Hi, I need help, I know this guy who works round the corner from me, he's always really friendly and comes out to see me whenever I walk past.  The only problem is that he doesn't make a move even tho I know he fancies me.  So basically I think I'll need to ask him out/chat him up but i've never done this before, I've always been chased never the other way round.  Help!! Any advise/pointers
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IF HE COMES OUT EVERY TIME TO TALK TO YOU, THEN HE LIKES YOU!!!!  THAT'S MORE THAN HALF OF IT!!! YOU'RE DONE!!!!  So you have absolutely no reason to be nervous; he WILL say yes.  \n\nSay, hello, then start asking him "100 questions."  Ask him where he goes to school, what he does for fun (when you find something he likes, he'll talk forever and he'll enjoy it - keep asking questions in that subject), ask him where he hangs out and what he likes to do.\n(Since you already know where he works, dont ask him about his work!  You want him to see that you are interested in him BEYOND WORK; not just this place you seem to always meet - if you have to ask about his work to get a conversation started, fine, but quickly move away from the subject)\n\nYOUR GOAL:  By asking lots of questions, you want him to see that you are interested in him, and you want to have a conversation with him.  (questions & answers IS a conversation!)  You want to laugh and smile as much as you can.\n\nTHEN SAY:  "Hey, we seem to enjoy talking to each other a lot.  We should hangout sometime.  We could exchange numbers and meet up when we're both not busy.  Do you think you'd want to do that?"  IT'S THAT SIMPLE!!!!  (if he likes you and you like him, then both of you will soon be dating)
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Just ask him if he wants to hang out sometime after work, if he says yes than he is probably interested.  But that way if he says no then you didn't come out with your feelings so he won't act any differently.
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Maybe he likes you. I would caution you, though. My experience is that it isn't good to go out with someone that you work with. How are you going to feel after a nasty split with this guy when you have to see his face every day?
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Its hard to determine how to handle the situation based on your question.  I suggest that you keep your career the main focus.  It never hurts to be friends, but I don't suggest asking him out agian.  If you do this will make you look desperate and very un-professional, but if he asks if the offer is still available, just go out as friends and determine the next step later.
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Well, I'm no guy, but I know this, he'll look at you ALOT. Maybe, you should ask him. That;s what I did, and he said yeah. It's simple. But, try to be suddle. Dont just come up to him and say DO YOU LOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOVE ME? Just ask like, hey um, wanna go out? But dont take my advice if you dont want to.
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it sounds like you have what I call a "non-date" on your hands. This is super awkward, and you wont know what it is until the end of the night, hopefully! Basically, if he pays, tries to kiss you, or makes any move...you're in. If not, he is either shy as hell or just wants you as a friend. good luck. you sound like my life.
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It's always worth a shot... Try to flirt some more back, show him you're available... If nothing happens after awhile and feelings are still strong, just ask him out!
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I will tell you what has worked for me personally...this may sound old fashioned, but I find that for me it is the best strategy....I have never asked a man out on a date.  Guys like to be the hunters and the chasers and when they do things they like to think it was their idea.  I mean, definitely flirt with him, be friendly, smile a lot--plant the idea in his head and I'm sure in time he will ask you out.  good luck :)
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YOU can make the move, maybe he is just shy\n\ndo it anywhere
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Hey Tox, well when you see this guy again when you're out (I'm sure you will because he's got a new job in a bar plus the town we live in is pretty small) just chat away to him and be abit flirty with him and I know you can get very flirty when you've had a few! Hehe! You can chat to him about the main thing you have in common with him right now- work place! \n\nI know you're not a nasty girl who goes around messing with guys feelings, in fact you're completely the opposite! I don't blame you for running a mile when his exgirlfriend came on the scene (I would've done the same thing) cos she was a bit psycho! So now she's gone and you two are already chatting to each other as mates, when you're at work, which will just make it easier for you to approach him when you see him out. \n\nDon't get all worked up thinking:\n"Oh my God does he like me or am I going to be making a fool out of myself" \nbecause you are very attractive and I'm sure he can see that because frankly if he can't then he needs his eyes testing! Go for it mate! However don't ditch me when you've got a new boyfriend! Hehe!
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Can I suggest something?\n\nHow about the next time you meet him, use your sense of humour to have a good chat with him first. See how he responds and then base on his behaviour toward you, you then decide the next move.
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If you dont want to ask him directly, no problem, are you cool with any of his friends?  Try to find out from his friends.  Or have a friend ask him who he likes.  Does he act differently toward you or does he do this to everyone else?  I know some guys acts extremely nice to you when they first meet you, then after a while, it just seems to fade and it becomes any regular friendship.  \n\nI believe its best to just ask him, because if he does, then he would know exactly how you feel about him too.  Well anyhow, good luck finding out. :]
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I think he's interested in asking you out, it just hasn't worked out with his schedule yet to be able to do it. Don't give up hope yet. I think he will ask you just as soon as his schedule permits!
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when he comes in do your little chat then trow in a "so are you heading out tonight"do it in a casual tone of voice, he will tell you where hes going and will 99% sure ask you "what about yourself" you let him know what night club your going to but play it all innocently as if your just being civil then when your out that night i bet you he will be there then... then ye both will have a few beers on ye your inhibitions will be gone and you can begin to flirt oh and generally us lads visit a shop a lot if we fancy the person working there but he is prob afraid of rejection so he is draging it out SO BITE THE BULLET WHEN YE MEET. BEST OF LUCK!!!!!
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take some initiative and call him,let him know you had a fun night and you enjoyed the conversation and all that. He probably didn't know what do to either and didn't want to be too forward or overstep any boundaries.So if you call him I think that would make him more comfortable and it would be easier for him to "make a move" the next time you go out.(hopefully there's a next time) Good Luck!!
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Yeah darling, he is just trying to get enough information on you to get you in trouble at work since it did not work the first time. The only way he knows how to do that is to get you to like him again. So now the playful bit, by opening doors, and jokes and shit. He couldn't tell you he wasn't interested in you because he really is. Take my advice, don't fall into the niceness. It's all a joke, it's not sincere.
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Nowadays, with all the sexual harassment issues at the workplace, people are extremely careful when getting involved like this. Maybe you should ask him to meet you in a place outside the work environment and openly discuss the issue. Some guys, like me are shy and will wait to get a very clear "hint" to make the move.