hes always been mean but not crazy he say certain people talk bad about him even me his daughter and its not true should he get help or what should i do?
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Talk to someone at your school.  There better trained in this then the quacks on this site.\nGood luck.
663763
He may be an idiot, but he sounds more lazy than anything else.  If you can get to sleep and get up on time, why can't he?  If he can't get to bed at night it's his own damn fault.\n\nDon't let him blame you for his shortcomings, he's only using you as a scapegoat.  He needs to place the blame where it belongs and get himself together if he wants to be a part of your family.  You deserve someone who will work to keep your family happy and healthy.  Be sure you tell him that!
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That's a tough one.  There probably is something to some of the complaints but now it sounds like maybe he's been pegged as a problem - rightfully or not.  Why not run this one past a professional counselor who can look at things unbiased and unattached to the situation? It will cost some money, but hey, the kid is worth it!
501696
He kind of sounds like a creep. Think about it, he has a kid and is with some other girl everyday. He is not thinking about you. I know that hurts, but please realize that you can do better. Try to find a nice guy who can be respectful and loving to you and your child. This man obviously has no family values. He does not listen to you, does not care enough to be a full time father and also does not listen to his own family's opinion. Dump the loser!!!
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You had 26 answers already at the time of my replying, and i didnt read them but i can imagine what most of them will say. You are young, your boyfriend doesnt treat you right and doesnt treat his body with respect - so why do you think he will be good for you when he's not good to himself?\n\nOf course you have got involved with someone else. Its natural. You want a proper life with someone who cares. Its not a mess sweetheat, he's no good for you so just leave! Really, just pack up your stuff and leave. It may be hard but it will be best in the long run.\n\nGet support from family and friends, and just do it! A&#92; year from now you will be SO much happier!\n\nIf a friend was in your situation what would you tell them? You'd said he doesnt deserve you, wouldnt you? Come on, ring your mum or a friend and say you want help leaving..... they will be delighed to help believe me!\n\nMy daughter left a relationship like this last year. He was a drinker and had started to push her around too. Now she is with a lovely bloke.\n\nI hope you get the strength to do this, and make a good life for yourself.
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have you told your parents how worried he is. that might help,so they know to go easy on him and to be nice not to crack no jokes like fathers tend to do.
249576
You really need to send him to a good psychiatrist. This is something that is really dangerous. If he gets too crazy, he might turn out like one of those kids who kills people at school or their parents.
173700
It is a hard thing to do I would be able to give better advice if I knew more of the situation. Just tell him you are sick of being hurt everytime you go out and end it before things get worse. Or talk to him about what he is doing and maybe he would be willing to fix the problem
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Call the police.  If he put his filthy hands on you, that is assualt.  He might be on probation, so I would look into that.  He couldn't so drunk one of these days and no telling what he might do.  And your daughter is witnessing this behavior?  She might think it's okay for a strange, drunk man to be treating you this way.  Do something immediately.  I worked in  a prison for 8 years, I know how those offenders act and I would not want any of them living next door to me.  I'm not saying all of them are the same but he haven't seemed to change.
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Well first I will comend you for taking care  of your grandchildren. It's not your place but you are good for doing it. Not to be harsh but it really sounds like your daughter is craving the wrong kind of attention from men. She needs a hard dose of reality that men like that are no good and often are the ones who are crazy. As for you and the children in your care i would seriously consider moving. However you can pretty much find anyone on the internet. It's a terrible situation you daughter has put you in. I dont believe the police will do anything unless he makes threats or actually harms you. The thing that sucks is the same basic rights protecting you are the same rights he has even though he is an abuser. IN ANY CASE if are afraid for your life or your loved ones I would still call the police and see what they can do. Because state laws vary i may not be accuate on what the police can or can not do. I'll say a prayer for you and I hope everything works out ok for yoy.
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people who don`t wanna be helped, can`t be helped...U could try talking to him...but I have a feeling he`d only get angry if U did. try to find some other subject to talk to him about, something safe, but from which U can get to this subject in a way that it seems like that`s the natural course of conversation...and depending on his reaction, U take it from there...it would help for U to offer to go with him...
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Leave him alone and let him chase you for awhile.  If he is sincere he will show you. I mean sincere in changing the pattern of bad behavior you specify.  If not then your not missing anything.
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i think it is going to be really hard for you but you should just try to sit your daughter down explain to her the things of life what you are&#92;were going through.tell her its not the person but the heart.tell her ,her father was not a bad person but the things that were suppose to be between you and him were just not happening and you have now found it in this person. tell her to try to see your lady as a person you love and that loves you and not a female.
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He needs to make the changes within himself. You don't really know how his mother was with him as a child. Or his father.\n\nYOU need to take care of yourself. Love yourself & your daughter. Take care of that.\n\nIf he wants to learn to love, he will. It is all on him. You can love/care for him - it sounds like you still do - but you don't need someone with destrutive behaviors in your life. You can NOT fix him by loving him now. (I know, that isn't what you want to hear.) He is his own person, and a grown-up. He must make his own choices in life - and being a womanize is HIS choice. Don't let this ruin YOUR life or, worse YOUR DAUGHTER's. \n\nKids do often repeat their parents relationships. Which means if you let him treat you badly - either she will treat others badly OR let herself be treated badly.\n\nTake care of yourself.\n\nBest of luck.
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Aww that's terrible, to me it sounds like he's the one with all the problems and you're going out of your way to be friends with him.  He's being abit patronising and maybe it means he needs to grow up abit, so maybe there isn't anything you can do at the moment except explain to him again all this from your perspective.  When he does degrade make sure you defend yourself, and even if you're not right maybe you can give the thoughts you had that made you think that way.  But it's not an exam, and please don't let him make you feel bad and I really hope it works out!
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Ignore him.  He obviously doesnt like himself.  People who dont like themselves are the ones who will say nasty things about others and try to spread rumors.  You cant control what other people say, so ignore him, go out and live your life.  Laughing always helps too.   Laugh at his immature behavior, look at him as a little kid and laugh - you will feel better in being the mature adult.
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its not you its him.. he has major issues.. he doesnt think to much of himself so he has to feel like better by belittling you..I think you are much better than having to deal with this jerk.. get rid of him before he totally destroys mentally and physically all your self esteem.. this guy needs some major growing up and a good kick s###t kicking.. he is nothing but a worthless bully.. send him to the curb find someone healthy