It happened to me with Laura an X of mine. She was a 10 plus hottie, she was a nympho, maybe she still is. She asked for my help which I did, but when night came she loved more the night life and the money it gave her. I never had any sexual relationships with her only when we hooked up in high school, which she wasn't like that. I heard that she later got aids for doing it everyday. I felt sad about her and I checked my self which turned out to be NEGATIVE, thank god! She's been raped in mexico, she does drugs, no one takes her serious and she been beaten up. If I see her and ask for my help I will avoid her not because she's infected, because i feel she'll never change.
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it sounds like she really needs help to get her life straightenend out, if you ignore her she will feel like you don't care and that you think she is worthless.  You need to help her get her life back on track before something worse happens to her.  Help her get counseling, get into rehab, even go to church.  If you avoid her and something really bad happens, like she ends up getting killed, then you will never forgive yourself for standing by and letting it happen when you could've done something.  Maybe what she really needs is a friend like you to help her.
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I loved her, respected her, and cared for her very much.  I was very, very gentle-and listened to her every wish during the event.  It was a little painful to her, to say the least...which made me feel bad, but she loved me also, and made me feel not so badly about it.  It's not really like having "sex"-that first time.
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Dear SadnService,\nit is rape, no less. You are definitely not bi as you don't like it.\n\nI was very much saddened when I read your Qs and As. Still am. It is hard for me to imagine what you have gone through from young till now. I only hope that you will find the courage to choose a better partner to be submissive to, one who will not subject you to rape or extreme pain. I fear that one day, you will not survive your ordeal. I do not know much about the lifestyle you are in right now. But I do know that there are limits in everything. I pray that you will find a better partner who you can choose to be submissive to the extent you are comfortable with if that is really the lifestyle you want - not to be raped or beaten so badly. You see, you do have a choice to choose as such. Please listen to what OGreatWiseOne said in one of your questions. I cannot agree more with her when she said that even people who have chosen this lifestyle, can be abused, and deserve an escape route to live in safety. Please do find a counsellor specialising in this kind of special problem.\n\nMasturbation is normal & common. You were much dominated by women from young from what you have said and were humiliated by the women in your life. I cannot imagine what else you had to endure when you were growing up. I think that probably accounted for your low self esteem. As a result you said that you hate your gender and yourself. If you say that, all men and women on this earth would have to say the same too. That is how common masturbation is. It is a normal human reaction. Please know that God doesn't hate you and that you are not ugly and worthless. You are not born that way. Your negative experiences when growing up had a huge impact on your personality. You and in fact all of us are a product of our environment. How we turn out is directly related to our environment. Please do not think that you do not have a choice at all. You do have a choice, that is something God gave all human beings. You can choose to take a first step to stop this rape and torture. You see, you are seeking answers here and that is a choice you made. And you are asking how to stop this rape and torture. It tells me that the extreme environment you are in is not one which suits you at all, submissive or not. You are incompatible with that extreme environment.\n\nI do not have knowledge of this kind of lifestyle nor am I any professional to be saying things. However, from what you have written, I would urge you to seek help first to get out of that extreme environment and counselling to find out who you really are deep down. Are you a real submissive or were you subjected to factors which ultimately led you to this lifestyle? Under entirely different circumstances, it may be likely that you would not be a submissive. My instinct is that you're really not a submissive, and that you think you are one and you have no choice. You do not embrace the torture and as such I honestly believe that you are not one. Or it can also be that you are a mild submissive by nature and extremes will never suit you. If that is the case, do find someone who is also mild & not extreme in that kind of lifestyle. It is never too late to turn yourself around if you do find that you are not one or turn out to be a mild one. Do not hate yourself in spite of the extreme humiliation & torture you were put through. Courage is something admirable, but it is not something everyone has, especially those who were put down constantly when growing up. Even those who grow up in a normal environment never possess courage all the time. We are afraid at one time or another. I suspect that you were put through many other ordeals. You are a product of your environment and you're not born that way. But if you change the environment, you can change too. It is easy for people to criticize and hate, but if I were in your position and underwent what you did from young till now, I would be too afraid to be coura
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Hi, My X use to do the same exact things! I know exactly what it feels like, unfortunately the last few lies I found out were from my children. He was hangin around with a white trash piece of shit that was his sisters friend. He swore up and down they were just friends, come to find out he had been seeing her off and on for about 12 years! I was married to this asshole for 17 of them! Please please... Listen to your heart, especially with his track record.. make sure for yourself and I hope its not true, but that there isn't another woman! I don't know how I didn't find out sooner. I guess the kids were younger..not sure.. But the things you were saying is just how it was with us.. and he didn't even care when we didn't talk I think he actually enjoyed it because there was less to cover up if I wasn't asking him questions! But please keep your eyes and ears open, and I hope you find nothing but just in case hun.. take it from someone who has been there. Take care good luck and if anything changes please keep me informed or if u need another woman to talk to email or im me anytime! Good luck & be strong! Kim
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I was in a relationship with a cocaine addict. I got out of it after MY health became an issue due to the stress he was causing ME. I know it may sound uncaring, but you have to look out for yourself.
