a person who does not want to talk, is afraid of everything and everyone, has lost his confidence, does not want to go to work which he has been doing for the last 20 years, does not go out, cannot concentrate on anything not even reading newspaper.He has to be pushed into doing even small jobs at home. Gets irritated easily.He is even afraid ofgoing to the doctor and explaining anything. Does not wish to take telephone calls of relatives/freinds. Has become forgetful but remembers things of past, even 20 years old. He had a memory like an elephant could do mental mathematical calculations faster than a calculator which used to amaze people. Doctor has described his condition as Involution Meloncholy. I would like to know exactly what this condition is and why it happens and what is the cure? How can I help him? I am his wife and worried about him and would do anything that will help him to come out of this condition.
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in·vo·lu·tion (nv-lshn) A progressive decline or degeneration of normal physiological functioning occurring as a result of the aging process. Also called catagenesis.\nThis is an illness that he has no control over and can be a very difficult thing for you as his wife to deal with. Can I make a suggestion, take him to a Homeopath, they deal very well with such things as Meloncholy and they will treat him not just for the condition but all of him.\nie: his likes, dislikes, sleep pattern, fobias, eating pattern, times of the day and night when he feels worse etc. I have studied 2 years of Homeopathy and have seen miricles  with this wonderful natural medicine (even over night when the right remedy is given). I cannot express how much I believe Homeopathic medicine will help him. If you like, email me and I will give you some great examples of what I have seen Homeopathy cure...its amazing. Good luck hunni and stay strong, he is lucky to have you!. Big Hugs.
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smile. Im with you on this one. My mind is slowing down. I always thought I was fine. Never got depressed like my other friends but yes, the minds slowing down. Is concentration a huge prob as well?....the best thing I do is eat lots of fresh foods everyday, keep up your daily vitamin intake as well. Water is very underated and should be drunk in masses! There is a herbal drug out there called H2JK (or something like that - someone help us here) but it helps with the memory. Admittingly im very smart witted, its just Im starting to forget things....best of luck and lets see how you go :-)
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i had this fear myself.  i took a public speaking class from a university.  speaking in front of small groups, then building up to larger groups really helped build my confidence.  speaking about something i was truly passionate about helped as well.  i constantly had to force myself to speak at some sort of public function to overcome this fear.  now i emcee large events with ease, because i have done it over and over.   if that doesn't help him, he actually may need to seek help from a professional for possible social anxity disorder.
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well see the doctor but let me tell you the best thing you can do before hand and keep your memory in good shape buy a small notebook and keep an organizer in your purse and every time you have something in mind write it down, that way you wont forget and you keep your brain focused at all time, I already know that if you go to the doc they are going to give you pills and junk to make you think its going to work think about it, your 21 and your to young to have a problem I think you are not focusing on things, the notebook will refresh your brain and memory and after some time you will train your self to remember just give it time and don't forget to write your what to do list everyday, and little things like what people have said to you for your personal reference........ belive me Ive tried it and it works ............Dont stress out to much .........
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I have dealt with this too. The best thing to do is for him to start back on his meds. But with someone with this condition you can not convince them. They have to decide for themselves and sometimes they do. You can try to talk to him when he is being nice if you think it is safe. But I know from experience their mood can change quickly. If he is not on his meds you should not be there. It can be dangerous. I know you care for him but you do not want something bad to happen. Find someone to live with until you have the money to move, a friend, a parent, someone.
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There are plenty of disorders that it could be.  Most mental disorders if they are severe enough can prevent someone from working.  Schizophrenia is one disorder that some people find it hard to hold a steady job with. Severe anxiety and depression can cause it too.  I can see why you may think it a bit odd that he can be a boyscout leader and work on cars but not get a job.  However, maybe the people he does those things for understand the situation and understand if he cannot complete a task on time or show up for a meeting once in awhile.\n\nYes, other people with mental disorders take medication and work, however, sometimes the disorders can be more severe than others.  For example, there are people who are anxious who just feel that way sometimes while severe cases can't even leave their house.  The same with depression there are people who frequently feel a little down and others who are so bad they can't get out of bed.  Also, for some particularly strong disorders they need medication but the medication has awful side effects which prevent them from having a steady job.\n\nPeople with mental health problems can be just as disabled or even more so than people with physical disabilities.  It is just that their impairment is usually not as obvious.   However, to get social security for a disability (assuming he does get it) you have to have proof from a psychiatrist or doctor and sometimes even more than one.\n\nIt is possible that he could be lying, however, I wouldn't jump to that conclusion based on the information you provided and the fact that you don't know the particular mental disorder he suffers from.
