well last month we had a good conversation i just want to know the reason why i have this feeling that hes hiding something for not taliking to me. I try many time but everytime i call the one who will answer keep on saying he is out, he's at work, my i just want to know what happened if he dont love me anymore then say it direct to me and dont hide from me.I work here in the Philippines and he is working in Virginia USA i dont have any recourse on how can i talk to him maybe someone who will read this may help me and in any other way he can talk to that guy. I can't work as good as i have worked before, i am totally helpless he hang me somewhere and any time am about to fall. wierd why am i let the whole world know this. because until now i love that guy.
129061
Try calling him and asking him what's up with the two of you. If he continues to ignore you, just break up with him and move on. He can't be so busy that he can't even talk to you for a month.\n\nIf he really loved you, he'd make some time for you.
97175
If it happened very soon after you lost your job and you are really sure you wasn't moody or depressed then it might have something to do with the financial situation.\n\nPossible reasons\nHe has someone else\nYour mood swings due to your job\nFinancial\nSome combination of the above\n\nWhy he won't tell you... maybe he is embarrassed to admit the reason.\n\nIf everytime you meet you act pleased to see him and behave like everything is normal then he will enjoy this and make the most of it.... he is basically getting a girlfriend on his terms and is controlling you.\n\nTry acting more distant or even avoiding him from time to time.... this will either have the effect of making him realise what he is missing or will prove to you if he is not bothered that he really does not care.\n\nGood luck... and remember there are much nicer people out here :)
91843
Your first problem is that you work with him. Relationships at work never work out for the best. You would have to keep it on a professional level at work. Then if you guys broke up you would have to see that person everyday. Maybe he likes you but doesn't want to take the chance of going through all of this. Think this one through more and decide if it's really a good idea.
283810
Damn, I wish I had his problems, I am a man and I am going through the exact same thing. It's hard when you want to be with a person and you feel they do not want you. I have tried going on trips just the two of you. If nothing else works ask flat out what is up? This was a good month for me, I got it more than once a week, I still had to beg a few times but at least I got it. I know for a fact it is going to be different this month, I will be begging more but I love her.
31070
If your HR manager realizes his strange behavior, you should feel comfortable enough to talk to him and find out what the problem is. Are you doing something wrong or is he just mad crushing on you!! Either way a second party has confirmed a noticable weird behavior by him so you do have some back up if thinigs don't go as planed.
367665
Grab your new freedom with both hands. Wrap your arms around your happiness. Do not look back at yesterdays bad news. Consider yourself free of the promise as he broke it first by not moving to call or make any contact with you. As for his not working you just lost 200 lbs. of dead weight. What a great diet plan. Explore your own personality find out who you are and what is important to you. Maybe you were just in luv with the idea of him, not the real him.
145583
Why don't you have your friends come over to explain what happened?  If he means anything to you and you want to stay, you will try anything to keep him.  Good luck!
120550
All the speculation in the world isn't likely to help you any. Sit down with him and try to get some honest dialog going, or at the very least evaluate if he's willing to talk openly with you or not. Everyone gets preoccupied at some time or another, but candidly address the issue with him, then judge his reaction as only you can. This will tell you in no uncertain terms whether it's worth trying to get it back or not. You can't be in a relationship by yourself. Trust yourself to see what's true. Good luck.
652655
Quit being depressed. This much you can control. Never put your life on hold for a man, unless your engaged or married to him. Always make sure you have a safety net. As far as what he thinks and who he is, it is hard to know what's going thru that head of his. I don't even want to guess, because I don't think anything is going to help you until you talk to him. So lets address you. He is far away, you need to get out and have some good clean fun. Call your friends. Go to dinner or a movie, the mall, what eve it takes to get your mind off him for now. If you don't want to call him, then there is nothing to do but wait for him to call you. But don't stop your life. This will also make time go by faste. I hope you the very best from this outcome. Remember, there is only one person in this world you can "really" count on,...and that is you. So don't let yourself down, and keep your heart safe.
401765
There is no easy answer.  I felt like I spent the better half two years basically throwing myself at this guy I use to work with.  I never got any where.  We just remained good friends and now we just seemed to have gone down different paths and never see each other anymore.  Don't take it too hard if this happens.  It just means that you weren't meant to be together and you'll find the right guy down the road.
457048
Guys will not answer this question as honestly as the girls.  Well some might, but they tend to be too brutal.\n\nHe isn't interested anymore.  He's trying to let you down easy, but only because you're a co-worker and he probably doesn't want a scene at work.  Are you sure he isn't married?\n\nThe sad part is that you didn't see it coming.  Forget this jerk.  The only explanation I can give you that doesn't involve him being a total jerk is that perhaps your company has a policy against fraternization and his boss found out and warned him off.\n\nEither way he doesn't want you, accept it and move on.
268867
being at work doesn't mean he's really working on your relationship with you.\n\nIf he doesn't take time for you now, he won't later.  Drop him and let him come to you if that's what he really wants.  It sounds like he's looking for an excuse to leave the relationship.\n\nWhy waste your life while he tries to decide if he wants to spend time with you or not?
10031
Maybe he's going through something that he doesn't want you to know.  If you are truly worried about him you would ask him.  He may say it's nothing, heriditary or something, that means it's none of your business.  If it's something serious the last person you'd want to know is your boss.  So, just let it be, but keep an eye out for him.
667321
The truth will set you free. when you finally get in contact with him you make sure you tell him everything, Like how you didnt appreciate when he wasnt callin you and checking on you or nothing. Its alright to hear his side of the story but you give him a piece of your mind, and make him feel shity. you spending your time waiting on him to call, and he out doing other stuff. let'em know girl
51679
I think thats why he called you a psycho right there... your reading to much into simple words and look how upset you have gotten yourself. A guy dealing with a chic like that...is not at ease, he always has to becarefull what he says to not freak you out. Maybe you have been a little clingy lately or something. Talk to him later on today, if everything seems fine then just blow it off as passing conversation. It sounds to me like he was trying to make light of you missing him, a form of trying to cheer you up, or maybe just trying to get you to talk about something less sad/depressing. No worries though, ask him about it when your feeling more calm.
499634
communication is the key. maybe you should invite him ot your place and let him know how u feel.  if he loves you and if avoiding you is not his intention, he will comfort you and reassure you that that is not the case.  if your feelings of doubt persist after talking to him, listen! it's your female intuition. good luck....
642038
I didn't even finish reading your note, but from experience I would recommend ditching him... you deserve someone who can make up his mind and can love you 100%!! I had a fellow like that and I think he kept me around as security, so he wasn't alone and felt loved... don't be his love of last resort! Be strong and move on...