my boyfriend asked me 2 marry him 2wks ago. since then we have hardly seen each-other n i have a feeling that he don't love me anymore. what can i do?!!!!!
133121
Well, seems to me you all need to spend some more time together!  IF you all are really serious about getting married then you all should be at that point in your relationship to communicate well with each other.    It's ALL about communication, trust and love.\n\nIt'll put your heart at ease to give him a call and meet up face to face to talk about everything you two are feeling right now.  It's a BIG step to take and everything should be out in the open with you two and comfortable with your decision.\n\nGL hun and hope all works out for you two!
497597
Maybe in your heart you hoped that marriage would settle him down a little or you would feel more secure within the relationship.  Do you trust him?  Has he ever given you a reason not to trust him?  Maybe you just need to communicate your concerns with him so he can reassure you of where he stands in the marriage.  Almost any woman would feel the same way in your shoes, and you did marry pretty fast.  Before you married, did you know each others beliefs on marriage, vows, family, careers, finances?  These are some major issues that both of you should be on the same page with - if not, seek some support and guidence.
32094
It is going to be hard since the two of you are now apart.  Sounds like you are a little unsure about the stability of your relationship.  If you want things to slow down, tell him. Marriage is something that you take slowly to ensure the success of it. You don't want three years from now to end up in divorce... or cheating. take a deep breath and talk to him about the situation.  Maybe you will realize that the two of you are ready, or perhaps the two of you will make the mature decision to take things slowly!  6 months is not very long to be getting engaged!
482018
Let's back up one step.\n\nI suspect that there is a good reason you have recently begun "telling him how passionately and deeply you love him".  You feel insecure about his love, and are hoping he will affirm his devotion to you.\n\nYou should feel insecure!  After all you've given your heart and body to him for six years yet he hasn't shown you a committed kind of love - by asking you to marry him.   You just keep giving yourself and giving yourself hoping to keep him, hoping to coax him into loving you more, hoping that his devotion to you is equal to your (desperate) feelings for love-security.\n\nForget wanting his words of affirmation.  Words are cheap - used car salesmen and politicians use lots of nice words.\n\nGet a commitment or tell him to get lost.\n\nThen you will know.
268808
sounds like a great guy. if you feel like you definatly want more then that give it a shot. i have been in your situation to the  point my parents even call him their surragate son and i'll tell you what he confessed how much he loved me after it was too late. now after marrying others and kids we will never be able to go back to that first innocent love we once had for each other.
123439
What's the length of time that you two have been dating without interruptions up to now, without a break?  How many times have you broken up?  You should deal with the problems that you have had that caused the break-ups before you get married, because those problems will get worse during marriage.  Do you expect him to change?  Well, often that doesn't happen during marriage.  If there's a problem now, fix it.\n\nDo you see yourself spending the rest of your life with him?  Do you have stable jobs?  Are you sure you won't want to break up again?  Think about living with him 24/7.  If you have to go to a site to ask this question, maybe you should hold off thoughts of marriage for a while.
66777
He desn't still love you if he did he would tell you where he moved to. Just try to move on. If he does love you and just hasn't realized it, it will be so much better if when he comes back looking for you, you have moved on he will realize how special you are. If not then you have moved on and you don't need him anymore anyway.
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He may say that he doesn't love you anymore -- but it's probably because he's hurting, too. I'm sure he still cares about you -- he just doesn't want a relationship anymore. And that's hard. But.. even though it may not seem like it now.. you WILL get over him, and you WILL find someone better than you could ever imagine! It just takes time. In the meantime, do something for YOU.. go shopping or hang out with friends. It always helps.:)
431883
If he doesn't love u then this means u haven't been around him alot like bf and gf.So this is not love and u will survive it.Do things and keep yourself occupied.
