This guy was asking me out for 2yrs & Ihad to turn him down. But I cant stop thinking about him & im single now.\nHe isv seeing someone but I cant let that deter me because I really want to be with him. Ive sent him texts but he wont seem to even go out as friends with me in case hes tempted. What can I do to change his mind? Should I call him?\n\nI recently became redundnt & I really need him as a friend
130308
i don't know but i'm in love wit this dude at school and i think he likes me a little bit but he has a gf.
575908
why wld he not wanna go out wid you if he still has feelings for you? Unless he's bound by some other commitments like he's already married? or his job is too stressful to be in a relationship right now? Give both of you some time off to cool off and get back together again later! Hope this helps!! Cheer up soon!
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Well,you answered your own question. Maybe he already has a date,seeing somebody,or just isn't interested in you. In,your question you said MY GUY,then are you fighting and this is why he doesn't want to go out with you. Because he couldn't be your guy,if you have never gone out before,oh well I'm confused now. Have a wonderful weekend all.
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Seriously, if this guy WOULD reject you because of that, then you don't want to be anywhere near him, right? Just go for it, and don't worry about making a fool out of yourself. Just remember that you're a good person and worth it, and it would be his loss if he said no because of something shallow. GOOD LUCK!
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my friend was in a similar situation, il tell u wot i told her.dont ring him anymore(unless he calls u).if he likes u then he will ring u.guys are lazy so wait a few more dayz but if he doesnt ring cut him loose!
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i will be honest with you. the best person to go out with is that devil that you know about than this beautiful angel. Now you say you are good friends and i shouls assume this is based from true friendship and understanding. I would bet my money on him unless of course there is something so deficient about this guy which should cause you to back off.\nhowever, at the moment you are not ready and there is nothing as bad as a forced relationship it takes ages to get into gear and thats after some unneccessary qaubbles and these are not needed especially when you have something to loose like a good friendship.\nit would have to take tact and patience on both your parts to make things work here. You presenting your case for him to buy and him understanding you. The greater duty here is with you. Just make him understand afterll you are good friends, that you can't go out now. And don't put it in such a way as to hint to him that in future there may be hope. you are not ready and ready thats the bottom line. However, if you really believe that its an issue of readiness and not that you don't fancy the guy then at least leave the door an inch open and trust me without pointing it to him he will see it. At the time that you know you are ready then you can lead him like a dog on a leash.
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I think I'd move on or call him.  I hate these little dating games.  I flirted with a guy for over 2 months it was mutual, and I expressed my attraction and he never responded.  No call, no nothing.  So, if they don't call, screw them, and if they call 8 months later, screw them then, too!
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I have been in this situation.  How long have you been talking?  I've learned that you can't go off of looks these days.  The best advice that I can give is to lay off of any feelings that you think you might have and offer that friendship to him long enough until you figure the "real" him out.  But, while you're doing that, make sure you make it clear that you're not "really" looking for anything right now, but that there's always the future.  Some times men put on a front in the beginning (if this is a new situation) and he may be trying to hide his true feelings by being rude...just give it some time.
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I'm not emailing you...sorry, I don't need any more friends but it sounds like your not even interested in this dude. Why would you even consider dating him if you don't even like him? Remind yourself why it didn't work out with you guys to begin with and just tell him your not interested anymore. Or if you think there might stillbe something there spend some time with him as a friend. No sex or kissing...really just friends for awhile.
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you called him and didnt leave a message,now that is not good. leave a message. then he really wont have no excuse. if he dont get back to you, forget him. i know its hard when you like someone, but i know you would be saying the same thing to me if i had your prob. leave a message saying how great the other nite was and how you are looking forward to his cal. gud luck. x
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If you asked me on a date, I would have made arrangements to make it a night that you would want to date me again.I think he was in shock, to be asked and just put some icing on your attempt to get him through that situation,which is very wrong...You need to ask him if he is joking you or not,and be straight forward with him...Whatever you do,don't wait around for the answer,because there are many men that will not turn you down...Unfortunately I would,because I am married to that girl that asked me out...lol
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WOW girlie! I think you've got it bad. In all honesty I don't think he is gonna give it up. I would have to tell him a couple of things, First tell him, you are totally not interested and that if he wants to continue to be your friend, then he needs to back off. Ask him if 31/2 years of friendship is worth losing over this stuff. Or you can tell him that you are dating someone and would like for him to stop. (I have done it!)\nWell best of luck to you
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have you talked to this guy about taking it to the next step? Maybe it's time for you to both sit down and discuss where you both want to see where this relationship will lead you to. If what he's offering at the end of the line is not want you want, then its time for you to re-consider the relationship.
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Keeping contact with him is what you're doing wrong, he is just making sure you don't date anyone else until he finds a replacement. At the end you will end up hurt because when he find someone else he will tell you that you guys were only friends.
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If he's a player, save yourself the heartache, and don't go out with him. The way you said it makes it seem like you don't really like the guy, but you're considering it, purely because he asked. Girl, if you aren't interested, and your heart is saying "he's a player, and he's gone out with my friends" what makes you think your situation will be any different???? Look for someone who will respect you and love you regardless, and won't compromise you! Good luck and hope this helps!
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Yes, you are opening your heart back up for hurt again.  But since you made the date don't back out.  Go get your free meal with him (make sure he pays, it'll be knida like him making up to you)  while at dinner, be firm and ask him what's up?  Does he or did he have someone else?  What are his intentions with you?  Let him know that you want a man in your life that believes their word is their bond.
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Let him go, obviously, he wanted your friend and he realized that you were still the girl for him.  What makes you think, that he wont do this again.  He finds another girl that he is attracted to and says   f-you...i want her now.\n\nGirl, go find a good  man becuz he doesnt even deserve you.