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She is a perfect girl going through stages in life a tough way. Thank God she is being caught and hopefully it will eventually make her come to her senses and change her pitifull lifestyle. We all learn through mistakes and for sure she will learn thru hers too. Many of us have done this and are now responsible citizens & its only when you have been through it that you really get shaped in life. I for one started drinking (heavily) at 18, had a baby when i was 14, had a number of abortions. Was in and out of home as a teenager, cohabited several times as a teenager and did other more worse things and learnt alot from all these mistakes.  Went back to school, and now a chartered marketeer, doing well, raising my son wonderfully and a devout christian. What am saying is your daughter will get through all this, just be there for her no matter what she does. My Mom loved me though I was what others regarded a rotten girl. She loved me and kept telling me I could do it I wasnt all that bad, and I made it. So hang in there and keep encouraging her. She will change. Above all else pray for her, God wont fail you.
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I see mostly women answering this one, so here's my take: There is always going to be somebody else that is better. These sort of things happens to guys as well...I am one of those guys, and I left when it got bad.  Bad enough that she decides to call the cops on me when I broke up with her, purposely made a few marks on herself, and I do an over-nighter. That was 5 years ago. Now I finished school (college) and got an awesome job, now I need someone to share my new life with, and I know she is out there.  Bottom line is this: You can do just fine w/o the abuse, probably better...and when you find yourself where you want to be in life, try again!  Best wishes to ya!
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I agree 100% with everything you said about her, and I've even fantasized about her.     However, just to raise a little contention, her complexion is kind of messed up, ruining what otherwise would be a great package!   Then again, it wouldn't stop me from making "LOVE 40" times a week with her, if she would only "LET" me.    You neglected to mention the beautiful, little "SET" on her, not to mention the great little "RACK(et)"  she has.     But alas, I think I'd have to "COURT" her first before she'd even consider me getting into her sweet little "SERVICE BOX", or for that matter, gently "STROKE" my aching, swollen yellowish/greenish\n "SPAULDING BALLS".      Ain't that the kick?
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i don't know exactly what casues it. it might be different for each person. but for me it was becasue i was rapped and then the first time that i had consentual sex he didn't know what he was doing and he went to fast and hurt me too much. so i think that is why now i have no sex drive. but it might in her case not be that drastic. some people jsut don't like having sex. there is no reason to be concerned. or maybe she just hasn't found what she likes yet.
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First off, you said you had someone looking to see if she was ever re-charged.  If they let her go, why are they going to recharge her?!  Your Kansas City Star article title excerpt was from when this woman was FREED, not charged.  \n\nAnd secondly, the only reason you're looking is because some guy is going around being HIV+ and having sex with women.  It has nothing to do with being a sexual predator.  You never stated whether or not the women this guy had sex with did it voluntarily (not knowing he was HIV+).  Otherwise, wouldn't you have worded that a man was being charged with raping women while HIV+.  \n\nWomen in general should be required the meet the same standards as men, but should it matter if she's in your neighbourhood?  Just keep your kids away from strange ladies and you shouldn't have a problem.
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It is really hard to say.  Nobody ASKS to be raped-we need to understand that first.  But my opinion is that she really needs someone to care about her.  She has obviously never been able to bond with anyone and is doing whatever she can to get herself noticed.  Unfortunately, the ones noticing her are doing bad things to her.  It is a vicious cycle.  She needs therapy...FAST.
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I met a lady on line and finally met her. She was about 10 years older than me and we both knew we didn't want to get serious, just have fun. We had a great secret and private relationship for about 4 years before she started to have physical problems.\n\nThose are 4 years, though that I will never forget. Unlike women my age, this lady really appreciated me and made me feel good. I went out of my way to appreciate her too. Sometimes I wish I could find somebody to take her place, but at least I can dream about her.\n\nTX Guy
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Dr. Phil addressed this on one of his shows.  He said that it can be an addiction and that it is not fair to the woman!!!  Each time it happens it is like a betrayal and it tells the woman that you are not what I desire.  Plus it hurts like hell!  I had problems with this personally and I almost lost the man I am about to marry.  We argued over this for over 2 years while dating and engaged.  Finally, he got some good advice from his Dad and told me that he would give it up if it bothers me that much.  It's hard to trust again after this happens but it is worth it if you love him.
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That is the worst idea I have ever heard.  Why would she want him to have sex with other people? Sounds like she has some issues and that is not a healthy lifestyle for you to be getting into. Since you are asking, I would say deep down you probably have your own reservations about it and know the answer already.
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You think your ripped off? I'm bi and yet I don't get to have sex with every single thing that moves every single night and day. Someone cheated me out of my horde of lovers.\n\n*edit*\nI feel your pain, they led us on with promises of hot multisex orgies and then informed us that we still get normal lives. Life is so cruel sometimes.
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hey i'm new here and i read this and i know that you said it was for totellthetruth, but i just wanted to say that starting a talk session would be absolutely wonderful! my sister was raped when she was 14. and then again at 15. i know she really needed someone to talk to when it happened. i congratulate you. and thank you for doing this. its really nice. i hope you will have good luck with it and that you will be able to help those that need it most!
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I know how you feel, although my rape was very different from yours. First off, please remember that it WAS NOT your fault. Even if you would lose a court case, it is still worth fighting... Also, obviously this guy is a sexual predator, I would make sure that all of your girlfriends know to avoid him.