I met this guy, and it hasnt even been that long ago.  But we have been seeing each other, and going on a few dates.  The thing is.... Ever since I have been with him, I just feel so  happy, and I really miss not seeing him... but with both of our schedules its hard for us to see each other.  And with only knowing him a short little time, I just think he is great, and things seem different then with my pasted boyfriends.... I mean when we kiss its so differnt, and I never want to leave once I am with him.. its like crazy, and I know that i might sound crazy, but I just dont know if maybe its love at first sight or what.. because i have to say, I never really believed in love at first sight.... so what do yall think????
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Well YOu SHOULDN'T ask people if its real love, you should know by yourself, but if u have to ask, then itz prolly not. But you love him and you'll have to find out by yourself if itz real love.
509119
Give it time, let him get to know you, my bf was the same way but after we spent time talking and just hangin out he realized that I was different and that I did not want to hurt him or mess with him, now we are in love and I know that I want to spend the rest of my life with him and he feels the same way. I hope everything works out.\n ~Kim~
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he is being very cool, it sounds to me he likes the thrill of the chase, if i was you i would take a step back for now, which i know is difficult and try to think 'what will be will be' And you are probably still fragile after the end of your previous relationship so some 'you' time might be a good idea then you may be able to think a little clearer.  Hope you get it all sorted out
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Well, sometimes I believe it has nothing to do if the person you like the person a lot or not. In my experience, I've kissed guys and I didn't feel like Oh-my-God attracted to them, but they are very good kissers. It has to do a lot with chemistry, depending the day of the month, if you've been without a boyfriend for a long time, it depends in a lot of things. Good luck.
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wow...I'm in the EXACT same position. I could've asked this question because I'm going through the same thing. I've been absolutely infatuated with this guy and don't know what I will do once he leaves. It's so difficult but the best way to get through it is to find another guy. It sounds much easier than it really is because no one compares to "him."
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Love at first sight does happen and they way you sound you are in it, but why can both of you break up, if both of you love each other very much.  I would advise you to make the first move, ask him out for a date.  It will be going smooth from now ownwards.
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Not sure if im late here but here it goes.\n\nIt's ok to be confused because youre in the learning stages there are many things to experience like what the guy above me said.\n\nI've had 3 long term relationships at your age, and now 10 years later, when I see my ex's we laugh about all those crazy fights we had.\n\nJust take a deep breath and look out into the horizon, 10 years from now you'll just realize how funny this all was.\n\nOh course you love him, I loved all my ex's too and I;ve talked about marriage to all of them funny thing is, time makes breaking up less cloudy.\n\nAnd yes you are hanging onto him because of the memories and all the experiences you shared. But remember people don't grow when things are stagnant.\n\nYou're here for a reason, and its either to get validation for breaking up with him. Or understanding why you feel the way you do, so why do you feel the way you do??? \n\nI guess I missed your last post, but Im gonna assume its because youre not happy. Listen to the guy above me and go out there and live life!!!
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just talking? not seeing each other? if you really like him, then you should ask him if he likes you in the same way... but if he really misses you, isn't he suppose to be right there beside you? and it's been a couple of months too, shouldn't he have opened up to you like a long time ago? but, it's still up to you... if you really like him and still want to continue the relationship between you guys, then ok.. but if you really have a strong feeling that he's just playin you and fooling you around, i suggest you end the things between you right now!.. cos he might be planning some stuff that are really unexpected.. especially if you haven't seen him at all! ;)
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Love is like that, we tend to go to things that we are familiar with.  I'm not saying it's the ideal thing to do, but I don't think it's as bad as it seems to you right now.  You shared an intimate personal moment with someone that you had many with in the past.  I say not to make a big deal of it and take it for what it was.  If it was something that brings you guys together again, then congrats.  If it was a quickie from someone that you trust, then I still say congrats, we all are not so lucky.  Don't worry about just relish in the positives of it.
