We're now in a long distance relationship (7 hours away). I've never cheated on him.  he's a jealous type,but i love him.but i also feel sometimes that it would be easier for me to tell him now over the phone that we should take some time apart.he is very sweet and i know he loves me to death. it would kill him if i told him this, but since i was 19 i've been with him and i wish we never moved in together.  i want some time to myself now that he's gone. i'm going back to school in a couple of wks. not to mention I met this guy who is very sweet and he knows i'm in a relationship so, we are strictly friends, but i've realized that I dont' know if i'm ready to give my life away yet.   am i being selfish?
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it would make it easier on you now that he moved out and away to say to him you really feel you need your space. just let him know you've never experienced life by yourself. you were 19 when you got into this and now that your 21 (my 21 b-day is in 7 days i so syked!), you're old/young enough to experience everything you've wanted. if you feel you want to go out and have fun as a single more power to you to follow your heart and do what'll make you happy! GL
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Omg...there is so much to say about long distance relationships...I just got out of a long distance relationship about a month and a half ago, there are many many many things you should consider before pursuing a long distance relationship....we only lived about an hour and fifteen minutes away from eachother, but there will were soo many times when I Was having a bad day and just hearing his voice WAS NOT enough!!..you are going to want and need her by yourside at times when she can't be!...there will also be a lot of long, cold and lonely nights that you have no choice but to spend by yourself.I am not knocking long distance relationships, but you should really make sure you are ready for such a big step! you will have to be a strong willed person in order to make it work,because it is not easy! there will be times when you will see other couples together hand in hand, and wish it was you and her, or maybe a happy couple on T.V, but no matter what it is you will feel the pain of not being able to be with her as often as you would like especially when couples are all around you!.. but it isnt all bad though, sometimes it is very exciting! it also depends on how often you will be able to see eachother. we used to see eachother at LEAST every other weekend if not more, but it was still super hard and lonely when we werent together! my advice to you is that if deep down in your heart you really think that you guys can make it work, then go for it, and the wisest thing i can tell you is DO NOT LET OTHER PEOPLES OPINIONS INFLUENCE YOUR DECISION!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! so many people will have something to say about it, and will tell you it wont work and try to discourage you, DONT get discouraged...One of things that  kept me and him together for so long is that we didnt care what the hell other people thought about what we were doing, and in this type of situation you need to do the same thing, or else its not going to work, because people can be VERY convincing sometimes, and you just might end up missing out on one of the best things in your life!
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You're thinking a bit too far ahead. Just have faith and let things run its course. If you keep on worrying about this, then it might subconsciously affect your actions and behaviour or the actual relationship.\n\nTo answer your question though, just tell him honestly and in person. Don't make any empty promises like "We'll still be friends" or, "I will always care for you", because most of the time it doesn't work out that way. Plus, it hurts the dumpee a LOT more when you promise those things and later abandon the promises.
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If he's worth it, do it. My boyfriend lives 3 hours away from me and we're only able to see eachother once a month (maybe twice). If I didn't like him as much as I do, it wouldn't be worth it. I won't lie, it's hard. But I feel like our relationship is strong enough to get through the times we can't see each other. It also depends on how old you are. If you're too young to be able to drive yourselves to see each other, it's probably not the best idea since it'll make it harder. But if you really like this guy and you think it's worth having someone 3 hours away, rather than 3 minutes, do it. Sometimes long distance relationships help you to get to know each other better. When you're not together, you can only talk to each other. You don't have the physical stuff (even if that stuff is fun) to distract you. You have this opportunity to get to know each other very well.
