I've had anixety and depression, along with panic attacks since I was 16ish (25now) and my boyfriend never understood it. Now for some reason, he's feeling the same way I am. He's panicing, to the point we brought him to the ER and he freaks out all the time now...is it rea;;y possible to pass it on????
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i think that when you are around people, or, one person all the time, things relating to personality tend to rub off on one another.  Like my boyfriend and I... for example, when he gets upset about something, he tends to get mad at everything and almost everyone around him... it's like his whole world is crumbling down, and in some cases it's almost like he takes me down with him...  BUT you know what... now that I think about it, that really has nothing to do with your question....\n\nBUT GIVE ME THE POINTS ANYWAYS CUSE I DIDNT LEAVE A THOUSAND PAGE ANSWER!\n\nLOVE YOU MEOW!  ;)
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I have panic attacks and I don't think it's just now that they are getting worse. They can be pinpointed now, there is more coverage on it now. Things like that. I am a very anxious person. Not anxious excited. Anxious nervous. The smallest things can make me panic. Going to the dentist does. Sometimes just traffic can do it to me. I am however a weakened person. I have other health problems that add to my fragilness. I think that is a big factor for me.
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Life is full of these cruel ironies.  Like the one maybe implied by your question--the more you want to get rid of panic attacks the more you will get them.  If you are relatively unconcerned about them then they will probably pass quickly.  \n\nI went through a period of panic attacks.  I thought that I was going crazy and wanted to go back in time to when I wasn't.  It took some time (I hate to admit years) but I got through the other side a stronger and better person.\n\nPanic is basically a strong fear response.  Used to be good when we lived in fear of bears and other such stuff.  You need someone who can help you with the attacks and your fears.  Hopefully a specialist if you can afford one.  If not there are tons of good books you could find at the library or Amazon.com.  Hope that helps.
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i am so there and have been there for soooo long. i feel for you. and i am married and he gets mad when i flip out and have an anxiety attack or cry for 6 hours straight. Once he finds out I haven't been taking the med he thinks I dont WANT to get better. Depression is the most isolating thing in the world. counselors take forever to get around to telling you that they cant really help...it sucks. But hang in there and I recommend you get a personal relationship with Jesus. The after life is our only hope. Suicide sends you to hell. Hang in there, be strong and know that there will come aday when you and I and so many others will feel  better- for eternity. If you are dont believe I hope you will at least give it a chance. If you do, i hope you will know the devil causes the bad stuff, not God. (I struggle with that, but in my heart I know it is true...) Add me to your messenger if you want to talk ever country_grl_ky  I swear when I read your question I was like "wow. that is me, exactly" Best of luck to you either way and please hang on to the hope. I know when most days are bad, it is so hard to keep on going knowing you have "never" been happy and thinking you arent normal or that you might never feel happy....but it is not true. And try to take your medicine. I do the same thing and I dont know why either. But we should take it.
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You may feel that you are compleatly alone in your anxiety, but you really are not!  It actually gave me chills to read your question... It was an exact picture of me a few years ago.  My attcks got so bad that I had to leave a nice job at the radio station I was working at. I got to the point that I could not even get into a car.  I spent most of my time in my bedroom basically afraid to go out for fear that something else bad would happen to me.  I finally got to the point where I was going to end my own life.  Well, Oviously, I did not do it!  The next day I made an appointment with a theripist and reached out for help.  I would have never seen myself sitting on the "shrinks couch" bearing my dark inner thoughts, but there I was... And I am glad I did.  I learned that my attacks were being triggered by Post Traumatic Stress.  I had been in a terrible auto accident a number of years ago, but I fully recovered from my injuries, and never gave it another thought.  But apperently the memories of the accident lingered in the deep recesses of my mind, and would come back to me every once and a while in the form of a pannic attack.  It took me some time in theropy to actually see that not everything in my life was negitive.  I learned to look at the positive side of every sitation, instead of sitting back and waiting for the worst to happen.  I was also given Zoloft to help with lingering depression.  It has helped, sure I still get "down" from time to time, but nothing compaired to how things used to be.  It all takes time, and you have to be willing to compleatly change your way of thinking.  If you ever have any other questions about this situation, you can feel free to email me at jam961@yahoo.com  I am not a theripist, but I have been exactly where you are now, and I was able to fight back... If I could do it, I just know you can too!  Just stay strong!
