I've recently started talking to this guy who I fooled around with but never had sex with.  He's off fighing in the lovely war of ours and won't be back until october.  We chat and today it turned sorta sexual, which I liked but I'm not sure what to pursue with him.  Especially since he's far away and we don't talk often and I don't know where I will be 6 months from now. Help please.
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Don't think his increase in sexuality is just directed at you, remeber he is isolated in a foreign country and that will make a guy very very  h***y
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When you slept with him it genuinely looked like she was not interested anymore. You were not being a tart you thought this was going to develop into something more. I would just put it down to experience and forget about it now. Take care x
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What help do you want?  To know if he's interested in you?  I'll assume that's it.\nWell, it sounds promising.\nBut think, does he want to have a relationship with you or just have sex with you?  Is the chasing ever going to amount to anything?\nHave you talked to him and at any point told him you're not ready to date or you're not interested in a relationship?  If so, that could be why nothing has happened for him to show real interest in dating you.\nIt's a good sign that's he's not accepting free sex from anyone else, yes.\nThink hard, if you told him you were ready for another relationship, would he cringe or look hopeful?  Not sure, try telling him something along these lines, without directly involving him in the question.  See how he reacts and gage by that.  Or, just have a conversation about it.  \nI had a similar situation, except when I made a move back, he totally stopped wanting me.  Until I hadn't seen him for a year and had finally given up and started dating someone else who I love.  Then he saw me and couldn't stop trying to hold my hand and telling me how he made a mistake.\nSometimes guys who chase do it because they don't know what they want and, when they're confronted with it, they don't know what to do with it and turn into jerks.  They might come around later but you don't want a guy like that, trust me.
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he could be a really nice guy and like you for who you are. I didn't have  sex with mt girlfriend or pressure her for 2 months. some guys think sex is a more serious thing and want to wait for the right moment.
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You should ask yourself what do you want from this guy; do you really want a serious relationship?\nThe guy is honest and decent and it seems he likes you and wants a serious relationship and with some kind of commitment. \nHe could abuse you if he wanted, since you like make sex with him. But he prefers a mature relationship; Are you enough mature for that???
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Well he's using you...  Are you using him the same way?  If you've staked your heart in this guy, you might want to start moving on.  If you're having as much fun as he is though, just go with it.  A person's past CAN turn another person off of dating them.  That doesn't mean you can't be friends.  Or friends with benefits.  Seems like your guy wants to be friends with benefits.  Make sure you know and are clear about what you want and expect with him.  If you are both on the same page, great.  If not, you might need to work out a new arrangement...
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THE ONLY WAY YOU WILL HAVE AN IDEA TO THIS QUESTION IS IF YOU STARVE THIS GUY (NO SEX) AND WATCH HIM EVOLVE IN TO WHAT HIS INTENTIONS ARE. KEEP A GOOD WATCH AND PAY ATTENTION TO HIS DEMEANOR.
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well sweety think about how long you have known him.  only a couple of days. and you sleep together yeah leaving the message was good but don't call back just yet. wait at least a week before you do.  see if he is interested by letting him call.  i know it sounds stupid, but its is a game.
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You can meet decent guys online, and remember you can always chat before you even meet them, or just chat and never meet. If he starts discussing sex or anything else that makes you uncomfy either tell him or change the subject or ignore him till he goes away. Be open and honest, I'm not here just to talk about sex, if you're really interested in ME, then ask me abt me, not what I'm wearing, the ones who are interested will stay and the others will go. Don't give out your home address or numbers, always tell a friend if you've been chatting a while, always tell a friend when you start dating, make sure you have his real name (both), numbers and home address to give to friend, just in case!! I've done quite a bit, mostly for fun, but was always careful. Good luck!
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I'm not emailing you...sorry, I don't need any more friends but it sounds like your not even interested in this dude. Why would you even consider dating him if you don't even like him? Remind yourself why it didn't work out with you guys to begin with and just tell him your not interested anymore. Or if you think there might stillbe something there spend some time with him as a friend. No sex or kissing...really just friends for awhile.
