he always trys to beat me up but i defend myself what should i do the next time he picks a fight.
128882
Avoid him but if he attacks you defend yourself.  If he was a friend call his parents and tell them he's doing it.\nIf he's over 18 call the police.
285978
If this keeps going on, you getting revenge on him and him getting you behind your back, it's a never ending chain.  All the resentment will just grow and grow.  You don't even know for a fact that he talks about you behind your back.  That's not even the point though.  The point is, be the better man and stop this circle of anger.  Be nice to him, forgive and forget.   He'll probably follow your lead and do the same.  He might not, and if he doesn't, yuo should talk to him.  It takes more courage to forgive than to take revenge. Why are you guys fighting all the time anyway?  Why are you enemies?  Chances are, it's not a very good reason.  Good luck.
287460
I know!You will get trough it!Be strong,my friend!I was scared of him,too.But,you have to fight! Good luck!
464084
you know what to do but afraid to take the first step because he might hurt you again physically... why not consult with a legal counsel and ask him the best way to get out with the relationship. you have to be strong to face the consequences that would save your life and pride as a person. Good luck ;-)
597869
you are doing the right thing. if you let him bully you where do you get into the same house with a moron? if he's willing to hurt his children to get back at you he's just as bad a dad as he is a husband. stick up for yourself and dont take his crap.
195926
Just tell him "I don't swing that way" and hope he gets the messasge. If he persists, be firm, tell him he's barking up the wrong tree. If he keeps on, punch him. If women could beat up men who do this to them, they would be punching out men all the time. It's the same thing, an unwanted advance.
465396
First of all you ask for forgiveness and then you move on.  Do not keep beating yourself up for something you can not undo.  Then you need to make sure that you do not get involved with him again.  He may try to restart this toxic relationship up again because it worked for him.  You were used, keep reminding yourself of this so you don't go back to him, I have been there.  Everytime you try to justify all the good things he did, remind yourself of the pain he has inflicted on you and his family.  Stop beating yourself up...You will get thru this.
498210
He is a magnet and u  are the refridgerater. Bug him until he is sick of you. Then throw something at him that won't hurt him but just scare him, like a SHOE!
354246
exactly what the other guy said. just tell him that you are there and willing to help if he wants you to, and ask him about the bruises.  i dont know how well you might be at this,but , try to be stern with him without turning against him. i think if you blow it off he will to. if he wont open up to you after you have asked him a few times, end the conversation by reasurring him that your there if he needs you.
619039
Firstly, I don't recommend that you get into a fight unless you are confident of your ability to defend yourself, but there is one common characteristic about bullies: They're usually cowards and travel in numbers and if you stand up to them (don't complain, act confidently), they often back off.\n\n- However, you should learn a few DEFENSIVE moves - either in a martial arts or self-defence class. Learn how to ward off a punch or kick.\n\n- Try to choose where you are going to be bullied and make it a public place where some teacher / principal is going to see it.\n\n- If you think they carry weapons, DO NOT, I repeat DO NOT do anything that may escalate the bullying to severe violence. You're better off running away and avoiding the situation if that's going to happen. You could report them to the cops if you know they have weapons and get them evicted from school.\n\n- Bullies are usually very insecure about themselves and if you can get one of them alone, you may be able to talk him down and come to terms with him.\n\nGood luck and be careful.
234494
Beat him up!!  No, just tell him that you don't like him like that.  If he keeps bothering you, just ignore him.  He'll move on eventually.
489413
u have to trigger and emotion that u have towards him and use it. make urself want to punch the shit out of him. get aggressive, angery. u need to find a way to put yourself in a mode that u just can de-humanify him and punch dont think of him like a person. just think of him as an object of your aggression .plus think nothing last for ever. fear is only something to hold u back in a moment. youll realize that afterword its never as bad as it seemed. its all physcological you can overcome any fear with enough will power.
483510
I've won and lost fights, but i've never felt pride in victory, and the pain of defeat is only short term.  Screw what people think and do what you feel is right.  Does this guy deserve to get his ass kicked?like if he hit you first for no reason, then do it.  If you are positive you can whoop him and its no big deal then let it slide.  If you are doing the right thing and your friends give you sh it  than get new friends.
649190
pay his fine and do his time.serouisly you need to et him take care of this himself.You wont always be around to bale him out of him mistakes.He has to learn to stand on his own two feet.
531547
Blow the idiot off. You could frighten the Hell out of him but don't lay hands on him. He's probably lying about his exploits and his parents would have you put in jail if you beat him up.
636712
Well if he really hurt you, then you should leave him alone. Find someone who is more considerate to you, and your well being.
438637
avoid any confrontation, play the headache/not feeling well act until yo are ready to bounce then leave him a note letting him know why you chose to go.. maybe with a word of advice in the hopes that he'll be better to his next victim...\nthis is assuming of course that he is unbearable...\nMaybe you're the tough one to get along with?