I've had boyfriends (only 3 since 7th grade) and I've never like loved them. I'm not ugly or fat but I do want a bf that will care about me in a more emotional way rather than a physical way. I've made out but never had sex even though my bfs did. Thats why I broke up with them because they just wanted some! Is it ok to not love yet? Am I too hard or stubborn with my boyfriends? I did break up with my last bf because everyday he called me beautiful and touched my hair and kissed my face but he also did drugs which was gross. Will I EVER fall in love?
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You're only fifteen? Girl, you don't even know the meaning of love. Just enjoy life and have guy friends. Eventually, you're going to find someone that loves you and you are head over heels about them. You're trying to grow up too fast. Trust me, enjoy your life and don't try to committ yourself now. 'Cause when you committ, it isn't all roses, you have to deal with the good and the bad. Stay away from those problems as long as you can.
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im sorry. i thought i was in love with my bf too. he was 21 and i am 16. he always forced me to do things with him and to him i didnt want to do. if it wasnt for him i would still be a virgin. i never was willing to do anything he wanted me too. he was alot bigger than me too. and he abused me, verbally, physically,and sexually.untill he got me pregnant and forced me to have an abortion(somethin i regret so so much and never would have done willingly)after that i finally got up the courage to dump him and i found a guy my age. i know this isnt what u want to hear(trust me, i know, i heard the same things)but i dont think u should stay with him( i realize u might not want to take advice from someone that is younger than u by like a year)if he forces u to do anything sexually then he doesnt really love u or care for u. ur just a sex toy for him to manipulate. im sorry this is happening to u, it is somthing i wouldnot wish on anyone, u should know what i mean by that, its a horrible and emotional wrecking thing to go through, im still not over it nor will i ever be the same again. i have to go to counseling every day of my life for probably the rest of my life, i will probably be taking a high dosage of anti-depressants for the rest of my life because i let him take me too far before i was brave enough to stand up to him and get rid of him. my question for u is how long are u gonna wait, how much are u gonna put up with untill u break it off b4 u have life altering events like i did. i promise u that ur life will never be the same after  u put up with to much, it sounds to me like u have already put up with to much. please dont stay with this guy. do u know that him forcing u to have sex with him wether it be oral or casual, it is rape. i wish u the best and i will be praying for u. please contact me at purplollipop1606@yahoo.com and let me know what u decide. im very worried for u and id just like to know if u end up okay.
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I was quite content when I was younger to not have a boyfriend, thank you very much. Even when my husband and I were dating, I would break up with him because I didn't wat a boyfriend. I can't remember if he ever broke up with me, but if he did, I know my response to him was, "I don't care." Boys were too much trouble when I was in school, and now, I se how my sister is going through an abusive relationship where she breaks up with this guy and then goes back to him. She was and always has been boy crazy; boys, makeup, and clothes is still all she cares about and she is 19. She dropped out of school to be with her man at 17. But that is another topic with another question
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NO!!! There is nothing wrong with you. Everyone experiences things at different times so don't rush the process. You never know when you get your first boyfriend he may turn out to be the right one. Just be patience and enjoy being you and being single.
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you already know the answer to this question.  you left your boyfriend because you didn't or don't love him and you think you love this guy.  well, we always seem to want what we can't have.  you should have broken up with your boyfriend because it's not fair to him for you to be with him and have feelings for someone else.  you can't have something with someone who has a girlfriend, unless you plan on trying to break them up.  i think you should take this break from your boyfriend as time to reflect on what it is you actually want.  do you want him back or someone else?  decide what you want before you do something you might regret later.
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First of all whoever gave this question the thumbs down must be one of those who are going around burning up folks, and to just answer this question, GIRL!!!!!!!! DO YOUR THANG!!!!!!On the real \nThere is not a person on this earth who is going to love you like you do, so with saying that you make sure you keep asking them that, and you know what? If a guy have a problem with you being concerned about your well being then he is not worthy of you anyway.......................DO NOT LET ANYONE CHANGE YOUR WAY OF THINKING ON THIS MATTER  Because your health should be your number one concern at all times, I am almost 40 years old and thank God I have been careful like you because I am still healthy because I would not just lay up with just any guy just because he was cute or because I was crushing, Keep on loving yourself as you do and will be happy and well off okay....................................You Go Girl!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!  ( =
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Sounds to me like your not quite ready to settle down.  I say drop the boyfriend for now and date around a bit and then maybe you will be able to know more about what your looking for.  Everyone has flaws but usually you can't see them till you've known them a while.