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Since i've never been unfaithful, i can't speak from experience. But, saying that, my ex-wife was unfaithful to me, alot. I big give away is lack of intimacy. If he doesn't want to touch you, there's something wrong. Strange phone calls that are secretive and at odd times. Does he have a good female "friend" or "mates" he often hangs out with, without you? Can you contact him at ALL times while he's away? Alot of mistrusting females i know check their man's mobile phone for odd calls and texts. Credit card statements for purchases is also a common one. I'm assuming you've talked to him about your concerns and he's denied all. You're still suspicious and don't quite trust him. A private detective could help if you're that concerned. I hope i've helped a little. :)
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Sitting around, wondering & doing nothing won't get either of you back together. If you think it's worthwhile to try again, make the first move & see what happens. I'm not saying go all out and tell him outright. That's just me & I'd much prefer the guy to take the lead to let me know where he's headed. Just call and say Hi or leave some kind of messsage that let him know. See what he does next. Be prepared for the worst though as he may have moved on. At least you won't spend your life wondering.
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If after a year of wandering blindly through purgatory and your not sure of the status of this relationship then the answer is NO. Your not his girlfriend and he certainly isn't your boyfriend. \n\nMen say what they mean, but in your case it's what he hasn't said.  Has he asked you to be his girlfriend or in a committed relationship? How does he introduced you to his friends and family? Does he even take you around them?\n\nWhy are you waiting for him to make his intentions clear? Ask him. Are you afraid he won't want to hang out with you anymore? Don't you want to be more than just a fuck buddy.? Isn't that why your asking this question? I think you know the answer to your own question and I think that you are so desperate to have the attention of a man that you are willing to settle for this form of dating purgatory and don't want to admit to yourself that your not his girlfriend and that he doesn't want that type of relationship with YOU, because if he did he would have made it clear to you.\n\nDump this loser and move on. You deserve to be with someone who will truly love you and who will tell you every day and every one he knows that he loves you. \n\nGet out of purgatory and find an angel that will fly you to heaven.
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well i think that he is just looking for sex dont go back to him cause he's just goin to use you as the same thing happened to my mate. so dont give into him get a new number!!
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Ugh, guys. My advise: forget about him. He doesn't respect you. He was interested in you until he got sex, and now that he's had that, he's not interested. Guys like a challenge, and now that he's "conquered" you, in a sense, he wants something new.\n\nGet out there and find yourself a good one! One that holds back for at least a few dates before trying anything to rushed.
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So, you're a virgin? Hold up. That is something really, really special, and in my opinion, you do not want to lose it through some hook up. Sounds like this guy has major commitment issues, and just wants to get in your pants. I mean, hell, he even admitted that he is "awful at having a girlfriend." Sounds like he's trying to seduce you.\n\nYou really need to think about what you want. You need to realize that it is a very possible situation that he could have sex with you, then completely ignore you/leave you. Either that or you guys try to work out a relationship and it fizzles. These are very possible outcomes, and if you want to have sex with him, you need to be prepared for the outcomes. If you want to see him again, but don't want to have sex, you need to be vocal about your needs. You need to actively tell him "I don't want you to touch me here, etc, otherwise I'm leaving." He needs to respect you, and he has no right to touch you where you don't want to be touched. \n\nWhat is this bit about him having sex for only 20 minutes? What? Is he a virgin or not? Sounds like he had sex but he is just trying to down-play it so he can tell you he wants to lose it to you. Sorry, but that just sounds like another way to get you into bed. \n\nIt sounds like if you two get together again, something might accidently happen. When things heat up like that, you might end up doing something you didn't intend to do. I just want to really emphasis how important your virginity is, and you really need to keep it for something special. You will always remember your first time. Is this how you want to remember it? \n\nIf you do decide to have sex, please use birth control & condoms. And think hard about this, because this guy doesn't sound like he would be staying.\n\nGood luck.
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Why not lay off the sexual stuff altogether?  Concentrate on becoming better friends.  Do activities together.  \n\nIf you're not ready to go forward, maybe you should go backwards.