I see guys that I might be attracted to and would not mind getting to know them, but I am shy to approach. I'm more flattered when they approach me, and it seems more better or interesting when they approach me. But, if I want to approach them, how would I get around my shyness - I get nervous, kind of sweaty, and end up either stumbling over my words or saying the completely wrong thing that I meant to say in the first place...?
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I don't have a problem talking to guys...but i do have a problem talking to my crush. I mean, i'm like nervous then and etc. I think the main reason girls get nervous around boys they might like is because we wanna seem perfect to them and make a good impression, which is probably why we're so nervous when we try to talk to them. So i guess..just try to talk to them like you're talking to one of your friends.
539699
some guys may be naturally shy and are afraid of rejection. try talking to him...sometimes you just need to make the first move.
241335
I can't answer for everybody of course, but if I like a guy and want him to make a move I'll let him catch me looking at him, smile shyly and then look away quickly, as if I'm embarrassed that he caught me. I also might say hi to him and smile, or say something to get him talking. Good luck!
345589
well this guy is a pefect carbon copy of me.\n\nSo if you make a move on him he wouldn't look you down or anything, but as he is a man/guy he prefers to make the move. So what you basically need to do is to make it very easy for him so that he feels very comfortable to ask you out.\nI would say it wouldn't hurt if you become a bit bolder and show some confidence yet at the same time asure him that you are not embarrased by his shyness and you want him to ask you out. \nI know there are ways of doing this without talking much. I can't tell you since I am not a girl. But show him something. If you get the chance touch him ,like on his back or something. And show a lot of smile. The kind of smile the says " Come here baby, I want you" \nI still do believe he should make the move.\nI don't know this is exactly my problem. What I told you is what I think best if a girl acts in a way so that I would feel conmfortable talking to her.\n\nGood luck.
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No, as I've gotten older I've found it much easier to approach others. But that's beside the point really. What you need to do is force yourself to come up to people in your class. Your teacher, and your friends out in public. Just start by saying "Hi" and go from there. :) People love talking and if you get a big "talker" then you won't have to worry about saying much. Never be afraid of what people think of you. You are your own person and you shouldn't care what they think. If you say something stupid, laugh it off! I have to a lot. Goodness, just the other day that happened to me and I just laughed. It's like walking into a pole in front of a guy you have a crush on. You just step back, say "wow, that was stupid" and start laughing! It's really freeing! Trust me, I have actually run into things around guys that I've liked in the past! Yeah, it's embarrassing, but that feeling goes away after a while and you feel more confident in yourself. Good luck to ya!
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they will most likely avoid speaking to the person they like... personally, I'm a shy girl and I don't have the courage to speak to the guy that I like... and I see him everyday at school... and the only thing I do is talk to my friends and look at him sometimes... and I wouldn't talk to him (don't have the nerves to) unless he talks to me first... especially cuz he's an outgoing guy
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If you're a shy person try to make eye contact with him. I was shy once too. When y'all make good eye contact make sure to smile at him. Try to get one of your friends to talk to him. Girl if he doesn't know you exist, well make him know you exist.
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hey... go for him... i never have because iam to shy but that doesn't mean you shouldn't... you answered one of my questions before about my friend. I tried to email you cause you wanted to see a pic of me but it wont let me... thanks for your advice!
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smile. a lot.  guys are shy too.  it's hard to approach girls, especially cute ones that look like they don't want to talk to you.  if you smile, make eye contact, and keep looking in his direction, that should be more than enough of a green light for him to come over.  good luck =)
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Relax, this isn't all that difficult.  He is probably just as nervous as you and trying to figure out the same thing.  When you are hanging out with him next time just get closer to him.   Situate yourself at some point where your two hands will brush against each other and eventually lead that into holding hands.  This is a simple way of letting someone know your interested and yet gives them openings to back out gracefully without anyone getting embarrassed.