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Oh my goodness! I was JUST like you with the Touchy Feely. I wasn't that at all when I started to date my boyfriend because I've never been used to that emotional display. I was so used to hangin' out w/the boyz that it just rubbed off on me. I'm used to it now because it's just his way of showing me how he feels. But don't let him get too "Fresh"
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I don’t mean to sound cynical, but honestly, you’re 12 years old… you have an enormous life ahead of you! You’re going to have plenty of time for boyfriends and relationships, perhaps even with better guys that only want YOU, and don’t have another lady waiting around. \n\nWhen I was in middle school (I’m now in high school), I was in a situation all familiar with yours. I, too, had a guy who also had the “feelings” towards me… but, of course, he had another girl (and hell, maybe others!) whom he liked - oh, I’m sorry, “loved.” And as much as my infatuation grew and grew, I knew he was not the type of guy for me. \n\nBesides, let’s get realistic: most high school loves don’t even make it out alive. You’re in middle school, and I don’t know about you, but I don’t like to waste my time on instabilities. Not to mention, you’ll most likely get hurt by this boy, too. \n\nI, personally, don’t think it’s something you should gamble. It’s your feelings on the line for some hardly established guy to play on…\n\nP.S. I realize I might sound a little impertinent and perhaps even nagging, but all girls in the world deserve a guy who only has eyes for her without leading anyone on.
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It's normal.. we all go through the same thing.. (I mean unless we had a flamin' bad break up that is!) Does the current bf know about this? ..and deal w/it? He sounds like a kool dude if so. It'd be hard, but could ya like change where ya R hangin' out, so ya 2 don't meet up? I kow it's rough if ya got the same friends, right? If ya have a bad breakup ONE of the good things about it is you got a TON of bad info. to use mentally to get over the bad dudes. I mean if he beat ya up, dissed ya, you gotta make that memory a WHOLE lot better.. (helps ya get over the hurt.) How long it been since ya broke up? It'll get better, I promise! If it's too new a hurt, I think it's kool ya got wit another guy already too.. later-     melancholia
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When I first started dating, girls didn't stick to just one guy. They went out with lots of different ones. "Going steady" with just one boyfriend was for when you really fell in love and wanted to spend all your free time with the boy you were crazy about. As long as you don't feel like that about either of them, you should spend time with both if you want to. You have lots of time to decide who you want to be with and you probably haven't even met him yet!
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I've fallen in love only once. Yesterday we broke up, I did it only because it was the right thing to do, yes, I got very hurt. Now I wanna fall out of live with him, if that's even possible. The problem is that love makes me always see all his good qualities, never the bad ones. I hope it's true what they say that time heals, 'cause I'm as sad as my avatar looks. As far as advices go, i don't really have any, love is a different experience for each person. Just enjoy it, take chances and live at 100%, you might get hurt, but otherwise, you might feel like you never lived in the first place. Thanks for letting me share, I know it's quite long. Good luck ;)
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You need to get over your ex first hun. I have been down that road recently and thats what you gotta do first before you move to another person. If you dont you will just compare your next bf to your ex and end up ending things with them because you still have that hope of having your ex back. It's not easy letting go but in order to make yourself happy get over your ex before you start a new relationship
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its ok to love anyone. \n\nlove is kind of a funny thing. you aren't in control of who you love. and you are in even less control of who loves you back. \n\nbut, there are also different levels of love. you can love your family and friends one way, and your boyfriend/girlfriend a different way. and it is an entirely different thing completely to be in love with someone, because it would involve 2 people loving eachother in the same way and wanting to share that with eachother.\n\nlove freely. the world needs more of it.
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He has made it very clear that your feelings arent very important to him, and I dont think he loves you as much as you love him, or as much as you deserve to be loved!\nYou sound like a wonderful girl, and there are plenty of good guys who would treat you right and appreciate all that you do. Hold out for just that!\nYour boyfriend might be sorry, but he needs a lesson in life. You cant treat people badly and expect them to put up with it!
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There's nothing wrong with being energetic. I was in your shoes for the longest time. I'm very "bubbly" as well. I dated many guys while I was in high school but we never "clicked" and usually never went out more than once or twice. Finally, my senior year, I found a guy who I thought was wonderful. We dated for 9 months only for him to break my heart. I never thought I would find anyone who could love me for who or how I was. After our break up, I became friends with a guy who had just moved 2 hours to where I live to go to college. We hit things off and he also has a very outgoing personality. 2 and a half years later, we're still together. So, there is someone out there. If you feel you have to change to date a certain person, you don't need them. God intended for everyone to have a soul mate. And when you find yours, he will love you for exactly how you are and wouldn't want you to change. Be yourself and don't be scared.
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girl dont worry about that you will have a bf soon or that look i am 13 and almost say that i loved my bf and then today broke up with me and they just dont know what to do cause that dont know what to do unless he is really true and dont feel fat and dont try suicide and again casue you know where you will be going and you dont want to go there i use to be depressed myself and i didnt know what to do and i cryed ever day but come on baby girl dont feel that way and try your best to stop worrying about boys and i have a freind that has not had a bf and she is 13 and she is not worrying about it so you dont cause it is better things in world then boys jsut keep it toghter and girl eat come on you have to eat i love to eat and i dont like when i hear that people dont eat if you have any questions or what to talk just email me at can_yew_hear_me_now@yahoo.com and my name is teleeca well got to go good luck