i knew a lady sha had cancer and depression. she told me she'd choose cancer over it any day.
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because people are stupid and cruel. they consider depression as a weakness
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i am terminally ill and for a long time i was unable to admit it to myself much less my husband. he knew but i would not talk about it. he may just be in that kind of a place be supportive but do not push him. my husband almost pushed me away because he thought i needed to talk about it. by the way the docs said i would be dead 1 1/2 years ago and i am still a vibrant flamboyant sexy woman who lives each day to the fullest. time will pass and he will be more open and learn to enjoy each moment.
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yeah, poor bugger got skin cancer and it spread...\npoor sally :(
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i think everyone should have enough education before they make their choices,  they should do their own research as to the success rate of alternative medicine  and success of chemotherapy and radiation in treatment of cancer.   sometimes,  patients tend to choose one over the other because of lack of knowledge on both.  they will just listen to the closest source of information that they will get  and not necessarily get the accurate one.
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Yes, it's very possible. They should have made a biopsy to see if it is cancerous. If it isn't then she could go through her whole life with that tumor. The surgery in this case is optional. Also there might be veins or other critical organs that could prevent doctors from removing the tumor.
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I was in a similar situation years ago.  I posed this same question to a Buddhist monk and he thought about it a while and said to say that if you kill yourself, I must die too.  The problem with that is if the lady is mentally unstable, she might take you up on that.  Better get to a counselor with her to work through her issues.
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all women or men need this attitude when dealing with cancer treatment. oh and for the ones that dont i donated my hair over a year ago to Locks of Love. talk about a feel good hair cut...........
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I think about all the other patients that have lived because of the care I've given them.  I try to save those in my care with all the newest equipment and knowledge I have, and know that even doing my best will not work all the time.  In the end, I get down on my knees and pray for strength to work the next day to a profession that clearly requires a heart full of compassion for the sick and which some times is not fully appreciated by others. So, from a NURSE....Thank you.
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I can totally relate. My wife went through breast cancer surgery and then chemo last year. So far so good - but the stress never stops. It's tough being a caregiver and I can relate to your feeling tired and dragged out.\n\nHang in there.
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there is a very good chance that it could be cancer, but keep your faith in god, and he will help you threw.
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Hi. I am an oncology nurse experienced with breast cancer. Congratulate your mother on catching her breast cancer. It sounds like she caught it early. It is ok to be scared. The best way to deal with this is to find out all you can about your mom's diagnosis and what her plan of care is. Many of the treatments can have some side effects, which are normal. Your mom should find out about them and be prepared for what to expect. Half the battle of cancer is in the mind. She needs you and your dad to be concerned but also keep a positive attitude. Your mom will be tired during her treatment. You and your dad can help by doing little things like the laundry, cooking and helping around the house so she won't be stressed about that. Also many patients who get chemo like to have a friend or family member there during their transfusion. Offer to be there. Cancer is not easy but what it can do is really remind you how much you love each other. Just be there, tell your mom you love her and ask her what she needs. Also be nice to your dad. This is sometimes harder for the guys even if they don't show it. Good luck and God bless <><
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my mom found out she had lung cancer and i was willing to give her a lung, or whatever it took, i would have gladely takin her place and i told her so....she passes away a couple weeks after she found out she had it because it had spread to bones and her brain.....if u have a mom love her, spend lots of time w/ her, and nerver do things u will regret.
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Take it lightly and you'll be happier and if you have cancer, you needto be happy, a lot. Maybe they have a very good reason for not coming. Right now, don't think about these little things that will weigh you down and make your health worse. Think about your life from the lighter side, the more colorful point of view. Remember, it is you who decide how happy you want to be (and how miserable). Choose happiness! And get well soon!! My prayer is with you, God bless!
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No I don't believe that is fair. I have Lupus and people are so sympathetic towards me in that situation, however I also suffer from depression that years ago was totally debilitating and I often found that people's opinions were along the lines of, "just get out of the house, you will feel better" or "give it time you will get over it" and even "it's not that bad, it's not like you have cancer, then you would really have something to worry about". Well I did have something to worry about, my depression almost cost me my life. People are still generally quite intolerant of Mental Illness and sometimes ignorant of the cause and the extreme depths it can reach. They seem to feel that it's in your control, well depression at least. It's a very sad situation. Another reason that coping with a Mental Illness is so hard and requires more understanding is what you have yourself stated, it seems less acceptable and life threatening.
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My mother was diagnosed with breast cancer in 1990.  She battled it, and won.  She had lymph nodes removed as well as a total masectomy.  Along with 6 months of chemo.  Unfortch her cancer recurred in 1998.  This time in her bones.  She battled bravely again, with weekly chemo for 5 solid years.  Eventually it spread to her brain and she had radiation.  She had(yes, I am sorry 'had')a great life from her initial battle in 1990 until cancer finally took her from us in 2003.  She saw both her daughters marry and met one grandson.  She and my dad traveled and were together.  Just give her the best you can.  Be there for her, talk to her.  I know it hurts, believe me, I know.  My mom was only 53 when she passed.  I believe she always handled it better than we did.  I never once saw her be scared.  I wish you and your friend all the best.  Good luck!
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I always thought Leukemia was an interesting topic. Cancer of the blood is very different from other cancers.
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The people or person making fun of anyone with any disease at all is a very immature person, pay them no mind and try to educate them about the effects of the disease and remind them that someday they or someone they love may contract this dreaded disease and how would they feel about being teased about such a misfortune. Cancer is such a terrible disease to have to go through. I don’t know what kind you have but I hope it is one of the ones that have a high recovery rate. Keep your spirits dreams and hopes soaring high. A good attitude will help you beat this disease, I know it is and will be hard but have all the treatments your doctor wants you to have no matter what the chances of recovery is. If there is only a slight chance of recovery remember that the doctors have been wrong before. Wishing you a speedy remission and a happy healthy life. §