my mom is using my uncle as threats to beat me when i misbehave is that illegal
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YES very. NO one can BEAT You, spanking on the bottom when needed is Sometimes acceptable, BUT Beating NO . next time this is said say : 'anyone ever beats me I am calling the police'. and MEAN it. best wishes for no beatings. there is already enough of us survivors out here, trust me we need no more.
27885
call a relative .. grandma is best and have them contact your mother to tell her that .. her daughter? .. needs her or whatever the situation is .. tell the relative to tell your mother .. if you cannot stay with him because of abuse or something you need to contact an authority .. tell a relative what's going on and that you need to get out of the house
508949
CHILD abuse eh?  You say you are 22 yrs old - this is not a child.   You also write very well for someone with the disabilities you listed. \n\nOK - assuming that you are who you say you are....... Go to the police.   Take the person who typed for you - obviously you are comfortable enough with them and trust them with your 'history'.   Take them along for moral support.\n\nRemember, it is a criminal offense to make a false report, but if you are telling us the truth, you need to report it to the police and see that justice is served.
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You need to tell your dad all of what you've written here and then your mom and her gf need to be investigated by child welfare.  You're a child and shouldn't have to take the responsibility of protecting your sisters -- that's your dad's job but he can't do what is right if he doesn't know what is going on.\n\nADDITIONAL THOUGHTS:\n\nWhy have criminal charges not been brought against those who perpetrated abuse against you?\n\nIf you have already reported this to the police and child welfare and your sister's deny that anything is happening, then there is very little you can do.  At some point your sisters may get fed up with the abuse and report it themselves.   All you can do is let them know that should they need you and Dad in the future, that you'll be there for them.  But no, I don't think you should stay home from college to protect them especially if they don't want your protection.
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man o man i agree with you. I mean im almost 15 and i agree that your mom shouldn't get in trouble. I have an abusive brother and they told my mom and dad that they were only aloud to restrain him, but it sounds like its only your mom doing it and its even hard for just my dad to restrain my bro so i couldnt really see how your mom could do that to your sis. and people who dress gothic and crap just look like fricken retards. they need to get over themselves and get a fricken life! they wonder why nobody likes them and its b./c of all that nasty crap they put on themselves. i know its a way to express yourself but come on find a different way to do it!!!!! also there has been many time that my bro has tried to kill my mom and i think yall should try getting her tested for ADHD and also maybe get her a councilor
95390
Turn her in!  No circumstances about it.  If you punched someone you would be charged with assault.  The rules do not change because it's your mother.  In my opinion, it's worse!
643478
Any type of physical abuse is wrong and is against the law - no matter what your local law enforcement officers seem to be telling you, because this is a form of domestic violence.  Here are some web sites that may help you:\n\nhttp://www.suite101.com/lesson.cfm/16655/157/4\nthis one sort of explains the entire process of why children abuse parents - interesting reading and may help you figure some things out.\n\nYour official state web site also has links to help you - try this one:\n\nhttp://www.211infoline.org/\nand look for the "2-1-1 Info Hotline" link that will put you in touch with agencies that specialize in situations such as yours, that can offer you support and advise.\n\nChildren learn from their parents . . .  so there is a chance that your step-son learned this behavior from his father.  Also, please remember that your younger children are also watching and learning.\n\nTake the steps you need to protect yourself and your family.  Good luck.
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The Courts seriously frown on this...\n\nActually extinguising one's rights and responsibilities as a parent is a major deal in family law in any state.  Give this issue more time and thought.  On the other hand, If this guy physically abused you that's much different.  I would expect there would be people in the legal community to help you to do what you need to do.  Still, I think getting support from him is necessary.  My thoughts...\n\nCheck out this site for County by County resources in your state:\n\nhttp://www.illinoisattorneygeneral.gov/dvsa/violence_Victims.htm
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File for a restraining order, or:\n\nTalk to the law authorities that were involved in your uncle's arrest and sentencing. Tell them how you feel about him being released, and ask if there is something they can do to intervene. Not in the sense of keeping him locked up (rulings are official and final), but in creating a legal "barrier" (other than a restraining order) between your family and your uncle. If his crimes were heinous enough (they sound that way), then there may be something more the police can do. Plans like this are often made especially for people / families who are victims of a stalker if and when their stalker is released from prison.
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You definitely should try seeing a therapist. It sounds like your dad and uncle were both victims of abuse themselves. Some churches have qualified people who can help, some do not. Keep searching until you find a professional who can help you. You deserve help and its out there for you.