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I think you're right, it's all about him and that's not fair to you.  Not sure what to think about him having an anxiety attack while on the phone with you, sounds kinda weak and shows that he's not very capable of coping.  Go get you someone with a spine.  Don't beat yourself up too much either, it sucks and it's all screwed up, but sometimes ya gotta do what ya gotta do.  So, hope for the best but prepare for the worst.  Good luck.
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I get panic attacks too. You feel like you are going to pass out and your heart rate goes thru the roof.. right?\n\nHave to talked to your doctor about medication? Maybe they can perscribe something to help you. \n\nWhen I know I'm having a panic attack, I call my father and he talks me thru it. It's all in your head. Worrying about them can bring them on. You have to de stress yourself. And when you have them, call SOMEBODY and just talk, not about your panic attack, just about anything. If your parents know you get them and you are close with them, call them and expalin what is going on and why you are calling. Freaking out about them whil you are having one will make it worse. I'm saying to call (or talk) to someone because it takes your mind off of it while it's happening. While you are talking, lay down. It will go away sooner than it normally takes and it's not as scary. And remember, control your breathing while you are having one. That will slow the heart rate back to normal. In thru the nose, out thru the mouth. You CAN control it (panic attacks).\n\nHope I helped.
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DEAR GRASON,\nI AM SO SORRY,\nI LOST MY HUSBAND FEB 10,2006\nYOU NEED TO TELL YOUR GIRLFRIEND,SO YOU CAN SPEND WHAT TIME YOU HAVE LEFT TOGETHER,SHE WOULD GO THROUGH A LOT OF SHOCK ,IF YOU WERE TO DIE,AND SHE DIDN'T EXPECT IT.PLEASE FIND A WAY TO TELL HER.\nNOW AS FAR AS DRS. CAN'T DO ANYTHING HAS TO BE WRONG. THERE ARE SO MANY TREATMENTS. UNLESS YOU HAVE CHOSEN NOT TO HAVE THEM. MY HUSBAND WAS GIVEN 6MO HE LIVED 13, BUT HE GOT A STAFF INFECTION AND HIS KIDNEYS SHUT DOWN OVERNIGHT.\nSO PLEASE DON'T GIVE UP. REMEMBER ALL THINGS ARE \nPOSSIBLE, WITH  GOD. JUST HAVE FAITH.\nGOD BLESS YOU AND YOURS
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Don't listen to that guy, you are not going crazy.\n\nI have panic attacks it varies from person to person but usually the symptoms are sweating, heart racing, shallow breathing, feeling unable to breath, caulstrphobic, wanting to get away in a hurry, feeling like your going crazy, or feeling very anxoius and nervous all of a sudden.\n\nThere are lots of website that are great for panic attacks and the more you read about them the less frightning they are just type panic attacks into a search.\n\nJust remeber that it may feel uncomfortable but it will end, it usually cos up and up and up (anxiety), but eventually it will go down and go away.\n\nPractice breathing in for 5 sec through your nose, holding it for five seconds, then breathing out either nose or mouth for five seconds, this should make the panic attack shorter or do when you feel anxious, or distact yourself whenever it happens, read something start up a converstaion or sing a song (if your alone or driving) cos this too makes you breath as above!
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He needs to see a psychiatrist..... it's called Panic disorder.
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Please...I dont suffer from depression, but my boyfriend does....I want to know how to help him...any kind of tips or advice is appriciated...
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i personally have panic disorder. i've been told...get help from a mental health professional first and possibly medication. i've tried the medication, but i'm not one for pills. and honestly, talking to someone...doesn't make it go away! i've had to teach myself relaxation techniques. first and foremost, i repeat to myself over and over, "i'm okay, i'm fine, i'm not hurt, and this too shall pass". but it has affected me in everyday life, even when i'm not having an attack. truly it is all about your mind set. changing your way of thinking, and that can be the hardest part. i haven't found a concrete solution, i just take it day by day.