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I think your reaction is completely normal.\nBut if it's been 4 years that you are together and you love so much, then it means that you know each other quite well.\nSincerely, I don't think distance is a reason to cheat on you or not.\nIf she didn't do it so far there's no reason for her to do it in the future.\n\nYou are scared and you have a lot of apprehensions because all this situation is going to be very new for both you.\n\nBut as my granny used to say "the first step is difficult but then you get used to any situation" (sorry if that sounds weird, my granny used to say it in French, but anyway, that's the idea), so my point is: I think that according to what you said your love is strong enough and you will make it with the distance.\n\nYou have to use all means available to you to stay as close as possible (emails+msn+texts+calls+letters) and you'll see that it's going to be fine.\n\nI'm currently living a long distance relationship, and it's been one year.Of course it's not the best thing in the world, and to be honest when some guys wanted to be go out with me it would have been very easy to cheat on my BF because he wouldn't even have known it.\nBut I didn't do it because I love him and also because it's too easy to fall into this cowardice.\n\nWhen you make so many sacrifices you're not willing to ruin everything so easily.\nSo I don't think that your girl will cheat on you.\n\nAnother good thing that you're not considering so far, is that you're going to learn a lot, far from her and so will she, so you should both decide to make the best of this time apart and be happy while missing each other, and I promise that everytime you'll see again it's going to be great.\nWhen you spend time apart it makes you take some distance also intellectually, and that's not so bad.When you see her again you'll be both very happy, and maybe also more turned on!\n\nYou'll feel a lot more in love and it's quite positive.\n\nTo make a long distance relationship last, it's important to keep positive.You have to decide to be happy.\nBut breaking up with her is stupid because you love her and it would make you both suffer.You're not in a catch 22, it's your own decision to be happy and you've got all the keys in hand.\nJust think about all these single people who are looking for their soulmate, if you've found your, don't let her go!\n\nBe happy and take it easy! x
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I think that is sweet...I think he loves you just like he said...but I think he is watching out for your feelings...a long distance relationship can be hard...Maybe he is also scared cause he just put his heart on his sleeve for you and that is a hard thing for a guy to do...Did you tell him you loved him?...maybe he is afraid that you don't share the same feelings for him?...Think about you feel for him...talk to him and tell him...and if you do have the same feelings for him and you think you can handle a long distance relationship...then tell him...otherwise, be careful...he told you what he feels...and I don't think he wants to lose you as friend...hope this helped some...good luck to you :)
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How far is the distance?  It doesn't mean that he IS seeing someone, just means he is either busy, trying to let you down easily or maybe he is seeing someone.  If you aren't together, then he may feel it's ok even if you don't.  Are you seeing other people?  I would suggest telling him how you feel and see where things go from there.  Long distance is hard and unless you are both committed, it won't work.  You need a lot of trust for a long distance relationship.
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girl this has just happened to me and you shouldn't feel guilty. i felt guilty but i really should have. Why don't you try talking to them or telling your friend thats here if he really likes you he will wait until you're sure. and the long distance relationship i was in i cheated on him and i felt so guilty i told him about it and we broke up. Maybe you should ask him to take a brake and set up a date you will become bf/gf on that specific date. That will show you if you know what you have or not. Maybe this will help and maybe it won't but this is what i would do if i relieved this.
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Ask yourself these questions, Do I really love my current boyfriend? Do I really like this guy in class? Would I go that low to cheat on my boyfriend but not care because he live so far away? Just think about those questions. If you would rather have a relationship w/ the boy in class, CALL* your bf and tell him that you want to take a break because your not doing so good with the distance. Then say yes to the boy in ur class. \n\n\n*break- ups over IM, or E-MAIL, anything not in person (except if u live far away) are just cheesy and shows that ur a coward
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Nope its not cos u only maintained a friendly relationship with the guy ur talking till wee hours...unless u both had a mutual understanding...as for your bf u said u don't see him for weeks nor talk to him over a week well If I'm on ur shoes i will made a decision for this...if u wear on LDR its okay but if you live with in the same area  its not good and healthy relationship when you see him now then don't for weeks.....do something before u get stray in ur relationship.
