I don't know what to do all my ex boyfriend is tryeing o do is make me cry. When we was going out he said he didn't like this one girl and now in school he is walking with her holding her hand and is all over her. He even looked at me then smirked and put his arm around her and every where I walk he has to be right there with her like he is telling me I someone better. Out side of me is laughing and playing like I don't even notest it but in side I screaming and crying and I'm hurtting so bad I almost started crying but I stoped my self because I don't want to look all stupid. I don't get it when we was going out he said he couldn't stand her and called her a whore and a bunch of stuff and now all of a suden he likes her. Pluss she does not have a good repataion she has sleep with mostly every guy in the school and and no one thinks she hot and so now I think there is something wrong with me the way I look or something.So what can I do ? please Help befor I do explode and start crying!
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He is playing hard to get. The reason he is doing this is because he wants to see you down and out. I suggest being more flirty with other single guys. Don't get tore up inside, people can sense that even if you are smiling. Hang with friends more, and most of all, IGNORE HIM. When he calls to talk, don't answer. It's hard to do but don't. Or if you do answer, make it short and like you are real busy. Men want what they can't have and that has been proven. Act like you have no time. If you give him your attention, he's gonna know at the snap of his fingers, he can have you back. When you start to make it clear that you have moved and are far more happier without him, he will go crazy to get you back. Turn down his attempts, and maybe after 5 trys, take him back. Enjoy his pain as he does yours. Hopefully though, you will realize, that there are more fishy's in the sea.
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i understand you are very frustrated...\n\n... i can see that you want him to make a decision\nbecause you hate being taddled along and dragged about\n....\nand you want a definite 'relationship' or 'not' kind of\n... relationship...\n\n... and i bet you... he understand that as well...\nbut put yourself in his shoes..\n\nif you had a boyfriend and were getting along fine...\nand suddenly, a single guy enters your world...\n\nand completely blows you away...\n.. now what would you do?\nyou might say, 'i'll take him,' but it's not that easy...\n\nhe's struggling...\nand i might take a step further to say...\nmaybe his girlfriend is on him about this...\nmaybe she's getting the hint he's not 100% committed to her\n\nmy best advice to you is... give him time...\n\nif you constantly prod him, he might completely ignore you..\n.. if you give him room for thinking and reconsidering,\nhe will seriously weigh it out...\n\n... moreover, he will see your understanding side\nand your compassionate, openness and he will run to you..\n\n.. meanwhile, you go out and have some fun...\ni don't mean cheat on your soon-to-be-boyfriend\nbut go out and meet your friends... guys and gals...\n\nmeeting other gals will set you back to your\ngiggling-chatty-girly mode, which will ultimately put you\nin a euphoria of confidence..\n\nplus, guys will drool over you, and you can neglect them\nand gain higher self-esteem...\n\ngodspeed
37281
He doesn't like you, he wants you, there's a difference. He may have realized he lost a good thing, but that's the key; he lost it. You have a new guy now and he sounds like he's not to bad a guy. Your ex on the other-hand approached you and tried to get you to dump your guy! If he cared at all for what you felt he'd have left you alone.
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He's blowing you off, but there may be a lot of truth to what he says. Unfortunately, I've used that line and lived to regret it. She was a great girl, but I didn't want to get exclusive. Sometime afterward, I wished I hadn't broke up with her because the other girls I met were not near as nice as she was. Hope that gives you some kind of consolation. You do deserve someone better, and you will find him.
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Just because things went wrong with his relationship with your friend doesnt mean it wont work out for you and him.  SHE could just be telling u things to make u not trust him so you dont go out with him.  NEVER EVER listen to other people!  always go on your own judgement and what he tells u himself!  She was all moddy because she is still hurting  from the break up.  So of course she will be moody and a little upset for awhile.  I say things could work for u and him as long as u stop listening to other people and judge him for himself!  Good luck to u
26414
Heh.\n\nHe prolly doesn't know how to act. Maybe he does want to be with you but feels uncomfortable. Sounds like there's prolly still some bad blood that has to do with the breakup from before.
239604
leave him. no one should treat you like that. there is some one out there better for you. your worth more than he is. it seems like hes trying to not lesson to your problem and thats wrong. any one that cares for another person will here them out and be there for them, and at less try to understand and help them. plus i know what your going through, every girl needs afection or how ever you spell it. so go out there and find some one thats worth having you as a girlfreind!
35605
You need to cy and let all your anger go. You should not keep it to your self. Cry for him now but in the furure not. He doesn't deserve you to be crying for him. If he din't tell you why you two broke up then he doesn't deserve you.
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Honey, please don't tear yourself up.  Remember, that you are a valued person, your have a life that can be beautiful. Don't let her use you, respect yourself, where is your self-esteem? Next time she calls, be polite and considerate, but let her know that you have your own life and she isn't in it.  Politely tell her to find another ex to cry to.You my friend are worth so much more than to be used as a sounding board. Stop feeling sorry for yourself, and find someone who appreciate you for you . Please, do this for yourself.  I found someone I adore and am adore back, we would nerve be disrespectful of each other as she is to you.  Take a long hard look at yourself, you are one hell of a women. Someone out there is dying to meet you.
