Why do we have to marry?\nAre there verse(s) saying to do so?\nIs marriage really beneficial?\n\nThat is all I have in mind for the time being.\nI might come back and put some additional details.\nTake your time to answer.\nMega-long answers are welcomed but please be rational.\nYou may add some other things to your answer that is related to marriage.\n\nTake your time.\nThanks.
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I have been married twice. I divorced my first husband, not because he was unfaithful. In a nutshell, he was unwilling to work on our marriage. After many years of trying, I finally gave up. \n\nMy second marriage is very happy. We've been married for 20 years. My husband is the dearest person alive! He is my lover, friend, caregiver/nurse, companion, confidant, teacher, and more. \n\nWhen we married he had 4 grown children and a 14 year old. I had 2 sons, ages 7 and 12. He is a great father to them! My ex was a negative influence in their lives. He loved them, but was not a father to them. My husband was retired when we married so he was the parent that was home with them when they came home from school. He attended all their extracurricular activities, took care of them when they were sick, took them to the doctor, disciplined them. In short, he was their dad. My eldest son credits him with being the reason he chose to marry a woman with 4 children and become a step-dad. Both my sons believe their lives were better because I divorced their dad. They loved him (he passed away 2 years ago) but know the kind of person he was. They know how much my husband loves them and has always been there for them.\n\nMarriage is a commitment between a man and a woman to share everything the future brings, the good and the bad. It is a promise to be together until one partner dies, no matter what. Does it always work? I'm living proof that it doesn't. I'm also living proof of what two people can create if they are committed to making their marriage work. Certainly, we have had our problems, differences of opinion, arguments, etc. But we have never lost sight of our love for one another. We work on our marriage every day. Our love continues to grow. We honor and cherish one another.\n\nI generally don't give such long answers, but the more I told you about my marriage the more I had to tell. \n\nGod Bless!\n\nP.S. Below are some links to scripture from BibleGateway.com.
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no i wont marry you! but yes i most certainly believe in it!  the fact that people dont think they need to marry has led to the breakdown of the family and the problems we see now are the results of selfish people who have kids and then think they are under no obligation to stay around! i can say this cus i have done the same in the past myself. if we would have been marryd and committed to each other we would have work on our relationship instead of parting!
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this is such a hard question. i am getting married next month and i can't even begin to describe the feeling i have for him. he makes me happy in all the funniest ways. i couldn't imagine my life without him. especilly it being happy. lord. he is the reason for my happiness. who would i be without him? some say thta you are two people, just one heart. i think different. marriage combines the two of you..eternal...forever! 2 become 1\nsometimes i think that i want to die first so i won't have to deal with the pain. but then that would be selfish and i don't ever wan him to suffer that ype of pain.then on the otherhand i want us to die together neither of us would feel pain afterwards and we would still be together...buried next to each other. you know. \nsome would say that that is still being selfish but no body ever wants to feel that pain..knowing that the person you vowed to give the rest of your if to, is no longer going to be there, but ix feet under you...who could live happily after that?
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marriage is a religious and social status.  i've been with my partner for 5 years and we are not married.  our relationship is great. he is always there for me, as i am for him.\ni'm not saying marriage is not a beautiful thing.  or that i don't believe in it.  i'm just saying that some people don't have to have approval from society and the church.  i'm not knocking it, i'm not saying we aren't going to get married.  i am saying that we're happy with our situation right now.
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Good morning, dearheart. Good for you. here's my take on gay marriage. I've been married to the same wonderful lady for the last 26 years. She drives OTR semi for a living and I'm a housewife. We both wear wedding rings and feel as married as the next heterosexual couple but I can get none of her health benefits. How my union is hurting society I can't fathom as our relationship has been monogamous for all of it's 26 years and that same union has lasted longer than many heterosexual marriages. There are couples on the LGBTQ site here that have been together for over 40 years (which is a great thing in its own right) How can their love be hurting anyone? Good luck and Blessings on you.
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Boy are you inviting grief asking that in this forum...  However, my heartfelt answer is: Where-ever you find love, why not be allowed to make that committment?\n\nI don't see how the government letting you marry the person you love in any way threatens me and my marriage and my family - I would still choose a heterosexual relationship whether or not gay marriage is legal - so my family life does not need defending from your legal status.  I truly believe that you would not chose this lifestyle if you had a choice.  \n\nGood luck to you.
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It isn't marriage that causes the change in a relationship, it is time.  Marriage is a commitment that you will give your all to a relationship for good or bad including surviving the vestiges of time.
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I prefer marriage over just living together. It tells me he loves me enough to commit to being together for the rest of our lives. To stand before God, family and friends and declare his undying love for me. It's the only way for me.
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In the bible it says that sex before marriage is wrong if there is no commitment between two people. "Marriage" as referred to in the bible is symbolic for a relationship/connection/love/commitment.\n\nThus you don't need to be married (literally) to have sex but you need to be committed.\n\nI feel that it is all about morals and there is no right or wrong. it's your own decision. Personally I believe that sex before commitment/love is wrong
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Uhh...I think it is not a matter of religion but of a moral standpoint.  I do not believe there is anything anywhere that says "You cannot have sex untill you are married."  Like I said...maybe it was a moral issue in the 1900's.  You know what....I think you are on to something.  If people would wait until they got married to have sex there would be less spread of disease, abortion and teen pregnancy.  Plus...if you get AIDS could you imagine yourself saying that "The sex was WAY worth it!"  lol  Is it really so bad?  Half the time I think it is more fun on my own anyway.  hahahaha
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I guess this isn't a question for me. I'm for it. They just want to be a family like anyone else. And it's unconstitutional that they don't have equal rights. Marriage is not a religious institution. It is practiced all over the world in all religions. IT HAS NOTHING TO DO WITH GOD. It is about 2 people coming together, making the promise to love each other solely, and starting a family together. More over it does not effect anyone outside of their marriage. What is it hurting? I don't know, you tell me.
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I have nothing against same-sex marriages. I think it's really stupid how the government is not allowing it in the US. We have the freedom of religion. Wouldn't that mean that we have the freedom to choose what sex our marriage partner is? This topic is purely religious, and what happened to "seperation of church and state"? For the land of the free, there are a lot of useless things restricting our freedom.
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Everyone f*cks before marriage.  TRUE THAT!\n\nBut don't worry about the second biggest lie that we tell ourselves.\n\nWhy not?\n\nBecause there is no god.  Therefore there is no sin.\n\nSee-- the existence of a god is the first biggest lie we tell ourselves.\n\nGo get down and dirty!
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Wow. that is a tough one. It depends on your morals and beliefs. Is the marriage strong enough to handle the consequences? I once watched Dr. Phil and he said that is never a good idea. no matter who wants it or how long you've been married. What do you want? sometimes you have to stay true to yourself.
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Ignore the bashers of love in here, most of them wouldn't know love even if it slapped them in the face. My wife and I are the same as you two are, we think the same, act the same, like most of the same things, had very similar dramatic life experiences thats shaped who we are, and we married each other because we saw the bond we clearly had. More importantly, we both knew who we were as individuals, and knew what we wanted. You can't know if your meant to be with someone unless you know yourself well enough to know what feels right for you and know what you want.
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is marriage about love? hello, guess what. marriage is not about love. its about commitment. love's just part of it. why dont you know that? cause you havent stayed married long enough to realize it.
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Marriage is a platform where two different people meet and tries to understand each other. once that understanding is developed they come up with a bond thats keep one's wife horny for years and one's husband the best for life.\nThis understanding developes with commitment, if u r commited then u will be able to understand.