I am beginning to believe that ALL men will cheat.  So, do we, as women learn to turn the other cheek and know that sex does not equal love?  Men will alway be attracted to other women and that doesnt mean "our" relationship changes any.  Do we approve of them stepping out on us to make it less enticing to do so?  Who would they rather date/marry?  If you are on them 24/7 about not cheating or if you appear open about it?  Maybe it will make them want you more?
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Different people cheat for different reasons.  Some men aren't getting what they need from their significant others, and other men just enjoy the thrill of it. Of course some just enjoy the change of pace so to speak.  And what you've suggested doing to either prevent it, or allow it to happen, is going to have a different reaction on different people.  If you leave it open a lot of men will take advantage of it, and some will not.  \n\nTo answer your topic question yes I believe there is casual sex.  I believe most men have the capacity to love somebody and have sex with another and tie no emotions to it.  This may not be comforting to most women, but it's often times the case.  What happens when that casual relationship turns into something more is because the man allowed it to, but if that happens there was something wrong with the relationship to begin with.  I'm not saying it's the woman's fault, by cheating you've opened up the risk of that happening.  And contrary to popular belief it takes two to tango.  No amount of being drunk or the skill of the seductress can be used for an excuse.  But if the man is open to it, maybe there is something wrong with the relationship to make him seek sex from another person?
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you can check and check all your life and you still will not be sure...when a man wants to cheat behind your back he can and you would never know...so give it up, relax and start joining the normal living...your checking or suspicions will not change anything...start worrying when and if you have reason to...(while dating is very different from marriage, he is now a committed man).
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It's my opinion that it doesn't matter whether it's a woman or a man...I, myself, would not get serious or even date someone I knew had not be faithful.  Even if that person was unfaithful only once.  I could never trust them.  It takes a lot of &*$^%* to cheat!  I've been the victim of one who cheated on me.  We were married.  It seems to be a thrill that they seek, even when the consequences of getting caught could devastate their life.  Who would be stupid enough to take that chance?   I don't understand.
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Boy FIND SOMEONE else "once a cheater ALWAYS a cheater"  They may not think they are cheating now but they just cant help it.. They will never change!  Trust me Im a girl!!
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I think they all do it.  If you don't approve of it, tell him.  He might stop.  \nI told my husband that if he has to get his "jollies" by looking at another woman, it was the same as cheating.  \nAs far as I know he doesn't do it anymore.
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I'm confused.. When you say you were speaking to other men.. is that all then? I don't see anything wrong w/that. You say tho 'he stayed w/me' and I don't know why he wouldn't (if it was just conversation.) You say he had a secret relationship.. was it sexual? You two both sound kind of jealous/possessive.. I mean I am basing this on the assumption there was nothing sexual involved in any of this. (If there was, that's a different story..) Let me see here.. He treats you like crap.. I take it that's the real issue on hand here.. I think men are kind of like babies (I'm married to one.. lucky me..) or they want their cake/ to eat it too.. they want us to cook and clean (and spread 'em) but on the other hand they want their 'freedom' to screw around on us at the same time. (We can't do anything along the same line tho..) that sux, right? He stayed because he's been with you and while the other gal's 'something new/exciting & different' you're the one he's 'used to living with' I am thinking. (Hell, this is depressing me!!) Hey, I DO think you've got value/self worth, dont' get me wrong! I'm just kinda bitter about men is all.. It sounds like my marriage of l4 years (boring.. I'm bored..) My ole man's an asshole (cuts me down) and then developed (or so he claims) e.d. so he tries to do the oral thing (doing me 'one big goddamned favor') on me for sex (but it's wearing thin or gettin' old I mean.. fast..) I want to dump him too.. (I think you want to dump THIS guy..) do it!! that's my 'valuable' advice for ya
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Yes.  I think is cool.  We are all human and find certain things appealing about one another.  As you said, you don't cheat so that would not be an issue.
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Men cheat because of women! What you fail to realize is that women are the problem of men cheating. For every man that cheats there is a woman he is cheating with.  I guess you can say that women cheat as often as men.\n\n  Women are wicked! They often know that the man she is cheating with is in a relationship with another women. However, it is fact that wommen cheat more today than men do!\n\n  Most men don't cheat , that is my experiance! But when they do it is because they have caught their woman cheating on them and most often the woman would feign like she is the victim when she is actually the originator of the problem.\n\n   However , it is said there are equel numbers of men and women cheating, for a man can not cheat without a women. Women are the cause of men cheating. I guess if you women would stop interfering with others relationships then cheating would also stop. The answer to solving the problem is women...... stop messing with men who are in a relationship!\n\n  I guess women like the challenge to see if they can break a man up with his current women. It is a power game with women more than it is the man who simply wants the bennifits of sex. \n\n Remember , No man can cheat without a women to cheat with!\n So I guess it could be equally said , " Why do women assist men in cheating on their spouses/girlfriend?"\n\n Because women  love the game and deep down inside it is a power play with them, a chance to prove they are better than the other girl. A satifaction of stealing the man away from the other girl! Therin lies the evil of cheating!
