She dose not want this either but her mother has spent alot of monyon this and if she tells her to stop and that she wants to be with me her mom wont take it well and might not talk to her any more. She is willing to give up everything we have for her mom I love her with all of my heart and we have a 10month old son together what should I do I sign papers 430 today and im stressed and still deeply in love with her
127873
Sounds to me like you two need to grow up.\n\nIf you two don't want to get divorved \nDON'T GET DIVORCED! no matter what her mom says.
327423
u are in a tough position i must say,but u know actions speak louder than words.at times it is so difficult to do what we want to do in life and in this case of ur boyfriend it seems he wanted to please his mother more than himself.life is full of sacrifices but i don't see why he had to sentence himself to a life of sadness n all if he really loved you.i think if he really meant what he was saying about his love to you he would have talked to his mother and told him of his feelings for you and even refused to take on this new girl.if he still says he loves you,there is nothing you can do as for now as its already late.don't despair though God will open more opportunities for you.just be glad that you were able to share some part of ur lives together and move on.the truth is always bitter but it is time to move on gal!wishing you all the best as u go on with ur life its gonna be a tough road,bt i believe someone much better is gonna come your way sooner or later just keep the door to ur heart open!
569587
I agree with the others who have responded i think you are over reacting.\nYou are probably right she wanted to spend her 18th with just family or at least as much of the day as possible.\n\nPull yourself together and go talk to her take her out for a fancy meal make it sorry for the fight before her birthday meal. appologise for the argument and ask her why you were not invited to the cake cutting etc.\nTell her you love her and think you are "in love with her" never confuse the TWO. love just means like when you say to your mom or gran i love you. but "I'm in love with you" means a whole lot more it means i love every little thing about you and I don't want to lose you out of my life.\nif you feel hurt then yes you are right to feel hurt, tell her that she hurt you she may not realise she did hurt you.\nthe only time feelings are wrong is never. how you feel is how you feel you have a right to those feelings. just talk to her.\n\ngood luck i hope it all works out for you.
181203
You need to question why your fiance seems to fall for your mothers bs.  Have a long talk with her about how you feel about this.  Why does your family have access to your funds? Get your funds put into your name only, move out and concentrate on getting your health back.  All this stress isn't helping you.  The best thing you can do to show her that you want a great future for the two of you is to move far away from your family so that you can start your life off without them getting involved.  You can do it, have faith in yourself...the two of you work together and it will all work out, don't listen to those that say you'll fail.  Good luck, I hope everything works out quickly for you both.
104142
YOU ARE IN A REAL BIND. I'M WONDERING WHAT THE CUSTODY AGREEMENT IS. I THINK THAT SHE NEEDS TO COME HOME WITH YOU IF SHE WANTS TO LIVE WITH HER DAD THEN I WOULD TELL HER SHE NEEDS TO COME HOME UNTIL THE APPROPRIATE ARRANGEMENTS CAN BE MADE. ON A MORE MOTHERLY NOTE I NO THAT THIS MUST BE VERY HURTFUL BUT SHE WILL REALIZE THAT LIVING AT HOME WITH MOM IS THE BEST ESPECIALLY SINCE YOU MENTIONED A GIRLFRIEND IT WONT TAKE LONG BEFORE THEY GO AT IT AND RESENTMENT WILL SET IN. I KNOW THIS MAY NOT BE OF ANY COMFORT TO YOU BUT I WILL REMEMBER YOU IN MY PRAYERS. GOOD LUCK
192830
First of all, it isn't his Mom's choice.  When I got married after dating for 3 years, my husbands Mom cried and cried because I was Jewish and not Catholic.  Threats were made, and she never approved.  My parents were the complete opposite.  I do not care if it is money, religion, race, etc. a Mom will find anything wrong with her son's choice.  It also does not matter if you are smarter than him.  What does that have to do with the price of beans?\nI'm sure she didn't approve of you because you were underage when you met.  I'm sure you had sex with him also and he could have been put in jail for both of your actions.  You were a minor and he was not.  That may be something she is angry at.  I would not be pleased to see my 20 year old son going after a 15 year old.  I do consider it wrong and very inappropriate.  Have you ever considered this as why she is upset?  I think you both need to sit her down and talk to you both.  \nAnd so what if he is cut out of the Will...he didn't make the money...his parent(s) did.  That should not be an issue in the first place.\nTo tell you the truth, you seem to have an issue with money, intellegence and you trying to defend yourself not being a social climber and a gold digger, makes me wonder.\nBut it is your life.  You are in love and she doesn't have a say in anything.  She had her turn to say yes to the man she loves, now it is your turn (and her son's turn).\nGo on with the wedding.
228782
Well, sounds to me like you may never get your money here. I would just be upfront...tell her that your parents have decided they would like to buy it and since she has been unable to pay you the agreed upon amount you are going to sell it to them. She has renigged on her agreement and that gives you the right to sell it to someone else. If her and her uncle are upset...they will get over it.
406179
You need to be strong for your son's sake and satisfy his needs.  Maybe move?  Where did she go?  Sounds like you don't need her anyways.  What kind of wife/mother could leave her family?  You deserve better.  Stick it out.  Time heals all wounds and make sure you put your son first!!!
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When she behaves like that ask her how she would feel if you treated her the way she treats you.  \n\nYou are not her mother so there is very little you can do.  You have to let things go because she is not your child.  Unfortunately, her mother is raising a child that will turn into an uphappy adult.
