't care about me. I don't want to break up with you, but unless you actually show me that you care about me and want to be my boyfriend, I'm going to have to break this up. I need a boyfriend that actually wants to be with me and will treat me nicely."\n\nThere, end of story.
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You need to take things slowly. Trust is sure a serious issue for everybody who's been betrayed before. But the thing is, you don't wanna be like that forever. You need to open up slowly. Then if you're dating somebody, you need to talk to him about your trust issues, maybe he can help you deal with them. But ultimately, you have to deal with it alone. You have to see things differently. It's a start, right? Instead of thinking that he's going to betray you or take advantage of you, look at it this way. He trusts you enough to let you see a side of him, isn't it only fair that you trust him too to let him see that side of you? I mean, am I making sense here? It's like doing yourself a favor. Stop thinking about the worst things that could happen. Start thinking of the good things that will happen. I'd say its a good first step. Life is all about taking risks after all.
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would you believ the same thing has just happend to me. bout 4 months ago i ran into this guy i went to school with and we started chatting and i got his number. later in the week i got a msg from him and we were talking about school and how we were friends and how i used to really like him. he then replied that he liked me and wish he had relised what he had missed out on in school and he should have hooked up with me.\nwe continued to msg each other and after a week he said that he still had feelings for me. the only problem with the whole situation is i met another guy and now im engaged, i got so confused on what to do but he still says now that he really likes me and i should leave the other guy. of course im not.\nAnyway the point to all this is yes there is a chance for you both as long as neither of you are in a relationship. a way to find out is by saying that you used to like him and find out where you stand with him. invite him out for dinner or a movie or something and try and spend time with him. you will soon know if he likes you or not.\nGood luck and hope this helps
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Okay first of all since the break up nothing has changed so I'm assuming that you all are still intimate with one another and you're still arguing like lovers do.  The only thing that's bothering you right now is that you don't have that "TITLE" anymore as lovers which means that he can do what he wants and so can you.  So basically this dude is getting his cake and eating it too served on a silver platter with a platinum fork.  Do not allow him to question your where abouts every time especially if he's doing it in a "boyfriend" way.  I mean at this point he's looking at the situation and saying to himself " Why get back together when breaking up with her is just the same plus I get to mess around and not be faulted for it" Does it makes sense to you now!!! Lay down some rules and set boundaries within your relationship as friends and I guarantee you he'll miss that feeling as being your boyfriend and coming running back, it never fells.
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TRY ASKING HIM...BABY YESTERDAY I WANTED TO GO TO YOUR WORK TO SURPRISE YOU AND I DIDN'T FIND YOU THERE? I KNOW YOU FOUND OUT LAST MINUTE THAT YOU WEREN'T GOING TO WORK BUT I FELT CONFUSED BECAUSE YOU DIDN'T AT LEAST CALL ME TO LET ME KNOW. I JUST REALLY MISS YOU BECAUSE WE HAVEN'T SEEN EACH OTHER IN A WEEK I HAVE TO AT LEAST KNOW YOU ARE OK BECAUSE I GET WORRIED THAT YOU WORK TWO JOBS. LET HIM KNOW MAYBE HE WAS A LITTLE TIRED FROM THE TWO JOBS AND TOOK ADVANTAGE OF THE TIME TO REST. BUT TELL HIM COMMUNICATION IS SUPER IMPORTANT IN A RELATIONSHIP
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he is just afraid tht yooh will cheat and mabie he has been in a past relationship tht didnt work and she might hav cheated on him so he probably doesnt want it to happen again and he is just afraid it will or mabie he is just scared to loose yooh and just really cares wht yooh do and wht could happen if he doesnt check on yooh every once in a while
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dont go back out with jake.. he broke up with you once and if he knows he can get you back with a little flirting anytime another girl comes around dont think he wont do it again .... dont have liz talk to josh, he wont think your confident enough to go up to him youself, ive tried this before it never works ... go to him yourself and tell him how you feel guys like when you make the first move just dont be too needy just kinda tell him u like him without making a big thing about it and scaring him away dont pressure him into a relationship just kinda ease into it, tell him u wana hang out more and get to know him more ... ive been in kinda similar situations so i know how hard it can be
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Hello:\n\nOne of the hardest things I have ever had to realize is that loving someone isn't enough to make a relationship work. \n\nI was in a long term relationship with a guy, whom I was in love with. The only problem was that he was insanely jealous, and I am a little too trusting. He would assume I was cheating on him, if I had a conversation with a guy friend (a guy friend that I had been friends with long before I met my boyfriend). And if I saw him chatting with a random girl I would just assume they were chatting, and nothing more. I should also say that I have never cheated on a boyfriend, much less cheated on this guy. \n\nEventually he started to push the limits more and more when it came to making me jealous, so much so that he started making out with a girl at a party we had gone to together. Even though afterwards he told me that it didn't mean anything, but that he wanted me to feel jealous, it was too hurt to try to make the relationship work. \n\nWe had a long talk and learned that we had spent so much time trying to hurt each other, that we didn't have anytime to enjoy each other. Obviously our relationship was disfunctional, and I'm happy to say we are both in relationship and are successful and we are still friends with one another.\n\nThe relationship I have now is fantastic. But we still do have problems. The best thing I have done in this relationship is that we face issues head on. But we both know how we each deal with stress. When I am stressed I like to be left alone, where as he likes to be distracted and just take a break from it all. We are able to recognize when we are stressed, and how we can help the other one deal with the problem. \n\nI would suggest that you wait it out. You've been in a relationship that has been successful for so long. Wait until he has started school and starts feeling comfortable there. But be supportive and if he doesn't want to talk to you about his feelings - just let him know that you are there for him if he ever needs to talk or a distraction. \n\nI hope this helps and good luck!
