Well i have known this guy for 13 years and we have been hangin out or whatever and he dont mess with any other girl but he dont want a relationship.
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Thats exactly how me and my husbands relationship started!  Thats so crazy and I always thought that I was the only one.  \nAnyways, you can simply ask him what does he like about you and if its not strictly sexual, he should be able to tell you with no problem.\nIt also sounds like he's scared of commitment, and you can be patient if you feel he's worth the wait, but dont allow yourself to be hurt in the process.
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If u don't trust him, then don't get into any relationship.... You can agree to be friends and then slowly fade out....:-)
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Honestly....If it was me I wouldn't waste my time. If he's really interested in you then you getting with another guy might make him see what he's been missing. But in all seriousness though. If he shows no sighns of leaving the other girl then you HAVE to move on. Finding a new guy might make you think twice about your first choice. Lifes too short to stay stuck on one guy. Especially in your teen years...if your a teen.
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First of all, you don't owe him a thing.  Secondly, do you really want to be friends with him?  Sounds to me like any friendship you might have would only make it harder for you to break things off, and your heart will just get trampled.  You know the score.  You know he's not going to settle down.  As hard as it might be, the best thing to do is ignore his calls for now until you're stronger, because most likely he will not take no for an answer, and will manipulate you and use guilt to continue to get his way.  Don't forget he has other girls to fall back on.  Best to let him go now with your pride, dignity, and heart still in tact.
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There should be an expiration on the "guy code", and three years' time is more than enough!\n\nI can understand, out of respect, not dating a girl that your buddy has dated.  (Cheating should break that agreement, though.)  I'd have a hard time, for example, dating someone who once dated my sister.  It would feel incestuous.  However, "the course of true love never ran smooth".  I'd say take it slow, but if you and this other guy were meant to be together, you should be together!
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ok. so. i'm 14, and i've been in that situation. just forget about him. if he's acting like a jerk, then he's not worth your time. don't make it look like your chasing this guy around. he'll think you're pathetic and just want to mess with you. forget about him. but hey, that's my opinion. oh...and. 13. remember. it's not as if he's actually changed your life in a major way or anything...right? so, yeah. i suggest you ignore him since he only talks about his girlfriend with you, and hang out with your own friends more. i guess it's safe to befriend him again when you're completely over him, but if he still acts like a jerk [even as a friend], then i suggest you just stay away.
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Frankly, this guy seems like a bit of a jerk. I mean, how could he ask YOU for love advice concerning another girl when he knows how you feel towards him ?? !! ??\nPlease forget about him and find someone your own age.
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Yeah... it could be love and it might not be. But my advice to you (trust me), since you're still a teenager, just be his friend. Don't talk about love with him. Forget he has a girlfriend and just talk to him like you are talking to one of your girlfriends. No teenage guy is ready for a big commitment so even if you are currently his girlfriend, it won't last... but if you are just friends, you have a much better chance of still keeping in touch 10 years from now and him winning your trust than his current girlfriend. And this might get him to finally realize you have always been there for him. I hope you get my point ( and I hope you take my advice)
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Princess all i can say is, take some time, call him up and spend time together.. Go movies, or just hang out... because really ... if you known him since you where 3!! and he known you.. then i say theres a connection between you two. Now maybe he is busy all the time and doesnt have time, but doesnt mean you give up!!! I say go for it.. hes probably thinking of asking to hang out with you too.\nTHIS IS NORMAL.. and its from the inside that is telling ya this girl\npure care and love i got to say....\nYou to have some fun hanging out.\nDont be afraid to talk to the guy.. it will  be a big releaf once you begin to talk to him.. your tension will be gone. :) ;)\n\nYou 2 have\nSincers;\nShawn Miller\nToronto Ontario
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you should tell him to leave you alone. you shouldn't let anyone tell you what you can or can't do. its your decision. you are free to be what you want. he shouldn't be messing with another girl if he wants to be with you, that's not respectable, and you shouldn't tolerate this behavior, he isn't worth anything.
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in my opinion he has found someone else. people do not break up for no reason. if it was money they did not have to break up he just needs to work through it. people break up for a lot of different reasone. they either found someone else or they just simply do not feel the same as they did about that person. if you friend is only 22 she is just starting her life. this is the best thing that could have happened to her. because there is someone out there that will treat her the way she is supose to be treated and have a secure feeling about it not will he leave later. tell her she is free now go live it up and have fun and do not settle for a looser that does not no
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tell him you really value his friendship and that you don't want to lose it. but if he keeps pressuring you to date him when you don't feel that way it's going to make it harder to keep that friendship. \n\nalso if you have any girl friends that seem to meet his style, try hooking them up to really put home that you don't want him.
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I agree with FSJD. Be careful.  But if you and him click, I don't see any reason for you not to date him.  Your friend is no longer going with him.
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yes but if you truly think that he is going to go away, you are mistakeing, friends will never go away, regardless of how long oyu have been together. Start setting up his friend so that way he will get attached to another girl and slowly start to hang out with her and get away from your activities. Also you can always double.......... but guys love their friends and will always have them around, just be careful because if a guy senses that you are tired of his friends he might start to tire of you.....just a thought!!
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I would not trust this guy. Even if he never physically cheated on you with this other female while you were going out, he obviously had feelings for her. He would not have been with her two days later if he had not been harboring feelings for her for a while. You may hope that he will eventually grow up, but how patient and how many break-ups and reconciliations are you willing to put up with. I feel you will be better off keeping on a friendship level for a year. Date other people and have him date other people. You may just find your ideal mate instead of wasting your time. Or in a years time, maybe he will have his priorities focused on you.
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Sounds like the 'I don't want to go out with you,but I don't want you going out or showing any interest what-so-ever in any one else' syndrom.Don't let him stop you from having a good time when your out and don't let him stop you from talking or even fancing another guy.He didn't want to be with you,thats his loss and somebody else's gain.If you allow it he will come between any relationship you form,even if its just friendships.Let him carry on acting like a spoilt and sulky child,just don't let him spoil things for you and yes,I think you would be better of just having him as a friend but,in all honesty,would you want him as a friend if he acts like this.
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In my opinion you can have your friendship and date. I mean, it's not like the relationship would change drastically. You'll still be you and he'll still be himself, so that's not a very good reason. Plus, life it's about taking chances, not playing it safe just in case... that leads nowhere.\nSo, reason 1: done!\n\nAs regards the other reason he gave, I say bulls*it. That is just saying that he wants to be available to date any of the girls that flirt with him, or at least be able to choose. I mean, there are flirtatious girls just about anywhere, so what? He won't ever date a girl because there are flirtatious girls around the corner? What will he do when he gets married? "Oh, honey, I'm sorry I HAD to sleep with her... he was flirting so much she got me into it. It wasn't my fault."\n\nSorry, not good enough.\n\nDon't take it personal, but to me it sounds like he just doesn't wanna date. Period. Those just were excuses.\n\nKeep him as a friend if you want, but I'd highly recommend spending less time with him and trying to find another guy. Hang out with girl friends and look at cute guys, you never know what you may find.