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I am actually having this same problem myself. I love him and I want to be with him, but at the same time I wonder sometimes if he really feels the same way. We basically have 1 of 2 choices..... we can stay and try and talk to them and see if it can work out . or we can just let it go and find someone else. \n\nI choose to stay for a little while longer and try to work on the relationship as long as he is willing to work WITH me to make this work.\nI'm sure you will figure out what is right for you. I wish you luck.
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I hope you can stand an answer from a woman. When I read this, my heart went out to you. Believe me, I understand. It's good you recognize the first relationship where the guy didn't want kids had to end. That was a very healthy decision and you shouldn't look back on that with regret.\n\nAs for this last guy, I think he's just too immature to deal with his feelings. A guy I dated before I met my boyfriend did the same thing to me. Of course, I wasn't ready to declare my love for him at that point or anything either and then months later, the jerk tried emailing me. Ugh. Anyway, the reason I say this guy is immature about his feelings is because 3 months is a really short amount of time to determine if you love someone. In fact, I'm always wary of when people say it too soon. It makes me think they are just in love with the idea of being in love. My boyfriend and I didn't say those 3 little words until we were together almost a year, but I can tell you, we're both very sure of how much we love one another. I'm sorry you're in this situation and I think this has much more to do with the guy you were involved with than you. I don't think you can determine if it's love in just 3 months time and I don't think you'd want to waste your time seeing someone each day that you didn't think you could invest in a future with. I hope that helps, even if I made you feel a little less alone out there in the world. I've been there before and it's not fun, but if this guy is too much of a tool to see what a bright, self-assured woman he has, then you are much better off without him. Good luck to you.
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yes i felt like kissing a guy at first, about your relationship be honest and trust each other and it will work , that's what i have be doing and my bf and i are together for six years and  i gave birth to our daughter last month ,her name is dejanae. all the best
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A man once had true feelings for me, we didn't just have sex. He held me, kissed me, cuddled and watched movies, and he made me feel wonderful. I loved him and it felt great. I came to believe that if this is so bad, why is it so wonderful. From then on, I felt no shame and believed truly that love conceurs all.
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have you stopped to think that maybe u're suffocating the poor guy? I felt so claustrophobic just by reading about ur issue! Before u can 'love' someone u have to start by loving urself because it seems like without this guy u feel as if u're worthless. Love is not clingy. Love is not insecure. Happiness is not dependable on men alone. If this guy was able to 'love' u at one point...what makes u think the next best thing isn't? Take care girl!
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Love is one of lifes most difficult journeys; I was recently told this by a counselor...You say he is your first true love?  Why was he your true love?  Is that still true today?\n\nWhat type of feeling do you get when you are with him?  When he kisses you or talks to you do you still get butterflies?  Have you had good times in your past with him?  Are they times you will cherish or can deal without?  \n\nWhy couldn't you tell him that you loved him?  Look deep down before you do anything...take a day (not a "break") for yourself and do what makes you happy; see how often you think of him or wish to call to talk to him?  Then take him out on an exciting date; a picnic or romantic walk or something you would like...\n\nIf you love him it will be there.  If you just dont have the feelings anymore, then you cant force something.  \n\nLove is an amazing gift; be thankful for what you had, have and can have in the future.
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the guy i am dating now i have been best friends with for 6 years. when we first met we started to flirt nothing serious, then he told me that he wanted to persue this other girl very seriously. so we became really good friends. after four years we were finally both single, he was getting ready to move across the country and he told me how he felt. we've been dating for 2 years now. it is with out a doubt the best relationship i have ever been in. i'm glad we waited, because if not we might not be together right now. if he loves you and you love him. you will end up together. i hope this helps your situation.
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There will always be a portion of me that is still attracted to my first love.  For some wierd reason, it's the purity of the feeling and it's new encounter.  It's like remembering your first kiss or a first lay.  You will remember it.  Why?!  When you first love someone, there's no bagging to bring you down.  It's all pure and new.  These days, before I can fall in love, I'm burdened by lots of factors.