How long would you wait for a woman if you were in a long distance relationship? We live across the country from each other and see each other one weekend a month, but talk on the phone every day. My obligations are keeping me from moving there at this time. Is it fair for me to ask him to wait? Help me on this, I am very torn as to what to do.
120626
Knowing that your smart enuff to ask if its fair or not would tell me you have good qualitys and worth waiting for.
62788
His just proably very busy and his thinking about you. Maybe his thinking about what to do with you next. Relax you dont want to scare this guy away. I've been there and done that. Its not cool becuase you hurt yourself for what you did. Just go with it and get to know him first. Don't jump to the marriage part. you guys just met.  I really think that there's things he needs to do and haven't had time to call you.  GIVE HIM THE BENEFIT OF THE DOUBT!!!!  unless you go out one day and caught him with someone else then just look at it like you don't care but don't let him see you be hurt. " Those who wait will be reward!!"
182092
I'm 26 and in a long distance relationship as well.  We live 2.5 hours away from each other and I always return her phone calls.  It pisses me off if other people don't return mine, so I always return theirs.  Point to remember, guys don't like to talk on the phone.  I have trouble talking on the phone for more than five minutes.  I love her, but it seems like more of a job than a pleasure.  I can talk your ear off in person, but not on the phone.  Sounds like your boyfriend is forgetful or too busy.
274778
It can work out if you two had a strong relationship before separating.  I was in a faithful (If you are sure he is the one for you--and he feels the same way--then I would not recommend getting into another relationship) long distance relationship of 2500 miles for over a year, and we stayed in contact by phone (we each had Cingular phones, so there was no long distance charge).  She lived in Reno, NV and I moved to Knoxville, TN.  After she finished her degree, she moved to be with me and we are together today.\n\nI hope everything works out for you :o)
641957
I know what u mean....my BF lives in Houston.....where I am in College Station....TX.....it is almost 2 hrs away....BUT....we talk on the phone EVERYDAY......send emails everyday.....& he just drove up here today....out of the blue to see me.....of course we only got to spend 4 hrs with each other...it was amazing.....I have had long distance relationships before.....but this one kind of grows.....every time we see each other....we grow "fonder"....they say absence makes the heart grow fonder.....I really like my BF too.....it is hard for us because of the distance...as well as our work schedules....but we make it happen......what I like about him....HE comes to me, more then I go to him.......Just be patient.....like one other person said....let him figure out a way to come to u.....if it was meant to be....something will work out.....GOOD LUCK!...
46990
Long distance relationships do not work. I was in a long distance relationship with a guy for 2 and a half years. We actually were together for 4 years, but I moved across the state a year and a half into the relationship. It got to the point where he would only call me while he was at work, and I could only see him on certain weekends because he was "busy", or I wouldn't hear from him for weeks. I heard from a friend that he had been seeing this girl I know, so I called her phone and I found out that they have been seeing each other for the past 2 years, and they are engaged!! I told her every detail of our relationship until I had her crying on the phone. I later heard she broke off the engagement. Needless to say, he called and cussed me out and our relationship is over. \nSo the moral of this story is that unless you truly know this person, and can have complete trust in him that he will not break your heart, don't waste your time,energy, or minutes on your phone with a long distace relationship.
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I think you need to give more details on your situation because I don't know what you are asking. What do you mean by you are "seperated"? \n\nDid you two once go out as boyfriend and girlfriend and was living much closer to each, but now live far apart but now the relationship is long term?\n\nAnd what do you mean you have problems talking to her on the phone? Describe what the problem is.....\n\nMore details please...
290383
5 years, on the net???? why havent u closed the gap? i met my BF online over a year ago, but we are getting engaged and i will be moving to the states at the end of the year to be with him. what i mean is, y are u so surprised and upset that it's over? LD relationships dont work longterm if there is no end to the distance in sight.
417872
me and my guy was online and i read him you question..this is da answer he gave me ....\n\n"We almost are in the same situation as you..I'm gonna go to another country for 4 years for my higher studies and she will only see me few times a year.. the thing is this is not as difficult as it seems.. dear sis you are not the first one to go through this.. there are loads of people who came through this or if not you have us... even we were pretty much worried in the first place as what to do... but let me give an advice to you... don't let go... just hold on...we are going to have a harder time than you even... cos it's a way longer period and we are both in seperate other countries which is not our mothercountry... so sister the distance doesn't matter...the only thing you have to do is to have a long distance dedication..... the key thing is to keep in touch as much as ppossible... not seeing your guy is tough... i know... but with time you may be able to adapt to that... just keep him in your heart..i'm just saying.. "so close no matter how far, couldn't be much more from the heart, forever trusting who we are , and nothing else matters.." goodluck sister... this will be posted by my girl who's in a country so far away while i'm writing this...\n\nhy im his gal hear ..darling  im teling u pls go ahead i dont regreat..taking the chance caz my guy is da best no matter how far he is his jus near my heart..and his all mine ..dont b scard i ws scrad my self....belive me ...i didnt know wht to do but jus go aead ..its better dan nt knwing wht u 2 wil end up with.
