my parents had been fighting all day and my dad pushed my mother out of the house and all hell broke lose! my mothers father was cursing at my father and my mothers friend was comforting my mother while she was outside sitting on the sidewalk crying. all of this was happening right in front of myeyes. I can't take all of this pressure along with all of this other little stuff happening on the side. whatshould i do?
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Hi it must be awful for you but sometimes grown ups act in really silly ways. Try as hard as you can to keep out of it, do you have a aunt or cousin you can talk to? Once everything has calmed down quietly explain to your mom how much this is all upsetting you. If you are really suffering or feel that you are in physical danger ask a teacher at school to help you.  and don't worry...it will probably make you a stronger person.
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Because your mom makes fun of you and makes you cry! She should not be doing this and it sounds like you have an unhappy family life. I don't blame you for not being so open at home!  It sounds like it is emotional abuse from her. Hope you have someone you can talk to about it regularly, someone you can trust, so that you can stand it better.
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The things that have happened to you are terrible and of course it is abuse.  You really need a trusted adult to help you.  The fact that you were able to post on here means that you are ready to get the help you need.  I'm a licensed psychiatric social worker and I came from a really crappy upbringing too.  My dad was physically abusive and my mom was pretty depressed and didn't stop him.  I managed to get past the abuse and lead a productive life but even today, I remember the abuse and have to deal with the feelings surrounding it.  You are too young and your life is too precious to be lost in the cycle of child abuse.  The sooner you get help the more likely you are to move on successfully with your life.  You don't need your parents permission to seek counseling.  School counselors are an option.  I recognize that trusting adults right now is probably difficult and I'm sure you still love your parents to some extent.  What you need to understand is that if your parents are abusing or neglecting you, they are sick too and need help.  Right now you need to realize that you are worth saving and not all adults are bad.  Your life can and WILL get better.  I don't know where you live and what resources are available there but I would be happy to help you in anyway I can.  Please feel free to email me if you need more help or someone to talk to.  My email is jazzy_59602@yahoo.com.  Please stay safe and reach out to someone.
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will am sorry to here what ur going through is realy hard \n\nu must call ur dad and tell him about everything and am sure he will get u out of the house. \n\ncz in my opinion u need someone to help u out u must not stay without talking. u must find help go to police social advicer any one can help to improve ur life cz if u stay like this ur life will be affected in futuer.\n\ni dont know talk to ur mom tell her the truth be honest with her tell her whats bothering u maybe she will lisnt she must lisnt. and remmeber god with u pray to him and he will clear ur path.\n\ni hope every thing will fine.
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Ah, dear sweet mother that you are, don't you know that as much as you love your daughter, that God loves her all that much and more?  He will grant her peace.  He will show her how much you love her, and help her to understand if there was any unresolved issues between the 2 of you, and come to a certain peace about it.  \n\nYou say she was bipolar.  If this ever caused her to do things that were questionable, I think God would not ever hold those things against her.  Please do not worry over her salvation or anything like that.  God is not so cruel.  Would you ever send your daughter to a place of torment?  Of course not!  And God will not either!  That is pure and simple.\n\nLosing a daughter is the hardest loss that anyone on earth probably ever has to face.  I cannot even comprehend it.  You are feeling totally natural things.  Do not feel guilty for the way you feel.  I wish I could give you some kind of magic words that would ease your suffering.  But I do not know them.  Please know that even now, I am crying for you.  Tears are blurring my vision now!  I feel so sad for you.  And I do not even know you.  But I can tell you are hurting, and that you truly truly were a good mother, even if you are unsure of it right now.  I will pray for you.  Do not feel ashamed to seek counseling in this situation.  No one could be prepared for the loss you've endured.  I bet some counselling may help.\nAnd I'll pray for you.\n\nGod bless you and give you peace.
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The next time you hear a ruckus going on next door, call the police immediately. Even better check to see if there is a help line for kids to call in your area and use it to report the abuse NOW! Call your Social Services Office or Children's Aid Society and report it to them. They have to check out all reports of abuse. If you are not sure who to call, phone a school or hospital in your area and ask them for a number to use. You can remain anonymous and the woman next door will never know who reported her if you are worried about retaliation on her part. Do this. You'll be glad you did. These children need help.
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the best advice i can give you is to calm down. i go through the same hings sometimes. you should know that it is okay tto get by yourself and cry, but dont leave home without your mother knowing where you are. I hurt, I cry, but since I cant afford antidepressent medications I have to deal with it. I get on my knees and pray and ask God and Jesus to help me get through the bad times. I know you are not suppose to question God but sometimes I ask him why do I suffer so much. Talk to God he hears you. keep praying. try to wheen yourself from the medication. I used to have then when I could afford them but since I cannot afford them now I deal with the pain and agony alone. AND BELIEVE ME WHATEVA IT IS THAT YOU ARE WORRIED ABOUT IS MOST LIKELY NOT TRUE! Pray.