232540
You are the child. Ok you say that you have anger problems and it is very good you are aware of that. It sounds like though that you try to take steps to control it. You didn't yell at your mom until she had been cussing you out for a while. You went to your room, you didn't go off on your sister. throwing a pancake at her is not that big a deal. Throwing a plate or a knife or something would be different. \n\nIt sounds like you were being much more of an adult than your mother was. Good for you! At 16 it is not that easy to figure out how you are supposed to act especially when the person who is supposed to be teaching you treats you like that. \n\nAs your mother she has a responsbility to care for you NOT HIT OR YELL AT YOU. Please please please don't listen to these other people who are telling you that it was ok for her to hit you or scream at you like that. \n\nThe number for the missiouri hotline is 1-800-392-3738 they are open 24 hours a day 7 days a week. I would encourage you to make a report. I'm not totally sure of MO laws but if you do here that doesn't necessiarly mean you would be removed from the home or anything but it might mean they could get help for your family. Because you don't deserve to be treated like that. And if your mom feels overwhelmed or stressed out she would have the chance to feel better too. If you just want to know some resources or ask some questions you can call them to. And if you want to make a report you don't have to leave your name if you don't want to. MO does take Anonymous calls.
608235
i think you were doing the right thing to tell the parent about your cousin's mis-behave once you discovered it.  i would appreciate you very much if i was the mother.  unfortunately, she was too weak to face the serious problem, she was in denial, in stead of to talk to her daughter to teach her well, she could only blame it on you which she was so wrong.  i really think that you should not feel bad at all because you did not do anything wrong but try to help to set her daughter straight.  you really don't have to worry about your aunt saying nasty things about you to your mom, as long as you know all those are not true.  no one can please everybody, as long as we know we are doing the right thing, we can sleep well at night.  i know you value your sisterhood very much with your cousin, but...  are you sure you want to take the risk to hang out with her?  she is 17, she is not so behave, her mom disapproves you seeing her... i won't want to see her if i am you... you can put yourself in trouble because if she does drink and drug and strip again in your house, her mom may accuse you again and may take legal action to against you because it happens in your house and she is a minor.  michael jackson is a very good example...
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An actual threat to do you harm is illegal.  However, an implied threat would be tricky to prosecute.  If I said "I want to beat you up" is not the same as "I am going to beat you up". . . I am sure he sounded threatening, but perhaps (though wrongly) he was expressing what he'd like to do, and did not state that he was going to do it. . simply because I find it difficult to believe that some one would say "I'm going to kick your *butt*" without a clause and not do it.  Like. . "I'm going to kick your butt if you ever do that again or put anything on my car again".\n\nI would not warn anyone if I was serious about doing harm to them, as they would know by my actions, not a warning or a "threat". . like "My fist is going to hit you once I am done telling you this". . see, that just does not make sense.\n\nBest thing to do in a situation like you were in, is,  WALK AWAY and tell your boss.   People tend to be protective about their property and you did place a warning on his vehicle . . . which was probably not enforceable. . . or your place, and he handled the situation in a bad way (being uncivil).
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I have a niece who was in the exact same predicament as you. Your father touching you is considered sexual abuse. And his bathroom/changing habits are considered lewd behavior. He can go to jail for many years for what he is doing.\n\nIf your mother loves you and will put you before your dad, talk to her. But some mothers call their daughters liars and ignore them. If you feel more comfortable with an aunt, grandparent, teacher, coach, or family friend, talk to one of them. The people who know you best can give you the best advice.\n\nDon't worry about breaking up your family or making someone mad. Protect yourself first.
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First of all, no one has the right to lay a finger on you. Certainly not hitting you on the head w/a text book. Try to talk to your teacher, school principal and to your parents or to any adult that u think might be able to help u out. Don't let her get away w/this type of conduct! Boy, I wish I was your mama. Talk to an uncle or an auntie or anyone! Soon!!\nLots of luck, stick to your guns(rights).
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i have no answer but i have a suggestion for you \nRUN AWAY AS FAST AS YOU CAN!  \nsex should never be with held as punishment...you are an adult and she is treating you like a misbehaving child...\nyou deserve better. nobody should have their every move tracked....either she has some kind of device or if you have a cell phone she could be using that (most new ones have some kind of gps thing them) but she is crazy!
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Your aunt needs to be strong if she wants this guy out of her life.  Based on what you've said, the guy cares nothing for her and is using her for his own benefit.  If he keeps coming back, she needs to kick him out and then get a restraining order from the court to stop him coming back.  If he keeps hassling your aunt, he will face criminal charges.  Strength and resolve is the most important thing for your aunt, otherwise, however she suffers is her own doing.