I know this girl that I am 90% sure likes me. We are good friends, and our families are good friends throughout. She has been giving me some mixed signals lately that she may like me. These signals are pretty obvious, but she has a flirty personality as well.\n\nI am a Christian guy, and I never go out with anybody without God's approval. I want to tell her that I am willing to be her friend with the intentions that if God opens the door we could start dating. How do you tell this to a girl? I really value her as a friend, and I do not want to hurt her or demolish our currently great friendship. What do I say???
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I answered your last question, but now that I know more of how you are with things it helps me to understand it a little more.\n\nI agree that you should pray about it, and give it to God.\n\n  I would talk with her about it and let her know that you have to work on yourself more before you can give yourself to someone else.  Tell her that you do like her, but let her know that right now is not the right time for the two of you to be together and that you would like to stay the amazing friends that you are because she lights up your life when she is in it.\n\nGood luck and God bless.
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Hi there. It's me again (your previous question before this).\n\nAs I have said earlier, you do seem like a really nice guy and to find someone who is as nice as you would be like looking for a needle in a haystack.\n\nThere are too many people in this world who is similar to your friend nowadays. I'd prefer you to be who are now and if there'll ever be a chance for us to meet, I'm sure you and I would be great friends.\n\nDon't ever try to judge your actions with your friend's results. If you're a Christian, you would come to learn that all that you earn here will not be taken to judgement.\n\nYou don't have to prove to others that you're as great as your friend (although, from what you have described him, I think of him as otherwise). Action speaks louder than words (or was it action is louder than words..) but whatever the term is, you have proven yourself better than your friend. You just need the right crowd to hang out with. Try to change your environment. Make new acquaintances who doesn't know you or your "wild" friend. Instead of going to clubs or pubs with him, try hanging out at the park, the beach, etc.\n\nI hope my advise could give you some inspiration.
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the best thing to do is be upfront with her about your feelings. she may just see you as a friend. and she may like you. but you'll never know if you don't ask her. tell her that you like her and ask her if she feels the same way? but i hope that you will not stop being her friend if she doesn't like you back. it's a horrible feeling as a girl to lose a great guy friend just because the romantic feelings are only one way.
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If she is a friend, a good friend, she should understand your motive and respect your honesty.Who know maybe somewhere down the road you two probably can hook up and see if there are any sparks for each other.If she is a friend she should understand.
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just tell her, "My friend thinks your cute and his name is .....whatever. Do you know who he is? (wait for response) Do you think he is cute?" Like that but don't come off as a jerk. Cuz then you messed it all up. But don't come off flirty either cuz then she'll think the "friend" is you.
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GIRL I CAN FEEL YOU ON THIS ONE...LET ME LET YOU IN ON A LITTLE SECRET HE IS UNHAPPY IN HIS LIFE AND  HAS NO LIFE OF HIS ON HIS OWN.. AND SINCE HE IS  NOT H-A-P-P-Y... HE  DO NOT WANT TO SEE Y-O-U.. HAPPY...SO THIS WHAT YOU SHOULD DO ACT LIKE  THIS DOESN'T BOTHER YOU KEEP YOUR CHRIST AND THAT GOOD BOOK  IN YOUR  LIFE AND I PROMIS YOU..HE'LL (GOD) WILL SEND THAT GOD FEARING MAN..LET SAY THIS AGAIN..A GOD FEARING NOT MAN FEARING MAN..,.SMILE BECAUSE BEEN THERE  GOT OVER THAT ........ OYA THAT SO CALL FRIEND THAT STOP TALKING TO YOU CAUSE DUDE SAID SO.. WAS NOT YOUR FRIEND FROM WHAT I'VE READ....TAKE A  STEP BACK A LOOK FOR YOURSELF GIRL..TRUST ME HE (GOD FEARING MAN )IS ON HIS WAY.
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Very very subtley......tell him that you would go out with him if her were interested in going out with you.\nSet parameters also.....hey, if this doesnt work out, lets make sure that we are still friends....you know what I mean.\nJust try to drop a subtle hint at it, and see if anything happens.  Or, just go for it and tell him that you have feelings for him.\nSometimes the BEST relationships are the ones where you start as "friends first"  :)\nGood luck darlin!
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ok one, movies, not a good place. you dont even get to know her that well then. Go to a resturaunt. Much better. NOW, best thing to do is have the guts, because girls really do respect guys that are WILLING and CONFIDENT in their selves. BUT, where there is a will there is a way. Go to one of your buddies, and if he is friends with her have him go up to her and say "hey, i think my friend here likes you, but im not sure, would you want me to hook you up with em?" somthing like that, that way he isnt saying you DO like her. but he isnt asking FOR you. he is just helping HER out kuz he wants to be "matchmaker" ect. so you are excluded from the shame of rejection. but having the guts is recomended. somtimes you just have to take risks for love. good luck dude.