206098
she might not be the right person for you to marry if these things are going to bother you. she obviously has a different attitude about money then you do. if you truely love her then you wont let things like this worry you so much. all i can say is that you think hard about why you love her and want to marry her.
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first of all, you both sound too young to "know" this is the love of your life. but if that's how it feels right now, then you have a responsibility to yourself to fight for it.\nhere's my advice. sit down with her and have a heart to heart. tell her, you love her and want to marry her. tell her you understand she has issues with physical contact, and with her own body, as well as presumably she might with yours, and you will try very hard to not push her beyond her limits. and then ask her if she is willing to meet you half way. this is the critical point.\nbe gentle and make sure she enjoys her walks on the wild side, when she feel bold enough to take them, but be patient when she isn't up to it. you can get over reluctance, and work to resolve issues if she works with you - maybe even professional therapy might help. if she is not willing to try for you, then if you marry her, you will be sorry. that's the one thing you don't want to do to yourself or to her. stick around if you feel you must and maybe she will change her mind. but don't marry her unless she's willing to work with you to solve her issues.
574518
I would say that be prepared on really showing to your family that you do really love this women. Personally the age gap doesn't seem like a problem at all. Her having a child- be prepared for your family to question if she wants your money and get ready to defend her. But I say kudos for not throwing away your love over the fear of what your family is going to say :)
585711
Why are you living with your boyfriend?How old are you?No baby she might not get over it sometimes when we are young our parent's can see things that we can't see.It's not until later on in life we see or understand why that comment was made.You and your boyfriend are very young and she probably don't want to see you struggle that's all.Mom knows how hard it's going to be that's all.Who is working you or your boyfriend work?How are you guys going to support the baby?By your ages I would hope that both of ya'll are still in school.I'm not on mom side because it's going to be your decision when it's all said and done.You take care of yourself,and know it's not going to be easy.You have a lot of sleepless night's ahead of you.I'll be praying for you and your boyfriend.Take care.
332674
Because she is 18 and graduating,I'll bet when you restrict or pressure her,she will end up moving out and either shacking or marrying the 26 year old year old with children or want to.She is not old enough to make it comfortably on her own so she would most likely live with someone else.She will then have herself a ready made family that may or may not work out. You are doing her no favor paying "her"cell phone bill.When I was that age I had strict parents.Every child in our house had chores.We were never charged rent,but was expected to do chores to help out,it was not fair to our parents for them to do all the work when they feed us and gave us a home for as long as we wanted.If you did not follow their curfew and respect their home,then you had to move out. We worked a summer job and when we graduated were expected to work a full time job.If I made any kind of bill,I paid it,they did not.That is not being cruel,that's making me responsible.You are the step parent,so if I were you,I would leave it up to her father(her blood parent)to talk to her.If you try to,she may look at you and say "I don't have to listen to you,you are not my mother".So,for your feelings,let the father have a one on one talk with his daughter.Tell him to explain to her what he seeing her getting into and how it is going to be in reality such as:In the relationship with the 26 year old she will be a mother(step-mom)to another women's children,depending on how active the 26 year old man is, may end  up baby sitting while he's out doing whatever,may end up pregnant by this man and have even another child.Sit her down,don't be mad,just explain to her that yes this is her life and if "she" ends up with the 26 year old,her life is over as she know's it.It will be her burden to carry,not yours.Ask her to think about all the freedoms she has now and how she feels about losing all that at such an early age.You know how real life is and you only want the best for her.Now is the time to talk to her and get her to realize exactly what kind of life she is going to have if she ends up with this man.Don't be mad when you talk to her,just be very honest.Then do not cater to her irresponsibility.Let her pay her bills and live her life.Like my parent's told me,go out and make your bed hard if you want and you,not I will sleep in it.They said if you get into trouble,"you" will have to figure out how to get out of it.I thought my parents were mean,but I realized how much they loved me,some of their advice I didn't listen to,I wished I had.She is graduating and will be an adult somewhat.You have to let her make choices for herself.If she decides on a life of misery,there is not much you or your husband can do to stop her.Give her the best advice you can and stand by your word when you say she is on her own.She will find out really fast that life is not fair,things are exspensive,life is hard,that she had it so good and didn't know it and most of all she will quicklly learn she does not know everything and possibly that you were right.
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Out of a whole life time 18 months isn't very long. If you love her she is probably worth waiting for. If waiting that time will make the situation easier for her mother to accept and there easier for your girlfriend to adjust to then it's probably worth waiting. \n\nOn the other hand it seems odd that her mother is able to put such an accurate time frame on when she will have got over her grief and be ready to let her daughter go. I live in a different country from my daughters. I miss them desperately but I'd never tell them they had to stay home just to keep me happy. I can't imagine I will feel any differently about them in 18 months or 18 years.\n\nYou should talk to your girlfriend next time you have an opportunity. Tell her exactly how you feel and all your concerns. If the relationship is worth it you will find a way between you to make it work.
317505
she has to ask herself.u cant be doing everything for her in life.
477322
NOOOO, don`t ever make him decide. If he chooses than it needs to be without YOUR help!\nI think his mother was way out of line with that comment. Try not to worry too much about it, it sounds like you have a great boyfriend there! If you want you can have a talk with her and tell her that you didn`t mean to "step on her toes", you are simply in love with her son and wanted to be with him on this important day.