I am interested in this guy I work with, but not sure if he's feeling me or not. We talk and joke and his current joke is I have a crush on my manager (bc i complain to him about my manager all tha time). I dont wanna just ask him if he's interested because if he isnt it could affect our work relationship and mess up a great friendship.....please help
134841
Ever wanted to catch a fish without a bait? it wont work. Men will not just pop in a relationship of which the a party is not interested and interesting to him.               ADVICE: you cant lack a chum to show him what you feel not neccesarly telling him. Just make a serious joke, he'll understand.
468099
There are some lines i don't cross.  \nDating anyone at work is a no no.\n\nSure at work things fly around in the work place...  \nBut you are responding to them, in other words accepting the game and playing with him in this flirting..\n \nMaybe the best bet would be. dont respond every email or message that is sent. It will die down slowly..\nI can understand you dont want it to put up a brick wall.. \nAs You might loose your job. But at the same time.. \nif he presses you for a reply, Just brushing it off as a joke. \nThis can work just as well. It saves face for him as well as yourself.. \n\nBe careful.  You dont want to scream sexual harassment..  \nNot when your responding and playing the game with him.\nBecause if you do, he will throw it back to you.\n\nSo my suggestion would be, Just don't respond as much.. find work .. make yourself busy. And maybe find another job in the mean time. \n\nBlessings ALD
237727
Yeah darling, he is just trying to get enough information on you to get you in trouble at work since it did not work the first time. The only way he knows how to do that is to get you to like him again. So now the playful bit, by opening doors, and jokes and shit. He couldn't tell you he wasn't interested in you because he really is. Take my advice, don't fall into the niceness. It's all a joke, it's not sincere.
565341
How about have the friend ask him if he likes you?\nThat's better than your friend telling him that you're interested b/c then what if he says no and then you'll feel foolish. \nI'd tell your friend to ask him if he'd be interested in you.
233507
may be he is busy in his work , thts y he cn't talk 2 u, so do't mk any -ve percison bout him ,give him sum time ... bt still if u feel sumthing like whc hv u mentioned thn speak afferentlly to him tht u hv feelings bout him do't waste ur time nd show him nd clear all, if he is nt thn stop thinking bout him.....so b positive nd wait 4 sum1 who is 4 u.... best of luck
274456
Well I'd say ask him. But keep in mind that if he's not interested it may hurt your friendship. I had a friend that end up liking me and after he told me I felt so uncomfortable around him.  So your taking a chance but I think if you don't, you'll probably regret it forever. GOOD LUCK!!
124463
hey,...i m kinda in such a situation too. just joined this new company, and there's this guy who always look at me whenever I pass by. He even looked at me admiringly when there was once we were in lift, and he was with another girl, whom I heard later that the girl is his girlfriend. Mmm....but then, I have bf too. But, I kinda like the attention, and think that he's cool. Never talked to him, but I have fantasy about doing it with him. Am i bad?
93556
I have bad news for you: YOU are playing *him*.  He's been nothing but honest with you, and you're not being honest even with yourself.  You know how he feels, yet still keep in contact with him... because you like the attention.  He makes you feel good about yourself.  But you're only stringing him along.
569493
Its hard to determine how to handle the situation based on your question.  I suggest that you keep your career the main focus.  It never hurts to be friends, but I don't suggest asking him out agian.  If you do this will make you look desperate and very un-professional, but if he asks if the offer is still available, just go out as friends and determine the next step later.
361349
SINCE HE IS WORKING AT THE SAME PLACE WHERE YOU ARE WORKING...(DONT BE SURPRISED) AND IF HE IS NERVOUS HE WILL TALK ABOUT WORK OR OTHER COLLEAGUES AND IF HE IS NERVOUS...THEN HE LIKES YOU...
98540
Your boss is crossing the line.  She should stay professional and not get involved with co-workers.  It doesn't matter if you like her back or not.  There's a level of professionalism that should be in tact in every business.  It sounds like she's interested in you, however I warn you- don't get involved.  As a manager, she's crossing the line.  Getting involved romantically at the work place is a no-no.  Mixing business and pleasure is a quality that nobody in upper management should posess.
40000
Perhaps he likes you, but something prevent his feelings to be revealed. Actually, I've faced sth similer to what happen to you. I decided to leave and to start my life away of him. And I'm sure if he interested in me, he'll try at least to call and say hello!!!
131819
DO NOT go near someone you work with... it's just asking for trouble and will bite you in the ass sooner rather than later.\n\nDoes he like you tho? Probably.
345972
If you dont want to ask him directly, no problem, are you cool with any of his friends?  Try to find out from his friends.  Or have a friend ask him who he likes.  Does he act differently toward you or does he do this to everyone else?  I know some guys acts extremely nice to you when they first meet you, then after a while, it just seems to fade and it becomes any regular friendship.  \n\nI believe its best to just ask him, because if he does, then he would know exactly how you feel about him too.  Well anyhow, good luck finding out. :]
6451
Back off a bit and see what he does.  If he doesnt seem to notice or actually seems relieved, forget it. But if he starts trying to talk to you more or continues flirting its worth a shot.  If you start focusing on other things it might just give him the push he needs to let you know how he feels. If not, it's probably better this way anyhow because getting involved with a colleague can be a mess.
89748
this is a risky situation. If you really like him it might be better for you to leave your job and look for another so that there is no complications with the others if and when they find out. If he is interested in you, I believe you would know. If you are not sure then come out and ask him.
36616
I would say, don't make the first move.  You could friendly flirt and see where things go, but don't make this hugely bold move that could cost him his job.  On a professional level,  you do still have to take his career into consideration.  Furthermore, what if things go on between you two and you end up with a crappy grade anyway...that'd make things a wee bit odd between the two of you.  good luck with this one!