well me and my BF have been going out for about 5 months and i'm still scared to say "i love you" to him. i don't know why i do love him but i don't know why i cant' say it to him. he always tells me that he loves me and i want to say it back but i feel nervous and i end up saying ok or i ignore it. wut should i do?? i don't want him to leave me.
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Could it be possible that you are affraid to let your emotions flow because you fear getting hurt? You obviously know how to communicate as you are asking a question to complete strangers. Is it a fear of intimacy or a fear of expressing your emotions? Take the time to think about it. I'm sure the answer you seek is already in you. You may just need more time for self reflection to realize it. And if not, then put yourself in his shoes and see how you would feel if you were him and didn't hear it said back. Good luck with this.
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dont hold back now.\nin all things, hiding your true feelings never really gets you anywhere that you wanna go. you know? cause if where you're going is based upon your true feelings, then you shouldn't wanna go there...nevermind. :-D\nanyways, yes, you should tell him you love him, because nothing is going to change that. and you could wait a million years...but what good is that gonna get you??? tell him- guys are more mellow than you first think. if he doesn't feel the same way, i'm almost positive he'll take it all in stride, if he does the feel the same way-then well, you've got a match!\ngo ahead, don't hold back. they're your true feelings, what harm are they gonna do???
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it's just one of those things...don't over think it or you will convince your self that you don't love him when you do. if you really feel uncomfortable saying it then maybe your not, but if sometimes you just feel moved to tell him all sorts of warm mushy things, then you probably are.
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I'm a girl and I would be devastated if my BF told me that.  Sometimes things are just better left unsaid.  She would lose respect for you at the least.  If you don't want the chance of losing her and you DO love her, keep it to yourself. :-)  Believe me, I've kept the same thing to myself.  Girls are sometimes just after some nice hard...ya know..and then we get hit with the love bug!! haha
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NEVER tell a man that you love him first! Not only can it scare him away but it shows weakness on your part! Let him say it first, it will mean so much more when he does. Otherwise if you say it and he says it back how will you know he truly meant it!
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you shouldn't have told him that you love him if you aren't. You know what kind of damage you could do to a persons emaotion playing him like that. You have to sit him down and let him know that you care deeply but you don't know if it's love yet. He should understand if you say he love's you. Never tell some one that you love them and you don't that's just mean.
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Get him to define "I love you",\n\nnot everyone that say I love you means it\n\nnot every I love you means what you think it means\n\nYou might be speaking a different language using the same words so don't fall for it sister
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Friends love each other all the time.  I have a male friend (for 8years). Almost everytime we talk on the phone we "I love You".  I don't think you will scare him off, but I'm worried that if you say it, you might not get the same response, and that might hurt your feelings.  Don't let it though, if that's what happens.  People feel things at different times, so don't take it personally. \nExpress yourself to him.  It's better to have tried, and know, then not to try and never know.
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I'm not gonna be a jerk and say go up to him and say I love you so I can get my 2 points. Anyways, a nice way to do it is to kiss him and tell you you love him... but if your shy (like me) you could do it on the phone when your saying bye... you dont gotta sound all serious you can be like LOVE YA!\ngood luck!!!
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its sad that you have a fear of talkin to him. if you want to be in a relationship you have to talk to. just open up and tell him whatever you want to. that is part of having a good heathly relationship.
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It sounds like you need to talk to your man. Tell him exactly how you feel and ask him where do I stand in this relationship? Then come right out and say Do you still love me?
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Those 3 words can be important and once you get used to hearing them, you're used to hearing them. However, men can get comfortable and confident that you KNOW it, so they don't have to SAY it.\n\nThat part is true.\n\nI think he still loves you and I think you're reading too much into it with him not saying it. He may have a lot on his mind right now and not worried about it because you should know it.\n\nYou say nothing else in the relationship has changed. Those words shouldn't mean so much to you that the absence of them makes you question the man. If everything else is the same, so is his love.\n\nCut him some slack. Wait a week. If he's still not saying them, just let him know you miss the words. A simple, "Baby, I miss hearing you say, 'I love you.'" will probably do the trick. Give it some time though.
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OMG you are smart and know exactly what to say. Just show the boyfriend this question on your computer. He just has to be as smart and nice as you and then he will understand. If you can't show him, you can talk and tell him how you feel. Just set up a special time together to talk and tell him same as you told all of us here. We are all here for you and hope you go ahead and let him know. Good luck
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u love him and he loves u ....then it comes to express ur love...if he expresses first it's ur turn to express the feeling u have.....love is very odd thing and ofcourse before taking any action u have to think about the future..i hope u make a good decision
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wow, do you talk to this guy you love? get him talking and see if he is seeing somebody. then if he isn't tell him about your interest though you may want to tone it down a bit at the start so you don't scare him off. some men don't want to hear "i love you" on the first conversation. good luck :)
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Hun you've only been with him for 6 months. It's a good thing that he doesn't want to rush things. It took me and my fiance a year and a half before we said the magic words "I LOVE YOU". Now we've been together for almost five years and are about to have two kids. Stick it out. It was worth it for me. Good luck and if you need someone to talk to, my email is flower_child69420@yahoo.com
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Because rejection sucks!  When I was first dating my husband, I knew I loved him pretty quickly (about a month or so).  I was so scared to tell him I loved him since I had never said it to anyone else.  His response was, "Oh, I hope you don't get hurt."  Not very romantic.  I still tease him about it.  It really hurt back then.  \n\nIf it makes you too nervous to tell him, you might just want to wait until he is in the same place as you.  If it is a long haul relationship, at some point, he'll realize he loves you to and he will tell you.  Then you don't have to worry about the rejection.