I have been chatting to someone in a chat room for a few years..And all of a sudden she just doesn't want to know me..Everytime I log on she logs out of the room..Everytime I ask her a question she logs off..I asked her closest friend and according to her I should know why she aint chatting to me..Now I can't think of any possible reason why she would stop chatting to me..But its getting on my nerves to be honest..Getting on my nerves because she won't tell me what i am supposed to have done wrong to her and I have this guilty feeling inside everytime i see her in there..We were best mates but now we are total strangers to each other..What gives..I even logged on with a different name to give me enough time to type a private message but as soon as she read it she left the room..Now what would you do in my situation..Would you just give up on her or would you try to get her friends to get her to chat to me..
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I'd email her and give her some time to answer - if indeed she would like to. Be sincere in your request for a reason why she is no longer paying attention to you.\nI think the situation is between you and her, not with her friends - try not to involve them.
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Have you communicated to her that when she says these things they make you feel bad. She may not realize talking about her fun weekend with another friend was hurting you when she hought she was just making conversation. The fact that she says "you weren't important enough" really hurts! It hurts me to hear that someone you consider a friend would say that to you! It sounds like she is being really immature with her emotions, especially for soemone who is old enough to be married. You can serve as a good example by communicating with her in the way you would like to be communicated with, even to the point of being straight forward and saying, I wish you would say something to me when you are angry with me instead of withdrawing. I want this friendship to work. Try to talk to her in a way that isn't accusatory like "You do this" but talk in a "You make me feeel [blank] when you withdraw.. " or incorporate "We" into your conversation like "I feel we need to work on communicating with eachother better, I care about you and I want to work out whatever is bothering you" If she doesn't change and retains her mature attitude, I would find someone else who respects you enough to be upfront with you. When I read this, it sounded llike a "friend" I have right now who posts her thoughts on an online journal instead of telling me upfront in an appropriate time and place. I tried talking to her a while ago but she hasn't changed and I find that she just makes me more upset than happy and I am trying to find a safe and respectable way out.
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What's up with this? If you don't know what could be bothering this so-called GREAT friend of yours( and she won't even talk to youabout her feelings so things can be put right and you can make amends if you are at fault) well how do you expect someone who doesnt know either one of you to know?   You should be writing the question TO HER if she really means that much to you.\nIf I were in your shoes though, I would be a little careful of this person from now on even if you resolve whatever it was that she was buggin about.  Because her way of reacting to problems between good friends leaves a lot to be desired..Unless you are b.s.-ing all of us.\nShe is doing something very cruel to you by not inviting you to the party, and she is not interested in doing damage control.  Instead she is making it more hurtful and lettingwhatever she's on aboutt become something that all the rest of your shared 'friends' are gonna be gossiping about and taking sides about when everyone but you is at the party.  This is  spreading sickness and needs to be contained before it spreads even forhter and does even more harm to what peole think of her and you.  Are you responsible for some awful offense to her that you dont want to admit?  Is there someone in your circle of friends that has something against you and may have messed with your friend's mind? Is there something way back in the past that may have just come to light? \nBe honest with yourself and consider everything between you and her. If you still think your friendship deserves to be treated better than she is treating you, then YOU could be the hero and write to her and say so.Since she is refusing to answer you when you ask, Tell her that you are writing her a letter and walk away.  When she gets the letter she can in privacy getdown off her attitude and see what you have to say in the letter wthout losing face.  In the letter you can offer to make it up to her if she will tell you how you have offended her.  Tell her that no matter what, you value her friendship too much to just let it go without trying to make things better between you.,
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She could have been mad at you but didn't want to tell you (yeah, I know it just makes things difficult but I know I've done it before) if she just doesn't want to hang out. If she just stopped talking to you all together, her religion may prohibit contact like hugging with the opposite sex. She also could have mentioned that her mom didn't want you hanging out but you missed it. I'll be honest. I usually expect people to get what I said the first time so she may have just given up.
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If you have been sending her e-mails for that long, and she hasn't even replied, then she doesn't like you. I'm sorry.  It sounds like you might have come on a little too strong, and scared her away. Your going to have to let her go, and move on. Find someone that will except and appreciate your love.
