My best friend is getting beaten up by her abusive boyfriend and I have gone to the police about it, and everytime the police goes around to the address the boyfriend says there is nothing wrong and my best friend says that she is getting abused, and he found out it was me who went to the police and he came round to see me and he told me if I was to call the police again and interfere in their relationship I will be seeing curtains, pls help me what do I do?
126456
if your girlfriend is afraid of this creep don't you let him get to you too.  He is threatening you, go to the police and tell them.  If it comes to it press charges,  Get a restaining order and then slap him in jail if he violates it.  Keep a journal of all threats and bad comments he makes to you with the dates that he does them use this to help you get a restraining order.\n\nAs for your girlfriend  if she will not help herself, you cannot help her, no one can.  If the police are there and she lies and says everythign is OK  no one can help her.  She must want to get away from this creep or no one else can do anything for her.\n\nDon't let this jerk start bullying you.  Stand up to him and put him in jail if he so much as touches you. Don't play cause he won't.
341947
sadly, most abused people are ashamed and try to hide it so finding the truth can be impossible. If it's a child ... don't hesitate and call child protection in your area a.s.a.p.. If it's an adult, stay a friend just keep your eyes and ears open. look for signs (read up on the internet) , look for opportunities to get your friend engaged in conversations where they trust you and comfortable opening up. Be very very cautious not to come off as judgemental. If you are asking this then you are a caring person and you will know what to do when the opportunity presents itself.
94034
Tell your friend to go straight to the police, can she talk to her mother if so i know it is a hard thing to tell someone but mum needs to know
203323
First of all, does he have anything you would want. You can file for a restraining order that will not permit him to come near you. If he does, he will be arrested. \n\nI have known of one restraining order that require the bad guy to move because his apartment was within the prohibited distance. That is probably all you can do. The police will give him a warning at the most. All the States, cities and counties are too low on money to do anything else. It is too expensive to have a trial for something that only hurt someones feelings and left them feeling embarrassed and angry. \n\nToo bad, he should not get away with it. I had a similar thing happen to me. I decided to just forgive the guy to get it off my mind. He wasn't worth the time I was spending thinking about him.\n\nHere is something I learned many years ago and it is still my best friend in cases like this...\n\n"If they haven't taken away your happiness, they haven't won"
470438
Definitely think about a restraining order.  That's probably a good idea, and by the way, you might consider keeping your cool..Just a thought.  It will look good if you guys have to go to court for any reason.  Otherwise, they might throw that in your face.  Be careful.  If he starts causing problems, call the cops immediately.  Where I live, that doesn't really help, but at least you would have given it a shot.
42528
It's the same as everywhere; you or your b/f hurt her, you go to jail unless it's self defense and you'd better be able to prove it. I'm a former police officer and if you attacked her, I would arrest you. What you need to do is to talk to the girl's parents. She sounds obsessive and that can be dangerous. You need to document every offense, possibly video tape her doing it or recording her with a hidden tape recorder, which, in Texas, you can legally do as long as one party in the conversation is aware that it's being taped, i.e. you or your boyfriend talking to her. If she shows up at your home, call the police. If her parents refuse to put a stop to it, go to the school principal if you are all in the same school and if need be, the police but do not lay a hand on her unless she attacks you. Where do you think sympathy might lie in a court of law? With you and your b/f who are older, or what they would consider a child misbehaving? Right or wrong, sympathy will be on her side because of her age. You both have to be the mature ones in this case. Don't try to solve it on your own. Do tell her when you speak to her that you are going to call the police or go to her parents and if that doesn't work, do as I instructed. It's the safesty way for anyone. There is no excuse for violence unless you are protecting yourself or someone else from a physical threat. Good luck.
554073
The ONLY right thing for you to do is to report it to the police.  She's in a vile situation with a monster, and if she's too afraid of reporting it, then be the best boyfriend that you can be and report it for her.  You can do it anonymously if you want to.
74078
Ask your friend if everything is ok and explain your fears to her.Tell her you are concerned for her safety and you dont want anything bad happening to her. Tell her that if he is abusing her then you and her can go and get help together as a team and that everything will workout for the best.\nI hope everything works out.
94922
look....if danny is ur true friend then he should understand that wot happened was a mistake and the fact that u let him beat u up was all u could do to say u were sorry.but u can go to lisa and ask her try explaining danny the whole thing..that it was a mistake,and wud never happen again..but lemme tell u 1 important stuff,dude..once u lose some1's trust,its not hard..but its impossible to get it back!!even if things cool down between both of u,hez not gonna trust u anymore,dude.im sorry to say this,but its a fact.happened even with me.hence it wud be better to slowly cast away from danny(as well as lisa).if thats not possible(e.g. if both of u r in a grp)..then try maintaining a VERY formal relation with the 2 of them.in course of time,he might realise your true worth.but therez nothing else to do than wait and watch.hope it works out for u,dude..coz i have been in similar situations and i know how awful it feels.best of luck!!
