my boyfriend performed the sexual act of squirting on me he pushed hard when i pushed away he pushed harder he said sometimes he loses his mind. Later on that night i bled, i went to the doctors they did a smear test i had an infection, and the test came back as no reading because of the swelling i had to take another one asap but that showed to be ok. i told him later he wasnt sorry for making me bleed just sorry for me havig to go to the doctors thats all . he said it was good hard sex. Is he right? or is it abuse.
120463
its abuse, you said no.\n\nsex is between consenting adults, and did you consent that is the question you should ask?
627237
you  need to go to planned parenthood or see another doctor for a second opinion.  you could have herpes or maybe vaginitis.  you could have a few things going on all at once. you could have a uti also. you should have your significant other tested as well.  you never know, by looking at someone, if they are actually telling the truth or not.  he may have something and not even know it.  it's just safer and smarter to get tested and make sure you get a second opinion.
19288
If it is your first time, then it was perfectly normal. After first sex, bleading cause of the tear of hymen, that protect your virginia. But if it isn't ur first time, then may be that time you are not relaxed. If not, then I advice please contact to the doctor. No, you are not pregnant if you took any precaution, like condom, pills etc.
551206
well there could be many factors.\nfirst off, he could have popped your cherry (wether ur a virgin or not because mine wasnt popped till i got with my fiance)\nor he could have just been to rough and tore some tissue in there and the pain above ur hip bone could be from him being to rough or maybe u just havent had sex in a while because i still have that pain from time to time when my husband is too rough. you shouldve told him to stop when u were having the pain. becuase if ur not able to talk to him and let him know how you feel and when somethings hurting then ur not ready to have sex yet (atleast with him that is) now if it was unprotected sex u could have gotten pregnant and ur having implantation bleeding (which is when the sperm implants, but that depends on how much your bleeding) and last factor could be that maybe you started your period today. but to be sure maybe you should ask you doctor.\ngood luck with everything.
528536
people just dont understand modern terms if there has been no sigms of bleeding during your sexual acts than there is probualy nothing to be concerned usaly there is a pretty good amount of blood when she is deflowerd so i seriously doubt you have also there I take it been able to continue this with out pain so i think you are ok
593622
if he's yr fiance you should be able to talk to him about it...Has it always happened, if it itches or does he still feel like he has to pee after he's done peeing? Talk about it... and humans can contract things from years ago and they just don't feel it's THAT bothersome so they live with it and it can become "Normal" for them.  But you need to have it checked out for both of you... You want to be healthy and you want yr man to be healthy!  No blaming, no accusing (like some of the responses  your gonna get)
426419
Yes, you did the best thing.  You were honest with him about what you wanted in your relationship with him, and I won't give you the unprotected sex speech, and he didn't want to commit to you because he was already seeing someone else (and still having unprotected sex with you), which is why all of your apology attempts didn't matter.  I'm unsure why you were apologizing since you didn't do anything wrong but ask for a monogomous relationship.  You're better off without him and the fact that you wished him well just shows that you're taking the high road.  I highly doubt that this current relationship will last very long, but if nothing else, please protect yourself in the future!
140471
That also happens to me, although i have not had intercourse, but i can't orgasim, because i am afraid to pee on him. He wants me to orgasim for him, so bad, that he said that the nexttime i am close, no matter where we are (car, house, hotel,) he is not stoping till it happens. He said it is ok if i pee on him. He doesn't care, because he wants to make sure i am satisfied. Isn't that LOVE!\n\nBut anyway i found out that some women, have a build up of fluid and it is not pee, it comes as they are aroused. Not pee
595413
You had sex with two guys that is really bad you need to go to a clinic and get checked out so that you don't have a disease or something. Well that is bad because you had sex with a friend and then your boyfriend! How old are you and why are you having sex like that?
562043
Generally speaking the human body knows what it needs.  If your lady friend is sore and not up to it then you should wait.  I have heard of endowed men ripping vaginal tissue in women and the tissue needing to heal.  I have heard of men needing to rest after pushing to hard on nonwet vaginal tissue, and ripping penis skin.  But if you are of normal size, she was wet and you didn`t jack rabbit her...id say you are good to go so to speak as soon as the two of you want.
3655
Thats not Cool. It would be legaly considered rape.Just because he's your boyfriend dosent give him the right to take advantage of you. You could explain to him that he got the wrong signal from you.Maybe you should have explained your stance on sex before you slept with him in the same bed...but dont think that its your fault.He shouldnt have done that with out your permission.
564992
Usually assault is intentional. It sounds like your partner didn't mean to hurt you and probably didn't hear you. If your partner is loving in every other way and this is the first time you've been hurt, I would chaulk it up to getting carried away in the heat of the moment. If it happens again or becomes a habit, then it's time to reevaluate.
448642
i didnt get to read your question yesterday, but am a little saddend by some of the responses you got to this one. there isnt much i can say to take your mind off things. but your right. your injury is very seriouse. did he do that to you ?  have you tried  emailing a health website for advice ? im not in america so i dont know of any there. good luck and ignore the hurtful responses, one day they may need some sympthy!
283917
Maybe you should explain your reason for saying it to him! He probably did freak a bit, you know how men get when the l word is mentioned. Speak to him and if he doesn't understand drop him he's an idiot and not worth your time! He should feel helluva complimented as you were in such throes of passion and orgasmic bliss that you blurted out the unthinkable!
32257
Depends on where it hurts.  It could be a lack of lubrication.  Or he could be hitting your cervix with his penis (since your organs are changing de to pregnancy your cervix may be easier for him to reach).  Mention it to your doctor at your next appointment.
598980
Sounds like he's trying to let you know what's going on...you're not listening.  If he's in good health overall (not overweight, smoker, etc) then it could be due to him holding out for you, preoccupied, stress, etc.  There are a lot of reasons why men lose an erection.  A lot of the time my b/f holds out for me and then when I'm good..he's good with that.  He's held out so long, it goes away.  He's usually ready to go again in 10 mins, though.  The fact that you cheated on him really doesn't help.  He may be picturing you doing some of the things you do with him, with someone else.  He's going to be questioning every new thing you do in bed.  "New tricks?  New man?"  It's all about communication.  Let him know you're concerned and really LISTEN to his responses.  You two will work it out if it's meant to be.  He needs to truly forgive you for your mistake and move on if he wants to make it work...you'll need to bring his trust level back up.  Hope I helped...
134682
Honey...I'm a mom.  Hate to ask this, but does it smell bad?  Have you been having sex with a boy?  If so, could be PH imbalance because of his semen.  Was this white liquid during waht was SUPPOSED to be your period?  These are all questions you should ask a gynecologist (female organs doctor) or (free clinic if you want to be private and not discuss with parents).  From a mom's point of view...I always encouraged my daughter (now 21) to duscuss with me these things.  We were honest and open with each other, and if there was something I didn't WANT to hear, I tried not to REACT badly, but help her get answers, then we'd sit down and discuss what caused this to happen afterwards.  I wanted her to trust me.  Show this to your mom and see if she would be open with you...then see the gynecologist.  Could be a simple yeast infection which are easily treated, but need a doctor to diagnose it and prescribe medication or over the counter medicine.  Never put off questions about your female health.  Good luck!  P.S.  clumps?  sounds familiar from when I was young, but the gynecologist is the best way to go.  Never be afraid of going to the doctor.  Be more afraid of ignorance, and not knowing exactly what's wrong.  If you find out all is okay, won't you feel MUCH better??  Go for it Dear....