If your bf takes you to a swinger club does that mean he does not love or respect you.
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There are lots of reasons that couples go to a swingers club, and they do not necessarily mean that they wish to swing.\n\nFor one, many people enjoy watching others particpate in sexual activities, another reason is that he may wish to be watched. \n\nA swingers club is also a place where it is possible to have your wife/gf dress very sexily, and still be safe and many men simply enjoy the freedom of being able to enjoy her when she is feeling very sexy - which is a strong turn on for men BTW.\n\nIt may be that he is interested in exploring the lifestyle.\n\nHave you discussed swinging or bringing another woman or man into your bed? If so, a swingers club is certainly the most efficient way to find someone to join you.\n\nBefore going please make sure that you have an open discussion with him about why he wants to go, and what his expectations are.\n\nYou REALLY need to develop some code words and signals to let each other know when you are interested in someone, when you are not interested in someone, when you are uncomfortable, and when you need to scream "GET ME OUTTA HERE!"\n\nAs an example, my wife and I have a defined code phrase of "I need a cigarette", whenever one of us says this NO MATTER WHAT the other person is doing, they stop and we go talk - even if we are actively "engaged" with another person.\n\nNaturally this phrase does not work in all situations, so we also developed touch codes - for example, 2 quick squeezes means "we need to talk".\n\nSometimes it is a simple change of wording "I want a drink" means "I'm not interested in this person or these people" while "I NEED a drink" means "I'm interested".\n\nYou have to work your own phrases and codes out.\n\nIf your initial discussion reveals that your boyfriend is interested in swinging, you MUST develop a set of rules in order to be successful. Rules allow each of you to understand each other's comfort levels, interests and "sore spots", and without a good set of rules, you will almost definitely suffer jealousy, and anger, and being uncomfortable.\n\nPlease review the series of articles on rule setting and usage located at:\nhttp://www.swinglesonline.com/forum/viewforum.php?f=1\n\nFirst and foremost, you and your boyfriend need to have a VERY open discussion about this. If you cannot have this discussion - you are not ready to swing.
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I would be going mad! I wouldn't trust him, i bet he is going to shag a load of hookers!  If he loves you he would of invited you let alone not let you go!  He's taking you for a fool, dump him, you dont deserve it, find yourself a bloke you can rely on, and trust.
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yes he probably does hes just pretending he doesnt by kicking you and stuff b/c he doesnt know how to show affection
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Your jealous because you love him and you are worried about anything happening. I never used to be jealous and now I catch myself getting that way when he talks about going to strip clubs and things like that. If there is trust then that is all you need besides love. If there is no trust to begin with then the relationship has nothing. Dont worry but show him you care.
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What makes you think he is not being faithful?  Maybe he respects you.  If he tells you he loves you, he does.
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It means she's not in love with you like she should be to a potential husband.
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swinging is when a couple swap with another couple. you're not involved, so he's not a swinger. there's something strange going on there though, why don't you ask him about it? isn't the key to a good relationship communication?
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swinger means u go from male to female partners. in a bar like, 1 night u hit on females, the next night males.
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If you're in a trusting relationship, it all depends on expectations.  Obviously, he should respect you enough not to cheat, but if you let him know that you are uncomfortable with his actions, he should care enough about you to at least tone it down.  It's natural to admire people of the opposite (or same, if you swing that way) gender, but it's not okay to be overly gawking if you are in a commited relationship.  I always try to join in on the action by agreeing with him.  Is it enough to know at the end of the day that he's going home with you?
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he doesnt want you to go with him...he wants to have fun without you...
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it means u should move on, because he doesn't want u
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well if they insult and laugh at you, it means your bf is probably not going to be one the most trustworthy people because he will act different with every person he meets
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It means he likes the parts leading up to a relationship, but once he's got you he probably gets bored and leaves.
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A good BF would support his GF in whatever her interests are.  His insecurities (not feeling good about himself) and control issues (wants to be in charge of you and all you do) are not healthy for a good relationship.  It will start with sports etc...then he won't want you going out with your friends, then tell you what to wear.  He is not worth the time of day.  Dump him fast.  Good luck to you and I hope you do well in your sports and whatever you wish to do.
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Its means he's trying to let you down nicely.  He has a girlfriend and generally 3 is 1 too many!  So no, hang out with someone else and go to someone elses house.
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The best choice would to get out of the relationship because all he wants to do is look cool in front of his friends and he knows he is hurting you and he don't care.So that is not cool even though they may think that it is. If he does this then he don't really love you because he would think about hurting you before he did what his friends what him to do. You must really love him to put up with the way he treats you because no woman deserves to be treated the way you are getting treated, but then if you really love him then nothing is going to change your mind. If you stay in the relationship you just have to hope he treats you better than what he does now.
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Its mean you don't love him you just want to have sex with him and nothing else. ok you better leave him and choose an other healthy person as a boy friend for you who can satisfy you sexuly and you have a orgasm.