93380
Honey, it's none of her business, really. If it was as violent as you say, and only close friends/family know what happened...I say you might want to keep it that way. This is a personal and tender issue that she needs to not be a part of. My best friend was murdered when I was a teen. Only her family and a few of us who hung out w/ her at school, knew the real details. We had to keep it quiet due to a gag order so we didn't compromise the case. You know, you could use this excuse as well. That way, you won't feel obligated to tell anyone anything because legally you can't. If after that she still won't respect your boundaries, talk to your supervisor about what you expect in the work place to feel safe and comfortable. You have the right to not be harassed in any way.
282524
You are better off not having neither one of them in your life. Karma's a bitch and what goes around, comes around. To make your life easier for you so that you can move on, talk to your friend. Tell her how you really feel. She betrayed you by sleeping with your boyfriend. Your boyfriend betrayed you as well because he knew exactly what he was doing and he didn't even stop it. It will take some time to get past this, but give yourself a chance on focusing your healing process and continue doing what you're supposed to be doing. Things will get better and you will have a new friend and a boyfriend that will not betray you. You don't have to forgive your friend if you don't want to. It is up to you and you have to do what is best for you right now.
453950
Your friend is being really stubborn. It seems to me that she has some deep-seated issues with criticism. (I should introduce her to my best friend — they sound like kindred spirits.) You need to get them both in the same place (don't tell them your plans until you get them together) so they can work out whatever beef she has with him. It's good that your boyfriend at least tried to make amends.
468491
No, she is not right, you go out there and tell the police who did it, its a sick minded crime and you shouldn't keep it in secret, cuz if you do he is gonna do it again, and about your boyfriend, you said it was his friend and he didn't do anything, i'm sorry to say but maybe he had something to do with it. what im saying is that you should report that crime and get that piece of shit boyfriend away from you from letting that happen to you and not do anything about it.
537822
Hi sorry to hear how you feel.  Does your sister live reasonably close to you?  If she does, why not pop around to her house and see if your boyfriends car is outside. Did your sister put the phone down because you accused her of being with your boyfriend, if so she would have been hurt.  Your boyfriend's mobile phone may have been out of signal and not turned off.  Speak to him gently, you will be able to see from his eyes and face if he is hiding something.  There is probably a very good reason why this happened last night.  Either way if you talk to your boyfriend hopefully  his explanation  will put your mind at rest.
603931
Like it or not, your friend was the one who ditched you--her boyfriend didn't "take her away" from you.\n\nMy best friend (and roommate) did this to me over a year ago.  I confronted her about it, and she stopped...but there was tension between her boyfriend and me for the remainder of her relationship with him.\n\nI still have trust issues with her and am waiting for the day she finds someone new and drops me all over again.
319216
I recently had a promblem with my man last week,My man hit my friend's ass but she didn't tell me.Her girlfriend was the one who told me.My friend told everyone else but me.My man did not deny it, but he said it was not in a bad way.You see my man is a funny and very cool guy,and everyone gets along with him.He goes out of his way to please everyone and makes a joke out of everything.I've been with my man for 4 yrs.He's never even flirted with a girl since he's been with me.We go every where together and do everything together.He shows me nothing but alot of love and gives me so much attention.He will do anything for me and always helpsme out all the time.WE HAVE AMAZING SEX everynight and morning.He doesn't care who's around us,he will be hugging me and kissing me all the time.Now about my friend,I've only have known her for about 10 months,but i've known her girlfiend for 5 yrs.My friend has only been coming around and kicking it here at my house for about 4 months.She started getting to comfortable and start caring herself a little overboard with our guy friends.Suposely she's a lesbien,but she started acting like she wanted to jump in the sack with these guys.Later on when she started telling everone about my man hitting her ass, she stood out with one of my guy friends til 5am.She said that when my man did this to her ,she was traumatized.She still came around my house the next 2 days after this happend and i even left them alone in our bedroom together and she was joking around with him.Don't you think if she was so traumatized over this she wouldn't come to my house or she would have told me something what happend.Well the turn out to all this is,I forgave my man and I forgave my friend too. So both of them are in my life.I looked at both sides and did not side with either one but blamed them both.Did I do the right thing in staying with my man and keeping her friendship?I still feel disrespected from my man and hurt with my friend.I don't know if I should still allow my friend back to my house and if I should trust them both again cause at this point I can't trust know one at all!Should I just kick them both out of my life because once they hurt you or disrespct, they will in time do it again.WHAT SHOULD I DO!
138843
I agree with all the people who say call the police.  The truth is, though the threat may not actually be carried out., you need to treat it as a very serious threat to her life and safety.  The most important thing you can do is GET HER TO A SAFEHOUSE OR SOMEPLACE SECURE.  If she needs protection from this guy, start off by getting her out of this situation.   Also, be her friend and help her feel safe and confident.  If the guy asks you where she is or anything, tell him NOTHING and WALK AWAY.  If he tries to hurt you or violate you, run and bring attention to yourself and get to a public place right away.  If this happens at your house, call the police right away and report him as a trespasser.