we fight about him looking at girls so much that we might break up soon.  we are gonna break up cuz he cant control his wandering eyes when hes with me.  it bothers me cuz he looks at anything with a vagina.  and sometimes he sees a girl and keeps sneaking glances at her.  but he said if we break up he deffinitly wont be going after any other girls cuz they are too much trouble (he cant handle being with me cuz i dont like when he looks at females so much).  so hes ruining this relationship which could be so wonderful for looking at females who he doesnt even wana be with??  he knows it hurts me when he looks.. but his immiturity makes him look at girls when we are fighting about it to make me jealous.  hes 22! he shouldnt be  this immature about this. what do i do
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I can tell that this issue is really bothering you and hunny, you are tooooooo young for this. You actually sound mad, it was like you were on the phone with me venting while I was reading.\nWell, I am a strong believer in the word and I have read that where the mind is the body follows. Meaning your boyfriend wants to sleep with other women if he hasn't already done so. When he is looking and admiring all thoose other women he is lusting for them.  He shouldn't disrespect you like that and you need to leave.
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Jealousy is a heck of a demon to fight. Start maybe with trusting yourself and then your man. As trust is one of main cornerstones of a relationship. Sometimes jealousy is warranted, does he flirt alot when you are right there? That can be uncomfortable. Let him know what he is doing, if he does that and how it makes you feel like a piece of garbage, that he pays attention to another when you are right there. Then again some guys are born flirters and heck they don't even know they are doing it until they get in over their heads and someone takes them seriously.. Your self confidence, is by far the most important thing and has nothing to do with jealousy. It is believing in yourself, your dreams and ideals. It really isn't all that difficult and though so many will try to knock you down in life, you just have to get right back up and know that you are who you are and if they don't like it to friggin bad.\n To many are falling for this idea that there self confidence is no good, it is a way to get you into therapy. There are alot of great websites that will just give you a thought a day. It is thinking positive, yeah negative stuff is going to happen, but you know you can pull through it and that is what counts. Never let anyone tell you different
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sounds like hes attracted to you. and he doesnt want his g/f to see him giving you any attention at all. maybe to save her feelings or to avoid any questions on her part or whatever. thing is...if he acts this way now, if in the future he and yourself get together and he is attracted to another girl, is he going to do the same thing? know what i mean? fact is he is hiding someting from his girl. not cool. theres a saying that goes....if he will do it for you he will do it too you. be careful.
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Every guy notices other women from time to time, we can't help it. But to make it so obvious that your girlfriend notices and is bothered by it, well, that shows a deplorable lack of class. Also, calling your girlfriend "ugly" is really beneath contempt.\n\nCall him on it. Make sure he knows how much he is hurting you.
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This is one of those things that it's all in the persons point of view. He may just be viewing it as a form of pornography which wouldn't be cheating at all and may just be getting himself all warmed up for a night with you. OR he's losing interest within what he has and things need to be spiced up a bit. If he starts acting differently towards you than I would seriously consider having a sit down and talk session with him and get both of your view points out and let him know that you don't approve of him watching other girls on the computer while they pleasure themselves.
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he wanted to break up with you sooner, but he didn't want to hurt your feelings.  and when you found out, he was just being immature and wanted to turn the tables on you instead of confronting you and telling you that he wants to see other people.  forget about him...sign up on the same site and start talking to guys...or go out and do it, what ever your forte is.
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Sounds to me like hes embarassed about his feelings towards you. He probably wants to keep what you two have in private, which isn't such a bad thing..believe me. It's alot easier to have a real relationship without everyone's prying eyes all in your buisiness.
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Some guys want to be the center of attention for their girlfriends. Sounds like he needs more than you can give. Self confidence and independence can be intimidating for a guy too, so they may try to reinforce themselves by being controlling. Jealousy is a personal problem, there is a lack of confidence and trust.  I would be careful of this guy, hopefully he's not the violent type.
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Well it's like this... Immaturity has everything to do with it. \n\nOne he has his girlfriend A who has been with him for a while, He can see Girl A anytime he wants and even spend time away from Girl A and still get some when he goes back. \n\nThen he has Girl B, a new girl, she doesnt know him, but wants him and she needs the green light to go forward and give it up. \n\nHe lies to Girl B says he and Girl A are broken up, then he gets some from Girl B because he's told her all that she needed to hear. \n\nIn all fairness, assuming that your guy is a good guy, relationships are a little strange, sometimes it takes a few visits to fully break it off with someone. Girl A might need a little conforting or need to talk to him still. \n\nGood luck!!
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You're not gonna like this....but he's a guy.  Every guy likes to look at women, every guy likes to be looked at by women, the only differences are in how well we control/hide it.  If you've never had any reason to suspect him of infidelity, I would say it's no big deal.  It certainly doesn't indicate anything about him not liking/loving you.  However, you need to ask yourself what you want.  Do you need a guy that will only look at you, give you that constant self-esteem boost?  If your boyfriends not what you wnat, move on, but if he's really what you need, with one mildly bad habit, deal with it.
