My husband is out of town on a business trip and I left my purse in his 4-runner last night. Someone broke out his side window and stole it.  It had my checkbook and 2 credit cards in it. I just happened to have my debit card and drivers license in my pocket. They have keys to my house and both our cars. Today I had the house locks re-keyed and a new key made for my piece of s**t van. Tomorrow the 4-runner gets re=keyed.  With my husband gone I feel so lost and violated. I just want to feel better about it all. What can I do?
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hi sorry to hear that about the break in.\nthe most important thing to do is to get on your knee's if you can and as God to help you with feeling violated. I promise you he will help you. and also try not to beat yourself up anymore. things happen for a purpose.\nGod will get glory out of it ,just believe!!! Besides he knows who did it. and believe me he will take care of it. so i hope and pray this will bring you some comfort.
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You shouldn't have written the email.  You don't know that it was her, and you are the one who left your purse out.  I know you are upset about the money and I truly feel for you.\n\nIt could be possible that Maria may have been acting strange because she knew you would accuse her when she found out your money was missing.  If you two can't be friends, let her go her way and you go yours, but not because you have falsely accused her of stealing.  You owe her an apology until you find out for sure she did it.
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try making a complaint to the police and give them the code numbers of the things that were stolen. If they come up on a raid or something they will let you know.\nThey were probably stolen from someoane you met recently and had to much trust in him or her
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I walked to walmart and got my hubby a portable drill and asome cupcakes.oh yeah a belt too.Our car got stolen.
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5o dollars and I turned it in to the local ma and pa store I found it outside of. the owner has known me for over 15 years, he kept it overnight and gave it to me the next day...I got to do the RIGHT thing and it still paid off! I also lost my purse-the person return it but kept my 80 dollars...I was just happy to have my cards and liscense returned...figured it as a finders fee for returning it to the police instead of throwing it out
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Tippy, the only way you are going to be able to deal with this is to forget it.  When you start remembering, stop.  Imagine something brings a smile to your face.  It's not wrong to stay with a man that you love, even if he's cheated.  But honey, it's your mental health that is taking the punishment.  You are going to have to forgive and forget to make it.  It's not easy and it's not going to happen over night.  I am sorry, your heart breaking is got to stop before it completly breaks.  \n\nDoes your husband help you?  What I mean has he ask for forgiveness?  Does he show you emotional support?  Honey, you need for him to help you with this.  Believe it or not, you need him to help heal from this wound.  He needs to be more loving, and shows that he cares that he hurt you.  If he's just blowing it off, like it happen-get over it-then you may never be able to fully forgive him and stop the tears.  He's the kleenex, he's the one that needs to wipe them away with his love.  \n\nHoney, you must remove the images, clean out all the thoughts of them together.  You are grieving in a sense, you have been betrayed, and it's like part of you has died.  It hurts, and it's so hard, but it can be done.  If you want to save your marriage, you are going to have too!  Your husband may have be so wrong, but now it's your turn to make sure you don't make it worse.  If you feel the tears coming on-focus on something else. Anything, but that.  When you start, or catch yourself thinking remember this...it's in the past and today's a new day, each day it will get less and less.  Your husband has got to do his part sweetie.  You can't make a marriage by yourself,  No matter how much you love him, unless you are going to be a silent wife, and just let him do what he wants when he wants.  You deserve so much more than that.  You deserve to be loved and respected, it's your choice your decision rather to forgive, and if this is what you want to do, you must not dwell on it any longer.  Kick yourself in the butt, if you have too.  I am so very sorry, no one should have their heart broken like this, but you aren't alone, and many marriages have become stronger from living thru what you are going through right now.  So, please dry those tears, take a deep breath, and remember it's all your choice how you deal with it.\nPraying that your heart mends, and the memories are forgotten, and that you have the strength to know you are worth true love and respect from the one you GAVE your heart to.  \n\nGod bless us all............
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This is not someone you want to go shopping with. \n\nWhen they are caught the authorities may take you also since you are with your friend. And if someone is dishonest enough to steal they may get scared and slip it to you somehow (backpack, purse, pocket, etc.) without you realizing it. Think security is really going to believe that 'you've never seen it before and don't know how it got there'?\n\nTalk to your friend about not stealing again. A friend of mine was security at a high end department store chain. A 22 year old guy stole something and was caught. It was for kicks. He had a rich family that was prominent in a nearby town. He was used to being bailed out and having everything handed to him. His formidable grandmother contacted the store manager who refused to drop charges. She went up the ladder all the way to the owner. They all refused. Grandma's money and influence couldn't save him, and this time he was forced to take responsibility (possibly the first time he had ever had to.) \n\nA criminal record is nothing to fool around with. And when you have a rep as a shoplifter it can spread.\n\nStealing is not only dishonest, it is a selfish, irresponsible act. Do you think the companies take the losses from theft? They pass the hundreds of thousands of dollars of loss back to the consumer. You and I literally pay for your friend's actions. Don't rationalize and say 'its a big company, they can afford it.' They don't afford it. You and I pay for it.\n\nShoplifting is no joke.
