I know im young, and i know i want to have sex, i know who i would have it with, and i know i love that person, buy my mom wouldnt be very happy if i did. what should i do?
133255
Your a guy, she'll actually probably be proud of you. But what mom don't know wont hurt, right?
330626
First of all, you are normal for not having sex at your age. And I want to tell you, Just because your friends are doing it does not mean that you should do it too. I want to commend you for having a great head on your shoulders. By no means should you have sex because "its the cool thing to do" Ask these same girls in a couple of years and I bet that they will tell you that they wish that they had waited.\n You are not ready for sex by any means, and I will tell you why. First of all if you were ready, you would not ask this question. I also think that you are young, but I am aware that most sex does take place at a young age...I am 10years older than you. My first time was after highschool at 19 years old. And you will ask me..Do you wish you had waited? Yes I do wish that I waited. The guy I did it with was a horrible person.\n  Your best friends are highly insecure. They are teasing you because they are jealous. They are jealous because they wish they would have waited. And you will regret it if you have sex because your girlfriends pressured you. My personal feelings is that if these girls were really your friends, they would not tease you like that.\n  When you decide to have sex, there really should not be pressure. Not to sound like an old fart or old school, but sex is loads better when its with someone you LOVE completely and Trust!! You do not love and trust your boyfriend at all. And trust me, having sex because you think your fat and ugly will not make things better for you. In fact if you have sex because of that, it will get worse. It will add up a hefty number of sexual partners, believe me.\n  At your age, you should be starting your life and not worrying about when you are going to have sex. Believe me, the time will come for that, and if you only knew how true that statement is you would understand. I had "friends" once that teased me because I would not have sex with this guy...and this was right after highschool. They were not my friends at all. \n  Sex can be overrated. You will not like your first time, I won't lie to you. So you might as well wait until its someone you love and care about. Trust takes time. I bet you are a beautiful snazzy gal and I doubt very much that you are fat and ugly. You are soo young, and its unfortunate you are feeling this way about yourself. Please don't have sex because your friends are doing it.\nIts not worth the aggravation.\nYou seem like you have a terrific head on your shoulders. Please be concerned about the diseases because they are out there. And if you want a guy to be tested before you sleep with him they should respect that. If not, that is when it is time to say goodbye.\n\nGood luck sweetie, and follow your heart.
99992
listen , its normal to feel this way at our age, i am 20 , i am a virgin but i know i wanna wait for the right person, sex just for the heck of it is not satisfying abd sometimes bad, very bad, u might feel sorry u did it just out of lust, so fall in love and then have sex, it will b great i am sure, dont have any experience but i know it is only great with the right person. I am sure u wont want to spoil ur FIRST time, its always special,wait for the rt person.
225519
You sound somewhat like me a year ago. I don't have Christian values, but I valued myself enough that I didn't take sex lightly. I waited until I was 21 and would have waited longer if I had not found the perfect guy that I know I want to be with forever. Stick to what you believe and don't let anyone tell you otherwise. There is NOTHING wrong with being a virgin and waiting until you're ready to have sex. Worry about school, that's the most important part, not what your friends think.
17409
No it is not too young. I see you do not PLAN to have sex, but things DO happen. Just remember that after you turn 18 YOU are of legal adult age. She is not. If for any reason something goes wrong with the relationship, IF she wants to cause yu a problem she can cause you a world of trouble. Take all that into consideration before you make any moves. Good Luck.
512216
i've had sex before and yes it does feel good but i warn you, wait! it's not a good idea right now while you're not married, you'll be giving yourself away to someone you don't know is your going to be husband. I'm not very proud of what i do but sometimes you get stuck in a rut that you can't get out of. if you like it too much you'll get stuck and then you'll have a greater chance of getting STD's. Even though i don't know you i beg of you as a friend, don't do it yet! you will regret it so much after you do. You will be sore, and yes you will bleed because you're a virign and you're not used to having something up your vagina. Let me ask a question.. are you ready to be a parent? think on that. but wait! don't do it!
375030
mom i'd like to f*** basically a mother some guy thinks is hot and wants to have sex with....
90696
Let me tell you this, I'm am not your mother. But, if there is a reason she doesn't trust your boyfriend then there's something about him she doesn't like. When you are in love you are blind to everything. Don't have sex with that boy just because he wants you. My mother was 16 when she lost her virginity, to a guy she was in love with and had dated for a few years. No, you don't have to wait to sex untill you are married. I think of it like this, I wish I would have saved my virginity till I married my husband, but being so young when I got married (18 years old) I'm kinda glad I didn't because some of my friends that got married to their high school boyfriend (whom they lost their virvinty to) have wound up cheating on their husband because they only been with one guy and they wanted to know what it was like to be with other people. So, not to step over what your mother has taught you, but in some cases maybe it's best to at least try it once before you get married. I did and I know what it's like to be other guys besides my husband, and my husband knows what it is like to be with other girls besides me, so we aren't worried about cheating on each other. Wev'e been there done that and now, we are happy with each other.
