This young lady has told me countless lies. Anyhow her best friends told me, yeah. Best friends told me that it was wrong of her to do it. The baby isn't mine. However this shevil swears to everything that it is, but I feel like she's fake. Is it even possible to trust after so many lies?
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The only way to trust her is if she earns it, she lost it with all those lies. \n\nI would not trust you or the "best friends". \n \nYou are all talking s^%& about your girl. \n\nSo what?  True or false, you are being just as immature. \n\n(sorry I have issues with any man that would call someone his sig. other then talk about her behind her back to other people NO MATTER WHAT. Are you talking to girls???? Her 'best' friends are telling you her buisness???? \nWhy should'nt she lie to all of you. \nnone of you deserve the truth or obvoiusly can not handle it)
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I have had 6 people in my hurt me very badly.  Because of their combined hurt and pain I find it very hard to trust anyone.  I aIso find it hard to believe that there are any good people in the world. I don't trust my child with anyone and I have taught her that the world is a big place filled with people that are looking to get one over on you.  I am a perfectionist wanting only the extremly best for my daughter.  I am also wayyyy over protective, but I am working on it.  I am also kinda a loner because I can't let people get close to me and know my true feelings about anything.  I also teach my daughter (and I know that I shouldn't) not to get close to people because once you do, they will leave you.\n\nMy father- went to prison when I was 7 years old.  Next time I saw him I was 22 years old, and he was in a coffin.  No I haven't gotten over it, still affects me some days.\n\n\n\nmy ex husband- walked out on daughter.  reminded me of what my father did to me, not over it 100%.  probably never will be.\n\nmy husband (married almost 5 years)- had an affair.  Nope, not over it yet.  I am not expecting me to be over it any time soon due to the fact that he willing did this and willing wanted to tear out family apart.  I filed for divorce, but he is trying to make things right.\n\nmy then best friend- for having an affair with my husband.  Lying to my face and then laughing about it behind my back (yeah I overheard a converstation about her laughing about having sex with my husband and how clueless and dumb I am about it).  I am still angry with her in sooo many ways, but you know it was her loss.  I am a great friend to the few people I do hodl close to my heart as friends.\n\nthe man that molested and raped me for years- This has affected me sexually, mentally, and physically.  I have gotten over the fact that it happened to me and my mother did nothing to stop it or protect me from him.  I know that he has an illness that makes him attracted to children, and that is his problem.  I tell anyone I know that might come in contact with him to be warned. \n\nmy mother- mentally and physically abusive to all 4 children.  I have only gotten over this one because I know that she lacked the skills or knowledge to provide anything better.
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There is a good chance it’s not just you she is lying to. She has probably done this most of her life and most of the time she isn't aware she is doing it until it’s done. She probably lies about things that are so small, the truth wouldn't hurt either. Most people that do this are doing so because they feel their life or the truth is so boring, they don't think anyone will care about them. It’s a cry for help and love. Show her she doesn't need to do this anymore.\n\nSet here down, sometime other when it is not an issue. Look her straight in the eye, while holding her hand; tell her how much you love her. Then talk to her how important trust is in a relationship. Explain to her that you are aware of her deception and it is because you love her so much that, most of the time you can see it in her face. Talk to her about how other people that do not love her and don't have the ability to look over this one issue to see the really great things about her, view her. Explain that you cannot live with dishonesty and mistrust, (and you cannot) but you want to help her, because that is what two people do when they love each other. They work through issues that have the potential to tear them apart.\n\nThen, every time she lies, and there is no one else in the room, give her that look. I know you have one. That look that says, Honey, do we need to talk about this. After a few times, she will respond, straighten up and tell the truth. You may even go through a phase when you might share a chuckle about it. It will take a while, but YOU can turn this around. If you don't, no one else cares enough about her to do it. It remains to be seen if you will stay together but if you help her through this, she will be in dept to you for the rest of your life and you will feel beter about any decesion you make.\n\nGood Luck.