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The ugly head of jealousy has reared itself.He is insecure that you are maturing and catching the eye of other guys.Going to different schools makes it worse for him because he can't keep an eye on you.This is normal behavior for your age group.All of you have feelings you are not used to and you have to go through them to be an adult.These are tough times but also the best of times.Reassure him that you only care for him but you want to be able to have friends without him being upset about it.If he still acts mad and pouts about it to the point you're sick of it,tell him you need to be free to see others.You are too young to be this tied down to an insecure kid.
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First off, you are allowing him to look through your stuff, big mistake!  Obviously he was gifted with the jealousy gene and you with the "let him do whatever he wants" gene.  So my first piece of advice, stop letting him do whatever he wants.  Trust is a two way street.  If he wants to see what you have in your junk, then he should be showing you what's in his.  However, it's very common for an unfaithful person to try and hide their guilt by trying to find something to blame it on with their signif.  So what should you do?  I'd dump him and get someone who's got self confidence, maybe it will help you get some too.
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I've been guilty of doing this same thing in the past.  He probably loves his girlfriend and wouldn't trade her for the world.  However, he wants to know that he can still get attention from other females.  So, he's flirty with you to satisfy the attention craving.  It's an ego thing. \n\nWhat I would do, if you are interested, is break his ego.  Tell him that he only flirts with you because he needs to know if he can get other girls.  If he really likes you and wants to be with you then he should break up with his girlfriend first before making a pass at you.\n\nI wouldn't tell his girlfriend about the situation.  You may cause problems in their relationship and trust me you won't get the rebound if they break up.  He will resent you.
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This is a sticky one. \n\nFirst, let's look at him. The fact that he lied is very troubling, but I can see why he thought it was a good idea. While he was disrespecting your wishes, he was also trying to stick with his friend while sticking with you. No, it's not a smart move, and his point about your insecurity is invalid (lying is just not ok because relationships are about trust), but it sucks for a person to have to choose between a significant other and a friend. I think you guys can work through this however. \n\nWhy do you dislike this female friend of his? Do you suspect that he's cheating on you? Is she flirtatious or touchy-feely with him? Is she just an unlikeable person to you? Or are you merely jealous and insecure? \n\nLet's go with the last question for a bit. You've admitted that you are insecure. Plenty of girls are like that, sadly; I think it's mostly from social conditioning (but that's a whole other Answer!). You said that every time he talks to another girl, you ask him if he wants to be with them. It's exasperating for a guy to hear that. He's going to start feeling as if there's nothing he can do to convince you that he wants only you. It's also exhausting for you because you will needlessly worry about losing him. This will put a strain on the relationship, maybe even cause it to break. \n\nTo me, this is the more troubling problem. It's difficult, even impossible, to change others, so we have to change ourselves. Look into getting help for your insecurity; this will make you an overall healthier person, and spread into your relationship with this guy. A quick Google search for "overcoming insecurity" yields some nice articles: \n\nhttp://www.coping.org/growth/security.htm\nhttp://www.pathwaytohappiness.com/writings-insecurity.htm\n\nYou may want to seek professional counseling as well. You'll feel a lot better overall if you can let go of the worrying over losing people, and start placing some trust in others. It will be a great relief (trust me on that). \n\nNow, let's go back to the female friend. They're probably "just friends," but if they way they interact suggests more, then you have a right to be a bit suspicious. Example: if they are too familiar and flirty with each other. \n\nThis is getting a bit long, so I'll just sum it up. You both need to work on yourselves and with each other to make this work. You should focus on overcoming your insecurity and learning to trust others. You should also respect his friendships, even if he's friends with someone you cannot tolerate. Likewise, he should be supportive of your self-improvement efforts, and stop lying to you so you *can* learn to trust him! It's very hard to trust someone when you catch them in a lie. He should also respect that you dislike his friend, and do things like not forcing you to be around her, not talking about something funny that she said or did, etc. If he won't work with you, then I doubt the relationship is worthwhile. \n\nLast of all, it's very important to remain calm and even-tempered. If you start crying or becoming too angry, he may reach for anything -- even a lie -- to make you stop and calm down.
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I'm the type of girl that gets mad for everything.My man no better then to tell we that "He is going to go out with a girl other then me" YOU CRAZY! let me tell you something man are real crazy well they think that they are.he telling you that they are just friends did you ever hear that song AND YOU SAY HE JUST A FRIEND PLEASE! he want to get to no these girls that he is going out with and if you don't stop it now then he will find something he like in them and leave your @SS. so put a stop to that and fast. ask him why you and him can't go out ?or when he do go out with them can you go too?.girl if you want to keep your man you better get on his @ss don't even let him try to cheat on you.AND THAT IS REAL.
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Is he mature for being 22?  Most probably not.  I think you and him need to have a serious talk.  He needs to decide what he is gonna do.  Is he willing to commit to you for the long haul?  Is he working.....going to college?  It all boils down to you also.  Do you think at this time, he will be a good husband?  Is he faithful now and has he been faithful in the past?  Dreaming (or lusting) at other girls doesn't sound like a commitment to me.  Guard your heart, and I wish you the best of luck.
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Well if he said that, I do not know why you are with him anymore. I do understand what he does say though. I do not think that anyone would ever say anything like that. I think that is something that happens all the time with guys and life. It always is the way, guys want what they can not or do not have. I would really rethink being with him if he is telling you about thinking about other girls.