Im scared I don't want nothing to happen to him b/c I love him I'd kill myself.
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Hi, I answered your other question you posted about your boyfriend.  I was glad that I was able to help you out a little bit.  I was troubled to see you spoke of killing yourself if something should happen to him.  First, Try to get that thought out of your head!  Suicide is never the answer for anything.  You cant just give up like that.  Now is the time you need to be strong, for your boyfriend, and more importantly yourself.  If you need to chat with somebody, You can always email me jam961@yahoo.com  Things may appear rough for you right now.... But they can get better.  Instead of worrying about the "what if's" of life, you should focus on what is going on right now.  Enjoy being with your boyfriend now.  Build some memories to last a lifetime, and try to be happy.  If you really love this guy, you should be happy that he has been....and still is a very important part of your life.  Once he has a place in your heart, even if God forbid, he does take a turn for the worst, he will always be right there with you... In your memories, and deep down in your heart.  But don't even think about that now, just enjoy being there for each other.
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I'm sorry you are living in such fear, but you are letting him continue to harm you by living in that fear. He does not deserve to haunt you, instead he should have been punished. You did the right thing by telling and you should be proud of yourself for not being silent.\nPlease go your parents or another trusted adult and let them know how you feel. You need to go thru counseling and a support group to help you and how your feeling. \n\nI wish you the best of luck!
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Absolutely, I would be out that door in a heartbeat.  You dont need this, and you certainly dont need to work hard to make someone love you who probably isn't going to love or honor you in the end.  Get strong and get out!
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We set our own limitations enough, so why let an abusive ass hole bring you down more.  Move on sweetie, you can be strong.  Your self-esteem is low, and that's the only reason you feel that you love him; you might love him, yes, but question is, are you in love with him?  I doubt that very much considering what he has put you through. \n\nThe sky is the limit, for everyone.  Remember that.  Let go of the past.  Dwelling on it only sets limitations for the future.  You have three beautiful daughters, three reflections of you; how wonderful is that?  Find yourself, for their sake, and ultimately for your own.  You can do it.  Pray to God to give you strength, he won't let you walk through this alley alone. God Bless.
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He's probably too scared that you'll reject him. Let him know how you feel and see what happens!
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I would be scared to death of it.
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if i really loved him i would die for him.i mean if i loved him trusted him and he wasnt playin me.so what im sayin is if our love is strong and he aint a player and he was worth it id save my man.
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That is indeed a hard situation to find yourself in. You should not (though I know it is hard) feel guilty for his feelings. It is not, as you put it, "partially your fault." He is having a difficult time dealing with his grief, and rather than handling it rationally, he is trying to control you with this guilt he is dishing out. No one can MAKE another person feel anything. You didn't make him like this...life will always come with pain and loss. And that is why we are supposed to learn how to grieve. I had a boyfriend who was very much like this guy seems to be. When I broke up with him, he even at one point threatened to kill me because he didn't want anyone else to have me. Ultimately, i had to break contact with him. Because it was the only way I could "force" him to get over me. He hated me for it, but I would rather him be alive and "hating me" than to have him kill himself. I don't know if this is the answer for you, but you are not alone. If you think his threats are serious, you probably should tell someone who is very close to him...parents or someone. And if he makes threats and you believe them to be true, call the police. Trust me, my therapists have done it to patients whose lives they believed to be in danger. It sucks for them, but it is really the better alternative of the two. They will take him to a hospital and they will try to help him through it. \n\nThings will be ok...even though they are rough right now. Hang in there!
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Dr Steve summed it up best.  He's telling you what you want to hear and going to be doing it behind your back.  Unless he gets help he's not going to change.\n\nIt has nothing to do with you.  It's all about him.  I know you want to believe but sometimes you have to listen to your head instead of your heart.\n\nYou can't live your life worried.  You need to be secure in your relationship.  You are not.  Tell him if he doesn't get help by (Pick a date), than your leaving.
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Sweetheart..you don't need anyone to tell you to do. I would strongly go with my heart. If you truely love him, you wouldn't be happy with anyone else. \nWe can tell you what we would do...but deep down...what would you do? Could you handle loving someone that is having problems walking? I would hang in there and not jump so fast to all the what ifs.
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Just reassure him that you love him, and what would you do without him, leave it at that, and he may realize that he not only hurt himself. he needs professional help, and needs to know that know one is worth suicide, why dint people realize this???? if they can so freely love you one minute, and then as quick change their minds, they are not worth it, especially if over a new person in their life, and the pattern may continue, he should have realized, it is not worth it. i hope he Will recover without too much damage..good life...........
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Time to be harsh, honey.  This is YOUR life and you do not see a future with him.  Wish him well, tell him your reasons why, and STICK TO YOUR DECISION.  You don't do yourself any favors by continuing to take him back if this thing is over in your heart and mind.  What he is doing is a exerting a type of control over you with the crying and suicide threats.  You are probably a sensitive and caring person and he is playing on those emotions to continue a game that will have no winner.  \n\nIf you have really and truly made up your mind then tell him and let that be that.  You have no control over what he does at that point and if he hasn't seen it coming already and began the process of moving on, so be it.  Not your problem.  If he continues to call or come around, ask him nicely not to.  If it continues after that, call the police.  Don't send him mixed messages.  Your position is that I don't feel the same for you as I once did and I believe it is time to move on with my life.  And let that be that.
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He needs help very soon before he has a heart attack.\n\nHe is out of control.  Is he willing to get help?\nIf he is not willing to get help, the best thing you could do is to leave him.  \n\nYou are beginning to hate the relationship, so there is no sense in you staying because you will only grow to resent him more and more.\n\nI hope that he is willing to go for help before it is too late - for his health and for losing you.\n\nGood Luck!
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Just make the break and refuse his calls.  If necessary get a judge to give you a restraining order against him.  He sounds like he could harm you.  As far as him killing himself or whatever, that's his problem.  You have to protect you and can't worry about what he's going to do.  I'm sure you still care about him but you have to do what's best for you.  He probably has no intentions of harming himself but he knows that it bothers you and that's why he says those things.
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leave him.  That would freak me out
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i am very scared of dying,im 27 and every birthday i make the most of it,i do something over the top then if anything happens to me they will never forget me.im also scared of being in my own with my kids ,if anything happened to my partner,well it doesnt bare thinking about
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the question is what do u want to do...\ni think his behaviour is not sensitive..\nmaybe u should start thinking of a life without him