We have been together for 7 years.Do I let him go his way?
128307
Just realize that you don't want to be with someone who doesn't want to be with you. And even if you did decide to take him back you'd have to decide if you wanted his infidelity to taint your relationship pretty much forever. Once trust has been lost in that way its really tough to get it back. And even then you are aware of exactly what he is capable of. Once a cheater always a cheater and don't think that isn't true.\n\nWhat you have to realize about people who cheat is they are always looking for the greener side of the grass and at any moment they may decide they have found it again. You deserve to be secure in your relationship and not constantly worried by this possibility.\n\nMy advice is to think of what you deserve to be happy. Don't be mean and spiteful, instead just do what he has done and worry about your own happiness. 7 years may be a long time, but the rest of your life is longer. You will know what is right for you. I decided to walk away and every day I thank god I did, because I am so much happier for it.
325139
i think you need to have a heart 2 heart talk. lay you cards out and be open with him. just because you dont spend time together like you used to dose not mean it should be over. in relationships things change and the only way to keep the rship alive is to adapt to the change. maybe he thinks you are the one who is changing. you will never know if you dont find out. if you care about him you wont let him go. good luck
376368
you are right it will not last if you stay in fla and he goes to az. so one of you has to move where the other is moving or break up. so one of you has to make the big decision as to what to do. right?\ngood luck and god bless and happy holidays.
526641
Let him know how you feel if things remain this way get out while you can. If he loves you he will change his ways. Things will only get worse if you done deal with them now.
217426
Personally I think that is old history and should just stay in the past.  However the real question here is can you truly forgive him and not let this haunt you?  If you can't then this relationship will eventually crumble and you might as well get out now.
209020
since you have been a couple for two years I think you owe him the courtesy of telling him that you want to part company.  I don't think you need to be cruel and say you found someone else all ready, if it is not necessary.  The relationship is stale and nothing is more demeaning to both parties, than just keeping someone around because they are comfortable, and better than no date, or cowardice of the stating former.  Not only should you want more for yourself, you should respect him enough to want more for him.
444914
Your going to have to let the part go if your wanting this relationship. People make mistakes and don't always make the right decisions. If he is back with you and that is what you want then don't worry about and get on with your life.>
236941
Actually, I think the amount of time that passed is NOT important, however, did you change? Did she change? Why did you split up 7 years ago? Consider these answers before leaping again, and make sure you both know what you are expecting from the other.
119827
leave him- you deserve better
671573
Well, something has changed. I was in a crazy horrible relationship for way too long, let me help you out. First, have you tried talking to him about this?  Regardless....No one and I mean no one has the right to make you feel second class. No matter how long you have been together. It is sad and scarey when things start going down hill after years together but just because you have invested time is no reason to stay and find out if he is really going to hit you. Love doesn't behave this way. My guess is that he is doing something wrong and all that hiding is making him guilty and he is projecting that onto you. It is a pretty standard jackass tactic. You are better than that.....I wish you the best in making a decision that is safe and fulfilling for you. We only get one life.
363157
Not sure how old either of You are... but just do the best you can do, until either you find a way to be with him.. or until You both decide to just call it quits... and good luck, i know You must be hurting alot right now... *hugs*
465694
Distance can suck royally, but if you two made it work before you can make it work again... I understand that after being together you don't want to part, but if he has to move back then he has to and I don't think you should let distance get in the way of your heart. It's only another year then you're done and free to move over to Ohio with him.
139892
its a really tough situation. i have the same problem. If its been going on for  long time you need to meet up and put him on the spot, ask him if he loves you. he may say yes or he may say no but at least your clear on where you stand so you can get on with things. if he does say no don't do the friends thing. the ony way he'll realise he loves you is to see what his life would be like without you.
609296
If he leaves you because of an age difference there is no future with him anyway. I know many couples where the woman is older and they are just fine.\n\nSimply tell him and let him decide if he's a man who can handle it or a boy who can't.
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Sounds as if he has moved on in his mind and left you and the marriage behind. Sad that after 8 years. How you can improve your marriage is how you react to the sitution right now. Don't beg or bug him about anything. Give him some room and the old saying if you set someone free and they come back they are yours is very true............
377346
No, you are most definitely being fair and unselfish.  However, I can understand how this relationship would turn sour if you led him on, which I don't think you intend to do... but can sometimes happen accidentally (I speak from experience!).  Make sure that you understand your feelings and that he expresses himself to you truly. Maybe you can agree to not have an orthodox "relationship." Afterall, we are in a new century, brinking on the 7th year, and the possibilities are endless! Maybe you can just 'date,' go to movies, dinner, coffee, have fun together... but just not with all the strings attached that the word 'relationship' attaches! Then, if you both enjoy each other's company you can decide later what to do... it'd be pointless to miss out on the wonderful opportunities and feelings that you'll encounter in a relationship, even if it does only last for a little while. But that's the thing about relationships, friends, love...they come and go and there's really nothing we can do about it except enjoy every minute of the present.  Avoiding the future is hard, and you'll have some decision-making to do come uni time, but just let that wait. Don't stress too much about the future! It's waiting for you, don't wait for it. If you end up falling head over heels, you'll both figure out a way to work it out (I speak from experience!). \n\nHope that helps!!
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I personally dont think so I started dating my fiance at the age of 16 and he was 22. But it really depends are how mature you are. \nYou must remeber he is 7 yrs older than you. So he has experienced alot more than you have. You must ask your self if you think he is willing to let you take your time in certain aspects of your relationship. And that he understands your needs and wants at your age.  \n\nWell good luck for the future