i have been dating my girlfriend for 5 months now, i give her everything her heart desire but she treats me bad and unloved, but her bestfriend show me and told me she is inlove with me and i think i love hertoo, but i dont want her to want me just for my money, what should i do
137895
Maybe its your girldfirend that just wants your money.  But I would hate to think my best friend would stab me in the back and date a guy i cared about.  Does this tell you anything about the girl you are thinking of asking out? If that is the way she treats her best friend is she really gonna be that good to you?  Either way if you current girlfriend is that bad to you - you need to let her go and tell her why.  If things happen between you and the other girl after that -  then all is fair.  Good luck to you
173283
Ask her how she feels about you.  Ask her what she wants out of your relationship.  If you are constantly giving her things, are you sure that she is not using you for what she can get?  Don't give her anything else until she tells you how she feels.  Good luck!
466464
Wrong?  That's for you to decide, but here's some food for thought.\n\nShe needs your friendship.  If you give her friendship without going for anything more right now, it shows her respect.  Then, when she is less vulnerable, if the two of you get together she will respect you more and you will be able to trust that she's with you for the right reasons and not simply out of need.\n\nIf the two of you got involved right now, it might be for the wrong reasons at the wrong time and thus set you up for failure down the road.\n\nIf you are "right" together, then it won't hurt for you to be her best friend and hold off on the other stuff for a while out of respect for her temporary vulnerability and genuine love or care for her.\n\nJust something to consider.  Good luck!
176152
First ask yourself these question? Did you know her before you knew your girlfriend? Is her friendship worth your relationship with your girlfriend? If you say yeas to both of these question then you should still be friends with her. If that friends doesn't do for you or you can't trust them and call them a real good friend then let them go.
630480
She is insecure and is afraid that you are going to leave her for somebody else.  Compliment her more and make her feel like you love her the most in the whole world! One thing you should never do and that is compliment another girl around your girlfriend!
35631
First of all, it's not wrong !! Don't ever say that b/c thats just what others believe. If you two been together for 3 months and you honestly really care for one another than you are going to have to talk to her and let her know how you feel about the whole situation. It shouldn't really matter what religion she chooses to go to b/c if she really loves you and you really love her then why should either of you allow a book that someone else wrote run you guys relationship down. If you feel that she deserves you and that you deserve her and yall make each other happy then GIRL please live life the best way known how b/c to be real with you, you know like I know that we are only granted with one life to live!!!!!!You midestwell live it being happy, you aren't hurting anyone else by doing that!!\nGOOD LUCK ON YOUR RELATIONSHIP!!!!!!
72405
U have a big problem on your hands. Spoiled and pretty don't mix in a relationship. You should WANT to give her something not HAVE to, i.e. if you feel pressured to give her something all the time, sooner/later you won't WANT to do nothing for her at all. Nothing wrong with asking, but girlie needs a reality check. You can't always get what you want (unless you're filthy, stinking rich). Tell her how you feel and her reaction will better help you make a decision. Oh by the way, try and drop out of her manipulation 101 class.
551543
sorry to hear that both of you started the relationship on deceptive terms.  she's being a hipocrit.  and I know you say you love her, but why would you want to be with someone that has cheated and lies.  trust is the foundation of any relationship, without that you have nothing.  you will be in the relationship always having questions about this that or the other.  to much stress and not being happy.  keep looking for something better.  good luck
541034
Its only natural for a person to try and get what they can't get. And well you could try talking to her. Tell her how you feel. Tell her you noticed that he was givin her lots of attention that was not there a while ago. You could ask her if she feels the same as you. Tell her how you feel and be honest don't shy out or say something you don't mean.\n\nDont accuse her of cheating or giving her attention to someone esle or she might think that you want to be put in a pedastal and praised, and you might end up losing her. Plus she obviously seems quite an important person to you.\n\nDo not turn this into a competition between the both of you. Treat her special, buy her chocolates more often but not veeeeery often. She might thik that you are competing wit him. \n\nPLUS...\nDONT make her choose. After all at the end of the day, who is she with? OBVIOUSLY NOT HIM!\n\nI think that when you talk to her and tell her the truth she will understand where you're coming from and she\n\nGOODLUCK! :>)\n\nSORY ABOUT THE SPEECH. I JUST HAPPEN TO TALK ALOT\nif it works out, please let me know so that I can start my own Love & relationship Q&A website.
