ive been with my boyfriend and when we now make love he doesnt seem to enjoy it all where as before he used get right into it and let everything go and now he just lies there taking it and gives out a pathetic little moan every now and then ive even tried encourag him by doing new things and even the stuff i knew got to hin before doesnt seem to do anything has he lost interest in me, and he seems to enjoy it more when he pleassures him self another thing also he now only tells me that he loves me when were having sex .HEEELLLPPP!!!!!!!!!
120734
Are you kidding me with this question? A man is going to get his regardless. Stop worrying about him, and focus on your own pleasure.Throw some spice in, turn on a flick. If you show more interest in pleasuring yourself, I guarantee that he will perk up.
147137
He is using you. You tell him how you feel yet he doesnt reply but he will reply with sex. What is that telling you. He is using you and taking advantage of your "love". And you in return are thinking that he might love you or fall in love with you if you give him sex. Dont sell yourself short honey. MOVE ON QUICKLY before you end up pregnant and alone. You will be alone because he only wants you for sex and when it gets too complicated he is gone.
516460
If you guys haven't been together that long then probably. Men also tend to say things because they  sound good. There is really no telling in this situtation. And another thing, sorry to say it, he could just want sex, and feels he will get it if he says he loves you.
558052
He sounds like a young guy who hasn't acquired the knowledge and experience to know or even care what a woman needs from the love making experience.\n\nCommunicate your needs to him. If he doesn't start taking them into consideration soon, kick him to the curb and go get one of those battery operated boyfriends.
622531
maybe he's not in love with you, if you are going further apart each day, love suppose to draw you closer not apart, just tell him how you feel and if he doesn't show no difference then just leave him, it's sad to be in love all by yourself. sex is not a way to keep a relationship going if that's what your thinking, if he can't love you just how you are then you don't need him, then again he just might be getting bored with the relationship sometimes we fall in love with people who were just not ment to be with us
301394
your heart sounds like it knows something isn't right. you have time in with this guy so you have to part in steps. first stop having sex(it is possible) tell him you are not feeling good in the relationship and you need space. stop initiating contact. see what he does. he should work hard to prove to you he loves you and wants this to work. if he doesn't start trying harder then tell him you need some real time apart. don't date new people get to know yourself better. only no sex and time will really help you see clearly what's going on
32296
unfortunatly I have to say i reckon men are like that it has happened to me. We do not do it on purpose though. It is just that things seem to get into a routine. Do something dramatic and unexpected. Add a little spice to the relationship. Tell him to chill out, shut up, and have some dang fun or else. LOL    another thing is he could be going through some things in his life. Try talking to him and find out what is wrong.
512310
Maybe it is a persoal fault in your relationship he may be the type of person who lacks the stimulation after he gets too familar with you. In short he's got it too easy with you get someone else who really cares and isnt a sexual glutton who has had too much of a good thing
226133
Well young lady first of all if you are really concerned about him using you...just say no and see where the relationship goes from there. If he is just using you for sex...then you are enabling him by allowing him to do so.  I mean is the experience pleasurable to you, or do you feel like after the deed is done he's less attentive and affectionate. In your heart I think you already know the answer to this question you presented.  Cut the sex out of the relationship and then you'll see his true colors.
634908
sounds like he is loosing interest maybe because its to easy why not play hard to get act as if you don't want it i bet from he hasn't been given it to you you have wanted it more so give him a taste of his own medicine
230265
I think your man has issues...most of all, it sounds as if he is very insecure about his sexual performance.\n\nOften, when there are problems with sex, there are corresponding problems elsewhere in the relationship. \n\nI would want to ask you, are you happy with your relationship in other ways? If sex if the only area of your relationship that you are not satisfied with, then yes, it is worth giving him another chance. When you talk to him, it will help if you are very reassuring to him. Tell him the two of you are in this together and you would like to help him to work it out.\n\nIf there are other areas in the relationship that aren't working, I would say that you seriously need to consider leaving. Sex is not the most important part of a loving relationship. But if you feel that something is missing, you will be unhappy unless you resolve it one way or another. And that won't help you or your man.\n\nHope this helps and wishing you good luck.
34841
Well if she is preggers, sex in the first trimester is kinda icky, to say the least at least it was for me and some other women ive talked to, if she thinks its lacking passion, maybe thats because she has it in her head shes not making love to you anymore shes making a baby with you, maybe thats how your treating it lately, Tell her if she wants passion,youll give her passion... make love to her like you did when you were first together, rediscover every inch of her body, remember that now you probably know how to get her from 0 to 60 in 5 minutes, take your time like you used to, get her to the point where shes close, and start to do something else, tease her with the idea of getting off, dont just hand a orgasum to her on a silver platter, think **here it is but you cant have it** trust me when my better half gets this attitude OMG its MINDBLOWING when he finally lets me have it ;) i hope that helps i know it works when this mentality gets used on me hehe :P
470928
How about less pressure from you? Many times women lose appreciation for sex when the "spark" has faded and their partner just becomes a horny jerk who sees her as a recepticle for his own self-gratification. If you really care about her, you'll stop trying to get her into the sack and take her to a nice restaurant, enjoy a romantic getaway, be attentive and a good listener. Be the man she fell in love with in the first place.
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Clinical depression nearly always results in a diminished sex drive, plus apathy and a general slowing down of everything.  I know it must be hugely frustrating having your sex drives at opposite ends of the spectrum at the moment. But I truly think it would be wise to let the sex take a back seat until he's on his feet again. That way he'll be free of any feelings of pressure or of sexual failings in his part.  His muted sex drive is not because he no longer finds you attractive, but is a result of chemical changes in the brain caused by his depression.  By giving him all your love, support and patience, his depression will eventually lift and his sex drive will be restored.  Good luck and best wishes.
94846
Hello;\n  The best advice I can give is to explain to him how much you care and tell him all the things you admire about him. Then explain that you would like more out of your relationship than just sex. Then see how he reacts. If he is agreeable, then you can relax and enjoy new avenues of your relationship. If he still insists on having sex as his main concern, then you need to look at yourself and decide if you want to be used in that way.
193996
Different things for different people.\nHere is some general info.\nMake sure he is the center of your world, he will notice. make sure you tell him when he is doing things that feel good to yo and when to do it more.\nMake sure you ask what pleases him, did he like that, does he want more of that or do it a different way.\nBefore and after let him know that you want him, that you need him, that you will do eventhing he wants so that he never needs anyone but you.\nAnd mean it. Don't back out of giving him your all.\nyou don't want him to go looking for what he wants.
375575
It kinda sounds like your boyfriend isn't that interested anymore. Either that, or he's into someone else (or both). Stop calling him for a bit and see how long it takes for him to contact you. Perhaps you should think about moving on. I'm really sorry but I know how you feel (i'm going through the same thing)