i have been dating someone for more than 6 months we live about a mile apart but never see each other, most of the time i feel like it doesn't bother her, because she only says she likes talking to me and misses me when we don't talk. but doesn't say she wants to spend time with me, and doesn't ever talk about making plans to see me, when i do get her to agree to come over for dinner she never shows up, and i can't get a hold her for a day or 2. the most time i was spending with her was when she needed help at work. anyway i broke up with her lst week because i was putting way to much effort into the relationship and getting nothing in return was making me lonly, and bitter. saturday night was her b-day party which i never got invited too. i found out from her friend that she was dating someone else. i told her i hoped that woman would treat her good, and wished her the best of luck. since that night my ex has been wanting to get back together. would i be crazy to buy her presents?
128912
Sometimes we go through these things before we find out why we left to begain with and than we want them back. So one more chance dont hurt if you still care. Go buy her a present and you two enjoy a special brithday together and if someone knocks on the door dont answer it. This will be both of your time alone.\n\nI came back and seen what else you typed she didnot show up then but if she is wanting to make up, try one more time you have nothing to lose. This time maybe different i sure hope so you seem to care alot and thats hard to get from someone is the love you have for her. From me to you i hope you find away for you both.
513234
Well you need to really decide if you want to be with her-possibly forever. I didn't sound like you wanted to move where she is, Why can't she come to you? If either one of you REALLY love one another,one of you would be willing to make the small sacrifice of moving. Now she is wanting some time away from the relationship,she got tired of waiting. If you now are realizing that you were taking her for granted-then show her. Actions speak louder than words. I hope this all works out for you and if not,then maybe it just wasn't meant to be.=}
413505
i can see why im confused to.it sounds like she saying dont worry we will f*ck if anything. just try not to get attached till you  figure her out just dont waste to much of your time.it sounds like a game.she probably has another on the side and wants to see who can offer her more. in that case the good guy always loses.
299005
YOU sound nice. She sounds kinda mean (sorry) but it seems to me like she's using you.. and that you keep buying her presents and she justs takes them without doing anything for you... i can't see what YOU'RE getting from this relationship, but i don't really understand whY you want her back...
155263
is that when you're around or when you're not around? if its when you're not around, get over it, she's got friends. waht should she think if u call your friends? nothing right? if she's on the phone all the time when you are around it means u bore her -take her out for a nice meal, make her feel special. or get a movie out so the two of u can order in pizza and watch a movie together. get her interested in you again.
408262
Hiya,sounds like she has issues going on with her life that most likely have nothing to do with you, let it be and do NOT attempt to contact her, if she is interested or whatever has happened in her life has passed she will contact you,you sound like a nice and kind and caring person, you will not be absent from female company for long (smile) peace
266341
sorry that things didn't work out.. I am 27 and had a relationship i soooo wanted but it didn't happen for me.. but now i have an even better relationship.\ni believe no real relatioship should be complicated.. i try to stick with the "if someone wants to be with you then they will" It sounds a bit like she is keeping you emotionally hanging on by talking to you each day and that's very unfair, i think you should take some time to distance yourself from her and ask her not to contact you every day, she doesn't need to know ya business, she gave up that right when she split from you she probably only wants to know it to stop you from moving on.. but you really should, once she sees you doing that then she will either realise how crazy she is being and jump at the chance to be with you for real or she will move on also.. either way you will know how she really thinks and feels and move on to better times with or without her.. good luck
149004
I've been there mate, sorry to say it, but she's taking you for a ride. She's using you when she find's it convenient. Sever this "relationship" before it breaks you in two. If she's willing to treat you like that, she's not worth it. She obviously doesn't have a high regard for your feelings, because if she did, she would have got with you totally, or not at all. Sorry to say it mate, but break this one up now, please. I know how painful it will eventually be if you don't.
232351
That does sounds pretty tough.  Here's some advice:\n\nLet things go by her time.  Relationships are the definitely the result of a mutual interest and effort to get closer to each other.  You have that desire, and now she just needs to spend some time with you to see that you have it, and then she needs to discover for herself if she is willing. \n\nAt the same time, you don't want to completely leave the ball in her court.  Girls don't like that anyways, even though that is often what happens.  When you call her, make sure she knows that YOU will call her back.  When you hug her, you let go first.  You know what I mean? Good luck.
431134
she does not call you because she knows that you are going to call. I was that exact same way with my boyfriend i called him constantly and always wanted to talk and he never called me and didnt seem interested in talking well one day i finally stopped calling and what do you know guess who starts ALWAYS calling me and wanting to talk to me?!? Your rihgt!! He did!!! Give it a try i am almost positive it will work it may take a couple days to a week though! Good luck!
179959
Just say no. She'll take you for granted in the sense that because you're still around, you're available should she ever want to get back together. In the meantime, while she has you as a backup, she'll go on with her life, getting you to do all the boyfriend "work" (e.g. listening to her whine about work, traffic, her new jeans) but not giving you the boyfriend "fun" (although maybe once or twice she'll cave and fool around with you). You'll think she's just on the cusp of getting back together with you. And then she'll tell you that she's met someone else. With work, be as civil as you'd be toward any girl in whom you had absolutely no interest. But flirt with all the other girls at work so the ex gets a reminder of what she's missing.
370966
Let's be reasonable here. You dated for 60 days. Can you really expect loyalty from someone who hardly knows you? If you fee like seeing her again when you get home, call her and start fresh. But don't expect devoted loyalty from a person you only spent 60 days with. Just don't expect it.
530424
This is NOT good. Your girlfriend needs her friends. Very badly. But its better to be late than never. Remind her that she doesn't have to be with you constantly in order for your relationship to stay strong. Try to help her rekindle her old friendships by encouraging her to go up and talk to them. Although you are very important to her, having other friends is also very important.
74515
WHOA! You should defintaly try to explain yourself again and make her understand. I would be furiuos if my girlfriend stayed at her Exs for a week. Thats totally uncalled for and you have every right to be pissed. I mean theyre Exs for a reason right? Yea man thats definatly not cool, and if she insists on keeping contact with the Ex then maybe theres still some latent feelings towards him. If she doesnt get it, then tell her that her still talking with him is directly effecting your relationship and could possibly be the downfall of it as well. Godd luck with that man.
403679
First of all she is waiting for you to contact her, as she turned you down, she is probably wondering if you are still talking/friends with her. \nShe dosen't wanna change the relationship because the way it is feels safe, and she dosen't wanna change/risk that. By her saying that she dosen't deserve you shows she is maybe a bit insecure and has been hurt in the past, she feels she wouldn't live up to your expectations, Saying your easy means she would be worried that you wouldn't stay faith ful, or you would be off with the next bit of skirt that looked your way, is it that she has seen you cheat or heard how you talk even when your with someone?\nTrust her when she says she wouldn't lie, chill out, txt her saying your sorry if you put her in a difficult situation but it's was because how lovely you think she is, then go back to normal, go out like normal, don't put it off or you''ll both feel weird, just from now on make sure you don't chat up girls in front of her or talk about cheating etc, then you never know, maybe next time she'll be asking you, if it's meant to be you'll get together in time.
81415
No I don't need the detail. If she says she doesn't have time for you then theres nothing that you can do about it. Wait for her and see what happens if you are really serious about her. You can't force somebody to like you.
607116
Seems she still seeing if you are the right one.  She probably needs a little more time away from you to sort things out.  You should be content with the fact that she still cares for now.