how do i get out the friendship zone wit an ex??
127422
You mean you actually got in the friend zone with an ex!
245566
I have been in the same situation 4 months ago.I went with my ex's friend.Let me tell you that did'nt work out!!!You will always have to see yor ex,and when he moves on to another girl,well that is just unbaerable.Find someone new and exiting.OUT WITH THE OLD AND IN WITH THE NEW!!!
127850
Well, you clearly are not a good friend are you? We can all see that because you hurt your boyFRIEND, so can you honestly blame him? \n\nAdditionally, why do you want to be friends with your ex? Just because you used to date doesn't mean that when you break up, you will be friends. It doesn't always work that way, and given that you have hurt him, you can hardly expect to continue to be on good terms.\n\nI strongly suggest that you stop any efforts to befriend him, move on and try to be kinder to your next significant other.
535022
It depends, do you love the ex? If you are unsure then take things slow. Maybe you and the ex could date, hang out etc and get to know each other again. Explore all the reasons you left to begin with, have any of those reasons (issues) been resolved? If not, nothing has changed and you will leave again when the "new, fun" is over.\nMake sure you don't go back just for comfort.
327997
well i kinda had the same problem... i always say keep ur friends close but keep ur ex's even closer... he shld know ur x is ur friend and that he shldnt control who u hang with or who u talk to.. tell him that ..
290616
I understand that you’ve broken up with him, though I guess you can still be a friend...as in friend....especially when he needs help.\n\nPlace yourself in his shoes. He's just another person with emotions and currently is looking for your support and help. Do help him though clearly underline that your support will not go beyond what’s called for in a friendship.\n\nYou can also tell you current BF of your intentions just so that he doesn’t build any wrong notions in his mind about your relationship with your EX.\n\nTake care.
327707
Dude you are in the friend zone and you will never get out.\nJust find someone new and start thinking of this girl as a friend. You let her slip away and now shes never coming back. Shes a friend and thats it. Sorry!!! I have been there, I have done that and it just hurts the longer you allow yourself to like her. Just drop your thoughts of getting back together with her and move on. Again im sorry dude.
638037
just remember why he became your ex,.......\ntotally depends on how you guys broke up
538993
What I would do,  -and what I think you should do-, is take it very slow with the new girl involved. Honestly, it probably wasn't the best idea for you to get involved with her, but I wouldn't say to completely break it off now - that isn't realistic, and it would just hurt her because she would get your feelings twisted. \nYou have baggage. You can't make genuine transitions from person to person while carrying baggage; it'll hinder you. You'll always carry what was left from the old relationship into the new one, so forth, and so forth, and it isn't fair to the present person involved that your own issues are unsolved. It isn't a problem that you still think of your ex; it's actually very normal. You've completed an important step by acknowledging that your last relationship couldn't work, so now just prove to yourself why you deserve to move on. \nEver heard the song 'Bag Lady' by Erykah Badu?......that one goes out to you, lol.... Good Luck and God Bless.
27110
tell your ex to go screw himself, ur 25 sweetheart i cant saying anything cause im shy, but get your shy butt out there and get you a man. your ex cant control you and cant tell you what to do. \n\nnow on the other hand you ex may be mad at his friend for talking to you but both of you are adults just get his number and talk to him on the phone and see where it goes from there
618220
you should just tell him that you need some time to think about the way things are going. take a break from the relationship. maybe after you leave him for a lil bit,  you'll start missing him, and that may get your ex out for good. and if you say there's no chance with you and your ex, then it's better for you to look for a way to just forget about him, that's only gonna hold you back.
484028
Honestly if you still love ur ex dont cheat the new person out of finding someone that loves them entirely. I mean would you want someone to treat you with half of their time and attention cause that is what you will really be doing especially if you start hangin with your ex and you have the feelings still. You will cheat. I would honestly break up up with the new person to prevent hurting them and dont run back to your ex because there was obviously some isues as to why you guys broke up in the first place. So just stay single you can still talk to your ex and communicate to solve the problem and then maybe try being together or you have to decide that you guys are better as friends and thats its. That way when you are with someone else and your ex wants to hang out it will be as friends and you dont diss your friends. I speak cause I have been there and done that. Trust me. make sure that you are completely over your ex though, otherwise you will be in a world of hurt
11312
Well thats tough...his friend is your EX right?  Therefore, it may be akward but it shouldn't be that bad.  But that really depends on how you guys broke up.  If it was bad and you guys aren't friends try to catch your guy at a time when he isn't with your ex.  In the hallway, a free period, after school, walking home/to transportaion.  Try and become friends with him.  Strike up a convo with him.  Learn his interests and show intrest in them.  Make him laugh and smile.  He'll appreciate you for it.  Don't try to hard though.  Once you guys are friends move foward from there.
255571
I have an ex like you and three years later he still has not given up.\nGive her space or you will ruin the friendship and there will never be more more. If she does not want you back at the moment  do not make yourself annoying.\n\nTRUST ME the best thing you can do is prove you respect what she wants. Good luck I hope things work out between you but don't push it too much, what happens happens and although you think you could never ever love anyone else, with time you might just find out that you can.
503493
Don't worry yourself another minute about the "rumor" or "him"!  If he doesn't believe you there is nothing you can say that is going to change his mind.\n\nObviously he doesn't want to be "friends" with you.  It's requires a certain amount of "maturity" to remain on friendly terms with an "ex".  He apparently, isn't able to handle it.\n\nMove on, don't look back and best of luck.
580114
Take some time for you. Your ex is your ex for a reason! If the new guys really wants to help than he'll understand that you need to be your own person for awhile. That wall is up because Mr. Right hasn't found a way in.
247948
Just tell the new guy the truth.  That your sorry, but you and your ex expectantly got back together and that you hope he understands.  If he is a really nice guy he will wish you the best and everything will be cool.  These things happen sometimes.