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You have to be honest with yourself and trust yourself before others can trust you. Would you trust you if you were any of these people? Why? Whynot? Answer these questions to yourself. You could admit to these people that you do occasionally bend the truth, but as you said, not to intentionally hurt anyone. Let them know that deep down you are an honest, trustworthy person.
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Everyone lies to some degree. Do you think that when you lied in the past that you had a certain look that everyone could recognize? You didn't. Only the people who knew you really well could tell you were lying, like your parents. Some people present themselves as being honest but almost all the time people find out they aren't. It is only when a person gets to know you really well, can they tell by your facial expressions and your body language that you are lying. There is no look or expression that tells other people you are telling the truth. People can tell how honest you are by getting to know you. I consider myself a pretty honest person and one of my friends told me, I was the most honest person they knew. I don't usually lie to people but on the other hand I don't always answer someone when they ask me something personal that I don't want to tell them or I think is none of their business. By not telling them, I don't think I am lying or being dishonest. I am guessing you are a kid. When you are a kid, the consequences of your lying are usually being kept in your room, not getting a toy but that depends on what you lied about. If you become an adult who lies, it could lead to much more serious consequences and once again it depends on what you lie about. You could lose a job for lying, lose your best friend. I hope you continue working on being honest. That is a good character trait to have. Hope I helped you understand.
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You just cannot tell. Do not accuse her of being a liar. If you have doubts, be careful. Your gut feeling is usually right.
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Please, please, please tell her or at least your best friend.  My husband cheated on me for years and a lot of people knew about it.It made the situation worse.  I feel like they were laughing at how stupid I was for not knowing.  I also felt betrayed by them.  They are NOT my friends; they and my husband made me feel like such a loser.  My husband and I are working on our marriage and he and I lost a lot of good friends over his cheating.  My life will never be the same.  I will never trust my husband again and a lot of joy at the 'little things' is now gone.
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that's sad.. next time, try not to trust somebody so much that easily.. WHOEVER SHE IS, SHE'S NOT WORTH IT.. FORGET ABOUT HER..IT'S A LESSON LEARNED NOW.. just be careful next time..
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yes!dear because no one wants to be made a fool of! and thats selfish of them both. i mean sometimes people are not ment to be but lets be adults about it. and he is bogus treating you while you are pregnant! my dude did that and it hurts like hell.my daughter is 7 and it still hurts.but just remember that everything in the dark shall come to light but its up to you to crack the blind.
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Great topic!\n\nI am amazed that there are so many adults who do not consider some of the things they say or do not say, as a lie. For instance: sometimes people make up stories and tell it for fun. It may be a hunting story, fishing story, etc. This is done as a fantasy. The important thing to remember is that if you tell the story...you and the others must identify it is not really true....or it is a lie. Another example of a lie people do not always admit as lying is...when someone states something they think is true and then discover later that it is not true. The person really should then rectify the situation and admit they said something and found out it was not the truth. When a purposeful untruth is told, it is an outright lie. It is meant to deceive. This leads to disappointing others, others never really belive you and they eventually stop trusting you.  Then the time may come and you may be telling the truth...but too late...others don't believe you even when you do tell the truth. Some people actually believe that the only way a lie is told is in that manner. Not true! You can lie with your actions. You may cause a person to believe something not true by acting a certain way. (Example; child breaks a vase and throws it out and pretends not to know anything about it.) A lie can be done by being silent. You may cause someone to believe something by saying nothing. (Example: a mother asks the children who broke a window, and all the children know, but no-one tellls anything).The cycle of lying usually continues when one lies. The next thing one knows is they lie to cover another lie and so on. Most intelligent people, know when someone is lying to them. It doesn't change anything...except the credibility of the one who lies. Another form of lying is not telling a complete truth. Any form of not telling a complete truth or an admission of a complete truth in words or actions is a lie. \nI honestly do not intentionally lie. However, about two weeks ago we had company and this person asked me something and I did not want to go into it so I lied. When the company left. my husband said to me ..."why did you lie?" I reallly had to stop and think about it. I am a woman of value. I work hard to practice what I believe in. I am an honest person. I try hard to use tact and not lie. I usually would reply to someone who asked a personal question that I did not feel like answering with something like...why do you ask? I usually try to find an answer that will not offend the other person, but will also allow me to keep my personal life personal without lying. Sometimes, I like everyone find myself in a place I don't like to be. I feel dirty or shamed when I do that. Long story short...I felt guilty and called the person up and explained it. No one is perfect. There is not a sole alive who has not told a lie at one time or another. I can honestly say I do not lie on a daily basis, but sometimes I do find myself bordering the ethical line. I want people to trust me, I strive to be honest and keep integrity....but it is a daily struggle to be in tune with complete and open honesty!
