She cheated on me while we were going out but i still cant get her out of my mind.  Any suggestions?
134192
open your brain and take her out.or put someone else in to take over her place.
625942
Sounds to me like shes moved on and you are just a past time for when she is bored. I think if I were you I would move on and forget her. I dont think I would be looking for suggestions to get her back, theres a saying that says something about set it free and if it comes back its love if it doesnt than it wasnt meant to be, something like that lol so if she didnt come back than shes not going to. You deserve someone who will love you no strings or plans attached, so your only cheating yourself and her if you try to get her back and she doesnt want to be back it wont work out again it will only be worse.
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dude dont feel bad. the same exact fuckin thing happened to me recently. were you sooo in love to where you couldnt stop thinking about her and you would take a bullet so long as it meant that she lived?  you were not wrong in any way shape or form. the best thing you can do is to forget about her no matter how bad it hurts.  it will take a while but i believe that you can do it. if you keep thinking about her its just going to get worse. if you need more advice just e-mail me.  just tryin to help. peace man
601580
You may never regain the trust she had for you. You can suggest counselling and also don't try to rush it. You have a lot of bad marks against you and really need to prove yourself to her. Also have you thought about what will happen if you get back with her? What made you get into the affair in the same place? Will this reoccurring bad behavior surface again. I'm don't deny that she loves you but just doesn't want to go through the pain of betrayl again. Take some time and get your priorities straight. Good luck
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what she did...how quickly she seemed to "get over you" hurt you...when people hurt us, it's hard to forget that pain we went through...\nbut you know what i've found out? our brains are very powerful organs...if we choose to not let it hurt us, then pretty soon we'll convince ourselves that it doesn't...maybe think of it in a different way...obviously she was trying to move on as quickly as possible b/c it hurt her too much to be without you...have you thought of it this way?...maybe it was her defense mechanism so she wouldn't be hurting so bad, either...obviously she still loved you b/c she came back to you...\nlife gets to be routine and sometimes can feel like you're in a rut or bored...but you know what? a good relationship isn't worth throwing away over a little boredom...if you really love each other, then find new ways of doing things...do things you wouldn't normally do...go on a vacation together and experience something new together...like hiking or white water rafting...something in which you won't be alone the whole time...spice up your sex life...\nyou take care of your part...you plan things to surprise her...you know, do your part and she'll do hers...come up with a list of things you want to do and plan them out according to your finances and do them together...\nbut trust me, being in a rut with a good person is worth way more than jumping from relationship to relationship trying to find something new...
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I know this is going to be hard to hear.....LET HER GO!!!\n\nDon't try to plot any ill will against her that will only hold you back...if she has moved on with someone else then you need to take time and heal and move on...\n\nDon't hold a grudge, when you hold a grudge it is like drinking poison and waiting for her to die...you are just going to be killing yourself and driving yourself crazy..\n\nI am sorry that this has happened to, I hope it all works out for the best!
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hey bro.\n\nif she cheat u once she will do that twice and more so kick her away from ur life.......\n\nwish to u good luck bro...
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Unfortunately, she knows you cheated before. Now, you are climbing a mountain to get back up to a level playing field.\n\nThe ONLY way to get her to believe you is to go out of your way to make her feel secure. She doubts you, so you will have to work overtime to keep her from running away.
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Babe, \n\ni must say as a woman myself i am surprised you took her back. If i ever cheated on my boyfriend i would expect him 2 finish with me. \n\nIf she cheated on you once there is a reason for it and alcohol's  not an excuse. And do you honestly think her mates would not lie for her?? come on you have pals you know how it works. They always say when someone cheats once they will most definitely do it again.\n\nMake a break, stop driving yourself mad the trust is obviously gone.
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go ..have your relationship like she wants...just dont tell her you did all those girls you "dated"
224385
Listen Up:\n\nSeriously, you are clinically depressed.  You fit the exact diagnosis of clinical depression.  Don't listen to people who say "just get over it!" or whatever, they dont understand your pain.  You can choose to get professional help, or not...that is up to you...but, if you choose not to, you need to read up on it and help yourself.  Your heart has been broken in a way that no one can understand, and one can just not get over it without some sort of education (meaning professional or self help) and time.  \n\nYou don't mention it on your post, but I would bet anything that you blame yourself for her cheating, even though you did anything and everything for her.  Also, I bet that she told you "reasons" why it was your fault that she did it.  Even more ridiculous is the fact that other people will somehow suggest that you must have been the reason that she cheated.  THAT IS FALSE!!!!  People cheat because they are selfish and only care about themselves.  Then, they blame others to avoid the guilt and responsibility for their miserable actions. \n\nThis will be hard, but you have to ACCEPT that her cheating was not your fault.  Once you can release this belief, with education, you can begin to come around.\n\nYou will never come around, unless you "accept" the truth and "educate" yourself.\n\nIf you wanna know more, contact me.
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better question is "what are you thinking, hanging out with a PSYCHO EX GIRLFRIEND."\n\nYou've done the hard part by dumping her  - now move on.
147874
This sound so familiar, just stop your self from being alone and don't look or touch anything that is connected with her, and do things you like ( sports, games, hanging out with friends ) You will not forget her but at least you will not think as much on her, trust me I've been there.
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the thought never goes away im sorry to say. i forgave my ex bf for cheating on me the first time, and he did the same thing, changed his number, the rest of it. but then he cheated again. ur not around her 100% of the time to see what shes doing. its hard to say wot u should do. ur the only one who knows her. u can take the risk if u love her, and trust that she wont do it again, but u need to tel her that its playing on ur mind too, and get her to give u some reassurance that its not gonna happen again.
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Ok you kinda screwed up but you have to let this go. She obviously cares for you and trusts you she is back with you. Don't take this wrong but maybe you should just talk to a professional about this. You need to let it go because it will eat at you and eventually becaome an obsatcle to you being together. Find someone you can trut to talk this out, forgive yourself and enjoy your time with your special lady! life is too short my friend to do anything else!
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hmmm, a guy just did that to me recently.  She has gone through a lot of thoughts in her head by now.  If you want any chance at all, you need to own up to the fact that you hurt her by not talking to her, and apologize and say you'd like another chance.\n\nWhy did you stop talking to her?
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I was in your same position, man.  I loved her more than anything and then she left me.  Everything seemed to be going great for the year and a half we were together, then she suddenly dumped me.  A couple weeks later, I found out she had  been cheating on me for about a month.  That was the hardest thing I've ever faced.  Three months later, I still think about it and wonder why she would have ruined the wonderful thing we had.  I know in my heart that I could never take her back (as tempted as I would feel), because I would never be able to trust her the way I once did.  Talk to other people, girls especially, and try to keep your mind off of her.  She'll still haunt you in your dreams though, no way to stop that.It gets better with time.