525068
well, first of all, u need to be positive u are willing to take the consequences of dating this girl. if she says she has a past, u might wanna know what that means before ur relationship gets serious. if u r sure, then tell her that if anything, u dont deserve her. it sounds like u really care about her, and, being a girl, i know that girls want to feel special. tell her she is the only one for u, u love, and that if anything, u dont deserve her, not the other way around. but, remember, u cant force someone to fall in love with you. dont push her. she may really be in love with u but is just not ready to be with u. its not that she doesnt care, its that she isnt ready yet. if this is the case, give her time and dont push her cause nothing turns a girl off more than when her bf pushes her into something. good luck!
248213
:) hmm, a tough question, this one. I can't really say that she is supposed to leave her boyfriend because of you, or, that it is wrong for her to do so when she does love you and have no more feelings for her boyfriend.\n\nHowever, you have only known her for a little while. Don't you think you might just be expecting overly by speculating that she might consider ending her current relationship with her boyfriend?\n\nI only suggested that you should tell her how you felt about her as I know she will respect your determination/courage to let her know. Frankly, I didn't expect that your feeling towards her was strong enough to the point of contemplating whether or not she wants to be with you in the end.\n\nI don't really approve of this but who am I to judge since this is between you and her. No one can guarantee the outcome of both of your future. There's also a possibility after the both of you declare as couples, once you are apart, this sort of thing might happen again and she would leave you for another guy. First of all, imagine you're in the boyfriend's shoe; how would you feel if your girl left you for a guy whom she'd met only few months back?\n\nOn the other hand, it is her choice really, if she does sincerely loves you and her feelings towards her boyfriend is a thing of the past. I believe she is matured enough to think for her own good.\n\nBy the way, don't pressure her to choose between her boyfriend and you. It won't seem fair to anyone.\n\nI hope it helps.
250413
I think your partner is trying to hold on to her old relationship with her friend just, as in your assumption. I also feel that relationship is about compromise and if your girlfriend really loves you she will respect how you feel and cut things off. Even if it is just a "friendship".  I think she needs to cut things off for you relationship to work. She has already betrayed your trust and wants you to standby her while she continues a friendship and your wondering if they are just friends. My advice is that you should tell her that it really hurts you that she wants to remain friends with her ex lover and that it is hurting your relationship . Also if she isn't willing to compromise then maybe you should leave her. It's not fair to you to hang around and wonder if she is going to hurt you again. You need to know she wants to work things out. Go with your instinct and gut feelings and everything will work out.\n\nBest of luck
129033
She is using you and you deserve better! If she cared about you she wouldn't treat you that way. You need to start caring about yourself and respecting yourself and realize that you deserve a lot better. Walk away and don't look back! Move on with your life and find someone who truly cares about you and isn't using you for what she can get out of you. Good Luck! @--->---
585291
Well dear, the English language, although among the richest, is still poor to express certain issues. \nLove! Is Love a feeling or a property of a person? I think the second! Thus, if you are a person who love, then you love and you love everyone and everything! That is great! Congratulations!\nNow, since you love, you love your friends, also, regardless of their customs, attractions, wills, etc. What you are asking in if you should do what you do not like, am I right? \nIn the case you do not like something, you do not do this, because your closest and best friend is yourself! Yourself will never turn you down, or at least more than you will do to her!\nALso, we have many friends who either drink a lot, or smoke or take drags, ..., we get with them and try to influence them to soemthing we consider better! Others are doing thing we consider them fine, although those activities are not our style! Etc. We get together with them. We enjoy what we can communicate each other! Same way with your friend! You remain friends, but you should do what you really want! If you cchange, your friends will not like you any more, you will be done aanother person! If they like the new you and the new you is less good that the previous, run away, those might not be good friends, might not even be any kind of friends!\nNow, if she would bring another boyfriend, what would you think? How would you react?\nIt all depends on how you feel, what kind of girlfriend she is, what you want out of this relation, ...\nI might enjoy both of them and look around for another relation!!!!
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Just neither marry nor live together with her.  YOu might really be in love with her.  But is right to be the only one who giving everything into the relationship???? NO!!!!! if she is unwilling to give up nothing!!!! \n\nWake up now and realize if she really loves you. Otherwise, you will be living in hell with someone who doesn't love you, even if you were just living together. Love = sacrifices
285048
She's not going to make you any happier, even if you shower her with diamonds. She's a cheater and she'll always be that way. Find someone who's worthy of you.
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You've got to ask yourself what you're expecting from this relationship with your girlfriend.  If its just a fling and she feels the same way then you've answered your question.\n\nIf she feels the relationship is special and you don't then you have to ask yourself:\n\nDo I care about her or am I just interested in my own selfish pleasure?\n\nIf it's the latter, just realize that you will be breaking her heart...