31547
I think the problem is YOU, not your boyfriend. In many cases, when people find themselves in front of one of the most important decisions in their life: MARRIAGE, they tend to get afraid. The reason i think you saw that dream in the first place is because the thought of being married scared. I bet you really love your boyfriend, but you need more security. \n\nThere's a milion ways you can see to find out if your bf is cheating on you, but even if that's so, do you really think he would be proposing you a marriage ???\n\nAnyways, i think you should take some time, go spend a weekend somewhere where you can take your time and think everything through. All the answers to your questions rely in the bottom of your heart, you just have to search for them.\n\nYou're about to make a very important decisions, if i were you, i'd jump out of my shoes from happiness, but i would also take the nescessary time to think this through and see if you're both ready or not. After you've set things right in your mind, talk with your boyfriend. See how he reacts to your questions, the way he talks, the way he looks at you etc.
347125
You should feel special and irreplaceable, but it will take some time, are you sure you want to stay with him, ask your self is me and my b/f headed down that marriage path? if the answer is no, than why are you with him? your wasting your time, if the answer is yes, get some counseling together, and work things out, fight for your relationship (not the girls he was txt'ing) but work hard, and it will blossom, it will take some time, are you willing to put in that time?
530449
I'm in 1 too...ask him if he still feels the same way...if he does he will create a time 4 u 2 to b together!!  Tell him how YOU feel
97718
If you don't feel the same then no, if he does not really love you or you do not love him chances are things will not work out, and there's no reason for you too be hurt again f you was. It takes two remember to make a relationship work. Just follow your heart. Good luck
430148
It sounds like you both moved a bit too fast and now he's trying to back off a bit.  If you've only been together a bit over a month, it's a bit too soon for most people to be totally in love.  Just give him his space and if he does love you, your relationship will flourish.  If he doesn't love you and he doesn't "try" in your relationship, then you don't need him!\n(The further you get in a relationship, the less often you feel the need to say "I love you".)
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Maybe you should try talking to him about how you feel?\nThere is a possibility that if you feel like the "spark" is gone, he feels the same way too.\n\nJust because the spark is gone doesn't mean you need to break up, it could just mean you need to do something to bring it back. I think a lot of relationships and marriages these days end because they're based from attraction and the 'new relationship tingly feeling'\nAfter you're with someone for as long as you've been with him, and longer, you tend to get into a routine, and the original feelings you've had disappear.\n\nLong-term relationships take work.\n\nI suggest talking to him about it either way.\nMaybe you'll both mutually feel like you want a change.\n\nIf you do end up hurting him, don't feel to bad about it, as long as you communicate with him, and are mature about it, you'll both be able to move on. :)
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Just because the "L" word came out doesn't really mean anything Bad. Like you said you guys have known each other for awhile already!\nAnd telling him that you haven't felt that way in long time... \nWell, that's like telling him that you are not sure if you are ready for that step in your relationship with him... But, this could be a good thing! If he really loves you ... you will know! \nHe will still show interest in you and you and him can get closer in your relationship. Just don't rush it..  I have been married three times and all of them we're great at first! Ya' know? Just can't wait to be with them... all you think about... and that's great!\nAll I'm saying is to take your time if you want it to last... \nPay attention to the bad sides he may have and see if you really want to spend the REST OF YOUR LIFE WITH THIS PERSON...\n\nI don't think you really pushed... if he loves you he will stick around.    If you think you pushed... just go talk to him.\n"What should you do now?"  \n(1)Take your time...\n(2)Let the love grow...\n(3)Spend time together and talk<<< \ncommunication must be open. \nSharing your feelings with the one you love is very important!\nIf you are serious about this guy then try these steps and God Bless...\n later.
310907
take your time, Love will reveal it's self.\ndoes he call you, or do you do everything in the relationship. test him, see if he really cares. don't bug him about it or give him a big list of what you are looking for, just let him be and see what kind of guy he is. you can't change people so find out if he is really suitable for you through experience in time. you are probably young enough that it isn't crucial that you get married right now. take your time if you can....it reveals many things!