I'm 19 and a nice, sweet girl. My bestfriend had a baby when she was 15, and the dad of that baby passed away shortly after the baby was born. His parents are sooo rude to me it's rediculous. They talk about me behind my back to my bestfriend, saying that I trashed her apartment when she was away (I kept it spotless) That I'm a horrible driver, that I neglect their granddaughter... and they just won't let me be! I cut off all contact with them and yet they're still talking about me. They are so rude and immature and they need to STOP! They're adults for goodness' sake. My bestfriend says she sticks up for me but that obviously isn't doing anything. \n\nSerious answers only please, they need to stop. I'm not one to talk rudely to anyone but something needs to be done. HELP!
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Ok, couple questions here...HOW do they know how you drive?  WHY are you caring for their granddaughter?  HOW do they know what condition the apartment was in? WHOSE apartment was it?  WHY does your friend tell you what they say?  WHY do you care what these evil people think?  Sometimes where there is smoke there is fire...ARE u doing something to piss them off?  Do Not confront them.  This could lead to a physical altercation.  YOU cannot control other people.  Just get over them.  Tell your friend not to report any thing else they say to you.  Perhaps they are upset she is living with you and not them.  My ex's mom was like this.  I was never good enough, pretty enough, smart enough, good enuff mother, etc.  eventually i just figured it out.  It's her.  It's not me.  She's a hater and she was living rent free inside my head.  Every second I spent thinking about what she said or did that hurt me was a second I GAVE her that I could never get back...well, those seconds added up...it became YEARS...do not make this same mistake.  Good Luck
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i am exactly like you are.  I'm always.. stuck and getting picked on.  But i just ignore them.  I stick with my friend.  dont' worry about them.  there obviously immature and just ignore them and they will stop.  I know that its hard and that sometimes  you want to go up and smack them.  but it will make things worse if you do it to by talking about htem behind there back.  just remember how much that it hurt you.  and now you don't want to hurt htem.  they will EVENTUALLY grow up.  and if they don't.. well then thats there problem.  just be how you want to be.  its okay to cry. i've cried at school a million times.  all because of DRAMA.. it sucks but you'll make it through.  good luck.. best of wishes<33
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Of course you have the right to be pissed off!  Hey you're 18 you're considered an adult!  Just sit down with your parents and tell them how you feel about the whole situation.
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Maybe if you quit whining like a 5 yr old who isnt getting her way...and talk to them like an adult, they will let you spend some time alone with him. Explain that you two need to get to know each other "one on one" Not to screw each others brains out...but to find out what the other one likes and dislikes etc.. If you come to them as an adult, you will earn their respect and they just might let you two go out alone.
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Your mom is looking out for you. You should not be allowed to do what ever you want. Do you see the news at all these days.  There are a Lot of things going on, even with people  you trust and you think they would never do some of the terrible things that they do. No one else will care for you and love you as much as your parents. You may not see it now, but when you get older you will appreciate that you had parents who looked out for your best interest. You are at the age were most children don't like much of what the parents say or do. With that said I do not think it is right for you mother to call you stupid. Try to talk to your mom about the name calling. Tell her how it makes you feel.
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Sorry, honey, they are your parents. Obey them. It sucks, lots of things in life do, but there will always be rules set by those above you, and, sadly, you must follow them.\nNo one ever said life is fair.
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My daughter went through this not very long ago.  It hurt her very much.  Why are girls so evil at this age.  The girl continued to call and my daughter has finally realized that she just enjoys drama.  She finally told her so- called best friend not to call and she no longer wants to have her friendship.  Since, this girl has gossiped and tried to have others ignore my daughter.  Didn't work since they have all realize that she is a phony..
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Don't know what we can do to help you.  My best friend's son is the same way, if that's any consolation.  You bring them up the best that you can, you make your mistakes but every does.  They have choices to make and it sounds like your son made a bad choice valueing money more than the mother that gave birth to him.  Try telling him how you feel and just pray for him.  That's all I can think of to tell you.  Good luck.  I know it hurts.
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First off, you are not fat. Stop thinking like that. Second, they are teenage boys they haven't matured past 4th grade yet.You were right to have told your friend and no it is not  right that her boyfriend says those things to you,and his friends.You are a very pretty young lady and I am wondering if you have talked to your mom about what is going on. Trust me, she would want to know. My daughter is 13 and we can talk about everything. There is nothing she can't tell me that will make me love her any less. I want her to be able to come to me with all her problems, boys and all.I really want you to say something to your mom if you haven't because what those boys are doing now just might get out of hand someday, and she needs to know where it started , also try sitting somewhere else on the bus.If your friend doesn't start talking to you then you need to let her go, that is not a friend because she should tell her boyfriend to stop. I hope I have helped some and that it starts getting better for you.
