what do i do when all i can do or even come close to thinking about doin is drugs... ive been to rehab once and, still cant stop.what if i dont want to stop?...it feels so god should i stop?
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Good on you buddy!  Keep up the great work!\n\nDistraction is the best way - go for a walk, chat on the net, cook something nice to eat, shell some peanuts, take up knitting...\n\nI know where you are coming from and i know how hard it is.  Even if you slip, don't give up, stick with your decision to quit and live a normal life.\n\nGood luck and big hugs.
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Temperance is the best way I can summarize it. I am very similar in nature when I do something I do it with everything I've got. My new addiction is Y!A  Find 2 or 3 things you like and divide your time equally among them.  You will have to use some restraint.  In behavior Modification there is this technique called interrupt and redirect.  For instance, if it is sexual thoughts that are bothering u today stop! think something different like I wonder if I h ave any new answers to my Yahoo questions?\nRe program your thought processes!\n\n:D Good Luck!
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well you being there helps, but if you can no longer take it you may just have to leave and he might straighten up. I had to attend NA after I was arrested for meth possession. When I started attending I was clean for 3 months already. So the program did not do anything extra for me. My biggest support group was my girlfriend. She always told me I could tell her anything but in past relationships this was always crap. So I was fearful to tell her that I was an addict. She has never used so it was easy to hide. I was damn lucky she was still there for me after I got popped. And she is still here for me 5 years later. Besides I am too damn small to go to prison.
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awww .. u can't make her stop sweetie.. im sorry.. Drug addiction is like a disease.. it changes your mums way of thinking.. My sister was a drug addict and she left her 4 children in our care. But after a few yrs she realised what the drugs were doing and she eventually gave them up  and got her kids back.. Let your mum,know that u love her no matter what,  and that u want to be with her all the time. Hopefully that will help her give them up so she can be with you. Your mum loves you very much Im sure but the drugs have a hold on her just now  :)
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I think this is all about finding the right set up for you sister.  There is no one solution that will work for everyone and you have to find the right one.  I know of an organization that might be able to help you.\n\nOn their website they say:\n"Obviously, choosing the right drug rehab is absolutely crucial to a successful rehabilitation. The ultimate goal of a drug rehab is to enable the individual to live a life free from the effects of drugs and therefore not going back on them.\n"Under the right circumstances, with the right treatment program, we have seen much success with the various programs we refer.\n"Full drug rehab is only possible with a full commitment from the addict, which the programs we have researched work hard to obtain."\n\nI urge you to try again, see if these guys can help.  They are very into connecting the person up with the right organization and really finding out what is happening with that individual.\n\nTheir website is at:\nhttp://www.addictionhelpservices.com\nPhone: (877) 554-7308\nEmail: info@addictionhelpservices.com
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You are not physically addicted to it--so there is no reason for a rehab.  You are mentally addicted to the stimulant effects, the best thing to do is to ween yourself off of it slowly.  Cut back the amount of times you smoke during the day. It will be a slow process but in a matter of months you should ween yourself of totally.  Also find some form of exercise to replace the feeling.
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The hardest thing about giving up drug use is that you must give up all those that use drugs to be successful. There is no alternative to this, trust me. I commend you on choosing a better path for yourself (even if it took a legal action to push you in the right direction ;) ). You should be proud of yourself for making the right choice. On the boyfriend issue, and I'm afraid, any other friends that are users...if they are not giving it up, then your relationship with them has come to an end. It will never be possible for you to live a life with these people without going back to using yourself. At the same time, they will not want to have you around as someone that does not join them. Eventually resentment and paranoia will set in and you will have wasted a lot more of your life. Move on, leave the users behind, some day they may catch up with you again on a sober rode, but many will never leave it and it will be the end of them on some level or another. Its a tough thing to do to start over with new friends and intimate relationships, but you can do it, just like those of us who have made it too. \n\nGood Luck to you.
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Hello honey! Reading this makes me sad. I am 28 years old and I am a recovering pill addict. I totally feel you and what you are going through. I know it's so hard! First of all, you've admitted you have a problem. Believe it or not, that's a huge step. It's step one on the 12 steps of recovery. So you're already there! You have to change your "PPT's" [People, Places, Things]. You cannot expect to stay clean if you are always around it. This has never worked. I have been clean for 2 years now and I never thought I could be this happy without a substance in my body. Finally, I have peace and happiness in my life and am no longer running that freakin "rat race" to hell. I used to be full of depression and misery and sucidial thoughts! Please don't stop trying. What saved me was Narcotics Anonymous and God. If you keep doing what you've always done, you'll keep getting what you've always got. So you've got to do something different. Go to the link below to find a meeting in your area. You need to reach out for help. This disease of addiction is like cancer, it will eventually kill you if you don't get help. People die everyday from overdosing. It's like you're playing russian roulette with your life. God wants you to be happy. You can do this!! I have faith in you! People get clean everyday and you can too. Go here...\n\nhttp://www.na.org/\n\nGod bless you my friend and my prayers are with you every step of the way!