323723
If I'm understanding you correctly, your friend is abroad (out of the country) and his wife isn't happy.  Maintaining a long-distance relationship takes a lot of commitment and it doesn't always work out.  What part of the relationship doesn't she understand?  It would help to have more info about the situation.
642827
She's on the other side of the world!. What are the possibilities of you and her seeing each other?. I may be wrong for saying this,but I think you should find someone closer to home. I don't think she wants to hang on to the relationship,she wants to keep you from seeing someone else,and who's to say she is'nt involved in another relationship right now?. I would 'nt wait 6 months to see a so-called boyfriend,and he's not going to wait for me!. Both of you should move on. Pick cherries in your own back yard.
370148
Long distance relationships require commitment from both parties. Maybe you should call her or send her an e-mail, snail mail just to let her know that she's on your mind and that you care.
378359
Well first of all I would almost bet that you will get some smart comment from someone cause of the fact that you met online, but I can relate to you in that way.  I met my current boyfriend online as well.  I live in NY for the time being because of acting and he's from MN, where I'm originally from.  We have made it a point to see each other as often as possible to make sure that we don't grow apart.  We talk on the phone quite a bit and everytime I feel like I might question the whole relationship, hearing him at the end of the day lets me know that it will all work out.  I think that it is definitely possible to make a long distance relationship work as long as you both want it, because when one person isn't fully in it then that's when things seem to go wrong.  I'll be back in MN soon and I'll still be about 4 hrs away from him but that's a lot close than 23-24 hrs.  I can handle that short distance and so can he. I know if you both want it and are really in love then it will work out how it is suppose to.
26997
Omg...there is so much to say about long distance relationships...I just got out of a long distance relationship about a month and a half ago, there are many many many things you should consider before pursuing a long distance relationship....we only lived about an hour and fifteen minutes away from eachother, but there will were soo many times when I Was having a bad day and just hearing his voice WAS NOT enough!!..you are going to want and need her by yourside at times when she can't be!...there will also be a lot of long, cold and lonely nights that you have no choice but to spend by yourself.I am not knocking long distance relationships, but you should really make sure you are ready for such a big step! you will have to be a strong willed person in order to make it work,because it is not easy! there will be times when you will see other couples together hand in hand, and wish it was you and her, or maybe a happy couple on T.V, but no matter what it is you will feel the pain of not being able to be with her as often as you would like especially when couples are all around you!.. but it isnt all bad though, sometimes it is very exciting! it also depends on how often you will be able to see eachother. we used to see eachother at LEAST every other weekend if not more, but it was still super hard and lonely when we werent together! my advice to you is that if deep down in your heart you really think that you guys can make it work, then go for it, and the wisest thing i can tell you is DO NOT LET OTHER PEOPLES OPINIONS INFLUENCE YOUR DECISION!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! so many people will have something to say about it, and will tell you it wont work and try to discourage you, DONT get discouraged...One of things that  kept me and him together for so long is that we didnt care what the hell other people thought about what we were doing, and in this type of situation you need to do the same thing, or else its not going to work, because people can be VERY convincing sometimes, and you just might end up missing out on one of the best things in your life!
41063
From personal experience and I also have friends trying to make long distance work. Its sooooo hard! No matter how much you like or love that person its nearly impossible, especially since you both live in two different states. Have you ever heard of the expression, The right person but the wrong time. Dont hold each other back.
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ok, i am in a LDR and its working great!! so, background-we were best friends for two years before we started dating...we would talk for hours every night and had been there for each other through everything! so four months ago, we decided to start dating....now he is in college an hour away so its been kinda tough, just because we miss seeing each other more often....but we both trust each other in everything and b/c our relationship is based on trust and communication, getting to kno each other via phone, etc, it has really been working out.......we call each other for everything and have gotten so much closer....plus it makes the times we get to see each other more special!! =D so it depends on the trust factor really, otherwise there is no relationship.....well, hope this helps!!
603849
A long distance relationship,usually doesn't work out,It seems that hes discovered someone where he lives.if he truly cares let him call you,but don't continue to call him and not receive a call back I know its easier said than done .cut him off you've done nothing wrong.,that your calls go UN answered.