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I know this makes no sense to a woman but when we men cheat it has nothing to do with our significant other.  We still love you.  We just have a stronger, physical need for sex.  Men need variety.  If you don't believe me then think about this.  Why do men watch porn?  Why do you always catch us looking at other women?  We cannot help ourselves.  It is purely genetic.  We can do it without the emotional part.  It is purely physical for us.  Eventually we grow out of it.  Well, some of us do.  Sorry it happened to you but keep in mind that it happens to every woman.  It happens to a lot of men too.  Most women start cheating after 30-35 when they start thinking about their own satisfaction and sexual peak.  Younger men do it most because that is our sexual peak.
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I feel like I'm already a mature man at age 26.  I've never treated dating as "playing the field".  I once heard that view of dating described like buying a car - "I want this color, not too old, not too many miles".  I think it should be much more than that.  I thought the point of dating was to find that special someone you want to spend the rest of your life with.  (I'll admit to being a romantic.)  I don't understand why some men cheat.  It's disrespecting the woman, plus shooting yourself in the foot.  If you have a good relationship, why ruin it?  The same goes for womanizing.  Why move from one woman to another before you even get to know the first one?  I think things would be a lot better if all of us treated each other with the respect we deserve instead of treating each other as goods that we are trying to buy with cards and chocolates and dinners.
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guys will be guys - I don't think you could say guys cheat ( that is what they do ) , but i think you could say that women cheat , because they should not do that - so it is cheating   --- I hope this helps you - email me if I didn't make myself clear
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I know several cases were people were married for 60/70 years and their spouse passed on and they never cheated.  If you love your spouse and respect the sanctity of marriage then it's very possible.  My husband was in Iraq and I had MANY chances to cheat.  (the female to male ratio in this town is about 250:1 so even if you're 200lbs overweight, if you have boobs, you can get some).  Anyway, I love my husband and I refuse to risk what we share for a night or two with some jerk who doesn't care about anything.  I love my husband and I stayed faithful.  I'll continue doing so now that he's home and for the rest of our lives.  I have no doubt in my mind he will do the same.
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Men and women cheat for different reasons. Men cheat for sex, and women cheat for affection and attention. Yes, this is a generalization, and some women cheat because they are nympho's, but that is not the norm. I believe the old saying "a man is only as faithful to his partner as his options" meaning that a though a man may not go out of his way to try and get laid, but if it's put in front of him and offered up he is hard pressed to say no. A woman on the other hand equates sex with an act of love, unlike the man who sees it as an act of lust and gratification.
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I will try to open my heart to your question.do I cheat now? No there is no one to cheat on,but if there was I wouldn't now.But I cheated onmy first 3 wives over a 15yr. period.Why? The thing I remember the most,she did nothing to cause it,and I always felt guilty afterwards.\n I guess as I look back on it now,it confirmed the idea that other women found me attractive or handsome.
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well i have never cheated on a girl but i have been cheated on by a lot of girls so yall do it to. now the reason for these things is either they get board with the sex life, just dont have the self control to say no in that position, they feel that you aren't giving them the same love and respect that you once did. or they just dont like the idea of one girl for the rest of their life. any case a good strong close relationship should stop these things (exept the idea of one girl) but if you stay faithfull and loving and give your man the respect he needs with some sex to then you should be able to stop him from cheating.
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Here is a better question...\n\nWhy are you attracted to men that cheat?\n\nI don't cheat, and neither do most of my friends.
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Hmmm... I personally would not cheat.  I think if I got bored or just lost interest in the other person, I would completely end the relationship ASAP.  There's no reason for me to delay the inevitable.  It's only going to make things difficult.  It is inconsiderate and selfish to lead someone into believing otherwise.\n\nWell, the question that you should ask is "Why do we lose interest?"\n\nI can tell you that sometimes things do not work out because of how someone is proceeding within the relationship.  Sometimes, we fear commitment and we have this desire to just run away.  I've gotten this feeling that I'm seeing someone way too much and I need my space, which is not happening.  Why can't I take a break?  Sometimes, no matter how great of a person you are, it's just not working.  Things are not clicking as they should and it's something that either shifts into a more platonic relationship or nothing.  It happens.  Whether we love someone or not is as unpredictable as whether you would maintain a love someone.  Love can last or fade because of some insignficant actions.  \n\nThe only thing about why men cheat is that some have no decency for other people.  They are no better than the dog that needs a good kicking now and then.  There are better ways to deal with situations and they are not too smart to realize that what they do can really scar somone.  It is this indifference that causes the spread of STD's such as HPV, which condoms cannot fully protect against.  Some people are just plain stupid.  They'll never figure this out until their wives or life partner catches AIDs or HPV and develops lasting effects.  Men who cheat are simply dirty.  Bars of soap won't solve their dirt problem.