24 years my father has lived in the area and never wanted to meet me. ive writen letters and tried to contact him. i never knew where he lived untill about three weeks ago
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well its hard to tell.. maybe he was driven away, maybe he was just an arrse!. What went on between them has nothing to do with you. If you have any interest or maybe just curious. Go ahead..Go for it.. you may find a worthles piece of s#ite you and mama are better of without.. at least you'll know Be cautious, be cool and let things work themselves out.
542374
really wow that is so cool that your trying to find your father !!\nmy father is dead so yeah i hope someone finds him or knows him.\ndora~*
227351
Contact his parents and get his address.
20078
I was a bit in the same situation. My parents got divorced, and my mom (she got the house), told me we were moving. My best friend lived next to me, and I was freaked. I made sure I stayed in touch though. I didn't move too far, anyway. But, if you start beign friends with him, then you can stay in touch, and you might get him to like you.
400069
Men, and I am one, frequently experience huge challenges in relating to their estranged offspring, and I am one of those too. I have scarcely any contact with my daughter, and none at all with my son, who are both "grown up". I believe that is ALL my responsibility. I take the view that, having been entirely inadequate as a father to them in their youth, I have no right to impinge myself on them as adults. I would love to be close to both, but don't deserve or expect that to happen. I would love for my daughter, particularly, to keep in touch, because we had reached a level of understanding. She hasn't contacted me for many months, and her mother tells me that's because she has been through some extremely difficult times during the last couple of years, when, incidentally, I have been away (she is now 30, and not at all immature).  But I would LOVE to hear from her - or from my son, whom I have had no contact with for 2 decades. I suppose that what I'm saying is that  I won't contact my kids unless they contact me first, because my, frank, neglect of them when they were younger disallows me that prerogative, but, I do wish they would contact me. It has to be that way round because I would be imposing myself on them otherwise. Write him. Leave a mesage with a friend, Tell him, ever so gently, because he's male, and therefore pretty hopeless at those sorts of things, and may be scared, that you would like to know him better. Maybe he really doesn't want to know, but you won't know that unless you do try, and you will surely kick yourself if you don't. I, with  the very greatest sincerity, and a tear in my eye I am not ashamed of, wish you the very best of best fortune in this matter.
344307
Try workplace reunited, you may get more replies ...;\nPS My dad was a R.E from 1950 - 1960.
642712
You should move on if you know/feel that he's not gonna come back to you. But you shouldn't hold a grudge against him for choosing his father over you (no offence). Maybe at that time, when he said he wasn't going to move in with his father, he meant it because he knew that his brother could take care of their father. But when his bro left, he might have been battling whether or not he should go back to his dad. But I guess that for him to do that, he and his dad must really have a strong connection. :)
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your daughter reminds me of me when I was that age, except my dad didnt get remarried and have two kids until I was 17.  My mom had to drag it outta him to get the info.  He never calls, never tells me he changed his phone number or address.  I havent see him since I was 10.  thanks for listening. LoL this can turn into a journal thing  haha.  You also remind me of me.  I am also shy and have few friend.  If i ever had kids and one asked me to do that I would feel just like you.  I would have to be honest with her.  Just tell her the truth before she expects 20 people to show up.
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I know how you feel I had a family member that lived next door. well a few years ago they moved away to a new state. short after they moved they called and gave me there number and address. now we call and wright to one another all the time. I still fell lonly at time but I know that I could wright or call them any time and they will be always there. you should ask them for there address and phone that way you wont fell so alone
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Check with the post office, send a letter to the old address and ask to be notified of the forwarding address. Check with his references, they may know where he is, check with his job too.If he's still there, you may be able to send it there. If you have his social , you can go on a people finders site and find him. \n I believe you can also post in the paper for 3 consecutive weeks- then go to court and if he doesn't show it's his problem. After you get a judgment,he will appear sooner or later. \n One cool trick I found was to get references, call them and then ask if they would co-sign. If the references say no- do not rent to that person- they know him! If they say yes, I tell them it's not necessary, I just want to know how much they trusted them. Works great!!
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Funny, you had no problem in the past meeting new people, so why would you have a problem now...you have built a silly box to live in. Open the box and get out of it. Only you are keeping you a prisoner, not him. Not very smart.
519561
You are only feeling the way you do because of the idea of leaving everything that you have come to know and love. I am alot older than you I am sure, but I have moved about 8 times when I was young. We as kids had no say in where we were going and I for one hated everytime we moved I had just made new freinds. If your father feels like this is the best thing for the family and it will improve whatever lifestyle you have I say relax , go with the flow and when you are old enough to get out on your own and you really don't like where you are you can make that change. But as for right now, If it is going to make all of your lives better I say go for it. Seems like your parents are doing whats best for the whole family and KUDOS to DAD for including everyones say in the matter. Good Luck!
329595
I would give virtually anything to see my father again. He died many years ago, and I never got to say goodbye. :(
70386
do a people search on the internet, like white pages or if you are willing to pay, do a regular people search. go back to where he lived when the last time was you saw him or had contact with him. get a hold of his family
669281
My dad's from there. Don't know your friend though.
183860
I had to leave my hometown because I never could have started my business and been successful there.  The market for what I wanted to do simply did not exist there.  I moved to Southern California from Ohio.  When I first moved out here, I phoned almost daily and visited several times a year.  I missed my Papa immensely and felt a huge hole in my heart without his presence in my daily life.  But, he always encouraged me, gave advice when asked and never made me regret moving so far from home.
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Hi,\n\nMy house mates Father has just had the same thing happen to him.\n\nMy profile is public, and my IM and email details are on there. Do get in touch.\n\nMy house mate is gonna talk to them on the phone tomorrow.\n\nSend me an email, and i will let you know the results of the days phone conversations!!\n\nCheers\n\n:o) J2G