I recieved responses 15 against and 3 that was "OK" with my secret little "fling".  So Let me ask all.  Have you ever fantasied about being with another person outside of your marriage?  Any "Kinky" fantasies..I.e. spanking, sex with the boss, a stranger, etc.  Again, be honest.  If you have, isn't that a form of cheating?   Maybe MY desire is stronger than some of yours.  Believe me I have TRIED to get my husband interested.  Even a little "birthday spanking" was not a turn on to him.  So, I'll think about what all of you have said, but don't judge me unless you think this through.  Fair enough?
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Yes I have thought about it as well. It's human nature to want to have different experiences. It's called curiosity. No harm in that as long as you don't act on it!\n\nAs an after thought to the older man thing... I dated one once. I gotta tell you it was pretty hot in the bedroom. He definitely knew what he was doing.
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If you were NOT doing this, I would think you were nuts! After 11 years, fantasy keeps things fresh. Go for it, keep it to yourself, and have a ball. There is NOTHING wrong with this, Anyone who says differently is either lying or have no idea of what they are talking about . We are not kids here! In fact, you might want to play some games with hubby...if he is a game player. If he is a square, missionary type, keep it to yourself. Good luck, and happy dreams!
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Hey, Conan, here's a newsflash:  you're normal!  Right, some men aren't quite as driven as you and some are even more driven.  But they're normal, too.  As long as you don't hurt anyone, including yourself, ain't no sweat.  And as long as it does not bother your GF...Look, there is no absolute regarding what endorphins do or do not do for you.  There is a range of acceptable responses and yours do fall within that range.  By the way, if she gets you that hot 'n bothered, would ya mind posting her pic so's us other guys can see what we're missing?
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All women I know fantasize about other men. We just don't like to talk about it to our husbands and boyfriends. I can't believe women who say they haven't.  We are not blind. We know a goodlooking man when we see one. Even if we don't think about him but just a few moments that is still fantasizing.
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I have fantasized about being with another woman. Yes, my husband was the first to know. And it was more than one occasion, however, I have never been with a woman, physically. Not the one friend I have fantasized about or the celebrity/entertainer in our area.
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I know my husband isn't the cheating type, but at the same time why would you want to put a person in the position to have to make that choice? The temptation is to big if he has already said that he is attracted to her. So no I wouldn't have it!!
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I think you should think about this very carefully....would you want your man touching somebody else in your presence? I have "experimented" with other women in my past, but if my current Bf asked me to do that, I do not think I could. I was also single at the time, so that made it a little easier for me. As for finding a stranger, noooo... I suggest you find somebody you know who is willing to try it. I really don't know what to tell you, just make sure whatever you choose, you are very comfortable with it.
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I would but I'm not going to do it just to please you or anyone else for that matter.  It is a private concern and you should be asking this of your local kink groups, not the net in general and expect a response on D/s relationships for such a carelessly worded question.
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It sounds to me like the fantasy is much better than the reality is going to be for him.  As an experienced swinger I can tell you that it only works if both members of the couple have an equal say in the matter.\n\nAlso,  straight-up, contrary to popular belief, women usually have more say-so over who you swing with as a couple since men's "strike-zones" are usually a bit wider than women's.  Otherwise it's easier for a man to find a woman he is attracted to than for a woman to find a man she is attracted to.  So he'll be disappointed if he thinks it's any other way.  Also, him choosing the couple doesn't mean the couple will choose you two.  There are four people involved that all have to be attracted to the opposite member and comfortable with them for it to happen.\n\nAlso, although more men than women first suggest swinging, women seem to get the most out of it since it really liberates them sexually and helps them get over allot of the Western society guilt associated with sex and being a sexual person.\n\nThis is a disaster waiting to happen.  If what you say is the case he is not emotionally equipped to handle you having a good time with another man.  Watching you have a great time has to be as exciting to him as him having a great time.  That is how it works.  I'll tell you right out that my wife is my favorite pornstar.  :-)\n\nThe big thing is that experienced couples will pick-up on your situation really quick.  After awhile you get drama-radar and can usually sense when all isn't right with a couple.\n\nWhy would someone want to involve others in their sex life?  For us it was we had a great marriage and great sex already.  We were secure in each other and our relationship.  We also had fantasies that required more than two people to fulfill.  It was evolution of our relationship.  And our relationship is even better now.  Our communication is on a level I never thought possible, and we really know why we are together, and it's not just for sex.  It's because we really love everything else about each other.\n\nIf you both are not on the same page about, then you shouldn't do it.  As a couple, in swinging or not, if something doesn't work for either of you, than it doesn't work for both of you.  If it benefits the individual it also has to benefit the couple.  If you don't want to do it than he should accept that.  That is what being a couple is all about.\n\nIf you want some good, honest, open discussion about swinging from both newbies and veterans alike, check out The Swingers Board (link below).  You'll find lots of good information about everything you mentioned in your question.