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Take a Deep Breath! Relax...Remember "Everything happens for a reason" Don't let your problems get the best of you...God NEVER gives you an obstacle you cant jump over...Hang on!
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Listen they are worried about you, you shouldnt get upset cause they care for you - I know it sometimes gets frustrating, my mom was exactly the same way - your yelling at them is not going to change things - just assure them that they should wait and see
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Let everything cool down tonight but tomorrow sit your father down and be honest and tell him you are scared and worried about what happened. If you have a trusted family member ie. aunt, grandmother, mother then I would let them know what is going on. If this happens again then I would talk to a counsler at school to get them involved before things get out of hand.
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I know exactly what you are going through right now.  I had a fight with my mom on Sunday (yes, Mother's Day), and we still are not speaking.  She was wrong, but I think I've taken it too far now, and this is what I'm going to do.  \n\nTalk to her, and tell her the things that bother you as they are, no matter how hurtful it may sound.  Just tell her that before starting, so she can understand why are you being hurful.  I've found through out the years, that telling her my exact feelings, no matter what, always seems to work.  \n\nThe catch is, if she takes it the wrong way, you could have a bigger problem later.  It just depends on the kind of relationship you have with your mother, and how much do you really know her in the end, to make up your mind about what to tell her.\n\nYou say she's sick.  Well, that changes things a little bit.  If she has MS, then she must be tired most of the time.  If this is the case, get off her back and start growing up.  She has obviously raised a good child, if you are so concerned to voice your questions here, so take a look deep within you and identify the problem YOU have with her, and fix it.\n\nI hope this was helpful!  Have a great day!
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I feel so bad for you in this situation.  You should tell a trusted family member (dad, grandma, aunt, etc.) how you're being treated and how you feel.  She has absolutely no right to treat you badly.  If she does physically harm you, call the cops.  Sorry if I'm not much help, but one last thing;  DO NOT COMMIT SUICIDE!  I'm serious.  Good luck, I hope things improve.
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Go for a walk and just have time on your own.  Talk to yourself about what got you so pissed off, what you should have said, what you are going to say, but without screaming or yelling so they could know that you really mean it and that you are not just talking because you are mad.....  I think that is the best as it will prevent you from getting physical with the person who caused you to get the way that you are and you will avoid saying something that you will or may regret....
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First, let me say I'm sorry that you went through this tramatic and troubling experience.  My grandfather was a lying, philandering pig, but when he died, my grandmother turned him into a saint.  Your mother appears to be doing the same thing.  You will never be able to understand how she could stand beside that monster who torments the dreams of her babies.  I can't either.  But to her, you are in the wrong.  Seems crazy, but to her you really are the bad guy.  Worry about yourself.  You probably need to talk to someone more professional than us to get your own life straight.  That is my only advise to you.  The first line of the serenity prayer is, "God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change."  You can't change what happened, or your mom or sister.  Try not to be mad at them.  They are doing what they do for a reason, a reason you will probably never be able to understand.  Worry about you and who you are.  To be asking this question of us you realize that you need help.  Talk to a trained perfessional about this.  Good luck Sweetness, you deserve it!
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First of all, this isn't your fault it happened. And don't worry about your mother. YOU have to do what you need to do to help and take care of your own children. And if that means taking them to counseling or reporting them to the police-then do what you need to do!!! \nIt's up to you whether or not you report your son, but either way, I'd keep him away from your daughter. I would also seek counseling for your daughter if she isn't already. This is a very sad and sensitive issue. But she probably needs to talk to someone.  You may even need to talk to someone yourself. This must be terrible for you as well. I couldn't imagine going through something like this. It's always best to hear the victim out-and that is your daughter. Good luck in what ever you chose to do. You're in my thoughts.
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Talk to them. Let them know you are distressed and need some guidance. Try and be calm about it and state clearly what you would like to see happen. \n\nMaybe before you talk to them, sit down and write out all your thoughts on a big list. Write down everything you think even if it's negative or wrong. Just get it out of your head and in black and white. Write your feelings about your parents as people, about how you are treated, about what rules you like and don't like and any other thoughts and feelings regarding your parents. \n\nNow take at least an hour and go do something else. Come back and look at your list and put check marks by the thoughts that are really important to you. On another piece of paper, write the important issues and give and example of that. Take that with you when you talk to your parents. They'll help if you ask them for it. \n\nMost parents are doing the best they know how. Try and remember that when you talk to them.
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Call in an anonymous disturbance of the peace to the police.. if you can hear them..so can others.. and you may be their (wife and kids) only hope.\n\nLearning disabilities are stressful, but they should never progress into violence and abuse. Help that kid and mom.. then sleep peacefully that you did what you had to do.