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You're not a shy guy, but you're not outgoing, either. Okay. I see where you are coming from. You're a "stuck in the middle" kind of guy. Normally, you are probably not nervous, and when a gal starts talking to you, you do not always get sweaty and start ststststuttering. But, you lack the confidence and machismo to just go right up to her and say, "Wow, you're the only good-looking girl that I have seen all day. I'm So-and-So. Mind if I get your number?" and hand over a pen and paper.\n\nYou DO have the right idea, though. It is a clever strategy and worthwhile goal to try to get the women to come up to you, rather than vice versa. But...unless they are practically drooling over you for some reason, like your disarmingly good looks and manly charm, that is not realistically going to happen - am I right?\n\nDepending on the location and situation, there are many different ways to start up the Attraction Game. Building attraction is definitely the most important part of getting anywhere with any woman. You cannot just stroll up to them and say, "Hey, you are like, so totally hot, and I like, like you, you know?" Unless, of course, you can pull it off in a particularly humourous way and get her laughing.\n\nThat's what you need to aim for. Laughter. Do not come across as being outright goofy - just playful. Even the more serious-minded women out there will appreciate a fine sense of humour.\n\nNext time that you see a lovely girl standing around, and you want to talk to her...look at her for a while. People, as you have probably noticed, tend to have a "sixth sense" that just lets them know when they're being watched. She'll probably at least glance over at you. Don't drop your gaze in a panic, though. Instead, smile cheerfully, and - slowly - move your gaze away from her. Don't stop smiling, either. Then glance back at her quickly, and look away again.\n\nWhat's the point of that little exercise? It builds attraction. A lot of our communication as humans is completely nonverbal - it's body language. By looking at her but not freaking out when she looks back, but rather slowly looking away, you're effectively saying: "I'm not a creep, because I am not staring at you. But I AM admiring you."\n\nShe'll probably smile back, or at least her eyes will shine with some degree of recognition. There's your chance. Look at her again - about the same way, just focus on her eyes (always, always, always look into a woman's eyes when greeting or talking with her!) - and stroll right on up to her. Sure - this takes courage. And sure, you are probably worried about being rejected. But don't be. Repeat this mantra through your head: There's no reward without risk.\n\nYou might even become so smooth at this whole thing that she ends up coming over to YOU, wanting to know what is going on. I love it when this happens; it shows me that the lady has some confidence and fire in herself. :)\n\nOnce you get there, say something spontaneous. This could be amusing and playfully-arrogant, like what I mentioned in the beginning of this post. Or, it could be simple and direct: "Hi there. My name is So-and-So. You are?" It sounds crazy, but this is honestly all you have to do. It's that easy. What you have to watch out for here is turning into a wimp - blurting out words randomly without thought, or thinking TOO hard about what to say and therefore saying nothing at all - but remember. You are already there. You've already initiated the conversation, simple as that might have been. Now all that you need to do is keep it up!\n\nAnd just go on from there. Keep a few things in mind if you ask for her number and go on a date:\n\n1. BE CHARMING, but do not become a "girlie-man." *laughs* I mean, don't let her walk all over you or get you sweating and stuttering. Be confident.\n\n2. BE FUNNY, but be mature, t
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First face that fact that you might get burned again and when you have someone in mind (I'm guessing you all ready do), that you think is worth the risk of shedding some tears over if it doesn't work out, then you're ready to make your move.  Be where that person is when you can, not stalky, but if he's in some sport or club, go to the games or go to a club meeting, etc.  Give him an opportunity to notice you.  Ask for help with some topic if you share a class, that sort of thing.
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Those random guys might been your best bet. why? maybe there shy and wouldn't say anything .If you broke the ice they both might be flattered. try breaking the ice.
627390
Don't try to hard. Next time you see him, pay him a short compliment:\n\n"Hey, cool shirt."\n"Thanks for helping me out the other day."\n\nGuys are shy too. But compliments (short and sincere) will get his attention. If he is interested in you, he'll make the next move.
184756
Hey If u like this guy then u should be more forward in asking him if he's interested,  but if being shy is still an issue then u should be a litle more flirtetous with him so u can get the right signals...it doesn't hurt to try
211511
at this point, you have got to be strong gurl! its kinda hard getting a guy thats shy too, just like you... so, do anything that you think will get his attention... by just approaching him, you will get his attention.. tell him you want to be friends with him.. and when you guys do become friends, tell him you wanna get to know him more.. and you wanna hang out... if he does agree... go somewhere quiet... tell him that its hard for you to say this at this point, but tell him that you really like him a lot.. and then ask him what are his feelings and tell him to be honest... and if he tells you his true feelings, and tells you that he does also likes you, then you've done it gurl!! good for you! but if he doesnt like you, dont worry! you have so much more years ahead of you.. im sure you'll find a guy thats so much hotter and cuter than that guy... and he might even like you back too :)
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Some guys like the "Art of Flirtation".  They literally practice on you just to get it right.  And they LOVE that you respond to it.  \n\nOther guys are just too shy to go up and say they are interested in you, yet forward enough to actually flirt. If this is the case, you might have to ask him out.