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I'm not sure if i would be in that type of position when I get into a serious relationship (hope so lol) but I would do it if i was with someone I trusted. I like kinky stuff like that anyways, it's not immature, it's fun.
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I feel the same about my wife.  I still love her but I look at other women & find them sexy & want to be unfaithfull but I have never done it.  It's a difficult one but all we are doing is denying ourselves a beutifull sex life.  I think all that you could do is have casual sex with no strings & try not to let your partner find out.
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i am the side of your wife my wife and i are swingers and love it we share photos on line we also play on cam it has made our sex life better we wanted some spice in our marrried life we love eachother vary munch it is not for eveyone but sit down and talk to her if your marriged is good then it will be fun if you have some problems then you should not try it good luck          dm
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HELL NO, Do you want another guy touching your lady? I wouldn't. What the hell is up with people these days over the 3 sums? I like it with me and my partner and NOONE else. But that is up to you. You have to live with the fact that your g/f wants to be with another man. What if she like it or him? Will you be willing to have another? I dont
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My hubby does all the time!  He says it's kinda sweet, and it makes him feel close to me, in a wierd way.  Doesn't bother me at all...kind of a turn-on actually.  If it doesn't bother you, then go for it.
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This is something you should speak to your husband about. My wife had a similar problem. She married me at 18 and I was her first. She expressed her desire to be with another man for the experience, and assured me that in no way was she interested in leaving me for another. Since I love her with all my heart, I wanted to do anything possible for her. Through our discussions we have decided that we will pursue that in the future if the situation arises. I am working through some issues over it, but as I said, I love her and will do anything for her. If she needs to fulfill this, then I will allow it to happen. We may bring another guy into the mix with us or it might happen with her and him alone, we haven't decided that yet, but we will discuss everything and both of us must be comfortable with the situation in order to proceed. Communication is the key. I'm quite sure that your husband has some fantasies of his own that he hasn't shared with you yet. This could possibly be an opportunity for you both to discover new things in your relationship. Have a conversation with your husband. If your husband loves you as much as I love my wife then he will at least ponder the thought. Good luck.
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SOUNDS TO ME YOUR BOTH PERFECT FOR EACH OTHER! SOME PEOPLE AREN'T THAT LUCKY TO BE ABLE TO EXPRESS THEIR SEXUAL FANTASIES/NEEDS WITH THEIR PARTNERS. CONSIDER YOURSELF BLESSED AND KEEP ON ENJOYING!!!
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1) Yes I have tried it & love it.\n2) It's pretty hard to bring this up with a new partner, it's a delicate subject, have to gauge their mood. My current guy, I tied him up first, then he could better understand the appeal & why I wanted to be tied up.\n3) I've explored a lot of things, my bi-curious side, my submissive side. I'm open to new ideas with the right person.\n4) He's not as open as I am, but we're exploring together.\n5) On some things you have to take the initiative, or you'll be waiting forever. Life's too short, carpe diem & all that.