The other night I called work to ask a co-worker a question, I called the co-worker "dear" I also call my wifr "dear" my wife got pissed, I dont mean anything when I call other women dear!! Why was she so pissed off?
130700
here's a little secret. if you have a pet name that your wife thinks is special to her, than it makes it very unspecial when you call other people it. sounds silly but women feel insecure very easily. reinforce that you say it to women you respect and feel are equals to you intellectually and as good people, than let her know you didn't realize how it hurt her to feel like her pet name wasn't special only for her. than say your sorry and you love her and respect her feelings and wish her to feel secure with you, so you'll try your best to not do it again. than give her a big hug and kiss and listen to her talk for a while with any concerns and basically repeat what you just said with a few changes so you don't sound like a recording. don't make her feel that her feelings are invalid or stupid or silly, they're her feelings and that's all that matters. respect her for having trust in you to share them with you.
403495
She could of said...pls dont yell at me and can we please go talk privately in your office.....NOBODY deserves to be yelled at . Stupid boss...she is on a ego trip!!
34075
I'll be honest, I have done the same.  I can't help it if my neighbors are loud. If you're yelling and I can hear it, you obviously don't care who hears it.  It can't be all that bad if it made you and your wife want to be nicer to each other.  I mean, at least their fightning did somebody some good.  :)
538562
My wife says the same thing sometimes. How do I handle it? I take her to a nice club and get her a little tipsy then I take  her home and wake the  neighbors. This works everytime. ( Understand what I  mean by waking the neighbors?)
331980
Not at work.  If comments like this are made at work, you have a harrassment situation.  That causes a hostile environment for the women.\n\nThe way you handle this is to politely ask the person to stop making comments like this.  Make sure you write down the time, date, the words you said, and hopefully have a witness.  Do it at least twice.\n\nIf it continues, complain to your supervisor that you are in a hostile environment.  They are required by law to do something about it.
418025
My fiance is not the best listener.  Used to get me pissed because I would be talking about something I thought was important to me (and I don't usually express myself much) and she would respond with a comment about something totally different like she wasn't even listening to what I was saying.  Made me feel dumb to get mad and bring it up because I felt like a whining woman (sorry ladies)\n\nI learned to deal with it and now just realize I have to bring her back to the conversation and make her focus lol  She tries more to listen to what I have to say too.\n\nLove you babe.
53800
Joe, I can relate to your situation. My husband is in work release and right now he is accusing me of the exact same thing. Just when I think that we have gotten past this something else pops up and we start this mess all over again. Are you positive that there is an affair going on? Speak to your wife in a loving tone and really let her know that this is bothering you. Let her also know that you won't stand for any lies. If she is unfaithful then the pressure of you being nice is going to make her feel guilty that she will admit to her wrong. Just so you know, I have never ever cheated on my husband and I wouldn't ever because of the love and the respect that I have for him and myself. Marriage is a give and take and both husbands and wives need to do this more and more. Good luck and may God bless you through this journey.
179131
I have the same kind of neighbor, I just started shutting my doors, windows, and totally ignoring her for about a week, I wasn't rude about it, just acted like I was always busy.  I think she finally got the hint, doesn't do it as much anymore.  Just always act like your getting ready to do something, or how about when your husband comes home, if he has a cell phone, call him and make it ring, so he can walk away and take his call, what else can she do if he's busy as well.
225054
I work in a small office as well sounds to me that she doesn't look at the possitve side of things negativity and whining can spread like wildfire. Just say oh that is too bad and say something cheery. All problems should be unloaded at the front door. Work is work and to perform up to your best ability you have to do that and pick up the problems again at the end of the day. Don't ask how are you just say hi move the convo to t.v or a joke you heard. Isn't a pretty day so forth good luck.
613558
I THINK IT'S BECAUSE YOUR DEALING WITH PETTY WOMEN OR MAYBE NOT A WOMEN AT ALL...SHE HAS A MIND OF GIRL IN WHICH SHE NEEDS TO MATURE. ME MYSELF LIKE TO KEEP THING SIMPLE MEAN WHAT YOU SAY AND SAY WHAT YOU MEAN....IF SOMETHING IS BOTHERING ME I SUPPOSE TO BE ABLE TO TALK TO MY MAN. I WAS RAISED THAT YOU DON'T GO TO SLEEP MAD AT EACH OTHER EITHER. YOU COMMUNICATE AND WORK IT OUT.\nLIFE IS TO SHORT FOR ALL THAT AND I MEAN AFTER A LONG DAY AT WORK WHEN YOU COME HOME THAT'S SUPPOSE TO BE YOUR SANCTUARY LEAVE EVERYTHING AT THE DOOR....WE AS A COUPLE ARE SUPPOSE TO BE  TO SHALL I SAY CATER TO EACH OTHER OR MEND OUR WOES FROM THE WORLD..... NOT FIGHTING AND CARRYING ON. MAKE YOUR MAN WANNA HURRY HOME TO YOU...
420036
I think it is better to realize and get out now, if you get hired at the other job i would not mention my reasons for leaving in specific, this is not professional. And you could/should tell the boss about the rude co-worker after she is not a co-worker anymore. Someone needs to make them aware of her nastiness. God bless and Good luck on your next job, hope you get it.
497826
This happened to me yesterday!  I work for a major airline.  There are 70+ employees in my station.  Guy calls and gets mad at me because I have no clue as to why someone called him the day before...unbelievable!  \n\nI do not call back numbers on caller ID unless it is a call I have been waiting for and know WHO was doing the calling!  I think to call back like what happened to us is very RUDE!!
591698
That's ridiculous.  You should report her to her boss right away.  How absurd!  Sorry that happened to you.
340595
Well, somehow I doube she lost her job over just one complaint unless her boss is a total jerk. Sometimes events like this are just the tipping point. Besides, since when do people get to choose their waiter? Since when does a boss not take their own employee's say into things? I'd keep these questions to myself, but then look a little deeper.
190723
If this person is giving you a hard time dont let it bother you. Go there for you. The woman sounds like she is the one with the problem. All your trying to do is make your confirmation, right?
26370
I have been married for 7 years in april and my husband and I had a similar fight when we had first gotten married, I now do not work but in a new marriage everything is changing so fast and I think that asking her to quit her job is like asking her to give up her ability to support herself and feel confident, it is her way of having something all her own not having to share it. I think if you give her time and come to a compromise she will come to some common ground with you. But I wouldn't push the issue of her quitting all together. I hope that I have helped some .
603109
Are these 'friends' who work with you?  If so, in my experience no matter how close you are and care about each other, you will always first and foremost be work colleagues.  So its natural for them to not want to share information with you, they see you as a threat.  But then its also natural for you to no longer consider them friends.  They're just workmates, I'm sure there are other people in your life who deserve to be called your real friends, so don't let it bother you too much.