It is wierd how girls can call you a freak and say your wierd and be perfectly content with somebody no better off than yourself.\n\nI am not a bad person, I have been nice to every girl I have gone out with and it has been wonderful. Most relationships last 1 or 2 months then they cheat on me. They say "I love you but I love _insert name here_ more." You finally meet the person and lo and behold, they are almost a mirror image of you.\n\nThis is contradictory in itself but why is it that I have to pay for it?
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i apologize for the rest of the female population. there are a lot of stupid girls out there. there are also a lot of stupid guys, but the stupid ones of each gender seem to seek and destroy the smart ones. depressing, isn't it? personally, cheating is never a good idea and i can't stand girls who think it's ever justified. i would also seriously doubt it if someone ever told me they love me but love someone else more. i wouldn't even want to know if there's someone else. if you don't feel the same, break up with me. it's a favor, really - the sooner i know the truth the easier it is to handle. it's just a matter of finding someone who's looking for the same level of a relationship as you. you'll find her.
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Some women ends up being spoiled and thinks they could hold the man in their selfish hands especially the girl you were talking about.\n It's not you... you need to wake up and think that as there are more girls in this world than men, I'm sure you will be able to find someone who will truly loves you.\n Give it time to heal the wounds and by talking about it, you're learning to open up. Changing yourself just to please a woman would not give you any self respect in the long term, so just be yourself always.
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Why would you want to date someone that already has shown a tendency to cheat?\n\nWhat if her boyfriend is some who can beat the **** out of you (and maybe even her)?\n\nMore trouble than it's worth...\n\nThat's just dumb.
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Ok.. from what Im getting is your meeteing girls then telling them how much u like and appreciate them.. ok dependin on how u show/say this ,and how this sounds to me.. you sound like u are wanting a commitment, and there is a theory that only men are afraid of commitment ...thats not true.. some women are too.. dont come out and say "hey i want to get married!" ( not that u say that but u might as well)  just be normal, get to know her. and if sex isnt in ur 1st date agenda, then theres no reason to "convince" her its not.  just be ur self without all the "persuading" of how u "appreciate" women. cause also when a man goes on about how much he "appreciates" women.. well thats just hey im a lying ass and just want in ur pants. somethings can be taken  differently
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Alot of females lack an amount of respect for themselves. So they deem the amount of sex or the intensity of the act as a means of actually being with someone. Rather than establishing the relationship first and allowing the loving to be the icing on the cake. It's kind of like when we were kids and played make believe. However,the difference would be that we adventually snapped back to reality. As mentioned previously, woman are emotional creatures and once a guy hitz it the right way or tells us something we like to hear. Woman pretty much lose their minds...so sorry fellas but that's just the way it is...
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i have never ever asked any of my past men for $$, or and 'stuff' for that matter. maybe honesty and integrity. i haven't been in really long relationships.. but i'm thinking that isn't normal. you should find some women who are a little better at holding their own-at least while you're dating!
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OK 17, I think that you are just a bit obsessed about this and it comes through loud and clear.  Sounds like you have a comfortable life, car, good family life so why is it so important to have a serious relationship right now?  If everyone else had warts on their ass would you have to have them too?  I don't mean to sound uncaring but I have had some experiences with relationships and they aren't all that they are cracked up to be.  They take an awful lot of work, commitment and energy.  Take if from someone who would like to be 17 again take your time, embrace your friends, male and female, and enjoy yourself.  Nothing says that you can't share your thoughts and feelings with those who are good friends.  The more you try the the more desperate you become and the more desperate you become the more that comes through to scare off any potential girl friend.....understand?  The old saying goes "If you love someone let them go, if they come back they are yours, if they don't they never were.....I think that's how that goes and it makes sense.....enjoy life now cause it only gets more complicated as you get older.\nGood luck 17, now go out and get some friends to go to the movies and enjoy!!!
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Yes, I think it is normal. When you are with someone and it doesn't feel right, there is no reason to continue the relationship. Yes, you do have to have realistic expectations of other people. No one is perfect, and the honeymoon period always fades. But if the person is worth it, you will get through the tough times with them. You will know when you have met the right person, and you shouldn't settle for less.\n\nI see that someone else answered this question, who has a BA in psych, claiming that you have some sort of a problem. I also have a BA in psych, and although I agree with a couple of the things she said, I disagree with most. \n\nJust because you haven't yet had a long-term relationship may only mean that you haven't met the right person. Or, it may mean that you haven't totally cemented your identity yet. Maybe you only want to have fun right now, nothing serious. And that's fine too. It is unhealthy for you to have ideas about what is and isn't normal. You shouldn't feel pressured by societal expecations to get a partner and stay with them, marriage, etc. \n\nYou should do what feels right. Someday, you will know what's right and the right person will come along.
