I am usually pretty open to different sexual positions & fetiches that he has but now he wants to have anal sex..He has never had it before...I have with a past partner & I didn't like it at all.. He gets mad when I tell him I don't want to & brings up the ex BF to try to hurt my feelings.. Should I give in or keep saying no??
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tell him that anal makes u uncomfortable and that it hurts and that u dnt wnt to do it. never feel like u have to do something sexually to please someone. ask him if u can use a toy and do it with him anal. maybe that will stop him from asking.
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Just be completely honest with him.  Don't worry about embarassing yourself.  If he's the kind of guy you want to be with, he won't care about your lack of experience.  He will respect you and slow down.  I am a virgin, and I told my bf straight up that I wasn't going to have sex in our relationship.  He hasn't pressured me or tried to change my mind in any way.  Be honest.  It will save problems down the line:)
534285
That is such a bad reason not to be with someone after all it hasn't stopped him going out with you as mates and doing sexual things. So why would it stop him from going out with you.\n\nI'm sorry to say that he seems to what to have his cake and eat it. he whats you around but doesn't want to commit. \n\nMove on to someone who deserves your attention and put it down to experience.
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if he is only in it for sex then no.. because it sounds like you want more out the relationship then just sex. and if you do it then all he is going to do is BREAK YOUR HEART and leave you after he gets what he wants. but i would at leats talk to him first before you made any rash decisions... don't go by other other poeple say he said you talk to him face 2 face
284194
looking at your long, long story, it really seems to bother you. so why don't you just ask and find out? if he accepts, great! if not, then at least you got piece of mind. in summary, you can only win if you ask. therefore: go for it!!
648190
Prepare him for it let him know you want to try something new. We like new things. Don't go crazy at first and take it as far as you want. Truth is he'll probably like it that you can get dirty.
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Let me ask YOU a question...why do you care what other people find pleasurable or unpleasurable about anal sex in relation to you?  If you're the one doing it, and you hate it, there's your answer.  You're probably never going to like it, you're never going to find an easier way to like it, it's a done deal, over, finito.  If you're the one doing it, find it pleasurable, there's your answer.  Just keep doing it, and enjoying it.  'Nuff said.
389605
You should tell him staight up that you dont want to hook up with him like you used too....if you're not honest, it could get worse!
453941
Frankly, I don't see what the issue is.  My question to him would be:  "Do you NEVER masterbate?"  to which I doubt he could say that he never does.  It's the same thing.  he should be glad that he has someone who enjoys the aspects of being a sexual woman.  He shouldn't feel threatened by it.  Maybe you could introduce other toys (ones that get used on him) and make your sex life with him more adventuresome.  It's meant to be fun.  Why is he so insecure about it?  It's definitely not as if you were screwing another man.  Good luck, and enjoy your sexuality.
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Definitely say no. If he is a good guy (coming from a guy) he will respect u. If he gets angry or breaks up just remember its his problem not yours. Don't every feel guilty if u don't feel u want to have sex with someone; it's u'r body it's u'r choice. Remember always use protection.
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It's not that bad once u get used to it. If u don't use anything then once it goes in it will hurt for just a second. After that it is great. Tell your b/f to go buy anal ease or Adam and eve. @ the adult store. This will numb the butt so it will not hurt. (Sorry I work in an adult store)
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Forget it. Surprise him by NOT doing a threesome. He doesn't care one way or the other. So why would you even consider it??
456784
I think that it might just take a little time. You have told him it was just a fantasy and that you would never hurt him and that is all you can do. He might just be a little jumpy about it. But he is still with you and it will just take time. Hopefully after your reassurances and you not hurting him (which you wouldn't) he will get that it is fantasy and maybe will let you inact some fantasies. Have you discussed his fantasies as well?  It might be that he has some on the same lines as yours. I wouldn't worry too much about this and never think that you are messed up for feeling the way you do. It's a part of you and you hurt no one and are just being true to yourself. No thing to feel guilty about at all. I envy you because I have still not told my girl about my fetish. It took courage to do what you did and that's great. Just hang in there and eventually he wil see that there is nothign to be worried about. Take care and good luck.
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From what I can see he wants you for sex only. and seeing as you don't like sex why would your consider having sex with a guy like this? This is a guy wants sex not a relationship. Stay clear and forget this guy. I hope you can find a guy that does like sex either. Good luck
436799
Relax, it is just who he is.  Growing up we all experience life differently and develop different ideas regarding how to treat people.  Your current boyfriend sounds like he has grown up with the idea that men shouldn't be aggressive and force sex on women.  I can relate to him in that to a large degree I feel the same way.  We see and hear so much about men forcing women into having sex that some of us tend to go over board the opposite direction.  He feels like he is doing the right thing by waiting for you to initiate things rather than forcing it on you.  The best thing you can do is to talk to him and let him know it is ok for him to initiate things some times.  Realize though this will be hard for him to do so be patient and be glad you have a guy that respects you and doesn't feel like your required to have sex with him when ever he wants it.
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Please hear me out!\nGET OVER IT! \nPlus dump the guy you are with now while you are "getting over it".  It was not fair of you to drag him into a relationship knowing full well you got it bad for the last one.\nBUT FIRST...\nIs it the actual guy you are into or the sex you used to have?\nLemme find out your d*#k whipped.\nIf this is the case please remember that your current sex life is what you as a woman make it.\nIf you are not giving the relationship your all that will definitely play out in the bedroom.\nKisses!
448585
Maybe he didn't expect his ex to attempt to hack into his account?? Just a thought! Whether he goes on porn sites is no longer any of your business, and I doubt he still loves you with no contact... I don't wish to be cruel, but it's time you tried to move on.