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Hopefully,  she realizes that you are a true friend ,  and she has a dirtbag for a spouse.  Reality check though,  she will probably find a way to blame you for trying to seduce her husband .  It would be a lot easier than admitting that the man she wishes to spend the rest of her cinderell story life with,  is a lying cheating Puss-Bag.  Sorry hone,being you would suck ,  I would hate to be in your shoes,  But if it's any comfort,  I applaud  your courage and honesty.
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Some people can be extremely convincing and have mastered the art of the mind game. However, these people are relatively easy to beat if you do your homework. What you need to do is make this woman come forward with some proof of this cheating and if she can't do it, then she has nothing to go by. Also, if your boyfriend is willing to accept the story from this woman and has completely disregarded what you've said, then either he's been likewise brainwashed by this woman or has some trust issues with you. Rumors are rumors and are always started by someone with interests...perhaps this woman is after YOUR boyfriend!
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I think you know he's lying, and you are here, hoping for either someone to back you up, or someone to tell you it's ok.\n\nGo with your gut instinct. He is lying and he isn't the person you want to start a family with.\n\nEven if he were telling the truth, and it is for his friend... His friend is married and he would be helping him cheat on his wife. Obviously he doesn't think much of commitment and responsibility.
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How can you be friends with someone who has betrayed your trust? You can be polite because of your child and because in life you get more with honey than you do with vinegar! HOwever, that is all I would be. No information, no jokes, no real conversation. Then take a deep breath. Realize that he looked at your relationship with all its pluses and cons and decided to try his luck elsewhere. UNfortunatly he forget to inform you about his decision. Take another deep breath. Realize that a cheater is a liar is a sneak-- aren't you worth more? In other words, through thick and thin you stood by him but he could not do the same. Honey, he is not wrothy of your love. Put on some make-up, get dressed and go out!
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if he's telling you so....\nhe will most likely not lie to you.... but does he seem like that type ???? is he the one who will never lie to you ... no matter what... or will he just tell you what you want to hear ??\nIt might just be a friend...\nIt's natural to feel that way about him... just ask him nicely, to tell her to stop "hanging" on him\nif shes a friend then she willl respect what he says\nTrust me... just talk to him.. it will all be better then
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Yes.  I was talking with a friend of mine and told her that a mutual friend of ours was pregnant.  Another friend that knew the supposedly pregnant woman had told me, and I trusted her because she was roommates with the woman at the time.  My friend said the woman wasn't pregnant, she was depressed and had put on a little weight.  I said no way (not very nicely) and my friend got angry.  A couple of days later, I asked the woman if she was pregnant and she burst out crying and told me about losing her boyfriend.  I was so embarrassed.  I called my friend and asked her out to dinner and while we were eating (she is a forgiving soul, and I was picking up the tab :)  ), I apologized and said what a jerk I was.  She agreed with me and let it go.  I try to verify things now.  If I am going to take a strong stand on something I say, I want to be well informed.
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if the person is already lying im sorry to tell you he will never tell the whole truth.Plus even if he does tell you the whole truth how do you know he isnt lying then.I hope you can figure a way out to find out if he is telling the truth