I was going out with this boy for a year and a half and i fell in love with him. We are no longer together but we still hang out with each other on the weekends, we go places together and do things together and we talk to each other throughout the week even though we are in other relationships with other people. Its like were together but were not together. we tell each other all the time how much we still love each other and and want to be together but cant because of the relationships we are in. i am now with someone else and i think i might be falling in love with him but im still very much in love with my ex What Should I Do?
135590
It sounds like you really already know in your heart what you want and what you need to do.So,do it.Life is to short to be unhappy.You truly are in love with your ex,so that is where you need to be.I know it would be hard to tell the other person in your life,but it needs to be done,and it can be done in a nice manner.Like you just are not ready for a relationship with him,and you would not be fibbing,because you are not ready when you have such strong feelings for your ex.Also,this isn't fair for them nor for you all,and in the long run,it would be much harder to end as the more time that goes by.I say go and follow your heart.Good Luck to you!
653619
Baby girl, there is nothing for you to do but heal and move on with your life. I know that it is easy to say and so hard to do. But it sounds to me that he is exploring other options or that he wants to and he does not want to keep you holding on. I hurt for you, I have been there before. At least you two can part on good terms if you allow for that to happen, don't push and don't be so available. Maybe this is the best thing for you, this may be a blessing in disguise. I know that it hurts and you are going to cry, you are going to miss him and at times you are going to feel that you cant go on without him. But you will, you can and you have to.  Being in love is a tricky thing, you can love just about anyone but it takes someone extremely special to fall in love with and it is extremely hard to stay in love. Just know that you WILL be OK with or without him.
597076
I'm in the same boat honey. I'm trying to get over this guy who only wants to be my friend now.  And yes I want that, but every time I hang out with him I want to hug and kiss him like I used to, which wasn't too long ago. What my friends tell me, and what I'm now telling you, you need to break away from him for awhile. Try not to call him, as hard as that is, and just give your heart and head a break from him. And maybe in a couple weeks or months, or however long it takes you, you'll be able to hang out with him with no feelings other than friendship aimed at him. Also another good way of getting over him, is trying to date other people, even though they won't be him and you'll be comparing them all to him, it'll be a stepping stone, and eventually you'll meet that guy and not even think about your ex. Hope this makes sense and helps. Good luck.
331763
whats with him and ex's?  Youre an ex he's back with, now you're concerned about another ex.  Alarms went off when I read this. You need to be sure you're who he wants before you get hurt.  Give him a chance to be certain what he wants before you invest your heart into this once failed relationship.
110751
hi! listen dont go making any harsh decisions str8 away!!!!!\nu only fell differently about each other becuase uv both had time to grow and now that u have u want each other back. but you have to think of the baby and whats right for him, im not saying dont pursue the relationship but were u and ur partner gr8 before ur ex came bak in2 the picture??? if so...sleep on it. it may just be a case of the "what if's"...and ur still in lust with him! think about it and try to put some excitement back in to your love life with your b/f...go out on a date with him again.pretend as if ur both new to the relationship..see how u get on on ur date...have wild fantastic sex with him...go the whole nine yards! if u still think about ur ex...think about ur next move to make...to leave ur b/f or stay. it seems silly i know but most of the time its boredom that leads people to have affairs and stray..dont entertain the thought and you might not feel the same about ur ex!!!!~tasha~
62576
Never go for someone who is still holding on to an ex. Now, don't get me wrong...there are times when I still think about my ex's, but it doesn't mean I'm still in love with them, but we did share something that's undeniable. I gave them a piece of my heart, and you can't really take that back. So, if he's still in love, you need to give him time to find closure, but if he just thinks about her once in a blue moon, it's okay to go for it, help him get his mind off of her.
112079
in my opinion i would move on. i know its easier said than done but if your not in love with him anymore dont waste your time anymore. itll probably hurt at first but your heart will heal it sounds like yall are only together because its 3 years into it. get out and mingle you'll be alright! i've been there and staying isn't worth it. give yourself a chance to find someone thats nice to you. good luck!