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My dear, i am in the same situation as you. my BF is 600km away. we are still studying and only meet once every 4 to 5 months. we keep our relationship more like a best friend relationship rather then a love relationship. The most importand of all is the word TRUST. with it you will be sucessful. We have been in a long distance relationship for more then 3 years now and we will be getting married end of next year. \n\nMy dear, I really want you to suceed. many people around you will discourage you saying that because he is not by your side,you will break up soon. dont believe it.  if i can make it. you can too. just trust him. do more emails to him. sms him more. call him more. send you pictuers to him via MMS or email. let him know how much you love him.\n\nI wish you all the best.
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since you have already made up your mind to study abroad, my advise is to just go ahead without worrying about your boyfriend. since you don't believe in long distance relashionships this decision basically means that you have already given up on the relashionship. It sounds to me like you need some time to find out who you are before you can commit yourself. it is only fair that you tell your boyfriend what you are planning. be honest. I wish you well.
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You need to tell him your'e moving.  If you lie him too it's a definent must.  Even if you don't don'ty you think he deserves to know where you'll be dissapearing to?  It'd break his heart if you just left and then found out "Oh she moved, she didn't tell you?"   It doesnt have to get phisical if you don't want it to, just tell him your moving when it's just you and him.  Not nessisarily alone alone, just without other friends around.
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Nah, it sounds like he isn't being honest with you, and that is a major component in a distance relationship.  If he's lying to you now then it will only get worse as time goes by and he gets away with more.  Also, once a cheater always a cheater.  It sounds like you need to find someone a bit closer.
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Then tell him, distance relationships can and do work, in the end, this world doesnt force you or anyone to stay were they are.\n\nTalk to him ask him how he feels, its certainly not too late at all. If he does feel the same way then arrange to go visit him, perhaps take turns in visiting each other to see what will happen in the long run.\n\nIn the long term there is always a possibility of you moving out to him or him back to you or the both of you to someplace completely different.\n\nMost importantly of all, it is not too late and dont kick yourself for missing an opportunity.\n\nBest wishes, and kind regards.
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Why don't you consider how deep feelings you have for him?  If you feel very strongly about him that you are even willing to wait for him for some time till you can be with him, then I suggest being patient.  After all, you can talk to him on the phone, chat with him in email and instant messenger.  Though, long-distance relationships are known for their hardship, the end result is very rewarding for both of you.\n\nHowever if you don't seem to feel deeply, and/or you're not willing to wait for him, then I suggest talking to him about break up or something so that it's clear to him about where you two stand in the relationship so that you don't feel like you're cheating on him when you try to date other guys.\n\nHope this helped. ^_^
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Your situation is very similar to what I am in. My b/f and I met online, talked for 3 weeks, then met.  We had the most unbelieveable weekend together!!  We now have been living together 5 months, but he works out of state for 2 to 3 weeks at a time.  Hopefully I can help with that I know.  \n\nThe void in your heart when you aren't talking to her is because all you two have right now, is talking.  You can't see each other every day so that's what you cling to.  Makes perfect sense, I felt the same way then.\n\nAlthough she isn't calling you as often as you'd like, what do you two have to talk about, that you haven't talked about in the last 2 months?  Those hour long phone calls don't last forever because seriously, what else is there to talk about?  My b/f and I decided a call in the morning and a call in the evening would be the best way to handle that.  We could wish each other good morning and tell each other have a good day, but we'd play catch up at night.  We always make sure to tell each other even the little things that happen throughout our day because we both feel like we too are experiencing things even when we can't be together.  \n\nWe do have seperate lives too.  When he is home, we are together 100% but when we are apart, I go out with my girlfriends and he goes out with his work crew.  Don't think for a minute I am not thinking of him when I am out.  He feels the same because many times, he calls me when he is out with the guys.  My point is, you can't just sit at home and mope, wondering what the other is doing.  You need to live too.  Have fun, do hobbies, go out with your buddies.  Keep your mind busy until you can be with her again.  \n\nIf it's meant to be, it will happen.  Don't rush or pressure her and don't be clingy and needy. You have to trust her.  If you don't, you will lose her for sure.