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I know exactly what you mean. I'm 26 and have had to perform a major life overhaul myself.  I got to the point that i did'nt want to hang out with a bunch of people that drank and got high all day and really did'nt have anything to offer.  I cut them all off except for 2 friends.  I got new friends.  It's hard cause people are going to say that you're stuck up or you think you're better than everybody else but the truth is.....These people don't have anything to do with you.  They don't pay your rent, they don't buy your clothes, they don't put gas in your car and they don't have anything to offer you anymore.  \nIt's a good thing that you want to be more mature.  It shows you're ready for personal growth and advancement.  As far as your bestfriends ex.....Refuse to have that person in your sphere.  You always have control on who you want to be in your personal space.  If that person shows up...Bounce!  Don't allow that person in your home, in your car or at your table.  If they wanna know why...Tell 'em.  You annoy me, I don't like you and your values don't mesh with mine and I find you offensive.  You have the right not to be bothered by people.  Stand up.  You'll be fine.  Best of luck.
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People always have some kind of situation like this.  Well I don't understand why your mother and brother would insult her in any way, but that is something that a best friend would not want to here from their best friend's family.  If it hurts you that you feel as if your best friend is not considering you their best friend anymore, speak to them and tell them the complete truth.  Hang around other friends too, and try to get close to them also.  As time goes by people change, but you can't make another person feel the way you do.
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at 21 i guess you are your own boss but parents being parents still see you as a little girl...sorry but that's how it is tell them to ease off a bit at a time because to do it fast can be hurtful
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My first ? is how old are you, and my second is if you are a minor don't you think you should talk to your parents?\n\nPlease People before you answer this question THIS IS A CHILD, not a NUN, do you understand that you can be booted for answering a childs question like you have...it's called contributing to the deliquency of a minor... she needs to talk to her parents.
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Your poor daughter is going through huge changes and poor you are the safe person to take out the frustration on. I think its appropriate for you to sit her down and have a calm talk. Just state your case; you appreciate she is growing up, she wants to be treated more like an adult and you agree that its reasonable; and you want to be treated with respect the same as she does. You can tell her that you can both talk things over and reach a compromise, but you won't tolerate rudeness. \nSay that you also have a responsibility to take into account her safety, so rules are their for her benefit not just to spoil her fun. Also offer her a deal; if she ever finds herself in a situation where she feels uncomfortable she is allowed to say "I'll have to check with my Mum" or "My Mum won't let me do that" so you get the blame for being uncool not her.\nOur kids need to break away from us at some point or they'd still be dependant on us as adults, but at the same time they don't have the skills to handle it tactfully or with maturity!\nI think you've had some good advice here and its been good to hear from people who are the same age as your daughter. I'd agree that you can now stop providing for her as if she were younger, she might feel a bit smothered. Ouch! Its ok for you to set her chores to do, and if she does them with good grace she earns her allowance.\nYou aren't doing anything wrong so don't feel guilty. You don't have to put up with being treated like something on the bottom of someone's shoe! \nI'd really strongly recommend that you take up a new interest or hobby, and sign up for some part time classes at college. It would help your daughter to recognise you as someone other than Mum, and it will help your self esteem.
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His parents sound pretty immature and pointlessly mean, if they weren't kidding around. It also sounds like he's picking up on their behavior and imitating it. But his parents' behavior is not as important as his, since he is the one who is your friend. You can confront him about it, if you choose, or you can decide whether his friendship is still valuable to you. Everyone has little things that will annoy us, whether it's friends or family, and you just have to decide whether hanging out with them is worth putting up with them. If his only bad trait is that he occasionally teases your brothers, you might just simply want to ask him to stop.
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Your parents know more about life than you think they do.  They are not trying to be mean to you; they are trying to help you live a happier life in the long run.  They have the responsibility to make the rules until you are 18 and move out and support yourself.  If you can't do those things, try to learn from your parents so that someday you can.  \nI am not saying they are always right, but if you listen to them you will most likely have a lot less trouble in life than if you don't.  The boyfriend you have seems very important now, but he probably won't stay a big part of your life for very long.  How long did the last one last, anyway?  \nAlso, if you listen to them, they are more likely to listen to you.
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i hate my real father as well. and im 34. he didnt raise me and i tried to have a relationship with him and i hate everything about him. not because he wasnt there, but because hes a huge arrogant jerk who thinks hes superior. unfortunately, we cant pick our parents. oh, sorry about your mom. i dont know your age, but you wont have to be with him forever. try not to let him bring you down because it sounds like hes miserable and trying to bring you down with him. just do your thing and so whatever to him. i know being around certain people can drain you and zap your energy and ambition-but you have a future ahead of you, as for him, im sure hes middle-aged and hates some of the choices hes made. try to keep your head up.