I keep having sex dreams about this actor and I can't stop.  I have had about 6 in the past month and I find that very odd.  I haven't watched any of his movies lately.  I'm not going to lie, they are nice, but I have a tendency to talk in my sleep and my boyfriend has overheard me saying some naughty things while sleeping!  What can I do?
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Hee hee, that's cute.  I'm not making fun of you, of course, but i think it's cute.\n\nI kept having dreams about Ewan McGregor a while back.  I did some research on him, found out he was married, had kids, found out about his career, where he lived, his past movies, all that stuff.\n\nOnce you find out about him as a person, you can realize he's just another guy, just some dude who happens to be in movies, and you may stop fantastizing about him.\n\nGood luck!  ANd tell your boyfriend it's nothing personal.  ;)
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I know what you mean.\nBeen there.\nTry not watching television before bed, like a hour or so, or try not watching movies with heros, villains, demons, etc. They use to creep into my dreams too. Watch something like a comedy, something light or maybe romantic, if you have to watch TV before bed. So, that even if you do dream of them, they are not that scary.\n\nP.S. Please read, spell and punctuate your sentences correct. I just answered a whole other version of what I thought you meant (lol)\n\nAll the best
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You're attracted to him. You have 2 kids and a boyfriend. You have responsibilities to your kids.... Fantasies are normal, but acting upon them is very dangerous. Is your boyfriend romantic enough with you? Consider more closeness with him, and tell him you need a hug or a sweet kiss now and then. He will oblige if he loves you. Keep your romance real and alive in the home. Eventually, you will forget about the other guy.
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Wow a lot of you are pretty hostile up here….  I mean you guys would've told Eve to dump that guy Adam and talk to the snake.  Tough crowd\n\nYou sound a little bit more like a guy (in thinking) than a girl.  I've heard the same line at bachelor parties.   Anyway you do have a serious issue here maybe to complex to answer.\n\nYour issue is multifaceted… on the one hand you're jealous of your boyfriend's past lovers…. sorry I used the word lovers but you need to accept that reality.  Also you feel you have not explored enough to feel comfortable in the long term relationship.\n\nAbout your jealousy.  It seems you are more jealous of his experiences and maybe their possible expertise than anything else.  It doesn't sound like he's thinking about them or even wants them.  The fact that he told you about them and you probably pushed him to give details, says that he's not trying to hide anything… he's being upfront… give him a lot of credit for that.\n\nNow I've been with some women in the past that could rock your world in bed… however they turned out to be psychopaths.   So again realize your boyfriend is with you not them.  These women are no longer in a relationship because they could not hold his interest the way you are.  He wants to marry you and be with you forever so they should be jealous of you !\n\nYou really need to tone it down on the jealousy.  Work hard to come to terms with this.  This will destroy a relationship especially if you continue to escalate it into something it's not.  \n\nThe other part of your issue is a bit more complicated because it involves the number of partners you have not had and you feel you are missing.   You feel it's not fair that he has had more sexual experiences then you.   You have to ask yourself do you want to get five guys to sleep with to fell even.  (By the way my e-mail is at the bottom of the page we can reduce this to 4).  What if you say you get 6 guys does this mean you're going to let him sleep with one more girl before you get married?    It's not fair but then again life is never fair.\n\nDon't get me wrong I do understand your yearning to try to be with others.  You only live once.  Others might teach you to do something sexually different and exciting but on the other hand they might be less capable than her future husband.  The other side of this “affair” is… you go out with a gentleman that interested in your adventure, no strings attached, just sex… shake hands afterwards…. he gets in bed with you, he is hot looking, you get down to his manhood... wow that’s big…. he makes love all night long and you come five times.   Now what .... you just learned that your future husband is not as skilled as you thought… but he will be with you the rest of their life.  \n\nIf you do this to catch up are you going to tell your future husband?   Wouldn't this now make him jealous as you are feeling?   If you decide not to tell him and keep your secret that might work.  But being in a few arguments with women I can assure you he might pull it out of your history bag and in the heat of an argument, say ..…”And I slept with Rambo” !\n\nYou said you’re jealous of these ex-girlfriend's for different reasons and you feel you will “never be… good in bed.     I think you may be confusing the number of partners somehow equals how good they are in bed.  Quantity does not equal quality.   \n\nIf you want to be good in bed you need to be good in bed… it does not necessarily mean more partners.  While a couple of partners might give you some new techniques, positions or STDs … it really comes down to you reading about these things, studying them, discussing fantasies and other ideas with your future husband and trying them out together.  Now he may hesitate at first… and say you're just fine (guys are so stupid) but push the point.  Hopefully he won't be the kind guy who says…
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You shouldn't sleep with him. He probably wants to just to reinforce his "control", to help make him feel superior within himself. AVOID sleeping with this guy!
