There is this girl I love who is my ex-girlfriend. We have been best friends for the last 3 years, even after the break up. She's been engaged for about 5 months and she had been forbidden to talk to me by her fiance but continued to do so. \n\nOnly a couple of days ago, she told me that we need to stop talking completely, but she said she wasn't strong enough to end our friendship because she knew it'd hurt, so she begged me to. So I did, I've cut off all contact with her. \nNow I get an email from her and she said she didn't realize how much she relied on me, and tells me that she misses me. \n\nShould I forget about her and not reply, or try to continue the friendship even though it'll end in another 5 months when she gets married? Is there any way for me to tell her that if she needs me this much that maybe she shouldn't marry her current fiance?
121492
Look this is the deal.. I understand you all have been best friends from some time and you just broke up. But she is getting married and there is really no reason you should interfere with this girl and her fiance... But I can tell you this if she is getting married to this guy and still attempting to keep ties with you. Well then it is obvious that she still cares for you. So knowing that you need to make sure that your not the reason that there marragies breaks up or does not last. And I belive you still have feelings for her as well so if your love is real then it can withstand what has been done. But this girl seems to mean to be unstable if she is planning to get married and then wanting to keep ties with you still. I mean she knows if she does this that she can have you and this guy. And then what she gets married and then later to you. I am sure this girl is sweet and kind but you need to protect your own heart...
532532
You know I've been in this same situation. It's really hard to deal with if you guys are so close. I just let my friend be and went to hang out with other people. I would call her and invite her places but she always turned me down because she had already made plans with her new man. This went on for about three months. When she called one day I told her. I'm not mad at you anymore but I would like for you to know that what you did really hurt me. We had been friends for five years and this guy comes and now you act like I don't exist. She apologized and we started hanging out again. Some people just get caught up in situations and forget about the feelings of others. You just have to put yourself in her shoes. If you were in a new relationship you might do the same thing to her. It's something new and right at this time you're just caught up in it. As long as you talk to her and tell her how you feel about it she should make it a point to try and share her time between the two of you. If she just blows you off then she wasn't a good friend to begin with and you'd be better off finding someone who cares about you and what your feelings are. Good luck with it. I hope she comes around.
199012
I'd be nice but firm.  Tell her you enjoy her friendship and would like to continue it, but that the relationship is over and that you would like to meet other girls.  Maybe she doesn't realize she's doing this.  If she still has feelings for you, it's gonna hurt no matter how you say it, but eventually, if she's mature enough, she'll get over it and you can restart the friendship.  Good luck!
93216
Oh wow, tough situation. It would help a little with these type of questions if people told how old they are. If you all are adutls though, just let her know how you feel. Also your best friend doesn't sound like too good of a friend if you even think he might say yes. But then again, maybe he doesn't know how you really feel about her? You should tell him. Real friends wouldn't do things to hurt others. Also, maybe you acted all cool or whatever when you broke up so she thinks you won't care? Honesty and straight-forward communication is always the best policy in every relationship. If she doesn't love you back that's rough but at least you can try to move on. It's a fact of life that at some point we will probably like someone who doesn't like us back and vice versa. It's not pleasant but it's also a good reminder to treat others how you want to be treated...karma can come back and bite you in the butt!
569625
well in a way it's a good thing that you're avoiding her..but dont like shut her out completely. once she realizes that you've moved on,she'll probably start to miss you. you know? hah,i sound a lil silly,but i guess what you're doing is okay. give her a call,see if she's in a talkative mood. you can tell if she doesn't wanna talk if theres awkward silences,or if she comes up with a lame excuse to get off the phone. : ]
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Ouch, you listened to the wrong suggestion my friend. Hacking into something like that is very wrong and abusive. If she's not answering she may have you on ignore, meaning she isn't going to see you contacting her. You've done right by letting her know what you did, and honesty is the best policy. But, now she has developed a distrust. Throwing hints her way was great, and getting to know her by asking questions is great. But, calm down, leave a kind message on her desk, let her know you know what you did is break her trust with you and your very sorry. Let her know in the note that you were having heart felt feelings for her and you were trying to find other ways to get in touch with her. If she accepts the note, she will let you talk to her, try not to push yourself on her verbally. Cause that will cause her to walk away from you. If she doesn't accept the note, she may be still be upset about the situation, cause that is private.\nThe best of luck to you.
250895
This person is no friend.  She might be harboring some jealousy issues.  Don't let her get you down and just quit calling her.  She isn't your spouse and you are letting this become your problem, when it is clearly her problem.  Friendship is a lot of give and take, and it sounds like you are doing all of the giving.  I wouldn't ignore her phone calls, but I would be busy if she tried to call back and make plans.
606649
I vote, forgive AND forget. Why else would you bother calling her your BEST friend rather than just a friend? Take a chance, a risk. I think she's worth it. We all make mistakes.