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I also have a panic disorder.  I totally understand you.   Learn all you can about panic disorder.  There are some excellent books out there that are easy to understand and get through.  The more you know about what your body is doing the more you will come to understand this disorder in time.
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I am not sure how old or young you are but if you are old enough, you can say no to being hospitalized or have a parent/guardian say no if you aren't old enough. I know that our daughter over  4 years ago had problems when she was in 4th grade, and because at that time she was being extremely violent, and was then to go on to be diagnosed with bipolar, but she stayed one night in the emergency area. We then refused her to be hospitalized, and I stayed home with her and was with her 24 hours a day, 7 days a week until the medication kicked in and she was feeling better. She also went to a psychologist and still goes now and then, as it helps her to not only talk with us but to talk to a therapist. You have say over your own care, especially if you are at that moment of legal age, and of sound mind,etc. Good luck, just don't worry about it all, go and get the help you need! Just make sure you find yourself a good psychiatrist, referrals from friends, family members or call to your local hospital and they'll usually give you 3 names of psychiatrists. Take care of YOU!!!! You may also need a tranquilizer of some kind, and if you are continuing to have suicidal thoughts, sometimes having that major tranquilizer can calm you down until the antidepressants kick in. Please get help ASAP!!!
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My grandmother was diabetic....she passed a few years ago.\n\nI just told a friend about your post he said tell her "dump him and get a new boyfriend". But of course it is more complicated than that.\nIn my opinion coming from a female mind you...\nHe (your boyfriend) most likely hates the fact that he has this condition. He is a man...and a man does not take "weakness" well. You can ask, cry, kick and scream but...it's up to him to take care of himself right. Just like people that need AA or in your case people that need Al lanon or therapy.\n\nSo the bottom line is ...\nyou can choose to stay and try to help\nor\nyou can say i'm leaving because i don't want to see you die.
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It could possibly a panic attack.  Does it usually happen during a stressful time at work or something?  Many of those sypmtoms are consistant with people who have panic disorders. I suggest going to an anxiety disorders website, and maybe even looking into medication.  Another symptom is worrying about it for at least a week after one happens.  Also, the thing about night is it allows your mind to relax, meaning stressful thoughts get through more easily.  I hope this helps you.\n\nJust so you know, it happens to often for it to be a heart attack.  He would probably be dead right now if it were.  However, that doesn't rule out a heart problem.  You should probably go see a doctor.  I just thought I would reinforce what the other responders were saying.  I really think there is a good chance of it being a panic attack.  I have a lot of experience with them.  Also ask him if he feels he is in danger of dying during the episodes, and if he has every struggled with anxiety  \n\nwww.adaa.org is a good webite to check his sypmtoms against those of panic disorder.\n\nI really hopes this helps you.
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i can understand what you mean as there was something similar that happened between me & my boyfriend but cuz of different reasons...but it was my boyfriend who was in your position & i was on the receiving end...its very tough when someone you love says that they can no longer be with you for whatever reasons...just because we love each other so much, we try to understand & do what the other wants even when thats not something we really want...our mind accepts the situations & tries to adjust but our heart just doesnt wants to let go...you imagine all the things that can go wrong & also how tough your life would be without that person...this feeling of insecurity & depression is terrible...you also began to question that whether that person really loves you, cuz if yes than how can that person take such a harsh & insensitive decision...all this is just a matter of your emotions & you imagine everything thats positive or negatve...when this happens you try to take yourself away from that person & try to act tough cuz you dont want that other person to know that after saying that you understand, you have so many questions going on in your mind...this happened with me & though i really love my boyfriend i was still hurt tremendously by his decision to break up even when i agreed & understood his reasons...i think your boyfriend also is really hurt by whatever happened...its good that you plan to go back to him...i would suggest that you talk to him & try to get out all the pain he is carrying in his heart cuz of what happened...you'll have to shower unconditional love to make him feel secure with you again...treat him nicely, spend time with him & appreciate his presence in your life...just let him know that you belong only to him & there's no one who can love & understand you the way he does...i am sure you'll be able to do that cuz you truely love him...Goodluck!!