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Oh God, yes, women want straight male friends!! I've got more male friends than female ones - like a family of protective 'brothers' and I don't know what I'd do without them. \n\nIf you want to take a relationship further, though, you could always say, look, I like being your friend, but is there any chance you might come out with me for dineer/coffee/cinema/a drink sometime on our own?  Cos I'm guessing that you usually see females in company at work or socially.  If she's a friend to you already, she won't want to hurt your feelings and hopefully will turn you down gracefully, if that's the way it goes.  Then you haven't lost a friend, you've made her feel flattered (unless you are utterly repulsive - which you're not, are you!), and you never know, she might say to you some day after she's thought about it for a while, is that offer still open?  Then you can take it from there....
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It is a good possibility that she is hinting at you. Maybe you should suggest that even though you agreed to remain friends you should try dating anyway.\n\nSometimes once an idea is in your head it plants the seed. Perhaps that seed is there for her and she just needs your help to germinate it.\n\nTake care,\nTroy
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how long have you known this woman . marry outside of her religion well i am not the kind to stand in the way of love my frien but have you known her for a while or what well that your right i guess let me be the first to say i hope you and this woman will be happy together in my opion it is you as well marry a woman in her religion she cant marry out of her religion i guess well hope all is fine with you in about.2. years from now god bless in my opion i really hope you know what you are doing well anyway i wish you the best you i figure will need it i am not a person to stand in the way of love but that was quick wish you and the woman the best again ?
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You're NOT an idiot at all: your actions have shown both courage and devotion...two components of both true love and friendship. How she eventually responds will depend on your shared "chemistry" and where her life experience falls on the learning curve of love.\n\nI can tell you, however, I've been in her place and understand her perspective. A close friend revealed his feelings for me some months ago, and at first it was hard for me to see him as more than a friend (also, I feared losing his friendship!), but he responded similarly to your actions...proving over time he'd not pressure me, and truly cared for me in whatever capacity we could share our lives. Now, he's MUCH more than a friend AND we've found the strength of our friendship helped us overcome typical romantic spats, etc. The time spent in friendship made the love lasting. \n\nPlease do not feel foolish. You've been honest and patient. (Foolish would be never having the guts to tell her how you feel, or rejecting her when she didn't return your desires immediately.) Continue being yourself, and dedicate yourself to the friendship...give her TIME...possibly she'll see your strength and affection, understand the man you can be in her life, and return your feelings. \n\nEither way, here's a quote I like: \n"You are what you love, not what loves you."
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That's a very hard question and I read it all the way through. I'd appreciate it if you also went and read one that I just posted, which is also long. If you really in fact love her, than I would hold onto that and go back with her. If you're Christian, pray about it. Well, scratch that. Pray about it if you're a Christian but talk to her first. Get to know her and try to express your feelings towards her little at a time. Don't make a large sudden move. I hope things work out, but just take it slow. This is comin from a girl that was in this exact position and is know with the guy that I posted a question about. I love him to death and we're getting along wonderfully. Best of luck. Email me if ya want to w/ nething else: naertgirls@juno.com.
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if you truly like her like you say you do then my best advice is to tell her. i mean look at it this way if she is interested then let her noe tha u r interested this way you both can be together instead of playing around until she gets another man. and yea believe me i have had a guy do tha to me i was interested but he didn't tell me he was interested in me to until i got a man. don't do this to yourself and don't do this to her. if you are defintely and i mean defintely interested then show her or tell her don't play games. and if you are worried about rejections remember wuts the worst tha can happen? don't worry about her stop talking to you remember tha if she showed any interest then she most like you. and don't wait get out there and tell her you are feelin her before its to late.
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That;s a hard blow!The only thing that you can do,is not tell your friend that  you like him.Or if she already knows, i am sure that she won't date him for  your sake.You got to remember, there are billions of guys out there.If they do date, just hang with other friends, and tell her that you just want time with her, the same as before, because you don't feel like being the 3rd wheel.It won't be long till another guy catches your attention, and than you can double date.Its not like you were intimate with this guy, so it will be fine,it will just take time to mend your heart after being rejected.Good luck!
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Adam,Adam,Adam!!! don't you know that actions speak louder than words?! Trust me,if you start acting like a boyfriend she will notice.and she'll probably say something to you,which would give you your golden opportunity to speak your mind.just don't be too overbearing-you don't want to lose your friendship if the boyfriend thing doesn't work out.
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well... id say the best approach if she is a strong christian girl is to go to her and say 'hey, i waz just wanderin... do u like me?' hopefully she'll say yes, then u can ask her number... good luck bro, hope it worx 4 ya :)\n\no and if she does like ya try this to get her number 'id really like to get to kno u better, could i get ur number?'\n\nim sure itll all work out, good luck