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Hi Mike, I'm sorry to hear this is worrying you. Ironically, just last month, I spoke with someone who has this disorder. This guy is a business owner, and actually very nice. His entire family knows, and understand. \n\nAccording to him, the different personalities were created to deal with stressful situtions. One can be aggressive, another shy, or one extroverted and outgoing. Many people choose to integrate the personalities, rather than get rid of them. This means the personalities work as a team, and understand the purpose each one serves. Not to make light of what you're going through, but sometimes I wish I had a few stand in's. lol Some say it's not an illness or disease, just an advanced coping mechanism of the mind.  \n\nThe main personality is called a "host" and the others are "alternates". These are just a few terms used, but there are others.  To answer your question, if you're over 21, I would begin searching for a qualified therapist, and after you have been confirmed as having DID, I would then figure out ways to tell your family. You can also join one of the yahoo groups dedicated to DID. They might provide more insight and suggestions. Whatever you decide, I wish you well Mike. Here is a link to yahoo did groups. Cut and paste to your browser: http://tinyurl.com/l9bls
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Tell him you're worried about him and see what he says...I've come across some people who are schizophrenic, and they talk and talk and talk and make up a lot of what they say-usually schizophrenics just want people to listen to them, that's all.  Say stuff like, "I know your job sucks, man, you can do better," and things like that.  He can still change jobs; some older people stay at the same job for years and years because they're afraid nothing else is out there for them.  I know this eighty-year-old guy who works at a doughnut shop & he probably hates it, but he doesn't get all upset about it.
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First of all, please have him evaluated by a psychiatrist. There are so many mental disorders that strike men at about the age of 15 on up. I can't say what his problem might be, but the sooner you have him evaluated , the sooner you can get him the help he needs. It may as simple as some medication or re-education on a possible learning disorder.
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You should really go see your family doctor and let him or her know what is going on.  They can prescribe antdepresants and antianxiety medications to fit your specific needs.  Breathing exercises and hobbies help also, they help keep you mind off of things.
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I am a licensed mental health professional and while I certainly would never diagnose you online, I do think other writers are on the right track.  What you are describing really does correspond with symptoms of depression. The good news is that this is a common and very treatable illness.  While you don't want to go to the doctor, you need to remember that depression (or any type of mental illness) is nothing to be ashamed of.  If you were diabetic would you hesitate or be embarassed to seek treatment?  Heck I'm a professional and have experienced depression. I got the help I needed and moved on with my life.  There are so many new medications and other options you can speak with a professional about.  This is all about taking care of yourself and getting the most you can out of life.  I would recommend getting a referral for a practitioner who has some experience in treating depression.  If money is an issue, almost all communities have free or low cost resources. In the mean time, try to share what is going on with your boyfriend and other people you trust.  Let them be there for you.  If you want to talk please feel free to contact me.  My email is jazzy_59602@yahoo.com.