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Sometimes you go lose your connection with your isp and they may be trying to log back on, but you think they are just not answering you...why don't you just ask this person what happened and if they don't answer you again I would find new people to talk to. Hope that helps!
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Are you sure they can figure out where she is? Is she giving out personal information? Is she telling them secrets about her? Planning to meet with them?\n\nIf so, you could watch shows and stuff about myspace girls going missing while shes in the room... \n\nyou could get on her myspace, go to the men who she chats with's profiles, and hit the "block me" button. they wont be able to contact her anymore.\n\nits going to be hard to get her to stop. i dont think you should tell her you've been reading her private stuff, but maybe you could tell her you had a scary experiance from talking to a guy on myspace... pretend that somebody found your phone number and called you or something. scare her out of it i guess.
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she might not have permitted to let you see her online status on Messenger... but try to email her. If that dosen't work... Then try removing her completely out of your contact list and add her again.
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Translation...Need someone to talk to?  Do you need someone to talk you out of doing crimes, or talk you out of killing yourself, or someone else, or you need advice, or relationship help, or if there something else you want or need help with or anything. Add my email address (***).  Well I know this is weird and you might think of me as some rapist or kidnapper or anything else I'm not. To tell you the truth I'm only 16 and I have talked more than 37 people out of killing themselves in just 1 month but I have been doing this 4 almost a year believe it or not and well I know I am a stranger and you might not believe me but give it a chance you I know your thinking 1 chance might cost your life or someone elses but believe me and give me a chance and if I am one of those poeple like a kidnapper then why would I give out my information like I'm 16 or my email address and I know it can be fake but its not well I got to go so talk to you soon and remember I'm here to help you not to "dishelp".  \n\nIt was just too exhausting to correct any grammatical or punctuation errors...so I interpreted it as well as I could.  I hope this helps everyone.  And for portugese_person...you sound like you really care about others.  Kudos for you!!!
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Hm...where'd you mess up with her? I'm not sure I understand what exactly happened. Maybe you came on too strong and she's not ready to have a relationship with anyone just yet. How old are you 2? It's something to consider. It sounded like she wanted to be your friend but you pushed it and pushed it and now she wants to stay away from you. Dunno. That's my guess, though.
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I don't know what they used to have, but Yahoo! Messenger doesn't have this feature now, for user privacy. If it's really your friend, though, you can always just send an IM asking which room he's in.
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I had a friend a long time ago who got jealous of me and said some really mean things behind my back...... and also to me, ON THE COMPUTER. She said things that only described herself.... a s l u t , etc. She was the one who flirted with guys and slept with everyone. I just thought it was amusing when she told me that. In person, she acted like she never said any of those things and acted like we were friends. I'd ignore her.\n\nJust because you know someone for several years doesn't mean they're your friend. I learned that the hard way. Oh well.\n\nShe was easily replaceable LOL.
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Maybe youre up her butt. Try not to be up her butt. If someone is always trying to bug me with stuff I certainly would avoid conversation too. Maybe youre creepy in your approach. I dunno, why dont you ask her?\n\nEdit: ass is a swear? lol
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first question is, is she computer savvy?  if not, then just delete your history, temporary internet files, and your messenger history.  if she is, then you're going to have to up one on her.  good luck!
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i would talk to her about the situation and see why she has changed.  you can't ignore it, especially if you guys were the bestest of friends.  i mean i would want to know if my friend didn't want to hang out with me anymore, i think i would deserve some sort of explanation.
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great... now you're putting the PRESSURE on!  i haven't done a lot of 'chat room' activity, and i'm just getting started with the blogging... but i am totally immersed in this site and i know exactly what you mean.   (your enthusiasm is bubbling over... careful!)  \n\nthe way answers lets you 'track' people using thier avatars is what i like most... and i think it lets you get to know a person better than any chat room.  you could click back and follow my 'portfolio' for 6 weeks, and you'd learn more about me by what i'm interested in, how i respond, and the words i use, than you could ever get out of any blog or chat room.  \n\ngreat? (i'm flattered!:)
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i have a feeling she suddenly is not seeing you in the "best friend" light anymore, but rather as something more, and doesnt know how to handle it and needs time/space to sort out her feelings. pressing her to talk about it when she is not ready would alienate her even more. she'll come around, just be patient. you hovering around does not help her think.