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I love annalizing dreams.  It was a sub course I took in college in psych.\n\nAs you know, we are always attracted to what OTHERS like.  Cars, the latest trend in clothes, music, catch phrases, etc.\n\nSince all your friends, like him, your subconcious mind(while you're asleep), is saying "HEY!  If THEY like him, he must be COOL!  You don't like this guy so your brain is having a little battle with that.\nSo, no. You really don't like him.\n\nNow that, only pertains to THIS particular dream.  In MOST cases, the people in our dreams are really extentions of ourselves.  Sometimes dreaming about kissing or sex with a guy you never had any feelings for BEFORE, usually is just a stand in for a person whom you really DO like. \n\nOur subconcious mind gathers a LOT of information in just ONE HOUR.  Unfortunately, it is not capable of reasoning.  It's not their job.  Our CONCIOUS mind is responsible for reason.  That is why our dreams are so wacky.  This gives our concious minds a time to rest.  It doesn't HAVE to figure anything out while we're asleep.  When our brain has rested, we can go back to thinking normally again.\n\nI learned, that while we dream, often times, a member of the OPPOSITE sex can be a stand-in for OURSELVES!\nWild.  Huh?\n\nNow that you're guarded with this bit of info, you just might be able to analyze all of your OTHER dreams as well.  Just think about the dream and start to describe it out loud to yourself and you will usually and quickly figure out why you had that dream.  Just reflect back on the day before.  What took place?  What did you watch on TV?  What did you read or hear?  It's all there.\n\nIt's fun annalizing your own dreams and usually pretty funny.\n\nI hope this helps.\n\nOh, and by the way, sex rarely ever means sex explicitly in your dreams.  It just uses it as a tool that relates to something else.  Once again, our subconciuos really doesn't understand what all that info means it keeps getting.  It can't reason.
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Leave him.  Lots of guys can't stay up long enough for good sex.... while that's not a good enough reason for you to leave him, it is not a good sign.  Since you said he was your first, he doesn't sound very satisfied at all.  Despite what he has been telling you this is not your fault.  You are under no obligation to have oral sex with him.. no matter what he says.  I hope he didn't pressure you into having sex with him in the first place.  It sounds like this guy is not in the relationship for the right reasons, and can't make it a pleasurable experience for you.  Get out now and find someone who respects you.
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Nothing at all.  Haven'y you ever had naughty dreams like that?  Nothing says that he will go through with what he dreamt.  The fact that he trusted in your relationship enough to actually tell you means he trusts you with things.  I am thats pretty gutsy for him to tell he dreamt he slept with your friend.  I bet he probably dreams sex with you too.  Until he actually sleeps with someone other than you don't worry about.  Be happy that he trusts you with secrets.  Dont let this little thing destroy your relationship
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of course not.  it's called fantasizing.  you could only say that if you met him and after some time invested in really getting to know him.  meantime, enjoy your fantasy!
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He might be ashamed to admit his fantasies to you, especially if they're considered "taboo" by general society. Trust is often something that has to be built and earned. My boyfriend and I share everything, but it took a while for us to get to that point.
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it sounds like you don't want to really be with your boyfriend and that you impictire this fantasy guy that you wnat to come ans wisk you off your feet. he might be out there, but at the same time he might not. to me it sounds like you want someone who will treat you right and love you unconditionaly. i know that i had dreams somewhat like your and i met the man of my dreams and have been with him for 2 years. don't give up hope your mr right will come aroound and reveal himself to you, and you will know it's him. just don't go only on th elooks because it sounds like this fantasy guy has an amazing self worth and personality and that might just be what you're actually looking for.
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Is this guy telling the truth about not having sex, or is he just trying to sleep with you?\n\nDo you like this guy or have "feelings" for him?  If no, then I wouldn't sleep with him.\n\nMaybe find a date for him, or an escort to boost his self-esteem.
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well it was probably just a dream & didnt mean anything.but i would be worried too if i was in ur situation. if he actually said "i love u ____" then maybe u should talk to him about it.
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i definitly think that you should see a doctor and stop sleeping with guys that you are unsure whether they have something or not.  Always make sure who you are sleeping with because some day you might come back with AIDS other than an STD.  Tell your doctor your problem and they would surely find a solution to your problem.  If you only slept with one guy i suggest that you confront him about this and make sure that you use protection next time.
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A good way to get the conversation going to to watch a film which you know has a sex scene in it and get talking on the subject. Another way is to tell him that you had a dream last night which had him doing all the stuff you like and then get him to re-create the moment!
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really? wow where do u live? just kidding! :) maybe try some self love (this thing would not let me say the m word) b4 u go to bed. if the deed is already done maybe it might not happen again later?\ni guess u think this is a real bad thing, but i think its cool, do you have like real good dreams & it happens or no dreams when it just happens? \n\nsorry to ask so much. I can barely have one when i am awake, but i have been unhappy. it sure has never happen in my sleep even when i was happy! does this happen to woman to? \n\ni say try to take matters into your own hand(s). or find a lady friend to help with all that uh stress!
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SEX DOES NOT EQUAL SELF WORTH. IF YOUR BOYFRIEND HAS STOPPED SLEEPING WITH YOU, THEN MAYBE HE HAS SOMEONE ELSE. IT ALSO SOUNDS LIKE YOU ARE DEPRESSED, SEEK SOME COUNSELING. YOUR RELATIONSHIP MY BE AT AN END, BUT YOU CAN STILL GO ON AND ACHEIVE GEAT THINGS IN LIFE WITH OUT HAVING SEX. WAIT UNTIL YOU ARE MARRIED.