here's the scoop.  she asked me out to a movie and we have been going out since.  i give her flowers, get her gifts and we go out to dinner too. we even take turns (unoficially) on who takes the bill and all.  i needed some advice. at work nobody knows we go out. nobody knows i give her gifts. its like a closet dating thing. we don't have a romance thing. so my question is what should i do? we are not doing the  boyfriend and girlfriend thing. but im interested. i don't know if she is or not though. please help!!!!
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Well my answer is simply this and that is if she thinks that you are just friends hanging out then that is all it is to her but if you let her know how you feel then that changes.Then she will either think about it and let you know if she feels the same or not but you have to let her know. True love might be passing you both by.
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I agree with sunshine up here.\nTry to figure what she likes to do and if you find something that you like as well, go ahead.\nTell her you think she's a great companion and when you are with her you really have a good time.\nAnd since you both enjoy to (watch movies, ride a bike or whatever she might be on it)ask her if she would like to go out with you one of these days to do it.\n\nSimple like that.\n\nGood luck!\n\nI hope you succeed and have a great time together!
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Hey, do what I did.  Ask her to a movie or some other one-on-one activity, make sure she is the only one that comes.  Don't hint that it's a date until you're there.  Let her figure it out.\n\nIf you do the corny thing, like put your arm around her during the movie, she'll get the hint, too.  I confess, I did it and it worked.\n\nBig thing to remember, though.  If she responds in a positive way (she doesn't run out of the theatre screaming), don't take the night any further along.  Don't go for the first kiss or all the fun stuff that comes later.  At the end of the night, see if she is interested in a date with you another time.  She'll think you're a nice boy and probably say yes.  (unless she's one of those promiscuous types, which may be fun once, but you'll regret it later, trust me).\n\nAnd, if she doesn't want to go out again, you can always keep the friendship, cause you never really went out on a date, did you?  You were just a couple friends hanging out.\n\nGood luck!
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Is this grl popular & nice or popular and a B*T*H. if shes nice try asking her out. if shes a B*T*H forget about her! You deserve better!!
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Let me give you some good advice - it's not a good idea to date someone with whom you work.\n\nIt gets complicated, everyone knows your business, and if it doesn't work out you have to see the person every day.
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Rock and a hard spot there aren't you? So you have a crush and a friendship and a co-worker all wrapped up into one.  How much have you actually learned about her? Other than what movies and food she likes?\nWhen you are having dinner is it general conversation that you could talk to your buddy about? Or does it go into what simular interest and goals you have? How sure are you of the hints she gives, or is she just a very caring individual who think of you like a brother who gets where she is coming from, enjoys doting on as the maintaing friendships side and meanwhile enjoys the attention you are giving her.  \n\nThe last thing you want to be to her is someone she needs to "save" from your own situations to make you comfortable, it sounds like you are a "fun non judgmental release" for her to ease her "very busy life" as you say. \n\nYou need to test it without being a set up? Resolve that SHE IS YOUR FRIEND and she wants you to be happy, so begin seeking out other people and give yourself room to breathe before you end up in a panic attack. Ask her advice about dating, and see what kind of responses you get, at least then you will know what her rules are for being on a date date or just being out with a friend.
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It seems a little tacky to me.  If I were you, I'd make contact with her and ask her out in person.  If you don't have much contact with her she may not have a good idea about who you are and an email may seem strange to her.  The personal touch is always better.  Don't be so shy.  The worst thing she can do is say "no" and the world won't end if she does.
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You're getting together with her to study, which is fine, because that isn't really a date.  On the other hand, if you ask her to go to a school dance with you, or maybe a movie, oh no, she can't go out with you, because she's seeing somebody.\n\nIf you wait until she isn't seeing anybody, chances are, someone else is waiting for that too, and they'll beat you to the punch.\n\nYou've already got your foot in the door.  You just need to open it a little wider.  Maybe there's something you can do together, besides studying, that she would consider innocent enough.  I can't say what that would be.  That just depends on your interests.\n\nHere's an idea.  Approach her in the hallway, hand her a rose, and ask, "Would you mind holding this for me?"  As soon as she takes it, just walk away.\n\nAny of this stuff can work, but there is no guarantee.  It is possible that she just isn't interested in you, and never will be, but I think some of these ideas can work, if anything will.
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She is flirting with you...and she could be flirting for a few different reasons...either 1) it is just fun to flirt with you...so don't take it too serious...just have fun with it like she is...or 2) She does want you to ask her out...So...it is up to you which one you choose to take it as...and do what you need to do...Ask her out if you want...what the hell do you have to loose?  Or...just have fun with it and flirt back.
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If she doesn't want to do anything with you, then she's not into you.  She may have another bf......  no big deal.  Just ask someone else out.
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Dude, by now you should have a good idea as to how she looks at you.  I would just go up to her and say: Hi, how is it going?  Kind of chilly today, isn't it?  Do you like soup?  If she says yes, then you ask \nher to go have a cup of soup with at the local restaurant.  If she doesn't like soup, the you ask her what does she like to eat during this time of the year.  When she answers you ask her out by saying that you know this little place that serves a good whatever it may be that she said.  Ta-daaa.  If she is not interested, then move on.   There are plenty of fish in the sea.\nGo get her, tiger.  Growl...\nMr. M on "this girl."
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This is where you ask him to chill with you first. Go out as friends first to get a feel for it. If it doesn't work out, nothing's lost.\n\nIf things do work out, then ask him out! =] (Unless there's a rule about not going out with co-workers.)
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if you really think that she's sending you signals and you really like her, then i guess theres no harm in asking her out. a safer way may be to have one of her friends explain whats going on, because she may just be acting that way to show that she really does want to continue being friends and that she likes you, even if it isnt on a boyfriend-girlfriend level. so try and find out what shes really thinking. good luck! =]
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lol maybe she just thinks your cute and dosnt' want anything to come of it.  If she's not busy maybe jsut say hey you wanna go eat something once you get off of work or make a joke to make her laugh, be her friend thats the best way to become bf gf
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Dude.......and your problem is???? Go for it !!! She is young, hot, and 24..........now, that's a NO-BRAINER! What time are you picking her up?? She sees you as strength, and stability. Have a great date! Let us know how it tured out!! Good Luck!!
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I think it's soo sweet that you want to make sure this is a special move for her. It sounds like she is definitely interested, so almost anything you do will be seen as fantastic to her. I know if it was me, I would just want you to put some thought into it-maybe surprise show up with a single rose, or a night when you surprise her with a movie you rented for her, and then just ask her after she responds to your arrival. Just tell her," we've been spending so much time together, and I really enjoy your company, and I want to only enjoy your company-I think we should be official". Something of this nature.\nThis is so so cute, good luck, I'm sure she'll accept, and make sure to keep up this attitude of wanting to "wow" her during your relationship, b/c that will mean a lot to her. I wish I had a guy doing this for me right now!
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Exactly what you just did. Find a nice way to say it. Like maybe I am interested in someone else. And do not elaborate on it.You walk with your dignity as well as her keeping hers. Good luck. Post script. Question for you. What are you looking for on here? Be honest not only with yourself but to your friends online.