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You did the right thing definately always listen to that feeling you had. Call the police department and ask what it takes to get a restraining order and stalker laws in your area. Look into house alarms and always keep your eyes open!  Have a  friend stay over if you have more trouble, buddy system when you leave to work call a family member or friend keep someone aware of you movements at all times so if something happens someone will come check on you or call the police, vary your routes home from work change them up so you aren't as predictable,  and always have a cellphone on and  erady to call someone if you have trouble. An ounce of prevention is worth a pound of cure don't let that scare you. Having a dog may help too. Be careful and don't second guess yourself if he gets worse it is not your fault nothing you did or will do caused this. He's most likely sick protect yourself. Consider a self defense course too scary but may come in handy with him or if you take a trip to NY, NY be safe!
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I'll pray for you, and your sanity, and your loneliness at your time of need.  There is no advice I can offer that will ever make you feel better about not having your wonderful husband by your side and in your arms each night, so I pray you have enough to carry you until you are able to be with him again.\n\nSince everyone so far has expressed support for you and him, how about your own personal fan club?.. For the both of you, we could all send a nice letter every now and then showing our prayers and thoughts are with you both, of course that would concern giving out your e-mail address, so I understand if you wouldn't want to.
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My car was just stolen too. I had to pay the motherfuckers 650.00. which is total bullshit. Anyways call the :THE VINE. Its a victims line. They may be able to help you out. I went out to get my car 4 times before they would let it go. Because it was out of my county, I had to get 2 releases which didn't cost anything. It was more of a pain than anything. Meanwhile my car sat stripped . Not to mention the tow company took my battery and a few other items. So the faster you get the money the better. But do try the vine. Best of luck I feel for you.
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Please don't bring psychics into your life esp. if you want to have a good marriage.\n\nIf you lost it in your house and you haven't had guests since you misplaced it, then it will be in your house. If you have guests, then there is a pretty good chance it was stolen.\n\nFor get psychics, pray to the Lord that it turns up.
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You have a major problem.  He doesn't want to give it back.  It was a good free-bee when you had a relationship with him and now surely is giving clear signs he doesn't want to give it up.\n\nGet your paper work for the laptop ready, proof of ownership and such.  Then tell him:\n\n1) You will contact the police to find out the best way to proceed with his unwillingness to return the laptop.(set a date for this).\n2. You don't want excuses.  You want your laptop.\n\n3) You hold him responsible for anything missing or wrong with it.\n\nFind out what amounts are limited to small claims court.  The 2500 may or may not be over the amount allowed.  It is a lot of money.  If the amount qualifies, then you can take the pressure up a few notches and you will have an inexpensive but formal way of asking for your property.  In small claims you can represent yourself but you need to be prepared with relevant documents, witnesses and a coherent explanation. \n\nWhatever you do, have someone go with you when you go to pick it up and don’t feel uncomfortable about checking it out before leaving.  Later on, make sure that it is clean and that is doesn't have weird crap on it that may reflect on your person. \n\n\nGood Luck
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how long has this been? ... is she a missing person? \nshe disappears (oops moves) and even though you owe her money, you don't know how to contact her? \nthat doesn't sound right to me. \n\ncheck with the DMV though, a woman I know had a car left on her property and was able to get the title by declaring that to them.
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anytime you take something that isn't yours or take something that you didn't pay for well then thats stealing no matter what the unusual circumstances are.  just because someone else broke the glass and started the robbery, you are still a accomplice cause you jumped in and took part.  it's called an accessory .....charged with possession of stolen property or maybe recieving stolen property.  any way you look at it...it would be smarter for you not to get involved with things of this nature.  try making better choices,  your future depends on it.  GOOD LUCK!
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1. report the lost/stolen wallet to the police as soon as possible\n\n2. cancel any bank cards/credit cards that may have been in the wallet\n\n3. report the driver's liscense stolen and get a new one \n\n4. go to the social security office for a copy of the birth certificate
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It depends on the items that are missing.  If it's money that's missing and being embezzeled, just go past your superiors and straight to the cops.  If it's company property that's missing such as office supplies or sales merchandise and you've gone through the proper channels then that's about all you can do.  I would recommend that you document everything you notice.  Make sure to include dates, times and names if possible.  Then you would have it as backup if anybody were to try and accuse you.
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Contact a lawyer. Most lawyers offer a free consultation. Have them send a letter to the company stating that when you get your personal property back, you will return their keys...actually, a good thing to do is to leave the keys with the lawyer in case they decide to damage any property and try to blame it on you since you still have access. That way you can say that you didn't have procession of the keys at the time of the "Vandalism".