My friend still has feelings for his ex-girlfriend, who is dating some other guy - his roommate. She's still trying to figure out what she wants as well. Should my friend stay and hope she takes him back, or leave and try to find happiness with another?
128297
First off I do not know the Circumstances. Why did they break up? How is the relationship going for the roommate? How long was he together with the girl. Unless he is positive that she is still trying to figure out what she wants. On thing is this is the nice way to not hurt him. Kind of like the answer I love you but there is no future for us. There seems to be two answers to this question. First answer: If he can stand the heartache of being hurt everytime she is with the roommate and there is no scene and he is not ready to move on then he should wait until he is ready.\nSecond answer: If he can't stand the pain then move on. Maybe then she will see that he is away and make her choice. Don't go running right back though. You might hurt the other person you are with at the time. Choices of the heart are different for everyone and every situation.
630721
That sucks! Believe it or not though, another guy will come around, probably someone you hadn't even noticed because you've been too infatuated with this guy. Are you sure he likes her though? It would suck for her too though if she really likes him and you and he started dating. I think you're supposed to be happy for her or she's supposed to be happy with him, but it hurts.
97734
It's up to you if you want to wait a year or not. If you and the friend have sparks, go for it! What difference is it going to make with your ex anyway? You didn't cheat, right? You need to do what makes you happy, and if your ex has a problem with it, too bad! Ex's are ex's for a reason!
400229
I have yet to hear of a situation where a man got his ex girlfriend back, and everyone ended up being happy with the outcome.  If she's gone, there's a reason she's gone, and your best bet is probably to get over it, and find someone else.
173454
I have been in this situation, and it is very hard to deal with, esp if you were into the guy before he got together with your friend!\n\nAll I can say is keep your feelings buried for now - it wouldnt be any good to let either of them in on houw you feel, because that would just ruin your friendships. Who knows, given time you may move on, meet the guy of your dreams and suddenly all feelings for your friend's guy will be out the window (it happened for me!). Otherwise, it may not work out between the two of them, in which case ONCE THE DUST HAS SETTLED (its important to wait until it is well and truly over for both of them, or someone will end up hurt) you will be free to see how he feels about you. \n\nIf you do end up dating him though, make sure your friend is okay with the idea, as I have also been in the position where my ex ended up dating two of my friends - weirdly enough, I was fine about it when he dated my best friend soon after we broke up, in fact I set them up, but by the time he dated the other friend a good while later, it drove me mad seeing them together, and it made me realise I wasn't over him at all (but thats a whole other story!).\n\nThe last thing I will say though - while I repeat it woud be a bad idea to tell either of them about your feelings right now, one thing that really helped me through everything (both being the one with feelings for my friend's guy and seeing my ex date my friends) was having another friend whom I trusted completely and who knew everyone concerned but wasn't part of the group so much. I was able to tell him everything that was going on in my head and getting my feelings out really helped me to get over them - keeping your feelings to yourself with no outlet will not help you move on, it will only intensify them. So tell someone whom you trust not to blab, even if its only your diary!!!\n\nGood luck, and if you need a chat, get in touch any time!\n\nJoji x
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If he's admitted he still has feelings for his ex then if i were you i would leave him alone, he's using you to help him get over the brake down of his marriage!! you deserve better than that tell him how you feel and that what he's doing is wrong, people need time to get over stuff like that! walk away before you get really hurt! :)
403324
I think you should let her think about who she really wants. if she wants the ex who is an asshole then let her. Let her miss out on your good quality and you can find someone else that wants to be in a relationship. Don't still around with someone who is going to make a decision that is half hearted a girl like that is just pulling your stings. It seems like that two months was nothing to her. i think she already knew that she loved her ex and the she wanted someone to just keep her mind off of him.
263845
To a certain exstint it is. Considering that he is moving anyways. She deserve someone to treat her better than she is getting. No woman needs the drama in their lives. But on the other hand how does the ex feel about the situation? Is he ok with it? Is he willing to let her go? If so, then i say girl just be happy, and i wish you the very best of your new relationship.
449470
Let him go, obviously, he wanted your friend and he realized that you were still the girl for him.  What makes you think, that he wont do this again.  He finds another girl that he is attracted to and says   f-you...i want her now.\n\nGirl, go find a good  man becuz he doesnt even deserve you.
85779
This is a common problem that people should really just get over.  Shouldn't you be happy for your friend or even your ex.  Seems real immature to hold a grudge like that.  I say, if you really like the friend, blow off your ex or tell him to suck it up and deal.
212970
I don't think it's fair to the new guy that you're still in love with your ex boyfriend. Serious or not, he deserves your full attention and care. If you can't provide that, you should let him go so that he can find someone that can give him her undivided attention. You need time to heal and to get over your ex boyfriend and staying with another guy is not the way to do that.
52477
I think she should move on b/c he has not been having a good time with her (he wanted to break up) so she should find someone else that will actually appreciate her.
603931
Like it or not, your friend was the one who ditched you--her boyfriend didn't "take her away" from you.\n\nMy best friend (and roommate) did this to me over a year ago.  I confronted her about it, and she stopped...but there was tension between her boyfriend and me for the remainder of her relationship with him.\n\nI still have trust issues with her and am waiting for the day she finds someone new and drops me all over again.
367436
Friend - It depends on the reason for the break up.  Does he know it bothers you?  Have you discussed that he may still have feelings for her?  Not all break ups are the same or follow any rules.  GBU
295023
who cares we are no longer together and he is my EX but as for my friend I would rethink our relationship because she may have wanted him long time ago--leave the past in the past and do what you have to do for you and take care of you let that go
36937
the truth is that  you might be getting fooled and he might also be for real. the truth is since u say he likes another i think you should let him stay as an ex. he might never have gotten over you and be somehow attached to u or might be possesive or he might just feel like he still has to finish up some things he could not whebn you are together. since u are the one who likes him u might get hurt if he does not reciprocate so i think , keep him as an ex.
353671
well on one hand you do have a point but think about it, if her bf is a junior and she's a freshman dont you think that they should go? because if they stay together for a real long time he will graduate and by the time she's a junior he wont be around to go with her to her ball so let her enjoy it now when she's with him she deserves to have fun too. and your friend will probably ask her to go with him if he's going because its his gf and I'm sure he would like to spend more time with her and he probably thinks that this is a romantic way for them to get closer and deeper in the relationship he's not gonna ask someone else to go with him if he has his gf and I'm sure he likes her enough to take her is he's going.