When we first met I wasn't ready, then I later on found out that he was dating his brother's ex.shocking!! So I got jelous and tried to win him back, coz I realized that I'd fallen for his beautiful soul, from the first time that we'd kissed. I either ended up doing too much, or not doing enuff, it got all confusing, coz I think he's psychotic; coz he needs too much attention, too much time, everything in excess, which I have absolutely no problem with, if I'm getting the same in return. So I gave up. I started acting like I didn't care, and held back alot of emotions and feelings from himeven tho' I'm still madly in love with him. I miss him
123940
Because he get you hot . . . he is sooo in control of himself and of the situation around him . . . that you find that power and control intoxicating.\n\nMost women . . . I have dated . . . constantly talked about the jerks and a**holes they have dated . . . they say the wished they had a nice guy . . . (I was one of those nice guys) . . . and when they found the nice guy . . . he either gets ignored or used.  Then they go back to those people who treat them like dirt . . . because you are attracted to those type of men.\n\nYou may deny it . . . but this is true . . . and factual . . . oh there may be a few exceptions to that rule . . . note:  I said FEW.
191204
I was ALMOST in that situation...\n\nFortunately I realized BEFORE things got too bad (he was just starting to become possessive) & ended it little by little.\n\nI don't know what to suggest - other than what I did - which was winding down the relationship VERY slowly - which will eventually end it & hopefully he will have adjusted to your not being around anymore.
369108
I had this same exact problem for so long and I am just now coming out of it. It is going to be very wonderful when you come out of this experience knowing so much and able to help other people with the same exact problem. First of all, I want you to think about all the time you've wasted just sitting and daydreaming about him. That's time you could have used to make your life better by doing things you enjoy and you could have made other peoples' lives better. Next I want you to ask yourself, "What has he ever done for you?" It's really hurtful to realize that you've wasted your time wanting somebody that you just can't have but trust me, you will have so much free time once you just stop thinking about him. You have to be willing to stop talking about him w/ anyone, pretty much pretending he doesn't exist anymore. Avoid listening to songs that remind you of him. With the guy that I liked, he was actually undesirable and it took me so long to realize that he just wasn't a good match for me at all. So hang in there and remember there is absolutely nothing wrong with being singe cuz you're waiting for the right guy! You deserve a guy that's young enough and that you can actually go out w/! good luck! e-mail me if ya need to!
532136
i once fell for a womaniser too. and gal he drove me nuts.!!just the fact that he had so many women in his past and who were dying to get their hands on him made me feel so so so special that he chose me.more expecially whn he gave me lots of attention. and he told me i wasnt like "the others"................\n\nhe will sweep you off your feet,love you, and leave you,and you be like all the other gals,,,thats what happened to me.but i dont regret going out with him,i only wish i had been wise enough to see that he was l never going to  change.but take a chance on him.who knows he may change after all.keep me posted bout his actions please.
21688
Hold your horses and hang in there, girl... You're bound to find your soulmate out there one day. Maybe it just takes time, so that you'll appreciate him more when he arrives! :)
167562
That 'magical' feeling we all get only seems to be there when we can't get that special person.  He has been honest with you and said from the beginning that he doesn't want anything serious, so it's all down to you and whether you would be able to put up with what he has to offer. It's easy to give in and see him to get that magical feeling but is the high worth the massive low you could also get. You could be lucky and end up winning his heart but in my experience it rarely happens like that. I wish you so much luck because I know it's a horrible situation to be in.
134362
I am so sry, for what happened to u. Trust me the guy is so stupid, and u should be glad this happened b4 u guys did nything intimate. I noe it's hard to forget, but u should go on with life. Many times u will find urself in a drepressing position. Many times. Get over it. There are many guiys in the world. U never mentioned that this one was the perfect one so i'm guessing he wasn't. and even though u were going out it seems like u considered him as a friend. U must have been close, it hurts , i noe. U 'll find ur perfect one someday and u'll forget about this guy. Someday u'll be able to look back at this memory and laugh about it. I would suggest looking forward to that day. Enjoy urself, have fun, study, date, life is too short to have many regrets.