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say NO. Once a cheat, ALWAYS a cheat. If he cheated then, how do you know he wont cheat now? If he lied then, how do you know he wont lie now? If you DO go back out with him you'll have to walk on eggshells the whole time because you'll be wondering in the back of your head "was he really where he told me he was, with the people he told me he was with, or was he somewhere else with somewhere else" Which saying those thigns to him or asking him alot will just lead to fights. A relationship is nothing without trust and it takes a long time to re-build trust after someone cheated/lied to you. Find someone out there who WONT do that to you, this guy sounds like a loser, and there are millions of guys out there that arent losers, so go find one! good luck!
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Ok this is from personal experience I had with a girl. The thing I'm gonna put my money on is that he's trying to make you jelous because he believes he's run outta options. I hate to be blunt but if your considered a really attractive girl in your school it doesn't matter how goodlooking he is but he may be scared of you, espically of approaching you directly. You also have to think of the way you treated him, you cheated on him, and also you pushed him away when he wanted to talk to him...well now its time to put youself to the test.\nI'm not sure of your age so i'm not sure if you can drive or not, but since your able to still monitor him IE knowing how he acts arond other girls I'm 100% sure he knows this information about his flirting and girl handeling is getting back to you. So you need to choose a night, time, and place and track him down randomly. Talk to him about it, I know the girl I went through with this I did the exact same thing and it would have ment the world to me if she had just tracked me down and come to me to talk about it. You've got to put yourself in his shoes and realize just how much you hurt him, its also possible he wants you to hurt some too since you seem to have been completly unaffected (from his point of view) from the break up. Once you've sat down for awhile and thought this over and you actually understand his pain and the hell you put him through (I know i'm being harsh but it'll help you in the long run) only then will you be ready to talk to him about it and salvage something.\n\nAnd if your not trying to salvage something or you know you'd never be able to handle a serious realtionship with him without cheating its best to just leave this be and go through the pain of losing someone.\n\nHowever from what you've told me about him and how i'm guessing how you feel I think its for the best that you two try and salvage a relationship. At the very least try and follow my advice about trying to put yourself in his shoes and feeling his pain, it'll give you a better perspective on things. \n\nGood luck to the both of you!\n\nFeel free to e-mail me if you need more help
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I think both of you need a serious talk. If he says his feelings decreased but he says he made a huge mistake you need to ask how he feels now. Cause if he doesn't want to be with you in that way, you're only torturing yourself by hanging out with him and talking to him on the phone. If he feels that he wants to get back together then he should tell you when both of you have your serious talk. If he says he needs to think about it and you want to wait then don't pressure him. Show interest but not insecurity. I know it would be hard to stop talking to someone that you love if it wont work out. But sometimes you need your heart to hurt a little bit so it would heal. Just keep yourself busy. If it's meant to be then it will happen. There's plenty other relationship experience's that you will go through and not all of them will work even though your certain they're the one. And yes, I'm telling you this from personal experience. Good luck...
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Has he always been this way or has it just been recently?  Has anything happened between the two of you, as far as cheating, that would make him feel like he had to be so inquisitive?\n\nI just don't see how you can be together without trust; that is the number one thing in a relationship.  This situation will not get better if you just ignore it.  Do you really want to have to worry the rest of your life about what he is going to say when you come home an hour late or if some other male calls you, no matter who it is!  \n\nIf it were me, I would get it out in the open with him and really discuss how you are feeling.  Maybe even suggest you two going to a counselor.  You should be able to tell from his responses if he is willing to work on things and change to better your relationship.\n\nGood luck!