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Why can't you ask a psychologist to diagnose you... are you under age and your parents don't want to (go see the school counselor)? Is there no insurance or an issue with your insurance company in this regard? Or does the mere thought turn your anxiety up through the roof (this one is a strong indicator for the first condition I mention below)?\n\nAnyway...\n\nLosing concentration in a social situation, and having difficulty conversing with others, could be any number of things.\n\nSocial Anxiety/agoraphobia is the most likely cause, but it takes a clinical psychologist or psychiatrist to do any diagnosis, so don't take what I'm saying as one. Anyway, agoraphobia is treated with medication and therapy. It can also contribute to difficulty concentrating at school and in other stressful situations, and can be a quite serious condition.\nYou might have attention deficit...but that by itself usually does not make someone a "social recluse"...quite the opposite!\nIt probably isn't Asperger's (although like I said before, I'm not diagnosing you, here). In the autistic spectrum, the person does not read social cues from others or learn social rules effectively. They also usually don't show their own emotions with the same set of body language as everyone else. While people with autistic-spectrum disorders, especially the higher-intelligence ones, feel a great deal of anxiety in social situations, it's more a foot-in-mouth problem rather than clamming up, especially for Aspergers. This is a generalization, but I'm trying to summarize this in less than half a page..lol.\n\nAnyway, the ONLY way to really identify your exact issue and needs is to get a diagnosis, and treatment through couselling (and medication if absolutely necessary).
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That's a tough thing for anyone to go through and probably more so for a police officer or detective. That is a high stress and emotionally draining job I would think. Does he go out or stay in a lot? If he stays in a lot, try to get him to go out. He needs to do things to build his self confidence again. Going to the gym, join a group that does things he has similiar interests in, take a couse at a local college just for fun ex: writing, art, etc. You didn't say if he could return to that work in another city or not. That might be one option. There are many other jobs he could get with his vast skills and experience and he could take some courses at a college to add to his skills and head his vocation in another direction. He could also volunteer to go to schools and talk to children. I would not push him to get a job until he is feeling better about himself and when that time comes, I would suggest a part-time one. Let him know that he has the power to turn a bad turn of events into a positive and meaningful one. He is fortunate to have such a caring and concerned friend like you. Good Luck with your friend and I hope things get better for him.
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I have a very very mild form, it used to be worse.  I did feel like a burden to my husband when it was bad, now it's a lot better and it's to the point where I can force myself to leave the house when I don't really feel like it.  I am not in any kind of treatment anymore, but when I was, my therapist recommended starting very very slowly, thinking of the things that made me nervous at first, and then trying something that would make me only a tiny bit nervous, and working my way up from there.
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>>1. does all sorts of wrong things (even immoral like lying) to attract attention of other family members.<<\nThis may be his way of crying out for attention if he feels he's not getting enough for his needs.  Any attention, even negative, is still attention. Is there a way to schedule rotating visitors so he has regular company?  That may alleviate this.\n\n\n>>2. Has become very irritable even though he is dependent on others for his day to day activities like bathing, hyegine etc.<<\nActually it is BECAUSE he's dependent that he's irritable.  Think about it, if tomorrow you could no longer wipe your own butt how embarassing & frustrating it would be to have to have/let someone do it for you.  After decades of independence, it's very hard to give that up and realize you are where you are in life.  \n\n>>3. Has become one track mind regarding his eating habits - e.g. if he starts eating chinese , he will want it daily... gets addicted to soft driks etc etc<<\nDon't know about this but if you can get him to eat & drink, let him do it.  I mean what's the worst that's going to happen?  Work a bargain into it "if you have this nutritious lunch, we'll have XYZ for dinner" to be sure he's still getting good stuff but don't fight too hard on it either, let him have some pleasure/sense of winning.  It will make other things easier.\n\n>>IS someone having such prblems.<<\nI took care of my Nana for a year and to get her to drink ANY liquid was such a battle. \n\n>> are these problems age related <<\nYup.\n\n>>AND we have to live with them?<<\nYup.  Can't hurt at all to mention it to his doctor just in case but alot of it you do have to just cope with. \n\nEnjoy every minute you can; I can't describe the pain/frustration that comes with not having them around anymore.  I'd fight my Nana 24/7 to drink if it meant I could have her back.\n\nGood luck.
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This is a serious illness in which I also have.  I take medication and go to cognitive behavioral therapy.  This helps you to "train" and "change" your thoughts from bad ones and get rid of the "what ifs."\n\nI usually suffer when driving and it is scary.  Hang in there, I know that it is a long fight, but maybe it is good to know that you are not alone :)
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A high stress level and depression can cause memory loss.  If he is having a lot of anxiety problems it could be an affect from withdrawal of smoking or maybe he simply has too many things going on at once.