508919
OK i'm not going to push my values on you. But it's really up to you. When you get married and start having sex with your wife, do you want her to lean over in the morning and say "Oh baby, you're on my top 20 lovers list!"or would you rather know that you are the only one she has ever been with and ever really will be with?Also, if you have sex now while you're young and you think that the person you are with will love forever, guess again. If she can't wait for you, chances are, she's done it to other guys just like you. And if you have sex, it usually means you care very deeply for the person you are with. However, if you marry someone who has had sex before, that means that they have "deeply" loved others before you and left them. Which strengthens your chances of her leaving you. It's just all around beetter to wait until you're married, because that way, it's like your spouse is the only person you ever really loved enough to surrender yourself to, and it will give you a longer lasting relationship. And you will have a much happier marriage and life.\n\nMatthew, I know that there are going to be many mixed answers here, but just listen to me on this one. You can always lose your virginity, but you can never get it back once you've lost it. If you feel like an outcast because you aren't an anybody's man, you shouldn't. You should feel dignified that you are too good to settle for someone who only cares about your body; but that you are waiting for someone who cares about who will not be able to have sex when he's old. They will love for your entire life, and not just until they've had their share of orgasms.
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It would have helped if you would have stated your age and his....but any older younger relationship in the teen years is bad news....sorry.  \n\nThey are your parents they have your best interest at heart.  They don't want you pregnant (surely not in the best interest of you or the baby), the don't want you pressured for sex by an older guy (who has more than likely been sexually active and more than likely wants sex from you), they don't want you getting std's.\n\nYou may not be silly, you may not be naive, but dating an older guy is never a good idea.  If he is out of high school, you just aren't in the same place in life.  If you are in 9th grade and he is in 12th....he is probably just after sex. \n\nTwo people have to be in the same place in life for a relationship to work.  My hubby is older than me, but we were older when we met and married, both done with college, both in good jobs, both living life on our own....we were in the same place.  \n\nSorry you had to change your plans, but you live in their house, it is their rules.
664364
No I would not...I was brought up with strong family values and morals. I like to get to know someone before getting intimate with them. Believe it or not I usually wait for about the 3rd month before I even think of getting intimate with them.
587643
Do Sex  eh .. Ok i will go for it, hhhmmmm , Well if you have to ask , then you never was with a real man!, and by reading this question and the way its typed,,,,i would say.... YOU ARE TO YOUNG FOR   DO SEX!
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i am sure that your love for her is 'REAL', although if you are indeed a 'BabyBoi'...wait a while before getting married.\n\nhow long have you been with her? how well do you know her? how many females have you been with?  how many dudes has she been with?  i know that sounds kinda bad to ask about sex partners, but i guarantee you that it is hard to keep the flame lit after 20 years of marriage. \n\nyour and/or her feelings can change in 5 or 10 years. if you love her enough, wait until the time is right and the two of you are TRULY ready, not THINK you are ready.\n\ni'm not trying to be your mom or anything, i just have experienced it...trust that i know what i'm talking about.  if you don't think i do, and you are just rolling your eyes at me...just ask...
320579
I don't know how old you are, but obviously pretty young. \nI'll tell you that you should respect what her parents say. This gets you in good with them. They maybe worried that you are trying to give her stuff to feel obligated to do sexual things with her. In which case, that's too serious for your age and mom and dad know that. Okay, so your intentions were good, and not trying to buy sex, but trying to show her how much she means to you. Girls don't know this. They are too young to understand any of that. She confided in you about her deep feelings, feel honored, most girls don't feel that comfortable around any guy. If you want to tell her that you miss the times you had with her, that is okay, that lets her know that you really care about her still, but you understand that you both aren't ready for something that serious. She will then always remember that you are a wonderful boy, and her parents will always remember you were respectful. Wait until she and you are old enough to date seriously, who knows what the future holds. Remember to get good grades and go to college so you can get a good job; no girl (or woman) likes a stupid, broke man. Keep being you.
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I was just having this conversation with God yesterday with the same question?  I didn't know it was for you.\nThere is only one reasonyou are feeling this way.  Everything, believe it or not, was created for a purpose-- even you. \n          " For I know the plans I have for you, " declares the Lord, plans to prosper you, not harm you.  To give you a hope and future."  Jeremiah 29:11\n Sex was for made for the coming together of a man and a woman but not outside of the marriage guidelines.  Sex is a beautiful thing and even more beautiful when it is with someone who loves you despite your bad breath, messy hair.  It is even more beautiful when that person is someone God has especially chosen for you and has strengths that you do not have and sees that a relationship with God is first priority and being everything that God has created him for as being part of that (loving husband, good provider, great father).  This person does exist.  Now that i know the truth of the matter in those people who might seem like they are happy are not happy they just have not been told by someone how special they are and that they are loved and accepted no matter their flaws.  So they go with what everyone else or so they think, does.  Sweetie,  you are special and there is no reason for you to sell yourself cheap.  You have been bought for a high price already and no one can pay as much as He can for your life.  I wasn't a virgin when I got married,  but everyday I wish that i could have waited.  God didn't set up laws to punish us, but to protect us( needless hurt, pain,  wasted time, disease and baby mama/daddy drama).  There is no such thing as separating love and sex unless you have a heard heart or no heart at all.  Don't try to fit into the world's standards-follow God's and he'll send you your true mate.     \nJesus loves you.( now smile)
225815
I just believe that people will do what feels best for them.  All I know is that I wouldn't buy a car without test driving it first...why would I want to marry someone who I might be totally incompatibale with sexually?
42920
I have no idea how old you are or anything??? But make sure you are emotionally, physically and financially stable for something like that...think before you act...