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Honey, You no in your heart what she is doing to you. I no it hurts and the whole thing sucks but we all been through it.It's right there in our face and we refuse  to see it.If you keep after her she will tell you point blank that she doesn't love you any more and she has been seeing her ex for awhile now.Don 't let her do that to you,beat her to the punch.Tell her you don't care what she does because you have been seeing someone for over 6 months now and you love her.I no you won't take my advise. You don't no me but I am giving you good advise so please take it. I hope everything works out for you.If the pain gets to hard for you, don't think about tomorrow take it a minute at a time or a hour what ever it takes. Don't let this girl get the best of you.
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Hello:\n\nFirst off, I know exactly how you are feeling. My ex-boyfriend and I spent more time fighting than we did simply being happy with each other. It just got to be so frusterating. Ultimately I just decided that something wasn't working because we were arguing about the same few things. \n\nWe decided to sit down and have a serious talk about it. One of our main problems was that he was an incredibly jealous person, and I usually am not. He would get upset if he saw me talking to one of my guy friends. I have never ever been unfaithful to anyone and just could never do that to someone, and yet he always assumed that I was messing around behind his back. \n\nAnd then he would get frusterated that I was such a trusting person, and that I would never confront him for talking to another girl. So he started pushing the limits a little bit in order to make me jealous, and boy did it work. It just seemed that we were spending so much time hurting each other. And we agreed that the relationship wasn't working out. \n\nNow we are both in relationships, and we remain friends. And both of our relationships are much more successful than we ever were together. Some relationships just aren't meant to be. It was through that experience that I realized it isn't enough to simply love someone, there is more to making a relationship work. \n\nI would suggest having a serious talk with your girlfriend. Figure out which things you are fighting about most often, and I'm sure you will find a common thread. Then you need to decide if it's worth it to make an effort to fix the relationship, or if it's time to move on. \n\nI wish you the best of luck, and I hope this helps!
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Well, I'm sorry, but it really doesn't sound like this boy has his loyalty values placed in the right spot in his mind. He toyed with this girl, let her toy with him in return, and kept secrets from you. That is definitely betrayel, and you have every right to be bothered and upset. Could you give him a second chance? Of course. Especially because he seems to be respecting your wishes now and not talking to her anymore. If he didn't care about what you wanted, he probably could have broken up with you and gone on seeing this girl. The decision really is up to you, though. If you feel like you can forgive him for this and give him another shot and staying with you (assuming that he has learned his lesson), then by all means go for it. But if you are still really bothered by this and think that it could definitely happen again, and he still has strong feelings for this girl, then maybe you should consider moving on. It would be very hard because you love him...but if he is not going to be loyal to you, your relationship would never last. And love is not very useful in a non-existent relationship.\n\nThink it over carefully. Talk with your boyfriend about what you are feeling, and see what he has to say about it. If he cares for you, there is bound to be something that he can do to make you feel better. Base your judgements off of a sound conclusion that you are certain of, and remember to do what you believe is right, and what will be best for both you and him. Sometimes decisions like this are all a matter of the heart, especially when dealing with forgiveness. I wish you luck!
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he obviously still has feelings for you.  its easier to hide your true feelings than it is to put yourself out there with the risk of being hurt worse. i would guess that sometimes hes in a mood where he thinks that being mean to you will get him over you and other times he thinks being nice could get you back... or he could be playing the game where he thinks you'll want what you can't have (making out with other girls)  depending on the history and context of the break-up there could also be things that hes reminded of when he sees you that cause him to lash out.  if theres still anything there for you, call him out on it and say that he'd be better off telling you how he really feels than making himself look worse every time.  good luck.
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If he is believing what this other girl is saying, then he is unlikely to want to talk to you.  If I were you I would put all the truth in a letter and send it to him.  Try to keep it as brief as you can with all the details in the first few lines in case he thinks it is just a ploy to get him back.  What you write in your first couple of lines need to hit him in the face so he wants to continue reading.  Maybe getting to the point straight away saying ..."such and such(girl who is spreading rumours) is telling you lies, I have proof, please read on"  That should get his attention so that he will read on to get your side on things.\n\nYou have friends on your side, so that is a real plus, they obviously believe you over her and if you have their support it wont be long until your ex finds out the truth too and this girl is exposed for who she really is.  It will be her who loses out in the long run.  Vindictive people only have their victory for such a short time and then it all blows up in their face.  You have the truth on your side and the truth should always win out in the end.  Note I say, should.  Your ex may genuinely like this girl so wont be ready to believe the truth even if it does hit him in the face.  If she has won him over, then it is going to take some pretty clever thinking on your behalf and you have to start thinking of ways to expose this girl so that no-one will have any doubts, including your boyfriend.  Maybe talk to this girl yourself....set her up and tape the conversation.  Your ex boyfriend cannot deny the truth if he hears it with his own ears.  Girls at your age are pretty smart at working out ways to get back at the "bad" guy.  Use your imagination, there are ways to expose this girl.  Get together with your friends, think as a group how you can achieve what it is you want.\n\nI wish you all the best and I hope you get your boyfriend back.  But even if you dont, a girl as loyal as you wont have any problem finding another boy who trully trusts you and wont easily be put off by words of a stranger, and basically that is what has happened.  He has known you for much longer than he has known her, yet he has believed her over you.  If he believed in you, he wouldnt have been so easily put off. so I would really be questioning if he is the right one for you.  It was too easy for this girl to pull him away from you, so it seems to me he hasnt much loyalty and is too ready to believe the negative instead of trusting his girlfriend.\n\nGood luck...hope it all turns out the way you want it to.
