He is a poor poor excuse for a man and cheated on the most wonderful woman in the world.  But I don't want to distroy her world.  She thinks that he is the best thing to ever happen to her.  Yes I did date her before him.
134203
I hear you. We have just been discussing this, but its crazy cause you dont want to be the bearer of bad news, but then again what kind of friend would just allow their friend to be hurt (no matter how). You say this guy is your friend, well, your a man, lift your chest up and confront him. If he doesn't come clean to his wife, you could always give him the ultimatum  that if he doesn't you will.  It will hurt her, yes it will whoever tells her, but truth hurts sometimes...\n\nIt is also very true that other people's love life, you most stay, way out of. So, I cant tell you what to decide...\nbest wishes
242609
She does it because you let her.  You need to dump her.  Just do it.  She'll continue to treat you like dirt (and every other guys she dates) until she's old and bitter.  There will never be a man good enough for her.  It sucks I know, but some people just don't know that they suck.  She's got to be told now.  Then get your butt somewhere there are lots of healthy positive girls and try, try again.
10516
I think he must be hanging out with my ex-boyfriend because he did the same thing. Only problem ... I let him get away with it for longer than I'm willing to admit. Girl, I'm sure you are so sweet, smart and better than him. Just move on. I know I should take my own advice at times.. lol. This guy is doing one of two things or two of two things. He's either 1. Terribly immature and doesn't want to appear "whipped" in front of his buddies - AKA "Bro's before Ho's theory...or 2. Cheating and trying to keep you at the same time. AKA- having his cake and eating it, too. Either way, pls dump him,go out this weekend and forget about his immature, childish, sick, evil ass. Boys like him deserve to wake up with nothing but themselves,cheap beer and their dumb buddies drooling on them.
70582
Well, did her ex say something to piss you off, or do you just have anger issues? It can be irritating to think of the past relationships of our mates, but just because he dated her doesn't mean he deserves a beating.
176732
Don't waste your time on this guy, while you dealing with him you might be missing out on someone good. Don't forget that saying, "What goes around, comes around" You don't want this to happen to you, so be careful. You deserve more, you should want to cook for your own man, not someone else man. Believe it or not, he is giving you an excuse to cheat on his wife. My question is, how you know his wife is doing him wrong?
379681
Simple he is a liar and a cheat. I would not take it so personally, if it had not been you it would have been someone else. If he told you he was single, it was not your fault. This is his issue, you are not the bad guy in this situation. However, let me also say that not only men do this but many females also. A cheat is a cheat is a liar is a liar. The world is full of amoral people. God bless*
343516
Good job sweetie! If she had nothing to hide in the first place she would have told you about it, or not lie when you confronted her with it. If she didn't tell you because you would have gotten upset, then she should have not been doing it. Maybe you we her only one (meaning the only one to get her legal)for right now until she became a citizen.... then divorced you for the other man she lied about! I'm not saying that all men she talked to could have been potentially dating her, but be aware of her motives.. There are alot of things that I could get away with because my other half does not check up on me.... but why do it??? To betray him, loose his trust, or even potentially break his heart?? NOT WORTH IT!
573499
Sweetheart, that is why they call it a crush... sometimes you just have to acknowledge that the truth is out and move on... think of it this way... would you want him to get rid of her just to date you? Cuz I believe that karma comes back around and do unto others as you would have them do unto you... the best advice I can give is to just be friends with him and if she has a problem of you showing him attention then become friends with her as well... you get to spend time getting to know the real him and how he treats her and you get a new friend... if a no go on her and u hitting it off then its best to keep your distance... It will be hard, but it will be benefitial in the long run... I hope this helps...
130689
Did you ever think she may be telling the truth? Give her the benefit of the doubt. The question I have is why is it ok for men to sleep with someone on the first date and get no rep for it, but for women it is different?????? Besides she might be a really great person and you will loose out on the relationship, remember you were there with her!
317188
If he is the one who thinks it's wrong. He's an idiot. Sorry,but any man who cannot show affection to the woman he's supposed to be in love with is either insecure, selfish,or an idiot. You will have to decide which of these choices he is, but he's one of them I guarantee it.
111472
I used to have this same problem with guys I used to date but, I found the love of my life and I can't stop talking. I feel comfortable around him. I know that he will not judge or think less of me for what I have to say. Maybe she does not feel comfortable around you. Maybe she is afraid that you will judge her.
486785
ken get over yourself! maybe he treats her just fine. maybe she won't go with you because you're a hoe and she loves him. consider the possibilities......
221238
I should hope you are very secure in your relationship, and if so then his hangin with them is not the issue.  If you have some concern for him hooking back up with her (which would be stupid) then you should let him go.  He was smart enough to leave her, can't imagine that he would find anything she does attractive.  You are the better woman and if he does not know how you feel (since you said you don't want to stop him?) then how can things change? The ball is in your court.  Good Luck!!
911
Personally, I would say no.  He sounds like he does not know what he wants, or worse, like he was waiting to see what would happen with her before he moved on to you.  And you should never accept being someone's second choice.
63046
Run away, and run fast.  He is not worth the space in your head.  There are plenty of guys out there who will be proud of the woman they are with, and will not hesitate to let everyone they know that there is someone special that they are spending their time with.  Trust me.
224631
She is totally using you and you should dump her.  She's already proven over and over again that she doesn't care about your feelings by cheating on you and it's just plain disrespectful of her to screw around with this guy then come running to you.  Find yourself someone who will respect and love you.
70113
You and her are a totally different relationship from any relationship she has had in the past.  You honestly have no reason to not trust her until she cheats on you.  People grow up and people change.  If you judge someone by their prior relationships then you aren't being fair to them and giving your relationship an honest chance.  Stop worrying about this or you will create a problem that doesn't yet exist.  Life is too short to waste worrying about something that might happen.