102790
Dear Chery:\n\nI am sad that we have not spoken in such a long time.  I miss your company and your wit. \n\nI was hurt when you lied to me, and I may have over-reacted.  Whatever hard feeling we have, I wish we could put behind us because I value yur friendhsip too much to lose it.\n\nPleae let me know if you can overlook our differences and get back to being the friends we once were.\n\nIf you cannot forgive me, then at least stop sending me e-mails, because it just makes me hurt more.  \n\nAnd if that doesn't work, write to her and tell her she sucks. And the only reason you wanted to make up is that you wanted to put her in your will, but too late now.
491666
Hello Chuck, Do not respond to her text message at all. And what she basically means is that she did not know what i good thing was when she had it (being you). She did not appreciate you or the things you did for her. She left you for someone else. This other person she appreciated and did things for this person and she got handled the same way she handled you (what comes around goes around) ,,,,,,,he did not appreciate her and left her for to be with his Ex-girlfriend. And that is why she was telling you that Karma was a b-*ch. Just move on with your life,,,see other ladies that will appreciate you and not take you for granted. Find someone that will love and adore you the way you love and adore them. Take care and good luck sweetheart.
425457
Honey, You no in your heart what she is doing to you. I no it hurts and the whole thing sucks but we all been through it.It's right there in our face and we refuse  to see it.If you keep after her she will tell you point blank that she doesn't love you any more and she has been seeing her ex for awhile now.Don 't let her do that to you,beat her to the punch.Tell her you don't care what she does because you have been seeing someone for over 6 months now and you love her.I no you won't take my advise. You don't no me but I am giving you good advise so please take it. I hope everything works out for you.If the pain gets to hard for you, don't think about tomorrow take it a minute at a time or a hour what ever it takes. Don't let this girl get the best of you.
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MAY IT HURTS YOU BUT ITS TRUE.......\nTHAT SHE DOESNT LUVS U AT ALL NOR SHE CARES ABOUT U.......\n\n\ntry 2 forget her bcoz if she is saying after rejecting ur proposal to maintain a relation as a friend then she is lying,(as it is impossible for a girl to say a person like u,that she doesnt needs u.)\n\n\nif u will not forget her now then in future ur pain will increase.just forget her and try 2 make some more friends who really needs u.\n\n\nSORRY AGAIN,\nG O O D L U C K 4 U R F U T U R E.
270319
Sounds like she's a little jealous.  It didn't work out between him and her so she doesn't want him to work out with anyone else.  I think it's more of a hurt ego actually.  The question is why is she so concerned about your feelings that she has to tell you about all his downfalls?  Do the best you can to just ignore it.  It doesn't sound like you two are any type of friends and she's not physically there to make it harder to deal with so when you check your emails and you see her name, just click on that little X and you're done with it.
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Yes, a woman with whom I was a really good friend (I will call her Jane) just turned on me and almost refuses to talk to me now. We don't live near each other anymore, so it's not as big a deal now as it once was. But I have no idea what I did or said to turn her against me. I am one who has really good relationships with people and long-term friendships. So this really took me by surprise.\n\nJane and I used to spend hours together every week and a lot of time on the phone. We were both members of the same professional association. I saw her there and she was really rude to me like I had offended her in a big way. \n\nI am still mystified by this situation and it took place nearly eight years ago. I was told, by a mutual friend who asked me about the break up that Jane had done this in other relationships. That made me feel a little less confused, but I am still saddened by the loss of what I considered a great friendship.
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Make sure you tell her you deserve an explanation for her distance. This is important. You have the right to know why she no longer wishes to be a part of your life. Just pull her to the side nicely or if you can catch her alone even better and just be like, "Hey, I've noticed you've been distant lately, is there anything wrong...did I do something to upset you?" Then if she doesn't wanna talk or explain herself, tell her "I deserve an explanation and I'll only try this once if your gonna give me the cold shoulder. I care about you enough to address the situation, but if you don't wanna be my friend anymore, at least have the decency to inform me like a woman". After this. just do what's in your heart. Go your separate ways and look into other options in friends. Someone is out there in the same boat as you and you'll find a new BFF soon. Good Luck!
74515
WHOA! You should defintaly try to explain yourself again and make her understand. I would be furiuos if my girlfriend stayed at her Exs for a week. Thats totally uncalled for and you have every right to be pissed. I mean theyre Exs for a reason right? Yea man thats definatly not cool, and if she insists on keeping contact with the Ex then maybe theres still some latent feelings towards him. If she doesnt get it, then tell her that her still talking with him is directly effecting your relationship and could possibly be the downfall of it as well. Godd luck with that man.
403324
I think you should let her think about who she really wants. if she wants the ex who is an asshole then let her. Let her miss out on your good quality and you can find someone else that wants to be in a relationship. Don't still around with someone who is going to make a decision that is half hearted a girl like that is just pulling your stings. It seems like that two months was nothing to her. i think she already knew that she loved her ex and the she wanted someone to just keep her mind off of him.