370337
I am actually having this same problem myself. I love him and I want to be with him, but at the same time I wonder sometimes if he really feels the same way. We basically have 1 of 2 choices..... we can stay and try and talk to them and see if it can work out . or we can just let it go and find someone else. \n\nI choose to stay for a little while longer and try to work on the relationship as long as he is willing to work WITH me to make this work.\nI'm sure you will figure out what is right for you. I wish you luck.
370087
Dont get back with him.  First off if you are young you could possibly fall in love a number of times.  Each relationship your learn from the previous one.  Find someone who will respect you and want a one on one relationship.  The relationship will only work if both people are on the same page.  If he really loved you he wouldnt be hanging out with other girls.  I think he isnt mature enough to handle a relationship with you.  You appear ready to move on and i think he feels threatened by you, because he always had you to fall back on .  THe hurt will got away, unfortunately it just takes time:)
244540
It is natural to have feeling for the EX, just remember, there is a reason he's called EX, and you are the only one that really knows the reason for that, so as you began to get these warm feelings inside for the EX also remember what usually would happen after that warm thought would come remember the reality of why you made him an EX and EX-ommunicate your thoughts for even going in that direction, okay, Sista Girl.  Remember, you want your PRESENT to work out, so please, leave the EX, as an EX. He had your PAST, DON'T let him have your FUTURE.  PEACE.*
5751
I went through the same thing and after I decided to go back with the old fling because I still loved him I remembered why I couldn't stand him.  Funny thing is I realized that the other guy I loved more.  Try to think back why it didn't work out in the first place.  Make a list to yourself about why you love one and the other and you might be surprised by the answer.  It may not be love your felling for both.
120403
Well it sounds like he is still in love with her. I mean if I am seeing you and then tlaking with my ex on a regular basis then something is up. Look I have been in this situtaion before. No matter how much he denys it, the fact is that he can't let go. Let him know that he has a choice between you and that other girl. If he really cares for you then he will move one. Now I just hope that you are not doing the same. I think it is important that you both want the same in thing. And no matter what he tells you it is obvouis that he still loves her. Look the worst thing is to countue talking with someone that you were with and then deny that you have no feelings for her. I think you have a choice and it is up to you if your gonna play second place to that other girl.
217968
If you love the other guy, stay with him! An ex should always be forgotten. But I don't blame you for feeling a little cheated on. You'll get over it if you love the boyfriend you're with at the moment.
532343
Your relationship with your ex is not completely over, you don't have closure OR you were so content in the  relationship you cannot adjust to the change fast enough.\n\nYou have to analyze your feeling honestly and openly and you will get the answer.
426265
Sometimes you have that connection and other times you do not. In my opinion that could be why you and your current husband may be having a bad connection because you are still in love with your ex, even though I do not know more of your situation. Been there done that. The heart wants what it wants and even though you and your ex are still not together the realtionship that you guys had togther will always be in your heart. That is until you decide to give your husband now that part of you heart, which it seems you are not willing to do right now. Hang in there everything happens for a reason. Good Luck.
245566
I have been in the same situation 4 months ago.I went with my ex's friend.Let me tell you that did'nt work out!!!You will always have to see yor ex,and when he moves on to another girl,well that is just unbaerable.Find someone new and exiting.OUT WITH THE OLD AND IN WITH THE NEW!!!
638113
I would see where things lead. And if it end up that you two break up for awhile it will be okay. I am going through a break-up right now. My ex did it because he needed time to himself to figure himself out, that sort of thing. He still loves me.\n\nMove on with your life. Moving on doesn't mean that you don't still love him or that you might not get back together one day, it just means that you're moving on. You can't waste your life waiting on someone who doesn't know what they want.\n\nI wish you the best and remember if you're supposed to be with him you will be.