i am moving to another state and in general i am a very shy person, any advices on how to make new friends?
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talk to people in a friendly way\nget out into the community and make a presence\nbe positive in your talk and comments\n\n\nGood Luck and God Bless!!
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I've relocated several times and the one reliable place to meet good people is at church functions.  Especially when they have a fundraiser, volunteer to help out in any way you can.  It's a great way to meet people.
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I used to be very shy and introspective as well. I always wanted to wait for the right time to say things, but that time never came.\n\nI'm not sure how old you are, but that would make a difference. One possibility is that your current friends don't bring out an exciting personality in you. Perhaps you really are just shy, and even among those who you are close with, you are quiet and "boring". You may find that you are very outgoing on the internet, but not so much in person.\n\nThere really isn't a single way to become less boring. Becomming spontaneous is easy, but the results may not be what you wish. Being happy is likewise easy, but at the same time, nearly impossible to accomplish.\n\nBut no matter what you do, a personality shift is not something that can be accomplished overnight. Without doubt, you are an interesting person, you simply need to gain the ability to express it, something very difficult to learn. Simply resolve to yourself to say things more often. Perhaps you could make a minor change to yourself, such as hair style, as a way of reminding yourself that you are going through with the change.\n\nNext time you are in a social situation, make a concious effort to say something. Next time you are in a situation where you are surrounded by people you do not know, make an effort to meet even one of them and be friendly. This may seem difficult for you, but after the first time, the next social situation becomes less imposing, and slowly you will find yourself more at ease around others, and much more likely to be an exciting and outgoing person.\n\nThis is pretty much what I had to do. I still am not as socially outgoing as some people I know, but regardless, I have noticed the change myself, and am happy with it.
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I used to be really shy, especially around people I liked. I guess I got nervous. Then I realized, Just relax & talk to them like I'd known them 4ever, & if they don't like me, then I'm no worse off than I was before. I've made a lot more friends that way!
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Everyone feels shy sometimes, but being too shy can hamper many aspects of your life.\n \n \nSteps:\n1.  Determine why you're shy in the first place. For example, are you scared of what someone might say about your physical appearance? Remember, there's an underlying reason for how you react in situations.\n \n2.  Act as if you're not shy. In private, behave as if you're oozing confidence. Hold your chin up, stick your chest out, add a swagger to your walk and speak firmly. It may seem ridiculous, but you will see results when you're out in public.\n \n3.  Practice making eye contact and smiling in your interactions with others. Strike up casual conversations with strangers about weather or current events.\n \n4.  Look your best. One way to improve self-consciousness is to always look good and limit ways you can be self-critical.\n \n5.  Lower your fear of rejection by imagining the worst possible outcome. If you approach someone, they may say "no" or they may just walk away. Absolutely everybody has been rejected at some point, but no one has to dwell on it.\n \n6.  Look and learn. Watching friends or even strangers who aren't shy is a good way to learn some tips first-hand.\n \n7.  Feel positive about yourself, don't get frustrated and have fun. Remember, the real goal is to find someone who will like you for who you are.
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Start posting at a forum first.\n\nYou'll make plenty of friends that way.\n\nBaby steps!\n\nGood luck.
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The best way for you to make friends is to let yourself go. What I mean by that is, you should be social. Dont be afraid to be yourself. 99.5% of the people like others for who they really are. And you may be surprised by how much you may have in common.
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well this all sounds very sad, but the truth is you should get out in your new location.  Don't bore yourself to death.  Go out there and have some fun: like at the bars or clubs, just about anywhere. Just have fun!
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I feel your pain--I was so shy when I was your age I would panic if someone talked to me, or a friend called me on the phone.  It was terrible.\n\nI am not sure by your question if you are wanting to overcome your shyness, but what I did was started reading books (back then we didnt have the internet) on public speaking, making friends, what to say in social settings, how to make small talk, etc.  I also read up on self esteem building, and many years later I feel comfortable in public settings, and also have done several public speaking engagements in my field.\n\nI am not saying you should NOT be shy or change how you are.  If you are comfortable with who you are, and your friends are not, then find friends who respect you for who you are.  I chose to overcome my shyness because it really was limiting my life.\n\nGood luck!  You have a great life ahead of you!
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Try an online friend service, like friendster or myspace.\n\nThese sites can help you meet other people for friendship, or anything else you're looking for...
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How about anything that will put you in social situations. Im not saying that to be mean, Im just saying that shyness is not something you need to just live with. Break free of it. I was extremely shy just a few years ago. I overcame this by becoming an xray tech. I know its not a glamorous job, but I it has helped. When you are around people screaming in pain all day long, the last thing on your mind is saying the wrong thing. I can talk freely to anyone now. Think about it.
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Just try to be more outgoing and try to make good impressions on people. don't be afraid people wont like you, if they don't just move on to new people. don't let it crush your self-esteem. those people wont know what their missing.
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Keep your chin up, believe in yourself, and make new friends. Think outside of the box and go to new places where you can meet new people. I moved to a new town and knew no one... I found a couple of charities in the phone book and volunteered... I met lots of great and caring people that have become friends. You could also look into attending a church in your area. They usually welcome you in and have lots of activities regardless of your age. Remember that people who claim to be your friends and then ditch you were never really your friends at all... look for a better group of peers.  Good Luck!
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hey i wa shy to but just ty to let your self go think as if no one is there i some times act dumb but if you cant just try little chat like ask questions go ith poeple you know and make new friends
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If you can, have a party. Invite the people you know and like to bring friends. If you have people over on a fairly regular basis they will start to bring more friends over. Plus you can use your duties as host to get over some of your shyness...asking if people want another drink, etc. is a good excuse to strike up a conversation with someone you don't know very well. \n\nIf you don't have enough space to have people over you might consider picking a bar or restaurant that you like and try going once a week for a while. Eventually you will become recognizable and you might be able to strike it up with some of the bartenders/waiters or other regulars. If it's a bar the alcohol is a great social lubricant and helps everyone overcome shyness. Just don't over do it. If your into sports that is always a topic strangers can talk about.
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You should take the risk and talk to them face to face just like talking to them on the internet. believe me it is experience and trying.. be nice, be smart, funny and strong...shy is not so good most of the time, because you won't be able to know what you should say quick...the only thing to change such behavior is go and talk, and start as friends. and be the center, don't be the corner.  \nI tried that before and I succeeded honestly.  and I can go out with any I interested in..but I'm not interested in many now. just some.. and believe me, if you see some don't want, then just don't try... take it from easiest to easier to difficult.
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Just speak...even random things....talk about the weather, or just start up a conversation. Are you shy? Or do you just not know what to say? I used to be shy..still am....but you gotta gotta learn to come out of your shell. Like I said...strike up a conversation no matter how hard it is...believe me, it works.