187757
Awww! I hate it when that happens... \nMaybe he just wasn't good enough for you...\nI don't know what you told him but possibly, something that you told him about your personal stuff made him think that you're not the right one for him... I don't know! \nDon't worry about it. It was just a date! Move on... there's plenty more fish in the sea :)
536793
I can relate to you. I have felt this way before but I have realized that if someone hurts you, then they do not like you in the same light in which you like them. You call this first person as a substitute for being with your soulmate, but no one can really be with someone who has no feelings for them. On top of this, no one can be with someone when they do not feel it 100%. I hope my advice helps you, and I sincerely hope you can get in contact with your soulmate. Best Wishes.
630079
well I know how u feel, coz I just got out of 3 years relationship, 6 months ago. He's still in my head, and I think about him sometimes. I tried to date but it doesn't work out, coz I'm not over my ex completely. Here's some suggestion, forget about your ex and move on. But if you can't then don't rush hooking up with some other guy coz it's not fair for ur new guy. Good luck sweetie!
382509
i did twice, almost at the same time. i was dating this guy that i absolutely loved. we dated a year before we ended it. it was really heartbreaking. he didnt cheat on me or anything, atleast i dont think he did. i thought we were going to get married! in the middle of that relationship, i also became friends with this guy who had a crush on me. i had a crush on him too but we never dated or anything because i was so in love with my boyfriend. my friend and i stopped talking because i wanted to be with my boyfriend and i felt i was cheating on him because i had a crush on him. anyway, bad idea. i got my heart broken twice.... my boyfriend dumped me and i lost my chance with my friend =( im glad to say that my friend and i are friends again and still close. i still believe i lost my chance with him though =/
507839
I know this is gonna take alot of guts but call him and tell him how you feel and ask him if he would wanna have a relationship with you again and if he refuses then you need to move even though your emotions towards him doesnt just date occassionally trust me the right guy will come to you, you just have to have patience!
118246
I felt the same way about my bf, we would argue constantly about things that he would do, and I got fed up one day and I dumped him, then six hours later I took him back, because I realized, I was so sad and I realized that I would argue any day with him, then not have him in my life at all. I love him very much.
649356
Thats how I feel. I want a relationship but the person I want it with seems disinterested , when initially they appeared to be. Guess I'm too slow & old fashioned as I wanted them to make the first move & they didn't. Think they may have moved on to another. I don't know for certain but I am still in the same zone, in love with them. I'll always love them. I promised I would & I meant it. I have not gone back on the promise, have seen no one for a VERY LONG  TIME and will not, even though I may have said I did just to make them jealous because I want them to notice me. I love them. I want them. How much more can I say it, prove it, whatever. I feel bad for you. Don't be like me & feel like fading away & dying because you feel useless. Do something before it's too late.
289090
I know how you feel.  I am going through that right now.  I just graduated college and I never got a chance to tell the guy I liked for 2 years that I liked him.  Our relationship is confusing.  Sometimes it seemed like he liked me other times it seemed like he hated me.  That's why I didn't pursue the relationship.  Like my friend tells me, "If we are meant to be together, we will be together.  God will see to it."
161131
For a minute I thought I was reading my journal...take it from me..I've been there...and I did give up...I gave up on looking for something that's just not there. We talked and I told him it just seemed to good to be true...but that's just it it is too good and you have to realize you are worth all the devotion he is giving you. He sounds like he may really be a good guy and if you keeping flipping out..he will leave..my man almost left me and we were in the same predicament, living together and he did everything right but b/c I had been hurt before I looked for the stuff my ex used to do and never found it...STOP IT!! before you lose the man that may really be for you!!! good luck and take my advice sweetie!!
245678
I haven't actually fall in love with him, i just want to be with him and maybe start a relationship but his mind was set on doing other things. He was a very well known local rapper and all the girls loved him. We chilled a lot but I had to understand I'm not what he wanted at the time but he always ran to me when things didn't go right for him so I was like a right hand man. And to keep you safe when you fall in love with someone that don't like you don't let them take advantage of you cause they will think you would do anything to be with them and make you do it and want never get with you so watch your self.