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He sounds like in actuality he's probably seeing someone else or something triggered his reaction.  Its best that you don't rely on him for answers.  Who cares if he doesn't "give" you closure.  You go ahead and take it.  You tell him how it is.  Tell him that he hurt your feelings and that anyone who truely loved you wouldn't do that.  Tell him that you don't think you can be his friend anymore and then you need to stick to your word.  Go out with some friends and try to get over him.  Don't wait around for him because what he's doing is manipulative and cruel.  All you'd be doing is the exact same thing he's doing to you.  Women tend to allow men to take the action in the relationship and its to our own detriment.  Take control and you'll feel better in the end.  Granted, you're going to be sad for awhile, but just delete him from your immediate circle of availability.
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been there .done that.your ex has a major problem in that he truly thinks he's all that and he WANTS girls fighting over him.it makes his pin head bigger sothe next time he comes on to you you grab him by the throat and tell him that you are NOT going to play his game.if he wants to be with you he's gonna have to ditch your friend and prove to you he's done so before you'll have anything to do with him.THEN GO TELL YOUR FRIEND what's been going on so she can keep an eye on him.let her know that you're not trying to start problems but she needs to be made aware and tell her you think he's doing it just to have you two fighting over him.She probably will get mad at you they always do.But here's what I did when my ex started playing that game.His girlfriend kept calling and threatening me so i finally got tired of it and told her he was chasing me and if she did'nt believe that i could and would prove it to her.the next time he came by my place banging on the door begging to talk to me,i called her,made sure she answered and told her to listen an then i let him in.we had a nice chat with him telling me how he did'nt want to be with her,how stupid she was and evan how bad she was in bed.he told me how no-one could make him feel like i did and he missed me and loved me and would do absolutely ANYTHING to prove it.So i picked up the phone and told him to tell her it was over and he balked.when i told him to take the phone it was for him he literally turned white.she heard every word he'd said and he knew it.after another month of her chasing him everywhere begging for his attention we did get back together for a short time before someone else turned his head and he tried playing the same game.i sent him on his way with my blessing and told him i was better off without him.i refused to play.his new woman stole his paychecks and spent all his money on drugs and alcohol that HER other boyfriends helped her consume.when he tried to force her to work on being with just him she cut up all his clothes,destroyed his furniture and trashed their apartment and he had to pay the damages,and when he came crawling to me for comfort i laughed at him.it took a long time but there was a happy ending for us we've been together the last 10 yrs and i can't get the man to so much as go out for a beer without me.It's called TOUGH LOVE honey.If you're gonna be with an asshole you have to learn to be a bigger and better asshole than he is.DO NOT LET HIM FORCE YOU TO STOOP TO HIS LEVEL.no matter what!!!!!don't get mad in front of another woman he's with ever.act like it don't bother you they're hanging all over one another.if a comment is made to you by either of them ignore it or tell the offender that they deserve each other because theiy'reboth beneath you and go on your merry way.it'll make them both nuts!try if you can to never be anywhere they are by yourself because you'll need witnesses when he tries to pull you into a dark corner to talk.and i promise you that he will but you just have to tell him firmly that you have no time to talk to a man who has a woman waiting for him and he'd best be getting back to her side.hopefully,you'll find yourself a great guy who'll make you want to forget this one while you're playing "who gives a s***.Always keep your dignity.that's one of the few things that NO-ONE can take unless you give it.if you get mad in front of him or her he'll think you want to be his door-mat.good luck.
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He's not trying to make you jealous.  You're already jealous.  It's not your place to tell him anything about his girlfriend.  First of all, you don't even know if those rumors are true.  I know that you want something to be wrong with their relationship because you still like him.  You asked this question earlier and you didn't get the answers that you were looking for.  So you asked it again hoping that someone will make it okay for you to sweat your ex. The fact to the matter is...Your ex is in a relationship and there is nothing you can do about it.  Stop allowing your ex to flirt with you because it is only making matters worst for you.  When he flirts with you remember he has a girlfriend.  You are allowing him to have his cake and eat it too.\n\nMove on and find someone else.  This relationship is over.  Don't jump on his back  for rides it only makes you look easy.  He will think that he doesn't have to get back with you because you are acting easy.  Why buy the cow when you can have the milk for free? The only person that is getting hurt is you.  I bet he's on the phone right now with his girlfriend so move on.