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I agree that it's when you've agreed to be exclusive.  I understand though why girls might get upset with you.  No one wants to feel like they are in a competition and they might feel that if you're seeing other girls at the same time they are not getting your full attention.
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Girls always want the bad guys...Until they really get a bad guy! I just got out of a relationship and I can assure you I am no longer interested in any guys who are remotely close to bad guys. Be patient...You will find your true love (and she will never leave u for a bad guy)...My only advice is maybe evaluate how you act..are you clingy? do you need to much attention? too too nice? trying to control by being too nice? i found my bf would be like "just quit working i will pay any bills you have"...girls like their independence....well...WOMEN do anyway.
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Well you sure do know some very shallow people don't you, are they jealous of you for been in love with the girl you choose for yourself, how very shallow of them to tell you that you could do better, beauty comes from the inside as well as the outside too, your girl might not be top model status but you loved her before people said you could do better, so damn selfish of them, who cares if your good looking yourself, if you love each other then what the hell does it matter to anyone else but yourselves.
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Ugh...that's cheap.  Yeah, that pretty much says that they don't care about the relationship, just what's between your legs.  Dump this loser and do not look back.  You can do much better!
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Are you insecure? Do you feel worthy of love? Could be why you don't trust her. Or have you been hurt before. You know she loves you if you have good conversation, she listens to you and talks back. YOu have good communition and can tell each other anything. She is attentive and loving towards you, and intrested in you sexually (if you are having sex yet, you didn't say your ages). You have fun together ,and laugh together. When you are together, you feel like her mind is 100 per cent with you, and she's not distant. YOu feel important to her. She is reassuring if you need it. YOu feel totally happy in her company.
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Women get used to being treated like dirt. It's sad, but it's true. When I met my "great guy" it took everything in me not to toss him away because I didn't know how to react to a guy listening to me, giving me good advice, opening doors for me and offering to pick up the bill instead of "borrowing" money. I think women often get the idea that they don't deserve to be treated well. I definitely think one should be careful with the use of those three naughty words (I l#v! y@u.)  I've had to tell friends to calm down and enjoy the ride when they've freaked out because they're being treated well---I think it's the acceleration a relationship can have when things go well that can often lead to catastrophy. Most of all, if she can't take your good treatment, SHE DOESN'T DESERVE YOU. That's the downfall of good guys. The gentlemen just need to stay gentlemen and know that they are worth something. We don't need our good men going to trashy b*tc%es anyway.
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most girls who stay in those kind of relationship have bad self esteem. they think that no one else will love them or that they earned being treated that way.
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Daisy...Daisy...ever seen 2001 A space Oddysey?!\n\nOh yea...the Wallet.\nYou know, I do beleive I would return it. \nYou are right when you say what goes around comes around...and it does with a vengeance. People think that this phrase is just a quote till they are "convicted" by it.\nI have strived to be an honest and fair person since as long as I can remember, however their are several times when inaction on my part has proved this theory/fact. Needless to say, I will hasten my step  when these situations present themselves to me in the future.\n\nOn a side note, I would call the owner of the wallet and ask if there was a reward. Who knows, the owner might be single and good looking ready to date an honest person like yourself, might be a fortuitious circumstance for you both, think of it in these terms, there is a positive outlook on the situaton in this fashion you are still gaining.\nIf you decide to "take", that is exactly what you are doing to yourself, taking a future blessing away from yourself.\n\nNow, go call the owner and hope that he's ready to hook up with a good girl like you..?
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??? I guess it's something about your personality.  Damn, if I could meet another person that would make me fall in love... xoxo\nHmmm... we're on the same boat but on opposite ends.  I'm a guy that has problems falling in love or even talking to the person everyday.  Why?!?  I like my space, right?  I like my own time.  Maybe I'm not ready because I haven't found anyone worthy of my absolute (EVERYDAY) once a day phone call thing that everyone does.  Therefore, for that reason it is difficult for anyone to see anything going serious with me.  It doesn't bother me.\n\nI'm just saying we're oddly on the same boat but at two different ends.