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though family personal experience it never stops at cannibis. bet you have tried other things right? it changes you as a person you become angry and self obsessed, paronoid, lazy "carnt be bothered" secrective, a liar. those are a few common traits. next thing your "mates" have moved on and your on your own wanting to get that bit more high. you will spend every waking moment wanting drugs wishing you had listened but people never do! its not a funny subject it really happens this way i have seen it and due to the "disease" called drugs had to cremate the my brother 2 months ago.
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Registered Nurse here;  Well Dear, Could be your sabotaging yourself, no one is more equipped to evaluate this question, than you.  Here's what I have seen over and over.  I'm just going to make a comparison here regarding sabotaging oneself.  Drug addicts come in, get clean, gain employment, have an apartment or home, begin regaining self-respect, and the next thing there on drugs again.   I have had so many of these people tell me that they had spent the majority of there adult life doing the drugs and when changes came even though positive, they were unable to balance the success, for they were use to failure, that they knew how to deal with failure, but couldn't accept success.  Please I'm not in anyway saying your on drugs.  I was just trying to use my experience in working with people who can't accept success, or for some reason feel they don't deserve success.  Perhaps, you are the only one standing in your way.  Could it be your more comfortable with failure than success.  But know, you are a worthwhile person, and you deserve success.  Consider counseling, they can really help you gain insight as to the dynamics of what's going on with in you.  \nI appreciate the opportunity to address such a sensitive and heart felt question.
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The best thing you can do is take care of yourself. If you need to leave to be in a safe and legal environment then you need to leave. If your friend has to suffer through enough consequences of their using they will eventually see their problem. However, if you coddle them and try to protect them from the pain they are causing for you and themselves they will keep using longer. It has to hurt enough to be willing to motivate the change. Pain is the best motivator unfortunately.  The most lovingt thing you can do for them is allow them to hit a bottom and pray they don't hurt themselves on the way down. Let them know you love them and you want to help when they are ready. Then when they are ready. hook them up with a local rehab and 12 step program. I have included the website for NA (narcotics anonymous). They can help you find a rehab in your area and local meetings to check out. Good luck!
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You are not alone. I will pray for you to find the strength to be the kind of person you know you can be, loving, caring and giving. I pray that you can overcome your addiction to drugs, that are clouding your vision of being a loving mother. Remember God is with you at all times. Please pray for me also. God Bless You and keep you safe.
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Oh, it isn't easy.  Drink a lot of water, exercise, & get plenty of rest. Talk to your doctor if you need. I was addicted to prescription drugs and it is rough getting off.  Sometimes getting a different prescription for a week or so will help...but just temporary!  Will power and inner strength...you can do it!
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i live with a recovering drug addict and alcoholic..its not heavy drugs but over the 10 years of using they have made him very paranoid and very angry. i love him and respect him for getting help and am very proud of what he has achieved so far but its been very very hard. the first month was horrible the anger inside him boiled over..my feelings however have been pushed aside... i feel very low as all my energy goes in to keeping him happy so he dont go back..i work and am a mother also so i look after him and our daughter...it does take over but there is light at the other end.he doesnt stress outso much and is more loving..the pain at the moment is going away....i hope you stick with him..why not get your self out a bit go do an evening course i do floristry its very relaxing for me and im acheiving some thing...
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I think you are doing the right thing by having God by your side and by having the faith that you need.  Maybe go more to church, read more and this may streghthen you.  \n\nI have to say, if he has made up his mind... he may have, or maybe he is just tired and hurt too.  Seeing you destroy yourself and that can really hurt one.  Besides maybe he doesnt want to make it easy for you to come back and do the same thing.  It is scary to see your partner destroy themself and see them on drugs and out of control.... have you thought of that.\n\nI am sure you can be happy, but you both have to be happy, like I said in your other question... there is a reason why things happen, and try to be possitive about it.  It isnt easy.... but try.  This will help you with your addiction as well to not relaps.  \n\nBroken hearts are hard to fix.  But alls I can say is time will heal and things will get better, think about it, they already have.  You are not on drugs any longer, I am sure your daughters are thrilled to see you not abusing your body.  And think... You get to have parcial custody of your daughters,  you have God in your life....it could be worse.  \n\nGood luck and let us know what you think and how you are doing ok/???
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Check with your local mental health department or department of human services to see if there is a local rehab he can go to.  He needs help.  I work in a pharmacy and I see so many people come through that are addicted.  You see it first hand and I know it is not pretty.  Get him help.  He might be mad at first but he will say thank you in the end.  Good luck!
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i must agree with Andy.when people are under the influence of drugs they are unable to properly prioritize. in his mind there is nothing that comes before the need to get high. and until he makes up his mind to do something about it there is nothing that u can do except get tough! don't be an enabler by allowing him to be in and out of your life at his convenience. since he has chosen drugs, you hafta choose your child and your sanity and leave him alone until he has gone through a program and ATLEAST 6 months of sobriety. \np.s. remember that even if he does get clean, he will ALWAYS be an addict. consider that before u allow him back into your life.